feeling confused about what to do next with your child?

most parents assume that means they need more information.

more strategies.

more answers.

but what if that’s actually the thing keeping you stuck?

in this episode, we’re talking about why confusion isn’t a problem to fix and how constantly searching for more information can actually create more overwhelm.

if you’ve been overthinking, second-guessing, or feeling like you should “know more” by now… this episode will help you slow down, reconnect, and find clarity in a completely different way.

in this episode, you’ll hear:

• why confusion doesn’t mean you’re failing and how it can actually guide your next steps
• how overconsuming information can keep you stuck in a cycle of overwhelm
• what it looks like to “slow down to speed up” in your parenting decisions
• how to ground yourself in what you already know to be true about your child
• why not all autism parenting content is relevant to you at every stage
• a simple “bucket” framework to help you organize what to focus on now vs later
• why going deeper (not wider) is often the key to clarity
• how to take your next step without needing to have everything figured out

timestamps

00:00 embracing confusion in parenting

03:44 finding your rhythm: the beat of parenting

06:47 judgment and acceptance in parenting

09:25 navigating information overload

12:25 understanding different stages of parenting

15:10 actionable takeaways for parents

17:49 creating clarity amidst confusion

20:33 building foundations for future growth

24:02 the journey of self-discovery in parenting

resources

⚡️need support in finding your next best steps? join EVOLVE the membership and submit your questions for dr. tay to answer

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services

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April is "autism month" and with it comes more conversations, more content, and more opinions.

and while that can be incredibly valuable… it can also feel overwhelming.

for many parents, this month brings up a mix of emotions: gratitude, frustration, confusion, and sometimes even pressure to feel a certain way about your child’s diagnosis.

in this episode, Dr. Tay breaks down what autism acceptance actually means — beyond the surface-level messaging — and why this concept can feel harder than it sounds.

you’ll also hear how to navigate the increased noise during this month, protect your own capacity, and begin to define what acceptance looks like in your real, day-to-day parenting.

in this episode, you’ll hear:

• the difference between autism awareness and autism acceptance (and why both still matter)
• what “acceptance” actually means from a psychological perspective (not just the mainstream definition)
• why this month can feel overwhelming, overstimulating, or even frustrating for parents
• how increased conversations can sometimes lead to conflict, misinformation, or pressure
• permission to step back, disconnect, or set boundaries during this month
• how to balance gratitude for awareness with protecting your own nervous system
• what it looks like to move toward acceptance while still holding space for grief
• why acceptance is not a one-time decision, but an ongoing process in your parenting journey
• how to define what acceptance looks like for you and your family

timestamps

00:00 understanding autism month: awareness vs. acceptance

09:02 the importance of acceptance in autism

18:09 defining acceptance: beyond the surface

26:51 navigating emotions: acceptance in parenting

34:04 embracing the journey of acceptance

resources

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to have your questions answered and have more in-depth education like you heard in today's episode

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services

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you started this journey trying to understand your child…

and somewhere along the way, you started to notice traits yourself in it too.

for many parents, this moment is both clarifying and confusing.

you recognize the patterns. but then the question becomes:

what do I actually do?

in this episode, dr. tay walks through what it looks like to explore your own neurodivergence as an adult, including when self-identification feels enough and when you might want more clarity.

she also breaks down what an autism evaluation can actually look like for adults (and why it often doesn’t need to be the same long, overwhelming process many families go through with their children).

in this episode, you’ll hear:

1. why so many parents begin to question their own neurotype after their child’s diagnosis
2. what self-identification can offer and when it may or may not feel sufficient
3. how masking, learned behaviors, and life experiences can make it harder to recognize autism in yourself
4. why adult autism is often missed or misidentified earlier in life
5. what a comprehensive autism evaluation is designed to assess and why that model doesn’t always fit adult needs
6. how adult evaluations can be more streamlined, collaborative, and focused on lived experience
7. what clarity, validation, and outside perspective can offer beyond self-exploration
8. how an evaluation can support not just you but your parenting and your relationship with your child
9. the difference between needing “all the data” vs. needing confirmation and next steps
10. how to think about whether an evaluation is the right next step for you

timestamps

00:00 Understanding Neurodivergence in Families

10:04 The Importance of Self-Identification

19:10 Navigating Evaluations and Diagnoses

28:31 Finding Clarity and Supporting

resources

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services, including booking a free consult call for our adult evaluations

⚡️ explore DSM-5-TR diagnostic criteria for autism (made accessible by @blackspectrumscholar as part of their free resource library)

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to have you questions answered like mentioned in today's episode

⚡️ follow me on

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do you ever feel like there are a million things going on with your child and no clear place to start?

maybe you’re wondering if it’s autism.

or anxiety.

or adhd.

or something else entirely.

and every time you try to figure it out, it just feels more tangled.

in this episode, dr. tay walks you through how to untangle the overwhelm, without needing all the answers first. using the analogy of a tangled ball of yarn, she breaks down how to find your starting point, build momentum, and take meaningful action (instead of staying stuck in overthinking).

in this episode, you’ll hear:

1. why autism (and co-occurring differences like anxiety or adhd) can feel like a “tangled web” and how to start making sense of it
2. how a comprehensive evaluation can bring clarity (and when it might not be the only next step)
3. how to identify what’s actually driving your child’s challenges, even when everything feels connected
4. simple ways to collect data and spot patterns in your child’s day-to-day experiences
5. how to collaborate with your child’s clinical team (even if you only have limited access to them)
6. when learning more is helpful… and when it turns into overconsumption that keeps you stuck
7. how tools like AI can support pattern recognition (without replacing clinical judgment)
8. the most important shift: why action creates clarity (not the other way around)

timestamps

00:00 navigating the overwhelm of “where do i start?”

03:50 understanding autism evaluations and differential diagnosis

07:01 why comprehensive evaluations can bring clarity

09:45 identifying underlying factors (anxiety, adhd, and more)

12:42 using data to recognize patterns

16:34 collaboration, ai tools, and building insight

19:19 taking action and finding your next step

21:55 exploring therapy options and supports

24:59 moving out of overconsumption and into momentum

28:01 final reflections and next steps

resources

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to ask your burning questions and watch the masterclass on looping and cognitive inflexibility

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services, including comprehensive evaluations and group therapy support

⚡️ follow me on

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many parents hesitate to pursue an evaluation because they worry about labels, stigma, or putting their child “in a box.” but avoiding the diagnosis doesn’t change whether your child is autistic. what it changes is how clearly you understand your child and how effectively you can support them.

in this episode of EVOLVE with Dr. Tay, we break down both the logistical and emotional realities of autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay explains why a diagnosis can unlock support, provide language for self-understanding, and help families move toward greater acceptance and advocacy while also acknowledging the grief and stigma that can arise along the way.

this episode is especially helpful if you’re in the pre-diagnosis stage or if your child was recently diagnosed and you’re still processing what that means for your family.

in this episode, you’ll hear:

1. why an autism diagnosis doesn’t change your child and instead gives clarity on how to support them
2. the logistical benefits of diagnosis, including access to services and support systems
3. how evaluations create a roadmap for understanding your child’s strengths and support needs
4. the emotional side of diagnosis, including grief and adjustment for parents and children
5. why many autistic adults wish they had known their diagnosis earlier
6. how giving your child language to understand their brain can support self-acceptance
7. how stigma and ableism influence how families think about diagnosis
8. why avoiding the label can unintentionally reinforce shame or confusion
9. how parents can help shape a neurodiversity-affirming narrative about autism

timestamps

00:00 understanding autism diagnosis: a parent’s dilemma

06:54 logistical benefits of an autism diagnosis

13:36 emotional aspects of autism diagnosis

19:06 navigating stigma and self-advocacy

resources

⚡️ learn more about autism evaluations through Dr. Tay Concierge Clinical Care

https://drtaylorday.com

⚡️ if your child already has a diagnosis and you’re wondering how to talk with them about it, check out the masterclass inside EVOLVE the membership

https://drtaylorday.com/membership

⚡️ continue learning from me >>

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TikTok @the.dr.tay

for many parents of autistic kids, medication feels heavy. scary. final. like something you only consider when everything else has failed. but what if medication isn’t a cure-all or a last resort — what if it’s simply one tool in the toolkit?

in this episode, Dr. Tay breaks down the nuanced role medication can play in supporting autistic children, especially when dysregulation, capacity, and mental health are limiting your child’s ability to access therapy, accommodations, or even their own joy.

this isn’t about quick fixes. it’s about expanding capacity.

in this episode, you’ll hear:

00:00 introduction to medication support for autistic children

00:27 common misconceptions about medication

00:56 benefits and considerations for medication use

01:23 medication alongside therapeutic approaches

02:16 research insights on medication and behavioral support

03:08 using medication for anxiety and emotional dysregulation

03:33 recognizing when medication might be needed

04:03 indicators of nervous system dysregulation in therapy

05:06 medication as a tool

06:14 understanding stimulant medications (e.g., adderall, ritalin)

06:43 the “capacity cup” metaphor

07:38 teaching internal regulation alongside medication

09:28 anxiety management and exposure-based therapies

10:39 environmental stressors and medication’s role

12:29 medication optimization and careful dosing

13:20 addressing fears about personality loss and side effects

14:42 weighing risks and benefits to improve quality of life

15:31 advocacy tips for working with prescribing providers

16:42 invitation to medication consideration masterclass

17:11 closing remarks

resources

⚡️ episodes referenced include 94 and 139 with Dr. Arielle Rubin and 177 with Dr. Stacy Greeter

⚡️ medication consideration masterclass (inside EVOLVE the membership):

join here >> https://drtaylorday.com/membership

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + clinical services:

https://drtaylorday.com

in autism parenting, it can feel like every decision is high stakes. you hear “lower demands.” you hear “do exposure.” you hear “presume competence.” you hear autistic voices sharing lived experience. and somehow, you’re still left wondering what actually applies to your child.

this episode won’t give you a black-and-white formula. but it will help you understand how to think through this question in a grounded, regulated way — and how to navigate the tension between accommodation and over accommodation without swinging to extremes.

in this episode, you’ll hear:

1. why nothing in autism parenting is black and white
2. how to filter research, professional advice, and autistic voices
3. what accommodation vs overaccommodation actually means
4. why overaccommodating anxiety can unintentionally reinforce it
5. how “low demand” can slide into eggshell parenting
6. when to gently peel back support to presume competence
7. how to use trial and error without turning it into self-blame

timestamps

00:00 the importance of nuance in autism parenting

03:05 navigating accommodation vs over accommodation

11:29 understanding exposure therapy and its nuances

16:08 balancing structure and flexibility in parenting

23:08 empowering autonomy and self-advocacy in children

resources

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership and be live for the upcoming masterclass on this topic (March 2026)

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services

⚡️ follow me on

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tiktok → @the.dr.tay

screen time doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

in this episode, Dr. Tay sits down with Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator and author of Power On, to talk about balancing technology in a way that feels realistic, empowering, and aligned with your child’s brain, especially in neurodivergent children.

this conversation moves beyond fear-based messaging and into nuance — exploring regulation, accommodations, executive functioning, transitions, and digital safety through a neurodiversity-affirming lens.

in this episode:

1. why screen time is morally neutral and why that matters
2. how video games can support executive functioning and skill building
3. using screen time as data about how your child’s brain works
4. why some content is more dysregulating than others
5. practical strategies for transitions off screens
6. how to scaffold digital safety over time

timestamps

00:00 introduction and today’s topic: screen time and technology

00:37 meet Ash Brandin

02:47 Ash’s journey to educating parents on technology

04:50 the importance of neutrality in technology use

06:10 balancing screen time: practical tips and insights

18:18 teaching technology skills: a lifelong approach

22:40 the benefits of screen time for autistic children

25:15 video games as accommodating environments

27:22 observing and learning from kids’ screen time

27:44 addressing hesitancy in using accommodations

29:58 engaging with kids through screen time

30:40 the importance of digital safety

31:48 exploring the book’s structure and key concepts

32:13 understanding access, behavior, and content in screen time

36:28 strategies for managing screen time transitions

40:04 final thoughts and resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Ash on Instagram and on Substack

⚡️ order Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family

⚡️ join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning. dive into the included masterclass to dive deeper into navigating screen time and its benefits for autistic kids

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

in this special episode, Dr. Tay shares a live coaching session with Winter, a mom of a 6-year-old autistic boy. listeners are invited inside a real, unscripted coaching conversation — one that mirrors the questions, emotions, and uncertainty so many parents carry quietly.

together, Dr. Tay and Winter explore what it’s like to sit with grief and acceptance at the same time, to question whether current supports are actually helping, and to feel the pressure to “do enough” while also wanting space to breathe. Dr. Tay helps Winter slow things down, name what’s coming up beneath the urgency, and reflect on what alignment, confidence, and quality of life could look like for her family.

this episode offers a window into how parent coaching can help you:

1. feel less alone in the emotional weight of an autism diagnosis
2. untangle urgency from what truly matters right now
3. experiment with supports without shame or fear of “getting it wrong”
4. build confidence in your instincts as your child’s parent
5. reconnect with yourself while still showing up for your child
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if you’ve ever wondered what parent coaching actually sounds like — or wished for a space to talk things through out loud with someone who truly gets it — this episode is for you.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 introduction and episode overview

00:06 meet winter and her journey

02:52 navigating early diagnosis and initial support

04:02 challenges, grief, and emotional struggles

11:57 finding the right support and community

20:30 navigating autism as a first-time parent

20:43 the pressure of early intervention

21:53 the impact of how diagnoses are delivered

23:04 support systems and clinical care

23:47 parenting with confidence and love

27:09 concerns about the future

33:33 advocating for disability needs in public spaces

37:25 building community and self-advocacy

39:54 closing reflections and resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ Connect with Winter @aspectrumfueledpurpose

⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey, with the option to add on a 1:1 coaching session like this

⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + other services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

if you’ve recently received an autism diagnosis — or you’re pretty sure one is coming — this episode is for you.

many parents expect to feel relief after a diagnosis. sometimes that happens briefly. but more often, things actually feel heavier, more confusing, and more urgent. in this episode, Dr. Tay breaks down why that happens, names the “trap of urgency” so many families fall into, and explains what actually helps in this early post-diagnosis phase.

want more support? the You Got The Diagnosis. Now What? program was designed for you! a four-week, neurodiversity-affirming program designed to support families in the space between diagnosis and action — focused on clarity, self-trust, and sustainable next steps.

