Paths to Parenthub Podcast

Season 4 Finale: Busting the Myths Around Egg Donation in Cyprus

Fri, 10 Apr 2026 05:00:00 +0100

In this final episode of Season 4 of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast, Becky and Hayley are joined by Evgenia, Anastasia and Christiana from Ovacy Egg Bank to bust some of the most common myths surrounding egg donation in Cyprus.

This is an honest and reflective conversation, with Becky and Hayley acknowledging that some of these misconceptions are ones they previously believed. As more UK patients look overseas for donor eggs, understanding the differences between countries and systems has never been more important.

Together, they unpack how egg donation works in the Republic of Cyprus, including recent legislative changes that allow for open ID donation, bringing greater choice and alignment with UK practices.

The episode also explores regulation and oversight, referencing a recent shocking news headline involving a clinic in Northern Cyprus. This highlights the importance of understanding that Cyprus is not one uniform destination for fertility treatment. The team clearly explain the differences between the Republic of Cyprus and the occupied north, including the robust regulatory frameworks, government oversight and adherence to EU directives in the Republic.

They also clarify how donor eggs can be safely and legally imported into the UK through clinics that meet Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority requirements.

The conversation explores donor care, including psychological screening, support and wellbeing, alongside the quality standards and matching processes involved. It also touches on how donor information is recorded and what this means for donor-conceived people, particularly with open ID donation.

This episode offers a clear and balanced look at egg donation in Cyprus, helping intended parents feel more informed and confident in their decisions.

For more information about our supporters of Season 4, OVACY Egg Bank, please head over to their website at www.ovacy.com

One Family, Three Conception Stories: A Conversation with Sarah

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0100

In this deeply personal and insightful episode of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast, we speak with Sarah from Toronto, a mum to three children, each conceived in a different way.

Sarah shares the story of how she and her husband navigated medical diagnoses, complex decision making, and the emotional realities of fertility treatment and donor conception. With honesty and warmth, she reflects on the path that led them to building their family, a path that wasn’t linear, but one that ultimately brought them three much loved children.

We explore:

How medical diagnoses shaped their family building decisions
The emotional process of moving towards donor conception
What donor selection was like in practice
Navigating different conception stories within one family
How they are talking to their children about their origin stories
Why openness and honesty matter in their home

Sarah speaks candidly about raising children who each have slightly different conception stories, and how, despite those differences, they are loved, supported and valued in exactly the same way. This episode is a powerful reminder that there is no single way to build a family, and that children thrive in homes grounded in honesty, security and love.

If you are navigating medical diagnosis, considering donor conception, or thinking about how to talk to your children about their story, this conversation offers reassurance, perspective and thoughtful insight – especially for those seeking insight into a family of mixed genetics.

Season 4 of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast is proudly supported by Ovacy Egg Bank, who support a range of family types and pathways for those using donor eggs - You can learn more Ovacy by visiting their website www.ovacy.com

The Questions You Might Not Think to Ask: Talking to Egg and Sperm Banks

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode of the Paths to Parenthub podcast, Hayley and Becky sit down to explore the questions they believe can be helpful for intended parents to ask their egg or sperm bank, or fertility clinic, when considering donor conception.

Rather than focusing on the usual “how to choose a donor” conversation, this episode looks at some of the less obvious questions that can shape long term experiences for families. Drawing on their many years of working in this space, and the insight gained from supporting parents, donors and donor conceived people, Hayley and Becky reflect on what they have learned along the way, and how perspectives often change over time.

This episode is not intended as a definitive or “must ask” checklist. Instead, it offers a gentle introduction to topics and considerations that may help you feel more informed and confident as you make decisions that are right for your family.

The conversation follows on from Becky and Hayley’s recent visit to Cyprus to OVACY Egg Bank, who are also supporting Season 4 of the podcast, and includes reflections inspired by what they saw and discussed during their time there. You can find our more about OVACY Egg Bank and their donors via their website at www.ovacy.com.

This episode mentions one of our most popular free downloadable resources, available via our website. Get your copy at www.pathstoparenthub.com/free-resources/

‘Top Questions to Ask Your Egg and Sperm Bank’

In the Donor’s Voice: Completing the Triangle

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 05:00:00 +0100

In this special episode, Hayley and Becky are joined by an egg donor, sharing her story under the alias “Snow”.

This conversation brings together three lived perspectives on donor conception. Hayley, a donor conceived person, Becky a mum through egg donation and ‘Snow’ an egg donor herself.

Together, they explore what motivates someone to donate, what the donation process is really like, and how donors think about the people and children who may exist because of their decision. “Snow” also takes the opportunity to ask Hayley and Becky questions, opening up an honest, two way conversation that is rarely heard in fertility spaces.

With increasing numbers of donor gametes being imported for treatment in the UK, this episode offers a valuable opportunity to hear directly from someone with lived donor experience, alongside recipient and donor conceived voices. It is a thoughtful, human discussion that highlights the importance of openness, reflection and understanding in donor conception.

