Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast

Why Moms Feel Guilty When Doing Good Things for Themselves

Sun, 05 Apr 2026 22:00:00 +1000

You finally carve out time for yourself...and then spend the whole time feeling terrible about it. Sound familiar? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda get real about the guilt loop that keeps so many moms stuck, and why doing something good for yourself can somehow end up feeling so bad. From messy houses and cancelled plans to babysitters, date nights, and the invisible weight of generational conditioning, this conversation is both honest and relatable.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why self-care guilt shows up even when you're doing everything "right"
How the state of your home can quietly drive your inner critic
What generational patterns might be keeping you stuck in the guilt loop
Why asking for help and putting yourself first go hand in hand (and why both feel hard)
How to notice and name guilt before it talks you out of your self-care
The powerful difference between earning self-care and simply deserving it

You are not a bad mum for taking care of yourself. You're actually a better one for it. Whether you're wrestling with a messy house, a packed schedule, or the nagging voice that says not yet, Jill and Linda remind you that unlearning guilt is a process, and you don't have to do it perfectly to make progress. This week, try swapping "I earned this" for "I deserve this", and see what shifts.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favourite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

What Happens When You Outgrow Yourself and Self-Care?

Sun, 01 Mar 2026 23:00:00 +1000

Growth is rarely linear, and it's almost never pretty. In this season two debut of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda are back — and they are not the same women who started this podcast. From pregnancy announcements and pregnancy symptoms to solo parenting four kids 24/7 and navigating grief, this episode is a raw, honest look at what it means to evolve publicly and privately, and what you have to let go of to make room for who you're becoming. If you've ever felt like slowing down means falling behind, this one's for you.

In this episode, you'll hear:

Why slowing down can actually be the most intentional form of growth — and how Jill and Linda are applying that to the podcast in season two
Jill's big announcement: after years of trying, baby number two is on the way — and pregnancy symptoms are no joke the second time around
What it really means to be a solo parent (hint: it's not the same as single parenting) and how Linda is navigating that 100% on her own
How grief, miscarriage, and massive life shifts shaped the decision to take a break — and why that was one of the smartest moves they've made
The quarterly check-in strategy that keeps this cross-world collaboration grounded and growing
Why posting less can actually mean doing more — and what season two is going to look like
How to give yourself permission to outgrow the version of you that got you started

Growth doesn't always look like doing more. Sometimes it looks like a 3-year-old pouring cereal five times a day while you try to hold it all together — and finding the grace in that chaos anyway. Jill and Linda get vulnerable about the behind-the-scenes moments that nobody sees, the habits and expectations worth letting go of, and why our taste buds regenerating every couple of weeks might just be the best metaphor for self-care growth you'll hear today. You're allowed to outgrow the old version of you. And we're here to hold that space.

Until next episode, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 What are you giving yourself permission to outgrow? Tell us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com — we'd love to hear from you!

👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com

💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

A Pause for Self Care

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 23:00:00 +1000

After 125 episodes of real, messy conversations about self-care, Jill and Linda take a moment to pause and reflect. In this episode, they share their weekly highs and lows—celebrating joyful moments like Halloween with family while also navigating the deep grief of losing a loved one. It’s a reminder that life rarely holds just one emotion at a time.

They also open up about an important decision for the podcast: taking a seasonal pause. After consistently showing up week after week, they’re giving themselves permission to step back, recharge, and return refreshed in the new year. This conversation is honest, heartfelt, and a powerful reminder that sometimes self-care looks like pressing pause.

In this episode, you'll hear:

Jill shares joyful Halloween memories with her son—and the heartbreaking news of her father’s passing after his battle with cancer.
Linda reflects on the sweet and funny moments of parenting a toddler discovering her voice and personality.
The emotional complexity of holding joy and grief at the same time.
Why Jill and Linda decided to pause the podcast after 125 weekly episodes.
How taking breaks can actually be an essential part of sustainable self-care.
What listeners can expect when Mucked Up My Self Care returns next season.

Self-care sometimes means pushing through—but other times it means giving yourself permission to pause. Jill and Linda aren’t saying goodbye—they’re simply pressing pause so they can come back refreshed and ready for more honest conversations about motherhood, life, and self-care.

Until next season, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required!

👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com

💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

When Self-Care Feels Selfish

Sun, 02 Nov 2025 21:00:00 +1000

Sometimes self-care feels impossible when life demands everything from us, and that's when we need it most. In this raw and honest episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda dive into one of the hardest questions moms face: How do we take care of ourselves when others need us more? From navigating terminal illness and anticipatory grief to solo parenting four kids through sickness and cold weather, this conversation gets real about guilt, shortcuts, and the mental load of trying to do it all. If you've ever felt selfish for taking a moment for yourself while others are struggling, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll hear:

Why self-care feels selfish when you're caring for sick or struggling loved ones and how to reframe that guilt
How to take meaningful shortcuts without sacrificing your sanity (hello, skipping pajamas and porridge for dinner!)
The difference between being selfish and setting realistic expectations when you're overwhelmed
Why "taking care of yourself too" can feel impossible when someone else's need feels greater than yours
How to identify who your priority "family" is during crisis seasons and why that matters
Ways to combine self-care with caring for others so your cup gets filled while you're still showing up
What anticipatory grief looks like and why it makes self-care even harder to prioritize

Self-care doesn't have to be solo or scheduled to count. Whether you're reading while the house gets messier, sharing time with your child during spooky season, or showing up for aging parents while barely holding it together yourself, this episode is a reminder that you're not selfish for needing care too. Jill and Linda get vulnerable about the weight of responsibility, the shortcuts that save them, and why we have to stop waiting for permission to take care of ourselves—even in the hardest seasons.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required!

👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com

💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Self-Care Through Different Motherhood Stages

Sun, 26 Oct 2025 21:00:00 +1000

Parenting a thirteen-year-old for the first time feels completely different than parenting your four two-year-old—and that's exactly the point. In this vulnerable episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda explore how self-care shifts and evolves through every stage of motherhood, from pregnancy loss and postpartum preparation to managing preteens, kindergarteners, and everything in between. Through personal stories of hospital scares, garden overwhelm, and the messy reality of trying to control the uncontrollable, they remind us that sometimes the best self-care is simply letting go.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How self-care needs change dramatically across different parenting stages (and why that's completely normal)
Why trying to control too much in motherhood can actually dampen your self-care efforts
The unique challenges of managing multiple ages at once—from preteens leaving empty food packets everywhere to toddlers needing constant attention
How to navigate self-care during intense seasons: pregnancy, loss, health crises, and emotional heaviness
Why "structured self-care" isn't always the answer—sometimes it's about vegging out on the couch with a book
How to prepare for postpartum self-care when you've been through it before and know what you need
The power of having a go-to self-care list when you're too overwhelmed to think clearly
Why giving yourself understanding and grace is essential when parenting any age for the first time

Motherhood doesn't come with a manual, and neither does self-care through its many stages. Whether you're dealing with difficult school drop-offs, preteen messes, pregnancy worries, or just trying to squeeze in half a page of reading before falling asleep, this episode validates the reality that every stage brings new challenges—and new opportunities to care for yourself differently. Jill and Linda's honest conversation reminds you that it's okay when things don't go as planned, and that sometimes the best thing you can do is dance it out, take it one day at a time, and remember: this is the first time you're parenting this exact child at this exact age.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required!

👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com

💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Disappointed in Your Self-Care?

Sun, 19 Oct 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Sometimes self-care doesn’t look like what we planned, and that’s okay. In this heartfelt episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda open up about exhaustion, disappointment, and the emotional tug-of-war between expectations and reality. From overpacked schedules and shifting bedtime routines to learning how to “read the room” with your energy, this conversation gets real about what happens when your self-care just doesn’t go the way you hoped and how to show yourself grace in the middle of it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why self-care can sometimes feel disappointing and what that really means
How to shift expectations without giving up entirely
What “reading the room” looks like for your own energy and capacity
How comparison sneaks into self-care and feeds disappointment
Why small, intentional moments (like watching your child thrive) still count
Ways to redefine success in your self-care journey

Self-care doesn’t have to be perfect to be powerful. Whether you’re skipping a workout to rest, choosing frozen pizza over a full meal, or celebrating the small wins, this episode is a reminder that your needs matter - even when life gets messy. Jill and Linda invite you to stop measuring your self-care against expectations and start giving yourself the grace to do what you can, when you can.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Building Your Village: Support, Self-Care & Survival

Sun, 12 Oct 2025 23:00:00 +1000

The old saying “it takes a village to raise a child” feels harder than ever in today’s world of busy schedules, full calendars, and endless responsibilities. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda talk highs and lows, the loneliness that can come with motherhood, and the creative ways moms can reimagine community -even when neighbors no longer just “pop by.” From navigating school transitions to finding support in unexpected places, this conversation is all about redefining what a modern-day village looks like.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why highs and lows often happen in the same day and how that emotional “sandwich” feels for moms
How school schedules, activities, and jobs make building community harder than ever
Why asking for help is tricky and how to make it easier
How guilt and pressure keep moms from accepting support
The idea of a “village order form” that takes the decision fatigue out of asking for help
Creative ways moms can team up to share the load (from folding laundry to meal prep playdates)

Motherhood was never meant to be a solo act and yet, too many moms are carrying the load alone. Jill and Linda remind us that building a village doesn’t have to look perfect or traditional. Sometimes it’s as simple as one friend showing up to fold laundry, share dinner in the park, or prep meals side by side. If you’ve been craving more support, this episode will leave you with both solidarity and fresh ideas for how to invite community back into your life.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Self-Care for the Perfectionist: Letting Go of “Perfect” and Finding What Works

Sun, 05 Oct 2025 23:00:00 +1000

What happens when perfectionism sneaks into self-care? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda unpack the tension between wanting everything “just right” and the messy reality of motherhood. From waiting for the perfect moment to spiraling into guilt when plans fall apart, they share raw reflections on how perfectionism holds us back and what it looks like to embrace imperfection instead.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why perfectionism and vulnerability don’t play well together
How high expectations set us up for frustration and burnout
The hidden trap of waiting for “perfect timing” before doing self-care
Why nature and movement are powerful (and imperfect) forms of self-care
How rest, even when unplanned, counts as real self-care
Simple ways to reset when self-care doesn’t go as planned

Self-care isn’t about picture-perfect timing or flawless execution; it’s about meeting yourself where you are. Jill and Linda remind us that sometimes the most powerful form of care is letting go of expectations and embracing the imperfect options in front of you. If you’ve ever delayed self-care because the stars didn’t align, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and take the pressure off.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Maternal Burnout: Why Self-Care Feels Impossible (and What to Do About It)

Sun, 28 Sep 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Parenting, loss, school transitions, sleepless nights, sometimes it all collides at once. In this raw and honest episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda talk openly about the weight of maternal burnout. From disrupted nights and defiant kids to the impossible juggle of family, work, and self-care, they share the highs, lows, and the messy middle that so many moms live through.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How grief, school transitions, and daily stress compound into burnout
Why disrupted sleep leaves moms feeling like they can’t ever “catch up”
The difference between early motherhood burnout and maternal burnout later on
The hidden pressure of overscheduled kids and family routines
Why letting things slide can actually be a form of self-care
How to prioritize your needs when family always feels like the top value
Why burnout is a signal, not a failure

Maternal burnout isn’t just exhaustion, it’s the buildup of unrelenting pressure, grief, and responsibilities that leave little space for you. Jill and Linda remind us that you’re not alone in this struggle, and sometimes the first step in self-care is simply naming the burnout out loud. If you’re feeling stretched too thin, may this episode be your reminder that something has to give - and that it’s okay if it’s not you.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Digital Boundaries as Self-Care in the Always-On Era

Sun, 21 Sep 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Screens are everywhere - our phones, our kids’ devices, the endless noise of background TV - and sometimes it feels impossible to step away. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda get real about the messy, imperfect process of setting digital boundaries for themselves and their kids. From bedtime routines to doom-scrolling traps, they share the highs, lows, and lessons of trying to find balance between technology and true self-care.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why screen time can feel both like a lifesaver and an energy drain for moms
How Jill and Linda handle screen time differently with toddlers, tweens, and teens
The role of boundaries in protecting your peace, especially around noise and overstimulation
Why digital boundaries are self-care, not just rules
Simple strategies like “Do Not Disturb” mode, non-digital self-care blocks, and limiting device access
How to reframe screen use into intentional connection and creativity

Digital boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace and being intentional with how screens show up in your family life. Whether it’s cutting off phone use at night, making space for non-digital self-care, or navigating kids’ ever-growing appetite for technology, Jill and Linda remind us that boundaries create room for more presence, calm, and connection.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Setting Boundaries as Self-Care: How to Protect Your Energy

Sun, 14 Sep 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Boundaries - so simple to say, yet so messy to live out. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda dive deep into the highs and lows of motherhood, illness, family dynamics, and the complicated art of boundary setting. From sick kids and shifting routines to navigating boundaries with toddlers, teens, and even extended family, this conversation gets real about how boundaries and self-care overlap, clash, and sometimes crumble.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How illness at home can throw boundaries out the window, and where new ones suddenly appear
Why boundaries with kids of different ages can be tricky to balance
The tension between self-care and parenting responsibilities (and why “just read a book” isn’t always that easy)
How to separate your energy from your child’s big emotions
Why boundary-setting is both a form of self-care and a setup for self-care
The ongoing process of unlearning unhealthy boundaries while teaching healthier ones

Boundaries are rarely neat, but they are necessary. Whether it’s saying no to family expectations, holding space for a crying toddler, or giving yourself permission to step away and breathe, boundary-setting is both self-care in itself and the pathway toward it. Join Jill and Linda as they remind you that boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace, even when it feels messy.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Grief and Self-Care: Finding Grace in the Melty Moments

Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Grief shows up in many forms: losing a loved one, saying goodbye to a pet, or even letting go of the expectations we once held for ourselves. In this heartfelt episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about navigating loss, the messy emotions that come with it, and how self-care can offer grounding and grace in the middle of grief.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why grief isn’t limited to death, it can show up in everyday disappointments, changes, and unmet expectations.
How kids process loss differently and the surprising ways they may find comfort.
The balance between distraction as a coping tool and giving yourself space to feel.
Practical self-care practices that help when emotions feel overwhelming (from popsicle-stick prompts to scripture to simply being in nature).
The importance of lowering expectations and guarding your “melty” when grief hits hard.
Why leaning on community matters and why sometimes “I’m here if you need me” isn’t enough.

Grief is never easy, but it doesn’t have to be something we navigate alone. Whether it’s a pet, a loved one, or even the small losses of everyday life, giving ourselves grace, space, and community support matters. We hope this conversation reminds you that self-care isn’t about moving on quickly, it’s about honoring the process, finding small ways to ground yourself, and letting others in when you need them most.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Play, Parenting, and Self-Care: Making Room for Fun in the Mess

Sun, 31 Aug 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Play, connection, and the chaos of everyday parenting - this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care dives into how play can be both a lifeline and a stressor for moms. Jill and Linda share real stories of finding joy in messy moments, how intentional play shifts their energy, and why sometimes self-care looks like sitting on the floor with your kids (even when you’d rather not). From sibling squabbles to popsicle-stick self-care activities, they explore how to weave self-care into family life without losing themselves.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How highs and lows can help reframe both overwhelm and joy in motherhood.
Why play is a surprising but powerful form of self-care for moms (and kids).
Practical ways to use play to reset your family’s energy when chaos hits.
When play works and when it totally backfires.
Creative ideas for simple, low-energy play activities (like cars on your back or popsicle-stick self-care).
How to navigate overstimulation when everyone wants your attention at once.
The importance of shifting perspective so self-care doesn’t just become survival care.

