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76: Annual Special: Valentine’s Day—Hallmark Holiday or Passionate Power Play

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 09:00:00 -0400

In this Valentine’s Day special episode, Ellen Dorian dives into the history, meaning, and modern-day pressures of the holiday. Whether listeners are diehard romantics or Valentine’s Day cynics, Ellen provides practical advice and creative ideas to help them plan a day that fits their relationship. From understanding their partner’s expectations to avoiding last-minute stress, this episode is packed with insights to make Valentine's Day a meaningful and stress-free experience.

Part 1: Understanding Valentine's Day

A look at the origins of the holiday, including its rebellious roots in ancient Rome.
Why Valentine’s Day can feel commercialized and how shifting perspectives can help.
The significance of aligning with or acknowledging a partner's attachment to the day.

Part 2: Meeting Relationship Expectations

The importance of understanding a partner’s expectations for Valentine's Day.
The consequences of ignoring the holiday if it's important to one partner.
Two options: setting clear boundaries or using the holiday to strengthen the relationship.

Part 3: Planning a Personalized Valentine’s Day

Strategies for different types of relationships:

Partners who are indifferent to the holiday.
Partners who want something special but aren’t tied to traditions.
Traditionalists who expect classic Valentine’s Day elements (roses, chocolates, fancy dinner).

Key Takeaways:

Understanding how a partner feels about romantic gestures can prevent miscommunication and disappointment.
Thoughtful, personalized efforts go a long way in building a stronger, more affectionate relationship.
Planning ahead ensures less stress, fewer mistakes, and a better overall experience.

Call to Action:

Listeners can download the Ultimate Valentine’s Day Planning Kit to get a head start on their planning. The kit includes a timeline, curated gift ideas, and a planner to keep everything organized.

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Closing Thoughts:

Ellen encourages listeners to take one small step to elevate their next Valentine’s Day, whether this year’s celebration is a hit or a lesson learned. Showing a partner that they are understood and appreciated strengthens intimacy, affection, and resilience in the relationship.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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75: Annual Christmas Episode: The Spirit of Generosity in Relationships

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this special holiday episode, Ellen Dorian reflects on the Spirit of Generosity, a concept she learned from her father and continues to embody in her coaching. Through heartfelt storytelling, she introduces the five aspects of generosity—emotional, relational, philosophical, action-oriented, and legacy-focused—and shares actionable ways to bring these into your relationships. This episode is a guide to creating deeper connections, fostering trust, and leaving a meaningful legacy for your loved ones.

Part 1: A Holiday Story About Generosity

Ellen shares a moving story about her father’s approach to Christmas and the lessons he imparted through the concept of Santa Claus as the embodiment of generosity.
She recounts her dad’s final gift to her, The Gift of the Magi by O. Henry, and how it symbolizes selflessness, love, and sacrifice in relationships.

Part 2: The Five Aspects of Generosity

Emotional Generosity: Giving time, attention, and love freely without expecting anything in return. Includes practical tips like using a “root cause analysis” approach to stay present during emotional conversations.
Relational Generosity: Paying attention to your partner’s needs and stepping in to share the mental load. Features the “By The Clock” exercise to anticipate and address tasks proactively.
Philosophical Generosity: Cultivating a mindset of abundance by focusing on gratitude and appreciation rather than scarcity or criticism.
Action-Oriented Generosity: Doing what you say you’ll do, being reliable, and supporting your partner when it matters most, even when it’s inconvenient.
Legacy of Generosity: Building a lasting impact through selflessness in relationships, modeled after her father’s example.

Part 3: Holiday Reflections

Ellen encourages listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity during the holiday season and to pass it forward in their own lives.
She reminds listeners that the greatest gift they can give their children is the example of a passionate and connected partnership.

Key Takeaways:

Generosity is More Than Money. True generosity lies in how you give your time, attention, and care to those you love. It’s about showing up fully and selflessly in ways that matter most.
Emotional and Relational Generosity Build Connection.Trust and connection grow when you’re emotionally present and proactive in supporting your partner’s needs—whether by sharing the mental load or simply listening with focus and care.
Your Legacy Begins in Your Relationships.The most impactful legacy you leave isn’t material; it’s the example you set in your relationships. Cultivating a passionate and connected partnership shapes how your children and loved ones approach their own connections.

Call to Action:

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Schedule a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to identify key challenges and create a plan to move forward.

Visit relationshipresetcall.com to book your spot.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen closes with a heartfelt wish for joy, peace, and love during the holiday season. She invites listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity and leave a legacy their loved ones will treasure.

Support & Resources:

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74: When Christmas Time is Hard

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this heartfelt bonus episode of the Make More Love Podcast, Ellen Dorian addresses the complex emotions that can arise during the Christmas season, especially for those who feel isolated, disconnected, or out-of-step with the festivities. Drawing from personal experiences and real client stories, Ellen offers compassionate strategies for coping with holiday loneliness, respecting individual traditions, and rebuilding meaningful connections—both with ourselves and those we love.

Part 1: Navigating the Overwhelm and Outside Expectations

Ellen opens the episode by acknowledging the saturation and pressures of the Christmas season, emphasizing that not everyone celebrates—and for many, the unrelenting holiday messaging can feel isolating or invalidating. She shares her own childhood memories of cross-cultural celebrations and discusses how differing traditions, loss, and changes in family dynamics can leave people feeling invisible or alone.

Part 2: Reclaiming the Holidays Through Intention and Small Rituals

After describing her personal struggles with grief and holiday disconnect, Ellen outlines how she slowly rebuilt her relationship with the season by honoring her feelings, embracing gratitude and generosity, and establishing new, personally meaningful holiday rituals—like joining a caroling group, creating her own movie traditions, or starting small annual rituals just for herself.

Part 3: Connection, Grace, and Taking Action—For Yourself and Others

Ellen addresses the unique isolation that successful business owners and those in disconnected relationships may experience. She offers a powerful exercise: identifying and fulfilling a childhood wish for yourself (and possibly your partner) to foster reconnection and healing. The episode closes with an appeal for listeners to reach out to those who might be alone, and a reminder that support is available—both through community (like Andy Grant’s virtual hangout) and professional crisis lines.

Key Takeaways:

Holiday loneliness is real, whether you celebrate or not, and your feelings are valid.
Small, intentional changes—like creating a new tradition or reaching out to someone else—can slowly restore a sense of joy and belonging.
Giving yourself (and your partner) a “lost” gift from childhood can be a surprisingly meaningful way to reconnect with the spirit of the season.
You are not alone—resources, supportive communities, and professional help are available if the season feels overwhelming.

Call to Action:

Share your own strategies for making the holidays more meaningful with Ellen Dorian by email or in the P3 Insider’s Community. If you’re struggling, consider booking a free Relationship Reset Call for personalized support, or take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz for immediate insights.

Closing Thoughts:

Your presence truly is your gift. No matter your circumstances this season, remember that you matter and that reaching out (for support or to offer it) can make a world of difference. Ellen Dorian encourages everyone to take small steps toward building connection, meaning, and, ultimately, more love.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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73: Cut Holiday Relationship Stress Fast with 3 GGG Principles

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 09:00:00 -0400

The holiday season can transform what should be magical moments into stressful, pressure-filled events—especially for high-performing men balancing relationships, business demands, and personal fulfillment. In this insightful solo episode, host Ellen Dorian shares the practical "GGG Principles"—Gratitude, Generosity, and Grace—as anchors to help couples thrive and deepen connection through the holidays (and beyond).

Part 1: The Reality of Holiday Expectations

Ellen explores how holidays often shift from childlike excitement to a time burdened with overwhelming expectations, emotional baggage, and pressure to deliver for loved ones—particularly if the relationship is already strained.

Part 2: The GGG Principles for Relationship Success:

Gratitude: Move beyond obligatory platitudes. Ellen suggests a personal practice focused on recognizing what you genuinely value about your partner. She provides thoughtful questions to guide listeners through recognizing meaningful attributes and experiences, and encourages using this awareness to foster connection and reduce reactivity.

Generosity: True generosity isn’t about sacrifice or guilt, but about giving from surplus—whether that's time, money, energy, skills, or flexibility. Practical examples are shared on how to proactively support your partner and lighten their holiday load, without resentment.

Grace: The antidote to perfectionism. Ellen shares how practicing patience, compassion, and forgiveness—even when mistakes happen—can transform your relationship dynamic and foster lasting trust.

Part 3: Applying GGG Principles

Listeners are encouraged to develop gratitude statements, create weekly generosity plans, and let go of rigid expectations. These steps provide real relief and renewed intimacy, keeping stress in check and making space for true human connection.

Action Steps for Listeners:

Try the grounding gratitude exercise and observe how it shifts your perspective.
Make a generosity plan: Choose two stress points and match them to the partner with the right surplus.
Practice grace by forgiving imperfections and celebrating best intentions.

Key Takeaways:

The real win with gratitude comes from genuinely feeling it, not just saying it—let actions follow heartfelt awareness.
Generosity works best when you give what you have in abundance, not from scarcity, to avoid burnout and build goodwill.
Grace lets go of perfection and nurtures authentic connection; no one gets it right all the time, and accepting this opens the door to real intimacy.

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard: A free, quick quiz to pinpoint relationship strengths and stressors (find it at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz).

Whenever you are ready, you can reach out for deeper support: Free Relationship Reset calls, workshops, private coaching, and an Insider Facebook community for ongoing connection and resources. Links are below.

Closing Thoughts:

You don’t need to create a perfect holiday—just show up with presence, forethought, and a little grace. Small shifts in mindset and action can profoundly change your holiday experience and your relationship.

Stay Tuned:

Next week, Ellen Dorian will be back with a bonus episode addressing holiday stress when Christmas isn’t your thing. Until then, take care of each other!

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0:00:00 – Introduction to the show, purpose, and host’s background

0:00:31 – The changing nature of the holidays, relationship pressures, and setting up the GGG principles

0:04:32 – First GGG: Gratitude – practical, impactful gratitude practices for relationships

0:09:54 – Second GGG: Generosity – redefining generosity in relationships, practical tips for giving from surplus

0:14:24 – Third GGG: Grace – letting go of perfection, how grace improves connection and lowers tension

0:17:47 – Recap of GGG anchors and how they help your relationship during the holidays

0:19:48 – Calls to action: scorecard, relationship reset call, community and show wrap-up

72: Three Steps to Stop the Holidays From Derailing Your Relationship

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian addresses the stress and conflict that holidays bring to high-performing business leaders, particularly business owners facing Q4 pressures alongside personal obligations. She introduces a strategic planning approach to transform the holiday season from a source of tension into an opportunity for connection. Through the story of client Bill and his wife Gina, Ellen demonstrates how joint planning, clear boundaries, and shared ownership can prevent the annual cycle of holiday resentment that often leads to January's "divorce season."

Part 1: Understanding Holiday Pressure Points

- Recognition that holidays arrive during Q4 chaos for business owners.

- Identification of competing demands: closing deals, managing budgets, and handling staff needs.

- Acknowledgment of seasonality impacts—some businesses face their busiest period while others experience dead zones.

- The compounding effect of personal demands from partners, family obligations, and social events.

- Pressure to appear joyful despite mounting stress.

Part 2: The Planning Framework

- Starting with baseline questions about what worked, what didn't, what was missing, and what to change.

- The necessity of partner buy-in rather than unilateral decision-making.

- Bill and Gina's story as a case study in initiating the planning conversation.

- Three core elements: planning together, setting limits, and taking ownership.

- Two essential ground rules: everything is open for discussion, and protecting the couple comes first.

- Establishing a gatekeeping script for external pressures.

Part 3: Building Your Holiday Strategy

- Two approaches: blue ocean brainstorming or process of elimination.

- Using post-it notes to map out events, tasks, and obligations visually.

- Three key decisions: enthusiastic yeses, emphatic nos, and the desired outcome.

- Establishing boundaries around time, money, travel, work, and special circumstances.

- The chocolate mousse rule and the three-hour family visit boundary as practical examples.

- Assigning ownership by category rather than individual tasks.

- Weekly check-ins to adjust and maintain alignment.

Key Takeaways:

- Holiday conflicts repeat annually because couples fail to plan or fear disrupting established patterns.

- Joint planning creates clarity and protects relationships from external pressures.

- Boundaries and clear ownership prevent resentment and energy drain.

- Breaking with tradition is necessary when current patterns aren't working.

- A united front in public with private discussion space helps manage family pushback.

- Regular check-ins keep the plan flexible and responsive to changing circumstances.

Call to Action:

If the planning process becomes contentious or confusing, Ellen offers a Relationship Reset Call to help work through the challenges. She emphasizes not letting issues drop only to face worse circumstances in January. Listeners can book a free call at relationshipresetcall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen previews the next episode's focus on gratitude, generosity, and grace—the "GGG of the holidays"—as tools for managing seasonal chaos. She reflects on recent episodes addressing out-of-control situations and invites listeners experiencing this to reach out. The goal isn't perfection but creating the best opportunity to enjoy life and maintain connection despite competing demands.

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"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and in Your Life." - Ellen Dorian

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0:00 Intro

1:00 Why Q4 Creates Perfect Storm for Couples

3:03 Setting Goals for Different Holiday Experience

5:05 Bill and Gina's Holiday Breaking Point

7:08 The Three-Part Planning Framework Explained

9:40 Three Key Decisions Every Couple Needs

12:14 Setting Boundaries Around Time and Money

14:46 Taking Ownership and Handling Family Pushback

17:19 Three Key Takeaways for Holiday Success

19:22 Spreading the Word About Make More Love

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71: Co-Pilot or Passenger? How to Start Steering Your Relationship Together

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian explores how business owners can strengthen their relationships by treating their partnership as the foundation that holds everything else together. Drawing from a Trevor Noah podcast quote about spending time with his father, she examines the cost of making unilateral business decisions without partner input. The episode provides a framework for integrating business and relationship priorities through structured communication, tiered decision-making, and weekly alignment meetings.

Part 1: The Cost of Exclusion

- Ellen shares a quote from Roy Wood Jr. about being along for the ride rather than truly included in his father's life.

- Business owners often make rapid decisions without consulting partners who will be affected by the outcomes.

- Top-down thinking creates resistance and undermines support, even when partners don't openly object.

- Shared visions can drift apart over time, leaving couples working toward completely different outcomes.

- The question "Are you running your business or is your business running you?" reveals a common trap.

Part 2: The Juggling and Herding Problem

- Most business owners have three competing priorities: work, family, and personal fulfillment.

- Juggling means keeping balls in the air, but one is always falling—you can only hold two at a time.

- Herding is attempting to control everything at once, like stuffing three cats in a bag.

- Both approaches fail because they rely on one person being solely responsible for everything.

- Business decisions directly impact partners whether they've agreed to them or not.

Part 3: The Airplane Framework

- Ellen introduces a new model: your relationship is the airplane, with two seats in the cockpit.

- Everything else—business, kids, extended family, hobbies—belongs in the cabin as passengers.

- Kids and business should not fly the plane or always come first.

- Strong partnerships create the framework where everything else thrives.

- Partners become copilots without becoming business partners.

Part 4: Three Best Practices for Partnership Alignment

#1 Weekly Business Review Meeting

- Hold a short weekly meeting focused on decisions that touch shared life.

- Cover four topics: what happened since last meeting, what's coming up, what needs joint decision, and what matters most this week.

- Make it enjoyable with coffee, wine, or pancakes—call it whatever makes it fun.

- Prevents the "I never heard that" or "you didn't tell me" conflicts.

#2 Tiered Decision-Making Categories

- Green zone: everyday decisions that don't impact shared life, just keep partner informed.

- Yellow zone: give heads up and chance to weigh in, minimize surprises, maximize respect.

- Red zone: decisions requiring full discussion before moving forward.

#3 Red Zone Topics

- Money: any shared resource at risk, new debt, contracts, personal guarantees, compensation changes.

- Time: anything significantly changing availability, focus, or energy—major projects, expansion, increased travel.

- People: hiring or firing key team members, bringing on investors, forming partnerships.

- These decisions affect stress levels, time, and how you show up in the relationship.

Key Takeaways:

- Your relationship should be the context in which your business, family, and fulfillment exist, not just another competing priority.

- The entrepreneur divorce rate sits above 60% because not everyone commits to this level of discipline and openness.

- Your partner needs to be an important voice in your business without necessarily working in it.

- Trying to control everything by yourself guarantees something will crash, taking everything else down with it.

- Real work-life integration requires treating major business decisions as partnership decisions.

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com to discuss their specific situation. She also invites them to join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes that she doesn't believe in work-life balance but in integration. The episode provides a playbook for real work-life integration that makes life easier, more connected, and more enjoyable. She challenges listeners to make the mindset shift—whether independently or with her guidance—to transform their relationships and businesses.

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"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and in Your Life." - Ellen Dorian

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0:00 Intro: The Cost of Exclusion

2:02 Is Your Business Running You?

4:06 Juggling vs. Herding: Two Failing Approaches

7:39 The Airplane Framework

9:11 Weekly Business Review Meeting

11:45 Green, Yellow, and Red Zone Decisions

14:18 The Three Critical Red Zone Topics

16:19 Key Takeaways & Closing Thoughts

70: Playing the Long Game in Relationships or How I Spent My Vacation

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian shares insights from her 10th anniversary Viking river cruise, highlighting three key moves for long-lasting relationships: acceptance, longevity, and defaulting to yes.

Part 1: Acceptance in Long Term Relationships

- Recognizing and appreciating your partner's authentic self

- Distinguishing between tolerance, resignation, and genuine acceptance

- Example: Steve's acceptance of Ellen's coffee house visits

Part 2: Longevity and Vitality

- Importance of physical, mental, and emotional health in relationships

- Observations from the cruise demographic

- Connection between personal vitality and relationship strength

Part 3: Defaulting to Yes

- Overcoming the habit of saying no thanks

- Benefits of staying open to new experiences together

- Example: Hungarian street food cooking class

Key Takeaways:

- Relationships play out over decades, not days

- Staying healthy and active contributes to relationship longevity

- Defaulting to yes keeps relationships fresh and engaging

Call to Action:

Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com for personalized guidance.

Closing Thoughts:

Relationships, like the Danube, change over time but can keep moving along for years with the right approach.

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69: Case Study-The Rise and Fall of a Relationship

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian analyzes the movie "The Roses" as a case study for relationship decline, illustrating Make More Love's Hierarchy of Relationship Needs and Spiral of Decline models. She breaks down the film's plot, highlighting key disruptions that lead to the couple's downfall, and relates these to common relationship issues faced by high-performing individuals.

Part 1: Introduction and Movie Analysis

- Ellen introduces the episode's focus on "The Roses" as a relationship case study

- Explanation of why this movie is an ideal example for the Make More Love model

- Breakdown of the couple's initial connection and shared ambition

Part 2: Relationship Disruptions and Missed Opportunities

- Identification of five major disruptions in the Roses' relationship

- Analysis of how each disruption contributes to the spiral of decline

- Discussion of missed opportunities for intervention and repair

Part 3: Lessons and Application

- Relating the movie's themes to real-life relationship challenges

- Introduction of the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard tool

- Encouragement for listeners to assess their own relationships

Key Takeaways:

- Shared ambition can be both a strong foundation and a potential pitfall in relationships

- Major life events and role changes can significantly impact relationship dynamics

- Ignoring relationship issues and failing to seek help can lead to a spiral of decline

- Open communication and willingness to address problems are crucial for relationship health

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz

Or book a free Relationship Reset call at RelationshipResetCall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

Relationships require active maintenance and attention to thrive. Recognizing and addressing issues early can prevent the kind of decline depicted in "The Roses."

