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28: Elisha Tichelle - Stress Less, Lead More: What's Your Body Trying to Tell You?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 06 Dec 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, joined by guest Elisha Tichelle, a nervous system alchemist and embodiment coach, explores the transformative power of prioritizing self-care and understanding the nervous system. The conversation covers the importance of integrating stress as a supportive tool rather than a burden.

Elisha shares insights on how neuroscience and personal growth intersect, emphasizing the need to move beyond traditional stress management. This episode is a call to action for women to reclaim their power, redefine success, and build a life aligned with their true desires.

What We Explored This Episode

04:14 Neuroscience and Personal Development

08:27 Beyond Fixing the Nervous System

13:50 Subconscious Beliefs and Personal Empowerment

20:30 Building Capacity for Desires

26:49 Rethinking Stress Management

32:06 Collective Evolution and Personal Responsibility

37:15 Daily Practices for Tuning into the Nervous System

Memorable Quotes

"We were designed to move with stress. You're never going to get rid of your stress system. It's what's keeping you alive. Thank goodness. So we want to integrate it, have it be as supportively adaptive as possible, and we want to use it."

"You cannot fix your nervous system, and regulation tools that are about fixing what you perceive as dysregulation are coping strategies. If you're meditating to get out of discomfort, all you're doing is adding another coping strategy."

"The biggest flex is having a nervous system where choice happens at the level of nervous system. If I'm making conscious choice, it's already because something has organized my body, my thoughts, my emotions in a certain way."

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27: Amie Barsky - Grieving Through the Holidays, And Why That's Okay

Amie Barsky — Fri, 29 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the complex emotions that often surface during the holiday season. She candidly shares her personal experiences with grief and loneliness following the loss of her parents, offering listeners a compassionate space to explore their own feelings.

Amie introduces practical techniques like the Emotional Sanctuary Practice, BSM Practice, and the Here and Now Ritual to help process emotions and stay grounded. Through these methods, she encourages embracing emotions as temporary visitors, not permanent residents. This episode is a supportive guide for anyone navigating emotional challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-care and authentic living.

What We Explored This Episode

02:02 Grief During Holidays

03:34 Personal Loss and Reflection

06:07 Emotional Realization

07:09 Emotional Sanctuary Practice

08:41 BSM Practice

10:12 Here and Now Ritual

Memorable Quotes

"Emotions are energy in motion, and the best thing we can do is allow them to be felt if or when they visit during the holidays. They are not permanent residents."

"You're not broken because you are feeling these emotions. You're navigating your path with courage, and that deserves to be honored and celebrated."

“Choosing to put yourself first and honor your emotions is not selfish; it is the foundation for healing and genuine connection within yourself."

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26: Kevin Benivides - Why Do Nice Guys Make The Worst Partners?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 22 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, welcomes Kevin Benavides, a coach dedicated to helping men embrace their authenticity. Together, they explore the complexities of the "nice guy" syndrome and the transactional nature of niceness and its roots in childhood emotional wounds.

This episode offers insights into how these “nice guy” behaviors manifest in relationships, which often lead to disconnection and unfulfilled lives. This discussion is a valuable resource for anyone seeking to understand and improve their relationship dynamics while maintaining their own emotional well-being.

What We Explored This Episode

05:20 Understanding Nice Guy Syndrome

08:00 Learned Behavior and Emotional Wounding

11:44 Triggers for Change

15:21 Impact on Relationships

19:21 Misconceptions About Nice Guys

25:32 Navigating Change in Relationships

30:33 Inner Child Work

Memorable Quotes

"The reality is, when we get into relationships, until a lot of us do this work on ourselves: man, woman, doesn't matter what gender, it's an inner child in a relationship with another inner child."

"A misconception is, what's wrong with being a nice guy? I want a nice guy in my life. But over time, you're not going to want that because he won't let you go."

“The fear of speaking up, the fear of making decisions, being indecisive, that's all signs of being the nice guy."

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Kevins’ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecanvaswithin/

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25: Amie Barsky - Is Loyalty Killing Your Soul? The Dark Side of Ride-or-Die Love

Amie Barsky — Fri, 15 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, explores the transformative nature of relationships and personal growth. Amie offers tips on recognizing when a relationship has fulfilled its purpose and how to get the courage needed to move forward.

Amie shares her personal journey of navigating relationship stages and highlights the importance of self-care and breaking free from societal pressures. This is an inspiring conversation that challenges conventional narratives and empowers listeners to prioritize their growth and well-being.

What We Explored This Episode

02:03 Recognizing Relationship Endings

05:06 Celebrating Relationship Endings

8:09 Signs a Relationship Isn't Supporting Growth

10:42 Honoring Relationship Cycles

Memorable Quotes

"Relationships do have seasons. Some are meant to last a lifetime, and others are meant to teach us crucial lessons and then release us into the next phase of our journey."

"Even when a relationship ends, we should celebrate the fact that something has been exchanged which has been of value to both people."

"Your growth is not selfish. Your evolution is not a betrayal. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for both ourselves and for others is to acknowledge when a relationship has completed its cycle."

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24: Amie Barsky - Can Selfishness Save Your Sanity

Amie Barsky — Fri, 08 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the importance of prioritizing personal well-being and setting boundaries. This episode focuses on recognizing and protecting oneself from emotional manipulation, a crucial yet often overlooked aspect of emotional intelligence.

She shares personal experiences, including her divorce and challenging friendships, to illustrate the impact of emotional manipulation and the necessity of self-care. Listeners are guided through practical strategies for setting boundaries, trusting intuition, and practicing self-care. She inspires listeners to put themselves first and create fulfilling relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves.

What We Explored This Episode

2:02 Emotional Manipulation

4:34 Personal Experiences

6:36 Family Dynamics

8:07 Protecting Your Energy

10:10 Self-Reflection

12:12 Transformative Lessons

14:14 Empowerment and Choice

Memorable Quotes

"Trusting yourself and speaking up is essential to avoid abandoning yourself and ending up in a resentful situation later on."

