Other Peoples Parenting

How To Talk To Teens - Turning Eye Rolls into actual Conversations

Wed, 03 Jun 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we dive into communication between parents and their teenage children, centering around the book "How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. We explore the authors' theory that effective communication methods are crucial for fostering understanding and empathy in familial relationships, particularly during the tumultuous teenage years. The discussion highlights various techniques that parents can employ to enhance their interactions, emphasizing the importance of listening and responding to their children’s feelings without resorting to punishment. This episode serves as a valuable resource for parents navigating the complexities of adolescence while seeking to maintain open and constructive dialogues with their children.

Takeaways:

In this episode, we discussed the parenting book titled 'How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk', highlighting its unique first-person narrative style, which is uncommon in parenting literature.
We emphasized the importance of effective communication techniques outlined in the book, which aim to foster better relationships between parents and their teenagers, reducing conflict.
The episode highlighted that the problems teens face today differ from those mentioned in the book, yet the communication strategies proposed remain relevant and useful.
We noted that the book is concise, filled with illustrations which aid in understanding, making it accessible and engaging for parents dealing with challenging adolescent situations.
During the discussion, we explored the significance of expressing feelings without resorting to insults, advocating for empathy in conversations with teenagers.
We concluded that while the authors have passed, their teachings continue through workshops that assist parents in learning how to effectively communicate with their children.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Teen
TestingMom.com
Study Island
Moby Max Brain
Pop Scholastic
Dr. Becky
Adele Faber
Elaine Mazlish

Fat Talk - How to Parent in a World Obsessed with Weight

Wed, 27 May 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we explore the book "Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture," which delves into the relationship between parenting, body image, and societal expectations regarding weight. We examine how diet culture impacts both parents and children and the detrimental effects of fat bias and the often harmful messaging surrounding weight. We discuss fostering an environment where children can appreciate their bodies, regardless of societal standards. By addressing the challenges parents face in navigating these complex issues, we aim to provide insights that promote a healthier, more compassionate approach to body image within families. As we dissect the book we reflect on our own experiences and the broader implications for raising children in a culture fixated on thinness.

We reflect on our own experiences, revealing how societal pressures have shaped our understanding of weight and parenting. We advocate for a paradigm shift in how we perceive fatness, emphasizing the importance of fostering a nurturing environment that encourages self-acceptance and body positivity in children. We also explore the practical aspects presented in Smith's book, particularly the language parents use when discussing body image with their children. They highlight the detrimental effects of negative rhetoric surrounding weight and the need to cultivate conversations that promote acceptance and love. By sharing anecdotes from the book, we illustrate the psychological consequences of weight bullying and the impact of diet culture on children's mental health. The episode serves as a vital reminder of the responsibility parents hold in shaping their children's perceptions of their bodies and the importance of fostering a culture of acceptance that transcends societal standards. We critique the broader societal implications of diet culture, especially within educational institutions. We express concern over practices such as BMI screenings in schools, which we argue can exacerbate anxiety and body image issues among children. We advocate for a more holistic approach to health that prioritizes mental well-being over numerical assessments of fitness. This episode is a clarion call for societal change, urging listeners to engage in conversations that support body diversity and challenge the harmful narratives that dominate contemporary culture.

Takeaways:

This episode delves into the profound impact of diet culture on parenting and child development.
The book discussed, 'Fat Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture,' offers critical insights into body image issues.
Parents are encouraged to foster a positive body image in their children, emphasizing acceptance over criticism.
The podcast highlights the harmful consequences of weight stigmatization and the importance of understanding body diversity.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

New York Times
Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Virginia Soul Smith
American Academy of Pediatrics
Meta
Instagram
TikTok
Lizzo
Megan Thee Stallion
Ashley Graham
Paloma El Cesar
Kelly Clarkson

Good Inside - The Parenting Rules Most of Us Weren’t Taught.

Wed, 20 May 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -The focus is the exploration of Dr. Becky Kennedy's parenting philosophy as articulated in her book "Good Inside." We consider that misbehavior in children serves as a window into their emotional states and unmet needs, rather than a reflection of their character. Throughout the discussion, we examine the significance of fostering emotional intelligence and resilience in children, emphasizing the necessity for parents to approach conflicts with empathy and understanding. We also appreciate the book's structured approach, which offers practical frameworks and specific strategies for addressing common parenting challenges, thereby equipping caregivers with the tools necessary for effective guidance. This episode covers the transformative power of nurturing a compassionate, connected relationship between parents and their children.

Takeaways:

In this episode, we explore Dr. Becky Kennedy's book, "Good Inside," which provides valuable insights into understanding children's behavior beyond mere discipline.
The podcast emphasizes the importance of viewing misbehavior as a clue to a child's emotional needs rather than a reflection of their character.
Listeners are encouraged to adopt the perspective of assuming the best in children, known as the 'most generous interpretation', to foster better communication.
A critical takeaway from the discussion includes recognizing that children's emotional development is influenced by their early years and the attachment they form with caregivers.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Dr. Becky Kennedy
Testing Mom

Being There - The First Three Years Don’t Come With A Redo Button.