LEARN MORE HERE: https://drtay.thrivecart.com/you-got-the-diagnosis-now-what

CHAPTERS

00:00 navigating the autism diagnosis journey

02:26 understanding why diagnosis can create more questions

12:41 clarity over urgency: slowing down without falling behind

23:59 introducing support for families in the post-diagnosis phase

RESOURCES

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach and other services

https://drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

this episode marks a big milestone — 200 episodes — and a very human return after an unplanned pause.

Dr. Tay shares openly about what led to stepping back, including grief, perfectionism, and the pressure she felt to make the “right” episode for this moment. from there, the conversation widens into something deeper: how personal values, neurodiversity-affirming care, and what’s happening in our country are deeply intertwined.

this is an episode about alignment — as a parent, as a clinician, and as a human — and why staying silent doesn’t feel like an option when your values are at stake.

CHAPTERS

00:00 return from hiatus and celebrating 200 episodes

05:48 navigating personal challenges, caregiving, and grief

12:19 the intersection of personal beliefs and professional practice

20:37 the importance of human connection in parenting

26:23 values, advocacy, and human rights

33:05 core values in clinical practice

36:38 affirming neurodivergence through collaboration

40:15 integrity, repair, and whole-family healing

44:00 living in alignment with your values

49:43 reflecting on privilege and responsibility in advocacy

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership: a space for questions, community, and neurodiversity-affirming guidance

https://drtaylorday.com/membership

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach and current services

https://drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me >>

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TikTok @the.dr.tay

“should i be teaching social skills to my autistic child… and if so, how?”

in this episode, dr. tay breaks down why traditional social skills approaches often miss the mark, how they can unintentionally promote masking, and what a neurodiversity-affirming approach looks like instead.

you’ll learn:

1. why “social skills” often = neurotypical norms
2. what actually helps autistic kids build authentic connection
3. practical ways to support social growth at home, without scripts or forcing
4. how to understand what your child needs based on their motivation, interests, and neurotype

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 introduction and episode inspiration

00:21 diagnostic feedback and recommendations

01:57 therapeutic approaches and parent coaching

04:34 addressing social skills in autistic children

05:52 neurodiversity affirming approaches

08:00 practical strategies and role-playing

12:04 real-life situations and empathy building

16:16 parental involvement and social skills groups

23:03 conclusion and next steps

RESOURCES

⚡️need more support navigating this? Join EVOLVE the membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space to ask YOUR questions.

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services, including her small group therapy model, at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ keep learning

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

In this episode, Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of supporting parents in the autistic journey. Joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom and coach for parents of autistic children, they discuss the role of parents as primary co-regulators for their children as well as strategies for staying regulated, building self-trust, and supporting their children's behaviors. They also explore systemic issues, coping mechanisms, and the need for a holistic approach that includes listening to autistic voices. Despite the focus on parents, the core message underscores the importance of a balanced support system for the entire family unit.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:28 Lisa Candera's Background and Passion

00:45 The Role of Parents in Autism Support

01:28 Podcast Introduction and Disclaimer

02:30 Lisa's Journey as a Single Mom

05:25 Challenges and Early Diagnosis

06:48 Navigating Resources and Support Systems

08:27 The Importance of Parental Education

16:04 Understanding OCD and Autism

22:59 Coaching and Self-Regulation

28:21 Understanding the Distinctness of OCD

28:30 The Complexity of Compulsions

29:01 Parental Instincts and Fix-It Mode

29:31 The Illogical Nature of OCD

30:06 OCD and Autism: The Just Right Feeling

31:22 Building Acceptance in Parenting

32:22 The Psychological Definition of Acceptance

33:46 Behavioral Issues and Parental Pressure

35:05 Supporting Parents: Tips and Strategies

37:24 Validating Experiences Before Problem Solving

38:01 Common Challenges and Seeking Support

39:21 Navigating Grief and Acceptance

40:02 Ambiguous Grief and GOMO

41:17 Being the Safe Person and Self-Advocacy

44:31 Parental Regulation and Child's Behavior

46:36 Building a Well-Rounded Support Team

48:29 The Power of Tone and Voice

52:12 Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ Continue learning from Lisa Candera at theautismmomcoach.com/ and @theautismmomcoach on Instagram and Facebook

⚡️ Download the Meltdown Action Plan

⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.

⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses impulse control for autistic children and offers proactive strategies to develop this skill without inducing shame. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of a regulated state for teaching impulse control and using fun, engaging games like Red Light, Green Light and Simon Says. The episode also answers questions from parents, such as managing inappropriate comments and excessive affectionate behaviors.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:24 Inspiration Behind the Episode

01:30 Understanding Impulse Control in Autistic Children

03:02 Proactive Skill Building Strategies

03:53 Engaging Activities to Teach Impulse Control

06:29 Addressing Common Questions from Parents

15:36 Impulse Control vs. Other Behavioral Issues

17:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.

⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ Continue learning + suggest topics for future episodes:

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the often overlooked yet crucial concept of interoception and its importance in supporting autistic children. Joined by guest Kelly Mahler, an experienced occupational therapist specializing in this area, they dive into what interoception is, how it impacts autistic children, and actionable strategies to improve interoceptive awareness. The conversation also touches on the significance of adult modeling, school-based interventions, and a comprehensive approach to sensory regulation. Additionally, they explore the connection between interoception and autistic burnout, providing valuable insights and resources for parents and educators.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:04 Guest Introduction: Kelly Mahler

02:11 Kelly's Journey into Interoception

04:17 Understanding Interoception

08:57 Interoception in Autistic Individuals

14:44 Building Interoceptive Awareness in Kids

23:16 Challenges and Advocacy in Schools

25:25 Understanding Interoception and Compliance

26:01 Adult Modeling and Focus Area Experiments

28:59 Sequential Process: Body, Emotion, Action

32:18 Challenges in School-Based OT and Sensory Regulation

38:47 Autistic Burnout and Interoception

46:52 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ check out all of Kelly’s resources → www.kelly-mahler.com

⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.

⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

dr. tay dives deep into perfectionism — how it shows up in autism parenting, in clinical work, and even in content creation. she shares personal reflections, a powerful story from her group therapy model, and a reminder that perfectionism can hide behind our best intentions to help.

this episode explores:

1. the fine line between accommodation and over-accommodation
2. perfectionism as a form of rigidity and how it sneaks into parenting
3. learning to release shame and accept imperfection as part of growth

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 introduction: what perfectionism looks like in parenting

00:54 reflections from clinical practice and lived experience

01:33 perfectionism behind the scenes of podcasting and social media

02:36 when “doing it right” becomes doing too much

12:46 finding the balance between accommodation and over-accommodation

21:17 learning to release control and practice repair over perfection

25:15 a group reflection on perfectionism and shared growth

35:42 closing encouragement and ways to stay connected

RESOURCES

⚡️ join evolve: the membership — a space for parents to reflect, connect, and grow through their autism journey.

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach and current clinical services at drtaylorday.com.

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit questions (they may be featured on a future episode!)

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Dr. Tay sits down with Jessie Caraway, creator of the If You Know One Project, to talk about her family’s journey, her daughter’s autism diagnosis, and how the project grew out of a desire to build community and awareness.

They reflect on the long road to an autism diagnosis, reframing “high support needs,” and the importance of seeing each autistic child through a lens of humanity rather than fear or deficit. Jessie shares how her journey with her daughter, Eliza, inspired her to create the If You Know One Project — a space that celebrates individuality and connection through neurodiversity-affirming awareness, apparel, and storytelling.

Together, Dr. Tay and Jessie explore what it means to move forward with compassion, to hold complexity in parenting, and to remind families that every story — every one — matters.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement

00:29 Host’s Background and Podcast Purpose

01:31 Guest Introduction and Family Background

02:01 Starting the If You Know One Project

03:29 Community Engagement and Resource Sharing

06:50 Challenges in the Diagnosis Journey

11:36 Navigating the Healthcare System

18:23 The If You Know One Project’s Mission and Future Goals

22:59 Navigating the Journey Together

23:22 Support for Families

24:04 Community and Connection

24:33 Understanding High Support Needs

25:22 The Value of Individuality

26:20 Perspective Shifts and Humanity

28:24 Building Trust and Communication

32:19 Sharing Stories and Advocacy

36:12 Encouragement for Parents

38:56 Final Thoughts and Resources

💛 RESOURCES

⚡️ Connect with Jessie Caraway + The If You Know One Project:

Instagram → @jess_ifyouknowone

Etsy Shop → If You Know One

⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.

⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:

Instagram → @the.dr.tay

TikTok → @the.dr.tay

this episode is a replay of my instagram live q+a, where we processed the recent press conference linking autism and tylenol. i shared reflections on research, stigma, and neurodiversity-affirming care, and answered parent questions in real time.

we covered the nuance of research, medication conversations, ableism and stigma, and most importantly — how parents can ground themselves and their families.

a special thank you to sam marion, lcsw (@sammarioncounseling) for moderating the live chat and helping to hold respectful space for this conversation.

THE JUST ONE THING CHALLENGE

toward the end of this episode, i introduce the just one thing challenge—a free 7-day practice designed to help parents slow down, ground themselves, and notice one small glimmer in the middle of daily overwhelm.

join the just one thing challenge starting monday, october 6th, 2025

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 introduction + intent of the live

01:46 introducing sam marion

03:51 processing the press conference

06:20 what neurodiversity affirming care really means

07:50 dr. tay’s background + perspective

09:52 making sense of autism research

12:36 diving into parent questions

24:05 responding to the administration’s narrative

39:54 fda-approved medications + leucovorin discussion

41:51 understanding pda + affirming supports

44:15 debunking tylenol + autism myths

45:56 confronting stigma + ableism

48:58 concerns about government policies

51:54 supporting autistic kids + families

01:10:51 the just one thing challenge

01:15:34 closing reflections + resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to find community + support in your parenting journey

⚡️ learn more about dr. tay's whole family approach + current clinical services offered at drtaylorday.com

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In this mini, spontaneous episode, Dr. Tay addresses the recent press conference where the administration linked autism to Tylenol, causing guilt and anxiety among parents. She emphasizes the importance of taking time to process emotions, the prevalence of misinformation, and the need for compassion. Dr. Tay reassures listeners that it's okay to take a pause, mute social media, and focus on emotional processing rather than seeking immediate answers. She encourages parents to embrace their current reality with their autistic child and highlights the complexity of autism's causes.

00:00 Introduction

00:19 Addressing the Press Conference on Autism and Tylenol

00:52 Processing and Community Feedback

02:25 Neurodiversity and Emotional Support

05:08 Clarifying Misconceptions about Autism Causes

06:38 Encouragement and Self-Care Tips

09:47 Final Thoughts and Outro

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here to have a community support you during these trying times

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered at drtaylorday.com

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In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares a sneak peek into a training within EVOLVE the memberhsip. Sh dives into the concept of low demand parenting, particularly for families with children who resonate with the PDA profile. Dr. Tay introduces and explains the "3 Bucket Approach" to help parents manage demands and boundaries effectively. The episode also outlines the benefits of joining the membership where deeper guidance, resources, and community support are provided. Additionally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of understanding family values and giving children autonomy, while maintaining necessary non-negotiable boundaries for safety and key family values.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:36 Membership Insights and Podcast Differences

01:15 Introducing a New Resource

02:22 Understanding Low Demand Parenting

06:21 The Three Bucket Approach

06:55 Non-Negotiables and Key Family Values

08:41 The Shoulds: Dropping Unnecessary Demands

11:01 The Ideal or Yet Bucket

11:57 Practical Examples and Applications

15:48 Conclusion and Membership Invitation

18:00 Episode Wrap-Up and Future Content

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

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In this episode, Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist and parental coach specializing in neurodiversity affirming care, explores the concept of jealousy and why it is a valid and normal emotion. Dr. Tay discusses the importance of experiencing and processing jealousy, rather than suppressing it, and how this can impact personal growth and well-being. The episode also addresses the complexity of co-existing emotions like hope and jealousy, and provides insights on how to navigate these feelings as a parent of an autistic child. Dr. Tay shares personal stories, professional insights, and practical advice on emotion regulation to help parents better support themselves and their families.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview

00:05 Understanding Jealousy as a Valid Emotion

01:15 The Impact of Suppressing Emotions

04:06 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Processing

12:06 Real-Life Applications and Parental Support

18:27 Affirmation and Momentum

18:42 Understanding Jealousy

19:06 Balancing Emotions

19:31 Validating Emotions

20:53 Navigating Jealousy and Hope

21:39 Seeking Support

24:00 Embracing Jealousy

26:38 Reflecting on Jealousy

33:15 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here and listen to my glimmers training that helps you to better understand progress

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered. visit drtaylorday.com

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In this episode, Dr. Tay delves into the underexplored topic of couples therapy within the autism community, emphasizing its proactive rather than reactive use. Joined by Dr. Ali Perkinson, a neurodiverse couples therapist and licensed psychologist, the discussion covers how couples therapy can support harmonious family dynamics, understanding neurodiverse communication styles, and breaking down stigmas around couples therapy. Dr. Ali shares insights from her practice, highlighting the importance of co-regulation between parents and addressing executive functioning differences. The episode also offers practical tools such as the emotion wheel and the significance of sensory management, aiming to equip parents with strategies that can foster a more neuro-inclusive household.

