I explain that your sexual urges are completely natural and a normal part of being human. The problem arises when we label these physiological responses as “wrong” or “immoral.” Just like hunger or a craving for sugar, sexual urges are simply a natural bodily response. Morality comes in when we decide how we respond to those urges. By looking at your urges with neutrality, instead of guilt, you can free yourself from the cycle of shame and build healthier habits in your journey to quit pornography.

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Hunter explains that true self-trust isn’t about avoiding mistakes or achieving perfection. Instead, it’s about showing up for yourself, making small commitments, and following through with them every day. By focusing on the small victories and learning how to handle setbacks, you can create a foundation of trust that will support you in overcoming pornography and other challenges.

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In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that comes up often, especially for those with a religious background. I walk through the difference between sin and weakness, and why this distinction matters when it comes to quitting pornography. You’ll learn how shifting your perspective can bring you closer to God instead of further away, and why your habit does not define your worth.

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Learn how Quinn turned his life around by understanding the brain’s role in his habit, shedding shame, and embracing new skills. His story proves that it’s never too late to quit, and the life you want is possible.

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Understanding the power of your stories helps you take back control. By changing your story, you can change your actions and your emotional experience, moving away from self-judgment and toward empowerment.

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Join me this week as I show you how surrendering to urges and the emotions beneath them can completely change the way you approach quitting porn. You will learn why willpower often backfires, how resisting emotions can make urges stronger, and why allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable emotions is a key step toward lasting freedom.

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Kat introduces four powerful questions designed to help you shift out of stuckness and take your next step. Each question offers a different lens for understanding what might be holding you back and how you can begin moving forward, even if progress feels slow. She encourages you to choose at least one of these questions and use it today to start creating momentum.

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This conversation is a powerful reminder that overcoming pornography is about far more than stopping a behavior. It’s about changing the way you see yourself and what you believe is possible for your life. Cannon shares how letting go of shame and learning to trust the process allowed him to experience real freedom, and why the work you do to heal yourself can create ripple effects far beyond what you might imagine.

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Instead of treating your sexuality like something dangerous that has to be locked away, I invite you to imagine it differently. What if the goal isn’t to cage it, silence it, or fight it, but to learn how to tame it? I walk you through a new way of understanding control that isn’t about fear or force, but about building trust, leadership, and a healthy relationship with your own sexual energy.

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When you stop relying on willpower and start allowing urges instead of resisting them, they will ebb and flow. The goal is not to make them vanish. The goal is to become someone who can feel discomfort without reacting to it. In this episode, I share why trying to force urges away keeps you stuck and how building the skill of processing them creates real strength and confidence.

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I explain why thoughts often keep showing up simply because they’ve been practiced for years, not because they are true or important. This episode will help you break the cycle of repetitive thinking, reduce self-judgment, and approach your thoughts in a way that supports real change, both in quitting pornography and in everyday life.

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In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett breaks down how deeply held beliefs shape emotions, choices, and habits, often without you realizing it. He walks through five practical steps to help you identify, question, and begin unlearning the beliefs that keep you stuck. This episode shows why lasting change happens from the inside out and how shifting what you believe is what allows behavior to change.

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The 50-50 principle is simple but powerful. Life is always made up of both positive and negative experiences, no matter where you are or what you’ve accomplished. This episode will help you understand why quitting isn’t about eliminating discomfort, but about choosing a different relationship with it so you can grow, change, and build a life you actually want to be present for.

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You’ll learn how to separate urges from the thoughts that create them and how to describe your urges in neutral, non-dramatic language that makes them feel much less overwhelming. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to sit with 100 urges and make them no longer something you fear. This is the work of true self-control and will completely transform your journey to freedom.

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I walk through what learning truly looks like in any area of life. Whether it is learning a new skill like snowboarding or playing Super Mario Bros, progress is rarely linear. Learn what actually creates progress, how to work with urges instead of fearing them, and how to use slip-ups as part of your growth. This episode will help you rethink what success looks like and stay engaged even when things feel messy.

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These insights have helped clients from all different backgrounds create lasting change. By shifting your mindset and approach to overcoming pornography, you’ll learn the tools to not just quit, but to transform the way you relate to your sexuality and your life.

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I address why so many people give up on their resolutions and why it’s not the goal itself, but our expectation that New Year’s energy should last forever. Instead of relying on short-term motivation, I share five tips to help you stay committed for the long haul.

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Kat explains the "winner's effect" and how one win can create more wins. By acknowledging and fully experiencing your wins, you trigger a biological and psychological response that boosts your confidence and performance. This positive feedback loop helps you stay motivated and primed for future success. You'll discover practical ways to start recognizing your wins, even when overcoming pornography feels like an uphill battle.

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Hunter reframes the holidays not as a setback, but as an opportunity to practice the skills you've been developing. While your environment may change and emotional triggers may become louder, these challenges offer a chance to test and strengthen the tools you've learned. You'll also learn mindset shifts that can make a real difference during the holidays, like understanding that increased urges are a natural brain response to unusual circumstances.

