The Muse's Lab

Parasocial Relationships and Why Loving Out Loud Isn't Foolish

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0400

By now, if you're on social media, you've heard about Megan Thee Stallion’s breakup. Adjacent to that, there's a lot of chatter about parasocial relationships (cause we always ride for Meg) and the risk of putting your relationship on display. In this adventure, I explore why so many of us were invested in Meg’s happiness, the infinite disdain of men playing in women's faces, and a reframe on loving loud and feverishly. Can you embrace your "lover girl era" bravely? Deep dive with me.

Key Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Muse's Lab

00:35 Meg Breakup Context

02:49 Parasocial Relationships Defined

05:48 Influencer Perspective

08:25 Why We Rooted

13:32 Nonmonogamy Fallout

15:15 Men Defend Men

20:25 Manifesting Fear Loop

25:08 Misled Not Wrong

31:51 Reframing Embarrassment

35:23 Why Men Cheat Down

39:55 Dating for Social Currency

48:48 Parasocial Relationships as Inspiration

58:21 Stop Policing Your Happiness

01:00:24 Closing

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Reclaiming the 'Jezebel Spirit': Sexual Sovereignty, Wise Women, and Patriarchal Shame

Thu, 23 Apr 2026 09:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to another adventure at The Muse's Lab Pod.

This episode was inspired by two posts, one from Farha Khalidi and Elianne the @tiwtchy.witch who, in their own way, brought up key points about heauxism as a derogatory label and the push for modesty through the privatization of sex.

Both posts highlight Queen Jezebel and led me down a path of exploration.

In this podcast, you'll find references to the following:

"Divesting from Sexual Liberation"

"The Devil is the Lie to Keep You Unaccountable"

"Can Women be Misogynistic?"

"Finding Pleasure" - Soul Chat with Ebony M. Tutora (start at 20:50 for the reframe of coincidence)

Chapters in this episode

00:00 Welcome and Trigger Warning

01:36 OnlyFans Debate and Jezebel Label

04:46 Jezebel as Queen Reframed

08:42 Patriarchy and Biblical Propaganda

11:21 Good Girl Rules and Resentment

13:54 Sex Energy and Celibacy Myths

21:51 Wise Woman Witch Rebrand

25:14 Access Entitlement and Sovereignty

29:03 Reclaiming Jezebel as Power

34:36 Closing and Final Takeaway

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On Love & Romance for the ADHDer

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Shout out to consistency!

In this episode, I take a look at love, romance, and safety from the perspective of an ADHDer, who’s been out of the dating scene for some years. Inspired by ADHD content creator Brittany Elizabeth, I challenged the old adage of love feeling like “butterflies” and called flag on the play. Tying those butterflies to some of my most harmful experiences, I share my journey to how I’m reframing dating, what good feels like in a potential partner, and how certain friendships serve as a great foundation to write a new intimate path.

Chapters and Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to Muse Lab

00:41 Consistency and Creativity

02:05 ADHD Brain Downloads

09:24 Dating as a Challenge

14:54 Butterflies Are a Red Flag

16:44 Family Roots and Cycles

24:24 Transactional Love Lessons

31:15 Toxic Relationships and Safety

38:00 Rewriting Dating Patterns

41:06 Words Create Reality

42:58 Quantum Leap Through Speech

44:22 Dating Prophecies Come True

47:04 ADHD Reframing Identity

54:43 Butterflies Versus Safety

55:29 Defining Safe Love

01:04:52 Raising the Bar Saying No

01:11:01 Butterflies Are Moths

01:13:57 Onward to the Next Adventure

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Back Into the Lab: Adulting, Creative Comebacks, and Calling in a Devotee

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

I’m back, muses!

In this episode, I share a bit of why I’ve been gone so long (TLDR; adulting is kicking my arse). The woes of corporate life once again, that still leave me overstimulated and under-creative. Life at peak adulting has left me touch-deprived, craving intimacy, and wrestling with how to date, socialize, and rebuild a social life after years of focusing on getting back into a stable place in my life. However, the biggest theme for this year: my desire for a lover/devotee.

Tap in, as I get into the things.

Chapter Titles & Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to Muse’s Lab

00:35 Life Update and Day Job

05:02 Corporate Burnout and Creativity

07:38 Returning to Podcast Consistency

10:18 Touch Deprivation and Desire

11:36 Dating Reframe and Social Life

15:47 Why I Want a Lover

18:15 Devotee Standards and Provision

23:04 Breaking Old Attraction Patterns

29:32 Leveling Up Self Narrative

34:17 Onward to the Next Adventure

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New Age Spirituality is Effin' Up Your Romantic Relationships

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0400

And... we're... back!

This week's episode covers a touchy subject: relationships and new age spirituality. I'ma be honest, it's effin' up your romantic relationships. Concepts like soulmates, twin flames, and soul ties, not only complicate relationships, but often lead to toxic dynamics, unrealistic expectations, and a lack of accountability. I also get into how these concepts and thinking may prevent personal growth and offer space to reconsider applying these ideologies to your romantic life.

Can't wait for you to tap in!

Key Episode Chapters

01:26 The Impact of New Age Spirituality on Relationships

05:57 Understanding Karmic Lessons

09:20 Debunking Twin Flames and Soul Ties

15:12 Navigating Relationship Expiration Dates

17:39 The Pitfalls of Perfectionism in Relationships

29:10 The Role of Self-Awareness in Dating

32:32 The Problem with New Age Spiritual Terminology

38:47 Rethinking Love Languages

43:00 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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Becoming a Generational Starter: Unmasking Black Mental, EP: 68

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Here's another mini audio journal.

As a caregiver, I've become contemplative about myself, my mental health, and how that impacts the future me. For National Minority Mental Health Month, I address the stigmas in the Black community, while also bringing some context to why we're here in the first place. I share my real time experience navigating mental health challenges with my elders and myself.

