Now, imagine treating as a superpower to deal with internalized trauma.it

If left unchecked, it can be embraced as an identity that negatively impacts how we show up and who we show up as in our relationships, platonic, romantic, professional, and otherwise.

Based on the article, Built to Endure, Not to Last

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I honestly would not.

We often torture ourselves in the present for something we didn’t know or have the capacity to do differently in the past.

I know I have, and I wasted a lot of time doing it.

Even if you willingly went into a situation “wrong and strong” you were operating based on the knowledge and tools (or lack thereof) that you had available to you then.

Time, experience, and failures often wisen us up. Then we take what we learn and chastise our former, non-existent selves. Overlooking the obvious: those experiences are what created the learning and wisdom that benefits you now.

Yes, it may have sucked. But you don’t suck, and those things don't exist anymore, except in your mind. Give your previous self a break and thank them for teaching you the lessons you now know.

Listen to the episode to learn grace and forgiveness, for yourself.

Based on the article, Too Much Pomade, Not Enough Waves

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Before I got grown and started losing grown-up things, I lost something more precious as a child — my sense of self.

This is a prequel narration of sorts. My beginnings that led to Seasons 1-4 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide™️: an only child's very early fight for purpose, meaning, and self-esteem in the face of being seen but not heard, teased by classmates, and taught old-time religion.

Based on the article, God Lives in the Ceiling

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After a nearly four-year hiatus, The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide™️ is back, revisiting the old and sharing the new on life and lessons learned from the wilderness of post-divorce, love, dating, parenting, living, grief, and growing.

Season 5, "The Seasoning," debuts Friday, March 6, 2026.

Seasons change as do situations. Life is a mixed bag of peaks and valleys. The thing about life is that it isn’t fair and doesn’t care about what you’re going through or whatever relationship issues you may be having when it decides that it isn’t going to be fair. In this episode, life moves in the direction of the real where being grown will truly be tested.

This episode is dedicated to the memory of Jobe Leon Payne, my father. To learn more about his groundbreaking work in the medical and healthcare education and donate to the foundation named in his honor that will continue to advance his legacy of scholarship and servant leadership, please visit: jobepaynefoundation.org

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Good things are in store. Stay in touch and visit the official website datingafterdivorce.guide to sign up for updates.

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1. respond happily and pick up where you left off.
2. ignore it and possibly block them.
3. run like the wind.
4. break your phone, then change your number.
5. Some of the above.
6. None of the above.

In Episode 8 of Season 4, the Past makes a surprise appearance in my life while I navigate a new career opportunity, my singleness, am uncomfortable walk down social media memory lane, and my growing hypocrisy as it relates to one person in particular. Topics covered in this episode: managing expectations in relationships and managing emotions because of and despite past and present traumas.

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This episode is in loving and brotherly memory of Hasan Jelani Durley [July 6, 1974 - January 31, 2022] Learn more: https://www.gofundme.com/f/hasan-durley-love-offering

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You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch

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A Life of Regret

What if you could do it all over again or do things differently? Would you escape failure? Would you circumvent pain? Would you still be married? Would you be better at dating? Would you be happier? Do you truly know that if you handled “things” whatever those things are (love, communication, your emotions) things would’ve gone any differently?

How would you know? How could you know?

How to Overcome Regret In Love, Life, and Everything Else

In Episode Six of Season Four of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, the question of “what if” comes up when I get triggered after stumbling upon an artifact from my past. What if I had handled it all differently? Would I have gotten married? Would I be dating after divorce? Would I have more children?

This episode goes deep to address:

1. Why not having an opinion can be dangerous
2. What happens when a woman can’t rely on a man
3. Why doing something is better than doing nothing
4. Why the past and all its failures and shortcomings will always be a prison if you allow it to be, and
5. How to spin “What if?” from a question that can imprison you in regret into a personal challenge that puts you in charge of your life.

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André 3000 made a choice of with whom he wanted to be in his opening verse of Int'l Players Anthem. How many of us are choosing what we want versus going with what is right in front of us, what is within reach, what is easy, or what appears to yield results with the least amount of effort or risk...to our egos? Rejection is REAL and it cuts like a knife. No judgments here for not wanting to deal with it. But during the events of this episode, I learn to face it head-on.

