What’s striking is what Levi does next—he immediately throws a banquet and invites his friends so they can meet Jesus too.

Join us as we explore what the disciples heard and observed that day and what it means for you—a man who wants to become a disciple who helps others follow Jesus.

But Jesus shocks the room: “I want you to know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins.” (Luke 5:24)

Join Pat Morley and discover why this is the most important declaration Jesus has made so far—and why history pivots on it.

By forgiving before He healed, Jesus revealed that the deepest human problem is not physical and the most pressing issue in any room is invisible.

You know what you want. But isn’t it good news that Jesus knows what you actually need?

Join Pat Morley as he reveals what guided Jesus’ decisions, shares the personal dashboard he has used for years, and shows you how to build one of your own.

What happened next stunned everyone present. With a single command, the spirit obeyed.

This was more than a dramatic moment. It revealed who Jesus is—and what happens when His authority collides with evil.

Join Pat Morley as we explore what it means that Jesus has absolute authority over evil—and what that means for the hidden battles men quietly carry today.

It’s going to be a great day!

In this message, we’ll look at one short—but revealing—verse from the life of Jesus:

“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” (Luke 5:16)

Why did Jesus pray so much? What problem was He solving—and why does that matter for men today?

Jesus withdrew—not to escape responsibility—but to renew strength and stay aligned with the Father. He managed the momentum that would have otherwise consumed Him.

Join Pat Morley and think through the rhythms you need so you can follow the example of Jesus and lead a biblically rhythmic life.

Join Pat Morley as we feel the weight of what Jesus wanted His disciples to see—and understand.

For us, this raises a searching question:

Are we a place where broken men feel safe to come and ask for help?

Something is amiss if broken men are not coming to us.

Something is amiss if we are not seeking out broken men.

And while sometimes a man still won’t come even when we do everything right, we don’t want it to be because of us.

Join Pat Morley tomorrow morning as we watch what happened next, and how one simple response—“At Your word”—opened their eyes to Jesus’ power and might.

Do you feel it—that yearning to be part of something so big it’s doomed to fail if God’s not on it?

Come feel the exhilaration of following Jesus with your whole heart.

He returned to his hometown where He got invited to preach at His home “church.” Everyone was excited to hear what He had to say—until He said it.

Join Pat Morley and observe the chaos that followed from the perspective of the disciples.

The problem will be easy to understand, but what does it mean? And how does it apply to you? Join us and find out.

In desperation, the father pleads with Jesus to heal him.

When Jesus tells him his son will live, the man doesn’t wait for proof. He takes Jesus at His word and starts home in obedience.

If you’ve ever struggled to obey before things make sense, and who hasn't, this one's for you.

Join Pat Morley and let Jesus train you like He trained them.

In fact, throngs of new people are searching for him every day.

But the disciples were not yet trained to understand the bigger picture of what was going on. Jesus lovingly took them aside to open their eyes so they could see the bigger picture and guide the people.

That’s training. Join Pat Morley and let Jesus train you like He trained them—to see the bigger picture and be part of it.

This week’s lesson takes us 180 degrees in the other direction. You see, Jesus' next move was to seek out the kind of person that most people seek to avoid. The message is clear: Everyone matters to Jesus. And as we will also see, everyone can make a difference.

But the Twelve were surprised—even befuddled. Join Pat Morley and let’s nail down what Jesus was trying to teach His disciples, then and now, about His mission, His audience, His message, and His method. Join us—and train like the Twelve.

Join Pat Morley as Jesus awakens His disciples—then and now—to understand the true nature of salvation via a late-night conversation with Nicodemus. 

Our featured speaker was Kim Lopdrup, Harvard-educated and retired CEO of Red Lobster, who is five for five on major corporate turnarounds. Kim shared how his faith has shaped his career and family through both success and adversity.

Join Pat Morley and learn why Jesus was so adamant about driving out anything that keeps the temple from being the sanctuary God desires—and what that means for us today. Let Jesus do for you what He did for them.

Now it’s the first day of training camp. You expected to learn how to clean and shoot, to catch and throw, or how to deliver a decisive tackle. Instead—you find yourself at a wedding.

Join Pat Morley and discover what Jesus imparted to the Twelve on that first day of camp—and what He wants us to learn as well. See how the first disciples responded, and how Jesus wants us to respond today.

In a world of constant tension, conflict, and distraction, how do we become men of peace—anchored, steady, and sent by God?