Be sure to check out NAMI for more information.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to The Muse's Lab

00:35 Personal Reflections and Content Warning

02:04 Caregiving Challenges and Family Dynamics

04:38 Mental Health in Black Communities

10:47 Understanding and Managing ADHD

16:44 Navigating Corporate Spaces with ADHD

22:45 The Importance of Mental Health Conversations

26:05 Caregiving Exhaustion and Elderly Stubbornness

40:21 Preparing for the Future

44:08 Final Thoughts and Reflections

50:51 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

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Ep. 67: Don't Let a Heaux Bookmark You!

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Pod!

I must say, it's been a while since I had an episode turned therapy session, but I've been quite reflective of my past dating experiences and wanted to talk through them.

In this week's adventure, I dive into the complexities of dating, reflect on some of my past relationships, share the lessons I've learned along the way, as well as some challenges I'm still working through.

We also get into my experiences with being and becoming a "bookmark" in someone's life and how to recognize when someone (or you) places you there.

In this episode, I reference season 4, episode 8: How to be Your Own Bestie and season 3, episode 12: Musing the Nuances of Friendships.

Chapters in this Episode:

00:35 Introduction to the Podcast

01:12 Navigating Relationship Dynamics

02:38 Personal Reflections on Dating

04:21 Challenges of Self-Disclosure

06:12 Hyperfocus and Relationship Realizations

08:21 The Last Relationship

14:12 High Standards and Self-Worth

22:37 Ghosts of Relationships Past

25:24 Realizing Self-Worth and Rejecting Labels

25:58 The Libra Experience: A Personal Anecdote

26:53 Understanding the Concept of Being a 'Stash'

28:31 The Impact of Allowing Yourself to Be Bookmarked

32:16 Rebuilding Confidence and Self-Value

35:30 The Dangers of Compromising Non-Negotiables

41:21 Final Thoughts: Standing Firm on Your Standards

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Ep. 66: Community Engagement & Disrupting the Status Quo - An Audio Journal

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast!

In this adventure, I unpack my feelings around community engagement, civic duty, and re-engaging with a community that has harmed me. While exploring this personal journey, I talk about the complexities of being a disruptor in a space that often resists change, as well as the importance of reciprocity in a space of activism and the exhaustion that comes with trying to be impactful in a community that hasn't always been supportive. Rock with me as I navigate a myriad of unhealed feelings in audio form.

Chapters in this episode:

00:00 Navigating Community Engagement Challenges

03:29 Reflections on Personal Community Involvement

06:16 The Impact of Life Changes on Community Service

09:08 The Desire for Reciprocity in Giving

12:11 Career Paths and Community Contributions

14:44 The Struggles of Being a Disruptor

17:35 The Challenge of Re-engaging with Community

20:46 The Complexity of Community Dynamics

23:30 Finding Balance in Community Service

26:30 The Exhaustion of Community Commitment

29:28 Navigating Power Dynamics in Community

32:31 The Internal Conflict of a Disruptor

35:01 The Challenge of Positive Thinking

37:48 The Fear of Community Engagement

40:50 Utilizing Skills for Real Impact

43:38 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Ep. 65: Divesting from the Binary Thinking of Sex & Pleasure

Sat, 31 May 2025 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to another episode of The Muses Lab Podcast!

In this episode, I share my return to home to pleasure-centric content and begin with exploring binary thinking of sex and pleasure through the lens of the Madonna-whore complex. Key themes include: sexual sovereignty, the importance of community in personal growth, and the importance of spectrum of in sexual expression. I offer some solutions to navigating societal expectations, share the detriments of imparting binary thinking on young girls and those who are femme-of-center, while emphasizing the transformative power of pleasure in one's life.

Referenced in this episode is Season 4, Episode 14: Beware of the Avon Ladies of Spirituality, and as promised, the communities I listed:

Chapters in this episode:

00:00 Returning to Self: A Journey of Integration

09:25 Exploring the Madonna-Whore Complex

23:18 Embracing "I am" as a Divine Right

26:57 Redefining Pleasure Beyond Binary Constructs

28:35 Redefining Purity and Sexuality

33:49 Breaking Free from Binary Thinking

46:15 The Importance of Community in Embodiment

55:09 Navigating the Path to Pleasure Embodiment

57:00 Exploring Community Engagement

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Ep 64: Navigating Sex with a 40-year Old Lens

Thu, 22 May 2025 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast.

It's been a while since I've visited the topic of sex, but this time, I'm opening up about my personal experiences and the complexities with navigating sex from a 40-year old (40+ really) POV.

A few key topics I touch on include: celibacy, the importance of sexual sovereignty, and the challenges of maintaining sexual desire and awareness the more "seasoned" we become. So, get a pen, your fave journal, some tea, and be prepared to capture some gems.

Featured in this episode is Season 4, Ep. 8: How to be Your Own Bestie with Coach Bellamy.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Navigating Sex in Your 40s

02:18 The Challenges of Celibacy and Sexual Awareness

07:01 Understanding Sexual Sovereignty vs. Liberation

12:56 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Sexuality

19:47 Reflections on Past Relationships and Sexual Experiences

25:57 Navigating Friendships and Sexual Tension

31:41 Desires and Expectations in Sexual Relationships

37:55 The Role of Tools in Enhancing Sexual Experience

43:55 Exploring New Avenues of Arousal

48:49 Conclusion and Future Aspirations

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Ep. 63: Soul Gardening: Introducing and Understand the 'Root' or 'Fruit' Archetype

Thu, 15 May 2025 10:30:00 -0400

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast.

