ManTalks Podcast

Why You Justify Bad Behavior and Sabotage Momentum

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 10:30:00 -0400

Why do we justify behaviors we know are pulling us away from the person we want to become? I unpack the hidden patterns that make us feel like we’ve earned shortcuts, excuses, and decisions that quietly sabotage our momentum. We talk about moral licensing, identity-based habits, and why doing the right thing once doesn’t automatically create lasting change. If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of progress and self-sabotage, this conversation will help you catch the patterns and move forward with more awareness.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Why We Justify Bad Behavior

01:58 – The Hidden Cost of Self-Sabotage

05:46 – The Trap of Moral Credit

07:42 – Pattern #1: “I Earned It”

09:03 – Pattern #2: The Identity Shield

10:32 – Pattern #3: Virtue to Vice

13:56 – Stop Measuring Good Deeds

16:07 – Catching Rationalization in Real Time

18:56 – Build Identity, Not Motivation

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Self Worth

How To Overcome Sabotage (LIVE COACHING)

Mon, 01 Jun 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Silvi Carter to explore the roots of self-doubt, emotional intensity, and the feeling of never being enough. Together, we unpack how childhood experiences, fatherhood, and the possibility of ADHD have shaped the way he relates to himself and his own energy.

We discuss why so many men see their natural vitality as a problem to be solved, and how learning to accept that energy can transform self-worth, emotional regulation, and even addictive patterns. This is a powerful conversation about healing, fatherhood, and learning to work with yourself instead of against yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

01:14 - ADHD, Dopamine, and Emotional Regulation

06:58 - Fatherhood Changes Everything

09:06 - Learning to White-Knuckle Through Life

10:38 - Feeling Like You're Too Much

14:18 - The Help He Never Received

17:37 - What It Feels Like to Be Truly Understood

19:14 - Accepting Support

21:21 - Why Does It Feel So Rare?

23:01 - What I Needed From My Parents

28:07 - The Origins of Self-Doubt and Not Enoughness

34:44 - Containment, Energy, and Childhood Development

36:26 - Negative Relating to Your Own Nature

39:11 - The Volcanic Energy Within

42:41 - Acceptance Before Expression

44:23 - Creating an Outlet for Your Energy

46:10 - Fathering Yourself

49:36 - Dopamine, Self-Worth, and Healthy Energy

53:05 - Final Reflections and Takeaways

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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Self Worth

The Easiest Men to Manipulate in a Relationship

Thu, 28 May 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down the four types of men who are the easiest to manipulate in relationships - and why these patterns usually start long before the relationship itself. I talk about the hidden wounds behind shame, over-functioning, fear of conflict, and putting women on a pedestal, and how those patterns quietly shape attraction, boundaries, and self-respect. This episode is about recognizing the role you play in unhealthy dynamics without falling into self-blame. If you’ve ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships, this conversation will help you understand why - and what it actually takes to change it.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Men Most Easy to Manipulate

01:22 - The Shamed Man

06:15 - The Chronic Growth Guy

09:18 - Moving the Goalpost

11:08 - The Scared Man

15:02 - Conflict Is Not a Threat

19:00 - The Worshiper

23:10 - From Wounding to Self-Respect

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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Self Worth

Why People Can't Handle Disagreement Anymore, with Thomas Hübl

Mon, 25 May 2026 12:05:00 -0400

I sit down with Thomas Hübl to explore why modern society feels increasingly polarized, emotionally fragile, and disconnected. We unpack how collective trauma, ancestral pain, and unresolved wounds from previous generations continue to shape our relationships, politics, and inner lives today.

Thomas shares powerful insights on masculinity, war, leadership, emotional numbness, and the importance of learning how to stay grounded in uncertainty instead of collapsing into fear or division. This was a deep and expansive conversation about healing, human connection, and what it means to become more whole in a rapidly changing world.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

00:33 - Why People Struggle to Handle Disagreement

03:23 - Social Media, Echo Chambers & Relational Fragility

07:13 - Collective Trauma & The Speed of Modern Life

12:15 - Mental Health, Trauma & Overwhelm

13:57 - What Collective & Ancestral Trauma Really Means

19:49 - Why Personal Healing Matters

24:50 - The Generational Wounds Men Carry

26:17 - War, Peace & Collective Responsibility

32:50 - Fathers, Emotional Absence & Masculinity

35:09 - Extremism, Uncertainty & Modern Chaos

41:30 - Why Men Feel Alone

44:56 - Politics, Division & Collective Pain

50:19 - Disorientation in Modern Society

52:21 - Leadership, Uncertainty & The Unknown

56:46 - Learning to Trust Yourself

58:36 - Releasing Inherited Burdens

01:02:43 - Final Thoughts

01:03:13 - Where to Find Thomas Hübl

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Self Worth

Mother Hunger - The Hidden Wound Driving Men's Need for Female Approval

Thu, 21 May 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I dive into the concept of “mother hunger” - the hidden emotional wound that drives many men to seek constant approval, validation, and reassurance from women. I explore how early experiences with emotional neglect, inconsistency, or disconnection from our mothers can quietly shape our identity, relationships, and sense of self-worth as adults. We’ll unpack the signs of mother hunger, how it shows up in relationships, and the difficult but necessary work required to heal it. If you’ve ever felt emotionally destabilized by a woman’s disappointment or approval, this episode will help you understand why - and what to do about it.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - What Is Mother Hunger?

02:05 - How Childhood Shapes Male Identity

05:18 - When Her Disappointment Feels Like a Crisis

06:27 - Hypervigilance Around Women’s Emotions

07:53 - The Collapse of Self-Worth

08:52 - How Men Seek Validation From Women

09:45 - Why Female Attention Never Feels Like Enough

10:05 - Admitting the Wound Is There

11:02 - Grieving What You Didn’t Receive

13:05 - Building Identity Independent of Women

14:48 - Developing Internal Validation

15:42 - The Real Cost of Mother Hunger

17:18 - Discovering Who You Actually Are

18:42 - Stop Asking Women for Permission

20:05 - How Healing Changes Relationships

21:02 - Dissolving the Need for Approval

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

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Self Worth

Emotional Avoidance in Modern Men - Live Coaching Session

Mon, 18 May 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Scott to talk about grief, addiction, emotional suppression, and the long process of healing. We explore how unresolved pain can shape a man’s identity, relationships, and sense of self for years without him fully realizing it. Scott shares parts of his personal journey through loss, sobriety, and learning how to confront emotions he spent years avoiding. This episode is an honest discussion about masculinity, recovery, and what it actually takes to heal.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

02:07 Scott’s Personal Journey

05:42 Living With Grief

10:52 Emotional Suppression in Men

15:18 Addiction and Numbing Pain

20:44 Learning Emotional Awareness

27:11 Masculinity and Vulnerability

33:26 The Cost of Avoidance

39:50 Recovery and Self-Reflection

46:12 Rebuilding After Loss

52:37 Healing Through Connection

58:41 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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Self Worth

Why Men Who Want Love the Most Run From It the Hardest - Dismissive Avoidant Men

Thu, 14 May 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I explore why dismissive avoidant men often crave love deeply while simultaneously pushing it away. I break down the mother wound and emotional conditioning that can lead men to associate intimacy, closeness, and vulnerability with danger instead of safety. I also talk about why healthy relationships can feel overwhelming for avoidant men, and what it actually takes to begin healing these patterns. If you’ve ever struggled with emotional closeness or loved someone who pulls away when things get real, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Dismissive Avoidant Men Run From Love

02:45 - The Emotionally Unavailable Mother

05:10 - How Boys Learn Their Needs Are “Too Much”

08:00 - The Core Belief: “I Can Only Rely On Myself”

11:20 - Why Avoidant Men Become Highly Successful

14:05 - Why Healthy Love Feels Threatening

18:15 - Running From Love As A Survival Strategy

22:10 - Learning To Feel Safe In Intimacy

26:05 - Expanding Your Capacity For Connection

29:10 - Healing Avoidant Attachment In Relationships

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Why Society is Creating Weak Men, and Angry Women, with Jaguar Heart

Mon, 11 May 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Jaguar for a deep conversation about the growing crisis facing modern men. We unpack fatherlessness, rites of passage, emotional development, mother enmeshment, masculinity, relationships, and the cultural forces shaping male identity today. We also explore why so many men feel disconnected, directionless, and dependent on external validation - and what it actually takes to mature into grounded masculinity. This is a challenging, nuanced conversation about accountability, psychology, culture, and what modern men are truly starving for.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

00:32 - What’s really happening to modern men

01:54 - The absence of initiation and male rites of passage

03:23 - The role fathers play in raising boys into men

05:57 - Why many men become dependent on female validation

06:17 - The effects of fatherless homes on boys

08:40 - Biology, masculinity, and suppressed male aggression

11:47 - The collapse of masculinity in modern culture

14:08 - Mother enmeshment and emotional dependency

16:40 - Why men confuse partners with maternal love

18:13 - The dangers of emotionally uncontrolled young men

19:13 - The “devouring mother” explained

21:17 - Why containment and discipline matter for boys

23:08 - Men who never psychologically separate from their mothers

25:04 - The cultural “devouring mother”

26:19 - Anger, defiance, and masculine development

28:34 - Emotional sovereignty and separating from the mother

29:31 - Psychological enmeshment and identity loss

31:29 - How power, manipulation, and social control operate

34:05 - Masculine vs feminine strategies for power

36:00 - Competition, relationships, and modern dating dynamics

38:55 - Why conversations about toxic femininity are taboo

40:17 - Accountability, modern culture, and social narratives

43:42 - False accusations and equality of accountability

45:30 - Logic, myth, intuition, and the unconscious mind

48:56 - Why modern relationships lack true intimacy

50:41 - Direct experience vs intellectualization

52:37 - Illness, emotional awakening, and reconnecting with the body

53:36 - Jaguar opens up about becoming a father

57:14 - Creating masculine environments for boys

59:07 - The importance of male mentorship and brotherhood

01:02:51 - Building spaces for men without ideology

01:05:08 - Why society has lost the ability to disagree

01:07:39 - AI, social media, and the decline of critical thinking

01:09:54 - Body positivity, truth, and modern narcissism

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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Self Worth

The Hidden Cause of Your Shitty Decisions and Lack of Confidence.

Thu, 07 May 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down how confusion - especially from childhood - can quietly drive your bad decisions, low confidence, and repeated patterns. I share how unpredictability and chaos shape your identity and why your brain keeps choosing what’s familiar, even when it’s harmful. I also walk you through practical steps to create clarity, build stability, and start rewriting the story you’ve been living. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you don’t understand, this episode will help you make sense of it and move forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Hidden Driver Behind Your Decisions

02:30 - How Childhood Confusion Begins

05:45 - Why Predictability Shapes Identity

08:15 - Why You Repeat Harmful Patterns

10:45 - How Confusion Gets Personalized

13:30 - Step 1: Name the Confusion

16:30 - Step 2: Build Daily Predictability

19:00 - Step 3: Tolerate the Unfamiliar

21:30 - Step 4: Get Out of Your Head

23:30 - Step 5: Rewrite Your Story

25:30 - You Are Not Your Confusion

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Why You Don’t Trust Yourself (and How to Fix it)

Mon, 04 May 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Tim Ross to unpack why so many of us struggle to trust ourselves and how that lack of self-trust impacts our decisions and confidence. We explore the deeper roots of self-doubt, from past experiences to internal narratives that quietly shape how we show up. Tim shares powerful insights on rebuilding trust within yourself and taking ownership of your life. If you’ve been second-guessing your choices or feeling stuck, this conversation will give you a new perspective on how to move forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

02:15 - Why Self-Trust Is So Hard to Build

06:40 - The Root of Poor Decision Making

10:05 - How Past Experiences Shape Your Confidence

14:20 - Recognizing Self-Sabotage Patterns

18:00 - Rebuilding Trust Within Yourself

22:30 - Taking Ownership of Your Choices

27:10 - Final Thoughts & Takeaways

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Does She Have Daddy Issues - The Father Wound Most Women Never Heal

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down what people really mean when they talk about “daddy issues” and the deeper father wound that often goes unspoken. I explore how a woman’s relationship with her father can shape the way she experiences love, trust, and validation in adulthood. We look at the patterns that emerge - not from blame, but from understanding - and how these dynamics show up in relationships. Most importantly, I talk about what it takes to recognize and break these cycles so they don’t keep repeating.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The “Daddy Issues” Conversation Begins

00:45 - Why This Isn’t About Blaming Fathers

01:20 - Absence, Inconsistency & Emotional Distance

02:05 - How Love Gets Wired Through Instability

03:10 - Chasing Validation in Relationships

04:05 - Not Evil, But Conditioned

07:25 - Seeing Love Through the Lens of Betrayal

11:40 - Pushing Away What You Actually Need

16:10 - How the Father Wound Shapes Identity

21:30 - Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

27:05 - Awareness as the Turning Point

31:10 - What Isn’t Healed Will Repeat

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Trusting Yourself Again After Trauma (Part 2): Rebuilding Inner Safety - Coaching Session

Mon, 27 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Josh to continue unpacking what it really takes to rebuild self-trust after trauma. We dive into the patterns that keep him stuck, how past experiences still shape his reactions, and why self-doubt lingers even when you’re aware of it. Together, we explore what it means to feel safe in your own decisions and how to start making shifts in real time. If you’re working on trusting yourself again, this conversation will give you a clearer path forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Picking up from Part 1

01:12 - Why self-doubt still lingers

03:45 - Identifying past-driven patterns

06:10 - Awareness vs action

08:32 - Feeling safe in your decisions

11:05 - Breaking hesitation cycles

13:40 - Practical steps to rebuild trust

16:20 - Handling uncertainty

18:55 - Reframing past experiences

21:30 - Moving toward confidence

24:00 - Key takeaways

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

The Psychological Trap Crushing You and Most Men

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I dive into the "dragon of suppression," a psychological trap that far too many men mistakenly use as a methodology for building strength. I explore how hiding your pain and needs actually fuels a "shadow" identity that sabotages your goals, health, and relationships.

By identifying what you’ve been pushing down since childhood and sharing it with a trusted community, you can reclaim your true power and resilience. Join me as I explain why transparency—not isolation—is the real path to psychological health and liberation.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Facing the Dragon of Suppression

01:46 The Dark Reality of Emotional Suppression

03:16 How Your Shadow Sabotages Your Life

04:03 The Survival Mechanism of "Sucking It Up"

05:42 Breaking the Path of Destruction

07:49 Steps to Identify What You’ve Suppressed

09:53 Why You Can't Heal in Isolation

11:58 True Strength Through Expression

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

What Women Don't Understand About Men, with Alison Armstrong

Mon, 20 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Alison Armstrong to unpack the deeper dynamics between men and women that often go misunderstood. We dive into how men think, why they pull away, and what’s really happening beneath the surface in modern relationships. Alison brings decades of insight into human behavior, challenging some of the most common assumptions that create conflict and disconnection. If you’ve ever felt confused or frustrated in your relationships, this conversation will give you a completely new lens to see things clearly.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

02:18 - Meeting Alison Armstrong

06:45 - Understanding Male Behavior

10:52 - Why Men Pull Away

15:16 - Communication Breakdowns

21:30 - Emotional Misinterpretations

28:05 - Masculine vs Feminine Dynamics

36:40 - Common Relationship Mistakes

45:12 - Navigating Conflict Better

51:23 - Pausing and Self-Awareness

59:10 - What Men Need Most

01:07:25 - Reframing Relationship Expectations

01:13:36 - Shifting Perspective

01:21:10 - Final Thoughts

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

The 5 Father Wounds and How to Fix Them

Thu, 16 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down what the father wound really is and how it silently shapes your relationships, behavior, and identity as a man. I walk through the core archetypes of father wounds and how they show up in your daily life-from approval seeking to commitment issues and emotional disconnection. Most importantly, I share a clear, actionable path to start healing and reclaiming your sense of self. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you don’t fully understand, this episode will help you make sense of them and move forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00:00 - What Is the Father Wound

00:03:00 - Defining the Father Wound

00:06:00 - Identity, Competence & Belonging

00:12:30 - Archetype: The Ghost Dad

00:16:30 - Archetype: The Critical Father

00:22:30 - Archetype: The Volatile / Abusive Father

00:27:30 - Archetype: The Enmeshed Father

00:31:30 - Archetype: The Spineless Father

00:33:30 - How Father Wounds Show Up in Relationships

00:46:30 - Step 1: Name It

00:49:00 - Step 2: Grieve It

00:51:00 - Step 3: Separate Past from Present

00:53:30 - Step 4: Reparative Relationships

00:55:30 - Step 5: Become the Father You Needed

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

How To Control Emotional Reactions, with Dr. Kelly Flanagan

Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:25:00 -0400

I sit down with Dr. Kelly to unpack what really happens when we get triggered and why it feels so hard to stay in control. We dive into how our nervous system hijacks us, how past experiences shape our reactions, and why awareness alone isn’t enough to change behavior. I also explore what it actually means to “keep your heart open” in conflict and how to take ownership without taking blame. This conversation is a practical look at how to respond instead of react, especially in relationships that matter most.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 What Is A Trigger

03:15 The Three Step Trigger Cycle

06:20 Why You Get Hijacked

11:50 Regulating The Nervous System

18:15 Fight Flight And Control Modes

27:30 Control And Letting Go

36:20 What Keeping Your Heart Open Means

43:30 Sensing Conflict Before It Happens

54:20 Taking Ownership In Conflict

01:04:00 What To Do During Conflict

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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How To Stay Sane When Everyone Is Going F_ckin Crazy

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down why so many people feel overwhelmed, anxious, and mentally scattered in today’s world. I explore how constant exposure to global information is disrupting our sense of reality and psychological stability. I also share my prediction for what’s coming over the next few years and why more people may struggle to stay grounded. Finally, I walk you through the key tools you’ll need to not just survive—but stay sane and resilient through massive change.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why the world feels overwhelming

01:30 - The problem with too much information

03:20 - Consuming what you can’t control

04:50 - The 3 layers of reality

08:30 - How reality fragmentation affects your mind

14:20 - Entering the “Negredo” phase

18:40 - Skill 1: Adaptability

23:30 - Skill 2: Regulated resilience

30:10 - Choosing who you become

***

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Trusting Yourself Again After Trauma - Coaching Session

Mon, 06 Apr 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Josh to unpack the deep-rooted patterns driving his self-doubt and anxiety in a new relationship. What begins as uncertainty about love quickly reveals unresolved grief, childhood trauma, and a lingering sense of guilt around his mother’s passing. Together, we explore how past experiences shape our ability to trust ourselves and make decisions. This is a powerful look at what it takes to move from rumination and fear toward self-trust and emotional freedom.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Opening The Conversation

01:00 - New Relationship, Old Doubts

02:00 - Marriage Breakdown And Mental Health

05:00 - First Panic Attacks And Early Trauma

10:00 - Losing His Mother

18:00 - Grief Comes To The Surface

23:00 - What He Misses Most

29:00 - Guilt And Self-Blame

33:00 - Can You Forgive Yourself?

36:00 - Fear Of Making The Wrong Choice

42:00 - Why Good Relationships Feel Unsafe

44:30 - Rebuilding Trust In Yourself

***

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The Mother Wound Destroying Most Men's Relationships

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 15:30:00 -0400

I explore how the “Mother Wound” shapes the way many men experience love, connection, and intimacy. I break down how early emotional patterns formed in childhood can quietly influence adult relationships, often without us realizing it. We talk about why love can feel distant, confusing, or something that has to be earned. Most importantly, I share practical shifts that can help you build healthier, more secure relationships.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why you’re not bad at relationships

00:00:32 - Understanding the mother wound

00:00:42 - Your first relationship sets the blueprint

00:07:21 - How childhood defines your idea of love

00:11:27 - When love becomes distance

00:14:42 - Anxiety and relationship patterns

00:22:00 - Stop earning love

***

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What Destroys Relationships Over Time, with Debra Lieberman

Mon, 30 Mar 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Debra Lieberman to explore the deeper psychological patterns that shape our relationships. We unpack why people unknowingly sabotage love, how unconscious behaviors influence attraction, and what drives conflict beneath the surface. Debra brings a sharp, science-backed perspective that challenges conventional thinking about modern relationships. This episode will push you to look at your own patterns with more clarity and honesty.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction and Technical Difficulties

00:45 - Setting the Stage for the Conversation

05:30 - Understanding Relationship Patterns

12:10 - Why People Sabotage Love

20:45 - The Role of Unconscious Behavior

32:00 - Attraction and Psychological Drivers

45:15 - Conflict and Misalignment

58:40 - Breaking Negative Patterns

01:08:20 - Practical Insights for Better Relationships

01:14:50 - Closing Thoughts

***

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The Internet Is Destroying Relationships (Here’s the Data to Prove It)

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down how the internet is quietly reshaping modern relationships and not in a good way. I explore the data behind rising breakup culture and why so many people are being encouraged to walk away instead of working things out. We dive into how online advice is influencing real-world decisions and what that means for commitment, patience, and communication. If you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel more fragile today, this conversation will give you a clear perspective.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Internet & Relationships

00:33 - The Core Problem

01:05 - Fragile Relationships

01:37 - Reddit Study Insights

01:50 - 5 Million Data Points

03:08 - “Just Leave” Culture

03:24 - Breakup Advice Surge

04:03 - The Bigger Trend

***

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The 3 Things That Destroy Intimacy In your Relationship

Mon, 23 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Stefanos Sifandos to unpack what masculine leadership really looks like inside a relationship. We dive into ownership, control, emotional safety, and why so many men struggle with intimacy and sexual connection. Stefanos shares powerful insights on breaking shame, communicating desire, and building deeper trust with your partner. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, frustrated, or unsure how to lead in your relationship, this episode will challenge and ground you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Masculine Leadership Defined

01:11 - Ownership Without Shame

03:26 - Learning To Take Responsibility

06:58 - Control vs Leadership

08:02 - Signs Of Being Controlling

11:25 - Emotional Reactivity As A Signal

15:10 - Why Men Avoid Vulnerability

17:36 - Power Of Men’s Groups

23:52 - Trust And Brotherhood

28:52 - Why She Feels Unsafe

32:41 - Foundations Of Sexual Connection

34:58 - Complaint Kills Attraction

36:08 - Sex And Emotional Connection

38:40 - Behaviors That Destroy Intimacy

42:22 - Confronting Sexual Shame

47:50 - How To Express Desire

54:06 - Sexual Addiction Patterns

57:52 - What Men Are Really Seeking

01:00:25 - Is Marriage Worth It

01:05:44 - Stefanos’ Book And Closing

***

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The Fastest Way to Quit Porn - What the Research Shows

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down what the research actually says about quitting pornography—and why most men are approaching it the wrong way. I explore the real drivers behind porn use, including shame, secrecy, and emotional regulation. You’ll learn why willpower isn’t enough and what actually creates lasting change. If you’ve struggled to quit or reduce porn, this episode will give you a practical and research-backed path forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction: The truth about porn and research

01:28 - Why secrecy is the real relationship problem

05:50 - How porn affects men vs women differently

09:07 - The shame cycle and moral incongruence

14:14 - Porn as emotional regulation

16:40 - The 10-minute awareness practice

17:45 - What actually works to quit porn

22:10 - The 5-step strategy to reduce or quit

***

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The Power of Being Present, with Light Watkins

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Light Watkins to explore why so many of us stay stuck in patterns that keep us unhappy and unfulfilled. We talk about the hidden pull of the comfort zone, the resistance that shows up right before real change, and why success alone rarely delivers the fulfillment we expect.

Light shares practical ideas for cultivating presence, building meaningful habits, and taking the “tortoise approach” to lasting change. If you’ve ever felt trapped between chasing success and wanting a more meaningful life, this conversation will give you a different way to think about growth.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Why We Repeat Unhealthy Patterns

01:28 Familiarity vs Real Change

03:18 Resistance Before Transformation

07:05 Choosing Stress Intentionally

11:07 Why Men Stay in Broken Situations

17:42 Success Without Fulfillment

19:00 What Presence Really Means

23:50 The Success Trap of Modern Life

28:37 The Singing Cancer Doctor Story

36:36 Building Presence Through Daily Practices

42:57 The Tortoise Approach to Change

***

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Why You Feel So Stuck (And What To Do)

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down the real reason you keep falling into the same self-sabotage patterns - and it's not what you think. I explain how your brain is wired to keep you stuck in familiar territory, and why doing more is never the answer. The key to getting unstuck isn't adding something new - it's having the courage to let go of the belief, behavior, or story that's been keeping you in place. I also share the one motto I've used for years that completely changed how I relate to change: I let change change me.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00:00 - Welcome & Are You Stuck?

00:00:32 - The Biggest Misconception About Self-Sabotage

00:01:02 - Your Brain Is a Pattern Recognition Machine

00:02:19 - You Have to Venture Into Unknown Territory

00:04:00 - It's Not What You Need to Do - It's What to Let Go Of

00:05:01 - The Quicksand Analogy

00:06:23 - The Dog on the Nail Story

00:07:23 - Surrender to the Truth Already in Front of You

00:08:36 - I Let Change Change Me

00:12:59 - Final Thoughts & Call to Action

***

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Why Doing Everything “right” as a Man No is No Longer Worth It, with Harry Miller

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Harry Miller to talk about courage, disagreement, and what it means to be a man in modern culture. Harry shares his journey from Ohio State football player and mechanical engineer to writer and philosopher, and the personal struggles that forced him to rethink success and identity.

We explore why modern society rewards compliance over courage, how men have lost the ability to disagree well, and why reclaiming bravery may be one of the most important things a man can do today. This is a deep conversation about truth, masculinity, and learning to stand your ground in a world that increasingly demands conformity.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

Introduction to Harry Miller

The Constraints Facing Modern Men

Compliance Culture and Masculinity

Why Disagreement Matters

Ideology, Truth, and Debate

Relationships and Healthy Conflict

Courage and Healthy Masculinity

***

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Modern Men Are Weak Because They’ve Lost This Skill

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I talk about why many modern men feel weaker, more fragile, and less effective than generations before them. I break down the forgotten skill of mobilization and explain why the ability to take action, organize, and move people toward a goal is critical for leadership and masculinity. I also explore how comfort, convenience, and endless distractions are quietly eroding this skill. Finally, I challenge you to look at where you may be choosing comfort over competence and how reclaiming this ability can change your life.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Why Modern Men Feel Weaker

01:05 The Forgotten Skill: Mobilization

02:08 Why Most Men Struggle to Mobilize

03:33 Why Men Who Take Action Are Harder to Control

09:04 The Trap of Modern Comfort

16:11 What Masculine Action Really Looks Like

20:19 Choosing Competence Over Comfort

***

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Why Anxious & Avoidants Attract (and How to Fix it) with Thais Gibson

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Thais Gibson to break down what attachment really is and how it shapes our relationships. We dive into anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment styles, how social media is impacting connection, and why so many couples get stuck in the same patterns. Thais shares a practical framework for rewiring core wounds and building secure attachment. If you’ve ever felt trapped in push-pull dynamics or struggled to communicate your needs, this conversation will give you clarity and direction.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

00:48 Attachment at a Cultural Level

02:05 Social Media and Short-Term Gratification

05:16 Conflict as Crisis and Opportunity

07:23 Is Attachment Programmable?

09:24 How Attachment Styles Form

18:14 The “Bear in the Woods” Conversation

38:04 Core Wounds of Each Attachment Style

44:01 Rewiring Subconscious Beliefs

47:20 Can Two Insecure Partners Build Security?

50:25 Freeze and Shutdown Responses

56:19 Communication and Positive Framing

01:00:36 Why Anxious and Avoidant Attract

01:04:01 Where to Learn More from Thais

***

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Stop Doing This One Thing to Rebuild Confidence and Self-worth

Thu, 26 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I talk about the one habit that quietly destroys confidence and self worth, and why most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. I unpack how apologizing for your emotional reactions trains you to distrust yourself and give your power away. I explain where this pattern usually begins and how it keeps showing up in adult relationships. Most importantly, I walk you through what to do instead if you want to rebuild real self trust and internal strength.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - You Were Never Too Sensitive

01:07 - The Trade for Approval

01:23 - The One Thing to Stop

05:59 - Stop Apologizing for Your Emotions

08:36 - How You Give Your Power Away

10:12 - Rebuilding Self-Trust

***

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Why Young Men Are So Angry, with Trey Tucker

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Trey Tucker to talk about grief, father wounds, and what it really means for men to be tough enough. We explore how men process loss, why responsibility often comes before emotion, and how unresolved identity issues show up during major life transitions. Trey shares powerful stories about losing his father and how that shaped his work with men. We also dive into distraction, anger, mentorship, and why reclaiming healthy masculinity requires deeper inner work, not louder voices.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:02 - Introducing Trey Tucker

01:15 - The sudden loss of a father

04:45 - How men grieve through responsibility

12:27 - Honoring someone through grief

17:10 - The father wound story

24:05 - Closure and unresolved conversations

30:56 - Distraction and emotional avoidance

35:46 - Cultural decline and angry sons

44:38 - The absence of the father archetype

49:54 - Identity vs. title in life transitions

55:18 - Trey’s book “Tough Enough”

***

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Two Lessons That Can Fix Your Attachment

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I dive deep into the two main things you need to understand to fix your insecure attachment style. I break down the specific threats and survival strategies that drive anxious, avoidant, and disorganized behaviors in relationships. Plus, I share actionable steps and real regulation formulas you can use immediately to start moving toward a secure attachment. Tune in and learn how to stop unconsciously sabotaging the connection you crave and start building lasting intimacy.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction to Attachment Styles

01:00 - Secure vs. Insecure Attachment

02:30 - Attachment as a Threat Detection System

04:00 - The Anxious Attachment Style

11:00 - The Avoidant Attachment Style

20:00 - The Disorganized Attachment Style

29:00 - Conclusion and Final Steps

***

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Why High Performers Burn Out with Irene Lyon

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Irene Lyon to unpack why so many high performers eventually hit a wall. We break down what nervous system regulation actually means, how early attachment shapes stress resilience, and why optimization alone won’t solve burnout. If you’ve been pushing harder, doing more, and still feeling something isn’t right, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. This isn’t about working less. It’s about working from a regulated system instead of survival.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why High Performers Burn Out

04:15 - What Nervous System Regulation Really Means

12:40 - Secure Attachment and Stress Resilience

22:30 - Functional Freeze Explained

34:10 - When Optimization Backfires

46:25 - Suppression, Tension, and Stored Stress

58:50 - Biological Impulse and Self-Awareness

01:12:30 - Trauma, Completion, and Real Healing

01:24:10 - What Real Progress Looks Like

***

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Are Women More Radicalized Than Men?

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 10:25:00 -0400

I examine the claim that men are becoming increasingly radicalized and ask whether we are overlooking something more complicated. I explore how radicalization can manifest differently in men and women, particularly through ideology, moral framing, and social dynamics. We unpack how narratives around protection, virtue, and cultural authority shape political intensity in ways that often go unnoticed. This is a careful, uncomfortable conversation about power, language, and how radicalization doesn’t always look the same.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Are Women More Radicalized Than Men?

02:15 The Media Narrative About Male Radicalization

07:40 Different Pathways to Radicalization

15:10 Moral Superiority and Cultural Authority

22:35 Online Amplification and Social Pressure

30:50 Policing Language and Social Norms

38:20 Protection, Virtue, and Power

46:05 Rethinking What Radicalization Looks Like

***

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The Great Man Theory - A Guide to the Men Worth Studying

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down the Great Man Theory and what it actually means for modern men. I explore why the individuals we study quietly shape our standards, our ambition, and ultimately our identity. This isn’t about idol worship. It’s about consciously choosing the models that influence how we think and act. If you’re going to study someone, make sure they elevate you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Great Man Theory Explained

02:05 - History as the Biography of Great Men

05:42 - Why Modern Men Lack Worthy Models

09:18 - The Imitation Principle

14:27 - Choosing the Right Heroes

19:45 - You Are Already Studying Someone

23:10 - Defining a True Hero

27:30 - Becoming the Man You Study

***

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Self Worth

Your Self-Worth Won’t Let You Change - Until You Do This

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down why self-worth isn’t a motivation problem and why trying to “think” your way into confidence rarely works. I explain how your identity is built from predictable behavioral patterns and how your nervous system resists change that feels unfamiliar or threatening. We dive into the biology behind self-worth, including dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine, and how they shape drive, discipline, and resilience. Finally, I lay out practical steps you can use to rebuild self-worth through action, repetition, and new patterns.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Self-Worth Isn’t a Motivation Problem

01:07 - Identity as Predictable Patterns

02:37 - The Rider and the Elephant

03:56 - Why the Brain Rejects Change

05:16 - Self-Worth as a Felt Experience

06:59 - Dopamine and Direction

07:12 - Serotonin and Self-Control

08:21 - Norepinephrine and Resilience

09:28 - Why Change Feels Like Death

11:07 - Practical Steps to Rebuild Self-Worth

14:56 - Self-Worth Is Built Through Action

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Teaching Children to Do Hard Things, with Leland Vittert

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Leland Vittert to talk about his childhood diagnosis of autism and the extraordinary role his father played in shaping his resilience. We explore why removing adversity from children often backfires, and how discipline, honesty, and responsibility can become acts of love. This conversation isn’t about romanticizing struggle, it’s about learning how to do hard things and refusing to be defined by limitations.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

02:10 - Autism Diagnosis and Early Childhood

05:40 - A Father’s Radical Commitment

08:05 - Growing Up Without Friends

10:55 - Self-Esteem Outside School and Sports

13:20 - Why Adversity Was Never Removed

17:30 - Learning You Can’t Be Broken

20:05 - Living With Autism as an Adult

23:45 - Discipline Versus Accommodation

27:00 - Teaching Social Skills Deliberately

30:40 - Protection, Trust, and Character

34:50 - Letting Kids Become More

39:35 - Discipline as Strength

45:10 - Parenting Without Expectations

48:10 - Final Reflections and Where to Find Leland

***

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The #1 Masculine Trait Every Man Must Develop

Thu, 29 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down the single most critical masculine trait every man needs to master this year: self-control. I explain why true masculinity isn't about suppressing your emotions or killing your aggression, but rather channeling that intense energy into mastery and leadership. I also share four practical pillars you can use immediately to stop reacting to the chaos around you and start leading your life with power under command.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Single Most Important Masculine Trait

02:57 - Why Masculinity Itself Isn’t the Problem

06:16 - The Cost of Losing Control

08:14 - Pillar #1: The Power of the Pause

10:04 - Pillar #2: Channeling Aggression into Mastery

12:54 - Pillar #3: Disciplining the Body First

14:31 - Pillar #4: Ending the Need for Validation

15:44 - True Masculinity is Power Under Command

***

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Men Trapped in Modernity, with Mark Walsh

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Mark Walsh for a wide-ranging and unfiltered conversation about the collapse of meaning in modern life and how it is impacting men in particular. We explore why young men feel lost, why modern psychology and culture are failing them, and what it actually takes to stay grounded in an increasingly chaotic world.

We talk about masculinity, embodiment, faith, community, and why comfort-driven modernity is producing anxiety rather than fulfillment. This is a challenging conversation that does not offer platitudes, but it does offer a path forward

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Death Cult of Modernity

01:21 - What Is Really Happening to Young Men

06:15 - Meaning, God, and the Collapse of Culture

10:28 - Why Modern Life Feels Insane

16:10 - The Gender Divide and Radicalization

23:47 - Why Men Feel Politically Homeless

31:30 - Joker Energy and Cultural Breakdown

36:27 - The Four Reconnections Men Need

44:16 - Feminism as Ersatz Religion

48:20 - What Modern Psychology Gets Wrong

54:22 - How Men Become Embodied Again

***

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Self Worth

What Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, and Kant Taught Us About Being A Man - Part 2

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 10:30:00 -0400

In Part 2 of this video, I dive into the works of Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, and Kant to share five psychological pillars that will help you build inner sovereignty and resilience. We explore the necessity of integrating your aggression and choosing meaningful suffering over empty comfort. Finally, I challenge you to speak the truth even when it risks your social approval, as this is essential for maintaining trust in yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 The 5 Psychological Pillars from Great Philosophers

2:02 Why Comfort is Not Meaning

12:57 Choosing Truth Over Approval

20:28 Recap: The 5 Pillars of Manhood

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What Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, and Kant Taught Us About Being a Man - Part 1

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I dive into the works of Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, and Kant to share five psychological pillars that will help you build inner sovereignty and resilience. We explore why rejecting modern victimhood in favor of radical responsibility is the only path to true psychological maturity. I also explain why a harmless man is not a good man, discussing the necessity of integrating your aggression and choosing meaningful suffering over empty comfort. Finally, I challenge you to speak the truth even when it risks your social approval, as this is essential for maintaining trust in yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 The 5 Psychological Pillars from Great Philosophers

00:50 Dostoyevsky on Responsibility vs. Victimhood

10:15 Kant and the Power of Self-Mastery

18:00 Nietzsche on Integrating the Shadow

26:02 Why Comfort is Not Meaning

32:57 Choosing Truth Over Approval

40:28 Recap: The 5 Pillars of Manhood

***

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The Masculinity of Tyler Durden and Fight Club

Thu, 15 Jan 2026 10:30:00 -0400

I break down Tyler Durden as a psychological and masculine archetype, not as a role model, but as a warning signal. I explore why Fight Club still resonates with men today, what Tyler gets right about masculinity, and where his version of power goes off the rails. This is a conversation about repression, shadow integration, discipline, and why unintegrated strength turns destructive. The goal is not to become Tyler Durden, but to understand what he represents and integrate it responsibly.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Tyler Durden Still Possesses the Male Psyche

01:45 - Tyler Durden as a Symptom of Emasculation

03:34 - The Hollow Man and Consumer Masculinity

05:25 - Tyler Durden as the Shadow Masculine

07:14 - The Absence of Masculine Initiation

08:05 - Pseudo-Initiation and Self-Destruction

09:00 - Pain, Brotherhood, and Fight Club

10:53 - Violence vs Contact With Reality

12:44 - Comfort, Weakness, and Modern Men

13:30 - What Tyler Durden Gets Right

15:46 - Power Without Consciousness

17:54 - Tyranny, Cult Dynamics, and Shadow Possession

20:20 - Project Mayhem and Destructive Identity

22:20 - Rage Masculinity in the Modern World

23:31 - Integration Over Destruction

24:43 - Disciplined Power and True Masculine Initiation

25:57 - Tyler Durden as the Alarm, Not the Answer

***

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10 Things Men Need to STOP Doing in 2026 to Have Their Best Year Yet

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down 10 things men must stop doing in 2026 if they want their strongest year yet. I talk about why being busy is not the same as making progress, how avoidance quietly erodes integrity, and why a regulated nervous system is becoming a competitive advantage. If you want more clarity, direction, and self-leadership this year, this episode will challenge you to cut what is weakening you and focus on what actually matters.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why 2026 Requires Elimination, Not More Motivation

01:31 - Stop Confusing Motion With Progress

03:07 - Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations

04:47 - Stop Letting Dopamine Run Your Life

06:50 - Stop Treating Your Body as Separate From Your Mind

08:52 - Stop Blaming Your Past for Your Present

10:29 - Stop Trying to Be Like Everyone Else

11:42 - Stop Living With an Unregulated Nervous System

13:58 - Stop Outsourcing Meaning and Validation

15:32 - Stop Doing Everything Alone

17:47 - Stop Waiting for “Someday”

***

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Why You’re So Anxious All the Time (And How To Fix It)

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I break down why anxiety is so prevalent today and why much of it is being intentionally manufactured. I explore the existential and psychological forces driving anxiety - from social media comparison to nervous system overload. I also share three practical tools you can start using immediately to reduce anxiety and regain a sense of internal stability. If you struggle with chronic worry or overwhelm, this episode will give you a new framework for understanding and working with anxiety.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Why anxiety is increasing by design

00:46 Anxiety as a future-based distortion

03:19 Global instability and manufactured fear

04:31 Comparison addiction and social media

06:12 The breakdown of objective truth

08:51 Disagreement as relational death

11:13 Nervous system sensitivity and stress

17:15 Three tools to reduce anxiety

***

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Overcoming Trauma, Gang Life and Building Self-Respect with AJ McQueen

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with AJ McQueen for a deeply honest conversation about trauma, masculinity, faith, and self-acceptance. AJ shares how violence, heartbreak, and survival shaped his early life, and how learning radical acceptance became the turning point in his growth as a man. We talk about sex, discipline, purpose, boundaries, and why so many men live stuck in survival mode. This is a raw, reflective discussion about becoming grounded, choosing yourself, and learning how to live with integrity.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction and Meeting AJ

01:00 - Heartbreak as a Catalyst for Growth

05:10 - Sex, Addiction, and Masculinity

10:00 - Growing Up Around Violence

16:20 - Defining Manhood and Fatherhood

21:15 - Autonomy, Boundaries, and Self-Respect

28:45 - Saying No and Taking Back Control

35:15 - Trauma, Gifts, and Acceptance

40:30 - Confidence Through Radical Acceptance

48:25 - Survival Mode vs Self-Understanding

53:30 - Enoughness and Self-Worth

01:01:10 - Travel, Perspective, and Expansion

01:06:20 - Faith, Spirituality, and Service

01:12:30 - Closing Reflections and Gratitude

***

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Raised By Women Who Hate Men - The Modern Man's Mother Wound

Thu, 01 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0400

I break down what I call the modern man’s mother wound - how growing up with a deep distrust or disdain for men can shape a man’s identity, relationships, and sense of self. I explore how this wound forms, how it shows up in adult life, and why so many men struggle with boundaries, authority, and male relationships as a result. Most importantly, I walk you through practical, grounded steps you can take to reclaim your masculinity and build a stronger, more integrated sense of who you are as a man.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Modern Man’s Mother Wound

01:06 - Growing Up Distrusting Men

03:40 - Father Absence and Its Impact

06:01 - Missing Masculine Modeling

07:34 - The Negative Mother Complex

10:35 - How the Mother Wound Shows Up

16:29 - Healing Through Male Connection

24:24 - Integrating the Mother Wound

***

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The Crisis Facing Young Men with Josh Fryday

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Josh to unpack what’s really happening with men today, why so many feel disconnected, and how culture, economics, and identity play into the decline we’re seeing. We get into whether men are being blamed, why institutions repel them, and how service can restore purpose, direction, and confidence.

I also ask Josh what he fears most for the next generation and what responsibility, excellence, and manhood should look like in today's world. This one will challenge you, and I hope it pushes you to think, act, and share it forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Welcome and opening question

03:10 Crisis of connection

08:25 Are men being seen as the problem

12:40 Economics, purpose, and identity

18:05 Why institutions repel young men

23:30 Why California launched this program

28:55 The role of service

33:10 Mentoring, coaching, and responsibility

39:20 Modern politics and polarization

45:05 How men build friendships

50:10 Skills, jobs, and opportunity

56:30 What Josh fears for his sons

01:00:45 Redefining responsibility and excellence

01:05:20 Closing thoughts and how to get involved

***

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Hilarious Christmas Story & Thanks To You And Yours

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 10:30:00 -0400

What happens when a Christmas moment goes completely off the rails? I share a genuinely hilarious Christmas story, reflect on the year that’s been, and take a moment to say thank you to you and yours for being part of this journey. It’s a lighter, more personal conversation about family, perspective, and gratitude. I hope it gives you a laugh and a reminder of what actually matters during the holidays.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Christmas Check-In

01:12 Setting the Holiday Mood

02:45 The Christmas Story Begins

05:18 When Things Go Sideways

08:04 The Aftermath

10:22 What It Taught Me

12:06 Gratitude for the Audience

13:40 Final Holiday Wishes

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Is It Hard To Turn A Boy Into A Man?

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I unpack why turning a boy into a grounded, capable man has become so difficult in modern culture. I talk about the loss of initiation, the erasure of strong male role models, and the mistake of trying to repress male aggression instead of teaching men how to master it.

We explore why maturity is not about becoming harmless, but about learning to contain and direct a man’s dangerous potential in a healthy way.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Why Masculinity Maturity Matters

00:36 “Men Are the Problem” Narrative

01:23 Feminizing Boys to Fix Society

02:56 Fixing Systems vs Fixing Boys

03:26 Why It’s Hard to Make a Man

04:12 Loss of Initiation and Role Models

05:25 Biology vs Social Conditioning

06:08 Male Aggression as Biological Reality

06:53 Raising Boys Without Sedation

08:04 The Hellscape of Male Adolescence

09:21 You Can’t Socialize the Mammal Out

11:09 Learning to Contain Danger

13:38 Beauty and the Beast Archetype

15:13 Castrating Male Competition

16:47 The Cultural Pendulum Swing

18:04 Power, Initiation, and Surrender

20:55 Warrior in a Garden Principle

21:49 Guiding the Next Generation

***

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Why Men Get Sex Wrong with Dr. Nicole McNichols

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 11:30:00 -0400

I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols to dismantle the biggest myths men believe about sex, attraction, and confidence. We talk about why performance anxiety kills connection, how curiosity builds real sexual confidence, and what actually drives desire in long-term relationships. This conversation goes deep into emotional attunement, power dynamics, attachment styles, and why better sex starts long before the bedroom.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - What Men Misunderstand About Attraction

01:07 - The Real Role of Confidence

01:25 - Porn, Netflix, and Sexual Myths

03:46 - The Reality of Sex Statistics

06:12 - Performance Anxiety and Spectatoring

07:31 - Sexual Curiosity Explained

08:02 - How to Improve Your Sex Life Tonight

10:18 - Talking During Sex Without Killing Desire

11:27 - Why Uncertainty Is a Myth

13:52 - Self-Growth vs Distance in Desire

16:09 - Planned Sex vs Spontaneity

17:49 - How Confidence Is Built Sexually

19:32 - The Sexual Unicorn Myth

22:50 - Getting Out of Your Head in Bed

24:32 - When Your Partner Says “I Don’t Know”

26:44 - Desire vs Arousal

29:27 - Why Bodies Don’t Always Match Desire

31:54 - Power Dynamics and Erotic Differences

35:57 - Madonna-Whore Complex Explained

42:47 - The Hierarchy of Sexual Needs

44:36 - Attachment Styles and Sex

48:33 - Emotional Attunement and Female Desire

52:42 - Dominance, Safety, and Masculinity

59:36 - When Men’s Needs Get Deprioritized

01:04:35 - What Women Can Do Better Sexually

01:07:44 - The Lost Art of Seduction

01:10:06 - Final Takeaways and Where to Find Nicole

***

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Are Incredible Men Just Average Women?

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 10:30:00 -0400

I’ve been seeing a disturbing trend online where women claim that "incredible men are just average women," implying that men are simply playing catch-up to a female baseline. In this episode, I dive into the dangers of this "female supremacy" narrative and what I call the "Patriarchy Virus," which frames men as the root cause of every societal problem. I also break down why judging men by female metrics destroys relationships and discuss the immense, often overlooked effort it takes to chisel yourself into an exceptional man.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 The "Incredible Men Are Just Average Women" Narrative

01:43 Introducing the Patriarchy Virus

03:09 The "One Up, One Down" Relationship Dynamic

05:10 Society Values What Men Contribute, Not Who They Are

06:23 Identity: Community vs. Competency

08:52 Why Modern Culture Demonizes Hierarchies

10:04 Applying Female Metrics to Male Psychology

11:50 Misandry and the Contempt for Men

14:14 The Reality of Women Who Buy Into This Narrative

16:03 It Is Hard to Craft Yourself Into a Great Man

***

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Healing The Masculine Wound with Josh Trent

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 11:45:00 -0400

I sit down with Josh Trent to explore how marriage, father wounds, and emotional epigenetics shape a man’s inner world. We talk honestly about porn, anger, healing the mother wound, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety with your partner.

Josh unpacks how breathwork, mentorship, and men’s work helped him transform survival patterns into real love and leadership. This episode is raw, personal, and directly speaks to men who are ready to stop repeating cycles and start leading with truth.

Check out Josh's online community: www.liberatedlife.com

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Welcome and setup

00:31 Marriage as transformation

01:13 Anger toward the feminine

02:26 Injuries from childhood

03:37 Unsafe relationship with women

04:53 Realizing wife is not mom

05:37 Breaking unconscious patterns

06:36 Avoiding emotional honesty

08:35 Growing up with bipolar parent

10:35 Creating safety by coping

11:39 Being shielded from truth

13:40 Moving to Hawaii

14:41 Womanizing and addiction

15:47 Mission to feel feelings

17:34 Hungry Ghost metaphor

19:08 Dysfunction in relationships

21:24 Men’s work and mentorship

23:05 Masculine leadership

26:24 Joining men’s communities

29:32 Emotional epigenetics

33:14 Containment in relationships

34:33 Safe emotional expression

35:36 Relationship with other men

38:13 How to communicate honestly

41:51 How to open up

43:52 Breathwork and embodiment

46:42 Middle path for men

48:51 Healing financial fear

50:23 Self leadership for men

53:27 Porn and disconnection

55:45 Why porn hooks men

58:51 Escape velocity

1:03:47 Healing lineage pain

1:06:55 Breaking generational cycles

***

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Self Worth

The One Skill That Will Change Your Relationship With Women

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 11:45:00 -0400

I dive into the single most important skill that many modern men have lost but that women deeply crave: containment. I discuss why mastering your own internal fire—your anger, impulses, and emotions—is the key to shifting from being perceived as a potential predator to a trusted protector. We explore how developing this capacity doesn't mean castrating your masculinity, but rather harnessing it to create a sense of safety that feels like "shade in the desert" for your partner.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

01:29 The #1 Skill Women Crave

02:32 Understanding the Predator-Prey Dynamic

04:30 Why Women Are Attracted to a "Dangerous" Edge

06:15 Becoming a Protector Instead of a Predator

08:45 Why She Needs You to Be an Emotional Container

11:55 The Rule: Contain Yourself First

14:15 The "Shade in the Desert" Metaphor

15:45 Personal Story: Providing Containment in a Crisis

21:00 How Boundaries Create Polarity

***

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Self Worth

Fertility Facts No One Says with Gabriela Rosa

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 10:30:00 -0400

I sit down with fertility specialist Gabriela Rosa for a blunt, science-driven conversation about what’s really happening to our reproductive health. We get into why fertility challenges are rising, how men contribute fifty percent of the equation, and the lifestyle choices that quietly sabotage conception.

I also explore the emotional and relational pressures couples face when trying to conceive, along with practical steps to improve fertility before pregnancy even begins. This is one of the most eye-opening fertility discussions I’ve had on the show.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Fertility As A Health Indicator

03:20 Generational Impact Of Reproductive Health

08:25 Fertility Rates vs Infertility Rates

14:50 How Technology Shaped Modern Family Choices

17:38 Why Sperm And Egg Quality Decline

24:50 The Big Lifestyle Factors Hurting Fertility

27:15 How Men Dramatically Improve Sperm Quality

30:55 Why Everything Starts Pre-Conception

36:13 Vulnerability, Masculinity And Fertility

41:30 The Cost Of Delaying Testing

48:53 What Men Should Stop And Start Doing

58:15 Metabolic Health And Testosterone

01:03:15 Emotional Toll And Seeking Support

***

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Self Worth

Ladies - How to Ignite His Masculine Energy & Change Your Relationship

Thu, 27 Nov 2025 10:30:00 -0400

I break down how women can naturally inspire a man’s masculine energy without controlling, nagging, or pushing him. I share what actually shuts men down and what makes us come alive in relationships.

I also talk about playfulness, admiration, and the subtle shifts that completely change how a man shows up. If you want a more connected, confident, and balanced relationship, this conversation will help you get there.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Women Want to Understand Men

03:20 - Letting Go of Control

06:05 - The Nagging Trap

12:40 - The Power of Playfulness

16:35 - Tell Him What You Want

20:10 - Admire His Actions

24:40 - Your Way Isn’t Always the Best Way

31:10 - Notice the Good in Him

***

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Self Worth

Breaking Male Performance Anxiety with Alex Grendi

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0400

I dive deep with Alex Grendi into the realities of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the pressure men carry in the bedroom. We unpack how self-worth, porn, and emotional tension affect arousal and sexual confidence. Alex breaks down the psychology behind performance issues and shares practical solutions men can start using immediately. This conversation is honest, raw, and a must listen for any man who wants a healthier relationship with sex.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

00:35 How self-worth affects sex

01:17 Emotional roots of performance issues

02:03 Porn and male conditioning

03:19 Nervous system and arousal

04:34 Porn induced dysfunction

05:37 Unrealistic expectations

07:22 Shame and performance pressure

07:45 Women influenced by porn

08:20 Monetization joke break

10:01 What men really want

12:49 Why men feel pressure

13:12 Saying no to sex

15:18 Handling anxiety during sex

16:53 Belief and awareness

17:36 Pressure when sex is infrequent

18:29 Communication with partners

19:59 Reducing pressure

22:14 In the moment anxiety tools

24:03 Breath control in sex

25:30 Parasympathetic vs sympathetic states

27:38 Arousal pacing and control

29:50 Hyper stimulation from porn

31:44 Self worth and performance links

33:15 Where low self worth comes from

34:45 Perfectionism and pressure

35:16 Support and standards

37:37 Using sex for validation

38:56 Understanding different dysfunctions

41:33 What causes ED in healthy men

43:54 Forcing erections vs allowing

44:30 Emotional litmus test

45:35 Nervous system signals

46:50 Emotional suppression

47:46 Performance with highly attractive partners

48:45 Self-sabotage

49:39 Building sexual confidence

49:58 Rituals and daily practice

53:57 Letting go of control

56:05 Reconnecting to the body

57:48 Sex as meditation

58:29 Romance novels conversation

01:00:20 Where to find Alex

***

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Self Worth

Becoming an Emotionally Intelligent Masculine Leader

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0400

I break down what emotional intelligence truly means for men and why so many of us get it wrong. I talk about the four traps that keep men disconnected from their emotional life and how these patterns sabotage leadership, relationships, and self-trust.

I also share a simple 3A framework you can use to build real emotional mastery without losing your edge. If you’re a man who wants to lead with clarity, presence, and strength, this one’s for you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intelligence

01:07 - Emotions as Data

03:37 - The Myth of the Stoic Leader

06:09 - The Four Traps Men Fall Into

12:44 - Understanding Empathy & Boundaries

15:42 - What Healthy Masculine Leadership Really Is

17:20 - Seneca, Self-Conquest & Misinterpretations

18:25 - The 3A Model of Emotional Intelligence

23:30 - The Call for Modern Masculine Leadership

24:53 - Adaptability & Regulation for the Future

25:38 - Final Challenge to Men

***

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Self Worth

Fix Your Dating Strategy with Dr. Orion Taraban

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Dr. Orion Taraban to break down what’s really happening in the modern dating and relationship landscape. We get into why dynamics between men and women have shifted, how power works in relationships, and what actually drives attraction today. Orion and I challenge a lot of popular narratives and get honest about what men need to focus on to succeed relationally. This one pulls no punches.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Modern dating is deteriorating

04:50 Tech, AI, and dehumanized dating

10:30 Double standards in attraction

15:45 How the marketplace really works

22:00 What makes men attractive

27:40 Love vs relationship dynamics

33:55 Power shifts in modern relationships

41:10 Cultural narratives and ideology

48:00 Optionality and relationship power

55:00 What men should focus on

01:02:00 Where to find Dr. Orion

***

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Self Worth

Avoidant Gaslighting- Spot It & Stop It

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 20:18:00 -0400

I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You’ll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting?

02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering

05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame

07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness

10:04 - How to name and address the behavior

13:42 - Tools for shared accountability

15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness

17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness

***

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Self Worth

Men's Work Session - Why Men Push Love Away

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with my guest to explore the pain that shaped his relationships, especially the deep wound left by his father. Together, we uncover how childhood neglect and emotional distance can carry into adulthood, shaping how men love, trust, and show up. You’ll hear the raw, unfiltered process of reconnection, forgiveness, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we’ve hidden for too long.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The struggle to connect in relationships

03:00 - Unpacking the father wound

06:00 - Facing hidden grief and sadness

10:00 - Speaking truth to his father

17:00 - Releasing anger and old pain

21:00 - Becoming the father he needed

29:00 - What he hides in love

33:00 - Healing the relationship with his dad

35:00 - Embracing the inner child

41:00 - Learning to express and reconnect

***

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Self Worth

This One Thing Is KILLING Modern Relationships

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 10:09:00 -0400

I break down one of the biggest imbalances destroying modern relationships — the lack of reciprocity in expectations between men and women. I talk about how men are often taught to meet every expectation a woman has, but rarely to define their own standards. I’ll share how this dynamic leads to resentment, imbalance, and frustration, and what men can do to restore integrity, respect, and balance in their relationships.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – The core imbalance in modern relationships

00:57 – What women are taught vs. what men are taught

02:44 – The cost of overgiving and having no standards

06:17 – Bringing your own expectations into relationships

09:13 – The moving target of expectations

10:40 – Restoring balance and reciprocity

12:22 – Knowing your value and defining your standards

14:11 – Communicating expectations and setting boundaries

16:55 – Don’t reward disrespect

18:50 – Expect deeply, love generously

***

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Self Worth

Becoming the Father You Needed with Glen Henry

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Glen Henry, creator of Belief in Fatherhood and author of Father Yourself First, to talk about the real work of becoming a better man and father. We dive into the challenges modern dads face—balancing ambition, healing our own wounds, and showing up with patience and presence.

Glen shares raw insights on building relational equity, repairing trust, and learning to father yourself before fathering others. This one’s a heartfelt and honest look at fatherhood that every man needs to hear.

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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – The biggest challenges fathers face

02:40 – The crisis of absent fathers

05:00 – Mentorship and the power of guides

08:20 – Storytelling and fatherhood in Black culture

12:00 – Entering fatherhood with fear and purpose

17:20 – Accepting your child’s invitations

22:00 – Learning patience and self-compassion

28:40 – Healing, failure, and forgiveness

31:40 – What it means to father yourself

38:20 – The power of proof and mentorship

43:30 – Adventure, play, and connection

49:10 – Managing ambition and presence

56:40 – Rebuilding trust with your kids

01:00:25 – Understanding relational equity

01:02:20 – Glen’s message for fathers everywhere

***

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Desexualize Your Brain And Regain Control (In 30 Days)

Thu, 30 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I dive into how to desexualize your brain and regain control of your impulses in just 30 days. I break down the neuroscience of cravings, why willpower alone doesn’t work, and how to rewire your brain to stop falling into old patterns. I also share a practical five-step plan that you can follow to take back control of your urges and direct your energy where it matters most. This isn’t about shame—it’s about building trust, self-respect, and leadership within yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Why impulse control matters

01:47 – You’re not weak, just conditioned

02:57 – How porn rewires your brain

07:42 – The 3 forces behind urges

12:22 – Step 1: Identify your triggers

14:33 – Step 2: Redesign your environment

16:44 – Step 3: Urge surfing

19:38 – Step 4: Implement intentions

21:03 – Step 5: Build your dopamine menu

24:00 – Closing thoughts

***

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Self Worth

Healthy Anger, Toxic Rage with John Lee

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with John Lee to unpack the critical difference between anger and rage. John shares his decades of experience helping men and women understand how rage can destroy connection, while healthy anger can build intimacy and trust.

We explore the generational cycles of rage, how it gets passed down to children, and what it takes to break free. If you’ve ever struggled with anger or felt trapped in rage, this conversation will hit home.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:10 – Welcome back, John Lee

00:37 – Anger vs Rage

02:11 – Why Rage Never Resolves

04:24 – Rage Is Contagious

06:29 – The Illusion of Control

08:04 – Enragers and Outragers

11:38 – Fathers, Sons, and Rage

13:50 – No Models for Healthy Anger

16:08 – Anger as Sacred Energy

20:08 – Rage Equals Pain for Children

23:19 – Facing Personal Rage

24:24 – Four Styles of Rage

27:11 – Where Healing Begins

30:30 – Sobriety and Rage

32:57 – Why Men Resist Rage Work

36:59 – Reconnecting to the Body

41:13 – Why Rage Work Isn’t Filmed

44:06 – Gentle Practices to Reduce Rage

48:58 – Expressing Anger Appropriately

52:37 – Boundaries Around Rage

53:45 – Closing Thoughts

***

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Self Worth

Lessons On Building Self-Worth

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I explore what it truly means to build self-worth as a man in a world that often tells us we’re not enough. Drawing from Nietzsche’s philosophy, I unpack how struggle, suffering, and the act of becoming shape our sense of value. This isn’t about chasing external validation or perfection - it’s about forging yourself into someone you respect. Join me as I share personal insights, lessons from fatherhood, and why facing life’s fire might be the path to authentic self-worth.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The age of hollow men

01:19 - Nietzsche and the bridge of becoming

03:36 - Do it scared

05:23 - The forge of suffering

08:31 - Will to power and masculine expansion

11:37 - Building ManTalks and facing judgment

12:19 - The enemies of self-worth

16:04 - The act of becoming

19:25 - Living dangerously and becoming whole

***

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Why Relationships Can’t Be 50/50 with Monica Yates

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Monica Yates for a raw and honest conversation about modern relationships, polarity, and the evolving dynamics between men and women. We dive into why true intimacy isn’t about splitting everything 50/50, why safety matters more than equality in relationships, and how both men and women can better understand their roles without falling into resentment.

This one will challenge assumptions, spark debate, and hopefully leave you with some clarity about love, respect, and partnership.

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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Opening thoughts

09:00 – Men losing purpose in modern culture

12:00 – Breadwinners and shifting expectations

31:00 – Bathrooms, chivalry, and respect

42:00 – Safety over equality in relationships

46:00 – Roles, polarity, and fulfillment

53:00 – Masculinity, emotions, and balance

01:05:00 – Leadership, attraction, and standing firm

***

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Self Worth

A Jungian Guide To Healing The Father Wound

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 10:45:00 -0400

I take you on a deep dive into the Father Wound through a Jungian lens. I explore how your relationship with your father shapes your identity, sense of worth, and connection to the masculine. You’ll learn how this wound shows up in perfectionism, rebellion, or emotional distance—and discover five practical steps to begin healing and “fathering yourself.” This conversation is about reclaiming inner authority, developing discipline, and embodying a mature, grounded masculinity.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:01 - Introduction & Overview

02:16 - Defining the Father Wound

07:07 - The Father Archetype & Order

10:06 - How the Wound Shows Up in Men

15:01 - The Impact on Relationships

17:00 - The Unlived Life of the Father

19:28 - The Five Healing Steps

26:15 - Rituals & Emotional Integration

27:40 - Closing Reflections

***

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Self Worth

Why Weddings Have Lost Their Meaning with Stephen Jenkinson

Mon, 13 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down once again with Stephen Jenkinson to explore his latest work on matrimony, ritual, and the mothering of culture. We talk about how weddings have lost much of their meaning, what it means to return to vows with real weight, and how ritual can nourish not just a couple but an entire community.

