<![CDATA[At Peace Parents Podcast]]>5a957b7e-a541-5b2e-8cf5-cb63ad9696c9Tue, 14 Apr 2026 10:00:16 +0000Captivate.fmCaseyhttps://artwork.captivate.fm/3f153b24-6a51-40b2-ac5f-588f295f0980/Orange-Black-and-White-Modern-Podcast-Cover.jpgAt Peace Parents PodcastCaseyCaseyThe At Peace Parents Podcast is your source for all things related to understanding, supporting, accommodating, and advocating for your demand avoidant or PDA child. It will completely transform the way you think about your PDA child's brain, behavior, and parenting, and support you in finding your path to more peace and stability in the home. For more information see www.atpeaceparents.comhttp://www.atpeaceparents.comfalseepisodichttps://feeds.captivate.fm/at-peace-parents-podcast/nopodcastEp. 158 - Eating and PDA: My Son Only Ate Three Foods (Part 1 of 4)Ep. 158 - Eating and PDA: My Son Only Ate Three Foods (Part 1 of 4)If your child has dropped food after food, won't try new things no matter what you do, and every mealtime feels like a battle — this episode is the first in a four-part series where I get personal.

I'm sharing the story of my oldest son Cooper, who at his lowest point was eating only Honey Nut Cheerios out of a single specific bowl. I walked through grocery store aisles sobbing, frantically looking for protein bars he might eat. I watched him go through the SOS feeding protocol in occupational therapy and add foods only to drop them again. I tried sneaking vitamins into his chocolate milk. Nothing was gaining traction — and I didn't understand why.

In this first episode, I walk you through the years before I had a PDA lens: my own food-focused parenting, the Montessori methods I tried that he refused, the escalating meltdowns around eating, the developmental pediatrician who shamed me for not cooking every meal from scratch, and the moment I finally understood that the root cause of Cooper's eating struggles was not primarily sensory — it was autonomy and equality based.

I also talk about what happened when I stopped the SOS feeding protocol, lowered demands around food, and gave him true autonomy around what, when, and where he ate — and what his eating looks like seven years later.

This episode is for parents currently in the fear of it, for parents whose children have been diagnosed with ARFID or anorexia and haven't responded to traditional approaches, and for feeding therapists and other professionals who are wondering if there is another way to think about what they're seeing.

This is also the first episode in a four-part series. Part 2 covers the logic of viewing eating through a PDA lens. Part 3 covers practical accommodation strategies. Part 4 is tailored specifically to feeding therapy settings.

Key Takeaways

The mango slice that changed everything | 00:07:29 Cooper was about four and a half when he wanted a third or fourth mango slice and I said no. He physically fought me for it, and it escalated into a two-hour screaming meltdown. After that, he refused to eat mango slices entirely — dropping yet another food from his repertoire. That moment was one of the first times I saw the pattern, though I didn't have a framework for it yet.

Why the SOS feeding protocol stopped working | 00:16:05 We started the SOS protocol — a 30-step sensory-based exposure approach — and early on it was progressing. Looking back, I understand now that there was novelty, one-on-one attention, and a lot of autonomy built into the early stages because he didn't have to actually eat anything. But when we moved the protocol into the home during the pandemic, the novelty and dopamine were gone, and the rigid structure became something his nervous system perceived as a demand. He stopped engaging entirely.

Dropping foods rather than expanding them | 00:19:43 The occupational therapist noticed an unusual pattern: every time Cooper added a new adjacent food through sensory bridging, he dropped the one he had previously been eating. His repertoire wasn't expanding — it was staying flat. Through the PDA lens, I later understood that this was him exerting control to get back to nervous system safety: always needing to be in the position of the decider.

The grocery store moment | 00:23:06 I was standing in the aisle of a grocery store frantically picking out protein bars in birthday cake and double fudge brownie flavors, anything I could have in my back pocket for him to potentially eat. I was sobbing. I had watched him drop chocolate milk — his one reliable source of protein. I didn't understand why nothing was working. That moment was when I knew that the frameworks I'd been using didn't apply.

What shifted — and what seven years looks like | 00:26:46 When I finally understood that the root cause was autonomy and equality based — not primarily sensory — I made the decision to stop the SOS protocol, lower demands around food completely, and give him true autonomy: letting him choose what, when, where, and whether he ate, even if that meant Lay's potato chips, Pirate's Booty, and popcorn for almost two years. It was hard. There were moments I reverted, and I could immediately observe his eating reduce. But slowly, he began adding things back. Seven years later he eats carrots, apples, tacos, steak, salmon, pork shoulder, smoothies, pizza, and more — alongside processed food — and he is healthy and growing.

Relevant Resources

What is PDA? — Start here for a foundational overview.

Free Burnout Masterclass — Cooper's eating crisis happened in burnout — learn more about burnout here.

Is My Child PDA? — Take the free survey and/or class to help figure this out.

]]>If your child has dropped food after food, won't try new things no matter what you do, and every mealtime feels like a battle — this episode is the first in a four-part series where I get personal.

I'm sharing the story of my oldest son Cooper, who at his lowest point was eating only Honey Nut Cheerios out of a single specific bowl. I walked through grocery store aisles sobbing, frantically looking for protein bars he might eat. I watched him go through the SOS feeding protocol in occupational therapy and add foods only to drop them again. I tried sneaking vitamins into his chocolate milk. Nothing was gaining traction — and I didn't understand why.

In this first episode, I walk you through the years before I had a PDA lens: my own food-focused parenting, the Montessori methods I tried that he refused, the escalating meltdowns around eating, the developmental pediatrician who shamed me for not cooking every meal from scratch, and the moment I finally understood that the root cause of Cooper's eating struggles was not primarily sensory — it was autonomy and equality based.

I also talk about what happened when I stopped the SOS feeding protocol, lowered demands around food, and gave him true autonomy around what, when, and where he ate — and what his eating looks like seven years later.

This episode is for parents currently in the fear of it, for parents whose children have been diagnosed with ARFID or anorexia and haven't responded to traditional approaches, and for feeding therapists and other professionals who are wondering if there is another way to think about what they're seeing.

This is also the first episode in a four-part series. Part 2 covers the logic of viewing eating through a PDA lens. Part 3 covers practical accommodation strategies. Part 4 is tailored specifically to feeding therapy settings.

Key Takeaways

The mango slice that changed everything | 00:07:29 Cooper was about four and a half when he wanted a third or fourth mango slice and I said no. He physically fought me for it, and it escalated into a two-hour screaming meltdown. After that, he refused to eat mango slices entirely — dropping yet another food from his repertoire. That moment was one of the first times I saw the pattern, though I didn't have a framework for it yet.

Why the SOS feeding protocol stopped working | 00:16:05 We started the SOS protocol — a 30-step sensory-based exposure approach — and early on it was progressing. Looking back, I understand now that there was novelty, one-on-one attention, and a lot of autonomy built into the early stages because he didn't have to actually eat anything. But when we moved the protocol into the home during the pandemic, the novelty and dopamine were gone, and the rigid structure became something his nervous system perceived as a demand. He stopped engaging entirely.

Dropping foods rather than expanding them | 00:19:43 The occupational therapist noticed an unusual pattern: every time Cooper added a new adjacent food through sensory bridging, he dropped the one he had previously been eating. His repertoire wasn't expanding — it was staying flat. Through the PDA lens, I later understood that this was him exerting control to get back to nervous system safety: always needing to be in the position of the decider.

The grocery store moment | 00:23:06 I was standing in the aisle of a grocery store frantically picking out protein bars in birthday cake and double fudge brownie flavors, anything I could have in my back pocket for him to potentially eat. I was sobbing. I had watched him drop chocolate milk — his one reliable source of protein. I didn't understand why nothing was working. That moment was when I knew that the frameworks I'd been using didn't apply.

What shifted — and what seven years looks like | 00:26:46 When I finally understood that the root cause was autonomy and equality based — not primarily sensory — I made the decision to stop the SOS protocol, lower demands around food completely, and give him true autonomy: letting him choose what, when, where, and whether he ate, even if that meant Lay's potato chips, Pirate's Booty, and popcorn for almost two years. It was hard. There were moments I reverted, and I could immediately observe his eating reduce. But slowly, he began adding things back. Seven years later he eats carrots, apples, tacos, steak, salmon, pork shoulder, smoothies, pizza, and more — alongside processed food — and he is healthy and growing.

Relevant Resources

What is PDA? — Start here for a foundational overview.

Free Burnout Masterclass — Cooper's eating crisis happened in burnout — learn more about burnout here.

Is My Child PDA? — Take the free survey and/or class to help figure this out.

]]>95e2ad69-f4fc-493c-8e9a-2fec84f035caTue, 14 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -040037:23falsefull11581581Ep. 157 - Getting Husband and Parents On Board with Pathological Demand AvoidanceEp. 157 - Getting Husband and Parents On Board with Pathological Demand AvoidanceIn this episode, I coach Danielle, a mom from North Idaho who is newer to the PDA lens and has already been making progress with her almost nine-year-old son — but is running into resistance from her husband and her parents, who help with caregiving. Her son has existing diagnoses of ADHD, sensory processing disorder, and disorganized attachment, and was adopted from South Korea. Since discovering PDA a few months ago, Danielle says everything clicked in a way that previous frameworks hadn't.

Her question: how do you get the other adults in your child's life on board — and how do you trust yourself — when the people around you see things through a lens of disrespect and shame?

We talk through why PDA is so hard for other adults to believe, especially because of masking and the fact that the child's most intense behaviors tend to happen with the safest person in the home. I walk Danielle through the PLATO framework for making nonviolent communication requests — specifically, how to make a concrete, bounded request of her parents and husband without needing them to believe in PDA at all. We also talk about how to track three observable indicators — connection, nervous system activation, and access to basic needs — so that the approach becomes an experiment with data rather than a philosophical debate.

Danielle also shares a moment where her son described what it feels like in his body when he's activated: "like a big animal trapped in a small cage, and all I can do is fight to get out." And she shares that he has already started using the language of regulation and dysregulation on his own.

Key Takeaways

  1. Why the primary caregiver is usually leading the charge [00:02:02] I normalize the pattern Danielle is describing — where the primary caregiver, usually the woman in the home, is leading the charge on PDA because she feels the nervous system cost of demands and boundaries viscerally, while other adults don't have the same day-to-day experience.
  2. Why PDA is so hard for other adults to believe [00:08:31] I explain why PDA is especially hard for other adults to get on board with: because of masking, the child may appear fine or even well-attached in settings outside the home, which leads observers to conclude that the parent is a pushover — rather than recognizing that the child is internalizing the threat response and that activation is still accumulating.
  3. Using the PLATO framework with grandparents [00:17:04] I walk Danielle through the PLATO framework (Person, Location, Action, Timing, Object) for making a nonviolent communication request to her parents — specifically, asking them not to step in when her son says rude things at the dinner table. I explain that the request doesn't require them to believe in PDA; it only asks whether they're willing to try something for a bounded period of time.
  4. Turning a skeptical spouse into an experiment partner [00:34:52] I discuss how to approach Danielle's husband, who has been resistant and told her to stop "putting labels" on their son's behavior. I suggest framing it as a two-week experiment: asking him to view the behavior through the PDA lens and track three observable indicators — connection, nervous system activation, and access to basic needs — so the conversation is grounded in data rather than diagnosis.
  5. A child names his own threat response [00:50:26] Danielle shares that her son has already begun using the language of dysregulation and regulation on his own — and that when she asked him what it feels like in his body when he gets upset, he told her: "It feels like I'm a big animal trapped in a small cage, and all I can do is fight to get out."

]]>In this episode, I coach Danielle, a mom from North Idaho who is newer to the PDA lens and has already been making progress with her almost nine-year-old son — but is running into resistance from her husband and her parents, who help with caregiving. Her son has existing diagnoses of ADHD, sensory processing disorder, and disorganized attachment, and was adopted from South Korea. Since discovering PDA a few months ago, Danielle says everything clicked in a way that previous frameworks hadn't.

Her question: how do you get the other adults in your child's life on board — and how do you trust yourself — when the people around you see things through a lens of disrespect and shame?

We talk through why PDA is so hard for other adults to believe, especially because of masking and the fact that the child's most intense behaviors tend to happen with the safest person in the home. I walk Danielle through the PLATO framework for making nonviolent communication requests — specifically, how to make a concrete, bounded request of her parents and husband without needing them to believe in PDA at all. We also talk about how to track three observable indicators — connection, nervous system activation, and access to basic needs — so that the approach becomes an experiment with data rather than a philosophical debate.

Danielle also shares a moment where her son described what it feels like in his body when he's activated: "like a big animal trapped in a small cage, and all I can do is fight to get out." And she shares that he has already started using the language of regulation and dysregulation on his own.

Key Takeaways

  1. Why the primary caregiver is usually leading the charge [00:02:02] I normalize the pattern Danielle is describing — where the primary caregiver, usually the woman in the home, is leading the charge on PDA because she feels the nervous system cost of demands and boundaries viscerally, while other adults don't have the same day-to-day experience.
  2. Why PDA is so hard for other adults to believe [00:08:31] I explain why PDA is especially hard for other adults to get on board with: because of masking, the child may appear fine or even well-attached in settings outside the home, which leads observers to conclude that the parent is a pushover — rather than recognizing that the child is internalizing the threat response and that activation is still accumulating.
  3. Using the PLATO framework with grandparents [00:17:04] I walk Danielle through the PLATO framework (Person, Location, Action, Timing, Object) for making a nonviolent communication request to her parents — specifically, asking them not to step in when her son says rude things at the dinner table. I explain that the request doesn't require them to believe in PDA; it only asks whether they're willing to try something for a bounded period of time.
  4. Turning a skeptical spouse into an experiment partner [00:34:52] I discuss how to approach Danielle's husband, who has been resistant and told her to stop "putting labels" on their son's behavior. I suggest framing it as a two-week experiment: asking him to view the behavior through the PDA lens and track three observable indicators — connection, nervous system activation, and access to basic needs — so the conversation is grounded in data rather than diagnosis.
  5. A child names his own threat response [00:50:26] Danielle shares that her son has already begun using the language of dysregulation and regulation on his own — and that when she asked him what it feels like in his body when he gets upset, he told her: "It feels like I'm a big animal trapped in a small cage, and all I can do is fight to get out."

]]>40b7915e-f285-40e3-b133-95d768b7ef6fTue, 07 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -040055:40falsefull11571571Ep. 156 - Parenting Pathologically Demand Avoidant Twins: Socialization, Equalizing, and Radical AcceptanceEp. 156 - Parenting Pathologically Demand Avoidant Twins: Socialization, Equalizing, and Radical AcceptanceIn this episode, I coach Pam, a mom from Vancouver Island, British Columbia, who has 10-year-old fraternal twin boys — both PDA and autistic, one also with ADHD — plus a younger neurotypical child. Pam's family has been working within the PDA framework for four to five years, recently moved to access a better school, and has found meaningful stability — but Pam is wrestling with a question that so many parents in this community know well: what does socialization look like for a PDA child, and how do I help my son build connections outside the house when his nervous system makes it so hard?

We dig into the differences between her two boys — one who masks well and is more capable socially but has recently been struggling more, and one who visibly wants connection but whose nervous system seems to disable him from accessing it. We talk about the role of the twin dynamic in cumulative nervous system activation, what it looks like to use equality accommodations intentionally — including what I call "therapeutic equalizing" — and why Pam might consider deconstructing what social connection can look like for each boy individually.

We also spend real time on the harder, more personal territory: the razor's edge between radical acceptance and belief in growth, sitting with the pain of watching your kids struggle, what it means to track the right indicators of progress (nervous system activation, access to basic needs, connection with safe people), and the grief that comes with having to let go of the life and identity you thought you'd have. Pam is thoughtful, honest, and deeply self-aware — and this conversation is one I think a lot of families will recognize themselves in.

Key Takeaways

The Twin Dynamic and Cumulative Activation | 00:08:00 Pam describes how her boys go to school on opposite days because they can't both be there at the same time — and how the twin dynamic itself creates a source of cumulative nervous system activation. When one twin is more dominant, the other may move into freeze or shutdown rather than fight or flight, still accumulating stress even without visible behavioral signs.

Deconstruct What Socialization Looks Like | 00:24:27 I suggest separating expectations for each twin individually. For Desmond, I raise the idea of thinking about socializing one or two steps below the cultural ideal — parallel play, connections through special interests, virtual parallel play, connections with animals, and strengthening family relationships — rather than holding the goal of reciprocal friendships as the primary measure.

"Therapeutic Equalizing" as a Starting Point | 00:30:12 I describe what I would want for Desmond if I had a "magic wand": an hour or two each day with someone who would follow his lead, allow him to correct and criticize during play, and respond with self-deprecating humor, silliness, and total acceptance — what I call therapeutic equalizing. I note this often has to start with the parent, and that it's hard and painful.

Tracking the Right Indicators of Progress | 00:36:30 Rather than measuring progress by academic success or friend count, I walk through the three indicators I use: nervous system activation, access to basic needs, and connection and engagement with safe people. I explain that as new demands are added back in — like a school or a move — some indicators may slow without meaning the child is going backward overall.

Radical Acceptance Doesn't Mean Accepting the Future | 00:39:46 I share two things that help me with radical acceptance: remembering it only applies to the present moment (not the future, which is still at play), and distinguishing between the pain itself and the story we layer on top of it. Pam and I also talk about the grief that comes from losing a former identity and what it means to find meaning within the constraints of this life.

Relevant Resources

Tracking Progress — Learn how to measure progress in a PDA child's nervous system.

Finding Meaning — For parents navigating grief and identity loss alongside PDA.

What Is PDA — A foundational overview of PDA as a nervous system disability.

]]>In this episode, I coach Pam, a mom from Vancouver Island, British Columbia, who has 10-year-old fraternal twin boys — both PDA and autistic, one also with ADHD — plus a younger neurotypical child. Pam's family has been working within the PDA framework for four to five years, recently moved to access a better school, and has found meaningful stability — but Pam is wrestling with a question that so many parents in this community know well: what does socialization look like for a PDA child, and how do I help my son build connections outside the house when his nervous system makes it so hard?

We dig into the differences between her two boys — one who masks well and is more capable socially but has recently been struggling more, and one who visibly wants connection but whose nervous system seems to disable him from accessing it. We talk about the role of the twin dynamic in cumulative nervous system activation, what it looks like to use equality accommodations intentionally — including what I call "therapeutic equalizing" — and why Pam might consider deconstructing what social connection can look like for each boy individually.

We also spend real time on the harder, more personal territory: the razor's edge between radical acceptance and belief in growth, sitting with the pain of watching your kids struggle, what it means to track the right indicators of progress (nervous system activation, access to basic needs, connection with safe people), and the grief that comes with having to let go of the life and identity you thought you'd have. Pam is thoughtful, honest, and deeply self-aware — and this conversation is one I think a lot of families will recognize themselves in.

Key Takeaways

The Twin Dynamic and Cumulative Activation | 00:08:00 Pam describes how her boys go to school on opposite days because they can't both be there at the same time — and how the twin dynamic itself creates a source of cumulative nervous system activation. When one twin is more dominant, the other may move into freeze or shutdown rather than fight or flight, still accumulating stress even without visible behavioral signs.

Deconstruct What Socialization Looks Like | 00:24:27 I suggest separating expectations for each twin individually. For Desmond, I raise the idea of thinking about socializing one or two steps below the cultural ideal — parallel play, connections through special interests, virtual parallel play, connections with animals, and strengthening family relationships — rather than holding the goal of reciprocal friendships as the primary measure.

"Therapeutic Equalizing" as a Starting Point | 00:30:12 I describe what I would want for Desmond if I had a "magic wand": an hour or two each day with someone who would follow his lead, allow him to correct and criticize during play, and respond with self-deprecating humor, silliness, and total acceptance — what I call therapeutic equalizing. I note this often has to start with the parent, and that it's hard and painful.

Tracking the Right Indicators of Progress | 00:36:30 Rather than measuring progress by academic success or friend count, I walk through the three indicators I use: nervous system activation, access to basic needs, and connection and engagement with safe people. I explain that as new demands are added back in — like a school or a move — some indicators may slow without meaning the child is going backward overall.

Radical Acceptance Doesn't Mean Accepting the Future | 00:39:46 I share two things that help me with radical acceptance: remembering it only applies to the present moment (not the future, which is still at play), and distinguishing between the pain itself and the story we layer on top of it. Pam and I also talk about the grief that comes from losing a former identity and what it means to find meaning within the constraints of this life.

Relevant Resources

Tracking Progress — Learn how to measure progress in a PDA child's nervous system.

Finding Meaning — For parents navigating grief and identity loss alongside PDA.

What Is PDA — A foundational overview of PDA as a nervous system disability.

]]>fa4aa8b5-8bbd-4122-bc19-bbe7c4d110c7Tue, 31 Mar 2026 11:20:00 -040054:31falsefull11561561Ep. 155 - When Twins Progress Differently With Pathological Demand AvoidanceEp. 155 - When Twins Progress Differently With Pathological Demand AvoidanceIn this episode I speak with Pam, a mother of twin PDA 10-year-olds and a third younger sibling.

Pam has been parenting through a PDA lens for years, but one of the twins is having a harder time than the other. We talked about ways to support him, as well as mindsets that can help Pam when she worries that progress is moving slowly, and feels grief.

These are experiences common to most if not all parents of PDAers, and I am sure her story will resonate with many listeners.

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>In this episode I speak with Pam, a mother of twin PDA 10-year-olds and a third younger sibling.