This week, I explore the 'root' or 'fruit' archetype that we may or may not realize we engage and identify with as a social identity. Key points of emphasis include the importance of balance and harmony between these identities, integration, and remembering yourself as the "muse" to use your own experiences to cultivate both identities in your life. Mentioned in this episode is Season 4, Episode 11: Worldbuilding in Adverse.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Root or Fruit

03:36 Exploring Identity: Root vs. Fruit

06:29 The Duality of Being: Root and Fruit

09:25 Defining the Root Archetype

12:34 Defining the Fruit Archetype

15:36 Assessing Your Role: Root or Fruit?

20:33 Finding Balance Between Root and Fruit

30:33 Integration and Harmony in Identity

54:40 Conclusion and Reflection

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Episode 62: Exploring Discipline vs. Devotion

Thu, 08 May 2025 09:30:00 -0400

I'm continuing my exploration of devotion as a praxis, and working through how it can be an alternative to discipline. This one is definitely for my ND babes who have challenges adopting and maintaining discipline. In this episode, I define what I believe devotion and discipline are and dive into how they intersect and differ. Amid the rigidness of discipline, I offer a shift towards a more pleasurable and sacred practice through the art of devotion.

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Ep. 61: Navigating Pee in the Dating Pool with ADHD

Fri, 02 May 2025 23:48:01 -0400

Welcome back to your regularly weekly scheduled episodes! This week, I revisit an old post on Threads about navigating the dating pool with ADHD.

I unpack the societal pressures of adulting and express my desire for deeper connections and understanding in relationships, while also addressing my fears and insecurities. I get transparent about my need for compassion, along with my boundaries for those men who are on one.

Grab a cuppa tea, and maybe a journal, and enjoy the ride.

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Revisiting "Good Sex" with Dr. Candice

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 09:00:00 -0400

*taps mic*

Poppin' in the Lab to check-in and I invited Dr. Candice back on the podcast to talk about her now published book: Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation. Together we explore the importance of scientific research in understanding sexual wellness, particularly for Black women, and the concept of 'sexual seasonings,' the evolution of sexual tastes, and barriers to intimate relationships. Get your notebooks together because she drops ALL the gems.

Be sure to follow Dr. Candice on Instagram and Threads @dr.candicenicole, listen to the audio version of Good Sex where audiobooks are published, and grab a copy at www.bookshop.org. You can find the latest book tour dates pinned at the top of her Instagram page. For more information, visit www.drcandicenicole.com

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Season 4, Ep. 20: Archetypes: Who You Need to be to Survive & Thrive

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 09:15:00 -0400

Welcome back, muses!

In this episode, I chat it up with Sam Scharrer aka THEE Vibe Caster and we're talking archetypes and how they shape our personal journeys.

We touch on the balance between being free-spirited and pragmatic, the impact of anxiety on decision-making, and the challenges faced in corporate environments, that ultimately lead to a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

We also explore the archetypes of survival mode and mirrors and how it shaped our mental health and the perception of ourselves. Grab your notebooks because Sam drops some juicy gems!

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Sam Scharrer (rhymes with “star”) is the creative force behind Vibe Caster Studios, a witchy design studio that transforms businesses into vibrant brands that spark joy and cast spells. Combining brand strategy with glamour magic, Sam helps magical brands connect with the magical people they’re meant to serve—bold creatives, visionary moms, queer trailblazers, and audacious entertainers. Whether she’s crafting a visual identity or breathing new life into a brand’s story, Sam’s work weaves together the spiritual and strategic, making her clients' brands a living beacon for the communities they want to inspire.

Ready to zap your brand to life? Step into the lab at vibe-caster.com and let’s make some magic.

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Season 4, Episode: 19 - The Struggle to Embrace Happiness

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 07:01:00 -0400

Who knew being happy would be a challenge, but here I am as the outlier.

There's a lot of glow up happening for me, but I can't shake the feeling of fear to be happy for myself; so, I'm opening up and sharing my struggles with joy and how it impacts my nervous system. Also, I explore difference between managing emotions and embodying them, with an emphasis on being present and authentic in one's experiences.

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Astrology Talk with Kailyn Davillier: Baybee! March is Wild

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 15:00:00 -0400

Welcome to our second Astrology Talk of 2025!

In this episode, Min. Kailyn Davillier discusses the astrological landscape for March with a focus on the retrogrades of Venus and Mercury, the impact of eclipses, and the significance of personal growth and collective justice.

She explores how these cosmic events influence communication, skills, and boundaries, while emphasizing the interconnectedness of astrological events. Together, we touch on the importance of preparing for the astrological new year and embracing change as a path to empowerment.

Some key takeaways:

March is a month of significant astrological events.
Eclipses provide windows of opportunity for personal growth.
Venus in retrograde encourages reflection on skills and boundaries.
Collective justice is a theme during this astrological period.
Personal empowerment is linked to understanding our skills.
The new moon in Aries signifies new beginnings.
Neptune's transition into Aries calls for collective awareness.

To connect with Kailyn, you can find her on Instagram and TikTok @kailyndavillier and learn more about her work at https://kailyndavillier.com/

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Season 4, Episode: 17 - On Loyalty from a Leo's Perspective

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 15:30:00 -0400

Welcome to The Muse's Lab Podcast!

In this episode, I unpack the complexities of loyalty from a Leo's lens and deep dive into the emotional vulnerabilities tied to loyalty, the desire for acknowledgment, and the potential detriment. It's been a while since I hit a story time, but get your tea and notepads together for some prompts to help bring us to self-awareness, boundary setting, and metrics to better navigate loyalty in various aspects of our lives.

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Astrology Talk with Kailyn Davillier - Part 2

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 15:00:00 -0400

We're back with part 2 of our Astrology Talk with Min. Kailyn Davillier.