Stephen shares how he reconstructs ceremony from broken shards of tradition and why it matters now more than ever.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

01:19 - Matrimony vs. Marriage

06:10 - The Mothering of Culture

13:32 - Rituals, Ceremony & Lost Meaning

25:52 - Blessing and Vows

45:55 - Creating Old Order Matrimony

52:34 - Reimagining the Wedding Ritual

01:04:38 - Remembering Ritual & Culture

01:08:16 - Closing Thoughts

***

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Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

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Self Worth

Healing Complex Trauma - A Man's Guide

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I break down what complex trauma really is - and how it quietly shapes the way many men think, love, and connect. I share the difference between acute trauma and complex trauma, how it’s formed in childhood through neglect or inconsistency, and how these early wounds show up in adult relationships. Most importantly, I give you real, actionable tools to begin healing and reconnecting with your sense of safety and self-worth.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The hidden struggle many men face

02:23 - What complex trauma really means

07:03 - How complex trauma is formed

11:34 - The telltale signs and survival patterns

17:55 - How to start healing complex trauma

20:26 - Building safety in relationships

24:11 - Learning to regulate your nervous system

27:23 - Final thoughts and Carl Jung’s reminder

***

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What A Sexless Marriage REALLY Does To A Man (And How To Resolve It)

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I dive deep into what really happens to men in a sexless marriage — emotionally, psychologically, and biologically. I break down why rejection cuts so deeply, how it impacts a man’s confidence and identity, and what couples can do to rebuild trust, safety, and intimacy.

Whether you’re in a relationship that’s lost its spark or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation offers a roadmap back to connection.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Why a sexless marriage hurts men

02:53 – Rejection and the male nervous system

05:25 – Hormonal and emotional fallout

10:32 – When sex becomes a bargaining chip

13:15 – Resentment and emotional withdrawal

17:03 – How to start rebuilding intimacy

22:54 – Practical steps for reconnection

28:29 – Co-creating a new vision for your sex life

31:06 – Final reflections and takeaways

***

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Self Worth

How To Develop Unshakable Self-Worth - The hidden Connection Between Attachment and Confidence

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I explore the real roots of self-worth and why so many of us struggle with it despite doing “all the right things.” I share how childhood experiences shape attachment and how that impacts our ability to value ourselves as adults. I also break down the crucial practices that build self-worth — from expressing needs and boundaries to taking healthy risks.

Finally, I open up about my own journey of failing my way to success and how you can begin your own process of healing.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – What really damages self-worth

02:29 – Attachment and early development

07:23 – Childhood shame and adult struggles

11:41 – Hostility to needs and boundaries

15:23 – Expressing desires and boundaries

18:58 – The risks of lacking self-worth

23:24 – Doing hard things builds value

25:05 – ManTalks Alliance invitation

***

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Self Worth

3 Dark Leadership Traits You Need (But Don’t Want to Admit)

Mon, 29 Sep 2025 10:30:00 -0400

I dive into the three “dark traits” that every great leader throughout history has had to master. From unpredictability to high stress tolerance to a lack of empathy, these qualities can make or break your leadership in relationships, business, and self-mastery. I unpack how to wield them without being consumed by them, drawing from history, psychology, and personal experience.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Why great leaders need dark traits

02:05 – Trait #1: Unpredictability

10:20 – Trait #2: High Stress Tolerance

18:15 – Trait #3: Lack of Empathy

27:48 – Integrating the dark traits

29:08 – Carl Jung on wrestling with the shadow

***

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Self Worth

Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships- Anxious Attachment Trap

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.

You’ll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, and start building safety and stability in your relationships.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Understanding anxious attachment

02:44 - Why it’s not your fault

03:57 - Common red flags and behaviors

05:54 - Pre-breakup anxiety explained

07:04 - Why you attract avoidant partners

10:16 - Breaking the cycle of anxiety

12:50 - How to communicate anxiety without pushing partners away

16:45 - Expressing your needs clearly

17:59 - Self-soothing strategies for anxious attachment

20:29 - Building security in your relationship

***

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The Rise of Misanthropy - Why Do So Many People Hate Each Other?

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I explore the rise of misanthropy and why so many people seem to be losing faith in humanity. I unpack how social media, economics, and cultural conflicts fuel this growing sense of distrust and despair. I also share why I believe practicing a radical faith in humanity is not only possible but necessary. Join me as I challenge the narratives of fear and invite you to see a different way forward.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Introduction: What is misanthropy?

00:58 – Social media and amplified othering

03:38 – Economics and generational insecurity

04:47 – Gender conflict and family strain

11:20 – The idea of “Virtuous Misanthropy”

16:49 – Catastrophic thinking and the future

22:35 – Radical faith in humanity

23:38 – Closing thoughts and invitation

***

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The Psychology Of The Man Child - Carl Jung and the Puer Aeternus

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I dive into Carl Jung’s concept of the Puer Aeternus—the eternal child, or what we might call the “man-child.” I explore how this archetype shows up in our lives through procrastination, fantasy, and avoidance of responsibility. I share myths like Icarus and Peter Pan, the shadow side of this archetype, and practical steps to move from the eternal boy to the integrated man.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:01 – The Puer Aeternus: Eternal Child

02:42 – Fixation on Youth vs. Responsibility

04:12 – The Provisional Life

07:01 – Myth of Icarus

08:12 – Peter Pan and Neverland

10:33 – The Seduction of Youth

13:24 – The Shadow Side

16:34 – Step 1: Accept Limitations

18:47 – Step 2: Embrace the Ordinary

20:14 – Step 3: Facing Failure

21:50 – Step 4: Commit to the Process

23:29 – Step 5: Seek a Mentor

25:28 – From Eternal Boy to Integrated Man

26:21 – Brutal Honesty and Feedback

27:43 – Closing Thoughts

***

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Self Worth

Healing Childhood Wounds in Marriage - Men's Work Session

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I sit down with Sandy to explore how childhood experiences and family dynamics shaped the way he shows up in his marriage and new role as a father. We dive into themes of complex trauma, feeling alone, and learning how to connect in the moment rather than after the fact. Together, we work through practical exercises on presence, nervous system awareness, and building safety in relationships. This is a raw, vulnerable dialogue about healing, fatherhood, and not carrying old patterns into the future.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Introduction

00:37 – Childhood patterns and family role

04:07 – Struggles in marriage and fatherhood

07:34 – Feeling unseen as a boy

11:17 – Working through tension in the body

15:51 – “I’m not alone anymore”

23:58 – Understanding complex trauma

31:08 – Daily connection practice with partner

36:50 – Breaking the freeze cycle

42:05 – Learning from fatherhood

44:30 – Closing reflections

***

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Are Men Actually Intimidated By Women

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 08:40:00 -0400

Today, I discuss the common belief that men are intimidated by successful women. We explore where this narrative comes from, why it persists, and what’s really going on beneath the surface. Instead of intimidation, attraction often breaks down when certain traits and behaviors enter the relationship dynamic. Tune in for an honest look at success, gender roles, and what makes relationships thrive or fail.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Are men really intimidated by women?

01:04 – The origins of this narrative

01:58 – Success vs. attraction in relationships

03:52 – Clarifying the message about women’s accomplishments

04:38 – What men actually get frustrated with

06:59 – Influence, power, and attraction dynamics

07:42 – Traits that push men away

08:32 – Why “intimidation” isn’t the real issue

10:14 – Relationship struggles with role balance

11:00 – Closing thoughts and reflections

***

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Facing The Trickster Archetype – Chaos, Sabotage, and the Shadow Within

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I dive into the archetype of the Trickster—the part of us that thrives on chaos, sabotage, and disruption, yet also carries the medicine of transformation.

I explore how the Trickster shows up in mythology, film, and our daily lives, and why learning to embrace him can free us from stagnancy. You’ll discover how to build a relationship with this shadow energy and use it as a source of creativity, humor, and growth.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:01 – Introduction to the Trickster Archetype

02:38 – The Joker as Chaos Embodied

03:47 – Loki, Hermes, and Bugs Bunny

05:29 – Chaos as Medicine

07:29 – The Trickster Breaks Taboos

10:16 – Growth Through Disruption

12:02 – The Trickster in Religion and Myth

14:08 – Denying vs. Embracing the Trickster

16:54 – Trickster Heroes: Iron Man and Jim Carrey

19:21 – Recognizing the Trickster Within

21:44 – Confronting the Inner Saboteur

23:40 – Why We Need the Trickster Today

25:08 – Closing Reflections

***

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Why Quitting Weed is Hard (And A Proven Place To Quit For Good)

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I break down why quitting weed is so damn hard and the science behind it. From brain rewiring and withdrawal to the skyrocketing potency of today’s cannabis, I explain the real reasons people struggle. I also share a proven step-by-step strategy to help you prepare, manage cravings, and quit for good. If you’ve tried before and slipped back, this roadmap is for you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Why quitting weed is hard

01:09 – Reason #1: Brain rewiring

05:02 – Reason #2: Withdrawal is real

06:58 – Reason #3: Potency of modern weed

10:25 – Reason #4: New side effects

12:42 – Reason #5: Social acceptance & access

13:45 – Stage 1: Prepare & track usage

16:56 – Stage 2: Managing withdrawal

22:13 – Stage 3: Therapy & nervous system support

24:38 – Step 4: Reward progress

27:16 – Medical support options

28:22 – Final thoughts & accountability

***

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The Labors of Hercules: Ancient Lessons for Today’s Men

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Connor sits down with storyteller Jameson Olsen to dive into the myth of Hercules and uncover its relevance for modern men. From the legendary labors to the tragedy that shaped his journey, Jameson unpacks how these ancient myths reflect the struggles of responsibility, temptation, betrayal, and redemption men face today.

They explore the crossroads between vice and virtue, the weight of personal choices, and the timeless lessons hidden in myth. This conversation challenges men to confront their own trials, learn from archetypal stories, and find meaning in bearing the burden of life’s hardships.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

00:36 - Retelling ancient stories for modern times

02:57 - The trials of Hercules and lessons for men

04:52 - The Choice of Hercules: virtue vs. vice

08:15 - Modern vices and distractions

13:13 - Hercules’ origins and fatherless upbringing

15:43 - Tragedy: Hera’s curse and the loss of family

20:25 - Redemption through the labors

22:57 - The Nemean Lion: confronting the impossible

29:27 - The Hydra: breaking destructive patterns

40:16 - Cleaning the Augean stables

44:40 - The mares of Diomedes: consequences of carelessness

48:42 - Hippolyta’s belt and the gender divide

54:07 - Bearing the heavy burden of disaster

58:22 - Redemption, atonement, and moving forward

01:03:20 - Using stories as mirrors for personal growth

01:06:05 - Where to find Jameson Olsen

***

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Why Most Men Are Invisible to Women (And How to Fix It)

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 12:00:00 -0400

I dive into why many men feel invisible to women in the dating world and relationships, exploring the concept of sexual marketplace value. I break down the reasons behind this invisibility and share practical steps to stand out, from auditing your personal presentation to building a strong social network. Join me as I discuss how focusing on self-improvement naturally boosts your attractiveness and visibility to women.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction to Male Invisibility

00:52 - Understanding Sexual Marketplace Value

03:11 - Why Most Men Are Invisible

04:43 - The Choice Paradox in Dating

05:32 - The Storefront Analogy

07:23 - Importance of Presentation

09:20 - Value Dynamics for Men and Women

11:44 - Social Networks and Social Skills

13:12 - Actionable Steps to Stand Out

14:41 - Building Scarcity in Interactions

16:38 - Investing in Long-Term Assets

19:17 - Improving Physical Presence

20:38 - Signaling Value, Not Selling

22:09 - Overcoming Mediocrity

***

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Becoming the Authority Within : Men’s Work Session

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Listen to this episode for a raw and powerful conversation about loss, grief, and reclaiming self-trust. Together, we explore how childhood wounds shaped his sense of worth and authority, and what it means to step into becoming the true authority of your own life.

This is a deeply moving dialogue about forgiveness, healing, and learning to finally trust yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Welcome and introduction

00:49 Confronting grief and loss

07:10 Childhood trauma and its impact

14:30 Speaking to his mother

22:50 Reclaiming voice and feelings

29:10 Inner child connection

33:00 Choosing a new authority

36:28 Owning self-worth and power

44:12 Reflections on authority and healing

47:39 Closing thoughts

***

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The Masculinity Modern Men Have Forgotten

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 13:39:00 -0400

I explore the character of Aragorn from The Lord of the Rings as a model of virtuous masculinity. I break down how he embodies the protector, the healer, and the humble king, and what that means for us as men today. Aragorn shows us how strength and gentleness, ambition and humility, can coexist—and why the world needs more of that balance right now.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Introduction

00:27 – The hands of the king

03:13 – The protector king

06:22 – The humility of power

08:24 – Strength with purpose

11:11 – Brotherhood and bonds

13:39 – Magnanimity and greatness

16:55 – Humility at the Black Gate

18:26 – Strong and gentle

19:23 – Redefining greatness

22:04 – Closing thoughts

***

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Facing Shame, Finding Strength & Leadership: Men’s Work Session

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 09:57:00 -0400

I sit down with Roger for a powerful conversation about intimacy, leadership, and the courage it takes to be fully honest in a relationship. We explore how childhood wounds can carry into adult partnerships, and the work it takes to break free from old cycles of shame and avoidance. Roger opens up with deep vulnerability, and together we unpack what it means to step into responsibility and create real connection.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Opening & Welcome

00:52 – Roger’s Relationship Struggles

04:08 – Intimacy & Connection Challenges

07:56 – The Cycle of Avoidance

13:29 – Childhood Roots with Mom

20:05 – Healing the Inner Boy

28:22 – Facing the Partner with Honesty

35:30 – Learning to Be Okay with Disappointment

42:35 – Separating Self from Validation

47:29 – Commitments for Change

52:19 – Micro Moments of Leadership

53:18 – Closing Reflections

***

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Why Your Shadow Self Keeps Destroying Your Love Life (Jungian Philosophy)

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0400

I dive into how your shadow self might be quietly sabotaging your love life — and what you can do about it. Drawing from Jungian philosophy, I explore why we’re drawn to partners who embody the very traits we’ve disowned in ourselves. I share practical ways to spot your shadow at work in your relationship and how to begin integrating it for deeper connection and intimacy.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Welcome & Jung’s insight on fate

00:50 Your shadow’s hidden intelligence

02:37 What is the shadow?

04:20 How to know when your shadow is active

07:13 The nice guy/people pleaser dynamic

09:18 Nature abhors a vacuum in relationships

11:57 Relationships as mirrors for self-reclamation

14:17 Steps to integrate your shadow

15:19 Closing thoughts & final Jung quote

***

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The Collapse of Social Cognition with Anthony Rispo

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 09:45:00 -0400

I sit down with Anthony Rispo to dive deep into social cognition, human behavior, and the cultural shifts affecting men and women today. We explore how disagreements can fracture relationships, the erosion of nuance in public discourse, and the role social media plays in polarizing people.

Anthony also shares his insights on gender dynamics, the state of therapy for men, and the growing narrative around being “better off alone.” This is a thought-provoking conversation that isn’t afraid to push into complex and sometimes controversial territory.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 – Anthony’s background and journey into psychology

04:20 – Research interests and social cognition explained

08:51 – The impact of disagreement on relationships

14:14 – Political polarization and identity formation

26:09 – Gender differences and dating dynamics

29:09 – The brain’s role in social cognition

38:39 – Therapy, masculinity, and practical approaches for men

49:23 – Dark traits, therapy, and ideology

53:49 – Being alone and cultural narratives

57:52 – Consequences of rejecting traditional structures

01:04:35 – Anthony’s personal story and standing against groupthink

***

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Self Worth

Dealing With An Avoidant's Silent Treatment - What To Do

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 09:45:00 -0400

I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way.

As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you’re trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment

01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away

03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset

05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence

08:23 The Emotional Impact on You

10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself

11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively

13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements

17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward

***

Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

How You're Sabotaging Your Own Masculine Energy

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 09:45:00 -0400

I dive into the modern traps that disconnect men from their masculine core, like the "nice guy" culture and procrastination, which drain your inner fire. I share practical steps to rebuild momentum through small, daily habits, helping you reclaim your strength and direction without relying on motivation.

Join me as I explore how to balance empathy with assertiveness and take action toward your goals.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

(00:00) - Introduction: Feeling Disconnected

(01:04) - The Nice Guy Trap

(02:46) - Conflict Avoidance and Inner Fire

(03:46) - The Procrastination Paradox

(06:41) - Building Momentum

(07:47) - Daily Habits for Masculine Energy

(09:31) - Finding the Middle Ground

(10:48) - Call to Action

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

She Doesn't Want Your Vulnerability, She Wants This

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships

So many men fall into a very specific (and usually confusing) trap. They're asked to "be more vulnerable", they go way too far with it, and it ends up pushing the partner into the mother/caregiver/therapist role way too often.

I've talked about this before, but let's go deeper. Here's how to interpret what's actually being asked of you.

(00:00:00) - What a woman does NOT mean, and one of the paradoxes of dating

(00:07:48) - What does she want, really?

(00:09:01) - What can’t be filled by romance—and what it actually takes

(00:12:14) - Don’t project spiritual meaning onto sexual instinct

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

7 Masculine Principles Most Men Have Forgotten

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 12:36:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture

Much like open pit mining, our culture has ravaged certain aspects of maturity and masculinity—and it's getting harder to remember what used to be the core components. Here are the most important principles I think most of us have forgotten to implement in our lives.

I'd also love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram or if you're listening to this on Spotify, drop a comment!

(00:00:00) - Learn to love and embrace the unknown

(00:04:45) - Embrace discomfort

(00:08:10) - Take responsibility and ownership almost to a degree that feels uncomfortable

(00:10:04) - Build a brotherhood and honor your people

(00:12:19) - Have dominion over your impulses

(00:16:04) - Become emotionally sovereign

(00:18:52) - Honor the feminine without resentment. Or pedestaling

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

A Message For Men Ready To Give Up

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0400

I was asked recently what I'd say to men who've been thinking about giving up. Who are at the end of their rope. Not an easy topic, and I don't have a magic bullet or tactical steps for you this time.

But I do have a gentle reminder.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and choice

(00:07:42) - On suffering and gauging what you can truly change

(00:15:31) - The risk of convincing

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Men's Work Session - Reckoning With Past Abscence And Anger

Mon, 21 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: parents, anger, unavailability

My guest this week came to work on how can't see any path other than "it's all on me", as well as a feeling of emotional distance from his father. But why? What's hidden in the shadow that connects the two?

This is an excellent episode to get a feel for the work in action—and how we so easily bury certain parts of ourselves and others in the unconscious.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what my guest is struggling with, and his family situation

(00:10:30) - How my guest’s teenage self felt in the moment

(00:19:16) - What’s really going on

(00:27:01) - What my guest has realized

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

The Key To Peak Performance

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, nervous system

There's good, there's great, and then there's real mastery. I've had the privilege of working and talking with many extraordinary men. Masters of their craft. There's something that all of them do well—and it's what separates the great from the exceptional. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:05:51) - What separates good from great, and great from exceptional

(00:10:35) - The best part, and the crucial part

(00:14:25) - The importance of slowness

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Tim Fletcher - Healing From Complex Trauma

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma

This week, I sit down with Tim Fletcher to explore the deep and often misunderstood world of complex trauma. We unpack how subtle childhood experiences like emotional neglect or identity suppression can shape our nervous systems, relationships, and sense of self for decades.

Tim breaks down the science and psychology behind trauma and its complexity, and offers insights into how healing actually happens. If you've ever struggled with anxiety, emotional reactivity, or feeling disconnected, this one is for you.

(00:00:00) – Introduction to Tim Fletcher and What Is Complex Trauma?

(00:06:20) – Subtle Forms of Childhood Trauma

(00:12:00) – Simple vs. Complex Trauma

(00:19:20) – Adult Symptoms of Complex Trauma

(00:28:10) – How Trauma Shapes the Brain

(00:37:50) – Recovery and Co-regulation

(00:54:00) – Presence, Addiction, and Connection

Tim Fletcher started helping people as a pastor over 30 years ago. When he experienced some significant personal trauma, he transitioned into the addiction treatment sector. Over the last 15 years through countless hours of counselling sessions, training in the various treatment programs and building on the research of Gabor Mate, he started to correlate the connection between Complex Trauma and life problems. Tim was guided by statistics that over 90% of people with addiction challenges suffer from Complex Trauma. Tim is becoming widely-known across the globe and is sought after for counselling, teaching, training, and seminars. Thousands tune in each week to watch his Friday Night Videos.

Connect with Tim

-Website: https://www.timfletcher.ca/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher

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Self Worth

Why You're Anxious And Distracted—And What To Do

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, attention, mindset

What if the jitters aren't just from the extra coffee this morning? What if you're taking in too much info, courtesy of the never-ending scroll? There's something underneath it all, team, and building resiliency against that can be an absolute game changer. Here's how.

(00:00:00) - What’s underneath all anxiety, and what it does

(00:03:01) - Why this is relevant to men

(00:06:38) - The Cheesecake Factory Effect

(00:09:15) - So what do you do, and what real freedom involves

(00:15:33) - Do it scared, and do it to completion (with a caveat)

(00:19:43) - Find the joy in the process, NOT the outcome

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Stan Tatkin - You Won't Get A Secure Relationship Without Secure Agreements

Mon, 07 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: relationship, attachment, culture

I love Stan because he's able to cut through so much of the modern BS around relationships, and get straight to practical, tactical perspectives and advice. We covered a TON of ground here, from the importance of social contracts and mutual protection, to the need for shared vision and purpose in creating equitable and collaborative relationships.

This is definitely a convo that will spark some discussion, so listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the nature of secure functioning

(00:05:52) - Human Nature and Relationship Dynamics

(00:10:01) - Impact of Technology on Relationships

(00:23:35) - Creating Secure Functioning Relationships

(00:35:06) - Predictability and Prevention in Relationships

(00:36:51) - The Importance of Quick Repair

(00:43:02) - Mutual Protection and Solidarity

(00:47:20) - Compatibility and Relationship Agreements

(00:51:59) - The Role of Attachment in Relationships

(01:00:42) - Final Thoughts and Practical Advice

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a renowned expert in human behaviour and couple relationships, known for developing the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He is a global speaker and teacher on secure-functioning relationships, with his insights reaching over 1.7 million viewers through his TEDx talk. Stan has authored six bestselling books, translated into multiple languages, and has published numerous academic articles.

In 2010, Stan co-founded the PACT Institute with his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, to train therapists in integrating psychobiological approaches into their practices. His work has earned him the Educator of the Year award from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA in 2014.

Stan leads couples in creating healthy attachments through his clinical practice in Calabasas, California, and Wired For Love Couple Retreats. He has held academic positions at UCLA and serves on the boards of Lifespan Learning Institute and Relationships First. A former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter, Stan is trained in various psychotherapeutic techniques, including Adult Attachment, Facial Action Coding System, and Vipassana meditation.

Connect with Dr. Tatkin

-Website: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Why Men Cheat

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, infidelity

Not the happiest of talking points today, team, but it's always worth discussing. There's no universal reason for it, but from my own experience and years of working with men, I've seen some common themes. Here's a quick breakdown of the top reasons, plus the underlying motivation for almost every man that's knocked on my door.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the underlying motivation for a majority of men

(00:03:40) - Reasons that fall into this category

(00:10:53) - One of the main drivers for my own infidelity, and how attachment styles can play into it

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Dr. John Oliffe - The True (And Troubling) Face Of Men's Health

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: mental health, masculinity, culture

When Movember reaches out, you answer the call. I'm grateful to have interviewed Professor John Oliffe on a recent report co-authored by him—and spearheaded by the Movember Institute for Men's Health. Some of the stats they've released left me a little surprised; like 2 in 5 men in Canada die prematurely, and from largely preventable casues. Listen to this one, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the premature mortality of men

(00:10:29) - On co-constructed masculinity, and how modern complexity affects how we perceive manhood

(00:16:26) - On “protest masculinity”, and what’s causing men to die early?

(00:22:34) - Depression, suicide, and getting upstream of the risk factors

(00:32:120) - Why hiding what you’re going through so common, and why some men dismiss the healthcare system

(00:40:06) - What Dr. Oliffe would say to the man reluctant to see a therapist

(00:44:49) - The changes and diversity of modern masculinity

Dr. John Oliffe is a Professor and Tier 1 Canada Research Chair in Men’s Health Promotion at the School of Nursing, University of British Columbia. Founder and lead investigator of UBC’s Men’s Health Research program, his work focuses on masculinities as it influences men’s health behaviours and illness management, and its impact on partners, families, and overall life quality. Findings drawn from his research offer guidance to clinicians and researchers to advance men’s health promotion in the areas of psychosocial prostate cancer care, smoking cessation and male suicide prevention.

For those of you in Vancouver, check out the formal launch of John and Movember's work here: https://nursing.ubc.ca/community/events/2025/launch-real-face-of-mens-health-report

Connect with Dr. Oliffe

-Website: www.menshealthresearch.ubc.ca

-LinkedIn: http://ca.linkedin.com/in/johnoliffe

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Why Modern Relationships Are Failing

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, culture

This might bother some of you, but I think it needs discussing, because I get it all the time in comments, emails, and DMs: serious disappointment and frustration with dating. From men and women both. There are a lot of reasons for this, both surface-level and deeper, but here's what I'm seeing the most.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:05:04) - What we’re not actually teaching young men

(00:08:14) - Where do we go from here?

(00:11:04) - A gap I see in most relationships

(00:13:37) - Have the conversation

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Facing The Mirror: Dealing With Your Shadow In Relationship

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, the shadow, psychology

Every man casts a shadow, regardless of how much of "the work" he's done. But whether or not you let it negatively impact your relationships is up to you. Listen in for what shadow work actually means for your relationships, and straightforward advice on how to get started.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconception about shadow work

(00:03:57) - How the shadow can manifest in a relationship

(00:08:40) - But WHY does this happen?

(00:12:12) - Tips for shadow awareness in your relationship

(00:18:19) - Last but not least: accountability, and what integration means

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Building Confidence And Self Worth: Lessons From King Arthur

Thu, 19 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: myth, psychology, purpose

I've loved myths and legends since I was a kid. As a man, that love has only grown because they can serve up powerful, meaningful guidance. So this week, we're digging into what Arthur, Excalibur, and the Holy Grail teach about the journey of the mature masculine.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:02:38) - Boyhood, coming of age, and crossing the thresholds of manhood

(00:07:45) - The symbol and importance of Excalibur

(00:16:04) - The sword in the stone CAN’T be pulled by might

(00:18:33) - The meaning of pursuing the “holy grail”

(00:22:36) - Purpose and ego don’t usually mix

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Men's Work Session - A Man's Missing Keystone, A Father's Self-Indulgence

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: inner child, fatherhood, abandonment, the shadow

Fair warning, there's a lot of F-bombs in this one. We've kept them in because I want people to get a sense of how deep a father wound can go. My guest has struggled with a kind of dualistic life. One day, he's crushing it and confident. The next, he feels uncertain and lost.

This is a heavy one, team, but absolutely worth checking out.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

The Father Wound - How To Become The Man You're Meant To Be

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: fatherhood, psychology, mindset

A while back, I put up an episode on the mother wound, aka healing your mommy issues. But there's always more to the story. There's also the "father wound", and it can have massive impact on everything from self-worth to relationships to skill at work. Listen in for a serious look at what it is, what creates it, and what to work on.

(00:00:00) - Intro and defining the “father wound”

(00:04:47) - The kinds of fathers/childhoods that create this

(00:13:53) - Symptoms of father wounding, and why they’re important to know

(00:23:52) - Common “archetypes” of fathers that create a father wound

(00:26:40) - So what do you do?

(00:32:09) - On fathering yourself

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Alex Hutchinson - We're Hardwired To Explore—And Risk

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: genetics, culture, psychology, parenting

I'm the kid who's always running to see what's over the next hill, so I'm both grateful and excited to have Alex on the show. His latest book is incredible, and gets to the science of how we're actually happier with a little less predictability in so many parts of our lives. If you're someone whose life feels kind of listless right now, this is YOUR episode.

(00:00:00) - The “explorer gene”, dopamine, and the impact of modern tech on our ability to explore

(00:15:20) - Our relationship with the unknown, and how it messes us up sometimes

(00:25:04) - How the unknown can challenge relationships, and how to navigate that

(00:29:40) - The difference between exploration and exploitation

(00:35:54) - The “free energy principle” and the “effort paradox”

(00:52:52) - Tactical insights on amping up your exploration mindset

Alex Hutchinson is the New York Times bestselling author of Endure, a longtime columnist for Outside covering the science of endurance, and a National Magazine Award–winning journalist who has contributed to the New York Times, The New Yorker, and other publications. A former long-distance runner for the Canadian national team, he holds a master’s in journalism from Columbia and a Ph.D. in physics from Cambridge, and he did his post-doctoral research with the National Security Agency. He lives in Toronto with his family.

Connect with Alex:

-Website: https://www.alexhutchinson.net/

-New book: The Explorer's Gene: https://bit.ly/43JicFr

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sweat_science/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sweatscience

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The Fall Of Men: Why Men Are In Decline

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, psychology, masculinity

I've covered the data behind this multiple times. A lot of men—not just in North America but globally—are struggling. Today I want to spark some dialogue by bringing some attention to what I think are just a few of the underlying reasons.

And I want your thoughts, too. Comment if you're on Spotify, DM me on Instagram. This is worth talking about beyond the usual blame games or "it's always been like this" deflection.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson - Beyond Surface-Level Intimacy

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 10:40:00 -0400

Talking points: sex, relationships, culture

Editor's Note: FYI team, had some audio snafus that we did our best to remedy. Thanks for your understanding! Grateful that Jamie and I sat down to talk all things intimate relationships. From how culture keeps shaping what men and women respond to, desire, and miss out on, to helping both yourself and her feel not just comfortable but welcome. This is a great ep to listen to with a partner, my friends.

(00:00:00) - What most men need to know about women’s desire

(00:05:41) - Helping a woman feel like all of her is welcome

(00:13:58) - Helping a partner who isn’t fully comfortable with themselves

(00:30:18) - For couples that find themselves stuck in monotony or dead bedroom

(00:37:58) - Common challenges women face in the “tragic phase”, and how men can move to support them

(00:44:04) - Become a gardener, not a consumer

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson has developed a holistic body of work to support women, men, and couples with letting go of limiting patterns around sex so they can have a fulfilling intimate life and taste their most exquisite erotic expression. She is a radical contributor to the field of Sex Education and is a pioneer in creating original and lasting solutions for challenges in sex & intimacy. She speaks about sexual transmutation, the spark of erotic life force in all things, sex magic and how creative life force can be channeled into manifesting your truest desires.

Connect with Jamie:

-FREE 'Reset Ritual' before your ‘Sexy Date’ (for women): https://awakenedwoman.life/datenight/

-Website: https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_awakened_woman

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Ending The Anxious/Avoidant Relational Deathtrap

Thu, 29 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychology

If you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attract". Here's how to lower the temperature and move towards something more secure.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what contributes to this dynamic

(00:05:36) - The signs and signals that you’re in the cycle

(00:07:20) - How you break it, step one: figure out how you’re contributing

(00:10:13) - Two: full transparency of where you’re at

(00:12:46) - Three: learn how to lean into yourself OR the relationship

(00:16:24) - The phrase every avoidant needs to know

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Why You Need Male Friends

Mon, 26 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, mental health, friendship

Short but important one, team. I'm sure you've seen the memes that go something like "Is the cure for male loneliness pickleball?" Maybe you've rolled your eyes at them more than once. I have.

Nevertheless, the data is clear, and a lot of men out there are starved of quality friend time. Here's how to change that.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why friendships are so important

(00:02:11) - The challenges, and tips to overcome them

(00:05:05) - The value of reciprocity and shared interests

(00:10:00) - Conflict is a part of it

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Are You Letting Her Bad Behavior Make YOU The Bad Guy?

Thu, 22 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships

Yes, that's a provocative title. Yes, listen to the whole thing. No, this isn't men being mad at women. This is what I've seen time and again, plus what I've been told by multiple women and couples I've worked with, and it's something both parties are responsible for.

(00:00:00) - The factor good men are missing

(00:04:24) - Defining “emotional containment”

(00:08:30) - The big caveat, and an example

So like I said, listen to the whole thing.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Navigating The Two Biggest Attachment Styles

Mon, 19 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology, attachment theory

We've had a LOT of newcomers recently, and I'm getting some great questions around what attachment theory means for men specifically. To that end, I've made you all a compilation; an episode chock-full of info on the two most common styles! One that cuts through the jargon and gives you some things you can work on literally right now.

(00:00:00) - The core of anxious attachment

(00:06:33) - What causes anxious attachment, and how it shows up in a relationship

(00:16:59) - What to do with anxiety, starting with the breath

(00:22:02) - Reclaiming your ability to ground yourself, and exposure therapy

(00:27:13) - The first, most important things to know re: avoidant attachment

(00:31:46) - How avoidant attachment shows up, and where it can come from in childhood

(00:43:54) - How it can show up in a relationship

(00:47:25) - Healing avoidant attachment: six simple tactics

For EVEN MORE info, dig into the Ultimate Guide To Attachment HERE: https://training.mantalks.com/attachment-guide

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

A Man's Guide To Healing The Mother Wound

Thu, 15 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology, masculinity

If you've ever found yourself in strange push-pull dynamics, self-sabotaged relationships, or just feel like you never get it "right" with women, this may be your podcast. I see a lot of men battle their mommy (and daddy) issues instead of healing them. Let's change that.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what a “mother wound” is, and the most common variations

(00:14:22) - How a mother wound shows up, from hypervigilance to underachievement to zero boundaries

(00:21:19) - How do you work through this? Step one: how to build awareness of it

(00:23:56) - Step two: learn how to regulate. Seriously.

(00:25:33) - “Reparenting” the child in you

(00:27:52) - Stop outsourcing your self worth, and learn how to end your projections

A Man's Guide To Self-Worth: https://lnk.to/sRB9v6

How To Lead In Relationship: https://lnk.to/8xv131

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Alex Petkas Returns - Julius Caesar: Model Of Masculinity?

Mon, 12 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: history, psychology, mindset, culture

Like George Santayana said, those who do not learn from the past are condemned to repeat it. There's so much we can learn about ourselves, where we come from, and what needs our attention when we study the past. Grateful for the host of Cost of Glory, Alex Petkas, coming back on the show to lay down some real history, difficult truths, and deep insights on ol' Gaius himself.

(00:00:00) - What the modern man can learn from Julius Caesar

(00:17:52) - The importance of philosophy and poetry to ancient men

(00:23:06) - Why Caesar’s storytelling ability was so important, and how modern men can benefit from being better storytellers

(00:35:51) - The usefulness of old stories and ideas, and the psychological strategies that Caesar used

(00:45:48) - How Caesar handled women

(00:52:12) - Misconceptions of Caesar’s demise and attitude

Alex Petkas is writer, entrepreneur, and founder of The Cost of Glory, a bridge for the virtues of ancient heroes and the modern world’s demands. With a PhD in Classics from Princeton University, Alex has transcended traditional academic boundaries to bring the power of ancient wisdom into contemporary leadership. Recognizing that figures like Plato, Aristotle, Plutarch, and Cato were not just intellectual giants but also formidable leaders and entrepreneurs, he blends their timeless insights with modern leadership needs, offering actionable strategies that resonate with today’s leaders. Alex challenges the modern disregard for classical education, championing its vital role in moral and intellectual development. His mission is to reignite the heroic spark within men, empowering them to tackle contemporary challenges with unmatched courage and clarity.

Connect with Alex

-Website: https://www.costofglory.com/

-The Authoritative Speakers Guide: https://costofglory.kit.com/gift

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexpetkas/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Why You're Failing With Women: 3 Things To Know

Thu, 08 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, mindset

I see so many men struggle with this, without ever knowing why. Part of it's the realities of modern dating, but there's a few things you can do to rise above. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Here’s the situation

(00:04:32) - Stop overfunding the account in an effort to get something

(00:06:51) - Be her best option, but don’t stuff it in her face

(00:10:55) - Re-prioritize your needs and expectations, and do it like this

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Sahil Bloom - Building Wealth, Not Just Dollars

Mon, 05 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: money, success, mindset, finances

Grateful to have the thoughtful and straightforward advice of Sahil Bloom when it comes to wealth—minus the get-rich-quick schemes and "hacks" you see too often on social media. We covered a ton, from financial skill development and a healthy relationship with money, to how you balance that with what really matters.

(00:00:24) - Understanding the Misconceptions of Success

(00:12:34) - The Lottery Mindset and Its Pitfalls

(00:21:32) - Developing Skills for Financial Success

(00:26:04) - The Value of Deep Thinking, Writing, And Conversation

(00:30:10) - Understanding Antigoals And "Time Wealth"

(00:42:22) - Balacing Risk And Wealth

Sahil Bloom is an inspirational writer and content creator, captivating millions of people every week through his insights and bi-weekly newsletter, ‘The Curiosity Chronicle’. Sahil is a successful entrepreneur, owner of SRB Holdings, and the managing partner of SRB Ventures, an early-stage investment fund. Sahil graduated from Stanford University with an MA in public policy and a BA in economics and sociology. He was a four-year member on the Stanford Baseball Team.

Connect with Sahil

-Website: https://www.sahilbloom.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sahilbloom/

-Book: The 5 Types Of Wealth: https://www.the5typesofwealth.com/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

A Man's Guide To Leading Through Conflict

Thu, 01 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: conflict, relationships

You're going to get into arguments. There will be differences of opinion. But what if those were gateways to something more? Today, the latest in the Man's Guide series.

(00:00:00) - Choose someone you’re willing to conflict with, and be someone she’s willing to conflict with, too.

(00:04:11) - Your nervous system sets the tone.

(00:07:41) - You need rules of engagement.

(00:10:45) - Stop trying to “fix” her emotions.

(00:15:25) - Don’t fall for The Trap. Connect instead.

(00:18:47) - Lead the repair.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

TheTinMen - Men In Crisis: Stereotypes Vs Solutions

Mon, 28 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, isolation, culture, suicide

Look, Netflix's Adolescence was solid. But like anything Hollywood, it's not the whole picture. The big picture is complex, systemic, and deeply uncomfortable—and we seem to have built a culture that simply doesn't want to talk about it meaningfully and practically. I'm grateful for men like George (aka TheTinMen) who work tirelessly to point out how men's issues are important, complicated, and deserving of attention. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and wtf is going on in the UK.

(00:12:28) - How do you actually speak to men's issues, and where the conversation unfortunately goes

(00:21:44) - The collapse of male spaces, and why are struggling men framed as inconvenience?

(00:38:09) - George’s take on increasing levels of loneliness and isolation in men, and possible solutions

(00:44:51) - What people get wrong about male suicide

(00:50:43) - Is it inherently bad/toxic that a man wants to provide for people?

(00:58:51) - Data on how domestic violence and sexual abuse is underreported in men

(00:59:04) - How do you learn what “enough” is, and the psychology of bitcoin

George (@TheTinMen) is a content creator, research, pro-men's advocate and social media influencer. He explores the forgotten gaps of the gender debate, working for compassionate, original, and progressive political advocacy for men and boys.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Connect with TheTinMen

-Website: https://thetinmen.blog/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetinmen/

-Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thetinmen/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheTinMenBlog

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Self Worth

On Porn: How To Quit Relapsing

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, addiction, porn

It's a serious challenge. You're doing well, you think you've broken free—and suddenly you're back. This week, I dig into practical ways you can reinforce and reenergize your commitment. For more helpful info, check out my free guide here: https://training.mantalks.com/Quit

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the first step

(00:04:13) - Get to the bottom of what’s driving the urge

(00:08:56) - Purpose beats porn

(00:11:15) - Redirect AND replace

(00:14:05) - Understand porn as a “pseudo-attachment”

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Morgan Housel - The Art Of Money, Economic Madness, And Building Wealth

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, economics, mindset, debt, Ed Hardy

To maybe understate things, it's a jungle out there right now, financially speaking. I've really enjoyed Morgan's books and perspective, so in early April, I asked him to come on. He shared TONS of insight on tariffs, what's next, how the average person can change their financial straights for the better, even Fartcoin. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - What in the world is going on

(00:09:35) - If it’s about bringing manufacturing back, then will jobs go to workers—or to automation?

(00:16:37) - On tariff misconceptions and myths, and the difference between personal debt and government debt

(00:25:27) - How does the average person weather the storm?

(00:29:49) - How building wealth is behavioral, not intellectual, and the anti-capitalist mindset

(00:38:19) - What to do when you’re struggling to get your finances under control

(00:44:00) - Discovering why you actually want more money, and raising kids with good financial sense

(00:59:04) - How do you learn what “enough” is, and the psychology of bitcoin

Morgan Housel is a partner at The Collaborative Fund. He is a two-time winner of the Best in Business Award from the Society of American Business Editors and Writers, winner of the New York Times Sidney Award, and a two-time finalist for the Gerald Loeb Award for Distinguished Business and Financial Journalism. He lives in Seattle with his wife and two kids.

Connect with Morgan

-Coming in October: The Art of Spending Money: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/741239/the-art-of-spending-money-by-morgan-housel/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganhousel/

-Podcast: https://lnk.to/vDltf2

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How To Lead In A Relationship—Your Next Step

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, leadership

A while back, I launched a video on how men can better lead themselves and their relationships. It got a ton of dialogue, let's just say. Here's what I mean by lead, and three definitive steps to getting it right.

(00:00:00) - Defining what “lead” actually means

(00:04:08) - The first thing to do

(00:07:14) - Stop taking her emotions personally

(00:12:47) - Lead in connection, lead in repair

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Kyle Creek - Regret, Resilience, And Reinvention

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, regret, anger, culture

It's been too long since I sat down with The Captain himself. I am continuously grateful for Kyle's honesty about his own life, his process, and his opinion on things. Which means this conversation is as refreshing as it is frank. Strongly recommend sharing this one, team.

(00:00:00) - Why is regret such a thing, are men conditioned to beat themselves up, and should it impact our decisions?

(00:10:47) - How a recent writing project nearly broke Kyle, and what he learned

(00:18:28) - On Netflix’s “Adolescence”, social media, and male role models

(00:26:24) - How Kyle manages anger

(00:31:38) - On maintaining discipline and motivation for creative or side projects, and what Kyle would’ve done differently

(00:41:41) - Why therapy didn’t work for Kyle

(00:49:38) - Kyle’s new book

As is tradition, I'm share Kyle's unedited bio here because it's...well, it's just fantastic.

"As a kid, I wanted to be a cowboy. Then, my mom bought me a skateboard and I got on with my life. In college, I decided copywriting was the career move for me and, for the last decade, I’ve held a variety of creative positions both in-house and within agency settings. I’ve also published five books, spoken at events around the country, and educated the masses about shark dating as the host of “Shark Sex 101” for Discovery Channel’s ever-popular Shark Week series.

My work has had its share of recognition — but nothing will ever mean as much to me as the “2016 AAF People’s Choice Show Winner” award that I received for tattooing a former employer’s face on my ass as part of a charity auction.

My only regret in life is being just a grammar gunslinger and not an actual cowboy. I don’t even own a horse."

Connect with Kyle

-New book: Speech Therapy: https://m.cmpgn.page/QDc2tx

-Website: https://www.kylecreek.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sgrstk/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Breaking The Anxious Attachment Cycle: 3 Steps To Take

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships, mindset

Anxious attachment can make any relationship feel fraught with tension and threat. It doesn't have to be that way, and there are clear steps you can take that really do get results. Start with these ones.

(00:00:00) - Anxious attachment refresher

(00:04:04) - Priority number one: develop safety internally—and how

(00:09:37) - Number two: recognize false flags

(00:14:10) - Number three: practice calm connection

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Nick Pollard - The Real Cost Of People-Pleasing

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, masculinity, mindset, nice guy syndrome

A bunch of you have reached out requesting an interview with Nick, aka The People Displeaser, and I'm happy to say we finally got the chance to talk. Nick's practical, no-nonsense frame is a breath of fresh air. If you're looking for ways to combat your own people-pleasing tendencies—and some really good reasons why you should—this is the episode for you.

(00:00:00) - Is people-pleasing really that bad, and what creates one

(00:08:39) - How “needs” turned into a form of manipulation, and the nuance of privilege

(00:14:15) - Does people-pleasing show up differently in men and women, and what the true cost is

(00:24:59) - Where does a man start dealing with people-pleasing

(00:38:31) - The importance of rejection, and do women play a role?

(00:48:55) - Nick’s hard truths for introverts

(00:54:22) - What you’re going to face when start putting yourself first

Nick Pollard, aka The People Displeaser, is a world-renowned coach and speaker who specializes in addiction, codependent behavior, and people-pleasing. Overcoming his own struggles—a deeply difficult childhood, his own addictive tendencies, and more—he now works tirelessly to support others wanting to break free. With tens of millions views on his social media channels, Nick has become a thought leader in personal growth and change, and now ranks in the top 10% of coaches worldwide.

Connect with Nick

-Website: https://thepeopledispleaser.com/

-YouTube: www.youtube.com/@peopledispleaser

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepeopledispleaser/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

5 Steps To Stop People Pleasing

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: boundaries, relationships, mindset

The counter-intuitive truth is this: if you're stuck in people-pleasing, you're generally not people-helping. I see a lot of men go through this, and many are unaware of what it really is and where it comes from. This week, straightforward insight and direct steps to breaking free.

(00:00:00) - What the heck is people-pleasing?

(00:03:02) - Two specific origins of people pleasing, and uncovering where it started in your own life

(00:06:18) - The effect of trauma on one’s needs and self-worth

(00:07:34) - The two major challenges of people-pleasing, and how to start breaking out of this

(00:10:39) - Reflecting on tendencies, practicing your No, and prioritizing what you need

(00:14:45) - On boundaries

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Men's Work Session - Healing A Past Full Of Anger

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 09:15:00 -0400

Talking points: anger, trauma, relationships

This is an essential episode for two reasons.

One, it clearly shows how emotions and behaviors get passed down not just in mind but in body. Two, this episode also shows there are men out there doing real work—and they're committed to it; my guest was already familiar with the somatic part of his feelings. If you grew up in a volatile family, this is doubly worth listening to.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

The Psychological Complex So Many Men Struggle With

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: archetypes, psychology, relationships

I genuinely feel this is one of the most important concepts we as men should understand. It affects a lot of us, and it definitely affected me. It definitely fits the word "complex", but it's absolutely something you can work on. So grab a notepad, dig in, and share with any man you think would benefit.

(00:00:00) - Intro, definition, and why knowing about this is useful

(00:08:09) - What causes this split?

(00:21:55) - Rounding up what kind of man is at risk of this, and where to start healing

(00:26:04) - What are you hiding, and what do you reveal

(00:32:16) - Important: have conversations

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Michael Sartain - Moving Beyond The Stereotypes

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, evolutionary psychology, culture

You know it, I know it, and Michael Sartain knows it: there are a LOT of men out there facing extreme difficulty. I wanted to pick Michael’s brain on how to help men understand why this is, but from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, and the boots-on-ground experience of a fellow coach. I appreciate Michael’s ability to follow (and focus) the data without getting lost in reactionary antics. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - How Michael works with men

(00:13:13) - What makes evolutionary psychology such a charged subject?

(00:25:40) - Why risk is important for men

(00:31:36) - Strategies to boost your risk tolerance

(00:39:02) - The difficulty of modern male relationships, and staying neutral

(00:48:42) - Does the unwillingness to take risk impact relationships?

(00:53:23) - On status, Bonnie Blue, and what most don’t get about the “bottom third” of men

Michael Sartain’s journey from a studious kid in Dallas, TX, to a leading expert in high-status networking and masculine self-improvement is nothing short of transformative. He grew up in contrasting environments; a comfortable family life, but a high school marked by gangs and poverty. Michael found refuge in academia, eventually earning a BBA from UT-Austin while nurturing a passion for diverse subjects like physics and psychology. The events of September 11, 2001, ignited his patriotic spirit, propelling him into the US Air Force as a KC135 navigator, rising to the rank of captain. It was here he honed leadership skills and experienced the profound impact of true accountability and integrity.

In 2019, he founded Men Of Action, a coaching community that has transformed the lives of over 2,000 men. Through his podcasts and public appearances, Michael continues to inspire, emphasizing leadership, social dynamics, and personal growth.

Connect with Michael:

-Website: https://www.moamentoring.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelsartain/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/MichaelSartain

-Twitter: https://x.com/michaelsartain

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

A Rise In Avoidant Attached Women?

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships, culture

I recently brought in an attachment specialist for the Alliance because a lot of men are noticing an uptick in women who are emotionally distant, avoid vulnerability, and break it off the second things get serious. There are a ton of ways to look at this, and lots of factors, but I wanted to dig in a bit—and give some insight into what YOU can do if you're dating an avoidant woman.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Men's Work Session - The Depth Of The Anxious/Avoidant Dance

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, marriage, trauma

There’s a lot of attachment content out there. I should know, I make a fair bit myself. But in my work with this week’s anonymous guest, you can see just how complex things can get. My guest is managing the anxious-avoidant dance really well, but processing what causes it is something that requires deeper work. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, handling the anxious/avoidant dance in marriage, and the what it felt like losing a father

(00:11:21) - Who was there for you?

(00:22:52) - The search for peace

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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The Main Trap For An Anxiously Attached Man—And How To Escape It

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 09:09:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, attachment

There's one significant trap a lot of men fall into when they're anxiously attached. Good news? It's manageable—as long as you know where it's coming from. If you or your partner has this attachment style, dig in.

(00:00:00) - Defining the trap, and why it happens

(00:04:29) - What you’re really up against, and the first step in escaping the trap

(00:09:15) - Uncovering where it shows up in your relationship, and taking action

(00:12:09) - Don’t just practice in the relationship, and what causes blacksliding

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Tad Hargrave - How To Date (And Market) Beautifully

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, marketing, relationships

I consider it an achievement to have Tad on the show. He's a soulful and wise person who can cut through the BS quickly—and do it kindly, no less. We sat down to discuss the parallels in ethically presenting your case in both the business and dating realms. You'll be surprised at how similar some aspects are!

(00:00:00) - How is dating an extension of marketing?

(00:13:24) - The meaning of “gauging” a potential partner, and what to look for

(00:19:57) - On sunk cost, grief, people pleasing, and our fear of risk

(00:27:17) - Is there a connection between fear of approach and polarization?

(00:34:43) - How is AI going to change how we market

(00:47:33) - What are the key implementations of ethical marketing?

Tad Hargrave is a hippy who developed a knack for marketing (and then learned to be a hippy again). Since 2001, he has been weaving together strands of ethical marketing, Waldorf School education, a history in the performing arts, local culture making, anti-globalization activism, an interest in his ancestral, traditional cultures, community building and supporting local economies into his work helping people create profitable businesses that are ethically grown while restoring the beauty of the marketplace.

Connect with Tad:

-Website: https://marketingforhippies.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingforhippies/

-Substack: https://tadhargrave.substack.com/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Signs Of Progress & Healthy Relationship With An Avoidant

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships

The way you connect with others really can change for the better, and it's important to know when you're headed in the right direction. If you or your partner has an avoidant attachment style—aka shutdown in conflict, emotional distancing, etc.—this one's for you. Listen in.

Not sure what avoidant attachment is? Check out A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment: https://lnk.to/3anA6L

(00:00:00) - Intro and what you need to understand first

(00:02:25) - Sign number one: more emotional availability

(00:04:41) - Number two: Better conflict navigation

(00:07:01) - Number three: you aren’t debating ending the relationship at the first sign of trouble

(00:08:01) - Number four: a deeper sense of trust

(00:10:08) - Number five: their needs are more clear, AND they’re moving to meet your needs more often

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Jillian Turecki - Love Isn't Enough

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, conflict, love, culture

There aren’t many folks in the wellness space as frank, wise, and empathetic as Jillian, and I always love having her on the show. This time, we sat down to dig into everything relationships, from culture and social media’s effects (read: not always great) to defining lust vs love, and much more. Strongly recommend this one for a couple’s listen.

(00:00:00) - Why are people so disenfranchised with relationships these days, and is there a broader function to relationships that we’re missing?

(00:09:00) - What contributes to self-centeredness is relationships, and how do we combat that?

(00:15:46) - The purpose of uncertainty and the unknown in relationships, and the difference between lust and love

(00:24:34) - On being able to disagree

(00:31:59) - How do people get stuck in “cycles of lust”?

(00:41:29) - What kind of a man do women want, and why can you not convince someone to love you?

(00:50:24) - Why convincing someone to love you is a turn-off

Jillian Turecki is a relationship coach, teacher, podcaster, writer, and speaker who has devoted her life to helping people revolutionize their relationships with themselves. For over 20 years, Jillian has maintained a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, and inner transformation as she follows her insatiable curiosity about what makes relationships thrive.

Between Jillian’s podcast, “Jillian on Love,” her newsletter, “Love Weekly,” and her social media community, Jillian reaches millions of people who seek her actionable, compassionate, direct, and research-driven insight. As the founder of Jillian Turecki Coaching, Jillian has changed the lives of countless individuals around the world through her transformative workshops, courses, retreats, and one-on-one coaching sessions. Her forthcoming book is a groundbreaking look at love, partnership and self-love based on Jillian’s decades of experience and research.

Connect with Jillian

-Website: https://www.jillianturecki.com/

-Book: It Beings With You: https://www.jillianturecki.com/book

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki

-Podcast: Jillian On Love: https://lnk.to/69xLT5

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

45% Of Young Men Have Never Asked Someone Out - Why?

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Talking point: dating, relationships, risk

I recently came across some work by Alexander (aka @DatePsych), where he put together some fascinating data. Turns out 45% of men between 18-25 haven't asked a woman out. Ever. What's the deal? Well, here are two of my theories, and I'd love to hear yours.

Link to the study: https://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Ryan Michler - Brotherhood, Isolation, And Rising Above The Noise

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Talking points: friendship, masculinity,

Ryan Michler and I have been in the men's work biz for a long time, and we've seen the changes—some good, some bad—in how men are talked about and marketed to by our culture and by the wellness and therapy industries. We dig into the necessity of male friendship in the face of growing isolationism, the upcoming Men's Forge, and a whole lot more. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why does it seem like men are having a harder time maintaining relationships?

(00:12:27) - On men needing social time and where modern therapy misses the mark

(00:17:56) - How are men contributing to their own isolation and loneliness?

(00:31:44) - On the importance of some confrontation in male friendships

(00:38:32) - Why men need brotherhood as well as challenge, and what to do if you want deeper friendships with other men

Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has impacted society today. He believes many of the world’s most complicated problems could be solved if men everywhere learned how to be better husbands, fathers, businessmen, and community leaders.

It has now become his life’s mission to help men across the planet step more fully into their roles as protectors, providers, and presiders over themselves, their families, their businesses, and their communities. You can find him blogging and podcasting at Order of Man where he is working to help men become all they were meant to be.

Connect with Ryan

-Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

-Website: https://www.orderofman.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmichler/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ryanmichler

-Book: The Masculinity Manifesto: https://amzn.to/3jJcmiE

-Book: Sovereignty: https://amzn.to/3G6zwqQ

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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How To Develop Self-Worth As A Man

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 11:45:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset

This is something I’ve seen a LOT of men battle, and with no success—and I include myself in that. This week, I want to reframe the idea of self-worth and give you a few insights that will likely change the game for you. Dig in.

(00:00:00) - Reframing self-worth, and why many men struggle with it

(00:04:27) - Reasons why self-worth gets damaged

(00:07:26) - You don’t build it by winning all the time; recognize effort instead. Here’s why it works

(00:12:00) - Release the beast from the basement

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Men's Work Sessions - Four Stories, Four Strengths, Four Struggles

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma, validation, mindset, relationships

Recently, I put out a call on Instagram: who wants to join me for a short, recorded Q&A. We had a TON of respondents, but I wanted to highlight four in particular that I feel are unique, but at the same time offer a window into what so many men endure.

These are everyday men from completely different walks of life, all different ages, but united in a single fact: they’re doing the work. I’m deeply grateful to each of them for agreeing to be on the show.

(00:00:00) - The story of S, six years sober, who struggles with people pleasing and feeling stuck

(00:16:04) - C’s struggle with internal validation and the relationship with his father

(00:35:15) - D’s working on feeling worthy, but his relationships have never felt safe or trustworthy

(00:56:47) - P wrestles with some of the contradictions in the self-help space and past trauma

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Becoming A Man: The Story Of Perseus

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: mythology, masculinity, trauma

Myth isn't just old story. It's also a powerful way to frame the workings of the world, the mind, and everything in between. The story of Perseus is just one example of this, with insights on boyhood vs manhood, facing risk, and much more. Dig in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the first lesson of the Perseus’ story

(00:06:09) - The second lesson

(00:09:36) - Lessons behind Perseus and Medusa

(00:16:09) - How the role of a mother and the initiation into manhood interact

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

David Whyte - On Forgiveness, Fear, And Being Fully Human

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture, gratitude, anger, poetry

I don’t typically get starstruck or awed in interviews, even though I’ve talked to many incredible people. But David? Well, he’s had an immense impact on my life, and so much of my work and way of thinking lives inspired by him. He joined me in Seattle and shared so much wisdom, beauty, and of course, poetry. Dig into this one.

(00:00:00) - What is the “conversational nature of reality”, why the unknown is so uncomfortable, and the fear of “descent”

(00:18:44) - How the need for control kills off meaning and purpose, and how real poetry and philosophy come from NOT knowing what to say

(00:25:53) - David reads “Blessing of the Morning Light”

(00:32:42) - How does a man start building a relationship to the unknown parts of himself, and David’s relationship with his father

(00:44:24) - The role of anger and the power of poetry

(00:56:16) - On forgiveness and male friendship

(01:31:57) - How do you properly thank someone who’s had a profound impact on you?

David Whyte is an internationally renowned poet and author, and a scintillating and moving speaker. Behind these talents lies a very physical attempt to give voice to the wellsprings of human identity, human striving and, most difficult of all, the possibilities for human happiness. He draws from hundreds of memorized poems, his own and those of other beloved poets such as Wordsworth, Emily Dickinson, Keats, Pablo Neruda, Fleur Adcock and the sonnets of Shakespeare. He is the author of ten books of poetry, three books of prose on the transformative nature of work; a widely-acclaimed, best-selling book of essays, and an extensive audio collection.

Connect with David

-Website: https://davidwhyte.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidjwhyte/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PoetDavidWhyte/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@poetdavidwhyte

-SubStack: https://davidwhyte.substack.com/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

Shadow Work For Anxious Attachment

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 10:30:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology, the shadow, attachment theory

Now there's a mouthful of psych words! All jokes aside, a Jungian perspective on attachment theory is a powerful combo. This week, I'm laying out a simple definition for the shadow and anxious attachment, and a straightforward way to begin the work yourself right away. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - A quick primer on anxious attachment and the shadow

(00:05:17) - The first thing you need to figure out, and some common causes of anxious attachment

(00:09:01) - Here’s where you begin exploring

(00:12:40) - What can happen in relationship as you start doing this work, and how to help that

(00:13:55) - A caveat for people with trauma or abuse in their past

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

The Impact Of Demonizing Men

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, masculinity

Broad-brushing things doesn't help us progress. Broad-brushing people is even worse. Young men are facing what feels to them a hostile landscape, and it's causing some serious issues. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - The abusive relationship analogy

(00:05:36) - Porn DOES contribute

(00:08:16) - The new narrative

(00:11:03) - Is there a more positive vision for men and masculinity? And a message to guys who are struggling

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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A Man's Guide To Being Naturally Attractive

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 11:32:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, attraction, relationships

I was surprised at the sheer volume of basic advice there is out there on being a more attractive man. This week, we're going to go a little beyond "hit the gym" and "smoke less". How do you build your attractiveness from the inside out AND stay authentically you? Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Be untameable—somewhat

(00:09:50) - Develop emotional sovereignty

(00:12:11) - Develop direction and discipline

(00:14:14) - Have some non-negotiables. Please.

(00:17:39) - Be unapologetically you. Note: this requires serious work on figuring out who you actually are

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Jason Wilson - Becoming The Man The Moment Demands

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture, race

It's always a highlight of my life speaking with Jason. This man and his tireless work shaping comprehensive, authentic men is nothing short of inspiring. Deeply grateful to have sat down with him to dig into the nuances of his new book (out Jan 28!), the manosphere, Black America, and what modern men miss out on. Listen. To. This.

(00:00:00) - How Jason’s environment shaped his perception of manhood, and the challenges of hypermasculinity

(00:11:02) - Jason’s take on the idea that men need to build value because they don’t have any inherently

(00:17:40) - What do young men find appealing about the manosphere, in spite of the reactivity and misogyny?

(00:23:39) - Why men don’t share their emotions with women, and what Jason wishes more non-Black men knew about growing up in Black America

(00:35:09) - Do men need extreme hardship in order to have self-respect?

(00:42:11) - On Jason’s new book and being a Comprehensive Man

(00:50:25) - What aspect of a comprehensive man is missing the most in modern culture?

Jason Wilson is the director of the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy and bestselling author of Cry Like a Man and Battle Cry. Since 2005, Jason has been mentoring boys and young men, teaching them how to rise above life's inevitable challenges. His impactful work earned him the President's Volunteer Service Award from President Obama, and acclaimed actor Laurence Fishburne executive produced the award-winning ESPN Films documentary about Jason's work, titled The Cave of Adullam. He is a man of the Most High, a faithful husband to Nicole, and a devoted father to Alexis and Jason II.

Connect with Jason

-Website: https://mrjasonwilson.com/

-NEW Book: The Man The Moment Demands: https://mrjasonwilson.com/the-man-the-moment-demands/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjasonowilson

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrjasonowilson/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MrJasonOWilson

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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A Man's Guide To Inner Child Work

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology

You've probably seen this idea floating around social media for a while, and it's a solid framework for healing. But what does it actually mean, how does it work, and is it worthwhile if you're a man? This week, let's talk about what inner child work entails.

(00:00:00) - “What’s hidden in the father is revealed in the son”, and what inner child work actually means

(00:10:10) - The main benefits of this kind of work, and where to start

(00:17:35) - Two useful journaling exercises, and how to “father yourself”

(00:24:23) - Next steps

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Adam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT - Navigating And Healing From Infidelity

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, infidelity, betrayal

The damage from infidelity in a relationship can be complex, traumatic, and last far longer than you might think. What's more, there aren't a lot of men-specific resources out there. Fortunately Adam is changing that. If you or someone you know has experienced infidelity, strongly encourage you to share this one.

(00:00:00) - Why Adam wrote his book, and the stigmas men experience when they’re cheated on

(00:05:13) - How important is it that all parties see the part they may have played, and what NOT to do

(00:15:35) - What leads a woman to have an affair, what to do when you find out, and what happens to a man’s identity when betrayed

(00:26:10) - Navigating jealousy and grief

(00:40:27) - What’s possible in the reconciliation process?

(00:43:53) - On creating safety and repair after betrayal

Adam Nisenson, also known as the Betrayal Shrink, is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. He’s dedicated to helping men navigate the complex emotions and challenges of betrayal trauma. Adam understands firsthand what it’s like to be a betrayed partner, which gives him a unique perspective on how to support clients on their healing journey. He creates a safe and understanding space where clients can explore their feelings and work through their trauma with compassion and wisdom.

Adam graduated from Pacifica Graduate Institute with degrees in Marriage and Family Therapy, Professional Clinical Counseling, and Depth Psychology. He’s committed to addressing important issues like betrayal, infidelity, sex addiction, and the life challenges that come with them. With Adam, the journey isn’t just about recovery; it’s about personal growth and rediscovery.