This Friday, Pastor Andy Searles will walk us through the practical shifts men must make to live as people of peace:

1. From Calling to Commission 
2. From Chaos to Calm 
3. From Moments to Movement 

Come learn how courage often looks more like vulnerability than control—and how to carry Christ’s peace into a world at war.

Can you imagine what that would have been like to be personally discipled by Jesus?

Train Like the Twelve will help you experience, as closely as possible, what it was like to be one of those men.

Walk the dusty roads beside Him. Hear His voice call your name. Feel His hand on your shoulder as He looks you in the eye and says, “Follow Me.” Hold His cloak as you watch Him heal, teach, forgive—and command storms to be still.

In Train Like the Twelve, we will reproduce Jesus’ school of discipleship—step by step—so you can personally experience how He trained the first disciples. You will not only strengthen your own walk with Christ, you’ll be better equipped to help others follow Him too.

It all begins here—with Lesson One: “Come and See.”

Using His own words, in the order He spoke them, together we’ll retrace how Jesus trained the Twelve—from this first invitation, “Come and see,” to His final command, “Go and make disciples.”

Join us—and Train Like the Twelve.

Tim knows the heights of athletic success—winning a national championship with Penn State in 1986 and a Super Bowl with Washington in 1991. But his greatest victory is not on the field—it’s in helping fatherless young men find healing and identity in Christ.

As Senior Pastor of Orlando World Outreach Church, Johnson has pioneered Fatherless No More, a transformative discipleship initiative at Rikers Island that introduces incarcerated men to the love of the Heavenly Father. The movement has grown into a nationally recognized documentary, featured on ESPN, Good Morning America, The 700 Club, and at major film festivals.

You’ll be equipped to guide yourself and other men away from performance-driven religion and into a grace-filled process that truly changes lives.

Join Pat Morley as we outline a clear, conversational path to faith; why doubts are normal; and how grace—not performance—changes a man from the inside out.

Join Pat Morley as we walk through the historical, practical, and personal reasons why you can believe the Bible is reliable—not just spiritually, but intellectually. You’ll be equipped to answer honest doubts and questions from those you lead, and renewed in your own confidence that the Bible is far more than a spiritual opinion—it’s the Word of God.

We’ll look at how Christian thinkers have answered this question, what the Bible teaches, and how Jesus Himself shared in our suffering. You’ll be reminded that your trials are not meaningless, but part of a larger story God is writing. And, you’ll leave better equipped to talk to friends who object to Christian faith because of suffering.

Join Pat Morley as we explore how science and theology can complement one another. You’ll learn how to respond with confidence when someone claims that science has disproven faith, and how to show that science actually reveals the brilliance and order of God.

We’ll also walk through a compelling conversation between a pastor and a scientist that will help you coach others through their doubts.

Join Ronn Read as he opens the scriptures for us!

Join Jim Angelakos as we refocus on the heart of Christianity: not rules, but a relationship with Jesus that compels us to love deeply and sincerely.

You’ll be encouraged in your walk with Christ and equipped to share God’s love with your spouse, children, family, friends, coworkers, and everyone you encounter.

Join Pat Morley as we walk through classic proofs for God’s existence. Learn a powerful illustration that can help you gently challenge the assumption that faith is irrational. You’ll gain clarity for your own belief—and practical language to help others reconsider theirs.

If someone you know is on the fence, struggling with doubts, or just asking big questions—this session will help you serve them well.

Join Pat Morley as we uncover the heart of Christianity—not rules or performance, but a person: Jesus.

You’ll be strengthened in your own faith and equipped to lovingly explain what Christianity really is to a friend, coworker, child, or brother who may be rejecting a version of faith they’ve never properly understood.

Join Pat Morley as we examine the quiet assumptions that shape men’s lives, and how Christianity offers not performance, but peace. 

Discover how to help the men you lead recognize the signs of restlessness, and point them to something more solid and lasting.

This message will not only help you evaluate your own system, but also equip you to walk with someone you care about who’s starting to realize their system isn’t working either. A friend, a son, a brother, a co-worker—when they hit that wall, you’ll be ready.

Find more resources for this week's study here

If you're mentoring, discipling, or leading men, you've already met both types. One man is discouraged by what he’s missed; another is disillusioned by what he gained. One says, “I failed.” The other says, “I succeeded—but it didn’t mean what I thought it would.”