Wed, 13 May 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we discuss the importance of maternal presence during the formative years of a child's life, as posed by Erica Commissar's book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." We talk through our opposite opinions of the content, particularly regarding the implications of a mother's absence and the societal pressures surrounding motherhood and career aspirations. The conversation covers balancing professional obligations with the emotional and developmental needs of children, emphasizing that while some aspects of the book resonate, others warrant scrutiny due to their potential to induce guilt in working mothers. We advocate for a more inclusive perspective that recognizes the nature of parenting and the varied circumstances that families encounter.

This book focuses on the compelling argument that a mother's presence during the years of infancy is paramount to the emotional and psychological development of the child. Throughout our discussion, we dissect the author's assertions, noting that while one of us finds profound resonance in the author's perspective, the other perceives an overtly prescriptive stance that may not universally apply. The conversation covers the delicate balance between maternal employment and child-rearing, ultimately questioning the societal implications of the author's thesis.

Takeaways:

This episode examines the book 'Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters', authored by Erica Commissar.
We explore our differing interpretations of the book's core thesis, focusing on maternal presence during early childhood.
We expressed concerns about the implications of guilt placed upon working mothers by the book's arguments.
The discussion also emphasized the need for societal support for working mothers, noting that economic factors often dictate parenting choices.
The podcast highlights the importance of being emotionally present for children, regardless of whether the mother can stay home full-time.
The episode concludes with a reflection on the balance between career and motherhood, advocating for individual choice in parenting.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Erica Commissar
Gail Sheehy
Dr. Ellen Jacobs
Kardashians
Testing Mom

Mom Groups - Because Parenting Isn’t Stressful Enough.

Wed, 06 May 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - the discussion revolves around the dynamics of mom groups, an exploration prompted by recent discussions surrounding the experiences of celebrities like Ashley Tisdale. We explore the nature of these groups, which can range from supportive and nurturing to toxic and exclusionary, reflecting the complexities of female friendships. We highlight both the challenges and benefits associated with motherhood and communal support, emphasizing that while some groups may foster camaraderie and understanding, others can perpetuate feelings of isolation and inadequacy. The discussion also touches upon the importance of moderation and the potential need for structured guidance within these social circles, as evidenced by the experiences of a long-standing mom group that has successfully navigated interpersonal conflicts over the years. We invite listeners to consider the significance of finding or cultivating a healthy support system in their parenting journeys, as the right group can profoundly impact one’s experience of motherhood.

Articles Discussed:

Breaking Up With My Toxic Mom Group

The Reason UES Momma's Disappeared

Marriage, Kids, Careers: For 44 Years They've been Talking it Out

Takeaways:

In this episode, we explore the complexities and dynamics of mom groups, emphasizing their potential to either nurture or harm women's friendships.
We discuss the recent controversy surrounding Ashley Tisdale's experiences in a toxic mom group, highlighting the social pressures involved in motherhood.
The episode underscores the importance of supportive communities for mothers, contrasting healthy groups with those that foster exclusion and negativity.
We examine a long-standing mom group in Long Island that has thrived for decades, showcasing the benefits of facilitated discussions and mutual support.
Listeners are encouraged to seek out or create local mom groups that foster genuine connection and support without excessive barriers to entry.
Throughout the episode, we reflect on our personal experiences with group dynamics, emphasizing the value of communication and understanding in nurturing friendships.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Ashley Tisdale
Facebook
The Cut
New York magazine
New York Times
Moby Max
Brain Pop
Scholastic
Testing Mom

Dad Truths - The Unfiltered Truth About Fatherhood

Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we explore a parenting book that offers valuable insights into the experiences of fathers, particularly emphasizing the unique challenges they face in contemporary parenting. We delve into the humor and heart author Mike Julianelle (@dadandburied) leads with addressing the often unrecognized burdens of parenting. Our conversation highlights the importance of shared responsibilities and the necessity for fathers to be actively engaged in nurturing their children. The book not only illuminates the practical aspects of parenting but also fosters a deeper understanding of the emotional landscape of fatherhood.

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the unique challenges and experiences of parents in navigating the complexities of child-rearing.
We explore the concept that parenting books are often geared towards mothers, leaving a significant gap in literature that addresses fathers specifically.
Throughout the episode, we delve into the notion that no parent is ever truly prepared for the responsibilities of raising a child, highlighting the unpredictability of parenting.
The discussion reflects on the societal expectations placed on mothers versus fathers, illustrating the differing perceptions of parental involvement and competency.
We discuss the importance of open communication between partners in parenting, particularly about the division of responsibilities and emotional labor.
The podcast also touches on the funny and poignant reality of parenting, where every new stage brings its own set of challenges that require adaptability and resilience.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Mike Julianelle (@dadandburied)
Expecting Better
Emily Oster

Calm The Chaos - Parenting the Most Challenging Child

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we talk about the insights found in the book "Calm the Chaos" by Dana Abraham, which presents a framework intended for parents grappling with the complexities of raising children exhibiting challenging behaviors. Abraham believes the key to navigating such tumultuous parenting landscapes lies in fostering positive interactions, establishing effective communication, and employing structured strategies to cultivate emotional regulation in children. Throughout the episode, we reflect on the necessity of understanding the underlying causes of disruptive behaviors, emphasizing that all behavior is a form of communication. We also explore the significance of maintaining your composure during volatile moments, serving as a stabilizing presence for your child. As we delve deeper into the various techniques proposed by Abraham, we advocate for a tailored approach, recognizing that parental strategies must be adaptable to the unique dynamics of each family.