Connect with Adam

-Book: A Man's Guide To Partner Betrayal: https://www.sanopress.com/books/mgtpb

-Website: https://betrayalshrink.com

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/betrayalshrink

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Dating An Avoidant? Don't Put Up With This

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships

We all have parts of us that are hard to handle. But if you're in a relationship with someone who's got an avoidant attachment style, there's ONE behavior that's tougher than the rest. Here's what it is, and how to handle it.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and “the flip”

(00:03:55) - The real challenge dealing with an avoidant partner

(00:05:52) - So what do you do?

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Anton Nootenboom - Serving Men's Mental Health—One Step At A Time

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture

Honored to have connected with the Barefoot Dutchman himself this week. In case you hadn't heard, Anton Nootenboom recently finished walking over 3100 miles—barefoot—from LA to NYC to support men's mental health. Yes. Barefoot. We dig into the why, the how, and Anton's core philosophies. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and what the mental and emotional strain was like

(00:15:39) - Why Anton wanted to raise awareness for men’s mental health

(00:22:04) - What are men struggling with the most these days, and what needs to change

(00:37:48) - The struggle of shifting perspectives on men’s culpability and responsibility, and what to say to younger guys

(00:44:12) - Why is it important for men to do hard things?

Anton Nootenboom is a military veteran with three tours in Afghanistan. He faced severe mental health challenges afterwards, including depression and suicidal thoughts. He found healing in barefoot walking and speaking out about his experiences. Today, his journey embodies his message: men should feel empowered to seek help and talk about mental health.

The #BraveMenTalk initiative, launched in partnership with Barebarics, emphasizes that one man dies by suicide every minute globally. Anton’s walk aimed to raise critical funds and encourage men to embrace a new type of bravery—one that fights against stigma and opens up pathways for support.

Connect with Anton:

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebarefoot_dutchman/

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@barefootdutchie

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/anton.nootenboom.3

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A Man's Guide To Divorce

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 09:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, marriage

Not an easy topic for anyone, but there ARE things you can do that can help things go more smoothly. Whether you chose it or it got chosen for you, I've laid out what you need to ask yourself and how you should proceed. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the best question to ask yourself first

(00:07:18) - How do you know when it’s time to go, and midlife changes

(00:16:12) - Divorcing in anger, and the first thing I say to men who have decided

(00:20:26) - Get a good lawyer, but YOU should focus on the ethics, and more questions to answer

(00:25:17) - Get support and perspective, and what to do if kids are involved

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Self Worth

A Man's Guide To Disorganized Attachment

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, mindset, psychology

Diving into the deep end for 2025, team. The disorganized attachment style is complex, hard to manage, and my heart goes out to anyone who struggles with this. But over the years of training and study, and working with clients with disorganized attachment, I've found some things that help. Here's your primer, team.

(00:00:00) - Why disorganized attachment is so challenging, what makes it different, and the biggest origin points

(00:09:26) - Digging deeper: how does disorganized attachment get formed?

(00:19:47) - Signs of disorganized attachment as an adult

(00:32:05) - How do you heal this?

(00:43:16) - On the importance of working with your nervous system, and one final piece of advice

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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If You Hate Setting Goals, Do This Instead

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Talking points: new year, goals, mindset

Goals don’t always work, especially when the end result requires a more flexible approach, like having a healthier internal dialogue or more intimacy in your relationship. This week, let’s dig into a different approach: non-linear goal setting.

(00:00:00) - Why step-by-step goals may not work, and how to have an aim

(00:06:07) - Let go of the idea that paint-by-numbers is always the way to go, and embrace experimentation

(00:10:424) - Learn how to read the data from your own body

(00:15:16) - Be honest about what is and isn’t working, and pay attention to the unforeseen

(00:19:50) - Maintain your connection to your aim energetically

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

Self Worth

Best Of ManTalks: 2024

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma, culture, attachment, masculinity

Maybe you’re new (or new-ish) to the podcast. Maybe you’re gunning for new insights so you kick off 2025 right. Either way, we here at ManTalks have got your back. In this episode, you’ll find extended clips from 2024’s top interviews, from the veteran perspectives of Michael Meade to the attachment expertise of Sarah Baldwin. Happy New Year, team.

(00:00:00) - Peter Levine on the symptoms of trauma and using active imagination

(00:19:41) - Michael Meade on the importance of myth, and AI’s possible effects on humanity

(00:31:48) - Sarah Baldwin on anxious and avoidant attachment, and the goals for healing each

(00:47:22) - Owen Marcus on co-regulation and importance of genuine connection for men

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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10 Things To Stop Doing In 2025

Thu, 26 Dec 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, new year new you

Anyone who knows me knows I'm not a big fan of New Year's Resolutions. So instead of adding another thing to do, be, or try to your list, why not take something away? These ten things come from my own experience as well as helping high-performing men in multiple fields. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Stop self-deprecating, and start taking “clean accountability”

(00:04:16) - Stop blaming women for all your problems

(00:07:40) - Stop consuming mindless content. Switch it for content that supports your mission

(00:09:35) - If you are ignoring your finances, stooooop. Educate yourself

(00:13:36) - Stop outsourcing your validation, and stop overworking

(00:19:10) - Stop living without structure, and value rest

(00:24:27) - Let go of resentment, and stop rejecting support

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned in this episode:

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A Holiday Message

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0400

No bells and whistles this Monday, team. Just a few reminders and a simple, honest, and massive thank you for tuning in.

Wherever you are, however you celebrate, whatever you do, I wish you and yours peace, grace, and happiness.

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Dating A More Masculine Woman? Here's What To Do

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, masculinity, culture

This is a question I get all the time from men. They date a woman who takes on what feels like a very masculine energy, and they're not sure how to handle that without doubling down on battles, roles, and standoffs. Here's how to build a grounded, fulfilling, satisfying partnership instead.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the reasons women adopt traditionally masculine traits

(00:08:40) - What do you do? Number one: let go of “who’s right” battles

(00:12:12) - Stop fighting for the “masculine role” in the relationship

(00:16:54) - Evoke emotion

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Roy Baumeister - The Psychology Of Male Willpower

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 10:30:00 -0400

Talking points: men, psychology, culture

Roy Baumeister is a mighty pillar in the world of psychology, with groundbreaking work on willpower, self-control, negativity bias, and much more. I had the honor of chatting with him about all of these things in the context of men. How do we develop robust self-esteem? Is it work breaking free of isolation? Are there unique social pressures? This is chock full, team.

(00:00:00) - On how men need to prove themselves, and the different social pressures between men and women

(00:07:59) - Roy on risk-taking in men and women

(00:14:01) - Roy’s most cited work, why we fixate more on the bad things, and men’s self-destructive behavior

(00:27:48) - Strategies you can use to replace unhealthy coping mechanisms

(00:34:09) - How important is it for men to have robust and diverse social circles?

(00:45:10) - What is “ego depletion”?

(00:52:21) - The effect of porn on self-control, and wisdom for men struggling with self-esteem

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Is Attachment Genetic Or Environmental? The Latest Research

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, genetics, psychology

Attachment as a framework for working on and healing your relationships is powerful stuff. But it’s also complex. I wanted to nerd out a bit this week with all of you over this fascinating study on attachment, genetics, and environment—with a PSA at the end.

Dig in and let me know what you think!

You can find the abstract of the study and request a full PDF here: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/385437792_Genetic_and_environmental_contributions_to_adult_attachment_styles_Evidence_from_the_Minnesota_Twin_Registry

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:04:28) - Why it’s interesting and a potential game changer, and why heritability doesn’t mean it’s game over

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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David Sutcliffe - Polarization, Patterns, And The Real Andrew Tate

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, masculinity, the shadow

This was one of those wide-ranging convos that made me lose track of time. David and I cover a ton in this as you'll see from the timestamps, with some great info on "core energetics", personality types, and more. Dig in.

(00:00:00) - How David approached interviewing such a polarizing figure, and do all men have such a rigid mask?

(00:09:04) - How do you support men in a way that allows them to actually open up?

(00:15:40) - Is it all just an act, and killing your shadow versus integrating

(00:22:35) - What is core energetics and the five personality “patterns”?

(00:31:10) - Which pattern best describes American culture, and what do you think we need to do?

(00:37:14) - Do we HAVE to play the polarization game to get anywhere?

(00:44:54) - What David would say to men who are hiding opinions that might get them in trouble

(00:58:01) - What is the “lower self”?

(01:07:22) - Advice for men who actively resist their own emotions

David Sutcliffe is a Somatic Therapist, a Certified Core Energetics Practitioner with over 15 years experience. He has a private practice out of Austin, Texas, and holds workshops across the United States and Canada. He is also a trained hypnotherapist, a mindset expert, and has extensive experience with meditation, yoga, shamanism, physical fitness, nutrition, and wellness. A former actor, he is well known for his roles in the popular TV series Gilmore Girls and Private Practice, and movies Under The Tuscan Sun and Happy Endings.

Connect with David

-Website: https://www.davidsutcliffe.com

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/3ZJ1KD4

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidsutcliffe33/

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Why You're Afraid Of Women - A Man's Guide

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 11:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, masculinity, psychology, culture

I touched on this topic in a previous episode and hoo boy, the comments. So let’s talk about it, because there are a lot of historical, psychological, and mythic examples to look at. What’s more, there are ways of working on this if it rings true.

(00:00:00) - What I mean by being afraid of women, and theories from evolutionary psychology

(00:06:41) - The perspective of analytical psychology, and the “anima and animus”

(00:15:29) - Lastly, the perspective of existential psychology, and how a man creates identity

(00:19:22) - So what do you do with this info?

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Alex Grendi - The Journey To Real Confidence In The Bedroom

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 07:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, communication, sex, masculinity

Whether we want to admit it or not, there are always times where things in the bedroom just don’t work out. Alex is out there helping men deal with their most common challenges, and de-stigmatizing communication about it. I appreciate the simple yet solid advice he brings to the table; lots of good stuff in here. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - How a man’s ability to perform affects how he sees himself, and working with sexual shame

(00:11:33) - Dealing with common sexual challenges for men

(00:20:40) - On balancing emotional vulnerability with “holding your frame”

(00:26:29) - What contributes to ejaculation issues?

(00:32:13) - On embarrassment around sexual dialogue, and how porn alters our expectations of ourselves

(00:40:16) - The importance of connecting to breath

(00:47:35) - How can a partner help a man who’s struggling with PE or ED?

Alex Grendi, a former professional soccer player, is now a men’s coach specializing in helping individuals overcome performance anxiety, such as premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, to build confidence and enhance relationships. Drawing on personal experience and training, he developed the “Superior Lovers” program, combining best practices to deliver transformative results in just three months. His mission is to empower men to embrace their authentic selves, deepen connections, and find fulfillment in their lives and relationships.

Connect with Alex

-Website: https://www.alexgrendi.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Alex.Grendi

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alex.grendi/

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The Ugly Stepsister Problem: The Issue With Entitled Women

Thu, 28 Nov 2024 11:29:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, mythology, archetypes, culture

The title might ruffle some feathers, but sometimes, the best way to look at an issue is through a story. The symbolism has a way of highlighting many complex things at once. This week, I want to talk about an almost common trope in modern dating, but through the lens of a classic story: Cinderella.

(00:00:00) - Intro, using the story as a lens, and the effect of the “wicked stepmother”

(00:04:13) - The shadow of the feminine and masculine, and the archetype of Prince Charming

(00:10:15) - The value of Cinderella as an archetype and symbol

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Alex Petkas - Want To Reignite Your Inner Hero? Start Here

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 08:30:00 -0400

Talking points: history, mythology, archetypes, culture

I’ve recently been asked to dig more into the deeper stuff, and who better to delve into the history of the ancients than Alex Petkas. We dig into how important history and story can be, how modern society has watered down the hero archetype, and who we can learn from in ancient history to re-inspire us. This is great ep to dig into if you’re searching for actual heroes, not just what you see on TV.

(00:00:00) - What was the role of the “hero” in ancient history, and is it important for a healthy society?

(00:12:40) - What happens when you kill off the hero in you, and the balanced masculinity of Odysseus

(00:22:47) - How to restore a more generative hero archetype, and how we’ve made heroes one-dimensional

(00:30:41) - What Plutarch can teach men

(00:40:59) - Ancient heroes men can learn from, or who the hell is Eumenes of Chardia?

(00:55:14) - The power of narrative

Connect with Alex

-Website: https://www.costofglory.com/

-The Authoritative Speakers Guide: https://costofglory.kit.com/gift

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexpetkas/

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A Man's Guide To Helping Your Anxious Partner

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 08:30:00 -0400

talking points: anxiety, psychology, relationships

If you've ever been with someone who struggles with anxiety, this one's for you. A lot of men lean heavily into trying to fix things, even making it their entire mission. Here are some alternative steps that respect responsibility, autonomy, and help strengthen the relationship.

(00:00:00) - Intro, my working definition of anxiety, and the many places it comes from

(00:05:42) - Signs of anxiety in your partner

(00:10:47) - So what do you do? On reinforcement and co-regulation

(00:14:59) - Attune to her signs, and physical touch

(00:17:36) - How to balance leaning into discomfort with backing off

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Michael Meade - How To "Man Down": The Importance Of Myth And Descent For Men

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, psychology, myth, Jung

Hot on the heels of the legendary John Lee, I interviewed another founding elder of men's work: Michael Meade. This is a powerful discussion focused on how essential "descent" is for men, and how it's almost completely disappeared from society in favor of endless, destructive growth and commodified "mastery". Powerful words from one of the wisest teachers out there, in my opinion.

(00:00:00) - The importance of descent in a man’s life

(00:11:51) - The signs of descent, and the role of technology

(00:22:28) - How the old worldview has collapsed, and the result is collective despair and grief

(00:29:39) - How do you deal with the feeling that things are ending?

(00:35:20) - The intersection of myth and AI; will they come together?

(00:41:29) - Where does the descent actually lead, and the symbolism of water and sword

(00:55:13) - How to “get the water”

Michael Meade, born and raised in New York City, is a renowned storyteller, author, and scholar of mythology, anthropology, and psychology. He combines hypnotic and fiery storytelling, street-savvy perceptiveness, and spellbinding interpretations of ancient myths with a deep knowledge of cross-cultural rituals. His ability to tap into ancestral sources of wisdom to help people of today heal their communities has inspired thousands of people throughout the world. His unique translations of age-old myths and symbols into culturally relevant, everyday language earned him an honorary Doctorate in Humane Letters from Pacifica Graduate Institute. Michael is also the founder of Mosaic Multicultural Foundation and author of The Genius Myth, The Water of Life, The World Behind the World, Fate and Destiny, and Why the World Doesn't End. He is co-editor of The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart, and editor of the cross-cultural anthology on rites of passage: Crossroads: A Quest for Contemporary Rites of Passage.

Connect with Michael:

-Podcast: Living Myth: https://www.mosaicvoices.org/podcast

-Website: https://www.mosaicvoices.org/

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3 Mental Health Issues Men Struggle With More Than Women

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 08:15:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology, depression,

These are 3 conditions you may have never heard of before, but based on my experience working with men for 10+ years, they’ve got a significant presence. They’re also under-discussed.

(00:00:00) - Dysthymia, aka low-key depression

(00:04:25) - Alexithymia, when you can't describe emotions

(00:07:06) - Derealization, when nothing feels real

Further Reading

-Dysthymia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysthymia

-Alexithymia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexithymia

-Derealization: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Derealization

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John Lee - Iron John's Legacy, Robert Bly, And Early Men's Work

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 08:30:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture, mythopoetics, Robert Bly, Iron John

Maybe you've heard it said that there are lots of "olders", but barely any elders. John Lee is one of the latter, in my opinion. A critical player in men's movements of the 90s and close friends with Robert Bly, John is a wealth of knowledge, insight, and honest talk—and no stranger to deep work. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and what brought John to where he is today

(00:06:23) - The impact Robert Bly had on the mythopoetic men’s movement, and what that was

(00:20:36) - Why Iron John is still relevant

(00:31:41) - Are men struggling with different things now compared to the start of the mythopoetic men’s movement?

(00:38:58) - The dark father archetype, and the difference between Robert Bly and Jordan Peterson

(00:43:20) - What can the study of myth do for the average man, and how the manosphere falls short

John Lee is a pioneer in the fields of self-help, anger, codependency, creativity, recovery, relationships, and men’s issues. In the mental health field, he is considered the therapist’s therapist and regularly trains and mentors therapists on how to work with clients and how to work on themselves. He has taught his techniques and theories to thousands of individuals, couples, families, groups, corporations, and therapists all over the world. After 35 years of touring nationally and internationally, John Lee calls Austin, Texas his home.

Connect with John

-Website: https://johnleebooks.com/

-Seminar; From Hero To Elder: https://wakingheartschoolofwisdom.com/events/from_hero_to_elder/

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The One Skill That Can Save A Relationship

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 11:30:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships

We all know how a couple handles conflict can be the difference between love that’s thriving and resilient and something that is…well, the exact opposite: leading through conflict. Listen in for five aspects of the that don’t get talked about often enough, in my opinion.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and a practical definition of conflict

(00:03:14) - Address your conflict kryptonite

(00:05:59) - Ownership over blame

(00:07:57) - Stop seeing conflict as a path to disconnection, and have conflict “agreements”

(00:10:44) - Breathe, ground, assess

(00:13:30) - The best question to ask

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J.R. Martinez - Building A Life Full Of Heart From Hardship

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 16:30:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, purpose, military, masculinity

A sincere honor to chat with J.R., and I’m blown away by his perspective and honesty on the hardship he’s faced—and overcome. We cover a lot of ground: the importance of male friendship, the struggles veterans can go through, the importance of vulnerability AND accountability. Throughout it all, J.R.’s outlook shines through. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - JR’s defining moment

(00:11:45) - What happened to JR during his deployment

(00:23:58) - How men and veterans get stripped of purpose and identity, what contributes to that, and how we can do better

(00:38:04) - What JR would say to men who see the state of things and retreat into isolation, and the importance of building emotional for yourself

(00:55:50) - What JR would teach the next generation of men

J.R. Martinez’s life story is one of resilience and transformation. A Louisiana-born Army veteran and Iraq War survivor, Martinez faced tragedy early in his military service when a roadside bomb explosion left him with severe burns covering over a third of his body. His recovery included 34 months of treatment and 33 surgeries, a challenging journey that revealed his strength and inspired a new purpose.

Martinez began sharing his story, quickly becoming a sought-after speaker, captivating audiences at military bases and for major organizations like Delta and Wells Fargo. His personal mantra, “Adapt & Overcome,” resonated deeply, embodying his commitment to resilience and gratitude. He’s also become an advocate for organizations like the Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors and Glasswing International, earning awards like the Ivy Award and the National Red Cross Spirit Award.

In 2008, Martinez ventured into acting with a role on All My Children, which opened doors in entertainment. He won the 2011 season of Dancing with the Stars, capturing audiences nationwide. His memoir, Full of Heart, became a New York Times bestseller, and he later pursued higher education, a milestone for his family. Today, Martinez continues to inspire through speaking engagements, acting, and advocacy, sharing his journey of strength and hope with audiences worldwide while balancing family life with his wife, Diana, and their children.

Connect with JR

-Website: https://jrmartinez.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjrmartinez

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamjrmartinez

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jradapt/

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Creating Safety For An Anxious (Or Avoidant) Partner

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 15:32:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, psychology, relationships

Men tend to underestimate how important the feeling of safety is for their partners. Not a dig, just something I’ve seen time and time again. And if you’re partner has an avoidant or anxious attachment style, your part in creating a sense of safety in the relationship can be complicated. Listen in for some straightforward tips.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and why women sometimes “test” you

(00:03:45) - Here’s what changes when she has an avoidant or anxious attachment style

(00:06:39) - And here’s what to do if she’s anxious

(00:10:14) - Tactics if she’s avoidant

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Shai Tubali - Is Enlightenment Worth It?

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 15:30:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, psychology, meditation, spirituality

Meditation and mindfulness get a lot of air time these days, especially on the more “crunchy” side of wellness spectrum. But is it all it’s cracked up to be? I sat down with Shai to really dig into this, from the wildly esoteric and spiritual side of the question to the more practical, tactical side. Because what’s the point of enlightenment if it doesn’t make things, well, a little lighter?

(00:00:00) - Shai’s feeling of being “outside” the usual human experience, the difference between detachment and dissociation, and using things like meditation to avoid life

(00:09:52) - What IS consciousness, and the West’s obsession with enlightenment

(00:25:45) - Why are humans even capable of self-reference? What’s the point?

(00:34:16) - Do these complex, philosophical ideas help with our day-to-day lives?

(00:43:20) - How can men develop greater mental flexibility and combat closed-mindedness?

(00:56:55) - What to do to get your calm back in a conflict

(01:02:07) - The ultimate test of mental flexibility: putting yourself in a loved one’s shoes

(01:09:41) - On reigniting imagination and using it for good

Shai Tubali is a Postdoctoral Research Fellow at the University of Leeds, UK. He has a doctorate in philosophy of religion from the School of Philosophy, Religion, and History of Science at the University of Leeds. He’s the author of the monograph Cosmos and Camus: Science Fiction Film and the Absurd (Peter Lang) and a contributor to the Routledge Companion to Absurdist Literature, as well as a prolific published author, having written over twenty books, including award-winning and bestselling titles. Among his diverse publications, one can find prose, poetry, practical books on meditation and self-development, and philosophical treatises on South-Asian philosophy and classical Greek philosophy.

Connect with Shai

-Website: https://shaitubali.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shaitubali/

-Flexible Mind: https://yourflexiblemind.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQwf6sSC-F2sH4uDOmJkKsw

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The One Thing That Destroys Men's Lives

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 15:30:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, psychology

Aristotle said, “I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is the victory over self.” Speaking from my own experience, he’s definitely wasn’t wrong. Here’s what nearly every man on the planet has to battle—and how to reclaim your power.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why this is an important topic

(00:03:37) - What causes a lack of impulse control? Two massive reasons

(00:10:40) - How to actually develop a deep, quality capacity for impulse control

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Andrew Bustamente - The Real CIA, Modern Conflict, And What It Means For You

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 15:40:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, geopolitics

This interview is probably among the most unique I’ve had on the show. I don’t usually cover straight-up politics, but Andrew’s work has fascinated me for a while. And as the world seems to getting more up in arms (literally and figuratively), I find myself wanting to learn more about where all of this started and how we as men can respond.

(00:00:00) - Common misconceptions about the CIA

(00:11:47) - Why foreign secrets are such a big deal

(00:24:51) - Andrew’s perspective on current global unrest, Iran, and just how complex it is

(00:38:31) - What’s difficult to understand about geopolitics, and why there seems to be so much conflict

(00:48:19) - Is there any form of governance that truly permits any freedom, and where the balance could lie

(00:57:47) - The perspective shift that changed Andrew’s life

(01:08:51) - Andrew’s take on what’s going to happen next with Ukraine, Russian, and Iran

(01:16:33) - Is US global supremacy in jeopardy? If it is, what does that mean for the average citizen?

Andrew Bustamante is a former covert CIA intelligence officer, decorated military combat veteran, successful Fortune 10 corporate advisor, proud husband and father.

After 20 years running human and technical intelligence operations for private and government clients worldwide, Andrew founded EverydaySpy.com -- the first-ever digital spy training platform. Headlining both US and International media, Andrew’s training events have been praised for their innovative, authentic, and life-changing impact.

When he isn’t giving interviews, running spy exercises, or supporting private intelligence contracts, Andrew lives with his wife (also an ex-CIA Officer) and two children in Colorado.

Connect with Andrew

-Website: https://everydayspy.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/everydayspy

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everydayspy/

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Do This One Thing To Create More Sexual Connection

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 15:40:00 -0400

Talking points: intimacy, relationships

Game changers aren’t usually simple, especially when it comes to intimate relationships. But this is a surprisingly easy, straightforward step that I’ve seen work time and time again. So listen in and let some wonderful things happen.

(00:00:00) - Expectationless desire and why it’s important

(00:05:37) - What to do, and what it looks like

(00:08:36) - Final thoughts

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Lisa Bunnage - How To Raise Resilient Kids

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 15:40:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, parenting

One of the most informative fifty minutes I’ve ever recorded; and now that I’m a father of two, it’s pretty well timed! Grateful for Lisa’s insight, her years of experience, and her great sense of humor. This is the episode to listen to if you (like pretty much every parent) are looking for sound advice that you can act on literally right now.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and what are parents being taught that isn’t actually beneficial?

(00:06:40) - How do we raise kids who like themselves?

(00:11:22) - Timers: a great parenting “hack”

(00:16:25) - Ways of developing a more robust connection with your child, and the shift between raising a child, a preteen, and a teenager

(00:23:37) - How can parents help their kids build skills and develop competency?

(00:29:02) - The cost of perfectionist parenting, and what to do during tantrums

(00:44:35) - Do’s and don’t when dealing with teenagers

Lisa Bunnage is a Parenting Coach with BratBusters Parenting Services. She has been working with children for 40+ years in schools, hospitals and youth detention facilities. She uses a mix of down-to-earth common sense and humor to teach parents how to get respect from their children.

Connect with Lisa

-Website: https://bratbusters.com

-Podcast: https://bratbusters.com/podcast/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bratbustersparenting/

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Why Young Men Are Falling Behind—And What To Do

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 15:30:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, masculinity, social issues

Inspired by a recent article in the WSJ. Young men are facing some serious difficulties right now. We need to not just be aware of what’s going on, but follow that up with coherent, intelligent action.

I’m not some genius who can declare national-level policy changes, but I KNOW what works on an individual level. If you’re a man who’s struggling in the face of increasing isolation and an uncertain future, here are five things you can work on right now.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:32) - The data presented

(00:09:44) - Young men now have to struggle against modern culture more than ever

(00:14:05) - Why can men do on an individual level in the face of all this? Number one: stop blaming women.

(00:18:06) - Number two: set right your relationship to risk

(00:20:30) - Number three and four: engage in healthy confrontation, and make friends with people you respect

(00:24:53) - Number five: you’ve got to set in shape. Prioritize actually living IN your body

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Dr. Warren Farrell - What's Weighing Down Young Men?

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, masculinity, relationships

Warren’s been a consistent and committed voice for men for decades now, an it’s been far too long since we’ve talked, so when I wanted to get some insight on how things have changed—or not—he was the obvious choice! We cover the complexity of what “makes” a man, get into politics, and some solid practical advice for couples. Enjoy and dig in.

(00:00:00) - What’s happening to young men in today’s culture

(00:09:47) - Warren’s take on why there seems to be negation or dismantling of biological underpinnings of maleness

(00:17:53) - Is there really a difference between men and women, and Warren on listening first, solving second

(00:26:08) - Why do we see a gender divide in politics?

(00:36:06) - What Warren would say to men in their 20s and 30s

(00:41:54) - On Warren’s book Role Mate To Soul Mate, and what makes falling in love easy but sustaining love difficult

(00:52:27) - Advice if you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells with your partner

Warren Farrell, PhD, has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages. They include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, and the international bestseller The Myth of Male Power. Dr. Farrell presented the findings of The Boy Crisis (2018) worldwide, from the White House to the Norwegian Parliament. It was a catalyst for bipartisan legislation for father involvement in Florida.

Dr. Farrell’s most recent book, Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love (2024), is based on his teaching couples’ communication for the past 30 years to more than a thousand couples and psychologists. Warren has been a pioneer in both the women’s movement (elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women in NYC) and the men’s movement (called by GQ “The Martin Luther King of the men’s movement”). He advocates for a “Gender Liberation Movement, freeing both sexes from the rigid roles of the past.” His life journey is the subject of a forthcoming documentary.

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The Key To Quitting Porn And Weed Is...

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 16:04:00 -0400

Talking points: porn, addiction, mindset, psychology

We all know it’s not easy. We all know it takes time. What you might NOT know is that there’s a simple reframe about quitting things like porn, weed, alcohol, and more that swings the odds in your favor. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:02:58) - A new perspective on some addictions

(00:04:27) - The real question to ask

(00:07:08) - What to do instead

(00:09:27) - If you’re like me, this is gonna take time

(00:19:45) - Number five: they create, maintain, and repair connection

(00:25:04) - If you’re not sure which one to start with, start here

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5 Signs Of A Securely Attached Relationship

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 15:50:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, tactics, mindset

Let’s admit we all want a relationship that’s balanced and has minimal conflict and insecurity. I’ve talked about what anxious and avoidant couples do, but how do securely attached couples navigate? Here are five things to model.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and a quick recap on the main attachment styles

(00:07:30) - What do securely attached people in relationships do? Number one: healthy conflict and resolution building

(00:10:45) - Number two: they operate from a place of trust

(00:12:40) - Number three: they can self-regulate and work towards healthy de-escalation

(00:16:54) - Number four: they have a healthy balance of independence and togetherness

(00:19:45) - Number five: they create, maintain, and repair connection

(00:25:04) - If you’re not sure which one to start with, start here

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Man Shaming And The Patriarchy Virus

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 15:50:00 -0400

Talking points: culture

This one will rattle some people, but it needs saying. Let’s just leave it at that.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and why shaming men is a bad approach to better behavior

(00:05:27) - The patriarchy virus

(00:11:06) - Yes, this has a lot of a complexity, but dehumanizing men who aren’t in power isn’t helping anyone

(00:14:19) - The practical consequences and how we need to take a step back

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Experts On: The Power Of Connection To Others—And Yourself

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 15:00:00 -0400

Talking points: isolation, culture, relationships, friendship, anger, connection

Every now and I then, my team and I like to compile some of the greatest insights from our guests and center them around a theme. This week, we’re going hard on connection. The importance and nuance of it, the consequences of being without it, and the ways connection manifests.

These days, connection isn't easy, but it's more important than ever. Listen in some highly distilled wisdom.

(00:00:00) - Doug McKinley on isolation, passing down wisdom, self-leadership, working weaknesses, and adding value to you and your world

(00:21:51) - Nedra Tawwab on developing satisfying friendships and how to navigate tough conversations

(00:35:26) - Marisa Franco on how men and women build friendship differently, “friendship minus mission”, how camaraderie has changed over the years, and the impacts of NOT having friends

(00:50:56) - Angus Fletcher on changing your internal story and your relationship to yourself, cultivating inner antifragility, and relating differently to your own anger

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Why I Took Two Months Off When My Kids Were Born

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 15:40:00 -0400

Talking points: fatherhood, parenting, mindset, culture

Taking time off as a man seems perfectly normal—until it’s done for a newborn. While I don’t disagree that a father can (and should) work to provide for his family, I also think that your presence is a deeply important factor in your kid’s development. Here’s my rationale.

(00:00:00) - What inspired this episode

(00:03:10) - The real reasons I took time off

(00:07:56) - How I’ve learned to define success

(00:11:52) - I challenge men to think differently about things when their children are born

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John Gray - Are Men Still From Mars, Women Still From Venus?

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, testosterone, estrogen, stress

I had John on the show years ago, and it seemed like the right time to ask: has anything changed since publishing his seminal book? Turns out the answer is yes—and no. Dig in with us as we cover John’s take on conflict, mindset, confidence, emotions, hormones, and a lot more!

(00:00:00) - How have things changed since you wrote your book, and do men and women deal with stress differently?

(00:16:40) - John’s take on why testosterone has become somewhat demonized, and the limits of talking about your feelings in a relationship

(00:36:32) - John on truth, and the meeting place of mindset and reality

(00:44:41) - The paradox of confidence and the comfort zone, and the basics of emotional processing

(00:56:25) - The balancing act that is testosterone and estrogen, and its effects on aggression and self-esteem

John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century. In hardcover, it was the #1 best-selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Our Complex Modern World. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness, and romance.

Connect with John

-Website: https://www.marsvenus.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johngraymarsvenus_official/

-Books: https://www.marsvenus.com/books

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The Key To Dating An Avoidant Woman

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 15:50:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, avoidance, relationships

This is thicker one, my friends. I’ve been asked by a lot of you to cover this, and here goes. There’s straightforward tactics in here for both men and women that will help you move more easily into deeper and longer lasting connection. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, some of the internal beliefs an avoidant woman has learned, and what caused them

(00:06:08) - Avoidant women tend to attract savior-oriented men. Here’s why

(00:09:26) - What to do as a couple, and tactic #1 for women: communicate your needs, but start smaller

(00:13:42) - #2: shifting from self-protection to relational connection

(00:16:33) - #3: lean into conflict, not away, plus a couple things that will help you with this

(00:19:58) - Guys, your turn. #1: move from questions to statements

(00:23:20) - #2: give thanks instead of criticism

(00:25:18) - #3: be clear about expectations

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East Forest - Music As Mentor, Psychedelics, And Artists Versus AI

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Talking points: music, artistry, creativity, AI, culture, spirituality, psychedelics

Music has been around for thousands and thousands of years. There’s a reason for that: it’s a powerful, synchronizing force between peoples, places hearts, and minds. And when you add psychedelics, well, that’s a recipe for incredible journeys.

I’m honored to have had this convo with one of my favorite artists, and we dig into just how important music is not just for enjoyment but as a guide, mentor, and facilitator. We also cover his upcoming doc, Music For Mushrooms. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - What role does music play in our lives that we often overlook, and how East’s relationship to music has changed over the years

(00:08:25) - What’s worrisome about AI and music?

(00:16:47) - How artists can weather the storm

(00:23:05) - On initiation, and the threshold we’re crossing into a vast, uncharted era

(00:26:00 ) - What was it like making music with Ram Dass?

(00:32:49) - How do you make music for a psychedelic journey, and how the union of music and psychedelics leads to something more

(00:43:15) - How do you describe psychedelics to someone who’s never done them?

(00:48:21) - How music can be a mentor and a guide to turn to

(00:51:55) - What sparked East’s Music For Mushrooms documentary

Since 2008, East Forest has used music to guide listeners through modern journeys of deep introspection. The electro-acoustic project has remained primarily a solo effort (of Krishna-Trevor Oswalt), straddling the worlds of ambient, neoclassical, electronic and indie-pop.

Whether via his Music For Mushrooms: A Soundtrack For The Psychedelic Practitioner album series, his collaborative spoken word album with Ram Dass, or one of his communal “Ceremony Concerts,” East Forest’s goal has always been “building bridges and creating an approach that’s grounded, embodied, and unarguable.”

Connect with East

-Website: https://eastforest.org/

-Documentary, Music For Mushrooms: https://eastforest.org/music-for-mushrooms

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eastforest/

-Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/east-forest/304982626

-Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3AWGOhO

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Women Are Delusional, Men Are Disenfranchised

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 15:07:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, mindset, victimhood, entitlement

This is going to…bother some of you, but it needs to be said. Straight out the gates, this isn’t an every single man or every single woman issue, but these are what’s contributing to the insanity that is modern dating. Hear me out.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how this is gonna upset some people

(00:02:21) - The man that some women expect to date doesn’t exist, why that’s a thing,

(00:07:55) - The idea that what women bring to a relationship is automatically more valuable isn’t always true

(00:10:11) - On entitlement and how both sides are contributing

(00:13:11 ) - Men, you’ve bought into the BS notion that something is automatically wrong with women

(00:15:40) - Many men are fundamentally afraid of women and don’t want to admit it

(00:18:34) - Many men have become fragile

(00:21:05) - No more victim puking and women blaming

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Eli Harwood - Raising Securely Attached Kids

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Talking points: parenting, attachment, mindset, psychology, neurology

The internet behaved badly in this episode, but Eli is so knowledgeable and thorough I had to put this up! The Attachment Nerd herself brought a TON of info and practical tips for parents this week. Strongly encourage you to listen to this with other parents. I certainly learned a lot. Her new book comes out Sept. 3rd; go pick it up!

(00:00:00) - What is reflective functioning, and when does that start developing?

(00:06:58) - How does a parent support a child who’s still developing that reflective functioning?

(00:12:58) - The problem with treating kids as little adults, and why we do it

(00:20:44) - How to tell if you’re raising a securely attached kid; 4 simple tips

(00:32:05) - The importance of presence and support over adult logic, and on staying grounded

(00:40:18) - How to foster discipline AND self-esteem in your kids

Eli Harood, known as Attachment Nerd on social media, is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and highly sought-after educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure connections with their children. Her life’s mission is to help make the world a better place one relationship at a time. In addition to her clinical work, Harwood also offers online courses and in-person retreats to help individuals better understand their attachment styles and build stronger bonds. She has also served as a faculty member at The Denver Family Institute and is the author of “Securely Attached.” Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants.

Connect with Eli

-Website: https://attachmentnerd.com

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/

-Book: Raising Securely Attached Kids: https://attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd

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These Two Things Are Killing Men

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: suicide, culture, masculinity

This isn’t an easy episode, but it’s important. If you’re someone who works with men, whatever kind of work that is, please share.

(00:00:00) - A part of my story I rarely share

(00:04:30) - What I’ve learned

(00:07:35) - What’s contributing to this?

(00:10:36) - If you’re somehow involved with men, here’s what to do. If you’re in this situation, here’s what I’ll tell you

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Men's Work Session - When Childhood Trauma Impacts A Marriage

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, avoidance, divorce

My anonymous guest this week has been solving the puzzle of his anxious attachment style for a while now. He’s made great progress, but there’s more to be done. On top of this, while it’s impacted all of his romantic relationships with intense conflict, distance, and damage, his wife is an avoidant. It’s a complicated situation, but there IS a way forward.

(00:00:00) - What brought our guest in today

(00:05:58) - Why my guest is holding onto something they’ve identified as unhealthy

(00:12:11) - What my guest is hoping to get out of the session, and a hard truth

(00:16:53) - Taking on responsibility and shame when things aren’t working in the world

(00:21:37) - When a young child can’t get the attention it needs, it’ll be encoded as panic to the child

(00:31:33) - The declaration

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How I Went From Avoidant To Secure (You Can Too)

Thu, 22 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, avoidance, mindset, psychology

If you, your partner, or someone you’re friends with has an avoidant attachment style, this one’s specifically for you!

These are the steps I took and the ones I recommend to clients who are just starting out and want to get their avoidance under control. They’re simple, but not easy. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - The two things changing from avoidant to secure depends on, and why

(00:05:58) - Build self-awareness around these two crucial things

(00:08:49) - Initiate reconnection when disconnection has happened

(00:12:30) - Express what you’re experiencing

(00:14:02) - Expose your needs—with two caveats

(00:16:12) - Move from self-protection to relational reliance

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Francis Weller - Collapse, The Psyche, And The Role Of Soul

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: collapse, culture, masculinity, psychology, Jung

There are very few people out there I consider genuine, authentic elders. Francis Weller is one of them. With a perfect marriage of gentle compassion and firm sincerity, Francis is the man you want to share a campfire with when times are tough. He lays out what we’re facing collectively from the perspective of someone deeply in tune with the natural world, and how we need to respond.

(00:00:00) - Why we’re in “the long dark”, and what needs to dissolve collectively

(00:09:04) - Navigating the things that are negatively affecting the psyche, and “death cafes”

(00:14:40) - What Francis has been noticing and gathering from our current times

(00:21:03) - The balance between being aware of what’s going on and catastrophizing

(00:27:31) - Is talking about collapse and degrowth inherently anti-American?

(00:34:49) - How does someone stay present and grounded in the face of a collapse, and how people normally navigate

(00:44:09) - How do you find satisfaction without relentless pursuit? How do you get okay with “adequate”?

(00:50:30) - Francis on the nuance and variance of masculinity and masculine culture

(00:56:31) - How to be the medicine, and how to develop a deeper relationship with nature

Francis Weller, MFT, is a psychotherapist, writer, and soul activist. He is a master of synthesizing diverse streams of thought from psychology, anthropology, mythology, alchemy, indigenous cultures, and poetic traditions. Author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow, The Threshold Between Loss and Revelation, (with Rashani Réa), and In the Absence of the Ordinary, he has introduced the healing work of ritual to thousands of people. He founded and directs WisdomBridge, an organization that offers educational programs that seek to integrate the wisdom from indigenous cultures with the insights and knowledge gathered from Western poetic, psychological, and spiritual traditions.

He has created three CD sets, two focusing on healing shame and one on “Restoring the Soul of the World.” His latest offerings are a 10-session audio series on "Living a Soulful Life and Why It Matters." and "The Alchemy of Initiation: Soul Work and the Art of Ripening."

Connect with Francis:

-Website: https://www.francisweller.net/

-Books: https://www.francisweller.net/books.html

-Programs: https://www.francisweller.net/programs--workshops.html

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5 Things Men Must Do To Rebuild In Their 30s

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Talking points: aging, mindset, personal growth

I bottomed out in my 20s and nearly lost everything. When I finally emerged from the rubble, I had NO idea where to even begin. The following are things I learned the hard way, so if you’re in a similar spot, strongly encourage you to listen in. Here’s how you rebuild.

(00:00:00) - Intro and number 1: make competency your aim

(00:03:33) - Number 2: get in shape

(00:05:24) - Number 3: learn how to save and invest, and get yourself out of debt

(00:07:45) - Number 4: figure out if you’re a number one, number two, or a worker bee

(00:10:23) - Number 5: take women off the pedestal

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Todd Baratz - Love Can (And Should) Be A Little Challenging

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, sex, social media, non-monogamy

If you’ve followed me for any length of time, you know I think the current dating scene is, in a word, messy. So I’m grateful to have sat with Todd Baratz on why that’s the case. I love Todd’s practical, honest yet understanding perspective on the issues, because it allows for all the complexity and nuance relationships can bring. To sum it up: communicate, communicate, communicate.

(00:00:00) - Todd on why modern relationships seem like a mess, new social values, and social media’s effect

(00:13:54) - What causes us to sometimes lose a deep sense of self in relationships, and how our original attachment contributes

(00:18:30) - How all this influences sexual expression, and bridging the gap between different preferences

(00:25:47) - What you need to open a dialogue about what you want sexually, and where couples go wrong

(00:32:41) - “Too good to leave, too bad to stay”, and are relationships starving for lack of community?

(00:37:02) - Do straight and queer couples deal with similar issues? And navigating non-monogamy

(00:44:26) - Dealing with relationship power struggles

(00:47:28) - When your partner asks for something, just do it

Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle YourDiagnonsense.

Connect with Todd

-Website: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense

-Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4c80FbeT9YmbyE6B6NMTgN

-Book: How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/book/

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Why Women Avoid Accountability (And How To Make It Happen)

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: accountability, relationships

Before anything else, not all women struggle with this. But some who do (and the men who love them) have asked me to speak on this. You’ve probably seen the memes or heard a story or two, but it’s always better to actually do some thinking. Here are my thoughts on why some women admit to struggling with accountability—and how to hold a partner accountable in a healthy way.

(00:00:00) - Intro and reason 1: different tools for social status

(00:05:41) - Reason 2: women are disincentivized by the “patriarchy virus”

(00:07:52) - Women are socialized to be more dependent on men

(00:10:05) - How to hold a partner accountable in a healthy way, and what NOT to do

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Dr. Layne Norton - Want A Healthier Life? Take Action

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: exercise, stress, science, testosterone, mindset

I think this episode takes the cake for highest amount of information. Dr. Layne Norton is. on. fire. Seriously, dig into this if you’re looking for what REALLY works (hint: it’s probably not going to be the fun option). We cover everything on managing stress, testosterone, and the right mindset to bring it all home.

(00:00:00) - What got Layne started, and how wildly effective exercise can be

(00:07:59) - Layne on managing stress

(00:14:42) - On finding and prioritizing real friendships, and your responsibility in managing stress

(00:24:20) - What happens when you’re stressed, and why stress isn’t automatically bad

(00:35:22) - Layne’s own experience of how important it is to process bad experiences, and the effect of stress on testosterone

(00:43:37) - Taking responsibility, why it’s worth trusting the science, and owning what you CAN control

(00:55:53) - Layne on TRT and what will actually boost testosterone

(01:03:44) - Tactical practical things to boost your workouts

(01:10:44) - What to do if you’re already pretty lean

Dr. Layne Norton hold a Ph.D. in Nutritional Sciences and a BS in Biochemistry. Both with honors. He provides science-backed, ethical coaching, and is the founder of BioLayne and co-founder of Carbon Diet Coach, Outwork Nutrition, and Physique Coaching Academy. He fuses evidence-based nutrition and training with what will practically work for you individually.

He also hosts the Biolayne Podcast, interviewing experts and influencers on topics related to fitness and nutrition. As a competitive bodybuilder, Layne has won multiple titles in natural bodybuilding and powerlifting, including the IPF 93 kg world record for squat.

Connect with Layne

-Website: https://biolayne.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biolayne/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqMBA83S0TnfTlTeE5j1mgQ

-Carbon Diet Coach: https://www.joincarbon.com/

-Physique Coaching Academy: https://cleanhealth.edu.au/product/online-courses/physique-coaching-academy-certification/

-Outwork Nutrition: https://outworknutrition.com/

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5 Musts For Every Man Without A Father

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: grief, fatherhood, anger, masculinity

The void left by a father who’s gone can feel impossibly difficult to handle for many men. I’ve had a lot of them in my practice, and the impacts on their life can be pretty severe. If you or someone you know grew up without a father, strongly encourage you to listen to this one. These are the lessons you might have missed.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the first thing: grieve the absence.

(00:05:33) - Understand the true role of a father, and take it upon yourself

(00:08:28) - Every son has the right to be angry with their father

(00:12:37) - A woman can never hold the key to your masculinity

(00:14:24) - The last thing: it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility

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Sarah Baldwin - Secure Attachment's Possible, It Just Takes Work

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships, intimacy

You’ve heard about attachment. Maybe you’ve discovered you or your partner (or both!) have a specific kind. Ok, cool. But what do you DO with that info? How do you move forward?

That’s exactly what Sarah Baldwin and I sat down to discuss. From the deep origins of our survival strategies, to their impact on intimacy, and how to work WITH it all and get some self-security going. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - What is a disconfirming experience?

(00:07:54) - How do our early experiences with attachment inform the partners we choose later?

(00:17:15) - Remember this is all subconscious, very human, and can be changed with work

(00:27:47) - What happens in someone’s body when they have a more anxious or avoidant attachment style

(00:35:38) - Insights on what to do if you’re avoidant or anxious

(00:43:33) - What CAN a securely attached relationship look like?

(00:50:57) - How does all of this impact intimacy?

Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome emotional barriers and trauma. With training in somatic healing, polyvagal theory, and inner child work, she guides clients through a transformative process to achieve a more fulfilling life. Through multiple modalities, Sarah offers a comprehensive coaching approach that to fully support her clients’ growth and well-being, no matter where they’re at in life.

Connect with Sarah

-Website: https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/

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4 Hard Truths Men Over 30 Need To Hear

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, death, change

Alright, you’re past 30. Assuming you’re past the usual advice you get from all the corners of the internet, what’s next?

Because all the “you need to make more money, you need to get to the gym, you need to wake up earlier” stuff is fine—don’t get me wrong—but it's also entry-level work. Listen in for the harder stuff.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the first thing: regret

(00:03:10) - Don’t make your future self suffer because of who you’re being now

(00:06:06) - Death is right around the corner

(00:10:52) - Your unwillingness to find or create your definition of freedom is a kind of death, too

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David Kessler - Finding Meaning In Grief And Loss

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: grief, loss, relationships, masculinity, anger

I met David at a psychotherapy symposium a while back, and it wasn’t long before we were sharing some of the things we’ve grieved. He just has that calm yet strong presence. He’s also, of course, an absolute expert therapist. We dig into everything loss in this episode; how the 5 stages actually work, what death does both for and to us, and much, much more. This is absolutely an episode to share with someone you feel could use it.

(00:00:00) - Intro, do men and women grieve differently, and the toll of not grieving

(00:06:34) - Why unprocessed grief manifests as anger, anxiety, and more

(00:11:10) - What brought David into grief work, the five stages, and where people get stuck

(00:24:43) - On the loss of David’s son

(00:32:12) - Does grief reshape identity, and the different ways of moving through it

(00:35:50) - How to move through grief, and discerning when to “live again”

(00:42:51) - David’s take on death denial, living currently, and how death challenges our assumptions

(00:50:43) - The sixth stage of grief, and the nuances of meaning after loss

David Kessler is one of the world’s foremost experts on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even after life’s tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He co-authored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.

David’s personal experience as a child witnessing a mass shooting while his mother was dying in a hospital helped him begin his journey. For most of his life, David has taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about the end of life, trauma, and grief. He facilitates talks, workshops and retreats for those experiencing grief. However, despite his vast knowledge on grief, his life was turned upside down by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. It inspired him to write his newest book, Finding Meaning.

David’s volunteer work includes being an LAPD Specialist Reserve for traumatic events as well as having served on the Red Cross’s disaster services team. He worked for over a decade in a three-hospital system, and was even trained for bio-terrorism events and epidemics/pandemics.

Connect with David

-Website: https://grief.com/

-Book: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief: https://grief.com/sixth-stage-of-grief/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamdavidkessler/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamDavidKessler/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/davidkesslerongrief

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Self-Esteem: The Most Important Thing You Need To Know

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 15:41:00 -0400

Talking points: self-worth, mindset

This is a wildly simple fact, but so easy to miss. Self-esteem is built along the way, not something you find at the end of the work. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and real reason your self-esteem takes a hit

(00:03:14) - The secret hope

(00:07:16) - It’s that simple, and that hard

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Men's Work Session - Overcoming The Fear Of Action, Part 2

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: stuckness, energy, trauma

Back in May, this anonymous guest came to me trying to solve what’s blocking him from making important decisions and taking action. We uncovered a traumatic event that started this, but that’s just the start of the process. Here are the next steps in understanding and healing this man’s trauma and helping him move forward.

Strongly encourage you to check out part 1 here: https://link.chtbl.com/VaiRj0Oy

(00:00:00) - Intro and catchup: the feeling of stuck-ness

(00:12:00) - What punishment is stuck-ness protecting you from?

(00:20:17) - Learning that feelings and energy can be moved

(00:32:28) - An assignment for my guest to help him move forward

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The Morning Routine That Changed My Life

Thu, 11 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: routines, mindset

I’m serious when I say this changed my life—and that’s coming from someone that hated mornings in general. It took a long time to turn into a habit, but it was absolutely worth it. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and first step: actually get out of bed. Early. Here’s how to make it easier

(00:05:57) - Drink a LOT of water right when you get up, and get the double S: stretch and sunlight

(00:08:38) - Breathwork, and then 1 of 2 different workouts

(00:11:20) - Face the cold, and journal (recommended: stream of consciousness journaling)

(00:14:46) - The final and most important piece: connection

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Dr. Frank Anderson - Truth, Trauma, And Transformation

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 16:07:00 -0400

Talking points: PTSD, trauma, intimacy, relationships

It's hard sometimes to know where to begin when it comes to traumatic experiences. Even harder when they're PTSD-level, or secretly impact your relationships/intimacy/work life. Which is exactly why I'm grateful folks like Dr. Frank, who live at the intersection of cutting-edge research, lived experience, and calm strength.

We dive right into WHY these things happen and how they're stored in the body and mind, offering practical advice throughout. Strongly recommend you listen to this one!

(00:00:00) - What can neurobiology teach us about PTSD?

(00:06:20) - What are the symptoms of PTSD, and why disassociation, derealization, and depersonalization happen

(00:16:31) - Where do you even begin getting a handle on PTSD?

(00:23:13) - How Dr. Frank works with men on shame, whether they’re the shamer or the shamed

(00:32:29) - How trauma impacts sex and intimacy

(00:45:44) - Where men should start exploring their sexual potency

(00:51:14) - The event that started it all for Dr. Frank

Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, recently released memoir, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the coauthor of Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on the treatment of trauma and dissociation, he’s passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons.

Connect with Frank

-Website: https://www.frankandersonmd.com/

-NEW Book: To Be Loved: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Loved-Story-Trauma-

Transformation/dp/1962305112

-Trauma Institute Website: https://www.traumainstitute.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/frank_andersonmd/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mdfrankanderson

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/FrankAndersonMD

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Can Men Be Monogamous? Should They Be?

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: monogamy, relationships, culture

Well, can they? This started with me wondering why certain men who are notorious for sleeping around are suddenly hopping on the monogamy train, and ended with me hitting the record button and getting curious.

And honestly, this is way more complicated than a binary "men must/can or must not/can't be faithful partners". Listen in and let me know your thoughts.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why I’m diving into this

(00:05:41) - Where does the idea that men CAN’T be monogamous come from?

(00:14:59) - Monogamous cultures can have benefits, even though modernity seems to disincentivize it

(00:16:22) - Most men ultimately prefer monogamy, but there are underlying issues

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Caitlin V Neal - How To Unlock A Vibrant Sex Life

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: sex, technique, communication, relationships

From the foundational ideas to simple practices you can start literally right now, this episode has it all. Deeply appreciate the wildly intelligent insight and practical advice here, courtesy of intimacy and relationship coach Caitlin V Neal. She says the V stands for Victorious; listen to this and I'm pretty sure you'll be feeling victorious yourself.

(00:00:00) - Intro, foundational pieces to a great sex life, and how to start those uncomfortable conversations

(00:11:03) - An incredible framework for communicating sexual issues

(00:17:35) - The best way to create arousal for your partner, and “erotic blueprints”

(00:26:38) - Responsive vs spontaneous desire, and helping your partner articulate what they want

(00:37:59) - Techniques specifically for men

(00:45:34) - The role and importance of breath for men

(00:52:55) - Meditation + masturbation

As a firm believer in the transformative power of sexual empowerment, Caitlin V takes a holistic approach to coaching, addressing not only physical techniques but also emotional and psychological factors that influence our sexual experiences. Through personalized coaching sessions, she guides clients on a journey of self-discovery, helping them overcome obstacles, embrace their desires, and unleash their inner sexual goddess or god.

But Caitlin V’s impact extends far beyond the individual. With a mission to destigmatize sexuality and promote healthy, fulfilling relationships, she shares her knowledge and insights through online programs speaking engagements, and media appearances. Whether she’s discussing the latest trends in sexual wellness or challenging societal norms, Caitlin V is a passionate advocate for sexual liberation and empowerment.

Connect with Caitlin

-Website: https://caitlinvneal.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaitlinV

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlinvictoriousx

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@caitlinvictoriousx_

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A Man's Guide To Mental Health

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: mental health, mindset, diet,

Whether you're just starting out with "the work" or you've snapped up a thousand books and podcasts, it pays to go back to the high-level now again again. This is a bird's-eye view of my framework on mental health, plus straightforward tactics that have been proven time and again by science, history, and my own personal experience. Dig in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and defining “mental health”

(00:05:03) - My basic framework for what produces suffering

(00:09:00) - Anxiety and energy

(00:13:54) - Seriously, working out and meditation should be prioritized

(00:16:25) - Limit your sugar, gluten, and caffeine

(00:18:13) - Sleep, mother****er

(00:21:58) - Social connection and body/breathwork practices

(00:24:49) - Your body stores what you’re not conscious of

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Mastin Kipp - Reclaiming Your Nervous System

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: neurology, biology, trauma, mindset

This was one of the most informative episodes I've ever recorded. As expected of Mastin Kipp, an old friend and incredible coach. We covered everything nervous system—and how there may be what you might call a "unified theory of trauma". Wildly grateful for this one! Note: we had some audio trouble for the first bit, but it cleans up after minute 12!

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the fragmentation problem in therapy and coaching

(00:08:47) - Mastin’s take on trauma, and the role of the nervous system

(00:29:44) - Do men relate, store, and deal with trauma differently?

(00:37:11) - Where do you as a man begin working with trauma—and where you don’t

(00:49:13) - What if you’re worried it’ll mess with your productivity/relationship/abilities?

(00:56:11) - How to simply improve your baseline wellbeing

Mastin Kipp, life coach, entrepreneur, author and self-taught expert on the human mind who bridges the gap between therapy, coaching, and personal development. With over two decades of experience, he combines psychological research, neuroscience, evidence-backed concepts and practical tools to guide individuals in unlocking their full potential to live a life with passion and purpose. Through his international personal development company, Functional Life Coaching, Mastin has impacted over two million people in 100+ countries with his writing, online courses, seminars, and retreats.

Connect with Mastin

-New Book: Reclaim Your Nervous System: https://www.amazon.com/Reclaim-Your-Nervous-System-Post-Traumatic/dp/1401979157

-Website: https://mastinkipp.com/

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5 Lessons From Fatherhood

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: fatherhood, mindset, perfectionism

To many of you, I'm still pretty new to the dad game, but it's honestly boggled my mind how much being one has changed my life and perspective on things. These are just a few of the things I've learned—or you could say my son has taught me.

00:00:00) - Intro, and number one: masculinity is modeled

(00:07:51) - “I would die for my kids, but I won’t live my life for them”

(00:10:21) - Your anger as a man is necessary. Your aggression is not.

(00:13:48) - Structure and limitation actually give you freedom

(00:16:27) - The aim is not perfection, the aim is progress

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Men's Work Session - Permission To Grieve

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: transitioning, parents, resistance

Sometimes in life, we feel stuck, and that can happen even after you've done "the work" and developed a deeper understanding of how your past shaped your present. My anon guest this week (like many of us) has trouble feeling feelings. Together, we dig a little into where that comes from and why.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what it was like growing up

(00:09:23) - “It’s hard for me to feel the hurt”

(00:14:21) - What transitioning was like, and how we can honor both our parents and ourselves

(00:23:55) - Connecting with grief

(00:32:25) - It’s sometimes more about claiming what it was we wanted

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Mark Groves - The Elusive Relationship To Truth

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 23:19:00 -0400

Talking points: truth, social media, relationships, men, culture

Phew! Mark and I covered about a million things this episode, but that's what happens when you've been friends for over a decade. There's an overarching theme though: getting caught up in narratives, and how that actually fractures our ability to stay relational and kind to people. Dig in for this very wide-ranging conversation.

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(00:00:00) - Why men a seen as the problem in our current society, and how social media plays into that narrative

(00:14:42) - Balancing our perception of what men and women each bring to the table

(00:27:59) - How Mark approaches charged topics and binary thinking

(00:43:07) - Dehumanizing is easier thanks to social media, and how to stay relational

(00:58:06) - Acknowledging complexity, and intersubjective reality

Mark Groves is the founder of Create The Love. His own rock bottom – a relationship ending – sparked his lifelong journey to turn his mess into his message. Today, Mark is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. All. The. Things. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.

Connect with Mark

-New book: Liberated Love: https://markgroves.com/elementor-landing-page-1696/

-Website: https://markgroves.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/

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To De-Sexualize Your Brain, Do This ONE Thing

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 10:10:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, social media, sex

Out of everything I've done, this is one of the simplest and most effective. To be clear, it's not about going abstinence-only or becoming a prude. It's about freeing mental bandwidth and take, taking ownership of my desires, and creating direction in my life. Dig in.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and why this isn’t about being a prude

(00:02:14) - The DBC: Digital Brain Cleanse. Step one, content

(00:06:17) - Step two: contacts

(00:08:06) - Last step: consciousness

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Peter Levine - The Many Sides Of Trauma

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma

This was an honor. The word trauma gets thrown around a lot these days, so it's important to get back to basics and really sink into what's going on and why. After all, this is humanity we're talking about, and we're nothing if not complex. Peter is a legend in therapy circles for his groundbreaking work in somatic education and trauma work, so we dug into many of the different (and unusual) things something like trauma brings to the table. Both Peter and I encourage you to listen WITH someone!

(00:00:00) - Peter’s definition of trauma and how it affects the body

(00:07:27) - Peter demonstrates a somatic exercise to help release trauma

(00:13:14) - Do men and women experience and handle trauma differently?

(00:21:40) - On how trauma needs witnessing to heal, and Peter’s experience with active imagination

(00:34:14) - Navigating the almost mystical side of healing

(00:39:45) - Why the tiger?

(00:43:27) - How can men work in a healthy way with anger, and how betrayal can impact how someone expresses themselves

(00:49:08) - The main tool to help process trauma

Peter A Levine, Ph.D., is the developer of Somatic Experiencing®, a naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma, which he has developed over the past 50 years. He holds a doctorate in Biophysics from UC Berkeley and a doctorate in Psychology from International University. He is the Founder and President of the Ergos Institute for Somatic Education, dedicated to Community Outreach and Post-Advanced Somatic Experiencing® Training, and the Founder and Advisor for Somatic Experiencing International. He has taught at the University of California, Berkeley; Mills College; Antioch University; the California Institute of Integral Studies; and the Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. His work has been taught to over 30,000 therapists in over 42 countries.

Dr. Levine is the author of several best-selling books on trauma, including Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma (published in over 29 languages); In an Unspoken Voice, How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness; and Trauma and Memory, Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past.

Connect with Peter

-Website: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/

-New book: An Autobiography of Trauma: https://books.innertraditions.com/autobiography-of-trauma/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpeteralevine/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/peteralevinephd/

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10 Things Men Have To Stop Doing

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 14:58:58 -0400

Talking points: mindset, relationships, sex, culture

Mildly spicy title, serious thoughts within. All joking aside, there are a number of things that most of us men do that undercut or diminish our sense of inner leadership, authority, and trust. These are the top 10 that I've seen in my work and in myself.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:02:28) - Stop making excuses for not working out regularly, and stop giving women free attention on social media

(00:09:46) - Stop comparing yourself to other men

(00:15:41) - Cut back on time wasters, or let go completely

(00:19:07) - Learn how to stop pursuing short-term gratification, and kill the lottery mindset

(00:24:17) - Stop believing you’re fundamentally broken

(00:29:38) - Stop thinking you need to do it alone, and stop thinking that peace comes after some monumental achievement

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3 Things That Will Change Your Relationship With Women

Thu, 30 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, sex

I've worked with a LOT of men and a TON of couples in relationships, situation-ships, and what have you. When it comes to what YOU as a man can do to craft a thriving partnership, there are 3 sort of "rules" that have come up again and again. They're also what changed the game for me and led to the wildly wonderful marriage I have now. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and rule #1: stop worshipping sex

(00:05:24) - Develop the self-esteem and willingness to walk away

(00:09:08) - Get into the right place in your life, THEN find a woman

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Nedra Tawwab - Bringing Depth And Boundaries To Your Relationship

Mon, 27 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking point: relationships, communication, boundaries

I am so honored to be talking to Nedra this week, whose work and words have helped untold numbers of people. Her work on boundaries balances firmness with kindness in a way that I find inspiring. If you're wondering how to be more assertive and have deeper communication in all your relationships, this is gonna be your episode.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how closeness is measured by depth

(00:09:39) - Emotional followthrough is critical

(00:14:48) - How to invite others into deeper conversations and how men get trapped in problem-solving mode in relationships

(00:27:31) - Do men and women approach boundaries differently?

(00:33:41) - Nedra’s take on what men miss with women in communication

(00:45:56) - How much does our family system impact our ability to have boundaries?

(00:50:11) - Nedra’s thoughts on the future of therapy, and what’s going to be necessary

Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is the author of bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day, she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.

Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect.

Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show, to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including The School of Greatness, We Can Do Hard Things, and Ten Percent Happier. She hosts the podcast You Need to Hear This, and shares practices and reflections for mental health on her popular Instagram account. Nedra currently resides in Charlotte, North Carolina with her family.

Connect with Nedra

-Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/

-Podcast: https://www.nedratawwab.com/nedra-podcast

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The Rise Of Angry Male Internet Gurus

Thu, 23 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: social media, masculinity, culture, the manosphere

You know the type. The conflict-focused, disrespectful bastions of non-matured masculinity. All loudly promising—if only you follow their framework—the secret to making millions and having your own harem.

I get a lot of asks to weigh on this. Specifically, what makes these guys so popular. Here are my thoughts.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what I grew up with

(00:03:39) - The feeling of virility and reckless certainty is understandable, but it has a cost.

