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Daniel Mangena ON THESE MOMENTS ARE THE EXPERIENCE

Dan Riordan — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on helping people dream with their eyes open. With me is Daniel Mangena, Author, speaker and more. A great quote from Daniel in the Episode: “I want to help the audience live an abundant, joyful, purpose-driven life just Like I do!”

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3 Great Signals From Daniel

1) To Spearhead an evolutionary uplift in universal consciousness by awakening people to the importance of their unique role.

2) Don’t live other people’s lives….be deliberate with what we experience

3) We all need to conquer our own self-limitations if we’re ever to get what we truly want in life.

The One Thing: Remember that you're human and to bring yourself back to…it's only an adventure and none of us are getting out of living it…So, Enjoy the adventure enjoy the experience.

The Cauliflower Moment:. The only reason why I didn't commit suicide is I didn't want to fail at something else I wasn't confident I put it off.

NOTES FROM SHOW

Disclaimer: Below is an approximation of this video’s content. This is recorded with an AI tool and we try to edit it for proper conversation it can contain errors. Please feel free to reach out to us if you feel any of the information seems to be incorrect at dan@signalssecret.com

Dan Riordan 0:05

Welcome back to the switch on podcast today we have Daniel man Ghana with us. And Daniel let's just dive right in and have you give some background and insight on what you're up to.

Daniel Mangena 1:10

Right now, Dan I'm actually a bit jealous that I don't have the version of what we discussed a few moments ago.

Daniel Mangena 1:17

That was pretty darn cool sounds like a movie star. Hi everyone update you might get out I'm a speaker and author from East London in the UK, I actually live in Mexico. Now, down in Cabo. As we just discuss them with immigrants my parents immigrated to the UK in the 70s. My dad wanted to sort of step up to the next level of his education and get a higher grade Master's than he was able to get back home, he emigrated but my older brother and sister and my sister was three my brother was five. I was born in East London. Incidentally, the hospital I was born in actually got knocked down a year later, and that wasn't anything to do. But I've spent the last four years, deeply focused on sharing a message that came into my life, about 12 years ago on the back of a dance with suicide. And that message was that if we choose to be conscious of what we expect. Then we can be deliberate in what we experience. And if we align our unconscious with that choice, it can become the new pattern that we live by. Instead of being led unconsciously by programs and beliefs and narratives and stories that don't serve us, we can actually go forth with a phone grace and ease in our life, knowing that what's going to unfold is going to be coming from an expectation that we desire, rather than our fear because I believe that expectation comes in many forms, I believe that fear is a form of expectation faith is a form of expectation. Fear is just expecting things we don't want things like anxiety or going to a future of expectations that we don't want to bring in that emotional response into the now and that impact us. And I feel that if more people are being conscious in what they're choosing to experience and doing so expansively, we can actually bring about a positive uplift in the overall consciousness of what we're doing as a race, and actually make the world a better place versus arguing fighting challenge Nutella collaborating expansively with positive expectations and a wider basis is where change is going to come from. Ernie,

Dan Riordan 3:30

you actually stated something more eloquently than I do, but I reference. Something I used a lot in business where I said that I got this from Andy Grove one of the early founders of Intel and Andy had said in his book you'd said look, the better you define your problem. Your problem statement, the better the outcome is going to be at the end of your product development, you're not going to be changing it in your process, and when you talk about I wrote down, you know, deliberate with what you experience. And it resonated with me into this problem definition mindset because by really defining the problem while you're trying to be super deliberate on what we experience in getting the outcome that you hope to have versus the outcome that just happens. So I really liked that statement there. One of the things that you would talk about in some of the writings that I read on you was you know to spirit this evolutionary uplift in Universal Consciousness by awakening people to the importance of their unique role, and I love the concept of that statement so I'd like to have you talk a minute about that and give people a perspective of what that means from your view.

Daniel Mangena 4:46

Sure. And I think this is something that's probably going to come up a couple of times in our conversation today. And that's not living other people's lives. And we don't always do this deliberately, and people don't always deliberately feed our lives to us, I've got a newborn son. And one of the things I panicked about. When I found out that my wife is pregnant. Oh my goodness, am I gonna bring another foothold into the world. Jesus like, what's it gonna be right. Because I mean, a lot of people who got kids they're gonna have to do wonderful things. Some of them may be thought inspired or guided their kids and some people whose kids went off and did something that perhaps they don't feel really added to the world, how much input did they have in it. But I came to accept that it's not my job to imprint my desires. On my son, but to give him the space to really dig into his heart and find something that his soul is called to do. And to put him in being able to create that in a way that adds to the world. So that's leading by a good example. You know teaching tools and resources but giving him the freedom to explore his human experience. Now, there's a fine line to walk there. Because, you know, if we don't, as parents, for example, have more of a hand on what we're doing, then the environment. The kids, the teachers who are against the movies are going to have that impact too. But at the end of the day, regardless of what the impacts are is still our own personal experience and we have to come to a place of accepting the responsibility that we have, as grown ups to decide what do we want to keep of what we got from the movies the computer games, the parents, the Friends of the school. What relationship do we have of ourselves with our heart with our soul with our inner self with our inner knowing with our God with the universe, whatever, so that we can actually have a very visceral one to one experience with knowing what we're called to do. Some people call it purpose but I think this is the step before purpose I think purpose is the embodiment of this calling. I think every single one of us has a unique strand in the universe with chemistry of this universe that we that we exist in. And we are called to step up to the opportunity. The opportunity to identify what that is. And then, have fun exploring the adventure of actually playing that out and seeing where we go with it.

Dan Riordan 7:10

Yeah. That is a great thing I think you and I could probably spend a couple hours on that topic because it's something that I really missed in the kind of the middle zone of like when I came out of college the conveyor belt, I often references like I got on this conveyor belt was okay you go get this kind of a job you go do this thing. And then all of a sudden, 20 years disappears and you're like, whoa what happened. I don't know if I really wanted all that but you just kind of like, get in momentum. And I'm really thankful that something shook me up to start questioning which then allowed me to kind of get more towards what you're saying, Get, get beyond your purpose really get to what is that thing that inner light that soul's guidance that you're really supposed to manifest and we're all here for a purpose, and definitely in the beauty of kids is, you don't know what it is, and

Daniel Mangenado 8:15

the fun of being a parent,

Dan Riordan 8:16

and helping them manifest it and find it is really, it's a cool adventure if you can have that mindset so that's it it's a gift. The next thing that I had written down about here is conquering the self limitations, and I know that we all layer these on and a lot of times we layer them on and don't even realize that that they're there. And so, like to have you kind of talk through your perspective on that one.

Daniel Mangena 8:49

limitations. Don't come from nowhere. I mean, we're only born with two fears right, fearing loud noises, everything else gets imprinted by an environment, including what we as parents, feed our children environment that we create from them modeling, like what even sometimes I see his little face. He's actually soaking up how to be a human right now, the limitations that he's going to have for himself, are based on what he's soaking up what he's going to witness what he hears, you know, the brick walls that he hits that he doesn't he hasn't been given the, the resources to move beyond that's all going to form the glass ceilings that he has in terms of what he reaches the narratives he has about what is possible. We all have them. I don't believe that there's any human that doesn't have a limit some people's limitations are higher than others. Some people have them again, because you know one person may have no limitation on believing how much love they can have but they'll have a limitation on how much money therefore they can experience, and vice versa. But these are all narratives, or stories based on evidence and I think when we stop treating the mind as an enemy that's trying to hold us back and realize it's just a terminator that's waiting for instructions and if we give instructions that are consciously connected. There's a cognitive connection to what we want, versus unconsciously connected to what we don't want, then those limitations can start to fall away, or at least they can start to shift beyond the limits of what we want to experience. Not everybody wants to be a billionaire. Everybody needs to remove the limitation I want you to remove the limitation of rebooting ability. You know, sometimes we do that right we spend our time, our energy our resources, dealing with limitations that don't even, they're not even connected to what we want to create, go back to, you know, any growth, and hold that you gave before. If we are more conscious of what we want to create that problem. Then we can actually map out what limitations, we're going to work to we can focus on our energy on the things that we actually want. I might not want a six pack, why am I going to spend time working on that that could be spent working on the limitations of my relationship or the limitations around abundance that keeping the in lack that stops me experiencing all that I want to experience so being very conscious of what we want to create. And then against the backdrop of that. Looking at the limitations that are impacting that and focusing our energy on moving through those remembering that our mind is not our enemy. It's our friend, and those limitations, only exist because it has evidence to support those limitations. And that evidence can be overturned.

Dan Riordan 11:28

Yeah, it's the limitation mindset is always fascinating how it creeps in, and then how the self talk that starts layering on top of that just starts to like close you into this and you're developing exactly what you didn't want, and I see it all the time I hear people's self talk I see what they're posting about themselves or all of that stuff just starts to create and manifest exactly what you don't want. And it's a really big issue that I see so the more you can keep pushing out there and help people to acknowledge it, the better it is. But it's fun the questioning mindset that we've developed, it puts us into this place where you're just questioning everything. And I'll give you a funny example but have you ever heard of Shangri La, the term Shangri La or the hotel's Shangri La so that came up about two weeks ago, and I thought, wow, I wonder where that word came from. And so I wouldn't you know Google the word Shangri La, and it led me to a movie that was made in the 1930s, and I was amazed. It's called Lost horizons. And in that movie of lost horizons. There was this mythical place in the Himalayas called Shangri La. And it was all about a place where it's all based on love it's based on living your life in synergy and it was all messaged out in the 1930s, and I was sitting there, you know, once again amazed that wow just by questioning this one term that came up. And we and then watch the movie, we experienced Shangri La. It led us to an amazing like 24 hours where we were like, wow, wait that was killer you know it was really a fun experience so I think the limitations are sneaky. And they, they come in every form and just by even accepting a term Shangri La never stopping and saying Hmm, I wonder what's behind that and then you get into it and you go whoa

Daniel Mangena 13:46

expanded. Yeah, like these new, new neural pathways new ways of thinking about things, new ways of looking at the world.

Dan Riordan 13:52

Yeah. So yeah another statement that intrigued me, which was, you know, things that are encoded deep within us and then often ignored. And then, undervalued passion defined as their dream. And I know there's a lot of stuff out there that talks about, you know, follow your dream follow your dream. Give me your insight on that kind of statement.

Daniel Mangenado 14:16

So for me the dream is the word that I use to describe pre purpose. So coding thing that we've been speaking about my, my handles on all social media platforms are dreamers CEO. My company's dream HQ. Our website stream with Dan, you know, my, my catchphrase is dream with your eyes open and what that causes us to do is to make this thing this code is something that we just whisper about and we hope about, we think about all, you know, wouldn't it be lovely if we my eyes open means it's something that I'm actively doing actively living actively part of what I do every day is what I'm moving towards. It's not just a wistful idea. It's an actual visceral part of my human experiment experience by consciously give life to everyday is what I'm moving towards every day, living your dream dreaming with your eyes open. All of this really leads to taking this yummy beautiful vision and asking myself what can I do to bring life to nap today. Grounding, all of that wonderful magic and yumminess and that's why. That's why we love empowering people to do.

Dan Riordan 15:31

Yeah, that's a good way to think about it I like the living the dream with your eyes open. It's, um, we all are racing through life It feels like and I you know the action item lists are big the checklists are big and the ability to really process it from that view is difficult at times because you're just trying to race through and get everything done. How do you help people or how do you help people kind of battle that

Daniel Mangenado 16:03

first and foremost slowing down and realizing that this is an adventure that none of us are getting out of life anyway, so there's no quick, killing yourself missing the whole adventure to get to the end of the adventure that none of us are gonna slow down. This is the experience these are moments of the experience you know it's when we get caught up in other people's stuff getting caught up in what we've got to do tomorrow, getting caught up on what happened yesterday. All of these things pull us out of the only place that we can actually fully experience what we're here to experience which is now

Daniel Mangena 16:34

So developing an awareness of what we're experiencing, so that we're not pulled out into this, This messy illusionary past or this undefined might be might not be future Let's just be here, present enough to actually experience the life we're here to experience. Yeah, that's good.

Dan Riordan 16:57

These moments are the experience. Exactly. It is, um, that's a good one. That being present as a statement you hear a lot, you know be present be present be present, and we see it all the time where yeah you're there but you're on your phone or you're distracted by 20, other things and you're just not really in that current moment, and the these moments are the experiences a good way to frame it. As you think about what we've been talking about. What is one thing that you'd love people to take away from this half an hour today with you that can help people in their day to day experience.

Daniel Mangena 17:43

Anyone else, then I think when we talk about all this positivity, or this you know consciousness and, you know, whether it's manifest wherever. Sometimes it can get a bit out there, and we can maybe feel even a little bit. In intimidated by all right, or unworthy of any of these limiting beliefs. What I like to invite everyone to do this listening to this is to remember that you're human and to bring them...

Sarah Santacroce ON LETS BRING THE HUMAN CONNECTION BACK TO MARKETING

Dan Riordan — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on how small business owners can effectively market their business without the hype. With me is Sarah Santacroce, author of the upcoming book, theGentle Marketing Revolution. A great quote from Sarah in the Episode: “I see so often in marketing we're chasing after the next new thing the next shiny object, without ever having paid attention to the foundations of: What do you want, who you are, how do you want to build this business?”

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3 Great Signals From Sarah

1) Bringing more empathy & kindness to the business world

2) That it's actually you that has to tell people that there is a different way

3) A world where marketing fosters a sense of belonging, not isolation

The One Thing: Questioning assumptions

The Cauliflower Moment:. A more personal one for me has to do with education. I didn't go to university, because it felt at the moment it just felt too confining. Yeah, I didn't want to. I didn't fit into that system. From the very beginning I always did things differently. And so I didn't fit into that kind of system but it did hold it did hold me back for a few years after that because I always compared. And you know, back in the corporate jobs, I always felt like I was not good enough I didn't have that title…etc.

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:06

Welcome back to the switched on podcasts. Today we have Sarah Santacroce with us. Let's dive right in. Sarah and have you start by giving us some insight on your background.

Sarah Santacroce 0:30

And I'm so glad to be here, thank you so much for having me. Yeah, where do we start. I would probably start with California, because I'm based in Switzerland as we kind of found out offline before we started recording, but I did spend a few years in California, back in 2006, where my husband came home one rainy Sunday afternoon, not Sunday, Monday afternoon. He's like, Oh, I'm so sick of this weather let's move, I got a job offer in California. I'm like, Oh, okay. Wow that's different. All right, let's do it. And so, I had just given birth to our second child, he was like three months old, and I was supposed to go back to work. My day job so I had to kind of hand in my notice and pack our bags and off we went and move to California. And then once we got settled over there. I, you know, I was like okay what do I do now I can't work I didn't have a work permit in the US. And so, once the kids were settled in school and daycare and whatnot. I was like, Well, I'm going to start my own business, I had always kind of in the back of my head. My dad was an entrepreneur and so I was like, well, that's always an option that I have and so that was the perfect opportunity is in the was in 2006 and the middle of the social media boom, and so I was like, Alright, here I go. I'm in California, I can start my own business. And that's what I did. And then from there, fast forward, 12, years later, I am back in Switzerland, which is where I was born and raised and having built business over the last 12 years, and now I'm kind of so I really zoomed in to LinkedIn and became kind of a position myself as an expert in that field. And now it feels like I'm zooming out again, because I'm going more towards what we're discussing. On this episode, the idea of gentle marketing so marketing in general and kind of looking at this whole idea of online marketing and, and, yeah, just like in general marketing and I want to, I felt like I have some different perspective to give in this area.

Dan Riordan 3:03

I'm excited to hear some more insight on that perspective because I do feel that so much of the, you know, social marketing and all that is becoming this just, you know, just crank it out just try to get people trapped in the net and then, you know, hope you can convert them but it's lost all of its real connection and its real purpose in a way. And so it's fun to hear your view of that and the thing that I wrote down that struck me was this like concept of bringing more empathy and kindness into the business world, so I'd love to have you talk about that in conjunction with this gentle marketing.

