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Self-Criticism, Shame & Compassion From the Inside | Chris Irons

Fri, 08 May 2026 18:00:00 +1000

What happens inside your mind when you wake up irritable frustrated…and then start criticising yourself for it?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with clinical psychologist and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) expert Dr Chris Irons for a reflective, inside-out conversation on shame, self-criticism, and how compassion actually shows up in real life.

We begin with a simple but, I suspect, relatable moment—waking up in a bad mood—and follow how threat system activation can cascade through the day, leading to frustration, disconnection, and a second layer of shame and self-criticism. Chris introduces the powerful “three arrows” metaphor (pain, defensive responses, and shame/self-criticism), and shares a vivid analogy of shame as “too much salt,” overpowering our emotional experience.

We explore how self-criticism, rumination, and worry can trap us in loops, why awareness can sometimes make things worse, and how cultivating compassionate wisdom, courage, and care can help us respond differently. Chris also shares insights into Compassionate Mind Training (CMT), including the “compassionate ladder,” fears, blocks, and resistances to compassion, and how practices can be tailored to individual differences such as attachment style, shame, and neurodiversity.

We also look ahead to emerging research in CFT, including ADHD, hormonal influences, and how technology and personalised approaches may shape the future of compassion-based interventions.

This is a more open, less structured, conversation about what it’s actually like to be with our minds, and how we might learn to meet ourselves with compassion. I hope you enjoy it!

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

01:27 Irritable Morning Story

03:36 Tricky Minds and Threat Loops

07:37 Self Criticism and Shame Spiral

12:29 The Three Arrows Explained

16:12 Reconnection Needs Courage

17:31 Compassion Qualities and Shame Types

22:32 Shame as Too Much Salt

26:13 Finding Compassion in the Dark

28:40 Practice Pathways and Compassion Ladder

30:37 Compassion Ladder Basics

31:14 Finding Your Best Starting Point

32:35 Researching Individual Differences

35:58 Neurodiversity and Tailoring CMT

36:55 When Compassion Triggers Threat

40:29 Fears Blocks and Physiology

42:04 ADHD Study and Menstrual Cycle

46:49 Assessment Guided Personalisation

52:04 Wearables and Daily Practice Choice

53:28 Context Triggers and Self Wisdom

59:47 What’s Next: Research and Access

01:03:18 Spreading CFT Beyond Therapy

01:04:15 Closing Thanks and Farewell

Links:

Dr Chris Irons’s website:

https://drchrisirons.com/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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How Self-Compassion Can Help After Online Sexual Harm | Eve da Silva

Fri, 01 May 2026 18:00:00 +1000

What happens when shame keeps someone silent?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with clinical psychologist Dr Eve da Silva about the often hidden impact of online sexual harm — and how shame, self-criticism, and secrecy can leave young people feeling isolated and unable to seek help.

Eve shares how her clinical work in CBT began to uncover a pattern: clients presenting with anxiety or low mood were often carrying unspoken experiences such as non-consensual image sharing or distressing online sexual encounters. These experiences were rarely discussed — not because they weren’t important, but because they felt too shameful to name.

Drawing on Compassion Focused Therapy, Eve developed a 14-day online self-compassion programme, designed to gently support people in shifting from self-blame to self-understanding. We explore the practices involved — including soothing rhythm breathing, safe space imagery, compassionate writing, and compassionate self exercises — and why even brief interventions can make a meaningful difference.

We also discuss the complexity of navigating digital intimacy, the role of peer and cultural pressures, and how shame activates threat responses that block help-seeking. Eve shares findings from her study, where participants showed reduced self-criticism, lower distress, increased self-reassurance, and more openness to seeking help.

This is a thoughtful and important conversation about how compassion can help people begin to relate differently to themselves — especially in moments where they might feel most alone.

You can find Eve’s free resources here:

https://compassionhelps.com/resources

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Topic

01:33 Why This Research

06:51 Online Norms and Pressure

12:32 Shame and Silence

16:51 Designing the Program

23:18 Making It Human

26:38 Study Results and Outcomes

35:41 Supporting Youth Compassionately

42:02 Micro Anchors Explained

46:03 What’s Next and Wrap-Up

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Psychological Flexibility, Self-Criticism & Elite Performance | Toby Jenkins

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 18:00:00 +1000

What really drives elite performance — discipline, self-criticism, or something deeper? In this episode, I explore psychological flexibility, self-compassion, and high performance with Olympian Toby Jenkins.

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Toby Jenkins — Olympian, entrepreneur, speaker, and coach — to explore leadership, high performance, and the inner world that shapes both.

Toby is also my cousin, so this was a really special conversation for me. He shares a deeply personal and powerful account of his Olympic journey, describing the yin–yang of high performance — the highs and lows, pride and disappointment, confidence and doubt, and even moments of shame.

We talk openly about self-criticism — how it can drive performance, but also how it can become harsh and unhelpful. Toby reflects on the intense pressure of elite sport, and how that inner voice shaped his experience along the way.

One of the most powerful moments in the conversation is a story from his early days at the Australian Institute of Sport, where a simple act of kindness — a teammate offering him an old team t-shirt — had a profound and lasting impact. It’s a beautiful example of compassion in action.

Toby also shares how discovering Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the science of psychological flexibility transformed his understanding of mindset. Rather than trying to eliminate stress or control emotions, he now focuses on opening up to discomfort, being present, and taking values-based action.

In our conversation, we explore:

- The double-edged nature of self-criticism in high performance

- Why confidence can be unreliable — and competence is built through reps

- How athletes and leaders can respond differently to pressure, fear, and doubt

- The role of compassion and self-compassion in resilience and growth

- How psychological flexibility applies across sport, business, and everyday life

This is a really rich, practical, and deeply human conversation about what it means to perform, lead, and live well — even when things are tough.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome And Guest Intro

01:46 Cousins Reunite On Air

02:39 Olympic Highs And Lows

07:20 AIS Grind And Self Doubt

09:00 Humiliated At Selection Camp

12:25 The T Shirt Kindness Moment

14:55 Pay It Forward Lessons

19:12 Compassion Defined In Practice

21:52 Reframing Coach With Compassion

27:30 Inner Critic And Pain As Fuel

30:02 When Self Criticism Helps Or Hurts

32:12 Constructive vs Shame Critic

33:22 Owning Pressure Out Loud

35:46 Acceptance Price of Entry

37:27 Finding ACT in Crisis

38:49 Work Identity Wake Up

44:23 Mindset Shift in Leaders

47:08 Confidence vs Competence Reps

53:58 Compassion Validation and Choice

59:17 Wholeness Yin Yang Wrap

01:00:36 Closing Thanks and Farewell

Links:

Toby Jenkin’s website:

https://www.tobyajenkins.com/

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/tobyjenkins/

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Why We Self-Sabotage (It’s Not What You Think) | Charlie Heriot-Maitland

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 18:00:00 +1000

Why do we self-sabotage, criticise ourselves, or even create chaos in our own lives — sometimes right when things matter most?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr Charlie Heriot-Maitland to explore his powerful new book Controlled Explosions in Mental Health. Together, we unpack a surprising and compassionate idea: that many of the things we struggle with — procrastination, self-criticism, pessimism, even self-harm — may actually be our brain’s way of protecting us from something it views as even more painful.

Charlie introduces the concept of “controlled explosions” — targeted, self-directed harms designed to prevent bigger feared threats like rejection, failure, humiliation, or retraumatisation. Drawing on evolutionary psychology and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), we explore how understanding these patterns can reduce shame and help us relate to our minds in a more compassionate and effective way.

Along the way, Charlie and I reflect on our own experiences of writing and publishing books — and how self-sabotage can show up in surprisingly subtle ways, like procrastinating near the finish line or even holding back from promoting something we care deeply about. These moments bring the theory to life, showing how these “protective” processes can quietly shape our choices, often in ways we don’t immediately recognise.

We also dive into the idea of the “bomb squad” — different parts of the mind (like the procrastinator, pessimist, or inner critic) that step in to protect us — and why trying to simply “get rid” of these patterns often leads to more struggle. Instead, Charlie outlines a compassionate approach of noticing, understanding, and helping — turning towards the underlying fears rather than fighting the symptoms.

This is a thoughtful and deeply relatable conversation about why our minds work the way they do — and how compassion can help us work with our minds, rather than against them.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

02:05 New Book Overview

02:46 Controlled Explosions Metaphor

06:46 Eureka Origin Story

08:56 Evolution and Deshaming

11:26 Bomb Squad Characters

13:46 Self Sabotage Unit

22:29 Self Criticism Unit

28:56 Whack a Mole and Root Causes

33:24 Parts Work and Personifying

36:48 Continuum and Common Humanity

41:03 Compassionate Practice Tools

48:16 Therapy Applications and Closing

Links:

Dr Charlie Heriot-Maitland’s website:

https://charlieheriotmaitland.com/

Relating to Voices Using CFT (Heriot-Maitland & Longden, 2022)

https://charlieheriotmaitland.com/books/relating-to-voices-using-compassion-focused-therapy/

Controlled Explosions in Mental Health (Heriot-Maitland, 2026)

https://charlieheriotmaitland.com/books/controlled-explosions-in-mental-health/

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Discovering Compassion in Therapy | Tiffany Luxford

Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:00 +1000

What is it like to encounter Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) for the very first time — not in a textbook, but in a real clinical service, working with people whose threat systems are truly activated?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Tiffany Luxford, an undergraduate psychology student working at the Anxiety Disorders Residential Unit at the South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust. Tiff shares a fresh, thoughtful, and deeply human perspective on what it’s like to step into a compassionate clinical environment — and how that experience begins to shape the kind of clinician she hopes to become.

We explore how compassion shows up not just in therapy, but in team culture — creating safeness, reducing burnout, and supporting both staff and clients. Tiff offers insights into how CFT is used alongside CBT for conditions like OCD and body dysmorphic disorder, including working with shame, self-criticism, and fears of self-compassion.

What makes this conversation especially powerful is Tiff’s willingness to reflect on her own lived experience of recovery from an eating disorder and OCD — and how compassion might have changed that journey. She also shares reflections from her newly released TEDx talk, where she speaks about uncertainty, recovery, and the courage it takes to move toward change.

This is a conversation about beginnings — about learning compassion, living it, and slowly becoming it.

Watch Tiff’s TEDx talk:

What recovery taught me about fear | Tiffany Luxford | TEDxKingsCollegeLondon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlFHrSPw1kU

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

02:17 First Encounter With CFT

06:18 Team Compassion Culture

10:09 Formulating Anxiety in CFT

12:42 ERP With Self Compassion

16:23 Shame and Self Criticism

19:01 Small Shifts in Recovery

24:22 Lived Experience and Recovery

28:35 TEDx Talk and Uncertainty

32:29 Designing Compassionate Services

34:54 Advice for New Clinicians

37:27 Closing Thanks and Wrap Up

Links:

Watch Tiff’s TEDx talk:

What recovery taught me about fear | Tiffany Luxford | TEDxKingsCollegeLondon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlFHrSPw1kU

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How Compassion Really Works (And How to Train It) | Paul Condon

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:00:00 +1000

What if compassion isn’t just something we feel—but something we can train?

In this conversation, I sit down with social psychologist Associate Professor Paul Condon to explore his new book How Compassion Works (with John Makransky) and their evidence-based approach to Sustainable Compassion Training (SCT).

We dive into a powerful idea: that we already have an innate capacity for love, compassion, and wisdom—but life experiences, attachment patterns, and our tendency to get caught in thoughts can pull us away from it.

Paul shares a clear, practical framework for reconnecting with that capacity through three key modes of practice:

. Receptive mode – learning to take in care and reconnect with a “secure base”

. Deepening mode – shifting from reactive thinking to expansive awareness

. Inclusive mode – widening compassion beyond our usual limits

We also explore how to develop a “holding environment” for difficult emotions, the difference between love and compassion, and how this approach can help prevent burnout, empathic distress, and compassion fatigue.

If you’ve ever struggled to stay compassionate without feeling overwhelmed—or wondered how compassion actually develops—this is a deeply insightful and practical conversation.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

02:31 Innate Compassion Explained

05:59 Why We Lose Touch

13:20 Equanimity and Holding Space

17:56 Love vs Compassion

23:14 Sustainable Compassion Training

28:43 Receptive Mode Field of Care

33:09 When Care Feels Inaccessible

40:28 Deepening Mode Expansive Awareness

49:37 Inclusive Mode Widening the Circle

58:27 Avoiding Burnout and Distress

01:05:21 Motivation and Daily Practice

01:10:48 Closing Thoughts and Thanks

Links:

Dr Paul Condon’s website:

https://paulcondon.org/

How Compassion Works (Makransky & Condon, 2025)

https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Compassion-Works-Step-Step/dp/164547173X/

Sustainable Compassion Training: Integrating Meditation Theory With Psychological Science (Condon & Makransky, 2020) Open Access article from Frontiers in Psychology.

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.02249/full

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Student Burnout, Self-Criticism & Kindness | Elaine Beaumont

Fri, 27 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with psychotherapist Dr Elaine Beaumont to explore the growing pressures facing young adults — especially university students — and how self-criticism, shame, and burnout are shaping their mental health.

We discuss how social media, comparison, and constant connectivity are impacting young people’s inner worlds, and why kindness may be a powerful starting point for change. Elaine shares insights from her clinical work, her research on self-compassion and burnout, and her experience teaching students in the helping professions.

We also explore the difference between kindness and compassion, how Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) can help people work with self-criticism, and how practical tools like The Kindness Workbook and the Self-Compassion App are helping people build compassion in everyday life.

And toward the end, we meet Roy — a therapy dog bringing compassion to life in a very real and embodied way.

Key Topics:

. Self-criticism and shame in young adults

. Student burnout and mental health

. Social media and comparison

. Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)

. Kindness vs compassion

. Self-compassion app and research

. Animal-assisted therapy and wellbeing

If you’re interested in self-compassion, student wellbeing, burnout, or how to work with your inner critic, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and guest intro

03:06 Young adults under pressure

06:53 Social media comparison trap

10:14 Role models and playfulness

14:36 Algorithms and world anxiety

18:44 Perfectionism and burnout

23:36 Self-compassion app insights

27:06 Kindness workbook and values

30:18 Kindness starts within

31:38 Kindness versus compassion

32:46 Inside the Kindness Workbook

33:31 Kindness Crusaders artwork

35:17 Korea recognition and reach

36:44 When kindness becomes compassion

38:56 Fear blocks to self-compassion

42:52 Self-compassion app results

47:12 Roy and therapy dog work

53:56 Dogs as compassionate friends

56:04 Final thanks and resources

Links:

Dr Elaine Beaumont’s website:

https://beaumontpsychotherapy.co.uk/

The Kindness Workbook (Beaumont & Welford, 2021)

https://www.hachette.com.au/elaine-beaumont-mary-welford/the-kindness-workbook-creative-and-compassionate-ways-to-boost-your-wellbeing

The Compassionate Mind Workbook (Irons & Beaumont, 2017)

https://www.hachette.com.au/chris-irons-elaine-beaumont/the-compassionate-mind-workbook-a-step-by-step-guide-to-developing-your-compassionate-self

The Self-Compassion App

https://beaumontpsychotherapy.co.uk/self-compassion-app/

Evaluating the impact the Self-Compassion App has on levels of compassion, psychological distress and well-being (Beaumont et al., 2024)

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/capr.12841

A Qualitative Study Exploring the Impact the Self-Compassion App Has on Levels of Compassion, Self-Criticism, and Wellbeing (Beaumont et al., 2022)

https://www.lidsen.com/journals/icm/icm-07-03-045

Roy the Labrador

https://www.instagram.com/walkswithroy/

Social media age restrictions hub

https://www.esafety.gov.au/about-us/industry-regulation/social-media-age-restrictions-hub

Early wins for the social media ban, new survey claims. But the full picture is far more complicated (Sawyer & Lin, 2026)

https://theconversation.com/early-wins-for-the-social-media-ban-new-survey-claims-but-the-full-picture-is-far-more-complicated-278768

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Meditation Progress & Pitfalls: What Really Happens Over Time | Dr Lillian Ward

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with Dr Lillian Ward from the Contemplative Studies Centre at the University of Melbourne about what “progress” in meditation really looks like beyond beginner programs — including the positive changes people hope for and the genuine challenges that can arise along the way.

Meditation is often promoted for its benefits, such as improved wellbeing, emotional regulation, and greater self-awareness. But what actually happens as people continue meditating over months and years? How do experienced meditation teachers recognise when practice is going well — and when it might not be?

Lillian describes her Delphi study with experienced meditation teachers from both secular mindfulness programs (MBSR, MBCT, MiCBT) and Buddhist traditions including Theravada and Zen. Using a multi-round consultation process, the study draws on the expertise of teachers to better understand the many psychological, emotional, and relational changes that can emerge through meditation practice.

Teachers in the study identified 97 meaningful changes they use to assess how their students are progressing. These include positive developments such as greater emotional awareness, openness, and self-compassion, but also potential difficulties such as relationship strain, increased rumination, neglecting responsibilities, or experiences that can interfere with everyday functioning.

Lillian also explains a pathway model of meditation progress, where ongoing practice builds attentional skills and introspection. These can open the door to both growth and difficulty depending on how the experiences that arise are understood and responded to.

Towards the end of our conversation, Lillian introduces a major new research project called Tracking Meditation: A Longitudinal Study, which is currently recruiting meditation practitioners. This two-year study aims to follow newer meditators over time to better understand how meditation practice develops and how it affects wellbeing in everyday life.

If you’re interested in mindfulness, meditation research, contemplative science, or the psychology of meditation practice, I hope you enjoy the conversation.

Timestamps:

00:00 Meditation Journey Intro

02:16 Why Progress Matters

04:07 Delphi Study Explained

06:01 Study Design Breakdown

09:08 Key Changes Teachers See

12:09 Self-Compassion and Relationships

16:33 Pathways Model of Progress

22:32 Traditions and Measuring Change

26:13 When Practice Goes Wrong

30:53 Managing Adverse Experiences

36:02 Tracking Meditation Longitudinal Study

40:29 Recruiting and Closing Thanks

Links:

Tracking Meditation: A Longitudinal Study

https://psychologicalsciences.unimelb.edu.au/CSC/research/research-studies/tracking-meditation-a-longitudinal-study

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Healthcare Burnout, Moral Injury & Self-Compassion | Caragh Behan & Brendan Kelly

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +1000

Compassion in healthcare is more than a value statement — it is a clinical skill, a leadership stance, and a systemic responsibility. In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with psychiatrist Caragh Behan (Royal College of Surgeons in Ireland) and Professor Brendan Kelly (Trinity College Dublin) about burnout, moral injury, empathy fatigue, and how to make compassion real in modern evidence-based healthcare systems.

Together, Caragh and Brendan have written the Handbook of Compassion in Healthcare, a practical and research-informed guide that explores compassion from neuroscience to self-compassion, resilience, and compassionate leadership. The book is available to purchase in hard copy — and importantly, it is also available open access, reflecting their belief that compassion should be accessible to all.

In this conversation, we explore:

• The pressures of evidence-based medicine, service targets, and performance metrics

• A powerful pandemic-era story of a suicidal young man who felt unseen at his most vulnerable

• The quiet presence of fear in clinical work — fear of mistakes, complaints, and uncertainty

• Why compassion is best understood as awareness of suffering plus the motivation to act

• The crucial differences between empathy, sympathy, pity, and what they call “horrified anxiety”

• Why “compassion fatigue” may be more accurately described as empathy fatigue

• Moral injury and what happens when clinicians are forced to act against their core values

• Self-compassion as the foundation for sustainable, courageous care

• Practical strategies — pausing, grounding, touch, intention-setting, and deep listening

• How to build compassionate health systems, not just compassionate individuals

This conversation moves from the inner world of the clinician to the wider organisational and systemic context of healthcare. We discuss how compassion can be cultivated, trained, and protected — even in overstretched environments — and why always and everywhere, compassion matters.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Guests

02:30 Why Compassion Now

03:04 System Pressures and Stories

06:40 Compassion Across Specialties

08:28 Fear and Clinical Uncertainty

11:03 Defining Compassion

11:50 Empathy Sympathy and Pity

15:01 Compassion Fatigue Reframed

18:28 Courage and Patient Autonomy

23:51 Can Compassion Be Taught

25:09 Book and Open Access

25:56 Moral Injury Explained

28:18 Self Compassion Basics

30:22 System Pressures vs Self Care

32:46 Two Strands of Change

37:04 Compassionate Intention

39:29 Can Compassion Be Trained

44:28 One Small Practice Tomorrow

49:00 Always Compassion Matters

51:45 Closing Thanks and Links

If you work in healthcare, mental health, leadership, or any caring profession — this episode will resonate deeply.

Links:

Handbook of Compassion in Healthcare (Behan and Kelly, 2025)

https://www.cambridge.org/core/books/handbook-of-compassion-in-healthcare/4B98BECD58FAA99F62F8C4B0BB39663D

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Compassionate Leadership and Burnout Recovery at Work | Natalia Sarro

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +1000

What if burnout isn’t a personal failure — but a cultural signal?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with Natalia Sarro, an Argentinian psychologist based in Barcelona, Compassion Focused Therapy practitioner, and the first certified Spanish-speaking instructor with the Center for Compassionate Leadership.

Natalia shares how her own identity became deeply tied to performance — and how that journey led her to support leaders navigating burnout, chronic stress, perfectionism and self-criticism. Together, we explore workplaces as “emotional laboratories,” where belonging, worth and power are constantly being negotiated.

We discuss psychological safety and why high-performing teams are built not on fear, but on environments where people feel safe to speak up, disagree, admit mistakes and ask for help. Natalia explains the powerful distinction between leading with compassion and leading for compassion — shaping systems that reduce burnout and exclusion.

We also explore gender socialisation, fierce self-compassion, internalised self-criticism, and how women leaders can reclaim grounded authority and voice without losing warmth or strength.

Finally, Natalia introduces her idea of “cathedral thinking” — leadership as long-arc culture building that may outlast us.

This is a rich and reflective conversation about burnout, identity, leadership, and building compassionate workplaces that sustain people rather than exhaust them.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

02:03 Natalia’s Work Journey

05:08 Identity Performance Burnout

05:59 Women Burnout and Bias

08:07 Vision for Compassionate Work

11:14 Psychological Safety Explained

14:21 Leading With and For

16:52 Spanish Cultural Translation

21:10 Compassion Misconceptions at Work

24:25 Fierce Self Compassion for Women

30:42 Gendered Double Standards

38:39 Vulnerability and Inner Critic

44:46 Self Compassion Shapes Culture

47:23 Cathedral Thinking Closing

47:51 Final Thanks and Farewell

Links:

Natalia’s website:

https://nataliasarro.com/

Natalia’s Instagram page:

https://www.instagram.com/nataliasarro/

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Menopause and Mental Health: How Self-Compassion Builds Resilience | Lydia Brown

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +1000

Menopause is one of the most significant transitions in a woman’s life — and yet it’s often ignored, misunderstood, or reduced to stereotypes about hormones and hot flushes. But menopause is not just biological. It’s psychological. It affects sleep, mood, identity, relationships, work, and wellbeing.

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with Dr Lydia Brown, Senior Lecturer in Psychological Sciences at the University of Melbourne and a leading researcher on self-compassion and menopause.

Dr Brown explains what menopause actually is (including perimenopause and timing), why research historically lagged, and how the Women’s Health Initiative reshaped conversations around hormone replacement therapy (HRT). We explore how menopause intersects with midlife pressures — caregiving, career demands, grief, identity shifts — and how self-compassion can act as a powerful buffer.

Drawing on data from over 500 Australian women, Lydia shares research showing that self-compassion can reduce the burden of hot flushes, protect against depression, support treatment adherence, and predict wellbeing — sometimes more strongly than symptom severity itself.

We also discuss:

• Why women often struggle with self-compassion

• The myth that self-compassion is selfish

• How menopause shows up in the workplace

• Brain fog and what the research really says

• Organisational policy (including menopause leave)

• Positive ageing and the “paradox of ageing”

• Practical tools — including the simple question: “What do I need right now?”

Whether you’re experiencing menopause, supporting someone who is, or simply interested in resilience and healthy ageing, this conversation offers grounded, evidence-based insight.

Timestamps:

00:00 Menopause Is More Than Hot Flushes: Why This Transition Matters

00:23 Meet Dr Lydia Brown + What We’ll Cover

02:01 Menopause 101: What It Is, Perimenopause, Timing & Symptom Range

04:55 Why the Science Lagged: Women Excluded, Complexity & Variability

06:21 HRT’s Rise, the WHI Shockwave, and Where the Evidence Sits Now

08:50 Beyond Hormones: Identity Shifts & Midlife Pressures

13:05 Why Self-Compassion? Lydia’s Personal Path

17:34 Blocks to Self-Compassion: Socialisation & Self-Criticism

24:15 Support Systems First: Doctors, Therapy & Community

27:03 Self-Compassion as a Buffer for Hot Flushes

29:38 Why Self-Compassion Predicts Wellbeing

33:32 Self-Compassion and CBT: Mechanisms Explained

37:55 Menopause at Work: Brain Fog & Career Impact

46:21 Positive Ageing & the Paradox of Growing Older

50:26 Practical Takeaways: “What Do I Need Right Now?”

55:20 Closing Reflections

Links:

For Dr Brown’s contact, research papers and media work, go to her website at The University of Melbourne:

https://findanexpert.unimelb.edu.au/profile/21045-lydia-brown

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Team Compassion at Work: Psychological Safety & Better Outcomes | Helena Nguyen

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +1000

Have you ever worked in a team where something went wrong — and you could feel the difference between blame and support?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr Stan Steindl speaks with Professor Helena Nguyen about workplace compassion as a team- and organisation-level capability, not just an individual trait.

Interest in compassion at work has grown rapidly — driven by burnout, faster and leaner workplaces, the impact of COVID-19, and the rise of AI prompting questions about what remains uniquely human at work. Helena explains why focusing only on individual compassion can create blame and unsustainable expectations, especially in high-pressure environments like healthcare.

We explore:

. Why workload weakens the impact of compassionate care

. What team compassion actually looks like in day-to-day work

. How team mindfulness enables shared awareness and coordinated support

. The role of shared mental models (think “soccer team” sync under pressure)

. Why compassion improves psychological safety, speaking up, learning, and patient safety

. Research linking compassionate care to better treatment outcomes and even mortality rates

. The hidden cost of “just be compassionate” cultures — burnout and workforce loss

. Organisational barriers: mindset, culture, systems, incentives, and leadership

. Practical starting points: self-compassion, mindfulness, emotional intelligence, difficult conversations, and circles of control

. We also discuss the future of compassion research — moving beyond heroic individual narratives toward team compassion and compassionate organising, and normalising vulnerability, grief, and suffering in professional life.

. Compassion isn’t a “nice to have.” It’s a strategic necessity — good for people, teams, and performance.

This conversation draws on the recent special issue on compassion in organisations in the Australian Journal of Management. The link to the special issue is in the description below.

Timestamps

00:00 Compassion at Work: Why Teams Matter

01:58 Burnout, COVID & the New Work Reality

04:03 AI & the Future of Human Skills

07:21 The Risks of Blaming Individuals

10:23 Self-Compassion at Work

12:16 What Team Compassion Looks Like

15:24 Team Mindfulness & Shared Awareness

22:24 When Competition Kills Compassion

23:42 Compassion, Performance & Patient Safety

29:22 The Hidden Cost of “Just Be Compassionate”

32:46 Organisational Barriers to Compassion

38:02 Practical Starting Points

46:37 The Future: Team Compassion & Compassionate Organising

48:57 Vulnerability, Grief & Humanity at Work

Links:

For the Special Issue in the Australian Journal of Management got here:

https://journals.sagepub.com/toc/auma/50/3?_gl=1*1yyxzqx*_up*MQ..*_ga*NjY2MDQ2ODg0LjE3NzEyMjA3NjU.*_ga_60R758KFDG*czE3NzEyMjg1MjQkbzIkZzAkdDE3NzEyMjg1MjQkajYwJGwwJGgxMzczNTQ3Njgx

For more about Professor Helena Nguyen go here:

https://profiles.sydney.edu.au/helena.nguyen

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What Is Equanimity and Why It Matters Now | Margaret Cullen

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Margaret Cullen, a licensed psychotherapist and one of the true pioneers of bringing mindfulness and compassion into mainstream psychology, healthcare, and community settings.

Margaret was among the first teachers certified in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, has taught internationally for decades, and spent over 30 years supporting people living with cancer and their loved ones. She co-developed Compassion Cultivation Training at Stanford, founded Compassion Corps to bring compassion programs to underserved communities, and has helped shape how contemplative practices are taught across the world.

Our conversation centres on Margaret’s beautiful new book, Quiet Strength, which explores equanimity not as detachment, numbness, or emotional suppression, but as a steady, wise presence that allows us to stay open, engaged, and human — without being hijacked by reactivity.

We explore what equanimity really is (and what it isn’t), how it shows up in the body and nervous system, how it supports compassion without overwhelm or pity, and why “broken-hearted equanimity” may be one of the most important capacities for living in uncertain, polarised, and painful times.