This episode is supported by Ovacy Egg Bank, for more information about their donors and treatment options please see their website, www.ovacy.com. For more information about the support on offer at Paths to Parenthub, including specific webinar content that discusses donor motivations and associated research see www.pathstoparenthub.com.

Building Ethical Fertility Care: A Conversation with Dr Mavrides

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Becky and Hayley are joined by Dr Mavrides, consultant obstetrician, gynaecologist and fertility specialist, and Founder of ISIS Fertility Clinic and OVACY Egg Bank. They reflect on their visit to the clinic earlier this year, while also exploring Dr Mavrides’ personal journey, the history of the clinic, and the values that underpin its work.

In this episode, they discuss:

The story behind ISIS Fertility Clinic and OVACY Egg Bank
Becky and Hayley’s first hand experience visiting the clinic
Fertility treatment in the Republic of Cyprus, and how it differs from other areas of Cyprus
Changing anonymity laws around donation in Cyprus and what this could mean for future families
The donor experience at OVACY, including donor care, welfare, and psychological assessments
How OVACY Egg Bank works with UK HFEA licensed clinics to provide donor eggs to UK patients

For more information about OVACY Egg Bank please see their website, www.ovacy.com

Other links mentioned during episode, www.pathstoparenthub.com

Season 4 of the Paths to Parenthub podcast is proudly supported by Ovacy Egg Bank.

Inside an Overseas Egg Bank - Becky & Hayley’s Honest Reflections

Fri, 19 Dec 2025 05:00:00 +0100

Welcome to Season 4 of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast!

In this opening episode, Becky and Hayley take you with them on a deeply personal and eye opening journey to Ovacy, an overseas egg bank in Cyprus. This season is unlike anything we’ve shared before, candid, reflective, and rooted in real time experiences.

A key focus of this episode is Becky and Hayley exploring the fact that Ovacy now supplies donor eggs to HFEA regulated clinics in the UK, and unpacking what that means in practice for intended parents and families formed through donor conception. From donor recruitment and screening, to regulation, transport, and the way UK clinics work with overseas egg banks, they break down a process that is often misunderstood.

This episode sets the scene for the season ahead, offering transparency around overseas fertility care, donor egg pathways, and addressing the questions so many people back home are asking but rarely get clear answers to.

Whether you’re considering donor eggs through a UK clinic, exploring overseas options, supporting someone who is, or simply want to better understand how these systems work together, this season - and specifically this first episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why Becky and Hayley chose to visit an overseas egg bank

• Ovacy’s role in supplying Open ID donor eggs to HFEA regulated UK clinics

• What that pathway looks like for UK patients

• First impressions of Ovacy in Cyprus

• What they saw behind the scenes

• Honest reflections on the emotional impact of being there

• What they want intended parents back home to know

This season is about education, openness, and lived experience, and it starts here.

Series 4 of the Paths to Parenthub podcast is proudly supported by Ovacy Egg Bank. For more information about Ovacy please head over to their website .

https://ovacy.com/. For information about the ISIS fertility clinic please see their website https://isisclinic.com/

mentions in episode include the bbc article re sperm donor breaching family limits https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckgmy90z991o.amp

eshre draft proposal to introduce international family limits on donation, have your say https://www.eshre.eu/Europe/Position-statements/Stakeholder-review?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPMTI0MDI0NTc0Mjg3NDE0AAGnqjeZPePuWQDWZetsXB0zKRZ-hdsJKCdcO5byAUhk4Gm37F02eKtu1EoWQsI_aem_2lavQnKin96jdUrHMKzLmw

Episode 6: Inside ESHRE 2025 - Reflections, Research and Real Conversations on Donor Conception

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 05:00:00 +0100

In this season finale of season 3 of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast, Becky and Hayley are back from an incredible trip to ESHRE Paris 2025 – one of the biggest reproductive medicine conferences in the world – and they’re sharing all about it!

During this special episode, Becky and Hayley discuss what it was like to be surrounded by leading experts, the key conversations that stood out, and how research connects to the real experiences of families created through donation.

During this conversation, they also bring you exclusive insights from three leading researchers in the field of donor conception - Professor Vasanti Jadva, Astrid Indekeu and Dr Sophie Zadeh. Through their questions, Becky and Hayley gain unique insight into the researcher’s thoughts and opinions on key donor conception topics, capturing meaningful responses that shine a light on where research is heading and why it matters.

It’s a reflective, insightful and inspiring episode that brings together science, story and the heart of what Paths to Parenthub is all about - learning, connection and community.

Other mentions in this episode – our free ‘Why Telling Matters’ webinar. You can sign up via our website: www.pathstoparenthub.com/free-resources/

If you’d like to find out more about the Paths to Parenthub community membership, head to our website or connect with us on socials.

This season is supported by TV Edwards Solicitors. To learn more about their services or to book an appointment with Anest Mathias, visit www.tvedwards.com/person/anest-mathias/

Episode 5: Akua’s story – Surrogacy, Sperm Donation and Finding Strength in Adversity

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 05:00:00 +0100

Warning: Discussions of birth trauma during parts of this episode

In this heartfelt episode of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast, Becvky and Hayley are joined by Akua, who openly shares her family building story as a mum through surrogacy and sperm donation with her husband.

