Kendall's DNA Found Family Journey - Family Twist: A Podcast Exploring DNA Surprises and Family Secrets

What is the Family Twist Podcast?

Tue, 19 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0500

What if a simple DNA test could unravel the mysteries of your past and introduce you to a family you never knew you had?

What is the Family Twist Podcast?

Many people carry the mystery of their origins, especially those involved in closed adoptions or who have unknown family histories. This episode connects deeply with anyone who has pondered their roots, offering a blend of hope, technology, and human connection that can change lives.

Insights into the Complexities of Closed Adoption: Understand the emotional and logistical complexities of searching for biological family under the cloak of closed adoption records.
Impact of DNA Technology in Family Discoveries: Discover how advancements in DNA testing can bring unexpected revelations and fulfill lifelong quests for identity and connection.
Emotional Journey of Reuniting with Lost Relatives: Experience the profound emotional journey and the potential for healing and new beginnings that can come from connecting with long-lost relatives.

Don’t miss out on this moving tale of discovery and family reunion — tune in to this episode to explore how Kendall’s life was transformed by a single DNA test!

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I've Been Looking for You Since 1988: DNA Discovery

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered if your DNA could uncover secrets from your past?

Many of us have pondered about our origins and family history. This episode taps into the universal curiosity and deep emotional journey involved in uncovering one's roots through DNA testing, particularly for those touched by adoption.

I've Been Looking for You Since 1988: DNA Discovery

Benefits Listeners Will Gain:

Insight into the Emotional Highs and Lows of DNA Discovery: Learn about the roller-coaster of emotions that accompany the discovery of long-lost family members through DNA testing.
Understanding the Impact of Ancestry Tools: Explore how modern tools like 23andMe and AncestryDNA can reveal unexpected familial connections and alter one’s sense of identity.
Inspiration from Real-Life Adoption Search Stories: Be inspired by a touching story of connection and the complexities of searching for biological relatives in closed adoption scenarios.

Dive into this episode to follow Kendall's poignant and uplifting journey of discovery, and see how a simple DNA test can lead to life-changing connections.

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The Impact of Finding Long-Lost Siblings Through DNA

Tue, 03 May 2022 05:00:00 -0500

What would you do if a DNA test could suddenly fill the gaps in your family history?

For many, the quest to understand where they come from can be a profound journey of self-discovery. This episode explores the deep emotional impact of uncovering hidden family ties, resonating with anyone who has unanswered questions about their heritage.

The Impact of Finding Long-Lost Siblings Through DNA

Benefits Listeners Will Gain:

Exploration of Family Secrets Unveiled by DNA Testing: Learn about the surprising and sometimes life-changing information that DNA testing can reveal about family connections.
Emotional Insights from Real-Life Reunions: Gain emotional insights from firsthand accounts of family reunions facilitated by DNA discoveries, illustrating the powerful bonds that can form unexpectedly.
Understanding the Impact of Knowing One's Origins: Discover how understanding your biological origins can affect your identity, providing a sense of completeness and new familial bonds.

Call to Action:

Tune into this episode to witness the incredible story of how DNA testing brought long-lost siblings together, changing their lives forever!

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Bonus episode: The Man Weekend

Wed, 04 May 2022 05:00:00 -0500

(Note: explicit language) Our first bonus episode of the Family Twist podcast is all about the Clark Family property and the "Men Weekends" the Clark boys hold there. Kendall meets his cousin and some of the Clark family friends in crazy weekends of beer, fishing and more beer. There's explicit language throughout this episode.

My Adoptive Mother, Stepmother and Birth Mother

Tue, 10 May 2022 05:00:00 -0500

How does one navigate life with not just one, but three mothers from very different backgrounds and beliefs?

This episode tackles the universal theme of maternal influence, exploring how different maternal figures can shape one's identity, beliefs, and life choices. It addresses a common curiosity: How do the women who raise us influence who we become, especially when they come from diverse backgrounds?

My Adoptive Mother, Stepmother and Birth Mother

Benefits Listeners Will Gain:

Insights into the Impact of Maternal Figures: Discover the profound influence of Kendall's adoptive mom, stepmom, and birth mother on his life, providing a broader understanding of maternal impact.
Exploration of Family Acceptance and Identity: Gain perspectives on navigating family acceptance within conservative settings, especially concerning LGBTQ+ identities, offering listeners a deeper empathy and understanding of their own family dynamics.
Discussion on Openness and Secrecy in Adoption: Hear Kendall's personal experiences with openness and secrecy in adoption, and how these dynamics affect relationships and self-understanding.

