Baggage Check: Mental Health Talk and Advice

Thanksgiving gratitude... and a transition

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 24 Nov 2023 12:15:00 -0500

It's Thanksgiving in the United States, which means a time of reflection and gratitude (and yes, we know, a time to find some comfier pants.) It's also a time of transition for Dr. Andrea and for Baggage Check.... take a listen.

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It's Happening Again: Revisiting Tips to Tackle The Winter Blues

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 10 Nov 2023 00:15:00 -0500

As we take a production breather (in the cold, dark world of the "fall back" clock shift) we wanted to revisit an episode from a year ago about tackling the Winter blues. Contrary to popular belief, it's not really about temperature, as even folks fortunate enough to be able to wear a tank top at Thanksgiving can still suffer from seasonal blues-- which is mainly due to diminished sunlight.

So, do you suffer from some "blahs" as it starts to get dark earlier? Join us to brush up on how to combat it.

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Diving Into The Sunday Scaries

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 27 Oct 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Have you ever heard of the Sunday Scaries? They seem to be growing more and more common: the dread and unease that hits before the workweek begins.

In today's show, we talk about what cultural shifts might be making these more prevalent-- and how to help prevent and manage them. Whether you have a traditional workweek, a bizarro-world workweek, or anything in between-- and whether you love or hate your job-- we'll give you some tools to keep your weekend from being encroached upon.

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Finding Light In the Darkness: For Ourselves and For Our Kids

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 13 Oct 2023 00:15:00 -0500

With horrifying images circulating amid devastating world news, we wanted to talk today about something that comes up constantly in times of despair: how to find the light, and how to talk to our kids about things that are scary and seemingly unspeakable.

What about when we feel like we have no answers ourselves?

How can we keep moving forward, setting the boundaries we need to set while also not sticking our head in the sand?

We cover all of it-- and hopefully give you some hope-- today in Baggage Check.

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5 Myths About OCD, and What's Real Instead

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 29 Sep 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking about OCD-- and most specifically, how misunderstood it is. You may recall Episode 24, where we talked with author and journalist David Adam about his personal struggles with OCD (and if you haven't, give it a listen!) but today we tackle all the misconceptions we see most often out in the world about what it is-- and what it isn't.

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Catching Yourself in Sneaky All-or-None Thinking

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 15 Sep 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We all do it. Okay, maybe we shouldn't say we all do it-- because that's what we're up against today. We're talking about all-or-none thinking.

We've mentioned this type of thinking before on Baggage Check, and how it is a common cognitive distortion that can easily make you more anxious, more depressed, and more irritable.

But today we're tackling how to spot it-- and you may be surprised at some of the ways you use it. Join us!

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9 Mental Habits That Can (let's be honest) Make You Bitter

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 01 Sep 2023 00:15:00 -0500

A lot of us struggle with resentment and bitterness. What happens when it hardens into something that feels almost impossible to shift?

There's good news: it CAN be changed.

Today we talk about nine mental habits that can lead very easily to bitterness, whether fleeting or more serious. Do you recognize yourself in any of these? We've got ways to combat them. Join us!

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Fight, Flight, and Freakout: Your Body on Anxiety (And a Surprising Way to Manage It)

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 18 Aug 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Continuing with our theme of feeeeeeelings, we are devoting today to anxiety, and specifically the way that your body's physiology has been preparing for it for tens of thousands of years.

Today we dive deep into the fear response, and why fight/flight/freeze doesn't have to be the enemy. We go through each of the most classic ways that your body physically processes threat-- how they benefit us and how they can be a hindrance, and finally (most importantly!) what we can do about it.

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How Your Body Feels Feelings: The Physical Correlates of Emotion

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 04 Aug 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Feeeeeeelings! We've talked about them quite a bit on Baggage Check. But what we haven't talked about yet is something crucial but often overlooked: the way that we feel our emotions, physically.

It's virtually impossible to improve how you deal with negative emotions if you don't have a good foundation of understanding how they manifest in your body. And though it's specific to every person, we start with some nearly-universal trends in how people tend to feel certain classic negative emotions. Do you recognize yourself in these?

If you want a crash course in how to think about the mind-body connection, or even if you are a practiced mindfulness guru who wants to spend a little time thinking about the different ways that feelings show up in your own personal body, you'll want to listen to today's Baggage Check.

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13 Factors That Build a Healthy Relationship

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 21 Jul 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We talk a lot on Baggage Check about warning signs, problems, risky behaviors, and conflicts within relationships-- along with things that just make you feel a little bit off.

But what about the pillars of a good relationship?

Today we're celebrating, acknowledging, and learning about all the positive factors that can help build a healthy partnership. Whether you never really had a model of it growing up and you're sort of lost of how to begin, whether you've got a great relationship that you're wondering if you could make a little greater, or whether you're just curious to hear more positive aspects of a partnership rather than worrisome ones, you'll want to listen to today's Baggage check.

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The Complicated Math of Change, and an Announcement! (No, We're Not Ending!)

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 07 Jul 2023 00:15:00 -0500

People often say they're "bad with change," or, seemingly less often, that they're good with it. But change isn't a monolith. Different changes can involve vastly different things: are you good at adding things in, but not letting go of things? Are you okay with making room for the idea of new things but not actually doing it? Is commitment itself what's hardest for you?

Today we get real about the concept of change-- and we mean real, because Baggage Check's episode release schedule is about to change, for a very personal (and exciting) reason. If you're ready to debate what the definition of biweekly is, in addition to reflecting on what change is like in your own life, you'll want to listen to today's Baggage Check.

