<![CDATA[Life of the Lost]]>4c4132a5-0b90-5ffd-b782-a5ca0e01c702Sun, 04 May 2025 15:45:54 +0000Captivate.fmSupayhttps://artwork.captivate.fm/2c0ee074-d0fd-4652-9234-021ba93fe4b4/seqdwsbqckcpkmqw0a-cv6hr.jpgLife of the LostSupaySupayAs two Peruvian adoptees who grew up in different parts of the country (USA), we come together to explore our identities. Follow our adoption journey through our brand Supay, as we repurpose our energy into creating art and music. We hope our thoughts provide new perspectives on your path of discovering yourself. __________ View our podcast on Youtube: https://bit.ly/2ZKkLEV Supay: https://lovesupay.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovesupay/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovesupay/ https://lovesupay.comtrueepisodicnopodcast89 - Dear Maya, Support System89 - Dear Maya, Support SystemDear Maya, oooooft. It's been a busy few weeks, but I'm getting back on track. I've had to activate all my support systems recently, and I'm so grateful for everyone in my life.

I know one day you'll have a wonderful set of friends and family who you can lean on in any situation. You are never alone in this world, and you are so loved!

]]>Dear Maya, oooooft. It's been a busy few weeks, but I'm getting back on track. I've had to activate all my support systems recently, and I'm so grateful for everyone in my life.

I know one day you'll have a wonderful set of friends and family who you can lean on in any situation. You are never alone in this world, and you are so loved!

]]>a6066747-8bf6-4751-a37a-5858cfb38927Sun, 04 May 2025 11:45:00 -040012:46truefull3893893Supay88 - Dear Maya, Let it Out88 - Dear Maya, Let it OutDear Maya,

Pour your emotions into your craft - let them create something beautiful.

]]>Dear Maya,

Pour your emotions into your craft - let them create something beautiful.

]]>7ce8f79f-defe-4f9b-a1bc-4430fd692314Sun, 13 Apr 2025 12:00:00 -040010:02truefull3883883Supay87 - Dear Maya, The Plan?87 - Dear Maya, The Plan?Dear Maya, I forgot to tell you that life is not linear.

]]>Dear Maya, I forgot to tell you that life is not linear.

]]>5f07f7e1-feef-47eb-a3d5-54607f917ed1Sun, 06 Apr 2025 12:00:00 -040004:34truefull3873873Supay86 - Dear Maya, Accountability86 - Dear Maya, AccountabilityDear Maya,

Sometimes, it feels like the whole world is against you, but when you stick to your gut, you can't go wrong. Let others fall into their accountability—we can't make them see through our lens. But we can be there for them when they finally dust off their glasses and see clearly.

]]>Dear Maya,

Sometimes, it feels like the whole world is against you, but when you stick to your gut, you can't go wrong. Let others fall into their accountability—we can't make them see through our lens. But we can be there for them when they finally dust off their glasses and see clearly.

]]>5e3e0691-fd41-48aa-a022-0820621ca1f0Sun, 30 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -040008:40truefull3863863Supay85 - Dear Maya, Intuition85 - Dear Maya, IntuitionDear Maya, check in with yourself (intuition), look for the clues, and make a decision. Sometimes it's ok to make it that simple.

]]>Dear Maya, check in with yourself (intuition), look for the clues, and make a decision. Sometimes it's ok to make it that simple.

]]>50549541-72c7-424c-a4dd-75b21ba19596Tue, 25 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -040008:24truefull3853853Supay84 - Needs & Wants 2 of 284 - Needs & Wants 2 of 2Dear Maya, back for part 2! We usually don't make changes out of the blue. Most times, it is a situation or event that creates change. Don't forget your 'why' and always stay true to self.

]]>Dear Maya, back for part 2! We usually don't make changes out of the blue. Most times, it is a situation or event that creates change. Don't forget your 'why' and always stay true to self.

]]>be952343-233e-4ea0-9d2b-e551bd389a41Sun, 16 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -040006:17truefull3843843Supay83 - Dear Maya, NEED & WANT: 1 of 283 - Dear Maya, NEED & WANT: 1 of 2Dear Maya, once you've answered the questions in the audio, what can you do to follow through?

]]>Dear Maya, once you've answered the questions in the audio, what can you do to follow through?

]]>9740de26-2686-4c36-84d8-315954ca8dfcSun, 09 Mar 2025 12:00:00 -040001:14truefull3833833Supay82 - Spit & Fury82 - Spit & FuryDear Maya,

It's been 3 days since this recording and I'm in my anger phase. He took the first "swing" and I should have taken mine. Nevertheless, I'm grateful that I was unharmed and I'm safe.

Key takeaways include:

  • The importance of situational awareness
  • How training creates crucial muscle memory
  • Processing trauma through creative outlets
  • The power of community support in healing

]]>Dear Maya,

It's been 3 days since this recording and I'm in my anger phase. He took the first "swing" and I should have taken mine. Nevertheless, I'm grateful that I was unharmed and I'm safe.

Key takeaways include:

  • The importance of situational awareness
  • How training creates crucial muscle memory
  • Processing trauma through creative outlets
  • The power of community support in healing

]]>8f420b7f-37c1-4fe9-87b6-9014c6fb8fbaSun, 02 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -040011:22truefull3823823Supay81 - Dear Maya, There are GRAY AREAS81 - Dear Maya, There are GRAY AREASDear Maya, as we grow older, our perspectives often shift from black-and-white to shades of gray. The key is to have patience and grace for those going through challenges that have gray areas. Not every decision can be acted on right away.

]]>Dear Maya, as we grow older, our perspectives often shift from black-and-white to shades of gray. The key is to have patience and grace for those going through challenges that have gray areas. Not every decision can be acted on right away.

]]>1cbe1f70-ccda-4b4f-8334-6bd79dc93687Sun, 23 Feb 2025 12:00:00 -040005:46truefull3813813Supay80 - Dear Maya, Take it Slow80 - Dear Maya, Take it SlowDear Maya, there is a delicate art to building lasting relationships.

Key takeaways:

-Finding partners who align with your values

-Recognizing and setting healthy boundaries

-Dealing with bullying and personal insecurities

-Embracing life's lessons, even the uncomfortable ones

-The power of mature emotional communication

]]>Dear Maya, there is a delicate art to building lasting relationships.

Key takeaways:

-Finding partners who align with your values

-Recognizing and setting healthy boundaries

-Dealing with bullying and personal insecurities

-Embracing life's lessons, even the uncomfortable ones

-The power of mature emotional communication

]]>5e360374-7c24-442e-bdf5-b3cc84022d5fSun, 16 Feb 2025 12:00:00 -040013:11truefull3803803Supay79 - Dear Maya, In This Moment79 - Dear Maya, In This MomentDear Maya, it takes courage to change.

]]>Dear Maya, it takes courage to change.

]]>b9536eee-f3a8-4b8a-815d-aad72b177202Sun, 09 Feb 2025 12:00:00 -040012:00truefull3793793Supay78 - Dear Maya, 202578 - Dear Maya, 2025Dear Maya, despite the uncertainty and chaos, the best thing we can do is to be kind, grateful, and supportive of one another. I hope you're reading this 5 years from now. There is hope on the horizon.

]]>Dear Maya, despite the uncertainty and chaos, the best thing we can do is to be kind, grateful, and supportive of one another. I hope you're reading this 5 years from now. There is hope on the horizon.

]]>059416a8-2e92-446b-9b78-1b43fead43f9Sun, 02 Feb 2025 12:00:00 -040002:45truefull3783783Supay77 - Dear Maya, always create77 - Dear Maya, always createDear Maya, creating can be as complex or simple, as you make it. Be open to different modes of creative expression. When you feel like you're boxed in, find what feels fluid. Keep exploring - keep creating.

Love, Annie

]]>Dear Maya, creating can be as complex or simple, as you make it. Be open to different modes of creative expression. When you feel like you're boxed in, find what feels fluid. Keep exploring - keep creating.

Love, Annie

]]>9771397a-763a-4a63-b6ea-da1e64b0948bSun, 26 Jan 2025 12:00:00 -040007:18truefull3773773Supay76 - Dear Maya, Motherhood?76 - Dear Maya, Motherhood?Dear Maya, you might look back at these recordings and think everything I say is complete bullshit and I'll respect that. You get to deem what a mother means to you and rewrite your story every day; not everyone, including me, deserves to be in it - I recognize being part of your life is earned not given.

Moment by moment I'll work towards fulfilling the responsibilities of motherhood. It will come with many apologies, I'll ask for 're-dos' and we won't always get along but I'll never stop trying.

Love, Annie

]]>Dear Maya, you might look back at these recordings and think everything I say is complete bullshit and I'll respect that. You get to deem what a mother means to you and rewrite your story every day; not everyone, including me, deserves to be in it - I recognize being part of your life is earned not given.

