More Human More Kind: Guidance for Parents & Allies of LGBTQ Teens

"My Kid Thinks They're Gay!" What This Moment Asks From Parents

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0500

What do you say in the moment your child tells you, “I think I’m gay, bi, or trans”… when everything inside you reacts?

As a parent, you want to get it right; but when your child opens up about their identity, the pressure to respond perfectly can feel overwhelming. This episode meets you in that exact moment, the fear, the love, the uncertainty, and shows you how to stay grounded instead of reactive, so you can protect the relationship that matters most.

Learn the one simple sentence that instantly builds trust and emotional safety with your child
Discover how to shift from urgency and fear into calm, grounded presence
Understand how small, intentional responses can strengthen your connection in life-defining moments

Press play now to learn the one powerful shift that helps your child feel safe with you no matter what they share.

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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection.

For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.

Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey.

More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers practical guidance and education to parents and allies, fostering empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community—including gay, lesiban, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals—through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

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"Mom, I think I'm Gay" - Parents, This Moment is an Opportunity, Not a Crisis

Tue, 14 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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What if the moment your child comes out to you isn’t something to fear, but something sacred?

When your child says, “I think I’m gay,” bi, or trans, it can trigger fear, confusion, and urgency to respond the “right” way. But underneath that moment isn’t a problem to solve; it’s your child asking if they are safe, seen, and accepted by you.

Understand what your child is really saying beneath the words
Learn simple, grounded responses that build trust instantly
Discover how to stay calm, present, and connected even in emotional moments

Press play to learn how to turn one of the most emotional parenting moments into a powerful foundation of trust and connection.

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Parents, This Is How Grief Evolves Instead of Disappearing

Fri, 10 Apr 2026 11:30:00 -0500

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What if the goal isn’t to “move on” from grief, but to carry it differently?

Many of us feel pressure to be “over it” by now, to fix our pain, or to move forward faster. But grief doesn’t work that way. It returns, shifts, and lingers, not because you’re doing it wrong, but because love doesn’t disappear.

Learn a healthier, more compassionate way to live with grief
Release the pressure of timelines and “getting over it”
Discover simple, meaningful ways to honor love while moving forward

Press play to learn how one gentle shift in perspective can help you carry grief with more peace, presence, and self-compassion.

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Parents and Allies of LGBTQ Teens: From Grief to Grace: Rituals, Repair, and the Sacred Act of Letting Go

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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What does it actually look like to live with grief… without letting it take you down?

In this final episode of the grief series, Heather shares honest, grounded guidance for parents, LGBTQ families, and allies navigating loss, identity, and a complicated world. Drawing from her own experience grieving her sister Corinne and parenting through change, she introduces her Recognition, Realization, and Repair framework.

This episode explores what it means to hold grief and love at the same time, how to set boundaries without losing connection, and why kindness is not the same as compliance. You’ll also hear simple, real-life practices to help regulate your nervous system and stay present in the moments that matter most.

If you are a parent adjusting to a new reality, supporting an LGBTQ child, or an ally trying to stay human in a divided world, this conversation will meet you where you are. You’ll walk away feeling steadier, more connected, and better equipped to move through grief with compassion, courage, and clarity.

Press play to learn how to carry grief without being crushed by it and discover the small, powerful ways parents and allies can create healing, connection, and lasting impact in their everyday lives.

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What Your LGBTQ Teen Hears When You Say, “Let’s Not Tell Anyone Yet”

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Are you an overwhelmed mom of a gay or lesbian teen who's feeling lost trying to navigate the coming out process, and wants to let go of shame and embarrassment, as well as build a deeper connection of trust within yourself and your teen? Click here to learn how to work with me 1-1.

You may have said, “Let’s not tell anyone yet,” believing you were protecting your child.

And maybe you were trying to.

But what if that silence communicated something deeper than you intended?

In this episode, Heather explores the emotional impact of secrecy after a child comes out. She names the fears many parents feel: fear of judgment, conflict, misunderstanding, or how others might react and gently challenges the hidden cost of making silence the family norm.

You’ll hear:

what secrecy can communicate to a child
how protection can unintentionally become shame
why hiding creates distance, even in loving families
the difference between privacy and secrecy
one powerful question every parent needs to ask

If you’ve ever felt torn between loving your child and fearing the world’s response, this conversation will help you move from fear toward understanding, and from silence toward connection.

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Parenting Through Division: Grieving the World, Our Expectations, and Finding Grace

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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What happens when the grief you carry isn't about losing a person, but about losing the world you thought your child would grow up in?

In this second episode of the grief series, Heather goes where most parenting conversations won't: into the tender, often-shamed space of mourning expectations. She explores why parents of LGBTQ kids frequently carry a grief they feel they aren't allowed to name — the exploding movie reel of the life you imagined — and why acknowledging that grief is actually an act of deeper love, not a betrayal of it.

Then she widens the lens. The doom-scrolling at 2 AM. The bone-deep fatigue. The frantic bargaining of "if I just call one more representative." Heather names what so many of us are feeling but can't articulate: we are collectively grieving. And she connects it directly to the stages of grief explored in last week's episode about her sister Corinne.

But this episode doesn't leave you in the heaviness. Heather offers a profoundly practical antidote: curiosity. Through a real-time guided body check-in, she walks you through the physical difference between judgment and curiosity — and shows you how that single shift creates enough spaciousness to hold grief AND take action. To feel furious at injustice AND still lead with compassion. To sit in sadness AND show up at your kid's school board meeting.

This is where sustainable change lives. This is the sweet spot.

ACTION:

This week's Butterfly Effect micro-action: Put your hand on your heart for 10 seconds before you respond to anyone. Then answer from your actual self — not your panic.

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Parents, Do You See Therapy As Support or Correction?

Fri, 27 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Are you an overwhelmed mom of an LGBTQ+ teen who's feeling lost trying to navigate the coming out process, and wants to let go of shame and embarrassment, as well as build a deeper connection of trust within yourself and your teen? Click here to learn how to work with me 1-1.

Are you trying to do the right thing for your LGBTQ child by finding them a therapist, but quietly hoping that someone will help them realize this “isn’t who they really are?”

In this episode, I gently unpack the fix reflex, the well-intentioned but deeply damaging pattern of using therapy as a tool for correction instead of support. If you’ve been scheduling appointments, switching therapists, and asking careful questions while a quiet hope hums underneath it all, this episode will help you see what your child already feels as well as what it’s costing your relationship.

Learn why the instinct to "fix" your child's identity quietly erodes the trust you're trying so hard to protect
Discover what your child actually hears when help comes with a hidden agenda and why they stop letting you in
Get access to a free intro coaching call where we unpack the fear underneath the fix reflex and begin building real connection

If you're ready to stop letting fear drive your decisions and start showing up as the safe place your child needs you to be, press play now and let the shift begin.

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Grief Shape-Shifts: Guidance for Parents and LGBTQ Allies Navigating Loss

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Do you ever feel like you should be "past" your grief by now? Like there's some invisible finish line you haven't reached?

On what would have been her sister Corinne's 49th birthday, Heather opens up about the moment that cracked her wide open and why grief doesn't expire, it shape-shifts. In this deeply personal episode, she walks through the five stages of grief not as a checklist, but as a living landscape and draws a powerful through-line between personal loss, the hidden grief parents of LGBTQ+ youth carry, and the collective heartbreak so many of us are feeling right now.

Whether you're an ally looking for guidance, a parent navigating your child's identity, or simply a human carrying something heavy you haven't been able to name, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why the five stages of grief aren't linear and why that's actually good news
How denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance show up for parents of LGBTQ+ kids and for allies navigating a world in crisis
A powerful reframe: acceptance isn't complacency, it's the birthplace of sustainable action

This is the first episode in a three-part grief series. Next week, we'll explore how personal grief maps onto the collective, and what it looks like to hold space for LGBTQ+ families while also holding space for yourself.

If you're ready to stop judging your grief and start getting curious about what it's teaching you, press play now.

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Nothing Without a Company: Creating Spaces Where No One Feels Alone

Sun, 22 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

SPECIAL EPISODE

If you’ve ever wondered where you belong or longed for spaces where you can show up fully as yourself then this episode is for you.

In this special Podcastathon spotlight, Heather highlights the work of Nothing Without a Company, a Chicago-based nonprofit theater company creating immersive, inclusive storytelling experiences that center LGBTQIA+, trans, gender non-binary, AANHPI, and BIPOC voices.

Founded by a group of queer and cultural students who wanted to see themselves reflected on stage, Nothing Without a Company has spent nearly two decades creating performances that go beyond traditional theater. Their site-specific productions invite audiences into the story, blurring the line between observer and participant, and creating moments of deep human connection.

In this episode, Heather shares:

The heart and mission behind Nothing Without a Company
How immersive storytelling fosters empathy, healing, and belonging
Real audience reflections that highlight the impact of their work
A powerful story from one of their productions where connection continued long after the performance ended
The challenges facing nonprofit arts organizations today and why support matters more than ever

This conversation is a reminder that storytelling is not just entertainment, it’s a bridge. A mirror. A place where we can feel less alone.

Resource Spotlight

Nothing Without a Company

Website: https://nothingwithoutacompany.org

Instagram: @nothingwithoutacompany

Support by attending performances, donating, following, and sharing their work.

Final Reflection

Yes, it gets better… but only if we make it better.

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Parents of LGBTQ Teens, Have You Ever Prayed "Please Let This Go Away?"

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever prayed, "God...please let this go away?"

For many parents of LGBTQ teens, faith has always been the place they turn when life feels uncertain. But when a child comes out, something shifts.

The prayer that once sounded like “Protect them” or “Guide them” quietly becomes something else:

Please fix this.

Please change this.

Please don’t let this be permanent.

In this episode, Heather explores the quiet spiritual tension many parents experience when a child comes out.

You’ll learn:

Why praying for your child’s identity to change can unintentionally create spiritual distance
How children interpret silence and hesitation around faith conversations
Why unresolved spiritual tension creates divided emotional safety in families
What happens when a child feels like they are competing with doctrine for a place in your heart

You are not defined by a prayer whispered in fear. But the relationship you build with your child from this moment forward will be shaped by how you choose to respond.

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The First 30 Seconds: Parenting Guidance for LGBTQ Coming Out Conversations

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Are you an LGBTQ parent or ally who worries about saying the wrong thing when someone comes out as gay, trans, or questioning?

When someone says, “Mom, I’m gay,” or “I think I’m trans,” the first 30 seconds matter more than most parents realize.

That moment becomes a permanent emotional memory. It shapes trust. It impacts mental health. It defines the tone of your future parenting and allyship.

For many loving parents and committed allies, the nervous system reacts before empathy catches up. You freeze. You over-talk. You ask, “Are you sure?” You accidentally make it about your own grief or adjustment.

And even when your intention is love, the impact can quietly create distance.

In this episode, Heather shares clear, grounded guidance for LGBTQ parents and allies who want to respond with emotional safety, confidence, and authentic support rooted in empathy, education, and human rights.

By listening, you will:

Learn the 3 biggest mistakes parents and allies make during coming out conversations
Understand how emotional safety strengthens trust within your LGBTQ family and community
Gain a simple validation–reassurance–invitation formula you can use immediately

You’ll walk away with practical parenting guidance that strengthens allyship, builds boundaries rooted in love, and supports your child’s mental health without perfectionism or performance.

If you want to become a steadier LGBTQ ally and respond with grounded confidence the next time someone comes out, press play now and learn exactly what to say and what to avoid.

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Parents of LGBTQ Kids: Do You Quietly Hope It’s “Just a Phase?”

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever quietly hoped that what your child just told you about their identity… might still be a phase?

Many parents of LGBTQ kids find themselves in this exact moment. You’re trying to be supportive. But internally there’s still a quiet “just in case.”

You tell yourself you’re just being cautious.

But that quiet hesitation can shape your parenting and your relationship with your child more than you realize.

In this episode, Heather explores the deeper emotional pattern many parents experience after a child comes out.

You’ll learn:

Why hoping something is “just a phase” often comes from fear, grief, and uncertainty, not lack of love
How unresolved hesitation creates subtle instability in your relationship
Why children stop pushing for acceptance and instead begin protecting themselves
How inconsistency quietly erodes trust, even when love is still present

Most importantly, you’ll understand how parents can move from quiet hesitation to grounded steadiness so their child feels fully seen and affirmed.

Action

Real change doesn’t happen by forcing certainty. It happens by confronting the hesitation underneath it and learning how to show up steady and grounded for your child.

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5 Ways Moms of LGBTQ Kids Know They’re Becoming Stronger Allies

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Are you a parent of an LGBTQ child, noticing that something inside you is shifting even if you’re not ready to admit it yet?

Parenting an LGBTQ child doesn’t just change your child’s life; it transforms you.

Many parents and allies experience a quiet evolution. You begin noticing gendered language in school forms. You feel tension when someone makes a “joke.” You question faith spaces, friendships, policies, and even your own old beliefs. What once felt neutral now feels personal.

This isn’t overreacting. It’s identity growth. It’s allyship becoming embodied.

For moms and dads raising gay, trans, or diverse kids, this shift often marks the moment you move from passive support into advocacy rooted in empathy, love, human rights, and social justice.

In this episode, you will:

Recognize the subtle signs that your parenting identity is evolving
Understand why discomfort is often clarity not confusion for LGBTQ parents
Gain practical guidance to strengthen boundaries, advocate with confidence, and build stability in your family and community

You’ll also explore how grief, shifting belief systems, education, and mental health awareness shape this transformation and why that evolution makes you a stronger, steadier ally.

If you’re an LGBTQ parent ready to move from quiet discomfort to grounded allyship and courageous advocacy, press play now and discover what your next aligned step looks like.

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Parents of LGBTQ Kids: The Biggest Mistake Allies Make When a Child Comes Out (Interview on No Guilt Mom)

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

The biggest mistake LGBTQ parents and allies make when a child comes out isn’t what you think, and it can quietly damage trust if you don’t catch it early.

So many loving parents and allies want to support their LGBTQ child, but fear takes over in real conversations. You worry about saying the wrong thing, offending them, or not doing enough. In today’s media environment, the pressure to “get it right” can make you freeze—or overcorrect—and neither one feels good.

Learn the 3 mindset shifts that make parenting LGBTQ teens and allyship steadier and more confident
Get clear guidance for building trust through empathy, curiosity, and simple supportive language
Understand how to set boundaries, find community support, and keep learning without shame

Press play to listen to JoAnn Crohn interview Heather Hester on No Guilt Mom, and learn how to support your LGBTQ child with calm, courage, and connection so your allyship feels authentic and your child feels safe.

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How Guilt Impacts Parenting LGBTQ Kids (And How Allies Can Repair It)

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Are you a parent of an LGBTQ teen who is still carrying guilt about how you reacted when your child came out as gay, trans, or questioning?

Many loving, well-intentioned parents and allies experience an emotional shock when their child first comes out. Even moms and dads deeply committed to LGBTQ allyship, human rights, social justice, and empathy can feel grief, confusion, or fear before their mind catches up with their love.

But when that guilt goes unprocessed, it quietly shapes your parenting. It impacts boundaries. It affects mental health. It changes how you advocate for your child. And it can subtly shift trust within your family and broader LGBTQ community.

In this episode, Heather offers grounded guidance for parents navigating guilt, grief, and the emotional aftermath of a coming-out conversation, without shame or judgment.

Understand why guilt lingers for even the most supportive LGBTQ allies
Learn how unprocessed shame affects parenting, boundaries, and connection
Gain clear guidance to move from fragile allyship to steady advocacy rooted in empathy and love

If you’re an LGBTQ parent ready to strengthen trust, improve mental health, and become a steadier advocate for your child, press play now and take the first step toward grounded, intentional allyship.

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Are You a Performative LGBTQ Ally? Here's How to Know.

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Are you sure your LGBTQ allyship is creating real impact or just looking supportive on the surface?

If you’ve ever bought Pride merch, shared a rainbow post, or wondered whether you’re “doing enough,” you’re not alone. In a culture filled with rainbow logos and marketing campaigns, it’s harder than ever to tell the difference between meaningful support and performative gestures. And the last thing you want is to unintentionally contribute to harm while trying to help.

A simple framework to instantly identify performative allyship in brands, organizations, and even yourself
Clear, practical questions to guide your spending, advocacy, and influence
A powerful mindset shift that builds real trust with LGBTQ people in your life

Press play to learn how to move from visible support to meaningful, credible allyship that actually makes a difference.

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Why Parents of LGBTQ Kids Feel So Alone (And How to Break the Isolation Cycle)

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Do you ever scroll social media and wonder why everyone else’s family looks lighter, easier, less complicated than yours?

Parenting an LGBTQ child can feel isolating, especially when you’re carrying quiet fear behind closed doors. In this episode, Heather Hester unpacks why isolation magnifies anxiety, how shame convinces parents they’re uniquely broken, and why silence quietly widens the emotional gap.

If you’ve been trying to be a steady LGBTQ ally while secretly feeling alone, this conversation offers grounded guidance and reassurance.

In this episode, you’ll:

Understand how this Shame Cycle keeps parents isolated
Learn why comparison distorts reality and fuels disconnection
Get one simple, brave step to interrupt loneliness and rebuild connection

You’ll leave feeling less alone and more empowered to seek real support.

Press play to step out of isolation, challenge shame, and reconnect with your child, your community, and yourself.

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Voice Dysphoria: The Piece of Gender-Affirming Care That Parents of LGBTQ Teens Often Overlook

Thu, 26 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

SPECIAL GUEST EPISODE!

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Voice is more than sound.

It’s identity.

It’s safety.

It’s confidence.

It’s how we take up space in the world.

And yet voice dysphoria is one of the most overlooked and misunderstood parts of gender-affirming care.

In this episode, Heather sits down with Nicole Gress (she/they), licensed speech-language pathologist and founder of Undead Voice, the leading voice transition training company serving trans and gender-diverse individuals worldwide.

Nicole shares:

Why traditional medical voice models often fail trans people
How gender is actually perceived in the voice (hint: it’s not just pitch)
What voice dysphoria can look like in youth
The psychological impact of selective mutism and social withdrawal
Why early voice training access can be life-changing
What parents can say if they notice their child becoming quieter

Nicole also explains their groundbreaking Five Pillars of Voice method, a curriculum designed specifically for trans people, and how centering community transforms outcomes.

If you are:

A parent or caregiver wanting to better understand your child’s experience
An ally trying to support someone navigating voice transition
Someone on your own voice journey
Or simply curious about the intersection of identity, autonomy, and expression

This conversation will expand your awareness — and offer practical next steps.

Nicole’s free three-week beginner voice training program, Jumpstart, is accessible in all 50 states and globally, and runs throughout the year.

You can learn more and enroll here:

👉 https://www.undeadvoice.com/joinjumpstart

This program is open to trans and gender-diverse individuals of all ages and provides both skill-building and community support.

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Your voice deserves to feel like home.

And when we create safety for people to use their voice fully, everything changes.

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“I Treat Everyone the Same” Is Not the LGBTQ Ally Move You Think

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Have you ever said, “I treat everyone the same,” thinking it signaled love only to feel the room shift?

In this episode, Heather Hester unpacks one of the most common phrases well-meaning parents and allies use and why it often lands as erasure instead of inclusion.

If you’re trying to support your LGBTQ child but sometimes feel unsure what to say, this conversation offers practical, grounded guidance to help you move from equality language to equity-based support.

In this episode, you’ll:

Understand the critical difference between equality and equity in LGBTQ allyship
Learn why “I treat everyone the same” can unintentionally create emotional distance
Get simple, real-life phrases you can use to help your LGBTQ loved one feel seen, safe, and supported

You’ll walk away with more clarity, more confidence, and language that builds trust instead of tension.

Press play to learn how to upgrade one simple phrase and become the kind of LGBTQ ally whose support truly lands.

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Why Silence Lands As Disapproval with Your LGBTQ Teen (And What Parents Can SAY to Prevent That!)

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Have you been telling yourself, “Let’s just give it time,” while the distance between you and your LGBTQ teen quietly grows?

Many loving parents believe waiting is the mature, thoughtful move. Don’t push. Don’t overreact. Don’t say the wrong thing.

But in this episode, Heather Hester unpacks why silence often lands as disapproval, how emotional restraint creates disconnection, and why waiting for clarity can actually widen the gap you’re trying to close.

If you’re trying to be a steady LGBTQ ally but feel stuck in fear, this episode offers grounded guidance that moves you from hesitation to connection.

In this episode, you’ll:

Understand why silence feels protective but often lands as rejection
Learn how waiting becomes a loop and how it quietly increases emotional distance
Get one simple, doable sentence you can use this week to reopen connection without escalating tension

You’ll leave with a calmer nervous system and a clearer path forward.

Press play to learn how to interrupt the silence, reconnect with your LGBTQ child, and show up as the steady, loving ally they need — even before everything feels “figured out.”

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5 Ways LGBTQ Support Groups Backfire (And What Parents Should Encourage Instead)

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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As a parent of an LGBTQ teen, are you constantly told that community is the answer? While community can be powerful, it’s not one-size-fits-all.

In this episode, Heather Hester unpacks why traditional LGBTQ support spaces sometimes increase anxiety instead of easing it and how well-meaning parents can unintentionally create pressure instead of inclusion.

In this episode, you’ll:

Understand why some LGBTQ teens reject support groups (and what that really means)
Learn how pushing the wrong format can erode trust and increase isolation
Discover practical, real-world alternatives that feel safer and more aligned with your teen’s personality and pace

Press play now to learn how to support your LGBTQ teen in ways that build connection, reduce pressure, and truly fit who they are.

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Stop the 2 AM Anxiety Doomscroll About Your LGBTQ Teen and Become a Calmer Ally

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Are you up at 2AM Googling everything about your LGBTQ teen—and somehow feeling more panicked and alone?

This episode is for parents who are trying to be a steady LGBTQ ally, but feel stuck in late-night searching that only fuels fear. Heather breaks down why information isn’t bringing relief, how anxiety quietly leaks into your home, and what grounded guidance and inclusion actually look like in real life.

Understand why Googling increases anxiety instead of calming it
Learn how a three step Loop creates distance even when you mean well
Get a simple regulation + connection strategy to use tonight so you can show up as a calmer, more inclusive ally

Press play to step out of the spiral and learn a steadier, more supportive way to care for your LGBTQ child—and yourself.

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Parents, Do This To Build Real Connection With Your LGBTQ Teen

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Are you silently grieving the future you imagined for your child and feeling ashamed for having those feelings?

In this episode, I gently unpack the hidden grief that many parents of LGBTQ youth carry in silence. If you’ve been telling yourself “this shouldn’t be about me,” while secretly struggling with sadness, confusion, or fear, this episode gives you both permission and guidance to process those emotions in a way that strengthens your bond with your child.

Learn how unacknowledged grief can block connection, safety, and inclusion
Discover why processing your own emotions makes you a more grounded, loving ally
Get access to Permission to Feel — a free, powerful 7-step journaling tool to move from guilt to clarity

If you're ready to stop stuffing down your feelings and start showing up with clarity and compassion, press play now — and let your healing begin.

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Why Fixing Your LGBTQ Child’s Struggles Can Backfire

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Do you find yourself trying to “fix” everything for your LGBTQ child only to watch them shut down and pull away?

In this episode, I dive into the hidden trap many loving, well-meaning parents fall into: the urge to manage, smooth over, and solve instead of validate and connect. You’ll learn how this instinct, though rooted in love, can unintentionally block trust, and what to do instead.

Discover why the instinct to fix often feels like rejection to LGBTQ teens
Learn the key differences between support and control and how fear disguises itself as help
Get simple, grounding language that builds emotional safety and deepens connection fast

If you’re ready to move from fear to inclusion and become the kind of ally your child truly needs, press play now and start shifting from fixer to safe space.

Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!

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Parents, Learn What the Silent Phase of LGBTQ Identity Is And Be the Ally Your Teen Needs

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Is your teen unusually quiet, withdrawn, or different, and you’re wondering what’s really going on beneath the surface?

For many LGBTQ teens, the process of coming out begins in total silence, long before they have the words to express who they are. In this powerful episode, Heather Hester shares essential guidance for parents to recognize what’s really happening, and how to become a true ally before a single word is spoken.

Learn the 9 subtle signs your LGBTQ teen may be struggling with identity and what those signals really mean
Discover how to respond with calm presence, so your child feels emotionally safe and supported
Become the inclusive parent and ally your teen needs during the silent phase of coming out

If you’re ready to show up with inclusion, guidance, and love, even in silence, press play now and take your first step toward being the ally your teen is hoping for.

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Parents, Does Fear Rule Your Thoughts? The Truth About Shame, Fear & Loving Your LGBTQ Child

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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You love your LGBTQ child fiercely, so why do you still have thoughts that terrify you?

Thoughts you’d never say out loud.

Thoughts that make you question if you’re a good parent at all.

This episode brings those hidden fears into the light, gently and without judgment.

In this raw and healing episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester talks directly to parents who are trying to show up with love… while secretly battling shame, fear, and doubt.

You’ll learn:

Why your brain creates “dark” thoughts when your child comes out
How internalized fear and cultural conditioning shape your parenting response
Why mental health and emotional regulation are essential in LGBTQ parenting
How shame harms your relationship even when left unspoken
The truth about what kind of ally your child actually needs

This is the episode to listen to if you’ve ever thought:

“What if I mess this up?”

“Why can’t I just be okay with this already?”

“What’s wrong with me?”

The truth? Nothing is wrong with you. You’re not broken.

You’re a parent trying to unlearn generations of fear and step into open-minded, practical allyship.

And that process takes empathy, not perfection.

Listen now to release the shame that’s been holding you back from deeper connection with your LGBTQ child.

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Understanding January Grief as a Parent of an LGBTQ Child

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

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Does the start of a new year feel heavy instead of hopeful? Are you tired, overwhelmed, or carrying a kind of sadness you can't quite name? If you're a parent of an LGBTQ+ teen, this episode is your reminder that nothing is wrong with you, your body, your mind, and your heart are simply asking to be heard.

In today’s deeply grounding episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester gently explores the emotional aftermath of the holidays and why so many parents, especially those parenting LGBTQ+ kids, feel grief instead of motivation in January.

You’ll learn:

Why grief and hope can coexist (and must)
How mental health is impacted by unacknowledged stress and survival mode
What January grief really looks and feels like (hint: it’s not always tears)
Why emotional support for parents is essential, not optional
Five simple, research-backed practices to help you feel lighter

This isn’t about pushing through or forcing joy. It’s about understanding the very real mental and emotional cost of caregiving, advocacy, and parenting LGBTQ+ teens in a world that often asks too much.

Heather offers a message of healing, empathy, and deep parental self-trust, helping you move from silent bracing to honest presence.

Listen now to validate your experience and learn one small shift that can lighten your emotional load.

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The Dangerous Belief Hurting LGBTQ Kids and How Parents Can Do Better

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

If you've ever thought, "They're too young to know," or hoped your child might “grow out of it,” this episode is a must-listen. What feels like caution or protection may actually be causing deep harm to your child’s mental health, identity, and your relationship with them.

Many well-meaning parents hold back, fearing they’ll say the wrong thing or wishing this is “just a phase.” But this hesitation can cause real damage. LGBTQ+ youth need love, inclusion, and validation, not silence or delay. In this episode, Heather Hester offers trauma-informed guidance and practical insight into why affirming your child now is essential. You'll hear:

How cultural conditioning can cloud your instincts as a parent
What the science actually says about when kids know their gender identity
The link between family invalidation and increased mental health risks for LGBTQ+ youth

You’re not a bad parent for struggling; you're human. But staying stuck in outdated beliefs is not the path to healing, empathy, or true allyship. Your LGBTQ+ child needs you to be their fiercest advocate and protector, especially in a world that often doesn’t feel safe. This episode will help you shift from fear to fierce, from uncertainty to open-minded support.

Listen now and reflect with courage and compassion!

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Reset Your Nervous System: Mental Health Guidance for LGBTQ + Families

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

If you're an LGBTQ parent or ally feeling emotionally drained after the holidays, you're not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. This episode offers practical guidance for recovering from the hidden stress so many of us carry this time of year.

Even when the holidays are joyful, the emotional labor of parenting, allyship, and navigating family dynamics can quietly overload your nervous system. In this conversation, Heather Hester shares science-backed strategies for nervous system healing, designed especially for parents, moms, caregivers, and advocates of LGBTQ+ youth.

You’ll learn:

Why your mental health may feel off weeks after the holidays
What nervous system healing actually looks like
Somatic tools that support safety, grief, and empathy

These gentle, inclusive practices support your work as a loving, open-minded parent and community advocate, helping you stay grounded, protect your energy, and model emotional regulation for your LGBTQ child. Because real inclusion and social justice begin at home with love, boundaries, and self-compassion.

Press play now to take the first step in recalibrating your nervous system and life!

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Survival Mode Parenting: LGBTQ Mental Health Guidance for Every Ally and Advocate

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

If you’re an parent or ally of an LGBTQ+ kid who feels like the last few months or even years have been hellish, this episode is for you.

This is guidance for the parent who has been white-knuckling through crisis, carrying fear, grief, and exhaustion in silence while trying to protect their child’s mental health and safety.

In this raw and honest episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather names what so many families experience but rarely say out loud: when parenting becomes a full-time emergency.

If you’ve been living in survival mode: managing self-harm, ER visits, intensive treatment, runaway fear, constant hypervigilance, and the invisible emotional labor of advocacy, this episode offers grounded practical support, deep empathy, and a reminder that you are not failing… you are overloaded.

Heather speaks directly to:

the mom or caregiver who hasn’t had a normal Tuesday in years
the parent trying to lead with love while holding impossible family dynamics
the advocate who wants to stay open minded, but is running out of fuel

You’ll walk away with:

A clear understanding of how chronic crisis impacts your child, your identity as a parent, and your nervous system
Language to stop minimizing what’s happening and begin choosing healing
A reminder that numbness isn’t “coldness,” it’s your brain trying to survive
A compassionate lens on how crisis affects your whole family, including boundaries and sibling needs
A stronger sense of what real community support and education can look like when you’re in over your head

This episode reinforces a powerful truth:

Allyship is not passive. It’s protection. It’s action. It’s creating real inclusion and safety, especially when your child is struggling.

Press play now for honest LGBTQ guidance that supports you as a parent, an ally, and a human being.

And if you’re ready for deeper support, click here to learn about Heather’s private coaching, because you don’t have to do this alone.

✅ Share this episode with another parent, advocate, or ally who needs a reminder:

You are not overreacting. You are responding to a real crisis—and you deserve support.

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From Overthinking to Inner Knowing: A Practice for Parents and Allies of Queer Kids

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Have you been second-guessing yourself, polling others for answers, or feeling totally disconnected from your inner knowing?

In this grounding and compassionate episode, Heather Hester explores how fear, cultural conditioning, and emotional overwhelm silence the voice within and why that’s not your fault. You’ll learn how intuition actually works (yes, it's backed by science), and how to begin hearing your truth again, especially as an ally or parent of an LGBTQ+ child.

You’ll discover:

🌿 Why your nervous system blocks clarity under stress

🧠 What neuroscience says about intuition and inner knowing

🔍 How to tell the difference between fear, shoulds, and your true voice

🧘 A repeatable practice to access your calm, grounded inner guidance

Tune in now to reclaim your own voice, reconnect with your truth, and start making decisions from a place of clarity and compassion, not fear.

Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!

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Why Pretending to Be Okay Is Hurting Parents and Allies of LGBTQ + Kids More Than They Realize

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500

Are you smiling through meetings, school pick-ups, and family dinners while silently falling apart inside?

You’re not alone and you’re not broken. Many parents of LGBTQ+ kids are living two parallel lives: the one everyone sees, and the one consumed by fear, shame, and “what if” spirals. In this raw and revealing episode, Heather Hester breaks the silence around the emotional cost of trying to hold it all together and why real strength starts with dropping the mask.

Learn how chronic parental fear mimics trauma and what that means for your mind, body, and relationships
Understand why emotional isolation is not protecting your family, but quietly dismantling trust and connection
Discover how seeking support isn’t weakness, it’s the first step in becoming the grounded, resilient parent your child needs

Press play now to finally name the double life you’ve been living and start walking a path toward healing, connection, and fierce, unapologetic allyship.

Ready to get some clarity now? Book a call with Heather now!

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January Recalibration: Reentry for Parents and Allies of LGBTQ Folks

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 16:00:00 -0500

If you’re starting the new year feeling emotionally scrambled, stretched thin, or just... not ready to jump into goals and plans then this episode is for you.

January asks so much of us. But what if you didn’t need to fix, improve, or push? What if you just needed a way to come back to yourself, gently, honestly, and on your own time?

In today’s episode, Heather Hester shares why this post-holiday “offness” is completely normal for LGBTQ+ parents and allies, especially those who’ve been holding emotional labor, navigating family dynamics, and trying to protect what matters most.

You’ll learn:

What reentry really is and why it’s not a failure but a natural process
The nervous system science behind your post-holiday disorientation
A 5-step gentle reentry practice to return to your truth without pressure
Somatic tools to ground you when you feel emotionally scattered
How reentry mirrors the LGBTQ+ journey toward self-affirmation

And in today’s “unlearn,” Heather challenges the myth that January must be bold, productive, or full of reinvention.

Your Reentry Practice Includes:

Name what pulled you away
Identify your anchor
Give your body a transition cue
Set one boundary
Give yourself 7–14 days of grace

Journal prompt:

What part of myself am I ready to return to?

Share this episode with someone who’s quietly struggling through their own January.

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From Resolutions to Repair: How Parents and Allies Can Heal Your Way into 2026

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Tired of the pressure to reinvent yourself every New Year? You’re not alone AND you’re not doing it wrong.

In this final episode of 2025, Heather Hester offers a powerful shift from the tradition of resolutions to something more meaningful for LGBTQ+ parents, caregivers, and allies: repair. Rather than fix or perfect, you’re invited to reflect, release, and re-enter the next year with clarity, care, and courage.

You’ll discover:

Why repair matters more than resolutions for long-term emotional and relational health
A simple framework for reflecting on what the year took, gave, and taught you
A grounding kindness ritual to close the year gently and truthfully
A myth-busting “unlearn” that challenges the belief that endings must be productive or performative

Whether you're exhausted, grieving, grateful or all three, this episode will give you space to exhale, return to your body, and choose softness as an act of strength.

Reflection Practice:

What did 2025 take from me?
What did it give me?
What act of self-compassion can I offer myself now?

Kindness Ritual:

Choose one gentle thing: light a candle, write to your future self, or speak one sentence of love to your child. Let this act be your offering to the new year.

Unlearn Prompt:

What if the end of the year wasn’t about doing more, but letting go?

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Parents, Let Hope Be Your 2026 Mantra (DAY 12)

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 12

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 TINY REBELLIONS TO COUNTER HOLIDAY CHAOS

After a year of navigating challenges and showing up with fierce love, are you wondering if it’s made a difference?

In this final capsule episode, Heather Hester reminds us that real hope, especially for LGBTQ+ families, isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a steady, relational force that fuels change. Every small effort, boundary, and affirmation you've made creates ripples that echo far beyond this season.

In this reflection, you’ll:

Understand why hope is a radical act of love in uncertain times
Remember the unseen impact of your daily allyship
Practice a beautiful "Send Light" ritual to close the year with intention, compassion, and community
Receive a journaling prompt to help you identify who you're holding in your heart and what you want them to feel

Strategy: Remember the ripple effect. Your kindness, advocacy, and clarity matter even when you can’t see the results.

Ritual: Visualize three people and send each of them light, love, or warmth. Let this gentle ritual be your final act of hope this year.

Reflection Prompt: Who am I sending warmth to today, and what do I hope they feel?

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Ditch Resolutions. Set Intentions. Start Soft. Why This Matters for LGBTQ+ Allies (DAY 11)

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 11

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 TINY REBELLIONS TO COUNTER HOLIDAY CHAOS

Are you already exhausted by the pressure of “New Year, New You” messages? If you’re a parent or ally of an LGBTQ+ child, you don’t need more demands. You need direction that honors your humanity.

In today’s 5-minute reflection, Heather Hester invites you to replace performative resolutions with soft, soulful intentions that center your healing, growth, and emotional wellbeing. It’s a gentle path into the new year for people who are doing the deep work of allyship, parenting, and personal change.

In this episode, you’ll:

Discover why resolutions often backfire and increase shame
Learn a mindset shift that centers clarity over control
Try a powerful 2-minute journaling ritual to uncover the feeling you want more of in 2026 and how to support it

Strategy: Resolutions demand change. Intentions invite alignment. Ask who you want to become, not what you need to fix.

Ritual: Set a timer and free-write from this prompt:

“In 2026, I want to feel…” Let your truth surface—without editing.

Bonus Reflection: What’s one feeling I want to live into this year—and what supports that?

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Joy Is a Form of Allyship Not Betrayal (DAY 10)

Fri, 26 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 10

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 TINY REBELLIONS TO COUNTER HOLIDAY CHAOS

Ever caught yourself enjoying a moment, only to immediately feel guilty for it? If you’re parenting or advocating for an LGBTQ+ child in a world that feels heavy, joy can feel almost… irresponsible.

On Day 10 of our holiday capsule series, Heather Hester names the guilt many parents and allies feel around feeling good and gently reframes joy as a vital, courageous act. This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s emotional resilience rooted in real life.

In this 5-minute reflection, you’ll learn:

Why joy triggers guilt during busy or stressful seasons
How to reframe joy as nourishment instead of indulgence
A 30-second soft smile ritual that reawakens warmth, ease, and presence right when you need it most

Strategy: Joy is not betrayal. It’s nourishment. Let yourself feel it.

Ritual: The Soft Smile – Relax your jaw, soften your face, let a quiet smile rise. Hold it. Let it restore you.

Bonus Journal Prompt: Where did joy find me today? Write it down. Let it count.

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Micro Kindness, Major Impact: A Holiday Reframe for Parents and Allies of Queer Kids

Thu, 25 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 9

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR

12 TINY REBELLIONS TO COUNTER HOLIDAY CHAOS

Are you finding it hard to celebrate the holidays when the world feels like it’s unraveling? If your heart is heavy with the weight of injustice, violence, and overwhelm, this episode is for you.

In Day 9 of the More Human, More Kind holiday capsule, Heather Hester invites you to stop trying to hold the whole world and instead embrace the power of one kind thing. For parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids, this moment of reflection offers both emotional permission and grounded action.

You’ll learn:

Why world overwhelm hits especially hard during the holidays
How to recognize that your nervous system isn’t broken, it’s over-capacitated
Why micro kindness isn’t trivial, but transformative
One simple breath and reflection practice to help you reconnect with hope, agency, and joy

Today’s Strategy: Micro Kindness as Activism

You don’t have to do everything. Choose one small, authentic act of care, something that matters to you, your child, or your community.

Today’s Ritual: Ask yourself: “What is one kind thing I can do today?”

Then do it. With intention. With love. Without guilt.

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Let Go of Traditions That No Longer Fit: A Holiday Guide for LGBTQ Allies (DAY 8)

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 8

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR

12 TINY REBELLIONS TO COUNTER HOLIDAY CHAOS

Ever found yourself watching your LGBTQ+ child shrink at a family tradition that no longer feels right? You're not imagining it, and you're not alone.

In Day 8 of the More Human, More Kind holiday capsule, Heather Hester explores why some holiday rituals, like gendered gift exchanges, no longer fit, and how that discomfort can be a powerful invitation to reimagine connection. Tradition should never come at the expense of belonging.

You’ll walk away with:

A framework for evaluating family traditions through the lens of inclusion
Permission to retire or redesign rituals that no longer reflect your family’s reality
Creative ideas for new traditions that center empathy, visibility, joy, and chosen family
A grounding reflection practice to help you reconnect with what truly matters

Today’s Strategy: Redesign traditions that don’t support your LGBTQ+ child’s safety, joy, or sense of belonging. Ask: Does this create connection or exclusion?

Creative Ritual:

Complete the sentence:

This year, we will introduce a ritual that helps us feel ________.

(Connected? Seen? Safe? Choose your value—and reflect it in one small new practice.)

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Parents, Here's How to Escape the Holiday Comparison Trap [DAY 7]

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 7

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 Tiny Rebellions to Counter Holiday Chaos

Scrolling social media this time of year and feeling like everyone else’s holiday is warmer, happier, or more “together” than yours? You’re not alone AND it’s not your fault.

In Day 7 of the More Human, More Kind holiday capsule, Heather Hester walks you through the emotional and neurological roots of comparison, especially for parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids, and gently guides you back to truth and authenticity.

You’ll learn:

Why social comparison spikes during the holidays (and what your nervous system has to do with it)
How to shift from “we should be like them” to “we are enough as we are”
A short and powerful hand-on-heart ritual to return to presence and peace
A reflection practice to help you reconnect with what makes your family uniquely beautiful

Your Ritual: Place your hand on your heart and repeat: We are enough as we are.

Optional journaling prompt: What is one thing I genuinely love about who our family is right now?

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Guilt Is a Signal, Not a Sentence: A Holiday Reframe for Parents of LGBTQ+ Kids [DAY 6]

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 6

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 Tiny Rebellions to Counter Holiday Chaos

Do you ever lie awake replaying moments you wish you could rewrite - things you didn’t know, didn’t say, or didn’t protect your LGBTQ+ child from? That quiet ache of guilt sneaks in, especially during the holidays.

In Day 6 of More Human, More Kind's holiday capsule series, host Heather Hester helps you gently confront those feelings, not to punish yourself, but to transform guilt into wisdom. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or advocate, this episode will guide you through releasing shame and honoring your growth.

You’ll learn:

Why guilt intensifies during the holidays for parents of LGBTQ+ kids
How to shift your mindset from “I failed” to “I’ve grown”
A powerful reframing mantra: “Guilt is a signal, not a sentence”
A 2-minute journaling ritual that turns self-judgment into self-compassion

Your Strategy: Reframe guilt as an invitation to grow, not a verdict on your past.

Your Ritual: Journal on this loving prompt:

“What is one thing I know now that I didn’t know then—and how can I integrate it with love?”

Optional add-on: “How can I turn this guilt into one small act of growth and repair?”

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How to Respond When a Relative Misgenders Your LGBTQ Child at a Holiday Gathering[DAY 5]

Fri, 19 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 5

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 Tiny Rebellions to Counter Holiday Chaos

You're at the holiday table. Your child walks in. A relative misgenders them on purpose. The room freezes, your heart races, and you feel that internal tug between protecting your child and keeping the peace.

In this holiday capsule episode, Heather Hester shares a grounded, loving framework to handle this common but painful moment with grace. You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, speak up with clarity, and model fierce allyship without fueling the fire.

You’ll walk away with:

A 3-step response formula: Pause, Protect, Pivot
Grounded language to correct misgendering without escalating
A powerful Breath of Safety ritual to calm your nervous system and release shame
Journaling prompts to support your courage and confidence in real time

Your Strategy: Prepare one neutral corrective sentence (e.g. “We use they/them for Riley”) + a pivot phrase (e.g. “Let’s move on”)

Your Ritual: Try the 3-part Breath of Safety

Inhale: My love protects → Exhale: Shame is not mine
Inhale: My clarity guides → Exhale: Their reaction is theirs
Inhale: We belong → Exhale: We are okay

Journal Prompt: What does courage look like for me in moments like this?

💌 For deeper allyship support, visit heatherhester.net or share this episode with a fellow parent, advocate, or LGBTQ+ ally navigating similar territory.

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Simple Tools for Managing Holiday Conflict for LGBTQ Parents and Allies [DAY 4]

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 4

MORE HUMAN MONETS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND MOST COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 Rebellions Against Holiday Chaos

Is your stomach in knots before a holiday gathering, already dreading that one comment you know is coming? You’re not alone. Conflict is hard enough. But when you're an LGBTQ+ parent or ally, it comes with an emotional cost most people don’t see.

In this holiday capsule episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester offers a calm, clear strategy to handle those moments when tension bubbles up without spiraling, freezing, or feeling like you have to fight. You’ll learn how to stay grounded, protect your nervous system, and exit hard conversations with dignity and intention.

You’ll walk away with:

The real reason anticipated conflict is so draining especially for LGBTQ+ parents and advocates
A set of shame-free, emotionally neutral exit lines you can use to shut down tension without escalating
A 30-second breathwork ritual to reset your system, wherever you are
A powerful reframe: you don’t have to “win” the moment, you just need to protect your peace

🎯 Your Strategy: Pre-script 1–2 clear exit lines to carry into every holiday space

🧘‍♀️ Your Ritual: Try the Peace Over Proving breathwork practice: inhale for 4, exhale for 6, repeat the mantra: I choose peace

📓 Bonus prompt: What am I choosing not to engage with to protect my peace?

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Reframing Holiday Loneliness for LGBTQ Parents and Allies [DAY 3]

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 3

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND MOST COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR

12 Tiny Rebellions Against Holiday Chaos

The holiday lights are twinkling, the house is full, and yet, you feel... alone. If you're parenting or advocating for an LGBTQ+ child, this ache is more common than you think. You’re not imagining it. And you’re not alone.

In today’s holiday capsule episode Heather Hester speaks directly to the invisible load carried by parents, caregivers, and allies during the holidays. Through gentle insight and a grounding ritual, she helps you shift the narrative around loneliness from shame to sacred rest.

You’ll learn:

Why holiday loneliness can hit even when you're surrounded by others, especially for LGBTQ+ parents and allies
A powerful reframe: how solitude can become your sanctuary
A comforting ritual involving warmth, music, and reflection to return to yourself
Plus: how to recognize that emotional labor counts, even when it's unseen.

