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#47 - On Joe Rogan, Recorded Lives and The Value of Apologies

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 11 Feb 2022 09:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys discuss the latest Joe Rogan controversy, the fear and accountability of having your entire life recorded, and what forgiveness and apology mean when it's hard to hide your flaws.

Tommy's Recommendation: Weber's Horseradish Mustard

Dusty's Recommendation: Knees Over Toes Guy

LLWL: The only difference in being lost and being on an adventure is a sense of curiosity. Help us continue to develop by rating and reviewing the podcast. It is hugely appreciated. You can follow Dusty or Tommy on Instagram @dustinriedesel & @tommycooksey

#46 - Marathons, Patrick Mahomes and Loving Sports

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 28 Jan 2022 08:30:00 -0500

The Lost Boys reunite after a long and restorative winter break. Dusty talks about Running the Disney Marathon, highlights and lessons learned. With Tommy's Cowboys in the off-season and Dusty's Chiefs surviving a miraculous game, the guys ponder: Is being a sports fan worth it? Finally two great recommendations:

Find Ourselves QoW: "Are any of my insecurities hurting anyone else by accident?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Shoe Dog by Phil Knight

Dusty's Recommendation: Athletic Brewing Company

#45 - Christmas Songs Draft, The Top 10 Holiday Tunes

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 16 Dec 2021 08:30:00 -0500

The Lost Boys draft their favorite Christmas songs, debate their merits, and deck the holes (of their ears) with boughs of holly.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What have my past relationships taught me about myself? Good and bad?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Succession (again) on HBO Max

Dusty's Recommendation: 60 Songs That Explain the 90s on Spotify

#44 - Gratitude: Part II (One Year Later)

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 24 Nov 2021 10:30:00 -0500

The Lost Boys address Tommy's use of ranch on Mexican food before looking back on a year of podcasts. They ruminate on both odd and natural things that they are grateful for before hitting the weekly segments.

Find Ourselves QoW: "Whose life seems most fulfilling to me? What does their life look like?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Enjoy the holidays! Really soak it in.

Dusty's Recommendation: Identify the thing/person that causes you to lie. Change your relationship to that thing so that you no longer have to lie about it.

#43: Mike Mabunga Returns! - Distance Running, Achievements, and Peace of Mind

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 17 Nov 2021 16:30:00 -0500

Two of the three guys on this podcast set personal records at the City of Oaks Half Marathon in early November. Mike Mabunga finished in the top 100 out of 1,600+ runners. The guys discuss what physical exhaustion means to them, and why running is unique amongst exercise options.

Find Ourselves QoW: "When do you feel most helpful to others?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Spiffy Car Wash

Dusty's Recommendation: Make an inventory of opinions you once had but no longer need.

Mike's Recommendation: Sleepytime Tea

#42 - Beards, Energy Drinks, and Getting Worse to Get Better

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Mon, 08 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys both turned one year older in the last month. They discuss trends and preferences that have crept in, and how the simpler things have become more appealing even as the lives they're responsible for become more complex.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What do I need help with currently? Who can help me? How can I help myself?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Hayes Barton Cafe & Dessertery

Dusty's Recommendation: Grow a beard.

#41 - Live from Row24!!!

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Mon, 18 Oct 2021 08:30:00 -0500

The Lost Boys joined a team to row 285,381 meters (over 6 marathons) in 24 hours to raise awareness and funding for cancer research. This podcast was recorded during the 24th hour of the effort, and includes guests and Row24 team members Mike Morales and Quint Coward.

If you'd like to donate to The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society through Row24, fundraising is open through 10/23/21 at Tommy's fundraising page: https://pages.lls.org/ltn/nc/Triangle21/tcooksey

Tommy's Recommendation: Donate time, money or support to a good cause.

Dusty's Recommendation: Lying by Sam Harris

Mike's Recommendation: 12th State Crossfit

#40 - Urgency vs Importance, and Oh The Places You'll Go

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Tue, 12 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys discuss the Dr. Seuess classic, Oh, The Places You'll Go, before getting into how to divide their lives between what matters long-term and how "urgency" prevents us from working on what matters.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What am I putting off that feels important? Why am I avoiding it?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Take your kids to a pumpkin patch, and Laird's Superfood Creamer

Dusty's Recommendation: A movie called Promising Young Woman

#39 - Row24 Is Upon Us! How much does charity work REALLY help?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty talk about Row24: an event where they will keep a rowing machine going for 24 straight hours to raise money for The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. Why do something so monotonous, difficult and weird? Why not just ask for money? Does $15,000 really make a difference in curing cancer? Opinions rage.

