New View Advice

142: The Final Episode of New View Advice

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 03:00:00 -0700

This is the last episode of New View Advice podcast! This is truly the end of an era for me, and I am so grateful for every single person who has ever listened to this podcast. In this episode I share my gratitude, talk a bit about my decision to end of the podcast, and I offer my last 10 pieces of advice for the journey of healing, and also life in general.

Timestamps

Introduction to the Last Episode - 0:00
What to Expect Moving Forward - 5:07
My 10 Pieces of Advice - 13:04
Outro - 20:15

Ways to stay connected with me:

Visit newviewadvice.com for updates, blog posts, poems, and more
Send me an email at newviewadvice@gmail.com
Subscribe to my Youtube channel - @newviewadvice

Thank you so much for being a part of this journey with me. It wouldn't have been possible without all of you. I am forever grateful and cheering you on as you continue your healing journey 🩵

141: Lover's Crossroads: Does It Have to Be Love or Independence?

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I dive into a listener’s question about feeling conflicted between being with someone special and embracing a period of independence.

We’ll explore indecision, fear of the unknown, and the pressure to make the “right” choice. I’ll also talk about how many women are sold the idea that independence means being alone, and why committing to your choice is so important.

I also offer many different questions throughout the episode to reflect on to help you to decide what path is most aligned with you and your heart. My intention is to help you to find clarity and a new view on your own crossroads and life.

🕓 Timestamps

Introduction :05
Listener Question: 2:29
Outro: 38:13

🔗 Today's Episode Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/141

❤️ More Resources from New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

140: How to Embrace Courage Over Fear

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700

Welcome back to New View Advice! After taking a short break, I’m excited to return with an episode all about courage. In this episode I share –

What is courage? What does it really mean?
Why is courage important for the healing journey?
Why do so many of us struggle to be courageous even though we know we want to be brave?
4 Steps for stepping towards courage today

This episode is inspired by my own life. Recently, I’ve noticed that many loud and performative people are labeled as courageous, and I’ve found myself wondering – is that true courage? And if not, what is true courage? So in this episode we discuss how I believe true courage is often quiet and vulnerable. It shows up in those small, everyday moments—like feeling your feelings, setting boundaries, or choosing to show up for yourself even when it’s hard.

I hope this episode helps you to see you’re more courageous than you know, and helps you to continue on the brave path of healing and following your heart.

🕓 Timestamps

Introduction :05
Courage Discussion 3:50
Outro: 30:41

🔗 Today's Episode Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/140

❤️ More Resources from New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

139: Woman-to-Woman Sexual Assault: Healing from Betrayal & Exploring Workplace Grooming

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I address the rarely discussed topic of woman-to-woman sexual assault. I respond to a listener who shares her story of being sexually assaulted by a coworker she trusted and saw as a close friend and mentor.

We explore the painful reality that sharing a similar cultural background does not guarantee safety. I also explain what grooming looks, discuss workplace grooming, and outline key characteristics. Throughout, we discuss the complex feelings of broken trust, self-blame, and the unique grief when harm comes from someone familiar.

As a rape survivor myself, I emphasize the importance of releasing self-blame — if you’ve experienced sexual violence, it is not your fault. While everyone’s healing journey is different, I offer guidance and advice on how to begin moving forward.

I also share a poem.

Please listen at your own pace. If you are a survivor, know you are not alone and healing is possible. Sending you all my love.

🔗 Resources & Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/139

❤️ Sexual Trauma Healing Hub: https://www.newviewadvice.com/healing-sexual-trauma

✍️ Poem Shared in this Episode: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems-for-the-healing-journey/do-you-live-with-regrets-poem

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

138: Burnout at Work: Signs, Causes, and Burnout Recovery

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0700

Feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure if your job is still right for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about burnout at work—what it really feels like, how to recognize the signs of burnout, and how to begin healing without rushing to quit.

We’ll explore:

What burnout actually is (beyond just being tired)
The most common burnout symptoms and causes
Why people-pleasing, over-empathizing, and perfectionism can lead to burnout
How difficult coworkers can influence burnout
Reflective questions to help you better understand your burnout
How to slow down, set boundaries, and begin true burnout recovery

Whether you're questioning your job or just feeling drained, this conversation will help you reconnect back to yourself and help you to begin to heal.

🕘 Timestamps:

Intro: 05
Listener Question: 1:40
Outro: 29:25

🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/138

🎶 Choosing a New View Music Playlist to Help You Feel Inspired

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

137: Why Do I Cry Every Night Since He Broke My Heart?

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain still lingers—grief, the stories we tell ourselves, the impact of toxic relationships, identity loss, and old wounds that heartbreak can reopen. I discuss why healing can feel so hard, share new perspectives, and offer gentle, actionable tips to help you start moving forward.

🕘 Timestamps:

Intro: 05
Listener Question: 2:20
Outro: 25:29

🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/137

✨ For more resources, check out the New View Advice Heartbreak Healing Hub

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

136: Grieving a Friendship Breakup That Turned Romantic

Wed, 06 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0700

Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close friendship becomes romantic — and then ends.

Whether you're experiencing a friendship breakup, a "friends-to-lovers" heartbreak, or navigating unspoken feelings, I offer compassionate advice to help you process the pain, find closure (even if it's one-sided), and validate your emotions.

🎙️ In this episode:

How to grieve a friendship breakup with romantic feelings involved
Why blurred boundaries can deepen the heartbreak
Self-blame, red flags, and learning to trust yourself again
Healing after queer friendships and relationships end
Tips for protecting your heart and rebuilding your social support
Unique challenges in queer friendships and relationships — and how to navigate them with care

🕘 Timestamps:

Intro: 05
Listener Question: 2:02
Outro: 25:33

🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/136

✨ More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

135: The Pain of Loving Who You Can’t Have: Overcoming Limerence & Fantasies with Self-Love & Compassion

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies.

Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience using fantasy as a coping mechanism and how uncovering the roots of these feelings can lead to genuine healing and a more loving relationship with yourself.

Timestamps:

Intro: 05
Listener Question: 2:26
Outro: 36:48

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/135

More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

134: Triggered by Your Partner’s Parents? Finding Safety, Healing, and Self-Compassion

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations. I focus on strategies for regaining your sense of safety, honoring your feelings, and navigating triggers rooted in past family dynamics. This episode is focused on healing and restoring inner-balance. I also talk about the importance of self-compassion and inner child work, while offering guidance for anyone dealing with unsupportive or judgmental in-laws. To round out the episode, I read one of my own poems inspired by small-mindedness, reminding us all that other people’s cruelty is rarely about us. Join me as I hold space for both heartbreak and healing on your journey.

Timestamps:

Intro: :05
Listener Question: 1:46
Poem: 29:03
Outro: 30:13

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/134

More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

133: Living Without Justice: Healing When Your Rapist Isn’t Punished

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purpose after trauma. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, you are not alone. I am sending you so much love.

If you need support:

RAINN 24/7 Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.org

Free online community: aftersilence.org/forum

Neither of these resources are affiliated with New View Advice. They’re simply here in case you need support today. Please take care of yourself. 🙏

Timestamps:

Intro – 0:05
Listener Question – 2:14
Outro – 28:44

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/133

Reflections #2: Check It Out on Youtube

More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

132: I Can’t Change Him, Now What? The Quiet Strain of Addiction in Relationships

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance doesn’t always mean giving up.

For more on this topic, I recommend you check out episodes 128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You and 131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?

Timestamps

Intro :05
Listener Question: 1:41
Outro: 16:23

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/132

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisions, and honoring your own healing journey.

Timestamps

Intro: :05
Question: 2:10
Outro: 20:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/131

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

130: Healing After Female Friendship Breakups

Wed, 28 May 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups.

Timestamps

Intro: :05
Poem: 2:28
Question: 3:42
Outro: 24:11

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/130

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

129: How to Begin Again When Life Feels Unfair - Starting at Square One

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 08:30:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once. I offer compassionate advice on reframing the narrative around “square one” moments, emphasizing that new beginnings are natural and often become the foundations of our most aligned lives. My intentions is to provide comfort and actionable steps for anyone feeling stuck or lost. Tune in for a compassionate conversation on embracing change, letting go of unfair expectations, and stepping into newfound hope—no matter how tough the reset. You’re not alone, and you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 3:00
Outro: 25:53

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/129

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t hold you back, and how maybe you are your own soulmate.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 2:44
Outro: 27:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/128

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

127: Why Talking About Sexual Assault is Hard & Tools to Help You Begin

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My intention is to guide you on your journey healing from sexual violence and also reassure you that this was never your fault and you are not alone.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 1:58
Outro: 29:25

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/127

Blog Post: Why I Can't Stop Talking About Rape

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

126: What to Do When Things Don't Go According to Plan

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 3:19
Outro: 28:28

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/126

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

125: What is EMDR and How EMDR Can Help You on the Healing Journey with Kelly Schooner

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have any follow up questions about EMDR, reach out to Amanda at contact@newviewadvice.com and we can do a follow up episode. Thanks for listening!