Akua talks candidly about the many challenges she and her husband faced along the way, including navigating fertility struggles, choosing a donor who reflected her husband’s heritage, finding a surrogate, and managing the unexpected reality of a cancer diagnosis in the middle of their journey.

Today, Akua is the proud mum of three amazing girls. She reflects on the role of support, community, and Paths to Parenthub membership in helping her through the highs and lows of the process. She also shares practical tips for talking with children about surrogacy and donor conception, and why honesty and openness are so important.

This is a powerful, moving conversation filled with insight, resilience, and hope, one that will resonate with anyone navigating donor conception, surrogacy, or supporting families who are.

Other mentions in this episode – our free ‘Why Telling Matters’ webinar, head over to our website, www.pathstoparenthub.com/free-resources/ to get your link. The Paths to Parenthub community membership, details can be found via our website or checking us out on socials.

The season is supported by TV Edwards Solicitors. For more information about the services they provide or to arrange an appointment with Anest Mathias please head over to their website www.tvedwards.com/person/anest-mathias/

Using a Known Donor at a UK HFEA Clinic - What You Need to Know

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 05:00:00 +0100

In this special episode of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast, Becky and Hayley are joined by not one, but two leading specialists in donor conception. We welcome Anest Mathias, solicitor and legal expert at TV Edwards, and Mr. James Nicolopoulos, consultant gynaecologist at The Lister Clinic, to explore a topic that is often less talked about: using a known egg or sperm donor at a UK HFEA licensed clinic.

Together, they unpack:

The step by step process of using a known donor in a clinic setting
Legal, medical, and emotional considerations for intended parents and donors
The potential pros and cons of this path to parenthood
What needs to be considered if using a known donor outside of a clinic, and how the legal position can differ
The wider implications for families and children
Honest, frank conversations to help bring greater clarity and confidence

If you’ve ever wondered what this journey looks like, this episode will give you valuable insights from both the legal and medical perspectives, helping you make informed decisions.

For more free resources and support see our website www.pathstoparenthub.com or follow us on Instagram @path_to_parenthub

For all your legal advice see Tv Edwards solicitors https://tvedwards.com/person/anest-mathias/

Bonus Episode – Trying to Conceive? You Don’t Want to Miss This!

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 05:00:00 +0100

In this bonus episode of the Paths to Parenthub Podcast, Becky and Hayley are back to share something very special – the return of their much-loved in-person event: Donor Conception: Connecting Through Conversations.

Now in its 4th year running, this sold-out every time event is designed for:

Those considering donor conception
Anyone currently trying to conceive
People pregnant after donor conception

It’s a whole day dedicated to support, connection, and community, where you’ll meet others who truly understand the journey you’re on.

Early bird pricing ends 7th September – don’t wait! Solo, couples and professional tickets available.

Find all the details and book your place at pathstoparenthub.com under Events.

We cannot wait to see you there!

Episode 3: Cerith’s Story – Navigating Donor Conception, Whilst Waiting to be a Dad

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 05:00:00 +0100

In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode, Becky is joined by actor, celebrant, and motivational speaker Cerith Jones, who shares his and his wife’s ongoing journey to parenthood using donor sperm.

After 18 years on stage and screen (with roles in Eastenders, Wolfblood, Hollyoaks and more), Cerith is now telling a different kind of story - his own. Living with male infertility (non-obstructive azoospermia), Cerith opens up about the emotional impact of diagnosis, the reality of life in limbo, and what it means to keep showing up with hope, even when the outcome is still uncertain.

With humour, vulnerability, and depth, Cerith breaks the silence around male infertility and donor conception, speaking candidly about identity, partnership, and staying connected through the unknowns.

This episode is a must listen for anyone navigating donor conception, feeling stuck in the waiting, or seeking strength in shared stories.

For more information about our supportive community at Paths to Parenthub, please see our website www.pathstoparenthub.com or follow us on Instagram @paths_to_parenthub

You can follow Cerith on Instagram too @flinncerith

A huge thank you to our podcast supporters for Season 3, TV Edwards Solicitors. You can learn more about their services and book a call with Anest Mathias via their website www.tvedwards.com/person/anest-mathias/

Episode 2: Alexa’s Story: Egg Donation, and Uncovering More Than She Expected

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 05:00:00 +0100

In this powerful episode of Season 3, Becky and Hayley are joined by Alexa, a Canadian based mum whose journey to parenthood through known egg donation is full of unexpected twists, turns and emotional complexity.

Alexa shares her experience of navigating fertility treatment with honesty, offering a window into the emotional and practical realities of building a family through egg donation. She offers thoughtful advice and heartfelt insight for would-be parents considering donor conception, speaking with frankness, warmth, and compassionate reflection. Alexa and her husband are now parents to a beautiful baby boy, but the road to get there was far from simple, with some VERY unexpected twists along the way.

Later in the episode, UK family law solicitor Anest Mathias from TV Edwards Solicitors returns to offer expert legal insight, this time focusing on the rights of donor conceived people in the UK, a vital area for anyone thinking about the long-term impact of their family building decisions.

