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246. Why Arguing is Important for Healthy Relationships

Wed, 13 May 2026 10:15:00 -0700

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245. Forgiving old hurts in your relationship

Wed, 06 May 2026 10:15:00 -0700

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you likely have some past hurts that you’ve experienced in your relationship. This could be betrayal, disappointment, grief, or heartache. After many years, they start to add up. And, eventually, we start resenting our partner because of the backlog of issues that have occurred. We see each other as adversaries instead of partners. In this episode, I talk about how to start forgiving your partner without feeling like you’re letting them off the hook. Tune in to start feeling supported by your partner again.

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244. Why secure people share their needs

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 10:15:00 -0700

If you think you’re a burden for having needs or are worried people will leave if you have them, this episode is for you. I talk about why personal needs are inherently neutral for people who are securely attached. I explain how they view them, communicate them, and feel when they are met or sometimes not met. I explain why needs feel impossible if you have an insecure attachment style and how to inch closer to sharing them so you feel more supported and seen in your relationship. Tune in to start having a safe and secure relationship.

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243. Why Regulating Our Emotions Helps Us Fight Better

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:15:00 -0700

If you don’t know how to have conflict without it escalating into a big fight, this episode is for you. I talk about my secret weapon to helping you have a productive fight that stays on topic, and that secret is regulating emotions. I know, emotions are scary. But when you learn how to regulate them it makes a world of difference to showing up for your partner and feeling like your fights are safe and getting resolved. Tune in to learn how to start fighting better and feeling safer in your relationship.

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242. Stop controlling your partner and get what you want

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode, I talk about how to stop using control in romantic relationships. Two insecure attachment types have a high need for control and I break down why so you can understand where this pattern comes from. I also share what to do instead in order to get what you want from your partner.And I also share what to do if your partner can’t meet your need. It is possible to drop control and still get your needs met. Tune in to start using unconditional love in your relationship.

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241. An Inside Look at Healthy Relationships with Secure Attachment

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 10:15:00 -0700

Are you curious about what a healthy relationship looks like? Do you have an inkling that something in your relationship is off? This episode peels back the curtain to show you what a healthy and secure relationship looks like. I talk about what arguments look and feel like, how it feels to come home to your person, and the deep belief that comes from knowing you’re with the right person. Tune in to learn more about what secure attachment looks like.

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240. Should I break up or should I stay?

Wed, 25 Mar 2026 10:15:00 -0700

If you’re not sure if your partner is the right person, this episode is for you. It’s going to help you understand how to make the decision to stay or leave. I share about common patterns that pop up when we make these types of decisions and how to move through them so you don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis. I finish the episode talking about how you figure out how to make a healthy relationship work or decision to walk away. It’s time to get rid of the confusion and indecision. And start finding or making safe relationships where you feel supported.

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239. Want More Reassurance from Your Partner?

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 10:15:00 -0700

Do you want more reassurance from your partner? Do you feel like they’re always trying to take space away from you or you’re not sure if they want to be in a relationship with you? This episode will help you understand how to get what you need from your partner without having to be someone different. This is not about getting rid of your need for reassurance but instead knowing how to get them on board to meet your needs while you are also meeting their needs. Tune in to finally feel reassured in your relationship.

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238. Do you want your partner to share more?

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode of Lit AF Relationships, Sarah Cohan breaks down the real reason your partner might not be sharing and the surprising thing you might be doing that makes it harder for them to open up.

Through personal stories from her own marriage and powerful client examples, Sarah explains how certain patterns like criticism, emotional reactions, and “weaponized curiosity” can unintentionally shut down the very vulnerability you’re craving. She also shares the mindset shift that transformed her own relationship after betrayal and helped couples she works with move from distance and doubt to deep connection where both partners feel seen and heard.

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237. When Emotions Feel Unsafe: Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Mind

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 10:15:00 -0700

Do you feel like you can only rely on yourself or that it’s a sign of weakness to share your feelings? If so, this episode is for you. I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is brought up to think they need to be independent. I also share why the dismissive-avoidant is cut off from their emotions. If you’re in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant this will help you understand why they need so much space and why feelings are so hard for them.

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236. If you’re doubting you’re in the right marriage

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 10:15:00 -0700

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235. How to have better fights

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 10:15:00 -0700

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So many couples tell me they don’t want to fight as much as they and that their fights never feel resolved, but here’s the truth: fighting is a bid for connection, we’re just going about it in a tense and uncomfortable way. In this episode, I share a real live example of why fights escalate and how to stop them in their tracks. I talk about why we make conflict mean something about us, how anxious and avoidant attachment styles escalate differently, how to catch the difference between having a feeling and reacting to it, and why a short break, no more than ten minutes, can actually protect connection. If you’ve ever watched a small disagreement spiral into something much bigger, this episode will help you fight in a way that brings you closer instead of pulling you apart.

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234. Overcoming marriage pressure and fear of commitment with Mycah and Ian

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode, Mycah and Ian share how they both overcame their insecure anxious and avoidant attachment styles in order to create a happy and peaceful relationship. Mycah wanted to get engaged, married and start living together within a year. Ian was having doubts about commitment and had fears of making the wrong decision about marriage. She felt impatient about how their relationship was slowly progressing and frustrated that she hadn’t even met Ian’s momyet. When we first started to work together it was hard for them to share how they were feeling without it escalating to a fight. But eventually they learned the tools to validate each other’s emotions, to share vulnerably instead of reacting from their feelings, and to communicate their needs without expectations. These tools built a new level of safety for Ian to feel like the time was finally right to introduce Mycah to his mom. Tune in to hear how they did it and what it’s like to have secure attachment.

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233. The Freedom on the Other Side of Jealousy

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 10:15:00 -0700

I used to be that person. Raging jealousy. Constant suspicion. Side-eyeing my partner’s female friendships like it was my full-time job.

Then I healed my attachment style… and everything changed.

These days, jealousy barely shows up in my romantic relationship. But surprise, it still sneaks into friendships, work dynamics, and comparison spirals when I’m not paying attention.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what jealousy is actually about. It’s distrust, old betrayal wounds, unmet needs, and the sneaky habit of outsourcing your worth through comparison.

We’ll talk about:

• Why jealousy is rooted in fear and childhood conditioning

• The unmet needs hiding underneath jealousy (attention, loyalty, being chosen)

• How comparison quietly steals your joy and self-trust

• What happens when you stop measuring yourself against others

• The kind of freedom and unconditional love that exists on the other side of jealousy

If jealousy has ever made you feel ashamed, reactive, or “too much,” this episode will help you understand it without judging yourself.

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232. When Your Partner’s Story About You Isn’t Reality

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 10:15:00 -0700

Your partner is going to believe things about you that just… aren’t true.

And the moment you start worrying about hurting their feelings or believe even a tiny piece of their story, you’re hooked. Guilt kicks in. You over-explain. You bend. You twist. You try to prove something that was never yours to carry.

In this episode, I share how being told “we always do what you want” sent me into years of people-pleasing (spoiler: it didn’t change the story), why many of our relationship beliefs come straight from childhood, and how those beliefs shape what we’re able to see and receive in partnership.

This episode is about separating fact from belief, untangling your emotions from your partner’s stories, and creating a relationship that’s actually sustainable long-term, not just emotionally reactive in the moment.

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231. How She Learned to Say “No” with Jane

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 10:15:00 -0700

Today’s guest shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant attachment style to make big life changes and end a longterm situationship. Jane used to struggle with saying no so she found herself in a soul-sucking job, in a city she didn’t want to live, with an on-again-off-again partner that wasn’t making her happy. She couldn’t say no to her boss, her friends, or her say the ultimate no to her relationship. She shares how she overcame all of this and made big life changes to get her closer to the life she wants to live. If it’s time to end your relationship this one is for you.

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230. Overcoming Cheating in your Marriage

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 10:15:00 -0700

Cheating sucks. It can cause alot of pain in your marriage and might feel impossible to overcome. If you’re going through it right now you’re probably stuck in a cycle of punishment and withdrawing or defensiveness. It is possible to overcome the real pain and hurt that you’re experiencing. And there is a specific process to help you speed up the healing. My hope is that this episode helps you understand how to move forward and gives you hope that when you overcome it you will have a better marriage than before the cheating. That was my own experience. Stop the suffering and start feeling better, tune in now.

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229. The Three Essentials to Making a Lasting Marriage

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 10:15:00 -0700

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228. Overcoming Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style for her Daughter with Mabel

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Today my guest is Mabel who worked with me to overcome her avoidant attachment style. Her goal was to clean up her relationship with her daughter. Her daughter is highly emotional and was prone to have full shutdowns when she got frustrated doing things like piano practice or homework. Mabel was triggered by her daughters emotions and was either yelling or taking space to avoid them as much as possible. Mabel is now showing up as a secure mom and her daughter is surprising her with very secure communication.

Mabel was able to create secure attachment quickly so I wanted to make sure to have her on the podcast to share her secrets to success. Tune in to hear her how she was able to hey past her avoidance quickly and what she would say to someone who is scared to take the next step towards secure attachment.

Her stories are funny and so human. Listen in to get inspired on your own healing journey.

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227. The Number One Behavior to Create a Secure Relationship

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 10:15:00 -0700

If there is one skill that transforms relationships from shaky to secure, it is validation. And yes, it is hard AF. In this episode, we’re diving into why this deceptively simple tool is the very first thing I teach couples and why it matters so much for creating secure attachment.

Validation is tough because when your partner brings you something painful or messy, your body wants to react. Your brain starts telling old stories about not being good enough or being unlovable or being too much. But validation is not about agreeing with them or taking the blame. It is simply saying: I see you. I see this person I love having an emotional experience.

When you learn this skill, everything shifts. Fights de-escalate. Arguments turn into discussions. Repair becomes possible. And your relationship starts to feel safer for both of you.

Let’s make your connection more secure, one validating moment at a time.

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226. Stop Going With the Flow: You’re Allowed to Want Things

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Are you “chill,” “go with the flow,” or “totally fine with whatever”? Spoiler alert… that might actually be people-pleasing in disguise. And people-pleasing is basically lying about what you really want.

In this episode, we dig into why going with the flow usually means “I’m too scared to say what I need,” how it creates resentment in relationships, and why your partner actually can’t support you if you never speak up.

You’ll learn how to build a daily fulfillment routine so you start meeting your own needs, drop the pressure and expectations on your partner, and communicate honestly without the guilt spiral. We also talk about why owning your emotions is the secret ingredient to ending people-pleasing for good.

If you’re ready to stop performing, stop mind-reading, and start showing up as the real you in your relationship, this episode is your permission slip.

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225. The Real Reason Your Need For Space Is Killing Your Relationship

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Avoidants often need space because conflict never felt safe growing up. They want peace, so when tough conversations come up, they shut down and exit fast. If you are the one opening up, it can feel like abandonment. They take space without explaining it and often skip the repair.

This pattern can change. It starts with owning your emotions, understanding your needs for space and autonomy, and upleveling your beliefs about yourself. From there you can use healthy communication to say you need space and still commit to coming back to repair.

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224: How to Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 10:15:00 -0700

If you catch yourself people-pleasing, this episode is for you.

We’ll explore why you over-give, go with the flow, or downplay your needs, and how it’s quietly draining your energy and creating distance in your relationship. When you’re always focused on keeping the peace, you lose touch with what you actually want and need.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to own your emotions so you’re not afraid of other people’s reactions, how to upgrade your beliefs about yourself and your worth, and how to build daily habits that meet your needs before burnout hits. You’ll also learn practical communication tools to express your needs clearly and set healthy boundaries.

It’s time to drop the resentment, reclaim your energy, and start feeling seen, understood, and supported by your partner.

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223. How to Stop a Fight Before It Starts

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever had an argument spin out of control before you even knew what happened? In this episode, we’re talking about how to stop a fight dead in its tracks — with validation. Yep, the one thing that sounds simple but feels impossible when emotions are high. You’ll learn why validation isn’t about agreeing, being weak, or giving in, and how offering it can actually calm your nervous system and build real emotional safety in your relationship. If you’ve ever wished your partner could just talk to you without it turning into a blow-up, this one’s for you.

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222. The Secret Underneath Your Resentment

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever catch yourself simmering in quiet resentment toward your partner? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into what resentment really is (spoiler: it’s just anger with a side of overgiving). We’ll unpack why we do it, usually to prove we’re “enough”, and how it drains our time, energy, and connection. You’ll learn how to own your emotions, fill your own cup daily, and upgrade your beliefs so you can show up from a place of calm, not deficit. It’s time to drop the resentment and finally feel seen and heard in your relationship.

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221. Understanding Conflict Avoidance

Wed, 22 Oct 2025 10:15:00 -0700

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If you avoid conflict like it’s the plague, this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it really means to be conflict avoidant, how defensiveness, minimizing, or deflecting can sneak in when you’re scared to show up honestly. This pattern is common for the dismissive avoidant type, especially if conflict or emotions didn’t feel safe growing up.

You’ll learn why conflict sends you on an emotional rollercoaster, how shame and guilt fuel your defensiveness, and what to do instead. I’ll share how to own your emotions, regulate during tough conversations, and come from a place of self-worth so you can turn conflict into connection. When you know your emotions and can express them with confidence, your relationships get stronger, deeper, and more brag-worthy.

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218. Your relationship questions answered

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever wondered why your anxious self keeps falling for that avoidant hottie? Or why you suddenly lose interest once someone actually likes you back? In this week’s episode, I’m diving into all your juicy relationship questions. We’ll break down how to figure out your attachment style, what “earned secure” actually means, and how to stop taking every little thing your partner does (or doesn’t do) so personally.

You’ll learn what to do when your partner gets triggered so you can stay grounded instead of spiraling, how to repair after a fight without shame or blame, and how to rebuild connection when you start feeling distant. By the end, you’ll have a whole new toolkit for staying calm, connected, and confident in love, no matter what your attachment style.

So grab your headphones, a cup of tea (or a bottle of wine), and let’s get real about why we love the way we do.

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219. Why small things become bigger fights

Wed, 08 Oct 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever cracked a joke or shared something with your partner, only to suddenly find yourself in a full-blown fight? 😳 One second you’re laughing, the next it’s accusations, defensiveness, and tension. In this episode, I’ll share a real client example of how quickly things can go sideways what to do instead of trying to control your partner’s reaction. We’ll talk about why defensiveness shuts down connection, why feelings are always valid, and how to speak from a place of emotional honesty. By the end, you’ll have tools to handle tough conversations with confidence, whether it’s with your partner, future partner, or even your kids.

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218. Your Perfectionism is Getting in the Way of your Relationship

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Perfectionism might look like striving for A+++ work, but in relationships it often leads to burnout, resentment, and never feeling enough. In this episode of Lit AF Relationships, I share how perfectionism shows up in love, why it keeps you stuck in people-pleasing, and the surprisingly freeing power of embracing B-minus work. Get ready to laugh, reflect, and learn how to let go of impossible standards so you can build the calm, connected, healthy relationship you actually want.