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Chat with Kelly about EMDR: 1:45
Outro: 53:15

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/125

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

124: Feeling Frustrated: What to Do When Overwhelmed with Frustration

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it. As always I emphasize the value of being kind to oneself, acknowledging feelings as part of the human experience, and finding ways to relax and calm the nervous system.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 2:13
Outro: 22:03

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/124

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

123: Loneliness After an Affair: How to Forgive Yourself for Cheating

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves. We discuss why it’s important to be supported throughout the healing journey, the importance of beginning to communicate with partners, and self-compassion. We also dive into discussing inner child work and how the inner child and looking at childhood wounding can help us understand infidelity and relationship patterns better.

Check out the New View Advice Infidelity Hub - newviewadvice.com/infidelityhub

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 2:50
Outro: 27:56

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/123

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

122: What Does It Mean if I Fail at Love?

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections. For anyone embarking on a second chance for love, this episode is here to reassure you that you are worthy of love.

This episode is a great follow up to episode 120 – Why Am I Scared of Love?

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 1:53
Outro: 22:31

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/122

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

121: Too Good to be True?: Why Fear & Anxiety Arise When Life is Good

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0700

What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true? In today’s episode I answer a question from a listener who is struggling with anxiety, fear, and overwhelm because they are afraid of “the other shoe dropping” during a happy time in their life. They faced many challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic, and now that things are on the up and up, they find themselves afraid of everything falling apart. I discuss why we struggle to be happy, the importance of compassion, and how to navigate anxiety and other hard feelings when things feel too good to be true.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 2:04
Outro: 27:29

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/121

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

120: Why Am I Scared of Love?

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.” This episode is for anyone who’s afraid of love but is ready to embrace it rather than pull away. If you’ve struggled with opening your heart, this episode offers insights to help you move through those fears. You deserve the love you desire, and it’s time to lean in.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 1:58
Outro: 25:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/120

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

119: How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming, how it's a very human (and unavoidable) experience, how to recognize fear cycles, and strategies to move past them.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:05
Listener Question: 2:14
Outro: 26:10

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/119

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

117: “Good” vs “Bad” Therapy: How to Find a Good Therapist with Katie Landrum

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences. We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist. We also discuss how to prepare for your first session if you have never been ro therapy and what we believe the most important thing to remember is when beginning your therapy journey.

Timestamps

Introduction: 00:15
Conversation with Katie: 2:25
Outro: 40:14

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/117

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

116: Prioritizing Mental Health: Amanda's Thoughts on 2024 & Suggestions for Improving Mental Health

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media. I also discuss how the healing journey impacts mental health and how for me healing from rape and family dynamics has continued to impact my mental health. I also discuss a few suggestions that have helped me to improve my mental health on a daily basis.

Timestamps

Introduction: 00:15
Mental Health Convo: 2:26
Suggestions for Improving Mental Health: 16:16
Outro: 29:57

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/116

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

115: Holiday Season Sadness & Depression: Embracing Self-Love & Reconnecting with Your Inner Child

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0700

Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season.

Happy Holidays from me, Amanda Durocher! Thank you all for your continued support!

Timestamps

Introduction: 00:15
Listener Question: 2:12
Outro: 21:38

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/115

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

114: How to Be Comfortable with Physical Touch After Sexual Assault

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body . My intention is to help you connect back with yourself while also assuring you that it's okay no matter where you are at on your journey. You are healing.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 2:37
Outro: 28:27

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/114

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

113: Repressed Memories of Childhood Trauma: How to Trust Yourself & Your Body

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 2:47
Outro: 30:44

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/113

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love <3

112: Why Do I Seek Parental Validation as an Adult?

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in your experience, and offer you ways to begin healing from these fears and how we can begin to validate and love ourselves, one step at a time.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 1:45
Outro: 35:28

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/112

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

111: Sexual Assault by a Family Member: Navigating Family Relationships After Trauma

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family. We discuss how to navigate hard conversations with family after sexual trauma, the importance of creating safety, and why sometimes we need to set boundaries.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 3:09
Outro: 31:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/111

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

110: Should I Stay or Should I Leave?

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship. In this episode, we learn about trusting our intuition and listening to our bodies when we are making challenging and important life decisions. We also discuss why it’s important to take the pressure off these large decisions, the importance of empathy in relationships, and practicing self-forgiveness.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 1:43
Outro: 24:20

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/110

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

Reflections #1 - That Time the Guy Who Raped Me Got Engaged & I Lost My Sh*t

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0700

Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about a time I got really really angry after finding out that one of the guys that raped me got engaged. I share this story as an inside look at what it can look like to heal from trauma and to hopefully help someone out there who may have intense feelings and not be sure if they are normal. I know that I judged myself for this moment in time for a long time, but now see it happened because I had a lot of anger I had been ignoring for a long time, and that it is perfectly normal to have a lot of hard feelings.

Timestamps

0:00 Introduction
2:31 Story - That Time the Guy Who Raped Me Got Engaged & I Lost My Sh*t
6:45 Final Thoughts

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Mentioned in this episode:

Listen to Reflections: Stories Healing from Rape

Listen to the entire series here - https://feeds.captivate.fm/reflections-newviewadvice/ Or on Youtube here - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2jlhvzlnUvYEc3tkwYy2bd9P-buRo7la&si=mDX1OWUpHlQCw4wR

109: Embracing Creativity as a Trauma Survivor: Let the Pressure Go & Begin Creating

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the “right” way.I share personal insights and advice on embracing the messy, emotional journey of creativity. I talk about the importance of releasing pressure and perfectionism, embracing the anger, processing difficult feelings such as shame and guilt, and leveraging creativity as a healing tool.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 2:06
Outro: 28:58

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/109

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

108: How to Support Yourself After Sexual Assault, Rape, & Sexual Trauma

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to feel safe in their bodies again, take their power back, and navigate the journey towards a new normal. Drawing from my own personal experiences and a listener question, I provide heartfelt guidance aimed at helping survivors feel less alone and more empowered on their healing journey.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Poem: 2:00
Listener Question: 3:27
Outro: 26:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/108

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

107: How to Forgive Yourself for Regrets: Regretting Telling the Truth

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the truth and questions whether it was the right thing to do. I offer guidance on how to process our feelings of regret and how to let go of past burdens.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Listener Question: 2:04
Outro: 26:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/107

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

106: Why Do I Always Feel Alone? Healing from the Feeling of Loneliness

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0700

Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they always feel lonely. I discuss the feeling of loneliness, how it is present for so many of us, and how we can begin to heal, feel, and process feeling lonely. My intention for this episode is to offer you a new view on feeling lonely as well as help you to feel less alone, no matter where you are on your healing journey. I also give a life update, and discuss my own healing journey.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Life Update: 4:07
Listener Question: 16:54
Outro: 41:27

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/106

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

105: Grief of a Break Up: Feeling & Navigating the Break Up Grieving Process

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener moving through the break up grieving process. I talk about the grief we feel at the end of a relationship and how so often the grief stage lasts longer than we expect it to. I offer a new view on healing from a broken heart and why this process will take as long as it’s going to take, and that there is nothing wrong with that. My intention is to assist you in feeling less alone, letting go of judgement around your situation, and offering you a few tools to help you grieve the end of your relationship.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Question: 1:24
Outro: 17:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/105

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

104: 6 Pillars of the Self-Love System: How Practicing Self-Love Helps Us to Feel Enough for Loving Relationships

Wed, 12 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode I outline my Self-Love System and the 6 pillars for practicing self-love. By practicing the self-love system, you will learn how to love yourself one step at a time. Through self-love you will remember your worth, enoughness, and lovability, and feel confident attracting the love you are seeking. My intention is to assist you in remembering your own worth and helping you to feel confident in finding love.

Timestamps

Introduction: 0:15
Poem: 2:21
Question: 3:43
6 Pillars of Self-Love: 9:01
Outro: 25:20

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/104

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

103: Self-Love: Why So Many People Struggle with Self-Love & Why Self-Compassion is the Key

Wed, 05 Jun 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode we talk about self-love. I answer a question from a listener who wants to know how do you love yourself if you can't remember a time when you ever loved yourself. I also talk about why so many struggle with self-love and why self-compassion is the key. I also share a poem I wrote and that can be found on my website.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:15
Poem: 2:20
Question: 3:28
Outro: 19:22

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/103

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

101: Can You Cheat on Someone Who You Aren’t Technically Dating?

Wed, 15 May 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know whether they need to feel guilty for cheating on someone they aren’t technically dating? We will explore the feelings of guilt and learn why avoiding difficult conversations with partners and lovers can lead to unforeseen difficulties down the road. By the end of this episode, you will have a new view on guilt and new tools for processing guilt and handling tough situations in relationships.