Want to donate to Row24? CLICK HERE

Find Ourselves QoW: "When was the last time I remember being mean to someone? Why did I act this way?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Succession on HBO Max

Dusty's Recommendation: The Dark Forest by Cixin Liu

#38 - How do you know if you're a good dad?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 23 Sep 2021 09:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys talk about self-discovery through physical trials before discussing the primary struggle of the well-meaning parent: How much do you owe your kids? Is it better to be wholly devoted to the child's well-being, or should parents be focused on becoming their best self even if it means less time with the kids?

Find Ourselves QoW: "I want to thank myself for [fill in the blank]."

Tommy's Recommendation: Cotton Candy Grapes (if you're budget can sustain them), and Dr. Harold Koplewicz on Armchair Experts

Dusty's Recommendation: The "Life Advice" Segment on The Ryen Russillo Podcast

#37: Trent Tallent - Enduring Principles from Ironman Training

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Trent Tallent is a man of many, well, talents. Talking with The Lost Boys, he focuses primarily on his experience in endurance training and what it's taught him about commitment, results, and the long-term effects of choosing difficult experiences. The Lost Boy who writes these episode summaries will add some personal commentary in saying that this was one of his favorite conversations in a while.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What do I have to offer in a Romantic Relationship? What do I want to receive?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Slingshot Coffee

Dusty's Recommendation: Get yourself a great pair of running shoes!

Trent's Recommendation: The Garmin Alpha GPS Dog Collar

#36 - Why You Should Run a Marathon, and Competition vs Winning

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 08 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0500

Tommy almost gets in a fight while coaching a youth basketball game. Dusty tries to convince Tommy of the life-changing power of running 26.2 miles.

Find Ourselves QoW: "Are any of my insecurities hurting anyone else by accident?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Get a massage (His recent visit: The Now)

Dusty's Recommendation: What I Talk About When I Talk About Running by Haruki Murakami

#35: Garrett Gore - College Baseball, Finding Faith and Resilience in Tragedy

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Sun, 29 Aug 2021 18:00:00 -0500

Garrett Gore played 4 years of Division 1 baseball at University of North Carolina, including two trips to the finals of the College World Series. Today, he's a sports agent third, father second, and husband first. The Lost Boys chat with Garrett about prioritizing principles, and how that has granted stability even through the most trying of times.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What have I accomplished recently that would have shocked me a year ago?"

Tommy's Recommendation: @FeedingTheFrasers on Instagram

Dusty's Recommendation: The Three-Body Problem by Cixin Liu

Dusty's Recommendation: Sous Vide for the meats!

#34: Jon Ensign - Thoughts on Afghanistan, Historical Context, and Soldiers vs Politics

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Mon, 23 Aug 2021 09:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys are joined by former Marine Officer Jon Ensign who spent time in Afghanistan. They discuss the withdrawal of American troops from the territory, and Jon gives some personal insight and historical context to the current events.

Find Ourselves QoW: "Who do I feel most myself around? Why?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Vivo on Netflix

Dusty's Recommendation: "Suffering is optional."

Jon's Recommendation: Stargate SG-1

#33 - Leaving the Past Behind, Meaningful Purchases vs. Regretful Purchases

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 09:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys debate an Aubrey Marcus Instagram post that says the past is dead and one should only live in the present. They go on to talk about couches, sneakers, marathons and light bulbs. Somehow, it all fits together..

Find Ourselves QoW: "What purchase has meant the most to me recently? What is a purchase that I could have done without?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Ted Lasso on Apple TV+

Dusty's Recommendation: A River Runs Through It by Norman McLean

#32 - Don't Believe Everything You Think

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 22 Jul 2021 08:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys talk about not being a slave to their personal ideologies, what spiritual beliefs are worth holding onto no matter the evidence, and how it all relates to achieving goals.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's one small step I can take today towards a goal that feels out of reach?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Brené with Tim Ferriss and Dax Shepard on Podcasting, Daily Practices, and the Long and Winding Path to Healing

Dusty's Recommendation: Loki on Disney+

#31 - Should Richard Branson use Billions of $$$ to go to space, feed the hungry, or just pay his taxes?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 15 Jul 2021 08:30:00 -0500

The Lost Boys debate about whether going to space has any merit. Should society be able to tell billionaires how to spend their money?

