Relationship Centered Learning

077: Solo | The Outcome Of Our Connection Building Tools

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 24 Jun 2021 01:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about what is the outcome when we use these tools to connect the kids because there is no one way to build and sustain a relationship. We will also talk about how to use the cross-connecting model to make a difference and build a community in the classroom.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about cross-connecting and the outcome of the tools that we use to build connections with kids.

[00:01 - 01:35] Opening Segment

I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers.
To find out more about the conference visit www.rclfirst.com.
I introduce the topic of today’s episode.
What is the outcome when we use these tools to connect the kids?

[01:36 - 07:36] The Outcome Of Relationship Building Tools

Three areas of cross-connection.
Student to student
Student to teacher
Teacher to student
Through that cross-connection model, we could truly build community.
What is your As card in building relationships with kids?
Think about your Go-to building relationship activity and your thought process.
Aspects to consider when choosing the activity
Does it provide the opportunity for students to learn about each other?
Does it create the opportunity for you to learn about your students?
Does it create the opportunity for students to learn about you?
I share an example from a brown bag activity
Be intentional about your tools and the outcome.
Are students going to learn about each other during this activity?
Is the teacher given an opportunity to learn about the students?
Are we intentionally telling the teacher to share and that they should share during these tools?
We always have to incorporate all voices in the classroom.
I challenge you to make sure that when you build a relationship in the classroom, incorporate your voice and let the student feel and appreciate your contribution to their community.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“We have to think about building community; student to student, student to teacher, and teacher to student, it is an outcome that we believe is making a difference in our practices and our tools.” - Kevin Curtis.
“Cross-connecting will truly help you build classroom community in the class no matter what tool you are using .” - Kevin Curtis.
“Always incorporate all voices in the classroom.” - Kevin Curtis.

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076: Solo | Question to Connection

Kevin Curtis — Sun, 20 Jun 2021 12:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about questions, specifically how we can question as tools to build and sustain relationships, especially with our students. Not only by focusing on the questions but also the answers that will shape the conversation.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about questions and connections.

[00:01 - 01:30] Opening Segment

I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers.
To find out more about the conference visit www.rclfirst.com.
I introduce the topic of today’s episode.
Question sets the tone for the conversations.
The question starts the conversation, but the answer shapes the conversation.

[01:31 - 05:30] Questions to Connections

I talk about being a question sewer and question business.
GTKY questions as the tools to build and sustain relationships in the classroom.
Use questions to get to know your students and also think about their responses.
Have the conversation shape around the right questions to find more similarities and build connections.
Let the answer be genuine, real, and authentic by asking thought-provoking questions.
Share your favorite questions with us on our RCLP Facebook Group or any of our social media pages.
See links below.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Over the years, we have determined that the question in itself when we use these tools sets the tone for the conversations.” - Kevin Curtis.
“The question starts the conversation, but the answer shapes the conversation.” - Kevin Curtis.
“Let the answer be genuine, real, and authentic by asking thought-provoking questions..” - Kevin Curtis.

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075: Solo | Consequences with Grace

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 00:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about the pathways of training, the concept of consequences with grace, and understanding that life is far from black and white.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about leading and responding with grace.

[00:01 - 02:40] Opening Segment

I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers.
To find out more about the conference visit www.rclfirst.com.
I introduce the topic of today’s episode.
Two pathways of training in The Relationship-centered learning in National Educators for Restoratives Practices.
The evolution of gray developed from the concept of proactive vs. reactive.
Gray are consequences with grace.

[02:41 - 08:24] Consequences with Grace

The background of today’s topic and how I came up with this concept.
Adults who fail to give grace to kids
Life is far from black and white.
I break down the analogy of speeding.
The slow down period and the shift of behavior.
Experience accountability.
Understand that we are all going to make mistakes.
Leading and responding with grace
Black and white are consequences without grace, gray are consequences with grace, and everybody wants black and white until you need gray.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“As you grow up and go up in leadership of the educational system, it gets grayer and grayer.” - Kevin Curtis.
“As long as everything to you and your world is considered black and white, then you see no need for gray until you need it.” - Kevin Curtis.
“Black and white are consequences without grace; gray are consequences with grace. And everybody wants black and white until you need gray.” - Kevin Curtis.

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074: Solo | The Power of Words (Student Vs. Kids)

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 14 Jun 2021 05:30:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I will be talking about the power of words, how it is affecting our expectations towards our students, and the understanding not to expect students to always be perfect.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about the power of words.

[00:01 - 02:00] Opening Segment

I want to invite you to our Virtual Conference 13th -14th July 2021, with an amazing lineup of speakers.
To find out more about the conference visit www.rclfirst.com.
I introduce the topic for this episode.
The power of words, between ‘students and kids’

[02:01 - 06:41] The Power of Words

The transformation of philosophy.
It is normal for kids to make mistakes; it is normal for students to make mistakes.
Two completely different connotations and expectations between the word ‘students’ and ‘kids.’
The correlation between academics and how students behave
Not expecting students always to be perfect.
The grace and understanding that kids and even adults are going to make mistakes.
How we handle and label those mistakes.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“I don't want perfect students; I want students to grow, reflect and own and be accountable for their voice and their choice.” - Kevin Curtis.
“When we look at our students, no matter what their age is, they are kids, and when we look at kids, we need to understand they are not going to be perfect.” - Kevin Curtis.
“If we continue to think of students, not as kids, we are going to continue to struggle in giving grace, understanding expectation, and giving kids the opportunity to be kids.” - Kevin Curtis.

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073: Wade Stanford | Leadership with Authenticity, Transparency, and Inclusivity

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 10 Jun 2021 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I get to interview the superintendent of Westwood ISD, Wade Stanford. Wade is not just full of knowledge and experience but also vulnerable. We will be talking about so many twists and turns of vulnerability, listening to other stakeholders, and utilizing those processes with staff and students. From this interview, I hope we can challenge ourselves as leaders in education to think differently, put those thoughts into action, and change the thought platform we start to use.

Let’s dig in and learn more about his inspiring experience and how to lead with authenticity, transparency, and vulnerability.

[00:01 – 18:30] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Wade Stanford to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.
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[18:31 – 30:10] Building Genuine and Sustainable Connection

The 2nd Restorative Practices Training conference.
Wade shares his thoughts and opinions about the Restorative Practices Training conference.
The internal drive of peace.
Passion and conviction piece that causes people to move from their hearts not out of fear or compliance.
Build genuine connections as an ordinary person regardless of your title.
Thought process when dealing with the simple referral.

[30:11 – 42:29] Leadership with Authenticity, Transparency, and Inclusivity

The transparency and authenticity in creating an impactful genuine connection.
The inclusivity piece.
The significant role of telling our story and communicating it out.
Get the right people at the table to make progress.
How to make collaboration to find the best approach.
Buy-in vs. ownership.
The importance of gathering and creating a safe place for people to share their thoughts

[42:30 – 55:54] The Thought Exchange

Wade talks about the thought exchange platform.
Building connection and trust with the staffs
Closing the loop with vulnerability and authenticity.
The importance of remembering where we come from.
Create power and ownership amongst colleagues.
The formula for high-level instruction on the campus.
Thought exchange in the classroom between students and teachers.
Utilize student and adult voices.

[55:55 – 01:20:19 ] Power and Permission

SNAO (Strategies, needs, and outcomes) model.
Wade shares his plan with the thought exchange platform next year.
Conversation before consequences.
The power and permission.
Breaking barriers down.
Being comfortable with sharing your struggle.

[ 01:20:20 – 01:23:04] Closing Segment

I share my takeaways from the conversation.
Wade shares his final words.
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“Passion and conviction piece that causes people to move from their hearts not out of fear or compliance.” – Wade Stanford.

“Consequences and discipline will not change behaviors, but only through practices and reflections will create changes.” – Wade Stanford.

“When we bring people that aren't close to the problem, they tend to see the best solution..” – Wade Stanford.

Connect with Wade via email to wstanford@westwoodisd.net or LinkedIn

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072: Denise Circlemamma Holliday - Restorative Real Life Moments; Reacting Vs. Responding

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 03 Jun 2021 00:00:00 -0600

In this special episode, I interview my co-founder Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday, and I sit down for a special segment called Restorative Real Life Moments. Denise and I had a conversation about an incident where another dog attacked her dog in the neighborhood by her mom's house, and we started talking about how she reacted vs. responded. We also talked about what she needs to repair hard, what some of those conversations look like, how did she pause along the way to even get to the point where the story ended. We are trying to do this Restorative Real Life Moments as frequently as we can to share who we are as human beings and the work we are trying to do and how it’s working and transforming us, but yet we are still humans.

Let’s dig in and learn more about reacting vs. responding.

[00:01 – 11:14] Opening Segment

I share a brief introduction to today’s special segment.
Restorative Real-Life Moments.
Let’s welcome Denise "Circlemamma" Holiday to the show.
Denise shares the 4 Fs and back story surrounding what happened to her and her dog-brother ‘Powder.’
Denise talks about her reaction and responds when the incident occurred.
The pause and moment of reflection when she got to the right state of mind.

[11:15 – 24:10] Reacting Vs. Responding

We can get it wrong all day long, and we make decisions based on emotions that we call reacting vs. responding.
Reacting from an emotional space.
It would be up to us to find out how to make it right.
Denise talks about the transformation trigger to her thought pattern and process of realization.
The pause of clarity and reflection moment.
The absence of rational thinking.
Denise shares how her neighbor responded that helped her to get into her rational thinking and empathy.
Patient and empathy.

[24:11 – 29:10] The Fix that Was Needed

Denise shares about the fix and what needed to happen to make this right as possible.
The plan of making sure it will never happen again.
Denise talks about how her neighbor fixed the problem and stayed true to what he said he would do.
We are all human; we do not have to be perfect and always be the right ones. But it’s about trying to make it right when the opportunity is there.

[ 29:11 – 36:02] Closing Segment

Denise talks about the takeaways that she had grown and going from this event.
I share my takeaways from the story.
Self-growth and self-understanding.
Responding more to things than react out of emotion
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“We can get it wrong all day long, and we make decisions based on emotions that we call reacting vs. responding.” – Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday.

“We are all human; we do not have to be perfect and always be the right one. But it’s about trying to make it right when the opportunity is there.” – Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday.

“I am going to live my best life when I can respond more to things than I react to them out of emotion.” – Denise "Circlemamma" Holliday.

Connect with Denise via email to circlemamma@nedrp.com.

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071: Solo | Listening to Behavior

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 31 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. Within the last few episodes, I realized that I continue to use the same phrase about actively listening to someone from their behavior towards us within the last few episodes. So in this episode, I will be talking about active listening and increasing the awareness of red flags.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about listening to someone’s behavior.

[00:01 - 01:33] Opening Segment

I introduce the topic for this episode.
Listening for a message within someone’s behavior
I share some quotes regarding behavioral listening.

[01:34 - 06:25] Listening to Behavior

Missing the red flags of a relationship in the way someone treats us.
Reflect and ask yourself what happens when something goes awry.
Become more aware of any message within someone’s behavior
The importance of taking another perspective from a third party.
The tendency to excuse and tolerate someone’s behavior because of your feelings, biases, or beliefs.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” - Maya Angelou.
“There’s a message in the way a person treats you. Just listen.” – Unknown.
“People always tell you who they are. You just have to listen.” - Clay Jensen (a character from 13 reasons why)

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070: Veronica V. Sopher | The Art of Communication Amongst The School District, Educators, Students and Parents

Kevin Curtis — Fri, 28 May 2021 00:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I interview Veronica V. Sopher, the Chief Communications Officer of Fort Bend Independent School District. Veronica and I will be having a wonderful conversation about the art of communication, especially what leaders need to consider when they lead meetings and be in public or events. In addition, we also talk about what parents need to consider when communicating with the district, the power of social media, and many more. We will discuss not only the art of relationships but also the art of communication.

Let’s dig in and learn more about becoming a better listener and connecting better across generations.

[00:01 – 07:25] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Veronica V. Sopher to the show
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[07:26 – 20:57] The Power of Non-Verbal Communication and Social Media

Veronica shares a brief introduction about who she is and what is her current position
The power and importance of Non-verbal communication
Veronica talks about her experience in working on non-verbal communication with leaders
The face leaking
The role and guidance of dealing with Social Media for school leaders
The responsibility to engage folks in a positive way
Veronica talks about her experience in dealing with the breach of unwanted posts on the social media of educators or schools
The support of the other staff in protecting one another
The speed up communication on campus and a bigger reach because of social media

[20:58 – 35:10] The Art of Communication

Why sometimes kids have difficult times trusting adults today, compared to 20-30 years ago
The ability to quickly question their information and verify it themselves
Veronica shares some tips to consider when communicating with the school district and wanting to know more information
Veronica talks about making your message so clear; it can not be misunderstood
Have the core at the core
Relationship and communication
Veronica shares her opinion on building a community that is filled with an honest, open flow of communication and grace

[ 35:11 – 39:27] Closing Segment

Veronica shares her final words and a closing message
I share my takeaways from this interview
Veronica shares her experience in building trust and communication with the parents
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“Non-verbal communication is probably more powerful than verbal communication.” – Veronica V. Sopher

The district is starting to see how important communication is to the success of the district and the expectation of the parents.” – Veronica V. Sopher

“Communication is part of building the relationship and the way to express it.” – Veronica V. Sopher

Connect with Veronica via email to vsopher@hotmail.com.

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069: Chris Pimpton | Becoming A Better Listener

Kevin Curtis — Tue, 25 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I get to interview Chris Pimpton. Chris has had 16 years in education and primarily dealing with attendance truancies and behavior. He is currently working as a behavior specialist and behavior interventionist at the White Settlement Independent School District in Texas. Today we will have a great conversation about listening and how not just to become a better listener but also when and how we should listen

Let’s dig in and learn more about becoming a better listener and connecting better across generations.

[00:01 – 09:25] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Chris Pimpton to the show
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[09:26 – 18:45] The Relatability Aspect With Kids

Chris talks about his current official title
Helping people to understand and see kids differently despite their behavior on a daily basis
Relatability aspect on making the connection with the kids
The strategy on working with adults who are struggling with the students’ behavior
The disconnection and clash of perspectives between kids and adults

[18:46 – 38:20] Becoming A Better Listener

Talking to each other, not at each other
Why is it so hard for us to listen?
Everybody has a voice but it’s a matter of how you use it
The cultural aspect of listening and being listened to
Getting people to see through a different lens
The challenges in making people listen to us
People tend to stereotype in advance
Overcome our ego to listen better
Build a true connection with the students to listen and be listened to
Having respect towards people despite their skin color and title
Toxic positivity of social media

[38:21 – 56:09] The Lack Of Understanding Between Generations

The little things that make a big difference
Understanding the true meaning of life
You've got to listen to get something
Being the last person to speak
have the conversation that you scared to have
Helping students to grow and transition to a different person
The race conversation
Build connections and trust with students
The lack of understanding between generations

[ 56:10 – 58:37] Closing Segment

I share my takeaways from this interview
Chris shares a closing message
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“We are all at war, especially from educators’ perspectives, and now it is our time to prepare the kids for it.” – Chris Pimpton

”Everybody’s got a story to tell, and you’ve got to allow them to create the image of their story.” – Chris Pimpton

“The best way to build a relationship is to have the conversation that you are scared to have.” – Chris Pimpton

Connect with Chris via email to renaepimpton@yahoo.com.