Here, we talk a deeper dive into Saturn and Neptune, and discuss how to best work with these outer planets. We tackle the collective challenges faced by society, the importance of boundaries in personal growth, and the need for accountability in creative endeavors.

While the astrology isn't always unicorns and sugar plum faeries, knowing the real and being equipped to navigate these changes is much better than living in Neptune's illusion. These upcoming Aries transits bring forth the potential for new beginnings and the necessity of intuitive planning to achieve our long-term goals.

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Min. Kailyn Davillier is a New Orleans native, poet, Priestess, writer, and astrologer. She uses her knowledge of the stars to help others navigate our capitalistic society. Through her indigenous spiritual practice, she guides people toward decolonizing and de-conditioning ourselves from ideologies that remove us from the importance of community and collective work.

You can find her on Instagram and TikTok @kailyndavillier and learn more about her at linktr.ee/kailyndavillier

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Astrology Talk w. Kailyn Davillier: Exploring Neptune & Saturn in Aries - Part 1

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 23:53:53 -0400

Welcome to the first of many Astrology Talks with our official resident astrologer—Kailyn Davillier.

In part 1 of our talk, we begin to explore the soon to be Neptune and Saturn transit in Aries. Amid the Pluto in Aquarius conversations, these two transits are simply skipped over. We take a deep dive into how these planetary movements influence personal growth, collective challenges, along with the importance of applying these astrological insights to everyday life. We also discuss how these transits impact climate change and food scarcity. Lastly, we unpack Neptune's role in fostering creativity and spirituality, while emphasizing the need for structure and discipline as taught by Saturn.

Keep it locked for part II.

Kailyn Davillier is a New Orleans native, poet, Priestess, writer, and astrologer. She uses her knowledge of the stars to help others navigate our capitalistic society. Through her indigenous spiritual practice, she guides people toward decolonizing and de-conditioning ourselves from ideologies that remove us from the importance of community and collective work. You can find her on Instagram and TikTok @kailyndavillier and learn more about her at linktr.ee/kailyndavillier.

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Season 4, Ep: 14 - Gon Ahead Sis & Heaux Responsibly

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 15:00:00 -0400

Welcome to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast! This one is for my Gen Xers and millennials, we're talking sexual health, sovereignty, and the benefits of "heauxing responsibly." While we know our body goes through changes once we hit perimenopause, what we don't realize is our lovely "pocketbook" experiences some wild changes of its own. Self-pleasure is no longer gluttonous or sinful, it's a necessity to preservation of our sexual wellness. Rock with me as I delve into the importance of an occasional orgasm.

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Season 4, Ep. 13 - Beware of the Avon Ladies of Spirituality

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 20:06:13 -0400

A new wave of spirituals are awakening and it's time to ahead of the game, before the "snake oil sellers" get their grubby hands on them. In this episode, I discuss the resurgence of spiritual gifts, particularly during the Pluto in Aquarius transit, with an emphasis on recognizing and navigating these gifts and finding supportive spiritual communities. In the right community, you'll learn that application is key to personal growth and healing.

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Season 4, EP. 12: Maybe Being Multifaceted is the Key to Joy

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 17:02:00 -0400

Welcome to another episode of The Muse's Lab Pod! Our muse for this week is Tanya Hayles—host of the Event Bestie Podcast and co-founder of Black Mom's Connection.

In this episode, we explore being multifaceted beings as the key to unlocking joy, while tackling the importance of representation and community for Black mothers, the complexities of navigating spaces for Black voices, and the significance of centering Black experiences. In the end, the necessity of joy and self-awareness in personal and collective growth is vital to our existence.

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Tanya is a writer/speaker using her fresh and authentic voice on matters close to home: parenthood, entrepreneurship, and Black culture. You can learn more about her work at www.tanyahayles.com, connect with @tanyahayles on Threads and YouTube, and subscribe to channel at youtube.com/@eventbestiepodcast.

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Season 4, Episode 11: Worldbuilding in Adverse

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 15:00:00 -0400

Welcome to 2025! We're back in the game and this time I explore the concept of world building, in the context of personal narratives and self-fulfilling prophecies.

Using my own experience, I share my experiences with relationships, anxiety, and the narratives I create in my head that often lead to misunderstandings, isolation, and assumptions. While working through this complex system I created, emphasis is placed on the importance of deconstructing these narratives to build a healthier, more positive worldview, while encouraging us to collectively embark on the journeys of self-discovery and healing.

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Season 4, Episode 10: The Healing Gap in Dating

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 15:56:55 -0400

For the all the single folks, particularly those who have experienced a celibacy journey or done shadow work, the process of completing the cycle through integration isn't discussed the way it needs. In this episode, I explore what it looks like to apply what you've learned and the importance of integration when returning to the dating scene.

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Season 4, Episode 9: Is it Dark Feminine or is it Villainous

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 15:00:00 -0400

I guess this is a series, but I'm not pressuring myself to do back-to-back episodes. While I'm still on my villain arc exploration, there's even more chatter about the dark feminine. In this episode, I explore if they are the same, or if the divine feminine is a bridge to meet the embodiment called the villain arc or vice versa.

Articles for further research:

https://www.thehoodwitch.com/blog/2016/8/8/erotic-astrology-lilith-signs

https://chaninicholas.com/all-about-lilith/

https://lotuslaloba.substack.com/p/floating-in-darkness

https://eunoiaofthesoul.com/light-and-dark-feminine-energy/

https://www.them.us/story/what-does-it-mean-to-be-femme#:~:text=The%20short%20answer%20is%20no,nonbinary%20people%20or%20queer%20men.

https://www.francescabliss.com/blog-south-florida-portrait-photographer/2023/5/31/dark-feminine

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Season 4, Episode 8: Be Your Own Bestie with Coach Bellamy

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 16:12:47 -0400

If you had the pleasure of listening to Season 2, Episode 11 - Pleasure Convos with Coach Bellamy, you already know what type of time we're on. In this episode, we discuss how to be your bestie and address the hard convos we, as feminine spectrum persons, need to have. Sit back and enjoy...