Self-care doesn’t always mean time away, it often means stepping into the chaos with a different lens. Whether it’s pulling out a board game, painting flowerpots, or letting your child drive toy cars across your back, play can become an unexpected pathway to connection and care. And yes, sometimes it’s messy, interrupted, and imperfect, but that’s what makes it real.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Dealing with Disappointment in Motherhood and Self-Care

Sun, 24 Aug 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Sometimes self-care doesn’t go as planned. In this raw and relatable episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about the frustration of interrupted routines, the heaviness of survival mode, and the disappointment that comes when carefully laid self-care intentions get derailed. From toilet training surprises to early-morning wake-ups, they share how boundaries, mindset shifts, and even tiny grounding moments can help moms move from discouragement back toward refreshment.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why self-care routines often fall apart during unpredictable parenting seasons
How survival mode feels—and why setting boundaries matters more than ever
The role of disappointment in motherhood, and how to process it without guilt
Creative ways to weave in self-care when plans fall through (like barefoot grounding at church!)
Why giving yourself permission to “abandon the week” can sometimes be the healthiest choice
How small perspective shifts turn everyday moments into opportunities for care and connection

Disappointments will come, and survival mode is a season every mom knows. But self-care doesn’t have to disappear completely when life gets messy. By adjusting expectations, finding creative alternatives, and offering yourself compassion, you can still carve out space to breathe, reset, and reconnect. As Jill and Linda remind us—you don’t have to get it perfect, you just have to keep trying.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

The Messy Reality of Finding Space for Self-Care When You’re Always Needed

Sun, 17 Aug 2025 23:00:00 +1000

From clingy kids to bedtime bear hugs that last twenty minutes, Jill and Linda get real about what it’s like to never be alone as a mom. This episode dives into the exhaustion of constant “mom, mom, mom” moments, the guilt that comes with needing space, and the messy balance between sacrifice and self-care. With stories of tired kids, sticky floors, and Alexa bedtime reminders, this is a reminder that self-care doesn’t always mean solo time, it can also be woven into everyday family life.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

The highs and lows of motherhood, from sweet milestones to total exhaustion
Why being “always needed” can lead to resentment (and why that’s okay to admit)
The struggle of bedtime routines when kids crave extra connection
How small shifts - like shoe practice or Alexa reminders - can ease daily stress
Why self-care doesn’t have to be solo, and how kids can be part of it
Creative ways Jill and Linda are experimenting with self-care (hello, popsicle sticks!)
The importance of reframing this stage of motherhood as a season, not forever

Motherhood often means you’re never truly alone, and that can feel both beautiful and overwhelming. The trick isn’t to chase perfection, but to find small ways to breathe, involve your kids in self-care, and remember this is just a season. You’re not alone in feeling pulled in every direction, we’re right there with you.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

What Exactly is Supportive Self-Care

Sun, 10 Aug 2025 20:00:00 +1000

In this episode, Jill and Linda explore what supportive self-care really means—from those precious early morning moments before the kids wake up to the reality of lost support systems and changing boundaries. They get real about the struggle of finding time when one kid's up at 5:15 AM and another won't sleep until 11 PM, plus navigate the tricky terrain of asking for (and actually receiving) the support we desperately need but often minimize.

In this episode, you'll hear:

Why Jill's new morning devotional space is changing her entire day
The reality of family drama swimming in the background of self-care
How Linda's little one singing "Incy Wincy Spider" on repeat became this week's unexpected joy
Why supportive self-care isn't just about others—it's about how we set ourselves up for success
The challenge of diverse sleep schedules destroying any chance at alone time
How institutions (summer camps, daycare) sometimes become our only "village"
Why we minimize the support we need, especially around self-care
The tricky dance of setting boundaries with family while not abandoning them
How catching up with cousins at the park (while pretending to be a giant pigeon) counts as supportive self-care
The accountability gap—why asking "How are you?" rarely leads to "Did you take time for yourself?"

We might not have the support system we thought we had. We might be navigating new boundaries with aging parents or overwhelmed partners. We might be relying on kickboxing schedules and school drop-offs as our only breaks. This episode is your reminder that supportive self-care looks different for everyone—and sometimes it's just about creating that one tiny space downstairs where you can hide (until Declan finds you).

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

What to Do After You Snap? Self-Care to Regroup & Repair

Sun, 03 Aug 2025 23:00:00 +1000

In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into those “snapping” moments—when stress boils over, bedtime battles erupt, and even the sweetest “Where’s dinner?” can trigger a meltdown. From lack of sleep to messy houses and everything in between, they unpack the guilt, grace, and real-life self-care that comes after the snap. This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being human, responding with honesty, and finding tiny ways to take care of ourselves even when the day goes completely sideways.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

What really happens when we hit our breaking point (and then snap)
Why innocent questions from kids can trigger surprising reactions
How Jill reframed “Declan & Mommy time” into labeled self-care
The difference between snapping with shame vs. setting boundaries with love
How bedtime can unravel even the calmest of days
Self-care that actually works after an emotional spiral
How our favorite 10 things list has become our self-care reset

We can have a great day and still snap at bedtime. We can love our kids and still need privacy. We can know better and still be human. This episode is your reminder that snapping doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you a real one. And while self-care won’t make every trigger disappear, it can help you catch your breath and try again tomorrow.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Breaking the Workaholic Cycle: Self-Care for Moms Who Can’t Sit Still

Sun, 27 Jul 2025 23:00:00 +1000

In this honest and raw conversation, Jill and Linda explore the uncomfortable tension between workaholism and self-care—especially when both home and work feel equally heavy. From vacation meltdowns and returning to the real world to the unrelenting nature of housework and the guilt of slowing down, this episode is a vulnerable look at what happens when life forces you to pause. Whether you’re drowning in laundry or deadlines, you’re not alone in the tug-of-war between productivity and presence.

In this episode, you'll hear:

How vacation with kids is often more work than rest—and what happens when expectations don’t match reality.
Why both Jill and Linda feel caught in cycles of over-functioning, even in different seasons of life.
The emotional toll of trying to be the “perfect” mom, homemaker, and entrepreneur.
How slowing down can be an act of sacred self-care—even if it doesn’t feel like it.
Why guilt shows up when self-care isn’t productive (and how to challenge that).
The difference between fulfilling work and obligatory labor—and how both impact our mental health.
How breaking generational cycles of workaholism starts with awareness, grace, and a whole lot of trial and error.

This episode is a gentle but firm reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. Whether you're dealing with chaos, caregiving, or clutter, it’s okay to feel both grateful and overwhelmed. We’re not here to romanticize the mess—we’re here to muck through it with you. Join us as we give ourselves (and each other) permission to pause, breathe, and redefine what care really looks like. And if you’re stuck in the cycle of hustle, we’ve got a resource just for you in the show notes below.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

When School Holidays Muck Up Your Self-Care

Sun, 13 Jul 2025 23:00:00 +1000

School holidays are here, which means the rhythms are off, the snacks are endless, and your alone time? Practically vanished. In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into the highs and lows of parenting through winter and summer breaks on opposite sides of the world. From mud tracks and mosquito bites to navigating messy family dynamics and trying to squeeze in five minutes of self-care, this conversation is all about honoring the chaos and the moments of joy. Whether you're juggling house mess, kid meltdowns, or trying to remember your own needs, this one’s for you.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

What summer/winter holidays look like in the U.S. vs. Australia (spoiler: they're very different).
How Jill’s summer camp schedule is doubling as a self-care strategy.
Linda’s muddy bike trails and the art of chasing freedom on two wheels.
The real-life tension of needing a break… and not being able to take one.
Why even the simplest errands can become mini adventures (with tangled yarn included).
Small ways to reclaim self-care amid messy, plan-less days.
The value of anchoring your week with just one consistent moment, like this podcast.

Self-care during school holidays? It might not look the same, feel the same, or even happen the way you planned but that doesn’t mean it’s not possible. Sometimes it’s a bike ride, a kickboxing class, or a podcast hour squeezed into a chaotic week. Whatever it looks like, we hope this episode reminds you that flexibility is a superpower… and you're not alone in the muck. Need a quick-start list of simple self-care ideas? Shoot us a message, we've got you.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

When Plans Fall Apart: Self-Care, Flexibility, and Meeting Everyone’s Needs (Except Your Own)

Sun, 06 Jul 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Some days go exactly as planned… and then there are the other 364. In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into what happens when life throws the schedule out the window. From mosquito bite mysteries and lost office space to juggling kid chaos and barely-there self-care, this honest conversation explores how flexibility can sometimes be our superpower and other times, just another fast track to burnout.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why even your best-laid plans can implode with toddlers in tow.
How flexibility can help build resilience and when it just stretches us too thin.
The unexpected benefits of using visuals and structure with young kids.
What "meeting your own needs" really means as a mom.
Why routine matters for kids and grown-ups alike.
How movement (like bike rides!) is sneaky self-care.
Why sometimes you need four uninterrupted hours and that’s okay.

Motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and relentless and when your carefully crafted day falls apart, it can feel like your self-care does too. But even in the chaos, you have the right to meet your own needs. Maybe it’s four hours of alone time. Maybe it’s a quiet walk, or a frozen pizza dinner. The point is: your care matters too. So here’s your permission to reset, reprioritize, and remember that flexibility doesn’t mean self-neglect.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

When Self-Care Lets You Down: Stretching, Snapping, and Still Showing Up

Sun, 22 Jun 2025 23:00:00 +1000

What do you do when self-care isn’t enough? When the walk doesn’t clear your head, the rest doesn’t restore you, and the village you usually count on isn’t showing up like it used to? In this raw and honest episode, Jill and Linda talk about being in seasons of overwhelm where even the best self-care plans fall short. From tantruming toddlers to tangled family dynamics, and from bedtime meltdowns to compassion fatigue, this conversation holds space for what it means to feel stretched too thin—and how sometimes, the letdown starts before the self-care even begins.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why self-care sometimes doesn’t “work” in the middle of survival mode
What it feels like when the village that once showed up quietly fades away
How expectations around self-care can create more pressure than peace
That even the most meaningful support may have limits—and that’s human
Why giving yourself grace might matter more than the perfect self-care plan
The invisible weight of caregiving when everyone around you needs something

Self-care isn’t always the fix we hope for—but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth trying. Sometimes the real healing starts with letting go of the pressure to feel better, the guilt of snapping, or the expectation that a walk or journal page will solve it all. If your self-care has let you down, you’re not alone. You’re human. Keep showing up with grace, creativity, and maybe a microwave dinner. You’ve got this.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Copy & Paste Self-Care: When Routine Helps and When It Doesn’t

Sun, 15 Jun 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Wouldn’t it be nice if self-care came with a simple shortcut—copy, paste, repeat? In this episode, Jill and Linda explore why that almost works and where it totally falls apart. They talk about what happens when your favorite self-care routines suddenly don’t fit, why the same thing that helped last month might not help today, and how to adapt (without giving up). With real talk about parenting schedules, hill climbs, bare feet in the grass, and the simple power of grounding, this one’s for every mom who’s ever thought, “Why isn’t this working anymore?”

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why some self-care routines lose their impact over time
How to shift old routines to fit new seasons of life
The difference between giving up and adapting
When “default” self-care can still serve you
How parenting logistics make self-care tricky—but not impossible
The hidden power of grounding, rest, and micro-adjustments

Your self-care doesn’t have to look the same every day—or every season. If the old routine isn’t working, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re evolving. And if you need a reset, revisit your simple go-to list or let us help you build one. Just don’t quit on yourself. Adapt, soften, shift—and keep going.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Sick, Stuck, and Still Mucking Through: Parenting and Self-Care When Everything Feels Like Too Much

Sun, 08 Jun 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Jill and Linda are back—and they’re sick. This episode was recorded between coughs, chaos, and clutter, but that’s real life, right? Whether you’ve been knocked flat by illness or are just deep in the overwhelm of parenting, this is your reminder that bare minimum is still enough. From paper bags labeled “garage” to clean-up songs and microwave dinners, this conversation is a raw, real peek into what it looks like to keep going (with compassion) when you're running on empty.

Why survival mode isn’t failing—it’s the bravest kind of parenting
How bare minimum days still count (even with breakfast on the table 24 hours later)
Ways to prioritize rest when your to-do list is a disaster zone
Simple systems that help when your brain fog is thick and everything’s overwhelming
How to reframe mess and chaos as part of recovery
Why asking “what’s the priority right now?” can keep you grounded

Some seasons are about thriving. This one? It’s about surviving. And even if your house is covered in socks, dishes, and Band-Aids, you’re still doing an incredible job. Your corner will get cleaned. Your brain will clear. Your kids are learning from watching you muddle through with honesty and heart. You’ve got this.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

When Self-Care Gets Pushed to the Bottom of the List - Stop Waiting for the Right Time

Sun, 25 May 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Do you find yourself waiting for the “perfect” moment to take care of yourself? Like maybe after the dishes are done, after the kids are healthy again, or after that one big work deadline? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda talk about what it really looks like when self-care keeps getting pushed to the bottom of the list—despite our best intentions. Through honest reflections (and a few hilariously relatable mom moments), they unpack the reasons we wait, the guilt we carry, and the small but powerful ways we can still care for ourselves even in the chaos.

This episode is a permission slip to pause—not in defeat, but with grace.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

The unexpected chaos of “two-minute noodles” that took 50 minutes (and what it taught us about grace and laughter).
Why even the most anticipated self-care plans can fall apart—and how to cope when they do.
The hidden roadblocks (childcare, finances, sick kids) that make “just book it” advice feel dismissive.
How guilt, resentment, and overwhelm sneak into our self-care decisions—and what to do about it.
The difference between waiting for ideal self-care vs. creating doable micro-moments now.
A raw discussion on honoring what’s real right now, even if that means putting off the “big” thing.
The value of venting, being seen, and not rushing each other through the struggle.

You’re not failing if your dream bath didn’t happen.

You’re not behind if your solo coffee date got canceled—again.

You’re human. And your self-care doesn’t need to be perfect to be powerful.

Need help starting small?

Reach out via email or check the show notes for a quick-start self-care list that’s realistic, mom-tested, and gentle enough for even the muckiest of weeks.

We’re in this with you—sick kids, missed naps, burnt noodles, and all.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

When You’re Tired of Adulting and Everything Feels Too Much

Sun, 11 May 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Do you ever feel like the universe is throwing everything at you all at once? Like you’re one stubbed toe away from losing it? You're not alone. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about those "I can't adult today" moments we all have but rarely talk about. From PMS-induced rage to the tiny wins of watching our kids grow, we unpack the real, raw, and ridiculously messy parts of motherhood and life.

We’re not here with perfect answers—we’re in it with you. So grab a cup of tea (or lock yourself in the bathroom for five minutes of peace) and let’s chat about what self-care looks like when you're totally mucked up.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why it’s okay (and sometimes necessary) to declare, “I’m not the preferred parent today.”
How to honor your emotional bandwidth—especially around your cycle.
What real-time self-care looks like in the middle of parenting chaos.
How tiny moments of connection with your kids can be nourishing, even if nothing else is.
Why sometimes adulting means letting go of routine and just being present.
A practical way to build a “Too-Tired-To-Think” self-care checklist for rough days.

You don’t have to have it all figured out. The messy days, the tears behind closed doors, the moments you snap and then repair—they’re all part of this wild, holy work of motherhood. Let this episode remind you that you're not failing—you’re just human. And on the days when it feels like too much, that’s when you need your village the most.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Why Saying “No” Can Be the Most Loving Choice - The Reality of Self-Care When Life Feels Like Too Much

Sun, 04 May 2025 23:00:00 +1000

After a brief (and very human) pause, we’re back in the studio — messy, honest, and real as ever. In this episode, Jill and Linda open up about the curveballs life’s been throwing lately — from broken dryers and blind cats to Easter chaos and toddler meltdowns. You’ll hear what happens when our well-intentioned self-care plans fall apart and how we find little wins and grace in the middle of the muck.

Whether you’re navigating a season that feels "extra" or trying to meet your family’s needs without losing yourself, this episode is your reminder that it’s okay to not have it all together. We're not here to fix it all — just to talk about it, laugh through it, and walk with you in it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why life lately has been anything but predictable — and what that’s taught us about flexibility
How “simple moments” are becoming our most powerful form of self-care
The emotional weight behind constantly needing to say “no” — and what to say “yes” to instead
Why planned self-care can sometimes feel heavier than it’s worth
A gentle reframe: self-care for your kids might actually be self-care for you
How to meet everyone’s needs (including your own!) without needing to do it all perfectly

This episode is for the human who’s in the thick of it — decision fatigue, interrupted naps, helmet battles, and all. You’re not failing if you don’t have it all figured out. You’re living, learning, and loving through the mess. Let this be your reminder that sometimes, the most powerful self-care is simply giving yourself permission to be human. Look for what’s working. Say no when you need to. And give yourself credit for showing up anyway.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Is Self-Care Exhausting You?

Sun, 06 Apr 2025 22:00:00 +1000

Ever feel like the very act of planning self-care becomes another exhausting task on your to-do list? In this candid conversation, Jill and Linda explore the surprising paradox many moms face: sometimes our pursuit of self-care creates more pressure than relief. From decision fatigue to disappointment when plans fall through, we unpack why self-care sometimes feels like just another burden—and how to shift your approach for genuine restoration instead of more exhaustion.

Episode Highlights:

Delayed Exhaustion Is Real: Your body doesn't always process strain immediately. As Jill and Linda discovered, sometimes the exhaustion from challenging events hits hardest two days later—making preventative self-care even more important than reactive care.

Decision Fatigue Matters: The mental load of deciding what self-care you need can itself become draining. As Linda points out, "Making the decisions to do self-care is exhausting," especially when you're already depleted.

Flexibility Prevents Disappointment: When Jill's planned self-care night was canceled due to snow, she pivoted to a simpler alternative—early bedtime. Learning to adapt your self-care expectations helps prevent the emotional drain of disappointment.