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I explain how neutralizing your porn habit creates space for real progress. You will hear how to identify the main emotion you associate with quitting porn and how to shift toward a more grounded internal experience. This neutral space is not justification. It is a practical way to step out of the high highs and low lows so you can stay committed. When you make your habit less emotionally charged, the path to quitting becomes clearer and more manageable.

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In this episode, I talk about developing your own spiritual authority instead of relying on external voices that often contradict each other. You will hear what it looks like to move away from black and white thinking and into principle-based living, where you get clear on the sexual values you want to live by and make decisions from integrity rather than fear. This shift opens space for nuance, compassion, and choices that truly support your wellbeing.

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In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful coaching experience about how shifting from “below ground zero” thinking, where we spiral into fear and self-doubt, to “above ground zero” thinking, where we focus on positive possibilities, can break the cycle of inaction and create real change. She explains how giving “equal airtime” to empowering “what-ifs” opens up a new world of possibilities and helps you overcome fears and anxieties before they stop you from reaching your goals.

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In this episode, I talk about why tying your worthiness to productivity becomes a major barrier when you want to quit porn. You will learn how to unshame your need for rest, how to separate your humanity from your to-do list, and how this shift directly supports long-term success with quitting porn. I walk you through the three-step process for changing these deeply conditioned beliefs so you can feel worthy without relying on productivity and move forward with more confidence, calm, and self-trust.

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In this episode, coach Jessica explores the challenges many couples face when discussing sex, offering practical strategies to navigate these conversations with curiosity and care. She explains why these conversations can feel so difficult, particularly when pornography is involved, and offers a clear framework for approaching them in a way that strengthens connection rather than creating conflict.

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The compound effect teaches that meaningful results come from small, consistent actions that add up over time. Just like investing a little each month or lifting slightly heavier weights builds incredible long-term growth, quitting pornography happens through steady progress. You’ll learn how to shift from an all-or-nothing mindset to one focused on growth and consistency.

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In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins explores how these two layers of shame work together to keep you stuck in cycles of disconnection and self-criticism. You’ll hear practical ways to start releasing shame by questioning where it came from, choosing what to let go of, and learning to respond with compassion instead of criticism. Kat also shares somatic tools to help calm your body when shame arises so you can feel grounded, safe, and open to connection again.

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In this episode, coach Hunter dives into the concept of emotional agility and why it’s such a crucial tool for overcoming pornography. You’ll discover a simple, four-step process to help you build emotional agility. Hunter also shares why emotional agility doesn’t mean suppressing emotions, but learning to navigate them in a way that allows you to respond thoughtfully, rather than react impulsively.

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In this episode, I’m revisiting the beliefs and identity milestone, where we spend the most coaching time in the program. We focus on how repeated thoughts shape the beliefs you hold about yourself and pornography. By noticing these beliefs, questioning them, and identifying evidence that contradicts them, you can begin to shift how you think about yourself and your actions.

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In this episode, Coach Jessica explores how people-pleasing creates a cycle of self-abandonment disguised as kindness. She shares how to stop managing other people’s feelings, allow for discomfort in relationships, and engage in real, honest conversations that deepen connection.

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In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of automatically identifying with them. Thoughts aren’t facts, and simply noticing them can release the pressure, fear, and self-criticism that so often hold us back. I walk you through practical ways to practice being the observer each day, guiding your human body with care, and letting love, rather than judgment, direct your decisions.

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In this episode, Coach Kat dives into how self-judgment creates a toxic cycle of anger, disappointment, and resentment, mirroring the shame cycle many face. Kat explores how this judgment manifests physically, causing your body to become constricted and stuck. She explains why forgiveness is the key to healing your self-judgmental voice and how it opens up space for peace, trust, and emotional freedom.

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In this episode, Coach Hunter explains why all of that misses the point. You’ll learn how to rebuild self-trust through small promises, why it’s critical to live from your future identity instead of your past, and how training your mindset like an elite athlete can change everything. Hunter shares practical strategies for moving from fear-based thinking to confidence-driven action so you can walk into each day knowing you are built to win.

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Transparency is crucial in building trust, especially with your spouse, but it’s equally important to protect your emotional and spiritual well-being. In this episode, we discuss how to draw the line between honesty and self-protection, how to set boundaries that nurture your recovery, and why spiritual maturity is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. You'll hear practical advice on how to handle disclosure conversations, manage well-meaning but challenging check-ins, and establish healthy boundaries in every aspect of your life.

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Listen as the three coaches share insights from their personal experiences and show why different coaching styles matter, how the right fit can accelerate progress, and what it truly means to believe in someone’s ability to change before they believe it themselves. Through their stories, you’ll see how creativity, curiosity, and the creation of a safe space help clients navigate pornography struggles.

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In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful metaphor about breaking free from unwanted habits. It illustrates how we move through stages of awareness and responsibility, from feeling stuck in familiar cycles to finally choosing new paths. Understanding these stages can help you see that change isn’t instant, but a gradual progression towards freedom.

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In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing your readiness for dating, and why putting life on hold might actually hold you back. Jessica reframes difficult conversations—not as confessions, but as opportunities for collaboration and building authentic connection.

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In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creating lasting change. Trying to label ourselves as entirely good or bad creates unnecessary resistance, especially when we face challenges. Instead, accepting that we're both gives us the freedom to be honest with ourselves and move forward without shame or self-pity.

