Mastermind Parenting Podcast

Is Big Tech the New Big Tobacco?

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0500

If you’re a human with a phone in 2026, you know how addicting social media can be. Most of us struggle to keep from scrolling too much. I mean…all those doggy reels are just hilarious!

Now imagine how hard it is for vulnerable young brains to keep from getting hooked?

New lawsuits against the social media giants are confirming what so many of us parents have been saying for years. Big Tech companies have known how dangerous their “just keep scrolling” algorithms are for kids, but they’ve chosen lining their pockets over keeping our kids safe.

Of course “their kids” are protected. Did you know that many Silicon Valley giants don’t give their own kids phones until 16?

On the podcast this week, I’m talking to Free Press reporters, Maya Sulkin and Frannie Block, authors of the article Is Social Media The New Big Tobacco, about the harmful effects of social media and how brave families are stepping up to hold Big Tech accountable for targeting our kids.

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We’d love to talk with you if you want to dig deeper into your family’s specific situation. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start knowing what works, it might be worth a conversation. https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-338

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now in his 20’s, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Maya Sulkin and Frannie Block

Maya Sulkin is a reporter for The Free Press, covering breaking news, politics, education, Gen Z, and culture. Before that, she served as the company's Chief of Staff. Frannie Block is an investigative reporter at The Free Press, where she covers the forces shaping American life—from foreign influence in U.S. politics and national security to institutional overreach and due process failures. She began her career covering breaking news at The Des Moines Register.

Guest Links

Article Is Social Media The New Big Tobacco? https://www.thefp.com/p/is-social-media-the-new-big-tobacco
Maya Sulkin https://www.thefp.com/w/maya-sulkin
Frannie Block https://www.thefp.com/w/frannie-block

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Better Talking Leads to Better “Other Things” with Jeff Hittner

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0500

Pack leadership definitely involves reading the room and using your spidey senses when it comes to giving feedback. When your kid or frankly, anyone, acts out of line - how do you talk to them and let ‘em know what’s what?

Timing, tone and intention are key!

If you try to “teach lessons in the moment, it’s a lecture and the other person absorbs nothing. Plus, when things are heated, it’s really hard not to shame or act scary because after all, you have a nervous system too and it’s most likely activated.

Guess what? These skills are just as important (and maybe even harder to remember) in conversations between adults.

I’m happy to welcome back Jeff Hittner, leadership and fatherhood coach, and host of the Ambitious Dads podcast. This time we’re talking about how moms and dads talk about things after they go a little sideways.

It can be confusing for moms and dads to understand our roles and how to work together in leading the pack. We may feel beyond the traditional roles of yesteryear and yet, things do seem to run more smoothly if we define who does what.

Jeff and I break down how invisible blind spots cause friction between parents/partners, and how we can have more productive conversations with each other.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-337

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Jeff Hittner

Jeff Hittner is an executive coach, leadership expert, entrepreneur and father to two amazing boys that are the light of his life. This was only possible because Jeff learned how to disassemble a lifelong definition of what fatherhood was, in order to reimagine the possibilities. Jeff believes that all of us have the capacity to transform, even around our longest-held beliefs.

Jeff’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://www.ambitiousdads.com/
Podcast: https://ambitiousdads.transistor.fm/
Substack: https://ambitiousdads.substack.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmbitiousDads
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ambitiousdads/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Getting Real About Kids and Screens (with Ash Brandin)

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500

Parents have questions about phones, tablets, video games…essentially all the screen time things.

You might ask yourself: What age is too young to give them their own device? How do I get them to turn it off without fighting? How much time is too much?

Am I a bad mom if I not only allow, but sometimes even encourage, rotting on a screen when I just need some time to get shit done or be “on break”?

It’s so tempting to think about screens as a black or white issue. They’re either evil brain rot, or essential for human development in this digital age of AI and robots taking all our jobs?!? But neither extreme sounds quite right, does it?

That’s why I’m so happy to bring you this convo with Ash Brandin. Ash is the bestselling author of Power On. This book is such a helpful resource for this neverending battle with screens.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-336

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Ash Brandin

Ash Brandin, EdS, known online as TheGamerEducator, empowers families to make screen time sustainable, manageable, and beneficial for the whole family. Now in their 15th year of teaching middle school, they help caregivers navigate the world of tech with consistent, loving boundaries, founded on respect for children, appreciation of video games and tech, and knowledge of pedagogical techniques. Ash has appeared on podcasts including Re:Thinking with Adam Grant, Good Inside with Dr. Becky, and Culture Study with Anne Helen Petersen, and has contributed to articles featured on Romper, Scary Mommy, Lifehacker, The Daily Beast, USA Today, and NPR. Their bestselling book, Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family, debuted in August, 2025. In their free time, Ash loves to hike, bake, play video games, and spend time with their family.

Ash’s Web and Social Links

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

When Your Kid Is Heading Down A Dark Path (with Lisa Katona Smith)

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500

Finding out your child is heading down the path of drugs or alcohol are some of the darkest days imaginable. What do you do when the person you love the most is self-destructing?

My guest this time is Lisa Katona Smith. She’s a teacher, author, and mom who knows all about the fear of seeing a child in the grip of addiction. Fortunately for all of us, when she found the usual advice failing her, Lisa decided to find a better way.

Her book Parallel Recovery is a raw, honest, empowering read. It combines Lisa’s perspective as an educator with her up-close experience as a mom. If you’ve ever worried about how you’d show up for your kid in that situation, this is the convo for you.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-335

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Lisa Katona Smith

Lisa Katona Smith, M.Ed., is a TEDx speaker, educator, and author of Parallel Recovery—a family-centered model that empowers loved ones to heal alongside someone facing mental health and substance use challenges. Known for her clarity, compassion, and systems-level insight, Lisa helps families and professionals build sustainable, connection-based recovery through consulting, training, and transformative conversations.

Lisa’s Web and Social Links

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parallel_recovery/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-katona-smith-985b48212/
TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@parallel_recovery
Website: lisakatonasmith.com

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

How a Dedicated Dad Helped His Son Transcend A Diagnosis (with Leland Vittert)

Sun, 21 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500

We’ve come a long way in understanding how neurodivergence expresses itself in kids, compared to when I became a new mom. But even now, an Autism diagnosis can feel like some of the most dreaded words imaginable to a parent.

Can you fathom what it was like for parents in the 1980s?

Leland Vittert can. And even though his parents chose not to share his diagnosis with him until his early 20’s, he now knows the whole story of what they went through for him.

Leland is a successful journalist with his own nightly news show. But when he was a kid, Leland struggled to relate to his classmates. He was bullied by other kids, and at times, by teachers as well. After Leland was diagnosed with Autism, (now considered level 1, formerly known as Aspergers), his father made it his mission to help Leland learn the skills he’d need to function in a world that would not understand or mold to his differences.

Leland tells the whole inspiring story in his new book Born Lucky: A Dedicated Father, A Grateful Son, and My Journey with Autism. He’s here to share his gratitude to his dad, and offer hope to parents who are anxious about how to best support their neurodivergent kids.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-334

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Leland Vittert

Leland Vittert is the host of On Balance with Leland Vittert and serves as NewsNation’s Chief Washington Anchor. A veteran journalist, Vittert joined NewsNation in May 2021, where he has been pivotal in covering national affairs and delivering special reports across the network’s primetime weeknight newscasts. Before joining NewsNation, Vittert worked for Fox News from 2010 to 2021, starting as a foreign correspondent based in Jerusalem and later anchor and correspondent in Washington.

Leland’s Web and Social Links

Born Lucky: A Dedicated Father, A Grateful Son, and My Journey with Autism: https://www.harpercollinsfocus.com/9781400254750/born-lucky/
On Balance with Leland Vittert: https://www.newsnationnow.com/on-balance-with-leland-vittert/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lelandvittert/
X: https://x.com/LelandVittert

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Thanksgiving and Having an Attitude of Gratitude

Thu, 27 Nov 2025 04:30:00 -0500

In this episode I discuss what gratitude really means to me as a mom and a person. I believe the ultimate gratitude practice is believing your strong willed child happened “for” rather than “to” you and I walk you through an exercise about how to do that.

Topics:

Hedonic Adaptation
Gratitude is a practice that can be cultivated and directly links to happiness
Gratitude affects many areas of your life in positive ways - personality, health, emotional, social and career
Strong willed kids happen “for” not “to” you
“Future You” exercise to get you into a gratitude practice

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-333

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Being a Better Dad is Sexy! (with Jeff Hittner)

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Let’s be real. Lots of dads aren’t ready (or willing) to take on their share of responsibility in their families. And for the dads who do want to step up, where are the role models of dads doing their part and showing up as strong and loving pack leaders?

Enter Jeff Hittner, leadership and fatherhood coach, and host of the Ambitious Dads podcast.

Jeff spent years teaching executives how to lead and inspire teams in the workplace. But when it came to his lifelong dream of fatherhood, he was shocked to realize how hard it was to not repeat unhelpful patterns of the past.

Now, Jeff is using his skills as a coach to help educate dads who want to lead in their families, and pass on a new definition of fatherhood to their kids.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-332

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Jeff Hittner

Jeff’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://www.ambitiousdads.com/
Podcast: https://ambitiousdads.transistor.fm/
Substack: https://ambitiousdads.substack.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmbitiousDads
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ambitiousdads/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Why Sex Might Feel Like a Chore (with Dr. Rebecca Eudy)

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500

It’s no secret that kids can put a real damper on your sex life. Kids just have so many needs - the feeding, bathing, playdate coordinating…and let’s not forget all the freaking paperwork.

Those school forms nearly about killed me with three kids.

It seems like a small miracle if there is still desire for your partner after a long thankless day involving all that.

My guest, Dr. Rebecca Eudy, has spent over a decade helping couples navigate the complex realities of intimacy during the parenting years. Now, she’s written a book to share her insights and help with this tough topic affecting so many of us.

If sex secretly feels like another chore in your life, you won’t want to miss this convo!

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-331

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Dr. Rebecca Eudy

Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, LMHC, is an AASECT-certified sex and couples therapist and author of Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids (2025). She blends cutting-edge research with 15 years of clinical experience to help couples navigate sex, desire, and connection in the whirlwind of parenting, even when life (and kids) make it feel impossible.

Dr. Eudy’s Web and Social Links

Book link: https://a.co/d/8RcMcYJ
Website: rebeccaeudy.com
Instagram: @rebeccahowardeudy
Substack: @parentsinlove

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Why Play And Joy Can Feel So Hard For Adults (a convo with Dr. Shawn Hondorp)

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Don’t you just love how little kids play so completely? They experience fun and joy without any self-consciousness or worrying about what others might think.

But for many of us, this concept can feel elusive and far away as adults.

If you grew up in a house where you walked on eggshells, you may not be conditioned for joy and play. I know this has been perplexing for me to think about in my own life.

It’s even been a source of shame. I often struggle with the thought, ”What kind of person doesn’t know how to play or identify joy!?”

A person that got through childhood in a mostly survival state, that’s who.

I’m diving into this with psychologist and podcaster, Dr. Shawn Hondorp. Shawn has been taking dance lessons recently. She’s a mom with a full plate who often juggles the demands of work and raising kids.

And yet she makes time several times a week for her play and joy through reconnecting with her love for dance.

Her experience around a recent recital showed how hard it can be to purposefully work toward reclaiming joy. I was so lucky to be a fly on the wall of her experience (which involved terrible neck pain leading up to the performance).

And now you get to hear us unpack what Shawn has learned, and what she’s gained, through this process.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-330

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Dr. Shawn Hondorp

Dr. Shawn Hondorp is a clinical psychologist whose goal is to create safe learning environments for those who want to explore innovative approaches to healing, one authentic conversation at a time. Learn more about her work, and subscribe to The Innovative Therapist Podcast, at https://drshawnhondorp.com/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Want Confident Kids? Growing Resilient Kids with Dr. Kate Lund

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Disappointment. Rejection. Failing to meet their goals. It’s so tough to watch our kids struggle when they’re feeling the discomfort of disappointment.

I often call myself “a fixer in recovery that QUITE often relapses”. I have a joy agenda for the people I love.

Sometimes my own discomfort over their discomfort leads to a relapse. I jump into full on fixer mode and forget that the growth mostly happens because of the messy human moments.

Pain and uncertainty are as much a part of the human experience as success and happiness. It’s called the Law of Polarity. Life involves both the good and the bad.

What if the real goal of parenting is to help our kiddos build resilience, so they can handle the hard things without losing hope?

My guest this time thinks so, and I think she’s onto something huge. Dr. Kate Lund is an expert on how to build resilience in ourselves and our kids. Her experience of growing up in a supportive family helped her deal with a painful chronic illness. Now, she teaches parents how to model resilience and prepare kids to navigate the world with confidence.

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Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-329

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Dr. Lund

Dr. Kate Lund is a licensed clinical psychologist, resilience expert, author, and host of The Optimized Mind podcast. With specialized training from three Harvard Medical School–affiliated hospitals and more than two decades of clinical practice, she helps parents, athletes, students, and entrepreneurs thrive within their own unique contexts. Dr. Lund is the author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life, and Step Away: The Keys to Resilient Parenting. Through her writing, speaking, and clinical work, she empowers people to build resilience, manage stress, and unlock their potential.

Dr. Lund’s Web and Social Links

Website: http://www.katelundspeaks.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_kate_lund/

Step Away e-book: https://www.amazon.com/Step-Away-Keys-Resilient-Parenting-ebook/dp/B0FN8D4KBT

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Do Your Kids Feel Safe Enough to Build Secure Attachments? (with Kirby Fling)

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Every time I learn more about Attachment Theory, it feels so eye-opening. It explains so much about me and my Mastermind moms. I hear it when we talk about how we were raised, how we relate to our parents, and how we’ve tried to fill the spaces we feel in our hearts.

Building a secure attachment style is so important for who our kids will become in the future. But many of us are out here trying to figure out our own - let’s say “less than ideal”- attachment issues. How can we do even better for them?

My fave sage of attachment and healing, Kirby, is back to help us break it down and build it up. He says the key to security is an environment where kids feel safe to feel and express themselves, and he’s going to help us figure out how to create that space for our kids. You don’t want to miss this one!

Something clicked while listening?

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-328

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Kirby Fling

Kirby is the creator of the Two Mind Method, a practical, heart-centered approach to healing attachment wounds and reshaping nervous system patterns. Drawing on years of deep personal research, lived experience, and work with clients, Kirby specializes in helping people build healthier relationships with themselves and others. His work is grounded, accessible, and refreshingly real, offering tools that truly work in the messiness of real life. Kirby brings a unique blend of neurophysiology, trauma awareness, and emotional attunement to the table, empowering people to transform their inner world and their closest connections.

Kirby’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://TwoMindMethod.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TwoMindMethod

Instagram: https://instagram.com/TwoMindMethod

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@twomindmethod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoMindMethod

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What If Your Mom Just Isn’t “Your Person” Anymore?

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0500

I’ve got a bite-sized treat of an episode for you this week. I was recently coaching a Mastermind mama who’s struggling with the changing relationship with her own mother.

As she changes, her relationship with her mom is changing too.

And change is hard and can even feel scary. Especially when it feels like the people closest aren’t necessarily thrilled about the changes we are making in our lives.

As I listened to her story, I knew exactly what she was going through. And I also felt like it would be relevant to you, no matter where you are in your parenting journey.

Something clicked while listening?

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-327

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Hidden Mind Calling The Shots (with Kirby Fling)

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0500

You think you’re parenting with one mind.

You’re not.

There’s the mind that reads the books and makes the plans. And there’s the other mind—the one running the show when your kid does that thing that makes your jaw clench and chest tighten.

Kirby Fling sees this clearly. His Two-Mind Method helps you understand the two versions of yourself that show up every day. The one that wants to be patient. And the one that actually is patient.

The difference? That’s where attachment gets stronger. Where families find their rhythm. Where the hard moments become growth moments.

Something clicked while listening?

We’d love to talk with you if you want to dig deeper into your family’s specific situation. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start knowing what works, it might be worth a conversation.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-326

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Kirby Fling

Kirby’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://TwoMindMethod.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TwoMindMethod

Instagram: https://instagram.com/TwoMindMethod

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@twomindmethod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoMindMethod

Resources Discussed/Links

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748

Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair

by Daniel P. Brown PhD and David S. Elliott PhD https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Disturbances-Adults-Treatment-Comprehensive/dp/0393711528/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt, with Randi and Avery… a must listen for every parent!

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0500

I’ve been saying for a long, long time that raising kids in the digital age is like the Wild Wild West! We are all just trying to make the best decisions for our kids with the info we currently have at any given time.

And it’s really hard to know what the right decision is when you’re a pioneer parent (as all of us are here - raising kids at a time in human history where tech is causing us to move at a more rapid pace than ever before).

In his book “The Anxious Generation,” Jonathan Haidt pulls back the curtain on how online content streams and everywhere screens have changed the experience of growing up in a tech-addicted world.

Adolescence has always been a tough time for kids AND parents. They’re struggling with changing bodies, raging hormones, and the pressure to prepare for adulthood; we’re trying to find the balance between keeping them safe and letting them learn from their mistakes. But modern teens and tweens are surrounded by algorithmically curated content that’s targeted at their fears of inadequacy.

My daughter, Avery, and I lived through the explosion of social media targeted at teens. This time on the pod, we break down “The Anxious Generation,” and how Avery is one of the unfortunates described in the book - a card carrying member of The Anxious Generation. Sigh.

As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-325

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, by Jonathan Haidt https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Where Gentle Parenting has Lost the Plot (a convo with Avital Schreiber Levy)

Tue, 27 May 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Gentle Parenting has become a sort of parenting movement over the last decade or so.

I’ve been here for more than a hot minute and it’s interesting what I’ve noticed. You see, before Gentle there was Conscious Parenting and before that there was Love and Logic and and and.

I think the original founders of these methods were probably drinking the same koolaid I like…we secretly want to raise our kids even better than our parents did. We want our kids to feel loved and enjoyed. We don’t want them to act like selfish creepos. We want them to become besties with their siblings and to have their backs.

Of course, much fancier more formal lingo is typically used in the “parenting space”. And I think that’s a big part of the problem. Somewhere with all of these lofty movements, parents have become performative.

Gentle Parenting has been twisted. The parents that come to work with me lately are more permissive than I’ve ever seen and more unpack-leader-y too. They have lost their voice, their power and their family life seems tense and frankly, miserable.

I believe it’s often a case of gentle parenting gone wrong.

My guest this week is Avital Schreiber Levy. She’s a mom, author, parenting coach, and designer who knows how to navigate the traps that well-meaning moms and dads end up falling into.

Avital pulls no punches as we dig into the good, the bad, and the ugly of current Gentle Parenting trends, and why feelings are important, but they can’t be the only thing guiding your child’s behavior. But it’s not all trash talk. She’s got real, practical alternatives and strategies you can use to give your family the Pack Leadership it deserves, with confidence, and without yelling or excessive guilt.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-324

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Avital Schreiber Levy

Avital Schreiber Levy is the founder of Hi Fam and the author of Reclaim Play. She helps intentional mothers break free from modern parenting traps and build strong, values-driven families that feel peaceful, connected, and confident. Avital has helped over 100,000 parents in 100+ countries through her courses, YouTube channel, and live events. She’s a mother of five, and known for blending timeless wisdom with real-world tools that actually work.

Avital’s Web and Social Links

Website: www.hifam.com

YouTube: @HiFamLife

Instagram: @HiFamLife

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Coddling Of the American Mind, by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt https://www.thecoddling.com/

The Karpman Drama Triangle: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle

Waking The Tiger by Dr. Peter Levine: https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X

You Want Your Kids To Be Seen As “Good Kids”… So What?

Tue, 20 May 2025 06:00:00 -0500

We want to raise “good kids.” Kids who are kind. Kids who share. Kids who can handle themselves in a respectable manner when they go over to a friend’s house for dinner.

We don’t want our kids to be high maintenance or frankly, bratty.

We want to raise kids who can get along in the world, but we also want to raise kids whose behavior shows the world that we did a good job as parents.

You know what? That’s okay!

Listen in as Avery and I break down this question that has been popping up for tons of moms in my orbit. We talk about WHY it’s a good thing to teach your kids how to behave, and HOW you can encourage them in that direction (without turning them into a doormat). If you’ve been worried about raising picky, bossy, me-first kids, this is the episode for you!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-323

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Time’s Up Silicon Valley! We, The Parents, Are Taking Back The Power Of Protecting Our Kids Online (With Titania Jordan Of Bark Technologies)

Tue, 13 May 2025 06:00:00 -0500

A common anxiety I often uncover with my moms is: Now that I know what I know about the dangers of tech… it just feels too late to change things with my kids.

Maybe you read the NYT best seller, Anxious Generation, and… let’s just say, you’re feeling VERY. FLIPPIN’. ANXIOUS.

You’re beginning to understand why your kids act like raccoons on meth when it comes to screens - (ipad, phone, tv, video games).
You might feel like it’s a lost cause and ask: Is it even possible to undo this obsession with all things screens?

It can really feel like a no-win situation when the kids have been hooked on the iPad since preschool. “But the games were supposed to be educational!” Sigh.

We didn’t know what we didn’t know…yet. None of us did. Or at least most of us didn’t. Plus, let’s be honest - we were tired and stressed and those digital babysitters came in handy. Personally, I often relied on them for my sanity.

So what’s the solution? This is my main criticism of books like The Anxious Generation. Doctors, scientists and books are good at diagnosing the problem - but it leaves us parents with the problem of: Now what?!

The great news is you don’t have to do it all by yourself. This week I’m talking to Titania Jordan, CMO of Bark Technologies and author of Parental Control: A Guide to Raising Balanced Kids in the Digital Age. We break down the “now what” strategies and resources to roll this toxic pattern back.

Time’s up Silicon Valley: We, the parents, are taking back the power of our kids’ developing brains.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-322

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 27, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mastermindparenting

About Titania Jordan:

Titania Jordan is the CMO and Chief Parent Officer of Bark Technologies, an internet safety solution that helps parents and schools keep 7.4 million children safer across social media, smartphones, text messaging, and email. She’s also the author of Parental Control: A Guide to Raising Balanced Kids in the Digital Age.

Titania’s Social Links

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/titaniajordan/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/titaniajordan/
X: https://x.com/titaniajordan
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TitaniaJordan
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@titaniajordan

Resources Discussed/Links

Get Titania’s Book: https://www.wiley.com/en-us/Parental+Control%3A+A+Guide+to+Raising+Balanced+Kids+in+the+Digital+Era-p-9781394256563

Bark Technologies: https://www.bark.us/

Mastermind Parenting Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Our Review of the Netflix Show Adolescence: Teens, Screens, and Toxic Masculinity

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Spoiler alert! Ya’ll probably know that I LOVE a good TV show. A comfy blanket and a cozy watch is a reliable happy place for me. So when my family recommended the Netflix thriller, “Adolescence,” I have to say I was a little resistant. But eventually they convinced me, and I am SO GLAD they did!

“Adolescence” is a short 4-episode drama series about a teenage boy accused of murdering a girl in his class. But unlike most murder mysteries, this show really digs down into how a seemingly normal kid could become capable of committing such an awful crime.

Critics and audiences are giving it rave reviews, and Avery and I want to tell you why. We talk about Avery’s experience growing up in the digital age, and how you can talk to your own kids about what awaits them online.

MAJOR SPOILERS in this one gang, so watch the show first, then enjoy our discussion. You’ll be glad you did!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-321

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

“Adolescence” on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81756069

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Do You Have To Play With Your Kids To Be A “Good Mom”? (with Dr. Shawn Hondorp)

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Raising a strong-willed kid is harder. Even draining sometimes.

Sitting on the floor and playing with toys felt like the worst to me. I now realize that I found other playful ways to be with my kids… but I still sometimes feel a little guilty about not being a Barbie or Legos kind of mom.

So when Dr. Shawn Hondorp invited me on her podcast, The Innovative Therapist, to talk about play and pack leadership, I have to admit, I may have baby barfed a little. But I love Shawn, and I had so much fun working out a definition of Pack Leadership with her recently, that I knew I could trust we’d have a great conversation. And I was SO right.

It turns out that a playful attitude counts as playing with your kids. Woohoo. It is also a part of my personal recipe for Pack Leadership.

It’s a great way of thinking about leadership in any context, and I think you’ll love this conversation as much as I did. I just love Shawn. Enjoy!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-320

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Dr. Shawn Hondorp

Resources Discussed/Links

Part 1 of our discussion, What Even Is Pack Leadership? https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-318

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Biggest Mistake We Make Around Homework (And what to do instead!)

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0500

You want to help your kids succeed in school - that’s a given.

School success is a big area of anxiety and worry I often see with parents I coach. Many well-intentioned parents get more and more involved in their kids’ homework - but more involvement often leads to more long term struggles.

Becoming the homework helpline might help get your kids’ grades up temporarily. But it also teaches them to rely on you instead of learning how to figure things out for themselves.

There’s no opportunity for your kid to develop agency.

Without your constant concierge-level concern, the kid finds themselves flailing and potentially feeling like a failure. Obviously, this is the polar opposite of how you want them to feel.

Avery is back and joining me this week to share her experiences with my less-than-obsessed attitude toward homework, and how it helped and possibly hindered her too!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-319

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What Even Is Pack Leadership? (with Dr. Shawn Hondorp)

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0500

You’ve probably heard me talk about pack leadership, and how I believe it’s the holy grail in creating a more peaceful family.

Humans learn through stories, and I have SO MANY stories about empowered parents, stronger family connections, and sensitive kiddos who finally feel understood.

But sometimes you have to go back to basics, like I did this week with therapist, podcaster, and long-time Masterminder, Dr. Shawn Hondorp. On a recent episode of her show, The Innovative Therapist, she asked a simple question. What is pack leadership? The answer was a discussion about feminism, society, parenting styles, and the expectations we place on ourselves to be super great at raising kids.

Whether you’re just starting to ask how you can step up for your family, or you’re a confident pack leader yourself, you’ll get something helpful out of our exploration. Enjoy!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-318

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Dr. Shawn Hondorp

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

How and (How Not To) Apologize… Better

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Apologizing can feel hard. Maybe even harder than we care to admit to ourselves.

It’s vulnerable to look at a situation where you may have hurt someone you love…especially when that someone is your own kid.

Owning your mistake in a heartfelt way can potentially repair a fractured relationship.

Which is why Avery and I had to talk about a very public apology we listened in on, from a recent episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast. Mel and her daughter Sawyer talked about their new book The Let Them Theory, and had a candid discussion about Mel’s presence in Sawyer’s life when she was growing up.

Avery and I both thought their reckoning left out some important steps. We thought walking through it would be a great way to help you learn what makes a genuine, empathetic apology, and how learning to apologize better can deepen the trust in your family.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-317

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Invisible Trauma of Why You Might be a Lone Wolf with Ruth Cohn

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0500

It might feel like terrible news that building our pack leadership involves going back into our own childhoods. It can feel scary to go back to the “belly of the beast”… after all, you survived your childhood.

Who on this God’s green earth would actually choose to look back when you’re so focused on changing cycles and moving forward?

When the patterns we’re trying to break involve the often invisible trauma of emotional neglect, they can be extra tough to identify. Grownups raised by neglectful parents can feel like their experiences weren’t “bad” enough to count, or that they should just feel lucky because other kids had it way worse.

My guest this week is Ruth Cohn, an amazing therapist and author who writes about what she calls “the invisible trauma” of neglect. Why it can be hard to realize that neglect IS traumatic, how it affects the way we live, and how much we tend to blame ourselves for things that aren’t in our control. If you’re a parent who’s trying to do better than the way you were raised, you have to hear her wisdom!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-316

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Ruth Cohn:

Ruth Cohn, MFT, is a psychotherapist living and practicing in the San Francisco Bay area. She has been specializing in work with survivors of trauma and neglect, their intimate partners, and families since 1988. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, certified in Neurofeedback, EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Imago Relationship Therapy. Ruth is also the author of numerous articles on sexuality, trauma, and neglect, and three books: Working With the Developmental Trauma of Childhood Neglect: Using Psychotherapy and Attachment Theory Techniques in Clinical Practice, Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples With Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect, and Out of My Mind: Late Night Contemplations About Trauma and Neglect.

Ruth Cohn’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://ruthcohnmft.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RuthCohnMFT/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruthcohnmft/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruth-cohn-1331b9b/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Apology, by V (formerly Eve Ensler) https://www.eveensler.org/pf/book-the-apology/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Similarities Between Strong-Willed Kids and Strong-Willed Horses!

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Did you know that the parenting tools you learn on this podcast also work with other strong-willed creatures? I’m chatting with Avery “favorite daughter” Rubenstein this time about pack leadership and what she has learned from “Ben, the strong-willed horse”.

I think it’s incredibly helpful to practice the tools you are learning here by applying them to other areas of your life…your work, your adult relationships and even your relationships with animals.

You see, pack leadership is about becoming and remembering the person you were meant to be…the kind of person who shows up again and again with curiosity and badassery.

I think you’re going to love our banter on this episode as well as Avery’s insights about using MMP tools with animals and understanding her equine therapy clients…many of which are on the Autism spectrum.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-315

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Modern Classroom with Rob Barnett (sounds dreamy:)

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Y’all probably know I’m not the biggest fan of the way learning happens in most classrooms…and oh, there are so many reasons.

I have believed for a long time that traditional education is outdated and needs a ginormous revamp. However, I wasn’t willing to homeschool my own kids.

I liked the break and having my days as my own. So year after year, I made a “self-ish” decision when it came to my own kids’ education. I always felt a tinge of guilt and don’t really think they received the best.

So I was super excited to talk to Rob Barnett. He’s a former teacher and co-founder of the Modern Classrooms Project. They’re a non-profit that envisions a world where technology can help kids learn at their own pace, by making space for teachers to give every kid the time and attention they need.

Rob’s new book, Meet Every Learner’s Needs, builds on his experience in the classroom and as an education advocate. It’s a blueprint for changing the way kids learn, and making teaching more rewarding. I just know you’ll hear something that you’ll want for your kids in their classrooms!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-314

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Robert Barnett:

Robert Barnett co-founded the Modern Classrooms Project, which has empowered 80,000+ educators in 180+ countries to meet every learner’s needs. Before that he taught math, computer science, English, social studies, and law, from the middle-school to university levels, at public and private schools in the U.S. and Switzerland. He graduated cum laude from Princeton University and Harvard Law School; speaks English, French, and Spanish; and lives in Washington, DC. He hopes his two young children will learn in Modern Classrooms someday!

Robert Barnett’s Web and Social Links

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-s-barnett/

Book website for Meet Every Learner's Needs.

Enter to win a free copy of the book!

More about the Modern Classrooms Project.

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Is It Ever Too Late To Change Destructive Patterns?

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Is it even possible to continue building your relationship after your birdies leave the nest?

Come be a fly on the wall for one of my catch-up calls with my daughter, Avery. We share a hilarious Modern Fam video and recap our winter break family vacation, including an old pattern that made Avery upset and embarrassed. I think you’re going to love our honest conversation about the “un-pretty” parts of our dynamic.

Avery also teaches us a critical part of Pack Leadership and the term, weaponized incompetence.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-313

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Parents Learn Through Stories, Too!

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500

How exciting is it when you have a conversation that sparks a ton of ideas you want to share?

That’s how my daughter Avery and I felt after our chat with Michael DiMartino. Talking about how kids learn through stories got us thinking about how much stories have taught us, both as kids (mostly in her case) and in adulthood (mostly in mine).

Our follow-up conversation takes the focus from the epic right down to the personal. Avery and I talk about some of the favorite books, movies, and TV shows we love, and how the stories they tell have helped us connect with each other.

This one is extra good if you’re a parent who’s struggling to see the world from the perspective of your kiddo. No matter what their age, there’s a story out there that can help you remember, and give you a glimpse of what they’re going through now.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-312

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Kids Learn Through Stories, With Michael Dimartino, Co-Creator Of Avatar: The Last Airbender

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500

Humans have always learned through stories. It can be easy to forget this fun fact when there are toys and backbacks and shoes covering the floor. AND we still want them to learn morals and values and life lessons.

This is where brilliant storytellers like Mike come in.

Michael DiMartino’s stories have had a huge impact on my kids, and children around the world. Mike is the co-creator of Avatar: The Last Airbender, and the author of comic books, novels, and podcasts. He tells stories that are epic and personal, and don’t shy away from tough subjects that real kids experience.

My daughter Avery is a huge fan of Mike’s work, and she joined me behind the mic to talk to Mike about creating Avatar, writing his new teen/tween novel Both Here And Gone, and how he approaches writing for a young audience. It was a great convo, and I’m so excited for you to hear it!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-311

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michael DiMartino

Michael is the creative genius behind some of the most beloved Nickelodeon animated series of our time: Avatar: The Last Airbender and The Legend of Korra.

From his early days as a storyboard artist, and director on iconic shows like King of the Hill and Family Guy, to his current renown as the co-creator of the Avatar universe, Michael has been a driving force in the world of fantasy and animation for years.

With his latest book Both Here And Gone, Michael is pushing the boundaries of his storytelling further. The coming-of-age YA novel dives into profound themes of loss, grief, mental health, philosophy, and teenage emotions through the gripping story of a 14-year-old.

The self-published book diverges from the signature fantasy concepts Michael is widely known for and is a shining example of his unique position as a storyteller balancing big studio projects and personal artistic goals.

Website: https://www.michaeldantedimartino.com/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessmen

Masterminding The Holidays

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Oh the pressure of December…SMMS

So. Much. Mom. Stuff.

My gift to you this season is two time-tested treats that will help you plan a holiday that’s memorable. (The good kind of memorable of course:)

First reminder involves: How to deal with and even shut it down, when judgey relatives are questioning your parenting choices.

Next, I’ll remind you of some of my favorite tips for pack leading your 2024 holiday, (with a little help from the Gilmore Girls:). You’ll be prepared to make magical memories with your family, and jump head-first into 2025!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-310

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

My Take On The Art of Parenting

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Recently, I was a guest on “The Art of Parenting” podcast. The host, Jeanne-Marie, asked some great questions and you might even be surprised by some of my answers.

We discussed what it means to have a strong-willed child and why I like to use that phrase.
She asked me about my approach to helping these sw kids.
And of course, we talked about one of my favorite topics to spotlight: Performative Parenting.

We ended with the advice I would give my younger self, and everyone who’s just starting out as a parent. It was a treat to be on the other side of the mic, and I can’t wait for you to hear our convo.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-309

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Art of Parenting Podcast https://voilamontessori.com/the-art-of-parenting-podcast/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

A Mastermind Parenting Masterclass (with Avery Rubenstein)

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500

My daughter, Avery, is first-gen Mastermind Parenting, (once removed:) .

The “once removed” was her description - “the MMP recipe was still being perfected:)”.

She’s grown and flown now, but it’s been fascinating to watch her put Mastermind principles into practice. These days she probably teaches me more than vice versa.

Avery is on the pod this week to share some wisdom that I think you’re gonna eat right up.

She shares a few real life stories - what the “how” looks like - how to talk to kids when they are about to flip out. It’s an empathy masterclass.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-308

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, by Pete A. Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Helping Kids Through A Messy Divorce

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Divorce is a reality for lots of families, and it’s a gigantic emotional challenge. As you’re struggling to realign your life, you’re also managing a lot of big feelings. You want to make things as easy as possible for your kiddos, but how can you do that when things get messy?

How do you help your kids understand what’s happening? How do you support them as they process the fear, sadness, and uncertainty they’re sure to feel?

My guest this time understands these questions, and she’s here to educate us. Rachel King is an experienced family law attorney, legal commentator, and author of an upcoming book called “Getting Divorced: Now What?”

Rachel has seen the messiest divorces up close. She know what the law says, and she understands the heartbreak and anxiety families go through. But she also know that there’s a way through it, and how to help yourself and your kids come out the other side of it.

If you’re worried about supporting your kids as you navigate a divorce, this is the episode for you.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-307

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Rachel King:

Attorney Rachel King is a powerhouse in the world of family law. With over a decade of experience, she has become a force to be reckoned with in the courtroom, guiding countless families through some of the most complex and emotionally charged divorce and parenting disputes. Rachel’s unmatched determination to resolve conflicts has made her a standout in the family law arena, where she believes that the quicker a family can move forward, the sooner they can find peace.

But Rachel’s influence doesn’t stop there. She’s also the owner of Budget Legal Services, a company dedicated to making family law document preparation more accessible. And this October, she’s releasing a new book designed to help those facing divorce navigate the turbulent waters with confidence and a clear path forward.

Resources Discussed/Links

Rachel King’s website is https://rachelkingattorney.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Conscious Bedtime Stories (with Andrew Newman)

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Humans learn through story. It’s been this way for thousands of years.

For realz:).

And when you’re raising strong-willed kids, no script or tip has ever had the same impact as saying “Hey, remember in that story when...”

I think we need to take a step back from memorizing the words of the latest social media parenting professional and get back to simpler times.

Dare I say, indigenous times.

This week I have the gifted and delightful Andrew Newman, author of the Conscious Bedtime series, on the pod. Andrew writes the kind of stories I wish I had had as a kid.