Moment by moment I'll work towards fulfilling the responsibilities of motherhood. It will come with many apologies, I'll ask for 're-dos' and we won't always get along but I'll never stop trying.

Love, Annie

]]>6efd144d-e2b3-473e-b00e-5d2b87411fb5Sun, 19 Jan 2025 12:00:00 -040011:46truefull3763763Supay75 - 4 When U R Stuck75 - 4 When U R StuckDear Maya, the world will sometimes feel heavy on your shoulders, but in those moments, you must move. If you can't pick an option start with a 2-mile run. Keep your mind and heart open to all the goodness you'll find during the run. Be playful and put on some happy music (but please don't listen to it so loudly...be aware of your surroundings lol). Feelings are temporary little Gumbie - this will pass, I love you.

]]>Dear Maya, the world will sometimes feel heavy on your shoulders, but in those moments, you must move. If you can't pick an option start with a 2-mile run. Keep your mind and heart open to all the goodness you'll find during the run. Be playful and put on some happy music (but please don't listen to it so loudly...be aware of your surroundings lol). Feelings are temporary little Gumbie - this will pass, I love you.

]]>7a4c8ff7-e3eb-4e1b-8d9a-855349b5ebdeSun, 12 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -040008:40truefull3753753Supay74 - Dear Maya, Here Comes 1074 - Dear Maya, Here Comes 10Dear Maya, as you approach your 10th birthday, I'm reminded of the bittersweet moments of watching you grow. I feel a lot of nostalgia as I navigate the challenges of your emerging independence and emotions.

]]>Dear Maya, as you approach your 10th birthday, I'm reminded of the bittersweet moments of watching you grow. I feel a lot of nostalgia as I navigate the challenges of your emerging independence and emotions.

]]>3b51c457-4385-4514-8602-4026ab3d58feMon, 06 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -040009:04truefull3743743Supay73 - Dear Maya, Jumbled Thoughts73 - Dear Maya, Jumbled ThoughtsDear Maya, walk with me and listen to a few conclusions I came to after running and taking a class. Remember, not every time will our emotions and feelings make sense. Every dream doesn't need to be transcribed but it doesn't hurt to tap in with yourself and listen.

]]>Dear Maya, walk with me and listen to a few conclusions I came to after running and taking a class. Remember, not every time will our emotions and feelings make sense. Every dream doesn't need to be transcribed but it doesn't hurt to tap in with yourself and listen.

]]>922b1bf6-0c41-492f-8aea-ee282d38d3f9Mon, 30 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -040004:53truefull3733733Supay72 - Dear Maya, All About [Maya]72 - Dear Maya, All About [Maya]Dear Maya, you got this.

]]>Dear Maya, you got this.

]]>16f490f3-1758-457a-b9bd-bf547db0923cMon, 23 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -040002:06truefull3723723Supay71 - Dear Maya, it's a Blue Christmas71 - Dear Maya, it's a Blue ChristmasDear Maya, one year, my grandma was staying at a rehabilitation facility around Christmas time and I went to visit her. I lucked out - that very day an Elvis impersonator was singing in the cafeteria for all the residents.

Grandma sat in a wheel chair watching Elvis with stars in her eyes. For a moment I saw her pain fade into happiness. It felt like heaven was shining a spotlight on both of my grandparents as they danced and enjoyed the music together.

I knew I wouldn't get that moment back. I sat there knowing it was going to be a memory I would keep in my pocket forever.

I hope you have many moments like this with your grandparents.

]]>Dear Maya, one year, my grandma was staying at a rehabilitation facility around Christmas time and I went to visit her. I lucked out - that very day an Elvis impersonator was singing in the cafeteria for all the residents.

Grandma sat in a wheel chair watching Elvis with stars in her eyes. For a moment I saw her pain fade into happiness. It felt like heaven was shining a spotlight on both of my grandparents as they danced and enjoyed the music together.

I knew I wouldn't get that moment back. I sat there knowing it was going to be a memory I would keep in my pocket forever.

I hope you have many moments like this with your grandparents.

]]>7c0d4649-adc1-425e-b11e-4ad39fead37aMon, 16 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -040010:00truefull3713713Supay70 - Dear Maya, Be Kind to Self70 - Dear Maya, Be Kind to SelfA short and sweet reminder to be kind to yourself. If we pause for a moment before we attack ourselves maybe we can create a better environment for ourselves to grow.

It feels selfish at first and there will be growing pains but it's important to check in with yourself. Reprioritize yourself. <3

]]>A short and sweet reminder to be kind to yourself. If we pause for a moment before we attack ourselves maybe we can create a better environment for ourselves to grow.

It feels selfish at first and there will be growing pains but it's important to check in with yourself. Reprioritize yourself. <3

]]>d79a0337-b384-42ef-9938-9a5974da89d0Mon, 09 Dec 2024 12:15:00 -040007:16truefull3703703Supay69 - Dear Maya, Keep Imagining69 - Dear Maya, Keep ImaginingSelf-discovery is the key to growth—embracing who you are and who you can become. Add a dash of imagination and a pinch of ambition to fuel your journey. And remember, it’s alright to start fresh and reinvent yourself.

]]>Self-discovery is the key to growth—embracing who you are and who you can become. Add a dash of imagination and a pinch of ambition to fuel your journey. And remember, it’s alright to start fresh and reinvent yourself.

]]>b42c50a0-4de7-4519-a89b-f49dcb5de0ccMon, 02 Dec 2024 12:00:00 -040008:07truefull3693693Supay68 - Dear Maya, Critique Me68 - Dear Maya, Critique MeWhen it comes to assessing progress and growth focus on people's actions rather than their words. Critiques can be difficult, but we have to find the willingness to listen and learn to grow WITH the ones around us.

]]>When it comes to assessing progress and growth focus on people's actions rather than their words. Critiques can be difficult, but we have to find the willingness to listen and learn to grow WITH the ones around us.

]]>62031f47-f43c-467b-b085-88f05da35c49Mon, 25 Nov 2024 15:00:00 -040003:29truefull3683683Supay67 - Dear Maya, you are everything67 - Dear Maya, you are everythingWe all face challenges in life, but it's how we respond that truly matters. I've been so inspired by the resilience, courage, and emotional openness of YOU. I'm so lucky I get to be your Annie.

]]>We all face challenges in life, but it's how we respond that truly matters. I've been so inspired by the resilience, courage, and emotional openness of YOU. I'm so lucky I get to be your Annie.

]]>c6d8513e-5e41-4967-9527-47b14060e4d6Mon, 18 Nov 2024 12:00:00 -040005:44truefull3673673Supay66 - Dear Maya, Break Cycles66 - Dear Maya, Break CyclesDear Maya, I find no joy in being "right" when trying to help loved ones. Often the conversation leads to a stalemate rather than productive change.

I do recognize transformation is a gradual process and I do believe we all have the willingness to grow - sometimes we just need to find our 'why'.

]]>Dear Maya, I find no joy in being "right" when trying to help loved ones. Often the conversation leads to a stalemate rather than productive change.

I do recognize transformation is a gradual process and I do believe we all have the willingness to grow - sometimes we just need to find our 'why'.

]]>66a6a784-6f41-43bf-b34d-cebb4a35c3b7Mon, 11 Nov 2024 00:45:00 -040010:12truefull3663663Supay65 - Dear Maya, BE FREE65 - Dear Maya, BE FREEBE FREE, you don't need permission to do what is best for you.

]]>BE FREE, you don't need permission to do what is best for you.

]]>80148202-807d-4e12-842f-f67a4ff3f405Mon, 04 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -040015:16truefull3653653Supay64 - Dear Maya, Breakup Tips64 - Dear Maya, Breakup TipsDear Maya, this is what worked for me but only you will know what's best for you. Look for the clues.

]]>Dear Maya, this is what worked for me but only you will know what's best for you. Look for the clues.

]]>cf9f3775-2014-4eba-9671-0ef3d5ec9e61Mon, 28 Oct 2024 12:00:00 -040044:22truefull3643643Supay63 - Dear Maya, It's OK to be WRONG63 - Dear Maya, It's OK to be WRONGDear Maya, don't sweat the small stuff. Ask yourself, 'will this matter 5 years from now?'

]]>Dear Maya, don't sweat the small stuff. Ask yourself, 'will this matter 5 years from now?'

]]>11db1c51-a1c9-4884-be55-d7e7e7e65922Mon, 28 Oct 2024 11:45:00 -040001:35truefull3633633Supay62 - Dear Maya, YOU GOT THIS62 - Dear Maya, YOU GOT THISA new series dedicated to Maya.

]]>A new series dedicated to Maya.

]]>b7193626-c592-4020-bd1f-887512ef1219Mon, 28 Oct 2024 11:30:00 -040001:06truefull3623623Supay61 - Adoption Behavioral Issues61 - Adoption Behavioral IssuesWe talk about our own experiences with violent tantrums, sensory issues, and oppositional behaviors growing up as two adoptees.