Quick Decisions Can Save Energy: Linda demonstrates the power of decisive action when she's depleted: "Toasted sandwiches for dinner, Bluey for the kids, and 30 minutes with my book." No overthinking required—just a rapid shift to protection mode.

Self-Care Gets Easier: Both hosts agree that while self-care felt exhausting during early motherhood years, it becomes more intuitive and energizing as you develop your practice. What once drained you can become your source of restoration.

Moving Forward:

If you find yourself exhausted by the very thought of self-care, you're not alone—and we have solutions. We've compiled our top ten simple, free, and readily available self-care practices that require minimal decision-making energy. Reach out through our email (in the show notes) or on social media, and we'll send you this list to eliminate the decision fatigue. Remember: true self-care shouldn't drain you further—it should provide the exact kind of restoration your body and spirit need in this season of motherhood.

You don't have to figure this out alone. Sometimes, the most powerful self-care is simply accepting support when it's offered.

Connect with us:

Please email your questions to muckedupyourselfcare@gmail.com

Join the conversation about what intentional self-care means to you.

You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care When You've Put Yourself Out There

Sun, 30 Mar 2025 22:00:00 +1000

In this episode following our milestone 100th celebration, Jill and Linda dive into the vulnerable aftermath of putting yourself out there. Whether it's hosting an event, reaching a significant milestone, or simply stepping outside your comfort zone, the emotional toll often goes unaddressed. The raw conversation explores how to navigate the melty feelings that follow moments of visibility while balancing the needs of those around you.

Key Takeaways

Vulnerability requires recovery time - After putting yourself in the spotlight or reaching a milestone, your emotional reserves need replenishing. Both hosts share how they experienced this following their 100th episode celebration.

Others' reactions can complicate your self-care - Linda opens up about the challenge of practicing self-care when those around you might feel confronted by your success or achievements. Navigating others' reactions while honoring your own needs requires careful boundaries.

Children can be perfect self-care buddies - Both hosts find that immersing themselves with their children after emotionally demanding events provides natural self-care. Reading, singing, and simply being present with kids offers genuine connection when you're feeling vulnerable.

Plan buffers around big moments - Schedule intentional recovery time before and after putting yourself out there. Whether it's quiet time alone or joyful connection with loved ones, anticipate your needs in advance.

Recognize when melty feelings belong to someone else - An important skill is differentiating between your own emotional needs and those of others around you. While you can offer support, you aren't responsible for managing everyone else's feelings.

Moving Forward

The vulnerability that comes with putting yourself out there is worth it, even when the recovery isn't perfect. As you navigate your own self-care journey, remember that it's okay to prioritize your emotional wellbeing after moments of visibility or achievement. Try creating a simple plan for your next big moment—identify what you'll need before and after, communicate those needs clearly, and be gentle with yourself in the process.

Your self-care practice is unique to you. We're walking this journey together, figuring it out as we go—messy, interrupted, imperfect, and beautifully mucked up. Join us next week as we continue exploring the art of caring for ourselves while caring for everyone else.

The Mucked Up My Self-Care podcast with Jill and Linda explores the messy reality of building self-care habits as busy moms, delivered with authenticity and heart from opposite sides of the world.

Connect with us on social media to share your self-care wins and struggles. Remember, as we've learned over these 100+ episodes, there are no rules – it's okay to muck it up rather than get it right.

Email us muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com

Connect with Jill via her website www.mamaoutspoken.com

Connect with Linda on Substack www.conversationsforgrowth.com

Celebrating 100 Episodes of the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast

Sun, 23 Mar 2025 22:00:00 +1000

The 100th episode of the mucked up my self-care podcast certainly aligned with our vision and realities. From technical hiccups to sick children in the background, our 100th episode celebration embodied everything the Mucked Up My Self Care Podcast stands for – real, interrupted, and beautifully imperfect self-care. Join hosts Jill and Linda as they reflect on their two-year journey, sharing vulnerable moments and profound revelations that have shaped not just their podcast, but their approach to motherhood, entrepreneurship, and self-care.

Key Takeaways

Self-care doesn't require perfection. Through 100 episodes and nearly 40 hours of recorded conversations, Jill and Linda have discovered that self-care isn't about yoga retreats and spa days. It's about finding small moments throughout your day – even while picking up dog poop barefoot in the grass – and embracing the interruptions rather than fighting against them.

We're all "born" alongside our children. As Jill beautifully reflected, "I was born at the same time that my son was born as a mom." Each new phase of motherhood requires a rebirth, learning to process emotions and prioritize ourselves in entirely new ways. This perspective gives us permission to be beginners again and again.

Creating your village is essential work. The podcast itself has become a form of community care, bridging the gap for mothers seeking connection. As one listener noted, "It took a while to create a village because I couldn't find a village." This shared experience of searching for and building support systems validates the struggle many mothers face.

Reliability comes in unexpected forms. Despite the chaos of life with children, recording 100 episodes across 677 days has become a source of reliability and self-care for both hosts. Their weekly conversations have fostered friendship, accountability, and a space to prioritize themselves amid the demands of motherhood and entrepreneurship.

Our approach to self-care evolves. From basic needs like showering in the early postpartum days to embracing "rage vacuuming" as a legitimate form of emotional release, the hosts have expanded their definition of self-care. These evolving perspectives remind us that self-care looks different in different seasons.

Keep Unstucking Your Muck!

As we celebrate this milestone, we invite you to join our self-care village for the next 100 episodes. Whether you're a first-time listener or have been with us since episode one, there's a place for you in this conversation about messy, interrupted, imperfect self-care.

Connect with us on social media to share your self-care wins and struggles. Remember, as we've learned over these 100 episodes, there are no rules – it's okay to muck it up rather than get it right.

Email us muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com

Connect with Jill www.mamaoutspoken.com

Connect with Linda www.conversationsforgrowth.com

Heard in 30+ countries and counting – thank you for making our podcast part of your self-care journey!

Collaboration and Self-Care

Sun, 16 Mar 2025 23:00:00 +1000

In our 99th episode, Jill and Linda explore how collaboration can be a powerful form of self-care for moms. As we all navigate the exhaustion and demands of motherhood, finding ways to share the load with others isn't just practical—it's essential for our wellbeing. From carpooling arrangements to podcast partnerships, this conversation reveals how connecting with others helps lighten our burdens while strengthening our relationships.

Episode Highlights:

Collaboration as Load-Sharing: Discover how simple arrangements like carpooling for kids' activities can create breathing room in your schedule while building community with other parents.

Start Small and Time-Limited: When beginning new collaborative efforts, consider starting with a defined timeframe (like a 6-week commitment) to reduce pressure and make it easier to say "yes."

Relationship First, Plan Second: The strongest collaborations protect the relationship above all else. As Linda points out, "The plan is something that we just follow the rules on so we can protect our relationship."

Finding the Overlap: Before diving into collaboration, identify where your "whys" match up with potential partners. Jill and Linda share how they used a Venn diagram to discover shared goals before starting their podcast.

Accept Help Without Guilt: Jill's example of neighborhood childcare swapping reminds us that allowing others to help isn't a burden—it often provides mutual benefits that serve everyone involved.

Moving Forward:

If you're feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list, consider what burdens you could share with someone else this week. Even small acts of collaboration can provide meaningful relief. As we prepare for our milestone 100th episode featuring special guest listeners, we invite you to reflect on your own collaborative experiences. How might you create more "light lifts" in your life by connecting with others?

Reach out through our show notes email or social channels to share your thoughts—we'd love to hear how you're using collaboration as self-care in your own motherhood journey!

Remember: You don't have to do it all alone. That's not just good advice—it's good self-care.

Connect with us:

Email your questions for our 100th episode to muckedupyourselfcare@gmail.com

Join the conversation about what intentional self-care means to you.

You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Intentional Self-Care

Sun, 09 Mar 2025 23:00:00 +1000

In this candid conversation, Jill and Linda dive deep into what it truly means to practice intentional self-care as busy moms. Moving beyond the superficial "just take a walk" advice, they explore how being purposeful with our self-care can transform everyday moments into meaningful experiences that fill our cups – even when things don't go as planned (like shower time with toddlers!).

Key Takeaways

The Power of Purpose in Self-Care

Not all self-care is created equal. While activities like walking or spending time outdoors can be beneficial, setting a clear intention behind these moments – like using a walk to clear your mind or connect with your child – can dramatically enhance their impact on your wellbeing.

Finding Self-Care in Unexpected Places

Self-care doesn't always need to be flamboyant or done in solitude. Sometimes it's found in multitasking moments, like grounding yourself while doing yard work, or discovering joy in a shared shower with your little ones when your original "me-time" plans get derailed.

The Connection Factor

For many moms, meaningful connection is a vital form of self-care. Whether it's a half-hour chat with a friend or participating in a mastermind group, these social interactions can revitalize us in unique ways that complement our solo self-care practices.

Managing Expectations vs. Setting Intentions

While having intentions for your self-care is valuable, setting rigid expectations about how you'll feel afterward can lead to disappointment. The key is to remain flexible and open to the benefits that emerge naturally from your self-care practices.

Your Self-Care Journey Continues

Remember, your self-care journey is uniquely yours – what works for someone else might not work for you, and that's perfectly okay. As you explore different ways to incorporate intentional self-care into your life, stay curious about what truly fills your cup and be gentle with yourself when things don't go as planned.

Have questions about self-care or want to share your own experiences? We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions and insights for our upcoming 100th episode celebration. Your story might be exactly what another mom needs to hear.

Connect with us:

Email your questions for our 100th episode to muckedupyourselfcare@gmail.com

Join the conversation about what intentional self-care means to you.

You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Can Self-Care be Balanced?

Sun, 02 Mar 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Ever feel like you're juggling a million pieces of your life, trying to keep them all perfectly balanced—only to have a toddler flood the laundry room or a child need an emergency trip to the hospital? Jill and Linda dive into the myth of balance and explore a more realistic approach to self-care for moms. Through their own daily struggles and victories, they reveal why chasing perfect balance might be holding us back from true self-care.

Key Insights from This Episode:

Rethinking Balance vs. Harmony

The traditional idea of "balance" implies equal parts and perfect equilibrium—something that rarely exists in motherhood. Instead, consider viewing self-care through the lens of harmony, where different elements of life flow together naturally, even if not equally.

Energy-Based Self-Care

Your self-care needs shift with your energy levels. Some days require more intentional care than others. Learning to read and respond to your own energy patterns can help you better integrate self-care into your daily life, rather than forcing it into predetermined time slots.

Embracing Flexibility Over Fairness

Let go of the idea that self-care must be "earned" or balanced against your productivity. Your need for self-care isn't a transaction—it's a fundamental part of motherhood that deserves space regardless of what you've "accomplished" that day.

Seasonal Self-Care

What works during school term might not work during holidays. What serves you during toddlerhood might not serve you during the teen years. Allow your self-care practice to evolve with your family's changing seasons and needs.

Moving Forward Together

Remember, you're not alone in this journey of figuring out what self-care looks like in the beautiful messiness of motherhood. Whether you're stealing five minutes in the bathroom (usually with an audience!) or finding creative ways to recharge between school pickup and activities, every small act of self-care counts.

We'd love to hear your thoughts!

As we approach our 100th episode, we're inviting listeners to share their questions and experiences. Email us your questions about motherhood, self-care, or anything you'd like us to address in our celebration episode. Email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com.

You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Join us next week as we continue to unstuck our muck together!

Self-Care Secrets

Sun, 23 Feb 2025 23:00:00 +1000

"You probably don't even realize that you're doing the self-care that you are doing."

This week, Jill and Linda challenge the Pinterest-perfect version of self-care, trading Instagram filters for real talk about finding moments of peace in the chaos of motherhood. From monster truck shows to firework displays, they explore how true self-care often shows up in unexpected ways – and why the best "secrets" might not be secrets at all.

Key Takeaways

Seeing Through Your Child's Eyes

Watch your kid's face light up at fireworks, and you'll catch a glimpse of what pure joy looks like. Jill and Linda discuss how tapping into your child's natural wonder can reshape your own approach to self-care, making everyday moments feel extraordinary.

Reframing Daily Rituals

That morning walk you squeeze in? It counts. The five minutes of peace in your parked car? That counts too. Learn how to spot the self-care you're already doing and transform routine tasks into moments that actually fill your cup.

The Permission to Keep It Simple

Forget the pressure to make self-care Instagram-worthy. Sometimes the most effective self-care looks like sitting in your driveway with a project you love, or finding ten minutes to read between loads of laundry. The magic happens when you stop following someone else's blueprint.

Building Trust in Self-Care Conversations

Why do we whisper about taking time for ourselves? Jill and Linda dive into the complexity of sharing self-care wins without coming across as boastful, and how to create genuine connections with other moms around this topic.

Moving Forward

You're probably doing more self-care than you give yourself credit for. Instead of adding another item to your to-do list, try noticing the moments that already bring you peace. What if the secret to better self-care isn't about doing more, but about recognizing and protecting the little pieces of joy you've already carved out?

You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Unstuck your muck with Jill and Linda every week on the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast, where we're figuring out this whole self-care thing right alongside you.

Self-Care Vulnerabilities

Sun, 16 Feb 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Jill and Linda peel back the layers of what it truly means to be vulnerable while trying to maintain self-care as a mother. From managing household chaos to handling hormonal challenges, they share their personal struggles with the constant pressure to "keep it all together." Their conversation reveals what many moms experience but rarely voice: those moments when everything feels like it's falling apart, and finding time for self-care seems impossible.

Hear about:

The Mental Load Runs Deep

Behind every simple task like changing sheets lies an intricate web of mental labor - from remembering when they were last changed to knowing each family member's preferences. This invisible work often goes unrecognized but significantly impacts a mother's capacity for self-care.

Hormonal Cycles Impact Vulnerability

Both hosts openly discuss how their menstrual cycles affect their emotional resilience, particularly in high-pressure situations like managing children's behavior in public spaces. Recognizing these patterns helps in planning and managing self-care needs during challenging times.

Team Effort Makes a Difference

Linda shares a powerful example of how her children pitched in during an overwhelming moment, demonstrating that involving the whole family in household management can create beautiful moments of connection and support. However, one negative comment can quickly unravel that progress.

Communication Challenges

The discussion highlights how tone and delivery when asking for help can create tension in relationships, affecting both partnerships and parent-child interactions. This communication struggle often leads to mothers taking on more responsibility rather than continuing to ask for support.

Your journey through motherhood's vulnerable moments isn't meant to be walked alone. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by the mental load or struggling to find moments for self-care, remember that these experiences are shared by mothers worldwide. Join our community by following us on social media or sharing your own vulnerability story. Tune in next week as we continue these important conversations about motherhood and self-care.

Connect with us:

Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda at www.lindabonney.com.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Jill and Bobby's Mama Outspoken Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mama-outspoken-podcast/id1576913893

Linda's Substack article about care and mental load: https://www.conversationsforgrowth.com/p/reimagining-care-in-a-world-that?r=19nixh

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

When All We Want to Do is Vent Instead of Self-Care

Sun, 09 Feb 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Sometimes the last thing we want to hear when we're frustrated is "try some self-care." In this episode, Jill and Linda tackle the complex relationship between venting and caring for ourselves. Through stories of messy kitchens, interrupted plans, and late-night conversations, they explore how expressing our frustrations can either help or hinder our wellbeing.

Key Insights from Our Conversation

The Fine Line Between Venting and Complaining

There's a distinction between releasing built-up tension and falling into negative thought patterns. The hosts discuss how controlled venting can clear mental space for problem-solving, while endless complaints might reinforce unhelpful beliefs.

Creating Safe Spaces

From postpartum support groups to late-night talks with partners, having designated spaces to share struggles allows us to process emotions without judgment. These moments of connection often become their own form of self-care.

When Emotions Get Stuck

Repressed feelings tend to "splatter like slime" in unexpected ways. The hosts share personal experiences of holding things in too long and the importance of finding healthy outlets before reaching breaking point.

The Balance of Giving and Receiving Support

While many of us readily offer a listening ear to others, we often hesitate to share our own struggles. The conversation explores why we might guard our vulnerabilities and how to build trust within our support networks.

Your Invitation to Find Balance

Consider how venting fits into your self-care routine. Maybe it's sharing highs and lows with a trusted friend, joining a supportive group, or writing down frustrations before they overflow. Remember that expressing feelings and caring for yourself aren't mutually exclusive – sometimes they're exactly the same thing.

Join us in celebrating our upcoming 100th episode, where we'll continue exploring the real, messy, and vital aspects of caring for ourselves as parents. Stay tuned for special events and opportunities to connect with our community.

Ready to explore the connection between expressing yourself and self-care? Tune in next week as we continue to "unstuck your muck" and navigate parenthood together.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda at www.lindabonney.com.

