Heal With Kimile

What Happens When You Accept What Is

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 01:00:00 -0700

In this deeply personal and reflective episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton revisits the core story that shaped her life's work and led her from a place of profound pain to her purpose as a healer. After being interviewed about her "why," Kimile shares a raw account of the two-year period in her youth when she believed a devastating lie about herself—that she had killed a man in a farm accident. She recounts the isolating guilt, the series of traumatic events that followed, and the spiritual seeking that consumed her, all while carrying a secret she felt she couldn't share.

With moving honesty, Kimile describes the moment the truth finally set her free and how that liberation planted the seed for her mission: to be the compassionate guide she never had. She connects this foundational experience to her philosophy of healing—that our deepest growth often springs from our greatest pain, and that speaking the truth, both to ourselves and to a trusted listener, is the first step out of suffering.

As she looks ahead to a new chapter with a refreshed perspective and space for deeper work, Kimile invites listeners to examine their own stories, to question the lies they may be living, and to consider how their own pain might point the way to their purpose. This episode is a powerful reminder that we are not defined by what happens to us, but by the meaning we make of it—and that sometimes, helping others heal is the ultimate way to heal ourselves.

Your story matters. Tune in to remember why.

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If you want to make a positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

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The Lies We Believe: How to Spot Deception in Others—and in Ourselves

Sun, 21 Dec 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton confronts the painful reality of dishonesty—both in our relationships and within ourselves. As the year ends, many are navigating turbulent times with partners, friends, or family members who aren't telling the truth. Kimile breaks down the subtle, science-backed signs of deception: shifts in body language, changes in breathing, evasive eye contact, and the defensive over-explaining that often reveals more than it hides.

She also shares a moving story from her own past—a two-year period where she believed a devastating lie about herself—to illustrate how living out of alignment with truth can trap us in cycles of guilt, anxiety, and self-punishment. Kimile explores why people cling to false narratives, how to compassionately confront deception in others, and, most importantly, how to recognize the lies we tell ourselves that keep us from living freely and fully.

This episode is a call to courage: to seek truth, to trust your intuition, and to rebuild your life on the foundation of what’s real. If you’ve ever felt unsure in a relationship or trapped by a story you’ve believed about yourself, this conversation will guide you back to clarity, confidence, and peace.

The truth doesn't just inform you—it frees you. Tune in and learn how to listen for it.

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The Silent Signals: Decoding Your Child's Changing Behavior

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this important and insightful episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton offers parents and caregivers an essential guide to understanding the subtle shifts in their child's world. A sudden drop in grades, a loss of interest in sports, a change in friends, or an unexplained shift in mood—these are often the first clues that something deeper is happening in your child's life.

Kimile explores how to approach these changes with curiosity instead of alarm, creating an environment where your child feels safe to share their struggles. She discusses practical steps for identifying healthy versus harmful influences, opening lines of compassionate communication, and guiding your child through social pressures, academic stress, or emotional challenges without taking over their journey.

This episode is a reminder that parenting isn't about having all the answers, but about paying loving attention to the questions your child may not know how to ask. Tune in to learn how to be the steady anchor your child needs as they navigate the changing tides of growing up.

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Finding Peace at the Thanksgiving Table: Navigating Family Drama with Grace

Sat, 29 Nov 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this week’s episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton offers a lifeline for anyone feeling anxious about the upcoming holiday. As Thanksgiving approaches, the thought of family gatherings can bring as much dread as joy, stirring up old wounds and inviting new conflicts. Kimile provides practical and compassionate strategies for managing difficult relatives, setting healthy boundaries, and protecting your inner peace amidst the chaos.

She shares insightful methods for staying centered when conversations turn toxic, how to respond to criticism or intrusive questions without escalating tension, and ways to emotionally prepare for interactions with those who consistently cause drama. This episode is not about changing your family, but about empowering you to change how you navigate them. You'll learn how to disengage from power struggles, manage your expectations, and find moments of genuine gratitude even in complicated relationships.

If you're hoping to survive—and even enjoy—the holidays without losing your cool or your confidence, this episode is your essential guide. Tune in and transform your Thanksgiving from a source of stress into an opportunity for growth and grace.

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The Black Widow's Web: When Love Becomes a Trap

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this gripping episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton pulls back the curtain on one of relationships' most dangerous dynamics: the manipulative partner often called a "Black Widow." Kimile explores the disturbing pattern of women who systematically draw men into destructive behaviors—eroding their confidence, isolating them from loved ones, and leading them down paths they would never have chosen alone.

By sharing the story of a repeat victim, Kimile reveals the subtle signs of this toxic manipulation, from love-bombing and guilt trips to emotional sabotage. She explains why empathetic, trusting men often become targets, and how these relationships can leave lasting scars on a man's mental health, self-worth, and future.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that drained your spirit, or know someone who has, this conversation provides the clarity and hope needed to break free.

Tune in to understand the signs, protect your peace, and reclaim your life from the shadows of manipulation.

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When Good Men Are Manipulated: The Story of a Marriage Weaponized

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton shares the troubling story of a good man whose marriage became a trap. What began as a hopeful union quickly unraveled when his wife, who showed little genuine interest in building a life together, abruptly filed for divorce. But the real betrayal came when she systematically began destroying his reputation within his own church and community, twisting the narrative to portray him as someone he wasn't.

Kimile explores the painful dynamic of how manipulative individuals can target kind-hearted, trusting partners, using marriage not as a commitment but as a tool for control or revenge. She sheds light on the warning signs that someone may be more interested in what they can gain or how they can damage you, rather than in a true partnership. This episode also offers guidance for those who have been unfairly maligned, helping them navigate the painful aftermath of character assassination and reclaim their truth.

Tune in for a compassionate look at a difficult subject, and learn how to protect your heart and your reputation from those who would use both for their own ends.

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The Heart of a Strong Marriage: How to Nurture Your Husband and Rekindle Your Connection

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this heartfelt episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton offers guidance for women who feel their marriage is in trouble and want to fight for the love they share. Kimile explores what it truly means to be a supportive partner who brings out the best in her husband, creating an environment where both people can grow and thrive together. She discusses practical ways to rebuild emotional intimacy, foster mutual respect, and rediscover the admiration and appreciation that first brought you together.

This isn't about one-sided effort or losing yourself in the process—it's about understanding the unique emotional needs men often have in relationships and learning how to meet them while also honoring your own. Kimile shares insights on communication that connects rather than criticizes, creating a partnership where both feel seen, valued, and inspired to be their best selves.

If your marriage feels distant or disconnected and you're looking for ways to rebuild that bond, this episode offers hope, practical strategies, and the reminder that with intention and love, many relationships can find their way back to solid ground.

Tune in to discover how small shifts in understanding and action can transform your marriage.

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The Two Ingredients Every Relationship Needs: Admiration and Adoration

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this insightful episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores the essential emotional ingredients that sustain a loving partnership. She discusses the profound yet simple truth that in a healthy relationship, men have a deep need to feel admired, and women have a fundamental desire to feel adored. When these core emotional needs are met, the bond between partners flourishes with respect, affection, and security.

Kimile delves into how relationships often begin to falter when these feelings of admiration and adoration are undermined, neglected, or taken for granted. She explains the signs that these pillars are crumbling and how their absence can lead to resentment, distance, and the difficult realization that the connection may be beyond repair. This episode is not just about diagnosing the problem, but also about understanding the profound human needs that, when honored, can either save a relationship or grant you the clarity to compassionately let go.

If you're wondering how to rekindle these essential feelings or are questioning the future of your partnership, this conversation offers a compassionate framework for finding your answer.

Tune in to understand the silent language of the heart that can make or break a relationship.

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Have You Grown Apart? Knowing When to Reconnect or Release

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores one of the most common yet painful relationship dilemmas: when a partnership that once felt vibrant begins to feel stale, distant, or simply stuck. Many couples reach a point where they no longer feel like teammates, but more like strangers sharing a life—where conversation runs dry, emotional intimacy fades, and it’s hard to remember what brought you together in the first place.

Kimile gently guides listeners through the difficult but necessary process of assessing whether the relationship has run its course or if there’s still a foundation to rebuild upon. She offers thoughtful questions to help you discern whether you and your partner have simply drifted through life’s changes, or whether you’ve fundamentally grown in different directions. For those wondering whether to rekindle the connection or courageously let go, this episode provides a space for honest reflection without judgment.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever—and that’s okay. Tune in to find the wisdom to honor what was, and the strength to embrace what’s next.

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Carrying the Unthinkable: Healing After Shared Trauma

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this compassionate and timely episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores the profound impact of being exposed to horrific events—whether firsthand or from a distance. Beginning with the traumatic murder of Charlie Kirk and the ripple effects on those who witnessed or were connected to the tragedy, Kimile discusses the heavy emotional toll such events take on the human spirit. She then expands the conversation to include collective traumas like 9/11, highlighting how unprocessed pain can silently shape—and often sabotage—our lives years later.