The ability to choose is a powerful asset to have in your dating/love and happiness toolkit. In this episode, I share why it is of the utmost importance that YOU choose at every stage of the dating experience, most importantly, the beginning; what happens when you don't; and a simple mindset shift that will help you leverage your past setbacks, failures, and pain to propel you forward through any challenge that comes your way. After all, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

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Episode 6 is coming soon!

Episode Hot Takes:

1. Emotional Desire versus Physical Desire vs. Chemistry
2. What to do when it's you not them
3. As always, the gift of the cold hard truth and learning how to be honest with yourself and your feelings, despite the urgings of others
4. Pretty is, but pretty so what?
5. Learning how to exercise grace rather than "winning"
6. Why unfollowing on social media matters (it doesn't)
7. Acknowledging pain and talking honestly about it with God

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To My First-Time Listeners: Thank you for listening! If you want to truly know what's going on you need to go back to Season One, Episode One, because that is where the story starts.

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TRANSCRIPT:

Dating In My Forties, by Eric Payne

By the time you read this, I will be nearing my fiftieth year on this planet though most mistake me for an old thirty-five or a young thirty-eight. When making conversation with strangers in public places such as gas stations, grocery stores, and parks, I’m struck when people either my age or younger occasionally address me as “young man.” I make no effort to correct them. Instead, I appreciate that life has been kind to my appearance, everything considered. I have two children — a twenty-six-year-old son and a fifteen-year-old daughter who is wise beyond her years, as most teenage girls are. On paper, I have joint custody of the youngest with their mother. But honestly, it’s often hard to think of myself as anything other than a single father. I’m the only adult in my house. When my life as Dad challenges and stretches me, no one is there to guide me with that needed woman’s touch — to let me know I’ve said too little or too much or am applying too much pressure or not enough. Of course, my ex-wife is only a phone call away, but in these moments, there is no teammate present to step in to catch my fumble, run the ball for me when I’m headed straight into interference, or tell me to take a seat so she can do her thing. At least, that is what I believe should happen in the moments when I’m out of ideas and patience...

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Episodes are biweekly. See you again soon!

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Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

1. What to do when co-parenting goes all the way wrong
2. Desire versus capacity
3. Freedom from the thoughts and opinions of others
4. The gift of the cold hard truth
5. Correction versus protection
6. Remembering your value and what you owe others

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Ms. Lauryn Hill has the right idea on the new track, NOBODY where she spits facts about her growth alongside Nas. There is nothing more joyful and liberating than learning and loving yourself along the way.

Season 4 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide begins August 26, 2021. The escapades continue as does the growth, self-awareness, peace, and self-love that comes when you look inward versus outward when you are met with unexpected and often undesirable events. 

Stay tuned for a chance to join me live for an Episode One “After-Party”. 

And please follow the playlist so you stay up to date on all the music that powers the podcast here: https://epayne.me/playlist

From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself. 

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EPISODE TOPICS:

1. Why acting based on your emotions rather than sound judgment is never a good idea in any relationship.
2. Why it’s okay to want what you want.
3. That you can and in some instances should elevate yourself above your circumstances.
4. Why it’s necessary to have “space” in relationships, no matter what.

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You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch

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Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care

Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

Get poems featured in Season 3 here: http://epayne.me/poetrybook

Episode 7 poetry is adapted from Love Rain by Jill Scott (Miss Jill)

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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne, for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over and through emotional hills and valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

EPISODE TOPICS:

(00:14) Act 1: Acting out of Anger and Living in Echo Chambers

1. Stuck in someone else's pain
2. Why revenge doesn't work
3. Mistakes versus evil and why your pain doesn't make you special

(06:54) Act 2: Revenge and Its Various Forms

1. How revenge plays out in emotional matters
2. Why you need to be honest with your accountability tribe no matter what
3. Why revenge is a waste of time
4. Who actually suffers when you seek revenge

(17:24) Act 3: Revenge Sex - Setting the Trap and Creating the Bait

1. There was really no way for this to end well, but at the time, I simply did not care.

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You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch

Sign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care

Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

Get poems featured in Season 3 here: http://epayne.me/poetrybook

Episode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper Beats

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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne, for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over and through emotional hills and valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

See below for the episode acts and topics and their timestamps:

(01:15) Act 1: Creating Love In New Orleans

(06:59) Act 2: All That Glitters Ain't Gold: Mentorship, Creating Tribes, and Listening to Advice

1. Mentors don't have to be just for your business and your career
2. The types of people you should have in your tribe
3. Emotional intelligence is key to being mentored successfully
4. What to do when good advice is something you don't want to hear