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217. How to Start Doing Impossible Things

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 10:15:00 -0700

What if the only thing standing between you and the life you want is your thoughts? In this episode of Lit AF Relationships, host and relationship coach Sarah Cohan breaks down how our beliefs shape our reality—and why we sometimes have to create new ones before we have any proof they’re true. From clients learning to trust themselves in dating, to shifting family dynamics, to Sarah’s own journey with fitness and food, you’ll hear how powerful it is to rewrite old stories and start “doing the impossible.” Tune in to learn how to change your beliefs so you can build supportive, authentic, and lasting relationships—and a more fulfilling life along the way.

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216. Underneath the Rage: What You’re Really Feeling

Wed, 17 Sep 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Anger gets a bad rap—but it’s actually one of our most useful emotions. In this episode, I explore why anger shows up, what it’s really protecting us from, and how to uncover the softer feelings hiding underneath. From dishes with my husband to those everyday moments that leave us simmering, we’ll look at how to process the deeper emotions behind anger so it no longer feels scary, but instead becomes a guide to what we truly need.

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215. Why It’s So Hard to Say No

Wed, 10 Sep 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Saying no can feel impossible when you’re wired with insecure attachment. We twist ourselves into pretzels to avoid it—racking up credit card debt, staying in relationships too long, or going out for “just one more drink” we didn’t even want. But here’s the truth: no isn’t rejection, no is clarity. In this episode, I’ll show you how to shift your relationship with no so you can reclaim your time, your energy, and actually help others make the best decisions too.

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214. When We Blame Our Partner for Our Overgiving

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 10:15:00 -0700

This week I’m diving into a big theme that comes up for people with insecure attachment—taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. If your partner gets upset and you feel like you have to fix it, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: they didn’t ask you to carry that weight. When we overextend, it leads to burnout, resentment, and even a loss of respect in the relationship.

In this episode, I’ll share how to separate your emotions from your partner’s, build tolerance for their discomfort, and take radical ownership of your own thoughts and beliefs. Because the key to healthier relationships isn’t fixing others—it’s learning to stay grounded in yourself.

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213: How Old Beliefs Sabotage Love, Work, and Confidence

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Our attachment styles form between ages 7 and 12, when our kid-brains saw the world in black and white: Dad’s not here? He must not love me. Mom didn’t like my crying? Better hide my feelings. Over time, those moments solidify into stories like I’m not enough or Something’s wrong with me, and we carry them into adult relationships, jobs, and opportunities. Suddenly, feedback feels like rejection, a delayed text means someone’s leaving, and every interaction is filtered through old fear. The shift happens when you identify and clean up those outdated beliefs—so you can show up in love, work, and life from a grounded, confident place instead of a childhood script.

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212. The Double Work of Fighting and Judging Your Relationship

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Life, and love, is 50/50. Half joy and connection, half frustration and discomfort. But when perfectionism creeps into a relationship, we start judging the tough moments as signs something is wrong.

In this episode, I share how my own perfectionist mindset showed up in marriage and why it doubled the work during conflict, repairing the fight and the fear it meant we were broken. You’ll learn how perfectionism often hides a craving for calm (especially for Dismissive Avoidant types) and how to create that peace without demanding perfection.

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211. How to Stop Taking No Personally

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 10:15:00 -0700

If you have an insecure attachment style, a simple “no” can feel like rejection—triggering worst-case-scenario thinking and sending your nervous system into overdrive. In this episode, we’ll reframe “no” as redirection, explore why it’s often the best thing for both parties, and talk about how to stop taking it personally. You’ll learn how to update your beliefs about boundaries, make space for uncomfortable feelings, and free yourself from people-pleasing overload.

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210. When You’re Putting Too Much Into a Friendship

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever feel like you're putting way more into a friendship than you're getting back? Like you're always remembering their birthday, showing up for their milestones, and making time for deep hangs—while they barely text back or only want to hang in big groups?

In this episode, we talk about what it feels like when friendships become unbalanced and how to stop taking it personally. I introduce the “friend shelf system”—a way to honor different types of friendships without expecting every friend to be everything. I share how I stopped making other people’s preferences mean something about me, and how you can start seeing those moments as neutral instead of personal.

If you’ve been feeling drained by a friendship or questioning whether you matter to someone, this one’s for you.

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209. How to Stop Making One Person Your Whole World

Wed, 23 Jul 2025 10:15:00 -0700

If you’ve ever thought, “This one person MUST meet all my needs—right now, forever,” this episode is for you.

Anxious Preoccupied and Fearful Avoidant folks often grow up with inconsistent caregivers and learn to hyper-focus on one partner to feel safe, chosen, or complete. But the truth is: no one person can be your emotional Amazon Prime—delivering all your needs on demand.

I’ll walk you through how to break the fixation, identify what needs you’re really trying to meet, and start diversifying your sources of fulfillment (hello, adventure, security, and connection—from multiple places!).

Let’s make space in your relationships for freedom, not pressure.

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208. Are You Weaponizing Curiosity in Your Relationship?

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever gone full detective on your partner in the name of “just being curious”? Yeah… me too. 😬 In this episode, I’m talking about weaponized curiosity—how our innocent questions can turn into subtle tools of shame, blame, and control (especially when trust has been broken). I’ll share a raw moment from my own relationship, how my therapist called me out (ouch), and why feeling chosen is a universal need, not a burden. Plus, how this tough lesson led me to attachment theory—and ultimately, healing. If you’ve ever chased clarity hoping for comfort, only to feel worse… this one’s for you.

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207. Unlearning the Guilt and Shame Response: Why You Overgive

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Guilt and shame: the uninvited passengers secretly driving the bus. In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on how these emotions silently shape our actions—especially if you’re someone with insecure attachment. From overgiving and people-pleasing to taking responsibility for other people’s feelings, we unpack where guilt and shame come from, why they’re so sticky, and how to gently start loosening their grip. You’ll walk away with practical ways to poke holes in the guilt-shame narrative so you can show up more fully as yourself.

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206. The Cost of Carrying Everyone’s Emotions

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever catch yourself trying to protect someone from their own emotions—like disappointment, anger, or sadness? You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore the sneaky ways many of us—especially those with fearful avoidant attachment—take on emotional responsibility that was never ours to begin with.

We break down how childhood conditioning taught us to manage other people’s feelings as a form of survival, and why that habit lingers long into adulthood. Whether you're people-pleasing, over-giving, or avoiding conflict altogether, these patterns might feel like kindness, but they come at a cost: your own emotional well-being and the other person’s ability to take ownership of their experience.

You’ll learn why trying to “protect” others from hard emotions often leads to resentment, and how choosing short-term discomfort can actually build stronger, more honest relationships.

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205. From Avoidant to Authentic: David’s Journey to Secure Attachment

Wed, 18 Jun 2025 10:15:00 -0700

This week, I’m joined by my former client David to talk about his transformation from emotionally shutdown and YouTube-binging to expressive, boundary-setting, and boxing-loving. We get real about what it’s like to live with a dismissive avoidant attachment style, how it affected his friendships and relationships, and how he slowly built a more secure sense of self—one tiny step (and one tucked-in shirt) at a time. You’ll laugh, maybe cry, and definitely relate if you’ve ever felt like the “quiet, weird one” at the party. David’s actually charming AF.

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204. Special Snowflake Syndrome: The Lie That Keeps You Isolated

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Do you secretly believe you’re uniquely unlovable, fundamentally broken, or just too weird to be understood? Congrats, you might have Special Snowflake Syndrome™. In this spicy episode (recorded on day one of my period a.k.a. peak truth serum), I unpack how this isolating lie keeps you from the connection you crave—and why 25% of us are out here doing the exact same thing. You're not broken, you're just avoidant. Let’s fix that.

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203. Divorce, Saturn Returns, and Dating with Krista Williams

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Get ready to feel seen! In this soulful, funny, and wisdom-packed episode, Sarah reunites with Krista Williams—co-host of the Almost 30 podcast and now author of its transformational companion book. They dive deep into Saturn returns, breakups that crack you open, dating after divorce, and the wild ride of figuring out whether your intuition or your attachment style is driving the bus. Krista shares her own messy-beautiful story of growth, how she finally stopped dating avoidant men (amen!), and why knowing your soul is the ultimate relationship flex. Plus, Sarah opens up about her Saturn return engagement-detour and how she’s learning to speak with more love—one tough conversation at a time. Come for the truth bombs, stay for the river of love.

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202. When Asking for Help Feels Like Weakness

Wed, 28 May 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Asking for help can feel like weakness—but what if it’s actually a sign of strength? In this short episode, I get real about the shame and insecurity that bubbled up from a real life example from a client that needed help with a clothes dryer (yes, really). I walk through the wound thoughts, the emotions they triggered, and the powerful reframe that helped her see her courage and resourcefulness instead. If asking for help makes you squirm, this one’s for you.

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201. How to Fight Better: The Power of Validation

Wed, 21 May 2025 10:15:00 -0700

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Want to fight less and connect more in your relationship? This episode dives into the secret sauce of better communication: validation.

It’s the #1 skill I teach couples, and for good reason—most of us skip it completely. When your partner feels seen and heard, defensiveness drops and connection rises.

I’m sharing why validation is so hard (hello, nervous system), how to do it without faking it, and a few simple tips you can try today to shift the dynamic.

Spoiler: fighting better isn’t about avoiding conflict—it’s about showing up like you’re on the same team.

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200: Can Your Dog Heal Your Attachment Style? And Other Big Questions

Wed, 14 May 2025 10:15:00 -0700

We made it to 200 episodes, and we’re celebrating with a twist — it’s an Ask Me Anything attachment style episode! 🎤✨ Sarah hands over the mic (well, kind of) to guest host and client Molly McGuire, who asks allll the juicy questions about attachment styles, dating, online ghosting, anxious pet parenting, and the wild ride of personal growth.

From Sarah’s earliest manifestation goals (hello, $6M TV host dreams) to the real-deal transformation that came from healing her attachment style, we dive into the myths, patterns, and hard truths about what it takes to become securely attached — and why it’s never about being perfect.

Expect laughs, real talk, and the kind of emotional honesty that makes you feel seen. Plus: Can your dog help you become securely attached? (Spoiler: yes. And his name might be Drake.)

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199: Navigating ADHD in Marriage (Right After My Diagnosis)

Wed, 07 May 2025 10:15:00 -0700

In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing something super fresh: I was just diagnosed with ADHD this week. Yep, it’s official—and I’m still very much in the thick of processing it all. Join me as I talk about how I got the diagnosis, what it’s bringing up in my marriage (yep, we’re a double ADHD couple!), and how it’s reshaping how I see myself, my past, and my parenting.

From the messy car-packing fights to the guilt of passing traits onto my kid, I’m unpacking it all—raw, unfiltered, and with a lot of heart. I’m also sharing how healing my attachment style gave me a head start on understanding ADHD, and why sensitivity and distractibility might just be superpowers.

If you’ve ever wondered how ADHD shows up in adult relationships—or if you're just looking for real talk about neurodivergence, emotional growth, and love—this one’s for you.

👉 Plus, don’t miss the free worksheet I created to help you feel your emotions—a foundational skill for both ADHD and secure attachment. Get it at sarahcohan.com/emotions

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198. Myths & Mind Games About Being Secure

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Who would you be with secure attachment? Would life be a fairytale? Drama-free? Maybe… boring? 😅 In this episode, we unpack the myths we tell ourselves about becoming secure—like needing a whole new friend group or quitting your job. (Spoiler: You might get to keep more than you think.) Tune in to explore what secure attachment really looks like—yep, even the messy parts—and how it might surprise you.

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197. Handle Your Child’s Big Emotions (Without Losing It)

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 10:15:00 -0700

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Gentle parenting. Conscious parenting. Attachment parenting. No matter your style, they all ask one thing: get comfortable with big emotions.

Easier said than done—especially if you grew up stuffing yours down.

In this episode, we talk about what really happens when your kid has a meltdown and your insecure attachment kicks in (hi, anxious fixers and avoidant silencers 👋). Spoiler: it’s about making your own emotions valid. This is big, beautiful, messy work.

If you’d like help with the first step of naming your emotions, download this free worksheet here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/emotions

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196. Will They Come Back? Navigating Panic and Distance with Clarity

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 10:15:00 -0700

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Ever feel like all hell breaks loose when someone pulls away? Panic. Fear. “Are they leaving me forever?!” In this episode, I answer a juicy question from Instagram about how to communicate your attachment style—especially when you're spiraling. We talk about asking for what you need (even when it feels terrifying), why that tiny request can change everything, and how a hug from my husband and a win with my boss taught me the power of speaking up. Spoiler: It’s awkward at first, but it so pays off.

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195. Harsh Words, Big Feelings: What’s Really Going on with the Anxious

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 10:15:00 -0700

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Ever been on the receiving end of a sudden outburst from your anxious preoccupied partner? Or maybe you are the one who panics and lashes out when you feel someone pulling away?

Here’s the deal: It’s not about anger—it’s about fear.

When someone with an anxious preoccupied attachment feels rejected or senses abandonment, their nervous system goes into panic mode. The thought of losing connection feels like life or death, and in that desperation, they might use harsh language, lash out, say things they don’t mean, or even reject someone’s bid for attention before they can be rejected first.

The work is about rewiring their fear of abandonment and expanding their emotional tolerance for discomfort—without self-sabotaging.

Let’s break it all down in this episode. Tune in.

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194. The Secret to Secure Attachment (It’s Not What You Think!)

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 10:15:00 -0700

I used to think that once I became securely attached, life would be smooth sailing—no triggers, no fights, just endless happiness. Turns out… that’s not how this works.

Every client I work with wants to fix their attachment style—stop being clingy, stop avoiding, stop fearing. But here’s the twist: the secret to secure attachment isn’t about changing your patterns. In fact, trying to force change can backfire.

Tune in to here the answer to creating secure attachment.

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193. Trusting Your Intuition vs. Reacting from Attachment Wounds

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Is it intuition or just your attachment wounds talking? In this episode, we’re diving into the messy, confusing, and totally relatable struggle of trusting yourself while breaking free from old relationship patterns. From dating dilemmas to parenting choices, cultural expectations to family judgment—it's hard AF to do what feels right when everyone else has an opinion. Whether you’re running, clinging, or struggling with trust (hello, FA), this episode will help you tune into your intuition and stop letting attachment wounds call the shots.

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192. Are You Absorbing Emotions That Aren’t Yours? The Truth About Codependency

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Do you feel like you’re carrying emotions that aren’t even yours? That’s codependency in action! Growing up, we were taught to take on other people’s feelings—sometimes with real consequences if we didn’t. It’s a classic insecure attachment trait, but here’s the good news: You don’t have to keep doing it. In this episode I explore how this trait shows up and how to start letting it go. Imagine how much lighter (and freer!) you’d feel if you let go of emotions that were never yours to hold. Let’s get into it!

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191. Dismissive Avoidants and the Emotion They’d Rather Ignore: Embarrassment

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Embarrassment? Nope, never heard of it. At least, that’s what the dismissive avoidant would love you to believe. But deep down (like way deep down), they have a huge fear of being shamed or criticized. As natural perfectionists, they’re laser-focused on how others see them—because if they just get everything right, then everything will be fine... right?

