<![CDATA[Come & Glow]]>c6832c58-89b5-545b-a022-279f25be26a7Wed, 08 Apr 2026 15:55:16 +0000Captivate.fmLilly Sparks & Tolly Moseleyhttps://artwork.captivate.fm/9c7eeabf-8c9a-4c2b-a120-c49eaddb08ff/screen-grab-cover.jpgCome & GlowLilly Sparks & Tolly MoseleyLilly Sparks & Tolly MoseleyCome & Glow is a podcast about sex, intimacy, and the question we keep coming back to: How do you build a sex life that feels like you? Not like a performance. Not like p*rn you don’t even like. Not like what you think you should want. Like you—your body, your nervous system, your relationships, your fantasies, your boundaries, your sense of humor, your needs, your real life. Hosted by Lilly Sparks, founder of afterglow (the ethical adult film site for women and couples), and Tolly Moseley, author of Submit Here (the Substack for human connection), Come & Glow is where emotionally intelligent sex talk meets pop culture obsession. We’re here for deep intimacy, hot takes, and the messy truth about what turns people on. Each week, we have honest conversations about desire, connection, communication, and the everyday hurdles that make sex complicated like mismatched libidos, stress, shame, resentment, body stuff, awkwardness, boredom, and the pressure to “get it right.” We talk about how to build emotional safety without losing the tension, how to stay curious, and how to make sex feel easier - not because it’s simple, but because you deserve more ease. And because so many of us learned what sex is “supposed” to look like from TV, movies, romance, and adult films, Come & Glow also dives into sex in pop culture—breaking down the steamiest scenes, the tropes we can’t stop thinking about, and the stories we’re collectively obsessed with. We ask what they reveal about us, what they get right, what they get wrong, and what they awaken in us. This show is for you if you want sex to feel: - more connected and less performative - more playful and less pressured - more emotionally safe (without becoming boring) - more honest, even when it’s messy - more like you Come for the hot takes. Stay for the glow.https://come-and-glow.captivate.fmtrueepisodicnopodcastHeated Rivalry & Why Safe Sex Can Still Be Filthy (Plus: Acting Divorced as Foreplay)Heated Rivalry & Why Safe Sex Can Still Be Filthy (Plus: Acting Divorced as Foreplay)Come & Glow (Ep 1): Heated Rivalry + Why Safe Sex Can Still Be Filthy

Welcome to the very first episode of Come & Glow — where we talk about pop culture and sex the way we actually experience it. Messy? Tender? Funny? Yup: us too.

In this episode, Lilly Sparks (founder of afterglow) and Tolly Moseley (former Editorial Director of Sex with Emily) dive into the cultural obsession that can't stop/won't stop, Heated Rivalry. Yes, the Canadian hockey romance still has all of us losing our godd*mn minds.

We talk about what makes this show so addictive: the emotional safety, the slow burn, the female gaze, and the rare on-screen combo of explicit sex + genuine tenderness. More pls.

In this episode, we get into:

  1. Why Heated Rivalry feels like a cultural moment (dare we say, a healing moment)
  2. Ilya' “safe dom” energy (and why attention is the real kink)
  3. The false binary many of us grew up with: hot sex = dangerous and safe love = boring
  4. How the show nails the female gaze (it’s not about bodies — it’s about faces)
  5. Queer joy in hyper-masculine spaces
  6. The edits + cinematography details that make this show feel smarter than it needs to be
  7. The relationship dynamic shift from intimidation-fucking to “are you okay?”
  8. A PSA for the people: lube. Where is the lube?
  9. The real reason fantasies can feel threatening in monogamy (and how to talk about them without detonating your relationship)
  10. The “unconscious coddling” dynamic many couples fall into
  11. A spicy closing takeaway: maybe your relationship would improve if you acted a little more divorced

Listener question we want your take on:

Do you think safety is more of a turn-on…

or is danger more of a turn-on?

Also: help us name this podcast

We’re choosing between:

  1. Come & Glow
  2. The Afters (a podcast about what lingers after sex: feelings, questions, laughter, and the quiet truths we don’t always say out loud)

Drop your vote + your pun suggestions.

About the hosts

Lilly Sparks is the founder of afterglow, an ethical porn platform for women and couples who want to have better sex.

Tolly Mosley is the former Editorial Director of Sex with Emily, and authors the popular Substack Submit Here, exploring human connection.

Sponsored by afterglow

Ethical porn that turns you on — and teaches you how to have better sex.

]]>Come & Glow (Ep 1): Heated Rivalry + Why Safe Sex Can Still Be Filthy

Welcome to the very first episode of Come & Glow — where we talk about pop culture and sex the way we actually experience it. Messy? Tender? Funny? Yup: us too.

In this episode, Lilly Sparks (founder of afterglow) and Tolly Moseley (former Editorial Director of Sex with Emily) dive into the cultural obsession that can't stop/won't stop, Heated Rivalry. Yes, the Canadian hockey romance still has all of us losing our godd*mn minds.

We talk about what makes this show so addictive: the emotional safety, the slow burn, the female gaze, and the rare on-screen combo of explicit sex + genuine tenderness. More pls.

In this episode, we get into:

  1. Why Heated Rivalry feels like a cultural moment (dare we say, a healing moment)
  2. Ilya' “safe dom” energy (and why attention is the real kink)
  3. The false binary many of us grew up with: hot sex = dangerous and safe love = boring
  4. How the show nails the female gaze (it’s not about bodies — it’s about faces)
  5. Queer joy in hyper-masculine spaces
  6. The edits + cinematography details that make this show feel smarter than it needs to be
  7. The relationship dynamic shift from intimidation-fucking to “are you okay?”
  8. A PSA for the people: lube. Where is the lube?
  9. The real reason fantasies can feel threatening in monogamy (and how to talk about them without detonating your relationship)
  10. The “unconscious coddling” dynamic many couples fall into
  11. A spicy closing takeaway: maybe your relationship would improve if you acted a little more divorced

Listener question we want your take on:

Do you think safety is more of a turn-on…

or is danger more of a turn-on?

Also: help us name this podcast

We’re choosing between:

  1. Come & Glow
  2. The Afters (a podcast about what lingers after sex: feelings, questions, laughter, and the quiet truths we don’t always say out loud)

Drop your vote + your pun suggestions.

About the hosts

Lilly Sparks is the founder of afterglow, an ethical porn platform for women and couples who want to have better sex.

Tolly Mosley is the former Editorial Director of Sex with Emily, and authors the popular Substack Submit Here, exploring human connection.

Sponsored by afterglow

Ethical porn that turns you on — and teaches you how to have better sex.

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