Dear Me, Love Me

Dear You, Caitlin & Max

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 10 Dec 2020 06:30:00 -0500

Dear You,

Would you like a letter featured on a future episode of the podcast? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Dont forget, Dear Me episodes will show up as season 1 in your podcast listening apps, Dear You episodes will be in season 2!

Love,

01-Dear You, You do the working we do the talking

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 19 Nov 2020 00:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

We have decided to discontinue mini episodes, BUT we are now making them FULL LENGTH EPISODES! We have realized our perspectives on life is only just 2 white women who have so much to learn. We equally can make this world better by sharing the stories of others more frequently and without rushing. Dear YOU episodes will be categorized as "Season 2" episodes, while Dear Me episodes will continue to read as "season 1" and will most likely be featured every other week.

SO would you like to be featured on a future Dear You episode? Email Us at dearmeloveme@gmail.com

Love,

Dear Me, The Romanov Family

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 22 Oct 2020 00:30:00 -0500

Dear You,

While the world is still at a standstill, we are enjoying using our platform to educate on subjects we wish were taught in school. This week, we both cover the Romanov family. Their life, their deaths, and the conspiracies surrounding Princess Anastasia!

Let us know what you want to learn!

Love,

29- Dear Me, RBG (Back to school special)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 01 Oct 2020 00:45:00 -0500

Dear You,

The passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg hit everyone hard. She was a fierce woman, and today we dedicate this episode to her and her legacy

Love,

28- Dear Me, Christopher Columbus! (Back to School Special)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 17 Sep 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

Episode 2 of 4 of our back to school special! Christopher Columbus and how big of a fucking dick he was. Who would you like to see as the replacement for Columbus Circle. Or hear as the "Christopher Columbus!" in Little Women?

Love,

27- Dear Me, Redlining (Back to School Special)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 10 Sep 2020 01:30:00 -0500

26- Dear Me, Medical Self Advocacy

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 23 Jul 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you want to write a letter that could be featured in an episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

25- Dear Me, Before I travelled Internationally

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 16 Jul 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you have ideas for a future episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

24- Dear Me, Before Quarantine

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 09 Jul 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you have a letter you would like to hear on a future mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

23- Dear Me, My First Kiss

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 01:30:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you have a letter you would like us to read on a future mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

Mini Episode 14

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you have a letter you would like to share for a mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

22- Dear Me, What I Wish I Knew as a Black Women Before Attending a Predominantly White School PART 2 (Featuring Angeleaza and Brianne Anderson)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

We have two incredible Black women on the show talking about their experiences going to predominantly white schools.

This is part 2 of 2. Today we have Brianne's letter which is read by her sister Angeleaza. We are grateful the Anderson sisters have come to speak to us today.

Love,

22- Dear Me, What I Wish I Knew as a Black Women Before Attending a Predominantly White School (Featuring Angeleaza and Brianne Anderson)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 11 Jun 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

I am stoked about this weeks episode. We have two incredible Black women on the show talking about their experiences going to predominantly white schools.

This is part 1 of 2. Today we have Angeleaza's letter which is read by her sister Brianne. Brianne's letter will be read next week. Angeleaza was one of our very first mini episode letter write ins and we have kept in close contact with her ever since we began this podcast. We are grateful the Anderson sisters have come to speak to us today.

Love,

Dear Everyone, Black Lives Matter.

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 04 Jun 2020 00:30:00 -0500

Dear You,

Sorry Brooke's mic is messed up, but the message is to important to skip this episode! Today we are highlighting Black podcast creators, with short summaries of their shows to enhance your podcast library. Thank you to Angeleaza Anderson for your incredible list. We are excited to learn, grow, and become better allies not just to the Black Lives Matter Movement, but to the Black community as a whole.

Here is the list of Podcasters, Artists, and Fitness pages Angeleaza has recommended:

Podcasts:

· Another Round with Heben and Tracy (on hiatus)

o Heben Nigatu and Tracy Clayton cover everything from race, gender and pop culture to squirrels, mangoes, and bad jokes, all in one boozy podcast.

· Strong Black Lead

o Strong Black Legends is a weekly show brought to you by Netflix and Strong Black Lead that honors the best of black Hollywood. Every Tuesday, host Tracy Clayton sits down with the legends that paved the way for black representation both on and off screen.

· Off-Book: The Black Theatre Podcast

o Off Book is a fresh, new theatre podcast made with black theatre artists’ interests & issues in mind. Hosted by a theatre journalist, an actress, & a playwright, it’s proven to be an interesting journey.

· Why Won’t You Date Me?

o The podcast features Nicole Byer and a guest exploring why she is single, while discussing topics related to love, life, and sex.

· Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata

o Gayle & Oprah. Bonnie & Clyde. Nicole & Sasheer. Enter the pantheon of best friendship. When you’re forced to change your number, are sick of being single, or want to take a pole-dancing class, you’re going to need a best friend...and if you don’t, you can still have this podcast.

· Brooklyn 99: The Podcast

o Fourth episode called “Part 4: The Truth in Comedy”

§ Brooklyn Nine-Nine: The Podcast’s host Marc Evan Jackson cops a squat with co-executive producer/writer Justin Noble, Terry Crews (Terry Jeffords), co-creator/executive producer Dan Goor, writer/executive producer Luke Del Tredici, editor Cortney Carrillo and director of photography Rick Page. They talk about the fourth season of Brooklyn Nine-Nine and the show’s unique ability to earnestly take on social issues while keeping things comedic. They also discuss a key episode from Season 4, entitled “Moo Moo,” where Terry (Terry Crews) encounters racial profiling by a fellow cop. Terry Crews shares some personal stories about his own experience being racially targeted, which informed his performance in the episode.