Join Pat Morley as we discuss what the Bible has to say about—and to—men who feel disquieted, and practical suggestions for how you can help them work through their restlessness.

Not much will change for the better apart from Jesus—but we also have a part to play. 

Watch this week's study and learn some practical steps for change that actually work—and how the change you long for might be easier than you think!

One of the biggest reasons is that we don’t have to answer to anyone for our lives. And let’s be honest, don’t we naturally kind of like it that way? 

But most of us also understand that we need to be in accountable relationships—although few actually do it. 

Join Pat Morley as we explore why accountability is the missing link in so many men’s lives, how to build it into your own life, and what practical tools can help you start—or restart—with confidence.

The question is: What kind of secret life are you leading—holy or profane?

In this week's study, we explore the battle for our private thoughts, how God provides the help we need to win that battle, and a couple of practical ideas to sync your thoughts with God’s thoughts.

Join Pat Morley as we pull the mask off this problem, consider what’s at stake, and think through what to do about it. You’ll leave encouraged and equipped to live with greater clarity and conviction.

Join Pat Morley as we wrestle with these hard questions.

Explore what we gain from suffering that we can gain no other way, and consider how to respond when the pain just seems too much to bear.

Still, we chase it.

We try to control our circumstances.

We “strive" for financial independence.

We just want to be left alone to do our own thing.

But Jesus offers something completely different: radical dependence on Him.

Join Pat Morley as we explore how insane it really is to think we’re in control—or to even want to be. If you're tired of carrying everything yourself, this is for you.

Studies show that 75 – 90% of all doctor’s office visits are stress-related, and the most destructive form of stress is anger. Anger is not a sin–Jesus got angry, but anger can easily get out of control. Few emotions are as corrosive. Unbridled, it destroys relationships and careers. Unresolved, it can lead to depression. Accumulated, it will eventually erupt. In this lesson we’ll look at the most common examples of anger, seven sources for anger, and discuss what to do about it.

Join Dr. Christina Angelakos for a special session designed to awaken the purpose God placed in you before you were even born.

Whether you feel sidelined by your past, stuck in a season of waiting, or simply unsure where you fit in God’s Kingdom, this message will fan the flame of your calling—and remind you that it's never too early or too late to make a difference.

You’ll discover:

🔥 How your calling was woven into your life from the womb

🔥 Why your title or circumstances don't define your impact

🔥 How God uses everything—even delays and detours

🔥 What it means to wait without wasting the wait

This is for the man ready to serve with fresh fire—and the man still searching for his spark.

Fear is a normal human emotion. But not everyone knows how to handle it, and some of us are paralyzed by a spirit of fear.

Join Pat Morley as we explore how Jesus wants us to respond to what makes us afraid. We can’t make fear go away, but we can learn to face it with faith.

Pride will hold back (or wreck) your career, damage (or destroy) your reputation, and tear down (or ruin) your most important relationships. In fact, pride will even pit you against God: “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

Join Pat Morley and learn how to recognize the kind of pride God opposes, what you can do to become more humble, and steps to help for your career, reputation, and relationships.

We will always be stronger after we've met together.

It’s frustrating and stressful. You already know this, but you have all the time you need to do everything God wants you to do. The question is, how? 

Join Pat Morley and hone 3 skills that will put you in—or back in—control of your time, help you get more done, and reduce frustration and stress. 

Join Pat Morley as we explore five biblical priorities that can bring clarity, peace, and purpose to your daily life. If you’re feeling stretched thin or struggling to stay motivated, this is a study you won’t want to miss.

Join Pat Morley and together we will walk through a biblical process that can help you make wise, godly choices with confidence. 

If you’re facing a big decision (or want to be ready for the next one), you won’t want to miss this. 

We will always be better together!

Whether you’re doing well, just getting started, or trying to recover, your biblical IQ about money is about to get a big bump!

In this lesson Patrick Morley will help you find clarity:

• Is it okay to want riches? Is it okay to make a lot of money?
• Should a Christian sock away money?
• How much do you “have to” share with others?
• When is it okay to borrow money?

Tomorrow, join Pat as we look at three competing perspectives on money—and discover why only one truly leads to peace and purpose. 

If you’ve ever wondered how to balance faith and finances, this is a Bible study you won’t want to miss.

Join Pat Morley, and we’ll unpack what a true friend really looks like and how to build the kind of friendships that stand the test of time.

Don’t miss this chance to strengthen your relationships and your faith—share with someone to help them grow!