Support & Resources:

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The Roses is a 2025 feature film starring Benedict Cumberbatch and Olivia Colman, directed by Jay Roach, and distributed by Searchlight Pictures. All rights belong to the respective copyright holders. This episode offers commentary and analysis for educational and review purposes only.

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68: The Brutal Truth About Relationship Conflict--and What to Do About It

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian discusses strategies for managing conflict in relationships, introducing the concept of "passionate problem solving" as an alternative to cold war and hot war conflict styles. She outlines two pathways: early intervention and radical repair, drawing inspiration from kink and BDSM protocols and Japanese apology frameworks.

Part 1: Understanding Conflict and Early Intervention

- Esther Perel's three categories of conflict: power and control, respect and recognition, care and closeness

- Recognizing personal "tells" that signal emotional escalation

- Implementing kink-inspired protocols: safe words, negotiated agreements, and aftercare

Part 2: Radical Repair for Full-Blown Conflicts

- Step-by-step process for addressing conflicts after they've escalated

- Naming the hurt, reflecting back, owning responsibility, and offering a radical apology

- Reaffirming connection and attacking the problem, not each other

Part 3: Applying Passionate Problem Solving

- Factors influencing success: meaning gap, relationship foundation, and personal skills

- Importance of practice and commitment to transform conflict handling

- Encouragement to seek outside help when needed

Key Takeaways:

- Early intervention focuses on self-control, not partner control

- Repair matters more than being right in conflicts

- Always attack the problem, not each other

- Passionate problem solving requires practice and discipline

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset call, join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook, and spread the word about the Make More Love podcast.

Closing Thoughts:

Passionate problem solving is not a quick fix but can transform how couples handle conflict when practiced consistently.

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67: Hot War Fighting Tactics that Will Wreck Your Relationship

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian explores hot war fighting tactics in relationships, discussing the escalation from Cold War to Hot War styles of conflict. She breaks down the spectrum of conflict, from bickering to brutality, and offers insights on recognizing and addressing unhealthy patterns.

Part 1: The Spectrum of Conflict

- Bickering as the turning point from Cold War to Hot War

- Arguing as a conscious form of conflict

- Fighting as a more aggressive, theatrical form of conflict

- Brutality as the dangerous extreme of relationship conflict

Part 2: Understanding Conflict Styles

- Cultural and family influences on conflict styles

- The impact of mixed conflict styles in relationships

- The difference between intensity and intimacy in conflicts

Part 3: Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Patterns

- Four questions to assess your conflict style

- The importance of seeking help for abusive situations

- Channeling passion into problem-solving and connection

Key Takeaways:

- Cold War and Hot War are points on a single scale of escalating conflict

- Bickering is not harmless; it's the turning point to Hot War

- Intensity is not intimacy, even with makeup sex involved

- Conflict handled well can deepen connection and build trust

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com for personalized guidance on improving their relationship dynamics.

Closing Thoughts:

Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it determines the health of your relationship. Learning to channel passion into building rather than destroying is key to a strong partnership.

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66: "We Never Fight"-The Bright Side… and the Dark Side Too

Thu, 11 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian explores the concept of "never fighting" in relationships, discussing various reasons why couples might claim they don't fight and the potential implications for their relationship health.

Part 1: Reasons for "Never Fighting"

- Disengagement and avoidance

- Temperament and perceptions

- Philosophy and healthy skills

Part 2: Analyzing "Never Fighting" in Relationships

- Looking beneath the surface

- Attacking the problem, not each other

- Practicing conflict resolution on small issues

Part 3: The Importance of Healthy Conflict

- Distinguishing between harmful avoidance and genuine compatibility

- Building intimacy through constructive disagreement

- Developing skills for incremental problem-solving

Key Takeaways:

- "Never fighting" can indicate various relationship dynamics, both positive and negative

- Healthy relationships often involve constructive conflict resolution

- Incremental problem-solving can prevent major conflicts

Call to Action:

Take the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz for personalized insights into your relationship dynamics.

Closing Thoughts:

The absence of fighting doesn't necessarily indicate a healthy relationship. It's crucial to understand the underlying reasons and develop healthy conflict resolution skills.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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65: The Vacation You Didn't Know You Needed

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian, host of Make More Love, shares insights from her unexpected vacation in Lisbon, emphasizing the importance of balancing structure and spontaneity in both business and relationships. She discusses the need for resilience, planned breaks, and creating systems that allow for personal time off without compromising business operations.

Part 1: The Importance of Planned Breaks

- Ellen's unplanned vacation in Lisbon highlights the need for breaks before burnout

- Resilience as a core principle in Ellen's coaching model

- The balance between planning and spontaneity in business and life

Part 2: Lessons from Lisbon's Lifestyle

- Contrast between Lisbon's pace of life and typical American city life

- The blend of structure and flexibility in Lisbon's culture

- Airport workers' strike example: structure serving freedom

Part 3: Business Implications and Relationship Intersections

- The necessity of creating systems that allow business owners to take time off

- Connection between business operations and personal relationships

- Importance of scalability and delegation in business growth

Key Takeaways:

- Don't wait for burnout to take a vacation

- Balance structure with flexibility in both business and personal life

- Create systems that allow your business to function without constant supervision

- Cultivate resilience through intentional planning and spontaneity

Call to Action:

Book a free Relationship Reset call at relationshipresetcall.com to address business and relationship challenges.

Closing Thoughts:

Running a successful business isn't about controlling every detail, but about cultivating resilience and finding the right balance between structure and flexibility.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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64: “Fish or Cut Bait? A Realistic Look at Starting Over

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian addresses a listener's question about whether to end a long-term relationship, offering insights on recognizing emotional attachment, repairing relationships, and considering the hidden costs of divorce.

Part 1: Analyzing Emotional Disengagement

- Emotional clues indicating persistent attachment to a relationship

- The significance of anger, bargaining, and seeking validation

- Statistical insights on marital conflicts and desires for change

Part 2: Strategies for Relationship Repair

- Three-step approach to relationship improvement

- Importance of committing to repair regardless of outcome

- Shifting mindset and mapping out a strategy

- Introduction to the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs

Part 3: Considering Divorce and Its Hidden Costs

- Financial, social, and emotional impacts of divorce

- Real-life example of post-divorce challenges and successes

- Importance of inner work before making major relationship decisions

Key Takeaways:

- Recognize emotional clues to determine readiness to end a relationship

- Implement a three-step strategy to improve relationship dynamics

- Understand and prepare for the hidden costs of divorce

- Focus on solving the right relationship problems using the Hierarchy of Needs

Call to Action:

Take the free Relationship Dynamics quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz to identify the highest priority areas to improve in your relationship.

Or,

Schedule a Relationship Reset Call for a one on one walk through of your options at www.relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

Understanding when you are ready to end a relationship is never going to be easy. It's important to check in with yourself and follow the emotional clues that will show whether you are ready to move on. Whether you choose to stay or leave, focus on personal growth and healing. Your path forward should align with your values and long-term happiness.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

Make More Love Show Website:

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

Join Our Passionate Partners Insider Community:

Contact Me Directly:

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Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz:

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Here's the episode on the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs:

https://www.makemorelove.show/episode-4-simplifying-the-complexities-of-relationship-dynamics/

63: Don’t Make These Mistakes That Will Ruin Date Night

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian discusses common mistakes made in restaurants that can ruin date nights, offering practical advice to enhance romantic experiences and strengthen relationships.

Part 1: Restaurant Etiquette and Date Night Atmosphere

- The importance of making reservations

- Avoiding rudeness towards restaurant staff

- Refraining from extreme menu customization

- Handling complaints discreetly

Part 2: Financial Considerations and Tipping

- Avoiding price audits and money talk at the table

- Handling tipping gracefully

- Checking menu prices online before the date

Part 3: Enhancing the Date Night Experience

- Being mindful of overstaying

- Maintaining proper table manners

- Keeping intimate behavior discreet

- Respecting restaurant property

Key Takeaways:

- Plan the vibe and mood for your date night in advance

- Be fully present and engaged with your partner

- Treat restaurant staff with respect and kindness

- Handle any issues discreetly and away from the table

- Keep money discussions off the table during the date

- Consider moving to another venue for dessert or nightcap

Call to Action:

Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to elevate your next date night and improve your overall relationship.

Closing Thoughts:

A successful date night can build momentum for daily intimacy and connection in your relationship.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

Make More Love Show Website:

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

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62: Dessert First-How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of enjoying time with your partner and offers strategies to bring fun and playfulness back into relationships, especially for busy professionals.

Part 1: Rediscovering Joy in Relationships

- Ellen emphasizes the significance of simply enjoying being together

- Introduces the concept of "affinity" from her relationship hierarchy of needs

- Encourages listeners to reflect on their favorite activities with their partner

- Addresses the challenge of relationships on autopilot due to busy lifestyles

Part 2: Strategies for Rekindling Fun

- Suggests recreating childhood summer memories as a date idea

- Shares personal examples of fun childhood activities

- Recommends asking partners about their favorite childhood memories

- Introduces the concept of "bids for connection" and their importance

Part 3: Overcoming Relationship Challenges

- Addresses concerns for relationships in serious trouble

- Introduces the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz

- Explains how to use childhood favorites as "bids for connection"

- Emphasizes the power of small, consistent gestures in building strong relationships

Key Takeaways:

- Prioritize pleasure and enjoyment in your relationship

- Use childhood memories to create fun, playful experiences with your partner

- Small, consistent gestures are more effective than grand, infrequent gestures

- Taking initiative to improve your relationship can lead to positive changes

Call to Action:

Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at makemoreloveShowQuiz.com and schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen to review your results and create an action plan.

Closing Thoughts:

Relationships require active effort to maintain and improve. Incorporating playfulness and fun can reignite the enjoyment that brought you together initially.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

Make More Love Show Website:

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

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61: Stop Your Relationship from Becoming a Business Casualty

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of balancing business growth with maintaining a healthy relationship. She emphasizes the risks of neglecting one's partnership while focusing solely on business success, and offers strategies to protect and nurture both aspects of life.

Part 1: The Blind Spot in Business Coaching

- Ellen shares insights from a recent business coaching conference

- Highlights the common oversight of relationship health in business coaching

- Introduces the concept of relationship autopilot and its pitfalls

Part 2: Common Relationship Delusions for Business Owners

- Explores five common misconceptions about relationships while building a business

- Discusses the dangers of assuming partner contentment and postponing relationship focus

Part 3: Strategies for Relationship Success

- Presents five business growth strategies applied to relationships

- Emphasizes the importance of strategic planning, resource management, and innovation in partnerships

Key Takeaways:

- Investing in relationship support is crucial when growing a business

- Recognizing and addressing relationship issues early can prevent catastrophic outcomes

- Applying business strategies to relationships can lead to more effective problem-solving

Call to Action:

- Take the Relationship Dynamics scorecard quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz

- Schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen at RelationshipResetCall.com

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen compares neglecting relationships to "skipping leg day" in fitness, emphasizing the importance of maintaining balance between business and personal life for overall success and fulfillment.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

Make More Love Show Website:

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

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60: Intrinsic Passion – Reignite Desire Without Faking It

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of intrinsic passion in relationships, focusing on sex and intimacy. She explores why passion fades, differences between men and women, and provides strategies to reignite passion.

Part 1: Understanding Passion in Relationships

- Sex as the "glue" of healthy relationships

- Differentiating between sex, passion, and intimacy

- Reasons for loss of interest in sex for men and women

- Rejecting the idea that passion naturally fades over time

Part 2: Rekindling Passion

- Three core habits supporting intrinsic passion: Vitality, Intimate Intensity, and Prioritizing Pleasure

- Five strategies to recharge passion:

1. Take responsibility for your own passion

2. Avoid keeping score

3. Replace magical thinking with proven methods

4. Let go of insecurities

5. Stop tolerating and take action

Part 3: Practical Application

- Immersing in passion-centered thinking

- Creating micro-moments of flirtation

- Planning connection-focused date nights

- Emphasizing intentionality in small, consistent actions

Key Takeaways:

- Passion is built into relationships from the start and can be rekindled

- Understanding gender differences in passion can prevent misunderstandings

- Small, intentional actions can significantly impact relationship passion

Call to Action:

Listeners are encouraged to try one strategy from the episode to reignite passion in their relationship and share their experiences.

Closing Thoughts:

Passion comes back by design, not by accident. Applying business growth strategies to relationships can lead to impressive changes.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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59: Your Relationship OS Part 2: Practicing Intentional Presence

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian discusses intentional presence as a crucial element in building passionate partnerships. She breaks down this concept into three core habits: attentiveness, authenticity, and resilience.

Part 1: Attentiveness

- Keeping focus and paying attention to your partner

- Active listening and remembering important details

- Weekly planning meetings and daily check-ins

Part 2: Authenticity

- Showing up as your true self and respecting your partner's truth

- The importance of honesty and integrity in building respect

- Avoiding the pitfall of not fully knowing your partner

Part 3: Resilience

- Extending grace and giving the benefit of the doubt

- Addressing conflict quickly and repairing breakdowns

- Building emotional elasticity to handle relationship tensions

Key Takeaways:

- Intentional presence involves attentiveness, authenticity, and resilience

- Implement weekly planning meetings and daily check-ins to stay connected

- Be your true self and allow your partner to do the same

- Cultivate resilience by extending grace and addressing conflicts promptly

Call to Action:

Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz to identify areas for improvement in your relationship. Visit MakeMoreLoveShowQuiz.com or find the link in the show notes.

Closing Thoughts:

Building intentional presence takes work, but it's crucial for creating a strong, passionate partnership where both partners feel supported and understood.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

58: Your Relationship OS Part 1: Staying Aligned, Independent, and Clear

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Host Ellen Dorian discusses the three core principles successful couples practice to maintain strong, lifelong relationships. She introduces the first principle, "Inclusive Purpose," and explains its importance in creating alignment and avoiding common relationship pitfalls.

Part 1: The Three Core Principles of Successful Relationships

- Inclusive Purpose

- Intentional Presence

- Intrinsic Passion

Part 2: Exploring Inclusive Purpose

- Definition: A harmonious sense of direction that honors both partners' values, dreams, and needs

- Three supporting habits: Harmony, Unity, and Clarity

Part 3: Implementing Inclusive Purpose

- Identifying shared and conflicting values

- Co-creating a future that accommodates individual dreams

- Making explicit agreements and avoiding assumptions

Key Takeaways:

- Successful relationships require alignment on values, agreements, and direction

- Inclusive Purpose helps couples avoid growing apart and building resentments

- Clear communication and explicit agreements are crucial for trust and connection

Call to Action:

Take the free Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz to gain clarity on your relationship issues and receive personalized recommendations.

Closing Thoughts:

Bringing clarity into every aspect of your relationship fosters trust, respect, and genuine connection. It's a process that takes time and adjustment but leads to greater safety and freedom in the partnership.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

Make More Love Show Website:

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

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57: Have You Fallen for the Worst Relationship Advice?

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian challenges the popular notion that "all you need is love" in relationships, arguing that this oversimplified view can lead to failed marriages. She discusses why love alone isn't sufficient for building resilient partnerships and outlines what's truly necessary for long-term relationship success.

Part 1: The Problem with "All You Need is Love"

- Love is not enough to sustain long-term relationships

- Believing love is all you need can cause you to ignore real issues

- Love is not a strategy for solving relationship problems

- This belief can lead to disillusionment when love doesn't solve everything

Part 2: What Love Really Is

- Love is an ongoing choice to prioritize and care for another person

- It includes affection, emotional intimacy, and shared investment

- Real-world love requires multiple elements working together

Part 3: Three Pillars of Successful Relationships

- Inclusive purpose: shared values and goals while honoring individual dreams

- Intentional presence: giving full attention and being attentive to your partner

- Intrinsic passion: maintaining a consistent undercurrent of intimacy and attraction

Key Takeaways:

"All you need is love" is good for songs, not real life

- Bad advice sets you up for failure when love doesn't fix everything

- Smart couples invest in their relationship continually and seek expert help

Call to Action:

Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com to address specific relationship issues and develop a customized plan.

Closing Thoughts

Relationships need a customized foundation built on purpose, presence, and passion, supported by skills, systems, and strategies.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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56: Bad Advice Part 3 - The Dangerous Kind

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Host Ellen Dorian dissects dangerous relationship advice, offering insights on love imbalances, misguided solutions, and the importance of proactive relationship maintenance.

Part 1: The Dangers of Unequal Love

- Explores the advice: "Be with someone who loves you more than you love them"

- Discusses the negative impacts of this approach on relationships and self-worth

- Highlights the importance of mutual love and respect in partnerships

Part 2: Misguided Solutions for Relationship Problems

- Analyzes common "radical" solutions people try when relationships struggle

- Examines why these solutions often fail to address underlying issues

- Emphasizes the need for internal repair before external changes

Part 3: Debunking Myths About Relationship Help

- Addresses the misconception that seeking help indicates serious problems

- Explains the benefits of proactive relationship maintenance

- Encourages viewing relationship help as strategic planning rather than crisis management

Key Takeaways:

- Love should not be a power play; imbalanced relationships breed resentment

- External fixes cannot solve internal relationship problems

- Preventative maintenance is crucial for healthy, long-lasting relationships

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to identify and address any misguided ideas in their own relationships. She invites them to share other examples of bad advice they've encountered.

Closing Thoughts:

The episode emphasizes the importance of leadership in relationships, urging couples to address issues proactively rather than waiting for crises to occur.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

Make More Love Show Website:

www.makemorelove.show

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

Join Our Passionate Partners Insider Community:

Contact Me Directly:

Email: ellen@passionatepartnersproject.com

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55: Bad Relationship Advice Part 2: The Dumb Head Scratching Kind

Thu, 19 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian dissects three pieces of bad relationship advice, offering insights on maintaining effort in marriage, handling conflicts, and the importance of apologizing. She provides practical strategies for nurturing long-term relationships and maintaining passion.

Part 1: Debunking "You Don't Have to Impress Anyone After Marriage"

- Marriage doesn't mean stopping self-care or effort

- Continued investment in oneself shows respect for the partner

- Maintaining attractiveness contributes to intimacy and desire

Part 2: Addressing "Never Go to Bed Angry"

- Misinterpretation of biblical advice

- Forcing late-night resolutions can worsen conflicts

- Respecting biorhythms and deferring discussions can be beneficial

Part 3: Challenging "Love Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry"

- Apologies are crucial for maintaining trust and connection

- Five-step framework for crafting effective apologies

- Importance of taking responsibility and committing to change

Key Takeaways:

- Consistent effort and mutual respect are crucial in relationships

- Avoiding difficult conversations can be more damaging than conflict

- Sincere, timely apologies are essential for relationship repair

Closing Thoughts:

Relationships thrive on intentional effort, not perfection. Building a lasting partnership requires facing issues head-on and taking responsibility for mistakes.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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54: Bad Relationship Advice and How to Avoid it-Part 1

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Ellen Dorian kicks off Season 2 of Make More Love by addressing bad relationship advice, categorizing it into vague, dumb, and wrong. This episode focuses on vague advice, highlighting its ineffectiveness and offering practical alternatives.

