In this encouraging conversation, Vickie and Cindy sit down with their friend Carmen to talk about the power of volunteering and how serving others can become part of the healing journey after loss. Together, they explore how giving your time, energy, compassion, and care can help shift your focus, restore connection, and bring renewed purpose in a season of grief.

Carmen shares what volunteering means to her: giving of yourself selflessly without expecting anything in return. She talks about the joy that comes from helping others, whether that means feeding someone who is hungry, supporting community causes, helping at local events, or simply noticing a need and responding with kindness.

The conversation also highlights the many different forms volunteering can take. It may look like serving through church ministry, helping with pro-life outreach, supporting local community events, greeting at faith-based experiences, assisting at food or clothing pantries, encouraging the elderly, offering hospitality in your home, or even walking alongside someone who just needs companionship. The message is clear: volunteering does not have to be formal or large-scale to matter.

This episode is a reminder that after loss, it is important not to stay isolated in grief. Taking even one small step toward others can open the door to healing, fresh purpose, and meaningful relationships. Whether your heart is drawn to children, animals, art, music, ministry, or practical acts of service, there is a place for you to give — and often, healing meets us there.

If you have been feeling stuck, lonely, or unsure how to move forward, this conversation offers gentle encouragement to step out, explore what matters to you, and discover how serving others can also minister to your own heart.

In this episode:

• What volunteering really means and why it can be so rewarding
• How serving others can help widows move through grief in healthy ways
• Real examples of volunteering in churches, community groups, and outreach efforts
• Why simple acts of kindness, hospitality, and prayer also count as service
• Encouragement to rediscover passions and find new purpose in this season of life

In this heartfelt episode of A Widow’s Life, Vickie and Cindy are joined by Carmen for an honest conversation about trauma, grief, anxiety, and the healing presence of Jesus. Together, they talk about how loss can leave emotional and even physical wounds, and how those wounds can show up long after the painful moment has passed. They remind listeners that trauma is not something to be ashamed of—it is something Jesus can walk them through with love, grace, and hope.

The conversation explores what it means to ask a powerful question in the middle of pain: Where was Jesus in this moment? Through personal stories of hospital trauma, anxiety, loss, and physical injury, the women share how recognizing that Jesus was present with them brought comfort, perspective, and healing. They also talk about the importance of speaking God’s truth over your life, choosing joy, releasing fear, and letting forgiveness become part of the healing journey.

This episode is an encouragement to widows and anyone carrying trauma: you are not alone, Jesus has not left you, and healing is possible. Whether your pain is emotional, spiritual, or physical, this conversation points back to the peace, strength, and comfort available in Christ.

In this episode, we talk about:

1. How grief and trauma can be deeply connected
2. Anxiety triggers that can surface after painful experiences
3. Asking, “Where was Jesus when this happened?”
4. Speaking Scripture and truth over your mind and body
5. Choosing joy instead of letting fear and sadness take over
6. Forgiveness, healing, and finding hope again

When life has been marked by grief, trauma, and loss, it can be easy to focus only on what is missing. But healing often begins when we gently shift our attention to what was still good, still meaningful, and still given to us in the middle of the day. Sometimes those gains are big, but often they are small — a moment of rest, a kind interaction, a lesson learned, a scripture that spoke to your heart, or simply making it through the day.

Vickie and Cindy explore how this daily reflection can help widows move out of guilt, works-based striving, and self-criticism, and into grace, compassion, and gratitude. They talk about learning to forgive yourself, recognizing rest as a gift instead of a failure, and allowing God to meet you in the ordinary moments of life.

This episode is a reminder that healing does not always come through dramatic breakthroughs. Sometimes it comes through the little things: hearing birds sing, feeling thankful for working heat or air conditioning, reading God’s Word, noticing beauty, extending compassion, or simply being able to say, “I made it through today.”

If you are walking through grief, this conversation will encourage you to slow down, reflect, and begin noticing the quiet ways God is still caring for you, healing you, and carrying you one day at a time.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

1. Asking, “What did I gain today?” as a daily healing practice
2. Letting go of guilt for resting and learning to receive rest as a gift
3. Having compassion for others and for yourself
4. Choosing forgiveness, including forgiving yourself
5. Noticing the small blessings that can shift your heart and mind toward healing
6. Reading scripture and spending time with God in ways that fit your season

Encouragement From This Episode

You do not have to measure your day only by productivity. Rest is not failure. Small wins matter. Small comforts matter. Small moments with God matter. And sometimes one of the greatest gains of the day is simply this: you kept going.

We share practical, real-life ways widows can begin building connection again—inviting someone over for a simple visit, attending church or prayer groups, trying local classes, joining exercise groups, going to community events, or even just striking up a conversation while out walking the neighborhood. The heart of this episode is simple: you do not have to wait for everyone else to know what to say or do. Sometimes healing begins when you make the invitation.