· Black Men Can’t Jump In Hollywood

o A comedic podcast that reviews films with leading actors of color and analyzes them in the context of race and Hollywood's diversity issues.

· Okay, Now Listen

o Okay, Now Listen is a bi-weekly podcast hosted by Scottie Beam and Sylvia Obell. They share what's on their minds, what they're binging and what's blowing up their timelines. Brought to you by Netflix and Strong Black Lead.

· The Read

o Join bloggers Kid Fury and Crissle for their weekly podcast covering hip-hop and pop culture's most trying stars. Throwing shade and spilling tea with a flippant and humorous attitude, no star is safe from Fury and Crissle unless their name is Beyoncé. (Or Blue Ivy.)

· NPR’s Code Switch

o What's CODE SWITCH? It's the fearless conversations about race that you've been waiting for! Hosted by journalists of color, our podcast tackles the subject of race head-on. We explore how it impacts every part of society — from politics and pop culture to history, sports and everything in between. This podcast makes ALL OF US part of the conversation — because we're all part of the story.

· Sooo Many White Guys

o Phoebe Robinson is tired of being the token black woman in an ocean of white dude comedians. So in this podcast, Phoebe’s calling the shots. She’ll host intimate, funny and super honest conversations with musicians, actors, writers and comedians who are killing it in their fields--AND who aren’t white dudes! Stay tuned for the one token white guy (it’s only fair), and a whole lot of hijinks.

· Still Processing

o Step inside the confession booth of Wesley Morris and Jenna Wortham, two culture writers for The New York Times. They devour TV, movies, art, music and the internet to find the things that move them — to tears, awe and anger. Still Processing is where they try to understand the pleasures and pathologies of America in 2020.

Artists:

These are a mix of musicians/actors/artists/comedians that I (mostly) know and love in real life!

· Berchie @officialberchie

o I’ve known Paapa Berko (who goes by Berchie as his musician persona) since he was a freshman in high school with my little brother and took voice lessons with my hometown voice teacher. He just graduated from UNC Chapel Hill with a double major in exercise and sports science and music. He has also really established himself as an up and coming artists. He combines classical music with hip-hop and rap for a really and truly unique sound! His latest album is O.P.E.R.A. and is available on spotify and other streaming services.

· Jabarii Banks

o Jabarii aka Patrick was a Musical Theatre major at University of the Arts and is truly one of the best singers I’ve ever known. I met him doing Lysistrata Jones a few years ago, and in addition to choosing to major in the arts over his basketball scholarships, he can act and dance his tail off. He writes, produces, and plays his own songs, and has some music available on spotify.

· Sherm @sherm_isiah

o I don’t know him personally, but he is my sister’s friend from college. He is a singer, rapper, fitness coach, and biomedical engineer. Check out his stuff on Instagram.

· Kiah Victoria @kiahvictoria

o I went to elementary school with Kiah, right after she had finished playing Young Nala in The Lion King on Broadway. Since then, she’s done a million amazing things, such as singing for JayZ and then appearing in his Picasso Baby film, recording for Post-Modern Jukebox, and becoming a well-known R&B/Soul singer-songwriter in her own right. Find her on Spotify and other streaming services.

· Birgundi Baker @birgundi_baker

o Birgundi is an actress, best known for shows like “The Chi”, guest starring on “Empire”, and appearing on the “Heathers” TV show. She is also the sweetest human in the world. We were in a show together at Howard University (she went there, I didn’t), and she is such a hardworking, grounded, talented human. Support her work!

· Ryan Jamaal Swain @ryanjamaalswain

o Ryan was also in the show Birgundi and I were in at Howard (“The Bubbly Black Girl Sheds Her Chameleon Skin”), and he and I played the ensemble of white characters in the show, which was silly because we’re black. Ryan is now pretty famous, since he stars in “Pose” on FX, an incredible show featuring a huge ensemble of black artists of all shapes, sizes, genders, and sexualities. SUPPORT!

· Awa Sal Secka @_kujichagulia_

o Awa is a DC-based theatre artist, and the kindest, most humble, beautiful-souled actor I’ve ever worked with. She is INSANELY talented and passionate, and has really helped to change the conversation about race in DC theatre. She has used her skill set to speak out about the importance in casting black artists and all of the positive impact that that can have on audiences (not to mention the black actors). She has also been outspoken about the issues of colorism that are prevalent in black culture. Follow her for info about her activism and digital concerts.

· Kevin McAllister @calokikev

o Kevin is a Baltimore-based actor and director. He has starred in shows in every major theatre in the DMV region, and he has appeared on Broadway in “Come From Away” and will be in the upcoming “Caroline or Change” revival. He also founded his own professional theatre company in Baltimore called ArtsCentric, a color-conscious theatre that generally casts to directly represent the racial representation in Baltimore, a city where black people are more than 60% of the population. He is currently spearheading ArtsCentric Academy, a free series of digital theatre courses taught by high level artists.

· Joriah Kwame @joriahkwame

o Joriah is a composer/singer/actor from Michigan. He was one of the winners of Taylor Louderman’s Write Out Loud contest in 2019, which celebrated emerging musical theatre composers (his song “Little Miss Perfect is the BOMB.COM”). He is also a hugely talented actor and an amazingly kind and sweet person and friend (we performed together in a show a few months ago). Support him here https://www.joriahkwame.com/

· Kamille Upshaw @kamilleupshaw

o Kami is my ridiculously talented and successful big-cousin. She has a degree in Dance from Julliard, has danced all over the world, made her Broadway debut in Hamilton, was in the Mean Girls OBC, toured with Hugh Jackman, and was in the process of premiering “Fly” at the La Jolla Playhouse immediately pre-pandemic. She is also very passionate about black issues, and speaks out on social media.