If Self-Care was a Stranger

Sun, 02 Feb 2025 23:00:00 +1000

What would self-care look like if we approached it as we would a new acquaintance? In this episode, Jill and Linda explore this question through their own experiences - from finding unexpected reading moments during summer play to recognizing how we speak differently about self-care to others versus ourselves. Their conversation reveals fresh perspectives on making self-care feel less like an obligation and more like a welcome presence in our lives.

Key Insights from Our Conversation

Making Space for What Matters

Linda shares how she's adapted her reading habits, keeping a book by the door instead of reaching for her phone during outdoor playtime with her children. This small shift shows how self-care can fit naturally into our daily rhythms rather than requiring dramatic lifestyle changes.

Speaking Our Self-Care Out Loud

When we name our self-care actions - whether at a business, the skate park, or during family time - we normalize it for others and ourselves. Jill describes how her son now understands and can explain to others what self-care means, creating a ripple effect of awareness and permission.

Finding Familiarity in the Unfamiliar

Sometimes self-care feels strange, like during six days of caring for a sick child. The hosts discuss how these moments, though challenging, can teach us new ways to rest and care for ourselves within difficult circumstances.

Changing the Narrative

Rather than viewing self-care as a distant concept or an intimidating stranger, we can approach it with curiosity and openness. It might appear as a mirror showing us what we need, or as a wise grandmother figure offering gentle guidance based on lived experience.

Your Invitation to Self-Care

Consider how you might welcome self-care into your life this week. Perhaps it's bringing a book outside during playtime, speaking openly about your need for rest, or simply acknowledging that sometimes self-care looks different than expected. Remember, like any new relationship, your connection with self-care can grow stronger with time and attention.

Join us for our upcoming 100th episode celebration, where we'll be exploring new ways to understand and embrace self-care. Stay tuned for special events and collaborative opportunities as we continue building this community together.

Ready to make self-care feel more familiar? Tune in next week as we continue to "unstuck your muck" and explore practical ways to care for ourselves and our families.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda at www.lindabonney.com.

Leading the Way with Self-Care

Sun, 26 Jan 2025 23:00:00 +1000

In this episode, Jill and Linda talk about what it truly means to lead by example when it comes to self-care. They explore how mothers can embrace and model self-care in ways that ripple through their families and communities. This isn't about perfect Instagram-worthy wellness routines; it's about the messy, real-life ways we take care of ourselves and inspire others along the way.

Key Insights from Our Conversation

The Power of Accepting Help

When Linda encountered a kind stranger at the hairdresser who helped entertain her children, she discovered that sometimes self-care means letting others step into our village – even temporarily. This beautiful moment reminded us that leadership in self-care often starts with being vulnerable enough to accept support when it's offered.

Redefining What Self-Care Looks Like

Through their candid discussion, Jill and Linda challenge the notion that self-care must be Instagram-perfect or expensive. Sometimes, it's as simple as finding joy in napping after a busy week or feeling the grass beneath your feet while doing mundane tasks. It's about finding what genuinely replenishes your energy, no matter how unconventional it might seem.

Modeling Self-Care for the Next Generation

The hosts share how their children are learning about self-care through observation. When Jill's son recognizes "daddy's self-care time," it demonstrates how openly discussing and practicing self-care can normalize it for our children, creating a lasting impact on future generations.

Creating Change

By sharing their struggles and victories, both hosts emphasize how being authentic about our self-care journey can inspire others. Whether it's through random acts of kindness, honest conversations, or simply showing up imperfectly, every small action creates a ripple effect in our communities.

Ready to become a self-care leader in your own life? Start by identifying one small way you can model self-care this week – whether it's accepting help from a neighbor, taking that much-needed nap, or having an open conversation with your children about why you need quiet time. Remember, you're not just taking care of yourself; you're showing others that it's okay – and essential – to do the same.

Your journey matters, and we'd love to hear how you're leading the way in self-care. Join our conversation and connect with other moms who are navigating this path together. Together, we're building a community where self-care isn't selfish – it's necessary to be the mothers, leaders, and humans we want to be.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com

Linda at www.lindabonney.com

Tune in next week as we continue to explore ways to "unstuck your muck" and create positive changes in your life.

Self-Care Dialogue

Sun, 19 Jan 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Ever notice how your inner voice changes when you're running on empty? In this raw and honest episode, Jill and Linda dive deep into the complex relationship between self-care and the way we talk to ourselves. From sleep-deprived nights to moments of joy, they explore how our internal dialogue shapes our ability to prioritize self-care, especially during those challenging seasons of motherhood.

Key Insights from Our Conversation:

The Sleep-Care Connection

Sleep deprivation doesn't just affect our energy - it fundamentally changes how we speak to ourselves about self-care. We explore the delicate balance between rest and productivity, and why being gentle with ourselves during these periods isn't just nice, it's necessary.

The Double Standard of Self-Care

We often give our friends permission to rest and recharge, yet struggle to extend that same compassion to ourselves. Learn how to recognize this pattern and start treating yourself with the same kindness you offer others.

Making Self-Care Visible

Something powerful happens when we name our self-care moments out loud. Whether it's calling a walk in the sunshine "self-care" or celebrating small moments of rest, actively acknowledging these choices helps validate their importance in our lives.

The Power of Genuine Dialogue

Not all self-care mantras are created equal. We discuss why authentic, believable self-talk matters more than generic affirmations, and how to develop a more honest conversation with yourself about your needs.

Your Next Steps

You're not alone in this journey of balancing self-care with the demands of motherhood. Whether you're thriving or just surviving today, we invite you to join our growing community of moms who are learning to unstuck their muck together. Share your thoughts on self-care dialogue with us. What resonates? What challenges you?

Connect with us through email or social media (find all our details in the links below), and let's continue this conversation. Remember, your self-care journey doesn't have to be perfect to be valuable.

Resources & Connect With Us:

Email: muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com
Hosts: Jill (New York) & Linda (Tasmania)
Join our communities: Jill on Instagram at @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda on Twitter @_lindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Day to Day Self-Care

Sun, 12 Jan 2025 23:00:00 +1000

Motherhood is full of moving parts, and sometimes, self-care feels like just another thing to add to the list. In this episode, Jill and Linda explore how self-care can fit into the everyday, even when life feels overwhelming. From joyful family moments to recognizing when to slow down, they reflect on the little things that make a difference.

In This Episode:

How family playtime can unexpectedly refill your cup (even if it’s just a game of laser tag).
The hidden ways we practice self-care without even realizing it.
Why small habits, like taking a walk or reading, matter more than spa days and retreats.
Managing the weight of daily responsibilities without burning out.
Letting go of the idea that self-care has to be structured or planned.

Self-care doesn’t always look like what we expect. Sometimes, it’s as simple as recognizing the little wins in your day. Like sitting down for five quiet minutes or sharing a laugh with your kids.

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

5 Benefits of Self-Care

Sun, 05 Jan 2025 23:00:00 +1000

In this episode, Jill and Linda are diving into the real benefits of self-care. The kind that gets you through those melty moments and helps you feel more like yourself again. The post-holiday chaos or the daily juggle of motherhood, we chat about why self-care is necessary.

Our 5 benefits are not one and done. In fact, we feel that we could have easily listed 50 benefits of self-care (which would have made a very LONG episode). Here's what you can hear about in this episode.

Energy Replenishment – How self-care helps you bounce back after big events (or big meltdowns).
Building Better Neural Pathways – Small, intentional acts of care can shift your mindset in surprising ways.
Less Eggshells – When you care for yourself, you’re less on edge (and so is everyone else).
Understanding Yourself Better – Self-care reveals what truly fills your cup (and what doesn’t).
Gentler Parenting – A little care for you leads to more patience and compassion for them.

We’re all about making self-care realistic, imperfect, and sometimes even messy and we’d love to hear what self-care looks like for you. What benefits have you noticed in your life?

Share with us by reaching out or leaving a comment.

Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

And if you’re craving more inspiration, check out episodes 42 and 43, where we share our personal top five self-care activities.

https://mucked-up-my-self-care.captivate.fm/episode/jills-top-5-self-care-activities/

https://mucked-up-my-self-care.captivate.fm/episode/lindas-top-5-self-care-activities/

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Overindulgence in Self-Care

Sun, 29 Dec 2024 23:00:00 +1000

As we wrap up 2024, Jill and Linda reflect on the highs and lows of the season. From sweet family traditions to the sometimes overwhelming need for solitude and balance. This episode concentrates on the real and relatable side of self-care, especially during the holidays when indulgence can sneak in under the guise of relaxation.

The joy of family time, but also the need for space and quiet.
The delicate balance between guiding little ones and managing their endless energy.
Recognizing when self-care crosses into habits that leave us feeling worse, like too much social media scrolling or late-night Netflix binges.
Small shifts to replenish energy without the guilt spiral.
How to step into 2025 with intention, leaving the less helpful habits behind.

As you reflect on your own self-care this season, we invite you to take stock of what truly fills your cup. Sometimes, the best self-care isn’t what’s easy but what nurtures you long-term.

Take a moment this week to identify one small way to refresh your self-care routine. Share it with us – we’d love to hear how you’re resetting for the year ahead.

Thank you for spending this year with us. We’re so grateful for our community of moms showing up, even in the muck of it all.

Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

See you in 2025 for more honest, imperfect self-care chats.

What we Hope for Self-Care Future

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 23:00:00 +1000

It's Christmas again for the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast. In this short special pre-holiday chat, we discuss what self-care means to us during this busy time.

The joy of finishing work projects to the stress of unexpected family health issues.
Letting go of guilt and embracing small moments of joy and quiet.
Why normalizing conversations around rest and well-being can benefit the whole family.
Christmas wishes for self-care. Jill and Linda share their hopes for more collective kindness and less internal criticism as we move forward.

This episode is a gentle reminder that self-care doesn’t have to be perfect or elaborate. Sometimes, it’s about finding small joys and giving ourselves permission to pause.

We’d love to hear from you! Share your self-care intentions for the holiday season by tagging us on social media or sending a message. If this episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with another mom who could use a little extra self-care this season.

Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next time, may your holiday be full of moments that refill your cup. Merry Christmas from us to you!

Building our Self-Care Resilience

Sun, 15 Dec 2024 23:00:00 +1000

This week, Jill and Linda dive into the messy, often interrupted journey of building resilience as moms and how self-care plays a pivotal role. From car troubles to toddler birthday cake improvisations, we share the highs and lows of parenting and how embracing imperfection helps us grow stronger. Here’s what we unpack in this episode:

How self-care is not just about pampering but building the emotional and physical stamina to handle life's chaos.
Sharing the realities of parenting wins and setbacks, including creative cake fixes and resting through sickness.
How setting personal incentives can help us prioritize self-care amidst busy schedules, and why boundaries matter for moms and kids alike.
Navigating tantrums, hunger-fueled emotions, and how meeting basic needs connects to emotional resilience.
Balancing emotional expression with boundaries and learning to parent while reparenting ourselves.

Resilience doesn’t mean avoiding emotions but learning to navigate them. Sometimes, having snacks at the ready (for kids and moms alike!) can be a game-changer.

Are you navigating the beautiful, messy balance of motherhood and self-care? Share your thoughts with us—we’d love to hear from you! Send us a message or drop us a line in our inbox. Let’s continue the conversation and keep mucking through this together.

Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What Happens When You Don't Practice Self-Care?

Sun, 08 Dec 2024 23:00:00 +1000

The leading question in this episode is a slightly different take. We wonder what happens when we don't practice self-care. Most of us have been there, and Jill and Linda are no exception. While thinking about this question, we talk about several topics including:

How we are more likely to engage in distractions and unhealthy behaviours such as scrolling or eating too much ice cream.
The energy and bandwidth suck when we don't practice self-care, and on the other side, the energy it can take sometimes to do self-care in the first place.
How little things may aggravate you more than they normally do.
The example we are setting for our kids when we don't practice self-care.
How do our bodies tell us/show us?
Sleep and routines, how they affect our attitudes and general outlook when it comes to self-care.

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Stress and Self-Care

Sun, 01 Dec 2024 23:00:00 +1000

Stress. It manifests physically, impacts decision-making, and leads to reactive behaviors and pushing our boundaries. In this episode Jill and Linda talk about stress from their own perspectives and provide insights into managing stress, the importance of self-care, and invite listeners to reflect on their own experiences with stress. Tune in to hear about:

Jill shares the thrill of her first-ever book talk, stepping outside her comfort zone to connect with others and embrace new opportunities.
From Halloween meltdowns to calendar overwhelm, we discuss the importance of leaving space to breathe and regroup amidst life’s demands.
Learn how stress can test or strengthen your boundaries and how setting realistic expectations helps reduce unnecessary pressure.
Stress affects more than your mood—it impacts your physical health. Recognizing the signs, from foggy thinking to stress pimples, is key to holistic self-care.
Discover how sudden stress reactions can confuse loved ones and how open communication fosters understanding and support.

Your well-being matters just as much as everyone else’s. Stress and self-care are part of the motherhood journey, and this episode invites you to reflect on your own experiences. What boundaries do you need to strengthen, and how can you better tune into your body's needs?

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Why is Self-Care So Hard? (Part Two)

Sun, 24 Nov 2024 23:00:00 +1000

In this episode, we continue our discussion around the question - why is self-care so hard? This is part two, after episode one of last week, in which Jill and Linda found there was actually quite a lot to talk about when it comes to the hard side of self-care. Afterall, self-care isn't meant to be 'hard', is it? Hear all about topics such as:

Hard things in parallel with good things, such as allergies and encouragement and sleeplessness and arcade games.
Constant interruptions and noise around us.
Waiting for the 'right' time and for things to be perfect.
Self-care bandwidth (or lack of)
Social media making self-care look easier than it actually is and also only showing the self-care activity itself and not the logistics of making it happen and the 'hard' bits behind the scenes.
Expectations. One word with big associations and big conversations.
Regulation of emotions and feeling like me are insane and crazy.
Talking ourselves into thinking that it is hard and feeling guilty if it doesn't happen.

Is self-care really as hard as we make it out to be? We think both yes and no in answer to this question. What about you?

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Why is Self-Care So Hard? (Part One)

Sun, 17 Nov 2024 23:00:00 +1000

Why can self-care be so difficult to maintain? Should it really be this hard? Jill and Linda still wonder about these questions, even after 82 episodes of talking openly about these questions. Today's episode is no different, as we dive into the challenges and hard side of self-care. Take a listen as we chat about:

All the different things we need to do before we can do something.
The self-talk about how hard it is and how much this can cause a delay.
Freedom to get up and go do something for ourselves, the changes and shifts that happen as mothers in this regard and for our self-care.
Competing priorities and needs. Especially when we are at the stage where we are feeling like it is hard to manage and need to get some self-care time.
Making self-care second nature and more of a habit, rather than another thing to remember.

We hope this conversation encourages you to remember that self-care isn't always easy and even small acts of self-care can make a big difference. We look forward to joining you for part two next week!

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Too Emotional for Self-Care?

Sun, 10 Nov 2024 22:00:00 +1000

It's no joke. Motherhood is full of intense emotional moments. Not only for us, but also from our kids as well. Jill and Linda both have had a lot of practice when it comes to emotions and now talking about self-care adds a whole new level to the conversation. Listen in as we talk about:

What is 'too emotional'?
The stereotypical labels that are placed on us, both from ourselves, others and society.
Do we let our emotions determine the kind of self-care that we do? Or whether we do any at all?
Do we need to be regulated to have effective self-care?
Knowing that self-care is needed when we are too emotional or our kids
Is sleep your go to self-care when you are 'too emotional'?
Different range of emotions - often we can only focus on the negative or bigger ones.
Getting out of the funk.

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Melty Moments and Self-Care

Sun, 03 Nov 2024 22:00:00 +1000

Both Jill and Linda often refer to the concept of 'melty', which refers to the heightened emotional states following significant events or intense shifts in energy. In this episode, we're discussing the concept and unpacking it a bit further as we chat about:

Personal stories and recent experiences with memorable family outings and unexpected challenges.
What it means to be ‘melty’ and why it's so common during transitions.
Practical self-care tips for new mums to manage emotional ups and downs.
The importance of noticing and accepting ‘melty’ moments to stay balanced.

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Loving Yourself as Self-Care

Sun, 27 Oct 2024 22:00:00 +1000

Jill feels like she's spent an entire day yelling back and forth because of blocked ears, sickness and more and Linda has spent an hour with two kids scrambling around the car while waiting for an appointment. Far from the picture of loving yourself as self-care that we are talking about in this episode. Yet, after sharing our highs and lows, we dive in and think about what loving ourselves actually looks like. What it actually means. We chat about things such as:

The age-old saying of self-care isn't selfish and often we need to put ourselves first.
Mothering (and loving) the mother and taking care of ourselves too.
Acceptance. Recognising where you are and what season you are in. Whether it be sickness, being overwhelmed, or chucking your weekly plans in the bin.
Expectations of ourselves and our self-care.