Whether you’re just beginning to explore donor conception, in the thick of the journey, or supporting others through it, this episode is for you.

Mentions in the episode: Dani Shapiro’s memoir ‘Inheritance’.

For more information about our Paths to Parenthub membership www.pathstoparenthub.com

Supporters of Season 3 – TV Edwards, for more information about their legal services head to www.tvedwards.com/person/anest-mathias/

Episode 1: Cristina’s Story - One Mum’s Truth in Choosing Egg Donation

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 05:00:00 +0100

Welcome to Season 3 of The Paths to Parenthub Podcast, where we’re diving deeper into the world of donor conception, blending powerful lived experiences with vital legal insight.

In this first episode, Becky and Hayley speak with Cristina, a mum who shares her moving journey to parenthood through egg donation as part of a mum-dad family. Cristina opens up with honesty and warmth about what it meant to let go of a genetic connection, how she and her partner navigated the decision together, and how they now embrace openness in telling their child’s story.

This episode offers comfort, raw truths, and reassurance for anyone grappling with the complex emotions that often accompany donor conception.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Cristina’s path to choosing egg donation and how the decision unfolded as a couple
The emotional process of having children with her genetics, and then a further child using a donor
Reflections on identity, love, and what truly makes a parent
How Cristina approaches openness with her child
The importance of finding connection and representation along the way

Plus: Legal Insight from Anest Mathias (TV Edwards)

At the end of this episode, specialist family law solicitor Anest Mathias answers a key legal question related to Cristina’s story.

TV Edwards are the proud supporters of Season 3 of The Paths to Parenthub Podcast. You can learn more about the family law services Anest and the team at TV Edwards provide here www.tvedwards.com/person/anest-mathias/

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Exciting news...

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +0100

In this mini-episode, listen as Becky and Hayley announce that season three of the podcast is underway and learn more about the upcoming Donor Conception Virtual Summit happening in April - an event not to be missed!

Link to get tickets - www.pathstoparenthub.com/virtual-summit

I sold my eggs to pay my rent’ - how one comedy sketch affected so many

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode of the podcast, Becky and Hayley address the upset that was caused by a series of comedy sketches from a UK comedian, which centred around her experience as an egg donor. The sketches sparked widespread upset among our audience, amplifying deeper fears and concerns that are often felt by our community members.

In an attempt to address the issue, Becky and Hayley explore how the sketches, intended as humour, inadvertently tapped into larger, unresolved complexities of donor, recipient and donor conceived relationships. The episode reflects on how comedy can sometimes unintentionally compound sensitive issues, leaving audiences feeling unsettled and vulnerable. Throughout the conversation, Becky and Hayley offer reassurance and provide practical advice for processing these emotions, guiding listeners through how to manage their feelings and navigate these difficult and often triggering topics with care and compassion.

Show notes

*Original recordings of reels taken from Instagram account @holyguacamole97

**Note that egg donation compensation levels in the UK are currently £985 per donation cycle not £950 as mentioned in the episode. For more info about UK donation compensation levels please see the HFEA website

www.hfea.gov.uk

FREE RESOURCE – In the episode Becky and Hayley refer to a helpful webinar, “Who is the real Mum/Dad’ click here to get free access https://pathstoparenthub.com/so-whos-the-real-mum-dad/

Paths to Parenthub Membership & Website

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Becky

https://www.instagram.com/definingmum?igsh=c2ZoejR1ZW11Nnk4

Hayley

https://www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp?igsh=N2p4dHlpejE1Z3U4

Mel

https://www.instagram.com/the_stork_and_i?igsh=Ynh1cG5nOXMzaHg5

Paths to Parenthub

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Solo and Supported: Navigating Donor Conception Through Community and Collaboration

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Becky and Hayley invite Mel Johnson to share her story of how a solo route to parenthood was the right choice for her. Mel candidly shares her experience of solo motherhood, using a sperm donor to conceive, and why she decided to set up the ‘Stork and I’ online community in order to support others on this path.

Following on from an exciting announcement earlier this month, Becky, Hayley and Mel share the benefits of the new collaboration between Paths to ParentHub and The Stork and I and explain how solo members can gain access to a wealth of resources and support that’s now available through both platforms. During this episode the trio discuss the nuances of using a donor within different family types, and how we can best provide support and offer community for everyone.

Finally, Mel rounds off this insightful episode with her ‘top tips’ when embarking on treatment as a solo parent. She also offers those already parenting some invaluable advice for anyone feeling like they would like more support in this area.

Show notes

Open to sharing your story?! In preparation for series 3 of the Paths to Parenthub podcast, Becky and Hayley are actively seeking people like you to join them on an episode. If this is something you would like to learn more about send us an email at info@pathstoparenthub.com subject ‘share my story’

Website

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Link to waitlist page for future Paths to ParentHub Events

https://pathstoparenthub.com/event/

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Hayley

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Mel

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Listening to Donor Conceived Voices

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode Becky and Hayley speak candidly about their interactions and experiences of listening to donor conceived people, particularly within the online space.