(00:07:49) - If I were 19, I’d get the appeal

(00:10:05) - Men with actual status aren’t out there selling you status, and the formula these guys use

(00:14:55) - We need to pull back and ask who we’re actually listening to

(00:17:54) - It’s hard to find real elders; harder to listen

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Dr. Laurie Watson - How To Build Secure Sexual Attachment

Mon, 20 May 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, sex

Thrilled to have Dr. Laurie return! This time, we go deep on sexual attachment. How it shows up, how it's a little different than the attachment styles you might know of, and what might be blocking it in your relationship. There is TONS of good info and insight here, team, so listen closely.

(00:00:00) - What is the “sexual attachment cycle”?

(00:05:59) - Where does the push-pull dynamic start, and how cues to sex slow down in some relationships

(00:14:37) - What secure sexuality looks like on relationship

(00:21:19) - Why men come out of a hookup generally more satisfied than women

(00:27:29) - How do you end the push-pull dynamic and create secure sexual attachment?

(00:34:19) - Navigating intimate conversations, and don’t be fooled by social narratives

(00:43:21) - What creates a sexless relationship, and how to move forward

(00:51:13) - Rebooting sex after a sexless relationship: the blocks

Laurie Watson, Ph.D., MA, LMFT, LCMHC, Director of Awakenings, certified sex therapist, certified EFT therapist, certified addictions specialist from IICS, has thirty years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope for about their healing and happiness.”

Laurie is the host of the popular podcast, FOREPLAY RADIO, ranked in the top 10 on iTunes under Sexuality. Laurie authored her first book Wanting Sex Again—How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage in December 2012.

She’s a popular blogger, with over 15 million reads between her WebMD blog and Psychology Today Online. Laurie also lectures physician residents, PAs, and PTs at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction.

She has been published or quoted in almost every nationally popular media resource including the New York Times, Buzzfeed, HuffPo, WebMD, Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc. A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and Vogue Weddings and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro.

Director/owner of Awakenings, Counseling for Couples and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 11 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro.

Connect with Laurie

-Website: https://lauriewatson.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieWatson.CouplesTherapy/

-Podcast: Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/

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A Man's Guide To Dating An Anxious Person

Thu, 16 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, relationships

You asked, I answer! The latest Man's Guide, specifically for folks dating someone with anxious attachment or just general anxiousness. I've had a ton of couples come to be asking how to tackle this, so here are the important things to ask yourself, and six points you can work on right away.

(00:00:00) - Intro and one of the most important elements to shifting this dynamic

(00:03:38) - What role in the dynamic are you playing? It can be hard to admit!

(00:06:48) - Signs your partner has a lot of anxiety, and the general impact on you

(00:12:33) - Immense amount of empathy for those with anxiety

(00:15:18) - So what do you do? On responsibility and regulation

(00:21:11) - Don’t personalize the panic, and create some movement

(00:25:01) - Pull them back to the present moment, and one powerful question to ask

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Owen Marcus - How To Cultivate Mature Masculinity

Mon, 13 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture, relationships

What is it men are actually looking for? We know how media tends to define "masculinity", but what is it men are wanting to define? I sat down with MELD founder and fellow coach Owen Marcus to dig into some of this, because we've both found that what men really want and what mainstream narratives say they want are often two different things. Dig in, team.

(00:00:00) - Why do you think “masculinity” gets so much attention in our culture?

(00:05:44) - When are where do men feel most aligned, and why getting out of your head is important

(00:12:07) - Where did mature masculinity go, and the balance of biology and culture

(00:19:25) - What happens when men miss moments of maturation

(00:27:03) - The value of being able to share what you’re going through with others, and what gets in the way

(00:33:27) - What is emotional physiology?

(00:39:24) - Tools to get back into the body, and what about men who avoid the work for fear it’ll make things worse?

Owen Marcus resisted getting into men's work, and it was only because his pain exceeded his fear that he started his first men’s group in 1995 in his clinic in Scottsdale, AZ.

The conventional approach to men’s groups began to feel inadequate for Owen and the deep, transformative work he sought. After completing his straw bale home in the forests of Idaho, he decided to take everything he had developed in his practice and worked to create a new model. By the middle of 2005, he had a thriving men's group group.

What began as the Sandpoint Men’s Group (SMG) grew beyond Marcus's wildest expectations. Nineteen years later, it boasts over 400 alumni and more than 50 active members. This journey led to the birth of EVRYMAN and now MELD, each step an evolution of his initial vision.

Connect with Owen

-Website: https://meld.community/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meld.men/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/owenmarcus/

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How I Built A 7 Figure Business Marketing Only To Men

Thu, 09 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: business, mindset

I've been asked this for a long time now, and finally decided to press the button. I don't work in this industry to show off lambos, cohibas, and designer suits. It's to help other men be what they know they're capable of being. So if you're someone who's teaching, coaching, or making something for men, listen in, because here's what I've learned.

(00:00:00) - Intro, why I’m making this, and the problems to solve when working with men

(00:10:25) - What I’ve discovered works well. Number: get clear on the problem you’re solving

(00:12:33) - Speak to men directly. Not ABOUT men

(00:15:08) - Use multiple platforms, but have one in the lead, and pay for training

(00:21:04) - Leverage other people’s mastery and credibility by paying for partnership

(00:25:55) - Give value every step of the way

(00:29:47) - Develop a very deep level of competency

(00:33:51) - Build really strong relationships

(00:40:16) - Repetition, time, and consistency

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Men's Work Session - Overcoming The Fear Of Action

Mon, 06 May 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: purpose, archetypes, trauma, perfectionism, abandonment

This week, a shadow work session with an anonymous guest. If you've ever wondered what this kind of work is like, now's your chance to check it out. My guest today has already done some great work and has found drive and purpose, but something has kept him from taking action. As we work to find out what's going on, we learn about past events that laid a foundation of resistance.

Note: there's some heavy stuff in here. You've been warned. This episode has also been edited for clarity and anonymity.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what brought my guest in today, and the Guardian of the Threshold

(00:07:09) - What's contributing to the overwhelm, and the guest's mother

(00:14:30) - Going deeper and connecting with the somatic experience

(00:21:57) - The connection between resistance and two events in the past

(00:34:17) - We don't always need the full story in order to heal, and homework

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5 Questions That Will Change Your Life

Thu, 02 May 2024 16:33:25 -0400

Talking points: mindset, the shadow

I've been fascinated by the power of a good question for as long as I can remember. These are five simple (but not easy) ones that have radically altered my life for the better. I still use them today when I'm feeling stuck or unsure in my health, business, and relationships. Listen in!

(00:00:00) - Intro and the importance of good questions

(00:04:00) - Your mind has a LOT of unconscious content, and it’s actually useful

(00:06:43) - The benefit of framing questions as “sentence stems”

(00:08:45) - “The one thing I don’t like people to know about me is…”

(00:10:25) - “The one thing I could take action on that would make a difference is…”

(00:12:58) - “Is this something I can influence, or is it out of my control?”

(00:16:10) - “What really hard thing can I do that will make my life better?”

(00:18:35) - “What am I missing by choosing to worry?”

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Lisa Bilyeu - Staying Authentic In A Relationship

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, authenticity, mindset

How do you truly live life for yourself while navigating a relationship? What does it take to navigate what both of you want without creating resentment? How do you break free from what you're "supposed" to be—but remain authentic? These are all questions Lisa Bilyeu has had to answer in order to create an incredible life, and she's answered them powerfully. A privilege to sit down with her and dig into the intensity that can be modern relationships! Definitely going to be a part two!

(00:00:00) - Intro and Lisa’s defining moment

(00:07:25) - How Lisa held onto her authenticity and broke free from external validation

(00:12:49) - Lisa’s take on modern relationships, and the nuances of what women want

(00:27:19) - What women really want men to understand

(00:37:55) - How Lisa and her husband navigate who leads in the relationship

Lisa Bilyeu is cofounder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition and cofounder and President of Impact Theory. She is the host of Women of Impact, a show featuring women who have overcome incredible hardship to achieve massive success. Her mission is to empower all women to become the heroes of their own lives.

Connect with Lisa

-Book: Radical Confidence: https://bit.ly/49Yx3f1

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/WomenofImpact

-Podcast: Women Of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865

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A Man's Guide To Ending Shame

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology, shame, mindset

Trying so hard not to reference the bell ringing lady in Game of Thrones right now. Seriously though, a lot of us let shame run our lives. There are legitimate reasons why, but it doesn't have to stay that way. Listen in for how it starts, why it's so hard to clear, and ten (yes, ten!) thing you can do to break free.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how to better define shame

(00:03:30) - Why shame is so hard to get rid of: it’s natural, and its has a somatic component

(00:08:16) - It also can reinforce trauma. Here’s how they get connected

(00:13:52) - Shame as a source of safety

(00:18:36) - Understanding the physical side of shame

(00:23:21) - What does NOT help

(00:25:51) - When to seek professional help

(00:26:59) - Ten ways to move through shame. First one? Use curiosity to challenge it

(00:30:32) - Mindfulness skills, reframing, and separating personhood from behaviour

(00:35:00) - Putting the same in context, treating as a belief vs identity, and putting blame where it belongs

(00:40:01) - Finding an alternative story, and practicing expressing boundaries and assertiveness

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Jason Wilson - Breaking Free From Emotional Incarceration (Re-release)

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 10:01:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture, mindset

We've had a lot of new listeners recently, and this interview deserves a ton of attention. Jason's words and work are powerful examples of how important men's work can be. This is a re-release of one of my favorite interviews, one of the most impactful stories, and worth every minute. Dig in for thoughts on comprehensive masculinity, the dangers of "grindset", and so much more.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Jason’s defining moment

(00:07:45) - The video that got Jason global attention

(00:13:22) - Defining “emotional incarceration” and its devastating effect on men

(00:18:58) - Why do some men have such an aversion to rest and replenishment?

(00:24:52) - How Jason got into martial arts, and how he uses it to support young men

(00:33:54) - On the importance and teaching of defeat

As an expert in Emotional Stability Training®, Wilson’s leadership has garnered the CATTA numerous acknowledgments and awards for his work teaching males how to introspectively confront and conquer their negative emotions with composure. In 2016, one of the CATTA’s videos went viral with over 80 million views worldwide. As a result, Mr. Wilson was invited to be a guest on the Dr. Oz Show and to present the CATTA at President Obama’s ‘My Brother’s Keeper’ Showcase at the White House. Later that year, NBC’s hit TV show ‘This Is Us’ was so inspired by Wilson’s work, that they featured the CATTA’s initiation ceremony in one of their most viewed and award winning episodes. In 2018, Mr. Wilson signed with actor/producer Laurence Fishburne’s film company Cinema Gypsy to produce a documentary film on Jason’s work with the CATTA. It is scheduled to be released in 2021.

Mr. Wilson has over 25 years of martial arts experience, in addition to over 16 years of training and developing young black males. Mr. Wilson is a man of the Most High, a faithful husband of over 22 years and a proud father of two beautiful children.

Connect with Jason

-Website: https://mrjasonwilson.com/

-Book, "Battle Cry": https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400226996

-The Yunion: https://theyunion.org/

-The Cave of Adullam Transformational Academy: https://mrjasonwilson.com/catta/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjasonowilson/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrjasonowilson

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrjasonowilson

-Book, "Cry Like A Man": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G1YJ7DZ/

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How To Fix An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - A Man's Guide

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, relationships

Got a LOT of requests for this one! Relationships between anxious attachment and avoidant attachment folks are actually quite common. They can also be extremely tough. Listen in for what they're like, why the patterns are hard to break, and how to move towards a secure, grounded partnership.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what characterizes the anxious-avoidant dance, and why there’s no “villain”

(00:04:08) - Why that dance is so strong

(00:08:28) - Examples of the anxious-avoidant dynamic

(00:12:58) - Can anxious-avoidant relationships actually work, how to know if it won’t, and how to END the dance

(00:16:56) - The “protest and punishment” behaviors, and how to self-identify if you’re the anxious partner

(00:21:23) - How to self-identify if you’re the avoidant one

(00:27:05) - So what do you to? Tips for the anxious

(00:33:05) - Tips for the avoidant

(00:38:19) - What to do together

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Trevor Hanson - The Art Of Attracting (And Keeping) A Great Relationship

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 04:01:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, culture, sex, security, family

I'm lucky to be interviewing experts in all kinds of fields, but it is consistently enjoyable to dig deep into relationships. What keeps the spark, how couples navigate conflict, and how people can with together to create secure and thriving partnership. Trevor's been at it for a long while, and his gentle yet firm approach is something to be respected. If you're with someone, pull this up and have a listen!

(00:00:00) - Intro, and what is the “secret formula” for a successful love life, and what causes good sex in a bad relationship?

(00:07:42) - How do you move out of attracting insecure relationships?

(00:12:57) - What can a secure person or couple do to combat potential boredom with a relationship? How can security be sexy?

(00:18:43) - The importance of spontaneity for relational satisfaction

(00:21:54) - How do you support a partner through fears and insecurities around relationships deepening?

(00:27:35) - Navigating criticism, because you can’t criticize your way to a better relationship

(00:37:44) - Why Trevor chose to have kids

(00:42:43) - Why self-compassion is important, and what it really looks like in action

(00:54:33) - Trevor’s thoughts on how to figure out who you really are

(00:59:49) - On sharing your relationship and family events online, and why Trevor and his wife kiss in the rain

(01:05:38) - What Trevor does to maintain spark in his marriage

Trevor Hanson is a licensed marital and family therapist specializing in EFT, or emotionally focused therapy. Combining the depth of a therapist with the pratical guidance of a coach, Trevor works to bring empathy, acceptance, fun and gentle accountability to therapy. You can find more of him on his podcast "The Art of Healing."

Connect with Trevor

-Website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofhealingbytrevor/

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How To Start A Men's Group—And Why Most Fail

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: leadership, accountability, group settings, masculinity

If you're thinking about starting a men's group, or just want to know what to look out for, this one's for you. With everything going on in the world, I want to dig a little into creating your own men’s group—or what to look out for if you’re thinking of joining one.

Because the truth is there are legions of men who would benefit from belonging to something focused on the mutual benefit of everyone involved. Seriously.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and five traits to look for in the men you want for your group

(00:07:58) - Where most guys go wrong: lack of leadership, clear roles, and overstructure

(00:09:42) - The right amount of structure, and consequences of too much victimhood and not enough accountability

(00:12:31) - What are some of the core ingredients of a powerful men’s group? Number 1: some like-mindedness

(00:13:54) - A clear purpose, and clear rules of engagement

(00:17:04) - A culture of calling one another forward, and strong moderation

(00:19:48) - Willingness to say (and hear) hard stuff, transparency, and confronting the uncomfortable

(00:22:02) - An example meeting structure that works

(00:26:42) - The Hot Seat and how to use it, and a closing ritual

(00:30:14) - Be flexible to red alerts, and final thoughts on structure

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Dr. Aliza Pressman - The Principles Of Parenting

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 04:01:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, parenting, psychology, lying

Parenting has never been easy, but our modern culture adds a few extra layers of challenge and questions. Fortunately (and sometimes unfortunately, as you might have found out), there's a mountain of info online. This week, I sat down with the brilliant Dr. Aliza Pressman to dig into what works, what doesn't, what parents are facing these days, and how to sift through it all. Lots of great info here for anyone who's got kids or who's thinking about it. Seriously.

(00:00:00) - What kind of landscape are parents in now, and what do you think they’ll face in the future?

(00:11:15) - How do parents prep their kids for the onslaught that is social media?

(00:14:43) - Defining executive function, and how to build an environment that helps cultivate it

(00:25:03) - How do you help your kid develop good impulse control?

(00:32:09) - The early stages of development: what’s going on?

(00:37:56) - On learning how to manage discomfort, create safety, and the importance of roughhousing

(00:53:03) - What does effective discipline look like for children?

(01:01:00) - How to handle lying

Dr. Aliza Pressman is a developmental psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with families and the health care providers who care for them. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book THE 5 PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, and the host of the award-winning podcast Raising Good Humans.

Aliza is the co-founding director of The Mount Sinai Parenting Center and is an assistant clinical professor at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital. She holds degrees from Dartmouth College, Teacher’s College, and Columbia University. Aliza is the mother of two teenagers.

Connect with Aliza

-Website: https://draliza.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/

-Book: https://amzn.to/3TNDhZ0

-Podcast: Raising Good Humans: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans

-Substack: https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

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A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 04:01:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationships

Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've worked with a ton of men who have it. So let's dig in on what fearful-avoidant attachment is, how it affects relationships, and how to move back towards something more secure, authentic, and thriving with easy, deliberate steps.

(00:00:00) - Intro and defining fearful-avoidant attachment, and how conflicting it can feel

(00:08:20) - Where this attachment style starts, and what makes it different from anxious and avoidant

(00:13:19) - What does fearful-avoidant look like in a relationship?

(00:15:38) - What builds a fearful-avoidant style? Neglect and/or inconsistency

(00:23:33) - One of the most important (and unspoken) needs of a child

(00:28:19) - Parentification, one of the most common causes of fearful-avoidant attachment

(00:33:37) - More on what this looks like in a relationship: control, distrust,

(00:35:57) - Wanting closeness but fearing closeness, difficulty regulating emotions, and negativity

(00:38:24) - On being disappointed by others, protection from rejection, and concentration

(00:40:02) - The big one: inability to self-soothe

(00:41:40) - So what do we do? Two BIG steps

(00:45:24) - On how to self-regulate/self-soothe, and starting with the breath

(00:50:20) - Find someone to help you work with your hypervigilance

(00:53:07) - Develop consistent connection with your partner (or with friends). Here’s how

(00:56:53) - Build trust. Slowly. Over time

(00:59:46) - Set boundaries with the fear-based thoughts in your head

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Experts On: Initiation, Purpose, And A Man's Way Through Chaos

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 04:01:00 -0400

Talking points: purpose, initiation, adversity, grief, culture

It isn't always easy to find a sense of purpose or meaning in life, never mind feeling initiated into maturity. In these chaotic times, it gets even harder. This is a special compilation episode featuring four masters of finding humanity, clarity, and meaning in life. Their combined efforts have helped legions of people get a better handle on life and all of its twists and turns. Two of them are people I revere as elders, and three work with men and purpose on a regular basis. Featuring ideas from...

-Lion tracker, coach, and storyteller Boyd Varty: https://boydvarty.com/

-Depth psychologist Francis Weller: https://www.francisweller.net/

-Culture activist Stephen Jenkinson (unreleased material!): https://orphanwisdom.com/

-Writer, teacher, and coach Rainier Wylde: https://www.rainierwylde.com/

-Purpose guide Tim Corcoran: https://www.purposemountain.com/

(00:00:00) - Boyd Varty on the role initiation plays in a man’s life—and what happens without it

(00:16:20) - Francis Weller on why we need to (but can’t seem to) handle the unknown, failure, and grief

(00:25:45) - Why the soul needs failure to find meaning, and how Francis runs grief workshops

(00:30:35) - Given our current times, what does it mean to be a “generative ancestor”?

(00:33:05) - Stephen Jenkinson on what defines and gives meaning to your humanity

(00:39:47) - Rainier Wylde on how to find a sense of purpose in chaotic times

(00:55:27) - Tim Corcoran on how to practically define purpose, and what’s often in the way

(01:05:29) - Where does the “soul” fit into all of this?

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A Man's Guide To The Inner Critic

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 07:01:00 -0400

Talking points: psychology, mindset, self-talk

This is one of THE things that blocks men from all kinds of growth and progress. An internal dialogue that is harsh, abusive, shaming, even cruel. Let's change that, shall we?

If you or someone you know is constantly deprecating or talking negatively towards themselves, strongly encourage you to share this one. It's important.

(00:00:00) - Intro, how prevalent a harsh inner critic is, and how nasty mine was

(00:06:56)- Where does an inner critic come from, and how is it formed?

(00:11:13) - Neglect and abandonment

(00:15:52) - Trauma as an origin for a harsh inner critic

(00:16:57) - “Dark motivation” and it’s useful but maladaptive power

(00:23:15) - It damages your ability to appreciate or validate yourself

(00:24:45) - What to do, what NOT to do, and questions you can use to find your inner critic’s origin

(00:28:09) - Figure out what it wants

(00:29:51) - Set some boundaries

(00:31:34) - Repurpose the loyal soldier

(00:34:31) - Build a relationship with this part of you

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Duey Freeman - The Core Components Of Attachment

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 07:01:00 -0400

Talking points: parenting, children, attachment, psychology

You may have heard me mention Duey before. He co-facilitates the ManTalks Men's Weekends with me, and his work is absolutely incredible. I was thrilled to sit down with him last week, just before our sojourn to Texas. We dive into all things attachment. How children and adults experience it, when it starts forming, and how my own son has taught me some incredible lessons on it. Also, listen in for Thunderbutt. No, I'm not kidding.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Duey’s take on why real elders don’t seek power

(00:10:08) - How do we begin to truly understand our partner?

(00:15:49) - On the importance of curiosity and not assuming you know someone—especially your partner

(00:21:28) - What are the building blocks of really healthy attachment?

(00:30:52) - Attachment is somatic, and how children are inherently, incredibly sensitive

(00:45:27) - What “interrupts” attachment?

Duey Freeman, MA, LPC is co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, director of the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and owner of his psychotherapy private practice. After teaching for 24 years at Naropa University he has decided to move in a more creative direction. Most recently, in collaboration with Kimberly Beck M Ed, he has created: The Coming Home Project and Relational Rewilding Retreats.

A licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and consultant, Duey has extensive training and experience in gestalt therapy, equine therapy, family therapy, bioenergetics, and counseling with children and adolescents. Duey joined Naropa in 1992 and has been extensively involved in the creation of the Gestalt, Human Development, and Family Systems programs. He has helped to develop the Equine section of the Wilderness Therapy certification and degree. He taught for the University of Northern Colorado, traveling across Colorado teaching and working with schools systems supporting teachers to better understand and work with the children they teach.

Throughout the year, Duey partners with professional therapists and skilled horsemen and women worldwide to provide psychotherapy, Gestalt Equine Psychotherapy, parenting and human development workshops, and Relational Horsemanship classes. Some of Duey's partners include Joan Rieger, Duane Mullner, Erika Friess, Megan Powers, Rosemary Wyndham-Jones, Rob Pliskin, Kristi Moon, Kimberly Beck, and Amy and Steve LeSatz.

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3 Carl Jung Quotes That Will Change Your Life

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 07:01:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, psychology, the shadow

If you've been following the show for a while, you'll know I'm a big Jung fan. You also don't have dive too deep into his work to find game-changing ideas of his. Here are 3 short yet sublime ideas of Jung's that you can reflect on—and maybe even execute on—pretty much right away.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:01:46) - “Who looks inside, dreams. Who looks outside, awakens.”

(00:06:00) - “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”

(00:10:12) - “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”

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Matthias J Barker - Will AI Take Over Human Relationships?

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 07:01:00 -0400

Talking points: AI, porn, relationships, conflict

Yowza. So grateful for Matthia's thoughtful and nuanced ideas on everything from artificial intelligence to therapy-speak to anger and approaching relationships. We go from the esoteric to the practical and back again, so listen in team. This is a great one to share with a partner.

(00:00:00) - Intro, Matthia’s adventures with AI, and how it's already shifting culture

(00:16:42) - When AI does things TOO well

(00:20:32 ) - How AI will impact intimate relationships and the porn industry

(00:30:37) - What do AI and AI porn mean for the next generation, and how they’ll be impacted

(00:35:17) - How technology always has unintended consequences

(00:43:05) - Why does everyone seem like a narcissist according to online commentary?

(00:50:40) - On villain/powerlessness dynamics, and mature anger, and how trauma therapy is like a software update

(00:58:20) - How couples can end cycling or repeat conflicts

(01:05:55) - Mathia’s non-negotiables for lasting intimacy and deep relationship

Matthias is a psychotherapist and the CEO and co-founder of the Trauma Institute with Dr. Frank Anderson, providing clinical training for psychotherapists and education for the general public on healing from trauma. He is widely recognized for his unique approach to making mental health knowledge and skills accessible to the wider public. Through platforms like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and his top-ranking Spotify podcast, Matthias delivers psychoeducational content to a following of over 3 million people. Barker's innovative blend of engaging content and relevant mental health advice has fostered a vibrant online community centered on healing, personal growth, and moving toward what’s meaningful despite hardship.

Connect with Matthias

-Website: https://matthiasjbarker.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthiasjbarker/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCim71w-GtC46Vr48RbowBSw

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A Man's Guide To Stop Numbing Out

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 07:01:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, emotions, habits, burnout

Ever get the feeling you...don't feel anything? Yeah, me too. This is something that affects just about everyone at some point in their lives, and it contributes to overuse of all kinds of coping mechanisms. Here's what numbing out is, where it comes from, and a five-step method on how to get out of it.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconceptions around numbing out

(00:05:26)- Don’t see numbness as a villain, and some numbness “caveats”

(00:09:29) - What causes us to numb out? How is it a learned response?

(00:14:55) - What we need to know before we stop numbing out

(00:17:22) - The first step: what are you using to numb out?

(00:18:36) - Create a plan, and why you shouldn’t expect cold turkey to go well

(00:21:42) - If you have trauma, there’s a caveat

(00:23:32) - Numbness is itself an experience

(00:25:17) - Use your breath to reconnect to your body. Here’s why

(00:31:03) - Look for sensation

(00:33:45) - Final step: letting the sensations have a voice

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Brian Johnson - Practical Stoicism For A Better Life

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 07:01:00 -0400

Talking points: stoicism, mindset, philosophy, parenting

Brian proves that Stoicism is anything but unenthusiastic. We cover so much ground here, and Brian's passion and joy for what he does is inspiring. If you're looking for clearcut ideas on how to craft a self and a life that you're proud of, this is the episode to listen to—and share with your friends!

(00:00:00) - Intro and Brian’s defining moment

(00:06:50) - What is areté?

(00:09:02) - Why has there been a resurgence of stoicism?

(00:14:42) - Brian on how to parent when things are floundering, and how stoicism tackles fear and laziness

(00:21:24) - How does Brain raise his own son in an increasingly chaotic world?

(00:28:47) - What are some challenges young boys face today that are unequivocally different than before?

(00:39:11) - How does someone use Stoic principles to build more discipline with things turning to punishment?

(00:45:56) - “So…do I just have to go through the suck then?”

(00:51:54) - The science of hope

(01:00:27) - What is “targeted thinking”?

(01:03:40) - The practicals of antifragile confidence

(01:12:05) - How do you develop your own protocols for building your own antifragile confidence?

Brian Johnson is the Founder & CEO of Heroic Public Benefit Corporation. He’s 50% Philosopher + 50% CEO and 101% committed to helping create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by the year 2051. As a Founder/CEO he’s raised $25M+, made crowdfunding history, and built and sold two social platforms. As a Philosopher/teacher, he’s helped millions of people from around the world, trained 10,000+ Heroic Coaches from 100+ countries and created a protocol that science says changes lives. He lives in the country outside Austin, Texas, with his wife, Alexandra, and their two kids, Emerson and Eleanor.

Connect with Brian

-Website: https://www.heroic.us/arete

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heroicbrian/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRhEwzsFYLGcMa4m2AbTAoA

-Heroic App, iOS: https://apple.co/4c7uUQk, Android: https://bit.ly/3VcaKi2

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How To Get Results With Male Clients (And Why Most Coaches Suck At Working With Men)

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 08:01:00 -0400

Talking points: coaching, therapy, masculinity, mental health

Eyebrow-raising title aside, I know from personal experience it can be wildly difficult for coaches and therapists who work with men to make actual progress. But! There are clearcut reasons for this, and there are clearcut things you can do.

So if you're a coach or therapist who wants a better experience for both you AND the guy in your chair, listen in. If you're not one of those, then use this as a guide to help you find a coach that's right for you!

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:01:50)- Therapists tend to work with men the same way they’d word with women

(00:04:00) - The major reasons coaches/therapists struggle to get results

(00:09:42) - So how do you actually get results? And why rapport is so important

(00:11:38) - Get him out of his head and into his body

(00:16:05) - Develop the skills to truly be with his intensity

(00:20:54) - Identify where he feels he lacks competency—and build a plan

(00:22:50) - Learn to work with a man’s resistance, and repurpose his inner critic

(00:25:04) - Learn how (and when) to confront him on his BS

(00:25:58) - Be a friend

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Glenn Livingston, The Cravings Expert - A Science-Based Way To End Your Cravings

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: food, addiction, cravings

I've gotta say, I enjoyed this one a lot. Glenn has a TON of practical, actionable, and science-based advice on tackling cravings—and a nice dose of good humor. Grab a pencil and listen close for this one, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:02:26)- Why are so many North Americans overweight?

(00:10:01) - Glenn on the declining quality of food

(00:17:24) - Getting away from packaged food is generally more important than a specific diet

(00:19:57) - Why is overeating such a thing, how do we approach letting go of that, and “organismic distress”

(00:39:24) - More helpful examples of organismic distress

(00:43:17) - Where does understanding a craving start?

(00:54:53) - How does a craving actually get extinguished, and the “extinction curve” that they take

Glenn Livingston, Ph.D. was the long time CEO of a multi-million dollar consulting firm which has serviced several Fortune 500 clients in the food industry. You may have seen his (or his company's) previous work, theories, and research in major periodicals like The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Chicago Sun Times, The Indiana Star Ledger, The NY Daily News, American Demographics, or any of the other major media outlets you see on this page. You may also have heard him on ABC, WGN, and/or CBS radio, or UPN TV.

Disillusioned by what traditional psychology had to offer overweight and/or food obsessed individuals, Dr. Livingston spent several decades researching the nature of bingeing and overeating via work with his own clients AND a self-funded research program with more than 40,000 participants. He earned his Ph.D. is in psychology from Yeshiva University in 1991.

Connect with Glenn

-Website: https://www.defeatyourcravings.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/defeatyourcravings/

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A Man's Guide To Anxious Attachment

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, parents, relationships, attachment

Thanks to everyone who's written in on these guides, I love hearing from you. Next up? Anxious attachment. What is it, where does it come from, and what you can do to work yourself—and your relationships—away from it. If you've ever found yourself doing stuff like getting anxious because they didn't text you back or because you need their phone password, this might be the ep for you.

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(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:14)- The core essence of anxious attachment

(00:07:53) - Some differences between secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment

(00:09:57) - Causes of anxious attachment; number one, inconsistent parental responses

(00:15:08) - Ask yourself: how was my upbringing unpredictable, or where were my parents unpredictable?

(00:17:19) - Cause number two: overly intrusive caretakers

(00:23:38) - Cause number three: emotional dependence encouraged by caregivers

(00:27:03) - Next is parental unavailability or rejection

(00:29:45) - Lastly, abuse, trauma, or PTSD

(00:30:45) - So what do we do?

(00:34:25) - The biggest, most important piece: learn how to self-regulate. Here’s how

(00:41:18) - Solution number two: exposure therapy

(00:43:43) - Solution number three: work on your self-esteem and self-worth

(00:45:34) - Detach your worth from others’ validation

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David Spiegel - A Stanford Professor On Hypnotherapy, The Myths, And How It Can Heal Trauma

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma, hynotherapy, ADHD, insomnia, neurology, psychology

Team, this is an episode chock full of info. I've never touched on the subject of hypnotherapy before, but it's interested me for a while. Professor David Spiegel came to dispel some of the misinfo around hypnosis as a therapeutic practice, and he offered a TON of insight into what's really happening in the mind and brain during a proper session. If you've ever been curious about hypnosis or are looking for new healing methods to try out, this is the episode for you.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:05)- Myths about hypnosis

(00:09:14) - The neurology behind hypnosis

(00:17:43) - Neurological similarities between hypnosis and psychedelic experiences

(00:24:26) - More on what’s really happening in the brain during a hypnosis session

(00:28:35) - Can hypnosis help with ADHD, and how men tend to have difficult accessing a somatic experience

(00:35:52) - How can hypnotherapy help with trauma?

(00:42:59) - Hypnotherapy and healing the somatic intensity of trauma responses

(00:45:33) - David’s new therapeutic app

(00:52:12) - “It doesn’t have to be either/or, it can be both/and”

(00:56:10) - Insomnia, what’s involved in falling asleep, and how hypnotherapy may help

Dr. David Spiegel is Willson Professor and Associate Chair of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Director of the Center on Stress and Health, and Medical Director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, where he's been a member of the academic faculty since 1975, and was Chair of the Stanford University Faculty Senate from 2010-2011. David has more than 40 years of clinical and research experience studying psycho-oncology, stress and health, pain control, psychoneuroendocrinology, sleep, hypnosis, and conducting randomized clinical trials involving psychotherapy for cancer patients. He's published 13 books, 404 scientific journal articles, and 170 book chapters on hypnosis, psychosocial oncology, stress physiology, trauma, and psychotherapy. His research has been supported by the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Cancer Institute, the National Institute on Aging, the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation, the Fetzer Institute, the Dana Foundation for Brain Sciences, and the Nathan S. Cummings Foundation.

Connect with David:

-David's app, Reveri: https://www.reveri.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reveri/

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Do These 3 Things To Improve Relational Conflict

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, conflict

Key word there? Improve. There will always be some form of butting heads, no matter the relationship, no matter how long. But it doesn't have to be something that creates wreckage. It can actually be helpful. Here's what to do.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:02:27)- The first three minutes, and why conflict CAN be productive

(00:04:57) - Know the role you tend to play

(00:05:47) - Breathe and ground, breathe and ground

(00:07:20) - Don’t get stuck in the objective reality and ignore the subjective experience of each other

(00:11:33) - After a year, most couples already pretty set-in ways of arguing, aka this is gonna take practice

(00:12:42) - Study (and I mean study) the first three minutes of conflict

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Dr. Linnea Passaler - The Best Way To Heal A Dysregulated Nervous System

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: biology, nervous system, burnout, mindset, anger

I've said a number of times on the show that people with regulated nervous systems are going to be extremely well-equipped for the coming days. To that end, I wanted to bring dysregulation expert Dr. Linnea on to show how important—and how possible—it is be grounded, regulated, and flexible in our responses to life. If you're chronically stressed, THIS is the episode to listen to.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:56)- Why is learning about nervous system dysregulation so important?

(00:11:09) - What the ultimate core function of the nervous system really is

(00:21:08) - The intelligence of anger

(00:25:30) - How Dr. Linnea helps people identify and move through their anger

(00:33:32) - How much are nervous system issues derived from our parents?

(00:37:20) - On children, boundary testing, and how a little bit of adversity is actually beneficial

(00:43:35) - What’s more important: developing sensitivity to your current nervous system or understanding

(00:53:01) - The Alertness Elevator model

(00:59:23) - A five-stage plan to reverse nervous system dysregulation

(01:08:30) - The restoration, connection, and expansion stages

Dr. Linnea Passaler is a multifaceted health professional whose life and career have been driven by a passion for learning and her desire to assist others. With a degree in oral medicine from the renowned Universitá degli Studi in Milan, she interned at HSR Research- Ospedale San Raffaele – an advanced molecular biology facility located there. This experience kindled her interest and enthusiasm for research and immunology specifically. Through her journey and research, Dr. Linnea was able to recognize the effects of nervous system dysregulation on the sensitive person and how it contributes to conditions like anxiety, burnout, and physical and emotional symptoms. This realization drove her to found ‘Heal Your Nervous System,’ a platform that offers tools and resources to help individuals worldwide understand the root cause of anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, and physical and emotional symptoms

Connect with Dr. Linnea

-Website: https://healyournervoussystem.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healyournervoussystem

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healyournervoussystem

-Book: Heal Your Nervous System: https://amzn.to/3SN3HcC

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A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: attachment, mindset, relationships, psychology

The last “A Man’s Guide” was a big hit. I had a feeling it would be, but the response still surprised me! Next up, a serious breakdown of avoidant attachment. Here's the definition, where it comes from, the signs, and tips for moving away from it in a relationship.

This is a great episode to listen to with your partner. Take notes, discuss, and see what comes up! Lastly, thank you to everyone who reached out with comments, questions, ideas, and gratitude. I love doing these longer-form presentations; it means I get to nerd out and really lay things down.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:56)- Defining secure attachment versus avoidant

(00:06:51) - Attachment styles don’t mean you’re broken or diseased in some way

(00:08:20) - What an avoidant attachment style ultimately is, where it comes from, and one major type many men embody

(00:15:12) - One major origin point of avoidant attachment: emotional distance or unavailability

(00:23:59) - Another major origin point: premature independence

(00:26:44) - And the third: rejection of attachment

(00:29:27) - Last one: inconsistent responses and emotional stability

(00:33:49) - Signs of avoidant attachment in your relationship

(00:40:39) - What to do if you’re with an avoidant partner

(00:50:43) - What to do if YOU are the avoidant partner!

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Rob Henderson - Building Resiliency From A Troubled Childhood

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: childhood, trauma, foster care, relationships

We all know that poverty can have a massive impact on a child's future well-being, sense of self, attachment style, and more. Foster children face equally (if not more) significant challenges. Rob Henderson, author of the incredibly powerful book, "Troubled", explains some of what happens. Team, I strongly recommend this one if you're interested at all in childhood trauma, how attachment develops, the apparent demonization of young men, absent fathers, and of course, Rob's book. Seriously could NOT stop reading it.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:06:54)- How Rob approached writing such a profound book—and why

(00:14:27) - What’s the foster-care system like in America?

(00:23:01) - How does the foster-care system shape a child’s perspective on relationships?

(00:36:01) - How Rob found a sense of belonging

(00:39:23) - How did Rob repair or build relationships with men?

(00:46:06) - Rob’s take on how absent fathers impact children

(00:51:33) - On “Young Male Syndrome” and the limits of attachment

(01:03:40) - How do dating apps impact attachment, and how Rob worked on healing his own attachment style

Rob Henderson grew up in foster homes across California, and is a writer on human nature, psychology, social class, TV shows, movies, political and social divisions, and more. He's perhaps most known for pioneering the concept of "luxury beliefs," a term he coined to describe a new way of understanding the American status system. After working as a busboy, a dishwasher, and supermarket bagger, he joined the Air Force at the age of 17, stationed mostly in Europe and deployed in the Middle East.

Once described as “self-made” by the New York Times, Henderson obtained a B.S. in Psychology from Yale (thanks to the G.I. Bill) and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Cambridge (St. Catharine’s College), where I studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He is a founding faculty fellow at UATX and a columnist at The Free Press, and have written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Boston Globe, among other outlets.

Connect with Rob

-Substack: https://www.robkhenderson.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson

-Book: Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537

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Steps For Ending Self-Sabotage

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, sabotage

It's not easy, I know. We all do it, and we all wonder why. But there's a way forward—and it's simpler than you think, my friends. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:12)- What people do immediately after sabotaging, why it’s NOT effective, and what to do instead

(00:06:12) - Practical steps to move beyond self-sabotage

(00:10:49) - If there’s one thing to take away from this

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Henry Shukman - A Path To True Mindfulness

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: zen, meditation, mindfulness, psychedelics, mindset

I'm one of those people who hated sitting down and meditating, even after a few years of trying to practice. It's now something I do nearly every day, and it grounds me in ways I can't explain. This is a pretty common story, especially among men I've worked with, so I brought Henry Shukman back on the show to dig into what novice meditators get wrong, what some good starter methods are, and really: what IS thought, anyway?

Listen in for a great look at the start and "end" goal of mindfulness, and Henry's infectious enthusiasm for this powerful practice.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:47)- Do men and women have different struggles with meditation?

(00:08:35) - Why do meditation and mindfulness draw more women than men?

(00:18:45) - What are the initial resistance points when people start a meditation practice?

(00:25:03) - What IS thinking?

(00:31:57) - But what’s the actual goal of mindfulness, and how do you get there?

(00:38:56) - The power of allowing, and what it actually means

(00:49:29) - What is “original nature”?

(00:56:16) - Do psychedelics offer the same glimpse into reality as meditation does?

(01:04:24) - Henry’s upcoming app

Henry Shukman is a mindfulness teacher and the spiritual Director of Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has been trained by several Zen teachers, particularly the roshis Joan Rieck, John Gaynor, Ruben Habito, and Yamada Ryoun Roshi, as well as by teachers and mentors in other traditions. Henry has an MA from Cambridge and an MLitt from St. Andrews, and has written several award-winning books of poetry and fiction.

He currently guides a wide range of students from all walks of life. He received dharma transmission (inka shomei) from Yamada Ryoun Roshi, the abbot of Sanbo Zen, and is a Zen Master of the Sanbo Zen lineage of Kamakura, Japan.

Connect with Henry

-Upcoming app: The Way: https://www.thewayapp.com/

-Website; Mountain Cloud Zen Center: https://www.mountaincloud.org/

-Website; Original Love Meditation: https://originallove.org/

-Book; One Blade Of Grass: https://bit.ly/3CFLuFz

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mountaincloudzencenter/

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Why Are Young Men Abandoning The Left?

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: politics, culture

Recent data seems to show young men skewing more and more conservative and women more progressive. Why? Well, to my eyes, there's one major factor and a few others that are generating this shift. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:21) - What factors into this?

(00:04:42) - What happens for men in some progressive circles

(00:06:40) - And what happens for men in conservative circles

(00:09:26) - Other reasons impacting this shift

(00:13:38) - We’ve attached gender roles to political ideologies

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Case Kenny - On Being "Too Much", And Navigating Modern Relationships

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 10:56:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, mindfulness, marriage, logic, social media

Maybe you’ve heard me say this before, but the modern dating scene seems, well, insane. Case Kenny sat down for a great, insightful convo on why that's a thing, from the expectations social media feeds us, to the meaning of marriage to how AI is going to mess with all of it—or not.

Listen in and share this ep if you want honest thoughts and some straightforward tips on navigating modern relationships!

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:04:34)- Why are women worried about being “too much”?

(00:13:43) - What are guys actually trying to communicate to women who feel they’re “too much”?

(00:17:01) - On relational conflict, solving it, and how social media doesn’t do you any favours

(00:22:10) - On social media, intimacy, independence, and “settling down”

(00:33:10) - Case’s take on declining marriage rates

(00:39:01) - Case’s great definition of mindfulness, and mindfulness in the context of relationships

(00:49:58) - How can men use mindfulness to improve their relationships?

(00:56:50) - Case’s hard-hitting questions to journal on

(01:05:33) - Will AI impact the mindfulness space?

Case Kenny is a Chicago, IL based mindfulness author and podcast host of the top 25 US podcast "New Mindset, Who Dis?" No gurus, no fluff, and no preaching of generic life advice. Just his thoughts on self-help, wellness, and mindsets with practical and personal insights on how to live a passionate, purposeful, and happy life.

Connect with Case

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaseKenny

-Book: That's Bold Of You: https://bit.ly/42hZeDk

-Podcast: New Mindset, Who Dis?: https://bit.ly/3Ue7GkT

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A Man's Guide To Ending Codependency

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 10:54:00 -0400

Talking points: relationship, mindset, psychology

This is a big one, dear listener. This is a slightly new format for the series; specific topics I'll do a deeper dive on, centering on how you as a man can better understand them, better work through them, and better help others through as well. First up? Codependency. If you've got a specific topic you'd like me to cover, hit me up on Instagram @mantalks!

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:04:11) - What is codependency?

(00:08:30) - One the hallmark indicators you’re in a codependent relationship

(00:10:43) - Major causes of codependency: the peacekeeper, abuse, emotional unavailability, and the caretaker

(00:30:24) - The tale of Johnny Niceguy

(00:35:54) - The signs of a codependent relationship

(00:38:59) - Seven questions to ask yourself

(00:40:47) - Ways to actually move OUT of codependency, plus one that guys generally don’t like

(00:49:48) - Perfection is a fuel for codependency

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Lucas Aoun - How To Naturally Optimize Testosterone

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, environment, fitness

Is there a testosterone crisis? From the headlines I've read it sure seems like it. But what's going on, where is it coming from, and what can you do naturally to stay healthy? I sat down with Lucas Aoun to cover all of these things and more. Dig into this episode for a brilliant intro to optimizing hormone levels—particularly testosterone—and knowledge on how to avoid hormone disruptors.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:01:10) - What’s happening to men’s hormone levels, the symptoms, and what testosterone is responsible for

(00:09:41) - On cortisol, testosterone, and key building blocks

(00:16:26) - Outside of stress, what are some things negatively impacting test levels?

(00:22:07) - What about cardio or fasting?

(00:31:33) - Naturally optimizing testosterone with diet and sleep

(00:40:47) - Lucas’ take on TRT and the consequences

(00:45:06) - On tongkat ali, fadogia, shilajit, and other supplements

(00:56:44) - Lucas’ thoughts on creatine

Connect with Lucas

-Website: https://www.boostyourbiology.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoostYourBiology

-The Limitless Course: https://thelimitlesscourse.com/

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The One Thing Every Man Should Fight For His Life To Build

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 10:54:00 -0400

Talking points: collaboration, friendship, masculinity

Men, few things are more powerful, fulfilling, and expansive than this, so guard it with your life. It took me way too long to learn and understand, and many people diminish or degrade its importance. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:01:53) - Men are isolated and less collaborative than ever before, and we miss out on important things

(00:05:06) - Without male collaboration, our society would cease to exist

(00:06:40) - What I’ve learned over the last decade about male friendships—and male isolation

(00:10:02) - Maybe you yourself are one of those men who could use more friendships

(00:11:34) - We’ve got to protect this

(00:13:16) - Things you can do to foster male collaboration

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David C. Geary - The Evolution Of Sex Differences In The Brain & Vulnerability

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 14:20:00 -0400

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexuality

The field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.

Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.

(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships

(00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection

(00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits

(00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space

(00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity?

(00:30:38) - We don’t compete for mates in the same ways anymore, but are attraction cues the same?

(00:35:06) - Defining intrasexual aggression

(00:44:28) - The evolutionary case for vulnerability

(00:49:28) - David’s take on modern dating

(00:56:29) - What an evolutionary vulnerability really means

(01:02:25) - How are dating and relationships going to shift in the future?

David C. Geary is a cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist with interests in mathematical cognition and learning as well as the biological bases of sex differences. After receiving his Ph.D. in 1986 from the University of California at Riverside, he held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri, first at the Rolla campus and then in Columbia. Dr. Geary is currently a Curators' Distinguished Professor and a Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program.

Dr. Geary has written four sole-authored books; Children's mathematical development (1994), Male, female: The evolution of human sex differences (1998, second edition, 2010, third edition 2021), The origin of mind: Evolution of brain, cognition, and general intelligence (2005), and Evolution of vulnerability: Implications for sex differences in health and development (2015), as well as one co-authored book, Sex differences: Summarizing more than a century of scientific research (Ellis et al., 2008).

Connect with David

-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&user=bVcpj60AAAAJ

-Quillette: https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/

-Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-female

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Life After De-Sexualizing My Brain (And What To Do)

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, relationships

The biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.

(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made

(00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence

(00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that

(00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason

(00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in

(00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling safer

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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ManTalks Best Of 2023

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, loneliness

Every January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.

If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!

(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom

(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn

(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why

(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with

(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?

(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data

(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity

(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular

(00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret

(00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one

(00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships

(00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety

(00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety

(01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious?

(01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxiety

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Women Are Out Earning Men—And The Media Isn't Talking About It

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, culture

Let me start off by making one thing clear: this isn't problematic. But some other things are happening in tandem that I haven't heard any major outlet talk about. That itself is an issue. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and stats
(00:01:55) - What I find fascinating
(00:03:39) - This is something we ALL should be having dialogue about
(00:07:28) - Why authentic equality is really important
(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?
(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data

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Layne Kilpatrick - Why Testosterone And Fertility Rates Are Plummeting (And What To Do)

Mon, 01 Jan 2024 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, fertility, health, men's health

Note: we had some audio troubles with this one! Welcome to 2024, team. We're kicking it off a bit intense with the podcast. This week, a look at what the **** is going on with hormones. The science behind it all is complicated, but fertility markers across the board are dropping. Why? I sat down with Layne Kilpatrick to get some info.

This is a solid ep to check out if you're wondering what hormones (especially testosterone) are all about, and want some solid ways to clear away endocrine disruptors out of your home.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Layne’s defining moment
(00:02:24) - What the hell is happening with men’s testosterone rates?
(00:08:02) - The role testosterone plays in child development
(00:16:36) - How microplastics, phthalates, and other chemicals affect development
(00:21:00) - What can newly pregnant couples do besides stop drinking from plastic water bottles?
(00:24:32) - More on hormone disruptors and testosterone
(00:28:35) - On sperm and why you should store some while you’re younger
(00:33:37) - On glyphosate and atrazine
(00:39:58) - What some things men can do to support healthy testosterone and sperm production?
(00:46:12) - What should the T levels and sperm count actually be for a middle-aged man?
(00:52:45) - Layne’s take on drugs like Ozempic

Layne Kilpatrick began compounding hormone preparations as a pharmacy intern at the Apothecary Shoppe in downtown Salt Lake City in 1986 when the process of micronization was first developed, paving the way for more widespread hormone supplementation. He has developed several original formulations made exclusively at MOC. He has treated thousands of patients for hormone-related issues. He acts as a consultant to medical practitioners and other pharmacists both in and outside of Utah, advising on the interpretation of hormone labs, clinical signs, and symptoms, and effective prescribing practices for ‘native’ hormone therapy, as he prefers to call it. Layne is a native Utahn of pioneer heritage and has lived in Draper since 2003. He and his wife, Angie, have 5 children.

Connect with Layne:

-Website: https://hormonespecialist.net/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hormonespecialist

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hormonespecialist

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Five Steps I Used To Unf**k My Life

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 10:55:00 -0400

At a men's weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year!

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:00:40) - Stop lying
(00:03:03) - Do what you need (but don’t want) to do
(00:04:30) - Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time
(00:06:06) - Do some more of what you love
(00:07:13) - Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control

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Why Sexually Disciplined Men Are Attractive To Women

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: discipline, mindset, attraction, relationships

Title says it all, team. A lot of men simply aren't that disciplined when it comes to their sexual energy, despite the fact that being disciplined has some pretty immense benefits. Here's a look at why that is.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:01:12) - A potential major cause of insecurity in a partner
(00:02:41) - Why women are attracted to sexual discipline
(00:04:33) - It creates security and safety
(00:06:12) - Do this for YOU because a) it’s hard, and b) most men aren’t disciplined—at all
(00:08:13) - Your sexual body can be THE training ground for discipline

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Dr. Nicole LePera - Undoing Trauma Bonds And Getting Your Needs Met

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships

Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring.

(00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time
(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community
(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?
(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?
(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?
(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior
(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them
(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?
(00:50:28) - What do when resentment creeps into a relationship, and why it’s so important to listen to the wisdom of the body
(00:56:53) - Nicole’s take on how to regulate your nervous system
(01:03:46) - What is a trauma bond, and how do you know you’re in one?

Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, Dr. Nicole LePera’s teachings empower the individual to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become.

Connect with Dr. Nicole:

-Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/

-Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist

-Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH

-New book: How To Be The Love You Seek: https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com/

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/

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Why Most Men Have A Midlife Crisis—And What To Do

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: middle age, mindset, death, nice guys

I've worked with legions of middle-aged men. As of 2023, I'm one of them. It got me wondering why so many of us radically change (or catastrophically implode) our lives in our 40s and 50s. Here's what I've seen, where I think it comes from, and where to begin ensuring it doesn't happen to you.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why I call it the “middle passage”
(00:02:52) - The biggest reason men go through a midlife “crisis”
(00:06:59) - Pleasing Syndrome, and how to fix it
(00:10:26) - Fear of our own depths
(00:13:29) - The collapse of the illusion that right action leads to right outcome
(00:17:34) - What do you actually do with this info?

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Adam Lane Smith - What Every Man Should Know About Attachment—And What Redpill Gets Wrong

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: redpill, dating, relationships, mindset, culture, attachment

Adam's been making waves recently with his no-nonsense yet deeply considerate approach to the insanity that is modern relationships. This convo was centered around Adam's expertise in attachment theory—aka the way you as a child learn to get safety and love. You can probably guess that it's kind of a big deal. Dig in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Adam’s defining moment
(00:03:07) - What drew Adam to attachment theory
(00:06:16) - Adam’s definition of attachment, and why it’s important for individuals
(00:10:10) - The signs of secure attachment in men and women
(00:16:34) - More insight on anxious and avoidant attachment styles
(00:19:42) - Where do Nice Guys fit on the attachment spectrum, and how do they move towards secure attachment?
(00:29:47) - The sad and dysfunctional truth about how some men get out of anxious attachment
(00:36:33) - The mess that is modern dating, seen through the attachment lens
(00:44:19) - MGTOW and avoidant attachment, and “clear pill”
(00:52:11) - The loss of mature masculinity goes way, way back
(00:59:38) - The contributing factors to mature masculinity

Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From hardworking blue-collar families seeking to mend marital discord, to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam’s profound insights and advice have proven invaluable time and again.

Connect with Adam

-Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg

-Courses: https://adamlanesmith.com/courses/

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How I Dealt With Procrastination

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 10:45:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, life hacks, culture

The list of things I've tried to get over procrastination is so long you could wrap a town's worth of Christmas presents in it. But there is ONE thing that's actually helped. It's pretty counterintuitive, but it seriously has worked every time I've used it. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how I’ve battled with procrastination for a long, long time
(00:04:20) - Procrastination: what it’s actually trying to do
(00:08:22) - The one counterintuitive thing that worked for me
(00:11:44) - A side effect you’ll need to look out for
(00:14:46) - We have a very anti-boredom culture

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Sarah Wilson - Moving Through Discomfort, Tribalism, And Anxiety

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 10:45:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, bipolar disorder, culture, tribalism, climate, society

There aren't many out there with as wide-ranging knowledge and experience as Sarah Wilson, so I was thrilled to sit with her and dig into some of the heavier stuff. From practical tips for managing anxiety to collapsing neoliberal systems to the Dutch practice of "dropping", this interview has a bit of everything.

Strongly encourage you to check this one and share, especially if you're interested in mental health or where our culture's headed.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Sarah’s defining moment
(00:03:54) - What are “diseases of despair”?
(00:07:29) - What’s causing the rise of these kinds of deaths?
(00:11:32) - The loss of “discerning moral discussions” in the education system
(00:16:56) - Sarah’s take on collapse theory and its impact on mental health
(00:26:36) - How do we deal with the fracturing of dialogue and society?
(00:34:54) - It’s not an anxiety epidemic, it’s a lack of resilience epidemic
(00:44:44) - What are some practical ways to work with anxiety?
(00:54:08) - Resources for people with a bipolar partner, friend, or family member.

Sarah Wilson is a multi-New York Times and Amazon best-selling author, podcaster, social philosopher, international keynote speaker, philanthropist, and climate change advisor. She's known globally for the I Quit Sugar Movement, as well as her New York Times bestseller First, We Make the Beast Beautiful—described by Mark Manson as “the best book on living with anxiety that I’ve ever read”. Sarah’s most recent title, This One Wild & Precious Life, won the 2021 US Gold Nautilus Prize.

Connect with Sarah

-Website: https://sarahwilson.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_sarahwilson_

-Substack: https://sarahwilson.substack.com/

-Podcast, Wild with Sarah Wilson: https://pod.link/1548626341

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How To Attract Higher Quality Women

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, relationships

Title says everything, friends. Here are a handful straightforward things you can start doing to attract higher quality women. Caveat: these aren't Jedi mind tricks, they'll benefit you even if you're already in a relationship, and probably will help the dating scene be a little less chaotic for everyone. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:18) - Face your fears and be honest about the red flags you’ve ignored
(00:05:42) - Confront your fears relationally, emotionally, and sexually
(00:07:37) - Work towards your idealized self
(00:10:33) - Get in shape; the benefits are enormous
(00:17:02) - Be able to regulate your nervous system
(00:18:42) - Know what you will tolerate in relationship and adhere to that
(00:20:45) - Get offline

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TheTinMen - Is Inequality Really That Bad? The Surprising Research Behind A Shifting Landscape

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 10:45:00 -0400

Talking points (and content warning): masculinity, suicide, domestic violence, patriarchy, politics, culture

Whew. This was quite the conversation. I've been following TheTinMen for a while now and am continually inspired by his passionate yet levelheaded approach to what is (unfortunately all too often) wildly charged conversations. This is a heavy one, team—and deeply important.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why "TheTinMen"?
(00:04:17) - George’s defining moment
(00:08:40) - How do you approach the topic of domestic violence, and it's biggest causal factor
(00:12:00) - What factors into domestic violence outside power and control?
(00:21:38) - George’s take on the patriarchy
(00:28:04) - How do you engage people who think all men are evil?
(00:33:22) - In the UK, fathers are legally second-class parents
(00:38:41) - The misconceptions around male suicide
(00:46:34) - What are men saying to George directly about suicide?
(00:46:34) - How does the epidemic of male vacancy play into the challenges young boys are facing?
(00:55:21) - Why men leave the left
(01:04:25) - How do you handle such charged conversations?

Connect with TheTinMen

-Website: https://thetinmen.blog/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetinmen/

-Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thetinmen/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheTinMenBlog

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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The One Question Every Man Should Answer (And Every Woman Should Ask)

Thu, 23 Nov 2023 10:44:00 -0400

Talking points: mindset, goals, direction

If there's anything you should be prepared to talk about with a partner, this is it. I think men underestimate how potent it is, how attractive it is, and how beneficial it is for themselves and for everyone else...

What's your vision?

(00:00:00) - Intro and the Question
(00:02:43) - Your vision helps women understand you better—and it’s attractive
(00:03:29) - Purpose comes FROM vision
(00:05:47) - There’s aliveness when working on your vision, but it’s easy to get stuck on what’s not going well
(00:09:35) - Why depth is my direction

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Men's Work Session - Recovering And Healing Old Grief, Part Two

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: fatherhood, attachment, communication

Back in August, I had this gentleman on, and we covered some deep ground. In part two, we end up looking at a present struggle, fatherhood, and how it both connects and is separate from old patterns.

This is an excellent episode to check out if you’ve been curious about what shape repeat sessions can take, and how we can use what we’ve learned about ourselves not just to overcome our own obstacles, but help others too.

(00:00:00) - Intro, recap, and an update
(00:05:49) - We tend to overlook the healing and focus on what’s still going wrong
(00:09:56) - The challenges helping and managing an adopted son, and the fear of being unable to help
(00:18:21) - Similarities between what’s being experienced now and what was experienced as a child
(00:20:29) - What it’s like trying to connect with a son and not feeling like it’s happening
(00:28:24) - “What feels familiar between the relationship you have with your son and the relationship that you as a boy had with your father?”
(00:30:04) - You might be more alike than you think
(00:34:36) - How might the work of grieving a mother’s passing and relating to your son be connected?

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The Epidemic Of Male Vacancy

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Talking points: culture, relationships, systemic issues

66% of young men are single, fewer and fewer men are graduating college, boys are disproportionately punished in school, there are fewer male teachers and therapists than ever, and millions of men aren't even listed as unemployed because they're simply not seeking work. Something's going on.

(00:00:00) - Intro and some stats
(00:04:17) - I’m not going to sit here and blame men OR women
(00:06:30) - Social reasons men check out
(00:09:45) - The definition of a good man is almost entirely up to women
(00:12:06) - Structurally, men aren’t being incentivized to go into higher education
(00:14:59) - I think that support networks for men and boys are collapsing or are not male friendly
(00:16:57) - Men generally aren't finding resonance in the therapeutic industry, nor can they find male therapists
(00:19:41) - There’s been a significant decline in the number and diversity of male relationships
(00:22:30) - Where do we go from here?

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Wim Hof - Breathe, Motherf***er (Re-release)

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: breathwork, neurophysiology, fear

I know many, many people whose lives have been profoundly changed by getting into Wim's style of breathwork, myself included. This was one of my absolute favorite interviews, and Wim's fierceness and passion for helping people is absolutely mind-blowing.

If you're looking to understand a little more about what breathwork can do, this is THE episode for you.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what happens when men gather
(00:03:56) - One of Wim’s defining moments: trapped under the ice
(00:06:14) - Wim’s journey with fear
(00:11:13) - How do we begin using our breath to confront fear, and some of the science behind breath work.
(00:20:38) - On how breath helps regulate the nervous system
(00:28:07) - Why breath work and cold therapy?
(00:31:57) - Are there any similarities between deep breath work and psychedelics?
(00:36:48) - Does breathwork behave similarly to DMT?
(00:42:23) - Why do some people get tingly or see shapes during breath work?
(00:49:00) - Are inflammation and fear related?

Wim Hof, aka "The Iceman," is a Dutch extreme athlete born. Renowned for his ability to withstand extreme cold, Hof has set records for ice endurance and advocates for the health benefits of cold exposure combined with his breathing techniques. His Wim Hof Method, a blend of cold therapy, breathing, and meditation, claims to control the autonomic nervous system and immune response, intriguing scientists and wellness enthusiasts alike. Beyond his physical feats, Hof promotes a philosophy of natural living and the mind-body connection, inspiring people globally to explore their own potential boundaries.

Connect with Wim

-Website: https://www.wimhofmethod.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxHTM1FYxeC4F7xDsBVltGg

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Becoming The Man You're Capable Of Being

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: potential, growth, mindset

We all have images of who and what we're capable of. Flashes of motivation and inspiration based on what we know deep, deep down to be true of us.

Getting from images to reality, from dreams to concrete fact, is the battle. The best one you'll ever fight. The following are simple (but not easy) steps based on years of work with men, endless hours of study, and mentorship with some amazing people.

(00:00:00) - Intro and where the challenge lies
(00:03:37) - Develop skills that matter to you, will improve your life, and improve others’ lives
(00:05:32) - Know (and take) the risk
(00:08:04) - Connect to your direct, felt experience
(00:12:40) - Express and transmit what you’re experiencing
(00:14:17) - Realize what it is you want, but pay attention to what life is saying you need
(00:15:27 ) - Pursue your fears and discomfort
(00:16:48 ) - Pay attention to your own darkness AND learn what it’s trying to teach you

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Paul F Austin - Are Psychedelics The Catalyst For A New World?

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 10:50:00 -0400

Talking points: psychedelics, therapy, culture, interdependence, history, materialism

It's been several years since I last talked with Paul, and he's been busy. We branch out into a number of ideas, all centered around what psychedelics have done, are doing, and COULD do for humanity.

If you're looking for thoughts from an expert on where the therapeutic industry might be headed—and what's needed from all of us—this is the conversation for you. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Paul’s defining moment
(00:06:02) - Why do you think psychedelics were so villainized back in the day?
(00:11:29) - Would you say that part of the psychedelic experience is interaction with the unconscious?
(00:15:16) - Did psychedelics influence Jung’s “Red Book”, and how can psychedelic use actually improve mental health?
(00:24:11) - Psychedelic use should also assist collective mental health, not just individualistic goals
(00:29:42) - What is the recipe for a bad trip, and the importance of preparation and post-trip integration
(00:39:20) - Paul’s thoughts on the future, and possible concerns culturally and for teenagers
(00:46:43) - How can psychedelics impact our capacity to lead ourselves and others?
(00:56:10) - What would individuals and leaders do to deepen their understanding of interdependence?

Paul F. Austin is one of the most prominent voices in the world of psychedelics. As the founder of Third Wave, he has educated millions on the importance of safe and effective psychedelic experiences. A pioneer at the intersection of microdosing, personal transformation, and professional success, he has been featured in Forbes, Rolling Stone, and the BBC's Worklife. Paul helps others use microdosing as a tool for professional development and increased self-awareness by treating the use of psychedelics as a skill refined through mentorship and courageous exploration.

