Perfectionism Rewired

White Knuckling & the High Price of Powering Through

Perfectionist Solutions — Sun, 22 Jun 2025 16:15:00 -0700

White knuckling your way through dumpster fires + stacked deadlines might *seem impressive* but underneath constantly second-guessing yourself, obsessively counting of how much you accomplished while beating yourself up — are hidden costs eating away at your efficiency (and overall ability to enjoy the life you’ve worked so hard to create). This episode names what you couldn’t explain...until now.

Resources Mentioned In Episode 255:

The Impact & Intention Framework Ep. 171
Finding Your Compelling Why’s Ep. 174
Asking High Quality Questions Ep. 231
Giving Yourself Validation Ep. 237
Having Impeccable Boundaries 239
Being A Curious Scientist Instead Of The Judge Ep. 208
Using Your Mood Meter Ep. 254
Understanding Your Person Account Ep. 252
Measuring Your Person Account Ep.253
Identifying Perfectionist Prediction Loops Ep. 250
Popping Up In Perfectionistic Brain Ep. 249
Deliberate Disruption The Calibration

Timestamps:

00:00–Striving for excellence in a dumpster fire while white knuckling

01:59-Definition of perfectionism

03:13–Uncomfy confession my overfunctioning

04:48–When powering through stops working

05:35–Fear uncertainty and doubt in disguise

06:40–Second guessing yourself despite the evidence

07:17– Are You Making This Huge Perfectionistic Mistake

08:31–Why overachievers get to disappointed in myself spirals

09:06–Over functioning feeds control issues BEST analogy

09:55–Beating yourself up When is enough enough

11:03–How I’m able to stop pushing through before burnout

12:05–Why perfectionist tendencies turn poisonous

13:45–The Clueless Mismatch Tool

14:20– Choosing what's familiar over what's functional

15:03–Disrupt overachiever autopilot with The Calibration

16:12–Tools to stop second guessing yourself

17:56–Perfectionism Podcast BTS

Quotes on Perfectionism:

"Most perfectionists conflate measuring with counting. You count how much you got done that day, you look at your to do list, all the check marks you count and you think that is measuring." –Courtney Love Gavin, Expert on Perfectionism Neuroscience

"You can't solve a problem when you continue to use methods that perpetuate it. And until you disrupt where those perfectionist tendencies are coming from, your brain will continue choosing what's familiar over what's functional." –Courtney Love Gavin, Expert on Perfectionism Neuroscience

Highly Credible Sources Cited in this Perfectionism Podcast:

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Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. Behavioral and Brain Sciences, 36(3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477
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Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
Petersen, J., Ong, C. W., Hancock, A. S., Gillam, R. B., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). An Examination of the Relationship Between Perfectionism and Neurological Functioning. Journal of Cognitive Psychotherapy, 35(3), 195–211. https://doi.org/10.1891/jcpsy-d-20-00037
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Solms, L., Koen, J., A.E.M. van Vianen, Theeboom, T., Beersma, B., Anne, & Matthijs de Hoog. (2022). Simply effective? The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions in a self-coaching writing exercise. Frontiers in Psychology, 13. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.895439
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How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You)

Perfectionist — Wed, 07 May 2025 23:12:47 -0700

What if feeling your feelings didn’t mean falling apart — but actually gave you more control, not less? If white knuckling or pushing through is the best way you know how to feel your feelings. You’re not alone.Discover the hidden mistake keeping perfectionists stuck feeling on edge, why you can never outthink your feelings and the right way to feel your feelings.

Want to bring rewiring into your reality? Where being confident, certain and playful is just how you roll? Perfectionist Solutions 1-1 coaching is your next step.

Mentioned In Episode 254:

Perfectionism Optimized 1 to 1 coaching
PerfectionismRewired.com

Other helpful podcast episodes in this series on How Your Brain Actually Works:

Timestamps:

00:00-Your thoughts create your feelings LIE #1
01:53-Can't Feel Your Feelings Without This
04:14-Knowing how your brain actually works
05:24-"What is Wrong With Me?" Explained
06:37-Feelings Are Psychological LIE #2
07:16-Feelings are Emotions LIE #3
08:56-Where Feelings Actually Come From
10:08-How Depersonalizing Feelings = Freedom
12:46-Turning Mom Meltdown Moments Around (Manon's Story)
14:35-How To Control Your Feelings
16:01-Rational Thinking + Decisions LIE #4
17:32-Striving For Excellence Without Pushing Through
18:29-What Your Person Account Has To Do With Feelings
19:41-How To Identify Your Feelings Fast
21:12-How To Feel Your Feelings Visual Tool
22:33-Why Meditation + Deep Breaths Don’t Always Work
23:58-Thoughts Drive Your Feelings LIES #5
25:57-Perspectacles How Feelings Shape Your Perceptions
28:37-Turning Your Mood into Useful Fuel
30:07-Where Sense Data Fits Into The Equation

How To Feel Your Feelings Q&A

Q: Why does “changing my thoughts” never changes my feelings—especially as a perfectionist? A: This episode breaks down the myth that thoughts drive feelings (hint: it’s the other way around!). Discover why “thought work” is a torture device for perfectionidtic people and how the “CTFAR Model” does not actually work for any human with a brain

Q: What’s really going on when I’m overwhelmed by emotions even if everything looks fine on the outside? A: You’ll learn the neuroscientific difference between feelings and emotions, plus why this distinction puts an to the cycle of overthinking feelings and asking “what is wrong with me”

Q: What's the biggest misconception high-achievers have about feelings? A: Most of us have a totally backward understanding of where feelings come from (and it’s not just psychological!). Courtney reveals the real, science-backed answer.

Q: How can I feel my feelings without getting “lost” in them or falling apart? A: Tune in for a client success story and discover a practical tool—the “mood meter”—to help you regain control and function, even on tough days.

Q: Does thinking rationally mean I can escape feelings? A: Logic and rationality can’t bypass feelings. Find out why every decision (yes, even the “rational” ones!) are shaped by your mood — and how to use this knowledge to your advantage.

Q: What’s one quick, practical tweak I can use to feel better fast? A: Courtney shares micro-strategies (think 30 seconds to 3 minutes) you can use right away to change your mood—and your experience.

Highly Credible Resources Cited in this Episode

Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. *Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences*, *364*(1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310
Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
Barrett, L. F. (2006). Valence is a basic building block of emotional life. Journal of Research in Personality, 40(1), 35–55. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2005.08.006
Barrett, L. F. (2016). The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, nsw154. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsw154
Barrett, L. F., & Bar, M. (2009). See it with feeling: affective predictions during object perception. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 364(1521), 1325–1334. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0312
Barrett, L. F., Gross, J., Christensen, T. C., & Benvenuto, M. (2001). Knowing what you're feeling and knowing what to do about it: Mapping the relation between emotion differentiation and emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 15(6), 713–724. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000239
Barrett, L. F., & Russell, J. A. (1999). The Structure of Current Affect. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 8(1), 10–14. https://doi.org/10.1111/1467-8721.00003
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Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 146, 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951
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Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour, 1(5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069
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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With

allostatis — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 01:06:16 -0700

You’re doing everything right. You’re ambitious, successful + driven. So why is it your energy is nonexistent, patience is razor-thin + your mind can't stop overthinking? If your days are starting with dread and ending in exhaustion — this episode is your wake-up call.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or accessing your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

How pushing through dewires your brain into survival mode
What caffeine, people pleasing + Top Ramen have in common
16 surprising signs your brain is starving
Why ruminating and indecisiveness are symptoms—not problems to solve
How a healthy Person Account™ allows you to access your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with

Resources Mentioned In Episode 253:

Recharge your Person Account Book your Perfect Start 1:1 session now
Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250
Neuroplasticity [Neuroscience Series #4] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 251
#1 Thing Stops Perfectionists From Growth [Neuroscience Series #5] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 252

TIMESTAMPS:

02:09-Why Perfectionists Need More Fuel for Our Brains
04:10-MYTH: You Have to Stop Being a Perfectionist
06:24-Clues You’re on the Path to Chronic Stress
09:32-Burn Out is Not the Price of Ambition
10:25-Case Study: How Stacey found Clarity, Energy, Peace
12:43-I Ruminate Over Decisions bc I Need to Make the Right Decision
14:05-Why You’re Choosing Instant Relief (and Paying Later)
16:11-A Healthy Person Account™ = Liberation
17:32-How to Always Know How Your Person Account™ is Doing

Citations/Sources:

Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
Barrett, L. F., Quigley, K. S., & Hamilton, P. (2016). An active inference theory of allostasis and interoception in depression. *Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences*, *371*(1708), 20160011. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2016.0011
Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 146, 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951
Dwyer, P. (2022). The Neurodiversity Approach(es): What Are They and What Do They Mean for Researchers? Human Development, 66(2), 73–92. https://doi.org/10.1159/000523723
Ganzel, B. L., & Morris, P. A. (2011). Allostasis and the developing human brain: Explicit consideration of implicit models. Development and Psychopathology, 23(4), 955–974. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0954579411000447‌
Guidi, J., Lucente, M., Sonino, N., & Fava, Giovanni A. (2020). Allostatic Load and Its Impact on Health: A Systematic Review. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics, 90(1), 11–27. https://doi.org/10.1159/000510696
Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour, 1(5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069
Knezevic, E., Katarina Nenic, Milanovic, V., & Knezevic, N. N. (2023). The Role of Cortisol in Chronic Stress, Neurodegenerative Diseases, and Psychological Disorders. Cells, 12(23), 2726–2726. https://doi.org/10.3390/cells12232726‌
McEwen, B. S., & Gianaros, P. J. (2011). Stress- and Allostasis-Induced Brain Plasticity. Annual Review of Medicine, 62(1), 431–445. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-med-052209-100430

The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth

cortisol — Fri, 28 Mar 2025 16:38:27 -0700

Feel like you're working hard but not seeing the progress you want? It's NOT YOU or your PERFECTIONISM – it's your Person Account™ . Discover my proprietary framework that’s changing the game for Perfectionist Solution’s clients, and will do the same for you.

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

How ruminating + running a 10k impact you the exact same way
Why perfectionist brains work overtime + cost more to operate
How to tell if you’re operating in a constant state of depletion without realizing it
What Cortisol actually is (it's NOT a STRESS HORMONE)
The hidden reason therapy + personal development don't work

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Resources Mentioned In Episode 252:

Perfect Start Session
Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250

TIMESTAMPS:

0:53-Why You're Not Making Progress Despite Trying Harder
02:15-Allostasis: How Your Brain Allocates
05:07-The Hidden Reason Therapy Isn’t Working
06:30-Why Perfectionist Brains Cost More to Operate
07:25-Living in a Depleted State Without Realizing It
09:31-Stressed out: Eustress vs. Distress
10:29-Truth about Cortisol + Stress Response
12:35-The Slow Drip of Perfectionist Burnout
15:17-How to Tell if You’re Running on Empty

Citations/Sources:

Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 146, 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951
Dwyer, P. (2022). The Neurodiversity Approach(es): What Are They and What Do They Mean for Researchers? Human Development, 66(2), 73–92. https://doi.org/10.1159/000523723
Ganzel, B. L., & Morris, P. A. (2011). Allostasis and the developing human brain: Explicit consideration of implicit models. Development and Psychopathology, 23(4), 955–974. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0954579411000447‌
Guidi, J., Lucente, M., Sonino, N., & Fava, Giovanni A. (2020). Allostatic Load and Its Impact on Health: A Systematic Review. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics, 90(1), 11–27. https://doi.org/10.1159/000510696
Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans. Nature Human Behaviour, 1(5). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41562-017-0069
Knezevic, E., Katarina Nenic, Milanovic, V., & Knezevic, N. N. (2023). The Role of Cortisol in Chronic Stress, Neurodegenerative Diseases, and Psychological Disorders. Cells, 12(23), 2726–2726. https://doi.org/10.3390/cells12232726‌
McEwen, B. S., & Gianaros, P. J. (2011). Stress- and Allostasis-Induced Brain Plasticity. Annual Review of Medicine, 62(1), 431–445. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-med-052209-100430

Neuroplasticity

Perfectionist — Sun, 23 Mar 2025 23:00:00 -0700

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

How neuroplasticity works and why it’s crucial for perfectionists
The surprising difference in brain flexibility before and after age 45
Real-life coaching breakthroughs that prove brain rewiring is possible
Why *use it or lose it* is the key to changing perfectionist tendencies
The fastest way to stop rumination, self-doubt and overanalyzing mistakes

Resources Mentioned In Episode 251:

Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session
Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
Can't Stop Ruminating? Here's Why [Neuroscience Series #3] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 250

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Why Age 45 Is a Brain Plasticity Tipping Point
01:07-Analogy for what is neuroplasticity
02:52-Rewire your brain with Perfect Start Session
05:29-Framework for Rewiring Perfectionism Inside Out
06:10-Transformative Effects of Cognitive Flexibility

Citations/Sources:

Cramer, S. C., Sur, M., Dobkin, B. H., C. O'Brien, Sanger, T. D., Trojanowski, J. Q., … Haber, S. (2011). Harnessing neuroplasticity for clinical applications. Brain, 134(6), 1591–1609. https://doi.org/10.1093/brain/awr039
Fuchs, E., & Flügge, G. (2014). Adult Neuroplasticity: More Than 40 Years of Research. Neural Plasticity, 2014, 1–10. https://doi.org/10.1155/2014/541870
Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging, 23(4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345
Isheqlou, L.K., Soltanlou, M., Zarean, M., Saeedi, M.T. and Heysieattalab, S. (2023). Feedback-related negativity in perfectionists: An index of performance outcome evaluation. Behavioural Brain Research, 444, 114358–114358. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bbr.2023.114358
Petersen, J., Ong, C. W., Hancock, A. S., Gillam, R. B., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). An Examination of the Relationship Between Perfectionism and Neurological Functioning. Journal of Cognitive Psychotherapy, 35(3), 195–211. https://doi.org/10.1891/jcpsy-d-20-00037
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Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why

Perfectionist — Fri, 14 Mar 2025 21:26:42 -0700

"Part of the reason I stay super busy is bc if I stop to rest l'll ruminate. And if I ruminate, I start spiraling. And if I spiraling I'm like a nosediving plane" Sound familiar? Discover the ANSWER to WHY you get stuck in your most annoying perfectionist tendencies, like ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking every small mistake etc.

Plus the 6 reasons your perfectionist brain holds on to outdated habits, how chronic stress impacts your brain’s ability to change, the role of back and white thinking in reinforcing unhelpful neural pathways, why past experiences trick your brain into seeing danger everywhere and how to stop your worries from becoming self-fulfilling prophecies.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00–How to finally take charge of ruminating
02:16–Missed the last episode? Here’s a quick recap
04:06–What happens when your brain gets it wrong
06:09–Why perfectionist brains resists learning from mistakes
07:40–6 sneaky reasons your brain ignores new info
08:23–How chronic stress keeps your brain stuck
10:20–Why your brain clings to old patterns
11:42–The hidden reason you avoid discomfort
12:51–When your brain blows things out of proportion
13:49–How black-and-white thinking is like wearing blinders
15:19–Why past experiences warp your reactions
19:34–How to update your brain so you can get unstuck
21:09–One small shift to start seeing change today The first step in rewiring

Resources Mentioned In Episode 250:

Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session
Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192
Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193

Citations/Sources:

Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences, 364(1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310
Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950
Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience, 15(2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4
Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. Behavioral and Brain Sciences, 36(3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477
Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
Lital Yosopov, Saklofske, D. H., Smith, M. M., Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2024). Failure Sensitivity in Perfectionism and Procrastination: Fear of Failure and Overgeneralization of Failure as Mediators of Traits and Cognitions. Journal of Psychoeducational Assessment, 42(6), 705–724. https://doi.org/10.1177/07342829241249784
Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience, 5. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
‌McNally, G. P., Johansen, J. P., & Blair, H. T. (2011). Placing prediction into the fear circuit. *Trends in Neurosciences*, *34*(6), 283–292. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tins.2011.03.005‌
Meyer, A., & Wissemann, K. (2020). Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults. *Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience*, *15*(1), 87–95. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018
‌Roy, M., Shohamy, D., Daw, N., Jepma, M., Wimmer, G. E., & Wager, T. D. (2014). Representation of aversive prediction errors in the human periaqueductal gray. *Nature Neuroscience*, *17*(11), 1607–1612. https://doi.org/10.1038/nn.3832
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Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain

Perfectionist — Fri, 28 Feb 2025 20:14:11 -0700

Constantly overthinking? Still ruminating over that convo with your boss? You're not alone. Uncover how perfectionistic tendencies like being super rigid, people pleasing, over-preparing, excessively worrying — are actually signs your perfectionistic brain is misfiring. Plus, learn the neuroscience-backed solution to take charge of your perfectionist tendencies + start feeling better.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-What Makes Perfectionistic Brains Unique
04:02-How Perfectionist Tendencies Operate 
07:32-Neuroscience Behind Overthinking 
09:25-Catastrophizing Your Way to Chronic Stress 
10:37-Ruminating + Other Perfectionist Tendencies
11:58-Neuroplasticy to rewire the brain
14:03-What Gets In The Way of Rewiring
15:59-Black + White Thinking

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today!

Resources Mentioned In Episode 249:

Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
Catastrophizing Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 188
Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 216
Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193

Citations/Sources:

Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience, 15(2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4
Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience, 5. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3

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Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here

Perfectionist — Mon, 17 Feb 2025 02:19:37 -0700

Feeling overwhelmed? Stressed out? Anxious? Being vague about your emotions is like saying you're "craving food" for dinner—utterly unhelpful! Your perfectionist brain needs precision to create the right action plan for you. Learn why labeling your emotions accurately is crucial for regulating your body's responses and the essential skillset all perfectionists need to understand their emotions.

TIMESTAMPS:

01:08-Controlling of emotions
03:13-How to stop feeling overwhelmed
05:28-Muffin-Cupcake Experiment
07:54-Why Words Hold Physiological Power
09:48-Emotional Regulation skills
12:14-What the skill of emotional granularity buys you
14:23-How to rewire your brain
15:27-Becoming an Emotional Sommelier
18:52-How do you construct your emotions more accurately?

Resources Mentioned In Episode 248:

Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes in Expressing Emotions Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173
Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193
Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194

Citations/Sources:

Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
Barrett, L. F. (2016). The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, nsw154–nsw154. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsw154
Barrett, L. F., Gross, J., Christensen, T. C., & Benvenuto, M. (2001). Knowing what you're feeling and knowing what to do about it: Mapping the relation between emotion differentiation and emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 15(6), 713–724. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000239
‌Crum, A. J., Corbin, W. R., Brownell, K. D., & Salovey, P. (2011). Mind over milkshakes: Mindsets, not just nutrients, determine ghrelin response. Health Psychology, 30(4), 424–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0023467
Gendron, M., Lindquist, K. A., Barsalou, L., & Barrett, L. F. (2012). Emotion words shape emotion percepts. Emotion, 12(2), 314–325. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0026007
Hoemann, K., Gendron, M., & Barrett, L. F. (2022). Assessing the Power of Words to Facilitate Emotion Category Learning. Affective Science, 3(1), 69–80. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-021-00084-4
Hoemann, K., Khan, Z., Kamona, N., Dy, J., Barrett, L. F., & Quigley, K. S. (2021). Investigating the relationship between emotional granularity and cardiorespiratory physiological activity in daily life. Psychophysiology, 58(6). https://doi.org/10.1111/psyp.13818
Hoemann, K., Lee, Y., Kuppens, P., Gendron, M., & Boyd, R. L. (2023). Emotional Granularity is Associated with Daily Experiential Diversity. Affective Science, 4(2), 291–306. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-023-00185-2
Hoemann, K., Nielson, C., Yuen, A., Gurera, J. W., Quigley, K. S., & Barrett, L. F. (2021). Expertise in emotion: A scoping review and unifying framework for individual differences in the mental representation of emotional experience. Psychological Bulletin, 147(11), 1159–1183. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000327
Satpute, A. B., Nook, E. C., Narayanan, S., Shu, J., Weber, J., & Ochsner, K. N. (2016). Emotions in "Black and White" or Shades of Gray? How We Think About Emotion Shapes Our Perception and Neural Representation of Emotion. Psychological science, 27(11), 1428–1442. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797616661555
Westlin, C., Theriault, J. E., Yuta Katsumi, Nieto-Castanon, A., Kucyi, A., Ruf, S. F., … Barrett, L. F. (2023). Improving the study of brain-behavior relationships by revisiting basic assumptions. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 27(3), 246–257. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2022.12.015

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The Right Way To Compare Yourself

Perfectionist — Thu, 06 Feb 2025 00:40:03 -0700

It’s impossible to stop self-comparison as a perfectionist. You.Are.Going.To.Compare.Yourself and here’s the best way to do it! Discover 6 empowering ways to rewire unhealthy self-comparisons, perfectionism trash trades, how to tell if you’re fear-based striving, live coaching on 4 IRL examples of comparing, the only skillset you need for this to work 100% of the time and a tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

TIMESTAMPS:

01:26-Choosing Your Response to Comparisons
03:07-The Skill Set of CAKE
05:41-Trash Trades in Perfectionism
06:55-Healthy vs. Unhealthy Comparisons
08:47-How to Reframe Self-Critical Thoughts
09:25-Breaking Free from Fear-Based Striving
10:49-Living in the Present, Not the Future
15:52-What Self-Comparisons Actually Reveal
17:39-Tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself
21:48-How Tiny, Mighty Progress Fuels You

Resources Mentioned In Episode 247:

Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
Comparing Yourself [PART ONE] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245
How Can I Stop Comparing Myself [PART TWO] Perfectionism Rewired Eo. 246
Meeting Yourself Where You Are Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 187
Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193

Citations/Sources:

Olson, J. M., Buhrmann, O., & Roese, N. J. (2000). Comparing Comparisons. Handbook of Social Comparison, 379–398. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4615-4237-7_18

Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614

Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences, 119, 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009

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How Can I Stop Comparing Myself

Perfectionist — Thu, 30 Jan 2025 00:32:18 -0700

Tactical "stop it" approaches to self-comparison DO NOT WORK for perfectionists. Find out WHY along with the hidden costs of comparing yourself, why the approach you’ve taken to stopping self-comparison hasn't worked, what you actually need to do and scientifically what causes perfectionists to have an even harder time than non-perfectionistic people in rewiring this habit.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Why self comparison tactics fail perfectionists
01:41-The hidden costs of comparing yourself
06:31-Recognize self comparison as a type of self punishment.
10:11-Why intellect isn't enough to rewire perfectionist tendencies
12:13-Developing skill sets over gathering knowledge
15:00-Why it's scientifically harder for perfectionists to stop unhealthy self-comparison
16:08-Acceptance vs. judgment in rewiring perfectionism
18:00-What Silver vs. bronze medalists show us about comparing yourself to others
21:30-Choosing growth over fear of failure

Resources Mentioned In Episode 246:

Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
Comparing Yourself (pt.1) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245
Discovering Your Hidden Motivators Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80
Intrinsic Motivational Patterns Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 66

Citations/Sources:

Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138

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Comparing Yourself

Perfectionist — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 21:50:49 -0700

Comparing yourself all the time? Tired of feeling like you never quite measure up...no matter how much you accomplish? It's not just YOU! Discover the sneaky specific ways self-comparison shows up for perfectionists, the difference between self-awareness + self-coaching, why self-comparison is not your fault but is your responsibility to change.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-How you can stop comparing yourself to others
02:32-The Annoying Problem with Surface-Level Self Comparison Tips
03:46-Self Awareness vs. Self Coaching: What's the Difference?
05:34-Dangers of DIY Approaches to Rewiring Perfectionism
07:25-Why “How To Stop COmparing Yourself To Others” tips backfire for perfectionists
12:10-Comparing Insides to Outsides Never Adds Up
14:13-Moving the goalposts
17:49-Punishment vs. Discipline: Changing Behaviors without Pain
19:31-Understanding the Why Behind Your Perfectionistic Tendencies

Resources Mentioned In Episode 245:

Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
Be Proud of Yourself Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 237
Chasing Validation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 236
Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232

Citations/Sources:

McCarthy, P. A., Meyer, T., Back, M. D., & Morina, N. (2023). How we compare: A new approach to assess aspects of the comparison process for appearance-based standards and their associations with individual differences in wellbeing and personality measures. PLOS ONE, 18(1), e0280072–e0280072. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0280072

White, J. B., Langer, E. J., Yariv, L., & Welch, J. C. (2006). Frequent Social Comparisons and Destructive Emotions and Behaviors: The Dark Side of Social Comparisons. Journal of Adult Development, 13(1), 36–44. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-006-9005-0

Zhou, Y., Yang, Y., Jiang, H., & Guo, C. (2025). Self-comparison versus social-comparison: The impact of imperfection on executive function in perfectionists. Personality and Individual Differences, 234, 112965. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2024.112965

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Overexplaining

Perfectionist — Sun, 27 Oct 2024 01:35:49 -0700

Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining
02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain
05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining
08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem
12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining
14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health
16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain
20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is
22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing Overexplaining

Resources Mentioned In Episode 244:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202
Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194
Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212
Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173
Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232

Citations/Sources:

Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950

‌Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798

Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

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Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance

Perfectionist — Wed, 09 Oct 2024 13:45:24 -0700

Craving Certainty? Need to be absolutely 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize uncertainty avoidance in your own life and tools to take control of the fear, uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). Discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, before every detail is known.

Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching, designed exclusively for perfectionists and gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance 
00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of 
01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty 
02:21-Examples of Uncertainty 
03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty 
04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill 
05:34-Making Good Decisions 
06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome 
07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside Out

Resources Mentioned In Episode 243:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234
Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202

Citations/Sources:

Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504
Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-y
Seif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications.

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Waiting For the Right Time

Perfectionist — Mon, 07 Oct 2024 23:30:22 -0700

Are You Waiting for the Right Time? It’s time to stop waiting for the perfect time. Feeling 100% ready (or whatever ideal set of conditions you’ve been waiting for) is an illusion that keeps you from taking charge of your life right now. Learn how to recognize if you’re giving your power over to ideal circumstances and how to take control.

Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Resources Mentioned In Episode 241:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234
Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202

Citations/Sources:

Leclerc, F., Schmitt, B. H., & Dube, L. (1995). Waiting Time and Decision Making: Is Time like Money? Journal of Consumer Research, 22(1), 110–110. https://doi.org/10.1086/209439
‌Osuna, E. E. (1985). The psychological cost of waiting. Journal of Mathematical Psychology, 29(1), 82–105. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-2496(85)90020-3

How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It)

Perfectionist — Sun, 06 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0700

Ever wish you had more confidence? Too many driven perfectionists wait for more confidence before making bold moves, mistaking insecurity for preparation. But waiting is killing your confidence slowly. 'm clearing up all the confusion around getting more confidence so you can stop waiting for it to show up and giving you the exact formula to get more confidence today!

Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more confidence on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Resources Mentioned In Episode 241:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234
Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202

Citations/Sources:

Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84(2), 191–215. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.84.2.191
Katie Stringer Lucero, & Chen, P. (2020). What Do Reinforcement and Confidence Have to Do with It? A Systematic Pathway Analysis of Knowledge, Competence, Confidence, and Intention to Change. Journal of European CME, 9(1), 1834759–1834759. https://doi.org/10.1080/21614083.2020.1834759
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What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information

Perfectionist — Sat, 05 Oct 2024 18:48:34 -0700

Lifelong learner but not taking bold action? I used to wait for more time, more confidence, more certainty, more information, more money and more support. Then I’d get MORE of what I was waiting for….and still find excuses to keep waiting. Until one day I quit waiting for more. Find out why perfectionists love to wait for more, precisely how this keeps you stuck and what happens IRL when perfectionists stop waiting for more information.

Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Resources Mentioned In Episode 240:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching

Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234

Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202

6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 215

The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 140

Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power

Perfectionist — Sun, 29 Sep 2024 17:54:57 -0700

Imagine feeling empowered, calm and grounded. You trust yourself. The incessant judgey voice in your head has been replaced with a witty, encouraging narrator. Your relationships built on truth. You say no to stuff you don’t want to do, without explanation. You take care of yourself FIRST. You've upgraded from exhausted to excited. Want that to be your reality? It starts with Impeccable Boundaries. Listen to learn how to create your own Impeccable Boundaries

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

- Can impeccable boundaries actually exist in relationships with unconditional love?

- Impeccable Boundary vs Ineffective Boundary

- how do you actually go about creating impeccable boundaries

- Why it's more challenging for a perfectionistic person to have impeccable boundaries.

- Perks of impeccable boundaries

- How who/what hurts you, can't heal you

Resources Mentioned In Episode 239:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching

More You Control, Less Powerful You Feel Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 196

Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 202

Everything You Need To Know About Self-Regulation As A Perfectionist Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 194

It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm

Perfectionist — Mon, 23 Sep 2024 21:33:49 -0700

Just as you finally get everything under control, life throws you ANOTHER curve ball. Seems like no matter what you do, you never get a moment of peace bc It’s Always Something. Discover exactly how to break down the elusive barriers that perpetually seem to get in the way of perfectionists and equip you with practical tools to let go of the chaos so you can navigate life’s unexpected twists without getting overwhelmed.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How where you source your confidence from determines how well you adapt to life's surprises
Why resourcing yourself mentally, emotionally + physically enables you to handle unexpected challenges like a pro
The secret to stop feeling like everything is always on your shoulders (this is way better than deep breaths)

Resources Mentioned In Episode 238:

Neuroplasticity (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 178)

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching

Citations/Sources:

Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging, 23(4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345
Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3‌
Levine, S. (2003). Psychological and social aspects of resilience: a synthesis of risks and resources. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience, 5(3), 273–280. https://doi.org/10.31887/dcns.2003.5.3/slevine

Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value

Perfectionist — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 17:35:53 -0700

Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements

01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You"

03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists

04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy

06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now

07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge

08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON

09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing

11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions

12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress

SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237

Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry, 46(2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-x
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Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997

Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner

Perfectionist — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 19:24:21 -0700

Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms.

If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change That
How lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own value
Practical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve.

Resources Mentioned:

Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80)
Perfectionism Optimized: Patented, proven science-backed tools that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way.

Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236

Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750
Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink. https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7
Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997

How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)

Perfectionist — Fri, 16 Aug 2024 22:25:02 -0700

Tired of thinking about work during family time? Feeling guilty whenever work takes you away from your family? Learn step-by-step how to LET GO OF GUILT. Perfectionism Optimized client Nicole shares how she went from mom guilt overload to missing her kids' first day of school and her entire family celebrating it. Also, discover the why behind your guilt, cost of continuing to carry guilt and how other approaches to stop feeling guilty simply *don't work* for perfectionists.