(13:48) Act 3: When the Truth Comes Home to Roost

1. Why you need people in your corner to help you handle the truth
2. What to do and what not to do when someone is showing you who they are

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Episode Poem, "'Bout to Burst": http://epayne.me/poetrybook

You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch

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Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care

Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

Episode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper Beats

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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

(03:47) Act 1: Dealing With Rejection

1. How rejection can manifest negatively in your life such as imposter syndrome
2. A better way to view rejection and use it as a springboard for success

(10:18) Act 2: The Power of Being Alone

1. Using solitude to your advantage
2. Understanding the paradox of people-pleasing and ways to go about breaking the codependent need to please others
3. and why you should

(15:10) Acts 3 & 4: Acceptance is a Hell of a Drug

1. Reconnecting with old friends over the miles and the years
2. The damage and dangers of living in denial and keeping secrets a.k.a. ignoring the truth
3. The power of being present, accepting your circumstances for what they are, and what this means

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Resources from the Episode :

This episode's poem, As the Drip Drops, can be found here: http://epayne.me/poetrybook

You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch

Sign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care

Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

Some episode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper Beats

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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

Just a regular Tuesday in the life of your host, the Divorced Dillinger.

Episode topics:

1. Game recognize game - learning when to count your losses and move on
2. Getting your swagger/groove/good juju back
3. What determines your value as a person and in dating
4. What to do as a man when you want to date but have limited (little) money

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EPISODE LINKS:

Eric on the "Spin Bike": http://www.instagram.com/p/CKV-EFDh3H3/

The poem, Tapestry: http://epayne.me/poetrybook

You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! https://epayne.me/podmerch

Sign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care

Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

Support the show: https://cash.app/$epayne

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4. Don't forget to use the hashtag: #datingafterdivorce

Oh boy...

Episode topics:

1. Instagram, the pros and cons of the app
2. Instagram, the source of much emotional and mental stress
3. Instagram as a dating app, what to do and what not to do (aka "Instagram Hunting")
4. How to shoot your shot on Instagram

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EPISODE LINKS:

The poem, A Passing Want: http://epayne.me/poetrybook

You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! https://epayne.me/podmerch

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Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA

Support the show: https://cash.app/$epayne

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4. Don't forget to use the hashtag: #datingafterdivorce

Episode topics:

1. The Afterglow from C-Sweet Lady
2. Fighting with the Ex, Part One
3. Fighting with the Ex, Part Two
4. Learning to Forgive - Forgiveness Is a Process
5. Birthday Self-Love and Self-Care
6. The Pros and Cons of Being a Hodaddy

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EPISODE LINKS:

The poem, Crash & Burn of a Hopeless Romantic: http://epayne.me/poetrybook

You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! https://epayne.me/podmerch

Sign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care

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4. Don't forget to use the hashtag: #datingafterdivorce

In Season 3, Eric deals with: 

• acceptance
• true forgiveness
• lust versus love
• the power of rejection
• knowing better and ultimately doing better

#datingafterdivorce

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Links For Ya: 

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• If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Please do so you won't miss an episode. 
• If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. 
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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

Despite what your 2020 may or may not have been, MAKE the effort TODAY to be better and greater than you were yesterday. By doing this you will be like a stone thrown into a lake creating a ripple effect for good in the lives of everyone around you. 

In this bonus episode, I look back on a transformative year then turn the page, leaping forward with tools and tips to transform yourself moving forward, in love and life. 

This episode covers:

• Acting out of your pain.
• Assessing where you are, emotionally.
• Choices that make a difference in YOUR life.

Happy New Year. Be great. Be safe. Stay safe.

E

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Links You'll Like 

My farewell to 2020: https://www.instagram.com/p/CJbTWYfB4_H/

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• If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Please do so you won't miss an episode. 
• If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. 
• And if you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review. Why 5? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give me the chance to share my content with people who will benefit from it.

About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

Listen in for a very special Happy Birthday bonus episode where I go behind the scenes of the podcast to share how it's produced, the music that drives it, and of course, talk about relationship stuff.

Featuring music by Epik The Dawn.

Thank you for listening! Please subscribe and share with a couple of your good friends.