Pam has been parenting through a PDA lens for years, but one of the twins is having a harder time than the other. We talked about ways to support him, as well as mindsets that can help Pam when she worries that progress is moving slowly, and feels grief.

These are experiences common to most if not all parents of PDAers, and I am sure her story will resonate with many listeners.

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>1319e25f-4e05-4430-bb75-f961f6e36305Tue, 24 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -040001:01:31falsefull11551551Ep. 154 - Entrepreneurship and Pathological Demand AvoidanceEp. 154 - Entrepreneurship and Pathological Demand AvoidanceIn this episode I speak with Christopher Deutsch, a PDA angel investor about his own life and the how some of the common traits of PDA can be beneficial to a career in entrepreneurialism.

I loved having this conversation, and hope you'll enjoy listening!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>In this episode I speak with Christopher Deutsch, a PDA angel investor about his own life and the how some of the common traits of PDA can be beneficial to a career in entrepreneurialism.

I loved having this conversation, and hope you'll enjoy listening!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>7f56873d-3511-47be-8ac7-689bf718323cTue, 17 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -040001:11:35falsefull11541541Ep. 153 - Helping Mom With Substance Abuse of Teen with Pathological Demand AvoidanceEp. 153 - Helping Mom With Substance Abuse of Teen with Pathological Demand AvoidanceIn this episode I speak with a mom about her 17 year old PDA son's substance abuse, as well as his near constant presence in the family living room and the impact this has on their household.

We talk through the mother's preference for her son to be home and physically safe -- instead of out and in danger, as he has been in the past -- and the cost of this for her and their family.

We discuss all of this in the context of the son recently earning his GED and wanting to get a job. I hope you find the conversation helpful.

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>In this episode I speak with a mom about her 17 year old PDA son's substance abuse, as well as his near constant presence in the family living room and the impact this has on their household.

We talk through the mother's preference for her son to be home and physically safe -- instead of out and in danger, as he has been in the past -- and the cost of this for her and their family.

We discuss all of this in the context of the son recently earning his GED and wanting to get a job. I hope you find the conversation helpful.

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>fca9eab9-9dde-41bf-979b-ba67dc6ce999Tue, 10 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -040045:29falsefull11531531Ep. 152 - Hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 3Ep. 152 - Hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 3This is the third episode of our three-part series on navigating hygiene with your PDA child or teen. (Pathological Demand Avoidance/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)

In this episode, I talk through practical strategies to support a PDA child or teen with the following:

  1. Bathing and Showering
  2. Hair Washing
  3. Hair Brushing
  4. Nail Clipping
  5. Hand Washing
  6. Getting Dressed

I also discuss the logic of why accessing hygiene is difficult of some PDA children and teens, help you prioritize which hygiene practices *actually* matter to health and well-being and which you may be able to let go, and provide tons of examples of how to use accommodations such as:

  1. Lowering demands
  2. Autonomy
  3. Equality
  4. Novelty

I hope this episode lowers your stress level as a parent and gives you creative ideas to experiment with as you provide caregiving to your PDA child or teen!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>This is the third episode of our three-part series on navigating hygiene with your PDA child or teen. (Pathological Demand Avoidance/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)

In this episode, I talk through practical strategies to support a PDA child or teen with the following:

  1. Bathing and Showering
  2. Hair Washing
  3. Hair Brushing
  4. Nail Clipping
  5. Hand Washing
  6. Getting Dressed

I also discuss the logic of why accessing hygiene is difficult of some PDA children and teens, help you prioritize which hygiene practices *actually* matter to health and well-being and which you may be able to let go, and provide tons of examples of how to use accommodations such as:

  1. Lowering demands
  2. Autonomy
  3. Equality
  4. Novelty

I hope this episode lowers your stress level as a parent and gives you creative ideas to experiment with as you provide caregiving to your PDA child or teen!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>6de3158c-446d-4ca3-bc34-efb11de4c67eFri, 06 Mar 2026 07:35:00 -040001:01:19falsefull11521521Ep. 151 - Teeth Brushing, Dentists and Pathological Demand AvoidanceEp. 151 - Teeth Brushing, Dentists and Pathological Demand AvoidanceThis is the second episode in our three-part series on hygiene and PDA. In this episode we deep dive on helping your PDA child or teen go to the dentist and brush their teeth.

Specifically, we support parents (and therapists) to understand:

  1. Why teeth brushing and going to the dentist are so difficult for PDA children and teens
  2. Practical tips they can use to help a PDA child or teen access teeth brushing
  3. Specific examples of how to use autonomy, equality, lowered demands, novelty, and humor to support a PDA child or teen's teeth brushing
  4. Strategies and example scripts to use when speaking to the dentist or dental hygienist before your child or teen goes to their next appointment.

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>This is the second episode in our three-part series on hygiene and PDA. In this episode we deep dive on helping your PDA child or teen go to the dentist and brush their teeth.

Specifically, we support parents (and therapists) to understand:

  1. Why teeth brushing and going to the dentist are so difficult for PDA children and teens
  2. Practical tips they can use to help a PDA child or teen access teeth brushing
  3. Specific examples of how to use autonomy, equality, lowered demands, novelty, and humor to support a PDA child or teen's teeth brushing
  4. Strategies and example scripts to use when speaking to the dentist or dental hygienist before your child or teen goes to their next appointment.

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>26b3c505-278f-4bd7-960d-c70f6e88671eTue, 03 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -040050:25falsefull11511511Ep. 150 - Hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 1Ep. 150 - Hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 1This is the first of three episodes about hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance.

In this episode I focused on how to think about PDA and hygiene struggles, and understanding the root cause of struggles around:

  1. Teeth brushing
  2. Going to the dentist
  3. Showering and bathing
  4. Hair washing
  5. Hand washing
  6. Nail clipping
  7. Hair cutting
  8. Getting dressed

More specifically, in this episode I talk through:

  1. The Deep Why behind hygiene struggles
  2. Sensory vs. Autonomy as a root cause of avoidance
  3. The cumulative nature of PDA and control coalescing around a basic need (in this case hygiene)
  4. Discernment - Asking yourself the right questions about burnout and whether hygiene is the "stickiest" basic need for your child or teen.
  5. Decision-making around boundaries before we worry about accommodations

I hope you find the show helpful. I'll release two more episodes on hygiene soon!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>This is the first of three episodes about hygiene and Pathological Demand Avoidance.

In this episode I focused on how to think about PDA and hygiene struggles, and understanding the root cause of struggles around:

  1. Teeth brushing
  2. Going to the dentist
  3. Showering and bathing
  4. Hair washing
  5. Hand washing
  6. Nail clipping
  7. Hair cutting
  8. Getting dressed

More specifically, in this episode I talk through:

  1. The Deep Why behind hygiene struggles
  2. Sensory vs. Autonomy as a root cause of avoidance
  3. The cumulative nature of PDA and control coalescing around a basic need (in this case hygiene)
  4. Discernment - Asking yourself the right questions about burnout and whether hygiene is the "stickiest" basic need for your child or teen.
  5. Decision-making around boundaries before we worry about accommodations

I hope you find the show helpful. I'll release two more episodes on hygiene soon!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>9ad366ba-3c31-4908-8219-f2318e7fa2a6Fri, 27 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040054:50falsefull11501501Ep. 149 - Mom Can't Get To Her Bedroom Without Causing A Meltdown For 10-Year-Old PDAerEp. 149 - Mom Can't Get To Her Bedroom Without Causing A Meltdown For 10-Year-Old PDAerIn this episode I coach a mom of a 10-year-old PDAer who is in burnout (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). The child loves to cook and bake but has a meltdown if family members clean up after her while she’s in the kitchen.

She also melts down if others pass by her bedroom on the way to their own, which her mom has to do if she’s going to clean the kitchen after her daughter leaves.

We talked through if Obsessive Compulsive Disorder was also present, but decided to focus on working through the PDA lens.

We then used our decision making framework to determine how the mother could manage their bedtime routine in a way that would be more pleasant for everyone.

I hope you find the conversations helpful. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays at 1pm ET.

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>In this episode I coach a mom of a 10-year-old PDAer who is in burnout (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). The child loves to cook and bake but has a meltdown if family members clean up after her while she’s in the kitchen.

She also melts down if others pass by her bedroom on the way to their own, which her mom has to do if she’s going to clean the kitchen after her daughter leaves.

We talked through if Obsessive Compulsive Disorder was also present, but decided to focus on working through the PDA lens.

We then used our decision making framework to determine how the mother could manage their bedtime routine in a way that would be more pleasant for everyone.

I hope you find the conversations helpful. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays at 1pm ET.

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>d838023d-0263-4523-9710-b0e1bcc51244Tue, 24 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040046:44falsefull11491491Ep. 148 - Tips for Parenting Your Pathologically Demand Avoidant Teen - Part 2Ep. 148 - Tips for Parenting Your Pathologically Demand Avoidant Teen - Part 2In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.

This is the second of two episodes in which Donna and I discussed this topic. In the first episode we covered five of her tips, and in this episode we cover five more.

Here they are:

  1. Reflect on success
  2. Normalize discomfort and fear
  3. Let go of future fears
  4. Pause social media as needed
  5. Breathe -- you're doing great!

I hope you find our conversation helpful!

PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

]]>In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.

This is the second of two episodes in which Donna and I discussed this topic. In the first episode we covered five of her tips, and in this episode we cover five more.

Here they are:

  1. Reflect on success
  2. Normalize discomfort and fear
  3. Let go of future fears
  4. Pause social media as needed
  5. Breathe -- you're doing great!

I hope you find our conversation helpful!

PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

]]>c9b00cbd-e082-415f-a319-26f150851964Fri, 20 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040024:53falsefull11481481Ep. 147 - Tips for Parenting Your Pathologically Demand Avoidant Teen - Part 1Ep. 147 - Tips for Parenting Your Pathologically Demand Avoidant Teen - Part 1In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.

We cover five of her tips in this episode and will release another episode soon with five more.

Here's the first five:

  1. Try to keep autonomy and equality at the forefront
  2. Shift from parent to mentor-friend
  3. Be vulnerable and transparent
  4. Release the pressure to figure it all out
  5. Redefine regression

I hope you find our conversation helpful!

PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

]]>In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.

We cover five of her tips in this episode and will release another episode soon with five more.

Here's the first five:

  1. Try to keep autonomy and equality at the forefront
  2. Shift from parent to mentor-friend
  3. Be vulnerable and transparent
  4. Release the pressure to figure it all out
  5. Redefine regression

I hope you find our conversation helpful!

PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

]]>737e3f43-6662-47b6-9fca-39c343040ba2Tue, 17 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040037:22falsefull11471471Ep. 146 - 10 Misconceptions About Pathological Demand AvoidanceEp. 146 - 10 Misconceptions About Pathological Demand AvoidanceIn this episode Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Klein and I discuss ten common misconceptions about Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy.

Here are five from Dr. Klein:

  1. The parent of a PDAer is doing something wrong, especially if they've lowered demands.
  2. If a PDA child did something yesterday, they can do it again today.
  3. Accommodations won’t prepare PDA kids for the real world.
  4. Progress made by a PDA child is measured by what we see on the surface.
  5. Behaviorism (behavioral parenting) will be enough.

And here are five from me, in strong collaboration with my PDA 11- and 7-year-olds:

  1. PDA kids are bad kids.
  2. How much freedom PDA kids need.
  3. It's not behavioral, it's stress.
  4. Why and when they can hide nervous system stress.
  5. Potatoes are green and they smell like poop :)

I hope the episode is helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>In this episode Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Klein and I discuss ten common misconceptions about Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy.

Here are five from Dr. Klein:

  1. The parent of a PDAer is doing something wrong, especially if they've lowered demands.
  2. If a PDA child did something yesterday, they can do it again today.
  3. Accommodations won’t prepare PDA kids for the real world.
  4. Progress made by a PDA child is measured by what we see on the surface.
  5. Behaviorism (behavioral parenting) will be enough.

And here are five from me, in strong collaboration with my PDA 11- and 7-year-olds:

  1. PDA kids are bad kids.
  2. How much freedom PDA kids need.
  3. It's not behavioral, it's stress.
  4. Why and when they can hide nervous system stress.
  5. Potatoes are green and they smell like poop :)

I hope the episode is helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>c9374857-fa98-422f-aa52-946514e69b48Fri, 13 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040059:32falsefull11461461Ep. 145 - Toilet Training and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 3Ep. 145 - Toilet Training and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 3This episode is for parents who are interested in toilet training in a PDA-informed way.

This the third episode in my three-part series on toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance.

In this episode I cover toilet/potty training with your PDA child or teen. Specifically, I cover the following:

  1. Is my child or teen in a good place for toilet training?
  2. Story of toilet training my older son before I knew of PDA, and why I think it still worked (spoiler - we intuitively did a lot of accommodating).
  3. 10 tips for if and when you decide to toilet train your PDA child or teen.

I hope this is helpful for you and your family.

xoxo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>This episode is for parents who are interested in toilet training in a PDA-informed way.

This the third episode in my three-part series on toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance.

In this episode I cover toilet/potty training with your PDA child or teen. Specifically, I cover the following:

  1. Is my child or teen in a good place for toilet training?
  2. Story of toilet training my older son before I knew of PDA, and why I think it still worked (spoiler - we intuitively did a lot of accommodating).
  3. 10 tips for if and when you decide to toilet train your PDA child or teen.

I hope this is helpful for you and your family.

xoxo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>175a792c-01c8-4041-ae2f-c52566daaeaeTue, 10 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040054:18falsefull11451451Ep. 144 - Helping Your PDA Child or Teen Get to A Doctor's AppointmentEp. 144 - Helping Your PDA Child or Teen Get to A Doctor's AppointmentIn this episode, I spoke to a grandmother raising her 8-year-old PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) Autistic grandson who she had been homeschooling for a year-and-a-half after school trauma in first grade.

We discussed:

- Helping her grandson attend an in-person appointment with the pediatrician, so he could get a refill of his medication.

- The different approaches she could take to decide her actions in this tough situation.

- The fear of losing trust and the progress they have made by forcing him to the doctor's office.

- Experimenting with ideas for how to prepare her grandson for the doctor's visit with an indirect mode of communications, and how to leverage his special interest of elevators to support him accessing medical care.

We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. It's from our live show "Parenting PDA Your Way" that I host on our social media at 1pm ET on Fridays.

Warmly,

Casey

PS - The grandma in this episode mentions our Paradigm Shift Program. Want to join the waitlist for the next cohort? Here's the link.

]]>In this episode, I spoke to a grandmother raising her 8-year-old PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) Autistic grandson who she had been homeschooling for a year-and-a-half after school trauma in first grade.

We discussed:

- Helping her grandson attend an in-person appointment with the pediatrician, so he could get a refill of his medication.

- The different approaches she could take to decide her actions in this tough situation.

- The fear of losing trust and the progress they have made by forcing him to the doctor's office.

- Experimenting with ideas for how to prepare her grandson for the doctor's visit with an indirect mode of communications, and how to leverage his special interest of elevators to support him accessing medical care.

We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. It's from our live show "Parenting PDA Your Way" that I host on our social media at 1pm ET on Fridays.

Warmly,

Casey

PS - The grandma in this episode mentions our Paradigm Shift Program. Want to join the waitlist for the next cohort? Here's the link.

]]>2ae1ef72-0b37-47d5-a748-770a53bc7593Fri, 06 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040052:04falsefull11441441Ep. 143 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 2Ep. 143 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 2This is my second of three episodes about toileting and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy).

This episode is focused on what to do if your child has challenges with:

1 - Wiping

2 - Accidents

3 - Holding and constipation

4 - Pooping outside the toilet

5 - Peeing outside the toilet

Of course, I'm talking through taking a PDA/nervous system approach to helping your child or teen with these challenges. If you want to take a deeper dive into understanding why your PDA child or teen has these challenges, please check out my previous podcast episode (Ep. 142).

Also, in this episode I mention the decision making process I teach parents who are trying to decide when they should change their child or teen's diaper if doing so causes activation. If you want to learn more about making such decisions (or others), I teach how to do so in my free masterclass: School, Screens and Siblings, Oh My! Here's a link to where you can sign up for it for free:

https://at-peace-parents-podcast.captivate.fm/sssoh

xo,

Casey

]]>This is my second of three episodes about toileting and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy).

This episode is focused on what to do if your child has challenges with:

1 - Wiping

2 - Accidents

3 - Holding and constipation

4 - Pooping outside the toilet

5 - Peeing outside the toilet

Of course, I'm talking through taking a PDA/nervous system approach to helping your child or teen with these challenges. If you want to take a deeper dive into understanding why your PDA child or teen has these challenges, please check out my previous podcast episode (Ep. 142).

Also, in this episode I mention the decision making process I teach parents who are trying to decide when they should change their child or teen's diaper if doing so causes activation. If you want to learn more about making such decisions (or others), I teach how to do so in my free masterclass: School, Screens and Siblings, Oh My! Here's a link to where you can sign up for it for free:

https://at-peace-parents-podcast.captivate.fm/sssoh

xo,

Casey

]]>be1d650e-3f02-4974-a065-c1eee2a1689aTue, 03 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -040047:26falsefull11431431Ep. 142 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 1Ep. 142 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance - Part 1This is my first of three episodes about toileting and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy).

This episode is focused on how to think about toileting over the long term with your PDA child or teen. Specifically, I talk through:

1 - Your questions in the following categories: wiping, holding and constipation, potty training, going outside the toilet, and accidents

2 - Logic and root cause of toileting struggles through the PDA lens

3 - What a stickiest basic need is and whether or not your child is in burnout

4 - 5 things to try in your home now

5 - Tracking progress so you can see clearly if this approach is helping your child

I hope it’s a helpful episode for you.

Xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>This is my first of three episodes about toileting and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy).

This episode is focused on how to think about toileting over the long term with your PDA child or teen. Specifically, I talk through:

1 - Your questions in the following categories: wiping, holding and constipation, potty training, going outside the toilet, and accidents

2 - Logic and root cause of toileting struggles through the PDA lens

3 - What a stickiest basic need is and whether or not your child is in burnout

4 - 5 things to try in your home now

5 - Tracking progress so you can see clearly if this approach is helping your child

I hope it’s a helpful episode for you.

Xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

]]>9b05e6fe-6e5f-4cd9-a043-6433c477cfe3Fri, 30 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -040032:53falsefull11421421Ep. 141 - Getting Started Parenting Your PDAerEp. 141 - Getting Started Parenting Your PDAerIn this episode I spoke with a mom of a 4-year-old PDAer (Pathological Demand Avoidant) and a 10-month-old baby living in an apartment in Scotland.

She had just learned about PDA one month ago and had already made huge and brave changes in her home and parenting to support he son.

We discussed:

- How to start making a parenting paradigm shift if you are new to PDA.

- The importance of an experimental mindset as you are trying out new ways of supporting and accommodating your PDA child.

- How to pick your priorities for boundaries in the home. In this case we focused on safety around the baby, bedtime, and bathing once a week.

- How nervous system activation is cumulative over time (months and years) for PDA children and teens, which means we don't have to be perfect with accommodations, just consistent.

This episode is from the show we stream live on Fridays on our social media, "Parenting PDA Your Way." I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

With love,

Casey

Mentioned in this episode:

Want to check out our special "Try Before You Buy" offer for the Paradigm Shift Program. Use the link below to learn more and join the program waitlist to get access to the offer.

Paradigm Shift Program

]]>In this episode I spoke with a mom of a 4-year-old PDAer (Pathological Demand Avoidant) and a 10-month-old baby living in an apartment in Scotland.

She had just learned about PDA one month ago and had already made huge and brave changes in her home and parenting to support he son.

We discussed:

- How to start making a parenting paradigm shift if you are new to PDA.

- The importance of an experimental mindset as you are trying out new ways of supporting and accommodating your PDA child.

- How to pick your priorities for boundaries in the home. In this case we focused on safety around the baby, bedtime, and bathing once a week.

- How nervous system activation is cumulative over time (months and years) for PDA children and teens, which means we don't have to be perfect with accommodations, just consistent.

This episode is from the show we stream live on Fridays on our social media, "Parenting PDA Your Way." I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

With love,

Casey

Mentioned in this episode:

Want to check out our special "Try Before You Buy" offer for the Paradigm Shift Program. Use the link below to learn more and join the program waitlist to get access to the offer.

Paradigm Shift Program

]]>64ec98ef-54e6-4ec6-82a4-d216ddb6abc3Wed, 28 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -040056:54falsefull11411411Ep. 140 - Sorcha Rice - Occupational Therapist and Clinical Manager for Neurodiversity IrelandEp. 140 - Sorcha Rice - Occupational Therapist and Clinical Manager for Neurodiversity IrelandSorcha Rice is an occupational therapist and the clinical manager of Neurodiversity Ireland, who I met at their 1st conference last year. She identifies as AuDHD and PDA and spoke with me about how she understands and experiences PDA, what her childhood and teen years were like before she was diagnosed, going through burnout and recovery, how she manages her nervous system now, and some of the practices she incorporates to support her PDA occupational therapy clients.

It was wonderful to connect with Sorcha and hear her insights and so much of her story!

I hope you enjoy it too.

Xoxo,

Casey

PS - You can find more about Sorcha on instagram at both @ot_sorcharice and @neurodiversityireland

And in our conversation she also recommended a resource for other OTs - Kim Barthel.

