Teach Me to Father

Healing Mother's Day: Faith, Family, Forgiveness

Tue, 05 May 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Mother’s Day isn’t easy for everyone. It can bring up painful memories. Barry and Heather share their stories to help you find healing and honor your mom at the end of it all.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Mothers Day Honor

00:42 Why Honoring Hurts

01:41 Redesigning The Questions

02:24 Mom Or Dad Wounds

07:52 Moms Voice In Your Head

09:05 Healing Journey Together

11:18 Wisdom From The Storm

14:45 Barrys Parents Reframed

22:54 ‌

26:58 God Filling The Gaps

27:50 God as Loving Father

30:25 Healing Parents Wounds

32:30 Life Church Breakthrough

34:51 Unlearning Lies Renewed Mind

35:35 Father Wounds and Humility

41:22 Pain into Wisdom

42:54 Motherhood Do Overs

44:58 Gods Design for Family

50:18 Mothers Day Closing

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Purpose and Identity for Fathers: Discovering God’s Design, Sonship, and Legacy

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Barry addresses the two most common questions he hears from men—“What am I here for?” and “Who am I?”—by teaching that a dad’s purpose and identity come from God’s predetermined design, not self-made ambition or social labels.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Two Big Questions

01:29 Purpose Defined Biblically

04:34 Gods Design Not Accident

07:55 General Human Purpose

10:24 Purpose Anchoring Scriptures

13:03 Identity Defined In Christ

16:09 Identity And Authority

18:59 Identity Scriptures And Summary

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Every Dad is a Theologian

Tue, 21 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Every man is a theologian: by intention or default. Everyone makes daily decisions based on what they believe about God, truth, morality, identity, and purpose. Barry urges you to get in the scriptures and be intentional about your doctrine.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Why Scripture Matters

00:56 Everyone Is a Theologian

05:06 Fathers Teach the Word

07:09 Knowledge Prevents Ruin

11:28 Doctrine Guards Deception

15:52 Legacy and Cultural Pressure

20:57 False Teachers Fill Vacuums

22:13 Discernment for End Times

24:07 How to Grow in Theology

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The Three Levels of a Man's Influence

Tue, 14 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0500

You will leave behind a legacy. It's in your hands NOW for what that will be. Barry looks at the three levels of influence fathers have and common myths of legacy.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 What Will You Leave?

00:50 Legacy Is Required

06:04 Level 1: Leave A Mark

09:39 Level 2: Create Impact

12:18 Level 3: Build Legacy

16:31 Three Legacy Myths

20:18 Fathers Transmit Legacy

21:41 Build or Pass Dysfunction

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Do You Put God In A Box?

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Just stop. Barry challenges you to stop limiting God to human thinking, expectations, logic, past experiences, and tradition rather than what Scripture says.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Stop Boxing God

01:43 What It Means

05:54 Why We Do It

07:39 Jesus the Box Breaker

10:30 Peter’s Messiah Box

13:03 Common Boxes Today

19:52 God Beyond Comprehension

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Test the Spectacle: How Fathers Spot Deception and Lead Their Families

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0500

The greatest spiritual danger in the last days is not persecution. It's deception. Barry shares how you can spot deception in the media you consume and the world around you.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Freedom From Fawning

00:59 Definitions and Warnings

03:27 Deception Looks Impressive

04:30 Spotting Deception

06:40 Charisma Without Character

10:52 Test the Spirits

13:10 Biblical Literacy Matters

16:19 Fathers vs Screen Culture

19:29 Truth Starts at Home

21:28 Skool.com/fatherseekers

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Stop Sucking Up to the Spectacular

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Barry confronts “sucking up” as disingenuous flattery used to gain favor with authority, calling it manipulative, rooted in insecurity and the fear of man, and harmful to families and culture. He links this behavior to a modern obsession with being “spectacular,” where showy displays in social media, workplaces, and churches can overshadow truth and substance. Don't let that happen!

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Stop Being a Suck Up

00:59 What Sucking Up Means

01:39 Spectacle Culture Explained

03:31 Ingratiation Tactics at Work

05:44 Approval Addiction and Dopamine

10:47 Churches Chasing the Show

13:54 Biblical Warnings on Deception

18:32 Why We Fall for Spectacle

19:46 Become Secure as a Man

21:36 Join Father Seekers

22:48 Final Charge and Sign Off

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Fatherlessness: A Wound That Cripples

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Aaron Archer continues the conversation with Barry, on the “wound that cripples” many dads. Aaron brings his expertise as a emergency room nurse for a wound-assessment framework of your mental wounds.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Know What Not To Do

01:36 Reopening The Wound

01:57 Clinical Wound Assessment

05:05 From Assessment To Healing

07:41 Presence And Fatherhood Science

12:32 Blessing And Father Hunger

16:13 Generational Patterns And Addictions

19:46 Breaking The Cycle

21:20 Finding Good In Dad

25:05 Faith and Fatherhood

25:50 Signs of His Faith

28:36 Finding Mentors

31:22 Generational Patterns

33:29 Epigenetics and Healing

35:30 Evil Exploits Wounds

39:30 Prognosis After the Wound

42:23 Accountability Community

47:04 Final Encouragement and Next Steps

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This New Dad is Breaking Generational Cycles By Being Present

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Aaron Archer, a new dad and nurse practitioner in Knoxville, shares with Barry how he learned to be a father after growing up without a present father. Aaron shares meeting his wife Abby through hospital orientation, building a nursing career, and welcoming their daughter Ava.