This is a grounded, thoughtful conversation about calm strength, embodiment, and how we can meet life as it actually is.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:13 Introducing Margaret Cullen and her work

01:04 What is equanimity? Introducing Quiet Strength

03:50 Common misunderstandings about equanimity

05:32 Equanimity, emotional balance, and recovery

09:32 Mindfulness and equanimity: how they overlap

22:21 Margaret’s early journey with MBSR

25:23 The body and nervous system in equanimity

28:27 Bottom-up equanimity and embodied practice

31:37 Interrupting rumination and hyperarousal

34:34 Fears, blocks, and resistance to equanimity

37:03 Equanimity in relationships and real life

40:01 Nonviolent resistance and quiet strength

45:51 Broken-hearted equanimity

47:44 Equanimity as a support for compassion

52:31 Clinical and therapeutic applications

54:06 Closing reflections

Links:

Margaret Cullen’s website with links to the book, training, and other resources

https://margaretcullen.com/

More on Quiet Strength from the publishers:

https://www.harpercollins.com/products/quiet-strength-margaret-cullen?variant=43897021300770

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Using Motivational Interviewing to Create Change With Families | Doug Smith

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Douglas Smith, Professor of Social Work at the University of Illinois at Urbana–Champaign, Director of the Center for Prevention Research and Development, and a long-standing member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers.

Doug and I explore his 2025 book Motivational Interviewing with Families, which re-imagines how Motivational Interviewing (MI) can be applied when working with couples, parents and children, and wider family systems. Rather than treating MI as something done with one person while others observe, Doug invites us to think systemically, relationally, and compassionately about how change unfolds across conversations with families.

We discuss how MI spirit shows up in family work, why reflective listening is the engine of MI, and Doug’s bold re-ordering of the core skills into ROARS (Reflections, Open questions, Affirmations, Reflective Summaries). We also unpack key innovations from the book, including family-level change talk, family-level equipoise, motivational send-offs, and the risks of the “superfluous engagement trap.”

This conversation will be especially valuable for psychologists, social workers, counsellors, and health practitioners who use MI and want to deepen their work with families, as well as anyone interested in compassion-focused, evidence-based approaches to change.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:13 Meet Professor Doug Smith

00:32 Doug’s clinical and research background

01:12 Why Motivational Interviewing with families

01:49 What counts as “family work”?

03:40 Why MI becomes more complex in family systems

07:09 What MI with families actually looks like in practice

18:13 Why reflections matter most in MI

18:22 ROARS and re-ordering MI core skills

21:27 Family-level reflections

25:02 Navigating complexity in family systems

28:17 Teaching and training MI

30:45 Reflections as the engine of MI

33:00 Autonomy and differing family goals

34:07 Challenges in family counselling

38:30 Family-level equipoise

42:25 Change talk in family contexts

47:26 Engaging reluctant family members

49:55 Balancing engagement and planning

01:00:52 Motivational send-offs and ending well

01:04:06 The future of MI with families

Links:

Motivational Interviewing with Families by Douglas C. Smith (2025)

https://www.guilford.com/books/Motivational-Interviewing-with-Families/Douglas-Smith/9781462557615

Professor Doug Smith website with academic references

https://socialwork.illinois.edu/directory/profile/smithdc/

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Exploring Life’s Little Secrets and Compassion | Emma Waddington & Chris McCurry

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by psychologists, writers, and podcasters Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry, the voices behind the podcast Life’s Little Secrets.

Emma and Chris and I talk about how they first met and began working together, what drew them into collaboration, and how a shared curiosity about the inner lives of humans led to the creation of Life’s Little Secrets. We explore the cost of hiding our thoughts and feelings, the relief that can come from being heard, and the role compassion plays in helping us live with vulnerability rather than shame.

We also spend time talking about their work writing for children and families, including their ACT-based workbooks and story-driven books that help young people (and their parents) make sense of big emotions like anxiety, sadness, frustration, and disappointment. Throughout the conversation, Emma and Chris share wisdom drawn from therapy, writing, podcasting, and life — thoughtful, grounded, and deeply human.

This is a wide-ranging, reflective conversation about common humanity, emotional courage, and what can change when we feel understood rather than judged.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and welcome

01:46 How Emma and Chris first met and began working together

06:26 The privilege of psychological work and seeing our shared humanity

11:58 Why Life’s Little Secrets — and what we hide

19:15 The psychological cost of keeping things hidden

29:35 The power of being heard and meeting vulnerability with compassion

30:52 Introducing the ACT workbook series for children

31:57 Story-driven approaches to anxiety, sadness, and frustration

35:04 Big Issues for Little People: helping families navigate tough questions

39:31 Story, illustration, and empathy

40:31 Disappointment, big feelings, and making room for what is

42:07 Learning, growth, and being a lifelong student of humanity

45:37 Developing a compassionate relationship with ourselves

51:14 Final reflections and words of wisdom

Links:

For Dr Waddington’s contact, books, resources and trainings, go to her website:

https://www.dremmawaddington.com/

For Dr McCurry’s contact, books, resources and trainings, go to his website:

https://chrismccurrychildpsychologist.com/

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Beneath Coping: Modes, Vulnerability, and the Healthy Adult | Rob Brockman

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Rob Brockman, clinical psychologist, Schema Therapy practitioner, supervisor, and trainer.

This is not a beginner’s introduction to Schema Therapy. Instead, Rob and I take a deeper, more nuanced look at how Schema Therapy understands the mind through modes — the vulnerable, angry, detached, critical, and healthy states we move in and out of — and why differentiating these experiences matters clinically.

Rob unpacks how modes show up in the therapy room through behaviour, thoughts, felt sense, and motivation, and why understanding the function of anger, anxiety, and coping is so central to effective work. We explore how anger can take very different forms across modes — from unmet needs, to self-criticism, to protection, dominance, or complaint — and why working only with coping modes can inadvertently keep clients stuck.

A key theme throughout our conversation is the importance of getting beneath coping and protection to make contact with vulnerability, pain, and unmet needs — and how attunement, empathic confrontation, and limited reparenting help make that possible. Rob also reflects on the Healthy Adult mode, its role in regulating emotion, meeting needs, and setting limits, and where compassion naturally fits within this framework.

We then turn to integration. Drawing on his work in Contextual Schema Therapy, Rob shares how compassion-focused ideas and practices can be thoughtfully integrated into Schema Therapy — not as a separate model, but as skills that help strengthen the Healthy Adult and support healing from shame, guilt, and self-criticism.

If you’re a clinician curious about Schema Therapy, a therapist working with parts, modes, or multiplicity, or simply interested in how compassion can be embodied in deep, relational therapeutic work, I think you’ll really enjoy this one.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:39 Understanding Schema Therapy Modes

04:15 Modes in Practice: Recognizing and Working with Modes

12:18 Exploring Anger in Schema Therapy

22:52 Practical Applications and Challenges

32:49 Understanding the Root of Anger

33:33 Analyzing TV Show 'Run' for Psychological Insights

36:27 Exploring Personal Triggers and Emotional Responses

42:30 The Role of Healthy Adult Mode in Behavior Regulation

47:57 Integrating Compassion in Schema Therapy

57:17 Upcoming Trainings and Resources

Links:

Firstly that (Exhaustive) Mode Paper: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.763670/full

Live Schema Therapy Training Australia, New Zealand, and Bali: https://schematherapytraining.com/

Online Schema Therapy Training Platform: https://www.schematherapytrainingonline.com/

Schema Therapy Solution Course for Everyday Living: https://www.schematherapysolution.com/

Free What's the Schemata Podcast with Chris Hayes & Rob Brockman: https://schematherapytraining.com/podcast-whats-the-schemata

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Self-Neglect, Burnout, and a Compassionate Path to Thriving | Hayley Quinn

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this returning conversation on Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr Hayley D Quinn for a thoughtful and very grounded exploration of self-neglect, burnout, and what it really means to live with compassion.

Hayley is a former clinical psychologist, wellbeing coach, author, and host of the Welcome to Self® podcast. She’s also the past president of Compassionate Mind Australia, and her work sits at the heart of compassion science translated into everyday life.

We centre the conversation around Hayley’s upcoming book, From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion: A Compassionate Guide to Creating a Thriving Life (released 5 February 2026). Together, we unpack what self-neglect actually looks like in day-to-day life, why so many high-achieving and people-pleasing individuals fall into it, and how it quietly erodes wellbeing, relationships, and vitality over time.

We explore the three circles model, self-criticism, boundaries, values, sleep, and the micro-moments where compassionate action really counts. Hayley also shares openly about the personal journey of writing the book, and what it was like to live the very principles she was putting on the page.

This episode is for anyone who feels stretched, depleted, or stuck in patterns of putting themselves last — and who wants a kinder, more sustainable way forward.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:37 Discussing the New Book: From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion

02:00 Understanding Self-Neglect

02:34 Micro Moments of Self-Neglect

04:15 Impact of Self-Neglect on Relationships and Wellbeing

05:33 Burnout Prevention and Compassionate Action

06:56 Exploring the Three Circles Model

11:03 Self-Criticism and Its Origins

13:44 Getting to Know Yourself: Practical Steps

20:39 Reconnecting with Values and Hopes

26:24 The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

28:51 Navigating Relationship Boundaries

29:45 Building Self-Trust Through Boundaries

30:36 The Importance of Sleep and Self-Care

35:08 Compassion and Making Lasting Changes

40:27 Writing the Book: From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion

48:16 Practical Steps for Self-Compassion

52:45 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Links:

From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion: A compassionate guide to creating a thriving life.

https://drhayleydquinn.com/product/book/

AVAILABLE NOW FOR PRE-ORDER

Publishing 6 February 2026

Hayley’s website: https://drhayleydquinn.com/

Follow Hayley on Instagram: @drhayleydquinn

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Bend, Don’t Break: The Power of Psychological Flexibility | Ross G. White

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Professor Ross G. White — clinical psychologist, researcher, and author of The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive. Together, we explore what it really means to live well in high-pressure, high-performance cultures, and why psychological flexibility may be one of the most important skills for thriving rather than burning out.

Ross and I begin by unpacking the hidden costs of high achievement — including perfectionism, relentless striving, and shame-based self-criticism — alongside the genuine rewards that keep us pushing forward. From there, we explore how psychological flexibility helps us hold strong intentions without becoming rigidly attached to outcomes, allowing us to pursue meaningful goals while protecting our wellbeing.

We then dive into the core framework of The Tree That Bends, using the metaphor of a tree to bring psychological flexibility to life. Ross explains the three key elements — being Anchored, Willing, and Empowered — and how values, mindfulness, and willingness to meet difficult thoughts and emotions can guide us towards more workable, compassionate ways of living.

Later in the conversation, we explore the Get–Threat–Reset modes, drawing parallels with compassion science and the realities of modern life. Ross shares practical ways to cultivate reset — through compassion, gratitude, wonder, and courageous life choices — and why reset is essential for long-term flourishing.

We finish by turning our attention to men, masculinity, self-compassion, and psychological flexibility. Ross speaks powerfully about the cultural pressures men face around performance and emotional restraint, and how self-compassion can be reframed not as weakness, but as strength turned inward — a vital resource for living fuller, kinder, and more connected lives.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Psychological Flexibility

00:37 Meet Professor Ross G. White

01:14 High Achievement and Its Hidden Costs

03:41 Perfectionism, Shame, and Burnout

08:06 What Is Psychological Flexibility?

08:59 Strong Intention, Light Attachment

19:23 The Tree That Bends Metaphor

20:48 Anchored, Willing, Empowered

25:31 Discovering Personal Values

28:34 Values, Roles, and Context

29:21 Emotional Distress and What It Points To

30:36 Practical Ways to Identify Values

31:30 Willingness and Meeting Discomfort

32:07 The Media Outlet Analogy

33:21 The Roving Reporter Exercise

36:42 Empowerment, Purpose, and Action

43:49 Reset Mode and the Tree Metaphor

48:10 Men, Masculinity, and Self-Compassion

53:02 Where to Find Ross and Final Reflections

Links:

The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive

https://www.amazon.com.au/Tree-That-Bends-Flexible-Thrive/dp/1529430003

Ross’s website: https://www.rossgwhite.com/

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When Compassion Comes Alive in Groups | Derek Griner

Fri, 19 Dec 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In the final guest interview of 2025, I’m joined by someone whose work has profoundly shaped the way we think about compassion, connection, and healing in groups: Dr Derek Griner, Clinical Professor and Associate Training Director in Counseling Psychology at Brigham Young University.

Derek is one of the leading voices in developing Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) for groups, co-authoring the CFT Participant Workbook and Clinician Guide, contributing major research and book chapters, and recently developing a new process-oriented CFT group approach alongside Professor Paul Gilbert during his sabbatical in the UK.

In this conversation, Derek and I explore the heart of compassion-focused group psychotherapy — where connection, courage, curiosity, and vulnerability become powerful agents of change. We talk about why groups offer something unique that individual therapy can’t, how the “three flows” of compassion come alive between people, and what it looks like when a facilitator stays flexible enough to follow the “oasis moments” that emerge in real time.

Derek shares rich examples from his clinical work, including a moving story about misnaming a group member and how that moment — full of embarrassment, apology, courage, and compassion — became a profound teaching point for the whole group. We also dive into cultural adaptation, therapist characteristics, compassionate composure, and the future of CFT groups across cultures and contexts.

It’s a beautiful, thoughtful, and fitting way to close out the year. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Year in Review

00:52 Introducing Dr. Derek Griner

03:09 Dr. Griner's Journey into Group Therapy

06:25 The Power of Connection in Group Therapy

08:08 Compassion Focused Therapy in Groups

11:44 The Role of Flexibility in Group Therapy

18:52 Challenges and Opportunities in Group Therapy

24:30 Real-Life Examples and Insights

27:48 Exploring CFT Principles in Real-Life Scenarios

28:58 The Power of Apology and Forgiveness in Therapy

31:05 Therapist Vulnerability and Authentic Connection

34:19 The Role of Therapist Characteristics

39:12 Recognizing Compassionate Connection in Groups

45:19 Cultural Adaptation in CFT

52:42 The Future of Compassion Focused Therapy for Groups

56:26 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

Links:

For Dr Griner’s contact, books, resources and trainings, go to his page on the BYU website:

https://caps.byu.edu/directory/derek-griner

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You Are Not Your Trauma: Healing with ACT and Compassion | Robyn Walser

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 07:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by someone whose work I’ve admired from afar for a very long time – Dr Robyn D. Walser.

Robyn is a clinical psychologist, Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley, Director of Research at Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinical Services, and on staff at the National Center for PTSD at the VA Palo Alto Health Care System. She is internationally recognised for her work in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), trauma, moral injury, and values-based living, and is co-author of influential ACT texts such as Learning ACT and The Heart of ACT.

In our conversation we explore her powerful new book, You Are Not Your Trauma, co-authored with Darrah Westrup. We talk about the core message behind the title – that we are much more than the worst things that have happened to us – and how ACT helps people relate differently to painful memories, emotions, and self-stories.

Robyn walks us through the three stages of healing outlined in the book:

. building safety, grounding, and skills,

. turning toward traumatic experiences using exposure-based processes in an ACT-consistent way, and

. reconnecting with values, meaning, and joy to build a life worth living.

We also explore how self-compassion and the therapist’s compassionate presence can gently soften shame and self-blame, especially in complex trauma.

Later in the episode, Robyn reflects on her decades of work with women who have experienced violence, oppression, and systemic disadvantage, including women veterans. We then turn to her new training, Women Rising, which focuses on understanding women’s suffering through a systemic lens, supporting agency and courage, and helping women separate societal expectations from their own deeply held values.

It was an honour to sit with Robyn and hear her wisdom, courage, and humanity in the face of profound suffering. I hope this conversation offers you validation, hope, and some practical ways of thinking about healing from trauma and moving toward a more meaningful life.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Robin Walzer

01:04 Discussing 'You Are Not Your Trauma'

02:12 Understanding Trauma and Identity

04:13 The Role of Language and Experience

07:44 Psychological Flexibility and Identity

11:28 Stages of Healing in Trauma

12:05 Building Safety and Grounding

24:42 The Importance of Compassion in Therapy

30:01 Understanding Self-Compassion in Trauma

30:52 Defining Suffering and Avoidance

33:41 Exposure Therapy and Habituation

37:04 Addressing Self-Blame and Shame

41:39 Stage Three: Flourishing and Finding Meaning

45:42 Empowering Women and Addressing Violence

51:59 Concluding Thoughts and Future Work

Links:

For Dr Wasler’s contact, books, resources and trainings, go to her website: https://robynwalser.com/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Why We Resist Change And How Compassion Helps | Patrick Berthiaume

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Have you ever felt torn between a part of you that wants to change and a part that absolutely doesn’t? Or felt “held hostage” by a critical inner voice telling you what you should be doing? In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with my dear friend and motivational interviewing trainer, Patrick Berthiaume, to explore ambivalence, discord, and how compassion can transform both our relationships and our inner lives.

Patrick is a French Canadian from Montreal with a background in sexology, who spent years working at the coalface of human suffering – alongside people experiencing homelessness, addictions, and involvement in sex work. Those years taught him about humility, vulnerability, dignity, and what it really means to offer a genuinely helpful, non-judgemental conversation.

Together we explore:

Why people often expect to be judged and controlled when they ask for help
The MI idea of discord in the client–clinician relationship, and how pushing for change can trigger resistance
Ambivalence as a normal part of being human – and why the first ambivalence is often, “Do I even dare to talk about this?”
How internal discord shows up as different “parts” arguing with each other – including the harsh, self-critical part that wants us to “do better”
The role of empathy, autonomy support, humility and vulnerability in creating a safe space for real change
How compassion helps us slow down, honour the intention behind even unhelpful behaviours, and soften the inner battles we fight with ourselves

Patrick also reflects on his own journey from a wide-eyed country boy arriving in Montreal, to walking side by side with people who are often stigmatised as “the worst of society”, and how those relationships became his greatest teachers of compassion.

If you’re interested in motivational interviewing, Compassion Focused Therapy, addictions, or simply understanding your own mixed feelings and self-criticism a little more kindly, I think you’ll find this a rich and very human conversation.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Patrick Berthiaume

01:32 Patrick's Early Work and Lessons Learned

12:45 Understanding Ambivalence and Empathy

20:01 The Role of Vulnerability and Humility

33:42 Compassion in Practice

46:50 Internal Ambivalence and Self-Compassion

01:06:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Patrick Berthiaume's website:

https://perspectivehumaine.com/

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Self-Criticism’s Hidden Role And Why Compassion Matters | Mary Welford

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Join me on Compassion in a T-Shirt as I sit down with clinical psychologist, author, and CFT pioneer Dr Mary Welford for a rich and surprising conversation about self-criticism — what it is, why we do it, and the unexpected functions it serves.

Mary reflects on her early journey into Compassion Focused Therapy, including the profound influence of Professor Paul Gilbert’s work on shame and self-criticism, and her experiences during the formative years of the Compassionate Mind Foundation. We explore the challenges she faced in clinical practice, the breakthroughs that shaped her approach, and how CFT evolved into what it is today.

In this episode, Mary also shares practical, compassionate ways to work with the inner critic, insights from working with diverse populations — from young people to elite athletes — and the small, grounded practices that sustain her in daily life. Whether you're a therapist, a student, or simply someone trying to soften the harshness within, this conversation offers warmth, wisdom, and plenty to take away.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Self-Criticism

00:26 Meet Dr Mary Welford

01:42 Early Encounters with CFT

02:27 Challenges in Clinical Practice

06:13 Discovering Compassion-Focused Therapy

09:23 The Impact of CFT on Clinical Work

21:00 Personal Reflections on Self-Criticism

29:29 The Role of Compassion in Therapy

35:06 Exploring Self-Criticism and Shame

35:32 Personal Reflections on Shame and Social Performance

38:28 Changing Relationship with Self-Criticism

40:05 Working with Elite Athletes

42:58 Coaching and Self-Criticism in Sports

45:36 Psychological Flexibility and Self-Compassion

53:34 Personal Practices for Compassion

01:03:37 Future Projects and Personal Balance

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IFS Explained: Compassion, Parts, and the Self | Megan Buys

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 07:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Sydney-based psychotherapist Megan Buys to explore the rich and evolving world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. Megan recently published a landmark paper, Exploring the Evidence for Internal Family Systems Therapy: A Scoping Review of Current Research, Gaps, and Future Directions, in Clinical Psychologist—the first comprehensive synthesis of the IFS evidence base.

We talk about what drew her to IFS, the model’s theoretical foundations, and the central role of compassion and the “Self” in helping clients understand, relate to, and heal their internal systems. Megan also shares insights from her research on using IFS for premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD), the importance of rigorous research for wider clinical acceptance, and why IFS continues to resonate with so many people seeking deeper, kinder ways of understanding themselves.

Whether you’re a therapist, a student, or simply curious about personal growth and emotional wellbeing, this conversation offers a thoughtful and accessible look at one of today’s most influential therapeutic models.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:32 Meet Megan Buys: Exploring Internal Family Systems

01:39 Megan's Journey with IFS

05:15 The Role of Self and Compassion in IFS

07:00 Megan's Professional Path and IFS Integration

12:54 Challenges and Acceptance of IFS in Therapy

18:52 Understanding Internal Family Systems Theory

21:37 Practical Examples of IFS in Action

25:06 Creative Processes in IFS Therapy

29:12 Exploring Vulnerability and Exhaustion

29:34 Art Therapy and Imagery in Therapy

30:16 Creating a Safe Space for Parts

33:23 The Role of Self in Therapy

37:31 Cultivating Compassion and Self-Awareness

48:14 The Importance of Research in IFS

52:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Links:

Exploring the evidence for Internal Family Systems therapy: a scoping review of current research, gaps, and future directions (Buys, 2025)

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/13284207.2025.2533127

No Bad Parts (Schwartz, 2024)

https://www.amazon.com.au/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1785045113/

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How Compassion Can Save Your Relationship | Michelle Becker

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Michelle Becker, a licensed marriage and family therapist, international teacher, and co-founder of the Wise Compassion Program. Michelle shares her remarkable journey from certified public accountant to compassion-focused therapist, and how that path led her to create the groundbreaking Compassion for Couples program.

We explore how compassion can transform relationships — from understanding the three-circle model of emotion regulation developed by Paul Gilbert, to practical dyadic exercises that help couples connect more deeply and respond to conflict with care. Michelle offers heartfelt insights and powerful examples of how cultivating self-compassion and partner compassion can heal, strengthen, and sustain love.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

01:23 Michelle Becker’s Journey to Compassion

03:47 The Importance of Healthy Relationships

06:06 Understanding Compassion in Relationships

07:51 Self-Compassion and Partner Compassion

09:57 Threat System in Relationships

20:17 Drive System and Relationship Dynamics

28:54 Exploring Dyadic Practices for Couples

29:24 Powerful Exercises to Understand Patterns

32:22 Loving Kindness Practice

33:26 Customising Compassionate Practices

38:12 Challenges in Receiving Compassion

42:47 Communicating Needs in Relationships

46:48 A Real-Life Example of Compassion in Action

51:25 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Links:

Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection (Becker, 2023)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassion-Couples-Building-Skills-Connection/dp/1462545157

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Do Men Really Need Therapy? Let’s Talk About It | Audra Horney

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode, I sit down with Dr Audra Horney, a licensed psychologist from Arizona, USA, who specialises in men’s mental health. Audra brings a refreshing mix of humour, honesty, and deep compassion to her work, helping men feel that therapy is a place where they truly belong.

We explore how to make therapy relevant, comfortable, and safe for men — and what happens when men start to connect with their emotions rather than avoid them. Audra shares her journey into specialising in men’s mental health, how she builds trust through authenticity, and why laughter can be such a powerful therapeutic tool.

Together, we dive into big questions around self-compassion, emotional expression, and self-criticism, and look at how approaches like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychoeducation can support men in navigating their inner world with greater understanding and courage.

It’s a conversation about expanding what masculinity can mean — one that invites men to show up with both strength and softness.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Audra Horney

01:14 The Importance of Men’s Mental Health

03:25 Challenges Men Face in Therapy

05:17 Creating a Safe Space for Men

09:26 Authenticity in Therapy

15:25 Humour and Rapport Building

18:59 Compassion and Self-Compassion

26:30 Emotional Vocabulary and Expression

29:53 Understanding Emotions in Men

31:03 The Role of Shame in Emotional Expression

35:23 Navigating Self-Criticism

46:22 The Importance of Self-Compassion

48:02 Expanding Masculinity

52:02 Upcoming Projects and Podcast

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Dr Audra Horney's website (and links to socials)

https://www.moderntherapyaz.com/

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EFT Tapping for Self-Compassion and Healing | Carol Look

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What if healing emotional pain could start with the simple act of tapping?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Carol Look, a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and pioneering EFT Master, for an inspiring conversation about Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), psychotherapy, and gratitude. Carol shares her journey from traditional psychotherapy to discovering the transformative power of EFT.

We talk about The Yes Code and her new book Yes, Thank You, and how tapping combined with gratitude can help release emotional blocks, address self-sabotage, and bring about profound healing. Together we explore how EFT and gratitude can unlock self-compassion, foster resilience, and open the door to lasting change.

With practical demonstrations and personal insights, this is a must-watch for anyone interested in holistic healing, tapping, and emotional freedom.

Links:

Carol Look's website

https://www.carollook.com/

Carol's new book Yes, Thank You

https://www.carollook.com/yesthankyou/

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Carol Look and EFT

00:53 Discovering EFT: A Personal Journey

02:49 The Power of Tapping: Mechanisms and Benefits

09:42 Introducing the YES Code

16:29 Self-Compassion and Overcoming Blocks

26:23 Integrating Gratitude with Problem-Focused Approaches

27:39 The Power of Tapping and Gratitude Combined

27:58 Scientific Research Supporting Tapping and Gratitude

29:07 Transformative Effects of Gratitude and Tapping

32:24 Addressing PTSD and Deep-Seated Wounds

42:18 Practical Tapping and Gratitude Exercise

48:46 Choosing Joy and Emotional Freedom

50:30 Upcoming Workshops and Future Plans

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Harm Reduction or Tough Love? Why Compassion Works | Dee-Dee Stout

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What if compassion, not punishment, was at the heart of how we respond to drug use?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr. Stan Steindl welcomes Dee-Dee Stout, a renowned counselor, educator, and leading advocate for harm reduction. Dee-Dee discusses her groundbreaking book Coming to Harm Reduction Kicking and Screaming, which shares powerful stories of people who use drugs and the families who support them.

This conversation explores harm reduction, motivational interviewing, and the role of compassion, empathy, and respect in treatment. We look at the future of harm reduction, challenge myths and misconceptions, and highlight how radical love and acceptance can transform addiction recovery and social justice.

Links:

Dee-Dee Stout's website

https://www.deedeestoutconsulting.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:54 Exploring the Book: Coming to Harm Reduction Kicking and Screaming

03:05 Dee-Dee Stout's Journey into Harm Reduction

06:14 The Power of Radical Love and Acceptance

08:47 Understanding Harm Reduction and Its Impact

16:36 The Role of Compassion in Therapy

21:52 Defining Harm Reduction and Its Applications

28:25 Creative Process of Harm Reduction

29:35 Challenges and Stakeholders in Harm Reduction

30:20 Effectiveness of Self-Selected Goals

31:14 Evolution of Harm Reduction Policies

34:06 Misconceptions and Myths about Harm Reduction

36:14 Harm Reduction Psychotherapy as Treatment

46:29 Personal Stories and Cultural Change

55:27 Future of Harm Reduction

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Are You Feeling Too Much? The Hidden Cost of Empathy at Work | Tanya Cooper

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Is your empathy helping you—or wearing you down?

If you’re in a helping profession, this conversation will speak to your heart and your nervous system.

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr. Stan Steindl speaks with Tanya Cooper, a Melbourne-based clinical psychologist, Motivational Interviewing trainer, and longtime member of MINT. With over 25 years of experience, Tanya offers profound insights into the emotional cost of care work and how to sustain compassion without burning out.

Drawing from her personal journey during Melbourne’s intense lockdowns and the work of thinkers like Jamil Zaki, Babette Rothschild, and Kristin Neff, Tanya explores the concept of an "empathy ecosystem"—and how understanding the balance between experience sharing, cognitive empathy, and compassion can help us stay grounded, regulated, and truly helpful.

Whether you’re a therapist, social worker, nurse, teacher, or carer, this conversation is packed with wisdom, warmth, and practical strategies to protect your empathy and nurture your wellbeing.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:06 Meet Tanya Cooper: A Deep Dive into Empathy

01:44 The Emotional Toll of Being a Psychologist

02:52 Impact of the Pandemic on Mental Health

04:11 Navigating Empathy During Lockdown

07:30 The Concept of an Empathy Ecosystem

18:45 Personal Stories and Professional Insights

26:27 Exploring the Three Modes of Empathy

26:50 Empathy in Competitive and Compassionate Contexts

28:31 Individual Differences in Empathy

29:55 Empathy and the Pandemic

38:44 Self-Care and Regulation During Crisis

41:36 The Power of Small Gestures

48:20 Taking in the Good

52:02 Final Reflections on Empathy and Self-Care

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What Decades of Parenting Stories Taught Me About Humanity | Shevonne Hunt

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What if parenting wasn’t just about raising children—but also about becoming more human yourself?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with Shevonne Hunt—presenter, producer, writer, and longtime champion of human stories. Shevonne shares her journey from radio and Kinderling Conversation to creating the podcast A Better World Blueprint, a show that offers hope, insight, and inspiration in a time when the world can feel overwhelming.

