In this compelling episode of 'Grey Minds Think Alike,' we speak with Courtney Gilmartin, a protective mother who spent nearly a decade fighting post-separation abuse and high-conflict custody battles. As the founder of Monarch Consulting Group and the New Jersey Protective Moms, Courtney shares her deeply personal journey through the family court system. She discusses the emotional and financial toll, the tactics of coercive control used by abusive ex-partners, and how she empowers other protective parents through her trauma-informed coaching. Learn about her innovative strategies and tools for navigating custody disputes, and get inspired by her fierce advocacy for victims of domestic abuse in custody cases. Courtney also offers valuable tips on documenting evidence and staying resilient through the challenging process.

About Courtney Gilmartin

Courtney Gilmartin is a protective mother of two whose mission was forged by nearly a decade of personal experience with post-separation abuse and protracted custody battles. Through her firm, Monarch Consulting Group, she works as a Family Court Strategist, applying her unique skill set as a project manager to the complexities of family court.

In addition to her consulting, she is the founder of the non-profit New Jersey Protective Moms. As a certified Trauma-Informed Coach trained by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, Courtney offers a unique synthesis of lived experience and professional expertise, dedicating herself to helping other mothers feel educated, empowered, and effective.

About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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The Hidden Epidemic of Coercive Control in Family Courts:

Get an inside look into the new must-read book, “FRAMED.” Host Ali Kessler welcomes Dr. Christine Cocchiola, an expert on coercive control, and Amy Polacko, founder and CEO of Freedom Warrior Divorce Coaching, to discuss their new book 'Framed'. The guests share their experiences and insights on the dangers of coercive control in abusive relationships and the family court system. They highlight the need for better legislation and judicial training to protect children and supportive parents from abusive dynamics. The conversation also touches on various forms of abuse, including financial and emotional abuse, and emphasizes the importance of awareness and systemic change.

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About Dr. Christine Cocchiola:

Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She has been a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last twenty years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency.

She supports protective parents in strategizing how best to navigate the family court system, including divorce proceedings and custody arrangements. Our family court system is often set up to harm further and betray adult victims-survivors and their children, unacknowledged child abuse victims.

Most importantly, Dr. Cocchiola is a protective parent. Through her own clinical expertise, research, and personal experiences, she understands the impact that coercive control has on children. She coaches victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate Allies, including protective parents, clinicians, coaches, and court professionals, on the experiences of children victims of the coercive controller.

Dr. Cocchiola is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Board Member. She has actively supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts.

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About Amy Polacko:

Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior committed to helping women live on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to support, inspire, and guide single women. Amy is an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues, including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. She also works as a public relations consultant for small to medium-sized companies, helping to create PR strategies, maximize branding, leverage media relations, and improve social media.

Her recent journalistic work has appeared in The Washington Post, HuffPost, Ms. Magazine, Newsweek, NBC News THINK, and Observer. After graduating from Columbia University's Graduate School of Journalism, Amy was a newspaper reporter for Newsday and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash. She then transitioned to television journalism as a writer and producer in New York City. Amy was an award-winning on-air reporter in Fargo, ND, where she traveled to Kosovo for a series on the North Dakota National Guard, and in Philadelphia, where she covered the national D.C. Sniper story. She also headed up an investigative reporting unit in Albany, NY, where she uncovered consumer scams, crime, and government corruption as part of her I-Team Investigations -- one of which exposed a loophole in the state's sex offender registry.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, we delve into the inspiring journey of Michelle Choairy, an advocate, speaker, and founder of the Thrive framework. Michelle shares her personal story as a mother navigating the challenges of raising a neurodivergent and medically complex child. She discusses the importance of building a supportive medical team, understanding complex systems like schools and insurance, and maintaining self-care. Learn about the Thrive framework and how it has empowered over 100 families, transforming chaos into peace and possibility. Michelle also offers practical advice for parents, emphasizing the importance of trusting your intuition and celebrating small wins. Whether you’re a parent facing similar challenges or simply seeking to understand, this discussion brings invaluable insights and inspiration.

About Michelle Choairy

Michelle Choairy is an advocate, speaker, and founder of the THRIVE Framework, dedicated to empowering parents of neurodivergent and medically complex children. Inspired by her own journey raising a child with unique needs, she helps families navigate IEPs, therapies, and medical systems with clarity and confidence. Through coaching, workshops, and advocacy, Michelle has supported over 100 families, transforming overwhelm into peace, purpose, and empowered parentingmichellechoairy.com

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in the successful passage of Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked topic of men's mental and emotional health with expert Jason Lange. As a men's embodiment coach and certified 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' coach, Jason shares his insights on the critical importance of emotional awareness and connection for men. We discuss the loneliness epidemic, the costs of emotional suppression, and the transformative power of men's groups. Learn how men can rebuild strength through vulnerability, create safer relationships, and foster healthier families. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone interested in the profound impact of men's well-being on family dynamics and future generations.

About Jason Lange

Jason Lange is a men’s embodiment coach, group facilitator, certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, and evolutionary guide who helps men reconnect to their emotional core and lead with authenticity and integrity.

Jason applies an integral, trauma-informed approach that blends mindfulness, psychology, shadow work, and relational awareness. He’s trained with experts like John Wineland, Dr. Robert Glover, Jun Po Roshi, Tripp Lanier, and Ken Wilber, among others, and is a Stages International Certified Debriefer. Jason lives this work daily alongside his wife, Violet, a women’s love and femininity coach. Together, they lead Evolutionary Couples, guiding partners toward conscious connection and communication. They are also proud parents of two children. Learn more at evolutionary.men

About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali Kessler is joined by Anne Wintemute, the creator of Aimee Says, an innovative AI platform designed to support survivors of domestic violence. Anne introduces Aimee's new digital binder system that helps organize and present survivors' stories in a clear, powerful, and secure way. They discuss the impact of technology on survivor advocacy, the importance of documentation, and how Aimee's tools empower users at various stages of recovery. Tune in to learn how Aimee’s solutions bridge the gap between lived experiences and the systems meant to protect survivors.

About Anne Wintemute

Anne Wintemute is Co-Founder and CEO of AimeeSays, a companion app that uses the power of AI to support survivors of domestic violence in their fight for safety and justice. Anne is a dedicated and visionary leader and is also the founder of A Garden Grows, a consultancy offering vital support services to women experiencing post-separation abuse. Anne is passionate about transforming the discourse around intimate partner violence and advocating for a narrative that holds perpetrators accountable. While working as the Head of School at an elementary school, she began supporting women navigating especially difficult divorces. She is passionate about helping women re-envision and reclaim control of their lives and protecting children from the adverse impacts of parental conflict. When she’s not with her clients or three children, you can find her tending her urban farm. In both plants and humans, it is the skillful attendance to the needs of a living thing that allows it to flourish!

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Host Ali Kessler speaks with Dr Karalynn Royster, a child psychologist and co-parenting expert, about the challenges of navigating co-parenting in high-conflict situations. Dr. Royster shares insights from her Kids First co-parenting program, emphasizing the importance of clear communication, emotional support for both parents and children, and strategies for maintaining a stable environment for kids. The conversation covers the impact of parental conflict on children, therapeutic approaches for different age groups, and practical tips for parents to foster a healthier co-parenting dynamic.

About Dr. Karalynn Royster

Dr. Karalynn Royster is a child psychologist, co-parenting expert, and creator of the Kids First Co-Parenting Program, available through learnwithlittlehouse.com. Having grown up in a high-conflict family herself, she combines clinical expertise with lived experience to help moms navigate divorce and parenting with difficult exes. Her mission is to empower mothers with tools, clarity, and confidence—so their kids can feel secure and thrive even in challenging circumstances.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in the successful passage of Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, we are joined by two influential advocates, Barry Goldstein and Veronica York, whose groundbreaking work has reshaped our understanding of child safety, domestic violence, and family court reform. Barry is a nationally recognized domestic violence expert, author, and attorney, while Veronica is a certified high-conflict divorce coach and survivor advocate. Together, they have leveraged their expertise to educate the courts and professionals handling family cases. In this episode, they discuss their new book, 'Preventing Domestic Violence and Child Abuse,' and explore crucial research, including the ACE and Saunders studies, that highlight the adverse effects of ignoring domestic violence in custody cases. Watch as they share their journey, offer insights into the challenges within the family court system, and highlight the essential role we all play in protecting our children and empowering survivors.

About Barry Goldstein and Veronica York:

Barry Goldstein

Barry Goldstein is a nationally recognized domestic violence expert, author, and attorney with more than 40 years of experience in family law and abuse prevention. A former prosecutor and instructor for judges and court professionals, Barry has trained thousands on the importance of understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) and the Saunders Study in custody decisions.