Andrew helps kids and parents bond more deeply at bedtime. His conscious stories help kids learn how to regulate their emotions, by using relatable stories and beautiful illustrations that your kids will remember.

On this episode, Andrew shares one of his amazing conscious bedtime stories, and we workshop together how to utilize a story like this to deepen your relationship with your kids.

This is a teaching episode that I just think you’re going to love love love!

Here is the Youtube link if you’d like to see Andrew’s screenshare as he reads his beautiful book to us. https://youtu.be/Ospq-HCA6R0

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-306

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Andrew Newman:

Andrew Newman is the award-winning author and founder of www.ConsciousStories.com, a growing series of bedtime stories purpose-built to support parent-child connection in the last 20 minutes of the day.

Andrew’s TEDx Why the last 20 minutes of the day matter, weaves trauma-informed awareness and attachment bonding into the wonders of storytelling, outlining the importance of quality connection before sleep for your child's ability to regulate, rest deeply, and awake confident.

WEBSITE: www.consciousstories.com

Get your kids started with Conscious Stories using Coupon Code : PODCAST for 20% discount

INSTAGRAM @consciousbedtimestories https://www.instagram.com/consciousbedtimestories/

FACEBOOK Consciousbedtimestories https://www.facebook.com/consciousstories

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Helpful Kids Without Power Struggles (a conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff)

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Kids are naturally motivated to feel purposeful. In other words, kids want to feel like they bring value to the pack. It’s primal actually.

You see, bringing value/ helping out/ feeling as if “these people might be lost without the amazing me and my mad sweeping skillz:)”, are all ways kids feel when they are given purpose.

Purpose can be a tiny thing (clearing their plate from the table)…

Or it can be much bigger like, (reading to a younger sibling and helping to care for them).

Unfortunately, many of the ways we are taught to motivate kids do the exact opposite.

Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the parenting phenom book, Hunt Gather Parent, learned and shared a ton of wisdom from cultures that do it differently than many traditional “Western Worlders” are practicing.

We can learn to recognize the ways kids express their helpful instincts, and encourage them to feel the sense of purpose they’re seeking.

This week on the podcast this is what we are discussing. We also talk about how technology is making it harder than ever on families and why fostering that sense of purpose is more important than ever. You don’t want to miss it!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-305

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Resources Discussed/Links

Part one of my conversation with Michaeleen: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

What Your Kid Might Need More Than a Therapist (a conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff)

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0500

I’m a fan of good therapy. But I also see so many moms, who are trying to help their strong-willed ones, in the wrong order imo…they look for a therapist first, before changing anything at home.

Well this is what I’m talking about today with our fave author, Michaeleen Doucleff.

In part one of this conversation, we discuss why pack leadership seems so natural for some folks, and so elusive for others. We also get into the topic of purpose, attention seeking, attachment styles and even disagree on a few things!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Parenting Through Big Changes and Big Feelings (with Eli Harwood)

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Big changes mean big feelings, and as my youngest heads off to college, I’ve been deep in them.

I’m so glad I got to talk to psychologist and attachment expert Eli Harwood about this. Eli literally calls herself The Attachment Nerd, and she totally gets it.

This one was vulnerable and raw and felt like a therapy session for me.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-303

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Eli Harwood

Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist who lives in Colorado with her husband, Trevor, and their three children. Eli has been nerding out on attachment research for the past two decades and is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She continues this mission in her clinical work, her writing, and running her mouth about attachment on social media. When she isn't working to make the world a more secure place, she is playing dress-up with her kids, obsessing about her sourdough starter, and reminiscing about that one time she won a set of globes as a Price is Right contestant. Visit her at AttachmentNerd.com.

https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd

https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd/

https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd?lang=en

Resources Discussed/Links

Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, And Resilience https://attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Bratty Little Baby Moments and Sneaky Perfectionism

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0500

You know those moments, when a little deal feels like a much bigger deal?

And even though you tell yourself Don’t sweat the small stuff or Settle down, Sister…

You just can’t help it.

I call these Bratty Little Baby moments, and guess what? We all have them.

Big people. Little people.

All the people have Bratty Little Baby moments.

Why you may ask?

Cuz…

Human-ing is hard. And messy. And and and.

And the more we understand this, the less Bratty Little Baby hijacks happen.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How suppressing meltdown moments in kids leads to self-criticism in adulthood.
The questions to ask when you’ve had a bratty moment and you’re convinced you’re a terrible parent.
Why it’s okay to lose control sometimes, even if you feel like you should know better.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-302

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What Your Kid Wants You To Understand

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Have you ever met someone who is doing the thing you wish “younger you” had known?

Recently, I met Esther and wow…Just. Wow.

In many ways she reminded me of “younger me” but better.

Way. Better.

(And with a cool accent to boot:)

She’s been a mom on a mission to turn her household around. And she has implemented so much in such a short amount of time - literal lightning speed.

I feel like what took me decades to figure out has taken Esther minutes.

She’s inspiring to say the least…especially if you have an extra spicy strong willed one.

Esther started as a podcast listener and became a self-directed learner. Now she’s a committed and super impressive, pack-leading Mama Bear.

Take a listen, and imagine all the ways you can transform your family with the right support!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How we can use tech tools and old-fashioned compassion to support moms wherever they are in their pack leadership journeys.
Why well-meaning parents mistakenly see conformity and obedience as kid-raising goals.
What I really think of the performative perfection standards too many of us hold ourselves to as parents.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-301

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Highly Sensitive Child, by Elaine Aron, Ph.D. https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/

Dr. William Sears’ Attachment Parenting https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/attachment-parenting/

No Bad Parts, by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Masterminding Mornings

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Getting the kids out the door in the morning…

I don’t think most parents would describe this simple daily process as simple.

But what if it could be?

When I was thinking about what to share with you on the podcast this week, I remembered this resource, and had to share it with you to help simplify the mornings and set your family up for a super successful school year.

If you need help with the morning madness, this is the episode for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why nurturing your child’s agency is so critical to making mornings less of a fight.
The top five morning tasks a kiddo needs to accomplish before they’re ready to take on the day.
How to develop a plan for morning success, and how to get your child onboard with it.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-300

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

Does Your Partner Acknowledge All That You Do As A Mom?

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0500

You listen to parenting podcasts. You read books. You are a student of how to be the best mom for your kids.

You work your tushie off for your kids…maybe even to be the parent you would’ve wanted.

I see you.

And I know you beat yourself up about the hard moments when you just can’t hold it together anymore.

And wouldn’t it be amazing to have a partner that sees all of you? All that you do. All that you are as a mom.

Would it help you to not be so hard on yourself for those “oops” moments with your kids, if your partner was there to remind you:

Remind you that you are beautiful inside and out.
Remind you that a few unproud moments don’t make you a bad mom.
Remind you that so many things are working!
Remind you that your kids are lucky to have a mom like you.

Enjoy this little back and forth convo between a dad and me about exactly this.

And if you want to start Masterminding your house, come and join us!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to recognize and ride the cycle of times where you feel like you’re winning, and times when you feel like you can’t do anything right.
What to do when you’re in the Messy Middle and feeling guilt over parenting mistakes you’ve made in the past.
To give yourself grace when you feel like things suck, so you don’t make yourself feel bad for feeling bad.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-299

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment, by Bethany Saltman https://www.bethanysaltman.com/strange-situation

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Your Kid Received a Diagnosis… Now What?

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0500

If you’re looking for support in figuring out the “now what” after diagnosis, you’ve gotta know Yetta Myrick. Yetta has been in the trenches, supporting her son for 21 years, who was diagnosed early with Autism, ADHD, and intellectual disability.

When it came to finding stellar support for her child with cognitive and developmental challenges, Yetta had no quit!

This often felt like an uphill battle in a confusing and uncaring system. She is an Erin Brockovitch level Mama Bear - inspiring like an instant bestie who has your back.

If you’ve felt overwhelmed trying to make sense of a diagnosis and on a quest to curate an excellent care team for your kiddo…don’t miss this convo.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How a fierce love and determination to do right for her son helped Yetta become a resource for other families that have been touched by neurodiveristy.
Why it’s so important for the home environment to reinforce the support your child gets from their other caregivers.
How frustrating it can be to find compassionate help for kids who need extra care, and how you can learn from the experiences of mamas like Yetta who’ve been there.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-298

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Yetta Myrick

Yetta Myrick is the mother of a young adult son diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, and Intellectual Disability. Yetta is the Founder and President of the nonprofit DC Autism Parents, and author of the book Mr. Marshall’s Block Party. She has served as an advocate in roles with the Centers for Disease Control, Children’s National Hospital, the Department of Health and Human Services, the DC Developmental Disablities Council, and many others. In 2024 she received the Advocate in Equity Award from the DC Developmental Disability Awareness Month Planning Committee.

Resources Discussed/Links

DC Autism Parents https://dcautismparents.org/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Outdated Parenting Just Doesn’t Work With 2024 Teens (with Coach Kevin Baker)

Tue, 23 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Teenage-hood. It’s a loaded topic. It’s a loaded time.

Just you wait til this one’s a teenager.
Payback’s a bitch - you were a nightmare as a teenager!
We turned out fine but the risks are too risky for kids today.

Ya’ll have been asking me for teenager resources for forever.

The teen years have always been tough. Changing schools, changing bodies, racing hormones.

But today’s teenagers face more. The world has become more complicated.

#FACTS.

Recently, I talked to Coach Kevin Baker, and I think you’ll hear immediately why I invited him on the pod. Kevin is super committed to helping stuck in a rut or struggling teenagers.

Listen as we break down this topic and how we can help our kids rather than accidentally stressing them out more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why the freedom to make choices - good AND bad - is so important to your teenager’s development.
How to hold expectations for your kiddos, and how to know when it’s more important to let them go and just be supportive.
How to stay compassionate and preserve your sanity during the transition from easy, chatty kid to sullen, surly teen.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-297

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Coach Kevin Baker

Kevin Baker is a Certified Professional Life Coach who specializes in empowering teenagers. Kevin is on a mission to nurture self-esteem, confidence, and resilience in young minds. With a firm belief that true happiness and success stem from inner strength, he guides adolescents through the transformative process of self-discovery and growth.

Website: https://lifecoachkevin.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinebaker/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkevin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TeenLifeCoachKevin

Resources Discussed/Links

Dr. Dan Siegel https://drdansiegel.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

When Your Kid Seems Like An Emotional Rollercoaster (with Michelle Grosser)

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Do some days seem like a never-ending emotional rollercoaster living with your strong-willed and/or highly sensitive one? Like no matter what you say or do, they just can’t seem to get it together?

On days like these, you might be fighting like hell to stay calm on the outside, but inside your heart is racing and your stomach is tied up in knots.

And these days seem way longer than a mere 24 hours. By bedtime, no wonder you finally blow a gasket…you’re like a human tea kettle and that steam must be released, right?

My guest this week can help. Michelle Grosser is a coach, mom, and neuroscience expert. She knows a ton about what stress does to our brains and bodies. She’s helped so many moms address their triggers, calm their nervous systems and find the peace they so desperately want in their families and lives.

We hit it off instantly. You’re going to learn so much about how to manage overwhelm and avoid burnout.

Listen as we discuss tangible real-life methods for emotional rollercoaster days with your highly sensitive humans.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How we make meaning out of our kiddos’ behavior (and how to make that meaning into something positive).
Why it’s so crucial to recognize, honor, and contain our reactive feelings so we don’t pass our stress on to our sensitive kids.
To start with your own healing and mental health in order to build safety and stability for your family.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-296

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michelle Grosser

Michelle is an attorney, pastor, Nervous System Expert, Certified Master Life Coach, and host of The Calm Mom Podcast. Through somatic and neuroscience-based modalities, she coaches women through discovering what’s beneath their triggers and emotions, so they can begin their healing journey and find peace in the present. She deeply believes that the most profound thing we can offer our children is our own healing. She and her husband Jeff have two daughters and live in Miami, FL.

https://michellegrosser.com/

Social: @michellegrosser.coach

Resources Discussed/Links

Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing https://traumahealing.org/

“All The Rage,” a documentary about the life and work of late back pain specialist Dr. John Sarno https://alltheragedoc.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

My Mistakes About Giving My Kids Phones

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0500

As a mom, figuring out when to give my kids a phone has been one of the hardest topics to tackle.

While there have been conveniences once they got a phone, like being able to know where they are at all times and reach them if I need to, the cons have far outweighed the pros in my family.

A phone is the default way lots of kids stay in touch, organize activities, and learn about the world. But it can also suck them into the online world, and make it harder for them to engage in reality.

So this week, I sat down with my youngest kid, Cory, and talked about this hot topic:

What age to give a kid a phone
What type of phone
Social Media access
How a parent should handle all the common arguments kids often give

At 18, Cory is old enough to see both the pros and cons and can vividly remember how his first smartphone changed his life.

I had so much fun getting his perspective on this question and even putting him in the hot seat - weighing in on how he’d handle it with a badgering teen, claiming that EVERYONE has a phone and blah blah blah.

When it comes to technology, it’s like the wild wild west for parents. I think I’d do things differently if I had to do it all over again…especially based on my own kid’s advice!

Cory and I discuss what kinds of changes happen in the life - and mind - of a kid when they get their first smartphone, how to decide when they’re ready to handle those changes, and how to (and how not to) talk to your kids about the limits around smartphones.

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-295

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

This Game-Changing Sentence That Works Like Magic

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0500

My conversations with Michaeleen Doucleff are so much fun that sometimes I forget to hit record!

Usually it doesn’t even matter what we talk about, but this time it’s extra good.

You know those times when your kid is acting like a little contrarian. You say up, they say down. You say yes, they say no. And around and around and around.

Michaeleen has come up with an amazingly simple sentence that shifts this dynamic like magic.

It will turn them not just into collaborators but actual co-creators.

Listen as Michaeleen and I discuss oh so many things. I love my time with her so much and I think you will too!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to encourage your child to contribute ideas and collaborate in planning activities.
The messages about our values that we send when we choose recreation for our kids.
Why things that keep kids engaged aren’t always as fun as they might seem.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-294

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Resources Discussed/Links

The New York Times profile of Virginia Sole-Smith https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/21/well/eat/fat-activist-virginia-sole-smith.html

Her book Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture https://virginiasolesmith.com/books/fat-talk-parenting-in-the-age-of-diet-culture/

All Joy, No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood, by Jennifer Senior https://jennifersenior.net/all-joy-and-no-fun

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

It’s Never A “Good” Time To Have A Baby Or Start A Business

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0500

When you’re in the trenches raising kids, it can feel like the busiest, hardest season of life.

Now, imagine trying to start and run a business at the same time?

I think my son, Cory, would say that’s low key insane.

He’d also hate me claiming to know what he’d say and attempting to use his lingo…whatevs:).

And just like it rarely feels like a perfect time to get pregnant but you go for it anyway, same same when it comes to starting a business.

Turns out the pack leadership skills that work so well for raising a family are also really good for helping you nurture an entrepreneurial business!

In this week’s podcast episode, listen to my conversation with fellow mom of three, podcaster and author, Melissa Llarena, as we dive into all things parenting and business ownering.

If you’ve been putting your dreams on hold, listen now.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why it’s so important for busy moms to own and celebrate their own accomplishments.
How to identify what lights you up, and give yourself permission to go for it.
The powerful lessons we teach our kids when we allow ourselves to follow our dreams.
Why the vision you have for your home, family, business, and life is worth fighting for.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-293

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Melissa Llarena

Melissa is an author, imagination coach, consultant, speaker, and contributor to ForbesWomen. She also hosts the podcast Unimaginable Wellness, for entrepreneurs, founders, and creators who are also moms. Her book is Fertile Imagination: A Guide for Stretching Every Mom’s Superpower for Maximum Impact.

https://fertileideas.com

https://www.melissallarena.com/podcast/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Retrain Your Brain, Rewire Your Family

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0500

When people join the Mastermind Parenting community, they come seeking answers about the way their children behave. What they usually don’t realize is that they’re not just struggling with “bad” behaviors. They need a space where they can unlearn generations of bad advice, and retrain their thinking around the rewards and challenges of parenting sensitive kids. This week we’re talking about a mom who is just starting that process. I’ll share the experiences that are resonating with her, and how her family dynamic is being rewritten through the honesty and empathy she’s receiving in community with other moms.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What the label “strong-willed” means for a kiddo, for what they need in a parent, and how it will serve them as they grow into the world.
That we have to start with ourselves as we cultivate empathy and patience.
How easy it is to get stuck in outdated, counterproductive thinking about what it means to parent a sensitive child.
The huge impact on a family when mom gives herself permission to feel overwhelmed.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-292

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Kid Who Was His Worst Self Around Mom

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Can we just be real for a minute, and admit that parenting is hard? Kids are wild and wonderful, but their behavior can sometimes be really confusing. That’s never more true than when a kiddo is a delight around one parent, but mean and antagonistic around the other. That’s the situation one of my Mastermind moms faced when she joined us. It’s been a process, for sure, but this week she shared with us how much things have improved. And it started with joining a safe, supportive community where she had permission to get to know herself better.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How much “quick fix” thinking can interfere with making positive change in your family dynamic.
Why we so often need to look inward to figure out what’s motivating challenging behavior in our children.
How important it is as a parent to know, embrace, and honor your own needs.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-291

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Holistic Psychologist Nicole LePera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Another Great Conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff, author of Hunt, Gather, Parent

Wed, 29 May 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Y’all know that Michaeleen Doucleff is my favorite. Her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent, has become a must-read for my Mastermind parents. Since we first connected we’ve spent hours, on and off the mic, vibing and swapping parenting stories. One story I’ve been dying to get more detail about is the decision Michaeleen made to start a whole school out of her house! It’s a remarkable tale of agency, confidence, and a mama knowing what’s best for her kiddo. I guarantee you’ll find it fascinating.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What makes a mom and journalist with no teaching experience decide to build a learning experience for her daughter.
Why the way schools teach is so much more important than what they teach.
How a school that doesn’t match your kids' needs can be so bad for their interest in learning.
The mindset that makes it possible to trust ourselves with something as important as providing the education our kids need.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-290

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Spinach in the Spaghetti Sauce (Maybe You Don't Really Need a Parenting Class)

Tue, 21 May 2024 06:00:00 -0500

When people find out I’m a parenting coach, they’ll often say they should probably take a parenting class. Now, you know I believe in the value of coaching. But there are lots of everyday opportunities to connect with our kids and teach them how to navigate the world. Stories you read together for fun can be a great source of wisdom if you just know what to look for and reinforce. I call this the “spinach in the spaghetti sauce” method of teaching kids life lessons, and I’ve got a fun example to show you just how effective it can be.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How books and stories can help us guide our kids, even when they’re not intentionally teaching lessons.
Why we parents put so much pressure on ourselves to teach kids all the lessons, when they’re learning so much from the behavior we model.
How to appreciate and activate the educational tools we already have at our disposal.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-289

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Post Mother’s Day: Some of My Mothering Mistakes

Tue, 14 May 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Mother’s Day is so loaded for so many reasons. Now that it’s in the rearview for another year, this is a great time to share some more of my most embarrassing/inspiring mothering mistakes. Embarrassing because they seem painfully obvious in hindsight. Inspiring because they’re a loving reminder from me to you that no parent is perfect. We all want to do better for our kiddos than our parents did for us. The way to do that isn’t to obsess over never messing up, or keep our mistakes secret. It’s to own our falibility and let our kids see us as whole, complicated, loving human beings.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Some of the oops moments that have shaped my kiddos and our relationship over the years.
Why I’m happy to let them roast me a little when we’re reminiscing about times I’ve made a mess of things.
How love and humor can grow out of being honest with yourself, your family, and the world about your parenting screw ups.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-288

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

My chat with my son Alec about his needle phobia https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0BXoDVVo_A

Mindset: The New Psychology Of Success, by Carol S. Dweck

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/44330/mindset-by-carol-s-dweck-phd/

Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance, by Kelly McDaniel https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/books/#motherhunger

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Spoiler Alert: Your Kid Won't Fail To Launch

Tue, 07 May 2024 06:00:00 -0500

When kids don't do simple things for themselves, it's easy to future trip and freak out. But what if you knew that they'd be okay and it will all turn out just fine? What if you could have that reassurance? Would it change how you show up now when you're feeling fed up about them not knowing how to make a hair appointment, make a sandwich, or do their own laundry? If you could drop the panic, what would you do instead? How could you course correct when you want your kids to learn basic "life-ing" skills?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to take a breath and get perspective instead of panicking when your kid needs help to complete a basic “grownup” task.
To keep a sense of humor around the things your kids have (and haven’t) learned to do for themselves.
Why blaming ourselves for doing too much can drive a wedge between us and the kid whose independence we want to support.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-287

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

That's So Gay: Talking To Kids About Hurtful Language

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Raising our kids to understand and share our values is a central part of being a parent. But so often when we send them out into the world, they come back using words or acting in ways that conflict with the things we’ve tried to teach them. Recently, a Mastermind mom shared that her six-year-old came home from playing at a neighbor’s house and called something “gay” like it meant “bad.” This resonated extra strongly with me. All three of my own kids, when they were younger, heard the exact same thing on the playground. As tough as it can be to hear that, it’s also an amazing opportunity to help strengthen your relationships with your kids while also reinforcing the values that your family holds dear.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to instill your family’s values without resorting to “because I said so.”
Why it’s worth pausing to inform yourself when your kiddo is asking why.
The lifelong closeness you can nurture when you’re not afraid to have tough conversations with your kids.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-286

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

I'm So Ugly! How Can You Handle Kids' Insecurities?

Tue, 16 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0500

When our kids are talking down about themselves, of course our first instinct is to push back. But even though we say “you’re so beautiful,” or “you’re so smart,” or “you’ll get better if you practice,” the message we send is “I’m not listening and understanding your experience.” If you want to know the secret to tackling your kiddo’s insecurities without undermining their agency and self-determination, this ep is for you! I just coached one of my fabulous Mastermind moms through this, and I know you’ll be inspired by how she stepped up for her child.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The tools you can use to reorient your child’s perspective when they’re feeling bad about themselves.
Why it’s so much more important to listen than to argue with a kid who’s struggling with their self-worth.
How insecurities that are papered over with praise can turn into meanness.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-285

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What If My Kid Seems Oppositional And Defiant?

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0500

If you’re a parent with a kiddo who’s constantly angry and acting out, a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) can seem like an explanation for a lot of disruptive behavior. But what if that defiance and opposition are actually caused by other sensitivity? I’ve worked with so many parents who struggle to understand why their strong-willed kid is lashing out. An ODD diagnosis can seem like an answer, but the label doesn’t come with the tools to actually help their sensitive little human cope with their big feelings. Let’s talk about why I think ODD is a symptom, not a cause, and how to approach your struggling kiddo with the empathy they need to become a success story.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why I’m convinced the behavior we label as oppositional and defiant is really our kids asking for help the only way they know how.
All the other sensitivities and specialness that an ODD label can cause us to overlook.
What strong-willed kids are looking for when they use external conflict to compensate for internal discomfort.
Why we try to think our way through situations when we should learn how to feel through them instead.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-284

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

https://mastermindparenting.com/call

Dr. Steven Storage on ODD as a symptom rather than a diagnosis: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C40o3PyL8C_

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Empowering Children to Participate in Essential Matters at Home (with coach and author Lori Sugarman-Li)

Tue, 02 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Housework. Homemaking. Chores. Whatever you call it, it’s hard work to maintain a safe, clean house, and it’s made so much harder by the expectations around that work. So many moms, whether they’re employed outside the home or not, find themselves in charge of a lot more of those household tasks than their kids or their partners. If we’re going to change those expectations we have to change the way we talk with our kids about the labor that’s so often invisible to them. Coach and author Lori Sugarman-Li has written an amazing kid’s book that will help you have those conversations, and turn housework into a full-family collaboration.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The mindset shift that will help you see the value of including your kiddos in household upkeep.
The kind of communication and compromise that will help your family express gratitude for your household and take pride in the work of maintaining it.
How the health and well-being of women around the world are made worse by the invisible labor they disproportionately shoulder.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-283

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Our Guest

Lori Sugarman-Li believes deeply in the power of families and is a passionate voice in the cultural shift aiming to articulate the value and visibility of unpaid work. She is dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations within families, encouraging them to contemplate how they care for one another and their shared space. Lori’s book Our Home: The Love, Work & Heart Of Family is available for pre-order at https://ourhomeourpride.com/my-childrens-book. Her website is https://ourhomeourpride.com/, and she’s on Instagram @ourhomeourpride

Resources Discussed/Links

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans, by Michaleen Doucleff https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution For When You Have Too Much To Do (And More Life To Live), by Eve Rodsky https://www.everodsky.com/fair-play

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Portrait of Randi As a Young Mom (with Author & Podcaster Kimberly Samson)

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Kimberly Samson is the author of F*Ck This, a candid and hilarious collection of essays about the journey through midlife. She’s also one of my oldest friends, who has witnessed a ton of my formative moments as a person and a parent. In this conversation, Kimby shares what motivated her to write a book about the midlife experience and what she’s learned by living through it. She also lifts the curtain on some of my best (and not so best) moments as a mom. It’s a whole new perspective how I’ve grown as a parent of a strong-willed child, and how my mishaps have given me the tools to help others.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The pivotal role my sensitive child played in my transformation as a mother, and my ambition to help keep other parents from repeating my missteps.
Why it’s okay for parents to talk to each other about their children more than anything else.
That unconditional love and basic human annoyance aren’t mutually exclusive.
How amazing my friend Kimby is!

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-282

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Our Guest

Kimberly Samson is an author, podcaster, blogger, influencer, mother of three, wife of one, and a native Angeleno. Her book F*Ck This: Practical Advice To Get You Through Your Midlife Crisis is available at https://www.amazon.com/CK-THIS-PRACTICAL-THROUGH-MIDLIFE/dp/B0CRPB51RG

Resources Discussed/Links

The Midlife podcast and blog: https://themidlife.co/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Why Following Through on Boundaries is So Hard

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Every parent has some version of this story. Your kid crosses a line that’s important to you. You exchange angry words, but eventually you talk it out and repair your rapport. Now you’re stuck with conflicting feelings. You don’t want to cause further disruption to your relationship with your child, but you also know their behavior isn’t likely to change without some consequence. This time, I’m sharing the experience of a Masterminder who was caught in this exact dilemma. We’ll discuss the difficult but necessary steps you can take to honor your values, communicate their importance to your children, and help them be better prepared for adulthood in the process.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why sometimes the way to step up for your kiddos means imposing consequences that neither of you is happy about.
The long-term benefit of short-term discomfort, for your relationship with your kids and their relationship with the world.
How vitally important followthrough is in your role as pack leader.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-281

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What Your Therapist Really Thinks…

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Therapy can be a big help for some people. But for stressed-out parents, healing our old wounds and stepping up for our kiddos often requires a different approach. One of my Masterminders, Dr. Shawn Hondorp, has experienced this disconnect from the inside. Shawn is an experienced clinical psychologist who isn’t satisfied with the tools and techniques of the traditional diagnostic therapy methods. She’s developing a new approach to improving mental health.

Shawn’s practices reject pathology and easy labels. Instead, they help you identify your old patterns of thoughts and feelings, understand why they were woven, and put them to work in ways that help rather than hinder your growth. I’m honored that working with me has helped her find the courage to share this new vision of what therapy can accomplish, and I can’t wait for you to learn about it!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How a focus on efficiency and accomplishment can actually cost us - and our kiddos - more time and energy in the long run.
The real reason why we struggle with negative self talk, and how that context can help you keep it from overwhelming you.
Why pack leaders need other pack leaders they can lean on and grow with.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-280

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Our Guest

Resources Discussed/Links

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419

Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma & Politicizing Your Practice, by Dr. Jennifer Mullan https://www.decolonizingtherapy.com/book

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Getting Your Kid A Label Isn’t Enough

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Last week’s conversation about ADHD got my brain firing about what a diagnosis can and can’t do for the parents of a highly sensitive child. Getting that label can be a starting point, but our mental health system doesn’t train medical professionals - or support struggling parents - to understand what those kiddos need to adapt and thrive. Membership Coordinator (and Mastermind Co-parent) Lindsey joins me on the mic this week, to share a success story from a new Masterminder. From there we talk about why diagnosis is just the start, medication isn’t a sure fix, and what leading your pack through a tough day with a strong-willed kiddo actually looks like.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How a disjointed mental health system often leaves parents with more questions than answers.
The important role of your intuition in deciding what works best for your family.
Why a diagnosis can be helpful, and why it’s only one piece of a puzzle when it comes to helping your child navigate the world.
The difference between understanding your kiddo’s big feelings and letting them hijack your household when they express those feelings.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-279

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Talking With Pediatric Neuropsychologists About ADHD

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500

An ADHD diagnosis can be a welcome answer for parents who are struggling to understand their child’s behavior. But a diagnosis doesn’t come with a user’s manual, and kids especially can have a hard time understanding what all the clinical terms mean for them and their needs. This time I’m in conversation with pediatric neuropsychologists Dr. Katia Fredriksen and Dr. Yael E. Rothman. They’ve written Different Thinkers: ADHD a kid-friendly guide that aims to help little ones understand and celebrate their neurodiversity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why sleep issues, anxiety, and other sensitivities are often mistaken for signs of ADHD.
How a collaborative approach involving parents, teachers, and medical professionals can help you understand and honor kids no matter their neurodiversity.
That helping a highly sensitive child cope with an overstimulated world works best when you take it step by step.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-278

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About My Guests:

Katia Fredriksen, Ph.D. and Yael E. Rothman, Ph.D. are pediatric neuropsychologists and the authors of Different Thinkers: ADHD, a child-friendly guide that strips away the stigmas, myths, and misconceptions associated with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. https://www.boystownpress.org/different-thinkers-adhd-softcover/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When The World Overwhelms Themby Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The "Do Less" Approach To Raising Confident Kids with Michaeleen Doucleff

Tue, 20 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500

We all want our kids to grow up confident and self-sufficient. But by doing too much and protecting our kids from failure, so many well-meaning moms and dads end up discouraging the autonomy they want their kids to achieve. Welcome to the first episode of an ongoing conversation with my friend and fave, Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the phenomenal book Hunt, Gather, Parent. We use real stories from my Mastermind Parents to help us find antidotes to the performative, perfectionist parenting models we’re trying to overturn.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The key mindset shift that will help you develop a mutually respectful, collaborative connection with your children.
What happens when you stop trying to find the perfect script and start talking to your kids like full human beings.
Why parents who do the most for their kids wind up raising little anxious humans.
How the strategies we use to motivate and reward our kiddos actually push down their natural drive to help out.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-277

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Resources Discussed/Links

Jonathan Haidt’s upcoming book The Anxious Generation https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/729231/the-anxious-generation-by-jonathan-haidt

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/

The Whole Brain Child, by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. https://www.tinabryson.com/thewholebrainchild

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Tap Into The Power of Informed Annoyance

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500

No parent loves to admit feeling annoyed by their kids. It’s tempting to dismiss little problems, and try to ignore the frustration they cause inside us. This is extra hard if we’ve experienced gaslighting in the past. If we’ve gotten the message from partners or parents that our emotions aren’t trustworthy, it can be so easy to repeat that pattern and not trust our reactions. But if we pay attention to them, small frustrations can give us big info about what’s going on with our kiddos. And if you approach the annoying behavior with a curious, understanding mindset, you can address the root causes before they turn into bigger issues down the road.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

A real-life example of a small annoyance that could have turned into a big deal if this Mastermind mom ignored her feelings.
Why it’s so important to treat a kid who’s acting out like a teammate rather than an adversary.
How to listen to your inner voice when it’s telling you that a little deal behavior is hinting at a bigger problem.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-276

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Pack Leadership: Real Families, Real Change

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Emotionally immature parents set us up for lots of challenges in our own role as family pack leaders. One of the most difficult ways that shows up is when our actual kiddos act in ways that echo behavior we endured from emotionally immature grown-ups. This week I invite you to listen in on some coaching I did with two of my amazing Masterminders. They’re making huge strides recognizing the behavior that’s triggering their instinctive responses, and using their pack leadership skills to break the cycle of blame and disappointment.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why so much of what we think of as “bad” behavior comes down to our own unrealistic expectations for our kids.
How building your pack leadership can help you be more conscious of the skills your kids haven’t developed yet, and provide the guidance and certainty they need to learn them.
The ways your own upbringing influences those expectations, and how understanding the connection can help you lead with empathy rather than judgment.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-275

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Breaking The Cycle of Emotionally Immature Parenting

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Look out, listener, I have another new book crush, and I can’t wait to discuss her work with you! I’ve recently been captivated by Lindsay C. Gibson and her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. It spoke to so much of my experience with my own parents and their resistance to reflecting on how they raised me, and it also explains the conditioning that so many of my Mastermind parents are struggling against! I’m ready to start a whole conversation on the topics this book raised. I’m glad you’re here to be part of it!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why it can be so hard for our parents to face the mistakes they made raising us, and how we can learn from their resistance to self-reflection.
How the concept of emotional immaturity can help you understand your own healing, and help you keep that behavior out of your own parenting.
Why highly-sensitive kids are uniquely equipped to see through the pretense and performance that we use to mask our insecurities as parents.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-274

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/

Author and podcaster Glennon Doyle https://momastery.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Pretending. Performing. Parenting.

Tue, 23 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500

If you’ve listened to the podcast, you’ve probably heard me mention how much I love television. Since I was a kid, TV has been a place where I could escape from reality for a little while. But it’s also helped me to understand what kind of family relationships I want, and modeled the kind of parent I want to show up as. I recently rediscovered The Mary Tyler Moore Show, which was a favorite when I was in college. An episode I just watched showed me that our worries about perfection aren’t a new thing. We’ve felt this pressure to perform and be the perfect parents since at least 1970. Let me (and Mary) show you where that pressure comes from, and what to do about it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How we got so caught up in the wisdom of parenting books and the advice of experts, and stopped trusting ourselves.
Why we worry so much about saying the wrong thing and screwing our kids up forever.
How the performance of parenting prevents us from being authentic and real (until we’re too pissed off to keep up the act).

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-273

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Invisible Mom Jobs are the Real Bottleneck

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500

My mind is on fire with all the things we’re discovering in my new Pack Leadership group. One of our newest Masterminders is experiencing a very familiar kid scenario: pulled in too many directions, never enough time, her energetic daughter is seeking attention by acting out. Usually, I’d send her to our NICE Framework, to help her better understand her daughter’s behavior. But this time, I took a step back and asked about HER day-to-day experience. It turns out she’s got her own patterns and triggers, and no amount of compassion for her child is going to help if she’s not taking care of herself. I can’t wait for you to hear a recent voice message I left for the group, where we talked about why it feels like there’s so much potential in this different approach.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why we don’t usually think about self-understanding and compassion when we’re focused on addressing behavioral challenges.
What drives kids to act out and misbehave when they can’t express their need for more attention.
How to think about being present with your kids so you’re not just going through the motions of spending time with them.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-272

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Intro to my NICE Framework: https://mastermindparenting.com/222-1-the-framework-that-transforms-strong-willed-kids/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Parenting in 2024: What’s In and What’s SO Out

Tue, 09 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500

We’re coming into 2024 with a whole new perspective on the pack leadership our families need. We’re done performing robotic perfection. We’re rejecting the script, tips, and how-tos that reinforce our feelings of inadequacy. We’re giving ourselves the grace to feel our feelings, and granting ourselves permission to fuck up sometimes. We’re embracing self-awareness, and celebrating our messiness. We’re showing up as whole, healthy, emotionally expressive humans, and showing our kids that they can do it, too. Won’t you join us?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How easily our kids see through us when we try to play the role of the perfect, patient parent.
Why giving ourselves space to feel our feelings is so difficult and so, so important.
The key way of thinking about breaking generational cycles and showing up for our kids in the way we wish we’d had growing up.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-271

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Author and athlete David Goggins: https://davidgoggins.com/

Neuroscientist Andrew Huberman: https://www.hubermanlab.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

How To Make Parenting Resolutions That Last

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500

It’s a brand new year, and a new opportunity to set goals for ourselves. It’s a chance to work toward being the kind of parent you want to be, and to step up as the pack leader your family really needs. But traditional New Year’s resolutions usually don’t cut it when you’re talking about a lifetime project like parenting. This time we’re resharing an episode that will help you give yourself the tools and support you need to make real, lasting changes.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

A step-by-step plan for envisioning success, anticipating setbacks, and building the family dynamic you want.
How strong-willed kids keep us engaged with the work of being better parents.
The huge role that self-care and acceptance play in helping you show up for your family.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-270

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Mindset: The New Psychology Of Success, by Carol S. Dweck https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/44330/mindset-by-carol-s-dweck-phd/

Author and athlete David Goggins: https://davidgoggins.com/

Neuroscientist Andrew Huberman: https://www.hubermanlab.com/

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

From Surviving to Thriving in The New Year

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500

We all know that holiday festivities can be stressful. When you’re navigating a sensitive, strong-willed child through extended family get-togethers and seemingly endless days with no schedule or structure, it can be especially nerve-wracking. What your family needs is leadership. The episode we’re resharing this week will give you the tools to step into that pack leader role, set up the structures your kids need to feel safe, and follow through on implementing them, even when it’s tempting to let it slide.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How the holidays can serve up a big side of guilt when things don’t go the way we imagine.
Why strong-willed kids are extra reliant on you to provide consistency and communication.
The follow-through skills you need to put all your parenting learning and research into practice.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-269

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Dr. Shefali Tsabary - https://www.drshefali.com/

Dr. Laura Markham’s Aha! Parenting - https://www.ahaparenting.com/

Dr. Marissa Peer - https://shop.marisapeer.com/pages/about

Visit https://mastermindparenting.com/call to see if you’re a good fit for my Pack Leader Energy small group coaching program.