Sarah Santacroce 3:48

Yeah, you brought up this term before we started recording cutthroat right that is kind of the idea that we have of business, the business environment is kind of this cutthroat environment where we feel like we don't even just when you look at the words you got to kill your competition, you got to like, you know, yeah, the funnel, you have to put three people through a funnel it's all kind of almost like violent language, if you really analyze it. And for the longest time, kept feeling like I'm just not made for this business environment and never felt good I felt like I, I'm so different that can compete with all of this kind of tough attitude I didn't want to be tough. I wanted to be gentle and fair and kind. And yet, it felt like society wanted to only give back to, or kind of put the tough people on a pedestal or only we'll only wanted to give success to those who were tough and were new the best techniques to trick people into just, you know, make a quick buck. And so over time, I was like, you know how you have these breakdowns in order to come up with a breakthrough right. And so that's what happened to me a few couple of years ago I was like, I can't do it anymore I was sitting on the therapists chair and I was just crying and say it's so hard to be different in this business environment I knew I was meant to be in business it's just I have my grandmother's genes and I just, I'm good at it, you know, but I just didn't want to have to do what everybody else was telling me that's just how business works. And so I was like, I'm either giving up is just not meant for me, or slowly I started to realize and get these voices telling me Well, it's actually you who has to tell people that there is a different way. And so that's how the gentle marketing or gentle business revolution was born. I'm like, I'm gonna revolutionize the way we do business, I'm going to tell people that they actually can be successful in business with empathy and kindness. So that's kind of what I'm up to now, man I love

Dan Riordan 6:13

that quote I just wrote down that it's actually you that has to tell people that there is a different way. And I've thought a lot about that same kind of concept I've stated in a very different way, which I like your way better but I've said that, you know, I've realized that each of us has a voice, and each of us are going to relate to a certain group of people that won't get reached any other way. And so your music is inside of you and it's meant to get out to, to get to those people you're not going to reach everybody, but there's a certain segment. and when you, when you say it the way you said it's actually you as to tell the people that there is a different way. It's a great way to think about it, because your music is meant for a segment of people and it's really cool so it's awesome that you, you got over the therapists couch and you're able to continue to push it out and I know before you were talking that you have a new book coming out, that's specifically about this gentle marketing, maybe you want to share a little bit on that too, because I think that's exciting.

Sarah Santacroce 7:27

Yeah, it's a nice segue because you just said yes, you know you're there and your message needs to be heard. For to a specific group of people, and just yesterday. I was doing this creative activity where I had printed out the cover of my book, and I found some wings, like the actual, you know, images of wings and I'm like, I'm gonna give my book wings so it can fly to the people that it resonates with. And so that's really how I, yeah. It made me smile when you said that because it's so true and it needs to. The book is not for everybody but that that's not a problem right it's for those and it will fly to those people that need to hear that message that they can give themselves permission to be different, and that it's okay to bring more empathy and kindness and and love, you mentioned love before we started recording that love was one of your kind of, you know, values in one of the past companies you lead in. And not everybody is going to be open to that message clearly, but those who are there going to be the right you know clients or in this case the right readers for for the book because that's really, who I wrote it for is for people who are already kind of questioning or maybe not feeling aligned with the way they do marketing, and yet they're doing it because that's what they see out there usually you know when we look at all the marketing programs, we only see the ones that speak the loudest and the ones that speak the loudest are usually the ones who are into the these kind of sleazy marketing techniques, because that's that's what they sell. And so clearly they're, you know, that's all we see and so we just think oh this is how marketing works, it's just, it's it's meant to be like feeling not so great, but it's not true it's not true that only the stuff that is sleazy works. It might take a little bit more time to do marketing the gentle way because you're basing it on human connections, and human connections do take time right relationship building does take time. But I also say that it's the only way to build a sustainable business. You can either build a hustle business, and that's based on continuously having to hustle and kind of trick people and manipulate them and get a quick buck. And then, you know, having to do that over and over again, where if you build a sustainable business, your clients become your referral sources because they're so happy to having worked with you that they keep referring you and that's how you, you know, build a business for the long term.

Dan Riordan 10:20

Yeah, it's, it's really fascinating as I'm processing what you're saying and I'm thinking through just what I'm going through at building up my own presence and the things I'm currently involved in. One of the things I struggle with is, there is overwhelm on one side because there's. Oh man, LinkedIn, there's YouTube there's my podcast networks, there's my podcast show there's my blog post there's I mean on and on it goes. And there's this feeling of, you know, I'm hitting and run every hit and running everything versus really spending the time to be thoughtful and nurturing, I'm just like, oh, get the checklist done. And yeah, in there you lose a little bit of what you're saying, which is, you know, that really thoughtful caring kindness I noticed I even struggle with my battling my checklist versus, wait a minute, let's slow down and do this and the really right thoughtful way. So some of this is the lists are big for all of us.

Sarah Santacroce 11:29

And no, it's so true and so often actually with my clients. I tell them my one of my superpowers is starting with the No. We need to start with the no and say no to all these shoulds that people tell us that we should be doing all these things. And that just creates this general feeling of overwhelm and I'm not doing enough. Instead of focusing in on the one or two marketing activities where you are applying your superpower. And it really sounds like Dan that's what you're doing here on this podcast right this is your superpower going deep into conversations. And so, just focusing in on these one or two things that will get you way farther than trying to be everywhere and be everything to everyone. So I think it's so key for entrepreneurs to hear that message to give them permission to say no you don't have to be on Facebook if that's not your thing. You don't have to be on Instagram and clubhouse and all these new things that will keep coming out.

Dan Riordan 12:33

There was another new one announced today by Mark Cuban is doing something.

Sarah Santacroce 12:38

Gosh, I haven't even heard that yeah

Dan Riordan 12:39

got it in my stream it's a new clubhouse meets podcasts, kind of idea but it is unending right i mean it's Tick Tock every day, it seems like there's more things to be chasing, and I think your message message of empathy and kindness and all that we all have to do it for our own selves in amongst doing it for the outward for our customers and our potential clients and all those kind of things So,

Sarah Santacroce 13:12

I'm so glad you brought that up because that's, that's so key that we start with ourselves. And that applies to empathy and kindness, but I actually also kind of, I looked at the existing seven P's of marketing you know there's a, that's a concept that has been out there for a long time. And I was like, let's see if this these existing seven P's of marketing really apply to general marketing. And I realized that, actually no there's some things that need changing, and the biggest thing that I changed when I kind of revamped this idea into a different version of the seven P's and I call it. I kind of saw among Darla in front of my eyes instead of separate circles. I can show you because we're on zoom. People who will have to go and look that up on my website but it's in the shape of a Mandela. Because when you look at the Mandela it's a creative process that brings us to our center. And so that really would. That's what gentle marketing is all about is like if you start to market from within. Then you're really connecting with the your ideal clients because they can feel that it's a different energy you're not just applying these things that come from the outside and don't resonate with you, people will feel that it's aligned with your values. And so when you mentioned you have to, you know, also apply to yourself that's the same with marketing you need to first figure out what you want, what you want for your business who you really are going deeper into what's your story, what's your values, what's your worldview so that you can bring more of that into your marketing, so that you're resonating at a different level. We talked about energy before we started recording. All of that is energy and not that we don't have to go into too much of the Whoo, energy, but it's just energy that people feel when they feel like you're coming as a whole person, and bring that to your marketing. That's when they're like, wow, I want to work with this person. Yes, she has the skill the left brain will always go to the skills first, you know, check check check yes she has a skill. But the right brain is actually the one that makes the decision yes this person feels like a good person I want to work with them because they see the world the way I see it, and I think that's where we're really heading in towards more right brained decisions. And that's on the service base level but also just any kind of company I think needs to realize that going forwards that conscious clients make different decisions they make decisions with the right brain, not just with, is it the cheapest isn't gonna get me results. Yes, of course. We kind of assume almost that we want that, but it's much more beyond that and that includes, you know, the planet. Bigger, bigger decisions does this person care for the same things. So,

Dan Riordan 16:19

yeah,

Unknown Speaker 16:20

I think,

Dan Riordan 16:21

it reminds me a lot of. When I wrote my book. This what I realized was going on, is we started to scale I think HR was the as we were hiring in more and more people. There was an assumption that everybody knew what they were doing. But then as you started to ask people and say Hey, have you ever been taught how to interview. Have you ever been taught how to lead, or how to do a weekly one on one or how to do a, you know, name your process or procedure. I was really amazed that most of the answers were no that No, I've never been taught. I've just learned over time how to do these things, and backing up and actually taking this conscious effort to say okay, we're going to actually teach how to interview so that when a new employee comes in. We have consistency across their entire experience of every person they talked to everything. Everything is a consistent flow. But in today's world the chaos we all live in taking that time is not something people really want to do because they just want to keep moving. But really backing up and slowing down. It really was a in your terms the gentle marketing it was really also gentle scaling, if you will, it's like really, how do you scale. And how do you do it in a gentle way so a lot of resonance there for me in that.

Sarah Santacroce 17:59

It set the foundations for your company right. And that's what I often see in in marketing is we're chasing after the next new thing the next shiny object, without ever having paid attention to a. What do you want, who you are, how do you want to build this business, who's your ideal client. So, these really essential questions to build the business around. If you just skip over them. You might find yourself five years later, having a business that you really hate because you're just not happy, you know,

Dan Riordan 18:38

yeah well that's a great point to the in the pre show you and I talked a little bit about it but boy I'll tell you, I'm standing apart and being different. I've never felt the resistance to that like I felt it in my own personal journey of health. When I switched from a standard diet to becoming vegan. I still to this day I'm amazed at the friction the. I lost a lot of friends the alienation that happened the really big change of hate saying look, there's, there's a different way to do this I'm, I'm not doing this for any other reason then when you really strip it all the way back to energy. I just went back to my roots of energy from college but the real realization of it was there was a better way to operate my machine, and I'm going to go after it. But boy, people did not want that to happen, you know, like they wanted the old way to just not be...

Christina Eanes LEARN, GROW, ACHIEVE: AT WORK AND IN LIFE

Dan Riordan — Tue, 02 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on getting out of your own way. With me is Christina Eanes a former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager, now author, speaker, podcaster and more. Christina specializes in superachieving and is on a mission to help others achieve more in life, mainly by getting out of their own way.

A great quote from Christina in the Episode: “a call to action for all those who feel forced to hide their talents so they don’t make others look bad”

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3 Great Signals From Christina

1) A super-achiever is one who achieves more than most, with the mission of becoming their best self while in the process of positively impacting the world.

2) Life is a school, every moment is a learning moment.

3) You must do what you were put on this earth to do – to leave it a better place than you found it.

The One Thing: It can be through any portion of our life, to just make the world a better place by being better to our fellow human beings.

The Cauliflower Moment: I realized, wait a minute. Life is short, and it's not about the tangible things that we achieve, but it's about those connections those human relationships, it's about experiencing life now.

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 1:17

welcome back to the switched on podcast today we have Christina ins with us and Christina let's just dive right in and have you start by giving us some insight on your background.

Christina Eanes 1:28

Excellent. so we seem to have a little bit in common and where we've lived. I started out after college, with a police department in Vacaville California as a crime analyst. I loved that so much, but then I wanted to go affect change on a bigger level in the world. So I thought, I'll go join the FBI. So I joined the FBI is violent criminal apprehension program as a crime analyst, that's not a profiler is not an agent. So as a crime analyst where I helped local state federal and even some international agencies with their homicides and sexual assaults. I enjoyed doing that work it really helped. I felt like it was really helping in that work but I knew I couldn't do it for my entire career, and I was about ready to I wanted a promotion at that point. So I started looking around and my background is also in training and development, because I've always taught college on this side even since. Pretty much being in college. And so I thought, well, where can I make even more change. So I went in and helped the FBI, develop their leadership development program, I had a couple of teams of folks and instructors and logistics. We trained anywhere from line level to executive level leaders in the group I enjoyed that so much I loved all this stuff in relation to emotional intelligence and perception and all those quote unquote soft skills. Then once my kids left the house, I decided okay I'm going to go open up my own business. And so now I have my own professional development firm, where we do trainings on emotional intelligence perception coaching feedback. And then on top of that I have a few books along those lines a podcast and YouTube channel.

Dan Riordan 3:11

Wow, nice. How did you get into that original career vector, was this like CSI driven kind of awareness because I didn't even know that that was a thing really until I started watching the CSI show.

Christina Eanes 3:26

well and actually if you want me to ruin CSI or any of those for you I can, however, so I was actually I decided to have kids young while I was in college. I don't plan as much now, but what I wanted to do is have them between Gen Ed and upper division, so that I can enjoy them too. I got married young

Christina Eanes 3:47

so that I could enjoy them enjoy them while I was still in college and then start my career right after and not worry about maternity leave all that stuff. Again, I don't do as much planning now. But I was actually a biology major in college, Sac State not far from you. And I got in started getting into those upper division courses. And I thought okay I don't care what's inside of a cell I don't care what a Golgi apparatus does. And this is a lot of the you know the basis of biology and then I started looking around thinking okay I've got two young ones I need to support you know as a family unit. And I started looking at the jobs at that time, and they all were all requiring masters and doctorates. So Mike okay I'm not so excited about this field anymore. I'd have to go all the way in order to make a good amount to support my family but at the level I want to, you know what I've always thought of criminal justice as something that was fun and exciting,

but I don't want to be a cop.

So what do I do. Well, I'm going to switch all my classes over to criminal justice and I got two years to figure it out. And then when I started figuring it out. I came across the field of crime analysis, which I fell in love with because it's like solving puzzles. And so I went that route. Me. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 5:04

well there was a concept that I came across this I was getting familiar with you and your platform of things that you're doing and one of them was this statement around super achievers are able to achieve because we consider ourselves a work in progress, and I just loved the message of that so wanted you to talk a little bit about the insight around where that came from and and what you experienced and what you help others experience.

Christina Eanes 5:32

So where that came from. I'm not quite sure I've kind of always been. Maybe it was nurture and nature, but I've always thought about every moment is a learning moment. Then when I got into looking at Okay, I'm going back to my entrepreneurial roots, what do I want to do in life. Well, first of all, what am I good at what I'm good at getting a lot of stuff done and achieving whatever I set my mind towards.

Then I thought, okay, so part of being an entrepreneur is, if I want to teach others and have a platform on that and do something that comes easy to you that doesn't seem to be as easy to others. And I thought, well, super achieving and how do I do that well, I look at everything as a learning opportunity. And then I went and did a lot of research on it and I found Are you familiar with Carol Dweck growth mindset.

Dan Riordan 6:18

Yes, actually I am

Christina Eanes 6:20

and her book mindset. So, this isn't aligned with everything in alignment with it so I think pretty much I've been born with the growth mindset. And that's what led me to help others, to develop more of a growth mindset so they can step up their achievement. And when I say achievement I don't necessarily mean tangible things right, it could be happy life. It could be realizing your purpose, all of that related stuff.

Dan Riordan 6:44

Well I know your current book and your current focus is around the concept of escape rooms and that whole interesting dynamic So give us a little insight, where did this idea get birthed from and, and how are you manifesting around the escape room idea

Christina Eanes 7:04

so interesting about four years ago, my daughter had her 21st birthday. I thought she wanted to go to Vegas. She did not she wanted to go to Harry Potter World in Orlando. So, we went there. We had a couple of days that we didn't have anything scheduled and she was looking around and said hey, there's this place near our hotel that escape rooms. It sounds really cool Can we go try it and I was like, escape rooms that sounds silly. I don't you have to lock me in a room for me to solve puzzles I'll do that here at the hotel, like it's your birthday, so we'll go try it. So it was the three of us my husband, my daughter and myself. Our son was joining the army in the army at that point. But we went into the escape room, and I fell in love with it we fell in love with it so we went back and did three more rooms. The next day, and my husband and I have now done almost 500 rooms in my countries in 22 states. Wow. So we got a little addicted. First of all, one is exciting novelty right so that helps the brain grow as well anytime you challenge it and you give it novel experiences because each escape room experience is different in its own right well there are some similarities across some of them. It's all different adventures. And then I realized, hey, this has so much application for what we're teaching in the classroom on perception emotional intelligence how people communicate with each other. So then we started paying attention to how we were in escape rooms and how we were interacting and the different challenges that we faced and of course I had to put lessons on that and then we put it into a book

Dan Riordan 8:37

that's really neat, we used in my last corporate situation we actually used escape rooms in a team building kind of way where teams would go off and go use the escape room in San Francisco, and the teams just loved it.

Christina Eanes 8:57

it's fun and they actually have one of the best in the US. One of the best locations there in San Francisco.