Part 1: The Problem with Vague Advice

- Ellen introduces three types of bad relationship advice: vague, dumb, and wrong.

- She emphasizes the importance of proper diagnosis in relationship issues.

- Ellen introduces the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics quiz as a diagnostic tool.

Part 2: Analyzing Vague Advice

- "Communication is key" - Ellen explains why this advice is insufficient without context.

- "Your partner always comes first" - She discusses the challenges of balancing this with real-life obligations.

- "Just be supportive" - Ellen highlights the ambiguity of this advice and offers better approaches.

Part 3: Practical Solutions

- Ellen provides specific questions to ask when facing relationship challenges.

- She emphasizes the importance of defining what "putting your partner first" means in your relationship.

- Ellen shares personal strategies for being supportive without defaulting to problem-solving mode.

Key Takeaways:

- Vague advice can lead to misunderstandings and frustration in relationships.

- Clear communication and agreed-upon definitions are crucial for relationship success.

- Balancing work and relationship priorities requires open dialogue and mutual understanding.

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to try her suggestions and share their experiences. She also invites them to take the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics quiz for personalized insights.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes the importance of moving beyond vague advice to create meaningful connections and understanding in relationships.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.Support & Resources:

Make More Love Show Website:

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

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Make More Love Season 2 Trailer

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Welcome to Season 2 of Make More Love

This is the relationship podcast for high-performing business leaders — where you won’t get the standard relationship advice. Why? Because the life you live demands more than the Average Joe.

You carry more responsibility, navigate higher stakes, and solve bigger problems than most people ever will. But the traits that make you successful in your business life — decisiveness, focus, speed — can work against you in your love life.

That’s why this show doesn’t give advice. It gives you something more actionable: A plan. A framework. A strategy that fits your life.

Key Takeaways:

🎯 In this Season 2 Trailer, host Ellen Dorian lays out:

· What makes Make More Love different — and necessary

· Why the “What do I have to do to make you happy?” conversation backfires

· What’s changing in Season 2 (more voices, broader topics, deeper perspectives)

· How to get the most out of this season — and your own relationship

Call to Action:

🧭 Ready to get into it?

Book your free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call to get clarity and a game plan — no charge, no pressure.

🔁 Catch up on any Season 1 episodes you missed.

📩 Subscribe now and share with someone who needs this.

🎙 Season 2 drops next week.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.

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51: Celebrating 50 Episodes and Answering Listeners' Relationship Questions

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Today, we’re answering real listeners’ real questions—in real time. These aren’t hypotheticals. These are the exact moments real men are living through right now. From growing resentment during the grind of entrepreneurship, to being blindsided by a breakup, to feeling stuck in a sexless marriage—these stories are raw, honest, and painfully common.

This episode offers direct insight and powerful next steps for three of the most frequent and emotionally charged issues I hear from high-performing men. If you’ve ever thought “This isn’t how I thought it would go,” this one’s for you.

Part 1: The Business Is Thriving… But the Relationship’s Falling Apart

TJ, a general contractor, shares how the early support in his marriage disappeared once the business got off the ground. His wife seems resentful of the very effort that’s keeping everything afloat.

Ellen explains why this shift is common—and why operational silos at home create the same disconnect as they do in business. Learn how to reengage your partner using the same leadership skills you apply in your company.

Part 2: Blindsided by a Breakup—And Unsure How to Move On

BZ, a startup CEO, thought he was doing everything right. But out of nowhere, his wife left. Now he’s questioning how he missed the signs—and how to prevent it from happening again.

Ellen unpacks the damaging myth of the “good provider,” and shows how structure, discipline, and communication systems (yes, like in business) are essential to staying connected. You’ll also get a 3-part framework to rebuild trust, clarity, and intimacy in your next chapter.

Part 3: From Hot to Not—When the Spark Fades in the Bedroom

JQ’s relationship used to be physically intense and fun. Now? It’s dead quiet. He still wants his wife, but she’s not interested—and he’s terrified that this is just how it’s going to be from now on.

Ellen tackles this fear head-on by breaking down:

The myth of spontaneity
The Four Thieves of Desire
The critical role of vitality—physical, mental, and emotional—and how modern couples are running too lean to sustain passion

Plus: a bold, concrete suggestion most people never consider… but that might just be the key to restoring connection.

Key Takeaways:

Even strong relationships suffer when communication systems break down—just like in business.

The “good provider” myth is deeply ingrained—and gets in the way of a passionate love life.

Desire doesn’t perpetuate itself. You have to create conditions where it can thrive.

If you're burned out, overextended, and running lean, don’t blame your relationship—fix your infrastructure.

Call to Action:

Feeling stuck, confused, or disconnected in your relationship? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. It’s quick, private, and tailored to your specific situation. You’ll leave with clear action steps and a renewed sense of direction.

Closing Thoughts:

If any of today’s listener questions hit close to home, know that you’re not alone—and you’re not out of options. Rebuilding connection is possible when you know what you're up against and have the right tools to repair it. A few powerful strategies, can help you shift the dynamic and get back to a relationship that feels alive again.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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50: Love, Money, and Self-Knowledge in Relationships — with Manny Wolfe (part 2)

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In the second part of this deeply personal interview, Ellen breaks down the real-life lessons behind Manny Wolfe’s extraordinary story — from surviving a cult to confronting addiction and rebuilding his life. But this episode isn’t just about extreme experiences. If you're a business owner/entrepreneur trying to understand the connections between love, money, and self-knowledge, this episode will speak directly to your experience.

Ellen draws a direct line from Manny’s journey to the everyday challenges faced by high-performing men in relationships: solving the wrong problems, falling short of your own values, and overthinking instead of taking meaningful action. Whether you're struggling with relationship stress, emotional disconnection, or the pressure to succeed, this conversation offers raw insights and practical takeaways for creating a stronger, more connected partnership.

Part 1: Fixing the Wrong Problem

Manny and Ellen explore how high-performing men often try to solve relationship challenges by focusing on business success. They unpack the common trap of doubling down on work instead of addressing what your partner truly needs — presence, emotional connection, and attention.

Part 2: Honor, Integrity, and Self-Respect

This section dives into the idea of the “moral man” — the part of yourself that knows what’s right but can’t always stop you from making poor choices. It breaks down the ways men unintentionally betray their own code of honor in relationships, and how that damages both the partnership and their self-worth.

Part 3: Overthinking vs. Action

Manny shares how personal growth work and spiritual reflection became a way of hiding from real-world change. They discuss the pattern of analysis paralysis. They discuss how to catch yourself when it's time to stop reflecting and start doing.

Key Takeaways:

Misplaced effort is common: Like many men, Manny tried to fix his relationship by making more money — but that didn’t meet his partner’s real needs.
Integrity matters: If you repeatedly act out of alignment with your values — through cheating, disrespect, emotional neglect, or passive-aggressive language — you’re not just damaging your relationship; you’re eroding your self-worth.
Overthinking is a trap: There’s a fine line between spiritual growth and navel-gazing. Sometimes the most powerful move is to knock that shit off and just do what needs doing.
Money isn’t evil — or magic: It's a neutral tool that can amplify your character. If you believe it’s bad or unimportant, you may unconsciously sabotage yourself and your relationship.
Relationships are growth containers: They’re not just about comfort — they’re where you confront your deepest patterns and either grow or stagnate.

Call to Action:

If Manny’s story made you reflect on your own situation — maybe it’s time for a conversation.

Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen and get clarity on your next step. It’s 15 minutes, one-on-one, and focused on solutions. Head to relationshipresetcall.com and grab your spot.

Closing Thoughts:

There’s real value in hearing another man’s story — not to compare, but to connect.

You may not have grown up in a cult or battled the same demons Manny did, but I bet something in his story landed with you. Maybe it mirrored a quiet part of your own experience — a time you ignored your gut, broke your own code, or kept thinking about taking action instead of actually doing it.

That’s why I share these conversations. Not because they’re dramatic, but because they’re true. And in that truth, there’s insight — the kind that can move you forward.

Let this be more than just something interesting you heard today. Let it be a reason to stop and ask yourself what part of your life is ready for change.

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49: Endless Loops: When Your Relationship Feels Like Groundhog Day (with Manny Wolfe – Part 1)

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this first part of a two-part conversation, Ellen Dorian sits down with speaker, author, and coach Manny Wolfe to explore how early life experiences, unresolved trauma, and subconscious patterns can trap us in relationship dynamics that feel like endless loops. From cult survival to addiction recovery, Manny brings raw honesty and deeply reflective insight into how our past silently shapes our present — especially in love.

This episode offers a candid look at how personal responsibility, emotional awareness, and a willingness to “do the work” can help us break those loops, even when the outcome is still uncertain.

Part 1:

Manny shares his upbringing in a cult, how that shaped his sense of identity and attachment, and how unresolved abandonment trauma created patterns in romantic relationships. Ellen and Manny unpack the way avoidant and anxious attachment styles often magnetize each other, and why so many of us unconsciously recreate the very pain we say we want to avoid.

Part 2:

They explore the story behind Manny’s viral post on the link between financial stress and relationship breakdown — and how some spiritual and psychological narratives can accidentally become excuses for avoiding action.

Part 3:

The conversation shifts toward taking full responsibility — not just for your healing, but for your choices. Manny shares the moment he realized that his “abandonment wound” might have been a red herring, distracting him from deeper, more practical issues. Together, they highlight how emotional insight and grounded strategy need to work together — not in opposition.

Key Takeaways:

Relationship patterns often trace back to unconscious childhood beliefs and unprocessed trauma.
Avoidant and anxious attachment styles often attract each other — creating a painful but familiar dynamic.
Financial issues are rarely just about money — but they're also not always about deep trauma.
Healing is essential, but it’s not a substitute for taking real-world action.
Long-term relationships are containers for growth — not just safe harbors.
You can't force someone else to change, but you can be an influence and an inspiration.

Call to Action:

If this conversation struck a chord and you're ready to break your own loop — whether it’s emotional, financial, or relational — set up your free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. In just 15 minutes, you’ll clarify your next move and leave with actionable steps that fit your real life.

🗓️ Book now at: relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

Your past may explain your patterns — but it doesn’t have to dictate your future. When you see the loop, you can step outside it. And when you take personal responsibility, you stop waiting to be rescued and start building the love you actually want.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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48: When the Going Gets Tough-The Tough Go on Vacation

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Summary

Part 1: Why Vacations Matter

Ellen shares why vacations aren’t just for rest—they’re essential to creative thinking, leadership clarity, and strong relationships. She explains how time away creates space for emotional reset, presence, and reconnection with your partner (and yourself).

Part 2: Business, Boundaries, and Burnout

A reality check for entrepreneurs: If your business can’t run without you, it’s not scalable—or healthy. Ellen explains why systems, delegation, and leadership clarity are critical not just for growth, but for protecting your relationships and freedom.

Part 3: What Actually Counts as a Vacation

From solo reboots to all-inclusive resorts, creative retreats to digital detoxes—Ellen walks through a range of vacation types that can meet your current needs. She shares tips for working vacations, hybrid getaways, and how to rebuild trust if your partner is tired of you “sort of” unplugging.

Key Takeaways:

Presence is the currency of connection—and vacation is one of the best ways to earn it back.
Time off isn’t indulgent—it’s strategic. Don’t wait until burnout forces your hand.
If your business falls apart without you, that’s not a strength. It’s a systems and leadership gap.
A working vacation can work—if you plan it right and treat your partner with intentionality.
Rebuilding trust after too many “half unplugged” trips requires honesty, structure, and follow-through.
Not all vacations need to be two weeks in Europe—find the flavor that fits your life right now.

Call to Action:

If you know it’s time to get serious about both your business and your relationship being able to thrive without constant pressure on you—start by booking a Relationship Reset Call. It’s quick, private, free, and easy to schedule. And while it’s called a relationship reset, you should know: I work with business owners where the relationship issues and the business issues are tightly connected. Helping you untangle both—and find practical, strategic solutions at the point where they intersect—is my specialty. This is the first step toward building a life where your relationship is fulfilling, your business is sustainable, and you don’t have to carry the entire load alone.

Closing Thoughts:

Ask yourself:

What kind of vacation do I actually need right now?

Pick one. Plan it. Make it happen. Because your life—and your relationship—needs you in it, showing up in your full glory, not an exhausted shell of a man.

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47: Stop Searching for Happiness & Start Making It: Five No-BS Strategies

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0400

SUMMARY:

In this final episode of the happiness series, Ellen Dorian brings everything together—why happiness matters, what gets in the way, and most importantly, how to actually build it. This episode is divided into three key parts:

A review of the series—Happiness in relationships, the barriers men face, busting the Happy Wife, Happy Life myth, and introducing the Relationship Energy Spectrum
An update on the Relationship Energy Spectrum.—How happiness, engagement, challenge and skills align, based on Jay Shetty’s insights on flow-state theory shared on the Diary of a CEO podcast.
Five no-BS strategies to take control of your own happiness—without toxic positivity, gratitude journals, or generic self-help advice.

Part 1: Why Happiness Matters & The Relationship Energy Spectrum

Happiness isn’t a luxury—it directly impacts relationships and life satisfaction.
The Happy Wife, Happy Life myth sets men up for failure by putting happiness outside their control.
The Relationship Energy Spectrum (introduced in the last episode) helps men understand whether they’re engaged or disengaged in their relationship.

Part 2: How Flow State Theory & Happiness Align

Jay Shetty explained Flow State Theory on Diary of a CEO—happiness comes from being fully engaged in what you’re doing. He explained that the brain needs challenge and skill to be balanced—too much challenge creates stress, too little creates boredom.
The Relationship Energy Spectrum aligns with Flow State Theory:
Flow = Engaged & Positive → Challenge and skills are balanced. Battle Stations = Engaged & Negative → Too much challenge, not enough skill. Comfort Zone = Disengaged & Positive → Skills too high, challenge too low → leads to boredom. Loveless Limbo = Disengaged & Negative → No challenge, no skill → leads to emotional numbness.
Key Reflection Question: Do you need to seek out new challenges or up-level your skills to improve your relationship?

Part 3: 5 No-BS Strategies for Making More Happiness in Your Life

1. Shift from Goal-Driven to Impact-Driven Fulfillment

Men often fall into the Achievement-Happiness Loop—chasing bigger goals but never feeling fulfilled.
Hedonic Adaptation means every success quickly feels normal, leading to temporary highs and inevitable letdowns.
Dr. Gad Saad explains that creativity is a major driver of happiness—people who build, innovate, and create experience deeper fulfillment than those chasing trophies.
Legacy is more than money—the impact you create and the relationships you nurture are what truly matter.

2. Change Your Currency from Money to Time

Once you quit seeking happiness through achievement, you need a new way to measure what truly matters. And if happiness is the goal, then the most valuable resource isn’t money, it’s time.
A graph paper exercise helps visualize how many prime years of life are left—and how to use them wisely.
The golf example: Golfers spend $10,000–$15,000 per year on the sport, but if they never have time to play, was that money (and time) well spent?
Making decisions based on time gained, not money spent, leads to more freedom and happiness.

3. Cut the Bottom 10%

Inspired by Ellen's mentor, Leo Casey, who is a fractional CFO. Every year, cut the least valuable 10% of expenses, time-wasters, and commitments.

Apply the Four Rs: Remove, Reassign, Relegate, or Rehabilitate to free up mental bandwidth and time.

If your relationship is in the bottom 10%, don’t dump it—put it in rehabilitate mode and invest in making it a top 10% relationship.

4. Reconnect with the Natural World

The average man spends 93% of his life indoors—and it’s making them tired, stressed, and disconnected.

Science-backed ways to reset:

Grounding: Walking barefoot rebalances the body's electrical charge → reduces stress, inflammation, and improves sleep.
Forest Bathing: Trees release compounds that lower stress hormones and improve mental clarity.
Salt therapy: Negative ions in ocean air improve breathing, mood, and sleep quality.
Indoor solutions: Himalayan salt lamps, grounding mats, and NASA-approved indoor plants can replicate some of these benefits.

5. Make Happiness a Daily Practice

Happiness isn’t a feeling—it’s a skill. The One-Minute Happiness SITREP rewires the brain:
What made me feel even a little bit happy today?
What’s one thing I can do tomorrow to get more of that?
Over time, recognizing and creating happiness becomes second nature.

Key Takeaways:

Many men get blindsided by their partner’s unhappiness because they mistake the Comfort Zone for a healthy relationship.

Call to Action:

Want personalized help applying these strategies? Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.
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Closing Thoughts:

This episode wraps up the series on happiness, but the work doesn’t stop here. What’s one step you can take today to start making happiness instead of waiting for it to appear?
How can you apply these five strategies in your life and relationship?
If you’re serious about transforming your relationship, a little bit of support and expertise can go a long way, so don't try to do it all alone.

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46: Happiness or Resentment: What’s Fueling Your Relationship?

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian introduces the Relationship Energy Spectrum and shows how your emotional state shapes the quality of your relationship. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel disconnected, this episode will help you identify the key obstacles to happiness and show you how to shift your energy to create a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

Part 1: Why Happiness is a Relationship Force

The Relationship Multiplier Effect: Happiness isn’t just personal—it’s relational.
Why men enter relationships seeking happiness, yet often feel unfulfilled.
The Relationship Drive Matrix: Our core motivations for relationships—seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, wanting connection, and avoiding isolation.

Part 2: Three Big Obstacles to Happiness for Men

The Achievement Trap: Men are conditioned to believe success = happiness, but external success doesn’t automatically create internal fulfillment.
Emotional Suppression: Many men are raised to suppress emotions, making it hard to even recognize happiness when it happens.
Social Resistance: Expressing too much happiness can trigger negative reactions, reinforcing stoic or disengaged behaviors.
Uncle Joe’s Story: A real-life example of how unchecked resentment and emotional suppression can impact a man’s life and relationships.

Part 3: The Relationship Energy Spectrum – How Your Emotional State Shapes Your Relationship

Flow State (Engaged Positive Energy): The ideal—high engagement, positive energy, deep connection.
Battle Stations (Engaged Negative Energy): High engagement, but in constant conflict—resentment, arguing, keeping score.
Comfort Zone (Disengaged Positive Energy): Coasting along, no real problems, but no spark or growth either.
Loveless Limbo (Disengaged Negative Energy): No engagement, no positive energy—emotional disconnection and slow deterioration.

Key Takeaways:

Many men struggle with happiness because they've been conditioned to link it to external achievements. Success doesn’t automatically lead to fulfillment, and chasing goals without addressing internal happiness can leave you feeling empty.
If you can’t identify happiness, you can’t cultivate it. Decades of emotional suppression and societal expectations can make it difficult for men to recognize, express, and sustain genuine happiness.
Mapping where you stand in the Relationship Energy Spectrum is the first step to change. Once you know whether you’re in Flow State, Battle Stations, the Comfort Zone, or Loveless Limbo, you can take intentional steps toward shifting your energy and engagement in the relationship.

Call to Action:

Over the next few days, pay attention to how you’re showing up in your relationship:

Are you engaged or disengaged?

Are you bringing positive or negative energy?

No judgment—just observe.

Need support? Set up a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com to get a clear path forward.