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Prevent Judgey Relatives from Hijacking Your Holiday

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500

The holiday season is a time for making lovely, warm memories, and nothing pours cold water on holiday cheer faster than other adults judging you for the way your kids behave. This week’s episode is a throwback to one of my most powerful tools to build up your confidence, keep judgment in perspective, and short-circuit the defensiveness before you take it out on your kids. Listen to help you make family memories that last, at the holidays and any time.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The surprisingly relatable place where judging other parents comes from.
Tips to help you let go of your triggered feelings and empathize with the judgey person instead of reacting negatively.
How the quest for perfection sets us up for disappointment in our kids and ourselves.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-268

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Visit https://mastermindparenting.com/call to see if you’re a good fit for my Pack Leader Energy small group coaching program.

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

How to Survive and Thrive During the Holidays

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Even the most joyous holiday events disrupt routines. Getting together with family and friends, sitting down for extra-long meals, and observing rituals and traditions are all out of the ordinary. Of course your kiddos might have a hard time knowing how they’re supposed to behave. They need you to step up as pack leader even more than usual, to set expectations, communicate expectations, and make a plan to keep things on the rails. This classic episode will help you get into that mindset, and give you the tools to implement it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why it’s extra important to embrace your role as pack leader during holiday gatherings.
How to anticipate your frustrating habits and turn them into a sanity-saving game.
Ways to help your children understand what’s expected of them, and to help yourself stay empathetic and supportive when they make mistakes.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-267

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Visit https://mastermindparenting.com/call to see if you’re a good fit for my Pack Leader Energy small group coaching program.

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

A Game Plan for a Happy Holiday Season

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500

The Winter holidays can be a struggle for parents. We want to provide plenty of space for our kids to relax and de-stress. But too little structure can quickly turn into restlessness and boredom and tension. This week we’re listening back to a classic episode that features the timeless wisdom of the sage Lorelai Gilmore. Her example will help you find the courage you need to set better boundaries for your family (and minimize the stress for yourself) this holiday season.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why a relaxing break without structure can turn into family drama.
The importance of having a game plan in place before the start of winter break.
How to provide the leadership your family needs to de-stress the holidays.
The Gilmore Girls blueprint for holding and setting boundaries even when it feels uncomfortable.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-266

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Visit https://mastermindparenting.com/call to see if you’re a good fit for my Pack Leader Energy small group coaching program.

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Parenting Kids That Don't Always Seem Grateful

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Our Mastermind Monthly calls are always eye-opening, but this one was so on point I had to share it with you. In this season that’s so focused on gratitude, it can be especially frustrating when our kiddos don’t understand how fortunate they are. There are all sorts of popular ways to practice gratitude, but what good are they if your child takes their home and family for granted?

But acting entitled doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your kids. It’s often a sign they need you to take a different approach to building connections in your family.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The root, core need that can lead kiddos to act demanding or dismissive.
Why popular family gratitude practices fail to address the underlying issue.
How letting kids take charge of things (and make their own mistakes) can help them see how fortunate they are.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-265

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our FREE 60-minute coaching sessions, starting again in the new year: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

But Really... Growing Doesn't Happen Alone

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500

It’s no secret that I love my Mastermind community. The ways we support and challenge each other are just magical. Masterminder Aryn is a perfect example of that. She came to us in total overwhelm, so focused on being available for her family that she couldn’t even let herself close the bathroom door to take a shower. Through honest, vulnerable conversations and lots and lots of empathy, she’s grown as a parent and a person, and helped many other Masterminders to see that they don’t have to do it alone.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The central role community plays in helping us learn and grow and do better.
How sharing our experiences can help us identify and overcome conditioning from our own upbringing.
How trying to do better for our kiddos, if it’s not done with thought and care, can lead us to abdicate our role as pack leader.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-264

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

But Really… Breaking Up With Perfectionism

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500

I didn’t know exactly what I was going to talk about with Masterminder Liz, but I just knew it would turn out to be a real and revealing conversation. Like so many of us modern moms, Liz is a recovering perfectionist. We run ourselves ragged trying to get everything right all the time. That’s not sustainable anywhere in life, and it’s especially impossible when it comes to parenting. Liz and I dig into the personal history and social expectations that fool us into thinking that perfection is desirable, and how being in community with other parents has helped us stop chasing impossible standards and embrace the joyful messiness of raising kids.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How perfectionist tendencies interfere with the pack leadership your family needs.
Why we need to stop looking for the perfect script when it’s time to have a tough conversation with a child.
How giving yourself some parenting can help you have empathy for your kiddo and yourself.
Why it can be so hard for parents to find community in our culture, and how beneficial it can be when you find it.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-263

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Leading Your Family Beyond “Fairness”

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Treating our kids fairly makes a lot of instinctive sense. It’s natural to want everybody to get equal everything. But different kids have different needs. When they all get the same attention and resources, they’ll often wind up with very different outcomes.

Effective pack leadership requires an equity approach. We need to see our children as the whole, unique, special humans they are, and to show up for each of them in the ways that serve their individual needs best. Masterminder Lauren joins me to talk about the leadership approach she uses to build family trust and a sense of equity that are so much stronger than simplistic ideas of fairness.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why a one-size-fits-all approach to our kids’ needs is the opposite of fair.
The central role humility plays in establishing trust, both professionally and with your family.
How our culture looks down on parents seeking support, and how we can start to change that stigma.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-262

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419

But Really… Turning Judgment Into Compassion

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Judging other parents is so natural, so human, and so not helpful. I can tell you from experience. When you learn a better way to do things, it’s really challenging to not give side-eye to those who haven’t gotten on your level. Which is why I had to have Masterminder Samantha on to tell this story she shared in a recent call.

Sam was caught up in a situation where someone else’s kiddo took a tumble and, even though they weren’t hurt, their father reacted with anger and scolding. It would have been very easy to write that dad off as a jerk or a bully, Sam had sympathy for him. She saw the fear that was motivating his response. She didn’t excuse his behavior, but she was able to give him the benefit of the doubt. Please join us as we talk about how to stay in a compassionate state of mind, instead of giving in to our inner judge.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why frustration and anger can so easily grow out of concern for a kiddo’s safety.
Where the impulse to judge comes from, and what it has to do with our own sense of self-worth.
Why compassion for other parents starts with getting real about our own parenting missteps.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-261

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Hunt, Gather, Parent Your Family: Resolving Sibling Rivalry (Part 2)

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Sibling rivalry is such a big topic, you just know my conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff had to be a two-parter. In this second episode, we’re talking about what motivates siblings to fight in the first place: strong societal expectations of tension between siblings, and parental praise that kids can’t help but take as a comparison. We’ll show you a whole different way to imagine the sibling relationship, that’s built on empathy and cooperation instead of competition.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to shift our thinking and set expectations for sibling cooperation instead of competition.
The way well-intentioned praise can inadvertently encourage toxic comparison between siblings.
How to cultivate empathy for both toddlers and teenagers when they’re struggling to handle their emotions.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-260

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Resources Discussed/Links

Part One of this conversation on resolving sibling rivalry: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-259/

Our episode on establishing boundaries around Halloween candy: https://mastermindparenting.com/210-your-post-halloween-candy-plans/

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Hunt, Gather, Parent Your Family: Resolving Sibling Rivalry (Part 1)

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0500

So many folks sign up for coaching or come to my free calls desperate to get their kids to stop fighting with their siblings. When our beloved kiddos are at each others throats, it sends our stress levels through the roof. What if told you that sibling rivalry isn’t inevitable? In fact, the way siblings antagonize each other in our families is almost unheard of in many other cultures.

When Michaeleen Doucleff and I get behind the mic, you know you’re in for a meaty conversation. Join us for part one as we get a global perspective on sibling rivalry, and how to start directing that energy into whole family solidarity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How our expectation of sibling rivalry is out of step with how siblings treat each other in so many other cultures.
The ways we set up older kids to experience adversarial reactions to a younger sibling.
How to build a sense of camaraderie and mutual responsibility among your kiddos and your whole family.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-259

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

But Really… Better Boundaries Aren’t Enough

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Masterminder Shawn recently opened up about a common struggle for parents of highly-sensitive kids. Her son’s birthday weekend with extended family left him overstimulated and dysregulated, and her frustrated by crossed boundaries and judgy relatives. Shawn’s takeaways were important. She’s trying to better understand her triggers, and to be more clear about her boundaries and expectations with other adults.

But really, Shawn (and every parent in America) is the subject of a failed experiment in family structure. For most of human history, raising kids was a communal activity. We’ve put all that responsibility on individual parents, and put them in charge of figuring out how to manage the stress. Join us for a candid conversation about the expectations we’re all struggling with, and how we can start to share the load again.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why we all need to stop performative parenting and be real about how hard it can be.
How to balance compassion for the mistakes our parents made with the desire to do better for our own kids.
How cathartic it can be to have honest conversations with your kids about your parenting missteps.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-258

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Hunt, Gather, Parent Your Family: Dealing With Judgy Adults (Part 2)

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Our latest Hunt, Gather, Parent conversation was so big and juicy, we couldn’t fit it into just one episode! In part two of this episode, journalist and author Michaeleen Doucleff is back to help us unpack what happens when other adults are judging us for our parenting choices.

We respond to a real-life scenario submitted by a Mastermind parent, and Michaeleen shares her own experience of dealing with judgment from her own mom. We also talk about some strategies for dealing with kiddos when they’re lashing out, and ways that common parenting advice sets us up to struggle with hurt feelings, whether they’re caused by kids or other adults.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

That you can feel plenty of judgment from a disapproving parent, even if they never say a word.
The approach you can use to handle both judgy adults and kiddos who are acting out.
Why it’s okay to acknowledge when your child hurts your feelings.
The transformative power of learning from your kids, and letting them know when they’re teaching you.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-257

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Hunt, Gather, Parent Your Family: Dealing With Judgy Adults (Part 1)

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0500

When I sat down with Michaeleen Doucleff to record the next episode in our Hunt, Gather, Parent series, I knew it was a meaty topic. We’ve all experienced that feeling of being judged for our parenting, by grandparents, other kids’ parents, and even random strangers. I’ve coached so many parents through coping with judgy adults. Michaeleen has reported on how so many other cultures teach empathy for other parents, rather than shaming.

There was so much to dig into we couldn’t fit it into one episode! I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation. Join us this week for Part 1, and look for Part 2 next week!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why so many of us default to judging a parent who’s struggling.
How to arm yourself against the embarrassment of judgy adults.
How cooperation and a collaborative mindset work to stop judgment before it starts.
The one question you can eliminate from your vocabulary to help you opt out of the culture of judging other parents.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-256

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Big Deal, Little Deal: A Stress-Busting Leadership Tool

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0500

This week, we’re talking about Big Deal, Little Deal, the most important tool I teach for staying grounded when a kid is stressed out. It will help you lead your family through tense situations, and help your kids develop life-long self-reliance and skills to figure out life.

Being a kid is tough sometimes. Lost homework, a missed bus, or a wardrobe malfunction can feel like a world-ending disaster. When your kiddo is strong-willed or highly sensitive, those overwhelming feelings often turn into a meltdown freakout that disrupts the whole house.

As parents, the stress of those moments pushes us into less-than-helpful habits. We try to correct “bad” behavior in the moment, or we try to calm our kiddo by fixing all their problems. Big Deal, Little Deal will help you keep things in perspective so you can be the leader that your family needs.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to approach parenting from a leadership perspective.
How practicing letting go of little deals can change everything.
Why instilling self-reliance and agency in kids means letting them make - and clean up - their own messes.
What to do when your kid is freaking out (without making things worse).

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-255

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Hunt, Gather, Parent Your Family (September 2023)

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Ever since I first read Hunt, Gather, Parent by award-winning journalist Michaleen Doucleff, I’ve felt the urge to change the conversation. So much parenting advice feels cursory and performative. What if we could move past the quick tips model, explore the real challenges and triumphs of raising kids, and what’s behind our ideas about what it means to be a good parent?

In many parts of the world, parents are raising families using traditional methods they learn from other parents, not from books or gurus. While we’re feeling pressure to optimize our interactions, they trust the wisdom they’ve learned from experience. With Michaeleen’s help, we’re going to start some real talk about what we can learn from these time-honored practices, and how to get back the self-confidence we’ve lost.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How parents train their kids to be unhelpful, and the simple ways to start undoing that programming.
Why a sense of purpose might be more important for little ones than feeling happy.
Why we struggle to find parenting role models in our lives.
How to do less without feeling guilty.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-254

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Michaleen Doucleff:

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Rejecting Mom Guilt

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Moms are in a no-win situation when it comes to how we spend our time. When we’re choosing between activities with kiddos or time focused on our grown-up priorities, we get a guilt trip no matter what we choose. We’re told to make everyone else happy at the expense of our own happiness and health, even though it’s not physically possible.

How do we get out of this trap? By refusing to accept the guilt, and turning the tension caused by failing to meet these impossible standards into an opportunity for growth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The competing social pressures that force us into mom guilt (and why they’re all BS)
How to embrace the strain of mom guilt and reframe it as a chance to expand your capacity.
Why having healthy boundaries around your time is a win for both you and your kids.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-253

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Having Empathy For Your Toddler (And For Yourself)

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0500

The toddler years are a source of joy and anxiety for a lot of first-time parents. We want to encourage our newly-mobile little ones as they explore their surroundings, but we also want to keep them safe. And, we’re in charge of connecting them to a world that has schedules and time limits, which just aren’t intuitive to a tiny, curious mind. Who wouldn’t be stressed out by all that?

Empathy is the key to managing those competing priorities, for our little ones AND ourselves. Trying to see the world from their perspective can help us stay patient when they’re testing boundaries. Giving ourselves kindness when we make mistakes will help the whole thing feel less overwhelming. Here are my most important tips for building that connections, and some resources to help you put it into practice.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How you can start cultivating empathy for your toddler’s experience when they’re still an infant.
The big shift in thinking at the heart of every progressive parenting method.
Why humility is so much more beneficial for your kiddos than perfection.
My most recommended resources for parents at any stage of their journey.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-252

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

The best parenting book I’ve ever read is Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

My favorite podcast episode to share features the author of Hunt Gather Parent, Michaeleen Doucleff. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mastermind-parenting-podcast/id1362773053?i=1000614983893

The must-watch documentary Becoming You is on Apple TV https://tv.apple.com/us/show/becoming-you/umc.cmc.2eln6544k8wo99s3vrdl5amwf

Check out my website and scroll to the bottom to sign up for weekly resources sent by email straight to you! https://mastermindparenting.com/

Milk Connections Lactation Consulting is at https://milkconnections.com/

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

What Is Anxiety Trying To Tell You?

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0500

My strong-willed son has taught me so much about dealing with anxiety. Parenting him helped me learn how much of the behavior kiddos struggle with is motivated by the scary signals they’re getting from their bodies. Knowing him as an adult has helped me recognize my own anxious tendencies, and how to manage them with loving curiosity. This time I’m sharing some of the things I’ve learned, with a big assist from our beloved Judy Blume.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How anxiety can motivate strong-willed behaviors, like fighting with siblings or challenging authority.
The messages anxiety sends about the state of your mind and body (and how to start paying attention).
Why the hardest anxiety to recognize might be your own.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-251

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Save your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Sibling Squabbles: Annoying Younger vs. Mean Older

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0500

When siblings fight, it pushes all the mama bear instinct buttons. We can’t help but jump in and try to stop it. But our natural impulse - to angrily confront the one who “should know better” - can set up our squabbling sibs for even more friction down the road.

On last month’s Masterminding Monthly call, I got the opportunity to coach a mom struggling with how to respond to a classic sibling dynamic. Younger kiddo worships the older one, and wants to be around them all the time. Meanwhile, older sib doesn’t want a chatty shadow following them everywhere. The drama between your kids might have a different shape, but the tools I teach in this episode will help you begin to defuse the situation without contributing to the tension between them.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why it’s so common for older kids to feel resentful of their younger siblings.
Where to focus your attention so you don’t reinforce that competitive framing.
When to address behavior that crosses the safety line, and when to let your kiddos work things out themselves.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-250

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly

https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Middle School Mean Girls

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Sometimes a Mastermind parent struggles with an issue that’s so damn relatable, we can’t help but share it. If you’ve lived through the middle school years, you’ve probably seen your kid struggle with changing social dynamics, and rejection by kids who used to be their friends. It’s not only heartbreaking to watch, but our instinct to protect often only makes things worse. The key to helping them through this emotionally challenging stage of life is helping them face it on their terms.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to cultivate the trusting environment your child needs to feel comfortable with sharing when peers are mistreating them.
Why your kiddo might have some sympathy for the person bullying them, and why you should, too.
Physical activities for combating stress and helping kids open up.
The similarities between the embodied experience of physical and emotional pain.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-249

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again, like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Playdate Boss

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Have you ever been the parent whose kiddo was bossing other kids around during a playdate? I have, and so has the mom who was on a recent Mastermind call. She’s here to share a story I call “Goldfishgate,” that’s so funny and so relatable. You’ll recognize how it feels to watch your kid push their friends around, and how Mastermind skills can help you recognize and address underlying causes of challenging behavior.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What can make a normally reasonable kid turn into a little tyrant when they’re playing with their friends.
Why micromanaging and redirection might minimize the fallout, but won’t help them grow out of the behavior.
When and how to address the underlying causes, and help your kiddo recognize when they’re starting to cross the line.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-248

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Embarrassing Kid Habits: Nose Picking, Pants Pooping & More

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Parenting can be embarrassing! It’s natural to feel some shame when your potty-trained kiddo smells like a full diaper, or when they’re walking around in public with a finger up their nose. But your best tool for dealing with those embarrassing kid behaviors is putting the shame aside, and creating a home where your kids know they can talk about anything without judgment.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to build trust with your kids by holding space for them to share their most embarrassing moments.
The opportunity that embarrassing habits provide for developing that sharing relationship.
How our instinct to protect kids from teasing can interfere with helping them manage unwanted behaviors.
The most important thing you can say when a kiddo shares something they’re embarrassed about.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-247

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Mastermind Parenting free support session: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Apply to work with Randi at https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp/

Perfect Ponytails and Wardrobe Drama

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0500

When our kids are upset about things we see as minor, even the kindest parent can find their patience wearing thin. When they’re melting down because the hairstyle you spent time on isn’t perfect, or when they suddenly refuse to wear the clothes they really wanted at the store, it’s hard not to get frustrated. If you can resist the urge to take it personally, and wait until the storm has passed, you’ll have a much better chance of diagnosing what’s actually triggering those reactions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How easy it is to miss the ways perfectionism and sensitivity can act as stand-ins for other anxieties our kids are experiencing.
Why you shouldn’t try to correct strong-willed behavior in the moment, and how to address it when it will actually be productive.
What a huge difference it makes when we show curiosity and compassion about the motivations of challenging behavior.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-246

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Apply to work with Randi at https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp/

The Kid That Can’t Sleep Without You

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Every kiddo sometimes has a rough night and needs to crawl into bed with a parent. But what do you do when a rough night is every night for nine years? If you’re anything like a mom I’ve been coaching, you get caught up in self-doubt, and you blame yourself for not doing the thing. But a lot of the time, what’s getting in your way is a part of your personality that’s trying to protect you from hurt and fear. What if you could take a step back and think about your responses from a place of understanding rather than judgment?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How self-criticism can short-circuit the learning process, and hold us back from the change we know we want.
Why our yearning to not pass on our own trauma to our kids can lead us to give too much.
The possibilities that open up when we explore our inner patterns with compassion and curiosity.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-245

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Apply to work with Randi at https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp/

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419

My Mothering Missteps

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0500

My brilliant, beautiful daughter Avery is turning 22. I’m so proud of the woman she’s become, and the relationship we’ve built. I’m celebrating her by opening up about all the ways I screwed up raising her. Avery grew up as the younger sibling of a strong-willed older brother, so she experienced it all. But we’ve proven that being human and making mistakes doesn’t have to drive a wedge between mother and daughter.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How honesty and humility about your mistakes can help you build a close, resilient relationship with your kids, from childhood through adulthood.
That it’s possible to break cycles of trauma and mistreatment even if you’re not a perfect parent.
How the relationships you had - or wanted to have - with your parents inform the relationships you have with your kids.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-244

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Mastermind Parenting Live Assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, by Mary Pipher https://marypipher.com/reviving-ophelia/

Queen Bees and Wannabees, by Rosalind Wiseman: https://rosalindwiseman.com/queen-bees-and-wannabes

Bullying and Judy Blume's "Blubber"

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Judy Blume’s book “Blubber” is a vital book that looks at how kids experience bullying. Judy writes for and about kids with such honesty. Her characters are full, complex people that she trusts her young readers will relate to. She writes with humor and heart, without sugarcoating the struggles that kids face growing up.

In “Blubber,” she writes candidly about how bullying happens, and how even the threat of bullying can make kids turn on their peers. As an adult, it’s such an important read because it reminds us that we can never know all the tough things our kiddos are going through. As parents, we have to lead with compassion, even when they’re taking their bad moods out on us.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why kids are so reluctant to speak up about bullying, even if it’s happening to them.
The huge impact bullying can have on bystanders, and why they might join in to keep themselves from becoming a target.
How to keep ourselves from taking it personally when our kiddos are lashing out.
What sets Judy Blume apart from other children’s authors, and why her books are so often threatened with censorship.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-243

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Mastermind Parenting Live Assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Judy Blume is having a Moment. Her classic book “Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret” has been adapted into a movie: https://www.itsmemargaret.movie/

“Judy Blume Forever,” a new Amazon Prime documentary, explores her life and the lasting influence she’s had on generations of kids: https://www.amazon.com/Judy-Blume-Forever-Davina-Pardo/dp/B0B8SYKSVS

Summertime Screen Limits

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 10:30:00 -0500

It’s so easy for kids to overdo screen time, especially when school’s out. Screens and their content are designed to dominate their attention. Of course, we want to help our kids build a healthy relationship with that influence.

But setting limits on screen time causes friction in so many families. Not only are we the first generation of parents who have to help our kids build a healthy relationship with screens, we’re out here struggling to manage our own screen time!

The good news is, it is possible to set healthy boundaries around screens. AND I have a new resource to help you keep it from getting out of hand.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why shame about our own screen habits can lead us to lash out when our kids are absorbed in the glow.

2. That you can help guide your kids and their use of screens without going completely off the gird yourself.

3. How my first Masterminding Monthly live coaching call can help you face this big, big topic.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-242/

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Masterminding Monthly, my new, laser-focused, LIVE parent coaching sessions https://mastermindparenting.com/monthly/

Trusting The Mama Bear Instinct, with Dr. Sarah Miller

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Our fav pediatrician, Dr. Sarah Miller, is back for a conversation about neurodiversity, discipline styles, and why she chooses to be the Mama Bear for her kids.

The inspiration for this episode came from a speech Dr. Sarah wrote about the way her children thrived at a preschool that teaches typically developing kids together with their peers who have disabilities and neurodivergence. Part of the reason that so many kids succeed in that environment is because of the conscious discipline techniques used (and taught) in the classroom. But, like many parents, she needed help to make that training work at home.

The missing ingredient for Sarah was the same one I see so many moms struggle with; trusting themselves when they need to take charge and enforce boundaries. Sarah and I talk candidly about why it’s hard to be the Mama Bear, and how stepping into that role can transform your relationship with your kids.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. How bringing the Mama Bear energy can make discipline more effective, AND help you reclaim your energy.

2. What happens when well-meaning parents focus on feelings, but aren’t comfortable setting boundaries with their kids.

3. How being honest with your kids builds trust, even when the truth isn’t fun.

4. Why it can be challenging to implement conscious discipline (and how Mastermind Parenting can help).

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-241

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

The Best Parenting Book Ever Written, with author Michaeleen Doucleff

Tue, 30 May 2023 10:30:00 -0500

This week we’re revisiting one of my all-time favorite conversations. If you’re a parent, especially one raising a strong-willed child, it’s a must-listen!

Michaeleen Doucleff is the author of “Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans.” She’s also a lovely human who shares her wisdom in the unpreachy-est and most beautiful way.

“Hunt, Gather, Parent” is unlike any other parenting book I’ve ever read. It has quickly become required reading for every parent I work with one-on-one. It’s a fascinating anthropological study of human behavior. The oldest cultures in the world have mastered the art of raising happy, well-adjusted children. What can we learn from them?

We break down what we are getting wrong when it comes to parenting in our mainstream culture, and celebrate the ancient wisdom of our foremothers in a very practical and relatable way. Get ready to learn from Michaeleen. She is absolutely delightful! I definitely have a mom crush on her, and you will too.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. The practices of sustainable parenting that run through cultures around the world.

2. The qualities we celebrate in adults that we too often discourage in our kids.

3. How an investment of time and persistence can change behaviors for the better - and for the long term.

4. Why taking time for yourself and your own interests is good for you AND your kiddos.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-240

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans, by Michaleen Doucleff: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Puzzling Kids who are often Misdiagnosed and Misunderstood

Tue, 23 May 2023 10:30:00 -0500

This week we’re taking you back to the early days of the pod, with an ep that describes the kind of kiddo and parent I most love to work with. This is the episode that some of my most favorite clients have said, “You described my kid like I had never heard before. I finally felt like someone really understood what I was dealing with.”

Puzzling Kids are often sensitive souls who get overwhelmed by everything the world throws at them. Their frustration gets channeled into acting out, or escaping into screens and other distractions. They need plenty of understanding and support before they can break out of those cycles.

Their parents need lots of understanding and support, too! Puzzling Kids push our buttons. It’s so hard to respond to that confrontational energy with compassion, but the tools we’re taught to set boundaries and guide behavior will only make things worse unless we get to a place of understanding and addressing the overwhelm.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why Puzzling Kids are so prone to disruptive behaviors.

2. My firsthand experience helping Puzzling Kids, as a coach and a mom.

3. How genuine empathy can help you reach your Puzzling Kid, and avoid the off-ramp of overdiagnosis and medication.

4. Empathy for yourself as a parent in a very tough situation.

And much more!

Get all the links, resources, and transcripts at https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-239

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

238: Time Out

Tue, 16 May 2023 10:30:00 -0500

Let’s talk about time out and more importantly, why you’re a good parent even if you’ve been disciplining your kids by putting them in time out.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

237: Mother's Day Suckage

Tue, 09 May 2023 12:40:00 -0500

Today, I’m talking about your Mother’s Day plan.

We’ll break down why it’s often stressful and disappointing. My Mother’s Day wish is that you’ll leave our time together ready to make sure this year is better.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

236: The Coach Approach - A Conversation on Coaching & Parenting

Tue, 02 May 2023 10:55:00 -0500

Today I welcome Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor-Klaus, certified coaches and experienced parents of complex children. As co-creators of ImpactParents.com, Diane and Elaine offer guidance, support, and resources to parents worldwide dealing with challenges such as ADHD and anxiety. With a coaching approach to parenting, they aim to empower children to become independent problem solvers while fostering confidence and self-esteem. Their deep understanding of the unique needs of complex children and passion for supporting parents make them trusted guests on the podcast.

When Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor-Klaus first met, they were both searching for a way to address the challenges faced by parents of complex kids. Diane, a neurotypical mom, and Elaine, who had been diagnosed with learning and attention issues, discovered they both had undergone significant improvements as parents after becoming coaches. Intrigued by the idea of applying a coaching approach to parenting, they decided to team up and develop a method that would empower children to become independent problem solvers. Through trial and error, they realized the importance of guiding parents through a process-oriented approach rather than simply providing solutions. By teaching parents to collaborate with their children, they found that they could foster a sense of agency and inspire kids to overcome obstacles.

In this episode, you will be able to:

Master the art of raising complex children through focus on personal growth and overcoming obstacles.
Achieve harmony in families with children facing mental health challenges by balancing dynamics.
Utilize coaching principles to help children flourish as autonomous problem solvers.
Cultivate emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and trust-building in parental bonds.
Embrace self-compassion, self-care, and recognize the importance of support networks for parents.

As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

Diane and Elaine’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://impactparents.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ImpactParents
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ImpactParents

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

235: Keeping Tech in Check, the Battle is Real! With Gaia Bernstein

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Technology has gotten out of hand…at home and within the school system. Many kids are seeking technology dopamine hits from a very young age, and it has clearly become a big problem. Parents are left feeling powerless in the daily battle against tech companies, excessive screen time, and their effect on children. The fight is real, and the consequences of losing it have never been more urgent. And keeping the tech in check is too much to put on parents!

Gaia Bernstein is an Author, a Law Professor and Co-Director of the Institute for Privacy Protection and Co-Director of the Gibbons Institute for Law Science and Technology at the Seton Hall University School of Law. On today’s episode, Gaia and Randi discuss the importance of making legal changes to help with regulating technology. Managing the constant battle of our kids being hooked on tech is too much for any parent. We need our legal system to help us keep our kids’ brains safe. Tech addiction is very dangerous. Many experts have reported a mental health state of emergency for kids.

While Gaia is working on the legal side of it, Randi offers real time suggestions of changes that can be made inside the home. Enjoy this VERY relevant conversation to help our kids keep tech in check.

Download Your Free Guide to Keep Tech in Check: https://mastermindparenting.com/techcheck/

About Gaia Bernstein

Gaia Bernstein is a renowned professor on issues at the intersections of law, technology, privacy and health, and author of the book: Unwired: Gaining Control over Addictive Technologies (Cambridge University Press, March 31, 2023).

Gaia’s Web and Social Links

Twitter: https://twitter.com/bernsteingaia

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaia-bernstein-638b0252/

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

234: What Your Doctor or Therapist Really Thinks About Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Little did I know that when I stepped into a therapist's office years ago, not only would my life be forever changed - but that I would go on to empower thousands of parents to cultivate healthier relationships with their children through the revolutionary Mastermind Parenting program. What started as a journey of self-discovery has evolved into a life-altering mission - but the story isn't over yet.

“Boundaries are hard for all of us, but if I could learn this, anyone can learn this.”

In this episode, I welcome an esteemed panel of professionals who bring their personal experiences and extensive knowledge to the conversation. These experts include pediatricians and a psychologist, all of whom are also Mastermind Parenting members. With their combined expertise in child development, medical and mental health, the panelists provide valuable insights into the importance of effective communication and boundary-setting for parents navigating the challenges of raising strong-willed children.

It all started when I walked into a therapist's office years ago, unaware of the concept of boundaries. This would become a significant turning point in my life, as the therapist recommended reading books on codependency and learning about boundaries. With a mix of disbelief and curiosity, I delved into the topic, gradually realizing the importance of effective communication and boundary-setting.

In this episode, you will be able to:

Uncover the underlying factors of strong-willed child behavior and how to navigate it effectively.
Master techniques for fostering open communication and establishing firm boundaries in parenting.
Develop tailored parenting strategies to celebrate and accommodate individual differences in children.
Delve into holistic solutions to address behavioral challenges and foster child growth.
Discover the benefits and impact of a supportive community and extensive resources in your parenting journey.

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

233: What If Strong-Willed Behavior Is A Symptom, Not The Problem?

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0500

When I read an article about the increasing number of pediatric mental health emergency visits, I knew something was wrong. Little did I know, it was only the tip of the iceberg - beneath the surface, these children were crying out for help in ways that weren't being properly understood.

In this episode of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, I discuss the rising number of pediatric mental health emergency visits and the importance of coaching in parenting. I was inspired to talk about this after reading an article in the Houston Chronicle. With proper coaching, parents can better understand their child's behavior and communicate more effectively. A lack of coaching often leads parents down a rabbit hole of diagnostics and expensive tests, when they could be finding solutions through a parenting coach instead.

In this episode, you will be able to:

1. Discover why pediatric mental health emergency visits are on the rise.

2. Understand the significant role coaching plays in successful parenting.

3. Learn techniques to manage strong-willed children without resorting to chemical interventions.

4. Recognize the differences between various coaching styles and training options.

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join us for Coach Week Live - The Transforming Your Strong-Willed Kid Challenge & Online Parenting Class: https://mastermindparenting.com/coachweek
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

232: The Kid that Hurts Other Kids

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0500

When a mother's strong-willed son kicks another mother's son in the park, she chooses to empower both kids with a conversation instead of engaging in a defensive battle, teaching her son a valuable lesson in conflict resolution. From kicking to communicating, learn how you can transform your child's conflict style.

“Can you imagine if every single child, especially the strong-willed ones, learned how to resolve conflict and learned how to be better communicators? Honestly, I think the whole world would change.”

In this episode, you will be able to:

1. Develop critical conflict resolution and communication abilities for children.

2. Implement the N.I.C.E. framework to enhance your parenting approach.

3. Tackle strong-willed children's behavior with the power of supportive conversations.

4. Embrace the significance of mutual understanding and cooperative parenting.

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join us for Coach Week Live - The Transforming Your Strong-Willed Kid Challenge & Online Parenting Class: https://mastermindparenting.com/coachweek
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

231: Transforming a Strong-Willed Kid: Anne-Ashley's Journey to Healing

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Lindsey, my "co-parent", has a conversation with Mastermind Parent Anne-Ashley to find out how we helped her by tapping into the N.I.C.E. parenting framework. You will hear how this exhausted, and desperate mother was able to change her strong-willed child's behavior and create a better life for her family.

Anne-Ashley had exhausted all of her resources trying to help her strong-willed child, who also had a medical diagnosis. Despite her medical knowledge, Anne-Ashley was unable to get her child's behavior under control. Lindsay shared her story with Randi, who assured her that they could help Anne-Ashley since the problem was behavioral. Through working with Mastermind Parenting, Anne-Ashley was able to make changes not only for her child, but for herself as well, and both are now happier and healthier.

"We're transforming our strong-willed kids and changing their lives - if we can share what we have learned and help other families who are in a similar situation, then we all win."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. How a medical professional and mother of a strong-willed child found solutions to her family's struggles.

2. What motivated a parent to share her story and how it can benefit other families.

3. How a parent's inner transformation can lead to better outcomes for their children.

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join us for Coach Week Live - The Transforming Your Strong-Willed Kid Challenge & Online Parenting Class: https://mastermindparenting.com/coachweek

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

230: Are You a Cycle-Breaker? How to Become the Parent You Wish You'd Had

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Break the cycle and be the parent you wish you had, for a lifetime of meaningful connections with your kids.

Today I’m focusing on cycle breaking and the parent-child relationship. I had a past client who had reached out to me, wanting to re-connect and catch up. Her daughter was in 8th grade at the time I guided her and was rebelling against her mother's controlling tactics. The mother had a deep desire to be the mother she wished she'd had, so she worked with me to learn better tools.

As we were getting back together years later, the daughter was now a senior in college, and she was calling her mother for advice. The mother realized she had become the parent she wished she had had and that she was a cycle breaker. To do some self-reflection to see how you might become a cycle breaker, I suggest journaling about three things: what you're anxious about, what you wish your parents had done differently, and what you can say to your kid to make them feel seen and understood.

"Becoming the parent that you wished you had had and accepting the cycle breaker invitation is like the fountain of youth - nothing feels better."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. How can becoming a cycle-breaker be the “fountain of youth?”

2. What could parents do to become their child's "person" and create a strong connection?

3. What is one thing parents can say to make their child feel seen and understood?

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join us for Coach Week Live - The Transforming Your Strong-Willed Kid Challenge & Online Parenting Class: https://mastermindparenting.com/coachweek
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

229: Uncovering the Causes of Contrarian Kids - Jillian's Story

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Contrarian Kids are often moody, negative, and can have after school restraint collapse. They may be trying to tell us that they are feeling overwhelmed, and their negative attitude has been a way to get attention. Jillian, a medical professional, was stumped by her contrarian kid and spoke with Lindsay who helped her shift her relationship and her daughter. She realized she was focusing on her daughter being strong-willed without acknowledging that she was being strong-willed too, and that’s why they were constantly butting heads and her daughter would win every time. You may relate to Jillian's story as this conversation between Jillian and Lindsay provides an insightful resource to help those in similar situations.

"The reason that the contrarian pattern is in our lives is because there really is something to figure out. We must figure out what is causing my kid to have this blown nervous system so much of the time. Where are they putting so much energy out and using their bandwidth that it's just too much for them?"

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. What is the contrarian kid, and what do they want to tell us?