Dan Riordan 9:04

Wow, it's really neat so what can these escape rooms teach us, you know, I know that there's teaching moments in there but I would love to hear some of your insights to that. Um, let's

Christina Eanes 9:16

see here. So a big one. Recently I actually mentioned this one of my speech I won't go into too much detail on it but being that we have done so many and it's usually just my husband and myself when we're doing these. I mean there's so many lessons, but a big one. Perception is reality. And it was no more in your face of a, an experience as we went to a room where we were going to be locked in with a live zombie, or I should say an undead zombie that's a live actor. So we've heard of these before and oftentimes it's like a zombie is attached to a chain and after a certain period of time the chain gets let out, you know until close to the end where it has full row roaming privileges, I guess. But this one, we were going to be in with a roaming free zombie throughout the whole process. I was so excited about this because it's novel I was like, I'm gonna have fun with this. Because we were listening to the game master at the beginning, that's the person who guides you through the process. Often from another room via cameras and sound system. And she said that he can't attack us until we find the Nerf guns. Alright so I'm like yes I'm going to have fun with this guy. I don't think my husband heard that, because we got split up. And the idea was we were going to solve a series of puzzles in different rooms to meet up in a third room. And so as I'm alone in the room the zombie comes and bangs on the door and I know he can't come in and mess with me until we find the Nerf guns so of course I act like I'm in the bathroom I'm like I'll be on the minute. Right, so I'm having fun, but then there's a point where I hear on the walkie talkie. The Game Master tells my husband sir Don't lock that gate that's a health and safety issue. Like what's going on. So when we got into that third room I realized my husband had had a completely different experience. He went in with the perception of, there's a zombie in here it's roaming free and it's gonna get me. So he was very nervous and how he was and I have permission to tell the story. He was very nervous in in solving the puzzles he was having trouble concentrating he was constantly looking over his back. By the time we got to that third room he was exhausted. And here I am bouncing around excited like we're gonna get this zombie, and I convinced him I said, Look, look how slick because the zombie was in the room with us I mean look, let's not a World War Z zombie That one's moving slow right so we can even go around the table to avoid them while we're solving puzzles, so he got to calm down, but it was interesting how walking out of that room. I had an amazing experience. I was energized and ready for the next one. He was exhausted and his nerves were afraid right because he spent an hour nervous essentially. So that would be one example of many of how it was just in your face, how our perception creates our reality.

Dan Riordan 12:04

that's a really cool quote and I know that I've used the perception reality quote before a lot, you know, over time, because you realize, wow, each person's, the way they perceive this stuff so really cool that it related back to the escape room concept. When somebody buys your book and experiences, the escape room, concepts, what, what can they expect from going through your book what are the insights, they're going to get and how's this gonna unfold for them.

Christina Eanes 12:39

Well, very much like the story that I had just told each chapter starts out with a little story and the lesson that we learned from it, and then tidbits for how they can learn that lesson as well, and hopefully it even gets him a little excited about escape rooms.

Dan Riordan 12:54

I didn't even know there were that many outlets for it

Christina Eanes 13:00

oh yes man there's 1000s and 1000s of locations around

Dan Riordan 13:04

the world. Wow. Is it a franchise concept is that. Is it a franchised concept of,

Christina Eanes 13:11

Oh, I mean, some are franchises, but others are very original mom and pop locations, it's just like any business are so many different, different experiences, that's

Dan Riordan 13:23

me, I can explore that more you've piqued my curiosity. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 13:28

mission accomplished check.

Dan Riordan 13:31

Another thing that I had come across in your BIOS was you made the statement about, you must do what you're put on this earth to do to leave it a better place than you found it. And given what the world is going through and what we're all experiencing that one really resonated to me so I wanted to have you spend a little bit time exploring that with everybody. Ah,

Christina Eanes 13:56

yeah so I know many times when we think of leaving the world a better place than we left it we think we have to do something big and grand. Right. But even, and we hear the little stories on social media, even the act of smiling at someone or sharing some sort of kindness or whatever, still leaves the world a better place right you made that person's day you never know I'll never forget that story I heard about someone was planning on going home and taking their own life, but someone took a just time to smile and truly asked how they were doing and show a little bit of care, and they didn't. That day, I'm sure we've heard many stories like that right so the idea of deciding what we can do. It doesn't have to be through our careers. It can be through any portion of our life, to just make the world a better place by being better to our human beings. I mean I would just say that makes us good citizens of Earth. Yeah, for lack of a better term.

Dan Riordan 14:55

Yeah. No, it's fantastic to point out that it doesn't have to be big. It can be it can be small, and I've told this story before but we experienced a gentleman in a natural foods grocery store who he came in and he was just a customer but he had on like a white robe, and he was just this aura of happiness and kindness, and we both experienced this guy in separate parts of the store. And for some reason he didn't even say anything to me but the aura he was putting out was just this sweet kindness and then I watched him, and he got to the checkout lady and I think he was just buying a drink. And he was so kind to her that she instantly was beaming and the energy was, you know, and unbeknownst to me afterwards we both talked and we said hey did you see that guy. And it turned out we both had the same experience completely separately. And I was astounded at the impact that this just the aura of kindness, as he went through that environment. He impacted probably 20 people. And he did nothing, you know I mean it was just kindness.

Christina Eanes 16:19

So, even years later, years later, just from moments of spending time in the same space.

Dan Riordan 16:26

Yeah, it really taught me a big lesson that you're amplifying there have simple, it can be simple because so much around us is everything's got to go big and everything's got to be done big and it's just not

Unknown Speaker 16:41

right. Yeah, spreads.

Dan Riordan 16:43

Yeah. So I love that thank you for sharing that I

Unknown Speaker 16:46

thank you

Dan Riordan 16:48

were down to the point of my asking the question around the one thing. So, this one thing that people could take away from this half an hour that they spend with you. What is it that you'd like to amplify for people to really focus in on.

Christina Eanes 17:06

life is a school, right, we need to make the most of it. Learn everything that we can, and essentially to become I would say essentially become the best person, the best version of ourselves right so think of our life as a school every moment is a growth opportunity. We're not going to start out, we're not going to end up where we started out right so we were talking a little bit before we came on the call on about how you're not born perfect right we're constantly growing we're constantly evolving. And that's what life is it's a school so, do what you can to learn what you can every day. Something to further develop yourself and I'm not talking about technical skills, I'm talking about who you are as a person and how you

Unknown Speaker 17:49

show up in the world.

Dan Riordan 17:50

Yeah, yeah, the technical skills, its enormous and the amount of stuff you can dive into there but it's really funny that you said that because I think it was earlier in the week I was journaling and I actually wrote down those exact words life is a school so must have been getting connected...

Lindsey Elmore ON HOW TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR LIFE AND MAKE THE TOUGHEST HEALTH AND WELLNESS DECISIONS

Dan Riordan — Thu, 25 Feb 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on Making Tough Health and Wellness Decisions. With me is Lindsey Elmore, She is board certified pharmacist and functional medicine practitioner who helps people with cardio metabolic disease to transform their life through a series of simple steps and more. A great quote from Lindsey in the Episode: “Be You, Only Better”

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https://cleanslatecleanse.com/

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3 Great Signals From Lindsey

I believe that we are all created according to a specific plan and purpose
I think we have a major problem in that we do not actively seek to prevent chronic disease, you know
FEELING VIBRANT, HEALTHY, AND FIT SHOULD BE SIMPLE.

The One Thing: I just hope that everyone walks away with an understanding that they on the deepest level deserve to be healthy.

The Cauliflower Moment:. Don’t burn bridges..I think one of the things that I have learned is never burn bridges, and when you close doors, always remember that there are windows, because I think that a lot of time we were like, We consider our decisions, permanent, you know like, if I decide to go plant based well then I must be vegan for the rest of my life, but nobody said that like, why don't you just have like one plant based meal and see how you feel….

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:01

Welcome back to The switched on podcast today we have Lindsey Elmore with us. Let's right dive right in with Lindsay, and have you start Lindsey with giving us some insight on your background.

lindsey Elmore 0:40

Hi, I am Dr Lindsey Elmore I am a board certified pharmacist and functional medicine practitioner who helps people with cardio metabolic disease to transform their life through a series of simple steps I started as a chemist became a pharmacist practiced in family medicine for several years and then went on a journey that has been as ever evolved into a lifelong journey when I was in pharmacy school I tore my ACL that landed me in the chiropractor's office for the first time which catapulted me into the acupuncturist office for the first time, which led me to use herbs for the first time, which opened my eyes to the fact that there are many different ways to practice pharmacy practice medicine, and ultimately to recognize that much of the conventional wisdom about how we stay well is so misguided and. Fast forward to now I've had years of speaking on behalf of health and wellness and helping people to take ownership of their own health, one day at a time and not get stressed, and overwhelmed about trying to do everything all at once, and really trying to make the science of being healthy simple and accessible for everyone.

Dan Riordan 2:04

Man, a couple of notes I just jotted around quickly there was, you know, you said how we stay well, and then making it simple. And it really is surprising what we layer on top, over time, and I wish I would have gotten much more in tune with this a lot earlier in my life journey so it's neat that you got exposed to these things that kind of opened you up and really made you aware,

lindsey Elmore 2:31

they did they really opened my eyes and allowed me to recognize that much of what I had learned wasn't necessarily my in my core my heart My, my essence of being I knew it was not correct for most people and so just going down that pathway of like okay well, let me learn what feels right for me and how do I teach other people to recognize and understand what feels right for them because I think so often we have lost track of what it actually feels like to be healthy. And then we also have this culture of dogma, where we say, well so and so's my doctor or so and so's my, my brother or so and so is my, whoever it is that we relinquish the power of our health and wellness over to. And that is what I stand against I just want people to understand that they are truly their best doctor you know the doctor of the future is you having enough intuition to know that your body is saying hey that food did not sit well with me and then having enough self love and self compassion and self care to be like, Well, I know that the fried chicken and the French fries tastes delicious. But every time I eat it my body feels tired and sluggish and I have gas and I'm bloated. And I don't want to get up the next day and then when I'm with, with the Peeps eating the fried chicken and the French fries, it gives me that permission to drink beer and to go bed a little bit later like one bad decision begets, the next, just as one good decision begets, the next and I think so often people want to wait till tomorrow in a different body than what they are in today and it's like No, you've had this same body since you were born, and he took you this long to get to the place where you are. Why would you think that you could just like poof flip a switch, and do something differently and it's to me health is not about. I wake up at 5am, and I do my morning meditation, and then I do my intermittent fasting for 20, hours a day and I work out for an hour and a half, and I have this amazing relationship with my spouse and we have the best sex ever and I never misbehave and all this other stuff that's not real, what is real is saying, day in and day out, I am going to make the boring. Lame mundane decisions that make me healthier, over time. And so, if that means that you're I you know I saw somebody yesterday say like, you know, in your 20s you're out partying and you're just having a great time and then sometime in your 30s or 40s, like all of a sudden you're like sleepy time bear at 830 in the evening. And so, don't think that everything in your life has to change immediately. What can you do right now that's going to set you on a path that's going to empower you to be like, Oh, well, I worked out for 30 seconds. Therefore, I work out, you know, and it's that it's that conscious language of how do we talk to ourselves, can you take three deep breaths and be like, I practice Parana Yama. Yeah, you know, I slept last night I got in bed last night at 9pm or 8pm Well, guess what, I go to bed early so I can get up early. Don't worry about making this like, you must be healthy. How can you have fun with it and find joy in it, and how can you count. Even small wins, as wins as things that are like Dang. I did something today that I didn't do yesterday. Even me and you know I got, I got a treadmill a few months ago I love a treadmill and just, you know, it's been a really stressful year to go to the gym and all of the things and I was like you know what I'm just gonna bring this to my house. And it's been like okay I've been walking for 15 minutes and then that turns into 17 and then that turns into 20. And this morning I get an email and it's like, do you want to join our five K and if you finish it. During the this timeframe. we'll send you a metal and I was like, Who would have ever thought that I would be like, about to get my metal for like doing a five k but because I've been practicing and working up to the idea of like okay I'm gonna run at 12 minute miles for three miles, I can do that, I can run for 40, minutes, and it's going to and I'm going to come out on the other side doing something that I've never done before. So I genuinely think that each and every person has the ability to be healthy and to stay well. You have to care about yourself enough to do it, and you have to care about yourself enough to make it a habit. Even when I mean come on no one is denying that unhealthy food and self destructive behaviors are fun, but I heard somebody say the other day, drugs are fun until they're not being unhealthy is fun, until it's not so we're just trying to push that unhealthy away from us because the idea that we are. We as humans are designed to be unwell for 50 years of an 80 year long life is a lie. It is an out and out lie. Now if I could tell you hey you can live to 100 and you're only going to be sick for the two weeks right before you die, you're like alright I'm in for 100 years, but if I tell you like look you're going to live to 100, but you're going to be chronically ill on 10 medications for at least 30 years of that and then you're going to get cancer and go through chemotherapy, and then six years later the cancer is going to come back and then you know that's going to cause anxiety and depression that are going to necessitate some other medications, you're going to be like, you know what, maybe 70 years maybe I'm good with not that last 30 years. We need to understand that we have the power and the potential to be healthy. We just have to do the day in and day out stuff that it takes to be happy. And you can't hate yourself through it you have to really care about yourself through the whole thing because you can be equally as unhealthy being thin, not having cardiometabolic disease but having mental health diseases having stress, anxiety, all of the things so I know that's a roundabout way of getting to your question, but I think that bottom line, each and every person who's listening to this today has the right to be healthy.

Dan Riordan 9:59

you said a few things in there that really resonated one was. We've lost track of what it's like to be healthy. And in some ways, I think we also maybe never even knew what it felt like to really be, you know, enjoying the vibrancy when you get there and I know for me, as I started to really clean up my health and wellness equation that I was really surprised at how I was feeling, and I had some of it. I had never actually even experienced these feelings to know it could feel this good. And I had become like you know okay I'm gonna eat a massive lunch and then you get sleepy at two in the afternoon well you think, oh, that's just what happens. And then as you start to, you know, cleaned things up, you're like, I don't get sleepy anymore. And then yeah yeah it's really amazing.

lindsey Elmore 10:55

I mean I heard a statistic one time that the average American puts on two pounds every year at Christmas. And most people do not take that two pounds off. Well give that five years that's 10 extra pounds you're carrying around give that 30 years that 60 extra pounds that you're carrying around. And again, we think, oh, that just happens. But there's also another way that it could happen. Number one, you could say, look, I understand it's the holidays, I'm going to continue to eat exactly the way that I normally eat I'm still not going to drink alcohol I'm still going to go to bed early. Or you can say you know what, it's totally the holidays. I am going to drink more than I usually do I'm going to bake a cake, even though I normally don't I'm going to eat gluten, even though I normally don't. I might eat some meat even though six eight months out of the year to three meals a day every day I'm not eating meat. And then you say, but you know what, but then I'm gonna come back to my habits because I know that that's what helps me to stay well long term. Or, you can be like, well, I drank four glasses of wine on Christmas so I might as well drink four glasses of wine every single day. There's different paths that you can walk down because it's, we're not supposed to be perfect. And we are supposed to have joy in life I think that being joyful and being happy is critically important along the journey. And if you are joyful and happy in these decisions that you make that also happened to keep you Well, that's a win win all of a sudden your mental stress is going down your mental health is good. You're happy so your relationships with other people, either become happier, or you realize like wow this person really drags me down and I don't know that I need this in my life anymore so you can come face to face with some of those hard decisions that we have to make in life. Um, but, you know, I think. So you and I talked before we started recording, about how it's totally a lie that people are supposed to live with chronic disease.

lindsey Elmore 13:06

I also think we have a major problem in that we do not actively seek to prevent chronic disease, you know, if you watch television oh my goodness, do you see ads about like the newest the best the treatment for diabetes for cancer or prostate health for erectile dysfunction, the treatments abound. Why don't you take one big step back and go, Well, why do I have a rectum, why does you know why does my spouse or my husband have erectile dysfunction and I have no libido, like, why don't we work on that. Like, why are we both kind of like plopping into bed at 11pm or midnight, or 1am, not having gone through any kind of communicative processes to help this problem stop before it starts. You know I think diabetes is an amazing example everybody wants to talk about what's the treatment for diabetes and I'm like, Well, how do you prevent yourself from getting diabetes in the first place because in general and listeners I know that some of you are going to send in the mail and be like, No, I've got this genetic predisposition and this and that and blah blah blah. But in general, type two diabetes is very easily controllable by just simply paying attention to how does your blood sugar respond when you eat certain foods, right, and. And the problem with diagnostics when it comes to diabetes is to diagnose diabetes we look at your blood sugar and we look at your. We'll get your a one C which is a cumulative measure of what your blood sugar has been over approximately the last three months. Yeah, but if we saw 15 years ago that hey your fasting insulin should be less than five. It's at 15. If you do not stop now. You within a few years, will have diabetes you don't right now, your pancreas is still keeping up You're still keeping up with everything that you need to do, but we're seeing the signs, we're seeing the signs years and years in advance of things having a complete and total breakdown, and we need to be looking at those signs earlier and actively working on. Okay, well, how do I ensure that I am not going down disease path and going down health path, of course, even if you walk the healthiest path that there is. Sometimes the illness hits us and that is no, sometimes it can be something as simple as you go to a new location you encounter an allergen that you've never been exposed to. Before you encounter an environmental toxin that you've never been exposed to before, and it sends you in a spiral, but the great news is you have built the mental resiliency because you've spent years crafting stress reduction techniques and really working on your diet to stay healthy and give your brain the nutrition that it needs so you can say constantly you can meet these obstacles, with clear headedness, and in a goal of success. Not a goal of okay well now I have this. Give me the six medicines, and we'll keep just. We'll keep turning the dial on a medicine until it's time to add another one till we reach these artificial numbers that people say are like disease treatment goals and it's like, I don't want you I don't want your disease to be at goal. I want you to not have disease. I want you to not be ill, in the first place I don't want you to be strapped down by fear and anxiety and self loathing, to the point where you end up being sick. There is a different way.