In this episode, we’re talking about why embarrassment is particularly cringe for the dismissive avoidant, why ignoring emotions doesn’t actually make them disappear (sorry!), and how embracing the uncomfortable can lead to healthy connection. Trust me, you don’t want to miss it!

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190. Why Feedback Feels Like a Personal Attack

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Ever feel like feedback is just code for "you're not enough"? You're not alone. If you have an insecure attachment style, receiving feedback can feel like punishment—like proof that you're failing, falling out of favor, or just not doing it right. We get defensive, take it personally, and totally miss the growth, care, and connection that feedback is meant to bring.

In this episode, I’m sharing my own journey with feedback (yes, even in my marriage!) and how shifting your mindset can turn feedback from a threat into a gift. Tune in to learn how to stop taking it so personally and start using it to thrive—at work, in relationships, and beyond.

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189. Wait… That’s Not How You Become Secure?!

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 10:15:00 -0700

If you thought becoming securely attached meant pretending you have no needs (looking at you, Anxious Preoccupied), never asking for space again (hello, Avoidant), or blindly trusting someone overnight (nice try, Fearful Avoidant), then… we need to talk.

In this episode, I break down the biggest misconceptions insecurely attached folks have about “doing the work” and why forcing yourself to abandon your old patterns isn’t the answer. Spoiler: You don’t have to become a totally different person to be secure—you just need better communication tools. Let’s get into it! 🚀

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188. Dating with an Insecure Attachment Style

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Dating can be tricky for anyone, but when you have an insecure attachment style, it can feel like a rollercoaster. Whether you’re anxiously chasing connection, avoiding commitment, or stuck in the push-pull of a fearful avoidant cycle, dating often brings out old patterns that just aren’t working.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Anxious daters – Why they ignore red flags, say yes when they mean no, and prioritize being in a relationship over the actual person.

Avoidant daters – Why they tend to avoid dating, take forever to commit, and struggle with knowing what they really want.

Fearful avoidants – How they crave connection but also fear it, leading to trust issues and a lot of internal conflict.

The anxious-avoidant cycle – Why these patterns keep repeating and how to break free.

If dating has ever felt frustrating, confusing, or downright exhausting, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to ditch the insecurity and date with more confidence!

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187. The Four Pillars of Attachment Parenting

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Attachment parenting might sound hard, but honestly, it’s a mix of deep connection, big emotions, and hoping coffee can get us throught the day. This week, we’re diving into the four pillars: setting boundaries (and sometimes being flexible about them), creating space for vulnerability and big feelings (like crying over the wrong color cup—again), modeling how to meet needs (even if it’s just five minutes alone in the bathroom), and embracing patience, because if attachment parenting had a slogan, it’d be, “Breathe through the tantrum, yours and theirs.”

Join us for laughs, insights, and practical tips on how these pillars can strengthen your parenting game—chaos and all!

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186. The addictive side of guilt and shame

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Emotions are the original gateway drug—especially guilt and shame. In this episode, we unpack why my 20-year smoking habit wasn’t about the bad health effects but instead, it was about the delicious, twisted guilt behind it. Inspired by Carolyn Lovewell’s Existential Kink, we ask the big question: Can you actually get off on the reality that you’re bringing into your life? Spoiler: gratitude for your inner gremlin might just be the weirdest (and most effective) self-help hack ever. Tune in for laughs, existential dread, and maybe a kink you didn’t know you had.

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185. Accepting Your Shadow with Suzanne L'Heureux

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Join us as we dive deep with Suzanne L’Heureux, Jungian life coach and founder of Diving Deep Coaching, who helps women in midlife uncover their true selves.

We explore:

What is the Jungian Shadow, and why should you care?
How shadow work reveals self-sabotaging patterns in relationships.
Sarah and Suzanne’s personal journey with shadow work and the power of self-discovery.

It’s time to shine a light on your shadow and step into empowerment!

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184. Surviving and Thriving your Divorce or Breakup

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 10:15:00 -0700

Breaking up is rough—yes, even if you’re the one who pulled the plug. Now you’re left to rebuild, face the cringe-worthy emotions, and maybe (just maybe) figure out what you brought to the chaos. From anxious-avoidant drama to dismissive ghosting vibes, we’re diving into what the different attachment styles are bringing to the table. Let’s do the work so you can start attracting healthy, secure relationships—and leave those late-night "U up?" texts in the past.

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183. Relationship Repair 101

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Fights, disruptions, and awkward moments happen in every relationship—but repair is the magic that brings us back together. In this episode, we’re diving into how different attachment styles approach repair (or avoid it!). Whether you’re an AP people-pleaser quick to fix, a DA avoiding the issue entirely, or an FA stuck between both worlds, we’ve got you covered. Plus, we’ll explore creative ways to repair: from heartfelt apologies to playful jokes, and even the power of a good hug. Tune in to learn how to rebuild connection, no matter your style!

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182. Intuition vs. Insecure Attachment

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In this episode, we break down the difference between intuition and markers of insecure attachment, like emotional flooding, repeated patterns, self-sabotage, avoidance, and clinginess. Learn how to spot the quiet wisdom of intuition—it’s soft, surprising, and unattached to outcomes—and why it feels so different from the turbulence of insecurity. Plus, tips to hone your intuition so you can confidently navigate life and relationships. Get ready to trust yourself like never before!

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181. What To Do When Your Partner Shuts Down

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when your partner shuts down? This episode dives into the many ways we emotionally check out—from silent treatments to disappearing into work—and why your partner might be retreating. We’ll help you flip the script: What are you making their shutdown mean about you? Learn how to offer support, space, or even a breather (without taking it personally). Plus, tips for keeping your own cool while they take the space they need. Don’t shut down—tune in!

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180. What does that mean about you?

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Ever find yourself spiraling after a fight or overthinking someone’s mixed signals? This episode dives into the one question I ask my clients the most: What does that mean about you? Whether it's navigating criticism in relationships (hello, anxious preoccupied!), decoding why someone doesn’t want to date you, or understanding the beliefs behind someone else's actions, we'll unpack the stories you tell yourself—and how to rewrite them. Let's figure this out together!

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179. Healing the fearful avoidant attachment style for friendship with Sigrid Blom

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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On today’s episode, Sigrid Blom shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant attachment style after a divorce. She used to struggle to set boundaries and have authentic friendships where she was fully showing up as herself. With a slew of diagnoses including autism and ADHD Sigrid always felt like she was the one that needed to fix herself. Now Sigrid is about to embark on her dream of nomad living and has created an incredible group of friends that understand and appreciate her for exactly who she is.

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178. Are Your Core Wounds Crashing Your Relationships?

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Ever feel like there's a sneaky pattern sabotaging your love life? It might just be your core wounds making a dramatic entrance! Join us as we explore how these childhood-rooted emotional wounds shape our relationships and tie into our attachment styles.

We’ll dive into the anxious attachment style, where you might find yourself constantly seeking reassurance and wondering, "Am I enough?" Then there’s the avoidant attachment, where pulling away when things get too close for comfort can leave you feeling isolated. If you identify with the fearful-avoidant attachment, you might be stuck in a push-pull pattern, craving closeness while also fearing it. And let’s not forget the secure attachment style—while generally more stable, even secure folks aren’t immune to the occasional situational fear.

The good news? Understanding these core wounds is the first step to healing and building fulfilling connections. Tune in as we unravel the drama and start making space for love that lasts!

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177. What Secure Attachment Looks Like in Love is Blind

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode, we're taking a playful dive into Love is Blind Season 7 to spot the rarest of all species: securely attached contestants! Join us as we break down what secure attachment looks like (hint: it's steady, calm, and confident) and how it holds up under the wild pressures of pods, fast proposals, and unapproving parents. Grab your popcorn and let’s dig into the attachment behind the show’s healthiest moments!

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176. Stuck in a Relationship Rerun? How to Break Free From Repeating Relationship Patterns

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Ever feel like you’re dating the same person over and over? It’s not just bad luck—it’s your brain's subconscious comfort zone pulling the strings! In this episode, we’ll explore why your brain loves familiar relationship drama (even when it’s not good for you) and how to break out of those old patterns. Tune in for practical tips, a little self-reflection, and a fresh start on building healthier, happier relationships!

Credit: The term subconscious comfort zone come from the personal development school.

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175. Why Are We Like This? How Attachment Styles Mess with Communication!

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Struggling to get your point across or feeling like every conversation is a minefield? Your attachment style might be the culprit! In this episode, we break down why communication is so tricky for the three insecure attachment types. We'll dive into why the Anxious Preoccupied can be overly critical, how the Fearful Avoidant tends to be super sensitive, and why the Dismissive Avoidant just shuts down. Plus, we'll share practical tips to help you navigate tough conversations without the drama! Tune in for insights, laughs, and some "aha" moments about why we communicate the way we do.

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174. Healing the dismissive avoidant attachment style with ADHD with David

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In this episode, we sit down with someone who has transformed their relationship style from dismissive avoidant to secure while also navigating the challenges of ADHD. We explore the journey of what it takes to shift from emotional distance and self-reliance to building trust, vulnerability, and deeper connections. Our guest shares insights into the challenges of opening up, how past wounds shaped their avoidant tendencies, and the practices that helped them embrace emotional intimacy. Get ready for an inspiring (and fun!) chat full of practical tips to help you create more secure relationships in your own life.

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173. The Anxious Preoccupied’s Fear of Abandonment Explained

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Ever feel like you're riding an emotional roller coaster when someone doesn’t text back? You might just be rocking the Anxious Preoccupied attachment style! In this episode, we’re breaking down why the fear of abandonment hits so hard for some of us. Spoiler: it’s all about craving that closeness but freaking out when it might slip away. We’ll chat about how childhood experiences shape this anxiety and—don’t worry—we’re serving up some tips on how to hit pause on the panic. Plus, we’ve got free tools to help you ask for what you need without the fear! Join us for a fun, relatable deep dive into the world of love, anxiety, and healthier connections!

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172. Why the Dismissive-avoidant is Always Creating Space

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In this episode, we’re diving into the world of dismissive avoidants—the attachment style pros at needing space. Whether it’s because they pride themselves on independence, avoid emotions at all costs, or keep their hearts guarded, dismissive avoidants thrive on alone time. Tune in to learn why their need for space isn’t personal—it’s just their way of staying cool, calm, and in control.

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171. Why Your Fearful Avoidant is so Chaotic

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In this episode, we dive deep into what makes your fearful avoidant so chaotic. It can be really confusing to be with a fearful avoidant, one minute they’re charming and adorable the next minute they’re probing you with questions and asking for space. It all comes down to a lack of trust, a fear of setting boundaries (and the guilt that follows), and the constant tug-of-war between a fear of abandonment/betrayal and a high need for freedom. If you’re struggling to connect with a Fearful Avoidant partner, I’ll share my number one tip for improving communication and fostering a healthier relationship dynamic. Tune in to better understand the chaos and how to navigate it.

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170. Overcoming the Ick and Avoidance in Dating With Jordan

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Do you struggle with discerning between avoidance or intuition? Do you experience the ick in dating? If so this episode is for you. Jordan shares how she healed her fearful avoidant attachment style in order to stop serial dating, slow down, and actually find someone she wanted to be with. Jordan started this work with a crippling belief that she was behind in her dating life, that she needed a partner to be validated, and that she was defective. Hear how she started to let all of this go and transform the way she was showing up in relationships.

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169. Why The Dismissive-Avoidant Struggles with Emotions

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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168. Why the anxious preoccupied needs reassurance

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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167. Why socializing can be exhausting for the fearful-avoidant and anxious preoccupied

Wed, 07 Aug 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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166. Why It Didn’t Work With Your Ex

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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165. Why you’re outsourcing your self-worth

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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164: Why pushing through or doing better won’t work

Wed, 10 Jul 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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I’m working with a client right now that has ADHD. For most of his life guilt and shame have been his big motivators. They often say things like next time you just need to work harder or do better or push through. I get it, I’ve used similar motivators in the past. My inner voice often says things like you should have known better. You probably think this is the only way to do things but I promise it’s actually hurting you in the long term. Listen to hear more about how this is affecting your relationships.

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163. Escapism, dissociation, and attachment styles

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Do you tend to escape through habits like eating, drinking, video games, watching too much tv, overdoing it at the gym, or get lost in daydreams or fantasies all day? In this episode, I share how escapism and dissociation show up in attachment styles. Then I share the first simple step to changing these habits. It’s a juicy one so buckle up!

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162: How attachment styles show up in the enneagram with Angie

Wed, 26 Jun 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Are you curious about what motivates you in your relationships? On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships, I talk with Angie Meyer, an enneagram coach. She shares her journey with accepting her own attachment style (she’s earned secure now but grew up with a dismissive avoidant attachment style) and how the different attachment styles show up in the enneagram. She also shares which enneagram types often end up in relationships with others. And if you’re single, we’ve got you covered. She also talks about how to use the enneagram in dating.

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161. Why the dismissive avoidant fantasizes about breaking up

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Are you constantly thinking about breaking up with your partner? Do you dream of the day you can be on your own and get the freedom you’ve been so desperately wanting? In this episode I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style fantasizes about breaking up after a fight or triggering moment with their partner. Our brain is dreaming about that 1 bedroom 1 bath in the neighborhood we’ve been dying to move into. The fantasy can be quite intoxicating but really what it’s doing is distracting you from the hurt that you’re experiencing in the moment. Tune into learn about this extremely common pattern.

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160. Why you’re struggling in your relationship

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Do you feel like your partner is constantly pulling away and trying to create more space? Or is it the opposite? Is your partner making you feel trapped by their constant text messages and physical touch? In this episode of Lit AF relationships I share more about the common relationship dynamics between the anxious preoccupied and the dismissive avoidant. It might feel like your relationship is doomed but actually it might just be your attachment styles.

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159. Why trust is so hard for the fearful avoidant

Wed, 05 Jun 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Do you struggle with trusting your current or past partners? Are you asking your partner a slew of questions to help get to the truth? Are you constantly on alert because you’re convinced your partner (or past partners) will betray you? Or maybe its your partner that has a hard time trusting you? In this episode I share why trust is so hard for the fearful avoidant attachment style. Tune in to understand more about this important attachment style.

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158. Romancing your inner critic

Wed, 29 May 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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On today’s episode I talk about romancing the inner critic. We all have an inner critic and some of us give that voice center stage. In this episode I break down commons things the inner critic says for the different attachment types. I then share the surprising truth about how to quiet your inner critic. No the answer is not to shut it out or tell it to stop talking, that just makes the inner critic way louder. Instead I offer one question to start romancing your inner critic.

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157. It is possible to change your attachment style with Thais Gibson

Wed, 22 May 2024 10:15:00 -0700

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson, Co-Founder of the Personal Development School and co-author of "Learning Love," returns to Lit AF Relationships to discuss all things attachment styles. We delve into several important topics. First, Thais addresses a common misconception about attachment styles: yes, you can change your attachment style; it is not fixed. Then, we explore the root causes of perfectionism. We also discuss the relationship between our beliefs and our actions. Finally, we wrap up with a round of rapid-fire questions about attachment, culture, gender identity, and more. Tune in to learn from the best about healing your attachment.