Find Ourselves QoW: "Who do I envy? Why do I envy them?"

Tommy's Recommendation: The Harry Potter Movies, maybe you've heard of them.

Dusty's Recommendation: Animal Kingdom (a family crime drama streaming on Amazon Prime)

#30 - What is real wealth? Is the pursuit of wealth unhealthy? Why should I care?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 09 Jul 2021 15:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys--coming in at a combined weight of nearly 380 pounds!--talk about the national obsession with wealth. What is it based on? Does wealth make us better or worse people? Is it more moral to lean socialist or capitalist? They end on an uplifting Question of the Week about creating space and being present.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's the best gift I can give myself in this chapter of my life?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Insight Timer

Dusty's Recommendation: Dr. Andrew Huberman on The Tim Ferriss Show

#29 - Manufacturing Happiness

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 09:00:00 -0500

The Lost Boys talk about checking out from work completely, how to create a recurring feeling of joy instead of resentment, and ace their weekly segments.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What is the most fun I can remember having recently? What was I doing? Who was I with?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Luca on Disney Plus

Dusty's Recommendation: Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

#28: Ryan Varga - HRV and the Healthy Balance of Life vs. Metrics

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 23 Jun 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Ryan Varga is a lifestyle photographer who's done work for brands like Lululemon. He talks to Tommy and Dusty about breathing practices to improve Heart Rate Variability (HRV), a metric used gauge the health of a person's nervous system. The guys also talk about meditation, and when measuring health becomes counterproductive.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's an unpopular opinion of mine that I hesitate to share with others?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Walk/Jog/Run a mile everyday for 30 days

Dusty's Recommendation: Raya and the Last Dragon

Ryan's Recommendation: Elite HRV, Heart Breath Mind by Dr. Leah Lagos, and "Schedule time with your friends."

#27 - Talking to Famous People, Why Jealousy is Helpful, and "Love is Hard"

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty discuss some insights from the book "Raising an Adult" and explore some idioms around envy and addiction. They also share stories of poorly managed run-ins with celebrities before discussing some significant lessons each has learned about love.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What did the people who raised me teach me about love? What lessons do I want to keep? What do I want to challenge?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Armchair Experts w/ guest Russell Brand

Dusty's Recommendation: The last 26 episodes of Tommy's recommendations. They've been fire.

Join The Lost Boys in June as they run at least one mile a day in support of (friend of the pod!) Dylan Richard's achieving the same feat for an entire year. Simply tag Dusty or Tommy on Instagram @dustinriedesel & @tommycooksey with your running efforts.

#26 - "They can't all be five stars."

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 03 Jun 2021 10:30:00 -0500

The Lost Boys shake off the rust from a week of vacation to discuss whether dolphins are superior to people, when it's okay to quit on your goals, and why to remind yourself: "You are enough."

Find Ourselves QoW: "What insecurity is currently holding me back the most?"

Tommy's Recommendation: The app CHIPR, and traveling with your kids.

Dusty's Recommendation: Breath through your nose.

#25: Zach Westerbeck - Overcoming Anxiety, Brain Health, and Why Getting Help Makes Us Happy

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 20 May 2021 09:30:00 -0500

Zach Westerbeck speaks, writes and advocates for mental health. Zach most often works with 18-24-year-olds, and his book, You're Not Alone: The Only Book You'll Ever Need to Overcome Anxiety and Depression, can feel like an introduction to your own brain. Dusty and Tommy talk to Zach about why we forget that the brain is part of the body, Zach's own battle with suicidal thoughts and depression, and how understanding our brains can make life so much more complete.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's my most toxic trait I can admit to? Where do I think it stems from?"

