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On the Power of Sisterhood & a Mother's Legacy // with Amy & Nancy Harrington

Carmelita Tiu — Sat, 17 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Host Carmelita Tiu interviews sisters Amy and Nancy, founders of The Passionistas Project, about their journey, sisterhood, and empowering women.

Key Topics:

[00:01:30] Introduction to Amy and Nancy
Founders of The Passionistas Project and their sisterhood journey.
[00:05:15] The Legacy of Their Mother
Discussing the impact of their mother’s teachings and her creative influence.
[00:12:45] Handling Conflicts Among Siblings
Insights on their minimal arguments and strong family bond.
[00:20:00] The Origin of The Passionistas Project
How their careers in Hollywood led to creating a supportive community for women.
[00:25:30] Building an Inclusive Sisterhood
Details on their network and its focus on business, personal growth, and social impact.
[00:35:00] Encouraging Vulnerability and Support
Stories of women in the community lifting each other up during tough times.

Tune in for an inspiring conversation on the power of sisterhood and following your passions!

Guest Spotlight: Amy & Nancy Harrington

Sisters, Amy and Nancy Harrington, founded The Passionistas Project out of a deep desire to empower women around the world. Both co-founders walked away from high-profile jobs in Hollywood to work together. Amy was the Vice President of Post Production and Visual Effects for all feature films at Warner Bros, working on movies like the "Harry Potter," "Matrix" and "Batman" franchises. Nancy left the ad agency where she created Academy Award campaigns for Miramax. Now Amy and Nancy shine a light on the positive stories of self-identified women and non-binary people through their media company.

They have conducted over 1600 interviews including red carpet events and more than 65 one-on-one oral histories for The Interviews for the Television Academy Foundation with pop culture icons like Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Rita Moreno, Lily Tomlin, Laverne Cox, Carol Burnett and many others. They have also produced interviews for the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame including a sit-down with Mick Jagger.

They were handpicked by OWN to be part of the VIP digital press corps covering "Oprah's Lifeclass" during Winfrey's tour of the U.S. and Toronto. Amy and Nancy founded The Passionistas Project in 2018 and through their podcast, online sisterhood and Power of Passionistas summit, they strive to inspire women to follow their passions and join forces in the fight for equality for all.

Connect with The Passionistas:

Website: https://www.thepassionistasproject.com/about
Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepassionistasproject
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thepassionstasproject/
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/ThePassionistasProject/
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thepassionistasproject
YouTube: https://bit.ly/PassionistasYouTube

About Your Host, Carmelita Tiu

Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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From Business to Ballots - A Mompreneur's Path to Politics // with Tamie Wilson

Carmelita Tiu — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0600

In this episode, host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu, welcomes Tamie, a passionate entrepreneur and political candidate, who shares her journey from being a single mom and business owner to running for Congress. Tamie discusses the importance of women's voices in politics, the unique challenges women face in leadership roles, and her commitment to bringing compassion and civility to government.

Content Highlights:

[02:10] Tamie’s Background:
Tamie shares her background as a single mom, entrepreneur, and granddaughter of a WWII veteran.
Discusses her experience in business and the impact of the pandemic on her career.
[05:25] Pivot to Politics:
Tamie explains her transition into politics and her motivation to bring civility and the female perspective to politics.
[08:45] The Importance of Women in Politics:
Tamie talks about how being a mother qualifies women for leadership roles, and how women’s unique perspectives can lead to progress and community improvement.
[15:30] Challenges and Double Standards:
Tamie addresses the double standards women face in politics, including scrutiny of their appearance and personal lives, and the importance of perseverance and setting boundaries against negativity.
[22:50] Compassion and Empathy in Leadership:
Tamie speaks about the importance of compassion and empathy in her political campaign.
[28:40] Encouragement for Aspiring Female Leaders:
Advice to women considering entering politics or leadership roles.
The significance of stepping up and taking action without waiting for perfect conditions.
[34:10] Final Thoughts and Inspiration

Guest Spotlight: Tamie Wilson

Tamie Wilson, an entrepreneur, single mom and an advocate for all Ohio families, who has made it her life’s work to help people live happier healthier lives. Tamie is also the 2024 Democratic candidate running for the U.S. House of Representatives for Ohio’s 4th Congressional District.

Tamie's "Get Things Done" and her no-nonsense approach to community service led Tamie into politics, especially after she had to shut down her business due to COVID-19. For Tamie, representing the people of Ohio's 4th Congressional district is about addressing the challenges facing Ohioans, most of which she has experienced personally.

With a robust professional background in sales, marketing, counseling, and leadership roles within small business and major corporations, she has helped to retain and create thousands of jobs over the last 23 years. Her proactive “Get Things Done” mindset and common-sense approach to community service and creating a flourishing economy naturally propelled her into the realm of politics,

In addition, she is deeply involved in work with veterans. Her grandfather was a WWII U.S. Veteran. As a community volunteer, Tamie has been active with the DCPAAA (Delaware Citizens Police Academy Alumni Association), Eagles, UCC (Unity Community Center), LWV (League of Women Voters), the American Cancer Society, the American Heart Association, End CAN, Kiwanis, and other efforts to prevent child abuse and programs to create healthy living.

To learn more and support Tamie, visit her campaign website: tamiewilson.com , follow Tammy on X (@tamieuscongress) and join the conversation on Facebook.

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Speaking Up & Uncomfortable Conversations // with Rayna Rose Exelbierd

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Dismantling Family Privilege // with Nicole Rodgers of Family Story

Carmelita Tiu — Fri, 21 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Carmelita welcomes Nicole from Family Story to discuss the concept of family privilege and the importance of broadening our understanding of what constitutes a family. Together, they explore the societal, cultural, and policy implications of adhering to a narrow definition of family and offer practical advice for raising children to be accepting and inclusive.

Highlights and Next Steps:

- Challenge assumptions about family structures in your daily life.

- Introduce diverse family representations in media and books to your children.

- Use inclusive language when discussing families.

- Get involved with community organizations that support diverse family structures.

- Advocate for inclusive policies that recognize all types of families.

Guest Spotlight:

Nicole Rodgers is the Founder and Executive Director of Family Story, an organization founded in 2015 to address and dismantle family privilege in America and create cultural and political strategies to advance equity for all types of families. Nicole is an entrepreneur, an author, a futurist (sometimes), and an expert on the changing family, who specializes in communications and research in the public interest.

Connect with Nicole Rodgers and Family Story Project

www.familystoryproject.org
Instagram: @familystoryproj
X: @familystoryproj or @nsrodgers

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Speaking Up & Uncomfortable Conversations // with Rayna Rose Exelbierd

Carmelita Tiu — Thu, 11 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0600

Tough topics. Whether it's a disagreement with a coworker, or tackling uncomfortably conversations with our kids, it can be hard to know how to approach things.

Today's episode focuses on communication and conversations, exploring the impact of what we say or don't say on our lives and relationships.

0:50 - Meet our guest, Rayna Rose Exelbierd, a motivational speaker, author, and advocate for kindness.
4:20 - Rayna shares her experience with uncomfortable conversations, highlighting the importance of remaining calm and listening actively.
11:15 - Discussing the necessity of asking specific questions to foster open communication with teens and children.
15:40 - Addressing the misconception of sheltering children from challenging topics and the importance of age-appropriate discussions.
21:05 - Encouraging parents to praise their children, reinforce their strengths, and instill a sense of self-worth.

Thank you for tuning in! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and follow us on Instagram @knowthembethem. Here's to empowering women and raising resilient daughters!

Guest Spotlight: Name Here

Rayna Rose Exelbierd is the Chief Empowerment Officer, CEO of The Rose Grows. For the last decade, she has worked as a motivational speaker using her personal story to share lessons of rejection, resilience, and working with people who are different. Rayna emphasizes the importance of conversation and building relationships with other communities.

She has spoken to over a quarter of a million people. Rayna Rose has even more extraordinary stories about teens who made a difference under her mentorship. Through communication and leadership training, students have changed laws, received scholarships, launched businesses, and so much more!

