Maybe you still love your partner… but sex feels heavy, pressured, awkward, or emotionally draining. You want to want it — but instead you find yourself avoiding initiation, feeling disconnected, or wondering why intimacy feels so different than it used to.

In this episode, Heather talks with sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet about the emotional patterns that quietly turn passionate relationships into roommate dynamics — including resentment, emotional disconnection, unresolved conflict, and feeling emotionally unsafe with your partner.

They also discuss:

• Why couples stop wanting sex over time
• The emotional roots of sexless marriages
• Why unresolved resentment kills intimacy
• How emotional safety impacts desire
• Why many couples feel lonely even when they “never fight”
• The hidden patterns underneath low desire
• Why sex can start feeling like another chore
• How couples rebuild emotional and sexual connection

Xanet also shares her personal story of surviving a 26-year sexless marriage, healing sexual shame and vaginismus, and eventually becoming a sex and intimacy coach helping couples reconnect emotionally and physically.

If you’ve been feeling emotionally disconnected, stuck in resentment, or struggling to understand why attraction has faded in your relationship, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening underneath the surface.

🎧 Listen now to understand why sex changes in long-term relationships — and what actually helps couples feel close again.

In this episode, I’m joined by relationship and intimacy coach Monica Tanner to unpack the hidden dynamics behind desire discrepancy. We dive into why couples get stuck in cycles of pressure and rejection, how small disappointments turn into long-term resentment, and what both partners may be doing (without realizing it) to keep the pattern going.

If you’ve ever felt like:

• Your partner “should” want sex more
• You’re constantly navigating pressure or rejection
• Emotional connection isn’t translating into a better sex life

…this episode will help you understand why—and what to do differently.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why desire discrepancy is really a relationship dynamic (not just a libido issue)
• How “building a case” against your partner destroys intimacy
• The hidden ways higher desire partners create pressure
• Why emotional intimacy alone doesn’t fix sex
• How to expand your definition of sex and reduce pressure
• The role of childhood conditioning in your sex life

Guest Resources Mentioned:

• Monica Tanner’s book: Bad Marriage Advice
• Monica Tanner's website: https://www.monicatanner.com/

❤️ Ready to improve your sex life?

Take my free quiz to discover what’s really blocking intimacy in your relationship:

👉 https://TheBetterBedroom.com

Or, if you’re ready for personalized support, book a free consultation:

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You’re not alone.

For many couples, conversations about non-monogamy or open relationships quickly become overwhelming. One partner may feel excited and ready to explore, while the other feels hesitant, worried, or emotionally unsafe.

In this episode, I break down why that happens—and how to approach non-monogamy in a way that actually supports your relationship instead of destabilizing it.

Because the truth is:

👉 Non-monogamy isn’t the problem.

👉 The issue is how couples navigate it—especially when emotional safety isn’t fully established.

🔑 What You’ll Learn

• Why non-monogamy often feels unsafe early on (even when both people are open to it)
• The #1 mistake couples make: moving too fast—in conversations or actions
• How non-monogamy can quietly become one-sided (and lead to resentment)
• Why staying surface-level in communication creates more insecurity
• What it actually takes to build emotional safety in open relationships
• Why even doing everything “right” won’t make the process perfect—and what to expect instead

❤️ Who This Episode Is For

This episode is especially helpful if:

• You’re just starting to discuss non-monogamy
• One of you is excited—and the other is unsure
• You’ve tried opening things up and it didn’t go well
• You want to explore ethically without damaging trust
• You’re navigating differences in sexual desire, curiosity, or identity

🧭 Free Resource

Want help figuring out what non-monogamy could actually look like for you?

Download my Quick Start Guide to Non-Monogamy Options—a practical overview of different relationship structures and ways to explore safely:

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💬 Work With Me

If you want support navigating this with your partner—especially if things feel tense, confusing, or emotionally loaded—I can help.

I specialize in helping couples work through: navigating non-monogamy, kink differences, and mismatched libidos.

👉 Book a consultation here:

https://HeatherShannon.co

🔗 Keywords

non-monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, how to open a relationship, non-monogamous relationship advice, relationship communication, emotional safety in relationships, polyamory, swinging, sexual compatibility, couples therapy, intimacy coaching

But what if, in some cases, it can actually save them?

In this episode, I’m talking with a non-monogamy expert about a perspective that challenges everything most couples have been taught about love, sex, and commitment.

We explore how Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) can sometimes be a more honest and sustainable way to navigate real relationship challenges—especially when it comes to mismatched libidos, unmet needs, and resentment.

This isn’t about telling you to open your relationship.

It’s about helping you think more clearly about:

• What you actually need
• What your partner can realistically provide
• And what options exist beyond the default model of monogamy

We also get into:

• Why expecting one person to meet all your needs can create pressure and disconnection
• How resentment builds when sexual needs go unmet
• The difference between choosing monogamy vs defaulting into it
• How people navigate open relationships, polyamory, and other forms of non-monogamy
• The role of honesty, communication, and emotional security in polyamorous relationships
• Why some couples explore swinging, swingers communities, or other forms of shared sexual experiences
• The emotional realities (not just the fantasy) of ethical non-monogamy

We also talk about the different roles partners can play—and why one person often can’t be everything for you over time.

Whether you’re firmly monogamous, curious about ENM, or somewhere in between, this episode will give you a new lens on relationships, desire, and what it actually means to get your needs met.

🔗 Links & Resources

Take the quiz: Discover what’s really causing your intimacy issues

👉 https://TheBetterBedroom.com

Request a consultation for Heather's Pathway To Passion Coaching Program

👉 https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite

Learn more about our guest Cidney Green and buy her new book All 3 Of Me

👉 https://www.all3inme.com/

In this episode, we break down the 3 biggest mistakes couples make when sharing sexual fantasies—and why these patterns often lead to pressure, resentment, or emotional disconnection instead of closeness.

If you’ve ever struggled with how to talk about sex, navigate kinks or fantasies, or handle differences in desire, this episode will give you a clear framework for doing it in a way that builds trust, emotional safety, and a more satisfying sex life

What You’ll LearnHow shame around sexual fantasies creates distance in relationships

Why avoiding conversations about sex limits intimacy and connection

The hidden risk of pushing a fantasy too quickly after sharing it

How pressure and urgency can lead to coercion (even unintentionally)

Why your partner’s reaction is shaped by conditioning—not you

The truth about being “sex-positive” without abandoning your boundaries

How to handle mismatched sexual interests in a healthy way

• Ways to explore fantasies without being 100% sexually compatible

Key Takeaways

• Open communication about sex is essential for long-term intimacy
• Fantasies require consent, pacing, and emotional safety
• Shame, pressure, and people-pleasing are the biggest intimacy killers
• You can accept your partner’s desires without participating in everything
• Great sex lives aren’t about perfect compatibility—they’re about how you navigate differences together

Chapters

0:00 Introduction to the topic of sharing sexual fantasies and the common issues couples face.

1:05 Introduction to the three biggest mistakes couples make.

2:02 Mistake #1

3:23 Importance of openness and being sex-positive.

4:19 Benefits of discussing sex more frequently.

5:16 Normalizing conversations about sex.

6:34 Importance of consent and communication in sexual relationships.

7:31 Variety and novelty in long-term relationships.

8:28 Understanding each other fully through sharing fantasies.

9:27 Mistake #2

12:04 Mistake #3

16:03 Encouragement to maintain personal boundaries.

21:32 Exploring fantasies in a healthy way.

22:52 Conclusion and encouragement to seek help if needed.

Resources & Next Steps

If you’re noticing patterns like holding back, pushing too fast, or going along with things that don’t feel right, that’s exactly what I help couples work through.

👉 Take the quiz to discover your relationship pattern and what’s really driving your sexual disconnect:

https://TheBetterBedroom.com

👉 Want personalized support? Apply for a free consultation for my Pathway to Passion coaching program:

https://HeatherShannon.co

And sometimes, you walk away wondering why it didn’t feel as good as you hoped—or even feeling shame or guilt.

In this episode, I’m joined by sex therapist and Certified IFS Therapist, Patricia Rich, to unpack what’s really going on beneath that experience.

Because it’s not just about libido.

And it’s not something you can fix by trying harder or “being more confident.”

We’re diving into how different “parts” of you can take over during sex—pulling you out of the moment, creating tension, and leaving you feeling disconnected from your own desire.

Once you understand this, everything starts to make a lot more sense.

💡 What You’ll Learn

• Why anxiety shows up during sex (even when you genuinely want it)
• How “parts” of you can override your desire and create inner conflict
• The difference between being present vs. going on autopilot during sex
• Why you might feel regret or disconnection afterward
• A simple way to start reconnecting with yourself in the moment

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to IFS and Sex Therapy

02:45 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS)

05:34 Exploring Parts in Sexuality

08:27 Vulnerability and Intimacy in Relationships

11:22 Self-Led Sexuality and Awareness

14:12 Curiosity and Differentiating Parts

17:05 Practical Application of IFS in Sexuality

23:21 Exploring Vulnerability and Playfulness

25:41 Navigating Safety and Judgment in Relationships

28:07 Understanding Parts and Their Needs

32:13 The Complexity of Human Emotions

36:28 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships

41:06 The Goldilocks Approach to Therapy

44:58 Training and Resources for IFS in Sexuality

👩‍⚕️ About the Guest

Patricia Rich is a sex therapist and certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist and consultant. She specializes in helping people understand their inner world so they can experience more connection, clarity, and ease in their relationships and sex lives.

🔗 Learn more about Patricia’s work:

https://patriciarich.com (update if needed based on exact link you prefer)

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🎧 Loved This Episode?

Make sure you’re following the show so you don’t miss future episodes on emotional intimacy, desire, and building a better sex life in your relationship.

Figure out your sexual self so you can communicate better with your partner and experience more pleasure together.