He has served as Director of Research for the Stop Abuse Campaign and authored several influential books, including The Quincy Solution and Scared to Leave, Afraid to Stay. Barry’s testimony and expertise have shaped policy, guided reform, and saved lives.

Now, as co-editor of Preventing Domestic Violence and Child Abuse: Medical, Law Enforcement, Judicial and Human Benefits (with Dr. Mo Therese Hannah and Veronica York), Barry is helping to connect public health research to legal reform — showing that protecting children and survivors isn’t just justice, it’s prevention.

Veronica York

Veronica York is a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach, expert witness, and survivor-advocate specializing in domestic violence, coercive control, and family court reform. After a 20-year career in the television industry, Veronica was driven by personal experience to help parents facing the trauma of custody disputes involving abuse.

She holds advanced training in Family Law Mediation and works alongside Barry Goldstein, providing expert testimony, research, and reports for high-conflict custody cases. Veronica frequently speaks and writes about the misuse of “parental alienation,” post-separation abuse, and trauma-informed advocacy.

As co-editor of Preventing Domestic Violence and Child Abuse, she brings a survivor’s perspective to the national conversation — uniting medical, legal, and community efforts to prevent abuse before it happens. Her mission: a court system that prioritizes safety, evidence, and the lived realities of survivors and children.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in the successful passage of Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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About Lynn Stroud:

Drawing from her extensive lived experience with reproductive coercion, domestic abuse, and sexual assault, Lynn Stroud delves into cultivating a trauma-informed mindset and increased legal remedies for victims. She stresses the significance of listening without judgment, validating survivors' experiences, and recognizing the resilience that often emerges from adversity. Stroud addresses common misconceptions about trauma and emphasizes the need for ongoing education and awareness. She hopes to serve as a beacon of understanding and compassion, offering a roadmap for survivors, advocates, law enforcement, and beyond to increase their knowledge of reproductive coercion. By sharing her story, she hopes more listeners will recognize the warning signs and dangers of coercion, embrace knowledge, and actively seek out proactive change. Her hope is that one day we can collectively build a world where survivors are not only heard but supported in their paths to healing and empowerment.

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali Kessler speaks with Ramya Shripathi, a certified human potential life coach from India, about rebuilding confidence, finding balance, and healing after trauma. Ramya shares her personal journey from being a people pleaser to a human potential and narcissistic abuse coach. She explains her integrative approach that includes shadow work, somatic recovery, and Reiki. Ramya discusses the challenges of narcissistic abuse, the importance of self-care, and practical tools for survivors to start their healing journey. Tune in to hear insightful conversations on overcoming trauma and empowering yourself.

About Ramya Shripathi:

Ramya Shripathi is a globally recognized Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Life Coach and the Founder of ActivateYou, a Bangalore-based life coaching practice with clients across the world.

As a Shadow Alchemist and Healing Rebel, Ramya specializes in guiding survivors of narcissistic abuse through Shadow Work, Inner Child Healing, Somatic Recovery, Reiki, and CPTSD healing. Her integrative approach blends psychology, spirituality and energy work.

Ramya is known for her compassionate yet powerful presence, helping individuals rebuild self-worth, set boundaries, and reclaim their authentic voice. She is also a strong advocate for raising awareness about narcissistic abuse in India, making her a sought-after voice in conversations on trauma recovery, empowerment, and holistic healing.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Welcome to Grey Minds Think Alike. In this episode, we speak with Sandy Ross, former president of California Protective Parents and Executive Director of Family Court Awareness Month. Sandy brings her extensive expertise in child safety issues in child custody cases, drawing on her work in forensic and child and adolescent psychology. She has played a pivotal role in passing California's Piqui's Law and received numerous accolades, including the Los Angeles County Domestic Violence Council's Breaking Silent Survivor Activist Award. Sandy shares her personal journey, the challenges within the family court system, and effective advocacy strategies. Join us as we explore the critical issues and impactful efforts to protect children and support survivors.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:04 Sandy Ross: Advocate and Survivor

00:57 Billboards and Awareness Campaigns

02:59 Personal Journey and Family Court Challenges

04:28 Systemic Issues in Family Court

09:00 Advice for Protective Parents

14:47 The Need for Systemic Change

18:56 Cross-System Challenges and Personal Experiences

23:47 Personal Struggles and Coping Mechanisms

24:47 Support Groups and Peer Support

25:40 Involvement with Advocacy Organizations

27:55 Piqui's Law: A Personal Mission

30:23 The Tragic Story Behind Piqui's Law

33:49 Advocacy and Legislative Challenges

42:00 Celebrating Advocacy and Future Plans

About Sandy Ross

Sandy Ross is the President of the California Protective Parents Association and the Executive Director of Family Court Awareness Month, where she works tirelessly to reform the family court system and advocate for child safety in custody cases involving abuse. With a master’s degree in forensic psychology and a graduate certificate in child and adolescent psychology, Sandy has spent more than a decade training professionals and educating the public about dangerous personality traits and systemic failures that endanger children. A survivor and the protective parent of a now-adult child survivor, she played a key role in the passage of Piqui’s Law and was honored with the Breaking Silence Survivor Activist Award for her leadership and courage.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of 'Grey Minds Think Alike,' host Ali Kessler dives into the emotional lives of parents with experts Hillary Jacobs Hendel and Dr. Juli Fraga. They discuss their new book, 'Parents Have Feelings Too,' which offers practical tools for parents to manage and honor their emotions. The conversation covers why parents often neglect their own emotional needs, the impact of attachment styles, and practical steps to bring calmness and joy into family life. Hendel and Fraga share their professional insights and personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of emotional education and self-awareness for the entire family's well-being.

Parents Have Feelings, Too book here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/788442/parents-have-feelings-too-by-hilary-jacobs-hendel/

About Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW: Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a Certified AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor, and psychoanalyst. She is the author of the award-winning and acclaimed It's Not Always Depression, and her work has been featured in outlets such as The New York Times, TIME, and Oprah.

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About Juli Fraga, PsyD: Juli Fraga is a psychologist and parenting educator. She has contributed to national outlets like The New York Times, Parents magazine, and NPR. She is also on the medical advisory board of Baby Center and teaches classes for expectant parents at the University of California, San Francisco (UCSF) hospital.drjulifraga.com | IG: @parentshavefeelingstoo | X: @dr_fraga

About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Join host Ali Kessler on Grey Minds Think Alike as she dives deep with Nicole Hernandez, a board-certified hypnotist, success coach and human design advisor from New York City. Nicole shares her journey from corporate anxiety to becoming a healing guide, specializing in transforming anxiety into an edge through her high-frequency success approach. Discover how Nicole's unique combination of hypnotherapy, mindfulness, and human design helps high achievers and anxious individuals lead more fulfilling lives. Learn about the misconceptions of hypnosis, the impact of childhood trauma on present anxiety, and the holistic healing potential of human design. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking to overcome stress, anxiety, and emotional blockages to achieve true clarity, confidence, and success.

About Nicole Hernandez

Known as The Traveling Hypnotist, Nicole Hernandez is a clinical Board-Certified hypnotist based in New York City with globe-trotting tendencies. She is also an anxiety educator, speaker, and Resident Healer for the Four Seasons Hotel New York Downtown. Nicole specializes in helping anxious high achievers become impactful, conscious leaders that can navigate life transitions with a sense of clarity and ease. After healing her own anxiety-related illness with hypnosis, she felt a deep calling to demystify the healing modality and help others. Her signature approach combines modern hypnotherapy, mindfulness, somatics, and her intuitive gift. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, BeLatina, BestLife, Forbes, Success, Texas Monthly, Wall Street Journal, and more.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

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Empowering Domestic Violence Survivors: A Deep Dive with Lammy Askar from AVDA

Welcome to Grey Minds Think Alike! In this episode, we dive into an enlightening and empowering conversation with Lammy Askar, Chief Program Officer at Aid to Victims of Domestic Violence (AVDA). Lammy shares her extensive experience in working with youth survivors, communities, and the transformative programs AVDA offers to end cycles of abuse. Learn about AVDA’s comprehensive services, including emergency shelters, outreach programs, prevention education, and innovative resources like a text-enabled hotline. Discover crucial insights on recognizing signs of abuse, understanding different forms of violence, and the importance of prevention and empowerment. This conversation is essential for anyone invested in breaking generational patterns of abuse and promoting healing and safety for survivors. Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and support efforts to raise awareness and provide help to those in need.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:47 Lammy Askar's Journey and Expertise