· Demi Adejuyigbe @electrolemon

o I don’t know Demi, but he’s a black comedian and I love him. He co-hosted the podcast Punch Up The Jam until September 2019, and has led and guested on plenty of other podcasts. He also wrote for early seasons of NBC’s The Good Place and The Late Show with James Corden. Follow him for movie recommendations and opinions, and just funny stuff.

Fitness:

Including this to promote the upcoming BLM fundraisers!

· Alex Hooper @_hoopy_

o Alex aka Hoopy is the best fitness coach I have ever known. She is also a motivated entrepreneur, and is opening her own F45 Training location in Oakland, CA as soon as the pandemic allows for it. She is also is a coach for Rumble Boxing and Orangetheory in California.

o Rumble is hosting an all day “Rumblethon” on 6/5 from 7am-5pm. Classes are happening all day. All $$ is donated to a TBA Black Lives Matter Organization @doyourumble

· Angeleaza and Brianne (my sister and I!) @anderstrong_sisters

o Fundraiser HIIT Fitness Classes on 6/5 at 12pm and 4:30pm

o $5 minimum donation to Black Visions Collective or Campaign Zero OR Venmo @Angeleaza-Anderson and I’ll donate

o Donation gets you a spot in either or both classes!

o More info on the Dear Me, Love Me Podcast page!

Love,

Mini Episode 13

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 31 May 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Would you like to be featured in a future mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

20- Dear Me, Life Inside My Apartment

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 28 May 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you have a letter you would like to be read in a mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Thanks for listening!

Love,

Mini Episode 12

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 24 May 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

Do you have a letter you would like shared on a mini episode? Email us at Dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

19- Dear Me, The Musical Theatre Major

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 21 May 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

We are both proud alumni of Kent State University's Musical Theatre Program. Though our time had it's ups and downs (just like every other person's college experience I am sure) we are sure glad we went there. It brought us together, and what we learned we will carry with us forever. Are you a former musical theatre major of any program? We would love to hear from you! What do you wish you knew?

Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

Mini Episode 11

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 17 May 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

We have 2 letters today! From Kate, a special education masters graduate and teacher & Grace a 14 year old who isn't afraid to leave a situation that she knows is wrong for her.

Do you have a letter you want us to read on a mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

18- Dear Me, My Big Fat Greek Experience (Sorority Life)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 14 May 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

In this episode, Tee elaborates on her time as a Delta Gamma at both Kent State University and Depauw University. If you are at all interested in Greek life this is a really great episode for you. Brooke did not do the whole sorority thing and now... kinda regrets it.

Here is what Tee wish she knew before she joined a sorority.

Do you have a letter you want to be read on a mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

17- Dear Mom, Love Me

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 07 May 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Today is a little bit different as we are celebrating mothers day and honestly have been wanting to do an episode for our mothers for quite some time now. Our mothers are very special to us and we are excited to share them with you

We love you mom!

Love,

Mini Episode 10

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 03 May 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Our two letters this week come from a middle school teacher giving her pre-quarantine self advice, and an 18 year old on what she knew about high school before she went

Want write your own? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

16- Dear Me, Handling Stress (That's Quarantine, Baby)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 30 Apr 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

If you are good at handling stress, you deserve a medal of some kind. We however, are not the best at it. But here are something we have found that help us out, especially during this crazy time.

Because... that's quarantine, baby

Love,

Mini Episode 9

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 26 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Here are the 2 letters from Kris & Max

Kris:

Dear Kris,

You are about to audition for governor’s school of north carolina’s theatre program. You are definitely nervous, but don’t worry you get in! You also start to doubt your talent and worth as an actor. You start to think about every other reason why you got in besides your talent. You start to think that you got in because they needed a black boy in the program. You start to think that they only wanted one person from your county. You start to think that your best friend who got cut did not get in because you were barely better than her. STOP IT! Even if any of those things are true, you got in because you’re talented. You worked hard to grow and learn for opportunities like these so don’t belittle yourself to being a “token” black kid, because you are talented. Don’t forget it bud.

Love,

Kris

Dear me,

Wow! Freshman year! Your high school journey is about to begin, and you're gonna end up at the last place you thought you would go to school at; a yeshiva. That's right! You, a very reform Jew, are going to end up at an orthodox jewish school with no idea what you're doing. And you're gonna have to tackle the big D: depression. And by the end of the year, you're gonna end up with a diagnosis you never thought you'd get. Here are some little tips and tricks to keep in mind throughout the year.

1. You have a boyfriend. You adore him and you really enjoy spending time with him. He makes you feel really nice, you have great conversations with him, and he seems to really care about you. And that's great! You're going to think he's really going to help your mental state. But here's some advice. Despite how much you adore him, he really can't handle you when you're having a mental breakdown. There's nothing wrong with that; but you need to either find someone who can support you or drop him. Eventually, you will go your separate ways for other reasons, but it wouldn't hurt to break up with him a little sooner so you have more time to focus on you and your mental health.

2. There's going to be a lot of people at your school who don't quite understand you. And that's ok! Everyone has their own battles and their own struggles and it's not their job to worry about your's. But please keep in mind that not everyone is against you. Sure, those bullies at your school may make a big impact on how you think the school thinks of you, but you know what? Don't listen to them. They're assholes. And keep in mind, that's only 5 people out of a school of 65 people.