Now available on Vurbl at https://vurbl.com/station/7u0IdgUP3oW/

About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne, me, for the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, arguably the best relationship podcast on the Internet, rated 5-Stars on Apple Podcasts a Black Podcasting Awards 2020 nominee for Best Relationship Podcast. I take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys of navigating dating life as a divorced man and living life brand new in my forties. I don't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and I'm not afraid to call myself out when I'm the one being messy.

For behind-the-scenes content, follow me on Instagram: @ericlpayne

For exclusive content subscribe to my Patreon page: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

Episode Music: Wig Split by Epik the Dawn

If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Please do so you won't miss an episode.

About the Podcast

About the Podcast

Black Podcast Awards 2020 Nominee for "Best Relationship Podcast"

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne, me, for the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, arguably the best relationship podcast on the Internet, rated 5-Stars on Apple Podcasts a Black Podcasting Awards 2020 nominee for Best Relationship Podcast. I take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys of navigating dating life as a divorced man and living life brand new in my forties. I don't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and I'm not afraid to call myself out when I'm the one being messy.

For behind-the-scenes content, follow me on Instagram: @ericlpayne

For exclusive content subscribe to my Patreon page: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

Black Podcast Awards 2020 Nominee for Best Relationship Podcast

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Be sure to listen to until the end for fan tributes and a very special tribute.

Episode Music:

"Orange Cream" & "Not Quite" by Epik The Dawn

"Food for Your Neo Soul" by SERFmusic

Cutting and scratching by Eric Payne

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

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Episode Music: "No Luck" by Epik The Dawn

If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss an episode.

About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

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If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss an episode.

About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

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1. Putting your ex-wife on Do Not Disturb
2. HBCUs
3. Creating a spreadsheet to evaluate prospective dates
4. Breaking soul ties
5. Experiencing joy
6. Being your own boss at someone else's job
7. The power of choice and the dangers that come with
8. The lies we tell ourselves to get through our pain and our days
9. and some great music from Temper

And someone from Season One reemerges with new energy (insert dramatic sound effect) before it's all over.

Info about the gray wolf via The National Wildlife Federation.

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About the Podcast:

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a biweekly, serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of a man in his forties - faced with the challenge of starting over after divorce - and navigating the treacherous landscape of dating in the Age of the Internet and the era of smartphones.

This is a podcast about real life! It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all, it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned.

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About the Podcast:

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a biweekly, serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of a man in his forties - faced with the challenge of starting over after divorce - and navigating the treacherous landscape of dating in the Age of the Internet and the smartphone. 

This is a podcast about real life! It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. 

1. his ex-wife texting him a whole lot more than he'd like,
2. showing up late for dates, and
3. learning what to share and what not to share when meeting new people

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Visit DatingAfterDivorceSoundtrack.com and sign up for updates to hear the music that both inspired and was often played during the events described on the podcast (you can't hear them here because I'm not trying to get sued).

Download your Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheet pack, please visit epayne.me/self-care It makes a great companion to the above meditation.

To learn more about the show visit datingafterdivorce.guide and please, follow me on Instagram @ericlpayne to see what I'm up to behind the scenes.

Have a question for me? Click here and ask away or email me at info[at]datingafterdivorce[dot]guide. I may feature it as a topic in a future episode.

Episode 3 arrives this Thursday, 05.07.2020.

But Eric is still new on his journey into middle-aged, single life. He is contending with self-image a.k.a. his weight, and temptation awaits him around every corner — even at a birthday party.

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PS - It's for everyone.

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In this episode he addresses:

1. being a divorced dad
2. living an expectation-free life
3. what it means to be a leader
4. self-care and health and wellness

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Download your Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheet pack, please visit epayne.me/self-care It makes a great companion to the above meditation.

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Emotional pain pierces like small, constant drops of water. It's a dull beating that wears a path through you destroying everything in its path and leaving very little behind. Eric carries his pain as best he can — to the point of thinking he can keep it to himself, until he can't.

Season 2, Season of the Wolf, begins April 9th, 2020.

Please, subscribe and share with a friend.

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Today's episode features You Are Worthy: A Guided Meditation for the Divorced, The Downtrodden and Those Who Are Down on Their Luck. Given our current collective experiences, nationally and globally, this meditation is for all as we cope with the COVID19 pandemic. I hope and pray that this 10 minute exercise will be a help to you or something you can pass along to someone in need.

Additionally, download your Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheet pack, please visit http://epayne.me/self-care It makes a great companion to today's meditation.

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Today's Monday Motivation comes on a Tuesday. In this episode, I'm talking about creating quality time for ourselves now that we are in the Time of Coronavirus.