]]>Sorcha Rice is an occupational therapist and the clinical manager of Neurodiversity Ireland, who I met at their 1st conference last year. She identifies as AuDHD and PDA and spoke with me about how she understands and experiences PDA, what her childhood and teen years were like before she was diagnosed, going through burnout and recovery, how she manages her nervous system now, and some of the practices she incorporates to support her PDA occupational therapy clients.

It was wonderful to connect with Sorcha and hear her insights and so much of her story!

I hope you enjoy it too.

Xoxo,

Casey

PS - You can find more about Sorcha on instagram at both @ot_sorcharice and @neurodiversityireland

And in our conversation she also recommended a resource for other OTs - Kim Barthel.

]]>c89296cf-4fd8-4c42-b0bd-262fa85dd6a1Fri, 23 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -040050:20falsefull11401401Ep. 139 - PDA Child Is Unable To Eat Or Drink Because Of Loose ToothEp. 139 - PDA Child Is Unable To Eat Or Drink Because Of Loose ToothIn this episode I speak with a mom of a six-year-old PDAer who wouldn't eat or drink and was extremely dysregulated during a holiday because of a loose tooth.

We discussed:

1 - how internal demands and losses of autonomy like losing a tooth matter as much as external demands.

2 - the importance of understanding PDA as a fluctuating nervous system disability.

3 - creative ideas for deepening accommodations the next time there is a loose tooth.

I hope you find the episode helpful. It's from the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays, Parenting PDA Your Way.

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with a mom of a six-year-old PDAer who wouldn't eat or drink and was extremely dysregulated during a holiday because of a loose tooth.

We discussed:

1 - how internal demands and losses of autonomy like losing a tooth matter as much as external demands.

2 - the importance of understanding PDA as a fluctuating nervous system disability.

3 - creative ideas for deepening accommodations the next time there is a loose tooth.

I hope you find the episode helpful. It's from the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays, Parenting PDA Your Way.

xo,

Casey

]]>dcef32cc-750e-45b0-9aba-f54172aaf72eWed, 21 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -040056:18falsefull11391391Ep. 138 - The 10 Hardest Lessons I Learned in 2025 As A Mom of 2 PDA Kids (Part 2)Ep. 138 - The 10 Hardest Lessons I Learned in 2025 As A Mom of 2 PDA Kids (Part 2)Here's part 2 of my episode on the 10 hardest lessons I learned in 2025. They include:

6 - Your PDA child can go into burnout even if you're fully accommodating them.

7 - Burnout can feel like you are making no progress, especially with an internalizer.

8 - Screens can be a wonderful thing.

9 - Your kids will surprise you.

10 - Spirituality sustained me.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Here's part 2 of my episode on the 10 hardest lessons I learned in 2025. They include:

6 - Your PDA child can go into burnout even if you're fully accommodating them.

7 - Burnout can feel like you are making no progress, especially with an internalizer.

8 - Screens can be a wonderful thing.

9 - Your kids will surprise you.

10 - Spirituality sustained me.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>ef942088-7927-4c16-bbdf-d3960b468aa7Fri, 16 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -040047:02falsefull11381381Ep. 137 - The 10 Hardest Lessons I Learned in 2025 As A Mom of 2 PDA Kids (Part 1)Ep. 137 - The 10 Hardest Lessons I Learned in 2025 As A Mom of 2 PDA Kids (Part 1)Happy New Year! I'm kicking off 2026 by sharing the 10 hardest lessons I learned parenting my PDAers (often the hard way) in 2025.

The first five are in this episode:

1 - There are some things in life you can't outsource

2 - The key to sanity is accepting constraints and finding agency within them

3 - Doubt about PDA is the antidote to dogma

4 - The importance of trusting yourself in the face of judgement

5 - Burnout with trauma is different than burnout without trauma

xo,

Casey

]]>Happy New Year! I'm kicking off 2026 by sharing the 10 hardest lessons I learned parenting my PDAers (often the hard way) in 2025.

The first five are in this episode:

1 - There are some things in life you can't outsource

2 - The key to sanity is accepting constraints and finding agency within them

3 - Doubt about PDA is the antidote to dogma

4 - The importance of trusting yourself in the face of judgement

5 - Burnout with trauma is different than burnout without trauma

xo,

Casey

]]>62422e35-fa18-46e8-8c74-b53531895b6dWed, 14 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -040050:24falsefull11371371Ep. 136 - Teaching Frustration Tolerance to My PDA Child?Ep. 136 - Teaching Frustration Tolerance to My PDA Child?In this episode I talk with a mom about her 7-year-old daughter - with PDA, ADHD and anxiety - about when she might help her build her frustration tolerance, and when she likely cannot.

We also dive in on a specific challenge she was facing when her both her daughters need support at the same time.

The conversation is from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our Facebook, Instagram and YouTube most Fridays at 1pm ET.

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I talk with a mom about her 7-year-old daughter - with PDA, ADHD and anxiety - about when she might help her build her frustration tolerance, and when she likely cannot.

We also dive in on a specific challenge she was facing when her both her daughters need support at the same time.

The conversation is from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our Facebook, Instagram and YouTube most Fridays at 1pm ET.

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

]]>106c6545-c13a-4c12-b1d7-f45051318074Tue, 09 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -040055:02falsefull11361361Ep. 135 - PDA Teen Can't Stop Wrestling DadEp. 135 - PDA Teen Can't Stop Wrestling DadIn this episode I speak with a mom of a PDA 14-year-old who regulates himself by wrestling his father after school each day, which causes Mom lots of anxiety. Together we use my cost-benefit decision making tool to weigh her options and she then decides a new strategy to try.

We talked about the option of her leaving the house while the wrestling happens. And we talked through letting go of control of her husband's decision making around wrestling and care for his own back.

I hope this episode is helpful for you. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our Instagram, Facebook and YouTube most Fridays at 1pm ET.

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with a mom of a PDA 14-year-old who regulates himself by wrestling his father after school each day, which causes Mom lots of anxiety. Together we use my cost-benefit decision making tool to weigh her options and she then decides a new strategy to try.

We talked about the option of her leaving the house while the wrestling happens. And we talked through letting go of control of her husband's decision making around wrestling and care for his own back.

I hope this episode is helpful for you. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our Instagram, Facebook and YouTube most Fridays at 1pm ET.

xo,

Casey

]]>8e591471-4776-43d5-99d4-87e67e658fd0Tue, 02 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -040055:02falsefull11351351Ep. 134 - De-Escalating Your PDA Teen in PublicEp. 134 - De-Escalating Your PDA Teen in PublicIn this episode I speak with a mother of a PDA teen about:

  • Setting boundaries when other kids are involved
  • Making decisions in public when you are being judged
  • Helping young siblings understand the PDA threat response.

The episode is from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live most Fridays on our Instagram, Facebook, YouTube accounts.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with a mother of a PDA teen about:

  • Setting boundaries when other kids are involved
  • Making decisions in public when you are being judged
  • Helping young siblings understand the PDA threat response.

The episode is from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live most Fridays on our Instagram, Facebook, YouTube accounts.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>2b7789e7-e3ba-42fb-bdf9-f9eb88fc9520Tue, 18 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -040039:24falsefull11341341Ep. 133 - PDA and ASD Evaluations for You and Your ChildEp. 133 - PDA and ASD Evaluations for You and Your ChildIn this episode I spoke with clinical psychologist Alex Klein about

  • considerations when thinking about getting an evaluation for Autism or PDA as an adult
  • my own neurodivergence
  • doing therapy as a neurodivergent adult
  • getting an evaluation and therapy for your PDA child or teen

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I spoke with clinical psychologist Alex Klein about

  • considerations when thinking about getting an evaluation for Autism or PDA as an adult
  • my own neurodivergence
  • doing therapy as a neurodivergent adult
  • getting an evaluation and therapy for your PDA child or teen

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

]]>1e45e3a7-68c6-47b7-b787-4938b4fb7deeTue, 11 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -040057:35falsefull11331331Ep. 132 - When PDA Child Won't Let Me Take a PauseEp. 132 - When PDA Child Won't Let Me Take a PauseIn this episode I speak with a mom about a time her daughter melted down and then wouldn't allow Mom to step away and take the pause she needed to regulate herself to be able to support her daughter.

These situations are so tough - and sometimes there is nothing you can do but endure them - and so in this conversation we talked about how to find meaning in this parenting experience.

This podcast episode is a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with a mom about a time her daughter melted down and then wouldn't allow Mom to step away and take the pause she needed to regulate herself to be able to support her daughter.

These situations are so tough - and sometimes there is nothing you can do but endure them - and so in this conversation we talked about how to find meaning in this parenting experience.

This podcast episode is a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>1857779c-42ab-4b8f-b888-f17268fb5f10Tue, 28 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -040042:20falsefull11321321Ep. 131 - PDA Daughter Pinches and Scratches Me While Falling AsleepEp. 131 - PDA Daughter Pinches and Scratches Me While Falling AsleepIn this episode I speak with a mom about her PDA daughter, who pinches and scratches Mom as she is falling asleep.

It's a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with a mom about her PDA daughter, who pinches and scratches Mom as she is falling asleep.

It's a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>62a3b472-0c3f-4d0d-94f6-1682c87ad207Tue, 21 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -040039:22falsefull11311311Ep. 130 - Parenting PDA Child Constantly Going to Neighbors' HomesEp. 130 - Parenting PDA Child Constantly Going to Neighbors' HomesIn this episode I speak with a mom whose PDA son constantly wants to play with neighbors' kids - no matter how many times he may have already knocked on the door that day - and melts down if she says no.

It's a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with a mom whose PDA son constantly wants to play with neighbors' kids - no matter how many times he may have already knocked on the door that day - and melts down if she says no.

It's a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>74b18b18-b7c6-4aa3-b372-2423fbce4bd9Tue, 07 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -040001:02:00falsefull11301301Ep. 129 - Parenting PDA Teen Who Wants to Buy EverythingEp. 129 - Parenting PDA Teen Who Wants to Buy EverythingSamantha's 13-year-old PDA daughter wants to buy things all the time, and gets dysregulated when her parents say "no." It's a common and difficult problem for many parents of PDA children and teens, and in this week's episode I talk it through with Samantha.

The episode is a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>Samantha's 13-year-old PDA daughter wants to buy things all the time, and gets dysregulated when her parents say "no." It's a common and difficult problem for many parents of PDA children and teens, and in this week's episode I talk it through with Samantha.

The episode is a recording of Parenting PDA Your Way, the show I host live on our YouTube and Facebook most Fridays at 1pm ET. I hope it's helpful to you!

xo,

Casey

]]>298ca98a-10b3-4a8e-a510-688666c04f88Tue, 30 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -040041:04falsefull11291291Ep. 128 - Recognizing My Second Son is PDAEp. 128 - Recognizing My Second Son is PDAIn this episode I talk through how I've come to realize my second son is also PDA - with a more internalized expression than my first - and how the process has been both similar and different from the first time.

I hope it's helpful for you :)

]]>In this episode I talk through how I've come to realize my second son is also PDA - with a more internalized expression than my first - and how the process has been both similar and different from the first time.

I hope it's helpful for you :)

]]>3e147d7c-2fe4-45c3-ad15-849e25d54589Tue, 23 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -040001:04:26falsefull11281281Ep. 127 - How to Manage PDA Child Equalizing on the Walk to SchoolEp. 127 - How to Manage PDA Child Equalizing on the Walk to SchoolIn today's episode I speak with Megan, the mother of an 8-year-old PDAer who equalizes against her sibling on the walk to school. Megan comes up with something to try for a couple weeks to see if it's helpful.

I hope the conversation is helpful for you, too :)

]]>In today's episode I speak with Megan, the mother of an 8-year-old PDAer who equalizes against her sibling on the walk to school. Megan comes up with something to try for a couple weeks to see if it's helpful.

I hope the conversation is helpful for you, too :)

]]>5888a325-7dc8-449c-bdd9-85486d47096eTue, 16 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -040039:32falsefull11271271Ep. 126 - Supporting Your PDA Child Dysregulated by BoredomEp. 126 - Supporting Your PDA Child Dysregulated by BoredomIn this episode I talk with Carrie - mother of a 12-year-old PDAer - about how to support her son when he gets dysregulated by not knowing what to do during free time - especially after school and on weekends.

]]>In this episode I talk with Carrie - mother of a 12-year-old PDAer - about how to support her son when he gets dysregulated by not knowing what to do during free time - especially after school and on weekends.

]]>e8b0c608-ffb6-4a3d-b195-ed16f917595cTue, 09 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -040047:45falsefull11261261Ep. 125 - Helping Sibling Understand PDA Sister's EqualizingEp. 125 - Helping Sibling Understand PDA Sister's EqualizingIn this episode I coach Lierin as she navigates the equalizing her 5-year-old daughter does against her 8-year-old sister. Specifically we discuss how to help the older daughter understand PDA and the "unfairness" it brings about.

]]>In this episode I coach Lierin as she navigates the equalizing her 5-year-old daughter does against her 8-year-old sister. Specifically we discuss how to help the older daughter understand PDA and the "unfairness" it brings about.

]]>c169255e-3e72-4bd3-8fed-79f608d9abfbTue, 02 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -040048:30falsefull11251251Ep. 124 - PDA Child's Equalizing Triggers My TraumaEp. 124 - PDA Child's Equalizing Triggers My TraumaSometimes our PDA children equalize against us and it triggers us - perhaps because of our own neurodivergence, childhood trauma, or other challenges. In this episode of the podcast - from our new live show - I coach Christine through such a situation with her PDA daughter. I hope it's helpful for you <3

]]>Sometimes our PDA children equalize against us and it triggers us - perhaps because of our own neurodivergence, childhood trauma, or other challenges. In this episode of the podcast - from our new live show - I coach Christine through such a situation with her PDA daughter. I hope it's helpful for you <3

]]>72a6c443-ef99-4ad2-84bc-257f483db4e6Tue, 26 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -040050:07falsefull11241241Ep. 123 - When 4-Year-Old PDAer Equalizes on Younger SiblingEp. 123 - When 4-Year-Old PDAer Equalizes on Younger SiblingThis episode is a conversation with Dominique, mother of a 4-year-old PDAer who equalizes against her 2-year-old. Dominique also has a third child, and joined our live show - Parenting PDA Your Way - to talk through how to handle these situations.

I hope you find our conversation helpful.

xo,

Casey

]]>This episode is a conversation with Dominique, mother of a 4-year-old PDAer who equalizes against her 2-year-old. Dominique also has a third child, and joined our live show - Parenting PDA Your Way - to talk through how to handle these situations.

I hope you find our conversation helpful.

xo,

Casey

]]>1fbaed15-74e9-40d1-82ed-6b21277a6e02Tue, 19 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -040043:50falsefull11231231Ep. 122 - Radically Accepting My Child's PDA While Worrying What Others ThinkEp. 122 - Radically Accepting My Child's PDA While Worrying What Others ThinkIn this episode I work with Megan, a mom who is frustrated that what other adults think about her parenting impacts her, and unsure if this is an obstacle to radical acceptance of her child's PDA. Thank you Megan for sharing your story to help other families. I know many of us can relate!

Also, this is the first podcast episode where I share the coaching conversations I'm doing on my new show: "Parenting PDA Your Way". We're live streaming the show most Fridays at 10am ET on Facebook and YouTube.

]]>In this episode I work with Megan, a mom who is frustrated that what other adults think about her parenting impacts her, and unsure if this is an obstacle to radical acceptance of her child's PDA. Thank you Megan for sharing your story to help other families. I know many of us can relate!

Also, this is the first podcast episode where I share the coaching conversations I'm doing on my new show: "Parenting PDA Your Way". We're live streaming the show most Fridays at 10am ET on Facebook and YouTube.

]]>382d495a-6749-45c1-b257-272c3f86b1aeTue, 12 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -040023:29falsefull11221221Ep. 121 - Parental Burnout and PDAEp. 121 - Parental Burnout and PDAAs parents of PDA children and teens we do a ton of work to support and heal the nervous systems of our kids, often at the expense of our own (also sensitive) nervous systems. So for this episode I invited Afshan Tafler, a nervous system expert, to speak with me.

We talked about:

  • The impact on a parent's nervous system of raising a PDA child or teen
  • Why we get into fixing mode
  • Some tools to support your nervous system
  • (Parental burnout)

I hope it's helpful!

xo,

Casey

]]>As parents of PDA children and teens we do a ton of work to support and heal the nervous systems of our kids, often at the expense of our own (also sensitive) nervous systems. So for this episode I invited Afshan Tafler, a nervous system expert, to speak with me.

We talked about:

  • The impact on a parent's nervous system of raising a PDA child or teen
  • Why we get into fixing mode
  • Some tools to support your nervous system
  • (Parental burnout)

I hope it's helpful!

xo,

Casey

]]>1ff46fc8-5d1f-4bb2-8de8-39aebef0a8f2Tue, 05 Aug 2025 10:52:00 -040048:03falsefull11211211Ep. 120 - Healthy Self-Concept for PDA Child or TeenEp. 120 - Healthy Self-Concept for PDA Child or TeenHow do we help our kids develop a positive self image, no matter their diagnosis? In this episode I walk through the steps of helping your PDA child or teen do so, and in a way that provides them autonomy and equality throughout. It's an excerpt from one of the live workshops of our Paradigm Shift Program.

I hope it's helpful!

]]>How do we help our kids develop a positive self image, no matter their diagnosis? In this episode I walk through the steps of helping your PDA child or teen do so, and in a way that provides them autonomy and equality throughout. It's an excerpt from one of the live workshops of our Paradigm Shift Program.

I hope it's helpful!

]]>7c9a1537-1dfe-4298-a720-e65b91e3a4c6Tue, 15 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -040025:22falsefull11201201Ep. 119 - Life-Changing Impacts (for all) By Shifting How They Parented Their PDA ChildEp. 119 - Life-Changing Impacts (for all) By Shifting How They Parented Their PDA ChildIn this episode I speak with Paradigm Shift Program alumna Caroline Thor about the tremendous impacts of changing her parenting approach - for her PDA son, her family, and herself as a professional. I hope it's helpful to you.

xo,

Casey

Caroline's Website

]]>In this episode I speak with Paradigm Shift Program alumna Caroline Thor about the tremendous impacts of changing her parenting approach - for her PDA son, her family, and herself as a professional. I hope it's helpful to you.

xo,

Casey

Caroline's Website

]]>b4fec5b7-98a6-47d6-b8a3-1342df17998bWed, 02 Jul 2025 19:11:00 -040045:09falsefull11191191Ep. 118 - PDA, Screens, and AI - Oh My!Ep. 118 - PDA, Screens, and AI - Oh My!How do I feel about AI, and how do I use it with my PDA child?

In this episode I talk through these things and more with Kelly Edwards, founder of the 90-Minute School Day. As a mom of a PDAer herself, and an expert in the homeschooling/unschooling space, Kelly brings great insight to our conversation. I hope you find it helpful!

]]>How do I feel about AI, and how do I use it with my PDA child?

In this episode I talk through these things and more with Kelly Edwards, founder of the 90-Minute School Day. As a mom of a PDAer herself, and an expert in the homeschooling/unschooling space, Kelly brings great insight to our conversation. I hope you find it helpful!

]]>c618b569-9318-49e1-8242-5103baff6c0bWed, 25 Jun 2025 14:06:00 -040001:06:08falsefull11181181Ep. 117 - Is My Child PDA or Non-PDA Demand Avoidant?Ep. 117 - Is My Child PDA or Non-PDA Demand Avoidant?Not all demand avoidant children and teens are PDA. In this episode I talk through how to know if your child fits the profile for PDA, which is important, because it suggests a different root cause for their avoidance than for non-PDA demand avoidant kids. And of course, you want to know what the root cause is so you know how best to support your child or teen.

I hope this is helpful to all.

xo,

Casey

]]>Not all demand avoidant children and teens are PDA. In this episode I talk through how to know if your child fits the profile for PDA, which is important, because it suggests a different root cause for their avoidance than for non-PDA demand avoidant kids. And of course, you want to know what the root cause is so you know how best to support your child or teen.

I hope this is helpful to all.

xo,

Casey

]]>fab6de42-64b7-44ef-b374-b213a608c1eaTue, 17 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -040029:03falsefull11171171Ep. 116 - Choosing Your Perspective While Parenting A PDA Child or TeenEp. 116 - Choosing Your Perspective While Parenting A PDA Child or TeenParadigm Shift Program alumna Rachel shares her story in this episode, which includes insight she gained enduring serious sickness as a young adult. She brings this perspective to the hardest moments and eras parenting her PDA children, and explains the difference that can make, even while being incredibly difficult.

]]>Paradigm Shift Program alumna Rachel shares her story in this episode, which includes insight she gained enduring serious sickness as a young adult. She brings this perspective to the hardest moments and eras parenting her PDA children, and explains the difference that can make, even while being incredibly difficult.

]]>af6dfd35-8c36-42f9-a937-5520e785d8d3Tue, 10 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -040001:19:44falsefull11161161Ep. 115 - Journey of a PDA Parent with a PDA ChildEp. 115 - Journey of a PDA Parent with a PDA ChildIn this episode I speak with Paradigm Shift Program alumna Aoife, who shares her journey as a PDA parent of a PDA child. I hope you find her insights and experiences helpful as you navigate your own journeys.

]]>In this episode I speak with Paradigm Shift Program alumna Aoife, who shares her journey as a PDA parent of a PDA child. I hope you find her insights and experiences helpful as you navigate your own journeys.