This episode also speaks to the freedom of letting go of perfection. Connection does not have to be polished or expensive. It can be as simple as asking someone to bring a sack lunch, meeting for prayer, going out to eat, trying a class, or spending time with others in a way that feels natural and manageable. The encouragement here is to be yourself, be honest, and trust that the right people will meet you there.

We also talk about learning to do some things on your own—going to a movie, eating out alone, trying something new—and discovering that even those steps can help rebuild confidence and open the door to new relationships. Whether you are newly widowed or further down the road, this episode offers heartfelt encouragement to step out, stay open, and remember that reaching out can bless not only you, but someone else who may also be feeling alone.

Episode Summary

In this episode of A Widow’s Life, Vickie and Cindy discuss Life After Death by Tony Cooke—a compassionate, Scripture-grounded guide for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one. Drawing from Tony’s decades of ministry experience, they share practical comfort, eternal perspective, and encouragement for moving forward while still honoring the love and the ache.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

1. Why grief recovery looks different for every person—and why God isn’t grading your timeline.
2. The “four big questions” we all wrestle with after loss—and how God meets us there.
3. A powerful reframe: death as departure, not destruction—like a ship built for open sea, finally setting sail.
4. Another reframe: death as exodus—a journey into another place, not the end of existence.
5. “All sing, not cry”: choosing worship and confidence in Christ’s victory, even when your heart hurts.
6. Hope for those final moments: remembering God can be working even when we can’t see it.

Key Encouragements

1. Your loved one in Christ truly is in a better place—that isn’t a cliché; it’s reality.
2. God doesn’t “see” His children die—He sees them coming home.
3. You can miss them deeply and still choose moments of joy—because eternity changes the story.

Scriptures Referenced

1. 2 Timothy 4:6–7 — “the time of my departure is at hand…”
2. Psalm 116:15 — “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.”
3. Hebrews 4:15 — Jesus sympathizes with our weaknesses.
4. (Referenced concept) John 14:6 — Jesus as the way to heaven.

Book Mentioned

Life After Death: Rediscovering Life After the Loss of a Loved One

by Tony Cooke (C-O-O-K-E)

Memorable Moment

A story from the book describes a grieving pastor who stops the wailing at his wife’s funeral and declares: “We’re not crying. We’re singing.” A reminder that Christian grief can still carry worship and hope.

Call to Action

If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who needs hope today. And if you have comments or questions, Vickie and Cindy would love to hear from you and will respond as they’re able.

Two girlfriends around the table (Vickie + Cindy) get real about what cooking feels like after loss—when you don’t have the energy, the appetite, or the motivation—and how to gently shift your mindset, simplify meals, and feed your body well again.

Episode Highlights

1. The widowhood cooking slump is real: “I didn’t feel like cooking… things didn’t taste good… I had no inspiration.”
2. Mindset reset: calling a “stop” to the negative spiral and choosing a more positive, Godly way of thinking (including gratitude).
3. The surprising pros of cooking for one: cook what you want, when you want, spend less, waste less.
4. “Better food for less”: buying a steak occasionally can stretch into multiple meals and still beat fast-food cost.
5. Simple tools that make cooking doable again: air fryer, small crockpot, George Foreman grill—perfect for one-person portions.
6. Nutrition + strength as we age: staying mindful of protein and overall nourishment.
7. Hydration matters (especially in MO): electrolytes, mineral support, and practical ideas like watermelon.

Practical Tips Shared in the Conversation

Easy proteins to keep on hand

1. Canned tuna, canned salmon, canned chicken; plus cottage cheese and other simple proteins.

Low-effort meals that still feel good

1. Air-fryer zucchini + squash with olive oil + seasoning.
2. Air-fryer sweet potato “chips” with olive oil + seasoning.
3. Egg salad on lettuce with pumpkin seeds on top.
4. Bake a small batch of muffins (and freeze extras) instead of making big cakes.

Simple “grab it and go” fruit idea

1. Cut fruit + a little honey + lemon juice; add plain Greek yogurt + nuts for extra protein.

Recipe Mentioned: Peanut Butter Cookies (Simple + Satisfying)

A quick cookie idea shared “girlfriends around the table” style:

1. Peanut butter + sweetener (they discuss brown sugar and allulose) + a little salt
2. Optional egg
3. Roll into balls, flatten with a fork on parchment paper
4. Bake at 350°F about 7–12 minutes (they mention ~10 minutes as a common target), then cool before removing.

Resources Mentioned (for Inspiration)

1. Mary’s Nest (traditional cooking / whole foods inspiration)
2. Biblical Nutritionist (foods referenced in the Bible + wellness focus)
3. They also mention Jordan Rubin + Dr. Axe and a book they refer to as the “Biblio/Bible diet” (noted as September 2025 in the conversation).

Friendly Disclaimer (as stated in the episode)

They share personal experience and conversation—not medical, nutrition, or grief-counseling advice.

Call to Action

Have a “cooking for one” win, shortcut, or simple recipe that helped you? Send it in—Vickie and Cindy invite your comments and ideas.