He defines fatherlessness primarily as lack of presence, describes his parents’ divorce amid abuse and addiction, and explains how his single mom Rebecca provided love, sacrifice, and stability while raising three kids. Aaron discusses identity, “father hunger,” performance-driven striving, and the need to address wounds so they don’t spread, comparing healing to treating physical wounds. He emphasizes modeling faith through actions, seeking mentors, and “turning the chair” to break generational patterns.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Why Dads Need Guidance

00:36 Meet Aaron and Baby Ava

02:52 From Student to Nurse Practitioner

05:35 Growing Up Fatherless

08:02 Becoming a Present Dad

12:21 Raised by a Single Mom

16:45 Sacrifice and Sibling Support

18:33 Family Business and Grow Story

21:14 Shane Builds a Salon Empire

22:58 Family Business Teamwork

24:59 Identity Through Presence

27:13 Modeling Faith at Home

30:16 Creating Peaceful Spaces

34:05 Healing Not Performance

39:58 Father Hunger and Affirmation

43:10 Wounds Not Your Fault

44:53 Advice to Fatherless Dads

47:45 Wrap Up and Resources

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Who Are You Listening To?

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Are you testing what you're listening to? Barry brings over a year and a half of studying to help you discern the voices that fill your ears. Podcasts, YouTube, TV, which voices are Christ honoring?

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CHAPTERS

00:00 A Startling Conclusion

00:38 Who Are You Listening To?

01:27 My Research Journey

04:43 Early Spiritual Influencers

08:03 College And Learning To Study

10:19 Deep Dive Into Movements

13:31 False Gospels And Delusion

16:45 Regurgitated Teachings Exposed

18:55 Five Tests For Teachers

27:34 Final Warning And Next Steps

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Five Blocks to Build a Better Father Blueprint

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Get years ahead in your fatherhood! Barry shares how lacking a fatherhood blueprint led to years of mistakes, then teaches five essentials for building that blueprint.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Why Every Dad Needs a Fatherhood Blueprint

00:33 Save You Years

02:22 The 5 Cores of a Good Blueprint

02:42 #1: Blueprint Over Good Intentions

04:50 x#2: You Are the Land

08:54 #3: Build on Jesus, Identity, and True Authority

12:38 #4: Structure & Order Create Safety

15:34 #5: How Legacy Is Sustained

17:45 Download the FREE Fatherhood Blueprint Course

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5 Signs a Man Is Quietly Falling Apart (and What to Do to Fix It)

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Barry shares five signs men are quietly collapsing: isolation is the first sign. Listen to hear the rest and see if you need to seek further support from impending collapse.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 High-Functioning and Broken

01:47 Sign #1: Isolation in a Crowd

06:07 Sign #2: High Stimulation to Numb the Pain

08:10 Sign #3: Over-Loving

13:09 Sign #4: Chronic Apologizingx

15:18 Sign #5: Looking Angry When Overwhelmed

18:46 Self Diagnosis: Next Steps

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7 Habits of Couples Who Stay in Love Forever

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Barry delves into seven research-backed habits that strengthen marriages. Discover strategies to deepen your marital bond and build a resilient relationship to last!

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00:00 The Work of Marriage

00:48 7 Habits for a Strong Marriage

01:14 Habit 1: Communication is Key

04:09 Habit 2: Keep the Flirt Alive

06:15 Habit 3: Listen to Understand

08:27 Habit 4: Forgive Quickly

11:42 Habit 5: Make Time for Each Other

14:03 Habit 6: Dream Together

17:32 Habit 7: Grow as Individuals

21:04 Conclusion and Resources

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Secrets to Choosing a Lifelong Godly Spouse

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Barry and Heather discuss the challenges and insights of choosing a lifelong, Godly spouse. They share personal stories and practical advice on marriage, parenting, and the importance of emotional health and spiritual guidance.

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TIMELINE

00:00 A System For a Spouse

04:34 xThe Importance of Parental Influence

09:08 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned

14:42 Advice for Young Women on Choosing a Spouse

17:04 The Role of Spiritual Guidance

22:44 Living Without Affection

23:35 Struggles with Parental Relationships

25:04 Emotional Impact of Upbringing

26:01 Reflecting on Family Dynamics

27:38 Barry's Grandfather

29:55 Addressing Mental Health

33:10 Parenting Advice

35:02 The Role of Mothers

36:34 Submission and Marriage

38:14 Stay Tuned!

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Exploring Messianic Faith with Jeff Goelz

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Jeff Goelz returns to delve into his journey from various religious backgrounds to studying in a Messianic synagogue. They discuss Torah study, the Jewish roots of Christianity, and the challenges facing the Western Church. Tune in for deep insights for your own faith journey!

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TIMELINE

00:00 Jeff Goelz Returns!

00:52 Jeff's Journey to Messianic Judaism

04:23 Experiences in the Synagogue

06:39 Understanding Scripture Through a Jewish Lens

11:55 Critique of the Western Church

16:42 The Significance of Israel

22:09 A Mustard Seed and Faith

22:56 The Graciousness of Jesus to Gentiles

24:23 Intersection of Faith, Politics, and Truth

25:19 Finding a Life Partner with God's Guidance

26:06 Roles in Marriage and Messianic Practices

27:46 Advice to Young Men on Relationships

30:07 Importance of Scripture and Church Accountability

32:07 Closing Thoughts and Final Advice

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The Silence of Men: Finding Your Voice Through Brotherhood

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Barry explores why men stop talking. Discover the impacts of silence, the importance of using your voice, and the crucial role of brotherhood in overcoming isolation. Speak up, your voice matters!