Kimile offers insight into why we must confront these deep wounds rather than bury them, and how avoiding grief, anger, or fear can lead to self-destructive behaviors, fractured relationships, and a loss of self. With empathy and clarity, she guides listeners toward safe and healthy ways to process trauma, rebuild a sense of safety, and honor their experiences without letting the past dictate their future.

This episode is for anyone who has ever faced the unthinkable—and is ready to reclaim their life from the shadow of trauma.

You don’t have to carry the pain forever. Tune in to begin your journey toward healing.

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Knowing When to Leave: The Hard Truth About Letting Go of Relationships

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this honest and thought-provoking episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton tackles one of life’s toughest decisions—when to walk away from a relationship or marriage. Whether it’s the glaring red flags of abuse, neglect, or betrayal, or the quieter pain of a love that has simply run its course, staying too long can cost you your happiness, your peace, and even your sense of self.

Kimile doesn’t shy away from the hard truths: Some relationships should end, even if there’s still love—or fear—holding you back. She explores the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, why “staying for the kids” can sometimes do more harm than good, and how to find the courage to choose yourself when the person you’re with no longer fits the life you want.

This isn’t about giving up—it’s about knowing when holding on is actually holding you back. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s time to let go, this episode will help you find clarity, strength, and the permission to walk away when love isn’t enough.

Leaving is hard—but staying in the wrong relationship is harder. Tune in to know the difference.

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Are You Being Used? How to Spot Exploitation and Protect Yourself

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this eye-opening episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton dives into the unsettling reality of relationships where you’re not valued—just used. Whether it’s someone draining your emotional energy, exploiting your skills, or leaning on you for material gain, these connections leave you feeling exhausted and unappreciated. Kimile reveals the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that someone is taking advantage of your kindness, and why talented, capable people often become targets for users.

More importantly, she shares how to set unshakable boundaries—without guilt—and reclaim your energy from those who see you as a resource rather than a person. This isn’t about becoming cynical; it’s about learning to guard your light so you can share it with those who truly deserve it. If you’ve ever felt like a giver surrounded by takers, this episode will help you shift the balance—starting today.

Your energy is precious. Tune in to learn how to stop leaking it to people who don’t deserve you.

For more Stories advice and wisdom, find the full Heal With Kimile playlist here:

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Breaking the Cycle: How Childhood Wounds Shape Your Future—And How to Heal

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton explores the invisible threads that tie our past to our present—how the love we lacked, the attention we craved, or the abandonment we feared as children silently steer our adult lives. Whether it’s clinging to unhealthy relationships, self-sabotaging success, or feeling unworthy of love, these patterns often trace back to unmet childhood needs.

Kimile doesn’t just expose these wounds—she lights the path to healing. She reveals how to recognize when your past is hijacking your present, why breaking free requires more than just awareness, and how to reclaim control of your story. This isn’t about blaming parents or dwelling in pain; it’s about empowering you to rewrite your future.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles you didn’t understand, this episode is your wake-up call: Your past may explain you, but it doesn’t have to define you.

Tune in and take the first step toward the life you deserve.

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From Doubt to Destiny: Hearing the Whisper of the Divine

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton shares her extraordinary journey of faith and transformation—from the world of paralegal work in Utah to the unexpected calling that led her to counseling in California, and back again. She opens up about the pivotal moments when a divine voice seemed to speak directly to her heart, urging her to make brave changes she never planned. With raw honesty, Kimile recounts the doubts, the leaps of faith, and the profound sense of guidance that carried her through each transition.

More than just her story, this episode is an invitation to recognize the whispers of God or the divine in your own life. Kimile explores how to cultivate spiritual awareness, discern true guidance from fear or ego, and find the courage to follow a path that may not make logical sense—but leads you exactly where you’re meant to be.

Whether you’re at a crossroads or simply longing for deeper purpose, this conversation will remind you: You’re never alone, and the universe speaks to those willing to listen.

Your calling is closer than you think. Tune in and learn how to hear it.

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Rebuilding Trust: How to Truly Make Amends After You've Hurt Someone

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this accountability-focused episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton tackles one of the hardest relationship challenges: how to make things right when you're the one who messed up—especially when that mistake is as painful as infidelity. This isn’t about quick fixes or empty apologies, but the difficult, necessary work of true repair.

Kimile walks through what it really means to own your actions—without excuses, without blaming your partner, and without expecting instant forgiveness. She discusses the difference between saying "sorry" and actually being sorry, how to give your partner the space to feel their hurt without making it about your guilt, and why rebuilding trust requires consistent action, not just words. Most importantly, she emphasizes that growth isn’t linear—you’ll make missteps along the way, but the key is staying committed to doing better.

If you’ve hurt someone you love and want to genuinely make amends (not just ease your own guilt), this episode is a roadmap.

Real change starts with honesty—with yourself first. Tune in to begin the work.

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After the Affair: Healing, Understanding, and Choosing Your Path Forward

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton guides listeners through the painful journey of discovering infidelity—and how to navigate the emotional storm that follows. Whether you're reeling from fresh betrayal or still carrying scars from the past, this episode offers clarity on the questions that haunt you: Why did this happen? Should I stay? Can I ever trust again?

Kimile explores the complex reasons behind cheating (without making excuses for it), how to distinguish between remorse and manipulation in your partner, and the difficult process of deciding whether reconciliation is even possible—or healthy. She also emphasizes the most important relationship you’ll rebuild after betrayal: the one with yourself. Through honest reflection and self-compassion, you’ll learn how to reclaim your worth, set boundaries, and grow from the pain without letting it define you.

This isn’t about easy answers—it’s about finding your truth.

Whether you choose to walk away or rebuild, this episode will help you do it with strength. Tune in to begin healing.

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The Lies We Carry: When a Child's Heart Believes It's to Blame

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this week’s episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton shares the story of a young woman who has carried an unbearable weight since childhood—the belief that her father’s abandonment was her fault. At just seven years old, she watched him choose addiction over his family, and for years, she internalized the pain as her own failure. This shadow shaped her relationships, her self-worth, and the way she showed up in the world—always trying to earn love, always waiting to be left behind.

Kimile walks listeners through the pivotal moment when this woman finally faced the truth: Nothing she did—or didn’t do—could have changed her father’s choices. With gentle clarity, Kimile reveals how our youngest selves often misinterpret pain as punishment, and how these false beliefs linger into adulthood. She offers a path to freedom—not just for this woman, but for anyone who has ever blamed themselves for another person’s actions.

This episode is a powerful reminder: The events that break your heart are rarely your fault, but healing is your responsibility.

Tune in to learn how to lay down burdens you were never meant to carry.

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When Everything Feels Like Too Much: Finding Calm in the Chaos

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton speaks to the overwhelm so many of us feel when life—and the world—becomes too heavy to carry. Between personal struggles, global crises, and the constant noise of modern life, it’s easy to feel powerless, anxious, or completely drained. Kimile doesn’t offer empty platitudes or false positivity—instead, she guides you toward what you can control when everything else feels unstable: your emotions, your mindset, and the small, intentional choices that rebuild your sense of agency.

With compassion and practicality, she shares how to step back from the chaos without disengaging from life, how to protect your energy without shutting down, and why nurturing your inner world is the most powerful way to face the outer one. This isn’t about ignoring reality—it’s about strengthening yourself so you can meet it with clarity and resilience.

If you’re tired of feeling tossed by the storms of life, this episode is your anchor.

The chaos around you doesn’t have to become chaos within you. Tune in to reclaim your calm.

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Divided Loyalties: When Parents Pull Children Into Marital Conflict

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton shares a story of a family unravelling as a husband and daughters gang up on the wife and he undermines her position in the family.

Kimile explores why parents often unconsciously recruit children as allies during marital strife, the devastating emotional toll this takes on young psyches, and how these patterns echo through generations. She offers compassionate insight for parents recognizing themselves in this story - not to shame, but to illuminate a path forward. Through this cautionary tale, listeners will learn how to establish healthy boundaries, protect their children from adult problems, and find appropriate outlets for marital frustrations without sacrificing family unity.

This episode isn't about taking sides in a marriage - it's about protecting the innocent bystanders caught in the crossfire. For any parent who's ever been tempted to share too much with their children, or felt the sting of being excluded from their own family circle, Kimile provides both warning and wisdom.

The greatest gift you can give your children is a childhood free from adult burdens. Tune in to learn how to keep your marital conflicts where they belong - between the adults.

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Feeling Restless? This Exercise Will Calm Your Mind & Body

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this transformative episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton guides listeners through a powerful somatic exercise called Mood Mass Handling - a practice of tuning into the body's subtle signals to uncover and release pent-up emotions. When we feel restless, uneasy, or emotionally "off" but can't pinpoint why, our bodies often hold the answers our minds haven't yet processed.