Tommy's Recommendation: You're Not Alone (link above) and Mare of Easttown on HBO Max

Dusty's Recommendation: You're Not Alone (link above) and The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

Zach's Recommendation: Think Like A Monk by Jay Shetty, and this message: Get help. You aren't alone. If you're going through something, reach out to Zach personally on IG @zach_westerbeck or through his website zachwesterbeck.com

#24 - Sensitive Dads & Corporate Emotional Training

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 14 May 2021 08:30:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty discuss their awareness and defensiveness about trying to raise children. Tommy bought an Apple Watch. Dusty had a spat with his wife. They both share lessons from recent, corporate emotional training given to them by Ph.D.'s and authors, including Brene Brown, Dr. Robert Kegan, and Emily and Amelia Nagoski.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What have I been sensitive to lately?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Made for Love on HBO Max

Dusty's Recommendation: Caste: The Origins of our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson

#23 - Seeing Yourself Clearly and the Responsibility of Knowledge

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 07 May 2021 05:30:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty have a brain dump. Topics include: 90s Jim Carrey as a role model for humor, what to do with conviction about problems too big to fix, and why knowing yourself well matters. Also, how do you bring the best version of you into more of your life? .

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's a non-negotiable in my life?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Get a standing desk.

Dusty's Recommendation: Do 100 push-ups a day.

#22: Jon Ensign - On Being a Marine, The Value of Taking Risks, and Common Sense

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 30 Apr 2021 08:15:00 -0500

Jon Ensign was a Marine Officer for four years. He talks with Tommy and Dusty about his military life in Afghanistan, ranging from the everyday mundane to the harrowing intensity of combat. In a broad-ranging discussion, Jon shares how preparation for and recovery from his experiences changed his perspective on humanity, deepened his gratitude for life, and enhanced his understanding about the significance of taking risks.

Find Ourselves QoW: "When have I given too much of myself in a relationship? What did that look like? What lesson did that leave me with?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Dusty's Recommendation: The Captain America mythos, movies and comics.

Jon's Recommendation: Woodworking and Sea Shanties

#21 - Derek Chauvin Verdict, The WeWork Documentary, and How to Recognize Broken Systems

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 21 Apr 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty work through their initial feelings about the Derek Chauvin trial. Then they discuss Adam Neumann, the former CEO of WeWork, responsible for one of the fastest and most dramatic rise and falls of a company the world has ever seen. Why do we fall for charismatic leaders? How do we defend agains tour own gullibility? What can be done to prevent personal and social systems from failing so completely?

Find Ourselves QoW: "When do I feel most productive? What time is it usually? Am I alone or with others? (Get Specific.)"

Tommy's Recommendation: Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell

Dusty's Recommendation: In Defense of Food by Michael Pollan

#20: Quint Coward - CrossFit Quarterfinalist on Why Fitness is Worth the Effort, Plus: The Daunte Wright Shooting

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 14 Apr 2021 15:45:00 -0500

In 2021, nearly 30,000 men entered the Men (35-39) Division of the CrossFit Open. Quint Coward outperformed 29,500 of them and claimed a spot in the CrossFit Quarterfinals. Quint talks about his 7-year CrossFit journey, how he commits to routine and nutrition to reach a high-level of performance, and what level of happiness and ability his fitness provides him. Prior to that discussion, the guys spend 15 minutes discussing the shocking tragedy of the police shooting Daunte Wright.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What do I dislike that most people love? What do I love that most people dislike?"

Quint's Recommendation: 12th State CrossFit, Clean Eatz, and hiring a nutrition coach like Kylie Gamelier

Tommy's Recommendation: Percussion Massage Gun (like this one)

Dusty's Recommendation: Think Again, by Adam Grant

#19 - Talking to Strangers and Intermittent Fasting

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 09 Apr 2021 08:30:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty talk about the first four days of Tommy's commitment to intermittent fasting before discussing some financial ideas originating from last week's podcast with Matt Pittman, and some lessons from Malcolm Gladwell's book, Talking to Strangers.

Find Ourselves QoW: "Are any of my insecurities hurting anyone else by accident?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Q: Into The Storm on HBO Max

Dusty's Recommendation: Zone 2 Aerobic Training

#18: Matt Pittman - On Financial Freedom, Happy Sacrifices, and Doing What You Love

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 15:00:00 -0500

Matt Pittman is a real estate entrepreneur who has a passion for helping people work past the intimidating complexities of economic opportunities and unlock themselves from financial stress and fear. Tommy and Dusty talk to him about how he decides to take chances and make decisions in business while also picking up some money-related parenting and relationship tips.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What have I outgrown recently? What am I growing into?"