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156. Why Isn't He Texting Me Back And Healing The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style

Wed, 08 May 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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155. What your anger is trying to tell you

Wed, 01 May 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In this episode I break down what your anger is trying to tell you. Experiencing and expressing anger can be a really tough emotion. We often judge ourselves or others for being angry. Some of us, like those with the fearful avoidant attachment style, are quick to be angry. In this episode I cover how the different attachment styles experience emotion and then I dive deep into understanding what your anger is saying. Anger comes up when a boundary has been crossed. But what is underneath the anger is usually more tender and more sensitive. Yes, your anger is trying to help. Listen to this episode to understand why.

I’d love to help you deeply understand your emotions so you can learn how to process them and communicate them to others. If you’re interested in 1:1 coaching apply to book a free 60-minute Healthy Relationship call with me. You can get started here: https://forms.gle/o36VpgEbQKCZ8FfX8

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154. How to Know if it's Time to End or if You’re Being Avoidant

Wed, 24 Apr 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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153. Healing the anxious preoccupied attachment style and dating

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Do the work podcast with Sabrina Zohar

152. How perfectionism is hurting your relationships

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Resources Discussed:

Definition of perfectionism according to Brenee Brown -

Perfectionism for dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants.

Examples: I have been holding on to a bunch of stickers to put them on the perfect place

Not wanting to get a nice new journal messed up

Thinking there is only one right way

Usually there’s a need that’s not getting met.

I’d love to help you understand and work through perfectionism so you can create healthy loving relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team.

151. Where People Get Attachment Styles Wrong

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In this podcast episode, we delve into a common misconception about attachment styles that many people get wrong. When individuals discover their attachment style, they often believe they must first heal it to achieve secure attachment before entering a relationship. For dismissive-avoidant individuals, this stems from a fear of being a burden to others. For anxious preoccupied people this stems from a fear of rejection.

However, the truth is that attachment doesn't operate in a linear "heal before love" manner. Secure attachment isn't about fixing oneself first; it's about learning how to express and ask for one's needs effectively. This means that being able to articulate your insecurities and communicate your needs is a hallmark of secure attachment.

Join us as we explore the concept of attachment and discuss how understanding and voicing your needs can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

I’d love to help you learn how to understand and communicate your attachment needs. Book a free discovery call to see what outdated patterns are holding you back from healthy relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style and feel like you’re growing with someone in a deeply committed relationship. Link to book a free discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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150. Breaking down attachment styles on Love is Blind

Wed, 20 Mar 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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In today’s episode, I delve into attachment styles using the Netflix show Love Is Blind Season 6 as a case study. I analyze the attachment patterns exhibited by each couple, highlighting both insecure and secure behaviors. This season was a delightful blend of sweetness and intensity, especially captivating when viewed through the lens of attachment theory. Reality TV offers a unique opportunity to witness real-life examples of how couples relate to each other and the role attachment plays in their dynamics.

This episode particularly delves into the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics portrayed by Chelsea and Jimmy, offering plenty of insights to unpack. As a coach, I also share my favorite moments from observing these dynamics.

If you're eager to foster healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team, I invite you to book a free discovery call. Let's explore together what outdated patterns might be hindering your relationship growth. Here’s the link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call?month=2024-03

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Breaking down attachment on Queer Love Ultimatum: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yCYnKMux0ajpk5vXHSoWi?si=329d77d3dc494e41

149. Why You’re Worried You’re Going To Hurt Someone If You’re Honest

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 10:15:00 -0700

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Are afraid you’re going to hurt someone when you’re honest about your feelings? Do you have unresolved issues causing you to hurt people you care about? Are you worried your feelings will be hurt if you share honestly?

These are very common fears for the different attachment styles. In this episode, I explain why the different attachment types have this fear including the anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant.

I finish the episode sharing the very first tiny step to start being honest with other people about your feelings without hurting them. It’s an easy little trick and I use it for everything.

If you’re interested in learning how to communicate in a loving supportive way to create healthy relationships book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one coaching program is the right fit for you. Here’s the link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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148. How to know when you’re people-pleasing or just being a good human

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. In this week’s episode I talk about the difference between people pleasing and just being a good human. It’s a very fine line which I thought it was important to talk about.

I start the episode with a few examples of what people pleasing looks like and why the different attachment styles do it. I share why the anxious preoccupied attachment style and the fearful avoidant tend to people-please. I then go into detail about how you can tell the difference between people pleasing and being a good person. Knowing your needs and learning how to communicate them will help you understand where the line is.

If you’re interested in learning how to stop people pleasing and create healthy relationships in your dating life I’d love to help you. Book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one coaching program is the right fit for you. Here’s the link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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147. Sneaky signs that you’re feeling unworthy in your dating life

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships I share a few sneaky signs that you're feeling unworthy in your dating life. Are you not swiping right because you think they’re better than you? Are you going with the flow instead of sharing your real needs or desires because you’re afraid they will leave? Are you compromising too much? Have you given up on dating entirely because it’s too overwhelming to be faced with the feeling of unworthiness? In this episode, I share why you’re feeling this way and explain how the different attachment styles cope with unworthiness including the fearful-avoidant, anxious preoccupied, and the dismissive avoidant. The great news is, unworthiness is a feeling state. It comes and goes. It is possible to change your attachment style and I would love to help you do it.

If you’re interested in creating healthy and secure relationships book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one attachment coaching program is the right fit for you. Click here to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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146. Closing the female orgasm gap with Vanillacooldance founder Jessica Stahl

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode, I talked with the founder and artist behind one of my favorite instagram accounts, Vanillacooldance. Jessica Stahl draws cartoons to empower women in dating and in the bedroom. Jessica is here to help remove the shame and stigma from getting kinky in the bedroom.

I really love how Vanillacooldance shares so vulnerably about embarrassing dating moments or sexy time and Jessica is the exact same way.

We talk about female pleasure and why it’s such a taboo topic. We also talk about our first orgasms and sex talks from our parents.

We finish the convo talking about a few ways to start asking for your needs to be met from the person you’re dating to the person you’ve been with for a long time.

Thank you Jessica! We all need this ray of light in the taboo world.

If you’re interested in learning how to share your needs and boundaries in the bedroom or in dating book a free discovery call to see if my one-on-one secure relationships coaching program is for you. It’s zero-pressure and you’ll learn what attachment patterns are holding you back from deep connection with others. Book the call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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145. The anxious / Avoidant Relationship Dynamic

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Why are they pulling away? Why are they trying to trap me?

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144. Commons patterns that are holding you back in relationships with Liz Walsh

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 10:15:00 -0700

This episode re-airs a recent interview I did on Of The Essence with Liz. We chat about how I got into attachment coaching, how I healed my fearful avoidant attached style and have created earned secure attachment. We also cover how attachment styles are formed and how they change over time. Liz is very brave and vulnerable and shares about how her attachment style has changed over time.

I also go into each of the Attachment styles - secure, dismissive avoidant, anxious preoccupied & disorganized / fearful avoidant. And I explain what the anxious and avoidant relationship looks like.

We finish the episode with my one step tip to move your relationship toward more secure.

If you are interested in learning what attachment patterns are holding you back from finding or being in a relationship book a free discovery call to see if my one on one coaching program is the right fit for you. I hope to see you there!

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143. New years resolutions got you down?

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Have you fallen off your New Years resolutions? Me too. Well, I’ve just stopped setting them because I realized I was setting myself up for failure each year, which is why I wanted to record this episode. New Year's resolutions are tough. They rely on willpower which will motivate us for a short amount of time. But eventually, we’ll start snoozing that alarm clock, make excuses to skip the gym after work, and comfort eat a pint of ice cream. In this episode, I explain why it’s so hard to make the changes that we think we want. I also explain one tool to use to start making small steps in the direction you want to head in. I know it can feel overwhelming and a little shameful to fall off the wagon so soon. But don’t worry, you’re in the best of company with the rest of us.

If you’re interested in creating secure relationships where you are asking for your needs to be met, setting clear boundaries, and sharing your honest opinions book a free discovery call to see what attachment style patterns have been holding you back from this. Link to book: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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142. Are you dating a guilty pleasure

Wed, 24 Jan 2024 10:15:00 -0700

Sometimes it’s really hard to say no to dating, hooking up, or getting over someone. You might know exactly how they’re not the right person or their not supporting you in the way that you need but you keep coming back for more. In this episode I talk about why it’s so hard to end it. I also share what’s happening at the subconscious level that keeps you coming back for more. I definitely cover why guilt and shame are making it all worse and maybe even keeping you stuck. As always, I finish the episode sharing one tool to help you start meeting your needs on your own so you can either keep going with the late night Netflix and chill situationship or end it for good. Either way you’re making a decision that’s right for YOU!

If you’re interested in ending old relationship patterns like people-pleasing, using mind-reading as your main form of communication, or dating unavailable people book a discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right for you. It’s a zero-pressure call where you get to learn what outdated strategies from childhood are holding you back in relationships. I hope to see you there! Link to book a free discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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141. Why chaos is intoxicating to the fearful avoidant

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s podcast, I talk about why the fearful avoidant attachment style loves chaos. The fearful-avoidant attachment type grew up in chaos. As an adult they tend to seek out chaotic situations like an unhealthy or toxic work environment, getting into credit card debt, or dating someone reckless. In the episode, I talk about why they seek out situations like this. I then go into how the fearful-avoidant eventually reacts to chaotic situations with an intense need to control the situation. I have so much empathy for this reaction because it’s their way of innocently trying to get their needs met without healthy communication skills. Trust me, I’ve been here, this is the attachment style I grew up with. At the end of the episode, I share one easy solution for you to start using today to build self-trust that you will eventually expand toward others. It is 100% possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to hear how.

If you’re interested in healing your attachment style so you can date people without flipping 180 degrees after they show interest in you on a date or so you can start having a healthy relationship with the person you are with schedule a free discovery call. This is a no-pressure call to learn what attachment patterns are holding you back from the relationship you want. Click the link here to schedule: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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140. Dating and spirituality with the Modern Medium

Wed, 10 Jan 2024 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s podcast I talk with Alexandra Shelly, the Modern Medium. She’s passionate about infusing her joy, spirited humor, and creativity into fundamental practices learned by her mentor and world-renowned psychic mediums, in order to create a practice that is uniquely hers. We talk about two topics, being single and spirituality. She shares what has helped her explore her own pleasure and satisfaction in her single life as well as some light and easy spiritual practices. We explore control, surrender and joy. And of course we talk about how to sharpen your intuition. This is interview is fun and playful, true to both our natures.

If you’re interested in ending old relationship patterns like people pleasing, being passive aggressive, or running hot and cold in relationships book a free discovery call to see if my 6-month relationship and communication program is the right fit for you. It is possible to change your attachment style whether you’re single or in a relationship. Book your discovery call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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139. Sex, intimacy, and attachment styles with Shelby Avann

Wed, 13 Dec 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Today on the podcast Shelby Avann and I talk about sex, intimacy, and the different attachment styles. This is a juicy convo and Shelby explains the different patterns that each attachment style experiences in the bedroom including anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, and secure attachment. She shares a few communication tips to ensure you’re getting and giving consent and getting your sexual needs met. Sex, pleasure, and giving and receiving are such an important part of a healthy and secure relationship. Tune in to start showing up securely in your sex life.

Book a free discovery call to learn what old patterns affected your last relationship and how to start creating secure relationships this year. Link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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Link to Shelby’s Intimacy, Sex and Attachment Styles Course:

https://www.shelbyavann.ca/challenge-page/fa5ebbe2-ba0f-4110-97d0-a7b91fd17c2b

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138. Are you worried you’re never going to find someone to be with?

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Are you worried you’re never going to find someone to be with? This is such a common thought for people who are dating, newly single, or scared to break up with someone they are not happy with. If this is you, I have so much compassion for you. This is a totally normal fear that the majority of the planet has bought into at a certain point in their lifetime. In this episode, I break down what happens when you believe this thought and how this can cost you alot of bad dates. Then, I share the very first tool that I share with my clients. It’s a combination of thought work and cognitive behavioral therapy. You’ll learn how to gently change your brain to think in a more open, secure, and curious mindset.

Are you ready to date confidently and securely to find that person you’ve been dreaming about? Book a free consult call to learn about how you can change old dating patterns this year for good. Book it here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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137. Client stories - Creating earned secure attachment after heartbreak

Wed, 29 Nov 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships, Anna Lum shares her story about creating secure attachment after a breakup. She shares how she healed her anxious preoccupied attachment style that was triggered in her last relationship. She talks about the steps she took to heal her attachment style and how she is sharing needs, processing emotions, and communicating boundaries. We go deep about the particular day when she start communicating boundaries without any resistance and how she developed her relationship with herself.

Anna’s info: What’s up y’all, I’m Anna! I’m a Sacramento barber that specializes in cutting straight hair as well as longer styles. Sarah has helped me tremendously in my journey in healing my anxious attachment. Because of the work we’ve done together, I’ve been able to understand and communicate my needs, fulfill my own needs, self soothe, and overall show up more authentically in my life. Building a better relationship to myself and healing my attachment has giving me a huge uptick in all areas of my life. I would highly recommend getting into this work for anyone wanting to improve their quality of life! If you’re interested in more of the work that I do, my instagram and tik tok handle is @anna.cutz . Thanks for tuning into our podcast! :)

If you’re interested in learning how to process emotions so you can communicate needs directly and effectively book a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. Book your free discovery call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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136. Ending old anxious relationship patterns with Chelsea Riffe

Wed, 15 Nov 2023 10:15:00 -0700

For today’s episode I’m re-airing a recent In My Non-Expert Opinion podcast episode with me as a guest. Chelsea Riffe hosts the podcast and she shares how she healed her anxious attachment in her dating life.

We cover all things attachment on this episode including a deep dive into all the attachment styles including anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. We discuss the common anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic and what to do when you find yourself in this situation. Chelsea shares about how discovering her needs has helped her become more secure in her relationship to herself.

My favorite thing about this episode is how much Chelsea shares about healing her own anxious preoccupied attachment style. It’s really powerful and will hopefully help you on your attachment healing journey.

If you’re interested in ending old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and hoping your partner will read your mind book a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. Book the call here: Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

Listen to In My Non-Expert Opinion podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/46sFOpt34jKVVmbWZVM2FH?si=77abf326c3484b83

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135. Suffering from chronic guilt or shame? Here’s how to stop.

Wed, 08 Nov 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode I talk about how to overcome chronic feelings of guilt and shame. First of all, if this is you, I want you to know that this is so common. Both fearful avoidants and dismissive avoidants often tend towards feelings of guilt and shame. I share a few examples of how you can catch this habit, it might be showing up in a sneaky way you don’t even realize. I then finish the episode with two easy tools to use to start moving towards compassion for yourself. The second tool is one of my favorite questions that I like to ask clients. Listen in to stop these feelings and move towards a more loving way to treat yourself. Relief is possible!

If you’re interested in showing up securely in new or existing relationships book a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit you. You’ll also learn what relief is possible for you custom tailored to your unique attachment style. Here’s the link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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134. Are you fantasizing about your ex? Here’s how to stop.