In this episode of A Widow’s Life, Vickie sits down with her friend Esther Murphy in Branson, Missouri, for a real, hope-filled conversation about grief, faith, and the steady strength Esther has found in Jesus after losing her husband, Dan.

Esther shares the story of Dan’s heart struggles, the “extra years” she views as a gift from God, and what it’s looked like to keep moving forward—through medical trauma, work changes, and even hard shifts in family relationships—by putting God first.

Episode Highlights

1. Dan’s long heart journey—blockages discovered young, and how Esther saw God’s hand in keeping him going for decades.
2. “The widow maker” and the final hospitalization—and the moment Esther’s family faced the hardest decision.
3. “God gave me 28 more years”—the gratitude that fuels Esther’s resilience today.
4. Esther the “hug dealer”—why her hugs are more than comfort; they’re love and faith in action.
5. Seeing Dan’s presence—how Esther describes sensing him still with her in daily life.
6. Remembering the “Candy Man”—mints, salt & pepper, and the quiet “behind-the-scenes” love Dan gave to others.
7. When family dynamics change after loss—and how Esther handles the hurt: prayer, surrender, and letting God repair what she can’t.
8. The bottom line: “We put our strength in Jesus Christ.”

Mentioned in the Episode

1. Widow benefits / widow pension (Esther’s experience applying after Dan’s passing).
2. Career transition after grief (job role changes and hope forward).

Memorable Moments & Lines

1. “God gave you… 28 more years.”
2. “I put God first—and everything falls in place.”
3. “Every morning I see Dan… I can feel his presence.”
4. “We put our strength in Jesus Christ.”

Gentle Encouragement (Listener Takeaway)

If you’re walking through widowhood and things feel unstable—health, finances, family, work—this conversation is a reminder that you don’t have to “power through” alone. Esther’s story points to a faith that doesn’t erase grief, but holds you up inside it.

Connect & Share

If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who needs hope today—and leave a review so more widows can find this community.

Podcast: A Widow’s Life with Vickie and Cindy

Title: Books About Heaven That Brought Us Hope After Loss (Episode 17)

Episode Summary

In this “girlfriends around the table” conversation, Cindy and Vickie share how reading books about Heaven helped them process grief after losing their husbands—and how a clearer picture of eternity can bring real, steady hope today. They talk through a short list of books that shaped their imagination, comforted their hearts, and reminded them that Heaven is not “clouds and harps,” but a restored, vibrant life with God.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

1. Why books about Heaven can bring comfort in grief and “spark your imagination” again.
2. A grounded reminder: Cindy and Vickie are simply sharing what helped them (and encourage listeners to do their own due diligence).
3. How your view of the future affects how you feel today—and why that matters when you’re grieving.
4. Personal moments of hope, including Cindy’s “download” image of her husband running and jumping in the mountains.
5. Beautiful imagery from near-death / Heaven-vision accounts: the river of life, peace, and nature that “doesn’t die.”

Books Mentioned

1) Heaven — Randy Alcorn

A deep, scripture-shaped look at Heaven and the “new earth,” meant to change how we live now.

2) All Things New — John Eldredge

A reminder that Heaven isn’t vague or boring—and that hope grows when we remember “nothing is lost” for the believer.

3) Within Heaven’s Gates — Rebecca Springer

A republished (early 1900s-era) account that brought comfort—especially the imagery of home, flowers, the river of life, and meeting Jesus.

4) My Time in Heaven — Richard Sigmund

A near-death account that emphasizes eternal life—“there is no death in Heaven”—and vivid descriptions of creation.

Also mentioned: Imagine Heaven (near-death experiences; author not named in the episode).

Scripture Mentioned (as referenced in the episode)

1. 1 Peter 1:3–5 (hope of eternal life / inheritance)
2. 1 Corinthians 13:13 (faith, hope, love)
3. Romans 6:23 and Acts 17:28
4. Acts 3:21 (restoration)

Memorable Moments / Quotes (paraphrased)

1. “We’re just girlfriends around the table.”
2. “In your grief… remember there is a place called Heaven.”
3. “Nothing dies in Heaven.”

Call to Action

Have a book about Heaven that helped you? Cindy and Vicki invite listeners to email and share what you read and how it encouraged you.

Episode Close

A prayer for listeners: that God would spark imagination, renew hope, and bring an end to the spirit of grief.

Episode Summary

After losing a husband, it can feel like a huge part of who you are disappeared too. In this episode, Vickie and Cindy talk about rebuilding identity from the inside out—starting with who you are in Christ, and then rediscovering who you are as a woman with preferences, strengths, dreams, and new courage. They share real examples of learning new skills, making big decisions solo, creating a home that fits you, and trying things you never thought you’d do on your own.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

1) Your foundation: identity in Christ

They encourage widows to anchor themselves in “who you are in Him”—loved, free, able to have peace and joy—and to search scripture for every “in Him” reminder.

