<![CDATA[Sex Ed Rewind]]>Fri, 20 Jan 2023 20:04:13 +0000Captivate.fmCaro Conforthttps://artwork.captivate.fm/8a2999cc-bf28-42a6-9683-b5d162341325/JGs4b8QIbsnd6cXbNJSNL6wU.jpgSex Ed RewindCaro ConfortCaro ConfortOn this show, I explore the lived experiences of my guests and how the sex education they received, or didn’t receive, impacts their lives, their sexuality, their relationships, and more. We explore sex education from all angles: what we learn in school, what our families teach us, what we discuss with our friends, the messaging we get from media, the things we see in porn, and beyond. We look at sex education through the lens of gender, sexuality, race, religion, chronic illness, and more.https://www.caroconfort.meyesepisodicEpisode 16: Mother Daughter Magic Part IIEpisode 16: Mother Daughter Magic Part IIIn Part II of this mother-daughter sex ed series, I talk to House of Puff founder & CEO Kristina Lopez Adduci about growing up in Dr. Salas-Lopez’s house & talking openly about sex with your mom from a doctor’s perspective, the pitfalls of getting sex ed in a catholic school, the importance of being able to ask adults questions in sex ed, having all your friends come to your mom for sex ed, how learning about bodily autonomy leads to confidence, the lasting benefits we get from quality sex education, the importance of LGBTQ inclusive sex ed, how Kristina plans to raise her daughters, and more.

]]>In Part II of this mother-daughter sex ed series, I talk to House of Puff founder & CEO Kristina Lopez Adduci about growing up in Dr. Salas-Lopez’s house & talking openly about sex with your mom from a doctor’s perspective, the pitfalls of getting sex ed in a catholic school, the importance of being able to ask adults questions in sex ed, having all your friends come to your mom for sex ed, how learning about bodily autonomy leads to confidence, the lasting benefits we get from quality sex education, the importance of LGBTQ inclusive sex ed, how Kristina plans to raise her daughters, and more.

]]>e3331a50-1b82-4ad4-96c1-5d0d5ac13d91Mon, 31 May 2021 15:47:00 -050037:00yesfull16Caro ConfortEpisode 15: Mother Daughter Magic Part IEpisode 15: Mother Daughter Magic Part IIn Part I of this mother-daughter sex ed series, I talk to Dr. Debbie Salas-Lopez about growing up in a religious household & the silence around sex education, becoming a mother and choosing to raise children with honesty and openness about sex, the power of creating safe spaces for kids to ask questions, how being a doctor helped prepare Deb with the resources to educate, walking the line of creating age-apprirate sex education moments at home, the long term relationship benefits of creating a foundation of trust and mutual respect between parent and child, what role grandparents can play in the sex education of their grandkids, and more.

]]>In Part I of this mother-daughter sex ed series, I talk to Dr. Debbie Salas-Lopez about growing up in a religious household & the silence around sex education, becoming a mother and choosing to raise children with honesty and openness about sex, the power of creating safe spaces for kids to ask questions, how being a doctor helped prepare Deb with the resources to educate, walking the line of creating age-apprirate sex education moments at home, the long term relationship benefits of creating a foundation of trust and mutual respect between parent and child, what role grandparents can play in the sex education of their grandkids, and more.

]]>332aadfe-bf4d-49c5-8288-b2228d5be8f0Mon, 24 May 2021 08:00:00 -050034:34nofull15Caro ConfortEpisode 14: Built-In Bras and Human RedemptionEpisode 14: Built-In Bras and Human RedemptionIn this episode I talk to Cleo Stiller about growing up in an open household & talking to parents about sex, developing breasts early and how that adultifies young girls, why the Aziz Ansari story felt so familiar to so many people, redefining the concept of virginity, how we tell virginity stories in the media based on gender, why fantastic hook-ups are pretty rare, the importance of teaching pleasure-centered sex education, the possibilities of human redemption, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Cleo Stiller about growing up in an open household & talking to parents about sex, developing breasts early and how that adultifies young girls, why the Aziz Ansari story felt so familiar to so many people, redefining the concept of virginity, how we tell virginity stories in the media based on gender, why fantastic hook-ups are pretty rare, the importance of teaching pleasure-centered sex education, the possibilities of human redemption, and more.