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5 Common Barriers to Therapy and How to Overcome Them

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 04 Jul 2023 00:15:00 -0500

With mental health symptomology at record highs in certain demographics, it's clear that not enough people are getting the help they need.

And though many people know the potential benefits of therapy, they might still feel hesitant to actually seek it out. Or others may be on the cusp of making the call, but something keeps holding them back.

Today we talk about five very common barriers to seeking therapy, and how to overcome them. If you've ever been on the fence about it, and you think it can help but you have some concerns, today's episode is for you.

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The Mess, Beauty, and Pain of Sibling Relationships with Researcher Dr. Laurie Kramer

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 30 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Siblings: the majority of Americans have at least one. And yet we often talk about them only in the context of childhood. As adults, the highs and lows of sibling relationships can often make or break our lives.

Today we get real about what the research says about how siblings matter across the lifespan, and the surprising ways they affect parenting and various aspects of your well-being. We welcome Dr. Laurie Kramer, a clinical psychologist and professor of applied psychology at Northeastern University, who has spent decades studying siblings. From when it's time to accept estrangement to how to improve a relationship with a geographically far sibling, from what a child's relationship with their siblings predicts later in life to how to raise your children to actually be friends, and the unique characteristics of twins-- and more-- it was one of our most fun discussions yet. Join us!

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Summer, The Cringe of "Bucket Lists," and Making Moments Count

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're celebrating the Summer Solstice (a little late, and yes, Happy Winter to our friends in the Southern Hemisphere!) with some thoughts about the magic of summer. What makes this season different-- but why do our hopes for it often end with regret?

From exploring what's wrong with the concept of a bucket list to figuring out how we balance adventure and relaxation, today we're trying to make things count in this special season we only get once a year. (And yes, we get a little sentimental.)

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5 Relationship Behaviors No One Should Tolerate

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 23 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We've talked about overtly and controlling relationships before-- but what about when it's much more subtle?

Today we tackle five common relationship behaviors that can truly spell trouble over time, and that typically mean you deserve better. Do you recognize these in anyone you know? Join us!

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6 Ways to Have a More Fulfilling Vacation

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 20 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Whether you're flying eight hours to go to a dream destination or loading up the car for the same swath of beach you've hit dozens of times before, your state of mind during your vacation is key to making it worth your while.

Today we talk about six ways to help make it less likely that you'll come back from your time off feeling worse for the wear. If you've ever wanted to make sure you get the most out of a trip-- mentally and emotionally-- you'll want to listen to today's Baggage Check.

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Girls and Their Monsters: The Truth Behind the Genain Quadruplets with Audrey Clare Farley

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 16 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

It was a classic research case, laid out to millions of psychology students worldwide: the spectacle of Genain quadruplets, four genetically identical siblings who all suffered from various aspects of psychosis.

Now, decades after they first became a sensation, a new book peels back the public-facing layers to reveal a dark and disturbing story that makes us question everything we thought we knew about these four women.

Today we sit down with Audrey Clare Farley, author of "Girls and Their Monsters: The Genain Quadruplets and the Making of Madness In America," for a look behind the curtain.

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7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Trust is one of the most important parts of close relationships, and yet it is also one of the easiest things to lose, or... in many cases... detonate.

Today we're talking about six ideas for ways to build trust, whether you are building from scratch, rebuilding, or just trying to strengthen it. Though it will always take time (and thank goodness for that, or it wouldn't be meaningful) there are many ways to make the waiting more effective. Join us to find them out!

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6 Lies to Stop Telling Yourself

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 09 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking about good ol'-fashioned self-deception. So many of us engage in it-- and it doesn't always have to wreck our mental health. But certain patterns very commonly mess with us and cause significant self-sabotage.

Do you think you'll recognize yourself in any of these patterns of lies? Join us and find out!

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12 Simple Ways to Cut Down (at Least a Little!) on Your Phone Use

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 06 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

It's rare the smartphone user who doesn't feel they could benefit from cutting down on usage just a little. After all-- in an example of behavioral science being used NOT for good-- smartphones are designed to be as addictive as possible.

We're never about grandiose pronouncements or unrealistic behavior change here, so with that in mind, we wanted to gather a dozen small things that might make a little bit of difference. And when you put them together, perhaps they change things a lot. Join us and see!

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When Your Life Stops In Order to Restart: The Memoir "By Accident" by Joanne Greene

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 02 Jun 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today's show covers too much to be summed up in these measly episode notes. We sit down in conversation with Joanne Greene, radio and television pioneer whose new memoir "By Accident: A Memoir of Letting Go" covers a staggering period of her life that saw multiple traumas-- but allowed her to emerge anew, in part by learning, finally, to stay still.

From the demands placed on women at home and in the media to what happens when families change, from learning to ask for help to managing a stream of perfectionistic self-talk, this episode goes deep. Join us!

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Is The Myth of Arrival Getting In Your Way?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 30 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

The myth of arrival, the arrival fallacy.... whatever we call it, it can zap your ability to engage with the current moment. It's the idea that only once you get to a certain place in your life: meeting a specific goal, achieving a certain accomplishment, or just getting to a certain point in time, that only then will your real life begin.

Today we explore this fallacy in detail-- and discuss how it gets in our way. Best of all, we'll learn how to counteract it. Join us!

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When It's Only You Putting Forth Effort into a Friendship

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 26 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

You've been hearing our discussions on loneliness and friendship, and now we are hearing from you! Today we're discussing a listener's thoughts about how hard it is when they feel like they are the only ones putting forth effort in friendships. From societal trends to individual personality differences-- and some surprising additional barriers-- we tackle what to do when you want more from your friendships, but others don't seem willing to do their part.