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TIMELINE

00:00 The Cost of Silence

01:25 Why Men Stop Talking

03:44 The Burden Men Carry

10:04 The Importance of Brotherhood

13:38 The Power of Vulnerability

14:44 Resources and Support

15:45 Conclusion: Finding Your Voice

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FOR WOMEN ONLY: Why Men Hold Back Emotionally

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Why don't most Men don’t share everything with their wife? —and what does that actually mean? Today Barry talks to the ladies on why men withhold emotional and mental stress from their partners. He discusses the inherent differences between men and women and offers strategies for fostering better communication and understanding in relationships.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Why Men Withhold Emotions

01:08 Understanding Men's Emotional Vulnerability

02:23 The Risk of Sharing Emotions

03:33 Women's Role in Men's Emotional Health

04:33 Biological and Psychological Differences

05:57 The Impact of Emotional Sharing on Relationships

07:50 Men as Emotional Regulators

11:26 Connection vs. Containment

16:48 The Biblical Perspective

20:28 The Need for Male Brotherhood

22:20 Embracing Your Role

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Never Say "I'm Sorry" Again!

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

Explore the inefficacy of inauthentic apologies and learn five essential steps to create a culture of true repentance and emotional regulation. Barry offers how to foster healthier relationships and effective conflict resolution within your family, shifting from shame to transformation.

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TIMELINE

00:00 The Problem with Saying 'I'm Sorry'

00:55 Psychology Behind Apologies

01:54 Pitfalls of Inauthentic Apologies

02:39 Importance of Genuine Apologies

05:13 Five Ways to Determine an Authentic Apology

17:58 Healthy Alternatives to 'Sorry'

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A Journey to Faith w/ Jeff Goelz

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Barry interviews his friend Jeff, who shares his remarkable journey from building nightclubs to becoming a successful real estate mogul. The conversation delves into Jeff's experiences in martial arts, his venture into politics, and his spiritual transformation. Jeff offers valuable insights on achieving financial success, serving others, and the importance of seeking God's guidance in life.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Introducing Jeff Goelz

01:11 Real Estate Journey and International Ventures

05:18 Martial Arts and Personal Transformation

07:29 Faith, Politics, and Personal Reflections

19:50 Embracing Change and Following Christ

22:00 Money Management and Career Wisdom

23:08 Insights from Successful People

30:46 End Times and Biblical Reflections

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The Legacy of Jonathan Edwards and Max Jukes

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Barry explores the legacies of Jonathan Edwards and Max Jukes, two men who's lives drastically affected their future generations in opposite ways. Discover how the decisions you make today can shape the future for generations to come. Are you ready to build a legacy worth leaving?

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TIMELINE

00:00 Introduction to Legacy

00:34 The Story of Jonathan Edwards and Max Jukes

02:09 Jonathan Edwards' Legacy

07:51 Max Jukes' Legacy

09:11 Reflecting on Your Own Legacy

11:17 Understanding Identity and Resources

13:52 The Importance of Stewardship

18:36 Seeking Guidance and Mentorship

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Our Little Book Of Secrets

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

The most requested guest so far is... Barry's wife, Heather! Join Barry and Heather as they dive into their powerful journey from brokenness to healing. They discuss the challenges of rebuilding trust after divorce, overcoming depression with community, and what legacy for them looks like for empty nesters.

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TIMELINE

00:00 The Most Requested Guest

01:06 Unpacking the Impact of Fatherlessness

02:35 Personal Stories and Reflections

04:28 Preventative Measures and Legacy Building

06:44 Heather's Spiritual Journey

07:44 Meeting and Early Interactions

09:16 Developing a Relationship

15:45 Heather's Struggles and Support System

21:26 The Power of Worship and Community

26:45 The Importance of a Faith Community

27:32 Trust and Healing

30:42 Finding Supportive Friends

33:00 Developing a Relationship

36:15 Sabbatical and Growing Closer

39:29 Advice for New Relationships

42:55 Unpacking Emotional Baggage

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Embraced by God: Pastor Steve Burks Story

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Everyone faces their own battles. But with God, a greater story awaits. Steve Burkes exemplifies that. Barry talks to his former college classmate, Pastor Steve Burkes today. Steve is a pastor and politician from Floyd County, Indiana. From overcoming a challenging childhood, being raised by a single mother in poverty to rising as a key influencer and a devoted father, Pastor Burkes' journey is a testament to resilience and faith. Hear firsthand about his formative years, pivotal moments in college, and his unexpected path into ministry and public service.

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TIMELINE

00:00 The Pastor and the Politician

00:28 Meet Pastor Steve Burkes

00:52 Reminiscing College Days

02:39 Journey to Southeastern College

03:33 Memorable Moments at Southeastern

07:17 Spiritual Awakening

12:59 Early Life Struggles

24:04 Meeting His Wife

29:04 Early Ministry and Marriage

30:27 Transition to New Albany

32:29 Church Productions and Excellence

33:21 Heaven's Gates, Hell's Flames Ministry

36:46 Becoming the Next Pastor

40:48 Family and Ministry Involvement

44:58 Political Journey and Community Involvement

55:51 Encouragement for Fathers

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Who's Driving Your Car?

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Who taught you how to drive a car? Barry shares heartfelt memories of learning to drive with his grandfather and reflects on the parallels between driving and fatherhood. He emphasizes three key characteristics that make the biggest difference.