In this episode:

• Discover how understanding your current patterns can open doors to new experiences
• Learn why stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to deeper connections
• Find out how curiosity can be your best friend in exploring desires
• Get practical tips for trying new things without any pressure
• Hear stories about how surprises can lead to delightful discoveries
• Create and share your own "treasure map" of interests with your partner
• Embrace lifelong learning and celebrate your evolving relationship
• Navigate fears with kindness and authenticity

Timestamps:

00:00 - Breaking free from routines and finding joy in the bedroom

02:14 - How comfort zones can be cozy yet limiting

03:37 - Recognizing patterns and opening up to new possibilities

05:02 - Keeping the conversation alive about what you truly desire

06:25 - Letting curiosity guide you past limiting beliefs

07:55 - Personal stories of growth and learning at any age

10:01 - Fun ways to categorize and explore your pleasures

11:27 - Crafting your own "pleasure menu" to savor life

12:23 - How desires change and grow over time

14:15 - Exploring safely and authentically, with a gentle touch

15:42 - Embracing surprises as clues to what lights you up

17:37 - Turning insights into shared moments of joy

19:03 - Keeping a "treasure map" of your evolving desires

21:13 - Understanding and celebrating your partner's journey too

22:38 - Remembering there's no "right" way—just your way

23:07 - Final thoughts: Celebrating sexuality as a lifelong adventure

Resources & Links:

Request a free consult for Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching program: https://HeatherShannon.co

Sexual Exploraion Scorecard (Free Download)

Take the Why You're Stuck In A Sex Rut quiz! https://TheBetterBedroom.com

For a lot of women, this curiosity brings a mix of excitement, confusion, and uncertainty. You might wonder what it means, whether it’s worth exploring, or how to even begin without creating problems in your current relationship.

In this episode, I’m joined by Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club—a global community for bicurious and bisexual women—to talk about what this experience is actually like in real life.

We get into the most common obstacles women face when exploring attraction to other women, why this can feel so hard to navigate, and what helps women feel safe enough to be honest with themselves and try something new.

We also talk about:

1. Why so many women discover this curiosity later in life
2. The difference between performance and genuine desire
3. What makes exploration feel safe (and what doesn’t)
4. How women navigate this while staying in a relationship with a man
5. What it’s actually like to connect with another woman for the first time

This is a grounded, real conversation about curiosity, identity, and creating space for parts of yourself that may have been pushed aside.

Chapters

00:00 -Overview of the community for bicurious women.

01:30 - Genevieve LeJeune's journey from personal experience to creating a global movement.

02:14 - The importance of removing men to foster genuine expression.

04:27 - Tips and advice for women beginning their journey.

13:50 -Navigating monogamy and non-monogamy in women's exploration.

16:42 -How diverse age ranges influence openness to exploring sexuality.

19:42 - Workshops and resources for building sexual confidence.

22:17 - The impact of media portrayal on perceptions and expectations.

33:30 - The role of shared vulnerability in healing and confidence.

41:00 - Encouragement to explore sexuality with courage and authenticity.

Links

Check out Skirt Club: https://skirtclub.co.uk/

Schedule a free consult with Heather for the Pathway to Passion coaching program: Unlock Your Passion - Consultation Call https://HeatherShannon.co

Take the Why You're Stuck In A Sex Rut quiz: https://TheBetterBedroom.com

Feeling sexually desired is one of the most powerful emotional experiences in a relationship. It boosts confidence, deepens connection, and brings energy into your partnership.

But many people in long-term relationships quietly struggle with the opposite feeling: “My partner loves me… but I don’t feel wanted.”

In this episode of Sex for Couples, certified sex therapist and intimacy coach Heather Shannon explains why feeling desired can be more complicated than it seems. Even when your partner appreciates you and cares deeply about the relationship, subtle psychological patterns can block you from actually feeling their attraction.

Heather breaks down three common reasons people stop feeling sexually desired by their partner, and how shifting your perspective can dramatically change how you experience attraction, connection, and intimacy.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

1. Why feeling desired is partly an internal experience, not just something your partner creates
2. How an external locus of control can unintentionally make you feel rejected or unwanted
3. The subtle ways your partner may already be choosing you and expressing attraction that you might be missing
4. How old beliefs about worthiness or attractiveness can block you from receiving desire
5. Why couples often experience “mixed signals” around attraction even when both partners care deeply
6. How body image, stress, and life transitions (like parenting or aging) can impact your ability to feel wanted
7. Practical ways to start receiving your partner’s desire instead of dismissing it

Want Help Improving Your Sex Life?

If you’re struggling with mismatched libidos, emotional disconnect, or feeling unwanted in your relationship, Heather works with couples and individuals to address the deeper psychological patterns behind intimacy issues.

Learn more about her Pathway to Passion coaching program and request a free consultation at:

👉 https://heathershannon.co

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Hosted by Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon, we'll cover:

1. Why viewing time for sex as a luxury hinders intimacy and how to reframe it
2. The myth that life must calm down before prioritizing sex, and what to do instead
3. The connection between stress, attachment styles, and sexual availability
4. How to reallocate priorities using the big rocks theory for a balanced life
5. The importance of understanding your unique desire patterns (spontaneous vs. responsive)
6. The benefits of fun, relaxation, and play for sustaining a healthy sex life

Timestamps:

00:00 - Common myths about being too busy for sex and what they cost

02:11 - The illusion that sex should just happen naturally in a relationship

03:35 - Understanding hormonal changes and setting realistic expectations

04:05 - Spontaneous vs. responsive desire — what it means for you

05:00 - How daily routines impact sexual desire and intentional connection

06:26 - Practical ways to foster flirtation and intimacy during busy days

07:50 - Why couples need to nurture their erotic connection actively

08:45 - Rethinking time for sex as a luxury and its physical and mental health benefits

10:02 - The damaging myth that life needs to calm down first

11:45 - How stress and perfectionism sabotage intimacy

12:15 - Fun, relaxation, and pleasure as productivity boosters

13:14 - The importance of valuing and protecting your sexual connection

14:09 - Recognizing when busyness conceals avoidance of intimacy

15:04 - The reality that life won't slow down, and how to adapt

16:29 - Using the big rocks analogy to prioritize what truly matters

17:57 - Managing your schedule to prevent burnout and create space for intimacy

19:23 - How energy, mindset, and self-care enhance desire

20:50 - The question to ask: Do I want or make time for sex?

21:46 - Exploring attachment styles and their influence on busyness and intimacy

22:15 - The danger of waiting for a "better" time that never comes

22:45 - How nurturing your sexual connection boosts energy, calmness, and bond

23:39 - Tools like the Why You're Stuck in a Sex Rut quiz to gain clarity Resources & Links:

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Cuckolding is one of the more common fantasies people have — but integrating it into a real relationship requires emotional steadiness, communication, and clarity.

In this episode of Sex for Couples, we break down:

• The difference between hotwife, stag/vixen, and cuckolding dynamics

• Why taboo fantasies are often tied to insecurity and power

• How to reclaim shame instead of being driven by it

• How to talk to your partner about your cuckolding kink without pressure

• What healthy integration can actually look like inside a committed relationship

This is not about shock value.

It’s about reducing stress around sex and creating more honesty and more fun in your relationship.

If you’re trying to figure out how to navigate a cuckolding kink with your partner in a grounded, emotionally mature way — this episode is for you.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Cuckolding in Relationships

01:31 Understanding Cuckolding: Definitions and Dynamics

09:01 Getting Comfortable with Your Kink

15:21 Bringing It Up with Your Partner

23:09 Exploring Options and Variations

Work With Heather

Learn more about working with me inside my 6-month coaching program here:

https://HeatherShannon.co

More connection. Less stress. More fun in the bedroom.

Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon, explores the patterns and emotional dynamics behind rejection in relationships, especially when one partner has a higher sex drive. In this episode, we'll break down common behaviors like withdrawal, performance, and story-telling, offering insights into how to shift these patterns for healthier intimacy.

Chapters

00:00 The Rejection Loop in Relationships

00:29 Why Rejection Isn't About Attraction

00:56 Understanding the Pattern of Withdrawal

02:17 The Impact of Withdrawal on Emotional Needs

03:08 Attachment to Outcomes and Anxiety

03:54 Introducing Self-Energy and Spaciousness

05:15 Performance and Doing Sex for Your Partner

07:00 Authentic Desire vs. Performing Sex

08:18 The Power of Honest Communication

09:32 Managing Pressure and Expectations

11:37 The Stories We Tell About Rejection

12:52 Facts vs. Stories in Relationships

14:35 Relating to Thoughts and Stories

15:28 Protective and Exiled Parts in Emotional Regulation

17:11 Living at the Mercy of External Factors

17:37 Achieving Emotional Equanimity

18:26 Creating Space for Authentic Desire

19:20 Personalized Healing and Emotional Management

Work with Heather

Find out more about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching program and see if it can help you stop stressing about sex and start having fun in the bedroom again! https://HeatherShannon.co

Keywords

relationship advice, sex drive, emotional mastery, attachment, communication, Heather Shannon, intimacy, relationship patterns, self-energy, emotional regulation

You’ll learn how hormone testing can be interpreted when timing is right, why blood levels don’t always match what’s happening in your tissues, and how chronic stress can quietly deplete DHEA and testosterone (even in your 30s and 40s). Dr. Scott also breaks down practical, realistic ways to support hormone health—movement, food quality, sleep, stress tools, and reducing endocrine disruptors—without trying to overhaul your entire life overnight. If you’re dealing with low libido, vaginal dryness, painful sex, fatigue, sleep changes, or irritability, this conversation will help you understand what’s normal, what’s treatable, and how to advocate for better care.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Hormonal Health

01:22 Understanding Hormonal Shifts Throughout Life

03:41 Differences in Male and Female Libido

14:00 Personalizing Hormonal Treatment

28:46 The Impact of Lifestyle on Hormonal Balance

Want to address the emotional and psychological factors blocking your sex life?

Request a free consultation for coaching/therapy with Heather or a member of her team here: Booking A Consultation With The Right Person

Learn more about our guest Dr. Tara Scott at:

Website - https://drtarascott.com/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@TaraScottMD

Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon explores the complexities of sexual awkwardness and the pressures that come with performance in intimate relationships. She discusses the importance of shifting from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset regarding sexuality, emphasizing the need to connect with one's body rather than living in one's head. Heather also delves into the protective parts and wounds that can hinder sexual expression and the judgment that often accompanies feelings of inadequacy. The episode concludes with an announcement about the podcast's rebranding to 'Sex for Couples', aimed at helping individuals in committed relationships navigate their sexual lives with confidence and joy.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Awkwardness in Sexuality

02:38 The Pressure of Performance in Sex

05:17 Mindset Matters: Fixed vs. Growth

07:55 Living in Your Head vs. Your Body

10:55 The Impact of Past Experiences

19:06 Judgment and Authenticity in Sexuality

20:50 Podcast Transition: New Name and Focus

Curious about working with Heather or someone from her team?