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Plagued by "What If"? Let's Talk About Counterfactual Thinking

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 23 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking about the "shoulda"s, the "woulda"s, and the "coulda"s; the "What If?"s and the "If Only"s.

But we're digging into the science and figuring out how to not be driven bananas by all of it.

Counterfactual thinking-- the idea of visualizing an alternative outcome, comes in different forms and can have positives in negatives. From surprising research about Olympic medalists to specific tools for how to think differently and let go of the past, you'll find it all in today's Baggage Check.

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How to Respond to a Person Experiencing a Mental Health Crisis

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 19 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

In the aftermath of some tragic and very public events, I have heard from more and more people uncertain about how to respond to a person experiencing a problem with mental health-- especially when it seems to be escalating fast.

Today, we discuss how you can become part of the solution rather than part of the problem-- and potentially save a life.

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When Life Changes In One Shocking Instant: Exploring "Look Both Ways" with Dr. Brooke Ellison

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 16 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking with Dr. Brooke Ellison, associate professor at Stony Brook University, author of Look Both Ways, and subject of the Christopher Reeve- directed documentary, The Brooke Ellison Story.

When Brooke was just 11 years old, walking home from her first day of junior high school, she was hit by a car-- and left with quadriplegia. In a raw, no-holds-barred conversation, we talk not only about that fateful day and the way it changed her life forever, but what it can teach us all about resilience, struggle, perseverance, and hope. Completely honest, full of insight, and often funny, today's discussion is not one to miss.

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We're Finally Getting Real About Loneliness (with thanks to the Surgeon General!)

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 12 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

It's the biggest public health problem that the fewest people talk about.

Loneliness is an epidemic, and it is increasing-- and taking lives in the process.

Today we break down the new report of the US Surgeon General about social disconnection and loneliness, and talk about all the surprising ways that they can wreck your health (yes, your physical health)-- and how we can do something about it. Join us (and then join some new friends for a nice lunch.)

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10 Things That Can Help When You're Overwhelmed

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 09 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

In today's episode, we wanted to talk about things you can do in this very moment when you're feeling overwhelmed. While we often focus on long-term self-care, at certain times it can feel futile to think about strategies that can help build up your emotional health over days, weeks, and months. So, here are ten things that you can put into practice right now to help make you feel a little bit more calm and centered.

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Debunking 7 Myths About Depression

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 05 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Depression is one of the most common psychological disorders there is (no longer THE most common, though-- thanks, anxiety disorders! Oof) and yet there are so many myths that persist about it. Today we are tackling the most common ones, and trying to get the real picture. No two people with depression are alike, and the more you know about its (sometimes surprising) manifestations, the more we can help each other.

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7 Mistakes That Can Wreck New Friendships

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 02 May 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Okay, maybe "wreck" is too strong a word. But with friendship more important than ever to our physical and emotional health, it's time we tackle the common missteps that often lead to heartache.

What I often hear from people is that meeting people isn't the hard part of making friends-- it's turning the meeting into something that resembles a relationship: making that jump from acquaintance to friendship. It can be tricky, for sure, but it's made infinitely easier by avoiding some common blunders.

Curious what those blunders are? Take a listen to today's episode.

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Money, Money, Money, MON-EY! Tackling Our Financial Baggage with Lindsay Bryan-Podvin

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 28 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Money is consistently identified as one of the biggest stressors that people experience. So why is its impact on individual mental health not much of a focus, and why are most therapists not trained in any way to talk about the specifics of this issue?

And why is it so ever-lovin' awkward to talk about?

We sat down with financial therapist (yes, that's a thing, and it's fantastic!) Lindsay Bryan-Podvin to tackle our baggage about money. From communicating about it in relationships, to talking about shame and what different "money styles" mean (and how early they get solidified!), this episode is full of tools to improve your relationship with your bank account (or that stash of gold stored under your bed.)

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6 Things to Help You Say No When You Have Trouble Doing It

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Are you a people-pleaser? Prone to saying yes to things that you wish you'd say no to? Do you find it hard to establish boundaries, and you end up getting roped into things that aren't true to your values, or that will end up burning you out or causing resentment in the long run?

If this is you, we'll ask that you DON'T say no-- to listening to today's episode. (Yeah, yeah, we know.)

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5 Embarrassing Things That Therapy Can Help With

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 21 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Do you have something you'd love to get help with-- but it feels too weird, too awkward, too cringe? Is there a lot of shame along with it? A lot of (ahem!) baggage?

Join us for today's show, where we talk about some surprisingly common-- but seemingly embarrassing things-- that therapy can absolutely help with.

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In Loving Memory... and Loving Kindness (Meditation)

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking about Loving Kindness Meditation, and honoring the memory of a remarkable human being who was special to Baggage Check, Dr. Maryann Gray.

If you're cringing at the idea of Loving Kindness Meditation, will it help that it might slow the aging process? And change your brain volume? (For the better, of course.)

Join us and we'll walk you through it. It won't hurt, we promise. Unless you do it while wearing those flip-flops that you know will give you blisters.

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Creativity, Risk-Taking, Impostor "Syndrome" and Struggle: A Conversation with Rachel Davis

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 14 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Do you think of yourself as "not creative?" Do you miss the ways you tried artistic pursuits during the pandemic, and have since had to let that go? Do you struggle with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, or overly focusing on the finished product of your endeavors rather than the process itself?