2. How can we help our contrarian children regulate their nervous system?

3. What is the story of Randi Rubenstein's formerly strong-willed child, and how did their relationship change?

And much more! The biggest thing Jillian has learned through this process of learning our N.I.C.E. framework to transform her strong-willed kid is that Jillian herself is a highly sensitive person. This is why I say parenting is the ultimate personal development journey. When we are open to coaching and seeing things differently, we learn so much not only about our kids but about ourselves as well.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

228: The Un-Meltdown Method

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 09:00:00 -0500

How often are we accidentally pouring gasoline on our fiery kids and fanning the flames rather than helping to extinguish the fiery outbursts? Today I have a mom who shares a story about her 10-year-old daughter beginning to spiral on an airplane because she was super thirsty.

She modeled for her daughter how to ask for what she needs in a polite way and allowed the flight attendant to help her get her basic need met. This helped to create a team atmosphere with her daughter and avoid a World War Three meltdown. I also share experiences that when I notice other parents struggling, I can provide positive attention to the child instead of judging the parent.

"Ask for what you need, let people support you, and appreciate it when they show up for you - it's not a big deal."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. How often are we making small deals into big deals in our minds?

2. What can we do when we see parents doing it wrong?

3. How can we create positive moments with strangers that can lead to powerful conversations?

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

227: Navigating Divorce & Parenting with Karen McMahon

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

"Transform your relationship into a healthy, mindful and conscious home for your children - learn to mend, not end."

Karen McMahon is a certified relationship and divorce coach and founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She has been helping men and women around the world to become calm, clear, and confident as they navigate divorce since 2010.

Karen experienced the difficulty of navigating a divorce and parenting when her own marriage ended. She came to understand that the conversation was never about the relationship, but instead, it was the relationship itself. With the support of professionals, Karen realized that she had an equal part in the conflict, and she needed to take responsibility for that. She was able to build her self-confidence, find the resources and support she needed, and ultimately make the best decision for her and her children. Karen emerged from her divorce experience empowered and stronger, and now encourages others to take the same journey.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. How can you know when it's time to mend or end your marriage?

2. What can you do to ensure you are making an empowered decision about your marriage?

3. How can you learn to navigate a high conflict divorce in an emotionally regulated way?

And much more!

About Karen McMahon, Divorce & Relationship Coach

Karen’s passion is to help men and women navigate the emotional difficulties of relationships, breakups and divorce. Your work together will open up the possibility that your current relationship challenges can lead to a rewarding voyage of self-discovery and an immensely more pleasing life experience.

Karen founded Journey Beyond Divorce in 2010, after discovering that the pain of dissolving her marriage had been the very stimulus for her personal transformation.

During her three and a half year tumultuous divorce, Karen’s life began to improve exponentially. With much hard work, she embraced her new life, created healthy friendships, found her true voice, and learned to set suitable boundaries and let go of what she could not control.

Learning to live a healthy enlivened life is something that we can share with our children creating thriving relationships with them while helping them grow emotionally strong and healthy.

Karen is the mother of two emerging adults, a graduate of the world’s leading coaching institute, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) and a Certified Member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

Karen’s other accomplishments include work as a NYS Lobbyist, Health Advocate, Community Organizer, and Chairperson of a NYS non-profit organization, Director of Sales and Marketing, and successful small business owner.

Karen’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenmcmahon

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

226: #5 The Enforce Wing in The Framework That Transforms Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Today I introduce you to the “E” in the N.I.C.E. Framework, the final step in this roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “E” stands for Enforce and it’s where we begin navigating the difficult task of balancing firmness and empathy while enforcing consequences sparingly.

We want to enforce consequences sparingly, as part of the N.I.C.E. Framework, which involves assessing basic needs, investigating behaviors, and communicating as a firm and loving “pack leader.” Consequences should be discussed out of the moment and should be logical and related. Following through on consequences can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it is a necessary part of disrupting old patterns and teaching children new skills. For more information on the N.I.C.E. Framework, please visit MastermindParenting.com for a self-study course or a twelve-week hybrid group and personalized coaching program.

"Disrupting a pattern by following through on a consequence that you discussed ahead of time and now you're actually having to follow through on it pretty much always blows, but you can mentally prepare to lean into the suckage and do the hard things."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. How can understanding the N.I.C.E. Framework help transform strong-willed kids?

2. What strategies can be used to effectively enforce consequences while still being a "nice" parent?

3. How can the N.I.C.E. Framework help parents learn to communicate with their children in a language they can comprehend?

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series

#1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222
#2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223
#3 Investigation Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/224
#4 Communication Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/225

225: #4 The Communication Wing in The Framework That Transforms Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Today I introduce you to the “C” in the N.I.C.E. Framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “C” stands for Communication and it’s where we learn to communicate with our children in a language they can comprehend.

This N.I.C.E. Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. During this episode, I discussed how it is important to communicate with our strong-willed, highly sensitive kids in a language they can understand, utilizing empathy and pack leadership. This style of communication allows us to assess basic needs, investigate behavior, and establish rules and boundaries without arguing or making excuses. It also involves actively listening and mirroring back what our kids say to show we believe them. Finally, if the same problematic behavior continues, we can establish a consequence in the E wing of the N.I.C.E. Framework. (Next episode, stay tuned!)

"When you learn how to communicate with our kids in this way, where we see their perspective and we really hear them. When we really listen to them, they feel heard and listened to, and then we can problem solve together."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. Uncovering why our kids are not doing well and how to effectively communicate with them in a productive way.

2. Understanding the 77% of communication that is nonverbal and the language our kids can truly comprehend.

3. Discovering how to establish rules, boundaries and teach new skills with a combination of empathy and pack leadership.

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series

#1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222
#2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223
#3 Investigate Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/224

224: #3 The Investigation Wing in The Framework That Transforms Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Today I introduce you to the “I” in the NICE framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “I” stands for Investigation and it’s where we dive deeper to figure out what is causing our children to behave the way they do.

This NICE Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. Last episode we focused on assessing basic needs like sleep and food. If the behavior continues, we move to the “I,” and we dig deeper and become a detective to uncover the root of the strong-willed behavior.

All behavior is a form of communication. A mom had a son who was getting in trouble at school, but it was discovered that he had a dyslexia diagnosis. Through investigating, it was also discovered that he was not getting enough sleep.

"Kids do well if they can. As Dr. Ross Green says. I love that quote. It just says it all."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. What is the secret behind transforming strong-willed child behavior?

2. What is the QTIP tool for dealing with challenging child behavior?

3. How can a parent uncover the root cause of disruptive child behavior?

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series

#1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222
#2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223

223: #2 The Needs Wing in The Framework That Transforms Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Today I introduce you to the “N” in the NICE framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “N” stands for Needs and it’s where we begin to figure out what is causing our children to behave the way they do.

This NICE Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. We must assess basic needs like sleep, food, and connection before communicating and enforcing boundaries and consequences. A mom came to me after her daughter was using the “I’m scared” excuse to avoid tasks. I use this common challenge and unpack what the root issue is, then recommend looking at basic needs first and found that the connection between mother and daughter was the solution. We must take time to diagnose real problems and look for the solution in basic needs.

"Kids are designed to be magical thinkers and to experience a whole lot of joy and to get lost in play. So, if we have a kid that's not doing that, the majority of the time, we know we have a problem. We know we have a problem. It's just a matter of how do we fix the problem? What is the solution?"

In this episode, you will learn the following:

How can understanding basic needs help to transform a strong-willed child's behavior?
What are the components of the NICE Framework and how can it be used to communicate effectively with strong-willed kids?
How can pausing to assess basic needs interrupt the cycle of dysregulation in strong-willed children?

And much more!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters
Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series

#1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222

222: #1-The Framework That Transforms Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

The NICE framework solves parenting challenges with strong-willed kids. Today on the Mastermind Parenting Podcast, I introduce you to the NICE framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. It emphasizes being patient, present, consistent, calm, kind, and loving while also being a leader. Through this framework, parents can model the behavior they want to see in their kids, while also emphasizing freedom and trust.

"If we want to raise nice, polite, kind people, wouldn't they learn how to be those people if we showed up first and foremost as nice people ourselves?"

In this episode, you will learn the following:

How can you raise polite and kind children without becoming a pushover or doormat?
What is the 'NICE' framework which helps turn difficult behaviors around?
What can you do to support your child in areas where there is struggle?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

221: Lying - Why We Hate It and What To Do About It

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Lying and its development in children is natural. Listen today and hear a scenario about an eight-year-old boy who was lying and refusing to take responsibility for his mistakes. Little kids lie as a normal part of their development, typically to avoid getting into trouble or because of what I call their “magical thinking brain.” Older kids lie when it doesn't feel safe to tell the truth, which can be caused by feeling overwhelmed, insecure, or jealous. To handle lying in children, it is important to remember to connect before correcting and to remember that all behavior is communication.

"It takes courage to admit when we screw up."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

How can parents effectively handle lying in their children?
What is the root cause behind a child's lying behavior?
How do children's lies change as they develop, and how can parents adjust their response accordingly?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

220: A Good Parent Is...

Thu, 12 Jan 2023 12:00:00 -0500

A struggling parent of a strong-willed child seeks to define good parenting but finds themselves in a dilemma where they must choose between pushing their child too hard or letting them miss out on essential learning experiences. Listen and learn the secrets to raising strong-willed kids and helping them grow into successful, independent adults.

This episode of the Mastermind Parenting podcast with Randi Rubenstein is about strong-willed kids. A good parent means striving to be better by learning and growing, and it often takes a difficult, strong-willed kid to push us to take the time to do that. A good parent also understands there is no such thing as perfection, and that strong-willed kids are like a tough personal trainer, pushing us to break the cycle and create the dream family we have always wanted.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

Is there a roadmap to being a good parent?
How can you tell when you're making the right decisions as a parent?
What does it mean to be a "cycle breaker" and how can you strive to be one?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

219: New Year’s Resolutions: How to Help Our Kids (and Ourselves) When We Want to Quit and Give Up

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode I challenge exhausted parents to take a break from setting New Year's resolutions, go ahead and take a nap, you have permission. I also guide you on how to focus on your goals and dreams and embrace the power of visualizing your "B-rated" movie for the upcoming year.

Through this episode, I stress the importance of making time for ourselves and taking a break from the hustle. We have to give ourselves permission to take a nap, to blow off New Year's resolutions, and to focus on our own needs and goals. We can incorporate the concept of manifesting and incorporating a growth mindset when setting goals or intentions. We can even make a cheesy B-rated movie in our minds with us as the star and our kids as supporting characters to help us visualize our goals and dreams.

"Give yourself permission to have a cheesy B rated movie going on in your brain that you're the star of and allow yourself to daydream and envision the person you want to become this year."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

How can you teach your children to be the best version of themselves without sacrificing your own needs and desires?
What is the neuroscience behind manifesting and setting goals for yourself?
Why is it important to take the time to envision and rehearse conflict in order to achieve your goals?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

218: Uncovering the Strong-Willed Child with Dr. Sarah Miller

Tue, 27 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Dr. Sarah Miller and I work together to create a quiz that will help people determine if their child is strong-willed. Through her experience as a pediatrician, she has identified red flags that could signify a medical condition. In addition to traditional screenings, she suggests looking at a child's sleep, mealtimes, transitions, and nutrition. She also emphasizes the importance of recognizing patterns and understanding a child's temperament. Ultimately, she believes it is possible to harness a child's strong will and turn it into a strength.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

Uncovering the difference between strong-willed behavior and medical conditions
Using boundary setting to help manage strong-willed behavior
Understanding the four temperaments of babies to prepare for strong-willed behavior in the future.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Book your free Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

217: Gratitude - Teaching Your Kids to Appreciate the Holiday Season mixdown

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Join us for another coaching workshop all about having a happier holiday season! Discover how to make this holiday season extra special for your family with these simple tips for having happier holidays! You will learn how to make this holiday season extra special for your family with these simple tips for having happier holidays.

I chat about how privileges are extras and when they become a problem, they need to be taken away for a bit. A key point is to set expectations on how to show up responsibly and to follow through with consequences when expectations aren't met. We should focus on the importance of gratitude and how it makes for a happier person. Instead of focusing on presents, what kids will remember is the mood their parents are in and how it makes them feel.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

What is the science behind practicing gratitude?
How can parents help their children become grateful and not entitled?
What is the best way to enforce boundaries with children while avoiding power struggles?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

216: Weekend Warm Up: How to Survive and Thrive During the Holidays

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Feeling overwhelmed by the holidays? Join us for our two-part coaching workshop all about having a happier holiday season! We'll be talking about setting an intention for the holiday, creating good family memories, and how to stay relaxed and present as a parent. Learn our favorite holiday tool to get through the toughest moments and make your holiday season magical!

I always want my kids to have a magical childhood, but sometimes I worry that judgy relatives or my kids' behavior will get in the way. I know that all judgment is self-projection, and so I'm determined to be a relaxed, present, and joy-filled parent this holiday season. I'm also setting an intention of family fun and good memories so that my kids can look back on their childhood with fondness.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

What is your favorite holiday memory as a kid?
What are you hoping to impart on your kids this holiday season?
What gets in the way of you being that relaxed, present, calm, engaged, joy-filled parent?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Parents…Do you have the kid that won’t listen, won’t follow simple requests, or just won’t allow anything to be easy? If that’s you, then join us for our next Coach Week: 3 Days of FREE Live Coaching: https://mastermindparenting.com/octobercoachweek/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

215: Healing Family Relationships - A Conversation with Daniel Maté

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

The amazing Daniel Maté joined me for this week's episode. With his father, Gabor Maté, Daniel has recently authored The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture. In this revolutionary book, they recognize the prevailing understanding of “normal” as false, neglecting the roles that trauma and stress, and the pressures of modern-day living, exert on our bodies and our minds at the expense of good health.

Are you struggling to find the best ways to ensure a strong bond between yourself and your parents and/or your children? Daniel Maté has the answer. As an award-winning lyricist and composer for musical theater, Daniel has a unique perspective on strengthening relationships between parents and their children. Join us for a fascinating conversation!

"The vulnerable thing for me was in the last workshop we did, something happened between us on stage where I thought an agreement got violated, trust got violated. There was a breakdown in collaboration, basically, and I got triggered."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

The difference between being intelligent about emotions and being emotionally intelligent.
How the adult parent child relationship is workable, but often not worked on.
The performative nature of Daniel and his father's candor about difficult topics.

About Daniel Maté

Daniel Maté is an award-winning lyricist and composer for musical theatre. With his father Gabor Maté, he is the co-author of the recently published The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture, and the forthcoming Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children, based on the popular workshop of the same name.

Daniel runs the world's only "mental chiropractic" service, where he takes walks with people—in person and remotely—and helps them get unstuck by aligning their minds. He lives in Brooklyn, NY

Daniel’s Links

Social: @danielbmate
Website: https://www.walkwithdaniel.com
Website: https://www.danielmate.com
Book, The Myth of Normal: https://amzn.to/3UywPDl

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

I want to get you geared up to survive and thrive during the 2022 Holiday Season! Join our next Weekend Warm Up FREE Coaching Calls: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

214: Sleep and Other Stuff - The Pediatrician’s Perspective with Dr. Sarah Miller

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0500

"The sleep state is just as active, if not more so, than the awake state. Your brain is not asleep. It's just active in a different way and helping your body heal, helping your minds formulate thoughts, memories, ideas, and creativity. And it is critical to everything physically, mentally, and emotionally."

We’re back with another episode of the Pediatrician's Perspective, where I sit down with Dr. Sarah Miller, the doctor that I'm writing a book with, and I just thought it would be a good idea to bring what we talk about in private to the podcast airwaves and just share our conversation with you. If you're not getting enough sleep, you're not alone. In fact, according to a recent study, nearly one third of Americans are sleep deprived. And, as Dr. Sarah Miller points out, this lack of sleep can have far-reaching consequences. Not only does it make it difficult to focus and be productive, but it can also lead to weight gain, moodiness, and even depression.

During our conversation, we reveal strategies to help your kids get better sleep, and get their homework done faster with better results. We also reveal some good tips you can also follow to make sure you get enough sleep too. We both agree that good sleep hygiene and habits are the best health habits you can develop. Many other health challenges stem from our chronic lack of sleep.

Here are some steps you can follow to get better health, productivity, creativity.:

Realize the importance of sleep and the benefits it provides.
Create a bedtime routine and stick to it.
Make sure you are getting enough sleep each night.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

I want to get you geared up to survive and thrive during the 2022 Holiday Season! Join our next Weekend Warm Up FREE Coaching Calls: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

213: Surviving Judgey Relatives During the Holidays

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Thanksgiving is here, and I'm feeling stressed. I remember what it was like when my kids were little, and we had to go to all the extended family gatherings. It was exhausting trying to keep them entertained and well-behaved. I came up with a plan to make it more bearable. I called it "present engage time." I would spend the first hour or so with them, just focusing on them and making sure they were comfortable.

It was a great way to bond with them and create positive memories. I also gamified the annoying things that relatives would do. I would play the "but of course they did" game where I would make a joke out of the annoying things that my relatives would do. It was a great way to relieve some stress and tension that comes with the holidays.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

How to turn a stressful Thanksgiving into a positive bonding experience with your kids
How to gamify annoying or judgy relatives
How to use humor to your advantage in difficult situations

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

I want to get you geared up to survive and thrive during the 2022 Holiday Season! Join our next Weekend Warm Up FREE Coaching Calls: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

212: Sibling Rivalry & Boundary Setting: A Coaching Call Replay

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Do you find yourself struggling to keep up with the demands of parenting? You're not alone. In this week's Mastermind Parenting podcast, I coach a mom dealing with intense sibling rivalry and share my favorite tools for setting boundaries with your kids. Sibling rivalry is a common occurrence in many families. It can be frustrating for parents to deal with, but there are ways to manage it. And establishing boundaries is key to helping your kids feel safe.

Today you will be hearing some scenarios from our last Weekend Warm Up call. The Weekend Warm Up is a free coaching call that I do once a month. It's the third Friday of the month, and you simply sign up to get coached by me for free. I started the Weekend Warm Up because I wanted to get to know my podcast listeners. I wanted to have a relationship with them that wasn't just one-sided.

During these calls, I coach parents through their parenting challenges or concerns. Today we’re focusing on how to navigate through sibling rivalry and establishing boundaries with your kids, which are some of the issues I help Moms with often.

Here are just some of the things I cover during this call:

How do you deal with intense sibling rivalry?
How do you establish healthy boundaries with your children?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

I want to get you geared up to survive and thrive during the 2022 Holiday Season! Join our next Weekend Warm Up FREE Coaching Calls: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

211: How to Talk to Your Kids About the Birds and the Bees with Amy Lang

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

How do you have the talk with your kids about sex? What do you say, and how do you say it? In this episode Amy Lang and I discuss how to talk to your kids about sex, including the birds and the bees. We also chat about the importance of using proper terminology for private body parts and the idea that sex is not just for reproduction, but also for pleasure.

"If you're explicit about your values when it comes to sexuality, it helps them make decisions."

Amy Lang is a sex educator with over 16 years of experience. She is the founder of Birds and Bees and Kids, a company dedicated to helping parents feel comfortable and confident when talking to their kids about bodies and sexuality. Amy is also the author of "Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say and How to Say It."

It's no secret that talking to your kids about sex can be really uncomfortable. But it doesn't have to be this way. Amy Lang has been a sex educator for over 16 years and has helped thousands of parents around the world become comfortable and confident when they have these important conversations. If you're dreading the idea of having the sex talk with your kids, this episode is a must-listen.

About Amy Lang

Amy Lang, MA has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. Surprised by her discomfort with just the idea of talking with her young son about his body, she knew she needed help. Amy did a bunch of research to learn how to talk with kids about bodies and sexuality and realized she could help other parents with this important part of parenting. In 2006, she started Birds & Bees & Kids.

With her lively, engaging, and down-to-earth style, she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking with their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center, and podcast show parents how they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source.

She is still married to her first husband, and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle, WA and you can learn more about her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com and BBKPros.com.

Links:

Website - https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/
Website for Professionals - https://bbkpros.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/birdsbeeskids/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeskids/
Bark Parental Controls - https://www.bark.us/

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

210: Your Post-Halloween Candy Plans

Mon, 31 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0500

I hope you're listening to this today because I want to talk about Halloween and the dreaded candy that you have to deal with after Halloween. I'm going to teach you a philosophy, and some planning strategies that helped me handle Halloween and Halloween candy.

And I want you to know you can apply this same method to birthday parties and all the things and situations which are similar. But today we're going to focus on Halloween, and then you can apply it to lots of other areas.

So, I hope you're listening to this today, on Halloween, because it's going to be most effective when you set the plan, which is really establishing the boundaries right before Halloween has actually happened. When you try to set a boundary after it's happened or when you're in the thick of it, it's going to be more inclined to become a power struggle.

So, listen in! And, if you have any extra Almond Joys, send them my way!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Join our next 12-week VIP Basics Bootcamp Parenting Program starting November 1: https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

209: Report Card Check-in with Mastermind Moms Aryn & Shuli

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0500

I have a fun conversation for you this week. I have been doing these live report card sessions with some of my current moms, and I had scheduled one with Aryn and Shuli. They have been in my program for a while. We use these check-ins to discuss their challenges with parenting and how they've grown since joining the Mastermind program.

The format we use to guide our conversation is to first remember where they were before joining, in the muck so-to-speak, frustrated and even feeling ashamed for not being able to make progress or find solutions. Then we get to hear how things are now, what’s worked and helped them find some peace and love in their homes. Finally, we get to dream a bit about what the future will bring!

I truly enjoy getting to know these families and seeing the growth they achieve. Hearing the happiness and joy in their voices is so special! Listen in!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Join our next 12-week VIP Basics Bootcamp Parenting Program starting November 1: https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

208: Pediatrician’s Perspective with Dr. Sarah Miller - ADHD, ASD, OCD…Let’s Talk About Labels!

Tue, 18 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0500

I have something very special for you. I am starting a new segment called the Pediatrician's Perspective, where I sit down with Dr. Sarah Miller. She is the doctor that I'm writing the book with that I've been sort of talking about here and Sarah and I just thought it would be a good idea to bring what we talk about in private to the podcast airwaves and just share our conversation with you. This was totally unscripted. I had a topic that I knew I wanted to talk about with her and I just saved it. It’s a juicy one, and we just have one of our normal conversations and let you, the listeners, be a fly on the wall of this conversation. One of the things that I have found, is that I have actually a decent number of female physicians who take my program, and so I've really gotten to know a lot of female doctors over the last five years or so, and they are some of my favorite, favorite clients because female doctors, they don't mess around.

They take a lot of action. They don't have time to mess around. They're tough. They're super coachable. You can level with them. They're just ready to dig in and get results. So, I love female physicians and what I've noticed is that when we're talking, and we're really talking, I hear a whole different side of things.

Our hope is that you are going to write in or call in and leave us messages so that we can start to make this a Q and A segment. And if it doesn't turn into that, Sarah and I could talk for years. We have so much that we always have to talk about and there it's always kid related. We're both super passionate about children and families and helping people get along better and feel more peaceful in their bodies and just live healthier lives.

So, here's the first segment of the pediatrician's perspective with Dr. Sarah Miller, and I hope you guys like it! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

207: Weekend Warm Up Free Parenting Coaching Call with Randi

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0500

We all know the drill. The new school year starts, and we're determined that THIS will be the year that our kids finally get good sleep habits. We're going to be more organized, we're going to get them to bed on time, no more screen time in bed, etc, etc. But then a month in... what happens? Life happens. The dog has an accident on the floor, there's a big project due at work, your kid's best friend is having a sleepover... and suddenly all our good intentions have gone out the window.

In this episode of the Mastermind Parenting Podcast, I coach parents on how to deal with the inevitable backsliding that occurs when trying to maintain good sleep habits for our kids (and ourselves!). She offers practical tips and advice on how to have conversations with our kids about why getting enough sleep is important, how to create a bedtime routine that works for everyone, and what to do when things inevitably go off the rails.

Today you will be hearing some questions and scenarios from our last Weekend Warm Up call. The Weekend Warm Up is a free coaching call that I do once a month. It's the third Friday of the month, and you simply sign up to get coached by me for free. I started the Weekend Warm Up because I wanted to get to know my podcast listeners. I wanted to have a relationship with them that wasn't just one-sided.

During these calls, I coach parents through their parenting challenges or concerns. Today we’re focusing on children backsliding in their progress, whether it be sleep, responsibilities, or waking up on time. Right now, we often see kids needing some reminders and strategies to help the family get back on track for a successful school year.

Here are just some of the things I cover during this call:

How do you get your kiddo to sleep by himself after 18 months of bedtime struggle?
How do you get a ten-year-old to be more responsible around the house?
How do you prevent backsliding after a strong start to the school year?

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Parents…Do you have the kid that won’t listen, won’t follow simple requests, or just won’t allow anything to be easy? If that’s you, then join us for our next Coach Week: 3 Days of FREE Live Coaching: https://mastermindparenting.com/octobercoachweek/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

206: Not Passing Down Unhealthy Food Mindsets and Eating Disorders with Psychologist Dr. Shawn Hondorp

Tue, 04 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Shawn Hondorp, PhD, ABPP is a board-certified Clinical Health Psychologist and health behavior expert. She earned her doctorate from Drexel University in Philadelphia and completed her pre-doctoral internship and fellowship in Health Psychology at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago.

She has a top-rated podcast called Motivation Made Easy: Body Respect, True Health where she outlines effective approaches to improve health and well-being by looking at how research and real-world experience collide via conversation and personal stories.

She has unique training and experience doing research and patient care in the fields of weight management and eating disorders at top-rated hospitals and universities around the country, including but not limited to Michigan State University, University of Chicago Eating Disorders Program, Drexel University, Penn Center for Eating and Weight Disorders, and Rush University Medical Center.

She lives in Grand Rapids, MI, with her husband and two kids and pug named Teddy. Her dream vacation day is hiking along a lake surrounded by mountains holding a warm cup of coffee, followed by a delicious dinner and a soak in a hot tub with an ice-cold IPA.

Links:

Website/Podcast - https://drshawnhondorp.com/mmepodcast/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/psychology.of.wellness/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/PsychofWellness
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shawn-hondorp-phd-abpp-24229412/

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Parents…Do you have the kid that won’t listen, won’t follow simple requests, or just won’t allow anything to be easy? If that’s you, then join us for our next Coach Week: 3 Days of FREE Live Coaching: https://mastermindparenting.com/octobercoachweek/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

205: When the Parents Who Were the “Good” Kids Have Strong-Willed Children

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0500

I have a little treat for you this week. I am including a coaching clip where I was coaching some parents who have a very strong willed seven-year-old son, and these people are like beautiful people. They adopted this child from another country, and he didn't come to them until he was three years old, and they've just kind of been at a loss. He's dysregulated a lot of the time and they are incredibly patient, loving people.

When I started digging into their story early on, I figured out that they were lacking pack leadership. And this is a kid that needs a lot of structure and certainty in his life. So, we must tighten up the family structures in terms of bedtime, in terms of expectations. We've really been walking them through what that looks like in real life and. How you're able to show up and what I call pack leadership, firm and loving communicating with empathy, but also like very intentional in terms of what the family rules are and that violence is not an option.

And just giving this child more structure, more certainty. To help him feel calmer in his body, to help him feel more grounded and regulated. And so, both parents said, “I don't really have a lot of memories of ever breaking rules. Like I was just kind of a good kid.” So, here's these two people that grew up and they were good kids and then they found each other and it's a family with, they love each other, and they had so much love to give, they had one child of their own and then they adopted a child that needed a loving family.

Now they have this little boy who they're trying to support and they're trying to figure this out. They realized they needed to learn some new tools. So, I think you'll enjoy this coaching clip. Many of you will identify with and just realize that there's really no good kids and there's no bad kids, and all little kids live in their emotional brain, so if you were the “good kid,” I'm going to challenge you a little bit to dig into your story more, so enjoy this coaching clip.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Parents…Do you have the kid that won’t listen, won’t follow simple requests, or just won’t allow anything to be easy? If that’s you, then join us for our next Coach Week: 3 Days of FREE Live Coaching: https://mastermindparenting.com/octobercoachweek/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

204: The Kid That Just Won't Stop Playing

Tue, 20 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0500

This week we are going to be talking about the kid that just won't stop playing. Which sounds sweet… but as we listen to this mom's scenario, we discover it's not so sweet. She asks, “Do I just ignore the behavior that arises when I give a consequence or enforce a boundary? They always get angry and then act out.”

Apparently, it was time to leave the house in the morning and after prior warnings such as, “We are leaving in 5 minutes…” when it was time to go her child REFUSED to stop playing with his toy. After telling him twice and being ignored, she removed the toy and said he could play with it when they got home.

He started screaming, stamping his feet, slamming doors, calling her names, throwing things.... So, does she then just ignore all that stuff? What do you think? Many of us have been in a similar situation at some point. And during this episode we’re going to unpack what these kiddos may be trying to communicate to us, and how we can understand where they are, and meet them there. It’s not about consequences or punishments to get them to do what you want them to do. Understanding their temperament, and how to communicate is key, and will keep everyone happier. Listen in!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Parents…Do you have the kid that won’t listen, won’t follow simple requests, or just won’t allow anything to be easy? If that’s you, then join us for our next Coach Week: 3 Days of FREE Live Coaching: https://mastermindparenting.com/octobercoachweek/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

203: Are You Living in a Stable Misery Cycle with Dr. Lynyetta Willis

Tue, 13 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Hi guys, I have Lynyetta Willis with me today. She is a psychologist and family empowerment coach, and she helps frustrated families stop Stable Misery cycles or unhelpful patterns that keep them stuck so they can create more joy in their parenting or partnerships. Her Triggered to Transformed parent coaching program has helped parents all over the world to confidently deal with their triggers so they can pass on the best parts of themselves and enjoy parenting.

Dr. Willis believes that in order to create lasting shifts in the culture and consciousness of future generations, organizations, and the world, we must begin by shifting the consciousness of families. Dr. Willis is committed to helping transform the world one family at a time. Listen in to this fascinating and powerful conversation!

About Dr. Lynetta Willis

Dr. Lynyetta Willis, psychologist, family empowerment coach, speaker, and award-winning author - helps frustrated families break free from Stable Misery® and unhelpful parenting and partnership patterns, so they can create more harmony at home.

Over 20 years of journeying with countless clients led her to design the research-supported Elemental Living® Model and P.A.T.H.S. Relationship Framework. These powerful tools help parents and partners improve communication, minimize overreactions, and transform intergenerational trauma.

Dr. Willis’ Harmony in the Home Couples Program and Triggered to Transformed® Group Parenting Program have received rave reviews from couples and parents across the globe in South Africa, Israel, New Zealand, and Australia.

A sought-after speaker, media contributor, and author, Dr. Willis’s award-winning book, My Forgotten Self: A Story about a Girl, a Powerful Encounter, and a Universal Message, received high acclaim from individuals such as Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and “Oprah’s Parenting Expert”; Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, author and spiritual leader of Agape International Truth Center; and Michal Berg, President and CEO of Spirituality for Kids International, Inc.

Dr. Willis lives in Georgia with her husband and their two children.

Links:

Website - https://www.drlwillis.com
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCt1DFzgVPbHED4O47clhYdg
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drlwillis/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrLWillis
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlwillis/

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

202: The Kid That Just Won’t Series

Tue, 06 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0500

This month I'm doing a little series called The Kid That Just Won't. The kid that just won't follow simple requests, like getting their freaking shoes on and getting ready for school. Or sitting down and eating their breakfast. Or coming out of their room, having their teeth brushed, having their hair brushed, having their clothes on their body… the kid that just won't follow simple requests.

The kid that won't stop space invading, those kids that are just everywhere you are, just next to you all the time, or right next to their sibling. Just constant space invasion. Or the kid that won't stop destructive behavior. Maybe it's that they're grabbing things away from their sibling or they're just making a mess all the time.

Or wherever they are, it's just like Tasmanian Devil chaos. Or the kid that won't listen, you feel like you have to say something repeatedly. And you’re wondering, “When is the time going to come where I can just say something once?” Is that a huge goal?

Basically, the kid that won't allow anything to be easy. Do you have one of these kids? A lot of you can probably relate, because most kids behave this way at some point. So, I’m putting together this series to help you with some strategies and ways you can recognize why they may be behaving this way. Ways to nail down the root cause so you can be less frustrated and find peace. And maybe achieve some of those goals!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

201: When Your Co-Parent is the Problem - Back-to-School Series

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Welcome to the last episode of our series about Bullying, Boundaries and Back-to-School. We haven't talked about any back-to-school typical things, like this is how to set up your binders and this is how to make sure your kids do all their summer work. Anyway, this month we have been following through some of these posts by this woman that I've been calling Marie, who has been posting about her strong-willed children.

And we feel bad for Marie and many of us identify with aspects of Marie. We want to love Marie up. We want to help Marie and I really want to just say to Marie, you know what, it's not your fault. And I wish I could make it all better. The fixer in me is strong. This last episode of this series, which is called “When Your Co-Parent is the Problem,” which is what Marie really believes. And you'll see in some of her posts why she believes that.

The root of the problem is we've got a mom and a dad, and it sounds like there's a lot of tension and a lack of communication between them. And they're setting the tone for the household and the kids, these strong-willed kids who aren't respecting boundaries. Well, it sounds like Dad's not respecting Mom's boundaries. It sounds like there's a lack of boundaries across the board. There's a real breakdown in this family structure. And these kids are just holding up a mirror saying you can focus on our behavior, our misbehavior, but what we're really trying to do is to alert you guys, that this family dynamic isn't working for anyone.

So, Mom, you want to do something? You're going to have to start holding people accountable. What might that mean? Listen to this episode as we unpack this situation and provide a few tips to help some of you work through this if it’s a part of your parenting world.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

200: When Consequences & Professional Advice Don't Work - Back-to-School Series

Thu, 25 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0500

This seems like an appropriate conversation for episode 200. Again, we are talking this month about Bullying, Boundaries, and Back-to-School. And I think that hopefully you understand that my point with back-to-school is way more than making sure your kids have the right school supplies.

If you want to prepare your kids for back-to-school, the best thing in the world you could do is dig into boundaries, badgering, behavior, accountability, and getting to the root of the real source of the misbehaviors and the lack of peace in your household. That's the greatest thing you can do, because having structures in place and communicating with your kids, what's okay with you, what's not okay with you when they don't follow the rules. These are the “oops day rules” and this will help your brain remember.

Again, we’re unpacking some posts from social media. Our mom who is looking for the perfect consequence that will “work,” that will actually matter to her kids doesn’t understand that’s not what consequences are about. Consequences are about cause and effect, they are about teaching people. Listen in today if you feel boundaries and consequences are eluding you as well, and you may find some tips that can help you find a little less struggle, and more peace in your world.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

199: The Kid Just Won’t… - Back-to-School Series

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Welcome to this episode. We are still going to be continuing with our theme of Bullying, Boundaries, and Back-to-School. The title is The Kid Just Won’t… and I'm going to continue reading some social posts from a mom seeking tips for a strong-willed four-year-old who won't cooperate.

We’ve all been there, right? When your child refuses to do what you want them to do. And it tends to escalate, and they become stubborn, and it grows into a big deal when you just want them to pick up some toys. Listen to this episode and learn how to keep your kiddo accountable, while making sure you stay calm and don’t freak out.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

198: When Kids Refuse to STOP - Back-to-School Series

Thu, 18 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0500

We are going to continue with our lovely theme of bullying and boundaries and all things back to school. I know these are not fun topics. I've been working with some different parents, and I just feel like it seems that when things really seem to go south, most of these parents are kicking themselves, and blaming themselves. And they feel like there were lots of warning signs and they put their heads in the sand.

I always have only compassion and never judgment. I know it's an impossible position to be in. And I just feel like with so many of our strong-willed kids, I think there’s a deep-rooted fear that if this is what this looks like at eight or at 10, or if this is how they're behaving towards a sibling, or towards the family members, how are they going to be out in the world? And what's it going to look like when they're 14 and 16 and 19?

I think just so many parents of kids that are struggling and not doing well or showing up with aggressive, mean behaviors that would get them punished, these are the kids that quite often fall through the cracks. Because even these kids that, you know, even when it's your kid, like you love them, but quite often they're hard to like. So, it's a really tricky position to be in when you are deep-down worried, wondering what if one day my kid harms themselves or someone else or both.

My ultimate goal is to help these kids. Because when you help these kids, guess what happens? They don't show up with bullying behaviors. They start to feel better. And when they start to feel better, they start to do better. Today’s episode is focused on when kids just refuse to stop some of these behaviors and strategies you can employ to help them.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

197: Bullying and Badgering Behavior - Back-to-School Series

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Our theme for the rest of the month is Bullies, Boundaries, and Back-to-School and I have something kind of fun in store. I'm going to feature social media posts from my Strong-Willed Kids group, which are parents of strong-willed kids. And there's maybe 5,000 people in this group, and sometimes I'll into the group, and I'll just read posts by the parents. Because I just want to see what people are struggling with currently. I've read scenarios here before, and for the next several episodes I’ll be reading more, unpacking them, and sharing some tips.