Timestamps

Introduction: 00:15
Listener Question: 1:15
Outro: 22:37

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/101

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

100: Get to Know Amanda Durocher: Why I Started New View Advice & Reflections on 100 Episodes

Wed, 08 May 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In honor of New View Advice’s 100th episode, Amanda Durocher gives a behind-the-scenes look into why she started the podcast and what she has learned on her healing journey. Amanda discusses her passion for helping trauma survivors and anyone seeking guidance along any type of healing journey. This episode features questions about starting new view advice, entrepreneurship, and the continued support of the new view advice community. Thank you to everyone in the New View Advice community for your support as we reach 100 episodes!

Timestamps

Introduction: 00:15
Questions: 1:18
Outro: 27:18

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/100

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

99: Imposter Syndrome at Work: How to Identify & Overcome Being an Imposter

Wed, 01 May 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, Amanda Durocher discusses imposter syndrome and why these feelings often have nothing to do with your current job or situation. Imposter syndrome is often a form of self-sabotage and self-doubt and we don’t even realize it. By the end of this episode, you will learn to embrace self-kindness and identify the root causes from your past that are causing you to feel like an imposter at work.

Timestamps

Introduction: 00:15
Listener Question: 1:26
Outro: 24:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/99

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

98: How to Support Survivors of Sexual Assault, Rape, & Sexual Trauma

Wed, 24 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0700

This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, alone, and confused. In this episode, I will outline six steps for how to support a loved one who has experienced sexual trauma and also the importance of helping yourself throughout this process. My intention is to support you in learning more about the experience of being a sexual assault survivor and also assist you in navigating this difficult situation. After this episode, I invite you to check out the episode shownotes for this episode (link below). Also, if you are a survivor of sexual violence, I invite you to share this with loved ones so they can learn how to better support you throughout your healing journey.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Listener Question: 02:06
Outro: 26:27

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/98

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

97: I Am Afraid to Put Myself Out There: Fear of Abandonment & Embracing Courage & Vulnerability

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone who enjoys being alone, but still struggles to put themselves out into the world authentically. They desire connection, but fear being left all alone or unaccepted. I discuss abandonment and how it is often connected to self-abandonment, and how these moments throughout our life can leave an impact on us and our hearts. My intention is to help you to see that vulnerability can be scary, but it’s also really courageous. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. My hope is that through this episode you see your own bravery and feel inspired to be yourself. There’s no one like you and you deserve to express yourself in your own unique way.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Listener Question: 01:45
Outro: 24:21

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/97

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

96: Help! I'm in Love with My Best Friend

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0700

What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don’t know what to do. I discuss how to navigate this situation, steps to gain clarity around the relationship, how to be honest with yourself and your friend, and how to decide if you should remain friends or let the relationship go. My intention is to help you to access your feelings and connect back to yourself so you can have confidence in what is best for you.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Listener Question: 01:32
Outro: 23:00

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/96

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

95: Reflections on the Healing Journey

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here if you are looking for some inspiration, hope, or a new view on the healing journey.

For episode show notes & transcript, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/95

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

94: How to Develop Emotional Maturity as an Adult

Wed, 20 Mar 2024 03:00:00 -0700

This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you’d like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain relationships you can be emotionally immature? Or do you struggle to handle or process your emotions? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who read the book Adult Children on Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson and not only saw their parents’ behaviors in the book, but through self-reflection they realized they too possess some of these immature behaviors. In this episode, I outline 4 steps on how to develop emotional maturity. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to build emotional maturity, embrace your humanity, practice self-compassion, and lean into feeling your feelings.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Listener Question: 2:07
Outro: 23:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/94

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

93: EMDR: What I Wish Someone Told Me Before Starting EMDR

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is starting EMDR and wants an honest opinion from someone who has done EMDR before. I talk about my own experience with EMDR and share 7 things I wish I knew before starting EMDR. My hope is that for anyone considering EMDR or currently in the process this episode will help you to better understand how EMDR can help to desensitize the really intense feelings attached to the memories of traumatic events, but also how EMDR may fall short in other areas. Full disclaimer - this episode is based on my own experiences using EMDR over the last 5 years. I am not a medical professional and this is not medical advice.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:14
Listener Question: 02:08
Outro: 23:01

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/93

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

92: Honoring Our Ancestors & Letting Go of the Guilt and Suffering of the Past

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don’t continue to talk about it, then you are not honoring your family? This is a follow up episode 90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma. In this episode, I focus on how to honor our ancestors and their experiences, while letting go of the guilt for leaving behind their suffering and trauma. Healing generational trauma involves taking the wisdom, lesson, and pearls from our ancestors, and being comfortable leaving behind the suffering. In this episode, I discuss how and why we honor our ancestors, and how doing this will help us to free ourselves of the guilt and shame so many of us are carrying. I discuss how generational trauma often feels like baggage and what we can do to begin to let go of that heavy burden.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Honoring Our Ancestors Teaching: 01:57
Outro: 22:54

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/92

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

91: Why Do I Date Bad Men?: Feeling Naive & The Importance of Empathy

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating “bad” men and not even know why it is happening. Today I am answering a question from a listener who grew up without a male role model and now finds herself in a pattern of dating men who hurt her. My intention for this episode is to help you to see that there’s nothing wrong with you, why you should have love and empathy for yourself, why many women feel naive, and how to start changing the pattern so you can attract good partners.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:14
Listener Question: 1:12
Outro: 22:39

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/91

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I will be discussing generational trauma and how to heal from the impact of our parents and family’s unresolved trauma. We will focus on trauma that is passed down from our parents to us and how we can begin to break the cycle so we do not pass that trauma onto future generations. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who sees the impact of their parents' unresolved trauma on their life and wants to break the cycle in order to not impact future generations with this trauma. My intention is to help you begin your journey to healing generational trauma through a three step process I outline throughout the episode.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:14
Listener Question: 1:37
Outro: 26:46

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/90

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

89: Healing Low Self-Esteem & Building Self-Confidence (One Step at a Time)

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -0700

So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build confidence. In this episode, I will share learnings from my own experiences healing my self-esteem, insecurities, and self-worth. I share four areas where I think many people’s insecurities and low self-esteem originate, and I also discuss four steps for building confidence in your own life. My intention for this episode is to assist you in healing your insecurities and building your self-esteem and self-worth one step at a time. You deserve to feel secure and confident in who you are. My hope is that after you listen to this episode you will feel empowered to take steps towards your building confidence in yourself. I also share a poem at the beginning that helped me on a day recently when I was feeling insecure. I hope you enjoy!

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:15
Poem: 01:54
Listener Question: 04:25
Outro: 34:00

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/89

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

88: Men & Vulnerability: How to Practice Vulnerability in Your Relationship & Why Criticism Hurts

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by her criticisms of him. In this episode, we will learn about how society and culture impacts male vulnerability and how women can often have unrealistic expectations of men. This episode is about honoring the male experience and we’ll discuss how to ask your partner to honor your feelings. I also discuss how women (who are in romantic partnerships with men) can begin looking at their own patterns around men and their expectations of men in relationships.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Listener Question: 02:52
Outro: 38:59

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/88

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

87: Why Am I Triggered by Being a Third Wheel? Processing Feelings of Sadness, Jealousy, and Not Being Enough

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don’t want to be a third wheel? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who has been single for awhile and enjoys time alone, but struggles with feeling like a third wheel. In this episode I will be helping this listener to dive deeper into their insecurity of not feeling like they are enough, when boundaries are what we need vs when boundaries are too rigid, and processing feelings of jealousy, sadness, and not fitting in. My intention for this episode is to help you to bring self-awareness to your triggers around being a third wheel, understand why you feel the way you do, and begin to free yourself from hard feelings and past experiences in order to feel more secure in the present.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Listener Question: 01:46
Outro: 26:33

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/87

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

86: Why Perseverance is Important for the Healing Journey

Wed, 24 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to continue to move forward. I also discuss my own healing journey and how I have learned to persevere over time, and that perseverance and hard work were not qualities that came naturally to me, but skills I developed throughout healing.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Why Perseverance Is Important for Healing Journey: 2:49
Outro: 23:16

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/86

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

85: Love Letter to the New View Advice Community

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to take a moment to thank you from my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. Sending you all my love.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Love Letter: 01:00
Outro: 4:24

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/85

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

84: Healing the Female Friendship Wound

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have a female friendship wound. In this episode, we discuss how to heal the female friendship wound. I’ll be answering a question from a listener looking for advice on unhealthy female friendships. This listener recently went through a friendship break up, and sees a pattern, but doesn’t know where to start. She has struggled throughout their life to keep female friends. As women, we all desire deep connection with other women, and my intention for this episode is to assist you with healing the female friendship wound, become aware of where your friendship patterns originated from, grieve past friendships, and begin to embrace friendships from a heart-centered and empowered place.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Listener Question: 02:07
What is the female friendship wound: 4:21
5 Steps for Healing the Female Friendship Wound: 17:54
Outro: 33:51

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/84

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

83: Steps to Overcome Fear: Why Do I Fear Everything & Have So Many Fearful Thoughts and Anxiety?