Book A Free Consultation

Keywords

sexuality, sexual energy, performance anxiety, self-acceptance, growth mindset, intimacy, relationships, sexual confidence, body awareness, emotional healing

They explore why so many couples assume that low libido, painful sex, or loss of desire is just “part of getting older” — and why that belief is often what actually harms a sex life the most.

From menopause and perimenopause to body image, shame, communication, and emotional intimacy, this episode reframes sex after 50 as something that can be playful, connected, and deeply satisfying.

You’ll hear practical insights about:

1. Why sex drive changes with age — and why that doesn’t mean sex is over
2. How menopause, hormones, and vaginal health affect desire and pleasure
3. Why mental foreplay, laughter, and connection matter more than performance
4. How to talk about sex with a partner when it feels awkward or intimidating
5. Letting go of obligatory sex and rebuilding pleasure without pressure
6. Why kissing, novelty, and communication are essential for long-term intimacy

This conversation is especially helpful for:

1. People navigating midlife, perimenopause, or menopause
2. Couples wondering how to keep sex fun and connected after 50
3. Anyone struggling with desire discrepancy, body confidence, or sexual shame
4. People curious about sex and aging
5. Partners who want to better support each other through aging and change

If you’ve ever wondered whether great sex is still possible later in life, this episode offers reassurance, science-backed insight, and permission to stop forcing what doesn’t work — and start enjoying what does.

Find out more about Karen Bigman, her podcast, courses and ARYA discount at: https://www.taboototruth.com/podcast

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sex and Aging

04:03 Debunking Myths About Sex After 50

08:33 The Role of Hormones in Sexual Health

11:56 The Importance of Self-Compassion

14:21 Body Image and Self-Perception

17:16 Common Struggles in Sexuality After 50

21:13 The Necessity of Sex for Health

22:54 Dating and Communication in Later Life

23:33 Navigating Aging and Intimacy

24:28 Emotional Intimacy and Communication

25:48 The Art of Kissing

27:21 Exploring Playfulness in Relationships

28:32 Mental Foreplay and Connection

29:00 Kissing Techniques for Better Connection

31:17 Addressing Kissing Preferences

32:50 Overcoming Communication Barriers

34:29 Small Steps to Enhance Intimacy

36:00 The Importance of Novelty in Relationships

37:28 Quality Over Quantity in Sexual Relationships

39:12 Resources for Enhancing Intimacy

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Sexual Assumptions

05:40 The Impact of Past Experiences on Present Relationships

10:46 Mindset and Its Role in Sexual Communication

14:34 Navigating Assumptions in Long-Term Relationships

20:40 The Importance of Curiosity in Intimacy

Work With Heather

Want to get out of your sex rut? Request a free consultation for Heather's signature Pathway to Passion coaching program. Unlock Your Passion - Consultation Call

Video Version

Check out the video version of this epsiode on our YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/hyyz4ZyY65A

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Summary

In this conversation, Heather Shannon and Laura Alyn explore the journey of self-discovery in sexuality through self-inquiry and writing. Laura shares insights from her book, 'A Thousand Questions and Activities to Embrace Your Sexuality,' discussing the importance of understanding one's desires, the role of writing in processing thoughts, and the significance of open communication in relationships. They delve into the connection between body and mind, the exploration of kinks, and the necessity of creating a safe space for sexual expression. The discussion emphasizes the ongoing nature of personal growth and the importance of embracing one's sexuality without shame.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sexual Self-Discovery

02:47 The Journey of Self-Inquiry

05:44 The Importance of Writing in Self-Discovery

08:48 Exploring Sexual Questions and Preferences

11:05 Diving Deeper into Kinks and Desires

13:46 Understanding Safety in Sexual Exploration

17:40 Connecting the Layers of Self

18:59 The Body-Mind Connection in Sexual Desire

20:31 Overriding Body Signals and Hustle Culture

21:37 Self-Inquiry and Personal Growth

22:28 The Ornelian Framework: A Path to Self-Discovery

23:55 Understanding Soul and Spirit in Intimacy

25:33 Navigating the Anxiety of Self-Inquiry

28:50 Complaints as Indicators of Deeper Desires

31:31 Responsibility in Relationships

32:40 Exploring Intimacy and Connection

34:34 Embracing Adventure in Sexual Exploration

Visit Laura Alyn's website and check out her framework here: https://theornelian.com/2025/08/27/framework/

Video Episode

Check out the video version of this episode on our YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/GbUngjPy1nQ

Keywords

sexuality, self-inquiry, communication, desire, intimacy, kinks, writing, personal growth, relationships, self-discovery

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Episode Summary

Heather discusses the 5 common emotional mistakes that can negatively impact a couple's sex life. She emphasizes the importance of understanding emotional dynamics rather than focusing solely on physical aspects of intimacy. The conversation covers common pitfalls such as taking a partner's lack of desire personally, moralizing around sex, recognizing emotional wounds, and the expectations surrounding sex in relationships. Heather encourages couples to foster empathy, curiosity, and open communication to enhance their emotional and sexual connection.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Emotional Mistakes in Sex Life

02:05 Taking Desire Personally: A Common Misconception

05:35 Blaming and Moralizing: The Impact on Relationships

10:46 Lack of Empathy for Sexual Wounds

15:11 Expecting Sex as an Obligation

20:35 The Honeymoon Phase: Unmasking Real Issues

Keywords

emotional mistakes, sex life, relationship advice, intimacy, sexual desire, communication, emotional wounds, libido, sexual health, couples therapy

In this episode, Heather Shannon and Doc Yu Roc (Dr. Yulinda Rahman) explore the therapeutic use of BDSM, discussing how trauma is stored in the body and the importance of intersectionality in healing. They delve into the power dynamics present in everyday life and how understanding these can aid in personal growth. Doc Yu Roc shares insights on the Kink Professional Standards Alliance and the therapeutic potential of kink, emphasizing the need for intentionality and awareness in BDSM practices. Heather and Yulinda also discuss the importance of knowing and expressing your personal boundaries for feeling safe in your body and having positive kink experiences.

Find Out More About Dr. Rahman (DocYuRoc) and her programs!

General Website: https://docyuroc.org/

Ecosystem Of Excellence: https://ecosystemofexcellence.org/

Chapters

0:00 Intro

2:53 Therapeutic Use Of BDSM

6:03 Understanding Body Based Trauma

9:02 Reconnecting With The Body

12:00 Exploring Kink & Sensation

15:03 Therapeutic Benefits

18:02 Healing Through Touch And Sensation

21:54 Understanding Power Dynamics

25:22 The Importance Of Awareness In Power Dynamics

28:39 Exploring Intersectionality

31:59 A New Approach To Healing

38:56 Resources For Learning More

View the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/avOmaFbntg0

Keywords

BDSM, trauma, intersectionality, power dynamics, therapeutic kink, King Professional Standards Alliance, healing, intentionality, awareness, body-based trauma

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and host Heather Shannon speaks with Naturopathic Doctor Jordin Wiggins about the challenges faced by high achieving women in their intimate relationships. In particular, Jordin share how women's "supertraits" can lead to burnout and hinder their ability to connect emotionally. The discussion covers the importance of understanding emotional needs, setting boundaries, and recognizing coercive control in relationships. Jordin emphasizes the need for self-care and the prioritization of pleasure in both personal and sexual life, offering insights into how women can learn to receive and create fulfilling relationships.

Find out more about Dr. Jordin Wiggins and her work with Supertraits here: https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/education

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to High Achieving Women and Pleasure

02:34 Understanding Burnout and the Pleasure Problem

05:27 Super Traits and Their Impact on Relationships

08:08 The Connection Between Childhood and Adult Relationships

10:43 Navigating Boundaries and Emotional Safety

13:27 The Role of Sensitivity and Empathy

16:05 The Importance of Emotional Needs in Relationships

18:42 The Messy Middle of Change

21:15 Learning to Receive and Shift Dynamics

23:37 Creating a Pleasure-Centered Life

31:44 Navigating Life's Pleasures and Challenges

33:38 The Cultural Disconnect from Pleasure

35:46 The Shift Towards a Pleasure-Centered Life

37:42 Understanding Power Dynamics in Relationships

39:55 The Impact of Coercive Control

45:54 Transforming Sexual Relationships

53:44 Finding Support and Resources

58:32 Embracing Change and Vulnerability

Check out the video version of this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/bWUnwluNffI

Keywords

pleasure, high achieving women, super traits, burnout, intimacy, relationships, emotional needs, coercive control, self-care, sexual health

In this episode, Heather introduces Kristin Vyas, a sex and intimacy coach who has joined the Ask A Sex Therapist team. Kristen shares the top sex issues she sees with clients including erectile dysfunction, mismatched libidos and shame around kinks. Heather and Kristen discuss the impact of societal pressures on masculinity. They talk about the importance of open communication about kinks and desires, the role of anxiety in sexual performance, and the necessity of ongoing sex education. The conversation emphasizes the importance of viewing yourself and your partner as a whole person. Learn why curiosity and understanding in relationships can be your secret weapon to a great sex life and start redefining sexual experiences beyond traditional norms.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction of Kristin Vyas

01:00 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction

02:41 Redefining Pleasure and Connection

05:47 The Role of Anxiety in Sexual Performance

06:51 The Power of Thoughts in Sexual Experiences

09:18 The Impact of Adult Content on Sexual Expectations

11:56 The Importance of Ongoing Sex Education

15:28 Exploring Kinks and Shame

19:04 The Need for Acceptance in Kink

20:38 Common Kinks and Societal Pressures

23:02 The Pressure on Men in Sexual Relationships

26:11 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Labels

27:38 The Evolution of Sex Education

29:47 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

32:50 Understanding Boundaries and Safety

35:56 Navigating Kinks and Preferences

41:13 The Complexity of Desire

45:53 Rediscovering Core Desires

48:34 Curiosity and Empathy in Relationships

Keywords

erectile dysfunction, sex therapy, intimacy coaching, sexual health, kink, communication, consent, masculinity, sexual desire, sex education

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy

02:38 Common Fears and Misconceptions

05:26 Understanding Different Types of Non-Monogamy

07:53 Timing and Relationship Readiness

10:46 Setting Boundaries and Parameters

13:31 Navigating Jealousy and Compersion

15:46 The Emotional Work of Non-Monogamy

18:38 Exploring Sexuality and Identity

21:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Keywords

ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, boundaries, compersion, relationship advice, sexuality, emotional work, communication

Certified Sex Therapist & Host, Heather Shannon, interviews guest Bria Rose about her journey from working at Disney to becoming a successful author of dark, sexy fairy tales. She discusses the importance of exploring fantasies through fiction, and her personal journey towards sex positivity. Bria emphasizes the significance of communication in relationships and the need for sexual compatibility. She also shares insights on character creation, overcoming writer's block, and the role of inspiration in sexy writing. The conversation concludes with Bria's advice on navigating relationships and where to find her work.