Kimile gently leads you through this introspective process, teaching how to scan your physical being for emotional weight you may be carrying unconsciously. You'll learn to identify where tension, numbness, or discomfort might be manifesting from unresolved feelings, and how to compassionately acknowledge these sensations without being overwhelmed by them. This practice isn't about fixing or analyzing - it's about developing a deeper relationship with your emotional landscape through bodily awareness.

Whether you're navigating stress, relationship challenges, or simply feel something "stuck" that you can't name, this episode offers a tangible way to reconnect with yourself. By the end, you'll have a practical tool for emotional clarity that goes beyond traditional talk therapy - one that honors how our bodies and emotions are profoundly interconnected.

Your body has been trying to tell you something. Tune in to learn how to listen.

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When Cheating Breaks More Than Vows: The Ripple Effect on Families

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton explores the painful aftermath of infidelity—not just for the betrayed spouse, but for the entire family, especially daughters who witness their fathers walk away. She delves into the emotional wreckage left behind when a man chooses his mistress over his wife, and how this betrayal shapes a daughter’s view of love, trust, and self-worth.

Kimile shares raw stories of women who grew up watching their mothers be discarded, only to struggle with relationships of their own—fearing abandonment, tolerating disrespect, or repeating the same painful cycles. She also offers hope, guiding listeners on how to heal from these wounds, rebuild their sense of security, and break generational patterns of betrayal.

This episode isn’t just about the act of cheating—it’s about the legacy it leaves behind. If you’ve ever wondered why betrayal cuts so deep, or how to protect your heart (or your children’s) from its fallout, this conversation is for you.

The scars of infidelity don’t just fade—they must be healed. Tune in to start the process.

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When Therapy Becomes a Weapon: Navigating Manipulation in the Counseling Room

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this eye-opening episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton shares a cautionary In this revealing episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton shares a professional cautionary tale about how therapy can be hijacked for ulterior motives. She recounts the troubling case of a client who attempted to weaponize their sessions - first sending a reluctant son-in-law to counseling under false pretenses, then twisting therapeutic concepts to manipulate family dynamics.

Kimile pulls back the curtain on one of counseling's most challenging ethical dilemmas: what happens when clients try to use the therapeutic relationship as leverage in personal conflicts. She explores why well-intentioned therapists can become unwitting pawns in family power struggles, and the delicate balance clinicians must maintain when privileged information prevents them from setting the record straight.

More than just a professional warning, this episode illuminates how even healing spaces can become battlegrounds when people prioritize winning over growing. Kimile offers wisdom for both therapists and clients about maintaining integrity in the counseling process, recognizing when therapy is being misused, and protecting the sanctity of this sacred work.

Therapy should be a bridge, not a weapon. Tune in for this critical conversation about ethics, manipulation and healing.

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How Grief Leaves You Vulnerable to Users

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this eye-opening episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton shares a cautionary tale about a widower who rushed into remarriage only to find himself trapped in a web of manipulation. Still raw from loss, he fell for a woman who created constant conflict with his sons while playing the victim - all while enjoying the financial security he provided.

Kimile exposes the painful truth: predators can smell unresolved grief like blood in the water. She explains why men's natural desire to "rescue" often backfires after loss or divorce, attracting exactly the kind of people who will exploit that vulnerability. Through this powerful story, she reveals the red flags of being used in relationships, why time alone doesn't heal wounds, and how doing your inner work protects you from those who would take advantage of your kindness.

This isn't just about romantic relationships - it's about learning to protect your heart while it heals. If you've ever found yourself giving too much in the hope of being loved, or know someone who jumped into a new relationship too soon after loss, this episode could save you from making a costly mistake.

True healing can't be rushed - but predators won't wait. Tune in to learn how to guard your heart.

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The Healing Connection: Finding the Right Guide for Your Journey

Fri, 30 May 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this insightful episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton explores one of the most important yet often overlooked aspects of personal growth - finding the right therapeutic relationship. She discusses how true healing begins when you work with someone who not only listens, but truly hears you; someone who has done their own inner work and can therefore safely guide you through yours. Kimile shares what to look for in a therapist or counselor - that rare combination of professional skill and human understanding that creates a space where real transformation can happen. She explains how the right guide helps uncover the hidden roots of surface issues, offering not just temporary relief but lasting change. More importantly, she reveals how the lessons learned in these sacred healing spaces - about trust, communication, and self-discovery - can profoundly improve all your relationships outside the therapy room.

This episode is for anyone considering therapy, currently in counseling, or simply wanting to understand how the principles of therapeutic relationships can create deeper connections in every area of life. Because when you experience being truly seen and understood, it changes everything.

The right guide doesn't just help you heal - they teach you how to keep healing long after your sessions end

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The Burnout Breakdown: When Giving Too Much Leaves You Empty

Fri, 23 May 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this deeply relatable episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton pulls back the curtain on modern burnout - that soul-deep exhaustion that comes from pouring everything into work, family, and responsibilities while leaving nothing for yourself. She speaks directly to the caregivers, the providers, and the overachievers who pride themselves on being everyone's rock, but secretly wonder why they feel so drained.

Kimile explores the dangerous myth that strength means never needing rest, and how our constant giving can actually harm those we love most - especially our children. When we do too much for too long, we risk raising a generation that never learns to solve their own problems or weather life's inevitable storms. With equal parts tough love and compassion, she offers practical wisdom on setting boundaries that protect your energy, teaching kids true resilience (not dependence), and rediscovering the joy in your own life.

This is more than a conversation about self-care - it's a wake-up call for anyone who's been running on empty, a reminder that you can't pour from an empty cup, and that Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for others is to show them how to stand on their own.

Your well-being isn't selfish - it's survival. Tune in to start reclaiming your life.

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When Love Turns Toxic: Knowing When to Walk Away

Fri, 16 May 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this raw and empowering episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton tackles one of the hardest truths about relationships: sometimes love isn't enough. She explores the painful reality of toxic connections that slowly erode your sense of self, where staying means watching yourself become someone you don't recognize. With wisdom forged from personal experience and professional insight, Kimile discusses the critical moment when you realize someone consistently brings out your worst self rather than your best.

This episode isn't about giving up—it's about radical honesty. Kimile guides listeners through recognizing when a relationship has crossed from difficult to destructive, why we often stay long after we should leave, and how to gather the courage to walk away when there's no real hope for change. She emphasizes the importance of seizing those rare moments of clarity when you have the chance to choose yourself, because some doors close forever if you wait too long.

For anyone who's ever felt trapped in a relationship that dims their light more than it nurtures it, this episode offers both the wake-up call and the compassionate support needed to take that first step toward freedom. True love shouldn't cost you your peace, your joy, or your self-respect.

Your future self will thank you for listening to this one.

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Ghosts of the Past: When Childhood Wounds Control Your Relationships

Fri, 09 May 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this deeply revealing episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton examines how unresolved childhood pain shapes and often damages our adult relationships. She shares the moving story of a marriage struggling under the weight of the husband's past - raised by a distant, emotionally abusive mother, he finds himself paralyzed by his wife's normal emotional needs, reacting with guilt and withdrawal rather than connection.

Kimile explores why we unconsciously recreate the emotional landscapes of our childhood in our closest relationships, how unrecognized trauma makes us see threats that aren't there, and the painful ways we make our partners pay for hurts they didn't inflict. With compassion and clarity, she guides listeners through the process of identifying these hidden patterns, separating past pain from present reality, and developing the emotional tools that childhood never provided.

This episode isn't about blame, but about liberation - understanding how your history influences your relationships today is the first step toward writing a new story. If you've ever felt like you or your partner were fighting ghosts instead of each other, this conversation will bring both revelation and hope.

The past may shape us, but it doesn't have to control us. Tune in to begin breaking free.

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Trapped in Love? How to Spot and Escape a Narcissist's Manipulation

Fri, 02 May 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this eye-opening episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton shares the heartbreaking story of a woman pouring her love, money, and safety into a relationship—not realizing she’s being played by a narcissist.

Kimile breaks down the subtle red flags of narcissistic manipulation: the love-bombing, the guilt trips, the slow erosion of self-worth. She reveals how to tell if you’re sacrificing too much for someone who’s taking advantage—and most importantly, how to reclaim your power and walk away.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I being manipulated?” or felt stuck in a one-sided relationship, this episode gives you the clarity and courage to choose yourself. Because no one should have to buy love with their peace.

Tune in and take your life back.

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The Truth That Sets You Free: How Radical Self-Acceptance Unlocks Your Best Life

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this liberating episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores the transformative power of radical self-honesty. She reveals how we often distort our past - through minimization, justification, or outright denial - to make painful truths more bearable. But this well-intentioned self-deception comes at a cost: it keeps us trapped in cycles of shame and prevents authentic growth.