2) Discovering strength through hard moments

From moving furniture to changing a mower battery, they share how hard situations can reveal capability you didn’t know you had.

3) Learning to make decisions again—big ones

They talk about the reality of selling a home, buying a car, choosing a new place to live, and thinking through maintenance and support—one decision at a time.

4) New confidence: projects, plans, and God’s help

A story about building a sunroom becomes a picture of persistence, problem-solving, and trusting God in the process (even in the stressful parts).

5) Practical faith in real life

One moment of panic—rain leaking into the bedroom—turns into prayer, and a reminder of God’s protection and presence.

6) Permission to outsource + permission to decorate “like you”

They discuss choosing a lawn service (because it’s not your gift), and the freedom to make your home reflect you now.

7) Letting go, keeping what brings joy

When downsizing, Cindy shares a simple filter: keep only what brings joy—and release what doesn’t.

8) Try something new: movement, skills, creativity, travel

Roller skating at 68. Driving the boat yourself. Learning computers. Watercolor. Travel—even solo. These are all examples of reclaiming life and discovering new passions.

9) “Your story is yours now.”

They close with encouragement: the old chapter was real, but a new one is possible—don’t be afraid to pursue a dream.

Suggested Time Stamps (from the transcript)

1. 00:00–02:00 — Why identity in Christ matters after loss
2. 02:00–05:30 — New strengths: tools, repairs, big life decisions
3. 05:30–08:30 — Sunroom story: choosing courage, trusting God through the process
4. 09:00–12:30 — Rain leak + prayer + learning to outsource what you don’t want to carry
5. 12:30–15:30 — Decorating, downsizing, keeping what brings joy
6. 16:00–19:00 — Try something new (roller skating, boating, computers)
7. 19:00–23:00 — New passions (watercolor, travel, Grandma Moses) + final encouragement

Scriptures Mentioned / Referenced (for your show notes page)

1. “I can do all things in Him…”
2. “Free indeed” (freedom in Christ)
3. “If God be for us, who can be against us”
4. “Let Your kingdom come, Your will be done”

Reflection Questions (Great for listeners + journaling)

1. What part of my identity was built around my spouse—and what parts are still mine?
2. What’s one “hard thing” I survived that proved I’m capable?
3. What do I want my home, routines, and days to feel like now?
4. What dream have I delayed that might be ready for a first small step?

Listener Challenge (Simple + doable this week)

Pick one small “identity reclaiming” action:

1. Learn one new skill (YouTube counts).
2. Try one new activity (even if you feel rusty).
3. Make one choice in your space that feels more like you.
4. Write down one dream you still have—and pray over it.

In this episode of A Widow’s Life, Vickie and Cindy talk about something that can feel almost “too light” in grief—joy—and why laughter and hugs are not only allowed, but healthy and healing. They share practical ideas to invite laughter back in, encourage you to choose joy on purpose, and remind you that God is present with you as you take the next step forward.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

1. Why laughter is good medicine—and how it can reduce stress, lift mood, and help you face hard days.
2. Simple ways to “find your laugh” again (classic shows, funny videos, friends who make you laugh, even joke books).
3. The surprising truth: even a “forced” laugh can turn into real laughter and shift your body and emotions.
4. Choosing joy intentionally—especially when the day feels heavy.
5. The power of hugs (and learning to receive them), including the encouragement to ask for one when you need it.
6. Feeling “hugged by God” in seasons of loneliness, and going to Him when you need comfort.
7. A tender reassurance: laughing again isn’t a betrayal of the spouse you lost.

Scripture Shared

1. Proverbs 31:25 — “She… laughs without fear of the future.”
2. Psalm 2:4 — God laughs (and He’s not intimidated by the enemy).
3. Job 8:21 — God will fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with joy.
4. Psalm 30:11 — Mourning turned into dancing; clothed with joy.
5. Proverbs 17:22 — A merry heart is good like medicine.

Practical Takeaways (Try This This Week)

1. Put on something that makes you laugh—an old sitcom, a funny clip, or “babies laughing.”
2. Call (or text) that friend whose laugh always makes you laugh too.
3. If you don’t feel joyful yet, start with a small declaration: “I choose joy today.”
4. Don’t be afraid to ask: “I need a hug.”
5. When the loneliness hits, ask God for comfort—He meets you there.

Gentle Encouragement

If laughter feels complicated right now, you’re not doing grief “wrong.” This episode is a reminder that joy can return in small, faithful steps—and you don’t have to be afraid of it.

🎙️ Episode Title

Coping Skills That Actually Help: Finding Joy After Loss

📝 Episode Summary

In this episode of A Widow’s Life, Cindy and Vicki share real-life coping techniques that have helped them navigate grief and keep moving forward after losing their husbands. From painting and writing to exercise, dancing, Bible study, traveling, and even trying new adventures—this conversation is a gentle reminder that healing isn’t about “moving on”… it’s about learning how to live again, one step at a time.