Credible Scientific Sources Cited in Ep. 235:

Flynn, F. J., & Schaumberg, R. L. (2012). When feeling bad leads to feeling good: Guilt-proneness and affective organizational commitment. Journal of Applied Psychology, 97(1), 124–133. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0024166
Schaumberg, R. L., & Flynn, F. J. (2012). Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown: The link between guilt proneness and leadership. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 103(2), 327–342. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0028127
Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523

What Fear of Failure is Masking

Perfectionist — Sun, 21 Jul 2024 02:23:15 -0700

You've been thinking about fear of failure all wrong. Get it right and find out what fear of failure is protecting you from, the underlying reasons behind fear of failure, the sneaky ways fear of failure shows up for perfectionists, what fear of failure really is (not good enough) why popular advice for overcoming fear of failure isn’t helpful for perfectionists and practical steps you can take today to dissolve this pattern.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Episode 234 Timestamps:

00:57-Sneaky Ways Fear of Failure Shows Up For Perfectionists
02:32-What Are You Waiting For?
04:47-Protecting Subconscious Mind From Feeling Inadequate
05:40-Black and White Thinking
06:17-Fear of Inadequacy
07:44-Procrastination and Indecision
09:34-Surfing Through Fear of Failure
10:25-Growth vs Fixed Mindset
11:32-Cognitive Dissonance in Perfectionism
14:06-Solving and Evolving Through Mistakes
16:46-Discovering the Only Problem You Have + Solving It

The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership

Perfectionist — Sat, 13 Jul 2024 16:58:13 -0700

Ever feel like you're constantly walking a tightrope? Expected to be confident but not too intimidating. Be assertive, but don't get aggressive. As women in leadership we've developed coping mechanisms to navigate these obstacles - like over-preparing, always getting it right and making sure we're well liked. These strategies have kept us afloat, but at what cost? Putting our careers ahead of our values, keeping one eye on the inbox even at the playground. So, how do we break free from this cycle? How do we burn bright without burning out and lead without losing ourselves? Your answers are inside this episode. .

How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)

Perfectionist — Tue, 09 Jul 2024 19:32:31 -0700

Discover why proving yourself is career poison, how to recognize the hidden, nuanced ways proving shows up (like when you put $$ in tip jar) and what lies beneath this constant pressure to constantly prove yourself. Finally get to the source of why even when you're at the top of your game, what's driving you to overwork, question your value and seek validation at every turn.

The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up

Perfectionist — Thu, 04 Jul 2024 23:13:01 -0700

Did I make the wrong choice? Why does this bother me so much? Am I letting them down? What if I fail? Spinning in self-judgement and second guessing every small move you make, your brain won't stop replaying magnifying your mistakes. Find out the REAL reason your inner critic won't shut up and how to start asking better questions so you can feel better right NOW.

Resources Mentioned In Ep. 231

Episode on the science of how your brain answers questions (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 39)
Questions To Ask Yourself For Instant Excellence (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 23)

Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism

Perfectionist — Wed, 26 Jun 2024 18:24:38 -0700

Discover the clues you’re clenching that you’d NEVER GUESS are rooted in your perfectionistic tendencies. Plus how Perfectionism Optimized client Molly reversed her Osteoporosis diagnosis and regained her sex drive. Learn why we clench, what’s happening inside your body + brain, the 5 core pillars key to releasing the clench

You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Perfectionism Rewired ep. 411 on Fascia

https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists

Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:

Chiara Ghetti, Skoczylas, L. C., Oliphant, S. S., Nikolajski, C., & Lowder, J. L. (2015). The Emotional Burden of Pelvic Organ Prolapse in Women Seeking Treatment. Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery, 21(6), 332–338. https://doi.org/10.1097/spv.0000000000000190
Khan, Z. A., C. Whittal, S. Mansol, Osborne, L. A., Reed, P., & Emery, S. (2013). Effect of depression and anxiety on the success of pelvic floor muscle training for pelvic floor dysfunction. Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 33(7), 710–714. https://doi.org/10.3109/01443615.2013.813913
Taple, B. J., Griffith, J. W., Weaver, C., & Kenton, K. S. (2020). Enhancing behavioral treatment for women with pelvic floor disorders: Study protocol for a pilot randomized controlled trial. Contemporary Clinical Trials Communications, 17, 100514–100514. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.conctc.2019.100514

How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids

Perfectionist — Sat, 22 Jun 2024 19:49:39 -0700

Signs you’re programming your kids for anxiety without knowing it, how children pick up anxiety from perfectionistic parents, why traditional methods like therapy are 15x slower at achieving results, what *actually works* for caring, busy, perfectionist parents who want a physiology of excellence and how developing a physiology of excellence gives you unrivaled resilience, presence, and emotional intelligence

Preventing passing of anxiety to your kids starts with understanding how your own physiology affects theirs. Children are always parroting you, especially how you carry worry, anxiety and guilt. Making it vital to learn how to metabolize your emotions efficiently with daily practices instead of shutting down or sweeping it under the rug. Learn how implementing a daily hygiene practice, like the patented E.P.I.C. Skills framework, you free up energy for what matters most and create a healthier environment for your whole family.

Perfectionism Rewired episode 411 on Fascia

https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists

Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:

Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397
Langevin, H. M. (2022). Making Connections to Improve Health Outcomes - Helene M. Langevin, 2022. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from Global Advances in Health and Medicine website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2164957X221079792
Lesondak, D. (2018, April 6). Fascia: What it is and Why it Matters. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from ResearchGate website: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/324261326_Fascia_What_it_is_and_Why_it_Matters

Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists

Perfectionist — Wed, 19 Jun 2024 18:53:53 -0700

Fascia is the Wi-Fi of your insides, with over 250 million sensory receptors weaving through its matrix - it’s how emotions are made and where we feel our sensations, instincts and intuition. But if you tend to overthink, ruminate, catastrophize or stress out, you're compromising your fascia which impacts your body's ability to function optimally + think clearly. Discover why fascia is the missing puzzle piece for perfectionists and how to detect if there's dead zones in your own fascial network- where your sensations, instincts and intuition intersect.

EP 228 TIMESTAMPS:

01:38-The Role of Fascia in Mental Clarity and Confidence
02:10-Where fascia is found and its impact on your body
03:03-Fascia's Role in Breaking Generational Belief Patterns
04:06-How fascia sends and receives information at the speed of light
05:01-Wi-Fi of your Insights + Intuition
06:10-What Skin is to Touch, Fascia is to Your Feelings
07:25-How To 10x Your Emotional Intelligence
09:18-The flexibility of fascia for quick improvements
10:15-Benefits of upgrading your fascia's communication system.

Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:

Bordoni, B., & Marelli, F. (2017). Emotions in Motion: Myofascial Interoception. Complementary Medicine Research, 24(2), 110–113. https://doi.org/10.1159/000464149
Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397
Fede, C., Petrelli, L., Guidolin, D., Porzionato, A., Pirri, C., Fan, C., … Stecco, C. (2021). Evidence of a new hidden neural network into deep fasciae. Scientific Reports, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-021-92194-z
Palomero-Gallagher, N., & Katrin Amunts. (2021). A short review on emotion processing: a lateralized network of neuronal networks. Brain Structure & Function, 227(2), 673–684. https://doi.org/10.1007/s00429-021-02331-7
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The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists

Perfectionist — Sat, 15 Jun 2024 01:11:51 -0700

Stressed out, frustrated or having trouble sleeping? Stress is physiological for perfectionists and our physiological stress impacts our brain, our ability to speak, to think and our emotional agility. So if you want to have the ability to take charge of perfectionism, you gotta solve stress at the source. Bc you don't have time to do 20 minutes of deep breathing when stressors pop up, you need a personalized process that works instantaneously fast. And that's the first thing I teach Perfectionism Optimized clients, how to de-stress level in any moment, so they can get back in charge. Discover how to solve stress at the source and the exact clues to identify if you need a process to help you handle your stress ASAP.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Apply today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Mentioned In This Episode:

Why Perfectionists Burnout (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 176)
When Deep Breaths Aren't Enough (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192)

EP 227 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-The Most Important De-Stress Skill Nobody Taught You
00:47-Why Intellectual Solutions Don't Ease Stress
02:10-The Impact of Stress on the Body's Systems
03:55-The Looming Shadow of Chronic Stress
06:38-Recognizing Stress Eruptions
07:30-Patterns of Self-Destructive Stress Behavior
09:48-Physical Manifestations of Unresolved Stress
11:17-Rewiring Perfectionistic Habits

Truth + Accuracy Sources:

Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/
Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154
Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614.

From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)

Perfectionist — Thu, 13 Jun 2024 14:37:08 -0700

Racing through your days on hyper-speed but still not present for any of it? Discover how high-achieving architect Jessica went from pushing through "everything will be better once..." to being present during the most challenging time of her life, her mother’s passing. Hear from Jessica how Perfectionism Optimized coaching gave her the tools to stop the worry/wish cycle, metabolize her stress an handle excruciating times with confidence and grace, and why it's "the best thing I've ever done for myself, I think, in my entire life."

Episode 226 Timestamps:
00:41-Pushing Through: Super Ineffective Perfectionistic Strategy
01:32-Recognizing Pushing Through in Your Own Life
03:00-The Exhausting Game of "Whack a Mole"
04:54-Chasing the Illusion of "Once It Gets Better"
05:54-Living in Fast Forward or Slow Motion
07:58-Being Present For Meaningful Moments
09:04-Fueling Fierce Ambition in a Grounded Way
10:53-How To Be More Present

On Vacation, Can't Relax

Perfectionist — Wed, 12 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0700

Feeling like you can't relax on vacation? As perfectionists the way we relax is completely different than other people. Learn why and how to start relaxing on your own terms.

Listen To The Full Episode To Learn:

Why You Can't Relax on Vacation
Step-by-step to stop putting pressure on yourself
How to cultivate the skill of relaxing

Episode 225 Timestamps:
00:00-Why Perfectionists Struggle to Relax on Vacation
01:45-Athleticism of Relaxing: Training Your Mind to Unwind
05:41-How can I clear my mind and relax
06:50-Dissolve Pressure and Anxiety While Relaxing
08:53-Getting an A+ in Relaxing as a Perfectionist

The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed

Perfectionist — Tue, 11 Jun 2024 15:13:34 -0700

Take the overwhelm out of perfectionism, starting today with the one SKILL SET you’ve never been taught. #truthbooth it’s the only skill set that’ll save you from a life that feels frustrating - like you’re always chasing happiness. Because when you put yourself in charge of your internal world and remove overwhelm- the way you show up in the world shifts. Like you're no longer snapping at your partner or seizing up with anxiety when looking at your email.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to exude confidence in each + every part of your life and *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen To The Full Episode To Learn:

Why Outsourcing Increases Overwhelm For Perfectionists
What you Gain by Developing resilience and inner calm instead of depending on control
How to Feel Amazing Right Now - No More Overthinking or Doubting

Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence

Perfectionist — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 19:04:12 -0700

Feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world? You want to be a present parent, crush it at work, keep it fresh with your partner, call your bestie back and drink your water, BUT when you compartmentalize and be whoever you need to be to get the result, you end up exhausted. Say goodbye to the exhausting cycle of squishing yourself to fit in. Trade being contrived for exuding confidence, with the only sustainable solution for ambitious perfectionistic people. Plus hear about that one time CLG sharted in her jumpsuit🤣

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to exude confidence in each + every part of your life and *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Why compartmentalizing parts of yourself leads to burnout, disconnection and resentment in your relationships.
How to be grounded and solid in who are, without the wishy-washy contorting yourself to meet external expectations.
Giving yourself permission to experience joy without conditions

How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career

Perfectionist — Sat, 11 May 2024 16:43:41 -0700

Feeling Clenchy? Discover the truth about what *really* happens when you let go of rigid rules that've made you super successful. I'm giving you the uncensored inside scoop on exactly wha happened when I stopped fisting, opened up to new possibilities and began to surf my own ocean--my achieving + energy increased 80%!!!!! If you're exhausted or feel like it's always something, this episode will give you the fuel to rise up.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles of Self-Criticism, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make your choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Why wayyy too often perfectionists overwork while oblivious to our own underperforming (aka sunk cost fallacy)
How to know if you're fisting
Where you can go to get unrivaled support designed specifically for high performance people who want to feel good again without sacrificing

"I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination

Perfectionist — Fri, 03 May 2024 04:35:45 -0700

If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of I should be past this and using your intellectual smarts as evil tools to hammer yourself with, this episode is for you.

Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Unconscious Competence: Understanding embodied knowledge vs mental masturbation
How telling yourself "I should know this" is the cowardly response (and what the courageous one is)
Why knowing something intellectually doesn't translate to action

Perfectionism is the New ADHD

Perfectionist — Sat, 27 Apr 2024 13:08:25 -0700

Fighting against yourself IS playing life on torture mode AND entirely OPTIONAL. Most solutions for overcoming perfectionism suck. They're not empowering, efficient or any FUN, plus research shows Overcoming Perfectionism simply *doesn’t work*when you are driven, ambitious, caring, high-performer. That’s WHY I’m revealing how you can take your frustrating perfectionistic tendencies—like catastrophizing, people-pleasing and overthinking— and remix them with refreshingly practical perspectives from our neurodiversity neighbor, ADHD.

Want to feel as incredible on the inside as your life looks on the outside? Then you gotta check out Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE for driven, ambitious, Type-A high performers with perfectionistic tendencies. Inquire today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by America's leader on rewiring perfectionism, Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) and is committed to neuroscience truth + accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens.

WTF does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionist affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” - no victims, powerlessness or fighting against. Instead your perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neurodiversity movement that sees humans as uniquely wired individuals who all experience the world differently.

Truth + Accuracy In Episode 220 Is Brought To You By:

Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981

Otsuka T. (2023). ADHD For Smart Ass Women (1st ed.). William Morrow

Unlearning Learned Helplessness

Perfectionist — Sun, 21 Apr 2024 22:49:10 -0700

Feel like Perfectionism is controlling you? That you’re at the mercy of your perfectionist tendencies? Or that life would be easier if you weren’t such a perfectionist? Perfectionism is not a choice. But you can choose how you want to navigate through it, and that choice is powerful. Discover how the greats Dolly Parton, Serena Williams, Kobe Bryant, Sara Blakely, Marie Kondo have leveraged their perfectionism to shine. Through scientific research and personal experiences, you'll discover step-by-step how it's possible to rewire your perfectionistic habits from the inside out, just like CLG did.

Rewire the right way (not the hype way) inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Understanding Learned Helplessness Embedded In Perfectionism Recovery

01:28-Challenging Lies About Perfectionists with Science

02:16-Celebrating Famous Perfectionists Behind World-Changing Innovation

03:55-WTF Are Enduring Identity Markers + Why Do They Matter?

05:12-Unlearning Learned Helplessness with Dr. Martin Seligman (Godfather of Positive Psychology)

06:11-The Problem With Blaming Perfectionism

07:03-Flipping Helplessness to Empowerment

08:46-Rediscovering Being In Charge and Response-ability

10:12-Helplessness + Feeling Out of Control Re: Childhood Conditioning

11:58-Reframing Perfectionism as an Empowerment Journey

13:20-How To Quit Fighting Against Your Perfectionism + Work WITH It

15:05-What incest + perfectionism recovery have in common

16:40-Getting Your Perfectionism Right

17:25-Quality Questions To Snuff Out Helplessness

Truth + Accuracy In Episode 219 Is Brought To You By:

Abramson, L. Y., Seligman, M. E., & Teasdale, J. D. (1978). Learned helplessness in humans: Critique and reformulation. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 87(1), 49–74. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.87.1.49

Quchani, M. (2023). The mediating role of coping styles in the association between perfectionism and learned helplessness in students’ population. Annales Médico-Psychologiques, 181(7), 619–627. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.amp.2022.07.010

Woodfin, V., Binder, P. E., & Molde, H. (2020). The Psychometric Properties of the Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale–Brief. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 1860.

How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)

Perfectionist — Tue, 16 Apr 2024 17:41:18 -0700

Got resentment? Uncover where resentment is hiding in your home responsibilities and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to communicating your frustration (this takes you out of black and white thinking). Plus the ONE TOOL that makes you 90% less resentful towards your partner + makes 100% sense as to why you feel like it's all on your shoulders. This TOOL is like having the power to show upcoming storms in your relationship, dissolve them ahead of time and avoid saying mean things you feel guilty about later – for both you + partner!

Upgrade from resentment to reconnection inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

🎁➡️ 🎉 Rewire the Resentment in Your Relationship with this Top-Tier TOOL I created for private clients. Yours to enjoy as a gift for my bday https://bit.ly/perfectionism-rewired-tool

Truth + Accuracy In Episode 218 Is Brought To You By:

Graff, T. C., Birmingham, W. C., Wadsworth, L. L., & Hung, M. (2023). Doing it all: Effects of Family Responsibilities and Marital Relationship Quality on Mothers’ Ambulatory Blood Pressure. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 58(1), 67–78. https://doi.org/10.1093/abm/kaad058
Hiekel, N., & Ivanova, K. (2023). Changes in Perceived Fairness of Division of Household Labor Across Parenthood Transitions: Whose Relationship Satisfaction Is Impacted? Journal of Family Issues, 44(4), 1046-1073. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X211055119
Nelson, M. H. (2022). Resentment Is Like Drinking Poison? The Heterogeneous Health Effects of Affective Polarization. Journal of Health and Social Behavior/Journal of Health & Social Behavior, 63(4), 508–524. https://doi.org/10.1177/00221465221075311

High Performance ANXIOUS: Building Resilience + Calming Internal Chaos

Perfectionist — Tue, 09 Apr 2024 22:43:30 -0700

Building Resilience IRL Intimate, all access behind-the-scenes look of how I get my anxious, overthinking Type-A high performance perfectionistic brain to calm TF down *when Anxiety strikes*. Previously only available on the Private Client Podcast, sharing with you in celebration of my birthday AND to show you there IS a MUCH better way to deal with your perfectionism. Where you're in charge, confident and connected to YOUR values. If you want to get out of your own way and be more present, this is the episode for you!

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence, courage and conviction in yourself while you playfully take charge and get out of your own way, with Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching exclusively for driven, Type-A, high achieving perfectionists who are committed to excellence. Get your stress-free start, today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Two biggest mistakes Perfectionists make when anxiety, panic, overwhelm strikes
How Courtney Love Gavin changed from a life filled with fear and self-criticism to one of joy, resilience and strength
The importance of LSD in overcoming anxiety and annoying perfectionistic tendencies.

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Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
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Recovering Perfectionist vs REWIRED Perfectionist (lessons from Perfectionist CEO)

Perfectionist — Tue, 02 Apr 2024 19:14:47 -0700

Discover the extraordinary scientifically proven benefits of rewiring your perfectionism with special guest and former #recovering perfectionist, CEO Dylan. Plus the hidden costs of unchecked perfectionism and how it's sucking the life out of you (literally).

Ready to leverage your perfectionism in WAY YOU LOVE WITHOUT all the victimy #recoveringperfectionist, be less ambitious BS you've been told all your life? Enter Perfectionism Optimized, the ONLY high-integrity private coaching program for perfectionists that empowers neurodiverse, high-achieving and Type A individuals to quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so that you can *FINALLY* feel as amazing as your life looks and embody the powerhouse you’re designed to be. Get your stress free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the Full episode to Hear:

How to harmonize your high standards with a high-stakes career and transform your perfectionistic drive into a source of strength and resourcefulness.
Why rewiring your perfectionism creates breakthroughs in perception and efficiency, empowering you to approach challenges with curiosity and creativity.
Uncover the reasons why perfectionists often overwork yet remain oblivious to their own underperforming, and how you can develop a keen sense of self-awareness to break free from this cycle of striving and self-criticism.

TIMESTAMPS Ep. 216:
00:00-The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Chasing Satisfaction
01:55-Meet Dylan: Seeing Problems Everywhere
03:37-Overworking To Distract From Self-Criticism
06:19-Interoceptive Awareness Shifts Anxious to Excited
08:04-IRL Rewired Perfectionist Success: Dylan's Journey Continues
09:47-Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change That
10:12-Science of Feeling Good: Dopamine and Serotonin Explained
11:55-Building Emotional Agility and Resilience
15:24-How Rewired Perfectionism Enhances Mental Focus + Confidence
17:59-Courageously Running Towards vs Fearfully Running Away
21:53-Dropping contempt and judgment that blocks change

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Do You Play to Win—or to Not Lose? (2013, March). Retrieved January 29, 2024, from Harvard Business Review website: https://hbr.org/2013/03/do-you-play-to-win-or-to-not-lose
Covington, Martin V., and Kimberly J. Müeller. “Intrinsic Versus Extrinsic Motivation: An Approach/Avoidance Reformulation.” Educational Psychology Review 13, no. 2 (2001): 157–76. doi:10.1023/A:1009009219144.
Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614.
Suh, H., Gnilka, P. B., & Rice, K. G. (2017). Perfectionism and well-being: A positive psychology framework. Personality and Individual Differences, 111, 25–30. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.01.041
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6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture

Perfectionist — Fri, 29 Mar 2024 03:10:10 -0700

For driven perfectionists self-sabotage often appears as status quo success and our unfulfilling choices are applauded. Bc these self-sabotaging perfectionistic patterns go undetected, you’re off chasing an illusion of control, achieving under pressure with an overcrowded schedule, snipping at your spouse, thinking I'll be happy when..." only to find the goalposts keep moving. Discover precisely how to recognize your own self-defeating perfectionism patterns, exactly what's driving your self-sabotaging behaviors and the perfectionist's guide to stop self-sabotage..

If you're committed to intentionally moving beyond autopilot and Perfectionism Optimized high-integrity private coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for tenacious Type-A perfectionists. Get your stress free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:

Do You Play to Win—or to Not Lose? (2013, March). Retrieved January 29, 2024, from Harvard Business Review website: https://hbr.org/2013/03/do-you-play-to-win-or-to-not-lose
Covington, Martin V., and Kimberly J. Müeller. “Intrinsic Versus Extrinsic Motivation: An Approach/Avoidance Reformulation.” Educational Psychology Review 13, no. 2 (2001): 157–76. doi:10.1023/A:1009009219144.
Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614.
Suh, H., Gnilka, P. B., & Rice, K. G. (2017). Perfectionism and well-being: A positive psychology framework. Personality and Individual Differences, 111, 25–30. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.01.041
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Self Critic Screams: What Your Body Is Dying To Tell You

Perfectionist — Mon, 25 Mar 2024 22:56:17 -0700

What if your self critic is actually a caring signal from your unconscious, warning you of danger ahead + to get off this path? Your self critic is not the enemy; it's an alarm bell from your body. But it's near impossible to listen to it with all the NOISE + stigma surrounding criticism, self-love and self-compassion. Discover the health consequences of self-criticism and lessons from pro-athlete perfectionist who finally figured it out. This is the third episode in the self-criticism trilogy.

I'm inviting you into the one place that can make your self critic a thing of the past— all you gotta do is take the first step. Go for it today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Ep. 214 Timestamps

02:04-The Iceberg of Self-Criticism

03:27-Why Traditional Self Critic Approaches Fail Perfectionists

04:37-Lessons From Pro-Athlete Perfectionism Optimized Client

07:07-Link Between Cancer + Inner Critic

08:02-From Criticism to Critical Condition IRL

09:11-Making the Choice to Change

Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:

Campos, R. C., Holden, R. R., Caçador, B., Ana Sofia Fragata, & Baleizão, C. (2018). Self-criticism, intensity of perceived negative life events, and distress: Results from a two-wave study. Personality and Individual Differences, 124, 145–149. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.12.004
Ferrari, M., Ciarrochi, J., Yap, K., Baljinder Sahdra, & Hayes, S. C. (2022). Embracing the Complexity of our Inner Worlds: Understanding the Dynamics of Self-Compassion and Self-Criticism. Mindfulness, 13(7), 1652–1661. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-022-01897-5
Thakur, N., & Baumann, N. (2022). Breaking the anxious cycle of self-criticism: Action orientation buffers the detrimental effects of a self-critical personality style. Journal of Affective Disorders, 301, 30–35. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2022.01.014

Why Am I So Hard On Myself

Perfectionist — Mon, 18 Mar 2024 00:24:10 -0700

The massive opportunity-costs you are blind to every time you self criticize, how habitual self-criticism creates insidious patterns of self-sabotage and 3 simple steps to be high-quality in all areas of your life WITHOUT self-criticism. This is the second episode of the trilogy on self-criticism iceberg.

Ready to liberate yourself from perfectionism prison? If you want to know how to work WITH YOUR brilliant perfectionistic brain, feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside and live unapologetically true to who you be + what you value Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Here's where you start https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Self-Criticism Won’t Quit? Confidently Shut.It.Down

Perfectionist — Fri, 15 Mar 2024 05:31:28 -0700

Is your Self-Criticism only getting worse? Overthinking a million ways you suck your mind's go-to? If your self-criticism cycles JUST won't quit, it's not bc you need more self-compassion, self-love or a less tragic childhood. It's simply bc you're focusing on the wrong problem and by misidentifying your problem, you're missing out on all the super simple solutions. That silliness ends NOW. Discover the 8 undercover forces driving your self-criticism cycles AND exactly how to solve each one.

If you're DONE with self-criticism holding you back + want to remember what playfully proud of yourself feels like and gain lifetime skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, calmer + more resilient Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for YOUR perfectionistic tendencies. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Ep. 212 Timestamps

00:00-Identifying WHY You Self-Criticize
02:46-The ROOT of Self-Critical Pattern No. 1
05:10-How ADHD Feeds Off Self-Criticism
07:20-Why Am I So Hard On Myself? SOLVED
09:55-When Your Career Demands Your Self Critic
11:45-Solutions That Actually Work for Overly Critical Achievers
13:25-Criticizing Yourself to Create Change
16:45-Hyper Critical Power Dynamics
18:33-How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:

Campos, R. C., Holden, R. R., Caçador, B., Ana Sofia Fragata, & Baleizão, C. (2018). Self-criticism, intensity of perceived negative life events, and distress: Results from a two-wave study. Personality and Individual Differences, 124, 145–149. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.12.004
Ferrari, M., Ciarrochi, J., Yap, K., Baljinder Sahdra, & Hayes, S. C. (2022). Embracing the Complexity of our Inner Worlds: Understanding the Dynamics of Self-Compassion and Self-Criticism. Mindfulness, 13(7), 1652–1661. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-022-01897-5
Thakur, N., & Baumann, N. (2022). Breaking the anxious cycle of self-criticism: Action orientation buffers the detrimental effects of a self-critical personality style. Journal of Affective Disorders, 301, 30–35. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2022.01.014

The Surprising Relief of RAISING Your Standards

Perfectionist — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 17:47:35 -0700

How raising your standards solves the perfectionistic tendencies that've been holding you back. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Brian who was exhausted from being everything to everyone while pulled in a million directions and how making this ONE swap immediately created a cascade of less stress, more presence and legit enjoyment in his dynamic life.

Whether it's spending quality time with your family, stop dreading the guilt you’ll feel on vacation or dealing with the pressures of being excellent at everything, this episode gives you a step-by-step guide on the inner workings of perfectionist brains and how to easily structure your days around what's most meaningful to YOU.

Why lower your standards when raising them upgrades your entire life? If you're committed to being stronger, happier, braver + more resilient and want the only tools designed specifically for driven overachievers to feel as amazing as their life looks Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to learn:

Empowering strategies for setting boundaries and honoring your needs without guilt or resentment
How making a 1% shift in your standards creates a 100% difference in your daily life
Step-by-step to structure your days around what's most meaningful to YOU

Ep. 211 Timestamps

00:00-Raising standards for perfectionists = upgrades relationships + focus
02:29-Brian's Story: Client Case Study on Changing Life Dynamics
04:16-The True Meaning of Raising Your Standards
06:15-What Raising Your Standards as a Perfectionist Is Like IRL
09:00-The EPIC Framework™ Empowered Presence and Interoceptive Connection
11:09-Action Steps to Identify + Attune Your Own Standards
13:45-Trying to Control vs Being in Charge
15:17-Constantly battling your own unrealistic expectations?

Never Good Enough...Ends Now

Perfectionist — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 06:08:02 -0700

Exactly how you can end the never good enough cycle right now, for real + for-ever. Plus WHY what you've tried before didn't work + why this will work FOR you. PERIOD.

Why settle for good enough when you could be empowered? If you want the only tools designed specifically for perfectionists to move beyond never enough, skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Ep. 210 Timestamps

00:00-Never Good Enough No Matter How Hard You Try
01:19-Am I Good Enough
03:30-Moving Beyond Inadequacy Fallacy
05:12-When is enough is enough
06:07-No Wonder You Feel Not Good Enough
07:11-The Game Is Rigged So You Feel Inadequate
08:20-How Affirmations Erode Self-Trust
09:52-Playing a Better Game: Empowered Perfectionism
10:55-How to Be Present + Relaxed in a Purpose Driven Life

Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:

Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981
Pannhausen, S., Klug, K., & Rohrmann, S. (2020). Never good enough: The relation between the impostor phenomenon and multidimensional perfectionism. Current Psychology, 41(2), 888–901. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-020-00613-7
Sinek, Simon (2020) The Infinite Game. London, England: Portfolio Penguin.

Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. People Pleaser: Upgrading Your Tools

Perfectionist — Tue, 05 Mar 2024 05:21:29 -0700

The MOST productive + positive way to quit people-pleasing, ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking, second guessing yourself, constantly seeking reassurance, answering work emails on vacation, over-apologizing. The real reason WHY you haven’t been able to stop despite knowing harmful side effects. Awesome acronym to identity your own perfectionistic landmines + step-by-step how to get relief that elevates you instead of keeps you stuck spinning out.

If I'm Not Judgmental..how do I know i'm right?

Perfectionist — Thu, 22 Feb 2024 21:13:00 -0700

Fear of failure holding you back? Can't stop obsessing over what you should've done better? I'm telling you exactly how to stop being judgmental, drop the fear of failure and always know if you're doing a good job with a way that's more useful, feels better + helps you progress wayyyy faster Listen to liberate yo self from the cycle of fear and self-consciousness.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to learn:

How being judgmental is the silent killer of your relationships (esp. with people you love the most)
Where sneaky judgment is lurking in your own life
Why you’re stuck + how mistakes are the solution
EXACTLY how to legit enjoy failure

Ep. 208 Timestamps

00:00-How Judgment Holds Perfectionists Back
02:20-Fear of Failure + Its Dangerous Consequences
03:51-Why Am I So Hard On Myself
05:26-Being Judgmental is a Protection Mechanism
06:33-What Lies Beneath Your Judgment
07:30-From Judging Yourself to Joyful Winning
09:27-Exactly how to drop judgmental
12:22-Trading Contempt for Curiosity + Experimentation
14:42-How To 13x Building Your Resilience
15:53-Rewiring Your Perfectionistic Patterns From The Inside Out

Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:

Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981
Hitchcock, P. F., Britton, W. B., Mehta, K. P., & Frank, M. J. (2022). Self-judgment dissected: A computational modeling analysis of self-referential processing and its relationship to trait mindfulness facets and depression symptoms. Cognitive, Affective, & Behavioral Neuroscience, 23(1), 171–189. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-022-01033-9
Ong, C. W., Lee, E. B., Petersen, J. M., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). Is perfectionism always unhealthy? Examining the moderating effects of psychological flexibility and self‐compassion. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 77(11), 2576–2591. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.23187

Perfectionism in Relationships: Resentment

Perfectionist — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 03:07:46 -0700

Uncover how perfectionism impacts your intimate relationships and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to resentment, Plus the ONE SKILL that makes you 90% less overwhelmed? It's like having the power to predict and avoid emotional meltdowns – for yourself!

Ready to rewire? Upgrade resentment for resilience inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching exclusively made for for driven perfectionists + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to quit fighting against themselves forever. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Referenced In the Episode:

Carrying vs Caring In Relationships (Ep. 202) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/lighten-your-load-caring-deeply-without-taking-on-too-much
How Perfectionistic Brains Work (Ep. 193) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-life

LAST CHANCE: Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

reclaiming your time — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 23:40:07 -0700

Hurry, it’s your last chance to rewire your perfectionistic patterns in an accelerated 6 weeks with just you + CLG inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Be sure to apply NOW or forever hold your peace! Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 1.0 is closing + retiring forever on Friday February 16, 2024.