00:00 Introduction to Couples Therapy in Autism Parenting

00:50 Meet Dr. Ali: Neurodiverse Couples Therapist

02:22 Understanding Neurodiverse Relationships

03:13 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Couples

07:15 Common Reasons Couples Seek Therapy

08:25 Proactive vs. Crisis Couples Therapy

10:56 Navigating New Autism Diagnoses as a Family

20:28 Tools and Tips for Neurodiverse Families

22:44 The Importance of Venting in Relationships

22:56 The Fixer Mentality: Strengths and Pitfalls

23:45 Alternative Date Night Ideas for Neurodiverse Couples

24:21 Co-Regulation and Physical Activities

24:54 Therapeutic Modalities for Couples

26:20 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy

30:32 Addressing Executive Dysfunction in Relationships

34:18 Understanding Neurodiverse Love Languages

38:01 The Value of Couples Therapy

40:14 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Ali on Instagram @connectingwithali and learn more about her practice Connection Squared

⚡️ resource to find a neurodiverse couples therapist or coach

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

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In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the chaos surrounding the start of a new school year, especially for families of autistic kids. Sharing insights and practical advice from her extensive experience, she addresses anticipatory anxiety, the challenges of advocating within educational systems, and the importance of psychological safety for children. The episode also provides resources on using tools like AI for understanding your rights and articulating your thoughts and emphasizes the power of collaboration with educators and advocates. Tune in for strategies to ensure your child's smooth transition into the school year.

00:00 Introduction to the Chaos of Starting School

02:02 Navigating the Chaos of School Starting

02:49 Anticipatory Anxiety and Its Impact

04:56 Advocating for Your Child in the School System

16:50 The Importance of Psychological Safety at School

21:57 Final Thoughts and Resources

25:51 Conclusion and Ways to Connect

 RESOURCES

⚡️check out episodes 53, 57, 115, and 142 to learn more about educational rights and advocacy

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

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this week, i’m giving you a behind-the-scenes listen into a question from inside EVOLVE the membership — my neurodiversity-affirming space for parents of autistic children. in our private weekly q&a, a parent asked how to explain their child’s autism diagnosis to other adults in a way that’s both clear and affirming.

in this episode, you’ll hear my full response, with approaches you can start using right away — from choosing identity-first language to framing your child’s strengths and support needs when talking with educators, family, and friends.

you’ll also get a feel for what it’s like inside EVOLVE the membership, where members can bring their real-life questions instead of turning to Google, ChatGPT, or social media, and get thoughtful, personalized guidance.

00:00 introduction

00:25 welcome to this parenting space

01:34 why EVOLVE the membership?

03:59 behind the scenes of EVOLVE the membership

06:37 this week’s Q&A

11:01 neuroaffirming language explained

22:29 conclusion and membership invitation

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses a commonly asked question: Is the Autism Diagnostic Observation Schedule, Second Edition (ADOS-2) necessary for an autism diagnosis? Dr. Tay explains what the ADOS-2 is, its role in autism evaluations, and clarifies that while it is a widely respected tool, it is not required for diagnosing autism. The episode emphasizes the importance of using multiple assessment tools and clinical judgment in making an autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay also offers guidance for parents on how to advocate for their children, including questions to ask clinicians. Finally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of neurodiversity affirming practices and discusses the role of other evaluation tools and telehealth assessments.

00:00 Introduction and Common Questions

00:31 Understanding the ADOS-2

01:02 Training Levels and Misconceptions

02:09 Clinical vs. Research Use

04:07 Sensitivity, Specificity, and Misuse

06:50 Neurodiversity Movement and High Masking

10:26 Alternative Tools and Insurance Challenges

12:26 Challenges with Insurance-Mandated Assessments

12:45 Telehealth Evaluations: Validity and Tools

13:20 Alternative Assessment Tools for Autism

15:58 Key Questions to Ask Your Clinician

19:28 Understanding Autism Traits: Quantity vs. Quality

20:59 Free Resource Guide and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️Download the Autism Traits Guide

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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In this solo episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of perfectionism in autism parenting, sharing insights from her own journey and the experiences of parents she works with. Dr. Tay discusses the challenges of striving for perfection, the importance of being present, and the benefits of responding to feedback. She offers tips for navigating the autism parenting journey, including the value of collaboration, reflection, and admitting mistakes. Using the metaphor of golf, Dr. Tay illustrates the importance of analyzing and adapting to each situation as it arises. She encourages parents to embrace continuous growth and be adaptable, reassuring them that it's okay to not have everything figured out.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Inspiration

00:12 Perfectionism in Autism Parenting

01:14 Building a Supportive Community

04:20 Golf as a Metaphor for Parenting

06:12 Reflecting and Adapting in Parenting

07:56 Admitting Mistakes and Validating Your Child

08:49 Group Therapy and Support Options

09:28 Understanding the Transition to School

09:43 Dealing with Uncertainty and Burnout

10:14 The Power of Flexibility and Collaboration

11:39 Challenging Perfectionism in Parenting

13:02 Navigating the Transition Together

13:22 Golf Analogy: Embracing the Process

14:56 Partnering with Your Child and Yourself

17:00 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Leila from @sprinkledspectrum to discuss the joys and challenges of parenting autistic children. Leila shares her journey of discovering her children's neurodivergence, the importance of building community, and the value of learning from autistic adults. Together, they emphasize the significance of parent coaching, creating a supportive environment, and respecting children's dignity and autonomy. This episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for navigating the autism journey as a family.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

00:30 Meet Leila from @sprinkledspectrum

00:50 Dr. Tay's Background and Approach

02:07 Leila's Journey and Social Media Presence

04:09 Challenges and Rewards of Sharing Online

05:49 Navigating Different Perspectives in the Autism Community

07:46 Balancing Personal and Family Needs

13:45 Therapy Modalities and Parental Involvement

15:54 Integrating Therapy into Daily Life

20:24 Changing Family Systems: Responding to Meltdowns

21:36 Navigating a Child's Diagnosis

22:58 The Importance of Tailored Support

23:37 Recognizing Unique Needs in Autism

24:22 The Journey to Diagnosis and Acceptance

29:37 Building Community and Finding Support

32:50 Advocating for Dignity and Respect

33:19 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

38:42 Connecting with the Community

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Leila @sprinkledspectrum on Instagram and TikTok

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions >>

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In this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Melissa Houser, founder and executive director of All Brains Belong, to discuss co-occurring medical conditions in autistic individuals. The conversation covers Dr. Houser's personal and professional journey, the interconnected nature of conditions like hypermobility, POTS, mast cell activation syndrome, and the importance of holistic and inclusive healthcare. Together, they emphasize the value of community and explore the diverse resources offered by All Brains Belong to support both children and adults. Dr. Houser provides practical advice for parents and professionals seeking to improve care for neurodivergent individuals and shares impactful stories from their work.

00:00 Introduction to Co-Occurring Medical Conditions with Autism

00:50 Meet Dr. Melissa Houser: An Autistic Physician's Journey

01:21 Dr. Tay's Personal and Professional Background

02:29 Dr. Mel's Medical Background and Autism Diagnosis

04:04 The Founding of All Brains Belong

05:19 Challenges in Healthcare for Neurodivergent Individuals

05:40 The Importance of Self-Identification and Formal Evaluation

07:20 Conflicting Access Needs in Neurodivergent Families

07:59 Mission and Impact of All Brains Belong

20:41 Common Co-Occurring Conditions in Autistic Individuals

24:35 Understanding the Cluster of Conditions

25:10 Challenges in Medical Collaboration

25:59 Resources for Patients and Families

27:46 Impact of Long COVID on Neurodivergent Individuals

28:30 Cardiovascular Risks in Autistic Individuals

30:34 Advocacy and Self-Acceptance

37:32 Community Programs and Support

42:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ resources from Dr. Melissa Houser>>

• Everything is Connected to Everything: Improving the Healthcare of Autistic & ADHD Patients - resources for patients & clinicians
• Kid & Teen Connections - free customized friend-matching program for ages 4-17 based on shared interests
• Brain Club® - weekly virtual community education program for adults

⚡️ keep connecting with Dr. Houser on her website and Instagram @allbrainsbelongvt

⚡️ Zerbo et al. (2015) mentioned on the episode

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⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions >>

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Dr. Tay introduces the vision to provide deeper insights and support for families navigating the autism journey. Highlighting the benefits of her new membership offering, she explains how it differs from her free podcast and clinical services. Through personal reflections and practical examples, listeners learn about the types of content and community support available. Dr. Tay shares a sneak peek from one training about creating a schedule based on your child's need for structure, autonomy, or a mix of both, and offers strategies for creating a supportive environment. She finishes the episode sharing about the advantages of enhanced access to her expertise and the power of community within the membership.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Vision

00:35 Balancing Clinical Services and Membership

03:38 Membership Benefits and Differences

06:48 Founding Member Launch and Community Building

09:25 Masterclass and Custom GPT

13:19 Summer Structure Strategies

17:31 Parent and Child Needs Alignment

22:44 Conclusion and Membership Invitation

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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Dr. Tay discusses the importance of parents of autistic children seeking support for themselves. She highlights the role of therapy and medication, addressing the stigma and misconceptions surrounding them. Dr. Tay also shares her journey in creating resources for parents. She encourages self-care, therapy, and medication as essential tools for enhancing parental wellbeing and, consequently, better supporting their children. Note: as with all episodes, this episode is for educational purposes only; please speak to a qualified medical professional.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Episode

00:34 Personal Background and Experience

01:03 Disclaimer and Therapy Normalization

01:32 Focus on Medication Support

03:06 The Whole Family Approach

04:48 Starting a Business and Marketing Strategy

06:50 The Importance of Seeking Support

16:28 Medication Stigma and Benefits

24:44 Exploring Medication Options

27:58 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

33:53 Conclusion and Additional Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

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In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of grief that parents may experience upon learning about their child's autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay discusses the various stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—and how these emotions impact the parenting journey. She emphasizes that grieving in this context is not about mourning the child but rather a shift in expectations and the challenges of raising an autistic child in a predominantly neurotypical world. The episode includes real-life examples from Dr. Tay’s community, highlighting the diverse experiences of parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay shared about her educational membership and clinical services aimed at providing continuous support for parents processing grief and a sense of community for parents navigating similar journeys.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

01:58 Understanding Grief in the Context of Autism

04:49 Personal Experiences and Examples of Grief

08:43 Navigating Grief and Acceptance

13:51 Community Insights on Grief

25:56 Navigating Different Parenting Perspectives

26:19 Seeking Support and Resources

28:05 Understanding the Stages of Grief

28:48 Denial in the Grief Process

30:12 Anger and Its Manifestations

32:07 Bargaining and Desperate Measures

33:47 Depression and Its Impact

35:49 Acceptance and Psychological Flexibility

40:59 Complicated Grief and Its Variations

47:59 The Importance of Community and Support

52:07 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Marie Hooper, a clinical psychologist (supervised practice) from Toronto, Canada. They dive into the nuances of autism diagnosis, discussing why autism is often misdiagnosed and the importance of differential diagnosis. Dr. Marie shares her personal journey of being diagnosed as autistic at 43 and talks about her clinic, Flourish Health Services, and her upcoming initiative, Autism Reframe. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory differences, the significance of accurate diagnosis, and the benefits of understanding one's neurotype for identity and acceptance.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:28 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hooper

01:45 Personal Stories and Professional Background

04:00 Challenges in Autism Diagnosis

09:52 Misdiagnosis and Clinical Practice

11:45 Reevaluating Diagnoses and Identity

22:41 Parental Guidance and Support

25:37 Supportive Nudges and Clinical Care

25:56 Listening to Autistic Adults

26:20 Addressing Fear and Celebrating Diagnoses

27:10 Misdiagnosis of OCD and Autism

30:44 Understanding Sensory Differences

31:46 Challenges with Diagnostic Tools

36:54 Misdiagnosis of ODD and PDA

38:42 Borderline Personality Disorder and Autism

40:28 Final Thoughts and Resources

43:02 Conclusion and Call to Action

RESOURCES

⚡️learn more about Dr. Hooper's services in Canada flourishhealthservices.ca and her upcoming clinician trainings through autismreframe.com.

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

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In this candid and vulnerable episode, Dr. Tay dives deep into the theme of identity, sharing personal insights and challenges from her own journey. She discusses the importance of showing up as one's true, authentic self, especially for parents navigating life with autism. Dr. Tay touches on the struggles of balancing various roles in life and the discomfort that comes with self-disclosure and authenticity. Drawing inspiration from the 'Call Her Alex' documentary and addressing the need for self-integration, Dr. Tay encourages listeners to explore their true identity, model vulnerability, and seek support when needed. The episode is an invitation to embrace the journey of self-discovery and authenticity.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Theme

00:24 Navigating Identity and Authenticity

01:54 The Power of Self-Disclosure

03:32 Personal Reflections and Inspirations

04:55 Embracing Vulnerability and Realness

06:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery

09:49 Integrating Parts and Internal Family Systems

12:34 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

20:27 Invitation to Join the Membership

27:42 Concluding Thoughts and Future Episodes

RESOURCES

⚡️ it is FINALLY officially open - join EVOLVE the membership here

⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

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Dr. Tay welcomes psychiatrist Dr. Stacy Greeter to discuss the complexities of explaining medication to autistic children. They emphasize the importance of maintaining a neurodiversity-affirming approach, focusing on informed consent, and fostering a healthy relationship with medication. Dr. Greeter shares personal experiences and tips on building trust, understanding unique responses to medications, and the critical role of autonomy in treatment. They also discuss the broader challenges within the medical profession and the importance of continual learning and flexibility for practitioners.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:54 Guest Introduction: Dr. Stacy Greeter

01:26 Host Background and Podcast Purpose

02:40 Challenges in Psychiatry and Neurodiversity

05:19 Dr. Greeter's Personal Journey

12:27 Medication and Autism: Key Insights

18:12 Guiding Parents on Medication Conversations

23:34 The Role of Medicine in Treatment

24:08 Balancing Medicine and Personal Responsibility

25:11 Addressing Anxiety with Medication

25:58 Using Metaphors to Explain Medication

26:46 The Importance of Patient Ownership

27:18 The Impact of Beliefs on Medication Efficacy

28:18 Parental Concerns and Positive Expectations

29:29 Navigating Medication with Autonomy

31:35 Building a Therapeutic Alliance

34:26 Understanding Reluctance to Take Medication

39:49 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

41:31 Resources and Closing Remarks

 *note: PDA is discussed in this episode. it is a theorized profile often seen in a subset of autistic individuals and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

RESOURCES

⚡️inquire about Dr. Greeter’s services in FL and CO and sign up for her newsletter at stacygreetermd.com

⚡️watch Dr. Greeter’s trainings on YouTube @stacygreetermd

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In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of inner authority from human design and its significance in enhancing parental advocacy and personal growth. Joined by Rosy Crescitelli, a human design specialist and multisensory reading expert, they explore various types of inner authorities such as sacral, emotional, splenic, ego, self, sounding board, and lunar. They discuss how understanding and leveraging one's unique inner authority can facilitate better decision-making and create a more supportive environment for autistic children. Practical tips and insights are provided to help parents navigate this journey, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and nervous system regulation. Listen in to learn how human design can be a transformative tool for both personal and parental empowerment.