☕ Make a warm drink, hold it with both hands, and feel its comfort as permission to rest

🎵 Create your “My Belonging” playlist: songs that help you return to you

📝 Ask yourself: Where can I rest today, even for a few minutes?

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Holiday Boundaries That Protect Your LGBTQ Child and Your Peace [DAY 2]

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

DAY 2

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND MOST COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 Tiny Rebellions Against Holiday Chaos!

The holidays are magical, but they’re also messy, especially when you're parenting or supporting an LGBTQ+ child. Old family patterns, loaded conversations, and invisible emotional labor can leave you feeling like you’re managing landmines while trying to spread cheer.

In today’s holiday capsule episode Heather shares why boundaries aren't just allowed, they’re essential. If you're already feeling that lump-in-your-throat stress before the next family gathering, this moment is for you.

You’ll learn:

Why LGBTQ+ families face unique pressures during the holidays
A shame-free, simple way to script your boundaries in advance
A calming, 60-second visualization ritual to help you hold your ground with grace
Plus: the reminder you didn’t know you needed: being kind doesn’t mean accommodating harm.

✔️ Grab your journal and reflect: What boundary protects my peace the most in this situation?

✔️ Practice your personalized boundary script before your next family event

Click PLAY to listen now - and - Tomorrow’s capsule (Day 3) explores a deeply felt topic: loneliness in the middle of togetherness. You won’t want to miss it!

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Enoughness is the Gift: Holiday Guidance for Parents of LGBTQ+ Kids [DAY 1]

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Today is day 1 of our 12 day holiday capsule!

More Human Moments for the Most Wonderful (and Complicated!) Time of the Year.

12 Tiny Rebellions Against Holiday Chaos

Let Go of Holiday Perfection and Embrace Presence, Grounding, and Enoughness

This is a powerful moment of reflection for LGBTQ+ parents and allies navigating the complexities of the holiday season. If you're feeling the pressure to "get it right" while also holding emotional space for your LGBTQ child, this short and grounding episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn:

Why holiday overwhelm hits harder for LGBTQ+ families and affirming parents
One practical mindset shift to move from perfectionism to peace
A 60-second guided breathing ritual to help you reset anywhere, anytime
How choosing enoughness supports inclusion, healing, and mental health

Why It Matters:

Holidays can amplify stress and grief, especially for families prioritizing safety, diversity, and unconditional love in the face of family dynamics or outdated beliefs. This episode empowers parents and allies to hold boundaries with grace, model empathy, and embrace a more human approach to parenting and advocacy.

Action Step:

Light a candle (or imagine one), breathe deeply, and ask yourself: What would be enough for today to feel okay? Then, join us tomorrow for Day 2: How to Prepare Boundaries for Complicated Family Spaces.

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6 Years & 200 Episodes: A Parenting Story of Grace, Growth, and Getting It Wrong

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

SPECIAL EPISODE ALERT!!

We are so happy to share this special episode that is a celebration of both 6 years AND 200 episodes for this podcast! It is honest and raw...and the sound may be a little off our usual high quality recording levels.

In this heartfelt milestone episode, Heather Hester is joined in person by two of her children, Connor and Grace, to share the deeply personal and powerful story of how their family moved from silence and fear to connection, growth, and unconditional love. (Steve, Isabelle, and Rowan were there in spirit and idea!) This isn’t just Heather’s story, it’s theirs. And it’s the story that quietly fuels everything More Human, More Kind has become.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

How one family navigated the complexity of religious upbringing, generational trauma, and LGBTQ+ identity
The emotional impact of unlearning what we’re taught, and how to rebuild with empathy and love
What it really looks like to come out as a family
The role of softness, boundaries, and intentional parenting in healing and advocacy
How to lead with love when the world wants you to harden
What Heather’s kids really think about her work and how it’s shaped their own evolution

Episode Highlights

A Real Family, A Real Journey: Connor and Grace share raw reflections about how their mom’s upbringing shaped her parenting and how their family broke painful patterns together.
Generational Healing: Heather opens up about the complexity of parenting while holding a bridge to a family system that couldn’t (or wouldn’t) grow with her.
Softness is Strength: A look back at what it means to stay open-hearted in the face of discomfort, and how empathy became their family's superpower.
The Awakening: The moment that changed everything from fear to fierce love and how it led to this podcast, this mission, and this beautiful, brave community.
Coming Out as a Family: Connor and Grace reflect on what it felt like to step into authenticity together, and why that bond changed them forever.
Boundaries as Love: How Heather learned to hold the line with her own parents without passing on pain to her kids.
From Fear to Fierce Allyship: Why showing up again and again, imperfectly but courageously, is the most powerful thing a parent can do.

Key Takeaways

Softness isn’t something you earn, it’s something you return to.
Love doesn't erase pain; it makes space for it.
Boundaries are not disconnection, they are love in action.
Unlearning can be messy. But it’s where healing begins.
You are not alone. You are not broken. You are becoming.

Connect + Reflect

What stories have you inherited and which ones are you ready to rewrite?
How might softness serve your parenting, your relationships, or your advocacy today?
What boundaries could you set that honor your humanity and keep you connected to love?

Thank You

To every listener, every brave parent, every LGBTQ+ kid and ally: thank you for being here. For choosing growth, for choosing softness, and for choosing to keep showing up.

Special thanks to Connor and Grace for sharing their voices and their hearts so generously, for Steve, Isabelle, and Rowan for sharing their thoughts and support off mic, and to Samantha Mackey for facilitating this beautiful conversation and making the episode possible behind the scenes.

Thank you for being part of this unfolding story. Here’s to the next 200!

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Strength in Softness: Supporting Your LGBTQ Child With Love During the Holidays

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you constantly bracing for impact this holiday season, snapping at your kids, holding your breath, pushing through?

If you’re a parent of an LGBTQ+ child, an ally, or simply a human feeling stretched thin, this episode invites you to soften, not as a weakness, but as a radical act of strength, love, and nervous system regulation.

In a world that rewards hard edges and overextension, Heather Hester offers a deeply human reframe: softness is how we stay connected to ourselves, to our children, and to what matters most.

Backed by research from Dr. Stephen Porges and personal parenting insight, Heather explores:

Why emotional softness is a form of strength, not weakness
How to recognize when your body and parenting are operating in protection mode
The nervous system science behind soft tone, slower breath, and soft eyes
Why LGBTQ+ youth especially need softness as a signal of safety and inclusion

You'll walk away with practical, heartfelt guidance on how to:

Build soft but clear boundaries with extended family, friends, and yourself
Practice “softer parenting” even in the middle of chaos
Regulate your nervous system in real time with doable micro-practices
Use softness as a tool for healing, empathy, and fierce allyship

This episode is for every parent, mom, and ally trying to hold it all together while still showing up with compassion and courage. You’ll learn to recognize your limits—not as failures, but as invitations to return to presence.

Tune in now to discover the simple but powerful ways to lead with love, soften with intention, and create emotional safety for your LGBTQ+ teen, even in the most stressful seasons.

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Keeping the Peace: Boundaries for LGBTQ Holiday Parenting

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you feeling pulled between preserving family peace and protecting your mental health this holiday season?

You're not alone AND you're not doing it wrong. The holidays are often an emotional minefield, especially for parents of LGBTQ+ kids navigating outdated traditions, family dynamics, and identity stress. This episode is your permission slip to pause, breathe, and make room for something more aligned.

Heather Hester offers a powerful, practical conversation about what it means to evolve, not erase, traditions that no longer fit who you or your family are now.

Whether you're a mom, dad, caregiver, or fierce LGBTQ+ ally, you'll learn:

How to recognize when a tradition has shifted from comforting to constricting
Scripts for setting boundaries without guilt or apology
Why honoring your truth is an act of love, not rejection
How to build new, inclusive rituals rooted in empathy, safety, and healing
What your child’s nervous system really needs from you this season

This episode offers more than parenting advice, it’s a reframe of what real love looks like during the holidays.

When you, as a parent or ally, set boundaries with clarity and compassion, you model inclusion, emotional regulation, and authenticity. You show your LGBTQ+ child and yourself that they belong just as they are.

You’ll also hear:

A 5-step “Boundaries With Love” framework you can use today
Real-life examples from Heather’s own parenting journey
Tools to dismantle the myth that sameness equals love
Gentle encouragement to prioritize your family's unique needs

Listen now and take one simple, powerful action: Release the guilt. Embrace the boundary. Rewrite the tradition.

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What Your Body Is Telling You: Holiday Care for LGBTQ Parents and Allies

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you an LGBTQ+ parent, ally, or advocate feeling exhausted by the emotional and logistical weight of the holiday season?

You’re not alone. Many parents and caregivers, especially those supporting LGBTQ youth, enter this time of year overwhelmed, overextended, and overstimulated, unsure how to protect their own peace while showing up for others.

In this powerful solo reflection, Heather Hester invites you to rethink everything you’ve been told about self-care.

Forget the candles and curated routines. This episode explores what your nervous system actually needs to feel safe, grounded, and connected, especially as an LGBTQ+ parent or ally navigating complex family dynamics, grief, or societal pressure.

You’ll discover:

Why traditional “self-care” often fails LGBTQ+ parents and moms
How to recognize which type of rest you really need (emotional? sensory? social?)
The biological and emotional reasons this season feels harder and how to shift it
How rest, boundaries, and breathwork become tools of love, empathy, and inclusion

What if your rest and regulation were a form of allyship?

When you, as a parent or advocate, honor your limits, you create a safer emotional space for your LGBTQ child or loved one. You model softness, stability, and trust just by being more human and more kind.

In this episode, Heather offers:

A science-backed 1-minute breath technique to lower stress (no meditation required)
A breakdown of the 4 emotional “seasons” and how to align your care with each one
A practical guide to identifying your rhythm: motion, depletion, or recovery
Gentle encouragement to release perfection, guilt, and performance-based love

Breathe with us. Then take one tiny, tangible step toward true rest. Listen now and rediscover the allyship that starts within.

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Parents, This Is What Your Queer Teen Wants This Holiday Season

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Feeling the pressure to find the perfect gift for your LGBTQ+ teen?

In this soft, grounding episode, Heather shares what really matters to LGBTQ+ kids this time of year and how your presence and thoughtfulness can be more powerful than anything wrapped in a bow.

Discover 5 human-centered gifts that build connection and joy
Learn how to create belonging through slow rituals and shared presence
Get practical tips for meaningful, low-stress gift-giving even on a budget
Unlearn the myth that more gifts = more love

Tune in now and walk away with a heart-centered plan to gift with meaning, not pressure. Your presence is already enough.

Key Takeaways

Presence is the gift. The most meaningful thing you can give your LGBTQ+ teen is the feeling of being seen and safe.
Intentional gifts build trust. Gifts that reflect identity, interests, or emotional needs foster connection not just excitement.
Rituals matter. The 13 Sacred Nights tradition offers a grounding space for reflection, bonding, and family storytelling.
You don’t have to spend a lot. A mug, a journal, a game, a handwritten note, or a shared recipe can say: I love who you are becoming.
Performative gifting doesn’t equal love. True generosity is rooted in connection, not cost.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Human Being Journal

Overthinker Journal

WTF Notebooks

Etsy for mugs, recipe cards, and an apron

Games - Hitster and Who's Most Likely to...are two faves (instructions for Fishbowl are below)

13 Sacred Nights Oracle Deck and 13 Sacred Nights Ritual

Half Baked Harvest

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Fishbowl Explainer:

Here’s how it works:

First, divide into two teams. Give everyone the same number of paper strips — six per person is a great starting point. Take a couple of minutes to write down words or phrases on your strips. Fold them up and drop them into one big bowl. Anything goes, as long as it’s something you can describe or act out. And trust me when I tell you, anything has been the key word in my house, with them often being hilarious, irreverent, obscure, and at times wildly inappropriate! One of the key ingredients that makes this game so much fun is letting everyone be unabashedly themselves!

Fishbowl has three rounds, and every round keeps going — teams trading turns back and forth — until all the clues in the bowl have been guessed. Each turn is one minute, and you switch clue-givers every time, which keeps it fun and unpredictable.

Round One is the warm-up. The clue-giver can use as many words as they want to describe the phrase. Think Taboo without the pressure.

Round Two gets a little trickier. The same clues go back into the bowl, but this time the clue-giver can only use one word. Just one. It’s always hilarious to see which word people choose.

And Round Three is pure charades — no words at all, just acting, flailing, and a lot of hysterical laughter.

The goal? As a team, guess as many clues as you can each round, and most importantly, enjoy the silliness and connection that happen along the way. Pro tip: playing this game is also a super fun way to bring a significant other into your family’s mix!

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I Am Thankful For...Me! A Practical Tool for Parents of LGBTQ Teens

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Do you pour out gratitude for everyone else, but forget to include yourself?

As the holidays approach, gratitude can start to feel like a performance. In this soulful solo episode, Heather helps you reclaim it, starting with the most overlooked person in your life: you.

Learn how thanking yourself rewires your brain and soothes your nervous system
Understand why authentic gratitude embraces both joy and grief
Try a 3-minute practice to anchor appreciation in your body not just your mind
Reframe self-directed gratitude as strength, not selfishness

Listen now to remember why you belong on your own gratitude list and how to gently come back to yourself, one breath at a time.

Key Takeaways

Most gratitude practices leave you out of the equation
Self-gratitude is not arrogance, it’s acknowledgment
Gratitude is most powerful in complex emotional landscapes, not perfect ones
Self-directed appreciation calms the nervous system and supports resilience
A gentle daily ritual can anchor gratitude into your body, not just your thoughts
“Gratitude and grief can coexist” and often must, especially during the holidays

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Resource Spotlight

1. UC Davis Gratitude Research (Emmons & McCullough, 2003)

The foundational study demonstrates that regular gratitude practice increases optimism, improves sleep, and enhances overall well-being.

2. Harvard Health Review (2022) – “Giving Thanks Can Make You Happier”

Outlines how self-directed gratitude — including compassion toward oneself — amplifies emotional regulation and resilience.

3. Greater Good Science Center – Gratitude Articles & Practices

A collection of short, accessible research-based tools for cultivating both interpersonal and self-directed gratitude. (greatergood.berkeley.edu)

4. Book: Living in Gratitude by Angeles Arrien

An elegant, spiritual framework for understanding gratitude not as a ritual, but as a lifelong practice.

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Parents, Fixing Is Hurting Your Relationships! This Is What To Do Instead.

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you constantly jumping in with advice only to feel more disconnected from the people you love?

Whether you're navigating hard conversations with your LGBTQ+ teen or sitting down at a tense holiday dinner, the urge to "fix" is often fear in disguise. In this calming and powerful solo episode, Heather Hester unpacks why real connection doesn’t come from solving but from seeing.

✔️ Learn a simple, science-backed practice to shift from reactivity to presence

✔️ Discover how to listen without rushing, rescuing, or retreating

✔️ Use Heather’s LISTEN method to guide any difficult conversation with love

✔️ Get grounded tools to calm your nervous system when tensions rise

Press play now to discover the one shift that builds trust, deepens relationships, and reclaims connection, no fixing required.

Key Takeaways:

Fixing is often rooted in fear, not love
Silence is not awkward, it’s sacred
Listening without correcting builds psychological safety, the key to long-term trust
“Do you want advice or just a listening ear?” can transform your relationships
You don’t need the right answers, you just need presence

LISTEN Framework Recap:

L – Leave space: Breathe before responding
I – Inquire gently: Ask what kind of support is needed
S – Stay curious: Reflect, don’t assume
T – Trust the silence: Let quiet be part of connection
E – Empathize, don’t evaluate: Say “That sounds really hard”
N – Normalize not knowing: “I don’t have the answer, but I’m here.”

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"I Believe You" - The Most Important Thing You Can Say to Your LGBTQ Child

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

When your child comes out or shares something vulnerable do you freeze, fumble, or fear saying the wrong thing?

Whether it’s about gender, sexuality, faith, or mental health, what your child is really asking in that moment is, “Can I trust you?” In this essential episode, Heather Hester shares the neuroscience, parenting wisdom, and personal stories behind why believing your child, even without full understanding, can literally save lives.

✔️ Learn 8 powerful tools to communicate belief, safety, and love even when you’re still learning

✔️ Discover how trauma-informed parenting strengthens your child's mental health and self-worth

✔️ Hear why “I believe you” is more powerful than any answer you could give

✔️ Let go of the myth that support requires full comprehension

Identity doesn't need your permission to exist

Press play now to learn how to meet your child’s truth with trust, not fear, and why your belief may be the very bridge that keeps your connection (and their well-being) alive.

Key Takeaways

Belief doesn’t require full understanding, it requires trust and presence.
LGBTQ+ youth with one accepting adult are 40% less likely to attempt suicide.
Pause before reacting: Your calm nervous system is the safety signal your child needs.
Curiosity over correction is key: Replace “Are you sure?” with “Tell me more.”
Repair matters more than perfection; own your mistakes with grace and keep growing.
Every affirming act, like using their name or pronouns, tells your child: “You are safe with me.”

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Human First. Kind Always. A Guide For Parents of LGBTQ Teens

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you overwhelmed by the speed, noise, and pressure of the season and craving a moment of genuine connection?

In a world obsessed with performance and big gestures, we often forget the transformative power of the quiet, small moments: eye contact, a text, a name used correctly. Heather shares how these micro-moments of humanity can reset our nervous systems and ripple out more powerfully than we realize, especially for parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids.

✔️ Discover how small acts of kindness affect the brain and body in measurable, healing ways

✔️ Learn a 3-step daily ritual to bring more presence, empathy, and grounding into your life

✔️ Understand why tiny affirming behaviors are life-saving for LGBTQ+ youth

✔️ Challenge the myth that if it’s not big, it doesn’t matter

Press play now to reconnect with what really matters: being human, being kind, and being here.

Key Takeaways

Kindness is not a performance, it’s a nervous system reset for everyone involved
LGBTQ+ youth thrive on small affirming acts, which drastically reduce risk of depression and suicide
Making eye contact, offering silent blessings, or simply listening with presence are radical acts of love
You don’t need to “fix” everything, just feel, notice, and act from empathy
Kindness isn’t weakness. Kindness is healing.

What if kindness wasn't about being noticed, but about noticing? This simple shift in intention can change the way we parent, partner, and participate in the world.

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Can Empathy Be Taught? Raising Inclusive Humans with Maria Gallucci

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

BOUNUS Interview Episode!

What if empathy wasn’t something you had to be born with but something you practiced, moment by moment?

In today’s bonus episode, Heather sits down with Maria Gallucci, a CODA, LGBTQ+ parent, bestselling author, and fierce advocate for underrepresented voices. Her story will challenge how you think about empathy, identity, and belonging, and might just change how you show up in the world.

Hear how growing up in a deaf family taught Maria the power of nonverbal communication, deep listening, and compassion
Understand the emotional impact of being believed when coming out as LGBTQ+
Learn why “just trying” can change someone’s entire day
Discover how inclusive schools, small gestures, and language access ripple into lifelong healing

Press play now to hear Maria’s powerful story and walk away with renewed commitment to connection over perfection.

Key Themes & Takeaways:

Empathy begins with presence not perfection
You don’t have to understand someone to support them
Silence, when shared with love, becomes a bridge
Children thrive when they are believed, seen, and supported
“Just try” is more powerful than you think whether in communication or allyship
Inclusive environments save lives (especially in schools)
Everyone has a story and those on the margins deserve center stage

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Learn more about Maria's work

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How to Lead, Parent, and Live with More Humanity and More Kindness

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the most radical thing we can be right now is fully, imperfectly human and deeply, fiercely kind?

In this foundational episode of More Human, More Kind, host Heather Hester pulls back the curtain on the heart of the podcast and the movement behind it. Born out of advocacy for LGBTQ+ youth and expanded into a space for universal healing, this episode outlines the four pillars that guide every conversation: curiosity, compassion, courage, and connection.

Whether you're a parent raising brave kids, an LGBTQ+ ally, or simply someone navigating life in a divided, demanding world, this episode is both a gentle guide and a powerful call to action.

Learn the 4 foundational pillars of being more human and more kind and why they matter now more than ever
Hear how these principles can transform how you parent, lead, love, and heal
Understand why kindness is not weakness, and how to pair it with boundaries to build trust and courage
Receive real-life practices for choosing empathy, curiosity, and connection even in conflict or fear

In a world that rewards perfection and punishes vulnerability, kindness has become a revolutionary act. This episode reminds us that being human isn’t about being flawless, it’s about being real, present, and willing to keep showing up. Especially when it’s hard.

And for parents of LGBTQ+ kids, or anyone committed to true allyship, this is how we change the emotional climate one conversation, one breath, one brave act of empathy at a time.

This week’s kindness challenge:

Think of someone who's been a quiet, steady presence in your life, a friend, teacher, barista, coworker, and send them a note or voice memo that simply says:

“I notice the light you bring.”

Let it be simple. Let it be real. That’s how we start rewiring the world.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit MoreHumanMoreKind.com to explore private coaching, join Heather’s guided journaling series, or find resources to raise brave kids, show up as an ally, and stay grounded in your values even when the world feels hard.

Press play now and return to what’s most real: your humanity and the kindness that grows from it.

Resource Spotlight

Book: Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown - exploring the language of compassion

Podcast: The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos (Episode: “The Power of Tiny Connections”)

Book: Born to Be Good by Dacher Keltner — the science of compassion.

Study: Epley & Schroeder, “Mistakenly Seeking Solitude,” Journal of Experimental Psychology (2018).

Research: Barbara Fredrickson, “Love 2.0” (UNC, 2013) — the biology of micro-moments of connection.

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Parents, Relearning Love is a Gift for the Soul - Yours and Your LGBTQ Teen's

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if love was never meant to be earned, just allowed?

In this powerful and tender episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester invites you to examine the stories you carry about love, especially the ones you learned before you even had the words to question them. Through science, psychology, and personal reflection, she explores how childhood attachment patterns shape our adult definitions of love and how to rewrite those stories with compassion, curiosity, and conscious parenting.

Whether you're an LGBTQ+ ally, a parent trying to raise emotionally healthy kids, or someone healing from conditional or weaponized love, this episode is an invitation to stop performing for love and start remembering what real, safe, expansive love actually feels like.

Understand how your earliest relationships shaped your attachment style and love blueprint
Learn how to identify the old stories that tell you love requires sacrifice, silence, or suffering
Get practical tools to begin repairing your relationship with love through journaling, micro-moments of self-compassion, and nervous system care
Reflect on how to model secure, respectful, and inclusive love for yourself, your children, and the people you care about most

Many of us, especially LGBTQ+ individuals and parents, were taught that love means staying no matter the cost. But love that asks you to disappear isn’t love. It’s survival.

Real love makes room for truth, safety, and freedom and when we unlearn fear-based attachment, we become better allies, better parents, and more whole humans.

Try This Journaling Prompt:

"The future version of me will thank me for..."

"I'm learning to speak to myself like..."

Write it. Read it aloud. Let it be your new evidence of love.

Want to Go Deeper?

Join Heather every Friday on Substack for live guided journaling sessions and Q&A: a soft, brave space to reconnect with your heart, especially before the holidays. MoreHumanMoreKind.com

Press play now to begin unlearning fear-based love and to remember what it feels like to be held without condition.

Resource Spotlight

Book: All About Love by bell hooks — foundational wisdom on redefining love as an active choice.

Research: Dr. Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (HarperCollins, 2011).

Therapy Resource: Attachment Theory in Practice by Dr. Sue Johnson — how early bonding shapes our adult relationships.

Study: Barbara Fredrickson, “Love 2.0” (University of North Carolina, 2013) — the science of micro-moments of love.

Book: How We Love by Milan & Kay Yerkovich

Podcast Episode: “Healing the Inner Child” – Unlocking Us with Brené Brown

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Hurt Disguised as Love (Important Info for Parents of LGBTQ Kids)

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the thing that hurt you most was disguised as love?

In this emotionally honest and deeply necessary episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester invites you to explore one of the most painful and liberating truths: that not all love is safe, and some of it was never love to begin with.

As parents, LGBTQ allies, and humans trying to live with more empathy and intention, we often confuse care with control, especially if we were taught that love must hurt to mean something. But when affection becomes a means of compliance, when support comes with shame, silence, or fear, that’s not love, that’s leverage.

Whether you’re heading into a holiday season with complicated family dynamics, supporting an LGBTQ+ child, or healing from your own past, this episode offers language, insight, and tools to reclaim what love should feel like: free, safe, and human.

Learn how to recognize the signs of weaponized love, especially the subtle ways it shows up as care or concern
Explore the difference between conditional love, tough love, and real love and why that difference matters
Hear the neuroscience behind secure attachment, emotional safety, and the power of respect
Receive 4 steps to redefine love on your terms and begin healing your relationship with giving and receiving it
Understand how this shows up in parenting, religion, family systems, and why LGBTQ+ youth are especially at risk of internalizing control as care

Love is one of our most powerful tools, but when it’s used to shame, silence, or manipulate, it becomes one of the most dangerous. As an LGBTQ+ ally, a parent, or a cycle-breaker, understanding this distinction is essential for healing and protection.

Because real love doesn’t demand you disappear, it helps you become more of yourself.

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Press play to begin healing from love that harmed and to rediscover what real, human, and kind love can feel like, starting with how you speak to yourself.

Resource Spotlight

Book: All About Love by bell hooks

Article: “Weaponized Love: When Care Becomes Control” (Psychology Today, 2024

Helpline: The Trevor Project — 24/7 support for LGBTQ+ youth (thetrevorproject.org)

Brené Brown (2021) writes that “Love without boundaries is not love at all — it’s a recipe for resentment.”

Research from the University of Toronto (Fehr & Sprecher, 2009) found that mutual respect and autonomy were stronger predictors of long-term relational satisfaction than affection alone.

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A Parent's Guide to Embracing Difference: The REAL Magic of Halloween

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the quirks, questions, and beautiful edges your LGBTQ child expresses aren’t something to fix, but something to fiercely celebrate? This Halloween, we’re flipping the script on fear and reframing what it really means to embrace “the strange.”

So many parents and allies want to support their LGBTQ kids but struggle with the discomfort of difference, especially when it challenges how we were raised or what society tells us is “normal.” In this heartfelt episode, Heather explores how inclusion, identity, and empathy begin at home. You’ll learn why “normal” is a social construct, how fear of difference is rooted in old systems of control, and why allyship means choosing curiosity over conformity.

If you’re a parent who wants to build real emotional safety for your LGBTQ child, this episode gives you practical guidance on how to shift your mindset and create everyday rituals that affirm identity and deepen connection. You’ll hear powerful tools rooted in love, parenting with empathy, and the radical social justice act of letting kids show up as their full selves.

Whether your child is exploring gender, embracing a unique style, or just seems a little “different,” you’ll learn how to meet them with love, not fear, and why your courage to embrace the strange can unlock healing for you both.

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Reframe “strange” as strength and self-expression
Learn why fear of difference is a learned response and how to unlearn it
Gain tools to build inclusion, emotional safety, and lasting trust in your parenting
Discover how Halloween can be a metaphor for real-world allyship

Then head to MoreHumanMoreKind.com for parenting resources, tools for LGBTQ allyship, and weekly guidance on raising brave, compassionate kids.

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Resource Spotlight

Books & Articles:

Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone (2017).
Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider (1984).
bell hooks, All About Love (2000).
Roxane Gay, “The Case for Weirdness” (New York Times, 2020).
Adam Grant, Originals: How Nonconformists Move the World (2016).
The Atlantic, “The Perils of Pursuing ‘Normal’” (2022).

For Parents and Educators:

PFLAG National: “How to Talk to Kids About Identity.”
GLSEN: Inclusive Schools Toolkit.
Teaching Tolerance: “Breaking the Myth of Normal.”

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History Repeats Unless We Interrupt It: LGBTQ Rights, Allyship, and Action

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

LGBTQ+ History Month isn’t just a celebration of the past,it’s a warning about the present. With over 600 anti-LGBTQ+ bills in play, what will you do to protect what truly matters?

In this powerful episode, Heather Hester walks you through key moments in LGBTQ+ history, from Stonewall to marriage equality, and connects them to the rising threats queer youth face today. You’ll gain tools, context, and confidence to speak up when it matters most.

Learn how to help your kids connect past and present, recognize the patterns of oppression, and feel empowered to resist them. Discover what real allyship looks like today and why silence isn’t neutral.

Press play to turn heartbreak into action and hope into power. Then head to morehumanmorekind.com for resources, prompts, and ways to keep showing up.

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Resource Spotlight

Historical Foundations

Stonewall: The Riots That Sparked the Gay Revolution – David Carter (2004).
How to Survive a Plague – David France (2016).
The Celluloid Closet – Vito Russo (1981).
When We Rise – Cleve Jones (2016).

Modern Reports & Data

ACLU, “Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in U.S. State Legislatures” (2024).
PEN America, “Banned in the USA: The Growing Movement to Censor Books in Schools” (2023).
The Trevor Project, 2023 National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health.
GLAAD, Accelerating Acceptance Survey (2024).

Films & Documentaries

The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson (Netflix, 2017).
Milk (2008).
Disclosure (Netflix, 2020).
Paris Is Burning (1990).

Educational Tools for Parents

Teaching Tolerance: “LGBTQ History Month Resources.”
Human Rights Campaign: “Timeline of LGBTQ History.”
PFLAG National: Parent guides and allyship toolkits.

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Reclaiming the Witch: How Power, Queerness & Rebellion Got Branded Evil

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the witches we grew up fearing weren’t villains, but visionaries, healers, or queer-coded rebels whose power threatened the status quo?

In today’s rich and revolutionary episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester uncovers the truth behind witch hunts, both historical and modern. From midwives to queer teens, anyone who dared to live outside the norms has been branded dangerous. But when we revisit who the “witch” really was, we open a portal to connection, empathy, and courage.

If your child is drawn to witches, monsters, or magic, this episode will show you why it’s not about rebellion, it’s about belonging, power, and healing. And how you, as a parent or ally, can show up with more curiosity, not control.

Why witches were originally midwives, healers, and women with ungovernable knowledge
How LGBTQ+ communities reclaim the witch as a symbol of queer power, survival, and self-trust
4 ways you can use this history to better understand and affirm your LGBTQ+ child
Unlearn the myth that witches = evil and explore what society really fears: truth, autonomy, and joy

Press play to uncover how history, horror, queerness, and allyship collide—and how this ancient archetype can help you raise brave, inclusive, empowered kids today.

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Resource Spotlight

Historical & Theoretical

The Malleus Maleficarum (1486), Heinrich Kramer & Jacob Sprenger
Silvia Federici, Caliban and the Witch (2004).
Anne Llewellyn Barstow, Witchcraze: A New History of the European Witch Hunts (1994).
Brian P. Levack, The Witch-Hunt in Early Modern Europe (2016).
Lyndal Roper, Witch Craze: Terror and Fantasy in Baroque Germany (2004).
Mona Chollet, In Defense of Witches (2022).
Alex Mar, Witches of America (2015).

Feminist & Cultural Reclamation

Pam Grossman, Waking the Witch (2019).
Kristen J. Sollée, Witches, Sluts, Feminists (2017).
Sarah Lyons, Revolutionary Witchcraft (2019).
Pam Grossman, The Witch Wave Podcast. The witch became the archetype of anyone reclaiming power denied to them—especially queer and trans people who have also been branded unnatural or dangerous.
As Grossman says, “To be a witch is to be a person who chooses themselves.”
The Love Witch (2016), The Craft (1996).
Queer Witch Podcast.

Academic Articles & Essays

Marianne Hester, “Patriarchal Reconstruction and Witch Hunting,” Gender & History (1991).
Deborah Willis, Malevolent Nurture: Witch-Hunting and Maternal Power (1995).
Smithsonian Magazine, “The Witch Craze That Swept Through Europe” (2018).
Teen Vogue, “Why Queer People Identify with Witches” (2022).

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Queer Joy in Scary Movies? The Truth About Horror & LGBTQ Youth

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the monster your child identifies with…isn’t a threat, but a symbol of courage, survival, and truth?

For many LGBTQ+ teens, horror films offer more than scares; they offer safety, self-expression, and even joy. While many parents associate horror with violence and fear, queer youth see something radically different: empowerment, visibility, and a chance to survive in a world that often misunderstands them. This episode dives into the coded history of queerness in horror, how today’s youth are reclaiming it, and what it reveals about the emotional worlds of LGBTQ+ kids.

Discover how horror has historically coded queerness and why it still matters today
Learn how to connect with your LGBTQ+ child through their media interests (even scary ones!)
Gain tools, questions, and recommended films to reframe fear as a source of empathy and resilience

Press play to discover why horror isn’t just about fear. It’s about survival, strength, and learning how to love your LGBTQ+ child even more deeply through what lights them up.

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Understanding the Masks LGBTQ Kids Wear for Survival

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What do parents need to know about the masks LGBTQ+ kids wear for survival?

For queer kids, and the parents, moms, and allies supporting them, masks (figurative and literal)can mean safety, expression, or survival. But not all masks are harmless. Some start to suffocate. In this episode, we explore what playful costumes and emotional disguises have in common and how to help our kids (and ourselves) know when it’s time to take the mask off.

Learn how to tell when your child’s “mask” is joyful play or protective camouflage.
Explore how figurative masking shows up in parenting and how to model authenticity.
Walk away with practical tools to build trust, inclusion, and safety without forcing disclosure.

Press play to uncover the power of masks, the risks of hiding, and what it really means to be seen, known, and safe.

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Parents, This Is Why Costumes Matter for LGBTQ Kids

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if your child’s costume choice is Halloween fun AND a first, powerful glimpse into their identity exploration?

For parents, allies, and advocates raising LGBTQ+ or “othered” kids, Halloween can bring joy and also fear. Costumes are often treated as trivial, but for many queer children, dress-up is a rare, safe opportunity to try on who they truly are. In this episode, you’ll learn how to meet those moments with empathy, curiosity, and love.

Understand how dress-up is central to identity development, especially in queer and neurodivergent kids.
Learn how to recognize your own fears and respond in ways that build trust and safety, not shame.
Gain language, tools, and mindset shifts that empower you to be a grounded, inclusive parent or ally this Halloween and beyond.

Press play to discover how one costume can become a turning point for connection, inclusion, and raising brave, joyful kids.

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Generational Ghosts That Haunt Parents of LGBTQ Kids

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the ghosts haunting your parenting aren’t spooky but silent? And what if your child’s future depends on whether you face them?

For parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids, cycles of silence, shame, and inherited fear can sneak into how we parent, often without us realizing it. These “ghosts” may have protected us once, but now they risk being passed down unless we pause to acknowledge and unlearn them. This episode offers the guidance you need to parent more consciously, with empathy, safety, and healing at the center - and learn actionable ways to break the cycle now!

Discover what “ghosts” really are in the context of parenting and how they show up in your daily life.
Learn how to identify and release inherited fears, shame, and silence so you don’t pass them to your children.
Walk away with practical steps to transform generational patterns into moments of healing, love, and resilience.

Listen now to explore how facing your past creates space for inclusion, safety, and the fierce love your kids deserve.

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What Halloween Fears Can Teach Us About Empathy and Parenting LGBTQ Kids

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the monsters you feared growing up were never the real threat but a reflection of the parts of yourself society told you to hide?

For LGBTQ youth, and the parents, moms, and advocates walking alongside them, labels like “weird,” “freak,” and “monster” aren’t just childhood fears, they’re often used to dehumanize. In this episode, we explore how queer communities have reclaimed “monstrosity” as a symbol of resilience, and how parents can use that same insight to guide their kids with empathy, education, and fierce love.

Discover how “monster” stories are rooted in fear of difference and how reclaiming them builds resilience and pride.
Learn practical ways to shift your parenting from fear-based protection to inclusion-based empowerment.
Hear how LGBTQ+ communities transform pain into creativity, and how that wisdom can help you raise brave, mentally healthy kids.

Hit play to explore how reclaiming the monster myth can strengthen your parenting, deepen your allyship, and create more safety and love for the communities that need it most.

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Shifting from Labels to Understand our LGBTQ Kids

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if your child’s “difference” isn’t a problem to fix, but a story we’ve been taught to fear?

In this raw and compassionate episode, Heather Hester opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of parenting LGBTQ kids - really any kid that we have labeled as "different" and how to shift from grief and fear to love and clarity. Whether you’re facing the first waves of realization or years into the journey, this episode invites you to let go of outdated scripts and fully see your child as they are.

Learn how your expectations may be unintentionally shaping your fears and how to let them go
Discover how to move from the grief of "what you imagined" to the beauty of "what is"
Hear why “normal” is a myth and how honoring difference builds deeper trust, resilience, and connection

Press play to reframe your perspective and discover the radical power of honoring your child exactly as they are.

Resource Spotlight

Parenting with Pride (Heather’s book!) — A heartfelt guide for parents navigating bias, expectations, and the journey of loving LGBTQ+ kids fully and freely.
Understood.org — An incredible resource for parents raising children with learning and thinking differences, reminding us that “different” can mean thriving.
The Mighty — A storytelling platform where people share lived experiences of difference, resilience, and what it means to be fully human.
Child Mind Institute — Trusted guidance on supporting kids with emotional, behavioral, or developmental challenges, framed with compassion and clarity.

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Parents, Should You Protect Your LGBTQ Kids From Life's Hard Moments?

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Should you shield your child from life's hardest moments or teach them how to face and carry them?

In this honest and heart-opening episode, Heather Hester explores one of the most misunderstood parts of parenting: how to share hard truths without overwhelming your child. From navigating her own cancer diagnosis to supporting a child through crisis, Heather reveals what it really means to protect and prepare our kids for life’s hardest moments. (Parenting Trust, Resilience, and Emotional Guidance)

Learn how to share difficult news in age-appropriate ways that build trust and emotional safety
Hear how silence and secrecy create fear and what honesty can do instead
Discover why vulnerability is a strength your kids need to see, not something to hide

Press play now to learn how honesty, vulnerability, and trust can transform your parenting and strengthen your connection with your child.

Resource Spotlight

Raising Good Humans (Dr. Aliza Pressman podcast) — Honest, practical conversations about how to raise resilient kids by being honest about life’s struggles.
Common Sense Media — Tools and language for helping parents decide what’s age-appropriate, especially when introducing kids to tough topics.
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) — Guidance from pediatricians on talking with kids about illness, family stress, or other hard realities.
NPR Life Kit (Parenting episodes) — Accessible, short conversations about parenting through challenges—offering bite-sized wisdom when you need it most.

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Why Free Speech is Personal for Parents and LGBTQ Allies

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is free speech really free anymore, or are we watching the First Amendment unravel in real time?

Whether you're raising LGBTQ+ kids, working to become a more informed ally, or just trying to make sense of the noise, this episode breaks down the five essential freedoms that shape our democracy and why they’re all in danger right now. From the weaponization of media to the rise of disinformation, understanding the First Amendment is no longer optional.

Learn what free speech actually protects and where the legal and moral lines are drawn.
Discover how government overreach, misinformation, and media attacks are weakening core freedoms.
Get practical insight into how you can protect your rights and model civic courage for your kids.

Hit play to get clear on what the First Amendment protects, how it's being undermined, and why your voice and vigilance matter more than ever.

Resource Spotlight

ACLU’s Protester’s Rights Guide,
PEN America’s Media Literacy Toolkit,
Independent outlets that keep truth alive such as Crooked Media, the AP, ProPublica, BBC, and The Guardian.

Master Bibliography: First Amendment Further Reading

1. Free Speech: Powerful, but Not Absolute

The Guardian – US free-speech rights shredded despite Trump vow to be First Amendment champion → link
The Guardian – US Supreme Court tells lower courts to reconsider two free speech cases → link
The Atlantic – Why America Protects Hate Speech → link
Forbes – Your Free Speech Rights (Mostly) Don’t Apply At Work → link
Politico – Trump: ‘It’s no longer free speech’ → link

2. A Free Press: Democracy’s Watchdog

The Guardian – Global press freedom suffers sharpest fall in 50 years, report finds → link
The Guardian – The US used to be the gold standard for press freedom. Not any more → link
The Atlantic – The press is not the enemy → link
AP News – West Point is violating the First Amendment with a crackdown on professors → link
Politico – First Amendment advocates decry settlement in ‘60 Minutes’ lawsuit → link

3. Separation of Church and State Protects Everyone

The Guardian – Project Blitz: the legislative assault by Christian nationalists to reshape America → link
AP News – Supreme Court ruling opens door for religious charter schools → link
The Atlantic – The dangerous rise of Christian nationalism → link
BBC – Why church-state separation matters in America → link
The Hill – Christian nationalism poses a threat to democracy, experts warn → link

4. The Right to Assemble: Values in Action

The Guardian – US intensifies crackdown on peaceful protest under Trump → link
The Guardian – We are no longer free. But we can win our freedom back → link
BBC – Black Lives Matter: From social media to the streets → link
The Atlantic – The protest that could change everything → link
Forbes – X Sues To Block California’s Anti-Deepfakes Law For Elections (relevant for digital assembly/speech) → link

5. These Freedoms Interconnect—and They’re Under Pressure

The Guardian – Civil liberties don’t collapse all at once—they erode piece by piece (analysis on cumulative erosion of rights) → link
The Guardian – Global press freedom suffers sharpest fall in 50 years → link
The Atlantic – Christian nationalism is an existential threat to democracy → link
Politico – Peter Strzok loses First Amendment case over his firing → link
WSJ – Free Speech on Campus Isn’t Free (on higher ed and speech battles) → link

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Why LGBTQ Kids Wait Until College to Come Out

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Why do so many LGBTQ kids wait until college to come out, and what does that mean?

In this insightful and compassionate episode, Heather Hester explores why college becomes a powerful turning point for many LGBTQ young people and what parents and allies need to understand. From the need for distance and safety to the importance of chosen community, you'll learn how to support your child without making it about you (no judgement or shame on you, we promise!)

Understand why coming out often begins with identity ownership not rejection of family
Learn how to respond with curiosity and trust, even when you feel left out
Discover the most meaningful things you can say and do to support your child from afar

Press play and walk away with the insight, grace, and grounded tools to support your LGBTQ+ child whether they’re just beginning to open up, or finding themselves far from home.

Resource Spotlight

Stages of Coming Out Episode
The Trevor Project — A lifeline for LGBTQ+ youth, offering 24/7 crisis support, peer connection, and resources to navigate coming out safely.
Campus Pride — A national nonprofit that helps students find LGBTQ+-friendly colleges and universities, and works to make campuses safer and more inclusive.
GLAAD Coming Out Guide — A practical, affirming guide with language, ideas, and steps for young people deciding when and how to come out.
PFLAG National — The largest organization for parents and families of LGBTQ+ people, with chapters nationwide offering support and education.

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The Parenting Shift That Builds Trust With Your LGBTQ Child

Fri, 19 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Do you ever feel like the harder you try to guide your LGBTQ child, the more they pull away?

You’re not alone. In this deeply personal episode, Heather Hester explores the emotional weight of control, how it shows up in families, and why learning to lead with influence, not force, can transform your relationship with your child. Whether you’re parenting a queer or trans teen or simply navigating a tense family dynamic, this episode offers a compassionate reframe grounded in real-life stories and tools.

Understand why control breeds resistance and how influence fosters lasting trust
Learn how to recognize control patterns in your parenting and gently shift your approach
Discover Heather’s ARCC method for setting loving boundaries with courage and clarity

Press play to begin releasing control and embracing the kind of influence that builds deeper bonds with your LGBTQ+ child and with yourself.

Resource Spotlight

Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly — A powerful book about vulnerability, trust, and courage. It’s a reminder that letting go of control is often where the real strength lies.
Greater Good Science Center (UC Berkeley) — Research-backed resources on how compassion and influence, not control, create healthier relationships and communities.
The Gottman Institute — Relationship experts offering tools to replace control with influence and build trust in families, partnerships, and beyond.

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Free Speech and the Cost of Dehumanization: Holding Hard Truths in the Wake of Charlie Kirk

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

How do we hold space for grief, truth, and humanity when someone who had polarizing views is taken by violence?

In moments like these, where headlines are loud and emotions run high, many of us are struggling with what it means to respond in a way that’s honest, compassionate, and grounded. Whether you're a parent, a leader, or simply a human trying to make sense of a complicated world, this episode offers a place to pause, reflect, and choose kindness without erasing truth.

Understand why grief can feel especially complex when someone who caused harm dies tragically.
Explore how to navigate the tension between grace, anger, and justice in a polarized world.
Learn how to model grounded, honest responses for your kids and communities without losing your humanity.

Press play to explore the messy truth of holding space for both grief and accountability, and how choosing kindness in hard moments might be the most powerful thing we can do.

Full quote from Martin Luther King Jr.'s children

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Parents, This is What Gen Z Wants You to Know About AI and Mental Health

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your teen turning to an AI chatbot when they’re in crisis? Would you even know if they were?

In this eye-opening episode, Heather Hester explores the booming use of AI mental health apps like Woebot and Replika, especially among Gen Z and LGBTQ+ youth. Why are young people choosing bots over therapists or parents? What do these tools offer and what are they missing? This conversation pulls back the curtain on a growing mental health trend and offers actionable guidance for parents, educators, and allies navigating this new reality.

Understand why Gen Z is turning to AI for emotional support and what it reveals about their mental health needs
Learn the real risks (and potential benefits) of AI therapy tools, especially for LGBTQ+ teens
Discover how to open meaningful conversations about mental health and tech without fear, shame, or disconnection

Press play to learn how to use curiosity, connection, and compassion, not control, to guide Gen Z’s use of AI for mental health.

Resource Spotlight

Crisis Text Line — Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a live, trained counselor.
Jed Foundation (JED) — Programs protecting emotional health of teens and young adults: jedfoundation.org
Verywell Mind: Best Therapy Apps of 2025 — Curated reviews of mental health apps, pros and cons: verywellmind.com
Psychology Today Therapist Directory — To find affirming, human-based therapists: psychologytoday.com

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For LGBTQ Allyship, Kindness Isn't Just a Nice Gesture

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if kindness wasn’t just a nice gesture, but a radical act of love that could save a life?