The podcast delves into the intricacies of parenting, specifically focusing on the challenges faced by parents of children who exhibit disruptive behavior. Schuyler Hurwitz and Karen Quinn, illuminate the themes presented in Dana Abraham's book, *Calm the Chaos*, which aims to provide insights and strategies for managing and understanding the emotional turmoil that can arise within the family dynamic. The discussion reveals the emotional weight borne by parents who feel overwhelmed, often questioning their ability to effectively nurture their children in the face of chaos. We examine the author's perspective that behavior is a form of communication, urging parents to uncover the underlying needs that drive their child's actions. They emphasize the importance of positive interactions and the necessity for parents to maintain their own emotional reserves in order to foster a supportive environment for their children. Overall, the episode serves as a poignant reminder that amidst the challenges of parenting, understanding and connection remain paramount to fostering harmony within the familial structure.

Takeaways:

In this episode, we delve into the parenting book entitled 'Calm the Chaos', authored by Dana Abraham, which provides valuable insights for parents.
The author emphasizes the importance of understanding that all behavior is communication, which can help parents address their children's needs effectively.
A significant takeaway from the discussion is the concept of positive interactions, highlighting the necessity of five positive interactions for every negative one.
The podcast underscores the necessity of parents maintaining their energy reserves, suggesting practical strategies like journaling and self-care to manage stress.
The episode articulates a framework for supporting children who may struggle with behavioral issues, encouraging a focus on root causes rather than punitive measures.
Lastly, we explore the idea of reframing a child's struggles as potential superpowers, which can lead to positive outcomes and personal growth.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Calm the Chaos
Dana Abraham
Zara
Bed, Bath and Beyond

The Whole Brain Child - Get All Parts of Your Child’s Brain to Work Together for One Happy Kid

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - the focus of this discussion revolves around the book "The Whole Brain Child," by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, which explains the relationship between various functions of the brain and child development. Throughout the episode, we delve into the significance of integrating the emotional and logical aspects of a child's brain, emphasizing the necessity of fostering emotional intelligence alongside cognitive skills. We cover several practical strategies presented in the book, such as “connect and redirect” and “name it to tame it,” which can be instrumental in nurturing a child’s emotional resilience and ability to articulate their feelings. Additionally, we examine the importance of storytelling as a therapeutic tool, allowing children to process their experiences and fears in a constructive manner.

Through a series of anecdotes, we illustrate how children process emotions and the importance of parents being attuned to these dynamics. The episode also touches upon the necessity for children to narrate their experiences as a means of emotional integration, highlighting strategies such as 'connect and redirect' to effectively manage emotional outbursts. By advocating for open communication and understanding the child's perspective, the discussion underscores the critical role of empathy in parenting, allowing parents to navigate the often tumultuous waters of childhood emotions with grace and insight.

Takeaways:

This podcast episode delves into the complexities of parenting, emphasizing the importance of understanding children's brain development and emotional regulation.
The hosts discuss a parenting book that provides strategies for integrating various brain functions to enhance children's emotional and cognitive growth.
Listeners are encouraged to foster open communication with their children, allowing them to express their feelings and recount their experiences to aid emotional processing.
The conversation highlights the significance of empathy, suggesting that parents should model empathetic behavior and promote family bonding through shared activities and fun.

Links referenced in this episode:

testingmom.com
Habitcoach.com
Companies mentioned in this episode:
Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Daniel Siegel
Tina Payne Bryson

Hunt, Gather, Parent - What Ancient Cultures Teach Us About Raising Children

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we discuss the insights in the book "Hunt Gather Parent" by Mickalene Duclef, Ph.D. The central idea is that contemporary Western parenting often overestimates children’s emotional capabilities while underestimating their physical abilities. This episode encourages an exploration of alternative parenting philosophies, particularly those observed in diverse cultures where children are raised with significantly less direct interference from adults, allowing them to develop autonomy and emotional intelligence. We consider the benefits of integrating communal activities into parenting, encouraging children to engage in responsibilities and chores that foster independence and confidence. Join us as we unpack these transformative ideas and reflect on their implications for our own parenting practices!

In an analysis of 'Hunt Gather Parent' by Mickalene Duclef, Schuyler and Karen dissect the fundamental parenting principles outlined in the book. They emphasize the author's quest to understand why children in certain indigenous cultures exhibit qualities of cooperation, emotional control, and adaptability that seem diminished in Western societies. Through anecdotes and cultural observations, the book believes that children thrive in environments that promote independence and collaborative efforts. They advocate for the adoption of these principles in our own parenting, suggesting that a shift away from hyper-involvement and constant stimulation can lead to greater emotional resilience and self-sufficiency in children. They argue that the Western approach often overlooks the innate capabilities of children, placing undue burdens on parents to constantly guide and instruct. By sharing personal reflections on their parenting journeys, they illustrate the transformative potential of embracing a more communal and less prescriptive parenting style, ultimately encouraging listeners to consider the broader implications of their approaches to child-rearing.

Takeaways:

The podcast episode discusses the book 'Hunt Gather Parent', which explores global parenting practices.
The authors highlight the importance of allowing children to develop autonomy within a supportive environment.
Cultural differences in parenting strategies reveal that Western methods may sometimes hinder children's emotional growth.
Implementing communal parenting practices can enhance children's confidence and their ability to contribute meaningfully to the family.
The episode emphasizes the significance of modeling behavior for children to learn effectively from their surroundings.
Overall, the discussion provides valuable insights for modern parents seeking to improve their parenting approaches.