Dan Riordan 17:18

Yeah. Wow I wrote down several things but two things I'm going to highlight one is, I was watching a show in out of nowhere a commercial came on about flappy chin syndrome right and they have a drug to fix this loose skin and I'm looking at it going, oh my god you know they create this self consciousness, you know, then you go look in the mirror and you're like, do I have that oh my god right that's right yeah it's like they create the whole point really stunning.

lindsey Elmore 17:54

Yeah, it's terrible. How we have put so much pressure on ourselves to look a certain way, be a certain way or act a certain way when it's like the greatest thing about life, is that we are all different and that we all have the ability to give our own unique gifts to the collective pool, that is humanity.

Dan Riordan 18:21

Another thing that triggered on was, you know, when we started on our health journey I actually relied on a principle from the work side of my life and in running companies and scaling organizations. I had read a great thing that Andy Grove from Intel had written about look he said, the better you define a problem, the better your product development will be it'll cost less it'll get done 10 times faster because you're not trying to make changes in the process you divined it upfront. So we defined our health journey and we said okay, we want to live to 110 with full brain function and full body function. So we set that as our problem definition and now every decision we make is tested against that definition and say, will this or Won't this help us get to this 110 with full brain function full body. And it's been amazingly helpful to have that simple little guidepost to weigh against So, yeah, just a little tip I use based on you know past lives of scaling companies.

lindsey Elmore 19:32

Yeah, I mean knowing where you want to be is really important to the whole journey. It really is.

Dan Riordan 19:40

The another question. Another thing I'd written down in the pre show discussion was this feeling vibrant, healthy fit should be simple. And I do think it's really important to continue to emphasize that point of this because it's can be overwhelming for people, especially at the beginning of it when you're looking at this going oh my god you know how do I even start so just wanted to get your insight on that.

lindsey Elmore 20:08

Well, I mean, I think that everybody tries to make health so complicated. You know, it's like the newest study says this, the latest thing says that. But really, if you just take a step back and really get down to it, what do you what do you know listeners right now what makes you healthy, just pause, what makes me healthy, because there's not that many things. Do you sleep right do you exercise Do you have healthy...

Stephen Powell ON DEVELOPING A CULTURE TO SCALE A SERVICE BUSINESS

Dan Riordan — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Stephen Powell ON DEVELOPING A CULTURE TO SCALE A SERVICE BUSINESS

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on staying teachable and building a scalable culture. With me is Stephen Powell. Stephen has scaled restaurants and learned many lessons on culture along the way. A great quote from Stephen in the Episode: “Consistency leads to profitability”

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3 Great Signals From Stephen

1) What you learn here will impact your whole life

2) People aren’t trained in how to lead

3) Simple respectfulness and kindness can change a whole team

The One Thing: Be there to help others

The Cauliflower Moment: I grew up with a belief I didn’t know anything, and as a result, had to intentionally build a set of beliefs…now I know somethings! Come listen to hear the story.

NOTES FROM SHOW

Disclaimer: Below is an approximation of this video’s content. This is recorded with an AI tool and while we try to edit it for proper conversation, it can contain errors. Please feel free to reach out to us if you feel any of the information seems to be incorrect at dan@signalssecret.com

Dan Riordan 0:04

Welcome back to switched on podcasts. Today we have Steven Powell with us. Let's dive in Steven and have you start by giving us a bit more details on your background and insight on what this is going to be talked about.

Stephen Powell 0:34

All right, well we're talking about culture, like a work culture in the restaurant setting especially but actually it's, it's something that would be valid for any business. But because of my background in restaurants have been a restaurant manager for 20 years. It's my focus will be restaurants, so I know them inside and out. I have found over the years that there's a lot of inexperience in management. And there's also not a lot of information for managers or training formally for managers to really get good what managers should be good at leading people. You know, people get caught in the idea of are bogged down with operations and want to run the food costs, they want to run labor they want to controllable they want to just make sure all those financial things are taken care of. But it's always been my belief that if you take care of the culture, all those other things will be taken care of by themselves. You don't have to work at them, they will happen. And I get a lot of strange looks when I say things like that, as people. They're like that, you've got to be involved you got to do it you got to make it happen. And I have actually found it to be not as true as they thought, setting up that culture, which is being respectful, being teachable being professional positive, bringing positive energy to the shift, working together as a team, in a way that really makes sense. And then doing that on a consistent basis. You know, and as a leader, not, not just to being the boss, but being the coach, being the person who has the insight to say, you know, this is a better way to do it might want to try it this way. Or hey you're really heading off in the wrong direction here, we need you to come back this way. Those are all very important parts of this culture that I'm talking about. And when the manager is able to do that. I've only. I only had one golden moment with this. But two, we could probably go into that, if you wanted to. But I've actually seen it for myself I know it to be true. And looking for that opportunity again to make it happen again. The last four words here.

Dan Riordan 3:36

When you talk about a golden moment but what do you. Let's dive a little deeper on that. What do you mean the golden moment with it.

Stephen Powell 3:44

So I became the general manager of a steak restaurant. And I had been there for three years we had taken that restaurant when I, When we first got there, there were three managers that came in at the same time, we were going to turn the place around because it was a very tense. It was very negative people were screaming each other in the back of the house, because there was so much frustration so much disorganization that everything was just broken in the restaurant. And I had the front at that time there was a kitchen manager and the general manager were the other two people that came in and slowly we started to turn that around. But even then, I could see that we weren't really moving where I thought we should move. I got the kitchen. Management later. A year later, and for two years, I worked the kitchen and really got it running very well. profitability was in food cost was good. All those things. But I was already starting to put in place these, these principles of how to lead people, and had to teach people like I had really great cook. Had to teach them that it's okay for him to ask for help. It doesn't mean he's a bad cook because he asked for help everybody needs help, because the business will overwhelm you. So he would get frustrated because he couldn't get it all done when we expected him to work by himself. And so it's okay if you ask for help. It just means that you need a little help, it doesn't mean you're a bad person. So, having people understand that it's okay to ask for help, was super important to the business. You can't look at it as well I'm the, I'm the star player. I play by myself. And I got to do it all. It just says, the team doesn't work like that. So he's here to help somebody who's starting to fall behind. And someone who's in the weeds. And when he finally accepted that he was a much happier person. He enjoyed his job more. He was able to work with everybody. We supported each other. So that was just the start of it. When I became the general manager and I was able to put these Principles and Practice across the whole, whole store. Just. It started becoming better than I thought it could have been. People were really enjoying their jobs they were getting along. I had to make a simple rule when I first started, and I noticed that there people would come in and they'd be saying they wouldn't answer each other they say Hey, hello. How you doing today. And yet dead silence. And that would have been a lot, we had these groups of people that didn't associate with other groups, people didn't want to talk to them. I just made one simple rule was, if someone says hello to you. You have to say hello back on the choice. It's a rule, you have to do it. And amazingly that worked. People started communicating. Why is that communication got better. We worked on respectfulness and we worked on friendliness. It just started to blossom. And it got to a point. After three years of managing that my, I had some customers pull me aside and say, What have you done this. This place is so different. is it people love their jobs here, they're friendly, they're helpful. What did you do. And really, that's what the kind of that moment when I said, I never thought it could be this good. It really transformed. And I gotten the managers on board I had actually worked with one manager to help her to come up to speed with, you know, how to be respectful to the employees, so that they could have respect for her. And so, that's the golden moment is that I've actually seen this thing blossom. And I did go into my general management, and I did say to my, my boss. I said not really worried. I said this in front of all my other manager the other general managers at a district meeting. I really am concentrating on those numbers yet, because I need these other things to be in place so that the numbers will work themselves out. And of course I got those strange

looks from them, saying, This guy is crazy. But after three years, those numbers were in place we were, we had gone from losing 1000s of dollars every year to making a lot of money after that. And just things were rolling and we were getting compliments from the, the head office and we're starting to make ourselves known, and then unfortunately they sold the company and they brought in their own manager, and that was out that golden moment here and gone. And so it's been it's been difficult to kind of get that to repeat. But I think it's time that I maybe just kind of went on the road and started teaching those who are willing to learn this. Yeah, bring it into reality for them.

Dan Riordan 10:00

That's neat I mean it's some of the notes I took as you're talking there the basics of respectfulness and kindness and, you know, listening to what others are saying. Just those simple principles and how far that can take a group of people and it's neat that you got to experience that and watch the turnaround and and get it to the point that the people using the business the people experiencing the customers were able to really feel it. And that's, you know, the ultimate payoff for all of that focus on a culture as, as you said, and not the grass grass roots of it so really exciting. When you look at the managers struggle. What do you say are the most common things that you saw, or have seen managers struggle with.

Stephen Powell 10:58

I call it the hard conversation because it can be a hard conversation, a lot of people grow up with the idea that they don't like conflict, and they see the hard conversation at disciplinary or the coaching conversation as bad. It's there's gonna be yelling involved, people are gonna get their feelings hurt, it's just bad, and to help people really understand that not only is that conversation not bad. It's good. If you come at the right way, if, if you're coming at it, as I'm the boss you're gonna do it this way. And that's it. That's be conflict, because if your people aren't on board with you. They're not on your team, they're going to conflict they're gonna find ways to disobey you. And they're gonna find ways to make you unsuccessful. But when you come at people with the idea that you want to help them to get better than what they're doing. You want to actually help them in their life. understand principles that that transcend just this business. This you can take this to your family and your friends and into your future businesses that you're in your future jobs. What you're going to learn here is going to affect your whole life. And when you see there's a bigger picture out there in these conversations are important to teach people these things, then it turns all around it's not confrontation. Now it's a teaching moment. It's you getting to be a mentor to somebody. You're their coach. You're helping them out. And when people feel that on their side that you are, you're on their side. They're more opening, open to listening. And therefore, they will come to be on your team maybe they will help work with you. There'll be your eyes to see the problems in the restaurant. And then, when you've got everybody working on solving the problems of the business. Then the business problems stay solve. So that's one another is the idea of being teachable. If you come in, thinking you know everything. You're probably going to end up being passed right back out as a business. You have to be teachable, and flexible in your understanding of the business. And most businesses have. If they're established businesses, they're successful for a reason. There's a way of doing things that works and works for them. So you need to learn that you need to do it that way. And then I think another big one is positivity. Bringing positivity or positive energy to a shift and not bringing negative energy into the restaurant. A lot of people have problem with that managers have problem with that. And they have a problem stopping when it'll get out of control for them when they, they don't take care of it.

Dan Riordan 14:41

Yeah, I think a lot of us don't really give enough emphasis on simple things of the words we speak, the energy that's carried in those words that then is in the energy, the ether of the environment that we're in every little thing impacts that feeling, and, you know, you often hear that term of, hey I walked into a room and it felt heavy or the environment felt had an energy to it. And there's real truth to that. And so I know I as I listened to you I've walked into certain restaurants or certain environments where I'm going to get service and you can feel when there's that negative tension or that positivity. You can just sense it. And so I think you're you've obviously lived it and felt it both ways, and saw the impact, but it's a great point. When, when you look at the principles that you've gathered along the way we've certainly heard a few of these the be teachable and the positivity. Is there any other key principles that you want to amplify.

Stephen Powell 16:05

I think the newest one. And this is just in the last six months. Is that managers need to have a self improvement mentality. And if they don't have it now they need to develop it. The idea that you're just, you know, born good enough, is, is a fallacy. That said, none of us are born good enough for everything. And so we have to learn. We all have weak spots. And so we have to, you know, want to firm up those weak spots, we may have things where we're kind of over the top on some things and we need to bring it down a notch. And so, all those things fall into that category. And if we aren't in a self improvement mode as managers. We're not going to grow as managers. And if we can't grow and adapt and become better at our job. We're gonna, I think, find ourselves, either working for companies that don't care, and they're not going to really take care of us. And we're probably not going to like working for those companies, or we're going to make that change and we can be part of some majorly great companies. So that's why that's so important. The idea of the servant leadership, something I've always, always thought. It's a term I've also just come across recently as a actual solidified term, but I've always felt like the manager is the one who serves those he leads. And I've had to help several managers understand that your job is not just to stand around and look rating. When things get crazy. You serve them. You go help them out. If they're asking you for help. It means they've exhausted all of the co worker, health, chances. Now they need help from somebody who's standing around doing nothing. I said, Don't try to ask them. Did you ask this person. Did you ask that person. Just do it. You know, help them be there for them. And so I think that that mentality is so important. And then, finally, I would say that consistency is probably one of the great foundation stones of this in business. If you do it on a consistent basis. You know I don't know anything about chick fil a, but without knowing anything like personal or anything about them. I know that chick fil a follow these principles. And they know how to teach these principles to their people. Because, you know, I don't know if you know this chick fil a stands out as one of, if not the most successful restaurant concepts out there. And they consistently out strip in sales, everybody around them, whether it's a full serve dining room with fast food or your casual. I don't have to know anything about them to know that they are following these principles. And the reason they're so successful is that because they are consistent, day after day, you're going to get the same experience at chick fil a.

Stephen Powell 20:11

Really. That is one of the proofs that this works.

Dan Riordan 20:17

yeah. Consistency is such an interesting term because you on a day to day on a minute by minute on a situation by situation. It's so easy to be inconsistent, and to really focus in on that is, it's fun when you kind of get into the sweet spot of that you have your rhythm to it and you get comfortable in that but I've seen a lot as well where the inconsistency is more the mode, and the damage that it can ripple through. As we progress to the end of the episode I always have two questions that I ask people so we're going to go into the two question time now with you. One is the one thing people can take away to either personal life, business life. What's one key message or one key concept that you want to make sure people take with them.

Stephen Powell 21:27

I think I'll go with. We need to be here to help people. If you help people be good at their job. If you can, if you have something, some understanding that they don't have, and you can impart that to them and they can benefit from it, you've done something. And, as a manager. You need to be taught. Maybe it's a learn things first. And if you've become a manager hopefully you've learned a few things about how to run a business. And so, passing that on to the younger people or the less experienced people that just does magic. As far as really improving people's lives. I think, whether it's business or personal life, those principles that if you could teach them these and really broaden that that view for them the big picture. That's really important.

Dan Riordan 22:39

So good one. I love the servant leadership mindset and really being there to help others it's such a valuable tool, and we get in your eyes off yourself, and really being there for the others, it breeds such security and trust over time that you really can lever up the productivity and the whole as you said positivity down through the enterprise so that's a great one. But the last one is the cauliflower moment where you've questioned a belief and in our pre show discussion. I think we wound up on highlighting one that was really interesting so I'm gonna let you kind of talk about that.

Stephen Powell 23:26

The, the idea that when I was very young, from the time I was 12, I kind of already decided. I didn't know anything. So, I needed to learn everything kind of a blank slate type of thing. So, because I believe that I think I went through a lot of things without. I didn't. I had no preconceived conceptions about things. So I simply learn the mistake came in. And by doing that, I was able to kind of sort myself this is good, this is bad stay away from these people, you know associated with these people. And being around people who are like you. If, if they model your own beliefs. That's a good thing. So over the years I have now established some, beliefs, beliefs, on, on things that I feel are very solid principles. So I guess in that way I've, I've changed. I don't think I know nothing anymore. Yeah.