"Choosing to protect your energy and set boundaries isn't just about saying no to others; it's about creating authentic connections that honor and respect your boundaries."

"When you prioritize your emotional well-being, you're not only taking care of yourself but also setting an example for others on how you want to be treated."

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23: Sherris Runcie - Self-Love Secrets: Old Wisdom, New World

Amie Barsky — Fri, 01 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky welcomes self-love coach Sherris Runcie to explore the transformative power of self-care and inner guidance. Sherris shares her journey from a conservative upbringing to embracing her intuitive gifts, catalyzed by a life-altering cancer diagnosis.

Together, they discuss the importance of nurturing the central nervous system, aligning with one's inner wisdom, and the role of ancestral teachings in modern self-love practices. Sherris offers practical advice for women seeking to reconnect with their authentic selves amidst societal pressures. Tune in for insights on balancing ancient wisdom with contemporary neuroscience to foster personal growth and empowerment.

What We Explored This Episode

03:52: Reconnecting with inner wisdom and authentic self

05:32: Self-care as a necessity, not a luxury

07:00: Ancestral teachings and their impact on modern life

12:32: Connection between trauma and disease

13:19: Combining ancestral teachings with modern neuroscience

16:08: Understanding generational trauma and ancestral teachings

23:18: Listening to the body's signals and making aligned decisions

24:39: Role of the central nervous system in intuition

28:08: Overcoming excuses and connecting with nature indoors

Memorable Quotes

"Our greatest superpower is knowing who we are, remembering who we came here to be, and not being defined or labeled by anything else other than our personal connection to spirit."

"When your mind is right, when you feel so at peace, your energy connects with the state of flow and abundance, and supernatural things happen."

“You have to get rid of the programming that tells you to do everything by yourself. True success comes from alignment within, and you are worthy of being supported and having rest."

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Sherris’ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joyfulpoet/?hl=en

Sherris’ Website - https://joyfulpoetalchemy.com/

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22: Amie Barsky - A Silent Epidemic: The Lie Women Are Sold

Amie Barsky — Fri, 25 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky tackles the pervasive issue of burnout, particularly among women, and its detrimental effects on various aspects of life.She emphasizes the need to redefine success, moving away from the hustle culture to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, she explores how burnout impacts relationships, mental and physical health, and emotional well-being offering practical tools and advice to help listeners break free from societal pressures and embrace self-care. This episode serves as a supportive guide for those feeling overwhelmed, encouraging them to prioritize their well-being and rediscover joy.

What We Explored This Episode

05:05 The Impact of Burnout on Relationships

06:06 Burnout's Effect on Intimacy and Vulnerability

08:08 The Minefield of Mental Health

09:09 The Overwhelming Reality of Burnout

12:43 The Vicious Cycle of Burnout and Sleep

14:15 Emotional Toll of Burnout

16:16 The Myth of Adulting and Joy

17:17 The Crisis of Burnout and Impossible Standards

18:18 Redefining Success and Setting Boundaries

19:20 Visualization of Energy as a Fountain

Memorable Quotes

"Burnout is not a badge of honor to wear with pride. It's a flashing warning signal to say that something in your life is fundamentally out of balance."

"Success is not measured by how many hours you put in at work or the number of plates you're juggling. Success is the feeling of fulfillment in life, having energy for the people you love and the passions that fill up your own cup."

“Your most important job in the entire world is to keep your fountain flowing. Remember, you're not a human doing; you're a human being, deserving of rest and rejuvenation."

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21: Amie Barsky - Glitter and Grit: My Journey as an NFL Cheerleader

Amie Barsky — Fri, 18 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky explores the highs and lows of her experience as an NFL cheerleader for the Philadelphia Eagles. She candidly shares the excitement of performing in front of thousands and the personal growth she achieved, alongside the challenges of underpayment and intense body image pressures.

She reflects on the sisterhood formed with fellow cheerleaders and the valuable life lessons learned. Beyond this, she highlights the need for change in the industry, advocating for women to recognize their worth beyond appearances. Tune in for an inspiring journey of empowerment and self-discovery.

What We Explored This Episode

1:31 The Realities of Being an NFL Cheerleader

3:34 Intense Audition Process for NFL Cheerleaders

7:07 Sisterhood Through Cheerleading

8:39 The Pressure of Body Image in NFL Cheerleading

12:13 Empowering Women Beyond Appearance

Memorable Quotes

"Understand both the glitter and the grit, but most importantly, know your worth. Stand up for yourself, and never, ever, ever let someone dim your light."

"Your self-worth comes from within, not from what others think of you."

"You are more than capable of creating the life that you dream of."

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20: Amie Barsky - Are Your Thoughts Holding You Hostage?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 11 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative power of self-care and personal growth. Through candid storytelling, Amy shares her journey of overcoming limiting beliefs that stemmed from childhood experiences. She offers insights into how these beliefs can hinder personal and professional success, and emphasizes the importance of expanding one's capacity.

With a focus on healing and empowerment, Amy provides practical tools and advice to help listeners break free from societal pressures and self-doubt. This episode encourages embracing one's true potential and living a vibrant, fulfilling life.

What We Explored This Episode

03:11 Overcoming Societal Standards

05:06 Overcoming Educational Challenges in a Small Town School

06:38 Childhood Struggles with Special Classes

12:12 Continuous Personal Growth

15:16 Recognizing Emotional Blocks

18:33 Expanding Capacity for a Bigger Life

Memorable Quotes

"The deeper the roots are, the taller your tree grows and the bigger the life you can actually hold. If we want a bigger life, we have to expand our capacity—mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and energetically."

"Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts and assumptions about yourself, the world, and other people. They act as defense mechanisms to protect you from failure and disappointment, but they can prevent you from achieving your dreams."