Chapters

00:00 From Disney to Dark Fairy Tales

02:42 Exploring Morality in Storytelling

05:32 The Role of Fantasy in Healing

08:30 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth

10:30 Character Development in Dark Romance

13:20 Reimagining Classic Tales As Dark, Sexy Ones

16:14 Feminism and Modern Storytelling

21:53 Exploring Character Dynamics in Fiction

25:30 Generating Sexy Ideas and Finding Inspiration

28:25 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

34:10 Navigating Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics

38:34 Creating Characters and Their Therapeutic Journeys

Keywords

Bria Rose, dark fairy tales, Disney fan fiction, storytelling, morality, erotic novels, sex positivity, character creation, relationships, communication, romance novels, romantasy, sexy books, dark sexual fantasies, sex and healing

One of the most common things we all want in our sex lives is feeling wanted. And yet it can be elusive! Even when we have mutual physical attraction with our partner, it doesn't always spark sexual desire.

Listen in to learn why feeling wanted is important to us, how we feel affected when we don't feel desired and a few things we can do for our partner and for ourselves to turn up the volume on sexual desire.

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Keywords

belonging, connection, attraction, desire, specialness, relationships, emotional needs, human connection, self-worth, intimacy

Check out the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/V98D5jC5_Yo

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Learn more about Inna Segal's books and programs at: https://www.innasegal.com/

Chapters

0:00 - About the episode

1:37 - Inna Segal (guest)

9:21 - The importance of feminine energy

14:51 - The importance of sexuality related to age

20:36 - How to have a good sex life with your partner

24:44 - Color as a way to explore your feminine energy

32:16 - Teaching the feminine love

40:16 - Reconnecting with feminine energy after a breakup or divorce

51:21 - Ways to embrace the feminine

59: 18 - Healing with Inna's heart-based card deck

Keywords

creativity, self-discovery, societal expectations, personal growth, emotional expression, sex therapist, energy healer, intuitive healing, best selling author, award winning author, color therapy

Heather provides insights and advice on how to navigate these personal challenges, emphasizing communication and mindfulness as key tools for improving sexual health and relationship satisfaction.

Chapters

00:00 Listener Q&A Introduction

00:27 Exploring Double Penetration with Strap-Ons

05:07 Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives

12:36 Understanding Psychological Erection Issues

19:50 Reclaiming Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships

Keywords

Heather Shannon, listener Q&A, double penetration, sex drives, sex questions, libido, erection issues, performance anxiety, emotional intimacy, improve communication, mindfulness, sex therapy, sex education, podcast, Ask A Sex Therapist

This solo episode gets into the themes of social dynamics, charisma, and embracing healthy obstacles as a good thing for sexual attraction.

Host and Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses the importance of healthy boundaries, having your own thing going on and putting your best foot forward no matter how long you've been togehter.

She also explores the allure of open relationships, emphasizing the excitement that comes from seeing a partner embrace their sexuality and the dynamics of attraction involved.

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Chapters

00:00 From Roommates to Lovers: Understanding the Shift

02:30 Creating Attraction: The Equation of Desire

10:05 Seeing Each Other as Sexual Beings

17:10 Solutions to Rekindle Passion

24:25 Creating Polarity and Space in Relationships

Takeaways

• Being social and charismatic can enhance personal interactions.
• Compliments can boost confidence and encourage social engagement.
• Flirting can be a playful exploration of attraction.
• Open relationships can provide new perspectives on partnership.
• Seeing a partner's sexuality can be a turn-on for some.
• The idea of attraction from others can enhance relationship dynamics.
• Embracing one's own sexuality is important for personal growth.
• Social interactions can lead to deeper connections.
• Understanding the nuances of attraction is key in relationships.
• Exploring boundaries in relationships can lead to fulfillment.

Keywords

social dynamics, charisma, open relationships, sexuality, flirting, compliments, partner attraction

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this conversation, Shannon Curtis shares her profound journey of healing from sexual trauma, emphasizing the importance of reclaiming personal power, understanding shame, and fostering intimacy. She discusses her experiences with trauma, the role of forgiveness, and the significance of body awareness in healing. Shannon also highlights the need for curiosity in recognizing signs of trauma and the importance of connecting with nature. Through her work, she aims to empower others to find their authentic selves and heal from their past experiences.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Healing Sexual Trauma

02:00 Shannon's Personal Journey with Trauma

05:58 Understanding Shame and Its Impact

10:08 The Role of Forgiveness in Healing

12:16 Teaching the Next Generation

16:26 The Importance of Body Awareness

19:40 Healing Through Connection with Nature

22:32 The Power of Intuition in Healing

25:33 Finding Your Path to Healing

29:26 The Journey of Self-Discovery

33:41 Reclaiming Power in Relationships

38:22 Recognizing Signs of Trauma

42:58 The Importance of Curiosity in Healing

47:28 How to Work with Shannon Curtis

KEYWORDS

sexual trauma, healing, intimacy, forgiveness, body awareness, empowerment, personal growth, trauma signs, self-discovery, coaching

Takeaways

We are wired to find balance and resilience.

It's crucial to change the narrative we tell ourselves about loss.

Life is short; we should seize opportunities for love and connection.

Heartbreak is inevitable, but we can choose how to respond.

All relationships eventually end, but that shouldn't deter us from starting them.

Embracing vulnerability is essential for deeper connections.

Grief can slow us down and remind us of what matters.

Building inner security helps us to love more openly.

Understanding our parts can aid in healing from loss.

Community support is vital during times of grief.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Loss and Heartbreak

05:16 Finding Inner Security and Resilience

10:33 Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships

15:32 Understanding and Healing Through Grief

Keywords

loss, heartbreak, resilience, vulnerability, relationships, grief, inner security, personal growth, intimacy, healing

Learn about the importance of presence and attunement for higher quality sex and better connection.

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Keywords: Better sex, sex therapy, sex coach, better intimacy, attunement, listening, paying attention

Join me and amazing guest Emily Nagoski as we discuss the complexities of maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships. Emily uses the metaphor of a garden to illustrate how sexuality requires ongoing care and attention. We cover the importance of communication, overcoming shame, and understanding the impact of upbringing on sexual expression. Emily emphasizes the need for playfulness and adaptability in sexual relationships, as well as the significance of scheduling intimacy to prioritize connection. And you'll especially love emily's floorplan concept for accessing lust when it feels far away.

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Burnout

Keywords - long-term relationships, sexuality, communication, shame, gender roles, emotional health, intimacy, pleasure, responsive desire, sexual connection

In this episode, I introduce the Target Zone Framework, a tool designed to help people evaluate their relationships based on two key dimensions: spark energy and home energy.

I define both dimensions with an emphasis on the idea that home energy is foundational for emotional safety and intimacy.

We'll talk about how to assess current relationships, the significance of communication and emotional intelligence, and the need for novelty and playfulness to maintain attraction.

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In this episode, join Heather and guest Sexologist, Amy Rowan, to explore Amy and her husband's exciting evolution from a mostly vanilla sex life to having "hard points" in the basement dungeon for rope suspension.

Learn how trust, vulnerability and emotional intimacy led to sex life 2.0 for Amy and her hubby despite cancer and 3 kids and how you can create this dynamic yourself.

Is it time to explore kink and BDSM in your own relationship? Tune in and find out!

Keywords

kink, intimacy, relationships, sex therapy, vulnerability, trust, communication, pleasure, sexologist, suburban intimacy

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Mental Foreplay

09:40 The Power of Laughter and Fun

13:41 Physical Activity and Its Impact

16:46 Grooming and Style for Confidence

18:29 The Allure of Availability and Independence

Survey

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P.S. So sorry for the delay in uploading this episode. We experienced major glitches with our hosting platform and tried 3 other platforms to get this episode to you. It seems the issue was related to the internet provider and we needed to use a VPN to get around it--other people have apparently reported similar issues!

Keywords

mental foreplay, emotional intimacy, sexual attraction, relationship dynamics, self-perception, physical activity, novelty, grooming, emotional closeness, relationship advice

In this episode, Susan Bratton (our most downloaded guest), shares 4 sexual personality types and how to strategically approach women who fall into each category. You're in for a treat!

Please excuse a few audio glitches in this episode--it sounded smoothe when recording but there was a glitch in the software. We wanted to share it anyways because of the great content!