We’re starting off the series with a huge topic, one we hear a lot about, especially as kids go back to school. Bullying and Badgering. So, in this episode I’m going to feature some posts, help define bullying and badgering, and then I’ll talk about how to approach the behaviors when they show up in our kids. So much of Mastermind Parenting is digging into the core reasons why these behaviors are appearing, understanding why, then using strategies to help encourage different behaviors.

It’s important to get to the root first, then we can clean and bandage things appropriately.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

195: Giving Our Teens the Real Skills to Land a Job with Allie Danziger, owner of Ampersand

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0500

I have somebody special on the podcast this week. Her name is Allie Danziger, and she has a heartfelt passion for helping ambitious people succeed. In 2009, Allie started one of Texas's top marketing agencies. And let me just say this as y'all will hear in the episode, she was all of 24 years old. She is very hard working, and she loves what she does.

Allie also really cares about being an amazing mom and sister and wife and friend and daughter. I find her story to be extremely inspirational and I'm having her on the show because she's really filling a gap for those of us who are worried about our teens and young adults actually being able to make it out in the real world.

Allie's newest venture Ampersand was started in 2020 and applies the 10,000 hours of lessons she learned in hiring, managing and mentoring entry level employees and interns, and a career readiness and internship matching platform. She compares it to a dating app, like Bumble. Ampersand takes interns and teaches them basic skills and then matches them with companies through their unique career readiness and internship matching platform. In the last year, Ampersand has trained 7,000 young professionals and placed over 450 internships around the country in a variety of companies and industries.

Allie aims to democratize access to internship, placements and internships while simultaneously helping companies of all sizes build a pipeline of talented, driven, and diverse talent. This is a very, very cool company that she has started. And I mean, I could take some lessons, many lessons from this young mom / whipper snapper, who just knows how to get some sh*t done. She's really impressive. I think you guys will love learning from her and hearing what she's got going on.

About Allie Danziger

Allie has a passion for helping ambitious people succeed. Allie started, and later sold, one of Texas' top marketing agencies, Integrate Agency, where she was lucky enough to work with, and learn from, some of the most talented innovators, designers, thinkers and doers she had ever met; the chance to lead a company that has generated over $15MM in total revenue, employed over 150 people, and helped over 600 clients grow.

Allie’s new venture, Ampersand, applies her >10,000 hours of lessons learned in hiring, managing and mentoring so many employees and interns in my 12 years running Integrate. She is now dedicating her time to eliminating the skills gap from higher education to employment, and democratizing access to internship placement and mentorship, while also helping companies run successful internship programs.

Gain exclusive access to Ampersand's Career Preparation bootcamp: https://www.ampersandpro.com/careerprep

Allie’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://www.ampersandpro.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AmpersandProfessionals/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ampersand_pro/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ampersand-professionals
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ampersand_pro

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

194: The REAL Secret to Improving Behavior [Re-Release]

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 06:00:00 -0500

We are going back to an episode where I really talk about what I think high sensitivity means to me. I read the book The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron and I've read many articles and I've studied this for a while. The acronym is HSP for highly sensitive person. I know many people are familiar with it these days.

I just thought it would be helpful because I refer to HSP quite often. And so if you have heard this term, or maybe you haven't heard this term, and you're curious about it, listen to this short and sweet episode where I talk about it and what I think that it means.

I think that many people who have kids that are challenging, who challenge us, who call us to more, who a lot of people say are strong willed. And I think me bringing this to you guys again, is that I want y'all to really think about the questions, “Am I a highly sensitive person? Is my child a highly sensitive person?”

This is just all about self-awareness because I think that the main thing that needs to change in our culture is we need to stop thinking that there's something wrong with our kids and that they need to be fixed. Right? You didn't get a difficult child, you got a human one and there's never going to be one human being exactly like another, even identical twins. They are not exactly alike. Like we are humans. We are human four-leaf clovers. I think we have to start thinking about our kids as the little humans that they are, and it's our job to understand them, to understand when they're challenging us, all behaviors, communication, and we have to play investigator and, and, and help them help them do better. Help them feel better.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

You’re invited to the FREE Weekend Warm-up Coaching call: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting
The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When The World Overwhelms Them by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.: https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Child-Children-Overwhelms/dp/0767908724/

193: Anxious Kids and Other Hard Topics with Author and Therapist Christina Furnival

Tue, 12 Jul 2022 06:00:00 -0500

Welcome to this episode with Christina Furnival, a San Diego based wife, mom to two young children, licensed psychotherapist, writer and children's book author. Christina has over a decade of experience in the mental health field and she's helped countless families work through anxiety, depression, behavior challenges, and big life changes.

Christina uses her personal and professional experience in her articles and books to support adults and children around the world. Christina's passionate about supporting parents and children to understand themselves better navigate challenges with confidence and live the life that they want.

And today she is joining me to talk about her latest book, Fear Not: How to Face Your Fear and Anxiety Head On. We’re covering some topics that can be difficult to talk to your kiddos about and how to have these hard conversations. Christina’s books are wonderful conversation starters, and she provides excellent talking points to help guide you along the way.

I just love these books and know you would too. Listen in to our chat and learn how to tackle your own anxiety around these conversations and other areas in your parenting life. Plenty of golden nuggets here, so enjoy!

About Christina Furnival

Christina is a mom of two, wife, mental health therapist, writer, public speaker, and children's book author.

Like every mama, she is constantly juggling all the things. By day, she stay-at-home parents her pretty spectacular and equally exhausting young kids while attempting to work on her social-emotional children’s book series and to write for her blog Real Life Mama and other highly regarded publications. And by night (well, evening, really) via telehealth, Christina is a practicing licensed mental health therapist. And of course she tries to make time for her marriage, and for herself, but it’s not always easy.

Even with her background in mental health, Christina is often overcome by how challenging motherhood and life can be. She is a work in progress, and feels the pains that you do, which is why she cares so deeply about supporting others through all the ups and downs they experience. We all can use a hand every now and again.

When not working, Christina can be found singing loudly, crafting inconsistently, cooking and baking, exercising, going to the beach (her happy place), and having wild dance parties with her family in the living room.

Christina’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://christinafurnival.com/
The Capable Kiddos book series: https://christinafurnival.com/books/

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

When you need to have a hard conversation with your kids, use the FREE cheat sheet and audio training: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

192: Our Bodies, Our Business

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 06:00:00 -0500

I just celebrated my daughter's 21st birthday. We're out in San Diego because she is doing some internships here and we decided to relocate to California for a while. So, I've been working from here. And I have been with my daughter a lot lately. She goes to school in Santa Barbara and we went back to Santa Barbara last weekend to celebrate her birthday and have a whole special weekend. We had a lot of time on the road together, and over the weekend we were processing what is happening in our country right now.

It was interesting to be around her, and she's also moving into a house in Santa Barbara with several other young, smart women. There were a bunch of different birthday things that they did for her this weekend, and we all celebrated together.

So, they're all just beside themselves, understandably with this overturn of Roe v. Wade. I think just so many of us are just in shock and disbelief and grief. And in the coaching world, we’re in what we call the goo, which is anytime we're going through an identity shift, meaning we're not who we were before.

I learned to look at this identity shift In terms of comparing the human to the butterfly. When the caterpillar becomes a butterfly, the caterpillar goes into the chrysalis and then eventually it comes out a totally different animal. And when it goes into the chrysalis, it dissolves, and it becomes like caterpillar soup. And then all the cells within that organism restructure and turn into an entirely new organism. And so the caterpillar becomes a butterfly.

And anytime we go through an identity shift, which is, who I was before is not who I am or who I'm becoming, we all kind of become person soup. We become person “goo” for a while, and this happens all throughout our lives.

So, with this episode I’m unpacking my thoughts and feelings around this transition, and those of others I’ve been talking to, like my daughter, her friends, parents, and others. This is impacting multiple generations. I understand that many of us are grieving, and sometimes anger is a part of the grieving process. But so often I think people just get stuck there. Let's use the anger to mobilize ourselves. Let's use the anger to strategize. Let's use the anger to step out of the privilege that me and many other people have known, which is our bodies, our business.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web and Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources and Links

Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

191: When Your Kid is Loud and Angry

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Here is another conversation that I had with one of the moms in my Mastermind Parenting community. I was doing these live sessions, these live report card sessions, where we were just assessing where you were, where you are, where you're going. It's a big part of the process that involves changing behaviors, right? We can't expect our kids to change their behaviors if we're not changing our behaviors.

When you have a kid that presents as “strong-willed,” quite often they may just be feeling misunderstood. They also frequently get misdiagnosed. This mom, she's here with me in the mastermind community, she says she's improved in terms of yelling by 90% now. No one ever signs up and says, “I'm a yeller.” There's so much shame when we yell at our kids and yet we're human. And when you have a child that you don't know how to help do better, quite often, you lose your mind too. And so, then you just have like two people sort of losing their minds and it's just not helpful, right? Like nothing changes.

This mom has gone through our beginning program, basic bootcamp. For those of you who've been listening to the podcast for a while, we do have a group enrolling starting in a couple of couple days from when this episode is originally airing. Listen to this episode and learn how this mom’s parenting skills, and her husband’s, have improved so she no longer labels herself a “yeller!”

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Join our next 12-week VIP Parenting Program: https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

190: Perfectionistic Parenting with Mastermind Moms Liz & Michelle

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

I have a fun conversation for you this week. I have been doing these live report card sessions with some of my current moms, and I had scheduled one with Michelle and Liz. They have been in my program for a long time.

They’re just amazing women and we were doing our session as a Facebook live, and there were a few technical difficulties and so whatever it was fine, Michelle and I ended up being live and then Liz was just kind of chiming in and commenting. But then she left us a follow up message. So you do actually get to hear Liz's voice and you want to hear Liz's voice.

Talking about parenting, this is something that is one of those taboo subjects most of us have. Because there's something about talking about it that I think can feel disrespectful to your own parents. And then many of us have this worry that when our kids grow up, they're going to come back and blame us for whatever it is that we're doing now. It's just a loaded topic and conversation.

And so, Liz and Michelle are moms that were doing all the learning and they were seeing big results in their household. And yet there was still a little bit of guardedness or just being somewhat reserved at times. And so probably six months ago I started these small accountability groups. And I just kind of wanted to have a conversation where we could really just sort of talk about this friendship that has developed between them and how it has impacted them.

I think the common thread that we finally got to is perfectionistic parenting, like wanting to be that perfect parent. Maybe you are the parent who is listening to the parenting podcast and reading the books and trying to use all the tools. And I think about this perfectionistic parenting as a “straight jacket,” right. Because it's just not possible.

Striving for this unattainable goal and trying to be perfect is a protective mechanism. And, I learned this from Brené Brown, where she says something like, “Perfectionism is actually a form of procrastination because if you're always waiting for things to be just perfect, if I show up perfect, if I do everything perfect, then nobody can criticize me. Nobody can judge me, nobody can hurt me.”

But it really keeps you isolated and it really keeps you alone. I think a lot of us will resonate with this ideal of being the perfect parent and yeah, I hope you guys get as much from this conversation as I did. We talked about anxiety, we talked about perfectionism. We talked about friendship and accountability, and it was a great conversation. So enjoy Liz and Michelle.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Join our next 12-week VIP Parenting Program: https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

189: This Mom Stopped Yelling by 90%

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Today I am going to give you a little preview of what we do inside of our Mastermind with what I call a live report card session. Now I explain why it's really important to do these report card type assessments. And what I want to tell you is anytime you're trying to change a behavior, whether it’s in your parenting or exercise and food, there's a real reason why most of us fall off the wagon, because behavior changes hard. One thing I've studied over the years, along with parenting, is how do people actually change their behaviors?

How do we sustain new patterns and not fall back into the old destructive ones that aren't serving us? And so if you listen to this podcast episode, I want you to sort of identify what we're doing here, because you can apply this skillset to all the areas in your life that you're trying to change some patterns.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Setting Limits without Spanking, Time Outs, or Sticker Charts: Part 5

Fri, 10 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 5 as we wrap up this amazing series! We review the three big topics: Spanking, Time Outs, and Sticker Charts. None of these are ideal strategies for setting boundaries and you’ll learn why. Listen to this episode and you’ll get some tips on what you can do differently.

To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about the special week of live coaching, go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits

You may be asking yourself, “What should I do when the kids are acting out, fighting, or won’t take “No” for an answer?” You’ve tried time-outs, punishment, and positive or gentle parenting, but it seems like nothing is working.

There is constant fighting, anger, and stress in your home
You and your co-parent are not on the same page
Your child expresses intense anger and defiance

Learn how to take back control in a way that empowers you and your kids. We know you want to be a strong, loving leader who is respected at home. If you’re struggling to show up for yourself and your family in this way then you will benefit from this 5-part video training and 3-day live coaching experience.

In the video training, we’ll cover common discipline strategies parents use, why they aren’t effective, and what to do instead.

Randi is excited to be your personal parenting coach for a week!

We hope you gain some new tips/tools/ways of looking at balance and baby steps for creating more boundaries. To continue moving the needle forward in creating a happier household go to MastermindParenting.com and check out Randi’s 3 beginning programs and find the one that’s a good fit for you.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A free 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Setting Limits without Spanking, Time Outs, or Sticker Charts: Part 4

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 4 of this strategy-packed series! This might be a little controversial, because so many parents and teachers use sticker charts, but I’m going to explain why they aren’t a good strategy. Using sticker charts inhibits intrinsic motivation and inspires entitlement. Listen in today as I show you why sticker charts should be avoided, and give you some tips on what to do instead.

To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about this special bonus series, go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits

There is constant fighting, anger, and stress in your home
You and your co-parent are not on the same page
Your child expresses intense anger and defiance

In the video training, we’ll cover common discipline strategies parents use, why they aren’t effective, and what to do instead.

Randi is excited to be your personal parenting coach for a week!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A free 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Setting Limits without Spanking, Time Outs, or Sticker Charts: Part 3

Wed, 08 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 3 of this series packed full of great tips! Today we are covering Time Outs. While not as violent and traumatizing as spanking, time outs are still not a desirable approach to setting boundaries with your kids. They can increase lying and rebellion among other things. Listen in as I unpack why you should avoid time outs.

To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about this special bonus series, go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits

There is constant fighting, anger, and stress in your home
You and your co-parent are not on the same page
Your child expresses intense anger and defiance

In the video training, we’ll cover common discipline strategies parents use, why they aren’t effective, and what to do instead.

Randi is excited to be your personal parenting coach for a week!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A free 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Setting Limits without Spanking, Time Outs, or Sticker Charts: Part 2

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 2 of this powerful series! Today we are covering a huge “NO,” spanking. Listen in to learn why spanking should never be used as a discipline solution, and strategies you can use instead. To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about this special bonus series, go to:https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits

There is constant fighting, anger, and stress in your home
You and your co-parent are not on the same page
Your child expresses intense anger and defiance

In the video training, we’ll cover common discipline strategies parents use, why they aren’t effective, and what to do instead.

Randi is excited to be your personal parenting coach for a week!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A free 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Setting Limits without Spanking, Time Outs, or Sticker Charts: Part 1

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 1 of this powerful series! To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about this special bonus series, go to:https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits

There is constant fighting, anger, and stress in your home
You and your co-parent are not on the same page
Your child expresses intense anger and defiance

In the video training, we’ll cover common discipline strategies parents use, why they aren’t effective, and what to do instead.

Randi is excited to be your personal parenting coach for a week!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A free 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

188: Is There Something Wrong With My Kid?

Tue, 31 May 2022 08:00:00 -0500

The last couple of episodes, I've been hitting on some heavy topics. I’ve also been sharing a little bit about my process and that I'm testing some hypotheses right now in preparation for a book I'm writing with my friend Sarah Miller. And I've been picking a lot of moms' brains about just what we're most worried about.

One of the biggies that comes up… What do you do if your kid has a diagnosis or a label? Is my child going to be like this forever? Is this just a phase? Is it “normal” for kids to behave this way? I know through my conversations, that this has been part of your world or possibly come across your mind.

I know it was part of my parenting experience, and today I’m going to share that story with you. I was noticing something that gave me these thoughts and prompted me to find out more about what was going on. It also led me to a huge insight related to my work, an “a-ha” moment of sorts.

Another thing I’ve come to realize through working with Sarah, an insight she’s had through the conversations she’s had with her colleagues. The minute professionals bring up parenting as a possible influence on the behavior, people shut down and 99% of the time you never hear from those people again.

Also, parents often get diagnoses for their kids and it’s common that no one addresses the “now what?” What do I do with this information and what do I do next?

That was my experience too, my revelation of sorts. My son needed professional help, and instead of sitting in the waiting room, I went into the sessions with him. So I could observe, understand how to approach this, and know what to do after we were done with the sessions. To carry it forward to our home, and beyond.

Don’t let a diagnosis get you down. It’s important to get over our own egos and not to worry about other people’s judgment for not knowing all the things. We have to be willing to learn new things. It is the most generous, loving and unselfish thing you can do for your kids. This is the sign of a truly good parent, a parent that puts the needs of their kids before their own insecurities.

It is so hard. So incredibly hard. And I haven’t always done it.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A free 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

187: The Questions We Think, But Don’t Ask

Tue, 24 May 2022 10:00:00 -0500

I am continuing the conversation from last week, so if you haven't listened to Episode 186, go and check it out. As I mentioned last week, I'm currently doing some research and planning, because I'm writing a book with a pediatrician and fellow Mastermind Mom, Sarah Miller. We're testing out some different hypotheses. It's going to be a book that is written and sort of conversational between the two of us, looking at the doctor's perspective when we as parents are seeking their advice and their direction when we're worried about our kids. I think parents are asking their doctors things that they don't feel comfortable asking some of the people that are in their life who may have parenting experience. Their family or their close friends, for example. Parenting, I just think it's so obviously personal for so many of us, and is our most important role.

It's hard to feel scrutinized about the thing that you care about the absolute most. So my hypothesis has been that it's so hard to talk about these worries we have, and open up when we're worried about our kids because we just don't want to screw them up. And we're also so worried about other people judging us and we don't want other people to judge our kids. It seems many of us then talk to our doctors about these concerns, that they are a trusted resource who won’t judge us or our children.

So, today’s episode is a continuation of these thoughts, along with some stories and examples which I believe many of you may be able to find a connection with, a sense that you’ve felt a similar way. I want this to become more of a mainstream conversation. And if you're feeling like the moms I described in today's episode, I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you, and you're not alone in how you're feeling.

And even just identifying that you're feeling that way, makes you a more self-aware person. And since all change starts with awareness, you're exactly where you're supposed to be.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts. A 5-part video training series & 3 days of live coaching, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

186: Is This Just a Phase?

Tue, 17 May 2022 10:00:00 -0500

I'm doing a bunch of research right now because I have just started writing my second book! And this one's going to be a collaboration with my friend and fellow Mastermind Mom, Sarah Miller.

She is a doctor who is a pediatrician about half the time, and half the time internal medicine. We're having a lot of fun, and we're just in the outlining, planning it out phase right now. And we're testing a hypothesis. So, the hypothesis is basically that when you have a child who, from a very young age, is a challenging kid. One where your gut instincts tell you, “Hmm. I think there's something to figure out with this kiddo.” You know, let's say you're going to that baby class that all your friends signed up for and you've got the one child, I'm sure it's probably half the class, but in your mind, it's the one child who just is crying the whole time. And all the other babies are like clapping and doing all the baby things. And you've got the kid and you're sitting there working your ass off to try and have your little tiny baby enjoy this music class.

And by the time that baby's two, you're starting to go to the birthday parties and all the other kids seem to be participating, but you've got the child who's like clinging to your leg and they don't want to play. All the other parents are talking and sharing a beverage and you're having to deal with your kid who is refusing to leave your side. And then it's time to start preschool and the teachers are telling you, “Oh, it's just separation anxiety.”

So, there's just like there's scenario after scenario, after scenario where you're thinking there's something going on with your kid, but you don't even know where to start. And our hypothesis is that most people reach out or start asking questions during their doctor's visits with the pediatrician. Your pediatrician is a child development authority in your life. And someone you have that relationship where you feel like you can ask your “mom questions” and there's not going to be any judgment.

Do you think? And so listen to this episode and if you want, let me know if this is you. If you reach out to your doctor, your pediatrician, to find out about all the typical milestones and they're the ones that you go to every time your kid has a birthday or when in their first year of life, every month. Because they're looking at all the markers, and they're the ones who are kind of following your kid’s developmental progress.

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Weekly Parenting Support in Your Inbox, sign up today.: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

185: If Your Kid Has ADHD or Other Executive Function Challenges with Evan Weinberger

Tue, 10 May 2022 10:00:00 -0500

Do you want your kids to be successful in school? I know most of us want our kids to grow up to be the kind of people that have the skills to manage their time and frankly, their lives AND unfortunately, because many of us struggle with these skills ourselves, we can feel overwhelmed by this topic. I sat down with a true expert academic coach with a background in organizational psychology. Evan Weinberger is the owner of Staying Ahead of the Game, an worldwide academic coaching and tutoring company he founded in 2006. You don’t want to miss learning from Evan; he is such a sharp and insightful leader in the space of helping kids develop critical executive skills to help them kick ass in school and life. Enjoy!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Randi’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Evan Weinberger

Hi! I am Evan! When I started Staying Ahead of the Game in 2006 after nearly two decades of struggling with my own learning differences in school, my main goal was to help students perform to their potential by equipping them with the systems, habits, tools, and skills they need to manage stress and achieve greater success.

From the Houston location, I co-founded Illuminos in 2016 to bring these important services to the Greater Washington D.C. Metro Area. I look forward to bringing these much-needed services to more locations soon.

As my impact grows through the success of my companies, I am reminded of why I got into this business in the first place: to give students the wisdom that I wish I had at a younger age. I wanted to help students instead of CEO’s because I saw a problem that desperately needed a solution: students graduating without the soft skills needed to make a difference in the real world.

In addition to working with students, I very much enjoy my work educating educators. I now serve on multiple boards and committees centered around creating the best possible educational experience for every student, regardless of learning differences or socio-economic status.

Evan’s Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StayingAheadoftheGame
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saotg/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/staying-ahead-of-the-game

Resources Discussed/Links

Mini-Masters Self Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Children. Because parenting is hard, but it shouldn’t be this hard.: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

184: Hunt, Gather, Parent: A Conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff

Tue, 03 May 2022 07:00:00 -0500

This week is a big episode for me, and you don’t want to miss every morsel of this conversation with the author, Michaeleen Doucleff. She wrote Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. I make her fascinating book required reading for every parent I work with in my private programs.

This book is not like other parenting books - it reads like a fascinating anthropological study of human behavior. The oldest cultures in the world have mastered the art of raising happy, well-adjusted children. What can we learn from them? In this episode, we break down what we are getting wrong when it comes to parenting in our mainstream culture and bringing back the ancient wisdom of our foremothers in a very practical and relatable way…the good news is that this means more time for yourself and adult activities. Get ready to learn from Michaeleen - she is absolutely delightful! I definitely have a mom crush on her, and you will too.

Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

About Michaleen Doucleff

Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD, is a global health correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk and the author of the New York Times bestseller Hunt, Gather, Parent. The book describes a way of raising kind and confident children, which moms and dads all over the world have turned to for millennia.

Doucleff has a doctorate in chemistry from the University of Berkeley, California, and a bachelor’s degree in biology from Caltech.

For the past decade, Doucleff has reported on disease outbreaks and children’s health for NPR. Before that, Doucleff was an editor at the journal Cell, where she wrote about the science behind pop culture.

She lives in San Francisco with her husband, daughter and German Shepherd, Savanna.

Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaleen Doucleff: https://amzn.to/39yjEkf
Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

183: A Dad, a Doctor, a Dude that "Gets it"

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I sat down with Josh, a dad that sort of reluctantly became a Mastermind parent. I hear from moms ALL THE TIME that their husband is not willing to learn new parenting tools and may even think it’s unnecessary and foolish.

Well, this might be an episode you INSIST your husband listens to because Josh was also “Mastermind Parenting resistant” not so long ago. He questioned my credibility and “real” qualifications to do what I do, but his badass wife, Ali, wouldn’t take no for an answer…she fought for her family to find more peace and both she and Josh are so glad she did!

Listen to this episode for more of my thoughts and strategies on how you can move toward being a Mastermind Parent! And as always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better.

Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Book your live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

182: What Constitutes a Difficult Child?

Tue, 19 Apr 2022 10:00:00 -0500

So, what constitutes a difficult child? I think we need to start with that and that's even a hard thing to say, because nobody wants to call their kid difficult. Right? I get it. We have a kid that's struggling. Our household feels anything but peaceful. We have a dream that we want our kids to be at peace. We want a calm environment. We want that household that maybe we didn’t have but desired when we were growing up. We have all these hopes and dreams.

And now you have a child who is “difficult” and you need to figure some things out. So, during today’s episode, I break down what I believe constitutes a difficult child. And then I give you some helpful tips, some strategies to help you find a way to find more peace in your household and manage some challenging behaviors your kiddo may be exhibiting.

Like I often do, I unpack a real-life situation, one that may be familiar to you and your family. I stumbled upon this Mastermind Parenting method because I was also experiencing the challenges of a difficult child. It was because I couldn't find the exact right resource. I couldn't find the exact right program. I liked this part from one program, but I liked another part from another program, but I actually sort of liked this part from some “old school” methods that didn't seem aligned with the newer styles.

And I realized, I was not someone who likes to follow exact recipes, so I threw together what worked for me and my family, and that’s what I’m sharing with you now. So, if you’re struggling with that difficult child, listen to this episode, and I’ll give you my top three tips for finding a way to a better place.

Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Free 5-Part Video Series for Parents: Setting Limits without Spanking, Time Outs, or Sticker Charts: https://mastermindparenting.com/spanking-series/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

181: When Your Partner Refuses to Parent on the Same Page

Tue, 12 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0500

What do you do when you and your partner disagree on parenting styles and strategies? Unfortunately, this is the case with most of my moms. In this episode I unpack a story that is all too common. It’s a story of a volatile household, “To-Do List Sex,” and constant stress.

The mom in this story has stuck with the Mastermind Parenting program and learned new methods of parenting. She stayed in her own lane, kept slogging along, and made mistakes along the way. But she’s done her own work, created change in her mind and her life, and took a stand. She refused to sweep the issues under the rug anymore and stuck to her guns.

It wasn’t easy. Her husband is a good guy, deep down. So often, so much of the struggle is a giant miscommunication. Over time, little by little, things have gotten better. She has found ways to change patterns and hold her partner accountable. She’s been able to step into her strength and improve all the relationships in her life.

Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

Communication can be tough! Get the cheat sheet and audio training for my 3-Step recipe for having a productive conversation: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/
Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

180: Kids Do Well If They Can

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 12:00:00 -0500

My guest this week and I chat about how parents can be empowered as experts on their own children. My guest today is Allana Robinson. She and I connect on so many levels and have a great conversation about some new science around parenting and what we’re learning. Allana is a parenting coach, as well as a registered early childhood educator and developmental specialist.

We know now that it’s not just triggers and consequences that shape behavior. In fact, the “old school” ABA (Appiled Behavioral Analysis) model completely ignores the functions of the nervous system. It completely ignores how social triggers and how social interaction influences behavior. It completely ignores trauma.

It also completely ignores social and emotional learning. Allana and I unpack her experiences and her training, and how newer models like I talk about here on Mastermind Parenting allow kids to process emotional expression. Children live in their emotional brain. And so of course they're going to often be easily overstimulated and lots of things are going to set them off. And they're trying to make sense of the world through these dysregulated moments.

Our job is to help them as grounded grownups, help reel them back in and help them learn the skills to reregulate. They're going to make mistakes. We can't be on top of it all the time, but when they make mistakes, it’s important that we show up and help them to learn those new skills.

Children learn to regulate by being regulated. Children learn to be empathetic by being empathized with. We have to model what we want them to do in order for them to learn how to do it because they learn by observation.

Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

About Allana Robinson

Allana Robinson is a parenting coach and she's the CEO of Uncommon Sense Parenting as well as a registered early childhood educator, developmental specialist, mom of two and military wife. Allana supports parents of toddlers, preschoolers, and kindergartners in understanding why their children are misbehaving and how to fix it without yelling, shaming or timeout.

Allana’s mission is to empower parents as the experts on their own children and create an inclusive world full of calm, competent, confident kids.

Website: https://www.allanarobinson.com/

Resources Discussed/Links

Mini-Masters Self Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Children. Because parenting is hard, but it shouldn’t be this hard.: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/
Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Oscars Drama with Will Smith & Chris Rock -The important lessons we can use with our kids

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 18:45:00 -0500

In this bonus episode, I’m weighing in on the Oscars drama where Will Smith slapped the shit out of Chris Rock. There are so many opinions and different angles being discussed right now and I doubt you’ve heard one like mine. Have a listen and join the conversation on social media to let us know your thoughts!

Web/Social Links

Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

179: How do you know if your child is strong-willed?

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Chances are, if you're listening to this podcast, you have a hunch that you've got a strong-willed child. In today’s episode I wanted to talk about what really constitutes a child being strong-willed. Firstly, isn't every child strong-willed at some point or another? That's what I always say to the people who come to me, that everybody's got a “strong-willed” child. The truth of the matter is that Mastermind Parenting is really for all humans. It's just that our strong-willed ones are the ones that bring us here because they're not complying with the old school parenting methods that most of us were raised with.

And so, we seek resources, and we listen to podcasts, and we read books, and we're looking for the tools and the tips. But how do you know if your kid is a strong-willed kid or just a regular human kid that shows up with some strong-willed behavior because we all sometimes have strong-willed behavior?

Strong-willed kids are very determined to do something even if other people say it should not be done. They are the challenging and difficult ones, the “squeaky wheel” of the family. They hijack the household, and it’s the child you walk on eggshells around. This is the child that when they are happy, you feel like you can finally breathe…ahhhhh. I’ll be totally honest, your strong-willed child is the one you love, but you don’t necessarily like.

Listen to this episode, and I’ll share with you a very personal story of how my own strong-willed child impacted our family. I’ll also go through some questions and a scenario from someone else, and maybe you’ll be able to relate to one or both of these stories. And with each, as always, I’ll share tools and tips on how you can recognize the behaviors of strong-willed children, and some Mastermind Parenting strategies that will help you, and your family, breathe easier more often.

Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

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Resources Discussed/Links

Mini-Masters Self Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Children. Because parenting is hard, but it shouldn’t be this hard.: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/
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178: Are you looking for tips on how “not to” parent?

Mon, 21 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Many of you are searching for tips on how “not to” parent. This doesn't surprise me because I've talked about this on the podcast before. Asking for the “not to’s” instead of the “how to’s” is part of our human condition. It's much easier and more natural to focus on what not to do rather than what to do. I've heard this referred to as the human negativity bias and it's something that we've carried over, it's part of our primal wiring. We're always scanning our environment for things that might feel unsafe or dangerous. So, we're always kind of looking for the negative, looking how we can keep ourselves safe and healthy, what we need to avoid and “Not do.”

That's why when our kids are running by a pool and we might say, “Don't run, don't run.” Instead of saying, “Walking feet, walking feet.” It's so much easier and instinctive to say what not to do rather than what to do. Searching for, “What am I not supposed to be doing?” is somewhat of a natural question. Because even though you don't know exactly what to do, you want to make sure that you’re not doing the “terrible” things, something wrong.

The way to counteract that human negativity bias is through awareness and a lot of the learnings and positive psychology, which I incorporate into Mastermind Parenting. I'm a bit obsessed with neuroscience and I have been for a very long time. I think it's just so amazing that we can actually create new habits that retrain the way that we communicate, retrain the way that we think, and retrain ourselves. It’s that old adage, “You can't teach an old dog new tricks.”

But you can. You just have to practice a whole lot. And when you start to practice little things like focusing on what the behaviors you want, rather than the behaviors you don't want, it doesn't come naturally. It seems so simple, but it doesn't come naturally. So, you have to practice it.

In today’s episode, I’m going to use some simple examples and scenarios which will help you begin to practice this shift from the more authoritarian style of parenting which tends to focus on telling our kids what “not to do,” and move toward some more positive approaches found in Mastermind Parenting. It’s about practicing these skills that let you communicate expectations before things go sideways. It’s figuring out what you want, not what you don’t want.

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About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

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Get a no-pressure, complimentary live assessment for your most challenging parenting problem.: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/
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177: What are the different parenting styles and which one is the most effective?

Tue, 08 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0500

We’ve been taking some of recent episodes back to the basics, and today I’m going to unpack the three parenting styles I see most often and explain to you which one I feel is the most effective. (Spoiler alert: Mastermind Parenting, that’s the one that’s most effective.) Now, we’re all inclined to naturally gravitate toward the style we grew up with, that’s what our automatic pilot is going to guide us toward. We all have ideas on what we want to do, which if you’re listening to this podcast, I hope is Mastermind Parenting. But when activated by the “heat of the moment” our emotional brain takes over, it’s just how we’re conditioned.

Ok, so the first style is authoritarian parenting. Authoritarian parents believe that kids should follow the rules without exception. Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, “Because I said so” when a child questions the reasons behind a rule. These parents often complain that their child is not obedient, then force punishments when the child doesn’t obey the rules.

Next are permissive parents. Rules may be set, but rarely enforced. Few consequences are given out and these parents also feel their children will learn best with little interference. Permissive parents are lenient. They often only step in when there's a serious problem. They're quite forgiving, and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids.” They have a really challenging time with the follow through, and they may give privileges back if a child begs, or they may allow a child to get out of timeout early.

Finally, we have authoritative parenting, sometimes called conscious parenting, or gentle parenting. Mastermind Parenting also falls under this category. It’s putting a lot of effort into creating and maintaining a positive relationship with your child.

These parents explain the reasons behind the rules. They enforce rules and give consequences but take the child's feelings into consideration. They validate their children's feelings while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge.

And there are a lot of different ways to do this. Authoritative parents invest time and energy into preventing behavior problems before they start, so they are proactive, which is what I believe in.

Researchers have found kids who have authoritative parents are most likely to become responsible adults who feel comfortable expressing their opinions.

Children raised with authoritative discipline tend to be happy and successful. They're also more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on their own. Mastermind parenting in terms of authoritative parenting is all about. It can be hard to not take your child's behavior personally. But realize when they're pushing your buttons, that's your business and nothing for you to put on them. Children are not responsible for adult feelings.

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About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/

Resources Discussed/Links

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176: Essential Strategies for Raising Kids in the Digital Age

Tue, 01 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Today we are going to be talking about social media, the online world and how technology impacts kids and how parents struggle to manage it all. I have a special guest, Rania Mankarious, who wrote the book, About The Online World: What You Think You Know and What You Don’t. She wrote this book because parents were telling her how overwhelmed they feel about the online world, and kids tell her they need help and they don’t know how to talk to their parents.

We all see the effects of this disconnect every day and hear the tragic stories of kids being hurt by everything from cyberbullies to drugs, identity theft, to addiction, suicide, sexual exploitation, and traffickers. These are good kids and their parents have no idea what’s happening–even the parents who follow and monitor their accounts.

In her book, Rania bridges the digital gap between parents and kids so they can develop a family safety plan for their online engagement. Listen to this episode as we discuss many of the challenges parents and kids face online, and some strategies you can use today!

As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better.

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About Rania Mankarious

Rania is a Public Safety Expert and CEO of Crime Stoppers of Houston, with a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Doctorate of Jurisprudence. She is an avid writer, on-air analyst, lover of people, their stories, and our future. She has been seen and heard on national/local TV and radio for over a decade as a legal, family, crime, mental health, and parenting expert. Citing a personal mission to serve families and engage the public to better society, Rania, a wife and mother of three, is leading by example and making a difference.

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Rania’s book, The Online World, What You Think You Know and What You Don’t: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737885921/
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175: How to Discipline Without Spanking or Yelling

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 12:00:00 -0500

How do you discipline a strong-willed child without spanking or yelling? We’re building on the last two episodes where I started to unpack the topic of how to best discipline your child. Today I’m focusing on how to avoid spanking or yelling. Most parents know that spanking doesn’t work, and yelling doesn’t either, but most households still spank and yell. A lot of us grew up with spanking as part of our family discipline model, and yelling too, so it can be easy to fall back on these as a “go-to” method when we get frustrated and angry. And I am guilty of this as well, and today I share a recent experience where I simply lost it.

Yelling and spanking wounds and hurts our kids. Even though these may come naturally to us because of our past, and what was modeled to us, this doesn’t mean we can’t shift and adopt a different approach. Listen in as I break down my personal experience and some others to help you find a kinder and more gentle way to deal with these situations. You, and your kiddos, will be happier and more grounded.

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174: How to Discipline a Child Who Just Won't Listen

Tue, 15 Feb 2022 12:00:00 -0500

How do you discipline a strong-willed child who just won’t listen? We’re building on last week’s episode where I unpacked the topic of how to best discipline your child, going a little deeper to tackle those stubborn kids. And the more you request they do something or change a behavior, the more they dig in and just won’t budge.

So frustrating, I know. Bing ignored and dismissed when you’re supposedly the authority figure can feel demoralizing, rude, and disrespectful. It also can feel chaotic and stressful, both for you and your child. It brings all these things up for us as parents, and even if we start off nice, sweet, and calm, we can lose our tempers and start commanding or yelling.