Join Pat Morley as we unpack exactly what your wife or future wife truly wants and needs—and how you can give it to her in a way that deepens your marriage. Plus, you’ll leave with five powerful deposits you can make into her “emotional bank account” starting immediately. 

Not married? You’ll still walk away with insights that could change your future.

Join Pat Morley as we unpack five powerful, proven ways to be the dad your children need. Whether your kids are young or grown, it’s never too late to make a difference.

Join Pat Morley this week as we unpack three powerful shifts to realign your life before it’s too late: how to schedule priorities instead of just tasks, how to say no to what drains you so you can say yes to what truly matters, and how to ensure your family or community knows you are for them.

In this eye-opening message, discover what really drives job contentment and how you can find deeper fulfillment in your work—starting now. Pulling from both The Man in the Mirrorand A Man's Guide to Work, don't miss this opportunity to hit the reset button and trade striving for thriving.

Have a friend, colleague or family member who wants a better work/life balance? Or more contentment? Forward this email and bring him! It's going to be a great day!

Nothing fuels a man’s soul like knowing his purpose, and nothing drains him more than not knowing.

A lot of men you know—maybe you—feel stuck in spiritual mediocrity. They have become cultural Christians rather than biblical Christians. And they hate it! Obviously, no one wants to be lukewarm.

This week, join Pat Morley to explore why leading an unexamined life is so dangerous, how it happens, and what you can do about it.

But any good business plan begins with a description of the current environment, so we’ll start by identifying the five “rat traps” that ensnare men. Then we’ll take a look at another race—a better race: “the race marked out for us.” 

Finally, we’ll explore practical ways we can add spiritual calories to our diet so that we can finish the race marked out for us strong.

We'll consider how we can apply everything we've learned so far in order to become His messengers, and why that matters for millions of men—men like Pat Morley, who became a follower of Jesus because a few men simply invited him to tag along and watch how they lived. 

Join us in the morning to delve into what made that so irresistible, and what it might look like for you to practically live each day as an ambassador through whom God can speak. It’s going to be a great day!

In the same way, the sovereignty of God—His supreme authority and control over all things—offers us a profound comfort. Although the world may seem chaotic and broken, God’s hand is never far from the details of our lives or the story of humanity. 

This week we hear from special guest Ronn Read on how understanding this deep truth transforms our trust, perspective, and hope in the face of uncertainty.

How Jesus Might Describe His Birth

Luke 2:1-16, 3:23-38; Matthew 1:1-218

QUESTIONS:

1. What is most interesting, perplexing, or troubling to you about the way in which Jesus came into the world?

2. Why was it important for Jesus to have Joseph as his human father?

3. What events have made Jesus more important, intriguing, or special to you during this past year?

4. As a group, close by praising and thanking Jesus for his love, grace, mercy, and provision to save the world and you.

That’s what our heavenly Father wants for His children too. We are made in His image.

So why, then, is life so hard so much of the time? And what should our stance be when our circumstances are good? Join Pat Morley tomorrow for satisfying answers that will put your mind at ease, as well as practical ideas to help you interpret your circumstances.

In a way it's like us. For reasons we can only imagine, the body of Christ—His church—though deeply flawed and far from perfect, is and always has been God’s primary and most effective voice to share the hope of the gospel to a wary but watching world. 

Join Pat Morley as we spend some time thinking more deeply about how God speaks through the church:

• Across the ages.
• In the body.
• To the world.
• For your family.

It’s going to be a great day!

Reflection and Discussion

1. Do you have a high or low view of the church, and why? (If you have a low view of the church right now, can you agree, “The church has many critics, but no rivals”?)

2. How has the church effectively shared God’s voice:

• Through the ages? (e.h. Julian, “impious Christians!”)
• In the body?
• To the world?
• For your family?

3. What are the Founder’s wishes for you, and why, according to Matthew 16:18 and Hebrews 10:25? How do you want to respond?

Pat Morley will also give you practical advice on how to wisely choose whom you will allow to equip you—and how to become an equipper yourself (or a better one)! Be careful who you let speak into your life; the consequences are huge.

Join Pat Morley to not only rehabilitate your theology of prayer but also how you pray. We’re going to look at the best practices—and results—of arguably the two greatest men who have ever bowed their heads in prayer: Jesus and David. It’s going to be an eye opener!

Whatever question, problem, struggle, challenge, or opportunity you’re facing, did you know God promised to provide the power you need for it through His Holy Spirit? The Spirit is our Power, Helper, Intercessor, and Guardian.