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TIMELINE

00:00 My First Driving Lesson

00:51 Lessons From Grandpa

03:48 Lessons From Driver's Ed Teacher

06:04 Reflecting on Driving Lessons

08:29 Fatherhood: The Ultimate Driving Lesson

10:40 The Importance of Spiritual Fathers

12:13 Taking Responsibility and Learning

14:32 Humility and Teachability in Fatherhood

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Debunking the Masculinity Myth w/ Mark Oleck

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In a world often dominated by misleading ideas about masculinity, we tackle the misconceptions of toxic masculinity. Barry and guest Mark Oleck delve into the attributes of biblical manhood, emphasizing servant leadership, emotional honesty, and strength under control. They address the cultural distortions and forgotten virtues that define true masculinity, encouraging men to reclaim their roles as leaders and protectors in a godly manner.

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00:00 The Myth of Masculinity

01:18 Guest Introduction: Mark Oleck

02:49 Cultural Perceptions of Masculinity

03:55 Historical Context and Feminism

06:33 The Role of Fathers and Family Dynamics

06:56 The Alpha Male Misconception

16:12 Toxic Masculinity Traits

21:45 The Importance of Biblical Manhood

23:49 Pseudo Confidence and Vices

24:25 The Garden of Eden and Adam's Passivity

26:42 Toxic Masculinity and Cultural Distractions

28:38 Humility and the Role of Pride

30:19 Biblical Masculinity vs. Toxic Masculinity

33:10 Elements of Biblical Masculinity

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Navigating Life’s Seasons with Wisdom and Resilience

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

The seasons of life never stop. Today Barry reflects on recent season of depression and identifies practical steps to persist through whatever season you may be in. Barry emphasizes the importance of recognizing that no season—whether good or bad—lasts forever. He offers practical advice on assessing and analyzing our experiences during different seasons, and how to utilize those lessons for personal growth and resilience.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Understanding Life's Seasons

00:22 Navigating Through Different Seasons

02:22 The Power of Seasons

04:51 Assessing and Analyzing Seasons

07:00 Learning from Seasons

08:37 Dealing with Difficult Seasons

12:45 How to Grow in Challenging Seasons

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Learning From the Younger Generations w/ Sam Cornelissen

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

The young guns are teaching the old dogs new tricks. Barry sits down with Sam Cornelissen, a young entrepreneur who has had a profound impact on Barry himself. They discuss the importance of listening to the younger generation, preparing yourself to be a good husband and father while you're single, and what it takes to build a business in your 20s.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Listening to the Younger Generation

01:27 Welcome Sam Cornelissen!

03:19 Seeking Fatherhood Wisdom

05:12 Navigating Social Media

06:37 The Role of Family

13:54 Returning to Faith

18:52 Selling on Amazon

21:45 Navigating Entrepreneurial Tensions

23:37 The Importance of Early Decisions

24:51 Building a Business in Your 20s

27:20 Learning from Failures

28:28 Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs

30:48 Balancing Business and Personal Life

32:45 Mentorship and Passing on Wisdom

36:02 Challenges of the Younger Generation

38:23 Advice for the Older Generation

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How Can I Forgive My Father?

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

"If you knew what that man did to me..." Barry addresses the emotionally challenging (yet liberating) journey of forgiving your father. Tune in to discover what forgiveness truly is, what it is not, and why it is crucial for your personal and generational healing.

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00:00 How can I forgive HIM?

00:33 Because Christ forgave you

02:03 Misconceptions About Forgiveness

04:34 The True Meaning of Forgiveness

06:40 The Journey and Importance of Forgiveness

09:11 God's Requirement for Forgiveness

16:03 Practical Steps to Forgiveness

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The Most Common Unanswered Questions About Fatherhood

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Do you find yourself grappling with unanswered questions and insecurities about fatherhood? Barry addresses the most pressing questions about fatherhood, offering insights and strategies to overcome the void left by an absent father. Learn how to become a good father, process pain and anger, avoid repeating past mistakes, and find positive role models and support.

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00:00 Unanswered Questions

01:27 Question 1: Becoming a Good Father Without a Father

05:21 Question 2: Processing Pain and Anger from Fatherlessness

08:55 Question 3: Providing What You Never Received

11:09 Question 4: Avoiding Your Father's Mistakes

14:22 Question 5: Impact of Father's Absence on Identity and Relationships

16:04 Question 6: Finding Positive Role Models and Support

19:47 Question 7: Forgiving and Honoring an Absent Father

24:31 fatherseekers.org

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Are You an Information Seeker or Wisdom Seeker?

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In an age flooded with information, are you seeking the right knowledge for true transformation? Barry breaks down the Great Trifecta: wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, to help you filter, process, and apply life-changing information with precision and purpose.

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00:00 The Information Age

00:20 The Purpose of Seeking Information

00:34 The Difference Between Change and Transformation

01:02 The Ineffectiveness of Information Alone

02:25 The Importance of Purposeful Information Gathering

03:24 The Great Trifecta: Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding

04:48 The Pitfalls of Information Overload

08:02 Applying the Great Trifecta

09:52 The Role of Faith in Information Processing

16:34 Daily Practices for Wisdom and Understanding

19:25 Your Challenge...

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The Making of a Man and a Marine: Mark's Story

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Barry sits down with his friend Mark Oleck to explore the essence of real manhood, the impact of a father's presence, and the journey to become a godly man. Mark shares his personal story, from his challenging upbringing and transformative experience in the Marine Corps to his successful career and fulfilling family life, offering valuable insights for men seeking to improve themselves and their relationships.

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00:00 What Makes a Real Man?