Wed, 13 Dec 2023 09:00:00 -0700

Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I’ll be discussing what to do when we are living life with fear, general anxiety, or anticipatory anxiety over things that we can’t predict or control. I’ll be answering a question from a listener who is struggling with feeling like they are afraid of everything and always coming up with worst case scenarios (such as constantly thinking about a loved one dying). My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to move out of fear-based thinking and into loving thoughts that will help you be more peaceful and grounded in your day-to-day life. We will also discuss where fearful thoughts come from, why we have so many fear based thoughts, and fear vs love.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Question: 02:00
Steps to Overcome Fear: 11:37
Outro: 30:33

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/83

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

82: How to Survive the Holidays as a People Pleaser or Empath: 5 Tips to Find Joy this Holiday Season

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who struggles with the holidays because of people pleasing tendencies and being an empath. I talk about what it means to be a people pleaser and where this pattern often originates from, and what it means to be an empath and why many people pleasers are also empaths. I will also be outlining 5 steps that I recommend for overcoming stress and overwhelm this holiday season. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to find balance this holiday season and feel joyful and excited for the holidays.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Question: 01:50
5 Tips: 14:32
Outro: 40:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/82

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

81: Help! My Boyfriend’s Parents Don’t Approve Because I’m From a Different Culture: Navigating Family Relationships, Disagreements, and the Decision to Wait or Move On

Wed, 29 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is struggling after a break up. Her and her ex broke up because his family did not approve of her because she is from a different culture. They have struggled to communicate about the problem and now she wants to know if she should wait for him or if it’s time to move on. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to navigate familial relationships when you are both from different cultures, backgrounds, and religions, learn to communicate effectively, and how to confidently decide what is best for you, waiting for your ex or moving on.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Question: 01:30
Outro: 27:18

For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/81

Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

80: Why Does Disappointment Hurt So Much? How to Navigate Feeling Disappointed

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 09:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them feeling down and defeated. We will learn how disappointment is often our psyche’s way of telling us that we have unrealistic expectations or that we are attached to a future outcome rather than living in the present. My intention for this episode is to help you in understanding that although disappointment can really hurt, it’s not a punishment or a bad thing and that it is actually an opportunity to get honest with yourself and realign your life to the present moment.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:00
Question About Disappointment: 1:44
Outro: 26:28

Episode Shownotes: https://www.newviewadvice.com/80

Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

79: Healing Your Inner Teenager: Why Beliefs from Your Teen Years are Still Impacting Your Life

Wed, 08 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0700

It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we create in our teenage years, and why the root of many of our adult problems are actually based on those untrue beliefs about life that we developed in our teen years. My intention for this episode is to assist you in connecting back with your inner teenager so that you can identify and heal your inner teenager and start living your best life.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:14
Inner Teenager Discussion: 2:23
Outro: 34:18

For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/79

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

78: Rebuilding Self-Worth After Sexual Assault & Rape

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0700

This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after experiencing sexual assault or rape?” After sexual trauma, many survivors continue to suffer from lingering feelings of low self-worth, fear, anxiety, depression, and feeling stuck or lost. In this episode, I am going to dive into self-worth, why your sense of self-worth is impacted by sexual assault and rape, and how to begin the process of rebuilding your self-worth one step at a time.

❤️ Healing from Sexual Trauma Hub: https://www.newviewadvice.com/healing-sexual-trauma

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Question 1: 2:16
Outro: 25:46

For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/78

More Resources from New View Advice, including free journal prompts, meditations, poems, blog posts, and more: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love.

77: Denial after Infidelity: How to Tell if You are in Denial or Listening to Your Heart

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are being honest with ourselves. In this episode, I answer two listener questions, one from a listener who is conflicted after finding out that their partner cheated again, and one from a listener who wants to know why she keeps making excuses for her partner’s infidelity. My intention for this episode is to help you to begin to bring awareness to denial in your own life so that you can stop the pattern, learn to trust your feelings and intuition, and start taking actions and healing. This episode is focused on infidelity, but is relevant for anyone who often wondering whether they are denying their feelings and emotions.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Question 1: 2:35
Question 2: 28:28
Outro: 40:53

For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/77

❤️ More Resources from New View Advice, including free journal prompts, meditations, poems, blog posts, and more: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love.

76: Why Do I Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough? How to Heal the Feelings of Low Self-Worth, Shame, and Inadequacy

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Have you ever felt like you aren’t enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren’t you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have you ever felt like you aren’t good for your partner or to be in a relationship? Or maybe you feel like you just can’t ever get it right at work? In this episode, we will discuss why so many of us struggle with not feeling like we are enough. We will discuss the tough feelings you may feel and identify the root cause for these beliefs. My intention for this episode is for you to feel less alone and to help you start healing your core wounds because you deserve to feel worthy and enough.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 00:15
Why Do I Feel I’m Not Enough?: 02:09
Outro: 39:43

For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/76

Interested in more free resources? Check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

75: How to Heal Feelings of Rejection in Relationships (Fear of Rejection)

Wed, 11 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, embarrassment, or shame. The fear of rejection can be overwhelming and can have other impacts on your life as well. In this episode, I discuss rejection, what rejection is, why it is so painful, and how to heal from feeling rejected in relationships. I also answer two listener questions: one from someone who recently felt rejected by someone they had been spending time with and someone else who felt rejected after getting physical with someone. By the end of this episode, you will learn how to start processing your past feelings of rejection or your fear or rejection so you can learn to trust again and show up in the world as your best authentic self.

Timestamps ⏱️

Rejection Overview: 1:59
Question 1: 23:06
Question 2: 33:35
Outro: 47:13

For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/75

Interested in more free resources? Check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

74: Learnings from Grief & Death: Why Grief Can Lead to Major Life Changes & Grieving the Loss of a Dog

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Grieving the death of loved ones is always difficult, but it presents the opportunity to learn more about life and ourselves. In this episode, I talk about my experiences with grief and three lessons grief has taught me in my own life. I also answer two listener questions. One question from a listener who wants to know if it’s normal for grief to cause a person to rethink many aspects of their life and a second question from a listener grieving the loss of a dog. In the second question, I also discuss the 7 stages of grief.

Timestamps ⏱️

Introduction: 0:00
3 Lessons I’ve Learned from Grief : 3:49
Question 1 (Reevaluating Life After Grief): 13:38
Question 2 (Death of a Pet): 26:20
Outro: 37:11

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/74

Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

73: How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship after Trust is Broken: Healing After Hurting Loved Ones and How to Forgive Yourself

Wed, 27 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -0700

How do we forgive ourselves when we betray someone else's trust? How do we heal the feelings of anger, resentment, and self-judgement? How do we learn to trust ourselves again? In this episode, I answer two questions about how to rebuild trust in relationships and also with ourselves. I also discuss the importance of self-care when we are healing from hurting loved ones and why it is important to become self-aware regarding our actions. I also give a life-update at the beginning of the episode for anyone interested in what I've been up to between seasons 2 and 3.

TIMESTAMPS

Intro: 00:15
Life Update: 2:27
Question 1: 13:52
Question 2: 33:07
Outro: 45:48

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/73

Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

71: Religious/Spiritual Trauma and Catholic Guilt: How to Heal Past Experiences, Find Your Truth, and Empower Yourself

Wed, 02 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -0700

When it comes to religious and spiritual trauma, religious institutions, spiritual leaders, and family dynamics can lead to hurtful or abusive experiences that can leave lasting impacts. In this episode, we are going to discuss how to start healing from religious/spiritual trauma and empower yourself to develop your own relationship with a higher power (if you choose to do so). I will also talk about my own experience with religion and my path to reconciling my own core truth vs. my family’s. I also answer a listener question about someone who cheated on their partner and is experiencing “catholic guilt.”

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction - 0:00
Teaching - 5:44
Amanda’s Experience - 7:54
Listener Question - 34:38

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/71

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

70: Pandemic Hangover: How to Heal Your Post-Covid Mental and Emotional Health (Anxiety and Depression) and Reacclimate to the Post-Pandemic World

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Following the Covid-19 pandemic, many people still struggle with pandemic hangover, the lingering emotional and mental health side effects from pandemic. In this episode, you are going to learn that healing from a pandemic hangover is similar to healing grief and you will also learn the steps necessary to heal from the anxiety and depression that you likely felt during those uncertain times. My mission for this episode is to assist you in healing your lingering and unresolved feelings from the covid-19 pandemic so that you can show up as your authentic self in the post-pandemic world. I also answer a listener question about how to heal from a post-covid rut.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction - 0:00
What is a Pandemic Hangover? - 3:06
Steps for Healing Pandemic Hangover - 18:36
Question 1 - 29:51

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/70

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

69: Cheater’s Guilt & Shame: How to Heal Yourself and Your Relationship after Emotional and Physical Infidelity

Wed, 05 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Cheater’s guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity, but are often misunderstood by social media and the movies. In this episode, my intention is to explore why the feelings of guilt and shame arise after someone cheats on their husband/wife/partner and my approach to processing the hard feelings so that you can focus on self-forgiveness and compassion. The first listener question is from someone who still feels unbearable guilt even though their partner forgave them for a drunken one night stand. The second listener question is from someone struggling with self-compassion and forgiveness after cheating on their partner. By the end of the episode, I hope you have a new view on infidelity.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction - 0:00
Question 1 - 3:13
Question 2 - 25:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/69