Connect with Paul

-Website: https://www.paulaustin.co/

-The Third Wave: https://thethirdwave.co/

-The Psychdelic Coaching Institute: https://psychedeliccoaching.institute/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulaustin3w/

-Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-psychedelic-podcast/id1200537009

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The Simpification Of Modern Men

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: domestication, culture, biology

To be clear straight out the gates, I don't think there's some vast conspiracy to weaken all men. But there are certain aspects of our culture, our food, and more that have a synergistic effect. One that's messing with men on multiple levels. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the ways men are becoming domesticated
(00:03:18) - Masculinity and what it means to be a good man is now almost entirely defined by women
(00:05:40) - A narrative that men are essentially defective women, or unwanted, or automatically at fault
(00:10:42) - The simplification is also biological, through microplastics, additives, and more
(00:13:59) - Stress and distraction levels are through the roof
(00:17:03) - So…what do we do?
(00:20:04) - Life isn’t supposed to be easy all the time

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Dr. Thomas Hübl - Practicing Interdependence To Heal Our Trauma

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma, culture, collective healing

Wow! Very grateful to have had the opportunity to sit with Thomas recently to discuss not just his book, but his vision and mission for people everywhere. This was a deeply moving conversation; Thomas' perspective on how trauma forms and how it needs to be healed will be resonating with me for a long, long time. Check this out.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Thomas’ two defining moments
(00:06:41) - How trauma reorients your perspective towards safety
(00:10:37) - What is “attunement”?
(00:23:10) - Tension is reduction of emotion
(00:30:55) - Where does polarization fit into all of this?
(00:40:23) - How do we start dealing with this?
(00:45:53) - What's covered in Thomas' new book

Thomas Hübl, PhD, is a renowned teacher, author, and international facilitator who works within the complexity of systems and cultural change, integrating the core insights of the great wisdom traditions and mysticism with the discoveries of science. Since the early 2000s, he has led large-scale events and courses on the healing of collective trauma.

He is the author of Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World, and Healing Collective Trauma: A Process for Integrating Our Intergenerational and Cultural Wounds. Hübl has served as an advisor and guest faculty for universities and organizations, as a coach for CEOs and organizational leaders, and is currently a visiting scholar at the Wyss Institute at Harvard University.

Connect with Thomas

-Website: https://thomashuebl.com/

-Book: Attuned: https://www.attunedbook.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Huebl.Sangha/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thomashuebl/

-Podcast: https://thomashuebl.com/#podcast

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Insecurities: What They Are, Why They Form, And What To Do

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, insecurity, mindset

Ever do research on a topic and realize most of the stuff on the internet is...pretty worthless? Yeah me too. This week, a look at what really causes insecurity, and some things you can do that will actually help.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:05) - Defining insecurity
(00:04:53) - What makes this reframe interesting, and 3 ways insecurities are formed
(00:09:09) - So what do we do? Because there’s no quick fix
(00:11:18) - You cannot affirm your way out of insecurity
(00:13:22) - Pursue your fears
(00:15:38) - Focus on the intersection of self-compassion and self-mastery

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Figs O'Sullivan - On Diagnosing Your Partner, Blame Games, And Emotional Pursuers

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: couples therapy, emotions, modern culture, empathy

Delighted to have the wit and wisdom of Figs O'Sullivan to content with once again. It's been too long! We cover a lot of ground, specifically around couples therapy, so I encourage you to check the timestamps and listen in.

(00:00:00) - As people learn more “therapy-speak” and watch more TikTok “experts”, how is that filtering down into relationships?

(00:06:50) - Why do some people default to blaming their partner when things don’t go well?

(00:12:57) - Why talk about diagnosing partners yourself is so difficult, and how competency can actually, sometimes, make you IN-competent

(00:18:24) - What’s your opinion on modern therapy infiltrating culture the way it has?

(00:22:49) - Is modern therapy set up well enough to truly help men?

(00:30:25) - Why do couples fight over and over—and what do they fight about?

(00:30:25) - The emotional pursuer and emotional withdrawer dynamic

(00:41:25) - What are some ways out of that dynamic?

(00:46:17) - What gets in the way of empathy, and how can that be overcome?

(00:50:37) - What does good couples therapy entail, and how do you know it’s working?

(00:55:25) - It’s important to pay attention to the ease of things as well as hard stuff

Connect with Figs

-Website: https://empathi.com/

-Podcast: Come Here To Me: https://get.empathi.com/comehere

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw

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The ONE Thing No One Talks About When Quitting Porn

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: porn, attachment, relationships

Title says it all, friends. I genuinely don’t see very many people talking about porn from this angle. Which is kind of surprising, but here we are. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and some of my own story around porn
(00:03:49) - What nobody else seems to be talking about
(00:07:57) - And THAT is why porn can be hard to let go of
(00:10:32) - Reorienting yourself towards other relationships

Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Tom Nash - Redefining Problems, Post-Traumatic Growth, And Exploiting Adversity

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: adversity, disability, resiliency vs anti-fragility, growth, mindset

Everything about this convo was enjoyable, but I think what I appreciate most is how pragmatic and straight-up grounded Tom's insights are. It makes for highly effective advice you can work on right away. Bonus: he's a great storyteller.

This is a great episode to dig into if you're looking for inspiration towards a different approach to things, especially hardship.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the importance of living in a place you don’t always like
(00:07:00) - Tom’s defining moment
(00:09:43) - What Tom gained from intense physical hardship
(00:15:52) - Reorienting yourself instead of the problem, and post-traumatic growth
(00:20:05) - Is resiliency born or revealed by hardship, and have people treated you differently?
(00:23:25) - How do you approach problem-solving itself, and how Tom became a DJ
(00:34:10) - Tom’s definition of anti-fragile and resiliency
(00:50:06) - Did therapy help?

Quadruple amputee and DJ, Tom Nash exercises his unique knack for storytelling alongside his often dark and dry sense of humour, to lead audiences down a path of self-discovery, encouraging them to inspect their lives from a different angle. Tom’s grounded approach to working out what’s important and setting aside the noise of life, resonates with listeners.

Tom explains how harnessing the power of adversity helped him to build a more pragmatic, productive and self-reflective mindset. Applying the lateral thinking methods imbued upon him to circumnavigate physical issues into his vocational endeavours carved out a new line of thinking.

Connect with Tom

-Website: https://www.tomnash.com/

-TED Talk: http://bit.ly/TomNashTEDMain

-Book: Hook, Line & Sinner: https://www.tomnash.com/hls

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djhookie/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/djhookie

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tomnash82

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/

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How To De-Sexualize Your Brain (And How It Changed My Life)

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: sex, social media, conditioning, culture

I know what it’s like to feel controlled by your own sexed-up brain. Like you’re losing hours of your day, mental bandwidth and more to clothes-less strangers on the internet.

So I wanted to lay down some real talk about what I've done—and how hard it can be—to de-sexualize my brain and stay disciplined. I also get into some of the benefits it’s hard for me, my business, and my relationship. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why I’m talking about this
(00:04:31) - Not only is your brain probably overstimulated, it’s probably avoiding something
(00:06:16) - You’re going to have to get some excitement somewhere
(00:08:10) - Cut out thirsty triggers
(00:11:18) - Stop chasing empty dopamine “calories”
(00:12:22) - Use tech properly
(00:14:30) - Use BETTER tools

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Men's Work Session - Confronting Unresolved Abandonment

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: fatherhood, abandonment, depression, coping

Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what the men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This week I wanted to feature a client who struggles with something I'm deeply familiar with: knowing what the work is AND doing that work, but nothing's really felt "resolved".

Together, we uncover some of what's been keeping his progress in what feels like stasis. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what my guest wants to work on
(00:04:26) - What’s disruptive for you about being rejected?
(00:08:35) - The complexities of divorce
(00:13:52) - “I don’t really get angry”
(00:19:07) - Movement, at times, requires anger
(00:26:21) - Talking to your 8-year-old self
(00:30:35) - What 8-year-old-you might say back
(00:33:24) - The Homework

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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What Women Do To Emasculate Men

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, power dynamics, masculinity, femininity

FYI, I'm diving into this because women have asked over the last few months, not men. And to keep things balanced, I'll be doing a companion video soon on what men do to de-feminate their partner. Listen in!

Would also love your thoughts on the topic. Hit me up on Instagram @mantalks.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:53) - Withholding sex (with caveats)
(00:05:43) - Withholding a fun, playful, or joyful nature
(00:08:55) - Being overly controlling when it isn’t necessary
(00:11:52) - Trying to forcibly change your partner
(00:16:00) - Mothering your partner
(00:17:54) - Demeaning men’s activities
(00:19:20) - Withholding appreciation and/or using a man’s vulnerabilities against him

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Jillian Turecki - What's Truly Important In Your Relationship?

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, money, dominance, death, marriage, sex, culture

You know by now wide-ranging conversations are the norm for ManTalks, but this one? Extraordinary. Jillian Turecki and I get into all things relationships, from power dynamics to death and dying to how money matters have shifted relationship culture.

Strongly encourage you to listen to this with a friend or your partner and dig around in it. There is NO shortage of things to mull on here. See where your conversation goes!

(00:00:00) - Intro and Jillian’s defining moment
(00:05:59) - How did being with your mom in her final moments change you?
(00:11:09) - On death in Western culture
(00:17:51) - How do you support a partner through the grief of losing a parent or friend?
(00:23:58) - What actually goes into us choosing our partners, and the importance of being self-aware
(00:41:12) - Do you think that marriage is dying in American culture?
(00:44:29) - Do women still want to get married, and the difficulty of the dating market
(00:49:36) - On how 50 Shades of Grey was helpful, but also screwed women over
(01:07:23) - On women out-earning men, and what people should question
(01:24:37) - On sex, power, and dominance in the bedroom

Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves.

Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world-renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes, Jillian is certified by the Robbins Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention, a renowned coaching program known for its innovative strategic solutions to the most difficult relationship problems. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching and teaching.”

Connect with Jillian:
-Website: https://www.jillianturecki.com/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/
-Conscious Women Membership: https://www.jillianturecki.com/conscious-woman
-Podcast: Jillian On Love: https://apple.co/3PYISuK

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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What It Takes To Be A High Value Man

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 09:45:00 -0400

Talking points: integrity, mindset, values

The manosphere is chock full of high value this, high value that. Alright, fine. But what is that really? A lot of the conversation centers around wealth and social status. There's way more to it than that.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:45) - Do you have solid internal structures around self-leadership?
(00:04:58) - The biggest challenge every man will face
(00:07:10) - On impulse control and freedom, and just how difficult they are
(00:10:30) - What makes this kind of value attractive to women

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Dr. John Delony - Building A Non-Anxious Life, Presence, And Thriving Relationships

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, anxiety, presence, parenting, relationships, spirituality

I'll let the podcast do the talking; this was a wide-ranging, thoroughly enjoyable conversation with John! This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you want digestible, knowledgeable talk around managing anxiety, creating healthy dialogue in relationships with partners and kids, and much, much more. Check the timestamps!

(00:00:00) - Intro and John’s defining moment
(00:05:52) - Why do you think men have a pull towards intense physicality?
(00:11:50) - Do you feel there’s a correlation between anxiety and not developing a relationship with your body?
(00:15:40) - John’s take on anxiety and its biggest causes
(00:20:17) - Different causes of anxiety for modern men and women
(00:29:09) - What’s killing male friendships?
(00:34:29) - The power and importance of presence for your kids
(00:44:39) - There is no health without relationships
(00:46:58) - Neuroception and how overachievement might be overrated
(00:59:45) - Skills for dealing with anxiety in yourself and in your partner
(01:16:44) - The importance of a spiritual component to life

Dr. John Delony earned his Bachelor of Arts in humanities and psychology at Lubbock Christian University and his Masters of Education in higher education administration from Texas Tech University. He went on to earn two PhDs from Texas Tech University—one in counselor education and supervision, and the other in higher education administration.

After spending over twenty years in crisis response and leading students in higher education (and finding real solutions and freedom in his own wellness journey), John knew he wanted to help as many people as possible heal from their past trauma and live whole, connected lives. He now writes, speaks and teaches on relationships, mental health, anxiety and wellness. He also hosts The Dr. John Delony Show where he answers callers’ questions about all of the above, and serves as co-host of The Ramsey Show where he helps unpack the psychology behind finances.

Connect with John

-Book (out Oct 3): Building A Non-Anxious Life: https://store.ramseysolutions.com/personal-growth/books/building-a-non-anxious-life-by-dr-john-delony/

-Website: https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johndelony/

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/3PNP4pg

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/johndelony

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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How To Actually Get Your S**t Together

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: gratitude, fitness, social media, mindset

If you knew me in my 20s, you would NOT have expected much of me. I was aimless, hated myself, and was not coping well at all. And I'll won't mince words, it was a long, bumpy road to where I am now.

But these 8 practices didn't just help, they radically changed my life. Seriously. This is the mini-episode for you if you're feeling stuck or frustrated with where you're at in life.

(00:00:00) - Intro and where I started
(00:08:24) - Create an internal environment of appreciation and gratitude
(00:12:40) - Use your body. Really. Use. Your. Body.
(00:17:18) - Meditate or journal every single day. One or the other
(00:22:33) - Consume better content
(00:27:14) - Replace coping mechanisms with generative habits
(00:28:41) - Work on your purpose, mission, or business every single day
(00:30:45) - Don’t know your purpose? Let your quest to find it BE the purpose
(00:33:24) - Start to socialize with more people outside your comfort zone

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Sara Kuburic - It's On Me: Existential Psychology 101

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: existentialism, self-loss, therapy, Kierkegaard, culture, responsibility, anxiety

Just before (like, literally just before) six days of solitude in Scotland, I had the immense privilege of chatting with Sara Kuburic, the brilliant existential therapist and new author of It’s On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Yourself, And Change Your Life, coming out tomorrow.

Not sure what existential therapy is? Well we get into here, plus a multitude of other things, like facing what YOU are responsible for, losing the sene of self, and how some of this plays out in modern culture. Do not miss this one, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Sara’s defining moment
(00:06:52) - What Sara was in denial of
(00:10:57) - Why we fall apart when things are going well
(00:18:58) - The importance of looking at the darker stuff
(00:21:11) - Pillars of existential psychology
(00:29:19) - Have we, as a collective, lost our sense of self?
(00:36:01) - What’s Sara’s “existential psychology take” on American culture?
(00:41:18) - “Our degree of freedom dictates our degree of responsibility”
(00:44:17) - Defining “self-loss” and the role grief plays
(00:54:52) - Can responsibility-free time help define the self?
(01:01:05) - How does one develop a relationship with the body that helps orient the self?

Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. She was born in Yugoslavia and raised in Canada. She is passionate about helping people seek change and live authentic, free, and meaningful lives. Her interest in psychology stems from her personal experience living through wars, navigating complex relationships, and continually learning what it means to be human.

Connect with Sara:

-Website: https://www.sara-kuburic.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarakuburic/

-Book: It's On Me: https://www.sara-kuburic.com/new-page-3

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Six Days In Solitude (And Why You Might Need The Same)

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: solitude, contemplation, mindset

By the time you hear this, I’ll be way out on the Isle of Skye, the home of my ancestors, for some intentional solitude. This kind of deliberate aloneness is something I think every man needs, but doesn’t really attempt.

Listen in for a reflection on what and why I’m doing this, and why it might help you too.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:01:35) - For years, I didn’t like being alone
(00:03:35) - I believe every man needs SOME responsibility and distraction-free time
(00:05:30) - Why I chose Scotland
(00:08:54) - The kind of questions I’ll be asking myself while alone
(00:11:02) - Men crave clarity

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Ron Williams - Foundations Of Fitness

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: workouts, form, nutrition, fitness

The last time Ron was on the show, he shared an incredible story of overcoming adversity, and crafting a life of resiliency. I wanted him back on the show to discuss some foundational aspects of getting fit and eating right, something Ron has spent most of his life working on. Bear with us; we had some audio troubles but you should hear everything loud and clear.

This is a great episode to listen to if you're starting out on your fitness journey or are looking for refreshingly simple advice on proper form, proper nutrition, and other tips. Lots of info here.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:05:19) - When you want to be more serious about exercise, where should you actually start?
(00:09:34) - Are deadlifts worth it, and are they something the average person needs?
(00:11:07) - What some the foundational pieces of squat form?
(00:20:34) - What are some other core workouts and foundation pieces for chest, biceps, etc.?
(00:31:08) - What can do you (if anything!) for small calves?
(00:41:29) - What are some of the other key pieces people should incorporate into their fitness life?
(00:47:36) - On HGH and sprinting, and Ron’s final thoughts on pairing the right energy system with right kind of work

Ron Williams is one of the most decorated natural bodybuilders in the world, having achieved the highest honor ever awarded in Natural Bodybuilding by becoming the sole recipient of the “Natural Bodybuilder of the Decade” award. As a 21-time world champion, he’s leveraged 40 years of experience to develop transformational processes of winning that help to build Champion Men.

Ron has devoted his life to educating, inspiring, coaching, and encouraging people. He’s a nationally recognized motivational and inspirational speaker, with a unique connection to his audience stemming from his own personal journey of physical and spiritual transformation.

The principles Ron teaches and uses in his own life are easy to embrace, simple to understand, and effective. Ron’s desire is to equip men with the necessary tools to live, as he calls it, a Champion Life.

Connect with Ron

-Main Website: www.ronwilliamschampion.com

-Ministry: www.ronwilliamsministries.com

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ronwilliamschampionlife

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Ironchestmastervip

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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The Blessing (And Curse) Of Male Strength

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: addiction, masculinity

This mini-episode is a bit of a departure in style, but the topic is deeply important to me. Most men have an uncanny ability to push forward despite intense pain and suffering. That can be a blessing in times of hardship, but it can also turn on you.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the skill of being silent about your suffering
(00:02:40) - We look down on men for doing this, but oftentimes it’s a blessing
(00:03:33) - The curse is this
(00:05:03) - “There’s a hungry ghost in the basement of my heart”
(00:09:40) - Why I wrote this

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Larry Hagner - How DO You Prepare For Fatherhood?

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, fatherhood, culture

The man himself! Larry Hagner of The Dad Edge joins me to talk all things fatherhood. Deeply grateful to finally have Larry on the show and to dive DEEP with him on so many topics.

This is a great episode to listen to if you’re searching for insight on how to maintain some level-headedness is what seems to be a tough time to be a parent. Check the timestamps for some of the depth-oriented questions we covered!

(00:00:00) - Intro Larry’s defining moment
(00:18:30) - Fathers wield an incredible amount of influence on a boy’s life. How did you prepare for fatherhood given how you grew up?
(00:21:13) - How would you prepare now? Given everything you’ve experienced?
(00:24:44) - What do you see modern fathers struggling with?
(00:31:16) - What pressures does a modern dad face from culture itself?
(00:39:59) - How do you talk to your kids about what your values are?
(01:02:29) - What are some of the keys to raising sons in particular?
(01:09:51) - What do you hope your sons will learn from how you treat your wife?

Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge, breaks down common challenges of fatherhood, making them easy to understand and overcome. Tackling the world of fatherhood can be a daunting task when we try to do it alone. Thus, Larrys mission (and his podcast, The Dad Edge( is to help you become the best, strongest, and happiest version of yourself so that you can help guide your kids to the best version of themselves. Simple as that.

Connect with Larry

-Website: https://thedadedge.com

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/thedadedge

-Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/podcast/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDadEdge

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Is Your High Sex Drive A Problem?

Thu, 31 Aug 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: libido, anxiety, sex drive

Having a high libido isn't all it's cracked up to be. In truth, it can be surprisingly difficult to navigate, can impact relationships, finances, you name it. This week, a look at where high libido can come from, and some ways to navigate it effectively.

(00:00:00) - Intro and my own issues with high sex drive
(00:02:39) - Indicators that high libido might be becoming problematic
(00:05:49) - But what causes high sex drive?
(00:06:49) - Grief, anxiety, stress, and unresolved trauma
(00:08:33) - Shame surrounding sexual preferences
(00:08:53) - A lack of fulfillment or sense of control over your life
(00:10:12) - A lack of self-esteem
(00:10:26) - A struggle to properly process emotions
(00:12:10) - So what do we do? Number one: do your best to date people with similar libido
(00:13:37) - Prioritize routines and habits that help regulate your nervous system
(00:14:43) - Desexualize your brain
(00:15:37) - Surround yourself with high quality men

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Men's Work Session - Recovering And Healing Old Grief, Part One

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: grief, loss, anxiety, helplessness

Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is really like. This is going to be a three-parter, so stay tuned for more.

This man is someone I've known for a while through his participation in ManTalks, and he's come to me looking wanting to feel more in charge of his life, and more able to handle when life, business, or relationships take a hit. Behind much of it is ungrieved childhood loss.

This is a great episode to dig into if you feel like you manage fine when life is good, but fall apart when it doesn't. There's insight on some of the consequences of not having the chance to properly grieve.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what our guest would like to work on
(00:10:07) - A pervasive feeling of inadequacy, and how it relates to making money
(00:14:02) - How the loss of a mother led to feeling helpless and inattentive
(00:21:40) - Feeling sorry for dad, and feeling like it’s “too late”
(00:31:00) - Connecting with the loss of a mother on a deeper level
(00:40:37) - Next steps

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Does Modern Therapy Understand Men And Their Suffering?

Thu, 24 Aug 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Fair warning, a focal point of this episode is suicide.

Talking points: therapy, self-help, masculinity

More men than ever are actively seeking help. They're going to therapy, they're working on themselves, they're doing "the work". I know because they come to me and people I know—either in the coaching or the therapeutic industry—by the thousands.

And yet a significant percentage of them don't come out it "helped". Many don't come out at all. To be clear, I am NOT saying therapy as an industry is totally broken or something to ignore. But there ARE some things I think it could do better.

(00:00:00) - Intro and some statistics
(00:04:47) - What I’ve seen and heard from men who come to ManTalks live events
(00:05:40) - I’m not saying the therapeutic industry is broken
(00:07:06) - We have to acknowledge that there are differences in men’s and women’s experiences
(00:09:25) - The three things the industry underestimates or misses with men
(00:11:43) - I’ve known a lot of men who looked great on the surface
(00:13:27) - Many of us don’t know how to help men get their direction back

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Kevin Miller - Are You Pursuing Excellence—Or Just Addicted?

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: success, achievement, addiction, cycling, athleticism, personal development

Kevin Miller is a powerhouse. More than that, he's deeply humble and intentional in what he does after a lifetime of hard work and the pursuit of excellence. I sat down with him last week to dig deeper: what makes drive "drive"? What's the meaning of really going beyond your limits? What really, truly drives you, and where are you going with that?

You know, just light conversation.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Kevin’s defining moment
(00:06:04) - What it takes to be a professional cyclist, and what drove Kevin to pursue it
(00:11:10) - What might be underneath a valiant can’t-quit-won’t-quit attitude, and what’s the difference between pursuit of excellence and addiction?
(00:19:11) - When it comes to the pursuit of excellence, what’s actually rewarding about it?
(00:26:26) - How did the pursuit of excellence filter its way into your parenting?
(00:31:49) - Intentionality versus pursuit, and where the addiction to pursuit might come from
(00:47:35) - Do you think it’s healthy and meaningful for men to pursue some kind of physical excellence?
(00:51:39) - How the self-help industrial complex has shifted over the last few decades
(01:04:45) - Is AI going to help or harm people and the self-help industry?

Kevin is a former pro athlete, respected personal development guide, top-ranking podcast host, published author, and father of nine who has devoted himself to helping people elevate their personal experience and improve the way they show up for others.

Kevin hosts the Self-Helpful podcast, which has over 60 million downloads and is routinely visited by today’s most influential changemakers. His book, What Drives You challenges today’s myths on “driven people” and serves as a guide to clarity and conviction in what you authentically value and what truly motivates you.

Connect with Kevin

-Website: https://www.kevinmiller.co/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinmiller.co/
-Twitter: https://twitter.com/kevinmillerco
-Podcast: https://www.kevinmiller.co/podcast
-Book, What Drives You: https://www.kevinmiller.co/whatdrivesyou

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Has Society Failed Men?

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, culture, misandry Look, this is a charged topic. It’s also deeply complex, and it deserves serious attention MINUS the immediate rush towards dismissals, name calling, and blame games.

I’d love to get your take on this topic too. Feel free to message me on Instagram or comment below.

(01:16) - Intro and how society tends to react to men’s issues
(05:37) - What systems could use changing, and their current impact on men
(10:59) - When you bring this up, it’s easy to get labelled anti-woman
(16:08) - This discussion should be a bipartisan issue, and in many ways it would benefit women

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Experts On: Addiction and Enlightenment

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: addiction, culture, history, enlightenment, Zen, purpose, non-duality

The ManTalks Podcast has grown exponentially over the last couple years, so for all you newcomers, I like to release a sort of cross-section or "best of" episode to showcase what the podcast is all about—after all, I have talked to some brilliant and varied experts over the years!

This time, the themes are the widest ever: addiction and enlightenment. I chose this to demonstrate my love of the scientific and the spiritual—and my constant goal to balance the two. As Albert Einstein said, science without religion is lame, and religion without science is blind. I hope you enjoy.

(00:00:00) - Dr. Anne Lembke on defining addiction and the addictive aspects of our modern world
(00:17:19) - Dr. Carl Erik Fisher on addiction through history and across cultures, and how society divides addicted people
(00:36:53) - Zen Henry Shukman on enlightenment as defined by Zen, his childhood, and his own story of kenshō
(00:58:45) - The acclaimed non-duality teacher Rupert Spira discusses the necessity of moving past the myth of separation

Full episodes:

-Dr. Anna Lembke: https://link.chtbl.com/9IfZ8XzU
-Dr. Carl Erik Fisher: https://link.chtbl.com/a53WmGq9
-Henry Shukman: https://link.chtbl.com/F7Kdo_05
-Rupert Spira: https://link.chtbl.com/F7Kdo_05

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Get Used To Her Being Disappointed

Thu, 10 Aug 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: boundaries, independence, relationships, nice guys

Yeah, it's a somewhat controversial title. It's also a challenge. Many, many men bend over backwards to prevent a partner from ever feeling disappointed, and when they inevitably do feel disappointed (because that's life sometimes), they spiral. Listen in.

(01:15) - Intro and why I'm talking about this
(03:05) - Caveats
(04:42) - Why this is important
(07:09) - I'm not saying don't have wiggle room!

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Dr. Russell Kennedy - The True Origins Of Anxiety

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, suicide, mental illness, neurology, culture, psychology

This was SUCH a thorough and enjoyable interview. Always a pleasure to get the practical yet caring advice from Dr. Kennedy, someone I’ve known for a long time.

If you or someone you know has been diagnosed or deals with anxiety, this is THE episode for you. We cover all the ways anxiety, the body, and the mind are connected, where to begin helping yourself (or others) with those anxious feelings, what the therapy and personal development industries often miss out, and way way more.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Russell’s defining moment
(00:04:03) - How Russell dealt with the complexities of a schizophrenic father
(00:11:33) - How anxiety is a manifestation of something much deeper
(00:15:38) - What are some of the most common anxiety myths?
(00:18:35) - What is the actual purpose of anxiety?
(00:21:54) - How do you talk to people who dismiss anxiety and trauma?
(00:33:37) - Do you think kids are more anxious than ever before?
(00:40:10) - What do we do for kids knowing that distraction culture will likely worsen?
(00:47:30) - What do you mean by “anxiety isn’t a feeling”?
(00:51:11) - Anxiety vs Alarm
(00:58:26) - Where do you begin helping someone with anxiety?
(01:08:17) - Is there a difference between anxiety and stress within the brain?
(01:12:36) - Russell’s final thoughts on anxiety

Dr. Russell Kennedy, aka “The Anxiety MD” specializes in the art and neuroscience of helping people recover from anxiety disorders. He knows anxiety from the inside out, as he developed his own anxiety disorder as a result of growing up with a dad with severe schizophrenia. Dr. Kennedy has degrees and advanced training in medicine, neuroscience, and developmental psychology—but it’s not all science, as he is also a certified yoga and meditation teacher and was a professional stand-up comedian for over a decade (no joke!)

In his award-winning book and audiobook, ANXIETY RX, he shows a practical, actionable program for anxiety relief that incorporates a combination of the latest in neuroscience with the grounding wisdom of the body with the ultimate goal of relieving the anxious thoughts of the mind. Using neuroscience (think "The Body Keeps the Score") and blending that science with a more artistic approach he learned through living at a temple in India, taking psychedelics, and being a natural and gifted intuitive, Dr. Kennedy gives a unique and never before seen understanding of what anxiety truly is, and further, exactly how it can be successfully treated. Dr Russ wants to make sure that nobody has to suffer with anxiety as he did.

Connect with Dr. Kennedy

-Website: https://www.theanxietymd.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theanxietymd/

-Book, Anxiety RX: https://amzn.to/3QBpl46

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Is There Really A Decline In Viable Mates?

Thu, 03 Aug 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: dating, relationships

This one is quick and to the point, friends. Is there REALLY a decline in great partners, mates, dating prospects, whatever you want to call them?

Or...is the issue more complex than we think? Listen in.

(00:00) Introduction and perceived decline of viable mates
(02:12) The choice paradox and expanded dating pool
(04:34) The consequences of the choice paradox
(05:53) Is there still a decline? Other ways the dating world is impacted

Men, join me in an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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David Bayer - How To Unravel Limiting Beliefs

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 09:53:00 -0400

Talking points: anxiety, 12-step, addiction, personal growth, energetics, belief, money

It’s been over six years, but I finally got my friend David back on the show! We cover a ton of ground here, but the core of this episode is limiting beliefs. This is an excellent episode to dive into if you’re searching for a unique look at what they are and how they’re overcome.

(00:00:00) Intro and Dave’s defining moment
(00:07:51) Do you believe people need to hit rock bottom in order to grow?
(00:12:50) What is the intersection between personal growth and communal development?
(00:25:23) What role have 12-step programs played in your life and work?
(00:31:07) The intersection of relational repair and addiction
(00:40:19) Limiting beliefs: what are they and how do we unwind them?
(00:59:34) How do we start tackling limiting beliefs around money?

David Bayer is an author, speaker, entrepreneur and CEO of David Bayer Transformational Programs, an Inc #171 global coaching and training company focused on helping entrepreneurs, organizations and individuals harness the maximum power of human performance, intelligence and potential. David and his wife Carol have built an organization from $0 to $25M in the last 7 years while helping tens of thousands of entrepreneurs and individuals via their live events, digital courses, coaching and certification programs. Inc and Success Magazine named David ‘a leading expert on both mindset and business strategy’ making David a unique resource and mentor for individuals who truly want to achieve their full potential. His annual event The Powerful Living Experience was named by Inc. as ‘a Top 3 must attend personal development event.’

Connect with David
-Website: https://davidbayer.com/mantalks
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidbayer33/
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachdavidbayer
-Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidrbayer
-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKCS2T2uR_7h4zpVETbcFjg

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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7 Things That Stop You From Quitting Porn

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 09:55:00 -0400

A solid chunk of my job is helping men get free from porn addiction. It was also something I struggled with for years. Lately, there's been a slew of questions coming at me surrounding porn usage and addiction, so here are seven reasons why it's so damn hard to quit.

If this resonates and you're looking for some free extra resources, DM me on Instagram with the word "QUIT" for a free guide.

(00:00:00) Intro and reason #1: dopamine
(00:02:51) Reason #2: nervous system conditioning
(00:05:00) Reason #3: porn’s accessibility and availability
(00:05:49) Reason #4: not fully understanding your triggers
(00:07:46) Reason #5: no replacement ritual or routine
(00:09:21) Reason #6: last time-its
(00:11:06) Reason #7: lack of external support

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Dr. Robert Glover and Tony Endelman - Dissecting The New Roles, Needs, And Expectations Of Men

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance

This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in.

This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients, friends, and our own research.

(0:00:00) - Intro
(0:03:19) - What's happening to boys and men and why?
(0:16:33) - Tony's perspective, and masculinity in the digital age
(0:24:23) - Male relationships in dating and in general life
(0:37:22) - Is modern dating a s***show?
(0:49:13) - Conscious dating, emotional tension, and the friend zone

Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the best-selling Dating Essentials for Men, and the recently released, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of men world-wide transform their lives and get what they want in relationship, sex, and career.

Tony Endelman is an author, blogger, entrepreneur, and certified transformational life coach. He is also certified in the Psychology of Happiness. His website has been named one of the top 100 personal development blogs. Tony was born and raised in Omaha, Nebraska, and graduated from the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a degree in communications. Tony currently lives in New Orleans.

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Women Would Understand Men Better If...

Thu, 20 Jul 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: isolation, masculinity, rationality, validation

A woman on Instagram DM'd me a great question a while ago: what do I need to know about men that I might not understand? Well, I came up with five ways to understand the average guy's lived experience. Enjoy!

(00:55) - Imagine having few or no close friends
(03:27) - Imagine overindexing rationality and logic
(05:37) - Link your sense of self-worth to productivity
(07:36) - Imagine getting 1/10th the validation you normally do
(11:59) - Imagine getting condemned and praised for dominance

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Bonner Rinn - Living With Cerebral Palsy, And Leaving Dark Motivation Behind

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: motivation, resiliency, transformation, Mt Kilimanjaro, Kona marathon, family secrets, doubt, shame

I'm proud to have known Bonner for some time now, thanks to him being a member of the Alliance, my private men's group. But the reason I wanted him on the show is to share his powerful story and how he's alchemized his life and his troubles into something that serves others. Many others, as you'll find out when you hit play.

I strongly recommend checking this one out if you or someone you know has any form of disability. It's important not just to help each other along, but to gather perspective on the extra hurdles many of us face, how they're managed or overcome, and the radical change that can stem from all of the above.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Bonner's defining moment

(00:10:21) - Growing up with cerebral palsy

(00:14:31) - The different kinds of family rules, and how came to hide his CP

(00:20:44) - How Bonner used athleticism to both get attention and distract himself

(00:32:00) - The story of Jakey

(00:42:10) - How "dark motivation" got Bonner to the top, but couldn't get him down

(00:58:15) - Challenges of completing the Kona Triathlon

(01:04:10) - Next steps, and a return to Kilimanjaro

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Should You Even Bother Having Kids?

Thu, 13 Jul 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: maturity, parenthood

I get asked this question a lot, so here's an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in.

02:17 - Bringing children into a troubled world
07:09 - The importance of the human spirit
14:15 - How parenting matures you
20:11 - There are beautiful moments in parenting

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Dr. Doug Weiss - Porn And Sex Addiction Are More Complex Than You Think

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy

I've yet to meet a man who hasn't struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight.

This is an ep to listen to if you're looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact relationships, work ethic, and even overall success.

[00:01:11] - Dougs defining moment
[00:03:27] - Defining sexual addiction
[00:19:41] - What is intimacy anorexia, and what’s contributing to it?
[00:30:37] - Reinforcing yours AND your partner’s experiences, and matching types of expression in sex
[00:39:28] - Partner betrayal trauma
[00:44:08] - What makes intimate relationships unique
[00:46:19] - More on sex and porn addiction
[00:50:45] - Sex addiction and ADHD
[00:54:11] - Can you be addicted to validation?
[00:57:58] - Can sex addiction escalate into something darker?
[01:00:51] - On narcissism

Dr. Doug Weiss is the Executive Director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center and has been helping couples and individuals for over thirty years. He is the President of the American Association for Sexual Addiction Therapy where his treatment model for sex addiction, partner betrayal trauma, and intimacy anorexia is used in counseling practices all over the world.

His direct and charismatic approach to handling tough issues has made him sought after for professional appearances on television shows such as The Oprah Winfrey show, Dr. Phil, Good Morning America, 20/20, The Doctors, Daystar, FoxNews, CNN, Montel, and more.

Dr. Doug Weiss has written and filmed over 40 books and therapeutic teachings that directly address specific issues in relationships regarding intimacy, sex, partner betrayal trauma, sex addiction, parenting, and more. He has had more than one Lifetime movie made about his counseling practice (Heart to Heart Counseling Center) in Colorado Springs.

Connect with Doug

-Website: https://www.drdougweiss.com/

-Intimacy Anorexia: https://intimacyanorexia.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdougweiss

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/drdougweiss

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Maintaining Relationship Through Disagreement

Thu, 06 Jul 2023 10:45:00 -0400

It's not easy. It's not simple. It's not comfortable. It's definitely not fun. But it's good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate.

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Christine Hassler - Anger, The Feminine, And Successful Relationships

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics

Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you're looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more.

[01:02] - Christine's defining moment.

[07:59] - Christine on women and anger

[12:23] - How Connor and Christine define ego.

[15:25] - Women and anger.

[28:14] - How can men effectively address a woman's anger?

[36:57] - How modern relationships have changed for men and women.

[48:59] - What conversations should people be having about money?

Christine Hassler is a master coach, spiritual psychologist, facilitator, and speaker with 20 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. Christine is the co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute, a premier coaching certification program. She also holds in-person retreats and teaches online courses on relationships, calling in love, healing your inner child, and personal mastery.

Connect with Christine

-Website: https://christinehassler.com/

-Podcast: https://christinehassler.com/podcast/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinehassler/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinehasslerpage/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChristinHassler

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/christinehassler

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Don't Fall Into This Relationship Trap

Thu, 29 Jun 2023 09:50:00 -0400

There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener.

What's your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)!

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Nick Solaczek - How To Make Your Partner Feel Seen

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 09:50:00 -0400

Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence

Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people.

If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you listen alongside your partner—or at least share it with them later.

[00:01:04] - Nick’s defining moment
[00:09:48] - What made you choose IMAGO certification?
[00:12:15] - Where do you see modern relationships breaking down most often?
[00:15:57] - How would you say social media has affect modern relationships?
[00:21:08] - What does it mean when your partner says “I’m not feeling seen”?
[00:25:50] - What other ways can we support our partner in being heard?
[00:28:52] - So what is IMAGO therapy based on? What tools does it deploy?
[00:44:49] - What are some of main challenges couples face in the realm is sex and intimacy?
[00:59:11] - Do you think AI is going to impact the future of intimate relationships?
[01:07:33] - We ultimately want to bump up against each other at a deeper level
[01:10:25] - What’s your definition of a conscious relationship?

Nick Solaczek Certified IMAGO Relationship Coach, working with individuals and couples to boost their emotional intelligence and success in romantic relationships. He emphasizes safe conversation techniques, mindfulness, authenticity, and boundary setting.

Nick is based in Vancouver, Canada, and has coached Hollywood celebrities, CEO’s, secret agents, high-profile lawyers, therapists, doctors, fresh partners and lifelong marriages. He’s also been privileged to assist Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt (founders of IMAGO and authors of the bestseller Getting the Love You Want) in their online training for couples.

Connect with Nick

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/
-Couples Course - Romatic Relationship Reset: https://nicksolaczek.com/reset/
-Website: www.nicksolaczek.com

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The Advice I Needed To Hear When I Was Lost

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 09:50:00 -0400

I didn't always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless.

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Men's Work Session - Healing The Relationship To Anger

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 09:56:00 -0400

Talking points: anger, inner critic, passive aggressiveness, shame

Haven't done one of these in a while! Every so often I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This time, my guest is already familiar with what we do, so I dive right in.

If you're the kind of person who has difficulty standing up for themselves, or can't seem to control negative self-talk, this may be a helpful episode to dig into. We talk a lot about something I call "implosive anger", aka when instead of having a healthy relationship with the anger you feel, you suppress and direct it back at yourself.

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Why Fewer Men Are Going To College (And Why That's A Huge Opportunity)

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0400

First off, why is this happening? Second, is there any kind of silver lining? These are the two major questions on my mind this mini-episode, plus why I think there's a growing number of people (men especially) searching for more hands-on, apprenticeship style training. Listen in.

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Josh Radnor - On Addiction, Ayahuasca, Success, And Everything In Between

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 14:20:01 -0400

Talking points: addiction, psychedelics, the trouble with success, death, grief, masculinity, How I Met Your Mother

Honestly, there's not a single topic Josh and I didn't cover in this episode. We've been friends for years and wanted to jam together for a long time, and it's clear we had a ton to talk about. Deeply grateful for his insight, perspective, and stories.

This is a great episode if you're looking for the perfect combo of candid, vulnerable, and funny.

[00:06:02] - Josh's defining moments

[00:18:43] - Addictive personalities

[00:23:01] - The power of empathy and forgiveness

[00:31:04] - What's brilliant about 12-step

[00:35:03] - What was happening in Josh's life when How I Met Your Mother became successful

[00:42:06] - What made HIMYM successful, and it's portrayal of masculinity (and Canadians)

[00:50:47] - "The baseline question [of HIMYM] was 'Who Am I?'"

[00:58:55] - Depth vs growth, Jung's puer aeternus, and death

[01:14:03] - The role of a parent, unconditional love, and what Josh's dog Nelson has taught him

[01:24:46] - Josh's experience with plant medicines

Writer, director, and actor Josh Radnor is a multifaceted talent, bringing a wealth of experience to all his endeavors. Radnor is perhaps best known for playing Ted, the central character in the seven-time Emmy-winning comedy, "How I Met Your Mother."

Premiering at the 2010 Sundance Film Festival, where it won the Audience Award, Radnor directed, wrote and starred in his first feature film, "happythankyoumoreplease." The film was released in March 2011, and featured an ensemble cast including Richard Jenkins, Malin Akerman, Kate Mara, Zoe Kazan, and Tony Hale.

Radnor's second directorial effort came with the Sundance Film Festival favorite "Liberal Arts", which he also wrote and starred in alongside Elizabeth Olsen, Richard Jenkins, and Allison Janney. His upcoming music album, "Eulogy", will be released later this year.

In addition to film and television, Radnor starred on Broadway as the title character in "The Graduate" opposite Kathleen Turner and Alicia Silverstone. Off-Broadway and regionally, he has appeared in productions with the Manhattan Theater Club, The Vineyard Theater, and Baltimore Center Stage, among others. A gifted writer, Radnor has published several articles in the Los Angeles Times Magazine, Guilt and Pleasure Magazine, Moviemaker Magazine, Indiewire, and The Huffington Post.

A native of Columbus, Ohio, Mr. Radnor attended Kenyon College where he won the Paul Newman Acting Trophy. He received his MFA in acting from NYU's Tisch School of the Arts. He currently resides in Los Angeles.

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-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshRadnor/

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How AI Will Radically Change The Porn Industry

Thu, 08 Jun 2023 09:30:00 -0400

Artificial intelligence is already changing the game for a number of industries, and I'm thinking erotica won't be an exception. But how? In what ways? And what's next? Lastly, I'd love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram to let me know!

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Katherine Ann Cantrell - Is Healing Decades Of Trauma Even Possible?

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, trauma culture, therapy

I was connected to Katherine Ann through my own mentor, the incredible gestalt therapist Duey Freeman. Her story is intense, powerful, and most importantly, it's shows the importance and possibilities inherent in trauma work and group work. I applaud Katherine Ann for coming forward and sharing her story.

[00:01:12] - Katherine Ann's defining moment

[00:08:50] - the role Katherine Ann's father played in her life

[00:15:12] - Were you believed about what was happening, and how did your trauma start manifesting?

[00:26:44] - How did what happened shape your perception of men, and how has that evolved since doing trauma excavation?

[00:40:16] - What would you say to people who struggle with forgiving what's happened?

[00:45:27] - What is trauma excavation?

[00:54:44] - Do you get the sense that trauma work has become so mainstream it's been watered down?

Katherine Ann is a mother of five grown children – 2 daughters and 3 stepsons. She resides in Boulder, CO with her beloved husband. After years of abuse and trauma, followed by 30 years (thus far) of healing, she recently released her website – see KatherineAnn.com – and is sharing her life story and experiences in hopes of helping others heal from trauma and abuse, and transform from a place of just surviving to thriving in life. The connection Katherine Ann has with (Connor) is through Duey Freeman, who has been a therapist for almost 50 years with about 80,000 contact hours with clients. Katherine Ann has worked with Duey individually and collectively with her siblings. Recently, Duey stated on Traver Boehm’s podcast that, Katherine Ann, and her brother and her sister, “were involved in probably the most bizarre and intense situation of abuse – both physical and sexual – that I’ve seen.” In 2008, in a letter of promotion for the three siblings when they planned to write a book together, Duey wrote about the abuse as, “the most intense, insidious, and malicious case of abuse and incest I have ever known. It is a story of love and hate, of physical and sexual abuse, of incredible humiliation and manipulation. A story that makes you cry and then pray for both forgiveness and healing.” Katherine Ann’s book will be published later this year.

Connect with Katherine Ann

-Website: https://katherineann.com/intro/introduction/

-Facebook: https://bit.ly/3NbKOyF

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherineannhealing/

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Do Not Compromise On This

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 22:00:00 -0400

Having a bit of give and take? Good. Being flexible within reason? Great. But in my opinion, there's one area of your life where you should never, ever compromise. Listen in.

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Stirling Cooper - Porn, Attraction, Dominance, And What Women Want

Mon, 29 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: porn, sex, psychology, sexual technique, sexual health

Note: there were some technical troubles on this one, so forgive the rougher audio! I polled my followers on Instagram for a lot of the questions Stirling and I covered this episode, so expect a great combo of thoughtful "why" answers and actionable advice on everything sex, arousal, attraction, and more.

[00:01:08] - Stirling's defining moment
[00:05:23] - How it shifted Stirling's perspective
[00:12:57] - How DID you end up in porn, and what is it really like?
[00:21:22] - Why OnlyFans took off
[00:28:39] - What porn can do to a guy's sexual psychology
[00:38:03] - How would you talk to your son about porn?
[00:46:44] - How do you map out male dominance in the bedroom in today's society?[00:55:41] - How do you get your partner in the mood?
[01:01:56] - How do we bridge the gap between women who want a more dominant man in the bedroom and men who are worried about being so?
[01:18:14] - How to get better erections and last longer

Stirling Cooper is an Award Winning Australian Pornographic Actor. Born in rural Western Australia, Stirling started off his Porn career in 2017 shooting for smaller studios based in Melbourne. He then moved to the United Kingdom and used his experience and connections to get his foot in the door in the British Porn industry, shooting for numerous studios throughout 2017 such as the notorious Fake Taxi, Dorcel, and many more. His career started to really kick into gear in the beginning of 2018 when he shot his first scene for Brazzers in 2018 and after that was flown out to Budapest, Hungary to shoot for other MindGeek brands like Babes. He stayed in Europe for several months working between Budapest, Hungary, and Prague, Czech Republic building a lot of momentum and gaining tremendous experience after being cast by big names like Rocco Siffredi and the FakeHub Network.

Stirling now uses his wealth of experience as a professional sex machine to teach men how to improve their own sex lives and through his Youtube channel he also helps enlighten men on the virtues of living an unapologetically masculine life.

Connect with Stirling

-Website: https://www.stirlingcooper.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/stirlingwisdom

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0YIbCZJoYV1BeZ5qHDIJyQ

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cooperstirling/

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How To Gain Status (Without Making More Money)

Thu, 25 May 2023 02:00:00 -0400

They're simple, but they consistently bear fruit. In this episode, three straightforward ways to be cultivate higher status—that do NOT involve buying a Bugatti Bolide—that you could start on the second you finish this podcast.

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Traver Boehm - How Do Men Stay Anchored In Modern Times?

Mon, 22 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: AI, gender wars, masculinity, culture, relationships, dating, archetypes, myth

All I can tell you is: this is a big one! Traver and I did an episode exchange for this one, and we always (I mean always) have great, wide-ranging conversations. It’s one of the bes gifts that comes from having old friends.

This is the episode to listen to if you want to hear directly from two men’s coaches who have hands on experience with what men are undergoing these days, and some of the ways we can regulate and manage what seems to be ever-increasing chaos.

[00:03:52] - How social media conversations have gotten a lot more intense—and why
[00:11:03] - How this is affecting men in general
[00:16:57] - So much bad s**t is happening. What does your average man do?
[00:26:56] - What used to be “luxuries” like a morning meditation practice are now tools for survival
[00:33:02] - The effect even a basic participation in online toxicity can have
[00:43:39] - “How do we get men back engaged in relationship itself?”
[00:58:43] - The greatest gift you can give your partner
[01:05:16] - Men need myth
[01:11:50] - Why AI needs to be trained on myth

Traver Boehm is the author of the books “Today I Rise” and “Man UNcivilized”. He’s a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. He’s helped men worldwide to become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them.

He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity.

Connect with Traver

-Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/

-Podcast: https://www.manuncivilized.com/blog/

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The Weaponization Of Psychology

Thu, 18 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

This is something I'm seeing a lot on social media, but also in everyday dialogue and even some clients: labeling someone with a definitive psychological term to shut down dialogue or shame someone else, usually without really knowing what's being talked about.

This only speeds up our polarization and harms our ability to connect. How about we...stop doing that?

Note: the article in the NYT I mentioned was written by Dr. Tara Isabella Burton, not Bayo Akomolafe. I'll link it below, along with his interview on the Emerald Podcast.

The Problem With Letting Therapy-Speak Invade Everything: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/12/opinion/mental-health-therapy-instagram.html

The Emerald: The Revolution Will Not Be Pscyhologized, Part 2: https://podtail.com/en/podcast/the-emerald/the-revolution-will-not-be-psychologized-part-2-in/

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Dan Cnossen - Navy SEAL To Paralympic Athlete —One Day At A Time

Mon, 15 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: Navy SEALS, grit, BUD/S, hardship, mindset, rehabilitation, paralympics

We had some network issues near the end, so Dan is coming back for round 2 soon! I'm grateful for every single interview I get to do, but it's less often that I'm so deeply humbled. Listening to Dan's story, and his thoughtful and considerate approach to such intense trauma, is something that will stick with me for a long, long time.

Listen to this episode for a gripping and honest look into the life of an incredible athlete.

(00:00:00) - Welcome and Dan's defining moment

(00:06:09) - What was BUD/S like for Dan? What were some the greatest lessons?

(00:19:20) - What goes into being a SEAL?

(00:27:41) - What was your first deployment like?

(00:33:11) - How Dan lost his legs

(00:42:00) - The aftermath and the injuries

(01:02:51) - Where did the desire to become a paralympic athelete come from?

Lieutenant Commander Dan Cnossen was serving as the platoon commander for SEAL Team One in Afghanistan in September 2009 when he stepped on an IED (improvised explosive device) and was wounded in the explosion. The accident caused Cnossen to lose both his legs just above the knee. After over forty surgeries, Cnossen went through rehabilitation at the Bethesda National Naval Medical Center and later at the Walter Reed National Military Medical Center, where he learned to walk with his new prosthetics. Dan was awarded both a Purple Heart and a Bronze Star with Valor from the Secretary of the Navy for his service in combat. Grew up on a fifth-generation family farm in Kansas, and his hobbies include running, reading, traveling, and surfing.

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Here's How You Deal With Regret

Thu, 11 May 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: regret, purpose, direction

I was recently reminded of a powerful moment I had with an old mentor. At the time, I was having trouble deciding what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go, and I felt directionless and fearful of regret. This is a topic I've covered before, but it's one worth reflecting on. Listen in.

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Coleman Hughes - The Collapse Of Moderate Politics

Mon, 08 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking point: centrism, politics, social media, racism, censorship, AI, China, CRT

Hot on the heels of last week's chat with Amir Odom, Coleman and I dug into a wide range of topics. We mostly focused on political polarization and where that's coming from, but also how AI might play into further issues, his definition of critical race theory, and much more.

Listen to this episode if you've been curious about any of the above talking points, don't know where to start, and want a level-headed discussion. Coleman is a smart guy, and (I'd say) mostly center-right in his politics, so this is a good place to begin gaining awareness of the issues.

[00:04:33] - Coleman's defining moment

[00:10:16] - Do you think we live in a death-phobic culture?

[00:14:50] - When you look at the American political landscape, how do you describe what's happening?

[00:22:45] - Do you have any hope for the de-polarization of America?

[00:31:55] - What are you most concerned about re: American democracy in 2023?

[00:41:02] - CRT and education

[00:51:50] - Cultural power vs political power

[00:57:34] - On victimhood

[01:05:31] - Can you define a race-blind society?

Coleman Hughes is a writer, podcaster, and opinion columnist who specializes in issues related to race, public policy, and applied ethics. Coleman’s writing has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, National Review, Quillette, The City Journal, and The Spectator. He has appeared on many TV shows and podcasts, including Real Time with Bill Maher, Making Sense with Sam Harris, and The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast.

In June 2019, he testified before the U.S. Congress. Born and raised in northern New Jersey, Coleman briefly attended the Juilliard School to study jazz trombone before dropping out to pursue a career as an independent jazz/hip-hop artist. Shortly thereafter, Coleman discovered a passion for applied ethics and public policy at Columbia University, where he graduated with a B.A. in philosophy.

Connect with Coleman

-Website: https://colemanhughes.org/

-Podcast: https://bit.ly/41egvuT

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coleman_hughes/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/coldxman

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/colemancruzhughes1/

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What Pornhub Data Says About Men

Thu, 04 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: porn, stress, hentai, isolation

Every year, Pornhub releases a bunch of stats detailing how long people are watching, top search terms, when people are watching, and more. This data is from Dec 2022, so it's a bit old, but I wanted to share some thoughts on what some of these stats might be implying, particularly for men.

This is an episode for anyone curious about porn's implications outside of just "sexual entertainment". I go into how it might be affecting (or a be a response to) other parts of our lives, and offer up some thoughts on what to do.

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Amir Odom - Leaving BLM, And Concerns About The LGBTQ Community

Mon, 01 May 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Talking points: growing up gay, LGBTQ+ issues, trans issues, culture

Fair warning, this is a different kind of episode than the ones I usually put out. I encourage you to listen to it fully. Thanks to Amir for his candor and willingness to come on the show.

Amir Odom takes time every week to reflect on…well, anything that’s been on his mind that week. Sometimes it’s current events, sometimes it’s a story from 10 years ago, sometimes it’s a conspiracy theory and sometimes it’s his alter ego “Jamal” going on a rant. You never know what you are going to get, but that’s what keeps it interesting.

[05:17] - Amir’s defining moment
[10:24] - What was life like for Amir growing up?
[21:34] - Do Black Americans still face systemic issues?
[27:27] - Is the culture most Black men grow up under not conducive? Why?
[29:14] - Broadly, what’s going on in the LGBTQ+ community?
[48:54] - Amir’s mission

Connect with Amir

-Website: https://www.amirodom.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@amirxodom

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Why Bother Getting Married?

Thu, 27 Apr 2023 10:05:00 -0400

Talking points: marriage, relationships

With marriage rates seemingly at an all-time low, and most of the old reasons for marriage largely defunct, it's a question many men are asking. It was something I wrestled with too. So...why bother with marriage? And why did I get married?

[00:00] - Statistics on marriage and some of the reasons we used to get married

[06:56] - Why I chose marriage

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Danica Patrick - Where Achievement And Spirituality Meet

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 18:16:01 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, femininity, achievement, dating, psychedelics, competition, culture, truth, what men and women want (and what they get wrong)

Wow. Danica and I covered a LOT of territory in this conversation. Like, top 3 widest-ranging conversations I’ve had on the podcast. Listen in for everything from masculine/feminine dynamics, to the nature of truth, to sharing psychedelic stories, to what men get wrong about women (and vice versa).

This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you’re looking less for answers and more for wonder. Much of what we discussed is better served by not forcing solutions, but simply wondering about viewpoints. Plus, you get a little of everything in this one!

[00:03:54] - Danica’s defining moment

[00:11:41] - Women and the masculine

[00:17:49] - How did masculine energy show up in Danica’s career?

[00:23:47] - How does it feel to be told, as a woman, “You’re more masculine than I am”?

[00:37:17] - The intersection of achievement and spirituality

[00:44:52] - Psychedelic experiences

[00:54:24] - How has your imagination and curiosity shaped your life?

[01:08:28] - How do you view the masculine and feminine culturally?

[01:30:18] - What do women get wrong about men, and vice versa?

About Danica Patrick

At just 10 years old, Danica’s racing career began after her parents bought her a go-kart. After winning numerous regional and national go-kart titles, Danica left the Midwest at 16 years old to compete in the cutthroat world of European road racing.

As a racecar driver, Danica Patrick broke barriers and set records with her on-track performance. With her racing career behind her, Danica looks to her next chapter as she focuses on her passions: good food, great wine, fitness and helping others achieve their goals.

Moving into her next chapter, retired from racing, Danica’s focus has shifted to her role as an entrepreneur and business owner. Danica has launched the clothing line – Warrior by Danica Patrick, authored a book Pretty Intense, and is the sole proprietor of Somnium, a vineyard in Napa Valley, California. In addition to these passion projects, Danica also continues to do inspirational speaking engagements and she plans to build upon these initiatives in the coming years.

Connect with Danica

-Website: https://www.danicapatrick.com/

-Podcast: https://www.danicapatrick.com/podcasts

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danicapatrick/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/danicapatrick

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The Big Misunderstanding About What Women Are Attracted To

Thu, 20 Apr 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Shorter episode today, but something I'd love to get your thoughts on. This came from a recent conversation between Lex Friedman and Aella, a sex researcher, writer, and sex worker.

She surveyed her followers on what men and women actually want in the bedroom, and noticed an interesting discrepancy. I polled my own followers and found something similar. Listen in!

Check out Aella's work here: https://knowingless.com/

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Richard Reeves - Why Modern Men Are Struggling

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 16:15:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, men, death, porn, education

There's few things I like more than wide-ranging yet deep conversations. This is one of them. Grateful to Richard for his time, eloquence, and commitment to men. This is a great episode if you're curious about some of the challenges young men face. Reeves is data-driven, open-minded, personable, and thorough, so check the time stamps to see more of what we explore.

00:03:41.500 - Richard’s defining moment, and how he and his family handled the grief

00:10:11.100 - Living well means facing death

00:14:07.500 - “Death in one hand and gratitude in the other”

00:17:49.500 - Do men have a different perception of time?

00:22:18.500 - With how polarized everything is, how does Richard navigate modern culture?

00:28:01.000 - Fewer men are graduating college than ever before. Why? What are some of the implications?

00:36:44.500 - What are some biological differences between men and women, and what sort of caveats need to enter the discussion?

00:41:41.000 - Historically, feminine traits tend to get weaponized against women

00:44:45.000 - On porn and its effects

00:51:50.500 - How do I talk to my kids about porn?

Richard V. Reeves is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, where he directs the Future of the Middle Class Initiative and co-directs the Center on Children and Families. His Brookings research focuses on the middle class, inequality, and social mobility.

Richard’s publications for Brookings include his latest book Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It (2022) and 2017's Dream Hoarders: How the American Upper Middle Class Is Leaving Everyone Else in the Dust, Why That Is a Problem, and What to Do about It. He contributes to The Atlantic, National Affairs, Democracy Journal, the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Times. Richard is also the author of John Stuart Mill – Victorian Firebrand, an intellectual biography of the British liberal philosopher and politician.

Dream Hoarders was named a Book of the Year by The Economist, a Political Book of the Year by The Observer, and was shortlisted for the Goddard Riverside Stephan Russo Book Prize for Social Justice. In September 2017, Politico magazine named Richard one of the top 50 thinkers in the U.S. for his work on class and inequality.

Connect with Richard

-Website: https://richardvreeves.com/

-Book: Of Boys And Men: https://amzn.to/3GKcRkY

-Substack: https://ofboysandmen.substack.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/richardv.reeves

-Podcast: https://richardvreeves.com/podcast/

-The Art of Dying (book mention): https://amzn.to/3UEu1X6

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How To Stay Calm When She's Upset

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: breathwork, calm, emotional volatility

I've talked pretty often about leading in a relationship, but a session with a recent client inspired me to dig into one of the more key components: regulating yourself and staying level-headed while your partner is upset. What does this mean, how do you do it, and why? Listen in.

02:02 - What it means to regulate

05:24 - Why the "take a deep breath" cliche actually works

08:33 - Women don't want to have to validate your emotions

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AJ & John - Are Young Men Actually Lost, And What Society Isn't Talking About

Mon, 10 Apr 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: male isolation and "lostness", dating, dating apps, relationships, redpill, AI

AJ, John and I covered a lot of ground, my friends. I've been following along with their work for a while and was recently on their podcast, The Art of Charm. Check the timestamps to see just how wide the net is!

This is a great episode to listen to if you're wondering about some of the challenges younger men seem to be facing, what's shifted for them compared to the GenX and millennial experience, and whether or not there's hope.

00:03:12.000 - AJ’s defining moment

00:06:14.700 - John’s defining moment

00:12:57.500 - What’s changed for men since AJ and John started?

00:22:10.500 - Male isolation is increasing. Why?

00:40:43.00 - The shifting male archetype

00:47:23.500 - Good relationships with other men is a status signal

00:58:03.000 - Is AI going to impact mating and dating?

01:02:16.500 - What are some key foundations to an intimate relationship?

01:09:24.750 - Is there hope for young men?

AJ and John, through The Art of Charm, provide training and personal coaching for activating your ability to attract the right people, create meaningful relationships, and reach greater levels of success in your life. These programs include the strategies they've used over the last 15+ years to put more than 9,100 people into the fast lane.

Connect with AJ and John

-Website: https://theartofcharm.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheArtOfCharm

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1894473717446171/

-Podcast: https://theartofcharm.com/podcast/

Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Ten Ways Men Destroy Their Lives

Thu, 06 Apr 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: masculinity, discipline, purpose

How's that for a spicy title?

This is a look at some common behaviors and patterns I've seen in men overall, clients I've worked with, and my own life. Patterns that erode our capacity to truly live, lead, and love.

01:31 - We lack impulse control

04:06 - We chase p***y over purpose

08:42 - We don’t clarify our values, and we don’t say no to ourselves

09:35 - We pick the wrong partner

12:26 - We settle for an “okay” career or business

17:10 - We lack like-minded men that our willing to challenge us

21:21 - We haven’t prioritized seeing what our body is capable of

24:23 - We choose domestication over discipline

26:15 - We don’t take money seriously

30:11 - We disconnect from a sense of wonder

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Frans de Waal - Defining Gender Through The Eyes Of A Primatologist

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: gender, gender equality, alpha males, alpha females, violence, culture, psychology

I’ve been following Frans’ work for a while, and have admired how dedicated he is to his work and to uncovering the complexity of primates. This was such an enjoyable and fascinating conversation!

This episode is a compelling look at just how complex and nuanced something like gender can be, from one of THE world’s top primatologists. With more and more pressure to outsource your opinions, your arguments, and your beliefs to the fastest talking pundit, it’s more important than ever to take a step back, breathe, and check the science.

Dr. Frans B. M. de Waal is a Dutch/American biologist and primatologist known for his work on the behavior and social intelligence of primates. His first book, Chimpanzee Politics (1982) compared the schmoozing and scheming of chimpanzees involved in power struggles with that of human politicians. Ever since, de Waal has drawn parallels between primate and human behavior, from peacemaking and morality to culture. His scientific work has been published in hundreds of technical articles in journals such as Science, Nature, Scientific American, and outlets specialized in animal behavior. His popular books — translated into twenty languages — have made him one of the world's most visible primatologists. His latest books are The Age of Empathy (2009), and The Bonobo and the Atheist (2013). Two recent edited volumes are The Primate Mind (2012) and Evolved Morality (2014).