Closing Thoughts:

So far in this series on happiness, we’ve covered some big ideas. We started with how happiness affects relationships—how your personal fulfillment fuels connection, intimacy, and long-term passion. Today, we tackled what happiness actually is and how to identify it, breaking down the obstacles that make it hard for men to recognize, express, and experience happiness in their relationships.

Next week, we’ll get into the practical side—how to cultivate happiness for yourself, so you’re not just waiting for it to happen, but actively creating a life that feels fulfilling and energizing.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Is happiness an important topic for you? What questions do you have? What would you like to hear more about? Is there anything you agree or disagree with? I want you in on the conversation. Send me an email, drop into the P3 Insider’s Community, or set up a free Relationship Reset Call if you want to dig into your specific situation one-on-one.

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45: The Truth About Happiness in Relationships

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen kicks off a new series on happiness—what it actually is, why it matters, and how it plays into having a fulfilling, passionate relationship.

She tackles one of the biggest myths in relationships: "Happy Wife, Happy Life."

What’s the real truth about happiness in relationships?

Ellen introduces the Relationship Multiplier Effect, explaining why happier men tend to have happier wives. She shares client stories, expert insights, and real strategies for building happiness that fuels passion, connection, and fulfillment in relationships.

Part 1: The Myth of “Happy Wife, Happy Life”

Many men believe their role is to make their wife happy—and that doing so will result in a happy marriage.
A 2014 study found that a wife’s unhappiness is more likely to lead to divorce, but a husband’s unhappiness doesn’t have the same impact.
This leads to the wrong conclusion—that a man’s happiness doesn’t matter in a relationship.
The truth: Men and women experience happiness differently. Men tend to compartmentalize and shift focus to work or hobbies when unhappy, while women connect their emotional well-being directly to the relationship.
This misunderstanding is why so many men get blindsided by divorce.

Part 2: The Cost of Living by This Myth (JQ’s Story)

Ellen shares a real-life example from a client, JQ, who followed the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" model.
He built the life his wife wanted, assuming that her happiness would bring them both fulfillment.
The reality? He lost sight of what made him happy, working long hours to maintain a lifestyle that didn’t bring him joy.
When he finally faced a personal crisis, he realized he no longer knew what happiness even looked like.

Part 3: The Relationship Multiplier Effect

Happier men tend to have happier wives.
When you focus on your own fulfillment, you create a positive feedback loop in your relationship.
Happiness spreads. Misery spreads. Which do you want in your relationship?
A fulfilled man is more attractive, emotionally strong, and less demanding of validation.
Happiness creates more presence, passion, and engagement, leading to stronger intimacy and connection.

Key Takeaways:

You can’t delegate happiness. You’re responsible for your own.
Sacrificing your happiness doesn’t create a happy relationship—it creates burnout, resentment, and disconnection.
Happiness in relationships is a multiplier—when you invest in your own fulfillment, it naturally strengthens your connection with your partner.

Call to Action:

What makes you happy?
If you don’t know the answer, you won't want to miss the next episode.
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Closing Thoughts:

Happiness isn’t a luxury— it’s the foundation of every thriving, passionate relationship.

Your personal fulfillment is directly tied to the strength of your relationship. When you feel energized, when you feel engaged, when you feel alive—your relationship reflects that back to you.

If you’ve spent years focused on making everyone else happy while ignoring your own needs, then your relationship is going to feel the weight of that. And at some point, your partner will, too.

When was the last time you thought about what actually makes you happy? If you don’t know, that’s okay. That’s exactly what we’re tackling next time. Because before you can build a fulfilling life and relationship, you need to reconnect with yourself.

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44: Date Nights: Understanding the Assignment!

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Date night should be something you both look forward to—not a routine obligation that fizzles out over time. In this episode, we revisit the best strategies for making date night exciting, meaningful, and passion-fueled. Learn how to break out of the "dinner and a movie" rut, create unforgettable experiences, and make date nights work for your relationship dynamic.

If you’re ready to level up your date nights and reignite that spark, this episode is for you!

Part 1: Why Most Date Nights Fail

Many couples fall into a predictable routine that makes date nights feel like just another task.
The biggest mistakes include:
Repeating the same experiences without variety.
Making date night feel like an obligation instead of an opportunity.
Treating it as a bid for sex rather than a time for deepening connection.

Solution: The key to better date nights isn’t just spontaneity—it’s thoughtful planning with the right emotional elements.

Part 2: The Master Date Night Framework

Three phases:

Anticipation – Build excitement beforehand with playful teasing, surprises, and shared expectations.
Experience – Stay present, minimize distractions, and focus on your partner’s enjoyment.
Afterglow – Keep the emotional connection going beyond the night itself.

The 5 Emotional Elements That Elevate Date Night:

Fire – Create sexual tension and attraction.
Intensity – Deepen emotional and physical connection.
Immersion – Build a private "love bubble" where only the two of you exist.
Resonance – Show your partner they are seen, heard, and understood.
Harmony – Sync up with each other’s energy to create a natural flow.

Part 3: The 7 Types of Dates & How to Plan Them

Avoid the same-old routine by mixing up date types:

Romantic Date – Classic candlelit dinners, dancing, and celebrations.
Relaxed Date – Low-key nights at home, movie marathons, cooking together.
Reminiscing Date – Recreate your first date or revisit meaningful places.
Recreational Date – Physical activity like hiking, biking, or dancing.
Reaching Out Date – Volunteering or working on a cause together.
Risk-Taking Date – Trying something new or adventurous.
Reconciliation Date – Strategic dates to rebuild connection after conflict.

Key Takeaways:

Date nights don’t have to be extravagant—but they do need to be intentional.
Vary your date types to keep the spark alive.
Use emotional elements to elevate the experience and make your partner feel truly connected to you.

Call to Action:

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Closing Thoughts:

Date nights can be a game-changer in your relationship—when done right. By incorporating these strategies, you can create dates that fuel connection, passion, and intimacy, bringing you and your partner closer than ever.

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43: Seriously? How to Bring Back the Fun in Your Relationship

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Marriage is already an absurd idea when you think about it—so why do we get so serious about keeping it running smoothly? In this episode, Ellen introduces the Absurdity Principle of Relationship Growth and dives into three ways to inject more fun into your relationship.

If your relationship feels routine, predictable, or just too serious, these approaches will break you out of your comfort zone, increase connection, and make your relationship more exciting again.

Part 1: The Absurdity of Relationships & Why Fun Disappears

Why long-term relationships naturally become too serious—and how that kills connection.
The big mistake couples make when they try to fix a stale relationship with logic.
The Absurdity Principle: Why embracing the ridiculousness of lifelong commitment is the key to making it work.
Rate your relationship’s fun level—if it’s below a 7, you need this episode.

Part 2: 3 Ways to Bring Back Fun & Playfulness

1. The Surrender Date – Letting go of control leads to the best experiences.

One partner plans everything—location, outfits, food, activities. The other just goes along for the ride.
Why it works: Builds trust, creates surprise and excitement, and shakes up the usual relationship dynamic.
Ideas to try: Blindfolded Outfit Challenge, Trying a Completely New Activity, or Over-the-Top Themed Date Night.

2. Whose Line Couples Edition – Improv your way to better connection.

Inspired by Whose Line Is It Anyway?, this game-based approach adds humor, novelty, and unpredictability into your relationship.
Game options:
Questions Only – Every response must be a question!
Scenes From a Hat – Act out funny, flirty, or ridiculous scenarios.
Props – Grab an object and invent as many crazy uses for it as possible.
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3. Try Something Physical – Movement boosts connection, attraction, and chemistry.

Ideas include: Couples dance classes, roller skating, sexy partner workouts, or even body painting.
Why it works: Moving together builds chemistry in ways that words can’t.

Key Takeaways:

People may not stop loving each other—but they often stop having fun together.

You don’t just fall into playfulness—you have to create it.

Trying something new together shakes up routines and reintroduces attraction.

Call to Action:

Pick one approach and try it this week. DM Ellen or tag her in the P3 Insider's Community with your best moment!

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Need help making this work? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

"We all want fun, exciting, and playful relationships, but fun doesn’t just happen. You have to make space for it. You have to create it. And yeah, sometimes that takes effort. But wasn’t planning fun dates exciting when you first started dating? It was work, but it was high-reward work."

Start small – Pick just one playful thing this week.

Schedule it if you have to – Spontaneity is a myth; even early dating was planned.

Push through the awkwardness – Fun feels weird at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.

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42: Stuck in the Doghouse? Here’s How to Get Out—and Stay Out

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0400

SUMMARY:

If you didn't listen to last week's Valentine’s Day Special—or you listened but didn’t take action—there’s a chance you’re going to be in the doghouse. And if that’s the case, you’re going to need a plan to get out.

In this episode, Ellen breaks down what the doghouse really is (hint: it’s not just about being in trouble), why it happens, how to recognize the warning signs, and, most importantly, how to get out and stay out—for good.

You’ll meet Bill, a VIP client who found himself in the doghouse without a clue. And, you’ll learn how to prevent disconnection, build stronger communication, so you can retire the doghouse dynamic from your relationship permanently.

Part 1: What Is the Doghouse and Why Does It Happen?

The doghouse isn’t just about being in trouble—it’s an emotional space where one partner withdraws due to unmet expectations, unresolved frustrations, or a perceived lack of priority.
How disconnection builds over time and why it can sneak up on high-performing men who are laser-focused on their careers.
The "Friend Test" analogy: How relationship withdrawal mirrors friendships that fade when effort isn’t reciprocated.

Part 2: Case Study—Bill’s Story

Bill, a VIP Client, shares his frustration about constantly ending up in the doghouse without knowing why.
A deep dive into Bill’s missed bids for connection: an overlooked vacation plan and neglected smoke detector batteries—small actions that sent unintended messages to his wife.
The realization: It’s often not about what you did, but what you didn’t do.

Part 3: How to Get Out—and Stay Out—of the Doghouse

Ellen helps Bill align his actions with his intentions, track his commitments, and initiate a direct conversation to eliminate the doghouse dynamic.
She lays out five actionable strategies to avoid disconnection and build a stronger relationship:

1) Recognize and respond to bids for connection.

2) Acknowledge and fulfilled promises.

3) Take immediate action on something small.

4) Open the conversation about the doghouse.

5) Establish regular check-ins.

Key Takeaways:

The doghouse isn’t a punishment—it’s a sign of disconnection.
Small, repeated disappointments add up and push your partner to withdraw.
The way out isn’t grand gestures—it’s consistent, meaningful action and open communication.
You can’t fix what you don’t see, so learning to recognize your partner’s needs and following through is key to keeping your relationship strong.

Closing Thoughts:

So, as we wrap up this episode, ask yourself:

What’s one small thing I can do today to reconnect with my partner?
Where have I been missing bids for connection—and how can I start noticing them?
How can I be more intentional about following through on my commitments?

The doghouse isn’t just about being "in trouble"—it’s about disconnection. It happens when small disappointments, forgotten promises, and missed bids for connection pile up over time. If you’re in the doghouse, it probably didn’t happen overnight, and it won’t go away on its own. But you have the power to change it.

You can’t read your partner’s mind, but you can show up consistently, pay attention, and follow through on the things that matter to them.

Relationships aren’t about perfection—they’re about making each other feel seen, heard, valued and loved.

Call to Action:

If you're stuck the doghouse, you don’t have to stay there. Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com. In just 15 minutes, you’ll get clear on what’s going on in your relationship and walk away with one or two actionable steps to start making real progress.

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41: Valentine’s Day—Hallmark Holiday or Passionate Power Play

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Part 1: Understanding Valentine's Day

A look at the origins of the holiday, including its rebellious roots in ancient Rome.
Why Valentine’s Day can feel commercialized and how shifting perspectives can help.
The significance of aligning with or acknowledging a partner's attachment to the day.

Part 2: Meeting Relationship Expectations

The importance of understanding a partner’s expectations for Valentine's Day.
The consequences of ignoring the holiday if it's important to one partner.
Two options: setting clear boundaries or using the holiday to strengthen the relationship.

Part 3: Planning a Personalized Valentine’s Day

Strategies for different types of relationships:

Partners who are indifferent to the holiday.
Partners who want something special but aren’t tied to traditions.
Traditionalists who expect classic Valentine’s Day elements (roses, chocolates, fancy dinner).

Key Takeaways:

Understanding how a partner feels about romantic gestures can prevent miscommunication and disappointment.
Thoughtful, personalized efforts go a long way in building a stronger, more affectionate relationship.
Planning ahead ensures less stress, fewer mistakes, and a better overall experience.

Call to Action:

Listeners can download the Ultimate Valentine’s Day Planning Kit to get a head start on their planning. The kit includes a timeline, curated gift ideas, and a planner to keep everything organized.

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40: Can a Couple Stay Together When They Want Different Things Out of Life?

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In the final episode of our Avoiding Divorce series, Ellen explores what happens when couples no longer want the same things in life. She breaks down the three main reasons this misalignment occurs, the emotional dynamics that make it worse, and the three principles to help get your relationship back on track. This is about rediscovering or even defining, for the first time, a shared vision for your future—one that keeps you and your partner aligned, connected, and moving forward together.

Part 1: Why Couples Lose Their Shared Vision

Ellen explains how many divorces are driven by couples who say, "We just didn’t want the same things anymore."

3 Reasons for misalignment:

Goals and priorities diverge over time.
There was never a shared vision to begin with.
One partner drastically changes the trajectory of the relationship.

Part 2: Emotional Dynamics That Worsen the Problem

Loss of respect undermines trust and collaboration.
Loss of confidence in the plan can lead to pretending and disengagement.
Emotional withdrawal (discussed in Episode 26, Dead Quiet: Is Stonewalling Killing Your Relationship?) creates distance that grows over time.

Part 3: The Three Principles to Get Back in Sync

Principle 1: Switch off Autopilot and Re-Engage

Let go of magical thinking—your relationship won’t fix itself.
Reflect on this question: What will my relationship look like in 10 years if nothing changes?
Take control of your future and create the relationship you want.

Principle 2: Create a Vision You Can Believe In

If you're uncertain about your relationship's future, progress will be hard.
Paint a picture of a realistic future you and your partner would want to stay in.
This vision needs to reflect both your dreams and your partner's.

Principle 3: Co-Create a Shared Vision

Once you have clarity, collaborate with your partner to merge your visions.
Sit on the same side of the table, working as a team to tackle alignment.
You don’t need to agree on everything—find common ground and create a future you both feel excited about.

Key Takeaways:

You can reconnect with your partner if you’ve lost your shared vision.
Start by taking action on your own—get clear on your own vision before involving your partner.
Build a shared vision that balances both partners' dreams and goals, so you can work toward a future you both want to stay in.

Call to Action:

Book a Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.
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Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reminds listeners that divorce season can become recommitment season—an opportunity to realign and rebuild a stronger, more connected relationship. Relationships aren’t bulletproof, but by cultivating passion, presence, and purpose, you can weather life’s challenges together.

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39: The SHI*T Model: A Plan for Moving Beyond Betrayal

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian explores the impact of betrayal on relationships and how it undermines trust, presence, and purpose—the key drivers of a passionate partnership. Ellen introduces the S*H*I*T Model, a practical framework designed to help listeners process betrayal, rebuild trust, and move forward, whether that means repairing the relationship or deciding to let it go.

Part 1: Betrayals vs. Disappointments

The difference between disappointments and betrayals: Disappointments don’t usually erode trust, but a pattern of consistent letdowns can lead to betrayal.
Betrayals involve forethought and perception, making them uniquely damaging to trust and connection.

Part 2: The S*H*I*T Model

Phase 1: Crap or Get Off the Pot – Decide if you’re ready to rebuild trust or if it’s time to let go.
Phase 2: Climb Off the Crap Pile – Let go of resentment and unrealistic expectations that keep you stuck.
Phase 3: Compost That Crap – Turn lessons from betrayal into personal and relational growth through actionable steps.

Part 3: Practical Advice

Learn how to let go of the “resentment story” and societal fairy tales about relationships.
Focus on personal growth, rebuilding trust incrementally, and creating a shared relationship model.
When necessary, seek guidance from a coach or counselor to work through unresolved issues.

Key Takeaways:

Not all letdowns are betrayals. Disappointments hurt but don’t usually erode trust, while betrayals strike at the foundation of the relationship.
The S*H*I*T Model helps you decide if you’re ready to rebuild trust. It walks you through a process to determine whether you’re prepared to do the work.
Decisiveness and letting go come first. Commit to staying or leaving, and release resentment before addressing the betrayal itself.

Call to Action:

Ellen created a free downloadable worksheet to guide you through the S*H*I*T Model. Use it to figure out where you stand and the steps you can take to move forward. If you need personalized support, book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

Next week, Ellen will wrap up the Avoiding Divorce series with a discussion on regaining alignment in your relationship and how to create a shared vision for the future.

Support & Resources:

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38: The Other Four Horsemen: Hidden Relationship Dynamics That Kill Desire (Avoiding Divorce Series, Part 2 of 4)

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Summary:

Welcome to part two of our series on Divorce Season and how to avoid it. January is often called "divorce season," and we’re dedicating this month to helping you avoid becoming a statistic. In this episode, we tackle a crucial aspect of maintaining a thriving relationship: passion. We’ll explore the "Other Four Horsemen" that quietly erode intimacy and connection in relationships and, most importantly, how to overcome them. These hidden dynamics—Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism—may be undermining your relationship more than you realize. Learn to identify these behaviors and take actionable steps to build a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.

Part 1: Understanding the Other Four Horsemen

Overview of "The Other Four Horsemen": Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism.
Why these unconscious behaviors erode intimacy and create distance in relationships.

Part 2: Breaking Down Each Horseman

Neediness: Seeking constant validation and reassurance, which can exhaust your partner and kill attraction.

Examples: Constant reassurance, clinginess, and overreacting to mistakes.
Solution: Notice when you’re doing it, pause, and focus on meeting your own needs.

Childlike Behavior: Failing to live up to the expectations of adult partnership.

Examples: Leaving messes, weaponized helplessness, and acting immaturely.
Solution: Read the room, take responsibility for key tasks, and emulate adult role models.

Apathy: Neglecting to put effort into the relationship.

Examples: Not being present, retiring romance, and losing empathy.
Solution: Reconnect with gratitude, act with intention, and shift your perspective.

Transactionalism: Treating the relationship as a series of quid pro quo exchanges.

Examples: Conditional love, keeping score, and using gifts as leverage.
Solution: Shift your focus from what you’re getting to what you’re giving, and communicate intentions openly.

Part 3: Tools for Transformation

Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward change.
Small, intentional actions can have a big impact on reigniting passion and connection.
Recommendations for additional insights:

Episode 23: Build A Bonfire: Steps to Reignite Your Relationship.

Episode 24: A Modern Hero’s Guide to Making More Love.

Episode 25: How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved and Get More Love in Return.

Key Takeaways:

The "Other Four Horsemen" are subtle but powerful barriers to intimacy.
Identifying and addressing these behaviors can transform your relationship.
Reigniting passion doesn’t require grand gestures—small, consistent actions matter most.

Call to Action:

If you’re ready to dive deeper, book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com. Whether it’s a minor tune-up or a major overhaul, we’ll create a plan to help you move forward.

Closing Thoughts:

The foundation of a strong relationship is recognizing patterns that no longer serve you and committing to change. These small adjustments can pave the way for a more passionate and fulfilling connection with your partner.