Listen to this compelling episode to uncover how Kendall's relationships with his three mothers shaped his journey of self-acceptance and family reconciliation!

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Found My Sister from a DNA Test

Tue, 31 May 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Have you ever imagined discovering a sibling you never knew you had?

Today's episode of Family Twist features an emotionally charged story about Kendall and his newly discovered siblings, Chris and Monica. In this heartwarming narrative, listeners will explore the profound connections formed between siblings separated at birth, the surprises of their reunions, and the bonds that transcend time and distance.

Found My Sister from a DNA Test

Listeners will experience several takeaways:

Insight into the emotional rollercoaster of connecting with long-lost siblings, offering hope and excitement for others in similar situations.
Understanding the complexities and dynamics of newly formed family relationships, providing a blueprint for others navigating these waters.
The importance of open-mindedness and acceptance in building and strengthening newfound familial ties.

Don't miss this episode to feel the powerful emotions of reuniting with a family you never knew you had; it might just inspire you to explore your own roots.

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Forced to Give Up Baby for Adoption

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered about the roads not taken in your family's past?

In this intimate episode of Family Twist, join Corey as he takes a revealing car ride with Kendall's father, Scott, exploring the complex interplay of choices and circumstances that shaped their family history. As they navigate the scenic route to Cape Cod, they delve into the profound impact of past decisions and unearth poignant insights into their family dynamics.

Forced to Give Up Baby for Adoption

Listeners will gain from this episode:

An understanding of the deep-seated emotions and regrets that can accompany family separations and reunions.
Insights into how unexpected life events can alter familial relationships and individual destinies.
The importance of confronting the past to foster healing and reconciliation within families.

Hit play to discover how a simple car ride can unravel a tapestry of family secrets and connections, offering lessons that resonate far beyond the journey itself.

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Adoptive Father and Birth Father: Nature Vs Nurture

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 10:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered how much of who you are is shaped by nature versus nurture?

In today's episode of Family Twist, we dive into a thoughtful exploration of Kendall's relationship with his two fathers, Ruble and Scott, revealing the intriguing contrasts and surprising similarities between them. This episode unfolds a unique narrative that compares the differing influences of an adoptive and a biological father, offering a personal look into how these relationships have shaped Kendall.

Adoptive Father and Birth Father: Nature Vs Nurture

Listeners will gain from this episode:

A deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding family dynamics and identity in adoptive families.
Insights into how different parenting styles and environments can shape personal values and behaviors.
Reflections on the enduring impact of familial love, regardless of biological ties.

Tune in to explore how Kendall reconciles these two paternal influences in his life, gaining a richer understanding of himself and his heritage.

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Answering Burning Questions About Adoption and Finding Birth Family

Tue, 26 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront the unknown chapters of your family history?

In this revealing episode of Family Twist, Kendall and Corey engage with their audience like never before, answering questions directly from subscribers about Kendall's personal journey, the challenges they've faced, and the unexpected joys of connecting with long-lost relatives. This episode sheds light on the complexities of family dynamics, the emotional landscape of discovering one’s roots, and the transformative power of embracing one's past.

Answering Burning Questions About Adoption and Finding Birth Family

Listeners will gain profound insights from this episode:

Discover the emotional impact and personal growth that comes from exploring one’s family history.
Learn about the challenges and rewards of connecting with biological family members, including navigating complex relationships.
Gain a deeper understanding of the role that personal identity and acceptance play in family reunions.

Dive into this episode to explore the intricate tapestry of family, identity, and belonging that defines our lives.

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Discovering and Connecting with Long-Lost Siblings

Tue, 09 Aug 2022 10:00:00 -0500

Ever wondered what it would feel like to discover a sibling you never knew you had?

In this insightful episode of Family Twist, hosts Corey and Kendall Stulce revisit conversations with Kendall’s half-siblings. Listen as they explore the deep emotional landscapes revealed through their familial connections, offering listeners a glimpse into the complexities of reuniting with long-lost relatives. The episode is rich with reflections on past dialogues, delving into personal stories that highlight the significant emotional undertones of their discoveries.