Tp get in on this spaceship before it blasts off, go to courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator today.

How To Rise From Setbacks without Beating Yourself Up

Perfectionist — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 23:24:22 -0700

Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizing and what to do with all those feelings inside (it's not AT ALL what you think).

If you're ready to experience the amazingness that comes with being an empowered perfectionist and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you belong inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the Full Episode To Learn:

What happens when you get a sucky setback surprise and how to empoweringly rise to the occasion.
How to move forward without turning into a robot or constantly beating yourself up over what went "wrong"
Where all your power is and how to skip the ruminating about the past or catastrophizing about the future
Why You want to focus on moving THROUGH your feelings, instead of fixating on what's causing them or why they are there
Strategies you can start using today to stop beating yourself up + handle setbacks with expert-level skills

Referenced In the Episode:

How Perfectionistic Brains Work (Ep. 193) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-life

Ep. 206 TimeStamps
00:00-When Everything Goes Wrong Despite Your Best Efforts
02:02-Understanding Why Your Inner Critic Calls
03:20-Accepting Life As A Human = Embracing Adaptability Over Rigid Planning
04:39-Ruminating + Futility of Dwelling on Your Past
05:32-Power of Living in the Present
06:47-The Doritos Analogy: Choosing Better Responses
07:39-Debunking the Cause-and-Effect Fallacy
08:29-Taking Responsibility for Your Choices
09:11-How to Handle Emotions Constructively
10:06-Staying Present to Rise Above Challenges
11:17-Overcoming the Self-Criticism Trap
12:56-Embracing Mistakes and Perfectionist Humanity

Getting To The Root of Your Overthinking + Ruminating

Perfectionist — Thu, 01 Feb 2024 01:12:27 -0700

Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple tool that shows you how to calm your mind from overthinking. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do or PRESENCE with your family, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

The best tool for how to deal with anxiety and overthinking
How to stop ruminating
A tool that helps your mind chatter slow down, so you're no longer anxious and overthinking

SOURCES + CITATIONS FOR EP. 205

Russell, J.L. Stuck on repeat: Why do we continue to ruminate?. Synthese 199, 13143–13162 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11229-021-03370-7

Why Asking for Help is Harder for Perfectionists

Perfectionist — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 06:42:06 -0700

You're used to being the go-to person, who's always happy to help and yet..why is it so freaking hard for you to ask for support? Discover how perfectionism isn't an excuse, it's an explanation and how to advocate for yourself on this empowering episode.

If you want to have the capacity, courage & certainty to seek support and leverage it, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for high-achievers with perfectionistic tendencies Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

The 2 ways perfectionists accidentally self-sabotage + how to rise above them immediately
How to deal with internal judgment and awkwardness when you're used to being the person people go to for support
What to do if you're caught up in "shoulds" and feeling like you're not where you should be

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Meeting Yourself Where You Are Not wheere you think you should be (Ep. 187)
Holding Two Truths At The Same Time (Ep. 143)

EP.204 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Perfectionism as Self-Advocacy

01:22-The Awkwardness of Seeking Support

02:08-Learning to Meet Yourself Where You're At

04:33-Identifying Areas You'd Secretly Love Some Support

06:17-Finding Your Path to Rewire Your Perfectionism

Overcome Your Perfectionism the Feel Good Way!

Perfectionist — Mon, 29 Jan 2024 02:28:27 -0700

Are you tired of white-knuckling it? Ready to move beyond relentless people-pleasing and pretending to be calm? Discover the real reason you're not overcoming perfectionism (it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying) and how to stop settling for a life of miserable meh as a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism Leveraged client Whitney courageously shares her story of being tightly wound mom of 3 young girls, addicted to control, teetering on burnout in a prison yard of her own making and magnificently frustrated. Hear how she found the willingness to experiment, let go of control and rewired to become a powerhouse, present parent who's daughters are SO proud of their mom.

If you want to make sure crippling perfectionism NEVER CONTROLS YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator fast-track. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

Why you want to find a playground for your perfectionism to come alive.
What Whitney did step-by-step to go from a warning label to become a shining example to her 3 kids through redefining her relationship with perfectionism + reconnecting with play
Refreshingly practical questions to ask yourself to go from enduring to enjoying your own perfectionistic tendencies

Resources Mentioned:

Your Resilience Zone™: Part of proprietary EPIC method combining Embodied neuroscience, Presence somatic, Interoceptive Connection, proven to permanently rewire perfectionism and increase playfulness
Perfectionism Leveraged: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge of their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you're designed to be.

Episode 203 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-From Enduring to Enjoying Your Perfectionistic Tendencies

01:48-Overcome Perfectionism Feel Good Way

02:53-The Never-Ending Need for Play

03:18-Neuroscience and Play in Adulthood

04:35-Reconnecting With Your Playful Self

05:41-Steps to Create Your Perfectionism Playground

06:03-Case Study: Whitney's Journey with Perfectionism

07:38-Impact of Perfectionist Parenting on Children

09:15-What Cooking + Rewiring Perfectionism Have in Common

10:58-Seeking Help to Uncover YOUR Perfectionist Playground

11:48-Benefits of the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

Sciencey Credible Citations Referenced In This Exciting Episode:

‌‌‌Kiverstein, J., & Miller, M. (2023). Special Issue: Experiencing Well-BeingPlayfulness and the meaningful life: an active inference perspective. Neuroscience of Consciousness, 2023(1). https://doi.org/10.1093/nc/niad024
Parkin, S. (2017, January 4). How Video Games Satisfy Basic Human Needs. Retrieved January 28, 2024, from Nautilus website: https://nautil.us/how-video-games-satisfy-basic-human-needs-236347/
Siviy, S. M. (2016). A brain motivated to play: insights into the neurobiology of playfulness. Behaviour, 153(6-7), 819–844. https://doi.org/10.1163/1568539x-00003349

Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much

Perfectionist — Tue, 16 Jan 2024 23:28:19 -0700

You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING. Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without getting bogged down by other people's emotions.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Listen to the full episode to hear:

The crucial distinctions between caring for people and carrying their load
Why an overactive sense of responsibility impacts your peace, presence and growth
How to be empathetic. (the healthy way)
Practical tips you can use (today!) to lighten your load and enhance your emotional intelligence

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Episode 202:

Bohns, V., Newark, D., & Boothby, E. (2018, October 8). When do We Feel Responsible for Other People’s Behavior and Attitudes? https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327854931_When_do_We_Feel_Responsible_for_Other_People's_Behavior_and_Attitudes
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Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523

From Seeking Right Answers to Pursuing the Correct Ones for YOU

Perfectionist — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 18:57:19 -0700

Discover why compulsively seeking more information to solve perfectionistic problems is actually self-sabotage and how you can upgrade obsessively finding the right answers to playfully pursuing the correct ones FOR YOU. Plus how to know when searching for the perfect way to fix yourself is secretly holding you back and the 5 hidden dangers all driven high-performers want to be aware of.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you decide to rewire your perfectionistic tendencies through private 1-1 coaching, you gain the EPIC SKILLS that LIBERATE you from intrusive thoughts, self-sabotage and put you back in charge. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Costumes procrastination and self-sabotage wear when you’re a perfectionist or high performer
My high-performance strategy for effectively absorbing and implementing vital new information
Why accumulating more information kills your progress + potential for growth

Featured On Episode 201:

7 Signs Your Striving Is From Insecurity Instead of Power (Episode 80)
Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)
Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)
Maybe It's Not Your Fault (Ep. 3 Self-Advocacy Series)
7 Signs Your Striving Is From Insecurity Instead of Power (Episode 80)

Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 201 Timestamps:

00:00-Letting Go of Obsession with Finding the Right Answers

01:38-Iceberg Analogy of Perfectionism

02:10-Limitations of a Checklist Approach To Fixing Yourself

03:03-The Pitfalls of Overvaluing Knowledge

04:06-Procrastination + Self-Sabotage in Disguise

05:01-Integrating + Implementing Wisdom

06:10-The 3X Approach to Consuming Information

07:25-Mindful Consumption of Knowledge

09:18-Redefining Your Core Identity

10:15-Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:

Arnold, M., Mascha Goldschmitt, & Rigotti, T. (2023). Dealing with information overload: a comprehensive review. Frontiers in Psychology, 14. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1122200
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Middlebrooks, C. D. (2017). Selectively Distracted: Divided Attention and Memory for Important Information - Catherine D. Middlebrooks, Tyson Kerr, Alan D. Castel, 2017. Retrieved January 14, 2024, from Psychological Science website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797617702502
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Solms, L., Koen, J., A.E.M. van Vianen, Theeboom, T., Beersma, B., Anne, & Matthijs de Hoog. (2022). Simply effective? The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions in a self-coaching writing exercise. Frontiers in Psychology, 13. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.895439

Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving

Perfectionist — Sun, 07 Jan 2024 06:14:32 -0700

What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how to playfully let go.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) get customized 1-1 coaching + the EPIC SKILLS that LIBERATE you from intrusive thoughts, self-sabotage and put you back in command. Discover your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

Featured On Episode 200:

courtneylovegavin.com
Power of Paradox ep. 143
Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)
Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)
Medical Gaslighting + Misdiagnosis (Ep. 3 Self-Advocacy Series)
How To Let Go Of Perfectionism (Shame Avoidance) ep. 145

Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 200 Timestamps:

00:00-Striving becomes Self-sabotage

04:15-Once Upon A Perfectionist named CLG

6:06-Black and white thinking

10:38-How to stop overthinking

12:22-Embodied Presence Interoception Connection (E.P.I.C. Framework™)

13:20-Shifting from Shame Avoidance to Satisfying Success

14:42-Practice Makes Permanent

15:51-Intrusive Thoughts

17:27-Enjoying your perfectionism instead of enduring

20:43-Fixed Mindset

25:00-How To Feel Good NOW

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:

Boon Chong Ng. (2018). The Neuroscience of Growth Mindset and Intrinsic Motivation. Brain Sciences, 8(2), 20–20. https://doi.org/10.3390/brainsci8020020

Dorevitch, B., Buck, K., Fuller‐Tyszkiewicz, M., Phillips, L., & Krug, I. (2020). Maladaptive Perfectionism and Depression: Testing the Mediating Role of Self-Esteem and Internalized Shame in an Australian Domestic and Asian International University Sample. Frontiers in Psychology, 11. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01272
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Dweck, C. S., Walton, G. M., & Cohen, G. L. (2014). Academic Tenacity Mindsets and Skills that Promote Long-Term Learning. Retrieved from https://ed.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/manual/dweck-walton-cohen-2014.pdf
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Jung, C. G. (1957). The transcendent function.

Montano, L. T. (2023). The Relationship of Perfectionism and Peace of Mind: The Mediating Role of Implicit Theories of Intelligence. Psychological Studies, 68(3), 447–462. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12646-023-00739-1
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Moser, J. S., Dougherty, A., Mattson, W. I., Katz, B., Moran, T. P., Guevarra, D. A., … Kross, E. (2017). Third-person self-talk facilitates emotion regulation without engaging cognitive control: Converging evidence from ERP and fMRI. Scientific Reports, 7(1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-017-04047-3
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Stiles, W. B., Glick, M. J., Osatuke, K., Hardy, G. E., Shapiro, D. A., Agnew-Davies, R., Rees, A., & Barkham, M. (2004). Patterns of Alliance Development and the Rupture-Repair Hypothesis: Are Productive Relationships U-Shaped or V-Shaped? Journal of Counseling Psychology, 51(1), 81–92. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-0167.51.1.81

Stoeber, J., Madigan, D. J., & Lazaros Gonidis. (2020). Perfectionism is adaptive and maladaptive, but what’s the combined effect? Personality and Individual Differences, 161, 109846–109846. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2020.109846

BACK ONLINE: When Perfectionists Broke The Internet

Y2K — Sun, 07 Jan 2024 02:31:15 -0700

Big News: Website Is Back! After crashing on NYE and being down 6 days, courtneylovegavin.com is up and running! If you've been trying to get in touch about Perfectionism Leveraged 1-1 coaching, now's your chance! Go to courtneylovegavin.com/contact

If you want to hear all about the hard-earned truths in resilience from this digital dumpster fire week and what REALLY happens when your life goes up in flames but you were supposed to be doing all these other things and you're a perfectionist and you throw yourself a pouty party, listen to episode 200 of Perfectionism Rewired.

Maybe it's Not Your Fault: Medical Gaslighting

Perfectionist — Wed, 03 Jan 2024 06:58:32 -0700

Listen in for an eye-opening episode with strategies for perfectionist self-advocacy, navigating the lethal landmines of mental healthcare, partnering with the right perfectionist practitioner for you in the face of medical gaslighting and getting the care you deserve NOW that sees you as a WHOLE person, not a stereotype with symptoms to suppress.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

Rich Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Complete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coaching
Doctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescription
Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)
Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2 Self-Advocacy Series)
Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181)

Positive Perfectionist Practices To Deal With Medical Gaslighting:

Stop Settling For Subpar Support: Raise your standards, refuse to accept quick diagnosis, be criminally curious
Seek Holistic Practitioners Who Understand The Depth of Perfectionism Look for a wellness framework foundation, who seek to understand you as a multifaceted individual, who partner with you instead of their own ego
Challenge Assumptions: Be very DISCERNING about diagnoses without a CURRENT factual basis. Ask for evidence and don’t continue to stay with a therapist bc you’ve already spent so much time with them
Find a Clinician Who Welcomes Candid Conversations:You want .facilitative, empowering, intersectional and a professional who nurtures a non-hierarchical, inclusive, safe and transparent environment
Own Your Capability: Recognize that your inner experience is VALID and advocate for the support and care you deserve. Make proactive moves to be the CEO of YOU and partner with practitioners who align with your values.

Highlights inside Episode 199 of Perfectionism Rewired:

00:00-Feeling Dismissed? How To Spot Medical Gaslighting

02:13-Dangers of Deferring to External Authority

02:43-At Risk: People of Color, Women, Non-Binary + Trans

03:41-What does gaslighting mean for perfectionists

04:42- Obstacles of Symptom Suppression for High-Functioning Perfectionists

06:08-Illness vs. Wellness Frameworks + Holistic Approach

09:53-Health professionals pathologize, causing hypervigilance and reactivity.

10:43-Limitations of Medication in Treating Perfectionism

14:22-How to Respond To Gaslighting

14:34-IRL Gaslighting Examples: Life Coach School, Lizard Brain, Polyvagal Theory

15:12-Perfectionist Powerhouse Serena Williams' Experience with Medical Gaslighting

16-13-Practical Steps for Self-Advocacy in Medical Gaslighting

17:49-Choosing the Right Practitioner for YOU

18:24-Partnering with Perfectionist Affirming Practitioners

20:19-Empowering Yourself as CEO of Y.O.U,

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON MEDICAL GASLIGHTING REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:

‌‌Caron, C. (2022, July 29). Feeling dismissed? How to spot ‘medical gaslighting’ and what to do about it. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/29/well/mind/medical-gaslighting.html
Durbhakula, S., & Fortin, A. H., 6th (2023). Turning Down the Flame on Medical Gaslighting. Journal of general internal medicine, 38(15), 3426–3427. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-023-08302-4
Ellenberg, E. (2023). Understanding the impact of medical gaslighting and diagnostic overshadowing on behavioral health treatment-seeking behaviors in adults with chronic medical conditions: A qualitative rapid review: https://doi.org/10.6084/m9.figshare.24534838.v1
Farshad Fani Marvasti, & Stafford, R. S. (2012). From Sick Care to Health Care — Reengineering Prevention into the U.S. System. The New England Journal of Medicine, 367(10), 889–891. https://doi.org/10.1056/nejmp1206230
Fraser S. (2021). The toxic power dynamics of gaslighting in medicine. Canadian family physician Medecin de famille canadien, 67(5), 367–368. https://doi.org/10.46747/cfp.6705367
Friebe, M. (2022). From SICKCARE to HEALTHCARE to HEALTH. Springer EBooks, 23–32. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-031-08191-0_3
Mirin A. A. (2021). Gender Disparity in the Funding of Diseases by the U.S. National Institutes of Health. Journal of women's health , 30(7), 956–963. https://doi.org/10.1089/jwh.2020.8682
Moyer, M. W. (2022, March 28). Women are calling out “medical gaslighting.” The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/28/well/live/gaslighting-doctors-patients-health.html
Nebeker, C., Weisberg, B., Hekler, E. B., & Kurisu, M. (2020). Using Self-Study and Peer-to-Peer Support to Change “Sick” Care to “Health” Care: The Patient Perspective. Frontiers in Digital Health, 2. https://doi.org/10.3389/fdgth.2020.00002
Onque, R. (2022). How to recognize 'medical gaslighting' and better advocate for yourself at your next doctor's appointment. CNBC. https://www.cnbc.com/2022/09/01/medical-gaslighting-warning-signs-and-how-to-advocate-for-yourself.html

Perfectionist Sunk Cost Fallacy: When Loyalty Becomes Lethal

Perfectionist — Mon, 01 Jan 2024 21:59:21 -0700

Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people. Find out if you’re making decisions aligned with your values or loss aversion, sunk cost definition for perfectionists, tricks sunk cost effect plays on you, why its challenging to see your own sunk costs, IRL sunk cost fallacy examples and how perfectionists can stop falling prey to sunk cost suck-i-ness forever.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

Positive Perfectionist Practices for Removing Sunk Cost Fallacy:

Identify Sunk Cost Fallacy: Recognize where you're holding onto investments, relationships, or decisions you would not re-choose for yourself today BC you’ve “already spent so much time, energy, money or effort”
If You Want Your Future, Forget Your Past: Stop living in the prison of your past choices and exit to the playground of possibility. Dropping the black and white thinking that persevering = productive
Make intentional decisions that empower you for the rest of your life: Check your choices with your values and pivot away from unfulfilling situations or relationships.
Practice Makes Permanent: To progress 100x faster, make the journey funner and strengthen your interoceptive awareness consider working with a perfectionism coach

Highlights inside Episode 198 of Perfectionism Rewired:

00:00-Perfectionists + Sunk Costs

01:51-What is sunk cost fallacy

03:26-Shedding the Weight of Sunk Costs

04:56-Being Resourceful instead of limiting your resources

05:36-Sunk Cost Effect in Unfulfilling Careers + Unhappy Relationships

07:12-Why FEELS Smart To Continue Pouring Money, time, effort when you've already sunk

09:18-Putting yourself in the victim drama triangle

11:10-Sunk Cost With Example Baby Gucci Loafers

12:03-Quick Correct Choices with Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection

13:32-when to persevere and when to pivot

14:36-Prioritizing your values over sunk costs

15:50-No longer a victim to chronic overachieving

18:17-Proud of yourself regardless of how much you accomplish

Rich Resources Mentioned In This Sunk Cost Episode:

How I Lost 50 pounds by Being The Worst (Leveraging Perfectionism video)
Perfectionist's Guide to Uncovering Victim Mentality (Part 1)
Mamba Mentality vs Victim Mentality (Part 2)
Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181)
Starter Perfectionism Rewiring 1-1 Coaching Pack (steal of a deal)

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON SUNK COST REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:

Dijkstra, K. A., & Hong, Y. Y. (2019). The feeling of throwing good money after bad: The role of affective reaction in the sunk-cost fallacy. PloS one, 14(1), e0209900. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0209900
Jarmolowicz, D. P., Bickel, W. K., Sofis, M. J., Hatz, L. E., & Mueller, E. T. (2016). Sunk costs, psychological symptomology, and help seeking. SpringerPlus, 5(1), 1699. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40064-016-3402-z
Schmitzer-Torbert N. (2020). Mindfulness and decision making: sunk costs or escalation of commitment?. Cognitive processing, 21(3), 391–402. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10339-020-00978-4
Schulreich, S., Dandolo, L. C., & Schwabe, L. (2022). Sunk costs under stress: Acute stress reduces the impact of past expenses on risky decisions. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 137, 105632. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105632
Tait, V., & Miller, H. L., Jr (2019). Loss Aversion as a Potential Factor in the Sunk-Cost Fallacy. International journal of psychological research, 12(2), 8–16. https://doi.org/10.21500/20112084.3951
Zeng, J., Zhang, Q., Chen, C., Yu, R., & Gong, Q. (2013). An fMRI study on sunk cost effect. Brain research, 1519, 63–70. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brainres.2013.05.001

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When You Get Support & It Sucks Navigating Advocating as a Perfectionist

Perfectionist — Fri, 29 Dec 2023 02:18:09 -0700

Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

Highlights inside Episode 197 of Perfectionism Rewired:

00:00-Self-Advocacy When Support Falls Short

02:22-Feel like a weirdo when your internal experience is icky and you're still doing phenomenally on the outside

04:00-A Fvck Down vs A Fvck Up

06:10-Going Where Your Perfectionism Growth Area IS

07:22-Empowered Responsibilty + Perfectionist Self-Advocacy IRL

07:40-Perfectionism Leveraged Client Feedback

08:11-Being a perfectionist in public

09:29-What really matters when support fails you

10:35-Two Questions All Perfectionists Need After They Encounter A Mistake

11:05- Why endure perfectionism when you can enjoy it instead?

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:

Farmer, J. R., Mackinnon, S. P., & Cowie, M. (2017). Perfectionism and Life Narratives: A Qualitative Study. SAGE Open, 7(3). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244017721733
‌Johnson, K. M., Slavin, S., & Takahashi, T. A. (2023). Excellent vs Excessive: Helping Trainees Balance Performance and Perfectionism. Journal of Graduate Medical Education, 15(4), 424–427. https://doi.org/10.4300/jgme-d-23-00003.1
‌Steinert, C., Heim, N., & Leichsenring, F. (2021). Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Other Work-Related Mental Problems: Prevalence, Types, Assessment, and Treatment—A Scoping Review. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.736776

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More you Control, Less powerful you Feel?

Perfectionist — Wed, 27 Dec 2023 17:25:22 -0700

Imagine steering a tiny dinghy in stormy seas. That's control. Now, picture yourself commanding a majestic yacht, gliding effortlessly over the waves. That's power. That’s this episode. In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the results you actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) inside Perfectionism Optimized you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

Parenting Insights: Essential tips for perfectionist parents on presence and power dynamics with children
Recognizing the REAL reasons underneath your need for control and getting to the root of feeling safe
Understanding the distinction between living in the present moment and being fixated on being happy the future
E.P.I.C. Framework: Introducing the Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection framework for perfectionists ready to live a calm, empowered and deliciously rich life.

Ep. 196 Timestamps

01:52-Understanding the impact of controlling perfectionistic tendencies on daily life
03:11-Felt Safety: Why your environment doesn't determine your safety and what does
05:53-Hidden motivations secretly fueling perfectionism anxiety
09:00-Mindfulness Strategies for ending Control Loops
10:42-Distinction between needing and wanting to do something
13:14-Perks of living in Present Time + enhancing perfectionist productivity
15:04-Being responsive instead of reactive
20:20-Your EPIC Framework: Practical tools for perfectionists to tune in + build permanent resilience

Truth + Accuracy in this Episode Provided By:

Barrett, L. F., Mesquita, B., & Gendron, M. (2011). Context in Emotion Perception. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 20(5), 286–290. https://doi.org/10.1177/0963721411422522
Frankl, V. E. (1992). *Man's search for meaning: An introduction to logotherapy* (4th ed.) (I. Lasch, Trans.). Beacon Press.‌
Hinton, A., McReynolds, M. R., Martinez, D., Shuler, H., & Termini, C. M. (2020). The power of saying no. EMBO Reports, 21(7). https://doi.org/10.15252/embr.202050918
Lisa Feldman Barrett, Mesquita, B., Ochsner, K. N., & Gross, J. J. (2007). The Experience of Emotion. Annual Review of Psychology, 58(1), 373–403. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.58.110405.085709
Mahler, K., McLaughlin, E., & Anson, D. (2020). Interoception across varying degrees of mental wellness. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 74(4.1, Suppl.). https://doi.org/10.5014/ajot.2020.74S1-PO9513
Mahler, K., (2019). The Interoception Curriculum, Kelly Mahler
Mary Durand Thomas, & Bigatti, S. M. (2020). Perfectionism, impostor phenomenon, and mental health in medicine: a literature review. International Journal of Medical Education, 11, 201–213. https://doi.org/10.5116/ijme.5f54.c8f8

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Not A Popularity Contest but if it was...You've Already Won

Perfectionist — Mon, 25 Dec 2023 08:39:43 -0700

When you stop trying to get people to like you or validate you (or listen to your podcast) this wild phenomenon occurs: You become popular! Plot twist that makes you pause as to why for sooooo long you tried soooo hard and cared soooo much about being well received it never happened. Happy surprises + insights inside.

In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied Presence of rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Leveraged, the only neuroscience-backed 1-1 coaching that gives you the abilities to control YOUR emotions and feel as put together as your life looks. To see if Perfectionism Leveraged might be the answer you’ve been looking for, go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

In this episode of Perfectionism Rewired podcast you’ll discover:

How CLG's tiny and mighty changes add up to big impacts for Perfectionism Rewired
Most shared Perfectionism Rewired episode in 2023 on Spotify
Countries to find other perfectionistic people with exquisite taste like yourself

What's Inside This Episode:

00:00-Love Language of Gift Giving

02:28-Special Holiday Gift Announcement For Perfectionism Rewired community

02:43-Perfectionism Is The New ADHD

03:17-Global Reach: Top NEW Listener Countries

04:37-Most Shared Episode on Spotify "Why Am I Self Sabotaging?"

06:04-The Significance of 99 Spotify Fans

07:09-CLG Punitive Perfectionism IRL

08:11-Looking at your own data without the drama

09:15-Perfectionism Impacts 92% of Global Population

11:09-What Happens When You're Present

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:

Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138
Spotify for Podcasters, Unwrapped Report 2023 for Perfectionism Rewired

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Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist

Perfectionist — Tue, 19 Dec 2023 17:32:01 -0700

Can’t seem to calm down despite taking deep breaths, memorizing ALL the coping skills + “knowing” what to do? Forget about those dusty generic strategies. Discover the HIDDEN self-regulation skill that no one's told you about until now! Get the relief, control and answers you’ve been longing for with tailored, effective emotional resilience methods that work for YOU.

You’ll learn to recognize those subtle, personal cues that tell you stress is creeping in so you can take control. And the coolest part? You’ll learn how to combat it on the spot – whether you’re dealing with an annoying colleague who’s blowing you up on Slack, a last minute snafu in your rigorously relaxed vacation itinerary, or even a cranky mother-in-law (we all have one, don’t we?). Join CLG in making emotional poise and resilience your new normal.

PS. If you're like WTF is Interoception listen to Perfectionism Rewired podcast Ep. 193 to listen go to: https://bit.ly/interoception411

🌟Got Presence? 🌟

In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied Presence of rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies and whole self-regulation, inside Perfectionism Leveraged, the only neuroscience-backed 1-1 coaching that gives you the abilities to control YOUR emotions, not just situations and finally feel as put together as your life looks.

You ready to quit fighting against yourself and start enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create.? To see if Perfectionism Leveraged might be the sustainable solution you’ve been searching for, go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

In this episode of Perfectionism Rewired podcast you’ll discover:

Why in the heat of crucial moments your meticulously learned coping strategies vanish when you need them most
MAJOR CLUES most doctors, therapists and coaches miss that are stifling your emotional regulation
Biggest misconceptions about perfectionist learning self regulation
The simple way to strengthen your emotional resilience as intuitive, empowering responses in the face of dumpster fires

Here's A Glance At Episode 194:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-What is self regulation

02:09-Coping Strategies for Perfectionists

03:17-Building resilience in stressful situations

04:48-Why Anxiety Coping Skills don’t help with intense emotions

06:11-What doctors, therapists and clinicians miss that stunt your emotional intelligence

07:29-The Root of Effective Self Regulation Skills

08:48-Why traditional self regulation approaches fall short for perfectionists

10:23-How to build emotional resilience

12:31-More effective approach to emotional self regulation for perfectionists

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Ep. 194 Include:

Goerlich K. S. (2018). The Multifaceted Nature of Alexithymia - A Neuroscientific Perspective. Frontiers in psychology, 9, 1614. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01614
Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
Martini, M., Marzola, E., Brustolin, A., & Abbate-Daga, G. (2021). Feeling imperfect and imperfectly feeling: A network analysis on perfectionism, interoceptive sensibility, and eating symptomatology in anorexia nervosa. European Eating Disorders Review, 29(6), 893–909. https://doi.org/10.1002/erv.2863
Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
Ventura-Bort C, Wendt J and Weymar M (2021) The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Front. Psychol. 12:712418. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

Will Save Your Sanity (Might Just Change Your Life)

Perfectionist — Sat, 16 Dec 2023 05:46:57 -0700

Your Perfectionism does NOT work the way you think it does. Your brain predicts *almost* everything you feel, think, do, and when it gets it wrong, it's called a prediction error. Get up to speed on prediction errors and how learning a new language – interoception – to effectively interpret and understand your own emotions, thoughts and physiological responses will save your sanity and might just change your life.

9.5 out of 10 Perfectionists need control in order to feel calm. Are you one of them? Upgrade control for embodied presence and get fluent in the only language that makes you FEEL EVEN BETTER than your life looks inside Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching + in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism. Get our stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Here’s Episode 194 At A Glance:

00:00-Understanding perfectionism for less anxiety and controlling

01:33-Clearing Up The Myths + Misinformation About Perfectionism

03:06-IRL Perfectionist Client Testimonial: Kelly Perfectionist Parent

05:27-Perfectionist Feeling Embarrassed At Work

06:18-Misunderstood Perfectionist Fears

07:21-Examining Sensory Data's Influence on Perfectionism

09:28-Trippy Example of Brain's Prediction In Action

10:07-This Is Poison to your progress

11:53-Why Interoception Is Pivotal Perfectionists

13:01-Perfectionist Difficulties in Implementing Interoceptive Skills

13:55-Importance of Perfectionist Interoception

14:27-Are you Interoceptive Illiterate?

15:52-Where Do Brain Predictions Come From?