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068: Ryan Brassell: Conversation Before Consequences

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 20 May 2021 00:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I get to interview Ryan Brassel, the assistant principal of Horn Highschool Mesquite Independent School District. Ryan is entering his 20th year in education as the assistant principal in the secondary high school in northeast texas. He will share how he created a classroom space where teachers could feel safe to build and sustain relationships with kids, which he calls a ‘connection center,’ and the strategy in using conversation before consequences with an apology letter to deal with consequences.

Let’s dig in and learn more about the relationship-centered approach on the secondary level and the importance of conversation before consequences.

[00:01 – 09:08] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Ryan Brassell to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[09:09 – 29:56] Relationship-Centered Approach in the Secondary Level

Ryan talks about how we first connect.
Bringing the relationship-centered approach to the secondary level.
Creating a green room for teachers
Circle for change restorative practices.
The contagion effect.
The strengthening piece of the student.
The teachers’ takeaway of their students after attending the circle space session.
Cross-connection between students

[29:57 – 55:30] Conversation Before Consequences

How restorative practices reshaped the lens.
The philosophy of dealing with consequences and discipline.
Focus on finding another method.
Anger is typically gone in 48 hours.
Giving the students a chance to make it right.
Accountability piece to support teachers.
Punishment piece.
Ryan breaks down the process of facilitating the conversation.
The direct outcomes and change behavior or reduce discipline referrals on this method.
The take-aways and responses from teachers of this strategy.

[ 53:35 – 01:00:03] Closing Segment

Ryan shares a closing message
I share my takeaway from this interview
How to connect with Ryan.
See links below
Final thoughts and words of advice.

Tweetable Quotes:

“People win what they focus on.” – Ryan Brassell.

”We all have things going on in our lives, and the students do too” – Ryan Brassell.

“ We want the children to be held accountable for their actions, not punished .” – Ryan Brassell.

Connect with Ryan via email to rbrassell@mesquiteisd.org, or you can also connect to his personal email ryanbrassell.903@gmail.com.

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067: Solo | Head, Heart and Hands

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 17 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. Within the last few episodes, I just realized that there was a pattern in the way I unpacked the interviews, which was head, heart, and hands approach. In this episode, I feel convicted to dig a little bit deeper into the what, why, and how factors of unpacking information.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about the concept of head, heart, and hands approach.

[00:01 - 01:50] Opening Segment

I introduce the topic for this episode.
Head, Heart, and Hands approach
Move towards the heart by motivating and inspiring.

[01:51 - 08:56] Head, Heart, and Hands

Speaking to the right amount of information combined with the right amount of motivation and giving them practical tools to apply it.
The significance of knowing how we unpacked our curriculum.
The passion for motivating students.
Injecting the ‘believe’ factors.
Preparing students with the right practical tools.
The ’What,’ ‘Why,’ and ‘How’ factors in unpacking the information to your audience.
If you are interested in the topic of Head, heart, and hands, let’s participate in our July 13th and 14th virtual conferences.
See links below.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Speaking to the right amount of information combined with the right amount of motivation and giving them practical tools to apply it.” – Kevin Curtis.

“If it moves us as educators, why don’t we take that same approach to the classroom?” – Kevin Curtis.

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066: Chelsea MacKinnon | The Fundamental Characteristics of A Leader

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 13 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we have the amazing Chelsea MacKinnon; she is the Assistant Principal at Frisco ISD, Texas. Chelsea has just been a participant in our 3-day Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining, specifically done for Frisco ISD. We will be talking about some takeaways from the training and what a good leader should look for in putting relationships at the center of our learning, and the characteristics that a good leader should exhibit.

Let’s dig in and learn more about her takeaways from the training and the fundamental characteristics of a leader.

[00:01 – 11:34] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Chelsea MacKinnon to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[11:35 – 28:19] Powerful Takeaways from the Training

Chelsea shares her background of how she got into the education world.
Her takeaways from the 3-day Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining with us.
Building a community with small break-out groups
The relational capacity that we want our kids to know and have.
Chelsea shares her colleague’s example in practicing the material in her classroom.
The two minute connect.
Chelsea talks about her powerful takeaway from the training.
The foundational base of how she interacts with others in general

[28:20 – 37:30] The Fundamental Characteristics of A Leader

Chelsea shares her philosophy as a leader
To love people
Leaders need to give their staff the freedom to try these things
Relationships and student-driven.
Letting teachers know that it is okay not to be perfect.
A successful team builds off one another.
Creating the model of connection to be implemented in the classroom.

[37:31 – 58:34] Beauty in Vulnerability.

The power of making eye contact, smile and using people’s names.
Making students and people feel valued, seen, and heard.
Heads - hearts - hands model.
Showing students that it is okay to fail but not to stay there.
Beauty in the vulnerability.
Not being afraid to apologize.
Being comfortable to show our weaknesses and mistakes as teachers and leaders.
Focusing on the process.

[ 58:35 – 01:05:01] Closing Segment

Chelsea and I share our take away from this interview
Final thoughts and words of advice.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Nowadays, as educators, we tend to hyperfocus on the score and become data-driven when we should be student-driven and focus on them.” – Chelsea MacKinnon.

”All humans want to be valued, seen, and heard.” – Chelsea MacKinnon.

“ It’s okay not to be successful the first time; we just had to reflect and figure out how to get better.” – Chelsea MacKinnon.

Connect with Chelsea on LinkedIn or send her email to mackinnon@friscoisd.org.

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065: Sheilla McCollum | Building Connections between Educators

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 10 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I am joined by Sheila McCollum; she is the CTE (Career and Technology Education) coordinator for Decatur High school. We will be talking about leadership—building relationships with the staff, administrators, teacher leaders, and being vulnerable. We will also discuss the difference in the learning process between elementary, middle, and high schools.

Let’s dig in and learn more about the transition between grades and building connections between educators.

[00:01 – 11:34] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Sheila McCollum to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[11:35 – 25:29] The Expectation and The Transition between Grades

Building and working on the relationships with students and witnessing them growing.
Educator learning curves and transition between grade levels.
The freedom transition between grades.

[25:30 – 38:39] Building Connections between Educators

The challenges of dealing with middle school students.
The genuine and impactful connection with students.
Campus connection between staff.
How should teachers build relationships with students, parents, and fellow teachers?
Bringing relationships to the center of the learning process.

[38:40 – 51:09] Letting Yourself Be Vulnerable to Others

Why is it so hard for teachers or leaders to be vulnerable?
Society expectation towards leaders and teachers.
Building the connection between teachers by offering help to people.
Team effort in leadership without any ego involves.
Give students, leaders, and teachers some space to make mistakes.
Sheila shares some recommended resources
Brene Brown
Beneath a scarlet sky by Mark Sullivan
Learning beyond the academics resources.

[ 51:10 – 54:03] Closing Segment

I share my take away from this interview
How to connect with Sheila
See links below.
Final thoughts and words of advice.

Tweetable Quotes:

“if you don't have those relationships and there's not the trust that being built, then I would see students that refuse to obey.” – Sheilla McCollum.

”You got to take a time out and do what you got to do, but you never stop being an educator ” – Sheilla McCollum.

“ it doesn't matter how great your data is or what your plans are if you don't have the relationships in place. You’re never going to be able to achieve what you set out to do.” – Sheilla McCollum.

Mentioned Links:

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064: Dr. Alvin Haywood | Storytelling to Building Relationships in Teaching

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 06 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Today I will be interviewing Dr. Alvin Haywood; He is an author and educator of 34 years who retired and has many more journeys as he continues to work with state legislation in California. He has helped reshape students’ reading and expectations in the classroom.

In this episode, he will be sharing with us about his teaching journey and how he uses the ‘human approach’ that was not in the majority back then. He will also share some of the stories of his battle and transformation with cancer.

Let’s dig in and learn more about his inspiring life story and his teaching journey.

[00:01 – 18:31] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Dr. Alvin Haywood to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[18:32 – 32:30] Human Relationship Approach in Teaching

Dr. Alvin shares how he started his teaching career.
The mindset requirements to be a social worker.
The respect and trust aspect in the classroom
Building relationships with the students so they can learn.
Dr.Alvin shares his experience of being stood out and fought for the human approach in teaching.
Erasing the limitation on students.
Giving students their new slate
Just by treating and talking to the students differently, they will act differently.

[32:31 – 49:54] Storytelling to Building Relationships

Dr. Alvin talks about how he turns from teaching to leadership in administration after he retired.
He got diagnosed with cancer in 2007.
He started to do public policy and his doctorate after retirement.
Dr. Alvin talks about how he got into writing and published his books
The inequality of society in standardizing students to get into college by passing algebra tests.
Students loving math
It depends on the way you present math to the students.
Do not limit your child by your limitation.
Storytelling is sharing your own personal story and it is part of building relationships.
Giving the students a narrative to make them drawn to you to learn more.
Discipline alternative education placement school.
The flaw of alternative high school systems.

[49:55 – 01:00:30] Cancer Survivor-Thriver

Dr. Alvin shares the revelation he got on his journey in battling cancer.
He started his reading clinic at his garage.
Cancer survivor-thriver
The intervention of God in his life.
Faith without work is dead.
Dr. Alvin talks about his book; “Take up your bed and walk; this is my story.”
Dr. Alvin talks about the moment when he got diagnosed with cancer.
It’s not what they say but how they say it that could make or break you.
The significance of the human center approach in the medical world.

[ 01:00:31 – 01:07:59] Closing Segment

I share my take away from this interview
How to connect with Dr. Alvin.
See links below.
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“The kids that I have in front of me, they can learn a lot of it depends on what they feel that I feel about them.” – Dr. Alvin Haywood.

” If we take that approach in that mindset, it becomes pervasive and a lifetime learning process” – Dr. Alvin Haywood.

“If you are treating your students like criminals, they will start acting like criminals.” – Dr. Alvin Haywood.

Mentioned Links:

Connect with Dr. Alvin Haywood on LinkedIn, or visit his Amazon profile.

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063: Solo | The Playbook of 2021; Connect before Correct

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 03 May 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another solo episode, Mindset Monday, with you, me, and the mic. In this episode, I want to focus on the issues of the 1999 playbook in 2021 and the importance of trust and connection to students’ compliance... I am trying to get educators to be enlightened and develop a new 2021 playbook because we can no longer use the playbook of 1999 to 2021.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about the 2021 playbook and the importance of connection in creating trust.

[00:01 - 01:13] Opening Segment

I introduce the topic for this episode.
Playbook of 2021: Connect before Correct
Enlightened and develop a new 2021 playbook

[01:14 - 08:56] The Playbook of 2021: Connect before Correct

Redesigning the way you teach your student today.
Students are no longer listen to us and comply with us just because we are an adult.
The difference between parenting style in the old era and the modern era.
Why is it so hard to for this new generation to listen and do certain requests?
Cut the top patterns.
Why students are no longer listens and comply with us.
The aspects that play a big role in the compliance of the youth new generations,
Handling the ‘why question” from a student’s lens perspective.
Does not matter what you frame it around, the kids are going to ask why
Connect to correct
To get students to comply, how many of us asking for the help of another adult who has a connection to that kid?
The reason why students are no longer listens or comply is that they do not trust us.
How to get students to comply and listens to us is to make sure they feel valued, seen, and heard; therefore we’d began the trust process through connection.
Not just comply, but to connect.
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See links below.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Trust level of understanding that they are told to comply and listens to adult, but they also watching society unfold in a way that adults made mistake.” – Kevin Curtis.

“How to get students to comply and listens to us is to make sure they feel valued, seen, and heard; therefore we’d began the trust process through connection..” – Kevin Curtis.

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062: Niki Spears | Creating Sustainable Positive Culture

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Today I will be interviewing the human spark, Niki Spears. She is an author, motivational speaker, and former school principal who now works as an educator and change leader. In this episode, Niki will talk about creating a positive culture, the impact of a positive culture on your campus, and how that trickled down to your students.

Let’s dig in and learn more about her inspiring life story, creating a sustainable positive culture, and her latest released book.

[00:01 – 12:08] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Niki Spears to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[12:09 – 22:39] Creating Sustainable Positive Culture

Niki gives a quick synopsis of who she is.
Passion and mission for helping people.
She makes her classroom a platform to bring people together as a family.
Niki talks about the period when she left her job to help schools created a sustain positive culture,
As an educator, we are just giving the tools, but it is up to each individual to take the tools and apply them.
We are responsible for our happiness.
Personal culture to build team culture
Real inspiring mission statement
Be intentional with the positive interaction.

[22:40 – 38:10] Listening to The Student Voice

The advocate of bringing student voice into the conversation
Leadership development school
Teachers need to facilitate and partner with students to makesure they are gaining the information in the appropriate way.
Niki talks about how she partners with school and what she brings to schools.
Overcoming the obstacles of time.
Making the students know and understand the mission statement of our school.
Turning the mindset around, we are not here just to serve the students but the family as well.
Relational practices that build relationships.

[38:11 – 48:30] The Positive Outlook to Create the Spark

The significance of reactive title and content
The positive interaction
Both kids and parents play a huge role in creating a positive experience for everybody.
Teach our kids to focus and look for the positive things in life.
Niki talks about the moment that made her started to look at the positive side.
The power of positive reading.
It all depends on how you choose to look at the moments and the experience you get in your life.
Niki talks about all the things she has done during the pandemic.

[48:31 – 57:36] The Beauty Underneath the Struggle

Niki talks about the process of writing her book, titled “The Beauty Underneath the Struggle: Creating Your Bus Story.”
All about looking for the opportunity that is hidden in each moment.
The compilation of her life story on how she finds beauty in it.
Niki talks about the outcome of this book.
If you want a better life, you are the one who must create that for yourself and start that from the inside.
Niki shares about what is up and coming in her life.
Shut out to her new assistant, Rachel.
The celebration of principals on June 19.

[57:3 7– 01:00:27] Closing Segment

Shout out to our assistants and partners that complement us in life.
How to connect with Niki
See links below.
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“Culture does not make the moment you walk into the building, but it begins in our homes.” – Niki Spears.

”Sometimes we may miss the opportunity because we are so focused on the problem.” – Niki Spears.