About Rayna Rose Exelbierd:

therosegrows.com
Instagram: @therosegrows.trg
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raynaroseexelbierd/
Check out her books about individuality and kindness, The Girl Who Wore Two Different Shoes and The Girl Who Said Hello to Everyone!

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle, retreat host. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat.

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Grief, Loss & Parenting // with Shameka Williams

Carmelita Tiu — Sun, 03 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Grief is not exclusive to death. Guest Shameka Williams, founder of Those Without Mothers, and From Grief to Love, shares her journey with grief and the lessons she learned, including:

Giving yourself permission to grieve
How grief, loss, transition intertwine
What can happen if we don't process our grief
The difference between processing feelings and stewing in them
How grief is like a weed

To learn more about Shameka, visit www.thosewithoutmothers.com, or find her on Instagram @shamekaspeaks, @thosewithoutmothers, @thebipolarpodcast, and @fromgriefwithlove.

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Kids, Tech & the Good Enough Digital Parent // with Katie Davis

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Kids and technology use – we’ve all asked ourselves, how much screen time should kids have? Am I giving my kids too much? When should they get cell phones? The list goes on.

Today's guest, Dr. Katie Davis, is an Associate Professor at the University of Washington (UW) and Director of the UW Digital Youth Lab. For nearly twenty years, Dr. Davis has been researching the impact of digital technologies on young people’s learning, development, and well-being.

She is the author of three books, including Technology’s Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up (March 2023).

Tune in to hear:

Why asking "Is screen time is good or bad?" isn't the right question
Her two-step tool to supporting healthy tech experiences
What self-directed tech experiences are - what to look for and what to avoid
A quick reframe that'll ease your mind about your tween or teen's tech time
How we can all be a Good Enough Digital Parent

It's 25 minutes you'll be glad you listened to!

To connect with Katie:

Website: https://katiedavisresearch.com/
Instagram: @katiebda
X (Twitter): @katiebda
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kedavis12/
Sign up for the Technology’s Child newsletter at https://katiedavisresearch.com/

Episode Resources

Technology’s Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up, by Katie Davis

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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Puberty Power! Empowering Girls to Navigate Change with Confidence // with Konika Ray Wong

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 20 Jun 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Remember getting your first period? Did you feel self conscious, confused, out-of-sorts…just like a lot of body changes around that time?

It’s time to flip puberty positive! In this episode, Konika Ray Wong chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about puberty, all the awkwardness that comes with it, and how to help our daughters change the scripts around puberty and feel empowered as they navigate the transformation that happens throughout their tweens and teens, even into their 20’s.

Listen to hear:

Swaps to flip puberty positive
The importance of separating puberty from sexual maturity
How puberty is a privilege
Why normalizing change is important
And more!

Guest bio:

Konika Ray Wong is a science teacher and mom on a mission to flip puberty positive. She founded GPS with her daughter during the pandemic when it was obvious the world needed more girl power and science education!

For over two decades, Konika has been a kindergarten through sixth grade science educator. She has a Masters in Education and California teaching credential from the University of San Francisco and a Bachelor of Science in Biology from Virginia Polytechnic University. A Common Sense Media certified educator who also attended the Institute for Social and Emotional Learning, she is passionate about body literacy, destigmatizing puberty, and building communities of empowered learners that confidently celebrate growth.

She recently published her first children’s book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods". Imagine a world where every little girl felt strong and confident in her body and every child with a uterus celebrated their superpowers. This empowering book, a guided story for kids ages four and up to read with a grownup, is the first step in that direction. In "One in a Million," children meet a cute uterus character that takes them on a journey that demystifies the process of ovulation and the menstrual cycle. The kid-friendly characters and simple scientifically accurate text set a positive tone about periods without shame or stigma.

Connect with Konika:

Website: www.girlpowerscience.com
Instagram: @girlpowerscience
Buy her book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods" on Amazon

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Unpacking Positivity & Processing Emotions // with Jen Rafferty

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 07 Jun 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Do you love learning about how our brains work, and what makes us tick? Do you wonder what positive psychology is, and whether you’ve got a positive attitude or toxic positivity? Me too!

In Ep. 55, host Carmelita Tiu chats with Jen Rafferty - an educator, speaker, and founder of The Empowered Educator - about brains, positive psychology, toxic positivity, the importance of feeling our emotions, and so much more.

Tune in to learn about:

What positive psychology is, on a high level
The difference between positive psychology and toxic positivity
Gratitude bypasses, aka positivity bypasses
Why people fall back into patterns and habits that aren’t good for them
And more pithy neuroscience goodness!

Connect with Jen Rafferty:

Website: https://www.empowerededucator.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenrafferty_
FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/theempowerededucator/
Podcast: Take Notes with Jen Rafferty

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Our Kids & Sexual Assault - How to Prevent, Respond & Support // with Claire & Dr. Sadohl

Carmelita Tiu — Fri, 26 May 2023 05:00:00 -0600

What do you do if your daughter shares that she’s been sexually assaulted? Do you know how you would react? Do you know if your reaction would truly help or hinder your child?

In this powerful episode, Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma Unstuck, share their thoughts on prevention, response, and support. Listen to hear:

What we can do create a safe space for our kids to share
Things that can undermine our efforts to create open communication
How to respond in the moment, in a way that supports your child
Words to use as you and they process the events, the retelling and the journey of healing
If, when, or how to share their experiences with others
Foundational things parents can do to help our kids be less of a target

Guest Spotlight: Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma Unstuck

Claire and Dr. SaDohl (suh-doll), are two sexual trauma specialists in Atlanta, Georgia. To heal their own trauma while helping others do the same, they have dedicated their professional and personal lives to healing. They have over 39 years of combined sexual trauma recovery experience, both in the therapist chair and on the couch as clients.

Their channel and business is called “RESET: Trauma Unstuck” and they launched “The FOF or Freak Out FREE Podcast on Valentines Day where they match survivors, helpers, and allies with resources for sexual trauma healing to increase confidence and handle life…The Freak Out Free Way.”

Connect with RESET Trauma Unstuck, Dr. Sadohl and Claire:

Email: freakoutfreepodcast@gmail.com
Instagram: @resettraumaunstuck
Tiktok: @resettraumaunstuck

And check out The F O F Podcast – you’ll find expert resources for sexual trauma healing to increase your confidence and handle life…The Freak Out FREE Way. https://www.podpage.com/freak-out-free-with-claire-dr-sadohl/

Episode Resources

Saprea is an organization that provides FREE retreats to survivors AND educational materials to parents/educators. Saprea exists to liberate individuals and society from child sexual abuse and its lasting impacts.
Dr. Sadohl and Claire did a wonderful episode with Chris Yadon of Saprea. Listen to the episode here on Spotify, Podpage, or Anchor.
Ep. 53 - Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue & 7 Things to Tell Our Daughters

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About the Host, Carmelita Tiu

Mom, partner, life coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Head to carmelitatiu.com to connect and learn more.

Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue & 7 Phrases to Tell Our Girls (Encore) // with Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 05 Apr 2023 05:00:00 -0600

(Ep. 34 Encore -- because this topic is THAT IMPORTANT).

April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids.

While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are - and how to talk about these things without instilling fear or anxiety.

Also, 7 phrases that our daughters need to hear, to help open up the space for safe conversations about sexual assualt.

Listen to hear:

The definition of sexual assault and consent
How to bring up this topic with your daughters, including using current events and pop culture to help facilitate conversations
7 things to tell your daughters for more open communication, and help them feel aware about sexual assault and empowered by the love and safety you provide

Other episodes to check out:

RAINN.org
24/7 Free Support Hotline - 800-656-HOPE (4673)

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How to Navigate & Challenge Beauty Standards // with Val Monroe & Debbie Saroufim

Carmelita Tiu — Thu, 30 Mar 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about how to navigate beauty culture.

We cover:

The importance of diversifying what you see and media literacy
The myth of “figuring it out” and having it all together
Normalizing making informed choices
Social media - the good, the bad, and how much time Debbie spends on it ;)
The duality of our emotions - you can feel dislike something and that doesn't mean it needs change
Awesome parting thought from Val about what real beauty is

To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach. And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.

Want to feel happier about your appearance—especially as you age—you might like reading more about what Val has to say about it. Subscribe for free to How Not to F*ck Up Your Face at valeriemonroe.substack.com.