]]>We talk about our own experiences with violent tantrums, sensory issues, and oppositional behaviors growing up as two adoptees.

]]>0042a0fe-c643-40f2-8fc1-2046c10bde2dWed, 06 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -040043:43truefull2612612Supay60 - Girls VS Boys: Difference in Adoption?60 - Girls VS Boys: Difference in Adoption?Are there notable differences between growing up as a girl VS a boy adoptee? Is the difference based on who raised us?

]]>Are there notable differences between growing up as a girl VS a boy adoptee? Is the difference based on who raised us?

]]>4ba7a654-462b-411a-b758-2076ba077c21Wed, 23 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -040046:15truefull2602602Supay59 - Sam: Adoptive Family Deep Dive (interviewed by Lillian Wolfe)59 - Sam: Adoptive Family Deep Dive (interviewed by Lillian Wolfe)A deep dive into Sam’s mind when it comes to adoption. How it’s changed his outlook on other adoptees, how it’s impacted big events in his life, and most importantly how it's helped him as continues parenting.

]]>A deep dive into Sam’s mind when it comes to adoption. How it’s changed his outlook on other adoptees, how it’s impacted big events in his life, and most importantly how it's helped him as continues parenting.

]]>53545e30-4839-4ee6-a0f7-06e6021ddb2cWed, 16 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -040038:26truefull2592592Supay58 - Meg: Adoptive Family Deep Dive (interviewed by Lillian Wolfe)58 - Meg: Adoptive Family Deep Dive (interviewed by Lillian Wolfe)A deep dive into Meg’s adoptive family, finding her identity, learning how to express emotions in productive ways, and newfound confidence. 

]]>A deep dive into Meg’s adoptive family, finding her identity, learning how to express emotions in productive ways, and newfound confidence. 

]]>9b07803b-f3c1-4c6d-a317-e49280859f40Wed, 09 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -040001:02:27truefull2582582Supay57 - Stanford TRA Interviews Supay57 - Stanford TRA Interviews SupayWe had the honor of sitting down and chatting with Lillian Wolfe, a PhD student at Stanford University, who also happens to be a transracial Chinese adoptee!

She is researching adoptees and how family support influences how they form their racial-ethnic identities.

This is our chance as adoptees to talk about our adoptive families - positive or negative (it can be totally anonymous). Let's support her as she helps our community learn and thrive. If you would like to participate in her study please email or call Lillian at lrwolfe@stanford.edu or at 541-321-8577.

 

]]>We had the honor of sitting down and chatting with Lillian Wolfe, a PhD student at Stanford University, who also happens to be a transracial Chinese adoptee!

She is researching adoptees and how family support influences how they form their racial-ethnic identities.

This is our chance as adoptees to talk about our adoptive families - positive or negative (it can be totally anonymous). Let's support her as she helps our community learn and thrive. If you would like to participate in her study please email or call Lillian at lrwolfe@stanford.edu or at 541-321-8577.

 

]]>98d4bef5-d462-458e-a116-0999b82b083aWed, 02 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -040001:16:01truefull2572572Supay56 - Life / Love / Stress & Setbacks56 - Life / Love / Stress & SetbacksToday's podcast is about life, love, stress, & setbacks - what's going on and how to cope moving forward.

Life - what's new

Love - thoughts after attending Jay Shetty's 'Love Rules' event

Stress - new ways to focus before a panic attack

Setbacks - a new approach to balancing life with Ayurveda

]]>Today's podcast is about life, love, stress, & setbacks - what's going on and how to cope moving forward.

Life - what's new

Love - thoughts after attending Jay Shetty's 'Love Rules' event

Stress - new ways to focus before a panic attack

Setbacks - a new approach to balancing life with Ayurveda

]]>a4d282c7-879c-4830-b9d7-1c61b63b5d64Mon, 27 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -040026:20truefull5656Supay55 - The CAT Attack55 - The CAT AttackPain, embarrassment, shame, and fear followed us for the first week. The mental toll was something neither of us was ready for. It was sure a valentine’s day we’d never forget! 

]]>Pain, embarrassment, shame, and fear followed us for the first week. The mental toll was something neither of us was ready for. It was sure a valentine’s day we’d never forget! 

]]>d4f60aa6-ea6e-4ae9-ae74-479bbb50ae22Tue, 21 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -040055:38truefull5555Supay54 - Maya's 8th Birthday Nerves54 - Maya's 8th Birthday NervesMaya's 8th birthday party and all the nerves during her big day...not for her but for us!!

]]>Maya's 8th birthday party and all the nerves during her big day...not for her but for us!!

]]>9addb622-d7ed-497c-bf96-ca70312e53a5Mon, 13 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -040050:44truefull5454Supay53 - Sam & 4am Mornings53 - Sam & 4am MorningsA day late and a buck short - BUT HEY, we’re still here getting our voice out into the world wide webs. :) 

Sam is a champ for handling Meg’s family in MN and Meg talks about why she wakes up at 4am every morning. 

]]>A day late and a buck short - BUT HEY, we’re still here getting our voice out into the world wide webs. :) 

Sam is a champ for handling Meg’s family in MN and Meg talks about why she wakes up at 4am every morning. 

]]>03c9e475-1e34-4c4d-b46e-3a94546f6e8cTue, 31 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -040023:25truefull5353Supay52 - Fear of Being Judged52 - Fear of Being JudgedLiving in NYC has been detrimental to how people judge Sam. He questions if it’s in his mind or if it’s truly his skin color that limits his ability to be himself. 

]]>Living in NYC has been detrimental to how people judge Sam. He questions if it’s in his mind or if it’s truly his skin color that limits his ability to be himself. 

]]>85868dc2-c1c1-4360-b6a8-6c8945453e65Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -040001:50:16truefull5252Supay51 - Megan's 15 Minutes of Fame51 - Megan's 15 Minutes of FameEven in unexpected circumstances, we move forward. As Sam says, "we must have that next-play mentality". In football, if you mess up in a play you can't dwell because you have the rest of the game to prove you still got it. NEXT PLAY.

]]>Even in unexpected circumstances, we move forward. As Sam says, "we must have that next-play mentality". In football, if you mess up in a play you can't dwell because you have the rest of the game to prove you still got it. NEXT PLAY.

]]>179820cb-1ae8-4d0c-904c-bb5beaaa4d6cMon, 16 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -040027:20truefull5151Supay50 - Hospital Visits50 - Hospital VisitsA chaotic ending to our week landed us in the ER with little Maya. 

]]>A chaotic ending to our week landed us in the ER with little Maya. 

]]>79795e89-6baf-4f70-8d64-5445d1854b4fMon, 09 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -040036:21truefull5050Supay49 - 2023 Goals?49 - 2023 Goals?We had a week off work and it felt like a nice practice run to not having a 9-5 job. We discuss a few goals for 2023 and you get to hear me (Meg) go down a giant rabbit hole and Sam pulling me back out at the end. That's why we're a team - we got this, you got this! Thanks for sticking around! Happy New Years!

]]>We had a week off work and it felt like a nice practice run to not having a 9-5 job. We discuss a few goals for 2023 and you get to hear me (Meg) go down a giant rabbit hole and Sam pulling me back out at the end. That's why we're a team - we got this, you got this! Thanks for sticking around! Happy New Years!

]]>7066b8b0-ade7-45fa-bd54-056445e271aeMon, 02 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -040049:23truefull4949Supay48 - Binge Eating Disorder48 - Binge Eating DisorderSam talks about a food disorder he struggled with as a teen. He talks about how the condition could have started and how he's handling it right now.

]]>Sam talks about a food disorder he struggled with as a teen. He talks about how the condition could have started and how he's handling it right now.

]]>266993d5-834a-4e43-b527-d4084ef0ea5eMon, 26 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -040001:15:20truefull4848Supay47 - An Adoptee Dating an Adoptee47 - An Adoptee Dating an AdopteeTaking a deep dive into what it's like being in a relationship with another adoptee.

]]>Taking a deep dive into what it's like being in a relationship with another adoptee.

]]>4627f678-1f19-4b25-9621-729b668d1ae4Mon, 19 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -040001:05:08truefull4747Supay46 - Look How Far We've Come...46 - Look How Far We've Come...Let's finally talk about something we've been tip-toeing around for the past 2 years. Divorce, custody, attorneys...you can hear how shaken up we still are. Progress has been made and the most important part is how both sides have Maya's best interest at the forefront. <3

]]>Let's finally talk about something we've been tip-toeing around for the past 2 years. Divorce, custody, attorneys...you can hear how shaken up we still are. Progress has been made and the most important part is how both sides have Maya's best interest at the forefront. <3

]]>a2dcc3dc-c644-42f4-aee6-ab8569912332Mon, 12 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -040001:02:53truefull4646Supay45 - F*CK IT - just upload both45 - F*CK IT - just upload bothThese conversations can get so intense and unexpected - sometimes I (Megan) want to hit that power-off button and end in the middle of a sentence but I know it's best to push through.