“A lot of times, we are making decisions for students when they need to be a part of the decision making.” – Niki Spears.

Connect with Niki on Instagram, Twitter and visit her website at www.nikispears.com.

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061: Michael Pogue | Connect before Content

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 26 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Today I will be interviewing Michael Pogue. Director of Special Services at White Settlement ISD. In this episode, we will be having a powerful conversation about the culture and the climate in White Settlement, how he got there, and how the superintendent is an impactful component in the district. We will also talk about how he shapes the teachers in education and how we believe education continues to be reshaped even after all these years.

Let’s dig in and learn more about the importance of making a connection education process and the sense of belonging amongst educators.

[00:01 – 07:44] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Michael Pogue to the show.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[17:45 – 30:59] Connect Before Content

Michael talks about his current location and his current role in education.
The common stereotype of the superintendent.
Power and permission from leadership.
Being yourself as an educator
Social-emotional learning.
The importance of building relationships with your students
There is no magic in social-emotional learning; you just got to learn how to connect with the kids.
If you can not connect, you can not help the kids.
If you can build a good relationship with the kids, the learning will take care of itself.

[31:00 – 48:04] Strategy to make a connection with the students

Michael shares his strategy to make a connection with his students
Knowing what drives your students
The struggle of some adult educators to make a genuine connection with their students
Focus on the process, not only the outcome
Michael talks about how relationships play a more pivotal role in special needs students than just the average student.
The inclusive lifestyle
Reading and relationships
The arcade mindset of teacher in labeling their students
The flaw in the education system in applying the same test standard.

[48:05 – 01:06:30] The Sense of Belonging as Educators

Michael shares some insights for those who want to get an education career.
The guiding philosophy
The education system and personal values
The financial side of being educators
Being a happy educator.
The culture and sense of belonging.
Michael talks about how his superintendent creates a positive culture for the educator.
The appreciation for educator

[01:06:31 – 01:11:23] Closing Segment

I talk about my takeaway from today’s discussion.
Michael shares some of his final thought about today’s discussion.
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“It’s my job to let them be successful because when the team is successful, it is the best part.” – Michael Pogue.

”There is no magic in social-emotional learning; you just got to learn how to connect with the kids.” – Michael Pogue.

“Focus on the process, not only the outcome.” – Michael Pogue.

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060: Krystal | Building Community in The Virtual Space

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

This episode is a special one, as I will be interviewing my daughter Krystal. She is not an educator; she is a college graduate with a communication degree. But what I wanted to bring to light today is how my daughter has built an online community in The Twitch Platform and how she takes a relational approach to build a community in the virtual space.

Let’s dig in and learn more about Krystal’s relational approach so we can bring it to our classroom, whether it’s online or offline.

[00:01 – 07:14] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Krystal to the show.
Why I asked Krystal to be on the show.
Krystal talks about how she started live streaming and build her community on Twitch.
Krystal gives a brief description of what the Twitch Platform is.
Turning followers into a community.

[07:15 – 18:04] Building Community in The Virtual Space

Turning Followers into Discord Community
Making people feel important and creating a safe place for people to share
When you make people feel important, seen, valued, and heard, you will keep them coming back.
Treat people like you want to be treated.
Making people feel welcome
The disconnection in the virtual space.

[18:05 – 27:44] The Challenges of building Engagement in Virtual Setting

Social things to be considered in the virtual setting vs. in person
The extra effort in building relationships in a virtual space
The challenges of building engagement in virtual settings.

[27:45 – 42:50] Creating An Impact through Live Streaming

Making an impact through virtual community settings
Krystal shares some of the testimonies she received from her followers about the impact she has been making through her platform.
The average length of period that streamers spent on the platform.
The entertainment piece in the streaming world
Krystal talks about the support she received from her community on the Twitch Platform.
The mutual support between streamers and followers in the platform.
The reciprocation from her followers.

[42:51 – 59:19] Community builds Community

Krystal shares her thoughts on the inclusivity and welcoming nature of her virtual community.
The resistance of some people to engage in the virtual community (Lurking).
Helps people that are struggling with mental health.
Relationship-centered streaming.
Putting relational approach into the streaming community.
Krystal talks about the gifts that her followers sent to her on her birthday.
The impact of allowing her community and audience into her personal life through the webcam.

[59:20 – 01:12:29] Closing Segment

Krystal shares some of her final thought and takeaways about today’s discussion.
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“It is my want and needs for every each one of you guys to feel seen, valued, and heard.” – Krystal

“In building a community, you have to be communicative, willing to share about your life, and listen to what they want to say about it.” – Krystal.

“There is a little extra effort that you have to take to build relationships in the virtual space.” – Krystal

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059: Solo | Figure it Out, Stand Out or Get Out

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 19 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to Mindset Monday with you, me, and the mic. We are so excited that our Certified Specialist in Restorative PracticesTraining on June 22-24 in Austin, Texas, is finally top out at 84 people. Visit our website at www.rclfirst.com to learn more.

In this episode, I want to talk about a quick message on feeding off of each other. There are three things that would possibly happen in life: to either figure it out, stand out, or get out.

Let’s jump into this episode and dig in more about life.

[00:01 - 05:00] Opening Segment

I introduce the topic for this episode.
Navigating to life as educators.
Figuring out who you are
Developing and discovering your skillset
How are you wired, and what makes you ticked
What are the things that excite and challenge you?
A deeper understanding of ourselves
Figuring it out sometimes takes us to think outside the box
The adjustment that it takes during the pandemic for us to figure out life.

[05:01 - 09:49] Figure it Out, Stand Out or Get Out

Knowing what you are standing for?
Are you standing out for something negative or positive?
We are internally wired to strive to stand out above others.
What are you standing at?
Look for the sign in your personal relationships.
We need to work together and stand out together.
Get out!
Getting out could be a personal choice that you make, or you could be pushed out.
As great leaders, we do not force people to follow, but we invite them on a journey.
Final words.

Tweetable Quotes:

“When life comes at us at any aspect, I think the first thing we got to do is to figure it out..” – Kevin Curtis

“As great leaders, we do not force people to follow, but we invite them on a journey.” – Kevin Curtis.

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058: Josh Bowers | The Importance of Trusting on The Process

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 15 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Josh is an incredible young man with such a mature point of view and perspective in life. From a very young age, he realizes that life is all about the process of becoming, not only to get the end result. In this episode, we will discuss the self-drive to become a better communicator, exchange trust, and the importance of trusting the process in life.

[00:01 – 21:29] Opening Segment

Let’s welcome Denise and Josh to the show.
Let’s get to know Josh Bowers.
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions.

[21:30 – 37:50] The Self-drive to become a better communicator

Josh shares about his journey coming back to Texas.
Getting out of the comfort zone and work on the communication skills.
The inner self-drive to work on his communication and relationship skills.
The anxiety in communication.
The importance of simplicity and not thinking too far ahead.
Being an intentional listener

[37:51 – 53:00] The Importance of Trusting The Process

Josh talks about his motivation in trading and business.
Focus yourself on the process and not on the end result
The importance of focusing on the process
Learning from a personal experience.
Trusting a slow process.
Consistency to open and build up a conversation with anyone.
Being genuinely interested in the conversation and hit the right button.
The humility to be the student of the student.

[53:01 – 01:04:30] Exchange of Trust

The dynamic role of College as the vehicle to success.
The challenges of our education system in preparing students for careers.
How to connect and build relationships to motivate struggling students as an educator.
The simplicity of the exchange of trust between educators and students.

[01:04:31 – 01:08:08] Closing Segment

Josh shares some of his final thought about today’s discussion.
Final thoughts and words of advice

Tweetable Quotes:

“Focus yourself on the process and not on the end result.” – Josh Bowers

”Show up every day and focus on the things that you can control.” – Josh Bowers

“It’s all about the exchange trust with your students.” – Josh Bowers

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057: Mark Neese | Introducing Hope to Students

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 12 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Mark has been an educator for 25 years. Mark’s true passion is helping others the best in themselves. In order for this to happen, he started a mentoring program that focuses on improving students’ reading abilities based on positive relationships with adults and the community.

[00:01 – 16:12] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Mark Neese
The Flip 5! We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[16:13 – 25:26] Relationships are the Most Vital Piece of Education

Mark talks about the work that he does as a counselor to help change the lives of students
Working on students emotional and social skills
Teaching elementary is exhausting!
A teacher’s true calling
Mark talks about the most important part of a teacher’s job.

[25:27 – 49:26] Introducing Hope to Students

Mark talks about his strategies when facing elementary students
He discusses the differences between working with elementary and high school students
We share stories of our struggles with working with elementary students
Putting relationships first over content

[49:27 – 57:54] Accountability

The battle between who’s going to control the setting of standards
Re-evaluating the model of education

[57:55 – 01:03:46] Influence

What influences you? Mark talks about what influences him to do the things he does.

[01:03:47 – 01:11:59] Closing Segment

Things that you should be taking away with you from this episode
Final thoughts and words of advice
Connect with Mark. Links below.

Tweetable Quotes:

“I just want to encourage parents to take charge of their kids' learning.” – Mark Neese

“Educators love your kids.” – Mark Neese

You can connect with Mark on Facebook or LinkedIn.

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056: Hal Bowman | How to be a Rockstar Teacher

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 08 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Teach like a rockstar with the tips that Hal Bowman will share with us today. Hal revolutionizes campuses and classroom cultures with his unique blend of teaching and coaching.

He also shares relevant resources that enable teachers and school administrators to create an enjoyable learning environment for kids, which includes how to become more open and authentic in a classroom setting.

Let’s listen to Hal and teach like a rockstar!

[00:01 – 16:49] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Hal Bowman
We take turns asking five GTKY questions
Join our online community!
Links below

[16:50 – 32:01] Teach Like A Rockstar

Hal talks about this life-changing conversation with his mother
The connection between teaching and coaching
How to teach like a rockstar?

[32:02 – 47:57] What the Kids Want from Teachers

Why it’s okay for teachers to be “weird”
Hal tells us why
Widen your perspective in teaching with these thoughts from Hal
Compassion > Intelligence
Listen to Hal

[47:58 – 01:03:26] The Things That Matter

Don’t overlook what the kids really want
Here’s how
Authenticity and openness mean a lot to the kids
How to build relationships with kids in a classroom setting

[01:03:27 – 01:16:45] Dear Teacher...

JOIN our virtual conference this year!
Link below
Write a bestselling book with this advice from Hal
The feeling of touching your own book

[01:16:46 – 01:18:22] Closing Segment

Connect with Hal. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“I think sometimes we overlook the stuff that matters to kids, the little stuff, because we’re numb to it.” – Hal Bowman

“All you have to do is just talk to kids and watch kids thrive in classes with those teachers that are open and authentic...” – Hal Bowman

Resources mentioned:

Hal’s book: Dear Teacher

Email Hal at hal@halbowman.com or connect with him on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, YouTube, and Instagram.

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055: Solo | What School Administrators Should Know About "The Power in Permission"

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 05 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another Mindset Monday. In this episode, I will break down the concept of “power in permission.” This is one way to empower both teachers and students, which school administrators should consider for their campuses. In applying this concept, there are a couple of reminders that administrators should not forget, one of which is allowing students and teachers to know them too.

Listen to this episode and learn what is power in permission!

[00:01 - 01:30] Opening Segment

I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode
What school administrators should always remember

[01:31 - 06:49] The Power in Permission

Learn the “power in permission”
Set expectations clearly to the students
Don’t let misunderstandings to arise

[06:50 - 11:50] Participation Over Evaluation

The hat that school administrators can’t take off
Connection before content is hard to do
How to achieve this?
Participation over evaluation

[11:51 - 14:10] Closing Segment

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Connect with us. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“We have to provide power in permission so that our teachers clearly understand what the expectation is when they go back to the classrooms.” – Kevin Curtis

“Put down your laptop. Put down your clipboard. Sit down. Stand up. Whatever they’re doing, participate. Let the students get to know you.” – Kevin Curtis

Resources mentioned:

Ed White Middle School - NEISD

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054: Mark Medley | One Minute for Students and Teachers

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0600

It only takes one minute to impact your teachers, students, and community for a better relationship.

In today’s episode, I welcome Mark Medley to delve into the relationships between teachers and students. Mark is an educator, musician, and historical practitioner that helps build, sustain, and heal communities. Mark will also share how he coordinates the Multi-Tiered System of Supports (MTSS) Umbrella in continually improving his quality of education. His song “One Minute” Perfectly showcases these and you get to enjoy the song at the end of the episode!

Let’s listen to Mark and learn how we can strengthen our relationships even in today’s digital realm!

[00:01 - 18:28] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Mark Medley
We take turns asking five GTKY questions
The accessories that come with a Mark Medley action figure
Join our online community!
Links below

[18:29 - 37:16] Embracing New Techniques for Teaching in the Pandemic

The MTSS umbrella
Trauma, social-emotional learning, RTI, and restored practices
Virtual social-emotional learning in the pandemic
How these simple questions strengthen the relationship between student and teacher
Focusing on the proactive response strategies

[37:17 - 51:20] Being Comfortable with Ordinary

Mark talks about how teachers are being hard on themselves to be extraordinary
The importance of genuine ordinary connections
The ability of teachers to build relationships vs. students’ abilities
Being a model to other teachers
Responding to challenging behaviors

[51:21 - 1:07:24] To All the Teachers and Students

Mark’s biggest challenges in a school district
The panorama Education
Surveying students and teachers on relationships and perceptions
Mark’s thought process behind his song, “One Minute”

[1:07:25 - 01:16:49] Closing Segment

Let’s listen to the song “One Minute”
See links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“Relationships are something that people take for granted that everyone just has these skills to build relationships. There’s a lot to it.” - Mark Medley

“Does your ability to build relationships with your students transfer by osmosis? Is your skill their skill? Because you’re connecting with them, but are they connecting with each other? And are the teachers in your campus learning what you do to build those relationships with your students?” - Mark Medley

“Have no doubt that you are making an impact and this work is creating a ripple effect that is just gonna keep going and going and reverberating and echoing just you and your whole team on it.” Mark Medley

Listen to Mark’s music on Itunes, Spotify, or you can download his music at markmedley.bandcamp.com. Also, check out “One Minute” music video on YouTube!

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053: Kate Barker | Leading With Love: Is It Possible?

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Today, we invited Kate Barker, Principal at the David Douglas School District in Portland, Oregon. Kate discussed the book, “Principaled: Navigating the Leadership Learning Curve,” which she had written alongside her colleagues, Kourtney Ferrua and Rachael George. She broke down a chapter of the book on how to lead with love, together with other topics related to restorative justice in education.

Let’s listen to Kate and learn how to lead with love!