3. You're no stranger to mental health challenges, but you've never been depressed before. You're going to feel that you're the only person in the world who's going through what you're going through. But you're not. There are millions of people worldwide who are also fighting this fight. You actually know a good number of people who have gone through this and emerged a winner; talk to those people and see what words of wisdom they have to offer. Trust me, you won't regret it.

4. You're going to have fights with your family. Big, huge, screaming and cussing fights. You're familiar with these fights, but you're not familiar with them being so frequent. In times like these, just bear in mind that they will eventually come around. They really are trying to do what's best for you. You may think that they're not, but you're wrong buckaroo- they love and care about you more than you realize, and they want nothing more than to see you happy again. Despite all the screaming and name calling.

5. Medicine seems like a scary thing. You're no stranger to medicine but when you hear words like "antipsychotic", you get a little bit intimidated. Don't be afraid to ask your doctor questions. You've been seeing her for years, she knows you very well, and she knows a lot about what she does- so don't hesitate to ask her questions and speak up about problems you're having with a medicine. And most importantly: trust her. She's been through at least 10 years of medical school. She knows what she's doing.

6. Dude. You're breaking out. Your skin is oily and pimple-y, and its gonna impact your self esteem a lot. Please, for the sake of your older self who wants to look at photos of you without cringing, wash your fucking face. Just a simple face scrub will do the trick. Please.

7. Eventually, you're going to realize that this school just isn't the right fit for you. You're going to hate a lot of things about it, and that's fine. But don't be so scared about switching to the public school. You've heard some bad things about the school, sure, but the reality is you're going to meet some of the closest friends you've ever had at that school. Unlike your old school, you're going to find friends with your same interests and passions, and you're going to be so so glad you switched.

8. Don't be so shy about your love and passion for theatre! So what if people think you're "gay" for it? Are they wrong? You are definitely gay! Don't lie to people you just meet saying you're into baseball when in reality you don't know anything about it. Just be authentically you! And never, ever doubt your theatrical talent. You are an amazing actor and singer, and you're only going to get better and better, and in Junior year when you're going to play Mark in Rent- one of your biggest dream roles.

9. By the end of the school year, you're going to start with a new therapist and over the span of a few weeks she's going to carefully study your mental health until she gives you a diagnosis that you NEVER thought you'd get. The big ol' B2D. Bipolar 2 disorder. This is going to be hard for you to digest. Its gonna take a little while for you to accept yourself. And you know what? That's absolutely valid. Stuff like this is hard. It takes time to accept stuff like this, and that's ok. You're going to think this new and scary label will mean your life is going to fall to pieces. But if you step back and think, you're still the same person. You've had these symptoms for months now; there's just a fancy label for it now. You're still you. Your symptoms will be treated thanks to amazing doctors, and you'll soon feel things will return to normal.

10. There will be times throughout this year you feel that there is nobody there for you. Nobody who'd notice if you just dissapeared one day. You'll find yourself very very annoying and wonder why anyone would care about you at all. You'll think that just because you don't really have any friends at school, you're not worth anything to anyone. But that is false. You still have plenty of friends through theatre and through other extracurriculars who love you to death. They have chosen you out of a million people they could've chosen to be your friend. They don't care if you're annoying. They don't care if you're a pessimist. They care that you're happy and they care that you're thriving. So go text someone! Go ask to get coffee at that adorable little cafe in Seattle called Joe Bar with someone you don't know very well. You only have one life and one shot. Go make the most of it.

You're going to learn more about yourself than you ever have in 1 school year this year. Its gonna have ups and downs, friends will come and friends will go. You'll have crushes on a lot of guys. You're going to learn what a hypomanic state is. You're going to discover a passion for theatre. And you know what? Every fucking one of these things are great. Being self aware is AWESOME. You're going to look back on this year and be like "wow. That was one hell of a rollercoaster. I'm so glad that happened." Savor it. Sit back, relax, keep your arms hands feet and legs inside the vehicle at all times, and enjoy the ride.

Love,

Me.

Dear,

15- Dear Me, The Product of Divorce

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 23 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

We recorded this episode about 2 months ago. Back before the times of quarantine, and uncertainty. When we cold high five, hold hands, and comfort one another while talking about a difficult subject. I am so glad we did. This week we speak about both being children of divorce.

Do you have a letter you want us to read on a future mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

I'm not okay, and that's okay

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

We wanted to make this episode a little different. Scrolling through social media & listening to shows, watching TikToks, keeping things light is all really great. However, we wanted to let you know that we are also struggling. Struggling to find meaning in this new (&hopefully temporary) world. Some days we wake up and don't feel like getting out of bed, some days we take a Xanax nap. Someday's we aren't okay... and thats completely okay. We aren't here to ask you to listen to us bitch about our hardships, but here we are telling you that life isn't all sunshine and rainbows and telling you the struggles of this process is just as important as highlighting the positives.

We are here for you, we are with you, and we will be back to our regularly scheduled programing on Thursday

See you on the other side

Love,

14- Dear Me, F.R.I.E.N.D.S. clap clap clap clap

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 16 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Sorry again if the episode is a bit laggy or weird. We actually recorded this episode right as quarantine started and we were using the phone, so the lag was major. God bless editing and patience.

This is our friendship episode! Brooke writes a letter about all the different types of friendships she will encounter in the future and Tee writes to her pre-college self about how to be a better friend.

Want to be featured in a future mini episode? Email us your Dear Me letter at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Thanks for listening

Love,

Mini Episode 8

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 12 Apr 2020 00:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

If you are struggling with thoughts of self harm, or have been the victim of sexual assault & are in need of someone to talk to, head over to crisistextline.org. "Text 741741 from anywhere in the US to text with a trained Crisis Counselor. Crisis Text Line trains volunteers to support people in crisis."