We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Supportive Self-Care

Sun, 20 Oct 2024 22:00:00 +1000

If you Google the word "support," there's a description that says something like a thing that bears the weight of something or keeps it upright. Regarding supportive self-care, how can we practice self-care without bearing all the weight and still stay upright in the process? These are hard questions to ponder as Jill and Linda dive into another discussion and talk about:

Practical ways in which we support ourselves and others, such as cooking a meal for someone, offering to look after an extra kid or two, and cleaning out a car.
The nuances that are unsaid and unwritten when it comes to supportive self-care.
How hard it can be to accept help, especially when we are sick or tired or unsure if we are a burden.
Spending time alone to support ourselves and others, when its quicker and easier to get things done rather than having extra company alongside.
Checking in to our immediate reactions to events or when self-care is mucked up and doesn't go as planned.
Continuing to have conversations and feel seen and understood.

We would love to hear from you. Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care When You're Sick

Sun, 13 Oct 2024 22:00:00 +1000

Hands up if you have faced the challenges of being sick as a parent? Extra hands up if you also struggle to fit in self-care when managing your health at the same time. Today Jill and Linda have thrown a spanner in the works and changed the episode title right on the line. Based on first hand experience, today's episode is talking about self-care when you're sick. Listen in as we talk about:

What support looks like when you're sick and the importance of accepting help.
Permission to drop the ball and rest. A reminder that we all need at times.
Passing sickness around. How to navigate that and our own conflicts when it comes to self-care.
Unsaid, unwritten and understood self-care of ourselves when we are sick.

If you are sick when listening to this, please know that you are not alone. We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Making Time for Self-Care

Sun, 06 Oct 2024 22:00:00 +1000

How do we incorporate self-care into our busy lives? It’s a question that mamas across the world possibly ask countless times every day. Jill and Linda are making time today to have this conversation as they touch on their personal journeys and what they have learnt along the way. Tune in to hear about:

Is self-care easier to plan on the calendar or leave white space available for it?
Saying yes to self-care can sometimes mean saying no to other things.
Sometimes, we think self-care takes longer than it does.
The time we spend thinking about self-care compared to doing it can be significant, and it requires some honest examination.
Motivation? Does this matter?
Life demands always seem to be more important.
Mothers' needs (self-care) often take a backseat to others.

We continue to learn and do our best, especially when making time for self-care. We would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care Activities at Home

Sun, 29 Sep 2024 21:00:00 +1000

As Linda approaches another school holidays and Jill is just off the back of one, today we are talking all about self-care activities at home. In the 75 episodes so far, we’ve realised that self-care at home has changed for both of us, which makes for an interesting conversation as we talk about:

Guilt and priorities when it comes to house maintenance and chores and the distractions that can prevent us from getting true self-care moments.
Doing self-care alongside our kids. What that looks like in reality, especially if our kids are sick.
Being mindful of what we can accept and involve as self-care when it’s harder at home with everything else around us.
Mapping out our days and planning for spontaneity or when things get really mucked up
Music! How it adds an extra layer of enjoyment at home alongside other activities.

We continue to learn and do our best and we would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Highs and Lows of Self-Care

Sun, 22 Sep 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Each episode Jill and Linda start the conversation by sharing recent highs and lows that are currently happening all around them. Why do we do this? To appreciate, acknowledge and understand that there are several aspects to self-care and parenting and life is 'real' in the fact that we can't just focus on one particular area. There are times when we are left unsatisfied that we didn't get the outcome we were hoping for. On the flipside, even if it doesn't work out the way we were hoping, there are still moments of joy and appreciation that things are working out differently. Listen in as we chat about the highs and lows and talk about:

Starting the school year strong, even with mishaps along the way.
When each time we sit down there is something being destroyed, destructed, ripped up, torn down and how we can turn that around.
How in each bad day there can be good moments.
It is important to talk it out and have support when we are stuck in lows and celebrating highs.
The reality of mucked-up motherhood and self-care.

We continue to learn and do our best and we would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Good Moms/Mums and Self-Care

Sun, 15 Sep 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Do you feel comfortable getting told you are a good Mum/Mom? Yes, we’re going with both versions today being that we are connecting across the globe for this conversation. Often we can get told one thing and think another, and parenting is no different. Jill and Linda think about what this phrase means for both of them as the conversation takes on a form of its own. Included inside this episode, we talk about:

When you’re crazy, stressed and ready to pack it all in and feel the need to defend yourself when someone says ‘you’re doing great!’
Getting kids into the car is a marathon in itself.
The old saying ‘you’re going to miss these days’ when we have next to no energy and have so much happening around us.
Does consistent self-care make you a good mum? Is it even possible?
Superhero images and comparisons we make. Even between good and bad, each perspective may be different.

We continue to learn and do our best and we would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Narratives Surrounding Self-Care

Sun, 08 Sep 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Self-care has become quite a buzz word these days and we are often led to believe that self-care can cure burn out, depression, anxiety, and other effects of living in a society built on imperialism. The narrative suggests that these issues can be easily solved by finding the perfect self-care routine or just setting better boundaries (another form of "self-care"). However, this oversimplifies the root causes of such problems and shifts the blame onto individuals rather than addressing systemic issues. Jill and Linda are discussing the narratives we often hear surrounding self-care in this episode and talk about:

That there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to the meaning of self-care.
Our interpretations and perspectives of self-care.
Blaming ourselves when self-care gets mucked up and how we compare ourselves to others.
Should we be putting the onus for change entirely on us?
Switching something out for self-care.

We are excited that the narrative of self-care has expanded and will continue to have conversations surrounding self-care and what it looks like for us.

We encourage you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care for Lazy Days

Sun, 01 Sep 2024 21:00:00 +1000

For today's episode, Jill and Linda are celebrating Self-Care for Lazy Moms Day which is celebrated on September 6th!

We ask the serious questions and laugh a little at how we've possibly 'almost' forgotten what laziness looks like. Listen in as we talk about:

Have you forgotten how to be lazy as a mama?
Is self-care a form of laziness?
Sleep. The Achilles heel of many mothers and lack of it is certainly apparent!

What would a lazy day look like for you? We would genuinely love to know!

We encourage you to open up the conversation and see what has been stirred up for you. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care Needs Self-Awareness

Sun, 25 Aug 2024 21:00:00 +1000

What does being self-aware mean? And why does it matter? Jill and Linda are exploring these very questions and more in today's episode of the Mucked Up My Self-Care episode. Listen in as we share our highs and lows, ride the conversation, and talk about:

Recognising our personal needs and those of our children and others around us.
Finding the balance between our kids becoming self-aware and still being there for them (while keeping our sanity in the process)
Understanding basic needs and thinking in the moment.
Being in tune with our bodies and needs. Specifically in pregnancy, physical fitness and strength, foods that we are eating.

We would love to open up the conversation and see what has been stirred up for you. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Setting Us Up for Self-Care Success

Sun, 18 Aug 2024 21:00:00 +1000

In this episode, Jill and Linda discuss success and what it looks like regarding self-care. At the time of recording, we are hot off the end of a sticky note weekend where we put our priorities into perspective. Listen to this episode to hear more about:

Figuring out how to fit more self-care into our days.
Prioritising what needs to get done.
Getting out of the mindset of to-do lists and endless lists of things to get done.
Leadership and direction in parenting and successful self-care.
Decision-making and our bandwidth.
How success on some days can be different to success on others.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care vs Self-Compassion

Sun, 11 Aug 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Self-care and self-compassion sound interchangeable, but they have a distinction between thinking and doing. Self-compassion is regarding yourself compassionately. Self-care, by contrast, is treating yourself compassionately. Jill and Linda explore these concepts and thoughts aloud in conversation as they cover:

Navigating the highs and lows of life, ranging from steam cleaning carpets to enjoying live music.
Feeling overwhelmed when it comes to tantrums, routines and trying to find balance amongst it all.
How does the quality of our self-care have the potential to impact our ability to extend compassion to ourselves and others?
Consistent, meaningful self-care can indeed make it easier to practice self-compassion and manage difficult moments gracefully.
Forgiving ourselves, giving ourselves grace and accepting others as part of the healing journey towards both more self-care and self-compassion.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Personal Values and Self-Care

Sun, 04 Aug 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Values. We often might loose sight of what is important to us when we become mamas. There are times when our values also become stronger as we become parents. In today’s episode, Jill and Linda talk about personal values and ask questions such as:

What are they right now?
How did you work out what your values were?
How are we living our personal values?
Are they changing?
What do they mean?
How are we aligning with our values?

And more…

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Pat on the Back Self-Care

Sun, 28 Jul 2024 21:00:00 +1000

What does it look like to pat yourself on your back? Is it easier for you to pat someone else on the back? Let's be honest for a hot minute, being a mama is a role that can be quite demanding and exhausting. It’s easy to put everyone else’s needs before our own, leaving us drained and sometimes even feeling guilty for wanting just a little bit of "me time." But the truth is, self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. Jill and Linda discuss the concept of pat on the back self-care and talk about themes such as:

Why we deserve self-care
Recharging your batteries. You’ll not be able to give your best to those who need you without some acknowledgement and acceptance.
Integrating self-care into our lives by starting small. You don't have to overhaul your routine overnight. Begin by carving out small pockets of time dedicated to you, whether it's enjoying a cup of coffee in peace or reading a few pages of a great book.
The importance of physical movement and activity.
One of the biggest barriers to self-care is guilt. Pat addresses this by encouraging us to reframe our thinking.

Self-care is about more than just treating ourselves; it's about preserving our health and happiness. By making self-care a priority, we’re not only investing in our well-being but also setting a positive example for our children.

We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

When Our Self-Care is Broken

Sun, 21 Jul 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Often, we can feel 'broken'. Sounds a bit dull right? Especially when there are a lot of messages out there telling that us that we aren’t broken at all. Yet amidst the emotions, hormones, rage, PND, and pressures of parenting…it can feel like we’re mucking up left, right, and centre. What does this mean when it comes to self-care? How can we fix ourselves, or at least increase our ability to deal with the overwhelm? Jill and Linda are curious to know if it is possible so we explore this topic further in this conversation and talk about:

Hitting rock bottom and making it through to the other side, with an expansion and growth to boot!
Open and honest vulnerability about how we sometimes struggle to fit in our own self-care time.
Using our calendar and planning to stack out some non-negotiables.
Overplanning mode and falling into the mode of busy-ness and the feeling of doing something.
When things don’t work the way we plan and the resilience we can build as part of that journey and acceptance of frustration or upset that it can sometimes cause.

We all can get into a funk and it is common to feel that our self-care is broken.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Celebrations in Self-Care

Sun, 14 Jul 2024 21:00:00 +1000

How much are we celebrating? We would like to think that celebrations come easy, are plentiful….however the reality is that sometimes life goes along it’s merry way and we forget how far we have come, forget that the little bits of self-care all add up and concentrate on getting through the day without utterly falling apart. Although both Jill and Linda are exhausted at the time of recording this episode, we still found a way to celebrate ourselves and our mucked up self-care. Listen in to hear about:

Lifting heavy stuff! The empowering nature of strength, commitment and getting stronger.
Celebrating in the form of doing the thing and taking action itself.
Putting in extra effort to honour ourselves and events that have impacted our lives.
When we don’t feel like celebrating at all and in a muck.
Small wins that we can celebrate and finding good in every day.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care in Postpartum

Sun, 07 Jul 2024 21:00:00 +1000

And we're back, from opposite sides of the world, from opposite time zones and weather seasons. Today, Jill and Linda are talking about self-care in postpartum, notably after Jill recent completed the Sounds of Silence 5k event. We both understand that postpartum extends beyond the immediate post-birth phase and can last several years. In this episode we dive into a topic close to our hearts and talk about:

Accepting help! It can be really be the hardest thing to do at the best of times.
Nap when the baby naps. While this seems simple, the reality can often be far from it. The temptation to use this time to catch up on chores or indulge in some "me-time" activities often overrides the need for rest.
Taking it slowly when and where possible and remembering the beauty and simplicity of stepping outside for fresh air and getting into the sun.
Reminding yourself that this is a phase that will not be forever.
Nutrition and water. If you're breastfeeding, staying hydrated is even more crucial.
Carrying baby if this works for you. It allows you to keep your baby close while freeing up your hands to accomplish other tasks. Cooking dinner, cleaning, or even working becomes more manageable, and you can move freely without constantly worrying about where the baby is.
Embracing the mess and recognising small victories.
Leaning on your community, family, friends and support groups.

Both Jill and Linda are passionate about advocating for the need to find practical ways to care for yourself amidst the demanding early years of motherhood. Take a deep breath, sip some water, and give yourself that well-deserved break

We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Figuring Out What Works for Self-Care

Sun, 30 Jun 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Can we ever fully figure out what works for self-care? Afterall, what often works one day might not work on another day. Are the sells of quick fixes adding to our stress? What has worked for these two mamas makes an interesting discussion. We certainly don't think we have all of it figured out much of the time. So, listen in as we open up and share some thoughts together, touching on:

How we often put ourselves last and focus on the needs of others, making it hard to sometimes remember what we desire, are striving for, enjoy and how we can better care for ourselves.
Meal prepping, planning and figuring out small ideas that can help towards a smoother dinner time. Including juggling different phases of diets and hormones and needing a simpler approach to phase-specific meals.
Creating joyful moments and rituals. Practical ideas to integrate joy and encourage a sense of connection with your kiddos at dinnertime.
Consistency and effectiveness for self-care
Checking in with our energy leaks. Whats working, what's not? Reflection and vulnerability as we share the load about household effectiveness and figuring it out one step at a time.
We check back in with our top 5 again. Are they still relevant? How are we taking steps towards our favourite things as a way of figuring stuff out.

We hope you find these insights and strategies helpful as you navigate the beautiful chaos of motherhood. By taking care of ourselves, we set a positive example for our children and ensure we have the energy and enthusiasm to meet life's challenges head-on.

For more information about the Villiage, please visit https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/village.

We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

When Self-Care Feels Too Hard

Sun, 23 Jun 2024 21:00:00 +1000

What happens when self-care feels like the hardest thing in the world? When you're swamped in responsibilities and hardly want to adult yourself into making dinner and tackling the toothbrush again? In this episode, we delve into the challenges of when self-care feels like a monster that is stuck under the bed. Tune in as we talk about:

Balancing work, family, time and our own values with kids climbing on desks and all the unexpected things that happen as you try to run out the door.
Trying to cram everything into shorter time slots and wondering how on earth we can increase our hours in the day to get it all done.
Remembering how we have overcome and created experiences for both us and our family (even when it 'feels' too hard.
Allowing ourselves to be okay with where we are at. Not adding unnecessary pressure is a form of self-care.
Choosing your hard and living a value-driven life.
The power of sticky note time and how it helps us to prioritise our self-care.

The unfiltered and unedited quest continues, and even all these conversations and episodes in we still fully believe that self-care will feel hard at times. We hope you are finding yourself and setting yourself up for better success, especially through the hard bits.

For more information about the Villiage, please visit https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/village.

We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

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Myths Behind Self-Care

Sun, 16 Jun 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Self-care has become a buzzword in contemporary lifestyles, touted across social media as the key to well-being. But how can we sort out the juice and the fluff? What’s a myth and what’s not? Jill and Linda are back with another discussion about the importance of self-care, sharing personal highs and lows from their past week. Pick up the headphones, or hook up the Bluetooth in the car as we chat about:

Is self-care optional? Whether you're aware of it or not, practicing self-care improves your well-being exponentially.
Does self-care have to be expensive and lavish? Simple activities such as a walk outside or reading a book can be self-care.
Is self-care selfish? There's a fine line between caring for yourself and neglecting your responsibilities.
Saying ‘no’ to events or engagements that overextend you is not selfish; it’s smart.
How can self-care backfire? Doom-scrolling on social media can seem restful but usually isn’t.

Understanding self-care's true essence is an ongoing journey. Whether you're a seasoned practitioner or just beginning, breaking through the myths and discovering what truly nourishes you is crucial.

Self-Care Idea: Shake, shake, shake it all out.

We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes, and if you would like to find out more, you can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

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Self-Care Guilt in Going from Contributor to Dependent

Sun, 09 Jun 2024 21:00:00 +1000

At times it seems that there’s a wave of guilt that happens around being a mama, particularly when going from contributor to dependent. And chances have it that we would like to open up the discussion around this very topic in this episode. Grab your headphones if you can find them or listen out loud as Jill and Linda talk about:

Identity shifts when becoming mum, when we may loose contact with what we believed we were good at or important to us.
Postpartum realities of not wanting to go back to our old lives because our lives have changed so rapidly.
Working from home and the adventure of becoming an entrepreneur.
Social connections and contacts - talking to other adults in your day rather than toddler talk and/or interruptions in the park as you save your kid from climbing up the slide AGAIN...
The unpaid labor of parenting and mothering and running a household.
When we are still the primary contributor financially as well as the main parent - juggling both balls in the air all the time.
Guilt and grief for a life we once had.
Working out or priorities and playing along the way.