02:16 Overview of AVDA Services

03:24 Emergency Shelter and Transitional Housing

06:40 Collaboration with Law Enforcement

08:38 Challenges and Types of Abuse

11:19 Legal Aid and Confidentiality

21:14 Prevention and Community Education

25:05 Community Awareness and Domestic Violence

26:03 Seasonal Patterns in Domestic Violence

27:43 Recognizing Teen Dating Red Flags

35:02 Empowering Survivors Through Education

38:59 Personal Stories and Impact

45:30 Resources and Support for Survivors

About Lammy Askar- Chief Program Officer to Victims of Domestic Abuse, Inc. (AVDA)

Lammy Askar is the Chief Program Officer at AVDA – Aid to Victims of Domestic Abuse, Inc., where she leads comprehensive programs focused on ending domestic and dating violence. With an extensive background in both nonprofit and educational spaces, Lammy has dedicated her career to youth advocacy, violence prevention, and systems change. She brings years of expertise in the areas of domestic abuse, child protection, and survivor empowerment, always with a deep commitment to social transformation. Lammy is a passionate educator and advocate, working to equip communities with the tools needed to create lasting safety and healing. https://www.avdaonline.org/

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in the successful passage of Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Navigating Trauma and Healing: A Deep Dive with Dr. Lisa Fox

In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Lisa Dawn Fox, founder of Shadow and Soul. Dr. Fox shares her inspiring journey from being a surgeon to becoming a transformative healer focused on trauma, betrayal, and emotional recovery. She delves into her personal experiences with coercive control and emotional suppression, offering insights into recognizing and overcoming these challenges. This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking deeper understanding or navigating their own path to inner alignment and healing.

About Dr. Lisa Fox:

Dr. Lisa Dawn Fox is the founder of Shadow and Soul, a sacred space for deep healing, truth-telling, and personal reclamation. With a doctorate in Transformative Studies and decades of experience guiding individuals through trauma recovery, relational healing, and spiritual awakening, Dr. Fox supports those navigating the aftermath of coercive control, betrayal, and emotional fragmentation.

Her work blends psychology, intuitive guidance, and nervous system awareness to help clients reconnect with their authentic voice, discern truth from illusion, and find safety within themselves after emotionally destabilizing experiences.

Dr. Fox specializes in helping people recognize and recover from relational patterns rooted in shame, suppression, and survival. Through 1:1 coaching, curated workshops, and her signature Shadow Work process, she creates space for individuals to excavate long-buried truths, integrate disowned parts of self, and step into conscious wholeness.

Grounded, trauma-informed, and soul-centered, Lisa's presence is both fierce and compassionate — a guide for those ready to move from fear to clarity, and from fragmentation to freedom.

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode, Ali Kessler interviews David Mandel, founder of the Safe and Together Institute, discussing his extensive experience in child welfare and domestic violence reform. David shares insights on the Safe and Together model, which aims to keep children safe by holding perpetrators accountable and partnering with protective parents. The conversation delves into the challenges faced in child safety, the importance of understanding fatherhood, and the myths surrounding parental alienation. David emphasizes the need for systemic change in how child protection agencies approach domestic violence cases, advocating for a more equitable treatment of mothers and fathers.

About David Mandel:

With over 35 years in domestic violence and child welfare, David created the Safe & Together Model, a transformative approach to how systems respond to domestic abuse involving children. He identified how a perpetrator pattern–based approach enhances collaboration with survivors, parental intervention, and child outcomes. David founded the Safe & Together Institute, working globally with governments and NGOs, offering training, consulting, e-learning, and trainer certification. The Model is relevant across sectors like family court, law enforcement, mental health, and more. He has authored numerous articles, book chapters, and a recent book, "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers," available on Amazon.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Adrianne Phoenix’s Journey: Surviving Domestic Abuse and Breaking Cycles

 In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, we speak with Adrianne Phoenix, a survivor of domestic abuse and childhood trauma. Adrianne discusses her work with FACTS (Families Against Court Travesty), her experiences navigating family court, and her ongoing efforts to ensure her children do not fall into the same patterns of abuse. Emphasizing advocacy and humor as tools for healing, Adrianne shares her journey of finding her voice and breaking generational cycles. Tune in to hear her insights on the complexities of domestic violence, sibling abuse, and the importance of transparency and community support.

About Adrianne Phoenix:

Adrianne is a mom, survivor, and parent advocate who is passionate about using humor to navigate life’s complexities. As a child, Adrianne was abandoned by her father and was living with her borderline mother, which led her down a long path of abusive relationships. Now a middle-aged mom of three, Adrianne navigates the uncertainties of life while battling the cruel injustice in family court, using humor to get through life’s hardest challenges.

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Dr. Ramani on Narcissism: Healing, Boundaries, and Moving Forward | Grey Minds Think Alike

In this informative episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, co-hosts Ali and Randee Kogan welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist and leading expert on narcissism, toxic relationships, and emotional wellness. Dr. Ramani delves into her journey of becoming an expert on narcissism, the impact of narcissistic abuse, and the dynamics of healing from such relationships. Additionally, they discuss the complexities of co-parenting with narcissistic individuals, setting healthy boundaries, and the importance of realistic expectations and radical acceptance. Tune in to learn more about Dr. Ramani's latest bestseller, 'It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People,' and discover valuable insights and practical tools for healing and empowerment.

About Dr. Ramani Durvasula:

Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist in California, the founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training and Consulting, and professor emeritus. She is the New York Times Bestselling Author of It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People. She is also the author of multiple other books including “Don’t You Know Who I Am”: How to Stay Sane in the Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility and Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist. She has lectured and trained therapists around the world on best practices on working with clients experiencing narcissistic abuse and has developed a 36 hour virtual training and certification program in conjunction with PESI to train clinicians on how to use an Antagonism-Informed approach with clients experiencing narcissistic relationships. maintains a program offering support and education to thousands of survivors, and is a featured expert on the digital media platform MedCircle. She also maintains an engaged online network called the Dr. Ramani Network. She has also been widely involved in the governance of the American Psychological Association, including the APA Leadership Institute for Women in Psychology and the APA Minority Fellowship Program. Dr. Durvasula received her M.A., and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from UCLA, and completed her internship and post-doctoral training at the UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute.

You can explore more of Dr. Ramani’s work at www.drramani.com, follow her on social media, or dive into her insightful YouTube videos for practical guidance on navigating toxic relationships and reclaiming your power.

And as always, thank you for listening to Grey Minds Think Alike. Until next time—take care of your mind, honor your boundaries, and remember: you deserve peace.

About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali interviews Dr. Leigh Vinocur, a board-certified emergency physician and expert in stress management. Dr. Leigh shares insights from her extensive medical career and her new book, 'Never Let Them See You Sweat: How Science Can Help Harness Stress for Success.' They discuss Dr. Leigh's pioneering work in medical cannabis science, her media appearances, and her advice for women dealing with stressors such as motherhood, work-life balance, and divorce. Dr. Leigh offers practical tools and scientific insights for reducing stress, building resilience, and effectively managing stress in daily life. Key topics include evolutionary stress responses, the impact of chronic stress on health, and various stress-relief techniques, such as breathing exercises, mindfulness, and creative activities.

Dr. Leigh Vinocur (pronounced "lee vin-oh-kur") is a board-certified emergency physician, award-winning medical advisor in the media, corporate, and healthcare sectors, and national spokesperson for the American College of Emergency Physicians. Dr. Leigh began her medical career as a pioneering woman in urology, as one of the first female residents accepted in her program. Then, as an emergency physician, she has served in both academic and corporate medical leadership roles, including Chief Medical Director, overseeing more than 100 medical providers who care for over 150,000 patients annually in multiple clinics throughout the Mid-Atlantic region. Most recently, she earned one of the first Master’s degrees in the country for medical cannabis science and therapeutics from the University of Maryland School of Pharmacy, and is the founder of Ananda Medical Practice. Along the way, she has appeared in media worldwide as a fascinating and humorous expert on a variety of health and medical subjects, with more than 20 years of experience as an emergency physician.