Listen to this episode where I go through a scenario many of us have likely experienced. I walk you through what might be going on in this situation and give you some tips on how to deal with it if you find yourself headed down this path.

I’ll show you how you can be the leader of your own little wolf pack, and command the authority you deserve, while getting your kiddo to make a choice that’s a win-win situation for everyone. We’re going to disrupt the negative attention seeking pattern that may have formed, allowing you to step in and have your voice heard. Again, just like last week, this is one of the most familiar challenges parents face, and one that I often see parents struggle with, but it doesn’t have to be that way!

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Takeaways

When your child isn’t listening to you or rebelling, it can be demoralizing.
If you can’t be the authority, nothing runs smoothly. It can be chaotic and stressful.
It feels disrespectful and dismissive, and it hurts.
You might feel like you’re not doing your job as a parent, and it can spiral out of control.
Your child refuses your request leading to frustration, arguments, and exhaustion.
This can be the result of what you were told or modeled in the past.
It’s time to be the leader of your pack and command authority.
Listen to your kids and understand what is underneath the behavior.
Humans crave freedom, so when you try to control, they may rebel.
They are trying to get needs met, health and safety comes first.
Instead of barking one command, give options that are a win for both of you.
It takes a lot of practice and patience, but you can discipline and teach with authority.

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173: What’s the Best Way to Discipline My Strong-Willed Child?

Tue, 08 Feb 2022 12:00:00 -0500

How do you discipline your child? This is one of the most familiar challenges parents face, and one that I often see parents get wrong. It can be a struggle to get your kiddo to do what you want them to do, what is expected of them. I get it. In fact, I’m going through it all again right now, with a new puppy!

Today I’m going to give you a good definition of discipline, and how it is entirely about teaching, and has nothing to do with punishment. And I know it can be tempting to use a punishment model because you are frustrated, heated in the moment, and maybe that’s what you know from how you were raised. But deep down inside, that’s not what you genuinely want to be doing.

So, listen to this episode and get some tips on how to stay grounded and approach the discipline of your child with more teaching, instruction, and grace. I’ll also run you through an example that is all too common and one I’m sure many of you can resonate with, while giving you some tools for success next time you find yourself in this situation.

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Takeaways

Discipline means to teach.
Little kids are going to have many “accidents” in the house, and this is because they are learning to be alive…what the rules of this tribe are.
Put the time in on the front end to teach the skills rather than just expecting kids to learn and getting mad at them for not doing what you expect them to do.
When you put your time and effort into telling kids what you expect and teaching
stop fighting with reality - you are in a remarkably busy season of life, and it won’t be this hard forever…you are building a solid foundation.
Parenting is establishing the rules, repeating it often and following through consistently.
Mastermind Parenting is about mastering your own mind and showing up as the grounded grown up that can think rationally and teach your kids the things you want them to know.
Calm people solve problems. And when you can’t be the calm problem-solving adult in your kids’ lives, it’s because you haven’t resolved your own hurts and your self-care is on the back burner.

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MMP172: Military Style Discipline Pros and Cons

Tue, 01 Feb 2022 10:30:00 -0500

In this episode, hear what I have to say to a mom who swears by the “spanking stick” to get her boys to do chores.

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MMP171: What to do Instead of Spanking, Time Out and Sticker Charts

Tue, 25 Jan 2022 10:30:00 -0500

In this episode, I weigh in on a few scenarios involving extreme defiance like hitting, kicking, spitting and what to do instead of spanking, time out or sticker charts.

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MMP170: Judgey Grandparents

Tue, 18 Jan 2022 10:30:00 -0500

In this episode, I read a mom’s scenario about a judgey grandparent telling her to spank her son and properly discipline them. I have a lot to say about this and how to handle out of line judgey grandparents.

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MMP169: Setting Limits Without Spanking, Time Outs or Sticker Charts

Tue, 11 Jan 2022 17:51:37 -0500

In this episode, I coach on a few problem scenarios by moms of strong willed kids, including lying and overall defiance. One mom said she felt defeated because she had a plan for parenting in a holistic way, from natural birth to breastfeeding, and now she finds herself washing her child’s mouth out with soap and spanking because gentle parenting isn’t working with her strong willed one.

I made a 5-part video series about the common discipline strategies parents use and why most aren’t effective and what to do instead. I wish I could have every parent struggling with a challenging child watch it.

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MMP168: A Convo with Jennifer Friedman, Physician & Therapist, on Women’s Health & other Hot Topics!

Tue, 28 Dec 2021 17:27:06 -0500

In this episode, Jenny and I unpacked so much - you guys are going to absolutely love her as much as I do!

We discussed women’s health and tapping into our knowing, career shifts, finding the right fit therapist, gaslighting, boundaries, as well as seeing our own blindspots through group coaching and therapy and even more.

Jennifer Friedman is a Physician, Counselor, Writer, and Teacher. She has studied and taught different forms of healing and possesses a unique understanding of the mind-body connection. Her extensive educational and experiential learning along with her deep appreciation for Spirituality and Energy Healing bring her unique ability to speak to a myriad of topics in the area of healing and mental health.

She has a private practice, Jennifer Friedman Wellness, PLLC, where she runs Women’s Workshops and Therapeutic Groups, offers specialized Teaching Programs, and sees clients for Wellness Consultation and Counseling.

For more information about Jennifer Friedman or her offerings, you can find her at jenniferfriedmanwellness.com.

Connect with Jennifer on Instagram: @jenniferfriedmanwellness

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MMP167: A Gameplan for a Happy Holiday Season

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 11:44:26 -0500

This episode is for all you gals who have a hard time dealing with the moments when your kids are bored or disappointed. I teach a few powerful concepts through the characters in the old show, Gilmore Girls.

So if you’re a Lorelai lover and even if you aren’t, you may find yourself with a surprising desire to watch this cult classic series on Netflix.

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MMP166: A Story about “HOTT Todd” and Boundaries

Tue, 14 Dec 2021 12:48:09 -0500

If you are a mom who struggles with establishing rules/boundaries and then holding the people around you accountable by actually following through on what you really want to do, this episode is for you!

I’m sharing my newest teaching metaphor about “Hott Todd and Brenda from homeroom”...my Mastermind Moms loved this one and I think you will too. Enjoy.

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MMP165: Supporting Your Kids By Understanding Their Natural Temperament

Tue, 30 Nov 2021 10:30:00 -0500

This week’s episode includes a coaching clip with my daughter Avery who dropped in on one of our weekly coaching calls. Listen in as Avery shares her natural temperament, the tools you need to increase self awareness and why it’s important to understand how your kid is wired so you can best support them.

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MMP164: Kids that Resist Shots & Vaccines

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 10:30:00 -0500

This week I sat down with my son, Alec, to discuss highly sensitive kids and resistance to shots, needles and vaccines. My intention is to share Alec’s experience, the mistakes I made and hopefully help you to do better than I did. Enjoy!

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MMP161: Adult Female Friendships & The Marsha Brady Effect

Tue, 02 Nov 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about adult female friendships and why figuring out who is a friend for a season, a reason or a lifetime has a direct impact on how you show up as a parent.

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MMP160: Feeling fully live vs living a life of “fine”

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 09:30:00 -0500

On this episode I talk about how the 15-year-old boy on the show, White Lotus, inspired me to change the conversation in my own family around feeling fully ALIVE.

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MMP159: How to talk to your daughter about her body

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this episode, I share a few stories about girls, their changing bodies and how to help them have a healthy body image.

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MMP158: The Roadmap for: How to Have a Productive Convo with a Teacher

Tue, 05 Oct 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this episode I’m sharing a tangible roadmap for how to talk to your kid’s teacher when there is a problem at school.

Start by seeing the teacher’s perspective. Teachers get a lot of emails. Keep yours short and sweet. Acknowledge and respect their time.

I know you are juggling a lot and your time is valuable. I’m concerned about _____ and would like to get your thoughts and/or set a time that works for you to discuss ways to support my kid at school.

Listen more than you talk. Hear from the teacher.

Ask what and how questions to empower the teacher in supporting your child.

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MMP157: Do you have the disease to please?

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 09:30:00 -0500

On the podcast this week is a conversation with Brooke Wise, host of the podcast, No Approval Needed. I think you’ll enjoy hearing the topics from our own unfinished business around girl world and middle school social issues to consent culture conditioning to begin teaching healthy sexual identity, after school structure, boundaries and more. And of course, I weave my 3 step SAP process for having a productive convo throughout the episode.

See their perspective.

Actively listen.

Problem solve together.

Mastering empathy without feeling like a “SAP”.

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Tue, 29 Jun 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss how often our strong willed kids show up in ways that are problematic and when the most immediate issues are resolved, sometimes the deeper issues fall through the cracks.

On this episode, you’ll hear from a mom whose son was being bullied at school. I describe how this mom was able to help her son develop a critical “lagging skill” by becoming curious and going beyond the surface situation.

When we look deeper, we can begin to help our kids gain new skills and ultimately feel more balanced in their bodies. When we can get to the root of the problem instead of focusing on only the superficial issue, we can then begin successfully supporting our kids.

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Bonus Episode: Coaching Clip with Tips/Tools for Dysregulated Kids

Tue, 22 Jun 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this bonus episode, I’m including a coaching clip where a mom was dealing with an explosive situation involving her son and virtual school. You’ll hear from Amanda, a Mastermind Parenting Coach who is also a seasoned Occupational Therapist.

I call Amanda, “The Kid Whisperer”, because she has a magical way of really uncovering the root of the explosive behavior and shares practical tips to help our most challenging kiddos. You will love her and her guidance. Enjoy!

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Bonus Episode: Violence When it’s Time to Shift Gears

Tue, 15 Jun 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this bonus episode on the podcast, I respond to a mom who’s 6 year old son becomes explosive when it’s time to leave the park or stop playing legos or come to dinner. Transitions can be really hard for kids. And when they are doing something they are enjoying, it often becomes intensive and even violent.

I coach this mom on getting to the root of the unbalanced behavior and what to do to support her little guy in learning better self regulation skills to improve this stressful issue for better balance in his body and their relationship.

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MMP151: 3 Tips for a Balanced Summer

Tue, 08 Jun 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about what’s the secret stress many of us feel about summer...there’s just SO many hours in a long summer day, right?

I go into this idea about “balance” and what that actually means as well as how to achieve it. I think you might be surprised by the tips and direction I go on this topic.

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Bonus Episode: Watch. More. T.V.

Tue, 25 May 2021 09:30:00 -0500

In this bonus episode, I give you an unexpected assignment. I want you to watch more t.v. with your kids. I realize this sounds kinda ridiculous. Who said connecting more with your kids can’t be unexpected and non-traditional...AND fun!

I love my “t.v.make believe” friends. This is fun. We are allowed to have fun because guess what? WE are the grown ups now. We deserve to have some fun. Dontcha think?

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MMP150: A Convo with Cory, my 9th grade son

Tue, 18 May 2021 09:30:00 -0500

I sat down with son and youngest kiddo to talk about balance, boundaries, the ongoing technology battle between us, a few of my mom mistakes and more. Enjoy!

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Bonus Episode: Hard Truths to Hear

Tue, 11 May 2021 09:30:00 -0500

This is from a FB Live Series where I talk about how to show up as the leader your kids want and need when navigating turbulent times.

I also talk about how often we make our kids behavior mean something about us when it actually doesn’t. There are some hard truth bombs in this episode...I believe in you. No more blaming and shaming. It’s not helpful and you’re a badass. You got this.

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Tue, 23 Mar 2021 09:00:00 -0500

On the 2nd podcast during our tech themed convos month, I coach Mastermind mom, Anne, on her concerns about her 8-year old son’s video gaming. She felt guilty about the hours he was spending on his game because it was a convenient way to keep him occupied while she got her work done...I think many of us can relate to feeling guilty that we’ve used screens at one time or another as an electronic babysitter for our kids. I know I can.

We talk about guilt and why we tend to put our heads in the sand and not deal when we feel like we’re being lazy parents. I role play with her the productive conversation around establishing boundaries and consequences to regain technology balance in her home. I think you guys will find the episode extremely practical and relatable. Enjoy!

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MMP145: Keep Tech in Check Part 1: Convo between Randi and Mom, Tara

Tue, 09 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0500

This month I’m featuring two conversations with Mastermind moms and the theme is around technology. You’ll hear a clip of me and advanced student/member, Tara, discussing pandemic virtual school and what’s really happening when we “lift the hood” of her brain regarding her kids being online from 8am until 3pm each day.

Of course, we go into other topics because I know Tara very well and as an “advanced member” in the MMP Mastermind, she participates in all of our advanced programs which go way beyond parenting and into the personal development realm.

We touch on perfectionism, kid comparison, vulnerability, our own worthiness story, boundaries and apologizing.

I love this conversation and decided to include it on the podcast because it’s more than tips and tools to reign in the tech in your kids’ lives.

Ya know...right now we’re all doing the best we can. We know too much tech is not ideal for brain development. We know we shouldn’t let them rot in front of screens for hours on end. And yet...somedays it’s just freaking necessary.

Maybe it’s necessary b/c of school and maybe it’s necessary for our sanity. We are all struggling with this right now and I think hearing the REAL deal from each other and realizing we aren’t the only ones is the most helpful “tip” I can give you right now. AND...of course you’ll get plenty of tips woven into our convo. Enjoy!

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MMP144: Convo with a Mastermind Couple: Parenting on the Same Page Part 2

Tue, 23 Feb 2021 10:00:00 -0500

On part 2 of the podcast convo with Seth and Sarah, we go into vulnerability when it comes to learning a new skill like cooking or parenting and putting yourself out there in the “arena” as Brene’ Brown says.

We go a little more in depth on male privilege, old school parenting and my theory on why many dudes don’t help more with their kids. I think much of the perceived male laziness is actually connected to vulnerability and disconnection.

You’ll hear us discuss how Sarah was taking it all on as a type A perfectionist and what got Seth to step up to the plate and begin making dinner on weeknights and how they are working together more as co-parents when it comes to the feeding, bathing and evening grind.

Seth also shares his insights about how leaning into new parenting tools is helping him to live without regret. They touch on how parenting on the same page is strengthening their marriage as they prepare for baby number 3 and then we end with a little coaching on badgering and when kids hijack and ruin a family outing.

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MMP143: Convo with a Mastermind Couple: Parenting on the Same Page Part 1

Tue, 09 Feb 2021 10:00:00 -0500

Years ago, Scott and I had an ongoing “convo”/argument about whether we should have a third kid. It went on for about a year and it was a stressful time in our relationship. Scott’s position was that we had a boy and a girl and we were done with diapers and baby bootcamp.

He literally couldn’t wrap his head around “why” I would screw up the light at the end of the tunnel he could almost see in the distance. Sooo, when Seth and Sarah began to engage in the same “convo” and turned to me for support, understandably, it felt like major dejavu’!

This month on the podcast, you’ll hear a 2 part episode with me, Seth and Sarah discussing this and much more, with some coaching sprinkled throughout. You are going to absolutely love them.

They’re REAL, smart, honest, vulnerable and I think many of you will relate and hopefully realize that learning to parent on the same page has the ability to strengthen your marriage and self awareness.

Growing together and experiencing a level of deep connection with our partners is not commonplace unfortunately . We CAN disagree, have hard conversations with the people we love AND come together as a cohesive couple.

I. Just. Love. This. Episode. You will too!

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MMP142: Convo with a Mastermind Couple Part 2

Tue, 26 Jan 2021 10:00:00 -0500

On this episode, our inaugural VIP Mastermind Couple, Brian and Carley, reveal a little more about their professional lives as a pediatrician and a physical therapist and the resources that have helped them the most as parents.

When parents first begin learning Mastermind Parenting, we focus on the quick wins regarding bedtime and basic needs to reduce overwhelm and build momentum. And eventually, the plateau happens, similar to a weightloss journey, as Brian describes.

Amanda, our Mastermind Mentor and therapist chimes in on why she’s sick and tired of doing meltdown webinars and the real root cause of meltdowns and the solution.

This conversation will leave you feeling like a fly on the personal wall of doctors, therapists and child development professionals and how they discuss strong willed kid topics behind the scenes.

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MMP141: Convo with a Mastermind Couple Part 1: What if you know your child needs something different than what you’re doing?

Tue, 19 Jan 2021 10:00:00 -0500

When parents turn to their pediatrician as the first resource when noticing their child seems more difficult than the ‘neighbor’s’ little Johnny or Sally, we are often given a therapist recommendation before a parenting program.

This month’s episodes consist of a 2 part conversation with a couple where two out of three of their children are strong-willed. I invited them on for a number of reasons.

First of all, because I absolutely love them and think you’ll relate with their story. Secondly, they happen to be child development professionals who understand the “professional gap” I’ve been referring to lately...the gap when it comes to helping our most challenging kids in terms of professional support.

My belief is that a therapist, specialized pediatrician, neurologist or other child development professional is often a critical component in figuring out how to support our strong-willed ones. AND, the parenting piece involving better communication tools, is the first resource and biggest factor in changing the climate in your family.

My goal for this episode is realizing that you’re not alone and that even the child development “experts” struggle with the same issues you’ve been dealing with in your home.

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Bonus Episode - Judging, losing, civilized behavior and talking to kids about toxic events

Tue, 12 Jan 2021 10:00:00 -0500

Oh how we love to judge.

I think it’s the secret most common addiction.

Judging is the thing that can provide immediate relief to deep rooted self loathing.

We’re always scanning the environment for someone who’s f%@king up just a little more than we feel we are deep down.

AND...it’s toxic.

Toxic to your health and well being and sense of self.

And since all change begins with awareness, simply notice when you judge others (we all do it by the way).

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And ask yourself this question when you notice: What am I truly judging myself about?

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MMP140: The Strong-Willed Child Gap - Part 2 with Amanda & Randi

Tue, 22 Dec 2020 10:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week, it’s part 2 of my conversation with pediatric occupational therapist, Mastermind Mentor and “kid whisperer”, Amanda Perches. Today we go deeper into what’s really going on with our strong-willed kids and why simply disciplining “misbehaviors” will not be a long term solution. We have to investigate and uncover the root of the problem. Amanda is a wealth of child development and sensitive nervous system knowledge and a champion when it comes to understanding and working with challenging kids. Send questions or comments for future episodes with Amanda to info@mastermindparenting.com.

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MMP139: The Strong-Willed Child Gap - Part 1 with Amanda & Randi

Tue, 08 Dec 2020 10:00:00 -0500

This month on the podcast, we’re continuing our conversation about the gaps I see that are impeding “mental wellness” in families with a strong-willed child. I sat down with Mastermind Mentor, occupational therapist and “kid whisperer”, Amanda Perches. We had a very candid discussion about the frustrating path that many families go down seeking resources to help their struggling kids...and the solutions that’ll finally help our often hardest to reach kiddos.

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MMP138: The REAL recipe to help struggling kids

Tue, 24 Nov 2020 10:00:00 -0500

Today’s episode is a continuation of episode 137 and the 3 gaps at the heart of the challenging child dilemma. The Mastermind Parenting recipe involves 3 main components - Leadership, Communication and Mind Mastery, otherwise known as raising consciousness.

I delve into each of these topics and apply them to the three gaps - The Parent Gap, The Challenging Child Gap and The Professional Gap.

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MMP137: How we are failing our kids…especially our strong-willed ones

Tue, 10 Nov 2020 10:00:00 -0500

Today I’m discussing why I think we are failing our struggling kids. Kids that act out and “are not doing well”, are in pain. I see it as three gaps we need to close to help these kids and frankly, all kids. I define these three gaps as:

The Parent Gap - The gap between the parent you wanna be and the reactive parent you are during triggering moments with your kids. This often looks like yelling, shaming and ultimately adding to the problem.
The Challenging Child Gap - All behavior is communication. Behavior is a symptom, not the root of the problem. These challenging kids need the adults caring for them, to get curious and uncover the root of the behavior. The child is always trying to have a need met and most often would benefit from additional time spent skill building rather than using shame and punishment as ineffective motivation tactics to improve behavior.
The Professional Gap - I believe that folks that choose a career in child development are generally the good guys - teachers, pediatricians, child therapists. HOWEVER, not all professionals are doing their own consciousness work. Many are still educated with old school methodology and promote pills before skills rather than working closely with parents to uncover the roots of the behavioral problems.

There is a big communication gap between parents and child professionals. The solution for your kid is never going to come from merely sending them to a pediatric professional for an hour a week without making significant changes at home. Period.

The solution to solving the “challenging child puzzle” involves closing these three gaps so that our often hardest to reach kids can grow into the absolute best versions of themselves. This will be our focus this season on the podcast.

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MMP136: What Do You Wanna Be When You Grow Up with Amy Pearson Part 2

Tue, 27 Oct 2020 09:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week I have part 2 with fellow coach, Amy Pearson. We discuss that feeling of being stuck and figuring out what “you wanna be when you grow up”. Many parents talk themselves into a life of complacency and may not realize that you can do something to create shifts even when things are “fine”. My motto is eff “fine”...YOU deserve fan-freakin-tastic!

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MMP135: ⅓ Rule with Amy Pearson Part 1

Tue, 13 Oct 2020 09:00:00 -0500

This week on the podcast, I “sat” down with my friend and fellow coach, Amy Pearson, to discuss finding “your peeps”.

Both Amy and I strive to live a life that feels connected, purpose driven and good in our bodies. I think that more of us than we realize, are living a life that doesn’t feel great.

You can be surrounded by people, have a full or “busy” schedule and social calendar and still feel a sense of “stuckness”.

Amy and I candidly discuss all these issues and more. I LOVE her ⅓ rule and I can’t wait for you to learn it straight from the source.

Warning: You may listen to this episode and have some real aha’s about the people you’ve chosen to “sit next” to.

As “they” say, it’s important to take stock of the people you surround yourself with and notice whether it’s a relationship meant for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

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MMP134: Parenting is NOT Womens’ Work

Tue, 29 Sep 2020 09:00:00 -0500

This week I’m sharing a little secret bonus that happens in my private mastermind...a better marriage! This week it’s all about marriage and how to help “sell” the resistant dudes on why they should join our mastermind party.

The bottom line is that parenting is NOT women’s work. It’s 2020 People! You deserve to feel like you’re not parenting alone. Afterall, it took two of you to make those babies and I bet he was all in for that part;).

I got your back and wanted to share a window into how I provide my Mastermind families with the loving nudge many of us need to finally begin parenting as true partners.

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Tue, 01 Sep 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I have a conversation with podcaster and mom of two, Laura Max Rose, about our Mastermind Parenting WORLD CLASS sibling fighting tool.

I’m currently writing a book about this tool and this convo involves the latest and greatest way I’m teaching this life changing tool. As you know if you have more than one child, when your kids fight, it’s triggering and stressful.

This tool is also totally relevant for only children because there will be conflicts on playdates or with cousins and this will help you know what to do.

The sibling relationship can feel complicated for many reasons and this tool will help you see conflicts as amazing opportunities that’ll help your kids learn powerful conflict resolution skills that will benefit their lives for years to come. Enjoy!

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MMP129: Sibling Fighting Part 1: Interview by Laura Max Rose

Tue, 25 Aug 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this week and next week’s podcast episodes, you’ll hear a convo between me and Laura Max Rose, podcaster and mom of two precious little girls.

Our main subject is the sibling relationship and the different layers involved - from sharing, to violence to our ultimate dream of our kids becoming besties.

How does our own birth order or being an only child determine how we navigate sibling fighting and what messages our kids receive? Why should we stop telling our kids we’re proud of them?

What do we say when one of our kids constantly compares themselves or their things to their sibs? Why ARE they making everything into a competition?

Well, tune in this week and next where we’ll cover all these topics and more!

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MMP128: Strong Willed Kids Need a Different Parenting Approach

Tue, 18 Aug 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I focus specifically on strong willed kid behaviors and the obstacles in parenting these kiddos. There are many cultural components, especially when it comes to our own fixed mindset conditioning.

It can feel like a failure as a parent when you have a strong willed kid. Today, I unpack many pieces of this equation in a way that I don’t think I’ve spelled out quite like this before.

The bottom line is that having a challenging or differently wired kid propels us to shift, learn new things and ultimately, grow. If you have a strong willed kid, I hope you’ll do more than just passively listen today.

Get honest and think about whether you’ve taken action to help your kiddo feel better understood and more supported. And if your child’s behavior is consistently difficult, it’s a sure sign that more action needs to happen.

We have an amazing affordable program available to help you re-program that unhelpful auto pilot conditioning. Go to www.mastermindparenting.com/30 to sign up and take action STAT!

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MMP127: 3 Tangible Virtual School/Pack Leadership Tips

Tue, 11 Aug 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share some very tangible pack leadership tips to help you with virtual learning and beyond. All good leaders know you have to have a plan. Crossing your fingers and just hoping for the best usually doesn’t work out too well for any of us.

Therefore, it’s important to figure out your plan for the school day that’ll help your kids be successful. Next, you’ll need to effectively communicate the plan.

And finally, following through with the plan and following through when the plan isn’t followed with appropriate consequences is critical.

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MMP126: 5 Tips on Becoming the Homeschool Teacher You NEVER Asked to be

Tue, 04 Aug 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about the virtual learning reality many of us are facing for this upcoming 2020/2021 school year due to the current Covid pandemic.

First of all, last time I checked, most of us didn’t sign up to homeschool our kids or to deal with a pandemic.

Therefore, we need a minute to adjust to this reality and get in a productive head space. You really have to allow yourself time to process so that you’re able to face the mindset piece b/c most likely, you didn’t volunteer to help manage your kids during their school day.

AND, it’s okay to feel pissed about that. Feel it. Notice it. Allow all those feelings. Next, you’ll be able to start learning about what needs to happen to help your family have a successful school year.

I cover the five tips spelled out by education experts that’ll support you in helping your kids succeed during their school day and beyond.

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MMP125: How to Minimize Meltdowns through Leadership & Boundaries

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this LONG episode, I really ramble on about all sorts of stuff:). I really lost track of time, went off the cuff and talked about why loving pack leaders must have boundaries.

Pack leadership minimizes meltdowns because it represents confidence, strength and safety. Boundaries define borders and ground the people feeling unbalanced in their nervous systems, i.e., the melting down big and little humans.

I have found that many moms have a really hard time with boundaries. I believe at the core of this limitation is the secret obstacle...the conditioning that you’re not worthy of having your own voice, space, time and standards about how you will and won’t live.

This is a big topic and a core issue in our culture re: women and a lack of feeling as worthy as “them”. Now this may not be something we think we believe. We may tell ourselves the opposite and spew feminist messages from the rooftops.

However, if you have a hard time making time for yourself or “getting” the people to do the things and/or you feel like “must be nice to be able to”, and you’re constantly doing everything for everyone and there’s no time or energy left for the stuff you wanna do...well then sister friend, we gotta talk.

You deserve to take up space in the world and not to put the needs of everyone else constantly before your own. And until you BELIEVE you’re truly worthy to do that, you’re gonna continue to have a hard time following thru on boundaries. And until you enforce consequences for boundary crossing behavior, the meltdowns in your family will persist.

I normally try and make the podcast episodes short and sweet but this is a big topic and I decide to just allow my unfiltered thoughts to pour out in hopes that it might help you if you’re struggling with persistent meltdowns in your family.

I know it’s painful to live like that. I also know that you wanna have a family that gets along. I’d love to invite you to explore your own story if you’re struggling with pack leadership, boundaries and enforcing consequences. You deserve more. I’m determined to fight for you to have that.

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MMP124: Meltdowns and Safety

Tue, 21 Jul 2020 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I breakdown the concept of emotional safety; what it really looks like to have it, create it and demand it.

My own little “armchair expert” theory has led me to believe that many of us were not raised in environments where it was safe to feel all the intense feelings.

Humans crave to feel unconditionally loved and celebrated for the real person we were born to be. I see this time and time again when I really get to know people.

I think we are born as perfect little humans and then the big humans accidentally send the littles the message that it’s not safe to be the honest, real, raw, messy, beautiful person you were intended to become.

Those messages are internalized and there are a variety of ways people deal with the pain that comes from not feeling fully expressed. Some people learn coping skills that allow them to live life on the surface and pretend the pain doesn’t exist.

This can seem like it’s working for the most part AND spoiler alert, there is an expiration date on that coping pattern. When life throws a curveball like it always does, the people who seem most “together” are often the first to fall apart.

Then there are others who can’t pretend they feel good when they don’t. These are the people where life involves a pretty good deal of suffering.

They have no problem acting out no matter who’s around. These are the sensitive people. The highly intuitive ones. These. Are. Our. Strong. Willed. Kids. They are begging for the grown ups to create emotional safety for them so they can feel seen, understood and safe to develop better skills to deal with the overwhelming big feelings in their bodies.

The frequent meltdowns over seemingly trivial things are always a sign that they are in emotional pain. Meltdowns will never be squashed until emotional safety is created.

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MMP123: Meltdowns & Fear

Tue, 14 Jul 2020 11:53:45 -0500

In this week’s conversation, I’m breaking down the concept that anger is rooted in fear and when fear is on the scene, growth cannot occur. When our kids, or frankly anyone, displays meltdown behavior, the anger often feels palpable. It’s scary. Fear is directly linked to explosive meltdown moments.

It’s actually quite normal to have fears. Humans are actually designed to scan our environments for danger. This is called the human negativity bias. So if you’re a person that has many fears, the bottom line is: You’re. Normal.

I think it’s important to understand fear and anger in a way that many of us have never actually thought about. Intense anger is uncomfortable and scary.

Meltdowns feel uncomfortable and scary for kids and grown ups. Whether you’re the person having the meltdown or witnessing it, we all feel out of control.

It can leave parents feeling powerless and this often leads to attempts to control our kids with fear tactics like threats, spanking and punishing. Kids under the age of twelve do NOT improve future behavior through fear tactics.

When fear is running the show, we operate from the lower parts of our brain. We literally become the neanderthal versions of ourselves, designed to merely aggressively grunt, fight and survive.

Obviously, it’s pretty ridiculous to think that our kids will learn from their mistakes when they are in this brain state. It’s also illogical to think we’re going to be effective guides or teachers when we’re in a triggered brain state as well.

This is why absolutely no teaching can happen when any human is having a meltdown. Before the sun can warm, nourish and allow flowers to bloom again, the storm must pass.

Lectures, withholding love, shaming and yelling will not prevent future meltdowns.

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MMP122: Meltdowns & Loneliness

Tue, 07 Jul 2020 09:00:00 -0500

This month on the podcast, I’m talking about the roots of meltdown behavior...for all humans. We often use the term “meltdown” to describe a young child’s explosive behavior.

However, I want to invite you to consider looking at your own behavior as well. When humans feel unsafe or outta control on the inside, we act out those feelings with outta control behavior on the outside.

It may look like explosiveness, numbing or “over” behaviors like overeating, over drinking, over shopping, over gossiping, yelling, blaming or even shutting down and checking out, which is called dissociation.

These behaviors are incredibly isolating and cause so much loneliness and disconnection. It’s a sign that we haven’t learned healthier ways of managing big feelings - something every human experiences.

We all go through hard things and experience discomfort. When we lack the skills to manage our big feelings, we ease the discomfort in other ways and develop coping skills.

By understanding this very common issue for many of us and learning to begin seeing our kids’ negative behaviors differently, we’re able to develop new skills and in turn support our kids more productively.

This is why becoming a Mastermind parent is a hugely healing process for you, your kids and your entire family. THIS is the real journey in my opinion.

We all just wanna feel better and learn to support ourselves and the people we love better. I’m so glad you’re here. Love y’all!

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MMP121: Parenting is NOT About the Latest Spyware

Tue, 30 Jun 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I’m sharing a FB Live I made in my Mastermind where I candidly discuss talking to our young teenage boys about porn and sex.

Fun topic, right?!?

I mean, really...can you imagine a more uncomfortable topic between a mom and a encroaching puberty? Look, if you can talk about sex and porn with your developing kids, what can’t you talk about?

AND when we’re families that can have difficult conversations, our kids will be more likely to turn to us for support when they experience something scary or risky.

They need us during the teen years rather than teenagers educating teenagers about mature and often risky topics. This is such an important topic. We can’t be scared to learn and be prepared for the difficult conversations.

Our kids need us more than ever. So parent up! I got you.

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MMP120: Are You Skipping the Basics?

Tue, 23 Jun 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about this time of metamorphosis and using it to re-balance, re-calibrate and get back to the basics of bike riding, swimming and skating.

Many of our kids are missing out on these basic skills and as a result are unbalanced.

Go outside with your kids. Get on a bike. Lace up some blades.

Get in the pool with your kids and allow yourself to get pruney. We are all going through a metamorphosis right now and it’s time to get back to the basics.

We need this as humans. Enjoy!

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MMP119: What to do if your child is cruel to your animals

Thu, 18 Jun 2020 17:41:51 -0500

In today’s episode, I’m speaking to a mom of a 4-year old about his mean behavior towards the family’s new puppy.

Mom was concerned her child might be a psychopath. She asked for help in a public FB group for parents and the comments of several fellow parents made me mad. GRRRRR.

They gave her incorrect info and essentially confirmed her fear that there was something wrong with her kid.

Not. Helpful.

The child is not a psycho killer. He’s four! He just needed different guidance to become a little boy that could play and develop a deep bond with his new fur sibling.

I want to make a parenting public service to stop posting in public parent groups without official leadership by a qualified moderator.

Parent judgment and shaming is all too real and we aint got time for that!

Protect yourselves people.

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MMP118: A Dad’s Perspective and Parenting on the Same Page

Tue, 09 Jun 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we hear from a dad in the Mastermind. You guys, I LOVE this man.

I know many of you struggle with getting your man on the “Mastermind” train. I feel like this dad says the things we need for all the reluctant husbands to hear. They might not YET understand that parenting is NOT women’s work. They might still be acting like privileged men and NO, don’t tell them that.

My point is that I hear your frustration. I feel it. I wanna slap some sense into all the dads out there that aren’t listening and learning with us. And for now, just get your guy to listen to the episode. Put an airpod in his ear while you guys watch the kids play outside. Hear from a busy doctor dad that both he and his busy doctor wife use Mastermind Parenting tools with their kids and their staff at work!

Plus, the extra bonus is that learning how to master their minds has also improved their marriage, i.e. more lovin’.

You know your dude will be lovin’ that!

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MMP117: Missing the Milestones & Dealing with Pandemic Disappointments

Wed, 03 Jun 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about my kid’s graduations. Yup. 3 kids and 3 big 2020 milestone events. Graduation from middle school, high school and college. The virtual grad ceremonies and car parades are just not the same as the real thing. Sigh. Like me, I know many of you are watching your kids go through LOTS of disappointments right now. We hate when the people are disappointed. I think many of us are so uncomfortable at the thought of our kids experiencing disappointment that we tend to fixate and accidentally make it into a bigger deal. The world is experiencing lots of things right now that leave us reeling in upset, disappointment and feeling out of control. We are in a period of collective vulnerability...AND an opportunity for collective resilience building. It’s true that the 2020 graduates will forever be known as the “2020 Graduates”. AND maybe they will wear that label with a resilient badge of honor rather than fondling a “life isn’t fair” story. This week’s episode will help you to foster the story of resilience for your kids. Enjoy!

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MMP116: What if You Don’t Enjoy Spending Quality Time with Your Strong Willed Kiddo?

Tue, 26 May 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, you’ll hear a clip I made for my newest Mastermind members about the most important beginning tool I teach, P.E.T. Present. Engaged. Time. This is where we have to start with all kids who are consistently defiant and defensive. Even though many parents want to immediately jump to the consequences to “fix” their child’s behavior, it’ll never work. We must connect before we correct. PET is how we connect. I talk about building connecting moments into all the caregiving things you’re already doing. You’re gonna love this one. Enjoy!

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MMP115: When Your Kids Don’t Respect Your Boundaries

Tue, 19 May 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I’m discussing boundaries...what are they, how do we set them and how do we get other people to respect our boundaries? If you have kids that constantly invade your space or refuse to listen to your words, please listen to this one MULTIPLE times.

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MMP114: 3 Lessons for Unintentional Homeschooling Parents While Working at Home

Tue, 12 May 2020 12:00:00 -0500

In this episode I discuss the realities of working from home with your kids all flippin’ day long! I share 3 lessons and some immediate actionable steps you can take to create smoother days. Enjoy!

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MMP113: From Whining To Meltdowns To Risky Teen Behavior - How To Solve ANY Problem With Your Kids

Wed, 06 May 2020 21:13:49 -0500

In this episode, I’m having a conversation with podcaster, Laura Max Rose and we really break down my entire framework to solve any problem with your kids. This is a longer episode than normal. You guys are going to find it jam packed with tons of tools and concepts to put into practice immediately. It is literally the best condensed version of pretty much the most important elements of Mastermind Parenting. Enjoy!

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MMP112: An Interview About Working Moms and Stay at Home Moms

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 14:25:52 -0500

This week on the podcast we are sharing a convo with me and fellow podcaster, Laura Max Rose. Laura is a mama of 2 little girls and we discuss the REAL topics about the working vs. SAHM choice. Laura shares her struggle about this decision and we go all into this very relevant topic. Enjoy!