We talk about the emotional challenges of parenting, the role of compassion in family and community life, and what she’s learned from years of interviewing parents, experts, and changemakers. Shevonne offers wisdom on self-care, resilience, vulnerability, and how being helpful at the coalface of life can lead to deep meaning and joy.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:52 Shevonne Hunt's Journey into Parenting Media

01:36 The Serendipitous Path to Kinderling Kids Radio

06:29 The Role of Compassion and Vulnerability

10:18 Lessons from Parenting Experts

16:47 The Pressure and Self-Criticism in Parenting

22:26 Introducing A Better World Blueprint

24:29 Finding Purpose and Inspiration

31:58 Self-Care and Connection in Challenging Work

36:36 The Joy of Helping Others

39:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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How to Have Compassionate Conversations That Heal | Stephen Andrew

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What does it take to have a truly compassionate conversation—one that heals, connects, and even bridges deep divides?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I have the great pleasure of speaking with Stephen Andrew—a seasoned therapist, trainer, storyteller, and the warm, wise voice behind the podcast Conversations in Compassion. Based in Portland, Maine, Stephen has spent decades working with people experiencing addiction, mental illness, and trauma, and he brings a deeply compassionate lens to everything he does.

Together, we explore what makes a conversation truly compassionate—from the inner skills we cultivate, to the shared space we create between us. Stephen shares his concept of the Tai Chi of Empathy, and we talk about the roles of mindfulness, radical humility, and presence in healing relationships. We also look at how compassion can guide us through difficult conversations, even across divides, and why things like trust, silence, and heartfelt apologies matter more than ever.

This conversation is full of insight, humour, and heart—and I hope it brings something meaningful to you too.

Links:

Stephen Andrew website

https://www.hetimaine.org/

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

01:03 Welcoming Stephen Andrew

01:26 Defining Compassionate Conversations

04:24 The Tai Chi of Empathy

06:33 Practicing Radical Humility

13:36 The Courage to Embrace Mystery

17:52 Empathy as a Healing Practice

21:19 Understanding Trauma Injuries

30:48 The Power of Compassion and Trust

32:00 Understanding Shame, Isolation, and Fear

33:53 Creating a Safe and Secure Environment

35:16 The Role of Compassion in Healing

40:32 Navigating Disagreements with Empathy

48:03 The Importance of Silence and Reflection

55:48 Practical Steps for Compassionate Conversations

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What Psychological Safety Really Means | Majella Greene

Sat, 27 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1000

What if the greatest act of courage in a group is creating the psychological safety for all to have a voice?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Majella Greene—social worker, therapist, trainer, and thought leader in psychological safety. We explore what it really means to create spaces where people can show up authentically, speak openly, and feel safe enough to take risks, make mistakes, and connect with others.

From the impact of power dynamics to the importance of cultural humility, Majella shares powerful insights into what makes safety not just structural, but felt. We talk about compassion, vulnerability, leadership, and even beekeeping—as a surprising but meaningful metaphor for safe and thriving communities.

It was a rich and inspiring conversation about the courage to show up, and how we can co-create environments where everyone has a voice.

Learn more about Majella’s work: https://majellagreene.co.uk/

Watch the webinar with Majella, Bill Miller, Denise Ernst & myself: https://mint.thinkific.com/products/live_events/CompassionSafetyHope

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:06 Meet Majella Greene: A Thought Leader in Psychological Safety

01:34 The Concept of Psychological Safety

04:46 Internal and Collective Responsibility

09:04 Cues for a Psychologically Safe Environment

13:43 Belonging Without Fitting In

16:59 Compassion and Authenticity

24:34 The Importance of Repair

30:12 Difficult Conversations in Leadership

34:19 The Importance of Difficult Conversations

34:58 Addressing Small Issues in Psychological Safety

37:23 Beekeeping as a Metaphor for Psychological Safety

43:55 The Power of Asking "What Do You Want?”

47:38 Creating Psychological Safety: Aspirations and Realities

57:28 Practical Steps for Self-Compassion and Safety

58:52 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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How to Embody Mindfulness and Compassion | Rebecca Crane

Sat, 20 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1000

What does it really mean to teach mindfulness with integrity, compassion, and care?

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Professor Rebecca Crane — a true pioneer in the field of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) and director of the Centre for Mindfulness Research and Practice at Bangor University. Together, we explore the heart of MBCT: where it came from, what makes it distinctive, and how it continues to evolve in response to the complex challenges of our times.

From the subtle art of teacher embodiment, to supporting inclusivity and social justice in mindfulness spaces, Rebecca offers profound insights into how mindfulness can transform both individuals and systems — including our approach to mental health, equity, and even the climate crisis.

Whether you’re a seasoned mindfulness teacher or simply curious about how these practices can foster personal and collective well-being, this conversation is full of wisdom, warmth, and hope.

Books by Rebecca Crane:

Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy: Distinctive Features (2nd ed):

https://www.routledge.com/Mindfulness-Based-Cognitive-Therapy-Distinctive-Features/Crane/p/book/9781138671035

Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy with People at Risk of Suicide:

https://global.oup.com/academic/product/mindfulness-based-cognitive-therapy-with-people-at-risk-of-suicide-9780199558672

Essential Resources for Mindfulness Teachers:

https://www.routledge.com/Essential-Resources-for-Mindfulness-Teachers/Crane-Karunavira-Griffith/p/book/9780367363214

Centre for Mindfulness Research and Practice at Bangor University:

https://www.bangor.ac.uk/mindfulness

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Mindfulness and Guest Speaker

01:41 Exploring Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT)

10:04 The Role of Compassion in Mindfulness

15:05 Embodiment and Teaching Mindfulness

25:03 Challenges and Adaptations in Mindfulness Training

38:51 Inclusivity and Systemic Issues in Mindfulness

43:54 Mindfulness in Addressing Global Challenges

53:13 Conclusion and Future Directions

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Can We Stop Violence with Compassion? | Ken McMaster

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Can we hold people accountable and meet them with compassion?

In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with my friend and colleague Ken McMaster, a social worker, trainer, author, and founder of HMA in Aotearoa New Zealand. Ken has spent over four decades working at the frontline of domestic and family violence intervention, and brings a wealth of insight into how people change — and what it takes to truly support that change.

We explore the complex relationship between compassion and accountability, the role of shame and trauma in harmful behaviours, and the importance of emotional regulation and self-compassion in the journey towards safer, healthier relationships. Ken shares both personal and professional reflections on what sustains him in this difficult work — and how we can keep showing up with care, even when the work is hard.

Whether you’re a practitioner, a policymaker, or someone curious about the capacity for change, I hope this conversation offers something meaningful.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:17 Meet Ken McMaster: A Journey in Social Work

01:24 Early Career and Foundational Experiences

03:55 Addressing Violence: Professional and Personal Insights

07:11 The Role of Compassion in Addressing Harmful Behaviours

14:42 Understanding and Managing Shame

17:28 Trauma, Adaptation, and Behaviour Change

22:16 Self-Compassion and Creating New Narratives

26:54 Addressing Youth Abusive Practices

28:19 The Role of Anger in Violence

30:58 The Importance of Emotional Regulation

34:40 Impact of Engaged Fathers

38:27 Challenges and Progress in Intervention Programs

46:10 Support for Professionals in the Field

49:35 Concluding Thoughts on Compassion and Engagement

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You can find out more about Ken’s work at hma.co.nz

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Eating Disorder Recovery: Brain, Body, Soul | Warren Ward and Lexi Crouch

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with psychiatrist Dr Warren Ward and clinical nutritionist and recovery coach Lexi Crouch—co-authors of the new book Renourish, a compassionate, three-phase guide to eating disorder recovery.

Together, they explore the brain, body, and soul of recovery:

. Dr Ward unpacks the neuroscience of brain starvation, the cultural roots of the eating disorder epidemic, and the importance of full renourishment.

. Lexi shares her powerful lived experience of 15 years with anorexia, offering insight, hope, and a deeply personal perspective on recovery.

This conversation blends science and story, offering wisdom, practical guidance, and a message that recovery is not only possible, but profoundly meaningful.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:17 Meet the Experts: Dr Warren Ward and Lexi Crouch

01:48 The Epidemic of Eating Disorders

03:14 Cultural Influences and Media Impact

04:42 The Role of Brain Starvation

10:10 Personal Stories and Recovery Insights

19:28 The Minnesota Semi-Starvation Study

26:52 Redefining Health and Wellness

30:17 Understanding Health Beyond Weight

31:49 The Myth of Weight and Health

32:37 Health at Every Size Approach

34:15 The Renourish Model for Recovery

34:51 The Importance of Brain Renourishment

35:15 Refriending the Body

37:08 Renourishing the Soul

38:50 Personal Journey and Self-Compassion

42:47 The Role of Yoga in Recovery

51:13 The Power of Lived Experience

55:53 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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LINKS:

Renourish: A complete and compassionate guide to recovery from eating disorders (Ward & Crouch, 2025)

https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781761773310/

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Why Tough Love Doesn’t Work for Hoarding | Chia-Ying Chou

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr. Stan Steindl sits down with Dr. Chia-Ying Chou, a UCSF-trained psychologist and leading specialist in hoarding and cluttering. Chia-Ying combines Compassion Focused Therapy with years of clinical and research expertise to help people move beyond shame, self-criticism, and avoidance.

Together, we explore:

. What hoarding really is — beyond just “too much stuff.”

. The emotional roots of hoarding, including shame and fear.

. How Compassionate Mind Training (CMT) can build the courage and inner strength needed to face these challenges.

. Practical skills and strategies for creating a kinder, more supportive relationship with ourselves.

Chia-Ying also shares details of her upcoming CMT workshops, offering hope and practical guidance for anyone struggling with clutter, or supporting a loved one who is.

✨ If you’ve ever wondered how compassion can transform the way we relate to ourselves and our possessions, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Compassion in a T-Shirt

01:00 Understanding Hoarding: Beyond the Clutter

02:25 The Emotional Roots of Hoarding

10:41 Compassionate Mind Training for Hoarding

18:01 The Role of Drive and Soothing Systems

28:39 Challenges and Misconceptions in Self-Compassion

41:25 Workshop Details and Final Thoughts

Links:

Dr. Chia-Ying Chou at The San Francisco Center for Compassion-Focused Therapies

https://www.sfcompassion.com/

Compassionate Mind Training for Hoarding

https://sfcompassion.regfox.com/compassionate-mind-training-for-hoarding

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Why Compassionate Leaders Succeed | Gabriela Jones & Alexandra Thomas

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What if the most powerful question a leader could ask was: “How can I best be helpful?”

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Gabriela Jones and Alexandra Thomas, co-authors of the compelling new book Compassion-Focused Leadership. Nominated for HR Book of the Year in Sweden, their work explores how compassion—defined as empathy in action—can transform leadership, organisations, and the humans within them.

Together, we dive into the core principles of compassion-focused leadership, from the evolutionary science of our emotional brains, to the three flows of compassion, to the importance of building psychological safety and inclusion in the workplace. Gabriela and Alexandra bring both warmth and wisdom, blending personal stories with practical strategies that leaders at all levels can use.

We talk about power dynamics, burnout, self-compassion, fierce compassion, and the everyday moments where leaders can choose to pause, reflect, and act with courage and kindness. Their message is clear: compassion isn’t soft—it’s strong, strategic, and sorely needed in the modern workplace.

Whether you're leading others, being led, or leading yourself, this conversation is for you.

Watch now—and ask yourself: How can I best be helpful?

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassionate Leadership

00:16 Meet the Authors: Gabriela Jones and Alexandra Thomas

01:31 The Heartbeat of Compassionate Leadership

01:59 Gabriela's Journey: Compassion in Adversity

07:58 The Three Flows of Compassion

13:02 Compassion Pays Off: Organisational Benefits

19:42 Evolutionary Perspective on Leadership

24:29 Balancing the Three Emotion Regulation Systems

34:11 The Impact of Self-Judgment in Leadership

34:53 Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices

36:29 Balancing Feedback and Compassion

39:41 Developing Self-Compassion in Leadership

43:39 Creating Inclusive and Compassionate Workplaces

48:02 Compassionate Organisational Architecture

54:55 Daily Practices for Compassionate Leadership

01:00:54 Final Thoughts on Compassionate Leadership

LINKS:

Alexandra Thomas:

https://www.creativecompassion.se/english/

Gabriela Jones:

https://www.psykologbyranjones.se/om-oss/

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The Secret Ingredient to a Meaningful Life | Jenna LeJeune

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What does it mean to live a good life—and how do we find our way there, even through pain?

In this deeply thoughtful and delightfully down-to-earth conversation, I’m joined by clinical psychologist, ACT trainer, and author Dr. Jenna LeJeune, co-author of Values in Therapy.

Together, we explore how reconnecting with our values—those freely chosen ways of being—can guide us toward a life that truly matters.

We talk about:

. What values really are (hint: they’re not just nouns like “family” or “work”)

. Why pain can be a compass, not just a burden

. How psychological flexibility helps us move towards what matters, even when life gets hard

. Creative ways to uncover your values (including a very curious metaphor: becoming a truffle dog)

. The barriers that pull us off course—and how to come back, gently

. Where compassion fits in this values-based way of living

Whether you're a therapist, a fellow human navigating life’s complexity, or someone curious about how to live more meaningfully, this conversation offers warmth, wisdom, and practical insight.

What would a well-lived life look like for you? And… could you sniff it out like a truffle dog? Watch now and let us know your values-based takeaway in the comments.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Jenna Lejeune

01:17 Understanding Values in Therapy

04:08 The Role of Values in Living a Good Life

08:13 Navigating Life with Psychological Flexibility

12:21 Discovering and Living Your Values

26:08 The Intersection of Values and Pain

26:29 Exploring Pain and Values in Therapy

29:49 The Role of Pain in Values-Based Living

31:17 Navigating Barriers to Values-Based Living

36:00 Living Authentically in Different Contexts

42:00 The Importance of Supportive Relationships

44:38 Therapist's Approach to Values-Based Practice

48:16 Compassion and Values in Therapy

51:41 Concluding Thoughts on Values and Compassion

LINKS:

Values in Therapy: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Life (LeJuene & Luoma, 2019)

https://www.newharbinger.com/9781684033225/values-in-therapy/?srsltid=AfmBOorvPoGNWh1y_vwPgGvPNFJVm26UvGLftDZ50blFZegn7UAy5KQV

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https://portlandpsychotherapy.com/jenna-lejeune-ph-d/

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Midlife, Burnout and Coming Home to Yourself | Shannon Swales

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this heartfelt and insightful episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined once again by Clinical Psychologist, writer, and podcast host Shannon A Swales. Shannon is the founder of Burnout Psychology Support, host of the Midlife Reclaimed podcast, and author of Nothing Left to Give: A Psychologist’s Path Back from Burnout.

Shannon first appeared on the channel on 15 July 2023, where she shared her own journey through burnout and recovery. This time, she returns to share her clinical insights and compassionate perspective on helping midlife women navigate burnout, life transitions, and the quiet disconnection so many feel.

Together, we explore:

. The complex interplay between burnout, perimenopause, identity shifts, and cumulative life stress

. The deeper psychological and systemic roots of burnout

. How compassion—especially self-compassion—can be a powerful force for healing and recovery

. Ways to reconnect with the self through gentle, internal work

. The importance of balancing ambition, wellbeing, and authenticity in midlife

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

01:31 Understanding Midlife Burnout

01:54 The Impact of Perimenopause and Menopause

02:51 Existential Questions and Life Transitions

03:47 Cumulative Effects and Behavioral Patterns

07:19 Systemic Factors and Workplace Burnout

12:48 Reconnecting with Self through Therapy

21:03 Internal Work and External Changes

23:31 Balancing Career Aspirations and Health

29:06 Balancing Priorities and Self-Safety

30:24 The Three Circles of Compassion

30:55 Introducing Self-Compassion

33:33 Challenges in Practicing Self-Compassion

37:44 Fierce vs. Tender Self-Compassion

43:47 Befriending Burnout

50:30 Reconnecting with Self

52:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Learn more about Shannon’s work:

Website: https://www.burnoutpsychologysupport.com

Podcast: https://www.burnoutpsychologysupport.com/podcast

Book: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0CJXBMJD9

Blog: https://www.burnoutpsychologysupport.com/blog

Community: https://midlife-reclaimed.mn.co

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How Compassion Can Transform Schools | With Ashley Seidel Potvin

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I had the great pleasure of speaking with Dr Ashley Seidel Potvin—educator, researcher, and lead author of the truly important book Creating Compassionate Change in School Communities: Leading Together to Address Everyday Suffering in Schools.

Ashley brings such depth and heart to this conversation, drawing on her work at the Renée Crown Wellness Institute and years of collaboration with educators and researchers. We explored what it really takes to shift school culture—from the deeply personal to the systems-level—and how compassion and dignity can be nurtured in even the most complex school environments.

Together, we touched on:

. How pausing and attuning to our inner experience lays the foundation for compassion

. The everyday forms of suffering educators and students face

. The difference between empathy and compassion (and how to avoid empathic distress)

. Why self-compassion is a powerful preparation for justice-oriented action

. How to lead for compassionate change and see the system more clearly

. The power of building “compassionate personas” and collective action

If you’re a teacher, school leader, parent, or just someone who cares about the next generation, I think you’ll find this conversation meaningful and, I hope, hopeful.

The book—written by Ashley Seidel Potvin, William Penuel, Sona Dimidjian, and Thupten Jinpa—is out now and well worth a read.

Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction to Dr. Ashley Seidel Potvin

01:45 – The Importance of Compassion in Education

07:00 – Practical Strategies for Educators

10:00 – Challenges and Suffering in Schools

19:58 – Empathy vs. Compassion

26:24 – The Role of Self-Compassion

30:51 – The Importance of Self-Compassion

31:34 – Challenges and Misconceptions About Self-Compassion

36:00 – Receiving Compassion from Others

38:28 – Systems Level Awareness in Education

43:50 – Leadership and Compassionate Change

49:31 – Developing Compassionate Personas

56:58 – The Journey of Writing the Book

LINK:

Creating Compassionate Change in School Communities: Leading Together to Address Everyday Suffering in Schools by Ashley Seidel Potvin, William R. Penuel, Sona Dimidjian, and Thupten Jinpa.

https://www.colorado.edu/crowninstitute/compassionate-change-schools-book

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Living with IBD, Healing with Compassion | Dr Inês Trindade

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Dr Inês Trindade from Örebro University in Sweden—an accomplished researcher in compassion, self-compassion, acceptance and commitment therapy, and health psychology.

Together, we explore the psychological toll of living with inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), and how self-compassion can act as a protective force against depression, anxiety, and stress. We also discuss the powerful role of shame and stigma in gut-related conditions, and how compassion-based interventions can help people find a new way of relating to themselves and their illness.

Inês shares insights from her research—including longitudinal studies, online ACT and compassion programmes, and implications for clinicians working with those suffering from IBD—and offers a compelling case for why empathy and compassion must be central in both clinical care and everyday coping.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion and Self-Compassion

01:32 Understanding Inflammatory Bowel Diseases (IBD)

03:37 The Psychological Impact of IBD and IBS

06:38 Stigma and Isolation in GI Conditions

10:01 The Role of Self-Compassion in Managing IBD

12:35 Research Findings on Self-Compassion and Mental Health

18:00 Mindfulness and Psychological Flexibility

22:34 Intervention Studies: Face-to-Face and Online

32:11 Online Intervention Insights

32:59 The Role of Social Support in Therapy

35:48 Challenges and Adaptations in Therapy

40:15 Understanding Shame in Bowel Disorders

48:37 Addressing Shame in Clinical Practice

54:00 Compassion in Healthcare

58:57 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

Links:

Dr Inês Trindade at Örebro University including links to her research articles:

https://www.oru.se/english/employee/ines_trindade

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How to Energise Your Life with Mindfulness and Positive Thinking | Nicola O’Neill

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Nicola O’Neill — a transformational mindset coach, spiritual teacher, and founder of a unique training program that helps people harness the power of thought to create meaningful, lasting change.

Nicola shares her own personal journey of overcoming significant life challenges — from financial hardship to emotional distress — and how she used practices like mindfulness, gratitude, affirmations, and self-awareness to shift from negativity to possibility.

We explore what it really means to raise our energy, move beyond limiting beliefs, and live with more clarity, confidence, and connection.

This is an honest, practical conversation about how simple daily practices can lead to profound transformation — and how our own lived experiences can become a source of support and hope for others too.

Links:

nicolaoneill.com

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

02:41 Nicola's Personal Journey

05:57 Discovering the Power of the Subconscious Mind

09:23 The Role of Peer Support

12:08 The Psychology of Positive Thinking

17:41 Affirmations and Their Impact

26:34 Mindfulness and Daily Practices

29:07 Understanding Acceptance and Energy Levels

29:59 The Importance of Self-Awareness

30:29 Dr David Hawkins' Consciousness Scale

30:59 The Role of Courage and Negative Energy

36:30 Mindfulness and Meditation Practices

41:37 The Power of Gratitude

46:05 Compassion and Spiritual Coaching

51:52 Final Thoughts and Social Media Links

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Can AI Be More Compassionate Than Humans? | Michael Inzlicht

Sat, 12 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Professor Michael Inzlicht from the University of Toronto and the Rotman School of Management to explore a question that feels both inspiring and unsettling: Can a machine be more compassionate than a human?

Michael’s recent study, Third-Party Evaluators Perceive AI as More Compassionate than Expert Humans, found that people consistently rated AI-generated empathic responses as more caring, understanding, and validating than those written by real people — even trained crisis line professionals. That’s remarkable, and it raises big questions about how we relate to each other and the world around us.

We dive into what inspired this research, why expressing empathy can be so costly and draining for humans, and how AI might help fill the growing gap between the need for compassion and our capacity to give it. We also talk about what really happens when people believe they’re being cared for — and whether it matters that AI doesn’t feel empathy in the way we do.

Together, we look ahead to what this could mean for therapy, friendship, and society more broadly. Could AI play a role in supporting people when human resources are stretched thin? What are the ethical risks if we rely too heavily on artificial empathy? And how do we stay connected to what makes compassion truly human?

I hope this conversation invites you to reflect on what empathy really means — and what it could become in an age of artificial intelligence.

LINK:

Third-party evaluators perceive AI as more compassionate than expert humans (Ovsyannikova, Oldemburgo de Mello & Inzlicht, 2025)

https://www.nature.com/articles/s44271-024-00182-6

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Compassion and AI

00:08 The Groundbreaking Study at a Glance

01:19 Meet Professor Michael Inzlicht

02:31 ChatGPT’s First Question

03:06 What Sparked This Research?

05:13 The Future of Empathic AI

06:17 Human Emotional Intelligence vs. AI

07:31 Can AI Read Emotions?

11:47 Where AI Empathy Stands Today

12:50 How AI and Humans Compare

23:46 Designing the Study: AI vs. Human Experts

28:34 The Human Struggle with Empathy

29:34 Positive vs. Negative Empathic Responses

29:59 Measuring Empathy’s Impact

32:24 Can AI Train Us to Be More Empathic?

33:57 AI as a Motivational Interviewer

35:46 When Human Empathy Falls Short

38:53 The Promise and Perils of Empathic AI

44:57 Ethics and What Comes Next

53:10 Closing Reflections

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Mobilising Compassion at the Edge of Therapeutic Opportunity | Kate Lucre

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Dr Kate Lucre — a remarkable psychotherapist, group specialist, climber, and author of Compassion Focused Group Psychotherapy.

Kate shares how she works with people often labelled “too difficult” or “untreatable”, offering hope and healing to those at the edges of therapeutic opportunity. We talk about how her lifelong love of drama, acting, and rock climbing shaped her uniquely playful and courageous approach to Compassion Focused Group Psychotherapy (CFGP).

Kate walks me through her five-phase group model — from initial assessment all the way to moving on (with a side of brownies!). We also explore the vital role of personal therapy for facilitators, the power of play in healing shame and trauma, and how climbing becomes a living metaphor for the journey of compassion.

I loved hearing about the creative, embodied, and deeply compassionate ways Kate and her co-travellers mobilise compassion, community, and transformation for people so often left out of therapy spaces.

Check out Kate’s book: Compassion Focused Group Psychotherapy: An Exploratory Programme for People with Attachment and Relational Trauma — https://amzn.to/3Gn43Vd

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Dr Kate Lucre

01:55 Revisiting the Show and Previous Success

03:05 The Journey and Philosophy Behind the Book

07:22 The Importance of Personal Therapy for Facilitators

13:23 Climbing as a Metaphor for Psychotherapy

20:47 Integrating Drama and Play into Therapy

42:42 The Escape Pod Concept

44:20 Managing Group Dynamics

46:25 Challenges and Personal Reflections

51:15 Writing the Book

53:25 The Five Phase Model

01:03:57 Exploratory Group Work

01:05:49 Celebrating Endings

01:11:03 Future Plans and Projects

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compassionfocusedtherapy, grouppsychotherapy, traumahealing, compassionpractice, kateLucre, compassioninatshirt

Reclaim Your Inner Freedom | Emma Seppälä

Fri, 27 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Dr Emma Seppälä—clinical psychologist, researcher, and author of Sovereign: Reclaim Your Freedom, Energy, and Power in a Time of Distraction, Uncertainty, and Chaos.

Emma’s work offers such a powerful and timely message: that even in the midst of modern chaos and overwhelm, we can reclaim a deep sense of inner freedom. In our conversation, we explore what it means to live more authentically and with greater presence, and how to overcome the bound state—that sense of being stuck in patterns of self-criticism, emotional suppression, and digital overload.

Emma shares practical, science-backed tools for cultivating resilience and calm, including emotional awareness, breathwork, and meditation. We also talk about trauma, the fear of vulnerability, and how compassion can open a new way forward.

I found this conversation inspiring, and I hope it offers you insight, encouragement, and maybe even a little inner sovereignty of your own.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:21 Meet Dr Emma Seppälä: Reclaiming Inner Sovereignty

02:21 Understanding Sovereignty and Self-Criticism

05:18 The Bound State: Real-Life Examples

10:04 Emotional Authenticity and Meditation

15:35 Breathing Techniques for Anxiety and PTSD

22:53 The Limits of Emotion Regulation

23:45 Paradigm Shifts in Psychology

24:09 Physiological Approaches to Trauma

25:33 The Fear of Criticism and Vulnerability

28:16 Reconnecting with Nature

32:19 Sovereignty in Relationships

37:04 The Power of Compassion

39:36 Conclusion and Reflections

Thanks for watching, and I hope you enjoy this meaningful conversation with Dr Emma Seppälä.

LINKS:

Emma Seppälä website

https://www.emmaseppala.com/

Sovereign: the book website

https://www.iamsov.com/

Breathing-based meditation decreases posttraumatic stress disorder symptoms in U.S. military veterans: a randomized controlled longitudinal study (Seppala et al., 2014)

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25158633/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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The shame is not for survivors to carry | Lisa McLean

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

"The shame is not for survivors to carry."

[From the archive, this episode first aired on YouTube on 11 April 2021.]

Dr Lisa McLean is a psychologist in private practice at Ocean Psychology, Sunshine Coast, Australia who provides support to adults across a wide range of mental health and other life concerns. Lisa offers a safe, warm, and compassionate space where clients are empowered to create positive change. Lisa has over twenty years’ experience working across private practice and community-based settings, and has a special interest in working with clients who have been impacted by trauma. Her PhD was titled "Compassion focused therapy (CFT) as a group-based intervention for adult female survivors of childhood sexual abuse" and her findings shed light on the possibilities of CFT being particularly helpful for this client group.

Time Stamps:

2.02 Tell us a bit about yourself, your work, your life.

4.20 How do you use compassion focused therapy in your work?

12.55 Tell us a bit about embarking on your PhD research.

15.31 How did your PhD research evolve from that core motivation?

28.39 What are some of the challenges you face taking a CFT approach with people who have experienced trauma?

48.01 How have compassion and self-compassion found their way into your life or made a difference for you personally?

50.59 What projects are you working on next?

51.52 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their way on their own compassionate journey?

54.19 How can people find you and engage with you and your work?

Website:

www.oceanpsychology.com.au

Research:

Perspectives on Self-Compassion From Adult Female Survivors of Sexual Abuse and the Counselors Who Work With Them. [ https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0886260518793975 ]

Compassion-Focused Therapy as an Intervention for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse. [ https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10538712.2017.1390718?journalCode=wcsa20 ]

How One Hashtag Built a Global Compassion Community | Chris Winson

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this special episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Chris Winson, the heart and soul behind the beloved #365DaysOfCompassion initiative.

For over eight years, Chris has cultivated a digital refuge for those drawn to compassion-focused ideas—sharing daily posts, uplifting articles, music, memes, and his beautifully curated monthly reflections. What began as a hashtag on Twitter blossomed into a secure base and gathering place for compassionistas around the world.

As Chris steps back from regular posting, this conversation is both a celebration and a heartfelt thank you. We talk about the origins of #365DaysOfCompassion, the personal journey that inspired it, and the highs and lows of sustaining compassionate community online. Chris also opens up about his lived experience with depression, his journey with therapy, and the importance of making Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) more accessible.