00:00 Introduction and Inner Authority Overview

00:46 Guest Introduction: Rosy Crescitelli

01:34 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:43 Rosy's Journey into Human Design

05:14 Understanding Human Design and Inner Authority

12:25 Sacral Authority: Trusting Your Gut

19:37 Emotional Authority: Riding the Emotional Wave

27:19 Splenic Authority: Quiet Intuition

31:21 Gratitude and Self-Trust

31:50 Understanding Splenic Authority

33:01 Ego Authority Explained

35:38 Self Authority for Projectors

39:30 Sounding Board Authority

47:54 Lunar Authority for Reflectors

52:53 Recap and Final Thoughts

56:04 Advocating for Your Child's Human Design

58:41 Connecting with Rosy

01:03:10 Closing Remarks

please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

RESOURCES

⚡️ find out your human design (be sure to also listen to episode 38 to learn more about HD)

⚡️explore ways to learn more about your or your child's human design with Rosy here

⚡️connect with Rosy on Instagram @wholeheartedrosy

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Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of asking questions as a tool for progress, especially for parents navigating the challenges of raising an autistic child. She discusses her own journey to launch a membership for parents seeking support, inspired by a serendipitous experience with a community she belongs to. Dr. Tay shares the story of how asking the right questions can lead to actionable outcomes and encourages parents to embrace their right to ask and advocate for their children.

00:00 Introduction to Asking for Help

00:39 Personal Journey and Decision Making

02:37 The Importance of Bite-Sized Information

04:42 The Power of Asking Questions

07:47 Launching the Membership

10:44 Encouragement to Ask Questions

15:10 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ JOIN EVOLVE the membership waitlist here

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00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:28 Autism Diagnostic Criteria and Episode Reference

01:10 Amanda's Background and Passion for Autism

01:38 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:40 Amanda's Journey and PhD Focus

04:07 Challenges in Autism Assessment Tools

10:22 Importance of Self-Identification and Formal Diagnosis

14:46 Challenges in Diagnosing Girls with Autism

26:51 Key Transitional Points for Diagnosing Autism in Girls

31:44 Recognizing Emotional Dysregulation in Children

32:26 Perfectionism and Cognitive Rigidity

33:10 The Role of Savvy Parents

33:31 The Importance of Content Creation

35:37 Exploring Masking in Autism

38:16 Personal Experiences with Masking

41:11 Helping Children Understand Their Energy Levels

44:25 The Complexities of Masking and Mental Health

46:40 Finding Safe Spaces for Authenticity

53:49 Social Connections Among Neurodivergent Individuals

56:35 Resources for Understanding Masking

01:00:00 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ continue learning from Amanda Moses on Instagram @amandamosespsychology and via her website

⚡️paid resource on masking mentioned in the episode

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Dr. Tay shares personal experiences and insights about making significant life changes. She discusses the challenges and importance of trusting one's instincts, especially when overthinking sets in. Dr. Tay recounts a personal story involving a car accident and fire ants, which led her to a profound realization about her own business decisions, particularly the launch of the anticipated membership to support families navigating autism. She emphasizes the value of listening to your body, taking action despite fear, and leveraging gut feelings in both parenting and personal growth. This episode encourages parents, especially those of autistic children, to trust themselves and act on their intuitive nudges.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:32 About Dr. Tay and the Podcast

01:22 Disclaimer and Episode Topic Introduction

01:58 Personal Story: The Fire Ant Incident

03:27 Business Mastermind and Spiritual Meaning of Fire Ants

05:20 Struggles with Launching the Membership

08:40 The Importance of Trusting Your Gut

09:17 Quality Over Quantity in Services

11:29 Navigating Parenting Decisions

15:38 Personal Reflections and Call to Action

22:39 Final Thoughts and Farewell

RESOURCES

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In this episode, Dr. Tay chats with Jessie Mewshaw, a speech language pathologist, to discuss the often overlooked topic of medium and high support needs in autism. They dive into why this conversation is vital, sharing personal experiences and professional insights. Jessie discusses her unique journey into the field and her current work with nonspeaking and minimally speaking autistic individuals. Key themes include the importance of neurodiversity-affirming care, better training and support for providers and caregivers, and the need for more accessible and financially supported resources. The episode also highlights the significance of listening to diverse autistic voices and fostering a community that supports all levels of need.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:44 Meet Jessie Mewshaw: Speech Language Pathologist

01:21 Welcome to the Podcast: Dr. Tay's Background

06:01 Jesse's Journey into Speech Pathology

07:46 Experiences in Australia: Life-Changing Lessons

12:47 Challenges in the US: Lack of Support Programs

17:18 Evaluation Barriers and Presuming Competence

21:55 The Importance of Motor Systems in Autism

27:44 Navigating the Journey Together

28:24 The Importance of Medical Training

30:11 Understanding Dysregulation

34:08 Voices of Families

38:01 Advocacy and Community

43:46 Challenges in Neurodivergent Care

50:21 Call to Action and Resources

50:48 Remembering Victor Perez

51:59 Final Thoughts and Connections

RESOURCES

⚡️ example accounts of moderate and high support need autistic individuals:

@aether.autistic

@angry_autist

@blackspectrumscholar

@charliesvoice1

@dannywithwords

@getaway_autist_mobile

@justkeepstimming

@kaishawna_music

@quirkthriveswithnoah

@zebulontheplanet

⚡️ connect with Jessie on Instagram @ms_jessies_speech_world and explore her services here

⚡️ resource for non-speaking individuals >> When Models Aren't "Sticking": A One-Day Intensive for Supporting Minimally Speaking GLPs (use code JESSIE for 10% off)

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In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses the current uncertainties of the autism space and how it applies to clinical practice, her personal business, and your parenting journey. She provides an honest reflection on the challenges of navigating unknowns, both personally and within the context of autism care. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of serving oneself, building resiliency, and creating community support. She offers practical tips and shares her experiences to help parents make decisions about evaluating and supporting their autistic children amidst the current political climate. Throughout the episode, she encourages listeners to adopt a balanced approach, integrating self-care and external support while fostering a sense of community.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Updates

00:51 Navigating the Unknowns

01:30 About Dr. Tay and the Podcast

02:32 Current Issues in Autism and Evaluations

09:47 Empowering Parents in Decision Making

13:19 Personal Reflections and Business Adjustments

22:15 Self-Care and Serving Your Family

26:48 Addressing the Inner Critic

27:09 Understanding the Marching Order Part

27:45 The Fear of Stopping

28:02 Balancing Helper Identity and Self-Care

29:20 Integrating Internal Family Systems

29:55 Practical Tips for Self-Understanding

30:49 Navigating Financial Conversations with Kids

32:33 Building a Support Network

33:06 The Importance of Vulnerability

33:57 Reevaluating and Pausing for Clarity

36:06 The Tower Moment Analogy

43:00 Creating Community and Connection

47:15 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

48:13 Ways to Get More Value

RESOURCES

⚡️Dive deeper with episodes mentioned: 38 on human design, 118 on sensory regulation supports (with Courtney English) and 164 on reasons to get evaluated now

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Think of this episode like sitting down with Dr. Tay to chat about a variety of topics, while she is getting ready for morning sessions. She shares her struggles with neck pain and ties it to stress and shame while discussing the application to your parenting journey. Dr. Tay then dives into the recent political climate, particularly RFK Jr.'s controversial remarks about autism and the proposed national registry. She discusses the ongoing robust research into the causes of autism, language use in the autism community, and the importance of supporting high support needs families.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Setup

01:06 Personal Updates and Daily Life

01:25 Stress and Physical Health

05:13 Therapy and Somatics

07:46 Shame and Parenting

09:34 Political Climate and Autism

10:09 RFK Junior's Remarks on Autism

11:14 Autism Research and Funding

23:17 National Autism Registry Concerns

26:04 Conclusion and Future Plans

Like the format of this podcast? Let Dr. Tay know! She is exploring options for how to best serve you through this podcast!

RESOURCES

⚡️Instagram posts referenced in this episode >>

@autismoutloud’s post on autism research funding

@fidget.and.fries post on high support needs and a false sense of hope

⚡️while the national autism registry was only briefly touched on (more to come here and/or on Dr. Tay’s social media), you can take action now and express your concerns to your representatives. thanks to @blackspectrumscholar, here are templates you can use

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Dr. Tay is joined by Camille Joy, an advocate and host of the Moments of Joy podcast. They discuss Camille's journey as a mother of five boys, including her youngest son Maison, who has a congenital heart defect, autism, and intellectual disability. They dive into the importance of early diagnosis, navigating the education system, and advocating for children's needs. Camille shares her experiences with challenging the status quo, particularly around getting Maison access to music and art classes. The conversation also touches on emotional processing, the significance of support systems, and Camille's initiatives including her podcast and children's book, The Adventures of Maison and Mr. Straw: Mac and Cheese Please.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

00:44 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

01:55 Camille Joy's Family and Advocacy Journey

02:36 Maison's Diagnosis and Early Intervention

03:26 Challenges and Realizations in Parenting

05:28 Navigating Medical and Educational Systems

10:29 Advocating for Mason's Education

17:08 Using AI for Advocacy and Legal Rights

21:17 Understanding the Importance of Data Collection

22:15 Advocating for Your Child's Needs

25:34 Navigating Emotional Challenges

33:25 The Journey of Starting a Podcast

35:46 Introducing Maison's Adventures

39:25 Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ purchase Camille and Maison’s book here (profits go directly to a savings account for Maison)

⚡️ listen in to the Moments of Joy podcast here

⚡️follow her on Instagram, TikTok, & Facebook

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In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares what families with autistic children are ACTUALLY doing in terms of therapy and support services. Emphasizing the importance of quality over quantity, Dr. Tay discusses common therapies like ABA, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and mental health support. The episode also highlights the significance of individualized plans tailored to each family's needs and reminds parents that it's okay to prioritize their child's well-being and capacity over an overwhelming number of services. Real-life examples from listeners are included to illustrate the diverse approaches families take. Dr. Tay encourages parents to trust their intuition and focus on what truly benefits their child.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:20 Understanding Therapy Options

01:36 Balancing Therapy Demands

02:57 Real-Life Family Experiences

04:09 Diverse Therapy Approaches

11:42 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ additional episodes that may be helpful: "26 | why ABA therapy is controversial?", "31 | three "system issues" you may be facing with your child's autism care", and "110 | what is PDA?"

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Dr. Tay explores the concept of declarative language and its benefits, especially for demand-avoidant children, with Linda Murphy—a speech therapist, RDI consultant, writer, and expert on the topic. They discuss the definition of declarative language and how it differs from demand-based phrases, emphasizing the importance of thoughtful communication that invites a collaboration. Linda shares insights from her book Declarative Language Handbook and provides practical strategies for parents to effectively use declarative language. They also cover topics such as building self-advocacy, fostering cognitive flexibility, and managing sibling conflicts through this approach. The importance of mindset shifts is emphasized as well as the continuous learning process in order to improve communication with autistic children.

00:00 Introduction to Declarative Language

00:30 Meet Linda Murphy: Expert in Declarative Language

02:12 Understanding Declarative Language

03:37 The Power of Declarative Language

05:29 Practical Examples and Strategies

08:47 Proactive Conversations and Mindset Shifts

16:05 Dynamic Support and Scaffolding

22:17 Direct vs. Indirect Declarative Language

25:40 Introduction to PDA and Indirect Language

26:18 Experimenting with Communication Strategies

26:53 Building Transparent Communication

28:23 Practical Examples and Techniques

29:48 Using Declarative Language in Different Scenarios

33:13 Modeling and Validating Emotions

45:00 Declarative Language with Non-Speaking Individuals

48:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ continue learning at declarativelanguage.com, including ordering Linda's books and checking out the resources referenced in the episode (types of DL and direct language for PDAers)

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Note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this mini-episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of noticing and reinforcing small wins in the autism parenting journey. Emphasizing the balance between avoiding toxic positivity and acknowledging positive moments, Dr. Tay explains how behaviorism done in a neurodiversity affirming way can play a role in promoting desired behaviors in autistic children. She shares practical tips on how parents can start recognizing subtle behavioral shifts and reinforce them to facilitate positive change. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Dr. Tay offers valuable strategies for improving parent-child interactions and fostering an environment where small steps are celebrated on the way to achieving bigger goals.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:04 Understanding the Concept of Wins

01:45 Behaviorism and Neurodiversity Affirming Approaches

02:57 Practical Examples and Strategies

07:57 The Importance of Interpretation

09:04 Reinforcing Small Wins

12:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

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Dr. Tay welcomes Lo Farmer to discuss the role of parental advocacy. Lo shares her journey from discovering her son's developmental delays to advocating for equitable access to services. Highlighted topics include the emotional and logistical challenges of getting a diagnosis, the broken support systems for special needs families, and Lo's significant efforts to change policies at the Fort Worth Zoo regarding 1:1 aides. Dr. Tay and Lo emphasize the importance of community support, the need for systemic change, and the value of giving parents grace during this demanding journey.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Theme

00:23 Inspiring Quote and Guest Introduction

01:35 Welcome to the Parenting Space

02:42 Guest's Background and Family Journey

03:45 Challenges in Accessing Services

05:07 The Broken System and Advocacy

07:29 Navigating Diagnosis and Support

10:54 The Emotional Toll and Parental Grief

15:58 Public Advocacy and Viral Impact

20:44 Facing Legal Challenges Without a Lawyer

21:15 Empowering Special Needs Moms

21:43 Strategic Advocacy for Change

22:31 The Zoo Inclusion Controversy

22:57 Navigating Support Systems

24:10 The Importance of Familiarity in Care

28:36 Advocacy Goals and Personal Challenges

35:40 Parental Stress and Community Support

39:40 Wrapping Up and Staying Connected

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Lo on Instagram @sipdinedesign and continue to hear her updates on inclusion

⚡️ research article about parental stress discussed in episode linked here

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Dr. Tay discusses five compelling reasons why parents should consider getting their child assessed for autism, despite the current political climate. This mini episode offers insights into the benefits of obtaining a tailored plan, gaining greater understanding and acceptance of your child, boosting parental confidence, and being proactive in mental health outcomes. Dr. Tay also addresses common concerns about sharing diagnoses and offers guidance on how to navigate the evaluation process, including the advantages of private pay options.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:25 Why Get an Autism Assessment?