For parents of LGBTQ+ youth and allies navigating an increasingly disconnected, dangerous, and crisis-driven world, kindness isn’t fluff, it’s safety. It’s neuroscience. It’s survival. In this episode, you’ll learn how your smallest actions might become someone’s turning point. (allyship, inclusion, parenting, mental health, LGBTQ)

Discover the science behind why kindness calms the nervous system and heals emotional pain
Understand how to show up for others, especially your kids, with intention, not fear
Learn 3 ways to practice life-changing kindness this week (even if you’re short on time or energy)

Tap play to rethink what kindness really means and how it can transform lives, including your own.

Resource Spotlight:

Kindness.org — Research-based tools and inspiration for practicing intentional kindness: kindness.org
Random Acts of Kindness Foundation — Free resources to spark daily kindness: randomactsofkindness.org
Mental Health America — Guidance and community programs to promote mental well-being: mhanational.org

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Stop Blaming Identity! The Dangerous Myth Affecting LGBTQ Kids' Mental Health

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever heard someone say LGBTQ kids struggle with mental health because of who they are?

In this urgent episode, Heather Hester dismantles one of the most dangerous myths surrounding LGBTQ+ youth: that their mental health struggles are inherent. With clarity and compassion, she explores the real causes like rejection, stigma, and lack of affirming care, and shares what parents, allies, and advocates can do to protect the lives and dignity of LGBTQ+ youth today.

Learn why identity isn’t the problem, rejection is, and how that impacts LGBTQ+ mental health
Discover the daily actions parents and allies can take to become affirming, life-saving supports
Understand how simple shifts in language, access, and community can protect youth from isolation, depression, and despair

Press play to unlearn the harmful myths and learn how to be the advocate your LGBTQ+ loved one needs. Affirmation isn’t a luxury, it’s protection.

Resource Spotlight:

The Trevor Project — 24/7 crisis intervention and suicide prevention services for LGBTQ+ young people. thetrevorproject.org
Trans Lifeline — Peer support hotline run by and for trans people: 877-565-8860.
GLMA (Health Professionals Advancing LGBTQ+ Equality) — Directory to find LGBTQ+-affirming healthcare providers: glma.org
NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) — Mental health resources, education, and support groups: nami.org

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What If One Conversation Could Save a Life? Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Youth

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the most life-saving thing you do this week isn’t a therapy appointment or medication, but a single, courageous conversation?

For LGBTQ+ youth, suicide risk remains heartbreakingly high — not because of who they are, but because of the rejection, fear, and silence they too often face. In this vital episode, Heather Hester cuts through the discomfort to teach parents and allies how to break that silence with compassion, clarity, and life-affirming guidance.

Learn the real reasons behind the suicide risk facing LGBTQ+ youth and what the data actually says
Recognize critical warning signs and how to respond without fear, judgment, or overwhelm
Discover the “index card” strategy and other proven tools that make hard conversations easier AND can literally save lives

Press play to learn how your presence, your love, and your willingness to speak can become the most powerful allyship tool you have.

Resource Spotlight

The Trevor Project – 24/7 crisis support for LGBTQ youth: Call 1-866-488-7386, Text “START” to 678-678, or use the chat at thetrevorproject.org
Trans Lifeline – 877-565-8860 (U.S.), 877-330-6366 (Canada)
Crisis Text Line - Text "HELLO" or "HOLA" to 741-741
TWLOHA Suicide Prevention Month Campaign
Mental Health Toolkit

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Support Your Queer Child Without Family Drama

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you heading to a holiday weekend gathering with your LGBTQ child where not everyone is affirming and you're wondering how to protect their well-being without creating more tension?

For many families, gatherings (family or otherwise) bring complicated emotions. When your child is LGBTQ+ and not everyone in the room is supportive, the stakes get higher. In this episode, Heather offers heartfelt, practical guidance to help you lead with courage, protect your peace, and prioritize what matters most: your child’s well-being and your own.

Learn how to set compassionate, non-negotiable boundaries with extended family and friends
Use simple scripts to respond to misgendering, microaggressions, or toxic conversations
Explore ways to re-center your child and yourself before, during, and after family gatherings

Press play to feel more grounded, prepared, and empowered to lead with kindness and courage this holiday season, for your LGBTQ child and your whole family.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: PFLAG’s “When Someone You Love Is LGBTQ+” Guide

Why it matters: This is a gentle, practical guide you can even share with family members who are trying, but struggling, to understand. It’s clear, respectful, and designed to build bridges.

Other helpful resources:

LGBTQ Family Acceptance Toolkit – The Trevor Project
Family Acceptance Project – Research-based resources for families navigating identity and belonging
Chrysalis Mama Articles – My own words and experience

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What LGBTQ Kids Really Need from Their Parents

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Do you think you're doing the right thing for your LGBTQ child, but still feel like you're fumbling through it alone?

In this deeply honest and empowering episode, Heather Hester is joined by author Anna MacArthur to explore what happens when your child comes out before you’re ready and how to grow into the fierce, loving, and informed parent they need. Together, they unpack the emotional rollercoaster of learning, unlearning, and becoming an LGBTQ+ ally in real time.

Hear the real story behind Anna’s unexpected journey from confusion to courage after her son’s coming out
Learn how to handle grief, guilt, and vulnerability without letting fear take the lead
Discover what LGBTQ+ youth actually need from their parents and how to be that person, even when you don’t have all the answers

Press play to feel seen, supported, and inspired as a parent, and walk away with new clarity, compassion, and courage on your LGBTQ+ parenting journey.

Anna's book: Hope for Moms

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What LGBTQ Inclusive Parenting (and Schools!) Really Looks Like

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your school community confusing “nice” with “kind” and leaving LGBTQ students unsupported in the process?

As a new school year begins, many of us want to build more inclusive classrooms and communities, but surface-level politeness won’t get us there. This episode challenges parents, educators, and allies to embrace kindness as a courageous, everyday act that builds true safety and connection.

Learn the key difference between being “nice” and practicing real kindness in school settings
Get ready-to-use scripts for handling misgendering, exclusion, and passive comments with compassion and clarity
Discover simple ways to raise children who lead with empathy and protect their peers with quiet courage

Press play to learn how kindness can become a bold tool for change—and how you can model and teach it this school year.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: Welcoming Schools – Back-to-School Kindness Resources

Why it matters: This toolkit includes class posters, conversation starters, book lists, and sample lessons to help schools and families build inclusive environments from day one.

Other resources to explore:

Teaching Tolerance (Learning for Justice) – Culturally responsive lesson plans and conversation starters
Kindness.org – Research-backed kindness practices for schools and communities
StoryCorps’ “Listen Closely” LGBTQ Archive – Stories that inspire empathy, connection, and action

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Be the Parent and Ally Your College-Bound LGBTQ Kid Needs

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your LGBTQ teen heading to college and you’re wondering how to support them without smothering their independence?

The transition to college is a huge milestone. For LGBTQ students, it can bring both liberation and new layers of fear, risk, and identity exploration. This episode offers the tools and guidance parents and allies need to empower their teen while staying emotionally connected.

Help your LGBTQ+ teen prepare for affirming housing, healthcare, and mental health resources
Learn how to support their safety and autonomy with practical strategies
Discover how to stay lovingly connected without hovering and build trust in a new phase of parenting

Press play to learn how courage, communication, and allyship can transform your LGBTQ teen’s college experience for both of you.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: Campus Pride Index

Why it matters: A searchable database of U.S. colleges rated on their LGBTQ+ friendliness, including housing, policies, and student life. Perfect for researching before and after enrollment.

Other helpful resources:

OutCare Health – LGBTQ-affirming health providers nationwide
Trevor Project’s Coming Out Guide for College
Trans Lifeline – Especially helpful for students navigating gender identity support
The Jed Foundation – Mental health resources tailored for college students

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Back to School Without Burnout: Supporting LGBTQ Teens

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your LGBTQ teen heading back to high school, but quietly bracing for judgment, isolation, or burnout?

For LGBTQ+ teens, high school is often a complex dance between self-expression and self-protection. This episode explores how parents and allies can become the steady, empowering force teens need during this crucial time without trying to control their journey.

Discover practical ways to support your teen emotionally at home and at school
Learn how to communicate with teachers and advocate for safer, more inclusive environments
Help your teen access affirming community, resources, and mental health tools on their terms

Press play to learn how your support, presence, and courage can make this school year safer, kinder, and more empowering for your LGBTQ teen.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: Q Chat Space

Why it matters: A live-chat-based support platform where LGBTQ+ teens can join professionally facilitated, identity-affirming online groups - no video, no pressure, just connection.

More resources:

TrevorSpace – Global community for LGBTQ+ youth aged 13–24
It Gets Better Project – Stories, inspiration, and resources
GLSEN’s GSA Resources – Tools to start or grow a school-based LGBTQ+ student alliance
The Gender Cool Project – Positive stories about trans and nonbinary youth

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Help Your LGBTQ Child Start the School Year Feeling Safe and Confident

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your LGBTQ child heading back to school feeling supported or silently dreading the year ahead?

While a new school year can be exciting, for many LGBTQ+ kids it also brings fear of being misgendered, misunderstood, or left out. In this episode, Heather shares actionable guidance for parents, caregivers, and allies who want to make the back-to-school transition safer, more affirming, and rooted in compassion.

Learn age-appropriate strategies to support LGBTQ+ kids in both elementary and middle school
Use powerful scripts to communicate with teachers and advocate for inclusive practices
Equip your child with emotional tools, confidence-building rituals, and social safety plans

Hit play to find the guidance and courage you need to help your LGBTQ child feel seen, supported, and ready to thrive this school year.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: Gender Spectrum – Back-to-School Resources

Why it matters: These free resources include conversation starters, tips for building support teams, and guides for both parents and educators.

Other supports:

HRC Welcoming Schools – tools for inclusive classrooms
GLSEN Educator Guides – lesson plans, safe space posters, and school policy templates
PFLAG’s Guide for Elementary Educators – great for starting gentle conversations

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Parents, This Is How to Make Travel Safer for LGBTQ Kids

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your LGBTQ child carrying invisible emotional baggage every time you travel?

For many LGBTQ+ youth, what should be a fun vacation can trigger stress, dysphoria, and emotional shutdown. This episode explores how parents and allies can spot the signs, ease the mental load, and create more affirming travel experiences.

Learn how to identify hidden mental health struggles in LGBTQ+ kids while traveling
Discover grounding tools and affirming travel routines that build connection and safety
Explore simple but powerful acts of allyship and kindness that transform travel into healing

Press play to learn how to travel with courage, connection, and compassionate allyship for your LGBTQ+ child and yourself.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: The Trevor Project: Self-Care Resources for LGBTQ+ Youth

Why it matters: These are excellent tools to share with your child before a trip. They are practical ways to center and care for themselves when feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

Other resources:

Gender Spectrum’s Travel Tips for affirming travel conversations
Safe Space Alliance – map of LGBTQ+ safe spaces around the world
Trans Lifeline – Peer support and crisis line (also available in the U.S. and Canada)

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LGBTQ Travel Tips: How to Keep Family Vacations Safe & Affirming

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Would your next family vacation make your LGBTQ+ child feel affirmed or anxious?

Whether you're planning a road trip or flying internationally, traveling with an LGBTQ+ child brings unique emotional and safety needs. This episode explores how to turn travel into a safe, empowering experience for your entire family.

Learn what to pack so your LGBTQ+ child feels seen, grounded, and supported
Get expert tips on researching inclusive destinations, events, and accommodations
Discover tools and apps that help ensure emotional safety and legal awareness while abroad

Press play to feel confident and prepared when traveling with your LGBTQ+ teen—wherever your next adventure takes you.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Website: International LGBTQ+ Travel Association (IGLTA)

Why it matters: IGLTA provides free resources, LGBTQ+ inclusive guides, safety information, and vetted travel partners for queer travelers and their families.

Other tools:

GeoSure App (iOS & Android) – Real-time LGBTQ safety ratings
Equaldex – Country-specific legal and social climate for LGBTQ+ people
Trans Travel Checklist by National Center for Transgender Equality: transequality.org

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A New Program That’s Changing LGBTQ Family Dynamics

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you raising or supporting an LGBTQ+ teen and wondering how to truly show up for them, especially in today’s climate?

In this episode, psychologist and researcher Dr. Heather Littleton joins host Heather Hester to share how the Healthy Families Bright Futures program is equipping LGBTQ+ teens and their caregivers with real-world tools for connection, communication, and confidence. Whether you’re new to this journey or further along, this conversation offers hope, guidance, and practical support. AND, this is a paid study looking for participants!

Discover how this unique 7-week online program empowers LGBTQ+ teens and their families with safety, agency, and community
Learn the most effective strategies for talking about dating, identity, boundaries, and online safety with your teen
Understand how to model allyship, build resilience, and stay emotionally connected, even when things get complicated

Press play to hear how families are transforming through support, courage, and shared learning and find out how to get involved in this groundbreaking program.

Healthy Families Bright Futures Program

Dr. Heather Littleton's website

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Protecting LGBTQ Youth Starts with Mental Health

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the most important way to protect LGBTQ+ youth isn’t legislation or policies, but how we care for their mental health?

In the final episode of July’s “Safety” series, Heather Hester gets to the emotional core of LGBTQ+ protection: supporting what’s happening inside our kids. Backed by powerful data and grounded in lived experience, this conversation unpacks what mental health safety really means, and why your presence, listening, and affirmation matter more than ever.

Understand the life-saving impact of being one accepting adult in an LGBTQ+ young person’s life
Learn how to create emotional rituals of safety and resilience at home, from check-ins to therapy
Discover how modeling emotional honesty and curiosity (not correction) creates lasting trust and well-being

Press play to learn how you can become your LGBTQ+ child’s safety net from the inside out with tools, presence, and powerful compassion.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Mental health support:

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What Every Parent of LGBTQ Kids Should Know About School Safety

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your child’s school truly safe for all students? For LGBTQ youth, safety can’t be assumed; it must be advocated for.

In this powerful and practical episode, Heather breaks down what school safety really looks like for LGBTQ+ students, and what happens when it's missing. From book bans to anti-LGBTQ+ legislation to silenced teachers, the current climate is putting queer students at risk. But it’s not hopeless. Parents, educators, and allies can make a difference with presence, persistence, and a clear plan of action.

Learn what questions to ask your child’s school to assess LGBTQ+ safety
Discover how to prepare for meetings with school administrators and boards
Explore ways to model courageous advocacy that kids can watch and follow

Press play to gain the tools, scripts, and mindset you need to advocate for inclusive, affirming school environments where every LGBTQ+ child feels protected, seen, and celebrated.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

GLSEN’s Back-to-School Toolkit
Welcoming Schools (HRC)
PFLAG’s Safe Schools Guide
Email me for help with creating a personalized script!

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Beyond Love: The 3 Pillars of LGBTQ Affirmation

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What does it really mean to affirm an LGBTQ child - and why does it matter so much more than just saying “I love you no matter what”?

In today’s powerful and practical episode, Heather explores how safety for LGBTQ youth begins not just in policy or protection, but in the everyday relationships that hold them. From correcting a pronoun without guilt, to celebrating milestones with joy, to staying curious instead of controlling, this episode offers a blueprint for parents, educators, and allies to show up with presence, compassion, and intention.

Learn the 3 pillars of affirming relationships: Presence Over Perfection, Curiosity Without Control, and Allyship in Action
Discover real-life language shifts, reflection practices, and parenting tools you can start using today
Understand why affirmation isn’t one moment - it’s an ongoing relationship, and one of the greatest gifts you can give a young person

Press play to learn how to be a source of safety, trust, and joy for the LGBTQ+ youth in your life—starting right now.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Family Acceptance Project – https://familyproject.sfsu.edu

Trevor Project Guide for Allies – https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources

PFLAG Parent Guide – https://pflag.org

Parenting with Pride – My book includes affirming scripts, self-reflection prompts, and deeper dives into building trust.

And of course, our Kind Space community is always open to those walking this journey together.

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The Real Impact of Anti-LGBTQ Laws And What You Can Do As a Parent or Ally

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you watching headlines and wondering, “How is this even possible?” You’re not alone. What’s happening is no longer theoretical, it's personal.

In this urgent and grounding episode, Heather takes us beyond the headlines into the real-world consequences of anti-LGBTQ+ laws, court rulings, and systemic rollbacks of civil rights. Humanity is being politicized. This moment isn’t just about policies, it’s about people, especially LGBTQ+ youth who are being stripped of protections, care, and safety. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, outraged, or uncertain about what to do next, this episode is your guide to clarity and action.

Get the facts on how federal and state-level changes are impacting LGBTQ+ youth in real time
Understand the connection between religious exemptions, civil rights erosion, and systemic harm
Learn 5 powerful ways you can take action to protect democracy, dignity, and LGBTQ+ lives starting now

Press play to move from overwhelmed to empowered, and discover how to speak up, show up, and stand firm in this critical moment for LGBTQ+ rights and human dignity.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Organizations to follow or support:

Movement Advancement Project – State-by-state policy tracker
ACLU LGBTQ+ Rights Project
Lambda Legal – Legal action for LGBTQ+ civil rights
Transgender Law Center
GLAAD
Ground News or Allsides

Voices to follow for updates & analysis:

Erin Reed (@ErinInTheMorn)
Alejandra Caraballo (@Esqueer_)
Letter from an American (Heather Cox Richardson)
Pod Save America podcast
The Trevor Project for youth-focused data

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Why “LGBTQ Isn’t for Kids” Is Dangerous And Wrong

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Ever heard someone say “LGBTQ isn’t for kids”? Whether in a school board meeting or family gathering, that phrase may sound protective, but it’s doing real harm.

In this bold and heartfelt episode, Heather breaks down one of the most dangerous narratives affecting LGBTQ+ youth today. You’ll learn how the idea that queer identities are “inappropriate” or “too adult” for kids not only erases real children, it creates lasting harm. And you’ll get tools to replace shame with truth, silence with conversation, and fear with love.

Understand the real impact of LGBTQ+ erasure on kids’ mental health and self-worth
Discover how inclusive language, books, and visibility create safer, kinder environments
Learn how to challenge this narrative with courage, compassion, and concrete action

Press play to explore how you can protect LGBTQ+ youth - not by shielding them from identity, but by celebrating the truth of who they are.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Books for younger audiences:

Red: A Crayon’s Story by Michael Hall (gender identity)
Julian is a Mermaid by Jessica Love (gender expression)
It Feels Good to Be Yourself by Theresa Thorn (gender identity)
And Tango Makes Three by Justin Richardson (two-dad family)

Books for middle grades and YA audiences:

Alan Cole is Not a Coward and Alan Cole Doesn’t Dance by Eric Bell
A High Five for Glenn Burke by Phil Bildner
King and the Dragonflies by Kacen Callender
The Queen Bees of Tybee County by Kyle Casey Chu
Amelia, If Only by Becky Albertalli
I Can’t Even Think Straight by Dean Atta
Only This Beautiful Moment by Abdi Nazemian

Educational orgs to follow:

Welcoming Schools (by HRC) – welcomingschools.org
GLSEN – glsen.org
Gender Spectrum – genderspectrum.org

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How Parents of LGBTQ Kids Turn Fear Into Allyship

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you afraid of “getting it wrong” when it comes to supporting your LGBTQ+ child or navigating today’s climate as an ally? You're not alone.

In this tender and truth-telling episode, Heather explores the quiet fears that often go unspoken in LGBTQ+ families: the parent’s fear of the unknown, the child’s fear of rejection, and the shared fear of being misunderstood. But instead of pushing fear away, she shows us how to make space for it and how that space can become a bridge toward safety, courage, and connection.

Learn how to recognize and name fear as a tool for deeper connection with your LGBTQ+ child
Discover simple, powerful tools like the VAST method and mirror conversations to strengthen trust and communication
Find clarity and calm through actionable steps like grounding together, journaling, and using fear as guidance instead of a block

Hit play to explore how you can turn fear into fuel—and become the brave, compassionate ally your LGBTQ+ child needs most right now.

Recommended resources this week:

PFLAG (https://pflag.org) — for support groups and educational tools, especially helpful for parents navigating early fear or confusion
Trevor Project 2024 National Survey — link — excellent data on LGBTQ+ youth mental health and what helps most
Gender Spectrum’s Parenting Resources — link — great for framing safe conversations and addressing fear with understanding

And of course, my book Parenting with Pride includes tools for navigating tough emotions—including fear—through the lens of love and allyship.

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Gender Isn’t the Emergency. Fear Is.

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What do you do when your child starts exploring gender and the world is telling you to panic instead of listen?

In this urgent and compassionate episode, Heather sits down with non-binary speaker and educator Rex Wilde to address the questions parents are asking most, especially in a time of rising fear, misinformation, and political attacks. With stories from their own journey, practical guidance, and data-backed truths, Rex brings clarity, courage, and warmth to one of the most misunderstood topics in today’s cultural conversation.

Learn how to respond when your child begins expressing a different gender identity—or explores gender at all
Hear how allyship is evolving, and what true support looks like in today’s climate
Gain tools to navigate misinformation, avoid burnout, and build a resilient, affirming home and community

Press play to gain the grounded guidance, perspective, and hope you need to show up fully—as a parent, ally, and human.

Connect with Rex:

www.rexwilde.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rexewilde/

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988 Crisis Line Dropped LGBTQ Support: What Parents & Allies Must Know

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What happens when crisis support is stripped away, but the danger remains? And what do we do with the heartbreak, anger, and fear that follow?

In this timely episode, Heather unpacks the quiet, unannounced removal of the LGBTQ+ support option from the national 988 crisis line—and what that loss means for queer youth, for families, and for every ally committed to creating a safer, more just world. But this conversation goes beyond policy. It dives into the emotional tension we’re all holding right now: how to stay engaged and hopeful while feeling deeply saddened, disappointed, and even disgusted. How to keep showing up—especially when it hurts.

Understand why the removal of LGBTQ+-specific support from 988 isn’t just an administrative change—it’s a threat to lives
Learn how to hold grief and courage at the same time—and how that duality can fuel real, loving action
Get practical guidance on alternative crisis resources, how to advocate effectively, and how to be a refuge for LGBTQ+ youth when systems fall short

Listen now to reclaim your voice, strengthen your courage, and learn how to hold both heartbreak and hope in the fight to protect LGBTQ+ lives.

Links Mentioned:

The Trevor Project Crisis Services – https://www.thetrevorproject.org
Trans Lifeline – https://translifeline.org
Q Chat Space – https://www.qchatspace.org
National LGBTQ Task Force – https://www.thetaskforce.org
Human Rights Campaign 988 Brief – [searchable on hrc.org]

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Protecting LGBTQ Kids: Love Is the Start, Not the Strategy

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 14:15:00 -0500

Are you truly protecting your LGBTQ child - or just hoping love will be enough?

In a world where safety for LGBTQ+ youth is under attack, many parents and allies feel overwhelmed, unsure how to provide real protection at home. This episode tackles the urgent need for emotional, psychological, and identity-based safety and offers a powerful framework to help families create affirming environments that truly protect.

Learn 5 simple yet transformative ways to make your home safer and more affirming for LGBTQ+ youth
Gain the confidence and language to set loving but firm boundaries with extended family and friends
Find strength and solidarity through connection to a growing, affirming community of families and advocates

Hit play to start building a home where your LGBTQ+ child feels safe, seen, and fiercely supported every single day.

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The Power of Disruptive Kindness for Parents and LGBTQ Allies

Fri, 27 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Can kindness be disruptive and even radical? And, what if being “nice” is quietly doing harm?

In today’s episode of More Human. More Kind., we explore the transformative power of kindness—not the performative kind that avoids discomfort, but the kind rooted in courage, truth, and fierce allyship. As parents and allies of LGBTQ+ youth, it can feel safer to choose politeness or neutrality, but true allyship demands something deeper. You’ll learn why kindness isn’t about staying quiet or keeping peace—it’s about protecting what matters, sparking change, and showing up even when it’s uncomfortable.

What You Will Learn:

How to recognize when “niceness” is causing harm, especially in LGBTQ+ spaces and advocacy.
The emotional weight and cost of courageous kindness—and why it’s still worth it.
Real-life examples of kindness as activism and allyship in action, from schools to hospitals to social media.

Press play to uncover how real kindness—backed by courage and guidance—can help you become the LGBTQ+ ally your child and community need right now.

The Trevor Project – Crisis intervention and suicide prevention for LGBTQ+ youth.
Showing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ) – Organizing white people for racial and economic justice.
RAICES – Supporting immigrants and asylum seekers with legal aid and advocacy.
The Okra Project – Nourishing Black trans people through meals and support.
GLSEN – Advocating for inclusive and safe schools for LGBTQ+ youth.

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The Heart of Allyship: Rebuilding Our Intuition

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if one small question could completely change how you experience your life starting today?

Most of us have been conditioned to seek answers, direction, and validation outside ourselves. But what if the real breakthroughs come from within? In this powerful episode, Heather McGuire shares how she transformed anxiety, self-doubt, and burnout into peace, purpose, and connection through tiny, intentional shifts in perspective.

Discover the “magic wand” mindset questions that instantly create space and clarity.
Learn how to rebuild your relationship with self-trust through practical, compassionate tools.
Hear inspiring real-life stories of transformation from Heather’s clients and her own personal journey.

Listen now to uncover how small shifts in your inner world can unlock real miracles in your outer life.

Connect with Heather Maguire:

https://www.instagram.com/unconventional_intuitive/

https://www.facebook.com/UnconventionalIntuitive/

The Miracles Club: https://unconventionalintuitive.myflodesk.com/miraclesclub

Website: https://unconventionalintuitive.com/

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LGBTQ Representation and Visibility: What It Really Means to Be Seen

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if being seen—truly seen—was both the most courageous and most healing thing you could do?

In this episode, we dive into the layered journey of visibility for LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. Whether you're navigating your own experience or standing beside someone you love, you'll hear honest reflections on grief, pride, advocacy, and the transformative power of being fully present in who you are. This episode is for anyone who's ever felt both the fear and the freedom of being visible.

Learn how to hold space for both grief and joy as your child—and you—grow into more authentic versions of yourselves.
Discover how visibility, even in quiet or uncertain ways, becomes a powerful act of advocacy and love.
Gain clarity on essential LGBTQ+ terms like sexual orientation and gender identity, and how they shape real human experiences.

Hit play to explore the messy, beautiful truth about visibility—and why your voice, your presence, and your journey deeply matter.

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Affirming Your LGBTQ Child Is Just the Beginning: Unlearning to Love Deeper

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if affirming your child isn’t the final step, but the first in a much deeper journey?

In this heartfelt episode, we explore the often unseen difference between accepting your LGBTQ+ child and fully unlearning the beliefs that shaped your understanding of love, identity, and parenting. If you've ever wrestled with reconciling your values with the legacy of what you were taught, this conversation is a path to deeper clarity, connection, and authenticity.

Understand the emotional and spiritual layers of unlearning inherited beliefs to parent with truth and courage.
Discover practical, soul-nourishing tools to align with your values and show up fully for your child and yourself.
Learn how everyday advocacy can transform fear into purpose and create a more just, inclusive world for all kids.

Press play to hear a deeply personal story that will challenge, inspire, and empower you to parent from a place of alignment, liberation, and fierce love.

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Say This, Not That: Language That Builds Trust With Your LGBTQ Teen

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Pride Month Series | More Human. More Kind. with Heather Hester

What if the words you say in a single moment could shape your child’s inner voice for a lifetime?

Whether you're a parent, ally, or someone striving to lead with compassion in a polarized world, understanding how language—spoken and unspoken—impacts our LGBTQ+ loved ones is crucial. This episode explores how your reactions, tone, and body language can either nurture connection or deepen divides.

In this episode you will:

Discover how to transform missteps into deeper trust and healing with your child.
Learn the powerful role of tone, body language, and energy in affirming identity and creating safety.
Get clear, compassionate answers to the complex question: Is it okay to use the word “queer”?

Press play now to learn how you can use language as a bridge—not a barrier—in your journey toward more human, more kind parenting.

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Letting Go of Perfect: Embrace the Messiness of LGBTQ Allyship

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Pride Month Series | More Human. More Kind. with Heather Hester

Are you worried about saying the wrong thing to your LGBTQ child or holding back your support until you “get it right”?

In this deeply honest episode, Heather Hester explores one of the biggest blocks parents and allies face: perfectionism. She shares her own journey of fumbling, learning, and ultimately showing up imperfectly but wholeheartedly for her LGBTQ kids. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by the fear of messing up, this episode offers both comfort and guidance.

Discover why perfectionism is a barrier to true allyship and how to release it
Learn how modeling vulnerability can build trust and healing with your child
Gain clarity on the meaning and evolution of the LGBTQ+ acronym and why it matters

Hit play now to hear how letting go of “getting it right” can lead to deeper connection, stronger allyship, and a more courageous version of yourself.

Plus: a listener “Queer-y” on the evolution of LGBTQ+ terminology, and why the order of the letters actually matters.

Three Key Takeaways:

Let go of the need to be perfect. You’ll never know everything, and that’s okay.
Allyship is a practice. Keep showing up, especially when it’s uncomfortable.
Model repair and growth. Your child learns how to be human by watching you be human.

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Curiosity, Not Judgment: The First Step in LGBTQ Allyship

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Pride Month Series

Are you parenting an LGBTQ child or striving to be a better ally, but worried you’re unintentionally doing more harm than good?

In today’s episode, Heather Hester shares the first of five transformative lessons from her own journey of parenting with pride. As she reflects on her son's coming out, she opens up about the surprising power of choosing curiosity over judgment and why even well-meaning reactions can create distance instead of connection. If you’ve ever wondered how to truly show up for your LGBTQ child, this is a must-listen.

Discover how curiosity can completely shift your relationship with your child
Learn how to practice unconditional love through presence, not perfection
Understand why certain common reactions can feel judgmental, even when you mean well

Press play to learn how embracing curiosity over certainty could be the most powerful gift you give your LGBTQ child today.

You’ll also hear the first installment of our Listener Queer-y segment: Why we celebrate Pride and why there’s no such need for “straight pride.”

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Queer Grief and the Power of Storytelling: The Story of "What About Me?"

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever felt like no one talks about what it really means to grieve as a queer person or as someone who loves one?

In today’s heartfelt episode, Heather Hester sits down with Josh Nagler and Sam Wasserman, the creative minds behind What About Me, a new series born from the raw, unfiltered experience of sibling grief and queer identity. Whether you're a parent, ally, or part of the LGBTQ community, their story sheds light on what it means to hold space for both loss and visibility, especially when the world wants things tidy.

Hear how Josh and Sam turned a deeply personal tragedy into powerful queer storytelling.
Learn why humor and heartbreak must coexist, and how that shows up in their creative process.
Gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of grief, especially for LGBTQ+ people navigating family dynamics and identity.

Press play now to hear an unforgettable conversation that will challenge what you thought you knew about grief, queerness, and the healing power of art.

Notable Quotes:

“Mourning comes from a place of love - ultimately, it’s a reflection of what was beautiful and meaningful.” – Josh
“Being gay isn’t the most interesting thing about someone. Grief, family, love - they’re all part of the bigger story.” – Josh
“This was never just about a show; it was about healing, about sharing, about turning something so personal into something universal.” – Sam

Where to Watch the Series:

Watch What About Me? on YouTube.

Watch all six episodes and learn more at wamtheseries.com.

Follow them on Instagram and TikTok @wamtheseries.

Connect with Josh and Sam:

👉 Instagram: @wamtheseries

👉 TikTok: @wamtheseries

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How LGBTQ Allies Can Lead with Love in a World on Fire

Fri, 30 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you feeling the emotional weight of injustice, rising hate, and systemic collapse AND still want to lead with love?

In this final reflection of the More Human, More Kind series on mothering, Heather Hester invites listeners to consider what it means to “mother the world.” This powerful episode is for those holding grief and hope at the same time, navigating fear and fatigue in a chaotic world, and still choosing compassion, clarity, and courage.

Discover how to care deeply for the world without abandoning yourself
Learn why tending with love, not fixing everything, is the most powerful form of resistance
Feel seen, grounded, and reconnected to your values and your voice

Listen now and walk away with a new definition of courage; one rooted in tenderness, alignment, and collective healing.

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What Does It mean to Evolve As a Parent Ally? Parenting, Allyship, and Letting Go of Guilt

Tue, 27 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever worried that you're not doing enough - or doing it all wrong - as the parent of an LGBTQ child?

In this honest and empowering conversation, Heather Hester is joined by Ash Beckham to break down what it really means to evolve as a parent and an ally. Together, they unpack the myths of perfection, the paralyzing weight of guilt, and the liberating power of curiosity, compassion, and healthy boundaries.

Learn how to unlearn ingrained biases without getting stuck in shame or self-judgment
Discover what true allyship looks like in parenting, especially when you don't get it “right”
Get clear, real-world tools for navigating tough conversations with non-affirming family members

Press play now to gain permission to grow, mess up, and keep showing up with fierce love for your LGBTQ+ child - because evolving is the most powerful kind of parenting.

Guest Spotlight:

Ash Beckham is an advocate, speaker, and author of Step Up: How to Live with Courage and Create Connection in Every Conversation. Her TEDx talk, Coming Out of Your Closet, has inspired millions with its blend of humor and profound truth. Connect with Ash at ashbeckham.com and follow her on Instagram @ashbeckham.

Resources & Links:

Ash’s TEDx Talk: Coming Out of Your Closet
Ash’s book: Step Up: How to Live with Courage and Create Connection in Every Conversation
Resource - Mastering Everyday Leadership

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Exhausted, Guilty, and Overgiving Is No Way To Parent LGBTQ Kids

Fri, 23 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Do you feel guilty for resting or like your needs are always last on the list?

In this deeply personal solo episode, Heather Hester reflects on what it truly means to mother yourself and why so many of us have been conditioned to believe that self-care is selfish. She speaks directly to the exhausted, over-functioning, and emotionally depleted listener who’s ready for a more compassionate way forward.

Learn how to recognize the signs that your “cup” is empty and what to do about it
Discover how to speak to yourself with more grace, kindness, and curiosity
Gain permission to set boundaries, rest without guilt, and model healthy love in action

Tune in now and start the healing practice of self-mothering because nurturing yourself is the most radical gift you can give the world.

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Religious Trauma Is Real: Here's How LGBTQ People Heal

Tue, 20 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever questioned your faith or your worth because of what you were taught about being LGBTQ+?

In this transformative episode, Heather Hester is joined by therapist and theologian Ann Russo to unpack the rarely discussed but deeply felt wounds of religious trauma, especially among LGBTQ+ individuals. From purity culture and existential fear to parental shame and spiritual disconnection, they explore how healing can begin without abandoning your faith, identity, or dignity.

Learn how to recognize the signs of religious trauma and how they may still be showing up in your life
Understand why you don’t have to choose between faith and identity and how to redefine both on your terms
Discover real strategies for healing from shame, control, and spiritual disconnection, no matter your background

Press play to begin healing the painful intersections of religion, identity, and belonging — and learn how to reclaim your wholeness with love, curiosity, and hope.

Connect with Ann:

annrusso.org

amrtherapy.com

Ann Russo, LCSW, MA (Theology), is a licensed clinical social worker, sex-positive therapist, and the founder of AMR Therapy & Support Services. With over 20 years of experience, she specializes in healing religious trauma, supporting LGBTQ+ individuals, and providing affirming care for those in non-traditional relationships. Ann offers training, consulting, and therapy services that center on inclusivity, trauma-informed practices, and spiritual healing. She is also the creator of the Empowering Pathways Continuing Education Program, designed to equip mental health professionals with tools to support marginalized communities.

In addition to her clinical work, Ann is a published author and speaker, contributing to podcasts and media events that explore themes of sexuality, identity, and healing. Her work is rooted in a commitment to social justice and the transformation of mental health and wellness spaces.

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Mothering is a Creative, Courageous Act: Lead with Heart in Parenting, Work, and LGBTQ Allyship

Sat, 17 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Ever feel like your project, business, or mission is asking more of your heart than your hustle?

In this reflective solo episode, Heather Hester reframes mothering as a creative, courageous act — not just for parenting, but for anything we’re building or nurturing in the world. Whether you're launching a business, leading a classroom, writing a book, or quietly tending to a dream no one else can see yet, this episode offers soul-level encouragement for those showing up with love, even in the face of fear, burnout, and uncertainty.

Learn why your work matters even when it’s unseen, messy, or slow
Understand the emotional cycles of creating something with meaning — and how to stay connected to your “why”
Discover how to mother your mission with tenderness, vision, and trust

Press play to receive the permission you didn’t know you needed: to love your mission into life with presence, patience, and purpose — and to let it shape you along the way.

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Rewriting the Narrative: Brian Selznick on Love, Identity & Writing Without Fear

Tue, 13 May 2025 16:00:00 -0500

What if LGBTQ+ youth could see themselves in stories that weren’t defined by fear, shame, or tragedy, but by curiosity, love, and joy?

In this luminous episode, Heather Hester welcomes award-winning author and illustrator Brian Selznick (The Invention of Hugo Cabret) to discuss his latest YA novel, Run Away With Me, a tender, illustrated queer love story that unfolds across a ghostly Rome, blending historical fiction, LGBTQ+ identity, and emotional truth. Together, they explore how stories can offer healing, visibility, and hope for queer youth without erasing struggle, but without being defined by it.

You’ll hear Brian’s powerful reflections on growing up gay, writing without fear, and choosing love over pain in storytelling. You’ll also explore how illustrated novels can act as emotional mirrors, offering guidance, empathy, and a sense of inclusion for readers navigating identity, grief, or first love. This conversation is a heartfelt invitation for parents, educators, and allies to expand what queer stories look and feel like, especially for kids who deserve to see themselves in pages not marked only by suffering.

Press play to rediscover the magic of storytelling through the lens of LGBTQ+ love, radical compassion, and artistic courage and walk away inspired to affirm, protect, and celebrate the full spectrum of queer joy in your family, bookshelf, and life.

Brian Selznick’s books have sold millions of copies, garnered countless awards worldwide, and

have been translated into more than 35 languages. He broke open the novel form with his

genre-breaking thematic trilogy, beginning with the Caldecott Medal-winning #1 New York

Times bestseller, The Invention of Hugo Cabret, adapted into Martin Scorsese's Oscar-winning

movie Hugo. He followed that with the #1 New York Times bestseller, Wonderstruck, adapted

by celebrated filmmaker Todd Haynes, with a screenplay by Selznick, and then the New York

Times bestseller, The Marvels. In praising his body of work, The Washington Post said, “Brian

Selznick proves to be that rare creator capable of following one masterpiece with another.” The

Associated Press called Selznick “one of publishing’s most imaginative storytellers.” Selznick’s

most recent novels, Big Tree (inspired by an idea from Steven Spielberg) and Kaleidoscope,

were both national bestsellers and were named New York Times Notable Children’s Books. He

also illustrated the 20th anniversary edition covers of the #1 globally bestselling Harry Potter

series. Selznick has appeared on Good Morning America, NBC’s Today Show, CBS Sunday

Morning, and has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, The

Guardian, Le Monde, la Repubblica, among many other renowned publications worldwide. He

and his husband Dr. David Serlin divide their time between Brooklyn, New York and La Jolla,

California.

https://brianselznick.com

https://instagram.com/thebrianselznick

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You Don’t Have to Be a Parent to Mother: A Reflection on Love, Allyship, & Letting Go

Fri, 09 May 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if mothering had nothing to do with being a mom and everything to do with how we show up for others with love, empathy, and presence?

In this tender solo reflection, Heather Hester shares the emotional layers behind her daughter’s college graduation not just as a parent but as a human navigating grief, transition, and healing. This milestone becomes a mirror for a deeper truth: that mothering is not a role reserved for women or parents it's a universal practice of care, practiced by anyone who holds space, offers comfort, and chooses presence in a world that often rushes past what matters.

You’ll learn how mothering can show up in ways we rarely name in friendships, in allyship, in advocacy for LGBTQ+ youth, and in the everyday tenderness of letting go. Heather invites us to embrace our identity as caregivers and connectors, no matter our gender or title, and reminds us that love is leadership and it doesn’t have to be loud to be radical.

Press play to reflect on the people who have mothered you and the gentle ways you may already be mothering others, yourself, and even a mission bigger than you. This episode is a quiet permission slip to honor your compassionate strength, your parenting path (or not), and your place in the inclusive, healing work of love.

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When Grief Undoes You: What Happens When Grief Intersects with Parenting, Allyship, and Identity

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if grief wasn’t something to fix or silence but a truth to live through, honor, and let change you?

In this vulnerable, deeply human episode, Heather Hester reflects on the one-year anniversary of her sister Corinne’s death and the emotional unraveling that followed from the collapse of her book launch to the heaviness of a nation in crisis. With honesty, grace, and fierce love, she invites you into a conversation that holds personal grief and political grief side by side without minimizing either.

You’ll learn how grief intersects with parenting, allyship, and identity, and how it shapes the way we show up, especially for LGBTQ+ youth and marginalized communities. Heather offers compassionate guidance for parents, allies, and anyone navigating grief or burnout in a chaotic world, reminding us that loss doesn’t make us weaker, it makes us real. When we choose to stay present with our sorrow, we uncover what matters most: love, inclusion, and the power to keep going.

Press play to walk with Heather through a year of heartbreak, rage, and rebirth, and discover how grief, when honored, can become a source of deep healing, purpose, and fierce allyship in a more human, more kind world.

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Is Peaceful Protest Disappearing? What Every LGBTQ Ally Needs to Know

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your right to protest quietly disappearing while most people don’t even notice?

In the final episode of the Foundations of Freedom series, Heather Hester shines a light on one of the most misunderstood rights in the U.S. Constitution: the right to peaceably assemble. From the Boston Tea Party and the Civil Rights Movement to Stonewall, Standing Rock, and modern LGBTQ+ activism, peaceful protest has been essential to progress. But today, new laws, intimidation tactics, and surveillance are threatening this right especially for queer youth, parents, and allies who are trying to show up with courage.

You’ll learn why the language around protest matters, how allyship shows up in public gathering, and what the difference really is between peaceful assembly and violent insurrection. Heather offers powerful guidance for parents, educators, and LGBTQ+ advocates reminding us that protest isn’t about chaos. It’s about visibility, grief, love, and social justice. And it’s how democracy breathes.

Press play to uncover the hidden erosion of the right to protest, and leave with a renewed sense of purpose, inclusion, and power to gather, grieve, and resist because your voice, your presence, and your allyship matter more than ever.Links referenced in this episode:

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Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: Parents, This Is A Love Letter to Your Peace

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0500

What if the most powerful act of love you can offer, to yourself, your child, or your community, is a boundary?

In this episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester dismantles the cultural myth that boundaries are selfish, cold, or unkind. Instead, she invites us to see them as sacred, necessary acts of inclusion, empathy, and healing, especially for parents of LGBTQ+ kids, overwhelmed allies, and anyone doing emotional labor at home, work, or in advocacy spaces.

You’ll learn how boundaries actually create safety, clarity, and deeper connection, and why saying "no" can sometimes be the most loving response. Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, protecting your rest, or trying to show up without burning out, this episode gives you compassionate, real-world guidance on how to speak your needs, hold your limits, and model self-worth and mental health for the young people watching you.

Press play to gain practical phrases, soul-level permission, and renewed energy to create boundaries that feel clear, kind, and fully human because protecting your peace is a vital part of parenting, allyship, and sustainable love.

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From Just Breathe to More Human, More Kind: A New Beginning

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0500

What if the antidote to burnout, division, and fear isn’t more perfection, but more humanity and more kindness?

In this inaugural episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester opens her heart and shares the deeply personal journey from her first podcast, Just Breathe, a lifeline for parents of LGBTQ+ teens, to this wider, more expansive space for healing, allyship, identity, and inclusion. It’s a conversation about change, the kind that’s messy, honest, and necessary.

Whether you're a parent, educator, or ally feeling overwhelmed in a world full of noise and expectations, this episode offers gentle but transformative guidance. You’ll learn why true kindness is rooted in empathy, courage, and presence, not perfection or performance. This is a space for those craving mental health support, meaningful connection, and permission to be exactly where they are.

Press play to rediscover what it means to be fully human, fiercely kind, and deeply aligned with what matters most, and walk away with 3 grounding practices you can use today to feel more connected, more real, and more supported.

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More Human. More Kind. Trailer

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0500

This is the beginning of a new season! Welcome!

More Human. More Kind. is a podcast offering compassionate guidance for LGBTQ+ parenting, allyship, and inclusive living in a complicated world. Hosted by Heather Hester—coach, speaker, author, and LGBTQ+ advocate—this show creates space for honest conversations about identity, love, boundaries, and what it truly means to show up with courage and care.

Through a lens of parenting, inclusion, and lived experience, Heather explores topics such as:

Parenting LGBTQ+ kids with clarity, confidence, and compassion
Growing into a courageous, informed ally
Kindness vs. niceness—and why boundaries are an act of love
Healing strained relationships and navigating change
Identity, authenticity, and becoming more human in real time

Rooted in empathy and practical insight, each episode offers reflection, reassurance, and guidance for parents, allies, and anyone committed to building a more inclusive, connected world.

If you’re parenting an LGBTQ+ child, learning how to be a better ally, or simply seeking thoughtful conversations grounded in humanity and inclusion, More Human. More Kind. will help you feel seen, supported, and less alone.

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Is the Separation of Church and State Important and How Does It Affect LGBTQ Folks?