Links referenced in this episode:

testingmom.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Hunt Gather Parent
Mickalene Douclef, Ph.D.
Study Island
Moby Max
Brain Pop
Scholastic

The Five Love Languages Of Children - Are You Sure You Know How To Love Your Kids?

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we explore the concept of the Five Love Languages as they pertain to children, drawn from the book by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell.

We cover the various modes affection can be expressed— physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and gifts—and how these can significantly impact a child's emotional well-being. We emphasize the necessity of recognizing and understanding a child's preferred love language in order to nurture their emotional development effectively. The discussion highlights the implications of ensuring that a child's "love tank" remains full, as this is crucial for fostering positive behavior and a healthy parent-child relationship.

This episode of Other People's Parenting delves into the significant themes in the book 'The Five Love Languages of Children' authored by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. This book posits that understanding and addressing the distinctive love languages of children can profoundly influence their emotional development and behavior. The conversation is punctuated by reflections on the book's readability, its somewhat unscientific nature, and the subtle Christian undertones embedded within the narrative. As we dissect the five love languages—physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and quality time—we emphasize that recognizing and nurturing a child's preferred love language is crucial for fostering a healthy parent-child relationship. They also explore the ramifications of neglecting this emotional currency, suggesting that an empty 'love tank' could lead to behavioral issues and emotional distress in children. Overall, the episode provides a compelling examination of how love languages inform parenting practices and contribute to the emotional well-being of children.

Takeaways:

The podcast episode emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing children's unique love languages to foster emotional connections.
The discussion highlights that keeping a child's love tank full is crucial for their emotional well-being and behavioral management.
Listeners are encouraged to consider the five love languages when interacting with children, as it can positively affect their behavior.
We mention that discipline should be approached with love and understanding, rather than punishment, to promote healthy emotional development.
The episode suggests that parents should observe their child's behavior and responses to determine their preferred love language effectively.
Finally, the conversation acknowledges the challenges faced by single parents and emphasizes the need for self-care to support their children's emotional health.

Links referenced in this episode:

testingmom.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Gary Chapman
Ross Campbell
TestingMom.com

Mindset - Advice from the Carol Dweck, Inventor of the Growth Mindset

Wed, 25 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0400

This concept asserts that the belief in your ability to cultivate skills and intelligence through effort and resilience can enhance not only academic performance but also personal development across various domains, including sports and relationships. As we delve into the nuances of this mindset, we explore the pivotal role that parental praise plays in shaping a child's motivation and self-perception. It's essential to recognize that fostering a growth mindset involves recognizing effort, strategies, and persistence rather than praising innate abilities.

The author believes intelligence and abilities are not fixed traits but attributes that can be developed through dedication and hard work. We emphasize the necessity for parents to cultivate a growth mindset in their children, particularly in educational environments where the pressure to succeed can often lead to detrimental effects on self-esteem and motivation. They argue convincingly that by fostering an understanding of effort, strategy, and perseverance, parents can equip their children with the tools necessary for lifelong learning and adaptability in the face of adversity.

Takeaways:

The concept of a growth mindset emphasizes the belief that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work.
Praise that focuses on innate intelligence can undermine a child's motivation and willingness to face challenges.
The importance of teaching children to embrace challenges, learn from mistakes, and appreciate effort is paramount for their development.
Dr. Carol Dweck's research illustrates that children's attitudes towards failure significantly impacts their academic performance and resilience.
Adopting a growth mindset can profoundly influence one's life, affecting personal relationships, education, and professional success.
Parents should communicate with their children in ways that promote persistence, problem-solving, and a love for learning.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

New York Times
Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Carol S. Dweck
Michael Jordan
John McEnroe
Thomas Edison
Alfred Binet

Raising Good Humans - Relax Your Way Into Parenting

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0400

We examine the significance of mindfulness and self-awareness in parenting, emphasizing how these principles can transform our interactions with our children. We discuss various parenting styles, highlighting the balance between authoritative guidance and empathetic support. We explore practical strategies for fostering emotional intelligence and resilience in our children, such as establishing healthy boundaries and encouraging independence. Ultimately, our discourse aims to equip listeners with the insights necessary to cultivate meaningful connections that foster the development of compassionate and responsible kids.

Takeaways:

This episode emphasizes the importance of mindfulness in parenting, enabling us to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively to our children's behaviors.
The author of Raising Good Humans suggest that understanding our own upbringing can provide insights into our parenting styles and reactions in present situations.
Mindful parents prioritize self-compassion and emotional awareness, fostering a nurturing environment where children feel safe to express their emotions.
The discussion highlights the necessity of establishing healthy boundaries, allowing children to learn responsibility while also recognizing the parent's needs and feelings.

Links referenced in this episode:

habitcoach.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Bergdorf's
Christian Dior
Sephora
Hunter Clark Fields

Smart But Scattered - Is Your Child Different or Neurodiverse?

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0400

We explain the significance of understanding executive functions and their developmental trajectory, emphasizing the necessity for parents to recognize the underlying reasons behind their children's behavioral challenges rather than resorting to punitive measures. Throughout our discussion, we provide strategies aimed at enhancing children's executive function skills, thereby equipping parents with the tools necessary to support their child's growth and emotional well-being. As we navigate the intricacies of this subject, we aim to illuminate the profound impact that informed parenting can have on shaping the future success of children confronted with executive function obstacles.