Join us and get the help you’ve been looking for! Let Pat Morley show you how to gain new confidence to hear the voice of the Spirit and experience more of His power. It’s going to be a great day!

Imagine, though, that you were someplace you shouldn’t be—someplace you wouldn't want to be seen by anyone you know. Now that question, “What are you doing here?” takes on a completely different meaning!

Elijah the prophet was a man who found himself in such a situation. Join Man in the Mirror Chaplain Ronn Read tomorrow to look at Elijah's story and gain a deeper understanding of God’s voice of discipline when we end up someplace we shouldn’t because we feel overwhelmed. Few of us like to be disciplined or challenged, but it might just be the voice we need to call us out of a place we don’t belong—so we can arrive, instead, at the place we need to be. It's going to be a great day!

In the equivalent of a mere seven sermons, Jesus gave us the defining guidance we all seek for essentially every aspect of our life—identity, family, relationships, work, money, health, justice, mercy, compassion, forgiveness, suffering, service, true happiness, abundant life, building His kingdom, and eternal salvation.

The most unique, repeated, and imitated words ever spoken came from the lips of Jesus. All but the most cynical among us turn to them when we need wisdom on how to live a good, meaningful life.

Join Pat Morley and let's ponder the unique ways God speaks to us through the most admired man to ever walk the face of our planet. It’s going to be a great day!

But what if you had a spiritual dashboard that could speak to you as clearly as the one in your vehicle? In this new series, Pat Morley is going to help you build a dashboard for your soul with gauges to help you clearly hear the voice of God.

This week we’re looking at the gauge of Scripture. Imagine what we wouldn’t understand if we didn't have Scripture: the creation story, humans being made in God’s image, the Fall, the love and grace of God, moral law, sin and forgiveness, salvation in Christ, the work of the Holy Spirit—the list goes on and on. Scripture is definitely one of our biggest gauges!

But how does God speak through Scripture, exactly? That’s the question we’re going to answer together. It’s going to be a great day!

Yet, in our hearts, don’t we intuitively know the problem isn’t that God has a speech impediment, but that we have a hearing impediment?

In this first message of our new series, How God Speaks to Men, Pat Morley will show you how God speaks to us through the world He has made. Referred to by theologians as “general revelation,” creation is God’s megaphone, projecting and magnifying His nature and character. Join us and learn what He has to say. It’s going to be a great day!

But where did we come from? Where are we today? And, more importantly, where are we going? In this message, Pat’s going to share our Bible study's origin story and the surprising reason we’re still thriving 38 years later! You'll also hear about the just-completed, all-new Man Alive Bible Study website—perfectly designed for such a time as this.

Finally, we'll explore a vision to carry us into the future. Pat wants to see if God might open the door for Man Alive—us—to help as many men as possible change their lives in Christ over the next decade. Join us to learn how, together, we can help rewrite the future for many men and their families. It’s going to be a great day!

What should we do—what can we do, what must we do—in such times? Where do we put our trust when life is overwhelming? 

In this week's message, guest speaker Ronn Read, National Chaplain for the Man in the Mirror Area Directors, gives us a closer look at a familiar Psalm that offers us hope and a solid footing when everything else is shaking. It's going to be a great day!

But millions of other broken boys are still baffled by the destructive behaviors that keep dragging them down. They’re our friends, neighbors, coworkers, fathers, and brothers. Who will rescue these men? Don't be surprised if you find yourself drawn to help them break the cycle. The people most qualified to help broken boys mend are the men who have walked in their shoes.

Join Pat Morley to learn how you can help other men understand what happened to them, heal their childhood wounds, and break the cycle. Don't miss this great finale to our series!

“If you’re like me, nothing is more important than giving your present or someday children what you missed. But that thumping heartbeat shocked me back to the reality that I had no idea how to be a parent.”

In this lesson with Pat, you’re going to see God’s master plan for how to be that great dad who makes a difference. The plan is a concept called fathering the heart, and it has power to break the cycle of intergenerational neglect or abuse. Fathering your child’s heart is how you can give them the right cocktail of love, structure, roots, and wings. Join us! It’s going to be a great day!

Do any of these sound familiar?

1. You regularly overreact—or underreact—to your wife.
2. You’re prickly when she suggests you might be wrong.
3. You pout when she doesn’t give you enough attention, even when it's because she’s worn out from taking care of the kids.
4. You get angry or insecure (or both) when she doesn’t speak your “love language” as often as you wish she would.