Sat, 19 Apr 2025 12:00:00 -0500

What happens when the line between church and state begins to blur, and most people don't even notice?

In this urgent episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester continues the Foundations of Freedom series by unpacking the Establishment Clause of the First Amendment, the often-overlooked protection against government-imposed religion. From Thomas Jefferson's letter on the “wall of separation” to the Supreme Court’s shift toward tradition-based rulings, Heather guides listeners through the legal, cultural, and political shifts threatening true religious freedom in the U.S.

This episode is especially critical for parents, LGBTQ+ families, educators, and allies seeking clarity in an increasingly chaotic cultural moment. You’ll learn how Christian nationalism and selective interpretations of “freedom” are influencing public policy, education, and social justice, and how this impacts not just faith communities, but the safety, inclusion, and identity of those often pushed to the margins. Heather explores what it means to hold space for both belief and balance, and why empathy, courage, and allyship are crucial in defending democracy.

Press play to gain real guidance on how to talk about the separation of church and state with your kids, how to spot the signs of religious overreach in your community, and how to protect what matters most from mental health and parenting to love and liberty. Because religious freedom isn’t just a right, it’s a responsibility.

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Free Speech Under Fire: What Parents and Allies of LGBTQ Teens Can Do

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Can you really say anything you want under the First Amendment, and what happens when you do?

In this eye-opening episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester continues the Foundations of Freedom series by breaking down one of the most misunderstood rights in American life: freedom of speech. From symbolic protest (like kneeling during the national anthem) to book bans, social media censorship, and anti-protest laws, Heather guides parents, allies, and advocates through what free speech actually protects and what it doesn’t.

Whether you're parenting an LGBTQ+ teen, navigating tough conversations at work, or wondering how to protect your family's safety, values, and identity in a polarized world, this episode provides the guidance and clarity you need. You’ll learn how cancel culture differs from government censorship, why that distinction matters for mental health, inclusion, and justice, and how your voice can become a tool for empathy and change, not harm.

Press play now to unlearn the myths of free speech, explore real-world examples that affect LGBTQ+ families and communities, and walk away with a deeper understanding of how to use your voice with power, compassion, and responsibility. Links for further reading and clarification:

Banned terminology

Banned books

ACLU Guide to Free Speech

National Constitution Center

Cornell Legal Info: Freedom of Speech

Podcast rec: What the Constitution Means to Me

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Freedom of the Press is Vital for LGBTQ Visibility

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 16:00:00 -0500

Can democracy survive if journalism disappears?

In this powerful first episode of the Foundations of Freedom series, Heather Hester dives into one of the most critical and most under threat freedoms guaranteed by the First Amendment: freedom of the press. From local reporters to national watchdogs, a free and independent press has always been a cornerstone of democracy, social justice, and LGBTQ visibility.

Whether you’re a parent navigating what your kids are learning in school, an LGBTQ+ ally speaking up against injustice, or someone deeply concerned about truth, trust, and mental health in a post-truth era, this episode offers guidance and clarity. Learn how to spot misinformation, why media literacy matters for safety and inclusion, and how journalism supports democracy, identity, and justice for marginalized communities.

Press play now to uncover what the First Amendment actually protects, how journalism became the Fourth Estate, and why protecting press freedom might be the most radical act of love, parenting, and allyship you can take today.

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LGBTQ Allies, Is Social Media Hijacking Your Nervous System?

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you constantly scrolling but still feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck?

In this vulnerable and practical episode, Heather Hester sits down with wellness coach Tracy Whitmore to explore how social media is impacting our mental health, nervous systems, and sense of identity, especially for parents, LGBTQ allies, and anyone striving to show up with love in an exhausting, always-on world.

Whether you’re a parent trying to model healthy digital habits, a queer teen navigating online spaces, or simply someone who feels fried by the endless scroll, this conversation offers real-world guidance for protecting your peace. You’ll learn how to listen to your body, set boundaries with compassion, and use simple, science-backed tools to stop the digital spiral and return to presence.

Press play now to understand how social media is wired to keep you hooked and how you can reclaim your agency, energy, and empathy without disconnecting completely.

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Tracy's Bio:

Tracy Whitmore (she/her) is a Social Worker, Therapeutic Health, Wellness & Life Coach, and the Founder of Indigo Journey. She is also the author of It’s About You Too: Reducing the Overwhelm for Parents of LGBTQ+ Kids. With over 17 years of experience, Tracy provides therapeutic counselling, coaching, and support to 2SLGBTQ+ adults and families across Australia, Canada, and the U.S.

Outside of her work, Tracy finds joy in travel, beach walks, exploring forests, pickleball, swimming, yoga, meditation, jigsaw puzzles, and reading. She also values time spent with her children, grandchildren, partner, and loved ones.

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Parents, How to Move Beyond Performative Allyship

Sun, 30 Mar 2025 17:00:00 -0500

Do you consider yourself an ally but wonder if you’re actually showing up in the ways that matter most?

In this honest and empowering solo episode, Heather Hester challenges the comfort zone of “good intentions” and invites you into the deeper, messier, and more impactful work of true allyship.

The difference between performative allyship and real, lasting support
How to use your voice, presence, and privilege to create safety and inclusion
Small, consistent actions that support LGBTQ+ youth, communities of color, and those facing mental health challenges
Why allyship is a daily practice rooted in love, empathy, and accountability not perfection

In a time of rising hate, misinformation, and political attacks on LGBTQ+ rights, authentic allyship is not optional, it’s essential. Whether you're parenting an LGBTQ+ child or simply want to show up more courageously in your community, this episode offers the guidance and clarity you need to move forward with purpose.

Listen now to become the kind of ally who protects what matters, raises brave kids, and builds a more inclusive world one courageous step at a time.

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Parents of LGBTQ Kids: How to Stay Informed Without Losing Your Mind

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 19:00:00 -0500

Exhausted by the headlines but still want to keep fighting for what’s right?

You’re not alone. In this honest and grounding solo episode, Heather Hester recaps some of the most alarming actions from the Trump administration and then offers a lifeline to anyone feeling emotionally, physically, or mentally depleted by it all.

10 simple yet powerful ways to protect your peace while staying engaged
How to recognize when your nervous system is overwhelmed and how to gently reset
Why real allyship includes caring for yourself so you can keep showing up for others
How rest, boundaries, and joy are essential parts of social justice work

Inclusion, advocacy, and allyship don’t thrive on exhaustion; they thrive on sustainable action and regulated nervous systems. Whether you're parenting an LGBTQ+ child, working on healing, or showing up in the fight for justice, this episode is your permission slip to rest with purpose.

Press play to stop spiraling, start grounding, and remember that you don’t have to choose between your peace and your power. You need both and this episode will help you reclaim them.

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Redefining LGBTQ Inclusion: Celia Daniels on Truth, Faith & Allyship

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is it possible to be trans, a person of deep faith, and still feel whole in a world that constantly attempts fragmentation?

In this deeply moving and expansive episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester is joined by Celia Daniels, a trans femme, Christian, South Asian DEI leader, and one of LinkedIn’s Top LGBTQ+ Voices, for a conversation that is as honest as it is healing.

How Celia navigated the intersections of gender, faith, and culture growing up in India
Why colonialism and Christian supremacy still shape global views of gender and identity
The difference between performative DEI and meaningful workplace inclusion
How her “ALLIES” framework helps individuals and organizations show up for LGBTQ+ people with integrity and empathy

For LGBTQ individuals and the parents, allies, and leaders who support them wholeness can feel impossible in spaces rooted in judgment, shame, or binary thinking. Celia’s story proves that healing, visibility, and faith can coexist and that allyship isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present, informed, and human.

Press play to witness one of the most powerful conversations of the season and walk away with renewed courage to create spaces of safety, inclusion, and love for your kids, your colleagues, and yourself.

Guest Spotlight:

Celia Daniels is a globally recognized DEI champion, motivational speaker, entrepreneur, and trans advocate. Named one of the Top 20 LGBTQ Leaders in Biopharma and among the Top 100 LGBTQ+ Women in DEI, Celia brings a rare blend of vulnerability, vision, and lived expertise. She currently resides in Southern California with her family.

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Politeness ≠ Progress: Practicing Real LGBTQ Allyship (Nice vs. Kind)

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you confusing being “nice” with being kind and unintentionally avoiding the hard conversations that true LGBTQ allyship demands?

In this eye-opening solo episode of More Human, More Kind, host Heather Hester explores a subtle but crucial distinction: the difference between niceness and kindness, especially when it comes to showing up as an LGBTQ ally, parent, or advocate for social justice.

Why "being nice" often keeps you silent when your voice and presence are most needed
How to move from performative allyship to genuine, values-based action
Ways to practice empathy and inclusion even in moments of discomfort
How kindness protects mental health, safety, and connection for you and those you're showing up for

In a world that prioritizes politeness over progress, it’s easy to equate being agreeable with being good. But real kindness, the kind rooted in love, advocacy, and justice, requires courage. It requires standing up, speaking out, and creating safety and belonging for marginalized identities, especially when it's hard.

Tune in now to discover how to show up as a more present, powerful, and compassionate ally not by avoiding conflict, but by embracing your full humanity.

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Hey Parents, Are You Reacting or Responding? How to Think More Clearly in a Complex World

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you reacting or are you responding with wisdom?

What if the difference between judgment and discernment could change everything from how you parent your LGBTQ child to how you engage in difficult conversations around identity, inclusion, and justice?

In this transformative solo episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester explores one of the most important mindset shifts we can make as parents, allies, and conscious humans. She unpacks why judgment fuels reactivity and division, while discernment builds clarity, empathy, and resilience, especially in emotionally charged moments.

The psychological and spiritual roots of judgment vs. discernment and how they impact your daily decisions
How discernment strengthens LGBTQ allyship, mental health, and parenting
Why defensiveness is often a sign of unexamined judgment and how to interrupt the cycle
Practical tools like metacognition, mindfulness, and curiosity to build discernment in real time

We live in a world that rewards quick opinions and snap judgments, but true guidance, advocacy, and healing come from deeper wisdom. Whether you're advocating for LGBTQ inclusion, navigating parenting challenges, or confronting social justice issues, discernment helps you pause, reflect, and act with courage and clarity.

Listen now to shift from reactive judgment to conscious discernment and become the kind of ally, parent, and human the world truly needs.

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Helping Your LGBTQ Teen Apply to College Without Losing Their Mind

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Is your teen overwhelmed by college applications and feeling the pressure to be perfect?

In this honest and eye-opening episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester is joined by Dylan Nellis, Stanford graduate and founder of NextGen Admit, for a refreshing look at the college admissions process. Together, they unpack the emotional, mental health, and identity challenges teens face and what parents can do to provide real guidance, empathy, and support.

Why elite colleges actually prefer “spiky” applicants over “well-rounded” ones and how to help your child find their “spike”
How storytelling and self-awareness are far more impactful than test scores or résumés
Why college essays should be story-first (not trauma-dump-first), and how to avoid common mistakes
How to support your teen's mental health, reduce stress, and model love over pressure during this major life transition

The college application process is often filled with anxiety, pressure, and perfectionism, especially for LGBTQ+ teens and those navigating identity, inclusion, and expectations. Parents play a crucial role in creating safety, modeling self-compassion, and prioritizing authenticity over achievement.

Press play now to ditch the overwhelm and guide your teen toward a values-driven college journey, one rooted in clarity, confidence, and connection.

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Parents and Allies, Accountability (STILL) Matters - What We Can Do NOW

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Have we forgotten how to hold people, especially those in power, accountable?

In this heartfelt and timely episode of More Human, More Kind, host Heather Hester reflects on why accountability is one of the most radical, necessary acts of love in parenting, relationships, and our collective life. Through her own stories and real-world examples, she invites listeners to explore why the absence of accountability isn’t kindness; it’s abandonment — and how we can return to truth-telling with empathy and courage.

Why emotional maturity and accountability go hand in hand
How to model accountability in parenting and allyship to foster trust, love, and inclusion
How our failure to hold leaders accountable impacts mental health, justice, and community safety
What it looks like to lovingly name harm without shame and commit to repair
How to build the courage to speak up in your family, workplace, or civic life, even when it’s hard

From family dynamics to political chaos, we’re seeing what happens when there are no consequences for harm. As parents, allies, and citizens, we must reclaim the tools of courageous accountability not as punishment, but as the path to healing, connection, and real leadership.

Press play to explore how holding yourself and others accountable can be a radical act of love, inclusion, and social justice in a world that needs more of all three.

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LGBTQ Advocacy Isn't Just Resistence, It's Protection

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 14:00:00 -0500

Can a fictional speech and a state address both expose the same creeping threat to democracy, and what does that mean for us as parents, allies, and citizens?

In this timely and emotionally charged episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester reads and reflects on two powerful speeches: one from Illinois Governor JB Pritzker’s recent State of the State address, and the other from a 10-year-old episode of Madam Secretary. The overlap isn’t just uncanny, it’s chilling.

Both highlight the dangerous resurgence of authoritarianism, the scapegoating of marginalized communities, and the dismantling of diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) under the guise of tradition, order, or neutrality. If you’re a parent, an LGBTQ+ ally, or someone committed to social justice, this episode will leave you stirred, grounded, and ready to act.

Hear two unforgettable speeches that echo with truth and urgency
Learn how recent political attacks on DEI, the arts, and education are rooted in fear and power, not fairness
Understand how these rollbacks threaten the mental health, identity, and safety of already marginalized groups, including LGBTQ+ youth
Explore real ways to stay engaged without burning out, including how to use your voice, your vote, and your values as tools for change
Be reminded why your allyship, parenting, and presence matter more than ever in this moment

When fictional dialogue from a political drama mirrors a modern governor’s warning almost word for word, we can’t afford to dismiss it as coincidence. We are witnessing a coordinated attack on inclusion, empathy, and truth, and the time to respond with courage, clarity, and compassion is now.

Press play to be reminded that your advocacy isn’t just resistance, it’s protection. For your kids. For your communities. For democracy itself.

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Transgender Transition Is a Family Journey — Here’s How to Do It Well

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 22:00:00 -0500

Are you hoping your love is enough, or are you actually showing up for the trans people in your life in ways that heal, protect, and affirm?

In this vital, eye-opening episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester sits down with licensed therapist, speaker, and trans man Alexander Stefanini for a deep and courageous conversation about what true support looks like for trans teens, adults, and their families, especially now, when political attacks and misinformation are endangering lives and dignity.

Whether you're a parent, professional, or ally-in-progress, this conversation offers empathy without coddling and guidance without fluff. It’s the clarity we all need to move from intention to impact.

Understand why affirming someone’s identity goes far beyond pronouns or politics
Learn how families and friends must "transition" too and what that process looks like
Explore the emotional, mental, and relational impact of transition on everyone involved
Hear practical strategies for how parents, allies, and professionals can support trans people with skill and integrity
Discover how to navigate common missteps and what true inclusion and healing actually require

Trans people, especially trans youth, are under attack, not just legislatively but emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically. And love alone isn’t enough.

They need safety, affirmation, and advocates who are willing to do the work, even when it’s messy or uncomfortable.

As Alexander shares, transition isn’t just an individual process. It’s a communal transformation that requires presence, humility, and active learning from everyone involved.

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Visit MoreHumanMoreKind.com for tools, private coaching, guided allyship resources, and safe spaces for parents, caregivers, and LGBTQ+ advocates.

Press play to move from love to impact and learn how to truly show up for the trans people who need you most.

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LGBTQ Rights Are Eroding. What Can You Do As a Parent or Ally?

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Are you waiting for the “right time” to speak up while LGBTQ+ rights disappear in real time?

This week’s episode is a call to rise above overwhelm and inaction. With heartfelt urgency, Heather Hester addresses the systemic rollbacks of LGBTQ+ rights, especially those targeting trans youth, and how our silence, even when rooted in fear or fatigue, feeds the systems we wish to dismantle.

Weaving together thought-provoking poetry, real-time legal updates, and grassroots solutions, Heather challenges willful ignorance and offers a grounded path forward for allies, parents, and everyday people who know the stakes but may not know where to start.

In This Episode:

Learn what willful ignorance looks like in families, communities, and even well-meaning inboxes
Get a snapshot of current legal battles and wins affecting LGBTQ+ and especially trans youth
Discover how to turn your unique talents into meaningful advocacy even if you don’t work in politics or law
Walk away with one doable action to take this week that supports real, lasting change

Pick one small act of allyship that aligns with your strengths:

Are you a writer? Send a letter to your local officials or school board.
Are you a parent? Advocate for inclusive curriculum and bathroom access.
Are you on social media? Amplify trusted LGBTQ+ voices.
Are you overwhelmed? Start with a donation or a conversation. Just start.

Press play to move from passive to powerful, from informed to intentional and learn how to show up for trans youth before it’s too late.

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How to Still Be an LGBTQ Ally When You’re Just So Exhausted

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 16:00:00 -0500

Are you carrying a heaviness you can’t quite name: a fog of anxiety, heartbreak, or helplessness that won’t lift, no matter how much you care or try to stay positive?

You're not broken. You're human and you're paying attention.

In this gentle, grounded episode, Heather Hester speaks directly to the emotional overwhelm so many are experiencing, especially parents and allies of LGBTQ+ youth who are navigating the dual weight of advocacy and empathy in a world that feels increasingly cruel and chaotic.

Whether it’s the news, the attacks on trans rights, or the silent grief of watching people you love be misunderstood or legislated against, this conversation gives you permission to feel exactly what you’re feeling, without shame, while learning how to move through it with intention and care.

You’ll walk away with:

Validation that your emotional heaviness is real and rooted in both personal and collective trauma
Self-regulation practices to calm your nervous system in real time (yes, even mid-scroll or mid-spiral)
Tools for maintaining deep empathy and sustained action without sacrificing your well-being
A compassionate reminder that being sensitive isn’t a weakness, it’s a sign that you’re still connected to your values

Press play for the breath you didn’t know you needed.

Then share this episode with someone else who’s quietly carrying too much.

Because healing doesn’t come from pushing through, it comes from pausing, naming, and tending what hurts.

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Eating Disorders Struggles for LGBTQ Youth: What No One Talks About

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 21:30:00 -0500

Did you know over 80% of LGBTQ+ youth experience disordered eating?

This issue is deep, complex, and urgent, and yet it's rarely discussed with the compassion and nuance it deserves.

In this powerful and timely conversation, Heather Hester is joined by Kristin Szostak, Regional AVP at The Renfrew Centers, one of the nation’s leading eating disorder treatment programs, to shine a light on how identity, trauma, and body image collide for LGBTQ+ youth.

They go beyond surface-level symptoms to unpack the real reasons queer teens and young adults are more vulnerable, and what parents, educators, and allies can do to help them feel seen, safe, and supported.

You’ll learn:

The difference between disordered eating and clinical eating disorders and why both matter
How body dysphoria, shame, and societal messaging contribute to eating struggles in queer and trans youth
What signs to look for if you're worried about your child, student, or loved one
How to talk about food, bodies, and identity without shame or triggering language
Why affirmation, safety, and inclusion are essential parts of recovery

This is not just a mental health issue, it’s a social justice issue rooted in the fight for belonging, dignity, and healing.

Press play to gain the tools, clarity, and compassion you need to show up in meaningful, informed ways for LGBTQ+ youth who are quietly struggling with food, body image, and identity.

You might just save a life.

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What 2024 Taught Us About Boundaries, Grief, & Courage, and Moving Forward As LGBTQ Allies

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0500

Feeling emotionally wrung out after 2024, but not sure how to reset for the year ahead?

You’re not imagining it. This year asked a lot of all of us, especially those parenting, advocating, or simply trying to show up with empathy in an overwhelming world.

In this tender and honest solo episode, Heather Hester reflects on a year marked by grief, hard boundaries, and fierce love, and offers a gentle, grounding ritual for moving into 2025 without bypassing what’s been hard.

She speaks directly to parents of LGBTQ+ youth, allies, and emotionally exhausted changemakers who are wondering:

"How do I keep caring without falling apart?"

You’ll hear:

How Heather navigated a year of deep loss, political heaviness, and advocacy burnout
Why boundary-setting became both a survival strategy and a model for raising resilient LGBTQ+ kids
A simple 3-part year-end ritual you can use to reflect with compassion not criticism
A sneak peek into what’s coming in 2025: a new supportive community, deeper content, and more space for healing and action.

This episode is a soft landing and a loving nudge toward reflection, reimagining, and reclaiming your energy.

Press play to pause, breathe, and remember:

You don’t need to power through.

You need to feel, reflect, and realign with what truly matters.

This isn’t just a year-end wrap-up.

It’s an invitation to return to yourself — before you begin again.

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How Parents and LGBTQ Allies Can Reclaim Meaning, Energy, and Time

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Are you constantly showing up for others while quietly falling apart inside?

You’re not alone, and you’re not failing. In this honest and healing episode, Heather sits down with Aransas Savas to unpack what real self-care looks like when life is heavy and how high-capacity women, mothers, and allies can reclaim their energy without guilt.

Through deeply personal stories, including the terrifying moment she had to fight for her daughter’s safety, Aransas offers practical tools and radical wisdom for navigating leadership, parenting, and advocacy with more intention and trust.

You’ll hear why safety and vulnerability are non-negotiable in parenting LGBTQ+ youth, and how reclaiming your Meaning, Energy, and Time (MET) can change everything from how you show up at work to how you show up for yourself.

You’ll learn:

The MET Framework and how to use it daily not just in crisis
What “real” self-care looks like for overwhelmed, high-achieving women
How to parent from a place of trust and safety, especially in a world that doesn’t always feel safe
Why restoring your energy is the most courageous act of allyship and leadership you can take

This is more than self-help; it’s a masterclass in living well while carrying a lot.

Press play to release the pressure, feel seen, and take one small step toward a more aligned, compassionate version of you.

Because parenting, leading, and loving others shouldn’t cost you your own well-being.

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Parenting Through Chaos: How to Support Your LGBTQ Child Now

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 15:00:00 -0500

Feeling overwhelmed by political chaos, fear-based headlines, or growing attacks on LGBTQ+ rights, and unsure how to stay grounded as a parent?

You're not alone, and you're not powerless. In this heartfelt episode, Heather Hester shares how parents and allies can become a source of calm, clarity, and connection for LGBTQ+ youth during even the most uncertain times.

Heather speaks directly to the emotional exhaustion so many parents are feeling, and offers a new path forward, one rooted in self-regulation, intentional learning, and deepening your relationship with your child.

You’ll learn:

Why emotional regulation is the first step to supporting your child
How to filter media noise without becoming disengaged
Why building an affirming, inclusive home is more critical than ever
How to hold space for both grief and resilience in real time

You’ll also hear about Heather’s Learning to Parent With Pride course: a step-by-step program designed to help parents move from fear and confusion to confidence, compassion, and powerful allyship.

Whether you’re new to this journey or feeling stuck, this episode offers both comfort and concrete tools to help you keep showing up.

Press play to discover how to steady your nervous system, build stronger family connections, and become the trusted anchor your LGBTQ+ child needs most.

You don’t need to have all the answers, just a willingness to lead with love, empathy, and resilience.

Independent news sources mentioned in this episode:

The Guardian
ProPublica
The Atlantic
Politics Girl
Pod Save America
No Lie with Brian Tyler Cohen

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Rebuilding Everything: Love, Identity & LGBTQ Parenting After Coming Out

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0500

What happens when you discover your true gender identity in your 30s while married, raising four kids, and living in the religious heart of America?

In this profoundly moving episode, Britt Sandoval shares their powerful story of coming out as nonbinary, navigating spiritual deconstruction, and radically redefining parenting, love, and selfhood all in real time.

This conversation explores the complexities of gender identity, parenting, and faith with depth, humor, and radical honesty. Heather and Britt cover:

How Britt’s journey of self-discovery impacted their marriage, family, and faith
The process of rebuilding a relationship through truth, trust, and deep emotional labor
How to talk to children about identity, inclusion, and authenticity from a young age
What it means to be a present, emotionally intelligent parent while navigating personal transformation
The role of deconstruction and healing in finding wholeness

This episode is for every parent, ally, LGBTQ+ person, and human seeking to live with more courage, love, and integrity, even when it breaks the rules you were raised with.

You’ll walk away with a renewed belief in the power of honest parenting, queer joy, and the importance of healing the parts of us we were taught to hide.

Press play to hear a transformative story about what it means to become your truest self and raise children who know how to do the same.

Because living fully and loving honestly is the most radical kind of parenting there is.

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Britt Sandoval is an inspiring keynote speaker, entrepreneur, and thought leader with a unique blend of experience in authentic leadership, healthcare, and entrepreneurship. As the founder of Your Feeding Friend LLC, Britt has empowered countless families while building a thriving business. With a background as a registered nurse and expertise in inclusive leadership, Britt brings valuable insights into effective leadership and inclusive work environments.

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Election Overwhelm Is Real: Here’s How LGBTQ Allies Can Stay Grounded

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Exhausted by this election cycle?

Feeling like the weight of the world is sitting on your chest, especially as a parent or ally of LGBTQ loved ones?

You're not imagining it.

You're not overreacting.

And you're definitely not alone.

If the nonstop news, toxic division, and rising threats to LGBTQ+ rights have you feeling depleted and panicked, this episode is your calm in the storm.

Heather shares a deeply personal reflection on what it means to stay grounded while the world feels like it's unraveling and offers 10 powerful strategies to protect your nervous system, preserve your energy, and parent from a place of love, not fear.

In this episode, you’ll:

✔️ Learn why obsessively checking polls can harm your mental health and what to focus on instead

✔️ Discover 10 real-world self-care practices that actually work when you're in advocacy mode

✔️ Explore simple, grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system and reclaim your clarity

✔️ Hear how Heather’s own experiences as a parent, ally, and advocate are shaping her 2024 game plan (and beyond!)

✔️ Celebrate the podcast's 5th birthday and her recent Women in Podcasting award win!

Whether you’re navigating fear, fatigue, or a fierce desire to fight for justice, this episode gives you permission to pause and the tools to rise again.

Listen now to learn how to stay strong, steady, and centered in the chaos so you can continue showing up for yourself, your LGBTQ+ child, and the future we’re all fighting for.

Bonus: You’ll also get a step-by-step breakdown of how to make a voting plan that fits you.

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Parents, Healing Your Nervous System Can Help Your LGBTQ Child Thrive

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Are you overwhelmed by the weight of the political moment, anxious about what it means for your LGBTQ+ child, and wondering how to stay emotionally steady without shutting down?

You’re not alone, and your nervous system isn’t broken. It’s just trying to protect you.

In this powerful and timely conversation, Heather Hester welcomes back nervous system specialist Kelly Lubeck to unpack why so many of us are feeling stuck in a fog of overwhelm, shutdown, or reactivity and what to do about it.

With the 2025 election season stirring anxiety, division, and dread (especially for LGBTQ+ families and allies), this episode offers the science, empathy, and guidance you need to shift from fear to presence.

You’ll walk away with:

✔️ A deeper understanding of what “functional freeze” is and how it silently drives burnout and detachment

✔️ A simple nervous system exercise to use anytime you feel overwhelmed or ungrounded

✔️ Tools to reconnect with your body, breath, and surroundings with no complicated routines or hours of meditation required

✔️ Insight into how healing your nervous system creates safer spaces for your LGBTQ+ child and helps you parent with more clarity, empathy, and strength

Listen now to learn how to shake off stress, reclaim calm, and lead from grounded, loving power in your home, your community, and this critical election season.

You don't need to do more; you just need to come home to your body.

Key Takeaways

Stress is biological, not a personal failure your body is doing its best to protect you.
“Functional freeze” is a common nervous system response that feels like apathy, numbness, or quiet burnout.
Movement, breathwork, visualization, and connection to nature can help regulate your nervous system in real time.
Nervous system regulation is not just self-care it’s how we parent, advocate, and lead with integrity.
When adults stay regulated, children feel safe. It’s not about perfection it’s about presence.

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Understanding Teen Suicide & Mental Health: What Every Parent and Ally Must Know

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Feeling overwhelmed by the rising hostility toward trans and LGBTQ+ youth and unsure what real support looks like in 2024?

You’re not imagining it. Rates of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation among LGBTQ+ teens have surged alongside political attacks and cultural backlash. But here’s the truth: your love, words, and action can save lives.

In honor of Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, Heather brings together an extraordinary group of voices:

a mother of a trans teen, a fierce LGBTQ+ ally, and a trans author and advocate, alongside insights from Kevin Wong of The Trevor Project and Ann Moss Rogers, a nationally recognized mental health activist.

Together, they unpack how parents, allies, and educators can show up with courage and compassion amid the chaos. Through personal stories and practical strategies, they illuminate how connection not perfection creates safety and belonging.

In this deeply moving and resource-filled episode, you’ll learn how to:

✔️ Recognize the early signs of emotional distress and respond with empathy, not panic

✔️ Support LGBTQ+ youth beyond words from affirming language to advocacy at school and home

✔️ Understand how family acceptance reduces suicide risk by up to 40%

✔️ Build resilience in yourself and your kids through curiosity, connection, and courage

✔️ Take small, meaningful actions before the 2024 election to defend equality and safety for trans youth

You’ll also hear about critical resources, including The Trevor Project, 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, and peer support networks designed specifically for LGBTQ+ young people.

Listen now to hear three powerful voices break down fear, amplify love, and offer you clear, doable actions that can change lives including your own.

If you or someone you love is struggling, reach out now:

Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)

Text START to 678-678 to reach The Trevor Project

Visit thetrevorproject.org for 24/7 LGBTQ+ crisis support

Together, we can transform awareness into action, and fear into fierce love.

Key Takeaways

Suicide prevention begins with open, shame-free conversations.
Family acceptance is one of the strongest protective factors for LGBTQ+ youth.
Connection through empathy, eye contact, or listening can interrupt a suicidal thought.
Political attacks on trans and queer youth are mental health issues; allyship is suicide prevention.
You don’t need to be perfect, you just need to stay present.

AnneMoss Rogers

Kevin Wong, The Trevor Project

Jackie Simmons

Cara McNulty

Jay Reid

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Pronouns, Politics, and Parenting: Fierce Allyship for Trans Youth

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 15:00:00 -0500

What does real allyship for transgender youth look like in a year marked by fear, legislation, and rising hate?

With nearly 600 anti-trans bills introduced in 2024 alone and an increase in hate crimes targeting the LGBTQ+ community, we are living in a moment where silence is harm. The time to show up isn’t next year. It’s now.

In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, Heather is joined by three remarkable guests:

Kate Brooks, a mother who wrote a guide to affirm and support parents of trans kids
Jeannie Gainsburg, author and educator helping allies build respectful, inclusive practices
Jayna Sheats, a trans author whose fiction work humanizes and expands understanding of trans identity

Together, they share how storytelling, language, parenting, and political action intersect to create change—especially when the stakes are this high.

You’ll walk away with:

✔️ Practical, everyday actions to create affirming spaces for LGBTQ+ youth

✔️ The truth about pronouns—why they matter and how to use them with confidence

✔️ Science-backed ways to improve LGBTQ+ mental health through simple affirmations

✔️ A toolkit of actions you can take before the election—even from your kitchen table

✔️ Real stories that help reframe fear into empathy, connection, and courageous love

Whether you're parenting a trans teen, leading a classroom, or speaking up in your community, this conversation will give you the language, confidence, and heart to take action.

Listen now to learn how you can move from passive support to fierce, informed allyship—because protecting trans youth requires more than love. It requires action.

Key Takeaways:

Allyship isn’t neutral—it’s proactive, consistent, and uncomfortable at times
Affirmation from family is one of the strongest protective factors for LGBTQ+ youth
Using correct pronouns isn’t “polite”—it’s essential for safety and belonging
Books, media, and stories humanize the trans experience and challenge fear-based narratives
There are doable actions you can take ahead of the 2024 election—no burnout or perfection required

Bios

Jayna Sheats (she/her) is the author of Hanna’s Ascent. She is also a noted chemist and

entrepreneur, who has published over 60 articles and started 3 companies. Today she lives in

Northern California with her children.

Jeannie Gainsburg (she/her) is the founder of Savvy Ally Action and is an award-winning

educational trainer and consultant in LGBTQ+ inclusion and allyship. The second edition of her

book, The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate, is now available.

Jeannie lives with her husband in Upstate New York.

Kate Brookes (she/her) is a former TV reporter/anchor turned writer/producer/filmmaker. Her

memoir, Transister: Raising Twins in a Gender-Bending World, was published last summer.

These days she produces videos for non-profits and speaks to schools, hospitals and groups

about raising a trans child.

Links Mentioned

www.Jaynasheats.com

www.savvyallyaction.com

www.transistermom.com

https://kamalaharris.com/

https://www.turnoutpac.org/postcards/

https://www.inequalitymedia.org/aboutus.

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Gen Z Voices on the 2024 Election, Allyship, and the Future of Democracy

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Are you raising an LGBTQ+ teen and wondering how to prepare them for a world that feels increasingly polarized, uncertain, and overwhelming, especially with a critical election approaching?

In this unfiltered, honest, and energizing conversation, Heather sits down with three college students, Luke, Lars, and Grace, to talk about the 2025 election, media literacy, political fear tactics, and the future of allyship. They open up about where they get their news, what issues matter most to them, and how they think older generations can show up better for queer and trans youth.

They also dive into:

The dominance of the two-party system
The flaws of the electoral college and Senate structure
What excites (and worries) them about Kamala Harris’ nomination
How to keep hope alive while pushing for radical change

You’ll walk away with:

✔️ A clear understanding of what today’s young voters care about beyond party lines

✔️ Insight into how Gen Z balances hope, skepticism, and activism

✔️ Six practical strategies for parents and allies to better support LGBTQ+ youth during election season

✔️ A reminder that real conversations across generations are key to political healing

✔️ A push to get informed without spiraling and take action without burning out

Press play now to hear what young voters wish you knew and how you can be a more grounded, effective ally and parent in this crucial moment for democracy and LGBTQ+ rights.

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Episode Takeaways:

Gen Z uses diverse media sources but still values fact-checking and critical thinking
Social media is a news entry point, not a final destination
Issues like housing, healthcare, education, and LGBTQ+ rights matter more than party loyalty
The two-party system feels broken but many still see voting as necessary harm reduction
Representation matters but so does follow-through
Parents can build bridges by listening more, judging less, and talking openly about politics and identity

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Helping Parents Navigate LGBTQ+ Support, Mental Health, and Learning Differences

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Ever felt completely lost trying to help your child through a mental health, educational, or identity-related crisis, and unsure where to turn?

In this candid and compassionate episode, educational consultant Jodi Liston shares her personal journey as a parent of children with severe mental health needs, and how it led her to become a trusted guide for families navigating complex school and clinical systems. From IEPs to therapeutic placements, from LGBTQ+ support to advocating within unsupportive school systems, Jodi offers decades of wisdom and actionable advice.

✔️ Learn the real role of an educational consultant and why early support matters

✔️ Understand how to advocate for your child with IEPs, 504s, or during a mental health crisis

✔️ Discover what safe, affirming environments for LGBTQ+ youth actually look like

✔️ Know what red flags to watch for when evaluating schools, therapists, or programs

Listen now and walk away with real tools, expert insight, and hope so you can confidently advocate for your child, no matter what challenges you’re facing.

Key Topics Covered:

What educational consultants really do (hint: not just college)
Supporting kids with mental health diagnoses, neurodivergence, and learning differences
The intersection of identity, trauma, and school safety for LGBTQ+ youth
How the pandemic changed the educational and emotional landscape for students
The power of family-centered, values-driven consulting

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The Truth About College Safety for LGBTQ+ Youth

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Did you assume college would be the safest place for your LGBTQ+ child, only to feel shaken by rising anti-LGBTQ+ sentiment, even on progressive campuses?

As Pride centers are defunded, book bans expand, and anti-trans legislation spreads, college is no longer the automatic safe space many parents hope for. In this urgent episode, Jorge Valencia shares his journey and the powerful work of the Point Foundation to support LGBTQ+ students with mentoring, scholarships, and advocacy.

✔️ Learn what parents often misunderstand about LGBTQ+ student life on college campuses

✔️ Discover how the Point Foundation is creating safe, affirming educational pathways

✔️ Understand why voting, advocacy, and allyship matter more than ever, especially now

✔️ Get practical resources and next steps to support LGBTQ+ students before, during, and after college

Listen now to discover what LGBTQ+ students need most right now and how you can be part of protecting their future, both on campus and beyond.

Takeaways:

LGBTQ+ students are navigating rising hostility even at colleges once considered safe
The Point Foundation provides vital scholarships, mentorship, and community support
Many parents underestimate the emotional and political challenges LGBTQ+ students face
Advocacy and civic engagement are essential to protecting queer youth’s future

Bio

Jorge Valencia serves as the Point Foundation’s Executive Director and CEO. Before Point Foundation, Jorge served as Executive Director and CEO of The Trevor Project and has worked in the corporate, government, and nonprofit sectors. He brings to Point a wealth of experience in managing and growing nonprofit organizations, a proven ability to design and manage the infrastructure of expanding organizations, and extensive experience with, and sensitivity to, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) youth issues.

Important Links from this episode:

Point Foundation

Campus Pride

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Making Gay History: The Untold Stories of LGBTQ Advocacy

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0500

What if your coming-out story sparked a legacy of activism? In this powerful episode, Eric Marcus, acclaimed author, LGBTQ+ historian, and host of the Making Gay History podcast, joins us to share his deeply personal story, the roots of queer advocacy, and how the past can shape a more inclusive future.

Eric’s journey from a young man coming out to his Jewish mother in Queens to becoming a key voice in documenting LGBTQ+ history is anything but ordinary.

You’ll hear:

Eric’s emotional coming-out experience
How his mother helped co-found the Queens chapter of PFLAG
Personal stories of LGBTQ+ pioneers like Jean and Morty Manford
The devastating impact of the AIDS crisis through families like the Ashworths
How Making Gay History evolved from a book into a podcast and educational tool
The emotional truth behind preserving these stories for future generations

If you’ve ever wondered how family, advocacy, and history intersect or how to better support the LGBTQ+ people in your life this episode will move and inspire you. Eric’s reflections offer a rare window into the early fight for LGBTQ rights and why storytelling remains one of our most powerful tools for change.

You’ll walk away with:

A deeper understanding of LGBTQ+ history and resilience
A renewed sense of why allyship and intergenerational connection matter
Concrete resources to learn more and take action

Listen now to be inspired by Eric’s legacy and the powerful stories behind Making Gay History.

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The Nervous System Reset Every Parent Needs Right Now

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally exhausted and wonder why? It might be your nervous system trying to tell you something. In this powerful episode, I sit down with nervous system expert and healer Kelly Lubeck to explore how our bodies are wired for safety, and what we can do to support true healing and balance.

Kelly brings decades of experience in coaching, shamanic healing, yoga, and mindfulness, sharing how the nervous system, particularly the sympathetic (fight/flight) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) branches, impacts our breathing, digestion, hormone regulation, and emotional responses.

You’ll hear:

How COVID has reshaped our collective nervous system health
Why parents of LGBTQ+ kids often experience heightened activation and how to find calm
Real-world tools to identify and regulate nervous system responses in the moment
A powerful self-soothing technique using arm strokes that works for adults and children alike
The importance of normalizing our reactions to stress and creating space for healing

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of anxiety, overreaction, or burnout or seen it in your kids or partner this conversation will give you tools and hope. Kelly’s compassionate, science-backed approach will help you better understand your body’s messages, reclaim calm, and create space for growth and resilience.

This episode will leave you with:

A fresh perspective on the mind-body connection
A sense of empowerment to respond rather than react to life’s stressors
Simple practices to reconnect with your inner calm

Listen now to reconnect with your nervous system and rediscover peace from the inside out.

Kelly Lubeck’s Website

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#125 | What Makes a Courageous LGBTQ Ally? 8 Real Tips for Showing Up With Compassion

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0500

What truly makes someone a good ally to the LGBTQIA+ community? Join me in this heartfelt episode as I unpack the essence of allyship, especially during Pride Month. With insight from my daughter while preparing for this epsiode, we pay tribute to the countless advocates and activists who've fought tirelessly for equality and shine a light on the ongoing societal issues that demand our attention. Being an ally isn't about self-promotion; it’s about standing up for basic human rights and fostering an inclusive world. Explore with me how unity and unwavering support can make a real difference.

Being an ally requires more than just good intentions—it demands action. Delve into what it means to genuinely support LGBTQIA+ individuals, focusing on active listening and respectful communication. When someone comes out, knowing how to respond with empathy and dignity is crucial. I also break down eight actionable ways to be an effective ally, from challenging heteronormativity and prejudice to ensuring everyone is treated with respect. This episode is packed with practical advice that can help you make a tangible impact.

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Takeaways:

Being a good ally involves active listening and being present for LGBTQIA individuals.
Allyship is not an identity but an ongoing commitment to support marginalized communities.
Educating yourself about LGBTQIA history and issues is crucial to becoming a better ally.
It’s important to challenge stereotypes and confront personal biases in discussions about LGBTQIA rights.
When someone comes out to you, respond with understanding and affirming support, avoiding harmful questions.
Recognizing that LGBTQIA individuals seek basic human rights and not special privileges is vital for allyship.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

The Trevor Project
Gilson
Tyler Clementi Foundation
Human Rights Campaign
PFLAG
It Gets Better
SAGE

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#124 | From Stonewall to Today: A Pride History Guide for LGBTQ Allies

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0500

In this encore episode from 2021, Heather shares an overview of Pride history, including the Stonewall Riots, why the pink triangle is a global symbol, and how the rainbow flag became the symbol for LGBTQ+ pride. She begins with the following anonymous quote:

"LGBTQ pride was not born of a need to celebrate being LGBTQ, but our right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why there isn't a straight pride, be thankful you don't need one."

If this episode piques your curiosity about the history of Pride, check out some of Heather's favorite resources:

Websites

* them.

* The History Channel

* Britannica

Books

Gay & Lesbian History for Kids: The Century-Long Struggle for LGBT Rights

Pride: The Story of the LGBTQ Equality Movement

What was Stonewall? (One of the "What was? Who was? books)

Stonewall: The Definitive Story of the LGBTQ Rights Uprising That Changed America

We Are Everywhere

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Takeaways:

Pride Month serves as a powerful reminder of the ongoing struggle for LGBTQ rights and visibility.
The history of Pride dates back to the Stonewall Riots, marking a significant turning point for LGBTQ activism.
Understanding the origins of symbols like the pink triangle and rainbow flag is crucial for appreciating LGBTQ history.
Engaging in activism and allyship is vital, not just during Pride Month but throughout the entire year.
The podcast emphasizes the importance of community, education, and love in the fight against discrimination.
Pride is not only a celebration of achievements but also a call to action for future progress.

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#123 | How “I’m Feeling Queer Today” and The Future Perfect Project Illuminate LGBTQ Creativity and Belonging

Tue, 21 May 2024 04:00:00 -0500

With the compassionate insights of Celeste Lecesne from the Future Perfect Project and the vibrant duo, Lily and Eric, from the "I'm Feeling Queer Today" podcast, in today's episodes we are going to discuss the resonating impact of giving voice to the marginalized, weaving a narrative that highlights the significance of safe spaces, creative expression, and the indomitable spirit of queer youth.

Join us as we navigate the inspirational paths of our guests, whose aspirations and educational pursuits demonstrate the transformative power of passion. Their stories are a testament to the importance of a supportive network, reminding us all that our involvement, whether as listeners, parents, or allies, is crucial in fostering a nurturing environment for self-acceptance and growth. Encouraging trust and curiosity, we explore avenues of support that emphasize presence and understanding over perfection. Celebrating the courage of queer individuals, we underscore the Future Project's role in shining a light on their creative talent.

Our exchange is a profound acknowledgement of the difference that even one supportive figure can make in a young person's life, inspiring gratitude for the connections that shape a brighter, more inclusive future.

To Learn More about the Future Perfect Project visit https://www.thefutureperfectproject.org/

Listen to the I'm Feeling Queer Today podcast on your favorite app or on Apple Podcasts at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-feeling-queer-today/id1726198109

Don't forget to grab your copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Available Now! https://chrysalismama.com/book

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Takeaways:

The Future Perfect Project amplifies the voices of queer youth through creative workshops and performances.
It's essential for caregivers to support and guide LGBTQ youth as they discover their identities.
Curiosity, rather than confusion, drives young people's exploration of their identities and experiences.
Having just one accepting person in a young LGBTQ person's life can significantly reduce their risk of self-harm.
Both Lily and Eric emphasize the importance of connection and community among queer youth.
The podcast serves as a platform for authentic queer joy, showcasing the positive aspects of LGBTQ identities.

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#122 | 5 Ways Family Vulnerability Became Our LGBTQ Ally Strength and Courage

Tue, 07 May 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Join me as I welcome back Connor and Gray to share an intimate look at the emotions and gratitude surrounding my book's journey, a heartfelt narrative that's been a labor of love and vulnerability. We discuss the mix of panic and excitement that comes with releasing a story so close to our hearts, and the significance of our unique friendship that has provided a foundation of support through it all. Connor and Gray weigh in with pride and curiosity, revealing their thoughts on their portrayal in the book and the impact it may have on its readers.

Listen in as we reflect on the intricate dance of personal storytelling and the nuances of representation, especially within the LGBTQ+ community. I open up about the anticipation of sharing our stories through the book and this podcast, the vulnerability it entails, and the surprising responses we've received. The conversation underscores the transformative power of authentic narratives and the importance of visibility for marginalized groups, illustrated by touching feedback from a gay volleyball league member.

This is a heartfelt exploration of family dynamics, personal growth, and the journey of self-discovery. We delve into the profound changes in family communication, the shift from rigid beliefs to open spirituality, and the courage it takes to embrace one's true identity. Our discussion celebrates the progress we've made as a family, the essential role of support during moments of independence, and the empowering process of coming to terms with LGBTQ+ identity.