01:24 Tailored Plans from Evaluations

03:04 Understanding Your Child Better

05:24 Acceptance and Mental Health

06:59 Boosting Parental Confidence

08:23 The Importance of Being Proactive

10:55 Navigating the Evaluation Process

14:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ Learn more about our approaches and services in episodes "46 | telehealth evaluations: a new era in autism diagnosis" and "48 | Q+A: a closer look into Dr. Tay's concierge private practice for autism support"

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Dr. Tay welcomes Andi Putt, better known on social media as @mrsspeechiep. Andi, a late identified autistic speech therapist, discusses her work doing autism evaluations and the resources she provides for the autism community. They explore topics including the nuances of autism diagnosis, the importance of neurodiversity-affirming care, and the development of Andi's popular Autism Handbooks. The conversation also dives into challenges within the clinical community, continuous learning, and advocacy for understanding and acceptance of autism. Andi shares how her personal experiences as an autistic individual influence her work and advocacy, with an invitation for all clinical providers and educators to make the perspective shift to neurodiversity-affirming care.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement

02:08 Meet Andi Putt: The Journey to Speech Therapy

04:10 Discovering Autism and Social Media Advocacy

05:00 The Importance of Neurodiversity Affirming Care

06:45 Challenges and Growth in Autism Evaluations

12:14 Personal Diagnosis and Self-Discovery

16:16 The Role of Speech Therapy in Autism Diagnosis

23:33 Creating the Autism Handbook

28:32 Connecting Through Autism

29:19 Books for Autistic Children

31:07 Simplifying Complex Information

32:37 Understanding Autism Variability

33:27 Challenges in Autism Diagnosis

36:52 Autism Epidemic Misconceptions

39:27 The Importance of Accurate Diagnosis

46:17 Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ check out Andi's resources

Parent Autism Handbook

The Autism Handbook for Kids

Understanding Autism Together

Statistics post referenced on the episode

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In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses the challenges and debates surrounding Autism Awareness and Acceptance Month. She shares insights from conversations about the division within the autism community over terminologies, symbols, and approaches, emphasizing the importance of unity and empathy. Dr. Tay highlights the pressing issues like the spread of misinformation, the role of evidence-based practices, and the political landscape affecting autism support. She calls for collaboration and understanding to better support autistic individuals and their families while addressing societal and medical misperceptions.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:32 Autism Awareness and Acceptance Month

01:36 Debates and Divisions in the Autism Community

03:37 Misinformation and Vaccine Controversies

06:09 Call for Unity and Empathy

09:44 Conclusion and Call to Action

RESOURCES

⚡️ Check out episodes "152 | how US policy updates impact the neurodiversity movement" and "156 | education under siege: what it means for your autistic child"

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In this insightful episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Lisa Jean-Francois, known as @consciouslylisa_ on social media. Lisa shares her in-depth and personal journey of parenting two autistic children. The conversation covers her initial struggles and breakthroughs in understanding autism, the unexpected discovery of her husband's late diagnosis, and her introspective look at her possible neurodivergence. Lisa also discusses her adaptation of gentle and conscious parenting techniques to align with her family's unique cultural context and needs. The episode delves into the challenges and strategies for raising autistic children, including the importance of community support and the varying experiences across different neurodivergence spectrums. Crucially, this episode emphasizes the importance of not generalizing autism experiences and highlights the necessity of tailored approaches in both understanding and parenting.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:36 Lisa's Parenting Journey

02:45 Early Signs and Diagnosis

05:57 Navigating Misdiagnosis and Acceptance

10:01 Impact on Family and Personal Reflections

17:40 Husband's Realization and Family Dynamics

22:33 Self-Identification and Broader Implications

26:24 Navigating Parental Self-Diagnosis

27:38 The Complexity of Diagnosing Neurodivergence

31:00 Parenting Approaches and Cultural Adaptations

35:01 Challenges and Strategies in Gentle Parenting

43:53 The Importance of Individual Experiences

46:15 Connecting and Learning from the Community

49:40 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Lisa on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook

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In this mini episode, Dr. Tay explores the intersection between evidence-based practices and neurodiversity affirming care in autism treatment. Drawing from her extensive background in research and clinical practice, she discusses the challenges of integrating these approaches to provide tailored, effective support for autistic individuals. Emphasizing the importance of lived experiences and clinical impressions alongside research, Dr. Tay highlights the need for a flexible, patient-centered approach to care that focuses on quality of life. This episode aims to inform and inspire listeners about the evolving landscape of autism care.

00:00 Introduction to Mini Episodes

00:49 Purpose and Format of Mini Episodes

01:33 Today's Topic: Evidence-Based Practice and Neurodiversity

02:00 Background and Training in Research

03:05 Challenges in Autism Research

03:41 Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

07:34 Intersection of Evidence-Based and Neurodiversity Practices

11:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

13:11 Subscribe and Engage

RESOURCES

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In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses apraxia with Jordan Levan, a disability advocate and founder of The Apraxia Foundation. They explore the differences between apraxia and dyspraxia, signs and symptoms, and the importance of early diagnosis. Jordan shares his personal journey with childhood apraxia of speech, the types of therapeutic approaches available, and how to integrate neurodiversity affirming approaches into therapeutic supports. They also talk about the resources and support provided by The Apraxia Foundation, specifically AAC devices and speech therapy services, emphasizing a comprehensive understanding of each child’s needs.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:40 Meet Jordan LeVan: Disability Advocate

02:59 Jordan's Personal Journey with Apraxia

04:06 Challenges and Advocacy in Childhood

07:10 Speech Therapy and Treatment Approaches

15:29 Understanding Apraxia and Its Types

23:11 Dyspraxia Explained

31:56 Understanding Co-Occurring Conditions with Childhood Apraxia

32:29 The Importance of Knowing Your Child's Full Disability Profile

32:47 Personal Experiences with Late Diagnoses

34:11 The Impact of Historical Treatment of Disabilities on Parents' Fears

36:58 The Role of Comprehensive Evaluations in Diagnosing Childhood Apraxia

41:54 Challenges in Diagnosing Childhood Apraxia in Autistic Children

44:37 Therapeutic Approaches for Childhood Apraxia

48:53 The Importance of Consent in Speech Therapy

56:37 Introduction to the Apraxia Foundation

01:00:50 Connecting with the Apraxia Foundation and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Jordan on Instagram @fightingformyvoice and visit his website

⚡️ learn about his nonprofit @theapraxiafoundation and visit the website

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In this episode, Dr. Tay connects with Neurofriendly Beau, a neurodivergent ADHD coach and parent of a neurodivergent child. They discuss the challenges and dynamics of parenting when the parent and child have different neurotypes. Beau shares insights on her late ADHD diagnosis and limitations of the diagnosis process as well as details her journey through parenthood, and the importance of adaptable and understanding approaches that go beyond traditional neurotypical standards. They also dive into the need for safety, individual accommodation, and the critical importance of modeling self-compassion and advocacy for children. Beau also presents her personal struggles and strategies for co-existing with Autism/ADHD (AuDHD) in an insightful and relatable manner, making this a deeply valuable episode for parents and guardians navigating similar journeys.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

00:58 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose

01:59 Guest's Introduction and Initial Conversation

03:27 Guest's ADHD Diagnosis Journey

09:49 Parenting and Neurodivergence

17:34 Collaborative Parenting Approach

18:06 Addressing Self-Sabotaging Thoughts

18:59 Unique Solutions for Daily Challenges

20:03 Navigating Screen Time Concerns

22:01 Modeling Problem-Solving for Kids

24:58 Embracing Neurodivergent Parenting

25:57 The Importance of Self-Advocacy

27:44 Shame and Neurodivergence

31:25 Resources and Support for Parents

32:39 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Beau on Instagram @neurofriendlybeau and check out her website here, including to learn about her coaching services

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Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist specializing in neurodiversity affirming care, interviews Laura Petix @theotbutterfly about her children's book on neurodiversity. They discuss how to help children understand their autistic brain and neurodivergent traits, Laura's inspiration for writing the book, and her background as a pediatric occupational therapist. The conversation covers Laura's journey as a neurodivergent parent, the importance of educating neurotypical children about neurodiversity, and how her book aims to normalize differences in behaviors and learning styles in classrooms and at home.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview

01:55 Meet Laura Petix: The OT Butterfly

02:20 Laura's Journey and Neurodivergent Parenting

03:40 Understanding Neurodiversity and ADHD

05:54 Challenges in Getting a Diagnosis

15:01 Educating Neurotypical Kids About Neurodiversity

21:17 Understanding Autism and Family Care

21:48 Book Release and Publisher Transition

22:35 Importance of Pre-orders for Authors

24:21 Impact of the Book on Children and Classrooms

26:36 Key Concepts and Messages in the Book

30:42 Engaging Adults and Broader Audience

34:43 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️PRE-ORDER her book here before March 4, 2025 (same link works to purchase the book after that date)

⚡️ FOLLOW Laura on Instagram and learn about her other resources

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⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

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In this special episode, Dr. Tay welcomes back special education attorney Ashley Barlow to discuss critical updates impacting special education in the U.S. They delve into the Texas vs. Becerra case regarding the potential elimination of Section 504 protections, explore potential changes within the Department of Education, and highlight the significance of grassroots advocacy. Dr. Tay and Ashley provide valuable insights on how parents can proactively advocate for their children's educational rights, navigate current stresses, and use available resources effectively. The episode underscores the importance of building strong relationships with IEP teams and staying informed about legislative changes that may affect the neurodivergent community.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:10 Meet Ashley Barlow: Special Education Attorney

00:19 Understanding 504 IEP and Its Importance

03:18 Concerns About Losing 504 Protections

08:04 Impact of Losing 504 on Disability Community

14:20 Advocacy and Grassroots Efforts

30:21 Potential Changes in the Department of Education

39:23 Government Efficiency and DEI Initiatives

40:59 Impact on Education and Research

42:23 State-Level Implications and Comparisons

44:25 Project 2025 and Potential Changes

45:47 Real-Life Impacts on Special Education

54:48 Advocacy and Legislative Engagement

01:02:51 Practical Advice for Parents

01:08:17 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

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Dr. Tay welcomes Mercedes Palermo to discuss her experiences as a parent of an autistic daughter diagnosed with ARFID. Mercedes shares her journey, from the initial diagnosis to managing daily challenges, while highlighting her advocacy efforts in spreading awareness. The episode covers key issues like understanding avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID), balancing the needs of siblings, and creating supportive environments. Mercedes also talks about her initiatives, including a nonprofit providing recreational programs for individuals with disabilities, emphasizing the importance of community support and neurodiversity.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement

00:28 Meet Mercedes Palermo

01:18 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:28 Mercedes' Family and Autism Journey

04:08 Diagnosis Process and Early Signs

06:59 Challenges and Advocacy

10:14 Understanding ARFID

12:50 Navigating ARFID and Family Dynamics

30:35 Community Building and Support

36:13 Final Thoughts and Resources

37:26 Closing Remarks and Next Steps

RESOURCES

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Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Michelle Fardella, a clinical and school psychologist from Canada, to discuss the critical topic of sex education for autistic youth. The conversation covers various aspects, including the importance of proactive sex education, teaching body autonomy, consent, and addressing misconceptions. They delve into barriers faced by autistic youth in accessing comprehensive sex education and emphasize safety and appropriate teaching methods. Additionally, the episode touches on gender identity, sexual orientation, and provides practical resources for parents and educators. Trigger warnings and the importance of seeking support are also highlighted to ensure a safe and informative discussion.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:29 Meet Dr. Michelle Fardella

02:43 Trigger Warning and Sensitive Topics

03:57 Dr. Fardella's Background and Passion

06:26 Challenges in Sex Education for Autistic Youth

08:09 Importance of Tailored Sex Education

10:27 Parental Mindset and Barriers

18:03 Starting Early: Teaching Consent and Safety

20:01 Navigating Discomfort and Finding Safe Persons

23:43 The Accidental Exposure to Pornography

23:58 Discussing Pornography with Young Children

25:11 Proactive Conversations About Intercourse

26:04 Addressing Misconceptions from Pornography

28:13 Honesty in Answering Kids' Questions

30:10 Resources for Teaching Sexual Health

32:46 Masturbation: Education and Safety

36:00 Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation

41:04 Conclusion and Additional Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ find resources for talking about these topics on Dr. Michelle’s blog >> https://www.wondertreepractice.ca/post/a-caregiver-s-guide-to-teaching-sex-education-to-neurodivergent-youth

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In this episode, Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist and parental coach, speaks with Dr. Mona Amin, a board-certified pediatrician known for her social media presence as PedsDocTalk. They discuss critical aspects of navigating the journey of raising an autistic child, including effective strategies for interacting with pediatricians, advocating for necessary accommodations, and understanding the nuances of autism diagnosis. Dr. Mona shares insights on the importance of continual learning for clinicians and collaboration between professionals and parents. The conversation also addresses handling common challenges such as anxiety, behavioral issues, and medical fears in autistic children. This episode is a valuable resource for parents and professionals alike, providing practical tips and underscoring the significance of empathy and communication in pediatric care.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:31 Meet Dr. Mona Amin

02:50 Dr. Mona's Online Education Journey

05:32 Navigating Autism Diagnosis

07:44 State Differences in Autism Diagnosis

10:58 Screening Tools and Challenges

15:11 Parental Advocacy and Pediatrician Collaboration

19:27 Collaborations and Resources

25:38 Accommodations for Autistic Patients

26:28 Understanding Accommodations for Autistic Children

26:57 Creating a Low-Stim Environment

27:50 Effective Communication with Autistic Children

28:28 Handling Medical Procedures with Care

31:47 Addressing Anxiety and Medical Fears

32:18 Role-Playing and Preparation at Home

33:04 Strategies for Reducing Stress in Medical Settings

34:31 Training Medical Staff for Better Care

40:08 Procedures and Special Considerations

41:26 Addressing Sleep, Feeding, and Behavior Issues

47:10 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ continue learning and connecting with Dr. Mona @pedsdoctalk on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, podcast, and her website.