Dan Riordan 24:50

Yeah, it's neat because you went out within intentionality of saying, Okay, I need to go purposely start...

Holly Jean Jackson ON HELPING PEOPLE BUILD AND SCALE BUSINESSES OF THEIR DREAMS

Dan Riordan — Tue, 23 Feb 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on helping people scale themselves and their businesses. With me is Holly Jean Jackson, holistic business coach and host of the inspiration contagion podcast. A great quote from Holly in the Episode: “What is in your bucket of fear?”

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3 Great Signals From Holly

Leading others through inspiration.
It took a face to face confrontation with a bear on a backpacking trip to learn that I was way more powerful than I realized.
We all need to conquer our own self-limitations if we’re ever to get what we truly want in life.

The One Thing: Choose Again! Take action and make choices that are positive choices

The Cauliflower Moment:. Something is wrong with me! Can’t let other people tell us what is right for us.. trust yourself! Listen for the whole story!

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:14

are fired up. Welcome back to The switched on podcast. Today we have Holly Jean Jackson with us. Let's dive right in with Holly and Holly, how about you start by giving us a few more details on your background and and current work?

HollyJean Jackson 0:35

Sure. So Holly Jean Jackson, I am a holistic business coach, I work with entrepreneurs and CEO to build and scale their business. We do this in a way that taps into their health and their clarity at the foundation before tackling the business. My background, I worked in corporate America and higher education and nonprofit for 12 years and various executive level roles, leading teams, leading programs, developing products, doing launches globally. All kinds of things that really helped me hone my skills on communication, organization, strategy, marketing, and a lot of things across the business.

Dan Riordan 1:13

Yeah, neat. So the term holistic business coach, maybe give us a bit more insight on what that encompasses. And it's not a you know, a common way it's designated. So I'm curious to hear a bit more about it.

HollyJean Jackson 1:27

Sure. So I know when I was looking for my business coach, I've kind of shopped around and asked what makes you unique. And when I got into coaching myself, as a business coach, I realized that my secret sauce was really going deeper on the health side and the life side. And if you really think about it, the entrepreneurs journey is very windy, it's got a lot of ups and downs. And so our health is super important. And there's a lot of stress, whether it's good or bad, that can get in the way of our success in our business. And really how we show up in our health affects our business directly. So a lot of people I would be working with as a business coach would have a lot of stress and anxiety, it was not allowing them to get sleep. And so they didn't have the energy they needed to build or scale their business. And this had a direct correlation on their success. And then in addition, I have some clients where they're either in a career, or they're building a business, and it's not aligned with their life priorities, they've never stopped to think, oh, gosh, what are the six or seven things that are super important to me, that I must accomplish in this lifetime. And so oftentimes, we'll dig into that. And we'll realize that, Oh, well wait, we need to either go to a completely different career, build a different business, or make some tweaks and fine tune things that it is aligned, and then things start working directly in their business. So I found that a lot of people, they want to start with the business, but when they're doing all the right things, and it's still not giving us the external outcomes that we would expect, it's always something to do with their health or life that's out of alignment.

Dan Riordan 3:01

Boy, I can really relate to it. When scaling the last company think HR, as we went from 10 people to 80 people and then 80 people to 180 people, the demands on me and others in the enterprise, really just the dynamics and the energy and the all the things crashing in on us, it really became so important to manage all avenues. And there was some real real times of soul searching some real times of grasping for more energy, because you just couldn't quite keep up with it. There was times of burnout there was, you know, all of it was stuff, we really, you really had to learn how to manage. So I love the angle and the insight you're taking, because it's an attack that I took was managing my own personal energy in a completely different way. So it really resonates. If you were to think about, like kind of the top two areas where people would that you say, Okay, these are the the number one and number two things to really focus on energy wise, what would you pick those out to be?

HollyJean Jackson 4:11

I'm just giggling because when it comes to her energy, people are going to hate me for saying this, but you need to focus on her asleep. And I was like, Oh, I don't want to focus on my sleep fall asleep when I die. And I hate when people say this because the reality is you're actually shortening your lifespan and you're gonna die so much sooner if you don't invest in quality sleep. Now, I know I work with a lot of moms and it's more difficult for them to get what we should be is seven hours of sleep at night. So if you are a mom or you have a difficult schedule, you're working as swing shifts. Try to get at least four hours of sleep and then make sure you're doing a practice like yoga nidra. So you're getting rests going to a deprivation float center so that you're getting rest and other ways to get your brain into a state of theta brainwave. So you're still getting similar to actually Sleep rest at night, it's been shown scientifically, we need at least seven hours to optimally allow our brain to function. And that's where we get all of our ideas and our brilliance comes out as well as the superpowers that we have as entrepreneurs. So sleep is the number one needle mover. The second thing is really kind of supporting like good sleep quality and good sleep habits, and really is just committing to healthy sleep routines. So that's going to be things like not having caffeine past, you know, two or 3pm in the afternoon. Things like don't exercise too late in the day. Things like having a really nice, cool, quiet technology, free sleep zone, anything you can do to amplify your sleep. Again, it comes back to sleep.

Dan Riordan 5:46

Yeah, it's. So I used to be one of these people that believed I could do it all on four to five hours a night of sleep. And then sounds like you know, I read a few studies on this and started to see the data around the rest your brain really needs and the time and the seven hours. And what I found for me that triggered it all was once I cleaned my diet up. And I started to really shift the way I was putting stuff into my system. And my nighttime meal now is very small, I don't drink alcohol, I change the lot of the things, all of a sudden, I started sleeping seven hours, perfect. And then I was feeling so much better and vibrancy, I really can't believe I used to think that the other way works. So I would definitely agree with you that sleep is such a big part of it.

HollyJean Jackson 6:43

Well, as you just referenced, it's all connected, right? So if you have pain, you're going to have difficulty sleeping, if you have anxiety and stress, your mind is so hyperactive, it's going to be hard for you to fall asleep. So the more you amplify your health, that includes your diet, your exercise, your pain level, anything you can do to improve these things makes it easier for you to sleep. But ultimately, the number one thing you could do for your health is to get sleep. Because the things that your brain does in terms of healing the body, processing difficult things, helping you resolve potential conflicts that are already on your table or coming up that next day. Everything is easier when you're getting sufficient sleep.

Dan Riordan 7:24

Yeah, great tip. When you are thinking about how to lead and you're scaling in an enterprise, small, big, whatever it is, you in some of my pre show notes, you know, leading others through inspirations was a big topic for you. So I wanted to have you give some insights on how do we do that? what's the what's whether it's one person that you're leading her? It's a big team? What do you what do you recommend to really accelerate that?

HollyJean Jackson 7:56

Yeah, so as I interview leaders with my podcast, inspiration, contagion, I learned even more around this, and it helps me amplify my leadership capabilities. But if you really think about it, it's not really possible to inspire others if you don't have a vision, if you don't know the mission, and the vision that you're leading towards, and that you're trying to get people behind. And if you don't believe in that vision or mission, and you can't clearly articulate it, why on earth would anybody follow you. So my tips in terms of being an inspirational leader is one figure out what your passion is, and make sure that your passion is actually aligned with the vision and mission that you're leading. If it's not, you should probably find somebody else to leave that because you're not going to get anybody behind you without that inspiration. The second thing is you really need to take action tied to that you can't just say conceptually, what your vision and mission is. You have to also as a leader, be taking tangible actions towards making that a reality. So that your followers see you walking the talk of leadership, see you marching towards building that vision, something together. And then the third thing is, is that with inspiration, it's not just this conceptual thing around inspiration, it's about motivating yourself, staying tuned into that vision, constantly going back to it when you're making decisions with your team, or there's conflict amongst the team. Always go back to the vision, always go back to the ultimate customer that you're impacting with whatever it is that you're building, whether it's a movement, a client based product, or even something in your family.

Dan Riordan 9:32

Yeah. When one thing I had to do a real gut check on to the kind of reference into this was, as we were scaling, I hit this wall of my own productivity where I was not responding people. I was taking two or three days to get back to them on questions or action items. And I had this just this really horrible weekend one weekend where I realized I had to reframe the entire way. When I was working, if I expected them to move quicker in the enterprise to move faster, and I had to, I made a commitment to everyone in the company, which was, my day is pretty well scripted out. But if you get me something by three o'clock by tomorrow morning at nine, I will have you an answer. And I started to ensure them so that they knew that they would get an answer. And I've freed up this huge amount of potential in the company. And and motivation and inspiration because I took it on. But it was, it was not until I started to crash and burn that, that I had to come face to face with that. So really interesting. good points.

HollyJean Jackson 10:42

Yeah, well, I mean, as you just said, your your words, your commitment to building that trust with your followers is really crucial. If they don't have faith and trust in you. They're not going to follow you. So it's really, really important that when you make these agreements, like he said, I'm committing, if you send that by 3pm, I'll return it by 9am. You'll hear back from me. And they understand that the slight lag time, but if they get it in, they will hear a response otherwise will be the following day that get that makes them feel heard and understood and know that you're taking what they're sharing is valuable input.

Dan Riordan 11:17

Yeah, yeah, really was magical. And it taught me a big lesson inside of all of these tips, you just gave each one of them's kind of similar magnitude. Talk to me about this face to face confrontation with a bear. I have never had such a thing. But I can only imagine what that moment was like, but maybe share with us a little bit of what that was all about.

HollyJean Jackson 11:43

Yeah, I had just gone through a divorce and was really going out backpacking solo to deal with some of my own inner bears. And I felt like I needed, you know, some time in solitude in nature. And so I went on this trip. And on the third day of that trip, I came to a really dense part of the forest. And as I glanced down, I saw this large set of bear paw prints, and then another small set, and I turned the next corner. And sure enough, there was mama bear. And all of my fears flashed before my eyes, my life flashed before my eyes as she started charging directly towards me. And it's kind of weird, what happens like time really does stand still when your life is on the line. And I had that experience. But I also remembers that these fellow backpackers showed me how to charge their back. And so I took a step forward. And with everything in me, I was like, right back at this bear, and it works. She stopped and she walked away. So while you're listening, you're kind of like, Well, what does that have to do with me? Well, a lot of us are facing bears today, that could that today could be you know, leaving an abusive relationship, but you're afraid to make that change. It could be starting your business, but you're afraid you might fail. Whatever your bear is, I'm just here to tell you that if I can face a bear in the woods and survive to tell you the story, there's no bear too big for you to charge head on. So it's really about facing our fears and coming out on the other side of that.

Dan Riordan 13:14

Yeah, that's a great story. I know, I've heard about charging bears, but I never imagined that I would actually do it in the moment. So it's, it's amazing that you that you did it

HollyJean Jackson 13:29

is not something anybody would imagine. And it's not really part of the typical bear protocol. But it's a last resort. And when a bear is charging you and your life is flashing before your eyes. It's kind of amazing what you can do.

Dan Riordan 13:40

Yeah, wow, I can only imagine that one. When you talk about conquering self limitations, to get what we truly want in life. This one's really near and dear to me. And I love to hear your insight on it and how you coach and help people do that.

HollyJean Jackson 14:01

Yeah, I mean, I think what I noticed is a lot of our self limiting thoughts fall into the bucket of fear. And I've never seen more fear than last year and even bleed into this year. It's 2021. But 2020, we had the beginning of the pandemic, and that's continued for over a year now. And so everybody's fear is heightened. We're seeing that the media, we're seeing a lot of people go out of business. And so a lot of the self limiting beliefs that I'm seeing today are around lack of money and like a lot of negative thoughts around that fear of going out of business, fear of failure, fear of dying, there's just so much rampant fear, and it's so dangerous and so easy to get caught up in that what I call rabbit hole thinking where you start to spiral down the rabbit hole of negative thinking. And so a lot of the times I talk about fear a lot in my webinars, my events, my summits and when I'm coaching clients because when we're interested We're not open to the opportunities that are actual solutions. So to give you a specific example, since you're asking for self limiting beliefs, I have a lot of clients who struggle with their relationship and beliefs around money. So especially because they're in the service industry, they believe that it's bad to receive money for the services they're providing, because they feel like they should be, you know, healing clients, a lot of them are in the medical field, or they feel like they should just be giving their services away for free. So there's this belief that started probably from childhood, if not generations before, and as affecting them at this level from childhood on. And so we have to do a lot of rewiring in a way that they can actually emotionally connect to a new belief that's actually serving them so that they can have money in their business so they can support their family. And so that honestly, they can serve more people and heal more people and help more people. But this is a really common belief that a lot of entrepreneurs and even people in career track, you know, journeys are on, they feel bad about earning income. And the reality is, is there's plenty of money to go around. So we should release this limiting belief and shift that to how, if we have that money, how would we use that to help others? And can we feel good about that?

Dan Riordan 16:27

Yeah. Well, really interesting point, I like your take on the if you have money, how can you help others, it's a great way to reframe it because making making money, it does empower you, and there's a lot of good you can do with it. And it's not just about buying the the bigger boat or the fancier car, there's a lot of wonderful things to support. And I think that's a really neat way to re reframe the bucket of fear I wrote wrote down that none that name that you had said, but you know, I think fear appears and shows up for us all in so many ways. And this year, this last year, you know, what I see over and over now is just what what's transpired is everybody's just gotten so confused, because there's so many stories where you can read this side of it, and then you can pick up the 10 new websites and read this side of it. And there's no way to discern what's true. And everybody is wading through this morass of disillusionment, and everyone doesn't know how to feel stable, how to get back to a clear plane. And I've never seen anything like kind of what we're all experiencing. What do you how do you help people kind of get rebased like to get stabilized? Well,

HollyJean Jackson 17:52

I mean, my typical advice for my clients is, is not really productive to spend that much time reading all the media out there, like yeah, stay informed. But again, don't go Don't go down the rabbit hole of the media, because that's really what it is. It's just...

Sean Michael Crane ON DO YOU FEEL STUCK OR LOST BUT KNOW YOU WERE MADE FOR MORE?

Dan Riordan — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 07:15:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on how to improve your life. With me Sean Crane, author of the new book Prison of your own, coach and more. A great quote from Sean in the Episode: “I felt not in control and was living carelessly”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show.

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3 Great Signals From Sean

1. In that cell I started to create the life of my dreams that I am able to live today.

2. I completely transformed my mentality, my routines, and the results I got in my life.

3. You deserve it and you are far more capable than you realize!

The One Thing: no matter where you're at in your life or what you've been through, you can shift your perspective and mentality to go from somebody who listens to fear and doubt and follows that path become that outcome or you can start to follow your heart and be the person you want every day in every moment.

The Cauliflower Moment:. “Was running away from my life, was numb and checked out…and then I realized I don’t ever have to use drugs or alcohol again.”

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:04

Welcome back to the switch on podcast today we have Sean cream with us. Let's dive in Shawn, and have you start by giving us a few more details on your background.

Sean Crane 0:37

From Santa Barbara, California. I have three beautiful children, my wife. Life is good man.

Dan Riordan 0:44

That's awesome, you know, Santa Barbara is a great, it's a great place and especially with kids and all of that it's a phenomenal locale. So, yeah so Shawn is signing on your book I'm looking forward to diving into it myself I just I didn't know you had actually put that out before when we scheduled this so it's exciting to know that you've got that coming because we all need help with this kind of mentality. As we dive in a little bit. You had made a statement in one of the things I had read in the pre show about from a cement box. You were able to take control of your life, like it's really cool for everybody to hear a little bit of your story because it's not a normal path but it's an amazing transition.

Sean Crane 1:34

Yeah, yeah. Well, you know, my entire life leading up to being incarcerated. I didn't feel like I was in control of my life. I felt more like a victim as if things were just constantly happening to me. And they would beat me down. And I found myself addicted to drugs and alcohol, really hopeless with no direction. I mean, I had a lot of family around me I had a lot of support my own parents were battling their own demons so it was a lot of pain, growing up that I didn't, I sought to numbing check out as often as I could. And when I found myself incarcerated from crime I did not commit. I didn't have anything to turn to externally to try to numb myself, I couldn't hide from the truth in my life any longer. And what happened was, I've been living my whole life, like I said that a loss of control. I wasn't controlling myself my emotions. So I couldn't have the type of effect or impact on my life that I was just drifting aimlessly. So here I am, locked up in a cell, 23 hours a day with absolutely nothing but my own thoughts, the truth started to emerge, because I was reflecting and the introspection on a daily basis allowed me to start seeing, you know, what life truly was in my eyes, and how I had neglected it. And that was one of the most profound moments in my life that I started to understand the value of this journey, like how it's precious and it's it's limited we don't get to live forever in this life, and that did something to me Dan because you got to that point being so young and living carelessly. I didn't have that perspective. So, I realized that if I was going to make this journey calgon started with me, started with me and every little thought every little action. Everything I did moment to moment how that would accumulate and lead to the life that I live. So, despite the fact that I was incarcerated. I started becoming hyper focused on all of my thoughts, all of my emotions. And really, assuring that all of those were in alignment. Personally I want to be going for, not the person.