From book clubs to Chisi Awards, from Terry Pratchett to the evolution of digital compassion spaces—this is a rich and moving conversation with someone who has given so much to so many.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Chris Winson and #365DaysOfCompassion

02:30 Chris’s Personal Journey with Depression

06:11 The Birth of #365DaysOfCompassion

14:58 Creating a Safe Haven on Social Media

22:35 The Evolution of the Compassion Community

30:36 The Book Club and Other Initiatives

35:09 Expanding Content to YouTube

35:35 Challenges and Insights of Regular Content Creation

36:08 Exploring CFT and Its Accessibility

38:18 The Evolution of CFT Resources

40:23 The Chisi Awards: A Playful Tradition

44:14 Terry Pratchett's Influence and Personal Insights

51:28 Balancing Leadership and Personal Well-being

57:00 Reflecting on the Journey and the Future of the Hashtag

01:04:35 Concluding Thoughts and Gratitude

LINKS:

Chris Winson on Substack

https://substack.com/@compassionatenature

#365daysofcompassion on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/groups/385641661879755

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Compassion-based approaches to working with grief | Darcy Harris

Wed, 18 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Professor Darcy L Harris currently works at Kings University College/Western University in the Department of Thanatology. Darcy does research in Grief, Bereavement, Non-Death Loss and Grief, and Compassion-based approaches in care settings. She has written and taught extensively in the field, and is doing some wonderful initiatives to integrate grief work with compassion focused therapy.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

02:19 Darcy Harris's Background and Journey

06:18 Understanding Grief Beyond Death

11:32 The Hierarchy of Loss and Social Perceptions

14:14 Personal Stories of Grief and Compassion

21:45 The Role of Compassion in Therapy

28:03 Challenges in Chronic Sorrow and Non-Finite Losses

29:04 Discovering Compassionate Mind Training

30:06 Transformative Experience at the Ukiah Zen Center

30:32 Shifting Focus: Intention Over Outcome

32:26 Empathy vs. Compassion in Clinical Practice

36:44 Compassionate Reframing in Grief Therapy

38:42 Using Imagery and Energy Work in Therapy

45:02 Navigating Impermanence and Attachment

51:26 Integrating Compassion in Therapeutic Modalities

52:30 Upcoming Work and Resources

LINKS:

Compassion-based Approaches in Grief and Loss

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassion-Based-Approaches-Grief-Darcy-Harris/dp/1032068345

Darcy Harris's range of books on Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/Books-Darcy-L-Harris/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3ADarcy+L.+Harris

Recent article: An Exploration of Compassion Focused Therapy for Grieving Individuals

https://www.lidsen.com/journals/icm/icm-08-04-052

Dr Darcy Harris at ResearchGate:

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Darcy-Harris-2

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Psych With Cancer: Turning Suffering Into Something Good | Glynn Chambers

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this deeply moving episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I reconnect with my old friend and colleague, Glynn Chambers—a psychologist based in Bendigo, Australia—who shares his raw and personal journey through cancer.

Glynn speaks with honesty, insight, and even humour about his diagnosis, the emotional rollercoaster that followed, and what it means to live with uncertainty. He reflects on how he’s made sense of suffering, the role of vulnerability, and how self-compassion has become both a refuge and a resource. We also talk about his beautifully honest blog, Psych With Cancer, and his podcast, Chemotional Rollercoaster, where he explores the highs and lows of cancer with grace and wit.

This conversation is full of heart—offering comfort, connection, and a few good laughs—for anyone living with illness or supporting someone who is.

If you’re going through something hard, this one’s for you.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Glynn Chambers

01:19 Reconnecting After 15 Years

02:04 Glynn’s Cancer Diagnosis Journey

04:51 The Emotional Rollercoaster07:57 Facing the Diagnosis

16:22 Acceptance and Reflection

24:39 Managing Expectations

30:52 Finding Gratitude in a Cancer Diagnosis

31:07 Expectations vs Reality of Life with Cancer

32:18 Facing Intrusive Thoughts and Grief

33:21 Embracing the Present Moment

34:18 The Discipline of Leaning into the Present

34:56 Lessons from Children and Nature

37:55 Self-Compassion and the Inner Critic

48:13 Receiving Compassion from Others

57:50 Humour and Playfulness in Adversity

01:03:10 Advice for New Cancer Patients

LINKS:

Chemotional Rollercoaster Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/chemotional-rollercoaster/id1783415934

Psych with Cancer Blog

https://psychwithcancer.substack.com/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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The Thread of Compassion: A Journey Through Time and Humanity

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What if compassion has always been with us—quietly guiding humanity through every age?

In this video essay, I take you on a journey through time, exploring how compassion, kindness, and helpfulness have been understood and expressed by some of the world’s most influential thinkers, spiritual teachers, psychologists, and storytellers.

From Aristotle and Confucius to Julian of Norwich and the Dalai Lama…

From Viktor Frankl and Paul Gilbert to the unexpected wisdom of Paddington Bear…

I’ve tried to weave a thread through it all—a thread of compassion that runs right through history and into our everyday lives.

Whether you’re curious about philosophy, psychology, or just trying to live with a little more heart, I hope this gives you something meaningful to take with you.

Thanks so much for watching.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion

00:51 Ancient Philosophies on Compassion

02:14 Compassion in Sacred Stories

04:23 Enlightenment and Modern Perspectives

08:04 Compassion in Literature and Media

10:11 Conclusion: The Ever-Present Thread of Compassion

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Mindfulness, Compassion, and Addiction Recovery | Sarah Bowen

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I have the great pleasure of speaking with Dr Sarah Bowen—clinical psychologist, Associate Professor at Pacific University in Oregon, and one of the co-developers of Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention (MBRP).

I first met Sarah back in 2011 at the Joshua Tree Retreat Centre during an MBRP facilitator training. That experience had a lasting impact on me—deepening my interest in mindfulness, compassion, and their place in addiction recovery. So it was a real joy to reconnect with her for this conversation.

We explore the foundations of MBRP and how it brings together mindfulness, cognitive behavioural therapy, and motivational interviewing to support people through the ups and downs of recovery. Sarah also shares her thoughts on how compassion and self-compassion—whether front and centre or gently in the background—play a vital role in healing.

We dive into her research adapting MBRP for women with co-occurring PTSD and substance use difficulties, reflect on her time working with the late Allan Marlatt, and explore the integration of radical behaviourism and Buddhist psychology—two traditions that, while seemingly different, have surprising synergies when it comes to understanding suffering and change.

It’s a rich, thoughtful, and deeply human conversation. I hope you find it as inspiring as I did.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction

00:30 Discovering Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention (MBRP)

02:07 Exploring the core of MBRP

11:43 The role of compassion in MBRP

15:27 Adapting MBRP for trauma and gender-specific needs

21:15 Insights from working with Allan Marlatt

23:12 Integrating meditation into scientific practice

24:08 The evolution of mindfulness and behaviourism

26:11 Understanding radical behaviourism

27:59 Classical vs. operant conditioning

29:30 Behaviourism in addiction treatment

32:44 Bridging Buddhism and behaviourism

38:00 Current projects and future directions

43:08 Encouraging mindfulness practice

45:12 Conclusion and gratitude

LINKS:

Dr Sarah Bowen at Pacific University

https://www.pacificu.edu/about/directory/people/sarah-bowen-phd

Trauma-Integrated Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention for Women with Comorbid Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Substance Use Disorder: A Cluster Randomized Controlled Feasibility and Acceptability Trial (Somohano & Bowen, 2022)

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35648046/

Overlaying Buddhist and behaviorist lenses to better understand and address human suffering. (Bowen et al., 2021)

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2021-66328-001

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Giving voice to compassion for new mothers | Michelle Cree, Ashleigh McLellan & Sam Norbury

Fri, 30 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What happens when a groundbreaking psychological resource is reimagined for the ears and hearts of new mothers?

In this heartfelt episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr. Stan Steindl explores the intersection of psychology, creativity, and compassion with three remarkable women: Michelle Cree, author of The Compassionate Mind Approach to Postnatal Depression; Ashleigh McLellan, the driving force behind its transformation into an audiobook; and Sam Norbury, the voice artist who brings Michelle’s words to life.

Together, they reflect on the journey of adapting the book into an intimate and accessible audio format—offering support, understanding, and self-compassion to mothers navigating one of life’s most vulnerable transitions. Along the way, they explore the therapeutic foundations of Compassion Focused Therapy, the power of voice, and the importance of intention in creating resources that truly care.

Whether you're a mother, a mental health professional, or someone interested in the healing power of compassion, this episode offers insight, warmth, and inspiration.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:34 – Meet the team behind the audiobook

02:13 – Michelle Cree's journey and insights

10:06 – Ashleigh McLellan’s personal and professional resonance

22:38 – The evolution of the audiobook project

35:10 – The journey to creating an audiobook

36:16 – The practicality of audiobooks for new mums

37:45 – The art of voicing a book

40:13 – Finding the right tone

44:33 – The emotional impact of narration

53:35 – The importance of compassion in motherhood

01:00:54 – Final thoughts and gratitude

If you know someone navigating the early days of motherhood, share this episode with them—it might be just the compassionate companion they need.

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment—we’d love to hear your thoughts.

Hashtags:

#PostnatalDepression #CompassionFocusedTherapy #AudiobookCreation #MentalHealthSupport #NewMums #SelfCompassion #CompassionateMotherhood #VoiceMatters

LINKS:

The Compassionate Mind Approach to Postnatal Depression (Cree, 2015)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassionate-Mind-Approach-Postnatal-Depression/dp/1780330855

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Facing life's difficulties with compassion and courage | Elli Tholouli

Wed, 28 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

"I'm trying to help people connect with their caring part, their caring motivation. 'I want to try this because it is going to help me, or help me to be with others,' rather than, 'I need to get rid of my anxiety.'"

Elli Tholouli is a psychologist specializing in compassion focused therapy and compassionate mind training at www.compassioncentre.gr in Athens, Greece. She is an active member of the Compassionate Mind Foundation, as well as the International Center for Compassionate Organizations, and she is a Research Fellow in the Laboratory of Quality Research in Psychology and Health at Athens University and teaches Compassion in Education at Harokopio University.

Her purpose is to support people to feel accepted and safe, to understand their difficulties as part of the human experience, and to face them with compassion and courage.

This episode was first aired on YouTube on 21 March 2021, and is posted here after I recently presented a webinar for Elli as part of her Greek Centre for CFT Introduction to CFT workshop. Check out Elli's CFT training opportunities at her website below.

Time Stamps:

3.34 Tell us a bit about yourself, your work, your life.

10.43 Tell us about your journey into compassion and self-compassion.

22.47 How do you use compassion focused therapy in your work?

27.28 Tell us about your compassion focused work alongside other

therapies.

33.10 What are some of the challenges you face working as a CFT

Therapist?

41.07 What are some of the things you really love about CFT, the success

or triumphs?

46.18 How have compassion and self-compassion made their way into your

personal life?

50.51 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their

way on their own compassionate journey?

53.01 How can people find you and engage with you and your work?

Website:

www.compassioncentre.gr

Social Media:

Facebook: Elli Tholouli, CFT Athens

Twitter: @etholouli

Events and Activities:

CFT training for Therapists

CMT for therapists and general public

CFT peer support and supervision group

How Compassion Heals from the Inside Out | Michaela Swee

Fri, 23 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this heartfelt and enlightening conversation, I sit down with Dr Michaela Swee—a board-certified clinical psychologist, clinical investigator at McLean Hospital, and faculty member at Harvard Medical School. Michaela brings together deep scientific insight, clinical wisdom, and a personal story of transformation: from aspiring actress to a leader in trauma-informed, compassion-focused care.

We explore how Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) supports people struggling with shame, self-criticism, and complex PTSD, and how even small practices—like writing a compassionate letter to yourself—can have profound impact. Michaela shares findings from her research, reflections on her therapeutic work, and her passion for integrating creativity and courage into healing.

This episode is for anyone curious about the science of compassion, the nuance of emotional healing, or simply how to be a little kinder to ourselves and others.

🕰️ Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Dr. Michaela Swee

01:30 – Early Morning Reflections

02:20 – Teenage Dreams and Career Path

05:39 – Journey into Psychology and Performing Arts

09:24 – Discovering Compassion Focused Therapy

17:10 – A Transformative Retreat Experience

23:02 – Self-Compassionate Letter Writing Study

36:00 – Impostor Syndrome and Career Trajectory

39:09 – Understanding Complex PTSD

41:16 – CFT for Complex PTSD

46:57 – Shame, Self-Criticism, and Compassion

50:39 – Therapeutic Techniques and Group Dynamics

01:01:59 – The Human Experience from a Therapist's Lens

01:08:03 – The Compassion Collective Podcast

01:10:43 – Final Reflections and Farewell

🧠✨ I hope you enjoy this rich and compassionate dialogue with Dr Michaela Swee.

LINKS:

Michaela's podcast Compassion Collective:

https://compassion-collective.com/

A Brief Self-Compassionate Letter-Writing Intervention for Individuals with High Shame (Swee et al., 2023)

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9992917/

Compassion-Focused Therapy for the Treatment of ICD-11-Defined Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (Swee et al., 2024)

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38680060/

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Bringing compassion to leadership and organisations | Colleen Marshall

Wed, 21 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Colleen Marshall, LMFT, is Vice President of Clinical Care at Two Chairs, an organisation "building a world where everyone has access to exceptional mental health care." They provide therapy in-person and virtually in California, Florida, and Washington State, USA.

Colleen is also a longstanding member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT), having served leadership roles as part of this organisation as well as providing Training New Trainers training for several years.

Colleen is passionate about effective leadership, uses motivational interviewing to enhance leadership skills, and brings compassion to leadership and organisations.

This episode was first aired on YouTube on 15 December 2023, and is posted here as a podcast to follow-up from the episode last Friday 16 May 2025 with Helen Mentha, also a member of MINT.

LINKS:

Two Chairs: https://www.twochairs.com/

Colleen's book (with Anette Sogaard Nielsen):

https://www.amazon.com.au/Motivational-Interviewing-Leaders-Helping-Professions/dp/1462543812/ref=sr_1_1?crid=398JTDGNB1V87&keywords=mi+in+leadership+marshall&qid=1702114131&s=books&sprefix=mi+in+leadership+marshall%2Cstripbooks%2C232&sr=1-1

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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The Art of Human Connection | Helen Mentha

Fri, 16 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What does it really mean to be someone good to talk to?

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I sit down with Helen Mentha—clinical psychologist, specialist trainer, and author of Someone Good to Talk To. With decades of experience across mental health, addiction, healthcare, and corporate leadership, Helen shares her wisdom on what makes conversations truly healing and transformational.

We explore her journey into Motivational Interviewing, the power of fostering hope, and the subtle art of managing ambivalence. Helen opens up about the importance of deep listening, holding space, and navigating uncertainty—not just as professionals, but in everyday life.

Filled with warmth, humour, and practical takeaways, this conversation is a reminder that the way we show up can make all the difference.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Helen Mentha

01:45 First Encounter and Early Impressions

02:24 Discovering Motivational Interviewing

04:07 Training and Self-Teaching

05:49 The Depth of Motivational Interviewing

11:17 The Art of Being Someone Good to Talk To

20:37 Fostering Hope and Managing Change

36:34 Understanding Ambivalence in Therapy

37:17 Exposure Therapy and Ambivalence

39:00 The Role of Clinicians in Managing Ambivalence

43:23 The Importance of Autonomy in Therapy

50:55 Navigating Uncertainty in Therapeutic Conversations

54:08 The Power of Apology and Repair in Therapy

57:37 The Human Element in Therapeutic Relationships

01:01:16 Friendly and Pragmatic Approaches in Therapy

01:08:39 Conclusion and Future Works

01:11:08 Humour and Hope in Therapy

LINKS:

Helen Mentha's website:

https://menthaconsulting.com.au/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Mindful self-compassion for teens | Karen Bluth

Wed, 14 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

As a follow on from last Friday's episode with Dr Lolly Hernandez about the psychological effects of boarding school, today's episode features a conversation with Dr Karen Bluth first published on YouTube on 26 April 2024.

Karen Bluth, PhD, is an associate professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. A seasoned classroom educator, Dr. Bluth is now one of the developers of the program Mindful Self-Compassion for Educators, as well as a co-creator of the Mindful Self-Compassion for Teens program.

She is the author of The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens and The Self-Compassionate Teen, as well as co-author of Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for Teen ADHD and the Audible Original Self-Compassion for Girls: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, and Coaches. Her forthcoming book, Mindful Self-Compassion for Teens in Schools: A 16-Session Social and Emotional Skills Curriculum for Middle and High Schoolers, is available for pre-order!

In 2022, she received the inaugural Mind & Life Award for Public Communication of Contemplative Research. She resides on the marshy coast of North Carolina.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Dr Karen Bluth's website

https://karenbluth.com/

Mindful Self-Compassion for Teens in Schools: A 16-Session Social and Emotional Skills Curriculum for Middle and High Schoolers

https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Teens-Schools-16-Session/dp/1683737660/ref=sr_1_3?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xufchH5oct_YftEBIkgVCqIAf2pGrPGmxlsf--49tGw6AN4AggAqAB5QcXTvwlEwXMPbN8rMoC0a78Z6SBlELeX8ZgSbK0IK0LqFDM82woBWiqRE3MTpIm6JD7xs_VOQgxGb3-Bwdf8EBVEk8EI2yvdQubtEqZwdVKR5_TctwfmQ7K6cZpgUoAdmXlf0hXGZ.OFyfpkHx_HRYUmoWCKKkQBHJmhde9rQdV8mRqciGzmA&dib_tag=se&qid=1714099144&refinements=p_27%3AKaren+Bluth&s=books&sr=1-3

The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Criticism and Embrace Who You Are

https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Workbook-Teens-Mindfulness-Self-Criticism/dp/1626259844/ref=sr_1_2?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xufchH5oct_YftEBIkgVCqIAf2pGrPGmxlsf--49tGw6AN4AggAqAB5QcXTvwlEwXMPbN8rMoC0a78Z6SBlELeX8ZgSbK0IK0LqFDM82woBWiqRE3MTpIm6JD7xs_VOQgxGb3-Bwdf8EBVEk8EI2yvdQubtEqZwdVKR5_TctwfmQ7K6cZpgUoAdmXlf0hXGZ.OFyfpkHx_HRYUmoWCKKkQBHJmhde9rQdV8mRqciGzmA&dib_tag=se&qid=1714099144&refinements=p_27%3AKaren+Bluth&s=books&sr=1-2

Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for Teen ADHD: Build Executive Functioning Skills, Increase Motivation, and Improve Self-Confidence (Bertin, Bluth, and Barkley, 2021)

https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Self-Compassion-Teen-ADHD-Self-Confidence/dp/1684036399/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xufchH5oct_YftEBIkgVCqIAf2pGrPGmxlsf--49tGw6AN4AggAqAB5QcXTvwlEwXMPbN8rMoC0a78Z6SBlELeX8ZgSbK0IK0LqFDM82woBWiqRE3MTpIm6JD7xs_VOQgxGb3-Bwdf8EBVEk8EI2yvdQubtEqZwdVKR5_TctwfmQ7K6cZpgUoAdmXlf0hXGZ.OFyfpkHx_HRYUmoWCKKkQBHJmhde9rQdV8mRqciGzmA&dib_tag=se&qid=1714099144&refinements=p_27%3AKaren+Bluth&s=books&sr=1-1

The Self-Compassionate Teen: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassionate-Teen-Mindfulness-Compassion-Solutions/dp/1684035279/ref=sr_1_4?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xufchH5oct_YftEBIkgVCqIAf2pGrPGmxlsf--49tGw6AN4AggAqAB5QcXTvwlEwXMPbN8rMoC0a78Z6SBlELeX8ZgSbK0IK0LqFDM82woBWiqRE3MTpIm6JD7xs_VOQgxGb3-Bwdf8EBVEk8EI2yvdQubtEqZwdVKR5_TctwfmQ7K6cZpgUoAdmXlf0hXGZ.OFyfpkHx_HRYUmoWCKKkQBHJmhde9rQdV8mRqciGzmA&dib_tag=se&qid=1714099144&refinements=p_27%3AKaren+Bluth&s=books&sr=1-4

Self-Compassion for Girls (Audible audio-book)

https://www.amazon.com/Audible-Self-Compassion-for-Girls/dp/B09S1717ZB/ref=sr_1_8?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.xufchH5oct_YftEBIkgVCqIAf2pGrPGmxlsf--49tGw6AN4AggAqAB5QcXTvwlEwXMPbN8rMoC0a78Z6SBlELeX8ZgSbK0IK0LqFDM82woBWiqRE3MTpIm6JD7xs_VOQgxGb3-Bwdf8EBVEk8EI2yvdQubtEqZwdVKR5_TctwfmQ7K6cZpgUoAdmXlf0hXGZ.OFyfpkHx_HRYUmoWCKKkQBHJmhde9rQdV8mRqciGzmA&dib_tag=se&qid=1714099144&refinements=p_27%3AKaren+Bluth&s=books&sr=1-8

Center for Mindful Self-Compassion website

https://centerformsc.org/

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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The Hidden Psychological Impact of Boarding Schools | Lolly Hernandez

Fri, 09 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr Lolly Hernandez to explore the profound and often hidden psychological legacy of boarding school. Drawing on her powerful research involving over 600 adult participants, Lolly shares insights into how boarding school experiences shape compassion, self-criticism, and attachment well into adulthood.

Together, we unpack the concept of Boarding School Syndrome, examine the contrast between ex-boarders and day students, and highlight the role of early environment—supportive or threatening—in shaping our inner worlds. Lolly also shares moving reflections from participants, some uplifting, others harrowing, shedding light on the enduring emotional impact of childhood separation, bullying, and institutional culture.

This is a sensitive, nuanced, and ultimately hopeful conversation—one that challenges assumptions about privilege, invites compassion for those carrying invisible wounds, and considers how therapy can help foster healing.

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Boarding School Experiences

01:31 Meet Lolly Hernandez: Researcher and Psychologist

03:03 Exploring Boarding School Syndrome

04:23 The Psychological Impact of Boarding Schools

06:43 Attachment and Compassion in Boarding School Students

10:35 Comparing Boarders and Day Students

23:25 Environmental Factors and Their Influence

34:56 Personal Reflections and Qualitative Insights

42:07 Clinical Implications and Advice for Therapists

48:35 Conclusion and Future Directions

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/

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Boarding school syndrome, compassion in therapy, hidden trauma, attachment theory, self-criticism, compassion focused therapy

How to become safely embodied | Deirdre Fay

Wed, 07 May 2025 18:00:00 +1000

"What happened to me and how can I put myself back together again?”

This episode is taken from Parts 1 and 2 YouTube videos published in June/July 2021.

Deirdre Fay, MSW, LICSW, integrates trauma and attachment theory with yoga and meditation in embodiment. She is the founder of the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills, maintains a private practice working with individuals and groups, and presents around the world. Her most recent book, Becoming Safely Embodied: A Guide to Organize Your Mind, Body and Heart to Feel Secure in the World, explores how to move from fragmentation to wholeness through practical, embodied skills.

In this full-length conversation, we begin with how Deirdre arrived at her approach and explore the foundations of becoming safely embodied. In the second half, we discuss the nine essential skills from her book that support people on their healing journeys—skills that help create a felt sense of safety and scaffolding for life.

Time Stamps:

2.13 – How did you arrive at this notion of becoming safely embodied?

4.00 – "What happened to me and how can I put myself back together again?"

5.01 – Could this approach work for others too?

6.29 – Attachment theory and the importance of scaffolding

8.03 – Fundamental skills that help with scaffolding

12.01 – Becoming embodied is scary, and we must find a way to do it safely

15.39 – When we are exposed to all the facets of ourselves, it's chaos and overwhelming

17.20 – When the rise, crest, and fall gets blocked

21.22 – Skill 1: Belonging

27.05 – Skill 2: Meditation

35.33 – Skill 3: Internal Information Flow

37.59 – Skill 4: Separating Facts from Feelings

42.08 – Skill 5: Addressing Parallel Lives

45.59 – Skill 6: Working with Parts

47.39 – Skill 7: Carving Out a New Path

48.48 – Skills 8 & 9: Telling and Retelling, and Finding Guidance from Your Older, Wiser Self

52.35 – Three tips for those on a compassionate journey

Website: https://dfay.com/

Social Media: Facebook @healingattachment Twitter @defay Instagram @dfaypics

Deirdre Fay’s book Becoming Safely Embodied

https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Safely-Embodied-Organize-Secure/dp/163195184X/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=becoming+safely+embodied&qid=1624772027&sr=8-1

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://amzn.to/4knPv7h

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https://youtu.be/P0OiDcbFNbo

Bringing Compassion to Life Through Movement | Adam Lacey

Fri, 02 May 2025 07:00:00 +1000

Can compassion be moved? In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Adam Lacey — a Counselling Psychologist and accredited T’ai Chi Chih teacher from Oxfordshire, UK — to explore a truly embodied path to compassion.

T’ai Chi Chih is a gentle, mindful movement practice designed to cultivate Chi (intrinsic energy) and nurture wellbeing. But more than that, as Adam beautifully explains, it can awaken compassion — not only within ourselves, but in our communities.

From its origins with founder Justin Stone to its profound impact on refugees, children, older adults, and people in recovery, Adam shares how this non-martial, moving meditation offers healing through presence, connection, and flow.

💫 Whether you're curious about Chi, interested in body-based compassion practices, or just looking for a moment of peace — this conversation might just move you too.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – Welcome to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:16 – Meet Adam Lacey: Counselling Psychologist & T’ai Chi Chih Teacher

00:59 – What is T’ai Chi Chih?

03:07 – The Origins: Who was Justin Stone?

05:07 – Chi (Qi): Understanding Intrinsic Energy

08:14 – What Happens in a T’ai Chi Chih Session?

15:48 – How Compassion Comes to Life in TCC

22:17 – Adam’s Personal Journey with the Practice

24:00 – Teaching TCC in Refugee, School, & Recovery Settings

29:30 – T’ai Chi Chih’s Relevance in a Post-Pandemic World

35:50 – Hopes for the Future: Research & Outreach

38:14 – Final Reflections

🌿 Subscribe for more conversations on compassion, healing, and the human spirit.

👇 Let us know in the comments: Have you ever experienced compassion through movement?

LINKS:

The health benefits of tai chi

https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/the-health-benefits-of-tai-chi

T’ai Chi Chih website

https://taichichih.org/

T’ai Chi Chih find a practitioner

https://taichichih.org/search-tai-chi-chih-teacher/?geodir_search=1&stype=gd_place&s

Complete silent seated T'ai Chi Chih Practice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLuuKmW4qwI

A complete silent standing practice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2RkFWbO1KOk

The Harvard Medical School Guide To Tai Chi

https://archive.org/details/the-harvard-medical-school-guide-to-tai-chi-12-weeks-to-a-healthy-body-strong-he_202209

The Science of Tai Chi and Qigong and Whole Person Health Part I: Rationale and State of the Science

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40091656/

The Science of Tai Chi and Qigong and Whole Person Health Part I: Rationale and State of the Science

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40091656/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://amzn.to/4knPv7h

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What is compassion if it doesn't include all sentient beings? | Jamie Woodhouse

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, first aired on YouTube on 9 October 2022, I interview Jamie Woodhouse from Sentientism.info and the Sentientism Podcast. From his website:

"Sentientism is a philosophy or worldview – a way of thinking about what’s real and what matters. Sentientists use evidence and reason to work out what to believe in, so don’t hold supernatural beliefs. Sentientists also have compassion for every sentient being – any being capable of experiencing, particularly experiencing suffering or flourishing. Roughly speaking, that’s human and non-human animals, but other types of being could conceivably be sentient too."

My big takeaway from this conversation with Jamie:

Compassion's bottom line: To not needlessly cause suffering. All sentient beings can suffer, & so, at a minimum, compassion requires that we include them in our moral scope & not cause them to suffer.

Let me know what you think!

LINKS:

Find out about Sentientism here: https://sentientism.info/

Find the Sentientism Podcast here: https://sentientism.info/what-is-sentientism/podcasts

Join the conversation about sentientism on Reddit here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Sentientism/

If you would like to know more about compassion and self-compassion, compassion focused therapy or compassionate mind training, you may wish to check out my book, The Gifts of Compassion, available at your favourite online bookstore, such as: https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Can Compassion Fix Politics? | Matt Hawkins

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What if compassion wasn’t just a personal virtue, but the foundation of our politics, institutions, and societies?

In this powerful and timely conversation, I speak with Matt Hawkins, CEO of the Global Compassion Coalition and co-founder of Compassion in Politics, about reimagining our world through the lens of compassion. Together, we explore what it means to embed empathy, fairness, and care into systems that so often feel adversarial or indifferent.

Matt shares the origin stories of the Global Compassion Coalition and Compassion in Politics, offering both practical insights and a compelling philosophical vision for how compassion can become the guiding force in decision-making—across policy, governance, and grassroots movements. The conversation also touches on mental health in politics, the corrupting effects of power, and the real-world challenges and triumphs of advocating for compassionate change.

This episode isn’t just about systems. It’s about you, too—and the role each of us can play in building a more compassionate society.