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Unpacking & Embracing Gender Equity (Encore) // with Annie Warshaw

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 01 Mar 2023 05:00:00 -0600

What is equality? What is equity? What is gender equity? How can we embrace all of these?

In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.

In this episode, Annie:

Answers the question, "What is gender equity?"
Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it
Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully
Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender roles
Talks about the importance of having a list of shared family values

To learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work:

for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagram
for information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.com

Other references:

International Women's Day

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How to Raise Resilient Kids // with Dr. Kate Lund

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Resilience – we know we all want our kids to have it. But what is it really, and how do we foster it in our kids?

In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Host Carmelita Tiu chats with Dr. Kate Lund, Psy.D., author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life. Dr. Kate shares her unique viewpoint on how to help our tweens and teens build resilience and provides various strategies for how we can equip our kids to thrive, through all of life’s ups and downs.

Listen to hear Dr. Kate share:

How to define resilience
What really listening to our kids looks like
Tips on sharing struggles and normalizing challenge
Why to focus on the process as opposed to the outcome
How we’re wired to have negative thoughts, and how we can respond as parents

About this week’s guest

Kate struggled as a child with a medical condition called Hydrocephalus which made some of the typical activities of childhood challenging. Her parents' unwavering belief in their child built an inner resilience that led to a successful career and life despite her challenges.

She worked as a radio reporter while in college interviewing some notable figures such as Barbara Bush

and Ivan Lendl the number one tennis player in the world at the time. She was also a White House intern for President Bill Clinton. As a licensed, clinical psychologist, she has worked with major hospitals, schools, and hundreds of parents. Her international bestselling book Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life is the ultimate guide to helping children build resilience and thrive in all areas of life.

Kate’s mission is to help parents bring out the best in their kids to create the leaders of our future.

She’s also launched a new podcast called “The Optimized Mind” - reflecting on what we need to think about in terms of being at our best.

In This Episode:

The Optimized Mind Podcast
Connect with Dr. Kate Lund on LinkedIn
Check out her course, The Seven Pillars of the Resilient Child

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Positive Body Image, Body Diversity & Clothes That Fit // with Pam Luk

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 08 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Body Image is an important topic to me because our relationship with our bodies and our body image is complex, especially for women and girls, and it lasts a lifetime.

The societal challenges to healthy body image don’t stop…and just like any relationship, having a healthy relationship with our bodies typically requires ongoing attention.

My guest today, Pam Luk, is intimately familiar with how the world can make you feel uncomfortable in your skin, and what we can do about it. She’s passionate about body diversity and empowering kids to have a healthy body image.

Listen to hear:

Why Pam started Ember & Ace
The importance of clothes and activewear that fits plus sized kids
How to talk with kids when they're struggling with their bodies
What to add to your social media feeds
How we sabotage our efforts to get our kids to believe that all bodies are good bodies
Media literacy and how to navigate messaging

About Our Guest, Pam Luk

Pam Luk is the founder of Ember & Ace, an athletic wear brand for plus size kids. Growing up playing sports, Pam learned firsthand the importance of finding active wear that fits. Not finding it is one of the main reasons kids quit sports. Ember & Ace launched their first five-piece essentials collection on February 2nd 2023. Visit emberandace.com to learn more.

To learn more about Pam and her work, connect with her here:

Website: www.emberandace.com
Instagram: @emberandace
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/emberandace

References in this Episode:

Debbie Saroufim - Ep 37 / Defying Diet Culture and Ep 38 / Tough Truths & Tips
Emily Lauren Dick - Ep 24 / Body Positivity & Fat Phobia

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The Parent Compass: How's Yours Working? // with Cindy Muchnick

Carmelita Tiu — Wed, 01 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Have you ever stopped to question the version of success that you may be pushing your kid to achieve? Do you wonder if you’re over-involved in your tween or teen’s life, or not enough? Do you want your kids to get straight As and secretly get a thrill if they say “I think I want to go Stanford or Harvard or Yale”? And then you kind of feel anxious about the pressure and what that means for them?

As parents, we all have an internal compass that guides us as we raise our kids. And it today's competitive world, it's more important than ever for parents to raise their kids with intentionality and grace.

Today’s guest, Cindy Muchnick, co-wrote the book, The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World to help us navigate questions like this, and help us calibrate our parent compasses towards our kids’ wellbeing.

Listen to hear:

The downsides of over-involved parenting
When and how to nurture self-advocacy in your tweens and teens
A tip for teen self-advocacy that Cindy’s never shared before!
The ask that can forge new connections with your tween and teens
What parents need to do before looking at how they're raising their kids

And more nuggets of wisdom!

About Our Guest, Cynthia Muchnick

Cindy, a graduate of Stanford University, is an expert in the college admission process: she got her start in admission offices before opening a private study skills and college counseling business in Southern California, which she ran for over fifteen years. As an Assistant Director of Admission for the Illinois Institute of Technology and the University of Chicago, she screened and reviewed over three thousand applications, interviewed prospective students, and served on the admission committee to evaluate borderline applicants and appeals cases. Then, as a private counselor, she helped hundreds of high school students navigate their academic journeys, including course selection, study skills, time management, and college applications. Since closing her private educational practice in 2011, Cindy has focused on public speaking to student, parent, school and business groups on a variety of education-related topics.

Over the course of her career, Cindy has written numerous books; The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World (Familius/Workman/Hachette, 2020) is her tenth. Her other titles include The Best College Admission Essays (co-author, ARCO/Peterson’s, 1997), The Everything Guide to Study Skills: Strategies, Tips, and Tools You Need to Succeed in School (Simon& Schuster, 2011), Straight-A Study Skills (co-author, Simon& Schuster, 2012), The Everything College Checklist Book (Simon& Schuster, 2013), Writing Successful College Applications: It’s More than Just the Essay (Peterson’s Publishing, 2014), and four other books (Simon & Schuster and Penguin Random House). Her essays have appeared on Zibby Owens’ Moms Don’t Have Time To Write Medium platform, Your Teen Magazine, College Confidential, Raising Teens Today, The Los Angeles Times, and The Mom Experience, among others.

Cindy holds a bachelor’s degree in Political Science and Art History from Stanford University and a master’s degree in Liberal Studies from Nova Southeastern University. Some of the other twists and turns in her multifaceted career include her stints as a campus tour guide and volunteer student coordinator for Stanford’s Office of Undergraduate Admission and a tenth-grade history teacher at The University School, in Ft. Lauderdale, FL. She is a professional speaker and panelist on the subjects of education, study skills, parenting, and mental health in tweens and teens and has been interviewed as an expert on dozens of talk shows, radio and news stations, podcasts, magazines, and newspapers.

Cindy raised her family in Newport Beach, CA, and moved to Menlo Park, CA, in 2018, where she resides with her husband and is parent to two teens who are still at home, a college student, and a college graduate who is a teacher. For further information, or to inquire about a potential speaking engagement, feel free to visit her website at www.cynthiamuchnick.com.

To learn more about Cindy and her work, connect with her here:

Website: www.parentcompassbook.com
Facebook: FB/TheParentCompass
Instagram: @parentcompass

References in this Episode:

The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World

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The Power of Tiny Habits // with Julie DeLucca-Collins

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 05:00:00 -0600

We’re still early in 2023 and if you’re like me, you’re still jazzed about goals, intentions, resolutions, etc. Julie DeLucca-Collins joins host Carmelita Tiu to talk about the power of tiny habits, and how small habits can build into big results.

Listen to hear:

How motivation doesn’t work when creating habits, and what does
The recipe for creating tiny habits that stick
The importance of celebrating even the small wins

About Our Guest

Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services, the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast®, and her weekly Radio Show Confident You featured on a global talk radio network.

As a Business and Life Strategist Coach, Julie helps women business owners launch or grow their businesses, get clients, be productive, and achieve their dreams. Julie helps her clients create simple habits to achieve goals and change their lives.

Julie is a sought-after public speaker, author, trainer, and course creator. She is certified as a coach in Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, Holistic Coach, and Tiny Habits. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification. Julie enjoys helping her clients build mental fitness and improve their mindset to be at peace and improve peak performance. Julie is also the #1 best-selling author of the book Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).