They discuss what they have learnt from listening to those voices and reflect on why it’s so important to keep an open mind when engaging in these conversations, even when some of those discussions can be challenging.

Through thoughtful conversation Becky and Hayley share their tips and advice around how best to navigate spaces that discuss donor conception, and share with their audience alternative ways to gain insight without having to be constantly scrolling on your phone!

Young Adults Study (YAS) as mentioned in episode

https://www.youngadultsstudy.co.uk/project-outputs/yas-report

Donor Conception: Connecting Through Conversations London Event Tickets

https://pathstoparenthub.com/event/

Paths to Parenthub Membership details:

https://pathstoparenthub.com

Final Paths to Parenthub event tickets for 2nd November: https://pathstoparenthub.com/event

Paths to Parenthub Instagram

page: www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Hayley’s Instagram page: www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages: https://www.instagram.com/definingmum

I’ve told my child they’re donor conceived - but does anyone else really need to know?

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +0100

Disclosing to our children the truth about their conception story is now (thankfully) seen as practice within our communities - however, deciding who else to tell, whether other family members, friends or even our children’s school teacher or caregiver can be a more complex choice.

In this episode Becky and Hayley talk about their own personal experiences of talking to others about how they built their families. The decision of who else to tell (and when) and how these conversations can differ depending on your family make up. During this episode Becky and Hayley’s offer some helpful tips and direct to resources that can help families navigate this topic with more confidence and support.

Links

Links mentioned in the episode are:

Friends and Family/Supporting Your Loved One FREE resource

https://pathstoparenthub.com/friends-and-family-resource-sign-up/

Donor Conception: Connecting Through Conversations London Event Tickets

https://pathstoparenthub.com/friends-and-family-resource-sign-up/

Paths to Parenthub Membership details:

https://pathstoparenthub.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details:

https://pathstoparenthub.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Paths to Parenthub Instagram

page: www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Hayley’s Instagram page: www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages: https://www.instagram.com/definingmum

Donor Siblings - What You Need to Know

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Hayley and Becky discuss a topic that is currently in the media due to the new Netflix Documentary, 'The Man with 1000 Kids'. This has raised questions and discussions about a number of donor siblings and the differences between worldwide family limits and UK family limits. Hayley, with personal experience dealing with donor sibling groups both as a DCP and RP, is extremely knowledgeable about current practices and what intended parents need to know. Knowledge is power, which is why we've recorded this episode to help you understand what questions to ask your clinic/bank, the implications of larger sibling numbers and to dispel some of the misconceptions that may be out there, particularly in the UK.

This is an important listen for anyone involved in donor conception - intended parents, recipient parents, and professionals - including those working in clinics/banks.

Join Paths to Parenthub:

Paths to Parenthub Membership details: https://pathstoparenthub.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details: https://pathstoparenthub.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Follow us on Social Media:

Paths to Parenthub Instagram page: www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Hayley’s Instagram page: www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages: www.instagram.com/definingmum

Free resource mentioned in this episode: Top Questions to Ask Your Clinic/Bank - https://pathstoparenthub.com/top-questions-to-ask-about-donors/

Donor Siblings: Connect with Confidence

https://pathstoparenthub.com/donor-sibling-course/

Will I bond with my child if we don’t share DNA?

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Becky and Hayley dive into the topic of ‘Attachment and Bonding’, a complex subject that many parents of donor-conceived children are understandably concerned about. Questions such as ‘Will I bond with my child born through egg donation?’ or ‘How will I feel about my baby if we don’t share genetics?’ are all addressed in a compassionate and validating way, whilst also offering some practical advice around how to overcome these feelings. Becky and Hayley draw on their own lived experience as parents through donor conception to offer comfort to the listener, whilst simultaneously looking to the research on this fascinating topic to find some answers regarding this commonly held fear.

Have a listen to the Top Questions To Ask About Donors Episode here

Links of note that are mentioned during the episode:

Paths to Parenthub Membership details

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details

Hayley’s Instagram page

Becky’s Instagram pages:

@definingmum

@paths_to_parenthub

Research mentioned in the episode:

Golombok, S (2011) Children conceived by gamete donation: Psychological adjustment and mother-child relationships at age 7.

Choosing a donor: What to consider

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +0100

Choosing a donor can feel like a huge and momentous decision, with lots of emotions involved, information to consider, and steps to take as you move towards becoming a parent through donor conception. Hayley and Becky talk about their own personal experiences of selecting their donors, the smaller decisions that led them to go ahead with their decisions, and how they feel as they reflect on their choices now. They chat about what they wished they'd have known, and consider the different types of donor options and matching processes, as well as the transparency and support they'd like to see more widely as an industry.

Links mentioned in the episode are:

Paths to Parenthub LIVE Summit 2024 - Tickets available here: https://pathstoparenthub.com/virtual-summit/

Paths to Parenthub Membership details: https://pathstoparenthub.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details: https://pathstoparenthub.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Paths to Parenthub Instagram page: www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Hayley’s Instagram page: www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages: www.instagram.com/definingmum

Early and Often (ish!) - Talking to our children about their conception story

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +0100

Early disclosure within donor-conceived families is thankfully now considered best practice, however, that doesn’t mean that the process of ‘telling’ is as easy as child’s play. In this episode, Becky and Hayley take a closer look into the practicalities of discussing conception stories with our donor-conceived children, whilst also exploring some of the complex emotions that may arise for parents when attempting this process. Becky and Hayley provide some helpful examples of how they have tackled these discussions and share some of their favourites children’s story books, tips, and resources that have helped their families along the way.