🔗 Links to Global Compassion Coalition and Compassion in Politics are in the description below.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassionate Politics

00:13 Meet Matt Hawkins: A Compassionate Leader

00:24 The Mission of the Global Compassion Coalition

00:37 Compassion in Politics: A New Approach

00:57 Exploring Compassionate Advocacy

01:45 Personal Insights and Self-Compassion

02:46 The Role of Compassion in Political Systems

05:44 The Global Compassion Coalition's Vision

08:43 Practical Applications of Compassion

10:16 Challenges and Strategies for Compassionate Change

14:02 Empowering Communities through Compassion

21:35 Compassion in Politics: Systemic Change

28:50 The Corrupting Effects of Power and Inequality

30:10 The Role of Compassion in Society

32:20 Challenges in Political Representation

33:13 Mental Wellbeing of Politicians

34:35 Power Dynamics in UK Politics

37:31 Systemic Cultural Pressures in Politics

38:34 Engaging with Compassionate Politics

43:15 Building Compassionate Communities

46:00 Practical Steps for Everyday Compassion

50:59 Getting Involved with the Global Compassion Coalition

LINKS:

Global Compassion Coalition

https://www.globalcompassioncoalition.org/

Compassion in Politics

https://www.compassioninpolitics.com/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://amzn.to/4knPv7h

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Can compassion help narcissism? | Ruth Ann Harpur

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Dr Ruth Ann Harpur is a Clinical Psychologist specialising in relationships and issues of narcissism, and helping people and couples to develop compassionate, strong relationships with themselves and each other. She is passionate about how important relationships are in how we navigate the demands and challenges of life, with people often repeating familiar patterns in relationships that may not serve their needs and in ways that seem confusing to us and the people around us. Ruth Ann has a popular YouTube channel that explores these issues, with a particular focus on narcissism, and the effect narcissism can have on a person's life and relationships.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Ruth Ann's website

https://www.ruthannharpur.co.uk/about

Ruth Ann's YouTube channel

https://www.youtube.com/@drruthannharpur

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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How Compassion Transforms Health | Sarah Ann Macklin

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What does it really mean to live well and be well?

In this inspiring episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Sarah Ann Macklin—registered nutritional scientist, health journalist, founder of the Be Well Collective, and host of the acclaimed podcast Live Well Be Well. Sarah brings science and compassion together in a powerful and refreshingly human way.

We explore her personal journey from the high-pressure world of international modeling to becoming a leading voice in multidimensional health. Along the way, we discuss food and mood, role models and self-worth, loneliness and belonging—and how compassion can transform not just how we look, but how we live.

Sarah has interviewed some of the world’s greatest minds on her podcast, including a beautiful recent conversation with Professor Paul Gilbert. I highly recommend you check it out:

👉 Watch Sarah’s interview with Paul Gilbert |

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvfD8_Asj8U&t=1750s

🎧 Explore her podcast, Live Well Be Well |

https://sarahannmacklin.com/live-well-be-well-podcast

This episode is rich with insights and full of heart. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Sarah Ann Macklin

01:24 – Dogs vs. Cats: A Lighthearted Start

03:37 – The Importance of Role Models

03:59 – The Impact of Social Media on Identity

08:04 – Sarah's Journey from Modeling to Nutrition

09:50 – The Turning Point: Health Crisis and Realization

20:23 – The Connection Between Mind and Body

22:10 – The Brain-Body Connection

25:14 – The Power of Mindset in Nutrition

27:50 – The Role of Compassion in Health

32:09 – The Loneliness Epidemic

36:05 – The Importance of Social Connections

43:36 – Practical Tips for a Compassionate Life

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://amzn.to/4knPv7h

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The Power of Compassionate Coaching | Kathryn Wiseman & Aly Layt

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

What does it mean to live a brave, strong, and fulfilled life? In this inspiring episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I'm joined by the dynamic duo Kathryn Wiseman—former GP turned soulful life coach—and Aly Layt, neurocoach and founder of Bbrave Bstrong. Together, we explore what it takes to step into your values, face fear with courage, and create a life filled with intention and authenticity.

Hear Kathryn’s powerful journey from medicine to coaching, and how compassion lies at the heart of her work. Learn from Aly as she shares her neurocoaching approach and how it helps people move from feeling stuck to finding direction. This conversation is packed with wisdom, warmth, and practical insights from their podcast Brave, Strong and Fulfilled—and it might just be the nudge you need to take your next brave step.

Whether you're navigating change, rethinking your values, or simply searching for a deeper sense of meaning, this episode offers a compassionate space to reflect, grow, and be inspired.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 – Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:14 – Meet Kathryn Wiseman and Aly Layt

01:52 – Kathryn’s journey from GP to Life Coach

06:02 – The role of compassion in medicine and coaching

11:39 – Aly Layt on neurocoaching

17:08 – The power of safe, judgment-free conversations

24:23 – Understanding fear and stuckness

30:49 – People pleasing and self-discovery

34:06 – The power of people pleasing

35:21 – Balancing assertiveness and compassion

36:50 – Understanding and living by your values

37:32 – Navigating inner conflicts and needs

45:48 – The role of language in coaching

47:52 – The journey of self-discovery in coaching

52:13 – Launching the Brave, Strong and Fulfilled podcast

59:23 – Embracing courage and overcoming self-doubt

01:03:53 – Final thoughts and farewell

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Aly Layt at BBrave BStrong::

https://bbravebstrong.com/

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https://www.fulfilled-life.com/

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https://www.bravestrongandfulfilled.com/Welcome

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Introducing therapeutic humour (& how it relates to compassion) | Lodge McCammon & Mallori DeSalle

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this video, I experience the practice of therapeutic humour under the kind and wise guidance of Mallori DeSalle and Dr Lodge McCammon. They demonstrate some warm up exercises, therapeutic exercises, and we have a lot of laughs! It was also interesting to consider how therapeutic humour might relate to compassion and self-compassion, as well as in the practice of compassion focused therapy (CFT). Would love to hear your thoughts on how humour fits within the CFT framework!

Mallori DeSalle, MA, LMHC, NCC, CMHC, MATS, CPS, CHP

Therapist, Trainer, Humorist, Indiana University

Mallori DeSalle is a licensed mental health counselor, an internationally certified prevention specialist, motivational interviewing trainer and a certified humor professional. As a speaker and trainer, she has sparked curiosity in both the young and young-at-heart. Her passion for creating a lasting impact led her to the public health field and for the past 14 years she has worked at Prevention Insights, a center within the School of Public Health at Indiana University, Bloomington. Mallori works with people all over the world. She served on the Board of Directors for the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor and in 2021 became a TEDx speaker. Her credentials don’t impress her family, but occasionally her corny jokes do make them laugh.

Lodge McCammon, PhD

Humorist, Musician, Educator, Speaker

Dr. Lodge McCammon is a therapeutic humorist, instructional designer, author, musician, and international education consultant who provides professional services, including keynote speeches, workshops, curriculum development, and a variety of training programs. He works with school districts, universities, nonprofits, and businesses (e.g., Palm Beach Schools, University of the West Indies, Discovery Education, Microsoft, Amazon). Most recently, Lodge facilitated a month of therapeutic humor for the Nourished Teachers Community, which is a Facebook-funded initiative focused on helping educators cope with work stress and avoid burnout. He uses a program that he designed called “Laugh It Off!" to help his clients transform their daily frustrations into humor.

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malloridesalle.com

drlodgemccammon.com

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5 surprising ways psychometric tools unlock the power of self-compassion | Ben Buchanan

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Can data help us become more self-compassionate? In this thought-provoking episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Clinical Psychologist and NovoPsych co-founder Dr. Ben Buchanan to explore how psychometric tools—yes, those questionnaires we can sometimes overlook—can actually deepen our understanding of self-compassion.

Together, we unpack five surprising ways these tools can uncover blind spots, track progress, and help even high performers find a kinder relationship with themselves. From measuring depression, anxiety, and self-esteem, to navigating the tricky terrain of perfectionism and self-criticism, this conversation offers practical insights for clinicians, researchers, and anyone on a journey of emotional growth.

Ben also shares his mission to make psychometric science human-centred, guiding professionals to not only measure but to truly make a difference in the lives of their clients.

Whether you're a therapist, a researcher, or someone simply interested in self-development, this episode offers a fresh take on how compassion and data can go hand in hand.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:29 – Meet Dr. Ben Buchanan: Innovator in Psychometric Science

01:20 – Exploring Psychometric Tools for Self-Compassion

02:23 – Identifying Blind Spots with Psychometrics

05:20 – The Role of Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion

10:11 – Understanding Sources of Suffering

14:50 – The Impact of ADHD on Self-Criticism

20:33 – Balancing Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion

26:03 – Exploring Self-Compassion and Emotional Courage

27:13 – Differentiating Self-Compassion and Compassion for Others

28:45 – The Role of Self-Compassion in Therapy

29:48 – Impact of Professional Changes on Compassion Levels

31:36 – Compassion as a Verb: Sensitivity and Action

32:20 – The Dynamics of Self-Compassion and Self-Esteem

35:53 – Volunteering and Genuine Compassion

37:33 – The Power of Routine Outcome Monitoring

43:22 – Balancing Psychometric Tools with Compassion

50:51 – Introducing NovoPsych: A Tool for Clinicians

53:05 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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LINKS:

Dr Ben Buchanan at NovoPsych:

https://novopsych.com/

The latest assist for therapists...NovoNote:

https://novopsych.com/novonote/

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Compassion Focused Therapy and Chairwork | Tobyn Bell

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Dr Tobyn Bell is a psychotherapist, trainer, supervisor and researcher specialising in compassion focused therapy (CFT) and especially the application of chairwork in CFT. In this conversation we discuss Tobyn's journey into CFT, chairwork and how it can be applied to CFT, the research he is doing, and some practical examples, anecdotes and tips along the way. This was a very inspiring conversation!

BOOKS AND PAPERS:

Kolts et al. (2018). Experiencing Compassion-Focused Therapy from the Inside Out: A Self-Practice/Self-Reflection Workbook for Therapists.

https://www.amazon.com.au/Experiencing-Compassion-Focused-Therapy-Inside-Out/dp/1462535259

Bell et al. (2019). “A definite feel-it moment”: Embodiment, externalisation and emotion during chair-work in compassion-focused therapy.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/capr.12248

Bell et al. (2021). Multiple emotions, multiple selves: compassion focused therapy chairwork.

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/the-cognitive-behaviour-therapist/article/multiple-emotions-multiple-selves-compassion-focused-therapy-chairwork/44F861B1F0A5CFF9EBA95DDA7894D49E

Bell et al. (2021). “Suddenly you are King Solomon”: Multiplicity, transformation and integration in compassion focused therapy chairwork.

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fint0000240

Steindl et al. (2022). Therapist perspectives on working with fears, blocks and resistances to compassion in compassion focused therapy.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/capr.12530

Pugh et al. (2022). Chairwork and the therapeutic relationship: Can the cart join the horse?

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/jclp.23473

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Transforming Body Image and Mental Health with Compassion | Tom Midgley

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Tom Midgley—CBT and Compassion Focused Psychotherapist, Specialist Eating Disorders Dietitian, and Founding Director of The Body Image Treatment Clinic in London.

Together, we explore the deeply personal and psychological aspects of body image, and how compassion can play a powerful role in transforming mental health. Tom shares his journey into this unique field, offering insights into how experiences of shame, self-criticism, illness, injury, and societal expectations can shape our relationship with our bodies—and how healing is possible.

Through evidence-based and compassion-informed approaches, Tom and his team help clients move from inner struggle to empowerment. This conversation covers everything from the founding of his clinic to practical strategies for building self-worth and confidence in both body and mind.

Whether you’re a clinician, researcher, or someone on your own journey toward self-acceptance, this episode offers hope, wisdom, and humanity.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:15 Meet Tom Midgley: A Unique Approach to Healing

02:41 Tom's Journey into Eating Disorders

04:50 The Birth of the Body Image Treatment Clinic

08:19 Understanding Body Image Issues

12:31 Compassionate Techniques in Therapy

16:19 Challenges and Strategies in Body Image Therapy

24:58 The Role of Compassion in Healing

32:47 Tom's Philosophy and Final Thoughts

52:15 Conclusion and Farewell

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LINKS:

Tom Midgley at The Body Image Treatment Clinic:

https://thebodyimagetreatmentclinic.co.uk/

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Find your spark through safeness and connection | Graham Music

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +1000

London-based psychotherapist Graham Music works in private practice and with the NHS, and has worked at the Tavistock and Portman Clinics for over 15 years. He teaches and lectures on various courses in the UK and abroad, lectures internationally, and has published widely, in academic journals, and edited and sole-authored books. Here, we discuss his experiences at the Tavistock Clinic, his journey to becoming a psychotherapist, and two of his books, Nurturing Natures and Respark (links below).

LINKS:

Graham Music's webpage

https://nurturingnatures.co.uk/

Nurturing Natures: Attachment and Children's Emotional, Sociocultural and Brain Development (Fourth Edition, Graham Music, 2024)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Nurturing-Natures-Attachment-Sociocultural-Development-dp-1032436271/dp/1032436271/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Respark: Igniting hope and joy after trauma and depression (Graham Music, 2022)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Respark-Igniting-after-trauma-depression-ebook/dp/B09N42LBDF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2W4OGKSNAMJ0G&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1I76n_xQUaFX-5rqCL2IHRvqwAMf4WWkdUeWG3nib0jGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.qabVA265fe2oANr1Kypa77SLiAm_iqerI65IxV27L0k&dib_tag=se&keywords=music+respark&qid=1709506493&s=books&sprefix=music+respark%2Cstripbooks%2C261&sr=1-1

Affect and Emotion: A Brief Psychoanalytic Tour (Graham Music, 2022)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Affect-Emotions-Brief-Psychoanalytic-Tour/dp/1739814746/ref=sr_1_7?crid=27322B68Z7VN3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.puLYqF8_gKwhH8XCgQImfuh8rqIsHs2xiCwi0-lmZ6FqFO2GmKgVQ_P1gBqdHdFherbkxx6MJPAQxPgoa1n9cqsSb-D-yG8z-m2sjuxcFNu2Q_fc_BOYPyLbQcFt-46r23QdeP5A5wY9Joj09CyI0sI9bpby3eCJohRIv0j_S8o7iuocG7JZfRkVR2hR2pxZEgIM8vqL3bWLDBri-n3jiTjVeBdEHLlB6Q41gdDfGQo.-N5xvs_UkrWCLUyx5TA1F9ZdBqhNMNMSOtO5-Dep4xI&dib_tag=se&keywords=music+attachment+and+emotion&qid=1709506520&s=books&sprefix=music+attachment+and+emotion%2Cstripbooks%2C244&sr=1-7

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Rethinking Wellbeing: How Compassion Changes Everything | Rory Cahill

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Join me as I explore the transformative power of compassion with Rory Cahill, a passionate psychotherapist, lecturer, and trainer specialising in Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT).

Rory shares his unique approach to making mental health and wellbeing training engaging, practical, and accessible, even for those who might be sceptical. From corporate workplaces to schools and healthcare settings, he discusses the challenges and rewards of integrating compassion into real-world environments.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✅ How CFT can be applied across different settings

✅ Strategies for fostering emotional resilience and self-compassion

✅ The power of integrating compassion, positive psychology, and logotherapy

✅ Insights into the Saldo Wellbeing Platform—a tool designed to help individuals and organisations achieve balance and long-term wellbeing

Whether you’re a mental health professional, business leader, educator, or simply someone interested in wellbeing, this conversation is packed with practical insights and thought-provoking ideas to help you cultivate a more compassionate life.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:11 Meet Rory Cahill: Passionate Psychotherapist

01:49 Defining Wellbeing and Compassion

04:06 Compassion Focused Therapy in Practice

07:12 Addressing Skepticism and Misconceptions

09:22 The Role of Compassion in Different Settings

11:07 Challenges in Self-Compassion and Receiving Compassion

23:17 Balancing Compassion and Wellbeing in Busy Lives

25:49 The Importance of Scheduled Wellbeing Time

27:20 Practical Strategies for De-stressing at Work

28:44 The Power of Small Breaks and Self-Care

29:17 Implementing Wellbeing Practices in Companies

32:54 Introducing the Saldo Wellbeing Platform

38:03 The Role of Logotherapy in Wellbeing

46:27 The Future of Digital Wellbeing Tools

48:26 Personal Insights on Compassion and Wellbeing

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LINKS:

Rory Cahill at Saldo:

https://www.wearesaldo.com/

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Self-compassion and Autism: Breakthrough insights from new research | Chase Sherwell

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Join me on Compassion in a T Shirt as I speak with Dr. Chase Sherwell, a Principal Research Technician at the Compassionate Mind Research Group, about his latest study on self compassion in autistic adults.

We discuss the challenges autistic individuals face with self criticism and emotional regulation, and how compassion focused therapy can provide support.

The conversation delves into key findings, including how self compassion can influence the brain and body and the importance of context in compassion interventions. Dr. Sherwell also shares insights on the need for variety and co-designed interventions tailored to neurodivergent individuals.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to the Guest and Topic

02:07 Challenges Faced by Autistic Individuals

08:09 Compassion Focused Therapy for Autistic Adults

10:47 Three Circles Model and Study Findings

19:41 Compassion Fatigue and Burnout

22:06 Qualitative Feedback and Future Directions

34:57 Psychophysiological Measures and Results

52:10 Final Thoughts and Conclusion

LINKS:

Examining the Impact of a Brief Compassion Focused Intervention on Everyday Experiences of Compassion in Autistic Adults Through Psychophysiology and Experience Sampling. OPEN ACCESS (Sherwell et al., 2025)

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10484-024-09681-y

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Lessons on compassion focused therapy in groups | Clodagh Dowling

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Clodagh Dowling is from a YouTube episode aired on 7 March 2021. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with her released last Friday (7 March 2025).]

"All things start with small steps, and that's a learning in compassion; great things come with small steps."

Dr Clodagh Dowling is a practicing Clinical Psychologist and Director of Psychology at St Patrick’s Mental Health Services. She has learned a great deal from former and current colleagues who introduced CFT to St Patrick’s Mental Health Services where a vibrant array of CFT programmes are now delivered.

In 2014 the Psychology Department introduced a general CFT programme delivered to service users with mental health difficulties. This programme is now in its 30th cycle. Specialist CFT programmes for psychosis, eating disorders and complex trauma were also developed. Clodagh’s clinical work and research are with these latter two programmes. She regularly trains other professionals. She is a committee member of the Irish Branch of the Compassionate Mind Foundation.

Time Stamps:

3.17 Tell us a bit about yourself, your work, your life.

12.24 What is some of the history of St Patrick's Mental Health Service?

15.34 Tell us about your early exposure to compassion focused therapy.

17.53 How do you balance the three flows of compassion as a therapist?

23.23 What are some of your insights from running CFT groups with people suffering from eating disorders?

30.48 What sort of work do you do with multiple selves?

34.44 What has been your experience with the CFT groups for trauma?

43.13 Working with self-criticism and shame in CFT groups.

45.42 Enhancing engagement with CFT groups.

48.11 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their way on their own compassionate journey?

50.43 How can people find you and engage with you and your work?

Websites:

St Patrick’s Mental Health Services - www.stpatricks.ie

Walk in My Shoes - www.walkinmyshoes.ie

Compassionate Mind Ireland -

https://irishcentreforcompassionfocusedtherapy.com/compassionate-mind-ireland

Social Media:

Twitter - @stpatricks

Can Self-Compassion Heal Eating Disorders? CFT-E Insights | Clodagh Dowling

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Join me in this enlightening episode of 'Compassion in a T-Shirt' as I welcome back Dr. Clodagh Dowling, a clinical psychologist specializing in Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) for Eating Disorders (CFT-E).

We dive into the critical role of compassion in treating eating disorders, discussing the phases of CFT-E, the impact of biological factors, and the gradual process of instilling self-compassion in patients.

Dr. Dowling shares valuable insights from her extensive work and a recent qualitative study, highlighting the transformative power of CFT-E in helping individuals overcome self-criticism, shame, and develop a more compassionate relationship with themselves.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

01:45 Understanding Compassion Focused Therapy for Eating Disorders

03:55 Challenges in Introducing Compassion

05:38 The Role of Inpatient and Day Patient Services

07:13 Cultural and Linguistic Barriers to Compassion

10:02 The Impact of Competitive Mindsets

19:34 Therapeutic Approaches and Group Dynamics

32:44 The Importance of Psychoeducation

36:54 Understanding Meal Plans and Hunger Signals

37:11 Exploring Ideal Weight and Set Weight

39:05 Impact of Lifestyle Choices on Weight

39:28 Normal Eating and Psychological Blocks

41:07 Therapy Structure and Skills Development

41:48 Compassionate Mind and Meal Planning

43:21 Group Dynamics and Compassionate Support

43:54 Stages of CFT-E Program

44:51 Challenges and Accountability in CFT-E

44:57 Integrating Compassion in Eating Disorder Treatment

53:55 Practicalities and Flexibility of CFT-E

59:09 Participant Experiences and Outcomes

01:04:57 Final Thoughts and Reflections

LINKS:

Experiences of compassion focused therapy in eating disorder recovery: A qualitative model [OPEN ACCESS] (Mullen et al., 2019).

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/capr.12283

Dr Clodagh Dowling previously on Compassion in a T-Shirt

https://youtu.be/qHC38p6c0b8

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Attachment and relational trauma and tragedy | Kate Lucre

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +1000

Dr Kate Lucre is a Birmingham-based Compassion Focused Therapist and Supervisor specialising in the use of CFT for complex trauma, personality and relational difficulties for groups and individual. She has recently published a paper presenting 12-month outcome data on Compassion Focused Group Psychotherapy (CFGP) for people with personality disorder, and attachment and relational trauma and tragedy.

LINKS:

Lucre et al (2024). Compassion Focused Group Psychotherapy for attachment and relational trauma: Engaging people with a diagnosis of personality disorder.

https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/papt.12518

Lucre and Clapton (2020). The Compassionate Kitbag: A creative and integrative approach to compassion-focused therapy.

https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/papt.12291

Gilbert and Simos (2022). Compassion Focused Therapy: Clinical Practice and Applications.

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassion-Focused-Therapy-Clinical-Applications/dp/0367476908

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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The true benefits of ambivalence | Allan Zuckoff

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Join me on 'Compassion in a T Shirt' with special guest Dr. Allan Zuckoff, a clinical psychologist and expert in motivational interviewing. We dive into the concept of ambivalence, its associated discomfort, and how people often get stuck. And we discover the benefits of ambivalence, including how it can signal the need to slow down and promote resilience. Allan also shares practical tips for navigating ambivalence, such as self-affirmation and exploring core values. This episode is a rich conversation for anyone looking to understand and harness the power of ambivalence in their personal transformation.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:49 Defining Ambivalence

04:36 The Discomfort of Ambivalence

06:25 Ambivalence in Decision Making

08:52 Dialectical Thinking and Ambivalence

13:52 Ambivalence and Uncertainty

27:12 The Cycle of Avoidance and Impulsivity

33:24 Self-Trust and Decision Making

44:27 Benefits of Ambivalence

54:01 Embracing Discomfort and Indecision

54:39 Benefits of Distress Tolerance

55:55 Emotional Resilience and Ambivalence

57:00 Understanding Complicated Grief

59:22 The Role of Ambivalence in Grief

01:03:04 Cognitive and Emotional Ambivalence

01:07:57 Exploring Vertical Ambivalence

01:09:53 Values Card Sort Exercise

01:24:06 Self-Affirmation and Confidence

01:32:08 Practical Takeaways for Handling Ambivalence

01:42:34 Final Thoughts and Reflections

LINKS:

Finding Your Way to Change: How the Power of Motivational Interviewing Can Reveal What You Want and Help You Get There (Zuckoff, 2015)

https://amzn.to/41pHaIs

Allan's recent blog on the topic of ambivalence:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fueling-the-fire-of-change/202502/what-does-it-mean-to-resolve-ambivalence

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Anger! And cultivating compassion to build true strength | Russell Kolts

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Dr Russell Kolts is Professor of Psychology at Eastern Washington University and an expert in compassion focused therapy for anger. We discuss ANGER, COMPASSION AND WHAT IT MEANS TO BE STRONG. And Russell offers TRICKS FOR RESPONDING TO YOUR ANGRY SELF.

Russell has authored or coauthored numerous scholarly articles and books, including CFT Made Simple, CFT from the Inside Out, An Open-Hearted Life: Transformative Lessons for Compassionate Living from a Clinical Psychologist and a Buddhist Nun, and Buddhist Psychology and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: A Clinician's Guide.

But Russell has also pioneered the application of CFT to the treatment of problematic anger. In 2012 he published The Compassionate Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger, based on his work with men in correctional services helping them cultivate true strength via CFT. And he has his latest book due to be published at the end of May 2024, called The Anger Workbook, designed to help readers discover the strength to transform your anger using CFT.

He has other books, a remarkable TeDx talk, conducts regular trainings and workshops…he’s just a legend and an inspiration. See all the links below!

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Russell's TEDxOlympia Talk

Anger, Compassion, and What It Means To Be Strong | Russell Kolts

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QG4Z185MBJE

The Anger Workbook: Discover the Strength to Transform Your Anger Using Compassion Focused Therapy

https://www.amazon.com/Anger-Workbook-Discover-Transform-Compassion-ebook/dp/B0C696SJQ2/ref=sr_1_5?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.rm2Dpe3a5N04XAYA1QXdgIJtMnN-mtrZNa2XJbLNhK6atDLpnoWoGsJwrROWFQ85JWFH3cLR4Z9gtjjCPJJ6TjyRC4sPLDlGpHgeURgPb4gr1RXIftaWGpck6EmryBZYL5qfxggbuGM-y_Xfm8HYBQbd_6Y_v5MdioaNxt4D3e8Yluk88jGNLeiizzopCl7WH85zPItCdZ5D2gfermWApGVBDS0NrE0rRQS2djm9MUQ.Y3mxb2c7qs9j9neM_BuVG08gt3Bfo1m5vxxn1Zo7dCQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1715932491&refinements=p_27%3ARussell+Kolts&s=books&sr=1-5

Compassionate Mind Approach to Managing Your Anger

https://www.amazon.com/Compassionate-Mind-Approach-Managing-Anger/dp/1849015597/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.rm2Dpe3a5N04XAYA1QXdgIJtMnN-mtrZNa2XJbLNhK6atDLpnoWoGsJwrROWFQ85JWFH3cLR4Z9gtjjCPJJ6TjyRC4sPLDlGpHgeURgPb4gr1RXIftaWGpck6EmryBZYL5qfxggbuGM-y_Xfm8HYBQbd_6Y_v5MdioaNxt4D3e8Yluk88jGNLeiizzopCl7WH85zPItCdZ5D2gfermWApGVBDS0NrE0rRQS2djm9MUQ.Y3mxb2c7qs9j9neM_BuVG08gt3Bfo1m5vxxn1Zo7dCQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1715932491&refinements=p_27%3ARussell+Kolts&s=books&sr=1-1

CFT Made Simple: A Clinician’s Guide to Practicing Compassion-Focused Therapy

https://www.amazon.com/CFT-Made-Simple-Clinicians-Compassion-Focused/dp/1626253099/ref=sr_1_2?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.rm2Dpe3a5N04XAYA1QXdgIJtMnN-mtrZNa2XJbLNhK6atDLpnoWoGsJwrROWFQ85JWFH3cLR4Z9gtjjCPJJ6TjyRC4sPLDlGpHgeURgPb4gr1RXIftaWGpck6EmryBZYL5qfxggbuGM-y_Xfm8HYBQbd_6Y_v5MdioaNxt4D3e8Yluk88jGNLeiizzopCl7WH85zPItCdZ5D2gfermWApGVBDS0NrE0rRQS2djm9MUQ.Y3mxb2c7qs9j9neM_BuVG08gt3Bfo1m5vxxn1Zo7dCQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1715932491&refinements=p_27%3ARussell+Kolts&s=books&sr=1-2

Experiencing Compassion-Focused Therapy from the Inside Out: A Self-Practice/Self-Reflection Workbook for Therapists

https://www.amazon.com/Experiencing-Compassion-Focused-Therapy-Inside-Psychotherapists/dp/1462535259/ref=sr_1_3?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.rm2Dpe3a5N04XAYA1QXdgIJtMnN-mtrZNa2XJbLNhK6atDLpnoWoGsJwrROWFQ85JWFH3cLR4Z9gtjjCPJJ6TjyRC4sPLDlGpHgeURgPb4gr1RXIftaWGpck6EmryBZYL5qfxggbuGM-y_Xfm8HYBQbd_6Y_v5MdioaNxt4D3e8Yluk88jGNLeiizzopCl7WH85zPItCdZ5D2gfermWApGVBDS0NrE0rRQS2djm9MUQ.Y3mxb2c7qs9j9neM_BuVG08gt3Bfo1m5vxxn1Zo7dCQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1715932491&refinements=p_27%3ARussell+Kolts&s=books&sr=1-3

An Open-Hearted Life: Transformative Methods for Compassionate Living from a Clinical Psychologist and a Buddhist Nun

https://www.amazon.com/Open-Hearted-Life-Transformative-Compassionate-Psychologist/dp/1611802113/ref=sr_1_4?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.rm2Dpe3a5N04XAYA1QXdgIJtMnN-mtrZNa2XJbLNhK6atDLpnoWoGsJwrROWFQ85JWFH3cLR4Z9gtjjCPJJ6TjyRC4sPLDlGpHgeURgPb4gr1RXIftaWGpck6EmryBZYL5qfxggbuGM-y_Xfm8HYBQbd_6Y_v5MdioaNxt4D3e8Yluk88jGNLeiizzopCl7WH85zPItCdZ5D2gfermWApGVBDS0NrE0rRQS2djm9MUQ.Y3mxb2c7qs9j9neM_BuVG08gt3Bfo1m5vxxn1Zo7dCQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1715932491&refinements=p_27%3ARussell+Kolts&s=books&sr=1-4

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Treating OCD with compassion | Lisa Williams

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of 'Compassion in a T Shirt,' I am joined by Lisa Williams, an experienced cognitive behavior therapist at South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust. We explore the integration of Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) into treating Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

Lisa discusses her journey incorporating CFT into her practice, the importance of understanding early life experiences, and how CFT works alongside traditional cognitive-behavioral techniques such as exposure and response prevention.