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37: Will January Be Your Relationship Wake-Up Call?

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of The Make More Love Show, Ellen explores why January is often called "Divorce Season" and reframes it as the perfect time for a Relationship Wake-Up Call. She introduces the concept of the "Recommitment Season" and explores the reasons why this time of year is critical for relationships. Ellen discusses the warning signs of relationship trouble, the costs of divorce, and how gaining clarity can empower you to take control of your future.

Part 1: Why January Is Known as Divorce Season

Ellen outlines the four key reasons January is known for a spike in divorces: the holiday letdown, business stress, financial reviews, and resolutions for fresh starts. These factors combine to make January a turning point for many couples.

Part 2: Assessing Your Relationship

Using the analogy of wine, vodka, or fish, Ellen helps listeners evaluate their relationship's current state. Is it improving, stagnant, or deteriorating? She explains how each state ties to the risks of divorce and what action steps might be appropriate.

Part 3: The Emotional, Social, and Financial Costs of Divorce

Ellen emphasizes the devastating impact divorce can have emotionally, socially, and financially, particularly for business owners. She explains how the financial toll often starts years before divorce papers are filed, with overspending, poor financial decisions, and the stress of a deteriorating relationship.

Key Takeaways:

January is a pivotal month—use it to reflect on your relationship.
Assess whether your relationship is like wine, vodka, or fish to understand where you stand.
Gaining clarity about your options can help you make better decisions and take control of your future.

Call to Action:

If you’re considering divorce or feeling stuck in your relationship, take advantage of Ellen’s free Relationship Reset Call. This 15–20 minute session gives you a chance to brainstorm options and gain a fresh perspective. Schedule your call at relationshipresetcall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

"January doesn’t have to be Divorce Season—it can be your Recommitment Season. Whether you’re ready to rebuild your relationship or simply gain clarity about your options, I’m here to help you take the next step."

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36: Holiday Episode: The Spirit of Generosity in Relationships

Thu, 26 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0400

Part 1: A Holiday Story About Generosity

Ellen shares a moving story about her father’s approach to Christmas and the lessons he imparted through the concept of Santa Claus as the embodiment of generosity.
She recounts her dad’s final gift to her, The Gift of the Magi by O. Henry, and how it symbolizes selflessness, love, and sacrifice in relationships.

Part 2: The Five Aspects of Generosity

Emotional Generosity: Giving time, attention, and love freely without expecting anything in return. Includes practical tips like using a “root cause analysis” approach to stay present during emotional conversations.
Relational Generosity: Paying attention to your partner’s needs and stepping in to share the mental load. Features the “By The Clock” exercise to anticipate and address tasks proactively.
Philosophical Generosity: Cultivating a mindset of abundance by focusing on gratitude and appreciation rather than scarcity or criticism.
Action-Oriented Generosity: Doing what you say you’ll do, being reliable, and supporting your partner when it matters most, even when it’s inconvenient.
Legacy of Generosity: Building a lasting impact through selflessness in relationships, modeled after her father’s example.

Part 3: Holiday Reflections

Ellen encourages listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity during the holiday season and to pass it forward in their own lives.
She reminds listeners that the greatest gift they can give their children is the example of a passionate and connected partnership.

Key Takeaways:

Generosity is More Than Money. True generosity lies in how you give your time, attention, and care to those you love. It’s about showing up fully and selflessly in ways that matter most.
Emotional and Relational Generosity Build Connection.Trust and connection grow when you’re emotionally present and proactive in supporting your partner’s needs—whether by sharing the mental load or simply listening with focus and care.
Your Legacy Begins in Your Relationships.The most impactful legacy you leave isn’t material; it’s the example you set in your relationships. Cultivating a passionate and connected partnership shapes how your children and loved ones approach their own connections.

Call to Action:

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Schedule a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to identify key challenges and create a plan to move forward.

Visit relationshipresetcall.com to book your spot.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen closes with a heartfelt wish for joy, peace, and love during the holiday season. She invites listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity and leave a legacy their loved ones will treasure.

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35: How to Give Your Partner a Gift Card Without Hurting Your Relationship

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0400

[SUMMARY]

Gift-giving during the holidays or special occasions can be a minefield, especially when it comes to significant others. This week, Ellen dives into a common mistake many partners make: giving a gift card without much thought—and how it can unintentionally hurt your relationship. She shares a real-life story from a client and offers practical, step-by-step advice on how to turn even a gift card into a meaningful experience that shows your partner how much you care.

Part 1: Why Gift-Giving Feels So Hard

Ellen breaks down the common frustrations and challenges of holiday gift-giving:

Why partners with “everything” are difficult to shop for.
How big-ticket items and personal preferences make gift-giving feel impossible.
Why a gift card might seem practical but can come across as thoughtless.

She also unpacks what the phrase “It’s the thought that counts” really means—and how partners interpret effort differently.

Part 2: A Client’s Gift-Giving Dilemma

Ellen shares the story of her client, JT, who struggled to find a gift for his wife after past failures—including a gift card disaster that caused resentment. She explores why this scenario is so common and how frustration can lead to gift-giving procrastination or avoidance altogether.

Part 3: The Solution—Make It an Experience

Ellen lays out a step-by-step plan for turning a gift card or shopping budget into a meaningful and personal experience:

Create a beautifully wrapped certificate for a shopping day together.
Plan ahead by contacting stores and arranging a curated selection within budget.
Elevate the experience with lunch, dinner, or thoughtful details that show care and effort.She also provides ideas for scaling the experience to different preferences, budgets, and logistics.

Key Takeaways:

A great gift isn’t about the price—it’s about the thought and effort behind it.
Focusing on an experience over a “thing” creates connection and shows your partner you value them.
Planning even simple details, like arranging a private shopping experience, can make all the difference.

Call to Action:

If you’ve ever struggled with gift-giving, this episode is your chance to rethink your approach and create a meaningful moment with your partner. For more personalized advice, schedule a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen or join the conversation in the P3 Insider’s Community. Links are below!

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reminds listeners that putting thought into a gift is about more than avoiding conflict—it’s about deepening your connection and showing your partner they matter.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

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34: How to Handle When Things Go South

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0400

[In this off-the-cuff episode, Ellen Dorian shares candid thoughts on handling frustrations and setbacks when things don’t go as planned. Using her own tech issues as an example, Ellen explores how to manage stress and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships. She dives into three common problems and offers five actionable principles for maintaining emotional control and resilience during challenging times.

Part 1: Understanding the Impact of Frustration

How work frustrations can spill over into your relationship, even when your partner isn’t involved.
The importance of recognizing how stress affects your behavior and the energy you bring home.

Part 2: Identifying Common Challenges

Losing perspective under stress and why small glitches can feel enormous.
Neglecting self-care and how it creates a vicious cycle, making stress harder to handle.

Part 3: Five Principles for Managing Frustration

Pause Before Reacting – Take a deep breath and respond intentionally instead of emotionally.
Name It to Tame It – Identify and articulate what you’re feeling to regain control.
Communicate Constructively – Share your frustrations with your partner in a way that fosters understanding, not conflict.
Prioritize Self-Care – Small, intentional actions can build resilience and restore your emotional balance.
Engage the Gratitude Factor – Reflect on what’s going well to reframe your mindset and counter negativity.

Key Takeaways:

Frustrations are inevitable, but they don’t have to damage your relationship.
Emotional control during challenging times is a cornerstone of living an honorable life.
Practicing self-care and gratitude can help you manage stress and show up as your best self.

Call to Action:

Ellen shares her personal commitment to these principles and encourages listeners to take a proactive approach to maintaining balance in their lives. Whether it’s a deep breath, a moment of gratitude, or reaching out for support, small steps can make a big difference in preserving both your peace of mind and the strength of your relationships.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reflects on the importance of handling frustrations with intention, especially when life doesn’t go as planned. She emphasizes that these moments, though temporary, can leave lasting impacts if we let them spill over into our relationships. By practicing emotional control, prioritizing self-care, and staying mindful of how stress affects those around us, we can navigate challenges more gracefully.

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33: Silence, Anger & Desire: Emotional Patterns that Can Undermine Your Relationship—With Performance Coach Kylie Ryan

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Ellen sits down with the dynamic Kylie Ryan, a performance coach specializing in helping entrepreneurs unlock their potential by tackling emotional and mental roadblocks. Together, they dive into a range of provocative topics, from emotional intelligence and societal conditioning to rage and relationships. This conversation is packed with insights on how to better understand and express emotions, fostering stronger connections in both personal and professional spheres.

Part 1: Understanding Emotional Conditioning

Ellen and Kylie discuss how upbringing, societal norms, and biological differences shape the way men and women process emotions. They delve into why many men struggle with articulating emotions and how partners can work together to create a safe space for emotional expression.

Part 2: Rage, Relationships, and Society

The conversation shifts to the increasing rage and anger seen in society, particularly in men, stemming from isolation, lack of appreciation, and unmet emotional needs. Kylie explores the impact of suppressed emotions and the role of societal structures in perpetuating dysfunctional coping mechanisms.

Part 3: The Path to Emotional Mastery

Kylie outlines practical strategies for managing and expressing emotions constructively. Ellen and Kylie share personal anecdotes to illustrate how addressing emotional triggers and embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper intimacy and fulfillment.

Key Takeaways:

Managing and expressing emotions is a sign of strength and essential for building meaningful connections.
Societal norms and upbringing shape emotional habits, but you can break free from these patterns through awareness and intention.
Authentic connection and intimacy arise when you let go of pretenses and embrace vulnerability with your partner.

Call to Action:

Ready to take control of your emotions and enhance your relationships? Join Ellen’s private Facebook community, visit her website for more resources, or schedule a free Relationship Reset Call today at relationshipresetcall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen encourages listeners to reflect on how managing emotions can positively impact their lives and relationships. She emphasizes that taking small steps toward emotional mastery can lead to extraordinary changes in connection and intimacy.

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32: How to Avoid Fighting with Your Partner Over the Holidays

Thu, 28 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0400

The holidays can be a time of joy, but they can also be a time of stress—especially for couples. In this episode, Ellen shares why holiday conflicts happen, the hidden risks that can quietly undermine your relationship, and 5 practical strategies you can use to avoid fighting and stay connected with your partner during this busy season. Whether it’s money stress, family drama, or unmet expectations, you’ll walk away with tools to navigate the holidays with more peace and connection.

Part 1: The 8 Major Causes of Holiday Conflict

Ellen breaks down the top reasons couples fight during the holidays, including:

Money: How differing spending habits can create tension.
Family Dynamics: Navigating extended family expectations and obligations.
Religious Differences: Balancing beliefs about how to celebrate.
Political Differences: When core values clash.
Conflicting Priorities: Misalignment on how to spend time.
Unmet Expectations: Disappointments when reality doesn’t match ideals.
Boredom with Holiday Traditions: Balancing new ideas and old favorites.
Unresolved Relationship Issues: How pre-existing tensions escalate during the season.

Part 2: The Hidden Risks That Fly Under the Radar

Ellen explores three sneaky risks that can quietly damage your relationship over the holidays:

Overindulgence: How drinking, eating, or other excesses can amplify tensions.
Unhealthy Coping Strategies: Avoidance tactics like burying yourself in work or escaping into hobbies.
Infidelity: Why feelings of disconnection or loneliness can heighten the risk during this time of year.

Part 3: Practical Strategies for Avoiding Holiday Fighting

Ellen shares a tactical approach to de-escalating conflict and fostering connection during the holidays. The 5 strategies include:

Lay the Foundation with Clear Priorities: Align on expectations before the holidays begin.
Address Stress Before It Escalates: Check in with yourself and your partner regularly.
Revisit Expectations During the Holidays: Be flexible and adapt plans as needed.
Solve the Conflict in the Moment: De-escalate quickly with tactical steps like acknowledging emotions and setting boundaries.
Reconnect and Rebuild: Schedule intentional alone time to repair and strengthen your bond.

Key Takeaways:

The holidays amplify relationship stressors like money, family dynamics, and unmet expectations. Recognizing these triggers can help you navigate them better.
Hidden risks like unhealthy coping mechanisms and infidelity can quietly erode your relationship if left unchecked.
Practical, tactical strategies can help you avoid fighting, de-escalate conflicts, and stay connected during the holiday season.

Call to Action:

If holiday stress is impacting your relationship, Ellen invites you to book a free Relationship Reset Call to brainstorm solutions and reconnect with your partner. Visit her calendar link below to schedule.

Closing Thoughts:

The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. What matters most is how you handle the inevitable stress—with attentiveness, intention, and honor. Remember, you chose each other for a reason, and even in tough moments, there’s a path forward to repair and connection.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. For personalized guidance on a specific situation, set up a time for a free Relationship Reset Call via her calendar link.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

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31: How to Handle Relationship Obligations You'd Rather Skip

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0400

Do you dread holiday gatherings, family drama, or other obligations that test your patience? What if these dreaded moments could actually strengthen your relationship?

In this episode, we’re exploring the relationship challenges tied to obligations—those moments when you’d rather be anywhere else but are expected to show up. We discuss why honoring these commitments matters, how avoidance strategies harm your relationship, and ways to turn these dreaded events into opportunities for deeper connection. This episode is your guide to building a stronger, more passionate partnership.

Part 1: The Real Cost of Avoiding Obligations

Discover the three common avoidance strategies: "The Hard Pass," "The Silent Protest," and "Blowing the Escape Hatch."
Understand how these approaches erode Stability, Belonging, and Affinity in your relationship.

Part 2: The Relationship Hierarchy of Needs

A refresher on the five stages of the hierarchy: Vitality, Stability, Belonging, Affinity, and Passion.
Learn how repeated hits to these layers affect emotional, mental, and physical well-being.

Part 3: Turning Obligations into Opportunities

Explore practical strategies like assessing joy vs. pain, collaborative planning, setting boundaries, and finding creative ways to make obligations more enjoyable.
Hear real-life examples, including how one couple transformed a chaotic Thanksgiving into their best family gathering in years.

Key Takeaways:

Time and Presence are the most valuable currencies in a relationship—invest them wisely.
Avoidance harms your relationship foundation, impacting trust, connection, and emotional health.
With intention and creativity, obligations can become opportunities to build trust and deepen connection.

Call to Action:

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com to gain clarity and start making meaningful changes today.

Closing Thoughts:

The way you handle obligations is a reflection of how you’ll handle life’s toughest challenges. Use these moments to show up for your partner, build trust, and prove that you’ve got each other’s backs. Together, you can turn even the most dreaded events into a foundation for a stronger, more passionate partnership.

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30: Compartmentalizing Your Life is Hurting Your Relationship – Here’s the Fix

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian challenges the traditional notion of work-life balance and the disadvantages of compartmentalization, advocating instead for work-life integration. She shares five key principles to help entrepreneurial men harmonize their business ambitions with personal relationships, ensuring a fulfilling life both at work and at home.

Part 1: Rethinking Work-Life Balance

Ellen critiques the outdated concept of work-life balance, highlighting its inefficiencies and the unrealistic separation of work and personal life. She introduces the idea of work-life integration as a more cohesive approach.

Part 2: Five Principles of Work-Life Integration

Ellen outlines five principles: designing your world to fit your needs, embracing authenticity, avoiding the work-life triangle, practicing intentional presence, and leveraging business skills in personal relationships. She shares personal anecdotes and practical examples to illustrate these concepts.

Part 3: Tips for Implementing Change

Ellen provides actionable steps for listeners to begin integrating these principles into their lives. She emphasizes starting slow, setting micro goals, and seeking support to ensure sustainable progress.

Key Takeaways:

- Work-life balance is not a useful concept. Integration offers a more effective approach for business owners.

- Compartmentalization and multitasking interfere with authenticity and presence.

- There are 5 principles one can apply in small, manageable steps that, along with expert support, will result in a more integrated, authentic approach to relationships and life in general.

Call to Action:

Listeners are encouraged to join the Passionate Partners Insider community, explore resources on the website, and book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized guidance.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes the importance of aligning business and personal goals to create a harmonious and rewarding life. She invites listeners to reflect on their current approach and consider the benefits of work-life integration.

Support & Resources:

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Disclaimer:

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29: Ask Your Doctor If You're Healthy Enough: The Role of Personal Vitality in Your Relationship

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian explores the critical topic of vitality for entrepreneurial men. She discusses the impact of vitality on relationships and business success, offering practical advice to enhance physical and mental health. Ellen shares a client's journey to reclaim vitality and provides actionable steps for listeners to improve their well-being.

Part 1: Understanding Vitality

Ellen introduces the concept of vitality, emphasizing its importance for physical and mental health. She outlines common challenges faced by male business owners, such as stress, sleep issues, and unhealthy habits, which can hinder vitality.

Part 2: A Client's Journey

Ellen shares the story of her client, DB, who struggled with vitality after starting his own business. She details the phased approach used to help DB regain his health, including establishing daily routines, consulting with a doctor, and incorporating enjoyable physical activities.

Part 3: Practical Steps and Health Checks

Ellen provides listeners with simple daily routines to boost energy and improve health. She also highlights essential health checks for men over 40, stressing the importance of early detection and management of potential health issues.

Key Takeaways:

Vitality is Everything – It’s the key to fully showing up in life, not just about physical health but about having the energy and resilience that let you play full out.
Small Habits Add Up – Vitality is a long-term investment, like building a business. Small, consistent habits make the biggest impact over time.
Health Fuels Connection – You can’t have a world-class relationship if you’re not healthy enough to engage. Prioritize self-care, and watch the ripple effect bring renewed passion and a deeper connection.

Call to Action:

Listeners are encouraged to join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook, explore resources on the website, and book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized support.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes the importance of paying attention to your physical and mental health, reiterating that it only takes small, consistent actions and attention to a few key health checks to set you up for a long life full of vitality and passionate energy.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email (Ellen@passionatepartnersproject.com). Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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28: You've Tried Everything: Why Your Relationship Fixes Haven't Worked

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian explores the challenges entrepreneurial men face in balancing business success with maintaining a passionate and fulfilling relationship. Ellen discusses the common pitfalls of trying to reignite intimacy and offers actionable strategies to overcome these obstacles. She emphasizes the importance of understanding love languages and aligning efforts with genuine motivations to foster deeper connections.

Part 1: The "Trying Everything" Trap

Ellen introduces the concept of the "trying everything" trap, where individuals exhaust traditional methods to revive intimacy without success. She outlines four common ways people get stuck: endless problem diagnosis, jumping to solutions without understanding the root issue, acting on personal comfort rather than partner needs, and being driven by expected outcomes rather than genuine connection.

Part 2: Understanding Love Languages

Ellen provides a primer on the five love languages, explaining how they can transform relationship dynamics. She highlights the importance of identifying both giving and receiving love languages for oneself and one's partner to ensure efforts are meaningful and effective.

Part 3: Actionable Steps for Connection

Ellen shares practical steps to enhance relationship intimacy, including knowing your and your partner's love languages, identifying gaps in communication, and consistently practicing love languages. She offers creative ideas for each love language to inspire listeners to try new approaches in their relationships.

Key Takeaways:

1. Avoid endless diagnosing AND Ready Fire Aim Solutions

2. Don't be afraid to move out of your comfort zone. Your partner's comfort zone is a more productive place to operate from.