Don't forget to take the Ask A Sex Therapist podcast survey at https://AskASexTherapistPodcast.com! As a thank you for everyone who takes it, we will email you a $10 Amazon card. This is for a limited time only, so now's the time : )

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Chapters:

00:00 Breaking the Silence on Menopause

02:39 Personal Journeys Through Perimenopause

05:39 Understanding Symptoms and Their Impact

08:14 Navigating Hormonal Changes

11:18 The Role of Education and Advocacy

14:00 Building a Supportive Community

17:02 Exploring Treatment Options

20:04 The Importance of Self-Care

22:49 Addressing Sexual Health and Relationships

25:32 Holistic Approaches to Wellness

28:32 The Future of Menopause Conversations

Find more about Heather and her services at https://HeatherShannon.co

Check out NourishDoc here! https://www.nourishdoc.com/

Keywords: menopause, perimenopause, PMS, hormone therapy, women's health, holistic wellness, self-care, community support, sexual health, education

Understanding Your Sexual Identity

• How to differentiate between what you think you "should" want versus what actually excites you
• Recognizing that preferences can evolve and change over time
• Moving past shame or judgment around desires that feel "different"

Communication and Exploration with Partners

• How to have conversations about fantasies and boundaries. Yes, no, maybe list. 
• Creating safe spaces for vulnerability and honesty
• Navigating mismatched desires or comfort levels

Solo Exploration Techniques

• Mindful masturbation and body awareness exercises
• Fantasy journaling or exploration
• Using erotica, audio content, or visual materials as discovery tools

Practical Adventure Planning

• Setting up "sexual dates" with yourself or a partner specifically for exploration. Kissing lab. Sensory night. Positions month. 10 toys to try. Create a kissing lab (pecks, open mouth, long and deep, short and repeated, lots of tongue, little tongue, trace partner's lips with tongue, teasing and breathing while keeping mouths close to each other)
• Creating the right environment (physical space, mindset, timing)
• How to debrief and integrate new discoveries

Overcoming Common Roadblocks

• Performance anxiety when trying new things. 
• Religious or cultural conditioning around sexuality
• Body image concerns that limit exploration
• Fear of rejection or judgment from partners

Building Sexual Confidence

• Celebrating small discoveries and wins
• Developing a growth mindset around sexuality
• Learning to advocate for your needs and desires

Check out Heather's Amazon Storefront for Books and Tools to Help You Explore! Heather Shannon, LCPC's Amazon Page

We Should Try It Couples Quiz - We Should Try It - online sex questionnaire for couples

Yes, No, Maybe List - https://www.sexedwithbyrd.com/yesnomaybelistfreebie

In this episode, Heather Shannon interviews Aaron Frazen, a sex and relationship coach, who shares his transformative journey from a successful tech entrepreneur to a passionate advocate for sexual health and intimacy. They delve into the complexities of masturbation and porn, discussing common misconceptions and the emotional signals behind sexual challenges. Aaron emphasizes the importance of understanding one's desires and urges, offering practical tools for listeners to cultivate a healthier relationship with their sexuality.

Aaron Frazin's Website - https://www.aaronfrazin.com/

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In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' I welcome Caitlin V, a renowned sex and relationship coach. Caitlin specializes in helping men with erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and premature ejaculation, and works with clients worldwide to resolve mismatched libidos and enhance sexual confidence. She shares insights from her journey, her viral content on YouTube, and her mission to foster a sex-positive world where pleasure is prioritized. We dive into her unique approach to sexual health, blending personal experience with evidence-based science, and discuss her new TV show, "Good Sex" on Discovery + and Max. Caitlin also introduces "Groove Thing," a new product aimed at enhancing pleasure, and we talk about its potential impact on the landscape of sexual enjoyment. You won't want to miss this one!

About Our Guest:

Caitlin V is a leading sex and relationship coach with a focus on men's sexual health and pleasure. A former sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she gained significant recognition through her viral videos on female pleasure. With millions of views and nearly a million subscribers on YouTube, she is a prominent voice in the field. Her expertise is further amplified through her TV show, "Good Sex," available on Discovery + and Max. Caitlin is dedicated to creating a sex-positive environment where pleasure is paramount.

Connect with Caitlin V.

Website: caitlinvneal.com

Instagram: caitlinvneal

Groove Thing: trygroovething.com/caitlin (Sign up for updates)

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Unveiling the Secrets of Vaginal Microbiome Health with Wendy Strgar

In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' I welcome Wendy Strgar, founder of Good Clean Love and Womankind Care. Wendy dives deep into her journey of creating products to improve vaginal health, emphasizing the crucial importance of a balanced vaginal microbiome. We discuss key topics like the role of osmolality, the surprising impact of many conventional products on your vaginal health, and her groundbreaking Bio-Match technology. Wendy also shares insights on the broader connections between vaginal issues and overall well-being, offering practical tips for maintaining a healthy microbiome. You won't want to miss this one!

About our guest:

Wendy Strgar is an award-winning, serial entrepreneur and the Founder of Good Clean Love, Vaginal Biome Science, and Womankind Care. Strgar's commitment to vaginal health led to the development of patented BioMatched technology, an innovative scientific approach applying biomimicry to the formulation of women’s health products. As CIO at Good Clean Love and CEO at Vaginal Biome Science and Womankind Care, she has developed a quantitative microbiota panel and the most advanced and effective product technologies to stabilize vaginal microbiome health and has effected change in both osmolality and animal testing requirements at the FDA.

Exclusive Offer:

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In this episode, we explore five main patterns people fall into:

1. The burned out body
2. The avoiders
3. Self-Censorship
4. The Awkward Initiators
5. The Split Path.

Your sex life is not rocket science. It's very fixable if you discover your pattern have a partner who is willing to work with you on it, you'll be on your way to feeling excited, turned-on and deeply connected.

Pelvic Floor Health with Dr. Johanna Gaffney | Common Issues & Solutions

In this episode, we welcome Dr. Johanna Gaffney, a specialist in pelvic floor therapy from Hope Docs. Dr. Gaffney shares insights on common pelvic floor issues across genders, the impact of mental health, and the role of virtual therapy. Learn about common problems like sexual and urinary dysfunction, the Kegel myth, and the importance of feeling safe for effective healing.

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About our Guest:

Dr. Johanna Gaffney is a Doctor of Physical Therapy who specializes in pelvic floor therapy with The Hope Docs in the Tampa Bay area. She offers both in-person and virtual sessions. Inspired by her own experience with pelvic floor dysfunction, Dr. Gaffney is dedicated to helping clients of all genders with issues like sexual dysfunction and urinary problems, ensuring they feel safe and cared for throughout their healing journey.

Connect with Dr. Johanna Gaffney

Website: https://www.thehopedocs.org/meet-the-hope-docs

Instagram: drjohanna_pelvicdpt

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In this episode, I chat with Hani Cheng, a bestselling author and intimacy transformation facilitator, about why pleasure is essential and how it acts as medicine for our body and mind. We discuss the importance of integrating playfulness into our busy lives, the significance of self-approval, and the healing potential of pleasure. Hani shares practical exercises for spreading pleasure and offers insights into balancing sex and life. Join us for this enlightening conversation!

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About our Guest:

Hani is a bestselling author, international speaker, and the founder of the Liberated Leadership Legacy & Transformation Program. As an Energy Healer and Sexual Liberation Coach, she empowers individuals and teams to unlock their potential by integrating sexuality, spirituality, and leadership. With 15 years of self-healing experience and a Masters in Innovation, Marketing, and Business, Hani guides others towards transformation, courageous integration, and energetic prosperity.

Connect with Hani Cheng on:

Website: https://yoloabundance.com/about-hani/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haniabundance/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UCkXAc0sXHaHx4QfJTynj0dw

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In this solo episode, I address the issue of mismatched libidos in relationships, focusing on the dynamics between higher and lower desire partners. After a series of guest episodes, I'm back to discuss the common emotional patterns involved, such as pressure and guilt. I provide strategies for both partners to improve communication, manage expectations, and cultivate authentic desire. I also encourage listeners to share their feedback and questions via email. Practical tips and additional resources, like previous episodes on consent and libido, are highlighted. Lastly, I announce a new 'quickie' coaching offer to help couples get unstuck and improve their sex lives.

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Ready to work on your personal healing and growth? This one's for you.

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00:00 Introduction and Announcements

01:12 Mismatched Libidos: Common Dynamics

04:03 Exploring the Common Patterns

07:01 Addressing the Higher Desire Partner's Perspective

12:45 Addressing the Lower Desire Partner's Perspective

17:15 Reversing the Patterns and Finding Solutions

26:40 Conclusion and New Offer

In this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, I sit down with Eve Hall — a licensed physical therapist, certified health coach, and host of the Please Me podcast. We dive into the concept of "Big Clit Energy" and explore how embracing your sexual confidence can lead to deeper pleasure and intimacy. Eve shares her powerful personal journey of healing from sexual trauma, the importance of open communication about desires, and practical strategies for closing the orgasm gap.

00:00 Introduction to the Special Guest

00:55 Eve Hall's Unique Background

02:11 Big Clit Energy Explained

03:32 Building Sexual Confidence

08:39 Eve's Personal Journey

11:56 The Importance of Communication

18:49 Exploring Sexual Fantasies

21:33 Understanding Sensual Touch and Orgasms

22:20 Exploring the Orgasm Gap

23:11 Statistics and Female Orgasms

24:22 Empowerment and Communication in Relationships

25:07 The Role of Kinks and Fantasies

25:32 The Importance of Communication and Confidence

27:12 Sexual Exploration and Aging

28:25 Overcoming Sexual Hangups

28:59 Nurturing Your Sex Life

30:21 Exploring Fantasies and Kinks

30:42 Using Porn and Erotica for Inspiration

35:50 Introducing Toys and Expanding Horizons

39:12 Connecting with Eve and Resources

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Instagram: @askasextherapist

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Pathway to Passion: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway-to-passion

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Heather’s Pathway to Passion: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

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Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

About our Guest:

Eve Hall is a licensed physical therapist and certified health coach with a passion for empowering individuals to embrace their sexuality. As the host of the Please Me podcast, she creates a safe space for open discussions about sex, pleasure, and healing. Eve's holistic approach combines physical therapy, health coaching, and personal experience to guide others toward sexual liberation and confidence.

Connect with Eve Hall:

On Instagram: please.me.by.eve.creations

Podcast: Please Me Podcast

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Transforming Stress and Enhancing Intimacy: Insights from Dr. Nicole Cain

In this episode, Heather engages with Dr. Nicole Cain, (ND, MA,) to discuss the impacts of stress on sex lives and the path to holistic wellness. Dr. Cain shares her journey, practical strategies to alleviate stress, and tips on improving intimacy using integrative approaches. Topics covered include the role of Ayurveda, managing the nervous system, and reprogramming the mind-body connection.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:28 Meet Dr. Nicole Cain

01:54 Dr. Cain's Personal Journey

06:08 The Turning Point: Discovering the Root of Anxiety

12:26 Practical Steps to Reduce Stress

14:36 The Role of Social Media and Connection

23:59 Ayurveda and Sexual Wellness

27:51 A Date Gone Wrong: Panic Attack Story

28:35 Balancing Your Doshas for Better Experiences

29:01 Cooling Techniques for Pitta Dosha

29:52 Understanding Kapha Dosha

30:54 Herbal Remedies for Libido and Hormone Balance

35:02 Addressing Stress and Its Impact on Health

39:28 Practical Tips for Gut Health

43:46 Steps to Regulate Your Nervous System

48:14 Creating Intimacy and Trust in Relationships

52:08 Conclusion and Where to Find More

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Dr. Nicole Cain, ND, MA, is a naturopathic doctor and mental health expert specializing in holistic treatments for anxiety, depression, and trauma. She’s the founder of the Holistic Wellness Collective and author of Panic Proof.