16:27-Who Profits from you believing in flaws, empower change

19:06-Living according to YOUR values, harmonizing career-family-you

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Ep. 193 Include:

Alexandria Meyer, Karl Wissemann, Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, Volume 15, Issue 1, January 2020, Pages 87–95, https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018
Attwell D, Laughlin SB. An Energy Budget for Signaling in the Grey Matter of the Brain. Journal of Cerebral Blood Flow & Metabolism doi:10.1097/00004647-200110000-00001
Barrett, L., Simmons, W. Interoceptive Predictions in the Brain National Review Neuroscience
https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950
Jutta Stahl, Manuela Acharki, Miriam Kresimon, Frederike Völler, Henning Gibbons, Perfect error processing: Perfectionism-related variations in action monitoring and error processing mechanisms, International Journal of Psychophysiology https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijpsycho.2015.06.002
Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
Ventura-Bort C, Wendt J and Weymar M (2021) The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Front. Psychol. 12:712418. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough

Perfectionist — Sun, 10 Dec 2023 23:53:29 -0700

If you've ever felt misunderstood or frustrated bc what you're trying (psychotherapy, meditation, pushing through etc.) isn't working as fast or as well as you thought it would, this episode will make it all make sense. PS- Don't take my word for it. Hear real-life stories from perfectionists who had just about given up before finding Perfectionist Solutions.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Optimized you get 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that save you from living anxiously all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

"Your inner experience is always correct and valid. It's crucial to find support that acknowledges and works with your unique inner world as a perfectionist."-CLG episode 192 Perfectionism Rewired

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

EPSISODE 192 TIMESTAMPS:

01:13-Struggling with perfectionism? It’s not You. It’s…

02:18-Playing the wait and see strategy out until a crisis

03:27-How the Perfectionist Playbooks come in clutch

05:00-When You Have Nobody To Turn To or Who Understands

06:15-Inner Experience of Being A Perfectionist

07:30-How complying with the rules to earn the reward, screws over perfectionists

08:16-When Talk Therapy Makes Perfectionism Worse (IRL client example)

09:54-Why Compliance Driven Support DOES NOT work for perfectionists

10:26-When Deep Breathing Just Isn’t Cutting It. This.is.WHY

11:12-Dangers of hierarchical support like doctor + patient

12:54-Confused bc taking deep breaths is supposed to be relaxing

13:18-What lies beneath the surface of perfectionism is what’s controlling it

13:30-Why it feels like you're playing a game of whack a mole

14:00-How Perfectionistic Habits are like the Golden Gate Bridge

15:02-Love Researching, learning or self-diagnose? LISTEN UP

15:44-If deep breathing is not enough, what is?

16:30-The one thing that makes changes easy to do

17:21-Surprising changes for Carly + her young kids with Interoceptive Awareness

18:14-Practical Interoception tools so you can stay regulated even during hectic days

19:23-Why Interoception Works for Perfectionism

20:00-Secret Way Human Bodies decide how anxious or calm to be

21:05-Sneak Preview of next episode

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES CITED IN THIS EPISODE:

Adrián Yoris, Esteves, S., Couto, B., Melloni, M., Kichic, R., Cetkovich, M., … Sedeño, L. (2015). The roles of interoceptive sensitivity and metacognitive interoception in panic. Behavioral and Brain Functions, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12993-015-0058-8
Asena Boyadzhieva, & Ezgi Kayhan. (2021). Keeping the Breath in Mind: Respiration, Neural Oscillations, and the Free Energy Principle. Frontiers in Neuroscience, 15. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2021.647579
‌Duquette, P., & Ainley, V. (2019). Working With the Predictable Life of Patients: The Importance of “Mentalizing Interoception” to Meaningful Change in Psychotherapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02173
Price, C., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798
Zoellner, L. A., & Craske, M. G. (1999). Interoceptive Accuracy and Panic. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 37(12), 1141–1158. https://doi.org/10.1016/s0005-7967(98)00202-2

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Got that I have too much to do!! feeling!?

Holiday stress — Sun, 10 Dec 2023 17:23:07 -0700

If you're juggling deadlines, hectic schedules and family responsibilities and feel like you don't have any time for yourself right now, this episode will help you YOU actually enjoy your holidays (and life!). Whether it's standing up to your in-laws with newfound confidence, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family, When you know you’ve GOT this, holiday stress has no hold over you and your life goes from lackluster to joyful real fast.

Want to stop waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? If you're DONE being burned out by NYE, you’ve GOT to take advantage of the holiday special I'm offering inside my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized where you’ll discover how to stop stressy anxiety from creeping into your body + hijacking your mind so you're calm, present and JoyFULL. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

When You're Mortified You Made SUCH A Careless Mistake

Perfectionist — Thu, 07 Dec 2023 18:13:06 -0700

If you find yourself dwelling on a *mistake* you made for weeks, months (years!) or can’t stop feeling embarrassed/disappointed in yourself for “messing up” THIS episode will help you move forward and playfully break free from your own 'mistake prisons'

Take a rare real-time journey inside the mind of a perfectionist (CLG) who JUST made a very public (very careless) mistake and explore the intricacies of dealing with rejection sensitivity, taking decisive uncomfy action and what all-or-nothing thinking has to do with it.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Make your life YOURS and actually ENJOY it along the way inside Perfectionism Optimized where you'll get cutting-edge neuroscience tools to stop stress from pulling you out of the present moment and we'll retrain the way your brain responds to mistakes so they can no longer f#ck with your Joy.

Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

EPSISODE 191 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:49-When you make gorgeous plans, but you don't follow through on them

03:03-Exploring Rejection Sensitivity in Perfectionists

03:17-CLG's mistake very publicly on the podcast

04:19-Inside the all or nothing thinking going on in CLG's head

05:00-Understanding how to navigate the complexities of your perfectionism

06:17-Have self-awareness around perfectionistic tendencies but stuck in indecision

06:38-Paper thinking = flushing the toilet in your head

07:15-You think there's this one right decision out there

07:49-Constructing alibis for your "failures" instead of moving through mistakes

08:15-What Perfectionism Comes Down To

09:15-When you're mortified you made such a careless mistake

10:01-Only when you hear how you talk to yourself do you actually know where YOUR best decision is

11:08-Making a mistake is an opportunity to throat punch yourself

11:25-How building up your capacity to make mistakes is like running stairs

12:43-I made mistakes and I had a lot of really crappy thoughts about myself

13:30-Mindlessly going from task to task instead of gaining the skills to make a mistake + level up

14:33-You stop giving power to the past it loses its power over you and you become the one in charge

15:12-Calmly and confidently making mistakes is a skill

15:58-The fastest way to figure out what's really underneath your perfectionistic patterns

Obsessing Over Your Mistakes

Perfectionist — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 23:33:20 -0700

Mistakes are the scabs perfectionists love to pick, even if they make us bleed + leave a heinous scar that only we can see. Find out the top 5 reasons perfectionists are conditioned to be like moths drawn to the flame of mistakes, why overthinking mistakes feels like an addiction to your brain, the RIGHT way to handle mistakes so you don't keep making the same ones on repeat, even if you're in a high-stakes career where precision is a MUST.

Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How Perfectionistic patterns skew your ability to accurately see your mistakes
Why your brain is OBSESSED with overthinking every small mistake (hint, it involves dopamine)
Getting more upset over a random TikTok comment than celebrating your big wins begins to make sense

"Dopamine is not the feel good neurotransmitter. It's the predictor hormone. What makes us feel good is the certainty it brings. Obsessing over your mistakes. You know how you're going to feel. Yes, you're going to feel crappy, but it's the crappy that you can count on." - CLG, On Why Perfectionists Continue To Obsess Over Their Mistakes

EPSISODE 190 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:43-Cringeworthy Moment When My Obsession Over Small Mistakes Injured My Career

02:26-When You Get 100 Gold Stars But All You Can Think About Is the 1 Nastygram

03:05-Top Five Reasons Perfectionists Are Conditioned To Handle Mistakes Wrong

04:48-How Mistakes Are Like The Weather

05:50-Penalized For Mistakes As A Kid + Stuff Taken Away

06:25-The Correct Way To Obsess Over Mistakes

07:00-WHY am I obsessed with this every small mistake? I should be happy

07:12-You believe the mistakes mean something deeper about you

07:57-Your Reticular Activating System Is Trained To Fetch All Your Mistakes

08:13-How Neurosculpting Rewires Your Pattern + Gives You Better Sources of Dopamine

08:35-Your Career Demands Precision + is High-Stakes

09:11-How To Turn Those 'oops' Moments into Enjoyable A-HA Moments

Calm Anxiety + Take Control With the Worry Window

Perfectionist — Mon, 04 Dec 2023 22:11:21 -0700

Discover the simple technique that rewires your brain, empowering you to take control of your anxiety, worry and catastrophizing. Stay focused on this for 21 days and reduce your stress by 50%. Start now for a calmer, more present you.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence from being fully in charge of your life, through the proven, science-backed tools in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Two biggest mistakes Perfectionists make with stress management
How to customize your own 'Worry Window'
Techniques for perfectionist parents + improving mental wellness in children

Resources Mentioned:

BOOK: Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers for a deeper understanding of stress and its effects
Perfectionist Power Matrix of Prisoners, Hostages, Puppets + Owners: https://pin.it/7pei4sO

EPSISODE 189 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:25-Tool Helps Perfectionist Parents and Kids with Anxiety Relief

02:03-CLG's Journey with Anxiety + Panic Attacks

03:37-Two Biggest Stress Mistakes Perfectionists Make

04:02-The Science Behind Stress and Perfectionism

06:03-Unveiling the Worry Window Technique

07:33-Power of Choosing When You Worry

09:36-Customizing How To Stop Worrying Technique

12:18-Impact of Paper Thinking on Panic

13:23-Potty Training Your Perfectionism + Stress

14:33-How You Get Your Unconscious Playing on Your Team

15:16-Will Worry Window make me worry more?

16:00-Why Logicalizing Doesn't Work with Perfectionism and Anxiety

16:52-How To Cut Your Anxiety In Half in 21 Days

Catastrophizing

Perfectionist — Sun, 03 Dec 2023 23:58:02 -0700

Catastrophizing: when worst-case scenarios dominate your thoughts, leading you away from reality, fueling fear and anxiety. Find out why this common perfectionist habit is not protective but actually poisoning your potential and how to stop catastrophizing.

If you're eager to ditch the horror movie playing in your head, value your time & want to empower yourself with clear, calm thinking, getting in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Why Worry Won't Protect You or Prepare You
What makes catastrophizing especially addictive for perfectionists
How to stop worrying about the future +why you want to aspa

EPSISODE 188 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:01-Replaying The Worst Case Scenario On Repeat

01:38-Brining You To Reality + Out of Living In Fear

02:26-Secondary Gains + Hidden Benefits of Catastrophizing

03:08-Why Worrying Won't Protect You

04:18-Perfectionism Optimized heart surgeon client on panic + career progress

05:23-Choosing Trust Over Fear

06:03-Expanding Your Options by Integrity Inquiry

06:34-Beauty of Present Moment Awareness

07:33-Confronting Incongruence in Catastrophic Thinking

08:37-Owning Your Choice To Stop Worrying About The Future

09:14-How Catastrophizing Impacts Perfectionists

10:30-If All You Want For Christmas is Calm

11:39-Breaking the Cycle of Catastrophizing

Meeting Yourself Where You're At NOT Where Think You Should Be

Perfectionist — Sat, 02 Dec 2023 22:20:04 -0700

Discover how this ONE shift opens up the floodgates of your self-confidence and stops you from being a prisoner of yesterday's choices. Hear how Perfectionism Optimized client Porsha was able to go from "I HATE this about myself" to "I feel calmer. I've stopped shouting at myself" using this one neuroscultping tool and dive into the top 3 things perfectionists get wrong about self-acceptance that stop you from flourishing

If you're not where you think you should be, value your time & want to save years of second-guessing yourself, getting in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How resisting what we don't like about ourselves makes us the architects of our own suffering
Why acceptance doesn't equal approval
How to stop being a prisoner of yesterday's choices

EPSISODE 187 TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:53-How Meeting Yourself Where You Are Heats Up Growth

02:56-Your Self Awareness Ceiling

03:32-Awareness of A Pattern without Acceptance

04:23-Keeping ourselves in a prison of conflict + tension

05:14-LIES Perfectionists Tell About Self-Acceptance

07:03-Ostriching Yourself: No truth no change

08:14-Easy-Bake-Oven Instead of Using Full Range

08:52-How Skyrocket Your Self Confidence + Self Respect

09:29-Lie Stops Perfectionists Thriving + Flourishing

10:11-Being A Prisoner of Yesterday's Choices

11:33-How To Face What You're Dreading Without Self Hatred

12:14-Popular Push-Backs To Meeting Yourself Where You're At

12:56-Acceptance Doesn't Equal Approval

13:18-How Self Acceptance Accelerates Your Progress

14:42-Porsha Accepting What She Hates About Herself (client case study)

16:36-Porsha's Diamond In the Mud

17:00-No Longer Being War With Who You Are

17:40-Benefits of Meeting Yourself Where You're At

18:44-Special Announcement: Perfectionism Optimized

Never Suffer From Crippling Perfectionism Again

Perfectionist — Sat, 02 Dec 2023 00:19:20 -0700

Are you Using Perfectionism or Is it Using You? Uncover who's in charge with the simplicity and effectiveness Intention + Impact Method™. Explore the hidden triggers fueling your perfectionistic tendencies, understand the connection between your brain's alarm bell system stress + perfectionism and learn to decode your physical, emotional, behavioral and cognitive perfectionism cues.

If you value your time & want to save years of second-guessing yourself, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track You’ll leave more efficient, optimized and prioritized. If you know perfectionism is holding you back. Getting in here is non-negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How Intention + Impact Method™ Takes The Headache Out Of Being A Perfectionist
Why Understanding your physical, behavioral, emotional + cognitive cues takes the mystery out of your perfectionistic patterns
What to Watch Out For When You're Stressed and how accumulated stress can exacerbate perfectionistic tendencies, turning them into weapons instead of tools for your growth.

EPSISODE 186 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:30-The Intention and Impact Method

02:15-Understanding the Role of Stress and Your Amygdala

03:01-How Perfectionism Becomes a Weapon Defensive Mechanism

04:02-Identifying Your Unique Perfectionistic Tendencies

05:02-The Four Types of Perfectionism Cues

06:00-Why You Never Want To Label Perfectionistic Behaviors

07:11-Moving Beyond Autopilot Perfectionism

08:10-Recognizing and Shifting Unwanted Perfectionistic Intentions

09:11-Evaluating the Impact of Your Perfectionism

10:16-Techniques for Staying Present and Avoiding Burnout

11:06-How To Stop Being A Perfectionist At Work

11:51-Neuroscience Behind the Intention and Impact Method

Finding Your Perfect Episode Just Got Easier

podcast for perfectionists — Fri, 01 Dec 2023 23:00:08 -0700

Every single episode of Perfectionism Rewired is now digitally remastered and container store organized (complete with tags + categories) for your listening pleasure. Go beyond your podcast player's limited search and find the exact episode you're looking for at perfectionismrewired.com

When You Are So Perfectionist You End Up Doing Nothing

Perfectionist — Thu, 30 Nov 2023 16:47:07 -0700

Feel like you're always a thousand steps behind where you “should” have been? Procrastination for perfectionists is this invisible thing that no one sees or understands - and the longer it goes on, the anxiety moves in and then you’ve got multiple forces sucking the life out of you. Discover how to mute the constant noise in your head and melt away the pressure of avoidance.

Want to stop procrastinating permanently forever using proven, science-backed tools that actually work? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Two unique tools for immediate and long-term overcoming procrastination
Why working through the struggle of procrastinating produces 6x faster results
How to deal with procrastination using your brain's neurotransmitters

EPSISODE 185 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:41-Perfectionism procrastination

03:21-The No. 1 Habit to Deal with Procrastination

04:53-Building Your Internal Commitment

06:25-Overcoming Procrastination with Unconventionally Awesome Methods

08:00-Overcome Procrastinating from the Inside Out

09:05-Practical Techniques to Take Immediate Action

10:19-Neuroscience Insights for 6x Faster Learning

12:25-How To Stop Procrastinating forever

14:59-Cut Out The Suckage of Stop Procrastinating

How to Get Ahead in a Demanding Career (lessons from Perfectionist lawyer)

Perfectionism — Tue, 28 Nov 2023 18:52:57 -0700

Are you overworking but feel like you're underperforming? Discover the remarkable story of Jordan, high-achieving lawyer who believed time efficiency was the problem, working tirelessly yet still falling behind. With his demanding career on the line, hear how altering perfectionistic perceptions and embracing playful experimenting strengthens your full stature of dignity as a fulfilled perfectionist.

Want to go from Overworked to Optimized using proven, science-backed tools then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes career
How experimenting leads to breakthroughs in perception and efficiency
Why perfectionists overwork yet oblivious to their own underperforming

"I don't have a time management problem. I had a perception problem." - Jordan, Attorney + Perfectionism Optimized client

EPSISODE 184 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:45-Jordan's struggle with a dynamic family and a demanding career

02:48-Inefficiency Despite Working Long Hours

03:15-Uncovering the root cause of Jordan's time challenges

04:26-Experiments to loosen Rigid Perfectionistic Patterns

06:15-Realigning Focus and rediscovering joy

07:29-Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes career

08:33-Addressing the Core of overcoming perfectionism

10:07-Go from overworked to optimized

Ending Your Self Loathing Legacy: The Gift Every Perfectionist Deserves

Perfectionism — Mon, 27 Nov 2023 02:00:45 -0700

Are You confusing self criticism with self improvement? Don't get it twisted, learn why self loathing's misunderstood nature of perfectionism and how to stop falling into the hidden traps it sets. CLG shares invaluable insights for Type-A overachievers who are tired of wasting time with ineffective conventional approaches that leave you stagnating + struggling with the same perfectionistic pitfalls. Listen for a IRL techniques *that actually work* in dissolving the I Hate Myself meltdowns.

Ready to show up more powerfully for your family and want proven, science-backed tools you can use for generations to come? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How your brain and nervous system can be rewired to change your self-perception on command
Playful Strategies to break self-critical cycles and ease into a more nourishing sustainable approach to self-improvement
Why Psycho-Cybernetics Helps Perfectionists Create A New Self-Image

EPSISODE 183 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:30-The often-misunderstood Nature of Perfectionism

02:29-Dopamine's Role in Self Criticize Cycle

03:44-How Self Criticism Perpetuates Your Worst Patterns

04:17-When What Used To Work Stops Working For Ya

05:20-Perfectionist Parents + Legacy of Self Loathing

05:52-Techniques to Shatter the I Hate Myself Meltdowns

06:17-Why Traditional Approaches Don't Work for Perfectionists

08:24-Mistaking Criticizing for Deeply Caring

09:00-When Being Kind To Yourself Feels Wrong (and that's okay!)

10:06-Acceptance Does NOT Equal Apathy

10:26-Visualization of Life Without Being Self-Critical

11:34-Fastest Way to Figure Out What's Causing Your Perfectionistic Habits

Flipping Your Drama Triangles to Empowerment

Perfectionism — Sat, 25 Nov 2023 18:00:54 -0700

Discover how to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain inside the Drama Triangle to creator, coach and challenger inside the Winner's Triangle. Plus how to upgrade to the Empowerment Mindset where you shift focus from scarcity to possibilities, reactive to proactive, ensuring every decision aligns with your goals and visions.

Ready to turn your perfectionism from a crippling force into powerful asset with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain to creator, coach and challenger
Hard work, guess work and framework approaches to empowerment
Secret to redefining how you perceive and use your perfectionist traits

Step-by-Step Evolving Drama Triangle Process

Identify Your Triangle Role: Recognize when you're in the victim, rescuer or persecutor role within the Drama Triangle.
Embrace the Winner's Triangle: Actively move towards becoming a creator, coach or challenger.
Develop Self-Sovereignty: Start making choices that reflect your true self and living from an inside out approach.
Implement Active Learning: Stop accumulating and start implementing.
Focus on What You Want: Concentrate on your desires instead of fears or limitations.
Open Up to Possibilities: Embrace uncertainty and see it as a playground of opportunities.

EPSISODE 182 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:53-Drama Triangle Explained

02:07-One Small Action You Can Take Right Now

02:31-The Winner's Triangle: A New Perspective

03:35-Visualizing the Winner's Triangle: Become a Creator

04:05-Embracing Self Sovereignty and Overcoming Inadequacy

04:59-Questions to Embody the Creator Role in the Empowerment Triangle

06:23-Shifting Focus from Scarcity to Possibilities

07:07-Rescue Ranger to Caring Coach

08:08-Empowering Everyone through the Coach Approach

09:30-Example of Hero turning into a Coach

10:00-Evolving From Villain to Challenger

11:59-What All Winner's Triangles Have In Common

12:39-Agreements vs Expectations

13:13-Perfectionism Rewiring Made Easy

14:21-Upcoming Episode Teaser: Overcoming Over-Giving in Perfectionists

Perfectionistic Drama Triangle

Perfectionism — Wed, 22 Nov 2023 14:52:53 -0700

Are you choosing protection over connection? Gain insight into how perfectionistic traits affect relationships by understanding the Drama Triangle. Learn practical tools to shift from a fear-based mindset to mamba mentality as we break down the roles of Victim, Rescue Ranger (Hero), and Villain and how perfectionists play all 3 roles with ourselves!

Ready to trade toxic stress for joyful success with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

EPSISODE 181 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:26-Choosing Connection Over Protection in Relationships

01:50-Two Powerful Tools for Empowerment

02:08-Understanding Power Dynamics in Perfectionism

02:33-The Drama Triangle for Perfectionists

03:36-Exploring Victim Mentality

04:25-Identifying Victim Signs in Perfectionists

07:15-The Role of the Rescue Ranger (Karpman Drama Triangle)

09:33-Overcoming Hero Syndrome

11:05-Understanding the Villain Role

13:29-Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle into the Winner's Triangle

16:17-Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle

19:08-Leveraging the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

I'm So Stressed Out!

Perfectionism — Mon, 20 Nov 2023 02:28:40 -0700

Do you thrive under pressure? Find it hard to chill even while on vacation? Chronic stress is a silent affliction many perfectionists experience daily without realizing it. Discover sneaky symptoms of burnout, the subtle yet profound ways chronic stress manifests and how to recognize it in your daily life. Understand the science on why stress addiction = same impact on your neurobiology as drug addition and how to de-stress as a perfectionist.

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

How to identify the chronic stress in your life
Sneaky symptoms of burnout for perfectionists
The impact of stress addiction on your mind, body and performance
Practical strategies to build resilience and de-stress effectively

EPSISODE 180 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-I'm So Stressed Out

01:51-Take The Chronic Stress Quiz

03:31-What Cocaine + Stress Have in Common

04:50-Why Your Stress Isn't Relieved Yet

06:06-Stress Cocktail + Why Perfectionists Are addicted to stress

08:05-How Your Stress Tolerance Puts Your Health At Risk

09:12-The Missing Ingredient in Your Stress Management

10:34-Impact of Burnout for perfectionists

11:15-The Perfect Strategy For Staying Stressed Out

13:20-Training Yourself for Patterns of Joy + Success

Sources + Citations

Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016
Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/
Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154
Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614

Why Perfectionists Burnout

Perfectionism — Fri, 17 Nov 2023 23:45:42 -0700

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Discover how he moved beyond band-aid solutions for being burnt out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person.

If you want to make sure Burn Out NEVER HAPPENS TO YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Listen to the Full Episode To Learn:

Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your signs of burnout
How adverse childhood experiences contribute to.over functioning
What Kevin did step-by-step to go from from over-functioning stress addiction to rewire and redefine success on his own terms

Resources Mentioned:

Perfectionism Optimized: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.
The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body.

EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out

02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent

04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning

06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE

07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism

09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning

10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress

12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%

13:42-Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism

16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse

17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic

18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress

21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout

22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph

25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example?

Sources + Citations:

Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016
Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/
Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154
Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614

Transform Your Perfectionism Into Strength with Neurosculpting

Perfectionism — Tue, 14 Nov 2023 14:54:16 -0700

From Rigidity to Flexibility: hear CLG’s personal journey of how she went from judging the crap out of herself at age 5 with raging rigid self-criticism to a flexible, curious, elevated perspective. And how she put into a process to make you turn decades into days. Take the hard work and guess work out of battling perfectionism by rewiring your autopilot responses through neurosculpting. This simple scientific method changes your neural pathways to permanently transform your most annoying perfectionistic habits from a weakness to a strength.

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

How neurosculpting is unrivaled compared to traditional methods in helping rewire perfectionistic habits
Why harsh self-criticism is solved permanently through neuroplasticity
How to tell if your curiosity muscle is under-developed
What works best for rapid change small changes daily over time vs sweeping changes at a Tony Robbins event

EPSISODE 178 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:24-Where Perfectionism Recovery Will Take You (spoiler alert it SUCKS, not worth it)

02:01-CLG's Turning Point with Perfectionism

03:14-The Ineffectiveness of Conventional "Solutions" for Perfectionists

04:56-Going from Helpless Victim of Perfectionism to Victorious Perfectionist

06:28-Introduction to Neurosculpting: The Revolutionary Approach for Perfectionists

07:42-Perks of Neurosculpting + Incrementalism

09:05-Fast Track Your Change Inside The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

Tired of Being A Perfectionist? How Science Gives Perfectionists A Peaceful Path to Change

Perfectionism — Fri, 10 Nov 2023 18:01:46 -0700

Do your mistakes make you cringe? Say goodbye to the burnout of excellence and learn how to rewire your perfectionism for success without the stress. Discover the four transformative phases of permanent change, the role of your reticular activating system in changing perfectionistic habits, importance of novelty and playfulness in rewiring the brain and action steps to start correcting your perfectionist tendencies today!

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits so you can be joyfully ambitious, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

Why novelty is your ally and how to create it on command
The Four Phases of Rewiring Perfectionism Simplified
How neuroplasticity is essential for rewiring perfectionist habits
Activate your brain's Reticular Activating System (RAS) to notice change and accelerate your progress

Step-by-step to Sustainable Permanent Change

1 Waking Up Phase: Recognize new insights and apply them, accepting it's a gradual process.
2 Momentum Phase: Build intentionality and observe the impact of your actions.
3 Make or Break Phase: Experiment, analyze + learn from experiences to solve and evolve.
4 Habit Phase: Solidify new behaviors, knowing some old habits may persist but won't dominate or be your default
5 Seek Guidance: Consider expert coaching like Perfectionism Optimized to gain solidified atomic habits

"You're not just reprogramming a habit, you're reprogramming your response to life." - Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired Episode 177

EPSISODE 177 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-The Perfectionism Dilemma for High Achievers

02:41-Misconceptions around permanent change and mistakes

03:18-Role of science in developing solid self-compassion

04:19-Four phases of permanent change

06:39-Going from feeling victimized by mistakes to seeing them as learning opportunities

07:26-Your Reticular Activating System's role in manhandling mistakes

08:22-Why Sustainable change is a process, not a one-time event.

09:58-Creating Novelty So You're Brain Doesn't Get Bored

11:06-How to Analyze Your Mistakes without Judgment

11:59-Actionable steps to start understanding your own perfectionistic tendencies

"Help! Perfectionism Is KILLING My Dream of Being a Writer"

Perfectionism — Tue, 31 Oct 2023 16:59:39 -0700

Think perfectionism is a dream killer? Discover the underlying reasons why we allow perfectionism to control our lives and how perfectionism can be both a shield and a sword. Commitment versus compliance and practical step to use your perfectionism as an asset.

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

Difference between being committed and being compliant.
Unconscious Payoffs we get by being held hostage by our perfectionism
How to figure out what's actually holding you back and use your perfectionistic habits to accelerate
Practical steps to use perfectionism as an asset.

Step-by-step to Overcoming Perfectionism:

Acknowledge the Choice: Recognize that being held back by perfectionism is a choice.
Identify the Payoff: Understand the benefits you derive from your perfectionistic habits.
Commitment Over Compliance: Commit to small, achievable daily goals and track your progress.
Challenge Your Excuses: Recognize and challenge the changing excuses your brain offers.
Seek Guidance: Consider joining programs like Perfectionism Optimized to gain structured support.

EPSISODE 176 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:32-The Paradox of Choice of Perfectionism

02:19-Reasons vs. Results: Psychological Gains of Blaming

03:18-Understanding Why We ALLOW Perfectionism to Control Our Lives

03:52-Payoff of Perfectionistic Habits

04:37-Writers Block and Crippling Perfectionism

05:00-Breaking Free from External Control

06:24-How Your Brain Distracts From Your True Goals

08:22-Taking Charge, Staying Committed + Not Letting Excuses Drive Your Actions

08:56-Building Commitment Incrementally with Perfectionism Playbook

09:37-Actionable Steps for Aspiring Writers

Got Health Insurance? Here's How It Can Cover Your Perfectionism Coaching

perfectionism coach — Sat, 28 Oct 2023 16:13:02 -0700

Find out exactly how you can use your Health Insurance, HSA and/or FSA to pay for coaching and how having ADHD, depression, anxiety etc can actually help you, with this step-by-step guide, Including a fill-in-the-blank packet you can take to your provider to get a prescription and letter of medical necessity for perfectionism coaching. My clients have used this packet and it's been approved 100% of the time.

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Resources Inside This Episode:

Introductory Coaching Session (cost can be applied to all future coaching) here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/perfectionism-coaching-perfect-start
Complete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance + HSA for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coaching
Doctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescription

Step-by-Step Process to Utilize Health Benefits for Coaching:

Understanding Medical Coverage: If you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA), Health Savings Account (HSA), or Health Reimbursement Account (HRA), you might be eligible to use these funds for qualified medical expenses.

Eligibility Check: All services by Perfectionist Solutions including health and wellness coaching and assessments, fall under the category of "qualified medical expenses."

Seeking Reimbursement: Health insurance often operates with CPT codes, approved by the American Medical Association (AMA). Check if your health insurance provides reimbursement.

Leverage Resources: Utilize the resources here to navigate the medical jargon and get the required approvals.

EPSISODE 175 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

00:58-Health Insurance & Perfectionism Coaching

02:44-Traditional vs. Rooted Approaches to Perfectionism

03:16-FSA, HSA & HRA for Perfectionism Coaching

03:49-Health & Wellness Coaching: A Qualified Medical Expense

04:13-Reimbursement through Health Insurance

05:03-Navigating Health Insurance for Wellness Coaching

05:28-CLG's Mission: Helping Every Perfectionist

06:15-Medical Conditions & Perfectionism Coaching Benefits

06:55-Overlooked Medical Diagnoses & Their Impact

08:19-Speaking the 'Medical Language' for Approvals

09:25-How To Feel Way Better Before Christmas

How to Start Fail-Proofing your Perfectionism Today!

perfectionism coach — Fri, 27 Oct 2023 16:16:37 -0700

Why do you want to take control of your perfectionism? The key is identifying your most important reasons. Then you can use them as your secret weapon to become failproof. How? With this simple tool. Master this tool and overcoming perfectionism becomes a no-brainer.

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Why "Whys" are pivotal in rewiring your perfectionist tendencies
Reasons why we as perfectionists often get stuck, avoid or quit when things get hard
How to start fail-proofing your perfectionism today!