Discovering and Connecting with Long-Lost Siblings

Listeners will gain:

A unique insight into the emotional nuances and challenges that come with discovering and connecting with long-lost siblings.
An understanding of the complexities involved in merging past histories and new relationships within family dynamics.
Strategies for approaching newfound family connections with sensitivity and empathy, as demonstrated through Kendall’s personal experiences.

Tune in to hear Kendall and Corey unwrap layers of family history and emotional revelations, offering a compelling narrative that connects the past with the present. Discover the intricacies of forming bonds with newfound siblings, and perhaps find the courage to explore your own family mysteries.

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Adoptee is Still a Dirty Little Secret

Tue, 23 May 2023 05:00:00 -0500

How would you reach out to a birth parent who has remained silent for over five years?

In this emotional episode of Family Twist, hosts Corey and Kendall Stulce kick off season three with a deeply personal episode. Kendall shares the story of his adoption journey and the discovery of his biological family. However, the highlight of this episode is Kendall reading a heartfelt letter he wrote to his birth mother, expressing his longing to connect and understand her silence. Tune in to hear Kendall's honest and poignant words as he seeks closure and a chance to speak with his birth mother at least once.

Adoptee is Still a Dirty Little Secret

Key Benefits for Listeners:

Emotional Healing: Learn about the emotional impact of adoption and the longing for connection with biological family members.
Navigating Rejection: Gain insight into coping with and understanding the reasons behind a birth parent's silence or rejection.
Inspiration for Communication: Discover the power of honest and heartfelt communication in seeking closure and understanding within family dynamics.

Listen to Kendall's heartfelt plea to his birth mother and explore the complexities of adoption and family connections in this powerful episode of Family Twist.

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Bonus: Kendall Remembers Magical Calendar Dates

Wed, 30 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0500

Kendall and Corey talk about seven different significant events from Aug. 11 to Sept. 4, and why we celebrate and remember them.

Season of Family Secrets Wrap-up

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0500

In the season 3 finale of Family Twist, Kendall and Corey reflect on the incredible journey, sharing heartfelt voicemails from guests, discussing the emerging theme of family secrets and looking ahead to the next season. Join us as we revisit the stories that have shaped the season and prepare for the new twists to come.

Season of Family Secrets Wrap-up

Featured Guests Highlights:

Ryan Pesavento

Non-binary guest who shared their journey of connecting with numerous half-siblings.
Discussed the unique family dynamics with a donor father and the close bond formed with a half-sister, including participation in her wedding.
Ryan’s approach to planning vacations to meet new siblings and build relationships.

Michelle Tullier

Explored the theme of secrets with Michelle’s discovery of her biological father being a family friend.
Discussed the complexities of growing up alongside half-siblings unknowingly.

Gene McLeod

Shared his story on NPE Awareness Day.
Neither of Gene’s parents knew that his father was not his biological parent.

Barbara Lane

Barbara’s story of being one of eleven girls separated and later reunited.
Her unique upbringing in foster care with mafia bosses.

Dayna Foster

Voicemail from Dayna discussing her advocacy work in Florida and her impactful DNA test findings.

Ed De Gangi

An author who discovered his birth mother was a prominent figure skater.
Shared the emotional moment of receiving memorabilia of his mother.

Jon Baime

Discussed Jon's documentary on his experience as an NPE and interviews with his half-siblings.

The Triplets: Ricky, Jules and Kendall

The story of donor-conceived triplets, separated at birth, who reconnected as teenagers.
Hosts shared their experience on the triplets' podcast, “Luke, Who Is Your Father?”

Hosts’ Stories:

Kendall’s personal journey with family secrets and the emotional reading of a letter to his birth mother.
Corey’s support and the therapeutic aspect of sharing these stories.

Looking Ahead:

Teasers for season four, including stories on family rejection and the impact on the hosts.
Acknowledgment of the podcast’s growing community and the importance of sharing these personal stories.

Closing Thoughts:

A call for honesty and healing in families with secrets.
Gratitude expressed to guests for their openness and bravery.
Reflection on the hosts' personal experiences and the impact of their adoptive parents.

Thank you to all the listeners and guests for a memorable season. Stay tuned for the upcoming season, where we continue to unravel the complexities of family, identity, and the unexpected twists life brings.