[00:01 – 13:28] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Kate Barker
We take turns asking five GTKY questions
What are the 5 Apology Languages?
Join our online community!
Links below

[13:29 – 26:29] From Abstract Ideas Into A Practical Book

Turn your ideas into a book
Listen to Kate
Even if you’re not a principal, Kate’s book is applicable to you
Kate explains
Kate realized this inspiring idea from her book you shouldn’t miss!

[26:30 – 41:27] Leading With Love

Kate tells us how to lead with love
Understand love better
Here’s Kate’s insights about understanding your “Why”
What we should realize about a child’s behavior

[41:28 – 52:32] Similarities Between Kids and Adults

Listen to Kate’s approach in implementing disciplinary actions
Everyone can talk about their F.O.R.D.
What do these letters mean?
The similarities between kids and adults according to Kate

[52:33 – 01:06:20] Your Authentic Self

Listen to our interesting exchange about building “rocket relationships”
Do you want to be like Kate? Don’t
Be your authentic self
What sets apart their approach in education?

[01:06:21 – 01:14:18] Closing Segment

A big part of societal issues relates to this
Related to social connections
Connect with Kate. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“I think every educator can teach another educator something.” – Kate Barker

“Every child’s behavior has meaning behind it.” – Kate Barker

Resources mentioned:

Kate’s book: Principaled: Navigating the Leadership Learning Curve
Joe Beckman
Brené Brown

Email Kate at principalkatebarker@gmail.com or connect with her on LinkedIn and Twitter.

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052: Erin Igoe | Peer Court System in Schools: What You Need to Know

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 25 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

A peer-led restorative model has done wonders for Erin Igoe as a school administrator. That model is the main theme of our discussion with her, which also includes their zero recidivism rate and student empowerment. The model was called the peer court system, which became successful because it’s directly related to restorative practices and relationship-centered learning.

Let’s listen to Erin and learn more about the peer court system!

[00:01 – 13:29] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Erin Igoe
We take turns asking five GTKY questions
Join our online community!
Links below

[13:30 – 22:56] Zero Recidivism Rate

Don’t miss these stories from Erin about restorative practices
How Erin helped her school achieve Zero Recidivism Rate
What Erin realized as a teacher

[22:57 – 36:34] Peer Court System

The success of the Peer Court System
Listen to our interesting exchange
How to create a safe space inside the classroom
Listen to Erin
Erin breaks down her approach in educating parents too

[36:35 – 47:29] Student Empowerment

Is student empowerment possible?
Listen to Erin
These outcomes emerge when students own their work
What Erin observes about the current generation of students

[47:30 – 57:08] Closing Segment

What we can take away from the COVID-19 pandemic
Connect with Erin. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“[The children] being in charge of their own lives and taking leadership and knowing that the adults were there for them is what really drives me.” – Erin Igoe

“Even though we’re disconnected, I feel sometimes we are on the same page more than ever.” – Erin Igoe

Email Erin at erinjigoe@gmail.com or connect with her on LinkedIn.

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051: Solo | Do You Know What It's Like To Be A Strong Black Woman?

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 22 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Welcome back to another Mindset Monday. In the previous episode, Denise “Circle Mamma” Holliday and I talked about the stories that left us with the most impact. One such story is about 2 female students who figured in a fight one Monday morning in school.

What moved me so much about this story was how the parents of those students resolved the conflict. I will never forget the monologue of one of the parents, which focused on being a strong black woman in a community setting.

Listen to this episode and know what it’s like to be a strong black woman!

[00:01 - 01:51] Opening Segment

I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode
Join our virtual conference this 13-14 July 2021!
Link below

[01:52 - 11:01] Demanding Justice

A memorable Monday morning in school
“What does justice look like?”
Preparation over facilitation

[11:02 - 19:05] Being A Strong Black Woman

The traits of a strong black woman
Identifying the root cause of the problem
The resolution for the problem that surprised me

[19:06 - 19:40] Closing Segment

Connect with us. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“I’m watching this conversation just surround me about where these parents are willing to take these kids.” – Kevin Curtis

“...to understand what it’s like and what it’s needed to be a strong black woman in a community that was not always supportive was something amazing to participate in.” – Kevin Curtis

Resources mentioned:

Ed White Middle School - NEISD

JOIN OUR 2021 VIRTUAL CONFERENCE on 13-14 July 2021. Head over to our website for more details about the conference and to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!

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050: Denise Holliday | How To Be A Genuine Person

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 18 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

We’ve made it! At first, I never imagined us getting past 10 podcast episodes, let alone 50! But here we are. In this special episode, I am joined by Denise “Circle Mamma” Holliday to reminisce the past 50 episodes of the Relationship Centered Learning Podcast, share what’s next for the National Educators for Restorative Practices, and talk about her personal insights about being a genuine person and building connections with students and her fellow educators.

Denise has made significant contributions to us, restorative practitioners, and drops a ton of valuable inputs as we move forward in our pursuit for restorative practices in schools, as well as relationship-centered learning. She credits her mother for who she is, who once told her, “There’s absolutely nothing you cannot attain if you don’t want it.”

[00:01 – 07:52] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Denise Holliday
We take turns asking five GTKY questions
Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below

[07:53 – 22:56] What’s Next for the NEDRP?

Join the virtual Educator Circle calls!
Link below
Denise tells us why
We break down the Certified Specialist in Restorative Practices training
What’s next for the National Educators for Restorative Practices?

[22:57 – 37:02] Ordinary vs. Extraordinary

Listen to our memorable moments from our first 50 episodes
Taking out the trash
Ordinary vs. extraordinary
Building communities
Don’t miss this story about the guy with the cowboy hat

[37:03 – 52:26] Facing Her Fears

Denise talks about her fear of co-writing a book
How she realized she “made it”
She recalls how we became connected

[55:27 – 01:10:04] Redefining Empathy

What you should understand about Denise
What listening is all about
How is it related with Empathy?
A healthy communication looks like this
Here are a few tips to build connections in the homes

[01:10:05 – 01:12:39] Closing Segment

Connect with Denise. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“I think I was trying to be extraordinary when really it’s that ordinary in me that is genuine, that people can really connect more with.” – Denise Holliday

“I want everyone to know that they’re awesome.” – Denise Holliday

Resource mentioned:

Email Denise at circlemamma@nedrp.com or connect with her on Facebook. Check out the National Educators for Restorative Practices and learn how we help teachers build relationships, one educator at a time.

JOIN our virtual conference on 13-14 July 2021 and February 2022. More details to follow.

Visit www.Rclfirst.com to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!

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049: Dave Stuart Jr. | What Does It Take To Be A Lovingly Competent Teacher?

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 11 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Dave Stuart, Jr. is a husband and father who refuses to sacrifice family for professional success. He is the bestselling author of “These 6 Things: How to Focus Your Teaching on What Matters Most,” wherein he lays out the steps for teachers to achieve long-term flourishing in school. Dave is also a keynote speaker, popular writer, and award-winning educator.

In this episode, we talk about how teachers can be lovingly competent. We also discuss what’s behind his moments of genuine connection with students, how he builds intentional practices in his classrooms, and how he teaches moments of genuine connection and relationships with students and fellow educators.

Let’s listen to Dave and know how to be lovingly competent teachers!

[00:01 – 12:51] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Dave Stuart, Jr.
We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[12:52 – 27:27] Classroom Management 101

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
Don’t miss this Classroom Management 101 from Dave!
Dave’s impartial observation about burning out

[27:28 – 43:21] Lovingly Competent Teachers

What does it take to be “lovingly competent?”
Listen to Dave
Dave’s major struggle as a teacher right now
The reason behind “connections before content”

[43:22 – 01:00:20] Relationship Measurements

How Dave measures relationships in the classroom
The heart of restorative practices according to Dave
Relationship-Centered Learning Before Social-Emotional Learning
Listen to our thoughts

[01:00:21 – 01:07:39] Closing Segment

Connect with Dave. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“Really good things tend to start in a niche, but then develop out of it.” – Dave Stuart Jr.

“You don’t need a hundred people to teach you any topic in teaching.” – Dave Stuart Jr.

Resource mentioned:

Cult of Pedagogy Podcast: Creating Moments of Genuine Connection Online

Email Dave at support@davestuartjr.com or connect with him on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube. Check out his website to learn more about his work!

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048: Dr. Rachel George | Why Give Students A Permission To Fail

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 08 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Dr. Rachel George is the proud principal of Sandy Grade School in Sandy Oregon. She is also a speaker, adjunct professor, education advocate, and co-author of “PrincipalED: Navigating the Leadership Learning Curve.” Rachel joins us in this episode to talk about building vibrant school cultures that yield positive student outcomes.

Rachel reminds us that culture and outcomes shouldn’t clash with each other and that there are many actionable steps that educators can take to build better relationships with students. She also offers her thoughts about allowing students to fail. What do you think are her thoughts?

Let’s listen to Rachel and know why students should be permitted to fail!

[00:01 – 07:09] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Rachel George
We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[07:10 – 19:14] School Culture and Student Outcomes

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
Achieving vibrant school cultures and awesome student outcomes
They don’t oppose each other
Rachel’s advice to build relationships with students better

[19:15 – 31:53] Teacher-Student Relationships

Rachel’s secrets on she succeeded in middle school as an administrator
Which is more important, social-emotional or academics?
Listen to Rachel’s answers
Here’s Rachel’s advice for teachers you don’t want to miss

[31:54 – 44:09] Permission to Fail

Integrating a solid structure and freedom to choose for students
Rachel’s thoughts here
Building relationships with just a question and a timer
Give people permission to fail
Rachel tells us why

[44:10 – 47:07] Closing Segment

How to reimagine education according to Rachel
Connect with Rachel. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“Own who you are and just do you.” – Dr. Rachel George

“If we’re gonna reimagine education and come out stronger, we need to learn from others...” – Dr. Rachel George

Resource mentioned:

Andy Jacks
Rachel’s book: PrincipalED

Email Rachel at rachael.george00@gmail.com or check out her website to learn more about her work. Also connect with her on Twitter and Instagram.

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047: Gloria Nzoya | Healthy Sexual Habits The Youth Should Know

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Denise and I talk with Gloria Nzoya, a 19-year old sexual health educator for her fellow students. This may sound like a taboo topic for some, but it needs to be discussed. Gloria will enlighten us in this episode on why both students and adults should talk about sexual health to build better relationships and provide proper information for the youth.

Let’s listen to Gloria and know healthy sexual habits for the youth!

[00:01 – 10:03] Opening Segment

Let’s get to know Gloria
We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[10:02 – 25:56] No Shame in Sex Talks

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
There’s no shame in talking about sex
Listen to our exchange
The strangest and oddest sex question asked to Gloria

[25:57 – 39:50] Who Is Our Biggest Critic?

Don’t ignore the red flags
Gaslighting
Manipulation
Listen to Gloria on why she’s grateful for 2020
Love yourself more with these tips from Gloria

[39:51 – 53:22] Sex Talks as Normal Talks

How to normalize sex talks
Listen to Gloria
She talks about her experience moving to the US
Choosing grace over sudden emotions
Gloria tells us how

[53:23 – 01:03:40] Closing Segment

What’s Gloria’s end goal in her current work?
Connect with Gloria. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“Don’t ignore the red flags.” – Gloria Nzoya

“Before you enter into a relationship, always know your worth and love yourself.” – Gloria Nzoya

Resource mentioned:

Email Gloria at glorianzoya5@gmail.com or connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and Tiktok.

Visit www.Rclfirst.com to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!

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046: Dr. Basil Marin | How to Do Education The Right Way Part 2

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 01 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0600

We picked up where we left off with Dr. Basil Marin, a disruptor of the status quo in the educational space. In the second part of our conversation, we discuss adjusting to the needs of students, resonating with them better, and knowing basically what makes them tick. All these things are needed to disrupt the space, to recognize that every student is unique and that educators can’t just put all of them inside a square-shaped hole.

Let’s continue our talk with Basil on doing education the right way!

[00:01 – 10:41] Opening Segment

We continue our conversation with Dr. Basil Marin
What teachers should understand about relationships
We talk about restorative practices

[10:42 – 22:29] Adjusting to the Needs of Students

Let’s break down Relationship-Centered Learning (RCL)
What sets RCL apart from Social-Emotional Learning
How to adjust to the students’ needs today

[22:30 – 38:45] Resonating With Students Better

How to speak to the “tiger in the mirror”
Basil explains
Basil tells us how to resonate with students better
Care over discipline in a school setting
Listen to our exchange

[38:46 – 53:54] Knowing What Makes Students Tick

Tough love vs. cupcakes and sprinkles
Basil weighs in
Learn this system that Basil implements to his students
Basil drops a book recommendation you shouldn’t miss!
Link below

[53:55 – 57:41] Closing Segment

Connect with Basil. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“The way [students] know you care is because you’re tough on them. Some kids don’t need the cupcakes and sprinkles.” – Dr. Basil Marin

“If you have [a] relationship with kids, you’ll know certain kids that want to be recognized publicly and there are certain kids that want to be recognized in private.” – Dr. Basil Marin

Resource mentioned:

Lifetime
Book: It's Me

Email Basil at anastacio.marin234@yahoo.com or check out his website and Twitter profile.

WATCH OUT for his new consulting company!

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045: Dr. Basil Marin | How to Do Education The Right Way Part 1

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 25 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Dr. Basil Marin is a leader in the educational sector, but first and foremost, he is a disruptor of the status quo. Basil joins me in this 2-part episode to talk about the importance of mentors and a supportive environment to the learning process of students. He will then break down the current educational system and offer his insights on how we can rethink how we teach our students to better set them up for success.

Let’s all listen to Basil’s thoughts about doing education the right way!

[00:01 – 12:48] Opening Segment

I welcome our guest, Dr. Basil Marin
We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[12:49 – 25:31] Disruptor of Status Quo

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
Why Basil sees himself a “disruptor of the status quo”
What’s lacking in education right now?
The factors that shaped his behavior in his early years
Basil talks about the positive influence of his mentor

[25:32 – 35:33] A Mentor’s Impact on Students

He recalls his path to special education
Basil tells us that we are enough
Your impact matters
He talks about the importance of professionalism

[35:34 – 48:43] Education The Right Way

Why education should not put in a box
Listen to our exchange
Should we rethink how we see education?
Listen to Basil
The single most important thing we need to do education the right way

[48:44 – 49:04] Closing Segment

Connect with Basil. Links below
Watch out for Part 2 of my conversation with Basil!

Tweetable Quotes:

“We have opportunities to rebuild...but you have to have the right tools to rebuild the curricula.” – Dr. Basil Marin

“If education was being done right, I wouldn’t be a unicorn to education.” – Dr. Basil Marin

Resource mentioned:

Book: Even on Your Worst Day, You Can Be a Student's Best Hope
Previous episode: Solo | Testimony of Impact‬

Email anastacio.marin234@yahoo.com to connect with Basil or check out his website. Follow him on Twitter.