A prominent member of the inaugural Dr. Oz Show Medical Advisory Board, Dr. Leigh has been asked for medical advice by virtually every national television network and cable news outlet. She started as a consultant and medical reporter for Baltimore’s NBC affiliate, WBAL-TV, and the NBC News Channel. Since then, Dr. Leigh has become one of the go-to medical analysts, including regular appearances on The TODAY Show, the Fox News Channel, CNN, the Nancy Grace Show, HLN Prime News, Inside Edition, as well as ABC News and the CBS Early Show. She co-hosted a mini-series on alternative medicine with Dr. Kevin Soden on Comcast’s Retirement Living Network. She has contributed monthly health columns for the Examiner, Savvy Auntie, Huffington Post, and has been profiled in More magazine’s “This is What 50 Looks Like” feature, and the Family Circle magazine's article "Health Advice from Doctor Moms." She also writes the popular "Ask Dr. Leigh" column in the Hearst publication, GreenState, where she answers readers' cannabis-related questions.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Ali Kessler speaks with Seth Nelson, a family law attorney, about the intricacies of family law, particularly focusing on Greyson's Law and its implications for child protection. They discuss the evolving nature of family law, the emotional and psychological aspects of divorce, and the importance of effective communication and control during the divorce process. Seth emphasizes the need for lawyers to stay updated on legal statutes and the significance of understanding clients' needs and behaviors in family law cases. In this conversation, Seth R. Nelson, Esq. discusses various aspects of family law, particularly focusing on divorce, alimony, and parenting plans. He explains the recent changes in Florida law regarding alimony duration and the presumption of 50-50 timesharing in custody cases. The discussion also covers the challenges of navigating divorce, the importance of effective communication in co-parenting, and tips for parents to minimize the impact of divorce on their children. Additionally, Seth provides insights on how to choose the right family law attorney and the future of family law in Florida.

About Seth Nelson:

Seth Nelson is the founding attorney and managing partner at NLG Divorce & Family Law. He is a Tampa-based family lawyer recognized for devising innovative solutions to complex problems. Seth Nelson is a registered mediator with the Florida Supreme Court Family Mediator Association and is currently a Member of the Executive Council for the Stann Givens Family Law Inns of Court. He also served as the Chair of the Family Law Section of the Hillsborough County Bar Association and continues to serve on its Executive Council.

Mr. Nelson specializes in Florida divorce law, family law, and family law mediation. He earned his Juris Doctorate from the University of Florida’s College of Law. Seth has been the sole shareholder of NLG Divorce & Family Law since 2008.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in the successful passage of Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali interviews Donna King, the President and Director of the Victims Safe Harbor Foundation. Donna discusses her journey into legal advocacy, sparked by her own 21-year litigation experience due to coercive control in her first marriage. She explains the work of Victims Safe Harbor, a nonprofit providing legal services and education for victims of domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and child abuse. Donna also delves into the findings of her book 'Voices of Intimate Partner Homicide,' emphasizing the link between coercive control tactics and lethality. The episode highlights the importance of legal and judicial education and advocacy for incorporating coercive control into domestic violence definitions.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:55 Donna King's Background and Journey

02:56 Understanding Coercive Control

05:16 Legal Battles and Advocacy

07:49 Victim Safe Harbor Foundation

19:39 Research and Findings on Coercive Control

43:20 Final Thoughts and Resources

About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Dr. Catherine Barrett, a licensed clinical forensic psychologist, shares her journey and expertise in the field of forensic psychology, particularly focusing on domestic violence and risk assessment. She discusses the importance of understanding the complexities of domestic violence, the role of forensic psychologists in legal cases, and the challenges faced in family court. Dr. Barrett emphasizes the need for proper training in domestic violence for legal professionals and the significance of building a supportive legal team to ensure justice for victims. The conversation also highlights the importance of recognizing risk factors and the historical context of abusive behavior in assessing future risks. In this conversation, Catherine Barrett and Ali Kessler delve into the complexities of parenting, the influence of cults, and the failures of the judicial system in protecting children. They discuss the psychological implications of being involved with narcissistic individuals and the importance of recognizing red flags in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for systemic change in family courts to prioritize child welfare over parental rights and the challenges faced by mothers in custody battles. They also touch on the healing process from toxic relationships and the intersection of mental health and true crime.

About Catherine Barrett:

Dr. Catherine Barrett is a licensed Clinical Forensic Psychologist, based out of Los Angeles, California. She first gained clinical experience after graduating from the University of Southern California in 2009, with a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Through her training and experience, she has worked with marginalized communities, committed to social justice in mental health, and has developed a practice that is not only cross-culturally competent but also affirmative.

Clinical training and populations include addiction recovery, LGBTQ+, domestic and intimate partner violence, chronic mental illness, and narcissistic personality disorder. Dr. Barrett specializes in narcissistic abuse recovery.

Following a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, Dr. Barrett continued her commitment to social justice and psychology in the law by obtaining a Doctorate of Psychology in Clinical Forensic Psychology. She graduated from Alliant International University’s California School of Forensic Studies in 2014. A significant amount of her training was in risk assessment, evaluation, and treatment of sex offenders, sexually violent predators, mentally disordered offenders, and individuals found not guilty because of insanity. Dr. Barrett completed her Pre-Doctoral internship at the San Francisco Forensic Institute, where she evaluated, treated, and ran psychological assessments on sex offenders and sexually violent predators. Dr. Barrett was first certified with the Sex Offender Management Board at this time.

Dr. Barrett has performed various clinical and forensic assessments, including psycho-educational evaluations, risk assessment, and psychological evaluations for court. Dr. Barrett has been clinically trained and certified to administer the ABEL Assessment of sexual interest and the STABLE-2007, which measures potential risk for future violence. She has also assisted Dr. Charles Flinton in administering the Penile Plethysmograph (PPG) to forensic hospital patients at Patton State Hospital in San Bernardino, California. Dr. Barrett has spent a significant amount of time providing group and individual therapy, as well as risk assessment to the sex offending population. Additionally, she has worked for Conditional Release Programs, such as Gateways Forensic Hospital and MHM services. Dr. Barrett provided treatment, psychological evaluation, and risk assessment to those being offered conditional release due to either a mentally disordered offense or found not guilty by reason of insanity.

Dr. Barrett has experience testifying in court cases related to revocation of outpatient status to patients on conditional release, as well as expert and fact witnessing for both civil and criminal court. Dr. Barrett has served as an expert witness in the family court system, peer reviewing custodial evaluations, and testifying on the validity of such evaluations. Dr. Barrett serves as a psychotherapist to teens, young adults, and adults, primarily in the areas of emotional and sexual abuse victimization, LGBTQ+, and addiction. Dr. Barrett serves as a part-time faculty member for the University of Southern California, where she teaches law and ethics, child/elder abuse and domestic violence, and clinical assessment. She also serves as a field work supervisor.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali Kessler speaks with Sheri Kurdakul, the founder and CEO of Victim's Voice. Sheri shares the story behind the creation of Victim's Voice, a groundbreaking web-based app designed to help domestic violence victims collect and store legally admissible evidence. This tool aids victims in documenting their experiences safely and securely, ensuring that their abusers can be held accountable. Sheri also discusses the development process, the legal considerations, and the impact the app has had on users and legal professionals. This episode is a must-watch for anyone interested in technology, victim advocacy, and legal reforms.

About Sheri Kurdakul

Sheri Kurdakul is the Founder of EBinRA, Inc., dba VictimsVoice and serves as its Chief Executive Officer. Sheri focuses on making a measurable difference in the lives of victims and survivors so their abusers can be held accountable and they can begin to reclaim and rebuild their lives in safety and on their own terms. Formerly, she was the Managing Partner of Holistic Business Solutions, a small business and nonprofit consulting firm. As a survivor of child abuse and domestic violence, she has devoted herself to ensuring victims of discrimination, harassment, and abuse are heard, believed, and able to seek legal justice. She resides in Central New Jersey with her husband and daughter, as well as a myriad of adopted furry family members.

VictimsVoice was designed for legal admissibility, allowing users to document information that holds up in court, investigators to collect relevant evidence, and prosecutors to build a stronger case. It’s built to meet HIPAA, VAWA, VOCA, and FVPSA regulations, ensuring the strictest privacy and security standards are upheld.

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Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.” Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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About Lily Schwark: Lily Schwark is a dedicated family court advocate and domestic violence survivor who turned her personal experience into a mission for change. While navigating the family court system and securing full custody of her daughter, she became passionate about supporting other parents facing similar battles. As the President of Families Against Court Travesties and the Vice President of Florida Protective Parents, she actively works to protect children, ensure court transparency, and advocate for family court reform. With years of experience in court watching, she brings a unique and informed perspective on the challenges families face in custody disputes.  

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode, Ali Kessler speaks with Leah Vejzovic, the regional manager of the Safe and Together Institute, about her journey in domestic violence advocacy and the importance of child welfare. They discuss the Safe and Together model, which focuses on keeping children safe and together with non-offending parents while holding perpetrators accountable. Leah shares insights on the challenges faced by protective parents, the need for systemic change, and the importance of training for professionals in the field. The conversation highlights the complexities of domestic violence, the impact on children, and the necessity for awareness and education in addressing these issues.