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This method is based on the idea that we don’t have to accept every thought that crosses our minds. The Choose Again Method involves three simple steps that help you choose a thought that feels better. It’s not about ignoring difficult emotions or forcing yourself into positivity; it’s about taking intentional steps to shift your thinking in a way that aligns with what you truly want. This method has been a game-changer for so many of my clients, and it can be just as impactful for you.

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Through this guided practice, you'll discover how to use your own hands as tools for emotional regulation. Kat walks you through each finger hold step-by-step, explaining not just the technique but the deeper connections to your body's energy systems. You'll learn to recognize which emotions need attention and how to address them directly through this simple yet profound practice that you can use anywhere, anytime you need grounding.

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In this episode, Coach Hunter addresses this struggle by revealing a crucial shift in perspective. The issue isn’t that you need more tools or that you need to work harder; it’s that you haven’t fully understood where you are right now. Shifting from “doing more” to “understanding where you are” is the key to moving forward with confidence.

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I discuss how infidelity isn’t defined by specific actions, but rather by breaking agreements and trust. Through this conversation, you’ll gain insights on navigating difficult conversations, co-creating agreements with your partner, and understanding the role of shame and fear in shaping sexual beliefs. If you’re struggling with porn use or your partner’s, this episode provides a roadmap for moving forward with clarity and compassion.

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In this episode, Coach Jessica explores the three key areas where grief shows up while overcoming pornography. She discusses how letting go of porn as a coping mechanism creates a real sense of loss, even when your mind wants it gone. Using the five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—Jessica provides practical strategies for processing these emotions.  

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In this episode, I’m diving into why empathy might be the most undertrained skill in personal development, especially for men. If you’ve been missing this piece, this episode will help you reconnect—with yourself, your values, and the people you love.

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In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping mechanisms, like pornography, when overwhelmed. You'll hear practical tools to return to your green zone and how to process emotions in a healthy way.

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Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids while respecting adult freedom. You’ll feel empowered, knowing how to make a real difference without unintentionally causing harm, because true safety comes from education and guidance, not control.

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In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only makes them stronger. I demonstrate how we can learn to let intrusive thoughts exist without engaging with them, ultimately allowing them to fade naturally into the background.

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This episode explores how perfectionism acts as a form of self-protection rather than self-improvement. I examine the ways our inner oppressor develops from external voices we internalized growing up, whether from parents, school systems, or traumatic experiences that made us feel unsafe making mistakes.

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In this episode, I explore how the inner critic often mimics external voices from our past - parents, religious leaders, and societal norms. I share a four-step approach to working with your inner critic that allows you to move from a place of shame to one of self-compassion and authentic change.

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Nathan explains how the key was learning to recognize and sit with his emotions instead of trying to push them away. His transformation goes far beyond pornography, improving his marriage, friendships, career, and overall life satisfaction.

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It's time we expand our understanding of masculine power. The traditional model of "providing equals money" often leads to competitive rather than collaborative energy, especially in relationships. When a man's entire identity becomes wrapped up in his earning potential, he misses opportunities to provide what families and communities truly need.

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If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same patterns and want a clear way to show up for yourself each day, this practice can help. With consistency, the daily CTFAR model becomes second nature and gives you a reliable way to move forward no matter what comes up.

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Jessica unpacks the science behind emotions and urges. These sensations—whether they show up as fidgeting, bouncing your leg, or tightness in your chest—are simply your body’s response to thoughts in your brain. The good news? These uncomfortable feelings have a predictable shelf life.

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Tyler details the specific mindset shifts and practical tools that made the difference, how the program improved his marriage and parenting, and why going "all in" was the key to his success. His story proves that freedom from pornography isn't just possible—it can happen faster than you might think.

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I share a training I conducted on treating shame as "offline work" and provide practical, body-based techniques to help you break free from shame spirals. You'll discover powerful somatic practices that create safety in your nervous system and can help you regain your rational thinking capacity when shame has taken you offline.

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Many of my clients express frustration that despite their best efforts to implement the tools they've learned, they still struggle with urges and don’t know why.

In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful insight that will completely transform your approach to urge processing.

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When you're stuck in past-focused thinking, you limit yourself to what you've already accomplished. By defining yourself by who you want to become rather than who you've been, you can create the momentum needed to finally break free from pornography. Your past doesn't determine your future unless you allow it to.

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In this episode, you'll hear a fresh perspective on rewiring your brain for the life you truly want. By practicing feeling the emotions you want to feel ahead of time, you put yourself in an energetic state to attract the results you desire much faster.

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Join me as I dive deep into why discomfort is essential for overcoming pornography and creating the life you truly desire. I share practical tips for reframing your mindset around discomfort and teach you how to process your emotions in a healthy way.

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If you're ready to break free from the chains of pornography once and for all, this episode will give you a roadmap to lasting change. You'll learn why focusing on surface-level behaviors will never bring true healing, how to overcome the shame that fuels compulsive porn use, and what it takes to rewire your brain for healthy sexuality.

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Through working with coach Jessica in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Ben discovered the power of grieving, self-compassion, and living authentically. Ben's story offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to break free from the chains of unwanted pornography use and find true freedom.