00:28 Meet Mark Alec: A Man's Man

01:19 Mark's Family and Early Life

02:17 Joining the Marine Corps

03:25 Confrontation with His Father

04:59 The Search for Mentorship and Identity

11:39 From Marine to Nurse Anesthetist

18:06 Family Legacy

19:03 Bootcamp and the Reality of Military Training

21:41 Bootcamp Lessons

24:09 Identify Your Strengths and Weaknesses

25:12 You Need a Coach

27:02 The Training Kicks In

28:31 Break the Cycle

32:15 Fatherhood and Personal Growth

39:07 Finding Forgiveness and Moving Forward

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The Charlie Kirk Effect w/ Tyler Gerfers

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0500

How did Charlie Kirk's death effect you? Barry is joined by Tyler Gerfers, an on-campus missionary, to discuss the shocking assassination of Charlie Kirk and its far-reaching impact on campus life and the Christian community. It's time to step up!

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00:00 A Watershed Moment...

00:12 The Assassination of Charlie Kirk

00:41 Welcome back Tyler Gerfers

02:14 Impact on Campus Life

03:48 The Role of Christianity in Politics

05:01 Reactions and Aftermath

08:52 Encouragement for Pastors and Leaders

30:16 Call to Action for Students

39:10 fatherseekers.org

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Tyler Gerfer's Turns Past Pain Into Present Purpose

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0500

If you grew up without a dad, can you escape the past and find purpose? Tyler Gerfers from Louisiana Monroe's Chi Alpha Campus Ministries tells his story. Barry digs into the Tyler's incredible journey from troubled childhood, meeting Christ on campus and serving the same campus ministry.

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00:00 From Fatherlessness to Ministry

01:36 Tyler's Work and Mission

04:03 Early Life and Family Struggles

07:14 Reconnecting with His Father

08:53 Forgiveness and Trust

12:23 Impact of Fatherlessness

15:39 Journey to Powerlifting and College

16:49 Meeting His Wife and Ministry Beginnings

22:31 Current Ministry and Challenges

31:22 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

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The Tables Turn: Barry Tells His Fatherless Story

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0500

The weight of fatherlessness is heavy. In this episode, Barry switches roles and gets interviewed by Pastor Kelly Rhodes. Dive deep into Barry's personal story. They discuss his early childhood memories of his own father leaving, being called into ministry, and what kidney failure taught him. Don't miss this candid conversation filled with wisdom and resilience!

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00:00 Turning the Tables

01:01 Pastor Kelly Rhodes Takes the Lead

03:46 Barry's Childhood Memories

07:53 The Impact of Fatherlessness

12:16 Faith and Ministry Journey

18:14 Understanding God Through Fatherlessness

22:31 Impact of Fatherlessness on Faith

23:14 Struggles and Growth in Prayer

25:00 Lessons from the Heavenly Father

25:56 Experiencing the Trinity

30:06 Transformative Moments in Faith

31:05 A Journey Through Hardships

33:52 A Miraculous Kidney Transplant

40:14 Redefining the Image of God

42:30 The Power of Testimonies

43:32 fatherseekers.org/fatherfuel

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Exploring Resilient Fatherhood: Balancing Self-Reliance and Community

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0500

We thrive in community. Barry welcomes back Pastor Kelly Rhodes for an in-depth conversation on resilience in fatherhood. They discuss the pros and cons of radical self-reliance and adaptability, the importance of responding rather than reacting, and how to maintain balanced, healthy relationships.

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00:00 Introduction to Resilience

01:50 Radical Self-Reliance and Adaptability

03:17 Balancing Self-Reliance and Community

06:33 The Importance of Healthy Relationships

12:01 Deep Empathy and Protective Instincts

19:46 Relentless Commitment to Growth

20:34 Finding Satisfaction in God

21:18 Understanding Relentlessness and Hunger

22:02 Cease Striving and Know God

22:36 Fatherhood and Healing the Fatherless Heart

27:41 The Role of the Church and Community

30:37 Persistent Optimism and Faith

31:20 Authenticity in Faith

36:27 Dive Deeper with FatherSeekers

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Pastor Kelly Rhodes Works Through Your Emotional Scars

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What happens when emotional scars dictate your life? In this episode, Barry and guest Pastor Kelly Rhodes dive deep into emotional scars and the transformative power of the Gospel in healing fatherhood. They discuss feelings of inadequacy, unresolved grief, and chronic emotional pain, offering practical advice on overcoming these challenges. Tune in to learn how to redefine your self-worth and identity as a son and a father!

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00:00 Emotional Scars

00:34 Continued Convo w/ Pastor Kelly Rhodes

01:23 The Entrepreneurial Spirit

04:59 Fatherhood as an Entrepreneurial Endeavor

06:29 Understanding Low Self-Worth

08:01 Healthy Self-Worth vs. Narcissism

09:10 Finding Identity in Christ

13:45 Unresolved Grief

14:38 The Value of Grief

17:59 Practical Steps to Healing

21:28 Emotional Regulation and Anger

23:41 Logically Managing Emotions

24:35 Addressing Lust and Escapism

26:37 Trust Issues and Secure Attachments

29:39 Breaking Unhealthy Attachments

34:22 Persistent Shame and Fear of Rejection

40:56 Embracing Grace and Overcoming Shame

42:11 Final Thoughts and Resources

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The Silent Battles Every Father Faces w/ Pastor Kelly Rhodes

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What happens when a man strives to be the father he never had? Barry delves into emotional scars, resilience, and fatherhood challenges with Pastor Kelly Rhodes. They discuss identity, role confusion, seeking spiritual fathers, and the silent battles of fatherless fathers. Discover how to humbly pursue mentorship, build genuine friendships, and redefine success in fatherhood.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Introduction: The Silent Battles of Fatherhood