"When you make Perfectionism a villain, you put yourself in victim mentality. Perfectionism is not a villain. People only make it a villain when they are unable to educate you on how to own your perfectionism." - CLG, Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 174

EPSISODE 174 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction + Recovering Perfectionist Battle Cry

01:18-The Misunderstanding of Perfectionism

02:22-Why Being A Recovering Perfectionist is a LIE

03:09-The Mental Traps of Perfectionism

04:15-The Pitfalls of Old Outdated Overcome Perfectionism Methods

05:24-The Brain Behind Perfectionism

06:55-The Power of 'Why' in Rewiring

09:22-Practical Steps: Keeping Your 'Why' Front and Center

10:59-Moments of Impact: Making Conscious Choices

12:50-Real-life 'Whys' from Perfectionists Who've Taken Control

14:04-How You Can Fail-Proof Your Perfectionism

Feel Better Faster: Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes In Expressing EMOTIONS

perfectionism coach — Sat, 21 Oct 2023 18:12:47 -0700

Ever wish you could just turn your feelings off? For years I wanted to be a robot bc I sucked at expressing emotions. Now I know what to do with feelings and can easily make space for emotions without drowning in them. Emotions can either propel or paralyze you, here's how to understand and navigate them as a perfectionist.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Discover the two main ways society has miseducated us about expressing emotions and the pivotal techniques to unlearn them.
Two essential questions to ask to get out of the emotional swap + get clear
The difference between self-compassion, emotional petting, reflection, rumination and more.
Perfectionist tendencies and how they become unhealthy coping mechanisms
How Jamal + Veronica took control of their emotions and perfectionism so they co-exist in harmony

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

EPSISODE 173 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction + Sneak Peak of Topic

01:43-Two Major Misconceptions About Expressing Emotions

02:22-Dismissing Emotions vs Taking Charge of Your Emotions

03:28-Dangers of Black and White Thinking About Emotions

03:42-The Role of Capitalism in Controlling of Emotions

04:06-Differentiating Self Compassion, Reflection, Discipline and Expressing Feelings

04:58-When Perfectionism Becomes An Unhealthy Coping Mechanism

07:04-Why Focusing On Present Rather Than Past Is Where You Find Answers

07:37-Differentiating Between Expressing and Explaining Feelings

08:06-The Pitfalls of Overexpressing and Underexplaining Feelings

09:57-How Providing Context for Emotional Experiences is Key

10:47-The Challenge of Underexpressing and Overexplaining Emotions

12:45-How A Healthy Perfectionist Handles Emotions in a Better Way

13:30-Two Key Questions to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence + Feel Better Faster

Quickest Way To Permanently Overcome Perfectionism

perfectionism coach — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 18:20:16 -0700

The new science of perfectionism: revealed. Discover the profound impact of neuroplasticity on reshaping perfectionist tendencies, neuroplasticity defined (so simply a 5 year old gets it), what this looks like IRL and how your age influences your brain's ability to change + adapt.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

How your age influences your brain's ability to change and adapt
Why this works freaky fast to shift rigid perfectionist mindsets
Importance of curiosity + dangers of letting your inner critic continue to rampage

EPSISODE 172 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction To Episode 172

01:17-The Speed of Overcoming Perfectionism

02:36-Visualization of Your Brain & Nervous Systems as a Power Grid

04:15-Impact of Rigid Neural Pathways & Your Inner Critic

05:47-Gaining Flexibility in Your Own Perceptions

06:39-Creating Safe Environments for Brain Plasticity

07:34-Increasing Your Brain Span, Preventing Dementia and Alzheimer's

08:55-Real-life Example of Client's Experience with Neuroplastic Change

10:06-Neuro-Sculpting & its Benefits

11:19-Bridge Between Neuroplasticity & Perfectionism

13:03-Neuroplasticity: Age, Leverage & Your Tipping Point

2 Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask To Avoid The Trickery of Achievement

perfectionism coach — Mon, 16 Oct 2023 17:35:54 -0700

Ever felt you've achieved so much but still aren't satisfied? Too many driven perfectionists are never feeling good enough and struggling to maintain high-achievements without burning out. That stops now. Discover their root causes and the surprising reason why over-achieving lowers satisfaction levels for perfectionistic . Plus the only two questions you need to ask to determine if your striving is healthy or unhealthy.

Listen to the ull episode to Learn:

The most overlooked stage of change and growth (that even top performers miss!)
Inefficiency of constantly overcoming perfectionist thoughts + what to do instead
When IS enough enough (how to tell)

EPSISODE 171 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Unhealthy vs Healthy Striving

01:39-Two Fatal Flaws of Perfectionism

02:15-The Deception of Achievement

02:55-Surprising Research Findings on Perfectionists' Satisfaction

03:27-First Fatal Flaw of Achievement

04:02-Why Emotional Agility & Self-Esteem Are Required

04:50-Power of Rewiring Your Perfectionist Mindset

07:06-Moving the goalposts

08:03-Energy Management in Perfectionism

09:27-Two Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask

10:58-Unhealthy patterns perfectionists often fall into + how to break free

13:11-Honoring Your Intentions vs. Achieving Goals

Secret Signs You're a Perfectionist: What You Didn’t Know!

perfectionism coach — Sat, 14 Oct 2023 21:45:33 -0700

You might be a perfectionist if....Discover the hidden signs of perfectionism and how it's affecting your daily life.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

16 undetected signs of perfectionism decoded
Recognizing the signs of perfectionism in your own behavior.
How to leverage your perfectionism to get want you want (I lost 50lbs + have kept it off for 7 years)

"I started to figure out THIS is actually perfectionism. Even though I never thought that I was perfect enough to be a perfectionist." - CLG-

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program The Accelerator ! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

EPSISODE 170 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction & The Invisible Language of Perfectionism

01:39-Personal Struggles with Perfectionism

02:03-High Performance vs Perfectionism

02:24-Discovering the True Nature of Perfectionism

03:11-The Need for Practical Insights

04:03-Challenging Perfectionism Myths

05:35-Leveraging Perfectionism in Fitness

06:14-Brene Brown on Perfectionism (sidelines vs arena)

06:40-Surprising Signs of Perfectionism

08:30-Misconceptions and Blind Spots

09:17-Procrastination, Burnouts, and All-or-Nothing Mindset

11:05-Fear of Judgement & Holding Back

13:55-The Cost of Not Leveraging Perfectionism

15:20-Reputation, Approval, and Time Management

16:05-Envisioning a Life Leveraging Perfectionism

17:22-Invitation to the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

If You're Hungry For Change Here's YOUR Perfect Start

1-1 coaching — Wed, 11 Oct 2023 21:46:05 -0700

Are you constantly battling perfectionist tendencies? Here's your chance to taste the deliciousness of perfectionism coaching, The Perfect Start Introductory Session. Whether you're confronting recurring patterns, want a 60 day plan to relieve holiday stresses or are super curious, The Perfect Start Introductory Session is for you.

BEST PART: The entire cost of The Perfect Start Introductory Session can be applied to future coaching with CLG. Swoop to secure yours now at CourtneyLoveGavin.com/services

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to October (CLG's favorite month)

00:14-Announcing Single Sessions

00:30-The Perfect Start Session Details

00:45-Investment & Future Coaching Benefits

01:06-Low Risk, High Value Offer

01:37-Session Logistics & Pre-Call Questionnaire

02:06-The Importance of Clear Intent

02:46-Examples How Perfectionism Coaching Can Help You

03:12-Overview of Available 1-1 Perfectionism Coaching Services

03:29-Perfectionism Optimized Revamped Programs

03:51-In-depth FAQs on the Website

04:06-October's Unique Opportunity: Neuroplasticity Over Eyelash Extensions

Rewiring Perfectionist Habits: "Just One More Minute"

perfectionism coach — Wed, 11 Oct 2023 17:06:45 -0700

Ever catch yourself saying "just one more minute" ? Or struggling to shut down at the end of a workday when you haven't finished everything on your list? Me too. Listen as I walk you through a recent experience of rewiring my own perfectionist habits, the anxiety that came up, the tools I used and why taking control of your time as a perfectionist matters in the big picture.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

Simple 4-step process to stop perfectionist habits dead in their tracks
How to be more understanding when old crappy patterns pop-up
Perfectionism Tax: What you're paying _ how to stop paying it
The one question that makes it clear what your best decision is when you feel torn

"There's always going to be one more thing to do. We don't have a guaranteed one more minute in our life." - CLG

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

EPSISODE 169 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction To Perfectionism Rewired

00:21-The Perfectionist's Dilemma

01:12-The "Just One More Minute" Syndrome

01:49-CLG's Personal Journey with Hard Conversations

02:13-Overcoming the Perfectionist Narrative + Process Perfectionism

03:12-The Core Four Pillars: Person, Peace, Prosperity, Presence

04:47-Four N's: Notice, Normalize, Neutralize, Next Action

05:25-Reframing Your Perspective on Difficult

06:03-Why You Must Have A Strong Foundation + Malibu Analogy

07:25-Debunking Perfectionism Myths: CLG's Personal Experience

08:07-What Perfectionism is Costing You Right Now

09:05-Breaking the Cycle: How To Say No to "One More Minute"

How To Have Difficult Conversations

perfectionism coach — Mon, 02 Oct 2023 22:43:29 -0700

We've all been there—facing a discussion we dread, a pit in our stomach, wishing someone else could do it for us. But what if difficult conversations could strengthen your relationships instead of being awkward? Discover how in this episode and empower yourself to handle any conversation, no matter how challenging. Learn strategies that work with your perfectionism to navigate tough talks without blame, frustration, being defensive or justifying.

EPSISODE 168 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction & The Perfectionist's Guide

00:50-Essence of Difficult Conversations

01:24-The Skill of Navigating Tough Talks

01:49-CLG's Personal Journey with Hard Conversations

03:07-Evolving Your Communication Skillset

03:54-Why are Difficult Conversations Tricky?

04:15-Emotional Perfectionism & Its Role

05:25-Reframing Your Perspective on Difficult

06:15-How To Discuss What Matters Most

07:18-Importance of Visualization for Perfectionists

08:07-Preparing for the Convo: Tips & Tricks

09:05-The Power of Not Over-Explaining

10:03-Making Difficult Conversations Second Nature

10:48-During the Conversation: Key Points to Remember

11:42-Conclusion & Invite to the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

How To Be Less Demanding

perfectionism coach — Sun, 01 Oct 2023 22:07:41 -0700

Ever wondered if you're being demanding or just making requests? Listen in to discover the secret to navigating relationships without the emotional toll and the key distinctions between demands + requests.

EPSISODE 167 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction To Demands vs Requests

01:29-Impact of Demands in Personal Relationships

02:55-Emotional Tax of Making Demands

04:15-Perks of Making Requests

05:10-Real Life Examples + How To Tell Recognizing Emotional Responses

06:26-Boundaries & Handling Difficult Conversations

07:25-Handling Demands from People You Love

08:01-If You Crumble When Demands Are Put On You...

08:26-Inner Confidence + Rising When Demands Are Put On You

09:18-Building a Strong Foundation & Resilience

You Must Let Go Of THIS for Inner Peace

perfectionism coach — Tue, 26 Sep 2023 21:17:34 -0700

Revealing THE silent source of your disappointments, stress + conflicts and how to stop this inner peace parasite in its tracks. Whether you're dealing with in-laws, work drama or disappointment with yourself this episode is a masterclass in dissolving disappointments + gives you actionable solutions to use for life along with holiday stress. Plus what Byron Katie told me about sadness that forever changed how I deal with disappointment.

EPSISODE 165 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction To #1 Mind Parasite

01:27-Powerful Tool Melts Holiday Frustrations

02:20-Expectations = Disappointment

03:09-Popular Toxic Beliefs of Perfectionistic Subconscious Minds

04:03-How To Harmonize In-Laws During The Holidays

07:12-Never Have A Difficult Conversation Again

09:09-You Must Let Go Of THIS for Inner Peace

10:13-Impact of Expectations on Perfectionists

12:00-Beauty of Starting From Neutral

14:04-Key To Productive Conversations Is Leading With This

15:01-Three Areas To Look For Your Hidden Expectations

16:13-Composting Disappointments into Proud Momentum

How To Enjoy Your Thanksgiving No Matter What

perfectionistic — Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:08:44 -0700

Do you go above + beyond decorating and cooking during Thanksgiving all to make your loved ones happy? But end up feeling unappreciated and resentful? It's time to understand why. In this eye-opening episode, you'll find out how emotional outsourcing affects us as perfectionists, ways to break free from this pattern and how making daily deposits into your Core Four Pillars makes sure your holiday happiness never gets hijacked.

If you want to say goodbye to holiday stress and in-depth personalized support for your own perfectionism, The Accelerator is for you! Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

EPSISODE 165 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction Perfectionism Rewired and Understanding Holiday Stress

01:42-Exploring Emotional Outsourcing

02:36-Identifying the Signs of Holiday Happiness Hijackers

04:23-Your Core Four Pillars for Optimized Well-Being

05:46-Real-Life Healthy Thanksgiving Success of Accelerator client

06:35-The Slot Machine Analogy

08:36-Your No. 1 Stress-Busting Tool

10:21-Science of Self-Care During the Holidays

11:45-Solutions to Embrace Holiday Joy

Ending Your Stress At The Holidays

perfectionistic — Thu, 21 Sep 2023 19:53:33 -0700

The holiday season is the superbowl of stress, creating oodles of pressure and for perfectionists we can go into overdrive, causing burn out, extreme people-pleasing and going at such a warp speed we miss the moments that matter most. This is why NOW is YOUR prime time to get support so you're perfectionism is working for you and you can make this Christmas season the best one yet!

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.

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EPSISODE 164 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction + Recap Holiday Perfectionism

01:24-Striking and sharpening when the iron is cold

02:37-How to stop holiday overwhelm before it starts

04:06-Preparing for Christmas Perfection is like training as an athlete

05:05-Challenges faced by people pleasers during the holidays

05:53-How To Make Perfectionism Work For You

07:16-Questions for You to Make this Christmas season the best one yet

07:50-Neurogenesis + why core four pillars work for perfectionists

Holiday Perfectionism

perfectionistic — Wed, 20 Sep 2023 00:07:38 -0700

Holidays are when lots of perfectionists go straight into overwhelm....and you don’t need to be one of 'em! Today I'm getting you ready for the holidays so you can feel way better than anxious or obligated this season.NOW is when you want to make moves and create routines that restore your energy—get perfectionism coaching, nurture healthy habits that enhance and expand your life.

When you’re already stressed in a holiday perfectionism sh!t show, anything you do will be significantly less impactful bc your stress response is activated, making your brain interpret information in warped way than it would if you were calm and centered.

Beat stress at the holidays with this simple step-by-step I'm walking you through on the podcast and how to navigate difficult conversations with family members re: boundaries. Instead of being a helpless victim to the holidays, DECIDE now to make your holiday perfectionism magical and press play to listen to episode 163!

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.

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EPSISODE 163 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00-Introduction to Holiday Perfectionism

01:25-Defining YOUR Priorities for the Holidays

02:50-Taking Control: Holiday Perfectionism

04:15-Identifying Your Resources for a Magical Stress-Free Season

05:29-Difficult Conversations + Boundary Setting

06:00-Striking While The Iron is Cold: Resourcing Yourself Now

07:24-How To Nix Stress at the Holidays

What's A Perfectionism Coach (avoiding imposters)

perfectionistic — Mon, 18 Sep 2023 18:23:31 -0700

Curious what exactly a perfectionism coach does and why you might want one?

Why would you choose one over a general life coach, therapist, counselor, group coaching program, book, or course to address their perfectionism? In a world filled with perfectionism books, therapists, life coaches and group programs galore, you’ll uncover why a perfectionism coach could be your secret weapon and the 3 key benefits you only get with a perfectionism coach.

Find out what they don’t want you to know about group coaching programs…like that unless you pay a premium, you’ll have wait for your turn to receive coaching and be influenced by others' problems.

Get smart about spotting the pre-programmed scripts and limitations of general life coaches, therapists and counselors, and how to tell if they lack the first-hand experience and depth required to address the intricacies of perfectionism.

Today's podcast episode helps you avoid perfectionism coach imposters. I'll show you all the ways having a real perfectionism coach will help you (and how the imposters keep you stuck in hopeless perfectionism tactics and programs).

No more cookie cutter coaching or group coaching program cattle calls. You deserve better. And you deserve to quit wasting your money and time.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.

Let's get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

EPSISODE 162 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00-Introduction

00:01:24-Why You'd Want A Perfectionism Coach

00:02:13-Limitations of General Life Coaches, Therapists and Counselors

00:03:30-Group Coaching Programs and Their Drawbacks

00:05:25-The Depth of Perfectionistic Traits

00:7:27-Advantages of a Perfectionism Coach

00:08:27-Why Perfectionists Need X-ray Vision

00:10:01 Leveraging Perfectionism

00:13:10-Highlighting Possibilities Instead of Problems

“It’s easier if I just do it myself”

perfectionistic — Sun, 17 Sep 2023 19:23:12 -0700

“I just need to get through this quarter, THEN I'll....”

“Explaining it takes too long + I really don’t have the time”

“They rarely do it right anyways…”

^^^ these are SUPER common things I hear from high-achieving perfectionists who are used to doing it themselves and figuring it out alone. This works… until it doesn’t. Until you burnout, are pulling insane hours or get passed over for a promotion.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Delegating and resourcing yourself are skills that are REALLY different than the incredible skills of “figuring it out and flying solo”.

Go from resentful to resourceful knowing the No. 1 misconception perfectionist's believe about resourcing yourself and how to dissolve this back asswards thinking.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.

Let's get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

EPSISODE TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00-Introduction

00:01:41-The Covert Nature of Perfectionism

00:01:59-Uncovering Your Back-Asswards Thinking

00:02:09-Solving the Wrong Problem

00:02:45-Shifting Perspectives

00:03:50-Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking

00:05:16-The Journey from Interested to Committed

00:06:47-Invitation for Perfectionists committed to excellence

This is Why You're Stuck: From Plateau to Progress in 3 Steps

Performance Coach for Perfectionists — Sat, 16 Sep 2023 17:05:59 -0700

Feel like you’re hitting a wall? No matter what you do you just can't seem to make the progress you want? This episode is the ladder to progress you've been searching for. Discover how your beliefs, traits, and skills play a pivotal role in either propelling you forward or keeping you stuck and the 3 steps for hypergrowth.

If you're committed to getting unstuck you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

The Ladder Analogy: skills, character traits, and beliefs crucial to overcoming plateau
Perfectionist imbalances between their skills, character traits, and beliefs, keeping us stuck in stagnation
3 Steps to Uncover Your Deficiencies and being ruthlessly honest about where you are NOW
Replacing Mental Spinning with Action instead of dwelling on why you have deficiencies
Pinterest for Ladder Visual

Pretending To Have It All Together? Harmful Perfectionism Psychology You Need To Know

Performance Coach for Perfectionists — Thu, 14 Sep 2023 17:35:59 -0700

As perfectionists, we're expected to have all the answers, to be strong, in control and the one everyone we love can depend on. But what about when we have out own doubts, fears or frustrations? We often resort to wearing a mask pretending to have it all figured out to meet others' expectations. Explore the impact of pretending to have it all together and the POWER waiting for you when you unmask your true, secure, whole, perfect self.

If you're ready to equip yourself with the best tools possible for rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

00:00:00-Introduction

00:03:18-Unspoken Pressures and Expectations on Perfectionists

00:04:19-Sedation and Avoidance of Connection

00:05:44-Desire for More and Judgment of Classic Perfectionists

00:06:14-Consequences of Dismissing Signs of Perfectionism

00:07:26-Importance of Having Perfectionistic Support

00:08:57-Decisions reflection of fear vs your true, secure, whole, perfect self

00:09:33-Connection as a Choice (Mamba Mentality)

00:10:34-High Cost of Not Getting Perfectionistic Support

00:11:04-Difference Between Challenge and Struggle for Parisian Perfectionists

00:12:34-Value of Proper Coping Mechanisms for Perfectionists

The 1 Thing That Actually WORKS To REWIRE Perfectionism

Performance Coach for Perfectionists — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 20:34:35 -0700

Ever decided to start working out everyday, do it for a week or two and then when life gets super busy, you're back to sloth status? Or expected yourself to be relaxed just as soon as you finish power planning your week? Those are signs that your perfectionism is setting you up to fail.

Consider this your WARNING: you'll be tempted by productivity culture to think perfectionism hacks like "how to stop being a perfectionist" and "overcoming perfectionism" work. That's bullshit. We eventually run out of steam fighting against ourselves and need a "break" (and that break = going back to old perfectionistic habits).

I show Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator clients what ACTUALLY optimizes perfectionism...Tiny & Mighty Moves. Today I'm teaching you ALL about it on the Perfectionism Rewired podcast. Listen now!

If you're ready to reset and take control of the end of your year, I highly recommend joining my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

You'll hit the ground running with concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, all designed to fast track your own real, resilient, relevant RESULTS.

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Why 'Doing Your Best' Might Be Destroying Your Progress

perfectionist — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 23:42:58 -0700

If there’s 1 thing perfectionists love doing, it’s our best! It’s an outdated way to avoid failure but also the surest way to stay stuck. Giving your best doesn’t lead to success! Discover BETTER approach than doing your best and why Perfectionists who ditch doing their best accelerate faster.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

How to tell whether you’re using doing your best as an excuse
Why doing your best is NOT a smart strategy
What to do if you’re always doing your best and never feel like you're falling short
Why we’ve got the doing your best equation backwards.

If you're ready to BE your best, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll have me supporting you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you'll succeed.

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How To Stop Letting People Push Your Buttons

perfectionist — Mon, 11 Sep 2023 22:54:36 -0700

Do other people push your buttons? Then you spin out in frustration? Learn how most perfectionists serve up their buttons on a silver platter, how to revoke other people's access to pushing yours and the Power Buttons you need to be in complete control.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

Why Perfectionists are so prone to having their buttons pushed
How buttons become exposed
Practical strategies for resilience to button-pushers
Where to find your Proud Of Myself button
What trying to overcome your perfectionism results in

If you're ready to play with your perfectionism and win, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, get leverage over your whole life and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

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Are You Sacrificing Too Much? Discover How to Truly Have it All!

perfectionist — Mon, 11 Sep 2023 03:14:04 -0700

Feel like if you're winning in your career you're failing in your relationships? The perfectionist's dilemma: success in one area comes at the cost of another. Don't settle for less when you can have it all. Listen to learn how.

If you enjoy this podcast, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, play with pressure and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

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Thriving Under Pressure: Proven Ways You Can Leverage Pressure to Your Advantage

perfectionist — Sat, 09 Sep 2023 19:03:20 -0700

Feel like you're floundering undercurrent of stress and pressure? That's a sign pressure is choosing you, instead of YOU choosing pressure. Explore the benefits of playing with pressure, turning it into a catalyst for achievement and how you can gauge pressure across 4 key pillars of your life: Person (Body), Peace (Spirituality), Presence (Relationships) & Prosperity (Career + Growth).

If you want to control your pressure, leverage it for peak performance and achieve with ease, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Are You Leaking Energy? Managing Your Energy NOT Your Time

perfectionist — Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:32:19 -0700

Feeling drained all the time? You might have hidden energy leaks. There are 4 areas of energy: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Each one build on top of each other. Find out where you're leaking energy and how to prosperously invest your energy for the highest returns.

If you want to be immune to burnout, get more done in less time and have oodles of sustainable yummy energy, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, create time for what YOU WANT to do and relax sans guilt, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: 100% customized to you and dedicated to your growth. You have me supporting & guiding you every step of the way, so it's guaranteed you will create the exact results that you want.

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The Hidden Truth About Arrival Fallacy

perfectionist — Sun, 03 Sep 2023 20:53:35 -0700

Do your achievements feel hollow? Success not as satisfying as it used to be? You've worked tirelessly to achieve your goals, convinced that reaching them would bring you happiness. But once you get there...the joy is fleeting and you're left wondering "Is this it?" Welcome to the world of arrival fallacy, a perfectionism trap that convinces us overachievers to tie our self-worth to external milestones and go on a miserable never-ending chase of enough. Inside this episode is the solution: Uncovering what's motivating you and that satisfaction is not a box to be checked off.

If you want to feel as excellent as your life looks, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, leverage your strengths and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Inside This Episode You'll Discover:
00:00:00-Introduction and The Perfectionist's Guide
00:01:10-The Growth of Change vs. Allowing
00:01:59-CLG's Journey
00:03:20-The Fear Factor
00:04:05-The Danger Zone
00:05:09- Phantom Promise of Moving the Goalposts
00:06:34-The Unconscious Motivation
00:08:01-Arrival Fallacy Examples
00:09:10-The Power of Awareness
00:10:11-Perfectionism Trap
00:11:22-Cracking the Code To Perfectionism
00:12:19-The Change of Allowing
00:14:09-Self Awareness
00:15:01-Why You Deserve Better Professional Fulfillment

How To Reinvent Yourself

future self — Tue, 29 Aug 2023 16:04:01 -0700

How to reinvent yourself everyday. Reinventing yourself happens minute by minute and using your self-concept as a guide, makes it so much simpler. I'm taking you step-by-step through how to reinvent your life creatively. And why reinventing yourself can happen at any age, place or time.

Ready to reinvent your whole life? You CAN have it ALL: presence, peace, prosperity while being a high integrity person. Choose to prioritize YOU today and join https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON HOW TO REINVENT YOURSELF:

00:00 - Introduction

01:17 - The Fragility of Self-Concept

02:25 - The Power of Internal View

03:03 - Knowing Your Current and Future Self-Concept

04:06 - The Importance of Reinventing Yourself + Self-Concept

05:18-How To Reinvent Yourself in 15 mins a Day

06:11-Mental Plane and Physical Actions

07:22-Being vs Doing in Reinventing Your Life

08:10-Building Self-Concept Like a Muscle

09:02-Fighting Mind Games When You Reinvent Yourself

10:06-Creative Ways to Embody Your Self-Concept

11:20-External Cues and Anchors

12:13-Costumes and Role-Playing Future Self

13:08-Avoiding Dependencies When You Reinvent Yourself

14:08-Real-Life Example: The Realtor's Self-Concept

How to stop being controlling

Perfectionist — Sun, 27 Aug 2023 01:33:08 -0700

Where control IS trust IS NOT. Discover how to spot your controlling behaviors before they cause trouble and how to stop being controlling at work, in relationships and with yourself.

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True Cost of Perfectionism in Your Career

Perfectionism at work — Fri, 25 Aug 2023 18:42:30 -0700

How much is perfectionism costing you in your career? Uncover the *real price* you're paying as an average perfectionist with 15 real-life examples of how perfectionism manifests at work and key insights on recognizing it within yourself. CLG also addresses the pain and frustration perfectionists feel being misunderstood and dismissed by others. Tune in to learn how to navigate the challenges of being a perfectionist and create a fulfilling + prolific career without compromising who you are.

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If you're wondering if you're a Maladaptive Perfectionist...take the perfectionism test

Perfectionist test — Mon, 21 Aug 2023 15:58:18 -0700

I created a highly effective perfectionist test for you to gain valuable insights into your own tendencies. This concise assessment consists of 11 straightforward statements for you to accurately rate your perfectionism traits. By taking this quiz, you'll confidently develop a profound understanding of your own behaviors and be fully prepared to excel at the Perfectionism Game in upcoming episodes

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The Perfectionism Secret You're Not Supposed To Know

Overcoming Perfectionism — Sun, 20 Aug 2023 19:15:18 -0700

Revealing the perfectionism secrets you're not supposed to know, how mushrooms are just like perfectionists (and how to make sure you're a truffle and not a poisonous fungus), what parenting and perfectionism has in common, what Disney's She-Hulk teaches us about leveraging perfectionism and the No. 1 way perfectionists continue to be burnout trying to rely on sheer willpower, “grinding 24/7”, doing it alone (and how to snap out of it).

You CAN change. You can start TODAY. In fact, this is the perfect time to stand up and say “enough! I’m NOT letting perfectionism control my life or my family’s life any more!” Go apply for the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator while there’s still time here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

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Perfectionistic Patterns: Reinventing Resistance to Change

Perfectionistic — Tue, 18 Jul 2023 18:00:20 -0700

Perfectionists: Are you tired of your rinse and repeat life? You’ve got no complains except... it’s not thrilling. You can feel there’s a new version of you that wants to come out.

If this sounds familiar, I’m opening up my toolbox + inviting you to do something extraordinary with me. I've developed a framework to help you meticulously identify precisely where you're resistant to change 🎯

In this episode, I share what reinvention is for perfectionists, what it’s not and two new *exclusive to podcast listeners* ways you can dissolve your resistance to change and reinvent yourself from the ground up.

This isn’t about status quo improving yourself. It’s better than that.

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Introducing Perfectionism Rewired

victim mentality — Tue, 18 Jul 2023 16:54:43 -0700

I was tired of searching for an empowering podcast made for perfectionists who reject victim mentality and want to own their perfectionism. So I made one! Ditch perfectionist recovery and revolutionize with Perfectionism Rewired. The podcast that makes unlearning exhausting perfectionistic habits -as thrilling as an African safari (but without all the shots + mosquito nets).

How To Let Go Of Perfectionism

perfectionistic tendencies — Fri, 09 Jun 2023 19:42:30 -0700

Perfectionists tend to get trapped in the confines of impossible standards, burdened by the weight of unrealistic expectations. This maladaptive perfectionism takes a toll on our mental health, leaving us overwhelmed with anxiety even when we successfully achieve our goals. Listen in on a very candid conversation with my client KB as she shares her personal journey of taking the courageous first step towards rewiring her perfectionistic tendencies.

This could be YOUR epic story of rewiring. Ready to rise? Go to https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Through KB's inspiring story, you'll discover stress-free ways to overcome perfectionism with grace, openness and allow yourself to embrace growth and learn from every experience (yes even making mistakes). Gain valuable insights into your own perfectionist tendencies, learn new practical personal growth tools you can start using today and how to cultivate a calm, more fulfilling life, while being true to yourself.

Inside this episode on letting go of perfectionism:

Allowing yourself to look at unrealistic expectations sans shame
Making mistakes (and being okay)
First step to letting impossible standards go
unLearning your unique perfectionist tendencies
Ways to prioritize your mental health

The Complete Perfectionist's Guide To Victim Mentality + How to deal with people who play the victim

Mamba mentality — Tue, 30 May 2023 17:27:02 -0700

Smart, ambitious, driven perfectionistic people don't want to be a victims, yet 99% of high achievers (unknowingly) are. Discover all the ways victim mentality seeps into your identity and creeps into how you show up at work, in your relationship, parenting, etc. I'm showing you step-by-step exactly how to raise your

If you're serious about shredding every speck of victim mentality and rewiring to an elevated, empowered Mamba Mentality then you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized. Get your stress-free start today over at at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the FULL episode to learn:

Are you playing the victim?
Importance of playful curiosity and proactive problem-solving
Are you making commitments Out of Love or Obligation
How to deal with people who play the victim
Perception Point for Leaders vs Perception Points for Victims

Episode 143 Timestamps

00:00-Playing the Victim

06:15-Discovering the Gold: Ownership Mindset Guide

07:43-How To Stop Being A Victim At Work

10:49-How to deal with someone who plays the victim

14:41-Shift Your Mindset: Embracing Growth Through Challenges

17:12- How Leaders Break Free from Victim Mentality

21:54- Building Resilience Daily and finding diamonds in the mud

Victim Mentality: Power of Paradox

Carl Jung — Mon, 08 May 2023 18:48:33 -0700

Are you ready to break free from victim mentality? Join CLG as we delve into the power of Transcendent Function, a technique popularized by Carl Jung, and discover how it can reshape your perspective on the insidious nature of victim mentality.