Visit www.Rclfirst.com to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!

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044: Sofia Sandrea | Evaluate Your Self-Worth Better

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 18 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Today, Denise and I talked with Sofia Sandrea, a 20-year old college student who struggled to gauge her self-worth from her social circles until she reconnected with her early relationships in life.

She learned from these reconnections to accept herself for who she is: a strong young woman who knows her true self-worth and an empowered individual free from the limiting beliefs introduced to her by the world.

Let’s all listen to Sofia to learn how to evaluate your self-worth better!

[00:01 – 13:12] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Sofia Sandrea
We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[13:13 – 23:40] The Teachers Who Stood Out The Most

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
Sofia shares her inspiring insights about bravery
Listen to the teacher traits that stand out the most for Sofia

[23:41 – 33:23] Structured Learning Environment

The kind of learning environment where Sofia has thrived
You might thrive in this environment too!
What does it mean to be an only child?
Hear our exchange
How to set the bar you want to break

[33:24 – 43:39] Vulnerability as a Sign of Courage and Strength

Who is Sofia’s biggest influence in her life?
What are the traits of this person?
She shares this life-changing moment you should hear
Listen to Sofia’s reminder for her fellow students

[43:40 – 51:01] Closing Segment

Connect with Sofia. Links below
Final thoughts from Sofia and me

Tweetable Quotes:

“People are empathetic. People are gonna think the way you think of yourself.” – Sofia Sandrea

“Don’t take your friends for granted.” – Sofia Sandrea

Resource mentioned:

Brené Brown

Email sofia.sandrea@me.com to connect with Sofia.

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043: Taylor Armstrong | An Open Letter for School Administrators

Kevin Curtis — Tue, 16 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Our awesome guest for today is Taylor Armstrong, currently Assistant Director of Technology at Vestavia Hills City School District. This is only a part of his impressive career in the educational space, which includes positions at the secondary and higher educational levels. Today, he will share his insights about leadership and relationships, as well as give advice to help administrators lead their schools better.

Let’s all listen to Taylor’s open letter for school administrators!

[00:01 – 14:16] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Allyson Apsey
We take turns asking five GTKY questions
What’s missing most in this world for Taylor?

[14:17 – 24:50] Social and Emotional Learning

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
Why Taylor loves the education space
Learn from Taylor’s main takeaways from his career!

[24:51 – 35:25] Shut Up and Listen

Don’t miss Taylor’s approach as a school administrator
How can you learn better from others?
What to say when don’t know the answer to a question
Taylor’s response here
You should not have this kind of leadership

[35:26 – 49:04] Best Time To Be Ordinary

Taylor gives his insights about the role of technology in education
The best tool a teacher can use
The pandemic is the best time to be ordinary
Hear our exchange
He walks us through this life-changing journey

[49:05 – 54:23] Closing Segment

Connect with Taylor. Links below
Final thoughts from Taylor and me

Tweetable Quotes:

“Don’t limit yourself and don’t think that you have to be all this craziness. You just have to be yourself.” – Taylor Armstrong

“If you don’t have leadership that will not let you make mistakes, you’re working for the wrong leadership.” – Taylor Armstrong

Resources Mentioned:

Joe Beckman

Email armstrongt@vestavia.k12.al.us to connect with Taylor or follow him on LinkedIn and Twitter. Check out Vestavia Hills City Schools District and learn more on how they build their students up!

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042: Allyson Apsey | Take Care of Teachers, Have Fun with Students

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Our awesome guest for today is Allyson Apsey. Allyson was a school leader for 15 years, which is only a part of her decades-worth of experience in the education space spanning over 20 years now.

Today, she will talk about the cornerstone of relationships in the campus context, her philosophy as a school administrator, and a program that changed their view on discipline. Allyson will also give us a sneak peek into her books and tell us her inspiring thoughts about this 11-letter word.

Let’s listen to Allyson and learn how to take care of teachers and have fun with students!

[00:01 – 12:17] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Allyson Apsey
We take turns asking five GTKY questions

[12:18 – 22:11] The Cornerstone of Relationships

Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below
What’s Allyson doing right now?
Build adult connections in the campus
Listen to Allyson’s tips

[22:12 – 39:18] Take Care of Teachers, Have Fun with Students

Allyson’s philosophy as a school principal
Why Allyson wants to take care of teachers first
How schools can deal with the COVID-19 pandemic

[39:19 – 50:43] Benefits of Restorative Recess

Allyson talks about the benefits of restorative recess
We share our observations about students and parents today
What are the “4 F’s” you should know?

[50:44 – 01:04:10] Looking For Happy Accidents and Beautiful Lessons

We talk about the power of experience in the learning process
Listen to Allyson’s passion that you’d want to follow too!
What is serendipity for Allyson and why is it her favorite word?
Allyson breaks down what her books are all about

[01:04:11 – 01:06:46] Closing Segment

Connect with Allyson. Links below
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

“Trust is the cornerstone of relationships.” – Allyson Apsey

“If we look for happy accidents and beautiful lessons, we’re gonna live richer, more fulfilled, wiser lives.” – Allyson Apsey

Resources Mentioned:

Connect with Allyson on her website and social media pages: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. Listen to her podcast.

Visit www.Rclfirst.com to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!

Join our Facebook Group for more stories and communication about our work.

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041: Solo | Reimagining the Educational System Post-Pandemic

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0600

#RCLBeforeSEL. Welcome to our first Mindset Monday in 2021. Join me as I lay out all the exciting things we’re going to do as we grow the Relationship-centered Learning (RCL) approach in the education space.

As we slowly come out of this pandemic, we should consider the strategies that we implement in school to enable our students to learn better. Instead of simply re-opening the doors of education, we should re-imagine. Let’s all re-imagine an educational system wherein relationships with one another are at the center of learning. What does it look like for you?

Listen to this episode and look forward to a new way of learning this 2021!

[00:01 - 08:19] Relationships at the Center of Learning

I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode
Relationships at the center of learning
Our important realization this pandemic
Schools should not re-open, but re-imagine
Hear my explanation
Join our Facebook group and let’s grow the RCL approach!
Link below
RCL before Social-Emotional Learning
What’s in store for our community this 2021?

[08:20 - 09:17] The Quality of a Phenomenal Teacher

Connect with us. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“What we wanna be able to do is as schools are growing, we wanna grow with them particularly post-pandemic.” – Kevin Curtis

“Ultimately, relationships are more valuable than ever.” – Kevin Curtis

“It’s okay to not be okay in education. Just remember that we’re here for you.” – Kevin Curtis

Visit www.Rclfirst.com to join the Educator Circle Calls that happen three times a week!

Join our Facebook Group and join our mission to grow the Relationship-centered Learning approach. #RCLBeforeSEL

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040: Avi Palaoro | Understand People Better with These Three Words

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 21 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Today, Denise and I interviewed Avi Palaoro from Oregon City High School. Avi is an active member of her school’s student council, as well as other groups in her community. She focuses on building platforms for people to enable them to voice out their ideas and experiences.

She will share her story to show us that making a difference in the world does not have an age requirement. Connecting with people and making them open up to you to understand them better also does not require a degree. Sometimes, all it takes are three words.

Let’s listen to Avi and learn the words that can help us understand other people better!

[00:01 – 01:59] Opening Segment

Denise and I introduce and welcome our guest, Avi Palaoro
Join our Facebook group! Link below

[02:00 – 20:03] The Flip-5 Segment

We take turns asking five GTKY questions
Learn more GTKY questions!
Link below

[20:04 – 36:44] Building Platforms For Voices to be Heard

Let’s get to know Avi
What stood out to Avi about social connections?
Listen to Avi on how she handles racism and homophobia
Avi gives interesting insights about calling out and shaming
“No-hate” dialogues

[36:45 – 51:57] Giving People Experiences

Avi tells us the importance of having conversations about differing beliefs
Educate and give resources
Don’t force-feed your own beliefs
How important is her support system in pursuing her passion and advocacies?
We talk about turning abstract ideas into concrete experiences
You can’t tell someone how they should feel

[51:58 – 01:08:06] Making People Open Up

The three powerful words that can help other people open up to you
Denise explains
The difference between reacting and responding
Talking about uncomfortable topics and those still considered taboo

[01:08:07 – 01:15:29] Take Care of Yourself First

The question that people should ask for each other
Being vulnerable
Don’t forget to take care of yourself first
Communicate your “why” and “how”
All it takes is one person

[01:15:30 – 01:18:28] Closing Segment

Connect with Avi. Links below
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

“I just want to elevate the voices of the people who don’t get to be heard...I want to help them have a platform to share their voices and talk about their experiences.” – Avi Palaoro

“You need to fix yourself and heal yourself before you go out there and fix and heal everyone else.” – Avi Palaoro

Resources Mentioned:

Ep. 2: Mauren Palaoro | Building Community in the Classroom

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039: John Whalen | Finding a Way to Connect with the Students [Part 2]

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 18 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0600

Join us for part two of our interview with John Whalen.

John is the current building principal at the Tioughnioga Riverside Academy in Whitney Point, New York, a 4th-8th grade school with close to 550 students. Before becoming a leader/principal of a school, John worked as Binghamton CSD’s Restorative Practices Coordinator from 2016-2019. He is passionate about advocating for the social justice of the students he works with.

[00:01 – 11:32] Leading the Way

John talks about his current role as a principal of a school and a leader of a district
Starting proactive restorative circles to help students

[11:33 – 19:36] Classroom Circles

John talks about the inspiration behind his book Classroom Circles

[19:37 – 24:49] John’s Unique Point of Views in Education

John shares lessons from his experiences in the educator’s field
John’s call to action for educators

[24:50 – 36:25] What John has been up to

Where John is at now at his career
Let’s hear John’s point of view as a leader
John shares experiences from one of their circles

[36:26 – 41:48] Closing Segment

The cross-connect model
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

“As we look at what education looks like, I really firmly believe that working with the idea of social and machinal learning, that’s gonna be as important as academic learning as we move forward into this century.” – John Whalen

“Diversity taught me more than I could’ve ever learned watching a movie or reading a book.” – John Whalen

“I’m the guy that is saying teaching kids the social side, the social skills, is gonna be possibly more important than teaching them the academic skills very soon.” – John Whalen

Resources Mentioned:

Classroom Circles by John Whalen
Pandemic Pedagogy

Get in touch with John on LinkedIn or shoot him an email at jwhalen@wpcsd.org

038: John Whalen | Finding a Way to Connect with the Students [Part 1]

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I interview John Whalen. I first met John back when he was a 6th-grade teacher at East Middle School Binghamton City School District. John came to Texas to visit me at Ed White Middle School, and we automatically connected. Since then, I’ve seen John grow from a teacher to the restorative practices coordinator of the district, and now in leadership.

Tune in for part one of this two-part interview.

[00:01 – 01:37] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, John Whalen
Join our brand new RCL Community Facebook Group! Link below

[01:38 – 13:26] The Flip-5 Segment

We exchange five GTKY questions
Join our Educator Circle Calls! Link below

[13:27 – 20:56] Who is John Whalen?

John talks about his background.
His thoughts on the disproportionality in school discipline
John talks about “Restorative Justice.”
The story of how we met

[20:57 – 36:28] Restorative Justice

Leading and creating Restorative Initiative circles
The challenges that come with restorative justice
John’s main takeaways while working with restorative justice
Restorative approach vs. the traditional approach

[36:29 – 45:16] Give Teachers Opportunities

Give the teachers more opportunities to do restorative work
Bringing teachers and students together
Give students the opportunity to be heard

Tweetable Quotes:

“When we started doing those relationship-building circles, I started learning so much more about the students in my class.” – John Whalen

“I saw some of the most amazing things when teachers were willing to come in and just say okay, I’m willing to listen to you.” – John Whalen

Resources Mentioned:

Relationship Centered Learning Community (Facebook Group)

Get in touch with John on LinkedIn

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037: Solo | You Are So Important in Students' Life

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 21 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0600

Here’s a special Mindset Monday with you, me, and the mic. This will also be our year-end special as I’m going to take a couple of weeks off to recover from a hip replacement surgery. Today, we will reflect on how we want to end 2020. As we have been talking about in the past months, we’ll focus not on the things that happened and we have no control of but on the things that we are proud of despite the COVID-19 pandemic.

Before anything else, I want to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Let’s jump into this episode and end the year together! See you all in 2021!

[00:01 - 05:02] The Privilege of Being an Educator

I introduce the topic for this special episode.
I read this very inspirational post I came across on social media

[05:03 - 11:10] What I’m Proud of This 2020

I talk about the things we’ve accomplished together this 2020
Impact 9,000 educators
Conduct weekly circles
Coach fellow educators
Build communities
Connect with us. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“I was able to start a podcast to continue to meet and connect others through virtual settings, to continue to find out how educators are still finding ways to make connections with kids.” – Kevin Curtis

“2021 is gonna give us a new vision of being able to look past the rearview mirror...let’s develop and discover how we [grew] from 2020.” – Kevin Curtis

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036: Solo | You Are So Important in Students' Life

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 14 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode of Mindset Monday, join me as I discuss topics that have come out on previous episodes of the podcast.

Today, I will share with you this interesting activity where we always get amazing responses. This activity involves asking people, usually students, about a word or a phrase that describes how phenomenal their teachers are. What kind of responses do we usually get? It’s rarely about the content of the curriculum.

Let’s jump in to this episode and know why educators are so important in the students’ life!

[00:01 - 08:43] The Quality of a Phenomenal Teacher

I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode.
The qualities of a phenomenal teacher
We’ll have an activity to identify these qualities
Feel free to pause this episode when you need to!
I share the interesting responses I have gotten so far
Does content matter?
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable in front of students

[08:44 - 09:28] The Quality of a Phenomenal Teacher

Connect with us. Links below
Final words

Tweetable Quotes:

“…just remember that it isn’t the content or the curriculum that’s gonna stand out for you and those students and those connections, it’s gonna be whether you are real or genuine...” – Kevin Curtis

“In the middle of the game, what makes you stand out...it’s the hard work, it’s the caring, the genuine or authentic, the people that are being real....” – Kevin Curtis

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035: Alexis Collier | 4 Ways a School Can Empower its Students

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 10 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Denise and I will talk with Alexis Collier, a senior college student at the University of Texas - Arlington. She’s studying finance and economics, hoping to be a financial analyst after her graduation. Today, she will join us to discuss how we can build trust between students and teachers. We will also know her thoughts about the qualities that make a teacher standout, the ways a school can be trustworthy in the eyes of students, and the pillars that Alexis envisions in her ideal school.

[00:01 – 01:32] Opening Segment

We introduce and welcome our guest, Alexis Collier

[01:33 – 07:29] The Flip-5 Segment

We exchange five GTKY questions
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[07:30 – 12:37] Who is Alexis Collier?