]]>5c417a7c-3c74-4b3b-9aa0-764a43b760d1Tue, 03 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -040001:13:36falsefull11151151Ep. 114 - Is PDA always Autism?Ep. 114 - Is PDA always Autism?I think PDA is its own neurotype, different from non-PDA Autism and ADHD. That doesn't mean PDA kids, teens and adults can't also be Autistic or ADHD - many are, including at least one of my sons. But it means there's a different logic for how we support PDA children and teens - even if they are also Autistic or ADHD - based on the unique way their brain and nervous system works.

]]>I think PDA is its own neurotype, different from non-PDA Autism and ADHD. That doesn't mean PDA kids, teens and adults can't also be Autistic or ADHD - many are, including at least one of my sons. But it means there's a different logic for how we support PDA children and teens - even if they are also Autistic or ADHD - based on the unique way their brain and nervous system works.

]]>31969c8d-0542-47e3-8849-7939fe0139b6Tue, 27 May 2025 06:00:00 -040021:54falsefull11141141Ep. 113 - You're Not Parenting Your PDAer Wrong!Ep. 113 - You're Not Parenting Your PDAer Wrong!You're not doing it wrong! And I know this because there is not one right or wrong to parent a PDA child. Parents I work with make tons of different decisions - and change those decisions over time - depending on the unique circumstances, opportunities, values and constraints they face. And I love that!

]]>You're not doing it wrong! And I know this because there is not one right or wrong to parent a PDA child. Parents I work with make tons of different decisions - and change those decisions over time - depending on the unique circumstances, opportunities, values and constraints they face. And I love that!

]]>b0db1f38-7ad3-4de8-b8c1-df22b73f44d5Tue, 20 May 2025 06:00:00 -040033:55falsefull11131131Ep. 112 - Alumna Talks About Parenting PDA and Two Other NeurotypesEp. 112 - Alumna Talks About Parenting PDA and Two Other NeurotypesKarin is a Dutch medical teacher and an alumna of our Paradigm Shift Program with three children with three different neurotypes. I loved reconnecting with her and hearing how she and her neurodivergent husband use three different parenting approaches in order to successfully support their kids. I hope you find her insights helpful, too!

]]>Karin is a Dutch medical teacher and an alumna of our Paradigm Shift Program with three children with three different neurotypes. I loved reconnecting with her and hearing how she and her neurodivergent husband use three different parenting approaches in order to successfully support their kids. I hope you find her insights helpful, too!

]]>6bf49681-c63b-4be5-b1e1-c64dc9e7b721Tue, 13 May 2025 06:00:00 -040043:57falsefull11121121Ep. 111 - Compulsive Eating by Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 111 - Compulsive Eating by Your PDA Child or TeenMany of you know that my PDA son stopped eating most foods when he was in burnout. But I've also worked with countless parents whose PDA child or teen can't stop eating. And so I've dedicated this episode to the topic - how to understand compulsive eating as part of PDA, and an approach that may be helpful.

xo,

Casey

]]>Many of you know that my PDA son stopped eating most foods when he was in burnout. But I've also worked with countless parents whose PDA child or teen can't stop eating. And so I've dedicated this episode to the topic - how to understand compulsive eating as part of PDA, and an approach that may be helpful.

xo,

Casey

]]>b17ca480-dfd9-4b57-b17c-74c12e12a25fTue, 06 May 2025 06:00:00 -040021:58falsefull11111111Ep. 110 - Speech Dude and I Talk School Accommodations for PDA Children and TeensEp. 110 - Speech Dude and I Talk School Accommodations for PDA Children and TeensIn this episode I spoke with Chris Wenger - AKA "Speech Dude" - a speech language pathologist with extensive experience accommodating PDA teens in a public school. I loved our conversation, and I hope you will too!

We talked about:

  • Practical ways to communicate about PDA in a public school setting (in this case a high school).
  • How to write PDA-specific goals/supports in an IEP (Institutional Educational Plan here in the United States).
  • Supporting PDA teens to feel safe, engage in learning, and make social connections in creative ways that don't feel demanding.
  • The role that autonomy plays in PDA teens' success.

Here is more about Chris!

Chris Wenger is a neurodivergent high school speech-language pathologist of over 20 years, international speaker, and creator of the Dynamic Assessment of Social Emotional Learning, a strengths-based assessment for autistic students. He is also the founder of NeuroAffirm, a first-of-its-kind worldwide interactive directory connecting providers and families. Globally known as Speech Dude, he has amassed nearly one million social media followers, sharing inspiring and educational content, always with a humorous twist.

]]>In this episode I spoke with Chris Wenger - AKA "Speech Dude" - a speech language pathologist with extensive experience accommodating PDA teens in a public school. I loved our conversation, and I hope you will too!

We talked about:

  • Practical ways to communicate about PDA in a public school setting (in this case a high school).
  • How to write PDA-specific goals/supports in an IEP (Institutional Educational Plan here in the United States).
  • Supporting PDA teens to feel safe, engage in learning, and make social connections in creative ways that don't feel demanding.
  • The role that autonomy plays in PDA teens' success.

Here is more about Chris!

Chris Wenger is a neurodivergent high school speech-language pathologist of over 20 years, international speaker, and creator of the Dynamic Assessment of Social Emotional Learning, a strengths-based assessment for autistic students. He is also the founder of NeuroAffirm, a first-of-its-kind worldwide interactive directory connecting providers and families. Globally known as Speech Dude, he has amassed nearly one million social media followers, sharing inspiring and educational content, always with a humorous twist.

]]>b53f7c37-94a1-4f17-a1f8-079ed57d5d9eTue, 29 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -040001:12:39falsefull11101101Ep. 109 - My Conversation with Physician and Founder of All Brains Belong, Dr. Mel HouserEp. 109 - My Conversation with Physician and Founder of All Brains Belong, Dr. Mel HouserDr. Mel Houser, MD, shares stories from her childhood, career as a doctor, and work reimagining healthcare and community at All Brains Belong in Vermont. PDA Autistic herself, I hope you'll find her insights as interesting, helpful and hopeful as I did.

]]>Dr. Mel Houser, MD, shares stories from her childhood, career as a doctor, and work reimagining healthcare and community at All Brains Belong in Vermont. PDA Autistic herself, I hope you'll find her insights as interesting, helpful and hopeful as I did.

]]>dd89044a-9796-4456-b33a-d1c4967bb8adTue, 22 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -040057:22falsefull11091091Ep. 108 - 10 Tips to Improve Connection and Communication with your PDA Child or TeenEp. 108 - 10 Tips to Improve Connection and Communication with your PDA Child or TeenThe thing that underpins so much of how we support and accommodate our PDA children and teens - and thereby lower their nervous system activation so they can thrive - is our connection with them.

And this connection can get very, very strained. Especially if they're in burnout, which often means we are, too.

In this episode I share ten tips to improve connection and communications. I hope it's helpful.

xo,

Casey

]]>The thing that underpins so much of how we support and accommodate our PDA children and teens - and thereby lower their nervous system activation so they can thrive - is our connection with them.

And this connection can get very, very strained. Especially if they're in burnout, which often means we are, too.

In this episode I share ten tips to improve connection and communications. I hope it's helpful.

xo,

Casey

]]>41c09ba0-17e2-4811-94f2-58456990b07aTue, 15 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -040027:38falsefull11081081Ep. 107 - 20 Things I'd Tell Myself About My PDA Child's Restrictive EatingEp. 107 - 20 Things I'd Tell Myself About My PDA Child's Restrictive EatingFive years ago, when my son barely ate anything, and I feared he would end up with a feeding tube, and none of the traditional therapies worked, these are the 20 things I wish someone would have said to me, because I was freaking out!

I hope they are as helpful to you now as I know they would have been for me back then.

]]>Five years ago, when my son barely ate anything, and I feared he would end up with a feeding tube, and none of the traditional therapies worked, these are the 20 things I wish someone would have said to me, because I was freaking out!

I hope they are as helpful to you now as I know they would have been for me back then.

]]>5d6fcd32-97c3-41d0-bf30-12652b1510efTue, 08 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -040038:11falsefull11071071Ep. 106 - Screens and Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 106 - Screens and Your PDA Child or TeenI dive deep on screens in this episode - to give you every bit of information you need to make decisions you can feel confident in concerning screens and screen limits. I talk through how formal studies on screen time handle PDA children (spoiler - they don't) and share what I've seen working with over 1,000 families who have all handled screen limits their own ways. I do this because no matter your decision, I don't want you to feel all the doubt I did from the judgement I received from others and from myself. You know your child, your family and your constraints, and I know you are doing your best to balance all of this, and that is what matters.

]]>I dive deep on screens in this episode - to give you every bit of information you need to make decisions you can feel confident in concerning screens and screen limits. I talk through how formal studies on screen time handle PDA children (spoiler - they don't) and share what I've seen working with over 1,000 families who have all handled screen limits their own ways. I do this because no matter your decision, I don't want you to feel all the doubt I did from the judgement I received from others and from myself. You know your child, your family and your constraints, and I know you are doing your best to balance all of this, and that is what matters.

]]>e8a6be90-3f73-476d-af4d-4a1407511825Tue, 01 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -040043:47falsefull11061061Ep. 105 - How to Know if Your Child or Teen is PDAEp. 105 - How to Know if Your Child or Teen is PDAIn this episode I discuss the five most common characteristics of PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) to help parents determine if their child or teen fits the profile.

If you want to dig deeper into figuring out if your child fits the PDA profile, I designed my Clarity Masterclass to help. It's free on my website: Clarity Page - Quiz and Class

]]>In this episode I discuss the five most common characteristics of PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) to help parents determine if their child or teen fits the profile.

If you want to dig deeper into figuring out if your child fits the PDA profile, I designed my Clarity Masterclass to help. It's free on my website: Clarity Page - Quiz and Class

]]>dd1d0695-31b6-4854-9ba2-e088ca32edb4Tue, 25 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -040035:10falsefull11051051Ep. 104 - Harmful Myths About PDA in Children and TeensEp. 104 - Harmful Myths About PDA in Children and Teens"All kids are demand avoidant" is just one of the misconceptions about PDA that I take down with clinical psychologist Alex Klein in this feisty episode. I hope it helps you take on any doubts foisted on you, too.

]]>"All kids are demand avoidant" is just one of the misconceptions about PDA that I take down with clinical psychologist Alex Klein in this feisty episode. I hope it helps you take on any doubts foisted on you, too.

]]>a247d8ff-8f60-4a0c-8c2d-2076f1fc2016Tue, 18 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -040038:46falsefull11041041Ep. 103 - Healing Your Nervous System as a Parent of a PDA Child or TeenEp. 103 - Healing Your Nervous System as a Parent of a PDA Child or TeenIn this episode I talk about some of the therapies I've done to heal my own nervous system - and dive deeper on EMDR specifically - in the hope that they might be helpful to you, too. Because the reality is, many of us as parents also experience trauma as we navigate the challenges of parenting a PDA child or teen, especially when they (and we!) are in burnout.

]]>In this episode I talk about some of the therapies I've done to heal my own nervous system - and dive deeper on EMDR specifically - in the hope that they might be helpful to you, too. Because the reality is, many of us as parents also experience trauma as we navigate the challenges of parenting a PDA child or teen, especially when they (and we!) are in burnout.

]]>0c1f30a9-7934-4454-bd3b-515ac3fd5fdcTue, 11 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -040026:38falsefull11031031Ep. 102 - Six Things from Buddhist Psychology that Help Me Parent My PDA ChildEp. 102 - Six Things from Buddhist Psychology that Help Me Parent My PDA ChildThis episode is for people who follow (or don't follow) any religion and are open to taking some of the concepts from Buddhist psychology that I've found most helpful as I parent my PDA child. I hope you find these six ideas helpful, too.

]]>This episode is for people who follow (or don't follow) any religion and are open to taking some of the concepts from Buddhist psychology that I've found most helpful as I parent my PDA child. I hope you find these six ideas helpful, too.

]]>83de0f52-7ddb-4bda-bab0-056d2ff374ccTue, 04 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -040037:06falsefull11021021Ep. 101 - The Biggest Surprise in 5 Years of Occupational Therapy with My PDA SonEp. 101 - The Biggest Surprise in 5 Years of Occupational Therapy with My PDA SonMy son started occupational therapy six years ago, when he was four. I didn't really know what it was, nor did I know my son was PDA. But in the years since, OT has become a prominent part of my life. So much so that as he's now graduating from it, I'm navigating feelings of loss, much like I did way back when he first started.

I hope you find the episode helps you, whether or not you're involved in OT.

xo,

Casey

]]>My son started occupational therapy six years ago, when he was four. I didn't really know what it was, nor did I know my son was PDA. But in the years since, OT has become a prominent part of my life. So much so that as he's now graduating from it, I'm navigating feelings of loss, much like I did way back when he first started.

I hope you find the episode helps you, whether or not you're involved in OT.

xo,

Casey

]]>72a7ce98-5bd5-4412-8b57-112918048459Tue, 25 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -040021:35falsefull11011011Ep. 100 - What If My Partner Won't Accommodate Our PDA Child or Teen?Ep. 100 - What If My Partner Won't Accommodate Our PDA Child or Teen?In this episode I speak with Dr. Alex Klein about a dynamic I see all the time - when two parents aren't on the same page about how to parent their PDA child or teen. Alex brings his insight as a clinical psychologist who often works with parents on marriage dynamics while they raise a PDA child or teen. I hope you find it helpful!

Also - this is our 100th episode of the podcast! What I've heard over the years is that the podcast is one of the ways so many families learn about PDA and stop feeling so isolated and alone. If you'd like to help this happen for even more parents out there, please consider giving the show a five-star, written review. If you email us a screenshot once you've done so - and before the end of February - we'll enter your name in a drawing for a free one-hour private coaching session with me. You can send the email to journey@atpeaceparents.com.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I speak with Dr. Alex Klein about a dynamic I see all the time - when two parents aren't on the same page about how to parent their PDA child or teen. Alex brings his insight as a clinical psychologist who often works with parents on marriage dynamics while they raise a PDA child or teen. I hope you find it helpful!

Also - this is our 100th episode of the podcast! What I've heard over the years is that the podcast is one of the ways so many families learn about PDA and stop feeling so isolated and alone. If you'd like to help this happen for even more parents out there, please consider giving the show a five-star, written review. If you email us a screenshot once you've done so - and before the end of February - we'll enter your name in a drawing for a free one-hour private coaching session with me. You can send the email to journey@atpeaceparents.com.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>3a6963b0-1a81-4c03-909d-35296e38cbcfTue, 18 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -040041:43falsefull11001001Ep. 99 - Helping Our PDA Children and Teens Build a Healthy Self ConceptEp. 99 - Helping Our PDA Children and Teens Build a Healthy Self Concept"Mama, did God make me this way on purpose?"

That's what my PDA son asked me when he was four years old, and it broke my heart.

But today, at age 10, he has a ton of confidence in himself and his identity as a PDAer.

In this episode I talk through how we got from the one place to the other, and how you can, too.

I hope it's helpful.

Casey

]]>"Mama, did God make me this way on purpose?"

That's what my PDA son asked me when he was four years old, and it broke my heart.

But today, at age 10, he has a ton of confidence in himself and his identity as a PDAer.

In this episode I talk through how we got from the one place to the other, and how you can, too.

I hope it's helpful.

Casey

]]>1c837fe3-5793-4f40-a46d-cd1160aff7ceWed, 12 Feb 2025 09:33:00 -040024:24falsefull199991Ep. 98 - What About When My PDA Child or Teen Grows Up?Ep. 98 - What About When My PDA Child or Teen Grows Up?This episode is about one of parents' most common fears when they begin taking a nervous-system accommodation approach. What about when my kid grows up? Or, said another way, if I don't consistently correct them when they do something wrong, how will they learn not to be awful people?

It's a question and fear I had, too. But what I've seen with my son, and the thousands of families I've worked with, is that our kids know right from wrong, and correcting them when they're having a nervous system response takes us backwards instead of forwards.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>This episode is about one of parents' most common fears when they begin taking a nervous-system accommodation approach. What about when my kid grows up? Or, said another way, if I don't consistently correct them when they do something wrong, how will they learn not to be awful people?

It's a question and fear I had, too. But what I've seen with my son, and the thousands of families I've worked with, is that our kids know right from wrong, and correcting them when they're having a nervous system response takes us backwards instead of forwards.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>24b6fb23-51ce-43fe-b94a-3d0681b678a9Tue, 04 Feb 2025 16:21:00 -040038:49falsefull198981Ep. 97 - Demi Burnett's Story as a PDA Autistic AdultEp. 97 - Demi Burnett's Story as a PDA Autistic AdultI am so excited to share this conversation with Demi Burnett!

She's famous for her appearances on The Bachelor and more, but I had so much fun - and also learned a ton - talking with her about her life as a PDA Autistic person. I mean, who would have thought reality television would be so accommodating?!?

You can find Demi's often hilarious social media posts here: instagram.com/demi_not_lovato

And she sells her amazing crochet creations here: https://www.etsy.com/shop/Demlia

Also - in my intro I announced that we've opened enrollment for the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program. You can learn more about the program in the info below, and here's a quick link to the program webpage: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

The 12-week Paradigm Shift Program is where I personally coach parents who want to build peace in their homes by better understanding and accommodating their PDA child or teen. I host weekly live spot-coaching sessions and provide additional coaching in writing in our online community. The program is built on what I've seen work for thousands of families, and in fact it is the only program for parents of PDA children and teens proven to increase parent connection with their child, while decreasing parent depression and anxiety. You can enroll or add yourself to the program interest list at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/casey-ehrlich-ph-d-495a242b

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>I am so excited to share this conversation with Demi Burnett!

She's famous for her appearances on The Bachelor and more, but I had so much fun - and also learned a ton - talking with her about her life as a PDA Autistic person. I mean, who would have thought reality television would be so accommodating?!?

You can find Demi's often hilarious social media posts here: instagram.com/demi_not_lovato

And she sells her amazing crochet creations here: https://www.etsy.com/shop/Demlia

Also - in my intro I announced that we've opened enrollment for the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program. You can learn more about the program in the info below, and here's a quick link to the program webpage: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

The 12-week Paradigm Shift Program is where I personally coach parents who want to build peace in their homes by better understanding and accommodating their PDA child or teen. I host weekly live spot-coaching sessions and provide additional coaching in writing in our online community. The program is built on what I've seen work for thousands of families, and in fact it is the only program for parents of PDA children and teens proven to increase parent connection with their child, while decreasing parent depression and anxiety. You can enroll or add yourself to the program interest list at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/casey-ehrlich-ph-d-495a242b

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>f680a564-0725-46a8-a14f-f59328a5a836Wed, 29 Jan 2025 11:44:00 -040001:20:32falsefull197971Ep. 96 - Could Making Your PDA Child Walk Prevent Them From Eating?Ep. 96 - Could Making Your PDA Child Walk Prevent Them From Eating?In this episode I discuss how seemingly disconnected activities can impact each other for PDA children and teens. I hope it is helpful to you.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Enrollment is open for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I discuss how seemingly disconnected activities can impact each other for PDA children and teens. I hope it is helpful to you.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Enrollment is open for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>8d2cda38-8715-4231-b6c0-8477aedc3370Fri, 24 Jan 2025 12:15:00 -040026:51falsefull196961Ep. 95 - Where Parents, Therapists and Teachers of PDA Children and Teens Get StuckEp. 95 - Where Parents, Therapists and Teachers of PDA Children and Teens Get StuckIn this episode I talk through some of the most common places that the parents, therapists and teachers I've worked with get stuck.

If you're stuck in one of these spots don't feel bad. This is hard stuff we're all doing. And I hope this episode can help.

]]>In this episode I talk through some of the most common places that the parents, therapists and teachers I've worked with get stuck.

If you're stuck in one of these spots don't feel bad. This is hard stuff we're all doing. And I hope this episode can help.

]]>4ca6daac-9257-4697-b040-1e209ed49b3cFri, 17 Jan 2025 09:07:00 -040038:28falsefull195951Ep. 94 - Normalizing PDA Parenting TechniquesEp. 94 - Normalizing PDA Parenting TechniquesIn this episode I share some stories that show that the accommodating we do for our PDA children and teens isn't all that crazy. In fact, you could make a reasonable argument that many of the most successful people working in retail are constantly using their ability to coregulate their customers' nervous systems.

I share these stories with two hopes - that they help you feel less crazy, and more confident the next time your "but how will they make it in the real world" fear pops up.

I hope they're helpful.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I share some stories that show that the accommodating we do for our PDA children and teens isn't all that crazy. In fact, you could make a reasonable argument that many of the most successful people working in retail are constantly using their ability to coregulate their customers' nervous systems.

I share these stories with two hopes - that they help you feel less crazy, and more confident the next time your "but how will they make it in the real world" fear pops up.

I hope they're helpful.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>f0815dd5-f273-42b9-867a-8608c50eb4e4Thu, 09 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -040032:44falsefull194941Ep. 93 - Grief, Ableism and Other Diagnoses while Parenting Your PDA ChildEp. 93 - Grief, Ableism and Other Diagnoses while Parenting Your PDA ChildIn this episode I answer your questions with Dr. Alex Klein, clinical psychologist.

We covered a few diagnoses - DMDD, IED and ODD - that children often receive before their parents figure out they are PDA. And then we also discussed the grieving process that many parents go through after learning their child has a disability, and how that can be different from ableism, which parents often feel guilty about.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I answer your questions with Dr. Alex Klein, clinical psychologist.