About Leah Vejzovic, LMSW

Leah has been working as a social worker in the fields of child welfare and domestic violence victim advocacy since 2007. She has experience as a child welfare services provider, a domestic and sexual assault victim advocate, a therapist specializing in work with adult and child survivors and perpetrators, a men’s behavior changes program facilitator, and the coordinator of domestic violence training and response for the Department of Human Services in Iowa. Leah first became connected to the Safe & Together Institute during her tenure as state coordinator when she helped facilitate the implementation of the Safe & Together Model across the state. She came on board in 2020 as a Resource Development Specialist, creating a DV-informed curriculum, eLearning, and practice tools. She also worked to coordinate programming for our Events. Leah is passionate about equipping professionals with the tools they need to do effective work with families and engage in larger agency and systems change.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali speaks with experienced family law attorney Robin Scher, who discusses her extensive career and passionate involvement with domestic violence cases in Florida. Robin shares her journey from starting her practice to representing victims and perpetrators in domestic violence cases. She highlights the importance of addressing the full spectrum of abusive behavior, including providing resources for rehabilitation. Robin also discusses the systemic challenges in family law, such as the need for better training for judges and legal professionals on trauma-informed care. Additionally, she mentions her work with the Palm Beach County Domestic Violence Coordinated Community Response Team and the National Divorce Coalition to improve support for domestic abuse survivors. The conversation underscores the complexities of legal responses to domestic violence and the importance of comprehensive approaches to both victim support and perpetrator accountability.

About Robin Scher:

With 30+ years of experience in Marital and Family Law, Robin assists in all aspects of marital and family law, including paternity, pre-and post-judgment matters, parenting, child support, alimony, and asset and liability distribution. Most cases focus on those involved in domestic, dating, sexual violence, and stalking matters, as well as civil injunctions and related criminal matters. This holistic representation approach helps ensure that a client's interests are protected and that they receive consistent, cohesive representation in a comprehensive manner.

Robin’s interest in this area of legal practice began early, and her personal experiences led her to study. Her passion for assisting others has evolved into “Transforming the future of families in conflict.” Robin serves clients from Broward to St. Lucie Counties and parts of SW Florida.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Advocating for Family Court Reform: A Deep Dive with Danielle Pollack, Originator of Kayden's Law

In this episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, host Ali talks with Danielle Pollack, the policy manager at the National Family Violence Law Center at GW Law and founder of the National Safe Parents Organization. Danielle shares her journey in creating systemic reforms to improve family court outcomes for children and their safe parents. She discusses the passage and impact of Kayden's Law, aimed at ensuring child safety in custody cases, and the ongoing efforts to implement its provisions across various states. The conversation delves into key elements like evidence-based judicial training, mandating consideration of family violence evidence, regulation of expert testimony on abuse, and the need for safe and effective reunification programs. Danielle also provides insights on how advocates can engage lawmakers to drive change, the challenges of legislative processes, and the importance of informed public awareness.

About Danielle Pollack:

Danielle Pollack is the Policy Manager at the National Family Violence Law Center at GW Law in Washington, D.C., and the originator of Kayden’s Law. She collaborates closely with state and federal lawmakers, partner organizations, advocates, and families to create comprehensive child-centric policy reform and provide public education on family courts.

She has advised on, co-drafted, and provided testimony on custody and coercive control laws enacted in many states and federally, including the newly passed section of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) Title XV, called the Keeping Children Safe From Family Violence Act (aka “Kayden’s Law”), signed into law by President Biden in March of 2022. The new federal law incentivizes states to train family court judges and court personnel on coercive control and other types of family violence. It restricts them from making child-endangering custody orders. 

Her recent state work includes Connecticut’s Coercive Control Law, Jennifers’ Law, Colorado’s Julie’s Law, Florida’s Greyson’s Law, Pennsylvania’s Kayden’s Law, and Washington State’s new coercive control law. Her short documentary film, Voices for Reform, about family court system failures when children are at risk of violence, has been used to raise awareness at the United Nations Committee on the Elimination of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), in courts, and at universities internationally. She is co-founder of the National Safe Parents Organization (NSPO) and co-director of The Court Said USA.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this conversation, Anne Wintemute, co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says, discusses the innovative AI companion designed to support individuals experiencing domestic violence and abuse. The discussion covers the technology behind Amy, its accessibility, the importance of privacy, and the future developments planned for the platform. Anne shares her journey in this work, emphasizing the need for trauma-informed support and the role of AI in providing a safe space for users. In this conversation, Anne Wintemute discusses the role of AI in supporting victims of domestic violence through the platform Amy. The discussion covers the importance of providing resources to organizations and nonprofits, the impact of domestic violence on workplaces, and the positive feedback received from users. The conversation also highlights the growing awareness of domestic violence issues, the cultural shifts in understanding these topics, and the global reach of the platform. The speakers emphasize the importance of leveraging technology for good and the opportunities for partnerships with organizations to enhance support for survivors.

About Anne Wintemute: Anne Wintemute is Co-Founder and CEO of AimeeSays, a companion app that uses the power of AI to support survivors of domestic violence in their fight for safety and justice. Anne is a dedicated and visionary leader and is also the founder of A Garden Grows, a consultancy offering vital support services to women experiencing post-separation abuse. Anne is passionate about transforming the discourse around intimate partner violence and advocating for a narrative that holds perpetrators accountable. While working as the Head of School at an elementary school, she began supporting women navigating especially difficult divorces. She is passionate about helping women re-envision and reclaim control of their lives and protecting children from the adverse impacts of parental conflict. When she’s not with her clients or three children, you can find her tending her urban farm. In both plants and humans, it is the skillful attendance to the needs of a living thing that allows it to flourish!

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this enlightening conversation, Nova Gibson, a therapist and expert on narcissistic abuse, shares her insights on the complexities of narcissistic relationships. She discusses the definition of narcissism, the dynamics of coercive control, and the manipulative tactics used by narcissists, such as love bombing and word salad. Nova emphasizes the importance of self-love and setting boundaries, especially when co-parenting with a narcissist. She also highlights the challenges faced in family court and offers practical advice for victims of narcissistic abuse. Her book, 'Fake Love,' serves as a guide for understanding and healing from these toxic relationships.

About Nova Gibson

Nova Gibson is the director, founder, and primary counselor of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service and the go-to expert on narcissistic abuse recovery in Australia. She is passionate about helping victims identify narcissistic abuse and coercive control and find a way to break the toxic cycle and heal. With more than ten years of experience, Nova has helped thousands of clients in Australia and around the world with one-on-one professional support and her popular Q&A and abuse recovery sessions on social media, providing regular information and support. Nova has also worked in the child safety sector and has supported individuals, couples, and families experiencing crisis and trauma. She lives in Brisbane, Australia.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Senator Lori Berman discusses her political journey, the intricacies of being a senator in Florida, and the challenges of passing legislation. She highlights her work on Greyson's Law, which aims to protect children from domestic violence and reflects on the broader issues of gun control and safety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of civic engagement, the role of constituents in shaping legislation, and the need for ongoing education and awareness around domestic violence and gun safety. In this conversation, Senator Berman discusses her legislative efforts, including the impact of Greyson’s Law, the flaws in the justice system, and her pivotal moments in politics. She emphasizes the importance of constituent services and community support while also sharing her personal interests and hobbies outside of her political career. This is a don’t-miss episode! Listen now! 

Takeaways

• Senator Berman's political journey began in high school.
• The primary responsibility of a senator is to pass a balanced budget.
• Legislation often requires compromise and collaboration.
• Greyson's Law was a response to a tragic case of domestic violence.
• Gun safety legislation is a significant focus for Senator Berman.
• Constituent feedback is crucial in shaping effective laws.
• Education on domestic violence is essential for legal professionals.
• The impact of Greyson's Law is still being evaluated.
• Public awareness is needed for the effective implementation of laws.
• Legislative battles require a strategic selection of issues. Greyson's Law aims to improve child safety in Florida.
• The justice system has inherent flaws that need addressing.
• Constituent services are a vital part of a legislator's role.
• The Purple Alert helps locate missing individuals with disabilities.
• Legislation can be influenced by personal experiences and advocacy.
• Community support is crucial for effective legislation.