Julie has been honored with the "25 Most Powerful Minority Women in Business Award." by the Minority Enterprise Executive Council in Washington, DC. Julie and her Podcast co-host/producer husband Dan reside in Vernon, CT, with their fur babies, Yogi Bear, Junior, and Simba.

To learn more about Julie and her work, connect with her here:

References in this Episode:

Tiny Habits Academy
Tiny Habits - The Small Changes That Change Everything, by B.J. Fogg

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Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Fri, 11 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Do you find yourself beating yourself up when you don't reach a goal...even if you have very good reasons for not attaining it? Are you saddled with "shoulds" and little perfectionist gremlin voices that make you feel like a failure whenever a goal isn't met?

In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu talks about how to cut through the negative self-talk and guilt by asking a key question -- "Am I living in alignment with my values?"

She also covers 4 alternatives to traditional "goals" -- perfect for times in your life when you need flexibility and a SMART goal feels too rigid:

setting intentions
"holding space"
anti-goals
no goals at all

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How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 19 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0600

(Encore of Episode 05)

“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right?

We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?

Listen to hear:

The different social norms for boys and girls
Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
Sample phrases illustrating how to interrupt
What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

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Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?

While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.”

The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.

I love you no matter what.
You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you.
How do you feel?
Gosh, I love my ______ (body part)! What is your favorite part of your body?
Oh yeah? Tell me more.
How can you be a light in this situation?
You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!
How will you be the change you want to see?
I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______.

To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:

Website: www.freshstartfamilyonline.com
Instagram: @freshstartwendy
Podcast: The Fresh Start Family Show
Got a strong-willed child? Check out the free guide, "How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity" and "10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening."
You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass .

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Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares:

What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
How these terms relate to one another
Why acceptance is not the goal
The importance of using pronouns
How to support your child while being careful not to push them

Guest Bio:

Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework.

Email: elainefarristherapist@gmail.com

In this episode – references and additional resources:

The Trevor Project
Previous Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:
Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35)

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Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0600

In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.

Some highlights:

The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids
Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens
3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day
Healthy ways to cope

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches.

Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

To learn more about Cai Graham:

Visit www.caigraham.com
Follow her on Instagram @caigraham
Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox
Her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox

Check out Cai’s videos:

Breathing Techniques: www.caigraham.com/breathing
3 Questions to Ask Your Teen: www.caigraham.com/threequestions
Tapping (EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique): www.caigraham.com/tapping

In this episode – references and additional resources:

Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them related to this topic that you may find helpful:

Brad Yates

YouTube channel for Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), aka tapping
Brad Yates’ book for kids, “The Wizard’s Wish”

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Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 14 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm? What leads to self-harm becoming an option?

(Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like. For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children. I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.)

In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond.

Some highlights:

What self-harm is & isn’t
The roots of tween & teen self-harm
The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm
The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming
What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

To learn more about Cai Graham:

Visit www.caigraham.com
Follow her on Instagram @caigraham
Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox
Check out her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox

In this episode – references and additional resources:

Nami.org - National Alliance for Mental Illness
Learn more: https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Common-with-Mental-Illness/Self-harm
Crisis Textline: Text CONNECT to 741741
Learn more: https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/self-harm/#types-of-self-harm-2

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Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 31 May 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Ok, who of us hasn’t cringed a little bit, thinking about "having the talk" with your kids? Why does this awkwardness exist, and can we make it less awkward for our kids, so there’s a healthier dialogue about sex and bodies and relationships?

In Episode 39, Sarah Sproule unpacks all of this with host Carmelita Tiu, sharing what parents can do to create an open atmosphere, build healthy attitudes towards sex and their bodies, and empower their daughters with tools to craft healthy relationships.

Some highlights:

Where the awkwardness around sex-related topics comes from
When and how to start talking about sex
Why it’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it
A script for have an open conversation with older kids about sex, when you haven’t had one before
The importance of living the way healthy feels

Guest Bio:

When Sarah was 11 she was afraid she was only growing one breast and didn’t know who to turn to for help.

Now as mother of three teens, with two decades experience as a therapist and a masters in sexuality studies, Sarah uses her skills as an occupational therapist and sex educator to ensure every parent and caring adult knows how to nurture deeper connection with their growing kid(s).

Because no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries or their knowledge about sexuality.

… and yes Sarah eventually grew two breasts roughly the same size.

To learn more about Sarah Sproule:

Visit www.sarahsproule.com
Follow her on Instagram @iamsarahsproule
Find her here on Facebook
Check out Sitting in a Car, her podcast about sexuality relationships and consent for parents of teens & little kids
For a guide on how to talk to little kids about sex and making babies, visit www.sarahsproule.com/bio

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Diet Culture (Pt 2) - Tough Truths, Tips & Takeaways // with Debbie Saroufim

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 24 May 2022 05:00:00 -0600

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem.

Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day.

In a continuation of a conversation from Episode 37, Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Our Bodies, Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about what parents can do to help empower their daughters with healthy body relationships, and immunize them to diet culture and fat phobia.

We cover:

The ways we might inadvertently reinforce fat phobia
Understanding diets as disordered eating, and the scary stats connecting diets to eating disorders
What we can say to give them a healthy sense of self, when we ourselves may still be working through our own body issues
How to address your daughters feelings of frustration around her body
The importance of normalizing all body shapes and ages, and that your body will change throughout your life

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Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Your Body // with Debbie Saroufim

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 17 May 2022 05:00:00 -0600

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem.

Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day.

Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about how we can navigate diet culture and embrace our bodies, and escape from shame and guilt cycles.

We cover:

Her journey to becoming a body relationship coach
How to redefine our relationships with our bodies
What food rules are, and how we can identify and challenge them
The need for a broader definition of health
Why fat is not a bad word

Guest Info

To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on INstagram @bodyrelationship_coach. And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.

In this episode – references and additional resources:

Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick (Ep. 24)

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Media Literacy & Questioning What We Consume // with Alicia Haywood

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 10 May 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Alicia Haywood, Executive Director of iSpeakMedia, chats with host Carmelita Tiu and unpacks what media literacy is and explains how we can build media literate kids (it’s easier, in some ways, than you think)!

She shares:

Questions to ask
A playful way to invite dialogue about media literacy
How simply modeling can help ensure your child becomes media literate

To learn more about Alicia Haywood and the ISpeakMedia Foundation, visit www.ispeakmedia.org, follow @ispeakmediafoundation on Instagram, and follow @ispeakmedia on Twitter. You can also find Alicia on LinkedIn here.

In this episode – references and additional resources:

Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:

Books and links:

Can’t Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel, by Jean Kilbourne, Ed.D
So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids, by Diane E. Levin, Ph.D and Jean Kilbourn, Ed.D
Digital Wellness Lab
Common Sense Media’s 5 Questions Students Should Ask About Media

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Emotional Suppression & How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up (Encore) // by Ezza Mustaffa

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 03 May 2022 05:00:00 -0600

If you’re like me, you believe on some gut level that burying and ignoring your emotions isn’t healthy - and the research continues to back that.

A study from the University of Texas found that when we avoid our emotions, we’re actually making them stronger — which can create serious implications for your body and mind, including depression, aggression, low self-esteem, and physical problems like headaches, insomnia, heart disease, intestinal problems.

Another thing to consider, is that opening up can go both ways. We want to hold space for our sons and daughters, but when we’re feeling off, we make a mistake, or have big feelings, it’s also OK to share these with them in an age-appropriate way. It’s only by knowing our hardships and obstacles that our kids will understand how resilient, persistent, and courageous we are.

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Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing.

Today's article, "How to Get Kids to Open Up," comes from Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages.

Learn about:

The importance of a safe emotional environment
Reptilian brain?!
5 tips on how to create a safe space

Ezza Mustaffa received her Masters of Education in Community Counseling from Loyola University Chicago. She works with individuals of all ages and couples, presenting with a wide range of concerns. Ezza approaches therapy from a relational, integrative, and multicultural framework with skills grounded in mindfulness-based and evidenced-based approaches.