Self-Care Idea: Take a walk.

We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

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Split Self-Care When Our Attention is in Several Places at Once

Sun, 02 Jun 2024 21:00:00 +1000

It’s school holidays and the overwhelm is the real deal. What happens when we are split between all the things and all the things and more? We turned up and recorded a podcast for you, in all the messy ways. In this episode Jill and Linda chat in between all the things and talk about:

Fluctuating energies, whether it be because of hormones, parenting, work, weather, and unpredictability in our lives.
Multitasking - do we think it’s possible? Is it good for our brains? Are we lying to ourselves to think that we can do it like we want to?
Time management and length of how long things ‘really’ take to get done when our bandwidth is off.
Compromises and interruptions – do we need to say any more?
How splitting ourselves is sometimes the reality and turning up still necessary.
How does split attention reflect on our priorities?

If we could have your attention for just a moment. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Also, please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care Doesn't Always Have to be Long or Alone

Sun, 26 May 2024 21:00:00 +1000

According to Google: self-care is done with the intention of caring for yourself, not with the intention to harm or take from others. Being selfish means there's a desire to take from others, often to their detriment. However, self-care is about replenishing your resources without depleting someone else's. Do you agree? Jill and Linda are discussing this definition and more popular cultural ideas in today’s episode as we discover:

How we’ve adapted to incorporating others into our self-care (particularly with children and work commitments)
What self-care means to us individually and how our deeper understanding has helped our energy levels for us and those surrounding us.
When our needs for self-care can become unhealthy. Balancing it with life and appreciating the small moments of joy in our days.
Learning to say no (and still learning!)
Ways we have changed our thoughts about self-care and found ways to do it alongside our kids as well. Examples of self-care with kiddos, friends, our significant other and ourselves.
Being kind to others, even anonymously, can give you a burst of dopamine that warms your heart.

We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes just like in this one and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Places of Self-Care Enjoyment (Ways We Can Unstuck Our Muck)

Sun, 19 May 2024 21:00:00 +1000

What are your favourite places of enjoyment and self-care? In this podcast place today we have many little voices joining us and we are talking about places of self-care enjoyments and ways that we can unstuck our muck. Listen in as Jill and Linda talk about:

Getting time alone vs the need for quiet. Linda had quite a time finding a place that wasn’t filled with people and things and all the rest of it for her sticky note day.
What we desire for our self-care and why that matters. Are we being fussy? Or simply aware of what is missing and seeking solutions?
We check back in with some of our top 5 self-care activities and remember why we love a quiet afternoon or getting outside to put our feet in the grass.
When we push ourselves a little out of the comfort and into new places of enjoyment we perhaps hadn't thought of before. Alternatives and solutions.
Acceptance and shifting to places of enjoyment different to that previous to children.
Figuring out our priorities and also emotional spaces and places that keep us tracking along.

It’s a jam-packed episode and one which we feel is definitely an enjoyable one. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How our Self-Care has Grown Since Our Earlier Episodes

Sun, 12 May 2024 21:00:00 +1000

As we’ve hit the year mark for the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast Jill and Linda are chatting about (and reflecting on) how our self-care has grown since our earlier episodes. As humans, we are continually healing, growing, and mucking up – yet how does self-care fit into that picture? We recognise that we are not the only ones on this journey and share our thoughts as we chat about:

Some of our most memorable moments and episodes to date.
Being able to talk about self-care with family, friends and others with more confidence now.
Ways that we continue to muck up making self-care happen in our lives
Acceptance of mucked up self-care rather than getting it 'right'.
Momentum and motivation for self-care activities and getting into the flow of self-care.
The wisdom of what self-care is for us now versus what we thought it was.

Our self-care idea for this episode is stretching. Sounds simple? We often are carrying a lot on our shoulders and forget the most basic of stretching. We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and Linda @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Healing Ourselves with Self-Care

Sun, 05 May 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Jill and Linda are ready for a pyjama day or two as we start to talk about healing ourselves with self-care. Throughout multiple conversations now we are discovering how many layers there are to the humans both around us and inside of us. Join us as we chat about:

What do our experiences say about us and how are we helping to navigate self-care when we need it?
Is self-care selfish? Can it be normalized?
Some myths behind self-care and checking in with ourselves to make sure we’re not hypocritical and living to our word.
Is healing ourselves on for ourselves? The ripple that can benefit those around us.
Loving ourselves daily, making sure we can allow ourselves to sit down and relax.
Self-regulation, self-reflection and celebrating ourselves.
Beliefs, values and shifts in our lives.
Reactivity and healing

A Self-Care Idea: Grounding - bare feet on the ground

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and Linda @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Unravelling Our Own Mucked Up Self-Care

Sun, 28 Apr 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Today on the podcast Jill and Linda are unravelling and unpacking their journeys of self-care in all the mucked up kinda ways. Linda is in a different location; Jill is feeling just a bit flat – yet…. after this episode they were both in a lighter and much better place (and we hope that you might be too!). Listen in as they talk about:

Navigating big moments in life, puzzling emotions and how we put our best foot forward for whatever is next.
How unravelling ourselves doesn’t have an end point and continues as we grow and shift.
Pain points and untwisting ourselves from what we get used to as life changes.
Different coping mechanisms and how we are honouring ourselves in self-care instead of putting it off.
Compromises and unravelling how the out of the ordinary can sacrifice our self-care.
How unravelling is a process and takes time, patience and remembering that pain points can be temporary and lead to better outcomes.

For more ideas when figuring out how to unravel when it comes to self-care, please send us an email, we put together some activities for you to guide and help you along the way.

You can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Celebrating 52 Episodes Including Self-Care (and still Mucking Up!)

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 15:00:00 +1000

Hello and good morning!

We're here with our dodgy internet, and mucking up as we know best. In our latest special episode it marks one year and 52 episodes of the Murked Up My Self Care podcast.

Thank you for all your conversations and growth, and to our listeners for following along. This past year has been a huge milestone for us both. Let's continue unsticking muck together until the next 52 episodes.

To listen to the latest episode, Confidence in Self-Care, please visit https://player.captivate.fm/episode/3789beae-dba6-4b1c-b53a-0696eee24bfd

For more ideas when figuring out how to grow your confidence when it comes to self-care please send us an email, we put together some activities from when were just starting out with self-care.

You can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Confidence in Self-Care

Sun, 21 Apr 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Are you confident to say that self-care has a place and space in your daily life? It can be hard to admit that we need more. Hard to admit we are mucking up and often we know that progress takes one step at a time. Come and join in our discussion as we think and talk about:

The correlation between toilet/potty training and confidence.
How have we grown our self-care confidence.
Why realistic expectations help!
Knowing what we like (and don't like) when it comes to self-care.
Having conversations with others about what self-care is and what it means to us.
Practice, practice, practice.
Keeping an evidence file.
Not setting yourself up for failure - gather your options and sprinkle them in your calendar, while practicing flexibility.

For more ideas when figuring out how to grow your confidence when it comes to self-care please send us an email, we put together some activities from when were just starting out with self-care.

You can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Misunderstood Self-Care

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 21:00:00 +1000

Ironically, both Jill and Linda had different understandings of self-care and what that meant when planning for this episode. It makes for a fun discussion and means the conversation darts around several different points, including:

The landscape of self-care talk for self-care's sake.
How self-care isn't about putting your own needs ahead of others.
Self-care isn't typically about treats or pampering.
Self-care and selfishness.
Self-care isn't a list of behaviors; what constitutes self-care depends on the situation.
Self-care involves a lot of the self-talk, not just the external things that other people see.
Self-care isn't just by yourself, it's often social interactions and connections.
It isn't a one and done situation.
Others' understanding of what is self care for me- having to defend/explain that something is self care.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Teaching our Kids about Self-Care

Sun, 07 Apr 2024 21:00:00 +1000

If you’ve been listening along to the podcast for a while, you’ve probably heard us talk about being living proof and living our self-care in ways that current match this phase of our life. What do you think our kids think about all this self-care talk and what does it mean to them? We explore how we are teaching the self-care down the generations and in this episode discuss:

Regulation and when emotions get larger than a mountain.
Finding out what they enjoy.
Talking to ourselves, them, and others about self-care and with kindness.
Including them in self-care activities, while taking leadership alongside.
Allowing them to take the lead.
Self-care for boys and men too, how do they talk about it?
Do you explain to them that your self-care is self-care and why you do it?
Do you explain something that you recognise is self-care for them as a self-care practice?

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Safe Place for Self-Care Conversations

Sun, 31 Mar 2024 22:00:00 +1000

In our wildest dreams, a safe place for self-care conversations would include a room filled with soft, gentle music, providing a soothing background as you settle in for a meaningful conversation. The sound of a small waterfall in the corner might add to the tranquil ambience. Wait, what planet are we on? We know full well that many of our conversations also include little voices which echo around us. Listen in as Jill and Linda and other little voices as we talk about:

Feeling comfortable enough to have safety in conversation. What that means to each of us.
What direction we would love to take the podcast and what you mean to us when listening from the other end.
Vulnerable and unedited conversations.
Growth and acceptance and we continue to muck up.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Imperfect Self-Care

Sun, 24 Mar 2024 22:00:00 +1000

Is there such a thing as perfect self-care? Jill and Linda wonder if this dream exists as they cradle their anxieties, lack of sleep, and think about their imperfections as they chat about:

Sleep. The realities and imperfections of sleep as mamas.
Understanding what works for us and our kids, us as new mums, entrepreneurs and more.
Boundaries for unhealthy self-care such as binge or comfort eating, over-indulging, drinking more alcohol, taking too much time for yourself during work time slots.
Letting self-care drop off the calendar/routine because...life.
Being flexible and shifting expectations - original plan shift to modified plan.
Feelings we get when it's not 'perfect' and the way we anticipated it to be in our heads.
Some funny moments in our day which just highlight our mucked-up ways and how scattered we can feel.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Transitioning to More (or less) Self-Care

Sun, 17 Mar 2024 22:00:00 +1000

One of the greatest aims since the birth of the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast has been to transition our self-care in ways which allow us to grow and discover what self-care means to us. Hopefully in the process this will also get you thinking and transitioning as well. What happens when we transition to more, or less, self-care as we become more knowledgeable. We ponder this question and more today as Jill and Linda talk about:

When we try to cram in too much self-care.
Learning to utilise our time (without cramming it full)
When we try to prioritise other things over self-care.
Building our self-care muscles.
How self-care transitions are not linear.
Discernment about what is important in our self-care practices.
Shifting with the seasons you go through.
Considering the kid's seasons, yours, nature's, other's.
Being honest to stop something that's not filling your cup or is an energy suck.
Being confident to start something new and disciplined to stick with it - might fear this though.
We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken.

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care and Mental Load

Sun, 10 Mar 2024 22:00:00 +1000

From one particular standpoint, mental load refers to the cognitive and emotional burden associated with managing multiple responsibilities, often experienced by mothers. Harsh right? From many other standpoints, parents all over the world are overloaded by mental load when it comes to their self-care. As Jill and Linda wrestle their little ones and sigh at possibilities of coins getting flushed down the toilet, we touch on some of the following for this episode:

Unexpected hospital visits adding to the pressures of motherhood.
Creating happy snow memories down the generations.
Delegation of chores, systems that work and level ups as children grow older.
Internal and external motivations for us and for our children.
Specific days for specific tasks to keep us accountable and less effort for remembering.
Spaces around us that seem to be consumed with toys or mess and how that impacts our mental load.
Food preparation and dinner planning with children and the load it can involve.

Bear with us, we may be back for a part two!

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Outspoken Self-Care

Sun, 03 Mar 2024 23:00:00 +1000

As we are fast approaching the year anniversary of the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast, Jill and Linda reflect on just how important it has been to speak their self-care out loud. What do we mean by that? Honesty and realisations, actions and beliefs, to name a few. By being outspoken we have both developed and grown through conversations on this podcast. Listen in as we talk about:

The vulnerability that comes with sharing our stories out loud and knowing that we often aren’t the only one.
Actions that are supporting our self-care celebrations such as books, podcasts, community events and ways we are speaking to ourselves.
Why talking can help greatly at times in our lives we may not know what self-care can be for ourselves and have a misconception of what brings our energy back to us.
How speaking our self-care our loud can help us understand and realise what we might need to do to improve or accept ourselves more.
The ongoing effort of outspoken self-care.
Rejuvenating ourselves with self-care.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care and Sleep

Sun, 25 Feb 2024 23:00:00 +1000

1 in 3 adults are not getting enough rest or sleep, and there’s a high chance that many of those adults are parents. It’s quite a conundrum, because both Jill and Linda both know that getting more sleep also helps them get more self-care. But what happens when the day turns into night and the parenting doesn’t end? Listen in as we discuss real-life experiences and chat about what is happening in our self-care worlds. We cover a few topics including:

Food and sleep and hormone health.
When we finally get more sleep and realise how little sleep we are actually getting.
Bedtimes, kids, and lack of sleep when we put ourselves last. Coordination or children at different ages and with different needs.
Will we ever go to the bathroom alone again?
The attention we sometimes need at the end of the day too.
Is there a window of opportunity to bring in a join self-care thing as part of bedtime routine?

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Linda's Top 5 Self-Care Activities

Sun, 18 Feb 2024 23:00:00 +1000

If you joined us last week you may remember that Jill and Linda chatted about Jill’s top five self-care activities and this week it’s Linda’s turn. The microphone is flipped and we’re in our element to talk about our favorites out loud. We’ve changed quite a bit over the years and speaking out loud about all these things is a great reflection and we hope that it also has a ripple effect for our listeners to think about their five as well. Listen to us chat about Linda’s top five, in no particular order:

Fitness/Health/Gym
Cooking/Baking
Learning something new
Conversations
Quiet time

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Jill's Top 5 Self-Care Activities

Sun, 11 Feb 2024 23:00:00 +1000

Special episode coming your way! Jill is exploring her top five self-care activities and Linda has a barrel of questions as to the who, what, where, when, and why they appear in this list. As mamas we might overlook the fact that we even have time for self-care and this episode is a great follow-up from last week in how Jill is demonstrating her self-care and being the living proof that she talks about. In no particular order, Jill’s top five are:

Grounding - barefoot outside
Walking
Church
Date night
Getting her nails done

Listen in for further explanation of each and laughs along the way.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Demonstrating Self-Care

Sun, 04 Feb 2024 23:00:00 +1000

We’ve spoken many words about self-care on this podcast so far, including how we are putting our conversations into action. How we demonstrate self-care to those around us and to ourselves enables our self-care muscles to grow stronger and more robust. Jill and Linda are talking about exactly what that means and touch on topics including:

Living proof leadership within our teams and family.
Commitment – Linda’s word of the year.
What values do we live every day?
How do we spend our spare time?
Actions speak louder than words - are we committed to what we say we will do or what we say we want?
Is it on the calendar?
Discipline /consistency.
Evidence of children mirroring self-care.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Validating Self-Care

Sun, 28 Jan 2024 23:00:00 +1000

How do we validate the importance of self-care for ourselves and each other? That is a great question and an important one in thinking about how we can make self-care much more on our priority list. Sometimes when we finally get some self-care time it doesn’t seem like enough, and we cannot validate ourselves taking a little bit extra. Tune in as we chat about:

Giving yourself permission - needing to hear from others too.
Encouragement from yourself and accepting it from others.
Treating yourself with kindness and saying pleasant things to yourself (especially internal head talk).
Interruptions to self-care, how they are managed, and how they feel.
Comparisons of older versions of ourselves and the new life we are surrounded by.
Permission. Do we need it? Are we seeking it?
Accepting your own limitations and mistakes, realising there will be some days when self-care is low.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care and Energy Leaks

Sun, 21 Jan 2024 23:00:00 +1000

Jill recently sent Linda an image inside a book she was reading and, in true fashion, Linda setup an unplanned and spontaneous episode to chat all about it for the podcast. The book is called In the Flo by Alisa Vitti who presents a biohacking program for women, teaching them how to use their natural 28-day cycle to optimize their time, diet, fitness, work, and relationships. In her book she asks the question, where is your energy leaking? There are so many ways that our energy gets depleted, making self-care critical as mamas. We have explored further together chat about:

• Not being in our peak flow state, leading to overwhelm and stress.

• Sleep deprivation

• Boundaries. Yes, that word again.

• Allowing other people to help us.

• The importance of fitness and what happens when we skip or think it can wait.

• Food and meals as a mama.

• Tracking our days and how we are spending our spare time.