We covered a few diagnoses - DMDD, IED and ODD - that children often receive before their parents figure out they are PDA. And then we also discussed the grieving process that many parents go through after learning their child has a disability, and how that can be different from ableism, which parents often feel guilty about.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>632d15ec-1b4f-495f-bbf0-dfbb436f4dbeFri, 03 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -040047:27falsefull193931Ep. 92 - Tips for Holiday Parenting Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 92 - Tips for Holiday Parenting Your PDA Child or TeenThe holidays can be excruciating for us parents of PDA children and teens. So in this episode I share five tips to help you and your family get through them (with as much joy as possible). I hope they are helpful.

Also, this episode includes a story about my PDA son not being able to sleep on Christmas Eve several years ago. After I recorded this I then re-read a blog post I'd written shortly after that Christmas Eve, and realized that I hadn't correctly remembered some of the chronology when I retold the story here. This doesn't change the point of the story at all, but I wanted to note the mistake in case you also read the story.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>The holidays can be excruciating for us parents of PDA children and teens. So in this episode I share five tips to help you and your family get through them (with as much joy as possible). I hope they are helpful.

Also, this episode includes a story about my PDA son not being able to sleep on Christmas Eve several years ago. After I recorded this I then re-read a blog post I'd written shortly after that Christmas Eve, and realized that I hadn't correctly remembered some of the chronology when I retold the story here. This doesn't change the point of the story at all, but I wanted to note the mistake in case you also read the story.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>840e5aaa-1820-48d4-a07c-a8d6997577e0Wed, 18 Dec 2024 12:15:00 -040022:06falsefull192921Ep. 91 - School Advocacy For Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 91 - School Advocacy For Your PDA Child or TeenAdvocating with the school of your PDA child or teen can feel like slamming your head against a wall. But you keep trying because you think that if you just explain how PDA works clearly enough the school will start accommodating appropriately.

At least that's what I thought. And I was wrong.

But it took me more than a year and multiple lawyers to get to the place where I pulled my child from our local public school.

I share my story here in the hope that, at the very least, it absolves you of the feeling that the reason your school isn't supporting your child is somehow your fault. Because it's not.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Advocating with the school of your PDA child or teen can feel like slamming your head against a wall. But you keep trying because you think that if you just explain how PDA works clearly enough the school will start accommodating appropriately.

At least that's what I thought. And I was wrong.

But it took me more than a year and multiple lawyers to get to the place where I pulled my child from our local public school.

I share my story here in the hope that, at the very least, it absolves you of the feeling that the reason your school isn't supporting your child is somehow your fault. Because it's not.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>5f9b8974-d93e-4036-bc02-956939019f5fThu, 12 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -040023:07falsefull191911Ep. 90 - Offering Summer Camp to a PDA Child - An Alumni StoryEp. 90 - Offering Summer Camp to a PDA Child - An Alumni StoryI love it when alumni of our Paradigm Shift Program™ send me updates. It's just so wonderful to hear about the work that parents do and the slow but tremendous progress they make.

In this episode I decided to invite on one of the moms who sent me such an update about a year after she finished the program. We talk about how she ultimately fared with the questions she was grappling with during the program: Should she send her PDA son to sleepaway summer camp? And if so, how should she go about it?

I hope you enjoy hearing her story as much as I enjoyed reconnecting with her.

xo,

Casey

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent!

]]>I love it when alumni of our Paradigm Shift Program™ send me updates. It's just so wonderful to hear about the work that parents do and the slow but tremendous progress they make.

In this episode I decided to invite on one of the moms who sent me such an update about a year after she finished the program. We talk about how she ultimately fared with the questions she was grappling with during the program: Should she send her PDA son to sleepaway summer camp? And if so, how should she go about it?

I hope you enjoy hearing her story as much as I enjoyed reconnecting with her.

xo,

Casey

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent!

]]>55217f8b-60cb-4ad5-a9d5-3527d5636c5dThu, 05 Dec 2024 10:15:00 -040047:25falsefull190901Ep. 89 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens so They Access Basic NeedsEp. 89 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens so They Access Basic NeedsI conceptualize PDA as a nervous system disability because it can impair access to basic survival needs - such as eating, sleeping, toileting, movement, and safety.

It's terrifying for parents when this happens, and in this episode I discuss why it does. This understanding helps many parents support their children, who can then regain access to those needs over time.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>I conceptualize PDA as a nervous system disability because it can impair access to basic survival needs - such as eating, sleeping, toileting, movement, and safety.

It's terrifying for parents when this happens, and in this episode I discuss why it does. This understanding helps many parents support their children, who can then regain access to those needs over time.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>e58fd57d-4a41-401a-84d8-7f022ef9c7f8Tue, 26 Nov 2024 15:06:00 -040033:14falsefull189891Ep. 88 - Lowering Demands for Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 88 - Lowering Demands for Your PDA Child or TeenLowering demands is how many parents start accommodating their PDA child or teen, and it's also where many get stuck.

In this episode I talk through the mindset work that parents can do to get unstuck and be more successful with lowering demands. I also explain why lowering demands is a necessary but not sufficient accommodation for our PDA children and teens.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Lowering demands is how many parents start accommodating their PDA child or teen, and it's also where many get stuck.

In this episode I talk through the mindset work that parents can do to get unstuck and be more successful with lowering demands. I also explain why lowering demands is a necessary but not sufficient accommodation for our PDA children and teens.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>0340c3ea-ed76-4458-ab97-36f321b8dbafFri, 15 Nov 2024 09:20:00 -040035:15falsefull188881Ep. 87 - Controlling, Criticizing and Destructive Equalizing in PDA Children and TeensEp. 87 - Controlling, Criticizing and Destructive Equalizing in PDA Children and TeensDoes you child or teen often try to control you, criticize you and/or destroy your things or things around the house. This is very common among PDA children and teens, because they are equalizing.

Equalizing is a nervous system response - out of their control - in PDA children and teens whereby they try to regain sense of nervous system safety due to a perceived loss of autonomy and equality.

In this episode I break it all down, and share lots of examples. I hope it's helpful.

xo,

Casey

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Does you child or teen often try to control you, criticize you and/or destroy your things or things around the house. This is very common among PDA children and teens, because they are equalizing.

Equalizing is a nervous system response - out of their control - in PDA children and teens whereby they try to regain sense of nervous system safety due to a perceived loss of autonomy and equality.

In this episode I break it all down, and share lots of examples. I hope it's helpful.

xo,

Casey

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>8859b82d-b107-48e7-9952-eb8cda04e662Thu, 07 Nov 2024 08:55:00 -040044:46falsefull187871Ep. 86 - PDA en Español!Ep. 86 - PDA en Español!Este episodio está en español. This episode is in Spanish.

En este episodio hablo con Juliana Carrillo sobre PDA - la Evitación de Demanda Extrema - y como entender la discapacidad del sistema nervioso en niños y jovenes. Juliana es una psicologa y "coach" con At Peace Parents. Puedes leer más de ella y sus servicios aquí: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/Juliana-asesoria-personalizada

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Este episodio está en español. This episode is in Spanish.

En este episodio hablo con Juliana Carrillo sobre PDA - la Evitación de Demanda Extrema - y como entender la discapacidad del sistema nervioso en niños y jovenes. Juliana es una psicologa y "coach" con At Peace Parents. Puedes leer más de ella y sus servicios aquí: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/Juliana-asesoria-personalizada

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>31e31a30-12de-49c1-b437-d2e2f1245174Fri, 01 Nov 2024 17:05:00 -040001:02:32falsefull186861Ep. 85 - If Your Co-Parent Wants Evidence of PDAEp. 85 - If Your Co-Parent Wants Evidence of PDAIt's very common for two parents to be on different pages or trajectories with PDA understanding and acceptance. Sometimes this is because one parent wants more "evidence" that PDA exists at all, which can be very difficult given that academia has not yet caught up to our lived realities.

In this episode I provide a possible way forward - building your own evidence!

I hope it's helpful.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>It's very common for two parents to be on different pages or trajectories with PDA understanding and acceptance. Sometimes this is because one parent wants more "evidence" that PDA exists at all, which can be very difficult given that academia has not yet caught up to our lived realities.

In this episode I provide a possible way forward - building your own evidence!

I hope it's helpful.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>4e05e040-50dd-496f-a4dc-0c697d1402e8Mon, 21 Oct 2024 09:32:00 -040031:55falsefull185851Ep. 84 - Using Declarative Language with Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 84 - Using Declarative Language with Your PDA Child or TeenIn this episode I share the techniques for using declarative language that I've seen are most effective for parents of PDA children and teens. And I snuck in a suggestion on how to get your PDAer's teacher to use declarative language, too ;)

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I share the techniques for using declarative language that I've seen are most effective for parents of PDA children and teens. And I snuck in a suggestion on how to get your PDAer's teacher to use declarative language, too ;)

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>cc800698-0d55-4b76-8796-4d0075461cf0Thu, 17 Oct 2024 09:29:00 -040028:22falsefull184841Ep. 83 - Misconceptions on Setting Boundaries with a PDA Child or TeenEp. 83 - Misconceptions on Setting Boundaries with a PDA Child or TeenThere are tons of misconceptions about if and how we set boundaries with our PDA children and teens (spoiler - we do!), and in this episode I talk through the most common of them.

I also explain the process I use - cost-benefit decision making within constraints - to help parents decide when they should set boundaries and how to do so with eyes wide open to the activation this will cause their PDAer.

I hope it helps you!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>There are tons of misconceptions about if and how we set boundaries with our PDA children and teens (spoiler - we do!), and in this episode I talk through the most common of them.

I also explain the process I use - cost-benefit decision making within constraints - to help parents decide when they should set boundaries and how to do so with eyes wide open to the activation this will cause their PDAer.

I hope it helps you!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>81b4a1c6-8ac1-410b-97dd-bce30a267a50Thu, 10 Oct 2024 08:44:00 -040039:06falsefull183831Ep. 82 - Changing to a PDA Parenting Approach Can Be Awkward!Ep. 82 - Changing to a PDA Parenting Approach Can Be Awkward!Hi everyone - in this episode I share some of the many messy, awkward and (in retrospect at least) kinda funny situations I found myself in during the many months I was in the process of changing my parenting approach to better support my PDA son.

I share these as a reminder that this can be (almost always is) a chaotic transition, and that's ok. You're learning and implementing a new parenting paradigm, and it takes time for you, your family members, and you PDA child to get into a new rhythm.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Hi everyone - in this episode I share some of the many messy, awkward and (in retrospect at least) kinda funny situations I found myself in during the many months I was in the process of changing my parenting approach to better support my PDA son.

I share these as a reminder that this can be (almost always is) a chaotic transition, and that's ok. You're learning and implementing a new parenting paradigm, and it takes time for you, your family members, and you PDA child to get into a new rhythm.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>e1b0f5bc-1bb4-4406-a9f1-5b41c95cb1a2Tue, 08 Oct 2024 08:39:00 -040030:08falsefull182821Ep. 81 - Is ABA Really the Gold Standard for Our PDA Children?Ep. 81 - Is ABA Really the Gold Standard for Our PDA Children?ABA is helpful for some PDA children and their families. For other PDA children it doesn't help or can make things worse.

With this in mind, I'd love to live in a world where ABA and additional options were available - and covered by insurance - to support PDA children and teens.

In today's episode I provide more information about ABA and the how parents of PDA children can better understand the research supporting it.

Also - here are links to the two articles I referenced:

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40614-022-00338-x

https://www.nature.com/articles/tp2017207

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>ABA is helpful for some PDA children and their families. For other PDA children it doesn't help or can make things worse.

With this in mind, I'd love to live in a world where ABA and additional options were available - and covered by insurance - to support PDA children and teens.

In today's episode I provide more information about ABA and the how parents of PDA children can better understand the research supporting it.

Also - here are links to the two articles I referenced:

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40614-022-00338-x

https://www.nature.com/articles/tp2017207

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>cbab2e27-1006-478a-8c7e-e70b5301edb1Thu, 03 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -040029:49falsefull181811Ep. 80 - Can Therapies Help PDA Children and Teens?Ep. 80 - Can Therapies Help PDA Children and Teens?In this episode I share my experiences with the Safe and Sound Protocol, and also provide guidance on how parents can think about trying therapies with their PDA child or teen.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I share my experiences with the Safe and Sound Protocol, and also provide guidance on how parents can think about trying therapies with their PDA child or teen.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>e3d57e7e-29f8-48de-a015-df7d019b2b62Mon, 30 Sep 2024 11:49:00 -040026:59falsefull180801Ep. 79 - When and How Do You Correct Your PDA Child or Teen?Ep. 79 - When and How Do You Correct Your PDA Child or Teen?This is a question I get frequently, and there's a lot of nuance that goes into answering it. I hope this is helpful to you!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>This is a question I get frequently, and there's a lot of nuance that goes into answering it. I hope this is helpful to you!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>394dbd30-f265-4994-b4c6-5a479ad2ab23Thu, 26 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -040031:14falsefull179791Ep. 78 - Why Behavioral Approaches Don't Work With PDA Children and TeensEp. 78 - Why Behavioral Approaches Don't Work With PDA Children and TeensIn this episode I explain the logic that underpins all my teaching, and why traditional behavioral parenting approaches - which are great for many children - don't work for PDA children and teens because of the way their brains and nervous systems work.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I explain the logic that underpins all my teaching, and why traditional behavioral parenting approaches - which are great for many children - don't work for PDA children and teens because of the way their brains and nervous systems work.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>84f9e951-bfcf-47eb-9027-7447d9bc2097Tue, 24 Sep 2024 10:31:00 -040025:51falsefull178781Ep. 77 - From Solution Seeking to Decision Making While Parenting A PDA ChildEp. 77 - From Solution Seeking to Decision Making While Parenting A PDA ChildLike many parents, I spent years looking for a magic solution that would fix or circumvent my son's PDA. And then I came to accept that this is a disability he has. Only then was I able to make the decisions to truly support him and our family.

In this episode I share the tool I teach in the Paradigm Shift Program™ to help parents accept the limitations they face and make decisions to move forward. I hope it supports you, too.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Like many parents, I spent years looking for a magic solution that would fix or circumvent my son's PDA. And then I came to accept that this is a disability he has. Only then was I able to make the decisions to truly support him and our family.

In this episode I share the tool I teach in the Paradigm Shift Program™ to help parents accept the limitations they face and make decisions to move forward. I hope it supports you, too.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>8fa256d8-749c-4a9a-81b4-6f669731a137Thu, 19 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -040017:59falsefull177771Ep. 76 - What the Lack of Research on PDA Means (and Doesn't Mean)Ep. 76 - What the Lack of Research on PDA Means (and Doesn't Mean)In this episode I explain why it makes total sense that we have PDA children and teens before academia has proven the existence of PDA, because research follows real life. (And while I love research, it is often slow and expensive.)

But that doesn't mean we can't move forward and experiment with approaches that support our children. That's what parents have always done, and then studies come after that prove the effectiveness of those approaches.

I hope this episode validates for you that what you know to be true is indeed true, even though many of the practitioners you work with (therapists, teachers, pediatricians) didn't learn about it in school.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I explain why it makes total sense that we have PDA children and teens before academia has proven the existence of PDA, because research follows real life. (And while I love research, it is often slow and expensive.)

But that doesn't mean we can't move forward and experiment with approaches that support our children. That's what parents have always done, and then studies come after that prove the effectiveness of those approaches.

I hope this episode validates for you that what you know to be true is indeed true, even though many of the practitioners you work with (therapists, teachers, pediatricians) didn't learn about it in school.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>e054af29-0acc-49e5-82b6-8c43541b82a3Mon, 16 Sep 2024 10:47:00 -040013:43falsefull176761Ep. 75 - Signaling Safety to Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 75 - Signaling Safety to Your PDA Child or TeenOne of our goals in accommodating the nervous systems of our PDA children and teens is to make them feel safe. And in this video I walk through nine ways we can signal safety (many of which aren't verbal) to help them feel safe, and safe in their connection with us.

This podcast is the audio recording of a video I made, and you can hear me talk about some of the visuals I shared, which you don't really need, but are available here if you want to see them (https://youtu.be/FD_oHidffP4?si=R3EOQiBUY9ihccyr).

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>One of our goals in accommodating the nervous systems of our PDA children and teens is to make them feel safe. And in this video I walk through nine ways we can signal safety (many of which aren't verbal) to help them feel safe, and safe in their connection with us.

This podcast is the audio recording of a video I made, and you can hear me talk about some of the visuals I shared, which you don't really need, but are available here if you want to see them (https://youtu.be/FD_oHidffP4?si=R3EOQiBUY9ihccyr).

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>c79db05d-ed33-424e-b859-a2d6f9646eaaThu, 12 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -040015:34falsefull175751Ep. 74 - The 4S's of Nervous System Regulation for Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 74 - The 4S's of Nervous System Regulation for Your PDA Child or TeenI don't plan a single weekend - nor really any other free time with my PDA son - without thinking about the 4 S's. Just keeping them in mind buoys my confidence that I know how to prevent or interrupt my son's dysregulation.

This podcast is the audio of a video I made explaining the 4S's in detail. I talk a bit about the graphics I drew for the video, which you don't really need to see, but can find here if you'd like (https://youtu.be/4hYEtJhbg7k?si=jZlWZLhawS-sZ0p4).

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>I don't plan a single weekend - nor really any other free time with my PDA son - without thinking about the 4 S's. Just keeping them in mind buoys my confidence that I know how to prevent or interrupt my son's dysregulation.

This podcast is the audio of a video I made explaining the 4S's in detail. I talk a bit about the graphics I drew for the video, which you don't really need to see, but can find here if you'd like (https://youtu.be/4hYEtJhbg7k?si=jZlWZLhawS-sZ0p4).

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>a065c97b-2018-464a-a39f-da8d0da2b351Mon, 09 Sep 2024 12:46:00 -040012:02falsefull174741Ep. 73 - Interview with Kelly Edwards: Unschooling Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 73 - Interview with Kelly Edwards: Unschooling Your PDA Child or TeenAre you thinking about taking your PDA child or teen out of formal school for homeschooling? Or perhaps you've already done so and are finding what you've gotten into to be pure chaos?

This episode is for you!

Kelly Edwards is the mother of a PDA child and founder of 90-Minute School Day (https://90minuteschoolday.com/), an organization that helps parents homeschool and unschool their neurodivergent children and teens. I loved speaking with her and know her insights will be supportive for so many of you great parents out there!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Are you thinking about taking your PDA child or teen out of formal school for homeschooling? Or perhaps you've already done so and are finding what you've gotten into to be pure chaos?

This episode is for you!

Kelly Edwards is the mother of a PDA child and founder of 90-Minute School Day (https://90minuteschoolday.com/), an organization that helps parents homeschool and unschool their neurodivergent children and teens. I loved speaking with her and know her insights will be supportive for so many of you great parents out there!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>17b8eb31-7373-4054-b373-aee21bef0ac9Thu, 05 Sep 2024 09:08:00 -040054:49falsefull173731Ep. 72 - You Don't Have to Be Perfect!Ep. 72 - You Don't Have to Be Perfect!Raising a PDA child or teen is extremely challenging. Trying to be perfect in your implementation of accommodations makes it impossible and unsustainable.

But here's the good news - you don't have to be perfect! Not when your child is in burnout, and certainly not when they're in equilibrium and you need to bring some nuance to your caregiving.

I explain these distinctions in this episode, which I hopes helps you breathe a little deeper and recognize what a great job you're already doing!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Raising a PDA child or teen is extremely challenging. Trying to be perfect in your implementation of accommodations makes it impossible and unsustainable.

But here's the good news - you don't have to be perfect! Not when your child is in burnout, and certainly not when they're in equilibrium and you need to bring some nuance to your caregiving.

I explain these distinctions in this episode, which I hopes helps you breathe a little deeper and recognize what a great job you're already doing!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>be54f4fc-4ca8-4d9b-93cc-e91c72eef01bTue, 03 Sep 2024 13:47:00 -040028:29falsefull172721Ep. 71 - The Role of Intuition While Parenting a PDA Child or TeenEp. 71 - The Role of Intuition While Parenting a PDA Child or TeenAre you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>d2389b95-25a5-4b72-b70b-7f923801486eThu, 29 Aug 2024 13:30:00 -040025:27falsefull171711Ep. 70 - Advocating With Your PDA Child or Teen's SchoolEp. 70 - Advocating With Your PDA Child or Teen's SchoolAre you dreading the start to school with your PDA child or teen? 😬

You are not alone! 

During this free training, I explored seven steps to help you feel more confident and empowered with skills that can help you solve problems and get your child or teen the support and access to learning that they deserve and have a right to 💪.

Structure of the free mini training:

👉Tough love and radically accepting the constraints we can’t change in the moment.

👉Identifying decision points vs. strategies for advocacy

👉 Strategic communication with schools

👉Identify specific needs and solutions (one problem at a time)

👉 PLATO framework for making non-violent communication requests (Citation: Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Compassion)

👉Collect data on response (e.g. Yes, No, but… or No) to inform decision making.

These are skills we apply, practice, and refine in the context of your real life and home in our signature Paradigm Shift Program (https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program)

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Are you dreading the start to school with your PDA child or teen? 😬

You are not alone! 

During this free training, I explored seven steps to help you feel more confident and empowered with skills that can help you solve problems and get your child or teen the support and access to learning that they deserve and have a right to 💪.

Structure of the free mini training:

👉Tough love and radically accepting the constraints we can’t change in the moment.

👉Identifying decision points vs. strategies for advocacy

👉 Strategic communication with schools

👉Identify specific needs and solutions (one problem at a time)

👉 PLATO framework for making non-violent communication requests (Citation: Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Compassion)

👉Collect data on response (e.g. Yes, No, but… or No) to inform decision making.