3. Love Languages are a strong way to find the right things instead of doing everything.

Call to Action:

Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content, visit the website for more resources, or book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized guidance.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen encourages listeners to reconnect with the reasons they chose their partner and to explore new ways to enhance their relationship. She emphasizes the transformative power of understanding and practicing love languages.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Episodes That Can Help With Today's Topic:

Episode 25: Includes the Romantic Hero Power Moves

Episode 21: Sleep Naked

Disclaimer:

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27: Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian revisits a foundational discussion on why men choose to settle down and the motivations for staying committed in relationships, even when faced with challenges. Ellen introduces the concept of the "relationship drive matrix" to help listeners understand their relationship dynamics and offers a three-step strategy to address feelings of being unappreciated.

Part 1: Introduction and Revisiting a Key Episode

Ellen opens the episode by sharing her recent experience with dental surgery and her decision to revisit one of her favorite early episodes. She discusses the reasons men choose long-term relationships and the importance of staying committed when challenges arise.

Part 2: The Relationship Drive Matrix

Ellen introduces the "relationship drive matrix," a tool to help listeners visualize their relationship dynamics. She explains the four quadrants: sadness and loneliness, connection without joy, seeking joy beyond the relationship, and ideal joy and connection.

Part 3: Strategies for Rebuilding Connection

Ellen outlines a three-step strategy to address feelings of being unappreciated: assessing personal energy in the relationship, focusing on appreciation for the partner, and taking meaningful actions to create connection. She emphasizes the power of personal growth and the importance of individual initiative in improving relationships.

Key Takeaways:

1. Men often seek committed relationships for reasons like sexual fulfillment, intimacy, companionship, meaning, and legacy.

2. A strong relationship begins with personal growth and reflection on one's role.

3. Individuals hold the power to create change through intentional actions, without waiting for their partner to act.TBD

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook, visit the website for more resources, and book a free Relationship Reset Call for personalized support.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reminds listeners of the importance of reconnecting with the reasons for choosing their partner and discovering new ways to enhance their relationship.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

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26: Dead Quiet: Is Stonewalling Killing Your Relationship?

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian delves into the critical issue of stonewalling in relationships, particularly among entrepreneurial men. Ellen shares insights on how stonewalling can damage relationships and offers practical strategies to foster open communication and trust.

Part 1: The Danger of Stonewalling in Your Relationship

Ellen introduces the concept of stonewalling, drawing on John Gottman's research. She explains how stonewalling manifests in real-life relationships and its emotional impact, emphasizing the importance of addressing this behavior.

Part 2: Answering a Listener's Question on Ending Stonewalling in Her Relationship

Ellen shares a listener's story to illustrate the real-life challenges of stonewalling. She provides a thoughtful response, offering strategies to overcome this behavior and improve communication within the relationship.

Part 3: How to Shift Your Behavior if You Tend to Shut Down

Ellen offers actionable advice for those who recognize stonewalling tendencies in themselves. She discusses the importance of recognizing the behavior, understanding its roots, and implementing active listening techniques to improve communication.

Call to Action:

Closing Thoughts:

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Key Takeaways:

1. Stonewalling can create emotional distance and damage trust in relationships.

2. Active listening and understanding your partner's perspective are crucial for effective communication.

3. Setting boundaries and discussing the impact of stonewalling can help rebuild trust and connection.

Call to Action:

Ellen invites listeners to book a free Relationship Reset Call to explore personalized strategies for improving their relationships. Visit relationshipresetcall.com to schedule a session.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reminds listeners that the first step to solving the problem of stonewalling is to choose to make the change. Once you do that, then you can implement skills of active listening to shift the way you engage in hard conversations. And, she emphasizes that these skills work in virtually any situation where people come together to solve hard problems, work, community, parents, children, and most importantly with your romantic partner.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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25: The One Thing Your Relationship Needs More Than Trust

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian reveals the one thing that determines your happiness in relationships. Further, she challenges her listeners to rethink their approach to romance. She introduces three key power moves one should master to make their partners feel loved. She offers practical advice on using these moves to strengthen their connection.

Part 1: The Importance of Feeling Loved

Ellen discusses the critical role of making your partner feel loved consistently. She explains that without this, other successes in life may feel hollow. Ellen challenges listeners to reflect on their relationships and consider if their partner truly feels loved.

Part 2: Insights from Romantic Heroes

Ellen shares insights from the lead characters in romantic fiction, highlighting how they can offer valuable lessons in understanding a partner's desires. She introduces three "romantic hero power moves"—a look, a touch, and a word—that can be used to maintain intimacy and connection in a relationship.

Part 3: Practical Implementation Tips

Ellen provides practical advice on implementing the power moves in daily life. She explains how subtle actions like eye contact, non-sexual touch, and thoughtful words can significantly impact a relationship. Ellen encourages listeners to try these moves and observe the positive changes they bring.

Key Takeaways:

1. Consistently make your partner feel loved to ensure a fulfilling relationship.

2. Small, intentional actions can have a significant impact on intimacy.

3. Use eye contact, touch, and words to strengthen your connection without expecting anything in return.

Call to Action:

Ellen challenges you to take action today to improve your relationship. Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources that can help you on this journey. Consider booking a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to gain insights tailored to your unique situation. It's really up to you to take the first step.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen acknowledges that some listeners might feel unloved in their relationships. She encourages them to take the first step by giving love to their partner, suggesting that this can often lead to receiving love in return. Ellen emphasizes that by initiating these small, loving actions, listeners can inspire a positive change in their relationship dynamics, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling connection. She reminds everyone that they have the power to be the hero in their relationship and to choose love actively.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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24: The Art of Love: Insights from Romance Novels for Real Relationships

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we explore the intriguing world of romance novels and how they can inspire new romantic approaches in real-life relationships. Discover the hidden secrets of romantic heroes and learn how to integrate these insights to enhance your relationship and boost your sex life.

Part 1: The Cultural Impact of Romance Novels

- Romance novels are a $1.5 billion industry with a rich history dating back to the 1700s.

- They offer a unique perspective on relationships, providing insights into emotions and motivations.

Part 2: Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Dynamics

- Romance novels serve as a masterclass in emotional intelligence, showcasing real-life relationship dynamics.

- They help readers understand mixed messages, conflicts, and motivations in relationships.

Part 3: Creating Intimacy and Connection

- The balance between crisis and intimacy in romance novels highlights the importance of deep connections.

- Practical tips on how to incorporate these elements into your own relationship for a stronger bond.

Key Takeaways:

- Romance novels provide valuable insights into real-life relationship dynamics.
- Avoid constant crises; focus on creating moments of quiet connection.
- Examine and rewrite the stories you tell yourself to align with your desired relationship.

Call to Action:

Explore romance novels to gain new perspectives on your relationship. Try reading together with your partner to enhance your connection.

Closing Thoughts:

Romance novels are more than just entertainment; they offer lessons in love and connection. Embrace these insights to enrich your relationship.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

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23: Build A Bonfire: Steps to Reignite Your Relationship

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian introduces the Bonfire Framework, a method designed to help entrepreneurial men enhance their relationships through small, intentional actions. Ellen discusses the common challenges couples face and offers practical steps to build and maintain a strong, intimate connection with their partners.

Part 1: Common Relationship Issues and The Bonfire Framework

- Ellen shares the dramatic impact of small changes that she experienced at the Mediterranean Keto Wellness Retreat she attended recently.

- Ellen explains 3 common relationship challenges: Lack of Connection, Diminishing Intimacy, and Neglecting Maintenance.

- Ellen addresses these common relationship challenges with her new Bonfire Framework

Part 2: Steps of the Bonfire Framework

- Step 1: Light the Spark - Initiating connection through simple, thoughtful actions.

- Step 2: Feed the Flame - Maintaining momentum with regular, meaningful gestures.

- Step 3: Add Fuel - Building consistency with planned activities and deep conversations.

- Step 4: Bask in the Warmth - Appreciating the closeness and celebrating progress.

Part 3: Applying the Framework Based on Your Relationship Stage

- Ellen explains how to apply the framework to different relationship stages: Solid, Stagnant, and Struggling.

- She addresses common listener concerns about whether the framework will work for their relationship

- Offers a free Relationship Reset Call for personalized guidance.

Key Takeaways:

- Small actions can significantly impact relationship dynamics.
- Consistency is crucial for maintaining a strong connection.
- Enjoying the process is essential for a fulfilling relationship.

Call to Action:

- Subscribe to the podcast and share it with friends who might benefit.

- Consider booking a free Relationship Reset Call for personalized support.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with the reasons for choosing your partner and discovering new ways to enhance your relationship.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

If you want to learn more about the Divorce Risk Condition Scale (DivCON) listen to Episode 16:

https://www.makemorelove.show/16-relationship-dynamics-and-the-divcon-scale/

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22: Lessons from My Wellness Retreat That Apply to Your Relationship

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian shares her transformative experience at the Mediterranean Keto Wellness Retreat in Greece. Ellen discusses the challenges she faced, the lessons she learned, and how these insights can be applied to improving relationships. Key takeaways include the importance of small changes, trusting the process, and finding a supportive community. Ellen also offers practical advice and resources for listeners looking to enhance their relationships and overall well-being.

Part 1: Introduction and Retreat Insights

- Welcome and Introduction

- Ellen Dorian welcomes listeners to "Make More Love," a podcast for entrepreneurial men seeking success in both business and relationships.

- Emphasis on creating a passionate, aligned, and fun relationship with one's spouse.

- Mediterranean Keto Wellness Retreat Insights

- Ellen shares her experience from the Mediterranean Keto Wellness Retreat in Greece, led by Roberta and Apollonas Kapsalis of Greek Goes Keto.

- Discussion on the benefits of the keto Mediterranean lifestyle and its integration with traditional Greek living.

Part 2: Personal Challenges and Lessons Learned

- Personal Challenges and Overcoming Fears

- Ellen's initial struggles with fitting the keto approach into her daily routine.

- Decision to attend the retreat solo, despite uncertainties and lack of a clear agenda.

- Ellen's anxiety about the retreat and how she overcame it.

- Lessons Learned from the Retreat

1. It's Going to Be Okay

- Ellen's travel mishaps and how the support from the retreat organizers and fellow attendees helped her settle in.

- Importance of having a supportive community to guide you through new experiences.

2. Trust the Experts

- Ellen's experience with intermittent fasting and trying new dietary practices under the guidance of Roberta.

- The value of trusting those with expertise and taking small steps towards change.

3. Find Your Community

- Meeting and connecting with other retreat attendees who shared similar goals and values.

- The importance of being part of a supportive community for personal and professional growth.

4. Worst Case Scenario Rarely Happens

- Ellen's fears about the physical activities at the retreat and how they were unfounded.

- Communicating concerns and adjusting mindset to approach new experiences with ease.

5. Follow the Process

- Learning and integrating new principles of the Mediterranean keto lifestyle.

- Emphasis on taking a leap of faith and following a chosen process for lasting change.

Part 3: Parallels to Relationship Coaching

- Ellen draws parallels between her retreat experience and working with a coach to improve relationships.

- Trusting the process and taking things step by step can make transformation manageable.

Key Takeaways:

1: Small changes lead to big results. Focusing on small, consistent actions can create lasting change over a lifetime, making the process more manageable.

2: Following the process reduces overwhelm. Committing to and implementing a proven framework helps you focus on making progress rather than getting stuck on perfection.

3: The right experts and support make success attainable. Having the right guidance and a supportive community makes it easier to reach your goals and stay on track. TBD

Call to Action:

- Invitation to join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.

- Go to passionatepartnersproject.com for Information on programs, workshops, and private coaching options

- Go to relationshipresetcall.com to schedule a call to help listeners get back on track with their relationships.

- Request for listeners to leave a review to help grow the community.

Closing Thoughts:

In today's episode, I shared the valuable lessons I learned from attending the Mediterranean Keto Wellness Retreat and how they apply to relationships. From trusting experts to taking small steps and finding the right community, these lessons show that meaningful change is always within reach if you follow the process. Just like my retreat experience, transforming your relationship takes commitment, but with the right guidance, it becomes manageable. So, whether you’re ready to reignite passion or simply strengthen your connection, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Stay extraordinary, and remember to Make More Love in your life and with your wife.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Read all about the Mediterranean Keto Retreat in Marathon, Greece 2024:

https://www.greekgoesketo.com/keto-mediterranean-retreat-2024-a-culinary-odyssey-through-time-and-taste/

Learn more about the Mediterranean Keto Lifestyle:

Greek Goes Keto

Disclaimer:

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Read all about the Mediterranean Keto Retreat in Marathon, Greece 2024:

https://www.greekgoesketo.com/keto-mediterranean-retreat-2024-a-culinary-odyssey-through-time-and-taste/

Learn more about the Mediterranean Keto Lifestyle:

Greek Goes Keto

21: Sleep Naked

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian shares insights on the importance of self-care for entrepreneurs. She then shares her most popular social media post ever, "Sleep Naked," and explores its physical and emotional benefits. Ellen offers practical tips for incorporating this practice to enhance intimacy and connection with your partner. Tune in for actionable advice on balancing a successful business with a fulfilling personal life.

Part 1: Ellen Shares Her Vacation Plans

- Ellen shares that she is currently on a wellness retreat in Greece, focusing on her physical and mental well-being. She describes the wellness retreat's focus on good food, movement, skincare, and longevity, while connecting with nature and history.

- Discusses the importance of taking time for oneself amidst the demands of business and relationships.

Part 2: The Value of Stillness and Quiet

- Ellen reflects on her initial skepticism about silent retreats and how she has come to appreciate the value of stillness and quiet.

- Emphasizes the need for business owners to recharge and center themselves, finding quiet time to make that possible.

Part 3: Sleep Naked: Her Most Popular Social Media Post Ever

- Ellen introduces the most popular post she has ever shared on social media, titled "Sleep Naked."

- The post is part of a series of relationship tips available on the podcast's YouTube channel.

Benefits of Sleeping Naked

- Ellen shares the physiological and emotional benefits of sleeping naked.

- Discusses how sleeping naked can improve body temperature regulation, release oxytocin, and enhance emotional openness and vulnerability.

Five practical tips for those interested in trying to sleep naked:

1. Communicate with your partner about your plan and rationale.

2. Gradually adjust to sleeping naked at your own pace.

3. Invest in quality sheets and bedding.

4. Use multiple blankets to control warmth and comfort.

5. Create a bedtime ritual to help wind down.

Community Engagement

Key Takeaways:

It is crucial to take time away for oneself, to reflect and determine your right next thing
Focusing on wellness is key to your vitality, which in turn feeds into intimacy and contributes to your Passionate Partnership
Sleeping Naked is a healthy practice, both physically and emotionally, and it can lead to more closeness with your spouse.

Call to Action:

If you’d like some help introducing the idea of sleeping naked to your partner, set up a free relationship reset call. We’ll work out a plan to move you forward. www.relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

- Highlights the importance of vulnerability and emotional health in relationships.

- Thanks listeners for tuning in and hopes the episode added value to their lives.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Disclaimer:

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20: Mastering Time Sense: Key Strategies for Harmonious Relationships

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian explores the concept of time compatibility and its impact on relationships. Ellen introduces the idea of "time sense," which includes time orientation, time perception, and time utilization. She explains how mismatched time sense between partners can lead to friction and offers practical strategies to align them. These include using shared calendars, setting mutually agreed stopping times, and maintaining open communication about schedule changes. Ellen also invites listeners to a free relationship reset call for personalized advice. Tune in for actionable tips to harmonize your personal and professional life.

Summary:

Part 1: Understanding Time Compatibility

- Ellen introduces the concept of time compatibility and its impact on relationships.

- Discusses "time sense," which includes time orientation, time perception, and time utilization.

Part 2: Elements of Time Sense

- Time Orientation: Focus on past, present, or future and its influence on decision-making.

- Time Perception: How quickly or slowly time seems to pass and its effect on relationship dynamics.

- Time Utilization: Daily interaction with time, including punctuality, awareness, and estimation.

Part 3: Strategies for Syncing Time Sense

- Choose the Right Tools: Use shared calendars, smartphones, and reminder apps to stay organized.

- Set Mutually Agreed Stopping Times: Establish clear stopping times for work to prioritize relationship time.

- Maintain a Shared Calendar: Enhance communication and prevent misunderstandings by keeping an up-to-date shared calendar.

- Establish a Daily Morning Check-In: Coordinate schedules and plans to ensure smooth daily alignment.

- Communicate Potential Changes Proactively: Inform each other of any changes in plans to manage expectations and reduce stress.

Key Takeaways:

Awareness of Time Sense: Reflect on your own relationship with time and how it affects your relationship.
Initiative in Communication: Proactively share plans and schedules with your partner to build trust.
Use of Tools: Utilize calendars, reminders, and alarms to stay organized and demonstrate commitment to your partner.

Call to Action:

- Ellen invites listeners to explore additional support through the Passionate Partners Insider community, the website, and social channels.

- Encourages booking a free relationship reset call for tailored advice.

- Reminds listeners to follow, subscribe, leave reviews, and share the podcast to help the community grow.

Closing Thoughts:

- Unique Insight on Time Sense: Recognize that time sense is a deeply personal and often subconscious aspect of our lives. Understanding your own time sense and that of your partner can lead to greater empathy and cooperation.

- Impact of Time Compatibility on Relationship Quality: Time compatibility isn't just about logistics; it's about creating a harmonious life together. When you and your partner are in sync, it can significantly enhance the quality of your relationship.

- Practical Application of Strategies: Implementing these strategies can transform daily interactions and reduce friction. Small changes in how you manage and communicate about time can lead to big improvements in your relationship.

- Encouragement to Take Action: Don't wait for conflicts to arise. Proactively addressing time compatibility can prevent issues and strengthen your bond. Start with one strategy and build from there.

- Invitation for Continued Learning and Growth: Relationships are dynamic, and continuous effort is key. Stay engaged with the podcast, join the community, and seek personalized support to keep growing together.

Support & Resources:

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19: Relationship Agreements for a Hot and Healthy Marriage

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Ellen Dorian explores the importance of creating clear agreements in relationships, similar to those in business. She explains that while business agreements are formal and explicit, relationship agreements often remain unspoken, leading to misunderstandings. Ellen categorizes agreements into four types: explicit, implicit, unwritten, and assumptive, and discusses how each can impact a relationship. She also provides practical advice on how to create and maintain these agreements to ensure a fulfilling and passionate partnership.

Key Topics Discussed:

Welcome and Introduction:

- Ellen Dorian welcomes listeners and introduces the episode's focus on agreements in relationships.

- Emphasizes the importance of clear agreements for a successful and passionate partnership.

Types of Agreements:

1. Explicit Agreements:

- Clearly stated and mutually acknowledged by both partners.

- Examples include financial arrangements and household duties.

2. Implicit Agreements:

- Developed from consistent behaviors or patterns over time without formal discussion.

- Example: One partner always cooks while the other does the dishes.

3. Unwritten Agreements:

- Not explicitly discussed but assumed to be known by both parties.

- Example: One partner consistently plans social events.

4. Assumptive Agreements:

- Based on one partner's uncommunicated expectations.

- Example: One partner insists on resolving conflicts immediately, assuming the other shares this belief.

Importance of Revisiting Agreements:

- Life changes and so do our needs and expectations.