A Found Family Christmas Vacation

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 05:01:00 -0500

In this special episode, recorded in the bustling city of New York, I, Corey, am joined by a remarkable group of NICU nurses from Arkansas, including Stephanie, Kendall’s sister, and our guests Liz, BJ and Allison. This episode is not just a conversation; it's a journey into the lives of those who nurture life at its most vulnerable stage. If you're looking for inspiration, real-life heroism, and a touch of human kindness this episode is a must-listen.

A Found Family Christmas Vacation

Episode Highlights:

The Intensity and Reward of NICU Nursing: Our guests share their experiences caring for premature babies as little as 12 ounces, discussing the challenges and triumphs of their profession.
NICU Reunions: The concept of NICU reunions is explored, highlighting the joy of seeing former patients thriving.
Personal Connections: The nurses discuss the deep, lifelong bonds they form with families, offering comfort and support beyond medical care.
Overcoming Personal Challenges: Guests share their personal stories, including being NICU mothers themselves, adding a unique perspective to their roles as NICU nurses.
The Importance of Chosen Family: The conversation delves into the concept of chosen family, emphasizing the strength and support found in non-blood relationships.
Empowerment and Independence: The discussion touches on the empowerment gained through professional and personal challenges, especially in nursing.
The Value of Experiencing New Cultures: The group reflects on the importance of stepping out of one’s comfort zone to experience new cultures and places.

As we close this episode, it's clear that the conversation was more than just about nursing. It was about life, resilience, and the power of human connection. Whether you're a nurse, a parent, or someone looking for a dose of inspiration, this episode of Family Twist is a reminder of the incredible strength and compassion inherent in all of us.

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Bonus: NYC Babes Found Family Vaca Recap

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0500

NOTE: Listen to the episode A Found Family Christmas Vacation before you enjoy this one. Today's special bonus episode takes you on a whirlwind adventure through New York City with me, Corey, and an extraordinary group of NICU nurses from Arkansas. As we wrap up our trip, we reminisce about the unforgettable experiences, laughter, and lessons learned in the city that never sleeps. If you've ever wondered what it's like to explore NYC with a lively and fun-loving crew, you're in for a treat!

Episode Highlights:

Navigating New York City: From subway escapades to Uber adventures, we share the highs and lows of getting around the Big Apple.
Unique Experiences: The episode recounts our visit to the Museum of Sex, complete with its quirky exhibits and interactive installations, offering a humorous and eye-opening perspective.
Cultural Highlights: We delve into our experiences attending a Broadway show, visiting the 9/11 Memorial, and witnessing the beauty of the Statue of Liberty, each moment filled with emotion and reflection.
Moments of Joy: From tea parties to ice skating in Central Park, the episode captures the joy and camaraderie of our group in the heart of NYC.
Encounters with New Yorkers: We discuss the hustle and vibrant energy of New York City, from the friendly locals to the not-so-friendly moments, painting a vivid picture of city life.
Reflections on Our Trip: As we conclude our journey, we share personal reflections on what made this trip special, from the sights and sounds of the city to the bonds we strengthened along the way.

As this episode comes to a close, we leave New York City with hearts full of memories and a renewed appreciation for the power of friendship and adventure. This trip was more than just a vacation; it was a testament to the joy of exploration and the beauty of shared experiences. If you loved joining us on this journey, don't forget to rate, follow, and review Family Twist. Your support helps us continue bringing these heartwarming stories to life.

A Twist-Filled Tale of Finding My Brothers

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 05:01:00 -0500

What happens when a chance phone call and a Facebook search lead to discovering hidden family secrets?

A Twist-Filled Tale of Finding My Brothers

This episode dives into the emotional rollercoaster of uncovering long-lost siblings and reconnecting with a fragmented past, something many of us long for or have experienced in our own lives.

Main Benefits:

Understand the process and emotional impact of discovering and reconnecting with birth family members.
Learn how modern tools like DNA testing and social media can help solve lifelong family mysteries.
Gain insight into navigating complex family dynamics and emotions when uncovering hidden truths.

Listen to this heartfelt episode where Corey, Kendall, and Chris share their incredible journey of finding long-lost family members and the impact it had on their lives.