Alexis’ call-to-action to hear the students’ voices
Her thoughts about teachers who standout

[12:38 – 20:14] Give Teachers a Chance

Why we should reach out to teachers
We talk about “teacher power”
Looking at students as human beings

[20:15 – 29:59] 4 Ways a School Can Empower its Students

4 ways a school can promote student empowerment
3 strategies to build trust within schools
What’s Alexis doing right now?

[30:00 – 39:40] Spark Connections

The butterfly effects of sparking a connection
Be a “bridge-builder”
Alexis’ message for educators
Alexis’ biggest inspiration

[39:41 – 41:01] Closing Segment

Alexis’ closing message
Connect with Alexis. Links below
Final thoughts from me

Tweetable Quotes:

“My message to educators is...no matter how hard it gets or how hard it feels, there are people who count on you because you are their inspiration, you are their teacher...” – Alexis Collier

“The race is not the same for all of us. You’re most likely doing better than you think you are.” – Alexis Collier

Resources Mentioned:

Episode 1: Joe Beckman | Reclaiming Human Connection

Email Alexis at nicolecollier23@gmail.com or connect with her on Facebook and LinkedIn.

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034: Adam DeWitt | How to Lead Multiple Campuses

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 07 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0600

Building relationships one campus at a time. Adam DeWitt joins us in this episode to share his insights in leading multiple campuses. Currently, Adam is a leader in several campuses within the Oconto Unified School District. Aside from being an experienced administrative officer in multiple campuses, Adam is a husband, father, and a co-host of the Principal Leadership Lab Podcast. His main principle as a campus leader is simple: “if it’s best for the kids, try; if it isn’t, don’t do it again.”

[00:01 – 01:30] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Adam DeWitt

[01:31 – 16:54] The Flip-5 Segment

Adam and I take turns asking five GTKY questions
Who’s the “Elvis Presley of Modern Day?”

[16:55 – 28:14] Who is Adam the Principal?

Emphasize connection before content
Check out our website. Link below
Adam shares his background and path as an educator
Adam talks about this principle that won’t ever fail you

[28:15 – 44:44] Leading Multiple Campuses

Adam’s sign of maturity
The pros and cons of being a campus leader
This phone app can make life easy for campus leaders
This app is also common in an office!

[44:45 – 1:01:18] The Significant 72

Who are the “Sarahs” of the world?
What are they?
The 3 people behind a campus leader that you should meet
Adam’s advice to educators struggling to connect with students
What’s the Waterfall Strategy?

[01:01:19 – 01:09:24] Closing Segment

Learn more about Adam’s passion
Connect with Adam. Links below
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

“We’ll never agree with our supervisors 100% of the time no matter how good they are.” – Adam DeWitt

“When we grow and reflect, that is a sign of maturity.” – Adam DeWitt

“Our words are the most powerful tool we have as a group of educators..” – Adam DeWitt

Resources Mentioned:

Email Adam at adewitt2@gmail.com or connect with him on Twitter and LinkedIn. Read his blog posts and listen to him on The Principal Leadership Lab every Monday and Thursday.

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033: Adam Dovico | Education from Different Angles

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 03 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Adam Dovico joins us. Adam is an accomplished teacher, principal, author, speaker, and professor. He began his career in North Carolina as an elementary teacher, then worked as a teacher and the school implementations specialist for the renowned Ron Clark Academy, where he traveled across the country conducting professional development and onsite training to schools. Adam returned to his alma mater, Wake Forest University, to train the next generations of teachers as a clinical professor. Most recently, he started as the principal of Moore Magnet Elementary School.

[00:01 – 01:25] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Adam Dovico

[01:26 – 12:12] The Flip-5 Segment

Adam and I take turns asking five GTKY questions

[12:13 – 32:54] Who is Adam Dovico?

Adam talks about his background and how his journey as an educator began
Hear Adam’s perspectives from the different angles of education he experienced
Leading with a hands-on approach.
Lead innovation, risk-taking, and being a change agent
We talk about Adam’s leadership approach
Adam talks about his time with Ron Clark Academy

[32:55 – 44:26] Teacher Readiness

Adam weighs in on teacher readiness
The preparedness in creating relationships with students

[44:27 – 49:19] Adam the Author

Adam talks about his books
Inside the Trenches
The Limitless School
When Kids Lead
Adam shares resources for educators

[49:20 – 55:48] Closing Segment

The perfect time to reintroduce social studies
Accountability for connections
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

“It’s being intentional about making connections with your kids and being intentional about how and when and why you plan your lessons. It’s about being real. It’s about being accessible. It’s about being relatable.” – Adam Dovico

“Dare to be different.” – Adam Dovico

Resources Mentioned:

Connect with Adam on Instagram, Twitter, and his website https://www.adamdovico.com/.

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032: Solo | You Are Enough

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 30 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode of Mindset Monday, join me as I discuss topics that have come out on previous episodes of the podcast.

Many of us grow up thinking that we are not enough, and today, with the sensitivity of Social Media, we tend to compare ourselves with others. We compare what we have from what you see in other people’s lives, and sometimes seeing other people having ‘better’ lives than ours, we tend to pity ourselves and think to ourselves that we’re never enough.

TODAY, I AM HERE TO REMIND YOU THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH. And I hope that from this, you’ll spread the positivity to others.

[00:01 - 07:55] Comparing Yourself to Others

I introduce the topic for this Mindset Monday episode.
I just want to remind you that you are enough.
During difficult times, we question ourselves, ‘am I enough?’
Remind yourself and others that they’re enough.
Don’t let anything that happened in the past define who you are.
Listen to yourself and who you are.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Isn’t it crazy that so many of us grow up thinking we’re not enough? That we’re never good enough, whether that’s at our job or that’s in life or relationships.” – Kevin Curtis

“You can struggle and still be great.” – Kevin Curtis

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031: Jaelin Su | Students Can Make a Difference and Impact in the World

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 26 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I am interviewing a student, Jaelin Su. Jaelin is a 15-year-old student at the Liberal Arts and Science Academy in Austin, Texas. She shares her passion for change and how it was derived from her 4th-grade teacher. Jaelin also shares how becoming a brave ambassador has given her an outlet and confidence to be the person that her teacher impacted her to be back in 4th grade.

[00:01 – 01:26] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Jaelin Su.

[01:27 – 10:06] The Flip-5 Segment

Jaelin and I take turns asking five GTKY questions

[10:07 – 24:05] Building Relationships from A Student's Perspective

Hear from Jaelin's perspective, a 15-year-old student, the importance of relationships
Jaelin talks about her 4th-grade teacher's impact in shaping the person she wants to be.
How students can make an impact on their teachers' lives

[24:06 – 35:44] Students Can Make a Difference and Impact in the World

Jaelin talks about how the BRAVE Ambassadors are making a difference together with BRAVE Communities
Jaelin talks about the club she started in their school.

[35:45 – 45:24] Barriers in Creating Genuine Teacher-Student Relationships

Why do you think some teachers find it hard to create connections with their students?
Jaelin weighs in on why some teachers find it hard to create genuine relationships with their students.
The importance for teachers to make an effort to create relationships with their students
Teachers should see students as individuals, not just a name on a list.

[45:25 – 50:02] Closing Segment

Learn more about BRAVE Communities. See the links below.
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

"I really think relationships are the foundation of so much in your life. Especially when you are young like me and you're just trying to figure out like who you are and where you belong in the world and how to make your way around things and figure stuff out." – Jaelin Su

"I think that effort really makes you trust a person more." – Jaelin Su

Be part of BRAVE’s mission. Follow them on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter.

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030: Mirella Campbell | Vulnerability and Creating Genuine Connections

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0600

Mirella Campbell is a friend of mine, and we went to the same high school. She was an elementary teacher and administrator in San Antonio, Texas but recently moved to Georgia. In this episode, Mirella shares her life struggles when getting into college and how she ultimately stayed committed to becoming a teacher.

[00:01 – 01:12] Opening Segment

I introduce our guest, Mirella Campbell

[01:13 – 12:03] The Flip-5 Segment

Mirella and I take turns asking 5 GTKY questions

[12:04 – 19:55] Who is Mirella the Educator?

Mirella shares her AHA! moment that made her want to become an educator.
She looked up to her 2nd-grade teacher and made her realize that Hispanic women aren’t supposed to be just housewives.
Mirella talks about her background and her childhood.
Shares her struggles in life when getting into college
Talks about her journey as an educator

[19:56 – 33:04] Piloting a Relationship-Centered Approach in the Modern-Day School

Why it’s so hard for some educators to put relationships in the center of learning
Mirella on making an impact in her role as an Assistant Principal
What’s stopping us from creating an environment that is relationship-centered in schools?

[33:05 – 41:48] Education in the New Normal

Realizing relationships should be established with the students to create an effective learning environment in the new normal.
Lesson based curriculums blend relationships; they don’t build relationships.
Social-emotional needs and race or culture diversity
Navigating through the pandemic

[41:49 – 1:01:31] Vulnerability and Creating Genuine Connections

Don’t focus on being extraordinary. Focus on being ordinary.
Be vulnerable
Creating moments of genuine connection

Tweetable Quotes:

“The pressure, the responsibility, and just the fact that you can’t keep everybody happy was so overwhelming for me.” – Mirella Campbell on realizing the responsibilities of a Principal.

“When you’re a first-year administrator, whether you are a principal or an assistant principal, it takes you time to get to know who kids are. So, by walking in on these morning meetings and just really focusing on having those conversations, meaningful conversations – I’ve had the opportunity to connect kids with siblings and families and really get to know and hear what’s going on.” – Mirella Campbell

“Questions start the conversations; the answers shape the conversations.” – Kevin Curtis

“I think that’s important for an educator is to always be genuine and for you to show that vulnerability so that kids can relate to you. Otherwise, you’re not gonna get anywhere with them especially in the academic world.” – Mirella Campbell

Resources Mentioned:

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029: Mark Horner | Creating a Classroom Centered Around Relationships

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 19 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0600

Mark Horner is a high school AP US History and Psychology teacher teaching for 22 years in the Tallmadge City School District. In this episode, let’s hear Mark’s journey to molding a career in the classroom that was centered around relationships.

[00:01 – 01:26] Opening Segment

I introduce and welcome our guest, Mark Horner

[01:27 – 14:33] The Flip-5 Segment

Mark and I take turns asking five GTKY questions

[14:34 – 35:05] Creating a Classroom Centered Around Relationships

Mark talks about his background and how his journey as an educator began
Middle School vs. High School, Mark weighs in on the difference between the two
Being intentional in creating relationships
Making students feel at home when they’re in the classroom
Hear how Mark responds to people who don’t approve or say negative comments about his teaching approach.
We talk about Brené Brown’s Podcasts and Book
Being vulnerable

[35:06 – 52:17] Be Intentional

Be very intentional with everything you do
Be intentional in educating and making an impact on your students’ lives.
Love, lead and help provide opportunities to kids for them to succeed in life.
The contagion effect

[52:18 – 58:30] Closing Segment

What would you tell the 1st year Mark from the 22nd year, Mark?
You’re qualified. You’re good enough.
Mark shares his struggles during college.
Final thoughts
Connect with Mark. See the links below.

Tweetable Quotes:

“I don’t care what the kid’s struggling with, and I don’t care whatever the issue might be. When they’re in this classroom, I make it my number one priority to make them feel like this is their home.” – Mark Horner

“Passion goes hand in hand with courage.” – Mark Horner

“It’s okay to not be okay.” – Mark Horner

“Kids need vulnerability, and you need to model vulnerability for them. They need to know how to relay and share and lead in that capacity.” – Mark Horner

Resources Mentioned:

You can follow Mark on Twitter.

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028: Solo | What Drives Your Commitment?

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 16 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0600

In this episode of mindset Monday, join me as I discuss topics that have come out on previous episodes of the podcast and my life that got me thinking. One that really struck me is talking about the word COMMITMENT. With all that’s happening, what I realized is that ‘commitment’ is challenged on a daily basis.

[00:01 – 04:59] What Drives Your Commitment?

I talk briefly about the main topic for this episode
Situations educators and the educational system are forced into in this pandemic
The commitment educators have

[05:00 – 11:05] Reflecting on Your Commitments

Reflect where is your connection to commitment
The demonstration of unconditional commitment from teachers, educators, and leaders despite the circumstances.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Despite all of these hurdles and obligations, educators are like the definition of commitment right now.” – Kevin Curtis

“Sometimes what we have to recognize is love doesn’t always feel like love.” – Kevin Curtis

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027: Dave Schmittou | The Importance of Relationships in Schools

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 12 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0600

Dave Schmittou is the former 2018 College Educator of the Year, former 2014 Michigan Administrator of the Year, and is currently a professor of Educational Leadership at Central Michigan University. Dave is also a fellow podcaster, the host of The Lasting Learning Podcast.

In this episode, we talk about:

[00:01 – 01:26] Opening Segment

I introduce our guest, Dave Schmittou
I talk briefly about the valuable information you can take advantage of in this episode

[01:27 – 10:35] GTKY Segment

Dave and I take turns asking questions to get to know each other better

[10:36 – 26:12] The Importance of Relationships in Schools

Dave talks about his background and how his journey as an educator began
Shares his thoughts on how relationships are made with students on different grade levels
Dave talks about the importance of relationships in schools and how to build the foundation of good relationships
Dave weighs in on the reason why relationships get lost

[26:13 – 41:00] The Roadblocks in Building Relationships

Dave talks about the roadblocks in building relationships in schools and what it takes to overcome them.
The possibilities when putting relationships first.

[41:01 – 50:42] Building Campus Connections

Dave shares strategies in building adult-to-adult relationships within the campus
The process of making connections

[50:43 – 57:34] Closing Segment

Dave talks about his podcast, The Lasting Learning Podcast.
Why you should be listening to his podcast
Dave talks about his book
Making Assessment Work for Educators Who Hate Data but LOVE Kids
Connect with Dave. See the links below
Dave’s recommendations:
Teach Better Team
Final thoughts

Tweetable Quotes:

“If you’re simply building relationships so that you can get kids to jump through your hoops and perform your tricks and do all those things, you’re manipulating kids. So, stop it.” – Dave Schmittou

“Building relationships with people does take time.” – Dave Schmittou

“You want your kids to learn. You want them to be connected to you. You want that trust. You want that relationship. Then yes, it’s going to take time. It’s going to take energy. It’s gonna take investment.” – Dave Schmittou

“Teachers have to understand that it is hard work. They have to understand that it is going to be difficult. It is gonna be uncomfortable. It’s not just liking the nice kids. It is getting to know every single kid.” – Dave Schmittou

Resources Mentioned:

You can connect with Dave on Twitter, Instagram, or visit his website https://schmittou.net/

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026: Benjamin Koenig | The Music Teacher Experience

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 09 Nov 2020 00:15:00 -0600

Benjamin Koenig has been in education for 8 years, and he is currently the K-6th grade music teacher at Delaware Elementary School in Indiana. The music program at Delaware Elementary has performed with celebrities and Grammy-award winning artists and was featured in USA Today after a performance video went viral.