Kimile shares her own journey of facing uncomfortable truths about her history, and how this difficult work ultimately led to profound freedom. She discusses why we resist this level of honesty, how to distinguish between taking responsibility and self-flagellation, and the surprising ways our relationships improve when we stop hiding from our past.

This episode isn't about dwelling on mistakes or trauma, but rather about the liberation that comes when we finally say: "This happened. This is who I was. And it doesn't have to define who I'm becoming." For anyone tired of carrying the weight of unacknowledged truths, Kimile offers both the courage to face your story and the tools to rewrite your future.

Tune in to discover how complete self-acceptance becomes the foundation for your most

authentic, unapologetic life.

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The Weight of Unspoken Trauma: How Confession Became My Liberation

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this raw and revelatory episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton shares a deeply personal story—one she carried in silence for years. After a horrific accident left her convinced she had taken a life, the crushing guilt became a prison of her own making. It wasn’t until she finally spoke the guilt aloud that she learned the truth, the shame lost its power, and she reclaimed control of her life.

Kimile explores why so many of us bury our traumas, fearing judgment or unable to face the pain—and how that silence keeps us stuck. Through her own journey, she reveals the transformative power of giving voice to our darkest moments.

If you’ve ever felt shackled by a secret hurt, this episode is an invitation:

Freedom begins when you stop carrying it alone.

Tune in to discover how truth-telling can become the key to your own liberation.

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Breakdown to Breakthrough: Finding Strength Through Faith in Life's Storms

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 01:00:00 -0700

Life can feel relentless—you handle crisis after crisis, until

suddenly one catches you off guard and threatens to overwhelm you. In this

powerful episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores

what happens when stress and emotion take over, and how surrendering to faith

in a higher power can restore your stability and perspective.

Kimile shares why we often resist change until we hit rock bottom, and how that moment

of crisis can become the catalyst for transformation. She offers wisdom on

trusting divine timing, finding meaning in struggle, and recognizing that

breakthroughs often follow breakdowns. Whether you're in the midst of chaos or

rebuilding after a storm, this episode will remind you: You are held, you are

guided, and your struggles are not without purpose.

Tune in to rediscover your resilience and anchor yourself in faith when life feels

out of control.

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If you want to make a positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and

realign your life, I invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

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My book is available on Amazon:

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Spotting Evil: Protecting Yourself from Manipulation and Emotional Harm

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this crucial episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton tackles a difficult but necessary topic: recognizing and protecting yourself from evil people and their harmful actions. While it’s uncomfortable to face the reality that such individuals exist, failing to spot their traits can cost you your health, happiness, and peace of mind. Kimile breaks down the characteristics of manipulative and toxic individuals—such as speaking in vague generalities, making you doubt yourself, deflecting blame, and targeting the vulnerable.

She explains how these behaviors are designed to control, manipulate, and stunt your growth, leaving you feeling trapped and diminished. With clarity and compassion, Kimile offers tools to identify these red flags, reclaim your power, and safeguard your well-being.

Tune in to learn how to spot evil, break free from manipulation, and protect your mental and emotional health.

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Finding Love After Loss: Honoring the Past While Embracing a New Future

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this heartfelt episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores the delicate journey of moving on after the death of a spouse or partner, especially when children are involved. She acknowledges the profound grief and challenges of navigating life after such a loss, emphasizing that a new relationship can never replace the one that’s gone—nor should it. Instead, Kimile encourages listeners to seek something entirely new with a future partner, one that fulfills different needs and reflects the person you’ve become. With empathy and wisdom, she offers guidance on honoring the past while opening your heart to new possibilities, creating a balanced path forward for both you and your children.

Tune in for a compassionate conversation about love, loss, and the courage to rebuild your life.

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The Cost of Codependency: Knowing When to Pause, Reassess, and Protect Yourself

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this eye-opening episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton delves into the risks of staying in a codependent relationship for too long. She explores how partnerships can evolve into something unrecognizable, leaving you feeling stuck, unfulfilled, or even in crisis that demands reevaluation.

Kimile emphasizes the importance of pausing to reassess when a relationship no longer serves your well-being, especially if a partner’s destructive behavior threatens to harm not only you but also your children. She offers compassionate yet firm advice on why enabling such behavior can have devastating consequences and provides guidance on setting boundaries, reclaiming your power, and making decisions that prioritize your safety and growth.

Tune in to learn how to break free from codependency, protect your future, and create a life rooted in self-respect and clarity.

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Staying on Track: How to Have Frank, Honest Conversations Without Derailing Your Relationship

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this empowering episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton tackles the challenges of having frank, honest conversations that often go off track when feelings get hurt—sometimes accidentally. She shares practical strategies to prevent taking things personally, express your emotions without shutting your partner down, and recognize that criticisms can often be projections of the other person’s insecurities rather than truths about you.

Kimile emphasizes the importance of acknowledging your feelings without letting them control the conversation, using them as opportunities for growth and deeper connection instead. Whether you’re navigating a romantic relationship, friendship, or family dynamic, this episode offers tools to communicate more effectively, foster understanding, and keep your relationships moving forward.

Tune in to learn how to turn emotional moments into stepping stones for stronger, healthier connections.

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When Small Sparks Ignite Big Fires: Understanding Triggers, Trauma, and Healing in Relationships

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this insightful episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton explores why small things often blow up into big fights and why simple questions can turn into heated arguments.

She delves into the complex dynamics at play—whether someone is deliberately escalating a situation or subconsciously reacting to past wounds, like fear of abandonment or abuse. Kimile also discusses how unresolved trauma can lead to behaviors like baiting others into conflict as a way to preempt pain or assign blame.

Through compassionate storytelling and practical advice, she emphasizes the importance of understanding our own triggers and those of others, offering tools to break these cycles. This episode is a call to foster real, healing relationships by creating space for empathy, communication, and growth.

Tune in to learn how to navigate triggers, heal from past pain, and build stronger, more connected relationships.

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Rapid Healing: A Counseling Method to Reclaim Your Life from Past Trauma

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this transformative episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton introduces a powerful counselling method designed to help you quickly come to terms with past traumas and experiences, so you can take control of your life.

This approach focuses on identifying and addressing the root causes of emotional pain, breaking free from cycles of suffering, and empowering you to move forward with clarity and confidence. Kimile shares insights into how this method works, why it’s effective, and how it can help you release the weight of the past to create a brighter, more intentional future.

Whether you’re struggling with unresolved trauma or simply feeling stuck, this episode offers hope and practical tools to help you heal faster and live more fully.

Tune in to discover how you can reclaim your power and step into the life you deserve.

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Unshackling Stress: Finding Freedom in Your Body and Life

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this empowering episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton addresses the heavy weight of living under constant pressure—whether it’s a miserable job you can’t leave because you need the paycheck or a complicated relationship that brings more strife than joy.

Many of us carry this stress in our bodies without even realizing it, leading to physical and emotional exhaustion.

Kimile guides you through a transformative process of identifying where stress lives in your body and uncovering its root causes.

With gentle wisdom and practical tools, she helps you reconnect with your inner self, release tension, and begin the journey toward reclaiming your peace and freedom. If you’re ready to break free from the cycles of stress and step into a life of greater ease and joy, this episode is for you.

Tune in to learn how to listen to your body, heal your stress, and create space for the life you truly deserve.

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Breaking the Cycle: Understanding Automatic Ways of Being and Healing from Autopilot Reactions

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this enlightening episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton dives into the concept of automatic ways of being—those autopilot reactions rooted in past traumas that shape how we navigate the present.

From over-apologizing and deflecting compliments to avoiding asking for help and embracing hyper-independence, these behaviors often stem from a deep-seated fear of abandonment and a desire to protect ourselves from further pain. Kimile explores how these patterns, while once survival mechanisms, can keep us stuck in cycles that no longer serve us.

Through personal insights and practical guidance, she offers tools to recognize these behaviors, understand their origins, and begin the journey toward breaking free. Tune in to learn how to move from autopilot to intentional living, fostering healthier relationships with yourself and others.

This episode is for anyone ready to unpack their past, heal their present, and create a more empowered future.

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Believing the Unbelievable: Supporting a Predator

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 01:00:00 -0700

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of sexual abuse, manipulation, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.

In this deeply personal and thought-provoking episode of Heal with Kimile, host Kimile Pendleton opens up about her experience of supporting and believing someone who was later revealed to be a predator.

Kimile shares her story of standing by Paul Bryant, a man accused of heinous crimes, and the emotional turmoil she faced when the truth came to light. She reflects on the complexities of trust, the dangers of manipulation, and the painful process of reconciling her actions with the reality of his actions.