]]>fbe214a3-17ac-4753-9867-62c14822a80dMon, 17 May 2021 08:00:00 -050042:05yesfull14Caro ConfortEpisode 13: A Library Full of Pulp Porn NovelsEpisode 13: A Library Full of Pulp Porn NovelsIn this episode I talk to Soraya Chemaly about the hyper sexualization of women, how blanket censorship policies online suppress women’s free speech, why these censorship decisions are always deeply political, why sexual violence/harassment aren’t the same thing as sex, withholding healthy information as an expression of power/dominance in culture, why learning about social and emotional intelligence is sex education, the necessity of community support in rejecting social norms, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Soraya Chemaly about the hyper sexualization of women, how blanket censorship policies online suppress women’s free speech, why these censorship decisions are always deeply political, why sexual violence/harassment aren’t the same thing as sex, withholding healthy information as an expression of power/dominance in culture, why learning about social and emotional intelligence is sex education, the necessity of community support in rejecting social norms, and more.

]]>3a13f9bb-6956-4b7c-b734-4e449f37bbf3Mon, 10 May 2021 08:00:00 -050053:24yesfull13Caro ConfortEpisode 12: Talk Tabu the PrequelEpisode 12: Talk Tabu the PrequelIn this episode I talk to Tabú founder & CEO Mia Davis about Gossip Girl as sex ed, bi-racial representation, learning to associate shame with pleasure, sexually empowered women, being hyper-sexualized from a young age, vaginismus & sexual pain, the importance of hiring qualified sex educators, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Tabú founder & CEO Mia Davis about Gossip Girl as sex ed, bi-racial representation, learning to associate shame with pleasure, sexually empowered women, being hyper-sexualized from a young age, vaginismus & sexual pain, the importance of hiring qualified sex educators, and more.

]]>94e2151d-d416-45f5-9955-c137fc956b71Mon, 03 May 2021 08:00:00 -050045:20yesfull12Caro ConfortEpisode 11: From the Sex Ed FilesEpisode 11: From the Sex Ed FilesIn this episode I talk to Mariah C about how having bodily autonomy protects young people, navigating sexual trauma, creating safe spaces for learning about sex, shame & fear based sex ed, growing up in a deeply religious household, the importance of trauma informed sex ed, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Mariah C about how having bodily autonomy protects young people, navigating sexual trauma, creating safe spaces for learning about sex, shame & fear based sex ed, growing up in a deeply religious household, the importance of trauma informed sex ed, and more.

]]>f407f413-62ed-4ebc-ab1c-c07ad569f736Mon, 26 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -050053:42yesfull11Caro ConfortEpisode 10: Consent Wizard ChroniclesEpisode 10: Consent Wizard ChroniclesIn this episode I talk to Mia Schachter about The O.C. & Sex and the City as sex ed, the power that small comments can have on impressionable young people, the experience of gender as a fluid identity, how a lack of sex ed can shape the rest of our lives, the process of unlearning gender stereotypes, the importance of a nuanced understanding of consent, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Mia Schachter about The O.C. & Sex and the City as sex ed, the power that small comments can have on impressionable young people, the experience of gender as a fluid identity, how a lack of sex ed can shape the rest of our lives, the process of unlearning gender stereotypes, the importance of a nuanced understanding of consent, and more.