⚡️ watch Dr. Mona and Andi Putt @mrsspeechiep's YouTube video on autism characteristics and signs here.

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Dr. Tay shares a real-time update on US policy changes and their impact for autistic individuals and neurodiversity affirming supports. This episode was recorded and published on Jan 29th, 2025 and addresses topics such as DEI, Medicaid, NIH, gender recognition, ICE, and Elon Musk. This episode is not intended to be a news source but instead encourages you to stay informed and presents the implications for the neurodiversity affirming movement. If you feel passionate about neurodiversity and autistic supports, this is a must-listen.

RESOURCES

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In this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by school psychologist Briana Drimmer to explore the complexities of school eligibility criteria for autism. They discuss the differences between medical diagnoses and educational eligibility, the role of an IEP team, and how to advocate for your autistic child within the school system. The episode also covers the educational impact, specially designed instruction, and other common eligibility categories such as OHI and ED. Tune in to learn how to effectively navigate the school system and ensure your child receives the support they need.

00:00 Introduction to School and Autism Eligibility

00:36 Meet Briana Drimmer: School Psychologist

01:34 Navigating School Systems vs. Clinical Diagnoses

04:21 Understanding the IEP Team

05:31 The Process of School Evaluation for Autism

08:13 Challenges and Denials in the Evaluation Process

14:52 Eligibility Criteria for Autism in Schools

21:58 Differences Between DSM and IDEA Criteria

30:58 Understanding Educational Impact Beyond Grades

31:05 Communication and Social Challenges

31:35 Emotional and Adaptive Skills

31:59 Mobility and Academic Examples

32:27 Curiosity and Broader Definitions

32:59 Specially Designed Instruction

35:10 Accommodations vs. Special Education

36:27 The Role of 504 Plans

38:21 Specialized Academic Instruction

39:24 Behavioral and Counseling Services

42:33 Navigating School Systems and Advocacy

51:10 Co-Occurring Diagnoses and Eligibility

57:32 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ Follow Briana on Instagram @educationallypsyched

⚡️ Check out her resources on Teachers Pay Teachers

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In this episode, Dr. Tay hosts Marissa Ramos, a bilingual English/ASL speech therapist, to discuss the benefits of incorporating sign language into communication strategies for autistic and hard of hearing children. They dive into the overlapping needs of these children, the surprisingly low percentage of speech therapists who are fluent in ASL, and share insights on the importance of early language exposure. Marissa also discusses her personal journey with ASL and her advocacy for its broader use in therapy. The conversation highlights the significance of multimodal communication and introduces listeners to resources for learning and integrating ASL into everyday practice.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

03:28 Marissa's Background and Journey into ASL

05:36 Understanding Deaf Culture and Terminology

09:26 The Power of ASL in Early Childhood

13:13 Neurodiversity Affirming Approaches to ASL

17:06 Sign Language as a Form of Communication

20:20 Spoken Language vs AAC: Efficiency and Accessibility

21:25 Understanding the Difference: ASL vs AAC

22:34 The Benefits of Teaching Sign Language

25:11 Statistics on Hearing Loss in Autistic Children

28:15 The Importance of Multimodal Communication

33:12 Language Deprivation Syndrome

37:19 Resources for Learning ASL

39:10 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Marissa on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook

⚡️ check out her resources, including the free 100 word checklist here

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In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Iris Wong, a speech-language pathologist, executive functioning coach, and late diagnosed AuDHD mother with ND children to discuss the importance of executive functions. The conversation covers the definition of executive functions, how they manifest in daily life, and particularly how they impact autistic and ADHD children. They explore practical examples and strategies to support executive functioning skills, focusing on using special interests and leveraging AI tools. This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding individual brain patterns and provides resources for continued learning.

00:00 Introduction to Executive Functions

00:27 Meet Iris Wong: A Journey Through Neurodivergence

01:11 Understanding Executive Functions in Daily Life

01:29 Welcome to A Parenting Space Designed for You

02:48 Iris Wong's Personal and Professional Background

04:31 The Role of Executive Functions in Family Dynamics

06:53 Challenges and Strategies for Parents

08:45 Defining Executive Functions

15:45 Executive Functions and PDA Profile

18:33 Navigating Burnout and Executive Functions

21:46 Real-Life Examples and Practical Advice

23:25 Flexible Schooling and Self-Care Tasks

25:26 Understanding Body Doubling in Schools

25:51 Navigating Self-Care with EF Challenges

26:43 Innovative Self-Care Strategies

27:54 Supporting Neurodivergent Adults

28:44 Accommodations for Executive Functioning

29:43 Demand Avoidance and Overwhelm

30:04 Personal Stories and EF Challenges

31:55 Special Interests and EF Skills

42:28 The Role of AI in Supporting EF

45:14 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ Follow Iris on Instagram

⚡️ Learn about her resources >> www.eftoolkit.com

⚡️ Check out her book all things EF >> https://akidsco.com/products/a-kids-book-about-executive-functioning

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*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this final episode of 2024, Dr. Tay recaps the top 10 most downloaded podcast episodes of the year, reflecting on the amazing growth and impact of the show. The podcast, focused on autism and parenting, has garnered significant attention with an average of 1,400 downloads per week recently, and a total of over 55,000 all-time downloads. Highlighted episodes include deep dives into PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), autism in females, low demand parenting, sensory regulation at home, and various therapeutic approaches. Dr. Tay also discusses future plans for monetization to enhance the podcast's reach and quality, including potential ads and sponsorships that align with the listeners' interests. Listeners are encouraged to provide feedback and topic suggestions for future episodes. Happy New Year and looking forward to the exciting developments in 2025!

00:00 Welcome and Episode Recap Introduction

00:51 Podcast Analytics and Listener Engagement

02:32 Future Plans and Monetization

03:58 Top Episode #1: What is PDA?

05:18 Top Episodes #2-5: PDA and Beyond

10:48 Top Episodes #6-10: Autism Insights and Alternatives

19:26 Honorable Mentions and Listener Appreciation

20:37 Closing Remarks and Future Outlook

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Dr. Tay discusses the pressures of modern life, the need for human connection, and the importance of being present. She reflects on her experiences from the past year, including her professional milestones and personal growth, emphasizing the importance of celebrating accomplishments instead of always striving for more. Dr. Tay also talks about her upcoming plans, including the highly-anticipated membership launch. As she recaps the year, Dr. Tay invites listeners to focus on their own growth and wins, and to remember that epic fails do not define them, but how they recover and move forward does.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:22 Personal Reflections and Social Media Insights

02:19 The Importance of Slowing Down

03:27 Taylor Swift and Personal Growth

07:13 Holiday Season Reflections

10:41 Epic Fail and Business Update

13:33 Neuro Affirming Care and Personal Growth

14:10 Balancing Work and Personal Life

15:00 The Membership Journey

17:17 Reflecting on Achievements and Failures

23:35 Parenting and Personal Development

24:42 Wrapping Up and Looking Forward

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Dr. Tay hosts Betsy Hicks (@betsyonthego) who discusses her journey parenting her 31-year-old non-speaking autistic son, Joey. The conversation delves into Betsy's experiences with autism awareness over the years, the impact of nutrition on Joey's behavior, and the significant breakthrough they experienced with Spelling to Communicate. Betsy shares the process and emotional experience of Joey moving out and gaining independence, emphasizing the importance of following one's intuition as a parent. Dr. Tay and Betsy also address the challenges and nuances of parenting within the autism community and the role of social media in providing support and spreading awareness.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

02:23 Betsy's Journey Begins

03:40 Discovering the Impact of Diet

04:27 A New Chapter with John

05:55 The Shift in Understanding Autism

07:34 Spelling to Communicate

09:14 Reflections and Insights

15:25 Navigating Social Media and Advocacy

29:27 Joey's Progress and Moving Out

31:54 Realizing Children's Independence

33:44 Joey's New Caregiver: Nick's Story

35:29 The Apartment Community's Support

42:03 Navigating Section 8 Housing

45:39 Balancing Caregiving and Independence

49:25 The Importance of Nutrition

54:30 Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ Follow Betsy @betsyonthego on TikTok and Instagram and learn about her resources betsyonthego.com

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00:00 Introduction to a Difficult Topic

00:29 Understanding Seclusion Rooms

01:42 Real-Life Stories and Impact

02:56 Advocating for Change

08:32 Proactive Strategies and Solutions

15:35 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

RESOURCES

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in this episode, Dr. Tay talks about helpful tips and strategies for autism families navigating the holiday season. we discuss the importance of preparing for potential disruptions to routines, setting realistic expectations, giving choices, and setting boundaries. Dr. Tay addresses several elements including helping your child anticipate upcoming events, being mindful of safe foods, empowering your child by involving them in the process, and handling comments from others. there is an emphasis on the importance of being present during these moments and cherishing the progress that your child has made since the last holiday season.

RESOURCES

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00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

01:12 Understanding Autism and Neurodiversity

02:21 Holiday Support for Autistic Children

03:29 Parental Insights and Requests

06:38 Common Misunderstandings and Challenges

15:07 Sensory and Social Considerations

18:38 Creating a Supportive Environment for Neurodivergent Children

19:05 Offering Help and Dropping Judgment

20:21 Understanding Meltdowns and Neurodivergence

21:11 Challenges in Getting Diagnoses and Support

21:51 Validating Parents' Efforts and Experiences

23:23 Navigating Family Traditions and Accommodations

27:18 Grief and Emotional Complexity in Parenting

32:08 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

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00:00 Introduction and Guest Reintroduction

00:33 Overview of Today's Topic

01:18 Host and Guest Backgrounds

02:43 Challenges in Special Education

03:59 Navigating Special Education Law

05:21 Advocacy and Negotiation Strategies

10:36 Understanding Due Process

23:32 Legal Counteractions in School Disputes

24:05 Understanding Independent Educational Evaluations (IEE)

24:43 Financial Considerations and Attorney Fees

26:24 The Role of Due Process in Special Education

28:50 Navigating 504 Plans and Anti-Discrimination Laws

36:44 Alternative Approaches to Due Process

41:32 Final Thoughts and Resources for Parents

44:08 Wrap-Up and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ listen to episodes 53 and 57 for more information about special education from Ashley as well as her podcast The Collaborative IEP

⚡️ see all that Ashley has to offer here, including her newly launched IEP Guru Academy

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*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:48 Meet Alyssa Campbell: Expert in Emotional Development

01:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Mission

03:33 Alyssa's Journey and Collaborative Emotion Processing Method

04:12 Understanding Sensory Regulation and Nervous System

18:00 Practical Applications in the Classroom

20:34 Supporting Sensory Needs in Education

25:19 Parental and Teacher Collaboration

25:58 Understanding Early Childhood Sensory Responses

27:17 Proactive Strategies in Schools

35:13 Supporting Teachers and Parents

38:32 Managing Diverse Needs in the Classroom

45:55 The Role of Occupational Therapy

49:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️check out Alyssa and her parent-friendly resources, including the sensory quiz here: https://www.seedandsew.org/parents

⚡️check out her resources for teachers and schools, including her certification here: https://www.seedandsew.org/seedcertificationteachers

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*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement

01:23 Meet Dr. Tay: Your Host

02:25 Courtney's Journey and Family Background

03:09 The Diagnosis Journey

09:41 Starting Solobo Toys

13:36 Challenges and Triumphs in Business

23:03 The Story Behind the Emotional Baggage Toy

23:55 Changing the Narrative in Parenting

24:52 Navigating Autism and Family Support

25:32 Self-Advocacy and Permission

26:58 Modeling Behavior for Kids

27:43 Challenging Unrealistic Expectations

28:22 Teaching Self-Advocacy Early

29:31 Creating a Safe Space at Home

32:50 Exploring and Setting Boundaries

36:11 Designing Inclusive Toys

41:53 Balancing Business and Accessibility

46:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ shop Solobo Toys and check out their sensory guide

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*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay welcomes back Dr. Arielle Rubin, a triple board certified psychiatrist, to discuss the role of psychiatry for autistic children with co-occurring mental health conditions. This is a follow-up to episode 94, where Dr. Rubin answers parent-submitted questions.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:15 Recap of Episode 94

00:53 Challenges in Psychiatry

01:12 Disclaimer and Podcast Purpose

02:25 Welcome Dr. Arielle Rubin

02:38 Dr. Arielle Rubin's Background

03:57 Breaking the Status Quo in Psychiatry

04:22 Community Support for Families

06:18 Diving into Parent Questions

06:51 Stimulant Medication for ADHD

11:11 Alternatives to Atypical Antipsychotics

14:55 When to Consider Psychiatry

20:08 Tips for Discussing PDA with Psychiatry

23:24 Genesight Testing for Kids

27:42 Considering Mental Health Programs

29:09 Inpatient Psychiatry: When and Why

30:53 Residential Treatment Centers

32:04 Intensive Outpatient Programs and Partial Hospitalization

35:19 Medications for Rumination and Aggression

39:36 Medications to Avoid and Supplement Interactions

42:53 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ listen to episode 94 on Apple or Spotify

⚡️ follow Dr. Rubin on Instagram, join the Autism Roadmaps Community, and sign-up for her newsletter

⚡️ download the Supplement Guide for Autism and Mental Health referenced in the episode

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note:

1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the key themes she is seeing in clinical practice. Dr. Taylor Day is a licensed psychologist specializing in neurodiversity affirming care and shares insights regarding common referral questions as well as what many families in her group therapy program are navigating.