"Healing starts with owning your stories. You cannot heal from something you have not owned. It's about taking ownership and acceptance, saying, 'Yes, this happened,' and moving forward."

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19: Amie Barsky - Put Down Your Sword: Heal the Divide & Find True Partnership

Amie Barsky — Fri, 04 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative journey of self-love and healing. She shares her personal experiences of overcoming emotional barriers and societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of self-care and authenticity. Through candid storytelling, Amie explores how past traumas and learned behaviors can create emotional armor, hindering genuine connections.

She discusses her path to dismantling this armor, fostering self-acceptance, and building trust within herself. This episode offers practical insights and tools for listeners seeking to reclaim their power and cultivate meaningful relationships.

What We Explored This Episode

3:09 Healing Relationships with Masculine Energy

5:05 The Impact of Words and Emotional Armor

6:37 Healing and Compassion at a Co-Ed Retreat

8:09 The Power of Giving and Receiving

9:41 Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships

11:13 Embracing Vulnerability as a Superpower

13:16 The Feminine Movement in 2024

Memorable Quotes

"Love is not a battlefield. It's a garden. To tend to our garden is so important and to remind ourselves that our past does not define us at all."

"I thought wearing the armor of independence made me strong, but the truth is, by shedding it, I became whole."

"Being open is a superpower. Being vulnerable is a superpower. And being empowered and powerful and soft all at once is a beautiful superpower."

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18: Shattering Body Image Myths and Unlock Radical Self-Acceptance

Amie Barsky — Fri, 27 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, has a transformative conversation with women's confidence coach, Bek Antonucci, surrounding topics of body image, self-love, and radical self-expression. Bek shares her journey of overcoming societal pressures and personal challenges, including a transformative experience with a stigmatized health condition, and embracing self-acceptance and empowerment.

The conversation dissects the impact of childhood experiences on body perception, the importance of self-awareness, and the power of vulnerability. Together, they explore how women can reclaim their narratives and find confidence through self-expression and personal growth. This episode offers practical tools and inspiring stories so that you can challenge limiting beliefs and embrace your unique selves.

What We Explored This Episode

03:11 Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

07:35 Reclaiming Feminine Identity

09:46 Navigating Aging with Grace and Acceptance

17:59 The Journey to Body Confidence and Self-Worth

19:42 Journey to Self-Acceptance and Vulnerability

24:23 Personal Journey of Self-Discovery

25:45 The Long Game of True Health

28:08 Future of Body Positivity and Self-Expression

Memorable Quotes

"I know that when I'm slimmer, women will compliment me. I know that when I have a little bit more juice on me, men will love it more. But the misconception is that we're doing it for someone else."

"The more I did this work, the less I reached for food to band-aid any kind of emotion. It's about finding healthier ways to cope with emotions and understanding the role food plays in our lives."

"As women, some of us are so habitual in checking in the mirror, making sure that we look okay, ensuring the fitness routine is on, eating a certain way, and checking for changes or fluctuations. Get curious about where this drive and the need for it came from"

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Bek’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bekantonucci/?hl=en

Bek’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@bekantonucci

Bek’s Spoify - https://open.spotify.com/show/2EteUkpcHX7jcCV1f5wGWh?si=vt_dhgEaRUCErxuKic86vw

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16: Kelly Gardner - Is Selfishness the Secret to Sizzling Relationships?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 13 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes relationship coach Kelly Gardener to discuss the complexities of self-care, relationships, and the fine line between healthy selfishness and narcissism. Kelly shares insights on how self-trust and confidence can lead to deeper connections and healthier relationships.

Together, they explore the impact of societal pressures on women, the importance of setting and holding boundaries, and how to cultivate sensuality and self-worth independent of external validation. This episode is a thought-provoking dive into modern relationships, offering practical advice and inspiring stories to help listeners prioritize their own needs and foster meaningful connections.

What We Explored This Episode

03:57 Healthy Selfishness in Relationships

07:46 Socialization of Boys and Girls

09:37 The Paradox of Selfishness in Love

13:56 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships

16:37 The Connection Between Self-Trust and Confidence

20:01 Cultivating Sensuality and Self-Worth

22:00 Societal Standards and Body Changes

26:26 Defining Confidence

Memorable Quotes

"The ugliest parts of me come out only with the people I trust the most. It's a paradox that the deepest, ugliest parts of my being surface because I trust you enough to see them. This reality, though unfortunate, is an opportunity for growth—for me and for us together."

"Boundaries are not walls; they are permeable membranes that allow for connection. A good boundary doesn't require the other person's participation; it's about what you will do if your needs aren't met."

"Healthy selfishness in a relationship means looking at how the issues that arise are reflections of your own experiences and triggers. It's about taking responsibility and getting curious about your own patterns."

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Kelly’s Website: https://www.kellygardner.com/about-me

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15: Amie Barsky - Who's Really in Charge of Your Life? Decoding Your Inner Parts

Amie Barsky — Fri, 06 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative practice of Internal Family Systems (IFS), also known as parts work. Amie shares her personal journey and beliefs on how understanding and harmonizing the different parts of oneself can lead to greater self-awareness, acceptance, and compassion.

Through practical tools, inspiring stories, and expert advice, she expresses how to achieve freedom from limiting beliefs and societal pressures. This episode offers a deep dive into how IFS can help you make conscious decisions, improve relationships, and lead a more vibrant, fulfilling life.

What We Explored This Episode

01:52 Core Themes: Internal Family Systems (IFS)

02:32 Family Influence On Personal Development

04:07 Unveiling Unconscious Blocks

05:38 Understanding Your True Core Self

06:36 The Common Parts of You

10:15 Deep Compassion for One's Parts

Memorable Quotes

"When you have a loving relationship with your parts, they do their jobs when it's appropriate, and then they step back when they're not needed. This balance allows you to make decisions from a conscious, centered state of awareness, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling life."