00:38 Meet Pastor Kelly Rhodes

01:27 A Legacy of Ministry

04:10 Kelly and Bridget's Love Story

06:59 Journey into Counseling

10:58 The Importance of Spiritual Fathers

21:07 The Importance of Humility and Submission

22:57 Expressing Emotions and Building Intimacy

25:48 Identity and Role Confusion

31:57 Fear of Repeating the Cycle

36:36 Loneliness and Lack of Support

41:30 Conclusion and Resources

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You CAN Break the Cycle of Reactive Fathering

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What happens when a fatherless boy refuses to repeat his father's mistakes? Join Barry as he explores the concept of reactive fathering, the dangers of counter identification, and practical steps for becoming a better dad by embodying God’s design for fatherhood.

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00:00 Deal With It

00:53 Understanding Reactive Fathering

01:24 Personal Story and Realizations

02:26 The Concept of Counter Identification

04:46 The Effects of Reactive Fathering

06:30 Causes of Reactive Fathering

15:36 Breaking the Cycle: Proper Fathering Leadership

16:53 The Importance of Mentorship and Coaching

18:23 Conclusion and Call to Action

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The "god" of the Wounded Son: Healing From Childhood Trauma

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What if our struggles with faith and trust are rooted in our childhood experiences? Join Barry as he explores the deep impact of father wounds on our perception of God and how to rebuild that broken connection.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Your Childhood Shaped You

01:05 Wounded Sons

04:57 Understanding Father Hunger

05:38 Original Design and Fatherhood

07:26 Scriptural Insights

12:51 Psychological Disruption

15:08 Spiritual Distortion

17:53 Emotional Suppression

20:43 Behavioral Compensation

25:35 Character Formation and Integrity

27:39 Relational Disruption and Trust

31:36 Parenting Challenges and Legacy

34:15 Break the Cycle, Seek God

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The Impact of Fatherlessness on Masculinity

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What defines true masculinity? Join Barry as he explores the profound effects of fatherlessness on manhood, viewed through the lens of biblical principles. Can the example of Jesus redefine our understanding of being a real man?

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TIMELINE

00:00 The Ultimate Man

00:45 The Impact of Fatherlessness on Manhood

02:25 The Quest for Definition

04:31 Pain Propellant

05:42 The Importance of Legacy

07:26 The Need for Initiation

10:21 The Battle for Masculine Energy

11:29 The Noise of Silence

12:29 The Addiction to Affirmation

14:01 The Mask of Control

16:11 Proving Strength

18:00 Unfinished Stories

19:01 Success vs. Significance

22:13 Restoration to Original Design

25:26 Answer the Call!

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Find the Divine in a Father's Heart

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What constitutes a father's heart? Join Barry as he explores the profound characteristics of a father's heart from scripture. Discover how God's fatherhood was demonstrated to Adam and intended to pass through generations, offering insights into fatherhood skills, moral guidance, and eternal purpose.

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00:00 Intro: What's In a Heart?

00:40 Biblical Definition of the Heart

01:57 The Oldest Story Ever Told: Father and Son

04:20 God's Fatherhood and Adam's Role

06:56 Characteristics of Fatherhood

08:07 God's Creative Authority and Adam's Dominion

11:49 God's Nurturing and Sustaining Role

14:08 Moral and Spiritual Guidance

17:22 The Eternal Purpose and Redemption

21:43 Practical Application for Modern Fathers

33:13 Invitation to Join the Father Seekers Community

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Why Do Fathers Matter?

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Why do fathers matter? Barry addresses the critical importance of fatherhood through biblical insights and personal reflections. Discover how turning fathers' hearts to their children can lead to the healing of families, communities, and even nations. Ready to be part of the change? It starts right here.

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00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Fathers

00:44 Biblical Perspective on Fatherhood

01:53 The Cultural Collapse and Fatherhood

03:12 The Role of Fathers in Healing a Nation

03:46 The Hope and Call to Action

04:23 The Impact of Fatherlessness

05:52 Fatherhood Beyond Politics

10:48 Identity Crisis and Fatherlessness

13:18 A Distorted View of God

19:24 Generational Sin and Repetition

23:10 Emotional and Psychological Damage

27:19 Counteracting Fatherlessness

32:04 The Call to Revival

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Is Experience Really the Best Teacher?

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0500

We’ve all heard that experience is the best teacher—but what if I told you that’s only half the story? What if the real power isn’t just in what you go through, but in how you look back and learn from it? Today, Barry dives into why experience alone isn’t enough—and how evaluating your experiences is the secret sauce to real growth. Stick around, because if you’re not reflecting on your journey, you might just be repeating the same mistakes over and over again!

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00:00 Experience Alone...

00:43 The Key to True Learning

04:17 The Importance of Mentorship

07:13 Evaluating Fatherhood Experience

12:47 Healing and Overcoming Scars

23:20 Reflection, Wisdom, and Guidance

26:25 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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Unlocking the Power of Prayer: How, When, and Why to Connect with God

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0500

When was the last time you truly prayed? Barry unravels the essence of prayer, exploring Christ's exemplary prayer life, the types of prayer, and the optimal mindset for connecting with God. Learning to pray with intentionality and intimacy.

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00:00 The Importance of Prayer

00:40 Exploring Jesus' Prayer Life

08:50 Types of Prayers

17:25 Positions of Prayer

29:02 Encouragement to Pray

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What Do You Pursue?