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YOU'LL DiSCOVER:

Transcendent Function: Understand the power of holding paradoxes and how it can liberate your mind.
Victim Consciousness: Recognize the insidious nature of victim vibes and how they manifest in our daily lives.
The Power of Truth: Embrace the importance of being brutally honest with oneself to foster growth and transformation.Play with the power of paradox
Detect subtle victim mentality in your own communications and other people's
Cultivate refreshing self-honesty to cancel victimhood + build inner strength
Discover the value (+ necessity) of a guide when rewiring
Realize the significance of a 1% reduction in victim vibes in healing generational trauma

Key moments in this episode are:

00:02:32 - Using Victim Language As Currency

00:03:21 - Transcendent Function Applied To Victim Mentality IRL

00:06:57 - Beauty Occurs When You Stop Fighting Your Unconscious

00:08:15 - I Don't Know Is a Lie When It Comes To Yourself

00:10:17 - Ways to Stop Being A Victim in your Life

00:12:36 - CLG Facing Her Own Victim Mentality When Client Ghosted Their Bill

00:15:11 - Recognizing and Owning Entitlement

00:16:29 - Replacing Wishbones with Backbones

00:19:00 - Microscopic Truthfulness and Expansion

00:21:08 - The Danger of DIY

00:22:09 - Reducing Victim Mentality

Going From Good To Great + Great to Excellence

Gay Hendricks — Fri, 28 Apr 2023 18:20:11 -0700

Gay Hendricks calls this your "upper limit" your internal barometer for how much joy, success and satisfaction you allow yourself to experience as an overachiever. Discover the 7 signs that you're not allowing yourself to fully experience life's pleasures and blocking yourself from truly enjoying your life to the fullest.

If want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE ferocity, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for overachievers The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

00:00:00-Introduction and "The Perfectionist Guide" newsletter.

00:01:32-UnderstandingYour Upper Limit and Havingness level

00:03:15-How to reset and increase your Havingness level

00:04:16-Underearning and overworking.

00:05:05-Clutter and disorganization.

00:05:48-Being overly critical of yourself and others.

00:07:16-Starting but not finishing projects.

00:09:29-Overconsumption without enjoyment.

00:10:09-Intimacy issues.

00:10:59-Discomfort with compliments.

How To Rewire Any Limiting Belief

performance coach for perfectionists — Mon, 17 Apr 2023 07:36:28 -0700

Ever feel like your brain is betraying you? Here's your roadmap to rewiring any limiting belief and nurturing intricate relationship between your mind + change.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In Episode 141 You'll Learn:

The pitfalls of blindly following thoughts and perceptions.
Escapism and its role in drowning out inner voices.
The tug-of-war between conscious resistance and limiting beliefs.
Your A-HA Moment: realizing your mind's incessant chatter isn't the ultimate decision-maker.
The dangers of returning to old patterns and how the universe sends wake-up calls.

The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back

growth mindset vs fixed mindset — Thu, 16 Mar 2023 01:18:27 -0700

If you’re constantly listening to podcasts, reading books, signing up for courses, watching YouTube videos and researching how to fix your problem du jour -- I'm revealing 5 ways your thirst for knowledge is unknowingly sabotaging your efforts when it comes to strengthening YOU. If you're always seeking ONE more piece to make it all make sense or to fix you, this episode is for YOU.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator you get customized 1-1 coaching + the EPIC SKILLS that LIBERATE you from intrusive thoughts, self-sabotage and put you back in command. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside Episode 140 You'll Discover:

Why more information isn’t always better
The real reason high performers become information addiction
How Knowledge Keeps You Powerless against actual change
Potent practice to FINALLY let go of compulsive tendencies to learn more
THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION YOU'LL EVER ASK YOURSELF

Human Design LIES to Stop Telling Yourself Immediately

Human Design — Sat, 11 Mar 2023 22:42:10 -0700

Don't get duped by these insidious Human Design lies that rob you of your own experience. If you've ever felt like you're just another cog in the wheel, this episode is your wake-up call that will show you how to break free from stereotypes and status quo.

If want to go from great to freaking amazing, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for overachievers The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside The Episode On Human Design Lies You'll Learn:

00:00:00-Introduction to Human Design
00:01:06-Why Human Design is NOT a one-size-fits-all approach
00:02:29-Debunking Human Design Myths
00:05:17-Crafting Your Decision Doctrine
00:08:16-The ripple effect
00:09:50-How Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator will help you

Why am I self-sabotaging

Self-Sabotaging — Fri, 03 Mar 2023 01:55:20 -0700

What's your self-sabotage showing you? That you fear success? Lingering limiting beliefs? Listen to discover how to get out of your own way and change the perfectionistic patterns creating your self-sabotaging behaviors.

If you want to make self-sabotaging extinct in your world I highly recommend checking out my 1-1 coaching for Type-A perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you relieve the pressure, use your perfectionism to your advantage and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In this episode on stop sabotaging yourself you'll learn

How to stop success-threatening self sabotage in your subconscious... before it surfaces.
13 lies all intelligent perfectionists always tell their inner critic (and how to stop).
A scientifically proven way (discovered by Carl Jung) to permanently stop sabotaging yourself (Regardless of your cognitive dissonance or limiting beliefs now)
Being aware you’re self sabotaging means you’ll stop doing it. Right? Wrong!

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Self-Compassion even when You're the WORST

self-compassion — Sun, 26 Feb 2023 21:11:01 -0700

Fierce self compassion is possible, even when you're the worst. Listen to find out how.

If you want to go from great to extraordinary and do the big BOLD things that’ve been on your ❤️ + mind for years, your next step is getting inside The Accelerator. Apply here today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Underrated Human Design Element That’s Secretly Running Your Energy

Human Design Energy Centers — Sun, 19 Feb 2023 19:08:17 -0700

The part of your Human Design that's influencing ALL of your RELATIONSHIPS + how quick you are on the update REVEALED + made delicously simple with awesome analogies. HD devotees and I-just-got-my-bodygraph-5-minutes-ago will benefit from this tiny + mighty episode. Press play + enjoy!

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

7 Signs Your Root Chakra Needs to Calm The F Down

Human Design Root Center — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 18:20:57 -0700

Is your root rotten😂? Find out if your Root Center (in Human Design speak) aka Root Chakra is hemorrhaging your precious life force energy. This is an Equal Energetic Opportunity episode: Defined Roots, Undefined Roots, Open Roots, unsure wtf kind of root you have-- listening will profoundly help you get to the root of your time, money, control, survival issues AND increase your ability to be grounded and gathered.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Elevating Your Perception On Problems

Caroline Myss — Sat, 11 Feb 2023 01:18:42 -0700

Uncover exactly why your approach to problem solving is actually creating way more problems + how to stop having the same problems show up. This episode will shows you how to elevate your perception point.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Taking Charge Even When Life Throws You Curve Balls

CPTSD — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 02:10:03 -0700

When life throws you curve balls (like C-PTSD for me), you get to take charge and author your own story. This episode is your playbook on how.

If you want to go from great to fucking amazing and do the big BOLD things that’ve been on your ❤️ + mind for years, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you beat procrastination, optimize perfectionism and become time affluent - it includes on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

YOU'LL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00-Introduction & The Perfectionist Guide
00:23-The Audacity to Rewrite Your Narrative
01:35-When Rewriting Isn't Enough: Real-Life Challenges
02:57-The Power of Authoring Your Narrative
03:49-Understanding Complex PTSD
06:11-The Impact of
08:31-Resistance and Growth
10:48-The Metamorphosis of Courtney Love Gavin
11:35-Labels and Empowerment
14:35-The Choice to Heal or Not
16:08-Disempowered vs Empowered Stories
18:48-The Gangster Within: Embracing Challenges
20:59-Leveraging Your Weaknesses as a Perfectionist
22:42-The Safe Zone: You Are the Authority
24:14-Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

How You Can Take Control of Your Challenges

neuro linguistic programming — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 01:52:34 -0700

When you’re not leveraging your perfectionism properly, the stories you tell about your life are wildly inaccurate and often crippling. You are the AUTHORity of your life. Conduct yourself accordingly. This episode is putting the POWER back into your own hands so you can tell stories about yourself you actually WANT TO BE LIVING. Plus find out the neuro linguistic programming science of why being wrong feels so right.

If you want to stop telling yourself sh!tty stories and be the AUTHORity of your life, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

00:00-Introduction & Perfectionist's Guide

01:35-The Power of Stories in Your Life

03:35-The Role of Dopamine in Storytelling

05:29-How to Change Your Story When You're A Perfectionist

07:12-The Paradigms You Live In

09:05-The Vibrational Charge of Words

11:20-Tools for Realigning Your Stories

13:15-Breaking Free from Genetic Programming

16:01-A Real-Life Example: The Pharmacy Story

18:12-The Choice to Believe

20:07-A Potent Practice for You

22:22- How The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Changes Your Story

LINE 1 - 1ST LINE - Human Design & Gene Keys 1/3 - 1/4 - 4/1 - 5/1 profiles

Gene Keys — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 20:27:00 -0700

This is a channeled attunement for your audaciousness for LINE 1 - 1ST LINE Human Design & Gene Keys 1/3 - 1/4 - 4/1 - 5/1 profiles. Now is the time for you to anchor into your gifts and be a beacon shining out with your creative genius. Your groundedness, your ability to dig deep as a First Line, that stability you embody helps puts everyone in your orbit at ease. Let this + the episode containing the other number in your profile marinate together and alchemize the audaciousness inside of you. Enjoy 1st lines!

LINE 2 2nd Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 2/4 - 2/5 - 5/2 - 6/2 profiles

Gene Keys — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 20:16:50 -0700

This is a channeled attunement for your audaciousness for LINE 2 2nd Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 2/4 - 2/5 - 5/2 - 6/2 profiles. Your passion sparks passion in others. It electrifies, initiates, excites and enriches everyone in your orbit. Focus on the gifts that come most naturally to you and #truthbooth you likely won't see them on your own. This is why it is paramount for you to have someone in your life to reflect back your gifts and so you can really see where your blind spots are. Let this + the episode containing the other number in your profile marinate together and alchemize the audaciousness inside of you. Enjoy 2nd lines!

LINE 3 - 3rd Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 3/5 1/3 - 6/3 - 3/6 Profiles

Gene Keys — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 20:09:54 -0700

This is a channeled attunement for LINE 3 - 3rd Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 3/5 1/3 - 6/3 - 3/6 Profiles. The bigger you play, the more daring you are, and the more lightness, fun + levity you inject yourself and your creations with-- the more piles of success you are going to have to play with. Let this + the episode containing the other number in your profile marinate together and alchemize the audaciousness inside of you. Enjoy 3rd lines!

LINE 4 - 4th Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 4/6 - 4/1 - 1/4 - 2/4 Profiles

Gene Keys — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 19:58:32 -0700

This is a channeled attunement for LINE 4 - 4th Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 4/6 - 4/1 - 1/4 - 2/4 Profiles. Nuturers by Nature! You're designed to show up to your relationships with a full cup, overflowing with love + generosity. Let this + the episode containing the other number in your profile marinate together and alchemize the audaciousness inside of you. Enjoy 4th lines!

LINE 5 - 5th Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 5/1 - 5/2 - 2/5 - 3/5 Profiles

Gene Keys — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 19:44:12 -0700

This is a channeled attunement for your audaciousness for LINE 5 - 5th Line Human Design & Gene Keys 5/1 - 5/2 - 2/5 - 3/5 Profiles-- NOW is a very, very exciting time for a 5th line to be alive because it's the moment for smashing old paradigms and luminous leading, innovating an entirely new structure and language that can maximize this amazing creative genius that is inherent in all humanity. Let this + the episode containing the other number in your profile marinate together and alchemize the audaciousness inside of you. Enjoy 5th lines!

LINE 6- 6th Line - Human Design & Gene Keys 6/2 - 6/3 - 3/6 - 4/6 Profiles

Gene Keys — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 19:36:40 -0700

This is a channeled attunement for your audaciousness for line 6 6th Line Human Design & Gene Keys 6/2 - 6/3 - 3/6 - 4/6 Profiles. You see the truth behind it all. You're here to play the long game and you hold outrageously elephant size, powerful codes for humanity. There can be a lot of angst. Because you have this knowing inside of you that there's something in the future that that's coming for you, whatever phase you are at in your six line journey. Let this + the episode containing the other number in your profile marinate together and alchemize the audaciousness inside of you. Enjoy 6th lines!

Languaging Secrets to Rewire Your Subconscious Mind!

NLP — Mon, 09 Jan 2023 19:22:38 -0700

Leap into your audaciousness with these neuro-linguistic programming audios personalized for your individual energetics to reprogram your subconscious. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Redefining Perfectionism: How Gene Keys and Human Design Hold the Key

Gene Keys — Sat, 07 Jan 2023 19:33:41 -0700

Straight up science about Neutrinos. SuperNova 1987A. Avoiding Human Design thirst traps. Cherry picking the best of HD + Gene Keys to illuminate the expansion that's available to you -- right now. PLUS wtf difference btwn Astrology, Human Design and Gene Keys-- ANSWERED. Listen to learn how both systems can help you stay in alignment.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

From Burnout to Brilliance: How Individualized Energetics Can Transform Your Life

Gene Keys — Wed, 04 Jan 2023 00:28:15 -0700

Tired of chasing external validation? Find out how tools that use your Individualized Energetic like Gene Keys can help you to embrace self-compassion and thrive. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support, The Accelerator is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Key Highlights of the Episode

Moving from hierarchal structures to synarchy aka joint sovereignty
How freedom to be our own authority can subconsciously lead us to buying into personal development programs/coaches that put someone other than YOU as the expert
Why us believing in our own unique individual energetics dissolves the insidious hierarchal "buy my high frequency formula" plague
Making purchasing decisions from Trust, Sufficiency and Delight (instead of FOMO, not enough and validation)
Why following someone else's blueprint will never work as good as your own
Empowering each person with their unique energetics = permanent proven method that's not bound to a one size fits all approach
Going through a transition? When there's a time your identity can feel like it's lost or you're not sure who you are, this brings you back to the core of, oh this is who I've always been"

Healthy Habits For A New Year

new years resolutions — Sat, 31 Dec 2022 19:12:42 -0700

Exactly how to surface your exponential growth and create a new year full of healthy habits. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want in-depth personalized support, The Accelerator is for you! Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Key Highlights of the Episode

Being radically reverent of yourself and making THAT your baseline for heading into the New Year.
"This is your life, not a shopping trip to Costco"- Top 3 ways you are sabotaging your future + how to stop it right now
Why zipping past your celebrations always delays what you want
It's not a fucking fluke-- going from random beneficiary to Powerful Creator
How to create your future from your Future instead of a Default Future

Time Efficient (The Only 2 Perception Points You Need)

Parkinson's Law — Sun, 18 Dec 2022 18:16:45 -0700

Learn how to be productive, super time efficient and make the most of the time you have, no matter how busy you are.

Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching where you gain the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Key Highlights of the Episode

Parkinson's Law + how to be productive
Time affluence + how you can relax, pursue pleasurable activities and nurture relationships
Why your words can depreciate your time (and what to say instead)
Two perception points you need to be time efficient
Your number one time management skill (hint: it's not your watch or calendar)

How To Control Your Time: The Guilt-Free Guide to Creating A Spacious Schedule

Autonomy Paradox — Fri, 09 Dec 2022 18:38:03 -0700

Feel like you never have enough time? I’m diving into 7 reasons you never have enough time and precisely what to do to reclaim your time so you can use it in a more intentional and meaningful way. If you want to be in 100% control of your time and always have time to do everything YOU WANT to do, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator.

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you relieve the pressure, optimize perfectionism and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair- with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you will never feel alone in your pursuit of relentless excellence.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In This Episode You'll Learn:

Why prioritizing yourself makes you more present, productive and successful, not less
One question that reveals if you actually have a time management issue
Genius ways to minimize distractions (sounds weird but they WORK)
Why prioritizing yourself makes you more present, productive and successful, not less
The ways fear of judgement holds you back.
Gain a deep understanding of how people-pleasing manifests in your schedule

ADHD Procrastination (why traditional plans fail)

adhd procrastination — Tue, 06 Dec 2022 20:41:07 -0700

The allure of planning lies in the illusion of control it offers. Making us ADHD perfectionists believe we've achieved something monumental. But life, with its unpredictable twists and turns, often has other plans. And when reality doesn't align with our meticulously laid out plans, the fallout can be harsh. We berate ourselves, question our worth, and waste precious energy trying to stick to a plan that's no longer relevant.

Feeling trapped in a monotonous cycle of chasing success without savoring the journey? The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator might just be the answer. You CAN change. You can start TODAY. Go apply for the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator while there’s still time here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Resting Feels Risky? How To Learn To Relax

how to relax — Fri, 02 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Why can't I just relax? Why does resting make me MORE anxious? How come I can't take naps unless I'm beyond exhausted?Resting when you genuinely love to work can feel like a punishment, especially if no one taught you how to relax, it's a skill and for us perfectionists, resting must include two vital ingredients. Find out how you can design your rest in a way that builds up your energetic capitol instead of feeling like you're doing nothing.

If you want to rest without guilt and accomplish more while actually ENJOYING your life, you've got to check out The Accelerator

When you're inside the The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you relieve the pressure, use your perfectionism to your advantage and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Getting everything done in less time than you EVER thought possible

Perfectionist — Thu, 01 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0700

The surprisingly simple time leveraging secret of the most innovative people on earth. (You can do away with all the fancy time management systems — just do this every day and it’s almost impossible for you to not get everything done in less time than you ever thought possible.)

If you want to you want in-depth personalized support for your own perfectionism and to master time management, my 1-1 coaching program The Accelerator is for you! Applications are open, so come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

5 Warning Signs Your Energy Needs An Upgrade

energetic strategy — Wed, 30 Nov 2022 19:06:33 -0700

Hit a plateau? Can't focus? No longer decisive AF? Feel like you're pushing rocks up a hill instead of sliding down a sparkling stream? Face full of frustration? FIND your SOLUTION inside this episode. HINT: the answer is not doing more. It's way easier than that.

If you want in-depth personalized support for your own leadership and what makes you unique, The Accelerator is for you! Applications are open, so come and join us over at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Be More Efficient: Accomplish in 1 Hour What Takes You 10

how to be productive — Thu, 24 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Want more spaciousness in your schedule? Feel like you never have enough time. FIND OUT WHY and the only 3 things you need to focus on if you want to get done in 1 hour what’s taking you 10 hours and feel good when you're done.

Reclaiming My Time: How To Be Time Efficient no matter what

time efficient — Wed, 23 Nov 2022 21:56:49 -0700

How can I take control of my time, if I'm not 100% in charge of my schedule? If you work in corporate or have clients that are buying your time, THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU! Find out exactly how my client Patrice went from working 40 hours a week to 15 AND received a pay increase, while being in integrity with her boss about reducing her hours.

I'm giving you the exact steps I give my clients for reclaiming my time and being time efficient. If you're a busy perfectionist who wants to level up your time management skills, press play!

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining the Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Time Poverty: Hidden Connection Between Your Time Scarcity + Money

Time Myths — Tue, 22 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Doing everything the time experts say and STILL living in time poverty ? Listen to find out the hidden connection between money, time and your relationship with yourself. Plus the top 4 mistakes perfectionists make when trying to take control of their time and how you can start using time for you, to fuel you, on your terms.

If you want to be time rich and get leverage over your whole life, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode on Time Poverty You'll Discover:

Time is not just a unit of measurement; it's a reflection of your energy.
Focusing on time instead of energy is a common mistake that leads to burnout.
Scarcity beliefs about time can transfer from your financial mindset, affecting your productivity.
How your relationship with time is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself
The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator program promises significant improvements in burnout and professional fulfillment in just 30 days.

Are You Mimicking or Modeling as a Leader?

Intersectional Leadership — Mon, 21 Nov 2022 21:43:25 -0700

We can be so quick to mimic what other successful leaders are doing. Especially when there’s nobody else like us at the top. If you wants a different way of expressing your leadership that isn't modeling the white cis-male dominance, listen to this.

When are you going to stop falling for leadership “experts” who only want you to do EXACTLY what they did to have their “impact?”Impact that’s based in scarcity, desire for control and reinforcement of supremacy. No ethical Coach can teach a cookie cutter leadership strategy (i.e how to lead as a WOC) and expect it to be effective when it’s only focusing on surface level maneuvers 🥸disguised as “strategies” to sound more sophisticated.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining the Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win. Join the Accelerator today at The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

3 Sentences I Use To Be Anxiety Attack Free for 7+ Years

perfectionism and anxiety — Mon, 21 Nov 2022 21:30:13 -0700

If you would've met me 15 years ago you'd never would've guessed I'd: be able to relax all by myself, lose 50 lbs, be alcohol free and an athlete who boxes and runs half-marathons. Just like me, you have what it takes to be the perfectionist who's extraordinary. And you don't need a magic wand. You need to change your perspectives, paying close attention to the stories you broadcast in your brain. Start by learning from me and listen to this episode.

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining The Accelerator, my 1-1 coaching + community for perfectionists who play to win, today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Why You Don't Want To Copy Brene Brown As A Leader

brene brown — Fri, 21 Oct 2022 03:23:15 -0700

Activation codes to awaken the prolific leader within you. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining the Accelerator, my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

How To Lead at FULL LUMINOSITY

empowering leadership — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 23:19:50 -0700

Smashing cookie cutter leadership, archaic paradigms of control, this episode is a call to exit the matrix of limitations and embrace the radiant, unique essence within each of us.

If you’re like YES THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I WANT TO DO LEADERSHIP. Come Hither. My clients are ICONS (i.e. Gloria Steinem, LeBron James) and I‘d love to help YOU rewire your brain inside my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, get LASTING momentum and find unwavering certainty, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll save years of painful mistakes and guesswork bc your using proven frameworks that guarantee you'll succeed.

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

Recognize the Illusion: Lmitations imposed by societal constructs + how you have the power to break free.
Embrace Your Cosmic Nature: Recognize that your unique essence is a cosmic gift, unlike anything else on the planet
Activate Your Empowerment Codes: Understand and embrace your empowerment codes, which guide your life, leadership, and authenticity.
Master Energetic Discernment: Learn to distinguish your energy from external influences, creating a powerful boundary that allows you to observe and not absorb energy around you.

Why Leading the “Right Way” Makes You a LESS Effective Leader

feminist leaders — Fri, 07 Oct 2022 16:59:03 -0700

The way you’re designed to LEAD is not the same as how Oprah or Sara Blakely is meant to! Embodying leadership the “right way” makes you a less effective leader. Discover how to lead in a way that's oh-so YOU and curate a delicious, titillating legacy, unlike anything the galaxy has seen before using Feminist Leadership principles.

If you’re like “YES THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I WANT TO DO LEADERSHIP come hither. My clients are ICONS (i.e. Gloria Steinem, LeBron Jame) and I‘d love to help you rise inside my 1-1 coaching exclusively for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: with 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll save years of painful mistakes and guesswork bc your using proven frameworks that guarantee you'll succeed.

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

How to Trust Yourself in Every Decision

Self-Trust — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 15:39:53 -0700

Are you constantly second-guessing your decisions or feeling like you can't rely on your own judgment? You're not alone. Many perfectionists silently struggle with self-doubt, that's why in this episode I'm giving you the ultimate tool to master the art of self-trust and exploring the barriers that hold our power back. How to Trust Yourself' isn't just a concept; it's a life-changing practice. Discover tools, insights and strategies to make confident choices every day.

How to Trust Yourself' isn't just a concept; it's a life-changing practice. Discover tools, insights and strategies inside The Accelerator so in 6 weeks you'll be making confident choices every day. Apply today and let's see what we can do together https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Responsiveness: responding vs reacting

responding vs reacting — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 22:32:18 -0700

Are you taking on too much responsibility? Perfectionists fall into the trap of taking on too much responsibility, especially for other people's emotions, leading to resentment and burnout. Discover the difference between being responsive and making yourself responsible for situations. And the 3 Key Questions to guide your response-ability so you can offer support without losing yourself in the process.

You can have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Self Advocacy: How to stop beating yourself up

Inner Critic — Fri, 09 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0700

Are you your own harshest critic? That stops today. Discover the art and science of self-advocacy and discover actionable steps to stop beating yourself up.

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In this episode on Self Advocacy you'll discover:

The foundations of self-advocacy and why it's 100x more powerful than self-criticism
How to stop beating yourself up
Self-esteem vs self-concept
Cheat codes to murder your inner critic

Rapid Identity Reimagination: The Perfectionist's Guide to Transforming from Caterpillar to Butterfly

Midlife crisis — Fri, 02 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0700

Why 96% Runs on Autopilot After Age 35 & How to Change It! Explore the midlife crisis metamorphosis from a caterpillar to a butterfly, a transformation every perfectionist, type A, and high-performer can relate to.

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Feeling Trapped?

feeling trapped — Fri, 26 Aug 2022 07:03:05 -0700

Feeling trapped in the chains of performance and losing sight of who you truly are? In this episode we explore the pressures that make us wear masks and how to break free. Discover actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self, embrace your true identity and start living a life that's genuinely yours using the analogy of elephants in captivity and their journey from feeling trapped to realizing their true strength. Just like these majestic creatures, many perfectionists are unaware of our own galactic strength. We remain like elephants tied to a stake of past imprints, limiting beliefs and societal expectations, forgetting our ferocious capabilities inside.

Break the chains of performance and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Tools For Grit, Resilience + Failure Tolerance

Maggie Reyes — Thu, 11 Aug 2022 15:54:03 -0700

Mess ups, mistakes, uh-ohs are an essential part of the ecosystem of your personal evolution and NOT A PROBLEM when you have these tools in your arsenal. Learn how to raise your own internal standards on how you speak, think and treat yourself when crap hits the fan.

If you're ready to rewire your mind and liberate yourself from the pitfalls of perfectionism, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll save years of painful mistakes and guesswork bc your using proven frameworks that guarantee you'll succeed.

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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:

Brilliant Marriage Life Coach + high-caliber human Maggie Reyes + her tool of Do-Over

Failure Reframes for Perfectionists

Perfectionists — Wed, 03 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0700

Masterclass on reframing failure for perfectionists and exactly how to turn all your L's into lessons.

If you're ready to rewire your brain and turn all of your L's into Lessons, I highly recommend joining my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

You'll hit the ground running with 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions and concierge text support, saving you years of guesswork bc your using proven frameworks that guarantee you'll succeed.

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How To Podcast When You're A Perfectionist

perfectionism podcast — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0700

Explore the power of devotion + perseverance in this milestone 100th podcast episode of Perfectionism Rewired. Learn how shifting from commitment to devotion is super helpful as a perfectionist doing new things.

If you're ready to rewire your brain and get what you want in life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

With 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, concierge text support and a rich resource library designed for perfectionists, you'll save years of guesswork using proven neuroscience-based frameworks.

This will change your life, I guarantee it. Come join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

It Feels Icky...And that's OKAY

Fixed Mindset — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0700

Who are you being when you're making high stakes decisions? Are you empowered? Are you coming from fear? Hear how I almost let an arbitrary goal obliterate my most expansive move yet. This is the unglamorous side of being a human when doubt drops in and the exact questions to ask yourself to not let doubt derail you. PLUS why doing what's best for you feels icky at first and that's okay.

If you enjoy this podcast, I highly recommend checking out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support and 100% customized to you 1-1 coaching sessions, you'll save years of Guess-work and Painful Mistakes, bc your using proven frameworks that guarantee you'll succeed.

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Lessons on resilience, authenticity and personal growth

Owning Who You Are — Wed, 15 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0700

When you clear the sh*t that’s keeping you from remembering your power - ANYTHING is possible for you. Plus why owning who you are always and everywhere is the key to permanent identity shifts.

If you want to 4x Your Power to create meaningful results in your personal growth, presence, inner peace and prosperity without burning out, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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The Surprising Reasons Why Perfectionists Overthink

Perfectionist — Wed, 08 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0700

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

The hidden and surprising reasons why perfectionists overthink
3 signs that you’re overthinking
How to know when you’ve thought about something ‘enough’
3 ways to catch overthinking

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Believing You Are Valuable + Deserve to Take Up Space: Client Interview with Margot Van’t Rood

classic perfectionists — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 14:27:22 -0700

Today I’m joined today by my client Margot Van’t Rood where she shares how her experience with coaching led to a deep internal self-generated safety and ability to take up space. You’ll hear her say “Now I feel that I am valuable. I have value and it's not dependent on what I do. I'm not valuable because I did the dishes and I cleaned the room and I did these things. I am valuable. Period. Full stop.”

If you enjoy this podcast, I highly recommend joining my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

An internal sense of safety is built from recognizing your authentic power and trusting there is an unwavering well of support and guidance within you. It starts with honoring and appreciating your true authentic self, committing to the deep work and bravely accepting being in the now.

I love how Margot describes some people's hesitation with coaching because we don't want anyone to know we don’t have it all figured out but in reality, we all have unique yet similar experiences and it's all part of our humanness. Coaches are here to show you your blind spots and guide you to where you desire to grow.

Through her own growth, Margot discovered that part of her work here in this lifetime is to help guide others to a life of simplicity and share her own journey of shedding all the things weighing her down.

You'll absolutely love this conversation. It’s time to quiet the self-doubting voices in your head so that You too can feel empowered and find satisfying, simplified success.

Client Interview with Margot Van’t Rood: Choosing How You Want To Show Up In The World

classic perfectionist — Fri, 27 May 2022 14:07:27 -0700

Listen in to hear precisely what happens when you decide to go ALL IN and start betting on yourself from 1 to 1 coaching client Margot and how she continues to create meaningful results in her personal growth, presence, peace, and prosperity, all while avoiding burnout.

Discover Margot’s secret weapons: self-compassion and acceptance. Engage in this authentic and transformative conversation that leaves no stone unturned. Gain insights into the often overlooked details that truly make a difference. Uncover what it takes to navigate the challenges of stopping people-pleasing and facing others’ anger. Learn how to confidently handle significant financial investments. Harness the power of your emotions to guide you, disregarding the noise of your busy mind. Get ready to be inspired as you witness Margot’s journey of transformation, filled with unwavering confidence and relentless determination.

If you enjoy this podcast, I highly recommend joining my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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How to Overcome Self Doubt

doubting myself — Wed, 18 May 2022 07:00:00 -0700

If you want to 4x Your Power to Create Meaningful Results inside your Person, Presence, Peace and Prosperity without burning out, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Inside This Episode You'll Learn

The difference between Imposter Syndrome and the experience of feeling like a fraud
Why Imposter Syndrome thoughts FEEL so true they sound like facts
ze BEST analogy illustrating perception vs reality of Imposter Syndrome featuring DRAGONS
Examples of common Imposter Syndrome thoughts we attach to without questioning it like "I'm not ready yet" and "I don't belong here"
How to be onto your brain's LOVE to label
How learning to accept the spectrum of human emotions will help you show up confidently no matter what you’re feeling

4 NLP Power Phrases That Give You Instant Clarity

neuro linguistic programming — Mon, 16 May 2022 04:07:30 -0700

Neuro-linguistic programming tools you can start using today to melt stress away and have razor sharp clarity.

When you're ready to access POWER to produce RESULTS in ALL areas of your life, all at the same time sustainably, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Should Shouldn't Supposed to

Shame — Mon, 09 May 2022 23:31:59 -0700

Should. Shouldn't. Supposed to. All synonyms for Shame. Join CLG on an exploration of beauty of shame and how to use it as a portal for your growth. When you get curious about shame and your shoulding- instead of running away from it- You begin moving from a place of true inspiration. You become FREE. Listen to liberate yourself today!

If you want to 4x Your Power to Create Meaningful Results inside your Person, Presence, Peace and Prosperity without burning out, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome — Fri, 22 Apr 2022 19:23:32 -0700

How to overcome imposter syndrome using your limbic system (emotional center of the brain). Discover how your limbic system (emotional brain) and the neocortex (thinking brain) trigger Imposter Syndrome, making it hard to access the rational thinking part of the brain AND the S.M.E.A.R. Campaign™ tool you can start using today to precisely decode the pivotal roles Imposter Syndrome in your self-perception.

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Advocate for Yourself

advocate for yourself — Thu, 14 Apr 2022 22:47:10 -0700

How do you advocate for yourself? What's self-acceptance? And overcome self doubt? Find out the answers to ALL of those questions (and many more) inside this juicy episode.

You deserve to have the best thing in the whole wide world the gift of being Your Self. This is the gift I've given myself this past year. And it's the gift I want to give you too. You can only get it inside The Accelerator: Start your transformation today by applying here --> https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In This Episode You'll Learn:

How to overcome self-doubt
Why advocating for yourself is key
Sneaky ways you accept less than what you deserve without questioning it
how to stop second guessing yourself
Using your Reticular Activating System for self-acceptance
Five ways to create space inside yourself to receive and dissolve the self-sabotage patterns from flaring up

Why Your 10-Year Plan is Making You Miserable

overachievers — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 07:16:44 -0700

Your life isn't a to-do list. Find out why a destination approach to your life causes unnecessary suffering for perfectionists, how to stop making yourself wrong for being unhappy with your accomplishments and specific tools to eliminate the incoherence inside.

If you want to go from great to freaking amazing, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for overachievers The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

The No. 1 Perfectionistic Lie we all need to stop telling ourselves right now

Perfectionist Life Coach — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 15:25:11 -0700

How to deal with the perfectionistic tendencies and the rub of transformational REAL growth in ze most useful way. This episode gives you the ability to discern the type of growing pains you're experiencing and move through it elegantly-ish as a perfectionist. Also the difference between Talent + Skill, an intentional practice re: accepting your perfectionistic ways and having a reckoning with yourself bc you've signed up for growth and that means making mistakes.

If you want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE and do all those big bold things on your heart and mind, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you relieve the pressure, use your perfectionism to your advantage and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

You'll Learn Inside this Episode

The difference between Talent vs Skill
Are you taking dumps in your Future Self's mouth?
Why an intentional practice around accepting your human-ness is a must
Recognizing the uncomfy when you've signed up for growth
The No. 1 lie we all need to stop telling ourselves right now
Questions to ask yourself to be cataloging and examining your "pain"

How to Fast-Track Your Self-Acceptance

accepting yourself — Wed, 09 Mar 2022 18:23:23 -0700

Do you you struggle with accepting yourself? I did and hated slowing down until I discovered these key practices for self-acceptance.

If you're ready to take complete control and live ambitiously, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

How To Stop Feeling like you always have to Prove Yourself

proving yourself — Wed, 02 Mar 2022 08:19:37 -0700

Discover the subtle ways proving shows up for perfectionists and steps you can use today to break free!

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

How to identify where you are proving yourself
The only ruler you need to measure your self-worth
Creating your own value system
KEY questions to ask yourself so you stop proving yourself
Behind the scenes with my C-level client who discovered the sneaky source causing her to perform, perfect and people-please at work

Top 5 Human Design Thirst Traps Perfectionists Fall Into

Human Design — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Human Design is fascinating AND full of thirst traps perfectionists easily fall into. Im laying out the Top 5 Thirst Traps so you are aware and don't go down the rabbit hole.

If you're ready to own your perfectionism and live ambitiously, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Imposter Syndrome Exposed: How Human Design Is Your Secret Weapon

Imposter Syndrome — Thu, 17 Feb 2022 09:03:52 -0700

The more you understand yourself, the more you’re able to take ownership of your perfectionism. In this episode I’m sharing what I understand Human Design to be, how I’ve personally used Human Design to help with imposter syndrome and overthinking. I’m a 3/5 Quad Right Sacral Generator (if you want to know!)

If you're ready to take complete control and live ambitously you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

How integrating Human Design accelerates the healing of Imposter Syndrome
What MISSING in the data that made Imposter Syndrome (and how we can stop the madness)
Why you don't need to know (or care) about Human Design for it to help you
Who Human Design works best for
Detaching from the experience of feeling like an Imposter

The Perfectionist Pitfall of 'Knowledge Will Fix Me': What No One Tells You!

perfectionistic — Wed, 09 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Knowledge is power for perfectionists...until it's not. Many ambitious perfectionists operate under the illusion of knowledge being THE FIX, the answer, the solution when it's actually what's keeping you from peace, prosperity, presence and being the person you want to be.

If you want to DO those big bold things that've been on your head and heart, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

👉 Inside this Episode on Cognitive Bias You'll Learn:

Why seeking more knowledge agitates problems.
How information overload is actually procrastination in a fancy costume
The importance of being a creator, not just a consumer.
The shocking decline in human attention span and how to combat cognitive biases
The transformative power of letting go and listening to your inner guidance.
How your core identity shapes your actions and outcomes.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

00:00-Intro & The Perfectionist Guide Newsletter
01:05-The Pitfall of "Knowledge Will Fix Me"
02:09-The Problem with Cognitive Bias
03:27-Information Overload Trap
05:12-Are You a Consumer or Creator?
07:28-Why Goldfish Have A Higher Attention Span Than Humans
09:37-The Power of Letting Go
11:16-Role of Identity in Perfectionist's Transformation
14:08-The Magic of Recoding Your Identity As A Perfectionist
15:02-Introducing the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

The Real Reason Why Perfectionists Burnout (and how to breakout)

burned out — Wed, 19 Jan 2022 09:29:18 -0700

Explore the scientific reasons causing perfectionists to burn out and how to break the cycle. For over a decade, I burned out instead of burning bright, I felt helpless to burnout cycle and the best I could do for was learning how to spot the warning signs early. Now after 3+ years with zero burning out, I'm confident burnout does NOT have to be part of your life - even if you’re a Type A, super ambitious perfectionist with A LOT of drive and a dynamic schedule. In this episode, I’m sharing what causes burnout, why I don't burnout anymore and how you can stop burning out too.

If you want to make burnout extinct in your life and burn bright, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you relieve the pressure, use your ambition to your advantage and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

The real reason that perfectionists burnout so often
My personal journey from a high-stakes PR career to cracking the code of perfectionism
Why burnout isn’t caused by your to-do list, your slammed schedule or lack of sleep
How to spot upstream what's making you feel overwhelmed before they take over
Why approaching perfectionism like a problem perpetuates the problem

Why Lack of Self Awareness is 90x Higher in Perfectionists

Perfectionist Solutions — Wed, 12 Jan 2022 09:00:00 -0700

Lack of self awareness is the No.1 blind spot for perfectionists + overachievers bc we mistakenly believe we are SO self-aware that our "high level of self-awareness" IS the problem. But what if believing you're super self aware actually reveals you're highly lacking self awareness? Find out what's fueling your own lack of self-awareness, how being judgey erodes your ability to improve self awareness and overachiever self awareness examples that keep you blind.

Improve self awareness the smart way with The Calibration®, a neuro-precision engineering session where we target one perfectionist tendency of your choice—and you learn how to disrupt it in the moment, without wasting any energy blaming or judging yourself.

The Calibration® is the only proven, neuroscience-backed solution built for perfectionistic people, designed to surgically target the root of change in your brain (intrinsic neural networks). Created by Perfectionist Solutions™ , The Calibration® is available for purchase at perfectionist.solutions/calibration

Inside this Perfectionism Podcast on Lack of Self Awareness You'll Learn:

Why self awareness is important for overachievers and perfectionists
How to improve self awareness
When You're judging over perceiving
Signs you're lacking self awareness

Timestamps for Ep. 81:

00:54—Why self awareness is important 

01:44—Saying this shows lack of self awareness 

04:36—How “Overactioning” Blinds Lack of self-awareness 

06:09—Improve self awareness + stop doing this 

09:45—Judging over perceiving

11:11—How to improve self awareness

Self Awareness Quotes

"Self-awareness without change is simply entertainment." —Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired podcast Ep. 81

"You cannot improve self awareness from resistance, judgment, shame, avoiding, pretending or trying to outrun it. And until you disrupt where they are actually coming from, your brain will continue choosing what's familiar over what's functional." —Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired podcast Ep. 81

Trusted Sources Cited in this Perfectionism Podcast:

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Ong, C. W., Lee, E. B., Petersen, J. M., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). Is perfectionism always unhealthy? Examining the moderating effects of psychological flexibility and self‐compassion. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 77(11), 2576–2591. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.23187
Phaedonos, P., & Anastassiou-Hadjicharalambous, X. (2011). Self-Judgment. Springer EBooks, 1318–1319. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-0-387-79061-9_2549

7 Signs Your Striving Is From Insecurity Instead of Power

unconscious mind — Wed, 05 Jan 2022 12:34:26 -0700

Discover why unconscious mind is programmed to motivate you using feelings of inadequacy and IRL examples to tell if yours secretly is. Plus how to reprogram your perfectionistic brain to seek pleasure and joy as motivators, rather than scarcity and lack.

It’s time for you to RISE to the next peak of your peace, presence, prosperity and person. The Accelerator is where perfectionists and high achievers go to create a life by YOUR DESIGN. Liberate yourself today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

YOU'LL DISCOVER INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON STRIVING:

00:00-Introduction: Discovering Your Hidden Striving Motivators

01:09-Buckle Up: Inside Your Unconscious Mind

03:06-The Dangers of Feelings Of Inadequacy

04:06-Moving Goalposts of Satisfaction

05:18-The Fear-Based Life

06:06-How Fear of Inadequacy Manifests in Your Life

07:28-Controlling Your Thoughts: The Wrong Way

09:13-Perfectionists's Fear of Judgment

10:24- Resistance to Appreciation

11:31-The Cycle of Pressure and Relief

13:25-Your Brain's Wicked Navigation System

15:09-The Efficiency of a Better System

16:17-The Power of Conscious Choice

18:05-The Journey of Joy

20:16-Setting Goals from Power

21:51-Your Recipe for Epic Results

23:08-Achieving Because It's Who You Are

24:12-Truth Booth: The Difference Between Learning and Coaching

Celebrate Yourself

Neuroplasticity — Fri, 31 Dec 2021 19:53:17 -0700

Celebrating yourself is the act of your brain affirming it's safe for you to exist, to be who we are and take up space. Celebrating yourself is a skill, you must train your brain on to develop and is not taught in school.

So I’m giving you a step-by-step process to help you Neuro-normalize celebrations and start on the path to creating permanent change in your life by learning how to celebrate yourself..

Go from “celebrating myself feels weird” to a life you wholeheartedly love that feels GOOD on the inside, instead of just looking good on the outside. THAT is we do inside The Accelerator. Join today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE:

00:00:00-Introduction: The Perfectionist's Guide

00:01:14-The True Essence of Celebrating Yourself

00:02:07-Neurological Benefits of Celebrating

00:03:16-The Skill of Celebrating Yourself

00:05:20-Progression Pain: Choosing Uncomfy Now

00:07:29-The Fear of Self-Celebration

00:09:05-The Power of Acknowledgment: How to Celebrate Yourself

00:11:13-Allowing, Accepting, and Embracing

00:13:07-The Danger of Moving Goalposts

00:15:13-Somatic Experience of Success

00:17:15-The Importance of Celebrating Yourself

00:19:34-Creating a Habit Around Celebrating

00:20:20-Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

Cracking The Code To Perfectionism Workshop

Brene Brown on Perfectionism — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 20:05:23 -0700

Have you ever wondered why perfectionism has such a tight grip on your life? Discover the surprising root cause of perfectionism and learn how to overcome your own perfectionistic tendencies. I'm revealing the hidden factors that fuel perfectionistic tendencies and examine how they shape our mindset and behaviors in an upcoming LIVE masterclass.

If you're ready to take this work deeper and go further faster, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Disarming The Terrorist Inside Your Head

Perfectionism — Wed, 22 Dec 2021 22:07:30 -0700

How to tell if fearful and cruel thoughts are stunting you and what you miss out on when you're believing their hype.

If you're ready to get out of your head and into a life that actually FEELS good, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

00:02:00-Introduction to the topic of "disarming the terrorist inside your brain."

00:02:36-Clarification that the inner critic for perfectionists goes beyond normal criticism.

00:03:55-Conflict between your desires and the inner critic

00:04:36-Personal revelation about self-worth and the realization of not being broken.

00:06:04-Pain of settling for an "okay" life

00:11:19-The impact of negative self-talk on experiencing life fully.

00:12:07-Using temporary escapes

00:13:51-Mention of poor standards, boundaries, and behavior due to avoiding coaching.

00:14:26-Inadequacy within families.

00:14:36-The impact of perfectionism on sleep

Perfectionism and ADHD

Perfectionism and adhd — Wed, 15 Dec 2021 10:55:42 -0700

Knowing what to do but still not doing it, is especially annoying when you have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. If you are an ADHD perfectionist all the meds, courses, books, podcasts and group coaching programs in the world won't save you until you DISCOVER THIS. Piper came to me saying she couldn't get anything done bc time blindness and poor adhd time management. Hear the exact steps she used to get 3,000 hours back this year, a $$$$$$ raise and publish a book while owning her Perfectionism and ADHD!

Perfectionism and ADHD are superpowers, when you know how to leverage them.This is what we do together inside The Accelerator: Have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Dog Mom Delight

Perfectionism — Tue, 07 Dec 2021 00:42:28 -0700

Real time story of how asking about dog food showed how I've changed my identity.

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Stress at the Holidays

holiday stress — Wed, 01 Dec 2021 20:49:45 -0700

Holiday stress is optional after listening to this episode on stress at the holidays. Discover how to stop stress at the holidays BEFORE it starts and shift out of survival mode. You CAN have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person it all starts with you joining The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON STRESS AT THE HOLIDAYS:

What causes survival mode + just trying to "get through" holiday stress
Surviving vs. Thriving: Holiday Drift + Shift
Getting out of survival mode and shift into living a life on PURPOSE
4 ways to go from surviving to thriving during the holidays stress

How to stop overthinking

Overthinking — Mon, 29 Nov 2021 06:24:57 -0700

How to stop overthinking when you're a high-achieving, smart perfectionist. Discover what causes overthinking, how to recognize if you're an overthinker and questions that make you think better. Stop overthinking and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today! https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON HOW TO STOP OVERTHINKING:

Critical thinking vs Overthinking
What happens to your body when you're an overthinker
Exactly how overthinking kills your creativity, neuroplasticity and energy levels
Signs you're overthinking + how to stop

Overwhelmed

overwhelmed — Wed, 24 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Hear how to stop feeling overwhelmed from my A-list celebrity coaching client went from drowning in his life to swimming. You CAN have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person (no overwhelm necessary). Liberate yourself today and get inside The Accelerator https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

How to set boundaries

boundaries — Sat, 20 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700

How to set boundaries as a perfectionist. Awaken, activate and accelerate your pathway to power today. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE on How to set boundaries:

Top misconceptions around boundaries, where 90% of the difficulty around comes from and how to eliminate it
Why you don’t need a reason or permission to set boundaries
How to set healthy boundaries from a place of love instead of resentment and control
What to do when you're unsure how to say no politely

Setting Boundaries

Boundaries for perfectionists — Wed, 17 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700

How to set boundaries without being a jerk a SIMPLE and NEW way of approaching boundaries that you can start practicing today.

Make boundary setting a breeze and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON SETTING BOUNDARIES:

Why creating boundaries requires us to remove the armor of excellence
How to set boundaries so that you truly feel peace, success, delight and satisfaction
Fresh ways to fiercely protect your emotional boundaries
Visualization exercise you can do today to make setting boundaries a delight

Being Productive With Your Thinking

Perfectionist Solutions — Sat, 13 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Want to be even more productive? Listen to this episode.

Inside this episode on being productive with your thinking you'll discover.

What's more important accurate thoughts or useful ones
Why questioning the crap out of your 3am thoughts is the most valuable thing you'll ever do.
How to instantly flush the poopy thoughts
Productive Questions to ask yourself

Take control of your thinking and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Liberate yourself today, apply at perfectionist.solutions/accelerator

People Pleaser

People-pleasing — Wed, 10 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700

How to stop trying to control what other people think and being a people pleaser. Discover how to handle other people's opinions like a boss so that you can live your life utterly unbothered.Break free of people pleasing and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

WHAT'S 🔥INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER:

Where the fear what other people think sneakily shows up
Why we put so much weight into other people’s opinions about us.
The No. 1 place resentment comes from
How my doctor client stopped people pleasing and overcame his fear of what his parent's think of his career decisions

Seeking Validation

self worth — Sat, 06 Nov 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Discover how seeking external validation erodes your self-worth and how to stop

Stop seeking validation and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today and apply https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON SEEKING VALIDATION YOU'll LEARN:

Why agonizing over approval erodes our self worth
How need for external validation shows up for perfectionists
What happens when you don't heal external validity psychology
How to stop seeking approval

Overachievers + Validaton

Perfectionist Solutions — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Why do achievements feel empty? Tired of white knuckling it? Overachievers, this episode names what you couldn’t explain... until now.

Inside This Episode on Intrinsic Motivation You'll Learn:

How relying on external validation keeps you in victim mentality
The trap perfectionists fall into when they get into personal development
Steps you can do to start cultivating intrinsic motivation
Why it’s critical for overachievers to develop an internal sense of self (Mamba mentality) separate from achievements
The mistaken motivations perfectionistic people latch onto & how to redirect

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How To Stop Overworking and Boost Your Confidence

overworking — Wed, 27 Oct 2021 07:00:00 -0700

From fear of failure to obsession with control, this episode unravels the intricate tapestry that locks us into overworking and reveals the most gorgeously effective strategies to liberate yourself from the working too much cycle forever. If you want to break cycle of overwhelm ➡️ hustle hard ➡️ exhaustion ➡️ you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, leverage your strengths and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode On Overworking You'll Learn:

How you can love working without getting burned out at work
Why high achievers are so prone to overworking
The long-term impact of working too much
Identifying the hidden drivers behind overworking
The role of perfectionism in driving overworking behaviors

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

Joe Dispenza — Wed, 20 Oct 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Your past doesn't define you, but your perceptions about it do. Discover how to know when you're secretly asking your past for permission and how to start giving yourself the green light to greatness!

f you want to break the habit of being yourself, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, leverage your "flaws" as an advantage and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

No. 1 thing that stops you from making progress
What happens when you reach your mid 30s and have not investigated your thought patterns
How you can live from possibility and potentiality.
Cycle of thinking and feeling that keeps people anchored to their past.
Epigenetics and how your behaviors signal your genes.

Your Portal To Possibility

Epigenetics — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 19:13:28 -0700

Welcome to Pretty Pretty Podcast! This podcast expands you past your limiting subconscious beliefs and gives you concrete, effective, breath of fresh tools you can use to increase your energy, dial-up your self-trust, move into embodiment and alignment with your gifts.

If Mean Girls + Magic School Bus + Dr. Brené Brown had a three-way, their love child would be Pretty Pretty Podcast!

I’m Courtney Love Gavin, a master certified life coach with degrees from Harvard and USC– and a former high-powered public relations executive working with the most powerful people + celebrities. I’ve taken all the best neuroscience, epigenetics, humanistic psychology and energetic tools and combined them with quantum physics to create a set of powerful practices and life-changing frameworks that will teach you how to liberate yo'self from the inside out.

You are already the prosperous, successful, purposeful, empowered, confident AF human you’ve always wanted to be – you’re just covered up by all the conditioning from the patriarchy + other outside forces.

This podcast teaches you how to get your power back + dissolve all the past trauma, emotional coding and thought loops that are keeping you small, and your drunk toddler (brain) running the show.

Start listening anywhere you like, every episode is delicious enough to be consumed a la carte – find a topic that speaks to you and press play. Just by pressing play, your process of transformation begins!

Create change at a cellular level by becoming a private one on one coaching client. To learn more about private coaching with me, book a free Awaken Session at awakensession.com or courtneylovegavin.com/contact

Sculpting Your Self-Concept

Self-Concept — Wed, 13 Oct 2021 17:13:35 -0700

Sculpting your self-concept is a big middle finger to looking outside yourself to confirm, validate or define who you are. Choosing your own self-concept is saying new rules, motherf*cker! In the episode, I share WTF your self concept is, three core elements when creating it and how your own self concept affects your relationships, how you make your decisions and take action.

If you're ready to take complete control and live ambitiously you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

WHAT'S 🔥INSIDE THIS EPISODE:

The biggest shift in my own self-concept.
How to find evidence for the self-concept you desire.
Why examining our self-concept at every level is so important.
The difference between belief in ourselves versus our self-concept.
Why challenging your self-concept is meant to feel uncomfy.
My self-concept examples you can adopt to help grow your own self-concept.

EPISODE CHAPTERS:

00:00:00-Introduction and Purpose

00:01:32-Defining Self-Concept

00:03:10-Current Self-Concept Assessment

00:05:14-Self-Concept Exploration

00:07:24-The Power of Self-Concept

00:08:11-Overcoming Negative Self-Concept

00:11:04-Guiding Your Brain

00:16:59-The Inside Job

Sealing Your Energetic Leaks

Energy Leaks — Wed, 06 Oct 2021 17:36:27 -0700

Manage your energy in a whole new way so no matter what's happening in your life, nothing dulls your sparkle. The 4 sources of energy you must have to operate at your best and how you can identify energy leaks in your life that need resolving.

If you're ready to take complete control over your entire life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

Why coaching is anti-aging and reverse the aging process
Your most expensive energy leaks and how to seal them
Smart energetic investments that create more energy for you in the future
How you can identify energy leaks in your life that need resolving.
Spending energy vs lending energy vs investing your energy

Trust Yourself

trusting in yourself — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Trusting In Yourself: The only 3 pillars you need to create a rock-solid foundation of trust in your life. Tune in to hear how you can trust yourself leave doubt behind and the importance of honoring yourself in the process.

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INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON TRUSTING YOURSELF YOU'LL DISCOVER

The Trust Trifecta™️ - the three pillars of trust to build a strong foundation in your life
How to trust yourself
Daily practices to develop trusting in yourself
How to know when you're in disempowered trust vs empowered trust
Why self-trust helps you leave doubt behind

The Secret Skill To Emotional Intelligence

emotional agility — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Feeling your feelings when you're used to being a robotic hyper-acheiver, a step-by-step guide. Discover how to grow your emotional intelligence by clearing your emotional coding and start strengthening your emotional agility. If you want to be an emotional genius and leverage yours to be UNSTOPPABLE, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

WTF Emotional Coding is and why it's more important than intellect, logic and reason
Why old emotions in your coding become signal jammers that keep you stuck
What happens on a chemical level when you suppress or avoid your emotions
Guiding you step-by-step through one my own Emotional Agility techniques

Intuitive Decision Making (how to stop second-guessing your choices)

Inner Voice — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Fed up with delaying decisions bc you want to make sure it's the right one? Second-guessing yourself is a sign your ntuitive decision making muscles are in need of development. Discover the science and psychology behind intuitive decision making, how to use intuition to your advantage and simple ways to discern between fear vs your inner voice.

If you're a perfectionist who wants to revolutionize your decision-making, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you relieve the pressure, intuitively make decisions and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair- with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordianry pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode on Intuitive Decision Making:

00:00-Introduction to
01:36-What is Intuitive Decision Making?
02:25-Your Intuitive GPS
03:19-Perfectionism Pitfalls of Internal Dialogue
04:01-Signs of A Perfectionist's Mind-Body Disconnect
05:11-How To Tell The Difference Intuition vs. Fear
06:19-Fast-Tracking Personal Growth with HeartMath
07:51-Real-Life Benefits of Using Gut Instincts
09:03-Simple, fun ways to start Intuitive Decision Making today
12:25-Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

How To Deal With Intrusive Thoughts

ADHD intrusive thoughts — Wed, 08 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0700

How to get your intrusive thoughts into the doubt-free zone that feels like a doubling down of confidence even when you have ADHD or another flavor of neurodiversity.

Ready to go from intrusive thinking on loop to leveraging all the gifts your neurodiversity brings? Then you belong inside The Accelerator. Apply today while you still can over at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

INSIDE THIS EPISODE ON XXX YOU'LL DISCOVER:

Why being specific about what you’re doing when your not in belief is the key to believing new things
I’m walking you through the exact process I use with my private clients to sit in belief
Why believing something new is not a one night stand
What learning how to believe looks like
How to believe you can do what you’ve never done before

Putting The Power Back In Your Own Hands

Perfectionist Life Coach — Wed, 01 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Are you an overachiever, Type A or a high performer who's tired of the hustle and looking for a more peaceful power path? Then this episode is a must-listen for you! Discover how external validation sneaks up and can be a trap that keeps you stuck and activating your inner Wizard through real-life perfectionism coaching examples that give these concepts LIFE!

If you're a perfectionist who wants to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE starting now, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

👉 What You'll Learn:

00:00-Introduction & Overview

02:05-Activating Your Inner Wizard

03:19-Real-Life Perfectionism Coaching Examples

04:26-The Pitfalls of Comparison

05:48-The Art of Being Yourself

06:51-Accepting Yourself

07:52-How to Validate Yourself

09:28-The Danger of External Validation

11:25-How External Validation Sneaks Up

14:04-The Power of Internal Validation

Calling BS on Busy

Samantha Orradre — Wed, 25 Aug 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Are you too busy? Saying you’re busy, is a sign that your life is controlling you instead of you controlling your life. We've been taught to be busy and accept busy is a valid reason why we can't, don't or won't do other things. This episode reveals busy for what it really is.

Imagine a life where you're never too busy. Where you don't fill up every open space, even if it's meant for breathing. Where shit just doesn’t bother you like it used to. And allllll that space you create from not trying to busy yourself - makes room for you to HAVE IT ALL.

That’s the life you’ll get when we work together. If you want it, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

00:00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism and Busyness

00:01:13-Client Story And Society's Acceptance Of Being Busy

00:01:34-Defining 'Busy' for you

00:02:01-Underlying Causes Of Busyness

00:02:24-Personal Story: Juggling Multiple Responsibilities

00:03:21-Rejecting The 'Busy' Label

00:04:17-The Problem With Saying You're Busy

00:04:45-The 'Busy Badge' And Its Implications

00:05:20-Stopping The Glorification Of Busy

00:07:21-Being Still And Mindfulness Exercises

00:10:04-Questioning What Really Matters

00:14:06-Changing Your Perspective On Busyness

Tossing Limiting Beliefs

limiting beliefs — Wed, 18 Aug 2021 07:31:35 -0700

Make changing your limiting beliefs as easy as changing your clothes! I'm giving you the tools for permanently changing your self-limiting beliefs. Learn how to be selective about your beliefs and where to purchase the best ones available to you.

The system is rigged and so is your brain: Once you discover the principles they operate by, you can finally WIN... and then go make your own damn rules. Ready to win? Get inside The Accelerator today! https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside this episode on Limiting Beliefs you'll discover:

How to imagine your own Belief Store.
My personal adventure through The Belief Store.
What holds people back from making changes.
How far ahead to look into your future.
Why you need to avoid looking at other people’s belief stores and what they’re buying.

Being SEEN: Tips from A-List Publicist

Taylor Swift — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 23:05:29 -0700

Why being seen is the future and making yourself visible is asinine. Plus the real story of what identity I let go of + what I chose to step into + how Charlize Theron helped me along the way.

Be seen in a big way, starting today. Join the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator and in 6 weeks you'll have a whole new identity. https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Self-Mastery for Perfectionists

self mastery — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Join me as I simplify the 7 key areas of Self-Mastery and break down how to gauge whether you have a low, moderate or high level of self mastery.

If you're a perfectionist who wants to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE ferocity, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode On Self-Mastery:
00:00:00-Introduction:
00:01:25-The Power of Self-Mastery
00:02:06-What is Self-Mastery?
00:02:55-Levels of Self-Mastery
00:04:37-Responsiveness
00:05:45-Radical Self-Responsibility
00:06:53-Being In Charge
00:08:51-Emotional Wealth & Maturity
00:09:36-Articulating Your Vision
00:10:36-Integrity in Action
00:11:17-Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

Creating More Time (no matter what)

Time Blind — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 15:27:01 -0700

This simple tool will help you create more time and take control over your time, so you can experience time affluence instead of time poverty. Hear the exact coaching that immediately transformed 1 to 1 coaching client from "so overwhelmed" into an "efficiency machine". Plus unwinding the myth time = value.

If you want to breakout of time poverty permanently forever, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In This Episode You’ll Discover:

How to stop living in time poverty
Why your commitments with yourself must be non-negotiable
What to do when you feel time anxiety
The real reason you can’t say no and put too much on your plate
Why you need to stop multitasking to build strong time management skills
Why making strong decisions is essential for time blindness
The importance of creating habits that will keep you in time affluence

How To Stop Procrastination (before it starts)

Christina Aguilera — Wed, 23 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Perfectionist high performers don’t procrastinate in the same ways as everyone else. Instead of sitting on the couch watching Ducktales we procrasti-work, procrasti-clean or procrasti-learn. This can look like frittering your time away researching the best air fryer, moving sales tasks from one to-do list to the next or eating lunch at your desk while procrasti-learning about how to deep clean baseboards. By the end of the episode, you’ll know how to spot procrastivity and my proven process for cutting it in half. Plus you’ll learn why procrastivity is a normal part of having it ALL as a high achiever (I still do it) and why zero procrastination is not the goal.

In This Episode On Procrastination You’ll Learn:

You won’t stop procrastinating UNTIL you start thinking of yourself THIS WAY
Hidden reasons that perfectionists procrasti-work, procrasti-clean and procrasti-learn
What happens when we cut our procrastivity in half ( no more avoiding procrastination)
Why common procrastination advice DOES NOT WORK for perfectionists or adhd procrastination
Types of procrastivity and how to tell whether you’re doing them
5 reasons why perfectionists procrastinate and a simple solution for each one.

Fight Flight Freeze

Neuroscience — Wed, 16 Jun 2021 10:00:07 -0700

How fight, flight, freeze shows up for overachievers and perfectionists. This episode explores your vagus nerve in plain talk and gives you tools on how to calm yourself. By understanding the intricacies of your freeze response and how it interacts with your sympathetic nervous system, you can work with your emotions and nervous system to eradicate the guilt, worry and anxiety.

Falling asleep without obsessing over your to do list. The courage to have *that talk* with your boss - or your partner - or your friend, ya know the one that requires you to stand up for yourself. A method for making decisions that won’t leave you spinning in confusion, or avoidance, or making choices based on anything less than what you want in your heart and mind TOGETHER. Knowing how to calm your body when your mind goes off the deep end. PRESENCE with your family. No more half listening. And So. Much. Joy. These are just a few of the life changing things you’ll gain inside The Accelerator. Join today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In This Episode on fight flight or freeze You’ll Learn:

0:00-Introduction To fight flight or freeze
01:20-Ignoring the Nervous System: My Personal Journey
03:17-Emancipating from flight or fight
04:58-The Vagus Nerve: Superhighway of Fight or Flight Response
06:17-Freeze Response
08:45-Why You Can't Relax
10:05-Stress Responses: Freeze, Flight, Fawn, Fight
11:35-The Power of Self-Trust + sympathetic nervous system fight or flight
15:07-Soothing Your Nervous System: How To Calm Yourself
17:09-Tend and Befriend Response
21:52-Practical tools for soothing your nervous system

Post Traumatic Growth

posttraumatic growth — Tue, 15 Jun 2021 01:28:25 -0700

Who's afraid of trauma? How acknowledging and embracing our own trauma leads to expansive growth. This is Post Traumatic Growth on steroids.