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MMP111: The Corona Connection: A Time to Face What We’ve been Avoiding?

Mon, 20 Apr 2020 22:54:13 -0500

This episode is from a private video I made for the Mastermind where I discuss why I believe this crazy situation is upon us and what the real solution involves. What does it mean to be a grown-up? How do WE show up as the calm and clear grown-ups? When it feels like the world is in desperate need of nurturing and healing, how can we aid that effort by getting back to the basics in our own homes? You don’t need to lead a protest to make a difference in the world. Just sayin…

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MMP110: Another Corona Convo: Depression, Decluttering & Dealing with Little Dictators

Tue, 14 Apr 2020 00:15:44 -0500

This episode is from a FB Live I did for my private membership community. I’m sharing what I’m doing in my own household from establishing rules and systems for the week to proactive projects to clean up my mental clutter. I discuss the way it REALLY went down in my household, including dramatic reenactments of my resistant teenagers. We sat our kids down to discuss the plan for our new crazy Coronavirus normal and trust me, they weren’t exactly excited about the structure and accountability. Enjoy!

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MMP109: Another Corona Convo: How to Establish the Real Rules & Enforce Consequences in Real Life

Tue, 07 Apr 2020 09:00:00 -0500

Bringing out the big guns...I use the Mastermind NICE blocks to examine our children’s behavior during this Corona craze. We are walking through how to show up as the pack leader during this nutso time in history. Enjoy!

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MMP108: How to Talk to Your Kids About the Coronavirus

Wed, 01 Apr 2020 19:38:26 -0500

On the podcast this week, I’ve included a clip from a convo I had with The Styling Social Justice ladies, Rania and Donae. We talk about Coronavirus anxiety and how to talk to our kids about the uncertainty many of them are experiencing regarding this new normal right now. We walk through the SAP process and really spell out how to have a productive convo about this unprecedented time in history with your kids.

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MMP107: A NICE Parent is a Good Parent

Wed, 25 Mar 2020 14:47:30 -0500

In this week’s convo, I’m including a training I did recently on the MP NICE framework to solve any problem. This is one you may wanna listen to on repeat. It’s literally the exact recipe for solving ANY problem with your kiddo or frankly anyone.

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Tue, 18 Feb 2020 10:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week, we have our inaugural kids’ edition. This is one where I speak directly to your kids by sharing a story about a 13-year-old girl. I would say that mature 6-year-olds and older will be able to connect with this story. Don’t worry parents, you can listen in as well - lots of little pearls. Please let me know if you’d like to see more kids’ editions on the future podcast line-up!

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MMP101: A Pediatrician’s Perspective

Tue, 11 Feb 2020 10:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week, I’m talking about a recent convo I had with a pediatrician that I think you’ll find interesting. We talked about misunderstood kiddos and how the adults in their lives can support them to feel better and ultimately behave better. We talked about medication, behavior modification and more. Can’t wait to hear whatcha think. Enjoy!

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MMP100: My Favorite Hack to Slow Down Time

Tue, 04 Feb 2020 10:00:00 -0500

This episode is about creating more time in your life. I think you’ll love the tangible memory capturing tool I share in this episode called, Story of the Day. I call it Story of the Day and base it off of a practice I learned from author and speaker Matthew Dicks. This episode is filled with lots of little personal stories from my life that I’m hoping will prompt you to reflect more on the impactful moments and stories from your own life. I also discuss what’s coming up on the podcast like our new sleep segment and kids’ editions; episodes you can listen to with your kiddos. Thank you for being here with me for 100 weeks! I’m grateful for you and super appreciate your subscribing and leaving reviews.

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MMP99: Why Mastermind Parenting is Different

Tue, 28 Jan 2020 10:00:00 -0500

In this week’s episode, you’ll hear from Mastermind moms and dads about their biggest a-ha’s after becoming a Mastermind parent. I think you’ll be surprised about some of their takeaways. Hint: Not a single one of them is feeling like their kid needs to be fixed or changed. They all realize that perfection is NOT the goal. Enjoy!

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MMP98: The Most Destructive Discipline Tool

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 10:00:00 -0500

The podcast convo this week has to do with a concept I learned recently from author, Elizabeth Gilbert, called Tribal Shaming. I share a recent story from my life where I was guilty of doing this to my son. Shame is destructive and insidious. I can’t wait to hear whatcha think!

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MMP97: When Your Kid Experiences Disappointment

Tue, 14 Jan 2020 13:59:17 -0500

In this week’s podcast, I discuss the best things to do when your kid experiences a loss or a setback. The best thing to do is mostly S.T.F.U. Yup. You heard me correctly. I discuss more in this short FB Live free training I did. Enjoy!

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MMP96: Top Tip to Diffuse a Potential Meltdown

Tue, 07 Jan 2020 10:00:00 -0500

Our convo this week is about diffusing a potential meltdown when your kid is starting to spiral. This is a clip from a FB Live free training I made. I think you’ll enjoy the story about my crazy person moment from a trip last summer when some other hotel guests were making a mother truckload amount of noise in the hallway at 6 am. I become crazy when you wake my sleeping babies because guess who’s gonna have to deal with their foul moods all day. Me! That’s who. My teenagers are far from cranky toddlers but this mama bear still gets nutso. Who can relate?

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MMP95: The Way to Make 2020 YOUR Year to THRIVE

Tue, 31 Dec 2019 10:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week, I talk about getting into the driver’s seat of your life and what I’ve found to be the most effective way to change behaviors and get different results. Isn’t it time for you and your family to truly THRIVE. Enough already. You want more. You deserve more. It’s the beginning of a new decade. Just think, where will you be in 2030 if you stop waiting and take real action steps today to create the life you crave? What. Are. You. Waiting. For. 54321 GO! (Thanks Mel Robbins for creating the 5 second rule:)

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MMP94: My Top Tool to Take Your Family From Surviving to Thriving in 2020

Mon, 23 Dec 2019 10:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week, I talk about how difficult the holiday season can be with our challenging kids. They ARE harder to parent. Period. I discuss what our strong-willed kiddos truly need to show up as the best versions of themselves...structure and follow-through handled in a non-shaming way. There is a formula to achieve this along with a LOT more peace in your household. Whether you choose to follow the methods I teach in Mastermind Parenting or to reach out to a conscious parenting expert, please just take action and do SOMETHING for the sake of your kids and their future. Sending love!

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MMP93: Are You A Controlling Parent?

Tue, 17 Dec 2019 10:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week, I’m sharing an audio I made for my Mastermind about a talk I had just attended where Gloria Steinem spoke. It’s stream of consciousness style and it really got me thinking about how prevalent the threads of “control” are within our society. I think you’ll particularly like my personal story about a recent time when I found myself being a controlling mom. Enjoy!

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MMP92: Mastermind Parenting Tool to Prevent Judgy Relatives from Hijacking Your Holiday

Tue, 10 Dec 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this week’s convo, I tackle the lovely topic of judgment from snarky relatives...especially prevalent during the holiday season. Oy. I teach my “go to” mind mastery tool that will bubble wrap and protect when other people’s negativity and insecurity attempt to hijack your holiday. Enjoy!

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MMP91: Teaching Kids the Biggest Life Changing Strategy

Tue, 03 Dec 2019 10:00:00 -0500

This week I’m sharing a personal story about my 18 yr old daughter dealing with college pressure and the strategy I used to help her. My bestie, Allison, said hearing this story really helped her in supporting her daughter so I thought I’d share it with you guys too. The tool I used can be applied to kids of all ages that have pressure when it comes to school, sports, societal norms, etc...i.e. Uhhhh, I think that’s everyone! Would love to know whatcha think!

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MMP90: Generational Toxicity: Why We Love to Complain

Tue, 26 Nov 2019 10:00:00 -0500

Today, I’m complaining about the problem of complaining. I’m not here to pretend that I don’t do it or act sugary sweet and barfy as if I’m so above it. I just want to share some of my thoughts, learning and ongoing love/hate relationship with complaining about things I wanna change... in other people mostly :).

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MMP89: Practicing What We Preach

Tue, 19 Nov 2019 10:00:00 -0500

This week’s convo is about parenting hypocrisy. Recently, a mom shared with me all the “aha’s” she and her husband were having re: their expectations for their kids and the realization that they weren’t holding themselves to the same standard. As I like to say, “Model the behavior you seek”, and this mom was able to have a truly self-aware moment. More frequently than she’d probably care to admit, she was not modeling the calm reasonable behavior she expected from her kids. What about you? It takes confidence to cop to your own hypocrisy...AND it feels like a relief to finally loosen the perfectionist chains that often enslave us. Being a human is messy business and no one is perfect.

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MMP88: Talkin’ Smack About Our Kids

Tue, 12 Nov 2019 10:00:00 -0500

Our convo this week includes a clip from my Mastermind where I discuss a 1968 study done in a school called the Pygmalion Effect.

The Pygmalion effect is the phenomenon whereby others' expectations of a person affect the person's performance. The bottom line is that what we think and say about a child has the ability to greatly impact their future success. So remember, your words have power...when you speak unkindly about your kids, it represents what you’re really thinking or worried about and those thoughts can hinder their performance and their life. Think better thoughts. Say useful words. Find a new narrative. Encourage and support your kids. And if your kids aren’t “doing well”, get curious and figure out why. Learn how to support your kids so that they have the brightest future possible. THEY deserve it!

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Tue, 08 Oct 2019 09:00:00 -0500

On the podcast this week I have another helpful clip from a coaching call in the Mastermind. I talk about a 5-year old that needed to be pried off of Mom every morning at kindergarten drop off. We cover separation anxiety, having a productive convo to change the routine and what following through looks like for realz.

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MMP82: Top Tips to Make Memories While Making it Through Little Kid Years

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share some in the trenches Mama tips with my Mastermind moms. The mom that I was coaching was frustrated with the afternoon environment in her home. The boys were overtired and there was a lot of fighting, crying and tension. I walked Mom through a realistic plan, some practical tips and helpful ways to shift her mindset and embrace her reality.

So often it’s more a mindset shift than anything else. It’s about learning to stop “resisting what is” that will allow you to create peaceful afternoons. Little kids are freaking exhausting AND the long days will become a memory sooner than you may realize, especially if you learn how to master your mind. I think you’ll learn some helpful tips in this coaching clip. Enjoy!

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MMP81: “We Can Do Hard Things”: Building Resilience & Grit in Our Kids

Tue, 24 Sep 2019 09:00:00 -0500

This week’s episode is a clip from a coaching call in the Mastermind. I talk about how it affects your kids when you’re going through a hard time like divorce, a cheating spouse, health problems...unfortunate stuff adults go through. I discuss tactics to use and how to have a useful mindset when “life happens”. We cover the yin/yang in life, building resilience and grit and the goal of teaching our kids that difficult moments in time won’t break us.

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MMP80: When the “Easy” One Started Acting Up: Live Coaching Clip from the Mastermind

Tue, 17 Sep 2019 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, you’ll hear me coaching one of my Mastermind Mamas about her almost 3 year old who has suddenly become “destructo” girlie. I use Mastermind Parenting Pillar 2: All Behavior is Communication as the foundation to get curious and problem solve with her and uncover the root to little sister’s sudden troublesome actions (like throwing all the dinner napkins on the ground and knocking down older brother’s Lego creation).

I think you’ll enjoy hearing how we spin the scenario to see it differently to change Mom’s mindset and thoughts. Then I coach her and role-play how different it would look when she handles the situation with her new thinking. Oh and I think you’ll love my singing voice. Enjoy!

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MMP79: Our Love/Hate Relationship With Screens: A Convo About Becoming “Indistractable” with Nir Eyal

Tue, 10 Sep 2019 12:30:47 -0500

In this episode, I sat down with author, speaker, Stanford grad and professor, Nir Eyal. I had the pleasure of reading a pre-released copy of his latest book, Indistractable. It’s a must-read for anyone, like me, that has trouble putting your phone down. We can’t expect our kids to have a handle on the screen thing unless we hold ourselves accountable too. My family’s screen use and struggles have been reduced by half because of Nir's impact. You guys are going to love him. Enjoy!

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MMP78: Does Your Kiddo Badger You?

Tue, 03 Sep 2019 19:10:53 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the common pattern that exists in many families involving kids that seem to have no quit when it comes to demanding what they want when they want it. Sound familiar? If so, I think you’ll find the show very insightful and helpful. Enjoy!

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Pattern Repetition
Demanding behavior
Lack of boundaries
Mind mastery
Listening to your body whispers
Typical reactions to badgering behavior
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MMP77: Lying, Anger and Picking Your Mama Battles

Tue, 27 Aug 2019 10:00:00 -0500

Lying drives us nuts for obvious reasons. I want you to ask yourself the simple question, “Is your goal to be right or to be happy?” In this short and sweet episode, I discuss that you may be fighting unnecessary battles? My thoughts may leave you with a few aha’s.

Topics Covered:

Lying
Pick your battles
Parenting and playfulness
Little kids create their own reality
Little kids live in the present moment

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MMP76: How to Not Raise a Jerk

Wed, 21 Aug 2019 00:49:07 -0500

In this episode, I talk about a mom who resonated with a line from a book about not raising jerks. I go into the details about how not to raise a future jerk. Enjoy!

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MMP75: The Big Back to School Mistake

Tue, 13 Aug 2019 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I’m hooking y’all up with the big mistake and 3 tips so that you can set the tone for a productive and awesome school year.

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Topics and Tips:

Big Mistake: The big mistake is not having a PRODUCTIVE convo ahead of time and establishing the plan and the consequences.

Top tips to spell out during the convo:

No devices in car rule

Establish how many return to school trips per semester

Back to school bedtime/wake up plan begins 3 days before school begins

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MMP74: Helping a 10-year-old boy overcome a fear

Tue, 06 Aug 2019 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we have a situation involving a boy who confided in his mom about a fear he’d been having for over a year. Tune in to hear coaching clips from our convo. Enjoy!

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MMP73: To Force or Not to Force Grandparent Affection

Tue, 30 Jul 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Q: My mom gets really upset when my kids refuse to hug and kiss her hello or goodbye? Should I make them? My answer combines old school values about respecting your elders with a new fresh approach on the summer series. Do you have any questions you’d like me to address in upcoming episodes? Reply to this email and ask away: randi@randirubenstein.com For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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MMP72: Teaching your kids about private vs. public behavior

Tue, 23 Jul 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Recently I had a mom ask about her 6 year old’s penis touching “habit”. When you're a family that talks about EVERYTHING… Sometimes touchy subjects arise. In this summer VLOG, I combine some old school common sense with a newer age method to help this mama have a productive penis convo:) I think you’re gonna find it helpful as you begin to tackle these things with your own kiddos… AND yes, you’re allowed to have some fun with it! Enjoy. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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Tue, 28 May 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about what I typically see missing from the equation when you just can’t stop fighting with your kids. We have to get in the habit of having conversations ahead of time or at least at a non-relevant moment.

Topics Covered:

The messy moments
Q.T.I.P. - Quit taking it personally
Productive Conversations
After School Restraint Collapse
Hurt people hurt people
Timing is key when effectively teaching kids all the “things”
The 3 Ps - have a plan, establish protocol and be on the same page
How to establish consequences ahead of time

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MMP64: Exhausted People Suck - Sleep Episode with Certified Sleep Consultant, Cory Greenberg

Tue, 21 May 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I sat down with sleep consultant, Cory Greenberg, to help all you exhausted parents. There is SO much gold in this convo. You guys are gonna love it!

Topics Covered:

Assessing basic needs - sleep and nutrition
Sleep deprivation
Early puberty and the link to heightened cortisol is often caused by a lack of quality sleep
ADHD and how it links to sleep issues
How ADHD and sleep deprivation symptoms look similar
Putting on your mama detective hat rather only listening to the Western medicine “experts”
Screens and sugar and how they affect sleep
Consistency of sleep routine and what needs to happen leading up to it
Proper amounts of sleep
Parenting strategies involving empowering choices and proactive connecting moments and how it supports healthy sleep patterns
"I love you" rituals before bed for toddlers and teens
Your family team and how to help your kids feel a sense of value on the family team
Why sticker charts and reward systems don’t work long term

Resources: Cory is a Certified Child Sleep Consultant, working with families from pregnancy through age 5. She is also a mom of three kids, ages 9, 7, and 5, so has been in the trenches of those early years of sleep deprivation. She was a Clinical Social Worker in her former life, working with families in the CPS system, and draws on that experience and others to identify the family dynamics and other root causes of baby and toddler sleep issues. She honors each family's parenting style and philosophy to devise a comprehensive and customized path to optimal sleep for everyone. To reach out to Cory, you can find her at https://www.sleepforallconsulting.com/

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MMP63: 3 Best Tools to Help You Stop Fighting with Your Strong-Willed Kiddo

Tue, 14 May 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I give you the lowdown on the best tools to transform your home from a war zone to a sanctuary and create an environment where you’re a family that talks about anything and EVERYTHING! Topics Covered: 1. Parent plan - tool, calm down corner within 2. Kid plan - connect before you correct tool, PET present engaged time 3. Us plan - master the top 2 and now you’re ready to lead a productive convo to master empathy; the secret sauce to “everything is figuroutable and nothing is off limits to discuss” To download the FREE 3 part challenge video series - How to Stop Fighting with Your Strong-Willed Kiddo For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery

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MMP62: Mastermind Parenting Dads

Tue, 07 May 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I had a convo with 3 Mastermind Parenting dads (one of which who happens to be married to me:). That’s right, you finally get to hear from my husband, Scott Rubenstein. I have had many moms ask me how to get the hubbies on board so I decided to help you out and let the Mastermind Dads do the convincing for you. You're welcome! Topics Covered:

Parenting on the same page
Parent coaching and marriage therapy
Parenting teenagers
The truth behind the neighbors’ curtains from the dads’ point of view

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MMP61: Sibling Roughhousing

Tue, 30 Apr 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I’m letting you guys be a fly on the wall in a coaching session with me. We are speaking about sibling roughhousing and how to have a productive conversation about this hot topic! I also discuss why this a perfect area to start teaching your kids about personal boundaries when it comes to their bodies. So important! Topics Covered:

Sibling rough play and when to intervene
Parenting: 1. Establish rules. 2. Repeat often 3. Follow through consistently
Personal body boundaries and advocating for yourself
Seeing the sibling relationship as an opportunity to teach conflict resolution
Your family team
Productive convos

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MMP60: Communicating Like a Boss: Your Pack Leadership Mama Voice

Tue, 23 Apr 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I tell a story about this really large dude sitting next to me on a recent flight. I think you guys are going to possibly squirm with a little discomfort as you hear about my exchange with him. As women, I think contrary to the common belief that we’re the ones who love to talk about all things touchy feel-y...clear assertive communication isn’t often our strong suit. Especially when we need to speak up for ourselves. This is an important convo for all of us to have because as the “pack leaders” of our families, it’s very important that we learn how to communicate and lead effectively. It helps our kids feel safe in the world. It also programs our children with these important skills so they learn how to do this for themselves as they grow into pack leaders themselves one day. Topics Covered:

My YouTube channel link
Pack leadership and assertive communication
The disservice done to girls re: effective communication skills
Our primal wiring and how it affects our behavior as parents
TED Talk with Justin Baldoni

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MMP59: The Mom Manual

Tue, 16 Apr 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the unspoken, unwritten “good mom manual” that many of us have for ourselves. I think you’ll really resonate with this episode and be surprised by what I have to say about parent attendance at your kid’s sport’s events. Of course, there are also some fun “Rambly Rubenstein” insights I share about myself and about finding yourself in The Parent Gap during those heated moments when you find yourself not being the parent you truly want to be. I’d love to know what was your biggest takeaway from this episode. Let me know! Topics Covered:

What is the “Mom Manual”
The Parent Gap
D.A.R.E. - Dissolve And Release Experience
Parental role and attendance when it comes to your kid’s sporting events
Straitjacket feeling and learning to listen
Showing up authentically with your kiddos

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MMP58: 3 Tips to Get Kids to Step Up and Help Out Around the House

Tue, 09 Apr 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the real reason why your kids aren’t pitching in and what you need to do to change the un-helpfulness pattern. You don’t want to miss this one! You’re welcome. Topics Covered:

The truth about effective leaders
Why feeling powerless plays in
Allowing your kids the opportunity to feel valuable on the family team
Mind mastery is essential to “get” your kids to be helpful

The 3 tips:

1. Own your role in the current pattern

2. Have a productive conversation

3. Expect to remind and repeat yourself

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MMP57: Isn’t a Little Dose of Fear Good for Kids?

Tue, 02 Apr 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about the common belief that all kids need a healthy dose of fear to turn out well and choose to do the right thing. I dispel this myth and explain the way to encourage your kids to “do the right thing” without fear-based thinking running the show. Topics Covered:

Fear-based thinking
Mama social engineering
Teenagers and using fear and control to protect them
Primal wiring and why fear is our autopilot programming
"What you focus on grows” and focusing on fear will manifest the thing you’re fearful about

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MMP56: What If My Kid is Different and Cannot Be Disciplined?

Tue, 26 Mar 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about ineffective parenting strategies being at the root for many parents with strong-willed kids. This is a very complicated and difficult topic because there is usually quite a bit of shame and blame on the scene. Being a parent is vulnerable. When you have the courage to get curious about WHY things feel so outta control in your household, well that’s when you’ll start to turn it around. Because trust me, I mean it when I say, I developed Mastermind Parenting specifically for these kids. The bonus is that Mastermind Parenting is effective with all kids - not just your most challenging one. Your situation will get better because you listened to this episode. This is step one. Topics Covered:

Strong-willed kids and what’s really going on with the dictator dance
Shame/Blame/Vulnerability based on the work of Brene Brown
Power struggles and what’s really going on
Mastermind Parenting Pillar: All behavior is communication
Dr. Ross Greene - "Kids do well if they can."
Ineffective Parenting
Marie Forleo - “Everything is figure-out-able”

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MMP55: What If This “New Age” Parenting Doesn’t Work with My Kid?

Tue, 19 Mar 2019 00:18:20 -0500

In this episode, I break down the reason why the more mod parenting strategies are probably not working for you. It’s usually a fairly straightforward tweak that needs to be made and not a hard problem to diagnose. If you’ve been questioning why these techniques seem to only work in theory but not in real life, I think you’ll find this discussion eye-opening.

Topics Covered:

Strong-willed kids and what they need to thrive
The Dictator Dance
Not throwing the baby out with the bathwater
Not all of the old school methods are bad and we can learn
EMDR therapy
Pack Leadership and Assertiveness
Empathy
Structure and helping kids feel safe in the world

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MMP54: Working Mom vs. SAHM - Which Kids Turn Out Better?

Tue, 12 Mar 2019 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about a pretty controversial topic - working vs. stay at home moms. I think you guys might be a bit pissed off with me about this one. It's okay. Really. I love you enough to level with you about these things. Even though these are hard conversations and involve the courage to get really honest with yourself and call yourself out on your own bullsh!t, it’s a way to go to the next level of mastering your own mind. Trust me, this is personal for me. Topics Covered:

Mom Judgment
Insecurity
“Common Enemy Intimacy” a theory by Brene Brown
Which kids turn out better?
Looking at judgment (Judgment Detox book by Gabby Bernstein)
Making a choice to work or stay at home that is aligned with what you REALLY want

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MMP53: Top Homework Tips and Raising “Readers”

Tue, 05 Mar 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share my opinion on your role when it comes to your kid’s homework. I discuss some mindset shifts around learning differences like ADHD, anxious kids, dyslexia and dysgraphia. I also share my top tips for helping your kids to become lifelong readers. I think you might be surprised by some of my experiences and how my approach is different than what you might be hearing from “the educators”.

Notes:

If you find yourself feeling defensive about why their learning difference justifies the need for you to sit with them day in and day out and manage their workload, I’d like to invite you to explore a few questions:

Is your child in the right school?

Have you communicated with the school/teacher and advocated for the right kind of support for your child. Remember, they are spending 7-8 hours a day at that school and if your child is not spending that time learning the way their brain requires, well that’s a helluva lot of wasted time.

Think back in your own life to the things you’ve accomplished and feel proudest about. Was there a challenge involved that you overcame? How did you do it? Were you scrappy and resourceful? Was someone holding your hand helping you figure it out?

Recap:

Stop sitting with your kids while they do their homework. If you’re doing this, it’s a sign that things need to shift.

If your child has a learning difference, advocate by communicating with their teacher that they need to get the resources during the 7-8 hours during their school day.

If your kid is in the wrong learning environment and homework is the bane of YOUR existence, find a better situation. It’s 2019 and we have this awesome resource called the internet - there are many different virtual educational options…

Turn off the screens at night and read with and/or next to your kids and stop timing them!

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MMP52: Clips From a Recent Workshop with Randi

Tue, 26 Feb 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I included some helpful clips from a recent workshop where I discussed why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on. I shared a story about a mom with a shy daughter who was struggling socially to engage with the other kids. Many moms at the workshop related to this story and wanted to talk with me afterwards about their child. I make time EVERY week to talk with real parents about the thing that “keeps you at night” and how I can help. I encourage you to reach out and hop on my calendar if you’re ready to get some sleep! randirubenstein.com/discovery Topics Covered:

Is parenting innate?
The Parent Gap defined
Why our kids push our buttons and what’s really going on
Why we feel so damn guilty as parents
Why we repeat patterns
How to change your family’s legacy
The future for our kids
Shy kiddos
Why we are so affected when our kids have similar struggles to ones we experienced as kids

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MMP51: Terrible Two’s and Terrible Teens

Tue, 19 Feb 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about a recent post in a mom’s group on social media about a terrible 2-year-old. I think you guys will enjoy my thoughts on this post and the comments I read. Enjoy!

Topics Covered:

Terrible twos
Teenage rebellion
What you focus on grows
All behavior is communication
Kids tell us how they feel on the inside by their behavior on the outside
Kids learn by what we model
Our old programs
Spanking
Assessing basic needs - Sleep, food, activity
Sleep deprived kids have the same symptoms as an ADHD diagnosis

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MMP50: How to Teach Your Kids to Speak Up for Themselves Without Acting Like Jerks

Tue, 12 Feb 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I tell 2 stories of how kids (12 and 4) learned to respectfully and effectively use their voice. I also share a bunch of other helpful tips and tools to foster better communication for yourself and your kiddos. Enjoy! Topics Covered:

Assertive communication
Kids learn by what we model
Passive and aggressive communication
Sibling fighting
Showing and commanding respect
Pack leadership

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MMP49: Pacifiers and Pattern Disruption

Tue, 05 Feb 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I included audio about the way a mom in my private Mastermind Parenting community handled getting rid of pacifiers. I think this is an interesting listen not just for moms of toddlers, but for anyone that wants to know how to lead a difficult conversation with your kids and disrupt a pattern or break a habit. Whether it’s too much sugar and french fries or screen time, breaking a pattern can feel overwhelming and daunting. This episode has some powerful pointers to help you show up with “pack leadership” assertiveness to lead the conversation and follow through with disrupting a pattern that is no longer serving your family. Enjoy! Topics Covered:

Pack Leadership
Assertiveness
Leading the conversation
Disrupting a pattern and how to do it
How to finally say goodbye to pacifiers
Empathy

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MMP48: 4 Tips for Parenting Anxious Kiddos

Tue, 29 Jan 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, why I believe we can greatly help our anxious kids learn effective coping strategies when they lack skills and are feeling out of control. We don’t have to be afraid or feel powerless when anxious emotions are expressed by our kids. We do have the power to help them.

Topics Covered:

The 4 Tips:

1. Manage your brain with a mantra

2. Shift the focus from their head to their body.

3. Model breathing

4. Empathy

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MMP47: 3 Tips to Raise Responsible Kids

Tue, 22 Jan 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the concept of being “too good of a mom” and how it creates a pattern of unhelpful kids. When we allow our kids to experience natural consequences as well as establishing expectations of what it looks like to be a “valuable” family team member, they grow up with confidence and resilience. This recipe is the best teacher of life skills for our kiddos and the bonus is that we don’t feel unappreciated, resentful or like motherhood feels like martyr-hood. Topics Covered: The 3 tips are: 1. Own your role 2. Lean out 3. Stop fixing

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MMP46: What It Means to Be a Resume Mom

Tue, 15 Jan 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about digging into what it really looks like to be a good mom. I know this is such a loaded topic for many of us. The secret worry of most parents is that we really don’t want to screw up our most important job…raising our kids to be healthy, happy and successful (however, we choose to define that). I tell a story about “younger me” and how I thought I was checking off all the boxes on my good mom resume and how I was missing the most important one - investigating what was really underneath my child’s whiny behavior. Topics Covered:

HSP - Highly Sensitive Person
Resume mom defined
Night Terrors
Mastermind Parenting Pillar: All behavior is communication
Anxiety
Defiant behavior

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MMP45: Raising Self Motivated Successful Kids - Growth Vs. Fixed Mindset

Tue, 08 Jan 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Dr. Carol Dweck. I think you guys are going to be surprised about the nuanced ways we reinforce a fixed mindset mentality rather than encouraging our kids to truly succeed and grow. Topics covered:

Dr. Carol Dweck and the difference between fixed and growth mindset
Dr. Dweck invites us to dump the overpraising and everyone gets a trophy mentality - the false self-esteem movement
This is not about telling kids they can do anything; overpraising creates false hopes without a plan and that will lead to a fixed mindset and a dead-end
It’s about helping kids gain the skills and find the resources to make progress toward their goals
We are all a combo of fixed and growth mindset and understanding what triggers our fixed mindset
Dr. Dweck teaches us that our measurement for success and what we have thought motivated our kids to grow into achievers has been wrong
We’ve been very focused on external motivators and threats, which might work temporarily but ultimately sabotage long-term success

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MMP44: Creating A Happier Household in 2019

Tue, 01 Jan 2019 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I walk you through how to manifest the life and family you deeply crave beginning now…in 2019. I have a different spin on New Year’s resolutions and I share my process for changing patterns and stepping into simple consistent action. Enjoy!

Topics covered:

Why humans resist change
Why most of us fail at New Year’s Resolutions by about day 10
30 days of consistent action creates a new pattern
Accountability combined with community and ongoing support and continuous learning is the recipe once you’ve stepped into consistent action for 30 days
How to create a different reality very quickly
Family Vision Board - many apps available https://www.hayhouse.com/the-hay-house-vision-board-app

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MMP43: Christmas and Why I Love It...Even Though It’s Not My Holiday

Mon, 24 Dec 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about the Christmas spirit and how it affects me as a Jewish person. Here’s my point. We can choose to enjoy things from the sidelines sometimes. We can be happy for other people. We can ride that happiness wave as people in the supporting cast. There are times where we want to be front and center in the action and there are times where I choose to be a Jewish person riding the Christmas Spirit wave from the cheering section. Topics covered:

Christmas
A Jewish kid growing up in South Texas perspective
The Christmas spirit of generosity, kindness and giving back
Seeing other people’s perspectives
FOMO and why it’s not always a bad thing
Creating your own rituals and allowing your kids to grow up and do the same rather than brainwashing them to do things exactly your way

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MMP42: The Lessons From the “Red Balloon Moment”

Tue, 18 Dec 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I want to discuss what it looks like to have the courage to put your kids first...above other people’s opinions of you as a mom and even allowing THEM to be wrong about you. I tell a story about a recent situation at the park involving a 3-year-old who wants a balloon from a bday party where he wasn’t invited. Topics covered:

Primal sense of belonging for all humans
Mind mastery and self-awareness
Wayne Gretsky: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Mom Judgment
Dirty future pain
Leaning into negative emotions takes 90 seconds to move thru us
Teaching our kids to go for the shot and be willing to face negative emotions
Deciding what type of mom you’ll be?
Will you be one who puts the possible judgment of you as a mom 1st?
Or will you teach your kid to go for the shot and support them through potential negative emotion?

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MMP41: Parenting your “Other” Kids (the Non-Strong-Willed Ones)

Tue, 11 Dec 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss how important it is to step into being the pack leader of your family in terms of your “other” kid’s overall mental health and wellness. If you have a strong-willed kiddo hijacking your household, this episode is just for you!

Topics covered:

Dr. Kristin Neff and empathic resonance
Imbalance of power
Pack leadership
"Victim first” sibling fighting parenting tool when violence is present
Focus on the healing, not the hurting
Focus on the “other” kid in a proactive way through noticing PET time
Be the soft place to land for your “other” child
If you’re allowing your strong-willed kid to hijack your household, you’re doing everyone in the family a disservice - and you all suffer. The strong-willed kid, the “other” kid, you...your marriage. All of you suffer. Pack leadership training is essential

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MMP40: The Secret I Kept from My Husband and Other Little Personal Nuggets from My Convo on Pleasance Silicki’s Podcast

Tue, 04 Dec 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I was interviewed by my friend, Pleasance, on her Soulful Self Care Podcast. We discussed lots of topics from my strong-willed kid to Pleasance’s daughter being bullied about her learning difference. I shared details about my story that I haven’t discussed and how Mastermind Parenting came to be. Topics covered:

Conscious Discipline
EFT Tapping
Strong Willed Kids are the real change agents
Bullying and learning differences
Empathy
Keeping a secret from my husband
Writing my book, The Parent Gap

Pleasance Silicki is an entrepreneur, coach, creator, teacher, author, and magic-maker. She is the founder of lil omm, a wellness and lifestyle movement that leads courses, workshops, and retreats using wisdom traditions and modern research to enhance our daily lives.

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MMP39: The 8 Foundational Tools To Raise Kind and Confident Kiddos

Tue, 27 Nov 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode I take you through the main foundational pillars of my Mastermind Parenting method. Listen up because these are the main concepts that will transform your household…like for realz! Topics covered:

Creating a family team
Being a family that’s actually on the same team
The Mastermind Parenting Pillars: QTIP, All behavior is communication, Positive reinforcement, Pack Leadership, Intrinsic Motivation, Positive Intent, Empathy, Consequences

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MMP38: Thanksgiving and Having an Attitude of Gratitude

Tue, 20 Nov 2018 11:00:00 -0500

Topics:

Hedonic Adaptation
Gratitude is a practice that can be cultivated and directly links to happiness
Gratitude affects many areas of your life in positive ways - personality, health, emotional, social and career
Strong willed kids happen “for” not “to” you
“Future You” exercise to get you into a gratitude practice

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MMP37: What Makes A Great Dad?

Tue, 13 Nov 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I FINALLY made an episodes all about Dads and what it means “in my book” to be a good dad. Moms - share this one with your hubby or ex-hubby. Of course, there are plenty of personal stories and “Randi-ramblings” in this one. Enjoy! Topics covered:

The Family Team
Feeding the people
Love is in the details
Enjoying your role and your kids for real
Delegation and resisting the martyr-hood and what that looks like

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MMP36: Insights From My Dog Walk

Mon, 05 Nov 2018 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I recorded my thoughts on a recent dog walk where I had a sort of “brick to the head” AHA. I compared walking my dog to many of the parenting tools I’ve been teaching for over a decade. Topics covered:

Positive reinforcement
Making a child’s behavior mean something it doesn’t
Seeing the situation from your child (or dog’s) point of view
Parenting is: establishing rules, expecting to repeat those rules often, and following through consistently over and over

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MMP35: How to Have Productive Convos About Sex with Anya Manes

Mon, 29 Oct 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I sat down with Parent Coach and host of the annual Talking To Kids About Sex Interview Series. We had an informative conversation where we shared lots of personal stories. I think you’ll find it extremely helpful as you navigate these sometimes challenging convos around sex with your kiddos.

Topics covered:

Rape culture vs. consent culture
Porn and technology
What age you begin the birds and the bees convos
Open communication with your kids
Preventing your child from becoming the playground “sex-splainer”
Leaning into this difficult conversation and more!

Anya Manes is an educator and parent coach, specializing in helping parents talk with their kids about sex and relationships. As a high-school teacher for over a decade, she became intimately aware of teen struggles and how our current sex-ed programs and parenting culture fail to give kids the skills they need to navigate adolescence safely. Anya hosts the annual Talking To Kids About Sex Interview Series and speaks publicly at schools, parent groups, conferences, and private events. Anya coaches parents, privately and in groups, helping them build skills around feeling and defending boundaries, articulating sexual values, answering children’s questions, and becoming critical thinkers about sex in the media.

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MMP34: Tips to Have Productive Convos About Rape Culture

Mon, 22 Oct 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode I talk about how to have ongoing REALISTIC productive conversations with our kids about rape culture in light of the recent Kavanaugh public hearings. I share some personal stories of how I’ve broached this subject as a mom with my own kids.

Topics covered:

16 Candles depiction of rape culture (article I quoted: www.vox.com/culture/2018/9/27/17906644/sixteen-candles-rape-culture-1980s-brett-kavanaugh)
How to talk to our girls about this
How to talk to our boys about this
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MMP33: The Sibling Fighting Tool

Mon, 15 Oct 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share a Facebook Live I did in my private Mastermind Parenting Basics group where I role play how to resolve a sibling fight for a mom of 2 girls, ages 4 and 7. I’ve never taught my sibling fighting tool publicly before and I think you’ll find this episode particularly helpful. It’s honestly, the best way to resolve sibling squabbles while also teaching your kids high level conflict resolution skills that they’ll use out in the real world. It’s really good stuff if I do say so myself!