De Waal is C. H. Candler Professor in the Psychology Department of Emory University and Director of the Living Links Center at the Yerkes National Primate Research Center, in Atlanta, Georgia. Since 2013, he is a Distinguished Professor (Universiteitshoogleraar) at Utrecht University. He has been elected to the (US) National Academy of Sciences, the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, and the Royal Dutch Academy of Sciences. In 2007, he was selected by Time as one of The Worlds' 100 Most Influential People Today, and in 2011 by Discover as among 47 (all time) Great Minds of Science. Being editor-in-chief of the journal Behaviour, de Waal has stepped in the footsteps of Niko Tinbergen, one of the founders of ethology.

His latest research concerns empathy and cooperation, inequity aversion and social cognition in chimpanzees, bonobos, and other species. He and his students have pioneered studies on how behavior is culturally transmitted in the primates, whether elephants recognize themselves in mirrors, how primates react to unequal reward divisions, how well primates spontaneously cooperate, and whether bonobo orphans are as emotionally affected by their trauma as human orphans.

Connect with Frans:

-Book: Different: Gender Through The Eyes Of A Primatologist: https://amzn.to/3K4MvLA
-TED Talk: Moral Behavior In Animals: https://www.ted.com/talks/frans_de_waal_moral_behavior_in_animals

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Why Are 66% Of Young Men Single?

Thu, 30 Mar 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: dating apps, selection preferences, statistics, what to do

I don't know the specific number of people actually satisfied with the modern dating scene, but given what I've read and researched, it's a VERY small number. What happened, and what can men do?

In this mini-ep, I dig into some statistics around modern dating, how it's been a growing shift for a while now, and what young men can do about it instead of giving in to cynicism, misogyny, or victimhood.

[00:00] The stats and what women seem to want.

[03:58] Women’s selection preferences mean their pool of eligible men is shrinking.

[06:27] Even I noticed this back in the day.

[08:02] The data can be overwhelming; what are the consequences of that?

[11:21] Prioritize male friendships. Go out and do things. Here’s why.

[15:33] Don’t allow yourself to read data like this and become the victim.

[16:24] How Quinn Mossmacher in White Lotus seems like the epitomization of what many young men are experiencing.

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Darren Silver - The Importance Of Direct Connection To Nature

Mon, 27 Mar 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: vision quests, initiation, culture, ritual

Do things like vision quests and ceremony actually DO anything? Should they? What does it mean to "connect to a place"? What happens to a man when he's immersed in nature—without a phone or a to-do list or even a destination? These are some of the wonderings I had with Mr. Darren Silver in this fascinating and enjoyable conversation. I'm a big believer in getting everything, not just men, out into the wild occasionally to reconnect with the non-human, and Darren shows us just how fruitful that can be.

Darren Silver, MA, is a rite of passage guide, Nature-Connected Coach, ceremonialist, and innovative educator. He has over a decade of experience working with ritual, wilderness living skills, and guiding transformational experiences residentially and internationally. A gifted storyteller and apprentice to the old myths, Darren weaves the power of the natural world, vision, and community in devotion to the remembrance of regenerative culture.

Connect with Darren

-Website: https://www.darrensilver.earth/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ds.silver/

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The Importance Of Myth In Personal Development, Growth, And Healing

Thu, 23 Mar 2023 09:55:00 -0400

One of biggest traps in anyone's healing journey is the idea that it's linear and rational. Yeah, you need tactics and plans, but if you go in thinking healing of ANY kind is like a recipe for cookies, you're not gonna have a good time.

This is where the archetypal and symbolic power of myth comes in. Have a listen.

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Adam Hart - Staying Grounded When Everything Wants Your Attention

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: breath work, balance, burnout, stress and the brain, hustle culture, children, digital detoxing

It's a very demanding jungle out there. In a culture that seems to thrive on your being burnt out, how do you fight back? Can you? I sat down with my old friend Adam Hart this week to cover exactly that.

Many of Adam's clients compare his work to a finding the “Fountain of Youth” as they regularly break free from self sabotage, fatigue and unhealthy behaviours that they have been stuck in for you years.

Adam specializes in helping people ignite their full potential by unlocking themselves from patterns of stress and anxiety and begin to master the mindset necessary for living a fulfilled and purposeful life.

With a degree in Sociology and accreditation by the Canadian Mental Health Association, Adam has coached hundreds of people over the past 15+ years as Founder of Clear Impact, established in 2005.

When Adam is not coaching, he can be found hanging out with his loving wife and two kids in the mountains of Squamish BC, Canada. Together they enjoy rock climbing, mountain biking, skiing, and foraging in nature.

Fun Fact: Adam loves playing hide and seek with his kids. Sometimes he even wins.

Connect with Adam

-To get a copy of Adam's 6-step "Unleash Your Energy Roadmap" go to: https://training.clearimpact.io/roadmap

-Website: https://clearimpact.io/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adamhart/

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The Biggest Lie About Self-Sabotage

Thu, 16 Mar 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Cue "Sweet Little Lies" by Fleetwood Mac, please.

Why DO we self-sabotage? Why do we spend the money we don't have, break down the gym routine or go for the nastiest fast food—even after we've decided we're stopping? I think one of the most popular reasons we're given is actually pretty...wrong.

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Boyd Varty - Lion Tracking, Meaning Making, And Healing Trauma

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: working in/with the wild, initiation, trauma, what nature teaches you, masculinity

This has been one of my most anticipated guests of all time. Like, years. An incredible storyteller, a man with a mighty heart and passion for everything wilderness, this is an episode I encourage you to share with the men in your life. Seriously.

The wildlife and literacy activist Boyd Varty, author of the memoir Cathedral of the Wild, had an unconventional upbringing. Born to a family of conservationists, Boyd grew up on Londolozi Game Reserve in the South African wilderness, a place where man and nature strive for balance, where perils exist alongside wonders. Founded more than 90 years ago as a hunting ground, Londolozi was transformed into a nature reserve beginning in 1973 by Varty’s father and uncle, visionaries of the restoration movement. But it wasn’t just a sanctuary for the animals; it was also a place for ravaged land to flourish again and for the human spirit to be restored. When Nelson Mandela was released after 27 years of imprisonment, he came to the reserve to recover.

Since childhood, Boyd shared his home with lions, leopards, snakes, and elephants and has spent his life in apprenticeship to the wisdom of nature. Boyd survived a harrowing black mamba encounter, a debilitating bout with malaria, even a vicious crocodile attack, but his biggest challenge was a personal crisis of purpose. As a university student, he studied psychology and ecology, supplementing his education by learning martial arts in Thailand, hiking through the jungles of the Amazon, and apprenticing to a renowned tracker from the Shangaan tribe, deepening his intimate knowledge of the natural world. Boyd grew up speaking the local language and learning the true meaning of coexistence between people and with nature.

Connect with Boyd

-Website: https://boydvarty.com/

-Book: The Lion Tracker's Guide To Life: https://boydvarty.com/book/the-lion-trackers-guide-to-life/

-Podcast: https://boydvarty.com/about/40-days-40-nights/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/boydvarty

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boyd_varty/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/boydvartyinc/

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7 Things I Wish I'd Known In My 20s

Thu, 09 Mar 2023 15:45:37 -0400

My son turns two in just a couple of weeks, so this topic has been on my mind: in what ways do we prepare our young boys? What do we teach them?

To start, here are some things I wish I'd known a long time ago.

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Dr. Shefali - Parenting In A Time Of Chaos And Confusion

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: dad life, parenting, teenagers, masculinity

Very excited to share this conversation. I've found Dr. Shefali's approach to parenting both fascinating and helpful. This week over Zoom, we dug into what kids and parents are facing these days, and how parents and parenting culture can best support children.

Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.

Connect with Dr. Shefali

-Website: https://www.drshefali.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorshefali

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorshefali/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrShefali

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WTF Is Going On In The Manosphere?

Thu, 02 Mar 2023 10:55:00 -0400

This one might ruffle some feathers. I've hesitated to fully dive into things like redpill, the "manosphere", etc. over the years—mostly because all I see are misconceptions and infighting. But maybe it's time to look a little deeper.

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Professor Scott Galloway - Why Young Men Are In Decline, And What To Do

Mon, 27 Feb 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: porn, masculinity, male decline, radicalization

Listeners, this one has been a long time coming. I've been a big fan of Scott's work for a long time, and love his no-nonsense approach, particularly when it comes to what's going on with men and modern culture. Not only that, but Scott has the science to back it up, something I deeply appreciate. Men, share this with your friends. Ladies, share this with your men. This is important stuff.

Scott Galloway is a Professor of Marketing at NYU Stern School of Business, where he teaches Brand Strategy and Digital Marketing to second-year MBA students and is the author of the Digital IQ Index ®, a global ranking of prestige brands' digital competence. In 2012, Professor Galloway was named "One of the World's 50 Best Business School Professors" (Poets & Quants). Professor Galloway is also the founder of several firms, including:

-L2, a subscription business intelligence firm serving prestige brands;

-Red Envelope, an e-commerce firm (2007, $100mm revs.); and

-Prophet, a global brand strategy consultancy with 250+ professionals

Professor Galloway was elected to the World Economic Forum's "Global Leaders of Tomorrow," which recognizes 100 individuals under the age of 40 "whose accomplishments have had impact on a global level." Professor Galloway has served on the board of directors of Eddie Bauer (Nasdaq: EBHI), The New York Times Company (NYSE: NYT), Gateway Computer, and Berkeley's Haas School of Business. He received a BA from UCLA and an MBA from UC Berkeley.

Connect with Scott

-Website: https://www.profgalloway.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/profgalloway

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/profgalloway/

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Why Do Men Care About A Woman's Sexual Past?

Thu, 23 Feb 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Now of course, not all men care, but I wanted to answer this question because it's something I get asked about a LOT—and almost always from women. It's a complex topic, too, but I wanted to be as succinct as possible.

DM on Instagram if there's anything you'd like to add, what you agree or disagree with, or any other thoughts!

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Vienna Pharaon - The Origins Of You

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Talking points: internal family systems, origin stories, wounding, sleep deprived or sleep depraved?

Folks, I am so deeply proud of my wife, and very excited to have her on the show once more to dive deep into her book, The Origins of You. We look at origin stories, aka how family patterns also create patterns in ourselves—that then impact our lives and relationships in so many different ways. This is definitely an episode to share with someone, or to listen alongside your partner!

Connect with Vienna:

-Website: https://viennapharaon.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmft/

-Book; The Origins of You: https://bit.ly/3kiEcml

-International Book Link: https://geni.us/TheOriginsOfYou

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Seven Psychology Terms From Carl Jung

Thu, 16 Feb 2023 11:00:00 -0400

As many of you already know, I'm inspired a lot by Jung's work. This week, I wanted to cover seven Jung terms as I understand them, because I see them mentioned a lot out there; from the collective unconscious and the shadow, to the persona and the animus.

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Drew Manning - Leaving The Mormon Church, Porn, And Getting Fit

Mon, 13 Feb 2023 19:10:11 -0400

Talking points: Mormon religion, porn, infidelity, fitness

You can tell right away Mr. Drew Manning is a kind and open man. We sat down recently to discuss talk about his journey of gaining and losing 75 pounds on purpose to better understand his clients, but it became so much more, including his departure from the religion he grew up with and how that felt, how he overcame shame, what it's like to enter the dating scene as a single dad, and much more.

Health and fitness expert Drew Manning is the New York Times best-selling author of Fit2Fat2Fit: The Unexpected Lessons from Gaining and Losing 75 lbs on Purpose and has for years been a leading voice in the burgeoning Keto Diet movement.

Drew is also the creator of the A&E Show Fit to Fat to Fit and the host of The Fit2Fat2Fit Experience podcast. With over a million social media followers, Drew continues to transform people’s lives all around the world.

Known for his straightforward and empathetic fitness and health coaching, Drew has been featured on The Dr. Oz Show, CNN, Good Morning America, The Tonight Show, The View, and MSNBC, among other media outlets.

He lives in Salt Lake City, Utah, with his daughters, who remind him every day not to take things too seriously.

Connect with Drew

-Website: https://fit2fat2fit.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fit2fat2fit/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/fit2fat2fit

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fit2fat2fit/

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What Writing A Book Taught Me About Life

Thu, 09 Feb 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Whenever you commit to a long-term goal, there's going to be a ton of learning—usually the hard kind. This week, as I celebrate the recent launch of my book, Men's Work, I wanted to share five powerful lessons I learned while writing it.

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WTF Is Men's Work? - Mark Groves, Sylvester McNutt, Jeremy Goldberg, Traver Boehm, Nick Onken, Dan Harrison, Mike Campbell, And Branden Collinsworth

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 11:00:00 -0400

This episode is selections from a Zoom panel discussion I hosted on Jan 31 titled "Modern Masculinity and WTF Is Men's Work".

For a couple years now, myself and these eight other men have gathered privately to talk about, well, everything. To celebrate the launch of my new book, Men's Work, we decided to make one of our talks public. About 900 people signed up, and I just want to say I'm so grateful for everyone who joined.

You'll hear from:

-Mark Groves: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/

-Sylvester McNutt: https://www.instagram.com/sylvestermcnutt/

-Jeremy Goldberg: https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs/

-Traver Boehm: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/

-Nick Onken: https://www.instagram.com/nickonken/

-Dan Harrison: https://www.instagram.com/thedanharrison/

-Mike Campbell: https://www.instagram.com/mikecampbellmc/

-Branden Collinsworth: https://www.instagram.com/brandencollinsworth/

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What's The Difference Between Anger And Rage?

Thu, 02 Feb 2023 16:20:41 -0400

It might sound odd, but I think there are significant differences between the two, and it's important to train ourselves to understand those differences. Why? Because if you know how to work with them, they're not going to hinder your progress or damage your relationships. It's that simple.

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Jeremie Lotemo - Navigating America, Masculinity, And Partnership

Mon, 30 Jan 2023 09:55:00 -0400

Talking points: transition, moving from the Congo to America, equality, masculinity, and relationships.

This was a phenomenal conversation. Full stop. Jeremie and I cover a lot of ground, and I'm grateful to have his insight and perspective on men's work. It's nuanced, clear, and deeply authentic.

Jeremie Lotemo is a transformation coach helping clients create lasting change by examining the stories and beliefs that influence them on an unconscious level. He works to help them reestablish safety in the body in order to recognize these beliefs and release them completely.

Before becoming a coach, Jeremie was an account manager for one of the fastest-growing marketing agencies in Atlanta, eventually developing his own agency. For years, he helped clients use advertising to influence the behavior of their customers. This led him to analyze how much of his own life, choices, and ambitions were a product of someone else’s story.

He left advertising and now uses his skills to help others write a story that’s entirely their own.

Connect with Jeremie

-Website: https://www.byermeas.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/byermeas/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/byermeas

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@byermeas

-Podcast: The Gates of Perception: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gates-of-perception/id1532617558

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The Power Of Self-Recognition, And How To Develop It

Thu, 26 Jan 2023 11:00:00 -0400

What if you didn't need outside validation? What if you could actually celebrate your own achievements? In a decade of working with men, I've noticed a lot of us struggle with this (myself included) and that hinders our capacity to contribute to the world the way we want to. So here are some ways to develop better self-recognition skills—and why.

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Experts On: Men And Masculinity - Past, Present, And Future

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 11:00:00 -0400

All you newcomers to the podcast, this one is for you! Every now and then, we like to take segments from previous episodes that were particularly insightful, informative, or moving, and showcase them under theme. That way, you get a solid look at what we offer. In this episode:

James Hollis on how the landscape of male culture has changed in his lifetime
Owen Marcus on emotional intelligence
Ben Goresky on what modern men seem to be facing
John Wineland on the "integrated masculine" and embodiment
Francis Weller on how men can nourish future generations

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Why Men Don't Go To Therapy

Thu, 19 Jan 2023 11:00:00 -0400

I'm sure you've heard the joke: men will start five separate podcasts before they go to therapy.

There are lots of reasons why the stereotype exists, but it's my job to take it seriously. Here's my take on one of the deeper reasons why many men avoid seeing a counselor, a coach, a psychiatrist, or a psychotherapist.

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Dr. Nicholas Brüss - A Deep Dive Into Psychedelics, Part 2

Mon, 16 Jan 2023 11:05:00 -0400

Talking points: psychedelics, psychedelic-assisted therapy, men and therapy, the effects during and after taking psychedelics

I've been looking forward to releasing the second part of our convo as a way of kicking off what 2023 could be for mental health. Nick is very well-informed, and if you've ever been curious about something like psilocybin, or just wanted some clarification on how psychedelics can affect a person and assist with powerful healing, this one is for you.

Part 1 was about the fears and worries people can have around psychedelic experiences, and an overview of how they work and what their potential is.

You can check out part 1 here: https://link.chtbl.com/tnw-t7gl

Dr. Nicholas Bruss is a licensed psychotherapist in Los Angeles, CA, specializing in integrative, ketamine-assisted psychotherapy (KAP), and Internal Family Systems (IFS). He is certified in Mindfulness Facilitation at UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC), Los Angeles, CA, and as a Compassion Cultivation Teacher at Stanford University’s Center for Compassion, Altruism, Research and Education (CCARE), Stanford, CA. Dr. Brüss is a therapist at the Los Angeles site for the MAPS-sponsored Phase III clinical trial of MDMA-assisted psychotherapy for PTSD.

Connect with Nick

-Website: https://apracticeoffreedom.com/

-MAPS: https://maps.org/

-https://psychedelic.support/

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Should You Masturbate While In A Relationship?

Thu, 12 Jan 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Title says it all, folks. I get asked this question a lot. Like...a lot, a lot. But the answer isn't as simple as yes or no, obviously. It's a little more subtle, and requires asking a few deeper questions.

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Humble The Poet - What Is Love?

Mon, 09 Jan 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Baby don't hurt me for the cheesy (but very appropriate) title. You'll just have to listen in.

Talking points: love, family, growing up as an immigrant, community, vulnerability, business, self-love vs self-respect vs self-esteem

Huge honor to sit down with Humble the Poet last month. This was a fascinating and engaging conversation. I deeply appreciate his creative, spiritual, and energetic approach to one of biggest human questions: what is love, really?

Kanwer Singh aka Humble The Poet is a Toronto-bred MC/Spoken word artist with an aura that embodies the diversity and resiliency of one of the world’s most unique cities.

With tattoos, beard, head wrap, and a silly smile, Humble commands attention. He stimulates audiences with ideas that challenge conventional wisdom and go against the grain, with dynamic live sets that shake conventions and minds at the same time.

Humble's distinctive style and point of view have also been featured on popular television program CBC's Canada Reads, and took home top prize. He was also featured in Apple's first Canadian ad spot for their #ShotOnIphone campaign. Humble's latest EP titled Righteous/Ratchet features the first single H.A.I.R, a celebration of women of all shapes, sizes, hair, and walks of life. His self-directed video for H.A.I.R has amassed almost 2 million views since its release. The video features YouTube sensation and longtime collaborator Lilly Singh.

Humble's first book, Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths For A Better Life, was published through Indigo Press in October 2017. It became a Heather's Pick and has stayed on the Globe & Mail Bestsellers list since its release. Unlearn was re-released with Harper Collins Publishing in April 2019. Humble's next book: Things No One Else Can Teach Us was released in the fall of 2019.

His latest book is titled HOW TO BE LOVE(d): Simple Truths For Going Easier On Yourself, Embracing Imperfection & Loving Your Way To A Better Life. Humble offers insightful stories from his own deeply personal experience with love and down-to-earth advice on the most important lesson he’s ever learned: love isn’t found or earned, it’s realized.

Connect with Humble

-Website: https://www.humblethepoet.com/

-New Book: https://bit.ly/3GsmSlT

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humblethepoet/

-Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/humblethepoet

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/3IzAJtt

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The Myth Of Male Vulnerability

Thu, 05 Jan 2023 20:10:28 -0400

One of the bigger asks of men these days can be summed up as "be more vulnerable". But what does that mean? Specifically, what does that mean for men in real life, not just online? Like so many things, the issue is so much more complex.

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Ryan Michler - What Is Masculinity And Why It Matters

Mon, 02 Jan 2023 10:55:00 -0400

Ryan was one of the very first guests I had on the show, so this has been a long overdue conversation! As per the title, this is a simple but charged interview; we dig deep into Ryan's take on the question "what is masculinity?"

Connect with Ryan

-Website: https://www.orderofman.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmichler/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ryanmichler

-Book: The Masculinity Manifesto: https://amzn.to/3jJcmiE

-Book: Sovereignty: https://amzn.to/3G6zwqQ

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New Year's Resolutions Don't Work. Try This Instead.

Thu, 29 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

If you've been listening for a while, you know full well I'm not a fan of New Year's Resolutions. Back in my early thirties, after countless attempts at getting into the next gym habit or productivity hack, I practiced something else that had a lot more impact. This is what it was.

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Dr. Nicole LePera - Defining The Self And The Work To Become More Authentic

Mon, 26 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

It's been a long time since I've had Dr. LePera on the show. Too long, in my opinion. Earlier this month, we got into a discussion that was equal parts practical and esoteric: what is the self? This was inspired by her newly released book, How To Meet Yourself.

This was such an enjoyable conversation, and as always, I'm honored to have the chance to know and speak to the Holistic Psychologist herself! Listen in.

Connect with Dr. Nicole:

-Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/

-Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist

-Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH

-Book: How To Meet Yourself: https://amzn.to/3PRI4WO

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Getting Your Needs Met

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

Let's make this one short and sweet. I've found in my years of working with men that many will very, very quickly start neglecting their own needs and desires in order to fulfill someone else's. And there's nothing inherently wrong with that IF (and only if) there's balance. Listen in.

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Kyle Creek - On Depression, Social Media, And Entering Into Fatherhood

Mon, 19 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

Ladies and gentlemen, Kyle Creek, aka The Captain. When I first came across this man's work, I greatly admired his amazing ability to get straight to the point. I've wanted to have him on the show ever since. This is a wide-ranging, honest conversation on fatherhood, depression, how social media affects our individuality, and so much more.

Also, I'm going to share his website bio here unedited because it's...well, it's just fantastic.

My only regret in life is being just a grammar gunslinger and not an actual cowboy. I don’t even own a horse."

Connect with Kyle

-Website: https://www.kylecreek.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sgrstk/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/sgrstk

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The One Question I'd Ask On A Date

Thu, 15 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

A member of the ManTalks Alliance asked me this question: what's a big question you'd ask a woman on a first or second date? Well, here it is. Listen through to the end for the big picture.

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Ron Williams - What Makes A Champion?

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

If you are into stories of incredible resiliency and dedication, this one's for you. It was an honor to sit with Ron Williams and get insight on his life, his journey, his take on post-traumatic growth, and what it takes to achieve at his level. This episode isn't just about mastery and dedication, it's about how we can take hardship in our lives and alchemize it. Fair warning, this interview has some frank talk about sexual violence.

The principles that Ron teaches and uses in his own life are easy to embrace, simple to understand, and effective. Ron’s desire is to equip men with the necessary tools to live, as he calls it, a Champion Life.

Connect with Ron

-Main Website: www.ronwilliamschampion.com

-Ministry: www.ronwilliamsministries.com

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ronwilliamschampionlife

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Ironchestmastervip

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The Nice Guy Trait No One Talks About

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

A lot of men bump up against this and don't even realize it, and it ultimately becomes an origin point for a lot of other issues nice guys face in their relationships. So let's get talking.

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Britt Frank - Motivation, Anxiety, And The Science Of Stuck

Mon, 05 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

This. Was. So enjoyable. Britt has a gift for cutting through to the heart of seemingly complex topics. Her book, The Science of Stuck, resonated with me in the best way, so I had to have her on the show. We cover a lot, but mainly where to begin working with anxiety, motivation, and feeling stuck—things I think every one of us has experienced on some level.

Born and raised in NY, Britt struggled for more than two decades with chemical/behavioral addictions, eating disorders, depression, anxiety, OCD, trichotillomania, crazy-making relationships, and complex PTSD. After finding her way out of that mess (with a lot of help and a brief stint in a religious cult), Britt changed careers, went back to graduate school, and became a therapist.

Britt received her undergraduate degree from Duke University and her master’s degree from the University of Kansas. She is a licensed psychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). In addition to her private practice, Britt is also a speaker and an award-winning adjunct instructor at the University of Kansas, where she’s taught classes on ethics, addiction, and clinical social work.

Connect with Britt

-Website: https://www.scienceofstuck.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittfrank/

-Book: The Science of Stuck: https://amzn.to/3um4iqb

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Can A Relationship Be Repaired After Infidelity?

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 10:55:00 -0400

My opinion is yes, but it's NOT easy. Most (if not all) of us will experience some form of infidelity or betrayal over the course of our relationship history. Shouldn't we pay more attention to even the possibility of repair, as well as learn ways of repairing effectively?

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Dr. Nicholas Brüss - A Deep Dive Into Psychedelics, Part 1

Mon, 28 Nov 2022 18:40:38 -0400

I met Nick recently at a social function, and his gentle, heavily researched, and welcoming approach to topics psychedelics, internal family systems therapy, and more was deeply edifying. So I've asked him to come on the show for two longer episodes.

Part 1 is about the fears and worries people can have around psychedelic experiences, and an overview of how they work and what their potential is. If you've ever been interested in this field, now's your chance to get in on the ground floor!

Connect with Nick

-Website: https://apracticeoffreedom.com/

-MAPS: https://maps.org/

-https://psychedelic.support/

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Defining Purpose

Thu, 24 Nov 2022 10:55:00 -0400

You see (and read, and hear) a LOT about purpose. What it is, where to find it, yada yada yada. I'm not so sure purpose is that easily defined. I'm not convinced it's something you can even find. Why? You'll just have to listen in.

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Men's Work Session - Healing The Masculine Within

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 10:55:00 -0400

I want to begin by saying how grateful I am for each and every man who steps into these sessions. This can be difficult, uncomfortable, painful work. My guest this week came to me struggling with confidence and self-worth, which was (as we found out) connected to his father's anger. Listen in.

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What Every Man Should Know About Sex

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 10:55:00 -0400

Specifically, about how his nervous system handles sex.

Continuing on the theme this week—first Dr. Laurie Watson and now my own work. I've asked this question at men's weekends, in coachings, and the answer almost always surprises me. A lot of men know the very, very basics of arousal in their own bodies, but that's...it. Let's change that.

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Dr. Laurie Watson - How To Ask For Sex, Sexless Marriages, And How To Keep Things Vibrant

Mon, 14 Nov 2022 10:55:00 -0400

Sex is where so many couples' abilities to communicate, be vulnerable, be expressive, and navigate each other's needs gets tested. Now, this can be a great thing—it can also be where things fall apart.

This week, I sat down with Dr. Laurie Watson to get her insight on some of the bigger challenges men and couples face sexually: sexless marriages, expressing your desires effectively, and the straight-up differences in how men and women approach sex. This was a thoroughly enjoyable conversation, so if you're with a partner, I hope you listen together and maybe open up some dialogue!

Director/owner of Awakenings, Counseling for Couples and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 11 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro.

Connect with Laurie

-Website: https://lauriewatson.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieWatson.CouplesTherapy/

-Podcast: Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/

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This Is The Most Valuable Masculine Trait—Arguably

Thu, 10 Nov 2022 10:55:00 -0400

This is kind of a two-partner. I wanted to talk a little more about the idea of "toxic masculinity" and what that term does in practice to men—and why it does those things.

Secondly, I want to bring what I think is an incredibly misunderstood masculine trait. It's not necessarily any of the classical ones like "strength" or "rationality". It's also something that requires cultivation, nuance, and respect for the world. Listen in.

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Men's Work Session - The Weight Of A Parent's Depression

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 10:55:00 -0400

We all know intellectually that more than genetics gets passed down. Behaviors, opinions, and traumas can get transferred too. How it manifests, though, can be very different for every individual.

In this anonymous men's work session, my guest and I work with the weight of a parent's past trauma. For the parent, it was depression and rejection of her partner's affection, but for my guest, it's become something different. Listen in.

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Three Feminine Archetypes Men Are Drawn To

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Let me preface this by defining what I mean by "archetype": a framework that works well for looking at certain patterns and traits. As far as I can tell, these three archetypes work together, and they're also three major archetypes men tend to fall for. Often unconsciously.

What also happens is men can get stuck or fixated on one of them in a relationship, and this can lead to complications.

This episode (sort of!) inspired by Jill Scott's I'm Not Afraid: https://youtu.be/yjDmpjuRUEc

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Tanner Guzy - Style, Masculinity, And The Appearance Of Power

Mon, 31 Oct 2022 10:00:00 -0400

Do clothes make the man? Well, yes and no. It's a little more complicated than that. This is a deep-dive into some of the nuances of masculine aesthetics. Sit down with Tanner Guzy and I as we discuss how the way you dress affects your self-perception and how men have used clothing throughout history. We also get into some practical places to start dressing better!

Tanner Guzy is a men’s style coach, and the host and founder of Masculine-Style.com He is also the author of The Appearance of Power, How Masculinity is Expressed Through Aesthetics, an analysis of the intersection of clothing, aesthetics, and masculinity, and how men throughout time and across the world have used their appearance to signal virtues like courage, strength, mastery, and honor.

Connect with Tanner

-Website: https://masculine-style.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/tannerguzy

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tannerguzy/

-Book: The Appearance of Power: https://masculine-style.com/book-3/

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Four Finance Lessons I Wish I'd Learned Earlier

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I was chatting with a friend and he asked me: what am I going to teach my son about money?

Big question. Because when I was kid, I wasn't taught very much, and the lessons I DID learn didn't work out too well. So after reflecting, here are four lessons I wish I'd learned a long time ago—one's I'll definitely be teaching my son.

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Experts On Relationships: Forgiveness, Fantasy, And Conflict

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 14:40:17 -0400

This week, I'm featuring some of the incredible work, insight, and knowledge of relationship experts I've had on. This is a great episode if you're pressed for time, looking for a variety of answers, or just want a taste of what the ManTalks podcast has to offer. I hope you enjoy!

Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today’s most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums. She is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like Mind Body Green and The Huffington Post and has been featured on numerous podcasts.

Relationship expert and sought-after coach Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in love, conflict resolution, and interpersonal relationships. He’s the host of an extremely successful podcast with almost 3 million downloads (and over 250 episodes) and has interviewed the very best in the world including Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Dr. John Demartini, The Gottmans, Pat Ogden, and Bessel VanDerKolk.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world.

Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. She lives with her husband, Ben, on xʷənen̕əč, the unceded land of the Hul’q’umi’num’ and WSÁNEĆ peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC.

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Andrew Tate: Why Him, And Why Now?

Thu, 20 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Just the mention of him is enough to set Reddit threads on fire, and it's understandable why. But I want to talk about what many of us are ignoring or distracted from: how a person like Tate gets attention—and why. Think whatever you want of him, but he's a symptom of some larger issues. Here is my reaction to a clip of his, and some thoughts on what those larger issues might be.

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Wim Hof - Breathe, Motherf***er

Mon, 17 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

There are moments in the podcast life that aren't just a highlight, they straight-up blow your mind. Wim Hof has been an inspiration for me and many friends and men I've worked with for years now. I finally got him on the show to talk about what led to him discovering cold immersion therapy and breathwork, what happens to the body and the nervous system during breathwork or when you're feeling fear, its effects on inflammation, and the ultimate purpose of men. Do. Not. Miss. This.

Also, in honor of this episode, I partnered up with TheColdPlunge.com, whose work I love. I use mine daily and the simplicity is an absolute game changer. Use the promo code MANTALKS to save a good chunk of money and join me in the plunge!

Connect with Wim

-Website: https://www.wimhofmethod.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iceman_hof/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/iceman_hof

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxHTM1FYxeC4F7xDsBVltGg

-BBC Series: Freeze the Fear: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0bwtn6q

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Not Doing This In Your Relationship? Start Now

Thu, 13 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I got inspired by a question from a buddy of mine: what is one of the greatest lessons we as men need to learn in the context of relationships? It's not an easy thing to do by any stretch, but I think it's deeply important, deeply valuable, and it also saves you a ton of time and uncertainty. Obviously won't spoil it here! So listen in.

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Danielle LaPorte - Leading With Love

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Forgiveness doesn't often come easy, but it's a big part of being human. And self-forgiveness? This is something many, many men come to me with questions about. Danielle is an old friend and I'm deeply grateful to have sat down with her on this topic. We also cover what it looks like to actually deal with our fears—to compassionately work with them and other patterns that may hold us back.

Danielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.”

The former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC, where she managed a team creating global scenarios. She now speaks about the intelligence of the heart.

Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is also the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support.

Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses.

Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com.

Marianne Williamson refers to Danielle “as a bright light.” V (formerly known as Eve Ensler) calls her “a force field of energy, wonder, humour, and love.”

Her charities of choice are Ally Global Foundation, helping survivors of human trafficking to rebuild their lives (@allyglobal), Trees Sisters’ reforestation projects (@treesisters_official), and VDay, a movement to end violence against women and girls (vdayorg).

She lives in Vancouver, BC.

Connect with Danielle

-Website: https://daniellelaporte.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellelaporte/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellelaporte

-New book; How To Be Loving: https://amzn.to/3Mgc9gU

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Should Men Get Better Or Women Lower Their Expectations?

Thu, 06 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

You work in coaching and stick around on social media for five minutes and you'll see variations of these questions. And a lot of vitriol alongside.

It's not that simple. It never is. And it doesn't help anyone find fulfilling relationships.

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Dr. Marisa Franco - The Profound Science Of Friendship

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Seriously, this was a fantastic and mind-opening conversation. I get asked a lot about how to make—and keep—friends, and in a world that increasingly tries to isolate us, it's more important than ever to cultivate the SKILL of making friends. Dr. Franco and I lean into how friendship impacts depression and purpose, her NYT bestselling book (which is @#$%ing good), how attachment style impacts how you perceive friends, and of course, why you should build your friend circle consciously and deliberately.

Dr. Marisa Franco is a New York Times bestselling author, professor, and psychologist. She communicates the science of connection in digestible ways and is passionate about sharing research with the people it could help the most.

Franco holds a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Maryland and works as a professor there currently. She writes for Psychology Today and has been a featured psychologist in The New York Times, NPR, and Good Morning America. Dr. Franco delivers talks about connection and belonging all over the country to private companies, universities, and non-profit organizations.

Connect with Dr. Marisa Franco

-Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/

-Book: Plantonic; How The Science Of Attachment Can Help Us Make —And Keep — Friends: https://drmarisagfranco.com/about/platonic-the-book/

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How To Repair After A Fight

Thu, 29 Sep 2022 09:55:00 -0400

We all screw up sometimes. What's important is how we navigate the aftermath, particularly in a relationship. This week, let's dig into some of the more important aspects of making up with your partner after a fight, an argument, or a betrayal.

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Vienna Pharaon - Two Books & A Baby: Surviving Hard Times In Your Relationship

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Having my incredible wife Vienna on the show has been long overdue. And in the last two years a LOT has happened to both of us. So this week, we sat down in front of the mics to really dig deep on how it's affected us and our relationship, and what we've learned about grief, loss, transition, motherhood and fatherhood, and a helluva lot more.

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Sexless Marriages, Divorce, And The Insanity Of Modern Relationships

Thu, 22 Sep 2022 09:55:00 -0400

It's a jungle out there. No, seriously. It doesn't take a lot of googling to discover that the modern dating and relationship scene is hard. On everyone.

So we're going to dig into some of stats, research, and things I've been hearing directly from men about what they're experiencing, what they're seeing, and why things don't look too good right now. We'll also have a few ways you can "safeguard" yourself against the murky waters of modern dating.

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Men's Work Session - When Abuse Blocks Purpose

Mon, 19 Sep 2022 06:55:00 -0400

This might be one of the most important anonymous guest sessions I've done. It so clearly shows how complex a connection to purpose and a meaningful life can be.

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Tell Her What The !@#$ You Want

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 06:55:00 -0400

I've seen it happen too often. Men get this idea that they shouldn't have (or express) any needs. Then they lose sight of those needs and they and their partner are left guessing, reactive, and confused. This is a particular problem for Nice Guys.

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Tim Corcoran - The Purpose Crisis

Tue, 13 Sep 2022 06:55:00 -0400

This has got to be the soonest I've had a guest return for a "part 2" conversation. Tim is an expert at connecting people their purpose, something he considers soul-based. Our last conversation was powerful, but I felt we'd just scratched the surface. So dig in with us here on why so many men feel purposeless, the role nature plays in that, how technology alters how we connect, and much, much more.

Tim Corcoran is the founder of Purpose Mountain, where he serves as a certified Nature-Based Purpose Guide to support people who hear the call from wild nature to discover their purpose, those with a burning desire to live their vision and a willingness to work with resistance and fears through the Ecology of Self and Voice Dialogue. Tim also serves as co-Director of Twin Eagles Wilderness School, an organization he co-founded with his wife, Jeannine Tidwell, in Sandpoint, Idaho in 2005 dedicated to facilitating deep nature connection mentoring, cultural restoration, and inner tracking.

Tim is a leader of men’s groups and holistic rites of passage for males, guiding and initiating men and boys into the new paradigm of the mature masculine. Since 1999, Tim has dedicated his life towards consciously furthering this vision of living in balance with the Earth, community, family, self, spirit, and soul. Healing the cultural rift between the mainstream and indigenous cultures, transformational consciousness work, the spiritual journey, ancestral work, deep nature connection, family and holistic health are all deep commitments in his life. Tim is a heart-centered father of two brilliant boys and husband to a magnificent wife and lives in pristine Sandpoint, Idaho.

Connect with Tim

-Website: https://www.purposemountain.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PurposeMountain/

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Why You're Not Happy With Your Relationship

Thu, 08 Sep 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I've been in this game a long while now, and this is one of the biggest things men come to me for. They can be incredibly successful in so many aspects of life, but they're still struggling with fulfilling relationships. Well, here's some insight as to why that is, based on my own personal experience and the stories of many, many men I've worked with.

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Mike Liguori - Forgiving Your Father

Mon, 05 Sep 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Before you ask, yes, I'm on the road and recorded the intro in my car. This was an incredible conversation on a very powerful topic: forgiveness. Specifically how a man—and IF a man—should forgive his father. Mike and I get into his latest book on this topic, and dive deep into the meaning and role of a dad in a son's life. Listen in!

Mike Liguori is a writer and coach who helps amazing humans transcend their inherited limitations so they can create their extraordinary life. He's the author of two books, The Sandbox Stories of Human Spirit and War, and The Road Ahead and Miles Behind, A Story of Healing and Redemption Between Father and Son.

Mike runs a media company, Live Your Truth Media, that empowers brands and companies to utilize the power of podcasting to build deeply engaged audiences and better relationships with their customers. He's had the privilege to work with some amazing clients such as Huffington Post, T-Mobile, Toyota, Super Bowl Champions, New York Times best-selling authors, and various social media influencers.

Connect with Mike

-Website: https://mikeliguori.com/

-Book: The Road Ahead and Miles Behind: https://mikeliguori.com/roadahead/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike.liguori/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/mikeliguori

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Feel Like You Suck At Communicating? Here's Where To Start

Thu, 01 Sep 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Keeping it simple and straightforward this week. So many of us feel like terrible communicators, but the truth is we're not—it's just that we're not grounding and regulating ourselves before (and during) that hard conversation.

So! Here are some easy, ready-to-use ways of getting you and your partner's nervous system regulated whenever things get heated.

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Robbie Kramer - Does Anyone Benefit From Modern Dating Culture?

Mon, 29 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Seriously, though. It seems to me modern dating has mandated some pretty strange behaviors. So I brought Robbie on to talk about what works and what doesn't, what sucks and what doesn't, and what the overall scene is like. If you're finding the whole Tinder thing frustrating, I encourage you to listen in!

Robbie Kramer is a men's dating and lifestyle expert who's been guiding men to accomplishing their goals with women, health, fitness, and career since 2008. He founded Inner Confidence to show men exactly how to creat the lifestyle of their dreams in a way that actually works. No quick fixes, no magic pills, no bullshit.

Connect with Robbie:

-Website: https://innerconfidence.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robbiekramer

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How To Create Direction In Your Relationship

Thu, 25 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Getting clear on where you'd like a relationship to go isn't always easy, and I think a lot of us men simply weren't given any skills on how to do this. This is what I've learned and what's been incredibly effective for me, and if there's anything you think I missed, feel free to DM me @mantalks on Instagram!

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Rainier Wylde - Self-Acceptance, Purpose, And How Men Can Show Up

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Seriously, it's always a pleasure to speak with Rainier, whose passionate wonder never fails to fire me up. Rainier and I get into some fuller questions in here, ones that we'll definitely be revisiting soon. Listen in for thoughts on how to practice self-acceptance, what these times are asking of us (and men, specifically), the psyche's earliest and most potent defense mechanism, and more.

Rainier Wylde is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women to confront their shadow, find intimate union with the masculine and feminine, and experience spiritual awakening.

Connect with Rainier

-Website: https://www.rainierwylde.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rainierwylde/

-Book: As You Are; Meditations On Self And Other: https://amzn.to/3KbWEpx

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Why She Won't Let You Lead

Thu, 18 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Leadership in the context of your relationship is a tricky subject, but it's something I'm asked about daily by both men and women. So naturally, I've dedicated a lot of time lately to the subject.

When it comes to questions like "why won't she let me take the lead", there are all sorts of reasons—and all sorts of responses. I share some of those here, including responses to my own content that have surprised me.

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Men's Work Session - Healing Your Relationship To Anger

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

(Apologies in advance, something was up with the audio for this one) Now and then, I put out the call and feature a session with someone I’ve never worked with before. This work took place over the course of an hour or so, and we've shorted it here for easier listening.

My guest today is someone who grew up in a hostile environment, and his end result as an adult was a feeling of numbness and a hard time recognizing the emotions he felt. We work to identify and give voice to what he's feeling, particularly his anger and sadness.

I've wrestled with numbness too, and I'm sure there are a lot of guys out there in similar situations. So listen in and don't forget to share with someone you feel might benefit from this kind of work.

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How To Lead Yourself Effectively

Thu, 11 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

This month I've been talking a lot about leading in the context of relationship, and how you're influencing and guiding yourself is one of the more important parts of the equation. There's a lot of advice that frames leadership as something you "do" to other people, but it often skips and important questions: how are you leading YOU?

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Robert Breedlove - The Future Of Bitcoin, Money, And Inflation

Mon, 08 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Cryptocurrency has been an interest of mine for a long time now, so naturally I asked Robert to come on the show to give some high-level insight into what's happened, happening, and might happen in the future. We cover the foundational aspects of money and why gold was the "standard" for so long, the differences between gold, fiat currency, and bitcoin, and a lot more. Listen in!

Robert Breedlove is an entrepreneur, writer, and philosopher. He is an advocate of cryptocurrencies and particularly of Bitcoin.

Breedlove is the founder of Bitcoin and finance consulting company Parallax Digital. He is also a YouTuber and the host of the “What Is Money?” podcast.

Connect with Robert

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/Breedlove22

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/breedlove22/

-What Is Money Podcast: https://whatismoneypodcast.com/

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What Does Relational Leadership Look Like?

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I recently released some content all about how important it is for men to lead in the context of a relationship. It got a ton of traction, lots of questions, and requests to clarify/dig deeper.

So let's truly dig into it! This is the first of four mini-episodes focused entirely on "relational leadership": the way you guide, support, and lead your relationship (and your partner) as necessary.

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Jason Kander - The Invisible Storm Of PTSD

Mon, 01 Aug 2022 09:55:00 -0400

A lot of misunderstanding surrounds Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and yet it's one of most impactful injuries that can happen to a person. So when I heard of Jason Kander, a former Army Captain and political leader who's been decisively honest with his experience, I immediately wanted him on the show to shed some light. It was an honor.

Jason provides a more nuanced and experienced definition of what PTSD is and what it feels like, and we cover how PTSD affected Jason's mindset, career, wife, and family.

If you're a veteran (or know one) and this show resonates, don't hesitate to call the Veterans Crisis Line; call 988 and then hit 1 to speak with someone (or text 838255). In Canada, call 1-800-268-7708, and in Australia, 1800 011 046.

Jason Kander is a former Army Captain and intelligence officer who served in Afghanistan, and was the first millennial ever elected to a statewide office. He is the current president of national expansion at Veterans Community Project, a non-profit providing housing and walk-in services to American veterans, and co-founder of the Afghan Rescue project, a non-profit that has safely gotten over 1700 men, women, and children out of Afghanistan. Kander is also the host of Majority 54, a popular political podcast. Jason’s first book, Outside the Wire was a New York Times bestseller, as is his second book Invisible Storm: A Soldier's Memoir of Politics and PTSD, a brutally honest memoir of his struggle (and healing) with PTSD. He lives in Kansas City with his family.

Connect with Jason

-Website: https://www.jasonkander.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasonkander/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/JasonKander

-NEW book, Invisible Storm: https://bit.ly/3BuRBOC

-the Veteran's Community Project: https://www.veteranscommunityproject.org/

-the Afghan Rescue Project: https://www.afghanrescueproject.org/

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Stop Trying To Figure Her Out

Thu, 28 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

If you scroll around in the manosphere long enough, you'll come across the idea that all women are understandable in the exact same way, and if you just follow some specific modality (that usually costs an arm and a leg) you'll understand women better than they understand themselves...

Uh, that's not how any of this works, so listen in for a different approach and stop doing both women and yourself a disservice. Let me know what you think; hit me up @mantalks on Instagram.

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GS Youngblood - The Art Of Embodiment

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I've recently had a lot of men ask me about embodiment. What does it mean? Why does that term get thrown around so much? Hot on the heels of last week's episode with John Wineland (another embodiment coach) comes GS Youngblood, a friend of mine who's been working and coaching embodiment practices for years.

This is a great episode if you want to truly get a feel for what embodiment means, how it's practiced, and why it's so effective. GS even takes me through a short, two minute "sample" practice. We also dig into how embodiment can help with sex, desire discrepancy, overwhelm, and more.

GS Youngblood coaches men in relationship and how to live, love, and lead from their masculine core. He has been a student and creator in the fields of men's work for over a decade. Through this lens of masculine leadership, he also pulls in principles from a variety of fields: psychology, martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM. All of his writings are filtered through the laboratory of his and his clients' real-world, long-term relationships (including both the successes and spectacular failures) to see what actually works and what doesn't.

Connect with GS

-Website: https://www.gsyoungblood.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gsyoungbloodmir/

-NEW book, The Art of Embodiment: https://amzn.to/3PAfqIM

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Can You Fail Your Way To Remarkable?

Thu, 21 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

The answer's yes, but not in the way you might think. I don't mean "failing upwards", and I definitely don't mean spending all your mental energy worrying about what might happen. This is about treating failure as motivation. As fuel. Listen in.

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John Wineland - Integration, Your Masculine Core, And How To Embody It All

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Is there anything better than having an old friend on your podcast? John is a brilliant and passionate mind in the realm of masculine wellness, and we cover a ton of ground here. What "integration" actually means, John's new book, why disconnect and fear can be so damaging, the temptation to just layer new knowledge on top of old patterns. This is a big one, so listen in.

Known for his groundbreaking work with men, John travels world-wide teaching his vision of embodied men's work and deep relational practice. In 2014, he founded The New Men’s Work Project, which has attracted men from around the world looking to develop as leaders in their relationships and communities. The Project is committed to the staggering goal of creating 1000 men's groups worldwide in the next ten years and has already supported trainings and groups throughout Europe and the U.S. John's clients include entrepreneurs, leading thinkers in the world of personal development and entertainment, Ted speakers and creative leaders in Hollywood.

John brings a multi-faceted approach, which is both energetic and highly practical, to his workshops and experiential coaching sessions. John's embodiment-driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years experience of his own Buddhist meditative practice, but from 13 years intensive study and practice with renowned Yogic Intimacy teacher, David Deida. Drawing from Deida's revolutionary framework, as well as the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga, Taoist and Iron Shirt Qigong traditions, John seeks to create a profound experience for men and women longing to express their deepest desires with open, fierce and loving hearts.

John's work has been featured on multiple podcast and publications; including Zen Habits, The Elephant Journal, Sex with Emily, Man Talks, The Good Men Project and Love TV. John's first book, The Art of Masculine Leadership, will be available June 2022. He will also be traveling throughout Europe and the U.S. leading workshops on embodied men's work, spiritual intimacy and sexual practice.

Connect with John

-Website: https://www.johnwineland.com/

-The Virtual Workshop: https://www.johnwineland.com/streaming

-NEW book; From The Core: https://www.johnwineland.com/book-from-the-core

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/john_wineland/

-Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTif0aTpBjQ27lRC5q6vJLw

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnWineland1/

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What To Do When She Pulls Away

Wed, 13 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I get it. It's hard not to go into some kind of crisis mode when your partner starts distancing. Doesn't matter if it's someone you just started dating or it's been years. This week, some simple steps to take that don't make things worse.

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Jack Donovan - The Way Of Men

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

To put it bluntly, this was quite the conversation. I've found Jack Donovan's work to be both challenging, compelling, and ultimately fascinating—and it's not for the faint of heart. So naturally, I wanted him on the show. Listen in as Jack and I dig into what men of today are facing, modern culture's perspective on masculinity, balancing responsibility and freedom, the role of fathers, and of course, what really are the core tactical and mythic components of "masculinity" as a concept.

Jack Donovan has been writing and speaking about masculinity, masculine philosophy and spirituality for over a decade. His foundational book, The Way of Men, has sold over 100,000 copies worldwide and has been translated into French, German, Portuguese, Spanish, and Polish. His most recent book, Fire in the Dark, presents a primal system of masculine roles and shows how those roles have been repeated again and again throughout the history of myth and religion.

Donovan is an occasional speaker and often appears on podcasts to discuss masculinity and the challenges faced by men who want to live masculine lives in the 21st Century.

In 2021, he founded CHEST Magazine with Tanner Guzy to create an alternative to mainstream men’s magazines. CHEST features interviews with courageous and important American men who are speaking up for men and standing against the forces of chaos and darkness that threaten freedom.

Connect with Jack

-Website: https://www.jack-donovan.com/sowilo/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttheworld/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfR6vcvegX4_ZPNN6v3TrXw

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ph2t3r

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Rules For Friends

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Wait, huh? Rules? For friends? Yes.

This was inspired by a recent talk in the Alliance, ManTalks' private online group. I think it's important to cultivate meaningful, depth-oriented friendships as men, and craft that kind of brotherhood or elevate your current friendships requires a few ground rules. Here are five I've put together that have helped me maintain meaningful, fulfilling friendships.

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Brian Scudamore - Build Your Own Business, Be Your Own Boss

Mon, 04 Jul 2022 09:55:00 -0400

This was one of those interviews that was a blast from the past and a leap into the future at the same time. See, Brian was on episode fifteen of the podcast—that's 374 episodes ago! So clearly, it was high time to have him back on the show.

Brian brings his years of insight and hard work to this interview so you can get a better idea of what it takes to get your own project off the ground. Doesn't matter if you're an entrepreneur, business-curious, or simply wanting to be a better leader in whatever you're doing—there's some excellent, straightforward advice here.

Brian Scudamore is a Canadian entrepreneur and the founder and CEO of O2E Brands, the parent company of 1-800-GOT-JUNK, WOW 1 DAY PAINTING, and Shack Shine. In 1989, he founded The Rubbish Boys with $700 to pay for college. This would later become 1-800-GOT-JUNK, now on track to generate one billion in revenue.

He is the author of 2018's WTF?! (Willing to Fail): How Failure Can Be Your Key to Success and in 2022, BYOB: Build Your Own Business, Be Your Own Boss, a Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and Amazon Bestseller.

Connect with Brian

-New book; BYOB: Build Your Own Business, Be Your Own Boss: https://amzn.to/3unUXhP

-Website: https://brianscudamore.com/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scudamore/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brianscudamore/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpQVYv5YMEqKZd5u7ANifYA

-Podcast: https://anchor.fm/founders-stories-brian

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Happy Wife, Happy Life?

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

You've probably heard this one, but is it really a good way of maintaining your marriage? Don't get me wrong, the wellbeing and happiness of your partner should of course be a priority—but there's more to relationships than that.

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Figs O'Sullivan - Breaking Free Of Repeat Conflict In Relationships

Sun, 26 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Preaching the obvious here, but romantic relationships are complex, and WHY something becomes a conflict can be incredibly hard to map—unless you're Figs O'Sullivan. This was such an enjoyable interview. Figs brings a sense of playfulness and humor to the tough stuff, and helps open up new ways of looking at conflict in relationships, why it happens, why reoccurring arguments happen, how to move through those arguments differently. Have a listen to this alongside your partner!

Figs O’Sullivan was bred and emboldened in Dublin, Ireland and immigrated to the Marin County and San Francisco area in 1994. He was drawn to psychotherapy and self-exploration to better open to, move through, and heal his own emotional pain and suffering, and the last of his family to do so. Figs’ father is an experiential therapist in Ireland, his mother a social worker/probation officer, and his sister is also a psychotherapist in the Bay Area.

He received a BA and MA in Economics from Trinity College in Dublin, Ireland before moving to the States and working as a stockbroker, employee stock options specialist, and executive. He quit the corporate world and attended Esalen in Big Sur, immersing himself in the study of existential psychotherapies, spirituality, body-oriented/somatic modalities, and the therapeutic expressive arts such as drama and dance as ways to uncage life, access inner wisdom, and build capacities for growth and transformation. Figs went on to receive an MA in Counseling Psychology from Meridian University in Petaluma.

He is also extensively studied Gestalt Awareness Practice, Emotionally Focused Therapy (a highly effective form of marriage counseling), Imago, Collaborative Couples Therapy, Experiential Psychotherapy for Couples, Gottman’s work, and more.

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Relationship Green Flags

Thu, 23 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

I get asked this a lot: what are my relationship green flags? What would I consider the biggest go-aheads in a partner? And to be honest, these come after a loooong time of not knowing what to look for or what I really wanted!

So consider this list some hard-earned, but simple and tactical things to look out for when pursuing a serious partnership.

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Sheleana Aiyana - Forgiveness, Acceptance, And Becoming The One

Mon, 20 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. More than 30,000 women in 146 countries have taken her flagship program Becoming the One. In her new book, Becoming the One, out April 12, 2022, Sheleana takes you on a transformational inner-work journey to heal life-long relationship patterns and reclaim power over your life. She lives with her husband, Ben, on xʷənen̕əč, the unceded land of the Hul’q’umi’num’ and WSÁNEĆ peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC.

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-Website: https://risingwoman.com/

-Personal Website: https://sheleanaaiyana.com/

-New Book! "Becoming The One": https://courses.risingwoman.com/btobook

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/risingwoman/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RisingWomanOfficial

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Three Ways To Deepen Intimacy

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

There's a lot of advice out there on how to feel more connected and more intimate in your relationship. A lot of it gets kind of, uh, overcomplicated, so let's keep things nice and simple. Here are three straightforward, lasting ways to deepen intimacy

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Tim Corcoran - The Nature Of Purpose, The Language Of Soul, And Vision Quests

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Discovering a sense of purpose in life can feel frustrating and ambiguous at times, and with the mountain of books and guides out there, it's also easy to dismiss the simple act of letting purpose find you, so to speak. Tim Corcoran specializes in helping people cut through the complexity and return to nature, so I sat down with him to dig into the nature and definition of purpose, the point of things like vision quests, and how nature speaks to us.

Connect with Tim

-Website: https://www.purposemountain.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PurposeMountain/

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Ask Her This

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

At the start of a relationship, a lot of men dive headfirst into meeting every need the other person has. There's nothing inherently wrong with that, but when you combine it with cultural messaging that seems to say men shouldn't express (or even have) their own needs in a relationship, it prevents both parties from getting to really know each other. So here's one way to break through that!

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Stefanos Sifandos - Repairing Infidelity, Why We Cheat, And Leaky Sexual Energy

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 09:55:00 -0400

Whether you've been cheated on, been the cheater, or been the couple trying to recover from it, this episode is for you. Stefanos has a gift for breaking things down with a balanced combo of compassion and accountability.

Or maybe you read the title and thought, "WTF is leaky sexual energy?" Well, my friend, listen in, because it's a great way of framing personal sexual troubles from porn addiction to sexless marriages.

With over 15 years of experience in the personal development space, Stefanos is a trained educator, Behavioural Scientist, and relationships expert with an extensive background in Psychology, Philosophy, and Ecology. He is passionate about and committed to leading people to closer to their highest potential and to each other. Stefanos’ philosophy merges the best of Eastern and Western methodologies to promote spiritual balance and empower people in life and love.

From trauma release to navigating the murky waters of modern masculinity to helping women understand the men in their lives, he helps people escape negative patterns and cultivate a positive sense of self. Stefanos has worked with thousands of men and women from all walks of life; special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists, elite world champion fighters, and everyday people have relied on him to restructure and reframe their relationships with themselves, their past, their trauma, their potential, and their loved ones.

Connect with Stefanos

-Website: https://stefanossifandos.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/38OuEd5

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/stefsifandos

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stefanossifandosalchemist

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The Truth About Your Excuses

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 09:50:00 -0400

Your excuses are the tip of the iceberg. It's what lies underneath that you need to deal with, and more often than not, that is fear. But...on the other side of your fear is exactly what you're looking for.

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Justin Lehmiller - The Science Of Sexual Fantasies

Mon, 30 May 2022 09:45:00 -0400

What we fantasize about sexually can say a lot about...well, a lot. Our insecurities, our identity, our culture, the list goes on. And what you might think is some strange niche only you hang out in might be more common than you think! This is the conversation the incredible Justin Lehmiller brought to the table, and I'm excited to share it with you. If you're with a part of any variety, listen in together for some great insights.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years.

He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world.

Dr. Lehmiller’s research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Connect with Justin:

-Website: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinlehmiller

-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=r3pNkRoAAAAJ

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinlehmiller

-Book: Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/3x1vmvU

-Podcast: The Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/

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How To Handle Chronic Complainers

Thu, 26 May 2022 09:45:00 -0400

Years ago I put out a mini-episode on this topic, and on a whim decided to put it on the YouTube channel too. Clearly, complainers were a hot-button issue, because it became one of the top-performing videos on my channel, even though it was just audio.

I wanted to revisit the issue, because I don't think ghosting them, ripping into them, or enabling them are solid ways of helping them (or ourselves). Here are my thoughts; I'd love to hear yours. DM me @mantalks on Instagram.

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Do Women Really Want Vulnerable Men?

Mon, 23 May 2022 16:56:04 -0400

Complexity and relationships go together like coffee and Sunday morning, and after working with hundreds of couples I've noticed some common threads that deserve a better look, like "vulnerability". Do women actually want "vulnerable" men? I think the answer is more complex than anyone wants to admit.

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How To Lead In Your Relationship

Thu, 19 May 2022 09:50:00 -0400

Simple idea, but not easy to execute. Far too often, we mistake being a control freak for leadership, and/or reactivity with decisiveness. Let's break it down a little and look at how to effectively (and authentically) take the lead in a relationship.

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Doug McKinley - The Shifting Landscape Of Leadership

Mon, 16 May 2022 09:45:00 -0400

Does effectively leading a company have anything in common with leading your own personal development? Of course, but what parts? This is why I brought in Doug McKinley, whose career has allowed him to bridge an individual psychological practice with coaching execs and organization heads.

We cover adversity and bouncing back from it, the similarities between self-leadership and leadership within an organization, the ways men find success (or hardship) in both, some of the conflicts between what society tells about leadership and what actual effective leading looks like, and how it all. comes. back. to. discipline.

Doug McKinley spent the first 15 years of his vocational life serving as a clinical psychologist and founded his own group practice in the early 90s. He was honored to be able to assist clients in the relief of unnecessary suffering and finding a healing path forward. While this was fulfilling in its own right, Doug knew that he wanted to do more; the collective insights of 30 years of investing in people have led him to the conclusion that clarity and culture are not simply “nice to have.”

After meeting Pat Williams, renowned leadership coach and author, at a conference on marriage counseling, Doug transitioned from clinical psychology into serving clients as an executive leadership development coach and consultant. Part of this transition included moving on from his clinical practice and founding an executive coaching firm. In 2012, Doug created a successful consulting company with a business partner that they would run together until selling it in late 2017.

McKinley currency runs DLM Pathways, an organization dedicated to guiding leaders increase their self-awareness, discover their purpose, and develop their competencies. Doug holds a doctorate degree in clinical psychology from the Adler Professional School of Psychology and a Master's Degree in counseling from Wright State University. He has earned the Master Certified Coach designation from the International Coach Federation and is a practicing member of ICF. Doug is the author of The Resiliency Quest: A Journey of Personal Leadership Development for the Thriving Physician, and the co-author of Go Positive: Lead to Engage. He’s also authored several training program manuals that focus on leadership development.

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The Real Reason Women Leave Nice Guys

Thu, 12 May 2022 09:45:00 -0400

Continuing the discussion of nice guys, I wanted to think out loud a little about a question I get a lot: if women want men who are more open, more vulnerable, more reliable, more caring, why is it they still reject men who are those things? It's a complicated subject, and worth thinking about.

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Angus Fletcher - Change Your Story, Change Your Life

Mon, 09 May 2022 09:45:00 -0400

Forgive me while I geek out for the rest of the week about this fantastic conversation! After reading Angus' book Wonderworks: Literary Invention and the Science of Stories, I knew I had to get him on the show. Story, myth, and narrative are incredible tools for change, and knowing how they affect us down to the neurological level is Angus' specialty. Listen in for...

-How narrative shifts not just our perspective, but our entire life.
-How literature and apology are two of the oldest, most powerful human inventions.
-A quick look at why AI will never surpass human intelligence
-How we're losing narrative diversity—and why that's leading to polarization.
-The function of anger.

Angus Fletcher is a professor of story science at Ohio State's Project Narrative, the world's leading academic think-tank for the study of stories. He has dual degrees in neuroscience and literature, received his Ph.D. specializing in Shakespeare from Yale, taught Shakespeare at Stanford, and has published two books and dozens of peer-reviewed academic articles on the scientific workings of novels, poetry, film, and theatre. His research has been supported by the National Science Foundation, the Mellon Foundation, and the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences. He has done story-consulting for projects for Sony, Disney, the BBC, Amazon, PBS, and Universal, and is the author/presenter of the Audible/Great Courses Guide to Screenwriting.

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-Website: https://www.angusfletcher.co/

-Book: Wonderworks: Literary Invention and the Science of Stories: https://amzn.to/3smnhjQ

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/angus-fletcher-99713617/

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Break Free From Nice Guy Syndrome

Thu, 05 May 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I've worked with men for almost a decade now, am good friends with Dr. Robert Glover, and we've both witnessed the evolution of Nice Guys over the years. I won't lie to you and say breaking free from being the stereotypical "nice guy" is easy—in fact, it's more difficult than most people imagine. But there are a few fundamental things to keep in mind that will make it happen.

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Destin Gerek - Connect To Your Sexual Power

Mon, 02 May 2022 10:01:00 -0400

Sex is proof that things can be simple and complex as the same time. Men are no exception, and it's an unhelpful stereotype male sexuality is the same as a light switch: on and off. Destin and I connected to break this stereotype down, and dive into not just the symptoms of issues men face in the bedroom, but the underlying issues and how to approach them. Listen in with your partner and, uh, not in the car with your kids!