This episode is a raw exploration of guilt, forgiveness, and the lessons learned from a situation that challenges our understanding of empathy and accountability. Join Kimile as she navigates the difficult questions: How do we heal when we’ve unknowingly supported harm? And how do we move forward with grace and wisdom?

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Dealing with Loss and Moving Forward

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 01:00:00 -0700

What happens when life delivers a crushing blow? Whether it's the end of a relationship, the death of a loved one, or the loss of a job, these moments can leave us feeling adrift, questioning our purpose, and wondering if we’ll ever find our footing again. In this deeply reflective episode, Kimile Pendleton joins us to explore how to confront loss with courage and clarity. She’ll guide us through the process of examining our losses—asking tough questions like, Was this my fault?—and help us understand how to move forward without carrying unnecessary guilt or regret.

Kimile will also share powerful insights on how to rebuild meaning and purpose, even when life feels shattered. If you’ve ever faced a loss that left you questioning everything, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap to help you choose how to live, grow, and thrive in the face of life’s most challenging moments.

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Real Relationships and Emotional Readiness

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode Kimile Pendleton is going to talk love and relationships and how to ensure that you are ready to share your life with someone.

Often the first fight is the first real test, when the excitement of having someone in your life gets replaced by the realisation that another person means you won’t always get your own way. And this is where relationships shatter, or are forged into something lasting.

Does conflict make you run away or go on the attack? Do you communicate openly or aggressively?

Kimile will walk you through examining yourself, your reactions to challenges and whether you really are ready to let someone into your life.

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Conflict Resolution and Maintaining Your Power

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 01:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Heal with Kimile you will learn about

the importance of controlling your emotions. Kimile Pendleton will explain to

you how important it is to maintain your emotional state when in conflict,

because giving in to fear and anger will cost you in arguments and

disagreements.

Learn about how to prepare for people trying to manipulate and

bait you into outbursts, how to prevent that and how to find peace even in the

face of challenges from those around you.

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you want to make a positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and

realign your life, I invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where we can embark on a journey together to

uncover your true self, overcome challenges, and live a life aligned with your

passions and purpose.

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resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

How To Read People And Interact With Them

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 01:00:00 -0700

Sometimes it can be difficult to have a positive and constructive conversation with the people in your life, and it can be tricky to figure out why communication just doesn’t work. This is often because of differing emotional states causing incompatibility in the moment.

In this episode Kimile Pendleton is going to give you some advice on how to navigate conversations when someone is in a negative mood, how to know if it’s possible to have a conversation in the moment, when it’s best to wait, and even when to recognise that some people simply can not be reasoned with and when to disengage.

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The Truth About Guilt Tripping in a Relationship

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Sometimes one partner in a relationship likes to lay on a guilt trip. But why do they do it?

For many it’s a way of subtly controlling their partner through emotional violence. Maybe because they feel powerless to try influence someone directly, or maybe their accusations are confessions?

Join Kimile Pendleton this episode as she explores the reasons for people to try control their partners through guilt tripping them, what it really means and what you should do if your partner tries to control your behaviour through emotional manipulation and guilt tripping.

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Preparing Teens and Young Adults for Life

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Preparing Teens and Young Adults for Life

As teens and young people leave high school and home they enter a whole new world brimming with potential, but many may struggle as it’s the first time in their lives that they need to take responsibility for their own actions and begin to self regulate.

They may have family life that has taught them the wrong lessons and left them unable to develop a healthy sense of self and true integrity, but without these life can be a struggle.

Join host Kimile Pendleton as she walks though how adults need to model behaviours to prepare their children for the world, and how young people can take responsibility and handle the stress of the ‘real’ world.

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What is Really Triggering You?

Fri, 27 Sep 2024 01:00:00 -0700

What is Really Triggering You?

Sometimes people in relationships can find themselves upset with

each other and they’re not really sure why. A small event can be blown out of

proportion and cause conflict that seems to be a bit extreme.

Often this happens due to unknown and unexplored triggers. Hidden

buttons people can have from not facing up to what has happened in the past.

This week join Kimile Pendleton as she explains how to examine

your reactions to events and find out the root of what is bothering you.

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you want to make a positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and

realign your life, I invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where we can embark on a journey together to

uncover your true self, overcome challenges, and live a life aligned with your

passions and purpose.

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resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Living by the Laws of the Universe

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Life can be hard, but if it feels like you’re struggling against the

river it’s possible that this is because you’re not following some basic laws

of the universe!

What laws do we mean? Well, this week Kimile is going to walk you

through some of the consequences of the energy we put out in the world.

Have you noticed that what you dread tends to come to pass? That burying

your pain makes you physically, mentally and emotionally unwell?

These are the laws of energy and attraction that mean we often are not

in conscious control of what happens to us, so get conscious, learn the rules,

and take control with Kimile.

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If you want to make a

positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I

invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where

we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome

challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on

Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

How To Reframe Your View of Yourself?

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Do you feel trapped on your life? Do you feel like you’re less than you can be and are holding yourself back?

Maybe you need a change of perspective and in this episode Kimile will help you to explore your view of your place in your life and how you can change it.

It’s hard, or impossible, to self-actualise and achieve your dreams if you feel unsafe in your life, so how do you take control? Ensure your safety in life, the world, your family and start to achieve what you can?

Process your struggles and traumas with Kimile and begin to look at the world and all of it’s real potential.

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When And How Can You Truly Change?

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Do you want to change? Can people really change? Yes, but it may not be that simple and in this episode Kimile will walk you through the complications and help you navigate what’s necessary to find change.

If you, or someone else is timid, or a people pleaser there may be a reason for this. Often these aspects of our personalities have developed in response to something in our lives

Pleasers are this way to avoid abandonment, they allow themselves to be hurt to not be left alone, as a false sense of security. But something needs to happen to allow themselves to come to terms with this, to lose this impulse. Often something painful.

Change is possible, but you need to understand yourself, understand why you are the way you are and know that change can come with a price.

So, listen in, and begin your process of change.

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When One Partner’s Family Interferes In The Relationship

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 01:00:00 -0700

The step of introducing the new partner to the family and friends is a big one, but can be risky for the relationship.

In this episode Kimile goes over what can go wrong when someone’s family doesn’t like the partner, what causes this and how to deal with it.

Issues usually arise when one partner doesn’t have strong boundaries with their family and doesn’t stand up to sniping and unpleasantness, or even runs to the family if the couple has had a fight or conflict, so the family gets a distorted view of the relationship

So Kimile will walk you through what can go wrong and how to fix it, to get your family and your relationship all rolling smoothly.

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Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

When An Oppressive Person Brings Out The Worst In You

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Sometimes people can seem to be on an emotional roller-coaster, with mood swings and inconsistent and unexpected behaviour, but this may not be their fault. They may be in a relationship with an oppressive person.

An oppressive person represses and puts down their partner, thriving on negativity and exploiting their emotions and thriving in their suffering and guilt.

But why do we get into these relationships? Do we at one level feel we deserve it? And how to get out if it feels too late?

Tune in this episode as Kimile has suggestions for you, to help you escape and rediscover who you really are.

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Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

The How to Build a Happy relationship

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0700

Entering a new relationship is thrilling, but as time goes on, challenges can surface. In this episode, Kimile shares her expert advice on how to lay a strong foundation from the start.

Committing to a serious relationship is a monumental decision—you're choosing someone you envision a future with. But do you really know who they are, and do they truly know you? Kimile dives into the importance of understanding each other’s core values and expectations, ensuring you're both on the same page as you embark on this journey together.

From navigating family dynamics and blending friendships to considering the role of children, Kimile offers practical guidance on how to address these critical aspects. Join us as we explore how to have the right conversations and take actionable steps toward building a happy, harmonious future together.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

The Number 1 Complaint Most Couples Have With Each Other

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0700

The Number 1 Complaint Most Couples Have With Each Other

Join Kimile on this episode as she talks about the number 1 issues that couples complain about in their relationship, lack of communication.

It’s sadly common than in a relationship one or both people may feel unheard, or under appreciated.

When a relationship is fresh and new communication is common and enthusiastic, but once commitment sets in the energy and openness can change.

Couples start to keep secrets, or not express themselves to prevent conflict, often starting to feel repressed and unappreciated, this leads to resentment, anger and sometimes contempt.

But how do you prevent this? Or change the energy if this happens?

Kimile has some ideas, so join her and learn to communicate openly and honestly.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Learning from failure

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Learning from failure

We often learn to fear failure and let it compromise our self worth, but what lessons have you learned from success?

Kimile believes that the most important lessons are the ones we learn when we stumble and fail, as long as we face the failure and use it to teach us and strengthen us.

We grow physically stronger from pain and resistance, and the same happens with mental and emotional pain. Struggle teaches us and matures us.