They also share powerful encouragement that the best years of your life may still be ahead of you—no matter your age—and that God still has purpose and joy waiting for you.

💛 What You’ll Hear in This Episode

✅ Coping Techniques That Help You Keep Going

1. Finding creative outlets like painting, crafting, and making handmade cards
2. Taking on new challenges that keep your mind engaged
3. Writing and creating something meaningful, even if you’ve never done it before
4. Building community through Silver Sneakers, group classes, and new friendships

✅ Movement That Supports Healing

1. Exercise for flexibility, mental health, and emotional strength
2. Why dancing is great brain training (and a reason to laugh at yourself!)
3. “Do it afraid” — stepping out even when confidence is low

✅ Connection, Faith, and Fellowship

1. The impact of prayer groups and Bible studies
2. Why it’s okay to start small—invite one person and build from there
3. God can still use your gifts, even in quiet, simple ways

✅ New Adventures and Purpose

1. Traveling as a widow (alone or with groups)
2. Exploring local options like bus trips, community activities, and group outings
3. Why trying something new can bring life back into your world

✅ Encouragement About Age and the Future

Cindy and Vicki share a powerful reminder:

✨ Your most productive years may still be ahead.

They discuss the idea that your 60s, 70s, and beyond can still be filled with purpose, growth, and joy.

🌿 Key Takeaways

1. If something sparks your interest—even a little—try it.
2. Healing often comes through movement, creativity, and connection.
3. Laughing at yourself helps you stay brave.
4. You are not done. Your life still has meaning.
5. Your best years are still ahead of you.

🙌 Quote Worth Remembering

“If something sparks your interest even a little… go for it.”

💌 Closing Encouragement

If you’re walking through grief today, we hope this episode reminds you that you don’t have to figure everything out at once. Just take one small step. Try one new thing. Reach out to one person. Keep going.

You are not alone — and there is still joy ahead.

They talk honestly about how gratitude doesn’t erase the pain of loss, but it does help you choose joy, renew your mind, and reconnect with the goodness of God—one small moment at a time. Attitude with gratitude

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

1) The “secret” that shifts your perspective

Thankfulness isn’t just a nice idea—it’s a daily choice that can soften the heaviness of widowhood and help you move forward with strength. Attitude with gratitude

2) Choosing joy when you wake up

Vicki shares how, after losing her husband, she realized each morning she could choose joy or sadness—and that choosing joy on purpose matters. Attitude with gratitude

3) God helps you find something to be thankful for

Cindy shares a testimony of asking the Holy Spirit for help when she felt she had nothing to be grateful for—and how a small moment (two little boys on a bike) helped her smile again after months. Attitude with gratitude

4) Gratitude for the “small things” can be a BIG turning point

They share real-life examples of God showing up in everyday needs—like not being alone on Father’s Day, and unexpected help with home issues (those stubborn ceiling fans!). Attitude with gratitude

5) “In everything give thanks” (but not for everything)

This is a key part of the conversation: we are not thankful for tragedy—but we can give thanks while God is carrying us through it. Attitude with gratitude

6) Don’t live as a victim—choose to be a victor

They encourage listeners to resist the trap of “woe is me” living and instead stand in victory through Jesus. Attitude with gratitude

7) Practical ways to renew your mind when grief tries to take over

They talk about redirecting your thoughts toward what is good, lovely, and life-giving—and even using sticky notes or scripture cards around the house as reminders. Attitude with gratitude

Scriptures Mentioned in the Episode

1. Colossians 3:15 — “Let the peace of Christ rule… and be thankful.” Attitude with gratitude
2. Philippians 4:8 — Think on what is lovely, pure, and of good report. Attitude with gratitude
3. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 — “In everything give thanks…” Attitude with gratitude
4. Psalm 23 — The Lord as Shepherd: guidance, peace, and provision in a new season. Attitude with gratitude
5. Psalm 26 / Psalm 30 — Using your voice to give thanks and praise. Attitude with gratitude

Listener Takeaway

If grief has been loud lately, start small:

✅ When you wake up tomorrow, say out loud:

“Today is the day the Lord has made—I choose to rejoice.” Attitude with gratitude

Then ask God to help you notice one thing to be thankful for—something simple, something real, something that reminds you you’re still here… and He’s still with you.

Episode summary

In Part 2 of Sharon’s story, she shares what it was like to start dating after losing her husband unexpectedly at 37, how “Mr. Perfect” wasn’t what he seemed, and what she learned through a difficult second marriage and divorce. She also talks about grief counseling, the guilt that can come with moving forward, leaning into faith for healing, and how she eventually found her way into a healthier marriage—plus the real-life adjustments that come with being independent for a long time.