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Learn practical strategies for surrendering to them in a healthy way, without giving in to the temptation to view pornography. Discover how this shift in mindset can empower you to take control of your life and overcome pornography for good.

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Discover how shifting your energy from guilt and shame to love and tenderness can revolutionize your journey to freedom from pornography. Learn practical strategies for making this shift and experience the profound impact it can have on your life.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/most-important-shift

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Join us as we explore the idea that healing from pornography addiction doesn't mean never experiencing urges again, but rather learning to understand and love yourself on a deeper level. Discover how letting go of the "finish line" mentality can open up a world of possibilities and allow you to embrace the richness of life's experiences.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-daniel

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Join me as we explore how thinking in years instead of days can revolutionize not only your journey to overcome pornography, but every aspect of your life. Get ready to broaden your perspective, embrace the process, and unlock your full potential.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/expand-your-timeline

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If you've ever struggled with the "relapse shame cycle," this episode is for you. I break down the key steps to support your body through shame, challenge the beliefs that fuel it, and ultimately break free from the grip of pornography for good. Get ready to gain a new perspective on relapses and learn how to approach them with self-compassion and resilience.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/what-to-do-relapses

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I walk you through the Learn and Move On worksheet and explain how to use it effectively. You'll discover how to challenge shame-producing thoughts, identify helpful grounding techniques, and visualize yourself implementing your key takeaways. Most importantly, you'll learn how to turn the discouragement of a setback into the empowerment of a learning opportunity. Let's dive in!

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/utilizing-learn-and-move-on

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

I also talk about the Hoʻoponopono Prayer from traditional Hawaiian culture, which can be used for forgiveness and healing in your relationships with others or yourself. Tune in this week to discover how you can use this prayer to overcome pornography use.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/new-free-program

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

I also dive into the key question: How can we create sustainable goals for quitting porn that align with our values and redefine what "overcome pornography for good" really means? Discover a powerful perspective shift that will set you up for lasting success.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/sustainable-goals-2025

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

If you're ready to make this the year you finally quit porn for good, this episode is a must-listen. I share the tools and mindset shifts you need to create sustainable change and become the person you want to be in 2025.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/year-you-quit

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Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Dive deep into the topic of chronic shame and how it affects your ability to be held accountable. We explore how shame is different from guilt, and how it can subtly influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in ways we might not even be aware of.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/chronic-shame

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Discover exactly where your overwhelm is coming from, and what you can do about it. You’ll learn some powerful tools and strategies for managing overwhelm, including understanding our triggers, breaking things down into tiny baby steps, and focusing on just 1% growth at a time.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/what-to-do-overwhelmed

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I explain the science behind over-desire and share real-life examples of how people have successfully reconditioned their brains. I also share the importance of understanding the difference between over-desire and an addiction, and introduce the concept of mindfulness as a key tool in the process of building a healthier relationship with your sexuality. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/over-desire

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Tune in this week as I try something new on the podcast. I conducted a live stream, inviting listener questions, talking directly to listeners just like you. I dive deep into the real reason behind your unwanted pornography use, and I give you the foundations for making real progress toward quitting porn.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/its-not-weakness

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough to overcome pornography, or if apathy is creeping in and amplifying your shame, this episode is for you. I show you why trying to care more or do more isn’t the solution and where your focus truly needs to be instead.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-apathy-unraveled

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Discover how infusing your thoughts with love and compassion can help you break free from negative cycles and access your highest self. By practicing this mindset shift, you can transform your relationship with your thoughts, so you can love and guide your human body in the way you really want to.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/not-your-thoughts

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We explore how doing this deeper inner healing work is not separate from the process of quitting pornography, but an essential part of finding lasting freedom. Learn why shaming yourself or relying on willpower alone won't lead to the change you seek, and how healing your inner wounds can make the journey so much easier.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/eventually-give-in

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Learn the research behind thought suppression, and why learning the skill of allowing versus suppression is vital for you to navigate unwanted sexual thoughts and feelings. I explain why acceptance, mindfulness and non-judgment are more effective tools and provide some practical tips you can start using today to 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/thought-suppression

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Discover the seven steps I teach my clients to help them process their emotions in a healthy way. By learning to name, locate, and relax into our feelings, we can start to see our emotions for what they really are: temporary vibrations in the body that don't have the power to hurt us, and that don’t need to be distracted with pornography.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/stop-fearing-feelings-replay

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Join us this week as Hunter shares his own journey with pornography and how joining the program two years ago changed his life. We dive into the tragedy that is the shame he experienced keeping this a secret for years, how finally sharing his story with his family turned things around for him, and the concepts and tools that helped him the most. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/hunters-story

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Tune in this week to discover the important differences between head and heart learning. I share my experience of shifting from learning with my head to learning from the heart, and you’ll learn how to use heart learning to free yourself from pornography.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/heart-head-learning

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Tune in this week to hear from Gabe about what’s really possible when you decide to quit porn and take action in pursuit of that goal. We discuss faith, shame, growth, and repentance, and Gabe shares the lessons he’s learned since deciding he wanted to quit viewing pornography.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-gabe