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Are you spending alot of time fantasizing about your ex? Do you wish they would call or you could get back together? Are you the one that did the breaking up and you’re still thinking about them? It might be surprising to hear that this is actually common. In this episode I share a few sneaky ways your brain might be fantasizing about your ex without you even realizing it, hello Instagram stories! The good news is that your brain is both really smart and also really simple. You’ll learn a few tools to help your brain stop thinking about your ex, for good, that don’t involve willpower or a social media strike.

If you’re interested in overcoming old relationship patterns like people pleasing, codependency, and lack of boundaries book a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. Here’s the link to book: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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133. Atomic habits for healing your attachment style

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode, I share what the 1% better habit that each attachment type can take today to see massive results created in a year. This episode is based on the concept of 1% better from James Clear’s book, Atomic Habits. In this chart-topping book Clear writes that, "Improving by 1% isn’t particularly notable, sometimes it isn’t even noticeable, but it can be far more meaningful – especially in the long run." Inspired by this concept I share what each attachment type can do today to be 1% closer to secure attachment. I know it sounds slow and boring but 1% adds up quickly and before you know it you’ll be making secure decisions in all of your relationships. This episode includes suggestions for all attachment types including fearful avoidant, anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and secure. Listen to find out the 1% habit you can start today.

If you’re interested in communicating needs and boundaries in your relationships whether you’re single or partnered book a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. Link to book a free discovery call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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132. Scripts to ask for what you need from a loved one without feeling like a burden

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode I share scripts to use when you are asking a loved one to meet a need without a feeling like a burden. Asking for a need to be met can be really hard. But part of becoming more secure means sharing vulnerably about how you’re feeling and asking your loved one for support. In this episode I share why it’s important to ask for your needs to be met and what repair means. I explain how to use the five languages not as a ranking system but as a quick reference point to figure out what you need to feel better. Then I share scripts for each love language to ask for what you need. You can download the scripts here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/freetools

If you’re interested in learning how to communicate needs and boundaries book a discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. Book the discovery call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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131. It is possible to change your attachment style

Wed, 11 Oct 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Is it possible to change your attachment style is one of the most common questions about the attachment system. In today’s episode I share the truth that yes, it is possible to change your attachment style. It can be a little confusing at first what behavior is associated with earned secure. I share a few behavioral patterns that show you are on the right track towards healing your attachment style. And I share my number one tip for starting to heal your attachment style. Listen to find out!

If you’re interested in ending old patterns like people-pleasing and codependency book a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. You can have healthy and safe relationships in your life in the near future. Link to book the discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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130. Perfectionism in dating and relationships

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode of Lit AF Relationships I share about how perfectionism shows up in dating and in relationships. This episode is a really personal share because I talk about the belief I held in the beginning of my marriage that fights and arguments were a sign that we weren’t meant to be together. I often ruminated about divorce. Sometimes it still comes up. But I share a few tools of how to notice and address perfectionism when you scrolling on the dating apps or in a relationship with someone.

If you’re interested in ending old relationship patterns like people pleasing and not asking for your needs to be met schedule a free discovery call to see if my 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you. Link to book the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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129. What secure attachment actually looks like

Wed, 27 Sep 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode I explore what secure attachment actually looks like. I had some pretty interesting misconceptions about how secure folx showed up in relationships and I hilariously share them with you today. I also talk about what it’s like to date someone with secure attachment. It can be pretty strange and your nervous system might not be used to it. You might be wondering why you don’t have those butterflies in your stomach when you’re around someone secure. I also talk about what it’s like to be securely attached while dating someone with an insecure attachment style. I share a few tips on how to show up for them in a healthy way. This is the final episode of a four part series exploring in depth the common patterns that four different attachment styles experience. Check out the previous three episode to hear more about the different attachment types.

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128. Afraid to show up fully because your partner might leave?

Wed, 20 Sep 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode I talk about the patterns behind the anxious preoccupied attachment style. Our attachment styles show us how we relate to others and what strategies we use to keep ourselves safe in relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. And it’s also possible to help your partner become more secure by showing up securely in the relationship. In this episode, I share the common patterns that the anxious preoccupied experiences. I also share how you can help them show up more securely.

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127. Feeling like your partner is always defensive? Here’s why…

Wed, 13 Sep 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode I talk about the patterns behind why you’re partner gets defensive. The reason they get defensive is because of their attachment style. Our attachment styles show us how we related to others and what strategies we use to keep ourselves safe in relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. And it’s also possible to help your partner become more secure by showing up securely in the relationship. In this episode I share about the common patterns that dismissive avoidants experience. I also share how you can help them show up more securely.

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126. Are you afraid that your partner is not faithful?

Wed, 06 Sep 2023 10:15:00 -0700

This week on Lit AF I share common relationship patterns for the fearful avoidant attachment type. Attachment styles help us understand common relationship patterns that keep repeating. You might think that breaking up with someone will fix the problems only to get into a new relationship with the same issues. I’ve totally been there. It’s confusing and super annoying. But understanding your attachment style can help you create new strategies to relate to people confidently and honestly. Trust me you’re not broken. I’m this episode I talk about the patterns behind the fearful avoidant. They have a huge fear of betrayal and often struggle with an internal or external feeling of chaos. Their go to emotion is anger and can use that to set boundaries from a reactionary place.

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125. How to hack your life if you’re feeling lonely or going through a breakup

Wed, 30 Aug 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On this week’s episode I break down how to hack your life if you’re feeling lonely or going through a breakup. Let’s be real, breakups suck and loneliness can really consume your life. But there are some easy ways to trick your brain into getting your core needs met so you feel like you’re still receiving the benefits of a romantic partner or relationship. The amazing thing with this work is that your meeting your needs on your own. These hacks will also help you heal from a breakup faster. Tune in to start feeling better!

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Resources Discussed:

In My Non-Expert Opinion podcast episode with Sarah Cohan: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-205-repeating-old-patterns-with-new-partners/id1309417352?i=1000625236346

124. Why I don’t love the book Attached

Wed, 23 Aug 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode I talk about my issues with the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. I should start by saying I do think there are some positives about this book. But when I first opened it years ago I was very triggered by it and it took me a while to pick it back up. I share about why the book was triggering to me and some of its big misses. I believe its written quite well for one specific attachment style and leaves out the others. Listen today to learn more about why this popular book might not be the best attachment literature for you.

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123. Working with the body to heal your attachment

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On this week’s episode I share why working with the body is important to healing your attachment style. The body is a great temperature gauge for what is going on in our brain. Feeling emotions is a uniquely human experience. And most insecure attachment types work really hard to avoid emotions as much as possible. In this episode I share how to start to get in touch with your emotions and build a language to describe them in your body. As with all things healing it’s not easy and it can be really awkward to start. But trust me we are all starting from a similar place. Tune into to learn more about the importance of incorporating somatic bodywork into your healing journey.

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122. Spirituality and its important role in healing attachment

Wed, 02 Aug 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On this week’s episode I talk about the important role of spirituality in healing your attachment style. In this episode I share about the difference between religion and spirituality. I define ways to connect with your spiritual practice. And I encourage you to make your spiritual practice uniquely yours. There are many benefits to a spiritual practice including tapping into an infinite resource of love, support, and connection. I then share about my own spiritual practice and the many different modalities I use including tarot, astrology, and the changing of the seasons. It’s woo and wildly witchy. I hope you enjoy!

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121. Breakdown of attachment in The Ultimatum: Queer Love

Wed, 26 Jul 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode I examine the different attachment styles that play out in Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix. I evaluate each of the attachment styles of the characters in the show and explain the mechanics of their relationships at play. It’s fun. It’s spicy. And watching the relationships in the show helps us understand each of the attachment styles in a deeper way. I finish by talking about the overall premise of the show and whether or not ultimates actually work.

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120. Attachment styles and money

Wed, 19 Jul 2023 06:30:00 -0700

Today on the show I talk about the relationship between money and attachment styles. I share how each attachment style relates to money. Whether your fearful avoidant, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, or secure you definitely have a relationship to money. Attachment is one of the many influencies and factors on your relationship to money. I share why money is such an intense and difficult topic and a few resources to start healing your relationship to it.

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119. Have you sworn off dating? Let’s talk about it.

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In today’s episode I talk about why you have sworn off dating. I go into each of the attachment styles anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure to talk about how each of them arrive to this important stage of healing. Believe it or not swearing off dating is a huge part of healing. I just don’t want you to get stuck on this stage. I finish the episode sharing a few tips about how to start to think about dating again and approach online dating in a secure way including what app to use and how to prepare for a date.

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118. Client Stories - Healing the anxious preoccupied attachment style with Chelsea Riffe

Wed, 05 Jul 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode I talk with my recent client, Chelsea Riffe, about healing her anxious attachment style. We talk about her journey to secure attachment where she is now practicing understanding and meeting her needs on a daily basis. We cover so many topics including how to approach fear of rejection, ending relationships that aren’t the right fit quicker, overcoming the feeling of being too much, scripts for having hard conversations, sharing expectations in situationships and casual relationships, what to do when you think people are out of your league, and how to get over your ex faster. Chelsea shares honestly and vulnerably how to heal this attachment style. I hope this episode helps you on your journey to secure.

I help folks that are struggling with people pleasing to show up confidently and vulnerably in relationships. Book a free discovery call to see if this 1:1 coaching program is the right fit for you.

Visit Chelsea’s website: www.chelseariffe.com | Mic Drop, The Ultimate Podcast | Launch Course | 1:1 Coaching

Listen to Chelsea’s podcast: In My Non-Expert Opinion - Spotify

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Resources Discussed:

Chelsea Riffe on Lit AF podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/65-manifesting-an-eat-pray-love-adventure-with/id1515162031?i=1000541337105

117. How to show up as your true self on dates

Wed, 28 Jun 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Showing up authentically on a date can be difficult, especially if you tend to people please or have an insecure attachment type. On this episode, I share a few tips to get into a secure mindset before you go on a date. I include tips for anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. This takes practice and I encourage you to take baby steps. But there are huge rewards to being yourself and showing up authentically on dates.

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116. The anxious avoidant trap explained

Wed, 21 Jun 2023 11:15:00 -0700

Today on the podcast I talk about the anxious avoidant trap. I answer the question, “Do you think people in an Anxious / Avoidant relationship can work with time and patience or are they incompatible? I keep going back and forth on if I just need time and to completely heal, or if I need to find someone who will work with my anxious attachment style.” I explain why these attachment types tend to end up in relationships with each other. I also talk about how you can become secure in a relationship or on your own.

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115. Do I need to be in a relationship to develop secure attachment?

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 10:15:00 -0700

On this week’s episode I answer the question, “Do you think you can only earn secure in the context of relationships? In other words, even if you’ve done tons of work, can you be certain you’re (mostly) healed without testing it in a relationship?”. I get this question alot in different forms, do I need to be single to heal my attachment style, do I need to be in a relationship to heal my attachment style, or what’s better?

In this episode, I share the benefits of healing your attachment style single and in a relationship. I also share some common signs that you are ready to date again or showing up securely in relationships. If you’re leaning dismissive avoidant and thinking that you’re secure without trying it in a relationship, I encourage you to start dating to test it and see.

If you are interested in working with me through 1:1 coaching to heal your attachment style book a discovery call to see if it’s the right fit for you. Link to book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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114. Attachment styles in poly and nonmonogamous relationships with Jessica Fern

Wed, 31 May 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode, I interview Jessica Fern author of Polysecure. I really wanted to have her on the show because this book is an amazing resource about attachment for both monogamous and nonmonogamous relationships. We discuss all things attachment including external environmental factors that affect our attachment style, our attachment with mother earth, and how to heal your attachment in a relationship or multiple relationships.

She shares about how different attachment types including anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidants/disorganized show up in nonmonogamous relationships. We finish the conversation by talking about the tools she is using in her current relationships to show up securely with and for each other and the topic of her next book. I so appreciate this conversation and recommend this episode to anyone interested in learning more about attachment whether they are monogamous or not.

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113. Signs your relationship is fizzling and what to do about it

Wed, 24 May 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Fizzling is when someone you’re talking to online or have been on a date with puts the brakes on communicating with you. They don’t completely ghost you but the conversation starts slowing down like a car running out of gas. In this episode I share common signs that your situationship or relationship is fizzling. I explain why ghosting and fizzling are common dismissive avoidant behaviors. And then I share how you can prevent this behavior from happening.

If you’re interested in working with me through 1:1 coaching to show up confidentially in dating book a discovery call to see if it’s a good fit for you.

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Resources Discussed:

https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/becoming-a-crocs-person

112. How to deal with distrust in a relationship

Wed, 17 May 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In this episode I answer a listener’s question that is struggling with distrust in their relationship. Their dismissive avoidant partner has a habit of lying and she is triggered by his behavior. This episode is particularly great for anxious preoccupieds and fearful avoidants that struggle with hypervigilance. I explain how to handle the triggering emotions that come up and then I share tips on how to ask for her needs to be met in relationship. I finish with some extra bonus secure advice on how to help meet her partner's needs so he has support to end the habit. Listen in if you’re in a relationship with someone that has a triggering habit.

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111. How to heal your attachment style

Wed, 10 May 2023 10:15:00 -0700

In today’s episode I share how I healed my fearful avoidant attachment type. The fearful avoidant attachment style flip flops between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant so there are some good strategies in here no matter which side of the attachment spectrum you’re on. I go over how I originally heard about attachment style, what program I used to start healing, and the incredible changes I’ve made in my life because of my earned secure attachment.

If you’re interested in working with me to heal your attachment style you can book a discovery call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

I would be honored to help you show up confidently and vulnerably in all of your relationships.

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Resources Discussed:

Personal Development School: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/124.html

Brad Yates Free EFT Tapping: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHZMZejDS4RIxDdBwoie9A

Somatic Feelings Meditation: https://www.sarahcohan.com/freetools

110. How to communicate on dating apps when you’re anxious

Wed, 03 May 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Are you communicating on the dating apps and feeling anxious? In this episode I share a few tips on how to communicate on dating apps when you have an anxious preoccupied attachment style. This episode is also for you if you are fearful avoidant that leans anxious. I share how anxious preoccupied people tend to show up on dating apps and how to slow down in your communication. Additionally I review how to understand your needs and practice meetin them on your own. And I finish with absolute favorite tip about online dating. You’ll just have to listen to learn it!

Resources Discussed:

Brad Yates EFT Tapping for the feeling of rejection: https://youtu.be/tP3rFM634tQ

Free somatic feelings meditation: https://www.sarahcohan.com/freetools

I would love to help you heal your anxious and fearful avoidant attachment style so you show up confidently and securely in your dating life. Book a discovery call to learn more about your unique attachment style and how it’s possible to get to secure. https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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109. Struggling with a breakup? Here’s how to move on

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Breakups can trigger your attachment system which makes them especially painful to navigate.

In this episode I review how each of the different attachment styles handle a breakup including anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, and dimssive avoidant. I share four tips to help you heal from the breakfup whether you did the breaking up or you were broken up with. I finish the episode answering questions I received recently about breakups including why does my ex need no contact and when can I contact my ex. I wish you a speedy healing journey during the sacred time. I hope you find the strength to enjoy your single life.