Destin Gerek is a globally recognized leading voice in masculinity, sexuality, and personal empowerment. He is founder and CEO of The Evolved Masculine, a pioneering coaching and training company for men, and author of the book “The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs, and The One She Craves”. Destin is also an international speaker and host of the podcast, "The Evolved Masculine: Redefining Sex, Power, & Success". His innovative lens is the result of more than 20 years of academic rigor and direct study -- including 7 formative years traveling the world living and teaching as his provocative alter ego, ‘The Erotic Rockstar’. Destin has taken the most potent aspects of his bold life experimentation and integrated it into his iconic body of work, directly supporting thousands of men to have better sex, deeper connections to their masculine power, women, and themselves.

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-FREE video for ManTalks followers! https://evolvedmasculine.mykajabi.com/understanding-women-mantalks

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvedmasculine/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/destingerek

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-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/destingerekprofile

-Book: The Evolved Masculine: https://amzn.to/3s3cMl8

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Three Things Every Man Should Do

Thu, 28 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I don’t always advocate for things men “should” or “must” do, but when I do…

It’s taken years of working on myself, working with mentors, and working with other men to really settle on these three things, but I’ve come to cherish them and what they’ve brought me. I’ve also seen what they’ve brought other men, from friends to coworkers to clients of my own. Long story short: they’ll do you good.

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Experts On: Power, Trauma, Failure, Myth, And Addiction

Mon, 25 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I've had the privilege of interviewing some incredibly wise, compelling, and inspiring people. This is a sampling of not just our most downloaded episodes of this past year, but also some of our more profound moments and profound guests: author Robert Greene, men's work expert Jason Wilson, psychiatrist Dr. Anna Lembke, and mythologist Dr. Martin Shaw. There is also some never-before-released material from spiritual activist Stephen Jenkinson, whose work I deeply admire.

Francis Bacon said, "Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested". I humbly suggest the same rule applies to podcast episodes.

Original Episodes:

-Robert Greene: Define Your Relationship To Power: https://link.chtbl.com/H2X8p745

-Stephen Jenkinson: What The F*** Happened?: https://link.chtbl.com/7BxcbG3r

-Dr. Anna Lembke: Dopamine Nation: Why We're Addicted: https://link.chtbl.com/SEId6mCO

-Dr. Martin Shaw: The Depth And Value Of Myth: https://link.chtbl.com/vuagBOo3

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How To Cultivate Direction In Your Life

Thu, 21 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I've found in my work that cultivating direction is one of the most simple-yet-complex things in a man's life. Without it, most men fall into hopelessness, despair, anger, or worse, a kind of stagnant acceptance that's ultimately harmful to themselves and the world around them. So this week, some straightforward steps in how to first find direction, and then how to cultivate it. As always, let me know what you think! DM me on Instagram @mantalks.

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Michaela Boehm - Grief, Growth, And Staying Grounded

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 10:00:00 -0400

I'm in the thick of editing my book, so I wanted to reconnect with one of our most popular episodes ever. This was such a good conversation! Michaela and I covered a TON of ground; everything from grief's role in relationships to anal sex (yup). This was originally recorded around May 2020, so it's also an interesting sort of time capsule.

Michaela Boehm teaches and counsels internationally as an expert in intimacy and sexuality. Born and raised in Austria, Michaela combines her background in psychology and extensive clinical experience with her in-depth training in the yogic arts as a classical Kashmiri Tantric lineage holder into a unique offering of experiential learning. She is passionate about teaching skills that enhance deep intimacy, lasting attraction, and give each participant the tools for full embodiment and capacity. Michaela also traveled and co-taught with David Deida for 13 years. Michaela teaches women’s workshops, intimacy intensives for men and women and offers mentorships and relationship counseling. She lives and teaches on a small organic farm in Ojai, California where her land and animals inspire her clients to reconnect intimately with themselves and others.

Connect with Michaela

-Website: https://www.michaelaboehm.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/micboehm77/

-Facebook: www.facebook.com/boehm.michaela

-The Wild Woman's Way book: https://amzn.to/2LPk9Zz

-The Relationship Discovery Toolkit: https://www.michaelaboehm.com/product/the-relationship-discovery-tool-kit/

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7 Skills Every Man Should Master

Thu, 14 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

You're damn right it's a clickbait title! And for good reason. I put this list together after years of working with men, observing what most of them struggle with, and where their greatest potential lies. However, it's also influenced by what we're going through socially and politically.

Listen in, and if it resonates with you, DM me. Let me know what skill you're working on! Or if you think I missed an important one, tell me that too. Would love to hear your thoughts.

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Daniel Kwak - The Economy And Inflation: WTF?

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I started off not really knowing much about money, nor did I have any real opinion about it. I made it, I spent it, and that was that. But recently I've taken a much deeper interest, and tried to educate myself about economics in general, especially with all the uncertainty brewing around global markets, supply chains, and the rest. Join me and Daniel Kwak this week to get a primer.

Daniel Kwak came to the US in 1999 to Chicago, IL. The son of an immigrant pastor, Daniel comes from a background of financial struggle and grew up having to break through language and cultural barriers constantly.

In their early 20s, Sam and his brother Daniel began their real estate investing career, following the sale of their first business, a mobile DJ outfit they started in 2012. After a few years of hard work, they found a financial breakthrough in 2017 going from 0 to 75+ rental units in 1 year.

Both Daniel and his brother now travel and consult other entrepreneurs in real estate investment in person as well as on their YouTube channel.

Connect with Daniel

-Website: https://thekwakbrothers.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheKwakBrothers

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thekwakbrothers/

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The 14-Day No Challenge

Thu, 07 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I created this challenge a while back, and the traction it got was surprising! So after several requests to revisit it, here we are. The No Challenge is a solid way to develop greater confidence and self-sufficiency, as well as clear out some of those nice guy (or nice girl) behaviors you may be having trouble with.

Like most challenges and prompts I offer to listeners, clients, and Alliance members, it's straightforward, but not necessarily simple. Listen in.

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Owen Marcus - What Emotional Intelligence Is, And Why Men Need It

Mon, 04 Apr 2022 10:01:00 -0400

In modern masculine culture, there can be a lot of pressure to shut down, suppress, or numb out emotions. But just like everything else we can experience, there's tremendous amounts of information in what we're feeling. This is why I'm such a big advocate for somatic practices—really feeling in your body what's going on—and cultivating emotional intelligence. And it's why I sat with EVRYMAN co-founder Owen Marcus; he's an expert on this subject.

For more than twenty-five years, Owen Marcus has worked with men’s groups to develop programs that give them the tools and teach them the skills to be successful men, celebrate their strengths, and live their lives fully and with joy. As co-founder of EVRYMAN, he and his support men worldwide. As the New York Times describes it: “CrossFit for emotions.”

Owen Marcus overcame challenges such as Asperger’s Syndrome and Dyslexia to pursue his passion of helping others find their out-of-the-box solutions. However, it wasn’t until much later that he understood that in being free to be his own man, he was able to create and fulfill a life he designed.

Along the way, he met many incredible men – men who struggled to create the lives they wanted. Owen observed the patterns in his corporate management and Mindfulness Stress Reduction seminars and then began working with groups of men to give them something new: how to be their own man.

Connect with Owen

-Website: https://owenmarcus.com/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/owenmarcus/

-EVRYMAN: https://evryman.com/

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How To Handle Being Rejected By A Woman

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 10:01:00 -0400

I get asked about this a lot, in various ways: how do I deal with rejection? What do I say (and how do I say it) when she says no? I'm worried about getting rejected, what do I do?

Rejection can suck, but it doesn't have to shatter your sense of your own value. In fact, it can help you both recognize and build your worth. Listen in this week for how that works, some actions to take, and questions you can ask yourself in the face of rejection.

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Ben Goresky - What Today's Men Are Challenged By

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 10:01:00 -0400

Honored as always to speak with an old friend of mine, Ben Goresky. As a fellow coach of men, we wanted to take an episode to give each other some thoughts on what we're seeing out there in the world of men's work: how do we better ourselves in the current global situation? How do we find personal fulfillment?

We also dig into relationships and discuss different ways to engage in challenging conversations with a partner. Ben's got great great insight, so listen in!

Ben Goresky is a counselor, coach, and podcaster. He coaches men in the areas of addiction, recovery, and relationships. He is a trained addictions counselor with a Health Sciences degree. Ben runs a men’s group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men.

Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancé Sheleana Aiyana. He focuses on shadow work, men's work, transpersonal psychology, and conscious relationship work to drive success in his clients.

Connect with Ben

-Website: https://evolvingman.com/

-The Samurai Brotherhood: https://samuraibrotherhood.com/

-Course: The Integrated Man: https://evolvingman.com/the-integrated-man/

-The Conscious Relationship Council: https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvingman/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching

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Five Building Blocks To Confidence

Fri, 25 Mar 2022 10:01:00 -0400

Confidence. We all want more of it, even though we consume loads of content on it. So does it have to be something so hard to achieve consistently? I don't think so.

In this episode, I outline five simple building blocks you can use to be more confident overall. Notice I said they were simple, but not necessarily easy! They require practice and commitment. Listen in.

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Rabbi Manis Friedman - The Nature Of Intimacy

Mon, 21 Mar 2022 10:01:00 -0400

Last week, Zen. This week, a unique perspective on intimacy, relationships, and marriage from Rabbi Manis Friedman. I've been wanting to hear differing ideas from differing traditions on what it means to really cultivate an intimate relationship, and Rabbi Friedman had some interesting things to say! We cover loving someone versus loving things about them, what it really means to marry someone—from a more mystical frame of mind, how a "performance" mindset around sex destroys intimacy, and a lot more.

Rabbi Manis Friedman is a world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher. He combines ancient Torah wisdom with modern wit to captivate audiences around the world. He hosts his own critically acclaimed cable television series, Torah Forum with Manis Friedman, syndicated throughout North America and is known as “Youtube’s Most Popular Rabbi”.

Rabbi Friedman’s first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? was widely praised by the media. He has appeared on CNN, A&E Reviews, PBS, and BBC Worldwide, and has been the subject of articles in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, Seventeen, Guideposts, Insight, Publisher’s Weekly, and others. The book is currently in its fourth printing.

His latest book, The Joy of Intimacy is empowering thousands of couples to replace their loneliness and unfulfilled expectations with a deeply soulful and satisfying relationship. In his private practice, Rabbi Friedman has helped thousands of couples and individuals achieve fulfilling, balanced relationships, through in-person meetings or remote video consultations.

Rabbi Friedman is also a noted Biblical scholar, recognized for his grasp of Jewish mysticism. In 1971, he founded Bais Chana Institute of Jewish Studies in Minnesota, the world’s first yeshiva exclusively for women, where he continues to serve as dean. From 1984 to 1990, he served as a simultaneous translator for the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s televised talks.

Born in Prague, Czechoslovakia in 1946, Rabbi Friedman immigrated with his family to the United States in 1950. He received his rabbinic ordination from the Rabbinical College of Canada in 1969 and is a professionally ranked member of the National Speakers Association. His speaking tours take him to every part of this country as well as Israel, England, The Netherlands, South Africa, Australia, Brazil, Venezuela, Peru, Canada, and Hong Kong.

Rabbi Friedman is now using the latest technology to spread morality to a wider audience throughout the world through his books, videos and personal meetings via the launch of itsgoodtoknow.org. He has made it his mission to reach every one of the billion people on Youtube in order to help them improve their relationships and deepen their connection with G-d.

Connect with Rabbi Friedman

-Website: https://itsgoodtoknow.org/

-YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnkB28NTo_OxXTYjCUv7m5Q

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rabbimanisfriedman/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RabbiManisFriedmanIsrael

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The Key To Navigating Crisis

Fri, 18 Mar 2022 10:01:00 -0400

Understatement of the decade: there's a lot going on. I wanted to dig a little into how a man can navigate crisis, and one of the most important components to this: community.

The simple reality is this: if you as an individual aren’t meant to process the events in your own community by yourself, there's no possible way you can process everything on earth by yourself. We’re built to thrive in a shared network of understanding so that navigating a crisis doesn't crush YOU, it strengthens US.

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Henry Shukman - Zen Awakening: It's Not What You Think

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 10:01:00 -0400

You hear it all the time: enlightenment, awakening, expansion, liberation. Yadda yadda yadda. But...what is it really? Is it even possible to describe? This week, I sit with acclaimed Zen teacher and poet Henry Shukman to try and get the actual Zen take on things. We dig into his own spiritual journey, how to meditate in the Zen way, and how chasing after something can sometimes prevent you from ever getting it.

Henry Shukman is a mindfulness teacher and the spiritual Director of Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has been trained by Zen several teachers, particularly the roshis Joan Rieck, John Gaynor, Ruben Habito, and Yamada Ryoun Roshi, as well as by teachers and mentors in other traditions. Henry has an MA from Cambridge and an MLitt from St. Andrews, and has written several award-winning books of poetry and fiction.

Henry's struggles as a youth, combined with a spontaneous awakening experience at age 19, paved the way for Henry to develop a well-rounded approach to spirituality and meditation, under the guidance of his teachers – one that includes both compassionate concern for the sufferings of the world and the great liberative power of awakening as its foundations.

Connect with Henry

-Website; Mountain Cloud Zen Center: https://www.mountaincloud.org/

-Website; Original Love Meditation: https://originallove.org/

-Book; One Blade Of Grass: https://bit.ly/3CFLuFz

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mountaincloudzencenter/

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Become A Vessel Of Strength

Fri, 11 Mar 2022 11:01:00 -0400

One of the hardest things to do as a man is to keep your heart open. And it is in times like these that it's also the most critical. There is an incalculable amount of grief that needs holding and help right now. Will you answer it's call?

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Dr. James Hollis - The Jungian Way To Hear Your Calling

Tue, 08 Mar 2022 11:01:00 -0400

I've waited a long time for this one! Deeply honored to have spoken with Dr. James Hollis, one of the foremost Jungian analysts. Ever. Period. This conversation focused almost entirely on men and their relationship to fear, women, purpose, direction, and what Jung had to say about all of them. An hour isn't nearly enough for such a heavy conversation, so he'll be returning in the near future. If you've ever been curious about the Jungian approach to therapy, have a listen.

James Hollis, Ph. D., was born in Springfield, Illinois, and graduated from Manchester University in 1962 and Drew University in 1967. He taught Humanities for 26 years in various colleges and universities before retraining as a Jungian analyst at the Jung Institute of Zurich, Switzerland (1977-82). He is presently a licensed Jungian analyst in private practice in Washington, D.C. He served as Executive Director of the Jung Educational Center in Houston, Texas for many years and was Executive Director of the Jung Society of Washington until 2019. He now serves on the JSW Board of Directors. He is a retired Senior Training Analyst for the Inter-Regional Society of Jungian Analysts, was first Director of Training of the Philadelphia Jung Institute, and is Vice-President Emeritus of the Philemon Foundation. Additionally, he is a Professor of Jungian Studies for Saybrook University of San Francisco/Houston.

He lives with his wife Jill, an artist and retired therapist, in Washington, DC. Together they have three living children and eight grand-children.

He has written a total of seventeen books, which have been translated into Swedish, Russian, German, Spanish, French, Hungarian, Portuguese, Turkish, Italian, Korean, Finnish, Romanian, Bulgarian, Farsi, Japanese, Greek, Chinese, Serbian, Latvian, Ukranian and Czech.

The next book, The Broken Mirror: Refracted Visions of Ourselves, comes out this year.

Connect with Dr. Hollis

-Website: https://jameshollis.net/welcome.htm

-Books: https://jameshollis.net/hollisBooks.html

-Film: SoulHeal: https://www.soulhealfilm.com/

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Choose Who Has A Say In Your Life

Thu, 03 Mar 2022 11:01:00 -0400

Today, a Public Service Announcement. One I wish I'd heard a long time ago.

You've got to decide—consciously—who has a say in who you are, what you do, and what you want to be. Listen in.

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Duey Freeman - Gestalt Therapy, What Men Struggle With, And How We Protect Ourselves

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 11:01:00 -0400

Forgive the occasional sound blips. Sometimes Zoom behaves badly! Whether you've just dipped your toes into therapy or have been a long-time adherent, have a listen to this. I love Duey's no-nonsense yet compassionate approach. It's rooted in connection and relationship—a result of his extensive training in gestalt therapy. We cover what gestalt therapy is, what men typically struggle with and why, and how we're all just trying to protect ourselves.

Duey Freeman, MA, LPC is co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, director of the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and owner of his psychotherapy private practice. After teaching for 24 years at Naropa University he has decided to move in a more creative direction. Most recently and in collaboration with Kimberly Beck M Ed, he has created: The Coming Home Project and Relational Rewilding Retreats.

As a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and consultant, Duey has extensive training and experience in gestalt therapy, equine therapy, family therapy, bioenergetIcs, and counseling with children and adolescents. In 1982, Duey joined and revived the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, he co-founded the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies in 2008. This institute sprang out of the need for thorough training in working relationally with horses as therapeutic partners. GEIR is one of the only Institutes that require competence therapeutically as well as competence in relational horsemanship.

Duey joined Naropa in 1992 and has been extensively involved in the creation of the Gestalt, Human Development, and Family Systems programs. He has helped to develop the Equine section of the Wilderness Therapy certification and degree. He taught for the University of Northern Colorado, traveling across Colorado teaching and working with schools systems supporting teachers to better understand and work with the children they teach. Prior to working in higher education, Duey was a therapist in the school system and a principal of a school.

Throughout the year, Duey partners with professional therapists and skilled horsemen and women throughout the country and world to provide psychotherapy, Gestalt Equine Psychotherapy, parenting and human development workshops, and Relational Horsemanship classes. Some of Duey's partners include Joan Rieger, Duane Mullner, Erika Friess, Megan Powers, Rosemary Wyndham-Jones, Rob Pliskin, Kristi Moon, Kimberly Beck, and Amy and Steve LeSatz.

Connect with Duey

-Website: http://www.dueyfreeman.org/

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Where Men Find Meaning

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 11:01:00 -0400

Purpose (especially now) can feel elusive for so many men. And when purpose goes missing, meaning isn't far behind. This week, some thoughts on where to find meaning, how to regain a sense of purpose, and why both are critical components of any man's journey.

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Dr. Shy Krug - Navigating A Healthy Sex Life

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 15:58:00 -0400

This was such a good conversation! Dr. Krug has to be one of the most engaged and informative guys I've had on when it comes to sexual health. We cover the mind's role in healthy sex, balancing what you can and can't control in your sexual health, the surprisingly critical role of uncertainty and anxiety in sex, the physiology of erections and orgasm, how porn addiction works, the list goes on.

Dr. Shy Krug is a Clinical Psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. He specializes in sex therapy and sexual health in addition to sexual addiction. He also specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, and couples counseling. His work has also led to a deep understanding of how mental illness can impact changes in arousal or sexual function

Dr. Krug mainly utilizes a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and mindfulness. He is also trained in Gottman’s Method of Couples Counseling, Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), and Prolonged Exposure (PE).

To ensure that an individual’s sexual dysfunction is not being caused by a medical issue, Dr. Krug takes a team-oriented approach and works closely with a team of medical providers. When working with a client who has a history of trauma, he also discusses the challenges of trauma-focused work and lets them know that it is common to feel more distress in the beginning of treatment to ensure they are ready to start talking about their traumatic experience(s).

He has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Fairleigh Dickinson University and a B.A. in psychology with a minor in biology from Yeshiva University.

Connect with Dr. Krug

-Website: https://www.blueanchorpsychology.com/

-Psychology Today Profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/shy-krug-new-york-ny/400264

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Dr. Carl Erik Fisher - The Complex History Of Addiction

Mon, 14 Feb 2022 11:01:00 -0400

It goes without saying that the more informed you are on the nature of addiction, the easier it is to see and break the patterns that trap you or the people you care about—addiction can be a LOT more subtle and nuanced than you think. So this week, I asked Dr. Carl Erik Fisher to dig into his new book, The Urge: Our History Of Addiction. It's a profoundly empathetic, personal, and intelligent book, and if you like this episode you'll want to check it out.

We cover how addiction was perceived by ancient cultures and philosophers, how societies and communities have responded from Ancient Grecians to Native Americans, why community plays a huge role, the difficulty of boundaries and interventions, and a lot more.

Carl Erik Fisher is an addiction physician and bioethicist. He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, where he works in the Division of Law, Ethics, and Psychiatry. He also maintains a private psychiatry practice focusing on complementary and integrative approaches to treating addiction. His writing has appeared in Nautilus, Slate, and Scientific American MIND, among other outlets.

Connect with Carl:

-Website: https://www.carlerikfisher.com/

-Book: The Urge: Our History Of Addiction: https://www.carlerikfisher.com/book

-Podcast: https://podcast.carlerikfisher.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/drcarlerik

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The Boys Are Not Alright

Thu, 10 Feb 2022 11:01:00 -0400

We all crave meaning, purpose, and feeling like we're needed. It's deeply important for anyone's mental health. But for a significant number of men, it simply isn't happening. There are all sorts of reasons for this, and there's no easy answer, but it's something that genuinely worries me. This week, I'm thinking out loud about what's going on for younger men and what they can do to find that purpose and meaning for themselves.

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Dr. Martin Shaw - The Depth And Value In Myth

Mon, 07 Feb 2022 11:01:00 -0400

How do I sum up this conversation? Because we could have talked for days. Dr. Shaw's work is incredibly powerful, so get ready for a very depth-oriented and intense conversation. For example, Dr. Shaw and I cover the real meaning of blessing and the importance of being defeated—not winning. The power of story and myth, comfort versus shelter, and how it all relates to how we're living now.

Martin Shaw is widely regarded as one of the most exciting teachers of the mythic imagination. Author of the award-winning Mythteller trilogy (A Branch from the Lightning Tree, Snowy Tower, Scatterlings), he founded the Oral Tradition and Mythic Life courses at Stanford University, and is director of the Westcountry School of Myth in the UK. He has introduced thousands of people to mythology, and for twenty years, Shaw has been a wilderness rites of passage guide, working with at-risk youth, those who are unwell, returning veterans as well as many women and men seeking a deeper life.

His translations of Gaelic poetry and folklore (with Tony Hoagland) have been published in Orion Magazine, Poetry International, and Poetry Magazine. Dr. Shaw's work has received top praise from the likes of Malidoma Somé, Stephen Jenkinson, Coleman Barks, Robert Densmore, and Robert Bly. His essay and conversation with Ai Weiwei on myth and migration was released by the Marciano Arts foundation.

Connect with Dr. Shaw

-Website: https://drmartinshaw.com/

-Substack, The House of Beasts & Vines: https://martinshaw.substack.com/

-Westcountry School of Myth: https://schoolofmyth.com/

-Books at Cista Mystica Press: https://cistamystica.com/

-Latest Book, Smoke Hole: https://cistamystica.com/shop/smoke-hole/

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The Dating Crisis

Fri, 04 Feb 2022 11:01:00 -0400

A huge of my job is digging into the twists and turns of modern dating. The landscape men and women are facing in the world of sex and relationships is always shifting, and can leave you more than a little frustrated.

So this week, I'm sharing a compelling article from David M. Buss: "The Mating Crisis Among Educated Women". There is a growing discrepancy here that deserves our full attention. Listen in and let me know your thoughts.

Read the article here: https://www.edge.org/response-detail/26747

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Traver Boehm - Victimhood, Incels, And Modern Masculine Culture

Mon, 31 Jan 2022 11:01:00 -0400

This week isn't so much an interview. Instead, a long-ranging conversation with an old friend focused around some of the more, uh, volatile aspects of modern masculine culture. The functionality of incel ideology, redpill rhetoric, the rise of victimhood narratives on all sides. In short, we're talking about some heavy stuff. Expect an open dialogue and frank opinions.

Traver Boehm knows men. How they think, what’s behind their behavior, and most importantly — their unique challenges in the modern landscape.

Traver is the the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the fastest growing men’s movement in the world. He is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized as well as a two time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster.

Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguard and Mixed Martial Arts to a Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how to better understand men’s mental health and relationship difficulties.

Although he’s not quite sure how to feel about the title, he has been dubbed, “The Man Whisperer” as he has the unique ability to speak to men in a way they can hear and understand.

Connect with Traver

-Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAoPi5PeZKBcBb07yqdeOwQ

-UNcivilized Nation: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation

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Every Man Needs To Develop This One Skill

Thu, 27 Jan 2022 11:01:00 -0400

Yes, that is a borderline clickbait title, and it's for good reason. It's easy to learn but takes years to master, and so many things in a man's life build off and are enhanced by this one crucial practice, even though it's something you're not really taught anymore in school.

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Dr. Anthony Balduzzi - Building Muscle, Fasting, And How The Male Body Ages

Tue, 25 Jan 2022 18:18:43 -0400

Tons of men know how their body changes, adapts, or grows throughout their teenage years and their 20s. Not so many know how the natural aging process affects things in the late 30s and onward into their 50s. Speaking as a new father myself, I've got a lot to learn about how to maintain my fitness while being a parent and heading quickly towards 40, which is why I brought back Dr. Anthony Balduzzi. Anthony's an expert at providing pragmatic, actionable advice for men of all stripes and fitness levels.

We covered building muscle, the effects of fasting, hormonal changes as men age, the effects of stress and working from home, insulin resistance and its effects on our brains, and just how easy it is to become very unhealthy very quickly.

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a naturopathic doctor, national champion bodybuilder, and founder of the Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project – online health and fitness communities aimed at empowering busy parents to get healthy, lose weight, and build muscle through practical nutrition and exercise plans.

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-Website: https://www.fitfatherproject.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKvJ_vxZZoN5yeWBU2CVGcQ

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fitfatherproject/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fitfatherproject/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthonybalduzzi/

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Don't Feel Worthy Enough For The Woman You're Dating? Listen To This.

Thu, 20 Jan 2022 11:01:00 -0400

What happens when you don't feel worthy of the person you're with? I recently got this fantastic question from a follower on Instagram, and wanted to give it extra attention, because worthiness, success, and all those other buzzwords can get pretty vague. Listen in.

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Initiation: What Makes You A Man?

Mon, 17 Jan 2022 11:01:00 -0400

Why do men of all kinds say (or do) the most insane things for validation? Why do so many men abuse their power? Why are there so few decent male role models?

My guess is a lack of initiation. But what is "initiation"? How does it work? This week, a deep dive into the what, how, why, and consequences of initiation for men.

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Are You A Domesticated Man?

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 11:01:00 -0400

Coming to you from the comfort of my car, some thoughts on how current cultural trends push men away from what actually matters to them and towards the means and ends of others. It's imperative that each of us takes time to notice the things, thoughts, and practices we're attached to that maybe aren't serving us anymore.

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Lara Aknin - The Science Of Happiness

Mon, 03 Jan 2022 11:01:00 -0400

It's more important than ever to ground healing work with expertise, careful research, and study. Otherwise, it's basically just cheerleading. This is why I brought on one of Canada's best social psychologists, Lara Aknin. Lara's work centers on not just what makes people happy, but what keeps them happy: gratitude, reminding yourself and others of shared connections and community, and more.

Obviously, the pandemic shut out a lot of ways we cultivate connection and community—at least physically. So I wanted Lara to share some scientific grounding on how covid has affected anxiety and depression rates, stress levels, and mental resiliency in general.

Lara Beth Aknin is a Canadian social psychologist. She is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Simon Fraser University and a Distinguished University Professor.

After earning her Ph.D. from the University of British Columbia, Aknin joined the faculty of psychology at Simon Fraser University in 2012. That year, she published Giving Leads to Happiness in Young Children with J. Kiley Hamlin and Elizabeth Dunn, which supported the idea that humans may have evolved to find giving rewarding.

In 2014, Lara and her colleagues Michael Norton and Elizabeth Dunn co-published a Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council and CIHR funded review of whether spending money had a positive effect on people's happiness. The following year, her contributions to the field of social psychology earned her the President’s New Researcher Award from the Canadian Psychological Association and a fellowship at the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research. By 2019, she received an SSHRC grant for her project, Can Repeated and Reflective Giving Nurture Canada's Next Generation of Philanthropists? She was also honored by the university for her research and contributions to social Psychology with the title of Distinguished SFU Professor.

During the pandemic, she has served as Chair of the Mental Health and Wellbeing Task Force of the Lancet COVID-19 Commission. She also serves as an associate editor of the World Happiness Report.

Connect with Lara:

-Website: https://www.sfu.ca/psychology/about/people/profiles/laknin.html

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/lbaknin

-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=6a21v6wAAAAJ

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Peter Crone - The Nature Of High Performance

Mon, 27 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

What an honor (and what great timing) to have Peter Crone—the Mind Architect himself—on the show for my final conversation of 2021. This was such an engaging and enjoyable conversation! We delve into the nature of language and the subconscious, how to tackle things like anxiety, and some of the strategies Peter has used to help athletes with the same.

Peter Crone is a thought leader in human potential and performance as well as an Ayurveda practitioner and the Founder/Chief Inspirer of Be Alive, Inc. Peter devotes his life to sharing deep insights, distinctions, and strategies for people to live an inspired life and thrive by awakening new levels of awareness that transcend old and limiting mental constructs. He helps reveal the subconscious narratives that drive behavior, and ultimately all results, and he uses the wisdom of Ayurveda to help people find balance through diet and lifestyle. Whilst most people go through life as prisoners of their own mind, Peter helps dissolve the mental shackles that hold us back so that we can experience true freedom and discover an entirely new experience of being human. Peter has worked with numerous VIPs in the entertainment industry, more than 200 professional athletes across multiple sports, as well as leaders of global organizations. He is committed to sharing his pioneering mental constructs that inspire the realization of a new type of existence that shifts from a life of stressful surviving to one of joyful thriving.

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-Website: https://www.petercrone.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petercroneofficial/

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Don't Make Your Hard Life Harder

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

The majority of hardship you and I will experience in life comes from things completely beyond our control. That being said, there are always ways of tempering or blunting some of their impact, and there are also ways we make things even harder. Our job—and my message for today—is to get out of your own way.

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Dr. Michael Breus - The Science Of Sleep

Mon, 20 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Sleep. It takes up about a third of your life—or at least it should if you want to stay healthy. After having a child, both I and my wife's sleep patterns were obviously pretty hard hit, and so began a search for some straightforward, actionable advice on how to restore healthy sleep. Dr. Breus is an almost limitless source of exactly that, so if you're having trouble, have a listen. We dig into sleep, maintaining energy levels, different body types, developing habits and routines that work with our bodies instead of against them, and how it all works together.

Michael J. Breus, Ph.D., is a Clinical Psychologist and both a Diplomat of the American Board of Sleep Medicine and a Fellow of The American Academy of Sleep Medicine. He is one of only 168 psychologists in the world to have passed the Sleep Medical Speciality board without going to Medical School. Michael was recently named the Top Sleep Specialist in California by Reader’s Digest, and one of the 10 most influential people in sleep science.

His latest book is Energize! Go from Dragging Ass to Kicking It in 30 Days, which he co-authored with the founder of SoulCycle, Stacey Griffith.

Dr. Breus has also authored of The Power of When, a bestseller on Amazon for Time Management and Happiness, a bio-hacking guide book based on your genetic biological chronotype, The Sleep Doctor’s Diet Plan: Lose Weight Through Better Sleep, on the science and relationship between quality sleep and metabolism, and GOOD NIGHT: The Sleep Doctor’s 4-Week Program to Better Sleep and Better Health is a do-it-yourself guide to better sleep.

Dr. Breus has supplied his expertise with both consulting and as a sleep educator/spokesperson to brands such as Hastens Beds, Ebb Therapeutics, Princess Cruise lines, Six Senses Hotel and Spa, Lighting Science Group, Advil PM, Breathe Rite, Crowne Plaza Hotels, Dong Energy, Merck, iHome, and many more.

Dr. Breus lectures all over the world for organizations such as YPO (Young Presidents Organization), AT&T, on stage for Tony Robbins, hospitals, and medical centers, financial organizations, product companies, and many more.

For over 14 years, Dr. Breus served as the Sleep Expert for WebMD. Dr. Breus also writes The Insomnia Blog and can be found regularly on Psychology Today, and Sharecare.

Dr. Breus has been interviewed on CNN, Oprah, The View, Anderson Cooper, Rachel Ray, Fox and Friends, The Doctors, Joy Behar, The CBS Early Show, The Today Show, and Kelly and Michael.

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-Website: https://thesleepdoctor.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/thesleepdoctor

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesleepdoctor/

-NEW Book - Energize!: Go from Dragging Ass to Kicking It in 30 Days: https://amzn.to/32lLjBm

-Book - The Power of When: https://thepowerofwhen.com/buy-the-book/

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Make Your Life Your Argument

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

About a year ago, I came across an incredible quote by Albert Schweitzer, and it fundamentally changed my approach to debating anyone, whether that's on or offline. I'm sharing my thoughts behind it today in the hopes that others will be inspired to take the time and solidify what it is they actually value and stand for before automatically reacting to everything. Vain hope? Maybe, but it's worth a shot.

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Steve James - The State And Complexity Of Masculinity

Mon, 13 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

This was one hell of a conversation. Steve and I cover wide ground, but the central hub of our talk is the state of modern masculinity. What are men asking about? What are they rejecting? What are they loving, losing, and leaving behind? What are men choosing?

So yeah. Only light questions in this episode. Listen in for some brilliant insight from a brilliant guest.

Steve James travels internationally teaching somatic practices, meditation, as well as leading explorations in contemplative & relational realms.

Known for his direct, grounded approach and his inquiry-based ethos, he has extensive experience in elite athletic performance, contemplative and spiritual disciplines, the arts, extreme outdoor survival, and human behaviour.

Steve’s unique range of experiences and understanding of human behaviour, elite performance, spirituality, and interpersonal relationships is highly sought after by leading figures at the highest levels of the arts, entertainment, and business.

In his private client practice, he specialises in the unique interpersonal and strategic challenges faced by very successful and highly visible individuals. Ongoing clients include Oscar-winning actors, multi-Grammy-winning musicians, CEOs, and multi-billion dollar fund managers.

In addition to private client work and international public workshops, Steve designed the ground-breaking teacher training programs for Michaela Boehm Inc, including comprehensive training in the area of intimacy and relationships, coaching skills, and the original Non-Linear Movement Method®.

These programs have trained over 100 practitioners internationally. Graduates have applied the methods in psychotherapy practice, refugee counselling, sexual abuse counselling, as well as workshop and general life enhancement contexts.

Steve has taught at the Esalen Institute and 1440 Multiversity, is a regular speaker at the Science and Nonduality Conference (San Jose) and Radiant Intimacy (Scotts Valley), and has lectured at The Summit Series and Summit at Sea. In 2022, Steve will also teach at the Omega Institute (New York) and the Mandali Retreat Centre (Italy).

Steve’s work has been featured in international media such as the BBC, Channel 5, The Times, CP24, the Netflix series ‘(Un)Well‘, and the Netflix series ‘Sex, Love & goop‘.

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-Website: https://www.guruviking.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guruviking/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guruviking/

-Meditation Club: https://www.guruviking.com/guru-viking-meditation-club/

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Ask Her This Before You Start A Relationship

Thu, 09 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

The title says it all, my friends. For me, this is one of the best and most informative questions you can ask before taking the more serious steps in a relationship.

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Nick Carmody - Psychology, Politics, And Masculine Consciousness

Mon, 06 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

I do my best to bring on guests who have taken their lived experience and transmuted it into unique expertise and insight. Happy to tell you Nick Carmody has done this in some incredible ways. We cover a ton of ground: brain injury, abuse, overcoming false narratives, the impact of fathers, what kills nuance, and the weird ways masculinity gets tangled and hijacked for political gain. Listen in!

Nick Carmody’s life shifted dramatically in 2010, when he experienced two life-changing traumatic brain injuries only eight months apart. On top of ending a 12-year relationship with a narcissist. The changes in brain function, personality, and emotional processing as well as navigating the divorce and being bled out financially in courts led Nick to rock bottom and near suicide, but also gave him an intense desire to understand and confirm what he was experiencing and became Nick’s motivation to work in the psychology field.

It soon became apparent to Nick that his lived experience—combined with his studied expertise—allowed for unique insight into the modern political climate, and a honed ability to help others who have endured similar trauma. He has a bachelor of arts in criminal justice from Concordia University, a Juris Doctor from The John Marshall Law School in Chicago, and a Masters of Science degree from Tiffin University in Ohio. He has a private practice based in Denver, and works with children from low-income families who have experienced trauma (many of whom are currently in foster care).

Nick is in the process of writing Putting My Worst Foot Forward. He writes prolifically on the dangers of Cluster B Personality Disorders in American Politics, and is considering publishing his writings about the psychology of American politics during the Trump era as a collection of essays titled, Trickle Down Pathology. Most recently, he’s gotten attention for a theory on the intersection of addiction and tribalism.

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-Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/NickCarmody

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/nick_carmody

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What A Year Of Sobriety Taught Me

Fri, 03 Dec 2021 11:01:00 -0400

If you'd known me in university—even as late as my early 30s—you never would have seen this coming. This episode is about some of the wildly surprising things that happened after a year of intentionally and consciously cutting out weed, alcohol, even psychedelics. I've been asked a number of times to share how it's changed me, so here we go.

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Elizabeth Earnshaw - The Problem With Modern Relationships

Sun, 28 Nov 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Modern relationships face some pretty unique challenges, and sometimes it seems like those challenges are only growing. Thankfully, there are people out there like Liz Earnshaw! This was such an enjoyable discussion, and we go heavy on modern dating and marriage problems, "pathologizing" your partner, the shifting meaning of things like marriage and partnership, the need for flexibility, even the changes in gender roles. If you're with someone currently, dive in together!

Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today’s most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania & New Jersey, where she supports clinicians who are helping couples every day. She trains and supervises therapists as an Approved AAMFT Supervisor. In addition to making couples therapy more accessible, she is the author of “I Want This To Work”. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums. She is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like Mind Body Green and The Huffington Post and has been featured on numerous podcasts.

Connect with Liz

-Website: https://www.elizabethearnshaw.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lizlistens

-Book; I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age: https://amzn.to/3lh0T7W

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Jayson Gaddis - Conquering Relational Conflict

Mon, 22 Nov 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Coming in hot after Keith Yackey's episode is another good friend, Jayson Gaddis. This guy has a CV a mile long, so it's always a pleasure to have him on the show. We go deep into relational conflict, looking at the unique blueprint each person brings to any relationship, how it informs the conflict we can (and can't!) handle, and some tips and tricks on approaching conflict in a healthy way.

Relationship expert and sought-after coach Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in love, conflict resolution, and interpersonal relationships. He’s the host of an extremely successful podcast with almost 3 million downloads (and over 250 episodes) and has interviewed the very best in the world including Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Dr. John Demartini, The Gottmans, Pat Ogden, and Bessel VanDerKolk.

Jayson founded The Relationship School® and leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world on intimate relationships and partnership, called The Deep Psychology Of Intimate Relationships or (DPIR). DPIR is the ONLY curriculum on how intimate relationships work and how to do them well. Currently, Jayson has graduated over 100 students through his nine-month training. DPIR’s main focus is to help people become relational leaders and interpersonally intelligent. Jayson the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® or i2. Interpersonal Intelligence® is a comprehensive map and system specifically designed to create a secure long-term partnership. i2 is informed by human development, transpersonal psychology, polyvagal theory, adult attachment theory, neuroscience, interpersonal neurobiology, axiology, psychotherapy, coaching, gestalt theory, and Vajrayana Buddhism.

Jayson also founded The Relationship School’s Relationship Coaching Training Program. The RC program has 3 levels of certification. Level one is about learning how to “be with” people and upgrade old habits around enabling and rescuing others so you can be a more effective and efficient helper. Level 2 is about learning to work with couples. Level three is about mastery. Thus far Jayson has certified over 40 people from around the world in his coaching modality called Present Centered Relationship Coaching™.

Connect with Jayson

-Website; The Relationship School: https://relationshipschool.com/

-Website; Personal: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/

-NEW Book; Getting to Zero: https://amzn.to/3qZguN6

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Reflect On Where You've Come From

Thu, 18 Nov 2021 16:37:19 -0400

I’m in a cabin on a beautiful piece of property, holed up and finishing off my upcoming book. It’s given me a chance to look back on an incredibly difficult, incredibly fulfilling journey. It’s also allowed me a lot of humility, and I felt called to share some of this reflection with you all.

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Keith Yackey - The Recipe For Attraction In Long Term Relationships

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Cliches happen for a reason, and “keeping the spark alive” in a long-term relationship or a marriage is no exception. It’s a challenge for anyone. So this week I’ve brought on Keith Yackey, an old friend who specializes in exactly that: maintaining and building intimacy, sex, vibrancy, and excitement. You’ll hear about Keith’s own journey with marriage, his frameworks and strategies for keeping the fire lit, and maintaining connection in all its forms.

Connect with Keith

-Website: http://keithyackey.com/

-Married Game: https://www.marriedgame.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keithyackey/

-Podcast: https://rockstarrelationship.libsyn.com/website

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Don't Underestimate How Hard This Is

Thu, 11 Nov 2021 15:56:02 -0400

Something I’ve noticed in the majority of men I work with is a habitual hunt for whatever might be going wrong in a relationship, a business venture, or, well, anything. There are a number of reasons for this. But arguably the biggest reason is what we’re talking about this week. Listen in.

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Reclaiming The Warrior (And Its Shadow)

Tue, 09 Nov 2021 11:01:00 -0400

After some great feedback from October's "Reclaiming the King" episode, I decided to re-release its companion piece about the Warrior archetype. Is the Warrior in us as men to blame for the division we see in today’s society? Yes...and no. This is a dive into the modes and shadow of the Warrior archetype and why—and this might surprise you—it’s one of the best archetypes we have. From the warrior, we can light the fires of focus, develop clean anger instead of unhealthy aggression, set boundaries instead of borders, and leverage our unique capabilities to bring about positive change inside and outside. At the end, I detail several actionable steps you can take to cultivate and reclaim the warrior.

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My Thoughts On OnlyFans And Why Men Are Drawn To It

Fri, 05 Nov 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Someone reached out to me last week asking for my opinion on men having OnlyFans accounts, and what it means in the context of either relationships or being single. There's obviously a lot to unpack, so expect a more in-depth followup episode. But I wanted to share some initial thoughts with you on the potential effects of something like OnlyFans on a man.

As the saying goes, your pain has its own intelligence. This intelligence is the shadow. Recognize your disowned parts, redefine your strengths, and reclaim wholeness with the Shadow Course.

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Elder Nii Gaani Aki Innini - A Return To Spirit, A Return To The Land

Mon, 01 Nov 2021 10:00:00 -0400

This was the last of four incredible conversations in a series titled The Wisdom of Elders. Elder Nii speaks his message with a simplicity that cuts through the rationalizations and justifications we all sometimes hold on to, and he does it with kindness and sincerity. I encourage you to check out the work he’s doing in Canada and globally, and listen in as we discuss the challenges all of us face, the needs of the earth beneath our feet, and role of initiation, elders, women, and men in the days to come.

Elder Dr. Dave Courchene — Nii Gaani Aki Innini (Leading Earth Man) — is a respected elder and knowledge keeper of the Anishinaabe Nation who has devoted his life to sharing Indigenous knowledge, carrying a message of hope, peace, and environmental stewardship. From lighting the sacred fire at the United Nations Earth Summit in 1992, to sharing the stage with spiritual leaders including the Dalai Lama, Elder Dr. Courchene’s leadership has had a global influence.

In 2002, he founded the Turtle Lodge International Centre for Indigenous Education and Wellness, a sacred lodge recognized internationally and by the Assembly of First Nations and the Assembly of Manitoba Chiefs as one of the most important gathering places for Indigenous peoples in Canada. Individuals from around the world gather at the Turtle Lodge to facilitate intergenerational knowledge sharing, language revitalization, youth leadership training, and environmental solutions to climate change.

Courchene has built alliances with institutions, academics, and policymakers across the Canada. His work has been recognized with many prestigious honours, including the INDSPIRE National Aboriginal Achievement Award in Culture, Heritage, and Spirituality; an Honorary Doctor of Laws by the University of Winnipeg, the Volunteer Manitoba Award for Outstanding Community Leadership; the International Award of Excellence; the Aboriginal Circle of Educators Award; and the International Indigenous Leadership Award. He is a deeply respected elder, known for his ability to inspire dialogue and cross-cultural understanding between Indigenous knowledge keepers and western-trained scientists. His leadership is rooted in generosity, kindness, and a desire for peace and sustainability.

Connect with Elder Nii

-Website: http://www.turtlelodge.org/

-Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TurtleLodge

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theturtlelodge/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/TurtleLodge

-The 7 Sacred Laws of the Anishinaabe People: http://www.turtlelodge.org/what-are-the-7-sacred-laws/

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Escape The Trap Of Perfectionism

Fri, 29 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0400

We're all aware that Perfect is the enemy of Good, but why? What's underneath your desire to get it right 100% of the time? Let's look at the not-so-secret relationship between perfectionism and punishment.

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Reclaiming The King

Mon, 25 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Leadership, respect, duty, structure, legacy, service, praise. All of these are embodied in the archetype of the King—the foremost (and arguably most difficult) energy to cultivate. But like everything, the King’s got a dark side we need to understand.

To celebrate the re-launch of the ManTalks Shadow Course, I’ve been covering all things shadow, including the dark sides of two important archetypes to masculinity: the Warrior and the King. This episode was originally released in 2019, and it was one of my favorites to research and record.

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What You Need To Know About Success

Thu, 21 Oct 2021 15:33:12 -0400

Gotta be honest: success is kind of weird! It's a goal, part of the process, and also the mirror that forces you to evaluate your goals, anxieties, and direction. Listen in.

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Stephen Jenkinson - What The F*** Happened?

Mon, 18 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0400

I’ve been running ManTalks for almost a decade and I’ve met a ton of amazing people who can speak truthfully and bluntly. But no one speaks carries their truth as authentically as Stephen Jenkinson. I find a lot of what Stephen says is medicinal: you might not think it tastes great, but damn if it isn’t what you need to hear. This is a deep dive into why things are the way they are. Fear of submission, love of consumption, death-phobia, the commodification of trauma, endings, what the pandemic tried to tell us, and so much more.

This is from a series I produced recently called The Wisdom of Elders, featuring experts on elderhood and culture to discuss what an “elder” actually is, where we are as a species, how we got here, and where we’re headed. Basically, what the f*** happened?

Culture activist, teacher, and author, Stephen Jenkinson teaches internationally and is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, co-founded with Nathalie Roy in 2010, convening semi-annually in Ontario, and in northern Europe. He has a Masters degree in Theology from Harvard University and a Masters in Social Work from the University of Toronto. Apprenticed to a master storyteller when a young man, he has worked extensively with dying people and their families, was a program director in a major hospital, and an assistant professor in a prominent medical school. He is also a sculptor and traditional canoe builder, whose house won a Governor General’s Award for architecture. Since co-founding Nights of Grief and Mystery with Gregory Hoskins in 2015, he has toured across North America, the U.K., Europe, Australia, and New Zealand.

His new book, A Generation’s Worth: Spirit Work While the Crisis Reigns, sets out to learn liveable answers. Dying and death, love and matrimony, money and soul, aging and elderhood, drawn through the eye of a pestilential needle: this is the spirit work, and that is the crisis. https://orphanwisdom.com/a-generations-worth-spirit-work-while-the-crisis-reigns

He is also the author of Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble, the award-winning Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul, Homecoming: The Haiku Sessions, How it All Could Be: A Workbook for Dying People and Those Who Love Them (2009), Angel and Executioner: Grief and the Love of Life (a live teaching from 2009), and Money and The Soul’s Desires: A Meditation. He is contributing author to Palliative Care – Core Skills and Clinical Competencies.

Stephen Jenkinson is also the subject of the feature-length documentary film Griefwalker, a portrait of his work with dying people, and Lost Nation Road, a shorter documentary on the crafting of the Nights of Grief and Mystery tours.

Connect with Stephen:

-Website: https://orphanwisdom.com

-Latest book: https://orphanwisdom.com/a-generations-worth-spirit-work-while-the-crisis-reigns

-Books: https://orphanwisdom.com/shop/

-Griefwalker documentary: https://www.nfb.ca/film/griefwalker/

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Dealing With Regret

Thu, 14 Oct 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Regret itself isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but how we deal with regret has deep effects on how we deal with who we were, who we are, and who we want to be.

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Dr. James McLeary - The Core Of Men's Work

Mon, 11 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0400

A few months ago I had the privilege of interviewing this incredible man over Zoom, and it's with a lot of thankfulness that I share that conversation with you now. James' experience working with elders and mentors across multiple continents and cultures, his life growing up on the streets of Chicago, and his work with inmates at Folsom Prison, all of it has given him an unparalleled understanding of what men need to grow, change, lead, build, endure, and most of all, help themselves and the world around them.

James is a deeply experienced wisdom holder and expert facilitator whose leadership has been a critical force driving the growth and success of programs at both Folsom State Prison and San Quentin State Prison. He is the executive producer of the documentary, THE WORK, detailing Inside Circle’s program in Folsom Prison. He brings deep expertise in group process work and its application in varied settings. As a member of the Elder Council, James guides our vision for incarcerated and released men.

Connect with James

-Inside Circle: https://insidecircle.org/

-The Bravery: https://www.thebravery.org/

-Trailer for THE WORK: https://youtu.be/cca5QWdSTMQ

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Become A Champion of Uncertainty

Thu, 07 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Men: your ability to navigate uncertainty has a direct effect on your overall confidence, and who doesn't want a little more of that? In this mini-episode, three straightforward ways to better your relationship to uncertainty.

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Anonymous Guest - A Man’s Conversation With God

Mon, 04 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I work with a man who’s been married for 42 years. He wants to be more assertive and provide more direction in his relationship, but is struggling with long-held feelings of low self-worth, fear of failure, and more. What’s behind all of it? Listen through to the end.

Every so often, I bring on an anonymous guest for a completely free shadow work session. I make this part of the podcast to help destigmatize mental health work and give back to my community. If you or someone you know would be interested in being an anonymous guest, DM me @mantalks on Instagram, or send an email to info@mantalks.ca.

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Afraid Of Confrontation? Listen To This.

Thu, 30 Sep 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Open social media, confrontation. Open your browser, confrontation. Look out the window, probably some more confrontation. You're not going to get away from conflict, so it's time to learn how to repair your relationship with it, whether you're caught in the trap of avoiding it or the trap of being way too into it. Dig in.

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Francis Weller - Initiation (And Society Without It)

Mon, 27 Sep 2021 10:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Francis and I discuss the role of community in processing grief, the cult of specialness, our addiction to progress, using beauty and ritual to stay mentally healthy, and how obsession with individualism has crippled our ability to feel like we belong. That’s just the tip of the iceberg with a man like Francis, and it’s a great honor to hear him speak with such depth and clarity on these complex subjects.

Francis Weller, MFT, is a psychotherapist, writer, and soul activist. He is a master of synthesizing diverse streams of thought from psychology, anthropology, mythology, alchemy, indigenous cultures, and poetic traditions. Author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief, The Threshold Between Loss and Revelation, (with Rashani Réa), and In the Absence of the Ordinary: Essays in a Time of Uncertainty, he has introduced the healing work of ritual to thousands of people. He founded and directs WisdomBridge, an organization that offers educational programs that seek to integrate the wisdom from indigenous cultures with the insights and knowledge gathered from western poetic, psychological, and spiritual traditions.

As a gifted therapist and teacher, Francis has been described as a jazz artist, improvising and moving fluidly in and out of deep emotional territories with groups and individuals, bringing imagination and attention to places often held with judgment and shame.

Francis received a B.A. from the University of Wisconsin Green Bay and two Master’s Degrees from John F. Kennedy University in Clinical Psychology and Transpersonal Psychology. His writings have appeared in anthologies and journals exploring the confluence between psyche, nature, and culture. His work was featured in The Sun magazine (October 2015) the Utne Reader (Fall 2016) and the Kosmos Journal. (Winter 20201) He is a frequent presenter and keynote speaker at conferences, bringing insight, poetry and a breath of humor to his talks. Francis is currently on staff at Commonweal Cancer Help Program, co-leading their week-long retreats with Michael Lerner. He has taught at Sonoma State University, the Sophia Center in Oakland, and has been the featured teacher at the Minnesota Men's Conference. He is currently completing his third book, A Trail on the Ground: The Geography of Soul.

Connect with Francis:

Website: https://www.francisweller.net/
Books: https://www.francisweller.net/books.html
Programs: https://www.francisweller.net/programs--workshops.html

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Stop Telling Women They're Intimidating

Thu, 23 Sep 2021 14:34:02 -0400

One of the most popular questions I get from both men and women revolves around intimidation. Women ask me why men perceive them as intimidating, and men ask me how to handle an intimidating woman. If you want to know what to do, start by reading the title of this episode, and listen in. We’ve got a lot to talk about: the responsibilities, the challenges, and what might be underneath it all.

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Dr. Benjamin Hardy - How Do You Really Measure Success?

Sun, 19 Sep 2021 10:01:00 -0400

It often feels like there is a massive gap between where we are and where we want to be. What’s more, we can spend so much time working to GET somewhere that we lose sight of what we’ve gained along the way. This is what organizational psychologist Dr. Benjamin Hardy and I dove into this episode. I loved this conversation, and I’m thrilled to share it with you, so don’t forget to spread it around.

Dr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and bestselling author of Willpower Doesn’t Work, Personality Isn't Permanent, and most recently, The Gap And The Gain.

He is a prolific blog writer, and his work has been read by over 100 million people, and featured on Harvard Business Review, New York Times, Forbes, Fortune, CNBC, Cheddar, and others. He is a regular contributor to Inc. and Psychology Today, and from 2015-2018, he was the #1 writer in the world on Medium.com.

He and his wife Lauren adopted three children through the foster system in February 2018 and, one month later, Lauren became pregnant with twins, who were born in December of 2018. They live in Orlando.

Connect with Ben

-Website: https://benjaminhardy.com/

-Articles: https://benjaminhardy.com/articles/

-Book: The Gap And The Gain:

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benjaminhardy88/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/benjamin_hardy_phd/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminhardy88/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/BenjaminPHardy

-Book: The Gap And The Gain: https://amzn.to/3zodzxS

-Book: Personality Isn’t Permanent: https://amzn.to/3zodzxS

-Book: Willpower Doesn’t Work: https://amzn.to/3AoEg6N

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Ending Self-Sabotage

Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Ugh. Self-sabotage. Something I'm sure everyone is familiar with. How does it show up? Why does it happen? Where does it come from? This is what we're diving into this week, with some clear tips on how to end it. And as always, I'd love to hear from you. If you've got followup questions on self-sabotage, the unconscious, or anything else, DM me @mantalks on Instagram.

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Dr. Anna Lembke - Dopamine Nation: Why We're Addicted

Sun, 12 Sep 2021 10:01:00 -0400

From your nervous system's view, our culture is swimming in dopamine. Porn, binging junk food, video games, "retail therapy"—things from the innocent to the insidious light our brains up with dopamine, and we often wind up with more than one addiction. But how does it all work, and how do we detox?

Addiction to anything is never easy to unpack, so I sat down with the amazing Dr. Anna Lembke for a deep dive into dopakine; how our brain balances pleasure and pain, how it relates to trauma, and how we need to acknowledge the fact that we living in a "drugified" world.

Anna Lembke is professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. A clinician scholar, she has published more than a hundred peer-reviewed papers, book chapters, and commentaries. She sits on the board of several state and national addiction-focused organizations, has testified before various committees in the United States House of Representatives and Senate, keeps an active speaking calendar, and maintains a thriving clinical practice.

In 2016, she published Drug Dealer, MD – How Doctors Were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to Stop (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2016), which was highlighted in the New York Times as one of the top five books to read to understand the opioid epidemic (Zuger, 2018). Dr. Lembke recently appeared on the Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, an unvarnished look at the impact of social media on our lives.

Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (Dutton/Penguin Random House, August 2021) explores how to moderate compulsive overconsumption in a world where feeling good is the highest good.

Connect with Dr. Lembke

-Website: https://www.annalembke.com/

-Book: Dopamine Nation: https://www.annalembke.com/dopamine-nation

-Book: Drug Dealer, MD: https://www.annalembke.com/drug-dealer-md

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Thoughts On Afghanistan

Thu, 09 Sep 2021 10:01:00 -0400

I try not to wrestle too much with political topics on the show, but there have been a number of men—many of them former military—who asked me to at least say something about the US withdrawal from Afghanistan and the extreme range of reactions to what happened. So here is what came up. If you (or someone you know) served, is struggling, and needs support, please DM me @mantalks on Instagram.

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Dr. Kenneth Adams - Man And His Mother

Mon, 06 Sep 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Creating a healthy relationship as an adult requires a fine balance of intimacy and sovereignty. This can be really tough for men who grew up with maternal enmeshment issues—they've got to untangle a maladaptive relationship with their mother. Dr. Kenneth Adams is an expert on helping people do exactly this. We dive deep into what enmeshment looks like, the kinds of confusion and chaos it creates in relationships, and how to break free.

Dr. Kenneth M. Adams began his professional career in 1981 treating children, adolescents, and their families. In 1985 he began private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents program, an outpatient program for the treatment of adults who had grown up in alcoholic families. It was there that he began to notice that many of these clients had addictions and enmeshment issues, two of his primary specialties today. He wrote his first professional article in 1987 on covert incest and sex addiction in alcoholic families and has since written three books and numerous peer-reviewed articles. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner.

Connect with Dr. Adams

-Website: https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/

-Book: When He's Married to Mom - How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment: https://amzn.to/3h8woyP

-Book: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners: https://amzn.to/3DSi5Z6

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Face Your Fears

Thu, 02 Sep 2021 10:01:00 -0400

In this mini-episode, I unpack how there's a kind of resilience and reliability that only shows up when you face what you're afraid of. When you don't, you're unconsciously learning you can't rely on you when things get difficult. Thanks to those of you on Instagram who asked me to clarify this, and don't forget to share this mini-episode with someone you feel will benefit.

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Gary Zukav - Consciousness And Authentic Power

Mon, 30 Aug 2021 10:01:00 -0400

What is real power? Where does yours come from, and what does it serve? Gary and talk about his latest book, his early life as Green Beret, how to create authentic power and alignment, and expanding your emotional awareness to impact yourself and the world around you. He's been in this space for a very long time, and I'm excited to share his wisdom with you.

Gary is the author of four consecutive New York Times bestsellers, including the legendary #1 New York Times bestseller The Seat of the Soul. This book led the way to seeing the alignment of the personality and the soul as the fulfillment of life, and captured the imagination of millions. He is also the author of The Dancing Wu Li Masters: An Overview of the New Physics, which plumbed the depths of quantum physics and relativity, winning The American Book Award for Science. His books have sold six million copies and are published in thirty-two languages. Over and over, he challenges us to see the depth of our potential in the world, and act on that awareness. Gary's newest book, Universal Human, is about the new era of human evolution and offers a vision of what a world based on love could be, and an invitation to begin bringing such a world into being now. Gary grew up in the Midwest, graduated from Harvard, and became a Special Forces (Green Beret) officer with Vietnam service before writing his first book. His gentle presence, humor, and wisdom have endeared millions of viewers through appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show. Gary gives talks and facilitates programs on authentic power with his spiritual partner, Linda Francis.

Connect with Gary

-Website: https://seatofthesoul.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gary_zukav/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GaryZukav/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/gary_zukav

-New Book - Universal Human: https://www.amazon.com/Universal-Human-Creating-Authentic-Consciousness/dp/1982169877

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Why I Left Apple & How I Started ManTalks

Fri, 27 Aug 2021 17:33:05 -0400

I've been asked about this a lot, and I think it's time to answer: how did I move from a high-paying job with one of the biggest companies ever to starting a business helping men be better men? Also, why? Here's what happened.

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Jason Wilson - Breaking Free From Emotional Incarceration

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 10:01:00 -0400

This is a long-awaited reunion! Jason has been a guiding light and inspiration to multitudes of boys and men, and it's an honor to reconnect with him. We talk about the struggles men face in silence, the culture of "grind", intergenerational trauma, and the need for men to develop a comprehensive masculinity.

Jason Wilson is the founder and CEO of the Yunion (pronounced union), a non-profit youth development organization in Detroit Michigan. Since 2003, the Yunion has effectively reached more than 15,000 youth and young adults through innovative prevention programming, trauma-informed care, parental engagement, and counseling. In 2008, Mr. Wilson’s heart for fatherless and misguided black boys inspired him to create and direct the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy (CATTA).
As an expert in Emotional Stability Training®, Wilson’s leadership has garnered the CATTA numerous acknowledgments and awards for his work teaching males how to introspectively confront and conquer their negative emotions with composure. In 2016, one of the CATTA’s videos went viral with over 80 million views worldwide. As a result, Mr. Wilson was invited to be a guest on the Dr. Oz Show and to present the CATTA at President Obama’s ‘My Brother’s Keeper’ Showcase at the White House. Later that year, NBC’s hit TV show ‘This Is Us’ was so inspired by Wilson’s work, that they featured the CATTA’s initiation ceremony in one of their most viewed and award winning episodes. In 2018, Mr. Wilson signed with actor/producer Laurence Fishburne’s film company Cinema Gypsy to produce a documentary film on Jason’s work with the CATTA. It is scheduled to be released in 2021.

Connect with Jason

-Website: https://mrjasonwilson.com/

-UPCOMING book, "Battle Cry": https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400226996

-The Yunion: https://theyunion.org/

-The Cave of Adullam Transformational Academy: https://mrjasonwilson.com/catta/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjasonowilson/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrjasonowilson

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrjasonowilson

-Book, "Cry Like A Man": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G1YJ7DZ/

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Hold Yourself Accountable By Doing This

Thu, 19 Aug 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Accountability is a bit of a buzzword right now, and I’ve been getting a ton of questions on how men can become more accountable to themselves and to others. As someone who used to suck at accountability, here’s what I’ve learned on how it ties into self-esteem, confidence, confrontation, boundaries, and the path to betterment.

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Balazs Bercsényi and Kjartan Rumpsfeld - Art And Personal Transformation

Mon, 16 Aug 2021 10:00:00 -0400

The role and power of art in self-healing, initiation, and actualization is (putting it lightly) huge. To that end, I sat down with the incredibly skilled Balazs Bercsényi and his colleague-in-healing, belief coach Kjartan Rumpsfeld. We get into the two bridge art and healing in the form of ritualistic “tattoo retreats”, how Balazs and Kjartan met, the artistic process, and how to change the transactional nature of modern art.

Balazs Bercsényi is a multidimensional tattoo artist from Pécs, Hungary, with a distinct, identifiable, and meticulous style. His artistic work is heavily influenced by ancestral practices and ritual, spirituality, sacred geometry, the occult, and sculpture. He leads the industry as an expert in single needle and fine line black and grey talisman tattoos, which have become his trademark signature for independent art projects. Informed by an apprenticeship and subsequent artistic residency in London, England, at the age of 20 and subsequent international artistic study, his work received true international acclaim and recognition in the world-renowned Bang Bang art studios in New York City, United States. Balazs demonstrates a continuing passion for traveling and tattooing around the world, and his constantly-evolving artistic aspirations and professional practice have expanded into the exploration of illustration and fashion design as new mediums to bridge the gap between ancient tradition and modern elegance.