Hannahs Letter:

Dear Me,

Hey there, it's yourself, writing to you in March of 2020. How's life treating you?

I guess that's an unnecessary question, since I've already lived it. I know that your life isn't the best right now. I know that you're struggling academically, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I know that you've had days where you can't get out of bed.

But let me tell you something: It's going to get so much better. And I know that's the one thing you don't want to hear right now. But as someone who's lived through this struggle, I've come out on the other side so much stronger. I promise you that it will get better, even if you think that's an impossibility.

And I'm not saying it's going to be easy, because that would be a lie. It's not easy to get better. But it will be worth it, because you're going to be ok. You might lose some friends, but I can tell you that you're going to feel better once they're not in your life. You're going to get better, even if right now it seems like you're always going to be stuck in this dark place. It's going to be ok, because you've got parents who care about you, and friends who will drop everything to answer your calls and help you feel better.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is this: hang in there kiddo. It's going to be ok. And I know this, because I'm you four months from now, and I'm doing ok. Not perfect, not even good all the time. But I'm doing ok, and that's all we can hope for. You've got this.

Love,

Me

Anonymous Letter:

Dear Me,

this is the first time that I am writing to you. I never thought that I would write a letter to you someday, and definitely not in a language, that is not my first language.

You know, right now is a very difficult time. And I am thinking about a lot of things, so…here is my letter to you.

I am sorry.

I am sorry that you had to go through eleven years of bullying, just because of being afraid to say anything. You didn’t do anything wrong, don’t listen to the people who say that. You are different, that’s true. But why should it be right to do all of those things to you, just because you listen to other music and just because you love acting for example? That’s just stupid and I want you to know that.

I am sorry for worrying so much, sometimes about things that are so easy. But that’s not bad. You are like this. And if you worry about something, tell someone. Don’t keep it all to yourself, I beg you. Don’t isolate yourself.

Try not to apologize so much. Don’t search for reasons to do so, because if you are honest – you want to apologize for existing. No, don’t do that. You have every right to be here. Replace some of that worry with a little hope.

I am sorry for all of the things I did to you in the past. I am sorry for the scars. No, you did not deserve it. Do you hear that? You did not. You don’t need to feel pain, you are not a burden and you don’t need to do this as a punishment. You won’t feel better after it, I promise. You don’t want to live with scars for the rest of your life, just to feel a little bit better for a second.

I am sorry for everything I did that was harmful to you. It was wrong. I wish there was any way to travel back in time, just to tell you that all of those people are wrong. You are a beautiful young woman, you are perfect. You don’t need to change. You don’t need to lose weight, it won’t make you happier – and by the way, you really don’t

need to. Look at you. And try to see all of the things that make you so amazing.

I am sorry for always telling people it was “okay”, when it was not. I am sorry for not saying anything to anybody when someone did things to you, you didn’t wanted. And that when all of this finally came up…that I said it wasn’t that bad. You have the right to feel all of this. What happened to you was not your fault, you did everything you could. I know you think it’s your fault that more girls have to deal with this now, but you are not the bad guy here. You are also a victim, you do not have to protect everyone and you deserve some love. Give yourself the care you give to others, just for once.

It’s more than okay to feel things. And it’s no shame if you start to cry, because you are happy. I know you are often ashamed because that happens so often. I know people think that’s a little weird. But also – it’s cute. You are literally a person that starts to cry when people tell you things like “I like you”. That means the world to you, I know. Don’t change that. It’s perfect.

I am sorry that you are alone most of the time. I know how lonely you are. But you are not alone. I know that you want specific people to be there for you, and they are not. But that doesn’t mean that you are alone. There is a difference, I know. I know exactly what you think now. But do you remember all of the hardest times in the past? And every time you felt like you had no one, someone appeared. Someone you did not expect. That’s just magical. You are not alone, to say it again. You just need to look a little bit harder.

And you know what? All of those things are not important. They don’t define you. I know, if you would be asked to describe you right now, you would just tell them all the things that are wrong with you. All of the mental illnesses you deal with. But that’s not who you are.

I see the obvious things: you are a talented young woman. You have an amazing voice and you can act the hell out of any part you get. You played lead roles everywhere for the past five years, and I am sure you can do that again and again. You are the most creative human being I know – I mean, girl, you wrote three theatre plays in the span of six months and you might even stage some of them now. How amazing is that? Try to see the amazing things you did until now and the things you will do in the future.

So many people look up to you, there are people who want to be like you. Can you imagine that?

You are a warrior. You are a survivor. After everything people did to you, everything you did to yourself: you are still standing here. You are not broken, You are so strong.

You are beautiful. I want you to see that. You always tell everyone that they are beautiful as they are and that they don’t have to change. Please tell that to yourself.

I know I can’t change what happened. And I know it’s not easy. I want to tell you that someday it will be over, but I can’t right now. It’s still hard. You will have to tell yourself all of this every day. You will have to fight every day. But you can do this. You are so much stronger than you think. And it will get better, even though it’s not over. It will be a little bit easier.

Think of the wonderful things in life. Think of the people you look up to, be inspired. Take some time for yourself, write, sing, act, but also relax a little bit. Listen to music, listen to podcasts. I don’t know; just do something just for you and not for anybody else.

And also think of other things: hugs, because I know you love them. How it feels when the sun shines on your face. Smile a little bit more, because it makes you even more beautiful.

Think of the possibility of love someday. You will find love, there is someone out there.

You want to achieve so many things, you can do it. I know you can. Take a breath and begin again.

I love you.