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Do you know what you are in pursuit of? Barry petitions you to focus your pursuits, offering five key areas: wisdom, discipleship, leadership, theology, and fatherhood.

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00:00 What Are You Pursuing?

01:27 Clarifying Your Pursuits

03:15 So What is It Really?

06:46 Healthy Pursuits for a Fulfilling Life

10:11 The Five Key Pursuits

21:20 Practical Steps For Change

24:13 The Time is NOW

26:06 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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What Does It Take to Leave a Lasting Legacy as a Father?

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What does it really take? Barry unwraps an old saying "Put Your Hand to the Plow" and how focus can radically change your fathering and the legacy you will leave for your family.

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00:00 Put Your Hand to the Plow

03:42 Focus on What's in Front of You

14:07 Embrace Failure, Overcome Fear

17:51 Final Encouragement

19:00 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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The Fruit of Fatherhood

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Want a life hack for being a dad? Barry teaches how to bear spiritual fruit as a father and how to bridge the gap from inexperience to positively impacting their families.

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00:00 Not a Fan of Life Hacks?

01:01 Bearing Fruit

05:13 The Fig Tree Parable

09:29 The Fruit of the Spirit

18:37 How to Use the Fruit

21:06 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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Circles: How to Build Better Brotherhood with Other Men

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Why do men think they don't need a circle of friends? In this dynamic episode, Barry drills into the transformative power of male camaraderie, guiding you through the essential elements and steps to create a tight-knit group of like-minded men. Discover how having a circle of trusted friends can elevate your life, foster growth, and keep you accountable.

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00:00 Why Men Need Circles

01:49 The Power of Fellowship

02:35 The Mistake of Going Alone

03:18 Give and Receive

05:54 Five Benefits of a Circle

06:59 Comradery

09:46 Confidants

11:58 Bible Based Truthful Men

14:13 Men of Integrity

16:01 Settled, Secure, and Squared Away

21:49 How to Build Your Circle

26:34 Find Your Circle

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Father's Day Special: How Good Fathers Are Made

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Happy Father's Day! Today we talk with a primce example of a dad: Russ has fathered three children (with nine grandchildren now!) and is the other half to Mary from our Mother's Day episode.

Barry interview Russ about his own upbringing and how it affected his own children. Russ offers advice every young father should tatoo on their arm and never forget it!

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00:00 What is a Good Father?

01:14 Introducing Our Guest: Russ Headberg

01:54 Russ's Childhood

05:49 Growing Up with Limited Affection

09:02 Realizing Normal, Wasn't Normal

12:16 When Everything Changed

15:37 Opposite Still Attract 49 Years Later

17:56 Three Kids, Nine Grands

19:21 THE Fishing Trip

22:26 Fatherhood Self Reflection

27:54 Advice for Fathers Without Role Models

38:04 Happy Father's Day!

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Why Most Men Hate Accountability

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Men face many complexities in relationships between masculinity and taking responsibility. In today’s culture, many men instinctively resist accountability, preferring:

Control over vulnerability
Power over transparency
Defensiveness over growth

This resistance isn’t just personal—it’s deeply rooted in societal expectations and learned behaviors that can be changed. Barry coaches you through seven steps for effective accountability.

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00:00 The Complexities of Masculinity and Accountability

01:14 Why Men Resist Accountability

03:02 The Power of Accountability

07:14 Seven Steps to Effective Accountability

17:57 Building a Brotherhood for Accountability

19:31 TAKE ACTION!

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How to Live Fearless as a Father

Tue, 27 May 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Are you tired of feeling held back by fear and self-doubt as a father? What if embracing vulnerability and courage could transform your relationships and unlock your true potential? Join me today as we explore what it means to live fearlessly and how it can revolutionize your role as a father.

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7 Things Men Fear Most

Tue, 20 May 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What are your greatest fears? What freezes you in place, keeps you awake at night, or creates chaos and anxiety in your life and family? Here are seven things men fear most. Bring it into the light and it doesn't look so scary.

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00:00 Introduction: Understanding Fear

01:10 The Many Faces of Fear

01:34 Biblical Definitions of Fear

04:35 Seven Things Men Fear Most

05:34 Fear of Man

06:54 Fear of the Unknown

08:20 Fear of Loss

08:56 Fear of Failure

10:15 Fear of Lack

11:35 Fear of Intimacy

12:59 Fear of Being Found Out

14:42 Paralyzed by Fear

17:35 Overcoming Fear

18:35 Conclusion and Resources

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Perception VS Perspective: What's the Difference?

Tue, 13 May 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What's the difference between perception and perspective? Most often it's our position. Barry looks at the Green Bay Packers to help you see three essentials for gaining perspective as a father.

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00:00 Perception vs. Perspective

01:02 Green Bay Packers, Coach Matt LaFleur

03:29 On Field Perception

06:25 Perspective from the Booth

08:23 Applying Perception and Perspective in Life

12:15 The Importance of Having a 'Man in the Booth'

15:14 The Holy Spirit

16:38 Conclusion: Who's in Your Booth?

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Mother's Day Edition: Wisdom for Overwhelmed Mothers and Fathers

Tue, 06 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

How does the bond with a mother shape a child's future? Join Barry for a heartfelt Mother's Day edition with special guests Mary (married 49 years) and her adult daughter Leah. Discover the importance of emotional support, strong family bonds, and the impact of a father's love. Listen with your wife. It might be the best gift she recieves this year.