These are skills we apply, practice, and refine in the context of your real life and home in our signature Paradigm Shift Program (https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program)

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>017e2ee7-11e3-4a66-9a53-e8b7097b5925Mon, 26 Aug 2024 12:04:00 -040051:04falsefull170701Ep. 69 - What to do when your PDA child or teen is controlling, criticizing, swearing at you...?Ep. 69 - What to do when your PDA child or teen is controlling, criticizing, swearing at you...?In this episode I talk through the steps you can take to accommodate your PDA child or teen as they equalize against you. This is not easy stuff, but can be life changing over time.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I talk through the steps you can take to accommodate your PDA child or teen as they equalize against you. This is not easy stuff, but can be life changing over time.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>8169236e-9509-4b05-b67d-77e04c098b71Mon, 19 Aug 2024 13:18:00 -040031:42falsefull169691Ep. 68 - Externalized vs Internalized PDAEp. 68 - Externalized vs Internalized PDAAre you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>7f1747c7-c6ea-4daf-98d8-b734dfcec56cTue, 13 Aug 2024 10:44:00 -040023:05falsefull168681Ep. 67 - Donna Georgen: Expert Coach for Parents of PDA Tweens, Teens and Young AdultsEp. 67 - Donna Georgen: Expert Coach for Parents of PDA Tweens, Teens and Young AdultsIn this episode Donna Georgen - one of the expert coaches with At Peace Parents - shares her own amazing story of being a single mother raising two PDA daughters, one of whom also has Down Syndrome, into adulthood.

Donna is a true inspiration, and a wonderful human. I feel so fortunate that she now brings all of her wisdom, empathy and practicality to her private coaching clients, and her work as a moderator in the Paradigm Shift Program online community.

Want to learn more about coaching with Donna? Here's her coaching page: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/donna-coaching

Interested in her support as part of the Paradigm Shift Program? Learn more here: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

Or if you're still trying to figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is on the At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode Donna Georgen - one of the expert coaches with At Peace Parents - shares her own amazing story of being a single mother raising two PDA daughters, one of whom also has Down Syndrome, into adulthood.

Donna is a true inspiration, and a wonderful human. I feel so fortunate that she now brings all of her wisdom, empathy and practicality to her private coaching clients, and her work as a moderator in the Paradigm Shift Program online community.

Want to learn more about coaching with Donna? Here's her coaching page: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/donna-coaching

Interested in her support as part of the Paradigm Shift Program? Learn more here: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

Or if you're still trying to figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is on the At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>9a235daa-31b3-4bf0-affb-52e5d568f44aFri, 26 Jul 2024 21:49:00 -040058:10falsefull167671Ep. 66 - None of This is Your Fault! (Shame and Parenting a PDA Child or Teen)Ep. 66 - None of This is Your Fault! (Shame and Parenting a PDA Child or Teen)In my work with hundreds of families one thing I see often is that parents are wrongly made to feel shame for their parenting by well-meaning but shortsighted "experts." In this episode of the podcast I debunk the arguments and "evidence" that these experts use and show that none of us need to feel ashamed of the herculean parenting we're doing.

Are you ready to dive deeper with me, my team and a cohort of other understanding families facing the same challenges you do? If so, I recommend joining the waitlist to get early access for enrollment in the next Paradigm Shift Program. (Last enrollment every spot filled.)

Here's the link: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/psp-waitlist

Or if you're not sure if your child is PDA, you might find my FREE Clarity Masterclass, as I designed it to help you determine if your child fits the PDA profile: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/clarity

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In my work with hundreds of families one thing I see often is that parents are wrongly made to feel shame for their parenting by well-meaning but shortsighted "experts." In this episode of the podcast I debunk the arguments and "evidence" that these experts use and show that none of us need to feel ashamed of the herculean parenting we're doing.

Are you ready to dive deeper with me, my team and a cohort of other understanding families facing the same challenges you do? If so, I recommend joining the waitlist to get early access for enrollment in the next Paradigm Shift Program. (Last enrollment every spot filled.)

Here's the link: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/psp-waitlist

Or if you're not sure if your child is PDA, you might find my FREE Clarity Masterclass, as I designed it to help you determine if your child fits the PDA profile: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/clarity

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>b46b0d7b-9524-4dca-9a9f-5305269962d0Wed, 17 Jul 2024 12:07:00 -040024:06falsefull166661Ep. 65 - What is it like to grow up as an internalized PDAer?Ep. 65 - What is it like to grow up as an internalized PDAer?This episode is a MUST listen! Kendahl Damashek, a gifted PDAer and parent coach with At Peace Parents, walks us through her experience as a PDA child and young adult. With vulnerability and courage, Kendahl shares her experience with burnout in her college years and her story of how she learned to balance raising four PDA children and her own access needs.

I am grateful that I get to work with Kendahl every day as a member of the At Peace Parents team. She shares her wisdom in the online community of the Paradigm Shift Program (https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program) which she helps moderate - she actually told her story in a private session of the PSP, but it was too good for me not to share more broadly - and in one-on-one coaching with families, many of whom come to her for her personal experience being 2E (twice exceptional - gifted and PDA) and raising 2E children.

You can learn more about her and her coaching services at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/kendahl-private-coaching-1

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>This episode is a MUST listen! Kendahl Damashek, a gifted PDAer and parent coach with At Peace Parents, walks us through her experience as a PDA child and young adult. With vulnerability and courage, Kendahl shares her experience with burnout in her college years and her story of how she learned to balance raising four PDA children and her own access needs.

I am grateful that I get to work with Kendahl every day as a member of the At Peace Parents team. She shares her wisdom in the online community of the Paradigm Shift Program (https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program) which she helps moderate - she actually told her story in a private session of the PSP, but it was too good for me not to share more broadly - and in one-on-one coaching with families, many of whom come to her for her personal experience being 2E (twice exceptional - gifted and PDA) and raising 2E children.

You can learn more about her and her coaching services at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/kendahl-private-coaching-1

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>27886377-de4a-4a0a-9a32-436c0456fcb1Tue, 09 Jul 2024 13:15:00 -040001:04:48falsefull165651Ep. 64 - Parenting a PDA Child like Scientist WouldEp. 64 - Parenting a PDA Child like Scientist WouldWe can use time-tested scientific methods to determine the best ways to parent our PDA children and teens. In fact, many of you likely already do so, and in this episode I discuss how we all can.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>We can use time-tested scientific methods to determine the best ways to parent our PDA children and teens. In fact, many of you likely already do so, and in this episode I discuss how we all can.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>d87d0e69-1323-45b2-b97d-50cc3f7ae54dWed, 26 Jun 2024 14:26:00 -040026:51falsefull164641Ep. 63 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens Amidst OCD, Violence and Siblings with Dr. Alex KleinEp. 63 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens Amidst OCD, Violence and Siblings with Dr. Alex KleinIn this episode Dr. Alex Klein, clinical psychologist, discussed strategies for parents of children with both PDA and OCD, and how to handle violence and hitting, especially with the added challenge of keeping siblings safe.

Also, Dr. Klein mentions two other practitioners in this episode, Dr. Melissa Neff (https://www.melissaneffphd.com/) and Dr. Jeremy Shuman (https://mindfulstl.com/providers/jeremy-shuman-psy-d/)

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode Dr. Alex Klein, clinical psychologist, discussed strategies for parents of children with both PDA and OCD, and how to handle violence and hitting, especially with the added challenge of keeping siblings safe.

Also, Dr. Klein mentions two other practitioners in this episode, Dr. Melissa Neff (https://www.melissaneffphd.com/) and Dr. Jeremy Shuman (https://mindfulstl.com/providers/jeremy-shuman-psy-d/)

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>30e5ecde-d861-4b2b-936b-e74e4ccf26e5Thu, 20 Jun 2024 10:51:00 -040001:04:15falsefull163631Ep. 62 - Violence and Risk Mitigation Raising a PDA Child or TeenEp. 62 - Violence and Risk Mitigation Raising a PDA Child or TeenThe subject of this podcast can be triggering, but I'm committed to talking about it because so many parents of PDA children and teens encounter violence - and I am sending love and, compassion and deep empathy to all of you - and because part of the mission of At Peace Parents is to reduce violence at the individual, household and societal level.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>The subject of this podcast can be triggering, but I'm committed to talking about it because so many parents of PDA children and teens encounter violence - and I am sending love and, compassion and deep empathy to all of you - and because part of the mission of At Peace Parents is to reduce violence at the individual, household and societal level.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>81ecf920-977d-4298-b330-4ab74eea90aaFri, 14 Jun 2024 10:12:00 -040027:42falsefull162621Ep. 61 - Kendahl Damashek: Expert Coach for Parents of 2E PDAersEp. 61 - Kendahl Damashek: Expert Coach for Parents of 2E PDAersIn this episode I talk with At Peace Parents coach Kendahl Damashek about parenting twice exceptional children - who are both gifted and PDA. Kendahl shares her personal experience being 2E and raising 2E children.

You can learn more about her and her coaching services at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/kendahl-private-coaching-1

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I talk with At Peace Parents coach Kendahl Damashek about parenting twice exceptional children - who are both gifted and PDA. Kendahl shares her personal experience being 2E and raising 2E children.

You can learn more about her and her coaching services at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/kendahl-private-coaching-1

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>21aa7467-75c1-4421-a04b-2006d15f0516Wed, 05 Jun 2024 16:10:00 -040056:45falsefull161611Ep. 60 - Polyvagal Theory and Parenting a PDA Child or TeenEp. 60 - Polyvagal Theory and Parenting a PDA Child or TeenIn this episode I share how Polyvagal Theory - cutting edge understanding of how the human nervous system works - can help us parent our PDA children and teens. Specifically, I look at how it helps us answer the following paradoxical questions:

1 - Why do things seem to get worse after I dive in on accommodating?

2 - How can my child turn their responses on or off if the behaviors truly aren't under their conscious control?

3 - Similarly, how can equalizing be social in nature if not under their control?

4 - Why, after making so much progress with my PDA child, do I personally feel so awful in my own nervous system?

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I share how Polyvagal Theory - cutting edge understanding of how the human nervous system works - can help us parent our PDA children and teens. Specifically, I look at how it helps us answer the following paradoxical questions:

1 - Why do things seem to get worse after I dive in on accommodating?

2 - How can my child turn their responses on or off if the behaviors truly aren't under their conscious control?

3 - Similarly, how can equalizing be social in nature if not under their control?

4 - Why, after making so much progress with my PDA child, do I personally feel so awful in my own nervous system?

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>4160b4f8-a9b2-451c-b582-7cc3219e9c00Tue, 28 May 2024 10:32:00 -040030:39falsefull160601Ep. 59 - Angry and Exhausted from Advocating for Your PDA Child? These ideas can help.Ep. 59 - Angry and Exhausted from Advocating for Your PDA Child? These ideas can help.In this episode I share the lessons I learned THE HARD WAY about advocating for my PDA son. Because you are truly not alone if you're feeling angry and exhausted after trying to convince teachers, doctors, therapists, grandparents, even spouses what your child needs and why - I've worked with hundreds of families who have gone through this.

I share these lessons in the hope that it will short cut the process for you, so you can preserve some of your limited energy.

Interested in the two books I mention - Non-Violent Communication and Boundary Boss. You can find links to both on our resources page, and if you buy through those links a commission will go towards our scholarship program. www.atpeaceparents.com/resources

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I share the lessons I learned THE HARD WAY about advocating for my PDA son. Because you are truly not alone if you're feeling angry and exhausted after trying to convince teachers, doctors, therapists, grandparents, even spouses what your child needs and why - I've worked with hundreds of families who have gone through this.

I share these lessons in the hope that it will short cut the process for you, so you can preserve some of your limited energy.

Interested in the two books I mention - Non-Violent Communication and Boundary Boss. You can find links to both on our resources page, and if you buy through those links a commission will go towards our scholarship program. www.atpeaceparents.com/resources

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>eb54424f-3ef6-4f2b-9bf1-738745af9c2eThu, 16 May 2024 14:28:00 -040033:07falsefull159591Ep. 58 - How Polyvagal Theory Explains Masking in PDA ChildrenEp. 58 - How Polyvagal Theory Explains Masking in PDA ChildrenParents often ask me how their three-year-old PDA child could possibly be masking before they've even started preschsool and seen much of how other kids behave. It's a great question, and one I asked many times as well.

In this episode I dig into the answer, according to Polyvagal Theory.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Parents often ask me how their three-year-old PDA child could possibly be masking before they've even started preschsool and seen much of how other kids behave. It's a great question, and one I asked many times as well.

In this episode I dig into the answer, according to Polyvagal Theory.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>6cdb2a29-ae77-4bb2-a5ff-9e753b823409Fri, 10 May 2024 09:12:00 -040028:40falsefull158581Ep. 57 - Conversation with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical PsychologistEp. 57 - Conversation with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical PsychologistIn this episode Dr. Alex Klein and I answer questions that families submitted. If you'd like to submit a question for one of our future conversations, here is where you can do so: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/submit-question-klein-ehrlich

Here's some of the questions we took on for this episode:

  • How do you know if the behavior you are observing as a parent is from ADHD or PDA? What are the differences and similarities?
  • Why are psychologists so resistant to recognizing PDA? (Asked as “What is wrong with Psychologists that they can’t see this as a neurotype!?!” 😊)
  • Are psychologists helpful at all if they aren’t PDA themselves? Is it even worth trying to find a psychologist?
  • What do you do if ABA is recommended by a doctor, but intuitively you don't think it is the right fit? 

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode Dr. Alex Klein and I answer questions that families submitted. If you'd like to submit a question for one of our future conversations, here is where you can do so: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/submit-question-klein-ehrlich

Here's some of the questions we took on for this episode:

  • How do you know if the behavior you are observing as a parent is from ADHD or PDA? What are the differences and similarities?
  • Why are psychologists so resistant to recognizing PDA? (Asked as “What is wrong with Psychologists that they can’t see this as a neurotype!?!” 😊)
  • Are psychologists helpful at all if they aren’t PDA themselves? Is it even worth trying to find a psychologist?
  • What do you do if ABA is recommended by a doctor, but intuitively you don't think it is the right fit? 

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>58dd2300-85de-49a9-9daf-512a281efa4aFri, 03 May 2024 11:46:00 -040046:08falsefull157571Ep. 56 - PDA Children Avoiding Writing and DrawingEp. 56 - PDA Children Avoiding Writing and DrawingDoes your child refuses to write or draw? In this episode I share my story of my son's avoidance of both and how supporting his nervous with PDA accommodations enabled him to come back to them over time.

The story also illustrates the general logic of supporting a child through and out of burnout.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Does your child refuses to write or draw? In this episode I share my story of my son's avoidance of both and how supporting his nervous with PDA accommodations enabled him to come back to them over time.

The story also illustrates the general logic of supporting a child through and out of burnout.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>d405fa08-597a-4bb8-a814-5e90cd799c27Wed, 24 Apr 2024 14:50:00 -040020:38falsefull156561Ep. 55 - Boundaries vs Rules with Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 55 - Boundaries vs Rules with Your PDA Child or TeenKnowing the difference between boundaries and rules, and when to use each, can be really helpful when parenting a PDA child or teen.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Knowing the difference between boundaries and rules, and when to use each, can be really helpful when parenting a PDA child or teen.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>6ee805d5-2bc7-43c5-892c-dc5e3de41e07Fri, 12 Apr 2024 15:24:00 -040023:39falsefull155551Ep. 54 - Play Therapy and PDA - A Conversation with Therapist Lauren Stern NoelEp. 54 - Play Therapy and PDA - A Conversation with Therapist Lauren Stern NoelIn this episode I reconnect with my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. We talk about playing with PDA children, and how it can look different than what parents might have expected.

Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website: https://www.playtimekids.org/about-lauren

Lauren's full bio is here: Lauren Stern Noel has been working with children with autism spectrum disorders and developmental differences since 2003. She is a credentialed Developmental Therapist through the Illinois Early Intervention program, a certified Infant Mental Health Specialist through Erikson Institute, and a Fellows-level certified DIRFloortime® therapist through Profectum™ Academy. Lauren believes that relationships and a strong social-emotional foundation are the basis for play, development and learning.

Lauren earned a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Michigan and a Master’s degree in child development from Tufts University.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent!

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I reconnect with my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. We talk about playing with PDA children, and how it can look different than what parents might have expected.

Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website: https://www.playtimekids.org/about-lauren

Lauren's full bio is here: Lauren Stern Noel has been working with children with autism spectrum disorders and developmental differences since 2003. She is a credentialed Developmental Therapist through the Illinois Early Intervention program, a certified Infant Mental Health Specialist through Erikson Institute, and a Fellows-level certified DIRFloortime® therapist through Profectum™ Academy. Lauren believes that relationships and a strong social-emotional foundation are the basis for play, development and learning.

Lauren earned a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Michigan and a Master’s degree in child development from Tufts University.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent!

xoxo,

Casey

]]>b14b59dc-6fb0-49b1-9be4-c08112add735Tue, 19 Mar 2024 12:09:00 -040044:30falsefull154541Ep. 53 - Parenting vs Caregiving for a PDA Child or TeenEp. 53 - Parenting vs Caregiving for a PDA Child or TeenIn this episode I discuss how as parents of PDA children or teens we do both parenting and caregiving, and how that relates to a "Gentle Parenting" approach.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I discuss how as parents of PDA children or teens we do both parenting and caregiving, and how that relates to a "Gentle Parenting" approach.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>cff8d873-f476-496e-bb40-11957cdaba17Tue, 12 Mar 2024 10:23:00 -040018:46falsefull153531Ep. 52 - Rhythms versus Routines when Parenting a PDA Child or TeenEp. 52 - Rhythms versus Routines when Parenting a PDA Child or TeenIn this episode I talk about how I view parenting a PDA child or teen as distinct from "Gentle Parenting" by focusing on rhythms instead of routines.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I talk about how I view parenting a PDA child or teen as distinct from "Gentle Parenting" by focusing on rhythms instead of routines.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>77abacc1-50d5-4041-961f-d01842c1b56cMon, 04 Mar 2024 15:06:00 -040014:53falsefull152521Ep. 51 - Signalling Safety to Your PDA Child or TeenEp. 51 - Signalling Safety to Your PDA Child or TeenSignalling safety - often non-verbally - to your PDA child or teen can be a really impactful way to accommodate their nervous system. In this episode I provide seven tips on how to do it.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Signalling safety - often non-verbally - to your PDA child or teen can be a really impactful way to accommodate their nervous system. In this episode I provide seven tips on how to do it.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>c8c55621-f4c3-4cd1-8fb2-a72d8e19c795Mon, 26 Feb 2024 10:27:00 -040029:25falsefull151511Ep. 50 - Sensory Processing Disorder or Pathological Demand Avoidance?Ep. 50 - Sensory Processing Disorder or Pathological Demand Avoidance?In this episode I discuss my two sons, the differences between SPD and PDA, and how those differences impact parenting.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I discuss my two sons, the differences between SPD and PDA, and how those differences impact parenting.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>22cd3ba8-b53c-4aac-b59b-9390fc7d4a0dFri, 23 Feb 2024 09:58:00 -040022:20falsefull150501Ep. 49 - Conversation with Lauren Stern Noel, Developmental Therapist (and great friend!)Ep. 49 - Conversation with Lauren Stern Noel, Developmental Therapist (and great friend!)When my PDA son was four-years-old and we were in crisis I called my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. She invited me to Chicago to stay with her family and meet her most trusted colleagues - a speech language pathologist and occupational therapist - to help Cooper stabilize.

The most profound shift for me was in my parenting and helping me start my paradigm shift towards a non-behavioral approach to supporting my PDA child. In this episode we discuss that beginning and her insights working with many children with developmental, learning, or interactional differences.

Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website.

Lauren's full bio is here: Lauren Stern Noel has been working with children with autism spectrum disorders and developmental differences since 2003. She is a credentialed Developmental Therapist through the Illinois Early Intervention program, a certified Infant Mental Health Specialist through Erikson Institute, and a Fellows-level certified DIRFloortime® therapist through Profectum™ Academy. Lauren believes that relationships and a strong social-emotional foundation are the basis for play, development and learning.

Lauren earned a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Michigan and a Master’s degree in child development from Tufts University.

~~

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>When my PDA son was four-years-old and we were in crisis I called my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. She invited me to Chicago to stay with her family and meet her most trusted colleagues - a speech language pathologist and occupational therapist - to help Cooper stabilize.

The most profound shift for me was in my parenting and helping me start my paradigm shift towards a non-behavioral approach to supporting my PDA child. In this episode we discuss that beginning and her insights working with many children with developmental, learning, or interactional differences.

Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website.

Lauren's full bio is here: Lauren Stern Noel has been working with children with autism spectrum disorders and developmental differences since 2003. She is a credentialed Developmental Therapist through the Illinois Early Intervention program, a certified Infant Mental Health Specialist through Erikson Institute, and a Fellows-level certified DIRFloortime® therapist through Profectum™ Academy. Lauren believes that relationships and a strong social-emotional foundation are the basis for play, development and learning.

Lauren earned a Bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Michigan and a Master’s degree in child development from Tufts University.

~~

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>5a259df1-10ff-4dc2-a722-621c84afd4bfWed, 14 Feb 2024 11:31:00 -040045:18falsefull149491Ep. 48 - Siblings and PDA (Again)Ep. 48 - Siblings and PDA (Again)I always get questions about how to handle dynamics between a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child or teen and their sibling/s. And with good reason - it can be REALLY hard to navigate these dynamics in ways that support all members of the family.