Today we're talking with mixed media artist and retired psychologist Rachel Davis, whose years of experience helping artists and everyday people embrace their creative side and move through their struggles have culminated in a personal milestone for her: retiring from decades as a therapist and becoming a full-time artist.

In this free-roaming and fascinating conversation, we cover everything from the nature of struggle, to what anxiety and creativity have in common, to surefire ways out of writers' block, how passion is more important than talent, creativity's connection to mental health, and more. Join us!

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10 Ways to Strengthen a Long-Distance Relationship

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 11 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Long-distance relationships seem more common than ever-- and the research on the ways that the pandemic has changed dating (or just accelerated the trends that were beginning right before) bears this out.

But long-distance relationships can also be ever-so tricky.

Today we're going over ten tips that can honestly help any relationship grow stronger. Prioritizing each other, improving communication, and setting realistic expectations are just the beginning. Join us!

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5 Things Honestly Better to Say than "Calm Down"

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 07 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We've likely all been tempted to say it, whether to ourselves or others: "Calm doooooown!"

But in reality, there's probably not another common phrase that is so ineffective in getting the outcome that it aims for. So what can we do instead? Join us today for five things to say that are much more likely to be helpful, so that next time, you're actually helping someone move toward calm, rather than the fire.

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Alcohol Use, Abuse, and Everything In Between: Welcoming Dr. Debra Kaysen

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're focusing on drinking-- and getting rid of the generalities and stereotypes to get real about the complications, the nuances, and the human side of alcohol use.

On today's Baggage Check welcome Dr. Debra Kaysen, Stanford University professor and expert researcher on alcohol abuse. From how to think about what is "problem drinking" to surprising new data on who is drinking more (and who is drinking less), from the ways that trauma and alcohol use interact, to expectancy effects, the pandemic, striking research from the "Bar Lab" at the University of Washington, and more, we cover it all in today's show.

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Here's Your Permission Slip to Tune Out the World for a Bit

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 31 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

There'll be no numbered lists here today, just some frank talk about how important it is to set limits when the news is dark. We think about what our brains and hearts are evolutionarily meant to handle (and what they're not), how we can take small steps to set boundaries, the reasons why it's so important to do so-- and how it ultimately make you do better for the world.

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5 Relationship Behaviors That Could Spell Trouble Over Time

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 28 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We've talked some about relationship violence and emotional abuse (check out our recent episode with Dr. Carolyn West!), and Dr. Andrea has written a lot about controlling behaviors. But what about those subtle relationship behaviors that might not necessarily spell doom, that you should keep an eye on? Perhaps those things that it's easy for us to convince ourselves are nothing, and yet they can most definitely turn into something?

Join us today as we dig in.

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8 Signs Your Anxiety Is Becoming An Issue

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 24 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We talk a lot about anxiety on Baggage Check, and how all of us struggle with it to some extent. Today we're focusing on how to know that maybe it's gotten to the point where it's problematic. How do you know when it's time to seek help? What everyday behaviors might be hiding anxiety beneath? For some surprising ways that excessive stress might affect your behavior to a really hurtful extent, tune in to today's Baggage Check.

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The Ultimate Shame: The Tragedy and Trauma of Causing Accidental Death

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 21 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today, as always, we want to shine a light in the darkness-- and so we're going where civil, "polite" discussions often don't.

We're talking about the traumatic, tragic shame of accidentally killing someone.

Dr. Maryann Gray is the founder of The Hyacinth Fellowship, a support network for those who are living in the darkness of having unintentionally caused death or serious injury. Having traveled that path with a heartbreaking accident of her own, it took her decades to recover-- but she's offering hope for those who are ready to break the silence.

Join us for a sensitive, compassionate, and sometimes difficult but ultimately enlightening conversation.

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5 Questions to Help You Find Your Sense of Purpose

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 17 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We've talked about how the truest, deepest forms of happiness and well-being don't necessarily come just from pleasure, comfort, or ease. They come from a deeper sense of meaning-- which is often very connected to your sense of purpose.

But how can we think about our sense of purpose? What can we ask ourselves to help us find it? And is all hope lost if we have absolutely no clue what that sense of purpose could be? (Nope, all is not lost. But you knew that already.)

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8 Overlooked Signs of Depression in Men

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 14 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Do men and women have the same depression symptoms? Certainly, there's much overlap. But there are often times when our classic visual of what depression looks like tends to miss men altogether. And there are ways that their most common symptoms might not look like depression at first glance at all.

Join us today to talk about all things depression-- and especially to bust some stereotypes of how it comes across.

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"I Want Kids and She Doesn't": Hard Truths in This Listener Q&A

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 10 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're taking a listener question-- and wrestling with the common but potentially heartbreaking dilemma of what happens when an otherwise happy and committed couple differs about whether or not to have children. Is there any hope?

Let's dig deep about parenting ambivalence, in today's Baggage Check.

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Uncomfortable Truths About Modern Relationship Violence: Welcoming Dr. Carolyn West

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 07 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

There are many stereotypes about what relationship violence looks like-- and there are many ways that survivors and perpetrators of it defy those stereotypes. Today we sat down with Dr. Carolyn West, professor of psychology at the University of Washington and leading authority on relationship violence, to learn the realities of this difficult topic. From the way that technology increases a partner's ability to be controlling, to surprising warning signs, to thinking about how to break the cycle for future generations and how the cycle of violence affects all of us in society, today's discussion is not one to miss.

Find out more about Dr. West and her work here.

In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline phone number is 1-800-799-7233. They have services available in multiple languages, and their website is https://thehotline.org. Please reach out to them if you have concerns about you or someone else being involved in an abusive relationship.