The conversation delves into the distressing nature of OCD, the role of compassion in managing it, and practical strategies for therapists and sufferers alike. Essential viewing for therapists, individuals dealing with OCD, and those interested in the compassionate approach to mental health.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to the Episode

01:56 Lisa Williams' Journey into CFT

10:18 Understanding OCD and Its Impact

17:56 Formulating OCD Through a CFT Lens

20:16 Exploring Early Life Experiences

30:59 The Role of Evolutionary Psychology in CFT

37:52 Exploring Compassion and Self-Compassion

38:15 Threat-Based Drive and Emotional Regulation

39:22 Introducing Compassionate Concepts

40:06 Building a Compassionate Community

41:06 Family Dynamics and Compassion

42:37 Challenges in Receiving Compassion

43:27 Daily Practices and Group Activities

47:03 CFT Strategies for OCD

50:36 Compassionate Imagery and Its Challenges

57:14 Integrating CFT with CBT

01:05:54 Resources and Recommendations

LINKS:

The Compassionate Mind (Gilbert, 2013)

https://amzn.to/4hHjvsQ

The Compassionate Mind Workbook: A step-by-step guide to developing your compassionate self (Irons & Beaumont, 2017)

https://amzn.to/4gPMxVL

The Compassionate Mind Approach to Recovering from Trauma: Using Compassion Focused Therapy (Lee & James, 2012)

https://amzn.to/4kdaDNo

Experiencing Compassion-Focused Therapy from the Inside Out: A Self-Practice/Self-Reflection Workbook for Therapists (Kolts et al., 2018)

https://amzn.to/4k0BLyY

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Harm reduction secrets | Nicole Lee

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Professor Nicole Lee is an expert int he HARM REDUCTION MODEL OF ADDICTION TREATMENT. She has described "harm reduction" as "what happens when you take judgement and moralising out of the equation and just look after people." When it comes to working with those suffering from alcohol and other drug addictions, she sees HARM REDUCTION AS AN ACT OF COMPASSION.

Some people are prone to make statements like, ALCOHOL IS WORSE FOR YOU THAN YOU THINK and ALCOHOL MAKES EVERYONE STUPID. There are calls for everyone to STOP DRINKING ALCOHOL NOW and WE MUST BAN THIS! But Nicole Lee reminds us that when these calls slip into prohibition-based approaches, and something more like judgement, moralising, stigmatising and shaming, then they have the opposite effect to that which was (possibly) intended.

Nicole Lee discusses the dangers of TOUGH LOVE and its alternatives. and she gives ADVICE FOR PARENTS, FAMILY MEMBERS AND HEALTH PRACTITIONERS about practical ways to promote harm reduction. She offers a sensible perspective to this difficult area of human suffering. And she does so with profound care and compassion.

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

360Edge

https://360edge.com.au/

Hello Sunday Morning

https://hellosundaymorning.org/

Nicole Lee at The Conversation

https://theconversation.com/profiles/nicole-lee-81635

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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ChatGPT Talks Compassion Focused Therapy… And It’s Shockingly Good!

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 03:45:00 +1000

[BONUS EPISODE]

In this very special episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with none other than ChatGPT for a fascinating deep dive into Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)! 🎙️🤖

We cover everything from Paul Gilbert’s evolutionary model of the mind to why self-criticism is so common and how to actually train compassion as a skill. Along the way, we explore CFT’s unique take on self-compassion, the three-circle model, and the courage required for true compassion. And of course, there’s plenty of fun, a few CFT-inspired jokes, and even a moment where ChatGPT gives us the ultimate one-sentence summary of CFT!

This was a rather surreal conversation—talking with an AI about the science of compassion was both insightful and, honestly, a little mind-blowing! 💡🤯 If you're curious about CFT, there is a lot in this conversation to learn and think about. And if you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to interview ChatGPT as a guest expert, this is the episode for you.

If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more conversations about the science and practice of compassion. And let me know in the comments—what’s your favourite takeaway from this conversation?

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:18 Understanding Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)

01:51 The Tricky Brain and Evolutionary Psychology

04:35 Shaped by Experience: It's Not Our Fault, But Our Responsibility

06:55 The Courage of Compassion

08:51 Misconceptions and Barriers to Compassion

11:34 Cultivating Compassion: Techniques and Practices

14:03 Self-Criticism and Shame: How CFT Helps

17:26 CFT vs. Other Self-Compassion Models

21:14 Compassion as a Motivational System

26:59 Practical Tips for Bringing Compassion into Daily Life

29:14 A Bit of Fun: CFT Jokes

30:26 Conclusion: The Essence of CFT

LINKS:

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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How Nutrition Shapes Mental Health & Compassion | Jennefer D’Aubyn

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 06:00:00 +1000

In this episode of 'Compassion in a T-Shirt,' I explore the intersection of psychology and nutrition with Jennifer D'Aubyn, an experienced psychological therapist and nutritional therapist. We discuss Jen's journey in integrating psychotherapy and nutritional therapy, the psychology behind eating habits, and her research on nutritional interventions for long COVID. We dive into the role of diet in emotional well-being, the impact of food choices on mental health, and how nutrition can be an act of self-compassion. Jen shares practical advice and insights on how therapists can incorporate nutritional awareness into their practice to better support their clients. This episode provides a holistic view on how compassion and nutrition together can significantly improve lives.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:15 Meet Jennifer Dorban: Bridging Psychology and Nutrition

01:42 Jen's Journey: From CBT to Nutritional Therapy

05:05 Integrating Nutrition into Psychotherapy

11:56 Case Studies: Real-Life Applications

20:50 Understanding Long COVID

27:19 Research on Nutritional Interventions for Long COVID

32:58 Exploring Nutritional Support for Long COVID

34:02 Research Findings and Positive Outcomes

35:57 Practical Nutritional Advice

36:39 The Role of Protein in Diet

40:20 Vitamins, Minerals, and Energy

42:50 Nutritional Psychiatry and Mental Health

46:04 Compassion and Nutrition

58:55 Personal Stories and Acts of Compassion

01:04:50 Future Directions in Nutritional Therapy

LINKS:

Jen can be found on LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenneferdaubyn/

Jen’s humorous t-shirt says 'Sprouts are for life, not just for Christmas' and is by her friend and talented artist, known online as Perdita00, who’s Etsy store can be found at:

https://www.etsy.com/shop/supercuteawesomestuf/

Brussel sprouts are little nutrient powerhouses:

https://www.wcrf.org/about-us/news-and-blogs/brussels-sprouts-have-as-much-vitamin-c-as-oranges-and-plenty-of-other-health-benefits/.

The key is in the cooking: Jen's favourite way is chopped into quarters and pan fried with bacon bits and chestnuts 😋

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Understanding Depression and Compassion Focused Therapy | Gregoris Simos

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

Depression can be very painful. We can feel exhausted and helpless, withdraw, and lose connection with others. In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, esteemed psychiatrist Dr. Gregoris Simos discusses depression, understanding intense moods, and exploring effective treatments, particularly through Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT).

About Dr. Gregoris Simos:

Dr. Gregoris Simos, MD, is a professor of psychopathology at the University of Macedonia in Thessaloniki, Greece. He is an internationally respected psychiatrist and a recognized authority in contemporary psychotherapies, including Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT).

In 2022, Dr. Simos, along with Professor Paul Gilbert, edited and contributed to Compassion Focused Therapy: Clinical Practice and Applications. This comprehensive book is a must-read for anyone interested in CFT. Many renowned CFT researchers and practitioners share their insights on the vital role of compassion and self-compassion in psychological well-being. Highly recommended!

In This Episode:

Writing the book!
The nature and impact of depression from the perspective of CFT
The importance of connecting with others
An in-depth look at Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) for depression
Practical advice on seeking treatment and practicing self-compassion

Join us for an enlightening conversation that sheds light on the path to psychological wellness through compassion.

Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more insightful discussions!

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Compassion Focused Therapy: Clinical Practice and Applications (Gilbert & Simos, 2022)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassion-Focused-Therapy-Clinical-Applications/dp/0367476908

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Bringing Compassion to Life with Chairwork | James Hackley

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of 'Compassion in a T-Shirt,' I speak with Dr. James Hackley, a clinical psychologist at the University of Manchester, about compassion focused chair work. We delve into Dr. Hackley's research on using chair work to help people with depression connect with their compassionate selves and navigate self-criticism. Key points include the social mentality theory, CFT's multi-modal approach, and practical steps for implementing chair work in therapy. The conversation highlights the assessment and intervention potential of chair work, alongside client experiences that reveal the deeply transformative impact of this technique.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:17 Guest Introduction: Dr. James Hackley

02:41 Understanding Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)

03:39 Exploring Social Mentality Theory

06:15 The Three Systems Model of Emotion

08:34 The Concept of the Tricky Brain

11:24 Introduction to Chair Work

13:41 Combining Chair Work with CFT

16:31 Practical Applications and Client Experiences

21:29 The Power of Chair Work in Therapy

29:24 Exploring Caregiving and Care Receiving

30:15 Shifts in Mentalities During Therapy

32:05 Client Experiences and Emotional Responses

33:00 Addressing Fears, Blocks, and Resistances

36:16 Introducing and Normalizing Chair Work

38:16 Therapist Confidence and Client Engagement

41:09 The Power of Embodied Cognition

45:36 Sympathy, Sadness, and Grief in Therapy

52:23 Concluding Thoughts and Future Directions

LINKS:

“Seeing Myself Through Someone Else’s Eyes”: Embodying the Perfect Nurturer in Compassion Focused Therapy (Hackley et al., 2024).

https://www.lidsen.com/journals/icm/icm-09-01-021

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Redefining business with compassion | Bruno Cignacco (Must know principles and practices)

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Bruno Cignacco is from a YouTube episode aired on 19 July 2024.]

Love makes business better?? Yes! Not sentimental love, but humanistic love and compassion can aid in employee health and well-being, nurture collaboration with competitors, develop better relationships with investors and suppliers, and increase efficiency, productivity and the bottom line.

Here is a conversation with Dr. Bruno R. Cignacco, a pioneer in compassionate business practices.

Bruno is an esteemed international business consultant, TEDx speaker, lecturer, and best-selling author. With over 30 years of experience, he has advised and trained hundreds of companies on international trade activities and social marketing. His work is driven by a passion for integrating compassion into the core of business operations, transforming traditional business models into human-centered enterprises.

In today's episode, we delve into Bruno's latest book, "The Art of Compassionate Business: Main Principles for the Human-Oriented Enterprise." This book challenges long-held assumptions about business dynamics and offers a refreshing perspective on how companies can operate more humanely, and with humanistic love.

Bruno shares insights on how to view employees as individuals, embrace competitors as collaborators, and foster creativity within a compassionate business framework. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that could transform the way you think about business!

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

The Art of Compassionate Business: Main Principles for the Human-oriented Enterprise (Cignacco, 2023)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Art-Compassionate-Business-Principles-Human-Oriented/dp/1032445432

Dr Bruno Cignacco

https://brunocignacco.com/

Bruno on LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-bruno-roque-cignacco-sfhea-0609317/

Compassionate Leadership: How to Do Hard Things in a Human Way (Harvard Business Review, 2012)

https://www.harvardbusiness.org/wpcontent/uploads/2021/12/Compassionate-Leadership-How-to-Do-Hard-Things-in-a-Human-Way-Idea-Brief.pdf

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Transforming leadership: Bringing compassion into corporate culture | Laura Berland & Evan Harrel

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Laura Berland and Evan Harrel is from a YouTube episode aired on 12 July 2024.]

How can I be a strong leader, and a compassionate one? How can I compassionately motivate people to work towards shared goals? How can I bring courage, curiosity and love into my leadership roles? How can I have the difficult conversations, but also stay true to my values around compassion and treating others the right way?

Laura Berland and Evan Harrel are Founder and COO respectively of The Center for Compassionate Leadership in New York State. They bring the skills of compassionate engagement and action to organisations, teams and individuals through their Compassionate Leadership Certification Training. They teach others how to be strong and powerful, but non-aggressive and non-violent in their leading others...how to do hard things in a human way.

Be inspired by this conversation, where we explore what it is to be a compassionate leader, and some of the examples from around the world: Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandella, Malala Yousafzai, Jacinda Ardern...people who can inspire us to bring compassion to our corporate cultures in our own ways for profound benefits.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Center for Compassionate Leadership

https://www.centerforcompassionateleadership.org/

On LinkedIN

https://www.linkedin.com/company/center-for-compassionate-leadership/

On Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/beingcompassion/

On Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/beingcompassion/

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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What's behind shame? An innocent wish to be loved | Chris Germer

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Chris Germer is from a YouTube episode aired on 16 February 2024.]

“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.”

Chris Germer, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School. He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and MSC has since been taught to over 250,000 people worldwide. They co-authored two books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program.

Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion. He is also the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion; he co-edited two influential volumes on therapy, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy; and he maintains a small online practice in Cambridge, Massachusetts, USA.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Chris Germer

01:04 Origins of Mindful Self-Compassion

01:33 Personal Journey with Self-Compassion

02:52 The Power of Loving-Kindness Meditation

08:26 Developing the Mindful Self-Compassion Program

09:45 Early Challenges and Growth

10:55 Global Impact and Evolution

16:31 Addressing Trauma and Cultural Pain

20:23 Understanding Shame and Self-Compassion

29:58 Exploring the Concept of Duality

32:58 The Role of Contemplative Practice

34:11 Mindful Self-Compassion Program

35:27 Components of Self-Compassion

39:13 Shame and Emotional Distress

45:12 The Innocence Behind Shame

48:43 The Joy of Compassion Work

52:43 Upcoming Programs and Initiatives

55:58 Connecting Through Compassion

57:38 Final Thoughts and Resources

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Dr Chris Germer's webpage

https://chrisgermer.com/

Center for Mindful Self-Compassion webpage

https://centerformsc.org/

The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions

https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Path-Self-Compassion-Yourself-Destructive/dp/1593859759/

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive

https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Yourself-Strength/dp/1462526780/

Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals

https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-Mindful-Self-Compassion-Program-Professionals/dp/1462538894/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Why Do We Fear Compassion? Insights from Attachment Theory | Deanna Varley

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 20:30:00 +1000

In this episode of 'Compassion in a T Shirt,' I have a fascinating conversation with Dr. Deanna Varley, a rising star in the field of compassion research. We discuss her journey and groundbreaking meta-analysis on the fascinating interplay between attachment styles and fears of compassion. Dr. Varley explains attachment theory, detailing its origins and various attachment styles and their impacts on our relationships and mental health. We then delve into the nuances of her research findings, discussing how different attachment styles correlate with the fears of self-compassion, receiving compassion, and giving compassion. Whether you're a professional, a student, or just curious about the science of compassion, you'll find this conversation inspiring and informative. Don't miss our deep dive into this vital area of research and its implications for therapeutic interventions aimed at fostering compassion. TUNE IN for an engaging discussion with Dr. Deanna Varley!

TIME STAMPS

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:13 Spotlight on Dr. Deanna Varley

00:49 Deanna's Research Journey

05:10 Understanding Attachment Theory

15:31 Exploring the Meta-Analysis

20:31 Key Findings on Attachment Styles

44:19 Implications for Therapeutic Interventions

48:14 Challenges and Future Research

50:21 Conclusion and Future Directions

LINKS

A multi-level meta-analytic review of attachment and fears of compassion (Varley et al., 2024)

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886923004002

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Why compassion matters and how it works | James Kirby

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr James Kirby is from a YouTube episode aired on 25 November 2022. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Emiliana Simon-Thomas, which discussed the science of compassion, released last Friday (17 January 2025).]

Dr James Kirby is the co-director of the Compassionate Mind Research Group at the University of Queensland. He studies the effectiveness of Compassion Focused Therapy interventions in helping with the self-criticism and shame that underpin many depression and anxiety disorders. James also works as a clinical psychologist in private practice. This is his first book.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

CHOOSE COMPASSION:

If you would like a copy of James's book, you can find it at your favourite local or online bookstore, or here:

https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Compassion-Why-matters-works-ebook/dp/B0BCN23FYK

THE GIFTS OF COMPASSION:

My book is also available here:

https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Cultivate compassion and find happiness | Emiliana Simon-Thomas (science-backed strategies)

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of 'Compassion in a T-Shirt', I’m thrilled to welcome Dr. Emiliana Simon-Thomas, a leading expert in the neuroscience and psychology of compassion. Dr. Simon-Thomas discusses her extensive research at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, where she examines the biological, psychological, and social facets of compassion. With insights on how compassion improves our health, happiness, and relationships, we delve into discussions on empathy, the evolutionary origins of compassion, and practical strategies to cultivate compassion in our daily lives. Don't miss our conversation about her contributions to the Oxford Handbook of Compassion Science and the Science of Happiness courses. Tune in for an enlightening and inspiring dialogue on how to cultivate compassion and find happiness.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:11 Meet Dr. Emiliana Simon-Thomas

02:57 Defining Compassion

05:47 The Evolution of Compassion

13:50 The Science of Happiness

22:57 Compassion Practices and Well-being

34:17 The Power of Empathy and Joy

34:50 Cultural Adaptations in Positive Psychology

36:51 Community Embedded Research

38:09 Global Impact and Data Collection

44:40 Compassion Fatigue vs. Empathic Distress

51:02 Compassion in a Divided World

01:00:03 Enhancing Engagement in Wellbeing Programs

01:07:25 Final Thoughts and Appreciation

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Greater Good Science Center

https://ggsc.berkeley.edu/

Science of Happiness Course

https://ggsc.berkeley.edu/what_we_do/online_courses_tools/the_science_of_happiness

Four Week Pathway to Happiness

https://ggia.berkeley.edu/onboarding/start

The Oxford Handbook of Compassion Science (Seppälä , Simon-Thomas et al., 2017)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Handbook-Compassion-Science-Library-Psychology-ebook/dp/B075TBH87F/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1OS1XFWO9568Z&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.erbXZK9Kvm5T1KOelgMFh7XouBTrTP15pGJZPNUXvS0.WyrzAo0gmh5FmxDK4LhDgV9bR6g-I9-UQD1MiKezozg&dib_tag=se&keywords=oxford+handbook+of+compassion+science&qid=1734068773&s=digital-text&sprefix=oxford+handbook+of+compassion+science%2Cdigital-text%2C244&sr=1-1

How to approach your perfectionism with compassion | Michaela Thomas

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +1000

“I’m not going to take your ambition away, I’m just going to help you not drown in it.”

Michaela Thomas is a UK-based Clinical Psychologist and couples therapist with over fifteen years' experience. She established and runs The Thomas Connection, and has recently published a couples and compassion book called "The Lasting Connection". Michaela's special interests lie in Compassion Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, perfectionism and couples relationships.

Time Stamps:

2.24 Tell us a little bit about yourself, your work, your life.

5.05 Perfectionism: I must be perfect; self-criticism: I'm never good enough.

7.59 The three flows, or orientations, of perfectionism.

11.14 What is the definition of clinical perfectionism?

14.04 The potential downsides of perfectionism.

18.10 Tell us a little bit about your journey into compassion and self-compassion.

20.55 Fears, blocks and resistance to compassion and self-compassion.

22.01 The "inner mentor(s)" and the "inner tormentor".

25.34 Introducing the "Goblin Self" in compassion focused couples therapy.

28.16 What are your thoughts about guilt in the context of compassion focused couples therapy?

34.20 Working with forgiveness in compassion focused couples therapy.

36.09 The Lasting Connection by Michaela Thomas.

39.22 Where does tolerance fit in healthy couples relationships?

42.14 How do you differentiate love versus compassion?

48.31 Tell us a bit about any current or future projects that you might have on the go.

52.28 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their way on their own compassionate journey?

54.58 How can people find you, and engage with you and your work?

Website:

https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/

Social Media:

Facebook @thethomasconnection

Twitter @ThomasConnect

Instagram the_thomas_connection

Book:

The Lasting Connection https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/thelastingconnection/

The Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale:

https://hewittlab.psych.ubc.ca/measures-3/multidimensional-perfectionism-scale-2/

Finding freedom from self-doubt and imposterism | Jill Stoddard

Fri, 10 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I welcome Dr. Jill Stoddard, a clinical psychologist and author of 'Imposter No More'. We dive deep into the concept of imposter syndrome, explore its evolutionary roots, and discuss various subtypes. Dr. Stoddard highlights the role of self-doubt and self-criticism in perpetuating these feelings and underscores the importance of psychological flexibility and self-compassion in overcoming them. From practical strategies for embracing discomfort to fostering a self-compassionate mindset, this conversation offers valuable insights for anyone struggling with imposterism. Enhance your understanding and find actionable steps to cultivate a successful career free from the grip of imposter syndrome.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction

00:23 Meet Dr. Jill Stoddard

01:59 Understanding Imposterism

03:48 Evolutionary Roots of Imposter Syndrome

06:00 Types of Imposterism

11:19 Benefits and Costs of Imposterism

18:52 Psychological Flexibility and Imposter Syndrome

27:42 The Importance of Insight and Awareness

28:39 Developing Psychological Flexibility

30:26 Acceptance and Willingness

32:36 Practical Exercises for Discomfort

37:45 Understanding the Inner Critic

41:06 The Role of Shame and Self-Compassion

45:12 The Imposter Experience and Marginalization

51:02 Final Thoughts and Contributions

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Jill Stoddard's books mentioned in this episode:

Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career (Stoddard, 2023)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Imposter-More-Self-doubt-Imposterism-Successful/dp/1472148770

The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner's Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (Stoddard & Afari, 2014)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Big-Book-ACT-Metaphors-Practitioners/dp/1608825299/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Also from Dr Jill Stoddard:

Be Mighty: A Woman's Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance (Stoddard, 2020)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Be-Mighty-Liberation-Mindfulness-Acceptance/dp/1684034418/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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Listen deeply to the stories of Aboriginal people | Shannon McNeair

Fri, 20 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Join me in an enlightening episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt where I sit down with Shannon McNeair, a pioneering psychologist and proud Aboriginal woman. We delve into Shannon's professional journey from policing to psychology, emphasizing her dedication to cultural understanding and healing within Aboriginal communities. We explore the importance of deep listening, the multifaceted nature of compassion, and how historical and intergenerational trauma continues to affect Australia's First Nations people. Shannon shares invaluable insights on supporting Aboriginal people, the challenges they face, and how compassion can play a pivotal role in reconciliation and healing. Tune in for a deeply enriching discussion that promises to broaden your perspective and understanding.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

01:06 Meet Shannon McNear: A Journey from Policing to Psychology

03:00 Challenges and Triumphs in Education and Career

06:08 Supporting Aboriginal Families and Communities

12:34 Deep Listening and Understanding in Practice

21:04 The Importance of Compassion and Stability

24:13 Engagement and Genuine Connection

40:31 Self-Compassion and Community

46:16 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Shannon McNeair's website

https://www.mcneairaps.com.au/about-us/

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Wisdom and strength in older age | Rebecca Poz

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +1000

Dr Rebecca Poz is a clinical psychologist and neuropsychologist working for the NHS and in private practice in the UK. She works across assessment, rehabilitation, psychotherapy and education, and has a particular interest in working with older adults, approaching the work through a compassion focused lens. Rebecca has contributed chapters and papers discussing using compassion focused therapy with older adults, including those experiencing dementia or cognitive decline. She is passionate about helping those in older age manage distress, reduce suffering and flourish.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Compassion focused therapy for people with dementia: A feasibility study (Craig et al., 2018)

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/gps.4977

The Evaluation of a Compassion-Focused Therapy Group for Couples Experiencing a Dementia Diagnosis (Collins et al., 2018)

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/07317115.2017.1397830

Compassion-Focused Therapy for an Older Adult with Motor Functional Neurological Disorder: A Case Study (Zarotti et al., 2022)

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/07317115.2022.2130124

Facing degeneration with compassion on your side: using compassion focused therapy with people with a diagnosis of a dementia (book chapter, Poz, 2018)

https://www.taylorfrancis.com/chapters/edit/10.4324/9780429466618-5/facing-degeneration-compassion-side-using-compassion-focused-therapy-people-diagnosis-dementia-rebecca-poz

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Unlocking Personal Growth in Helping Professions | Dr. Kate King

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Welcome back to Compassion in a T Shirt, where we delve into the science and practice of compassion and its transformative power. In this episode, I'm excited to introduce Dr. Kate King, a clinical psychologist, podcast host, and author of 'The Well Helper: Get Ahead of Burnout, Thrive at Work, and Unlock the Personal Growth Potential of the Helping Professions.'

We explore the nine pillars from Kate's book that help professionals avoid burnout and find balance. The conversation is packed with practical advice and actionable tips to foster empowerment, awareness, self-compassion, and more. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your biggest takeaways in the comments below. Enjoy our inspiring conversation!

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:28 Meet Dr. Kate King: Author and Clinical Psychologist

02:07 Personal Journey: Overcoming Burnout

03:06 The Nine Pillars for Thriving

04:52 Challenges in the Helping Professions

06:35 Balancing Personal and Professional Growth

16:32 Empowerment and Self-Efficacy

17:46 Awareness and Mindfulness

19:56 Compassion for Self and Others

30:27 Understanding Relaxation and Stress Responses

33:18 The Importance of Appropriate Activation Levels

34:40 Exploring the Helper Blueprint and Early Life Influences

36:18 Reflective Questions and Their Impact

38:02 The Concept of Worthiness and Self-Worth

42:11 Resilience and Trauma in Helping Professions

47:00 The Role of Connection and Community Care

50:20 Thriving: Defining the Good Life

52:52 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Dr Kate King's website

https://www.drkateking.com/

Noble Mind Podcast

https://noblemindpodcast.com/

Stan Steindl on Noble Mind

https://noblemindpodcast.com/26-stan-steindl/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Harm reduction is all about compassion | Kristin Dempsey

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Kristin Dempsey is from a YouTube episode aired on 12 April 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Drs David Rosengre, Lynne Johnston, and Charli Hilton, which discussed experiencing (and learning) motivational interviewing from the inside out, released last Friday (6 December 2024).]

Kristin Dempsey, EdD, LMFT, LPCC, is a psychotherapist, educator and trainer in San Francisco, USA, working in private practice and at both the The Wright Institute and San Francisco State University. She has recently written a book called The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction: Motivational Interviewing Skills to Create a Personalized Recovery Plan and Make Lasting Change. In our conversation, we explore how the harm reduction approach is based on a foundation of compassion, and self-compassion, and Kristin offers some wonderful insights regarding what compassion is in the context of working with addictions.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Dr Kristin Dempsey's website

https://www.kristindempseycounseling.com/

The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction: Motivational Interviewing Skills to Create a Personalized Recovery Plan and Make Lasting Change (Dempsey, 2024)

https://amzn.asia/d/4kAYblJ

Dr Kristin Dempsey on LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristin-dempsey-ed-d-lpcc-lmft-322812a/

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Motivational interviewing from the inside out | David Rosengren, Lynne Johnston & Charli Hilton

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +1000

Hi, I'm Dr. Stan Steindl, and welcome back to Compassion in a T Shirt. I recently completed Movember and donations are still open to support men's health initiatives (a link is in the description below) - thank you to everyone who's contributed!

Today, I'm joined by three wonderful guests: Dr. David Rosengren, Dr. Lynne Johnston, and Dr. Charlotte Hilton, world-class experts in motivational interviewing. They discuss their fascinating new book, 'Experiencing Motivational Interviewing from the Inside Out,' which focuses on self-practice and self-reflection to deepen understanding of MI. We'll explore the learning model of their book, its practical modules, and hear behind-the-scenes stories from its creation. Plus, we'll dive into how compassion plays a pivotal role in the MI spirit. Stay tuned for an inspiring conversation!

Dr David Rosengren is a clinical psychologist and author of the well-known book Building Motivational Interviewing Skills: A Practitioner Workbook. He has extensive experience in training, research, and practice focused on addiction, mental health, and other behavioural interventions. He is also affiliated with the Prevention Research Institute, where he promotes evidence-based training.

Dr Lynne Johnston is a consultant clinical psychologist specialising in health and medical psychology. She has a strong academic background, including two doctorates, and has been involved in MI training and supervision since 1997. She is currently collaborating with Rosengren on the book Motivational Interviewing from the Inside Out, which focuses on self-practice and self-reflection in MI training,

Dr Charlotte Hilton is a Chartered Psychologist in the UK with expertise in health psychology, integrated care, and elite sport. She partners with the NHS and uses her experience to deliver impactful research and training. Charlotte is a leading Motivational Interviewing trainer, tailoring sessions for healthcare, leadership, and sport. Her work highlights evidence-based practice, self-reflection, and improved organisational communication.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Movember Shoutout

00:21 Meet the Guests: Experts in Motivational Interviewing

02:19 Inside Out Learning Model

05:28 Exploring the Book's Modules and Learning Models

08:07 Practical Applications and Real Play vs Role Play

11:17 Book Structure and Self Practice, Self Reflection

20:46 Challenges and Joys of Collaboration

23:01 Ensuring Safety and Managing Vulnerability

29:03 Empathy and Compassion in Self Practice

33:49 Envisioning vs Empowerment in MI

40:34 Feedback and Future Directions

48:39 Personal Reflections and Takeaways

01:00:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Experiencing Motivational Interviewing from the Inside Out (Rosengren, Johnston, & Hilton, 2025)

https://www.guilford.com/books/Experiencing-Motivational-Interviewing-from-the-Inside-Out/Rosengren-Johnston-Hilton/9781462556298?srsltid=AfmBOorAx0ouXjwi-9yROfRUhd9hFTulXboIBEirS98oX87pGuSAC04t

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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The power of compassion in overcoming shame | Marcela Matos

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr. Marcela Matos is from an episode aired on The Compassion Initiative Podcast, 24 July 2019.]