]]>32ac237f-dcb3-4070-916f-cbda8e68ebbbMon, 19 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -050056:38yesfull10Caro ConfortEpisode 09: Coming Out in CaracasEpisode 09: Coming Out in CaracasIn this episode I talk to Jesus Casado about the power of media representation for queer youth, the fear that comes with having to grow up “in the closet,” messenger chat rooms as sex ed, floppy disc porn, the catharsis of starting a new life in a new place, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Jesus Casado about the power of media representation for queer youth, the fear that comes with having to grow up “in the closet,” messenger chat rooms as sex ed, floppy disc porn, the catharsis of starting a new life in a new place, and more.

]]>b75a2009-7b62-4e8a-827b-ca4348b36a4dMon, 12 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -050043:33yesfull9Caro ConfortEpisode 08: STI's & Low Rise JeansEpisode 08: STI's & Low Rise JeansIn this episode I talk to Gia Ciccolo about the shame around STI’s, the erasure of the clitoris in sex ed, the importance of teaching communication skills, the absence of consent education, growing up in a single-parent home, the benefits of growing up in diverse communities, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Gia Ciccolo about the shame around STI’s, the erasure of the clitoris in sex ed, the importance of teaching communication skills, the absence of consent education, growing up in a single-parent home, the benefits of growing up in diverse communities, and more.

]]>a6af7d64-2c05-478c-9606-fa2fd7cd8d9bMon, 05 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -050042:59yesfull8Caro ConfortEpisode 07: Behind the Masc.Episode 07: Behind the Masc.In this episode I talk to Francisco DeCristo about why porn isn’t a substitute for sex education, the lasting impacts of gendered double standards, the importance of having role models that look like you, the pressures of masculinity, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Francisco DeCristo about why porn isn’t a substitute for sex education, the lasting impacts of gendered double standards, the importance of having role models that look like you, the pressures of masculinity, and more.

]]>233d87e5-6c8a-47c7-a55b-5f70348f8635Mon, 29 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -050032:32yesfull7Caro ConfortEpisode 06: Bi Bi BiEpisode 06: Bi Bi BiIn this episode I talk with Teckla Persons about church as a safe space for sex ed, bi-visibilty and bi-erasure, feeling queer enough, the cultural focus on male pleasure, masturbation with a vulva, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk with Teckla Persons about church as a safe space for sex ed, bi-visibilty and bi-erasure, feeling queer enough, the cultural focus on male pleasure, masturbation with a vulva, and more.

]]>61f99a2c-4e91-4036-b2ac-ca666d4b7ddcMon, 22 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -050038:16yesfull6Caro ConfortEpisode 05: Bidets in TokyoEpisode 05: Bidets in TokyoIn this episode I talk to Gene Fukui about Japanese insect-man cartoons as porn, the impacts of gender segregated sex ed, navigating sex as a multi-cultural young person, working through feelings of embarrassment about sex, the importance of teaching about anal sex, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk to Gene Fukui about Japanese insect-man cartoons as porn, the impacts of gender segregated sex ed, navigating sex as a multi-cultural young person, working through feelings of embarrassment about sex, the importance of teaching about anal sex, and more.

]]>9ef222e1-eee8-4403-84ce-b25cce1d1c6bMon, 15 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -050040:40yesfull5Caro ConfortEpisode 04: California Chronic (Illness)Episode 04: California Chronic (Illness)In this episode we talk about feelings circles as sex ed, toxic masculinity, navigating chronic illness, the impacts of unrealistic beauty standards, why it can be hard to advocate for your own needs, the power of creating healthy communities for young people to grow, and more.

]]>In this episode we talk about feelings circles as sex ed, toxic masculinity, navigating chronic illness, the impacts of unrealistic beauty standards, why it can be hard to advocate for your own needs, the power of creating healthy communities for young people to grow, and more.