On this Episode:

Benjamin talks about the type of teacher he is- a kid at heart and finding the fun in education.
Benjamin shares how relationships are built in music programs even when their time is limited.
Benjamin gives examples of relationship integration in music class.
Kevin and Benjamin discuss the advantages of building relationships with music.
Benjamin talks to Kevin about time and how the purpose of relationship building has to be a priority.

Tweetable Quote:

“Ninety percent of what I teach is relationships and ten percent is music. Now, the music’s there in the content but it’s so blended in with the relationship building now, it’s hard to tell the difference.” - Benjamin Koenig

Resources:

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025: Ryan Scott | Changing the World One Relationship at a Time

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 05 Nov 2020 00:30:00 -0600

Ryan Scott is a former elementary teacher and former elementary principal who is currently serving as the assistant principal at the Webster County Board of Education in Dixon, Kentucky. Ryan shares with us some of the ways relationships have impacted him as a person and as a principal.

Key Points on this Episode:

Ryan and Kevin discuss depression and anxiety and the signs to look for in students and teachers alike.
Ryan and Kevin talk about the differences in the highschool and elementary school levels and give advice for those in leadership at the elementary level.
Ryan and Kevin explain what needs to happen in relationships to change the world starting in education.
Ryan and Kevin discuss what we all need to do to do our part!

Tweetable Quotes:

“Perception is reality. Even if we don’t understand it, if this person is feeling this way, that is their reality, and we shouldn’t change it.” - Ryan Scott

“Change needs to be slow.” - Ryan Scott

“But the thing that computers cannot do that we must do is that relationship.” - Ryan Scott

Ryan Scott:

To reach out to Ryan about his dream for his non-profit organization, contact him at his personal email or cell!

ryanscott1981@gmail.com

(270)860-0211

Resources:

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024: Solo | Testimony of Impact

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 02 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -0600

On this Mindset Monday, Kevin shares a testimony of the first teacher who impacted him for education. If someone has impacted your life for the better in education, it is important for them to hear that from you!

Reach out and tell someone today that you are grateful for their impact on your life!

Resources:

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023: Raymond Porten | Making an Impact

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 29 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

Raymond Porten is the principal of Indian Hill Elementary School in McHenry, Illinois. He is passionate about creating a school where we are “helping every student obtain excellence and social-emotional confidence!” Hear Kevin and Raymond talk all things leadership and how it is centered around relationships!

On this Episode:

Hear Raymond’s background both in family and in education and learning how climate and culture work together.
Raymond and Kevin talk about the personal, genuine need for connection.
Raymond and Kevin give examples of being accessible to students and teachers alike.
Kevin and Raymond discuss intentionality in forming relationships.
Raymond and Kevin talk about the obstacles to relationship-centered learning and why it isn’t currently happening more in our classrooms.

Key Takeaways:

Personalize your reach out- calls, postcards, and communication.
Give the power and permission to have fun! Fun is important for students and teachers alike.
Focus on the process not the product.

Tweetable Quotes:

“You can’t wing relationships!” Kevin

“Be human, and get to know people on their level.” - Raymond

Raymond Porten:

Check out his podcast: Life’s Exponential Impact

Check out his son’s podcast: Livin’ That Online School Life!

Resources:

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022: Abby Wallace | Crushing Limits and Making Connections

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 26 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

On this episode of Relationship Centered learning, Kevin interviews student Abby Wallace. Abby is currently a college student that comes on to the show to share with us that we are not defined by our limitations. She shares her journey from being born prematurely and how connections in her life have helped her growth in life.

On this Episode:

Abby tells of a situation in high school when a teacher made a difference by paying attention to her and talking to her about a difficult moment in her life and how that affected her.
Abby and Kevin talk about the obstacles some teachers face when connecting with students.
Abby shares what it was like having her mother teach as well and the unique connection that brought.
Kevin and Abby discuss the importance of teachers being comfortable with forming real relationships with students and asking them “how are you?”.
Kevin surprises Abby with Denise and they discuss some of the challenges students face with online vs. in person education and interaction.

Key Takeaways:

Look for specific ways to challenge and encourage students.
Be approachable and be willing to listen to build trust with your students.
One of the best things you can help a student with is confidence not just content.

Resources:

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021: Joe Dombrowski | Teachers and Mr. D times 3

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 22 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

Joe Dombrowski (aka Mr.D) took the world by storm in 2017 with a viral April Fools’ Day spelling test prank that landed him multiple appearances on the Ellen DeGeneres show. Since then Joe has been traveling the world with his stand-up comedy tour titled “Indoor Recess” which highlights his crazy life as an elementary school teacher. When he’s not getting creative on screens and stages, Joe spends his time in Seattle, Washington producing his podcast “Social Studies” where he humorously studies being social by being social with guests of all walks of life. See more of Joe on any form of social media using the handle @mrdtimes3 or catch him live at one of his shows!

On this Episode:

Joe explains how his passion for teaching came from an unexpected moment during college as he pursued comedy and how important it is to find your why.
Joe talks about the similarities between stand-up comedy and the classroom.
Joe discusses the transition from student to focusing on helping encourage the teacher.
Kevin and Joe talk about the FORD formula and its importance.
Hear Kevin and Joe discuss time perception in education.
Joe shares some of the themes he shares in his comedy show that relate to teachers.

Key Takeaways:

Do not be the teacher who teaches simply to collect a paycheck. Have a true passion for teaching.
Students will love you for being your genuine, organic self. Do not try to be someone else.
Stand apart by focusing on the simple things like remembering a student’s name even if they aren’t in your class.

Tweetable Quotes:

“This is for you. This is for you to do what you have to do to feel more comfortable in your life. Because if you feel more comfortable in your personal life, you are going to be a better teacher.” - Joe

“You can’t wing relationships!” - Kevin Curtis

“It takes one caring adult. The end.” - Joe

Joe Dombrowski:

Connect with Joe on all social media platforms @mrdtimes3

Check out his website: www.mrdtimes3.com to find out about his virtual comedy show!

Check out his podcast "Social Studies"

Resources:

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020: Solo | React vs. Respond

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 19 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

On this episode of Relationship Centered Learning, Kevin dives into the topic of how to be a better listener. Especially during current times, listening has never been more needed. Whenever there is a conflict that occurs whether in education or life in general, the ability to know how to better respond rather than react is so crucial.

Key Takeaways:

In order to respond correctly, pause before reacting with your first instinct.
To validate and connect with another, you need to see, hear, and value them.
Allow yourself to see the different approaches of others.

Tweetable Quote:

“When you get to the end of “respond road’ hopefully it's not about being right. It’s about a different perspective.” - Kevin

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019: Trevor Muir | Thriving Relationships in Virtual Education

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 15 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

On today’s episode, Kevin interviews Trevor Muir. Trevor believes every student is a dynamic character with a potential for greatness. And he believes educators hold the key to unlocking that potential by building relationships and crafting learning experiences that are engaging and transformative.

That's why he teaches students with project based learning. It’s why he gives keynotes, workshops, and writes about my work in the classroom and how effective authentic education can be. It’s the reason he presented a TED talk at Tedx San Antonio called "School Should Take Place in the Real World," and writes for publications like EdWeek, The Huffington Post, and WeAreTeachers.

Trevor believes in students and in teachers, and he believes in what school has the potential of being.

On this Episode:

Trevor talks about the struggles of his past and how he can use it as a tool in his connections now.
Trevor and Kevin discuss helping teachers navigate vulnerability in the classroom.
Kevin and Trevor talk about the need for accountability for teachers to make connections with students.
Trevor explains how even with the differences in education right now, the opportunities to connect are still prevalent.
Kevin and Trevor talk about being intentional in connections.

Key Takeaways:

Let your students know you are human and are the heroes of your story too.
Find your tools, understand your tools, then be intentional in using your tools to find connections.
Found your teaching style on relationships.

Tweetable Quotes:

“That’s one of the hardest lessons I had to learn as a young teacher was vulnerability is required.” - Trevor

“I believe until education changes the framework and holds us accountable for making connections with kids, the needle is going to move very slowly.” - Kevin

Trevor Muir:

Check out his online course for tips on teaching virtually:

https://trevormuir.teachable.com/p/thriving-virtual-teacher

Connect with Trevor via all forms of social media!

Website: trevormuir.com

Facebook: Trevor Muir- The Epic Classroom

Twitter: @trevormuir

Instagram: @theepicclassroom

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-muir-645b89158/

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018: Greg Murrile | Relationships That Shine

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 12 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

Greg Murille comes from a family line of educators. Kevin first met Greg as Coach Murille. They were rival baseball coaches in Texas. They grew in admiration and a friendship with each other. Greg went on from the classroom to administration, and is currently the Shiner Elementary Principal. He was recently awarded Region 3 Outstanding Principal for TASSP here in Texas.

On this Episode:

Greg shares why his job as a principal is the best job in the world, and how his background prepared him for a life in education.
Greg shares how as an educator you need to be prepared for anything.
Greg tells how he developed a new disciplinary plan for his district based on encouraging good behavior then emphasizing bad behavior.
Kevin talks about the hybrid process of combining restorative practices with traditional consequences.
Kevin and Greg discuss the importance of grace in leadership and education.

Key Takeaways:

Encourage students to make good choices.
Give students an actual voice in situations.
Take time to look at what is important through the lens of a child.

Tweetable Quotes:

“When you’re working with kids you gotta be real. They know fake.”- Greg

“Every decision I make as a principal is with a parent’s heart.” - Greg

Greg Murrile:

You can connect with him on Facebooka: https://www.facebook.com/gmurrile

Find his email on the Shiner ISD website under the Elementary tab.

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017: Dr. Jeffry Prickett | Principal Leadership and Roles

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 00:30:00 -0600

Dr. Jeffry Prickett is the principal of the East Campus of McHenry Community High School District #156 in Illinois. This award winning principal is a humble leader that simply describes himself as a high school principal, doctor, father, husband, podcaster, runner, and avid reader. He is the co-host of the Principal Leadership Lab Podcast where Kevin has been a guest, and now the tables are turned. They sit down to connect on how relationships have been the difference maker in his leadership journey.

On this episode:

Dr. Prickett shares his background and how he came to be a high school principal.
Hear Dr. Prickett talk about the biggest challenge he sees when leading a high school.
Kevin and Dr. Prickett discuss the importance of connection over just content.
Kevin and Dr. Prickett talk about the fear teachers have about focusing on relationships over content.
Dr. Prickett talks about the importance of voice and growing your voice in leadership roles.
Dr. Prickett tells Kevin about several instances when relationships played a role in problematic situations.
Dr. Prickett and Kevin talk about the excitement in education on what changes could abound as a result of COVID.

Key Takeaways:

Have a continuous plan to connect with students throughout the year- not just in the first five days.
Focus on preparing students for their next step in life.
When students trust you, they will be truthful with you.

Tweetable Quotes:

“The more you spend upfront (in connecting) on the back end, you are going to get so much more in return.” - Dr. Prickett

“The principal is the number one indicator on whether you can truly shift the staff and culture.” - Kevin

Dr. Jeffry Prickett:

Twitter and Facebook for Podcast: @ThePrincipalLeadershipLab

Twitter and Instagram for Dr. Prickett: @jdprickett

Facebook: @jeffryprickett

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016: Solo | Belonging in the Classroom

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 05 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

On this Mindset Monday, Kevin talks about the concept of belonging in the educational system and classroom.

Key Takeaways:

Understand the importance of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and why we often invert the third and fourth tier in our classrooms.
Asking your student, “Do you feel like you belong?” will open up what the student is feeling and experiencing.
Students should always know that they are loved and appreciated even when they are corrected or disciplined.

Tweetable Quote:

“Find one person in education today. Make them feel seen. Make them feel heard, and remind them that not only do they belong, but they are exactly where they need to be today!”- Kevin

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015: Jay Sheets | Relationships and Restorative Principles

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 01 Oct 2020 00:15:00 -0600

On this episode, I sit down and interview my friend and colleague, Jay Sheets. He has 21 years of experience in education including being a teacher, coach, district specialist, and a restorative discipline coordinator. He currently serves as one of the supervisors in school safety and operations in Dallas ISD.

Jay and I originally connected in the high school coaching world, but our paths joined forces to implement restorative practices in the second largest district in the state of Texas.

On This Episode:

Jay and Kevin talk about the development of the long-lasting friendship.
Jay shares his thoughts about bringing restorative discipline to the second largest district in Texas
Jay talks about the thought process in going slow in the implementation of the new program.
Jay and Kevin talk about the importance of relationship building in education even when times are tough.
Jay and Kevin discuss the 3 zones of learning: content, correct, and connect.
Jay talks about the decisions schools are making during the pandemic.
Jay tells how during the walk-out, the teachers decided to meet their needs then listen to their issues.
Jay talks about the strategies with working with adults
Jay and Kevin talk about the qualities needed for a modern day principle

Key Takeaways:

Get to know students on an everyday basis, and invest in their personal lives
Don’t allow pressure to cause you to leave your foundational values
Be careful in your response- know when to ask the right questions and know when to stay silent.

Tweetable Quotes:

"We should only use educators to train other educators because we are hearing from the people who are doing the work." - Kevin Curtis

"We are trying to build a relationship first. Everything else should be a byproduct of that relationship!" - Jay Sheets

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014: Dr. Jeff Springer | Everyone is a Contributor

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 28 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

An educator for 34 years, is the founder of the G.O.A.L. TEAM (Getting Others to Achieve Higher Levels). The G.O.A.L. TEAM, was created for helping high school students and young adults to maximize their personal leadership potential.

Jeff, a former Texas High School Head Football Coach and eleven-year veteran of the classroom, is also formerly the Principal at Magnolia High School (2002-2016). In 2013 Jeff was selected as the State of Texas TASSP State Principal of the year.

Besides founding Spring Strategies LLC, Jeff currently serves part time as the Minister of Men at Wildwood UMC, and is also the founder of Suit Up Ministries, a nonprofit men’s ministry.

Jeff attended Abilene Christian University where he played on the 1977 National Championship Football team, received his Bachelor of Arts in Teaching from Sam Houston State University and obtained his Masters of Sports Administration from the United States Sports Academy. In the spring of 2020, Jeff completed his Doctorate in Education with an emphasis in Transformational Leadership from Concordia University.

Jeff is passionate about people and “play.” Developing others and helping them see their value and completeness is what drives Jeff in all his relationships. Jeff loves being a husband, dad and a grandfather. He is always seeking for ways to acknowledge men that strive to be the daily active devoted dads they are called to be.