If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

68: Emotional Abuse & Gaslighting: How to Heal from Relationships with Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, and Lying

Wed, 28 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Emotional abuse in romantic partnerships, families, and friendships can be scary and confusing because many forms of emotional abuse are subtle and committed by people we love. In this episode, my intention is to bring awareness to emotional abuse by discussing what it is, common warning signs, discuss what gaslighting is and why some people gaslight, and how it can look different in every relationship. I also answers two listener questions about healing from emotional abuse in relationships with romantic partners.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction - 0:00
What is Emotional Abuse - 3:07
Signs of Emotional Abuse - 9:48
Gaslighting - 10:28
How to Heal from Emotional Abuse - 22:00
Question 1 - 30:02
Question 2 - 42:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/68

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

67: Healing from Broken Trust, Trust Issues & Betrayal: Learning to Trust Ourselves & How to Rebuild Trust in Relationships

Wed, 14 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Trust in a relationship is built over time, but can be lost in a moment. When trust is broken, for example with infidelity/cheating, the feelings of betrayal can be intense and people often develop trust issues. But how do you re-learn how to trust yourself and your intuition? In this episode, you will learn how to start healing from the betrayal so that you can begin rebuilding trust in your relationship and with yourself. I also answer two questions, one from someone who keeps having their trust broken and feels like it is their fault, and another from a listener wondering if they can trust themselves to decide if they can trust someone who cheated on them.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction - 0:00
What is Trust? - 1:51
How to Develop Trust? - 3:17
Question 1 - 7:08
Question 2 - 22:48

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/67

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

66: The Father Wound (or Daddy Issues): How to Heal from Absent Fathers and Emotionally Unavailable Fathers (& Fatherly Caregivers)

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0700

The Father wound consists of unresolved feelings, pain, and wounding caused by your relationship with your father or a fatherly caregiver. Informally known as “Daddy Issues”, people downplay its impact on mental health for sons and daughters. In this episode, I explore the father wound, identify the root causes and symptoms of the father wound, and how it can impact your adult relationships. My mission for this episode is to help you bring awareness to your relationship with your father or father figure and teach you how to start healing your wound so that you stop playing out unhealthy patterns in your current relationships. I also answer a question from a listener whose father was absent and a question from a listener healing from an emotionally distant father after a divorce.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction 0:00
What is the father wound? 3:34
Signs You May Have a Father Wound 12:40
Symptoms of the Father Wound 14:11
How to Heal from the Father Wound? 16:54
Question 1 - Absent Father 23:40
Question 2 - Emotionally Unavailable Father 34:14

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/66

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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65: Overcoming Self-Doubt: 4 Tips to Heal & Overcome Self-Doubt in Your Life

Wed, 31 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Many of us who struggle with self-doubt feel alone and the feelings of self-doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety can be debilitating and all-consuming. The truth is everyone experiences self-doubt at one point or another. In this episode, I discuss what self-doubt is, where self-doubt comes from, and 4 tips for overcoming and healing self-doubt.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction 0:00
What is Self-Doubt? 2:30
Tip 1: 10:51
Tip 2: 13:14
Tip 3: 16:07
Tip 4:18

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/65

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64: Unrequited Love & Limerence: What's Unrequited Love & How to Heal from Unrequited Love & Limerence

Wed, 24 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Unrequited love occurs when one person “loves” someone who does not love them back. Unrequited love feels difficult so difficult to heal because there are real feelings of rejection and heartbreak. In this episode, I explore the underlying root causes of unrequited love and explain how to heal these hard feelings so that you can embrace the potential for real love in the future. I also answer a listener question from someone who loves a coworker who does not love them back.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction 0:00
What is Unrequited Love? 2:49
How to Heal from Unrequited Love? 20:39
Listener Question 28:11

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/64

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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63: Cheating in Relationships & Hard Feelings: Learning to Process Guilt & How to Handle Conflict After Infidelity

Wed, 17 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Healing from infidelity involves learning how to process hard feelings. This is true for people who have cheated and been cheated on in a relationship. In today’s episode, I answer a question from someone who is processing guilt after cheating in a relationship and another question from someone looking for advice on how to handle conflict after infidelity.

Timestamps:

Introduction 0:00
Listener Question 4:22
Listener Question 23:23

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/63

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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62: How to Heal a Broken Heart: Advice for Healing from Heartbreak & Moving On After a Break Up with No Closure

Mon, 08 May 2023 09:00:00 -0700

Healing from a broken heart is challenging and many people struggle with moving on after a breakup because they feel depressed and alone. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is searching for healing after the end of a relationship and another question from someone who is looking for advice on how to heal after a breakup with no closure.

Timestamps:

Introduction - 0:00
Listener Question 1 - 7:43
Listener Question 2 - 24:30
Episode Wrap Up - 41:10

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/62

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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61: Healing from Dissociation and the Returning of Memories

Wed, 03 May 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Disassociation can sound scary and overwhelming, but is actually much more common than we think. Disassociation is a trauma response and can become a patterned response to stress and overwhelm, and often looks like disengaging and disconnecting from the present moment. In this episode I talk about what disassociation is, why it’s nothing to be afraid of, and how to begin healing. I discuss my own process with disassociation and the returning of traumatic memories. I also answer a listener question from someone who is moving through the process of having memories return and wants advice if they should tell their partner or continue to keep this a secret.

Timestamps:

Introduction - 0:20
Teaching - 2:45
Listener Question 1 - 17:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/61

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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60: Healing from Sexual Assault and Rape: Should I Press Charges and Where Should I Begin When Healing from Rape

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 04:32:00 -0700

Healing from sexual assault and rape takes time, patience, and a lot of support. In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is deciding whether or not to press charges in regards to their sexual assault. I also answer a question from someone who was recently raped and is having many feelings and does not know where to start. This is the third episode I have done on healing from sexual assault and rape. Please listen to episodes 46: Healing Sexual Trauma: Recovering from Sexual Assault & Rape through Healing One Layer at a Time and 8: Healing from Rape & Sexual Assault: Learning to Love Ourselves Again After Sexual Violence for more teachings and to learn more.

If you or someone you know is struggling to heal from sexual assault, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or visit https://www.rainn.org/ to learn more. Please take care of yourself.

Timestamps:

Introduction - 0:00
Listener Question 1 - 12:22
Listener Question 2 - 22:24
Episode Wrap Up - 33:12

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/60

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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59: Why Self-Compassion is Important and How to Start Being Self-Compassionate Today

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 09:00:00 -0700

Self-compassion is an important tool for not only healing trauma and heartbreak, but also for living a happy life. In my own life, I have found self-compassion to be crucial when I am feeling sad, lost, upset, and self-critical. In today’s episode, I define self-compassion, share self-compassion practices, and discuss acclaimed author Kristen Neff’s three elements of self-compassion.

Timestamps:

Introduction - 0:00
What is Self-Compassion? - 11:32
Kristen Neff’s 3 Elements of Self-Compassion - 12:32
Why is Self-Compassion important for the Healing Journey? - 18:18
How to practice Self-Compassion? - 21:03

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/59

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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58: Workplace Anxiety: How to Heal Imposter Syndrome & Deal with a Difficult Boss

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 09:00:00 -0700

Workplace anxiety occurs when we feel anxious or stressed because of demanding jobs or confrontational coworkers and bosses. The symptoms of workplace anxiety can also have negative impacts on our family and personal lives. In this episode, I explain what work anxiety is, discuss the process for identifying the causes/triggers, and provide tools to help ease and heal work anxiety. I also answer a listener question from someone struggling with imposter syndrome and another person who loves their job but gets anxious around their boss.

Timestamps:

Intro - 0:00
Teaching on Workplace Anxiety - 10:31
What causes Workplace Anxiety - 11:41
Question 1 - Imposter Syndrome - 19:38
Question 2 - Dealing with a Difficult Boss - 35:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/58

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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57: We Both Cheated on Each Other: Advice for Moving Forward After Affairs

Wed, 22 Mar 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Is it possible for a relationship to work when both people have cheated on each other? In this episode, I answer two questions from listeners who want to make their relationships work, but are both struggling with feelings of guilt, resentment, and mistrust. I also explain why it's okay for you to have all your feelings, why it's okay to be lonely, and how to start your healing journey to move forward from infidelity. I also dive into whether telling the truth is always the best solution for your relationship.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
2:00: Listener Question
15:40: Listener Question

Interested in learning more about healing from infidelity? I have many more episodes on this topic, including 22: Cheating in Relationships Advice: Healing From Cheating & Being Cheated On, 29: How to Heal from Being Cheated On in Relationships, and 31: "I Cheated On My Partner While Drinking": Advice for Healing.