Connect with Dr. Nicole Cain

On Instagram: drnicolecain

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Mindfulness, Presence & Pleasure: A Conversation with Naomi Rawitz

In this episode, Heather is joined by fellow AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Sexuality Educator Naomi Rawitz, LCSW, CST, CSE, for a warm, honest, and deeply insightful conversation around the role of mindfulness in sex.

Naomi opens up about her journey into sex therapy, how her upbringing shaped her perspective, and why our culture makes it so difficult to stay present in our bodies. Together, they explore the real reasons we get distracted during sex, how internal “parts” (à la Internal Family Systems therapy) can hijack our pleasure, and why mindfulness doesn’t mean you have to “clear your mind.”

Whether you’ve ever felt pressured to perform, overwhelmed with distractions, or just curious about how to deepen your connection to yourself or a partner—this episode offers practical tools, validating insights, and a ton of “aha” moments.

00:00 Welcome & Intro to Naomi

02:00 Naomi’s Path to Becoming a Sex Therapist

04:00 Growing Up with Open Sex Education

05:00 Presence, Distraction & the Sexual Mindset

09:00 How Mindfulness Actually Works (It’s Not “Clearing Your Mind”)

12:00 Communicating with Your Partner About Where You're At

14:00 Mindfulness, Emotional Intimacy & Data Points

17:00 What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)?

19:00 Common Parts That Show Up During Sex

23:00 Productivity, Energy, and “Sex as a To-Do”

26:00 Reconnecting with Play & Joy (Yes, Improv Counts!)

30:00 Expanding Definitions of Sexual Touch

33:00 The Pressure to “Go All the Way”

34:00 How Stories and Anticipation Impact Desire

38:00 Polyvagal Theory & Shifting Nervous System States

41:00 Creating Space to Explore Without Judgment

43:00 Where to Find Naomi

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naomi@rawitzcounseling.com

Learn more: https://www.rawitzcounseling.com

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In this episode, we welcome Dr. Jen Kennedy, a clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss low sexual desire in women. Dr. Jen explains how societal norms and lack of adequate sex education contribute to myths about women's sexual desire. She describes her journey from public relations and photography to sex therapy and the nuances of working with couples on their intimate lives. Dr. Jen also touches on techniques such as Sense8 Focus and discusses the importance of understanding one's own pleasure profile. Throughout the conversation, they debunk common misconceptions, emphasize the importance of addressing both physical and psychological barriers to desire, and highlight the need for open dialogue about sexual health.

Dr. Jen also hosts her own podcast called The Pleasure Project Podcast: Sex and Relationships. (https://www.youtube.com/@drjennkennedy) For more information, you can visit her websites at Riviera Therapy (https://riviera-therapy.com) and Pleasure Project (https://pleasureproject.us).

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:22 Meet Dr. Jen Kennedy

01:08 Discussing Low Sexual Desire in Women

01:44 Dr. Jen's Journey to Becoming a Sexologist

02:53 Training and Challenges in Sex Therapy

05:19 Understanding Sexual Attitudes and Fixations

07:39 Exploring Women's Sexual Desire

10:40 Cultural and Biological Factors in Sexual Desire

13:49 Reconnecting Through Sensate Focus

19:27 Therapist's Role in Normalizing Intimacy

20:19 Debunking Myths About Women's Desire

20:38 Exploring Fantasies and Initiating Desire

20:59 The Power of Open Conversations About Sex

23:28 Understanding and Enhancing Pleasure Profiles

29:25 The Importance of Play and Relaxation in Sex

31:56 Addressing Deterrents and Cultivating Stimulators

34:07 Seeking Help and Professional Guidance

35:38 Resources and Upcoming Programs

38:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Heather’s Courses: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

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Connect with : Dr. Jenn Kennedy

Email: Jenn@PleasureProject.us or jennkennedy@me.com

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In this episode, we address listener questions on managing different libidos, the impact of attachment styles on sexual development, and challenges in non-monogamy. We also discuss reconnecting with sexual energy after leaving a sexless marriage. Tune in for insights and practical advice on enhancing your relationships and sex life.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:52 Managing Different Libidos in Relationships

07:38 Exploring Attachment Styles and Sexual Development

11:07 Navigating Non-Monogamy and Relationship Anarchy

20:01 Reconnecting with Sexuality After a Dead Bedroom Marriage

28:27 Conclusion and Resources

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Premature Ejaculation & Sex Addiction Myths: The Truth About Male Sexual Health with Sex Therapist Seth Taylor, LMFT

Most men have been misled about sexual performance, from unrealistic expectations around lasting longer to harmful myths about "sex addiction." In this episode, Heather Shannon sits down with Seth Taylor, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in men’s sexual health, to set the record straight.

They discuss the real causes of premature ejaculation (PE), effective treatments, and why the term "sex addiction" is controversial among sex therapists. Plus, they explore the shame-free approach to out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB) and how it differs from traditional addiction models.

If you or your partner experience PE, erectile dysfunction (ED), or compulsive sexual behaviors, this episode will help you understand the root causes and practical steps to regain confidence in your sex life.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Introduction

01:30 Meet Seth Taylor: Specializing in men’s sexual health

03:00 What is premature ejaculation? Clinical definitions & myths

08:45 Why most men have unrealistic expectations about lasting longer

12:30 The psychological causes of PE: Anxiety, shame and trauma

18:00 Effective treatments: Medication, therapy and pelvic floor work

22:45 What is out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB)?

30:00 The problem with "sex addiction" & why language matters

40:30 How to overcome shame and build a healthy relationship with sex

50:00 Final thoughts and where to find Seth

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In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' we explore the top 5 methods to help your woman feel more desire for sex. From simple reminders and genuine compliments to creating emotional safety and helping her relax, these expert tips are based on years of counseling experience. Watch to learn how to foster a closer, more intimate relationship!

00:00 Introduction to Increasing Sexual Desire

00:10 Top 5 Ways to Increase Her Desire: Overview

00:55 #5: Remind Her of Sex

03:26 #4: Compliment Her Appearance

07:06 #3: Be an Emotional Safe Space

10:29 #2: Help Her Relax

15:05 #1: Listen to Her

20:50 Recap and Final Thoughts

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Breaking Boundaries with Pepper Cat: Exploring Male Loneliness, Porn Myths, and Sex Work Realities

In this episode, we sit down with Pepper Cat, the host of Spicy Spectrum Podcast and founder of Design Your Dream Girl, to discuss her journey to the adult entertainment industry. We delve into the complexities of male loneliness, myths about porn, the human side of pornography, and how couples can navigate porn consumption in their relationships. Tune in for a refreshing and candid conversation about the realities of sex work and its impact on personal fulfilment and connection.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Introduction

01:20 Pepper Cat's Journey from News to Adult Entertainment

04:26 Discussing Myths and Misconceptions About Porn

07:29 Navigating Porn in Relationships

10:43 Exploring Fantasies and Kinks

21:03 The Human Side of Porn and Personal Growth

28:34 Final Thoughts and Where to Find Pepper Cat

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Unlocking Passion: The Link Between Emotional Intimacy and Fulfilling Sex

In this episode, we delve into the critical role emotional intimacy plays in a fulfilling sex life. Drawing from personal experiences and client work, we discuss the importance of resolving emotional barriers to enhance sexual connection. Learn how feeling truly seen, understood, and safe with your partner can ignite your sexual energy. Discover actionable steps to build emotional intimacy, including creating a secure space for honest communication and understanding the connection between physical and emotional vulnerability. Tune in for insights that can transform your relational dynamics for the better.

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Intimacy and Sex

00:43 The Role of Emotional Intimacy in a Fulfilling Sex Life

01:59 Understanding the Brakes and Gas Pedals of Sex Drive

04:27 Vulnerability: The Link Between Emotional and Physical Intimacy

11:33 Building Emotional Intimacy: Practical Tips

20:08 Honest Communication and Its Importance

23:08 Conclusion and Next Steps

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From Porn Industry to Author: The Journey of Vic LaGina

In this episode, we sit down with Vic LaGina, a former producer and director in the adult entertainment industry who has transitioned to becoming an author. Vic recounts his 20-year career, the challenges he faced, and the path that led him to write his novel, 'Filthy: The Rise and Pending Death of Vic LaGina.' We delve into his experiences, from the surreal beginning of his career in Los Angeles to the ethical dilemmas and dark realities of the porn industry. Vic shares candid insights on consent, the impact of COVID-19 on the industry, and his personal journey through addiction and recovery. Tune in for a raw and unfiltered conversation that explores the complexities and transformations of a life in porn.

00:00 Introduction to Vic LaGina

00:26 Vic's Journey into the Adult Entertainment Industry

02:21 The Move to LA and Personal Struggles

05:31 First Steps in the Porn Industry

07:04 Building a Career in Porn

10:17 Challenges and Realities of the Porn Industry

15:26 Personal Reflections and Relationships

29:46 Struggles with Addiction

30:26 Turbulent Relationships

31:54 Cleaning Up and Moving On

33:00 Drug Use in the Porn Industry

33:31 Consent and Compliance Challenges

47:31 The Future of Porn

54:44 Ethical Porn and Final Thoughts

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Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

Connect with Vic LaGina:

Vic’s website with book information: https://viclagina.com/

Vic’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/viclagina/ 

Vic’s X: https://x.com/viclagina 

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Better Boundaries with Nookie https://youtu.be/_QfZw5u4NCM?si=fEcEd2zrADCEmBQy  

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Navigating Low Libido in Relationships: Empathy and Understanding

In this episode of the 'Ask a Sex Therapist' podcast, Heather Shannon discusses why your partner's lack of interest in sex might not be about you. She delves into reasons such as stress, hormonal imbalances, and emotional challenges. Heather emphasizes the importance of empathy, avoiding pressure, and building inner security. She provides actionable advice for both high and low libido partners, helping them foster better understanding and intimacy in their relationships. Tune in to learn how to communicate effectively and create a more fulfilling sex life together.