Topics covered:

Sibling fights
Empathy
Calming down
The Calm Down Corner
Conflict Resolution
Assertiveness training
Seeing your strong willed child’s perspective and conveying it productively

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MMP32: Mastermind Parenting Tool for Minis (under 3)

Wed, 10 Oct 2018 13:20:35 -0500

In this episode, I share a Facebook live clip from my private Mastermind Parenting group about how to help teeny tiny ones learn a better behavior when they’re doing something destructive or hurtful to another child.

Topics covered:

Hyper little ones
Changing a destructive pattern of behavior
Communicating effectively to help a little one improve behavior
How to focus on the behavior you want to teach rather than admonishment
Examples of the repetition pattern to teach little kids appropriate behavior
How to assume positive intent and what it looks like in a real life scenario

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MMP31: Unhealthy Mother-Daughter Patterns with Karen Anderson

Tue, 09 Oct 2018 23:01:08 -0500

In this episode, I had a conversation with the amazing Karen Anderson, author, coach and speaker who helps adult daughters who have “difficult” mothers. We talk about Karen’s story and all the knowledge she has around this very challenging topic. Topics covered:

Unhealthy mother daughter patterns that get passed down from generation to generation
Overbearing moms
Boundaries
Compassion
Lynn Forrest’s work
The “Mother Wound”
The victim narrative

Karen C.L. Anderson is the author of the book "Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration" and an advice columnist on Patreon where she marries her love of writing and her life coaching skills to help women in difficult mother/daughter relationships set healthy boundaries and learn to re-mother themselves. Resources Mentioned:

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MMP30: Why Kids Blame Rather Than “Owning Up"

Mon, 24 Sep 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this short episode, I talk about a recent convo with my husband and brother in-law about an adult that kept "failing" in business and seemed to have an excuse or reason why each situation was not his fault. I share my thoughts on what we can do as parents to help our kids not become THAT guy. Topics covered:

Blame
Failure
Perfection
Vulnerability
Taking personal responsibility and learning from mistakes

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MMP29: How To Respond When Your Kid’s Outta Control

Mon, 17 Sep 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I speak to a criticism/clarification made by a podcast listener re: how to respond to a kiddo in full blown “outta control” meltdown mode. I talk about being firm and assertive and how that looks in REAL life if you have a child prone to explosive behavior in an unregulated state and when to effectively use empathy. Topics covered:

My response to a podcast listener’s criticism
Empathy and when it’s effective
Pack Leadership and Assertiveness
Strong willed kids and what actually helps them calm down when they’re in full blown meltdown mode
Creating a safe space for the child to calm down and why any attempt to try and talk them out of their feelings is futile when you’re in the heat of the moment

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MMP28: 3 Reasons Why Your Convos are Unproductive

Mon, 10 Sep 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about why conversations are often unproductive and how to change that. We often think we are having a conversation but it is really just a lecture in disguise. A conversation that is centered around a parents agenda to teach a lesson is really a lecture. I think you will find this episode enlightening to say the least...it may even slightly piss you off. Love ya! Topics covered:

How do I get my child to do ____? This is a sure sign of control and always leads to an unproductive lecture
You’re in The Parent Gap and thinking that if only your child would learn the things you want to teach them then they’d behave better and life would be smooth sailing
You do you. Why are you so triggered? Why are you attempting to control your child? What are you missing? What’s your child’s perspective? Did you really dig in and begin the conversation by seeing their perspective and putting your agenda aside?
You did not actively listen. You jumped into problem solving and missed this crucial step.
Recap: The 3 reasons your convos are unproductive:
1. Control and a hidden agenda
2. Lecturing instead of active listening
3. You’re in The Parent Gap

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MMP27: Moms, Girls, Body Image Stuff - A REAL Convo with Dana Suchow

Mon, 03 Sep 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I spoke with speaker and educator, Dana Suchow about female body image issues, eating disorders, diet culture and how to productively talk about this sensitive topic with our girls. We got down and dirty and had a rich convo. I think you’re going to find it super interesting and possibly take a pause to think about some of the “elephant in the room” topics we dug deep into. Needless to say, I thought we had a riveting conversation. Enjoy! Topics covered:

Diet culture
Eating disorders
Food restriction and how it activates the scarcity signal in our “lizard”/primal brain
Gender binary (I didn’t know what this was until this interview)
Body awareness
Self awareness
Social media and what part it plays in our girl’s body image issues and suggestions for how to handle it
Moms and daughters and how moms accidentally exacerbate the situation when we see our girls struggling with something similar to what we’ve gone through
Modeling the behavior you want for your daughter when it comes to a healthy relationship with food
The role of the media in affecting our female body image basis

Dana Suchow - Speaker and Educator Since overcoming Bulimia, Binge Eating Disorder and exercise compulsion that resulted in permanent injuries, Dana Suchow has become an expert in the field of body image and eating disorder prevention. Offering a nonclinical and holistic approach, Dana will teach you how to put your child on a path towards body love, empowerment and self-acceptance. In 2014 Dana founded #MyBodyStory, an ongoing storytelling series created to uplift girl's and women's voices that so often go unheard. You can read more about Dana on her website https://www.danasuchow.com/ Apply for Free Coaching!

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MMP26: Real Coaching With Randi on 3 Strong Willed Kid Scenarios

Mon, 27 Aug 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I include the Q&A portion of a masterclass I recently taught that I think many of you will relate to (especially those of you with a strong willed one).

Topics covered:

A strong willed and sensitive kid that ignores consequences and refuses to change his behavior or see the other kid’s perspective.
An oppositional defiant teenage boy who ignores the house rules and is taking part in risky teenage behavior.
The “gifted” child who’s a stellar athlete and an A student - how to help “that” child strive for excellence and be their best.

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MMP25: A REAL Convo With A Mastermind Parenting Couple

Mon, 20 Aug 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I catch up with a couple who took my Mastermind Parenting Basics course about 18 months ago. I think you guys will find this convo inspiring and entertaining.

Topics covered:

Staying calm when your kids behave like lunatics and what that looks like for this couple
Connecting the dot of your past impacting your parenting and how to change that
How to be a connected couple and to bond through parenting & be on the same team
Becoming a patient person when you’ve been prone to anger and violence in your past
Retraining your brain with the programs you choose
Understanding themselves more and their triggers while also understanding their kids and their
stage of development
Learning about yourself and really getting to know yourself and how that makes you such a
more confident and effective parent
Managing your mind and what that looks like when you’re kids are pushing your buttons
Not just about shutting down the crying or upset but shifting your focus to “why” they are upset
Why personality assessments can help you in your marriage
Taking a parenting course and becoming a team can be even better than marriage counseling

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MMP24: Real Coaching With Randi

Mon, 13 Aug 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode with podcast listener and SAHM, Heather, we dive into the secret worry most of us can relate to..."Am I screwing this up – are my kids going to struggle because I don’t know what the hell I’m doing?!?"

Heather is a perfect example of an awesome mama that doubts herself and her abilities as a mom. She is a former early childhood teacher as well as a mom that reads parenting books, listens to podcasts and has even taken a parenting class. However, she still often feels at a loss about what to do when her kids are misbehaving. As you’ll hear, it’s all about mastering her mind to dissolve the limiting belief that “she is not a natural leader”. I think many of you’ll relate to Heather’s honesty and will gain a lot from this coaching session. Enjoy!

Topics covered:

Negative spouses and negative kids
Fix it mode and control
Exhaustion after a long day with littles and feeling responsible as a mom for things not going smoothly...and the need to defend our kids as “normal” to their own dad
Bedtime battles
When the kids only want Mommy and Daddy gets his feelings hurt
The bedtime window and the second wind when you miss it
Sensitive nervous system kids
Pack Leadership energy
Why pack leadership/assertive communication doesn’t come naturally for most women
Backtalk and disrespect
Why we usually handle these negative behaviors all wrong and make it mean something that it doesn’t
Leaning into the suckage when you’re disrupting a pattern
Sleep training
Role playing the productive convo establishing the new bedtime routine with Heather’s four year old

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MMP23: Favorite Mastermind Parenting Tools - Straight from the mamas!

Mon, 06 Aug 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I spoke about my 3 favorite mastermind parenting tools and included interviews with 4 of my mastermind mamas speaking about their favorite tools. This episode is PACKED with loads of powerful content. Enjoy!

Topics covered:

Sibling mediation tool
“You can try again tomorrow”
Replacing yelling with a deep audible breath
Seeing your kid’s perspective
Being the soft place to land and what that looks like
Why so many parenting tools feel unnatural
The best way to send our kids the message that they are good enough exactly as they are and shaping positive self worth
Listen and Stop Fixin’
Empathy. Empathy. Empathy.
What we mean by Jedi mind tricks
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MMP22: Real Coaching With Randi

Mon, 30 Jul 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode with podcast listeners, Julia and Brooke, I cover many topics that I think many of you will relate.

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Topics covered:

Strong willed 8 year old with a sensitive nervous system who is super affected by lack of sleep and sugar
Younger brother with easier temperament looks up to his older brother and mom worries that he is learning problematic behavior from big brother
Dr. Bruce Lipton and Epigenetics
Subconscious programming during the first 7 years of life and living in a Theta brainwave state
Why mind mastery is the way to reprogram our adult brain
Why strong willed kids propel us to learn how to reprogram our brains and become our biggest gifts
Easy kids don’t present enough of a challenge for us to take the time to learn something new...wouldn’t it be more fun to binge watch Orange is the New Black rather than listening to parenting podcasts?!?
It’s human to enjoy our easiest kids more and this has nothing to do with how much we love each of your children
Sibling rivalry and why it often does have to do with jealousy because the strong willed ones know that we enjoy easier sibling more
How our dynamic from growing up shows up as triggers when we see our kids display that same dynamic
Mediation tool, my conflict resolution tool, to handle sibling rivalry…”victim first”
The #1 mistake is going to the aggressor first. Ex: “Stop hurting your brother”.
What you focus on grows
Focus on the healing not the hurting by going to the “victim” first rather than the aggressor
Strong willed 3 year old
Less is more and quality over quantity...why Brooke nailed it by saying no to doing all the “best mom ever” stuff on the weekends
Highly sensitive people and Elaine Aron’s work
Anxiety and learning to see it as your superpower

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MMP21: Top 3 Tips for Managing Fortnite & Other Video Game Obsessions

Mon, 23 Jul 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I recorded a FB Live in response to a podcast listener’s request for help with her teen son’s Fortnite addiction. There are 3 simple steps I cover in terms of navigating the boundaries around video game balance. This is realistic guidance for those of us who allow our kids to play video games and want to supervise and manage the situation without it becoming a constant power struggle. We are looking for video game balance. This is not a relevant episode for parents that have a screen free household…and for the record, hats off to ya! I’m secretly jealous and missed the boat on being able to pull that one off. Plus, if I’m really being honest, I've used technology as a sanity saving babysitter with my kids over the years. Just keeping it real people!

Topics covered:

3 tips:

1. Adopt a set of rules and communicate at a non/relevant time using Pack Leadership language and assertiveness.

2. Expect to remind and repeat often.

3. Follow through consistently without matching your child’s upset attitude.
Laying the foundation with a productive convo
Addiction and how video game addiction compares to smoking or HEROIN!
Strong willed kiddos and why these tips work with all kids.
Productive convos are logical and respectful and therefore you’re kids are receptive.

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MMP20: Allowance, Chores and How to talk to our kids about money - A REAL Convo with Colin Ryan

Mon, 16 Jul 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I have a conversation with author and speaker, Colin Ryan. Colin travels around the country speaking to college students about money. Can you believe they actually have a good time while learning about money?!? I picked Colin’s brain about his views and suggestions re: the pressure we face as parents in terms of raising kids that will go out to responsibly earn in the world. Colin really has his finger on the pulse of productively speaking to young people about money and setting them up for success. His book is called A Comedic Guide to Money.

Guest Bio:

Colin Ryan is a one-of-a-kind comedic speaker, a financial educator and author with the background of a professional comedian and storyteller. His work is to bring hope and humor to an area of life where everybody needs to feel more comfortable yet nobody thinks it's okay to talk about. As a speaker, in the hour he spends with students and adults he gives them the tools to reinvent their money relationship. How to save up, borrow safely, and spend in line with who you are - these things influence what's possible for you. Because your ability to manage your money directly affects your ability to reach your dream.

Topics covered:

When to start talking to your kids about $$$
Allowance
Entitlement
Instilling a hard work ethic
Why and how we usually handle the topic of money unproductively with our kids
Colin’s approach to take with kids
How fear and a scarcity mindset around money will sabotage your kid’s creativity and ability to find work they love

Resources Mentioned:

Website: Colin Ryan

Colin’s book: A Comedic Guide to Money,

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MMP19: 3 Things to Stop Saying as a Parent

Mon, 09 Jul 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the 3 things we should stop saying as parents as well as; how EMPATHY is always the replacement. I teach how to effectively model empathy with your kids in a few typical scenarios.

Topics covered:

Empathy
Skinned knee responses
Bad test score responses
Dads and sons and crying
Responding with respect and empathy when your child’s upset and what that looks like
Why crying can feel embarrassing for many adults
When you’ve warned your child that their behavior will have a negative outcome and they ignore you

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MMP18: Creating a Life of Independence and Ultimately Freedom as Balanced BADASS Mamas

Mon, 02 Jul 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share a clip where I’m being interviewed by fellow mom, Conny Lee for her "Balanced Parent Show". We talk about lots of topics that data-term="goog_1746126830">July 4th represents in our modern day as women looking for independence, strength and ultimately the feeling of freedom.

Topics covered:

Mommy judgment
The mommy wars between SAHM and “career” moms.
Assertive pack leadership and what that looks like.
How to communicate from a place of positive assertiveness and when to have a productive conversation.
I coach Conny on how to tackle her nightly bedtime battle over leaving her daughter’s room and separating for the night.
How to respond with empathy rather than defensiveness when our kids lay on the guilt that they want to be a part of the neighbor’s family because it’s WAY more fun - unlimited treats, tech, time, etc...

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MMP17: Real Coaching with Randi - featuring podcast listener, Aimee

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we dig into our first “Real Coaching with Randi” segment with podcast listener, Aimee. Aimee is a single working mama with an almost 6-year old strong willed son. We tackle a few different scenarios - mealtime and morning stress and what to do when you’re worried about raising entitled kiddos with a case of the “gimme gimme gimme”.

Topics covered:

Picky eating and what’s really going on
Realistic morning routines and how to implement it
Sample scripts for having productive conversations when you want to change a pattern
Kids and toys
Entitlement and raising kids that act like you owe them the “stuff”
What’s really going on and how most of us are handling it all wrong
How often we make our kids’ behavior mean something different than it actually does
How to have a conversation about the gimmes

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MMP16: How to have a stress free summer

Mon, 18 Jun 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode I discuss summer time and how it can be pretty stressful for us moms. It’s so common for moms to think deep down that motherhood equals martyrhood. Ya, that never works out for us. It causes us to feel resentful and either check out or lose our sh!t with the people we love the most. I teach you my favorite tool so you can have a stress free summer.

Topics:

Learning how to tune into your body whispers with the straitjacket/skinny dipping tool
Boredom is a good thing
To schedule or not to schedule
Fantasy vs reality and why it’s so important to embrace your truth and listen to your body

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MMP15: Achievement and Success - How to support your kids in achieving THEIR dreams

Mon, 11 Jun 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I talk about the pressure of final exams for kids in middle and high school...stream of consciousness style, i.e.“Randi Rambling” on my evening doggy walk. I bring up our achievement oriented culture while considering the need to possibly redefine the “successful” student in our changing world. Do we really think it’s the kids that excel at traditional education that will grow up to be the change agents we need to lead tomorrow? I talk about thinking about the pressure we may accidentally put on our kids to live out our unpursued dreams. I share mistakes I’ve made and of course the best recovery method for all those EPIC parenting “fails”. When we handle those moments with the productive conversational method, i.e. with empathy, we end up even closer than if we’d handled it perfectly from the get go. Topics covered:

The letter from a Singapore principal
Our rapidly changing world and that our kids will create their own jobs
Living vicariously through our kids when we’ve given up on our own dreams
Accidentally becoming the bully in our child’s life because we are trying to prevent pain or suffering we’ve experienced ourselves
Kids that are outta the box thinkers may just be the real leaders of tomorrow
Recovering from a parenting “fail” through having a productive conversation

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MMP14: A Conversation on All Things Motherhood with Gabriela Gerhart

Mon, 04 Jun 2018 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I interview Gabriela Gerhart of Motherhood Center in Houston. We have a rich conversation where we dive into the difficult transition into parenthood and the lack of support for moms in our traditional society and why I am so obsessed with Motherhood Center. Gabi is the REAL deal and runs a thriving heart centered business that nurtures thousands of mothers and families. Her story is rich and her early childhood roots from the small village where she grew up in the Czech Republic are woven throughout our conversation and into her business. We discussed motherhood, business and bringing back “the village” mentality into raising kids in our modern world.

Topics covered:

Gabi’s definition of a doula
Motherhood Center https://www.motherhoodcenter.com/
Breastfeeding
Night nursing and night time infant care support

Episode Intro or Guest Bio:

Gabriela Gerhart is the Founder of The Motherhood Center. She established this haven for mothers in 2003, turning a lifelong dream into reality. She discovered her passion for babies and childcare early. She was only four years old when her sister was born, and she treasured her role as “little mommy”. Today Gabriela touches the lives of thousands of infants, parents and families through The Motherhood Center.

Gabriela was born and raised in the small mountain village of Jablunkov, Czech Republic. She values her hometown’s warm and nurturing environment-an environment she ensures at The Motherhood Center. She received degrees in Pediatric Nursing and Physical Therapy.

In 1999, Gabriela accepted a position in Houston to help an American couple care for their premature baby. While in Houston, she fell in love with the opportunities, her life, and the man who is now her husband, Gary Gerhart.

After her initial position as an Au pair, Gabriela continued her education across Texas, becoming trained in Breastfeeding Education and Postpartum Doula. Gabriela quickly gained a reputation as a dependable and knowledgeable adviser, whose caring and calming spirit was especially soothing to new parents. More and more women used her as a resource for the care of their newborns. Gabriela became frustrated with how difficult it was for these women, who were already going through a particularly vulnerable time, to obtain reliable information. Gabriela recognized the overwhelming interest shown by expecting and new moms, to keep up with fast-changing medical information and technological possibilities. She realized they not only yearned for structured educational classes on modern methods, they also hoped for timeless wisdom on handling everyday childcare situations. With the needs of these mothers in mind, she created The Motherhood Center. Gabriela and The Motherhood Center have been featured by The Houston Chronicle, The Houston Business Journal, 002 Magazine, Vonyage magazine, Paper City, The River Oaks Examiner, KTRK ABC 13, KPRC Channel 2, KHOU Channel 11, CW 39 and FOX 26. She is committed to philanthropy and is involved with several Houston charities including Child Advocates, Children’s Assessment Center, American Heart Association, Children’s Museum, and Women’s Home, The Women's Fund , Crime Stoppers of Houston and many more.

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MMP13: How to talk to your kids to help prevent school shootings

Mon, 28 May 2018 10:00:00 -0500

Living in a world where gun violence has become a possibility in the average kid’s school day…parents want to know what we can do and how to keep our kids safe.

In this episode, I’m having a conversation with Danielle from The Silver Lining Mamas private FB group about school shootings. We recorded this episode the day of the school shooting in Indiana which happened to take place 20 minutes from Danielle’s house. Danielle had reached out to me about what we can do as moms to contribute to the solution and how we can empower ourselves and our children to help create a safer America.

Yes, most of us want stricter gun laws. Yes, we are scared and frankly, pissed that our kids are growing up with the reality that they aren’t even safe at school. Yes, many of us take to the soapboxes about these injustices and fight for reform. AND here is also something we can do in each and every one of our homes...we can change our conversations around the table and raise our kids to be part of the solution. Kindness counts.

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Topics Covered

School shootings
Empathy
What moms can do in our homes to change the climate by changing the conversations around our dinner tables

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MMP12: Lessons learned from Gary Vee’s mom - a woman I’ve never met

Mon, 21 May 2018 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss a very successful business guy named Gary Vaynerchuk and his story. I think it’s important to find examples of the power we have as moms on shaping our kids and ultimately the future. If we truly understand the impact and power that an unconditionally loving, empathetic and connected mom has on her kids, we feel even more inspired to retrain our brains, master our minds and change the conversations in our homes.

Topics covered:

Gary Vaynerchuk
Mrs. Vaynerchuk - Gary’s mom
ADHD
Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation
Wine library
Entrepreneurship and out of the box thinking
Finding your superpower
Our kids’ future jobs don’t even exist yet
Raising our girls to know they are enough
Raising our boys to be respectful good guys
#me too
#Garyvee
Bill Cosby and why we are all heartbroken
Moms shaping the next generation leaders and changing the world
Men respecting women

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MMP11:Blame and Judgment and Learning from Mistakes - How to raise good people?

Mon, 14 May 2018 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I unpack the default behavior for so many of us when life throws us a curveball - sitting in blame and judgment. I explain why this is the case for me too and what I’m learning to replace these negative emotions with something more helpful. I share some personal stories to explain all of this in more detail and ways to see an accident or mistake as an opportunity for real learning. I also discuss the best way to ensure that you’re raising good people rather than creepy sh!theads.

Topics covered:

Blame and judgment culture
Judgment is a self projection
Brene’ Brown’s theory about common enemy intimacy
Empathy and how productive convos produce good people
The mom movement and how we are shaping the people that will lead us into the future
Spending time nourishing rather than depleting yourself and how to know that you are doing that
Mistakes are part of the human experience and are an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve
What to do to ensure that your kids respect you and other people
Model the behavior you seek from your kids - if you want kind respectful kids, treat them kind and respectfully
Mortified about your daughter becoming a mean girl? I tell you what to do to make sure that doesn’t happen

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MMP10: How to Have a Productive Conversation with your kids

Mon, 07 May 2018 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share my view on why we lecture and what to do instead. Lectures do NOT teach our kids the valuable life lessons we want to teach them. In fact, lecturing often reinforcing the behavior we wish to eliminate while also damaging our relationships. I have an approach that will teach you how to infuse empathy into your conversations so that they are actually effective, connecting and ultimately, PRODUCTIVE.

This is truly the best advanced tool that I teach. I completely teach you how it looks in real life in this podcast episode. This is the tool that my parenting programs lead up to...being able to master empathy to transform the convos in your home and create the family team you crave!

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Topics covered:

Empathy
Active listening
Seeing their perspective
Dan Pink and his quote about empathy
Positive communication tools

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MMP09: The difficult convos on my recent family vacation

Mon, 30 Apr 2018 09:00:00 -0500

In this episode, you will hear the audio version of a video I filmed for my private parenting community on the last day of our Colorado vacation. I discuss some hard topics and difficult conversations we had that added tremendous value to our memory making moments.

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The bottom line is that parenting is hard. That old message about being a good parent and how it all SHOULD come naturally and instinctively ...are words spoken by Nazis and other deplorable people in my opinion.

Anyone spreading that tall tale is wearing a mask in my opinion...unwilling to discuss real struggle, hard topics or practice vulnerability.

Sure it’s instinctual to feed our little people and take care of their basic needs like picking up a crying baby or nursing a sickie back to health.

And as we all know...there are many subjects that come up on our parenting journey that go way beyond basic needs.

Because unlike our cave dwelling ancestors, we modern humans now live in an evolving world with technology, eating disorders, little league and other “non-basic” issues we gotta discuss with our peeps.

We are good parents.

We spend time learning and listening to podcasts so we can discuss the stuff our kids deal with in our evolving world.

My vacation yoga teacher said, “Evolution is about growing. Stagnation is literally the opposite of evolution.”

Humans are meant to continue to evolve.

It’s sort of our job.

Learning how to change the convos in your home is a big part of the job.

It goes beyond basic needs.

You want your kids to be able to talk to you about anything.

THIS. My friend. Is. Evolution.

Enjoy a little behind the scenes window into the real and raw convos in my family.

Topics covered:

How the documentary, Screenagers, inspired us to go “screenless-ish” on this vacation and some issues were revealed once we were less plugged in.
“Masks off” and how not pretty it is...especially at first
A reference in my own life to the food issues in the show, This Is Us.
A negative pattern that I was accidentally beginning to pass down to my daughter and the hard productive convo we had about it.
Sibling rivalry and how individual parent engaged time with each kid can strengthen the sibling bond.
Outdoor activities and a time to connect with your kids even if you don’t ski on a ski vacation (uhhhh that would be me!)
The point of a family vacation and mixing up the routine.
Making memories? FB posts? Uninterrupted time together
Nature walks and dreaming together about living somewhere “cooler”
Beautiful scenery is amazing AND it’s really the people you surround yourself with that create a rich life.
People over environment
Movies in bed
Lots of little and a few bigger conversations
Families that always travel with others...might be a buffer or a mask for spending true quality time together and cleaning some things up
My husband calling me selfish

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MMP08: FB Live Q & A with a Mama’s Group

Sun, 22 Apr 2018 16:44:47 -0500

In this episode, I share a clip from my FB Live interview with Danielle Atkisson who runs the silver lining Mamas fb group. I started the clip on the tale end of answering a question from a mom that is worried about her 11 year old anxious daughter and how it’s hard to understand her bc they are opposites. We also went on to discuss defiance, sibling fighting and of course I share some stories from my own life. At the end of the episode I talk about my upcoming 30 day brain retraining parenting course, Closing the Parent Gap Basics. Enrolment closes April 28, 2018. You can read about it here. Http://www.randirubenstein.com/cpg

Topics covered:

Sib rivalry and conflict resolution
The Calm Down Corner (time out alternative)
Assertive Communication
Anxiety
Shaping beliefs

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MMP07: Tech Addiction - Some Parenting Guidance on this Pressing Childhood Epidemic

Mon, 16 Apr 2018 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss the documentary Screenagers and the silent addiction epidemic that we are facing as a society.

I had been wanting to attend a screening of Screenagers and was coincidentally invited to be a panelist at a private school in my home city. Needless to say, I had a pit in my stomach as I watched the reality of what we are facing in terms of screen addiction and how it affects our kids and ourselves, frankly.

The documentary validates much of what I teach when it comes to looking for a quick pleasure fix in the form of a screen. The movie includes the latest research in neuroscience and how screens affect our dopamine receptors in the same way as hard drugs. When our kids grow up on screens, we are literally hardwiring them for drug addiction. Super scary.

I happen to love technology myself. It’s the reason why I can create a podcast and share it with you. I struggle with many of the issues mentioned in the film and I think that what many of us can take away from the film and the subsequent conversation is that we are entering uncharted territory. Rules and regulations are needed and right now we are educating, increasing awareness and beginning the conversations that must happen to keep our kids safe in this new virtual reality surrounding childhood.

I share my thoughts on how to handle adopting tech rules in your household as well as how to conduct a productive conversation with your kids about this. And as always remember that whether it’s technology, sleep, food, school work or whatever the subject concerning your family, the steps are to:

Adopt a set of rules
Repeat them often
Follow through consistently.

Technology rules that are productively communicated is a great example of how to set your family up for success rather than constant fighting and stress surrounding this very present modern issue.

Topics covered:

Screenagers documentary https://www.screenagersmovie.com/
Screen addiction https://nypost.com/2017/12/04/heres-how-to-tell-if-your-child-has-a-screen-addiction/
Dopamine and screen addiction http://yourbrainhealth.com.au/dopamine-cause-digital-addiction/
Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction is Hijacking Our Kids-and How to Break the Trance book quote: “Brain imaging research is showing that stimulating glowing screens are as dopaminergic (dopamine activating) to the brain's pleasure center as sex. And a growing mountain of clinical research correlates screen tech with disorders like ADHD, addiction, anxiety, depression, increased aggression, and even psychosis. Most shocking of all, recent brain imaging studies conclusively show that excessive screen exposure can neurologically damage a young person's developing brain in the same way that cocaine addiction can.

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MMP06: Why Time Out is Bogus

Mon, 09 Apr 2018 08:00:00 -0500

Why Time Out is Bogus

In this episode, I discuss time-out; the punishment that many of us have used to replace spanking. We are often misguided to believe that it’s this progressive humane improvement when it’s potentially just as damaging emotionally as spanking is physically.

I know many parents are simply looking for resources to teach their kids the difference between right and wrong. The punishment model has rarely been questioned in years past and yet, all the researchers and experts tell us that it’s ineffective. It accomplishes the opposite of what we want - stronger connections with our kids and effective measures for teaching appropriate behavior. Punishments like time out and spanking are divisive, polarizing and teach our kids not to trust us.

One of my favorite new quotes that I coined recently is, “We don’t own our kids. Owning people is called slavery...not childhood.” Slavery is illegal. Our kids are little people.

Our job is to teach, guide and keep our little people safe. Punishment does not teach anything other than teaching our kids to lie to us and become sneaky when doing things that will result in a punishment. When we punish our kids rather than having productive communication, we teach them not to trust us.

The research and child development experts report that kids under the age of 12 do not change their future behavior based on punishment. They are actually incapable of doing so.

The REAL way we teach kids appropriate behavior is by establishing rules, repeating them often and following through consistently. When the rules are broken, we teach them how to become calm and calmly discuss the situation. When everyone is calm, we empathize and find out what’s underneath the misbehavior. Then we state the rules, set a boundary and possibly enforce a logical and related consequence. We follow through consistently.

This is the recipe that leads to changing the convos in your home even when your kids are behaving like total turkeys. Your welcome.

Topics covered:

"Why time out needs a time-out" article in Psychology Today
Wikipedia definition of time-out: Time-out (also known as social exclusion) is a form of behavioral modification that involves temporarily separating a person from an environment where unacceptable behavior has occurred.
Punishment defined:the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense.
Dr. Ross Greene
The Calm Down Corner: A time-out alternative

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MMP05: Misunderstood and Misdiagnosed Kids

Mon, 02 Apr 2018 08:00:00 -0500

I discuss kids that I refer to as “sensitive nervous system kids” who present as challenging and willful and how they are usually misunderstood and frequently misdiagnosed as having conditions like ADHD.

As parents we are often confused about what to do and what our options really are when it comes to these strong willed kids. Unfortunately, when we turn to traditional resources we are often led down a 1 size fits all path and it’s often not the right one for our kids.

I’m on a mission to let other parents with a strong willed or sensitive nervous system kid know that there other solutions to consider besides the classic ADHD with a side of anxiety diagnosis that so many of these kids receive from western medicine doctors and therapists.

These kids that repeatedly act out at home and/or school are often misunderstood when we try to attack the behavior with old school punishment tactics in an effort to shut down the misbehavior. Basically I shared my thoughts on this situation and the misunderstood rabbit hole I’ve seen many families with sensitive nervous system kids go down.

When a kid acts out, the way most of us have been raised, we think we need to establish a boundary during those moments by restating the rules and teaching about acceptable behavior. This never works to shut down the behavior. In fact, it usually exacerbates it!

When a kid acts out, they are trying to let the adults in their life know how they are feeling on the inside. They want to feel better, behave better and they want our help. They need our support, not our lectures, in these moments.

The real solution is to get curious and investigate what’s underneath the behavior so we can really understand what’s going on. Our kids have to feel like we are on their team to trust us to help them process through their big emotions.

Empathy and having positive communication is how our strong willed kiddos begin to allow us to guide them to behave better. Start empathizing and ditch the lectures. These sensitive nervous system kiddos thrive with this new productive parenting conversation.

Topics covered:

Empathy
ADHD
Sleep
Screen addiction
Conscious Discipline https://consciousdiscipline.com
Dr. Ross Greene http://drrossgreene.com

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MMP04: Walking in your child’s shoes

Sun, 25 Mar 2018 23:15:59 -0500

In this episode, I talk about one of the most powerful things you can do to help your kid through a hard moment; the skill of walking in their shoes to empathetically convey that you understand your child’s perspective. This tool discussed in today’s conversation will help you to immediately improve the conversations in your home with your threenagers and your teenagers.

Perspective taking is a form of empathy. I like to call it: Walking in your child’s shoes.

When you imagine walking in someone else’s shoes and then discuss a situation from that place, it is very connecting for you and your child. Your child will feel really seen and valued when you communicate that you get what it truly feels like to walk in their shoes.

In life when we are trying to have a productive convo with our kids, it’s important to see the other person’s perspective before we even begin the conversation. We typically start a conversation by trying to convince the other person why they should see our perspective. This never works.

The opposite, describing the situation from the perspective of walking in their shoes, is what helps us to communicate productively and find a peaceful resolution. When we see other people’s perspectives, they are then inclined to see ours as well.

Topics covered:

Empathy
Perspective Taking
Dan Pink quote: Daniel H. Pink Quotes. Empathy is about standing in someone else's shoes, feeling with his or her heart, seeing with his or her eyes. Not only is empathy hard to outsource and automate, but it makes the world a better place.
The brain and the emotional center development https://courses.lumenlearning.com/boundless-psychology/chapter/structure-and-function-of-the-brain/

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MMP03: Challenging kiddos, do you have a strong willed one?

Mon, 19 Mar 2018 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we are going to discuss strong willed kids. These kids present as defiant and defensive. Everyone seems to walk on eggshells around these kids.

Most likely, these kids have a highly sensitive nervous system. Smells are smellier, tastes are more intense, tags are scratchy-er, noises are noisier.When you have a highly sensitive nervous system, the world feels overstimulating most of the time and even more so during early childhood.

These kids are often exhausted from the overstimulation and irritable as a result. The adults in their lives often mistake their cranky behavior. These kids frequently feel misunderstood and behave defensively.

I have an interesting theory about these kids. I believe they are catalysts for change. I will teach you how to see your kid’s strong willed-ness as their super power.

Here are some pointers if you have a strong willed kid:

Stay on top of basic needs: Sleep and nutrition.
Get the sleep thing figured out. 10-11 hours a night of sleep is a necessity if you have a highly sensitive nervous system.
Structure and exercise is important. Get them outside and away from screens.
Solo sports like swimming can be phenomenal.
See his point of view. Understand how he’s wired.

Topics covered:

Highly sensitive people (HSP) http://hsperson.com/about-dr-elaine-aron/
Larry David https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARq0QDBIUaQ
Swaddle technique from Happiest Baby on the Block https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4SnaQ1DVJM
Randi’s email randi@randirubenstein.com if you want help with your strong willed child

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MMP02: The secret to really helping your kid when life throws a curveball their way

Mon, 12 Mar 2018 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode I cover some specific mistakes we make when it comes to our kids going through the hard stuff. Whether your kid is struggling with school work or a rough patch socially, as parents we want to fix the hurt and take away their sadness, disappointment, insecurity, etc. There is a single tool that fixes negative emotions only - EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

It’s called empathy and there is a very specific way to model empathy with your kids when life throws a curveball their way. In this episode I will teach you the tool that many therapists use but in real life language so your kids don’t think you’re acting weird.

I share stories from my own life and the mistake I’ve frequently made with my own kids. The mistake involves jumping into solutions and trying to fix our kids without successfully empathizing first. I also share how the roots of that mistake come from a very well intended place of trying to be a good parent. I think you might relate to it.

Topics covered:

Empathy
The skill of active listening. To learn more about this skill https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/active-listening.html
"Empathic listening (also called active listening or reflective listening) is a way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding and trust”. https://participedia.net/en/methods/empathetic-listening
Conscious Discipline https://consciousdiscipline.com/

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MMP01:Why changing the conversations in your home is a total game changer

Mon, 05 Mar 2018 09:00:00 -0500

As parents, we frequently find ourselves in a gap between the parent we want to be and the one we currently are when our kids are pushing our buttons. This is usually when we either yell (fight) or check out (flight). That’s right, we go into basic survival mode and many families find themselves living in a state of survival which often looks and feels a lot like everyone walking on eggshells. This is the opposite of what we want the vibe to be in our household.

The Parent Gap is the name of my book and you can grab your copy here: www.mastermindparenting.com/book

Closing the parent gap involves mastering your mind and retraining the old programs that show up every time you get triggered and lose your cool. I tell a story about a client in this episode that was dealing with her strong willed child who also happened to be addicted to playing on Mom’s phone. I know many of us can relate to this scenario in this day and age. I discuss why her approach wasn’t working and what to do instead. Here’s the clip from Willy Wonka that I referenced when describing her approach https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9ZD3_ppcPE

Creating a cohesive team rather than living in a home that feels divisive and combative is obviously the goal for us as parents. This episode will break down a real life scenario and describe how to get there without bribes, threats or punishments.

Changing the conversations in your home refers to a tangible communication model using consistency, empathy and conversations that are actually productive rather than the old school lectures that fall on deaf ears.

Topics covered:

Technology addiction

Why shifting from lectures

The Parent Gap theory & book

Limit setting

Script to use with raging kid

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