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6 Things Not to Do During An Apology

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 03 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Apologies are something we all have experience with-- and baggage about-- that probably began from the time we first learned to communicate. But as frequently as the need to apologize comes up in life, it can be a hard thing to get right. And in fact, sometimes our apologies are disastrous and do more harm than good.

On today's show, we're discussing six common things that make apologies worse-- and urging you very strongly (ahem!) to use our tips to avoid them.

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5 Visualizations to Help Lessen Anxiety

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 28 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

There are many visualizations out there, and many people who find the concept of them to be trite. But with anxiety rising and some solid evidence behind visualization as a relaxation technique, we think they're worth a try. Learn what visualizations can-- and cannot-- do, and get five solid examples of ones you can try today, perhaps even without rolling your eyes, in today's Baggage Check.

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It's ALL Health: A Conversation About Psychological Support for Medical Concerns with Dr. Marni Amsellem

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 24 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking with Marni Amsellem, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in health-related issues. With more and more individuals predicted to suffer from physical health problems in the coming years, and with many already suffering mightily, we thought it was high time for a conversation about the role of psychological support in medical treatment. From new uses of technology to individual differences, from tools to beat insomnia, to whether journaling really helps, to the way the medical field may discriminate against certain groups and how the pandemic has affected all of this, we dive deep in today's Baggage Check.

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10 Quick Ways to Strengthen Friendships

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 21 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

The health benefits of friendship are immense-- and you've likely heard us nagging you about it in the past. Today we wanted to get down and dirty-- or not so dirty, these are just friends we're talking about!-- and discuss some realistic, fast, and actionable things you can do to give your friendships a boost.

Nothing grandiose, nothing long-term, and nothing too intimidating is on the docket today-- just some surprisingly simple but meaningful ways for you to get a bit more connected to your platonic loves. Join us!

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5 Ways We Self-Sabotage, and How to Stop Them

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 17 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

We all get in our own way sometimes-- and there are certain important patterns about how, and why, we tend to do it. Today we're leaving judgment and shame at the door (let's hope we do that every episode!) and having a frank talk about common patterns of self-sabotage, and how we can try to adjust them.

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Is That Chewing Sound Making You Rage? The Truth About Misophonia

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're welcoming podcast host Adeel Ahmad to talk about misophonia-- which can be misery for those who suffer from it, and yet they may not even know that it's a "thing." Misophonia involves being hypersensitive to certain types of sounds, commonly noises like slurps, chewing, and crunching-- and it can wreak havoc on families, emotional health, and relationships. But there is hope!

Join us for a remarkable discussion about Adeel's own story of misophonia, the way he's brought sufferers together, the surprising childhood factors that may contribute to it, and how people can have hope to ease their suffering. From thinking about evolution to childhood drama, we go deep-- with empathy and compassion, and absolutely no crunching sounds-- we promise.

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Is There Someone You Can't Stand Dealing With? Here are 8 Tips to Make It Easier

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 10 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking not just about difficult people, but the difficulties that they bring out in you. We wanted to talk about how to manage your own anger, anxiety, and frustration when it comes to interactions that you can't quite avoid, but certainly don't relish.

Join us for eight tools you can use to make it just a little bit easier to be the type of person you want to be when dealing with people you can't stand... rather than being the person that goes viral, or curls up in a ball of regret.

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Breakups, Love Addiction, and Relationship Science: Welcoming Dr. Cortney Warren

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 07 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Have you ever had trouble letting go after a breakup, even if you initiated it? Why does society make you feel like you are less-than if you are not in a relationship? Is love addiction a thing? And how can psychological science, and cognitive-behavioral therapy, help shed light on how all of us can be better in regard to relationships?

Today we're talking with psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren, author of the new book "Letting Go of Your Ex." We go way past the trite cliches of love and breakups and get real about dating, falling in love, breaking up, and how to heal-- and what we all can be doing to think about relationships a little differently.

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8 Ways to Combat a Sense of Helplessness

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 03 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Have world events gotten you down? Or maybe just events in your own life? A sense of helplessness is a common response when problems seem bigger than we can manage. Today we go over eight ways to help feel more in control of your life, get more energy, and have more hope. And while we can't solve all of the world's ills (or even get those car warranty scams to stop spamming your phone), we can change our mindset just a bit to give us more autonomy, one small step at a time.

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Real Talk About Postpartum Depression: A Conversation with Comedian and Activist Angelina Spicer

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Beloved comedian Angelina Spicer didn't set out to become a spokesperson for the realities of postpartum depression. In fact, she calls herself an "accidental activist" speaking out about it. But having lived through a terrifying case herself which resulted in hospitalization, she decided she needed to help spread the word and help other mothers. In the years since, Angelina has lobbied for legislative action to support mothers and other birthing persons, helped those across the world who struggle with postpartum depression, and is preparing for an upcoming national tour. Did we tell you she also makes millions of people laugh on a regular basis?

So, we can't imagine a better person to go deep with about postpartum depression. Join us for today's episode-- from Angelina's personal story and the surprising thing that crossed her mind when she prepared to be hospitalized, to the cultural pressures on mothers and parents, the power of community and laughter, the joys and pains of real parenthood rather than the Instagram version, and the stigma that still faces so many people suffering with postpartum depression

And hear more about the documentary she is working on-- which you can support here!

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Feeling "Frustration"? These 5 Emotions Might Be What's Really Going On

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 27 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're talking about frustration. It's ubiquitous in modern life, and it's a natural reaction to so many situations. It doesn't always have to be a bad thing. But sometimes, it's a copout-- because something much deeper is going on.