Going Down the Rabbit Hole with DNA Surprises

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0500

In a captivating episode of the Family Twist podcast, Kendall Stulce sits down with author Kate Brody to explore the intertwining of personal narratives and fictional storytelling. Brody, drawing from her own experience of discovering a secret brother, shares insights on family dynamics, the complexities of blended families and the emotional journey of reconnecting with estranged family members. The episode dives deep into the nuances of adoption, secret siblings and how these realities can influence fictional narratives.

Going Down the Rabbit Hole with DNA Surprises

Highlights from the Episode:

Kate Brody discusses the connection between her personal story of finding her long-lost brother and her book "Rabbit Hole."
The book's main character, Teddy, reflects Kate's family structure, with a focus on abandoned and restarted familial relationships.
Brody's interest in exploring common yet often unspoken family dynamics such as secret siblings and family shame.
The impact of Brody's piece in the Guardian, which resonated with many people experiencing similar family situations.
Kate’s reflections on how fiction can serve as a means of rewriting history or extending an apology.
The reactions of Kate’s siblings and brother to her book and Guardian article.
Kendall Stulce shares his own adoption story, drawing parallels to Brody's experiences.
Discussion on cultural shifts and the impact of DNA technology on family secrets and adoption.
The exploration of sibling relationships in fiction, emphasizing genetic similarity versus shared history.
Brody's book tour experiences and the response from readers who resonate with her personal and fictional stories.

This episode of Family Twist offers a profound look into the delicate balance between fiction and reality, especially when it comes to familial relationships. Kate Brody's personal experiences with her long-lost brother and her family's dynamics provide a unique backdrop to her fictional work, blurring the lines between art and life. The conversation with Kendall Stulce adds depth, highlighting the universal themes of adoption, family secrets, and the pursuit of belonging. This episode is a must-listen for anyone intrigued by the intricate ways our personal histories shape our creative expressions.

Guest bio:

Kate Brody lives in Los Angeles, California. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Guardian, Lit Hub, CrimeReads, Electric Lit, The Rumpus, and The Literary Review, among other publications. She holds an MFA from NYU. "Rabbit Hole" is her debut novel.

Kate's essay in The Guardian

Kate's essay in The New York Times

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Celebrating National Adoption Month

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered what it's like to grow up knowing you're adopted, and how it shapes your view of family and identity?

In celebration of National Adoption Month, this special episode of Family Twist delves deep into co-host Kendall's personal adoption story. Kendall shares his experience growing up knowing he was adopted, reflecting on the unique challenges and profound love he received from his adoptive parents, Betty and Ruble. The episode not only explores Kendall's journey but also highlights broader themes of acceptance and family diversity.

Celebrating National Adoption Month

Listeners will gain:

An understanding of the emotional dynamics within adoptive families through Kendall’s firsthand account.
Insights into the process and decisions involved in state versus private adoption from the perspective of the adoptive parents in the 1960s.
Encouragement and advice for those considering adoption today, based on personal anecdotes and reflections on societal changes.

Tune into this heartfelt episode to explore the nuances of adoption and the enduring impact of love and acceptance in shaping a family. Discover how Kendall’s story might mirror or inform your own perceptions of family and identity.

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A Half-Sister's Passing and an Adoptee's Awakening

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What if the worst day of someone else’s life was also the beginning of your greatest revelation? In this jaw-dropping episode of Family Twist, we explore an adoptee’s extraordinary journey, starting with a mysterious medical episode and culminating in an emotional family reunion. But it’s the uncanny connection to her half-sister—a woman she never met—that will leave you questioning fate itself.

A Half-Sister's Passing and an Adoptee's Awakening

Here’s why you’ll want to listen:

Discover how a simple letter to Catholic Charities uncovered long-buried secrets.

Hear the heart-wrenching story of a half-sister’s untimely passing—and the eerie timing that connected their lives.

Explore the bittersweet reality of adoption reunions, from joyous discoveries to the complexities of navigating new relationships.

Gain insight into how this journey inspired a calling to help others through adoptee-competent therapy.

This isn’t just a story about adoption. It’s about loss, love, and the inexplicable ties that bind us. From the moment Karen woke up with unexplained anxiety to the day she connected with her birth family, you’ll be hooked on every twist and turn of this compelling narrative.

Why Listen All the Way Through?