Sincerely, me.

And yes, pun intended.

Want to write a letter that could be featured on a future episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

13- Dear Me, Body Image

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 09 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Sometimes the audio in this episode gets a little wonky. It's not you its us..

Today we tackle body image. We both are at a different stance on where we are in loving our body, and thats okay! We are learning from each other. And supporting one another*

Love,

*take a shot every time Tee tells Brooke that she loves her.

Mini Episode 7

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Mon, 06 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

We will be including todays letters into the show notes for your reading pleasure! They are both amazing

Ella:

Dear past self…

You’re a bad ass. You’re talented. You love this crazy competitive thing.

You go to the Orange County School of The Arts (OCSA) in Santa Ana and are in the Musical Theater Conservatory. You auditioned to get into this school, it took years of voice lessons, dance training, and acting coach’s to get you where you are. And after you successfully got in you would think I would say “Good Job Ella!! You did it”… nope! You are so hard on yourself dude. You go to school from 8-5 every day. You go to an INCREDIBLY competitive school. You’re constantly compared to your friends on a daily basis. Its not easy to go up every day sing your heart out and literally lay yourself out there to (mostly) only hear the negatives.You have thick skin, you handle rejection (with lots of ice cream)… you really do. But sometimes you think to yourself… is it really worth it? I know I'm not the best in my class and thats okay, I want to learn I want to dig even more into this thing I love so much but my confidence is so low. I still get butterflies in my stomach just hearing that word Broadway. And cause I still have those butterflies I know its worth it. I can’t tell you how badly I want to be up there. I KNOW I will work hard, I will give it my all even when there’s nothing left to give. SO… PAST SELF. please, stop being so hard on yourself. You’re good at this thing, trust yourself, work hard, go out and audition for anything and everything… do your part.

Amanda

Dear Me,

Guess what?! You’re moving in with a BOY! I know, I know, you’re doing the math right now, and you are probably a bit perplexed that you are getting this letter from your 35-year-old self. You are probably hoping that by this time, I would be telling you that you have had a beautiful marriage with Justin Timberlake for many years. Keep your wits about you and hear me out, you horny little weirdo. Right now you are a sophomore in high school, and though you are a funny and likeable teen, you are also frizzy-haired and charming in a youthful way, so the whole “boyfriend” thing hasn’t really been a reality. You are still waiting not-so-patiently for the day you finally have a cute guy with whom you can walk down the hallway and hold hands. Now, I’ll be honest with you, you will not date a TON in high school and college, but you will have some fun, and you will learn a lot. Here are some things I want to tell you as you embark upon these next few phases of your life:

Your twenties are when you truly thrive in the dating world, when you live in New York City and view your sexuality as a thing to explore and enjoy. You will feel free and un-committed, and you will finally feel sexy and desired. It’s pretty cool, and totally empowering. More importantly, you are allowed to feel sexy and desired, without shame. Listen to your gut. You know what you want.
You will experience some major heartbreaks, both in relationships and friendships, and even when you feel like you are in “the depths of despair,” (to quote the great Anne Shirley of Anne of Green Gables), you will realize your own strength eventually, and climb your way to happiness once again. You see, young Amanda, life is not just about boys. You will have to figure out who you are, and you have to allow for constant change and adjustment.
You will have to learn and re-learn what it means to love and be loved, and you will…you must…learn that the most important relationship you need to cultivate is your relationship with yourself. Only when you allow that important relationship to be a priority will you be truly ready to be in love and committed. Now, this does not mean that you will always like yourself or know exactly what you’re doing, but you will treat yourself with a much-deserved kindness that will only be further strengthened by the kindness and unconditional love you share with Zach. (His name is Zach, by the way. Don’t worry, he’s cute. Calm down.).
You will experience a lot of changes, both internal and external. Since the age of nine, you have dreamed of living in New York City and being a Broadway star. You go to school for theatre, and you move to NYC in 2008, at the beginning of a giant economic recession. You live paycheck to paycheck, you audition, you occasionally perform, and you have many wonderful experiences during the next four years. You will also collapse on your floor and cry more often than I want to tell you. And…you will realize, with great reluctance, that New York City is not the final destination for you. This may be one of the biggest heartbreaks you ever experience. You will carry it with you. But you will be okay. You will realize that it takes strength to look back at your nine-year-old self and break that promise to her, and to trust your 27-year-old self instead.
Even though you think that leaving New York City would be the biggest change in your life, those changes just keep on coming. And they should! I am sure that my 45-year-old self would tell me the same thing if she were writing to me right now. You can both mourn and celebrate the ebb and flow of your existence. You have been a nomad since birth, moving from place to place and making a home out of impermanence, and this will continue. The challenge will be the moment you decide to stay somewhere for a while. Being stationary will become the next big adventure.
After breaking up with New York City in 2012, breaking up with theatre in 2016 will be your next big heartbreak, but one that you have to enforce for your own mental health. You will take time to explore, and you will find new interests. You will apply to graduate school and move to Maine to become a school counselor, and you will find solace in yoga and spinning classes. You will even become a spinning instructor! I know! You are currently taking academic exemptions from gym, so this one is probably hard to believe, but young Amanda, it is never too late to find the beauty of endorphins and athletics. Give it time. Basically, keep your eyes and heart open, and do not feel guilty or foolish for desiring a different path. You have not wasted your time. Everything you have done is a step toward the next part of your journey.
Finally, stop searching for “perfect.” It doesn’t exist. The perfect man, the perfect life, the perfect job…nope. Not a real thing. You are never going to be perfect. Embrace that, right now. You will thank me later.