Links of note that are mentioned during the episode:

Paths to Parenthub LIVE Summit 2024 - Tickets available here: https://pathstoparenthub.com/virtual-summit/

Paths to Parenthub Membership details: https://members.definingmum.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details: https://members.definingmum.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Hayley’s Instagram page: www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages: www.instagram.com/definingmum www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Book Titles mentioned within the episode:

What Makes A Baby https://wwwcorysilverberg.com/

Happy Together https://www.happytogetherchildrensbook.com/

We Are Family https://www.wearefamilybooks.co.uk/

My Donor Story https://www.mydonorstory.com/

Our Story https://www.dcnetwork.org/our-bookshop/

Robo Babies https://www.owletpress.com/product-page/robo-babies

Secret Code Inside of Me https://www.rajanilarocca.com/picture-books/the-secret-code-inside-you/

Research article mentioned in episode Telling donor-conceived children about their conception: Evaluation of the use of the Donor Conception Network children’s books. Harper, J et al (2022) https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2405661821000150

Let's talk about genetic loss

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +0100

Managing feelings and emotions around ‘Genetic Loss’ can be a challenge for many parents who have used a donor to build their family. In this episode, Becky and Hayley take a deep dive into the complexities of the emotions surrounding genetic loss, how they can present themselves, and why it’s so important for us to validate and speak up about this often unspoken topic.

During this episode Becky and Hayley discuss how Genetic Loss has personally impacted them, both as parents who do not share DNA with their children, and in Hayley’s case as a donor conceived person too. Both hosts offer reassurance, validation and practical advice about how to best tackle this nuanced topic - and also explore how an initial ‘loss’ has also brought about a significant ‘gain’ within their families.

As always, we love to hear from you so do feel free to reach out to Hayley or Becky through Instagram, your comments and questions can help us shape future episodes, all designed to open up conversations that previously haven't been openly discussed.

Links of note that are mentioned during the episode:

Paths to Parenthub Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Hayley’s Instagram page:

www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages:

www.instagram.com/definingmum

www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Family by Co Article

Handling Resemblance Talk

https://www.cofertility.com/family-learn/navigating-comments-about-your-donor-conceived-childs-resemblance-a-guide-to-responding

Talking Terminology: Exploring the Nuance

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +0100

In a recent social media post Becky talked about 'acceptance' being key as a recipient parent through donor conception, specifically around accepting that there is another person who holds a 'parent' title in the scientific, genetic sense, as opposed to the day-to-day parenting role. This sparked a discussion within the comments thread, which is why Hayley and Becky decided to record a spontaneous podcast to discuss this further, with more content and nuance that this topic needs.

In this episode you'll hear our own thoughts and opinions, how we approach terminology with our kids, the thoughts of the community who generously shared their insights with us, and research into terminology from a survey of donor conceived individuals.

As always we love to hear from you so do feel free to reach out to Hayley or Becky through instagram, your comments and questions can help us shape future episodes, all designed to open up conversations that previously haven't been openly discussed.

Links of note that are mentioned during the episode:

Paths to Parenthub Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Hayley’s Instagram page:

www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages:

www.instagram.com/definingmum

www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

Research Study by Donor Sibling Registry:

https://dsr-static-files.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/485cc3a945adcfb7

Why context is key when talking to our children

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode Hayley and Becky discuss some of the phrases that can be used by recipient parents in speaking to their children, specifically 'You are a gift' and 'You were so wanted'. We discuss how these phrases can sometimes be contentious in social media forums, the different perspectives that people may have, why we as parents might use these phrases, and how important context is when these are shared.

With Hayley's experience as a donor-conceived person and both Becky and Hayley's experiences as recipient parents, they explore the nuances, intentions, and potential impacts of using these terms in different scenarios.

Links of note that are mentioned during the episode:

Paths to Parenthub Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Hayley’s Instagram page:

www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Becky’s Instagram pages:

www.instagram.com/definingmum

www.instagram.com/paths_to_parenthub

It’s good to talk (about donor conception)

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +0100

In this first episode of the new season of The Paths to Parenthub Podcast, Becky and Hayley discuss the complexities of social media within the context of donor conception. Specifically, posting as parents and (in Hayley’s case) a donor-conceived person too, they highlight the struggles and the triumphs that can come from being part of this growing online community.

During this episode, the pair also discuss what their current challenges are when it comes to navigating life as parents of donor-conceived children, as well as what their hopes and plans are for the podcast series as they enter into season 2 as co-hosts together.