What you’ll hear in this episode

1. Sharon’s timeline: widowed at 37, and dating seriously about 9–10 months later
2. “Mr. Perfect”: charm, spiritual concerns, and the pressure to move fast
3. A hard-earned takeaway: premarital counseling matters (even when you think you’re sure)
4. The complicated emotions of moving forward—excitement, guilt, and grief
5. A candid conversation about grief counseling: group vs. one-on-one, and why it can help
6. Faith-centered encouragement on “natural grief” vs. what they call a “spirit of grief,” including prayer
7. Sharon’s reminder: don’t neglect time with God—Psalms as a lifeline when you’re too deep to read much else
8. Divorce grief and guilt—and why it can feel harder than widowhood
9. Encouragement to live your life, build friendships, and not make “getting a man” the next finish line
10. Sharon’s new chapter: remarried for almost four years, and learning how to grow in the differences

Key moments (timestamps)

1. 00:00 – Welcome + Sharon returns for Part 2
2. 00:01 – Widowed at 37; the early grieving season
3. 00:02–00:08 – “Mr. Perfect,” red flags, moving too fast, and why Sharon stayed 10 years
4. 00:07–00:08 – “Be careful, be wise” + premarital counseling
5. 00:09–00:11 – Grief counseling and the guilt of dating again
6. 00:12–00:15 – Prayer + encouragement for heavy, ongoing grief
7. 00:15–00:19 – Staying close to God; Psalms; invitation to begin a relationship with Jesus
8. 00:20–00:23 – Divorce guilt, forgiveness, and learning to move forward
9. 00:23–00:30 – Remarriage, expectations, independence, and adjusting as a couple

Memorable lines / themes (paraphrased)

1. Sometimes what looks like an “answer” can still carry an inner warning—listen to that hesitation.
2. Healing often happens in community—girlfriends and faith can carry you when life feels impossible.
3. Remarriage after a long season alone requires real adjustment—and can be part of ongoing growth.

Gentle listener note

This episode includes discussion of grief, remarriage, divorce, and spiritual prayer/encouragement. If you’re in a heavy season, consider reaching out to a trusted friend, pastor, or a licensed grief counselor for support.

In this episode of A Widow’s Life with Vicki and Cindy, Cindy and Vicki welcome guest Sharon Perry, who shares her testimony of becoming a widow at 37 after her husband suffered a fatal head injury—“one minute I am married and the next minute I’m not.”

Sharon talks honestly about how grief can feel in a small town where everyone knows you (and keeps reminding you), and how God met her in deeply personal ways—through a “safe place” with her mother, a worship chair in her bedroom, and even practical moments where she needed “husband-help” and asked the Lord to step in.

What you’ll hear in Part 1

1. Sharon’s story: widowed at 37, with her only child newly away in the Navy
2. The tension of small-town kindness… and how it can keep grief constantly in front of you
3. How God used Sharon’s mother (living with severe dementia) to give Sharon a “normal” space to breathe
4. The “chair” moment: “I’m gonna go over and sit on God’s lap”
5. A practical miracle story (moving heavy furniture) + encouragement for the listener who feels like they have no help
6. Financial overwhelm after loss—and Sharon’s choice to stay faithful and keep trusting God
7. Why speaking truth out loud matters when you’re alone, and how to resist the enemy’s lies

Key moments (timestamps)

1. 00:00 – Welcome + why the show exists
2. 01:00 – Sharon’s loss: “one minute I am married…”
3. 02:00–03:00 – Small town grief + the “spirit of grief” conversation
4. 04:00–06:00 – Sharon’s mom as a surprising “safe place”
5. 06:00–08:00 – The chair story: tangible comfort and peace
6. 09:00–11:00 – “God, I need help” (furniture story) + prayer for listeners
7. 13:00–14:30 – Financial pressure, tithing, and God’s provision
8. 15:00–17:20 – “Lord, I trust you” + Proverbs 3:5–6
9. 17:30–18:00 – Closing, blessing, and a tease that Sharon will be back for Part 2

Scriptures explicitly mentioned

1. Jeremiah 29:11
2. Proverbs 3:5–6

Quote-worthy lines

1. “One minute I am married and the next minute I’m not.”
2. “I’m gonna go over and sit on God’s lap.”
3. “If he did it for me, he’ll do it for you. Just never give up on him.”

Connect with the show

Email questions or comments to questions@widowslife.com.

Episode snapshot: Cindy and Vickie meet listeners on Christmas Day with comfort for widows—whether you’re surrounded by family or spending the day alone—by revisiting the Christmas story, focusing on the angels’ message, and offering practical ways to push back fear and choose peace.

What this episode is about

On Christmas Day, Vickie and Cindy reflect on the meaning behind familiar Christmas songs and the birth of Jesus, then read the story of the shepherds and the angels (Luke 2). From there, the conversation turns into gentle coaching for widows: how to resist fear (especially around finances and the future), how to “capture” dark thoughts, and how to intentionally shift from “woe is me” into gratitude, worship, and joy.

Key moments & themes

1) Christmas songs as reminders of hope

Vicki shares how, after coming to faith, the lyrics of well-known Christmas songs became deeply meaningful—each one pointing back to Jesus’ birth and lifting her perspective.