"It’s crucial to understand that shame experiences are universal, but responding to them with compassion can change everything."

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I revisit a remarkable 2019 conversation I had with with Dr. Marcela Matos from the University of Coimbra. Dr. Matos shares her journey into psychology, focusing on her pioneering research on shame, shame memories, and compassion. Together, we delve into the evolutionary roots and traumatic qualities of shame, its impact on mental health, and the potential of self-compassion and Compassion Focused Therapy to mitigate these effects. Tune in for a profound discussion on the intersections of psychology, compassion, and human experience.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:26 Introducing Dr. Marcela Matos

03:00 Dr. Matos' Journey into Psychology

06:38 Exploring Shame and Its Impact

22:55 Research Findings on Shame

37:38 Compassion as a Buffer Against Shame

43:32 Clinical Implications and Future Directions

55:39 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

How compassion helps us transcend anxiety | Dennis Tirch (And other fascinating insights) [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Dennis Tirch is from a YouTube episode aired on 14 June 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Jodi Richardson, which discussed understanding and managing anxiety and the role of self-compassion, released last Friday (22 November 2024).]

What is the difference between THE BRAIN AND THE MIND? What is CONSCIOUSNESS? Given all of this, WHAT IS SUFFERING? How can cultivating compassion help us to alleviate suffering in both ourselves, each other, and the world? And what about if we focus in on anxiety…HOW CAN WE UNDERSTAND AND OVERCOME ANXIETY USING COMPASSION FOCUSED THERAPY?

Dr Dennis Tirch, Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) therapist, supervisor, trainer and author, discusses neuroscience, ancient wisdom, music, suffering and compassion in this time and space spanning conversation. He reflects on therapy and what it means to be helpful. And he explores fear and anxiety and practical strategies that bring mindfulness and compassion to our anxiety so that we might suffer less.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Dennis Tirch at The Center for CFT

https://www.mindfulcompassion.com/

The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Overcoming Anxiety: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Calm Worry, Panic, and Fear (Tirch, 2012)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassionate-Mind-Guide-Overcoming-Anxiety-Compassion-Focused/dp/B00HTJS494

Buddhist Psychology and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: A Clinician's Guide (Tirch, Silberstein, & Kolts, 2016)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Buddhist-Psychology-Cognitive-Behavioral-Therapy-Clinicians/dp/1462530192/

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Anxiety advice from an expert who knows first hand | Jodi Richardson

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Hi, I'm Dr. Stan Steindl and welcome back to Compassion in a T-Shirt. This week, I’m thrilled to introduce Dr. Jodi Richardson, a leading expert in understanding and managing anxiety. In this episode, we dive deep into what anxiety is, common misconceptions, and how it differs from fear. Jodi brings her professional expertise as a speaker, educator, and author, along with her personal lived experience, to offer valuable insights and practical strategies for managing anxiety in children, parents, and in the workplace. Join us for an engaging and compassionate conversation filled with wisdom and actionable advice.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Movember Reminder

00:19 Meet Dr. Jody Richardson: Anxiety Expert

02:19 Understanding Anxiety: Fear vs. Anxiety

04:33 Misconceptions About Anxiety

10:13 Anxiety in Children: Personal Stories and Strategies

15:55 Parental Anxiety and Co-Regulation

21:43 Managing Anger and Anxiety

34:55 Expressing Emotions Through Physical Activities

36:01 Addressing Anxiety in Workplaces and Schools

38:49 Busting Myths About Happiness

50:46 The Importance of Self-Compassion

55:21 A Personal Story of Self-Compassion

59:28 Reflections on Parenting and Emotional Support

01:03:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Dr Jodi Richardson's website

https://drjodirichardson.com/

Anxious Kids: How children can turn their anxiety into resilience (Grose and Richardson, 2019)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Anxious-Kids-children-anxiety-resilience/dp/0143794957

Anxious Mums: How mums can turn their anxiety into strength (Richardson, 2020)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Anxious-Mums-their-anxiety-strength/dp/1760897744/ref=sr_1_fkmr2_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.3REA85G_ANixZQ3f_IY4WroqFHfpOkLPUqX3q5mkNFzK5HFu41sfkRlA3nnDL3zn5nBgMIBSk-CCmvxLi2pPiYiQnr3qkIF2HGcmvBRt5p4.irtHfQLNAhzb5sPX06QOxx6Iw7E0LzvqXS4m9wBIlvI&dib_tag=se&keywords=anxious+mums+richardson&qid=1732260644&sr=8-1-fkmr2

Well, Hello Anxiety: The Podcast

https://drjodirichardson.com/podcast/

Stan Steindl on Well, Hello Anxiety

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/becoming-our-own-safe-haven-with-dr-stan-steindl/id1585382774?i=1000662412620

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Mastering compassion focused therapy | Wendy Wood (As a compassionate learner) [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 07:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Wendy Wood is from a YouTube episode aired on 28 June 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Kerensa Hocken, which discussed Compassion Focused Therapy in forensice populations, released last Friday (15 November 2024).]

One of my most watched videos is WHAT IS COMPASSION FOCUSED THERAPY, from back in 2020! In this video, I speak with Dr Wendy Wood from The Compassionate Mind Foundation (CMF) about LEARNING COMPASSION FOCUSED THERAPY.

Wendy has a long history teaching and supervising psychotherapy and counselling, and has helped create the DIPLOMA IN COMPASSION FOCUSED THERAPY at CMF. And the diploma course beautifully integrates CFT principles into its admissions, tuition and assessment, so that people can thrive and become part of a supportive community.

She mentions CFT and chair work, trauma, forensic populations, running CFT in groups, masterclasses, case studies, supervision and the role for deliberate practice. For anyone interested in becoming a CFT therapist, the diploma course at CMF is definitely a great way to go!

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Compassionate Mind Foundation

https://www.compassionatemind.co.uk/

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Compassionate insights into human harmfulness | Kerensa Hocken

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

"CFT helps us understand the evolved function of harmfulness...it's not our fault that we have these drives and tendencies to harm, but it is our responsibility."

Today, I'm thrilled to have Dr. Karensa Hocken with me, a forensic psychologist who has spent over 20 years working with people convicted of serious offences. She’s a leader in her field, and today we dive into the challenging topic of working compassionately with individuals who have caused serious harm. We discuss the origins of human harmfulness, the role of CFT (Compassion Focused Therapy) in forensic work, and the importance of empathy, sympathy, and creating safer environments. Get ready for an impactful conversation on complexity, compassion, and change in forensic settings.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Movember Update

00:29 Introducing Dr. Karensa Hocken

02:28 Understanding Human Harmfulness

08:06 The Role of Evolution in Harmfulness

16:20 Forensic Work and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)

22:46 Shame, Guilt, and Compassion in Forensic Populations

29:35 Applying CFT in Forensic Settings

32:47 Building Compassion in Forensic Therapy

33:25 Risk Assessment and Compassion in CFT

34:59 Creating Compassionate Cultures in Prisons

39:04 Understanding Community Reactions to Harmfulness

45:58 Empathy and Sympathy in Forensic Work

53:12 Challenges and Emotions arising as CFT progresses

58:52 Future Directions for CFT in Forensics

01:01:42 Resources and Connections for Forensic CFT

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Find the Compassionate Mind Foundation Special Interest Groups here:

https://www.compassionatemind.co.uk/resource/special-interest-groups

For more from Kerensa and her colleague Jon Taylor, speaking with Professor Paul Gilbert, go here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KvYy_e4SEes

The Forensic Psychology Podcasts:

On Apple

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-forensic-psychology-podcast/id1533101974

On Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/show/6RkkZsEFg8xkooawuXe8En?si=cb0654f577c2442c

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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The simple yet profound question of self-compassion | Steve Hickman [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Steve Hickman is from a YouTube episode aired on 1 March 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Daniel Ellenberg, which discussed men, masculinity and compassion, released last Friday (8 November 2024).]

Dr Steve Hickman is the former Executive Director of the non-profit Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher and trainer, and a Clinical Psychologist by training. He is also a Retired Associate Clinical Professor in the University of California at San Diego School of Medicine, as well as the Founding Director of the UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness. Here we chat about self-compassion and the Mindful Self-Compassion program, as well as self-compassion for men.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Self-compassion for Dummies by Dr Steve Hickman

https://www.amazon.com.au/Self-Compassion-Dummies-Steven-Hickman/dp/1119796687

Dr Steve Hickman website

https://www.drstevenhickman.com

Center for Mindful Self-Compassion

https://centerformsc.org

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Unlocking compassion in men | Daniel Ellenberg

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Join me in this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt as I explore the intricate world of men and compassion with Dr. Daniel Ellenberg. Dr. Ellenberg, a leadership coach and psychotherapist, delves into the challenges and barriers men face in expressing vulnerability and developing self-compassion. With over 25 years of experience, he discusses traditional male roles, the impacts of shaming, and how compassion can transform relationships and improve mental health. Through personal anecdotes and rich discussion, learn how fostering compassion can create significant ripple effects in society.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:30 Introducing Dr. Daniel Ellenberg

02:12 Daniel's Journey into Men's Emotional Wellbeing

05:14 The Impact of Traditional Masculine Roles

08:05 The Importance of Compassion and Self-Compassion

10:34 Challenges in Promoting Compassion Among Men

13:26 The Role of Vulnerability in Men's Mental Health

21:01 Revising Traditional Masculinity Paradigms

27:23 The Complexity of Competition and Vulnerability

30:53 How to Foster Compassion in Men and Boys

33:15 The Natural Movement Toward Growth

34:06 The Impact of Shaming on Boys and Men

35:19 Understanding Real Compassion

38:53 The Theory of Precarious Manhood

43:56 Cultural Differences in Compassion

51:38 The Ripple Effects of Compassionate Men

57:58 Defining Compassion and Love

01:00:43 Concluding Thoughts on Compassion

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Rewire Leadership

https://www.rewireleadership.com/daniel-ellenberg-phd

Strength With Heart

https://www.strengthwithheart.com/

Relationships at Work

https://www.relationshipsthatwork.com/

Lovers for Life

https://www.amazon.com.au/Lovers-Life-Judith-Bell/dp/0944031617

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Compassion brings light and hope | Mats Hogmark [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Mats Hogmark is from a YouTube episode aired on 2 May 2021. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Brendan Murphy, which discussed empathy and related topics, released last Friday (1 November 2024).]

“Compassion brings light and it brings hope into the darkest of stories.”

Dr Mats Hogmark is a medical doctor specialising in general medicine at Darlana County Council in Sweden. He is also a motivational interviewing trainer and member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT). He runs training and seminars on motivational interviewing and communication skills with professionals in health care and social services.

Time Stamps:

3.43 Tell us a little bit about yourself, your work, your life.

6.50 What does your working week entail?

10.07 Feeling safe in the context of a longterm working relationship.

12.19 Sometimes you can form a relationship and create safeness quite quickly.

14.22 Fine tuning facial expressions, body posture and voice tone to express warmth, openness and empathy.

16.59 Carefully choosing what to say and what not to say to help create safeness.

19.06 Dividing the consultation into three parts: the patient's part, the doctor's part, and the mutual part at the end.

20.28 The patient's part involves: Ideas--Concerns--Expectations (ICE).

25.46 A compassionate conversation is a conversation between two experts.

30.37 Taking the lower place, elevating those who we are working with.

35.28 A compassionate outlook towards others, and towards oneself.

36.53 When the clinician's threat system is activated too.

39.27 Considering compassion fatigue or physician burnout.

40.42 How do you offer yourself compassion, how do you look after your self-care?

44.25 Compassion and self-compassion can involve joy.

46.52 A Carl Rogers quote.

48.17 A Bill Miller quote.

49.51 How can people find you or engage with you and your work?

51.03 Three tips for others making their way on their own compassionate journeys.

YouTube Link:

https://youtu.be/SrMs98VTC9U

Email:

mats@hogmark.com

Social Media:

Twitter @matshogmark

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

Feeling into empathy and compassion | Brendan Murphy

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Join Dr. Stan Steindl on 'Compassion in a T-Shirt' for an enlightening exploration of empathy, compassion, and their applied intricacies in therapeutic and daily settings. Featuring expert insights from Brendan Murphy, the episode delves into the multifaceted nature of empathy, including its positive impacts and challenges, the crucial role of eye contact in both digital and face-to-face interactions, and the ethical considerations of Motivational Interviewing. The discussion highlights the importance of self-awareness, the balance between empathy and self-protection, and the nuanced differences between empathy, sympathy, and compassion. Through personal stories and professional experiences, the conversation also touches on creating safe environments for trauma therapy and managing empathy to avoid burnout, offering practical advice for cultivating genuine, ethical, and effective empathetic connections.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction to Brendan Murphy

01:15 Diving into Empathy -- "feeling into"

03:02 The Complexities of Empathy

04:43 Empathy in Practice

06:37 The Darker Sides of Empathy

16:22 The Role of Eye Contact in Empathy

30:13 Empathy vs. Sympathy

35:26 Exploring Compassion and Toxic Compassion

36:41 Empathy Without Sympathy: The Empathic Torturer

38:59 Motivational Interviewing and Compassion

39:50 Boundaries in Motivational Interviewing

42:22 Ethics and Empathy in Therapy

43:29 The Dance of Empathy in Therapy

44:25 Empathy and Trauma: A Therapist's Perspective

53:42 The Dialectic of Empathy and Safety

57:44 Empathy in Daily Life and Personal Boundaries

01:06:27 The Joy and Pride in Empathy

01:11:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

TARGETED PLAYLIST:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Brendan Murphy's website

https://westernconsultancyservices.com/

If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Is compassion a part of schema therapy? | Shay Addison & Lars Madsen

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Shay Addison and Lars Madsen is from a YouTube episode aired on 24 May 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with David Prescott, which discussed building safer societies, released last Saturday (26 October 2024).]

What is Schema Therapy? Are compassion and self-compassion a part of Schema Therapy? Is the Compassionate Self in Compassion Focused Therapy the same as, or a subset of, the Healthy Adult Mode in Schema Therapy?

Shay Addison is a psychologist and director of the Forensic + Clinical Psychology Centre in Brisbane Australia. She has been a psychologist for over 20 years and has worked in custodial and community corrections since the mid-90s, especially taking a schema therapy approach to her work.

Dr Lars Madsen is Clinical Director of the Forensic and Clinical Psychology Center and is an industry leader in forensic psychology, bringing schema therapy to forensic populations in his work as a therapist, clinical supervisor, and trainer.

Join Shay, Lars and myself as we discuss, "Is compassion a part of schema therapy?"

TARGETED PLAYLIST:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Forensic + Clinical Psychology Centre

https://psychclinic.com.au/

Course:

. Foundations of schema therapy for offending populations

. A hero's journey: The forensic schema therapy sessions

https://www.schematherapytrainingonline.com/courses/author/1152602

Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/fandcpc

Instagram page:

https://www.instagram.com/forensic.clinical.psychology/

Shay and Lars's podcast, along with Dr Rob Brockman

Beyond the Crime: A Psychological Analysis

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/beyond-the-crime-a-psychological-analysis/id1709409255

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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Building safer societies with compassion | David Prescott

Sat, 26 Oct 2024 12:30:00 +1000

Join me and my special guest David Prescott, LCSW, in an enlightening discussion about the evolution of compassionate approaches in sex offender treatment. Explore the integration of empathy and a therapeutic alliance in contemporary practices such as cognitive behavioral therapy, feedback-informed treatment, and motivational interviewing. Delve into the complexities and challenges faced by therapists, including dealing with societal reactions, stigmatisation, and maintaining professional boundaries. The conversation also highlights the importance of continuous learning and self-improvement, with insights into using client feedback and the impact of community-driven efforts to end sexual abuse and violence through organisations like Safer Societies.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction to David Prescott

01:49 Historical Approaches to Sex Offender Treatment

04:05 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Its Evolution

06:26 The Role of Empathy and Compassion in Therapy

12:11 Challenges and Advances in Treatment Approaches

18:41 Balancing Risk Assessment and Compassion

26:23 Public Perception and Framing the Issue

32:40 The Power of Empathy and Compassion

33:11 Challenges in Working with Perpetrators and Survivors

34:20 The Calling of Compassionate Work

35:21 Integrating Motivational Interviewing

39:11 Feedback Informed Treatment

41:26 The Importance of Client Feedback

50:26 Self-Care and Compassion Practices

56:35 Safer Societies and Final Thoughts

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

David Prescott's Website:

https://www.davidprescott.net/

Safer Societies Website:

https://safersociety.org/

Feedback-Informed Treatment in Clinical Practice: Reaching for Excellence (Prescott, Maeschalck & Miller, 2017)

https://www.amazon.com/Feedback-Informed-Treatment-Clinical-Practice-Excellence/dp/1433827743

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Awakening to Compassion | Nadine Levy [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 18:45:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Nadine Levy is from a YouTube episode aired on 10 November 2023. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Tony Fernando about his book, Life Hacks from the Buddha, released last Friday (18 October 2024).]

Dr Nadine Levy is Head of the Health and Social Wellbeing Program at the Nan Tien Institute, a private, not for profit, government accredited higher education provider offering courses in the areas of Buddhist studies, health and wellbeing.

Nadine holds a PhD in sociology and Honours degrees in both law and gender studies. She is a committed Buddhist practitioner and is currently completing teacher training in the Insight meditation tradition. As such, she has a particular interest in Buddhist sociology/a sociology of Buddhism and the ways these two paradigms can enliven each another.

She is a researcher with several publications, and is particularly interested in translating research for general dissemination and consumption through various news outlets, such as The Guardian.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt

LINKS:

Nadine Levy at the Nan Tien Institute

https://www.nantien.edu.au/about-us/faculty-and-staff/nadine-levy/

Articles at The Guardian

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/nov/06/try-parenting-the-buddhist-way-drop-your-expectations-and-go-with-the-flow

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/sep/11/if-you-want-to-live-a-life-rich-in-meaning-first-you-must-learn-how-to-do-nothing

The book Nadine mentions, The Five Invitations by Frank Ostaseski

https://fiveinvitations.com/

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Life Hacks from the Buddha: Finding Calm in Chaos | Dr. Tony Fernando

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +1000

In this insightful interview, Dr. Tony Fernando, psychiatrist, mindfulness expert, and author of Life Hacks from the Buddha: How to Be Calm and Content in a Chaotic World, shares 50 practical and easy-to-follow life hacks inspired by the Buddha’s timeless wisdom. We explore how these simple yet powerful techniques can help you quieten your mind, create peaceful environments, and find the calm you need to thrive in today’s hectic world.

Dr. Fernando also draws from his unique experience as a Buddhist monk, blending ancient teachings with modern science to offer a roadmap to contentment and well-being. Whether you’re new to mindfulness or looking for deeper insights, this conversation is full of valuable takeaways to help you cultivate inner peace, reduce stress, and leave a positive impression on those around you.

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LINKS:

Life Hacks from the Buddha: How to be Calm and Content in a Chaotic World

https://www.amazon.com.au/Life-Hacks-Buddha-content-chaotic/dp/1775542394

Buddhist philosophy and psychiatry | Tony Fernando (working at the intersection)

https://youtu.be/Ov9xtUCsQRQ

Helping doctors cultivate compassion | Tony Fernando (What are the blocks?)

https://youtu.be/4mGoEHCeZwo

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Unlocking self-compassion | Kristin Neff (tender & fierce aspects explained) [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]]

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Kristin Neff is from a YouTube episode aired on 31 May 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Elijah Zimmerman from Center for Mindful Self-Compassion released last Saturday (12 October 2024).]

Dr Kristin Neff is a pioneer of our contemporary understanding and approaches to self-compassion. She defines THE THREE COMPONENTS OF SELF-COMPASSION: mindfulness, common humanity and self-kindness. She highlights THE SPACE BETWEEN SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-COMPASSION and also distinguishes self-compassion from notions of self-pity. She offers an OVERVIEW OF THE MINDFUL SELF-COMPASSION PROGRAM (MSC), including adaptations and recent developments, and some TIPS: HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-COMPASSION. She offers hope of SELF-COMPASSION AS AN ANTIDOTE TO SHAME. She discusses how we might start OVERCOMING OBJECTIONS TO SELF-COMPASSION, the common fears, blocks and resistances to self-compassion, not least self-criticism, and WHY SELF-COMPASSION IS KEY TO MOTIVATION.

LINKS:

Dr Kristin Neff website

https://self-compassion.org/

Centre for Mindful Self-Compassion

https://centerformsc.org/

The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen (2.9 million views!)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

https://www.amazon.com.au/Self-Compassion-Kristin-Neff/dp/1444738178/

Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive

https://www.amazon.com.au/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Women-Stand-Claim/dp/0241448654/

Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals

https://www.amazon.com.au/Teaching-Mindful-Self-Compassion-Program-Professionals/dp/1462538894/

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive

https://www.amazon.com.au/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Yourself-Strength/dp/1462526780/

NEFF, K. (2003). Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85–101. https://doi.org/10.1080/15298860309032

NEFF, K. D. (2003). The Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion. Self and Identity, 2(3), 223–250.

https://doi.org/10.1080/15298860309027

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Bringing mindful self-compassion to the world | Elijah Zimmerman

Sat, 12 Oct 2024 15:45:00 +1000

Join me in this episode of Compassion in a T-shirt as I host Dr. Elijah Zimmerman, the Executive Director of the Center for Mindful Self Compassion (CMSC). Explore Dr. Zimmerman's journey in compassionate leadership and the impactful initiatives at CMSC. Discover how self-compassion can enhance community wellbeing and individual resilience, learn about the challenges faced in nonprofit organisations, and the role of self-compassion in leadership and psychotherapy. Dr. Zimmerman shares his insights on maintaining openness, mindfulness, and providing feedback for personal and professional growth.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction to Dr. Elijah Zimmerman

01:40 Elijah's Leadership Journey and Core Values

04:56 The Role of Self-Compassion in Leadership

09:34 Daily Practices and Challenges in Leadership

12:22 Handling Feedback and Workplace Dynamics

19:12 Compassion in Nonprofit Organizations

28:47 CMSC's Initiatives and Future Directions

43:11 The Importance of Self-Compassion in Modern Challenges

49:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Center for Mindful Self-Compassion

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Fierce and radically embodied compassion | Syd Hiskey [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Syd Hiskey is from a YouTube episode aired on 21 February 2021. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Neil Clapton released last Saturday (5 October 2024).]

Fierce compassion, radically embodied compassion, and drawing on martial arts to practice stability, groundedness, flexibility and distress tolerance for therapists.

Dr Syd Hiskey has an academic background in trauma psychology and more recently compassion based therapeutic approaches. He has worked in the NHS as a Consultant Clinical Psychologist, with adult and older adult clients in secondary and tertiary mental health settings in North Essex (UK). He is currently in full-time private practice.

He has practised a wide range of martial arts for the last two decades, originally focusing on Wing Chun Kung Fu (in which he has a black sash) and Mixed Self Defence/Martial Arts (Hybrid Defence).

Time Stamps:

2.36 Tell us a bit about yourself, your work, your life.

12.25 Your journey into compassion and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)

20.33 How do you use Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) in your work?

27.26 What are some of the biggest challenges working with Compassion

Focused Therapy (CFT)?

33.52 Fierce compassion and radically embodied compassion through

martial arts.

47.46 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their

way on their own compassionate journey?

51.15 How can people find you and engage with you and your work?

Websites:

https://www.sydhiskey.com/

https://www.fiercecompassionmartialarts.com/

Journal Articles:

Clapton, N. & Hiskey, S. (2020) Radically Embodied Compassion: The Potential Role of Traditional Martial Arts in Compassion Cultivation. Frontiers in Psychology, 10.3389/fpsyg.2020.555156, 1-5.

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.555156/full

Hiskey, S. & Clapton, N. (2019) Rolling with the punches: The martial arts as a vehicle for personal and therapist self-development. Private Practice, September, 6-9.

Hiskey, S. & Clapton, N. (2019) The martial arts and embodied distress tolerance in psychological therapy. International Journal of Martial Arts, Volume 5, Article 4.

Radically embodied compassion and martial arts | Neil Clapton

Sat, 05 Oct 2024 14:15:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down (and stand up) with Dr. Neil Clapton, a UK-based clinical psychologist with a passion for radically embodied compassion.

Neil’s innovative approach takes compassion beyond the mental and emotional realms, connecting it with the physical body through martial arts.

He is the co-founder of Fierce Compassion Martial Arts, alongside Dr. Syd Hiskey, where they blend Compassion Focused Therapy with the discipline of martial arts, helping people channel emotions like anger into constructive, compassionate action.

In this conversation, we explore the power of embodiment in compassionate practice and how this can transform both therapy and daily life.

Tune in to learn about how compassion can be something we feel, think, and live physically through the body!

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Fierce Compassion Martial Arts website

https://www.fiercecompassionmartialarts.com/

Radically Embodied Compassion Training: Cultivating

Psychotherapist Courage, Distress Tolerance and Compassionate

Responsiveness via Traditional Martial Arts

https://journals.scholarpublishing.org/index.php/ASSRJ/article/view/16285

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Motivational Interviewing as a pathway to compassion and self-compassion | Michelle Drapkin [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Michelle Drapkin is from a recent YouTube episode aired on 15 March 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Professor Bill Miller released last Friday (27 September 2024).]

Michelle L. Drapkin, PhD, ABPP, is a clinical psychologist who owns and operates the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Center, and has worked in behavioral science for over twenty years.

She held various roles as a behavioral scientist in industry, including leading the development and deployment of behavior change interventions at Johnson & Johnson. She held a national motivational interviewing (MI) training position at the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA), and was on faculty at the University of Pennsylvania.

Dr Drapkin completed her PhD in clinical psychology from Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey; and joined the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT) in 2008. She has trained thousands of health care professionals and industry leaders in MI.

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LINKS:

The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want (Drapkin, 2023).https://www.amazon.com.au/Motivational-Interviewing-Path-Personal-Change/dp/164848154X

Cognitive-Behavior Therapy (CBT) Center https://cbtcenterofcentralnj.com/

Michelle Drapkin on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelledrapkin/

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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8 Ways to Hope and navigate uncertain times | Bill Miller

Fri, 27 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

In this enlightening episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I have the privilege of sitting down with Professor Bill Miller, co-founder of Motivational Interviewing and Emeritus Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of New Mexico, to explore his profound new book, 8 Ways to Hope: Charting a Path Through Uncertain Times.

Together, we dive deep into the eight facets of hope—desire, probability, possibility, optimism, trust, meaning and purpose, perseverance, and hope beyond hope—while also examining the delicate balance between hope and fear, and the choice to hold onto hope even in the face of despair.

Professor Miller shares timeless wisdom, backed by science, as well as poetry and quotes, that illuminate the essence of hope and its power to transform lives. We also tackle the concept of false hope, and what it means to cultivate a hope that is both realistic and enduring. This conversation offers rich insights for anyone seeking hope, purpose, and compassion in their journey. Oh yes, we do also speak about compassion!

Join us for a thought-provoking, soulful discussion that will leave you inspired and uplifted...and, dare I say, hopeful!

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Professor Bill Miller's website: https://williamrmiller.net/

Professor Bill Miller's books and resources: https://williamrmiller.net/books-and-resources/

8 Ways to Hope: Charting a Path Through Uncertain Times (Miller, 2024): https://www.amazon.com/Ways-Hope-Charting-through-Uncertain/dp/146255492X

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Through the lens of compassion everything changes | James Doty [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Professor James Doty is from a recent YouTube episode aired on 19 April 2024. This was a highly popular episode and one not to be missed! It compliments the episode with Professor Rhonda Magee from last Friday, 20 September 2024, both guests being San Franciscans.]

James R. Doty, M.D., is a clinical professor of neurosurgery at Stanford University and founder and director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE). He is the author of the bestselling memoir/self-help book called Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart. He is just about to publish his second book, Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How it Changes Everything, which is the main topic of today's episode.

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shit: In Session

LINKS:

Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How it Changes Everything (Doty, 2024)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Mind-Magic-Neuroscience-Manifestation-Everything/dp/1399710966

Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart

https://www.amazon.com.au/Into-Magic-Shop-James-Doty/dp/0399183647

Happi, a virtual mental health coach

https://www.happi.ai/

Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE)

https://ccare.stanford.edu/

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Mindfulness, compassion and social change | Rhonda Magee

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

I have the great honour of welcoming Professor Rhonda McGee, a pioneering voice in mindfulness, compassion, and social justice, to discuss how mindfulness can be a tool for social change.

In this enlightening conversation, we explore the importance of care and compassion, the inner work required to address racism and inequality, and the ways mindfulness can transform individuals and communities.