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/57

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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56: How to Stop a Negative Thought Cycle: The 4 Cs

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Everyone has negative thoughts, and sometimes these thoughts can even spiral and create negative thought cycles that we have trouble getting out of. In this episode, I outline my 4 step process (The 4 Cs) to help you stop a negative thought cycle in its tracks.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
1:37: Step 1 - Catch It
3:30: Step 2 - Cue Breathing
5:08: Step 3 - Curious
6:36: Step 4 - Compassion

For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/56

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55: Overcoming the Long Term Effects of Bullying: Healing Low Self-Esteem, Abandonment Wound, & Mean Friends

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 03:00:00 -0700

The wounds created from bullying and being bullied can impact our lives long after the instances of bullying have occurred. In this episode, I discuss the long term effects bullying has had in my own life, specifically low self-esteem and self-doubt. I also discuss more long-term effects of bullying and how to heal. I also answer a listener question about healing from the fear of abandonment from friends, as well as a listener healing from having mean friends.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
2:12: Teaching
19:28: Long Term Effects of Bullying
20:27: Healing Long Term Effects
26:42: Question 1 - Abandonment Wound
34:48: Question 2 - Healing from “Mean” friends

This is my third episode on bullying, if interested in learning more, be sure to check out Episode 15: Healing from Bullying: How Being Bullied in the Past May be Affecting Your Present and Episode 20: Healing from Bullying (Part 2): Embracing Self-Love & Self Acceptance as well.

For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/55

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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54: How Porn Addiction Impacts Relationships

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Oftentimes when we discuss porn addiction, we only discuss it from the view point of the person dealing with porn addiction, but the truth is that porn addiction impacts the people in the relationships with those suffering from the addiction as well. In today's episode, I talk about what porn addiction is, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and I answer two questions: one from someone angry at their partner for being addicted to porn and another from someone trying to figure out how to move forward after learning about their partner's porn addiction and infidelity.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:40: Teaching
14:27: Listener Question 1
26:15: Listener Question 2

For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/54

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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53: 3 Things that Helped Me to Heal from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 03:00:00 -0700

PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) is a common side-effect of experiencing trauma. In this episode I discuss my own journey with PTSD, my post traumatic stress disorder symptoms, and three things that helped me to heal from PTSD.

Timestamps:

0:00: Introduction
00:32: What is PTSD?
5:21: 1st thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD
12:11: 2nd thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD
17:17: 3rd thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD
21:27: Honorary Mention

For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/53

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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52: Why Feeling Anger & Rage is Important & How to Release Your Anger & Rage in a Good Way

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Anger and rage are natural feelings and are important to feel for your healing journey and your mental health. Many people try to numb their triggers, bottle up their rage, and manage their angry feelings inside from a young age. In this episode, I’m going to define anger and rage and talk about the importance of feeling your anger and rage, why you shouldn't fear your anger and rage, why so many people are afraid of these emotions, and practices and suggestions for how to release your anger in a healthy way and how to release anger without hurting anyone.

Timestamps:

0:00: Introduction
2:54: Why it’s important to feel your anger and rage
9:27: Why society is afraid of its anger and rage
15:43: How to feel your anger and rage in a good way

For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/52

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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51: How to Heal from Infidelity with Andrea Giles

Wed, 08 Feb 2023 03:00:00 -0700

This week I have a special guest Andrea Giles, Infidelity Coach and host of the Heal from Infidelity podcast on how to heal from cheating in relationships. Andrea and I discuss what to do when you’re at the beginning of your healing journey, how to heal emotionally, and why so many people can feel impatient and frustrated. We also answer two listener questions - one about how to heal resentment and how to decide whether to stay or go, and another about anger and rage and if there has to be something wrong in a relationship for cheating to occur.

Timestamps:

0:00 Introduction to Episode
1:55 Intro with Andrea Giles
11:21 Listener Question 1
28:55 Listener Question 2

For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/51

Learn more about Andrea Giles: https://andreagiles.com/

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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50: What is Self-Care & Why It's Important for the Healing Journey

Wed, 01 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Self-care is a popular “buzz word” and is often quoted in lyrics and on social media, but what does it actually mean? You may think it is treating yourself to fun activities and gifts, but in reality that is only one small aspect of self-care. I believe self-care has a broad definition and will look different for everyone. Self-care is one of the most important foundational blocks for the healing journey and should not be ignored. In this episode, I discuss what self-care is, why it's important, and I offer 3 practices to assist you in connecting with your own heart and what self-care you need today.

Timestamps:

0:00: Introduction
1:52: What is self-care
13:50: Why Self-Care is Not Selfish
15:38: Why is Self-Care Important
24:27: 3 Self-Care Tips

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/50

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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49: Healing Body Image Issues: Advice for Body Image Acceptance & Healing Negative Self-Talk

Wed, 25 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Body image issues negatively impact so many people in today’s world. Healing your relationship with your body and learning to love and accept your body often takes time and patience. In today’s episode, I discuss my own healing journey with body image issues, three ways I recommend for beginning to heal and love your body, and I answer a listener question about how to stop the negative thought spirals about body image.

Timestamps

Introduction (0:00-2:15)
Three factors that helped me heal my relationship with my body (2:15-15:45)
Three Practices to Assist with Healing Body Image Issues (15:45-25:30)
Listener Question (25:30-38:58)

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/49

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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48: 4 Steps for Letting Go of Expectations of Yourself and Others

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0700

Setting unrealistic expectations for yourself and others can lead to a repeating cycle of disappointment and frustration. In this episode, I outline my four-step process to help you release the pattern of unrealistic expectations so you can come back to the present moment and objectively re-evaluate your situation. Focusing on goal setting and setting realistic and attainable goals for yourself is one of the keys to unlocking your happiness.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
2:40: Teaching
7:43: Four Step Process for Letting Go of Expectations (Step 1: Acknowledge & Bring Awareness)
13:48: Step 2: Forgive yourself
16:35: Step 3: Reevaluate
20:47: Step 4: Practice Self-Compassion

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/48

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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47: The Mother Wound: Advice for Healing Your Relationship with Your Mother

Wed, 21 Dec 2022 08:30:00 -0700

The mother wound is the pain caused by your relationship with your mother. This can happen through your relationship or through witnessing how your mother interacts with the world. In this episode, I discuss the mother wound, what it is, and how we can begin to heal. I also answer a question from someone who feels town between their mother and a new relationship and doesn’t know if they can continue to live with their mother, and someone who wants to heal their relationship with their critical mother.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
4:50 Teaching
22:23 Listener Question 1
38:50 Listener Question 2
50:52 3 Journal Prompts

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/47

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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46: Healing Sexual Trauma: Recovering from Sexual Assault & Rape through Healing One Layer at a Time

Wed, 14 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Healing sexual trauma takes time. Many people wish to rush the process, but unfortunately it’s a journey that takes time, patience, and a lot of self-compassion. In this episode, I dive into my own healing journey and story of being raped in my teens. I also answer a question from someone looking for closure after being raped, and someone who feels read to begin looking at the layers of their sexual assault, but doesn’t know where to start.

*Trigger warning - this episode goes into detail about sexual violence.

🩵 Check out the New View Advice Healing Sexual Trauma Hub here - newviewadvice.com/healing-sexual-trauma

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:04: Disclaimer
4:40: Episode Breakdown
5:10: Teaching & Personal Story
21:23: Listener Question 1
38:29: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/46

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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45: Adult Children of Divorce: Healing the Effects of Your Parents' Divorce

Wed, 07 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Many adults today are living with the wounding, trauma, and effects of their parents' divorce. Divorce affects all those involved, not just the two getting divorced. In today's episode, I discuss how divorce affects people of all ages. I answer one question from a listener who was a child when their parents got divorced and wants to know how to heal from it. I also answer a question from an adult whose parents are getting divorced today, and the listener wants to know how to feel and process this experience.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
1:16: Teaching
8:37: Listener Question 1
28:58: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/45

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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44: Advice for Depression: How to Move through Seasons of Depression with Self-Care, Self-Awareness, & Self-Compassion

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0700

Depression is a common problem for many, including those who have experienced trauma during their lives. In this episode, I discuss my own journey with depression and how the symptoms can manifest differently for everyone. I answer one question from someone with pandemic depression and doesn’t know what to do, and another from someone who has been depressed since being injured. I offer advice on how to begin the healing journey with self-care, self-awareness, and self-compassion.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:27: Teaching
16:12: Listener Question 1
36:50: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/44

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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43: Family Dynamics & The Holidays: How to Set Boundaries & Prioritize Yourself (Part 2)

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0700

The holidays are filled with joy, but also can bring up triggers and family dynamics that want to be healed. In this episode, I discuss family dynamics and the different roles we can play in our family structures. I also answer a question about how to set boundaries around the holidays and how to prioritize yourself when you feel stressed this holiday season.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
6:40 What are family dynamics?
15:25 Listener Question 1
31:57 Listener Question 2
46:16 Outro

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/43

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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42: Family & Relationships: My Family Doesn’t Approve of My Partner & I Don’t Like My Boyfriend’s Family

Wed, 09 Nov 2022 09:30:00 -0700

In today’s episode, I discuss how difficult family dynamics and triggering relationships are a beautiful opportunity for growth and healing. I answer one question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate with their family that they are back with an ex who cheated on them, and another question from someone asking what to do if you don’t like your partner’s family.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
8:13: Listener Question 1
26:45: Listener Question 2
42:37: Outro