2) The angels’ message to the shepherds: “Don’t be afraid”

They read Luke 2:8–18 and reflect on the awe of God’s presence, the angels’ announcement of “good tidings of great joy,” and how the shepherds responded—going to see Jesus and telling others.

3) Widows and fear: finances, the unknown, and the future

The episode pivots to practical encouragement: fear can be loud (especially after loss), but the hosts emphasize trusting God and refusing to let fear lead your thoughts or decisions.

4) A simple tool: speak back to fear

Vicki shares a memorable “puppet skit” story about a child afraid at night—and how quoting Scripture and telling fear to leave became a practical pattern she still uses.

5) A physical “reset” when fear feels sticky

A standout moment: Vicki describes opening the front and back doors and literally sweeping through the house while commanding fear to go—ending in praise as the fear lifted.

6) Choosing joy (even when you don’t feel it)

They name how easy it is to slip into “woe is me” during the holidays and encourage listeners to intentionally look for what’s good, worship, and receive peace as a choice.

Scripture & passages referenced in the conversation

1. Luke 2:8–18 (and through the shepherds’ response) — Angels, “good tidings,” peace, and the shepherds going to see Jesus.
2. 2 Timothy 1:7 — “God has not given us a spirit of fear…” (quoted in the fear story).
3. Jeremiah 29:11 — God’s good plans for the future (referenced as encouragement for the new year).
4. Job 3:25 — fear opening the door / what is feared coming upon a person (discussed as a warning against living in fear).
5. “A merry heart does good like medicine” (referenced as encouragement to choose joy).

Listener encouragement (takeaways you can apply today)

1. If you feel alone today: you’re not forgotten—turn toward worship and the Christmas story as a lifeline.
2. When fear shows up, name it and challenge it—out loud if you need to.
3. Interrupt spirals by shifting your body (walk, dance, clean, praise—anything that breaks the loop).
4. You can choose a new direction emotionally: “I receive peace… I receive release from fear… I receive God’s goodness today.”

Closing

The episode ends with a spoken blessing and prayer over widows listening—peace, joy, provision, and comfort for Christmas Day.

Episode summary

Cindy and Vicki have a cozy, “girlfriends around the table” chat about staying healthy during the holiday season—especially for widows navigating grief, stress, and extra emotional weight. They focus on small, realistic choices (not perfection) so you can enjoy traditions without getting knocked down by sugar crashes, low moods, and winter-time bugs.

Key talking points

• Sugar can hit harder than you expect. Vicki shares how too much sugar can lead to “the blues” the next day—and how that can spiral mentally if you’re not careful.
• Healthier baking swaps (without giving up the joy). Cindy talks about milling whole grains, using honey as a lower-glycemic sweetener, and choosing flours that don’t spike blood sugar like typical white flour.
• Keep traditions—just scale them down. If you normally make “10 kinds of cookies,” make nine. Take a walk. Make small changes that still feel festive.
• Portion the gifts. Instead of delivering a big plate of sweets, give a few per person (still pretty, still thoughtful). Same idea with candy—2–3 individually wrapped pieces can feel special without overdoing it.
• Don’t eat your cookie alone. Their practical rule: eat protein + vegetables (and fruit) first, then enjoy the treat—so your body handles it better.
• Widowhood + stress makes health more important, not less. They encourage widows—especially in the first few years—to prioritize basic nourishment and getting outside because stress can wear you down fast.

Listener encouragement

This episode isn’t about strict rules. It’s about choosing a little better than last year—one walk, one smaller batch, one balanced meal—so the season feels kinder to your body and mind.

Call to action

They invite listeners to share your own “stay healthy during the holidays” tips: email questions@widowslife.com and connect on Facebook (A Widow’s Life).

The ladies share personal stories:

• Cindy’s neighbors offering to add her trash to their bin, saving her $50 a month.
• A stubborn kitchen sink that, after prayer and patience, simply starts working again.
• A flea-market “booth wall” that unexpectedly clears more than $100 in profit by month’s end.
• A terrifying moment driving with a spider dangling over the steering wheel—and how God helped her stay safe on those narrow Missouri roads.
• God literally holding back the rain over Vickie’s house when her roof was exposed and vulnerable.
• A widowed sister who deeply missed her son’s hugs—and how God sent two young coworkers to give her a hug right when her heart needed it most.

Throughout the conversation, Cindy and Vickie invite listeners to become “God-moment detectives”—choosing to look for the good, name the blessings, and speak life instead of dwelling on the negative. They remind widows that God specifically says He cares for and protects them and that His heart is full of good plans, hope, and abundant life.

Key Scriptures Mentioned:

• Psalm 146:9 – The Lord cares for orphans and widows.
• Proverbs 15:25 – He protects the property of widows.
• Jeremiah 29:11 – God has good thoughts and plans for you.
• Verses about abundant life and “greater is He that is in me” are also referenced as encouragement for daily living.