We had such a solid conversation but at 1 hour it got erased and only 30 minutes were saved. We started again and thought…1. do we start all over again 2. Merge them together 3. Try to pick up where we ended. At this point I think it’s best we just be as honest and raw as we are and put them both together side by side.

A few things we unpack in this episode:

-Meg starting to be more selfish with her time/responsibilities

-Sam asking why Meg can’t take productive criticism

-Meg talking about childhood tribulation & her brother

-Sam talking about being in jail and a wilderness program & how that’s helped him

]]>These conversations can get so intense and unexpected - sometimes I (Megan) want to hit that power-off button and end in the middle of a sentence but I know it's best to push through.

We had such a solid conversation but at 1 hour it got erased and only 30 minutes were saved. We started again and thought…1. do we start all over again 2. Merge them together 3. Try to pick up where we ended. At this point I think it’s best we just be as honest and raw as we are and put them both together side by side.

A few things we unpack in this episode:

-Meg starting to be more selfish with her time/responsibilities

-Sam asking why Meg can’t take productive criticism

-Meg talking about childhood tribulation & her brother

-Sam talking about being in jail and a wilderness program & how that’s helped him

]]>b6dc3e41-0181-4906-aaee-de539938d33cMon, 05 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -040001:11:04truefull4545Supay44 - Self Crisis of Masculinity & Fatherhood44 - Self Crisis of Masculinity & FatherhoodWe start by listening to an audio clip explaining the deeper meaning of the movie 'Fight Club'. Sam breaks down part of the clip and relates it to his life - having no father and questioning what to do with this dwindling feeling of masculinity. We try to end it by talking about the root of the problem and how we think it can be reshaped.

]]>We start by listening to an audio clip explaining the deeper meaning of the movie 'Fight Club'. Sam breaks down part of the clip and relates it to his life - having no father and questioning what to do with this dwindling feeling of masculinity. We try to end it by talking about the root of the problem and how we think it can be reshaped.

]]>10638b27-1b39-4225-bcd3-198bee36f404Mon, 28 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -040001:10:44truefull4444Supay43 - Adoptees Parenting43 - Adoptees ParentingMore specifically...Brown Peruvian adoptees parenting in a rich neighborhood in NYC - but that's only to get super specific. :')

Sam's a bit more sensitive to the daily stigmas he faces in NYC and you can hear his pain when he speaks about being a parent. I wish he could see what a fantastic job he's doing being Maya's dad but I know in time he'll see how much his dedication and love impact her.

I've been learning to embrace the differences a lot more lately. I think maybe I have an easier time knowing Maya has two great parents already and I'm an avenue of support for them to tag me in if they need me!

All and all, thank you for tuning in. We missed talking to you. <3

]]>More specifically...Brown Peruvian adoptees parenting in a rich neighborhood in NYC - but that's only to get super specific. :')

Sam's a bit more sensitive to the daily stigmas he faces in NYC and you can hear his pain when he speaks about being a parent. I wish he could see what a fantastic job he's doing being Maya's dad but I know in time he'll see how much his dedication and love impact her.

I've been learning to embrace the differences a lot more lately. I think maybe I have an easier time knowing Maya has two great parents already and I'm an avenue of support for them to tag me in if they need me!

All and all, thank you for tuning in. We missed talking to you. <3

]]>dd0ae968-0d19-446c-9bef-bd46a1a4ba36Mon, 21 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -040046:15truefull4343Supay42 - That escalated quickly...42 - That escalated quickly...From taking care of Oreo to taking over the world...you'll just have to listen.

]]>From taking care of Oreo to taking over the world...you'll just have to listen.

]]>2d945da1-0229-4201-bc37-0f375fe4a66eMon, 23 May 2022 00:00:00 -040001:07:08truefull4242Supay41 - Special Guest MAYA Herscher41 - Special Guest MAYA HerscherMaya, Sam’s daughter, asked if we could do a ‘girls talk’ podcast episode without daddy!

She talks about:

-the drama that’s happening in first grade (we tried to change the names of the people we talk about)

-what she likes to do for fun

-what she wants to be when she grows up

-a fun event we went to yesterday

-an idea for a slime stand

]]>Maya, Sam’s daughter, asked if we could do a ‘girls talk’ podcast episode without daddy!

She talks about:

-the drama that’s happening in first grade (we tried to change the names of the people we talk about)

-what she likes to do for fun

-what she wants to be when she grows up

-a fun event we went to yesterday

-an idea for a slime stand

]]>7990ae2d-863c-4378-9454-276ba6ca0907Sun, 15 May 2022 00:00:00 -040039:38falsefull4141Supay40 - What are you wearing?40 - What are you wearing?WE’RE BACK. 

In this episode, we talk about the insecurities we have about what we’re wearing. 

The things that affect what we wear:

-Being adopted

-Being a parental figure

-Comparing ourselves to what others are wearing

-Still feeling like kids

We also talk about Mother’s Day and how Sam’s detoxing from caffeine cold turkey. 

]]>WE’RE BACK. 

In this episode, we talk about the insecurities we have about what we’re wearing. 

The things that affect what we wear:

-Being adopted

-Being a parental figure

-Comparing ourselves to what others are wearing

-Still feeling like kids

We also talk about Mother’s Day and how Sam’s detoxing from caffeine cold turkey. 

]]>1150480a-092f-4f81-a7e7-5488f9aebf83Sun, 08 May 2022 00:00:00 -040043:09truefull4040Supay39 - What happened Saturday night?39 - What happened Saturday night?Saturday night and we’re feeling just right! We knew we wanted to bike downtown to eat some fish tacos…but the rest of the night was in the air and we’ll ramble about it on this episode of Life of the Lost. 

https://www.instagram.com/lovesupay/ or @lovesupay to check out some of the collage prints we were talking about.

]]>Saturday night and we’re feeling just right! We knew we wanted to bike downtown to eat some fish tacos…but the rest of the night was in the air and we’ll ramble about it on this episode of Life of the Lost. 

https://www.instagram.com/lovesupay/ or @lovesupay to check out some of the collage prints we were talking about.

]]>551fbfac-bdc4-4082-9212-68d1df569686Sun, 24 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -040041:40truefull3939Supay38 - PROS/CONS of the Week38 - PROS/CONS of the WeekA week that felt never-ending had its ups and downs and we’ll walk through a few in this episode! 

]]>A week that felt never-ending had its ups and downs and we’ll walk through a few in this episode! 

]]>7f704121-939c-4983-bba7-c437b280dc5bSun, 17 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -040043:11truefull3838Supay37 - Imposter Syndrome37 - Imposter SyndromeImposter syndrome runs rapid in the adoption community but Sam didn’t recognize it until this past week. He's been struggling with this when it comes to his job and being a parent. We speak about how he’s viewing imposter syndrome and how he hopes to beat it. I (Meg) have been struggling with this more recently when it comes to Maya and others' assumptions about who I am to her. 

]]>Imposter syndrome runs rapid in the adoption community but Sam didn’t recognize it until this past week. He's been struggling with this when it comes to his job and being a parent. We speak about how he’s viewing imposter syndrome and how he hopes to beat it. I (Meg) have been struggling with this more recently when it comes to Maya and others' assumptions about who I am to her. 

]]>9e1be6e4-b431-4650-955f-7ecf5597d4e6Mon, 11 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -040001:07:33truefull3737Supay36 - Pneumonia & Failing Class36 - Pneumonia & Failing ClassLast week was unexpectedly overwhelming with Maya catching Pneumonia but we all made it through and are back! We speak about balancing life and a time when Sam failed a class in college because his teacher wasn't a fan of his Jewish culture.

Short and sweet this week!

]]>Last week was unexpectedly overwhelming with Maya catching Pneumonia but we all made it through and are back! We speak about balancing life and a time when Sam failed a class in college because his teacher wasn't a fan of his Jewish culture.

Short and sweet this week!

]]>b1bd9fe6-8d8e-441a-9d48-41f579e46d68Tue, 05 Apr 2022 08:30:00 -040036:57truefull3636Supay35 - What a Day 03/37/2235 - What a Day 03/37/22We start off talking about an eventful bike ride that turned into a doctor's visit and a tetanus shot. Then transition into a difficult topic about Meg's birth sister and the physical/mental abuse she's endured at the hands of her own family.

]]>We start off talking about an eventful bike ride that turned into a doctor's visit and a tetanus shot. Then transition into a difficult topic about Meg's birth sister and the physical/mental abuse she's endured at the hands of her own family.

]]>4d507904-a867-4c27-b177-94de9e038db7Mon, 28 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -040001:09:36truefull3535Supay34 - Eating Our Feelings34 - Eating Our FeelingsAn episode all about food and feelings!

]]>An episode all about food and feelings!

]]>bb69ab15-8766-42dd-9e4c-9a7f7310785fSun, 20 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -040048:32truefull3434Supay33 - Is there a target on us?33 - Is there a target on us?Is it paranoia or are we carrying around a bad aura?