Depending on where you are in the world, you may be days or weeks into self-isolating and quarantine due to the COVID-19 outbreak. Work-life and school life have moved home, you have more time on your hands than you did a month ago, and you're now sharing space with people who before now, you mostly saw only in the evenings and on the weekends. You're doing the dang thing keeping it together for all parties involved. I sincerely applaud you. But what are you doing for yourself beyond catching up on Netflix?

Are you creating a structured time to help YOU get through this and be a better parent, spouse, helpmate, partner, and person in the process? Are you using the time productively? Are you exercising your mind as well as your body?

In this video, I mention dedicating 90 minutes to self-care, but I realize this may sound like A LOT if you've never tried something like this before. Let's cut it down to 60 minutes and while you're at it you can download my Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheets to help you get started. You can get them at https://epayne.me/self-care .

We're all in this together. Let's come out of this better than we entered into it.

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1. in life
2. in work
3. in love

If it turns out you have been settling, Eric offers suggestions on how to change things up — for the better.

Domestic Violence Hotline Help (US only):

1. 1-800-799-7233
2. Text LOVEIS to 22533
3. Chat at thehotline.org

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Something I didn't mention in this episode: stay informed, but stay away from media, especially social media, that insights fear and panic. Wait until the end for the big reveal.

If you like the show, please share it with a couple people who you think might like it too. 🙏🏾

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Music Credit: “Superhero” composed by Tim McMorris. Published by King's Crown Productions Inc. 

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To see what Eric does besides recording podcasts, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss Episode 7, The Season One Finale of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. 

• Brown Gravy
• The Youngin’
• Boston Legal
• The White Girl Who Loved Me
• The Angry New Yorker...among others…

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To learn more visit The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

To see what Eric does besides recording podcasts, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Episode 6: Wookin' Pa Nub In All Da Wong Places is Coming Soon. Subscribe now and never miss an episode!

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To see what Eric does besides recording podcasts, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Thanks for listening!

About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To see what Eric does besides recording podcasts, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Episode 5 is Coming Soon. Subscribe now so you'll never miss an episode!

It's 2020 and although Eric doesn't do resolutions, he does set his intentions for the year with power-packed words that propel personal progress. Listen to this bonus episode to learn how to SOAR in 2020!

Pick up your copy of I See Through Eyes

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To keep up with Eric when he isn't on the mic, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Sleepin' in your bed (or in your head)

Ow, who you gonna call?

Ghostbusters!

...I ain't 'fraid of no ghosts!

Ghostbusters aren't real outside of that great 80's movie and its regrettable remake in 2016, but in Episode Four of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide writer, Christie Glascoe a.k.a. Chatterbox Christie (chatterboxchristie.com), is a real-life Ghostbuster. When it comes to dating she's got some strong opinions on what "ghosting" is and why it happens. Just like a Ghostbuster, she takes aim at the people who ghost and calls them out for being what they are.

If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide.

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

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From my family to you and yours, Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!

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Topics covered:

• The cons of dating on the rebound and why you should avoid it.

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To keep up with Eric when he isn't on the mic, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Find out what happens to the mindset of a man, who wholeheartedly and perhaps naively believes in the power of love, and what he does, when:

*love falls apart,

*what he does to try to keep it together, and

*how that impacts his outlook on the single life that’s awaiting him. 

If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide.

Black Friday deals on merch are available at epayne.me/blackfriday from 11.29 - 12.2.2019.

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

To keep up with Eric behind the scenes, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

Episode One of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide takes off with a running start as I take you back to the "good old days" when I first laid eyes on the beautiful woman who would eventually become my ex-wife — when I was bright-eyed, thought I looked like something and believed the power of love could raise the dead. The times were innocent enough, or were they?

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne, me, for the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, arguably the best relationship podcast on the Internet, rated 5-Stars on Apple Podcasts a Black Podcasting Awards 2020 nominee for Best Relationship Podcast. I take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys of navigating dating life as a divorced man and living life brand new in my forties. I don't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and I'm not afraid to call myself out when I'm the one being messy.

For behind-the-scenes content, follow me on Instagram: @ericlpayne

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Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage and fatherhood blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com), tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From ghosting to online dating, to the self-care that is required of a 43-year-old, divorced black man in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency and a refreshing sense of humor. Especially when it comes to making fun of himself. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey to finding love again.

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