Takeaways:

• God often shows His care in simple, practical ways—through neighbors, timing, finances, nature, and even traffic.
• Widows can ask God for little reminders—something to make them smile, feel safe, or feel loved—and watch for how He answers.
• Training your heart to notice “God moments” shifts your focus from loss and fear to gratitude, trust, and hope.

Connect with the Show:

Cindy and Vicki would love to hear your God moments and the little ways He has shown up for you as a widow. Send your stories by email—and if you’re comfortable with them sharing it on the podcast, just include a note that says, “It’s okay to share this God moment.”

Christmas A Time of Worship

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• Why Christmas is ultimately a season of worship, not just activity
• How choosing to praise God—even through tears—can shift your emotional and physical state
• Simple ways to worship at home: Christmas hymns, praise music, and dancing in your living room
• Using memories (or making new ones) to invite joy back into your Christmas
• Finding comfort and laughter by watching children’s Christmas programs or nativities
• Practical ideas to “choose joy” when getting out of bed feels hard
• The power of focusing on the good, not the “woe is me” spiral
• An encouraging prayer for widows to feel wrapped in God’s love “like a bubble” during the early years of loss
• Permission to cry, release the pain, and then gently move forward instead of staying stuck

Key Takeaways:

• Worship is a choice that can change the atmosphere in your home.
• God has not left you—His presence and the Holy Spirit are with you in this season.
• You are not alone; there is purpose, hope, and new joy still ahead.

They share personal stories from their own first Christmases after losing their husbands, including how intentionally choosing joy—decorating the house their way, creating new traditions, and refusing to stay stuck in “woe is me”—helped them move through a painful season with hope. Practical ideas include creating a simple Advent calendar of daily actions (writing an encouraging note, calling someone, walking with a neighbor), baking a birthday cake for Jesus to refocus on Christ, planning holiday games and small gatherings, and even exploring Hanukkah traditions as a way to celebrate God’s miracles and light.

Throughout the episode, they encourage listeners to plan ahead, redirect their thoughts toward good memories instead of painful ones, and make the conscious choice each day to say, “Today is the day the Lord has made; I choose to rejoice and be glad in it.” Their message to widows is clear: you can choose joy this Christmas, create new life-giving traditions, and experience God’s presence as your source of strength, comfort, and hope.

They remind listeners that praise isn’t about thanking God for the hard things, but thanking Him for walking with them through those hard things. The hosts encourage widows to trust God with the “mystery” of unanswered questions, to mourn with hope, and to speak truth and trust out loud over their own lives. They offer gentle, practical ideas for facing Thanksgiving—whether spending the day with family, serving others, or creating something small but special at home—and caution against triggering media that may deepen fresh grief. The episode closes with a heartfelt prayer for listeners, asking God to heal wounded hearts, let His presence be felt, and reassure each widow that she is loved, seen, and not alone.

We share practical ideas for marking holidays in a way that feels safe and meaningful, how to give yourself permission to change traditions, and why it’s normal for your needs and preferences to shift from year to year. Some years you may want to be surrounded by people; other years you may crave quiet and space—and both are okay.

Through stories, gentle encouragement, and faith-filled perspective, this conversation invites widows to honor their grief while also allowing room for new experiences, new memories, and new expressions of hope in every season.

In this episode, we share the remarkable true story of Sarah Josepha Hale, a writer and editor who spent over 30 years advocating for a national day of thanksgiving. Through her persistence—and in the middle of the Civil War—President Abraham Lincoln issued the 1863 proclamation that shaped the holiday we cherish today. We reflect on how Hale’s vision of gratitude, unity, and hospitality still speaks to our homes and churches now.

Key Takeaways

• Gratitude is a spiritual discipline that reshapes communities, not just a seasonal feeling.
• One person’s steady, gracious advocacy can change culture.
• Thanksgiving invites us to remember God’s faithfulness and make space for others at the table.
• Traditions matter: they anchor families in hope during painful seasons.

Scripture to Meditate On

• Psalm 100:4 — “Enter his gates with thanksgiving…”
• 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 — “Give thanks in all circumstances…”
• Philippians 4:6–7 — Gratitude, prayer, and God’s peace.

Story Highlights

• Who Sarah Josepha Hale was (author, editor, philanthropist).
• Her long campaign of letters to governors and presidents.
• President Lincoln’s 1863 Thanksgiving proclamation amid the Civil War.
• How a tradition meant to unite the nation can also soften and strengthen our homes today.

Reflection & Journal Prompts

1. Where have you seen God’s quiet faithfulness this year?
2. What tradition could you (re)start that helps your family practice gratitude?
3. Who might need a seat at your table this season?

Family & Community Ideas

• Share one “gratitude testimony” before dinner.
• Leave a place card for someone you’re praying for.
• Cook or deliver a simple side dish to a neighbor who’s alone.

Credits

• Story: “Thanksgiving Story — Sarah Josepha Hale”