- Regularly revisiting and updating agreements can prevent conflicts and keep the relationship aligned with a common purpose.

Categories of Agreements:

1. Core Relationship Dynamics:

- Values and beliefs

- Communication

- Intimacy

- Conflict resolution styles

- Decision-making styles

- Requests and responsiveness

- Investment in the relationship

2. Practical Life Management:

- Finances

- Household responsibilities

- Career decisions

- Time management

- Work and relationship prioritization

- Lifestyle and health choices

- Parenting styles

3. Social and External Factors:

- Social media usage

- Hot topics (religion, politics, sports)

- In-law relationships

- Friendships and social circles

- Holidays and traditions

- Leisure activities and hobbies

- Personal growth and development

Love Agreements:

- Introduces the concept of love agreements to inject passion and energy into the relationship.

- Encourages positive reinforcement and celebration of successful agreements.

Key Takeaways:

1. Make More Agreements:

- Understanding and creating agreements in your relationship keeps things running smoothly.

2. Keep Things Up to Date:

- Regularly check in on your agreements to ensure they still work for both partners.

3. Add Some Fun:

- Consider love agreements to spice things up and keep the emotional connection strong.

Call to Action:

Key Takeaways:

Call to Action:

- Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.

- Visit the website and social channels for information on programs, workshops, and coaching.

- Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized support.TBD

Closing Thoughts:

Your relationship is strengthened by the clarity of your agreements and the depth of your connection. By practicing open communication and revisiting your commitments, you can build a partnership that thrives on mutual understanding and passion.

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- Follow and subscribe to the podcast.

- Leave a review to help the community grow.

- Share the show with someone who might benefit from it.

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Free Resource: Love Agreement Template

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18: REVISTED: Simplifying Complex Relationship Dynamics

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 12:45:00 -0400

In this revisited episode, host Ellen Dorian expands upon the earlier exploration of the Relationship Drive Matrix. She introduces an in-depth three-part model that examines the formation and dissolution of relationships, the behaviors that impact these processes, and provides practical strategies for navigating these intricate dynamics.

Special Thanks:

Simon Bowen, founder of the Models Method, and his wife Joanne for their inspirational partnership and generous sharing of knowledge.

Part 1: The Relationship Hierarchy of Needs

Ellen parallels Maslow's Hierarchy of Personal Needs to relationships, outlining a pyramid of needs crucial for a fulfilling love life. The levels range from foundational physical, mental, and emotional health to the pinnacle of passion, emphasizing the importance of each stage in achieving a passionate, fulfilling relationship.

Part 2: The Downward Spiral of Relationship Decline

Ellen presents a model of relationship dynamics that mirror the Hierarchy of Needs but in reverse order, illustrating how relationships can deteriorate. From the dimming of passion to the depths of despair, Ellen explains how each stage reflects a shift away from the thriving state of a partnership and identifies the behaviors that trigger these declines.

Part 3: The 5 Triggering Behaviors

Identifying specific behaviors that catalyze shifts within the Spiral of Relationship Decline, Ellen offers clarity on how neglect, resentment, resignation, withholding, and torment can undermine a relationship. This segment empowers listeners with the knowledge to pinpoint and address the root causes of relationship issues.

Key Takeaways:

Understanding the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs and the significance of each level in cultivating a thriving partnership.
Recognizing the patterns of decline in relationships and the behaviors that precipitate these shifts.
Empowerment through knowledge: Identifying where your relationship stands and actionable steps to reinforce or repair your bond.

Call to Action:

Reflect on your relationship's current position within the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs and the Downward Spiral of Relationship Decline.

Consider how the 5 Triggering Behaviors may be playing a role in your relationship dynamics.

Reach out to Ellen for a chance to be a beta tester for an exciting new assessment tool she's developing.

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17: Beyond Words: Tearing Down Walls in Your Relationship

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0400

SUMMARY:

In this episode of Make More Love, Host Ellen Dorian explores the critical topic of overcoming communication barriers in relationships. Men often face accusations of stonewalling and passive-aggressive behavior, which can undermine emotional intimacy and connection. Ellen dives into the reasons behind these behaviors, offers strategies to address them, and emphasizes the importance of effective, direct communication to foster healthier and more passionate relationships.

Part 1: Understanding Non-Verbal Communication and Stonewalling

Ellen introduces the episode by discussing the power of non-verbal communication and how it can often send unintended messages. She shares the story of her executive coaching client, RG, to illustrate how non-verbal actions like sliding keys across the table can be perceived as stonewalling. She explains why this behavior is damaging in personal relationships and sets the stage for deeper exploration.

Part 2: The Motivations Behind Aggressive Gestures

Ellen delves into the motivations behind aggressive gestures and stonewalling. She identifies three common reasons: expressing hurt feelings without words, trying to scare a partner into caving, and hoping the partner will call their bluff and initiate a breakup. Ellen offers insights into why these behaviors occur and emphasizes the importance of direct communication.

Part 3: Strategies for Communicating Directly

Ellen provides practical, step-by-step strategies for communicating disagreements in a healthy and effective way. She introduces the concept of "Stop the Wall Before It Starts" and shares her personal experiences with stonewalling. She offers a clear response strategy, encourages gathering thoughts, expressing trust, using "I" statements, and showing respect to foster constructive dialogue and deeper connection.

Key Takeaways:

Non-Verbal Communication Matters: Actions often speak louder than words. Being mindful of your non-verbal communication can prevent misunderstandings and foster healthier interactions.
Avoid Stonewalling: Withdrawing from conversations is extremely damaging to relationships. Engage and communicate openly to resolve issues effectively.
Healthy Communication Strategies: Effective communication involves staying calm, using "I" statements, being specific, actively listening, and working together to attack the problem rather than each other.

Call to Action:

Ellen invites listeners to reflect on their communication habits and implement the strategies discussed in the episode. She encourages setting up a time for a free Relationship Reset Call to map out actionable steps for improving their relationships.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen wraps up the episode by emphasizing the importance of direct and honest communication in building strong, passionate relationships. She reassures listeners that by adopting these strategies, they can transform conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection.

Support & Resources:

www.relationshipresetcall.com

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16: Relationship Dynamics and The DIVCON Scale

Sat, 22 Jun 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," we explore the various states of relationship health through the lens of the DIVCON scale, inspired by the DEFCON levels used by the United States Army. Ellen Dorian breaks down each level, from DIVCON 5 (stable and normal) to DIVCON 1 (almost the point of no return), and provides practical tips and strategies for each stage. Whether your relationship needs a bit of excitement or a full reset, this episode will help you understand where you stand and how to move forward.

Part 1: Inspiration for this episode

Relationships go through many stages and are rarely a straight line.
Different episodes focus on different levels of relationship health, from bringing back fun and passion to tackling serious problems.
Introduction to the DEFCON levels and how they inspired the DIVCON scale for relationships.
Detailed explanation of each DIVCON level with practical tips for addressing issues at each stage.

Part 2 DIVCON Levels and Practical Tips:

DIVCON 5: Stable and Normal

Description: Everyday life feels stable and normal. You've reached the passion level on the relationship hierarchy of needs.
Practical Tips:

Make Date Night Special: Plan and set dates in advance to break the routine.
Try New Things: Keep the excitement alive with new activities together.
Connect Daily: Make a conscious effort to connect every day for at least 10 minutes.

Recommended Episodes:

Episode 7: Master Date Nights
Episode 10: Adventures to Deepen Your Relationship

DIVCON 4: Increased Concern Needing Awareness

Description: Relationship feels more like roommates than lovers. It's routine and lacks passion.
Practical Tips:

Nip This in the Bud: Halt the slide and make a commitment to change.
Practice Gratitude: Acknowledge something you appreciate about your partner daily.
Communicate Daily: Increase efforts to communicate regularly and meaningfully.

Recommended Episodes:

Episode 5: Why Work-Life Balance Won't Protect Your Relationship
Episode 6: Power Up Your Relationship Energy

DIVCON 3: Heightened Risk

Description: Relationship is breaking down slowly. Everything feels stagnant.
Practical Tips:

Deep Introspection: Identify and change behaviors contributing to stagnation.
Deep Conversation: Have an honest conversation with your partner about reconnecting.
Create a Deliberate Plan for Shared Activities: Start doing things together and minimize separate social activities.

Recommended Episodes:

Episode 3: Why You Should Keep Working on Your Relationship
Episode 11: Toxic Words

Part 3: Advanced DIVCON Levels and Conclusion

DIVCON 2: Imminent Risk of Divorce

Description: Relationship is a cold war with quiet hostility and deep resentments.
Practical Tips:

Assess Your Willingness: Determine if you're willing to do the work to repair the relationship.
Seek Professional Help: Get support from a coach or therapist for both individual and couples work.
Discern Issues: Understand where the relationship is going off track by gaining deeper insights.

Recommended Episodes:

Episode 4: Relationship Dynamics
Episode 9: Men Are Not Clueless

DIVCON 1: Almost the Point of No Return

Description: Relationship is in a hot war with constant fighting and no desire to improve.
Practical Tips:

Find Neutral Ground: Move apart temporarily to gain breathing room.
Preserve or Recover Your Honor: Stop open hostility and aim to regain integrity.
Repair the Relationship: Work on repairing the relationship, especially if you have children.

Key Takeaways:

Assess Relationship Health: The DIVCON scale helps you identify the current state of your relationship and what specific issues to address.

Tailored Strategies: Each DIVCON level has specific, practical tips to improve your relationship, from reigniting passion to seeking professional help.

Seek Professional Support: At higher DIVCON levels, professional support from a coach or therapist is essential for navigating complex issues and fostering a healthier relationship.

Call to Action:

If you have any questions or need personalized advice, do not hesitate to reach out. Ellen offers a free Relationship Reset Call to help you on your journey to a more fulfilling and passionate partnership. Visit relationshipresetcall.com to schedule your call today.

Closing Thoughts:

Understanding your relationship's DIVCON level is the first step to making positive changes. People are incredibly resilient, and even at the highest DIVCON levels, it is possible to remake your relationship if both partners are committed. Stay tuned for future episodes with more tips and strategies to help you bring back the fun, reconnect, and address problems before they escalate.

Support & Resources:

Here's the link for the Table Topics Couples Edition— 135 conversation starting cards tailored for couples.

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15: Finding Your Inner Voice in Relationships and Beyond

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Ellen Dorian continues her conversation with mindset and business coach Justin Wiseman. Justin shares his journey from working in a family-owned pizza shop to becoming a successful coach, highlighting the importance of mindset over business strategies. They discuss societal pressures on men to be providers and how these expectations can lead to personal and professional challenges. The episode offers insights into redefining success, embracing authenticity, and the transformative power of mindset shifts.

Part 1: Justin's Early Career and Lessons from Hospitality

Justin's start in the hospitality industry at a family-owned pizza shop.
The importance of working your way up and learning every aspect of the business.
How these early experiences taught him the value of reliability, pride in work, and the fundamentals of running a business.

Part 2: Societal Pressures and Overcoming Traditional Masculine Roles

Discussion on the ingrained roles of protector, provider, and pursuer.
The generational differences in how men perceive success and pressure.
Justin’s personal journey of transformation, realizing his value beyond being a provider, and the impact of societal expectations and social media.

Part 3: Authenticity, Inner Work, and Rebuilding Success

Justin's reflections on his father's influence and societal expectations.
The importance of defining success on personal terms and embracing authenticity.
How Justin and his wife navigated personal and professional challenges, including homelessness, to rebuild their lives and achieve a seven-figure business.
The significance of mindset shifts and inner work in achieving personal fulfillment and professional success.

Key Takeaways:

Traditional masculine roles can be deeply ingrained, but it's possible to overcome them.
Defining success on your own terms is crucial for personal fulfillment.
Authenticity and inner work are key to building healthier relationships and a fulfilling life.
Societal expectations and social media can negatively impact self-worth if not addressed.
Balancing business ambitions with personal values leads to a more satisfying journey.

Call to Action:

Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own definitions of success and consider the impact of societal expectations on their lives. For personalized support, they can set up a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to discuss their specific situations and create a plan for improvement.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen highlights the importance of redefining masculinity and success in a way that aligns with one's true self. She emphasizes the value of inner work and authenticity in building meaningful relationships and achieving personal fulfillment.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Justin Wiseman Contact information:

If you'd like to reach out to Justin Wiseman, here's how to find him:

Email: justin@maximumgrowth.co

Phone: 0402159293

https://www.facebook.com/justinwiseman01

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14: Transformative Relationships: From Addiction to Triumph with Justin Wiseman

Tue, 28 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Host Ellen Dorian welcomes her first guest, Justin Wiseman, from Australia. Justin is a multifaceted individual – a business owner, coach, father, and lover – who has successfully navigated the demanding worlds of entrepreneurship and personal relationships. In this conversation, Justin candidly shares his transformative journey from being a high-performance athlete to overcoming addiction and ultimately building successful businesses with his wife. Listeners will hear about the challenges Justin and his wife faced, the lessons they learned, and the strategies they used to keep their relationship strong amidst the pressures of running multiple businesses. Packed with actionable insights and real-life experiences, this episode offers valuable takeaways for entrepreneurial men who are in the thick of it... running a successful business and having a successful relationship at the same time.

Part 1:

Introduction to the show and guest Justin Wiseman.
Justin shares his background in sports and his journey through addiction.
Discussion about his early interest in business and initial ventures.
Justin's transition into running multiple businesses with his wife, including the challenges they faced in managing family and business responsibilities.

Part 2:

The story of how Justin and his wife decided to start their coffee shop and donut business.
The impact of societal expectations on their roles and business priorities.
Insights into the struggles and strategies they used to balance their professional and personal lives.

Part 3:

Justin’s realization about the importance of separating relationship nurturing from life logistics.
The transformative power of fun and laughter in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Justin shares practical tips for keeping a relationship vibrant and fulfilling.

Key Takeaways:

Focus on Your Inner World: Your thoughts, perceptions, and actions are within your control. Trying to change your partner can lead to resentment and a loss of their vibrancy.
Separate Relationship and Life Logistics: Understand that maintaining your life together is different from nurturing your intimate relationship.
Have Fun Together: Regularly engage in fun activities and laugh together to maintain a vibrant and fulfilling relationship.

Call to Action:

If you've enjoyed this conversation with Justin, be sure to tune in for Part Two of the interview. We will dive into the business side of Justin's life and discuss broader issues such as overcoming stereotypes and societal expectations, changing perceptions and adopting new mindsets.

Closing Thoughts:

Thank you for listening to today’s episode. Remember, focusing on your inner world, distinguishing between life logistics and relationship nurturing, and having fun together are key to a successful relationship. Don’t forget to follow and subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss the next episode.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the Passionate Partners Insider Community or directly with her via email. For one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call: www.relationshipresetcall.com

All links can be found below.

Justin Wiseman Contact information:

If you'd like to reach out to Justin Wiseman, here's how to find him:

Email: justin@maximumgrowth.co

Phone: 0402159293

https://www.facebook.com/justinwiseman01

Make More Love Show Website:

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13: Insights From Ted Lasso About Men and Relationships

Fri, 17 May 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "Make More Love," Ellen starts with a personal story about the importance of health screenings, tying it into the broader theme of Living the Good Life.

Part 1: Examples of Modern Masculinity

Ellen uses the TV show "Ted Lasso" as a lens to discuss modern masculinity, highlighting characters who embody vulnerability, empathy, and personal growth. The show serves as a backdrop to explore characters' personal growth, relationships, and struggles.

Part 2: Relating Show Themes to Previous Podcast Episode

Ellen connects the show to themes discussed in her previous podcast episode, including extended adolescence, modern parenting, and evolving beliefs about masculinity. She discusses modern vs. traditional coaching styles and parental figures depicted in the show.

Part 3: Character Analysis

1. Ted Lasso:

- Strengths: Compassionate, optimistic, emotionally open.

- Weaknesses: Avoids deeper personal issues, impacting personal growth and effectiveness.

2. Coach Beard:

- Strengths: Wise, knowledgeable, cornerstone of the team's success.

- Weaknesses: Lone wolf, private life, reluctant to seek help.

3. Roy Kent:

- Strengths: Traditional alpha athlete with emotional intelligence and vulnerability.

- Weaknesses: Anger management issues, struggles with productive expression of anger.

4. Jamie Tartt:

- Strengths: Talented, evolves from self-centered to team player.

- Weaknesses: Arrogance, raw talent initially alienates others.

5. Higgins:

- Strengths: Fantasy father figure, supportive.

- Weaknesses: People pleaser, struggles with telling truth to power.

6. Nate Shelley:

- Strengths: Dramatic transformation, valuable team member.

- Weaknesses: Insecurity, resentment, negative transformation.

7. Dani Rojas:

- Strengths: Eternal cheerleader, positive.

- Weaknesses: One-dimensional, parallels Ted's positivity issues.

8. Isaac McAdoo:

- Strengths: Leadership potential, eventually embraces role.

- Weaknesses: Imposter syndrome, high expectations isolate him.

9. Trent Crimm:

- Strengths: High integrity, role model for modern masculinity.

- Weaknesses: Not explicitly discussed.

Part 4: Respectful Portrayal of Women

Ellen praises the show for normalizing gender equality and portraying women in positions of power without emphasizing female exceptionalism.

Part 5: Key Lessons from Ted Lasso Characters

1. Embracing Vulnerability and Humility: Ted's authenticity and willingness to admit mistakes.

2. Championing Your Partner: Roy's empathy.

3. Commitment to Personal Development: Jamie's journey from arrogance to humility and team player.

4. Confidence Without Arrogance: Coach Beard's not showing off his knowledge unless invited.

5. Self-Worth: Nate's struggle with self-worth and its impact on relationships and personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

1. Modern Masculinity in Action: Characters illustrate empathy, vulnerability, and strength, offering practical applications for listeners.

2. Success Through Attraction, Advocacy, and Investment: Prioritizing meaningful connections and investing in others' growth.

3. Inner Mental Game: Confronting insecurities, embracing vulnerability, and committing to self-improvement for stronger relationships and success.

Support & Resources:

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Call to Action:

Like, follow, subscribe, and leave a review to help the community grow.

Share the show with someone you know who might benefit from it.

Closing Thoughts:

Make More Love Show Website:

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12: What Should We Expect from Men in Relationships?

Wed, 01 May 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Ellen delves into the dangerous myths of manhood that are undermining relationships, set against the backdrop of three pivotal societal trends reshaping expectations of men.

Part 1: Redefining Adulthood

We discuss the American Psychological Association's extension of adolescence to age 25 and its implications for young men's responsibilities and societal expectations. We also explore how historical and modern mentoring practices can aid in navigating adulthood.

Part 2: Parenting Approaches

This segment delves into the shift from traditional 'Command and Control' parenting to more aspirational, hands-on parenting styles. We examine how these modern approaches may delay self-reliance and independence among young men, including real-world anecdotes from the workplace.

Part 3: Cultural Expectations in Flux

We explore the evolving expectations of manhood, contrasting traditional roles with modern ideals that emphasize empathy, emotional intelligence, and self-care. The discussion highlights the generational differences in perceptions of what constitutes the 'good life' and successful manhood.