The truth revealed in the final moments of this story is too powerful to miss. You’ll leave with a renewed appreciation for resilience, the mysteries of connection, and the incredible strength it takes to bridge the gap between past and present.

Subscribe now and press play—this is one episode you won’t forget.

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Lost and Found: The Adoption Story Behind Family Twist

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Corey and Kendall take a trip down memory lane, revisiting Kendall’s incredible adoption story—the inspiration behind Family Twist. For new listeners who may have missed the beginning, and loyal fans who want to hear more, Kendall shares untold details about his journey from being adopted as a baby to discovering his birth family at age 47 through a DNA kit.

Listener Anne’s touching letter prompts Kendall to reflect deeply on the loss of his adoptive parents, Betty and Rubel, who adopted him after years of longing for a child. Their story of love, perseverance, and resilience shaped Kendall’s outlook on life, and Corey brings new insights into how their legacy continues to inspire the podcast.

Lost and Found: The Adoption Story Behind Family Twist

Highlights include:

The Start of Kendall’s Story: How a DNA kit and a birthday surprise revealed six half-siblings, 13 nieces and nephews, and two living birth parents.
Listener Anne’s Powerful Letter: Anne, a long-time listener, offers a heartfelt perspective on Kendall’s journey and the enduring love he feels for his adoptive parents.
A Love Story in Arkansas: Betty and Rubel’s love story, their struggles with infertility, and the joy of welcoming Kendall into their lives.
Nature vs. Nurture: Kendall reflects on the connections between his adoptive and biological families, exploring how traits and personality are shaped by both.
The Legacy of Loss: Kendall shares his thoughts on mourning his adoptive parents and how discovering his birth family has deepened his appreciation for Betty and Rubel.

Listener Shout-Out:

Anne’s message is a reminder of the global reach of Family Twist and its ability to connect with listeners on a deeply emotional level. Thank you, Anne, for your kind words and for sharing our podcast with others.

Call to Action:

If you’ve been inspired by Kendall’s story or know someone who might be, please share Family Twist with a friend. Whether you’re an adoptee, part of the NPE or donor-conceived community, or just someone who loves stories of resilience and connection, this podcast is for you.

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Uncovering My Secret Irish Heritage Through DNA

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In this intimate and reflective solo-hosted episode, Kendall dives deep into a powerful conversation with guest John Portmann, exploring themes of family, identity, adoption secrecy, and the life-changing power of DNA discoveries.

Uncovering My Secret Irish Heritage Through DNA

Key Highlights:

Growing Up Adopted:
John shares parallels with Kendall in their early experiences of adoption, highlighting the profound role their adoptive parents played in creating a sense of security through openness and religious narratives.
The adoption narrative instilled by John's religious parents: "God chose our family."

Family Dynamics and Adoption:

Both Kendall and John experienced early awareness of their adoption but had distinctly different emotional journeys.
John discusses his upbringing, his adoption in Arizona, and childhood relocation to Pennsylvania.
Reflections from John on suppressing curiosity about biological origins during childhood versus the persistent desire for answers later in life.

Health History & Identity:

John addresses the challenges adoptees face when asked about family medical history by doctors or financial planners.
John explains how practical considerations, like retirement planning, sparked his curiosity about personal origins.

DNA as a Gateway:

The transformative moment when John received DNA test results from Ancestry.
John's shock, confusion, and excitement upon discovering he was 100% Irish and connecting with potential family members.

Searching and Finding Biological Family:

John recounts his initial, confusing interactions with DNA matches and the struggle to interpret results.
Introduction to the DNA detective who significantly impacted John's search—a Canadian university professor who provided empathetic, professional, and effective assistance.
John discusses overcoming initial fears and vulnerability about trusting strangers with deeply personal information.

The Deep Impact of Adoption Secrets:

The emotional complexities surrounding adoption secrecy, societal attitudes, and the powerful longing for identity validation.
Insights from John into how societal shame and religious beliefs influenced the adoption process historically, especially within Catholic communities.

Fighting for Identity and Citizenship:

John shares his challenging journey toward proving his Irish ancestry and gaining Irish citizenship despite legal and bureaucratic hurdles.
Advocacy, resilience, and perseverance as John navigated complex international bureaucracy.
The crucial role DNA evidence played in breaking down barriers in adoption and identity recognition, both in the U.S. and internationally.