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Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of communication within families, especially regarding LGBTQ topics.
Heather shares her personal journey of writing a book and the emotions involved.
The discussion highlights the growth and evolution of family dynamics throughout difficult times.
Connor and Gray express gratitude for the supportive environment they grew up in.
The episode addresses the challenges of being visible and the anxieties that come with it.
Heather encourages listeners to embrace change and curiosity in their personal beliefs.

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#121 | How "Parenting with Pride" Grew From Coffee Chats to a Courageous LGBTQ Parent Guide

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Ready to transform the way you parent your LGBTQ child with pride and understanding? "Parenting with Pride" isn't just a book; it's a journey of evolution, a guide filled with heartfelt stories, robust research, and strategic tools that I have poured my heart into. This episode peels back the curtain on the creation of my upcoming literary labor of love and answers the burning questions so many of you have shared. As we sit back in our cozy coffee shop chat, I'll reveal the four pillars that are the cornerstone of both the book and our ongoing discussions: Embrace, Educate and Unlearn Bias, Empower, and Love. Trust me, this is a conversation that goes beyond the pages, designed to illuminate and guide every step you take with your LGBTQ teen.

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Takeaways:

This book aims to create a safe space for parents raising LGBTQ children.
Heather emphasizes the importance of not feeling alone on the parenting journey.
The upcoming book focuses on practical tools and strategies for empowering LGBTQ teens.
Writing the book involved a challenging yet transformative process over several years.
Key themes of the book include embracing, educating, empowering, and loving LGBTQ teens unconditionally.
Listeners are encouraged to support independent bookstores by pre-ordering the book for themselves.

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#120 | 5 Ways Pride Events Build Courageous LGBTQ Allies and Fuel Inclusive Leadership

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Embark on an enlightening exploration with Dean Nelson, LGBTQ pioneer and Whistler Pride and Ski Festival founder, as we dissect the critical need for compassionate leadership. In our heartfelt conversation, we delve into the chilling rise of violence against transgender individuals and the stark polarization gripping America. We share stories close to the heart, underscoring the dire need for leaders who champion facts and embrace diversity, steering clear of the treacherous path of fear and discrimination.

The essence of democracy and pride takes center stage in our narrative, emphasizing the potency of being politically savvy, starting at the grassroots level. Discover the profound influence you wield by understanding the human rights stance of your local representatives—a tribute to the power vested in your vote. Our personal tales of empowerment and the symbolic triumph of salvaging a community event further illustrate the monumental impact of civic engagement on both personal and communal plains.

Finally, we celebrate the triumphs of inclusivity within the workplace, sharing inspiring accounts from notable figures like a trans engineer at Electronic Arts and Olympian Mark Tewksbury. These narratives not only emphasize the importance of self-expression but also underscore the life-changing support of allyship. As we close, we're left with a message of hope—a vision of leadership that forms a more inclusive and secure world for everyone.

About Our Guest:

Dean Nelson, a vibrant force in his community, has catalyzed change and championed inclusivity throughout his remarkable journey.

In 2006, Nelson played a pivotal role in rescuing Whistler’s Gay Ski Week, igniting a passion for advocacy that led him to helm the annual festival, now known as the Whistler Ski & Pride Festival.

In 2009, he co-founded the transformative Mr. Gay World (MGW) organization, merging sports, culture, and human rights to combat homophobia and nurture future leaders.

A trailblazer, Nelson established the pioneering Olympic Pride House at the Vancouver/Whistler 2010 Olympic and Paralympic Winter Games, setting a precedent for diversity in sports.

Continuing his legacy, Nelson advises the Pride House Advisory Group, shaping inclusive environments for global events such as the Olympic and Commonwealth Games.

Educated in resort management and Japanese language and culture, Nelson's career spans esteemed roles in hospitality and tourism before founding Alpenglow Productions Corp, the driving force behind Whistler Pride and Ski Festival.

His notable positions and contributions include directing Vancouver Pride, co-founding Mr. Gay Canada, and spearheading initiatives like the Vancouver North America Outgames Planning Committee.

Nelson's dedication hasn't gone unnoticed, earning him accolades such as Pride Toronto’s Award of Excellence in Sports and the Thompson Rivers University Distinguished Alumni: Human Rights Leadership Award and an Honorary Doctorate of Laws.

With unwavering commitment, Dean Nelson continues to inspire, leaving an indelible mark on the landscape of equality and inclusion.

Social Media @GayWhistler @departuresXdean

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Takeaways:

The importance of compassionate leadership in creating safer and more inclusive communities.
Individuals should actively educate themselves about political candidates and their stances on human rights.
Engaging in conversations about LGBTQ issues can foster understanding and allyship in diverse communities.
The challenges faced by LGBTQ individuals globally highlight the need for continued advocacy and support.
Creating spaces for LGBTQ visibility can empower communities and encourage acceptance and love.
Everyone can take actionable steps to ensure they are registered to vote in upcoming elections.

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#119 | Why Kids’ Books Must Break Labels—And What Courageous Allies Should Do About It (Cultivating Diversity and Empowerment in Children's Books)

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Prepare to be inspired as we sit down with the extraordinary Michael Tyler, the man behind the message of acceptance and self-love in the acclaimed "Girls of the World Doing More Than Ever Before." Michael, alongside his co-author Lindsay Davis, has crafted a book that not only soared to the New York Times bestseller list but also ignites a spark of empowerment within young readers, particularly girls. We unpack the essence of their collaboration, the creative process that led to their book's success, and how their work is sculpting the character of our future generation. Join us for a conversation brimming with heartfelt dedication to the power of purposeful children's literature and the promise it holds for a more inclusive world.

Amidst a culture rife with labels and expectations, we open up about the journey to understanding and embracing LGBT identities. The discussion transcended into a broader reflection on the role of parents in breaking societal molds, nurturing their children's individuality, and fostering an environment where love is the bedrock of acceptance. This episode is a heartfelt testament to the unwavering bond between parent and child, and a reminder that our most profound duty is to nurture a world where every child can flourish, free from the constraints of labels and stereotypes.

About our Guest:

Michael Tyler is a writer, speaker, and author of The Skin You Live In and Mirror Face, children's books about acceptance and self-love. He advises educators on DEI and SEL curriculum, and has addressed forums for The Kin Centre, the Clinton Foundation, and Beyond Differences. He resides in Chicago.

Learn more about Michael and his books at https://michaeltylerwrites.com/

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Takeaways:

Michael Tyler emphasizes the importance of acceptance and self-love in personal development.
Parents should actively support their LGBTQ children, becoming engineers of their identity construction.
The book 'Girls of the World' aims to empower girls and highlight their potential.
The conversation highlights the shared struggles of marginalized groups in society.
Understanding the humanity of all individuals is essential for fostering acceptance and love.
Tyler reflects on his unique experiences that shaped his perspectives on identity and acceptance.

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#118 | The Parent’s Guide to Spotting Misinformation: LGBTQ Ally Guidance for Digital Courage

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever felt adrift in the murky waters of the internet, trying to fish out the facts you truly need? Today's episode is a beacon for LGBTQ+ parents seeking guidance in distinguishing the credible from the questionable online. Today we plunge into the methods of verifying author expertise and publisher reputation, emphasizing the difference it makes to lean on peer-reviewed resources. Our conversation goes further than just picking out the good from the bad; it's about strengthening the very foundations of your knowledge with tools that ensure what you're learning is rooted in verified truth.

As we navigate this digital landscape together, we lay out a map of strategies to keep you on the path of objective and accurate information. We discuss the nuances of sifting through content, from performing reverse image searches to discerning the intent behind the words you read. It's a masterclass in critical thinking and self-awareness, aimed at debunking biases and promoting a balanced understanding of the issues close to your heart and your LGBTQ teen's experience. Embrace a balanced, informed approach to content consumption, and join us on this journey toward becoming a savvier, more critical thinker in the digital age.

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and supported while parenting LGBTQ teens.
Listeners are encouraged to evaluate the credibility of online sources to avoid misinformation.
Critical thinking is crucial when assessing the objectivity and bias of information found online.
Utilizing advanced search strategies can significantly enhance the efficiency of your online research.
Engaging with peer-reviewed articles yields more reliable information and supports informed decision-making.
Parents should be proactive in seeking diverse perspectives to foster a comprehensive understanding of LGBTQ issues.

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#117 | Unconditional Love & Gender Fluidity (LGBTQ Allyship, Courage & Spiritual Guidance)

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Discover the power of love and acceptance as I am joined by the insightful shawndeez, Ph.D., to explore the journey of parenting LGBTQ children. Through our conversation, we unearth the intricacies of identity, acceptance, and the transformative self-discovery that not only reshapes the lives of LGBTQ individuals but also their loved ones. Hear the touching stories that cut across the fabric of spirituality, gender, and the path toward embracing one's true self, offering a glimmer of hope and guidance for those supporting queer and trans family members.

The episode traverses the emotional landscape that parents navigate as their children reveal their gender identities, delving into the delicate balance of protecting and accepting, and the profound realization that unconditional love can deepen through understanding and awareness. We discuss the importance of patience, education, and dialogue in fostering a family environment where differences unite rather than divide. With shawndeez's personal narratives serving as a backdrop, the discussion highlights the healing potential of open-hearted acceptance within the family dynamic.

Listen as we contemplate the societal impacts of gender fluidity, and how fostering joy within the lives of trans individuals can lead to a culture of thriving. Whether you're a parent, a friend, or simply someone seeking understanding, this episode is a beacon of hope and guidance in the quest for a more inclusive world.

About our Guest:

shawndeez, Ph.D. (they/them) received their doctorate in UCLA’s Department of Gender Studies. While at UCLA, they created and led courses on Trans Magic, Queer & Trans Muslim Feminisms, and QTPoC Resistances while simultaneously serving on the Trans Wellness Team, a collective of medical doctors and mental health providers working to provide gender-affirming healthcare to trans students across the UC system. shawndeez’s dissertation research explored how queer, trans, and nonbinary individuals engage with the spiritual as a form of resilience, healing, and possibility. They are now a full-time public speaker, spiritual guide, and workshop facilitator, offering spiritually-conscious spaces for queer/trans people to lean into their joys.

shawndeez is currently most excited for their newest adventure – offering one-on-one support for parents and elders of trans and gender non-conforming people who seek guidance in reimagining their relationship with their child. If you are interested in learning more, please visit their website shawndeez.com.

SOCIALS:

ig - @drshawndeez

website: https://www.shawndeez.com/

the specific page for parent support work: https://www.shawndeez.com/work/parents

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shawndeez/

email address: shawndeez@ucla.edu

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The journey of understanding and supporting a trans child requires both time and compassion from parents.
Sean Dees emphasizes the importance of joy over survival in the lives of trans individuals.
Parents often carry fear and confusion when their child comes out as trans or non-binary.
Creating a safe space for open dialogue can help families navigate gender identity together.
Trans joy workshops focus on making joy a priority for trans individuals and their families.
Understanding the fluidity of gender allows for a broader acceptance of diverse identities.

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#116 | Why Saying “I Love You” Isn’t Enough—LGBTQ Ally Parents Need These Love Language Tools

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0500

This episode of Just Breathe Parenting your LGBTQ teen focuses on the importance of understanding and connecting with your loved ones through the five love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and gifts. Host Heather Hester emphasizes that every individual expresses and receives love differently, making it crucial for parents and caregivers to recognize these differences in their relationships with their children, partners, and friends. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own love languages and how they can enhance their connections with others by acknowledging and honoring these preferences. The discussion also highlights the significance of creating safe spaces for open communication about love and affection. Join Heather as she shares insights and practical ideas to foster deeper bonds and understanding within families.

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This podcast emphasizes the importance of understanding and expressing love in different ways.
The five love languages can help you connect better with your LGBTQ child and loved ones.
Being aware of personal boundaries around physical touch is crucial for healthy relationships.
Quality time spent together can communicate love and care much more than words.
Acts of service can create joy in relationships when done without being asked.
Gifts should never replace genuine love; they must complement time and attention given.

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Why Trying To Be the “Perfect” LGBTQ Parent Leads to Burnout

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0500

What if unlearning bias is the missing piece that helps you truly love, empower, and connect with your LGBTQ teen?

If you’re parenting an LGBTQ teen, you’ve probably felt the pressure to “get it right,” find the perfect resources, and keep moving forward even when you’re overwhelmed. In this episode, Heather brings you back to the roots of why this podcast exists: real talk, real tools, and real support all while sharing a major milestone that’s designed to help parents like you feel steadier, stronger, and less alone.

A clear understanding of what Heather is shifting back toward this year and why it matters for your parenting journey
A grounded look at what it actually takes to keep showing up: resilience, self-care, and the power of the pause
Details on Heather’s new book Parenting With Pride and how you can be part of the launch mission

Press play to hear Heather’s biggest announcement yet and walk away feeling more supported, more capable, and more connected as you parent your LGBTQ teen.

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Parents, Why Fluidity in Gender Identity Isn’t Something To Fear

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0500

What if your child’s gender identity shifts, and instead of panicking, you leaned in?

When a child comes out as trans or nonbinary, many parents feel an urgent need to defend, define, and protect that identity. But what happens if your child’s understanding of themselves evolves? In a world that demands certainty and boxes, parents are left wondering: Am I doing this right? What if it’s a phase? What do I say to critics? This episode gently unpacks those fears and invites a more expansive, grounded way forward.

A healthier framework for understanding gender fluidity without fear or rigidity
Practical ways to respond when others question your child’s identity
Permission to loosen your grip on labels while strengthening your unconditional support

Press play to explore how embracing fluidity, freedom, and flexibility might be the greatest gift you give your child and yourself.

About our Guest:

Trystan Reese has been organizing with the trans community for nearly two decades, serving on the frontlines of this generation’s biggest fights for LGBTQ+ justice around the country. He then launched onto the global stage in 2017 when his family’s unique journey gained international media attention. He was honored to partner with many major media outlets, including CNN, NBC, People, and Buzzfeed, to bring his message of trans family love and resilience to the mainstream. Professionally, he is the founder of Collaborate Consulting, providing customized training solutions for individuals, organizations, and communities interested in social justice. His first book, How We Do Family, was released in the summer of 2021 and his children’s book, The Light Of You, was released at the beginning of 2022.

Trystan is married to his partner Biff, and they live in Portland, Oregon, with their three kids: Riley, Sully, and Leo. They are very happy.

https://www.trystanreese.com/

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9 Ways Parents Can Be Better LGBTQ Allies Starting Today

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Are you truly showing up as an LGBTQ ally or just hoping your support is enough?

In a world where LGBTQ rights, safety, and visibility are constantly being challenged, many parents, friends, and community members want to help, but aren’t always sure how. You may consider yourself supportive, yet still wonder if you’re doing enough to create real safety, inclusion, and advocacy for the LGBTQ people in your life.

A clear understanding of what authentic LGBTQ allyship actually looks like in action
Practical, actionable steps you can implement immediately to create safer spaces
Tools to challenge your own biases, use inclusive language, and advocate with confidence

Press play to start 2024 with clarity, courage, and concrete strategies to become the kind of ally who creates real, lasting change.

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#112 | Embracing the Messiness: Holiday Survival Tips for LGBTQ Families and Their Allies

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Holidays should be a time of joy and celebration, but what happens when they turn into a period of crisis? We’ve all been there, and know firsthand how tough it can be. Join me as I share my personal experiences and effective strategies for managing these challenging situations. You will begin to understand how to regain control by calming your mind and emotions, reaching out to loved ones and practicing self-care. Listen in to find out how to navigate these testing times, guided by your intuition and finding what works best for you.

As we move forward, I will offer you an arsenal of seven powerful tips and tools to turn your holiday crisis into a season of peace and happiness. Draw a deep breath, focus on the present moment and embrace life as it comes – the good and the bad. Discover the concept of impermanence, the power of kindness and the transformational ability of gratitude. Prioritize self-care, lean on your loved ones for support, and always remember - tough situations are temporary.

Let's embark on this journey together to embrace the beauty and messiness of life and make the most of your holiday season. Enjoy!

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Takeaways:

The holiday season can be overwhelming, especially when facing personal crises or family challenges.
It's important to take time to be present with your children, even amidst turmoil.
Engaging in self-care practices, like yoga or reading, can significantly help during tough times.
Making time for your partner, free from crisis discussions, is crucial for maintaining connection.
Doing something nice for others can uplift both them and yourself during difficult moments.
Starting a gratitude journal shifts focus away from negativity and fosters a positive mindset.

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#111 | 6 Courageous Ways LGBTQ Parents & Allies Can Handle Non-Affirming Family During the Holidays

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0500

The holidays are a time of magic, love, and connection. Unfortunately, the crises in our lives don’t stop just because it is the holidays.

This episode is all about equipping you with the tools and language needed to gracefully handle situations with non-affirming individuals. We'll use the guide "The Language of LGBTQIA+" to understand the terminology your child or friend might use. Alongside this, we'll discuss the importance of maintaining presence with all kids, investing quality time with your partner, and nurturing a sense of gratitude to keep the positivity alive, even amidst chaotic times.

But there's more. We'll debunk common misbeliefs propagated by non-affirming individuals and learn how to respond to them. You'll discover how to provide essential support to LGBTQ+ individuals during the holiday season, and I'll share some self-care tips that have proved to be lifesavers during holiday crises. And last but certainly not least, we'll explore the transformative power of gratitude. Take the time to amplify the positive, find peace amidst chaos, and embrace the holidays in all their messy wonder.

Don't miss this heartwarming and empowering conversation - it'll leave you feeling ready to embrace the holiday season with open arms and an open heart.

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Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of breathing and calming your nervous system during stressful holiday situations.
Engaging with non-affirming family members requires clarity on your goals and boundaries.
Understanding the nuanced meanings of words like 'non-affirming' and 'unsupportive' is crucial in communication.
Creating a supportive environment for LGBTQ children during the holidays involves both education and empathy.
Knowing facts specific to your child's journey can help navigate challenging conversations.
Taking time for self-care and gratitude can significantly ease the emotional burdens of the holidays.

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#110 | A Legacy of Unconditional Love

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0500

As we celebrate the fourth glorious year of Just Breathe, I can't help but look back on our remarkable journey. Our endeavor to support families, friends, allies, and LGBTQ individuals themselves has grown into a thriving business, a testament to our collective hard work and shared belief. We've welcomed a plethora of guests, each leaving us with invaluable lessons and beautiful memories. From shared laughter to tears, we've nurtured an environment of growth, learning, and love.

This episode is not just a celebration of our journey but also a tribute to my beloved golden doodle, Teagan. Diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer, Teagan, our family's constant, taught us to cherish every moment and draw strength from each other. Her unwavering presence during challenging times, whether it be my son's coming out or my sister's illness, filled our hearts with unconditional love. As we pay tribute to Teagan's remarkable legacy, join us in spreading love, fostering connections, and making a difference, one ripple at a time.

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Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of being present and cherishing moments with loved ones.
Heather reflects on the deep bond between humans and pets, showcasing unconditional love.
Celebrating milestones in parenting and podcasting is intertwined with personal stories of love and loss.
Sharing the journey of raising LGBTQ teens requires vulnerability and openness from parents.
Grief can be transformed into gratitude, as seen in Heather's tribute to her dog.
The podcast aims to empower listeners to connect deeply with their children and communities.

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#109 | 5 Steps to Heal Shame and Build LGBTQ Ally Courage: A Guide to Inner Freedom

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever felt lost in your own skin, or like a puzzle piece that doesn't fit? Feel the weight lift as you join us in a poignant conversation with Michael Mammina, a master life coach who has navigated his way through these feelings and has emerged as a beacon of inspiration. In this episode, he candidly shares his personal journey of coming to terms with his sexuality, encountering severe bullying, and grappling with the feeling of being an outsider. Despite his outward success, Michael felt an internal void until he discovered the concept of the 'shadow' and its profound impact on our lives.

Our discussion is not merely a narration of Michael's journey but resonates with every individual who has felt different, out-of-place, or trapped by their own fears. We delve deep into the impact of shame on the LGBTQ community, the stages of coming out, with a special focus on the 'avoidance stage' and 'overcompensation stage'. At the heart of our conversation is the importance of self-love in leading an authentic life and the influential role of support in weathering life's storms.

Throughout our exploration, Michael imparts practical advice and tools for self-acceptance, personal growth, and creating safe spaces for those coming out. This episode will serve as a gentle reminder that it's never too late and there's never a wrong time to seek help, learn to love ourselves, and live our best lives. So, buckle up for an inspiring journey into self-discovery, acceptance, and transformation, and remember to soak up each moment, seek support, and just breathe.

Resources Mentioned

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers By Debbie Ford

The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs PhD

About our Guest:

Michael Mammina is a Master Life Coach with multiple certifications and global professional experience, whose passion is to create the space for successful people to increase their self-worth and net worth while achieving their desires. Self-worth is a dynamic of emotional and mental health that is often sadly neglected. Unless you truly value yourself, you won't have the motivation to exercise, get enough sleep, eat healthfully, and care for yourself. Michael helps people uncover and own their inherent self-worth while holding them accountable to take action, and co-creates the safety to reach inside and see what is holding them back from their dreams.

Discover that you are truly perfect, whole, and able - exactly as you are with no limits.

https://michaelmammina.com/

Get your Free eBook to help listeners learn 5 simple steps to get them toward the life they desire. Methods to break through the obstacales that are holding them back at https://michaelmammina.com/5steps/

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Takeaways:

The journey of self-acceptance often begins with recognizing and addressing our inner shame.
Finding a safe harbor and supportive community is vital for LGBTQ youth coming out.
The process of discovering one's identity can be filled with deep internal struggles.
Embracing vulnerability allows individuals to connect more authentically with themselves and others.
First loving oneself is essential to living authentically and supporting others in their journeys.
Shame can be a powerful motivator that drives behaviors, often leading to overcompensation.

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#108 | Why Talking Isn’t Enough: Real Bullying Defense Strategies Every LGBTQ Ally Parent Should Use

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Picture your child standing tall, brimming with confidence and equipped with the tools to deftly handle bullying. That's the promise that my guest, Suzanne Jean, delivers on in our insightful conversation today. Suzanne, a passionate advocate for empowering young minds, takes us back to the 70s, painting a stark picture of how at-risk children were stigmatized and criminalized. She then walks us through the evolution of her innovative four-pillar program that cultivates self-confidence through self-defense, with a focus on awareness, attention, avoidance, and action. Suzanne's dedication to transforming young lives shines through as she stresses the significance of being mindful, engaging in open dialogues, and educating children about the intricate workings of their brains.

Diving into compelling narratives, Suzanne shares the transformative journey of her daughter's inner-city classroom. These stories serve as a testament to the potency of self-awareness and resilience. She speaks of the profound impact of positive affirmation and the effectiveness of her program through self-defense, mindfulness, play, and breath work. These tools are instrumental in boosting confidence and teaching kids to regulate their emotions, ultimately changing their behavior and their lives for the better.

We wrap up our conversation by emphasizing the urgent need to equip our children with the knowledge and the skills to navigate the complex world of emotions. The issue of bullying prevention and youth empowerment take center stage as we explore the connection between the brain, body, and spirit. Suzanne offers valuable insights on managing anxiety, fear, and other challenging emotions. She shares her vision to train youth as leaders, introducing them to the world of martial arts and sports. Tune in for a conversation that aims to enlighten, inspire, and empower.

About our Guest:

Suzanne Jean is the Director of Fit4Defense Consulting Ltd. operating a unique anti-bullying program called PowerED. This is a holistic life program that inspires confidence in participants to be heard, safe in the community and free from abuse through assertive communication, self defense and awareness exercises. Suzanne has over fifty years of experience in the design, implementation and accreditation of community-based programs in the social service field. She possesses lifelong experience as a martial artist with a black belt in karate and an advanced tai chi practitioner. Suzanne is a recently published author of "Bullying Stops Here-Steps to Safety, Strength, Confidence and Empowerment.

https://www.fit4defense.ca/

Suzanne book - Bullying Stops Here - https://amzn.to/46Z4jl3

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Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of self-awareness for children in addressing bullying.
Building confidence through self-defense can empower kids to handle bullying situations effectively.
Creating healthy, confident kids is essential to reduce bullying in schools and communities.
Open discussions about difficult topics like suicide and abuse are crucial for youth support.
The program includes mindfulness techniques to help children self-regulate their emotions better.
Suzanne Jean's curriculum promotes a community approach to tackle bullying at all levels.

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#107 | Healing Through Breath (LGBTQ Allyship, Courage & Somatic Parenting Guidance)

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0500

What if you could harness the power of breath to live a more present, intentional, and authentic life? Join me as I engage in a transformative conversation with Jennifer (Jen) Murray, the founder of the High Vibe Healing Collective, who uses breath work and other techniques to cultivate a heart-aligned life and inspire others to do the same.

Get a glimpse into Jen's unique parenting journey, where they weave in somatic practices and astrology to remain genuine and heart-centered during the tumultuous pandemic times. We dissect the role of breath work in breaking old parenting habits, importance of language in shaping our children's lives, and how embracing our humanness can lead to a more enriched parent-child relationship. Jen's personal stories about how their children have served as life's greatest reminders are likely to strike a chord with many of you.

In our exploration of the collective illness of unworthiness and conformity, we delve into how breaking socialization patterns can lead to a more inclusive and loving space for our loved ones. Hear Jen's insights on how breath work and astrology can help us combat this sense of lack and worthiness and guide us towards a more integrated life.

About our Guest:

Jennifer (Jen) Murray (they/them) is the Founder of the High Vibe Healing Collective, using their lived experiences as a white-bodied, queer, loving mama, to breathe new ways of being and belonging. They emphasize inclusivity and conscious co-creation of embodied wellness, uplifting LGBTQ+ communities and inspiring heart-aligned leadership for a more justice-oriented world. Jen sparks joy-filled, loving, cosmically divine communities with a passion for social justice and accountability.

https://highvibehealingcollective.com/

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Takeaways:

Breathing is a powerful tool that connects our mind and body, helping us stay present.
Parenting requires embracing the messiness of human experience and allowing for mistakes.
Inclusivity in parenting means recognizing and honoring each child's unique identity and needs.
Awareness of breath can reveal our emotional states and guide us toward healing.
Creating a supportive community is essential for both parents and their LGBTQ children.
The journey of self-discovery is ongoing, and it's important to be compassionate with ourselves.

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#106 | 5 Media-Based Strategies to Teach LGBTQ Ally Kids Consent, Courage & Bodily Autonomy

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Join us as we navigate the compelling topics of consent culture, representation in media, and gender inclusivity in sports with our remarkable guest, Michele Meek. As a writer, filmmaker, professor, and entrepreneur, Michele brings an enlightening perspective to our conversation. Listen in as we explore her work on consent culture, her interest in representation in film and media, and her upcoming short film on gender and inclusivity in sports. From her earliest interest in sexuality to her most recent book, Consent Culture and Teen Films, Michele’s insights are bound to challenge your thinking and start important conversations.

Engage in our thoughtful discussion on teaching kids about consent culture and bodily autonomy from a young age. We examine the best ways to initiate conversations about boundaries, body safety, and how to introduce age-appropriate books to children. As we navigate through this topic, we also touch on the positive effects of consent culture in teaching young individuals the importance of communication and respect for others.

Finally, we'll get into the topic of representation in youth media, focusing on the need for more diversity in gender representation, particularly in teen films. We contemplate the effects of traditional sports rules and regulations on youth athletes, with a focus on gender divisions. As we close, we look at the possibilities of gender-neutral sports leagues and the benefits of allowing children to express themselves without being confined to a box. Michele's extensive research on gender diversity and her conviction that society needs to be more open to these findings, makes this a conversation you won't want to miss.

About our Guest:

MICHELE MEEK, Ph.D. (she/her) is a writer, filmmaker, professor, and entrepreneur. She authored the book Consent Culture and Teen Films (published in 2023 with Indiana University Press), and she has published several other books including Independent Female Filmmakers (2019) and The Mastermind Failure Club (2020). She presented a TEDx talk “Why we’re confused about consent—rewriting our stories of seduction” and has written for Ms. Magazine, Script Magazine, Entrepreneur, The Good Men Project, Salon.com, among others.

Michele has also directed numerous award-winning short films, including Bay Creek Tennis Camp (2023), Imagine Kolle 37 (2017), and Red Sneakers (2008), and she worked as associate producer on the documentary feature Salvage (2019), which premiered at SXSW Film Festival. She has several creative projects in the works—including a feature screenplay Cruisin‘, an episodic screenplay Midlife Mayhem, and a documentary The Impermanence of Everything.

She is a tenure-track Assistant Professor in the Communication Studies department at Bridgewater State University, where she teaches filmmaking, screenwriting, film studies, digital media, gender studies, and life design.

https://michelemeek.com/

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Takeaways:

Conversations about consent should start early to empower children and protect their boundaries.
Media representation plays a crucial role in shaping young people's understanding of gender and sexuality.
Normalizing discussions around consent can help children navigate complex social situations better.
Sports should be inclusive, allowing all kids to play without the pressure of gender divisions.
Parents can use media as a tool to facilitate discussions about consent and relationships.
Being open to new ways of thinking is essential for addressing issues of gender diversity.

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www.michellemeek.com

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#105 | Why Silence Is Deadly: What Allies Must Do NOW to Protect LGBTQ Youth from Suicide

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Content warning: This episodes discusses the important issue of teen suicide and its' prevention.

What if we told you that a staggering 41% of LGBTQ+ youth have considered suicide in the past year? Yes, you heard it right. That's the chilling reality we tackle on this episode of Just Breathe, where we engage in a deeply important conversation about suicide prevention. Our guest, AnneMoss Rogers, is a mental health and suicide education expert, who bravely shares her personal journey and the valuable lessons she learned from her family's tragic experience with suicide.

Woven into our discussion is the heart-rending story of a mother who battled her son's mental health issues and substance misuse. We navigate through the complexities of his diagnosis of major depression, ADHD, anxiety, and substance use to mask his feelings of suicide. The moment she learnt about her son's death underscored the urgent need for suicide prevention efforts.

In the latter part of the episode, we commit to addressing adolescent suicidal risk, shedding light on the signs to watch out for and how parents can provide support. We share practical tips from creating a crisis response plan to fostering open conversations about suicide and empowering your children with coping mechanisms. As we wrap up, we want to remind you that you are not alone and that help is always available. Let's join hands to raise awareness, demonstrate compassion and save lives.

About our Guest:

AnneMoss Rogers is a mental health and suicide education expert, professional speaker, trainer, and consultant. After her 20-year-old son, Charles died by suicide in 2015, AnneMoss chronicled her family’s tragedy in a newspaper article that went viral, and her blog, Emotionally Naked, has reached millions. She is the author of the award-winning memoir, Diary of a Broken Mind and the best seller, Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with co-writer Dr. Kimberly O’Brien.

She has been a TEDx speaker, was featured in the New York Times, Variety Magazine, and was the first non-clinician invited to speak on youth suicide at the National Institute of Mental Health. A UNC-Chapel Hill alumna, Anne Moss currently lives in Richmond, VA. Her surviving son is a filmmaker in LA.

Website: https://mentalhealthawarenesseducation.com/

Emotionally Naked© blog: http://emotionallynaked.com

AnneMoss’ TEDx – Can a Blog Save Lives?

AnneMoss’ books and free e-book library: https://mentalhealthawarenesseducation.com/mental-health-books/#free_mentalhealth_ebooks

Hotlines:

· TrevorSpace Discussion Board for LGBTQ+ peer support

· Canada 1-833-456-4566

· United Kingdom 116 123

· Australia 13 11 14

· International suicide hotlines

· USA Suicide Hotline 988

· Crisis text line US/ Canada. 741-741

· USA Crisis line for LGBTQ Youth 1-866-488-7386

· USA Crisis text line LGBTQ Youth 678-678

· TransLifeLine 1-877-565-8860

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Takeaways:

The mental health of LGBTQ youth is deeply affected by societal misunderstanding and negative messaging.
Parents must actively listen and create a safe space for open conversations about mental health.
Suicidal ideation in youth can fluctuate, and asking direct questions can provide relief.
Recognizing signs of isolation and self-deprecating remarks in teens is crucial for prevention.
Creating a personalized crisis response plan can empower youth to manage their mental health.
Advocacy for LGBTQ youth requires patience, understanding, and appealing to shared humanity in discussions.

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#104 | Why Learning to Trust Intuition Gives LGBTQ Parents & Allies the Courage to Support with Clarity

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Have you ever had that gut feeling, that whispering voice within, guiding you somewhere you just can't explain? We've all experienced it at some point. It's intuition, that unexplainable guide within us. This inner voice often gets drowned in the cacophony of our busy lives and the constant chatter of our minds. Yet, deciphering and trusting this voice can be the key to a more attuned, aware, and insightful life. Today, we welcome our special guest, Heather Maguire, an unconventional intuitive who helps individuals understand and trust their intuition.

Heather shares her unique journey of understanding her gift and how she uses it to guide others. She brilliantly differentiates between fear messages and intuition messages, sharing how to build a relationship with our intuition. Can you imagine how empowering it would be to trust your gut feelings, especially when making crucial decisions, like parenting? Heather helps us understand how to still our minds, tap into our awareness, and honor our bodies' responses to the external world. She emphasizes the power of slowing down and taking care of ourselves, helping us reconnect with our intuition.

The intriguing part of our conversation revolves around intuition experiments. Heather gives us a sneak peek into her upcoming project, the Energy Lab, where she will teach people to experiment with their energy, inviting insights from the universe through open-ended questions. We conclude the episode with a unique meditation designed to face fear and find courage, a truly empowering way to end our conversation.

Listen to this episode if you're curious about understanding and harnessing your intuition for personal growth and decision-making. Let's unlock the door to our untapped intuitive potential together.

About our Guest:

Heather Maguire, the Unconventional Intuitive is uniquely talented in making people feel safe to listen and follow their own intuitive knowing. For more than 15 years she has been gently and compassionately guiding people to a deeper understanding of who they are and what they are capable of creating in their lives.

https://www.facebook.com/UnconventionalIntuitive

https://unconventionalintuitive.com/

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Takeaways:

The transition back to school can create an energetic shift in the household, impacting everyone, including pets.
Listening to your intuition is essential, especially during times of transition and uncertainty.
Building a relationship with your intuition involves recognizing it as a natural bodily function.
Practicing stillness and awareness can help you differentiate between intuition and fear-based thoughts.
The heart rock walks teach you to connect with nature while exploring your desires and intuition.
Asking open-ended questions can open pathways for intuitive insights and problem-solving.

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#103 | 6 Ways Parents Can Be Allies When Their LGBTQ Child Comes Out: Courage, Guidance & Healing

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Get ready for an intense journey of self-discovery and healing as we welcome David Devore, a psychotherapist and wellness coach. Listen in as David unravels his personal spiritual journey, shedding light on the struggles of coming to terms with his queer identity and how internalized homophobia and shame were affecting his life. His transformative experience has equipped him to work effectively with the LGBTQIA community, offering insights and support from a place of empathy and understanding.

We also focus on the importance of parental support for queer children. Our conversation with David delves into the complexities of shame, religion, and LGBTQ+ children, highlighting the potential damage the heteronormative narrative of religion can cause. We stress the significance of creating a safe and supportive space for children to express their identity, the role of education in fighting homophobia, and how parents can prepare themselves for this important conversation.

David discusses the significance of grace, understanding, and readiness to learn for parents navigating this sensitive terrain. Listen in to understand the potential effects of rejection, shunning ceremonies, and addiction that many queer youth face, and the immense power of support, acceptance, and open conversations. The profound connection between a parent and child can be maintained, despite the imperfections, as long as the conversation stays open and filled with love.

About our Guest:

David DeVore is a life coach specializing in the challenges of queer life such as coming out, internalized homophobia, and shame. David embarked upon a spiritual journey in his early 40s in response to midlife/existential crisis. He discovered that internalized homophobia and shame had been holding him back in all areas of his life, by negatively coloring the lens of his perspective. This cathartic moment ignited David's passion for the work he does with the LGBTQIA community today. David is a former masters level psychotherapist, and wellness coach. He enjoys hot yoba and meditation.

https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdevore

https://www.instagram.com/coachdevore/

https://coachdevore.com

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Takeaways:

Coming out is a personal journey for each individual, not about others' expectations.
Parents should approach their child's coming out with love, compassion, and openness.
Recognizing and addressing one's own fears can help foster a supportive environment.
Education about LGBTQIA+ experiences is crucial for parents to understand their children better.
Internalized homophobia can deeply affect an individual's mental health and happiness.
Creating a safe space for dialogue can strengthen the parent-child relationship during coming out.

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#102 | Why LGBTQ Courage Starts with Vulnerability: Ally Guidance from Yuval David on Storytelling, Identity & Faith

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0500

How would you feel if you had the ability to express your deepest emotions in a safe and supportive space? Is it possible that the secret to growth and self-realization is hidden in our vulnerability? Award-winning actor and activist, Yuval David, joins us on the show today to explore these questions and more. We kick off our conversation delving into the powerful realm of storytelling, and how it shapes our perception of ourselves and others. Yuval shares his insights on the transformative power of stories, how they've influenced his work in film, television, theatre, and the digital space, and his ongoing advocacy for civil rights, social justice, and representation.

Ever stopped to truly appreciate the 'now', the present moment you're in? The Hebrew concept of "Hineni", meaning 'I am', serves as our guide as we embark on a journey to discover mindfulness. Yuval delves into this concept, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, not for our successes, but for the mere fact of our existence. We then navigate the often-underestimated importance of expressing our emotions, in particular, through crying, and how establishing a secure space for these expressions can be therapeutic, bringing about a sense of equilibrium and peace.

To wrap it up, we delve into the world of the LGBTQIA+ community, examining the power of vulnerability and the critical aspect of setting boundaries. Yuval and I bring to light the importance of standing up as an ally and using our voices for tangible positive influence. We then explore Yuval's groundbreaking art project, Wonderfully Made, which portrays Jesus as a member or ally of the LGBTQ community. So tune in, and join us on this enlightening journey through storytelling, mindfulness, and advocacy in the realm of LGBTQIA+.

About our Guest:

Yuval David

Emmy Award winning actor, host, filmmaker, and advocate with a creative mantra to entertain, uplift, and inspire. As a filmmaker, Yuval produces, directs, and writes short and feature films, documentaries, web-series, and digital and TV content, including the award-winning episodic series, One Actor Short, Pranks of Kindness, Better World with Yuval David, What Makes You Beautiful, and numerous other web series. His work has been screened at international film festivals, receiving over 100 awards.

Yuval advocates for all marginalized communities through his creative work and social action, including the National LGBTQ Task Force, GLAAD, Rainbow Railroad, Freedom House, EndJewHatred, the Shoah Foundation, the Jewish National Fund (JNF), Keren Kayemet, Stand With Us, A Wider Bridge, The Aguda, American Israel Cultural Foundation, Chabad, the Jewish Learning Institute, the Embassy of Israel, Covenant House, LGBTQ Centers across the US and internationally, The Giving Group Community, Black Jewish Entertainment Alliance, Creative Community for Peace, and other organizations.

Find him on social media at https://www.yuvaldavid.com/

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Takeaways:

Yuval David emphasizes the importance of embracing vulnerability in order to foster creativity and connection with others.
Life is a continuous exploration of ourselves, and our identities can intersect in meaningful ways.
Advocacy for LGBTQ rights within religious contexts is crucial for promoting acceptance and understanding.
The film 'Wonderfully Made' aims to bridge the gap between LGBTQ identities and faith communities.
Art has the power to provoke thought and emotion, challenging societal norms and expectations.
Practicing gratitude for simply being present in the moment can enhance one’s overall well-being.

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#101 | 8 Ways Parents Can Support LGBTQ Youth Through Courageous Sexual Health Conversations (Expert Ally Guidance)

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Dr. David Huebner returns to discuss critical research surrounding the alarming rates of HIV and other health risks faced by queer boys, emphasizing the importance of open communication between parents and their children. He shares insights from a recent study that highlights the role parents play in influencing the health and well-being of LGBTQ youth, particularly regarding sexual health education. The conversation explores how parents can better support their children by fostering strong relationships and being proactive in addressing minority stress. Huebner also introduces an innovative online toolkit designed to help parents effectively communicate about sexual health with their sons. This episode is a valuable resource for parents seeking to navigate these important discussions and ensure their children feel supported and understood.

Are you ready to rethink how we support our LGBTQ+ kids? This episode brings forth a critical conversation as we unravel the research of Dr. David Huebner. His latest work spotlights an alarming rise in the distress rates among children, especially queer youth. His comprehensive survey toolbox stems from his study on HIV among queer boys, and he enlightens us about the worrisome trends of escalated depression, substance use, and suicide among youngsters.

Now, the question is, how do we tackle these distressing trends? This conversation isn't just about understanding the problem, but about finding solutions as well. We explore how parents can adapt their behavior to provide better support for their LGBTQ+ kids. From advocating for their child's rights at school to encouraging self-expression, we share insights to guide parents. We also highlight the importance of open conversations about sexual health with your kids and the need to normalize these discussions.

We also share updates on his study and emphasize the importance of utilizing available resources to understand the risks faced by LGBTQ+ youth better. From education on laws to online toolkits like PATHS (Parents and Adolescents Talking About Healthy Sexuality), we discuss various avenues to help.

We hope this riveting conversation will inspire you to join us in raising and supporting LGBTQ+ kids in the best possible way.

Become a study participant with Dr. Huebner:

Researchers at George Washington University are seeking parents with LGBTQ kids to participate in a paid research study.
Your participation will help create resources to support families like yours.
The resources they offer help parents be more supportive of their LGBTQ kids, including helping parents talk to kids about sex and HIV.
If you qualify, you'll get free access to the parent resources. Parents earn $350 for participating, and youth earn $175.
To learn more and to see if you qualify, visit www.parentwithlove.org.

About our Guest:

Dr. David Huebner is a clinical psychologist and Professor of Prevention and Community Health at George Washington University. He has spent 20 years researching how parents influence the health of LGBTQ youth. He’s also a dad to an energetic, hysterical middle-school-aged son. You can learn more about his work by visiting www.parentwithlove.org.

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Takeaways:

It's vital for parents to engage in ongoing conversations about sexuality with their children.
Understanding minority stress helps parents support LGBTQ youth in navigating their identities.
Research shows that parents can significantly impact their queer child's mental health positively.
Creating a supportive environment reduces feelings of internalized homophobia for LGBTQ youth.
Access to sexual health resources, like condoms, does not encourage sexual activity but promotes safety.
The toolkit developed by Dr. Huebner's team aims to improve parent-child communication regarding sexual health.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

George Washington University
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#100 | “Uncomfortable Conversations, Unshakeable Love”—Reflections from Six Years of LGBTQ Family Growth

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0500

The latest installment of Just Breathe Parenting features an incredibly heartfelt conversation with my husband Steve and two of our children, Connor and Gray. The episode celebrates not only the evolution of our family dynamics over the past six and a half years but also the transformative journey each member has experienced as we navigated the complexities of parenting an LGBTQ child(ren). The intimate discussion reveals how our family's communication has deepened and grown more empathetic, thanks in large part to therapy and a commitment to understanding each other's truths. Connor reflects on how his coming out changed the family, allowing everyone to express themselves more freely while fostering an environment of unconditional love and support. Gray shares insights on their growth and comfort in their identity, highlighting the importance of shared experiences and how they've shaped their understanding of queerness within the family context.

The conversation touches on the themes of acceptance, empathy, and the significance of open dialogue in a family setting. Each family member reflects on their personal growth, with Isabelle noting how the familial bond has made growing up easier by enabling candid conversations about identity and feelings. The episode also explores the concept of being uncomfortable as a catalyst for growth, emphasizing the need for parents to engage in difficult conversations and trust their instincts. In a world where LGBTQ issues remain contentious, the family's openness serves as a beacon of hope for others navigating similar journeys. Their collective experiences paint a vivid picture of how unconditional love and support can create a nurturing environment for children to flourish.

Listeners are reminded that they are not alone in their struggles and that developing a nurturing family dynamic, even amidst challenges, is not only possible but essential. The episode concludes with an invitation for listeners to join the Just Breathe community, reinforcing the idea that connection and support are vital in the parenting journey. Whether through shared laughter, tears, or collective wisdom, the Hester family's journey is one of resilience and love, inspiring parents and children alike to embrace their authenticity and support one another unconditionally.

Takeaways:

The journey of understanding and supporting an LGBTQ child involves continuous growth for the entire family.
Creating a safe environment for open communication is crucial for children coming out.
Therapy and professional help can be invaluable in navigating complex family dynamics and social issues.
The importance of unconditional love and acceptance cannot be overstated for LGBTQ youth.
Learning to embrace discomfort can lead to deeper family connections and understanding.
Encouraging empathy and validating feelings are key components in supporting each other through challenges.

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#99 | Listening Is the First Act of Allyship: Finding Courage in LGBTQ Parenting

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0500

What if the key to transforming our relationships was as simple as truly listening?

Candy Motzek, a celebrated coach known for her thought-provoking insights, unravels this very idea in our enlightening conversation. Together, we delve into the three levels of listening, from the surface level to a holistic approach that encompasses words, body language, pace, and the gaps in between. Truly listening is not just about hearing the words; it's about completely immersing ourselves in the conversation and giving it our complete focus.

Listening emerges as a transformative force in relationships in the latest episode of Just Breathe, where Heather Hester converses with the insightful Candy Motzek. The discussion begins with a powerful inquiry into the nature of our interactions: How might our lives shift if we prioritized listening over speaking? Candy's expertise shines as she elaborates on the three levels of listening, drawing a vivid picture of how many of us engage at a superficial level, often distracted by our inner thoughts rather than fully being present for others. This episode serves as both a tutorial and an invitation to challenge ourselves to become more attuned to what is being expressed—not just through words, but also through tone, body language, and the emotional nuances that accompany conversations.