Dan Riordan 3:41

Yeah, that's, I wrote a few comments down here. One of the things, living carelessly, is something that I never really thought of myself as a careless person but as I progress through life and then as I started to awaken. I started to realize, I lived so carelessly I just didn't pay attention and didn't really honor what was really happening and what was really possible in this whole journey that we call life so it's a really cool way to say it just living carelessly because I think a lot of us just kind of go through the motions and really don't give it the value

Sean Crane 4:30

that experience, completely transformed the route I looked at myself and my life because I saw how precious it wasn't how quickly things can be taken away when they're taken away, I believe that's when we can truly understand that value, you know, stuff that we overlook. And that's what happened to me. I mean there was a time where I didn't know how much time I would be incarcerated, they were talking about having the incarcerated for decades or half of my life, and I looked at it as if I died and came back to life and this was my second chance. And that was the mentality that I started to approach, every single day with despite the fact that I was incarcerated. And with that approach and mentality and the gratitude that started to surface within me for getting a second chance for being alive and having this opportunity. I started to maximize my days in a jail cell and transformed my life.

Dan Riordan 5:19

So, how did the, the time there get shortened then Was this something that kind of manifested out of your new mindset of gratitude and, you know, kind of living more into the possibilities, is that what was that what pulled that timeframe in or was there. Another thing that injected in.

Sean Crane 5:42

Yeah, legal system. Criminal legal system, our justice system, oftentimes they try to scare you with like, they start off with a really big number and then they can work down. And so at first, they're talking about putting me in prison for life because someone was really harmed. And I was playing for it. Someone almost lost their life. So, the severity of it right it was very, very serious matter. And so through the ordeal of going into core. Evidence being brought forth, they decided to just still charge me the crime, unfortunately. But give me a lesser sentence so they charged me with assault with a deadly weapon for seven years. And this is a crime I didn't commit. I but I had to sit there and accept it because the police report. The whole scenario was just completely against me there was no way I could win in trial. So here I'm at 23 years old, realizing I have to plead guilty for a prominent commit going into prison with a mentality that this is going to change my life for the better. And I'm going to make each day count so that I can come home and live the life in my heart I felt like,

Dan Riordan 6:57

wow. That's powerful. It's really amazing. When you talk about what you transformed, your mentality your routines and then that led to the results. What are the things, some what are some of the things you attacked in there to transform.

Sean Crane 7:16

So, we think that we need big accomplishments to change who we are. And I realized early on. It's the smallest most simple things that we do on a daily basis that shape and mold, our reality, our perspective our mindset and how we're living lives. And the precursor for me was belief that if I gave my all to everything that I did that it would improve my life, and I was going to create this energy this confidence this belief inside of me, that would be carryovers the bigger things the bigger opportunities later on. So for me it started with getting up early. It started with having a specific morning routine It started with the way I clean my jail cell before with as much pride as I could. It started with all my workouts on a daily basis, pushing myself to become stronger fitter. All my letters written home to be immaculate perfect spelling perfect penmanship. All of these little things, you know, reading, and then looking up words in the dictionary because I didn't know the meaning and memorizing them anything that I could touch or get my hands on inside that cell, I would, I was exhausted. Right, I would do it to the best way ability, and I would do it consistently every day. And that started to shape the way I approach. You know, every day of my life, I started to shape the way I perceived myself and my abilities. Because early on, I was out of shape. Because addicted to drugs and alcohol. I didn't really have much of a formal education, so I didn't think I was intelligent. So early on I would write letters home and people would tell me Hey you misspelled this word Hey, this was not spelled right, and I would have to ask myself, you know how to pretty much write the whole letter. I didn't like the way that made me feel in here, my true self the person I knew deep within that stuff who I was, but I had just neglected myself for so many years. So one day I asked my soulmate Hey How do you spell such and such words, and he threw a dictionary, in the shoulder a little small dictionary. And this was one of the, one of those moments that changed my life forever. And this is I got kind of upset because he hit me with a dictionary and says, Okay, I'm going to show him I'm gonna show the world what I'm capable of. I started looking up everywhere, I started writing my letters, as if they're going to be published in the New York Times, to the best of my ability to the point where I could see my writing change I can start to feel my, my mind my intellect my speed of thought and through a memory, all these things and people would write me letters back, you know, Sean Are you still writing these letters you having someone else penmanship. And, and then, you know, I never forget my cellmate would write letters to, like, two girls and friends, and he asked me to write a poem for them one time. And so I wrote a poem, and they wrote back and they loved it, they loved it, they're like oh my gosh you I can't believe you wrote that poem. And in that moment I realized, wow. So, be putting forth your effort not making an excuse. Just give it my all and see what happens. I got this positive feedback, and in there that was that that seed of belief, I can do this. And that started to carry over to other things. When I went to prison I had the opportunity to take college correspondence courses and gone through those experiences, early on the county jail, and that belief that started to form in my ability I never would have taken, because all my life. I would shy away from things like that for fear of judgment fear of not being good enough fear of failure, but I went for it. And I ended up getting four college degrees while incarcerated. I got six months off of my sentence, right, that gave me the confidence to go forth and write a book when I came home it just transformed everything, so that's all decision in the cell early on, just give my all and not allow fear to hold me back like it had my whole life. It changed my whole life, it changed everything.

Dan Riordan 10:56

Wow, that's really great. I love listening to you on that segment you just went through the few things that I triggered on in there was, you know, putting forth the effort and putting forth the effort to do it right, or to do it in a way that you actually you know you care about what you're, what you're doing is something that I know we all struggle with it, and it triggered a memory for me in the last startup company I was in as the company was scaling I was starting to let down a lot of people because I wasn't responding to emails I was letting two or three days go by and I was really starting to bog down the whole company, and I literally I came home and I said okay I got to completely redo who I'm being and how I'm being in recreated a new process that gave people, you know, I will respond by 9am tomorrow morning, no matter what. And as soon as I did that it like unlocked the power of the whole company, because then people weren't sitting around waiting for easier isn't gonna respond. crap you know last the day. But, just paying attention, just caring enough, it really taught me a big lesson. And as you just said that it triggered that memory of Wow, such an important point so thanks for bringing that out. I think it's one for all of us.

Unknown Speaker 12:19

Absolutely.

Dan Riordan 12:20

So when you look at this path and the book that you just brought out the prison of your own is the name right. The what what's your big motivation behind that book, you know, obviously the name says a lot but what are the things you're really trying to punch out for people.

Sean Crane 12:44

A lot of times in life. Oftentimes we are stuck or we feel like we're not living up to our potential and what we truly want, and it's simply because we're holding back. We're our own worst enemy right and we can't even see it. And you and I discussed this before we started this interview. So what happened when I went to jail and I was incarcerated and there was no distractions, there was no people with the phones TV no job, no children take care of it. I just started to see the truth, I started to see the truth, and the truth was that it was me. I live carelessly. You know my actions indirectly led me to that stuff, all I just saw the truth about all of my decisions, over the years, and I realized in that moment, I hadn't done anything in my life that I'm proud of, or that I truly wanted to do deep in my heart, and that crushed me across because I had so much potential in so many opportunities growing up in Santa Barbara, California. And so I realized that a lot of people go their whole lives, holding back for fear, fear, am I good enough, self doubt, being judged by others, and we don't go after what we really want, and then we end up

someplace in our lives with immense regret and remorse for not following through with what we wanted to do. So I wrote this book to show that no matter where you're at in your life or what you've been through, you can shift your perspective and mentality to go from somebody who listens to fear and doubt and follows that path because that outcome. and you can start to follow your heart and be the person you want every day in every moment. And when you do so, the energy and excitement that is created inside you, is indescribable. I mean I started doing this in a jail cell, just by like I said looking at words, cleaning my floor like starting to take college courses anything to the best of my ability in whatever interest whatever I feel in my heart that I want to do, and pursue. I did, and every time it was fear and doubt there. Are you good enough. Can you do it, and I did it anyways because at this point I have nothing. I have nothing to lose I'm incarcerated. And I started to see how I felt really good and proud of myself for good. You know I was more capable than I had previously thought. And then other doors and opportunities but surface or I would have the confidence to pursue another goal. And I steadily followed my vision and the whole time in prison that led me to like I said, getting college degrees, going through the drug programs they have in their becoming in May counselor mentoring other inmates, which helped me to discover my passion and my purpose of serving people coaching people guiding people. So that gave me a new vision of what I wanted to do when I came home, when I came home the challenges were still there I'm an ex felon. I had nobody in my pocket, no car. No, no, nothing of starting from zero. But I continued to just follow my heart and pursue my vision, and those fears were there the anxiety the stress was there, but I have built that confidence in self through all those small decisions for five and a half years. So that allowed me to start working in gyms with clients, helping them with their health and fitness to start an online coaching platform to becoming a life coach or a published author, they all of these things that I never would have done if I didn't face my fears and follow my heart. That's the message of the book that were built with this internal compass this moral compass. Every day we have decisions to make. Or those decisions in alignment with fear. Are they in alignment with what you truly want, if you couldn't fail what actions would you be taking. And I feel like that's the one of the over overarching premise of our lives is that they are your decision to create a life that you want, are they holding you back and leading you down a life regret.

Dan Riordan 16:14

Yeah. The. Some of the ways I've thought about that is, I realized that one of my default ways of trying to do things was always using force. And what I mean by that was, you know, not really going the way I kind of felt that internal compass was directing me but geez I'm smart enough I'm strong enough on this that another I can make that happen. And no matter what, and even if it wasn't supposed to happen, I'd figure out a way to make it happen. But in there, there's a real pattern there of those things that I've forced to happen really never worked out. The way that I wanted, and really being much more aligned to the intuition and the signals I'm getting and, and the things that are supposed to be followed the path there is much easier and my success rate of those things working out is completely different. So, really, really cool. When you think about, people listening spending half an hour with us. And you want them to take away one message from this that they can use tomorrow, rest of their life. What is the one thing I mean I'm hearing a pretty common drumbeat from you but love for you to sum up, you know, here's, here's the one thing

Sean Crane 17:43

up into one sentence one message. So if I had to pick one, it would be what I just touched on Dan and that and that a lot of people don't want themselves to feel like they're not doing that....

Terry Tucker ON REINVENTING YOURSELF TO LIVE EXTRAORDINARY LIVES

Dan Riordan — Wed, 10 Feb 2021 07:15:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on l how to live extraordinary lives. With me is Terry Tucker, the author of Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life . A great quote from Terry in the Episode: “I am not afraid to die because I've lived. We are all going to die, but we are not all going to live!” Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Terry

1) Lead a life of significance

2) Use the pain as fuel to make you stronger

3) Fight for your life

The One Thing: Control your Mind, or it will control you

The Cauliflower Moment:. There's no normal, there's just life, and get on with living years. You know, I was kind of in that I just want to lead a normal life, but I didn't know what a normal life was, but I'd like to not have cancer. So here are the cards I've been dealt, I've got to play those, I've got to play those to the best of my ability

NOTES FROM SHOW

Welcome back to The switched on podcast today we have Terry Tucker with us. He is an author cancer survivor and collegiate athlete, and more. Welcome Terry excited to have you on the show today. Let's dive in and have you start by giving us a bit more insight on your background,

Terry Tucker 0:37

appreciate you having me on the show. I was born and raised in Chicago, I am the oldest of three boys I am six foot eight, I have a brother who's six foot seven, who pitched for the University of Notre Dame. I have a brother who's six foot six was drafted by the Cleveland Cavaliers and my dad was six foot five so if you sat behind our family at church. Prayer students you were going to see anything that was going on whatsoever. And we had a mom who always wanted us to sit in the very front row, very front Pew at church so I'm sure there's a lot of people that didn't get a whole lot out of specifically basketball was an important part of my life, and I attended college at the Citadel in Charleston, South Carolina on a basketball scholarship, despite having three knee surgeries in high school when I graduated from college, I moved home to find a job I was the first person in my family to graduate from college and I was all set to make my mark on the world was my newly obtained Business Administration degree, I look back now and realize what a knucklehead I was about business. Fortunately, I was able to find that first job in the marketing department at the corporate headquarters of Wendy's international the hamburger chain, but unfortunately I ended up living with my parents for the next three and a half years, as I help my mother care for my grandmother and my father who were both dying of different forms of cancer in my professional career, I've been a marketing executive as I said at Wendy's I've been a hospital administrator, customer service manager and police officer. I spent three and a half years as an undercover narcotics investigator. I was a SWAT team hostage negotiator, a school security consultant, a high school basketball coach, most recently a motivational speaker and author and then for the last nine years, a cancer warrior. My wife and I have been married for 27 years and our only child, a daughter is a graduate of the United States Air Force Academy, and is an officer the newly created United States space force. So that's kind of me in a nutshell.

Dan Riordan 2:30

Wow, it's really cool background you said something that cracked me up because when I graduated, my undergrad, I was a knucklehead as well and I look back, There was one particular statement I made that I often just, I'm horrified that I said these words but I told my parents, I am so glad I'm done learning, I just want to go make money. And after engineering school I was just beat up and tired but I look back now and go, Oh my god I hadn't even started my learning journey. And so yeah it's quite interesting to look back at that younger you and some of the things you thought and said,

Terry Tucker 3:10

you know, just be quiet. Just be a sponge absorb whatever you can. And learn as much as you possibly can,

Dan Riordan 3:17

yeah. One of the things that you had mentioned in the pre show and in some of the things I had read about you was, you know, one thing that you've learned on this journey is during all your pain and suffering is that you had two choices, and I really wanted to hear you talk about that for a couple minutes. Sure.

Terry Tucker 3:37

set that up a little bit. The greatest challenge of my life really began in 2012 early 2012. When I was diagnosed with this rare form of melanoma, that presented on the bottom of my left foot, by the time that cancer was detected it had metastasized to lymph node in my groin. And because my cancer was so rare it was recommended that I be treated at an MD Anderson, which is probably the best cancer hospital that we have probably in the world, certainly in the United States. I want your audience to understand that what I'm going to describe to is what I experienced during my cancer journey I realize there are 1000s and 1000s of people out there who are suffering terribly with their diseases, whether they be mental or physical and I make no claims to have the market cornered on suffering. But one thing I've learned is that suffering is one of life's greatest teachers. So, at MD Anderson I had two surgeries to remove the tumor and all the lymph nodes in my groin, and I had a skin graft to close the wound on the bottom of my foot. After I healed I was put on a weekly injection of a drug called interferon to help keep the disease from coming back interferon at least for me was a horrible nasty debilitating drug, and I took those weekly interferon injections for four years and seven months before the medicine became so toxic to my body that ended up in the intensive care unit with a fever of 108 degrees, which usually isn't compatible with being alive. Right. While I was on interferon, it gave me severe flu like symptoms for two to three days after each injection. I lost 50 pounds during my therapy I used to joke to my wife that I was pretty sure I was skinny enough that I could go hang gliding I had to read Oh, you know, but I was, you know, I basically had the flu, every week for five years, and I counted it up one day and this misery went on for over 1660 days. And the one thing I learned during all my payments suffering is you have two choices. You can succumb to built any discomfort and misery, or you can learn to embrace it and use it to make you a stronger and better human being. I chose the latter, but please understand that there were days that I felt so poorly, and I was in so much agony, and I literally prayed to die. I just wanted out of this life. Each day was was just a struggle to use my mind to override the apathy and the distress that my body was feeling. Again, I was so better dealing with pain and discomfort than the next person, but every day, I found a way to survive with the knowledge that I need to do it again the following morning. Unfortunately, my cancer experience has ended with me conquering my disease the melanoma that had plagued me since 2012 returned in 2017, and eventually My only treatment option was the amputation of my left foot which occurred in January of 2018 cancer returned again in 2019 requiring two additional surgeries, and then early last year an undiagnosed tumor in my ankle grew large enough to fracture my tibia my shin bone. And that led to the amputation of my leg above the knee during the middle of a global pandemic further testing has revealed that I have multiple tumors in my lungs, and I've been undergoing a clinical trial to try to deal with that but my oncologist is not optimistic about my long term survivability. But I just refuse to be a victim to this malignancy, you know I vowed to continue my fight. I knew the only way the cancer could win, is if I gave up or gave into the disease or killed me. I understand what it's like to fight for your life. And the one thing I've learned is that as long as you don't quit. You can never be defeated. Motivation alone, you know is not going to get you to where you want to be. You have to continue to fight and realize that you have to struggle every minute of every single day. And that's pretty much what I've done, to get me to this point, and it's been almost nine years since I was diagnosed

Dan Riordan 7:34

man that is quite a story it is, um, you know, a lot, a lot of us, you take this life for granted in some ways, and I was just writing some notes but you know fighting for your life is, is really a very deep and interesting thought because you know I've gone on my own journey that was not propelled by a deep fight like you've had but I really have started to frame it as you know fighting for this. Healthy Living you know and really trying to be as healthy as possible. In this life so that I can maximize the experience of of what we're given. So, really, really amazing and inspirational and it's. That sounds like you. You have a fight left in you and a fight still to go so it's pretty amazing when you, when you look at the inspiration for the book that you've come out with. Maybe you can share with us. Obviously I think the inspiration has to be rooted in in this path but what what is the inspiration behind it and then maybe share a little bit about the, the 10 principles that are in the book.