• Reflection on our own identity leaks and making sure we continue to check-in and talk about them.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care Days are Long and the Years are Short

Sun, 14 Jan 2024 23:00:00 +1000

Have you heard the phrase the days are long and the years are short? It applies to motherhood in so many ways. The years seem to fly by and before we know it our babies are walking, talking, taking their own steps...yet in lonely self-care moments we can feel that the days drag forever and bedtime a lifetime away. Listen in as Jill and Linda chat about:

Seasons and phases that we are going through and longer days that can create a conflict in routine.
Milestones for our children including cooking and doing it solo in aspects of life we didn't think possible.
Food struggles and juggles (actually we talk about mealtimes and food a lot in this episode!)
Listen in for strategies that make our lives easier.
How fast the years have gone and what we have planned for our self-care in 2024.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Responsibility or Self-Neglect When it Comes to Self-Care

Sun, 07 Jan 2024 23:00:00 +1000

When we think about self-responsibility vs self-neglect there are several ways it can come into our existence as mamas. Today on the podcast, Jill and Linda are exploring the two concepts together in discussion as they love to on the Mucked Up My Self-Care podcast. Listen in as we chat about:

Parmesan cheese in the cutlery drawer, yep it's a real thing and should it be our responsibility?
We talk about self-responsibility and self-neglect side by side and owning up to our own selves.
Mothering the mother. Should it have a lifespan and do we want to completely mother ourselves all the time, especially while mothering others.
Owning our feelings and emotions as our own and communicating to others effectively.
The varying degrees of tiredness and attached meanings to words and perceptions from others around us.
The importance of our habits and what we are modelling for our children.
Push pull of time commitments and pain points of competing priorities.
Sabotage. It’s a dirty word that creeps up on all of us.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How Are You Practicing Self-Care During or After Vacation/Travel?

Sun, 31 Dec 2023 23:00:00 +1000

While Jill is wrapped up under a blanket with the white of snow behind her, Linda is squinting in the sun as she approaches a long summer of heat and mucking up. We have an important question to kick off the conversation today - how are you practicing self-care during or after vacation/travel? It’s the week after Christmas and while we’re stacking boxes and making sure we're not too mucked up from our Christmas self-care. Listen in as we chat about:

Long distance travelling with toddlers and children. Our experiences and how the unexpected can certainly mean our self-care needs some extra attention.
Time zones and interrupted schedules that can be delightfully challenging at times when travelling.
Unpredictable moments both during and after vacation/travel and real life examples of what life can throw at us.
Lists and different ways that we can organise our ship for self-care practices.
Travel anxieties as mamas.
The difference between travelling pre-kids and with kids.
Regrouping ourselves as part of self-care and realising that we can't own everybody's stuff all of the time.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Christmas Time and Self-Care

Sun, 24 Dec 2023 23:00:00 +1000

In today's episode, we're delving into a topic that strikes a chord with many women—navigating the complexities of the festive season. Beyond the glittering lights and holiday cheer, this time of year can bring unique challenges, stress, and heightened expectations. Jill and Linda are in their festive gear and talk about all the pressures and more that Christmas brings to Mamas.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Changes in Our Self Care

Sun, 17 Dec 2023 23:00:00 +1000

As we approach a new year, Jill and Linda are feeling reflective today and thinking about changes. How their self-care has changed since having children, since starting this episode. Growth requires change and our lives can feel like such a Groundhog Day at times, we believe it’s important to have conversations which recognise, highlight, and appreciate the changes for us and other mamas across the world. Listen in as we chat about:

Ways in which we recognise our own needs and how it can be changed when it comes to self-care.
Priorities. Still, we find ourselves filling other cups before our own and learning to accept changes and be as flexible as possible.
No brainer commitments to self-care and how that has changed for us.
How we make the changes.
What is or isn't working.
Tangible things we are doing to make life easier/better/more enjoyable.
How we spend our spare time is a good indicator sometimes of what we want and enjoy.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Can We Really Practice Self-Care When We're Panicking Inside?

Sun, 10 Dec 2023 23:00:00 +1000

There’s been a trend on the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast where we start with both our highs and lows, because there are often times when we are somewhat half composed on the exterior and actually panicking inside at the same time. Which brings us to today’s episode topic. Jill and Linda are talking about practicing self-care when we are panicking inside. Do you relate? In this episode we chat about:

Toddler experiments gone wrong and how we can laugh now but maybe not so much in the moment.
Added pressure which sometimes arises when we are at home and can see a mess approaching.
Anxiety. The word itself has the hair on our necks standing on its end.
Real live examples of how we try to remain calm.
Bedtime hyperreaction and trying to meet many needs simultaneously.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care Is Not a Fluffy Bear!

Sun, 03 Dec 2023 23:00:00 +1000

When we are thinking about things that we are doing throughout the day for our self care, maybe the expectation is that it'll be a bit flamboyant - you need to do something like Yoga, nails, or massages. Sometimes it comes down to be that you just need a minute alone, or 5 or 10. Join Linda and Jill as they dive into how self care is hard and that it's not a fluffy bear.

When bombarded with questions like 'What are you doing for your self care today?' or 'What are you doing for your mental health today?' Often the response is 'uhhh' or 'no! I just want to run away right now, it's too hard, it's not that easy.'
Self care is not all that its posted on Instagram to be.
Self care is hard. it's not easy, its not fluffy. The effort required, the discipline to make it a priority.
Expanding the question 'What are you going to do for self care today?' and adding on '... and how can I make it easier for you to do that?'
Part of the hard is also being motivated and flexible when trying to be consistent or have a routine for self care.

Self care does require effort and discipline, and that's why we need our bandwidth to figure it all out. If you're already depleted or low bandwidth, the effort required to get to that point of 'well here's the self care I'm going to do today' it can feel really unachievable. If you are having a hard time with your self care we hear you, we absolutely know that it's really hard sometimes.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How We Mucked Up Our Self-Care This Week!

Sun, 26 Nov 2023 23:00:00 +1000

In the weekly lives of Jill and Linda we are continuing to muck up in small ways, big ways, and all the other ways. In all our human parts we are talking about how we mucked up our self-care this week and what it means to be a Mum in 2023 alongside Jill heading to winter and Linda to summer. Listen in as we chat about:

Everyday exercise around kids, food poisoning, weather blues, and being thrown out of whack.
Moments that lead to our frustration. Are they unavoidable?
Mucking up our calendar and routine leading to unexpected surprises.
Funky smells and wondering where they come from!
Giving grace and space.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Am I Really a Priority Over My Kids When It Comes to Self-Care?

Sun, 19 Nov 2023 23:00:00 +1000

Am I Really a Priority Over My Kids When It Comes to Self-Care? It’s a big question and also means that there’s several other questions that pop into our mind as Jill and Linda explore self-care priorities. Listen in as we ask many questions and ponder our current realities and discuss:

Cups. Half-filled or half empty?
The conflict between internal and maternal instincts of being a mother and wanting to care for and tend to our children and wanting to be selfish for ourselves.
Would we be friends to ourselves? Would we talk to a friend the way we talk to ourselves?
Counterbalance and counteraction with the fact we need to put ourselves first.
Seasons that we go through and break them down into smaller chunks.
Can stress be eliminated?
How we continue to beat ourselves up over and over again. The expectations we put on ourselves and aspects we take on from other people.
Who's oxygen mask would you 'actually' put on first?

It’s no joke, there’s a lot to discuss in this self-care business and we will be back next week. Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Rage Vacuuming and Self-Care

Sun, 12 Nov 2023 23:00:00 +1000

Apparently, the vacuum was one of the many supposedly labor-saving devices marketed in the 1920s that promised to liberate middle-class women, now managing their houses without live-in maids, from the drudgery of housework. And Jill and Linda have found another useful reason why the vacuum is so helpful. RAGE vacuuming. A form of expression which allows us to take out some of our frustration on the poor floor sucking device. Listen in as we expand and explore what it means and giggle through different aspects: We talk about:

How naps (or lack of) can affect our mood, routine of the day and sleep at night.
Anger as an emotion. How often we are taught and believe it is ‘wrong’ to get angry.
People pleasing and being the peacemaker tendencies and how that can compress and amplify in unexpected ways.
Stepping back, less interference, and compromises when trying to resolve issues of tension and anger.
Postpartum rage. Why isn’t anyone talking about it and what does it really mean under the roof of mama’s across the globe? Outward expressions of frustration and reaching the point where we blow our top.
Words spoken, internal talk, misinterpretation, and how we want to change.
How we process tantrums. Of our children, of us both before and after having children.

So, get out the vacuum, you never know it might be exactly what you need right now.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Is Putting Yourself First Self-Care?

Sun, 05 Nov 2023 23:00:00 +1000

In theory, a mama’s needs are just as important as everyone else's. Yet, even with this theory in mind, Jill and Linda often find themselves swamped and mucked all the way up when they prioritize themselves. How can we navigate this and what are we doing about it? You can find out what we talk about inside this episode as we discuss:

The ebbs and flows of neglecting our needs and also when we can prioritize them. How we can do small things like reading when the kids are reading or running alongside their bikes if we’re feeling up to it!
Routines and rituals that help us put ourselves first.
Boundary setting and the uncomfortable side of putting limits in place.
How our core values can change as we become parents. Discovering ourselves again with the changes that are inevitably happening and changes that mean we are not putting ourselves first.
Some practical things that have helped us along the way.

We agree, that it can be hard to put ourselves first at many times and would love to acknowledge you if you also find it hard.

We would love to hear what you think and any ways that you are taking care of or mucking up your self-care. It always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How Can We Self-Care When We Work Like We Have No Kids and Parent Like We Have No Work?

Sun, 29 Oct 2023 22:00:00 +1000

It’s clear, women are inspiring. Between having children and handling work, we still manage to rock up and raise families alongside. But how can we practice self-care when we work like we have no kids and parent like we have no work? Jill and Linda are discussing this very question today and the many tangents that it takes us on. Listen in as we chat about:

Our over-ambitious type tendencies when it comes to what we hope to achieve and thinking we can do it all.
The templates in our brain that sometimes don’t match our values and how we want to live our lives, making sure we are in alignment.
What it actually honestly and truthfully looks like to work from home with kids by our side.
Patriarchy, institutions, work dynamics, and structures. What happens when we do have a choice?
Empowerment. The internet word gets thrown around as we think about fulfillment from work, from parenting, and our roles in both as independent people.
Decisions we need to make in maternity leave and how we think we want something particular and then it can change after we have children.
Burnout, sleep, golden hours, nap times and more…the pressure, the guilt, postpartum and more.

It’s a jam packed episode and from what we think we will be back for more on this very hot topic.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Switching Self-Care On and Off

Sun, 22 Oct 2023 22:00:00 +1000

Jill and Linda are in a bit of a puddle of melt this week as they come off the back of another sticky note time weekend and a book that has finally landed on the desk. Which leads us into our topic of being able to switch on and off as mamas and for our self-care. In many ways Jill has come back fulfilled, inspired, and all the other feelings, and also been struck with the realities of other moments that have been rolling and bumbling around in the background. Can you relate? Grab your coffee, we’re in for a ride as Jill and Linda chat about:

Being the default parent. Especially when it comes to our mental load and arranging things to run smoothy.
How our children are still such a huge part of our lives, even when they are not physically with us.
Intuition and connections we have to being a mama.
On ramps and switching ourselves on. Preparation for us and focusing in a certain way for different situations.
Dopamine and brain neuroplasticity. Activities we can do to fill our ‘pool’, without creating a whirlpool affect.
Real life morning vs night-time. Hear us live with littles, cats, and more in the background.

To listen to the clip by Andrew Huberman mentioned in this episode you can visit the link here.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Things Around Me Are Being Affected by our Mucked Up Self-Care

Sun, 15 Oct 2023 22:00:00 +1000

Jill and Linda are coming off the back of a massive week and wondering, how come things around them are being so mucked up by our self-care (or sometimes lack thereof). As mamas there are times when we often take on the load and almost absorb the emotions and energy around us. While there are pros and cons to having an innate awareness of what is going on, it’s an important conversation to tackle as we chat about:

When things all seem to intertwine together, especially around bedtime and dinner.
Parenting less and parenting more. How when we sacrifice it can lead to anger and frustration and dribbles in our self-care cups, which then leads to less energy and connection with those around us.
Our own attitudes. Yep, confronting what we both need to work on, out loud and on air.
How our productivity is being affected and what tasks we are putting our energy into.
Martyrdom and efforts into housework.
Adult tantrums. Combined with hormones, they can be an absolute doozey!
Dishes….again! They seem to keep piling up every single day.

Please support and follow along.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Physical Health and Self-Care

Sun, 08 Oct 2023 22:00:00 +1000

Often, we get in our own slump, life gets busy, and all the days feel like they roll into one. So, how can we prioritise physical activity as part of our self-care? How can we incorporate it into our everyday lives?

Listen as Jill and Linda discuss:

Walks in the dark and just walks in general! Finding rope swings and good times for all!
Keeping up with our kids.
Camping fitness and fun as Jill is trying to potty train.
Postpartum ease and care when easing back into physical activities after our bodies rearrange themselves to grow a baby.
Gyms as mamas, are they your cup of tea?
If we could wave a magic wand…discipline and consistency are right up there on our lists.
Remembering our childhood days of activities and fitness and how we can do a little bit of that now.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Do You Share Your Self-Care Practices with Others?

Sun, 01 Oct 2023 22:00:00 +1000

What happens when two working from home mamas continue to keep meeting for podcast conversations and sharing their self-care practices with each other? Do you share your self-care practices with others too? Jill and Linda are back for another week and chatting all about these questions and more. Pull up a rug and lend us your ears as we discuss:

Communicating boundaries and balance to others, especially as working from home entrepreneurs.
Guilt for sharing happier times.
Confused messaging and societal thoughts around what is and isn't self-care. Does a shower count?
Coordination when working with our husbands, partners, family supports and others.
Pushback on ourselves, from others and how we might navigate that.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts, we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Walking in the Wisdom of Self-Care Mamas Living Proof

Sun, 24 Sep 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Are we able to walk our walk and talk our talk with so much parenting to do? Plus, fitting in self-care at the same time? Today Jill and Linda are talking about walking in the wisdom of self-care and living proof of what that actually looks like when we’re questioning ourselves and chasing down toddlers at the same time. Listen in as we chat about:

Realities of school shopping and slight differences in our lives. Linda’s feeling pretty lucky she’s in the land down under right now!
When we’re out of routine because of unexpected lives, the wisdom we can gain from that and learning to adapt the best we can.
The apparent lack of spontaneity in our lives at times and learning to love routines for self-care.
Handling situations differently, reflecting and recognising different versions of ourselves our loud.
Living proof as a motto and walking the path that you want to impact others to.
Stopping the ice-cream truck and practicing gratitude more often.

Jill and Linda are even almost finishing each other’s sentences, so we must be doing something right! To see Jill’s awesome living proof of how she is walking in wisdom and living her life, take a look at her Instagram reel here.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Podcasting and Self-Care

Sun, 17 Sep 2023 21:00:00 +1000

21 episodes in, and Jill and Linda have noticed a bit of a ‘thing’ since beginning the podcast back in May. Coincidentally it’s been really good for our self-care. Who would have thought!?! And we hope it is also doing the same for you. Listen in as Jill and Linda think about podcasting and what that means for both of them and talk about:

Highs and lows. As always and the reason why we love them!
Real life examples again of what that means in our lives right now and how one thing can lead to another.
Using podcasts as helpful cues to transition from one thing to the other.
Blending podcast time into our days.
Thinking back to how the podcast began, what we have learnt along the way, and gratitude for each other and the growth we have gained.
Revisiting the Stories with a Sunday Roast episode, where Jill and Linda chatted and got to know a little more about each other in the process.
While on opposite sides of the world, the similarities and shared intentions for conversations and self-care.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Pressures of Finding Your Self-Care Village

Sun, 10 Sep 2023 21:00:00 +1000

In the past and even today, the concept of a "village" has been used metaphorically to emphasise the importance of a supportive community in raising children and maintaining a strong social network. Sounds too good to be true, right? The phrase "It takes a village to raise a child" encapsulates this idea, suggesting that it's not just the immediate family but also the broader community that plays a crucial role in shaping the upbringing and well-being of a child. Now, while that all sounds far too formal for conversations in this podcast, it's important to think about when Jill and Linda discuss together, for a baseline understanding of the pressures when finding your self-care village. Listen in as they chat about:

Coordination and finding time that works alongside busy schedules.
Society tells us to "find your village" but when we try to sometimes we find that everyone bails.
The differences pre and post Covid, for example staying away from school sites and the caution of others now when getting 'too close'.
Neighbours who we have never met and the motivation and drive to connect communities and engage in relationships.
Linda's experience living in a co-housing community.
Toxic Facebook mom groups and how they can actually sometimes not be good for our mental health and also self-care.
The beauty of the babysitter's club.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts, we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How Have Hormones Changed How You Practice Self-Care

Sun, 03 Sep 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Hormones. The fluctuations and barrage of emotions that come alongside can feel like anything but self-care. Often our cycles can be affected by stress, health, and a mystery of other aspects that can feel out of our control. Jill and Linda have a real and raw discussion about what that looks like in their lives right now, while also feeling the onset of hormones as we recorded this episode. We chat about:

How we might have to take care of ourselves differently when our hormones and cycles are changing.
When cycles sync with friends, moons, and other life events. Proven or not proven?
Different self-care practices for different parts of our cycles.
Tracking cycles and how bandwidth is affected in different areas of the month.
Emotional self-care and health.
Can we really maintain the same level of consistency at every day of the month, especially with so many different demands of motherhood?
Smooth and velvety ice-cream. Sometimes it’s the brief answer to many of our hormonal prayers.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Chores and Self-Care

Sun, 27 Aug 2023 21:00:00 +1000

A couple of times a week two friends meet for an hour or so, for a particular podcast called Mucked Up My Self-Care. For that hour or so, sometimes the rest of reality melts into it’s own space. And while we may have little people on our lap a lot of the time, we can at least ignore the chores for just a little bit longer. Well, until we decide to talk about chores that is. Listen in as we chat about:

Those pesky cobwebs and how sometimes we need to prioritise other things over housework.
When we feel like we can’t keep on top of chores.
Adapting to what we can achieve at certain stages and phases of our lives.
Getting our kids to help out with chores and be included in the house coordination.
Becoming a martyr and the victim mentality we can fall into.
Do any mamas iron anymore?
Routine and flow, when it goes right and all syncs into place.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and Linda @hellolindabonney

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts, we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Are Your Friends Part of Your Self-Care?