"Your true self is the core of you, which contains your leadership qualities, such as compassion, perspective, decision making, curiosity, and confidence. When you lead from this centered state, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and clarity."

"All parts are good. They're actually trying to help you in one way or another. Even when their actions seem counterproductive, they are attempting to protect you from harm or discomfort, and understanding this can lead to profound personal growth."

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14: Amie Barsky - Top Secret for a Vibrant Life: 3 Must-Knows to Get There

Amie Barsky — Fri, 30 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky discusses the connection between inner work and living a vibrant life. Amie shares her personal journey and professional insights as a Nervous System And Trauma Master Coach, emphasizing the need to take ownership of one's life and build a deep relationship with oneself.

She discusses the significance of understanding and processing stored experiences in the body, challenging limiting beliefs, and fostering patience and faith in the healing process. If you are ready to let go of lingering self-doubt, anxiety or burnout, this episode is perfect to get you started!

What We Explored This Episode

02:00 - Stepping Away From Interviews

03:43 - Living A Vibrant Life

05:03 - Core Theme: Inner Work

06:24 - The Connection Between Healing And Willingness

09:33 - Building Trust Within Body

10:25 - Unlocking A Level Of Intimacy With Self

Memorable Quotes

"Our bodies don't measure the experiences. They just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience.”

"Healing requires willingness—the willingness to challenge your basic beliefs of who you think you are. Whether it's people-pleasing tendencies, self-doubt, anxiety, or past trauma, all of it is connected."

"It's so important to understand that it's you building a relationship with yourself and your inner child, all the versions of you, to create that safety, to say, 'I am worthy, period. I add value to the world just by being me, period.'"

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13: Brandan Padilla - The 5-Minute Mom Reset: How Putting Yourself First Changes Everything

Amie Barsky — Fri, 23 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Master Coach Brandan Padilla to discuss the challenges faced by ambitious mothers. Together, they explore the subtle signs of burnout, the importance of self-regulation, and practical strategies for creating balance amidst busy schedules.

Having experience as a solo mama, Brandan shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood and time for herself. She offers insights on recognizing and addressing the early cues of stress, and emphasizes that self care is not a luxury but is an essential practice for well-being.

This episode is packed with actionable advice and inspiring stories aimed at helping mothers prioritize themselves and foster a healthier family dynamic.

What We Explored This Episode

02:09 Self-Care for Busy Moms

06:33 Signs of Dysregulation in Parenting

08:36 Window of Tolerance in Nervous System

10:53 Self-Regulation as a Tool for Self-Care

16:14 Transforming Relationship with Self Care

18:28 Involving Children in Self-Care Practices

24:10 Teaching Children Emotional Expression

29:21 Dealing with Mom Guilt

Memorable Quotes

"It's imperative that we, mamas and women, put ourselves first. If my cup is full, then anything that spills over, that's in the saucer, everyone else can drink from."

"If you are suffering from mama guilt, remember the three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. Be aware of your feelings, accept them, and then take action to change the situation."

"Enroll your child in your self-care practice. It's going to teach them beautiful practices. You're being a generational code breaker, giving them a better future."

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/beingbrandan/

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12: Casey Warwick - Is Your Intuition the Secret to Your Six-Figure Business?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 16 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Casey Warwick, a business embodiment coach who is revolutionizing the way women approach success in business. Casey shares her incredible journey from a military career, cut short by injury, to becoming a personal trainer and, eventually, a thriving business coach.

Casey’s story is filled with raw honesty and powerful insights about overcoming personal trauma and the importance of intuition and energetics in achieving success. Casey dives into the common blocks women face in business and how to overcome them, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to confront and heal past traumas.

This conversation is packed with practical advice and heartfelt wisdom that you don’t want to miss. So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable, and join us in on this empowering discussion.

What We Explored This Episode

00:00 Mental Frameworks on Guilt and Shame

02:36 Casey Warwick's Journey to Becoming a Business Embodiment Coach

04:44 Healing and Business Transformation

18:27 The Impact of Negative Influences on Women's Success

23:53 The Healing Journey

36:04 Mental Frameworks on Abundance

41:21 Casey's Business Transformation Through Stillness

Memorable Quotes

"Guilt reveals, shame conceals. Those who are guilty will unconsciously see things, so it comes up. Whereas those who are in shame, who are often the victim of the circumstance, they conceal it."

"I realized that what I was doing in business was actually a reflection of who I was as a woman. It wasn't anything to do with my strategy or how I was showing up in business. It was all the stuff that was energetically going on for me."

"I challenge anyone listening: if you're not where you want to be, identify whose voice is holding you back. That voice will control you until you take ownership of it and transform it into your own."

Episode Resources

Embodied Business Playbook by Casey Warwick- https://www.casewarwick.com/playbook

Embodied leadership Quiz- https://www.casewarwick.com/embodied-leadership-quiz

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Website- https://www.casewarwick.com/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/casey.warwick

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/casewarwick/

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11: Kari Azuma - Can Inner Safety Boost Your Ability to Hold Boundaries?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 09 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes nervous system leadership coach Kari Azuma. They delve into the intricacies of the nervous system and its impact on daily life, particularly for women. Kari explains how chronic stress affects our bodies and the importance of cultivating inner safety to set and maintain boundaries. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding and addressing deep-rooted patterns of safety and threat, often established in childhood.

Kari shares insights on how to shift from a problem-oriented mindset to a solution-oriented one, emphasizing the need for self-compassion and resourcing oneself to stand in authority. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of nervous system regulation and personal growth.

What We Explored This Episode

05:09 Nervous System and Safety

18:30 Fawning Response in the Nervous System

28:52 Nervous System Work and Personal Evolution

36:42 Importance of Self-Care and Connecting with Ancestors

Memorable Quotes

"We don't have a nervous system; we are a nervous system. It's always looking for a threat, called neuroception, which means the nervous system is always listening, even when we're not thinking about it."