If you identify with one or more of these, the good news is you don’t have to live this way anymore. Join Pat Morley for practical guidance on how you can change the trajectory of your marriage.

The good news is God has a plan for men to get unstuck, including you and the men you’re mentoring. Join Pat Morley tomorrow to discover how. Learn about “an angry spirit,” a practical exercise adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous ("AA"), and how to draft a letter to someone who has suffered because of you weaponizing your wounds. It really is going to be a great day!

Join Patrick Morley and learn how to evaluate how much pain you’re still in, some examples of what residual pain looks like, and where you are today compared to when you started this journey. Understand God’s larger purpose for your limp, and how you can find joy even if God never removes it. It’s going to be a great day!

Reflection and Discussion

1. How much emotional pain are you, a loved one, or a man you are mentoring in right now?

2. How would you describe the current symptoms of your limp? For example:

- Are you still too sensitive and misread what people intend?

- Do you still have inexplicable mood swings?

- Do you still find yourself too easily angered?

- Have you cut yourself off from family members emotionally or physically?

3.What are two or three ways you can make 2 Corinthians 12:8-10 your constant companion if you plead and God doesn’t mend you completely?

We'll also discuss what to do if you can't communicate with your parents—whether it's because they aren't available, or you just can't move on. Join us for a day that could change everything for you, a loved one, or the men you mentor!

Reflection and Discussion

1. Have you attempted to have a crucial conversation with your parents about your childhood wounds? If so, how did it go? If not, what is keeping this conversation from happening?

2. Which next step suits your situation best—keep doing what you’re doing, initiate a crucial conversation, have a facilitated session, or set boundaries? Why is this the next best step for you?

3. Obviously, there’s a natural tension between the need for action and the desire to avoid a potential negative outcome. With that in mind, what is one thing you can do this week to overcome your reluctance and reach out to your parents?

Join Pat Morley and honestly assess your current situation. Let's see if we can each have the attitude or mind of Christ about our parents and siblings. And if not, how can you get it? This could be the day everything changes for you—and your family!

To be sure, our parents are responsible for how they wounded us, whether they knew it or not. Maybe they were good people who made serious mistakes, or maybe they were uncaring, toxic, or even evil. Nothing can minimize, justify, excuse, or change that. What happened to you or your loved one happened.

But what happened to them? It’s a worthy question.

So far, we’ve spent a lot of time on what happened to you. Join Pat Morley as we now take some time to reflect on what happened to our parents. Unraveling what happened to your parents can illuminate what happened to you. It’s going to be a great day!

Forgiving your parents is not dismissing what they did, or pretending that your wounds never happened. After all, there would be no need for forgiveness unless someone had done something wrong. So what does this forgiveness look like? 

Join Pat Morley and explore the uniqueness of biblical forgiveness. Maybe your parents are living; maybe they aren't. Maybe you have a good or civil relationship with them; maybe you don't. No matter your circumstances, let Pat guide you through the method Jesus prescribes for forgiving. It’s going to be a great day!

Reflection and Discussion

1. How have you softened toward your parents, and why?
2. What might your life be like in 10 years if you don’t forgive your parents?
3. What makes biblical forgiveness unique?
4. Did you pray and unilaterally forgive your parents? How does that make you feel? If not, what’s holding you back?

If you're on your way to being mended, you have faced the truth of what you experienced. You are no longer in denial, and you have grieved what was taken from you. Grieving was like exhaling the pain. Now you get to decide what you will inhale to take pain's place.

Whether this is your story, or you want to get a better idea of how you can help others, join Pat Morley for an eye-opening discussion about how to find real rest.

Reflection and Discussion

1. In general, is your soul at rest or restless? Explain your answer.
2. How have you understood Christian faith—as a task and commitment to a set of values or as a relationship with Jesus? Explain your answer.
3. Did you pray to affirm or reaffirm your faith? If yes, is your soul at rest? Explain your answer. If not, who can you talk to about your reservations?

In this practical lesson, Pat Morley will help you understand grief, the stages of grieving, how to grieve, and what to expect. It's going to be a liberating day!

Reflection and Discussion

1. What stage of healing are you in: denial, grief, forgiveness, making amends, renewal, setting boundaries, or transformation? Explain.