Tommy's Recommendation: The Crown on Netflix

Dusty's Recommendation: Taking a financial course with your significant other.

Matt's Recommendation: Worthy Bonds to earn 5% on your money, and here's a podcast with the Worthy Bonds CEO

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#17 - Guns in America and What to Teach the Kids

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 26 Mar 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty get a little more lost than usual in the wake of another American shooting. They discuss American pride versus guilt and the difficulty of balancing a pro-gun reality versus a non-violent dream. The guys also discuss their personal game plans for taking down a sushi dinner, and what their kids must learn before they turn 18 and fly the coop.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What have I always accepted as true that turned out to be false?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Last Chance U on Netflix

Dusty's Recommendation: BPN Supplememnts

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#16: Hannah Ostoj - On Functional Nutrition, Food As Medicine, and Holistic Health

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 19 Mar 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Are you getting hydrated when you drink a La Croix? Questions like these are why we all need a Hannah Ostoj in our lives. Hannah is a functional nutritionist with a deep knowledge and appreciation for the individual's unique relationship to their food. Join Tommy and Dusty for a really fun conversation with Hannah about fasting, hydration, food ideology, the dangers of calorie counting, and so much more. Follow Hannah on Instagram @hannahostoj

Find Ourselves QoW: "What feels impossible today that would shock me to accomplish in a year?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Armchair Expert #295 - Erin Meyer

Dusty's Recommendation: Intermittent Fasting

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#15: Sandy Roberts - On Running, Grieving Well, and Leading with Vulnerability

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 10 Mar 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Sandy Roberts is a podcaster, pastor, realtor, husband and one of the forces behind Sir Walter Miler. A great runner, Sandy's best mile time is 4:01.21, less than 2-seconds from joining the Sub-4:00 Miler Club, an achievement more rare than climbing Mt. Everest. In this episode, Sandy shares his past joy, determination and frustration that pivots around those two-seconds, and he explains to Tommy and Dusty why grieving well is critical to living well. This conversation is about running, but it's mostly about faith, community and self-discovery.

Find Ourselves QoW: "Which one of my mistakes taught me the most this past year? What did it teach me?"

Tommy's Recommendation: B's Barbecue, and date night with your spouse.

Dusty's Recommendation: Team In Training

Sandy's Recommendation: The work of Henri Nouwen, a Dutch priest and theologian

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#14 - Pandemic Positives

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty chit chat about some self-care habits (1:45) before jumping into a list of positive outcomes brought about by pandemic(14:45).

Find Ourselves QoW: "What do I need to get off my chest?" (1:13:00)

Tommy's Recommendation: Therapy

Dusty's Recommendation: Irresistible on HBO Max

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#13 - Rush Limbaugh, the silliness of current events, and rewriting history

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Dusty and Tommy discuss the death of Rush Limbaugh and whether following current events in the news matters, or if the business of journalism has erased the mission of journalism. Then, they grapple with the some emotional reactions to America's ugly past, and how it feels to "rewrite history."

Find Ourselves QoW: "In what ways do I want to be like the people that raised me?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Nurture vs. Nurture Podcast w/ Dr. Wendy Mogel; also, if you're going to take time off, unplug from the phone and email. It's worth it.

Dusty's Recommendation: The Divide: American Injustice in the Age of the Wealth Gap by Matt Taibbi

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#12: Grace Casey: On Fixing our Inputs, Transracial Adoption and Remembering to Play

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 10 Feb 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Grace Casey is the woman behind Marrow Design. Grace speaks with Tommy and Dusty about managing life after brain surgery, the complexities and joys involved with the transracial adoption of her two children, and how brokenness is an incredible opportunity for blessing. She shares how she controls inputs to evolve her perspective, and why she emphasizes the importance of play in all aspects of life, both for her personal creativity and the well-being of her family.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's become more important to me recently than ever before?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Armchair Expert #285 with Jamil Zak‪i‬

Grace's Recommendation: Her word of the year: "Presence"

Dusty's Recommendation: Go for a run (the Peloton app's outdoor runs are a blast!)