"Boundaries are the most activating act for our nervous system to carry out because they require us to stand in our authority and power. It can feel like confrontation, but they are also the most connecting aspect of a relationship."

"My work is really grounded in embodied leadership, rites of passage work for women, and deep root nervous system work. The combination of these is about rediscovering a deep, innate trust in yourself and building that inner world into a strong base."

Episode Resources

Polyvagal Theory - A theory that explains how the nervous system responds to stress and trauma - https://www.stephenporges.com/

Kimberly Ann Johnson - Expert in nervous system work - https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/

Connect With Kari

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kariazuma/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kari.Azuma.3?mibextid=LQQJ4d

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10: Lorena Martinez - Is Your DNA Hijacking Your Self-Care?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 02 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes clinical psychologist Lorena Martinez to explore the intersection of psychology and ancestry. Lorena delves into how generational trauma can shape our present lives, offering insights into family dynamics and the importance of reclaiming one's place in the family tree.

The conversation covers practical methods for emotional release, such as somatic practices and ancestral healing, and emphasizes the significance of self-care. Also discussed are the challenges and rewards of breaking generational cycles, particularly for mothers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and overcome inherited emotional patterns.

What We Explored This Episode

06:14 Psychology meets Ancestry

18:24 Ancestral Healing and Generational Trauma

20:13 Intergenerational Trauma

22:47 Generational Emotional Suppression

28:56 Acceptance and Forgiveness in Relationships

33:23 Breaking Generational Cycles

34:12 Somatics and Emotional Releasing

Memorable Quotes

“The way we reclaim our power is when we take our place in our family tree. When we have been our sisters' mothers, our mothers' mothers, or when we haven't taken our role as the child, we can’t reclaim whatever life has for us."

"When your grandmother was pregnant with your mother at four months, the egg that would become you was already there. So whatever your grandma lived through, you were already receiving those codes."

"Our parents gave us what was given to them. Understanding that helps to step into a place of peace with what happened. They did what they knew, and we can choose to break the cycle."

Episode Mentioned

Rupert Sheldrake's Research on Morphic Fields - https://www.sheldrake.org/

Family Constellation by Bert Hellinger - https://www.hellinger.com/en/family-constellation/

Connect With Lorena

Lorena’s Website - https://www.thegoodkarmalife.com/

Lorena’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/people/ThegoodKarmalife

Lorena’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/loremarti/?hl=en

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9: Are Your Relationship Patterns Sabotaging Your Love Life?

Amie Barsky — Fri, 26 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Emotional IQ expert Joshua Wenner. They dive into the intricacies of emotional regulation, exploring how high amounts of stress impacts our brain and behavior. Joshua shares his journey from grief and trauma work to helping high achievers heal their relationships. The conversation covers codependency, attachment styles, and societal expectations that hinder self-care.

Joshua offers practical advice on daily regulation practices and the importance of self-care for maintaining healthy relationships. Tune in for insights on transforming your life and love story through emotional awareness and self-prioritization.

What We Explored This Episode

0:00 Daily Emotional Regulation Framework

13:35 Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships

21:52 Nervous System Responses in Relationships

27:03 Mental Frameworks for Moving from Codependency to Independence

29:04 Societal Expectations and Women's Self-Prioritization

30:05 Men's Self-Care and Nurturing Practices

35:02 Embracing Contraction and Expansion in Personal Growth

36:03 Joshua's Relationship Dynamics and Personal Growth

39:12 Embracing Duality and Grief Work

41:09 Emotional Regulation Through Breathing

Memorable Quotes

"When you're high-stressed, you move into the back of your brain, which shuts off compassion, empathy, and rational thinking. Getting regulated moves you to the front of the brain, where you can consciously choose how to respond."

"In codependent dynamics, the anxious person leans in with controlling energy, while the avoidant person pulls away. This yo-yo pattern continues until both learn to regulate their nervous systems and address their wounds."

"Life involves a constant contraction and expansion. Embracing both joy and grief, excitement and frustration, allows us to navigate life's ebb and flow more effectively."

Episode Resources

Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048

Connect with Joshua

Joshua’s Website - https://joshuawenner.com/

Joshua’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuawenner/

Joshua’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en

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8: Why This Mother's Shaved Head Marked Her Journey To Full Self Acceptance

Amie Barsky — Fri, 19 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, welcomes Susy Schieffelin, the founder of The Copper Vessel and The Sound Healers Academy. Susy shares her transformative journey from a high-paced corporate life in New York City to becoming a renowned sound healer in Los Angeles. She opens up about her struggles with alopecia, addiction, and the pivotal moment that led her to sobriety and self-love. Susy discusses the profound impact of sound baths, Reiki, and Kundalini yoga on her healing process.

The conversation also delves into balancing masculine and feminine energies, redefining beauty standards, and the importance of self-care, especially as a mother and businesswoman. Tune in for an inspiring story of resilience, self-acceptance, and the power of holistic healing practices.

What We Explored This Episode

3:26: Susy's Journey to Self-Acceptance

5:37: Susy's Struggle with Addiction and Recovery

14:15:Core Themes

21:36:Finding Balance in Masculine and Feminine Energies

25:17:Amie's Story of Missed Opportunity

29:49:Advice on Self-Care for Mothers

32:44:The Importance of Self-Care for Parents

36:38:Creating a Safe Nervous System

40:53:Susy's Daily Cacao Ritual

Memorable Quotes

"Becoming a mother shifted so much for me because before that, I was very good about my self care, but I was also quite rigid. Like, every morning it was sitting on my sheepskin for an hour to 2 hours, doing my perfect breath work and my chanting and my Kundalini practice. And when you have a newborn and when you have little kids, it's not realistic to do that."