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Join me this week as I explore the concept of "dead people goals" and why they’re harmful to your progress in overcoming pornography. I share examples of common dead people goals and show you how they can damage your relationship with yourself, and you’ll also learn how to reframe your goals in a healthier, more achievable way.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/dead-people-goals

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Join me this week to discover the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit pornography. Whether you've struggled for decades or are just starting your journey, you’ll learn the tools and insights you need to finally break free and create the life you desire.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/5-biggest-mistakes

Register for my free live class, The New, Revolutionary Way to Quit Porn for Good, September 19, 2024. A shame-free, sex-positive methodology that is guaranteed to help you overcome pornography for good: https://centerforovercoming.com/freeliveclass

Tune in to hear the breakthroughs Sam experienced that allowed him to finally quit porn for good after 20 years of failed attempts. He shares how overcoming his porn habit improved every area of his life, from his marriage to his career, and his thoughts on the long-term impact of investing in yourself. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-sam-2

Tune in this week as Kersti dives deep into the connection between ADHD and porn use. She offers her insights on the shame and stigma surrounding ADHD, why those with ADHD may be more drawn to the ‘stickiness’ of porn, and her top recommendations of interventions that have helped people with ADHD manage their porn use.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/adhd-porn-use-kersti-spjut

Discover what Band-Aid solutions can look like in practice and why they don’t work long-term. Learn why buffering and numbing out prevents you from processing emotions in a healthy way, and how to stop the cycle of turning to porn every time life gets challenging so you can finally experience true freedom.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/no-more-band-aid-solutions

Discover the emotional wounds that often contribute to abusive dynamics in relationships. Lindsay and I explore examples of how abusive attitudes and behaviors can manifest, why you’re more likely to exhibit abusive tendencies if you have deep worthiness wounds, and Lindsay’s brain hacks for setting boundaries and creating a sense of self-safety.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/abusive-attitudes-behaviors-lindsay-poelman

Hear what worthiness wounds are, why they hurt, and how they might be showing up for you if you identify with the value of protecting and providing. Learn how this role turns toxic if you haven’t healed your worthiness wounds, why this conditioning is often enmeshed with toxic masculinity, and examples of how you can use this value of protecting and providing in healthy and honorable ways instead.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/worthiness-wounds-part-2-protect-provide

I walk you through the keys to using the working backwards process effectively, and share an example from my own life of how I use this technique to understand myself better and replace self-judgment with self-compassion.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/working-backwards

Your feelings are the fuel for your quitting journey. I show you how to ditch the shame and focus on building shame-free commitments that empower you to live your best life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/shame-free

Learn a shame-free perspective on denial and examples of when denial shows up as a result of grief. Hear about the importance of noticing and feeling your sense of grief and how to find the peace and healing you desire.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/denial

Learn about the conditioning men receive that creates worthiness wounds and the types of results they produce. Hear why you’ll continue to feel empty if you’re chasing external accomplishments as a way to heal, how these types of wounds create buffering activities, and why they hurt not only you but those you love most too.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/worthiness-wounds-part-1-the-conditioning

Learn what to do when everyone around you takes a shame approach to porn. I’m showing you how your peace and freedom come from not participating in these narratives, some ways you might choose to step out of the line of fire, and how, when you learn to do this, you can make a much bigger difference in your community.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/everyone-shame-approach

Listen in this week as Coach Kat shows you how the it’s-not-working mentality might be showing up for you, and why you shouldn’t give up at this point. Hear why the work you’re currently doing isn’t going to waste, even if it feels like it, and how we know that the magic of change is inevitable if you don’t give up on yourself.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-the-its-not-working-mentality

While we can learn to move through shame in different and more useful ways, I don’t know that it’s possible to completely get rid of it. The good news is that while shame will continue to show up for us, what we can do is start developing shame-resilience. Coach Jessica Farmer is here this week to shed light on what it means to become shame-resilient and how to start practicing this skill.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-become-shame-resilient

Learn five practical tips for making the most of our Learn and Move On worksheet. Coach Kat is sharing how you can use it to collect data, get more precise about what’s going on for you, and even use it in conjunction with other milestones to find information you hadn’t seen before.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-learn-and-move-on-worksheet

Learn how to approach sensitive conversations about body image, understand the real effects of pornography on sexual health, and discover ways to foster a healthier, more confident relationship with your sexuality. Whether you're dealing with personal challenges or looking for deeper insights, this episode is packed with valuable advice and compassionate guidance.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/pornography-sexual-health-sexuality

Discover how the sentence, "There's something wrong with me…" is actually stopping you from making progress. This is a limiting belief that keeps you stuck, and you'll learn how to replace this limiting, judgmental sentence with something way more useful instead.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-seriously-wrong-with-me

Join Coach Kat as she walks you through the CTFAR model and how to use it in relation to this question, why having unwanted thoughts or images isn’t a problem, and a new way to think about them on purpose without any judgment or shame.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-unwanted-thoughts-images

Learn about the worries people experience about masturbation, and why it’s actually a completely normal part of healthy development. I’m exploring how extreme distress can cause sexual trauma, why the shame around masturbation is learned and unhealthy, and the damaging effects of sexual shame.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/masturbation