Jeff who resides in Montgomery, Texas, has been married for 38 years and has two children, and two grandchildren.

On This Episode:

Jeff explains how his interest in social work got him into education.
Learn how Jeff acted differently as a principle than the expected norm.
Kevin and Jeff discuss how you can make everyone feel like a contributor.
Find out the key character trait that can take an educator to the next level

Key Takeaways:

The most important thing we do each day is establish relationships with others.
Teachers are leaders.
Make yourself recognizable as a contributor on campus.

Tweetable Quotes:

"Staff needs to hear from the administrator that you’re two feet in."
“The six most important words are ‘I love you, I need you.’”
“Everyone needs to feel like they’re a part of something bigger than themselves.”

Dr. Jeff Springer

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013: Trevor Taylor | The Power of Vulnerability in the Classroom

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Trevor Taylor is a freshmen English teacher at Wagner High School. He has organized several peaceful Black Lives Matter protests.

On This Episode:

Trevor shares why he went back to teach at the campus he graduated from.
Hear how Trevor has become a strong role model for his community.
Kevin and Trevor discuss some ineffective strategies employed by teachers.
Find out how to employ vulnerability in the classroom.
Discover how to best address mental health.
Kevin explains the importance of customizing education for individual students.

Key Takeaways:

Many times, teachers don’t take the time to actually understand who their students really are.
If you don’t have trust, your students won’t receive anything you have to say.
What you model will be reciprocated.

Tweetable Quotes:

“We’re not cookie cutter.”
“I am more than a teacher. They are more than a student.”
“What you have to say could change someone’s life or could change the entire world!”

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012: SOLO | Bracing for "Shocktober"

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 21 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Kevin explains the change that schools experience in the month of "Shocktober."

Key Takeaways:

Prepare for expected speed bumps.
Give grace and understanding in hard seasons for both your teachers and your students.
Collaborate with other staff to find out what others need.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Do you want to survive October or slay October?”

“Listen, record, and understand needs without any assumptions.”

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011: Dr. Belinda George | Connecting through the Screen

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 17 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Dr. Belinda George is proudly serving her second year as Principal of Homer Drive Elementary in Beaumont, TX. She is currently serving on the Texas Elementary Principals and Supervisors Association (TEPSA) Programs and Services Committee at the local and state level. Belinda is also internationally known for reading to her scholars online via Facebook Live, which she has coined as “Tucked in Tuesdays”. During her first year as principal, she made home visits to over 10% of her scholars. Dr. George does this to form relationships beyond the four walls. Her campus serves a student body of 94% economically disadvantaged. She is passionate and her love for kids drives her decisions and culture of her campus.

On This Episode:

Belinda shares what inspired her to become the leader she has.
Hear how Belinda is connecting with students in the pandemic.
Learn how Belinda is leveraging TikTok with #TuckedInTuesdays.
Kevin and Belinda discuss the roadblocks that hold back campus leaders.

Key Takeaways:

You have to give beyond the four walls.
Constantly learning about technology is the only way you’re going to survive change.
The principal has the power to move the campus.

Tweetable Quotes:

“The power of connections can actually go through a screen.”

Dr. Belinda George:

TikTok: TuckedInTuesdays
facebook.com/Fixwhatisbroken
@tuckedIntuesday
instagram.com/BCGK55

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010: Michael Herrera | Find Your Why

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 14 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Michael Herrera is a Health Science Teacher and Head Assistant Basketball Coach at Byron P. Steele II High School.

On This Episode:

Michael explains how he became interested in athletics and being drawn to leaders.
Hear why Michael feels undervalued as a coach.
Learn the importance of being a connector.
Kevin explains why he things students struggle to trust their teachers.

Key Takeaways:

Coaches need to be valued as educators.
Don’t be so content heavy that you neglect your connection-work.
You have to put the human before the student.

Tweetable Quotes:

“You can’t point the finger at others, you have to point the finger at yourself.”
“You have to connect before you correct.”
“If you want to know if you’re a good teacher, ask your worst student.”

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009: Dr. Kimberly McCleod | Implicit Bias & the Power of Our Words

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 10 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Dr. Kimberly McLeod has spent her professional career in public education. She has held various positions in the public school setting including that of a teacher, counselor, professor and administrator. She has earned a Bachelor of Science in Interdisciplinary Studies from the University of Houston, a Masters degree in Counseling and Guidance, a Master's degree in Educational Administration and a Doctoral degree in Counselor Education from Texas Southern University. She has presented her research and professional training nationally and internationally for over a decade.

Her unique delivery style is research-based, reflective and engaging. She has presented as a keynote, and an invited speaker to teachers, administrators, school board trustees and students in a number of districts, national and international conferences.

Dr. McLeod is the founding editor of the nationally peer reviewed National Journal of Urban Education and has written eight academic books, three children’s books, and over 12 articles in various peer reviewed journals. She has been awarded Teacher of the Year by the college of Education at Texas Southern University and was selected as an award recipient of the YMCA minority achiever’s award. Dr. McLeod is also the President-Elect of the Texas Alliance of Black School Educators.

On This Episode:

Kevin and Dr. McLeod reflect on how to help students dealing with external pressures and adverse situations.
Find our how Dr. McLeod began her work with diversity.
Dr. McLeod shares how stereotypes impact students.
Hear how to change your vocabulary to stop giving negative unintended messages.
Learn how relational connection can improve education systems.

Key Takeaways:

You won’t change a students dysfunction by beating it out of them.
You have to transfer power to your students through restoration.
While students are being taught lies through cultural stereotypes, it’s the educators job to help them understand the truth.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Kids don’t need our tears, they need us to reach them through. Kids don’t need us to beat them up, they need us to teach them how to survive the beat down they’ve already received.” - Dr. Kimberly McCleod
”There’s power in permission.” - Kevin Curtis

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008: Solo | How to Help Students Who've Experienced Trauma

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 07 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

On This Episode:

Find out how to help students who have experienced traumas.
Kevin unpacks all the things that can trigger a student, how those things make them react, and how educators can bring them down.
Find out how to support the staff, student, and parents when they “flip their lid.”
Learn how to be reactive as well as responsive.

Find out more about Dr. Dan Siegel's Hand Model of the Brain:

https://youtu.be/f-m2YcdMdFw

Tweetable Quotes:

“Stay green, don’t go thirteen.”
“It’s not about being right it’s about getting it right.” – Brené Brown

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007: Rachel Hinesly | The Vital Nature of Relationships

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 03 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Rachel Hinesly is the host of the podcast, feel your feels, a podcast by a teen for teens or anyone who wants to feel and know that what they are going through is real and valid. She shares her experiences with you and the coping skills she has learned through them.

On This Episode:

Rachel shares why relationships were so vital to her as a student growing up.
Learn how Rachel began educating her educators.
Find out how teachers can empower their students.
Kevin and Rachel discuss how students can feel the stresses of teachers.
Hear how COVID impacted Rachel’s senior year.

Key Takeaways:

No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship.
Try not to listen with your brain – listen with your heart.
There need to be wellness checks for both teachers and students.

Tweetable Quotes:

Whenever you see someone else struggling – it doesn’t matter how or why – you should always ask them what they need.
Everybody needs something different.
It’s important to know that we are not alone.
If you’re not okay, your students won’t be okay.

Rachel Hinesly

https://open.spotify.com/show/2NpZOhjUrRdpBlqnVMXvUZ?si=K0OS2IE8TESCiqpfVNPvaA

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006: Michael Bonner | Keeping the Child First

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Seen on The Ellen Show and NBC Nightly News, educator, speaker, and author Michael Bonner has taken to more than 100 education conference, school district meeting and leadership development stages across the U.S. & Canada to share his "lessons learned" from teaching in a Title I school with children that experience high levels of trauma and adverse situations. His candid, enthusiastic seminars challenge listeners to create diverse, inclusive education plans "where students can see themselves within the lessons and assessments" as a means to increase student success rates. He empowers his audiences to build genuine relationships with their students because "you can't demand a withdrawal from someone you have never invested in."

Administrators and educators alike leave Mr. Bonner's presence ready to make an impact that affects eternity. Mr. Bonner is consistently seen as a visionary leader who strives to create a positive mindset among all of his students. His students come to class each day with diverse backgrounds, strengths, needs, and challenges. Therefore, he identifies strategies to ensure their growth socially, emotionally, academically, and psychologically. Due to his educational approach, students leave more hopeful, challenged, inspired, and forever a part of Bonnerville.

Today, Mr. Bonner lives in Atlanta, Ga. where he is beginning a new educational journey as a fourth and sixth grade English teacher at the famed Ron Clark Academy. You can learn more about Michael Bonner at michaellbonner.com and follow him on Instagram at @michaelbonner_

On This Episode:

Learn how to keep a strong connection with your students.
Find out what it’s like for Michael to be a “famous” educator.
Kevin discusses how to connect with kids in the digital age.
Discover how to EFFECTIVELY build relationships with any person regardless of race, culture, sexual orientation or other traits.

Key Takeaways:

Always keep the children first. It can be sensed if you don’t.
Be ready to evolve as a teacher.
The highest form of learning is doing.

Tweetable Quotes:

“Education is the most powerful tool in the world.”

Michael Bonner:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8PfeJcKCZhggzmJcwmva9Q

instagram.com/michaelbonner

https://twitter.com/MichaelBonner_

https://michaellbonner.com/

Recommended Resource:

Culturally Responsive Teaching

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005: Jonathan Brown | Love Them or Lose Them

Kevin Curtis — Wed, 26 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Jonathan Brown is a program manager for AVID for Higher Education. As a former high school AVID student from Killeen ISD, Jonathan has experienced the roles of an AVID student, tutor, and one of the first AVID instructors in higher education. While attending college, Jonathan traveled the U.S. as a motivational speaker, sharing his experience as an AVID student and how it opened doors of opportunity to his future. In 2009, Jonathan began working with the University of Texas of the Permian Basin to develop an AVID First-Year Seminar, in which students learned how to navigate college and grow their critical thinking skills. As a teaching assistant at the freshman seminars, Jonathan used his AVID experience to show students and instructors how to use the AVID strategies he implemented when he was in college. After getting his degree from UTPB, Jonathan became the university’s AVID Liaison, later joining AVID Center itself.

On This Episode:

Find out how Jonathan encourages people to learn through reflecting on situations.
Discover how to become more empathetic.
Hear how the experience of foster care can affect educational development.
Jonathan share a personal story about how a teacher helped him develop the skills he needed to become a success.
Hear how one teacher literally saved Jonathan’s life.

Jonathan’s Tips For Teachers:

Learning happens in the reflection.
Stay in conflict and learn how to navigate it.
Just when you think you can’t do anymore - dig deeper.

Tweetable Quotes:

It’s not about working hard, it’s about working hard the right way.

Love them or lose them.

It’s not just one teacher doing great work that changes the world - it’s all of us.

Jonathan Brown:

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004: SOLO | I Am Just a Water Mover

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 24 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0600

On This Episode:

Kevin reflects on an experience he had discipling a student and the misconceptions he recognizes looking back.
Find out why administrators are essentially just “water movers.”
Learn the importance of teachers building strong relationships with their students first before passing kids off to administrators.

Key Takeaways:

We need to reflect on our implementation of exclusionary consequences.
Discipline is like water. Discipline flows through the whole school building down through classrooms, down to the central office, and that’s where the water is collected. A good teacher should only be letting a trickle of water out.
Expectations lead to disappointment.

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003: Mia Ortiz | How to Make Students Feel Heard

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 20 Aug 2020 01:00:00 -0600

Mia Ortiz is a 7th grader from the Dallas Fort-Worth area. Two years ago, Mia stood in front of 1,000 educators to talk about the power of connection from the student voice. Last year, she hosted breakout sessions. On this episode, Kevin and his co-founder Denise, sit down with Mia to see what students need to feel valued, seen, and heard.

On This Episode:

Hear how Mia is coping with lockdown during COVID-19.
Learn how TikTok is influencing students and how Mia wishes teachers would learn from it in this time of virtual classrooms.
Mia and Kevin discuss how students and teachers can build a system of trust with each other.
Mia reflects on speaking from the stage to over 1,000 educators.

Mia’s Tips For Teachers:

Don’t just focus on being a teacher, try being a friend.
Teachers have to exemplify confidence if they want children to exemplify confidence.
Don’t be afraid to be accountable.

Tweetable Quotes:

“You can’t use a 1990 playbook in the year 2020.”
“Teachers, if you don’t connect with us, why should we content with you.”
“People shouldn’t underestimate the power of human connection – whether virtual or in person.”
“Every human being wants to feel valued, seen, and heard.”

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002: Maureen Palaoro | Building Community in the Classroom

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 20 Aug 2020 00:15:00 -0600

Maureen Palaoro comes from the Oregon City School District, with 24 years of special education teaching in the classroom. She provides routines, relationships, regulations and breaks down the brain research behind them.

On This Episode:

Find out how to use GTKY to build connections with your students.
Maureen discusses how teachers can address differing behaviors.
Kevin explains how administrators can empower their teachers to connect with students.

Key Takeaways:

Be able to see the differences and similarities between each other.
Don’t rush through connection.
Set a foundation of trust in order for the work to be able to start building relationships

Tweetable Quotes:

“When we get anxiety, we get rigid.”

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001: Joe Beckman | Reclaiming Human Connection

Kevin Curtis — Thu, 20 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Our schools are experiencing an unprecedented shift. Student loneliness is at an all-time high, while self worth and belonging are at all-time lows. And the culprit is a lack of human connection.

Over the last 15+ years Joe Beckman has spoken in educational settings all over the world with one simple mission… to reclaim human connection.

Whether it’s a middle school in Minneapolis, a professional development workshop in Montana, or an international conference in Malaysia…people are craving connection.

It’s only when we stop and slow down, separate from our screens, and truly listen to each other’s stories, that we can course correct, and give our youth the best chance to leave their mark on this world.

On This Episode:

Joe shares how he has become the human connector.
Learn how to connect with others.
Hear how Joe got interested in music.
Kevin shares about the incredible pep rally he put together for his school.
Discover how to connect with students without seeming like you’re trying too hard.
Joe shares the importance of teachers supporting teachers.

Key Takeaways:

Done is better than perfect.
Self-awareness is incredibly important.
Focus on sustainability of message.

Four categories to connect on:

F – Family

O– Occupation

R – Recreation

D – Dreams

Tweetable Quotes:

“It takes a lot of courage to try things out and put yourself out there in a real vulnerable way.”
“As an administrator, it is not only your responsibility to give the tools to your teachers to connect with your students, you have to model it."

Joe Beckman:

https://joebeckman.com/

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TRAILER | Relationship Centered Learning

Kevin Curtis — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Your host, Kevin Curtis, introduces the Relationship Centered Learning Podcast.