Young Amanda, I am so excited for you. Despite the ups and downs, the triumphs and the tears, you have a privileged and beautiful life. You are loved. You are valued. Even when you are in your deepest pit of Depression and Anxiety, you know that love and value is there, and that little light will keep you safe. Keep working on loving yourself, it is totally allowed and will someday soon be a very popular outlook - “self-care” and “self-love” are all the rage right now, and should be! The most important request I have for you is to hold on to your kindness, empathy, and zest for life. Some will tell you that you are naïve, some will tell you that you are a push-over or a door-mat, and sure, you need to work on holding your head high in the face of conflict. However, you radiate joy, you laugh loudly, and you love deeply. Honor those qualities. They are some of your best.

Love,

Thank you both for submitting your letters! We appreciate you os much

Love,

12- Dear Me, Welcome to Puberty (Everything smells now)

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 02 Apr 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Remember when you went through puberty? Well, we do. And we are here to talk about it! From first kisses to first periods we cover it all. Here is what we wish we knew before we went through puberty.

Want to write a letter to your past self? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

Mini Episode 6

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 29 Mar 2020 02:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Its our first episode apart! We are trying out this remotely recording thing so if anyone has tips or tricks to make this better we are all ears! As we quarantine in our separate burrows we hear from Caitlin and Daurie.

Love,

11- Dear Me, Welcome To New York

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 26 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Let's all sing Taylor Swifts "Welcome To New York" as well listen to this episode together. For Brooke it has been waiting for her, but for Tee she says it hasn't as there are a billion other people who have been here before her. This week we discuss what we wish we knew before moving to The Big Apple.

Tee has lived here for about 8 years and Brooke 3 years.

Has it been waiting for you? Are you ready to take the big step into Manhattan? Come find out with us!

Love,

Mini Episode 5

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Before all of this crazy stuff happened in our world, we pre-recorded several full and mini episodes to have in the event of a busy schedule or a vacation. Well, we are glad we did because of the new shelter in place that is happening across the world. So, in the next few episodes we are actually together as the virus had not yet hit NYC.

In this weeks mini we have 2 very special letters from Tee's older sister Meg and Meg's boyfriend Al. We are grateful for them to send us these letters and opening up about their relationship to our listeners and to us.

Do you want to write a letter to be featured in a future mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

10- Dear Me, My Broadway Debut

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Want to make your Broadway debut? GREAT! It's for a role you do not know. Oh, and we have 4 hours until curtain. OH and we only have 90 minutes of on stage rehearsal time. Think you can do it? Great... let's do this thing!

In this episode Tee talks about her LEGENDARY Broadway debut as Janis in Mean Girls.

Do you want to write yourself a letter for a future mini episode? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

Mini Episode 4

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 15 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

This weeks episode includes letters from

Lauren & Miki who both write to their pre-college 18 year old selves.

Want to submit your own letter?

Email us at: Dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

09- Dear Me, Moving In Together

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 12 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Ready to move in with your partner? Here are some things we wish we knew before we took the plunge.

Love,

Mini Episode 3

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 08 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

This weeks mini includes 2 letters from:

Alina: Writing to her 2015 self. We dive into love, friendships, and career in her heartfelt letter. She tells herself the one you have been waiting for has been right in front of you this whole time.

Keri: Writing to her past self to reveal she has made her Broadway debut, but that life isn't just smooth sailing once you get that first credit on your resume.

Want to be included in a future mini episode? Send us your own letter at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Wash your hands

Love,

08- Dear Me, The Pawfect Episode

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 05 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dear You,

Let's just say we love our dogs so much. Here is what we wish we knew before Nessie and Butters came into our lives.

We want to see your puppies! Post them on your instagram stories and add @dearmelovemepodcast so we can see them.

Want to write a letter to yourself to be featured in a future mini episode? Email us at: dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

Mini Episode 2

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Mon, 02 Mar 2020 00:45:00 -0500

Dear You,

Today's mini episode includes a letter from:

Lauren- a bad ass, successful woman writing what she wish she knew before she reached this point in her life. #femalesarestrongashell

Angeleaza- a NYC actor who lost her father suddenly when she was just 21. This is a letter of what she wish she knew before that happened. We want to include a trigger warning as this part of the episode gets beautifully intense emotionally.

want to write your own letter? email us dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

07-Dear Me, Disney Edition °o°

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 27 Feb 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

Ever wondered what it's like to work for the mouse? In this week's episode Brooke writes a letter to herself about what she wished she knew before working at Disney World. Now, since Tee doesn't have first hand experience with this, she will ask Brooke questions at the end of the episode she has been wanting to know.

Brooke wanted to add a quick disclaimer, everyone's experience at Disney is different. This is hers, and hers alone. She had some great times and some shitty times. Her views do not represent or reflect the views of her colleagues and fellow cast members.

Come be part of that world, change your fate, and build a snowman with us

Love,

Mini Episode 1

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sun, 23 Feb 2020 00:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

In this weeks mini episode we read 2 letters from our listeners Matthew and Madie

Matthew is 15 and a fellow podcaster who runs the "Thats So Matthew" podcast where he talks to friends about Disney Channel shows of the past and present. He writes to his former pre podcaster self and is a total bad ass.

Madie writes to her pre-social media self as we did in episode 2. She is an incredible woman and learned more about herself and social media after taking our 2 week hiatus challenge. You freaking go Madie!

Want to send us your letter? Email us at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

06- Dear Me, My Potential Breakup Letter

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 01:45:00 -0500

Dear You,

It's not you... its me. Wait, maybe it is you? But for the love of [vegan] cheese don't beg for us back!