And in this episode Kimile will teach you jhow to use your failures to grow, and how to include the people around you so that you can grow with their help.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

The Real Dangers of Hiding Your True Self

Fri, 26 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0700

The Real Dangers of Hiding Your True Self

Relationships can be complicated things, and when we feel we can’t be our true selves, or tell the whole truth they get more complicated. Maybe one partner has secrets, or has done something they can’t share and it casts a shadow.

In this episode Kimile is going to share some truths that may be uncomfortable, because in a relationship if one partner cheats, drinks, gambles, overspends, it may be because they are dissatisfied with something in the relationship.

If a partner or spouse has been injured they should own their feelings, but what are there obligations to the partner and the relationship? Can they move on from being hurt? Or will they hold the guilty spouses actions against them?

How do you recover from this?

Kimile has some ideas, so tune in and move on to a stronger, more complete you.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

The Truth About the Midlife Crisis - Ageing, Relationships and Family

Sat, 20 Jul 2024 01:00:00 -0700

The Truth About the Mid-life Crisis - Ageing, Relationships and Family

We’re all familiar with the cliché of the mid-life crisis. A middle-aged man gets a fancy sports car, starts dressing too young, maybe has an affair.

But join Kimile Pendleton in this episode as she examines what a mid-life crisis is and shows that it really happens to everyone in their late 30s early 40s, men and women alike.

Fundamentally a midlife crisis happens when someone feels burned out and trapped by their life, or even their family or relationships, so they start yearning for freedom, sometimes making bad choices as a result.

Often someone is tired of just being the partner or parent, or they haven’t been open and honest about their feelings and needs to they make destructive choices.

Kimile will go through coming to terms with your feelings and those of your partner and explore ways to take control of your freedom without destroying your life.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

What is the Real Truth behind your Relationship Problems

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 01:00:00 -0700

What is the Real Truth behind your Relationship Problems

A relationship isn’t always easy, but if fighting is common or there is regularly hostility there may be deeper issues to examine.

Join Kimile in this episode as she goes over relationship red flags and what they signify. Because a fight isn’t always just a fight.

In some relationships one partner may instigate an argument to prevent close examination of what they are doing, or to be able to blame their partner for their own actions.

Maybe one person finds themselves being pulled into fights despite themselves because their partner brings out the worst in them.

One person could use the threat of their temper to repress their partner, or someone will attack a partner’s mistakes or actions as a cover for their own.

So join Kimile as she goes over toxic behaviours and helps you to examine yourself and your relationship to see where the truth of the conflict lies.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

What Can Kill A Relationship - When Love And Affection Aren't Enough

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 01:00:00 -0700

What Can Kill A Relationship

Even if a relationship is built on love and affection that may not always be enough. There could be fundamental incompatibilities or behaviours that can be fatal to a partnership.

From fairly small things like different approaches to tidiness and ideas of what constitutes a good time, to far more serious issues like breaches of trust, infidelity and incompatible plans for family, there are plenty of things that can prevent a happy relationship.

And in this episode Kimile will highlight how important these things can be, discuss how you can overcome the issues and whether you should.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Is the Passion Real or a Rebound?

Fri, 28 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Is the Passion Real or a Rebound?

After the end of a long term relationship the one that comes next can be tricky to navigate, because how we process the new relationship can be distorted by what came before, and maybe we need the time to truly grieve and process that loss.

Which is why often the next relationship can be the good old rebound.

So are you in an exciting new partnership full of fun and passion? Or are you in something deeper with longer term potential?

Kimile has some advice to help you figure out if you are truly in a relationship for the right reasons, and to figure out if your partner may be looking for something fun and short term.

Is the new thing like a drug, something that give you a high while you mourn the loss of someone you cared about? Or is it the foundation of something new and special?

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Is Your Partner Truly Present In Your Relationship? Are You?

Fri, 21 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Is Your Partner Truly Present In Your Relationship? Are You?

Relationships can be a revolving door, with partners never truly committing.

Or sometimes long term relationships can peter out as communication comes to an end and distractions leak into your shared life.

One or more people could have a ‘relationship’ with their phone, just constantly disconnected from their family. Or be seeking emotional and mental relief through online connection.

What can you do to recognise these and other signs of disengaged relationships, and deal with them to restore health and balance into your partnership?

Kimile has some suggestions, so tune and and begin to turn your around relationships.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Is That New Person Relationship Ready? Advice looking for Red Flags and Pitfalls in New Romance

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Is That New Person Relationship Ready? Advice looking for Red Flags and Pitfalls in New Romance

Have you found yourself in the warm glow of a fresh romance, but is your new partner ready for a healthy relationship?

It may seem unfair to go into a relationship looking for problems but it’s important to be open and clear eyed about potential red-flags.

Things like love bombing, when your new partner overwhelms you with gifts or affection can suggest a narcissist or someone who will abandon you onc ethe chase is over.

Someone who lies may be unhappy in their life, or just enjoy playing games with your emotions, or manipulate you with fake illness.

Or many other potential issues, some that can be dealt with, some that cannot, can terminally damage a relationship that seems ot have potential.

So let Kimile tell you about what red flags to look for, what they mean, and how to deal with issues that arise.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Coping with Loss and Staying Healthy

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Kimile is answering another relationship question from a listener this week, and it’s a big one!

How does one deal with loss?

Most people deal with loss by ignoring it and hoping they just feel better, but this is how you end up collapsing later when things seem to be going well or getting into a destructive cycle.

Kimile will walk you through the ways loss manifests as unhealthy behaviours and how to face up to your grief so that you can get through it stronger and healthier.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Rescuing Your Relationship When the Sparks Go Out

Fri, 31 May 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Most relationships start out with the honeymoon period where everything is fresh and exciting, but what happens when the initial sparks fade and you’re faced with the reality of a relationship with another, complex human being?

Often this is when the power struggles and fights start as traumas and burdens from the past start to manifest in the new relationship.

But it’s possible to rebuild the connection into something stronger and more honest through open communication. Being honest with your partner and listening with an open mind and heart when they speak.

Maybe you can continue a long and loving relationship, or maybe you can end the relationship with love and respect.

Listen in this week and learn from Kimile’s experiences and knowledge to build a strong, healthy relationship.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Relationship Q&A: Trust And Patience In Relationships

Fri, 24 May 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Relationship Q&A: Trust And Patience In Relationships

Kimile is hearing from a lot of people so she’s asking some more questions, covering topics like:

How to come to terms with a husband’s affair
What do you do when your husband doesn’t want you to change?
Has a trauma in a relationship meant your spouse is distrustful?
Is a cheater always a cheater?
How long does the new relationship phase last?
If two people in a relationship have been married before, how long should they wait before getting married themselves?
Should couples combine their finances?

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Spotting a Predator: Mysterious Motivations And Love Bombing

Fri, 17 May 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Spotting a Predator: Mysterious Motivations And Love Bombing

CW: mention of child abuse, domestic violence

Have you ever met someone who has given you a bad feeling, yet they have really pursued you with a slightly disturbing single-mindedness?

Have you given them a chance?

This episode Kimile talks about the perils and pitfalls of meeting the predator. How they can love-bomb and wear you down to put themselves in a position of being in your life for their own nefarious purposes.

It can be tricky meeting new people, but maybe you should trust those first instincts.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

How Not To Get Rollercoastered: Dealing With A Partner Who Seems To Over-React Emotionally

Fri, 10 May 2024 01:00:00 -0700

How Not To Get Rollercoastered: Dealing With A Partner Who Seems To Over-React

Sometimes the people in our live, friends, family partners may seem to over-react or lash out at minor upsets.

It may be as simple as being short of rest or needing a meal, but sometimes a person cannot be calmed down, and they seem determined to be angry at you

Often in a secure relationship someone feels secure enough to begin to process trauma that can manifest as attacks on their partner. But how does the target deal with this?

You may want to defend yourself, but this can be a mistake.

Kimile will walk you through understanding your partner and helping them to cope with the traumas that they take out on you.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Relationship Q&A: Picking Partners and Bad Exes

Fri, 03 May 2024 01:00:00 -0700

CW: Mention of Child Abuse

This episode Kimile is taking some questions! One writer has had a relationship fall apart and is wondering what they did wrong? Answer, nothing! But Kimile will give you a guide on avoiding falling for a relationship hustle.

Another is facing divorce, but is stressed about lack or resources. Kimile has wisdom for that situation as well.

Yet another is having problems with an aggressive and confrontational ex husband. Obviously this is a stressful thing to deal with, but is there more to the former partner’s behaviour?

Listen in and see if you can learn something to equip you for healthier relationships.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Why we pick our relationships

Fri, 26 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0700

This week Kimile shares the

story of one of her clients, a young woman with a bad instinct for

relationships, and Kimile will dig through why she selects harmful partners.

She then will talk about how

the relationships people have with their parents and loved ones have

repercussions with their adult relationships in later life.

Was a parent absent, or did

they leave? What results will this have on the children.

Or are you an adult who

needs to be an example to your children?