"I moved from New York to California. And that was when I experienced my first sound bath. I had already been to rehab. I had already started meditating. I had already begun a daily gratitude practice, but I couldn't stay fully sober. When I moved to California and went to my first sound bath, it felt like something shifted within me."

"I trust so deeply that the universe will put the person in front of me who can support me, can support my babies, so that I can fill up my cup and be the best possible mom to these little ones. And it's a gift to let other people love you and hold you. It feels good to help people. It feels good for him to get to care for the kids."

Resources Mentioned

The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Surrender-Experiment-Journey-Lifes-Perfection/dp/080414110X

Connect with Susy

Susy’s Website - https://www.thesoundhealersacademy.com/

Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecoppervessel

Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thesoundhealersacademy/

Susy’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheCopperVessel

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7: Decoding Your Inner World: Healing Your Past to Empower Your Future with Andrea Tessier

Amie Barsky — Fri, 12 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes master coach Andrea Tessier to explore the profound impact of inner child work, somatics, and internal family systems (IFS) on personal growth and self-worth. Andrea shares her journey from a regimented teaching career to becoming a certified master coach, emphasizing the importance of understanding and integrating our inner parts.

The conversation delves into how childhood trauma shapes our nervous system and influences adult behavior, offering practical insights into building self-trust and harmonious relationships. Listeners will gain valuable tools to transform self-sabotage into self-love and enhance their connection to intuition and creativity.

What We Explored This Episode

00:05:40: Explanation of Internal Family Systems (IFS)

00:06:15: Impact of Childhood Trauma on the Nervous System

00:12:58: Understanding Parts Work in IFS

00:18:13: Breakdown of Manager, Firefighter, and Exile Parts

00:25:24: Connection Between Inner Child and Self-Trust

00:30:10: Navigating Relationships and Partner Dynamics

00:35:13: The Importance of Self-Trust and Integration

00:42:57: Distinguishing Between Pullback and Procrastination

Memorable Quotes

"Our society is really built on this concept of willpower, that we should just be able to will ourselves to do something, be something, know better, do better. And when we can't, we go into shame and guilt and rigidity around it. When we're trying to will parts of us into submission, we're actually disregarding some really important wisdom and creating a level of self-trust."

"Firefighters are extreme protectors. If your house is on fire, you want to call the firefighters—they are going to put that out. Firefighters in our internal system can show up as addiction, eating disorders, or explosive rage and anger. They are parts of us that we feel are really extreme, and they are protecting a younger part of us."

"The inner child is like the most critical piece. Yes, it holds the pain and trauma and hurt, but it is also responsible for our creativity, innocence, play, and aliveness. The more we can awaken the inner child, the more we have direct access to that, and who doesn't want that? Because that's where life is really good."

Resources Mentioned

Clear Mind Clear Path: An Unconventional Guide to Decision Making for Overthinkers by Andrea Tessier - https://www.andreatessier.com/clear-mind-clear-path

Connect With Andrea

Andrea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tessier.andrea/

Connect With Amie

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6: Breaking the Bank of Self-Doubt: How Your Net Worth affects Your Self-Worth with Katy Chen Mazzara

Amie Barsky — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes financial wellness coach Katy Chen Mazzara. Katy shares her unique perspective on money, emphasizing its role as an exchange of energy and its connection to self-worth. The conversation explores how childhood experiences shape our financial beliefs and the importance of aligning money decisions with personal values. Katy offers practical advice on managing finances, including tracking income and expenses, and the significance of slowing down before making major financial decisions. She also discusses the emotional aspects of debt and the importance of self-forgiveness in achieving financial freedom. This episode is packed with insights to help listeners develop a healthier relationship with money.

What We Explored This Episode

00:05:33: Connection Between Self-Worth and Finances

00:10:17: Understanding Childhood Money Stories

00:13:29: Defining Money and Its Value

00:14:20: Practical and Energetic Approaches to Money

00:16:08: Methods for Tracking Finances

00:17:32: Making Money Conversations Fun

00:19:04: Discussing Money in Relationships

00:21:52: Emotional Connection to Money

00:22:15: Concept of Money Not Being Real

00:24:13: Evaluating Purchases and Personal Value Systems

00:26:03: Aligning Money Decisions with Core Values

00:32:47: Steps to Manage Newfound Wealth

Memorable Quotes

"Money represents freedom, and that's all it represents. The more money I have, the more freedom I have. It's that freedom of choice as well."

"Our self-worth is about who we are and what we bring to the table. If you know this, you can let things go a lot easier. Your financial success is built upon how good you feel about yourself."

"The faster way to pay off debts is applying two things: slowing it down and only applying as much as you need to per month, and doing an energetic clearing out by forgiving yourself for those debts and releasing feelings of shame and guilt."

Resources Mentioned

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/

Connect With Katy

Katy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katychenmazzara/

Katy’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-chen-mazzara/

Katy’s Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/767774630314880

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5: Unlocking Emotional Intimacy with Sam Gibbs Morris

Amie Barsky — Fri, 28 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes special guest Sam Gibbs Morris, a Leader in Self-development, Psychedelics, and Breathwork. Together, they explore the dynamics of creating safe and trusting environments in romantic relationships. Sam shares his personal journey of overcoming pain, addiction, and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies both internally and externally. The conversation delves into the collective wounds of men and women, the significance of vulnerability, and practical tools for fostering deeper connections. Listeners will gain insights into breathwork, heart-opening practices, and the importance of maintaining open communication in relationships.

What We Explored This Episode

00:06:17: Sam's Journey and Relationship with Masculine and Feminine Energies

00:09:25: The Importance of Masculine Holding the Feminine

00:15:10: The Importance of Feminine Holding the Masculine

00:19:48: Encouraging Vulnerability in Men

00:25:54: Communication and Addressing Issues in Relationships

00:31:03: Unexpected Challenges in Conscious Relationships

00:34:46: Embodiment Practices for Connection

00:37:15: Sam's Morning Routine and Personal Practices

00:38:26: Supporting Each Other's Nervous Systems in Relationships

Memorable Quotes

"It's so important to cultivate acceptance and self-love along the journey, even if it doesn't look like what society or our parents think it should."