Join us for a deep dive into five emotions that often are at the root of frustration-- and learn how much better off you will be if you address your authentic emotional experience, rather than the superficial frustration that might just be the upper layer of it.

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10 Signs Couples Therapy Can Really Help Your Relationship

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Couples therapy: it can be a cliche, it can feel like defeat, and it can even be a cause for conflict in and of itself. But we wanted to get real and talk about some surprising ways it can help your relationship. Have you thought about going for a while? Or does your partner think it's a good idea, but you have major doubts? Today we break down the ten most common reasons people decide to go-- and what it can do for them.

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Yes, We'll Say "Pyramid Scheme": The Psych Tactics and Damage of MLMs, with Roberta Blevins

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 20 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

My, we can already smell the angry emails.

But this is worth it. We have seen MLMs damage finances, and relationships, and lives-- and we thought it was time to get real about the psychological principles involved in trapping people into them, and shaming them into remaining silent when they're harmed.

We went straight to the source, having a no-holds-barred conversation with Roberta Blevins, former LuLaRoe success story turned anti-MLM advocate. You may have seen her on the hit documentary LulaRich, or heard her podcast "Life After MLM." Join us for an enlightening, compassionate, and often funny conversation with someone who's been in the trenches and emerged as an expert advocating for real change, knowing all the MLM secrets. There's pain, wisdom, and quite a lot of courage in today's episode.

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Q&A: Meditation Stinks for Me. Can I Get Its Benefits in Other Ways?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 17 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Today we're taking a listener question from someone who just doesn't like to meditate. They've heard nonstop about its benefits, but when they've tried it, meditation actually makes them feel more stressed. Does everyone have to meditate? Is there a cheat code to avoid the act itself, but still get the benefits? In today's show, we get real about mindfulness, meditation, and how our cultural messages about what both of those mean may be a little out of whack. Join us for some specific ways to incorporate all that's good about mindfulness into your life without once having to 'clear your mind."

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Real Life with OCD: A Conversation with David Adam

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 13 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is one of the most misunderstood disorders in modern culture. Whether it's using the word "OCD" as slang, assuming it's about being neat and tidy or trivializing the suffering of those who have it, misconceptions abound. That's why it was an honor to hear directly from someone who has lived it-- journalist and best-selling author David Adam. Join us in understanding the human behind the disorder, on today's Baggage Check.

You can learn more about David Adam, including his book "The Man Who Couldn't Stop: OCD and the True Story of a Life Lost in Thought," here.

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All About Cognitive Defusion: 7 Ways To Think Differently About Your Thoughts

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

What is cognitive defusion? Both simple and profound, its the process of separating from your thoughts, gaining distance from them as a nonjudgmental, gentle and curious observer.

It's at the heart of mindfulness-- and relief from many aspects of anxiety and rumination. Want to get started thinking differently about your thoughts? Join us for today's episode.

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Listener Q&A: What If The Pandemic Has Made Me Hate People?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 06 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

ALERT! A tech glitch caused an issue in the first minute of the show when it first dropped-- and the issue has now been corrected. Clearly we annoyed the audio gods somehow, but all is well now. So if you were one of the early birds who heard it first, our apologies. We appreciate your patience!

Has the pandemic changed your view of other people-- and maybe, you feel, not for the better? In today's show, Dr. Andrea tackles a question from a listener who is concerned about a shift they've seen in themselves. A combination of working from home permanently, becoming more reclusive, and not liking what they see in humanity has made them maybe.... hate people? Dr. Andrea tackles what might be going on, with some actionable advice and a good bit of hope in this episode of Baggage Check.

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Cutting Through the Nonsense of "Self-Care" with Anna Borges

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 03 Jan 2023 00:15:00 -0500

"Self-care" lives in infamy in mental health terminology, and has a ton of baggage in its own right. Today we get real about it, cutting through the consumerism and cliches-- in a funny, genuine, and insightful conversation with Anna Borges. Anna has long been writing, researching, and exploring self-care, and currently hosts the Mood Ring: A Practical Guide to Self-Care podcast. She is also the author of "The More or Less Definitive Guide to Self-Care" and has known Dr. Andrea long enough that their individual allergies to BS are maximized when they get together.

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Aphantasia, When Your Mind Doesn't "See": A Conversation with Serena Puang

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 30 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Do you visualize things in your head? How good is your "mind's eye?" Today we dive deep into aphantasia-- a condition that many people have without even knowing it's a thing. In this episode, we welcome Serena Puang, a Yale student and journalist with aphantasia-- and talk about the surprising ways it affects her life. If you've ever wondered (even outside of the holiday season!) "Do you see what I see?" then you'll want to join us for today's Baggage Check.

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7 New Year's Resolutions Bound to Be Abandoned-- and How to Fix Them

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 27 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

New Year's resolutions are such a powerful cultural construct that even those of use who say we don't make them sometimes secretly find ourselves, come January 1st, vowing to floss more. Today, we're talking about what the science says about how to get resolutions-- or any goals-- to stick. We'll pick apart seven of the most common dud resolutions that are typically abandoned by February, and let you know how to make them more meet-able.

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A Gloriously Bizarre Dive Into the Meaning of Holidays with Bestselling Author Jason Pargin

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 23 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

How do we describe this episode? We don't really know where to begin, to be honest. Does "going deep about the meaning of Christmas with a beloved sci-fi/horror writer whose latest book involves inter-dimensional parasites feeding on human hosts" make any sense to you? We promise it will, after you listen.