]]>fd5401df-9d00-46a4-87f8-4c38e46bf9f1Mon, 08 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -050049:44yesfull4Caro ConfortEpisode 03: Begone BinaryEpisode 03: Begone BinaryIn this episode I talk with Kamra Sadia Hakim about rejecting other peoples sexual shame, the price of a world without consent education, the importance of language in being able to tell our stories, fighting for the type of sex we want, being the sexual partner that we want in the world, turning lack into abundance, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk with Kamra Sadia Hakim about rejecting other peoples sexual shame, the price of a world without consent education, the importance of language in being able to tell our stories, fighting for the type of sex we want, being the sexual partner that we want in the world, turning lack into abundance, and more.

]]>f4dcb53c-8ec5-4e4f-84a8-c52968adac22Mon, 01 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -050050:47yesfull3Caro ConfortEpisode 02: Making Media More QueerEpisode 02: Making Media More QueerIn this episode I talk with Spencer Harvey about representation of LGBTQ stories in media, how to relate to a young & closeted you, the privilege of being white and gay, the lack of HIV education in schools, normalizing conversations about all types of sex, and more.

]]>In this episode I talk with Spencer Harvey about representation of LGBTQ stories in media, how to relate to a young & closeted you, the privilege of being white and gay, the lack of HIV education in schools, normalizing conversations about all types of sex, and more.

]]>46c4de8e-4332-4571-a216-e922007b6e63Mon, 22 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -050046:42yesfull2Caro ConfortEpisode 01: Gay in L.A.Episode 01: Gay in L.A.This week we are joined by Stefani McCoy. Stefani has a masters degree from NYU in Global Affairs with a specialization in international development and humanitarian assistance. She served as a Peace Corps volunteer in Namibia working at the grass roots level to help increase business and economic opportunities, strengthen infrastructure, and improve financial security for Namibians. In her home state of California she worked on a state-wide ballot measure, proposition 15, looking to increase funding for public schools, community colleges, and local government services. Currently she serves as the Executive Director for the Peace Project Inc. an organization that seeks to empower youth through peace and education.

In this episode we talk about fear based abstinence only sex education, Planned Parenthood as a safe haven, the emotional toll erasure of identity can have on young people, coming into queerness after high school, finding community in queer black and brown spaces, and more!

You can follow Stef and her work on instagram @IamQueenStef, on twitter @StefaniDMcCoy, and online at www.peaceprojectinc.org

]]>This week we are joined by Stefani McCoy. Stefani has a masters degree from NYU in Global Affairs with a specialization in international development and humanitarian assistance. She served as a Peace Corps volunteer in Namibia working at the grass roots level to help increase business and economic opportunities, strengthen infrastructure, and improve financial security for Namibians. In her home state of California she worked on a state-wide ballot measure, proposition 15, looking to increase funding for public schools, community colleges, and local government services. Currently she serves as the Executive Director for the Peace Project Inc. an organization that seeks to empower youth through peace and education.

In this episode we talk about fear based abstinence only sex education, Planned Parenthood as a safe haven, the emotional toll erasure of identity can have on young people, coming into queerness after high school, finding community in queer black and brown spaces, and more!

You can follow Stef and her work on instagram @IamQueenStef, on twitter @StefaniDMcCoy, and online at www.peaceprojectinc.org

]]>f328eb16-8acf-4f5f-823d-e5118439d421Mon, 15 Feb 2021 09:00:00 -050039:33yesfull1Caro ConfortEpisode 0: Who Is SheEpisode 0: Who Is SheIn this episode, I share some important contextual information about Sex Ed Rewind. I’ll walk you through what the show is and how its structured, discuss what exactly comprehensive sex education is, look at some laws in place that are currently legislating sex education in the States, and discuss the bleak consequences that these laws are having on all of us. This information is helpful to understand when listening to the show moving forward so we can all contextualize why exactly some of these sex education experiences are problematic, why they happened at all, and most importantly how to make sex education better for everyone.

I share tons of facts in this episode, and the citations are listed below. Shameless plug here, I published a piece back in 2019 all about sex education in the United States and it goes into much greater detail then I do in this episode. If you are interested in learning more, give it a read (it is the first citation below)!