We emphasize that executive function skills are not exclusively an issue for children diagnosed with ADHD but are integral to all children as they navigate their formative years. By dissecting various executive function skills and their manifestations, we strive to equip parents with actionable strategies to foster an environment conducive to their children’s success. The conversation also touches upon the significance of understanding the hereditary nature of ADHD and executive function issues, encouraging listeners to adopt a compassionate perspective towards themselves and their children. Ultimately, the episode serves as a guide for parents seeking to enhance their children's executive functioning skills while mitigating the challenges that accompany these developmental hurdles.

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of understanding executive function skills in children, particularly those with ADHD or related challenges.
We discussed how parenting approaches should adapt to the unique needs of children struggling with organization and impulse control.
The episode highlights the value of teaching children specific skills rather than relying on punitive measures when they struggle with tasks.
We explored practical strategies for parents to implement, such as creating routines and offering choices to support children's development.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Smart But Scattered
Peg Dawson
Richard Guare

Links referenced in this episode:

habitcoach.com

1 2 3 Magic - Punishments For Parents Who Like Discipline.

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we delve into Thomas Bellen's book "One, Two, Three Magic," which presents a discipline method centered around a counting system to manage children's behavior. We discuss the mechanics of the method, highlighting its reliance on counting as a punitive measure, which we find problematic - particularly its failure to provide children with adequate understanding of their actions and the reasons behind discipline. This method may not be suitable for fostering meaningful parent-child relationships, and we share our perspectives on more effective parenting strategies.

The core of our discussion revolves around the author's proposition of a counting method designed to discipline children by assigning numerical values to inappropriate behaviors. We believe that this method leads to confusion and anxiety among children, who may struggle to comprehend the rationale behind their parent's disciplinary actions. We believe in a more nuanced approach to parenting, one that fosters open communication and emotional understanding, rather than a reliance on strict behavioral limitations.

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of consistency in implementing parenting techniques to ensure effective discipline.
We express skepticism regarding the effectiveness of the counting method for disciplining children, finding it potentially confusing.
We highlight the need for children to understand the reasons behind their parents' disciplinary actions rather than merely responding to counts.
The discussion raises concerns about the emotional impact of isolation as a punishment method, advocating for more compassionate approaches to discipline.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
One, Two, Three Magic
Thomas Bellen, PhD

Testing For Kindergarten - When You Have A Gifted Child (Or Hope You Do)

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we discuss the tenets of early childhood education, with a particular emphasis on the formative years leading up to kindergarten.

Our exploration centers around the book "Testing for Kindergarten," authored by our very own Karen Quinn, which poses the idea that the initial five years of a child's life are critical for their cognitive and emotional development. Throughout our conversation, we dissect the strategies that parents can employ to foster their children's readiness not only for academic assessments but for life itself. We delve into the nuances of cognitive growth, emphasizing the interplay between playful learning and structured guidance, illustrating how everyday activities can be transformed into powerful educational opportunities. This book aims to equip parents with actionable insights that will ultimately empower them to support their children's learning journeys with confidence and effectiveness.

The episode centers around a comprehensive review of Karen Quinn's book, "Testing for Kindergarten," offering a blend of personal narrative and educational insight. Schuyler and her mother discuss the book's premise, which initially seems focused on formal testing for kindergarten but ultimately reveals itself to be a broader guide on early childhood development. Karen emphasizes that the core message of the book revolves around preparing children for school in a holistic manner, encompassing vital life skills and cognitive development from birth through age five. As the episode progresses, Karen shares her personal anecdotes about her own parenting journey, highlighting the trials and successes she faced while ensuring her children received the best educational opportunities. They explore the importance of various cognitive skills, such as language acquisition, problem-solving abilities, and emotional intelligence, which are essential for children as they transition into formal education. Schuyler and Karen reflect on the methods parents can employ to create enriching experiences for their children, from interactive play to language-rich conversations, that will cultivate a love of learning and curiosity. The episode presents a heartfelt and informative perspective on the intersection of parenting and education. Schuyler and Karen encourage listeners to embrace the journey of early childhood education with enthusiasm and intentionality, reinforcing that nurturing a child's innate curiosity and providing them with the right tools will empower them to succeed not only in school but in life as well. This episode serves as a valuable resource for parents navigating the complexities of early childhood education, reminding them of the lasting benefits of active participation in their child's developmental milestones.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom

Links referenced in this episode:

testingmom.com

Takeaways:

The podcast episode focuses on the importance of early childhood development and how parents can prepare their children for school success in a holistic manner.
Listeners are encouraged to engage with their children through language-rich interactions to enhance cognitive and language skills, which significantly impacts their IQ.
The discussion emphasizes the value of recognizing and nurturing a child's individual interests and passions to foster their confidence and growth.
Listeners are informed that the book 'Testing for Kindergarten' offers practical advice on preparing children for various educational assessments and provides engaging activities to support learning.
We share personal anecdotes highlighting the unique challenges and triumphs they experienced during their parenting journeys, illustrating the importance of parental advocacy.
The episode underscores the significance of understanding cognitive development milestones and how parents can aid their children's learning during the crucial early years.