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Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue + 7 Phrases to Say to Our Girls // by Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0600

April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids.

While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are.

It's so hard to know when to talk about these topics - and how to talk about them without instilling fear or anxiety. So I tried to find ways to raise the topics organically, what to say as a baseline of understanding, and other helpful phrases that our daughters need to hear.

Listen to hear:

The definition of sexual assault and consent
How to bring up this topic with your daughters, including using current events and pop culture to help facilitate conversations
7 things to say to your daughters, to foster open communication, and help them feel more empowered and aware about sexual assault going forward

Other episodes to check out:

RAINN.org
24/7 Free Support Hotline - 800-656-HOPE (4673)

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Post-Divorce Wisdom: What Not to Say & What We'll Teach our Daughters // with Heather McGinley and Laura Koo

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different.

In Ep. 33, Part 2 of a conversation that began in Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned.

To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out:

www.thirstythepodcast.com
Instagram: @thirstythepodcast

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Post-Divorce Wisdom: Lessons All Moms Can Learn // with Heather McGinley and Laura Koo

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different.

In Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned.

Some key takeaways:

It’s helpful for kids to have a sense for the work that parents put into giving them the life that they have. Tough moments can create opportunities for them to step up and be helpful.
Sometimes divorce allows someone to be a better parent. It may seem counterintuitive, but a toxic relationship can suck up an outsized amount of energy.
When you as a mom are able to come from a happy and healthy place, that positively impacts all of your relationships.
Let your kids see your emotions. It can open the door to talk about big feelings.
Normalize that idea that romantic relationships have seasons and phases, just like friendships, and may not last forever. Help them understand when and how to let go in a healthy way.
Teach your daughters what a healthy relationship looks like.
Remember that we are not merely the roles we play. The role of “mom” is just one part of our selves.

To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out:

www.thirstythepodcast.com
Instagram: @thirstythepodcast

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Mindset, and Why Modeling It Matters // with Mary Beth Henry

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 05 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0600

How do we define "mindset"? Why does it matter, and how do we model a positive, growth mindset for our kids? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.

Mary Beth Henry touches on:

The basics - what growth mindset and fixed mindset are
Why modeling a growth mindset is so important
The downsides of a negative, fixed mindset
How to provide perspective to help offset your kids' negativity

Plus, you can hear one of Cat's funny podcast missteps. So many trials and hiccups behind the scenes...she shares one that involved her daughters.

For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry

www.mary-beth-henry.com
Instagram: @if.she.can.you.can
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry
Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on your favorite podcast platform
Her newest program is called Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp. It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest. Next session starts May 9th 2022.

Other references in this episode:

What did we get from our parents that we are passing on to our kids? Check out Ep. 30, Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning it Around // with Dr. Stephanie J. Wong.
Ep. 27, Positive Psychology and Rewiring Your Brain For The Better // with Mary Beth Henry

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Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning Things Around // with Dr. Stephanie Wong

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0600

How did your parents treat you, and how does this impact how you treat your kids? If you saw the Pixar movie “Turning Red”, you couldn’t help but consider these questions.

In this week’s episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie J. Wong chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and breaks down the concept of generational patterns.

Stephanie shares:

What generational patterns are
How we can better identify them
What a cultural genogram is – I found this website to be helpful: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/genograms
How to get deeper self awareness, especially in relation to our kids
A perspective-shifting approach that can help us deal with opposition and pushback from our kids
The one reminder she wants to share with us all

Stephanie Wong is an Asian American, licensed clinical psychologist, entrepreneur, and founder and host of the award-winning, Color of Success Podcast. She works in private practice with Tech professionals, most of which are ethnic minorities, and at a hospital, serving military veterans. Her training in clinical interviewing has led to fireside chats with diverse podcast guests about advancing their careers and addressing mental health and cultural identity. Dr. Wong is also a keynote speaker in academic, entertainment, and corporate settings, sharing her expertise in Asian American mental health, diversity training, and the treatment of anxiety, depression, substance use, work-related stress, and relationship and cultural concerns.

To learn more about Dr. Stephanie Wong and the award-winning The Color of Success Podcast:

www.colorofsuccesspodcast.com
Instagram: @color_of_success
Twitter: @DrStephJWong
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/colorofsuccess
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/color-of-success-podcast

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Being a Work In Progress & Challenging Expectations // with Julia Marie Hogan Werner

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 22 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0600

How often do you stop to question the expectations you have for yourself? How do we figure out what's a healthy expectation, and what's not?

Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Marie Hogan-Werner, as she discusses challenging expectations and talks about her new book, “A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You.”

Julia shares:

What inspired her to write the book
Why we need to challenge expectations
How to spot faulty expectations
How she’s redefining “work in progress”

Follow Julia Hogan, LPC here:

www.juliamariehogan.com – you can find her new book here, as well as on Our Sunday Visitor and Amazon.
Instagram: @juliahoganlcpc
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Positive Psychology: Rewiring Your Brain for the Better // with Mary Beth Henry

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 15 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0600

What is positive psychology? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.

Mary Beth Henry shares:

What positive psychology is
How it differs from toxic positivity
Tools to incorporate into our and our kids’ lives
The one thought she wants listeners to know!

For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry

www.mary-beth-henry.com
Instagram: @if.she.can.you.can
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry
Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast platform
Her newest program is called Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp. It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest. Next session starts May 9, 2022.

Other references in this episode:

Finding your daughter’s strengths: listen to Ep. 7 with Wendy Synder - 10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter, and Ep. 22 with Lacey C. Clark! - Self-love and Second-guessing Society’s Definition of Success
VIA Character Strengths Assessment - free online test to help identify your strengths

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Breaking the Gender Bias: Top Tips for Moms // by Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Every year, International Women's Day chooses a theme -- a specific call to action in an effort to further gender parity.

This year's theme is #breakthebias -- calling attention to the ways that explicit and implicit biases negatively impact women. And while we celebrate International Women's Day on March 8, we're challenged to use the rest of the year to make progress on ending gender bias.

While we know what bias is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells it all out -- what gender bias is, how it shows up in women's lives, and what we can do about it.

In this episode on bias against women and girls, we cover:

The definition of gender bias
The most common biases that women face
The bias that ties into imposter syndrome
4 ways women can move the needle on gender bias in the workplace
7 tips for helping reduce the negative impact of gender bias on our daughters
One bonus tip for how to break your biases

Other references in this episode:

Ep. 26 - Cynthia Changyit Levin - "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World"
Ep. 11 - Annie Warshaw of Mission Propelle - Unpacking Gender Equity

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On Moms as Advocates: "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World" // with Cynthia Changyit Levin

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 01 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0600

As moms, we are powerful creatures. We know we have an impact on our children’s lives, and our families.

But have you ever wondered, “How can I be a part of even bigger changes, bigger movements?”

In today’s episode, Cynthia Changyit Levin, author of From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started - discusses advocacy, motherhood, and points us in the direction to make even broader societal changes.

Cynthia:

Gives us a simple definition of advocacy
Shares how she got started
Outlines the benefits of advocacy and tween & teen girls
Demystifies the process
Empowers us to get started!

For more info and to follow Cynthia Changyit Levin:

www.changyit.com
Instagram: @ccylevin
Twitter: @ccylevin
On International Women’s Day, March 8, you’ll be able to order From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started on Amazon and your favorite bookstores. But before March 8, 2022, you can order an autographed copy at www.changyit.com/books

Other references in this episode:

Sunrise Movement- Youth org for climate justice – https://www.sunrisemovement.org/
UNICEF UNITE - youth clubs for global health – https://www.unicefusa.org/startaclub
RESULTS – www.results.org
FCNL (Friends Committee on National Legislation) – https://www.fcnl.org/
Citizens’ Climate Lobby – https://citizensclimatelobby.org/
"The Path: Creating Your Mission Statement for Work and For Life” by Laurie Beth Jones

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Tackling Tricky Friendship Scenarios // with Jessica Speer

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0600

In this episode, author Jessica Speer returns to chat with host Carmelita Tiu, to share more pointed and practical advice on navigating specific friendship scenarios.

Jessica discusses:

Understanding friendship breakups
Navigating toxic people
handling things when friends grow apart
And more!