For years, Dr. Andrea has thought back to a piece that bestselling author Jason Pargin wrote about the deeper human truths underlying the holiday season. So, she invited him for a conversation about it-- and what we get is a funny, poignant and thought-provoking discussion about everything from gratitude, loss, fame, loneliness, and technology, to what the idea of "church" can mean to atheists.

Join us.

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6 Things We Get Wrong About Gratitude

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 20 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Cultivating gratitude is widely known as being great for us. So why does it feel so hard at times, and sometimes that it doesn't seem to help? Might it be because we go about it in dysfunctional ways?

On today's show, we get real about gratitude-- what it is, and what it most certainly isn't. We discuss what the research shows is helpful about it, and what we might as well stop doing. The good news is, getting gratitude right really is good for our minds, bodies, and relationships. And on this episode, we give you some actionable steps to start on that path today. (Or tomorrow-- we're not about perfectionism here.)

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Getting Real about the Myths, Risk Factors, and Warning Signs of Suicide

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 16 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Listener discretion note: this episode contains a discussion of the issue of suicide, specifically in terms of warning signs and risk factors, and the noting of a high-profile loss.

Tragic events this week have put suicide front and center in the headlines once again. We wanted to put together, as immediately as we could, a clear, honest and open discussion about suicide-- its risks, its warning signs, its myths, and what to do when you're concerned about yourself or someone you love.

Shame and stigma lead to silence-- which leads to people not getting the help they need.

You are not alone. And there is help.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, call 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline in the United States. You can also call the network, previously known as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, at 800-273-8255, text HOME to 741741 or visit SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources for additional resources.

Listener Q&A: I'm Worried About My Widowed, Isolated Dad. How Can I Get Him Some Friends?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Today's listener question is from someone who lost their beloved Mom two years ago, and their father has gotten more and more isolated-- because Mom was the social heart of the marriage. What can you do when you're worried about an isolated parent, but you live hundreds of miles away? If you've ever had your heart break not only from your own loss, but from watching your loved one go through it in their own way, we've got some support for you in this episode of Baggage Check.

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It's Awkward, But: 18 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 09 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

The issues that tear long-term couples apart are anything but fun and sexy, and so few people want to talk about them when they're excitedly making plans for how they'll announce their engagement on Instagram (let's get that sunset just right!). But it pays to anticipate challenges before you make a commitment-- whether marriage, living together, having a child, or otherwise getting on the "relationship escalator." Today we go through 18 specific and often surprising problems that commonly wreck marriages, and we give you ways to think them through before letting your relationship suffer the same fate. Know a couple who might be getting engaged, or taking the step to move in together? We promise it's not passive-aggressive to send them this episode-- it will make for a stronger marriage, not break one up.

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DNA Surprises, Biological Roots, and the Meaning of "Family": A Conversation with Genealogist Jennifer Mendelsohn

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 06 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

The number of people doing DNA tests and charting their family trees online has skyrocketed over recent years. And it can be an incredibly meaningful journey-- and also one that is shocking and upsetting. This week we speak with renowned genealogist and journalist Jennifer Mendelsohn about all kinds of stories, from the heartwarming to the stomach-churning, and explore what to keep in mind if you start on the search yourself. What's the meaning of "family"? Does our DNA tell us anything about who we really are? Why is the draw toward finding out our ancestry so powerful? We talk about all of it, in today's Baggage Check.

For more on Jennifer Mendelsohn's recently announced collaboration with the Center for Jewish History, to provide free DNA kits to Holocaust survivors and their children, check out the DNA Reunion Project.

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Listener Q&A: A Showdown with a Toxic Boss

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 02 Dec 2022 00:15:00 -0500

We've talked about signs of toxic workplaces before. But sometimes, it all boils down to one person-- and what happens when that person is your boss? In today's Baggage Check, we take a question from a listener who finally has an opportunity, through an HR complaint, to speak out about their boss's misbehavior. So why are they losing their nerve-- and how can they get it back? If you've ever wondered how to keep up your courage when speaking truth to power, you'll want to tune in.

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Good Grief, It's Dark! 11 Tips for Tackling Winter Blues

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 29 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

As clocks get turned back and evenings grow cold and dark, many people struggle with a dip in their mood. Even if you don't quite suffer from diagnosable Seasonal Affective Disorder, you may feel your energy, motivation, and mood dip significantly. Today we discuss 11 research-backed actions you can take to make things feel a little better.

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Masculinity, Race, and Mental Health: Welcoming Dr. Harold "Woody" Neighbors

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 25 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

They told him that a program encouraging Black men to gather and talk about their mental health would be a total bust. And guess what? Man Up, Man Down was anything but. In today's episode, we welcome Dr. Neighbors, professor emeritus at University of Michigan and professor of Public Health at Tulane University, for an in-depth look at his Man Up, Man Down program, Tough Guy Syndrome, racism versus "color-blindness" in the therapy room, socioeconomic factors in mental health access, social isolation, gender differences in friendship, and how mental health and health are one and the same. Join us for a conversation that gets real about what a white female psychologist-- and all of us-- can be doing to make positive societal changes.

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Listener Q&A: My Husband Hid The Fact He's On Antidepressants. Why Do I Feel So Upset?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 22 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

In today's show, we answer a listener question about the struggle that happens when you find out your partner has been keeping something from you about their emotional health. The listener found her husband's antidepressants and wonders, why was he keeping his depression from her? Join us as we tackle the deeper question: how much right do you have to know about your partner's mental health? When is depression treatment just not that big of a big deal? And how do you move forward when you feel betrayed-- and your partner doesn't see it that way?