About Coach B:

Aysha "Coach" Bellamy is a powerhouse of resilience and creativity, whose story of triumph over adversity has inspired countless others. As a disabled veteran, Coach Bellamy found solace in writing, podcasting, and creating art, using her talents to rebuild her life and inspire those around her. Coach Bellamy's hard work and dedication have led to a solo art exhibit and numerous features in shows throughout Philadelphia.

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Season 4, Episode 7: On Saying No, Disappointment, and Self-Advocacy

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 15:00:00 -0400

Lissen, I don't know how often these therapy sessions are gonna arise, but this one I couldn't hold back. Saying 'no' has been a challenge for me for as long as I can remember, but, for the first time, I believe I found my solve. I hope this serves as a balm for anyone listening in.

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Season 4, Episode 6: On Megan's 'In Her Own Words' and Grief

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 15:00:00 -0400

CW: Discussion of topics that include digital and physical violence such as assault and bullying, along with suicide.

I don't usually have commentary on shows I watch; however, there's not enough room on the interwebs to share what I felt and how parts of Megan Thee Stallion's story resonated with my own. Particularly with the themes of grief.

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Season 4, Episode 5: We've Been Viewing the Villain All Wrong

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 15:00:00 -0400

After a week's long exploration of the villain narrative sparked by one of my fave creators on TikTok, I'm sharing my thoughts on what this means and possibly a new approach to my creative practice and life overall.

Vanessa's Info:

@vanessadomslife on TikTok

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Season 4, Episode 4 - Pontificating Politics

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 15:15:26 -0400

It's been some time, but I'm back with our latest episode, inspired by the 2024 election. And while some thoughts and opinions here might get me "canceled," I couldn't hold back some perspective for the community.

Please go vote.

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Season 4, Episode 3: Is it humility or is it gratitude?

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 18:08:01 -0400

Alright, so I had to get down to the bottom of my challenges with the word humility and being humble. It just never sat with me and after working through my thoughts, I figured out why. Journey with me...

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Season 4, EP. 2: The Journey to Our Seat of Pleasure with EbonyJanice

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 16:00:00 -0400

I am honored, excited, and elated to share the first of The Muse's Lab & Friends series! We have author of All Black Girls are Activists: A Fourth Wave Womanist Pursuit of Dreams as Radical Resistance and The Free People Project founder, EbonyJanice in the building!

In this episode, we explore the intersections of HipHop and pleasure, and journey to the seat of ourselves (EbonyJanice). Whether your community or new to the game, you're in for a treat!

Ways to connect to EbonyJanice:

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Thank you for listening to The Muse's Lab Podcast!

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Welcome to Season 4: Refresh & Reset

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 18:45:54 -0400

Y'all, I even have a new theme song!

Welcome to season 4 of The Muse's Lab podcast. In this episode, I share some updates for the community and insights on the reason for the pivot... or really, a redirect.

Be sure to subscribe on your favorite platform and stay tuned for what we have in store.

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The Nuances of Healing with Evan McCrary - Part 2

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 22:17:00 -0400

We're back with part two of The Nuances of Healing and I promise you, the gems just keep coming. Tap in!

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The Nuances of Healing with Evan McCrary - Part 1

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 21:00:00 -0400

Baybeee! This one is for the somatic baddies, the holistic healers and those who are on the fence with really diving deep into "the work" that is healing. Such an amazing, eye-opening episode with OG Muse's Lab Community member Evan. In part 1, we discuss types of somatic healing practices that are accessible to everyone and get down to the nitty-gritty as to why most people hesitate to start their healing journey. Stay tuned for part 2.

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Evan is a Somatic Practitioners, associate therapist, social work, Tantrika, and self-proclaimed Pilates Princess. You can find and follow her @emick1 on Instagram.

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Astrology as a Tool for Survival, Observation, Navigation & Preservation - Part 2

Thu, 30 May 2024 16:00:00 -0400

We're back with part 2 of Astrology as a Tool for Survival. In the second half, Kailyn and I discuss the importance of gatekeeping, as well as the importance of Black spiritual practitioners and upholding indigenous traditions. As a New Orleans native, Kailyn expresses the importance of keeping the metaphorical, and literal, recipes inside the house. And if you've been giving out "cookout" invites, you might wanna opt for a to-go plate.

Thank you for tappin' in.

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Astrology as a Tool for Survival, Observation, Navigation & Preservation - Part 1

Wed, 29 May 2024 16:00:00 -0400

And we're back! This time I finally got time with my sestra THE Kailyn Davillier, and we're diving in deep to discuss the application of astrology as an observer. In this two-part episode we discuss the importance of understanding your chart and how it relates to the current astrological weather, then using that information as an observer to make informed decisions to navigate our day-to-day.

Enjoy part 1!

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Destigmatizing the Marvels of Mushrooms

Wed, 24 Apr 2024 17:22:01 -0400

Have you been interested in learning more about mushrooms but haven't found the right content? In this episode, we meet with multidimensional healer, wellness consultant, 'shroom guide and connoisseur—Sheanah Rivers. We get into the marvelous wonders of mushrooms and how they can be a tool of restoration and health for the mind, body, and soul.

Sheanah is a multidimensional healer, teacher, and guide. As the host of the podcast "Who You Callin’ Holistic?," Sheanah shares her wealth of holistic wisdom, inspirational stories, and practical insights to inspire and uplift her audience. With a conversational and direct approach, she invites listeners to explore themes of transformation, expansion, healing, and magic, empowering them to embrace their true selves and live authentically.