Other references:

Episode 18: Grappling with Girl Friendships

To learn more about Jessica Speer and her work:

Visit www.jessicaspeer.com
Instagram: @jessica_speer_author
Facebook: @https://www.facebook.com/JessicaSpeerAuthor
Twitter: @SpeerAuthor
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-speer-46b6457/
If you’re interested in social-emotional development, friendship and parenting topics, Jessica has a free monthly eNewsletter. Signup on her website, www.JessicaSpeer.com. New subscribers receive a PDF of the Friendship Pyramid from BFF or NRF as well as social emotional resources.

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Understanding Body Positivity & Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 15 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0600

What does representation have to do with body image? What's body positivity, and what's body neutrality? Are you fat-phobic? Do your words and use of the word "fat" inadvertently feed into fat culture?

In this week’s episode, body positivity expert Emily Lauren Dick delves into all of these questions and more.

Emily explains:

The origin of body image issues
The difference between body positivity and body neutrality
What parents can do to help their daughters love their bodies
Fat phobia and fat talk, and how to avoid feeding into thin culture

For more info and to follow Emily Lauren Dick:

www.happydaughter.com
Instagram: @realhappydaughter
Find Emily’s Book, Body Positive: A Guide to Loving Your Body on www.happydaughter.com , Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and other booksellers.

Other references in this episode:

Ep. 22 with Lacey C. Clark! on Self-Love and Second-Guessing Society’s Definition of Success
Ep. 19 with Neysa Page-Lieberman - Building Monuments to Resemble and Represent Us

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6 Things to Tell Your Daughter At Valentine's Day // with Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 08 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Host Carmelita Tiu tells the story of the worst/best valentine she ever received, and shares the truths she wants to share with her daughters, especially around this time of year.

Comments? Email her at knowthembethemraisethempodcast@gmail.com -- and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram.

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Self-Love and Second-Guessing Society's Definition of Success // with Lacey C. Clark!

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 01 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0600

In this episode, writer, cultural producer, storyteller and empowerment speaker, Lacey C. Clark!, shares her story, why empowering girls is important to her, and how we can help our daughters feel empowered through their teen years and beyond.

Lacey discusses:

How to ignite the spark of self-love
Focusing and celebrating strengths
How to shift from comparison thinking
Her biggest piece of advice for parents
And more!

To learn more about Lacey C. Clark! and her work, visit www.phenomenally-u.com, or follow @laceycclark on Instagram.

Other references:

Episode 7 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them: “10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter” by Wendy Snyder of A Fresh Start Family, which talks about focusing on one thing that your daughter can celebrate, as a step towards feeling more confident

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Girls and Eating Disorders...and Moms // with Ashley Carpentier

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 25 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Ashley Carpentier shares her insights and advice for parents when it comes to eating disorders, body image, healthy relationships with food, self talk, and role modeling.

Ashley covers:

Myths about eating disorders
Signs of a possible eating disorder
Why to avoid the word "diet"
Healthier approaches to food
What parents can do to support their daughters

To learn more about Ashley Carpentier and her work:

Visit www.ashleycarpentier.com
Instagram: @ashleyranaecarpentier
FB: www. facebook.com/groups/learningtoloveyourselfcommunity
Ashley also recently published her Self-Care Journal! The Self-Care Journal simplifies taking care of yourself so you can incorporate the practices daily. The journal provides space to process your daily routines including: self-care activities and times, tracking emotions, food, and movement. Self-Care ideas are included. The simpler the self-care, the more we can take care of ourselves. Let's revolutionize self-care! https://form.jotform.com/213004202308133

If an eating disorder is affecting you or someone you care about, please seek out support and additional information. There are organizations that are ready and willing to help.

The National Eating Disorders Association has many resources at nationaleatingdisorders.org. Call or text the NEDA Helpline at 800-931-2237 for support, resources, and treatment options for yourself or a loved one. Helpline volunteers are trained to help you find the support and information you need.

Here's a list of other organizations that help individuals struggling with eating disorders, as well as provide support for families and caregivers.

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Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts & Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 18 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0600

What's a cognitive distortion? How do I manage my or my daughter's negative thought spirals? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan.

Julia explains:

What cognitive distortions are, and dives deeper into
Catastrophizing
All or nothing thinking
Magical thinking or mind reading
Personalizing
"Should" Statements
Others not mentioned but that are widely recognized include:
Mental Filter
Disqualifying the Positive
Overgeneralizing
Emotional Reasoning
Here's an article that helps explain them: https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/
What we can do to retrain our brains
How we can help our kids break negative thought patterns

Check out Julia's past episodes on Self-Care & Authentic Leisure and Boundaries!

Follow Julia Hogan, LPC here:

www.juliamariehogan.com
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Julia is the author of the book, It's OK to Start with You, published by Our Sunday Visitor (it’s also available on Amazon). Her next book titled, A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You, will be published in Spring 2022.

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Building Monuments to Resemble and Represent Us // with Neysa Page-Lieberman

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 11 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0600

Have you ever thought about how the art in museums, our monuments, and public art – are mostly made by and for men? And did you know that underrepresentation can foster feelings of inferiority and perpetuate implicit biases? How do we teach our girls to recognize and understand why this is, so they aren't subconsciously limiting themselves by what they see?

In Episode 19 of “Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them,” Neysa Page-Lieberman, Monuments to Movement co-founder and co-artistic director, and a curator, lecturer, writer, educator, tackles representation in public art. She chats with host Carmelita Tiu about her work, the Monuments to Movement project, and the importance of seeing public works that reflect the diversity and richness of our communities.

To learn more about Neysa and Monuments to Movements (M2M):

Visit www.monumentstomovements.org
Instagram: @neysa_m2m and @monuments2movements
To learn more about M2M’s inaugural monument initiatives (4 in total) – visit https://www.monumentstomovements.org/collaborations

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Grappling with Girl Friendships // with Jessica Speer

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 04 Jan 2022 03:15:00 -0600

Mean girls. Queen bees. Wannabes. We've all felt or witnessed the ups and downs of female friendship, especially during those tween and teen years.

In this episode, author Jessica Speer chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and explains why tween & teen girls have friendship struggles, sheds light on friendship truths, and shares tips and advice on how moms can help their daughters navigate these challenging times.

Jessica discusses:

The basis of friendship evolves as kids grow up
How friendship struggles aren’t unique to girls; boys have them too
The importance of a growth mindset when it comes to friendship
What secondary trauma is and how if we overreact, our kids will stop sharing with us
How to encourage self-awareness through dialogue, quizzes, and ongoing conversations about friendship
Why we should avoid labeling kids
Teaching your daughter that you don’t have to be friends with everyone, not everyone is going to like you, and you’re not always going to be included

To learn more about Jessica Speer and her work:

Visit www.jessicaspeer.com
Instagram: @jessica_speer_author
Facebook: @https://www.facebook.com/JessicaSpeerAuthor
Twitter: @SpeerAuthor
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-speer-46b6457/
If you’re interested in social-emotional development, friendship and parenting topics, Jessica has a free monthly eNewsletter. Signup on her website, www.JessicaSpeer.com. New subscribers receive a PDF of the Friendship Pyramid from BFF or NRF as well as social emotional resources.

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On Reframing Failure, Sports Metaphors & Me Celebrating You // from Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0600

The end of the year always triggers look-backs and goal-setting for the future. If you're like most moms and high achievers, the new year comes with excitement, some trepidation, and some guilt that your previous year's goals didn't play out the way you thought they would (or guilt because not everything on your to-do list has been checked off).

In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu shares some thoughts on how to shift our mindsets around failure (in big or small ways):

Celebrate the big no’s, an idea from Greg McKeown;
Release ourselves from a narrow, fixed definition of “win”
Choose progress over perfection.

These quick tips nudge us to show ourselves some compassion, and allow us to celebrate how far we've come.

Take the time to reflect and celebrate the progress you've made this year!

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Rethinking Creativity, Stepping In & Stepping Back // with Melissa Ohlman-Roberge (Mom Who's Been There)

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 21 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0600

What does it mean to be creative? How do we raise good kids? What does a mom of 3 grown daughters wish she knew back then, or know for sure now?