Links referenced in this episode:

testingmom.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom

Nanny 911 - Because Brats Are Not Born, They're Made

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we delve into the intricacies of parenting as we review the book accompanying the popular television series, Nanny911.

The pivotal idea is that a child's behavior is a reflection of parental consistency and structure. We discuss the strategies presented in the book, emphasizing the necessity for parents to establish clear rules and consequences. We explore the recurring theme of the "default parent," often the mother, who bears the brunt of child-rearing responsibilities, thus highlighting the essential need for shared parental commitment. Ultimately, we compare the book's insights with our personal experiences, concluding that while the book offers valuable principles, the practical demonstration of these concepts through the television series proves to be considerably more accessible and impactful.

We underscore the importance of parental involvement, consistency, and communication, advocating for the establishment of clear household rules that foster a stable environment for children. This segment serves as both a critique and a thematic exploration of contemporary parenting philosophies, reinforcing the necessity of active engagement from both parents in raising children.

Takeaways:

The podcast emphasizes the importance of parental involvement, particularly in nurturing a child's behavior and development.
A recurring theme discussed is the need for parents to establish clear, consistent rules and boundaries within the household.
The discussion highlights how calm and direct communication can significantly improve interactions between parents and their children.
An essential takeaway is that discipline, when combined with love, fosters a harmonious family environment and promotes healthy child development.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Nanny911
HGTV
Study Island
Moby Max Brain
Pop Scholastic

Links referenced in this episode:

The podcast explores the book "Nanny911". The hosts, Schuyler Hurwitz and Karen Quinn, provide a critical examination of the book, juxtaposing it with their experiences and observations from the accompanying television show. The conversation highlights that while the book offers valuable insights into effective parenting strategies, its presentation lacks a structured flow, making it challenging for readers to find actionable advice.

Key themes include the dynamics between parents, especially the typical roles of mothers and fathers in child-rearing, and the necessity for consistent parenting techniques. The hosts emphasize the importance of establishing household rules, effective communication, and the modeling of desired behaviors to foster a nurturing environment for children. They also touch upon the challenges of maintaining discipline while ensuring that love and support are at the forefront of parenting, ultimately arguing for a balanced approach that incorporates structure, affection, and mutual respect within the family unit.

They identify recurring patterns of parental involvement—or lack thereof—particularly noting how mothers often shoulder the majority of responsibility. The hosts advocate for a proactive approach to parenting, suggesting that clarity in rules and consequences can significantly impact children's behavior. They emphasize that discipline should not come at the expense of emotional connection, and parents must actively engage with their children to foster understanding and compliance. The episode concludes with a call to action for parents to reflect on their own practices and consider how adopting strategies from the book might enhance their family dynamics.

The episode deftly navigates the complexities of modern parenting, arguing that while the book presents practical solutions for common challenges, it is encumbered by its disorganized structure. Skylar and Karen highlight the value of routines, the importance of respectful communication, and the need for parents to take ownership of their children's upbringing. They assert that effective parenting is a blend of empathy and authority, stressing that children thrive in environments where they feel secure and understood. The hosts provide a balanced view, acknowledging the difficulties parents face while advocating for a mindful approach to raising well-adjusted children.

Free Range Parenting - Could You Give Your Child This Much Freedom?

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 11:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we cover Lenore Skenazy's influential work, "Free Range Kids," which presents a parenting philosophy that encourages independence in children.

We delve into the author's critique of contemporary parenting fears, particularly the pervasive "worst first thinking" that often leads parents to overprotect their kids. Throughout the discussion, we reflect on the societal shift towards helicopter parenting and the implications it has for children's development. Schuyler shares her own experiences of navigating independence as a child, alongside Karens insights as an advocate for a more liberated approach to parenting. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of allowing children to explore and learn from their surroundings, thereby fostering resilience and self-reliance.

The conversation presented in this episode revolves around Lenore Skenazy's seminal work, 'Free Range Kids.' Skenazy's thesis posits that the pervasive culture of overprotectiveness undermines children's capacity to navigate the world autonomously. This episode serves as a compelling exploration of the balance between safeguarding children and allowing them the freedom to explore their surroundings, ultimately advocating for a more liberated approach to parenting that fosters competency and confidence in the next generation.

Takeaways:

In this episode, we elucidate the core tenets of Lenore Skenazy's philosophy on parenting, emphasizing the necessity of granting children greater autonomy in their daily lives.
We explore the concept of 'worst first thinking', a psychological phenomenon that often leads parents to overestimate potential dangers their children might face.
Skenazy advocates for the importance of allowing children to experience manageable risks, which fosters independence and resilience as they grow into adulthood.
The podcast touches upon the contrasting parenting styles between generations, highlighting how societal perceptions of child safety have evolved dramatically over the years.

Links referenced in this episode:

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Lenore Skanazi
Let Grow Project
John Walsh
Adam Walsh
Jonathan Haidt
Anxious Generation

The Grown Ups Guide to Teenage Humans - Practical Advice For Raising Teens

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we discuss "The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans" by Josh Shipp, a book about the complexities of parenting during the tumultuous teenage years.