Terry Tucker 8:47

Sure. So, it's called sustainable excellence, the 10 principles to reading your uncommon and extraordinary life, and the book is really born out of two conversations that I that one was with a former basketball player that I coached who shoot her boyfriend and flew to Colorado where my wife and I live, and we'd had dinner with him a couple times and I remember saying to her. Hey, I'm really excited that you're here because I get to watch you find and live your purpose, and she kind of got quiet and then came back to me and she's like, well, Coach, what do you think my purpose is. And I said, I don't know what your purpose is, that's what your life should be about finding that purpose. And then once you find it, living it. So I kind of turned a light bulb on I guess in her mind so that was one conversation. and then I had a basketball player down at the Citadel connect with me on LinkedIn, and he wanted to know what I thought were the most important things he should learn to be successful, not only in his career, but in life as well. And I thought about my response for a while I didn't want to give him the standard, you know, work hard and help others show up early, etc. I wanted to give them something I wanted to go deeper. I want to be deeper than that. So eventually I started writing down thoughts and ideas and I came up with these 10 principles that either I had experienced in my life, or I knew other people who had experienced them in their life, and I was able to use those experiences as examples, to kind of put stories underneath the principles and how they would be effective and successful and so I'll share, I'll share a couple of them with you Just some of my favorites that I really, I really liked her that I really enjoyed the first one and I think this is so important and the reason I like it so much is because I violated it a million times growing up, I think we probably all have. And it's this. Most people think with their fears and their insecurities, instead of using their minds, and I've had people ask me, you know, hey I really kind of like to do this or I'd like to move in this direction in my job or, or in my personal life, but it scares. And I always tell people when they say that if you feel compelled to move in a direction if whatever your mind is telling you to do something, and it scares you, I tell you to go ahead and do it, because at the end of your life. You're not going to be disappointed by the things that you did. You're going to be disappointed by the things that you want to do, and that for whatever reason fear whatever motivated you not to do those, so I always tell people to do that. And I find I used those principles, I'm like, I'm scared of this I'm not gonna do it can I get mad at myself now you know as I'm older, I think I should have done that, yeah that's that's one of the principles that I really like the old one, that I'll share with you is that you were born to lead an uncommon, and extraordinary life. And that has absolutely nothing to do with how much money you make, what kind of job you have, what kind of car you drive where you live, etc. We are not all born with the same gifts and talents, but we all have the ability to become the best person that we're capable of becoming. And then the last one and again these are not in any particular order, but the one I think that this is probably the most important and I don't know why I put it last but it's that I was a big fan of john wooden was basketball at UCLA when I was growing up, and and coach wouldn't I mean these teams were amazing they they won seven national championships of basketball in a row, which I mean you're lucky today if you can win two in a row. And one of the things that Coach Wooden was in addition to being a great tactician he was a great thinker, and he wanted his players, not only to be good basketball players, but to be good human beings I remember listening to an interview with him one day and he, and somebody asked him, they were talking X's and O's they were talking basketball, and somebody asked him what. So what do you think is the most important concept, the most important thing that you can impart to your players, and I'm sitting on the edge of my seat as a little kid like, okay, here comes in, it's gonna be something great you know that I can use on the court. And he said one word, and that word was love llv, you know if we can put more love back into this world, if we can love each other. Think about how amazing our lives can be, you know, instead of being jealous I wish I was as good as him but at the end of your life. You're not gonna be judged on what somebody else did. You're gonna be judged on what you did, and the gifts and the talents that you were given. What did you do with those gifts and talents to make this world a better place. So those are those are just three of the chapters that are in there. The rest of them, you know you can get the book on Amazon Barnes and Noble and all that kind of stuff. I didn't write the book to make money I wrote the book to help people and. And I think one of the greatest things, since it's been out and it's only been out for three months is, I had an 87 year old man, contact me and say that he read the book, and he wished he'd had these principles when he was younger, because he thought his life would have been a whole lot better. And when he said that I'm like, okay, I do feel really good about writing the book.

Dan Riordan 13:55

Yeah. It's wonderful. You know, if you can influence one person or millions. It's all it's all worth it. Right, it's helping humanity and helping the greater good. The so many things to unpack and what you said. JOHN wooden is somebody I grew up with as well, and I have used many of his principles in building teams at work and some of the wisdom that is available in YouTube's and other places that he talks about his philosophies has, has been a huge guiding post for me so it was amazing to hear you reference him because he's somebody I have looked to for a long time, and amazing human and coach, and the other piece there is love, and you know it. It's such an interesting word because at some levels. It's misunderstood because it connotes one thing but it's such a vital tool for all of us and for me when I started to really take on my personal health journey. I actually had to start at a really strange place which was realizing that I didn't actually love myself enough that I cared enough about what I was really doing. And so I had to start at square one of saying, Okay, I gotta love me I gotta love myself before I'm gonna have the energy and the ability to love others, and it was quite both a stripping down but also on the flip side it's been amazing. Once you once you get comfortable in that whole mindset so love.

Terry Tucker 15:43

These days you know we seem to always be tearing each other down as a way of trying to lift ourselves up so love I don't think it doesn't easily come off the lips of too many people in our culture today and and that's why I'm really committed it's really something I feel in my heart that my soul that I need to put as much love as much positivity as much goodness back into this world, with whatever time I have left. So, if I can do that. You know I'm way past the, you know, I gotta be better than this or the competition. It's, I don't.

Terry Tucker 16:18

help you as a person, whoever you are a young person or middle aged person or old person. If I can do that, then it just makes me feel a whole lot better about myself.

Dan Riordan 16:27

No. Yeah, boy, 100% agree and I don't know about you but I I learned a lot of these things, you know late in life and, you know, obviously, I know my soul was meant to go through what it went through but boy I wish I would have had some of this bigger level insight. Many years ago. So,

Terry Tucker 16:51

you wouldn't be the person you will struggle to get to where we are now. And now we understand that stuff. Yeah, if we just knew it as kids or young people who would be like, it doesn't have the meeting, it was the struggle that we went through to get to that knowledge that really made us the people we are.

Dan Riordan 17:08

Yeah, 100%, you're right on. It's a, it's exciting to to listen to you and I know you're gonna impact a lot of people, because I can hear the genuine compassion and love that you have for everybody so that's exciting to meet somebody like that and have your voice just keep getting pushed out because it's a message that's got to be heard. Another question I ask guests that come on the show is, if you were to say what's the one thing, if, if, in this half an hour. People can take away at least one thing from your mindset your thought process that they could apply into their lives, what would that be.

Terry Tucker 17:50

I think the best way for me to answer that question...

Anadi Martel ON LEARNING HOW TO RESPECT LIGHT

Dan Riordan — Tue, 09 Feb 2021 07:15:00 -0700

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on learning how to respect light. With me is Anadi Martel Physicist, Author and Founder of Sensora. A great quote from Anadi in the Episode: “The incredible effects that light can have on both physical and mental health - and even on the awakening of consciousness”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Anadi

1) Lighting designed to provide you with a sense of well being and revitalized.

2) How different wavelengths of light influence our cells, brain function, sleep patterns, and emotional stability

3) The vibrational nature of light and the interaction between light, biology, and consciousness

The One Thing: Learn to respect Light. It is the source of all our energy.

The Cauliflower Moment:. Didn’t understand the power or depth of meditation. In teens read some books and change the whole course of life by learning the world to be explored within.

Welcome back to the switchedON podcast today we have an Anadi Martel with us, and Anadi is a physicist, specializing in the study of therapeutic applications of light. He's the author of the recent reference book light therapies, a complete guide of the healing power light. Welcome, Anadi. I'm really excited about this discussion, and I'd love for you to give a bit more background on yourself to everybody.

Anadi Martel 1:14

So, talking about lights and light is such a universal thing around us, that we tend to take it for granted and forget its, its beauty and its mysteries, and ultimately it is still a mystery, even the greatest physicists are locked into the deep nature, what is light and short. It's quick, remember that vendor, when you deal with lightning deal with something that's really what I find so fascinating about it as a business. It's one of the two things around us that concerns both the physical world. And because it costs us nearly all the energy on our planet comes from light sunlight, cannot be any more physical than that. And on the other hand, we all associate light with consciousness and much higher aspects of being. And so the same phenomena right seems to connect with both of these dimensions. And that's, that's really part of its appeal to complexity. Yeah, I'm

Dan Riordan 2:38

excited we're gonna be diving into that a bit more as we go through this discussion, it's. I know myself I was amazed at the fact that I had never stopped to consider that all not all light was not the same, you know i i think i was blissfully unaware of really questioning the fact that hey wait a minute you know all light is not created equal, in the open awareness of that really started to have me questioning so many things around light so it's part of what made me so excited to talk to you today.

Anadi Martel 3:19

Naturally, ultimate reference when you talk of light is sunlight screening what started everything all the light evolved on the sunlight. So we are very finely attuned to the most mild properties of sunlight in spectrum. It's written through an intensity throughout the day and so on. So, in the sunlight is the reference to which we should compare all of the sources of fungus and natural sunlight is mixture of colors, it's a broad spectrum blackbody radiation spectrum. So, it contains all the colors of the rainbow. And if you start to look at individual colors separately then you actually have a whole different world of dealing with your frequencies one single frequency of light. And that's, that's one of the areas where you can apply the power of light so it's, it can work, both in broad spectrums daylight white lights for our environments for living for being under the whole day. And that's one complex area in itself. And then you have the area of working with pure colors to frequencies which touches more. The healing properties of colors of light. Yeah.

Dan Riordan 4:55

So I'm going to ask the broad question here which I know is broad but I want to give everybody a reference point of why is light so essential to our health. And I know that that's big and you could probably talk for hours on that but what are what are some of the things you could summarize around why it's so essential.

Anadi Martel 5:17

As I just mentioned, it is a source of growing sunlight. Plants absorb sunlight and convert it into energy, which we then eat. So in this indirect way. We are entirely dependent on sunlight for our survival, but in a good place. It, it's being found out that we actually in some way also eat bite directly ourselves. We have some cellular mechanisms within ourselves that allow us to break from light into energy, and that is quite a recent discovery actually totally that is from the early 2000s. And that's the old feeling of what's called photo bio modulation, where we now know that light can accelerate the metabolism of mitochondria within each of our cells is our little energy engines that convert glucose into ATP which is the units of energy that our body uses. And within those mitochondria as it's been found out that expose them to certain parts of the spectrum of light, you will experience, stimulate conversion. So you can wave modulate that energy conversion through light that's why it's called photobiomodulation. So that new phenomenon that has been discovered fairly recently. And that has brought about a whole revolution in the way we use light in medicine, and we can now talk about which now 1000s of researchers are involved around the world. And this is a new phenomenon, up to the early 2000s there were very few researchers, looking into this.

Dan Riordan 7:29

Yeah. When I first started to investigate light myself I had stumbled upon a YouTube and a paper, and it opened my eyes to this ATP mitochondria mechanism, and what they were in particular talking about was how some of the new forms of LEDs and other things were actually missing some of the vital parts of the spectrum that actually powered that mechanism to take place in our bodies and I up until then I had no idea that might light was being manipulated in a way. So I'd love for you to share a little bit about a little bit more about the current state of that

Anadi Martel 8:22

growing quite complacent about artificial light. We kind of don't haven't been really thinking much about the potential health risks involved. And the reason for that is that the light we've been using for most of the past century, and the incandescent light is actually very similar to sunlight. It is a black buggy it's a slightly lower temperature around 20 25,000 100 degrees rather than 100 Kelvin rather than five, five, as in the sun. But basically, if you look at the spectrum. It's very similar. It's like a small sun. So, the impact on our biology hasn't been that much different from the impact of the sun itself. So there hasn't been really a health issue associated with artificial light. We've grown used to that over the decades, but not situation has entirely changed since the introduction first Bresson's lighting. Then, recently, the only sources of light, have spectrums that are completely different from the original sound spectrum. And because of that, they have different.

And sometimes we're going a bit too fast. In just making use of new technologies to just the ease which enabled paintings, but he that's one of the why in a nice good luck to trace place with us in consideration, without impacts. And as we speak. In fact, these days, it has become public. Fortunately, there's much, there's more and more women's invitations, and we are in a kind of transition phase. For people who deal with light. People matching healthy affections. As the basic problem with it is that they latch on one problem there is Schubert and what he referred to is the fact that they lacked in red, infrared and near infrared part of the spectrum. And this is part of the spectrum that activates this mitochondrial metabolism that we just mentioned, and sunlight contains a lot of it, and we see it in the form of heat sunlight is hot, so that there's a lot of energy a big proportion sunlight energy in our spectrum. And same thing with incandescent lamp. The emits actually more energy during that part of spectrum than they do in visible light. And this is in fact why they've been. We've been working so hard to replace them, because we people dealing with vision, feels that you're wasting all that energy with incandescent lights, whereas what you want is something to wear for vision so that's why fluorescent light created to bring back the sheer writing division physical violence spectrum and to eliminate that part of the spectrum that appear to be useless waste of energy, engineers, terms, until you become aware of the fact that this fine spectrum has a very important purpose and simply removing it is a mistake. And we've gradually slowly, it's, it's taking time, but we gradually awaken back to that to that realization.

Dan Riordan 12:12

know that when I learned about this. We actually went through our house and put incandescent light bulbs back in everywhere to, you know, just be around. Proper r more natural light. So we have not done anything. Since then we've left them all incandescent so we've definitely bucked the trend.

Anadi Martel 12:41

Unfortunately,

Anadi Martel 12:47

And so this lack of deep red and infrared is an issue. Another issue with the is the fact that they have often too much energy peak power spectrum because actually the source of light within an element isn't. and it does pose for coating and foster converse with photons, to broad spectrum that we see at white light. But if you look at the spectrum of the name above is the speed. And this equilibrium is right in another very sensitive part of our health. And that's another biggest factor of light on our time to touch on first question. And it's the rhythmicity of checking in with him. Biology and microbiology is a big thing. It's really fundamental to our health and consider getting the Nobel Prize in Medicine a couple of years back was given to the people discovered chronobiology rare. When deeper and it's decoding. So it is really a subject now that is seeing intense research around the world. And it's more and more clear that we need very much linked to the rhythm of lights from, from the day they lead to so that our inner clock is properly trained, and it should have locks around that. And it has short term effects. You can have insomnia or some type of stress. And we all know things like jet lag, when we shift our rhythm in relation with the environment where we are and the consequences are very unpleasant, but more willing. There also are long term consequences and this kind of position has been linked to many chronic illnesses, including diabetes, cancer, and things like that. So, this connection the sudden rhythm is another key to our job. And it so happens that it's linked to the blue font spectrum, because that's where we are sensors in the retina, and the elements to the core of the brain that regulate our own hormone balance. And this center is not specific in tune spectrum. So, whenever you look at an artificial source of light, it's very important to see how much blue light it emits as part of its overall spectrum. And again, when you look at sunlight, it's about balance, rather than for sounding incandescence, but we can easily have versions of form which are much are proportional. What that means is that they will act much more than others was the planet, hours clock. And so they have more potential to desynchronize. If we have them at the wrong time of the day.

Dan Riordan 16:25

Yeah, it is part of my light practice that I took up was going outside at sunrise every morning to take in the light from the sun, as it comes up to set my circadian clock rhythm for the day. Yeah, it really has made an impact and it's one that I, I know that as I got educated on it I tried to roll in a few pieces of light practice to help combat all this stressful light that went around.