Sun, 20 Aug 2023 21:00:00 +1000

What happens when we combine friendships and self-care and motherhood and life events and emptying the dishwasher and SO much more? Are friends part of your self-care? What does that look like for you? There is no doubt that a fine friendship is blossoming right within this podcast. Listen in as Jill and Linda chat like old friends and talk about:

Alone time vs Friend time. The guilt felt for both.
How our friends change after kids.
How do we make, keep, and maintain friendships.
Finding time for friends.
Interrupted conversations alongside toddlers and all sorts.
The benefits of online friendships and excitement of hugging people in real life!
What sort of effort is required? Realistically? And what we think we want.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

100% of Me - Division Between Self-Care and You

Sun, 13 Aug 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Can we actually switch off? No, we’re not chatting math or multiplication today, however we are talking about how we are being divided up. Jill and Linda often feel the pull in ALL the directions and like peeing in peace is a luxury that has long gone! Tune in for another episode as we touch on:

When things are broken and wanting to tantrum when you’re feeling all the pressure of being divided into tiny little pieces.
Experiences of when our head is half here and half elsewhere.
What happens when we leave the front door? How much of us is being left behind or diverted by meal planning, sleep routines, school forms and more.
Bandwidth. Ohhhhh bandwidth and division of our self-care.
When it feels easier to just do it ourselves.
Working from home as an entrepreneur.
Nourishing tasks and how they help us with our own self-care.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Toxic Positivity Impacting Our Self-Care

Sun, 06 Aug 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset and when it comes to motherhood emotions are often flying left, right, and centre. Jill and Linda think about this very concept and ask the question, can we really be positive all the time? Listen in as they chat about:

Why we begin each episode with highs and lows.
How on earth do we keep on top of organisation and housework while feeling so frazzled?
Postpartum reality of it not being all butterflies and rainbows.
Replacing positives in place of the negatives, the expectations it can place on ourselves, the idea of lying to ourselves and spiraling out of control.
Unspoken negatives that we may be worried to say out loud.
Unpacking the backpack and processing first in order to understand and address some of the negativity, helping us work towards more positive experiences.
We are not our thoughts. While we have negative reactions it does not define us entirely.

We would love to hear what you think and any ways that you are taking care of or mucking up your self-care.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How Are You Fitting in Self-Care?

Sun, 30 Jul 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Warning this episode includes some extra banging and clanging in the background as if right on queue. Today on the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast Jill and Linda are talking all about how are you fitting in self-care? Is it actually possible when we seem to have so much on our plates already? Get your ear drums ready as we have extra company alongside and chat all about:

How are we fitting in book writing, retreats and more?
The expectations we put on ourselves and anticipation of waiting for alone time or self-care time. A build-up of pressure and let-down of release.
Core values and how we see ourselves now as mothers.
Allows others to help us be mothered and cared for.
Relaxation at its best.

Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and Linda @hellolindabonney

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts, we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Supermama - It's a Bird, it's a Plane, it's a Tired, Overwhelmed, Touched-Out Mama

Sun, 23 Jul 2023 21:00:00 +1000

What do you think of when you hear the term 'Supermom/supermum' (depending on your geographical location in the world)? Does it hit a nerve? Is it something you feel like you have to live up to? Jill and Linda chat about the whole concept today on the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast and discuss:

Readjusting to conditions outside our control.
Where does the term Supermom come from? Some interesting history and awareness inside.
Working mothers. Having a full-time job while also keeping up with being the 'default' parent when it comes to housekeeping, life admin, and child-rearing alongside.
Pressures of keeping on top of it all.
Do we want the label of Supermum? Are we actually designed to do it all without help and support around us?

There's a lot of housework discussion in this episode (not surprisingly...) and we hope it's also relatable at your end too!

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Delegating and Self-Care? Do it Yourself or Ask for Help?

Sun, 16 Jul 2023 21:00:00 +1000

We're off to a flying start when Zoom was being a bit sticky with the record button! Jill and Linda are back for another week of Mucking Up and talking all things delegation today. Sometimes a dirty word, sometimes a word that seems easier to say than do. We explore together and talk about:

Supermarkets/Grocery shopping. It is not our favourite. Especially with kids. While there may be a difference in the vocab between New York and Tasmania - the basic concept is the same. Boot vs trunk vs curbside pickup. How can you delegate the food that's critical for growing kids?
Can we get all our needs met when delegating? Or is the mushy strawberries inevitable?
Control freakiness. Sometimes it feels like it's just easier to do it ourselves rather than going on a treasure hunt for the tongs or saucepan lids in the wrong spot.
Linda and that dishwasher again....dishes piling up and routine out of whack.
Can we delegate our self-care? An interesting question...find out more inside this episode.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care and Living Out My Dream Life

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 21:00:00 +1000

What does a dream life look like now that you're a mama? Is the ideal dream for copious amounts of self-care each and every day? Today we're bringing to the conversation something that we are both practicing. Listen in as Jill and Linda chat about:

Figuring out our priorities, especially in postpartum. Finding a routine that sticks and works for us frequently.
Sticky note time.
What does that even mean? How can these sticky bits of paper be used to our advantage?
Basic care needs and getting back into routines and giving ourselves time to adjust to hectic days and small goals for each day.
Lists and decisions. What to do when we create mammoth, ambitious lists for ourselves and then not able to finish as much as we thought.
Less distractions and scatterbrains when parenting and coping with all the tasks.
Vision boards!
Practicing, dreaming, and living our dream life. Outside the typical cutting up magazines with blunt scissors.
Seeing our dream life unfold and watching as goals unfold and get accomplished.

Do you use Vision Boards for your dreams and aspirations? One part of the planning process we use is super visual, colorful, imaginative and FUN! We love making vision boards and using them for life and business. When you create a vision board, you are putting your imagination and ideas into tangible images.

We invite you to join us for the next Vision Board free event on July 31st at 6pm cst. If this is during dinner time madness, there will be a replay available at a time when you’re not kid wrangling or up to your neck in all the things. We hope to connect soon.

These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts, we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-Care Conversations. Are You Having Them?

Sun, 02 Jul 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Do your conversations revolve around playing with a garbage truck and sparkly glitter or madly trying to explain why the sky is blue? Very often within our parent role it can involve unfinished sentences, interrupted thoughts about poo and mismatched conversations. Listen in as we chat about the importance of conversations and what they mean to us, in our own mucked up ways:

Why are conversations so important for our self-care.
The understanding and ability to vent a little in times of need.
Drawing on inspiration from our childhood.
Maintaining conversations beyond the playground.
Conversations as a podcast producer, listening as a storyteller, observer and what the real and raw aspect of this Podcast provides.

We invite you to listen to Linda's other Podcast, Stories with a Sunday Roast, as mentioned in this episode.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Retreats and Self-Care

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 21:25:00 +1000

Jill is back from retreat and feeling refreshed and relaxed for a minute, ready to tackle another day of her toddler eating that foreign thing off the floor and plenty of sticky notes flying. Listen in as Jill and Linda debrief about her recent retreat experience and chat about:

Taking time for you. The longing for quiet, sunshine and good food.
Getting out the door and feeling like the whole world is out to get you when you have specific plans.
Momentum and anticipation for self-care. What does that journey look like before, during and after?
Are we ever really alone? Finding out about how we see ourselves and the values we hold.
How can we implement what we've discovered in time of reflection as mothers and can we retreat ourselves in between such beautiful events?

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

The Cost of Self-Care

Sun, 18 Jun 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Does your self-care come at a cost? Have you thought about the emotional, financial and physical impacts of when we do and don't have self-care as a regular bonus in our busy lives? Linda and Jill are back for another week for the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast and today they are chatting about:

On ramps and off ramps. Organising our spaces for success and how that can help us in the long run. Listen for the symbolism in the background as we giggle about what that looks like.
Exchanges of positives and negatives (aka highs and lows) and how we can gauge ourselves about how much we need at different points in our week or day.
Changing perspectives through a simple walk and ice pops in hand.
How we feel like we 'have' to get stuff done. Stuck thinking of sacrifices and living proof it can be different.
Financial investments, that don't cost a bomb!

We would love to hear what you think and any ways that you are taking care of or mucking up your self-care.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Guilty of Mucking Up Your Self-Care?

Sun, 11 Jun 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Guilt sometimes feels like the biggest weight on our mama shoulders and for good reason too! It's like an inbuilt part of our DNA and we're here to find out why and what it means to us. Listen in as Jill and Linda chat about:

Guilt and worry. Can you ever really switch it off? Can we ever escape and be free from it?
Getting out the door, finding comfy socks and accepting that sometimes it's in complete hurricane mode.
Working from home and compromising housework to prioritise what needs to happen.
Do different parents experience guilt differently?
Shifting expectations and being selective about tasks over self-care and increasing our loads.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Bandwidth...Is Self-Care the Answer?

Sun, 04 Jun 2023 21:00:00 +1000

What do we do when we feel like we get to the point where we feel like we're D O N E? How can we step away? Recharge? The podcast is out and about into the world and Linda and Jill are experiencing a slight bump of bandwidth complexities. Join us alongside your pile of washing if you need to as we chat about:

Cranky mother syndrome. How hard can it be to fix that lawnmower? Find a sock? Even getting up with the sunrise can present its own challenges.
Hitting rock bottom and our experiences with burnout, depletion, the loop of low bandwidth and a little conversation which helps us be upfront and honest with ourselves.
Linda's dead plant. The reflective parallel of that said plant and bandwidth problems...

We invite you to check in on your own bandwidth today because these conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts, we would love you to reach out to us.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Time for Self-Care? Can't Find It and Won't Make It!

Sun, 28 May 2023 21:00:00 +1000

Tick, tick, BOOM. Self-care is in the room! But what happens when we feel like self-care is just another thing on our to do list? When we feel like there's just not enough hours in the day. Jill and Linda muse over these questions and more in this episode and chat about:

How long should self-care take? The pressures of it being a big massive task and all the different factors that determine what that looks like.
Becoming resourceful in how we practice self-care alongside our children and prioritise ourselves at the same time.
Under and overestimating. Tendencies we’ve found ourselves falling into and making friends with our calendar whenever possible.
How we protecting our time and stay on track so we can fit in self-care (and most importantly this podcast!)
Will we ever sleep again?

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Reflections on Self-Care for Mother's Day

Sun, 21 May 2023 21:00:00 +1000

The Podcast is out and about! Hurrah. Linda and Jill are as upbeat and enthusiastic as their theme song music and ready to get stuck in. Listen in as we reflect on our most recent Mother's Day experiences for 2023 and what that meant for both of us. We chat about:

Alone time! What is this thing you speak of? How times are changing and what that looks like right now.
Mental load. Yep. Another buzz word, yet a significant topic to discuss as we find out.
Realizations of defensiveness and reactivity. After things going so smoothly, the reality of the load of the day and what can happen in what feels like a blink of the eye.
Putting effort into being taken care of. What does that look like? Will the bathroom ever smell the same again with boys and their stank?
Checking in on ourselves. Trying not to compare as we prioritize and negotiate through the day.

We certainly hope we are still sticking around on Mother's Day again next year! We would love to hear what you think and any ways that you are taking care of or mucking up your self-care.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Has Working from Home Changed How You Practice Self-Care?

Sun, 14 May 2023 21:03:00 +1000

On some crazy level, both Jill and Linda manage to work from home around the muckness of children, life and self-care. It sometimes looks like children on your lap at 2am after you’ve napped to get to that Zoom call from the other side of the world. It sometimes looks like having a toddler on your lap while recording a podcast (the proof is inside this very episode!). And sometimes it looks like just surrendering to it all and mucking up again and again and again. Whether you are a work at home mum, or once was one, or even considering the idea, listen along as Jill and Linda chat about:

Adaptive self-care, interruptions and all. What that means to us and how we work around what we need to.

Benefits of working from home. Naps, comfort food, frizzy hair, unsmellable through the screen and rolling with all the snot and sneezes in the process!

Choice. While there is a great deal of responsibility as an ‘mompreneur’, we are nourishing our soul on many levels by allowing ourselves to create our lives in a way which really suits us. Choosing our own hours and being able to shift locations around our own homes.

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Did You Know What Self-Care Was at First?

Sun, 14 May 2023 21:01:00 +1000

What are you doing to mother you? A question that piqued curiosity, while also a significant shifting point in our own approach to self-care. Jill and Linda wonder what does that even mean? How can we mother ourselves? What are you doing for you? While the self-care term has peaked in popularity, did you actually know what self-care was before becoming a parent? Or was it just a fancy word? A whole lot of questions that we don’t necessarily have the answers to! Listen in as we think about these questions and more and touch on:

The mismatch of self-care for mamas vs self-care for individuals who may have just a little more time on their hands. Linda admits she’s sometimes barely surviving off the whiff of her next coffee and Jill knows that it's way more than yoga and your meditation cushion.
The dream ideal of dedicating our whole selves to self-care. There seems to be an entirety of people out there telling us what to do, yet the one size fits all approach is like a lumpy cushion that doesn’t work for most of us!
When pressure builds. When we feel like we are walking around like a pressure cooker, waiting to blow our tops.

Do you relate? These conversations are here to shift and shake us into change. If you have any further thoughts we would love you to reach out to us!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

The Ongoing Journey of Self-Care (About Us and How We Got Here)

Sun, 14 May 2023 21:00:00 +1000

There’s a LOT out there when it comes to self-care. It’s an internet buzz word that’s taken off like stripes to a Zebra. Yet, how do we actually do when it comes to self-care, especially if we are actually honest with ourselves? Well, Jill and Linda have a stack ton of questions just like this one to explore in real, raw, and honest conversations about self-care and what that actually means to us. In this intro, behind scenes episode we chat about:

Who we are, where we are, our self-care understandings, a little about us outside being mum (or is it mom?). From New York to Tasmania – there are clearly global commonalities and needs.
Muck highs and muck lows. The good and the bad and all the other shades of grey in between. Each episode we will be sharing our highs and lows for the day and what that looks like in our everyday lives.
Which oxygen mask are you putting on first? The push/pull of instincts vs what society thinks we should do.

Our self-care isn’t going anywhere and neither are we. We are so excited to collaborate and join in this adventure together. And we would love to hear what you think about our first episode, or any ways that you are taking care of or mucking up your self-care.

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Trailer - Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast with Jill Olish and Linda Bonney

Thu, 11 May 2023 16:45:00 +1000

Welcome to the Mucked Up my self-care podcast!

I’m Jill from New York and I’m Linda from Tasmania

We are two mums from opposite sides of the world who are living, demonstrating, and helping mums across the world fill their self-care asset bank.

Originally we were going about our days in our own mucked up ways.

And along came an opportunity that went a little something like this...

This is not about prioritising self-care over your mother instincts, this is definitely not about dedicating hours in your packed-out day with toothpaste in your hair because we’re diving in with real and raw conversations about motherhood and self-care as we keep muckin up.

There’ll be somewhat entertaining and real-life highs and lows, as well as insight on how to practice self-care, even when all you wanna do is scroll.

We want you to know that words change worlds, and these are some of the conversations we want to have in order to shift and debunk self-care myths and expectations.

We can’t do it all, however we can start conversations to make self-care understandable in big, small ways.

While we're here, we would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.

Ready to dive in? Messy, interrupted, imperfect and most of all mucked up.

Let’s get going!!

We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!

Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspoken

Connect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonney.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!