Buckle in and learn the

wisdom that will prepare you and your children for healthy, fulfilling

relationships.

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If you want to make a

positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I

invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where

we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome

challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on

Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

The Perils When Grandparents Become Primary Caretakers

Fri, 19 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0700

The Perils When Grandparents Become Primary Caretakers

It’s sadly not that uncommon that tragic circumstances lead to grandparents needing to take care of their grandchildren. Often they feel like the logical ones to step in when their own children pass away leaving dependents.

But it can be a minefield for the whole family as the usual grandparent/grandchild dynamic is thrown into conflict with the sometimes harder decisions parents need to make with their own children.

Kids brought up with their grandparents can be spoiled and throw out other family relationship dynamics, and even inheritances.

But Kimile has dealt with many such situations, so will help you develop a more balanced family dynamic in the face of loss and challenge.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Moods Are Shadows Of The Past Cast on Our Future

Fri, 12 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Moods Are Shadows Of The Past Cast on Our Future

We all have good moods and bad moods. But like a mindset many of us have a mood-set, a default emotional state that can have repercussions though our lives and relationships and we don’t even know about them.

These moodsets are often the result of experiences early in our lives and we can find ourselves angry, sad or desperate in situations that don’t seem to justify these emotions.

Kimile is an expert at digging out the roots of these emotional states and reactions and allowing people to come to terms with them to give healthier presents and futures.

So listen in and start exploring your moods, and free yourself from the past.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Holding On to Victimhood

Fri, 05 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Holding On to Victimhood

It’s sadly common for someone in a relationship to be hurt by their partners, but how we deal with that hurt is so important to our well-being and that of those around us.

While it’s not our fault if we get hurt, how we respond is a choice. We can deal with what has been done to us and move on in a healthy way, or we can hang on to that victimhood, and use it to give us licence to hurt back.

Sometimes those who feel like they are victims even use this to poison others against the one who hurt them, sometimes even turning their children against them.

This week Kimile confronts the uncomfortable fact that often we choose to hold onto our victimhood, the harms we can do, and how to prevent ourselves from doing that.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Moving Forward After Betrayal

Fri, 29 Mar 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Moving Forward After Betrayal

If you’ve been betrayed, how do you move forward? If people have caused you pain, should you forgive or forget?

In this episode Kimile will guide you through the nuances of coming to terms with past mistreatment and the importance of dealing with that in a way that frees you from the burden of carrying that pain.

If you simply forgive when people have hurt you, it may be seen as a way to show you accept that treatment and open you up to future abuses, but Kimile will guide you on t healthy ways to take control while making sure the people who have hurt or betrayed you understand that you do not accept that treatment.

Tune in and unburden yourself from the past.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Coming To Terms With Betrayal

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Coming To Terms With Betrayal

This episode Kimile talks betrayal!

But while betrayal can completely destroy a relationship, often people decide to remain in that relationship. What does this mean? It it a good idea to try maintain connection in the face of betrayal?

Betrayal can take many forms, from affairs to hiding illicit spending, so how does a relationship survive this?

And what happens if it’s decided to maintain the relationship? Does this imply acceptance and forgiveness? What happens if the person betrayed keeps bringing up what was done to them?

Kimile will confront and provide answers to these and many questions to help those struggling with betrayal come to terms with it and find the healthiest path for themselves and those around them.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Rebuilding Your Purpose

Sun, 17 Mar 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Rebuilding Your Purpose

Often life events can leave people feeling directionless and lost and this week Kimile talks about how events can leave people lost.

If someone is used to taking charge and being needed, events like the loss of a job or the breakdown of a relationship can take away a lynchpin of their identity, meaning their sense of self and how they present to the world breaks down.

But even in the face of adversity it’s possible to regain one’s power and sense of awe through taking control

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Coping With Loss And Healthy Grieving

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0700

Coping With Loss And Healthy Grieving

Grief can be difficult to process in a healthy manner. Often the events that have caused this grief can create deep rooted trauma that we carry with us. This prevents us from moving on with our lives.

While grief is healthy, and sometimes may never truly go away, it is important to process it so that we are not mentally and emotionally held back for the rest of our lives.

Grief must not be allowed to become a trauma that we can’t heal from.

I can help you through this process, to teach you to face your grief and come to terms with it and heal.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

How To Clear The Baggage Of The Past To Achieve Your Dreams

Fri, 08 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0700

How To Clear The Baggage Of The Past To Achieve Your Dreams

In today’s episode I will talk to you about what I can do to help you and others.

Often we are carrying baggage from the events of out lives and this creates burdens and stresses on our lives going forward. As an intuitive counsellor I can help you heal yourself so that the events and burdens from your past don’t continue to affect you going forward.

I can help you free yourself from the baggage of the past, to clear you for a brighter, happier future where you can rise to great heights

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Understanding Trauma

Fri, 01 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0700

Understanding Trauma

Most of us carry some form of trauma. From childhood experiences that gave us a deep seated fear, to PTSD caused by military service. Or even the emotional trauma of being betrayed by someone we trust.

This trauma can manifest in our lives later as we struggle to develop relationships and have unhealthy attitudes to the things that traumatised them in the past.

But I help people with trauma come to terms with the things that caused this pain through confronting the events and people that caused it. Let’s walk through the process now.

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Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

What Are Your Unwanted Conditions?

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0700

What Are Your Unwanted Conditions?

In this episode I am going to talk about the Unwanted Conditions many people have.

You may think of a‘condition’ as an illness, but many people carry emotional, spiritual and

psychological injuries or illnesses that hold them back.

Maybe you struggle with money, but you don’t know why. What is the unwanted condition that’s getting in your way? Do you fear it? do you feel you don’t deserve it? What is the issue that gets in your way?

Or do you self-sabotage in life, or relationships? What are the hidden causes of the behaviours that get in your way?

Let’s take a look.

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If you want to make a

positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I

invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where

we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome

challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on

Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Your First Intuitive Counselling Session

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0700

Your First Intuitive Counselling Session

Today, I will give you a

preview of your first experience working with me.

Many first-time clients

don’t know exactly what they need from me when they come in, so I have a

process of interrogating them to help them verbalize what they need. To help

them take a clear look and follow their hearts to find what they need.

To find what is getting in

their way, what they truly want, and what they truly need.

Work With Me

If you want to make a

positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I

invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where

we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome

challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on

Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

Why Couples Fight, And How I Find the Real Issues

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0700

Why Couples Fight, And How I Find the Real Issues

In today’s episode I will

give you an idea of the methods and processes I use to get couples under strain

to get back on track and communicating.

Most people in relationships

know that life and experience changes the nature of those relationships. And

often the largest issue is breakdowns in communication.

I will explain today how I

overcomes the years of silence and resentment, to open the channels of

communication and affection that brought them together in the first place, and

that they have lost over time.

Work With Me

If you want to make a

positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I

invite you to explore my website, https://healwithkimile.com/ where

we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome

challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

Links and resources:

Website:

https://healwithkimile.com/

My book is available on

Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Re-framing-Your-Life-Becoming-Invincible/dp/1499538952

03: How an Intuitive Counselor Can Improve Your Life

Sun, 04 Feb 2024 17:30:00 -0700

Today, I outline the typical situations I address with most clients. I also shed some light on what it means to be an intuitive counselor.

Join me to learn how I work with those seeking guidance and understanding.

Unpacking Trauma and Fostering Healing

With my clients, I navigate situations from locating lost items to addressing complex emotional landscapes. Understanding the interplay between past and present traumas is crucial for healing relationships. If you struggle with recent betrayal or relationship challenges, exploring unresolved past traumas might be the key to breaking the cycle.

Untangling Present Challenges and Transforming Past Traumas

I specialize in helping people deal with the present and clear the past, guiding my clients through emotional turmoil or repetitive life patterns and tracing their challenges back to their roots, often found in family dynamics. I also help people reframe their past experiences for personal growth. My mission is to empower my clients, providing clarity in the present and transforming the past for a resilient and fulfilling future.

Navigating Emotional Well-being

I teach my clients the difference between truth and opinion. We tend to create meaning from our past experiences, often weighed down with emotions or judgments. So, I emphasize the importance of recognizing the facts and differentiating them from personal opinions. I assist my clients in viewing their past through the lens of objective truth, guiding them to break free from self-judgment and emotional distress to foster more grounded and resilient emotional health.

Resolving Upsets and Quandaries

I teach my clients how to manage negative mental energies like upsets and quandaries. Living with unresolved troubles can drain our energy, causing us constant unease. I highlight the importance of processing emotions, resolving past disagreements, and navigating complex situations through pros and cons analysis. My goal is to guide clients toward a more peaceful existence by addressing those negative energies and providing strategies for fulfillment in challenging situations.