Find her @Sheanah on Threads, IG, X, YouTube, and Patreon, as well as download her free digital guide: Mushroom Marvels: The Magic of Nature's Wood Wide Web here.

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Musing the Nuances of Friendships

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 16:01:00 -0400

What started out with me wanting to talk about caring for friends who've done you wrong, evolved into a mini therapy session filled with revelations, a bit of healing, and a continuance of an adventure to close chapters that have ended.

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Here's the truth: I Am Not a Corporate Baddie

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 16:00:00 -0400

WHEW! Ba-beeee! I've been sitting on this one for a long-time. As I continue to experience the upheaval and reimagining of my life, one of my latest revelations surrounding career came to pass and I HAD to share it, in the event one of you recognizes the same.

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My Endo Story

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 21:36:17 -0400

I couldn't let Endometriosis Awareness month close out without finally sharing my story. With the passing of Jessica Pettway and now Halle Berry sharing her story of being misdiagnosed with Herpes, instead of perimenopause, it was about time I add my journey to the mix to further the conversation and awareness with how this disease affects Black persons with uteruses.

Grab your tissue and some tea, and tap in.

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The Challenge with Purpose

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 15:30:00 -0400

This week, I share some thoughts I've been working through surrounding purpose and for the first time, my Spirits make an appearance and speak through me.

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The Hardest Thing to Do is Follow Instructions

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 15:00:00 -0400

I haven't tapped into the spiritual side of life in a while and of course, I share with you all what I'm experiencing in real-time and following instructions is one of them. Perspective is essential and often we need a different lens to view how things work, so that we can reframe, and move forward. Hope this episode helps you move forward.

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Q&A Tuesday: Becoming the "Villain"

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 17:15:48 -0400

Back with another Q&A Tuesday, answering the question: how are you taking care of yourself in 2024, and baybee... the revelations I had 5 days into the Gregorian calendar year, inspired my response to this question. Can't wait for you to tap in!

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Season 3, Episode 7 - Feeling Sexy is a Mindset

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 02:56:13 -0400

It's a topic that's been ruminating in my mind for some time, so I figure I talk through my thoughts out loud, because I may not be the only one feeling disconnected from their sexiness. And clearly, I am because I say "the say it with sex podcast" in my intro. I think my body is giving me clear hints :)

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Q&A Tuesday: The Journey of Becoming Me

Tue, 23 Jan 2024 17:00:00 -0400

We're starting a new segment—Q&A Tuesday, which takes place every second and fourth Tuesday where I answer community questions while sharing personal stories related to the question. In this episode, @damnizthatnia asks how I learned to balance being authentically myself vs. what the world expects of me. Let's just say, get you a cuppa tea cause it's storytime :)

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Season 3, Episode 6 - Choosing Yourself Often Feels Like Punishment

Wed, 10 Jan 2024 17:00:00 -0400

I want to say this is my most vulnerable episode yet; but as I continue telling my story, I'm certain I'll meet more parts that surpass what this feels like. If you're on the path of choosing yourself, I share what I've learned thus far on this journey.

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Season 3, Episode 5 - Do You Wanna be Safe or Free?

Wed, 03 Jan 2024 23:57:15 -0400

We have one of our faves in the building bring in the 2024 season! Lily Shepard is back and a time was had. We discuss entrepreneurship, particularly as a service provider, the disjointedness of expert culture, and our highs and lows on this journey.

About Lily Shepard

Author, Embodiment Coach and Movement Educator, Lily Shepard creates space for women to move their bodies without judgment while offering opportunities to trust their bodies, love themselves, and live unapologetically. Named one of Austin’s Extraordinary Women of 2022, she has transformed thousands of women’s lives over twenty years.

During her career as a professional dancer, she graced many stages and met countless incredible women. She's even shared the stage with Beyoncé, the Queen herself! With decades of dance training; 200 hours of certified trauma-informed yoga instruction; and her personal experience, Lily makes feminine movement accessible to professional women. Ladies take their lessons to the bedroom, boardroom, and everywhere in between.

You can find Lily on Facebook and Instagram @lilyshepardmoves, LinkedIn, and lilyshepardmoves.com. Her latest book, Pleasure Principles for Driven Women Reclaiming Pleasure Through Movement can be found on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Scribd.

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Season 3, Episode 4 - Intersectional Healing with Ca'ren Hudson

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 15:00:00 -0400

In this week’s episode, we meet with Ca’ren Hudson, founder of Flowering Health and Wellness to discuss intersectional healing and embracing multiple healing modalities. We explore the concept of honoring the seasons of life, letting go of attachments, the importance of humanizing therapy, and finding the right therapist, as well as the impact of epigenetic trauma and the need for healing that specifically addresses the experiences of Black feminine spectrum persons.

About Ca'ren

Ca'ren is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate, Registered Yoga Teacher (200 Level), and a Certified Reiki Practitioner. Ca'ren works from a soul-centered approach in which she cultivates a safe space for metamorphosis and transformation to occur. She can also integrate non-traditional forms of healing like incorporating and discussing ancestral veneration, yoga therapy, Reiki healing, using oracle or tarot in sessions, or using human design or astrology to help clients better understand the patterns of their lives and relationships.

Contact info:

IG: @Flowering_Heart_Wellness

FB: Flowering Heart Wellness

Email: ⁠caren@familysolutionsandwellness.com⁠

Website: ⁠familysolutionsandwellness.com⁠

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Season 3, Episode 3 - Boudoir as Self-empowerment

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 00:49:47 -0400

This week, I meet with Latoya Dixon Smith boudoir photographer and creatress of Greenville Boudoir. In this episode, we chat about the boudoir as a means of self-empowerment and learn some great lessons from Toya that continue to sit with me.