Reflective Insights:

Kendall and John share mutual understanding as adoptees, reflecting on the lifelong impact adoption can have on identity, belonging, and self-discovery.
Discussion on how revealing hidden truths can heal generational wounds and empower adoptees.

The Full Story You Haven’t Heard (Until Now)

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

This week on Family Twist, we’re celebrating a major milestone—three years of storytelling, surprise DNA discoveries, and untangling family secrets. And to mark the occasion, we’re bringing you a brand-new edit of one of our most meaningful conversations: a full, uncut interview with Brian Stanton, an acclaimed playwright and adoptee whose solo show, Blank, explores identity, origin, and the emotional terrain of adoption.

When we first released our conversation with Brian, time constraints meant cutting things short. But we always knew his full story deserved to be heard. Now, for our third anniversary, we’re setting the record straight—sharing the complete, powerful dialogue about how art can be a lifeline through family trauma, confusion, and healing.

Brian’s story runs parallel to Kendall’s in striking and emotional ways. Both experienced the complexity of growing up with missing pieces and found strength by stepping into the light of their truth—Kendall through podcasting, Brian through theater. In fact, theater is what first brought Corey and Kendall together, making this conversation feel full circle.

Brian Stanton is a Los Angeles-based actor, writer, and adoptee whose acclaimed solo show Blank explores his personal journey to uncover the truth about his identity. Through raw storytelling and theatrical vulnerability, Brian brings to light the emotional complexity of adoption and the universal search for belonging. He has performed Blank across the U.S. and internationally, sparking important conversations about family, secrecy, and self-discovery. Brian believes in the transformative power of theater—and uses the stage as a space for healing, both for himself and for others navigating similar journeys.

🎭 In this episode, you’ll hear:

Brian’s deeply personal journey of writing and performing his solo show Blank
Why adoption stories are never truly finished—and how that fuels Brian’s creative process
Kendall reflecting on seeing Blank and the emotions it stirred in his own search for identity
The therapeutic, transformative nature of storytelling—onstage and off
A behind-the-scenes look at how Corey and Kendall’s love story began with theater

Whether you’re part of the adoption, NPE, or donor-conceived community—or simply drawn to stories of identity and transformation—this episode is a heartfelt tribute to the power of performance, memory, and finding your voice.

🎧 Listen if you love:

True stories of adoption and DNA surprises
Theater as a tool for healing
Conversations that go deep, fast
Real-life plot twists and reconnection
Honest dialogue about family trauma and growth

🔗 Mentioned in this episode:

Brian Stanton’s solo show Blank
Previous Family Twist episodes about Kendall’s story (for new listeners!)
Our anniversary shoutout to the Family Twist community

Why I’m Not Angry They Didn’t Tell Me She Was Dying

Tue, 06 May 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Listener Note: This episode contains sensitive content, including the death of a pet, home invasion, and terminal illness.

In this powerful continuation of Kendall’s adoption journey, we dive deep into one of the most defining and devastating chapters of his life: the years following his adoptive mother Betty’s terminal diagnosis.

Why I’m Not Angry They Didn’t Tell Me She Was Dying

Corey and Kendall reflect on the difficult balance Betty and Ruble struck — trying to give Kendall a joyful childhood filled with travel, birthdays, and laughter, even as Betty’s health declined. From cross-country road trips in a Monte Carlo to a handmade pool-shaped birthday cake, this episode paints a vivid picture of love under pressure.

But that love story is interrupted by tragedy: a break-in at their home while they were visiting Betty in the hospital. The burglars didn’t just ransack the house — they poisoned the family dog, creating a trauma that Kendall still dreams about decades later.

In a raw and emotionally honest conversation, Kendall opens up about what it felt like to be shielded from the truth, how much he admires his parents’ strength, and the complicated feelings he later developed about how he handled things with Ruble after Betty’s death.

If you’re part of the adoption community, dealing with grief, or curious about how family secrets shape our lives — this episode is essential listening.

Topics Covered:

Betty’s terminal illness and how the family kept it from Kendall
Summers filled with joy, despite looming loss
The emotional impact of childhood travel and adventure
The trauma of coming home to a burglarized house — and a poisoned pet
Grief, guilt, and coming to terms with how we treat our parents
What it means to be emotionally honest in hindsight

Have a question for Kendall about his adoptive parents? We’re taking listener questions for an upcoming follow-up episode. Email or send us a voice message — we’d love to include your question in a future show.