II would love to help you navigate your breakup to soothe your anxiety or work on you vulnerability so you feel comfortable meeting new people. You can book a free discovery call with me to learn more about your attachment style and how to start showing up securely across all of your relationships. Here’s the link to the schedule the call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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108: Getting too excited or overwhelmed about dating a new person? Here’s how to regulate your nervous system

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Are you dating someone new and getting too excited or overwhelmed about it? You’re not alone! This is so common for anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment types. In this episode, I explain how the different attachment styles are activated when dating someone new.I break down how to regulate your own nervous system for each attachment type so you can get back to a secure mindset. Good for you for putting yourself out there and dating! It’s really brave to put yourself out there. Now go meet your needs and communicate with this new person about them.

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Want to heal your attachment so you’re showing up securely while dating? Book a discovery with me to see if attachment coaching would be the right fit for you. You’ll learn about your unique attachment style and how to heal. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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107. “I’ve been going to therapy for years and nothing has changed” - how to move forward

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 10:15:00 -0700

So you’ve been going to therapy for years and you’re not seeing any changes? I get it. I went to therapy for about four years and I didn’t see much drastic change. In this episode I talk about the difference between therapy and coaching. I also share how healing your attachment style helps you show up more authentically in therapy. And last I share how to use coaching and therapy together to heal past trauma and show up securely in your relationships.

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106. Myths about dating: “My city is the worst”

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 10:30:00 -0700

Are you doing dating math around dating in your city? Do you think your city is in fact the worst city to date? Do you live in Los Angeles, New York, San Francisco, Seattle, London, Paris, or Chicago? When you’re thinking this you are actually in lack mentality. And I hate to say it but it’s not possible for all of these cities to be the worst. The truth is dating is just hard. In this episode I share a few reasons why people buy into this myth and what you can do to overcome it. Good luck out there and schedule a free consult call with me to learn how to believe in yourself and believe in partnerships. There are many perfect matches out there for you. Are you willing to find them?

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Book a Getting To Secure discovery call with me, you will learn about your own attachment style, what is holding you back from creating secure relationships, and how to cultivate a secure mindset in your marriage or dating life. Book your call here:

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105. Stay or breakup? Should you break up with them, or actually express your desires?

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 11:15:00 -0700

Are you ruminating about breaking up with your partner? If breaking up with your partner is your go-to reaction whenever there is conflict in your relationships this episode is for you! This is a very common habit for dismissive avoidants. I know because I used to struggle with this. In this episode, I share why dismissive avoidants are always thinking about breaking up as the solution to conflict. Then I share two simple solutions to end it. This is good information for an anxious preoccupied to better understand their partner or for a fearful avoidant the leans dismissive-avoidant.

Want to feel empowered and independent in relationships this year? Book a Getting To Secure discovery call with me, you will learn about your own attachment style, what is holding you back from creating secure relationships, and how to cultivate a secure mindset. Book your call here:

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104. Stuck in a bad dating rut? Here's some inspiration

Wed, 22 Mar 2023 10:45:00 -0700

This week’s episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Whitney Cubbison’s San Francisco book launch of Will Be There Wine. I always love using books, movies, and tv shows to understand our own relationship patterns better. This book is no different. In this episode we discuss the lessons learned in the book including how to remain secure, the myth of no sex on the first date, and how to end fantasy future projection. The main character, Austen, is a wonderful example of secure attachment. She is resilient, brave, and 100% authentic in her dating life. And she goes on many, many, many bad dates. If you’re stuck in a bad dating rut, this one is for you! Get the book wherever you prefer to buy them!

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Read Will There Be Wine: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/64646668

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103. Are you bad at conflict resolution? Here’s how to handle

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 11:30:00 -0700

Are you bad at conflict? Does conflict feel triggering to you? It likely has to do with your attachment style and how your caregivers addressed conflict growing up. In this episode I explain what attachment styles are and how each attachment style deals with conflict. If you’re anxious preoccupied you likely people-please and say yes to things you don’t actually want. If you’re dismissive avoidant you likely feel swallowed and trapped during conflict which leads you to be passive-aggressive or stonewalling. I share a few strategies to use for each attachment type.

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102. What attachment style am I?

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 10:15:00 -0700

Today I’m reviewing the four different attachment types so you can answer the question, what attachment style am I? Listen to understand the four attachment types anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment, and secure attachment.

Attachment Style Anxious Preoccupied

As an anxious attachment style you prioritize close social connections above all else. You don't love being alone. You enjoy texting with your partner throughout the day. If you don't hear from them you can panic and start to send more messages because you fear the closeness in the relationship is threatened. You likely grew up in a household with unpredictable caregivers that sometimes attuned to you and sometimes didn’t. Your work is to learn to set boundaries and self-soothe on your own. You will see great success when you start to meet your own needs and solidify your self-identity.

Attachment Style Dismissive Avoidant

With an avoidant attachment style you are likely to be slow to warm up to others. You may come across as cold or distant. Emotions can be quite difficult for you because during childhood it was not safe for you to be vulnerable. You likely experienced neglect from your caregiver growing up.

Your go-to emotions are irritation and impatience with your partner. You can also feel often like trapped or swallowed by your partner or close relationships. You are very practical, grounded, and tend to be very high achieving. Your work is to get in touch with your emotions, learn to be vulnerable, and share needs and boundaries from a grounded non-reactionary place.

Attachment Style Fearful Avoidant / Disorganized

This is also known as disorganized or anxious avoidant attachment style. As a fearful avoidant you oscillate between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant strategies. You are charming and very present when meeting new people. You run hot and cold with your emotions. You crave intimacy but it can also be scary. You struggle with trust in relationships because you couldn’t trust your caregiver growing up. You likely experienced trauma in your childhood. Your go-to emotion is anger when you feel trapped, helpless, or powerless in a situation. You probably don’t like setting boundaries and often set them from a reactionary place. Your work is to build self-trust by both learning how to self-soothe and get in touch with your emotions.

Secure Attachment Style

As a secure attachment type you tend to be very in touch with your emotions. You know how to self-soothe and process emotions when you are triggered. You are aware of your emotions in the moment and feel comfortable sharing them with others. You understand that boundaries are important and have no problem sharing them with others. You might need help with resolving an old belief. Getting coaching or support is helpful when you're going through a difficult time in your life like divorce or a loss.

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101. My crazy unmedicated hospital birth story and attachment parenting

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 10:45:00 -0700

In today’s episode, I sit down with my husband, Adrian Cardenas, to talk about my wild and crazy birth story. I had an unmedicated in a hospital. It was an incredible learning and growth experience both physically and mentally. We both share how birth has radically changed us and what attachment parenting means to both of us. It’s hilarious and touching and we hold back nothing.

Resources discussed in this episode:

Freya surge tracking app: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.thepositivebirthcompany.freyasurgetimer&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1

Bad Ass Mother Birther on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/badassmotherbirther/

Golden Gate Doula Association: https://goldengatedoula.com/#/

Book: Transformed By Birth by Britta Bushnell, https://brittabushnell.com/transformed-by-birth/

Birthing and parenting workshops: https://www.naturalresources-sf.com/

Youtube pregnant channels:

Drs. Bjorkman: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDoctorsBjorkman

Diana in the Pink: https://www.youtube.com/c/DianaInThePink?app=desktop

The Baby Book by Dr. Sears: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Book-Revised-Everything-Parenting/dp/0316198269/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+baby+book&qid=1554504978&s=books&sr=1-1

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100. Perfectionism on the road to secure attachment

Wed, 14 Sep 2022 14:45:00 -0700

In today’s episode, I share how perfectionism shows up on the road to secure attachment. I recently caught myself being a super perfectionist about my own attachment style in preparation for the birth of my baby. My fearful-avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant tendencies had me hooked on secure. I wanted to have my shit figured out so I wasn’t doing it in front of the baby. But guess what, NO ONE IS PERFECT. Not even securely attached people.

I share a really important tool that helps me have so much forgiveness, compassion, and grace for when I’m experiencing these moments.

PS Lit AF is going on maternity leave until 2023. We’ll be sharing new episodes soon. Until then enjoy our previous episodes to help you heal.

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99. Astrology for Insecure Attachment Types with Markie Mullins

Wed, 07 Sep 2022 14:00:00 -0700

Today’s episode features Markie Mullins, an astrologer, yoga instructor, oracle card reader, and retreat leader. We have an amazing conversation about reading charts and where astrology and attachment style intersect. She explains how to find your rising sign, use the moon cycles for your manifestation practice, and integrate your cycle with the seasons. It’s a hilarious conversation peppered with lots of vulnerability. Tune in to get to know your chart even better.

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98. The impact of Roe v. Wade

Wed, 24 Aug 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Today’s show takes a bit of a turn off the beaten personal and spiritual growth path and focuses on the impact of the recent overturning of Roe v. Wade. This episode features stories about birth, pregnancy, and abortion. The first guest Ashleigh Robinson recently spoke at an abortion rights rally in Baltimore and shares why it’s so important for women to have ownership over their bodies. The second guest, Megan Sprague, shares her story of getting an abortion in California and how that affected her future career. It’s my intention to share these stories so people understand how difficult the abortion process can be even when it is legal. And bottom line being pro-choice does not mean being anti-baby.

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Show notes:

Freakonomics Radio Abortion and Crime Revisited podcast episode

The Janes on HBO

97. Astrology for self-awareness with Dana Augustine

Wed, 17 Aug 2022 10:15:00 -0700

We’re talking about astrology with this week’s guest Dana Augustine. She is a teacher, astrologer, and the host of the Self Help Witch podcast. She kicks off the episode with an astro update so you know what’s going on in the cosmos. We then go on to chat about sobriety, codependency, and where to learn more about these topics in your astrology chart. I got a reading from Dana last year and I love the way she makes astrology incredibly approachable. It’s an entry point into healing. And she shares how she has used it as a tool for self-awareness. Dive into the episode to learn more about using astrology on your own healing journey.

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Resources Discussed:

Acyuta-bhava Das - Nightlight Astology

Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice

96. Taking your career to the next level with Ali Dunn

Wed, 10 Aug 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Today I’m joined by career coach Ali Dunn. We have an amazing conversation about why it’s important for women to start speaking up in the workplace and asking for raises. She shares her top tips and tools for cultivating confidence and working with imposter syndrome. My favorite tip she talks about is having a brag folder. And how taking action is so important when dealing with imposter syndrome and perfectionism. She also shares how she is balancing a career with motherhood. There is so much in this conversation. Ali makes the tough topics approachable and relatable with a healthy dose of humor. Dig in if you’re looking for some career inspo.

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95. Queer AF astrology with Nadia Diamante

Wed, 03 Aug 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week I am joined by astrologer Nadia Diamante. Nadia is an ethical hedonist, sapphic queer with an irreverent and wild spirit and a love for all people of all identities. She gives us an astro update and explains how she incorporates asteroids and mythology into her work. Nadia is hilarious and obsessed with Gen Z-ers. Throughout the conversation Nadia queers astrology forcing us to question the white male gaze that has been fed to us for centuries. She finishes the convo explaining how to find asteroids in your own chart and encourages all of us to do our own astrology research. Tune into get your astro report.

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Resources Discussed:

Michael Meade - Living Myth Podcast

Demetra George - Asteroid Goddesses: The Mythology, Psychology, and Astrology of the Re-emerging Feminine

In The Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado

Tutorial - Find Asteroids In Your Chart By Nadia Diamante

94. Neurodivergence and productivity hacking with Avory Faucette

Wed, 27 Jul 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week I’m joined by neurodivergent coach Avory Faucette. Avory’s preferred pronouns are zie/hir. Avory shares about living with ADHD, queer magic, and coping with chronic fatigue. We discuss hir relationship with productivity coming from a background working in nonprofits and social justice. Zie shares about the importance of prioritizing your own needs and your own selfcare participularly in these fields. Avory is no stranger to labels and diagnosis and helps us understand how to cope with them and find community for support. We finish with some much needed productivity coaching. It was such a fun conversation and I love the energy zie brought to the convo.

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Resources Discussed:

Need PMS or period support? Get 20% off all Semaine products using code LITAF. Visit semainehealth.com.

Read Avory’s blog post about ADHD

93. Grief is a b*tch

Wed, 20 Jul 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week I share why grief is at the very bottom of every core wound and trauma we’ve experienced. Grief does not like to be touched. She loves to be by herself. But when you find her she’s got a lot of valuable things to say in order to heal. I get to the story of grief by way of perfectionism. It’s a personal share of how I’ve honed my perfectionistic tendencies throughout my life. I share how it showed up in ballet, my nonprofit career, body shaming, and ruminating on convos. At the very bottom of my perfectionism is the desire to be loved and with that is a lot of grief for every moment I didn’t receive it. So buckle up! It’s a funny one.

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Resources Discussed:

Nooworks

Susanna Merrick - Aura Wear NYC

Personal Development School

Lizzo's Watch Out for the Big Grrrls

92. Having the courage to question with Taune Lyons

Wed, 13 Jul 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Today I am joined by therapist and coach Taune Lyons. We discuss ALL things attachment style and how she uses it in her practice. We cover reparenting, immersing ourselves in secure environments, and the five pillars of secure attachment. She shares recommended somatic practices to feel safe enough in the body in order to be more vulnerable in relationships. Basically it all comes back to SAFETY! We finish the convo talking about how she helps her clients define their own gender identity and sexuality. She shares so many resources that are linked below.

Taune’s bio: Taune Lyons is a California-based integrative (somatic and depth) therapist and coach who views safe, compassionate, and co-creative interconnection as the foundation to a well-lived life, and is devoted to understanding and helping folks create healthier and intentional relationships - including the relationship they have with themselves.

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Visit Taune Lyons’ teachings on Tat Lab: https://tatlab.app/

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Resources Discussed:

Donate to support abortion rights and your donation will be matched up to $500! (link to IG post)

Goal Setting for Your Dream Year Worksheet with Video Guide

Daniel P. Brown Imagine Ideal Parents Exercise

Back from the Borderline Podcast Episode - The truth about "quiet BPD": sunshine on the outside, razor blades on the inside (ft. Dr. Anita Federici)

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

91. Hanging with our spirit guides with Beth Kiacz

Wed, 06 Jul 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Today I chat with Galactic Seer, Beth Kiacz. She shares how she helps clients develop their own relationship with channeling and spirit guides. She has an earned-secure attachment style recovering from fearful-avoidant as a child. Channeling and communing with her spirit guides have really helped her develop trust and ease anxiety in her body. Which are the two most important things for fearful avoidants to heal. We go further into how to stop people-pleasing and why ancestors like to hang out in our throat chakra. I thoroughly enjoyed gabbing with Beth it was a delightful convo.

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90. Recovering from COVID with Rachael and Lesley

Wed, 29 Jun 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Today I am joined by shadow work coach Rachael Besser and Lesley Stevens. We happened to attend the same networking event and all came down with COVID at the same time. We share how we all got through it together. We get into the details of how it affected each of us differently, what tv shows got us through the week, and what we learned from the experience. This is no way medical advice. Not at all. No way, not here. We like to leave the medical advice up to the professionals. But it is a hilarious and heartwarming recounting of our experiences. We wish you all happy healing and/or continued avoidance of COVID-19. MWAH!