"One of the things that we get to be aware of is our core wounds when we come into relationships. A lot of times, those wounds become weapons. We weaponize an abandonment wound or a rejection wound, and it falls into gaslighting or making the other person feel less than for having their experience."

"The work is just beginning. You can do a ton of work by yourself, but the next level of work is when you meet someone and get into a relationship. The relationship will be the ceremony, and your willingness to stay in that discomfort through it is the basis of what conscious means in a conscious relationship."

Resources Mentioned

Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma - A book that explores the nature of trauma and how it affects the body and mind.

Connect With Sam

Sam’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/samgibbsmorris/

Sam’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/samgibbsmorris369

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4: Manifest True Happiness with Dr. Erin Haskell Unveiled

Amie Barsky — Fri, 21 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Dr. Erin Haskell, a world-renowned leader and Doctor of Divinity. They delve into the intricacies of self-love, spirituality, and the science behind ending personal suffering. Dr. Haskell shares her journey from trauma to spiritual awakening, emphasizing the importance of daily spiritual practice and the pitfalls of seeking external validation. The conversation explores how to break free from societal programming and align with one's true self. This episode is a deep dive into the transformative power of inner work and the pursuit of genuine self-love.

What We Explored This Episode

00:00:00: Introduction and Welcome

00:05:04: Understanding the Doctor of Divinity

00:07:57: Erin's Personal Journey and Overcoming Obstacles

00:10:35: The Myth of Spirituality and Manifestation

00:14:30: The Source of Suffering

00:17:30: Breaking the Cycle of Suffering

00:20:22: The Trap of Self-Love Industry

00:23:19: Navigating Divine Self-Love and Human Experience

00:26:33: The Importance of Daily Spiritual Practice

00:28:01: The Future of Spiritual Practice and Mental Health

00:29:27: How to Connect with Dr. Erin Haskell

00:31:00: Erin's Daily Spiritual Practice

00:32:08: Erin's Excitement for Future Research and Practices

00:32:49: Closing Remarks and Gratitude

Memorable Quotes

"The myth of spirituality is that when I become spiritual enough, I'm going to be able to manifest anything that I want. The truth is, all the good things and all the bad things are not necessarily me just using the power of my mind to manifest, but rather for the evolution of the species."

"All suffering comes from basically putting your power outside of yourself and resisting what is. The moment we do that, it's just an ongoing suffering. It never, ever works."

"The true self-love can only come from one place, and it's from the divine, beloved source within. You have to go into self-love without one need, without one thing you want to manifest, with a pure, pure heart."

Episode Resources

Spiritual Psychology School - Founded by Dr. Erin Haskell, offering courses and certifications in spiritual psychology - https://www.spiritualpsychologyschool.com/

Connect with Dr. Erin

Dr. Erin’s Website - https://www.drerin.tv/

Dr. Erin’s Show Website - https://www.drerinshow.com/

Dr. Erin’s LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/drerin/

Dr. Erin’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinfallhaskell/?hl=en

Dr. Erin’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/erinfallhaskell/

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3: From Trauma to Triumph: Heartbreaking Confessions with Drea Aguilar

Amie Barsky — Fri, 14 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0800

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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Andrea Aguilar, an embodiment coach and psychedelic facilitator, to discuss the importance of self-care and balancing masculine and feminine energies. Andrea shares her personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and the impact of losing her mother at a young age. The conversation delves into the concept of embodiment, the significance of listening to one's body, and the transformative power of psychedelics. Andrea also offers insights on how to approach psychedelics safely and the importance of finding the right facilitator. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of self-discovery, healing, and the practices that support personal growth.

What We Explored This Episode

00:00:32: Introduction by Amie Barsky

00:02:36: Andrea Aguilar's Background and Journey

00:04:32: The Concept of Embodiment

00:07:07: The Role of the Nervous System in Embodiment

00:09:47: The Practice of Embodiment and Authenticity

00:17:03: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

00:24:43: Andrea's Personal Story of Loss and Healing

00:31:31: Introduction to Psychedelics for Healing

00:35:33: Finding the Right Facilitator for Psychedelic Experiences

00:38:05: How to Connect with Andrea Aguilar

00:39:10: Andrea's Daily Self-Care Practice

00:40:04: Closing Remarks and Gratitude

Memorable Quotes

“When we become an embodied leader, an embodied mother, embodied sister, it is being able to hold the fullness of our lives with grace, with compassion and dignity and reverence.”

"We are shifting into the next level of our human consciousness. And how we do that is we can start to play and manipulate the chemicals in our brain that bring us back to oneness, to a remembrance of who we are and why we're here."

"For most of my life, the word intuition didn't exist. The word self-love didn't exist. I was so programmed to believe that if I give everything outside myself, everyone else and everything, my full and divided attention and love and appreciation outside myself, that was what I was supposed to do."

Episode Resources

Preparing for Transformation (Free E-Book) -

Connect with Drea

Drea’s Website - https://www.consciousmother.com/

Drea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/conscious.mother/

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2: An Orgasmic Edge: Tantra Techniques & Hormone Health with Kim Bilyk

Amie Barsky — Fri, 07 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the importance of self-care and breaking free from societal pressures with guest Kim Bilk, a women's hormone health expert. Kim shares her journey from a high-stress lifestyle that led to losing her period, to discovering holistic approaches for hormone healing and womb health. The conversation covers a range of topics including sexual reflexology, the significance of menstrual cycles, and the practice of yoni steaming. Kim also introduces the concept of cosmic breath and its benefits for connecting with one's feminine energy. This episode is packed with practical advice and empowering insights for women looking to prioritize their well-being.