We dive into the challenges faced by both parents and adolescents, emphasizing the necessity for open communication and understanding. We explore ideas like the importance of establishing supportive relationships in a teenager's life, fostering resilience and growth. We address various traps that parents may fall into, including the comfort, approval, control, and performance traps, which can hinder effective parenting. We advocate for intentional engagement and the cultivation of trust, asserting that these approaches can significantly enhance the parent-teen dynamic and contribute to a more harmonious household. The episode underscores the critical role of parental involvement and the emotional complexities that accompany the transition from childhood to adulthood, as well as the importance of maintaining open lines of communication even when teenagers exhibit a desire for independence.

Takeaways:

The book 'The Grown Up's Guide to Teenage Humans' by Josh Shipp offers valuable insights into understanding the complexities of adolescence.
It emphasizes the importance of parental presence and meaningful communication during the tumultuous teenage years.
The podcast discusses the necessity for parents to adopt a coaching mindset rather than a controlling one as their children enter adolescence.
Common challenges faced by teenagers, such as peer pressure and identity crises, are explored with practical strategies for parents to address them.
The episode highlights the significance of building trust with teenagers to foster open communication about difficult topics.
It also covers the critical role of supportive adults in a teenager's life, akin to the 'Rodney' concept introduced in the discussion.

Links referenced in this episode:

habitcoach.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

The Anxious Generation - Is Social Media Melting Your Childs Brain?

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we cover Jonathan Haidts popular and controversial book about the dangers of social media on the developing brain.

The focus of this episode is "The Anxious Generation," which highlights the alarming rise in mental health issues among Gen Z. We explain the author's argument that this demographic's heightened anxiety can be attributed to two primary factors: the overprotectiveness of parents and the pervasive influence of smartphones that tether children to digital interactions, inhibiting their engagement in play-based childhood experiences. Throughout our discussion, we reflect on the detrimental impact of constant connectivity and social media on children's development, particularly in relation to their attention spans and emotional well-being. We explore practical recommendations for parents seeking to mitigate these challenges by fostering healthier environments for their children. We emphasize the necessity of encouraging real-world interactions and the cultivation of resilience in a rapidly evolving technological landscape.

Outline:

The Anxious Generation

Overview – 4 parts
How childhood has changed and mental illness (depression, anxiety, self-harm) has risen because of 2 trends –
Over-protection in the real world – kids used to play freely after school/weekends – learned to socialize, problem solve, make friends
Under-protection in the virtual world
The harms that have resulted from new phone-based childhoods (beginning in 1990) – kids getting smart phones with access to the internet, constant notifications, social media, online video gaming
What to do to reverse the damage
How to work together to fix the problem
Part 2 – the decline of play-based childhoods
In-person play is critical to childhood development – without it, children will be socially, cognitively, emotionally impaired – need free play with kids of many ages where there is some physical risk teaches children to look after themselves, handle emotions, take turns, resolve conflicts, socialize. (“Play based childhood”)
As language develops in the first 5 years of life, cultural/social learning develops at ages 9 – 15 and this learning window closes at puberty.
If they get a smartphone at 10-11, they’re getting socialized into Instagram, tik tok, games instead of through real life friendships and experiences. They learn what’s desired / how to talk, behave, emote by posts that get the most likes/influencers – they have online social lives, not real life.
Parental trends have changed – enormous safety focus – parents now try to raise kids who are protected from frustration, negative emotions, consequences. They’re not allowed to play outdoors, do things on their own – so they don’t develop competence, self-control, frustration tolerance, self-management. Kids are told the world is dangerous, there are predators, they’re raised to be fragile.
Puberty is a critical time in brain development which is necessary to lock down into early adult mode. Kids need some stress at this time, which is traditionally gotten through play/interaction with other kids. If we are too worried about their safety, they miss these experiences. Schools and parents try to ban activities that have any risk of physical/emotional harm.They need these in-person experiences and stressors.
We’ve interfered with kids’ growth by blocking them from risky in-person play (no in-real world community/mentors) while giving them access to smart phones where they’re fed digital experiences designed to maximize clicks and ad revenue designed to be consumed alone in their room. Smart phones push out non-phone-based experiences which is what kids need most at puberty.
The Great Rewiring Harms Caused – pulled kids out of real-world communities / families and created a new kind of online childhood
Before the iphone, we could limit screen time – still time for play and face-to-face conversation/interaction. After iphone / internet connectedness/ apps – these held kids attention instead. Algorithms and “like” and “retweet” buttons kept kids online almost continuously. Teens are on screens more than 7 hours/day.
Harms – 1) Social deprivation – friendships moved to online, not real life – kids who spend more time on social media suffer more depression, anxiety, other disorders than kids who spend time with in-person groups playing sports/religious communities – even when kids are with other kids, they respond to cell phone notifications 2) Sleep deprivation – studies show kids using cell phones have greater sleep disturbance and shorter sleep time (depression, anxiety, cognitive deficits, poor learning, lower grades, more accidents), 3) attention fragmentation – average teen gets 11 notifications per hour making it hard to maintain attention, stay on task, think – one study showed just having a cell phone in your pocket even when not using it damages your ablility to focus and think, (especially bad for kids with ADHD but all kids are in prime time for EF brain development) 4) addiction –“ Likes “ and “views” in social media are dopamine hits to brain, leaving kids wanting more, creating an addiction cycle.
Girls are hurt more by social media (girls are more affected by visual and social comparison and perfectionism, girls will become aggressive by harming other girls’ reputations, they are affected by other girls’ emotions shared online, makes them easier prey for stalking, takes them away from in-person friendships) (causes more anxiety depression, self-harm)
Boys are hurt more by gaming. Less in-person play and risk-taking – boys retreated into the gaming world. Their social life moved online. Access to porn is hard to resist. They have more social interactions with online gamers, but fewer real life interactions – they became lonelier.
The great rewiring has pulled people downward – made us more judgmental, less likely to bond with people in our lives, limited our ability to experience awe in nature. Phone based life/ social media keeps the focus on self-preservation, branding, social standing
What can be done?
Government / tech companies – 1) govt. raise the age of internet adulthood – ability to open your own social media account– to 16 (it’s 13 now); 2) companies must develop better age verification techniques; 3) govt. change laws to correct overprotection in the real world so parents can let kids play on their own without fear of arrest; 4) govt. encourage schools to give more recess with free play
Schools should 1) ban cell phones completely during the day, 2) offer longer recesses and more unstructured play at school, 3) improve playgrounds so they’re more designed for imaginative play (adventure playgrounds with loose parts); more shop classes and vocational training to re-engage boys in school.
Parents can 1) give kids less (but better) on-screen experiences – some screen experiences are okay (online video visits, educational programming); 2) give younger kids more (and better) experience in the real world – let kids out of your sight, encourage sleepovers and stay out of them, encourage kids to walk to school in groups, after school free play, camping, sleepaway camp with no devices, neighborhood playgroups, 3) learn to use parental controls and content filters, set limits on screen use, watch for signs of addiction, 4) teens – master transportation so they can get around, allow them to hang out with friends away from home, rely on them to help at home, encourage part-time job, find ways for them to lead such as scouts/asst. camp counselor, high school exchange programs, more nature adventure, gap year, set parameters on screen use; 5) don’t be tied to your phone in front of your kids
4 fundamental changes – 1) no smart phones before high school, 2) no social media before age 16, 3) phone-free schools, 4) far more unsupervised play and childhood independence