About Latoya:

Latoya Dixon Smith is a boudoir photographer, certified sex doula, and international speaker based in Greenville, SC. Featured on HBO, she has also been widely featured in publications including The Huffington Post, ESSENCE, and The Greenville Business Magazine.
In addition to activating women to find confidence and self-acceptance through empowering boudoir healing ceremonies and photos, Latoya enjoys speaking with women about accessing pleasure, power, and peace through the power of the feminine essence.

Stay in Touch:

Website: http://greenvilleboudoir.co

Quiz: http://greenvilleboudoir.co/quiz

Instagram: http://instagram.com/greenvilleboudoir

Facebook: http://facebook.com/greenvilleboudoir

VIP Group: http://facebook.com/groups/greenvilleboudoir

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@greenvilleboudoir

Amazon Storefront: http://amazon.com/shop/greenvilleboudoirᐧ

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Season 3, Episode 2 - Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 19:38:05 -0400

It's been a minute but I'm back with some updates (might've recognized the name change) and sharing insights on what it means to fully embrace and embody being "The Muse."

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Season 3, Episode 1 - Good Sex is an Act of Resistance

Fri, 18 Aug 2023 17:00:29 -0400

It's been a minute, but we're back with... I think this is season THREE of the Say It With Sex podcast and no better way to return than having a conversation about S-E-X! In this episode, I meet with the #HotGirlScience creator herself, Dr. Candice Nicole, associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, and discuss the definition of good sex, sex in your 40s, and how to invite your partner to experience pleasure. Oh! This one is juicy so lock in. About Dr. Candice Nicole: Dr. Candice Nicole is an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. She's the host of F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast, as well as How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. Dr. Candice has published over 50 research articles and has been featured in HuffPost, Women's Health, Cosmopolitan, and the New York Times—among others, and featured on The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema and Sex with Dr. Jess. You can connect with her on Instagram and Facebook @dr.candicenicole For more information about the podcast, to be a guest, or to chat, email hello@themuseslab.com. Learn more about ShaVaughn Elle's offerings and services at http://bookshavaughn.as.me Subscribe to The Muse's Lab's weekly musings here Join the conversation @themuseslab on Instagram and TikTok and @shavaughnelle on Twitter

Episode 11, Season 2 - Pleasure Convos with Coach Bellamy

Wed, 03 May 2023 17:13:32 -0400

Welcome to another "fly on the wall" Say It With Sex Podcast convo. In this session, Coach Bellamy shares her insights on pleasure, rituals that keep her grounded, and some Black grrl beau-lovin.'

About Coach Bellamy:

Coach Bellamy is also a world traveler, having visited Paris and resided in Germany. A native of Philadelphia, Coach Bellamy is a beloved fixture in the city's vibrant artistic and coaching communities. She is the creator of Lyght Werk—a blended life coaching model that utilizes yoga and other therapeutic modalities. She's also the founder of several other organizations including, but not limited to: Queens Healing Together, Bellamy Black Productions, LLC, and NOMI Collective PR & Media Company.

Her artwork has been displayed at prestigious venues such as the Barnes Foundation, and Phenomenal Women of Philadelphia Showcase and she's served as an artist in residence for Studio 1517 C and Studio Mars.

Her greatest accomplishments, however, are being a mother of her two amazing children and serving as a source of inspiration to everyone around her. Coach Bellamy's infectious energy, creativity, and commitment to helping others have made her a beloved member of the Philadelphia community, and a force to be reckoned with in the world of coaching and art.

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Episode 10, Season 2 - On Black Women and Being Palatable

Wed, 22 Mar 2023 15:00:54 -0400

It's still Women's History Month and an opportune time to highlight the constant misogynoir. I wish folx would stay outta rich Black women and femme's business, but here we are, worried about Ciara and Chloe. I share some thoughts on Black women and being palatable.

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Episode 9, Season 2 - Can Performance be Pleasurable

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 17:36:37 -0400

This week, we catch up with author and Embodiment Coach and Educator, Lily Shepard. In this episode, we discuss all things pleasure, movement, and how it ties into performance—be it the world's stage or everyday living. Tap in for the good and juicy ki.

About Lily:
Author, Embodiment Coach, and Movement Educator, Lily Shepard creates space for women to move their bodies without judgment while offering opportunities to trust their bodies, love themselves, and live unapologetically. Named one of Austin’s Extraordinary Women of 2022, she has transformed thousands of women’s lives over the course of twenty years.

As a professional dancer, she graced many stages and met countless incredible women. She's even shared the stage with Beyoncé, the Queen herself! With decades of dance training; 200 hours of certified trauma-informed yoga instruction; and her personal experience, Lily makes feminine movement accessible to professional women. Ladies take her lessons to the bedroom, boardroom, and everywhere in between.

You find Lily on Facebook and Instagram @lilyshepardmoves and on LinkedIn and at lilyshepardmoves.com. Her latest book, Pleasure Principles for Driven Women Reclaiming Pleasure Through Movement can be found on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Scribd.

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Episode 8, Season 2 - Sex. Endometriosis. and Being in Your 40s

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 15:00:44 -0400

Here I am, back with another vulnerable podcast episode. What does it feel like to have stage 4 endo and be post-menopausal in your 40s? Tap in and find out.

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Episode 7, Season 2 - Love Frequency

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 15:00:11 -0400

*cue the Moesha Dear Diary music*

I must say, this is my most transparent and vulnerable episode to date. I've been reflecting on opportunities to love that I missed and decided to reconcile those feelings while sharing my truth. As always, hoping the lessons I learned can be a blueprint for others to apply for themselves.