Candy shares heartfelt anecdotes and practical strategies that listeners can implement in their daily lives, particularly in the context of parenting. She addresses the common scenario of parents feeling overwhelmed yet striving to engage meaningfully with their children. The conversation emphasizes the importance of being physically and emotionally present, suggesting techniques such as eye contact and mindful body language to enhance connection. As they navigate through these themes, the episode highlights that listening is a vital act of love and respect, fostering deeper bonds within families and communities. It becomes clear that improving our listening skills can lead to more fulfilling relationships and a greater sense of belonging.

The episode also touches on Candy's work with new coaches, emphasizing that effective listening is essential in the coaching process. As she guides aspiring coaches on their journeys, she reinforces the idea that the ability to listen deeply not only enriches personal relationships but also enhances professional development. This multifaceted discussion ultimately advocates for a shift in mindset towards valuing listening as an essential skill that can transform not only individual lives but also the broader societal landscape. By embracing this practice, listeners are inspired to cultivate a more empathetic approach to their interactions, enriching their experiences and the lives of those around them.

Takeaways:

Listening more and talking less can significantly transform your relationships and connections.
Active listening is an essential skill that can enhance communication with your children.
The three levels of listening can help you become a more present communicator.
Creating a judgment-free zone encourages open dialogue and connection with your kids.
Recognizing non-verbal cues is just as important as the words being spoken.
The act of listening is a powerful way to show love and respect to others.

Links referenced in this episode:

About Our Guest:

Candy Motzek is an author, podcast host , and business coach for life coaches.

Candy helps smart people start successful coaching businesses. She believes that coaching transforms lives and that being a coach is a calling. She helps her clients get unstuck & feel more confidence and clarity so they can play bigger, sign clients & create more meaningful success. She is a 'recovering' corporate executive & engineer who combines practical strategy & mindset in her calming unique approach.

https://stepintosuccessnow.com/

https://www.facebook.com/CoachCandyM

https://www.instagram.com/candymotzek/

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/she-coaches-coaches/id1527473940

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#98 | Mindful Parenting with Courage: Ally Guidance for LGBTQ Families

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Heather Hester welcomes Madhur-Nain, a seasoned psychotherapist, to explore the intersection of meditation, mental health, and parenting. The conversation begins with an emphasis on the importance of mindfulness in daily life, particularly for parents navigating the challenges of raising children. Hester shares her experience of meditating and how various methods can help individuals find calm amidst chaos. Nan, who integrates Eastern and Western philosophies in her practice, discusses her journey from international business to psychotherapy, underscoring her commitment to helping others through the power of meditation and breathwork. The duo highlights how meditation can serve as a tool for self-regulation, especially for parents dealing with stress and anxiety.

A significant part of the discussion revolves around the benefits of Kundalini Yoga and its unique practices, such as chanting and breathing techniques, which can aid in achieving mindfulness. Nan elaborates on how these practices not only help individuals manage mental health challenges but also strengthen familial bonds. The conversation flows into the complexities of parenting teenagers, where both Hester and Nan reflect on the profound lessons learned from their children. They agree that parenting is a journey filled with simultaneous joy and challenges, where self-awareness and communication are paramount. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to embrace their parenting experiences with curiosity and compassion, fostering a safe space for both themselves and their children.

Takeaways:

Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and chanting, can significantly reduce stress and anxiety levels.
Understanding the difference between healthy stress and toxic anxiety is crucial for mental well-being.
The journey of processing grief and trauma is non-linear and varies for everyone.
Building self-esteem and self-worth is essential for effective trauma processing and healing.
Incorporating breath work and movement into your routine can help release pent-up stress.
The importance of pausing and checking in with yourself before tackling trauma is vital.

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Madhur-Nain Webster is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in the integration of eastern and western philosophies for mental health. For over 20 years, she has empowered clients to connect with themselves and others through mindfulness and psychotherapy interventions. She applies her profound understanding of the importance of open communication at her successful private practice in Napa, California. Her first book, The Stressless Brain (2018), makes a scientific argument for the positive influence meditation has on the psyche; she is currently working on her second book. In addition to releasing over 60 meditation singles, Madhur-Nain maintains international outreach by appearing on podcasts and holding meditation workshops.

Due to a lifelong experience with, and knowledge of, yogic technology, Madhur-Nain’s therapeutic approach includes empowering clients with the ability of introspection so they can better connect with themselves and others. By developing the skill of self-observation, she believes an individual can understand and accept polarizing thoughts no matter their source. “It is not what happens to you,” she asserts; “it is how you make sense of it.” For over 20 years, she has helped people discover and build their self-trust with excellent results.

Aspiring to reach an international audience, Madhur-Nain has continuously held yoga and meditation workshops worldwide (virtually and in-person), appeared as a guest speaker on numerous podcasts, and released over 60 meditation singles. Her chants include a variety of religious prayers and psychological affirmations, making them an inclusive form of mental health healing. Her first book, The Stressless Brain (2018), is an accessible scientific argument for the positive influence meditation has on the psyche. She is working on her second book with an intended release in 2023.

Madhur-Nain currently runs a successful private practice in Napa, California, where she lives with her husband. In addition to her marriage of 27 years, her greatest accomplishment is being a mother to her two amazing adult sons. Her hobbies include traveling and expressing her creativity through clothing and jewelry design.”

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#97 | Courage to Embrace Every Identity: LGBTQ Ally Guidance from Dr. Ronnie Gladden

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0500

The dialogue between Heather Hester and Dr. Ronnie Gladden dives deep into the intricate layers of identity and the transformative power of self-reflection. Dr. Gladden, an accomplished speaker and educator, shares his personal journey of grappling with his identity, which culminated in his thought-provoking book, "White Girl Within." This work is not merely a recounting of experiences but serves as a reflective tool for readers to engage with their own identities. Dr. Gladden describes an emotional epiphany that led him to write, revealing how relationships can act as mirrors, reflecting aspects of ourselves we may not be ready to confront.

The essence of the discussion revolves around intersectionality and the concept of identity as a complex interplay of various factors. Dr. Gladden articulates how traditional narratives often reduce identity to a single facet, neglecting the multifaceted nature of human experience. He encourages listeners to embrace their diverse identities, asserting that acknowledging all parts of oneself leads to deeper connections and understanding of others. This theme is particularly relevant in today’s sociopolitical climate, where discussions about identity are more crucial than ever. The conversation also highlights the necessity for individuals to engage in continuous self-exploration and to confront the societal norms that dictate identity expression.

Allyship emerges as a significant topic, with Dr. Gladden advocating for a more integrated approach to supporting marginalized voices. He stresses that being an ally involves recognizing one’s own privileges and intersections, urging allies to engage authentically and thoughtfully. The dialogue ends on a hopeful note, emphasizing that the work of understanding oneself and others is a lifelong journey. Heather's appreciation for Dr. Gladden’s insights emphasizes the importance of these conversations in fostering a more inclusive environment for all. The episode leaves listeners with a renewed sense of purpose in their personal journeys and a commitment to embrace their authentic selves while supporting others.

Takeaways:

Dr. Ronnie Gladden shares their journey of identity exploration through writing and introspection.
It's important to embrace all aspects of our identities and acknowledge their intersectionality.
Being an ally involves recognizing your own intersections and using them to support others.
Authenticity requires a balance between political awareness and personal identity expression.
The journey of self-discovery can take many years, as seen in Dr. Gladden's 15-year process.
Creating a dialogue around identity allows for deeper understanding and acceptance of oneself and others.

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Dr. Ronnie Gladden (they/them) is an international speaker, actor, and tenured college professor. They regularly speak about identity, diversity, and inclusion for K-12 schools, universities, and nonprofits, including the Ronald McDonald House Charities, the city of Cincinnati, Northern Kentucky University, and more. They hold a doctorate in educational leadership from Northern Kentucky University, where they defended and published a dissertation on diversity leadership and intersectionality. Dr. Ronnie also appeared in The Rachel Divide, a documentary about complex identity, which premiered at the Tribeca Film Festival in 2018 and now streams on Netflix. Learn more at www.whitegirlwithin.com.

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#96 | Breaking Fashion Norms to Empower LGBTQ Kids: Guidance & Courage in Gender-Free Clothing

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Join Heather as she engages in a heartfelt conversation with Elizabeth Brunner, founder and CEO of Stereotype, a gender-free kids' fashion brand. Elizabeth shares the inspiration behind her brand, which stemmed from observing her own twins joyfully mix and match clothing without regard for traditional gender norms. The discussion delves into the importance of supporting children's individuality and the need for parents to create a safe space for self-expression. They explore the societal pressures surrounding gendered clothing and how Elizabeth's mission aims to challenge these stereotypes. With insights on parenting, personal growth, and the journey toward acceptance, this episode offers valuable perspectives for anyone navigating the complexities of raising children in today's world.

In this thought-provoking conversation with Elizabeth Brunner, Heather explores the inspiration behind Stereotype, Elizabeth's gender-free clothing line for children and adults. Elizabeth shares how her girl-boy twins inspired the idea and how Stereotype creates a space for individuals of all genders to express themselves through fashion without any judgment. They also discuss the importance of language when it comes to describing gender-free clothing and how the reactions her children received when they dressed beyond their gender showed her the need for clothing that is unrestricted by societal norms.

Listen as they talk about the importance of creating a safe space at home for children to express themselves authentically. Learn how creating this type of environment requires time and self-reflection, and how it can be a learning journey for the parent as well.

Don't miss this enlightening conversation filled with valuable insights on supporting individuality and breaking down gender stereotypes through fashion and conscious parenting.

About our Guest:

Elizabeth Brunner is the Founder and CEO of StereoType, a pioneering gender-free kids' fashion brand that aims to break-free from traditional gendered clothing by creating what she coined as "blended fashion" — a mix of girl and boy esthetics that are equal in value and defined by no one.

StereoType offers a wide range of stylish, comfortable, high-quality clothing and accessories for children ages 4-14, enabling them to express themselves through their wardrobe choices without being limited by societal expectations, limits, and stereotypes.

https://stereotypekids.com/

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Takeaways:

The importance of creating a safe space for children to express their individuality without fear of judgment is crucial for their development.
Observing how children naturally gravitate towards clothing without gender norms can inspire a more inclusive fashion approach.
Parents should be aware of their conditioning and how it affects their acceptance of their children's choices.
Encouraging children to embrace their true selves fosters confidence and authenticity in their identity.
The concept of blended fashion allows for clothing to be appreciated beyond traditional gender categories.
Modeling vulnerability and humility as parents teaches children that it's okay to be imperfect.

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#95 | How Somatic Education Builds Courage and Connection for Parents Raising LGBTQ Kids

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0500

In a compelling episode of Just Breathe, Court Vox engages the hosts in a candid exploration of sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the vital role these elements play in our overall wellness. The conversation begins with Vox recounting his personal journey into the field of sex education and intimacy consulting, revealing how his early experiences with sexuality were shaped by an open and accepting household. This background allowed him to develop a unique perspective on the importance of body acceptance and the exploration of desires in a judgment-free environment. The hosts and Vox discuss the ongoing stigma surrounding sexual topics, highlighting how traditional therapeutic approaches often overlook the significance of physical connection and somatic practices in fostering self-acceptance and intimacy.

As the discussion progresses, the trio delves into the idea of pleasure as an essential aspect of mental health, encouraging listeners to embrace their sexuality as a natural and fulfilling part of life. Vox articulates the concept of somatic education as a means to reconnect individuals with their bodies, facilitating a deeper understanding of their desires and boundaries. This approach not only aids in personal growth but also enhances relationships with partners and friends, promoting a culture of consent and communication. The episode serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of open dialogue about sexuality, encouraging listeners to confront their own beliefs and biases while fostering a greater understanding of diverse sexual identities.

Towards the end of the episode, the conversation shifts to the experiences of parents navigating the complexities of raising LGBTQ children. Vox emphasizes the critical need for parents to create supportive and safe environments that allow for open conversations about sexuality and identity. He advocates for a shift in perspective, suggesting that coming out does not have to be a monumental event but rather an organic part of living one’s truth. By promoting acceptance and understanding, parents can help their children thrive in their identities. The episode concludes on a hopeful note, reminding listeners that the journey toward embracing one’s sexuality and identity is both personal and shared, filled with opportunities for growth, healing, and connection.

Takeaways:

Court Vox emphasizes the importance of bodily autonomy and self-exploration in understanding sexuality.
The conversation around sex is often shrouded in shame, yet it’s critical for wellness.
Creating a safe space for individuals to explore their sexual identities is essential.
Somatic education focuses on body-based experiences, promoting healing through touch and awareness.
Parents should prioritize their own self-care to effectively support their children’s journeys.
The discussion of gender should evolve to encompass a spectrum rather than a binary.

Links referenced in this episode:

About our Guest:

Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA . He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Bodyvox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe.

https://thebodyvox.com/

https://backtothebody.org/

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#94 | Together We Rise: Strategies to Support LGBTQ Rights in Challenging Times (Ally Guidance, Courage & Social Justice for Parents)

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0500

In a powerful and poignant episode, Heather Hester opens the conversation about Pride Month 2023 with warmth and reflection. The episode serves as a reminder that while Pride is a time for celebration, it also marks a moment to confront the harsh realities faced by the LGBTQ community. Heather emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for parents of LGBTQ children, inviting them to feel a sense of belonging in the Just Breathe nest. As she shares personal experiences and insights, listeners are reminded that they are not alone in their journeys, and that collective support is essential.

As the episode progresses, Heather introduces exciting developments within the Just Breathe community, which aims to provide resources and support for parents navigating their children's LGBTQ identities. Heather’s enthusiasm is infectious as she articulates her vision for a compassionate space where parents can share their fears, triumphs, and questions. This initiative highlights the importance of community in times of uncertainty, providing a platform for parents to find solace and understanding.

However, the conversation takes a serious turn as Heather addresses the alarming rise of anti-LGBTQ legislation across the United States. She shares sobering statistics about the number of bills aimed at restricting the rights of LGBTQ individuals, particularly targeting transgender youth and their families. Heather calls upon her listeners to become active participants in advocacy, urging them to engage in local elections and communicate their values to lawmakers. Through actionable steps, she inspires her audience to harness their unique talents and engage in discussions that promote understanding. The episode closes with a heartfelt message of love and solidarity, reminding listeners of the power of community and the importance of standing together in the face of adversity.

Takeaways:

This podcast emphasizes the importance of community support for parents of LGBTQ children.
Listeners are encouraged to participate in local elections to advocate for LGBTQ rights.
The Just Breathe community offers resources and connections for families navigating LGBTQ issues.
Celebrating Pride Month also means addressing the current challenges facing the LGBTQ community.
Engaging in conversations about LGBTQ rights can help dispel misinformation and foster understanding.
The episode highlights the emotional toll of anti-LGBTQ legislation on families and individuals.

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#93 | 5 Ways Parents Can Support LGBTQ Gender Exploration With Courage, Guidance, and Connection

Tue, 30 May 2023 04:00:00 -0500

What if you could break free from the tiny box of gender expectations that society places on us from birth? Join our enlightening conversation with Rae McDaniel as we dive into the fascinating world of gender freedom. Rae shares the Gender Freedom Model, which guides individuals in exploring and transitioning their gender with more play, pleasure, and possibility. We discuss how identity exploration, including gender exploration, is not only a normal part of adolescence but can shift and change throughout our lifetime.

In this rapidly changing world, navigating the complexities of gender and anti-trans hate is more important than ever. Rae and Heather challenge traditional perspectives on gender, emphasizing the power of giving ourselves permission to explore and express it. They also touch on the importance of understanding gender with intention and ownership, and how it can impact our lives beyond the binary.

As they discuss the challenges of navigating gender transition and advocacy in the midst of a difficult political atmosphere, Rae shares invaluable wisdom for parents and allies alike. Learn how to approach gender conversations with curiosity, understanding, and forgiveness for those inevitable slip-ups. This eye-opening episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to embrace the vast possibilities of gender exploration and identity development and support others on their journey to authenticity.

Get Rae's book “Gender Magic”, on sale now at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indie Bound and Bookshop.

About our Guest:

Rae McDaniel (they/them) is a non-binary Speaker, Author, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator.

Rae helps audiences gain the sheer audacity to be themselves in the world through play, pleasure, and possibility.

Their book Gender Magic is a first-of-its-kind practical guide to achieving gender freedom with joy, curiosity, and pleasure for transgender and non-binary individuals, gender explorers, and those who love them (May 2023.) They have been featured in high-profile media such as The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, Time, and Women’s Health. As a sought-after professional speaker, Rae has spoken at Rutgers University, University of Chicago, University of Illinois Chicago, Soho House, The Wing, and Rachel’s Rodgers’ ROI: The Millionaires Summit.

Rae is also the founder and CEO of Practical Audacity, a Gender & Sex Therapy practice in Chicago, serving over 300 clients yearly.

When Rae isn’t educating audiences and bettering the world, they can be found drinking too much coffee, snuggling with their dog Gizmo (who might actually be a gremlin), or sipping whiskey with a good book.

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Heather Hester invites listeners into a heartfelt conversation with Rae McDaniel, whose insights into gender freedom resonate with parents and caregivers of LGBTQ youth. McDaniel discusses their new book, "Gender Magic," which introduces the Gender Freedom Model, emphasizing the importance of play, pleasure, and possibility in exploring gender identity. This discussion highlights that questioning and transitioning one's gender is not merely a journey for transgender and non-binary individuals, but a universal experience that everyone can explore. McDaniel encourages individuals to reflect on their own identities, dispelling the myth that gender is a binary concept and inviting a deeper understanding of self-exploration beyond societal constraints.

The episode explores the challenges that arise from societal and familial expectations surrounding gender identity. McDaniel provides practical advice for parents navigating the complexities of their child's gender expression, emphasizing the importance of open communication, support, and the willingness to learn. They tackle the fear and panic that often accompany these discussions, reminding listeners that discomfort does not equate to harm. The conversation is rich with personal anecdotes, demonstrating the powerful journey of discovering one's authentic self, which can be both liberating and daunting. Overall, the episode serves as a compassionate guide for those supporting LGBTQ youth, urging them to embrace the journey of self-discovery with patience and love.

Takeaways:

The concept of gender freedom allows individuals to explore and express their identity without limitations.
Gender exploration is a lifelong journey, and everyone has the right to redefine who they are.
Parents and allies should actively support their loved ones by advocating for their needs and respecting their identities.
Discomfort in others due to someone's gender expression is not the individual's burden to bear.
Creating a supportive environment starts with asking loved ones what they need for comfort and safety.
Joy and connection are vital in the fight against anti-trans legislation and discrimination.

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#92 | 6 Practical Tips Parents and Allies Need to Support LGBTQ Kids With Courage and Respect

Wed, 24 May 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Heather Hester welcomes Jeannie Gainsburg, author of the newly released second edition of "The Savvy Ally," to discuss essential strategies for becoming an effective LGBTQ ally. The conversation delves into the importance of understanding and respecting pronouns, as well as the need for continuous learning and adaptability in allyship. Jeannie shares her journey from a late bloomer in advocacy to becoming an educational trainer in LGBTQ inclusion, highlighting the valuable lessons she's learned along the way. Listeners will find practical advice on how to engage respectfully with LGBTQ communities, including tips for addressing outdated language and fostering inclusivity in everyday situations. This insightful dialogue reinforces that being an ally is an ongoing process of growth and understanding, encouraging everyone to embrace mistakes as part of the journey.

Join the conversation as Heather and Jeannie take a deep dive into the ever changing terminology in the LGBTQ+ community, embracing and accepting diverse pathways of gender identity, and the role of allies can take in order to show their support.

Get caught up in using 'they' as a singular pronoun? Learn the trick that Jeannie used to make it part of her everyday vocabulary.

About our Guest:

Jeannie Gainsburg is an award-winning educational trainer and consultant in the field of LGBTQ+ inclusion and effective allyship. Formerly the Education Director at the Out Alliance of Rochester, N.Y., she is the founder of Savvy Ally Action and author of the book, The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate. In 2019, Jeannie received a citation from the New York State Assembly for Distinguished Educational & Human Rights Services for her work in promoting LGBTQ+ rights and inclusion.

Website: https://www.savvyallyaction.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvyally

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeanniegainsburgauthor/

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Takeaways:

The importance of being an ally is an ongoing journey filled with mistakes.
Jeannie Gainsberg emphasizes that language evolves, and we must update our terms accordingly.
Using someone's current name and pronouns is crucial for respect and inclusivity.
Volunteering at local LGBTQ events is a meaningful way to support the community.
Understanding and properly using pronouns can significantly impact the lives of others.
Being an ally involves voting and advocating for LGBTQ rights in your community.

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#91 | Why the Coming Out Process Isn’t About You — What Every Parent Needs to Hear

Tue, 16 May 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Join Heather Hester as she delves into the essential stages of the coming out process for LGBTQIA individuals, highlighting the importance of acceptance, pride, and synthesis in their journey. She emphasizes that coming out is not a linear experience but a lifelong exploration of identity, filled with complexities and emotional growth. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, Heather encourages parents and allies to support their loved ones by understanding where they are in this process and providing a safe space for expression. The episode also tackles a thought-provoking question about the balance between brilliance and goodness, prompting listeners to reflect on their values. Ultimately, Heather reminds us that love, acceptance, and affirmation are crucial for fostering a supportive environment for LGBTQIA youth.

Heather dives into stages four, five, and six of the coming out process, discussing how each stage represents a shift in acceptance and understanding of one's identity and orientation. From forming friendships and finding a sense of pride to navigating anger and differing viewpoints, she will provide insight into the unique challenges and triumphs faced during each stage.

Tune in to learn how you can best support your LGBTQIA+ loved ones as they navigate their coming out journey.

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Heather Hester dives into a rich and heartfelt exploration of the complexities surrounding the coming out process for LGBTQ individuals in her latest podcast episode. A pivotal moment comes when Heather shares a question that sparked an engaging debate with her daughter Isabel: Would you rather be good or brilliant? This question serves as a profound exploration of personal values, urging listeners to reflect on the attributes they prioritize in their lives and their children's upbringing.

As the conversation transitions to the coming out process, Heather delves deeply into stages four through six of the CAS identity model. She outlines identity acceptance, pride, and synthesis, emphasizing that these stages reflect a journey toward self-acceptance and integration. Heather articulates how individuals begin to embrace their identities more fully, forming connections with peers, and experiencing a sense of pride in who they are. The discussion highlights the nuances of this journey, including the challenges of navigating societal expectations and the internal struggles that many face. Heather provides insightful tips for parents on how to support their children through these stages, stressing the importance of open communication and creating safe spaces for exploration.

The episode wraps up with Heather reinforcing the notion that the coming out process is not a linear journey, but rather a complex and often messy one. She encourages parents to embrace their child's unique experiences and to provide unconditional love and support. Heather shares valuable resources for families, reiterating the importance of community and connection in fostering a positive environment for LGBTQ youth. This episode is a treasure trove of insights, offering both guidance and reassurance for parents navigating the intricate landscape of LGBTQ identities.

Takeaways:

This podcast emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for LGBTQ children.
The coming out process involves multiple stages, each requiring different types of support.
Listeners are encouraged to engage in open-ended conversations with their LGBTQ loved ones.
Encouragement and acceptance from parents and allies can significantly enhance a child's journey.
Understanding the stages of identity acceptance can help parents better support their children.
Embracing one's identity can lead to a sense of pride and belonging for LGBTQ individuals.

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#90 | How Conscious Parenting Transformed One Mom’s Approach to LGBTQ Allyship and Healing

Tue, 09 May 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Today's conversation focuses on the importance of self-care and emotional awareness in parenting. Heather Hester and her guest, Maureen Spielman, explore how parents can take a step back during challenging moments to prioritize their own needs, which ultimately enhances their ability to support their children. They discuss the significance of understanding and validating one’s emotions, encouraging listeners to lean into discomfort rather than shy away from it. Maureen shares her journey from being a speech-language pathologist to a conscious life coach, emphasizing the transformative power of conscious parenting. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that taking care of oneself is not just beneficial but essential for fostering deeper connections with our children and navigating the complexities of parenthood.

About Our Guest:

Maureen Spielman is a Conscious Life Coach trained by Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s Conscious Parenting Institute and Suzi Lula’s Soul Care Certification + Mastery programs. Maureen is passionate about supporting individuals and families on the journey of finding their true, authentic selves and purpose. She guides and supports people in: looking at how their pasts inform their present, understanding their emotional landscape, and learning to apply self compassion to the hurting parts, amongst other methods. Through experiential processes and learning to be in the present moment, as much as possible, her clients experience transformation within and it positively impacts their outer relationships. Maureen is also the founder of the Mystical Sisterhood podcast, a community built on joy and healing.

Website: https://www.maureenspielman.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/792606735186886

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maureenspielman/

Mystical Sisterhood Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mystical-sisterhood/id1665695685

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Reading positive reviews and testimonials can help reconnect with your purpose and motivation.
Self-care is essential, especially when navigating crises with children or family members.
Understanding and processing emotions can lead to transformative self-awareness and healthier relationships.
Conscious parenting starts with self-compassion and recognizing our own emotional needs first.
Creating a safe and open space for children fosters authentic connections and mutual respect.
It’s important not to dwell on past parenting mistakes, but to focus on present growth.

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#89 | Empowering Conversations: How Parents Can Support Their LGBTQ+ Children (LGBTQ Courage, Healing & Identity Safety)

Tue, 02 May 2023 04:00:00 -0500

This podcast episode delves into the significance of self-acceptance in the journey of understanding one's gender and sexuality, emphasizing that "coming in" to one's identity is often more crucial than coming out to others. Heather Hester hosts Lori Sweetman, a gender and sexuality holistic life coach, who shares her experiences and insights on creating safe spaces for exploration and validation. The conversation explores the complexities of fluid identities, the importance of compassionate parenting, and the challenges faced by LGBTQ individuals in less accepting environments. Truly highlights the need for open discussions about identity, safety, and the fluid nature of both gender and romantic relationships. This enriching dialogue encourages listeners to embrace their journeys and celebrate the exploration of identity in a supportive community.

About our Guest:

Mx. Lori Sweetman (They/She/Lor) is owner and director of Include LGBTQ Empowered Education and Consulting LLC and through there provides Queer Holistic Coaching to those desiring to achieve a more fulfilling life. They will use motivational inquiry and a carefully crafted positive psychology based coaching plan for their client to build the confidence to live fearlessly, authentically, and truthfully, as their best self.

Lor has their MA in Psychology, specializing in gender and sexual fluidity. Lor has conducted research on gender and sexual fluidity at the intersections of special education, art for identity formation, social psychology, and positive psychology. A more detailed bio can be found here.

Additionally, Lor is a nominee for the Russ Berrie Making a Difference award, and is a member of the APA special interest group in gender and sexuality. Lor voluntarily holds support groups for LGBTQ+ adults and teens in person in Warren County, NJ. You can listen to Lori speak on various podcasts as well.

When Lori isn’t with family and pets, they are looking for opportunities to advocate for the LGBTQ+ communities, working on their book, hugging a tree with their kids, or creating art.

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Takeaways:

Creating a safe space for children to explore their identities is crucial for their growth.
Understanding that gender and sexuality are fluid helps parents support their children effectively.
Self-compassion is essential for both parents and children as they navigate identity changes.
Coming in is often more important than coming out for personal acceptance and safety.
Encouraging open conversations about identity fosters trust and understanding within families.
Polyamory and pansexuality are valid relationship and identity styles that deserve recognition and respect.

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#88 | 6 Signs Your LGBTQ Teen Is Seeking Identity Support — And How Parents Can Help With Courage and Connection

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Today's podcast delves into stage three of the coming out process, focusing on identity and orientation tolerance. This stage is crucial as individuals begin to realize they are not alone and actively seek out supportive communities, such as LGBTQ social groups and safe online spaces. Host Heather Hester emphasizes the importance of understanding these stages to better support children and loved ones navigating their identities. She also highlights the potential challenges, such as living a double life, and the need for healthy coping mechanisms. As always, the episode encourages open communication and understanding, reminding listeners that they are not alone on this journey.

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Takeaways:

Stage three of the coming out process is about seeking community support and connection.
Understanding the stages of coming out helps parents better support their LGBTQ children.
Creating safe spaces for LGBTQ youth is crucial for their emotional well-being and growth.
Parents should encourage open conversations with their children about their feelings and identities.
Being aware of the challenges of a double life can help parents provide essential support.
Engaging with community resources can empower parents and their LGBTQ children through the coming out journey.

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#87 | Empowering Teens: How Camp Odyssey Fosters Self-Discovery (LGBTQ Community, Safety & Emotional Growth)

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Join Heather Hester as she explores the transformative power of Odyssey Teen Camp, a unique space that provides support and acceptance for LGBTQIA teens navigating their identities. Adam Simon, the camp's Executive Director, shares his journey of creating a welcoming environment where campers can truly be themselves, free from judgment. The conversation delves into the importance of representation and community for young people, highlighting how seeing others like them can be life-changing. Heather and Adam discuss the challenges faced by both teens and parents, emphasizing the need for understanding, compassion, and open dialogue. This heartfelt discussion is a reminder that no one is alone on their journey and that there are safe spaces available for exploration and growth.

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Creating safe spaces for LGBTQIA youth is crucial for their emotional well-being and identity exploration.
Parents should remember that their children's struggles are not necessarily a reflection of their parenting.
Camp Odyssey provides a unique environment where teens can see themselves reflected in others.
The journey of coming out is ongoing and can span a lifetime for many individuals.
It's important for parents to stay engaged without overwhelming their children with advice.
Validation and acceptance from peers can be life-changing for LGBTQIA teenagers.

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#86 | Why “Just Be Yourself” Isn’t Enough — What LGBTQ Teens Actually Need From Their Parents

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Heather Hester welcomes listeners to Just Breathe Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, creating a safe space for parents to understand and support their LGBTQ children. The podcast begins by emphasizing the importance of recognizing that parents are not alone in their journey, which can often be filled with fear, confusion, and uncertainty. Heather takes a moment to address recent communications from listeners, expressing her commitment to focus on the well-being of families. She acknowledges the current climate of fear and division in society, urging listeners to unite and take action against the forces that threaten the acceptance and safety of LGBTQ individuals. Heather provides resources and organizations that parents can engage with, fostering community and collective strength.

The discussion then transitions into a deep dive into Stage Two of the coming out process, which centers around identity comparison. Heather explains that during this stage, teens begin to grapple with their feelings and experiences, often feeling isolated and unsure of their place in the world. She shares insights into the emotional turmoil that comes with this stage, including self-doubt and the desire for acceptance. The importance of representation in media is highlighted, as Heather stresses that seeing characters who reflect their realities can provide comfort and validation to LGBTQ teens.

As the episode unfolds, Heather reassures parents that their children will seek explanations and understanding during this critical time. She encourages open dialogue, suggesting parents approach conversations with compassion and curiosity, allowing their children to express their feelings without judgment. The goal is to create an environment where kids feel safe to explore their identities, while parents learn to navigate their own responses. By the end of the episode, Heather emphasizes the need for patience and understanding, reminding parents that love and support are paramount as their children navigate the complexities of coming out.

Resources:

Trevor Project

How the ACLU tracks anti-LGBTQ laws

HRC

Transgender Law Center

The Campaign for Southern Equality

The Center

Brave Space Alliance

Project Caerus - Youth of Florida are organizing to help the LGBTQ Community

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Takeaways:

The coming out process involves various stages, including identity confusion and comparison, which our kids navigate internally.
It's crucial for parents to recognize the feelings of isolation their children may experience during this journey.
Encouraging open communication and understanding creates a safe space for our LGBTQ children to explore their identities.
Finding characters that reflect their experiences in media helps LGBTQ youth feel seen and supported.
Parents should give themselves space to process and maintain open-ended curiosity about their child's feelings.
Staying informed about local organizations and events can empower families to take action in support of LGBTQ rights.

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#85 | Go From People-Pleaser to Fierce LGBTQ Ally and Empowered Parent

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0500

The dialogue between Heather Hester and Annie Henderson unfolds the layers of people-pleasing, a common yet often under-discussed trait that can hinder personal growth, especially in the LGBTQIA community. Annie, who specializes in coaching individuals through their coming-out journeys, shares her own evolution from a life dictated by the need to please others to one characterized by authenticity and self-empowerment. The episode highlights the emotional struggles inherent in people-pleasing, including the incessant self-doubt and anxiety that accompany the fear of disappointing others. Annie's candid reflections draw listeners in, making the episode relatable and insightful as it addresses the root causes of these behaviors and their impact on mental well-being.

As the conversation progresses, Annie delves into her experience as a parent of a pansexual child, emphasizing the crucial role of fostering a supportive environment. She discusses the challenges and joys of guiding her child through the complexities of identity in a world that can often be unwelcoming. This perspective opens up a broader discussion about the generational shifts in understanding and acceptance within families. Annie underscores the importance of modeling healthy boundaries and self-advocacy, demonstrating how parents can influence their children's ability to embrace their identities with confidence and pride.

The episode ultimately serves as a call to action for listeners to confront their own tendencies towards people-pleasing and to recognize the power of vulnerability in building authentic connections. Through shared stories and expert advice, Heather and Annie create a nurturing space that encourages reflection and growth. The message is clear: while the journey to self-acceptance may be fraught with difficulties, it is also a path laden with opportunities for joy, understanding, and deeper relationships. This engaging and thoughtful discussion is a treasure trove of insights for anyone seeking to navigate their own complexities with grace and authenticity.

About our Guest:

Annie M Henderson is a Certified Professional Life Coach specializing as a Coming Out Coach for the LGBTQIA community and helps people-pleasers that avoid conflict, over apologize, and struggle to say no, start living authentically and find the peace they have been missing.

After going from an unfulfilled existence checking all the boxes of perceived “success,” to breaking into an intentional, abundant life, she now uses her experiences and professional background as a teacher, counselor, and life coach, to teach and mentor others. In working with her diverse clientele to discover unapologetic joy, including the LGBTQIA community and people-pleasers, her teachings focus on releasing self-doubt, embracing the power in setting boundaries, and removing the habit of over apologizing. She’s the international best-selling co-author of She Did It!, which follows women from around the world and their transformational journey. Annie’s masters degrees in education, school counseling and professional counseling, complement her mission and inform her regular content shared with loyal followers on TikTok and Instagram.

www.anniemhenderson.com

www.tiktok.com/@anniemhenderson

www.facebook.com/groups/peoplepleaser

www.instagram/life_coach_annie

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Takeaways:

People pleasing can be a challenging trait to overcome, impacting personal authenticity.
Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and preventing burnout.
Awareness and reflection on past experiences help in understanding one's identity better.
The concept of sunk cost fallacy illustrates how we hold onto unfulfilling situations.
Parenting through authenticity encourages children to express themselves without fear of judgment.
Having supportive relationships, even from one parent, can significantly benefit LGBTQ youth.

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#84 | The Coming Out Process: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Their LGBTQ Teen (LGBTQ Courage, Healing & Identity Growth)

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Navigating the complexities of raising an LGBTQ teen can feel overwhelming, especially for parents who may not fully understand the coming out process. This episode dives deep into the stages of coming out, particularly focusing on the experiences of young people as they grapple with their identities. Heather Hester emphasizes the importance of recognizing the internal struggles that LGBTQ youth face, often starting as early as middle school. Through personal anecdotes, she illustrates how her own son, Connor, spent three years wrestling with his feelings before coming out. The conversation highlights the emotional turmoil of self-discovery, the fear of rejection, and the loneliness that can accompany this journey. Parents are encouraged to provide unconditional love and support, while remaining patient, allowing their children to navigate this process in their own time without pressure to come out prematurely. Additionally, Heather touches on the invaluable role that external support systems, such as counselors and LGBTQ advocates, can play in helping both teens and their families find clarity and understanding during such a transformative period.

Takeaways:

Understanding the coming out process for your child can greatly enhance your support.
The first stage of coming out involves internal confusion and questioning one's identity.
Providing unconditional love and support is crucial during your child's coming out journey.
Avoid outing your child; let them control their own coming out process.
Recognizing behavioral clues can help you understand what your child is experiencing.
The coming out process can last for months or even years, filled with internal struggle.

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#83 | Just Breathe: Lessons in Love, Loss, and Resilience from One Family's Journey (Parenting LGBTQ Teens, Grief, Courage & Healing)

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0500

This podcast episode delves into the deeply personal story of Heather Hester's sister, Corinne, who was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia at the age of 42. Heather reflects on their contrasting personalities and the complexities of their relationship, highlighting moments of joy, conflict, and support throughout the years. As Corinne's condition progressed, Heather faced the emotional struggle of balancing her family’s needs with the challenges of caring for her sister. The episode emphasizes the intertwined nature of growth, sadness, and joy, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their struggles. Ultimately, it conveys a powerful message about compassion, resilience, and the importance of being kind to oneself and others during difficult times.

Family is one of the most influential things in our lives, no matter what your feelings towards them are. Heather shares her personal story of her relationship with her sister, the loss of relationship during a time of crisis with Connor’s coming out, and coming to terms with the tragedy of an illness that stopped them from becoming close once again.

“Changes, growth, tragedy, celebration, sadness, and joy. They can all happen at once. Life doesn't happen in a vacuum.”

In a deeply personal episode, Heather Hester invites listeners into her journey of navigating the complexities of family life while raising a queer teenager, focusing on her relationship with her sister Corinne. As she recounts memories of her sister, the contrast between their personalities becomes evident. Corrine, the younger sibling, was a vibrant presence, known for her infectious laughter and adventurous spirit. Despite their differences, the bond they shared was strong, showcasing the beauty of sisterhood amidst varying life paths. However, the episode takes a somber turn as Heather reveals Corinne's struggle with frontotemporal dementia, sharing the emotional challenges it brought to their family.

Heather's narrative unfolds against the backdrop of her family's journey through Connor's coming out, which added layers of complexity to their family dynamics. As she reflects on the boundaries she had to set with Corinne during this time, listeners are offered a glimpse into the emotional turmoil of balancing support for her children while coping with her sister's unpredictable behavior. The episode poignantly illustrates how life can change in an instant, and how joy and sadness often coexist. Through her candid storytelling, Heather emphasizes the importance of compassion and understanding within family relationships, urging listeners to cherish their loved ones and navigate through adversity with grace.

The episode closes with a resonating message about resilience and the human experience. Heather reminds her audience that they are not alone in their struggles and encourages them to be kind to themselves and others. By sharing her sister's story, she fosters a sense of connection among listeners, highlighting the shared nature of grief and joy in life. This episode serves as a heartfelt exploration of love, loss, and the strength found in familial bonds, making it a powerful listening experience for anyone grappling with the challenges of life and relationships.

Takeaways:

This podcast emphasizes the importance of community and support for families with LGBTQ children.
Life is a mixture of joy, sadness, growth, and challenges that we all face.
The host shares personal stories to illustrate the complexities of family dynamics.
Boundaries are essential during times of personal crisis, as illustrated by the host's experience.
Caregiving for loved ones can be emotionally and physically demanding, requiring immense strength.
It's crucial to be kind to yourself and to others during difficult times.

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#82 | 5 Hidden Gender Biases Hurting LGBTQ Students in Schools — And How Educators and Parents Can Fix Them

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Jason Ablin's insights into gender equity in education come alive in a riveting discussion with Heather Hester about his book, "The Gender Equation in Schools." This episode delves deep into the often-overlooked biases that exist within educational systems and the significant impact they have on students' experiences and outcomes. Ablin, who has spent over 35 years in various educational roles, brings a wealth of knowledge and personal experience to the conversation, emphasizing the need for educators to cultivate awareness and understanding of gender dynamics. The dialogue explores how traditional gender stereotypes can limit students’ potential, particularly in fields like mathematics and science, which continue to be perceived as male-dominated. Hester and Ablin advocate for a transformative approach to education, one that encourages all students, regardless of gender identity, to pursue their interests and excel in all subjects. The episode serves as a crucial reminder for educators and parents alike that fostering an inclusive environment is essential for the growth and success of every child.

Ablin shares a significant moment from his early teaching career that reshaped his perspective on gender engagement in the classroom. He recounts how feedback from observers revealed his misinterpretations of student engagement, particularly among girls. What he initially perceived as high engagement was, in fact, a reflection of compliance. This realization pushed him to reevaluate his teaching methods and strive for deeper connections with all his students. Throughout the conversation, Hester and Ablin unpack the complexities of gender identity and the implicit biases that can skew educators’ perceptions of student behavior. They challenge listeners to reflect on how their own biases may influence their interactions with students and stress the importance of creating learning environments where every student feels recognized and respected.

The episode further examines the critical intersection between gender identity and mental health within school settings. Ablin passionately argues that schools must serve as nurturing environments where children feel free to explore their identities without the pressure of conforming to societal norms. He points out that students are often subjected to gender boxes created by adults, which can lead to feelings of anxiety and isolation. The conversation encourages educators to embrace a more inclusive approach, fostering spaces where all expressions of gender are welcomed and celebrated. As they wrap up, Hester and Ablin emphasize the need for continuous dialogue around gender equity in education, urging listeners to become advocates for change within their own communities. This episode not only sheds light on the challenges faced by students but also inspires actionable steps toward creating a more equitable and supportive educational landscape.

Takeaways:

Awareness and education are foundational to creating inclusive environments for all individuals.
Implicit biases can significantly affect how educators interact with students of different genders.
Gender stereotypes impact students' self-perception, especially regarding their abilities in math and literacy.
Creating safe spaces in schools is crucial for students exploring their gender identities.
Strong role models are essential for inspiring girls to pursue STEM and academic success.
Teachers must actively work to understand their own biases to effectively support all students.

About our Guest:

Jason Ablin (@JasonAblin) is the author of The Gender Equation in Schools: How To Create Equity and Fairness For All Students. He has served as a teacher, department chair, principal, and head of school. He holds national certification in leadership coaching and mentoring from the National Association of School Principals and has been supporting and mentoring new leaders throughout the country for over 15 years. At American Jewish University’s Graduate School for Jewish Education and Leadership and in school-based teacher workshops, he trains teachers to create gender aware classrooms and has taught year-long courses regarding the relationship between cognitive neuroscience and education. He is also the founder and director of AJU’s Mentor Teacher Certification Program.

Social Media:

Twitter: @jasonablin

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Website: Ablineducation.com

Blog: Educating Gender

Book: The Gender Equation in Schools: How to Create Equity and Fairness for All Students

MyWebsite: Ablin Educational Services, LLC.

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#81 | 7 Ways Parents Can Support Non-Binary and Gender Fluid Teens With Empathy, Courage, and Connection

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0500

The podcast episode delves into the nuanced world of gender identities, specifically focusing on non-binary and gender fluid identities through a heartfelt panel discussion. Heather, the host, brings together her daughter Gray, her friend Kate, and Autumn Graham to share their experiences and insights. The conversation kicks off with a critical examination of the terminology surrounding gender identity. Autumn uses a creative analogy comparing gender to a numerical spectrum, helping to clarify that non-binary identities exist as part of a broader continuum rather than strict categories. This foundational understanding sets the stage for a deeper exploration of individual experiences and societal perceptions.

Throughout the episode, the panelists recount their personal journeys with gender identity, highlighting the emotional complexities involved in coming out and the varying responses from family and society. Kate shares her experiences as a trans masculine person, discussing how her identity has evolved over time and the importance of creating supportive environments for young people. Gray adds that many individuals struggle with the fear of rejection from their families, particularly in cultures where traditional views on gender are prevalent. This discussion sheds light on the intersection of cultural expectations and personal identity, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding within families.

The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that understanding gender identity is an ongoing process for both individuals and their families. The panelists encourage listeners to engage in meaningful dialogues, replete with empathy and curiosity, to foster a sense of security and acceptance. They stress that every person's journey is unique, and as such, the approach to understanding and supporting one another must be tailored to individual experiences. This episode serves as a valuable resource for parents and allies looking to navigate the complexities of gender identity, while also affirming the importance of community and connection in the LGBTQ experience.

Takeaways:

The importance of understanding that everyone's journey in self-identification is unique and ongoing.
Parents should create brave spaces for their children to explore their identities safely.
Listening and supporting without judgment is crucial when someone comes out to you.
Labels can be helpful, but they should not confine or pigeonhole individuals' identities.
Every individual's understanding of their gender identity can evolve throughout their lives.
It's essential to approach conversations about gender and sexuality with curiosity and compassion.

About the Panel:

Autumn Graham - I am Autumn, a non-binary teen who loves to discuss and have a deeper understanding of things, such as the topic of this podcast. I am a naturally curious individual who loves to learn about new things and see them from another perspective.

Kate Versage - Kate is a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community who specializes in helping other LGBTQ+ individuals and their families process their coming out experiences, navigate their identities, and provide support and resources for their journey through life coaching. Kate has a Masters degree in Mental Health Counseling and Expressive Arts Therapy and devotes her free time helping to educate communities, businesses and organizations on the issues and concerns that face the LGBTQ+ community.

Kate is also a proud mama, Dj and Drag King.

Grace (Gray) Hester - My name is Grace, I also use the name Grayson. My pronouns are she/they/he but I’m comfortable with any. I am 17 years old, and a junior in high school. Acting is my passion, and like most teens, I like hanging out with my friends.