00:00 Introduction to Common Themes in Clinical Practice

01:21 Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

03:19 Challenges Faced by Parents and Families

04:41 The Role of Clinical Care vs. Social Media

07:12 The Importance of Tailored Clinical Approaches

16:23 Second Opinion Evaluations and Autism Diagnosis

20:52 Navigating the Broken System

21:27 Scholarships and Financial Aid

21:50 Late Autism Diagnoses in Children

23:02 Parents Exploring Their Own Neurodiversity

24:54 Parents' Mental Health Matters

29:46 Advocacy as a Skill

32:43 Challenges in Schools with Neurodiversity Affirming Care

36:41 Conclusion and Community Support

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay hosts Rachel Archambault, a speech-language pathologist specializing in trauma informed practices. They delve into the definition of trauma informed care, its importance in neurodiversity affirming practices, and how trauma can impact autistic individuals and their families. Rachel shares her personal experience with trauma, highlighting how professionals and parents can proactively adopt trauma informed approaches. The episode also covers practical tips for discussing traumatic events with children and ensuring that care providers are sensitive to trauma. Resources like the NASP guidelines and social stories are recommended for further support.

00:00 Introduction and Theme Overview

02:41 Guest Introduction: Rachel Archambault

03:41 Rachel's Traumatic Experience

07:03 Impact and Aftermath of Trauma

10:42 Trauma Informed Care in Schools

14:17 Supporting Children Through Trauma

16:48 Collaborative Efforts and Resources

23:26 Drills and Trauma: A Delicate Balance

31:00 Big T vs Little T Trauma

32:17 Understanding PTSD and Trauma Symptoms

33:31 Personal Experiences with Trauma

33:54 Listening and Validating Trauma

35:02 Trauma in Autism and Communication Challenges

36:03 Bodily Autonomy and Abuse Risks

38:54 Trauma Informed Care: Key Elements

47:49 Recognizing and Preventing Trauma

54:22 Proactive Trauma Informed Approaches

57:04 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rachel

Instagram @ptsd.slp

Facebook @ptsd.slp

LinkedIn @rachel-archambault

Website: www.ptsdslp.com

Email: rachel@ptsdslp.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note:

1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this episode, Dr. Tay explores obsessive traits in autistic children, inspired by a conversation with Katherine @theneurodiversitymom. The discussion focuses on distinguishing between autism-related behaviors and potential co-occurring conditions like OCD. The episode highlights the need for diagnostic clarity and continuous reassessment of children's behaviors to identify effective support strategies. Dr. Tay also shares personal insights from a recent business retreat, emphasizing the importance of self-care for parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay discusses updates to her new educational membership platform aimed at empowering parents globally to advocate for their autistic children and providing tools for better support strategies.

00:00 Introduction to Obsessive Traits in Autistic Kids

00:07 Inspiration Behind the Episode

01:47 Personal Life Updates and Reflections

08:54 The Importance of Diagnostic Clarity

09:20 Understanding Obsessive Traits and OCD

12:11 Strategies for Supporting Kids with Obsessive Traits

16:58 The Role of Medication and Therapy

20:42 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

25:29 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes

RESOURCES

⚡️learn more about the membership: drtaylorday.com/membership

⚡️learn more about group therapy: drtaylorday.com/therapy

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this episode, Dr. Tay explores the topic of neurodivergence in adults, particularly parents, with guest Dr. Salena Justice, a psychologist specializing in late diagnoses of autism and ADHD. They discuss the indicators of neurodivergence, the evaluation process, and the differences between self-diagnosis and formal diagnosis. The conversation also addresses common issues faced by neurodivergent adults, the therapy approaches that can be beneficial, and the importance of finding the right therapist.

00:00 Introduction to Neurodivergence in Parenting

00:37 Guest Introduction: Dr. Salena Justice

00:50 Understanding Late Diagnoses in Adults

01:35 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:44 Challenges in Diagnosing Autism in Adults

07:35 Evaluation Process for Adults

12:21 Common Presentations of Autism in Adults

15:14 ADHD in Adults: Common Presentations and Challenges

17:45 Discussing Autism Diagnoses and Common Misdiagnoses

19:08 Evaluating Autism and ADHD in Women

23:15 Therapy Approaches for Autism and ADHD

26:52 Finding the Right Therapist

28:40 Connecting with Dr. Salena Justice

31:04 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Salena on Instagram @@psychologywithsalena and check out her website

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses child-led therapy with Nicole Casey, a speech-language pathologist known for her work with gestalt language processing. The conversation delves into the importance of child-led approaches, how they differ from traditional methods, and what parents should look for in therapy sessions. They also touch on the misconceptions around play-based therapy, the challenges and benefits of truly child-led sessions, and the significance of honoring all forms of communication. Nicole shares her experience of growing her practice and social media presence, advocating for child-centered methods, and collaborating within the field to offer authentic support for neurodivergent children.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic

00:21 Meet Nicole Casey: Speech Therapist and Advocate

01:59 Nicole's Journey and Social Media Impact

09:03 Defining Child-Led Therapy

11:18 Balancing Therapy Goals with Child-Led Approaches

15:56 The Importance of Play in Therapy

27:31 Communication Beyond Spoken Language

32:11 Kids Taking Initiative

32:29 Recognizing Progress in Therapy

33:38 Mindset Shifts for Parents

34:55 Child-Led Therapy in Practice

38:05 Navigating Real-World Challenges

40:07 Balancing Boundaries and Freedom

45:34 Adapting Child-Led Approaches in Different Settings

49:22 Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Nicole Casey on Instagram @connectionsspeechpathology and her website www.greatlanguagepartner.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

00:00 Introduction and Life Updates

00:45 Exploring PDA and ODD

02:03 Nuances and Misconceptions

02:49 Clinical Perspectives and Research

05:33 Therapeutic Approaches and Stigma

09:52 Evidence-Based Practices

14:46 Conclusion and Future Episodes

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

RESOURCES

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email admin@drtaylorday.com if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

00:00 Introduction to Spell to Communicate

00:42 Meet Kaley Stymeist

01:03 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

02:20 Kaley's Family and Autism Journey

03:07 Hudson's Birth and Early Challenges

06:49 Discovering Spell to Communicate

15:38 Hudson's Progress and Motor Planning

25:32 Starting with Presuming Competence

25:50 Introduction to Three Letter Boards

26:16 Transition to 26 Letter Boards

26:54 The Importance of Prompting

28:32 Building Motor Control and Accuracy

30:08 Progressing to Open Communication

33:18 The Goal of Spell to Communicate

39:09 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions

44:50 Finding a Practitioner and Training

47:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Kaley on Instagram @kaley_and_3 and learn more about her S2C practice @autismsoulspeak

⚡️ find a local S2C practitioner >> https://i-asc.org/

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

00:52 Welcome to the Parenting Space

01:05 Diving into ABA Therapy

01:22 Controversies and Perspectives on ABA

01:41 Upcoming Podcast Guests and Topics

04:55 Informed Decision-Making for Families

05:42 Advocating for Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

07:06 Changing the Field from the Inside Out

08:55 Accessibility Issues in Neurodiversity Affirming Therapy

09:18 Challenges in Child Care for Working Parents

10:02 Intersectionality and Racial Perspectives in ABA

11:05 Safety and Compliance for Non-White Children

12:08 Balancing Family Needs and Therapy Approaches

12:43 Open Dialogue and Future Conversations

13:34 Supporting Families Through Free Resources and Memberships

14:47 Encouraging Informed Consent and Advocacy

15:37 Conclusion and Future Episodes

RESOURCES

⚡️ listen to episodes 26, 59, and 128, which further discuss ABA and varying approaches. and check out the Making the Shift episode on ABA that inspired this episode!

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email admin@drtaylorday.com if you have questions.

DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Rob Gorski, known as The Autism Dad on social media, to discuss his experience as a father raising three autistic children. They explore the unique challenges and opportunities of fatherhood in the autism community, the grief process associated with diagnoses, and the importance of leaning into emotions. Rob shares his journey of starting a blog, the evolving support needs of his children, and the importance of self-care and mental health for parents. They also discuss the societal expectations for dads and the need for more inclusive and supportive conversations around fatherhood and autism.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Special Guest

00:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

02:01 Rob Gorski's Family and Autism Journey

03:22 Challenges and Insights on Autism Diagnoses

08:48 Support Needs and Progress of Rob's Children

12:42 Navigating Parenting and Personal Challenges

13:39 The Role of Dads in Autism Parenting

18:05 Emotional Struggles and Mental Health

28:38 Understanding the Impact of Parental Emotions

29:34 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

31:10 Navigating Social Media and External Judgments

32:54 The Importance of Repair and Recovery

34:50 Challenging Parenting Norms and Expectations

39:03 Advocating for Your Child's Needs

44:06 The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Care

48:33 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rob on Instagram @theautismdad and on his website

⚡️ listen to our recent episode on Rob's podcast about autism in girls

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language they have been exposed to the most.

In this episode, Dr. Tay speaks with Carrie Cariello, a mother of five, including an autistic young adult. Carrie shares her family's journey, advocacy work, and the unique challenges and triumphs of raising an autistic child. They discuss practical strategies for fostering independence, the importance of community, navigating the education system, and marital dynamics. Carrie also shares insights into the transition to young adulthood, including finding supportive college programs. This episode offers hope, practical advice, and a reminder that families are not alone in their journey.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

02:09 Meet Carrie Cariello: A Journey Through Autism

03:00 Carrie's Family and Early Diagnosis

04:07 From Writing to Advocacy

06:40 Navigating Challenges and Safety Concerns

08:59 Parenting Strategies and Splinter Skills

17:50 Redefining Family Dynamics

27:48 Parenting Challenges and Triumphs

28:41 Navigating Discomfort and Fix-It Mode

29:16 Dinner Time Dilemmas

31:28 College Program Search

36:24 Balancing Marriage and Parenting

40:12 Encouraging Independence

45:48 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Carrie >>

Instagram @carrie_cariello 

Facebook @whatcolorismonday

Website Link: https://carriecariello.substack.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

In this episode, Dr. Tay hosts Maggie of Unfurling Littles and explores Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) from an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) lens. They discuss how to incorporate neurodiversity-affirming practices into ABA to create a compassionate, child-led approach. Maggie shares her journey into the field, her own lived experience as an autistic individual, and practical examples of how ACT principles can be applied within ABA for the benefit of both children and their families. The episode also addresses common concerns about traditional ABA and offers insights on fostering mindful play and regulation.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview

00:46 Guest Introduction: Maggie from Unfurling Littles

02:33 Maggie's Journey into Early Childhood Special Education

03:43 Challenges and Criticisms of ABA

06:28 Maggie's Personal Neurodivergence Story

08:29 Founding Unfurling Littles and Professional Challenges

10:59 Navigating ABA and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

14:38 Introduction to ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)

16:39 Implementing ACT in Family and Child Goals

21:26 Balancing Family and Child Values in Therapy

27:08 Practical Applications of ACT in Therapy

29:25 Measuring Engagement and Joy in Child Interactions

29:59 Integrating Child-Led Approaches in Therapy

30:27 Present Moment Awareness and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

32:04 Mindfulness in Neurodiversity Affirming Care

34:16 Handling Dysregulation with ACT Principles

36:32 The Importance of Validating Emotions

40:41 Healing Through Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

44:33 The Evolution and Future of ABA

50:49 Connecting with Families and Resources

52:45 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Maggie on Instagram @unfurling_littles and her website https://www.unfurlinglittles.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

If you find value in this podcast and want even more support, tune in to learn about “EVOLVE the membership.” This new membership offers a lower-cost, flexible alternative to traditional clinical services, designed to provide accessible support and education for autism families. I share personal insights about my journey from academia to entrepreneurship, the challenges faced in balancing multiple roles, and the motivation behind creating this membership. Making this launch happen even while I’m in Europe (and truthfully it feels quite sentimental!).

What’s included in the membership:

⚡️a comprehensive video library

⚡️community support

⚡️expert masterclasses

⚡️ resources

⚡️and if you’re a founding member, you get the opportunity to shape what’s in the membership and what I create.

👉🏼 MORE DETAIL HERE + ENROLL NOW >> http://drtaylorday.com/membership

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:32 Launching a New Membership

02:24 Personal Journey and Professional Growth

04:42 Challenges and Expanding Services

06:51 The Evolve Membership Details

09:46 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

12:02 Advocacy and Real-Life Stories

18:03 Membership Benefits and Pricing

31:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Tay and Rachel Madel, a speech language pathologist specializing in AAC, dive into the benefits of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) for autistic children, both non-speaking and verbally fluent children. They dispel common misconceptions about AAC, discuss various high-tech and low-tech AAC tools, and emphasize the importance of modeling and integrating AAC into daily routines. They also explore the impact of AAC on motor planning, literacy, and overall communication skills. Rachel shares practical tips for parents starting the AAC journey, highlights the significance of robust systems, and challenges the use of PECS. The episode includes insights on how technology can enhance communication, even among children with well-developed spoken language, and offers various resources for further learning.

00:00 Introduction to AAC and Its Importance

00:47 Meet Rachel Madel: AAC Specialist

02:34 Understanding AAC: Tools and Techniques

06:07 The Role of Technology in AAC

09:37 Starting the AAC Journey: Tips for Parents

14:21 Addressing Misconceptions About AAC

19:57 Motor Planning Challenges: Apraxia vs. Dyspraxia

26:08 Popular AAC Apps and Tools

30:01 The Importance of Core Words in AAC

30:20 Grammar and Literacy in AAC Systems

31:04 Modifying AAC Systems

32:54 Motivating Children to Use AAC

36:04 The Role of Modeling in AAC

39:00 Why Not PECS?