]]>Is it paranoia or are we carrying around a bad aura?

]]>e7dc67e2-7b85-4d87-8c24-ae4a218bf10cMon, 14 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -040001:05:46truefull3333Supay32 - When/Where/How We Met32 - When/Where/How We MetWe totally fell off AGAIN from doing our weekly podcasts BUT we're not giving up...we're back again! In this episode we're talking a bit about ourselves!

]]>We totally fell off AGAIN from doing our weekly podcasts BUT we're not giving up...we're back again! In this episode we're talking a bit about ourselves!

]]>8088065c-e4e3-457e-a6a3-07132dd41b2bSun, 30 Jan 2022 00:00:00 -040054:59truefull3232Supay31 - Random Thoughts31 - Random ThoughtsWe apologize for Meg's audio being a bit quiet. We'll figure it out for next week! This week has been exhausting and today's episode is filled with random thoughts.

]]>We apologize for Meg's audio being a bit quiet. We'll figure it out for next week! This week has been exhausting and today's episode is filled with random thoughts.

]]>c37ef563-5721-481a-93a1-d4d47b7b03d1Thu, 16 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -040038:58truefull3131Supay30 - All The Tears Today30 - All The Tears TodayWe missed last week but we’re back! Sam’s childhood dog is dying and he’s having a rough time processing it all. Meg has been faced with an insane amount of stress that it's made her physically sick.

]]>We missed last week but we’re back! Sam’s childhood dog is dying and he’s having a rough time processing it all. Meg has been faced with an insane amount of stress that it's made her physically sick.

]]>7a86e9c0-40d4-4202-b59b-a9e80570b03dFri, 10 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -040001:05:51truefull3030Supay29 - Cancer VS Supay29 - Cancer VS SupayIn this episode Meg opens up about when she found out she had cancer, right before/after surgery, recovery and how it's effecting Supay.

**all thc products mentioned in this episode were purchased legally in NY, NY.

]]>In this episode Meg opens up about when she found out she had cancer, right before/after surgery, recovery and how it's effecting Supay.

**all thc products mentioned in this episode were purchased legally in NY, NY.

]]>4c870272-fac7-4da3-9d80-cee3b29f4d5aWed, 24 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -040001:15:46truefull2929Supay28 - Being Brown at the Dog Park28 - Being Brown at the Dog ParkWE'RE BACK!

We both have a pretty high tolerance when it comes to people judging us but sometimes we end up in situations and refuse to stay quiet. We have a 7 month Boston Terrier named OREO and we take him to the dog park daily but have recently been met with a few problems there.

Maybe we're completely wrong but it always feels like we're the only ones being picked on or harassed. Is it because we're brown? Is it all in our heads? Feel free to listen in and have your own opinion.

P.S. It feels GREAT to be back and talking about life! We want to shout out all the listeners who have been with us since day 1 and to all the new listeners. We love you and appreciate your loving messages and support as we went on a hiatus. WE LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear feedback and are always here if you need us!

]]>WE'RE BACK!

We both have a pretty high tolerance when it comes to people judging us but sometimes we end up in situations and refuse to stay quiet. We have a 7 month Boston Terrier named OREO and we take him to the dog park daily but have recently been met with a few problems there.

Maybe we're completely wrong but it always feels like we're the only ones being picked on or harassed. Is it because we're brown? Is it all in our heads? Feel free to listen in and have your own opinion.

P.S. It feels GREAT to be back and talking about life! We want to shout out all the listeners who have been with us since day 1 and to all the new listeners. We love you and appreciate your loving messages and support as we went on a hiatus. WE LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear feedback and are always here if you need us!

]]>7601f5c6-6b9d-4f5f-9373-c62c237c9a9bWed, 17 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -040055:54truefull2828Supay27 - SH!T HAS BEEN ROUGH27 - SH!T HAS BEEN ROUGHA bit of a slow start to the podcast leads to us opening up about a few things going on in life. We were going to talk more about Meg's time in Peru with her family but this week went a little sideways. It's not always sunshine and rainbows.

Quotes from specific times during the podcast:

2:08 - It’s been a rough week and it’s only Wednesday

5:11 - Where’d my energy go?…I’m burnt out

8:06 - There’s a lot of outside things that people don’t see going on

10:30 - You alright? Naw man, I’m not alright

15:17 - 60 year-old Sam looking back at you, what do you think you’d tell yourself?

18:50 - Good to talk things out

24:12 - Forgive me if I look tired…

26:05 - You know I really didn’t want to do a podcast today

30:20 - I was not prepared to go to college

37:40 - I feel confident in what I say and if you want to use it against me by all means you can

 Sound from Zapsplat.com

]]>A bit of a slow start to the podcast leads to us opening up about a few things going on in life. We were going to talk more about Meg's time in Peru with her family but this week went a little sideways. It's not always sunshine and rainbows.

Quotes from specific times during the podcast:

2:08 - It’s been a rough week and it’s only Wednesday

5:11 - Where’d my energy go?…I’m burnt out

8:06 - There’s a lot of outside things that people don’t see going on

10:30 - You alright? Naw man, I’m not alright

15:17 - 60 year-old Sam looking back at you, what do you think you’d tell yourself?

18:50 - Good to talk things out

24:12 - Forgive me if I look tired…

26:05 - You know I really didn’t want to do a podcast today

30:20 - I was not prepared to go to college

37:40 - I feel confident in what I say and if you want to use it against me by all means you can

 Sound from Zapsplat.com

]]>296f08ca-026c-4420-bc57-cf0e91babf26Thu, 11 Mar 2021 00:00:00 -040040:59truefull2727Supay26 - Surprised Emotions Arise26 - Surprised Emotions AriseUnresolved and raw feelings shine through as Meg talks about the situation she found herself in the 1st day volunteering in Peru. As she’s trying to keep all of her emotions intact her legs start shaking. Confusion and stress surface as if she’s reliving the memory again. Sam helps Meg navigate and make sense of everything she’s feeling.

1:39 - An overview of last weeks episode

3:47 - Operating room experience

5:35 - 1st-day volunteering at a hospital in Cusco, Peru

9:15 - Meg’s encounter with 3 angry women feeding her accusations

14:14 - “I don’t know why I’m shaking”

17:07 - Confusion of purpose and place

24:24 - Trying to make people happy is like keeping a sandcastle up during a storm

27:45 - How the negative event relates to current feelings

28:32 - Viracocha to Jesus, an interesting comparison

37:51 - Not knowing the tiny things that make you happy and the downfall

]]>Unresolved and raw feelings shine through as Meg talks about the situation she found herself in the 1st day volunteering in Peru. As she’s trying to keep all of her emotions intact her legs start shaking. Confusion and stress surface as if she’s reliving the memory again. Sam helps Meg navigate and make sense of everything she’s feeling.

1:39 - An overview of last weeks episode

3:47 - Operating room experience

5:35 - 1st-day volunteering at a hospital in Cusco, Peru

9:15 - Meg’s encounter with 3 angry women feeding her accusations

14:14 - “I don’t know why I’m shaking”

17:07 - Confusion of purpose and place

24:24 - Trying to make people happy is like keeping a sandcastle up during a storm

27:45 - How the negative event relates to current feelings

28:32 - Viracocha to Jesus, an interesting comparison

37:51 - Not knowing the tiny things that make you happy and the downfall

]]>5d8e978c-b35e-4d10-b1c6-e124f0393c5cWed, 03 Mar 2021 00:00:00 -040045:34truefull2626Supay25 - Divided Identities/Will I ever fit in?25 - Divided Identities/Will I ever fit in?Leaving her adopted family in MN, Meg bites her tongue at the Minneapolis airport trying not to cry. Less than 24’s later she meets her birth family at the Cusco airport and her emotions seemed to be completely missing.

There’s a great divide between both adopted and birth families. Meg searches for her place among her birth family but is mistaken when she thinks the answer is simply going to Peru.

1:24 - A tearful goodbye as Meg leaves her family in MN

4:08 - The moment she spots her birth family in Cusco

6:13 - Inconsistencies of talking to her birth family in the past

12:51 - Meg’s faced with a problem from the moment she gets to her birth families home

15:10 - 2 mentalities of being adopted completely clashing

19:18 - Identify and how it goes hand and hand with Supay (Sam & Meg’s apparel brand)

26:18 - Sam’s blind dog, Latke interrupts the podcast

28:14 - Meg questions her place and wonders if she’ll ever fit in

]]>Leaving her adopted family in MN, Meg bites her tongue at the Minneapolis airport trying not to cry. Less than 24’s later she meets her birth family at the Cusco airport and her emotions seemed to be completely missing.

There’s a great divide between both adopted and birth families. Meg searches for her place among her birth family but is mistaken when she thinks the answer is simply going to Peru.