If you're ready to take complete control over your entire life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Apply to The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

All-or-Nothing Thinking

Black and White Thinking — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Are you an “all gas or breaks” person? Dichotomous thinking aka all-or-nothing thinking can be dangerous because of the escalating domino effect i.e. you either nailed the presentation or you messed the whole thing up which turns into you either have a successful career or you’re flailing. If you're fed up with all-or-nothing thinking holding you back, this episode is your ticket to freedom!

If you want to break out of the black and white thinking into technicolor, you gotta check out The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, leverage your strengths and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:
00:00:00-Introduction to Black and White Thinking
00:01:24-Analogy: All or Nothing Thinking
00:02:25-Introduction to Elevated Thinking
00:03:02-How All-or-Nothing Thinking Affects Decision Making
00:04:37-The Importance of Shifting from All or Nothing Thinking
00:06:49-The Downsides of All or Nothing Thinking
00:09:55-Leaning Into Winning and Learning Mindset

Celeb Vibes Activated

Dwayne Johnson — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Who the hell do they think they are? Find out what all megastars are thinking and how you can use celeb vibes to think better on purpose. Activate your star power and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a person of integrity. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today! https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

PLUS for the first time ever, I'm giving you a snapshot into the obstacles I've overcome in the first half of my life. Learn how you can take your own power back by deciding what these experiences mean, how they define us and how much weight we choose to give them.

This is the episode where you ruthlessly find the best angle for yourself that fuels your highest good.

Investing In Yourself (ROI of YOU)

Big Sean — Wed, 26 May 2021 07:09:36 -0700

Investing in yourself in a real way takes devotion to your highest good, faith in yourself and courageously choosing select humans help guide you on your golden path. Here's how I learned to flex the muscle of trusting myself, making decisions for myself and going after what I wanted without getting anyone else's approval, without doing all the research, without having any guarantees.

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What Voldemort Can Teach Us About Success

harry potter — Thu, 20 May 2021 02:38:26 -0700

Ever wondered why success feels so draining? Turns out, it's all about how we're wired. Find out how to rewire for happiness and fulfillment!

If want to go from great to freaking amazing, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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3 Surprising Reasons You Haven't Stopped Procrastinating Yet

stop procrastination — Wed, 12 May 2021 07:34:20 -0700

3 surprising reasons you haven’t stopped procrastinating yet and the 3 simple steps to make procrastination extinct so that your daily decisions are aligned with what you want long term.

If you're ready to take complete control over your entire life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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In This Episode on Stopping Procrastination You’ll Learn:

How procrastination makes your life feel more exciting than it actually is
How to melt short-term temptations and match your actions to what you actually want
Make doing it a now a game by creating rewards to reinforce positive habits.
Empowering yourself to control your perfectionist brain, instead of it controlling you

Having Fun: how I infuse fun into every nook + cranny of my day (and you can too!)

how to have fun — Wed, 05 May 2021 07:39:43 -0700

If you’re frustrated that tasks are taking way longer than they need to and you want to be more productive, you want to be more efficient and yet you're struggling to get there - then this episode on Having FUN will help you!

If you're ready to take control of your perfectionism, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching The Accelerator

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Tune in today to learn how to start infusing fun and why it's the fast track to bring you closer to your goals.

In This Episode on Having Fun You’ll Learn:

Ways perfectionists destroy fun
The real reason you keep resisting fun and how to stop
How fun-sucking is hurting your productivity
Tips for getting into high quality fun and moving out of low quality junk fun

Never Enough + Doing More

Bethenny Frankel — Wed, 28 Apr 2021 09:44:12 -0700

Doing more DOES NOT equal achieving more. Unwinding scarcity mindset of doing more = more success and not enough. How to answer the haunting question of "Why am i not good enough" Overachievers and over thinkers, this episode will change your mind on believing you must do more to avoid failure.

You can have it all without doing it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being an extraordinary person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

ADHD Burnout (brought to you by willpower)

adhd burnout — Wed, 21 Apr 2021 07:44:07 -0700

What’s wrong with willpower? Everything! Permanent change is never made through willpower, especially when you have ADHD. Listen to win the war on willpower once and for all. Learn how to prevent burnout, get more done in less time and have oodles of sustainable yummy energy.

If you're ready to take complete control over your entire life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Birthday Blues

Courtney Love's 35th Birthday — Tue, 13 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700

It’s my 35th birthday today! To celebrate I’m giving you the biggest gift, how to love exactly where you are. This past year, all of my circumstances were not what I hoped for. The moment I began rewiring my perfectionist brain everything go easier. And I stopped feeling like sh*t all the time and actually beat the birthday blues! If you're ready to take complete control of your life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text coaching, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll always be supported.

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Reticular Activating System

RAS — Wed, 07 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700

The Golden Retriever Inside Your Brain: Understanding how to use your Reticular Activating System as a tool to fetch more of what you want in your life and less of what you don't.

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The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is a fascinating part of our brain that acts as a filter for our conscious mind, it decides what gets your attention and what doesn't. Ever noticed how once you're interested in a particular car, you constantly see it everywhere? That's your Reticular Activating System in action, highlighting what's relevant to you. By understanding how to play fetch your Reticular Activating System, you can train your brain to focus on your goals and see fresh opportunities that previously were in your blindspots.

Emotional Wealth

Taylor Swift — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 08:05:42 -0700

By recognizing your unalterable ability to choose your thoughts, material and emotional wealth becomes cake. How I escaped decades of emotional poverty to create emotional wealth (and you can too!)

You can have it all. It starts inside Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Go here to experience it for yourself: https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

WHAT'S 🔥 IN THIS EPISODE:

My journey through emotional poverty to emotional wealth
The sneaky subconscious beliefs I uncovered that were holding me back in all areas of my life.
Why embracing sufficiency gets you farther than abundance
What all parents must know is NOT a luxury

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

CLG Instagram Post about Emotional Poverty
Intentionally Dating Myself
Taylor Swift documentary Miss Americana

Emotional Wealth Part 2: Equal Opportunity Emotions

emotional iq — Wed, 24 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

The step-by-step the path to creating your own rich reality in today's culture of escapism, the lies leaving you feeling bankrupt and why learning how to process emotions is the key to everything you want in life.

If you're ready to take complete control over your entire life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

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Glennon Doyle: Who Before How

Glennon Doyle — Tue, 16 Mar 2021 22:46:30 -0700

The "HOW" doesn't actually matter, just ask legendary perfectionist Glennon Doyle. Discover why WHO is the better question + gives you all the answers your brain craves. If you want to go from untamed to UNSTOPPABLE ferocity, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Inside This Episode with Glennon Doyle You'll Discover

00:00:00-Introduction and "The Perfectionist Guide" newsletter

00:01:16- Glennon Doyle and her WHO before HOW strategy for relaasing her book "Untamed"

00:03:13-Glennon Doyle's growth in audience and sales

00:04:49-The importance of "Who before How" in actions and decisions

00:06:00-The pitfalls of focusing on "how" instead of "who"

00:07:41-Comparison of learning "how" through action, using basketball as an example

00:08:19-The limitations of asking "how" and the need to take charge

00:09:32-Glennon Doyle's clarity of purpose

Unsubscribing To Imposter Syndrome With Melanie Childers

Melanie Childers — Wed, 10 Mar 2021 08:47:51 -0700

Imposter Syndrome exists but making peace with it doesn’t mean you have to go through life identifying as an imposter. If you want to stop feeling like an imposter RTF now with neuroscience techniques that *actually work* this is a must listen!

If you enjoyed this episode, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, relax without guilt and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

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Inside This Episode on Imposter Syndrome You'll Learn:

How the patriarchy perpetuates perfectionism
The underlying anxiety of hustle, go-go and I have to
Changing the constant tape in your mind that's playing "You're Not Enough" on repeat
How to create a life + business that supports you as the human Being
Why overachievers can have all the tangible evidence to support their case you do belong here and you still don’t feel like you do
Guided Meditation You Can do To get out of your head and into your body

ABOUT MELANIE CHILDERS:

Melanie Childers is a Master Coach for feminist entrepreneurs who are committed to changing the world for women. She helps women disrupt their internalized patriarchy so they can scale successful businesses that support themselves and their communities without burning out.

Neuroplasticity

Neuroplasticity — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 22:11:35 -0700

Human brains are old AF. Neuroplasticity is how we keep ourselves fresh to death. Discover the 411 on brain plasticity using CURRENT science (not that 1950s crap) in plain speak that a 3rd grader can understand. Rewire your mind and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person. This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

IN THIS EPISODE on NEUROPLASTICITY:

The beauty of neurodiversity
Neurotransmitters, synapses, neurons, neurogenesis in HUMAN speak.
Why what we've been taught about clinical depression and a lack of serotonin is DEAD WRONG
How whatever you are suffering from is completely solvable with brain plasticity
Got doubt? Here's how you keep moving forward the fastest while being in control

Byron Katie on Resistance: Let It Go!

byron katie — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 15:50:37 -0700

The neuroscience of resistance, how to overcome it and questions you can ask yourself to dissolve resistance.

If want to go from resisting to being resilient, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, leverage your strengths for more presence and get out of your own way, with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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What You Appreciate = Appreciates

appreciative — Thu, 18 Feb 2021 01:29:58 -0700

'Tis time to drop-kick the attitude of gratitude and step into the awesomeness of appreciation. Think they basically mean the same thing? You’ll think twice after listening to this episode. Learn how to deeply appreciate all the gifts you have in your life right now

If you want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists, The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Getting Past Your Past

how to accept yourself — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 00:21:07 -0700

If you want to get past your past and turn your past into a useful tool, so you're no longer weighed down by it, I'm laying out exactly what to do. Along with sharing some of my own cringe-worthy moments from my colorful past.

f you want to own your perfectionism instead of it owning you, I highly recommend you check out my 1-1 coaching for overachievers The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Inside This Episode You'll Discover:

00:00:00-Introduction

00:01:31-Needing to escape

00:02:55-Strug to Func: Doing the Dishes

00:03:36-Lies and Lost Friendships

00:04:34-Growth from Loss

00:06:55-Embracing Change in the Face of Fear

00:08:07 -Dropping Fear and Shame

00:09:34-Valuing Yourself

00:10:53-Choosing the High Road

00:12:18-Taking responsibility for your own growth

00:14:44-Accepting Your Whole Self

How I Became The New York Times Cover Story

Courtney Love Gavin — Wed, 03 Feb 2021 22:58:14 -0700

Revealing exactly how I became a sought after expert in the life coaching industry that landed me (and my client) on the front page of the New York Times in a robust feature on manifesting your dreams. This is a must-listen for anyone who: dreams of being an expert, sought-after industry thought leader, wants to turn your creativity into a wildly profitable business or is facing circumstances that feel insurmountable.

If want to get out of your own way and be UNSTOPPABLE, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

The Surprising Truth About Overwhelm

overwhelmed — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 03:05:36 -0700

I used to live my life thinking that overwhelmed with something that happened to me and I was a victim to it. Not anymore!!! I'm sharing my super simply 4 steps to outsmart overwhelm.

If want to go from overwhlemed to UNSTOPPABLE, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, relax without guilt and feel as put together as your life looks with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

The one question I asked myself that ended all overwhelm
What we think causes overwhelm vs what actually causes it
Why we can't trust our drunk toddler brains when it serves us "we don't have enough time"
Why overwhelm is an invisible frenemy you need to cut ties with

Are You Buffing Out Your Brilliance?

ADHD — Tue, 26 Jan 2021 02:05:06 -0700

Think your edges are too sharp? Concerned how others might react? Do you regularly turn down your vibrancy without even realizing it?

Buffing out your brilliance sounds innocent but it's actually causing you unnecessary stress and overall icky-ness.

If you want more joy or prosperity or friends or time or smiles this episode will help you enormously bc this is the episode where you stop second guessing yourself.

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SHE'S FEISTY🔥 IN THIS EPISODE:

Why the more YOU you are the better your life gets
How I tried to contort myself into the stereotype of success (and what happened when I stopped) HINT: I became 10x more successful and 300x joyful
What's it's like when you don't see any examples of people like you in the world
Having an ADHD brain, my love for KDRAMAs, liberal use of the word "like" and other things I used to be deeply ashamed of

Upgrading from a "have to" to a "want to" perspective

paradox of choice — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 09:12:46 -0700

Learn how to shift from a "have to" mindset to a "want to" mindset and liberate yourself from unnecessary perfectionistic pressure. If want to be UNSTOPPABLE in all key pillars of life, you gotta check out The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

How perfectionists accidentally fall into victim mentality
Paradox of choice
The difference between taking a hard stance with yourself vs verbally abusing yourself
The importance of your inner conversations
Judgey McJudgerson's listen TF up! The reason why you're unhappy is bc

How to Get Rid of Anxiety

anxious thoughts — Wed, 13 Jan 2021 08:19:47 -0700

How to calm anxiety from a former anxiety attack queen. How I went from being the anxious perfectionist, daily debilitating chronic anxiety (maxed out on meds) to panic attack free for 7+years. Ready to prioritize YOU and have it all: presence, peace, prosperity while being a courageous person1? This is what we do together inside The Accelerator. Liberate yourself today https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

IN THIS EPISODE on How to Get Rid of Anxiety:

What to do when anxious thoughts start to erupt
My journey from daily panic attacks and all the 💊meds to how to calm anxiety
How you can counteract anxiety thoughts as soon as you start
Perfectionism and anxiety: 3 steps you can take to reduce your anxiety by at least 50%

5 Motivation Myths That Will Stop You From Getting Momentum

self motivation — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Dispelling the top 5 lies around motivation that perfectionists tend to get duped by.Discover the real truths about motivation and why you haven't actually 'lost' it. If want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE momentum, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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Inside This Episode On Motivation Myths You'll Learn:

Why it's impossible to lose Motivation
What matters most when it comes to staying motivated + getting momentum
Where Motivation comes from and how to leverage your motivation equity
The key to self-motivation even when you don't feel like it
How to challenge the excuses brains make for not taking action.

Commitment (where wishy-washy goes to die)

commitment — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Learn the skill of doing what you say you will do in the FACE of not wanting to do it.

If you're committed to being UNSTOPPABLE in all pillars of your life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

WHAT'S 🔥 IN THIS EPISODE:

The difference between wanting, committing and being entitled
Following through with your commitments
How to commit to your desired results instead of hedging
What it means to 100% commit IRL
Why commitment determines your success

Questions To Ask Yourself For Instant Excellence

questions to ask yourself — Wed, 23 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

We don't rise to the level of our answers; we fall to the level of your questions. Discover simple questions to ask to create excellence. Listen in to discover great questions that will help get you from a PROBLEM FOCUSED way of thinking to a SOLUTION FOCUSED way of thinking so that you soar.

If want to ask yourself the highest quality questions, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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WHAT'S 🔥 IN THIS EPISODE:

What questions to ask yourself daily to help propel you forward
How to stop asking ourselves pointless questions
Ways to identify when the pointless questions come up
Why you can never get the right answer to the wrong question
The easiest question to ask yourself to turn your day around

Actionable Tips to Start Rewiring Your Brain Today

oprah winfrey — Wed, 16 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Discover how to overcome the pitfalls of perfectionism with actionable tips to start rewiring your brain today.

If want to leverage your perfectionism as an asset, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

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WHAT'S 🔥 IN THIS EPISODE:

Oprah's thought process
What's a fact vs a story you're telling yourself
How our thoughts can get in the way of our results and limit our potential
The connection between our thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Why affirmations are bullsh*t & what to do instead

Emotional Intelligence: How to Use Your Feelings as Success Fuel

Byron Katie — Wed, 09 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Discover the 90 second hack to instantly upgrade your Emotional Intelligence, how to use your feelings as fuel for success and how to powerfully control the precise way you want to feel.

If want to go from being controlled by your feelings to BEING IN CONTROL, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode on Emotional Intelligence You'll Learn:

How to feel all of your emotions AND stay in control
The 5 pillars of Emotional Intelligence.
Why no one else can make you feel anything
How your EQ can make or break your career.
Real-life examples of Emotional Intelligence in action

How To Say No (while being kind)

how to say no — Wed, 02 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Are you saying yes out of obligation? Do you really want to say no but also don't want to make people upset? Discover why attempting to please others at your own expense is never sustainable, and what you can do instead to put your real desires first. I’m showing you why saying no feels challenging, how putting yourself chronically last is not loving and how being a person of integrity requires saying no.

If you want to liberate your life from obligation and say no without guilt, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode On Saying No:

Why we say yes when we don’t want to. + how to nicely say no
How to rewire saying yes out of obligation and respond in alignment with what's important to YOU
The sneaky expectations that exist when you're operating from a people-pleasing framework
What to ask yourself to know if it a sacred no or something to say yes to
How to say no to family and people you love.
Alternatives and different ways of saying no you can start using today.

Enclothed Cognition: Why I Dress For Success

enclothed cognition — Wed, 25 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Let's stop letting the way we look get in the way of how we show up in our lives. Tune in as I share my best tips for making ourselves polished and the effects it will have on your life. You’ll discover what you can be doing to show up as the most fabulous version of yourself in your life and your career.

If you want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, get out of your own way and create confidence that's bigger than Dolly Parton's hair with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

Why getting dressed gets you powerfully prepared for any opportunity.
Who inspired me to start getting gorgeous everyday (no excuses)
My tips for caring for yourself and always treating yourself like the asset you are
Why it really doesn’t “take” much time at all to get gorgeous
Where I shop for clothing that matches my vibe

How To Know If You’re Avoiding Mistakes

fear of inadequacy — Wed, 18 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Too many perfectionists hold back because of making mistakes mean = I suck AND that others will see that they suck. It might be with starting a business, writing a book, getting fit, going back to school, learning how to rollerskate… We play small because we’d rather not suck than deal with mistakes or beating ourselves up. Discover how to reframe mistakes, dissolve self-judgment and why creating a growth mindset will help you overcome your fears of inadequacy

If you want stop getting tripped up by mistakes, I highly recommend checking out The Accelerator

You’ll have the option to learn everything on the go with easy mobile access. Plus with judgement-free support + fire 1-1 coaching you’ll never have to feel alone again.

Join The Accelerator 1 to 1 coaching program today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

The most important questions you can ask yourself when you make mistakes
How to dissolve the self judgement
Why creating a growth mindset will help you overcome your fears of inadequacy
A powerful mistake reframe that will get you winning

Executive Presence Made Easy (Interview Edition)

Executive Presence — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Interviews are easy, once you know how to do them like a PRo. Never stress about interviews again.

If you want to approach every area of your life powerfully, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

How powerful people approach interviews
The BFF Filter that takes all the pressure off of interviews (even if they are high stakes situations)
Why most people bomb interviews and how you can avoid this from now on
Exactly how I prepare my celebrity clients for interviews and how you can do it too
The ONE question to ask in every interview that will save you loads of stress after

How To Invest In Yourself (when you're a perfectionist)

how to invest in yourself — Wed, 04 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Culturally we're conditioned to spend money on vacations, weddings and other people way before we invest in ourselves. Learn about the cost of lost opportunity, how to invest in yourself (or the S+ ME a la Alex Hormozi) and how to ALWAYS guarantee that you make a return on your investments.

If you want to feel as put together as your life looks, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

When you join The Accelerator, you’ll get instant access to rich resource library of neuroscience-backed tools designed to help you triple your progress in half the time, leverage your perfectionism as the asset it is and actually relax (sans guilt) with on-demand masterclasses, private podcasts, journaling exercises, playbooks, meditations and more!

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

The specific spicy ways I generated money to invest in myself
What occurs immediately after you’re willing to invest in yourself.
Why the gap between information and implementation is access.
The riskiest thing you could ever do.
How to stop failing ahead of time.

3 Simple Steps To Becoming A Proactive Powerhouse

proactive approach — Wed, 28 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

3 simple steps to take a proactive approach about anything in your life, how to focus when distraction is easy and the magic of doing less, while achieving way more.

If you're ready to take complete control of your life, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text coaching, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll always feel supported in your pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Proactive Episode You'll Learn:

3 steps to being proactive about anything in your life.
Proactive habits that increase your productivity and self-trust
How to make decisions ahead of time to avoid distractions.
Practical steps to become more proactive and reduce stress.
The magic of doing less while achieving way more
Why being present and proactive leads to doing less, while getting to your goals faster

Coaching vs Therapy: What's Best for Rapid Transformation

1 to 1 coaching — Wed, 21 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Curious how a life coach is different from a therapist? I gotchu. If you’re not exactly sure whether you a therapist, a life coach, or both would be best this episode is for you.

If are ready for change and want a model that works, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text coaching, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

Looking at the past vs focusing on the future
Difference between coaching (architect) and therapy (archeologist)
Why having a coach is the fastest way to change your life, even if you’re familiar with the concepts or think you know how
What to know if you’ve considered coaching but are unsure about taking the plunge
Exactly what working with a coach is like

How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

how to overcome imposter syndrome — Wed, 14 Oct 2020 07:15:00 -0700

Learn 5 specific ways you can take to transition out of feeling like an imposter and into knowing you belong exactly where you are.

If want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE powerhouse, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge accountability, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll ALWAYS have support to help you succeed.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode On How To Overcome Imposter Syndrome You'll Discover:

How to spot impostor syndrome in yourself
Lies and sneaky thoughts that afflict ambitious perfectionists especially
Why impostor syndrome isn’t an affliction or something you are stuck with
5 powerful tools for dealing with imposter syndrome
What to do if the system you are in is making you an imposter

People Pleasing

people pleasing — Wed, 07 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Discover how people-pleasing perpetuates dishonest relationships, why we often choose to prioritize others’ wants and needs over our own and the detrimental effects people-pleasing has on our personal and professional lives. Plus, get the 3 key steps to ending this deceptive cycle.

If you want to permanently stop people-pleasing & start saying yes to you, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text coaching, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Join me as I explain why we often choose to prioritize others’ wants and needs over our own and the detrimental effects people-pleasing has on our personal and professional lives. Plus, I share 3 key steps to ending this deceptive cycle.

Inside This Episode on People Pleasing You'll Learn:

What it means to people please, what it actually is and why we do it.
Causes of people pleasing
Why you have anxiety when you try to prioritize yourself.
3 steps to ending this deceptive cycle of performing and pleasing.
How you can begin prioritizing yourself and finally live the life you love.

Fixed vs Growth Mindset

Possibility Thinking — Wed, 30 Sep 2020 07:00:04 -0700

How do you actually create a growth mindset? Say goodbye to probability and explore the power of creating new possibilities in your life.

If want to go from great to UNSTOPPABLE powerhouse, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text support, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private coaching, you'll always feel supported in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

The six steps to get from fixed mindset to growth mindset
What stops most people from reaching their goals
Why it’s impossible to create new results in your life by looking to your past
How to believe something you don’t yet believe

Being Decisive

decisive — Wed, 23 Sep 2020 07:00:10 -0700

From the questions you need to ask yourself to help make a skilled decision, to how to deal with doubting yourself, you’ll learn how to confidently make powerful decisions and to love the direction they take you.

If you want to be the most decisive person you know, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text coaching, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

The art of decision making
Being indecisive vs Undecisive
My best tips for making powerful decisions quickly
How to navigate the self-doubt, fear and anxiety that flares up with decision-making
Right + wrong decisions vs the worst decisions

Personal Responsibility

personal responsibility — Wed, 16 Sep 2020 07:00:07 -0700

Accountability vs responsibility. How to take charge of your whole life with empowering responsibility.

If you liked this episode +you're ready to take control, you gotta check out The Perfect Start Coaching Sesh today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

The biggest misconception about responsibility and why it's keeping you stuck
How to claim the most powerful tool on the planet & own it baby!
Empowering questions to ask yourself when you don't want to take responsibility for a result
Blame vs Responsibility vs Entitlement
The No.1 thing that keeps all people from achieving their goals and moving forward.

How To Be Confident

LeBron James — Wed, 09 Sep 2020 07:00:14 -0700

Confidence is not complicated. Our minds are. By understanding ourselves & our stories we become more confident. Self-Confidence comes from within, yet we give our power away to every but the one who matters most US.

In this episode, I share the process of how to create confidence that's contagious, so that you're being a confident person, regardless of who, what, why or where you are.

You CAN embody confidence.. You can start TODAY to permanently rewire your confidence and dissolve your self-doubt in 6 weeks inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator: https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

Confidence vs Self-Confidence (there's a big difference)
How LeBron James and my other mega confident clients keep their confidence unshakeable
Why appearing confident is a disposal shortcut on the road to nowhere you want to avoid at all costs (hint: BEING confident get you there)
What responsibility we can take today to make our self-confidence swole💪

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Bold Type
Drake, In My Feelings
Click: The Movie
My first encounters with Kim Kardashian & Taylor Swift
The Holiday "You are the leading lady of your own life"

Perfectionism

Brené Brown — Wed, 02 Sep 2020 07:00:09 -0700

Calling all perfectionists! Escaping perfection purgatory IS POSSIBLE. How to dissolve the illusion of being perfect and start taking action while keeping your strong ambition intact. Ready to rewire your perfectionism? You CAN change. You can start TODAY. In fact, this is the perfect time to stand up and say “enough! I’m NOT letting perfectionism control my life or my family’s life any more!” Go apply for the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator while there’s still time here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

How to overcome the need to be perfect + start taking action
Letting go of your fear of becoming a slob-ka-bob without perfectionism to motivate you (and it's NOT lowering your standards)
The difference between Perfectionism & Strong Ambition
Why making choices that align with your vision + goals instead of the need to always be perfect & the best leads to the highest level of success
My top 4 tips to beat perfectionism I practice everyday as part of my Daily Practice

FEATURED ON THE SHOW AND OTHER NOTES:

Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
Brené Brown, Gifts of Imperfection
James Clear, Atomic Habits
Brooke Castillo, The Life Coach School

The Identity Crisis You Didn't Know You Had: How to Break Free and Own Your Truth

professional identity — Fri, 28 Aug 2020 00:52:13 -0700

Is your professional self-identity in alignment with the potential you have inside? I'm sharing my own journey of going from cut throat PR Pro to owning it as the authority on Perfectionism Rewiring and why the faster you become who you want to be, the better! Also how to change, grow, evolve and shift your self-identity at the highest level. Why the identity we spend the most time with matters and how to not hold yourself hostage while pivoting professionally.

If want to change consistently, courageously and sustainably, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for overachievers The Accelerator

Plus, with concierge text coaching and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Inside This Episode You'll Learn:

1️⃣ The Subconscious Mind: Learn how 95% of your actions are driven by your subconscious mind and how you can rewire it for success.

2️⃣ Identity Shift: Discover the transformative power of consciously choosing your identity and breaking free from societal labels.

3️⃣ Unique Genius: Understand that each one of us has an un-copyable genius side, and it's crucial to own it.

4️⃣ Future-Focused Coaching: Find out how coaching can be a powerful tool for immediate change, focusing on the future rather than dwelling on the past.

Make Belief

self belief — Wed, 19 Aug 2020 07:00:13 -0700

Discover how to Make Belief in your daily life and why it’s so important for you to embody your identity as who you want to be, to create the results you're after. Find out the exact questions to ask yourself so you change your beliefs and start to actually generate the results you're after.

If you're ready to take complete control over your perfectionism you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching, The Accelerator.

The Accelerator

Perfect for the busy high-achiever on the go: concierge text coaching, dynamic scheduling and one-on-one private sessions, you'll never feel alone in your extraordinary pursuit of excellence.

Join The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Minimalism + Getting Seductively Simple With Erika Lyremark

Barbara Corcoran — Wed, 12 Aug 2020 08:03:20 -0700

Today CLG is joined by the whip smart, minimalist fashionista (yes it's a thing!) and mastermind behind The Daily Whip, Erika Lyremark. Erika spent 9 years swinging around a stripper pole, went on to co-create a multi-million dollar commercial real-estate investment company, and in 2011 went full-time in her own business The Daily Whip where she helps BOLD women create personality-driven sales & marketing plans that sell, reliably and repeatedly.

Listen in as Courtney Love and Erika discuss minimalism modalities, Eastern vs Western philosophies, Erika's upcoming book and Erika's journey to making her life seductively simple.

To connect with Erika Lyremark click here

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you!

Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Self-Advocacy In Your Career

self-advocacy — Wed, 05 Aug 2020 21:09:52 -0700

Now is THE TIME to take control of your career and to advocate for maximum potential. There are enormous opportunities available to all of us, you just have to know where to look and get started.

WHAT YOU’LL FIND IN THIS EPISODE:

Lies that keep you stuck and how to take back control, even when it feels like everything is in chaos.
How to stop abdicating your power and success.
Why having a clear sense of direction for your career and what you want to achieve is essential.
The heart of connection and how to re-establish this during a time of distance.
Leveraging your impact to align with the current landscape

Breaking All The Branding Rules with Sarah Ashman

Sarah Ashman — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 07:00:16 -0700

Sarah is the artist formerly known as the pitch bitch. She's worked with everyone from Madonna to Amy Porterfield as well as beloved brands like Estée Lauder, Vogue Magazine and Mercedes Benz. Listen in as CLG and Sarah discuss the branding approach most people take that's a recipe for disaster, how to express yourself professionally while keeping true to yourself, the greatest currency for success in your business or career, and how to show up even when struggling with comparison-i-tus.

To connect with Sarah Ashman click HERE

If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you!

Come and join us today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

How To Own Your Expertise

expertise — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 10:16:01 -0700

Want to be a sought-after expert? Join CLG, former Visibility Expert for Gloria Steinem, Oscar-winning directors & Pulitzer Prize winners, as she delves into what an expert REALLY is.

There’s a ton of misunderstanding behind the idea of expertise. What do you have to prove to earn the title of “expert”? Is it a title that you give yourself, or is it one that others bestow on you? How much, and what kind, of self-promotion does it take? Does it mean being a human encyclopedia for your specialization?

Listen in as CLG tackles these questions and more by sharing practical and tactical strategies to help you replace imposter syndrome with the unshakable confidence of a true expert.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

Bringing certainty into any situation you’re faced with
Why all the degrees in the world won’t translate to practical, real-world experience
Unlocking expertise through integrity
Two key steps to promoting yourself the right away
Upping your expert energy without burnout

First Stop To Extraordinary: Space Camp

Courtney Love — Mon, 13 Jul 2020 00:18:31 -0700

MY VERY FIRST EPISODE: 3/5 Sacral Generator Courtney Love Gavin is full of hot takes and mic drops in this inaugural episode of Pretty Pretty Podcast. Join CLG as she walks you through the vision of Pretty Pretty Podcast (the caterpillar that became the butterfly of Unfuckwithable YOU) why she finally got her own "lower back tattoo" and hear the never-before-told story of how Courtney Love went from aspiring astronaut to courageous coach + PR extraordinaire.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

Why BEE- Big Enigmatic Energy- is beyond better than BDE🍆
What PR (public relations) really is and why it matters
The podcast that changed Courtney Love’s life and inspired her to start Pretty Pretty Podcast
Is Courtney Love her actual name or is she just a big fan of HOLE
The secret to removing all the beasts of burdens in your life
How Pretty Pretty Podcast is smashing stereotypes and Courtney Love’s promise to you

FEATURED ON THE SHOW

WSJ Secrets Of Wealthy Women Podcast: https://www.wsj.com/podcasts/secrets-of-wealthy-women
Glennon Doyle #Untamed
Follow Courtney Love Gavin on Instagram!