We realize we can give this advice on this subject up and down, backwards and forwards, shove it down your throat but when you actually go through a breakup all the rules are thrown out the window. Maybe you're better than us and you can remember these things. GOOD FOR YOU. But this is what we wish we knew before going through a breakup

Love,

Bonus 2- Cleanse Completion & Tee's Announcement

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sat, 15 Feb 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

We are BACK on social media! Its been simultaneously an easy and hard 2 weeks.

Tee tell's us her big announcement! Head over to her personal Instagram page @teeboyich to see her post

Have a letter you want to be included in next weeks mini episode? EMAIL US! Dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

05- Dear Me, Swipe Right For A New Life

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 01:15:00 -0500

Dear You,

Phew! Week 5! Wow cant believe we have been on this journey together for this long. Oh... Happy Valentines Day! In this weeks episode we chat about what we wish we knew before online dating. Tee met her husband through tinder, and Brooke only knows Michael because of Tinder.

It's the end of our social media cleanse this weekend so be on the lookout for another bonus episode. And Tee has a BIG announcement!

Love,

Bonus 1- Social Media Cleanse Update

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Sat, 08 Feb 2020 01:30:00 -0500

Dear You,

Are you taking a social media cleanse too? Let us know how its going for our next weeks bonus episode! Email: dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

04- Dear Me, Let's Give It The Old College Try

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 06 Feb 2020 01:45:00 -0500

Dear You,

Welcome to College!! You are away from home, you have a cafeteria worth of shit food to stuff your face with, and you are about to get chocolate wasted (minus the chocolate?)!

Learn from our mistakes.

Love,

03- Dear FUTURE Me, What Can Be Done About The Internet

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 30 Jan 2020 00:45:00 -0500

Dear You,

Yes, we are STILL talking about Social Media. Hey, its a big topic that we all can relate to. This time, it's a little different. Today we write letters to our future selves! Brooke asks the question of are we any better or is it all gone, Tee gives her future self advice on what to do to make social media a better place to be. Two different views of the same coin.

Will you join us in February in going social media free on your phone for 2 weeks? Let us know!

Love,

02- Dear Me, Welcome To Social Media

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 23 Jan 2020 06:30:00 -0500

Dear You,

We made it to week 2! This episode was both easy and hard for us to talk about. Social media has both plagued and blessed our world with its content. In this episode, we talk about what we wish we could have known before the era of instagram, facebook, myspace, twitter, etc. ever existed.

We are not experts, we have so many contradicting views and ideas about this topic, many of which happen within the same sentence.

Ou new theme song is on the podcast! Thank you to the incredible Connor Simpson for lending his talents to us. Can you guess which TV show Brooke asked him to make it feel like?

What do you wish you could tell your past self? We want to know! Email us your letter at dearmelovemepodcast@gmail.com

Love,

01- Dear Me, One Decade Ago

Tee Boyich & Brooke Upholzer — Thu, 16 Jan 2020 23:30:00 -0500

Dear Listener,

We are so excited to bring you this very first episode of Dear Me, Love Me! We recorded this just before Christmas break in 2019. It was our plan to release it before the ball dropped into 2020, but hey time gets away from you during the holidays.

Our views on this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of anyone or any business mentioned.

In the podcasting world, we are the new kids in school. Be fuckin' nice to us.

Love,

Dear Me, Love Me

Dear You, Caitlin & Max

01-Dear You, You do the working we do the talking

Dear Me, The Romanov Family

29- Dear Me, RBG (Back to school special)

28- Dear Me, Christopher Columbus! (Back to School Special)

27- Dear Me, Redlining (Back to School Special)

26- Dear Me, Medical Self Advocacy

25- Dear Me, Before I travelled Internationally

24- Dear Me, Before Quarantine

23- Dear Me, My First Kiss

Mini Episode 14

22- Dear Me, What I Wish I Knew as a Black Women Before Attending a Predominantly White School PART 2 (Featuring Angeleaza and Brianne Anderson)

22- Dear Me, What I Wish I Knew as a Black Women Before Attending a Predominantly White School (Featuring Angeleaza and Brianne Anderson)

Dear Everyone, Black Lives Matter.

Mini Episode 13

20- Dear Me, Life Inside My Apartment

Mini Episode 12

19- Dear Me, The Musical Theatre Major

Mini Episode 11

18- Dear Me, My Big Fat Greek Experience (Sorority Life)

17- Dear Mom, Love Me

Mini Episode 10

16- Dear Me, Handling Stress (That's Quarantine, Baby)

Mini Episode 9

15- Dear Me, The Product of Divorce

I'm not okay, and that's okay

14- Dear Me, F.R.I.E.N.D.S. *clap clap clap clap*

Mini Episode 8

13- Dear Me, Body Image

Mini Episode 7

12- Dear Me, Welcome to Puberty (Everything smells now)

Mini Episode 6

11- Dear Me, Welcome To New York

Mini Episode 5

10- Dear Me, My Broadway Debut

Mini Episode 4

09- Dear Me, Moving In Together

Mini Episode 3

08- Dear Me, The Pawfect Episode

Mini Episode 2

07-Dear Me, Disney Edition °o°

Mini Episode 1

06- Dear Me, My Potential Breakup Letter

Bonus 2- Cleanse Completion & Tee's Announcement

05- Dear Me, Swipe Right For A New Life

Bonus 1- Social Media Cleanse Update

04- Dear Me, Let's Give It The Old College Try

03- Dear FUTURE Me, What Can Be Done About The Internet

02- Dear Me, Welcome To Social Media

01- Dear Me, One Decade Ago

14- Dear Me, F.R.I.E.N.D.S. clap clap clap clap