About Senator Lori Berman

Born in New York, New York, Senator Lori Berman earned a B.A. from Tufts University in 1980, a J.D. from George Washington University in 1983, and an LL.M. in estate planning from the University of Miami in 2002. She returned to Florida and, years later, attended the University of Miami School of Law, where she received a Master of Laws with a specialty in estate planning in 2002. While working as an attorney in South Florida, Berman became active in politics, working for the congressional campaigns of former Congressman Robert Wexler and in his congressional office.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this conversation, Ali speaks with Randee Kogan, a licensed psychotherapist and trauma specialist, about the importance of mental health, the process of finding the right therapist, and recognizing healthy versus unhealthy relationships. Randee shares her extensive experience in trauma therapy and discusses the signs of red flags in relationships, the impact of upbringing on relationship choices, and how to navigate feelings of jealousy and control. The conversation also touches on the challenges of dating after divorce and the importance of open communication in relationships. In this conversation, Randee Kogan discusses the importance of healing after divorce, recognizing red flags in relationships, and understanding financial control and abuse. She emphasizes the significance of identifying support systems and the journey through therapy, particularly in the context of trauma. The discussion also highlights the impact of trauma on individuals and the importance of finding joy in the healing process.

Takeaways

• Randi has 36 years of experience in trauma therapy.
• Building rapport with a therapist is essential for healing.
• It's okay to try multiple therapists before finding the right fit.
• Healthy relationships are characterized by communication, respect, and trust.
• Recognizing red flags is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.
• Jealousy can be a sign of insecurity in a relationship.
• Control in a relationship can be disguised as care.
• Open communication is vital for addressing relationship concerns.
• Upbringing can significantly influence relationship dynamics.
• Dating after divorce requires self-reflection and open communication. It's important to identify if you're healed from a divorce.
• Unhealed feelings from past relationships can affect new ones.
• Financial control is a significant red flag in relationships.
• Losing your identity in a relationship is a warning sign.
• Communication is key in healthy relationships.
• Seek individual therapy before couples counseling in abusive situations.
• Trauma can be addressed at any point in life.
• Healing is a personal journey and can take time.
• Finding joy in small achievements is crucial during recovery.

About Randee Kogan:

Randee Kogan, L.M.H.C., C.S.A., C.D.V., C.F.T.

Randee Kogan has committed her professional career to helping victims of trauma as well as educating and advising the public about sexual violence, domestic violence, and trauma. She has treated victims of Bill Cosby, a serial rapist in West Palm Beach, and numerous Jeffery Epstein victims with whom she continues to work with to this day.

Randee can be seen as an expert in the Netflix documentary Ghislaine Maxwell: Filthy Rich. She has also been featured on 60 Minutes Australia, several Podcasts, The Dr. Oz Show, and NBC news. She was also a keynote speaker for Beit Ruth’s Conference Girls & Women at Risk of Violence: The Global Challenge and at the Turn on the Light Conference. She will be featured as an expert in two additional documentaries that are currently in production. Randee has presented at various conferences and other speaking engagements on the topics of sexual and domestic violence, compassion fatigue for professionals, sextortion, grooming, etc., over the span of her career.

Randee has worked as a psychotherapist in a variety of professional settings, including hospital psychiatric units, substance abuse, mental health centers, courthouses, and private practice for the past 36 years. She is certified in sexual violence, domestic violence, and forensic traumatology. She is an expert in the field of trauma and PTSD, having testified in several cases involving sexual violence cases and domestic violence cases. She currently provides individual and group therapy, professional supervision, collaboration, and consultation.

Randee collaborates with several professionals and agencies and has provided consultations with the FBI on sex trafficking and sexual exploitation cases. Throughout her career, she has collaborated with attorneys in several high-profile sexual violence cases.

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this powerful conversation, Hera McLeod shares her harrowing journey as a survivor of domestic violence and a civil rights activist. She discusses the tragic loss of her son, Prince, at the hands of his father and the systemic failures that allowed such a tragedy to occur. Hera emphasizes the importance of child safety, the need for reform in the family court system, and her ongoing advocacy efforts to create change. She offers insights into the challenges faced by survivors and the importance of seeking help and support. Hera's story is one of resilience, hope, and a commitment to making a difference for future generations.

Takeaways:

• Hera McLeod is a civil rights activist and author.
• She lost her son, Prince, to domestic violence.
• The family court system often fails to protect children.
• Education and awareness are crucial in preventing domestic violence.
• Survivors should seek therapy to cope with trauma.
• Children need agency and safety independent of their parents.
• Legislative changes are necessary for child safety.
• Survivors can find strength in advocacy and community support.
• Grief has no right or wrong way; it's a personal journey.
• Hera believes her son chose her to be his mom.
• Hera's story highlights the dangers of online dating.
• The family court system often fails to protect children.
• Advocacy is crucial for legislative change in child safety laws.
• Therapy is essential for healing from trauma.

About Hera McLeod:

Hera McLeod is a Washington, DC-based writer, speaker, civil rights activist, and mom. She is known for speaking out against the silence, particularly on civil rights for women and children, domestic violence, and Family Court reform. She was a 2017 Jack Straw Writing Fellow and has published Op-ed pieces in The Washington Post, The Seattle Times, and The New York Times. Hera has made several television appearances, including The Today Show, The Tony Danza Show, Crime Watch Daily, and DC news affiliates for CBS, ABC, and Fox. Her story was also highlighted in an Discovery + Citizen PI series episode. In addition to television appearances, Hera has also testified before the United States Congress on civil rights and the protection of children. She testified before the Maryland Family Court Reform working group and Maryland Legislators. Her participation helped lead to the passage of legislation in Maryland for Judicial education on the topic of Child Abuse and Domestic Violence. Hera is a former a co-host on The Mocha Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) Podcast and now co-hosts the Seeking Different podcast with her young daughter. Read more about Hera's story on her blog archive.

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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host Ali Kessler speaks with Margo Fowkes about her journey through grief after losing her son to brain cancer. They discuss the complexities of grief, the importance of community support, and how to navigate work while grieving. Margo shares insights from her book, Leaning Through Loss, and the creation of Salt Water, an online community for those experiencing loss. The conversation highlights the nuances of grief, the judgments faced by those grieving, and the significance of honoring memories and milestones, particularly during the holiday season. They discuss the importance of recognizing signs from lost loved ones, the challenges of navigating grief during joyful times, and the significance of incorporating memories into celebrations. The conversation also touches on the impact of social media on grief, the value of community support, and the need for advocacy in the face of loss. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of self-compassion and the unique ways individuals cope with their grief.

takeaways

·     Grief is a personal journey that varies for everyone.

·     Creating a supportive community is essential for healing.

·     Navigating work while grieving can be challenging.

·     Loss can come in many forms, and all are valid.

·     People often don't know how to support those who are grieving.

·     The anniversary of a loss can bring unexpected emotions.

·     Nature can be a source of comfort and reflection.

About Margo M. Fowkes

Margo Fowkes is the founder and president of OnTarget Consulting Inc., a firm specializing in helping organizations and individuals act strategically, improve performance, and achieve their business goals. Margo works with clients to solve problems of productivity, morale, and innovation. Author of Leading Through Loss: How To Navigate Grief At Work, Margo also coaches leaders on how to create a more compassionate culture by acknowledging and speaking openly about grief and loss in the workplace.

Before founding her consulting firm in 1994, Margo held positions in the private, public, and nonprofit sectors. A former budget analyst for the United States Budget Committee, she has worked for all levels of government—federal, state, and local. She has also worked with a range of businesses, from Fortune 500 companies to sole proprietorships.

Following the death of her son Jimmy in 2014 after an eight-year battle with brain cancer, Margo launched Salt Water, an online community that provides a safe harbor for those who have lost someone dear to them – a child, parent, spouse, sibling, close friend, or pet. Inspired by Jimmy’s determination to live a rich, full life despite his circumstances, the blog posts and resources focus on healing and building a new life in the aftermath of a devastating loss. 

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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The Hidden Epidemic of Coercive Control in Family Courts:

Get an inside look into the new must-read book, “FRAMED.” Host Ali Kessler welcomes Dr. Christine Cocchiola, an expert on coercive control, and Amy Polacko, founder and CEO of Freedom Warrior Divorce Coaching, to discuss their new book 'Framed'. The guests share their experiences and insights on the dangers of coercive control in abusive relationships and the family court system. They highlight the need for better legislation and judicial training to protect children and supportive parents from abusive dynamics. The conversation also touches on various forms of abuse, including financial and emotional abuse, and emphasizes the importance of awareness and systemic change.

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About Dr. Christine Cocchiola:

Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She has been a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last twenty years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency.

She supports protective parents in strategizing how best to navigate the family court system, including divorce proceedings and custody arrangements. Our family court system is often set up to harm further and betray adult victims-survivors and their children, unacknowledged child abuse victims.