Links of note that are mentioned during the episode:

Paths to Parenthub In-person event:

Leeds, UK 14th of October 2023 - ticket info

https://members.definingmum.com/event/

Paths to Parenthub Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com

Paths to Parenthub LGBTQ+ Membership details:

https://members.definingmum.com/lgbtq-paths-to-parenthub/

Introducing Series Two of the Path to Parenthub Podcast

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +0100

Following on from series one of the previously named ‘Redefining Parenthood Podcast’, host Becky of DefiningMum is joined by co-host Hayley King of All Things Donor Conception to form the ‘Paths to Parenthub podcast’. Sharing perspectives as parents to donor-conceived children, and in Hayley’s case being a donor-conceived person herself, they focus on conversations about some of the more complex, nuanced aspects of donor conception. With the hope of providing different perspectives, information, reflection, and validation as they openly discuss different topics, share stories and ask listeners for their input.

Resource links:

www.pathstoparenthub.com

www.allthingsdonorconception.com

www.instagram.com/definingmum

www.instagram.com/dcp_journey_2_rp

Jen - Using a known egg donor

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0100

In the final episode of The Redefining Parenthood Podcast's first series, I speak with Jen, one of the very first people I connected with on Instagram as she was in the midst of her own fertility journey.

Over many years Jen and her husband have been on a difficult path to parenthood through IVF and loss. Now, as a mum to 'M' all thanks to known egg donation, Jen shares the journey, emotions and personality traits that led her to find their egg donor through a Facebook group and ultimately becoming friends.

We talk about so much, including conversations with friends and family and the unexpected comments, one of which I delve into more detail about with my resident perinatal psychologist Julianne Boutaleb. Julianne talks about the fears we hold in relation to feeling like the 'real' parent as we explore our parenting identity when using an egg donor.

You can find Jen on instagram @sea_magic_everywhere and Julianne @parenthoodinmind.

If you've enjoyed the series please take a moment to rate and review and share with anyone else you think it might help - maybe a friend, family member or partner as another way to raise awareness of and open up conversations about this topic.

Thank you so much for listening, I hope to be back with another series in 2023!

Why I donated my eggs

Fri, 23 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0100

In this special bonus episode of The Redefining Parenthood Podcast I chat with two egg donors from Altrui Egg Donation, Mollie* and Sarah*. We hear about their experiences in donating their eggs in the UK, why they chose to donate, how it has made them feel and what their hopes are for both the recipient parents and the future children. Such a lovely perspective to hear and understand more about, with some really helpful and reassuring insights for recipient parents and also great advice for anyone considering donating too.

*Names changed to protect identities.

What DCP want parents to know with Hayley & Emma.

Wed, 27 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0100

This episode of the Redefining Parenthood Podcast has been released to coincide with International Donor Conception Awareness Day (ICDAD), where this year the focus is on "talking, listening and learning". As part of this series I wanted to focus on the important perspective of Donor Conceived People (DCP). Social media can be a brilliant tool for opening up discussions, but can often become heated in rapid-fire comment threads, which is why I wanted to host a discussion with two donor conceived adults to bring to life through conversation "What DCP want parents to know".

I'm grateful to be joined by Hayley @dcp_journey_2_rp and Emma @donorconceivedaoteroa who in this episode share six things they believe would be helpful for recipient parents to know.

We cover lots within a short space of time, with some heavy topics discussed. Although some of these may lead to some discomfort in listening as a parent, my hope is that through being presented in this way, it will spark reflection and provoke thoughts. We talk about the perception of the 'angry' DCP, curiosity about genetic origins, being truthful and authentic with your child, embracing differences, being on the journey with our child and the importance of counselling.

In concluding this chat with a message to parents, both Emma and Hayley share a really important point in that "just by listening to this podcast you are already doing so much and benefiting your child". I hope you find this insightful and helpful at whatever stage of the journey you're at.

Julie's story - Talking to our children

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Becky chats with fellow DEIVF mum and author of Happy Together Children's Book, Julie Marie. We hear Julie's story and what led to her creating Happy Together, before delving deeper into our emotions and experiences of talking to our children about their conception. We also talk about our hopes and fears for the future, as well as the importance of listening, learning and growing as parents, including the many different perspectives that are shared from donor conceived people too.

Following their chat, Becky and Julianne (Perinatal Psychologist at Parenthood in Mind) pick up on why it's important to tell our children about how they came to be, as well as the emotions that are often experienced as we reach the stage where we are finally parenting and start to build and share our family narrative.

Finally, I share a snippet from my most special guest, my daughter Mila, as she brings this whole conversation to life in sharing with you the story of how she was made. My hope is that you will hear the beauty of honesty and openness in talking and telling, helping to make it seem a little less scary. She loved it too - I think she may follow in my footsteps as she's older!

This is a really insightful episode that I hope will again leave you feeling validated, but also more confident and comfortable in sharing your own story, it's also a great one to share with loved ones who may question why it's important to talk about this topic or partners to open a conversation about how this might work for you.

You can find Julie @happytogetherchildrensbook on Instagram and you can view her range of childrens books here - https://www.happytogetherchildrensbook.com/

You can find Julianne @parenthoodinmind on Instagram or at www.parenthoodinmind.co.uk.