Family Is Complicated, And We’re Not Done Talking About It

Tue, 20 May 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In this milestone episode, the hosts of Family Twist take a heartfelt, unfiltered look back on three years of storytelling, 150 episodes, and the ever-evolving journey of uncovering and healing from family secrets.

Family Is Complicated And We’re Not Done Talking About It

What began as a podcast to share one adoptee’s story has blossomed into a powerful platform amplifying voices from the adoption, donor-conceived, NPE (Not Parent Expected), and DNA discovery communities. With vulnerability, wit, and unwavering honesty, the hosts explore:

Why “family secrets are the ultimate plot twist” remains their most resonant theme

The ongoing emotional toll of being someone’s secret—and the healing that comes from being acknowledged
How guest stories have stirred deep empathy and fierce protectiveness
The complicated feelings around birth family rejection, even years after reunion
Why ethnic identity, once a background detail, now feels like a source of rooted pride
Evolving perspectives on adoption, kinship care, and what family should mean
Behind-the-scenes podcasting challenges: guest droughts, unexpected breakthroughs, and learning to let the story unfold in real time
Aspirations for a book, live events, and collaborations that blend heartbreak with humor

This episode isn’t just a reflection—it’s a recommitment. To the community. To truth-telling. To showing up, every week, with an open heart.

Whether you've been with the podcast since episode one or you're just discovering it now, this episode offers a deeply moving, occasionally hilarious, and always honest window into why stories like these matter—and why they need to be told.

The Return to Man Weekend: Family, Fire Pits, and Full-Circle Moments

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In this heartfelt follow-up to one of our earliest episodes ("The Man Weekend"), Kendall shares stories from a recent rustic getaway with members of his birth family at their long-held property in northern New Hampshire. It’s a full-circle moment—spending time around the campfire with his brother, uncle, cousins, and nephews, deepening bonds with people he didn’t grow up with but now can’t imagine life without. From installing a water system to laughing until they lost their voices, this trip was more than just a weekend—it was a memory-in-the-making.

Corey joins the conversation to reflect on how far Kendall’s found-family journey has come, and how these connections—old and new—continue to shape their lives. They also touch on the emotional reality of balancing adoptive and biological family histories, the joy of watching young relatives grow up, and even a cautionary tale involving sesame meatballs.

Toward the end, Corey and Kendall introduce plans for future solo episodes addressing current issues in the adoptee, NPE, and donor-conceived communities—and share the powerful message behind a recent email from a listener whose life was changed by discovering Family Twist.

📌 Topics Covered:

The return to Kendall’s birth family’s New Hampshire property
What’s changed since “The Man Weekend” (including plumbing!)
Reconnecting with cousins, uncle, and brother Chris
The joy of bonding with nephews as they enter adulthood
Humor, shenanigans, and nearly killing Pete with sesame
Reflecting on the emotions of what was missed—and what’s now gained
Future plans for solo episodes focused on NPE/adoptee/DC community issues
The impact of Family Twist on a listener’s decision to search for their truth

🔗 Related Episodes:

The Man Weekend (link to original episode)
Chris Finds a Brother: Kendall’s First Birth Family Connection

Ghosting the Ghost Parent

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In this candid conversation, Corey and Kendall tackle one of the most painful realities in the adoptee and DNA surprise world — reaching out to a biological parent and getting… nothing in return.

Ghosting the Ghost Parent

Kendall opens up about his own experience with his birth mother: the initial reply that offered hope, the “I need time to process” that turned into months of silence, and the slow realization that this wasn’t a pause — it was a soft no. Together, Corey and Kendall unpack what that kind of rejection feels like, why parents sometimes choose silence, and the emotional work it takes to keep living fully without the answers you want.

This is not a story about closure. It’s a story about reclaiming your voice when someone else chooses not to be part of your story.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

Kendall’s personal account of being shut out by his birth mother
The difference between ghosting in dating and ghosting in family relationships
The mental spiral of “filling in the blanks” when a parent won’t engage
Possible reasons behind a parent’s refusal that don’t make the hurt any less
Why waiting can cost you more than it gives you
How Kendall found support and started to heal
A direct message from Kendall to his birth mother — and to anyone living with parental silence