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00:00 The Unwavering Strength of Mothers

02:13 Mary's Story

06:39 Leah's Story

10:17 Reflections on Parenting and Family Values

14:45 Leah's Perspective on Family Legacy

20:29 Celebrating Marriage and Family Milestones

24:03 Understanding Different Communication Styles

26:47 Reflections on Parental Disagreements

29:00 The Role of a Good Husband and Father

31:00 The Impact of a Father's Love

35:14 Advice for Moms on Maintaining a Healthy Family

38:45 Encouragement for Women Without Strong Maternal Figures

42:37 Wisdom for Husbands and Fathers

46:43 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Dad's

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Increase Your WQ With These Three Things

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Why is wisdom crucial for fatherhood, and how can you cultivate it? Barry examines the essence of fatherhood, the role of wisdom, and the power of accountability circles. You can increase your Wisdom Quotient (WQ)!

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00:00 Worth Your Salt

00:35 Who's Your Imitation Model?

03:19 How God Gives Wisdom

04:37 Practical Wisdom Guidance

07:09 Accountability

09:56 Make Time to Seek Wisdom

11:17 You Can't Do This Alone

12:32 The Holy Spirit

14:54 FatherSeekers.org/FatherFuel

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Level Up Your Fatherhood Game

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What does it mean to truly 'level up'? Join Barry Egdemon for advancing in wisdom, skill, and knowledge to become the best father, husband, and man you can be. Learn crucial pitfalls to avoid and discover the true power of Godly wisdom and character in your journey to self-improvement. Are you ready to level up?

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00:00 Leveling Up

00:46 In Your DNA

04:09 Multiplayer Skills

05:47 Three Ways NOT to Level Up

09:23 Experience Required

10:20 Cometh the Man

12:46 Addressing Failure

13:59 You CAN Level Up

16:31 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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Harnessing Momentum: Unleash Your Drive and Purpose

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Do you have the elusive momentum to keep you moving forward? Barry explores how to capture and sustain momentum by identifying your desires, gifts, and capabilities. Learn practical steps to harness your inner drive, overcome obstacles, and achieve your purpose as a father.

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00:00 The Evasive Thing

01:04 Harnessing Momentum

02:53 Where's Your Desire?

03:46 Gifts VS Capabilties

06:26 Why Momentum Alludes You

07:51 You Might Have Future Blindness

08:56 Calculated Risk

11:17 Where Does It Come From?

12:58 Your Reason for Existence

15:48 Where is Momentum Driving You?

16:45 FatherSeekers.org/FatherFuel

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Cleaning House: De-hoarding Your Spiritual Life

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What are you hiding? Barry explores the parallels between physical hoarding and spiritual clutter. Drawing lessons from the show 'Hoarders' and the Bible, he discusses the importance of maintaining a 'clean house' both physically and spiritually to live a purpose-driven life. Learn practical steps for de-cluttering your life and filling it with meaningful purpose.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Hoarders TV Show

01:12 When Hoarders Relapse

04:54 De-hoarding the House

06:53 #1: Inventory Your Life

09:18 #2: The Unessential Have to Go

12:15 You Have a Purpose

13:18 #3: Replace the Empty

15:04 Extra Space is Okay

16:08 #4: Furnish Well

17:40 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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Beneath the Surface: Finding the Rot We Can't See

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Is there rot in your life you can't see? Barry explores the profound lessons learned from his days as a kitchen cabinet designer to uncover the hidden damages beneath the surfaces of our lives. Discover the importance of restoration and the one true way to achieve genuine healing and transformation.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Beneath the Surface

00:38 Unseen Damage

05:08 Don't Cut Corners

11:06 What Are You Hiding?

14:26 Face Your Brokenness

16:45 Exposing the Damage

18:19 Inventory Your Own Heart

19:00 FatherFuel.org

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Crafting a Legacy with God's Blueprint

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Who is your blueprint architect? Join Barry Edgemon as he explores why many fathers struggle with fatherhood, the importance of a well-designed blueprint, and how to build a lasting legacy through godly principles and community support.

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TIMELINE:

00:00 Who's Your Designer?

05:21 Build It Right

09:41 You Need a Team

11:31 It's About Legacy

16:28 FatherSeekers.com/FatherFuel

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Building a Home: Why Fatherhood Needs a Blueprint

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Barry lays out why having a blueprint is crucial for effective fatherhood. Learn how proper planning, wisdom, and adherence to God's design can help you build a strong and lasting legacy for your family.

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Timeline:

00:00 Blueprint Required

00:45 Preparing the Site

01:50 What is a Blueprint?

05:02 Why Blueprints?

07:34 Blueprint Protect You

09:36 Follow the Plan

13:46 Your Role in the Blueprints

16:56 FatherSeekers.org/FatherFuel

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Fractured to Full: God's Original Design for Fatherhood

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Moving into healthy fatherhood requires a plan, instructions, and a model to replicate. Barry explores the start-up plan to fullness in fathering every father should know about.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Model Cars

01:40 The Oldest Story Ever Told

05:50 Restoring God's Original Fatherhood Plan

11:02 Assessing Where You Came From

15:01 God Loves YOU

16:56 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel

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How to Be a Better Father Starts Here

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0500

Do you want to break the cycle of fatherlessness? It starts with you. Today, Barry examines who and what a FatherSeeker is and the plan for you to move from fatherless to fathered.

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TIMELINE

00:00 Intro

01:19 Theme Music

01:19 Noticing the Effects of Fatherlessness

04:44 When My Fatherlessness Flared

06:10 I Was Stuck

07:47 Hard Questions, Missing Answers

11:49 Father Hunger Reality

13:55 What Fathers NEED to Address

15:46 Break the Cycle

19:32 Fatherseekers.org