Learn how understanding the differences between fantasy, desire, and choice is the secret to using your sexuality for good. I’m showing you the importance of knowing what is and isn’t real in porn, what to do if you’re distressed by intrusive sexual thoughts, and how to integrate your sexuality into your whole human experience.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/fantasy-desire-intrusive-thoughts-porn-literacy

I dispel more porn myths that are creating panic, shame, and fear, and show you how most of the research available to us is biased. Learn about the ongoing research project we’re undertaking, non-shame-based reasons for you to work through a porn habit, and why busting these myths will give you more freedom and control over how you want to use your sexuality.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/healthy-sexuality-part-2

Hear my thoughts on healthy sexuality and what using your sexuality for good can look like. I’m exploring the key concepts that will help you reduce the shame you’re experiencing, busting the most common myths about porn that might be holding you back, and addressing the moral panic that comes from porn use.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/healthy-sexuality-part-1

Jessica explains the importance of gaining awareness of the physical manifestations of your emotions. Learn what it means to ‘feel’ it in your body and where to start if you’re struggling to feel your physical sensations.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-feeling-your-body

Hear why this rebrand is happening, the big updates that are coming to the program, and how all of this affects you.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/rebrand-the-center-for-overcoming-pornography

Learn what it means to develop your personal spiritual authority and why it matters more than you might think. I show you what to do if you find yourself leaning on others to tell you what’s good or best for your life, examples of subtle spiritual abuse, and how to recognize the depth of your connection to your highest, most spiritual self.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/personal-spiritual-authority

Join me on this episode to learn how the quit porn industry is not addressing the root issue of porn use, and why you need to get underneath the surface to truly heal. You’ll hear how my approach addresses the drivers of unwanted porn use, and why it’s changing the lives of my clients.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/missing-from-quit-porn-industry

If you’ve ever found it challenging to think through your decisions, you’re not alone. Prioritizing nervous system healing in these moments is the secret to bringing your brain back online, but it can be difficult to practice. That’s why this week, I’m sharing some simple ideas for grounding and orienting yourself when nothing else seems to be working.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/prioritizing-nervous-system-healing

I invited Dan on to the show this week to dive into a specific scripture from The Sermon on the Mount where Christ says, “Whoever lusteth after a woman has committed adultery in his heart.” If this scripture has been something you’ve battled with on your porn journey, listen in this week as Dan and I explore its interpretations and how we can use it in a way that serves us better.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/interpreting-scripture-dan-purcell

Join me this week to hear why there’s magic in repetition, how I incorporate the power of repetition into my daily life, and how using my Belief Plan guided meditation will help create new neural pathways in your brain so you can believe new thoughts that serve you on your journey. 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/repetition-magic

On the other hand, Super Mario Brothers involves dying over and over again, but you don’t start at the very beginning. You go again from your last checkpoint. This is the mindset that will help you use your slip-ups as growth opportunities, and I’m showing you how on this episode. 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/jenga-super-mario-brothers

I’m sharing some examples of inner child healing work from my program and what to expect as you begin healing those wounds. Discover how healing your inner child doesn’t just benefit you but can also heal ancestral or generational trauma and positively impact the lives of those around you too.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/intro-inner-child

Hear about Konstantin’s porn journey and what his unique path to healing looks like. He generously shares the struggles he faced in trying to quit his porn habit, the one thing that shifted his experience, and his advice for anyone who can resonate with his story and also wants a solution.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-konstantin

Learn the necessity of knowing the difference between beliefs and facts, how to pinpoint the beliefs that are keeping you from quitting porn, and how to create awareness about what you believe is a fact. Discover three steps to change your beliefs about yourself and discover why you need to be aware of things in order to change them.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/beliefs-identity

Hear Andrea’s definition of infidelity and whether she believes unwanted porn use constitutes cheating in a relationship. We’re exploring how to gain an objective view of your situation, why independent healing matters, and her top tips for rebuilding a loving relationship with a shared vision moving forward. 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/porn-use-infidelity-andrea-giles

Learn the importance of identifying how buffering shows up for you, why processing your emotions is a crucial step in overcoming your porn habit, why the shame cycle keeps you stuck, and how to heal those stories. Discover how to create the emotional fuel that will help you reach your goals.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/emotions-buffering

Join us on this episode as Dan shares his pornography journey with us and how a shame-free approach changed his outlook on his habit. He’s offering the podcast episodes and concepts that had the biggest impact on him, and he discusses the transformations he’s witnessed in the last year and a half of doing this work.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/whats-possible-dan

Discover a new perspective on commitment to quitting porn. I’m discussing the problem with coming at your commitment from a place of fear and shame, and you'll learn how to reframe your thoughts around why you want to quit porn, increasing your chances of being successful in the process.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/commitment

Join us on this episode as Jill offers her insights on the basic characteristics of scrupulous OCD, why it becomes a problem, and how to identify if it may be present for you. We’re also diving into how scrupulous OCD keeps us stuck, why it feels like an obsession, and her top tips for beginning to question and heal these tendencies.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/ocd-jill-freestone

Tune in this week to learn how to keep it simple when you’re quitting pornography. I’m showing you why you don’t need to give up every time you slip up, and you can use every challenge you encounter as an opportunity to Learn and Move On.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/learn-and-move-on