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#80 | Why Facts Alone Don’t Change Minds — The Real Power Behind LGBTQ Allyship Is Storytelling

Wed, 28 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Heather Hester and Katherine Burrows engage in a compelling discussion centered around the importance of storytelling in the LGBTQ community in their latest podcast episode. The conversation is sparked by their collaborative project, Rainbow Stories, which aims to gather narratives from parents, teens, and allies. Heather opens up about her personal journey as a mother when her son came out, detailing the challenges and emotional turmoil she experienced. This candid reflection sets the tone for a deeper exploration of the struggles families face and the critical need for resources and shared experiences to navigate these complex dynamics.

As the discussion unfolds, Katherine brings her expertise in storytelling to the forefront, emphasizing how narratives can serve as powerful tools for empathy and connection. She explains that stories are not just entertainment; they are essential for human communication and understanding. The episode highlights how shared stories can alleviate feelings of isolation and fear, allowing individuals to see themselves and their experiences reflected in the lives of others. Heather and Katherine passionately advocate for the power of personal stories to inspire and educate, aiming to create a supportive environment where voices are heard and valued.

The hosts conclude the episode by inviting listeners to contribute their stories to the Rainbow Stories compilation, reinforcing the idea that everyone has a unique narrative worth sharing. This call to action not only encourages participation but also fosters a sense of community and belonging. The episode is a heartfelt reminder of the transformative power of storytelling in healing and connecting across diverse experiences, urging listeners to reflect on their own journeys and the impact they can have by sharing their voices.

Takeaways:

The importance of sharing personal stories to create understanding and connection in the LGBTQ community.
Heather Hester emphasizes the need for resources and support for families with LGBTQ children.
Katherine Burrows discusses how storytelling can help alleviate feelings of isolation and fear.
The Rainbow Stories project aims to compile diverse narratives that inspire and educate others.
Both hosts believe that stories are a powerful way to foster empathy and compassion in society.
The podcast highlights the mission to empower individuals by sharing their unique experiences and journeys.

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#79 | How Emotional Support Animals Help LGBTQ Youth Heal — And What Parents Need To Know About Mental Health and Belonging

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Exploring the intricate relationship between mental and physical health is at the heart of this engaging podcast episode featuring Heather Hester and her guest, Daniel Maigler. In an age where mental health discussions often take a backseat, Heather encourages listeners to treat mental health with the same importance as physical health. This conversation begins with a thought-provoking examination of our daily habits that prioritize physical well-being—like diet and exercise—while questioning what proactive steps we take to care for our mental health. This inquiry serves as a crucial reminder that mental health should not be an afterthought but a fundamental aspect of our lives, deserving of intentional attention and care.

Daniel Maigler, with his extensive experience as a therapist and high school counselor, provides invaluable insights into the normalization of mental health topics, particularly among teenagers. He shares his involvement with Pause for Patrick, an organization that emerged from a tragic loss to suicide, aimed at fostering emotional well-being through the companionship of therapy dogs. This initiative highlights the transformative power of animal support in mental health treatment. Daniel emphasizes that therapy dogs not only provide comfort but also help bridge gaps in communication for those who may struggle to express their feelings. This powerful narrative sheds light on the healing potential of animals in therapeutic settings, urging listeners to consider how such companionship can enhance emotional resilience.

As the discussion unfolds, Daniel addresses the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA youth, advocating for inclusive support systems that recognize the importance of chosen families. The episode reinforces the idea that mental health struggles are often compounded by societal pressures and misunderstandings, making community support all the more vital. Daniel's insights encourage listeners to cultivate empathy and understanding within their circles, promoting an environment where individuals feel safe to share their experiences without fear of judgment. By the end of the episode, the message is clear: prioritizing mental health is not just a personal journey but a collective responsibility. Together, we can create a culture that values openness, supports those in need, and recognizes the profound impact of belonging and acceptance on mental health.

Takeaways:

Mental health should be a daily conversation, just like physical health.
Taking care of mental health can include meditation, therapy, and emotional support animals.
Pause for Patrick provides therapy dogs to support mental health in young people.
Emotional support animals can help alleviate loneliness and provide comfort during tough times.
It's crucial for parents to prioritize their child's feelings over external pressures during the holidays.
Every individual has unique needs and experiences, which should be acknowledged and respected.

Links referenced in this episode:

Ways to connect with Daniel J Maigler

Daniel is on the board for Paws for Patrick. To learn more:

Website: https://www.pawsforpatrick.org/

Instagram: PawsforPatrick and notallowedtodiepod

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/not-allowed-to-die/id1574038556

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#78 | How to Protect LGBTQ Teens During the Holidays — 5 Boundary-Setting Tips for Parents Facing Non-Affirming Family

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Navigating the complexities of parenting an LGBTQIA child during the holiday season can be challenging, especially when confronted with non-affirming relatives. Heather Hester opens the conversation with warmth and reassurance, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe space for both parents and their children. She encourages listeners to take a deep breath, reminding them that they are not alone in their experiences and struggles. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, Hester delves into how to handle difficult conversations that may arise during family gatherings. The episode provides insights into maintaining boundaries while still fostering understanding and compassion. Hester also introduces resources, including her guide on the language of LGBTQIA, aimed at demystifying the terminology often encountered in these discussions. The episode’s heart lies in its call for love, patience, and education, underscoring that the true spirit of the holidays is about cherishing moments with loved ones, despite the challenges that arise.

Hester also explores the emotional landscape that parents and children navigate when facing non-affirming attitudes. She highlights the need for parents to equip themselves with facts and strategies to respond effectively while safeguarding their children's well-being. The conversation touches on the significance of recognizing the personal journeys of both the LGBTQIA child and the non-affirming family members. Hester emphasizes that understanding takes time, and she encourages listeners to approach these dialogues with grace while being prepared to set clear boundaries. By focusing on education and compassion, she helps listeners find a balance between advocating for their children and maintaining family relationships. Ultimately, the episode serves as a guide for parents, offering both emotional support and actionable steps to navigate the holiday season with confidence and love.

Takeaways:

The importance of understanding and using the right language when discussing LGBTQIA topics cannot be overstated.
During the holidays, it's crucial to maintain boundaries with non-affirming family members to protect your child's emotional well-being.
Taking time to breathe and calm your nervous system can significantly improve how you handle stressful situations.
It's vital to educate yourself on LGBTQIA issues to respond effectively to unsupportive comments from others.
Encouraging your child to prioritize their emotional safety during holiday gatherings is essential for their mental health.
Practicing gratitude, even amidst turmoil, helps shift focus away from negative experiences and promotes healing.

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#77 | Mindfulness and Recovery: Strategies for Overcoming Eating Disorders (LGBTQ Guidance, Emotional Healing & Parent Support)

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The discourse presented in this podcast episode centers on the intricate relationship between disordered eating and the challenges faced by LGBTQ youth during the holiday season. A significant focus is placed on the psychological implications of these struggles, particularly as they pertain to identity formation and societal pressures. Our esteemed guest, Dr. Theresa Bussert, offers invaluable insights into navigating disordered eating behaviors with a compassionate and non-judgmental approach, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying thoughts and feelings that accompany such challenges. We explore the complexities of familial support and the necessity of creating a safe space for dialogue, particularly in the context of the upcoming holidays, which can exacerbate stress for many individuals. Ultimately, this episode serves as a poignant reminder of the need for empathy and awareness as we endeavor to support our loved ones grappling with these significant issues.

What are disordered eating and eating disorders? Dr. Bussert shares with us the difference between disordered eating and eating disorders, and the best ways to support a person who is struggling with either one. Dr. Bussert is a therapist, coach, educator, and advocate for people looking to live beyond their eating disorders. She shares with us just how the spectrum of disordered eating and eating disorders can start and how the most important tool to healing is separating the person from the disorder. Join us as we discuss how to spot signs of eating disorders, how to best support a loved one suffering from eating disorders, and that there is life beyond your disorder.

Takeaways:

The upcoming holiday season introduces various stressors, particularly for those managing disordered eating.
Dr. Teresa Bussert offers invaluable insights into the complexities of eating disorders and their impact on individuals.
It is essential to differentiate between disordered eating and eating disorders, as they exist on a continuum.
Supporting a loved one with disordered eating requires a focus on their emotional well-being rather than solely on their eating behaviors.
Acknowledging the importance of community and support is crucial for individuals navigating their identity and eating challenges.
Parents and caregivers must create a safe space for their children to express their feelings about food and identity.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

National Eating Disorder Association
Trevor Foundation

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NEDA https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/

ANAD https://anad.org/

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Website: Theresabussert.com

Email: theresa@theresabussert.com

Facebook: @TheresaBussertPsyD

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#76 | The Journey Towards a More Inclusive Future (LGBTQ Advocacy, Social Justice & Strategic Inclusion in Business)

Tue, 01 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The primary focus of this podcast episode is the critical importance of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) initiatives within corporate and academic environments, emphasizing that awareness and education are foundational to creating inclusive spaces. We delve into the multifaceted nature of DEI and explore strategies for increasing awareness and knowledge, which in turn fosters an atmosphere of love and acceptance. Our esteemed guest, Victoria Peltier, an accomplished business leader and inspirational speaker, shares her profound insights on the impact of DEI on both corporate culture and personal resilience. Through her compelling personal narrative, we gain a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding identity and the necessity for inclusive practices. Our discussion serves not only to enlighten but also to encourage actionable steps toward fostering inclusive communities, underscoring that we all have a role to play in this pivotal endeavor.

Today I am joined by Victoria Pelletier and we have an enlightening conversation about bisexuality and DEI engagement. Victoria lives out loud and is a pivotal advocate for Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in workplaces and the LGBTQIA + community. Victoria doesn’t like the use of labels as she believes sexual identity is ever-evolving and there are many layers to figure out.

As a woman who identifies as queer, Victoria discusses the many misunderstandings of what it means to be bisexual and how it looks within the queer community. Also discussed in this episode is the importance of creating DEI workplaces using strategic intentionality. Strategic intentionality is hiring and inviting diversity into the workforce, which allows people to show up as their whole selves in the workplace. Join Heather and Victoria as they discuss the ways to be accepting, inclusive, and an ally.

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Victoria is a 20+ year Corporate Executive and Board Director – she is currently a Managing Director at Accenture. Nicknamed the “Turn Around Queen” by former colleagues and employers, Victoria inspires and empowers her team and clients to change mindsets and drive growth in business, leadership, and culture.

As someone who does not subscribe to the status quo, she is always ready for new challenges becoming one of the youngest Chief Operating Officers at the age of 24, a president by 35, and a CEO by age 41.

Victoria was recognized as a Top 50 Business Leader in Technology by Insight Magazine in 2021 and a Mentor of the Year by Women in Communications & Technology in 2020. HSBC bank awarded her the Diversity & Inclusion in Innovation award in 2019 and she was IBM’s #1 Global Social Seller ranked by LinkedIn in 2019 and 2020 (and soon you will see her named to top Business Leaders in Technology by CIOLook Magazine)

As a prolific motivational and inspirational speaker, Victoria has delivered keynotes discussing the importance of personal branding and its impact on professional growth; being an empathetic leader in empowering employees; the power of DEI on corporate cultures, and building a life of resilience.

Social Platforms

Website:

https://victoria-pelletier.com/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriapelletier/

Twitter:

https://twitter.com/PelletierV29

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoria_pelletier_unstoppable/

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/Victoria.Pelletier.Speaker

Medium:

https://medium.com/@victoriapelletier

YouTubeChannel: https://www.youtube.com/c/VictoriaPelletierNoExcuses

YouTube Speaker Reel:

https://youtu.be/na8LwVeWsmE

Takeaways:

The conversation surrounding Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) is paramount for contemporary organizations, influencing corporate and academic cultures significantly.
Awareness and education are essential components in fostering inclusive environments that embrace and celebrate diversity in all forms.
Personal experiences shape one's understanding and approach to DEI, highlighting the importance of lived experiences in advocating for marginalized voices.
Creating inclusive workplaces necessitates a strategic approach, ensuring equitable opportunities for all individuals, regardless of their background or identity.

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#75 | Unconditional Love: LGBTQ Ally Courage, Healing, and Growth Through Compassionate Parenting

Tue, 18 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The exploration of unconditional love serves as the central theme of our discussion today, delving into the profound complexities that surround this elusive concept. Love, as we unravel it, transcends mere sentiment; it embodies a continuum of actions and intentions that reflect our deepest human connections. Throughout this episode, I recount the transformative journey undertaken by our guest, Kim Sorrell, who dedicated a year of her life to understanding love in its myriad forms following personal tragedies that compelled her to question its true essence. Through her experiences, including profound realizations during her time in Haiti, Kim illustrates how love is not merely a feeling but a deliberate practice that encompasses patience, kindness, and understanding. As we engage in this dialogue, we invite our listeners to reflect on their own perceptions of love and the ways in which they can cultivate a more profound, unconditioned love in their lives.

What is unconditional love?

The meaning of love has been debated throughout time. Today I am joined by Kim Sorrelle, and she helps us take a deep dive into all things love. After the loss of her husband, Kim sought to find the meaning behind the common phrases we hear and learn about love. What she found is that love is an action; it is a choice, and you can choose to see all humans and life situations with the golden rays of love. Kim believes that if we all lived with a real understanding of love the world would be a much different place. Join Heather and Kim as they share ways to view the world and people with love.

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Kim Sorrelle is a writer, speaker, entrepreneur, director of a humanitarian organization, activist, mother, grandmother, lover of all people, and black licorice.

Kim is the director of Rays of Hope International, a partnering organization working with people in their own country who have a passion, a vision, and a mission to help people in their own country and just need someone to walk alongside. Through business plans, fundraising, sustainability planning, supplies, building, and Working in countries like Haiti, the Dominican Republic, and Burkina Faso, Rays of Hope has enjoyed relationships with hundreds of organizations that are working hard to help the underserved and vulnerable populations.

In 2009, while battling breast cancer, Kim's love, Steve, received a pancreatic cancer diagnosis. After six great weeks together, Kim held Steve as he took his last breath. Her first book, Cry Until You Laugh, chronicles that journey through laughter and tears and laughter again.

The back-to-back cancer diagnosis led her youngest son, Noah, to change his trajectory and earn a Ph.D. as a cancer researcher. With a focus on breast cancer, Noah has made significant discoveries that have already helped with other research and continue to move the needle on the survivor rate.

Kim's second book, Love Is, came from a desire to know the true meaning of love. Love Is, chronicles her year-long quest to discover the true meaning of love, a sometimes funny, sometimes scary, always enlightening journey that led to life-changing discoveries found mostly on the streets of Haiti.

Today, Kim lives in her hometown of Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA, a regular radio, television, and podcast guest, Kim speaks to audiences all over the world. Inspirational and educational, Kim entertains CEOs, industry leaders, company staff members, educators, parents, women's groups, and more.

With first-hand experience, Kim also speaks for The American Cancer Society and Susan G. Koman.

A coach is always a coach and Kim is no different. Working with individuals and teams, Kim helps people succeed not only in business and family life but in every aspect of life, leading to greater fulfillment and happiness while teaching the secrets to working less and playing more.

How to connect with Kim:

https://www.kimsorrelle.com/team-4

Takeaways:

The definition of love is subjective and has been explored through various artistic expressions over the ages.
Unconditional love transcends mere emotional attachment and is characterized by selfless acceptance of others.
It is essential to understand that love is not a transactional exchange but an intrinsic quality one embodies.
The word 'queer' possesses a multifaceted history, evolving from a slur to a reclaimed identity in the LGBTQIA community.

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#74 | Why “Man Up” Is a Lie — And How Positive Masculinity Heals LGBTQ and Cisgender Men Alike

Tue, 04 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The principal theme of this podcast episode centers upon the concept of positive masculinity and its transformative potential in dismantling the pervasive cycle of toxic masculinity. Our esteemed guest, Mac McGregor, elucidates on the intricacies of gender expectations and socialization, advocating for a paradigm shift that embraces vulnerability and authenticity in all individuals, irrespective of their gender identity. We delve into the historical context of masculinity and explore how traditional constructs can often hinder personal growth and interpersonal relationships. Through heartfelt anecdotes and insightful dialogue, Mac articulates the necessity of fostering a supportive environment that encourages men and masculine individuals to engage in meaningful discussions about their feelings and experiences. As we navigate this profound journey together, it becomes increasingly clear that the path towards healthier models of masculinity is not only beneficial for men but for society as a whole.

What is Positive Masculinity? Today I am joined by the gender sensei, Mac McGregor, and he opens the conversation about what toxic and positive masculinity is. Growing up in the bible belt of America, Mac knew that he just didn’t fit the magic gender letter he was assigned at birth. After a successful career as a martial artist, Mac now spreads the word about Positive Masculinity and how gender is a spectrum with many ways to express your gender. Join Heather and Mac as they pull apart positive masculinity, how it impacts all of us and how unpacking the social conditioning of what gender means is where the real work happens, even within the LGBTQIA+ community.

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Mac McGregor – the “Gender Sensei” – is a speaker who works to educate and train various corporations, colleges, and groups on topics concerning diversity, gender, healthy masculinity, and being true to themselves. He is a dedicated, heartfelt activist and educator who focuses every part of his existence on creating a world where people can feel free to be their authentic selves.

He has been a keynote speaker at many events including Mayo Clinic, and many colleges, organizations, and conferences. This includes the University of Washington where he is a guest instructor each semester who discusses the complexities of gender, transgender, and gender non-conforming. Mac has also made appearances on Ripley’s Believe it or Not, The Learning Channel, The Discovery Channel, the 700 Club, Univision, People Magazine, and many more. He also writes for the Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, Seattle Gay News, Unite Magazine, and other publications.

Mac’s experience prior to transition was that of a successful female athlete, champion competitor, and business owner. This experience shaped him to become a guiding figure for women’s rights, specifically closing the pay gap and providing equal opportunity for those that are gender variant. He was a former US karate team member, inducted into the Martial Arts Hall of Fame as a competitor and as a Master Teacher. He has extensive training in conflict resolution and arbitration through being a certified coach and referee through the AAU and U.S. Olympic committees.

The mayor appointed Mac as a Seattle City Commissioner in 2011 and he served until 2016. Mac is on the Washington state council for PFLAG and on the Seattle Police Department LGBT advisory board. Here, he developed policy and training around dealing with the transgender community, which has been used by the US Border Patrol. He continuously speaks on panels and solo at numerous colleges, non-profit groups, and state and city governments on gender & sexuality. Mac teaches community SelfDefense to empower all people on a donation basis so that all have access. He is currently the Co-Chair of the Seattle Renter’s Commission appointed by the Seattle City Council.

He is also a multimedia talk show host of “The You Can Make a Difference Show” on Rainier Avenue Radio. In 2017 Mac ran for Seattle City Council and was the first transgender person ever to be on a ballot in Washington State. Mac is the Founder and Executive Director of “Positive Masculinity”, a nonprofit that works to dismantle toxic masculinity and helps masculine people work to create a healthier model of masculinity for all people.

How to connect with Mac:

https://www.positivemasculinitynow.org/

TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@positivemasculinitynow/

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/positivemasculinitynow/

FB Page- https://www.facebook.com/Positivemasc/

Takeaways:

The concept of positive masculinity challenges traditional gender norms and expectations, promoting healthier emotional expression.
Vulnerability is an essential aspect of the journey toward authentic self-expression for all individuals, regardless of gender identity.
The dialogue surrounding masculinity within the LGBTQ community necessitates reflection on both toxic and traditional masculine behaviors.
Engaging in conversations about masculinity can foster deeper connections between fathers and sons, enhancing familial relationships.

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#73 | Understanding Covert Bullying: A Parent's Guide to Support LGBTQ Youth (LGBTQ Safety, Emotional Support & Ally Education)

Tue, 20 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The focal point of this podcast episode revolves around the often insidious nature of covert bullying and the essential role that parents play in creating a safe and supportive environment for their LGBTQ teens. I emphasize the importance of fostering a home atmosphere where children feel comfortable expressing themselves, even amidst the complexities and challenges they may face in their social interactions. Throughout our discussion, we dissect the differences between overt and covert bullying, highlighting the subtle ways in which the latter can manifest, often hidden from adult observation. Furthermore, I share strategies for parents to establish open lines of communication, ensuring that their children feel empowered to share their experiences without fear of judgment. By promoting understanding and compassion, we aim to equip parents with the tools necessary to effectively support their children during these critical formative years.

We often separate our political, socioeconomic, gender, and racial identities from our mental health. Today I am joined by Silvia M. Dutchevici, and she introduces us to the concept of Critical Therapy. Critical Therapy takes a deep analysis of the power and invites the political into the therapy room. Silvia shows us how our mental health is affected by so many of these outside factors that aren’t often considered in the therapeutic process. We don’t live in a bubble and must be open to these tough areas of conversation. Join Silvia and me as we break down the walls and open up safe places to have hard conversations.

Do not miss these highlights:

01:36 – Introduction to Silvia and Critical Therapy

05:01 – Mental Health struggles after covid

07:05 – How mental health issues are impacted by our place in society

08:28 – Just trying to get back to “normal”, and why that isn’t helpful for mental health

12:16 – The impact of the pandemic on working mothers

13:23 – Should we have it all? Work-life balance in the feminist movement

14:47 – Parenting that shares the power with our children

17:10 – How we can learn from our kids

19:29 – Understanding gender identity as a parent

23:30 – How we defer to the winners

25:43 – Be open to listening and have questions when your children approach you about coming out

27:07-Difference between critical theory and other therapy

29:20- How do we talk about the issues when there isn’t the struggle

30:51- What is toxic masculinity

33:12- Learning to have more nuanced conversations

35:01- Our society will change, starting with us

38:00- Having difficult conversations with your therapist

42:10- Being aware of how we talk to our children and the messages we are sending them

48:24- How to bring in critical therapy to your therapy sessions.

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Silvia M. Dutchevici, MA, LCSW, is the president and founder of the Critical Therapy Institute. A trained psychotherapist, Dutchevici (pronounced “doot-KAY-vitch”), created critical therapy on perceiving a need for the theory and practice of psychology to reflect how race, class, gender, and religion intersect with psychological conflicts. She is a founding board member of Black Women’s Blueprint and a member of the Physicians for Human Rights Asylum Network, where she conducts psychological evaluations documenting evidence of torture and persecution for survivors fleeing danger in their home countries. She trained at the Bellevue/NYU Survivors of Torture Program, the Parent-Child Center of the New York Psychoanalytic Society, and the New York Freudian Society. Dutchevici has a master’s degree in social work from New York University and a master’s degree in psychology from the New School, and a bachelor’s degree in religious studies and political science from Fordham University. She has lectured and presented throughout the country on critical therapy, including at Fordham and NYU, and has been featured in the Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, The Guardian, International Business Times, and Women’s Health.

How to connect with Silvia:

https://criticaltherapy.org/

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space at home for LGBTQ teens, which allows them to express their emotions without fear of judgment.
Covert bullying, often hidden from adults, manifests in subtle ways, making it crucial for parents to recognize and address it effectively.
Parents are encouraged to engage in open dialogues with their children about identity, allowing for exploration and understanding rather than imposing expectations.
Critical therapy is highlighted as a transformative approach that integrates awareness of power dynamics and encourages authentic relationships in therapeutic settings.

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#72 | Suicide Prevention Awareness: LGBTQ Youth Support, Ally Guidance, and Mental Health Resources from The Trevor Project

Tue, 06 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0500

This podcast episode features an enlightening dialogue with Kevin Wong, the Vice President of Communications for the Trevor Project, which stands as the preeminent organization dedicated to suicide prevention and mental health support for LGBTQ youth. Central to our discussion is the alarming statistic that LGBTQ young individuals are over four times more likely to attempt suicide than their peers, underscoring the critical need for accessible and effective support systems. We delve into the multifaceted programs offered by the Trevor Project, including crisis intervention services, educational initiatives, and the empowering peer support platform known as Trevor Space. Moreover, we explore the imperative role that acceptance from even a single adult can play in significantly reducing the risk of suicide attempts among LGBTQ youth. This episode not only emphasizes the vital resources available but also provides actionable insights for parents and allies on how to approach conversations surrounding identity and mental health with empathy and understanding.

With September being suicide prevention month, it was imperative to have Kevin Wong on the podcast today. Kevin is the Vice President of Communications for the Trevor Project, and he shares with us all the amazing resources the Trevor Project has for LGBTQ youth and their parents. There are many stigmas when it comes to talking about suicide and Kevin and the team at the Trevor Project are bringing awareness, advocacy, and safe places for LGBTQ youth to have these conversations. Join Heather and Kevin as they discuss the importance of the Trevor Project and supporting children in the LGBTQ community.

Do not miss these highlights:

01:50 – A little about Kevin

03:58 – Who the Trevor Project is

08:46 – How to get this information to our children

11:23 – Moderators on the site

12:45 – Resources for questions and support children can get on the Trevor project site

14:55 – The Trevor Project & advocacy work

18:33 – How to be an advocate

21:47 – What signs parents can look for in their kids, that may show they want to come out or are struggling

23:33 – The acronym C.A.R.E for helping a kid in a moment of crisis

27:32 – The stigma of these topics

30:40 – How to receive your child when they come out

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Kevin Wong (he/him) is the Vice President of Communications for The Trevor Project, the world’s largest suicide prevention and mental health organization for LGBTQ young people. He oversees the organization’s communications strategy, including media relations, celebrity engagement, internal and executive communications, speaking engagements and awards, crisis communications, and more.

Kevin works closely with The Trevor Project’s marketing and creative teams to develop 360-degree campaigns that promote the organization’s crisis services, resources, partnerships and innovations, as well as its research, education, and advocacy initiatives. He leads a team of 12 that PR Daily recently awarded as Communications Team of the Year.

How to learn more:

www.trevorspace.org

www.trevorproject.org

Takeaways:

The Trevor Project serves as the world's largest organization dedicated to suicide prevention for LGBTQ youth.
Statistical evidence reveals that LGBTQ young people are significantly more prone to suicidal thoughts compared to their peers.
Peer support is a critical aspect of mental health, providing safe spaces for LGBTQ youth to connect.
Parental acceptance can drastically reduce the risk of suicide among LGBTQ children and adolescents.
The importance of active listening and non-judgmental responses cannot be overstated when engaging with LGBTQ youth.
The Trevor Project offers a range of resources and advocacy efforts aimed at improving the lives of LGBTQ young people.

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#71 | How to Keep LGBTQ Kids Safe Online — 6 Digital Parenting Tips for Privacy, Boundaries, and Brave Conversations

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0500

This podcast episode delves into the critical discourse surrounding the navigation of the digital landscape for LGBTQ children and their parents. We commence by emphasizing the necessity of maintaining open lines of communication, particularly regarding online engagements and the inherent challenges that accompany them. Our esteemed guest, Sarah May, founder and CEO of the Start Effect, provides invaluable insights into fostering a safe and healthy digital presence. We further explore the paramount importance of teaching children about the nuances of sharing personal information online and the significance of establishing boundaries regarding their digital interactions. Ultimately, our discussion underscores the imperative of equipping both parents and children with the tools necessary to navigate the digital world effectively while fostering a supportive and understanding relationship.

Sarah Maynard is here with Heather today to talk about the digital world and your kids. She lays out some of the “shoulds” and “should-nots” of what your children are sharing online and highlights the important fact, that once it is out there, it is never going away. Sarah shares how to have the foundational conversations early on with your children so that when it comes to the harder stuff the digital world has to offer you can approach those together. Join Heather and Sarah as they talk all things digital.

Do not miss these highlights:

01:30 – Topic for today: The digital world and your kids

03:30 – The number one thing for parents to know

09:25 – What your kids should/should not be sharing online

13:49 – Once it’s out there, it’s never going away

14:11 – The effect of the digital world on college applications

19:42 – Knowing each app's privacy settings

20:18 – Conversations with kids about what they really want from this app

21:39 – The internet and LGBTQ+

25:13 – Empowering our children to say no or unfollow

26:21 – Positives of taking a break from social media

34:00 – Modelling social media use for our kids

39:00 – Interpersonal relationships

45:55 – New question and answer segment

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Sarah Maynard is the founder and CEO of THE START EFFECT, a digital presence educational consulting company that teaches how to navigate the digital world and manage an online presence in a safe, healthy, and beneficial way.

Sarah is a passionate storyteller and a lifelong learner. She has worked with kids for almost 20 years and she is a children's book writer and illustrator and digital marketing communications strategist.

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Questions Sarah is Always ready to Answer:

What should and shouldn't we be sharing online?
How do I find a balance between being online and unplugged?
Why do I need an exit strategy online and how to create one?
What is a digital audit and why is it important?
What is a digital detox and how do I do one?
How do I get my kid to talk to me about what they are doing online?
How do I get my teen to get off their phone?
What are the positives of my kid being online?
Why is a ban on digital devices, not the answer when my kid "messes up" online?
How do I keep my kids safe online?

Links in question and answer segment:

www.hrc.org

www.pflag.org

pewresearch.org

justfacts.votesmart.com

allsides.com

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of open communication between parents and their LGBTQ children, fostering an environment where children feel safe to discuss their online experiences.
Listeners are encouraged to engage with their children's interests in the digital world, such as playing video games together, to build rapport and trust.
Parents are advised to educate themselves about the various social media platforms their children use, including understanding privacy settings and safety measures.
The episode discusses the significance of teaching children about appropriate online behavior, particularly regarding personal information and sharing boundaries.
It is crucial for parents to model self-regulation regarding screen time, which aids children in developing similar skills as they navigate their own digital lives.
The conversation highlights the necessity for parents to stay informed on evolving digital trends and potential online dangers, ensuring they can guide their children effectively.

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#70 | How Ted Lasso and a Walt Whitman Quote Are Helping Parents Become Fierce LGBTQ Allies

Tue, 09 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The principal theme of this episode revolves around the profound concept of embracing curiosity rather than judgment, particularly in the realm of interpersonal communication. I express my gratitude for your presence in this safe space, where we explore the intricacies of parenting LGBTQ teens. Throughout our dialogue, I reflect on my recent engagement with the television series "Ted Lasso," which illuminates the significance of kindness and understanding. I delve deeper into the pivotal Walt Whitman quote, "Be curious, not judgmental," and its applicability in overcoming fear and fostering meaningful conversations. Ultimately, I invite you to contemplate how this approach can transform not only familial relationships but also our broader interactions within society.

I have been thinking about curiosity and in today’s solo episode, I share with you some of the provoking thoughts I have been having. Curiosity is a wonderful tool to use in conversations with others that helps remove judgment of self and others. By bringing curiosity to the conversation, we can quiet the judgmental voice and really listen to and hear others.

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Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the significance of creating a supportive environment for LGBTQ teens.
Listeners are encouraged to engage in conversations with curiosity rather than judgment.
The concept of fear is explored in conjunction with strategies to approach it with curiosity.
The dialogue highlights the transformative power of kindness and understanding in relationships.
The episode invites feedback from listeners to foster a sense of community and shared experiences.
The hosts express their gratitude for the audience's presence and support throughout their journey.

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#69 | Healing Your Mind, Body and Spirit To Reach Your Highest Potential (LGBTQ Ally Healing, Intuition & Emotional Resilience)

Tue, 26 Jul 2022 04:00:00 -0500

This podcast episode centers on the transformative journey of Jennifer, who imparts wisdom on harnessing the power of intuition and personal purpose. We explore her evolution from a federal government employee to a soul care coach, adept at accessing Akashic Records and employing energy healing techniques. Jennifer's narrative is underscored by her profound experiences that illustrate the intricate connection between emotional healing and physical well-being. Throughout our discussion, we delve into practical strategies that individuals can implement to navigate personal challenges, particularly in the realms of stress, anxiety, and relationship dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of listening to one's inner voice and recognizing the guidance that resides within, reinforcing the notion that we possess the tools necessary for our own healing and growth.

Jennifer Takagi is here to help women discover the power of their purpose. Through tapping into your truths, listening to your intuition, and trusting yourself, Jennifer can help you unlock your fullest potential. Her big message is to start paying attention to those intuitive hits we get, as they are messages guiding you to your purpose.

Join Heather and Jennifer as they cover how Jennifer got started on this path of helping heal others' energetic blocks, how to pay attention to your intuition, and how to heal your mind, body, and soul to reach your highest potential.

About our Guest:

Jennifer Takagi is the founder of Takagi Consulting. She is a 3X time Amazon.Com Best Selling-Author, Certified Jack Canfield Success Principle Trainer, Certified Professional Behavioral Analyst and Facilitator of the DISC Behavioral Profiles, Certified Change Style Indicator Facilitator and Certified Coaching Specialist - leadership entrepreneur, speaker, and trainer.

She is helping women discover the power of their purpose by tapping into their truths, honing their intuition, and trusting themselves so they can have the clarity and confidence to create the next level of success they desire. Jennifer believes that when a woman allows her soul to lead, she’ll stop struggling and find the fun, fulfillment, and financial growth she craves.

Website: https://www.takagiconsulting.com/

Takeaways:

This podcast adeptly transforms the discourse surrounding the nurturing and acceptance of LGBTQ youth.
The host, Heather Hester, employs a conversational style that fosters a sense of community and comfort.
Listeners are assured that they are not alone in their current experiences with LGBTQ parenting.
The episode highlights the importance of intuition and personal truth in achieving clarity in parenting.
Guest Jennifer discusses her journey and the significance of spiritual guidance in personal development.
The conversation emphasizes that emotional and spiritual healing can profoundly impact physical well-being.

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#68 | Your Voice Matters: LGBTQ Ally Guidance, Parenting Courage, and the Power of Storytelling

Tue, 12 Jul 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Michelle Abraham joins Heather in the virtual studio in this week’s episode. Michelle is an international speaker, podcast producer, and the category directory for kids and family in Podcast Magazine. Listen in as they discuss Michelle's foray into the podcasting industry, the lessons she has learned, and still learning, as a parent, and the importance of getting your message out into the world before it is too late to do so.

About our Guest:

Michelle Abraham - Podcast Producer, Host and International Speaker.

Michelle was speaking on stages about podcasting before most people knew what they were, she started a Vancouver based Podcasting Group in 2012 and has learned the ins and outs of the industry. Michelle helped create and launched over 30 Podcasts in 2018 and has gone on to launch over 200 shows in the last few years, She wants to launch YOURS in 2022!

14 years as an Entrepreneur and 8 years as a Mom has led her to a lifestyle shift, spending more time with family while running location independent online digital marketing business for the last 9 years. Michelle and her family have been living completely off the grid lakeside boat access for the last 4 years!

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8 Ways To Be a Powerful LGBTQ Ally — Even When You’re Scared or Unsure What to Say

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Do you want to support your LGBTQ child, friend, or student, but aren’t sure what to say or how to show up as an ally?

In this heartfelt and practical episode, Heather Hester shares 8 essential ways to practice true LGBTQ allyship — especially as a parent, family member, or community leader. Whether you’re just beginning this journey or already walking it with intention, this guide offers grounded, inclusive guidance rooted in action, empathy, and growth.

Learn what to say (and what not to say) when someone comes out to you
Discover how to challenge stereotypes, hold space, and speak up with confidence
Get real tools to model inclusive language, protect privacy, and support LGBTQ rights in daily life

If you’re ready to become the safe, supportive ally your LGBTQ loved ones need, not just during Pride Month, but every day, press play and take the first step toward inclusive, heart-led action.

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#66 | How Brave Space Leadership Builds LGBTQ-Inclusive Brands — And What Parents Can Learn From It

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Crystal Whiteaker intrinsically understands the importance of inclusion. As a leadership development and DEIB consultant, she specializes in inclusive coaching and consulting for brands and leaders that care deeply about Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging (DEIB). Join Heather and Crystal as they talk about Crystal’s motivation to reaffirm a brand's core values, create a “Brave Space” within yourself, and create a positive, nourishing, nurturing, and healing connection with people.

Free Guides

Core Values Guide

Inclusive Brand Statement Guide

Speaking Guide

Personal Philosophy Statement Guide

Introductory Offers

Core Values Challenge

Empowered Environments Workbook (Guided Workbook for Inclusive Leaders)

Inclusive Masterclasses

About our Guest:

Crystal Whiteaker (pronouns: she/her/hers) is a Leadership Development and DEIB* Consultant specializing in inclusive coaching and consulting for brands and leaders that care deeply about diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging. Crystal brings over 15 years of creative, relational, process driven experience across multiple industries. She is a self-described "corporate trained, creative hippie” who puts a strong focus on core values to help people elevate their community connections to communicate and lead with clarity and confidence. Crystal is an advocate for leaders and organizations that provide resources and support for healing, particularly in relation to trauma. When she's not working, Crystal enjoys spending time at the beach, connecting with people, and exploring new places.

When you choose to work with Crystal Lily Creative, you’re helping to support organizations that provide resources for women and the LGBTQ+ community, as a portion of profits and services are donated annually.

(*DEIB: Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging)

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#65 | A Beacon of Authenticity for the Community and Allies Alike (LGBTQ Representation, Support & Mental Health Awareness)

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 04:00:00 -0500

“I think the real joy in life comes when you just meet the people who mean the most to you exactly where they are, and you embrace them for where they are.” - Lisa Sugarman

Heather is joined by Lisa Sugarman, a mom, a parenting author, a nationally syndicated humor columnist, and a podcast host. Join them as they discuss Lisa’s journey of discovering her authentic self, her work with The Trevor Project, and her upcoming book to help encourage others to connect and share their own stories with others so that healing can begin.

Resources Mentioned

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Lisa’s Books: https://www.amazon.com/Lisa-Sugarman/e/B00JY0DY28?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_2&qid=1655167126&sr=8-2

About our Guest:

Lisa Sugarman is a mom, a parenting author, a nationally syndicated humor columnist, and a podcast host, creating content that helps empower parents, especially moms, by giving them permission to embrace their perfectly imperfectness. She’s also a survivor of suicide loss, losing her father at age ten and a member and ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. Lisa writes the syndicated opinion column It Is What It Is and is the author of How To Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids And Be Ok With It, Untying Parent Anxiety, and LIFE: It Is What It Is, available on Amazon, at Barnes & Noble, and everywhere books are sold. Sugarman is also the co-host of the podcast LIFE Unfiltered on iTunes and iHeartRadio, and a regular contributor on Healthline Parenthood, GrownAndFlown, TODAY Parents, Thrive Global, Care.com, LittleThings, and More Content Now. Lisa lives with her husband and two daughters just north of Boston. Visit her online at www.lisasugarman.com. She digs company.

Her life motto:

Because we're all a work in progress...

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#64 | Raising LGBTQ Allies: Shifting Parenting Mindsets Around Queer Identity and Mental Health

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Heather is joined by author, therapist, and TEDx speaker, Chris Tompkins to discuss the impact of heteronormativity in today’s culture. Listen as they unpack the differences between queerphobia and homophobia, how the language and words we use create nuances that stop us from talking to our children about being gay, and the steps that we can use to build a “New Playground” around our subconscious beliefs.

About our Guest:

Chris Tompkins is a therapist, spiritual life coach, TEDx speaker, and author of Raising LGBTQ Allies: A Parent’s Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground. Chris believes connecting with our spirituality, loving ourselves, and taking full responsibility for our lives is where our strength lies at the deepest level. He hosts workshops and presentations for universities, conferences, and organizations across the U.S. on anti-bullying, inner advocacy, how to prevent queerphobia, and the importance of changing the messages from the playground.

https://www.aroadtriptolove.com/

Catch Chris’ TEDx Talk at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0P2GGcuJl6w

Get Chris’ book at https://amzn.to/3O16ISY

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#63 | 5 Lessons on Queer Identity, Therapy & Life After Coming Out — A Candid Pride Month Chat with Connor Hester

Tue, 31 May 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Connor helps Heather kick off Pride Month with a fun conversation that ranges in topics from an update on how he’s doing to his thoughts on rainbow capitalism. For newer listeners who do not know who Connor is, first of all, welcome, and second of all - Connor is Heather’s oldest son whose bravery and life experience allows for this podcast as well as all of Heather’s other work. This is the fourth episode Connor and Heather have done together, so be sure to check out the others to get very real insight on the coming out process as a teen and young adult.

About our Guest:

Want to know more about Connor and his story? Check out his earlier episodes on Just Breathe.

Connor Shares His Story - Part 1: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-one/

Part 2: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-two/

Part 3: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-three/

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#62 | Finding the Courage to Be Unapologetically LGBTQ — and How Allies Can Help

Tue, 17 May 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Creating a safe place for people to speak the truth, Katie Miller, the co-founder & assistant director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society and host of Adulting Sucks podcast, is here to share her story of coming to live her life unapologetically herself and encouraging others to do the same.

About our Guest:

Katie Miller

Katie is the co-founder & assistant director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society.

She knows that every message matters. Katie knows what it was like to be afraid to speak up. After launching her podcast “Adulting Sucks, but it does not have to”, Katie became more aware of the need for people to feel safe when speaking. So, Katie has created that safe place with her podcast. Katie’s calming presence will let you focus on what you do best, sharing your message with the world.

Website and social: https://kt4tech.com/

Get your free gift: Why Not Workbook https://kt4tech--successjourneyacademy.thrivecart.com/why-not-workbook-gift/

Adulting Sucks Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4tSUmZJotgs6DKSztd7s0z?si=8e65e2464d764553&nd=1

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#61 | Be You Do You (LGBTQ Journey, Ally Support & Courage to Thrive)

Tue, 03 May 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Overcoming adversity that led him to his life’s passion of being a life coach, Sam Castle is here to share his story about removing stigma, bias, and fear. Sam shares about his gender transformation, how life coaching changed his world when traditional therapy could not, and his overall love and passion for helping others to live life courageously.

About our Guest:

Sam Castle - “I am Sam of BE YOU; DO YOU podcast and life coach. Be you; do you podcast was inspired by my gender transition from female to male and learning to love and accept who I am....a show that amplifies REAL and RAW stories of authenticity and courageous living! Be you; do you will create a transformation for listeners and participants as you begin to see that even in our differences, we are so much alike. Be you; do you is a safe space for the queer community to be seen, felt, and heard...be uplifted and encouraged. It's time to BE YOU; DO YOU and live courageously!”

You can find Sam’s podcast on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/show/235Kp7SogjS42Q26ZKPYN2

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#60 | Why Courage and Thought Awareness Are Essential for LGBTQ Allyship and Parenting Guidance

Tue, 19 Apr 2022 04:00:00 -0500

To fully feel the human experience we have to be able to overcome the fears and feelings that we innately avoid. In today’s conversation, our guest, Candy Motzek discusses how we are so influenced by our thoughts and the feelings behind them that it does not allow us to connect to others in a way that is mutually beneficial. Self-awareness is key and Candy shares some strategies on how we can recognize our thoughts and feelings and create the actions that will create our outcomes.

Resources Mentioned

Candy’s Podcast - She Coaches Coaches

About our Guest:

Candy is a podcast host, author, and life & business coach for coaches. She believes that coaching transforms lives. She helps coaches get unstuck and feel more confident so they can play bigger, sign clients and create more meaningful success. She is a 'recovering' corporate executive and engineer who combines practical strategy and mindset in her calming unique approach.

Connect with Candy at https://stepintosuccessnow.com

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#59 | Why Your Child’s Coming Out Isn’t About You—And How True Allyship Starts with Courage

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Rick Clemons is a men's coming-out coach and a bold move strategist inspiring gay men to live life with no excuses, no fears, and no apologies. In today’s episode, Heather and Rick dive into the journey that is coming out, coming into the power of living your full truth, and the process behind it all. Rick also has some valuable advice for the parents of LGBTQ+ children on loving their child’s authentic self and what you can do to support them.

About our Guest:

Rick Clemons is a well-known culture disruptor (in a good way), closet buster (men’s coming out coach), and bold move strategist – inspiring gay men to live life with no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Tapping into his 25+ years’ experience in personal development, Rick leverages his status as a late bloomer - coming out of the closet at 36 and stepping into entrepreneurship at 43 - to lovingly kick other gay men in the ass to thrive in their own lives without apologies – professionally and personally.

He is a Professionally Certified Coach, has been a frequent contributor to Huffington Post, YourTango, The Good Men Project, author of (Frankly My Dear I’m Gay), podcaster (Life (UN)Closeted and 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk), and an international speaker who uses his signature 6-Step process to motivate and inspire audiences to break out of the closets of their lives – no excuses, no fears, no apologies. He loves wine, his two grown daughters, and his husband, in that order but don’t tell the hubby where he fits in the pecking order. Visit his website at RickClemons.com.

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Inspiring LGBTQ Courage & Authenticity by Moving Beyond Labels

Tue, 22 Mar 2022 04:00:00 -0500

People want to label everything. There is a perceived comfort in having something or someone identified with a label but it is not always healthy. Many today are moving past labels and want to be accepted for who they are not shoved into a box just to make you comfortable. Our guest Julie Anne and her partner, Vicente, are here to discuss this concept of labels, how we can move on from them and experience freedom. They also talk about starting the Misfit Movement, a gathering of people who are seen as being outside the “norm” for one reason or another, and the work they are doing by bringing everyone together.

About our Guests:

Julie Ann is the Founder of Influence Publishing Inc and a TEDx Speaker. In the last ten years, she has published over 200 books and made over 80% of those International Best Sellers. She claims to be the world’s only Dyslexic book publisher and her TEDx Talk on “The Gift of Dyslexia” has had almost 100,000 views. She has been featured on British and Canadian TV, The Daily Mail, International Radio and Podcasts, and conducted many inspirational speeches. She has won many awards including The Golden Gravel Speech contest, International Toastmasters, Woman of Worth Success and Soul, Unlimited Woman of Creativity and has been short-listed for The Canadian Excellence Awards 2021.