My guest this week, and the second featured “mom who’s been there”, is Melissa Ohlman-Roberge. Melissa is the mom of 3 daughters, ages 29, 26 and 24 as well as their dog, Zoe, and is partner to husband Kevin, who dabbles on the stage when not running his staffing business. She calls herself a “creative instigator” who thrives on the energy of the creative process as it unfolds in real time. She has worked as a theater artist and educator for more than 30 years. In addition, Melissa is a visual artist focusing on mixed media collage and printing.

In this episode, Melissa shares her hard-earned wisdom as an educator and mom, and the importance of creativity as an everyday approach, as well as tips for moms of tween & teen girls today.

Melissa shares:

What her parenting approach was like, and her relationship with her daughters now
The importance of true creativity and appreciating the process
What she learned from raising her three daughters
Her best advice for moms of tweens & teens today

For more about Melissa Ohlman-Roberge, head here:

Instagram: @MORcreates
Facebook: look up “MORcreates”
Additional links: https://linktr.ee/MORcreates

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How to Overcome Feeling Overwhelmed // with Liz Pessaran

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Feeling overwhelmed feels awful. The to-do lists pile up, healthy habits are put on the backburner, and exhaustion and burnout start to creep in. It feels stressful and out of control - but how can we reign in the overwhelm and start thriving again?

In this episode, therapist and life coach Liz Pessaran tackles this and more with host Carmelita Tiu.

Liz shares:

Why moms often feel overwhelmed
The importance of self-trust and how it differs from self-abandonment
Why you should practice “Hell Yes” and “Hell No”
Using your calendar to help you fight the overwhelm
And more!

To learn more about Liz Pessaran and her work as a therapist and life coach:

Visit www.lizpessaran.com
Instagram: @lizpessaran
Facebook: @lizepessaranlifecoaching

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From Bullied to Brave & Bold // with Aime Hutton

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 07 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Bullying can take many forms -- and we’re all too aware of the damage it can cause. In this episode, hot Carmelita Tiu chats with coach, mentor, Youth Diversity Advisor, writer and speaker, Aime Hutton about how she survived being bullied, her current work, and more.

Aime shares:

Her experience of being bullied
Her source of solace during that time
What she wishes went differently
Tips for parents to support their kids
Her work to help empower girls
A favorite quote - "Be bold, be brave, be yourself."

To learn more about Aime Hutton and her work, including her 1:1 mentoring with tween/teen girls:

Visit www.inchbyinchempowerment.com
Instagram: @inchbyinchempower
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ibiempowerment

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Top Tips from a Life Coach for Teens// with Nicole Nepa

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 30 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with Nicole Nepa, a certified life coach with a B.A. in psychology and an M.S. in mental health & school counseling, who specializes in coaching for teens.

Nicole describes her coaching journey, and shares:

The upside of not fitting in
How she helps teens cope
The importance of quietude and stillness for our kids
Why your kids should see you napping and taking breaks

For more information about Nicole, including her coaching programs for teens:

Visit risingphoenixlifecoaching.com
follow her on Instagram @risingphoenixlc
Rising Phoenix Life Coaching (facebook)

Episode references:

Brene Brown, “The Gifts of Imperfection”

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Pen, Paper & Gratitude: A Happiness Hack // by Kate Brenton

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 23 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Gratitude Journaling is touted as a good thing. But why? And how does it work? Kate Brenton's short and thoughtful article sheds some light on the matter.

Especially at busy and potentially stressful times (like the holidays!), small life hacks that are sure to have a positive impact can be lifesavers.

To learn more about Kate and her work, visit:

Website: katebrenton.com - where you can sign up for her newsletter and learn more about Root to Rise: a six week coaching alignment to clear confusion and stabilize your vision for what you want to create in your life.
Instagram: @katembrenton
Twitter: @katebrenton
Podcast: Rebirth - Stories of women change lives by living their own

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Unpacking Gender Equity // with Annie Warshaw of Mission Propelle

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 16 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0600

What is gender equity? In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.

In this episode, Annie:

Answers the question, "What is gender equity?"
Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it
Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully
Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender roles
Talks about the importance of having a list of shared family values

To learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work:

for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagram
for information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.com

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Confident & Grounded Daughters In a Social Media World // with Charlsey Childers

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 09 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Charlsey Childers, self-worth and confidence coach, is back with more actionable advice and wise words to help moms bolster their self-worth and raise confident daughters.

Check out Charlsey's previous episode here: Women, Self-Worth, and Raising Authentic Daughters

Charlsey and host Carmelita Tiu discuss:

3 ways to start boosting your self worth right away, including doing something every day that brings you joy!
Dealing with the specter of social media and helping your daughter navigate that landscape (and what that has to do with The Three Little Pigs!)
3 ways to support your tween/teen as they traverse through adolescence

Other references:

Cool Moms in Tech article about Instagram and body image
James Clear's Atomic Habits

To learn more about Charlsey Childers and her work:

Visit www.charlseychilders.com - there, you can download her free guide “10 Ways to Defeat Self-Doubt in 10 Minutes” and see what else she has in store!
Instagram: @charlsey_childers

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:: Here's to strong women -- may we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them. ::

Women, Self-Worth & Raising Authentic Daughters // with Charlsey Childers

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 02 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Can you relate to this? You have so much to be grateful for - good relationships, a good job, good friends, good health. But still, you don’t feel happy -- you don't feel like you’re enough.

In this episode, Charlsey Childers, a self-worth and confidence coach, explains why she became a coach, why women and girls struggle with self-worth, and how moms can help themselves and their daughters feel confident, worthy, loved, and show up authentically in life.

Charlsey shares:

We are all born fully accepting of ourselves
What causes low self-worth in women & girls
How moms can help daughters show up authentically and feel worthy and loved

To learn more about Charlsey Childers and her work:

Visit www.charlseychilders.com - there, you can download her free guide “10 Ways to Defeat Self-Doubt in 10 Minutes”
Instagram: @charlsey_childers

Other resources/good stuff referenced in this episode:

Ep. 007 - Wendy Snyder's "10 Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters"

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Freedom, Responsibility & Trust in Tough Times // with Cheryl Spalding (Mom Who's Been There)

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 26 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0600

What if your daughter decided to move out at 16? Our first “mom who’s been there” guest is Cheryl Spalding, a midlife empowerment coach. Now a mom to two daughters in their 20’s, Cheryl and host Carmelita Tiu talk about raising girls through tough times, what worked for her, and more.

Cheryl shares:

What her parenting approach was like, and her relationship with her daughters now
How she handled her daughter moving out in her teens
The importance of trust and reasonable boundaries
The one thought she wants to share with all moms

Some key takeaways: Find allies you can rely on to help you through hard times. Allow freedom with reasonable boundaries. Instill in your daughter the trust that in her freedom she'll make the right decisions.

Listen for more nuggets of wisdom!

Follow Cheryl Spalding here:

www.cherylspalding.com
Instagram: @liveyourbestlifenow.coaching
Facebook: live your best life now

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10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter // by Wendy Snyder of A Fresh Start Family

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?

The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.

I love you no matter what.
You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you.
How do you feel?
Gosh, I love my ______ (body part)! What is your favorite part of your body?
Oh yeah? Tell me more.
How can you be a light in this situation?
You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!
How will you be the change you want to see?
I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______.

To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:

Website: www.freshstartfamilyonline.com
Instagram: @freshstartwendy
Podcast: The Fresh Start Family Show
Got a strong-willed child? Click here for the free guide, "How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity" and check out "10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening."
You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass .

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When Your No Is A Yes - Understanding Boundaries // with Julia Hogan

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 12 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Do you say no, then feel guilty? Or maybe you say yes, then feel resentful? These feelings are part of the important but difficult task of setting and managing boundaries. Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Hogan.

Julia explains:

The importance of boundaries
Ways to understand and define your boundaries
How a “No” can be a “Yes”
How asserting boundaries relates to fairness

Listen to Julia on Episode 003, "Rethinking Self Care & Authentic Rest"

Find Julia Hogan, LPC here:

www.juliamariehogan.com
Instagram: @juliahoganlcpc
Sign up for her monthly newsletter here!