00:00 Introduction: Understanding Your Partner's Low Libido

00:39 Welcome and Setting the Scene

01:12 The Challenge of Waiting for Your Partner's Libido

02:43 Understanding Pressure and Its Impact on Libido

05:47 Exploring the Lower Libido Partner's Perspective

20:32 Strategies for the Higher Libido Partner

29:17 Conclusion and Encouragement

31:10 Closing Remarks and How to Stay Connected

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

Finding Your Fire Libido Course: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/RLM4tXqi/checkout  

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Sex and Disability Video https://youtu.be/jPKzoXg3-kI?si=6aQnWzlwWguXXIA8 

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Exploring Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships and Sex with Bev Mitelman

In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon welcomes special guest Bev Mitelman, a certified attachment practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, to discuss the intriguing topic of sex and attachment styles. They delve into how different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—affect individuals' relationships and sexual experiences. Bev shares insights from her personal journey, explaining how attachment theory has profoundly impacted her own healing. Listeners will learn about the emotional patterns and core wounds associated with each attachment style, and how these influence behaviors in romantic and sexual contexts. The episode also highlights the benefits of moving toward a secure attachment and offers practical advice for those looking to improve their relational and sexual well-being.

00:00 Introduction to Healing in Relationships

00:18 Welcome to Ask a Sex Therapist

00:47 Special Guest: Bev Mitelman

01:04 Bev's Background and Journey

02:41 Understanding Attachment Styles

04:25 Personal Attachment Journey

06:00 Healing and Awareness

14:12 Defining Attachment Styles

15:09 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment

18:02 Anxious Attachment Explained

25:51 Avoidant Attachment Explained

32:30 Understanding the Shame Wound

33:12 Core Wound of Feeling Unsafe

34:13 Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Dynamics

37:56 Fearful Avoidant Attachment Explained

41:25 Attachment Styles and Sexual Behavior

49:38 Impact of Attachment on Orgasms

51:31 Avoidant Attachment and Sex

55:58 Fearful Avoidant Sexual Patterns

01:00:11 Resources and Final Thoughts

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Heather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

Resources Mentioned:

Come As You Are: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=1982165316&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.29BK4OTJWL4UF&ref_=aip_sf_asn_list_ofs_mixed_d_qv_asin 

Attached: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1529032172?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=1529032172&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.2P3GGSWKYMGRE&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin 

Bev’s Website: https://securelyloved.com/

Bev’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved/ 

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Listener Q&A: Rekindling Passion, Orgasm Challenges, and Lubricants

Welcome to another listener Q&A episode! Dive into intriguing topics such as reviving passion when therapy hasn't helped, overcoming difficulties with orgasms during penetration vs. foreplay, exploring various types of lubricants, and tips for a wife wanting to initiate sex with her husband. Don't miss out on this comprehensive discussion on sexual intimacy.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:52 Therapy and Rekindling Passion

10:05 Understanding Female Orgasms

18:04 Exploring Different Types of Lubes

26:11 Initiating Sex with a Partner

32:42 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store

Ep. 109 Vaginal Gymnastics 101: Increase Your Libido and Pleasure with Bel DiLorenzo- https://youtu.be/3ebUCD63GMM?si=2BnuBIrT4YN0tE_s

Ep. 107 Revive Her Drive: Rekindling Desire, Libido, and Orgasm with @SusanBratton- https://youtu.be/LkPePH3xHTM?si=-fKk9zGvmPfuPan9 

Ep. 56:  Female Arousal with Susan Bratton-https://youtu.be/3JU8SPEa904?si=UhgeOZ7L0i1mK8t6 

Ep. 91 How to Squirt- https://youtu.be/0cKR2ToX910?si=Hv-Lu9I_UZevlQ2S 

Ep. 69: How To Seduce Your Partner—Initiating Sex Like A Pro https://youtu.be/8elcATO0KiY?si=UL975WKbjcwuvZHL 

We Vibe Tango X- https://www.we-vibe.com/us/tango-x?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAy8K8BhCZARIsAKJ8sfTtd6jKlm6RXn3s7AxWE5aqkIla_CiU9dFr8J2_k8R0IyJQ3y56gGQaArzQEALw_wcB 

Good Clean Love Bionude Lube- https://goodcleanlove.com/products/bio-nude-personal-lubricant?variant=13005587316778

Good Lean Love Bionude Vaginal Moisturizer- https://goodcleanlove.com/products/bionourish%C2%AE-ultra-moisturizing-vaginal-gel-with-hyaluronic-acid-assortment?variant=42220336218296

Uber Lube- https://uberlube.com/?srsltid=AfmBOoqhWd6zu5d3JpH1xoWUvfjwZ1rfAC01O0DSlb4e6lF0PX8ZkQHD

Foria lubricants- https://www.foriawellness.com/collections/sexual-wellness

Get Becoming Cliterate and Stop Walking on Eggshells Books here- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc 

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Exploring Steamy Romance Novels with Author Christina Braver

Join us for a captivating conversation with Christina Braver, an author known for her steamy, small-town, contemporary romances set in the Pacific Northwest. We dive into the unique elements of her writing, her background in clinical psychology, and how she uses this to craft well-rounded, character-driven stories. Christina shares insights into her heroes, who come with softer sides and independent heroines, all leading to a guaranteed happily ever after. We also discuss the impact of penis size myths in romance novels, the importance of sex positivity, and how her stories provide educational yet enjoyable experiences. Don't miss this enlightening episode that blends romance, sex education, and positive cultural influence!

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:11 Discussing Romance Novels and Realistic Portrayals

02:06 The Myth of Big Penis in Romance Novels

03:22 Sexual Health and Realistic Expectations

09:08 Fantasy vs. Reality in Romance Novels

14:39 The Impact of Romance Novels on Society

16:46 Personal Journey and Career Transition

25:17 Navigating Parental Concerns and Cultural Differences

27:30 Exploring Sexual Fantasies and Childhood Wounds

28:58 Writing Romance: Setting, Characters, and Themes

31:32 Challenging Cultural Norms in Romance Novels

33:40 Sex Positivity and Education Through Romance

35:58 Real-Life Inspirations and Sex Education

41:53 The Role of Consent and Communication in Romance

43:46 Excerpts and Real-Life Applications

47:28 Where to Find More: Books and Resources

48:41 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

Christina Braver’s Info:

Formula One Noel by Christina Braver, is available for free to special readers until 1/31/2025. Use this link and download the full eBook for free https://dl.bookfunnel.com/qay7xkzsgi 

Christina’s website: https://christinabraver.com/

Christina’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinabraverromance/

Christina’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinabraverromance

Christina on Medium: https://medium.com/@christinabraver

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Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

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Navigating Body Image & Self-Love: Personal Stories and Practical Tips

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of body image, exploring the struggles that many individuals, particularly women, face. Heather shares personal, often humorous stories about body image issues starting from childhood experiences to adulthood. The episode highlights the importance of self-love and provides actionable tips to improve body confidence, such as consuming balanced media, engaging in positive self-talk, and practicing mindfulness. Heather also discusses societal pressures, unwanted attention, and how to maintain a positive relationship with one's body. Tune in to get a dose of encouragement and practical advice on fostering a healthier body image.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:11 Embarrassing Childhood Stories

06:23 College Struggles and Binge Eating

08:59 Online Dating and Self-Discovery

11:28 Appreciating Your Body

15:24 Dealing with Unwanted Attention

22:06 Actionable Tips for Better Body Image

29:36 Conclusion and Freebie Announcement

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Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

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Empowering Healing: Trauma, Therapy, and Sexual Assault with Laurel Roberts Meese

In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' the host welcomes Laurel Roberts Meese, a licensed therapist with extensive experience in trauma and sexual assault. Laurel discusses the fundamental understandings of sexual assault, emphasizing that it is about power rather than sex. They explore the normal reactions to traumatic experiences, the importance of setting and reinforcing boundaries, and the role of tools such as EMDR and sensate focus in healing. Alongside practical advice for partners of survivors, Laurel highlights the significance of radical self-compassion in the healing process. Listeners are provided with resources and insights to navigate the complex journey of trauma recovery.

00:00 Introduction to the Episode

00:10 Meet Laurel Roberts Meese

01:18 The Importance of Credentials and Fun

03:01 Understanding Sexual Assault

05:39 Defining Sexual Assault

08:56 The Emotional Impact of Assault

14:17 Trauma and the Body

18:23 Supporting a Partner Through Healing

25:42 Addressing Male Sexual Assault

26:51 Victim Mindset and Healing

27:42 Journey from Victim to Survivor

28:20 Empowerment Through Boundaries

36:06 The Importance of Self-Compassion

39:58 Sensate Focus for Intimacy

42:20 Connecting with Laurel Therapy

43:54 Final Thoughts on Healing

Laurel Robert Meese’s INFO:

Laurel’s website: https://www.laureltherapy.net/ 

Trauma informed Yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtrxXhwgHkw 

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

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Listener Q&A: Secrets of Squirting, Becoming a Sex Therapist, My Method for Couples in Conflict and More!

Join Heather Shannon for a fun and informative listener Q&A episode! Heather dives into a lively debate on whether squirting is pee, shares the comprehensive process of becoming a certified sex therapist, addresses low sex drive during perimenopause, and offers tips to reignite the spark in your relationship. Plus, special shoutouts to international listeners and important insights on the role of hormones in libido. Don’t forget to submit your anonymous questions and follow the show for more insightful discussions!

00:00 Introduction and Listener Q&A Setup

00:42 Shoutout to International Listeners

01:47 Debunking Myths: Is Squirting Pee?