Takeaways:

This podcast episode delves into the profound impact of smartphones on Gen Z's mental health and social interactions.
The discussion highlights the alarming rise of anxiety and depression among youth, attributed to overprotective parenting and excessive screen time.
The book emphasizes the importance of in-person play and socialization for childhood development, contrasting it with the detrimental effects of online interactions.
The podcast reviews the book 'The Anxious Generation' by Jonathan Haidt and discusses its implications for modern parenting strategies.
The episode suggests that minimizing screen time and encouraging real-world experiences can foster healthier developmental outcomes for children.
We advocate for collective parental action to delay smartphone access and social media engagement for children until they are more mature.

Links referenced in this episode:

habitcoach.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
AOL Instant Messenger
MySpace
TikTok
Instagram
Jonathan Haidt
HSBC

French Kids Eat Everything - The French Way to Cure Picky Eaters!

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 07:30:00 -0400

The primary focus of this podcast episode revolves around the examination of "French Kids Eat Everything," a parenting book authored by Karen Le Billon, which explains the French methods in instilling healthy eating habits in children from a young age. We delve into the cultural contrasts between French and North American approaches to food, particularly noting how French children are encouraged to embrace a varied diet without the fussiness commonly observed among their American counterparts. The discussion highlights the significance of structured meal times and the philosophical ideas that govern the French relationship with food, emphasizing the importance of teaching children to appreciate nourishment rather than using it as an emotional crutch. Throughout the episode, we share personal anecdotes and reflections on parenting practices, illustrating the challenges and triumphs experienced while attempting to foster healthier eating habits. Ultimately, we advocate for the principles outlined in the book as valuable insights for any parent seeking to cultivate a positive relationship between their children and food.

12:20 The comedian who said this was Ronnie Cheng.

26:20 The story about kids pecking food off the floor happened in this book- not Bringing Up Bèbè.

Takeaways:

In the podcast episode, we explore the principles outlined in the book 'French Kids Eat Everything,' which emphasizes teaching children to embrace a diverse range of food from an early age.
The author discusses the contrasting approaches between American and French parenting regarding food, highlighting the belief that exposure to different foods fosters healthier eating habits.
Central to the discussion is the idea that French children are encouraged to accept new foods through repeated exposure, often requiring as many as fifteen attempts before acceptance.
The podcast delves into the cultural significance of meal times in France, where eating is regarded as a ceremonial event, fostering a deeper appreciation for food and social interaction.
Listeners learn that French parents typically maintain structured meal times, which helps children develop a healthy relationship with food, reducing impulsive eating behaviors.
The episode concludes with a recommendation for parents to adopt some of these French principles to cultivate healthier eating habits in their own children, emphasizing the importance of variety and exposure.

Links referenced in this episode:

testingmom.com

Companies mentioned in this episode:

Habit Coach
Testing Mom
Karen Le Billon
French Kids Eat Everything
Jessica Seinfeld
Bringing Up Bebe

Bringing Up Bébé - How to raise your bébé like a Parisian!

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 07:30:00 -0400

On the pilot episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles , founder of Habit Coach and Testing Mom) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - you can learn how to raise a chic, civilized and cosmopolitan bébé a la a Parisian!

Show Notes:

12:24 'The ten thousand hour rule' is a reference to the Malcolm Gladwell book 'Outliers'.

26:43 *Correction : This story is actually told in the book 'French Kids Eat Everything'.

40:00 This book was published in 2012.