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89. Breathing in expansion with Christine Lu Singh

Wed, 22 Jun 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week’s episode features Chinese-Canadian Breathwork Coach & Intuitive Guide, Christine Lu Singh. We talk about all things breathwork. She shares about her transition from her corporate PR job into being a breathwork facilitator. She talks about the divide she felt between her soul and her ego before she made the leap into her new career. And she also shares how to gently move through trauma using breathwork. We then shift to talk about her process of co-authoring a book while pregnant. I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation and highly recommend it for anyone that is interested in embodiment tools.

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Additional resources from Christine Lu Singh:

Coach for Transformation & Healing: I am launching a very limited 1:1 private coaching offering where you will have access to healing modalities such as Intuitive Readings, Breathwork and Distance Energy Healing Sessions (Reiki). Over the course of three months, you will be held in a sacred container for your healing and transformation journey. You will not be the same after this experience. If you feel a nudge and that this might be for you, let's chat: https://breathewithtine.as.me/claritycall
Connect with Me: I invite you to follow me on Instagram @breathewithtine and join my mailing list for the occasional love note to stay updated on upcoming events and all the magical things. Email me at hello@breathewithtine.com and I'll send you a mini guided Breathwork session (10 min) you can use for your own practice. It can be a very powerful practice done daily, or in moments when you need to slow down and get back to your center.
SOLD OUT! REIMAGINE Summer Mini Retreat: I'm cohosting an intimate mini retreat on July 13 from 2pm - 5pm PT in a secret healing garden in San Francisco where you'll be guided through a limiting belief workshop, a goal and intention setting to create a 90 day action plan followed by my signature Breathwork & Reiki experience to embody the new you. We sold out for our Summer edition! Due to the popular demand, we are already planning our next retreat for Fall 2022. Send me an email at hello@breathewithtine.com if you’d like to be put on the list for more info.
Private Sessions: If you're interested in deepening your practice with Breathwork and/or Reiki, I offer private 1:1 sessions for individuals, couples and groups. Learn more about my offerings here: https://breathewithtine.as.me/

88. Creating healthy habits with Livia Marati

Wed, 08 Jun 2022 10:13:00 -0700

Today’s episode is all about habits with holistic health coach, event designer, and hatha yoga instructor Livia Marati of Ina Wellness Collective in Guam. She shares what helps drive healthy habits and the motivation to keep them. My favorite part was her sharing about her morning routine which involves the simple steps of lighting incense and putting on music. Habits don’t have to be over the top and complicated. They simply must inspire joy. Simple. Easy peasy. We finish the conversation by talking about how seasons affect habits and how to work with them instead of against them. This includes all seasons including the calendar year, menstrual cycle, and the moon phases.

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87. Using the enneagram to find a fulfilling career with Jenna Starkey

Wed, 01 Jun 2022 10:14:00 -0700

This week we’re talking about the enneagram with fulfillment coach Jenna Starkey. We dive into how she found the enneagram and how she has used it to integrate and heal. We both share our types including the shadowy parts and the exciting parts. As a fulfillment coach she shares how to use it to learn your values and drive to help you find a fulfilling career. We then switch gears and learn from Jenna about her best tips to finding the right career. I’ve been using and studying the enneagram for many years and I learned so many things about it from Jenna. Tune into to learn more about the enneagram and using it in your career path.

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Enneagram Test Resources:

https://www.ieq9.com/

https://tests.enneagraminstitute.com/

Other Resources Discussed:

Atomic Habits by James Clear

86. Finding your why with Emily Regan Byrne

Wed, 25 May 2022 10:15:00 -0700

On today’s Lit AF podcast episode we sit down and chat with brand consultant Emily Regan Byrne of Centered Creative. She brings alot of personal development into her branding work and shares her personal journey of combining the two. We talk about what makes business owners most successful in their niche. She also shares about how business owners can express themselves more authentically. This conversation is great for both business owners and employees.

Emily’s bio:

Emily Byrne is the founder of Centered Creative. Merging corporate strategy, design and personal growth tactics, Centered Creative helps businesses infuse their passion into their business through brand strategy, brand design, logo design, and web design. With a decade of experience managing premium corporate brands, everything Centered Creative does is grounded in strategy and a desire to help brands express themselves authentically.

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Field Guide to Brand Success: https://www.centeredcreativestudio.com/shop

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85. The art of receiving feedback

Wed, 18 May 2022 18:15:00 -0700

Today I share about the art of receiving feedback. It took me a long time to understand that feedback actually comes from a supportive place. People that give you feedback want you to succeed and they are making a real effort to share this information with you. In this episode, I share my favorite framework to give and receive feedback. I learned this during a meeting facilitation training from Sarah Fisk at Community At Work.

I’ve always wanted to practice this feedback framework but it took a few years to find the right community to do it with. I share how I used this framework during a recent work retreat. It was such an amazing helpful tool. Giving and receiving feedback helps to clear the air with teams so you can work as a cohesive team where everyone’s needs are heard and met. Listen to the episode to understand the full feedback framework.

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84. Finding your purpose with Gabby

Wed, 11 May 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Gabby is a Women’s Life Coach who focuses on guiding women from being the backup dancers to the Beyoncé of their lives. She has been through it and she shares her rock bottom in this episode. I really enjoyed talking with her about the important topics like codependency, self-love, and turning inward when patterns start to occur. The word “hard” came up a lot during the interview and I really appreciate it. Because this work is not average. It’s certainly not easy. And I have found that the most rewarding things in my life come with doing something hard. And oftentimes the hard becomes easy as I get better at it. Tune in to hear more about this lively conversation.

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83. Celebrating womanhood with the hosts of Cycle Chats

Wed, 04 May 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week we are talking about womanhood with the hosts of Cycle Chats podcast, Emily and Stephanie. They are a hilarious and down-to-earth duo that want to destigmatize being a woman. They share about how they met over pink lipstick and the inspiration behind their podcast. We talk about the biggest things that have integrated as woman including coming out as queer and overcoming abusive relationships. We finish with rapid-fire questions about their favorite body part, their favorite menstrual phase, and what keeps them going when things get tough. The conversation just flowed and I enjoyed every minute. Here’s to celebrating being a woman!

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82. Tapping into your zone of genius with Shaleahia Hennix

Wed, 27 Apr 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week’s guest Shaleahia Hennix shares how to tap into your zone of genius in order to live the life you’ve always dreamed of. Shaleahia is an idea doula, transformational experience curator, and atmospheric alchemist cultivating a life at the threshold of purpose, pleasure, peace, passion, and prosperity.

Shaleahia goes deep sharing her own story about overcoming people-pleasing. We talk about her upbringing, recent relationships, her spirituality, and her past career as a sex worker. She is so inspiring. And my favorite part of the episode is when she shares a recent aha moment that related to the character Elsa in Frozen. Anything that relates to learning from a Disney movie is huge in my book!

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81. Pregnancy after loss

Wed, 20 Apr 2022 10:15:00 -0700

It’s official. I’m pregnant. And these first four months have been a wild ride. From excitement to fear to nausea, I’ve felt it all. I recorded a few clips at different points in my pregnancy and put them all together for this episode. Join me during my giddy first week where I share how I told my husband the news. And my 8th week when nausea set in with a serious bout of vertigo. And again after my 12th week ultrasound where I discovered that I was still pregnant. It’s been a wild ride and I’m processing the grief of my miscarriage last year at each step of the way.

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80. Animal Healing with Megan Sprague

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 10:15:00 -0700

We’re talking about animal healing energy with this week’s guest animal card reader Megan Sprague. She shares about her relationship with animals and the energy she feels when encountering animals in her day-to-day life. She talks about the reciprocal relationship that exists between humans and animals. Animals are abundant with healing messages and reminders for us humans. We finish the interview with a live card reading. Megan shares the healing energy from several different animals with us. I really enjoyed this multi-dimensional conversation.

Megan is giving away a free animal card reading. Follow both of us on IG and comment on this week’s post sharing your favorite part of this episode to be entered to win by 4/20.

Listen to Megan’s previous episode about manifestation here.

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79. Rocking the sober life with Ari Eastman

Wed, 06 Apr 2022 10:15:00 -0700

This week we’re spilling all the tea about sobriety with Ari Eastman. She is the host of the Sobrietea podcast. And she shares all the nitty-gritty about getting sober and what life is like on the other side. I haven’t spoken too much about my sobriety on the podcast. Not because I’m hiding it but because it has become so second nature to my life. We talk about the hangover shame cycle, the addiction cycle of alcohol, and the many benefits of living a sober life. Tune in if you’re sober curious or enjoying this path already.

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Listen to the Sobrietea podcast

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78. The gifts of an insecure attachment style

Wed, 23 Mar 2022 10:03:00 -0700

Today we celebrate the gifts of an insecure attachment style. At the beginning of my healing journey, I used any new tool or framework including attachment theory as a way to guilt and shame myself for not being perfect or secure. It was yet another model that proved I wasn’t worthy. At the time I was unconsciously stuck in a guilt and shame addiction cycle. I used to think this guilt and shame helped me be a better person. Now I realize it was just old programming and that there are actually several gifts that come from being an insecure attachment type. I won’t give them all away here. You’ll just have to listen to learn what they are. And I hope it helps you celebrate your previous insecure attachment type.

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Healing your attachment type? Use this 8-minute free feelings meditation to start to feel feelings in your body. It's great for fearful-avoidant, disorganized, and dismissive-avoidant attachment styles.

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77. A lil’ dose of self-love from Jasmine Kenna

Wed, 16 Mar 2022 10:00:00 -0700

Today is an especially hilarious episode with human design reader Jasmine Kenna. We go deep on the Human Design manifesting generator energy type. We compare our very different energetic realities with my energetic type being a projector. She shares about subliminal audios that she creates to rewrite new beliefs in the brain. Her work is THE definition of manifestation. She shares about the realities of parenting using human design as she has her own design experiment going on with a manifestor, projector, and generator under her roof. This conversation is hilarious and flowed so naturally.

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76. Tapping into the Akash with multi-dimensional reader Erin Panzarella

Wed, 09 Mar 2022 10:15:00 -0700

Today we tap into the Akash with Erin Panzarella. She is a space holder for women on a spiritual healing journey. Her offerings focus on connecting people to their natural state of flow, intuition + spirit guides through different modalities including the akashic records, human design, energy healing, emotional freedom technique, and more. We chat about her own healing journey and what it feels like to access the Akash. She shares about being a manifesting generator in human design with a strong need to try new things out to continue to evolve. We finish the convo talking about the big difference between the spirit world and earthly needs. I had a blast talking with Erin and I found it so refreshing that she is always morphing and shifting. Listen to the episode for a dose of spiritual connection.

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75. How trauma eventually catches up with us with Antoine Bilodeau Bordeleau

Wed, 02 Mar 2022 10:15:00 -0700

In today’s episode, we get to enjoy some live processing with digital content creator and breathwork facilitator Antoine Bilodeau Bordeleau. We chat about how he processes past trauma and uses breathwork to let his body do the processing. Of course, we talk about attachment theory and he shares about how his healing journey began by healing his dismissive-avoidant attachment style. While we covered some heavy topics we kept it light and fun. And I love how he encourages us to get out of our heads and into our bodies. I had SO much fun chatting and learning from him.

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74. Dedicating this one to all the Fearful-Avoidants out there

Wed, 23 Feb 2022 08:10:00 -0700

Today I share about the new focus of the Lit AF podcast. It’s a new lens to bring you the same spiritual and personal growth content but with the focus on healing the fearful-avoidant attachment style. I myself am a recovering fearful-avoidant aka disorganized attachment. This attachment style usually suffered from abuse, neglect, and/or trauma during childhood. We are the most vulnerable population and we need the most help. I have talked about my fearful-avoidant attachment style in many past episodes. It has been and continues to be the most useful tool in my healing journey. I’m excited to focus future conversations with guests on important topics for the fearful-avoidant like cultivating trust, processing guilt and shame, and overcoming codependency. It is my honor to bring your free resources to live a confident, secure, and Lit AF life. I love you so much and thanks for being here. Mwah!

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Show notes:

EMDR Therapy - a specific type of therapy that uses eye movement to process past trauma. It does not work for everyone but can be a useful healing tool. The process must be done by a trained professional.

73. Prioritizing female friendships with Almost 30 hosts Krista & Lindsey

Wed, 16 Feb 2022 08:15:00 -0700

On today’s episode the hosts of the Almost 30 podcast, Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams join me to talk about female friendships and spirituality. As expected, its a super fun convo. They share about how they met, the work they do to keep their friendship strong, and how they are managing their current long distant relationship. They both share about traumatic experiences they had with female friends growing up and how they have healed together.. They also share resources and tools they both used to heal these wounds which includes therapy, inner child work, and much more. We then finish the convo talking about their individual spiritual journeys and their favorite tool to heal trauma.

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Resources Discussed:

Bree Melanson Breathwork

Discover the Inner Mother by Bethany Webster

72. Working with your 28-day cycle

Wed, 09 Feb 2022 09:50:00 -0700

I’m talking about all things cycle syncing on this episode. What is cycle syncing? Yes, I know it sounds like when you and your friend are syncing your cycles. But this goes far beyond that. Cycle syncing harnesses the energy and gifts from the 4 phases of your cycle and looks holistically at the 28-day cycle of a woman’s natural rhythm. It explains why I am so self-critical right before I get my period or why I feel like I’m walking on water when I’m ovulating. I talk about how I use cycle syncing with my work calendar, social calendar, exercise, and food. How do you use cycle syncing? Which phase is your fav, luteal, ovulatory, follicular, or menstrual? Send me a DM on IG @itsmesarahcohan and let me know.

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Resources mentioned in the episode:

Allisa Vitti - In the Flo

Flo period tracker

Startdust period tracker (free)

Monday Magic Method by Abbi Miller - worksheet to sync your cycle with your work plan

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71. Small ways to decondition your human design with Allison Cullen

Wed, 02 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Today’s episode features Human Design Consultant, mom, and host of “You Do Woo” Podcast. We talk about parenting with Human Design. How to use your chart to figure out your superpowers. And my favorite part is she shares the smallest ways to decondition your Human Design. I’m talking tiny, easy, super small ways to structure your life for your energy type. This includes tips for manifestors, generators, manifesting-generators, projectors, and reflectors. Allison’s approach is so grounded and relatable for busy moms and working women alike. Tune in to hear more.

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70. Crazy Magical Coincidental Manifestation Stories

Wed, 15 Dec 2021 15:00:00 -0700

This week I share listeners’ stories about magical crazy coincidental manifestation stories. I’m talking about being in the right place at the right time with the right people for a manifestation to come through. These stories cover so many different types of manifestations including a specific amount of money, buying a house out of their price range, and manifesting a job that they didn’t think would be possible. Each of these stories inspired me to keep manifesting especially when I’m doubting myself. Yes, even I doubt myself sometimes. Or I hold on to limiting beliefs about how the manifestation should come through. This world is a wild place and you can make anything you want out of it. Listen to the episode for some inspiration on manifesting the next thing on your list.