She is the Best-Selling author of “Around the World in Seven Years – A Life-Changing Journey” which catalogues her journey around the world from 1998-2005 by sailboat, train, bus, and plane. She is a member of the New York Circumnavigators club as the slowest circumnavigator, traveling from the UK to South Africa, Tanzania, Dar es Salem, Zanzibar, Kenya, Seychelles, Maldives, Chagos (crossing the Indian Ocean by sailboat), Thailand, Malaysia, Laos, Cambodia, Canada, The Baja of Mexico, and the Sea of Cortex, flying the final leg from Mexico City back to the UK. She presently lives in Puerto Vallarta with her Mexican Fiancé who is a Salsa and Latin dance instructor and loves dancing Salsa, Cumbia, and the Cha Cha every week along with the live Cuban band in Bodeguita Cuban Club in Puerta Vallarta. She is a dual citizen of the UK and Canada.

https://www.influencepublishing.com/

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Vicente Asaro

Having a chance to speak with Heather on her show was another step for my journey in growing. My expression of self-love to others is fostered by people who choose to spend their time like Heather, who give a space to share an ever-expansive core of our being into the world.

That reality within ourselves is the true expression we can look forward to sharing with others regardless of our bodies physical stature.“The Realm of the Human Body is a place we can call home, a shelter from the outside to our inner world, a protector to the multitude of viruses that seek to implant itself in our inner environment, a healer to the ever-changing events around us. “We are beneficiaries of our body, which gives a vessel to our soul, a voice to our thoughts, a bank for our memories, and communicator in intimacy. Our bodies deserve an environment in kind that which we can let itself heal from the stresses of the external world, a place we can bring our being for a peaceful retreat.” - Vicente Asaro, Floatation Tank Specialist

Vicente Asaro is a Float Tank operations specialist and founder of New World Floatation. He conducts research and development of R.E.S.T (Reduced Environmental Stimulation Therapy) Tank rooms and spaces.

Studying under the teachings of scientific researcher John C. Lilly’s decertations on the effects of R.E.S.T with brain and body, and information and teachings of the nature of human interaction under John Worthington. Vicente has achieved a specialist skill in running a safe and productive environment for those who wish to experience an imperious of self-understanding.

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#57 | The Power of Being Present: Parenting with Courage and LGBTQ Ally Guidance

Tue, 08 Mar 2022 04:00:00 -0500

As a parent, and especially if you're a mom, you know the importance of creating a safe and nurturing environment for your children. But do you do it for yourself as well? Mia Moran of Plan Simple is joining Heather today to talk about not just making sure we are providing what we need for our children’s mental health but also what we need to do for ourselves to support them.

About our Guest:

Mia Moran is a mom of three and coach who also makes time for wellness—and shows overwhelmed women how they can too. She is the host of the PlanSimple podcast, bestselling author of PlanSimple Meals, and creator of the FLOW Planning Method and Planner.

Mia’s wellness adventure became a full-blown ride about 12 years ago during a health crisis when she understood the power food could have on her health, her family connection, and her productivity. That experience led her to become a student of food, wellness, spirituality, motherhood, and productivity.

She experienced two unforeseen gifts from this journey. First, the practice of finding ease, despite balancing what looks like a full plate of work, home, motherhood and food. Second, the gift of a good plan.

Website: https://plansimple.com

Instagram: instagram.com/plansimple.co/

Podcast: Plan Simple Podcast

Book: Plan Simple Meals

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#56 | The Tao Te Ching Path to Self-Discovery: Courage and Guidance for LGBTQ Allies

Tue, 22 Feb 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Not many have the privilege of knowing who they are from the start. For most of us, life is a journey of reflection and self-discovery. Jessie Kanzer, actress and reporter turned author, joins us today to share her journey as a Russian Immigrant feeling lost in an alien world to her discovery of the Tao Te Ching that set her on the path to becoming the person she is meant to be. Listen to her grounding message that will not only benefit each of us personally but our loved ones as well.

About our Guest:

Jessie Kanzer was born in the Soviet Union. At the age of eight, she emigrated with her family to Brooklyn. She is a writer, former reporter and actress.

For years, Jessie felt like a failure, unable to hustle hard enough to "make it" either as an actress or in the rat race. Her childhood as a Russian immigrant in post-Cold War America heightened her insecurity and threatened her identity, desperate as she was to fit into a culture that was alien at best and hostile at worst. This loss and eventual reclamation of her sense of self sent her on a spiritual journey during which she discovered the Tao Te Ching, which changes everything for her. The Tao taught her that there was power in stillness and that all struggles come bearing gifts if you know how to recognize them. Her message will connect with listeners desperate to find grounding as we move into a new year filled with trepidation and no guarantees of a return to normalcy.

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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCI0_lGiZPq31VJ5w7hg7NuA

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These Courageous Conversations Can Save LGBTQ Teens: 4 Questions Every Parent & Ally Should Know

Tue, 08 Feb 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Jackie Simmons, the Director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society, joins Heather in this week’s episode. Jackie shares her story that drives her passion to make teen suicide a thing of the past. She also discusses the impact we can have just by having simple conversations with our "Power 20" that can help teens and adults alike to start thinking differently about their lives.

About Our Guest:

TEDx speaker, Radio Show Host, International Best-selling Author, Resilience Master, and co-founder of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society, Jackie Simmons is best known for her mission to “Wake Up The World.”

In 1995, blindsided by her 14-year-old daughter’s suicide attempt, Jackie entered a world of depression, addictions, medical mysteries, and deadly silences.

The journey into the world of mental health services and cultural taboos left Jackie feeling lost and alone.

“OK” on the outside, with “really, I’m fine,” her most frequent response to inquiries about how she was doing. Jackie hid her deep, psychic wounds from the world behind a façade of frantic entrepreneurial activity.

Then on August 3, 2019, Jackie’s now 37-year-old daughter, broke the silence. Jackie wasn’t ready. She calls August 3, 2019 the day her “purpose tapped her on the shoulder.”

Please join Jackie on her mission to make teen suicide a thing of the past. You may never know whose life you’ll save. www.TeenSuicidePreventionSociety.com

The Teen Suicide Prevention Society is a registered 501c3 – to make a donation visit: www.TeenSuicidePrevnetionSociety.org"

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#54 | The Importance of Inclusive Literature: LGBTQ Representation & Empathy Guidance for Parents

Tue, 25 Jan 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Heather is joined by Greg Howard, an author that writes novels aimed at middle-grade students. What is fantastic about Greg’s books is that he taps into stories about marginalized youth, specifically LGBTQ+. Listen as they talk about Greg’s books, his motivation, the effects his books have had on readers, and the importance of having representation for the often forgotten middle-grade readers.

Greg Howard’s Books

The Visitors - https://amzn.to/3tTzxtz

The Whispers - https://amzn.to/3nSqiG4

Middle School’s A Drag - https://amzn.to/3nTRS5Z

About our Guest:

Greg Howard was born and raised in the South Carolina Lowcountry where his love of stories blossomed at a young age. Originally set on becoming a songwriter, Greg followed that dream to Nashville, Tennessee, where he spent years producing the music of others before eventually returning to his childhood passion of writing stories. Greg writes about LGBTQ characters and issues as his focus is writing the kind of books he wishes he’d had access to as a gay kid growing up in the South. He currently resides in Nashville with his three rescued fur babies--Molly, Toby, and Riley. Greg’s latest middle-grade offering, The Visitors, will be published by Putnam/Penguin on February 1, 2022.

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3 Key Strategies for LGBTQ-Aligned Parenting: Reducing Stress & Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids

Tue, 11 Jan 2022 04:00:00 -0500

During a recent event, Podapalooza, I was fortunate to connect with two people that right away I knew I had to get them on the show.

The first guest is Amy Zwaigenbaum, and she is a transformational stress coach. And we all know we can do with less stress in our lives. She discusses some of the stresses we as parents, especially moms are facing and a few coping strategies we can all use.

My second guest is Joanne light and she really talks a lot about emotional intelligence and the importance of developing that as a skill. We are raising the future and Joanne works with parents to help their children develop resilience and empathy to become the leaders of tomorrow.

About our Guests:

Amy Zwaigenbaum

Niche: Professional Supermoms over 30 suffering from stress-related illnesses

I am a Reiki Master, Teacher, and Transformational Stress Coach who realized that society has taught women for longer than anyone can remember that they need to be a Supermom taking care of their homes, husbands, and children in addition to being professional career women to help support their families. This creates an impossible workload to accomplish that results in stress-related illnesses and a reduced enjoyment of life. I help people break free from stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and burnout. This is accomplished through individual and group coaching sessions, meditation classes, Cleaver Fever Cure classes, and workshops.

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Joanne Light

Niche: Parents of Tweens and Teens

Joanne Light is a Parent Empowerment Coach, mother and grandmother, and retired College administrator and counselor. She earned her doctorate in education and counseling from Boston University and chose to further her expertise through a life coaching certification and a certification in training in Emotional Intelligence. Her coaching practice currently focuses on the challenges and strategies parents need to navigate their parenting journey. Through research and personal experience, Joanne continues to pursue her passion for heart-centered coaching and for contributing to raise the next generation. Her appearances on radio shows, podcasts, and summits have enabled her to share with a diverse audience.

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#52 | Holiday Survival Tips for LGBTQ Families and Their Allies: Finding Courage & Calm

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 20:00:00 -0500

December 2021 - I thought it might be helpful to repost this episode (originally posted 12/2019). This time of year can bring out the best...and the worst...in all of us. What do you need to stay connected to yourself or have the energy and wisdom to create a peaceful, joyful home for the holidays? As we continue to shift and grow in this ever-changing world, I find that it can be comforting to hear a familiar voice or hear tried and true advice just so you can give yourself a tiny gold star. Lean it, listen up, and know that you are not alone!

Appropriately timed, in this episode about surviving crises during the holidays Heather Hester shares another snippet of her personal story and gives seven strategies that worked for her. Her ultimate goal is for the listener to feel supported and like they have options and choices for working through tough times that happen to occur during this most wonderful - and most hectic - time of year!

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#51 | 5 Ways Gratitude Strengthens LGBTQ Families & Builds Connection

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 03:00:00 -0500

To celebrate two years of podcasting, Heather shares a few brief thoughts on gratitude and the importance of a gratitude practice as well as a few of her personal examples.

Heather also teases what is coming in the next few months for her listeners - workshops, more personal ways to connect, and so much more! If you are not connected, click HERE to get on her email list!

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#50 | Why Embracing Imperfection Matters for LGBTQ Parents (Courage & Hope for Allies)

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 12:00:00 -0500

To celebrate her 50th episode, Heather talks about the biggest "aha" moments she has had personally and that she and Steve have had as a couple over the past five years.

This personal and lively recollection touches on family, faith, being "good," the idea of perfection, and more!

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#49 | Why Understanding LGBTQ History Is Essential for Parents & Allies (Mental Health & Resilience Edition)

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 12:00:00 -0500

October is LGBTQ History Month. This interview not only honors history, but also teaches little-known facts and pieces of the time before Stonewall. In this episode, Heather interviews author, broadcaster, and gay rights activist Robert C. Steele about his book - Banned From California: Jim Foshee - Persecution, Redemption, Liberation...and the Gay Civil Rights Movement.

Jim Foshee's story is as colorful as is it heartbreaking, and a powerful reminder of the importance of never forgetting the past. We see 70 years of LGBTQ history through the eyes of this gay activist. Instead of a dry, academic approach, Robert's reporting and telling of this story are captivating and allows us to experience LGBTQ history from a first-person perspective.

Learn:

* What the early gay liberation movement was like and how it paved the way for today's LGBTQ+ movement.

* Interesting facts about the first gay publication in 1954 and the use of code words.

* The levels of bigotry and homophobia gay Americans faced in the 1950s and 1960s and the typical consequences of coming out at that time.

Read a recent Publisher's Weekly review of Banned from California on Heather's website.

**We had some technical difficulties during this interview, so please be aware that the sound quality is not the usual.**

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#48 | Why Maxxie LaWow Is the Queer Superhero We Need Now (Hope & Representation in LGBTQ Animation)

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews creator, producer, and director, Anthony Hand, who gives a sneak peek into his feature-length animated film (anticipated release Spring 2024) Maxxie LaWow: Drag Super-Shero. Anthony's background in product design in Silicon Valley along with his love and appreciation for drag and childhood affinity for comic books melded together to create this never-told-before story!

Backed by both private investors and a fandom that meets at the intersection of LGBTQ+ culture, anime, and a comic book universe that other creators have yet to venture into, Maxxie LaWow first crowdsourced funding initiative just launched on September 15!

See the amazing 2-minute adventure reel and learn more about Maxxie HERE

Want to help fund this project? Learn more HERE!

As queer creators, Anthony and his team are creating a unique film that will appeal to:

*the queer community

*fans of animation

*fans of the superhero story

*fans of drag

Anthony is relatable and this unique and fun storyline is bound to leave you wanting to know more!

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#47 | 5 Ways Talking About Suicide Can Save LGBTQ Youth (Mental Health Guidance for Parents)

Tue, 14 Sep 2021 22:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Cara McNulty, DPA, President, Aetna Behavioral Health, a CVS Health Company. As a population health scientist, Cara is particularly passionate about our adolescents, teens, and young adults, supporting and advocating for them, and educating people of all ages on the importance of mental health well-being. Mental well-being is at the core of our health; separating physical from mental health only increases stigma.

Heather and Cara discuss:

* Suicide prevention and dispelling the myth that talking about suicide with your kids increases the risk. The reality is talking about suicide REDUCES the risk - having open conversations helps our adolescents/teens/young adults feel heard.

* Asking hard questions takes practice, but it doesn't need to be perfect. Remember to embrace the messiness!

* The importance of educating ourselves on mental health wellbeing.

"Without mental health well-being, physical health is impaired."

Resources from this episode:

* The Youth Risk Behavior Survey

* Mental Health Awareness Guide for Parents and Caregivers (Aetna/CVS Health)

* Suicide Prevention (CVS Health)

* Mental Health Awareness Guide for Young Adults (Aetna/CVS Health)

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#46 | How Peaceful Parenting Builds Resilience & Hope in LGBTQ Families

Wed, 11 Aug 2021 22:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Robbin McManne. Robbin is the author of The Yelling Cure, How to Stress Less and Get Your Kids to Cooperate without Threats and Punishments as well as the host of the award-winning podcast, Parenting our Future. In 2020 Robbin was named one of the top 50 moms in podcasting by Podcast Magazine!

Robbin understands the struggle of parenting. Like so many of us, she’s experienced the life of the overstressed and overwhelmed mom – until she found the world of Peaceful Parenting that she now lives and teaches. She loves to share how to get more cooperation and better listening all while building strong relationships and connection with our kids.

Heather and Robbin talk about listening to understand vs. listening to respond, affirmation vs. acceptance, and so much more!

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#45 | Why “Abomination” Messaging Hurts Mental Health—and What Courageous Parents Can Do Instead

Fri, 30 Jul 2021 20:00:00 -0500

In this solo episode, Heather starts a new tradition - a quarterly Q & A episode! She starts with two questions and some profound thoughts shared by a listener.

What parenting skills will help us 1. navigate challenges and 2. Empower our children in their process?

"...I would like more on integrating true Christian beliefs. I was taught that it is an abomination & my theological world has been rocked."

Heather details six skills to answer the first question. She shares her thoughts and personal experiences to answer the second.

Do you have questions?? Email me and I will answer in a future show!

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#44 | How LGBTQ Teens Are Coping with Anxiety & Depression—And What Parents Need to Know

Sat, 17 Jul 2021 20:00:00 -0500

In this solo episode, Heather discusses depression and anxiety in great detail. She answers questions like:

* What do we look for?

* How do we know the difference between typical teenage development and more serious issues?

* What coping tools will help my child manage depression or anxiety?

* What kind of professional support is available?

Here are a few of her favorite educational mental health websites:

National Alliance on Mental Illness

National Institute of Mental Health

The Trevor Project

Healthline - Mental Health Resources

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#43 | Stop Saying “They/Them Is Confusing”—Why Pronouns Are About Respect, Not Grammar

Wed, 30 Jun 2021 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather and her 15-year-old daughter Grace have a thoughtful and enlightening discussion about pronouns. Grace has wisdom far beyond her 15 years, and yet is acutely in touch with the teenage experience. If you are curious about how to use pronouns properly and what they mean, this is the episode for you!

Here are four tips from linguistics specialist, Dr. Kirby Conrad:

1. Slow down! Plan your speech. Meeting another’s need sometimes means talking carefully and thoughtfully.

2. If you’re correct, LISTEN! Do not talk over someone if they are correcting you. Be humble and cultivate awareness.

3. Don’t make excuses. Period.

4. If you mess up, correct yourself briefly and don’t make a big deal out of it. You are human, it’s going to happen.

You can listen to his podcast episode HERE

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#42 | What a Trans Dad Can Teach Us About Allyship, Family, and Mental Health

Wed, 16 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Trystan Reese, author of the brand-new memoir, How We Do Family. Trystan is redefining the idea of family. His memoir covers so many important issues, from trans pregnancy to adoption to LGBTQ parenting. More, it does so in such an inspiring—yet relatable—tone. Trystan’s voice shines through in the best way as he shares his story and lessons applicable to every family.

Trystan and Heather discuss the value of "doing the work." Using Brene Brown's wisdom, "If my healing is dependent on your response to my story, I'm not ready to tell my story," Trystan shares the difference between doing work from a scar or from a wound. Simple yet profound.

He has beautiful thoughts on allyship: "What allyship encourages us to do is to broaden the lens, is to use the power of empathy to see the world through other peoples' eyes and to be open and to be curious and to be humble; to hopefully move into seeing that we are all so deeply and profoundly interconnected to each other.

Trystan's book, How We Do Family, is truly a must-read! Written in such a relatable way, you will finish it with a deeper understanding of the trans experience specifically as well as a greater empathy for all who are in the LGBTQ community in general.

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#41 | Why Understanding LGBTQ History Builds Allyship & Courage for the Next Generation

Wed, 02 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather shares an overview of Pride history, including the Stonewall Riots, why the pink triangle is a global symbol, and how the rainbow flag became the symbol for LGBTQ+ pride. She begins with the following anonymous quote:

"LGBTQ pride was not born of a need to celebrate being LGBTQ, but our right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why there isn't a straight pride, be thankful you don't need one."

If this episode piques your curiosity about the history of Pride, check out some of Heather's favorite resources:

Websites

* them.

* The History Channel

* Britannica

Books

Gay & Lesbian History for Kids: The Century-Long Struggle for LGBT Rights

Pride: The Story of the LGBTQ Equality Movement

What was Stonewall? (One of the "What was? Who was? books)

Stonewall: The Definitive Story of the LGBTQ Rights Uprising That Changed America

We Are Everywhere

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#40 | Is Your Sex Talk Missing the LGBTQ Perspective? Here’s How Courageous Guidance Fixes That

Wed, 19 May 2021 04:00:00 -0500

This episode is a fascinating, eye-opening, and much-needed educational interview with Dr. David Huebner. Dr. Huebner is a clinical psychologist by training, and currently an Associate Professor in the Department of Prevention and Community Health at George Washington University (GWU), as well as the Co-Director of the Social and Behavioral Sciences Core at the Washington, DC Center for AIDS Research. His research examines how discrimination from families, schools, and communities impacts HIV risk and other health outcomes among sexual minority adolescents and young adults. Recently he has been working to design and evaluate interventions to support parents of LGBT youth, with the goal of helping parents improve their children’s health and well-being. Dr. Huebner is also committed to supporting community organizations’ efforts to engage in evidence-based practices – he has served on several local and regional HIV prevention community planning groups and was the Chair of the National Board of Directors for the Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network (GLSEN.)

"They are learning about sex every day. Do you want to be one of the voices in that conversation?" This is just one of the powerful questions Heather and Dr. Huebner discuss. He also shares:

* An in-depth education about HIV and how to prevent it.

* The four "buckets" of sexual information parents should discuss with all of their kids regardless of sexual orientation.

* What we need to share with our gay and bisexual boys specifically.

* Why we need to strike "THE TALK" from our parenting repertoire.

This interview is a very open discussion with LOTS of details! In fact, a portion was so detailed that Heather and Dr. Huebner decided to save it for bonus education. Stay tuned for how you can access it!

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#39 | 5 Harmful LGBTQ Myths Parents Still Believe & Courageous Ways to Respond

Sun, 02 May 2021 20:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather discusses biphobia and the five most common LGBTQ+ myths. Like transphobia, biphobia is common in both the heterosexual community and the LGBTQ+ community, making it exponentially more isolating and difficult to combat. Heather shares facts and ways that we all can be good allies and advocates.

She also shares the five most common LGBTQ+ myths and easy responses when you are faced with these myths.

1. Being LGBTQ+ is a choice.

2. Being LGBTQ+ can be "cured."

3. The parents did something wrong.

4. The Bible condemns being LGBTQ+.

5. Being LGBTQ+ is contagious.

Here are the links she talks about in this episode:

Trevor Project

Detailed definition of Biphobia

Robin Ochs website

Bisexual Index - Biphobia

Bisexual Index - Bisexuality

Strong Family Alliance

Bisexuality 101

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#38 | Cultivating Mindful Resilience: Guidance for Parents & LGBTQ Teens

Tue, 13 Apr 2021 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Andrew Jordan Nance, founder of Mindful Arts San Francisco whose mission is to provide literary and arts-based mindfulness instruction to youth at underserved San Francisco schools. He has been an educator for over 25 years and is the author of four mindfulness books.

Mindfulness is such a valuable practice for all human beings, and Heather has found it particularly helpful over the past four years.

Andrew shares practical advice on cultivating a mindfulness practice, as well as engaging stories and examples throughout the interview. A few of the topics include:

* Understanding mindfulness as connection with the mind, heart, and the body.

* Responding wisely vs. reacting blindly

* Incorporating mantras such as: Today may I be kind. Today may I be focused. Today may I be curious.

Here are links to Greater Good Science Center and Mindful Schools.

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#37 | 5 Key Insights Every Parent Needs to Support Their Non-Binary Teen (With Courage & Compassion)

Tue, 30 Mar 2021 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Rae McDaniel, founder of the online coaching community, The Gender Fck Club (awesome resources here), as well as Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago. They have been featured in The New York Times, Refinery29, and Women's Health.

Rae ultimately believes that gender transitions can be an exciting time filled with exploration and self-discovery. They are on a mission to build a world where gender transitions are celebrated just like having a baby, landing a new job, or getting married.

Rae shares:

* Their experience of coming out as queer to unsupportive parents in rural Louisiana, and their journey to finding a supportive community.

* What it means to be transgender and non-binary, including a primer on trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum.

* Their advice to parents who want to be supportive but are afraid of making a mistake.

* How your teen can find joy in their transition amid the reality that they may face rejection.

**HUGE apologies for the poor quality of the initial intro - hang on for the 20 seconds or so, it gets better!**

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#36 | A Substance Use Primer: Courageous Guidance for Parents Navigating Teen Addiction

Tue, 16 Mar 2021 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Richard Capriola, author of The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse. Richard has over two decades of experience working with adults and adolescents diagnosed with substance abuse disorders. The book includes an explanation of how drugs work in the teen brain, warning signs every parent should know about, what assessments and tests are important for a diagnosis and much more. This interview is a great primer for substance use and abuse!

Click HERE to visit Richard's website for more information.

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#35 | 5 Courageous Ways to Handle Homophobic Family and Stay True to Your LGBTQ Support

Sat, 06 Mar 2021 19:00:00 -0500

Heather responds to a listener's question about how to handle someone who is non-affirming with a tip and an example-filled "101" episode.

She discusses the importance of word choice, gives several general tips, and three detailed examples based on the listener's situation, how to respond to a Christian family member or friend, and how to handle those who are homophobic.

Heather references three powerful resources:

Queer Theology

Nathanial Totten Green blog

letter on PFLAG

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#34 | Why Pretending Everything’s Fine Hurts Your Mental Health (Stop the Toxic Positivity)

Wed, 17 Feb 2021 04:00:00 -0500

This short episode packs a punch! Heather candidly shares some recent experiences and her thoughts on hard days, as well as the serendipitous discovery of an article by one of her favorite thought leaders, Brene Brown.

HERE is a link to Ms. Brown's website and HERE is a link to one of her podcasts, Unlocking Us.

Heather also shares a mini-lesson on self-compassion, using an incredible resource from Positive Psychology as a guide. HERE is a helpful daily checklist!

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#33 | Behind Hook‑Up Apps & Homophobia: Real Insights and Allyship from a Gay Man’s POV

Tue, 02 Feb 2021 13:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews author and speaker, Britt East. While Britt's book, "A Gay Man's Guide to Life," is written for gay men by a gay man - it is an engaging, informative read that really sheds light on understanding gay men for those of us who are raising one!

Heather and Britt discuss societal homophobia, sustainable gay friendships, hook-up apps, and so much more! Britt offers meaningful advice for those of us who love and/or are raising LGBTQ kids:

"When you ask 'What can I do?' ask instead, 'Who can I be?'"

In one of the most powerful segments, Heather and Britt discussed the importance of modeling our humanity,

"...find a path to set down your trauma and heal so they can witness that healing in you, and thereby heal part of themselves..."

To gain a better understanding of the LGBTQ+ experience, Britt recommends brushing up on your LGBTQ history. Here are a few books to get you started:

The Gay Agenda

The Book of Pride

The Right Side of History

Learn more about Britt HERE

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#32 | Skip the Pamphlets—This is Real, Messy, Courageous Parenting of an LGBTQ Teen

Tue, 19 Jan 2021 13:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather responds to a listener's request for more information on changes during the coming-out process. She approaches her answer from two angles:

1. reviewing the stages of the coming out process

2. sharing specific instances from her family's experience

Connor and Steve weigh in as well with thoughtful responses from two very different perspectives.

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#31 | What if Struggle Isn’t a Setback? The Ally’s Guide to Finding Hope in Pain

Tue, 05 Jan 2021 13:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews life coach Kevin Nahai. Faced with extraordinary mental health and physical health challenges as a teen and young adult, Kevin tried many paths before digging into and healing the roots of his struggles. Through his journey, he created his own approach and methodology for whole-body wellness. He is now a coach for young adults working with them on:

* self-esteem and confidence

* body image

* anxiety and depression

* dating and relationships

His quest is bridging the gap between what we know in our heads and feel in our hearts.

Kevin shares so many wonderful nuggets that can help all of us on our journeys!

You can find Kevin through Instagram @KevinNahai

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#30 | How To Be the Ally Your LGBTQ Friends Actually Need

Tue, 08 Dec 2020 13:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather shares seven tips for being a good ally and why being a good ally to your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer loved one is so important.

1. Be a good listener

2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do your own research

3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

4. Speak up

5. Support equality

6. Learn the language

7. Offer financial support if you are able

Resources mentioned in the episode:

GLSEN - www.glsen.org

The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org

SAGE - www.sage.org

How to be an LGBTQ Ally - Next Avenue

LGBTQ Ally Tips - UCDavis LGBTQIA Resource Center

Ways to be an LGBTQ Ally and Supporter - Oprah Magazine

Being an Ally - Youth for Change

What a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like - Vox

Terminology glossaries - Human Rights Campaign, Lambda Legal, The Trevor Project, PLFAG

The Genderbread Person

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#29 | From Struggle to Hope: One Transgender Woman’s Path

Tue, 24 Nov 2020 13:00:00 -0500

Heather interviews Rochelle Pattison in this episode and it is packed with emotion, education, "a-ha" moments, and large doses of reality and love in equal measure! Rochelle shares her journey as a transgender woman with refreshing transparency. Her reflection on her life and the decisions that brought her to where she is now will not only increase your understanding but also make you want to cheer!

"Time is limited. Seize the moments to be accepting while we have them and be open...and be seen to be open."

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#28 | Is ‘Just Love Them’ Really the Answer? One Father’s Raw Reflections on Parenting His LGBTQ+ Kids

Tue, 10 Nov 2020 13:00:00 -0500

This episode is Just Breathe's one-year anniversary episode! Heather's husband Steve joins her (finally!) to share his perspective of the past four years. He opens up with incredible vulnerability and offers meaningful wisdom and advice.

Steve welcomes any questions and can be reached at shester@hesterdecorating.com.

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#27 | Why Struggle Isn’t the Enemy of Growth—It’s the Path (Resilience in LGBTQ Life)

Tue, 27 Oct 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather chats with Kirsten Beverley-Waters about her new book, Struggle Guru. Kirsten is a fitness instructor, devoted yogi, personal growth champion and coach, and LGBTQ public speaker. The guiding principles she shares come from decades of personal experience as well as experience coaching others.

You will love finding out how to access your struggle guru because if 2020 has taught us nothing else it is that we all struggle! You will also learn how to adjust your internal compass.

Everything Kirsten and Heather discuss can be found on Kirsten's website - www.kbwaters.com.

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#26 | Why Depression Awareness Is Essential for LGBTQ Youth & How to Offer Real Guidance (From a Trauma Therapist)

Tue, 13 Oct 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather highlights Depression Awareness Month in an interview with Maureen Kebo. Maureen is a well-being therapist and is certified in the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) which is a cutting-edge model for addressing attachment, relational, and developmental trauma. On a personal level, Maureen is extraordinarily special to Heather because she is her therapist of 5+ years.

Maureen imparts her wisdom, shedding light on and offering a basic education on depression especially as it relates to LGBTQ youth.

This interview is packed with valuable information and strategies that can be implemented right away.

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#25 | The Dangerous Myth of the Transgender “Trend”—What Families Need to Hear

Tue, 29 Sep 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews LGBTQ+ activist Susan Buss, LCSW. Susan is the president of her private practice, Big Sky Consulting, Inc where she sees adolescents and adults. She has 35 years of experience in social work, working in community agencies as well as teaching at the Master's level. In addition to psychotherapy, Susan facilitates different workshops working with transgender people, focusing on healthy dating, and overcoming hoarding. She is the proud mom of a transgender child.

Susan imparts her wisdom, shedding light on and offering a basic education on gender identity, specifically the transgender experience. She shares valuable resources which are all listed below.

Trans Lifeline 877-565-8860
PFLAG - transgender support
Human Rights Campaign - transgender resources
WPATH - World Professional Association of Transgender Health
Lurie Children's Hospital
The Gender Quest Workbook
The Survival Guide for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens
The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals
TomboyX - Hip and comfy clothes and undergarments for all sizes, gender neutral

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#24 | The Worst Advice We Got After Our Son Came Out LGBTQ (And What We Did Instead)

Tue, 15 Sep 2020 12:00:00 -0500

Heather's husband, Steve, was so blown away by Connor's three episodes that he suggested a recap episode to highlight the emotional journey and lessons learned from their perspective. They both also thought it would be great for all of the resources mentioned to live in one place.

Heather shares:

An in-depth look at specific moments during their journey
Which decisions were fantastic and which were underwhelming at best
Specific takeaways and thoughts to ponder
A look into her soul the soul of her family

Resources, resources, resources!!!

Need help finding a therapist for your child or yourself? THIS is a great place to start!
Support groups for you and your child:
PFLAG
Freed Hearts
The Trevor Project
National Council on Family Relations
Colage
Education - this is a sample - go to my website for MUCH more!
GLSEN
GSA Network
The Family Acceptance Project
Advocates for LGBTQ Youth
Understanding Mental Health and Substance Use Specific to your LGBTQ child
Mental Health - HERE and HERE
Substance Use and Abuse - HERE and HERE
How to find an Educational Consultant - HERE
Newport Academy
Want to start a gratitude practice - THIS article and THIS book have valuable guidance
My favorite meditation teacher and website
On making mistakes - This article and this Brene Brown YouTube video

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#23 | Connor Shares His Story—Part Three: What He Won’t Forget About His NYU Freshman Year—A Courageous LGBTQ Story

Tue, 01 Sep 2020 12:00:00 -0500

Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the third part of his story (taking us to the present day) with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since.

Connor shares:

His transition to his freshman year of college - life at NYU and in New York City
The struggles and triumphs of his freshman year
The positive AND negative coping strategies he experimented with as he continued his coming out journey
Lessons learned during COVID and his hopes and plans for the future

**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares stories of substance use, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you**

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#22 | Connor Shares His Story - Part Two: The Coping Mechanisms Connor Tried—and the Courage It Took to Get Here

Tue, 18 Aug 2020 12:00:00 -0500

Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the second part of his story with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since.

Connor shares:

His transition back home after being away for 7 months
The struggles and triumphs of his senior year of high school
The positive AND negative coping strategies he experimented with as he continued his coming out journey
His preparation to leave for college

**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares stories of substance use, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you**

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#21 | Connor Shares His Story - Part One: The Truth About LGBTQ Teen Struggles: Connor’s Story of Courage and Hope

Tue, 04 Aug 2020 12:00:00 -0500

Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the first part of his story with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. Heather and Connor experimented with a new format in this episode which allowed Connor to share his thoughts and reflections with Heather responding toward the end of the episode.

Connor shares:

Who he was and how he felt in the years before he came out
How he came out to friends and family and what it felt like
What it felt like the first few months and the different struggles he encountered

**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares his suicide attempt, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you**

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#20 | Why Boundaries Are Hard—and How LGBTQ Parents Can Master Them (Part 2)

Tue, 21 Jul 2020 12:00:00 -0500

This episode is part two of Heather Hester's interview with Diane Becker. Diane is a nationally certified juvenile treatment specialist, a licensed clinical social worker, licensed continuing education provider for social workers and professional counselors, and has been connecting with families and professionals for over 30 years. Diane and Heather have been friends for more than 15 years.

The main topic of this two-part interview is the subject of boundaries - what are they? how do you set them? what do they look like in different environments? Diane emphasizes the importance of connectedness, health and safety, and family.

Below is a list of the resources Diane mentions in the interview:

National Crisis Hotlines

International Association for Prevention of Suicide: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Domestic Violence: https://www.thehotline.org/

Find a health care provider:

GLMA: health professionals advancing equality: www.glma.org

Connections:

Parents: PFLAG www.pflag.org

Youth to 25y: Trevor Project: www.thetrevorproject.org

Information:

American Academy of Pediatrics: www.heatlhychildren.org

Strong Family Alliance: www.strongfamilyalliance.org

It Gets Better Project: www.itgetsbetter.org

NAMI: National Alliance For Mental Illness: www.nami.org

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#19 | Why Boundaries Are Hard—and How LGBTQ Parents Can Master Them (Part 1)

Tue, 07 Jul 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester interviews Diane Becker. She is a nationally certified juvenile treatment specialist, a licensed clinical social worker, licensed continuing education provider for social workers and professional counselors, and has been connecting with families and professionals for over 30 years. Diane and Heather have been friends for more than 15 years.

Below is a list of the resources Diane mentions in the interview:

National Crisis Hotlines

International Association for Prevention of Suicide: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Domestic Violence: https://www.thehotline.org/

Find a health care provider:

GLMA: health professionals advancing equality: www.glma.org

Connections:

Parents: PFLAG www.pflag.org

Youth to 25y: Trevor Project: www.thetrevorproject.org

Information:

American Academy of Pediatrics: www.heatlhychildren.org

Strong Family Alliance: www.strongfamilyalliance.org

It Gets Better Project: www.itgetsbetter.org

NAMI: National Alliance For Mental Illness: www.nami.org

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#18 | What the Church Got Wrong About Hell—And Why LGBTQ Allies Should Care

Tue, 23 Jun 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Julie Ferwerda, researcher and author of Raising Hell - Christianity's most controversial doctrine put under fire. This is an absolute must-hear if you've ever questioned the existence, possibility, or reality of Hell.

As parents, allies, and advocates of LGBTQ kids, teens, and young adults, if we've been raised in any kind of religion, one of the first fearful thoughts that pop into our heads when our kids come out is - are they going to hell?? And for all of the LGBTQ listeners, this fear is likely times a thousand!

Julie spent well over a year researching the Greek and Hebrew texts and interviewing dozens of experts to offer "compelling evidence historically, philosophically, and scripturally as to why the doctrine of hell is the biggest and most damaging deception of the modern church."

Here are the links for this episode:

Book - Raising Hell

Julie's website

Spiritual Terrorism by Boyd Purcell

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#17 | Why Understanding Neurodiversity Can Make You a Better LGBTQ Ally

Tue, 09 Jun 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather interviews Debbie Reber, NYTimes bestselling author of Differently Wired, and the creator of the Tilt Parenting Community and Tilt Parenting podcast. She is a speaker, mentor, educator, and book coach.

Debbie has created 18 shifts, or what she calls tilts, to help parents navigate parenting a child who is differently wired. Although her parent audience differs in some ways from Heather's, the tilts work brilliantly whether you are parenting a child who has ADHD, sensory issues, anxiety, or lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning.

"...we want to form, what I call, an uneasy alliance with that fear...so we can say, I see you, I know what you're trying to do, I appreciate you're trying to protect me - I've got this - and we want to come up with evidence for how that fear may not be true. We're trying to loosen up the grip of fear and open up to the possibility of what might be..."

Debbie's website, Tilt Parenting Community, and podcast are FILLED with extraordinary resources, and her Tilt Together Facebook group is an excellent place to connect with parents. Here is the link for Todd Rose's End of Average, which Heather and Debbie discuss in detail.

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Thu, 04 Jun 2020 20:00:00 -0500

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#16 | Why Fear Might Be the Biggest Barrier to LGBTQ Allyship (And How to Overcome It)

Tue, 26 May 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this short but powerful episode, Heather talks about two feelings that almost every parent of an LGBTQ child/teen/young adult experiences at some point or another - "when it feels scary" and "caring what others think."

She shares personal experience and wisdom that has helped her family and her over the past three years.

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#15 | A Hope Dealer’s Journey: From Queer Survival to Courageous Healing

Tue, 12 May 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester interviews Jen Slumac, author of Soul Not Skin. She is a mentor, educator, performer, and producer, and is known as a hope dealer.

"...care about ourselves, cherish ourselves, and learn how to honor other people's journey..."

Jen is in long-term recovery from alcoholism, a coping mechanism she used to survive as a queer woman in a world that told her she didn't belong. Her captivating storytelling exudes, as well as inspires, courage.

Jen's website is filled with incredible resources, and her new podcast, Just Say It, is raw, vulnerable, and real. Jen is truly engaging and refreshingly no BS!

She will also be doing virtual healing circles with Susan Cottrell (episodes 11 and 12), so be sure to check those out!

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#14 | You Can’t Be an Ally If You’re Burnt Out—Protect Your Energy First

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester returns to basics and discusses ways to protect your energy no matter what may be going on around you - a pandemic, a crisis with your child, or just the usual day-to-day ups and downs of raising teenagers!

Heather first looks at identifying the different ways your energy gets sapped, and then details tips and tools for strengthening your reserves and protecting them.

This resource lists five tools to help you "fill your cup" and keep it full.

This article explains the science behind visualization.

Here are five of Heather's current favorite affirmations (adapted from a Gabby Bernstein meditation that she loves):

1. All is well.

2. I am open to creative solutions.

3. I am guided. I am protected. I am loved. I am safe.

4. I move through my day with grace, wisdom, and light.

5. I choose to see joy.

Meditations:

Freedom from fear (Heather)

Positive Energy (Gabby Bernstein)

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#13| 5 Strategies to Support Your Teen’s Mental Health (LGBTQ Ally Edition)

Tue, 14 Apr 2020 12:00:00 -0500

Heather Hester interviews clinical psychologist Melanie McNally in this episode which is loaded with great tools and unique approaches to helping your teen or young adult manage their anxiety.

In addition to working with adolescents face-to-face, Dr. McNally utilizes a unique online platform of her creation called Destination YOU. Check it out HERE!

She is also the author of a coming of age novel, Counting Dragonflies, that beautifully weaves family and mental health struggles and triumphs throughout.

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#12 | No Apologies: Confronting Harmful Faith-Language Toward LGBTQ Individuals (Part 2)

Tue, 31 Mar 2020 11:00:00 -0500

This episode is the conclusion of Heather Hester's interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org. More incredible information is waiting for you!

Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people.

Listen in with an open mind and open heart!

Here are the links mentioned in the show:

www.freedhearts.org

Tedx Talk

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#11 | No Apologies: Confronting Harmful Faith-Language Toward LGBTQ Individuals (Part 1)

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester shares an insightful interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org, mother of 5 (2 of whom are queer), advocate, and beautiful human being. Susan shares stories with authenticity and depth of knowledge that makes you want to learn more!

Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people.

Listen in with an open mind and open heart!

Here are the links mentioned in the show:

www.freedhearts.org

Tedx Talk

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#10 | Recognizing Anxiety & Depression in LGBTQ Youth: Guidance for Families

Tue, 03 Mar 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode of Just Breathe, Heather Hester discusses mental health specific to our LGBTQ kids starting with some tough questions:

1. Why are depression and anxiety increasing in our kids when overall awareness is also increasing?

2. What are the underlying potential causes that ALL youth have in common?

3. What shifts are needed across the board ie. family/school/professionals?

Heather takes a look at the signs and symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as statistics specific to our LGBTQ kids. She talks about the importance of awareness, and being available and then takes apart the "why" as well as the "what we can do."

This episode will not only help you understand LGBTQ-specific adolescent mental health better, but it will also give you tips and information that will help you support your child.

My resources page is a great place to start! I have my favorite websites, articles, and books listed here. I refer to it often, so take a look around. I also add to it monthly, so keep an eye out for new information!

The Trevor Project is a go-to resource for saving young LGBTQ lives.

A personal favorite, Psychology Today allows you to search for all types of therapists using different filters. Love this one!

The Administration for Children and Families will allow you to search for youth and family service agencies in your region. (When in doubt, Google "youth and family services near me.")

An all-around good resource, The National Alliance on Mental Illness provides a plethora of information.

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#9 | Hope & Healing: A Father’s Journey and Guidance for Suicide Prevention

Tue, 18 Feb 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester shares a powerful interview with Jay Reid, a successful businessman, author, and devoted husband and father who lost his youngest child to suicide in March of 2018. His authenticity, his story, and his mission will move you to talk to your kids and join his efforts to end teen suicide.

While this episode is a must-hear for all parents; parents of LGBTQ youth please know there is very valuable information here. My next episode will focus specifically on the different mental health issues our LGBTQ kids struggle with and how we can best support them.

Here are the links mentioned in the show:

www.chooselife.org

Tedx Talk

The Trevor Project is an incredible resource for ending LBGTQ suicide. Check them out here: Trevor Project

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#8 | Courage to Prioritize Yourself: Create an Aligned and Resilient Life

Tue, 04 Feb 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester discusses the importance of self-care. While massages, mani/pedis, time with friends, and exercise are all beautiful self-care strategies, Heather uses this episode to dive deep into the "whys" and "hows" of a well-rounded self-care plan. She talks about aligning the following areas:

* Physical Health

* Fitness

* Relationships

* Career

* Finances

* Mental Health

* Spirituality

Self-care is important for everyone but can be especially valuable during difficult or uncertain times. Heather discusses how self-care became vitally important as she and her husband supported Connor as he struggled with anxiety and depression as well as impulse control and dangerous behavior. She learned that she had to separate herself enough so that every minute wasn't a crisis, and sometimes remove herself altogether to refill her cup so to speak.

Essentially, self-care is putting on your own oxygen mask before you assist those around you - you can only help others when you are the best version of yourself!

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#7 | Hey Parents, This is What Your LGBTQ Teen Wants You to Know!

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In episode 7 Connor Hester joins his mom, Heather, for a lively and informative discussion about the different topics parents should and should discuss with their LGBTQ teen. Filled with personal stories, tips, humor, and very direct thoughts from Connor, this episode is both delightful and one you don't want to miss!

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#6 | Parenting LGBTQ+ Kids: A Survival Guide

Tue, 07 Jan 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In episode 6 Heather Hester discusses the different types of support available and how to find what is right for you, the parent. Loving and raising an LGBTQ teen is hard; allow yourself to be supported.

Filled with personal stories, educational information and tools, and mental shifts, Heather encourages listeners to be vulnerable, explore their options, and allow themselves to be supported.

She looks specifically at Faith/Spirituality, Family, Friends, and Professional Support options (ie. therapy, counseling, etc.)

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#5 | How to Navigate Holiday Stress With Your LGBTQ Teen (Guidance & Resilience)

Tue, 10 Dec 2019 12:00:00 -0500

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#4 | Think It’s Only Your Teen Coming Out? Why Parents Need a Process, Too (LGBTQ & Guidance)

Tue, 26 Nov 2019 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, Heather talks about the six stages that parents go through when their child comes out to them as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or any other sexual orientation or gender identity.

The stages are shock, denial, guilt, expression of feelings, making decisions, and true acceptance. She explains each clearly and without judgment, weaving her own stories throughout. This episode provides insight and tools to help you through your process and on your journey!

We hope you enjoy this episode as you work through your own stages! Hit subscribe to get new episodes right away!

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#3 | Embrace the Messiness of Supporting Your LGBTQ Teen (With Resilience & Hope)

Tue, 05 Nov 2019 04:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Heather Hester shares the story of her family's journey and outlines specific reasons why the coming out process can be messy. She encourages the listener to embrace it and gives tips and tools to help along the way.

We hope you enjoy this episode as you breathe into the messiness! Hit subscribe to get new episodes right away!

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#2 | 6 Stages of the Coming Out Process Every LGBTQ Ally & Parent Should Know

Tue, 05 Nov 2019 03:00:00 -0500

Heather Hester discusses the six stages of the Cass Model of Coming Out (coming out of the closet or coming out as gay) and shares personal experiences along the way. This episode is loaded with great information and links in the show notes to help you understand and support your teen through this process.

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#1 | How One Family’s Story Sparked a Movement to Guide Parents and Allies of LGBTQ Kids

Mon, 21 Oct 2019 19:00:00 -0500

In this inaugural episode, Heather Hester lays the framework for this exciting podcast. Who is the podcast for? What is she going to talk about? WHY is she talking about this? Filled with raw personal stories, educational information and tools, and mental shifts, Heather uses this episode as a springboard to transforming the LGBTQ conversation.

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