Your host, Becky can be found at @DefiningMum on Instagram or through her blog www.definingmum.com. Paths to Parenthub is designed for support and connection for donor conception where you can find out more at www.pathstoparenthub.com or follow on Instagram @paths_to_parenthub.

This podcast was supported by a grant provided by Ferring Pharmaceuticals.

Seetal Savla - Hope, expectation and cultural challenges

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode Becky chats with Seetal at a point in time where she is still on her path to parenthood through donor conception. Knowing that there are many out there still on their journey, feeling even more isolated when donor conception isn't working in the way they'd expected, Becky wanted to give air-time not just to the success stories, but also to the reality of when things don't always go to plan.

*Sensitive warning - talk of miscarriage*

In this chat Becky and Seetal focus on the emotions she went through right from making the decision to try donor eggs, with the added hope and expectation, through to the devastation and feelings of failure she felt after she experienced loss following their first cycle of DEIVF. They also discuss another lesser talked about topic of donor conception and IVF within the South Asian community, particularly the added cultural challenges that are faced.

Following their chat Becky and Julianne, Perinatal Psychologist at Parenthood in Mind, pick up on the emotional and psychological impact that experiences such as Seetal's can have, especially when they've already suffered grief and had to rebuild our hope before embarking on this path.

This is an emotional episode to listen to but one I hope will help you feel less alone and validated in your feelings.

You can find Seetal @savlafaire on Instagram although please be aware that since recording this episode Seetal has shared a wonderful but sensitive update and so, as Seetal says in her own words, protect your heart if you need to.

You can find Julianne @parenthoodinmind on Instagram or at www.parenthoodinmind.co.uk.

This podcast was supported by a grant provided by Ferring Pharmaceuticals.

Shaun - The Male Perspective

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Becky chats with Shaun, a dad to one-year-old twins conceived using donor sperm following a diagnosis of azoospermia. They focus on Shaun and Jenna's journey to conceive from the male perspective, such as how at the time he didn't realise his grief was presenting as anger and how it impacted his identity as a man. He shares how he started to process his feelings of grief and started to question whether he really needed to share genetics to be a father, leading him to where he is today - a proud dad who in his words is now a stronger version of himself as a result of his journey. This is such an eye-opening and emotive listen from the male perspective which I'm sure many men will relate to.

Following their chat Becky and Julianne, Perinatal Psychologist at Parenthood in Mind, pick up on the theme of how men and women can differ in their reactions to infertility as well as the hidden challenges that men can face in their role, which can often leave them feeling detached from the process itself.

This is a great episode to listen to for a rare insight into what may go through the mind of the male partner in this process and one to share with your partner if you're struggling to get them to open up, one which will hopefully help them feel less alone.

You can find Shaun @knackered_knackers on Instagram and his website

Shaun is also a connection and support group host for Becky's donor conception support platform Paths to Parenthub offering a chance for men and those going down the donor sperm route to connect.

You can find Julianne @parenthoodinmind on Instagram or at her website

Your host, Becky can be found at @DefiningMum on Instagram or through her blog . Paths to Parenthub is designed for support and connection for donor conception where you can find out more here or follow on Instagram @paths_to_parenthub.

This podcast was supported by a grant provided by Ferring Pharmaceuticals.

Camille Guaty - Shame and sharing your story

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 05:00:00 +0100

In this episode Becky chats with fellow donor egg mama, Camille Guaty, a US TV and Film Actress who is one of the first in Hollywood to openly speak about using an egg donor. They focus on Camille's fertility struggle, her journey towards using donor egg IVF to conceive and the shift in emotions surrounding this. It's emotional, honest and relatable with a focus on the difficult feelings of loss as well as the joy that this path has led to.

Becky then speaks with Julianne Boutaleb, Perinatal Psychologist at Parenthood in Mind to delve deeper into these feelings of loss and longing that can be a big part of the process in moving towards this path to parenthood.

You can find Camille on Instagram @camilleguaty

You can find Julianne Boutleb on Instagram @parenthoodinmind or on her website

You can find Becky on instagram at @definingmum and more about Paths to Parenthub @paths_to_parenthub.

To find out more about how to join Paths to Parenthub and the support on offer visit the website, I would love to welcome you there.

This podcast was supported by a grant provided by Ferring Pharmaceuticals.

The Redefining Parenthood Podcast

Fri, 11 Feb 2022 05:00:00 +0100

Hosted by Becky of DefiningMum, The Redefining Parenthood (RP) podcast focuses on family building when using a donor, featuring stories where a difficult trying to conceive journey has unexpectedly led them towards this path.

Through personal stories Becky will sharing relatable conversations, talking about hope and expectations, alongside feelings of shame, dealing with genetic loss, family resemblances, talking to others and importantly to our children about this lesser discussed family building story.

She'll be joined by guests who have become friends of mine, all at different stages of their journey, along with Julianne Boutaleb a Perinatal Psychologist from Parenthood in Mind and the pair will delve into a particular feeling, to help bring it out of the shadows and give it meaning.

My hope is that this podcast will provide comfort, give hope, offer insights, provoke thoughts and validate this very complex and emotional path to parenthood.