1:24 - A tearful goodbye as Meg leaves her family in MN

4:08 - The moment she spots her birth family in Cusco

6:13 - Inconsistencies of talking to her birth family in the past

12:51 - Meg’s faced with a problem from the moment she gets to her birth families home

15:10 - 2 mentalities of being adopted completely clashing

19:18 - Identify and how it goes hand and hand with Supay (Sam & Meg’s apparel brand)

26:18 - Sam’s blind dog, Latke interrupts the podcast

28:14 - Meg questions her place and wonders if she’ll ever fit in

]]>ac965900-4bd0-4668-9a3c-ac0b76b37ed1Wed, 24 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -040032:20truefull2525Supay24 - THE $3,000 BRIBE24 - THE $3,000 BRIBEMeg had a $3,000-$5,000 bribe to stay back from going to Peru to live with her birth family. The decision changed her life and in this episode they dive into how this mini series really relates to their past and current lives. 

The t-shirt Sam designed! https://otakumode.com/shop/5f28ce0972e496726b1312cb/Loyalty-Respect-T-Shirt

]]>Meg had a $3,000-$5,000 bribe to stay back from going to Peru to live with her birth family. The decision changed her life and in this episode they dive into how this mini series really relates to their past and current lives. 

The t-shirt Sam designed! https://otakumode.com/shop/5f28ce0972e496726b1312cb/Loyalty-Respect-T-Shirt

]]>baafa64e-3154-4458-a6ed-717e56d8c963Thu, 18 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -040048:42truefull2424Supay23 - Something's Gotta Change23 - Something's Gotta ChangeLife has a funny way of working things out. It's up to us to make sure all the pieces align.

4:58 -The ultrasound

7:43 - Thyroid cancer

12:36 - The talk with 4 important people before leaving

14:51 - Buying the ticket & everything started falling together

16:24 - Quitting 1st full-time job

21:00 - Summarize

24:05 - 24 years old comparison of Sam & Meg

29:38 - “Find out next time” - Dragon Ball Z & Attack on Titan

]]>Life has a funny way of working things out. It's up to us to make sure all the pieces align.

4:58 -The ultrasound

7:43 - Thyroid cancer

12:36 - The talk with 4 important people before leaving

14:51 - Buying the ticket & everything started falling together

16:24 - Quitting 1st full-time job

21:00 - Summarize

24:05 - 24 years old comparison of Sam & Meg

29:38 - “Find out next time” - Dragon Ball Z & Attack on Titan

]]>6e7a5a7d-bd68-4fdb-9d36-d1c13d17ee5fWed, 10 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -040036:25truefull2323Supay22 - Taking A Break?22 - Taking A Break?We start off talking about Kyrie Irving and how he has taken a “pause” by missing 7 games in a row for personal reasons. At what level is that acceptable? Is it ok to take time off as a professional? What about people who aren't of that stature?

We dive into family dynamics and how having a solid family foundation leads to better communication, teamwork, and patience.

When you work with a team you start to understand that sometimes you have to do whatever it takes to win. For Sam, as a teenager, it was walking from store to store with his friends to try and get them a job as he quickly learned he couldn’t carry the entire financial responsibility of having a band

1:15 - Kyrie Irving taking a ‘pause” and what that means

16:07 - Does having a family change teamwork?

18:48 - How having patience helps adversity

22:14 - Understanding your assets to win

25:01 - An example of Sam’s version of “whatever it takes” mentality

31:58 - Taking a break from your dreams or sticking with the momentum?

35:31 - Having a secure group of people around you

38:15 - A time when Sam was jumped

p.s. The audio was really clunky at times and we apologize! We will make a few fixes and next week it will be better.

]]>We start off talking about Kyrie Irving and how he has taken a “pause” by missing 7 games in a row for personal reasons. At what level is that acceptable? Is it ok to take time off as a professional? What about people who aren't of that stature?

We dive into family dynamics and how having a solid family foundation leads to better communication, teamwork, and patience.

When you work with a team you start to understand that sometimes you have to do whatever it takes to win. For Sam, as a teenager, it was walking from store to store with his friends to try and get them a job as he quickly learned he couldn’t carry the entire financial responsibility of having a band

1:15 - Kyrie Irving taking a ‘pause” and what that means

16:07 - Does having a family change teamwork?

18:48 - How having patience helps adversity

22:14 - Understanding your assets to win

25:01 - An example of Sam’s version of “whatever it takes” mentality

31:58 - Taking a break from your dreams or sticking with the momentum?

35:31 - Having a secure group of people around you

38:15 - A time when Sam was jumped

p.s. The audio was really clunky at times and we apologize! We will make a few fixes and next week it will be better.

]]>d0c063f1-2765-4647-9b86-03ab4103a538Wed, 20 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -040043:07truefull2222Supay21 - An Embarrassing Feeling21 - An Embarrassing FeelingAfter filming 40 minutes of episode 21 we stop. We regroup & come back to talk about why the episode stopped. It came down to insecurity & although that’s not what was planned for episode 21, it’s what it becomes. A quick talk about feeling embarrassed while being on camera. 

0:48 - Meg explains why this is the 2nd time they’re filming this episode

3:32 - Correlating minor details with big emotions

5:09 - Learning vs teaching & how they work together

7:06 - Sam makes it his mission to help Meg understand topics when she can’t 

9:44 - Creepy Pasta’s mindset & discussion

18:23 - Do signs exist?

]]>After filming 40 minutes of episode 21 we stop. We regroup & come back to talk about why the episode stopped. It came down to insecurity & although that’s not what was planned for episode 21, it’s what it becomes. A quick talk about feeling embarrassed while being on camera. 

0:48 - Meg explains why this is the 2nd time they’re filming this episode

3:32 - Correlating minor details with big emotions

5:09 - Learning vs teaching & how they work together

7:06 - Sam makes it his mission to help Meg understand topics when she can’t 

9:44 - Creepy Pasta’s mindset & discussion

18:23 - Do signs exist?

]]>7402242c-96b6-4ad8-8e89-006b392a7a50Wed, 13 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -040026:51truefull2121Supay20 - Repurposing Death20 - Repurposing DeathThis was a rough episode to get through. Death has been a frequent topic in our lives lately but it’s one thing thinking about it and another talking about it. Halfway through I (Meg) really wanted to give up and erase this episode. I wish I could speak openly about my cousin's death and the events that have happened after it. I felt like I was doing the whole topic of death injustice by keeping out specific thoughts. There were a lot of pauses filled with thought and silence and those parts were taken out. The rest we kept in to keep this as authentic as the moment really was.

00.45 Transition of Life Of The Lost and the title

03:17 Meg’s nightmare

12:00 Life span

14:53 Thinking about death as a kid

25:39 The episode almost ended right here after self-doubt

27:37 Why death happens? Sam’s explanation

30:49 The light among death

34:00 The will to live

38:14 Habits that cause death

42:28 Sam’s instinct to survive and why

51:11 Embodying the spirit of death to carry a new legacy

______________

We'd love to hear feedback!

Email: supay.life@gmail.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/supay.life/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/supay.life/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/supay_life

Twitch Tuesday's Live: https://m.twitch.tv/uku_pacha/profile

Visit us at https://supay.life/ to support us!


This episode was sponsored by BROWN LAB MEDIA

Website: https://brownlabmedia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brownlab_media/

]]>This was a rough episode to get through. Death has been a frequent topic in our lives lately but it’s one thing thinking about it and another talking about it. Halfway through I (Meg) really wanted to give up and erase this episode. I wish I could speak openly about my cousin's death and the events that have happened after it. I felt like I was doing the whole topic of death injustice by keeping out specific thoughts. There were a lot of pauses filled with thought and silence and those parts were taken out. The rest we kept in to keep this as authentic as the moment really was.

00.45 Transition of Life Of The Lost and the title

03:17 Meg’s nightmare

12:00 Life span

14:53 Thinking about death as a kid

25:39 The episode almost ended right here after self-doubt

27:37 Why death happens? Sam’s explanation

30:49 The light among death

34:00 The will to live

38:14 Habits that cause death

42:28 Sam’s instinct to survive and why

51:11 Embodying the spirit of death to carry a new legacy

______________

We'd love to hear feedback!

Email: supay.life@gmail.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/supay.life/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/supay.life/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/supay_life

Twitch Tuesday's Live: https://m.twitch.tv/uku_pacha/profile

Visit us at https://supay.life/ to support us!


This episode was sponsored by BROWN LAB MEDIA

Website: https://brownlabmedia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brownlab_media/

]]>94f8d5b3-774d-41a2-805f-c59b5af162eeWed, 06 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -040054:36truefull2020Supay19 - Holiday Season Revelations19 - Holiday Season RevelationsAs we grow up we start realizing the hard work behind the holidays. From family plans, upholding traditions and financial planning, the holidays aren’t as care free as they once were.

Holiday memories aren’t always happy and we talk about how we outgrew the holidays and transitioned responsibilities.

In the midst of speaking about a bit of sadness that surrounds holidays we start a conversation about how deep emotions can stop your progression.