Join me this week as I take you through my Year in Review exercise and explain why this is going to set you up with the right energy as you enter 2024. Hear the value of acknowledging all your wins so far and imagining 2024 ahead of time, and questions that will guide you along this visualization process.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/year-review-visualizing-2024

Listen in this week to discover why we default to saying we’re stuck even when we’re not, what it actually means to feel stuck, and Coach Kat’s top tips for getting unstuck no matter what you’re navigating right now.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/why-youre-stuck

Tune in this week to discover how to make sure a slip-up doesn’t ruin your day. I’m discussing how to measure your progress on your journey of quitting pornography, and showing you why slipping up isn’t a problem. Learn how to keep making progress toward your goal of quitting porn even if you’ve slipped up in the morning.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/slip-up

Hear my thoughts on why no emotion is inherently bad, how emotions can be either helpful or unhelpful, and how to identify whether the shame you’re experiencing is serving you.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/good-shame-vs-bad-shame

Hear how to balance the skill of processing urges with the other goals you’ve set for yourself. Coach Tina is offering what could be happening if learning to process your urges feels overwhelming, and how to take care of yourself so it doesn’t feel like everything is slipping out of your grasp.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/reality-learning-new-skills

Hear why the practice of processing the urge to view porn might be resulting in extreme tiredness and overwhelm, how self-care makes processing urges easier, and Jessica’s insights on five areas of self-care you must prioritize in your day-to-day.

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Join Jessica on this episode to hear her top tips for processing uncomfortable emotions, how all emotions have a shelf life, and the power of letting any emotion be present until it eventually dissipates. 

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Join coach Kat on this episode to hear why you have to examine the stories you’re currently telling yourself, her suggestions for beginning to rewrite your stories, and her top tips for going on a treasure hunt for new thoughts that serve you on your journey of quitting porn. 

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Listen in this week to hear the model that was submitted for this question, understand why the question asker feels more trapped than free in the process of thinking new thoughts about their porn habit, and Coach Tina’s answers.

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Tune in today to hear why finding your compelling reason for quitting porn is essential, what happens when you use unhelpful emotions to drive your actions, and how to find your own compelling reason for why you might want to quit porn for good.

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Join Jessica on this episode as she walks you through how to investigate what “feeling guilty enough” means to you, why it’s always worth challenging your brain on anything it offers, especially if it’s unhelpful, and the difference between the emotions of shame and guilt.

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Hear why this is a completely normal reaction to have, and a simple exercise you can try when you catch yourself in fear of missing out or resisting the idea of who you’re becoming as you overcome pornography.

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Listen in today to hear my answer to the question of slipping up and processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve failed. I’m showing you why slipping up doesn’t mean you’re not progressing, and the importance of not discounting the work you’re doing, even if it isn’t manifesting right away.

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Tune in this week to discover the difference between suffering and pain. I’m showing you where your suffering is really coming from, why suffering is not worse than pain, and what you can do to stop your suffering. We’re taking a three-month break from regular programming over here on the podcast, so listen in to find out what the show has in store in the meantime.

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Learn how boundaries can work in tandem with building honesty and transparency with the people you care about. You are the authority on your spiritual well-being, and I’m showing you how to make aligned decisions, even if that means setting boundaries in your relationships.

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Tune in today to hear Tyson’s insights on why we need to redefine what sin means and where it comes from. We’re discussing how our current beliefs about sin perpetuates shame, what we consider to be sinful behavior, and what can happen when we start seeing sin as a wound that needs healing versus a crime that needs punishing.

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hear how Josh went from feeling intense pressure about quitting porn to successfully quitting by accepting that his progress with porn would never be linear. Josh shares his advice for dealing with slip-ups as you start quitting pornography, and we go deep into all the ways he has grown since he stopped struggling with pornography.

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Whether you are considering telling your spouse about your pornography use or you’ve already told them and it has become a point of contention, we’re exploring it all this week. Jessica shares her tips for disclosing your porn use to your partner, the potential issues that could arise from this and how to work through and even embrace the messiness that comes as a result.

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This week, David is sharing his porn journey with us and how coaching helped him realize that the tools he obtained can be applied to more than just quitting porn. He’s sharing the point at which he realized he needed support, the change that happened in his mindset, and where he is today.

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Discover why you don’t have to feel shame about your desire for porn, and how to redirect that energy in other ways by listening to it and learning from it. Hear why it’s worth exploring what you currently believe is a problem and how to use your bodily wisdom to create the life you want.

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Discover the proven most effective way of protecting your children from the world of pornography. We’re discussing the value of proper age-appropriate sex-positive education, why your kids viewing pornography doesn’t mean that they’re addicted, and how to talk to your kids about their porn use in a productive way.

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I show you why developing the perception of being loved, held, guided, and never alone is an important part of healing your pornography journey. I’m sharing my own spiritual practice with you, the difference between head or body knowing versus heart knowing, and what happens when we go through life feeling loved, held, guided, and never alone.

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Hayden believes that failing fast and moving on has been a key part of the breakthroughs he’s experienced, and he’s here to share his journey with us. He’s offering his thoughts on the importance of being willing to do whatever it takes to change your habit and why it’s never about achieving perfection.