Want more on this topic? I first discussed it about a year ago in episode 15.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>I always get questions about how to handle dynamics between a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child or teen and their sibling/s. And with good reason - it can be REALLY hard to navigate these dynamics in ways that support all members of the family.

Want more on this topic? I first discussed it about a year ago in episode 15.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>fa87e8fd-0ed8-4fda-a12d-673d0c551740Mon, 05 Feb 2024 12:38:00 -040020:29falsefull148481Ep. 47 - What skills do we need to parent our PDA children?Ep. 47 - What skills do we need to parent our PDA children?In this episode I discuss the practical skills we need as parents to support the nervous systems and health of our PDA children and teens, and how it relates to my morning's yoga session...

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode I discuss the practical skills we need as parents to support the nervous systems and health of our PDA children and teens, and how it relates to my morning's yoga session...

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>4026fd74-a45a-4506-a32c-30b2ae96ed62Mon, 29 Jan 2024 12:55:00 -040017:42falsefull147471Ep. 46 - "Strewing" to Accommodate your PDA Child or TeenEp. 46 - "Strewing" to Accommodate your PDA Child or TeenI explain strewing as an accommodation that can help PDA children and teens.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

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Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>I explain strewing as an accommodation that can help PDA children and teens.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>5f091c5c-93eb-4c93-8e75-ec18d3ee7942Wed, 24 Jan 2024 13:41:00 -040023:28falsefull146461Ep. 45 - First PDA Discussion with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical PsychologistEp. 45 - First PDA Discussion with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical PsychologistCasey and Dr. Klein discuss PDA in their first podcast (of many to follow) and he shares some of the insights of PDA he's gained as a clinical psychologist.

Disclaimer: Dr. Klein does not provide any clinical, medical, or therapeutic support as part of this podcast. To work with him as a clinician, you can find him here: https://www.dralexklein.com/

(Casey doesn't either).

You can submit questions for my future chats with Dr. Klein here.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey and Dr. Klein discuss PDA in their first podcast (of many to follow) and he shares some of the insights of PDA he's gained as a clinical psychologist.

Disclaimer: Dr. Klein does not provide any clinical, medical, or therapeutic support as part of this podcast. To work with him as a clinician, you can find him here: https://www.dralexklein.com/

(Casey doesn't either).

You can submit questions for my future chats with Dr. Klein here.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>ca66cd9b-f77b-49cd-bf60-0f61446a868fTue, 16 Jan 2024 10:06:00 -040001:05:37falsefull145451Ep. 44 - Five places parents get stuckEp. 44 - Five places parents get stuckCasey discusses the five most common ways she's found parents of PDA children and teens get stuck in bringing their family to stability.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

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Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey discusses the five most common ways she's found parents of PDA children and teens get stuck in bringing their family to stability.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>40c34867-ae4c-43ea-9fdd-35929f47a337Mon, 08 Jan 2024 09:33:00 -040031:33falsefull144441Ep. 43 - Guilt and second arrows as parents of PDA childrenEp. 43 - Guilt and second arrows as parents of PDA childrenCasey discusses the ways parents of PDA children shoot themselves with the "second arrow" - often guilt - and ways to transcend it.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

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Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey discusses the ways parents of PDA children shoot themselves with the "second arrow" - often guilt - and ways to transcend it.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>a990e979-1741-49d2-b45b-367a970740cfThu, 21 Dec 2023 12:33:00 -040028:37falsefull143431Ep. 42 - Service Dogs and PDAEp. 42 - Service Dogs and PDAIn this episode Casey discusses having a service dog to help her PDA son, and some of the ups and downs she's been through.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode Casey discusses having a service dog to help her PDA son, and some of the ups and downs she's been through.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>9e4232e4-ab8c-4211-9bc3-7d3da7ce30a1Tue, 12 Dec 2023 13:23:00 -040019:16falsefull142421Ep. 41 - PDA and Taking a Research PerspectiveEp. 41 - PDA and Taking a Research PerspectiveCasey discusses her identity, her role as a researcher rather than an advocate, and how this informs her objective approach - and openness -to helping each unique family find what works for them and the PDA child or teen without an attachment to path they choose.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

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Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey discusses her identity, her role as a researcher rather than an advocate, and how this informs her objective approach - and openness -to helping each unique family find what works for them and the PDA child or teen without an attachment to path they choose.

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents.

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>558cac0b-04b1-4d9a-b1ea-79705640cd35Mon, 04 Dec 2023 10:15:00 -040012:42falsefull141411Ep. 40 - If I accommodate now, what will happen when they grow up?Ep. 40 - If I accommodate now, what will happen when they grow up?Casey talks about the theory of change she uses in her work, and the common fear parents have that if they accommodate their PDA children and teens they will not be able to succeed as adults.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey talks about the theory of change she uses in her work, and the common fear parents have that if they accommodate their PDA children and teens they will not be able to succeed as adults.

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>6d77e46a-eeeb-49fd-9914-e0d8533bf998Tue, 28 Nov 2023 10:16:00 -040030:08falsefull140401Ep. 39 - Parenting through the holidaysEp. 39 - Parenting through the holidaysIn this episode Casey discusses the challenges and strategies of parenting a PDA child or teen through the holiday season.

(This episode was pulled from a recent Instagram Live video.)

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode Casey discusses the challenges and strategies of parenting a PDA child or teen through the holiday season.

(This episode was pulled from a recent Instagram Live video.)

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>513c9ce8-1be0-4954-be65-672d03c94780Tue, 21 Nov 2023 15:20:00 -040026:13falsefull139391Ep. 38 - Is PDA on a spectrum?Ep. 38 - Is PDA on a spectrum?Casey discusses the variability among PDA children and teens.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey discusses the variability among PDA children and teens.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>f3856c48-1a14-4161-9725-3c871f0a77d2Mon, 13 Nov 2023 12:52:00 -040010:13falsefull138381Ep. 37 - Let's talk about empathyEp. 37 - Let's talk about empathyPDA children and teens have empathy, and in this episode we talk about why and how to help their nervous systems so they can access it.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>PDA children and teens have empathy, and in this episode we talk about why and how to help their nervous systems so they can access it.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>6c4b4970-c35c-4bb5-95cf-11dd20e26631Tue, 07 Nov 2023 09:24:00 -040011:01falsefull137371Ep. 36 - Are you a PDA parent of a PDA child?Ep. 36 - Are you a PDA parent of a PDA child?In this episode we discuss the unique experience of parenting a PDA child for parents who are also pathologically demand avoidant and offer some simple tools and insights that may be helpful.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode we discuss the unique experience of parenting a PDA child for parents who are also pathologically demand avoidant and offer some simple tools and insights that may be helpful.

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>9900543a-f212-47db-9d05-44163a783d57Mon, 30 Oct 2023 15:58:00 -040016:02falsefull136361Ep. 35 - 6 Tips for Making Halloween More Manageable for your Family.Ep. 35 - 6 Tips for Making Halloween More Manageable for your Family.In this episode, we discuss why the Halloween - and the holidays - are so tough on PDA children and teens, as well as their parents, and I offer some tips to help you get through the beginning of what we call "The Gauntlet" in my family (the period between Halloween and my son's bday in January).

Remember - it's not you! It's totally normal to dread these times of the year because of societal demands and expectations!

I hope this podcast episode serves you.

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode, we discuss why the Halloween - and the holidays - are so tough on PDA children and teens, as well as their parents, and I offer some tips to help you get through the beginning of what we call "The Gauntlet" in my family (the period between Halloween and my son's bday in January).

Remember - it's not you! It's totally normal to dread these times of the year because of societal demands and expectations!

I hope this podcast episode serves you.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>a3ffa212-7ead-46c3-b2bf-153b6d7ea8c0Tue, 24 Oct 2023 15:03:00 -040018:03falsefull135351Ep. 34 - The fawn and freeze responsesEp. 34 - The fawn and freeze responsesIn this episode Casey talks about the fawn and freeze responses to nervous system activation.

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xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode Casey talks about the fawn and freeze responses to nervous system activation.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>298ff980-7369-44ba-8685-5be89761e388Mon, 23 Oct 2023 08:30:00 -040013:08falsefull134341Ep. 33 - Behavioral approaches and why they don't workEp. 33 - Behavioral approaches and why they don't workCasey discusses why behavioral approaches don't work for PDA children and teens.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey discusses why behavioral approaches don't work for PDA children and teens.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>49120b29-3cd1-4856-ad54-5017e8888e68Tue, 17 Oct 2023 09:32:00 -040028:10falsefull133331Ep. 32 - Is therapy good for PDA kids?Ep. 32 - Is therapy good for PDA kids?Casey talks about therapy for PDA children.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Casey talks about therapy for PDA children.

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>3e572d78-7c2d-424e-84d8-c0ecf5492273Mon, 09 Oct 2023 10:06:00 -040016:31falsefull132321Ep. 31 - What does it look like long term if we don't correct our children's "bad behavior"?Ep. 31 - What does it look like long term if we don't correct our children's "bad behavior"?This episode explores what I call "The Theory of Change" of parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen through an accommodation approach over the long term (years!).

We talk about the logic behind lowering demands and making choices that feel counterintuitive as a parent to support your child back into their "thinking brain."

We also discuss radical acceptance and what that means day-to-day as a parent as a PDA child or teen.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>This episode explores what I call "The Theory of Change" of parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen through an accommodation approach over the long term (years!).

We talk about the logic behind lowering demands and making choices that feel counterintuitive as a parent to support your child back into their "thinking brain."

We also discuss radical acceptance and what that means day-to-day as a parent as a PDA child or teen.

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook

YouTube

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>48021fd9-5ec3-422e-a1ac-8e70784e8052Mon, 02 Oct 2023 15:53:00 -040038:19falsefull131311Ep. 30 - Have you "radically accepted" your PDA child or teen?Ep. 30 - Have you "radically accepted" your PDA child or teen?This episode discusses what it *actually* looks like to radically accept your PDA child or teen.

For many parents this is where the rubber hits the road and it is less about a nebulous or theoretical "acceptance" of a neurodivergent child, and more about the points at which we have to accept that raising a child with a nervous system disability requires tradeoffs to our lifestyle, letting go of certain expectations we had for our lives, and cost-benefit decision-making within constraints.

I hope it serves you. To connect with me, find me here:

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Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>This episode discusses what it *actually* looks like to radically accept your PDA child or teen.

For many parents this is where the rubber hits the road and it is less about a nebulous or theoretical "acceptance" of a neurodivergent child, and more about the points at which we have to accept that raising a child with a nervous system disability requires tradeoffs to our lifestyle, letting go of certain expectations we had for our lives, and cost-benefit decision-making within constraints.

I hope it serves you. To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>e84a61d1-5e24-4224-b86d-a4954909dd14Wed, 27 Sep 2023 09:27:00 -040021:45falsefull130301Ep. 29 - Can you "heal" Pathological Demand Avoidance?Ep. 29 - Can you "heal" Pathological Demand Avoidance?In this episode, we discuss the difference between trauma and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as well as the overlaps in terms of your child's or teen's behavior.

We talk about how you can heal trauma, however you cannot heal a neurotype, but rather accommodate it through trauma-informed parenting and practices.

Sometimes, as parents, we don't know where the line is between trauma and neurotype, so we have to be consistent in connection and accommodations and observe our own data about your child or teen over time.

I hope this episode serves you!

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode, we discuss the difference between trauma and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as well as the overlaps in terms of your child's or teen's behavior.

We talk about how you can heal trauma, however you cannot heal a neurotype, but rather accommodate it through trauma-informed parenting and practices.

Sometimes, as parents, we don't know where the line is between trauma and neurotype, so we have to be consistent in connection and accommodations and observe our own data about your child or teen over time.

I hope this episode serves you!

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>a5a494f8-0a64-4fb9-9816-41651a356bdaMon, 18 Sep 2023 15:26:00 -040034:58falsefull129291Ep. 28 - OCD, Anxiety or PDA?Ep. 28 - OCD, Anxiety or PDA?This episode is designed to do three things:

  1. Give you clarity on how to figure out the root cause of your child's controlling and avoidant behavior - Is it Anxiety, OCD and/or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?
  2. Help you notice subtle differences in controlling and avoidant behavior to determine if there is more than one thing going on.
  3. Encourage you to startobserving and tracking your chlid or teen's unique "indicators" (Basic Needs access, Connection and Trust with you, and Nervous System Stress) over the long term so you can make decisions about what type of approach is more supportive of your family (Exposure vs. Accommodation).

Happy Listening!

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

ps. Here is the link if you are interested in getting on the waitlist for the the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program.

Citations:


]]>This episode is designed to do three things:

  1. Give you clarity on how to figure out the root cause of your child's controlling and avoidant behavior - Is it Anxiety, OCD and/or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?
  2. Help you notice subtle differences in controlling and avoidant behavior to determine if there is more than one thing going on.
  3. Encourage you to startobserving and tracking your chlid or teen's unique "indicators" (Basic Needs access, Connection and Trust with you, and Nervous System Stress) over the long term so you can make decisions about what type of approach is more supportive of your family (Exposure vs. Accommodation).

Happy Listening!

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

ps. Here is the link if you are interested in getting on the waitlist for the the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program.

Citations:


]]>d64516f0-6037-426b-813c-732d80088ee3Fri, 08 Sep 2023 09:50:00 -040037:02falsefull128281Ep. 27 - Is My Child PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?Ep. 27 - Is My Child PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?"Is my child Autistic with Demand Avoidance OR is my child PDA?"

This is a question I get often from parents, so this is a free training to help you discern the answer that question for yourself. We will cover:

  • Figuring out which "lens" is most helpful to support your unique child and the root cause of the behaviors you observe.
  • Understanding that it is not an "either/or" or binary situation where PDA kids don't have social communication differences or that non-PDA autistic children and teens don't need autonomy and have sensitive nervous systems.
  • Patterns I have observed that help you distinguish for yourself whether your child is PDA.
  • Patterns I have observed among the 100s of parents I work with whose children or teens are indeed PDA.
  • An invitation to take an experimental approach and collect data on *your* unique child.

I hope it serves you!

To connect with me, find me here:

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For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>"Is my child Autistic with Demand Avoidance OR is my child PDA?"

This is a question I get often from parents, so this is a free training to help you discern the answer that question for yourself. We will cover:

  • Figuring out which "lens" is most helpful to support your unique child and the root cause of the behaviors you observe.
  • Understanding that it is not an "either/or" or binary situation where PDA kids don't have social communication differences or that non-PDA autistic children and teens don't need autonomy and have sensitive nervous systems.
  • Patterns I have observed that help you distinguish for yourself whether your child is PDA.
  • Patterns I have observed among the 100s of parents I work with whose children or teens are indeed PDA.
  • An invitation to take an experimental approach and collect data on *your* unique child.

I hope it serves you!

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>847728f9-9cec-460e-8dc6-f08577f48b51Thu, 03 Aug 2023 12:42:00 -040032:55falsefull127271Ep. 26 - What is the difference between PDA and trauma?Ep. 26 - What is the difference between PDA and trauma?In this episode, I answer this very commonly asked question: What is the difference between PDA and trauma?

As part of my answer, I discuss five things:

1. Why there is so much confusion between PDA and trauma.

2. Why there are different root causes behind similar nervous system activation.

3. Where there are points of overlap between PDA and trauma.

4. Different approaches to supporting them.
 
5. What we don't know yet about healing vs. accommodating a neurotype vs. neuroplasticity and where your child will land.

Citations:

"What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing," by Bruce Perry, MD, Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey

"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk

"Harnessing Electrochemicals to Treat Disorders Arising from Traumatic Stress" by Ronald Ruden (2019: 223)

To connect with me, find me here:

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YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, I answer this very commonly asked question: What is the difference between PDA and trauma?

As part of my answer, I discuss five things:

1. Why there is so much confusion between PDA and trauma.

2. Why there are different root causes behind similar nervous system activation.

3. Where there are points of overlap between PDA and trauma.

4. Different approaches to supporting them.
 
5. What we don't know yet about healing vs. accommodating a neurotype vs. neuroplasticity and where your child will land.

Citations:

"What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing," by Bruce Perry, MD, Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey

"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk

"Harnessing Electrochemicals to Treat Disorders Arising from Traumatic Stress" by Ronald Ruden (2019: 223)

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-13047599Thu, 15 Jun 2023 15:00:00 -040019:47falsefull126261Ep. 25 - Reframing Progress as a Parent of a PDA Child or TeenEp. 25 - Reframing Progress as a Parent of a PDA Child or TeenThis episode is an excerpt from the "Progress with PDA" workshop and is a way of looking at progress, even when you feel your most stuck as a parent.

This perspective is the "yin" side to the "yang" of tracking data and indicators of progress that you observe of your PDA child or teen as they move out of burnout and towards more well-being. 

I hope the episode serves you. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode is an excerpt from the "Progress with PDA" workshop and is a way of looking at progress, even when you feel your most stuck as a parent.

This perspective is the "yin" side to the "yang" of tracking data and indicators of progress that you observe of your PDA child or teen as they move out of burnout and towards more well-being. 

I hope the episode serves you. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12990948Tue, 06 Jun 2023 15:00:00 -040014:37falsefull124241Ep. 24 - Finding *your* unique PDA child or Teen's Edge.Ep. 24 - Finding *your* unique PDA child or Teen's Edge.In this episode, I answer the question: "What do I do when my PDA child or teen really wants to do something - see friends, play a sport, engage in an activity - but there is a big fallout afterwards?"


To connect with me, find me here:

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YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, I answer the question: "What do I do when my PDA child or teen really wants to do something - see friends, play a sport, engage in an activity - but there is a big fallout afterwards?"


To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12904906Tue, 23 May 2023 14:00:00 -040009:13falsefull124241Ep. 23 - Sticker Charts and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)Ep. 23 - Sticker Charts and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)In this episode, Casey shares the logic behind why sticker charts, laminated schedules, strict routines, and many of the supports used with children who have social communication differences and executive functioning differences actually backfire with PDA kids and young adults. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, Casey shares the logic behind why sticker charts, laminated schedules, strict routines, and many of the supports used with children who have social communication differences and executive functioning differences actually backfire with PDA kids and young adults. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12719961Tue, 25 Apr 2023 10:00:00 -040015:18falsefull123231Ep. 22 - Timelines, Pre-PDA Awareness, and My Son's BurnoutEp. 22 - Timelines, Pre-PDA Awareness, and My Son's BurnoutIn this episode, Casey shares her story from the perspective of a parent as she experienced the time leading up to her son's burnout (3.5 years old), her son's burnout (5.5 years old), and the current moment (8.5 years old).
 
 She ends with a spiritual insight from Buddhism about not shooting oneself with the "second arrow" when things are hard.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, Casey shares her story from the perspective of a parent as she experienced the time leading up to her son's burnout (3.5 years old), her son's burnout (5.5 years old), and the current moment (8.5 years old).
 
 She ends with a spiritual insight from Buddhism about not shooting oneself with the "second arrow" when things are hard.

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12691964Thu, 20 Apr 2023 16:00:00 -040017:33falsefull122221Ep. 21 - Marriage and Co-Parenting with a PDA Child or TeenEp. 21 - Marriage and Co-Parenting with a PDA Child or TeenIn this episode, I share an excerpt from the Paradigm Shift Program session that focused on Marriage, Co-Parenting, and Communication dynamics while raising a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen. I share my personal story, how raising a PDA child has impacted my marriage and share one fundamental insight about being the "lead" parent vs. the parent who is doing less of the caregiving.

This is a great episode to listen to with your partner to help you get on the same page and realize you are not alone in navigating these dynamics!


Citations:

Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in Children

The Tilt Parenting Podcast Episode with Harry Thompson (Episode 109) has been removed from the website because of allegations against Harry, so I can't link to it as a citation. 

Atlantic Article "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" - the concept of "lead parenting" is named in the writing. 


To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube


For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>In this episode, I share an excerpt from the Paradigm Shift Program session that focused on Marriage, Co-Parenting, and Communication dynamics while raising a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen. I share my personal story, how raising a PDA child has impacted my marriage and share one fundamental insight about being the "lead" parent vs. the parent who is doing less of the caregiving.

This is a great episode to listen to with your partner to help you get on the same page and realize you are not alone in navigating these dynamics!


Citations:

Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in Children

The Tilt Parenting Podcast Episode with Harry Thompson (Episode 109) has been removed from the website because of allegations against Harry, so I can't link to it as a citation. 

Atlantic Article "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" - the concept of "lead parenting" is named in the writing. 


To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube


For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12601999Thu, 06 Apr 2023 11:00:00 -040023:36falsefull121211Ep. 20 - Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) vs. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)Ep. 20 - Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) vs. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)In this episode, I outline the ways in which the description of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM)-5 overlaps with some of the surface-level indicators of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy."

Although there are many things that look the same on the surface, if we dig deeper to discover the root cause of your child's behavior, you may realize that Oppositional Defiant Disorder isn't really an explanatory diagnostic category, while Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is.

I also outline the five things that an Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) diagnosis doesn't explain:

  • Internalized expressions of PDA (e.g. freeze/fawn)
  • Trouble accessing basic needs (e.g. toileting indepedently, safety, eating, sleeping, or hygiene)
  • Sensory Differences
  • Social Communication Differences
  • Need for constant undivided attention/coregulation

Citations:
"High Masking" term by Rachel Dorsey, Autistic SLP

TILT Parenting Podcast Reference: Episode 154: Dr. Mona Delahooke on Looking Beyond Children's Challenging Behavior

Beyond Behaviors by Mona Delahooke

Body-Brain Parenting by Mona Delahooke

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, I outline the ways in which the description of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM)-5 overlaps with some of the surface-level indicators of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy."