43:54 Introducing AAC to Verbal Children

46:46 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rachel on Instagram @rachelmadelslp, find resources on her website www.rachelmadel.com, and listen to her podcast Talking with Tech

⚡️ get on the waitlist for Rachel's course, AAC Ally

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Stefanie, the president and co-founder of the nonprofit Lilly's Voice. Stefanie shares the inspiring story of her non-speaking autistic daughter, Lilly, whose journey with augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) devices led to the creation of the nonprofit. Lilly’s Voice provides AAC devices to children who have communication differences for families who cannot access these tools through conventional means, such as through school funding, insurance, or other grant mechanisms. Lilly’s Voice also provides education on AAC. The episode covers the importance of AAC, debunks common myths, and emphasizes best practices for parents to support their children's communication. Stefanie also discusses fundraising efforts and the impactful work of Lilly’s Voice.

00:00 Introduction to Lily's Voice Nonprofit

02:19 Meet Stephanie: The Inspiration Behind Lily's Voice

03:32 The Journey to AAC: Challenges and Discoveries

05:51 Launching Lily's Voice: A Nationwide Nonprofit

08:34 Understanding Apraxia and the Role of AAC

12:11 Debunking Myths About AAC

20:01 Navigating the Process of Acquiring AAC Devices

25:48 How Lily's Voice Supports Families

27:18 App Limitations and Popular Choices

28:02 Guidance for Parents on Choosing Apps

30:20 Personal Experiences with AAC Apps

31:28 Best Practices for AAC Devices

34:55 Learning and Customizing AAC Devices

40:12 Fundraising and Support for Lily's Voice

45:25 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

46:39 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ learn more about Lilly's Voice, apply for a scholarship, and learn about AAC on their website

⚡️ connect with Stefanie through the nonprofit’s Instagram account @lillysvoice and Lilly’s personal page @afriendforlillybug

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay is joined by Kaligirwa @blackspectrumscholar, an AuDHD communication researcher, to discuss the intersection of neurodiversity and research, with a particular emphasis on BIPOC representation within the autism community. Kali shares her personal journey of discovering her autism diagnosis and her efforts to highlight the representation of Black autistic individuals on social media. The conversation covers broad topics such as the history of autism subtypes, the diagnostic challenges faced by BIPOC individuals, and the complexities of clinical diagnosis. Dr. Tay and Kali also delve into the importance of evolving our understanding and terminology around autism to build greater acceptance and support as well as how to use social media as a tool to learn while also knowing its limitations.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

01:19 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose

02:22 Guest's Personal Journey with Autism

04:49 Challenges and Representation in Autism Research

07:14 Social Media and Misinformation

11:31 Navigating Research and Personal Experience

26:11 Discussion on Autism Subtypes and Diagnosis

30:53 Understanding PDD-NOS and Stigma

31:47 Challenges with DSM-5 Levels

32:58 Regional Differences in Diagnoses

33:44 Functional Assessment Over Levels

35:24 Issues with Profound Autism Label

37:18 Spiky Profiles and Individual Differences

39:22 BIPOC Representation in Autism Conversations

39:55 Cultural Barriers to Diagnosis

42:57 ODD and PDA: Shifting Perspectives

49:53 Complexities of Diagnosing Anxiety

51:24 Finding Affirming Practitioners

53:28 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Kaligirwa on Instagram and TikTok @blackspectrumscholar and check out her resource library

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Emily Hamblin, a parent coach and neurodivergent mom of four, discuss practical strategies for self-compassion, regulating the nervous system, and addressing the challenges parents face. The episode covers the crucial role of self-care, debunking the notion that it's selfish, and highlights the impact it has on the parent and the entire family. Emily shares her personal journey, including her experiences and how understanding her own sensory needs and emotional triggers significantly improved her family dynamics. They discuss how to model healthy coping mechanisms for children and the importance of addressing underlying behaviors.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:15 Meet Emily Hamblin: A Journey into Neurodivergent Parenting

02:31 The Challenges of Parenting Neurodivergent Children

03:31 Shifting Perspectives: From Control to Compassion

08:40 Understanding Self-Compassion and Its Importance

13:55 The Impact of Self-Compassion on Parenting

15:55 Modeling Positive Behavior for Children

17:46 The Beginning of a Challenging Journey

18:59 Coping with Extreme Parenting Stress

20:35 Finding Support and Validation

21:56 Balancing Self-Care and Parenting

23:35 Navigating Guilt and Self-Care

27:57 Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Kids

29:36 Membership Programs and Resources

32:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Emily Hamblin on Instagram @enlighteningmotherhood and learn more about her services https://emily-hamblin.com/

⚡️ listen to my episode on Emily's podcast Enlightening Motherhood episode 126

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay and Dr. Joy Eberhardt, a holistic pediatrician specializing in integrative and functional medicine, discuss PANS (Pediatric Acute-Onset Neuropsychiatric Syndrome) and PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections). They delve into the complexities of diagnosing these conditions, particularly in neurodivergent children, and the importance of a holistic approach that includes conventional, integrative, and functional medicine. The conversation also covers the significance of parental advocacy, understanding neurodivergence, and defining thriving for both children and parents. Dr. Eberhardt shares insights into her clinical practice, challenges in differentiating symptoms, and ways to support families through personalized care plans.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:10 Meet Dr. Joy Everhart: Holistic Pediatrician

00:43 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

01:49 Welcoming Dr. Joy to the Podcast

02:32 Dr. Joy's Journey and Expertise

04:08 Understanding Neurodivergence in Dr. Joy's Family

08:24 Dr. Joy's Professional Practice and Expansion

13:20 Navigating Pediatric Care and Neurodivergence

17:41 Introduction to PANS and PANDAS

25:51 Understanding the Complexity of Child Burnout

26:50 The Importance of History in Diagnosis

28:14 Exploring PANS and PANDAS

30:04 Identifying and Treating Inflammation

32:57 The Three-Legged Stool Approach

36:35 Holistic and Integrative Medicine

38:22 Defining Thriving for Your Child

41:33 Advocacy and Finding the Right Support

48:07 Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Eberhardt on Instagram @orchidpediatrics and visit her website www.orchidpediatrics.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

Dr. Tay and Sunita Theiss, an Indian neurodivergent mom, discuss Sunita's journey through autism diagnoses for herself and her children, the impact of South Asian cultural values on her parenting, and the integration of neurodivergent needs within religious communities. Sunita shares her personal experiences, the challenges of advocating for her child's needs within faith-based settings, and practical strategies for creating more inclusive communities. Together, they discuss the importance of accommodations, self-advocacy, and intentional parenting.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

00:54 Host's Background and Podcast Mission

01:57 Sunita's Family and Personal Journey

02:51 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family

05:22 Cultural Influences and Misattributions

11:44 Parenting Approaches and Self-Advocacy

21:40 Accommodations and Long-Term Support

26:41 Meeting Online and Family Backgrounds

27:11 Integrating Different Upbringings

27:42 Reparenting and Healing

28:29 Family Time and Dinner Table Dynamics

31:21 Parenting Strategies and Research

33:28 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family

37:01 Cultural and Community Reactions

41:30 Supporting Neurodivergent Families in Religious Communities

49:00 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Sunita on Instagram @sunitatheiss, visit her website, and read her Substack

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this solo episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of being comfortable with being wrong and sitting with the discomfort that accompanies it. She draws from her personal experiences and professional journey to provide insights on navigating life with an autistic child while balancing evidence-based practices with neurodiversity-affirming approaches. Dr. Tay addresses the evolving landscape of autism care, emphasizes the value of lived experiences, and offers practical advice to parents.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Chandele Morris, an inclusive educational consultant and author, discuss the barriers in the educational system, the importance of understanding neurodiversity and tangible steps to be better advocates for autistic children. Chandele shares her experiences as a former educator and a parent of an autistic/ADHD child, emphasizing the need for inclusive education and the significance of updating educational training. The episode also highlights practical strategies for creating inclusive classrooms and the role of community and resources in supporting neurodivergent children.

00:00 Introduction to the Educational System and Advocacy

00:41 Meet Chandele Morris, an Inclusive Educational Consultant

02:25 Understanding Neurodiversity in Education

03:29 Challenges in Teacher Training and Awareness

05:45 The Need for Systemic Change in Education

09:24 Inclusion vs. Segregation in Classrooms

15:41 Real-Life Examples and Solutions for Inclusion

27:10 Fidgets and Sensory Breaks in Classrooms

28:01 Inclusive Classroom Practices

29:01 Understanding Neurodivergence in Families

29:38 AAC Devices and Communication

31:24 Teaching Empathy and Inclusion

36:25 Challenges in Changing Educational Systems

41:36 Finding Community and Support

44:06 The Role of Children's Books in Neurodiversity

46:38 Conclusion and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Chandele Morris

Instagram @Diversityofminds

TikTok @Diversityofminds  

Facebook @Diversityofminds

⚡️ check out Chandele's books

The Beauty of Us All

I'm Just a Kid: A Social Emotional Book about Self-Regulation

⚡️email Morrishousepublishers@gmail.com to schedule an author visit, professional development, or order bulk copies of books

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay and Courtney English discuss:

1. importance of sensory systems
2. introduction to sensory profiles
3. how to support sensory regulation at home

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Courtney English on Instagram @courtneyenglish.ot and on TikTok @courtneyenglish.ot

⚡️ get access to Courtney's resources here, including learning about your child's sensory profile

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay and Dr. Daniella Boyd discuss:

1. Daniella's personal and parental journey in navigating neurodivergence
2. An explanation of DIRFloortime, including engagement in play and relationship-based activities.
3. Supporting BIPOC neurodivergent children and the adaptability of Floortime to meet culture-specific needs

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Daniella Boyd through her website https://allplayisok.com/ or through Instagram @montessoriandsensory

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email admin@drtaylorday.com if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Dr. Sarah Wayland discuss:

1. her journey and insights into using relationship-based dynamic intelligence (RDI) to enhance family bonds and your autistic child's growth
2. the role of co-regulation and autonomy in parenting your autistic child
3. practical advice for parents on integrating RDI principles into daily life

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Sarah Wayland, Ph.D., parent coach + founder of Guiding Exceptional Parents on her website and on Facebook and LinkedIn

⚡️ learn more about Relationship-based Dynamic Intelligence (RDI™) and working with Dr. Wayland

⚡️ purchase her book along with Dr. Donna Henderson and Jamell White "Is This Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else"

⚡️ reference another great resource from Dr. Wayland: Behavior Revolution

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email admin@drtaylorday.com if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay, Jessica Hanzo, and Lisa Baskin Wright discuss:

1. navigating the IEP process
2. working with your child's school to have a shared understanding of PDA (pathological demand avoidance), a theorized profile of autism
3. proposing appropriate accommodations and support strategies for PDA learners

RESOURCES

⚡️ keep learning and purchase the course Supporting PDA Learners: Centering Connection, Autonomy and Equality in the IEP Process 

⚡️ connect with Jessica Hanzo, LMFT on Instagram @pda.project and visit her website

⚡️ connect with Lisa Basking Wright, IEP coach on Instagram @lisabaskinwright, on Facebook, and visit her website

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

Dr. Tay discusses the highly requested topic of how autism often presents in females, particularly those with low support needs. This episode would still be an informative listen if you have a son who presents with high masking autism, as the more nuanced traits are discussed.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want more on this topic? listen to Dr. Donna Henderson's episode on girls (note: this episode was recorded for psychologists / neuropsychologists but still could be a good listen)

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Amanda Diekman discuss:

1. what a low demand lifestyle is
2. the three layers of a demand
3. how to find joy in this parenting journey

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Amanda Diekman

Instagram @lowdemandamanda 

Facebook @lowdemandamanda

www.amandadiekman.com

Get the book

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Steph Curtis discuss:

1. the nuances of raising a child with pathological demand avoidance (PDA), emphasizing early detection, adapting parenting techniques, and understanding unique needs.
2. the journey to find the right educational setting for a child with PDA, dealing with societal pressures, and the critical role of flexibility and individualized approaches.
3. leveraging community support and personal growth through blogging and writing, highlighting the value of connecting with community and the intersection of PDA with conditions like ADHD and anxiety.

RESOURCES

⚡️ resources referenced in today's episode

Steph's Blog

PDA in the Family: Life After the Lightbulb Moment

Sasha's Animation About her School Experiences

⚡️ connect with Steph Curtis, mom to two autistic daughters, writer, and PDA pioneer

Instagram @stephstwogirls

YouTube @stephstwogirls 

Facebook @stephstwogirls

X @stephstwogirls

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

**also PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I will do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. To learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

Dr. Tay and Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown, a pediatric sleep medicine physician, discuss:

1. what sleep medicine is and how a sleep medicine physician can help
2. the three buckets of sleep issues - medical, behavioral, and 24-hour factors
3. education about medications that impact sleep

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Funke Afolabi-Brown, MD, FAASM

https://www.therestfulsleepplace.com

Instagram @restfulsleepmd

Facebook @restfulsleepmd

YouTube @DrFunkeBrown

LinkedIn @drfunkebrown

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

Dr. Tay provides an introduction to PDA (pathological demand avoidance, also known as persistent or pervasive drive for autonomy). In this episode, we discuss:

1. what PDA is as a theorized profile of autism
2. varying perspectives about PDA
3. co-occurring conditions and their overlap with PDA
4. support strategies and how to continue learning

RESOURCES

⚡️ download my free PDA guide

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

Dr. Tay and Amber Arrington discuss:

1. the emotional and practical journey of receiving and embracing 3 autism diagnoses, reflecting on the changes in understanding and approaches over time
2. the significance of community, self-education, and tailored support in navigating the autism parenting experience
3. the evolving conversation around autism therapies, particularly ABA, and the shift towards a neurodiversity-affirming perspective that celebrates individual strengths and needs

RESOURCES

⚡️ Register for The Autism Savvy Summit: While You Wait Edition

⚡️ connect with Amber Arrington, autism mom and founder of Autism Savvy >>

Instagram @autismsavvy

TikTok @autismsavvy

Order Amber's book Not Atypical Motherhood: The Guide For Navigating a Child's New Autism Diagnosis

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email admin@drtaylorday.com if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay