The Pursuit of Happywell

Ep. 16 Socially Acceptable Addictions: How “Good” Habits Can Secretly Harm You

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0600

What if your morning iced coffee, non-stop productivity, or daily scroll sessions were less about comfort and more about quiet compulsion? In this thought-provoking episode, Kristen and Scott Boss dive into the sneaky world of socially acceptable addictions—the habits we justify, celebrate, and even admire… but may be slowly sabotaging us.

They unpack how culture often applauds behaviors like workaholism, exercise obsession, caffeine dependence, people-pleasing, and overcommitting—all while ignoring their deeper roots in stress, avoidance, and unmet emotional needs.

This episode isn’t about shame—it’s about self-awareness. Tune in for practical questions to reflect on your own habits, real talk about coping vs. thriving, and gentle reframes to help you build a life that nourishes rather than numbs.

What You'll Learn:

How to tell the difference between nourishing routines and numbing rituals
The concept of emotional sobriety and how to practice it
Why the “dose makes the poison” in socially praised behaviors
How to shift from compulsive habits to identity-based choices
The importance of pausing and getting curious without judgment

Your Happywell Homework:

Pick one “harmless” habit this week. Pause it for a day or two. Notice what comes up. Reflect with curiosity, not criticism.

Links & Mentions:

Atomic Habits by James Clear
Addiction and Grace by Gerald May
Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke

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Take the Free Quiz:

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Timestamps:

0:00 – Intro: Is your iced coffee a quiet compulsion?
1:55 – Exploring stress types and why we seek comfort
5:16 – What makes an addiction "socially acceptable"?
8:09 – Workaholism: Hustle culture disguised as dedication
10:04 – Exercise obsession: Discipline or dopamine?
11:17 – Caffeine dependence: When stimulation masks exhaustion
13:32 – Doomscrolling & digital compulsions
14:58 – People-pleasing and the addiction to approval
15:15 – Overcommitting: Running from stillness
18:44 – The emotional cost of avoidant habits
21:25 – Emotional sobriety: Feeling without fleeing
22:41 – The dopamine loop: Why quick fixes leave us empty
24:56 – Self-justification and the “moral license” fallacy
28:24 – Burnout, dissociation, and long-term impact
31:16 – 5 questions to reflect on your habits
35:33 – Reaction-based vs. identity-based habits
39:00 – The power of pausing and self-awareness
41:52 – Happywell Homework: A gentle curiosity practice
45:00 – You are allowed to change your rhythm

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Ep. 15 Why Success Scares Us More Than Failure

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 23 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Episode Summary:

What if it’s not failure you’re afraid of—but success? In this deep-dive episode, Scott and Kristen unpack one of the most overlooked mindset blocks: the fear of success. Whether it’s the pressure to maintain, fear of visibility, or anxiety around losing relationships, success can stir up just as much fear as failure—and sometimes more.

Drawing from personal stories, coaching experiences, and the latest psychology research (including insights from the Harvard Grant Study), Scott and Kristen break down the subconscious behaviors that show up when success feels unsafe. Think procrastination, underdelivering, quitting early, or constantly shifting goals. Sound familiar?

You’ll learn:

The three hidden fears behind fear of success
How to recognize if you’re self-sabotaging
Why your stress response matters—and what to do about it
Tools to create internal safety and finish what you start

Plus, get a peek into Kristen’s emotional journey from hairstylist to online educator—and the identity shifts that came with it.

Take the Free Quiz:

Discover your unique stress response and how it may be holding you back here: sonderalife.com/podquiz

Timestamps:

0:00 - What if everything you’ve been told about happiness is wrong?

1:42 - Introducing the fear of success

4:26 - Why success can feel destabilizing

8:47 - Loss aversion and identity shifts

13:35 - Three hidden fears behind fear of success

18:33 - Subconscious behaviors and stress responses

27:20 - Under-delivering to protect your ego

32:31 - Signs you might fear finishing

39:36 - Happywell Homework: How to move forward

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Ep. 14 Compassionate Boundaries: How to Set Limits Without Guilt

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 16 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Do you break out in hives at the thought of setting a boundary? You’re not alone—and this week’s episode of The Pursuit of Happywell is a must-listen. Scott and Kristen dive deep into the emotional minefield of boundary-setting and reframe it as an act of kindness, connection, and self-respect—not cruelty.

Building on last week’s episode on conflict resolution, this conversation explores:

Why so many people fear setting boundaries
How people-pleasing, identity, and fear of rejection keep us stuck
The difference between reactive boundaries vs. compassionate clarity
Real-life examples in marriage, parenting, work, and friendships
How to communicate boundaries without controlling or withdrawing
The pivotal role of self-boundaries in preventing burnout and building trust

With personal stories, powerful analogies (like dogs testing invisible fences), and practical takeaways, this episode is both soul-nourishing and eye-opening. If you're ready to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of “keeping the peace,” this one’s for you.

Key Takeaways:

Boundaries aren’t barriers—they’re gates with keys you offer out of love and clarity.
A healthy boundary is one that helps you stay your most whole, functional self.
You can’t set boundaries with others if you constantly violate your own.
Healthy people respect your boundaries; people who benefited from your lack of them will test them.
Boundaries evolve with seasons—evaluate and adjust with intention, not guilt.

If this episode resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself! Share it with a friend, leave a review, and hit that subscribe button. Have a boundary breakthrough? Comment on YouTube or tag @thehappywell on social media and tell us about it.

And take the free Stress Type Quiz to discover your go-to stress response and learn how to manage it better. sonderalife.com/podquiz

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Why boundaries feel so hard
02:00 – What a boundary really is (not a wall!)
05:30 – People-pleasing and fear of being unloved
08:30 – The identity crisis that comes with becoming a boundaried person
11:00 – Healthy vs. reactive boundaries
14:00 – How we sabotage our own boundaries
18:00 – Compassionate clarity: the new lens for setting limits
27:00 – Real-life scenarios: family, work, marriage, kids
45:00 – Boundaries with yourself: the game-changer
50:00 – Happywell Homework: Your boundary reset

Guest/Host Info:

Hosted by Kristen and Scott Boss, founders of The Happywell Podcast, this power duo brings both personal insight and practical wisdom to the table, blending emotional health, neuroscience, and relational wellness for a more grounded life.

Ep. 13 The 3 Words That Can Diffuse Almost Any Argument

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 09 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0600

The 3 Words That Can Diffuse Almost Any Argument

Episode Overview:

What if three simple words could change the entire trajectory of a conflict? In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Scott and Kristen Boss unpack the surprising phrase that has the potential to de-escalate tension, regulate your nervous system, and build stronger connections — whether you're in a romantic relationship, navigating friendships, or managing tough conversations at work.

Drawing from personal experience and psychological insight, they explore why conflict escalates, how our stress responses shape our reactions, and what it takes to “fight clean.” Whether you tend to fight, flee, freeze, or fawn, this conversation will help you recognize your own patterns and give you practical tools to stay connected — even in the messiest moments.

What You'll Learn:

Why “Help me understand” is the ultimate de-escalation phrase
The 4 types of stress responses in conflict: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
How childhood and family dynamics shape your conflict style
What “fighting clean” really looks like in a healthy relationship
The science behind emotional regulation and effective communication
How to use curiosity to stay connected and create space for repair

Real-Life Moments & Relatable Humor:

Expect heartfelt storytelling, moments of laughter (yes, including “spirit fingers”), and honest reflections from Scott and Kristen’s marriage and parenting experiences. You’ll walk away with a new lens on conflict and feel equipped with language that fosters deeper understanding.

Happy Well Homework:

Reflect on a recent conflict — what was your stress response?
In your next tough moment, take a breath and ask: “Help me understand.”
Practice using the phrase in everyday conversations to build your curiosity muscle.

Resources Mentioned:

Take the free Stress Type Quiz to discover your go-to stress response and learn how to manage it better. sonderalife.com/podquiz

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro
A teaser that hints at the power of three simple words to change conflict dynamics.
00:33 – Welcome Back
Kristen and Scott set the tone for the episode, with their signature humor and relatability.
01:07 – Why This Conversation Matters
Acknowledging the discomfort many feel around conflict and why this episode can help.
02:07 – The 3 Words That Can Diffuse Conflict
Hinting at the phrase and setting up the deeper conversation.
03:04 – Conflict Styles: Let’s Talk Marriage
Sharing personal dynamics and funny “boxing ring” moments in their relationship.
04:12 – How Childhood Shapes Conflict Views
Exploring how witnessing (or not witnessing) parental conflict influences adult behavior.
06:59 – Conflict Without Resolution = Loneliness
Why shielding children from conflict may unintentionally create shame or disconnection.
08:25 – Why Conflict Escalates So Quickly
The difference between seeing conflict as a battleground vs. a bridge to connection.
10:52 – Personal Story: Feeling Unheard
Kristen shares an early marriage experience of raising her voice out of a stress response.
12:01 – The 4 Stress Responses Explained
Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn — and how each one shows up in arguments.
20:14 – The Biology of Conflict & Reactivity
Understanding the brain’s survival mode and how we default to training.
21:53 – The 3 Words Revealed: “Help Me Understand”
Why they work, how to use them effectively, and how tone matters.
24:41 – Why Curiosity Is the Secret to Diffusion
Using these words to create emotional safety and open communication.
25:56 – Practical Examples
Turning blame into inquiry, using better language in heated moments.
28:12 – Kids, Miscommunication & Listening Skills
Lessons learned from parenting about storytelling, perception, and repair.
30:10 – Avoiding Passive Aggression & Fighting Dirty
How to keep the conversation respectful and focused on connection.
36:30 – How “Help Me Understand” Helps Each Stress Type
Breaking down how the phrase regulates Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn responses.
39:23 – Staying Present in Conflict
How to use this approach to build secure attachment and deeper intimacy.
40:54 – Happy Well Homework
Your action steps for reflecting on past conflict and practicing the three-word tool.
43:39 – Closing & Resources
How to take the free Stress Type Quiz and join the conversation online.

Ep. 12 “Why Am I Like This?” — Understanding Your Hidden Stress Response

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 02 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Episode Summary:

Ever find yourself asking, "Why am I like this?"—especially when old habits creep in, despite your best efforts to change? This episode dives into the hidden patterns driving your behavior, especially in moments of stress.

In this lively and relatable conversation, the hosts break down the four core nervous system stress responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how they manifest in everyday life, from procrastination and perfectionism to people-pleasing and overworking. You’ll learn how these instinctive reactions influence everything from your personal goals to your relationships and leadership at work.

This isn’t about fixing who you are—it’s about understanding how you respond to stress so you can pause, regulate, and make more aligned choices. The hosts also introduce a powerful new tool: the free APT (Adaptive Personality Type) quiz to help you identify your stress response and learn practical, personalized tools to regulate it.

What You'll Learn:

Why common behaviors like procrastination or overcommitting are actually stress responses
The difference between reacting and responding to stress—and why that matters
How stress patterns show up in business, relationships, parenting, and personal growth
The four main stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and their deeper subtypes
How awareness of your "adaptive type" can transform your habits and relationships
Why emotional resilience might just be the key to a truly successful life

Key Takeaways:

You’re not broken—your patterns are protective responses wired for safety.
Each stress type requires different tools; growth isn’t one-size-fits-all.
The pause between a trigger and your reaction is where real change begins.
Emotional regulation is one of the most underrated skills for personal and professional success.

Resources & Links:

Take the Free APT Quiz: sonderalife.com
Join the Podcast Facebook Community here.
Learn more about Sondera Coaching and Tools: sonderalife.com

00:00 – Cold Open: Why do I keep doing things I don’t want to do? The relatable start to the episode.

00:27 – Welcome & Vibes: The hosts set the tone for a “short, sweet, and punchy” episode—and yes, Oreos and treadmills are back again.

01:30 – Personal Habits We Can't Break: Real-life confessions about staying up too late and tinkering with tasks—what avoidance really looks like.

03:00 – The Real Topic: Understanding why we repeat patterns that don’t serve us—and how short-term relief keeps us stuck long-term.

04:45 – When Plans Meet Reality: How stress derails habit-building and why our big goals often collapse under pressure.

05:45 – The Frustrated Question: Why we should shift from “Why am I like this?” to curious self-inquiry.

06:30 – What Is a Stress Response? Redefining stress—not just deadlines, but anything that feels like strain on the nervous system.

08:00 – The Four Stress Types Overview: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn—what they look like and why your body reacts this way.

09:45 – Can We Eliminate Stress Entirely? Why healthy stress matters and how resilience is built through managing it—not avoiding it.

12:00 – The Muscle Metaphor: How your mental health and emotional capacity atrophy without regular, healthy “strain.”

13:30 – Real-World Examples of Stress Types: From productivity spirals to perfection paralysis, how each stress type plays out day-to-day.

17:00 – Fawn Response Deep Dive: Why some people sacrifice their needs to maintain harmony—and how it derails personal growth.

19:15 – Why Awareness is the First Step: Your stress type isn’t your personality—it’s your default mode when your nervous system is activated.

21:30 – Marriage & Business Impacts: How stress responses affect connection, delegation, leadership, and communication.

25:00 – Regulating vs. Reacting: You can’t change your knee-jerk stress response—but you can pause, regulate, and choose differently.

27:30 – Why Self-Help Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All: The same productivity tools won’t work for everyone—your stress type needs specific strategies.

29:00 – The APT Quiz Breakdown: How the 10 Adaptive Personality Types were built and how to find yours with the free quiz.

31:30 – What ‘Sondera’ Really Means: Why the company name reflects both self-awareness and collective empathy.

33:30 – From Donut Ladies to Car Dealers: Why stress regulation isn’t just personal—it changes how you show up in the world.

36:45 – Breakthrough Moments from Real People: Powerful insights from couples and individuals on how their stress responses shape their relationships.

39:30 – Happywell Homework: Take the free APT quiz and reflect on who you are when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired (HALT).

41:30 – One Tiny Action Step: Three-second belly breaths—how a small pause can change your entire pattern.

43:00 – Final Thoughts & Call to Action: Take the quiz at sonderalife.com and share your type in the Facebook community.

Ep. 11 Toxic Productivity: When Getting Things Done Becomes Self-Harm

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 26 May 2025 03:00:00 -0600

In this powerful and introspective episode of The Pursuit of Happywell, hosts Kristen and Scott dive into the culturally normalized trap of toxic productivity—the relentless drive to produce at the cost of your wellbeing. They explore how productivity becomes harmful when it's used to outrun shame, anxiety, or a fear of stillness, and why rest isn't laziness, it's necessary.

Through candid storytelling and relatable insights, they unpack how hustle culture is subtly rewarded and how society often praises the very behaviors that are emotionally and physically depleting us. Kristin shares vulnerable reflections on her personal journey with burnout, shame-driven work habits, and the process of redefining success through rest, restoration, and presence.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for taking a break, equated your worth with your output, or struggled to slow down without spiraling into self-criticism, this episode will resonate deeply.

What You’ll Learn:

What toxic productivity is and how it masquerades as success.
Why slowing down feels unsafe for many people—and how to reframe rest as productive.
How cultural and internalized narratives feed the hustle and prevent healing.
The science behind our stress responses and the importance of psychological safety.
Practical steps to protect your wellbeing and shift away from soul-draining productivity.

Key Takeaways:

Toxic productivity is self-harm disguised as achievement.
Culture reinforces the idea that “busy” equals “worthy.”
Rest is not laziness—it’s how we protect the asset: ourselves.
Stillness is deeply uncomfortable at first, but essential for healing.
New life metrics rooted in peace, meaning, and presence are the antidote.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro & what to expect in this episode
01:00 – Defining toxic productivity
02:45 – How culture and shame drive the hustle
05:00 – Why rest feels unsafe and the internal cost
12:00 – The myth of “busy” as a badge of honor
18:30 – Stillness as medicine for the soul
24:00 – Protecting your production capacity
30:00 – New metrics: from doing to being
36:00 – Happywell Homework: Stillness without metrics

Ep. 10 Dream or Drain? The Rise of the Intrapreneur

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 19 May 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Episode Summary:

In this powerful and truth-packed episode, Kristen and Scott Boss challenge the glorified narrative of entrepreneurship that’s been sold to so many—especially in the age of hustle culture and Instagram highlight reels. Not everyone is made to be an entrepreneur, and that’s not a flaw. In fact, it could be your biggest strength.

If you've ever felt burned out by building a business, questioned whether you're "wired for this," or wondered if there's a better way to do fulfilling work without the crushing pressure of being your own boss, this episode is your sigh of relief.

They break down the common myths that sell a glamorized version of entrepreneurship—like "be your own boss," "work when you want," and "do what you love"—and expose the real stressors that come with the entrepreneurial life, including decision fatigue, emotional isolation, identity fusion, and uncertainty overload.

Then, they introduce a refreshing and empowering alternative: the intrapreneur—the visionary team player who thrives within someone else's mission. You’ll discover the signs that you might be one and explore a list of exciting, flexible, high-impact roles you might have overlooked.

This episode is your permission slip to pursue meaningful work that energizes you—instead of draining you.

What You’ll Learn:

Why entrepreneurship might not be the right path for everyone—and why that’s okay
The sneaky myths that lead people into burnout and self-doubt
The real difference between entrepreneurs and intrapreneurs
10+ career paths where you can thrive without carrying all the risk
How to identify whether you're a firestarter or a firekeeper (and why the world needs both)
How to align your work with your strengths, energy, and season of life

Key Takeaways:

You don’t need to be a founder to change lives—you just need alignment and fulfillment.
Entrepreneurship can be for anyone, but not everyone should do it.
Intrapreneurs are the under-celebrated powerhouses behind every thriving business.
There's a big difference between time freedom and free time.
The myth of "do what you love" often overlooks the 80% of work that isn't in your zone of genius.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Timestamps:

0:00 – Why not everyone should be an entrepreneur

2:30 – Debunking the “be your own boss” myth

6:00 – The illusion of time freedom

9:30 – Doing what you love vs. doing everything

13:00 – The money myth: Stability vs. unpredictability

15:30 – Are you really wired for this?

17:00 – The stressors that drain entrepreneurs

29:00 – Entrepreneur vs. Intrapreneur

33:00 – Signs you might be an intrapreneur

41:00 – 10 energizing intrapreneur career ideas

50:00 – Homework: Is your dream actually a drain?

Ep. 9 Money, Marriage & Meltdowns: Healing Financial Fights with Connection

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 12 May 2025 03:00:00 -0600

What happens when the “money talk” in marriage goes sideways—like, full-on flop-to-the-floor dramatic? In this candid and often hilarious episode, your favorite husband-wife duo unpacks the deep emotional layers tied to money in relationships. From childhood money stories to budgeting meltdowns (yes, there was floor-throwing), they get real about how financial conversations became less contentious and more connective over the years.

This isn’t a budget spreadsheet how-to—this is the emotional psychology of how couples navigate money, power, autonomy, and values. You’ll hear about their first budgeting disaster, secret spending (ahem, Kohl's card), revenge buying, and ultimately how they found peace through shared vision, regular money dates, and understanding each other’s financial triggers.

What You’ll Learn:

Why 57% of divorces link back to money—and what you can do to avoid becoming that stat
How to identify and reframe your childhood money stories
The difference between budgeting for control vs. budgeting for connection
What “revenge spending” looks like and why it’s more common than you think
How to use “green light, yellow light, red light” decisions to prevent resentment
How to start having safe, emotionally intelligent money talks with your partner

Key Takeaways:

Money isn’t just about dollars—it's about emotional safety and autonomy

Consistent, low-stress money check-ins can be intimacy-building

Sharing a financial vision helps couples stop fighting and start dreaming

Timestamps:

00:01 – Why money is the #2 reason for divorce

03:00 – The first budgeting fight (feat. a dramatic floor dive)

10:00 – How childhood shaped their views on money and control

16:30 – Spending vs. saving vs. shared vision

25:00 – Secret spending, autonomy, and “beauty budgets”

34:00 – Revenge spending (and how they caught themselves)

39:00 – Using the green-yellow-red light system for decisions

44:00 – How they made budgeting fun with sushi and values alignment

49:00 – This week’s Happy Well Homework challenge

Thanks for listening! Reminder: there are still tickets available for the Breakthrough Live Summit happening this Friday, May 16th. Kristen and Scott will guide participants through exercises designed to create breakthrough, clarity, and forward momentum. Find out more and grab your ticket here.

Ep. 8 Behind the Scenes: The Raw Truth About Starting Over

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 05 May 2025 03:00:00 -0600

In this raw and candid behind-the-scenes episode, Kristen and Scott peel back the curtain on what it’s really like to start something new — together. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, changing careers, or simply stepping into a new life chapter, this conversation is for you.

They dive into the high hopes, uncertainties, and unexpected lessons that come when you're building from scratch — all while doing life alongside your spouse. With very little prep and a whole lot of heart, they share stories about startup challenges, unexpected arguments (like co-working chaos and company names!), imposter syndrome, hiring a team, and staying grounded when the doubts creep in.

This episode will inspire you to embrace uncertainty, trust the messy middle, and stay true to yourself even when reinvention feels scary.

In This Episode, You'll Hear:

Why uncertainty is a sign you're growing, not failing
The surprising emotional work behind launching a startup
How working with your spouse can be hilarious (and humbling)
What to do when imposter syndrome tries to sabotage your momentum
The power of redefining success and setting new "life metrics"
How they are intentionally building a mission-driven company without burning out

Key Takeaways:

Both excitement and doubt are normal when stepping into the unknown. Growth always brings resistance.
Building a company (or a new chapter) is more about intentionality and less about hustle.
You don't have to be an "expert" — sharing your experience with authenticity can be even more powerful.
Protect your energy by honoring your current season and capacity.
Moving from "me" to "we" thinking can transform how you experience change and leadership.

Episode Timestamps:

00:00 — Intro: Taking Big Leaps and Asking, "What Did I Just Sign Up For?"
01:30 — The Reality of Starting Over (With Your Spouse)
04:00 — Startup Expectations vs. Reality
06:50 — Our Funniest Fights While Building Together
12:30 — The "Uh-Oh" Moment That Made It Real
17:30 — How This New Venture Changed Us Personally
24:00 — Lessons on Unlearning Hyper-Independence
30:00 — Feeling Like Imposters — And What Helped Us Through It
40:00 — Life Is Always Life-ing: How to Keep Building Anyway
48:00 — Holding Both Excitement and Terror
55:00 — How We Support Each Other When One of Us Spirals

If you're navigating a new beginning right now or looking to get inspired in your current season of life, Kristen and Scott would like to invite you to join their upcoming Breakthrough Live Summit. While the in-person event is sold out, virtual tickets are available for the May 16th intensive, where they'll guide participants through exercises designed to create breakthrough, clarity, and forward momentum. Find out more and grab your ticket here.

Ep. 7 Millennials and the Midlife Crisis: A Generational Shift

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Did you know millennials are experiencing midlife crises between 30-45, much earlier than previous generations? In this illuminating episode, Scott and Kristen reframe what we've been calling a "crisis" and reveal why it might actually be your greatest opportunity for growth.

What you'll discover:

Why the traditional view of midlife crisis (sports cars and impulsive decisions) misses the deeper transformation happening
Carl Jung's powerful concept of the "two halves of life" and what each half is truly about
The difference between building your container (first half) and filling it with meaning (second half)
What happens when you cling to your first-half metrics while your soul is crying out for second-half depth
Two profound questions to help you navigate this transition with intention instead of panic

"Midlife is not about you going crazy. It's about you waking up to yourself and realizing what actually matters." - Kristen

Tune in to discover how shifting from "crisis" to "breakthrough" can transform this challenging transition into the most meaningful chapter of your life.

Share this episode with anyone wondering "is this it?" or contemplating a major life change without understanding the deeper shift happening underneath.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Ep. 6 The Myth of Busyness: Are We Really Productive?

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 21 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Your calendar is packed. You're constantly checking items off your to-do list. So why does it feel like you're not getting anywhere? In this eye-opening episode, Scott and Kristen reveal how busyness has become our newest form of procrastination.

What you'll discover:

The shocking Harvard Business Review stat about how much time we waste on tasks that don't contribute to our long-term goals
Why being "productive" doesn't necessarily mean being "effective" (and how to tell the difference)
How staying busy can actually be a clever form of avoidance and emotional numbing
The uncomfortable truth behind the statement: "Anyone can pretend to be busy, but you can't pretend to be effective"
Four revealing questions to determine if you're trapped in motion without progress

"Being effective isn't about doing more. It's about doing what matters." - Scott

Tune in to break free from the cycle of constant motion and learn how to create meaningful progress in your life and work.

This episode is for every busy professional, entrepreneur, and caregiver who's ever wondered why all their effort isn't translating to the results they want.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Ep. 5 Why Motivation Sets You Up for Failure (And What to Do Instead)

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 14 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Struggling to stick with your goals? In this eye-opening episode, Scott and Kristen challenge the common belief that all you need is motivation and willpower to create lasting change in your life.

What you'll discover:

The surprising reason 92% of New Year's resolutions fail by February
Why willpower is like a muscle that fatigues (and what that means for your goals)
The powerful truth behind James Clear's quote: "You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems"
How your environment might be secretly sabotaging your best intentions
Simple strategies to build habits that stick even when motivation vanishes

"Motivation might get you going, but systems will keep you growing." - Scott

Tune in to discover why those bursts of inspiration keep fizzling out and learn the practical framework that actually creates lasting change in your life.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Ep. 4 The Invisible Load: Why You’re So Exhausted

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 07 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Feel constantly drained but can't figure out why? In this eye-opening episode, Scott and Kristen dive into "the invisible load" – the unseen mental and emotional labor that's silently draining your energy.

What you'll discover:

The shocking truth about how much time the average woman spends on invisible labor each year
Why your brain is like a computer with too many tabs open (and how to close them)
The hidden reason behind relationship strain that often leads to "silent quitting" in marriages
How different generations experience unique invisible burdens (especially the "sandwich generation")
Practical strategies to lighten your mental load without dropping important responsibilities

"The invisible load is the constant internal chatter and noise of running your day-to-day life... and I believe that is where a lot of strain, stress, burnout, and exhaustion really comes from." - Kristen

Tune in to understand why you're so tired, learn to communicate your needs, and discover how to create systems that support rather than overwhelm you.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell! Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com.

Ep. 3 Decoding Self-Sabotage

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 31 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0600

Ever wonder why you reach for the cookies when you're on a diet? Or why you scroll through social media instead of tackling that important project? In this episode, Scott and Kristen reveal the surprising truth about self-sabotage: it's not what you think.

What you'll discover:

Why self-sabotage is actually your brain's way of protecting you
The real reason you avoid certain tasks (hint: it's not the task itself)
How your "frustration tolerance" might be the key to unlocking your success
Scott's eye-opening physical therapy moment that changed everything
Four practical tools to break free from self-defeating patterns

"It's not your fault that you self-sabotage, but it is your responsibility to do something about it." - Kristen

Tune in to transform your relationship with change and finally stop getting in your own way.

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell! Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Ep. 2 The Surprising Science to Happiness

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 24 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0600

What if the secret to happiness isn't the bigger house, higher salary, or more Instagram followers? In this illuminating episode, Scott and Kristen dive into Harvard's groundbreaking 75-year happiness study that challenges everything we've been taught about success and fulfillment.

What you'll discover:

The "Emerald City Illusion" that keeps us chasing the wrong things
Five surprising factors that actually determine your happiness (backed by science!)
The shocking truth about loneliness (it's as bad for your health as what?)
Scott and Kristen's personal "rude awakening" after achieving conventional success
One simple action you can take today to boost your well-being

"Your money doesn't get you through hard times. I believe your people do." - Scott

Tune in to discover what truly creates a happy, well-lived life — and why it might be simpler than you think.

Don't wait for a crisis to build community. As Kristen warns: "The next time you think about canceling those plans because you're too tired, cool. Then grab 15 cigarettes, because that's what you just did."

We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

Ep. 1 The Pursuit that Really Matters

Kristen and Scott Boss — Mon, 17 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0600

In this debut episode of The Pursuit of Happy Well, hosts Scott and Kristen introduce themselves and their vision for the show. After building a successful business that generated over $20 million in sales and served 8,000 students, they realized they needed to pivot toward something more aligned with what truly lit them up - helping people create fulfilled, balanced lives beyond just business success.

Episode Highlights:

Our Story: Scott and Kristen share their journey as entrepreneurs, coaches, and a married couple of 13 years living in Colorado with their two kids and two dogs.
Why We Pivoted: Though they built a successful business teaching entrepreneurship, they discovered their greatest impact came from helping people transform their entire lives, not just their businesses.
The Birth of Happy Well: Inspired by Harvard's 75-year Grant Study on human happiness (the longest-running study on happiness), Scott and Kristen introduce the concept of being "happy well" - both fulfilled in life and physically healthy.
Our Mission: The hosts explain how they aim to disrupt the personal development industry by moving beyond mere consumption of content to actual implementation that creates transformation.
What to Expect: Each episode will feature meaningful conversations about navigating life well, interviews with people who are living according to their own success metrics, and practical discussions of life's big questions backed by research and statistics.
Our Promise: Unlike traditional personal development content that often leaves you unchanged, The Pursuit of Happy Well is designed to help you take action, redefine your metrics for a well-lived life, and resist the "propaganda machine" of marketing that constantly tells you that you need more to be happy.

Join us on this journey of discovering what truly matters in creating a happy, well-lived life tailored to your unique values and goals. We also have an active community for listeners of The Pursuit of Happywell. Join our community on facebook: The Pursuit of Happywell Community or find the website at LiveHappywell.com

The Pursuit of Happywell OFFICIAL TRAILER!!!

Kristen and Scott Boss — Wed, 12 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0600

The secret is out! Kristen and Scott Boss are partnering up for a brand new podcast, "The Pursuit of Happywell." New episodes will be dropping every Monday (episode 1 is coming to you on March 17, 2025!). Come get your weekly Monday Mindset Drop with Kristen and Scott and be sure to join our podcast community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/pursuitofhappywell