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/42

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I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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41: 10 Lessons from My 30th Year

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I discuss 10 lessons I learned over the past year on my own healing journey. These lessons and learnings include that new things will always be new and scary, I’m grateful to be sober, I am enough exactly as I am, and many more.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:29: Lesson 1
10:11: Lesson 2
13:33: Lesson 3
19:18: Lesson 4
21:49: Lesson 5
25:07: Lesson 6
30:03: Lesson 7
31:56: Lesson 8
35:11: Lesson 9
41:25: Lesson 10

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/41

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40: Cheating: Being the Other Woman & Should I Tell His Girlfriend He Cheated (With Me)

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer a question from someone wondering, “why am I ok with being the other woman?” And I offer advice to someone who recently found out that they were “the other woman” and is debating whether or not to tell his girlfriend that he cheated on them.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:20: Listener Question 1
23:04: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/40

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39: Advice for Healing & Feeling Sad About Getting Older & Feeling Sad About Being Single

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Everyone experiences feelings of sadness throughout their life. In this episode, I answer a question from someone feeling sad that they are almost 30, and another question from someone who is sad that they are still single. I also spend time at the beginning of this episode talking about my own healing journey with self-trust.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:09: Amanda’s Healing Journey
14:40: Listener Question 1
32:00: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/39

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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37: Healing Your Grieving Heart: Feeling the Feelings of Grief

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Grief is one of the best teachers for the human experience. We learn so much from grieving the death of loved ones, but it’s not an easy journey. In this episode, I discuss my own journey with grief, and answer two questions about feeling the feelings of grief.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
7:59 Listener Question 1
26:16 Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/37

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

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36: Healing & Feeling Relationship Resentment: How to Let Go of Resentment

Wed, 21 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Feelings of resentment in romantic relationships can leave us feeling hopeless and bitter. In this episode, I explore the causes of resentment and how to let go of resentment. I answer one question from someone who resents their partner for giving away their cherished possessions, and another question from someone struggling with feeling resentment towards an ex who they have chosen to remain friends with.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
5:11: Listener Question 1
21:06: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/36

For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

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35: Relationship Communication: How to Talk About Emotions & Feelings in a Relationship

Wed, 14 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Healthy communication creates safety, trust, and intimacy in relationships. Unfortunately, many of us did not learn how to communicate in healthy ways when we were younger, and can end up playing out unhealthy communication patterns when we are adults. In this episode, I talk about codependency, what it is, and why it’s often the culprit to unhealthy communication patterns. I also answer a question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate with an anxious partner, and another question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate about sensitive issues.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
14:00: Listener Question 1
36:33: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/35

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34: Break Up Advice: Should I Get Back Together With My Ex?

Wed, 07 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I answer questions from listeners who are questioning whether they should get back together with their ex after a break up. The first question is from a listener whose long-term relationship ended because of infidelity, but is now wondering whether they should take back their ex. The second questions is from a listener who feels torn between giving his partner another chance or letting the relationship go. Throughout the episode, I offer different perspectives and questions to ask yourself when deciding if it’s the right choice to get back together with your ex and tools for healing hard feelings.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:52: Listener Question 1
30:47: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/34

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32: Healing Cheating Regrets: Advice for Forgiving Yourself After Cheating in a Relationship

Wed, 24 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Many people who cheat on their partners find it hard to move on and forgive themselves. They can often live with regrets for years. In today’s episode, I answer two questions from people carrying around the burdens of the past and who are having trouble moving forward. I answer one question from someone wondering if they should send a letter to their ex about their cheating, and another question from someone who finds that the waves of regret about how they handled their break up still arise in their life years later.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:30: Listener Question 1
19:08: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/32

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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31: "I Cheated On My Partner While Drinking": Advice for Healing

Wed, 17 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0700

This episode focuses on questions about how to heal from cheating on your partner, specifically when alcohol was involved. Over the past few months I have received many questions from listeners who cheated on their partners when they had been drinking and now regret it. Today I start with focusing on how and why it’s important to become curious about our relationship with alcohol in order to heal. I also answer a question about how to start this journey of healing from cheating in a relationship, and another question from someone who doesn’t know why they cheated and is looking for help forgiving themselves.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
8:13: Teaching
23:57: Listener Question 1
35:51: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/31

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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30: Healing from Infidelity: Advice for Healing Rejection & Emotional Cheating in Relationships

Wed, 10 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0700

This episode is a follow up to Ep 29: How to Heal from Being Cheated On in Relationships. In this episode, we continue the conversation about healing from being cheated on. We discuss is emotional cheating as bad as sexual cheating, what to do if you’re only staying with someone who’s cheated because children are involved, and how to heal from emotional and sexual rejection.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:54: Listener Question 1
29:05: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/30

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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29: How to Heal from Being Cheated On in Relationships

Wed, 03 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0700

Healing from being cheated on in a relationship takes time, patience, and a lot of self-love. In this week’s episode I answer two questions, one from someone who was cheated on in their relationship and wants to know if taking someone back who’s cheated is the best choice for them, and one about why do people who were cheated on return to the relationships that hurt them. I also talk about forgiveness and why we choose to forgive for ourselves, not for anyone else.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
7:51 Teaching
17:59 Listener Question 1
32:27 Listener Question 2
51:07 Outro

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/29

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24: Healing Past Relationships: How Your Past Relationships Can Affect Your Future Relationships

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Often times we don't give ourselves the time we need to fully move through past relationships, so the patterns and beliefs from old relationships can end up affecting our present day lives. In this episode, I discuss how traumatic past relationships can be and how to heal and move forward. I also answer a question from someone who is just now see the effects of a past relationship, and someone healing from a toxic relationship.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
6:31: Teaching
20:13: Listener Question 1
35:53: Listener Question 2
55:25: Outro

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/24

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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23: Body Image Advice: Healing Our Relationships with our Bodies, Body Size, & Weight

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Unfortunately in today's world, having an unhealthy relationship with our body can be all too common. I, for one, have felt like I am at war with my body for many years. Today I talk openly about my own struggles with body image. I also answer 2 questions: one from someone who has always felt like the "fat friend" and one from someone who has stopped eating due to anxiety.

If you feel like you need help with an eating disorder, please reach out to the National Eating Disorder Hotline at (800) 931-2237 or visit their website here.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
5:13: Teaching
18:18: Listener Question 1
29:19: Listener Question 2
40:24: Outro

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/23

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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Sending you so much love!

22: Cheating in Relationships Advice: Healing from Cheating & Being Cheated On

Wed, 24 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0700

Cheating can be traumatic for all people involved. Not only does it involve heartbreak, but it involves an extra layer of betrayal that can take time to heal. In this episode, I discuss the cheating wound, and I answer a question from someone who cheats and is looking to change, and also someone who is having a hard time moving on from being cheated on.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
5:12: Teaching
25:35: Listener Question 1
41:41: Listener Question 2
57:16: Outro

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/22

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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21: Family Dynamics & The Holidays: Healing our Family Triggers

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0700

The holidays are a great time for healing. Oftentimes our families can trigger childhood wounds, and by bringing awareness to these triggers we can begin to heal our family patterns. In this episode, I discuss family patterns and triggers, and how to heal them. I also answer two questions about how to stay sane this holiday season, and how to start healing your relationship with your family.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:14: Teaching
14:25: Listener Question 1
26:45: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/21

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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20: Healing from Bullying (Part 2): Embracing Self-Love & Self Acceptance

Wed, 03 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0700

The effects of bullying can manifest in our lives in all different ways. In this episode, I dive into the details of how I recently healed layers of my bully wound by looking at the effects of “mean girls” from my high school, and what it looked like for me to do the inner work around this trauma. I also answer a question from someone with low self-esteem from childhood bullying, and someone who wants to move forward and stop caring what childhood bullies think of them today.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
5:46: Teaching
26:10: Listener Question 1
41:53: Listener Question 2

Looking for more on healing from bullying? Check out Episode 15: Healing from Bully: How Being Bullied in the Past May be Affecting Your Present.

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/20

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19: Comparison & Social Media: Healing from Comparison Syndrome

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0700

With a world filled with social media, many of us find ourselves comparing our lives to others more than ever before. The result of this is comparison syndrome. In today’s episode, I discuss why comparison holds us back, what I’ve learned about comparison in my own life, how to start looking at our triggers around comparison and jealousy, and why it’s important to not let comparison stop you from following your dreams.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:14: Teaching
14:25: Listener Question 1
27:19: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/19

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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18: Sobriety: Lessons and Guidance from My Sober Journey

Wed, 13 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0700

Sobriety has been such a gift I’ve given myself, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. In this episode, I give an update of where I’m at with my sober journey, and I discuss the moment I knew I needed to change my relationship with alcohol. I also answer two questions - the first is from a person looking for advice on how to stick with sobriety (especially when times are hard) and the second is about how forgiveness is a key step throughout our sober journeys.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
3:31 Teaching
26:02 Listener Question 1
42:48 Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/18

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17: Why Life is Unfair: How When We Stop Believing Life Is Supposed to Be Fair We Can Empower Ourselves to Move Forward

Wed, 06 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I discuss why I believe life isn't fair and how when we can let go of the lie that life was ever supposed to be fair, we can empower ourselves to move forward and heal. I also talk about how healing from childhood sexual assault taught me this lesson and how by realizing life was never meant to be fair, I was able to move forward. I also answer 2 questions - one about someone's relationship with their alcoholic mother and an athlete who's injury has left them no longer able to play sports and how this has left them feeling sad and that life isn't fair.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
6:58: Teaching
24:50: Listener Question 1
42:37: Listener Question 2

*This episode contains discussion of child sexual assault. Listener discretion advised.