Most importantly, Dr. Cocchiola is a protective parent. Through her own clinical expertise, research, and personal experiences, she understands the impact that coercive control has on children. She coaches victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate Allies, including protective parents, clinicians, coaches, and court professionals, on the experiences of children victims of the coercive controller.

Dr. Cocchiola is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Board Member. She has actively supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts.

Contact: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

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About Amy Polacko:

Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior committed to helping women live on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to support, inspire, and guide single women. Amy is an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues, including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. She also works as a public relations consultant for small to medium-sized companies, helping to create PR strategies, maximize branding, leverage media relations, and improve social media.

Her recent journalistic work has appeared in The Washington Post, HuffPost, Ms. Magazine, Newsweek, NBC News THINK, and Observer. After graduating from Columbia University's Graduate School of Journalism, Amy was a newspaper reporter for Newsday and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash. She then transitioned to television journalism as a writer and producer in New York City. Amy was an award-winning on-air reporter in Fargo, ND, where she traveled to Kosovo for a series on the North Dakota National Guard, and in Philadelphia, where she covered the national D.C. Sniper story. She also headed up an investigative reporting unit in Albany, NY, where she uncovered consumer scams, crime, and government corruption as part of her I-Team Investigations -- one of which exposed a loophole in the state's sex offender registry.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Ali Kessler speaks with Michael Volpe, a freelance journalist, and discusses his journey into investigative journalism, focusing on political, police, corporate, and nonprofit corruption. He shares insights into the systemic issues within family courts, the abuse of power by Child Protective Services (CPS), and the impact of whistleblowers. Volpe highlights significant cases, including the St. Louis family court corruption and the consequences of reunification therapy, emphasizing the need for reform in the system. In this conversation, Michael Volpe discusses the complexities and challenges of the child custody system, highlighting the rise of reunification camps, the excessive power of judges, and the role of lawyers in perpetuating conflict. He proposes several reforms aimed at simplifying the system and reducing the influence of money and third-party appointees. The discussion also touches on specific cases, including the Kassenoff case, and the broader implications of family court decisions on children and parents alike. Volpe emphasizes the growing awareness of these issues and the momentum for reform in the legal system.

Takeaways

• Michael Volpe has been a journalist since 2010, focusing on corruption.
• He investigates family court abuses and CPS misconduct.
• Volpe's work includes wrongful convictions and high-profile cases.
• He started journalism after a career in mortgage brokering.
• Whistleblowers play a crucial role in exposing corruption.
• CPS often operates without proper judicial oversight.
• The family court system can perpetuate abuse for financial gain.
• Reunification therapy can be harmful and traumatic for children.
• Volpe's investigations have led to significant media coverage.
• There is a growing movement for reform in family court practices. Reunification camps have gained attention, with some states banning them.
• Child custody cases are complex and require individualized attention.
• Judges hold excessive power in custody decisions.
• The financial incentives in custody cases complicate outcomes.
• Eliminating court appointees could simplify the custody process.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Grey Minds Think Alike

00:03 Meet Michael Volpe: Investigative Journalist

00:32 Michael's Journey into Journalism

01:03 Exposing Corruption in Family Courts

02:36 The Emory University Scandal

04:03 Whistleblowers and CPS Abuses

07:37 The Chris Macney Tragedy

10:20 Uncovering the AFCC Racket

11:58 St. Louis Family Court Corruption

16:56 Reunification Therapy Controversies

22:38 David Segee's Fight for Justice

25:55 The Guardian Item Racket

26:28 Legal Reforms and Exposure

26:44 Reunification Therapy and Custody Battles

28:14 Systemic Issues in Family Courts

28:50 Proposed Solutions to Fix the System

31:32 Scummy Divorce Lawyers

39:24 The Kassenoff Case

44:21 Father's Rights Movements and Gender Stereotypes

46:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

About Michael Volpe

After spending more than a decade in finance, Michael Volpe changed course entirely in his professional career and became a freelance journalist. Since 2009, he's been published locally in Chicago in newspapers and magazines like New City, Times of Northwest Indiana, Inside Booster, Welles Park Bulldog, Chicago Reader, and Chicago Heights Patch. He's also expanded into national stories. On the national level, his work has been published in such places as the Daily Caller, WND, CounterPunch, Crime Magazine, the Southern Christian Leadership Conference Newsletter, Front Page Magazine, and Big Government.

In 2009, his expose of Dr. Anna Chacko led in part to her termination from the Pittsburgh VA. His expose of Dr. Chacko also received coverage in the Pittsburgh Tribune as well as the radiology website Aunt Minnie. In October 2012, he published his first book entitled "Prosecutors Gone Wild: The Inside Story of the Trial of Chuck Panici, John Gliottoni, and Louise Marshall." 

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About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Takeaways

• Tina Swithin is an advocate for family court reform.
• Family court often fails to prioritize children's safety.
• Recognizing different forms of abuse is crucial.
• The family court system can feel like a business transaction.
• Awareness and community support are vital for change.
• Parental alienation is a controversial and harmful concept.
• Accountability in family court is desperately needed.
• The father's rights movement complicates family court issues.
• Media attention on family court is increasing.
• Reform requires a multi-faceted approach. When exposed, family court issues will be seen as a major scandal.
• Parental rights should prioritize children's rights.
• Leaving a toxic relationship is crucial for children's well-being.
• Documenting experiences is essential in family court cases.
• Therapists must understand trauma and narcissistic abuse.
• Empathy can be taught and modeled to children.
• Children need to know their truth to combat gaslighting.
• Celebrities face unique challenges in family court.
• Support from therapists can significantly impact recovery.
• Empowering children helps break the cycle of abuse.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Family Court Challenges

01:37 Tina's Journey: From Victim to Advocate

02:25 Personal Experiences and Challenges in Family Court

05:11 Understanding Abuse: Recognizing the Signs

09:24 The Role of Family Court: A Broken System

12:46 Awareness and Advocacy: Family Court Awareness Month

18:05 The Impact of Parental Alienation and Systemic Issues

20:03 The Impact of Financial Constraints on Family Court Outcomes

20:20 The Father's Rights Movement: A Controversial Perspective

23:47 The Impact of Celebrity Cases on Domestic Violence Awareness

28:18 Divorcing a Narcissist: Book Series and Personal Stories

30:18 Advice for Women in Abusive Marriages

34:27 Empathy Bootcamp: Raising Compassionate Children

39:08The Role of Therapists in Healing and Recovery

41:16 Final Thoughts and Reflections 

About Tina Swithin: Tina Swithin is an author, blogger, speaker, and advocate for Family Court Reform. She is the founder of One Mom’s Battle, a community and resource for all moms fighting to protect their children and themselves in family court. In 2020, Tina Swithin founded “Family Court Awareness Month.” Tina is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series) and founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina Swithin has been awarded honors such as the “Top 20 Professionals Under 40” and the “Top 40 Professionals Under 40” in several regional California newspapers. Tina resides in San Luis Obispo, California, with her husband and her two daughters.

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About One Mom’s Battle:

In 2009, One Mom’s Battle (OMB) began with one mother, Tina Swithin, navigating a high-conflict divorce in the California Family Court System in pro se (self-represented). Against all odds, Tina successfully protected her daughters - she refused to accept that 50-50 custody was her destiny or in the best interest of her children. She spent countless hours sitting in courtrooms learning the system and studying the professionals. She created an intricate documentation system and learned to see things through a lens of strategy versus emotion. Tina has now dedicated her life to teaching others everything she learned and is advocating for change through Kayden's Law.

One Mom’s Battle is the intersection of narcissistic abuse and child custody issues. The mission at One Mom’s Battle is to raise awareness and educate family court professionals on post-separation abuse as it relates to co-parenting and the family court system (divorce, paternity, and child custody battles). Education on high-conflict individuals and post-separation abuse will allow family court professionals (Judges, Commissioners, Magistrates, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists, and attorneys) to recognize the abusive dynamics that play out in the family court system so they can make decisions that are in the best interest of children.

One Mom’s Battle (OMB) has grown from one mom to a community of over 250,000 members worldwide. Whether you are in need of a documentation system for your custody battle or a consultation with a divorce coach (trained by me), you will find everything you need right here.