Kjartan Rumpsfeld is a Norway-based consultant and teacher utilizing NLP, energy work, and other modalities to people weed out limiting beliefs and experience transformation and healing in their lives, from the psychological and spiritual to the professional and social. Beginning with years of training in a Utah monastery, Kjartan is committed to helping others identify and let go of anything that might be holding them back.

Connect with Balazs

-Website: http://balazsbercsenyi.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/balazsbercsenyi

-Retreat: http://balazsbercsenyi.com/retreat/index

Connect with Kjartan

-Website: https://www.kjartanrumpsfeld.com/

-Coaching: https://www.kjartanrumpsfeld.com/coaching

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Why Your Reputation Matters

Thu, 12 Aug 2021 10:01:00 -0400

As a man, your reputation is a vital piece of the development puzzle. Full stop. In this mini-ep, I dig into why reputation is important, my own experiences in repairing a reputation as a lazy man, Conor McGregor, and what you can do to start examining and repairing your own notoriety.

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Robert Greene - Define Your Relationship To Power

Mon, 09 Aug 2021 10:01:00 -0400

I've been looking forward to this one for a long time. This is a wide ranging discussion on how power (and the desire for it) shapes everything we do—from how we use social media to how we shape our identities. We get into how power is used and misused, misinterpreted, and of course, why we need to define our relationship to power.

Robert Greene is the author of several New York Times bestsellers, including The 48 Laws of Power, Mastery, The 33 Strategies of War, and The Laws of Human Nature.

Greene grew up in Los Angeles and attended the University of California, Berkeley before finishing his degree at the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a B.A. in classical studies.

Greene estimates he's worked about 80 jobs, including construction worker, translator, magazine editor, and Hollywood movie writer. His first book, The 48 Laws of Power, catapulted him to fame at age 36.

His works are widely praised by a diverse array of sources, from politicians and war historians to musicians, executives, and actors.

Connect with Robert

-Websites: https://linktr.ee/Robertgreenebooks

-https://powerseductionandwar.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/RobertGreene

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertgreeneofficial/

-Youtube: https://bit.ly/3jBhYHX

-Upoming Book - The Daily Laws: https://amzn.to/3s0Obw2

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The One Thing Every Man Should Look For In A Woman

Thu, 05 Aug 2021 10:01:00 -0400

You ask, I answer. I'm not a big fan of silver bullet answers, but I gave this a lot of thought after receiving several requests. If there's ONE thing you should be looking for in a woman, it's this. Like, sub, share with someone who needs the listen!

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Bayo Akomolafe - Change Your Story, Change The World

Mon, 02 Aug 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Easily one of my favorite conversations this year. The depth of Bayo Akomolafe's wisdom is pretty much limitless. Listen in and be blown away. Bayo and I cover a lot of ground here, digging into the importance of ritual, the role of stories in our growth and how those stories are influenced by what's around us, the "atmosphere" of trauma, the microbiome, cripestimology, and looking for (as he calls it) the cracks in human agency.

Dr. Bayo Akomolafe is a globally acclaimed lecturer, speaker, and proud diaper-changer, and considers his most sacred work to be learning how to be with his daughter, his son, and his wife Ijeoma.

“To learn the importance of insignificance” is the way he frames a desire to reacquaint himself with a world that is irretrievably entangled, preposterously alive, and completely partial.

After losing his diplomat father to a sudden heart complication, Bayo became a reclusive teenager, seeking to get to the “heart of the matter” as a response to his painful loss. He sought to apply himself to the extremes of his social conditioning, his faith, and his eventual training as a clinical psychologist, graduating summa cum laude from Covenant University in Nigeria. Largely nurtured and trained in a world that increasingly fell short of his deepest desires for justice, Bayo’s doctoral research involved meeting with traditional healers as part of his quest to understand trauma, mental wellbeing, and healing in new ways.

His deep questions and concerns for decolonized landscapes has congealed into a life devoted to exploring the nuances of a “magical” world “too promiscuous to fit neatly into our fondest notions of it.”

Connect with Bayo:

-Website: https://bayoakomolafe.net/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/bayoakomolafe

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bayoakomolafeampersand/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bayoakomolafe/

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Pursue Rejection

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 10:01:00 -0400

That's it, that's the title. If you're looking to get better or change in any way, shape, or form, you're going to face resistance and rejection. From your own bad habits, your inner critic, your shadow, and maybe even friends or family. And there's not really any way around that. But how else do you learn to weather the storm?

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Sophie Zhang - Misinformation And Social Media Manipulation

Mon, 26 Jul 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Truth, whether in men’s work or politics or science, is crucial. Sophie Zhang was fired from Facebook in 2020, and her farewell memo was leaked to Buzzfeed, went viral on Reddit, and revealed (in her words) “multiple blatant attempts by foreign national governments to abuse our platform on vast scales to mislead their own citizenry, and caused international news on multiple occasions". This is just the tip of the iceberg.

We dive into what happened, the consequences of doing nothing about it, inauthenticity versus misinformation, and a lot more. This isn’t the usual ManTalks convo, but it’s an important one.

Connect with Sophie

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/szhang_ds

-BuzzFeed: Whistleblower Says Facebook Ignored Political Manipulation

-The Guardian: The Facebook Loophole

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Be A Man Of Value

Thu, 22 Jul 2021 16:24:02 -0400

This is a short but important one. So many men out there are facing a crisis of meaning. From what I’ve seen, finding meaning in your life and becoming a man of value are connected. But value is something you’ve got to curate and develop in order to execute on. Here’s how.

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Carole Hooven - The Incredible Impacts Of Testosterone

Mon, 19 Jul 2021 10:01:00 -0400

This. Was. Awesome. Want to better understand how testosterone affects everything from psychology, physicality, and even your neural circuitry? Put this in your ears like, now, and empower your knowledge. Evolutionary biologist Carole Hooven is my honored guest this week, and we dive deep into the science and stories in her incredibly well-researched book T: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us.

Carole Hooven, PhD, is lecturer and co-director of undergraduate studies in the Department of Human Evolutionary Biology at Harvard University. She earned her PhD at Harvard, studying sex differences and testosterone, and has taught there ever since. Hooven has received numerous teaching awards, and her popular Hormones and Behavior class was named one of the Harvard Crimson’s “top ten tried and true.”

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-Website: https://heb.fas.harvard.edu/people/carole-hooven

-Book: https://amzn.to/3BkjaY8

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/hoovlet

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How To Quit Porn And Still Feel Good

Thu, 15 Jul 2021 10:01:00 -0400

If you just want to take a break from porn, or it feels like porn is running your life, this episode is for you! Listen in for a straightforward breakdown of how our porn habits are formed, what’s happening in the body, and how to leverage the system that gets you hooked on porn to help you move away from it. Whatever side of the porn argument you’re on, it’s crucial to know what’s going on and why.

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Dr. Aziz Gazipura - Develop Your Confidence

Mon, 12 Jul 2021 10:00:00 -0400

How do we move forward out of a life that’s unwilling to take risks? As we start really interacting with people again on something other than Zoom, I wanted to chat with a leading expert on the nature of confidence, Dr. Aziz Gazipura. He shares some specific, actionable steps for developing your confidence, and we dive into how social anxiety is a pattern, how to support a partner with social anxiety, and how consistent action pays off.

Connect with Dr. Aziz:

-Website: https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/AzizGazipura

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drazizgazipura

-Book: Not Nice: https://amzn.to/3hYZdgD

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How To Build Your Community

Thu, 08 Jul 2021 10:01:00 -0400

I was recently on the Brofessional Development podcast, and it was a great chat, so I wanted to share this excerpt. We dug into something I’m extremely familiar with: what’s needed to building a thriving online community. I break it down into practical steps: what kind of community to build, how to consistently provide them value, and how to keep them engaged and connected. Gratitude to the men at Brofessional Development for having me on!

Connect with Brofessional Development

-Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brofessional-development-podcast/id1525013123

-Website: https://brofessionaldevelopment.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brofessionaldevelopment/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BrofessionalDevelopment/

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Anonymous Guest - Understanding And Healing Mother/Daughter Relationships

Mon, 05 Jul 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Every now and then we bring on an anonymous guest as a way of showing listeners how I work with clients and what shadow work looks like in real-time. These are raw, intense episodes, and this one was no exception. So, I want to take this space to express my honor and gratitude for our guest feeling safe enough to let me work with her. Thank you. I appreciate you.

If you or someone you know is interested in being an anonymous guest, or if you’ve got questions, let me know on Instagram @mantalks.

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Women Don't Want To Validate Your Feelings

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 10:00:00 -0400

I'm a firm believer that we as men need to develop the capacity to validate and regulate ourselves, especially in the realm of emotionality. AKA: not offload emotional regulation onto our partners, girlfriends, wives, etc. In this vid, I look into where this (often) comes from, and how it leads straight to codependency. If you enjoyed this, comment below. Feel free to share your thoughts!

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Dr. Leah Lagos - How HRV Can Decrease Anxiety and Balance the Nervous System

Mon, 28 Jun 2021 10:01:00 -0400

HRV (or heart rate variability) measurement is still largely unknown. But like the human guinea pig I am, I've been experimenting with it myself! Of course, I also want legit expertise. To that end, I brought on one of America's experts in the field, Leah Lagos. This is a deep dive into how to not just manage your stress, but learn how use it to your advantage.

Leah Lagos, Psy.D, B.C.B., is an internationally known expert specializing in biofeedback, sport psychology, and performance psychology for elite competitors around the world. She is regularly featured in national media outlets including MSNBC, NBC Nightly News, CNN, Fox News, Today, and many more. Working with some of the world’s top business and sports professionals, including Olympic athletes, CEOs, international hedge fund managers, and many other business leaders, Dr. Lagos has established herself as a prominent name in peak performance training. Her training program is based on fifteen years of clinical study and application, treating a broad range of health and performance challenges. She lives in New York, New York.

Connect with Leah

-Website: https://drleahlagos.com/

-Book: Heart, Breath Mind: Train Your Heart To Conquer Stress and Achieve Success: https://amzn.to/3qzsZwr

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/drleahlagos

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drleahlagos/

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Give It Your All

Thu, 24 Jun 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Inspired by a recent experience with a client. There is a transformative power in giving your all to something, even if it fails. Winning feels good, but the real growth—the real nourishment—only happens when we show up fully. Commit fully.

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Rupert Spira - The Nature Of Consciousness & Time

Mon, 21 Jun 2021 10:00:00 -0400

How to truly uncover lasting happiness can seem like a lofty or impossible goal. But somehow, Rupert Spira makes it seem not just possible, but as clear as glacier water. I’ve wanted him on the show for a long time now, and I’m excited to share this incredible conversation. We dig into non-duality, the nature of time, the beauty of simple awareness, and what all the great spiritual traditions of the world were pointing to.

Rupert Spira is an English teacher of the "direct path", a method of spiritual self-inquiry through talks and writing, and a notable English studio potter with work in public and private collections.

Spira was deeply interested in the nature of reality from an early age. By age 17 he was studying meditation and practicing a classic Indian method of spiritual inquiry called Advaita Vedanta. He has studied with Dr. Francis Roles, Shantananda Saraswati, the Shankaracharya in, and is steeped in the wisdom of thinkers and mystics such as P. D. Ouspensky, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Rumi, Sri Ramana Maharshi, Nisargadatta, and Robert Adams.

In 1997, Francis Lucille trained Rupert in the Direct Path teachings of Atmanada Krishna Menon and the Tantric approach of Kashmir Shaivism, which he had received from his teacher, Jean Klein.

Rupert regularly holds meetings and retreats worldwide, exploring non-dual teachings from a diverse array of sources: Advaita Vedanta, Kashmir Shaivism, Hinduism, Buddhism, mystical Christianity, Sufism, and Zen.

He is the author of 8 books, including The Transparency of Things – Contemplating the Nature of Experience, The Ashes of Love, The Nature of Consciousness and The Essence of Meditation. His latest book is titled. A Meditation On I Am.

Connect with Rupert

-Website: https://rupertspira.com/

-Latest book: https://rupertspira.com/store/a-meditation-on-i-am

-Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/rupertspira

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The Key To Dating Wild Women

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 19:05:30 -0400

You ask, I answer. I've recently had a lot of questions on this topic. From women, it's something like, "Men keep telling me that I'm intimidating. I seem to date men that I walk all over. How do I navigate this?" And then from men, it's "She's intense. She's chaotic sometimes. She can be really overly direct or assertive or combative. What do I do? How do I navigate that?"

Tell me what you'd add, if you disagree, or if you've got any questions! And don't forget to share this with someone you feel will benefit.

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Terri Cole - Building Boundaries And Breaking Codependency

Mon, 14 Jun 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Relational boundaries, sexual boundaries, financial boundaries. Why are they all such a struggle? Honestly, let Terri Cole explain it. In this ep, Terri perfectly breaks down the different kinds of boundaries we have, why (and how) they form, how to recognize when they’ve been violated, and a lot more. This is a juicy one, so dig in!

Terri Cole is a New York-based, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and founder of Real Love Revolution, Boundary Bootcamp, and the co-founder of Crushing Codependency. Her female empowerment courses reach women in over 90 countries.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.

She has been featured as an expert therapist and master life coach on A&E’s Monster In-Laws, TED X, The Lisa Oz Show, Real Housewives, and had a weekly radio show on Hay House Radio. Plus, a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, Positively Positive, The Daily Love, Well+Good, and has been featured in Italian Elle, Forbes, Origin, Vogue, Self and was honored to grace the cover of Inspired Coach magazine.

She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.

Connect with Terri:

-Website: https://www.terricole.com/

-Book: https://boundarybossbook.com/

-Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/

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Create Order In Your Relationship

Thu, 10 Jun 2021 18:03:59 -0400

Order in a man’s life is a tricky subject, and something many men have a tumultuous relationship with. The title of this episode alone will probably raise a few eyebrows, but I wanted to take an honest look at the meaning of order, because it’s through order that we can create coherence, freedom, and direction. So let’s look at why order is important for a man, and how to create generative—instead of disruptive—order in your relationship.

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Andrew Reiner - Better Boys, Better Men

Mon, 07 Jun 2021 10:01:00 -0400

There’s no question in my mind that boys these days are navigating some incredible challenges. More and more boys are dropping out of school and college, suicide rates among younger men appear to be spiking, and it’s critical that we as a culture—and we as men specifically—look at what we can do better. Andrew Reiner and I discuss his fantastic book, what led him to this path, and how we can begin to embody a more generative, emotionally honest masculinity for the next generation.

Andrew Reiner is a professor at Towson University, where he offers the seminar “The Changing Face of Masculinity.” He has written on masculinity and men’s issues for the New York Times, Italy’s la Republica, and The Washington Post Magazine, and his work has been featured on NPR and the CBC, and in The Guardian, Men’s Health magazine, and Forbes. He speaks about masculinity regularly at schools and conferences nationally and internationally.

Connect with Andrew

-Website: http://www.andrewreinerauthor.com/

-Book: Better Boys, Better Men: The New Masculinity That Creates Greater Courage & Emotional Resiliency

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/AndrewTReiner

-Instagram: @andrew.reiner.author

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Beware The Male Apologist

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 10:00:00 -0400

It's my opinion that a huge part of a man's journey is being able to have real conversations about the struggles we have with maleness. Some men respond by disowning as much of their maleness as they can, but leave a lot of disconnection, pain, and anger unhealed. The end result is a personality type that (in my opinion) does more harm than good.

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Kristin Du Mez - Understanding Militant Evangelical Christianity

Mon, 31 May 2021 10:01:00 -0400

Unless you’re living in total media blackout, you’ve got at least an awareness of the effect Christianity has on every aspect of America. What you might not know is how deep that rabbit hole goes. The brilliant history professor Kristin Du Mez does, though, so I brought her on for an exploration of evangelical Christianity, its obsession with “warrior Christ”, the contortion and cherry-picking of doctrine, and how it ties into politics and the military.

Kristin Kobes Du Mez is a Professor of History and Gender Studies at Calvin University. She holds a Ph.D. from the University of Notre Dame and her research focuses on the intersection of gender, religion, and politics. She has written for the Washington Post, NBC News, Religion News Service, Christianity Today, and The Daily Beast, and has been interviewed on NPR, CBS, and the BBC, among other outlets. Her most recent book is Jesus and John Wayne: How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation.

Connect with Kristin

Website - https://kristindumez.com/

Twitter - https://twitter.com/kkdumez

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kkdumez

Book: Jesus and John Wayne: How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation - https://kristindumez.com/books/jesus-and-john-wayne/

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How I Learned To Regulate My Nervous System

Thu, 27 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

For our last episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, I want to share some really straightforward ways to regulate your nervous system that worked for me, as well as give some info on the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and the roles they play.

Thanks so much for tuning in to these episodes. I hope you've gotten some inspiration or motivation from them to take care of yourself in the way that you need. Don’t forget to share this ep with someone you feel would find it interesting! And as always, DM me @mantalks on Instagram; I'd be happy to field your questions!

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Ethan Nichtern - Buddhism: A Cure For A Time Of Chaos?

Mon, 24 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

In a culture that seems to be fraying and coming apart at the seams, does Buddhism have any possibilities? Last week I got to chat with celebrated Buddhist teacher and mentor Ethan Nichtern, and hear a bit about Buddhist psychology, Tantric Buddhism, and how the Middle Path can help us navigate not just our own minds but the world around us. I really appreciated Ethan's expertise; he effortlessly explains complex Buddhist ideas (and Western misconceptions). Dig in, friends.

Ethan Nichtern is, as Sally Vogler of Vogue put it, “a supercool, deeply kind brainiac—imagine a very chilled-out blend of Pauls Auster and Rudd—who is also to-the-cushion born.

A Buddhist teacher for over 19 years, Ethan has taught meditation and Buddhist psychology classes and workshops around New York City, North America, and Europe, along with working with students privately. He has primarily studied in the Shambhala and other Tibetan traditions, but has also studied Theravadan and Soto Zen Buddhism. He is also an avid yoga practitioner. He served as Shastri, or Senior Teacher-In-Residence, for the Shambhala Meditation Center of New York, from 2010-2018.

He was formerly on the part-time faculty at Eugene Lang College at New School University and has lectured at Brown, Wesleyan, Yale, NYU, FIT, Antioch, and other universities, and as well as at many other meditation/yoga centers and conferences around the country and world.

He is the author of the acclaimed book The Road Home: A Contemporary Exploration of the Buddhist Path. His most recent book, The Dharma of The Princess Bride: What The Coolest Fairy Tale of Our Time Can Teach Us About Buddhism and Relationships was in 2017.

He is also the author of One City: A Declaration of Interdependence and the Novella/poetry collection, Your Emoticons Won’t Save You.

Connect With Ethan

-Website: https://www.ethannichtern.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ethannichtern

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ethannichtern/

-Books: https://ethannichtern.com/the-road-home

-https://www.ethannichtern.com/dharma-of-the-princess-bride/

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Reveal and Recognize Your Shadow

Thu, 20 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

This week's mini-episode is part 3 of 4 for Mental Health Awareness Month. A look at something we all carry: a shadow. The amalgamation of everything we avoid, deny, or disown about ourselves. Despite the fact that it can be, uh, highly confronting, recognizing and revealing your shadow is (in my opinion) one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.

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Dr. Zach Bush - A Biological Understanding Of Our Troubled Times

Mon, 17 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Agriculture. Capitalism. Controversy. Biology. Viruses. This is a heavy one, my friends, and requires a bit of a preface on the cultural risks of meme-ifying the “other side”, which you’ll hear. I really hope you listen, but more than that, I hope you begin engaging in dialogue. I’ve wanted Zach on the show for a while now, and have been following his work with interest, and I’d be happy to hear your take.

Zach Bush MD is a physician specializing in internal medicine, endocrinology, and hospice care. He is an internationally recognized educator and thought leader on the microbiome as it relates to health, disease, and food systems. Dr. Zach founded *Seraphic Group and the nonprofit Farmer’s Footprint to develop root-cause solutions for human and ecological health. His passion for education reaches across many disciplines, including topics such as the role of soil and water ecosystems in human genomics, immunity, and gut/brain health. His education has highlighted the need for a radical departure from chemical farming and pharmacy, and his ongoing efforts are providing a path for consumers, farmers, and mega-industries to work together for a healthy future for people and the planet.

Connect with Zach Bush

-Website: https://zachbushmd.com/

-Farmer's Footprint: https://farmersfootprint.us/

-ION Biome: https://ionbiome.com/

-Instagram: @ZachBushMD

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrZachBush

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Vienna Pharaon - How We Navigate BIG Decisions

Fri, 14 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

The first few months of having a child turn your world upside down. Full stop. This week, I had my incredible wife Vienna on the show to cover all the angles of our recent entry into parenting—my experience, her experience, our experiences of each other. Our joys, concerns, projections, and all the other things we had to navigate surrounding (as Stephen Jenkinson puts it) becoming “parent-lings”. Full disclosure: This. Is. Real. Talk. Listen in and let us know what you thought!

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Replace Coping Mechanisms With Generative Rituals

Tue, 11 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. As such, I want to use my platform this month to share some of the things that have shifted my own mental health in a positive direction. Wanna be clear, these aren't cure-alls—nothing is—but they are clear and deliberate steps you can take. This week, replacing unhealthy coping mechanisms with generative rituals.

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Rigorous Self-Acceptance and Compassion

Thu, 06 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, so I’m dedicating this month’s mini-episodes to that topic. The last year has undoubtedly left a mark on the hearts and minds of uncountable millions. I feel those of us with the means and ability have a responsibility to do what they can to create what they can to help. Put another way, the end-stage of the Hero’s Journey is to bring the treasures wrestled from dragons back to the village.

So this month, each mini-episode will dive into something that has radically shifted my own mental health in a positive direction. This week, developing the self-acceptance and compassion necessary to combat the Inner Critic.

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Connor Beaton - On Fatherhood (interviewed by Ian MacKenzie)

Mon, 03 May 2021 10:00:00 -0400

This week, something unique in the ManTalks podcast's history! Shortly after my son was born, Ian MacKenzie over at The Mythic Masculine proposed we switch chairs; he'd come on the show and interview ME on my recent entry into fatherhood. We cover what it's been like so far, what I've learned, what led me and my wife to the decision of having a child, and much, much more. If you're a new parent or know someone who's "parent-curious", share this one!

Ian MacKenzie is a visionary filmmaker and writer who lives on the Salish Sea with his young son. He is the founder of The Mythic Masculine podcast, which features conversations on mythology, culture, and emerging masculinities.

For over 10 years, he’s been tracking the global emergence of new culture. From the desert of Burning Man to the heart of Occupy Wall St, he has sought and amplified the voices of visionaries, artists, and activists who have been working toward planetary system change.

Ian is best known for his films Sacred Economics, Lost Nation Road, Amplify Her, Dear Guardians, and Occupy Love (directed by Velcrow Ripper), and the forthcoming Love School. You can explore most of his films, essays, and talks on his official website.

Connect with Ian

Podcast - https://www.themythicmasculine.com/

Website - https://www.ianmack.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/themythicmasculine/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/themythicmasculine

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How To Definitively Know She's The One

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 16:15:00 -0400

I’m not a huge fan of the idea of “the One” (except Neo, obviously). Nevertheless, I’m often asked, “How did you know your wife was the right one?” So let’s break it down. Listen in for some of the things I’ve learned that are incredibly important when looking for the ideal partner.

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Kute Blackson - The Practical Approach To Surrender

Mon, 26 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

About a month ago I had the honor of chatting with my friend Kute Blackson on surrender, something that often lands in “woo” territory instead of tactical, actionable advice. That's not the case with Kute, though, who merges passion, wisdom, and practicality here into a message of surrender that hits hard. Be sure to listen to this.

Kute Blackson is the author of the national bestselling book You.Are.The.One, and is widely considered the next generation leader in the field of personal development by everyone ranging from Larry King, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, and more. He has been featured on Larry King Now, Fox and Friends, Dr. Drew, as well, Inc magazine calls him ‘The Mindfulness Guru Billionaires Go To For Advice’.

In 2019, Kute received a Walden Award in the New Thought Wisdom category that Unity honors once a year to recognize socially conscious leaders who are making the world a better place, past winners in the same category have been Oprah Winfrey and Michael Bernard Beckwith.

A charismatic visionary and transformational teacher, Kute Blackson offers a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for a whole new generation. Born in Ghana, West Africa, Kute's multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and a Ghanaian father has spanned four different continents. His unique lineage lay the foundation for his approach to breaking down barriers and unlocking an individual's true gifts and greatness.

For over 20 years, Kute Blackson has been inspiring audiences around the world. From the first time he spoke in front of 3000 people at age 8, to speaking in over 300 venues by age 18, to helping organizations develop authentic leadership and achieve extraordinary performance over the last decade. His electrifying presentations not only offer real-world practical ideas and soul-stirring wisdom, but also ignite the heart and inspire courageous action.

His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically, and fulfill their true life’s purpose.

Connect with Kute

-Website: https://kuteblackson.com/

-NEW Book: https://themagicofsurrender.com/

-Podcast, Soul Talk: https://kuteblackson.com/soultalk/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kuteblacksonlovenow

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/kuteblackson

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Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex

Thu, 22 Apr 2021 14:22:00 -0400

Still thinking about your ex? Sometimes the heart math surrounding breakups is so complex it leaves you paralyzed by rumination. This week, a quick breakdown of some of the reasons why this happens. If you resonate with this or know someone else who will, please share it. Let’s help each other achieve deeper insight.

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Brian Falduto - The Bridge Between Gay & Straight Men

Mon, 19 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

In a culture where polarization feels like it's increasing, understanding each other is a radical act. This week, Brian Falduto and I get into the fear, wounding, and shadow contained within straight men and men in the queer community, and how to create better discourse and understanding. Because while there are differences in experiential content, there's also more overlap than you might think. This was a great conversation, and I’m grateful to have had the chance to listen to Brian’s knowledge and experience.

Brian Falduto is a professional actor, country music singer-songwriter, and ICF certified life coach. At the age of 11, director Richard Linklater cast Brian Falduto alongside Jack Black in the film School of Rock as Billy, a.k.a. “Fancy Pants.” He is a dual-degree graduate in Theatre Performance & Arts Administration, and proudly calls himself an alumnus of Wagner College.

Brian’s discography includes a 2017 acoustic EP titled “Love One Another,” a 2018 debut studio album titled “Stage Two,” & other singular releases - most notably his recent single, “God Loves Me Too,” which went on to become a final nominee at the 2020 International Independent Music Video Awards & winner of the Fan Favorite category.

In addition to garnering support from The Trevor Project, GLAAD, & other LGBTQ-affirming organizations & advocates, the song was chosen as the “Loud & Proud” feature on Apple Country's Proud Radio & also the official theme song for Beloved Arise, a non-profit organization celebrating queer youth of faith.

Since re-emerging as an artist, Brian has had some amazing opportunities to share his life story openly & honestly through public speaking engagements, podcast appearances, self-authored content pieces, & media interviews; most notably his now-viral video with Now This News. In 2018, PrideLife Magazine named Brian one of the “20 most influential, outspoken, & optimistic individuals on the planet” in their 20th Anniversary #20intheir20s issue.

Brian also works as a life coach serving primarily LGBTQ+ clientele. In 2020, he launched The Gay Life Coach Podcast, The Gay Men's Self-Help Book Club, & The Gay Men's Mindfulness Collective as part of his efforts to create mindful conversation & content surrounding the effects of internalized & externalized homophobia, & how one might heal from those experiences through expanded awareness & a deeper connection to oneself.

Connect with Brian

-Website: https://www.brianfalduto.com/

-Instagram: @thegaylifecoach and @brianfalduto

-Twitter: @brianfalduto

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianfalduto

-The Gay Men’s Mindfulness Collective

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Why You Can't Forgive Yourself

Thu, 15 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Yesterday I put out the ask to followers on Instagram: what do you want me to talk about? Within minutes, I had multiple men bring up the topic of self-forgiveness. Questions like, “How do I forgive myself for infidelity? For lying? For a business that I ruined?” Friends, this is a big deal. I break down the reasons why we struggle to forgive ourselves, how we need to change how we look at forgiveness, and how it’s intimately tied to our sense of sovereignty.

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Eddie Capparucci - Porn Addiction and Healing The Inner Child

Mon, 12 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Grab your notepad for this one. I wanted to have Eddie on the show because it’s somewhat rare to view sexual addiction (porn or otherwise) through the lens of Inner Child work. How we reveal and heal the wounds of our past is how we heal our present, and Inner Child work is an incredibly powerful framework to do that in. Eddie breaks down the Inner Child with nuance and deep intelligence, and it was a pleasure to have him on. If you or someone you know struggles with an addiction to porn or sex, man it forward and share this episode!

Eddie Capparucci is a licensed therapist and is certified in the treatment of sexual and pornography addiction. He and his wife, Teri, have a private practice in Marietta, Georgia, working with men struggling with sex/porn addiction, as well as their wives who are dealing with betrayal.

Among his many clients, Eddie has worked with professional athletes including NFL and MLB players and television personalities.

He is the administrator of the websites www.MenAgainstPorn.org and www.SexuallyPureMen.com. He also has written for the blogs XXXChurch.com, Covenant Eyes, and Kingdom Works.

He serves as the clinical director for the National Decency Coalition, an organization working to help limit the access of pornography to minors while educating about the harmful impact of pornography on individuals, relationships, and society.

Connect with Eddie

-Website; https://abundantlifecounselingga.com/

-Book; Going Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction; https://www.amazon.com/Going-Deeper-Impacts-Sexual-Addiction/dp/B084Z66BZR

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Stop Looking For The Golden Gun

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

We as men have often fall into this idea that there’s one big solution—one psychological big bang—that’ll “fix” everything in our personal development journey. I call it the Golden Gun, and just like its namesake, it’s (surprise!) NOT real. Listen in to find out where the real fix is, why we need it, and why it deserves more recognition and respect.

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Stephen Jenkinson - What Patriarchy Really Meant, And Dying Cultural Myths

Mon, 05 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

It’s difficult to really articulate the kind of man Stephen Jenkinson is. I’ve interviewed hundreds of brilliant people and studied many more, but very few approach the same level of profoundly medicinal wisdom as Jenkinson. To say I’m a fan is an understatement. Bear with the occasional rough patch of audio and listen to some challenging depth.

Stephen Jenkinson, MTS, MSW is an activist, teacher, author, and farmer. He is the founder of the Orphan Wisdom School in Tramore, Canada, and the author of four books, including Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul, the award-winning book about grief, dying, and the great love of life, and Come Of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble. In 2015, he created Nights of Grief & Mystery with Canadian singer-songwriter Gregory Hoskins. With a 5-piece band, they have mounted international tours and released three albums, most recently DARK ROADS and ROUGH GODS. Most recently, a four-part livestream speaking series, A Generation’s Worth, was presented in Winter 2020.

Orphan Wisdom is the home of Stephen Jenkinson’s writing and teaching work. Orphan Wisdom is a teaching house for the skills of deep living and making human culture. It is a redemptive project that comes from where we come from. It is rooted in knowing history, being claimed by ancestry, working for a time we won’t see.

Connect with Stephen

-Website: https://orphanwisdom.com/

-Books: https://orphanwisdom.com/books/

-DARK ROADS/ROUGH GODS trailer: https://youtu.be/85KPoBISv_0

-DARK ROADS album: https://orphanwisdom.com/shop/dark-roads/

-ROUGH GODS album: https://orphanwisdom.com/shop/rough-gods/

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A Message To My Unborn Son

Thu, 01 Apr 2021 10:00:00 -0400

This mini-episode is a little different. As some of you might know, I became a dad just over two weeks ago. Not long before his arrival, I found myself contemplating and writing about what I was experiencing. So I wanted to share that, in the hopes that other men—fathers, sons, grandfathers, boys, adults—find their own answers to the question: what can a man say to the son he hasn't met yet?

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Brian Muraresku - The History of Psychedelics in Religion

Mon, 29 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Did psychedelics play a role in mystical insight, human ingenuity, and the development of Western civilization? Is there a secret religion hidden underpinning the most ancient spiritual practices of Greece, Turkey, and elsewhere? Join me and Brain Muraresku for a mind-bending look at our history as a civilization, as spiritual beings, and how psychedelics might be intertwined into it all. This was a deeply fascinating talk; sit back and enjoy!

Brian C. Muraresku graduated Phi Beta Kappa from Brown University with a degree in Latin, Greek, and Sanskrit. As an alumnus of Georgetown Law and a member of the New York Bar, he has been practicing law internationally for fifteen years. He lives outside Washington D.C. with his wife and two daughters.

Connect with Brian

-Book: The Immortality Key: The Secret History of the Religion With No Name

-Website: https://www.brianmuraresku.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianmuraresku

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_muraresku/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-muraresku-76983a27

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The Problem With Personal Development

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0400

We get way too caught up in the idea that personal development is always expansion, always growth, always becoming. That, my friends, is not true. In this episode, I break down my main issue with personal development, and what we need to talk about in order to lock in actual growth. To me, personal development has just as much “unbecoming” as it does “becoming”.

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Jim Poole - Healing Your Nervous System

Mon, 22 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0400

The intersection of technology and the nervous system has always fascinated me, especially when it comes to mental healing, navigating trauma. Jim Poole has been at the forefront of this field for a while now. We cover the convergence of tech and mindfulness, human evolution, the theta brainwave state, and a lot more.

Jim is an accomplished business executive with extensive experience in the dental, healthcare, biotechnology, market research, and IT industries. Mr. Poole manages the strategic direction and ongoing operations of Solace Lifesciences, Inc., a neuroscience company focused on personalized wellness and performance. In 2015, Solace Lifesciences, the maker of NuCalm, was granted the world's sole patent for Systems and Methods for Balancing and Maintaining the Health of the Human Autonomic Nervous System.

As an accomplished business executive with extensive experience in the dental, healthcare, biotechnology, market research, and IT industries, Jim serves on the board of directors of several medical device firms around the world. He is a recognized business leader, public speaker, an accomplished author, and he has published numerous articles in industry trade journals and lectures all over the world globally on topics including stress, recovery, performance, and business strategy. Jim has published over 30 articles in industry trade journals.

A New York state native, Poole earned a BA in psychology from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst and an MBA in International Business & Marketing from Babson College.

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-LinkedIn

-NuCalm by Solace Lifesciences

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Thinking Out Loud: Jordan Peterson and the Essence of Patriarchy

Thu, 18 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Alright. Let me be clear: I am not making a case for or against him. This is me trying to find deeper answers to why Peterson is such a divisive figure, as well as observing the (frankly) dire situation masculine culture is in. When I see people either hyper-pedestal someone or viciously denigrate them, that’s a solid cue to look at both the person and what they might symbolize in the psyche of their fans (and enemies).

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Jenny Sansouci - The Healing Power of Medicinal Mushrooms and CBD

Mon, 15 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Jenny and I dig into some of the practical applications of things like CBD and functional mushrooms (think Lion’s Mane, Chaga, Turkey Tail, and others). A healthy mind and a healthy body absolutely go hand in hand. If you’re looking to elevate your sleep, cognition, or overall wellbeing, listen to this. Side note: This was recorded some time ago, but I was surprised to find out both Amazon and Instagram have prevented Jenny from advertising her book.

Jenny Sansouci is a certified health coach and creator of the wellness blog Healthy Crush, where she's been writing since 2008. She is the author of The Rebel's Apothecary: A Practical Guide to the Healing Magic of Cannabis, CBD, and Mushrooms. Jenny is a graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, a Food Therapy graduate of the Natural Gourmet Institute, and has been trained by functional medicine doctor Frank Lipman, MD in New York City. She is based in Brooklyn.

Connect with Jenny:

-Book: The Rebel’s Apothecary: https://www.rebelsapothecary.com/

-Blog: healthycrush.com

-Instagram: @jennysansouci

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/jennysansouci

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Weekly Training: Creating Sexual Polarity and Tension

Thu, 11 Mar 2021 11:00:00 -0400

This week, I wanted to talk about what sexual polarity is, how you can create sexual tension or sexual charge, and the logistics around that. Based on the research, the last year has really done a number on some people’s sex lives—maintaining sexual desire can obviously be tough in situations like lockdowns. Listen to this for more than a few straightforward ways to re-ignite that fire.

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Anon Guest - Overcoming Victimhood And Integrating Anger

Mon, 08 Mar 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Every part of our shadow has a lineage. From the way we manage anger to how we react when a friend betrays us. This week, I sit with an anonymous guest and help him break through the hard surface of his anger to discover where it came from; and now that he knows what's up, what to do next. I really encourage you to listen to the whole episode, because it is a hard and noble journey this man is taking.

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Derek Beaton - The Wisdom of My Father

Mon, 01 Mar 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Yes, you read that right: I’m interviewing my dad. As many of you know, I’ll be a dad myself soon, so I wanted to bring two generations of Beaton together. We dig into the highlights, expectations, and challenges of fatherhood, what the “first few days” were like, and just how life-changing the feeling of fatherhood can be.

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Weekly Training: Learning Acceptance

Thu, 25 Feb 2021 11:00:00 -0400

Acceptance is one of the more misunderstood, disrespected, and underestimated things in today’s culture. But when it comes to our well-being, it’s one of the most powerful practices we can cultivate. Yes, it’s also challenging. Even infuriating. It’s supposed to be.

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Kris Coleman - On Resiliency, Awareness, and Navigating Misinformation

Mon, 22 Feb 2021 11:01:00 -0400

This was recorded in early February. I feel it's important to balance out the theoretical side of things and on-the-ground perspective, so I brought in Kris Coleman, a former CIA Officer and FBI Special Agent. We get into some practical and frank ideas around what we need to do to cultivate resiliency individually and as a community, combating misinformation (spoiler: always check your sources and avoid echo chambers), and how massively important awareness is.

Kris Coleman is Founder, President, and CEO of Red Five, where he supports private families, family offices, corporations, and security teams with bespoke solutions to ensure their privacy, security, and resiliency. Before founding Red Five, Coleman served as a CIA Officer where he conducted threat and vulnerability assessments and developed programmatic approaches to counterterrorism and law enforcement for countries across the world. Coleman also served as an FBI Special Agent and a member of the FBI’s enhanced SWAT Team. Coleman holds a B.S. in Public Administration from the University of Arkansas. With extensive experience providing state-of-the-art security and protective intelligence services, he helps individuals be prepared and resilient through uncertain times and unexpected crises.

Connect with Kris

-Website: https://red5security.com/

-REAL Training, Red Five's resiliency training program: https://red5security.com/real-training/

-Book, Raise Your Resiliency: You, Your Family and Your Business Can Achieve Resiliency in an Uncertain World:

-Instagram: @red.five.real

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/red-five-security/

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Weekly Training: Your Shadow & Relationships

Thu, 18 Feb 2021 11:00:00 -0400

I continue to be blown away by what people are discovering in The Shadow Course, which I released recently. The questions and insights people are bringing to the table are leaving me so grateful and excited. This week, someone brought up an amazing question on how the shadow affects relationships, and I wanted to do a bit of a deep dive on it: how the shadow shows up in relationships, how it actually helps us pick partners, and how some of the relationships we enter into are the shadow made manifest. I hope you enjoy!

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Cinema Therapy - Marvel, Archetypes, and Masculinity in Movies

Mon, 15 Feb 2021 11:01:00 -0400

What makes villians like Thanos and Killmonger so compelling? Is there a trend in how our culture looks at heroes? What's the modern idea of a hero even look like? I connected with Cinema Therapy over Zoom, and we nerd out on the intersection of psychology, film, and culture. We cover masculinity in movies and its history, what Marvel is doing right, Heath Ledger’s Joker versus Joaquin Phoenix’s, and why superheroes are so important right now. This was a fun, compelling interview. Alan and Jonathan are brilliant, funny, and genuinely wholesome people. There’s also a recipe for a mean chocolate smoothie if you listen in close.

Cinema Therapy is hosted by licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright. They discuss how movies can be used to improve your life, and how to watch movies with your brain turned on. Also, there are jokes.

Connect with Cinema Therapy:

-Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/CinemaTherapySolutions

-Instagram: @therapy_cinema

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/therapycinema

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Weekly Training: How To Heal From Being Cheated On

Thu, 11 Feb 2021 11:00:00 -0400

Seven pieces of honest, practical, and actionable advice for what to do after being cheated on, because—contrary to popular belief—the aftermath isn't always clear-cut. Being cheated on can be devastating, freeing, confronting, an incredible learning experience, and everything in between. Whatever it is, it always needs processing, and it always needs healing. If you've ever been cheated on, have a listen. Or if you know someone who's trying to recover, maybe send this their way. And as always, feel free to send me a DM on insta @mantalks, or leave a rating and review so this reaches further.

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Shadeen Francis - Foundations Of Sexual Intimacy

Mon, 08 Feb 2021 15:59:00 -0400

In this ep, the brilliant LMFT Shadeen Francis and I explore sexual communication and intimacy: How to get better at it, like how to bridge sexual incompatibility, how to step into what it is we're actually craving, love in the time of COVID, the difference between fantasy and fetish, and of course, how to discuss all of this with your partner.

Shadeen Francis is a licensed psychotherapist, a media personality, graduate professor, and author whose expertise spans the domains of sex therapy, emotional intelligence, and social justice. She has been featured on platforms like ABC, CBS, NBC, FOX and the New York Times to share her unique perspective, and her insights have been printed by Cosmopolitan, MindBodyGreen, Refinery29, Playboy, Nylon magazine, and Tinder Swipelife, among others.

Known for her signature brand of warmth and humor, Shadeen is sought internationally to speak on topics like imposter syndrome, sexual self-esteem, the art of negotiation, and the healing power of orgasms. Combining her love of learning with her background in Neuroscience and radio hosting, she transforms difficult subjects into actionable and engaging conversations. From couples to corporations, her collaborative style leads people to the heart of the issue in order to transform challenges into opportunities for growth.

Connect with Shadeen

-Website: https://shadeenfrancis.com/

-Instagram @shadeenfrancis

-Twitter: @shadeenfrancis

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Weekly Training: The Ultimate Guide To Coping Mechanisms

Thu, 04 Feb 2021 11:00:00 -0400

The title says it all. After getting a few questions from folks in the Shadow Course and some others on Insta, I wanted to break down coping mechanisms in multiple ways, because the concept can be extremely broad. For example, what’s the difference between defense mechanisms and coping mechanisms? What’s the difference between adaptive and maladaptive? And maybe most importantly, how do we set boundaries on these?

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Brent Gleeson - A Navy SEAL's Guide To Embracing The Suck

Mon, 01 Feb 2021 11:00:00 -0400

This is timely a episode; whether it’s physical, mental, or spiritual resiliency, part of building ourselves up in the face of the uncertainty and chaos around us is going to involve “embracing the suck”. In this episode, Brent and I dug into his life as a Navy SEAL, his new bestselling book, what embracing the suck really means, and the important role empathy plays in cultivating perseverance.

Brent Gleeson is a Navy SEAL combat veteran with multiple combat deployments to Iraq and Africa. Upon leaving SEAL Team 5, Brent turned his discipline and battlefield lessons to the world of business and has become an award-winning entrepreneur, bestselling author, and acclaimed speaker on topics ranging from resilience, mental toughness, leadership, and building high-performance teams, to culture, and organizational transformation.

Brent is the Founder and CEO of Taking Point Leadership, a progressive leadership and organizational development consulting firm with a focus on business transformation and building high-performance cultures. Brent was named a Top 10 CEO by Entrepreneur Magazine in 2013.

Brent holds degrees in finance and economics from Southern Methodist University, certificates in English and History from Oxford University in England and a graduate business degree from the University of San Diego. He is the bestselling author of TakingPoint: A Navy SEAL’s 10 Fail-Safe Principles for Leading Through Change, which was a #1 New Release on Amazon in Organizational Change and Business Structural Adjustment. Brent’s latest book, Embrace the Suck: The Navy SEAL Way to an Extraordinary Life was #1 on Amazon in the self-help, self-esteem, and military leadership categories.

Connect with Brent:
-Website; http://www.brentgleesonspeaker.com/
-Latest Book; “Embrace the Suck: The Navy SEAL Way to An Extraordinary Life”
-Previous Book; ”TakingPoint: A Navy SEAL’s 10 Fail Safe Principles For Leading Through Change”
-Business; https://takingpointleadership.com/
-Instagram; @brent_gleeson
-Twitter; https://twitter.com/brentgleeson

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Weekly Training: The Secret To Discipline

Thu, 28 Jan 2021 11:00:00 -0400

Friends, we need to talk about discipline, but not in a clickbaity way. Discipline is way too often presented as this monolithic, punishing thing, and that’s an illusion. It’s also—especially these days—an endpoint. That’s also an illusion. Discipline is a daily practice and deepening the connection to your own self-worth and self-respect. Listen in.

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Makoto Fujimura - Culture, Art, Faith, and the Theology of Making

Mon, 25 Jan 2021 11:00:00 -0400

In this ep, I sit down with acclaimed, New York-based artist Makoto Fujimura. Makoto is a fascinating man: someone who's perfectly balanced the "border stalking" (his words) nature of artists with a deep and abiding faith. We talk about how to mends trauma and end cultural divides, the nature of God, and the role of artists as healers and integrators.

Makoto Fujimura is a leading contemporary artist whose process-driven, refractive “slow art” has been described by David Brooks of New York Times as “a small rebellion against the quickening of time”. Robert Kushner, in the mid 90’s, spoke of Fujimura’s art this way: “The idea of forging a new kind of art, about hope, healing, redemption, refuge, while maintaining visual sophistication and intellectual integrity is a growing movement, one which finds Makoto Fujimura’s work at the vanguard.”

Fujimura’s art is collected and featured widely in galleries and museums around the world, including The Museum of Contemporary Art in Tokyo, The Huntington Library, the Tikotin Museum in Israel, Dillon Gallery and Waterfall Mansion in New York, Sato Museum in Tokyo, The Tokyo National University of Fine Arts Museum, Bentley Gallery in Arizona, Gallery Exit and Oxford House at Taikoo Place in Hong Kong, Vienna’s Belvedere Museum, and Shusaku Endo Museum in Nagasaki. He is one of the first artists to paint live on stage at New York City’s legendary Carnegie Hall as part of an ongoing collaboration with composer and percussionist, Susie Ibarra.

Fujimura is also an arts advocate, writer, and speaker who is recognized worldwide as a cultural influencer. A Presidential appointee to the National Council on the Arts from 2003-2009, Fujimura served as an international advocate for the arts, speaking with decision makers and advising governmental policies on the arts. His books have won numerous awards, including the Aldersgate Prize for “Silence and Beauty”. Fujimura's highly anticipated book Art+Faith: A Theology of Making (Yale Press, with foreword by N.T. Wright, 2021) has been described by poet Christian Wiman as "a real tonic for our atomized time".

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Website: https://makotofujimura.com/
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Latest book: Art + Faith: A Theology of Making
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Weekly Training: What Is The Cost of Freedom?

Thu, 21 Jan 2021 11:00:00 -0400

It’s a simple question, but with a pretty uncomfortable answer for some of us. In this mini-ep, I look at what we actually need to do—to admit—as individuals and as a society to experience true freedom.

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Francis Weller - The Death of the Hero and The Importance of Mythology

Mon, 18 Jan 2021 11:01:00 -0400

It’s difficult for me to describe how much I value Francis Weller and his work, and I wanted him on because of his expertise on grief, something that is—inevitably—a part of every human life. We dig into Western culture's obsession with "the Hero", where we truly find redemption and healing, and the inherent emptiness of individualism. Heavy stuff, and incredibly powerful.

This is also a part of a new series I’ve titled Living Through an Age of Crisis. Episodes in this series are dedicated to helping listeners navigate the confusion and chaos of our times. I’ll be bringing on experts in psychology, spirituality, history, propaganda, and culture to offer their insights on what the real situation is and how we can move through it.

Francis Weller, MFT, is a psychotherapist, writer, and soul activist. He is a master of synthesizing diverse streams of thought from psychology, anthropology, mythology, alchemy, indigenous cultures, and poetic traditions. Author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief; The Threshold Between Loss and Revelation, (with Rashani Réa) and In the Absence of the Ordinary: Essays in a Time of Uncertainty, he has introduced the healing work of ritual to thousands of people. He founded and directs WisdomBridge, an organization that offers educational programs that seek to integrate the wisdom from indigenous cultures with the insights and knowledge gathered from western poetic, psychological, and spiritual traditions.

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Website: https://www.francisweller.net/

Books: https://www.francisweller.net/books.html

Programs: https://www.francisweller.net/programs--workshops.html

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Are You Caught In Codependent Masculinity?

Thu, 14 Jan 2021 11:00:00 -0400

After a great DM on Instagram and a heavy convo with Mike Campbell on his podcast, Everyday Legends, I wanted to riff on this idea a little more deeply. Tens of millions of men have put their masculinity into a dangerously codependent relationship with certain external institutions and narratives. Many of them do this without even questioning what they lose: the means for self-validation, self-leadership, and—this is a big one—mental and spiritual freedom.

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Anonymous Guest Session - Body Image, Weight, and the Father

Mon, 11 Jan 2021 11:01:00 -0400

In this episode, a previous anon guest is joining me for a second time. Our previous session was powerful, and I wanted to have him on again to look at his long time struggles with body image, weight, and the relationship his father archetype has with all of it. This is a great opportunity to get a feel for what 1-on-1 shadow work is actually like, so I encourage you to listen in.

For our first session, check out the episode "Healing From Family Addiction" released November 2nd.

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Weekly Training: Practical Steps For Shadow Work

Thu, 07 Jan 2021 17:30:00 -0400

Today I take a look at some of the initial and critical steps of shadow work. You probably know by now I’m a huge proponent of shadow work. For most of us, working on our inner darkness and negative emotions might seem. completely upside-down. So much of modern self-help ideology focus on keeping you “in the light”: feeling good no matter what and never actually dealing with the stuff that hurts and sabotages you. But the more we avoid this side of ourselves and the pain it holds, the black and denser it becomes.

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Vienna Pharaon - How To Make Decisions As A Couple

Mon, 04 Jan 2021 11:01:00 -0400

Welcome to 2021! This is a deep, compelling episode—yeah, I may be biased, but I swear it’s true! My incredible wife Vienna and I break down how we navigated this past year as individuals and as a couple. We use what our past year to reflect on making effective decisions in relationship, clinging to expectations, surrender, vulnerability, and what building real trustworthiness looks like.

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Weekly Training: How To Recap Your Year

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 11:00:00 -0400

The last episode of the year, my friends. I recorded this while outside, so you’ll get some wind and nature sounds alongside. I take a look at the incredible poem “If” by Rudyard Kipling, facing your relationship to paradox, and some ideas on how to effectively recap and learn from this past (and intense) year. How did you meet the chaos that 2020 brought? Write it down, or better yet, let me know on Insta @mantalks. Happy New Year, everybody.

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A Short Holiday Message - 2020

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 11:00:00 -0400

This ep is a short and simple reminder from me to you: Stay in touch with the things that keep you grounded. Whether you’re new to ManTalks and the podcast or a veteran listener, thank you. Vienna and I wish you a safe, warm, brilliant holiday.

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LeAnn Rimes - Taking Off The Mask, Trusting Inner Guidance, and Picking Up Fragments

Mon, 21 Dec 2020 11:01:00 -0400

The incredible LeAnn Rimes opens up about her journey through anxiety and depression, recovering from codependency, breaking out of performance-based love, and accepting all the parts of yourself. This was a great interview, and I’m excited to share it with you.

LeAnn Rimes is an international multi-platinum selling acclaimed singer and ASCAP award-winning songwriter who has sold more than 44 million units globally, won 2 Grammy® Awards; 12 Billboard Music Awards; 2 World Music Awards; 3 Academy of Country Music Awards; one Country Music Association Award and one Dove Award. At 14, Rimes won “Best New Artist” making her the youngest recipient to take home a Grammy® Award. LeAnn has been honored with the Ally of Equality Award by the Human Rights Campaign for over 20 years of equal rights support, the 2019 HOPE Award for Depression Advocacy, and the 2009 ACM Humanitarian Award, among other recognitions, solidifying her dedication to making the world a better place.

The powerhouse vocalist lit up television screens throughout the 2018 holiday season as she starred and served as an Executive Producer in Hallmark’s It’s Christmas, Eve, which earned the highest TV original movie debut to-date for the channel, premiering to over 4.3 million viewers.

Passionate about using her voice to help heal the world, LeAnn released a chant record in November of 2020 called CHANT: The Human and The Holy (Soul of EverLe / Thirty Tigers). On November 30, Rimes will continue her wellness journey with the launch of an iHeartRadio podcast, Wholly Human, which will bring her lifestyle blog, Soul of EverLe, to life and introduce fans to the teachers and wise souls that have made a positive impact on her life. Next up, LeAnn will celebrate her 25th anniversary as a recording artist in 2021 with the release of her next studio album.

Connect with LeAnn:

-Wholly Human Podcast

-Soul of EverLe (Blog)

-Latest Album: CHANT: The Human and The Holy

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Q&A: How To Properly Process A Breakup, Pick Up Culture, and Allowing When We Want To Fight

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 11:01:00 -0400

I find a lot of joy in doing Q&As. It’s a pretty direct connection to someone, it helps me know what folks are curious about, and can help more than just the one person who asked. The last time I asked my followers to send in their questions, I got several hundred questions, so this week we’ll look at how to properly deal with a breakup, my take on pickup artists and that culture, and understanding the art of allowing.

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Adam Andros Aronovich - Meaning-Making, Psychedelics, and Masculinity

Mon, 14 Dec 2020 11:01:00 -0400

This was an incredible conversation. Adam and I spoke over Zoom, and covered a ton of ground, but focused mainly on three major topics: why psychedelics are making such big waves right now, the impact of things like psilocybin and ayahuasca on men and their sense of masculinity, and our growing societal need for new therapies and new modes of thinking.

Born in the urban jungles of Mexico City, raised mostly in Israel, and having lived in 7 different countries, Adam naturally embodies interculturalism. A psychologist, cognitive scientist, and medical anthropologist, he has also studied traditional systems of medicine in Mexico, India, and Peru, adopting a dialectical approach that integrates evidence-based science and traditional worldviews. He’s worked extensively in western psychiatric institutions and has spent time learning from a variety of indigenous and traditional healers around the world, trying to understand the diverse manifestations, conceptualizations of, and approaches to mental illness and mental health.

Balancing between research and practice, he is an active member of the “Medical Anthropology Research Center” (MARC), and the “Interdisciplinary Psychedelic Studies” (IPS) group, both in Catalunya, while sharing his extensive experience facilitating transformational processes in a variety of psychedelic support and harm-reduction projects around the world, such as the Kosmicare Project in Portugal or the Zendo Project in the United States.

Adam is an advocate for cognitive liberty, neurodiversity, and the integration of non-ordinary states of being into our culturally constructed definitions of normalcy and sanity, with a growing interest in the ecological and environmental dimensions of mental health and the importance of reciprocity, mutuality, and interdependence to our well-being.

Connect with Adam

-Presentation, Ayahuasca as Relational Medicine

-Blog

-Twitter

-Instagram

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Weekly Training: Are You Masturbating Too Much Or Too Little?

Thu, 10 Dec 2020 11:00:00 -0400

This week, a question I know a lot of men have asked themselves. But depending on where you’re at, what you’re facing in life, and where the urge is coming from, the right answer can be elusive. Listen in, and let me know your take.

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Rich Loesing - Movember and De-Stigmatizing Men’s Health

Mon, 07 Dec 2020 11:01:00 -0400

This week, I had the honor of sitting down with Rich Loesing, the corporate development manager for Movember. We cover the inner resistance men face when taking care of their physical and mental health, Rich’s personal journey, some of my own hurdles, and how Movember is challenging the norms.

Rich Loesing is a Corporate Development Manager at Movember, working with a variety of professional organizations that are dedicated to helping change the face of men’s health. Whether it’s Amazon, Google, Kroger, or the Chicago Mercantile Exchange, Rich assists all of Movember’s corporate supporters with personalized strategies to meet each organization’s specific needs, ranging from partnerships and branding to philanthropy and employee engagement.

Rich has been a passionate Mo Bro and top fundraiser since his first Movember campaign in 2009. He joined the staff at Mo HQ in 2017 because he wanted to dedicate his career to a cause that has always been near and dear to his heart. As a licensed attorney and former financial professional, Rich uses his analytical and problem-solving skills to find creative ways for our remarkable corporate supporters to help Movember stop men dying too young.

Connect with Rich + Movember:

-Movember main site: https://us.movember.com/

-Movember Conversations: https://conversations.movember.com/

-Spot the Signs: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/spot-the-signs

-Instagram: @Movember

-Twitter: @Movember (USA)

-Facebook: www.facebook.com/movemberusa

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Weekly Traning: Finding Masculine Purpose

Thu, 03 Dec 2020 14:00:00 -0400

I’m a big believer in balance, and I think the dance between yin and yang (or masculine/feminine, or whatever polarity names you like) provides a ton of insight. So, this week’s mini ep is all about giving your masculine energy purpose and direction. Masculine energy can help you structure your life, mind, and career, but—hard truth here—it’ll only get you so far by itself. Without external purpose, left to only serve itself, the masculine can slowly and unconsciously rationalize self-harm. Let me know your take; leave a rating or review!

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Dave M Mayer - The Impact of One-Dimensional Masculinity

Mon, 30 Nov 2020 11:01:00 -0400

This is a heavy and fascinating ep, my friends. Our workplace can be one of the single greatest factors in our mental health, so I wanted to sit down with one of America's leaders in business ethics and masculine psychology, Dave M Mayer. We dive deep into the research to discuss the ways "one-dimensional" masculinity impacts the work we do, the language we use, and the backlash men might get when they stray from it (for example, losing a promotion if they take paternity leave). How do we do better—not just for men and women, but for our culture? Listen in.

Dave Mayer is the John H. Mitchell Professor of Business Ethics at University of Michigan's Ross School of Business. An award-winning researcher and highly rated and sought after teacher and speaker, he is an expert on helping people and organizations lead ethically, inclusively, and positively. He is a regular contributor to the Harvard Business Review and Fast Company, and his research and ideas have been covered in Bloomberg, Forbes, Fortune, Newsweek, NPR, Psychology Today, Slate, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, and The Washington Post. In his research and teaching, Dave examines how to help men adapt to a healthier form of masculinity that benefits not only themselves, but all people in their lives.

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Website: https://davemmayer.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DaveMMayer

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Weekly Training: Gratitude In Times Of Crisis

Thu, 26 Nov 2020 11:00:00 -0400

This was inspired by a conversation I had with a client of mine. When you're living in a time of crisis, how in the world do you maintain gratitude? When the faith in our abilities as individuals, communities, even as a species is shaken, it's easy to gorge on the soup of fear and leave any idea of thankfulness behind.

The way out? We need to (myself included!) build a relationship with the fear within ourselves, because that will lead us to what we truly, deeply value. I hope you listen in.

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Dr. Nicole LePera - What It Means to Self-Heal

Mon, 23 Nov 2020 11:00:00 -0400

What if you could change your patterns—permanently? What if there’s more to you than just a body or just a mind? These are just two of the questions that ignited Dr. Nicole LePera’s (aka the hugely popular @the.holistic.psychologist) pursuit of a more holistic style of healing. It was an honor to sit down with her and share journeys of healing, how important it is to face your unhealthy patterns outside of the therapist’s office, how to bring healing and awareness into your online interactions, and so much more.

Connect with Dr. Nicole:

-Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/

-Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist

-Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH

-Preorder her book - “How To Do The Work”

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Thinking Out Loud: Why Is The Internet So Triggering?

Thu, 19 Nov 2020 15:44:21 -0400

The internet is an ocean. Just like our actual oceans, there’s incredible diversity and beauty. There’s also a solid and growing amount of garbage. Why is it like this, and why does online discourse often leave us exhausted and angry? This week, I propose this: What if the internet is an expression of humanity’s collective unconscious? Listen in for my perspective, and let me know what you think! Leave a rating or review.

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Dr. Alan K Davis - Psychedelics, Depression, and Healing the Mind

Mon, 16 Nov 2020 11:00:00 -0400

I’m excited for this one! On November 4th, JAMA Psychiatry published a study with an impressive claim: psilocybin was (get this) at least 4 times more effective on major depression than the usual antidepressants. Plant medicine is a big fascination for me, so it was so rewarding to speak with one of the authors that study, Dr. Alan K Davis. Alan is on the bleeding edge of both the research and the practical treatment at Johns Hopkins, and we talk about how the study was set up, the barriers involved, the effects on the patients, and some of the upcoming (and promising) studies in the pipeline.

Dr. Alan K Davis is an Assistant Professor of Social Work at The Ohio State University and Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Center for Psychedelic and Consciousness Research at Johns Hopkins University. Dr. Davis’s clinical experience includes working with people diagnosed with trauma-based psychological problems such as addiction, PTSD, depression, and anxiety. His clinical expertise includes providing evidenced-based treatments such as motivational interviewing, cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy. Consistent with his clinical interests, his research interests and expertise focus on contributing to the knowledge of and ability to help those suffering with substance use and mental health problems, understanding how to improve clinical outcomes through examining new treatments, and developing ways to conceptualize substance use and mental health problems through a strengths-based approach. He recently completed a clinical trial of psilocybin therapy for major depressive disorder and current trials include exploring this treatment for patients with co-occurring alcohol use disorder and depression and patients with anorexia. He actively explores topics related to naturalistic psychedelic use among several populations including people of color who have experienced racial trauma, Spanish-speaking people, and people who use novel psychedelics such as 5-MeO-DMT.

Connect with Alan:

-Ohio State University

-Johns Hopkins Center for Psychedelic and Consciousness Research

-Source Research Foundation (grants and support for students)

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Weekly Training: Unpacking The Female Narcissist

Thu, 12 Nov 2020 11:00:00 -0400

I get a large number of requests from men, women, and clients to discuss this topic. Surprisingly, a number of people have also asked, “Can a woman actually be a narcissist too?” So I dug into the research, consulted some therapist and coach friends of mine, and decided to tackle the topic gently but directly. The word “narcissist” gets used as a label way, way too often, and waters down the issues faced by people who have actually dealt with clinical narcissism. Let's unpack and get some insight.

If you (or someone you know) think you may have encountered abuse by a narcissist, there’s a great collection of resources and support you can find on Reddit here. Note, this is a support subreddit, not a replacement for therapy or counseling.

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The Magician Archetype - Exploring The Origins Of Wisdom (Re-release)

Mon, 09 Nov 2020 16:16:00 -0400

I recorded this ep last spring--part of a miniseries on Jungian archetypes and the fantastic book, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. Considering the need for healing and wisdom in the face of so much uncertainty and change, it felt like a good time to pull it out of the archives. This is a deep dive into the archetype known as The Magician. An integrated, healthy one heals, transforms, enlightens, and creates. But his shadow…well, listen in and see.

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Weekly Training: What Now? Staying Grounded in Ambiguity

Thu, 05 Nov 2020 11:00:00 -0400

I recorded this yesterday, after election day, and wanted to both weigh in on things and also zoom out a bit and take a look at one of the more pervasive aspects of 2020: ambiguity. At the end, I give some helpful tips and some hard-hitting prompts to help you navigate.

When there are so many possibilities and so many variables, the mist of ambiguity is obviously the result. When we combine that with (as the science has shown) our inherent negativity bias, our rational mind can feel completely uprooted and react in unhealthy ways. So how do you manage ambiguity? How do you move into an intuition-based form of decision-making? If anything resonates, let me know! Leave a rating or review, or hit me up @mantalks on Instagram.

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