This episode includes:

-Why we’ve missed a few weeks of podcasting

-Buying our first Christmas tree & not realizing how expensive it was!

-New roll of traditions

-A glimpse back from Christmas in Peru

-How Sam overcame deep emotions

-Sam brings up a time he really struggled with learning a new skill yet kept the struggle silent & talks about why

-The Inca cross & how it helped Meg get through questioning herself

]]>As we grow up we start realizing the hard work behind the holidays. From family plans, upholding traditions and financial planning, the holidays aren’t as care free as they once were.

Holiday memories aren’t always happy and we talk about how we outgrew the holidays and transitioned responsibilities.

In the midst of speaking about a bit of sadness that surrounds holidays we start a conversation about how deep emotions can stop your progression.

This episode includes:

-Why we’ve missed a few weeks of podcasting

-Buying our first Christmas tree & not realizing how expensive it was!

-New roll of traditions

-A glimpse back from Christmas in Peru

-How Sam overcame deep emotions

-Sam brings up a time he really struggled with learning a new skill yet kept the struggle silent & talks about why

-The Inca cross & how it helped Meg get through questioning herself

]]>fea3be6a-2bcc-4796-8515-c0e28097ce90Mon, 28 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -040049:38truefull1919Supay18 - Downfall of Being TOO Nice18 - Downfall of Being TOO NiceWhat’s it mean to be too nice?

We get ourselves in tricky situations when we’re not honest.

It's hard telling the truth and being honest at all times. We get ourselves into situations that could have easily been avoided if we were upfront in the very beginning. I (Meg) think that stems from not wanting to let anyone down. Growing up, I just wanted to make everyone happy. I was a "fixer" and thought I could fix everyone at all times. I would tell half truths if it meant the other person wouldn't get hurt and in the end it bit me in the butt and to this day it still does from time to time.

We go through real life examples including:

-A time Meg got into a fight with the CEO of her first internship

-When Sam was in a band and had to let his ego go to salvage relationships

-When Meg stood up to someone above her at work and put her career on the line by telling the truth

-At home conflicts and situations that we’re both working on

]]>What’s it mean to be too nice?

We get ourselves in tricky situations when we’re not honest.

It's hard telling the truth and being honest at all times. We get ourselves into situations that could have easily been avoided if we were upfront in the very beginning. I (Meg) think that stems from not wanting to let anyone down. Growing up, I just wanted to make everyone happy. I was a "fixer" and thought I could fix everyone at all times. I would tell half truths if it meant the other person wouldn't get hurt and in the end it bit me in the butt and to this day it still does from time to time.

We go through real life examples including:

-A time Meg got into a fight with the CEO of her first internship

-When Sam was in a band and had to let his ego go to salvage relationships

-When Meg stood up to someone above her at work and put her career on the line by telling the truth

-At home conflicts and situations that we’re both working on

]]>df76769d-7e99-4386-91b0-abf636125371Fri, 27 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -040056:46truefull1818Supay17 - Joseph - From New Jersey to Peru17 - Joseph - From New Jersey to PeruIn This episode we cover:

-An overview of Joseph moving from New Jersey to Peru, to live with his birth family

-The political turmoil that's happening in Peru right now

-Traditions

-Spirituality/Religion

-And a few things in between!

]]>In This episode we cover:

-An overview of Joseph moving from New Jersey to Peru, to live with his birth family

-The political turmoil that's happening in Peru right now

-Traditions

-Spirituality/Religion

-And a few things in between!

]]>0831778e-5b6b-4851-af10-dc5062b9fb7cThu, 19 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -040001:47:05truefull1717Supay16 - Behind the Scenes of Supay16 - Behind the Scenes of SupayBefore the adoption podcast existed, we started Supay, a South American inspired apparel brand. Edwin, the owner of BrownLab Media and The Active Variable, talks with us about the business side of Supay.

We talk about:

-How Supay started

-Why we choose Shopify

-Packaging

-Design development

-OUR NEW T-SHIRT COLLABORATION with The Active Variable

-Edwin’s interests, what drives him forward and how he plans to move forward with both brands

]]>Before the adoption podcast existed, we started Supay, a South American inspired apparel brand. Edwin, the owner of BrownLab Media and The Active Variable, talks with us about the business side of Supay.

We talk about:

-How Supay started

-Why we choose Shopify

-Packaging

-Design development

-OUR NEW T-SHIRT COLLABORATION with The Active Variable

-Edwin’s interests, what drives him forward and how he plans to move forward with both brands

]]>a917dcf2-c9d8-416a-b2b8-9ef2ec63d251Thu, 05 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -040001:32:23falsefull1616Supay15 - Stance on Sending $$$ to Our Birth Families15 - Stance on Sending $$$ to Our Birth FamiliesMeg believes it’s her responsibility to give back to her birth family and Sam thinks the “transaction” was finalized when he was adopted and doesn’t feel obligated.

Can you justify giving money to a family who didn’t financial “support” your upbringing? Does your family only want you for your money? Are you being lied to about where your money is going?

The hardest question is, are you being used? Mixing money and emotions can be tricky and in this episode we go over both sides.

]]>Meg believes it’s her responsibility to give back to her birth family and Sam thinks the “transaction” was finalized when he was adopted and doesn’t feel obligated.

Can you justify giving money to a family who didn’t financial “support” your upbringing? Does your family only want you for your money? Are you being lied to about where your money is going?

The hardest question is, are you being used? Mixing money and emotions can be tricky and in this episode we go over both sides.

]]>3432366b-34d1-423f-b4fb-b5b2d1d83fc1Thu, 29 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -040059:07truefull1515Supay14 - Nicole's Resilient Adoption Narrative14 - Nicole's Resilient Adoption NarrativeOn the same day as our interview, Nicole receives an unexpected phone call from her birth mom. Nicole rallies up the straight to ask her birth mom an important question.

Nicole was raised in a suburb of IL along with her younger brother Joey who was adopted from Guatemala. She opens up about her adolescent years filled with the struggles of various medical conditions and learning disabilities. Nicole has overcome barriers no one should ever have to face. She’s persistent, positive and selflessly gives her energy and time to those who need it most.

We met Nicole on our first journey to Peru! We went with a wonderful group called The Ties Program. (https://www.adoptivefamilytravel.com/) They're dedicated to connecting adoptees to their birth country and went above and beyond with organizing our first trip to Peru. We gained lifelong connections to other adoptees and are forever grateful for everyone we met along the way.

]]>On the same day as our interview, Nicole receives an unexpected phone call from her birth mom. Nicole rallies up the straight to ask her birth mom an important question.

Nicole was raised in a suburb of IL along with her younger brother Joey who was adopted from Guatemala. She opens up about her adolescent years filled with the struggles of various medical conditions and learning disabilities. Nicole has overcome barriers no one should ever have to face. She’s persistent, positive and selflessly gives her energy and time to those who need it most.

We met Nicole on our first journey to Peru! We went with a wonderful group called The Ties Program. (https://www.adoptivefamilytravel.com/) They're dedicated to connecting adoptees to their birth country and went above and beyond with organizing our first trip to Peru. We gained lifelong connections to other adoptees and are forever grateful for everyone we met along the way.

]]>86d34e3e-6944-407d-a2ce-5b07e968c10bThu, 15 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -040002:01:25truefull1414Supay13 - Chill Phil: Peruvian Adoptee Interview13 - Chill Phil: Peruvian Adoptee InterviewWe met Phil in Chicago at a Peruvian reunion about 15 years ago. We’re catching up and listening to his adoption story. From growing up in the suburbs of Philadelphia, going to a private school and being called the “Peru Jew” to how his birth family found him on Facebook, sit back and take it all in!

]]>We met Phil in Chicago at a Peruvian reunion about 15 years ago. We’re catching up and listening to his adoption story. From growing up in the suburbs of Philadelphia, going to a private school and being called the “Peru Jew” to how his birth family found him on Facebook, sit back and take it all in!

]]>a0ac3152-342c-47d5-9094-e6a469779e65Thu, 08 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -040001:33:39falsefull1313Supay12 - Feelin' GUILTY About Feelin' GOOD12 - Feelin' GUILTY About Feelin' GOODGuilt started to build after joining a few ADOPTION SUPPORT groups on social media. The amount of negativity was overwhelming and after a few days of reading posts, Meg posted a blunt yet honest question to the group of 3,000 adoptees. She hit a nerve with other adoptees and in this episode we talk about what happened and why she was left with a bitter taste in her mouth.

This episode was sponsored by: BROWN LAB MEDIA

Website: https://brownlabmedia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brownlab_media/

]]>Guilt started to build after joining a few ADOPTION SUPPORT groups on social media. The amount of negativity was overwhelming and after a few days of reading posts, Meg posted a blunt yet honest question to the group of 3,000 adoptees. She hit a nerve with other adoptees and in this episode we talk about what happened and why she was left with a bitter taste in her mouth.