Although there are many things that look the same on the surface, if we dig deeper to discover the root cause of your child's behavior, you may realize that Oppositional Defiant Disorder isn't really an explanatory diagnostic category, while Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is.

I also outline the five things that an Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) diagnosis doesn't explain:

  • Internalized expressions of PDA (e.g. freeze/fawn)
  • Trouble accessing basic needs (e.g. toileting indepedently, safety, eating, sleeping, or hygiene)
  • Sensory Differences
  • Social Communication Differences
  • Need for constant undivided attention/coregulation

Citations:
"High Masking" term by Rachel Dorsey, Autistic SLP

TILT Parenting Podcast Reference: Episode 154: Dr. Mona Delahooke on Looking Beyond Children's Challenging Behavior

Beyond Behaviors by Mona Delahooke

Body-Brain Parenting by Mona Delahooke

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12524513Mon, 27 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -040024:55falsefull120201Ep. 19 - Identity: Yours, Your Child's, and MineEp. 19 - Identity: Yours, Your Child's, and MineIn this episode we explore identifying with a particular neurotype - whether it is Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA), Autistic, Neurotypical, ADHD, or none at all- and the choices we have for ourselves and for our children.

At the core, we discuss how autonomy is incorporated into the process of your child choosing an identity, and separating that from medical diagnosis and the nervous system mechanisms that lead to fight/flight/freeze.

Hope you enjoy!

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode we explore identifying with a particular neurotype - whether it is Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA), Autistic, Neurotypical, ADHD, or none at all- and the choices we have for ourselves and for our children.

At the core, we discuss how autonomy is incorporated into the process of your child choosing an identity, and separating that from medical diagnosis and the nervous system mechanisms that lead to fight/flight/freeze.

Hope you enjoy!

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12455596Thu, 16 Mar 2023 14:00:00 -040022:51falsefull119191Ep. 18 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Hard to Understand? - Part IIEp. 18 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Hard to Understand? - Part IIWhy is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life?

In this episode, I answer the following questions: 

  • How do I know whether it is "defiance" or typical kid behavior or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?
  • How do I know whether it is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD), or ADHD? 
  • Can a PDA child appear totally typical at school or with a grandparent, but not at home?
  • What if my child is not "explosive" - can they still be pathologically demand avoidant? (PDA) 

Citation:

"Beyond Behaviors: Using Compassion and Brain Science to Understand and Solve Children's Challenging Behaviors" by Dr. Mona Delahooke


To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life?

In this episode, I answer the following questions: 

  • How do I know whether it is "defiance" or typical kid behavior or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?
  • How do I know whether it is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD), or ADHD? 
  • Can a PDA child appear totally typical at school or with a grandparent, but not at home?
  • What if my child is not "explosive" - can they still be pathologically demand avoidant? (PDA) 

Citation:

"Beyond Behaviors: Using Compassion and Brain Science to Understand and Solve Children's Challenging Behaviors" by Dr. Mona Delahooke


To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12399718Wed, 08 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -040028:14falsefull118181Ep. 17 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Confusing? - Part IEp. 17 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Confusing? - Part IWhy is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life?

In this episode, I answer the following questions: 

  • My child doesn't seem Autistic, can they still be Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA)?
  • My child seems typical some of the time, can they still be Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA)? 

Citations:

Term "High Masking" from Rachel Dosey, Autistic SLP

"Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity" by Andrew Solomon. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life?

In this episode, I answer the following questions: 

  • My child doesn't seem Autistic, can they still be Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA)?
  • My child seems typical some of the time, can they still be Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA)? 

Citations:

Term "High Masking" from Rachel Dosey, Autistic SLP

"Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity" by Andrew Solomon. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12387533Mon, 06 Mar 2023 16:00:00 -040013:37falsefull117171Ep. 16 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)Ep. 16 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)In this episode on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Toileting, we discuss the impact that cumulative nervous system stress has on toileting, through two mechanisms: 

  • The nervous system's fight/flight or freeze response and how it impacts the metabolism, cortisol, and adrenaline, all of which impact digestion and toileting, and 
  • "Control coalescing" around toileting as a way to get back to a place of perceived safety.

The episode concludes with some practical parenting advice on how to get unstuck from a PDA or demand avoidant child who refuses to potty train or who has had a toileting "regression" after being potty trained. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Toileting, we discuss the impact that cumulative nervous system stress has on toileting, through two mechanisms: 

  • The nervous system's fight/flight or freeze response and how it impacts the metabolism, cortisol, and adrenaline, all of which impact digestion and toileting, and 
  • "Control coalescing" around toileting as a way to get back to a place of perceived safety.

The episode concludes with some practical parenting advice on how to get unstuck from a PDA or demand avoidant child who refuses to potty train or who has had a toileting "regression" after being potty trained. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12261832Wed, 15 Feb 2023 15:00:00 -040020:21falsefull116161Ep. 15 - Siblings and PDAEp. 15 - Siblings and PDAIn this episode, I tackle the complex and often difficult topic of managing siblings and a PDA child at the same time, as well as the impact on siblings of raising a PDA child or child with a sensitive nervous system in the same home. 

Please note: This is recorded from a live video and so often when I said "Accidentally" I used air quotes because it was not truly accidental. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, I tackle the complex and often difficult topic of managing siblings and a PDA child at the same time, as well as the impact on siblings of raising a PDA child or child with a sensitive nervous system in the same home. 

Please note: This is recorded from a live video and so often when I said "Accidentally" I used air quotes because it was not truly accidental. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12126525Thu, 26 Jan 2023 16:00:00 -040032:14falsefull115151Ep. 14 - Your "Secret" and "Inappropriate" Questions about PDAEp. 14 - Your "Secret" and "Inappropriate" Questions about PDAIn this episode, I answer questions that parents submitted as "secret and inappropriate" about PDA.  I answer as honestly and objectively as possible! 

The five questions were:

✨ Can you have “PDA Lite”?

✨ Is PDA always Autism?

✨What happened to an older generation of PDAers?

✨Can trauma cause PDA?

✨Do you think autism and PDA are more common now or do you think it is because we have broader diagnostic tools?

Citation:  "Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity" by Steve Silberman.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode, I answer questions that parents submitted as "secret and inappropriate" about PDA.  I answer as honestly and objectively as possible! 

The five questions were:

✨ Can you have “PDA Lite”?

✨ Is PDA always Autism?

✨What happened to an older generation of PDAers?

✨Can trauma cause PDA?

✨Do you think autism and PDA are more common now or do you think it is because we have broader diagnostic tools?

Citation:  "Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity" by Steve Silberman.

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12071532Wed, 18 Jan 2023 16:00:00 -040024:57falsefull114141Ep. 13 - The Three Stages Parents of PDA Children and Teens Go ThroughEp. 13 - The Three Stages Parents of PDA Children and Teens Go ThroughThis episode describes the three stages of the journey that parents of PDA children and teens go through on their path to peace. First, the "Doing Everything" phase where you learn and do everything you possibly can to help your child. Second, the "Structural Change" phase where you make changes to your lifestyle and make difficult tradeoffs that reflect the fact that you are raising a child with a nervous system disability. Third, the "Surrender" phase where you seek out meaning, purpose, nervous system healing (for yourself), and sometimes spirituality as you let go of the things you cannot control in your life. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode describes the three stages of the journey that parents of PDA children and teens go through on their path to peace. First, the "Doing Everything" phase where you learn and do everything you possibly can to help your child. Second, the "Structural Change" phase where you make changes to your lifestyle and make difficult tradeoffs that reflect the fact that you are raising a child with a nervous system disability. Third, the "Surrender" phase where you seek out meaning, purpose, nervous system healing (for yourself), and sometimes spirituality as you let go of the things you cannot control in your life. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12031487Thu, 12 Jan 2023 13:00:00 -040019:56falsefull113131Ep. 12 - Parenting a PDA Child or Teen with an Experimental MindsetEp. 12 - Parenting a PDA Child or Teen with an Experimental MindsetThis episode describes why allowing yourself an experimental mindset while trying new approaches and accommodations with a PDA child or teen is so important.

  • So you stop judging or paralyzing yourself with a fear of "doing it wrong" or not following some set of rigid rules.
  • So you stop seeking answers that are already within your intuition and capacity to observe in day-to-day life with your child.
  • So you stop comparing your path to other families, whether neurotypical or PDA.
  • So you allow the accommodation practice to be fluid and change as your child does!

Citation: "Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity" by Steve Silberman, Chapter 7: Fighting the Monster.

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode describes why allowing yourself an experimental mindset while trying new approaches and accommodations with a PDA child or teen is so important.

  • So you stop judging or paralyzing yourself with a fear of "doing it wrong" or not following some set of rigid rules.
  • So you stop seeking answers that are already within your intuition and capacity to observe in day-to-day life with your child.
  • So you stop comparing your path to other families, whether neurotypical or PDA.
  • So you allow the accommodation practice to be fluid and change as your child does!

Citation: "Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity" by Steve Silberman, Chapter 7: Fighting the Monster.

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-12010638Mon, 09 Jan 2023 16:00:00 -040011:47falsefull112121Ep. 11 - "Aren't You Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?"Ep. 11 - "Aren't You Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?"In this episode I answer the question I get over and over on social media, in my coaching containers and in the programs I run: "Are you just rewarding bad behavior by using an accommodation approach with your PDA child?"

It is a very valid question and one that I grapple with daily because we have all been conditioned to think like this. Here I give you four ways to think about this as you are making decisions about whether and how to accommodate your PDA child's nervous system and threat reponse. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>In this episode I answer the question I get over and over on social media, in my coaching containers and in the programs I run: "Are you just rewarding bad behavior by using an accommodation approach with your PDA child?"

It is a very valid question and one that I grapple with daily because we have all been conditioned to think like this. Here I give you four ways to think about this as you are making decisions about whether and how to accommodate your PDA child's nervous system and threat reponse. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11941686Wed, 28 Dec 2022 10:00:00 -040017:48falsefull111111Ep. 10 - Masking, PDA Children and Teens, and YOU!Ep. 10 - Masking, PDA Children and Teens, and YOU!This episode explores "high masking" in PDA children and teens, across both the introverted and extroverted expression. It discusses the importance of recognizing masking, both for the sanity of parents, your child's well-being, and getting access to the structural support (diagnosis, insurance coverage, support at school), that you need.

Citations: 

  • Rachel Dorsey, Autistic SLP (@dorseyslp) for term "High Masking"
  •  Sally Cat, Introverted PDA Advocate. See her page "Sally Cat" for more information on masking from perspective of the nervous system. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode explores "high masking" in PDA children and teens, across both the introverted and extroverted expression. It discusses the importance of recognizing masking, both for the sanity of parents, your child's well-being, and getting access to the structural support (diagnosis, insurance coverage, support at school), that you need.

Citations: 

  • Rachel Dorsey, Autistic SLP (@dorseyslp) for term "High Masking"
  •  Sally Cat, Introverted PDA Advocate. See her page "Sally Cat" for more information on masking from perspective of the nervous system. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11884825Fri, 16 Dec 2022 11:00:00 -040016:29falsefull110101Ep. 9 - How to Manage the Holidays with a PDA ChildEp. 9 - How to Manage the Holidays with a PDA ChildThis episode teaches you a new way of thinking about how to approach the holiday season with a PDA child or teen.

First, of course, you will want to think about accommodations and lowering demands, but you also need to set up a contingency plan, prepare for de-escalation, and then allow yourself to take this year's experience as "data" about what you can change structurally next year to make the holidays for joyful and peaceful for the whole family. I hope this sets you up for success!

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode teaches you a new way of thinking about how to approach the holiday season with a PDA child or teen.

First, of course, you will want to think about accommodations and lowering demands, but you also need to set up a contingency plan, prepare for de-escalation, and then allow yourself to take this year's experience as "data" about what you can change structurally next year to make the holidays for joyful and peaceful for the whole family. I hope this sets you up for success!

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11838720Thu, 08 Dec 2022 14:00:00 -040014:03falsefull1991Ep. 8 - How do I know if my child is PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?Ep. 8 - How do I know if my child is PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?This episode outlines four things to look for as a parent to help you determine whether your child is PDA or is Autistic with Demand Avoidance. Ultimately, I tell you that what matters most is not the diagnosis or lable, but the which lens wer are supporting our child through and whether it is helping! 

To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode outlines four things to look for as a parent to help you determine whether your child is PDA or is Autistic with Demand Avoidance. Ultimately, I tell you that what matters most is not the diagnosis or lable, but the which lens wer are supporting our child through and whether it is helping! 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11797732Thu, 01 Dec 2022 14:00:00 -040012:48falsefull1881Ep. 7 - 4 Ways to Support Your PDA Child's Nervous SystemEp. 7 - 4 Ways to Support Your PDA Child's Nervous SystemThis episode explains the four things or "states" that naturally regulate your Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child's nervous system:

1. Screens
2. Another safe nervous system (likely YOU)
3. Special interest or "Flow" (citation: Harry Thompson, PDA Autistic Advocate and Author of "The PDA Paradox") 
4. Dopamine, novelty or sensory-seeking opportunities

I offer some examples from my own life to demonstrate how to apply this framework in a practical way to your home while parenting a PDA child. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode explains the four things or "states" that naturally regulate your Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child's nervous system:

1. Screens
2. Another safe nervous system (likely YOU)
3. Special interest or "Flow" (citation: Harry Thompson, PDA Autistic Advocate and Author of "The PDA Paradox") 
4. Dopamine, novelty or sensory-seeking opportunities

I offer some examples from my own life to demonstrate how to apply this framework in a practical way to your home while parenting a PDA child. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11789471Wed, 30 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -040011:56falsefull1771Ep. 6 - What is a "Cognitive Loop" for a PDA Child or Teen?Ep. 6 - What is a "Cognitive Loop" for a PDA Child or Teen?This brief episode explains what a "cognitive loop" is for a PDA child or teen, when they get stuck between their frontal lobe ("thinking brain") and their amygdala ("survival brain"). This is often when a child is experiencing an *internal* loss of autonomy because they can't do something they want or are trying to do.  I provide exampes from my son's life, for example, on a ninja course and playing a video game. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This brief episode explains what a "cognitive loop" is for a PDA child or teen, when they get stuck between their frontal lobe ("thinking brain") and their amygdala ("survival brain"). This is often when a child is experiencing an *internal* loss of autonomy because they can't do something they want or are trying to do.  I provide exampes from my son's life, for example, on a ninja course and playing a video game. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11784095Tue, 29 Nov 2022 16:00:00 -040007:59falsefull1661Ep. 5 - Grief and Radical Acceptance as a Parent of a PDA ChildEp. 5 - Grief and Radical Acceptance as a Parent of a PDA ChildThis episode is a mix between a pep talk and some gently delivered tough love for parents of PDA children and teens, to get you unstuck, help you feel less alone, and realize that it's all gonna be OK.  I discuss the stages of grief, bargaining, and acceptance, and share examples from my own journey to illustrate and normalize the experience that parents go through. This was originally a part of a Q+A session of the Paradigm Shift Program. 

To connect with me, find me here:

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Facebook

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.


For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC


Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.


xoxo,

Casey

]]>This episode is a mix between a pep talk and some gently delivered tough love for parents of PDA children and teens, to get you unstuck, help you feel less alone, and realize that it's all gonna be OK.  I discuss the stages of grief, bargaining, and acceptance, and share examples from my own journey to illustrate and normalize the experience that parents go through. This was originally a part of a Q+A session of the Paradigm Shift Program. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram

TikTok

Facebook

YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.


For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC


Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.


xoxo,

Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11783854Tue, 29 Nov 2022 15:00:00 -040016:40falsefull1551Ep. 4 - Boundaries and the PDA ChildEp. 4 - Boundaries and the PDA ChildThis epsiode provides the NINE key truths and mindset shifts you need to make aligned decisions as a parent of a PDA child or teen around limits and boundaries in the home.

Sources of Inspiration and references for mindset shift #9: 

"The Power of Now" by Ekhart Tolle
"Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach
"When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron


To connect with me, find me here:

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For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This epsiode provides the NINE key truths and mindset shifts you need to make aligned decisions as a parent of a PDA child or teen around limits and boundaries in the home.

Sources of Inspiration and references for mindset shift #9: 

"The Power of Now" by Ekhart Tolle
"Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach
"When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron


To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11737181Mon, 21 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -040023:46falsefull1441Ep. 3 - Rewards and Consquences and the PDA ChildEp. 3 - Rewards and Consquences and the PDA ChildThis episode answers a question I often get from parents:

If I can't use rewards and consequences with my Pathologically Demand Avoidant or demand avoidant child, how will they learn right from wrong?

We talk about the long-game strategy for getting your child into their thinking brain (rather than the "survival brain" or Limbic System) so that they can learn, process information rationally and connect with you.

I hope it serves you!

Further Reading:
For more on your child's "thinking" (or "upstairs" brain) vs. "survival" (or "downstairs") brain, see  Chapter 3 of Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson's "The Whole Brain Child"

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode answers a question I often get from parents:

If I can't use rewards and consequences with my Pathologically Demand Avoidant or demand avoidant child, how will they learn right from wrong?

We talk about the long-game strategy for getting your child into their thinking brain (rather than the "survival brain" or Limbic System) so that they can learn, process information rationally and connect with you.

I hope it serves you!

Further Reading:
For more on your child's "thinking" (or "upstairs" brain) vs. "survival" (or "downstairs") brain, see  Chapter 3 of Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson's "The Whole Brain Child"

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11709025Wed, 16 Nov 2022 14:00:00 -040010:53falsefull1331Ep. 2 - Supporting Eating for a PDA or Demand Avoidant ChildEp. 2 - Supporting Eating for a PDA or Demand Avoidant ChildThis episode provides five things you can do to support your Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA), Autistic, or otherwise demand avoidant child in their eating, espeically if more traditional behavioral, exposure, or play-based approaches haven't been successful.

We talk about five things: 

  • Understanding whether eating if your child's "Stickiest" basic need (vs. toileting, sleeping, or hygeine) and whether control coalesces around eating.
  • Looking at eating *first* through the "autonomy and nervous system" lens, rather than first the Sensory Processing lens.
  • Managing your own anxiety and energy around eating.
  • Accommodations including but not limited to: choice, offerings, use of language, Novelty, and buffets.
  • How to adapt therapeutic protocols - like the SOS Feeding protocol - for Pathological Demand Avoidance or a demand avoidant child. 

For courses and support, you can find services at At Peace Parents

Citations and sources:

For more on Declarative Language, please see the "Declarative Language Handbook" by Linda K. Murphy.

Term "strewing" coined by Sandra Dodd in the unschooling community. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode provides five things you can do to support your Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA), Autistic, or otherwise demand avoidant child in their eating, espeically if more traditional behavioral, exposure, or play-based approaches haven't been successful.

We talk about five things: 

  • Understanding whether eating if your child's "Stickiest" basic need (vs. toileting, sleeping, or hygeine) and whether control coalesces around eating.
  • Looking at eating *first* through the "autonomy and nervous system" lens, rather than first the Sensory Processing lens.
  • Managing your own anxiety and energy around eating.
  • Accommodations including but not limited to: choice, offerings, use of language, Novelty, and buffets.
  • How to adapt therapeutic protocols - like the SOS Feeding protocol - for Pathological Demand Avoidance or a demand avoidant child. 

For courses and support, you can find services at At Peace Parents

Citations and sources:

For more on Declarative Language, please see the "Declarative Language Handbook" by Linda K. Murphy.

Term "strewing" coined by Sandra Dodd in the unschooling community. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>Buzzsprout-11708522Wed, 16 Nov 2022 13:00:00 -040023:16falsefull1221Ep. 1 - Recognizing Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in an Educational SettingEp. 1 - Recognizing Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in an Educational SettingThis episode is an excerpt from a free training hosted by the Miami Sudbury School about PDA and Self-Directed Education with Casey Ehrlich, Ph.D. of At Peace Parents, LLC and Je'anna Clements, an expert in Self-Directed Education.

The excerpt is Casey's portion of the training and explains what Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) looks like in children from the outside looking in, as a parent, teacher, therapist, or psychologist, and offers some insights into the types of accommodations that might be helpful for a PDA child in an educational setting.

For more information on Pathological Demand Avoidance, see the PDA Society Website. For more course offerings and programs from Casey, check out the website for At Peace Parents.

Citation: Kristy Forbes of InTunePathways, in reference to terms "Leveling" or "Compensation" behavior in PDA children. 

For more on the "internalized expression" of PDA, please see Sally Cat. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

]]>This episode is an excerpt from a free training hosted by the Miami Sudbury School about PDA and Self-Directed Education with Casey Ehrlich, Ph.D. of At Peace Parents, LLC and Je'anna Clements, an expert in Self-Directed Education.

The excerpt is Casey's portion of the training and explains what Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) looks like in children from the outside looking in, as a parent, teacher, therapist, or psychologist, and offers some insights into the types of accommodations that might be helpful for a PDA child in an educational setting.

For more information on Pathological Demand Avoidance, see the PDA Society Website. For more course offerings and programs from Casey, check out the website for At Peace Parents.

Citation: Kristy Forbes of InTunePathways, in reference to terms "Leveling" or "Compensation" behavior in PDA children. 

For more on the "internalized expression" of PDA, please see Sally Cat. 

To connect with me, find me here:

Instagram
TikTok
Facebook
YouTube

For more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.

For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,
Casey

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