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8 Tips to Deal with Family Drama, Because Let's Be Honest, It's Not Going Anywhere

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 18 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Our stomachs are doing flip-flops just thinking about it: family drama can take up so much mental and emotional space that it makes you physically ill. But while we can't totally control other people's behavior (we're looking at you, Guy Who Shouted Into His Phone For The Entire Train Ride!), we can use some principles of psychology to manage our own responses, deescalate difficult situations, and be more likely to find our own calm. If you've ever needed help keeping stress about family drama from ruining your day-- or your mental health-- you'll want to take a listen to today's episode.

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Your Brain on Sugar: Dr. Nicole Avena on a Not-So-Sweet Problem

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 15 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

We all know that sugar isn't exactly the tip-top of nutrition. But when it comes to mental health, how does it truly affect our mood and behavior? Is sugar addiction real? And if we want to make genuine changes in our intake of it, where do we start-- and why is it so hard? Today we're joined by Dr. Nicole Avena, a neuroscientist at Princeton University whose groundbreaking research on sugar's effects on the brain raises serious questions about what we're up against, psychologically, in a world where sugar is everywhere.

For more information on Dr. Nicole Avena, her research, and her upcoming book, check out her website and follow her on Twitter.

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Listener Q&A: I Always Want More. How Can I Overcome Jealousy?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 11 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Today, we're getting real about jealousy. Dr. Andrea takes a question from a listener who feels like she's never really happy for the successes of friends and family, and she can't ever stop comparing herself to others. She hates that she feels this way, and yet she can't really figure out where it came from. While jealousy hits all of us from time to time, for others it's a constant struggle. How do the seeds of envy get planted? When you have an otherwise happy life, why might you constantly want more? If you've ever wished you could be a little more secure with what you have, this episode is for you.

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13 Ways to Counteract Toxic Positivity and Embrace a More Fulfilling Version of Happiness

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 08 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Yes, we chose 13. Why? Because today Dr. Andrea is talking about embracing discomfort, with specific tips on how to do that-- and many other ways to counteract toxic positivity. If you listened to Baggage Check's premiere (Episode 1), you understand how harmful toxic positivity can be to our mental health. But what can you do about it? In this episode, she discusses 13 realistic daily steps that you can take to help get out of toxic positivity's grip. From changing your vocabulary about emotion to rejecting dysfunctional perfectionism, today's show covers all the ways that you can begin to develop a more functional relationship with your emotions-- and yourself.

Didn't yet listen to the premiere? Catch up here!

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Is It Social Anxiety? Or Something Far Deeper?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Fri, 04 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Today Dr. Andrea dives deep into Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), a set of symptoms that many people struggle immensely with—without realizing there’s even a name for it. For people with RSD, the fear of rejection dominates their life, and often guides their behavior in ways that can sabotage them, and there's a startling connection to ADHD. Discussing in detail what it's like to live with this, or to love someone who experiences this, and how it can affect everything from romantic relationships to office interactions, she also explores the symptoms, causes, and treatment for this condition. This episode is a must-listen for anyone whose fear of rejection is holding them back.

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Resources Mentioned:

Signs of Controlling Relationships

Resources for Those in Controlling or Abusive Relationships

20 Signs Your Workplace Has... Issues

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 00:45:00 -0500

With so much talk about burnout, why are so many workplaces still sailing ahead with practices that the research definitively tells us make their employees unwell? Today Dr. Andrea lists twenty job characteristics that are empirically shown to heighten stress, decrease morale and productivity, increase the risk of burnout, and lead to deteriorating mental and physical health in employees. If you’re a worker, a job searcher, or a manager who thinks that offering a yoga class makes you a workplace wellness hero (it doesn’t!), you’ll want to take a listen.

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Welcoming Lori Gottlieb for Q&A: When Therapy Feels "Meh," Is It Still Worth Going?

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 00:30:00 -0500

Today we enlist psychotherapist and NY Times best-selling author of "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone" Lori Gottlieb to help answer a listener question: if you’ve finally found a therapist, but things feel pretty mediocre, should you still hang in there and keep trying? In a surprisingly moving conversation about people-pleasing, the courage to face awkwardness, and truly showing up through your fear, Lori and Dr. Andrea get real about the situation that-- in this age of every therapist seeming to be overbooked-- all too many people find themselves dealing with.

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Toxic Positivity and Our Miserable Pursuit of Happiness

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 00:15:00 -0500

In the Baggage Check series premiere, we dive into the concept of toxic positivity—and how we live in a global culture where happiness is both grossly misunderstood and constantly obsessed over. Getting real about the research on two very different conceptualizations of happiness—eudaimonic versus hedonic—and how one of them is associated with vastly improved mental health and fulfillment, Dr. Andrea discusses the serious cultural changes that seem directly to impact our moment-to-moment experiences of emotion. If you’ve ever wondered what “happiness” even means, and why the search for it can feel so futile as depression and anxiety rates continue to rise, this episode is for you.

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Introducing Baggage Check: Mental Health Talk and Advice with Dr. Andrea Bonior

Dr. Andrea Bonior — Sun, 09 Oct 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to Baggage Check, premiering November 1st with new episodes every Tuesday and Friday. With special guests, listener questions, and surprisingly actionable techniques to improve your mental health, Baggage Check brings psychology to life and makes you part of the conversation. Licensed clinical psychologist, Georgetown professor, and "Detox Your Thoughts" author Dr. Andrea Bonior is here to help, with science, compassion, and humor-- and absolutely nothing is off limits.