Fear, Trauma, Guilt, and Shame

I guide my clients through addressing and healing fear, trauma, guilt, and shame. Through a timeline exploration and Soul Retrieval process, they confront their past traumas, liberate themselves from emotional burdens, and experience profound healing. I emphasize the importance of addressing guilt and shame, particularly in religious communities, encouraging my clients to journal and undergo a soul retrieval process for transformative outcomes.

Overcoming Guilt and Shame in Relationships

Guilt and shame, often rooted in religious or family dynamics, can hinder our self-expression. Feeling guilty about our thoughts or perceived imperfections may lead to destructive habits. Exploring suppressed emotions through a timeline and soul retrieval process allows for transformative healing. Distinguishing between warranted and unwarranted guilt, fostering self-love, and prioritizing authentic self-expression is essential for breaking free from the cycle of playing small for the comfort of others.

Navigating Unseen Challenges

In a remarkable instance, my intuition led me to share my concerns about the daughter of a client facing potential danger. That revelation led to the arrest of the father, saving the child from harm. Another instance involved sensing the imminent death of a man, prompting me to advise his father to rush him to the emergency room. Swift action saved his life. Those experiences highlight the impact of intuitive counseling, where connecting with the divine guides us in unforeseen ways, leading to life-changing outcomes.

Spiritual Guidance and Healing Presence

Clients seeking emotional release and spiritual validation get drawn to the healing energy I exude. Our spiritual force fields create a particular atmosphere, and my sensitivity often allows me to sense significant events, like the 9/11 tragedy, in advance. I have even worked with spirits seeking resolution. I believe in the intuitive abilities inherent in all of us and advocate for their development. My clients appreciate my non-judgmental approach to spiritual matters, making my space a haven for exploration and growth.

Healing through Spirituality and Prayer

I love what I do, combining intuitive counseling with the gift of tongues to pray and bring people blessings. Clients often reach out for spiritual support during challenging times, and I have witnessed the power of prayer in seemingly impossible situations. Whether providing protection during surgeries, offering solace to those in pain, or connecting with departed loved ones, my goal is to alleviate suffering and guide people toward spiritual solutions.

Links and resources:

Heal with Kimile

My book is available on Amazon: Reframing Your Life: A Guide to Becoming Invincible

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02: How to Realign Your Life Through the Clearing Process

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Today, I offer a glimpse into my approach during one-on-one sessions with my clients.

As a practitioner committed to fostering positive transformations, I blend intuitive methods and clearing technology as the essence of my work, which revolves around guiding individuals on a journey of self-discovery, realignment, and empowerment.

Join me as I unravel the intricacies of my approach, emphasizing the importance of conscious choices and personal growth in my sessions.

The Life Realignment Process

My use of clearing technology, an intuitive and effective method that has delivered swift results for over two decades, is what truly sets me apart as a therapist. I call it the Life Realignment Process, and it's particularly beneficial for individuals stuck in a roller coaster of challenges, struggling with consistency, or picking the right people in their lives.

Addressing Energy-Draining Patterns

One significant aspect I address is the pattern of attracting energy-draining individuals or oppressive people. Many clients find themselves thriving when single but encountering chaos in relationships. I guide them to be cautious about choosing people who may sap their energy, emphasizing the impact of surrounding oneself with healthy individuals for overall well-being.

Teenagers and Influences

Energy-draining patterns are especially relevant for teenagers navigating influences that could lead to a drop in their power and status, ultimately affecting their identity. Teenagers often face challenges with their affiliations and energy alignment, influencing their behavior and choices. I assist them in identifying and addressing those influences, helping them unplug from negative energies and make more conscious choices.

Life Realignment Process

In my sessions, I initiate a Life Realignment Process, exploring my clients' timelines to identify patterns of success, failure, relationships, and personal challenges. By examining their past experiences, we can uncover recurring themes and work toward realigning their lives.

The Power of Self-Discovery

I believe in the power of self-discovery because people inherently know their true passions and purpose, even if they cannot articulate them. My goal is to assist them in creating a life aligned with their authentic selves.

The Anatomy of Dysfunction

My work delves into what I term the Anatomy of Dysfunction, where I address stress-related thought types such as upsets, disagreements, dilemmas, guilt, fear, and repressed traumatic memories.

Overcoming Negative Mental Energies

In my book, Reframing Your Life: A Guide to Becoming Invincible (available on Amazon and Kindle), I provide insights into overcoming negative mental energies. The methodology involves clearing psychic wounds, releasing trapped energy, and enabling individuals to regain control of their lives.

Helping Individuals Find Redemption and Transformation

I specialize in assisting those looking for redemption and transformation, individuals burdened by guilt, addictions, betrayals, or challenging life circumstances.

Finding Fulfilment, Self-Expression, and Authentic Living

My sessions are not just about therapy. They involve cognitive exploration and co-creation, encouraging clients to discover their truths and align with their life purpose. Whether through one-on-one sessions, webinars, or programs like Soulmate Second Chance, I have dedicated my life to guiding individuals toward fulfillment, self-expression, and authentic living.

Work With Me

If you want to make a positive change in your life, do some self-discovery, and realign your life, I invite you to explore my website, healwithkimile.com, where we can embark on a journey together to uncover your true self, overcome challenges, and live a life aligned with your passions and purpose.

01: Introducing Heal with Kimile

Sun, 04 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0700

Hello! I am Kimile Pendleton, an intuitive counselor with over thirty years of experience guiding families, individuals, and couples toward helping each other heal and reigniting the flame in their love lives.

Join me on a path of rediscovery and healing as we work toward nurturing lasting connections.

A Traumatic Start to My Counseling Journey

I started counseling people because I experienced a tragedy during my teenage years. Many intuitive individuals share a common thread of unexpected and unwanted childhood challenges and experiences. Despite all the struggles, those experiences often leave us with psychic or intuitive abilities.

A Life-Altering Moment at 14

When I was 14, a horrifying incident occurred while working on my dad's farm during cherry season. I was trying to operate a tractor without proper training, and I inadvertently caused a terrible accident, leaving a man trapped under the tractor tire. The guilt and trauma haunted me for two years as I wondered whether or not I had killed him.

Dark Years of Self-Torment and Near-Death Experiences

During those two years of uncertainty and guilt, I faced several near-death experiences, from surviving a fire to escaping a car wreck and encountering a physical attack. My self-torment reflected the deep sense of guilt I felt, and I sought forgiveness through my prayers, asking for blessings and spiritual interventions.

Finding Purpose Through Adversity

I eventually gathered the courage to ask my dad if I had killed the man and was told that he survived. That revelation marked the beginning of my spiritual quest. I began seeking answers about life, death, and divine intervention. That traumatic incident became a catalyst for my spiritual exploration and ultimately led me to embrace counseling as my calling.

Tapping into Divine Presence

My approach to counseling involves tapping into the divine during conversations and creating a space for destiny to unfold. Through discernment and intuition, I help individuals navigate their challenges and unravel the unknown energies affecting their lives. The divine presence is a guiding force, offering solace and clarity and helping my clients find breakthroughs.

My Unique Approach

Clients often refer to me as a fairy godmother, an emotional weathervane, or someone who clears their channel. I am known for quick results, and my intuitive counseling style accelerates the resolution process. I work with individuals, couples, and families, addressing issues ranging from anxiety to relationship dynamics and offering sessions and programs for self-improvement.

Specialized Programs

I offer specialized programs, like the Soulmate Second Chance, for couples looking to rekindle their connection. I also have the Intuitive Mastery program, which guides intuitives toward enhancing their abilities through a community of like-minded individuals.

Transforming Family Dynamics

My family sessions focus on breaking autopilot roles within families, challenging established dynamics, and creating new blueprints for a healthier future. Autopilot roles from childhood often shape our adult lives, and I help individuals reinvent those roles to foster their personal growth.

Book Publication

My book, Reframing Your Life: A Guide to Becoming Invincible, is available on Amazon and Kindle. It delves into the concepts and principles that guide my counseling approach.

Healing Sessions and Programs

Those seeking healing, clarity, or personal transformation can book sessions with me through my website, Healwithkimile.com. Whether you are an individual, a couple, or a family, I offer services to support you on your journey to becoming invincible.

Heal With Kimile

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Welcome to "Heal with Kimile," the podcast where healing meets intuition and purpose. Join your host, Kimile Pendleton, a seasoned Professional Intuitive Counselor with over 30 years of experience guiding individuals, couples, and families toward emotional resolution and purposeful living.

Join her on this transformative journey as she delves into the heart of emotionally charged and complex cases, unveiling the profound insights that lie within. Known for her unique ability to connect with the Divine, She’ll share stories, techniques, and wisdom that can help you break free from past burdens, reframe your story, and design a life aligned with your true purpose.

Let's embark on this healing adventure together, unraveling the threads of your past to create a tapestry of purpose and fulfillment.

Subscribe now and join a community of seekers and healers. Remember, your healing journey starts here with Kimile.