This episode was sponsored by: BROWN LAB MEDIA

Website: https://brownlabmedia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brownlab_media/

]]>89459b33-3c12-456f-a9f0-028e5874d48bThu, 01 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -040032:39truefull1212Supay11 - Adoptee Impulsive Thoughts11 - Adoptee Impulsive ThoughtsAfter we finished filming the last episode we got into a deep conversation. The thoughts stemmed from a book (Andean Lives: Gregorio Condori Mamani and Asunta Quispe) Meg was reading and the conversation flowed like waves.

We decided to turn the camera and lights back on to film another episode. This episode is my (Sam) favorite! It was the most relaxed conversation we’ve had on camera. We kept a lot of the raw moments in the podcast and you get to hear what a typical conversation sounds like between the both of us.

We talk about:

  • The book and how to feel about Peruvian life in the 1900’s vs now
  • Raising a kid
  • Street smarts vs book smarts
  • Do you really need school?
  • Protecting yourself
  • Prepared vs paranoid
  • Robots taking over

Our thoughts aren't always finished before the other jumps in but we hope you enjoyed our random ideas for the day. :)

]]>After we finished filming the last episode we got into a deep conversation. The thoughts stemmed from a book (Andean Lives: Gregorio Condori Mamani and Asunta Quispe) Meg was reading and the conversation flowed like waves.

We decided to turn the camera and lights back on to film another episode. This episode is my (Sam) favorite! It was the most relaxed conversation we’ve had on camera. We kept a lot of the raw moments in the podcast and you get to hear what a typical conversation sounds like between the both of us.

We talk about:

  • The book and how to feel about Peruvian life in the 1900’s vs now
  • Raising a kid
  • Street smarts vs book smarts
  • Do you really need school?
  • Protecting yourself
  • Prepared vs paranoid
  • Robots taking over

Our thoughts aren't always finished before the other jumps in but we hope you enjoyed our random ideas for the day. :)

]]>68af7c58-21ac-4a19-983f-61c518e1f424Thu, 24 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -040030:33truefull1111Supay10 - Adoptee Commitment Issues10 - Adoptee Commitment IssuesStaying committed has been an ongoing problem with Meg her whole life. It started when she was three at her first dance recital and from there it grew. We dive into other parts of her life its effected and hear Sam's perspective to commitment. He's at the opposite spectrum. Sam learned at a young age what his calling is and has learned how to stay dedicated to the love of his craft.

]]>Staying committed has been an ongoing problem with Meg her whole life. It started when she was three at her first dance recital and from there it grew. We dive into other parts of her life its effected and hear Sam's perspective to commitment. He's at the opposite spectrum. Sam learned at a young age what his calling is and has learned how to stay dedicated to the love of his craft.

]]>6d2beffe-8571-4ff7-a8c2-782fd12f7838Thu, 17 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -040032:34truefull1010Supay09 - Adoptee Q&A09 - Adoptee Q&AQuestions:

Do you have 2 names?

Would you consider adopting?

What advice would you give other adoptees?

What's one thing you'd ask your birth mom?

What do you say to people who feel sorry for you being adopted?

]]>Questions:

Do you have 2 names?

Would you consider adopting?

What advice would you give other adoptees?

What's one thing you'd ask your birth mom?

What do you say to people who feel sorry for you being adopted?

]]>2223a56a-5d48-4777-9a1e-d3a6413837eeFri, 04 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -040017:24truefull99Supay08 - Running away from both (adoptive & birth) families08 - Running away from both (adoptive & birth) familiesAs we venture into being an adult we find ourselves making decisions we never thought we would have to face. Did you have plans for the future and do they match up with what you're doing right now?

Meg never though she'd be in a situation where she decided not choose either her adoptive or birth family. She jumped into the great unknown of NYC but was the sacrifice of not being there for holidays, birthdays & deaths worth it?

]]>As we venture into being an adult we find ourselves making decisions we never thought we would have to face. Did you have plans for the future and do they match up with what you're doing right now?

Meg never though she'd be in a situation where she decided not choose either her adoptive or birth family. She jumped into the great unknown of NYC but was the sacrifice of not being there for holidays, birthdays & deaths worth it?

]]>7fcb79f0-b40b-4f1e-a2a7-5f8274d9d93eThu, 20 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -040030:35truefull88Supay07 - Pros & Cons of being Adopted from Peru07 - Pros & Cons of being Adopted from PeruWhile we're both grateful for being adopted we also acknowledge some of the negative ideologies and problems that come with being adopted from a South American country.

]]>While we're both grateful for being adopted we also acknowledge some of the negative ideologies and problems that come with being adopted from a South American country.

]]>7a8a0e16-29ca-450d-9b3b-d43205558cd8Thu, 13 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -040022:34truefull77Supay06 - Made in Manhattan06 - Made in ManhattanSam grew up under the bright lights of NYC. What was his average Saturday like when he was 13? Where did he hang out, who was he with and WHY did he eat a McDonald's 40 piece chicken nuggets daily? He shares young teenage memories and attributes a lot of great friendships and experiences to the UWS of Manhattan.

]]>Sam grew up under the bright lights of NYC. What was his average Saturday like when he was 13? Where did he hang out, who was he with and WHY did he eat a McDonald's 40 piece chicken nuggets daily? He shares young teenage memories and attributes a lot of great friendships and experiences to the UWS of Manhattan.

]]>c2a18b40-86e1-46cb-8b8d-0fe374ddd457Thu, 06 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -040024:42truefull66Supay05 - Are we RACIST to our own kind?05 - Are we RACIST to our own kind?How would you feel if people who looked just like you often tormented you for being yourself?

The topic of perception was really challenging for us to talk about. Our thoughts aren't final as we're constantly growing and learning. We open the floor for anyone who wants to dive into this subject deeper - maybe you share similar to opposite feelings or you don’t understand it at all.

We'd love to hear feedback.

Email: supay.life@gmail.com

IG: instagram.com/supay.life

FB: facebook.com/supay.life

TW: twitter.com/supay_life

]]>How would you feel if people who looked just like you often tormented you for being yourself?

The topic of perception was really challenging for us to talk about. Our thoughts aren't final as we're constantly growing and learning. We open the floor for anyone who wants to dive into this subject deeper - maybe you share similar to opposite feelings or you don’t understand it at all.

We'd love to hear feedback.

Email: supay.life@gmail.com

IG: instagram.com/supay.life

FB: facebook.com/supay.life

TW: twitter.com/supay_life

]]>1320ca65-42ac-4046-93af-662aa59b1c46Thu, 30 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -040022:21falsefull55Supay04 - Dive into Sam's Mind04 - Dive into Sam's Mind2 days before we sat down to record this episode Sam went through his adoption papers for the first time. He always knew he had them but didn't think it would bring him any more clarity. We walk through his initial feelings and thoughts after reading the papers (with his adoptive mom), it leads to a lot of fond/rough childhood memories and we start linking his passions to adoption as he continues to "prove himself".

]]>2 days before we sat down to record this episode Sam went through his adoption papers for the first time. He always knew he had them but didn't think it would bring him any more clarity. We walk through his initial feelings and thoughts after reading the papers (with his adoptive mom), it leads to a lot of fond/rough childhood memories and we start linking his passions to adoption as he continues to "prove himself".

]]>a247c31a-d2ff-4399-9999-1eac7a7a03a3Thu, 23 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -040031:53truefull44Supay03 - Meg Meets Her Birth Parents03 - Meg Meets Her Birth ParentsWhile we unravel Meg's thoughts of what adoption means to her she sneaks in a few stories of the first time she met her birth parents.

We start from the beginning and dive into what she truly hopes to find through this adoption journey and if the search will ever come to an end.

]]>While we unravel Meg's thoughts of what adoption means to her she sneaks in a few stories of the first time she met her birth parents.

We start from the beginning and dive into what she truly hopes to find through this adoption journey and if the search will ever come to an end.

]]>747cf3d9-c4e5-4497-94fd-658cc65b82b7Thu, 16 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -040034:58falsefull33Supay02 - Our Differences02 - Our DifferencesWe were both born in Peru but one of us was raised in the suburbs of Minnesota and the other in Manhattan New York. (can you tell by how we talk?) Our differences shape how we communicate and sometimes we have conflicting thoughts when it comes to Supay.

]]>We were both born in Peru but one of us was raised in the suburbs of Minnesota and the other in Manhattan New York. (can you tell by how we talk?) Our differences shape how we communicate and sometimes we have conflicting thoughts when it comes to Supay.

]]>cb0374e6-66c6-4397-9588-a23814672525Fri, 10 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -040022:20truefull22Supay01 - Roots01 - RootsWalking you through a brief history of Supay (our apparel line), our adoption, and where we hope to bring this podcast.

]]>Walking you through a brief history of Supay (our apparel line), our adoption, and where we hope to bring this podcast.

]]>28634075-0df1-4f1a-998b-70a47b42aacdTue, 07 Jul 2020 09:30:00 -040003:58truetrailer11Supay