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#11 - Would you want to be the GOAT?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 05 Feb 2021 09:00:00 -0500

With Tom Brady heading to another Super Bowl and Mat Fraser retiring after 5 years as a CrossFit champion, Dusty and Tommy discuss what it must be like to be the best in one's field. Is it worth it?

Finding Ourselves QoW: "What do I keep doing that keeps hurting? Why do I keep repeating this behavior?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Yellowstone on Peacock. It's worth the $4.99

Dusty's Recommendation: Barbarian Days: A Surfing Life by William Finnegan.

#10: Mike Mabunga - On Traveling the World and Making Room for the Unexpected

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Mon, 01 Feb 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Mike Mabunga left the tech industry in 2018 to travel the world. He started in Europe, made his way across southeast Asia with plans to land on the coast of Australia. Talking with Tommy and Dusty, he shares lessons of self-discovery, empathy for others, and why braving new events is so beneficial.

Find Ourselves QoW: "What's the most exciting improvement I've been seeing in myself recently?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Air Fryers!

Dusty's Recommendation: Swingers (if you're into movies but somehow missed this Hollywood classic)

Mike's Recommendations: The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, On the Shortness of Life by Seneca, Admiral McRaven's 2014 Commencement Speech at University of Texas

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#9 - Skeptical or optimistic after the Biden/Harris inauguration?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 22 Jan 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Dusty and Tommy explore emotions around this week's presidential inauguration. Is a new president good, bad, or business as usual for individual American's? How does the first female vice-president impact our nation?

Find Ourselves QoW: "What is one truth I've recently come to terms with?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

Dusty's Recommendation: Love Life on HBO (HBO Max)

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Books mentioned in this podcast: Hate Inc by Matt Taibbi, The Moment of Lift by Melinda Gates

#8: Jeremy Mohler - On Trauma, Modern Masculinity, and the Importance of Knowing Your Roots

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 15 Jan 2021 13:30:00 -0500

Jeremy Mohler is a writer who actively advocates for public institutions that work for all of us, not just the wealthy few. His writing has appeared in the Washington Post, USA Today, Jacobin, and elsewhere. Jeremy is also a mindfulness coach. His podcast, Meditation for the 99%, takes meditation out of faraway monasteries, expensive retreat centers, and corporate America, and brings it to navigating work, relationships, and, especially, politics.

Tommy and Dusty talk to Jeremy about the past weeks' events in Washington DC, how the trauma impacted locals versus those of us watching events on the news. They also discuss whether masculinity is useful, detrimental or simply outdated in the modern world before touching on the value of knowing your family's heritage and history as a white person in America.

You can follow Jeremy on Instagram or Twitter @futuredebris or on his website: http://jeremymohler.blog

Finding Ourselves QoW: What's something mean that was said to me in my childhood that I carry to this day? What would I say to my younger self now?

Tommy's Recommendation: The Undoing on HBO

Dusty's Recommendation: Shoe Dog by Phil Knight

Jeremy's Recommendation: The Work, a documentary taking you inside the human transformation of group therapy in prison.

Books recommended in this podcast include: Birth of a White Nation by Jacqueline Battalora, Antifragile by Nassim Taleb, The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk

#7 - What Does Being An American Mean Anymore?

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Fri, 08 Jan 2021 10:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty reunite after the historic events of January 6th, 2021. They attempt to unravel the complicated emotions and implications of a tragic day.

In other news: Dusty's baby girl arrived on January 5th!

Find Ourselves QoW: "How would I describe my relationship with myself?"

Tommy's Recommendation: Disney and Pixar's Soul

Dusty's Recommendation: Disney and Pixar's Soul

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#6 - How to Build an Accountability Mirror to Achieve Your Goals (Dusty Solo)

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 11:00:00 -0500

With Tommy in life-altering shoulder surgery, Dusty braves a solo podcast to explain the why and how of utilizing an accountability mirror. Dusty has used an accountability mirror eery day for 104 straight weeks and gives it full credit for the following:

Running the Chicago Marathon
Decreasing his Screen Time by 90min a day (giving him back the equivalent of 23 days per year).
Completing the manuscript of a 500-page novel

Dusty talks about the difference between values and goals, how to construct a goal so it fulfills your values, and how to create a metric for your accountability mirror that is both achievable and rewarding.