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How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies // by Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 05 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0600

“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right?

Listen to hear:

The different social norms for boys and girls
Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
When to interrupt back
The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
Sample phrases illustrating different ways to interrupt
What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

Key mentions/concepts:

Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, by Soraya Chemaly. www.sorayachemaly.com
"10 Simple Words Every Girl Should Learn," by Soraya Chemaly. Retrieved from www.rolereboot.org.
"The Art of Interruption, Or 'how to speak up without feeling like an asshole' (#BullCon14 Guest Post)" by Julie Fogh and Casey Erin Clarke of Vital Voice.

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5 Confidence-Boosting Tips for Your Daughter // by Briana Beazley

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 28 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Have you noticed a confidence dip in your tween or teen girl? You aren’t dreaming...it’s a real thing.

Today's article, "5 Steps to Helping Our Daughters Grow Up With More Confidence," comes from Briana Beazley. Briana is founder of NadiaGirl, a tween girls clothing brand focused on empowering young girls by creating comfortable clothing that fits well, to help them feel more confident.

When Briana’s daughter was entering her tween years, shopping for her was discouraging and frustrating. There were limited options, and the clothes were not age-appropriate, didn’t fit well, or were poor quality. She saw how this impacted her daughter’s confidence and decided to do something about it. Soon after that, Nadia Girl was born, and Briana began writing about issues affecting tween girls.

In this episode, you’ll learn ways you can help boost your daughter’s confidence, such as normalizing failure, encouraging risk taking, and more.

Key mentions/concepts:

"The Confidence Code for Girls," by Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, and JillEllyn Riley. www.confidencecodegirls.com
Enclothed Cognition - see How Clothing Choices Affect and Reflect Your Self-Image, by Jill Ferguson. Retrieved from www.huffpost.com.
For high quality, sustainable clothes with a proprietary fit made for tween girls’ changing bodies, visit www.nadiagirl.com, and follow NadiaGirl on Instagram @nadiagirl.

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Rethinking Self-Care & Leisure // with Julia Hogan

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 05:15:00 -0600

Are "self-care" and "authentic rest" just buzzwords? Is there a right way to do self-care? What does authentic rest or leisure look like? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan.

Julia describes her road to becoming a therapist and writer, and she explains:

The importance of nurturing yourself and “filling your cup”
Rethinking your self-care, making sure it works for you
Authentic rest & leisure -- what these are
The importance of modeling self-care and authentic rest for our daughters

To connect with Julia Hogan, LCPC, visit her website www.juliamariehogan.com where you can sign up for her monthly newsletter, or follow her on Instagram: @juliahoganlcpc.

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How to Get Kids to Open Up // by Ezza Mustaffa

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing.

In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu reads "How to Get Kids to Open Up," by Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages. She tells us about:

The importance of a safe emotional environment
The reptilian brain!
5 tips on how to create a safe space

You can connect with Ezza Mustaffa on LinkedIn.

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A Quick Podcast Backstory // meet Host Carmelita Tiu

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Inaugural episode! Host Carmelita Tiu (aka Cat, or Millie) answers the 5 W’s of this show -- who she is, who the show is for, what it is, why it exists, and when/where to find it.

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Trailer - Information & inspiration to help moms be and raise strong women

Carmelita Tiu — Tue, 17 Aug 2021 05:00:00 -0600

This is a podcast about raising tween & teen girls, to help mindful, progressive & busy moms stay informed and inspired so they can show up for themselves and their daughters the way they want to.

I'm thrilled to be starting this exploration and hope you'll join me!

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On the Power of Sisterhood & a Mother's Legacy // with Amy & Nancy Harrington

Key Topics:

Guest Spotlight: Amy & Nancy Harrington

About Your Host, Carmelita Tiu

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From Business to Ballots - A Mompreneur's Path to Politics // with Tamie Wilson

Guest Spotlight: Tamie Wilson

Episode Resources

Dismantling Family Privilege // with Nicole Rodgers of Family Story

Guest Spotlight:

Speaking Up & Uncomfortable Conversations // with Rayna Rose Exelbierd

Guest Spotlight: Name Here

Grief, Loss & Parenting // with Shameka Williams

Kids, Tech & the Good Enough Digital Parent // with Katie Davis

Episode Resources

Puberty Power! Empowering Girls to Navigate Change with Confidence // with Konika Ray Wong

Unpacking Positivity & Processing Emotions // with Jen Rafferty

Our Kids & Sexual Assault - How to Prevent, Respond & Support // with Claire & Dr. Sadohl

Guest Spotlight: Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma Unstuck

Episode Resources

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The Rise & Raise Collective - for growth oriented & mindful girlmoms

Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue & 7 Phrases to Tell Our Girls (Encore) // with Carmelita Tiu

How to Navigate & Challenge Beauty Standards // with Val Monroe & Debbie Saroufim

Unpacking & Embracing Gender Equity (Encore) // with Annie Warshaw

How to Raise Resilient Kids // with Dr. Kate Lund

Positive Body Image, Body Diversity & Clothes That Fit // with Pam Luk

References in this Episode:

The Parent Compass: How's Yours Working? // with Cindy Muchnick

The Power of Tiny Habits // with Julie DeLucca-Collins

Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu

Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder

Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris

Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule

Diet Culture (Pt 2) - Tough Truths, Tips & Takeaways // with Debbie Saroufim

Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Your Body // with Debbie Saroufim

Media Literacy & Questioning What We Consume // with Alicia Haywood

Emotional Suppression & How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up (Encore) // by Ezza Mustaffa

Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue + 7 Phrases to Say to Our Girls // by Carmelita Tiu

Post-Divorce Wisdom: What Not to Say & What We'll Teach our Daughters // with Heather McGinley and Laura Koo

Post-Divorce Wisdom: Lessons All Moms Can Learn // with Heather McGinley and Laura Koo

Mindset, and Why Modeling It Matters // with Mary Beth Henry

Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning Things Around // with Dr. Stephanie Wong

Being a Work In Progress & Challenging Expectations // with Julia Marie Hogan Werner

Positive Psychology: Rewiring Your Brain for the Better // with Mary Beth Henry

Breaking the Gender Bias: Top Tips for Moms // by Carmelita Tiu

On Moms as Advocates: "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World" // with Cynthia Changyit Levin

Tackling Tricky Friendship Scenarios // with Jessica Speer

Understanding Body Positivity & Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick

6 Things to Tell Your Daughter At Valentine's Day // with Carmelita Tiu

Self-Love and Second-Guessing Society's Definition of Success // with Lacey C. Clark!

Girls and Eating Disorders...and Moms // with Ashley Carpentier

Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts & Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan

Building Monuments to Resemble and Represent Us // with Neysa Page-Lieberman

Grappling with Girl Friendships // with Jessica Speer

On Reframing Failure, Sports Metaphors & Me Celebrating You // from Carmelita Tiu

Rethinking Creativity, Stepping In & Stepping Back // with Melissa Ohlman-Roberge (Mom Who's Been There)

How to Overcome Feeling Overwhelmed // with Liz Pessaran

From Bullied to Brave & Bold // with Aime Hutton

Top Tips from a Life Coach for Teens// with Nicole Nepa

Pen, Paper & Gratitude: A Happiness Hack // by Kate Brenton

Unpacking Gender Equity // with Annie Warshaw of Mission Propelle

Confident & Grounded Daughters In a Social Media World // with Charlsey Childers

Women, Self-Worth & Raising Authentic Daughters // with Charlsey Childers

Freedom, Responsibility & Trust in Tough Times // with Cheryl Spalding (Mom Who's Been There)

10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter // by Wendy Snyder of A Fresh Start Family

When Your No Is A Yes - Understanding Boundaries // with Julia Hogan

How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies // by Carmelita Tiu

5 Confidence-Boosting Tips for Your Daughter // by Briana Beazley

Rethinking Self-Care & Leisure // with Julia Hogan

How to Get Kids to Open Up // by Ezza Mustaffa

A Quick Podcast Backstory // meet Host Carmelita Tiu

Trailer - Information & inspiration to help moms be and raise strong women

Here's to strong women: May we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.