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this compelling episode of Grey Minds Think Alike, we feature an in-depth conversation with Linda Parker, president and CEO of Women in Distress (WID) in Broward County, Florida. Linda shares her journey as a domestic violence survivor and advocate. The discussion spans the complex reasons behind why victims, especially women, stay in abusive relationships, highlighting tactics like coercive control and the impact of socioeconomic factors. Practical advice for recognizing red flags, preparing to leave abusive relationships, and protecting children is offered. The challenges posed by the COVID-19 pandemic and false abuse claim narratives are addressed. The importance of therapy, support systems, and not giving up on loved ones is emphasized. Listeners will also learn about October Domestic Violence Awareness Month activities, the impact of Greyson's law, and the significance of judicial training and voter awareness. The episode closes by celebrating WID's 50-year legacy of empowering survivors, their thrift store, emergency shelter, crisis hotline, and upcoming events like a gala fundraiser. This is a don’t-miss episode! Listen now! 

In this episode:

• Linda Parker has been with Women in Distress for four years.
• Her personal experience as a victim shapes her advocacy work.
• COVID-19 has changed the landscape of domestic violence cases.
• High lethality cases have increased significantly since the pandemic.
• Collaboration with law enforcement is crucial for effective intervention.
• Abusers often manipulate victims through psychological tactics.
• Many survivors stay in abusive relationships due to fear and financial dependency.
• Education about domestic violence is essential for prevention.
• Women often do not know about available resources and support.
• Creating a safety plan is vital for those considering leaving an abusive situation. The timing of leaving an abusive relationship is crucial.
• Children may inadvertently reveal the location of a fleeing parent.
• Support systems are vital for survivors of domestic violence.
• Therapy can help survivors cope with PTSD from domestic violence.
• Domestic Violence Awareness Month is an opportunity for advocacy.
• Legal frameworks like Greyson’s Law are evolving but face challenges.
• Community engagement and voting can influence change in domestic violence laws.
• Crisis hotlines provide essential support for those in need.
• Shelters offer comprehensive services to help survivors rebuild their lives.
• Fundraising events are crucial for sustaining support services for survivors.

About Linda Parker, Ph.D:

Linda Parker is the President and CEO of Women in Distress, with 16 years of professional experience both in human service and domestic violence services and as an educator and administrator at the university level.

Since 2017, she has been the Executive Director of Victim Services at the Peace River Center, which serves three counties surrounding Lakeland, one of 41 state-certified domestic violence centers in the state of Florida. Peace River includes two domestic violence shelters and a rape recovery center.

Prior to relocating to Florida from Iowa in 2016, Parker held director and vice president positions at William Penn University in West Des Moines, Iowa, where she led efforts to expand online learning. She also continues as an adjunct professor at William Penn and at Southern New Hampshire University in Manchester, New Hampshire. Earlier in her career, she was a domestic violence advocate at Children and Families of Iowa and worked as a counselor for women transitioning from prison. Parker earned her BA degree from Grandview University in Des Moines and has master's and doctorate degrees in psychology from Walden University in Minneapolis.

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Women In Distress is the only nationally accredited, state-certified, full-service domestic violence center serving Broward County, Florida. Our mission is to stop domestic violence abuse for everyone through intervention, education, and advocacy.

24-Hr Crisis Hotline: 954.761.1133 | 711 TDD/TYY

About Ali Kessler: Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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In this episode of 'Grey Minds Think Alike,' host Ali Kessler interviews attorney Heather Quick, founder and CEO of the Florida Law Firm Women's Law Group. They discuss the unique challenges faced by women during divorce and family law proceedings, the importance of laws like Greyson's Law, and the necessity of specialized training for judges handling cases of domestic abuse and coercive control. Heather emphasizes the significance of legal representation that truly understands and advocates for women, recounting various cases and common patterns of power imbalance in relationships. Additionally, the conversation explores the complexities of custody battles, the potential difficulties in divorce proceedings, and resources available for women seeking help.

Chapters:

1.  Introduction and Guest Welcome
2. Impact of Greyson's Law
3. Challenges Women Face in Divorce
4. Addressing Domestic Violence and Coercive Control
5. Legal Strategies and Support Systems
6. Difficulties in Co-Parenting
7. Trends and Challenges in Divorce Without Children
8. Resources and Final Thoughts

About Heather Quick:

Heather B Quick is the founder and CEO of Florida Women’s Law Group. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from the University of North Florida (1998) and a Juris Doctorate from Stetson University College of Law (2000). Before starting Florida Women's Law Group, Heather was an Associate Professor at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University and an Adjunct Professor at Florida Coastal School of Law. With 24 years of legal experience, including 19 years specializing in family law, Heather is a current member of the Florida Bar Association, Jacksonville Bar Association, and Jacksonville Women Lawyers Association.

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About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court. 

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Takeaways:

• Coercive control is the foundation of all forms of abuse.
• Abusers often mirror their victims to gain trust.
• The legal system frequently fails to protect victims of coercive control.
• Victims should document abusive behaviors to recognize patterns.
• Coercive control can escalate into physical violence over time.
• Many judges and court professionals lack an understanding of coercive control.
• Parental alienation is often misused in court to discredit protective parents.
• The court system tends to favor fathers, even in abusive situations.
• Victims are often disbelieved when reporting abuse in family court.
• There is a pressing need for advocacy and education on coercive control.

Sound Bites

• "Coercive control is the underpinning of all abuse."
• "Abusers are very good at mirroring who they are with."
• "The court system contributes to the abuse."

Chapters

Chapter 1: Understanding Coercive Control

Chapter 2: The Spectrum of Abusers

Chapter 3: The Impact of Coercive Control on Families

Chapter 4: Recognizing Coercive Control

Chapter 5: Navigating the Court System

Chapter 6: The Role of the Legal System

Chapter 7: The Challenges of Parental Alienation

Chapter 8: The Court's Perception of Abuse

Chapter 9: The Epidemic of Abuse

Chapter 10: Creating Change and Awareness

About Dr. Christine Cocchiola:

Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She has been a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last twenty years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency.

She supports protective parents in strategizing how best to navigate the family court system, including divorce proceedings and custody arrangements. Our family court system is often set up to harm further and betray adult victims-survivors and their children, unacknowledged child abuse victims.

Most importantly, Dr. Cocchiola is a protective parent. Through her own clinical expertise, research, and personal experiences, she understands the impact that coercive control has on children. She coaches victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate Allies, including protective parents, clinicians, coaches, and court professionals, on the experiences of children victims of the coercive controller.

Dr. Cocchiola is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Board. She has actively supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs to support these efforts.

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Get her new book, “FRAMED” at: www.narcfreepress.com

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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Episode 1: Meet Your Host, Ali Kessler

For our very first podcast at Grey Minds Think Ali.Ke, we thought it would be helpful to learn more about your host, Ali Kessler. Not only is she the founder of Greyson’s Choice and a passionate parent advocate, but Ali is also a survivor of Domestic Violence. In 2021, Ali’s son Greyson was murdered by his father during a court-ordered timesharing in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. Hosted today by Erin Cooper, Greyson’s Choice board member and lifelong friend of Ali’s, listen to Erin and Ali have an insightful conversation about Ali before and after her worst nightmare came true. You will hear Ali share the story of what she was like before motherhood, how she met Greyson’s father, and some truly heartbreaking revelations that became her new norm. Greyson was the present that Ali couldn’t keep, but she perseveres and now finds comfort in helping others fighting similar battles. This is a don’t-miss episode! Listen now!

In this episode:

·     Chapter 1: Introduction and Ali’s Life Before Motherhood

·     Chapter 2: Ali Moves to NYC

·     Chapter 3: Ali’s Pregnancy & Decision to Have a Baby

·     Chapter 4: Welcome to the World, Greyson Kessler & Co-Parenting Challenges

·     Chapter 5: Escalating Negative Behaviors from Greyson’s Father

·     Chapter 6: Alarming and Erratic Behavior that Led to Greyson’s Death

·     Chapter 7: The Impact of Coercive Control

·     Chapter 8: Loss and Grief– The Aftermath

·     Chapter 9: Advocacy and Greyson’s Choice

·     Chapter 10: Upcoming Projects and Fundraising

About Ali Kessler

Ali Kessler is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocate, and founder of Greyson’s Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness about the risk of domestic abuse on children. Greyson’s Choice was founded by Ali Kessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant, and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, who was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft. Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came just hours after her petition for a domestic violence injunction was denied by a Broward County judge, citing that the “petitioner has failed to allege any overt acts by the respondent which would constitute domestic violence under Florida Statute.”

Ali’s advocacy efforts culminated in successfully passing Greyson’s Law during the 2023 legislative session. This bill now requires the court to consider threats against ex-partners or spouses when making child visitation and custody determinations in the court, expanding to include the following factors: evidence of domestic violence, whether a parent in the past or currently has reasonable cause to believe that they or a minor child is, or has been in imminent danger of becoming the victim of domestic/sexual violence by the other parent, even if no other legal action has been brought or is currently pending in court.

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