TUNE IN NEXT WEEK FOR YOUR REGULARLY SCHEDULED LOSTNESS.

#5 - On New Beginnings, Structuring Annual Goals, and Why Intimidation Never Goes Away

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 12:00:00 -0500

A friend's engagement gets Tommy and Dusty thinking about how they proposed to their own wives, and what is special and unique about the insecurity and hope of that moment. On the topic of new beginnings, they discuss goals 2021 and the methodology for achieving those goals.

We're Not Really Strangers question of the week: "Who intimidates me? Why do they intimidate me?"

Tommy's Recommendation: @anniecookseyhair - Check it out!

Dusty's Recommendation: Matthew Walker on the Joe Rogan Experience

Books recommended in this podcast include: 4DX by Stephen Covey, Peak by Anders Ericsson, Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday, 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson, Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins, Boundaries by Henry Cloud

#4: Ryan Varga - On Photography, Why Art is a Skill, and the Value of Craft

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Thu, 17 Dec 2020 09:30:00 -0500

Ryan Varga is a lifestyle photographer living in Denver Colorado. He's done work for brands like Nike and Lululemon Athletica. He's developed this avenue of creative expression while working a full-time job in the tech industry, and is currently exploring his own identity through the craft.

Tommy and Dusty talk to him about why having a creative outlet is so valuable to him, and why he would continue to take pictures even if no one ever saw a single photo.

You can follow Ryan's work on Instagram @ryceroni or on his website: ryceroni.com

Finding Ourselves Question of the Week: What are you wearing when you feel your best? What do you always regret wearing?

Tommy's Recommendation: Wake Forest Cafe, Black & White Coffee Rosters

Dusty's Recommendation: Watch all the Coen brother's movies in order, from Blood Simple to Buster Scruggs.

Ryan's Recommendation: The Practice: Shipping Creative Work by Seth Godin

Books recommended in this podcast include: Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson, Antifragile by Nassim Taleb

#3 - The Best Christmas Movie of All Time

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Sun, 13 Dec 2020 10:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty compare their personal Top 5 Christmas movie lists in a holly-jolly episode, eventually settling on a consensus pick for the best Christmas movie ever made.

Finding Ourselves Question of the Week from We're Not Really Strangers: "What can I be kinder towards myself for today?"

Tommy's Small Business Recommendation: Sola Coffee

Dusty's Small Business Recommendation: Jubala Coffee

#2 - Revisiting Leukemia

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Sat, 05 Dec 2020 13:00:00 -0500

Tommy helps Dusty commemorate the 4-year anniversary week of his leukemia diagnosis (and the subsequent postponement of his wedding). Discussion includes rebounding from trauma, how lows are necessary for trauma, and the importance of not letting ideas of a past self define one's present and future.

To wrap, Tommy & Dusty tackle one question from the We're Not Really Strangers card game before recommending why two businesses that deserve business this Christmas.

Question of the Week: What expectation have I set on someone that has been hurting me the most?

Tommy's Recommendation: Woof Gang Bakery - offers the very best in specialty pet food, supplies and grooming. Contact for home delivery of your pet's Christmas toys and treats.

Dusty's Recommendations: MAJIC Wellness - Wellness company specializing in CBD products, including tinctures, salves and bath bombs. A community-oriented, black-owned business with third-party tested products, not only do MAJIC products make you feel better physically, but you can be proud who you're supporting as well.

#1 - Gratitude

Dustin Riedesel & Tommy Cooksey — Wed, 25 Nov 2020 23:00:00 -0500

Tommy and Dusty explain what you can expect from Looks Like We're Lost. Then, in honor of the Thanksgiving holiday, they discuss their daily gratitude practices and why thankfulness has improved their quality of life.

Questions of the week:

Tommy: Is there a recent gift or action that has created an immense amount of gratitude in your life?

Dusty: If were given a no-strings-attached match on your current income, meaning you no longer have to do your job to support your lifestyle, what do you start doing with your time?

Recommendations of the Week:

Tommy: The Peloton Bike

Dusty: The Libby App

Books mentioned in this episode: Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey, Atomic Habits by James Clear, 4 Disciplines of Execution by Stephen Covey, Thinking Fast & Slow by Daniel Kahneman