Watch this episode on my YouTube channel @shavaughnelleTV

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Episode 6, Season 2 - There's Pee in the Dating Pool

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 15:00:22 -0400

It's "lover's week" and it's got me thinking about the current status of dating for the single folx. While I'm sure it's past due time for me to get back into dating, pee in the dating pool makes it a nasty challenge. Tap in for some of my inside thoughts, out loud. Watch this episode on my YouTube channel @shavaughnelleTV9211

Episode 5, Season 2 - You are the "heaux" Save Yourself

Wed, 08 Feb 2023 15:00:17 -0400

After a conversation with one of my honeybees, I had to share how we women and femmes, in particular, always seem to give to folx who don't deserve it. This one is for the people-pleasers, undercover over-lovers, and over-givers. Time to save yourself, beau.

Episode 4, Season 2 - Language and Mindest: The True "Manifestation" Hack

Fri, 27 Jan 2023 21:56:01 -0400

We're 27 days into 2023 and I know most of us are still planning and ideating. So, while you're envisioning your year ahead, here's a quick tip for your physical or mental grimoire to rely on and customize. Actualization, manifestation, or whichever word you choose is centered around your language and your mindset. Tap in for the tea.

Episode 3, Season 2 - Understanding our relationship with desire

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 15:00:05 -0400

Seaux... I went down this rabbit hole with desire—how we view it, language, and what it means. Tap in to hear more about what I learned.

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Episode 2, Season 2 - Settling: Tapping into Robyn & Harper's Story

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 15:00:09 -0400

I'm gonna assume (and hope) by now you've seen The Best Man: Final Chapters, if not, go watch it. I was inspired by a tweet mentioning Robyn and Harper and it made me think about how many people settle because it's the right thing to do. I share my thoughts on that in this week's episode.

Episode 1, Season 2 - Walking into 2023

Sun, 01 Jan 2023 19:29:22 -0400

Starting the new Gregorian year creating content was not what I expected but I'm leaning in. Sharing some 2022 reflections and my thoughts on our year of "7," 2023.

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Episode 10 - Some Plentiful-playful Kee-kee (Part 2)

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 14:30:56 -0400

We're back with part II of plentiful-playful kee-kee where K. Phillips and I continue our convo touching on hood-inspired affirmation and proverbs, accessibility and information consumption, those pristine arse Dollar Tree wine glasses, and more.

Interested in having a kee-kee with me? Email hello@themuseslab.com and let's chat...literally!

Connect with K. Phillips on Twitter @blkanddroheaux and on Instagram @ms.shadymcgrady, and learn more about her at linktr.ee/blkandroheaux.

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Episode 9 - Some Plentiful-playful Kee-kee (Part 1)

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 14:00:52 -0400

Ever wanna know what it's like to be in someone's DM conversation? Well, you got your wish. Me and @ms.shadymcgrady aka K. Phillips share our daily banter in a two-part series (yes, we were talking that long). In part 1, we discuss a Lil astrology and tarot, friendships and dating for the 25 and over crew, and a Lil inside scoop on the writing industry. Check back in for Part 2.

Connect with K. Phillips on Twitter @blkanddroheaux and on Instagram @ms.shadymcgrady, and learn more about her at linktr.ee/blkandroheaux.

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A Perspective about Depression

Sun, 16 Oct 2022 18:10:28 -0400

Back with another episode, on a more serious note. In the last few weeks, I experienced situational depression and rose up from that space with some perspective I hope is helpful for the collective.

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The Welcome Back Ep.

Wed, 21 Sep 2022 14:00:23 -0400

It's been a minute since the last podcast. Here's a welcome back to you and myself.

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Episode 6 - Lovers and Friends

Fri, 10 Jun 2022 22:43:42 -0400

Join me as I hit another moment of fleshing out my thoughts. This time, it's around the topic of friends being lovers. Is it possible to have casual sex with friends and still maintain the friendship? You may say no, but let me offer some perspective. Contact: hello@themuseslab.com IG & FB: @themuseslab / Twitter: @shavaughnelle

Episode 5 - Make love, or SHOW love?

Wed, 25 May 2022 14:00:21 -0400

Inspired by a conversation about making love without being in love, we explore what this means and why I honestly don't believe "making love" exists. OAN, there's a dash of soul ties in there!

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Episode 4 - Sex. Vulnerability & Responsibility

Wed, 18 May 2022 14:00:23 -0400

We're finally discussing SEX! In this episode, we discuss the responsibility and vulnerability of sex, while I share some insecurities about eye contact and how it's a means of sexual sorcery. Get ready for a deep dive!

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Episode 3 - Selling Manipulation Aisle-1

Wed, 11 May 2022 14:05:22 -0400

In this episode, I share, for the first and last time, a recent experience with someone who violated my sacred space and dash in a little pop culture. Mercury and her micro-braids in my 7th House of Relationships!? Oh hell nah!?

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Episode 2 - Uncross Yaself

Wed, 04 May 2022 14:00:28 -0400

TW: Themes in this episode discuss being spiritually unalive

In today's episode, I share my experience with The AfroMystic's Grandmaw Maw Clara's uncrossing bath. The biggest revelation...PROTECT YA HEAD. Interested in learning more about the uncrossing bath I used, click here.

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Episode 1 - All About Attention

Wed, 27 Apr 2022 14:00:22 -0400

Welcome to the first episode of the Say It With Sex podcast! Today, I'm sharing a bit of my shadow work with attention and how it affects my romantic interactions with men. I offer some perspective in the midst of my revelation and a sneak peek of what to expect from the Say It With Sex podcast -- audio musings from The Muse's Lab.

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Say It With Sex Podcast - The Trailer

Sun, 24 Apr 2022 19:49:54 -0400

Welcome to the Say It With Sex podcast! So excited to finally get this up and running. Dropping in with a quick note for newbies to The Muse's Lab and the Say It With Sex experience.

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