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/17

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16: Grief Guilt: How to Heal Your Relationship with Guilt Throughout the Grieving Process

Wed, 29 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0700

When healing from the death of loved ones, the feeling of guilt can often arise. In this episode, I talk about how guilt is normal while grieving, and different times when I felt guilty throughout the grieving process. I also answer questions from a person who feels guilty dating after the loss of a husband and a listener who feels guilt for not being so grief-stricken.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:54: Teaching
21:44: Listener Question 1
34:55: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/16

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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15: Healing from Bullying: How Being Bullied in the Past May be Affecting Your Present

Wed, 22 Sep 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Bullying can be very traumatic and have long-term effects in our lives. In this episode, I talk about how bullying from my past was affecting my present, how being raped manifested as a bully wound, and how I recognized my trigger and healed this pattern. I also answer questions about how a past rumor can still affect the present, and how to heal from the trauma of being bullied by a "mean girl."

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
4:09: Teaching
20:34: Listener Question 1
44:22: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/15

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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14: My Sober Journey: Why I Decided to Do 12 Months of Sobriety

Mon, 09 Aug 2021 09:00:00 -0700

This episode is in response to a TikTok I created that went viral about what she's learned during her first 6 months of being sober. In this episode I discuss why I decided to go sober for 12 months, how often I was drinking before, how to handle boredom, the upsides and downsides of sobriety, advice for feeling your feelings, and if I plan on drinking again.

Timestamps

0:00 Intro
3:10: Question 1
10:29: Question 2
17:47: Question 3
25:22: Question 4
30:22: Question 5

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/14

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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13: Learning to Trust Yourself & How to Connect to Your Intuition

Mon, 02 Aug 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Trust is essential to the healing journey and connecting to yourself. Many people don't know how to trust themselves after trauma, so in this episode, Amanda discusses why learning to trust yourself is so important, what it means when you feel unsupported by the universe, how to connect to your intuition, and how to trust yourself when making a big decision.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
1:01: Teaching
10:46: Listener Question 1
22:31: Listener Question 2
38:00: Listener Question 3

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/13

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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12: Friend Breakups: Healing from Friendships, Gossip, and How to Know When to End a Friendship

Mon, 26 Jul 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Friendship breakups are really common, but often are filled with shame and can be left unhealed. Though these breakups are painful, friendships can be one of our greatest teachers and it's important to take the time to heal and move through the grieving process. In today's episode, I answer questions about the end of friendships, healing from gossip culture, and how to know when it's time to end a friendship.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
0:36: Teaching
9:42: Listener Question 1
24:07: Listener Question 2

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/12

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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11: Jobs, Careers, and Finding Fulfillment: Advice on Burnout and How to Know When It's Time to Switch Careers

Mon, 19 Jul 2021 09:00:00 -0700

On average, people spend 30% of their lives working. Because of this, it is so important to find a career that is fulfilling and can bring you happiness. In this episode, I answer questions from someone who is unhappy working 24/7, a teacher who feels burnt out, and a person who finds themselves unhappy in their first job.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
9:36: Listener Question 1
24:56: Listener Question 2
38:38: Listener Question 3

For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/11

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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10: Coping with Alcohol, Food, and Shopping: Moving from Unhealthy to Healthy Coping Strategies

Mon, 12 Jul 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Many of us use unhealthy coping strategies as a way to avoid feeling our feelings. In today's episode, Amanda answers questions about three different unhealthy coping strategies - using alcohol, food, and shopping to cope with difficult feelings - and how to become curious about why we may be using these unhealthy coping mechanisms and how to start finding healthy ways to engage with life and process our feelings.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
8:01: Listener Question 1
23:00: Listener Question 2

For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/10

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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9: Anxiety Relief: Healing Anxious Thoughts, Social Anxiety, and the Fear of the Future

Tue, 29 Jun 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Anxiety can make it difficult to live in the present moment. In this episode, Amanda talks about why so many people suffer from constant anxiety, how to start looking at your fears and anxiety, how to start grounding and relieving your anxiety today, and how to start healing your anxious thoughts.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
5:59: Listener Question 1
23:21: Listener Question 2

For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/9

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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8: Healing from Rape & Sexual Assault: Learning to Love Ourselves Again After Sexual Violence

Mon, 21 Jun 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Sexual Assault and rape is all too common. These traumatic events often leave survivors feeling lost, confused, and hopeless. In this episode, Amanda discusses why it was not your fault, how to move past self-blame, how to forgive yourself, and the importance of healing this immense trauma.

*Trigger warning - this episode goes into detail about sexual violence.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
3:25: Teaching
13:39: Listener Question 1
36:52: Listener Question 2
59:29: Outro

For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/8

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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7: Healing from Heartbreak: How to Heal, Feel, and Forgive a Break Up

Mon, 14 Jun 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Heartbreak is inevitable. Everyone experiences heartbreak at one time or another, and it's important that we allow ourselves to move through the feelings and to go through the stages of grief. In today's episode Amanda answers questions on break ups, ghosting, and how to forgive yourself for breaking up with someone.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
6:16: Listener Question 1
22:47: Listener Question 2
36:55: Listener Question 3

For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/7

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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6: Conscious Relationship Advice: How to Let Go of Control & Codependency in Relationships

Mon, 31 May 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Relationships can be challenging, and also very rewarding. In this episode, Amanda offers advice on how to become more conscious in your relationship, as well as answers questions about how to let go of controlling your partner, what to do when you've been in an on and off again relationship, and what to do if your partner doesn't support you making changes in your life.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
5:08: Listener Question 1
26:34: Listener Question 2

For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/6

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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5: Back to Basics: Self-Love, Inner Child, & Forgiveness

Mon, 17 May 2021 09:00:00 -0700

Amanda decides to go back to basics for this episode, and discuss what self-love, how to get in touch with your inner child, and why forgiveness is so important.

Timestamps:

0:00: Intro
2:29: What is Self-Love and Why is it important?
20:06: What is the Inner Child?
37:50: Why is Forgiveness important?

For the episode show notes, visit: https://newviewadvice.com/5

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

4: Let's Talk About Suicide: Healing from the Death of Loved Ones By Suicide

Mon, 10 May 2021 08:45:00 -0700

Suicide and suicidal thoughts are all too common in today's society. In this episode, Amanda answers questions about how to heal from the death of loved ones who have died by suicide and how to handle and ask for help when suicidal thoughts arise.

For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/4

If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Please take care of yourself.

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

3: Grief is a B*tch: Advice on How to Heal from Grief and the Death of Loved Ones

Mon, 03 May 2021 02:00:00 -0700

Grief can be one of life's greatest teachers, but if we don't deal with our grief it can start to wreak havoc in our lives, which is why Amanda is so passionate about discussing grief and the grieving process. In this episode, Amanda answers questions about grieving the death of a parent, balancing grief and motherhood, and how to transmute our anxieties about death into momentum to live life to the fullest in every present moment.

Timestamps

0:00: Intro
9:12: Listener Question 1
23:24: Listener Question 2
35:57: Listener Question 3

For the full show notes, visit https://newviewadvice.com/3

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

2: Advice on Life In the Pandemic: Dealing with Depression, Relationships, & Becoming Sober Curious

Mon, 26 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0700

No one expected to live through a pandemic. We have spent a lot of time discussing our physical health, but in this episode, Amanda dives into how the pandemic has impacted our mental health. Amanda answers questions on dealing with feeling depressed, being in a relationship while quarantining, and becoming sober curious.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
2:57 Listener Question 1
17:12 Listener Question 2

For the full show notes, visit https://newviewadvice.com/2

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

1: Introducing New View Advice

Mon, 26 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0700

In this first episode of New View Advice, Amanda introduces herself and the podcast. You’ll learn why Amanda started New View Advice and how it’s different from other advice columns, her goals for the podcast, topics you can expect moving forward, and how to submit questions for future episodes.

Timestamps

0:00 Intro
1:06 Why did I start this podcast?
11:25 What kind of topics can you expect to hear?
13:09 How can you submit a question?

Check out the full show notes at https://newviewadvice.com/1

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Trailer: New View Advice

Wed, 07 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0700

In “New View Advice,” host Amanda Durocher answers listener questions by offering healing-centered advice about various topics, including relationships, trauma, rape, grief, mental health, and so much more.

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!