Part 4: Three Shifts in Masculine Roles

We discuss transformative shifts in how men can evolve from traditional roles towards a more modern, collaborative approach:

Shift from Pursuing to Attracting: Changing from aggressively seeking to creating an inviting presence that draws positive relationships and opportunities.
Shift from Protector to Advocate: Moving from shielding loved ones to supporting their aspirations and celebrating their successes.
Shift from Provider to Investor: Transitioning from the sole financial provider to a collaborator in a joint venture where both partners contribute and benefit equally.

Key Takeaways:

Adjusting Adult Maturity Expectations: Recognize that full maturity extends into the mid-twenties, requiring adjustments in our expectations for young men's roles in relationships and society.
Modernizing Masculine Roles: Balance traditional masculine roles with modern values, fostering both strength and vulnerability in today's men.
Evolving from Traditional to Collaborative Roles: Encourage men to engage more deeply in their relationships through collaboration and mutual support, moving beyond the roles of sole providers and protectors.

Call to Action:

Join the conversation about modern masculinity and relationships in our Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook, or reach out directly via email for a one-on-one dialogue. Also, don't miss the chance to book a free Relationship Reset Call with me to address your specific relationship needs.

Closing Thoughts:

As we navigate these shifting expectations and masculine role models, remember that understanding and adapting to new roles can lead to richer, more fulfilling relationships and personal growth.

Support & Resources:

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11: Are Your Words Poisoning Your Relationship?

Fri, 19 Apr 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, we're peeling back the layers on how the words we say can either nourish or damage our relationships. Join us as we explore the analogy of apple seeds and toxic words, discuss the real-life consequences of negative language, and provide you with tools to cultivate a more loving and supportive partnership.

Part 1: The Power of Words

The introduction to the concept of words as seeds that can grow into something beautiful or toxic in our relationships.

Part 2: Perception and Reality

A discussion on how the words we use shape our perception of our partners and how those perceptions can solidify into our reality.

Part 3: Conscious Communication

Tips on how to shift from harmful language to nurturing conversations and an introduction to the Conscious Communication Script.

Key Takeaways:

Like apple seeds, toxic words can poison relationships when used thoughtlessly.
Our language creates our reality—mindful communication fosters a better understanding and stronger connection.
Change the script of your dialogue from destructive to constructive to reignite passion and intimacy.

Call to Action:

Don't let negativity take root in your relationship. For those looking to detox from harmful communication habits, Ellen offers a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call, a chance to lay out actionable steps toward a more loving relationship.

Closing Thoughts:

Words are powerful, and when used with intent, they can transform the dynamic of your marriage and your life.

Support & Resources:

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10: Adventures to Deepen Your Relationship

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 23:45:00 -0400

In this episode, Ellen delves into the importance of creating adventures, appreciating individual styles within relationships, and making memories with your partner. From watching eclipses in Austin, Texas, to capturing moments through photography, Ellen shares insights on enhancing your romantic connection.

Part 1: Shared Adventures

Ellen discusses the benefits of shared experiences and encourages listeners to engage in adventures with their partners, highlighting how it can strengthen bonds and provide a much-needed break from the work grind.

Part 2: Individuality and Connection

The value of maintaining individual approaches in a relationship is explored, as Ellen shares her and her husband's differing photography styles and how it brings them closer.

Part 3: A Container for Shared Memories

The concept of a reverse bucket list is introduced as a way to cherish and remember life's special moments, with a practical method of using a Google Calendar for regular reminiscing.

Key Takeaways:

Shared adventures can significantly deepen your connection with your partner.
Embracing your individuality can enrich your relationship, offering new ways to connect and admire each other.
Creating shared memories is a powerful way to bond, and keeping a reverse bucket list can help preserve those special moments.

Call to Action:

Reflect on your adventures and shared moments. Join the conversation in our Passionate Partners Insider Community or share your thoughts privately by emailing Ellen. If you're seeking more tailored advice, book a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to brainstorm ways to revitalize your partnership.

Closing Thoughts:

Cherish the moments that bring you and your partner together and remember that personal growth and relationship development go hand in hand. Keep exploring, connecting, and creating memories.

Support & Resources:

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9: Men Are Not Clueless About Relationships

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 19:00:00 -0400

Join Ellen Dorian in a powerful episode of Make More Love, where she dismantles the myths about men's emotional intelligence and lays out a blueprint for creating a culture of respect in relationships. She shares a poignant real-life encounter and offers actionable advice for entrepreneurial men looking to harmonize the demands of business with the desires of a fulfilling partnership.

Part 1: Shattering Stereotypes

Ellen shares an insightful breakfast encounter that turns the tables on the stereotype of men as relationship-inept, highlighting the genuine and profound discussions men have about their emotional struggles.

Part 2: Creating A Culture of Respect At Home

Drawing parallels between company culture and relationship dynamics, Ellen presents five key principles to instill a culture of respect at home, emphasizing presence, gratitude, and sharing the mental load.

Part 3: Cultivating Self-Respect

The conversation culminates in the crucial role of self-respect, underscoring that a man's internal esteem sets the stage for healthier, more respectful relationships.

Key Takeaways:

Men are emotionally intelligent and invested in their relationships.
Respect can and should be cultivated deliberately within a relationship, much like a positive company culture.
Self-respect is essential for relationship success and must be nurtured alongside respect for one's partner.

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to take active steps toward building respect in their relationships and offers a free Relationship Reset Call for personalized guidance. Listeners are invited to join the P3 Insider's Community or reach out directly via email for further support.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes the transformative power of respect and self-regard, advocating for a proactive approach to relationship improvement that mirrors the dedication men show in their businesses.

Support & Resources:

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8: Case Studies in Relationship Transformation

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, Ellen Dorian takes a step away from the usual relationship frameworks and systems to directly address listeners' questions. This intimate session provides insight into Ellen's extensive experience with a variety of relationship dynamics, her inclusive coaching approach, and the philosophy behind her unique method. She also shares personal anecdotes to illustrate the complexity of balancing privacy with professional visibility.

Part 1: Inclusivity in Relationship Coaching

Ellen explains her work with a diverse array of relationship structures, emphasizing her support for the LGBTQIA+ community and dedication to all forms of love and connection.

Part 2: Listener Questions Answered

Addressing why the podcast may seem heteronormative and the focused support for male business owners.
The distinction between Ellen's coaching and other relationship advice, including her stance against popular but potentially limiting labels.

Part 3: Ellen's Personal Insight

A candid response to a colleague's question about Ellen's online presence offers a window into the respectful balance she maintains between her private life and her professional role as a coach.

Key Takeaways:

Relationship dynamics are unique and require personalized coaching approaches.
Effective relationship advice should transcend social media trends and popular paradigms.
Respecting a partner's choices is fundamental to a healthy relationship, even in the public eye.

Call to Action:

Visit relationshipresetcall.com to schedule a free Relationship Reset call with Ellen.
Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community for exclusive content and support.
Reach out directly to Ellen with your stories, questions, or feedback via the community, social media, or email.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen encourages listeners to engage with the community, share the podcast with someone who may benefit from it, and reminds everyone that making more love, both in life and marriage, is the ultimate goal.

Support & Resources:

All links can be found below.

Make More Love Show Website:

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7: Master Date Nights to Refuel Your Relationship

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 20:45:00 -0400

This episode is all about becoming a master of date night to keep the flame burning bright in your marriage.

Ellen discusses the common pitfalls of letting date nights become routine and stale, emphasizing the need for intentional planning to keep the spark alive in marriage. The focus is on crafting date nights that are not just fun but fuel lasting passion, moving beyond cliché ideas to create moments that truly matter. This involves a special framework comprising three key parts: deciding on the mood and vibe you want to create, incorporating emotional elements to enhance that mood, and varying the types of dates to prevent falling into a rut.

Part 1: Choosing a Mood and Vibe for Your Date

The initial step in mastering date night involves setting an intentional mood or vibe. Ellen explains how understanding what you want your partner to feel sets the stage for a memorable evening. Whether it's romance, excitement, comfort, or adventure, the desired emotional outcome will guide all other planning aspects.

Part 2: Incorporating Emotional Elements

Next, Ellen introduces the five emotional elements that can enhance the date night experience: fire, intensity, immersion, resonance, and harmony. Each element offers unique ways to connect with your partner on a deeper level, from building sexual tension with "fire" to syncing up your emotions with "harmony." Ellen provides practical tips for integrating these elements into your date to foster a closer bond and reignite passionate energy.

Part 3: Seven Types of Dates

To avoid the monotony of repeated dinner and movie nights, Ellen walks us through seven types of dates, each designed to mix up your routine and inject novelty and excitement into your relationship. From romantic and relaxed dates to recreational and risk-taking adventures, these categories offer a plethora of ideas for every mood and occasion. Special attention is given to "reconciliation dates" for healing and reconnecting after disagreements.

Key Takeaways:

Intentional planning and choosing a specific mood or vibe are key to elevating your date nights.
Incorporating emotional elements can significantly enhance the connection between you and your partner.
Varied types of dates prevent routine and keep the passion alive in your relationship.

Call to Action:

Listeners are encouraged to apply the episode's insights to their next date night planning. Ellen also extends an offer for a free Relationship Reset Call to provide personalized advice and support.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen concludes with a reminder of the transformative power of thoughtfully planned date nights on romantic relationships, urging listeners to prioritize creativity and intentionality in their love lives.

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6: Power Up Your Relationship Energy

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 16:30:00 -0400

In this episode, Ellen Dorian explores the intricate dynamics of relationship energy, unveiling how the blend of carnal, compatible, and bonding energies can shape the foundation of a passionate, resilient marriage. Tailored for the entrepreneurial man, the discussion pivots from theoretical concepts to actionable steps, guiding listeners on how to integrate and balance these energies to create a fulfilling partnership.

Part 1: [Understanding Relationship Energy]

Ellen breaks down the abstract concepts of love and connection into three tangible forms of relationship energy: carnal, compatible, and bonding. This part sets the stage for recognizing the energies that fuel the pillars of a strong relationship: sensuality, solidarity, and security.

Part 2: [How The Energy Flows and Gets Blocked]

Using relatable examples, including celebrity anecdotes, Ellen illustrates how these energies manifest in real life. She also addresses common business owner challenges that can obstruct the flow of relationship energy and offers insights into overcoming them.

Part 3: [Actionable Steps]

The focus shifts to practical advice, where Ellen provides daily, weekly, and monthly rituals to cultivate each form of relationship energy. She emphasizes consistent nurturing, akin to tending a garden, to maintain and grow a passionate partnership.

Key Takeaways:

Recognize and cultivate the mix of relationship energies.
Integrate small acts of affection and meaningful conversations into your routine.
Regularly align on shared goals to reinforce your bond.

Call to Action:

Ellen encourages listeners to apply the episode's insights to invigorate their relationships. She urges the audience to follow, subscribe, share the podcast, and leave a review to help build the community of relationship-focused entrepreneurs.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reiterates the importance of active participation in crafting a passionate marriage, reminding listeners that relationship success, like business success, comes from intentional effort and investment.

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5: Why Work-Life Balance Won’t Protect Your Relationship

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 18:30:00 -0400

Summary:

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian dismantles the myth of work-life balance for entrepreneurs and introduces a more realistic and fulfilling approach: work-life integration. She shares personal insights and practical principles for harmoniously blending business ambitions with a vibrant love life, ensuring neither has to be sacrificed for the other.

Part 1: Challenging the Work-Life Balance Myth

Ellen highlights why work-life balance is an outdated concept for business owners, emphasizing the inseparability of work and life, the superficiality of the balance ideology, the dangers of compartmentalization, and the inefficiency of constant context-switching.

Part 2: Introducing Work-Life Integration

Ellen unveils the five key principles of work-life integration: designing your world to suit you, embracing your authenticity, avoiding work-wife triangles, practicing intentional presence, and leveraging your business skills in your relationships. Each principle is explored with personal anecdotes and actionable advice.

Part 3: Tips for Getting Started

Ellen encourages listeners to start small with integration strategies, set achievable micro-goals, and seek support when needed.

Key Takeaways:

Work-life balance is impractical for entrepreneurs; integration is the key.
Embracing authenticity and aligning your lifestyle with your true nature enhances both work and personal life.
Strategic application of business acumen to your relationship can fortify your marriage.

Call to Action:

Take the first step towards integrating your work and love life today by identifying one area you're ready to transform. Is it adjusting your schedule, embracing your true self more fully, or perhaps improving how you're present with loved ones? Share your ideas in the Passionate Partners Insider Community or tag us on social media with your action plan. Let’s work on this together.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen emphasizes that work-life integration is about creating a life where your business and personal dreams amplify each other, leading to a fulfilling existence without the need for sacrifice.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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4: Simplifying Complex Relationship Dynamics

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this insightful episode, host Ellen Dorian builds on the previous discussion of the Relationship Drive Matrix to introduce a comprehensive three-part model that delves into the construction and deconstruction of relationships, the behaviors influencing these dynamics, and actionable insights to navigate these complexities.

Special Thanks:

Simon Bowen, founder of the Models Method, and his wife Joanne for their inspirational partnership and generous sharing of knowledge.

Part 1: The Relationship Hierarchy of Needs

Part 2: The Downward Spiral of Relationship Decline

Part 3: The 5 Triggering Behaviors

Key Takeaways:

Understanding the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs and the significance of each level in cultivating a thriving partnership.
Recognizing the patterns of decline in relationships and the behaviors that precipitate these shifts.
Empowerment through knowledge: Identifying where your relationship stands and actionable steps to reinforce or repair your bond.

Call to Action:

Reflect on your relationship's current position within the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs and the Downward Spiral of Relationship Decline.

Consider how the 5 Triggering Behaviors may be playing a role in your relationship dynamics.

Reach out to Ellen for a chance to be a beta tester for an exciting new assessment tool she's developing.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen wraps up the episode with an empowering message: armed with knowledge and the right strategies, every individual has the opportunity to navigate their relationship's complexities, make informed adjustments, and foster a deeper, more resilient partnership.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

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3: Why Should You Keep Working on Your Relationship?

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian dives into the heart of the challenges entrepreneurial men face in balancing a thriving business with a healthy and passionate marriage. With a blend of personal growth tools and practical advice, Ellen aims to empower you to cultivate a marriage filled with joy, connection, and resilience, even amidst the pressures of business ownership.

Disclaimer: The Make More Love show is intended for information and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional healthcare advice.

Episode Overview:

Ellen opens the discussion with a common scenario many married businessmen face: the struggle to balance work commitments with relationship efforts, illustrated through a client's story about Valentine's Day expectations.
Introduction to the Relationship Drive Matrix: a tool to understand the dynamics of seeking joy and connection while navigating emotional pain and isolation in relationships.
Ellen breaks down the four quadrants of the Relationship Drive Matrix, each representing different states of relationship health and challenges.
Strategies for personal growth and re-engagement in your marriage, emphasizing the "Power of One" — the concept that individual effort can initiate positive change in your relationship.
Practical action step: Reflect on the highs and lows of your relationship to identify where you stand on the Relationship Drive Matrix and commit to one small, immediate action to enhance your connection with your partner.

Key Points Discussed:

The Intersection of Business Ownership and Marriage: Exploring the unique challenges entrepreneurial men face in sustaining a loving, supportive marriage.
The Relationship Drive Matrix: A conceptual tool to help men understand their motivations and navigate the complexities of their relationships.
The Power of One: Emphasizing the individual's role in fostering a deeper connection and joy within their marriage through personal growth and intentional actions.

Call to Action:

Follow and Subscribe: Stay connected with the Make More Love show for ongoing support and insights.
Share: Know someone who could benefit from this episode? Spread the love and share it with them.
Leave a Review: Help other men find and join our community by sharing your experience with the show.

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Visit our website and follow our social channels for more resources.
Join our Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content.
Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized advice and strategies.

Closing Thoughts: Ellen encourages listeners to take proactive steps towards making more love in their lives and with their wives, reminding everyone that change starts with a single choice.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

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2: Valentine’s Day: Hallmark Holiday or Passion Power Play?

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 22:00:00 -0400

In this Valentine's Day special, host Ellen Dorian offers entrepreneurial men insightful advice on nurturing a hot and healthy marriage while growing a successful business. This episode dives into overcoming Valentine's Day resistance, planning authentic celebrations, and the importance of continual relationship expansion. Ellen shares historical tidbits, personal anecdotes, and practical tips to ensure listeners are equipped to make their partners feel seen, loved, and appreciated without succumbing to commercial pressures.

Key Points Discussed:

[00:03:45] Valentine's Day Resistance: Exploring the skepticism surrounding the holiday and how to move past it, emphasizing genuine love and appreciation over commercial gestures.
[00:10:22] Authentic Planning: Tips for planning Valentine's Day in a way that resonates with both you and your partner, avoiding the trap of feeling inauthentic.
[00:15:38] Continual Expansion: Encouragement to constantly seek improvement and new ways to express love, ensuring your relationship grows and thrives.

Featured Resources:

All of these are available in the Passionate Partners Insider Community:

Love Bites Newsletter: Insights from the pandemic edition--Making Love Under Lockdown.
Ultimate Valentine's Day Planning Kit: A comprehensive tool for planning memorable celebrations.

Quotes from the Episode:

"Love doesn't always have to be about grand gestures. It's the little things that count just as much."
"Showing your partner some genuine love and appreciation... is what really matters."

Additional Notes:

Ellen invites listeners to reflect on their most memorable Valentine's Days and share their experiences via the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook or direct email. This episode is a blend of historical context, personal experiences, and actionable advice designed to help entrepreneurial men make the most of Valentine's Day and their relationships.

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1 : Can You Have a Successful Marriage and a Successful Business At The Same Time?

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this inaugural episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian targets the entrepreneurial man striving to maintain a vibrant marriage while growing a successful business. Ellen Dorian, relationship expert and business coach, delves into the often-overlooked connection between personal and relationship challenges and business stagnation. She offers a holistic approach to resolving these issues, emphasizing the importance of personal attention and breaking routines to reignite passion.

The episode outlines three major obstacles entrepreneurial couples face and provides actionable strategies for overcoming them. Ellen's aim is to guide her listeners towards winning in marriage, excelling in business, and thriving in all life aspects. The episode is a blend of professional insights and practical advice, making it a valuable resource for business owners seeking to live their best professional and personal lives.

Key Takeaways:

"…The biggest things that hold people back from business success, aren't usually business issues. They're personal problems, and relationship problems top the list."

"Mastering your attention will do more for your relationship than any marriage counseling, therapy, self-help books, gurus, or retreats ever will."

"If there's one thing that's true about your sex life, it's that routine will kill it…. Routine is not a recipe for intimate intensity."

Key Highlights with Timestamps:

[00:00] - Introduction to the show and its focus on entrepreneurial men balancing successful businesses and healthy marriages.

[02:15] - Ellen Dorian's background and the realization that personal and relationship issues hinder business success.

[04:30] - The holistic approach to tackling problems in business and relationships.

[06:45] - Discussion on the vision of entrepreneurial men and the challenges in achieving it.

[09:20] - Identifying three key obstacles in relationships for business owners.

[12:00] - Strategies to overcome these obstacles and achieve a rock-solid relationship.

[15:35] - Importance of breaking out of routine for a passionate relationship.

[18:20] - Summary of the episode and an invitation for listener interaction.

Keywords: Entrepreneurial Success, Healthy Marriage, Relationship Challenges, Personal Growth, Business Owners, Strategic Planning, Leadership Skills, Passion Revival, Marital Advice, Work-Life Balance

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