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Discover how spirituality can become harmful and damaging, as well as a great tool to lean on when you’re trying to quit porn. I’m sharing some of my own personal spiritual experiences, and how you can use spirituality to practice unconditional love and compassion for yourself and others.

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David shares his own unshaming story and his unique approach to unshaming. He offers insights into why shaming ourselves never leads to change, the difference between guilt and shame, and what the practice of unshaming can look like in reality.

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Explore what it truly means to quit porn for good, and discover a helpful perspective that will shift you away from fear and doubt and empower you with control. I’m sharing how the notion of "for good" might be keeping you stuck, and why it doesn't have to be solely about never slipping up or viewing porn again.

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You're not alone in your struggle to quit porn, and this conversation will show you just how much is possible when you're ready to do this work.

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Madi’s mission is one we don’t talk about openly nearly enough, and this is a conversation that is so necessary. In a world where many women have repressed their sexuality and experience shame or trauma around it, curiosity and education are vital. Madi was brave enough to publicly share her own journey with pornography, and she’s here this week to offer her insights on young women grappling with porn use.

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Start recognizing how you link your worthiness to your productivity and learn how to break free from this mindset. I'm showing you precisely how this way of thinking affects your attempts to quit viewing porn, the unhelpful thoughts and emotions that arise when you base your worthiness on productivity, and how to begin cultivating feelings of worthiness and self-acceptance, regardless of your porn use.

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Discover what a belief plan is and why it is key, not just for achieving the goal of quitting porn, but for changing your life beyond this habit. I’m offering you a belief plan exercise you can use to start the work of overcoming pornography, as well as ideas for new thoughts to cultivate.

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Tune into our enlightening discussion as relationship and sex coach, Tammy Hill, offers practical advice on overcoming loneliness and building the relationship of your dreams. She'll shed light on the powerful impacts of nurturing an abundance mindset and taking care of our minds and bodies. Not only this, but she'll guide us on how to thrive in singleness and shed light on the tricky question - when is the right time to disclose your porn habit in a relationship?

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Discover why understanding the River of Misery will help you quit viewing pornography and never go back to it. I'm sharing the thoughts that make the River of Misery difficult to cross, and showing you how to see the patterns that are keeping you stuck so you can begin working on them and make it to the other side.

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Discover what is possible when you stop labeling yourself as an addict. James shares the beliefs he changed around his pornography use and what it means and dives into all the work we did in Overcome Pornography for Good that helped him quit porn and move forward with his life.

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I’m sharing four strategies for breaking the cycle of overwhelm. Hear what typically happens if you resist overwhelm, why you’re not actually at the mercy of this emotion, and the importance of approaching learning new skills with tiny baby steps along the way.

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Lindsay shares how relationship spirals have a lot to do with our individual conditioning. Hear why we have to first understand the context of our conditioning to untangle our relationship spirals, and how you’re both allowed to create a safe space for your own healing.

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Hear why you have everything you need inside of you to heal and quit porn for good. I’m showing you how we’re conditioned to believe the authority lives outside of us, and why it’s vital to recognize nothing and no one is above questioning.

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Jeff shares why his attempts to quit over the years didn’t work, how it affected his relationship with his wife, and how what he learned in the program changed everything. Jeff says he’s now free to live his life the way he wants to, and I want you to know that that freedom is possible for you too!

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Hear why we have to reframe the belief that your spouse should fulfill your sexual needs. Amanda is sharing where this belief comes from, what you miss out on when you believe this messaging, and her top tips for what actually creates the best, most fulfilling sexual relationship.

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Discover how to control your sexual urges. I’m showing you how your sexuality can actually be your friend and companion, and why you don’t have to tame it by resorting to locking it away or hating it.

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He’s offering the tools that made the biggest difference to his porn use, how he made the decision to commit to the work, and how he’s now showing up as a serene person who is more intentional with his time both at work and at home. 

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Start the work of escaping the shame-blame trap. I’m sharing why, even though it’s difficult to talk yourself out of shame, you can move through it with compassion for yourself, without resorting to blaming others.

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Discover why you don’t have to push your urges away or try to silence them. Like any new skill, there will be failures along the way. But when you are no longer scared of your urges, I promise, you’ll be able to approach them in a way that will completely change your life.

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Discover what breathwork is and how it can help you quit viewing pornography for good. Kat and I are discussing how buffering with pornography impacts your nervous system, and how breathwork can bring ease and calm into your body when you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

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Learn why thinking in years makes for more sustainable action than only looking at the short term, and how to benefit from the compound effect of implementing a long-term strategy.

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Tina walks us through the 10 loopholes that keep you from changing. You’ll hear why you shouldn’t let these loopholes send you into a shame spiral if you relate to them, and how to start questioning the loopholes that your brain tries to offer you. 

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Discover what might be leading you to feeling desensitized, and my recommendations for what to do when you find yourself feeling this way. You’ll hear how to listen to your body’s signals in these moments, and why, when you do, you’ll be able to quit viewing porn so much easier and faster. 

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Join me to discover how, maybe, the problem isn’t you if you’re struggling to quit viewing pornography.

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