Professor McGee, author of 'The Inner Work of Racial Justice,' shares insights on how traditional ideas about identity and hyper-individualisation can cause suffering, and emphasises the need for interconnectedness.

We also discuss systemic issues and the historical context of racism, along with the role of mindfulness and compassion practices in bringing awareness and fostering courage to address these deep-rooted challenges.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:14 Meet Professor Rhonda McGee

00:44 The Intersection of Mindfulness, Compassion, and Social Justice

01:54 Exploring Conventional Ideas and Identity

09:37 Understanding Racism, Inequality, and Privilege

14:38 The Historical Context of Racism in the United States

30:08 The Role of Mindfulness in Addressing Social Injustice

45:42 The Importance of Inner Work and Self-Compassion

53:44 Ethics, Morality, and Compassion in Practice

01:01:46 Upcoming Projects and Final Thoughts

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Professor Rhonda Magee's website

https://rhondavmagee.com/ Professor

Rhonda Magee at University of San Francisco

https://www.usfca.edu/law/faculty/rhonda-magee

The Inner Work of Racial Justice: Healing Ourselves and Transforming Our Communities Through Mindfulness

https://www.amazon.com.au/Inner-Work-Racial-Justice-Transforming/dp/059308392X

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Skillful compassion with feedback | Aaron Frost (Warning: it takes courage!) [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Aaron Frost is from a recent YouTube episode that aired on 5 July 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Scott Miller released last Friday (dated 13 September 2024)]

DELIBERATE PRACTICE helps us ACHIEVE MASTERY IN ANYTHING...including compassion! Dr Aaron Frost talks here about a very particular aspect to compassionate action: psychotherapy. And even here, we need to know how to PRACTICE EFFECTIVELY.

In this conversation, Aaron explains WHAT IS DELIBERATE PRACTICE, as well as the four pillars of excellence for psychotherapists: focusing on the client, the therapist, the practice and the business.

Routine outcome measurement, session feedback from clients, reducing client dropout, focusing on core therapist skills...all of this gets discussed in a conversation that emphasises that LEARNING TO LEARN IS OUR MOST IMPORTANT SKILL.

And it is just as important when we are trying to cultivate a more compassionate life.

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Buy the book Creating Impact: The Four Pillars of Private Psychology Practice

https://creatingimpact.com.au/

Get in touch with Dr Aaron Frost

https://www.benchmarksteps.com/

Aaron on LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaronfrostphd/

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https://www.facebook.com/DrAaronFrost

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More effective compassion with deliberate practice | Scott Miller

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I’m joined by Dr. Scott D. Miller, a renowned psychologist and co-founder of the International Center for Clinical Excellence. As the developer of Feedback-Informed Treatment (FIT), Scott has revolutionised the way therapists tailor their practice through data and client feedback. But how does compassion fit into this evidence-based approach?

We explore:

. The principles of Feedback-Informed Treatment (FIT) and why it's a game-changer in psychotherapy

. What is compassion and what does compassion mean in therapy?

. Scott’s thoughts on balancing compassion with data-driven approaches like FIT

. The challenges and potential of integrating compassion into measurable, outcome-focused therapy

Whether you’re a therapist, researcher, or someone curious about how compassion shapes the therapeutic experience, this episode offers fresh insights into the intersection of heart and science in modern psychotherapy.

🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated with more conversations on compassion and its transformative power!

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LINKS:

Dr Scott Miller's website: https://www.scottdmiller.com/

Dr Scott Miller's books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B001IR3LJQ

International Center for Clinical Excellence website: https://centerforclinicalexcellence.com/

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Structure and flexibility in compassion focused therapy practice | Beatrice Baldi [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Beatrice Baldi is from a recent YouTube episode aired on 10 May 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Monique Mithelson released last Friday (6 September 2024).]

We have been hotly anticipating the publication of a compassion focused therapy (CFT) manual, and it is finally (nearly!) here. In this episode, clinical psychologist and PhD scholar Beatrice Baldi, co-author of the upcoming Essentials of CFT: A Practice Manual for Clinicians, speaks about the manual: the way it's laid out, the theory and psychoeducation, the CFT set pieces and optional exercises, and CFT formulations. And she goes on to discuss compassion focused yoga and CFT for diverse populations. See the link to the manual, and various other links and recommendations below.

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Essentials of Compassion Focused Therapy: A Practice Manual for Clinicians (Petrocchi, Kirby, & Baldi, 2024) https://www.amazon.com.au/Essentials-Compassion-Focused-Therapy-Clinicians/dp/1032565543

Beatrice Baldi's website

https://beatricebaldi.com/

Beatrice Baldi on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/bea_baldi_/

RECOMMENDED BOOKS ON YOGA:

Yoga Sutras of Patanjali by Swami Satchidananda (2012)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Yoga-Sutras-Patanjali-Swami-Satchidananda/dp/1938477073/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1E4VB2PVOW1A4&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1l9n_Q74FVMF5SBZjQaxAEftYnyliJkZgTqnR82To44ZNJQ2KPtDqW1E6hocv5xATOMi5TW50ifFqrWOGf6DeMoXIufntnm-zobAQCsO2SUYxAy6mTCNCXP5cn163iUdxYqPVh3mgdVwR9nCkhftOLAjt0n_RUKJjz9ES2VFiqNT_d_OCZKBjLHPh0AbF8j1.aev_jNxDQxVfGsp-S-w5JybhWS6u97P0aHSatRUbEI8&dib_tag=se&keywords=Yoga+Sutras+of+Patanjali+commented+by+Swami+Satchidananda&qid=1714958079&s=books&sprefix=yoga+sutras+of+patanjali+commented+by+swami+satchidananda%2Cstripbooks%2C630&sr=1-1

Light on The Yoga Sutras by B.K.S. Iyengar (2003)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Light-Yoga-Sutras-Patanjali-Iyengar/dp/0007145160/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PMANXN95CESC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.3QaFgYahuJKeVyqMB2Grl_vPs5DAtrHvDtLZHv3z8Cxha5U-YJXUh5X0vPLHBnI2Gp6ne4EMhOBUbDvKtyZ_HR-fk6FGB8K2olmla21W5AmVWaywxsF5bhEXFg_5tmxQYDZ_h2KgNVbIbMRJbe6EGuw0yjwwl25RflzvJMoBxFmcdlAA7UwRZ47nYhcsLI0-KrCr9YXTQjgxTQTRl4A3YJqrUSCFlKJXyZ7t1Abb3Rw.12pqoueaaIae6CTQKVoNKlkP6j8-YGBFmPZyzevvC4U&dib_tag=se&keywords=Light+on+The+Yoga+Sutras+by+B.K.S.+Iyengar&qid=1714958179&s=books&sprefix=light+on+the+yoga+sutras+by+b.k.s.+iyengar%2Cstripbooks%2C359&sr=1-1

Bringing Yoga to Life: The Everyday Practice of Enlightened Living by Donna Farhi (2005)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Bringing-Yoga-Life-Everyday-Enlightened/dp/0060750464/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1CBWOPUHQSHNX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._wLjWv7XqiAPBid7sBNZH4a1Xr_WGKWU8HkYxnV-_pmknFw3AxB661YdP0rvNh3lUz-lrnmJEgVIXUy6jkMV9o_-WLWvCeAYak_nFFhH6oDLxYGOREvkJ0mVMD36tG-pXI-6MvLn6WXVqYzygXwBxcsQ6VG4YZXOYZzMwzsPYDIxBgrfBlyjrt9enRg02rwk7pKgMBua2agzVkFoNw8JJuLRDBqG8FPbGXMfmPoOT7s.8_2jz4Vn5x_rzLAWaKoaE64Tti-PSaZLI7ykivrrE6w&dib_tag=se&keywords=Bringing+Yoga+to+Life%3A+The+Everyday+Practice+of+Enlightened+Living+-+by+Donna+Farhi&qid=1714958232&s=books&sprefix=bringing+yoga+to+life+the+everyday+practice+of+enlightened+living+-+by+donna+farhi%2Cstripbooks%2C324&sr=1-1

The Inner tradition of Yoga by Michael Stone (2018)

https://www.amazon.com.au/Inner-Tradition-Yoga-Contemporary-Practitioner/dp/1611805910/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3C3RR99W567UD&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.wtA9ottgKLi-lp5b4Gw5uEjO2UjstVlsK6pPogh4DyhBA7lYhHJY71gSSW1ATwZyVqCcqmtMtVIbzdL10Qj5ZbrSI1JA_wU777oy_8XZE24NOgbVS2CjYyJHaGe-8o_WZ4i73nw8bjyazFju4DpL8Q.QpT13oYZTyLHoxPGOv9F_ifPITZslRDjtzFeG23CafY&dib_tag=se&keywords=The+Inner+tradition+of+Yoga+-+Michael+Stone&qid=1714958283&s=books&sprefix=the+inner+tradition+of+yoga+-+michael+stone%2Cstripbooks%2C335&sr=1-1

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Neurodiversity affirming care and compassion | Monique Mitchelson

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Join me as I welcome Monique Mitchelson, an Australian clinical psychologist and neurodiversity advocate, to Compassion in a T-Shirt!

In this enriching conversation, we delve into the complexities of neurodiversity, the importance of affirming neurodiverse identities, and the impact societal structures have on neurodivergent individuals. Monique shares insights from her work, her personal journey, and her recent book, 'The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD.'

We discuss the critical need for enabling genuine self-compassion, fostering authenticity, and the challenges and triumphs of self-advocacy within the neurodivergent community. Learn about the growing awareness and structural changes aimed at supporting neurodivergent people in the field of psychology and beyond.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt

00:14 Meet Monique Mitchelson: Advocate for Neurodiversity

01:51 Understanding Neurodiversity and Neurodivergence

05:50 Challenges and Misconceptions in Neurodivergent Diagnoses

10:22 The Social Model of Disability and Ableism

22:20 Trauma and Neurodivergence: A Complex Intersection

29:47 Biases in Therapy and the Importance of Compassion

37:32 Understanding Misconceptions and Barriers

38:13 The Impact of Misdiagnosis and Therapy Failures

38:46 Exploring Neurodivergent Experiences

40:54 The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook

43:40 Challenges and Successes in Publishing

45:16 Practical Tools for Self-Compassion

45:33 The Importance of Diagnosis

55:50 Advocacy and Societal Change

01:01:04 Connecting with the Neurodivergent Community

01:01:51 Final Thoughts and Resources

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Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD, The: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate (Kemp & Mitchelson, 2024)

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Daily doses of self-compassion | Diana Hill [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Dr Diana Hill is from a recent YouTube video aired on 26 July 2024. It is released here as a podcast to compliment the episode with Dr Steven C. Hayes released last Friday (30 August 2024).]

Welcome to Compassion in a T-Shirt! In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Diana Hill, a clinical psychologist and expert in acceptance-based and science-backed approaches to living well. Dr. Hill is the author of The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, a powerful resource designed to help you overcome self-criticism and cultivate kindness and forgiveness toward yourself.

In this insightful conversation, we explore:

.The role of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), mindfulness, and compassion-focused therapy (CFT) in fostering self-compassion.

. Practical exercises and writing prompts from the journal to reduce anxiety, depression, and rumination.

. How self-compassion can improve relationships, boost self-worth, and build resilience, happiness, and optimism.

. Dr. Hill's personal journey toward self-compassion and her professional insights from working with clients.

. A profound revelation about the importance of love as a concept and its deep, transformative power in our work, life, and therapy. Together, we discuss how we should "bring love back" into all aspects of our lives!

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Website Including links to all social media): https://drdianahill.com/

Purchase The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Daily-Journal-Acceptance-Commitment/dp/164848249X/ref=sr_1_4?crid=2MYVKISOTX3WN&keywords=self-compassion+daily+journal&qid=1703460865&sprefix=self-compassion+daily+journal%2Caps%2C241&sr=8-4

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Psychological flexibility and compassion | Steven Hayes

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 18:00:00 +1000

Join me as I delve into the science and practice of compassion with pioneering psychologist Dr. Steven C. Hayes. Discover Dr. Hayes' groundbreaking work in contextual behavioural science, including functional contextualism, relational frame theory (RFT), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Learn about the importance of psychological flexibility for living a meaningful life, the interplay between self-compassion and compassion towards others, and the need for a customised, process-based approach to therapy. Dr. Hayes shares insights on reducing prejudice, handling emotions like shame, and addresses the challenges in modern psychological practices. This episode is packed with valuable knowledge for anyone interested in mental and behavioural health.

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Steven Hayes

02:31 Understanding Psychological Flexibility

04:08 Practical Examples of Flexibility

06:00 The Role of Emotions in Psychological Flexibility

08:52 Challenges and Misconceptions

17:27 Personal Stories and Lessons

29:51 The Complexity of Shame

37:04 The Trap of Self-Judgment

37:44 The Power of Forgiveness

38:27 Embracing Human Imperfection

39:32 The Slow Path to Healing

40:37 The Gift of Acceptance

44:31 Balancing Compassion and Self-Care

50:14 The Importance of Individualised Approaches

55:30 The Future of Compassionate Science

01:06:44 A Call for Global Compassion

01:11:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Helping doctors cultivate compassion | Tony Fernando [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 18:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Tony Fernando (28 August 2024) from the YouTube vault is released to compliment the episode with Stephen Trzeciak released last Sunday (25 August 2024). Tony's original YouTube episodes (released in two parts, 18 and 25 July 2021) can be found here: Part 1 and Part 2.]

"As long as the sky exists, as long as there are sentient beings, may I remain to help and relieve them of their suffering."

"Teams know what are the blocks to compassion, what prevents them from being compassionate, and what are the things that they do that can actually enhance it."

Dr Tony Fernando is a psychiatrist and researcher in Auckland, New Zealand. He obtained his medical degree from the University of the Philippines and his internship at St Luke’s Roosevelt Hospital (Columbia University) in New York.

Tony’s research interests are in sleep medicine and medical compassion. He plays the cello, is a cheap-eats foodie and despite his fear of the water, has swum across the Auckland Harbour and competes in ocean races and triathlons.

In January of 2017, he received temporary ordination as a Buddhist monk in Chanmyay Myaing monastery in Myanmar. He completed his PhD at the University of Auckland, studying barriers to compassion in medicine. More recently, he started a weekly mindfulness and emotional balance programme for inmates at Mt Eden Correctional Facility in Auckland.

LINKS:

Beyond Compassion Fatigue: The Transactional Model of Physician Compassion.

Barriers to Medical Compassion as a Function of Experience and Specialization: Psychiatry, Pediatrics, Internal Medicine, Surgery, and General Practice.

How Do Health Professionals Maintain Compassion Over Time? Insights From a Study of Compassion in Health.

Self-compassion as a Stress Moderator: A Cross-sectional Study of 1700 Doctors, Nurses, and Medical Students.

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Empathy, kindness & compassion: Keys to better health | Stephen Trzeciak

Sun, 25 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr. Steven Trzeciak discusses the concept of a 'compassion crisis' characterised by declining empathy and kindness. Drawing from various studies, primarily from the U.S., Dr. Trzeciak emphasises the importance of evidence-based compassion in healthcare and everyday life. He highlights how small compassionate actions, even as brief as 40 seconds, can significantly impact mental well-being and overall health. The conversation delves into the neuroscience behind compassion, the misconception of 'compassion fatigue,' and the importance of authentic empathy. Dr. Trzeciak also underscores the evolutionary benefit of altruistic behaviour and suggests that much of the perceived lack of time for compassion is a mindset issue rather than a reality.

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:12 Understanding the Compassion Crisis

04:04 Impact of Social Media on Empathy

08:35 The Importance of Serving Others

18:13 Defining Compassion and Empathy

24:29 Compassion in Healthcare

32:48 The Power of Small Acts

43:13 Time and Compassion: Evidence-Based Insights

50:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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LINKS:

Compassionomics: The Revolutionary Scientific Evidence That Caring Makes a Difference.

https://www.amazon.com.au/Compassionomics-Revolutionary-Scientific-Evidence-Difference/dp/1622181069/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.RIRUPyFzq40K03PP47gfih0pQuG34pUTTc-LefDQMtfct9MgxLiD2zfjH4BVpNAe7UovU7DYnxGsvbXX2l6R_-o8rDafCdEVValt9WeQGnMFuVowCa9OXK6_5ZzA5S5j0R9gd7S9s6i9RbcuhE8LA8lQIe68LZIbeKTs-QayhF3MJpa6yfRFbwUkTM5aWmxjXbjow3hE88XORcQCkpgrqhdDB1J3Yi9yGWNf2W_aYeg-uqPHioIOoV-prgk__bMpXE9TllIfUDaE5x0afd29-O8zT_VYhIdyqHM_ITUv91I.95lM44xjl77_D0aA-fffFK8c3VST86HxR7Zrp5_8buw&qid=1723187055&sr=8-1

Wonder Drug: 7 Scientifically Proven Ways That Serving Others Is the Best Medicine for Yourself

https://www.amazon.com.au/Wonder-Drug-Scientifically-Medicine-Yourself/dp/1250809045/ref=sr_1_2?crid=20LC5J4MJJRJP&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UiKwfKV0lOivCgIXuhOHO1rQpxhadY5Rdq5BEdYZn-2ApbBm_MBxK3XJs2KQ0THgK1k0qGTEPODRI1Ar6rI8UQn7_5xNtq2_X7W6enGRNjn2GwhLgFH_zVZ8nsv6FrefuVifDmPz17mr7wL-i42gu0UPVSuL2K_gY1xY7b87mFDmYemcurgn7QLVA5GEntZk84q2yrC7KiasRdFRksnykUhHwmw7DrD_scVUQn0TKHsCSnApD1noc27XFfBHTPLXhQ2YNJoI0o1owGvrP5YbqPXvHubSxsrujXQtb_WO0z4.6J_TzymbfKL9jwxIMWwXnhpXrpKKIl3LltFwTNhRk_M&dib_tag=se&keywords=wonder+drug&qid=1723187124&sprefix=wonder+drug%2Caps%2C237&sr=8-2

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Burnout support and recovery | Shannon Swales [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +1000

[This episode with Shannon Swales from the YouTube vault is released to compliment the episode with Shane Sinclair released last Friday (16 August 2024). The original YouTube episode with Shan Swales can be viewed here: https://youtu.be/GjQ78IbbLOI ]

Shannon Swales is Clinical Psychologist/Telehealth Psychologist in Brisbane, Australia. Her business is called Burnout Psychology Support. Following her own experience of burnout a few years ago, she has become passionate about supporting others with the knowledge and skills to help them thrive at work and at home, through care and connection, to move from stressed out, burnt-out states to wellness and flourishing.

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Expand your heart and mind with compassion | Shane Sinclair

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 10:00:00 +1000

Welcome back to Compassion in a T-Shirt! In this episode, I have the honour of speaking with Professor Shane Sinclair, an internationally recognised and award-winning researcher in the field of compassion in healthcare.

Shane is a Professor in the Faculty of Nursing and an Adjunct Professor in the Cumming School of Medicine at the University of Calgary. His journey into compassion research is deeply personal, inspired by witnessing the powerful effects of a compassionate approach in the care of those facing serious illnesses.

As the Director of the Compassion Research Lab at the University of Calgary, Shane leads a dedicated team working with partners worldwide to improve compassion in healthcare. Through rigorous research, evidence-based resources, and expert consulting, the Compassion Research Lab has become a powerhouse of innovation and impact.

Join us for an enlightening conversation as we explore how compassion can transform lives, both for patients and their families. Don’t miss this deep dive into the world of compassion in healthcare with Professor Shane Sinclair!

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For information about Shane Sinclair, The Compassion Research Lab, and links to articles and other resources, go to https://www.drshanesinclair.com/

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Eight skills to improve therapist effectiveness | Terri Moyers [FROM THE YOUTUBE VAULT]

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 06:30:00 +1000

[This episode with Terri Moyers is released to compliment the episode with Stephen Rollnick released last Friday (9 August 2024). The original YouTube episode can be found here: https://youtu.be/KRkilr1n3ek ]

Theresa B. Moyers, PhD, is Professor of Psychology at the University of New Mexico, where she conducts research on treatments for addictive behaviors, with a focus on motivational interviewing (MI). Her primary interests are identifying the active ingredients of MI as well optimal methods for disseminating it in addictions settings.

Dr. Moyers has published more than 35 peer-reviewed articles and has presented on MI and addictions treatment in 16 countries. She is a member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers. In addition to her academic pursuits, she trains and competes with her border collie in the sport of dog agility.

Her most recent book is with Prof Bill Miller, titled Effective Psychotherapists: Clinical Skills that Improve Client Outcomes.

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Terri's email: tmoyers@unm.edu

Effective Psychotherapists: Clinical Skills that Improve Client Outcomes. (Miller and Moyers, 2021).

https://www.amazon.com.au/Effective-Psychotherapists-Clinical-Improve-Outcomes/dp/1462545351

Depression Anxiety Stress Scale-10: A Brief Measure for Routine Psychotherapy Outcome and Progress Assessment (Halford and Frost, 2021).

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behaviour-change/article/abs/depression-anxiety-stress-scale10-a-brief-measure-for-routine-psychotherapy-outcome-and-progress-assessment/2259B3A2EB360EE3BD007AAFCD73ED70

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here:

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Compassion, empathy, sympathy, & HELPFULNESS | Steve Rollnick

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 18:00:00 +1000

It is an absolute honour and privilege to speak with Professor Stephen Rollnick. Steve is a clinical psychologist and Honorary Distinguished Professor in the School of Medicine at Cardiff University. Alongside Professor Bill Miller, he co-founded motivational interviewing (MI). Stephen's career has been remarkable, spanning clinical service, training people, and researching how to have helpful conversations across various settings and around the world.

Stephen has profoundly influenced my professional journey. His seminal book, Motivational Interviewing: Preparing People to Change Addictive Behavior (1991), was published just as I was finishing my undergraduate studies and moving into postgraduate clinical psychology. My PhD focused on using MI to work with veterans experiencing posttraumatic stress disorder and alcohol dependence, and during that time, Steve and Bill published the second edition of their book in 2002. The third edition came in 2013, and now we have the 2023 fourth edition, Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change and Grow.

In addition to these pivotal works, Stephen has authored and co-authored several other influential books on MI and its applications in healthcare, schools, and sports. (Check the links in the description for more on Stephen’s books.)

Currently, Stephen's twin interests lie in sport and healthcare, with a focus on helping people flourish. He takes on projects aimed at improving wellbeing, togetherness, and performance, all through the lens of motivational interviewing.

In our conversation, we delve into topics such as motivational interviewing, compassion, empathy, sympathy, how to effectively give advice, and the concept of helpfulness—how we can best be helpful while reducing the chances of unintentionally causing harm.

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Professor Steve Rollnick Website

Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change and Grow (Miller & Rollnick, 2023)

Motivational Interviewing in Health Care: Helping Patients Change Behavior (Rollnick et al., 2022)

Motivational Interviewing in Schools: Conversations to Improve Behavior and Learning (Rollnick et al., 2016)

Coaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports (Rollnick et al., 2019)

The Skilled Helper : A Problem-Management and Opportunity-Development Approach to Helping (Egan, 2018)

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From protection to expansion: Cultivating safeness | Paul Gilbert

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +1000

Join us for an insightful conversation with Professor Paul Gilbert OBE, the pioneering mind behind Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT). In this episode, Professor Gilbert delves deep into the heart of CFT, discussing the integration of psychological and psychophysiological sciences, neuroscience, and wisdom traditions, all through an evolutionary lens.

Highlights from this episode include:

The Foundations of CFT: Understanding our evolved emotional processing systems, particularly the threat, drive, and soothing-affiliative systems.
Recent Research: An exploration of Professor Gilbert's recent paper, "Threat, safety, safeness and social safeness 30 years on," and the crucial distinction between safety and safeness.
Memorable Aphorisms: Key quotes from Professor Gilbert that encapsulate core aspects of CFT, such as "The mind is like a spotlight, not that which it shines upon" and "Compassion is the courage to descend into the reality of the human experience."
Threat Detection and Response: Discussing the types of threats (external and internal) and how they activate our threat system.
Safety vs. Safeness: Unpacking the differences between safety (protection) and safeness (expansion and freedom), and how cultivating social safeness can improve mental and physical health.
Self-Criticism and Safety Behaviours: How self-criticism can be a form of safety seeking behaviour and its impact on our well-being.
Social Safeness and Attachment: The role of social signals in promoting a sense of safeness and the challenges of cultivating this for those with trauma or neglect.
Guilt and Compassion: The evolution of guilt as a prosocial emotion and its relationship to safeness and social affiliation.
Integrating Sciences: The importance of an integrated biopsychosocial approach in psychotherapy and the implications for therapists.

Professor Gilbert also shares where you can find more of his work and the upcoming Compassionate Mind Foundation conference.

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

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Threat, safety, safeness and social safeness 30 years on: Fundamental dimensions and distinctions for mental health and well-being

Caring and the Evolution of Guilt: A Biopsychosocial Approach to a Pro-Social Emotion

An Evolution- and Compassion-Informed Biopsychosocial Approach to the Challenge of Building an Integrated Science for Psychotherapy

Compassionate Mind Foundation

Links to all of Paul Gilbert’s books (and many other helpful resources) can be found at the CMF website at the ‘resources’ link

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here.

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YOUTUBE LINK URL:

https://youtu.be/w6FLW1o_wI4

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Examining the effectiveness of compassion focused therapy | Niki Petrocchi

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +1000

Dr Nicola Petrocchi, psychologist and psychotherapist trained at APC-SPC, holds a doctorate in Psychology and Social Neurosciences at La Sapienza University and a visiting scholarship at Boston University where he carried out an experimental study on Loving Kindness Meditation with depressed patients under the supervision of Professor Stefan Hofman.

After more than 8 years of collaboration and continuous training with Professor Paul Gilbert (creator of CFT), Niki founded Compassionate Mind Italia, the only Italian association recognised by the English foundation (Compassionate Mind UK) for the diffusion, research and training in Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT).

Nicola is trainer and supervisor of CFT, translator and editor of Paul Gilbert's book Compassion Focused Therapy, Distinctive Features, and collaborator with Paul Gilbert in conducting training courses in Italy and England, and in numerous research projects investigating heart rate variability (HRV) as a physiological index of the activation of compassion.

Niki is the author of numerous articles and chapters in the international arena and, together with James Kirby and Beatrice Baldi, author of the first CFT practice guide, Essentials of Compassion Focused Therapy: A Practice Manual for Clinicians (2023). Niki is also the lead author on a recent meta-analysis of compassion focused therapy randomised controlled trials, which is the topic of our conversation today!

TIME STAMPS:

3:15 Dr Petrocchi's journey to compassion

24:54 An explainer of meta-analysis

38:02 The main findings: Effectiveness of CFT with negative outcomes, depression, self-criticism and compassion

47:21 Moderator effects for negative outcomes

1:06:00 Moderator effects for depression

1:12:38 Moderator effects for self-criticism

1:18:01 Moderator effects for compassion

1:27:58 Exploring heterogeneity and tests of significance

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Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

The impact of compassion-focused therapy on positive and negative mental health outcomes: Results of a series of meta-analyses. (Petrocchi et al,, 2023)

Essentials of Compassion Focused Therapy: A Practice Manual for Clinicians (Petrocchi, Kirby, and Baldi, 2023)

The Current and Future Role of Heart Rate Variability for Assessing and Training Compassion (Kirby, Doty, Petrocchi, and Gilbert, 2017)

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here.

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YOUTUBE VIDEO URL:

https://youtu.be/_q2qaoTzGm8

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Great work being done by people all over the world | James Kirby

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +1000

In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I welcome Associate Professor James Kirby, a leading figure in compassion research. James Kirby combines his extensive experience as a clinical psychologist and researcher to offer unique insights into the science and art of compassion.

Drawing from his extensive research, as well as his recent book, Choose Compassion, James discusses a plethora of recent advances in the science of compassion, some of the most interesting findings in others' research as well as his own, considerations around men and compassion, and much more.

We also discuss the transition that is underway from our podcast collaboration--The Compassion Initiative Podcast--and our move towards separate projects: my move to consolidating Compassion in a T-Shirt into a YouTube channel and podcast, and his move towards transforming our previous podcast into the Compassionate Mind Research Group Podcast.

James is an Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at The University of Queensland and an Honorary Associate Professor at the Centre for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University. He co-directs the Compassionate Mind Research Group and is a recognised expert featured on radio, podcasts, articles, and television.

Join us as we delve into the transformative power of compassion with someone who truly understands its depth and breadth. Don't miss this enlightening conversation with Associate Professor James Kirby!

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Compassionate Mind Research Group

Choose Compassion: Why it matters and how it works (Kirby, 2022)

Essentials of Compassion Focused Therapy: A Practice Manual for Clinicians (Petrocchi, Kirby, & Baldi, 2024)

Social rank and compassion: How insecure striving, social safeness and fears of compassion mediate the relationship between masculinity, depression and anxiety (Kirby, Day, & Gilbert, 2024)

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here.

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YOUTUBE VIDEO URL:

https://youtu.be/TvNk9HttylM

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Compassion in a T-Shirt Trailer

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +1000

Welcome to Compassion in a T-Shirt, a podcast exploring the science and practice of compassion. Offers clear and practical advice on how to cultivate compassion and self-compassion from experts in the field.

Life can be difficult, and this podcast is designed to help.