04:52 Becoming a Certified Sex Therapist

12:54 Addressing Low Sex Drive During Perimenopause

16:09 Reigniting the Spark in Your Relationship

19:52 Conclusion and Farewell

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

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Perimenopause Episode https://youtu.be/3ayLTcHr66I?si=slNcqAlJ1bOLDDbX 

AASECT Website: https://www.aasect.org/

Unlock my Pathway to Passion Method https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway 

Gottman’s book on marriage https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197 

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Jonathan Aslay on Self Love: Transforming Grief into a Mission

In this episode, Jonathan Aslay, a leading midlife dating coach, discusses his journey from personal tragedy to becoming an advocate for self-love. After losing his son in 2018, Jonathan embarked on a spiritual and introspective path, leading him to discover the emotional health issues plaguing many singles. He now focuses on helping individuals cultivate self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Jonathan also delves into the challenges of modern dating, the importance of emotional maturity, and how personal growth practices can transform one's dating experiences and interpersonal relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:20 Jonathan Aslay's Journey to Self-Love

02:36 The Impact of Grief and Spiritual Exploration

08:30 From Grief to Dating Coach

11:58 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges

24:43 Sex and Empowerment

25:05 The Sacredness of Sex

25:37 Risks and Consequences

27:02 Compatibility and Emotional Maturity

27:24 Navigating Multiple Partners

28:25 Coaching and Self-Discovery

29:53 Emotional Awareness and Expression

31:54 The Layers of Human Programming

34:31 The Journey of Self-Love

38:06 Practical Steps for Self-Improvement

43:03 Jonathan's Personal Transformation

46:40 Connecting with Jonathan

JONATHON’S INFO:

Jonathon Aslay’s Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDOXs_34FF93o66Z-S0py1g 

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  

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This episode focuses on how to embrace being a more dominant partner in sexual scenarios. It covers different dominance styles, such as goddess worship and leadership dynamics, and emphasizes the importance of creating a safe, consensual 'container' for dominant-submissive play. Key points include negotiating roles and time frames, experimenting with clothing and implements, and the necessity of safe words for both physical and emotional comfort. The episode aims to inspire viewers to explore power exchange dynamics responsibly while ensuring mutual satisfaction and open communication.

• 00:00 Introduction to Dominance
• 00:35 Understanding Dominant Vibes
• 01:21 Personal Experience with Dominance
• 01:59 Exploring Different Dynamics
• 04:35 Creating the Container
• 04:59 Role Play and Safe Words
• 11:18 Communicating Boundaries and Desires
• 13:35 Conclusion and Further Resources

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Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method.

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Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

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Increase Your Libido & Sexual Pleasure with Vaginal Gymnastics:

In this episode, we dive into a unique and fascinating topic with Bel Di Lorenzo, a female sexual health advocate and author of 'The Gohddess Method.' Bel shares insights into her approach to vaginal gymnastics, a training method for mastering pelvic floor muscle exercises that amplify female pleasure and orgasms. We explore the benefits of these exercises, how they can transform your sex life, and discuss their impact on sexual health and confidence. Join us to learn about this groundbreaking field and how you can start incorporating these techniques into your routine.

Heather Shannon's Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Find Bel’s Gohddess course here: https://www.gohddess.com/ and use code ‘HeatherShannon’ for 25% off!

The Gohddess Method book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CSJ64CPH 

Gohddess Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goh_ddess 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS6rCE0ZSz0Y8ifua7yNKYBJ&si=5kty7cfgrogTl3-P 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Heather’s Freebies: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/freebies 

Or Book a Consult Call with Intern Grace: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/grace2 

Does Size Matter? Porn Preferences, All About Erections, Sex with a Chronic Illness, and Communication Tips:

In this listener Q&A episode of the 'Ask a Sex Therapist' podcast, Heather Shannon addresses various sexual concerns and questions from listeners. Topics discussed include the significance of penis size, preferences in pornography, managing guilt associated with certain sexual interests, understanding the dynamics of erections, and navigating intimacy with chronic illness. Heather provides compassionate, insightful advice and emphasizes the importance of communication, mindful acceptance, and adaptability in sexual relationships. She encourages listeners to submit their questions for future episodes and highlights the benefits of seeking support from a sex therapist.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Submit YOUR Sex Questions HERE: https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/ 

Ep. 29: Am I Queer? Are You Queer? https://youtu.be/GbFIQvmB81M?si=fuhq-Za9TVneMCJG 

Ep. 21: All About Erections https://youtu.be/L1xdoe4J4O8?si=u9i654srT5TxJ7XA 

Ep. 103 Sex work, Disability and Real Talk with Andrew Gurza https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPKzoXg3-kI 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS7sfikNPQnWH5b5FSCAgjTB&si=zpWuAfV6mIFl4xHb 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Heather’s Freebies: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/freebies

How to Revive Loss of Libido, Desire, & Orgasm:

Join intimacy expert Susan Bratton and host Heather Shannon as they delve into how to rekindle a sexless marriage. Susan shares her personal journey of overcoming sexual struggles like orgasmless sex and infidelity with her husband and introduces her proven program 'Revive Her Drive' which she offers FREE to listeners of this episode. Learn about the four elements of revival, keys to seduction, and how to create lasting intimacy and pleasure in your relationship. Whether your sex life has hit a slump or you’re looking to deepen your connection with your partner, this episode offers insightful advice and practical steps to transforming your intimate life.

Susan Bratton: Contact + Info:

Susan’s email: susan@betterlover.com 

Susan’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/?hl=en 

Susan’s website: Betterlover.com 

Heather Shannon: Contact + Other Links

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS6cw-5B8r_PoYtffPFv5xov&si=9chwAvSdJY3JREOT 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Summary for Sexy Bucket List Episode:

In this episode, we dive into the exciting and insightful process of creating a sexual bucket list. Join us as we explore the importance of establishing safety and consent, setting intentions, and letting go of perfectionism. With practical advice, resource recommendations and unique tips on sparking creativity and trust, this episode aims to help you and your partner, or even solo, set and achieve meaningful sexual goals. Whether adding spice to a long-term relationship or discovering new fantasies, this guide offers a comprehensive framework and fun ideas to keep your sex life adventurous and connected.

Heather Shannon's Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738234966?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=0738234966&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.29BK4OTJWL4UF&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin 

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https://www.omgyes.com/join

https://fetlife.com/

Ep. 34: Getting “Beducated” with Mariah Freya: Naked Models, Orgasm Class & Sex-Positive Parenting https://youtu.be/3-wFfTK0ZSg?si=lzMPi_sWIYZnJAaX 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS5uUNH6CAqYmfLRGx_VsLLl&si=cCgQ_HNE4-qpyJCH 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Heather’s Freebies: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/freebies 

Summary: Braxton T. Fleming, Shark Tank, and Identity

Join us in this inspiring episode as we interview Braxton T. Fleming, the trailblazing CEO of Stealth Bros & Co. Braxton, the first black trans man to secure a spot on Shark Tank, shares his entrepreneurial journey, the challenges of launching his revolutionary medical storage brand, and his personal story of transitioning. Learn how his passion for helping underrepresented medical communities shaped his business and the critical steps he took to achieve success. From his experience on Shark Tank to his motivational approach to life, to navigating sex and identity, this episode offers insights, motivation, and a deeper understanding of the importance of representation and empowerment.

Transitioning, Transgender Identity, and Trans Sex

During this episode, Braxton T. Fleming and host Heather Shannon discussed Braxton's transition and transgender identity, how he navigated sex before and after transitioning.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Stealth Bros and Co website: https://www.stealthbrosco.com/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAire5BhCNARIsAM53K1j2wN0x8PwLJcgZ4Sv2I35-kuPQ3UseNihomppvldUJbpvHwHYJd_YaAhPoEALw_wcB

Steal Bros and Co Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stealthbrosco/?hl=en 

Braxton’s Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sire.brax/?hl=en

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS6cw-5B8r_PoYtffPFv5xov&si=9chwAvSdJY3JREOT 

The Real Lives of Transgender and Nonbinary Humans: A Publish Your Purpose Anthology book: https://www.left-bank.com/book/9781951591823 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Heather’s Freebies: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/freebies 

In this episode, host Heather Shannon answers sex questions written by Chat GPT! She discusses how to maintain intimacy as couples age, addresses mismatched libidos, and explores whether a decrease in desire is normal during middle age. Heather emphasizes the importance of both personal growth and professional help in improving sexual relationships, and highlights the benefits of seeing a sex therapist. 

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Episode 8: https://youtu.be/rfahLFCxdqM?si=lZUZVJcAs2QcKqof

Episode 81: https://youtu.be/VWxdvPGeHBs?si=-FkhF0PSZioW7b7K 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS77Lcs56l5IgFT2hw_bXIUZ&si=BiV20OtqyKOCIMUj 

Heather’s website: https://heathershannon.co/

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Heather’s Freebies: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/freebies 

Join us in this enlightening episode as we welcome Andrew Gurza, an award-winning disability awareness consultant and co-founder of Bumpin, a sex toy company for disabled people. Andrew shares their journey from academia to becoming a notable figure in disability advocacy, discussing the intersection of sex, disability, and queerness. Learn about the challenges and misconceptions around sex and disability, the importance of sex work for disabled individuals, and the personal experiences that shaped Andrew’s impactful work. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that breaks down taboos and promotes inclusivity.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

This episode is sponsored by Dateability. Find them for on the App Store or on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dateabilityapp/?hl=en 

Andrew’s Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1sojdfQEY2tNio377qM954 

Andrew’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza6/ 

Andrew’s Website: https://www.andrewgurza.com/ 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2qZz2DQoDQ&list=PLNk9UKFYOfS7IlHJYF1jCPJkAaL2llmmr 

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Join Heather in this insightful episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, as she delves into Part 3 of the Pathway to Passion with mental arousal and its role in enhancing intimacy. Learn about the importance of maintaining a sex journal, sharing fantasies, and using non-verbal signals to communicate your desires. Heather provides valuable advice on both mental and physical foreplay techniques, helping to improve communication and passion in your relationship. Don't miss reflections on her 100th episode and exciting future plans!

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Get Heather’s Free “Spicing It Up” Guide! https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/spice

Join Beducated to learn about different types of sex and get inspired ideas! You’ll get a free 24-hour trial to explore the platform before you’re charged and 40% off the annual membership when you use this link. Give it a try–your sex life will thank you! https://beducated.com/?ref=ntg1m2y&utm_source=tapfiliate&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=affiliate&utm_content=ntg1m2y

Pathway to Passion Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NbcJsKfZTo

Pathway to Passion Part 2: https://youtu.be/k8wNbLr0_-4?si=wxahjgaLTTNEL4hC

Ep. 94: How to Have a Threesome with Dr. Kate Balistrieri: https://youtu.be/UAa-U-vePPY?si=8zWQUKJoISLXN7Bj

Ep. 78: Exploring Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine: https://youtu.be/zitVG--ZDPA?si=XapPPDbG9QFSc0pc

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS4L45VVvN_gm4WfiVPozk-S&si=gHE-1WO9DRihn8bX

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