What We Explored This Episode

00:00:32: Introduction and Welcome

00:03:09: Kim Bilk's Background and Journey

00:07:19: Understanding Womb and Yoni

00:10:26: Trauma and Its Impact on the Pelvic Area

00:19:35: Introduction to Sexual Reflexology

00:25:19: Yoni Steaming and Its Benefits

00:30:28: Importance of Sharing and Sisterhood

00:32:04: Daily Practices for Connection and Gratitude

00:37:45: Kim's Daily "I Come First" Practice

00:38:27: Closing Remarks and Gratitude

Memorable Quotes

"Our period actually is a symbol of our health. Some people will say it's our fifth vital sign. So I did compete again, and I didn't lose my period. The big thing was really just pulling back on stressors in my life."

“Yoni is the Sanskrit word for womb. Think of where we carry children, right? Just in our pelvic area, just below the belly button. Everything's not the vagina. The vagina is internal. The external is the vulva. We have a uterus, we have fallopian tubes. So the womb just encompasses that whole area."

"Cosmic breathing is a form of breath work. Place your hands on your womb, just below the belly button, and take an inhale, imagining the breath of air coming right from your clit. Breathe in, let it come up the front side of your body to the crown of your head. As you exhale, let it go down the backside of your head, down through the neck, spine, tailbone, looping around."

Episode Resources

Carbon38 - Mentioned as a fitness and wellness brand - https://www.carbon38.com

Connect with Kim

Kim’s Website - Use "WOMB15" for 15% off at https://www.sacredwombcycles.com

Kim’s Instagram - https://.instagram.com/kimbilyk_

Kim’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kim.bilyk

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1: Why Smart Women Stay in Dead-End Relationships with Megan Thoma

Amie Barsky — Fri, 31 May 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this inaugural episode, host Amie Barsky welcomes Megan Thoma, a renowned dating coach who specializes in helping women navigate the complexities of relationships. Megan shares her insights on breaking free from societal expectations, healing from toxic relationships, and recognizing the red flags and green flags in dating. She delves into the science behind why women often stay in relationships past their expiration date and discusses the concept of a "loveability level." The conversation also explores how early childhood experiences with caregivers influence adult relationships, the importance of defining personal values and standards in relationships, and practical advice on building self-trust and effectively communicating needs and desires in a relationship.

What We Discussed

00:01:23 - Megan's Journey into Becoming a Dating Coach

00:03:21 - Why We Choose to See the Good in People

00:06:03 - The Importance of Grace in Relationships

00:07:02 - Communicating Needs in Relationships

00:08:30 - Setting Standards and Values in Relationships

00:10:36 - The Role of Pheromones in Attraction

00:11:28 - Understanding Red Flags in Relationships

00:13:51 - The Impact of Familiarity in Relationships

00:15:41 - Building Self-Trust

00:17:27 - Listening to Your Body's Signals

00:19:00 - The Importance of Trusting Yourself

00:21:10 - Small Practices for Building Self-Trust

00:23:34 - Healing Old Patterns and Owning Your Voice

00:25:28 - Practicing Vulnerability and Communication

00:27:19 - The Importance of Expressing True Desires

00:29:27 - Practicing with Safe People

00:31:19 - The Power of Microscopic Truth in Communication

00:34:05 - The Importance of Vulnerability for Connection

00:36:05 - How to Connect with Megan Thoma

00:38:10 - Megan's Personal Practices for Self-Care

Memorable Guest Quotes

On Falling in Love with Potential:

"We excel at falling in love with potential due to our early experiences with inconsistent caregivers. As children, we cling to the hope that 'maybe someday' they will fulfill our needs. This pattern often continues into adulthood, where we find ourselves repeatedly drawn to potential rather than reality in our romantic relationships."

On Expressing Needs in Relationships:

"There's a difference between trying to change someone and expressing your needs. It's about communicating what makes you feel loved and seen. For instance, I value words of affirmation and small gestures like notes, which might not come naturally to everyone. But when I share this openly, it invites my partner to meet my needs in ways that are meaningful to me."

On Building Self-Trust:

"Building self-trust involves listening to your intuition and honoring the small, often overlooked internal prompts. Whether it's taking a different route or grabbing a coffee, these actions reinforce your ability to trust your own decisions. Over time, this practice strengthens your internal guidance system, making you more confident in your choices and more attuned to your true desires."

Connect with Megan

Megan’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/megan_thoma/

Megan’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/megan.thoma.7/

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Welcome to I Come First

Amie Barsky — Tue, 02 Apr 2024 09:00:00 -0800

Welcome to the "I Come First" Podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish - it’s self-care, and it is essential.

Yes, you heard me right, we are flippin’ the script!

Are you tired of being the superhero for everyone else while your own needs take a backseat? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out, wondering where in the world your own spark went?

If you're nodding along to that, then buckle up sister, because you found your tribe!

Hi I'm Amie Barsky, nervous system and trauma master coach and breathwork facilitator, here to guide you on a journey of self-care and empowerment.

From a young age, I bought into the belief that being the 'good girl,' meant putting myself last. I also followed the rules - convinced that the only way to success was constant hustling, pushing, proving, and people-pleasing.

I tried to live up to those unrealistic standards & it left me in overdrive, battling overwhelm, anxiety, spouts of depression and disconnection from my true self.

I have supported hundreds of women worldwide as they break free from similar cycles, and now it’s your turn!

This is the podcast for ambitious women who are tired of feeling overworked, under appreciated and are done putting themselves last! This is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a roadmap to help you break free from the pressure of societal norms, understand your nervous system and reconnect to your fierce inner strength.

Join us on this wild ride as we rewrite the rules, and share the secrets to putting yourself first. Each week, we’ll be sharing practical tools, advice, inspiring stories and unstoppable energy.

Let’s make “I Come First” your daily mantra and reclaim your zest for life!

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