2. The goal of grieving is to let it out. How can each of the following ideas help you let it out?

A. Pour out your heart to God.

B. Talk to someone you trust.

C. Write your own prayer.

3. How released from your grief do you feel right now? How would you explain it to a friend?

Join Pat Morley for a deeper understanding of denial and leave with a positive plan that will help you or your loved one face the truth, get out of denial, and take a big first step toward healing and breaking the cycle.

Reflection and Discussion

1. To what extent has “emotional amnesia” kept you from facing the truth about your childhood wounds? Give an example of a truth you kept buried and how it has affected your life.

2. Did writing “the truth I need to face” help you describe, acknowledge, and face the truth about what happened to you? What is your biggest takeaway?

3. Write down the positive, overarching goal you want to make about overcoming denial and facing the truth:

Join Pat Morley for an overview of the stages of healing. God’s promise is that no matter how deeply you or your loved one have been wounded, you don’t have to stay that way.

Reflection and Discussion

1. How would you describe the emotions you’re feeling about authentically engaging with the stages of healing just described? For example, you could be any, or all, of the following: excited, hopeful, encouraged, positive, apprehensive, unsure, skeptical, fearful, anxious.

2. “You are not responsible for what happened to you, but you are the only one who can do anything about it now.” Do you agree with this statement? Why or why not? If yes, what are the implications for you personally?

3. If applicable, which of the healing stages described in this chapter have you already processed? Which stage do you want to tackle next, and why?

Join Pat Morley for Part 2 of how the 9 major characteristics of men with childhood wounds are affecting you or your loved ones.

Reflection and Discussion

1. What is a self-doubt that makes you feel insecure?

2. Have you recently experienced a big mood swing? What were the circumstances?

3. Have you assumed the role of the responsible son or of a man especially immature for his age? Why do you think the role you identified describes you?

4. Is there a negative experience, word, thought, or voice in your head from your childhood that still torments?

5. From which of your parents and siblings are you alienated because of what happened in your childhood?

Do you struggle to believe that people really care about you?

Do others accuse you of being oversensitive or taking things too personally?

Is there something that routinely triggers your anger?

Is there a particular area of your life where you struggle to understand what normal, healthy male behavior looks like?

Join me, Pat Morley, and learn how 9 major characteristics of men with childhood wounds are affecting you or your loved ones. It’s going to be a great day!

Reflection and Discussion

1. To what extent do you struggle to believe that people really care about you? Give an

example.

2. Do others accuse you of being oversensitive or taking things too personally? Give an

example.

3. Is there something that routinely triggers your anger? How are you able to control it?

4. Is there a particular area of your life where you struggle to understand what normal,

healthy male behavior looks like? If there is, who is someone you could ask to take you

under his wing in that area and show you the ropes?

the cycle with you. And that puts you at risk of repeating the vicious cycle all over again.

If you or someone you love is caught in a cycle, can put a stop to your family’s

intergenerational dysfunction. But first you must become an emotionally, mentally, and

spiritually healthy person yourself. The starting point is to understand what every little boy or

girl needs as a child, and how parents create wounds.

Join me, Pat Morley, for a look at the 4 building blocks of a healthy home, and the 7 negative

parenting styles that make homes dysfunctional. In this series, I’m going to show you how

becoming a healthy man, husband, and father may be easier than you think.

Reflection and Discussion

1. How would you describe your relationship with your father, mother, or caregiver today?

For example:

cordial, strained, warm, estranged.

2. What was your childhood missing in the areas of love, structure, roots, or wings?

3. Which of the seven generalized descriptions of negative parenting are most relevant for

you (e.g., “my parents were passive”), and why?

As a result of this unprocessed pain, we act out in ways that damage our relationships. We’re

easily offended. Fragile. We lash out. We withdraw. We’re baffled by our behavior. Frankly,

we’re not even sure what normal behavior looks like.

We all want to silence the voices of the past, but the way forward is shrouded in mystery. We

look at our lives and can’t help wondering, Is this as good as it gets? We’re terrified we might

repeat the cycle with our own spouses and children, rather than break it.

What we really want—have always wanted—is for our parents to love us, believe in us, and be

proud of us. We ache to be encouraged, respected, and valued. We yearn for their approval and

affirmation—to be the gleam in their eyes. That’s what you and I need to thrive.

So, whether it’s for you personally, someone you love, or so you can help others, join Pat

Morley as he draws inspiration from his new book, From Broken Boy to Mended Man, to

introduce us to this timely topic!