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Guests Featured on this Episode:

Alexandra Shelley - Dog Eared Book Club Podcast

Ariel Rose

Britt Olson - Loving Your Own Soul podcast

Caitlin Kelley - WTFSupPod

Erin Panzerella - Everyday Perspectives Podcast

Megan Sprague - @megansprague

Nicole Guena - The Detox Diaries Podcast

Rae

Samantha & Mickayla Pike - Our Manifestation Journey

69. Entering a portal with Cathy French

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 15:00:00 -0700

In this week’s episode, I sit down and chat with intuitive, yoga Nidra guide, farmer, and dog lover, Cathy French. I’ve been enjoying her Nidras for a long time on both Insight Timer and Attune to the Moon. In this episode, Cathy shares her work blending ancient Celtic festivals with yoga Nidra. She walks us through the eight different festivals that are part of the perennial Celtic wheel. AND she shares how she leads her students into portals. She took me to my first portal and it was mindblowing and very much not what I expected. Cathy also shares how she incorporates her spirituality into her full-time job as a secondary school teacher. Cathy focuses her teachings on communing with nature and the land and reminds us that humans are just as much a part of nature as any green space or rolling wave. I needed this reminder and I’m so grateful for this conversation.

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68. Living The 6/3 Life With Holistic Health Coach Rochelle Smith

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 15:00:00 -0700

This week I chat with Holistic Health Coach Rochelle Smith. She incorporates Human Design and Astrology into her work. We chat about our shared unique Human Design Profile, 6/3. And then we go deep into talking about how we process emotions. We spend alot of time discussing anger and our changing relationship to it. Rochelle shares how she parents using Human Design. And we finish the convo talking about bringing her holistic health coaching into her current bridge job as a bartender. This convo with Rochelle just flowed. She has so much wisdom to share about what it means to live the human experience.

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67. Courage Coaching for Adventure Souls with Marie Pier

Wed, 24 Nov 2021 12:00:00 -0700

On today’s podcast, I chat with the host of Self Growth Nerds podcast about making big life changes. Marie is a courage coach and slow thru-hiker. Today we chat about how her past career changes that led her to coaching. She shares how she became a thru-hiker and what she has learned from being on the trail. Then we talk about the deep commitment to self that is needed to make big life changes like hiking the PCT or quitting smoking. Marie was such a delight to talk to. I felt like we are long-lost soul sisters. Tune in to hear more about finding your purpose and more freedom in your life.

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66. Going Through An Identity Crisis

Wed, 17 Nov 2021 12:00:00 -0700

In today’s episode, I share a little about my recent identity crisis. I recently got a new job and I am currently upleveling into this new role. Which is exciting and exhausting. I've spent most of my time on the couch or in bed recovering from it. While I’ve been upleveling I experienced an amazing meditation led by Lindsey Simcek of Almost 30 as part of their podcast accelerator program. During this meditation, I was able to separate my identity from this podcast and I saw it as its own energy. Additionally, I was able to meet so many of my core needs in my job that I realized I didn’t need to keep chasing fame as a way to get my needs met. It was in a free-fall after these two big realizations and I share about the void that was created and what came after it in this episode. Have you experienced something similar???? Please reach out to me, I want to hear about your experience. How did you realize your work, career, project, or art was separate from you?

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65. Manifesting an eat, pray, love adventure with Chelsea Riffe

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 12:00:00 -0700

I am so excited for this week’s episode featuring Chelsea Riffe. She is a mindset and podcast coach. Today we go deep on one of my favorite topics, manifestation. She really wanted to start the conversation by defining manifestation, a method to consciously choose what to attract in your life. She shares how she used it to build her business, travel the world, survive the pandemic abroad, and go on an eat, pray, love adventure after a breakup in Germany. She talks about how to keep your mindset open. And of course, we get into a bit of Human Design. She is a reflector and shares how that has influenced her course offerings and how she manifests. She is so fun and I loved every minute of the conversation. Tune in for some super fresh manifestation tips.

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64. Healing Relationship Dynamics with Thais Gibson

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 11:00:00 -0700

In today’s episode, I am so excited to share a conversation with my attachment style mentor and coach, Thais Gibson, the co-founder of the Personal Development School. Her work overlaps attachment trauma challenges with personal core wounds, limiting beliefs, and emotional patterns at the subconscious level. Her work has helped me find sustained confidence and blissful inner peace. It sounds so cheesy but it’s really true. Thais shares how she found attachment theory after doing a lot of personal growth and getting into a new relationship where old patterns started to rear up (sound familiar?!). We talk about how attachment theory overlaps other areas of our lives including our relationships to money, career, and spirituality. We then switch gears and talk about personality needs and why it’s so important to know them and share them. I know it sounds basic but this work has been so incredibly impactful on my own growth. We finish the episode with a rapid-fire round of sharing which attachment styles tend to show up in different types of careers. It’s a fun one. It was such an honor to have Thais on the show!

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63. Dating As An Act of Self-Care with Lily Womble

Wed, 20 Oct 2021 11:00:00 -0700

Today I chatted with dating coach and founder of Date Brazen, Lily Womble. She shares with us her journey to becoming a dating coach through matchmaking. And she shares how the act of dating can be an act of self-care. We cover all the topics about dating including which apps to use, how to deal with dating anxiety, and so much more. She even shares a great tip about how to reach out to people on the apps. I share a few hilarious stories about what didn’t work when I was online dating. We finish the conversation by talking about body image and self-compassion. I am still floating from this conversation. Lily has so much experience and is so vulnerable and hilarious throughout the conversation. Tune in to learn how to change your approach to dating.

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62. Sarah’s Story: Projection City Population One

Wed, 13 Oct 2021 11:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I talk about projection. Look, projection is part of the human experience but I recently realized just how much I have been projecting onto others. In this episode, I talk about a counseling session from 1965 that a friend of mine shared on Youtube. Watching this session made me realize how I bring SO many of my own stories, assumptions, and wounding to every situation I’m in, no matter how neutral the situation is. I share a few specific times recently where I let my projections dictate the truth particularly in social situations and my recent job negotiation. One of the stories running in the back of my mind was if I ask for more money my job will expect more from me. That assumption is setting me up for burnout and failure. I share some pretty embarrassing stories about past projections. And then I finish the episode with a helpful tool from Byron Katie to catch projections in action.

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61. Using Human Design to Create Self-Trust with Zsuzi Evans

Wed, 06 Oct 2021 08:44:00 -0700

We are back today with another episode about Human Design. This week’s guest, Zsuzsi Evans, is a Human Design reader that studied with one of the only students directly taught by the founder of Human Design, Ra Uru Hu. Instead of going deeper into the chart, we discuss the larger impact of studying Human Design. Zsuzsi shares how using Human Design cultivates self-trust which ultimately helps us to make decisions. And I give you several hilarious examples of times when I didn’t honor my emotional authority, like giving up a window seat to a child on a cross-country flight. That was the longest six hours of my life. And she shares how her sacral authority has helped her direct her friends and loved ones on how to interact with her, like asking yes or no questions instead of open-ended ones. I love hearing about simple tools to honor my design in day-to-day interactions. Zsuzsi finishes the convo by telling us how society will see a big shift in the Human Design chart starting in 2027. Listen to the episode to learn more about what’s ahead of us.

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60. Finding Love With an Anxious Attachment Style with Taryn Newton-Gill

Wed, 29 Sep 2021 11:00:00 -0700

Taryn Newton-Gill is a love guide, women’s empowerment coach, and founder of Truer Love where she uses attachment theory to help women learn to reparent themselves so that they may create more secure, loving, and lasting partnerships. In this episode, we get into all things attachment style. In particular, she talks about why anxious preoccupied people tend to identify as fearful-avoidant. It was fascinating to hear about the different behaviors that show up across the attachment spectrum including anxiety in dismissive avoidants and avoidance in anxious preoccupied. She shares her best tips on how to become securely attached and spoiler alert, it does NOT involve years of trauma work and therapy, it’s actually quite simple. We both share the amazing benefits and transformation we’ve experienced through healing our attachment styles. And Taryn makes this topic fun and approachable.

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59. Taking back tarot with Lindsay Mack

Wed, 22 Sep 2021 11:00:00 -0700

This week’s episode features Lindsay Mack, the creator of Soul Tarot and host of the Tarot for the Wild Soul podcast. We start the conversation with a tarot card pull and then we discuss life transitions. Lindsay shares about her first trimester of pregnancy and taking a break from recording her podcast. We then talk about how she uses tarot as a tool to support her healing from child abuse and PTSD. The way she uses the tarot is so inspiring. We discuss her Soul Tarot method of the cards being for us and not us so that each card is an insightful gift. We then go on to discuss her approach of inclusivity in her work as well as inclusivity in the tarot. This conversation is very inspiring to look at tarot in a whole new inclusive and gentle way.

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58. Sarah's Story - Chasing freedom in my career

Wed, 15 Sep 2021 12:00:00 -0700

This episode is a few musings on what it means to be chasing freedom in my career. Full disclosure I channeled this topic during a recent akashic records reading. I decided to honor the theme that I wrote down through automatic writing and talk about what chasing freedom means to me. Freedom is very important to me. And I recently made some big changes in my life to follow freedom. I talk about these changes including quitting my job, starting two very different businesses, and the unintended consequences of chasing freedom. I finish the episode sharing what freedom means to me now and my next steps to foster freedom in my life. If you’re thinking of making big life changes or you are in the entrepreneur space this episode is for you.

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57. Transition and Shedding with Ellen Bowles

Wed, 08 Sep 2021 12:00:00 -0700

This week’s episode features astrologer, tarot reader, and spiritual doula Ellen Bowles. She recently published the book Astrology SOS and has been featured in Bustle, Well + Good, Romper, and Pop Sugar. We start the episode with a tarot card pull for the Lit AF community. Ellen shares her personal spiritual journey and how she started to connect with her guides and ancestors. She comes from a bi-cultural family and talks about how she incorporates her West African and Celtic ritual practices. She helps me understand how tarot helps me connect with my guides. We then go on to discuss processing the period of transition and shedding that we’re currently in. Ellen invites us to look at life like a breath, with periods of expansion and contraction. This conversation definitely expanded me in so many directions.

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56. Healing the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style with Rachael Besser

Wed, 01 Sep 2021 11:00:00 -0700

This week I am talking with shadow work coach Rachael Besser about healing our fearful avoidant attachment styles. During the conversation we define fearful avoidant attachment style aka disorganized attachment style. We share what it felt like to find out about our attachment style and how we began to heal. We share tools and exercises we did start getting to a secure attachment style. We even share the benefits of this attachment style and how hypervigilance is intuition in disguise. Then we share what we thought secure attachment style was supposed to be and what it actually is in reality. We have so many laughs along the way. If you are healing your attachment style this episode is for you!

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55. Common Manifestation Misconceptions

Wed, 18 Aug 2021 11:00:00 -0700

In this week’s episode I share some common misconceptions I’ve seen in the manifestation world. I’ve seen them come up across several different groups and I wanted to share them with you today so you can hopefully have a little more ease and lightness in your manifestation practice. The biggest issue I have seen is believing you need to do something in order to manifest. To me living and manifestation are synonymous. When you are living (which you probably are if you are listening to this episode) you are manifesting. You don’t need to do any rituals, practices, or work in order to manifest because you are inherently worthy just as you are. Listen to the episode to hear about the other two misconceptions I have seen in the manifestation world. It’s a juicy one!

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54. Enjoying a cup of tea with Herbalist Laura Ash

Wed, 11 Aug 2021 11:30:00 -0700

Today’s guest is Laura Ash, a clinical herbalist, and owner of Scarlet Sage the iconic herb store in San Francisco. We discuss how she found herbalism and how she used her experience to document herbal practices for indigenous tribes in Africa. She discusses how she came to own Scarlet Sage Herbal Company which has been open for twenty-six years. Laura also shares the most common ailment and herbal recommendations for Scarlet Sage customers. Spoiler alert: it's all about sleep and taking care of our liver. We finish our chat talking about her daily ritual of making tea and how she makes this a practice of self-care. Listen to the episode to learn more about herbalism and our place in this larger ecosystem.

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53. Going on a Money Date with Morgan Blackman

Wed, 04 Aug 2021 08:44:00 -0700

We are talking about one of my favorite subjects, MONEY, on the pod this week with my guest, Morgan Blackman, Founder and CEO of Holistic Bucks. We dig into money stories, limiting beliefs around money, how to consciously invest, pay off debt, and creating money rituals. She talks about kicking the word “budget” to the curb and instead setting aside time for a money check-in or a money date. I loved chatting with Morgan about all things money. She has really helped me overcome some old money stories I had around lack mentality working for nonprofits. Check out the episode to weave spirituality into your money habits.

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52. Make Dating Fun Again with Rebecca Schwartz

Wed, 28 Jul 2021 06:00:00 -0700

Today on Lit AF, I am excited to invite the super fun Rebecca Schwartz, host of the Dating in the Bae podcast, to talk all things dating! Here’s the thing: she tells us today how dating is actually simple and much more fun than we consider it to be!

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51. Healing the Sacral Wound - Sarah's Story

Wed, 21 Jul 2021 08:44:00 -0700

In today's episode, I share my story about healing the sacral wound. The journey has been more like a road trip with occasional ups and downs - like an endless spiral of moments, and I want to share with you how I found some peace after releasing the trauma. In this episode I discuss EMDR therapy, group therapy, flower essences and a few rituals to release sacral trauma.

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50. Demystifying the Akashic Records with Helen Vonderheide

Wed, 14 Jul 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Today on Lit AF, I speak with Helen Vonderheide, a premier akashic records educator, practitioner, and speaker. After many years of studying and teaching the Akashic Records to countless students, Helen developed an innovative and inclusive approach to accessing this spiritual resource of infinite wisdom called Personal Pathways. Helen supports individual students and practitioners through the new curriculum in creating a personal pathway to Akashic Records and the Source of Your Consciousness. We learn about Helen's Akashic records practice, life as a film producer previously, and how she was drawn into records.

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49. Getting to know your inner boss babe with holistic biz coach Abbi Miller

Wed, 30 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700

For today’s episode, I am happy to welcome Abbi Miller, an Austin-based yoga-teacher-turned-productivity-preacher who helps you run your business on purpose. We discuss productivity, feminine and masculine energies, and how to integrate the two. We also learn about Abbi’s Monday Magic method and how to incorporate your monthly cycle and moon energy into the workplace.

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48. Calming anxiety in the body with psychic healer Tzipora Krupnik

Wed, 23 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Today's guest is Tzipora Krupnik, a clairvoyant with a lifetime of experience as an intuitive healer and owner of a private practice that has been thriving for the past 14 years. Tzipora shares how she embraced her psychic gifts and continues to heal ancestral trauma. She discusses why anxiety shows up in the body, the importance of meditation, and how different people receive their psychic gifts.

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47. Let’s be Anti-Racist

Wed, 16 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700

We celebrate Juneteenth this week on Saturday, June 19. Juneteenth holds a special significance in the US as it's a holiday that commemorates the emancipation of slaves in the United States in 1865. Today’s episode elaborates on my podcast episode from last year’s Juneteenth about how to be anti-racist.

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