Anadi Martel 17:06

Yeah, unfortunately, often, especially in Nordic countries. Yeah, it's not enough. We tend to live indoors most of the day so for many people it's initially in contact with bright sunlight.

Anadi Martel 17:22

And that's what's called right like they were used to light. Light in the morning to kind of recent like 10,000 Lux horses for SAE and I know everybody has heard that. Yeah. Today's trying to remediate with artificial light. Some of the locks that we may have.

Dan Riordan 17:54

Another thing I want to explore with you is this concept around the you know the vibrational nature of light and the interaction between light biology and consciousness and we briefly touch us in our pre show discussion but this interaction of light and consciousness is a really fascinating area, and I know it's one that you love to, to talk about and to explore So what can you share with everybody in that area.

Anadi Martel 18:26

Yes. He wants to talk about vibrations and light is pretty much the ultimate form of vibration that we have around us in our regular daily life. Nice pure vibration photons are electromagnetic waves and such, they have specific frequency, and your disability you have what's called a stem, like energy medicine or vibrational medicine. That is starting to explore the effects of these various frequencies. on our biology, on our health. And it's the way it's a way of looking at life, in terms of energy rather than in terms of biochemistry. And like we've been focusing the whole medical field and focusing, most of its energy on biochemistry for the past decades. But there's graduates graduate shift that's happening now, to consider more the energetic aspects of the interaction and themes and life. And it's still in the early stages of discovery and exploration, which is why it's the remaining kind of margins of mainstream medicine. But that is changing and evolving as more and more discoveries studies are highly qualified scientists, exploring the field. And so, when you start to touch light in its vibrational aspect that's a frequency. And then you can use it in all kinds of new ways. And as I mentioned, usually it's more in the form of colors pure colors. And because we. It's. We know pretty much from our own experience that colors, very strong effect on us, we should look at the pure rainbow There's hardly anything more beautiful, more vibrant which fascinated by it in a very natural way is pure codes of practice. It's built into our sensory system and this is important. So when you start to use pure colors. You touch more into an area of perception or cognition. Because then you. You start to touch more in the way that color as a deep effect on on our psyche. We all have a very personal, relation with colors. Right, like so much. And so when you start to work in a crematory with different colors and frequencies of light. There are many systems of healing that are based on that evolved sophisticated ways to wear the different colors to bring consciousness in different directions. And that's used for different forms of healing of psychotherapy can be helpful for depression for PTSD for insomnia, for chronic pain, there are many areas where colors, pure colors are very direct and effective effect on us. That's actually the area where I work myself where I create instruments who work in that direction.

Dan Riordan 22:20

Yeah, the complexity of this and the. When you realize like I'm wearing green today green has always been like my favorite color ever since I was a kid. I've always gravitated toward green and green colors, very strongly and I've always been very not aligned with things like orange or brown. And it's really interesting that you subtly gravitate towards these things and you don't even really realize you're doing it but there's real reason behind it.

Anadi Martel 23:00

The psychological profile of the person just according to their color choices. It's a very interesting.

Dan Riordan 23:09

Yeah. The. Another area was, you know, lighting designed to provide you with sense of well being and read of revitalization and I know your sense sort of products are aligned there. And I'd love for you to share a little bit about what you're doing there and how it you know does align with the sense of well being and revitalization for all of us

Anadi Martel 23:44

to generate this one to two colors can read. And there's also another dimension that I introduced in there which is that the fact that light is the perfect medium to modulate naturally on our telecommunication is based on life population Life Fibers. And we know that you can modulate life in many ways with a moderate intensity phase frequency and so on. And there's a whole range of low frequencies that are relevant to our own inner rhythms our biorhythms. And when you start to learn to manipulate light and the lower frequencies. And you can interact by rhythms in very beneficial ways. That's all for you, sometimes called audio visual stimulation. Because one of the main biorhythm that you can train in this way on brainwaves and brainwaves in the whole world in itself. We've altered alpha waves and different bands playing waves, and each brand corresponds to a certain mental state. And through this phenomenon of entrainment, you can encourage the brain to fall in sync with the sensory stimulus whether it is light or sound, or even kinesthetic. And so when you have when you have light signals that are painting positions in certain frequency ranges, you kind of amplify their potential effects, it's now it's totally pure color. It's also a pure color that pulsates vibrates, that can interact with your own batteries. And that's very much the area I've been focusing on recently is with mice and surround devices sensors for therapists to professional installation and sensors fears into smaller to like law created their home based on similar technology and principles.

Dan Riordan 26:02

Yeah, I'm excited to get one of the home versions myself...

Jacqueline Wales ON HOW TO MOVE FROM FEARFUL TO FEALESS

Dan Riordan — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 07:30:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around Fear gives you an opportunity to discover something different—to learn and to grow. Jacqueline Wales an Author of the Fearless factor, Speaker, and more. A great quote from Jacqueline in the Episode: “Stay Curious, it’s a game of change” Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Jacqueline

1) Shifting into overdrive for change

2) How to move from fearful to fearless

3) How to nurture trust in yourself and your team

One thing to take away: “challenge yourself to think differently….and that means….”

Cauliflower Moment: 26:46.. Around the fear of “not being good enough”…

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Dan Riordan 1:24

Hello, everybody. Welcome, today we have Jacqueline Wales with us Jacqueline is an acclaimed author coach and inspirational speaker. We're excited to have Jacqueline with us and Jacqueline if you could give us a bit more on your bio that would be great.

Jacqueline Wales 1:49

Myself, and learning how to get past my own fears my own insecurities my lack of confidence so on and so forth. And over the years, discovered a great many things about what it is to truly be fearless to have the courage to take the next step and move beyond the places that are kind of held myself back. I been a writer as you know I've written three books. I have also been a professionally trained singer, and I was a cantor for synagogues in Paris and Amsterdam for about five years, I've spent a great many years, kind of honing, the craft of really stepping into being fearless and bringing your whole self out to the world. I started my own business back in my 50s. So this was, this was a big deal because up until then I traveled the world and raised my kids I've done all kinds of other things, including getting a black belt in karate when I was on my 49th birthday. So, you know, there was a lot going on during those years, but the 50s was really an interesting time for me because I started to turn around into how can I create a proper career, whatever that was supposed to mean so I've been at this game for about 15 years now and I say this game because it's the game of change. And it's about helping people truly become the best version of themselves, which means looking at a lot of what's holding you back from stepping into the limelight and really taking your whole authority of ownership of yourself. And that's kind of the, you know, in a very potted version of what I've been doing for quite some time now for several decades.

Dan Riordan 3:37

Yeah, I love that statement of the game of change, because it is if you look at it as a game and you really relish the change. It's exciting. And it's really fun to feel yourself in that pattern.

Jacqueline Wales 3:55

I love change simply because everything about my life has been continuing to change. And let's face it, the only guarantee in life we have is change. We talked earlier about the uncertainty that exists in today's world and it's very real for a lot of reasons, but we also have to look at our mental states our mindset in terms of how we are addressing that uncertainty. But the issue of change for me. I heard it said one time that fear was the sharp edge of excitement. And when I heard that expression. I was like that's why I've been living on them enjoy my life. It's like you're challenging yourself to see what you can do.

jacqueline Wales 4:38

so if somebody says to me, you can’t do it, I have an attitude that says watch me. You know, I mean that's been a big driver in my life, you know, tell me I can't do it and I'll tell you watch me. Yeah, so there's that kind of, you know, under the Italian side.

Dan Riordan 4:58

you know early on, I can't remember who I read this from but they explained it in a really simple thing that really resonated with me was, if you fix your belief in what you know you fix it. And then everything else is making progress and moving that fixed belief will cause you to atrophy, because you're not moving with everything else that's in a state of progress, and it really hit me that wow you know so many of us fix these beliefs but then everything else is moving and it doesn't work.

Jacqueline Wales 5:32

Well this is based on mindset. You probably come across but Carol was a sociologist and probably more to retire overnight but she talks about the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset. And if you're in a fixed mindset, it's about well I know it is what it is. That's primarily what a fixed mindset does. Yeah, whereas a growth mindset is I know what I know, but I know there's something more. Yeah, it is what it is, but I know I can do something different so you know that that's a piece I think I'm very definitely growth minded you're clearly growth minded as well. But for those who are stuck in that fixed mindset, it is an atrophy I like to say I have three key words learn, grow and achieve. And if you're not growing. You're atrophying, you're actually dying

Jacqueline Wales 6:23

If you're an organic being which we all are. You've got to be feeding the organism. And if you're not feeding that organism by embracing the changes by stepping into that place of showing courage to take the next step, then you're failing along the way as a human being and, frankly, human. So you're missing. And I would say I would even back that up and say, you're missing a tremendous amount of adventure, number one, and you and I know that adventure ourselves out on adventures many times. And you're also missing that there is so much more than you can get out of living your life.

Jacqueline Wales 7:07

That, I think, you know, Henry James said many centuries ago, it seems like now. People live lives of quiet desperation. I think that that's true for far too many people translate. And I find that very sad.

Dan Riordan 7:22

I love your reference to back in history cuz I even see all the books behind you there and I get jealous because I love reading, and I love reading back in time because it's amazing the wisdom and insight that's there and also that the pattern is repeating, they were dealing with a lot of the same things over and over that we all think are new and original art, and there's nothing

Jacqueline Wales 7:51

original in the world, I guarantee you, an original way of framing something, but it's not an original concept. Yeah,

Jacqueline Wales 8:02

And historically I took a degree in history, many years ago, I specialized in looking at Heresy.

Jacqueline Wales 8:11

I considered myself to be a bit of a renegade so the idea of heresy, really, you know, excited me, and this is like 12th 13th century history, you know, but the whole idea of stepping outside of the norms of, of what society is all about or whatever. The structure is, you know, is always again that growth piece of, you know, how do you challenge where you are right now, challenge yourself. Yeah, and say, you know, what do I need to do to take that next step, what do I need to do or think, or be in order for me to be, you know, to feel like life is far more fulfilling and not live that life of quiet desperation. We don't have to settle is what I'm saying here. Nobody needs to settle. Yeah,

D r an Riordan 9:02

Before the show and I was reading some of the things that you've written, I wrote down one of the things that I was laughed when I read it, which was you're fascinated by the messiness of being human. And I, I actually want to hear you talk for a second on that because I really enjoyed the fun and interesting perspective of that.

Jacqueline Wales 9:32

Let's Get Real here. inconsistent we're all, you know, there's a lot of states. It's not shades of gray, by the way, but there's a lot of shades in, you know, as a human being. I grew up in a very messy, family, alcoholism, violence, spectrum abuse, emotional abuse. That's the extreme of the messiness of being human. And these were deeply dysfunctional human beings who were really embroiled in their despair and their disappointment and frustration of what life had to offer working class people didn't get much of an education. But tremendous, as I said disappointment frustration resentment, all that stuff over and over and on to the children of the family, yeah and you know generations of that stuff. but I became an astute observer of human behavior as a result of that, I would watch people. And I would watch what they were doing, and I would try to figure out what they were thinking, and where they were going. Because that was a big piece of staying safe. And then of course you know as I grew older, I became a bit of a control freak, because control is all about. I need to create safety. So if I know exactly where everything's act. I'm okay. You know, and that's really what that's founded upon and it took me a lot of years to figure that one out. Then I drove a lot of people crazy because of it and I'm sure that some people listening to this, you know, are you a control freak. Yes,

Jacqueline Wales 11:11

Well, why, you know, and again it's that safety issue. Yeah. So being an observer of human behavior, knowing that it's messy, knowing that we can change that messiness. That's why I love this, the messiness of humanity because frankly, I wouldn't be in this business, if I didn't love messing this, because that's what happens when people show up at my door it's like yeah I'm a bit stuck or I'm trying to figure out where I'm going next. Okay, so let's dig in.

Dan Riordan 11:44

No, it is. It is messy. And, again, when you go back to that game of change and the courage to question. You do tend to learn to relish in it and no it's just another expression that's another part of the like. Another one that I had written down. Go ahead.

Jacqueline Wales 12:11

Sorry, I was just gonna say that the analogy music, jazz music for instance, I'll be listening to the whole series on jazz by Ken Burns recently. A number of phenomenal genius musicians who succumb to drugs and alcohol and ended their lives, early. And yet all this music was created, and the brilliance of this music which is now the no legacy effect. But when you listen to the music, and it's, it's not always a clear through line on a melody and that's life. There is no through line on a melody of life. There's discordance. There's dissonance. There's all kinds of disconnects that go on that plays into the messiness to. Yeah. How do we get real with that. That's the question. Yeah, real.

Dan Riordan 13:05

Yeah, and you know in in the couple of things I've written down one was you talked about how to move from fearful to fearless in in there, there's some answers to the question so I'd love to have you talked a little bit about how to move from fearful to fearless,

Jacqueline Wales 13:25

so fearful is a mind game. I call it the need to change the yada yada radio switch channels. Now, not easy to do because again it's tied in to what's your belief systems, what are your. Where are the areas that you presume that maybe you think this way that's actually the reality of it and then big question for me on fear is, is it true. Do you have i evidence that this thing will actually happen or this thing is actually real for you. Nine times out of 10, you're gonna get the answer. No, I don't think it is, you know, undermine a lot of fear is the fear that I'm not good enough. So what happens is you're constantly out there trying to prove yourself, or you're constantly looking for approval from other people. Or you keep your head down because you don't want to rock the boat too far. You know, and there's all kinds of behaviors and I do work in behavioral assessments, so I look at behavioral styles I look at the granular stuff of what behavior is all about. And I guarantee you that nine times out of 10 when you're looking at a behavior that's not working for you. Fear is at the bottom of it, and that fear is always going to come back to. I'm not good enough. So, when you ask yourself that question Am I good enough. Nine times out of 10 you don't assume Oh of course I am. Because who wants to say no I really am a huge waste useless. You know, whatever. So if you really truly believe that, then what is it that's getting in the way so again questioning assumptions question your belief systems, look into it reflect on it, ask yourself some hard questions to that deep dive, and then take the next step of courage is what it takes to be fearless, because that's all it is take the next step I'm going to ask this question all the time. What is it about being fearless, simply take the next step,

Jacqueline Wales 15:29

not asking you to, you know, go climb Mount Everest. I'm just asking you to take the next step, take the next step and then take the next step. That's what my T shirt says, Be fearless, see where it gives you a timeline for the business.

Dan Riordan 15:47

it's great to hear you talk about the questioning because there's a couple of simple questions that I've gone through in business meetings or in life and I asked a couple of really simple ones I asked one that says, hey, look, is this something you think you know or is this something you know if somebody's presenting me information, trying to get a baseline okay what am I really being told here. And then my next question I always ask is What more do I need to know to be able to form an opinion. What's missing, what are the what are the gaps that need to be filled. And if I just get through those two simple things. I get to so much closer to having, you know, real information that I can start to deal with but

Jacqueline Wales 16:35

these are brilliant questions, because you know that first one is, is this what you think or is this what you know becomes a critical piece right there. Yeah, people are being honest they'll say well that's what I think, okay, so again, do you have any evidence for this, right.

Jacqueline Wales 16:54

I just think that the way it is okay great so how's that working for you so far. Right. You know, and then your second piece about you know what are the missing pieces here and being able to dive into that. And then being able to put those things together. It's astonishing how simple it is. And yet the simple stuff is What's the hardest for love people.

Dan Riordan 17:16

It really is. And it takes courage to step back and really stand in that space of saying okay I'm on I'm uncomfortable and not knowing, it's okay.

Jacqueline Wales 17:30

tell my clients when they first start working with me. Get comfortable being uncomfortable.

Jacqueline Wales 17:40

Because you're going to be pushing against these barriers that you've created for yourself. And so, you know, what does that look like when you can put that aside and be more of who you would like to be yes everybody has this this image of who I like to be in the world. So what does it take more confidence, more credibility, more ability to step up and take ownership of your bullshit, frankly, and, you know, keep yourself moving forward. Yeah.

Dan Riordan 18:10

Ownership of your bullshit as you said is, is very important for all of us and the, you know, another thing that I wanted to make sure we touched on was, you have a statement about developing fearless leaders, and I think, whether it's in your business in your family in your own day to day leadership of your own life, developing this fearlessness has never been more important than in what we're all being confronted with today. So, what are a couple things you could share around that, you know, thought process for everybody

Jacqueline Wales 18:53

to say we're leaders of our own likes books that's number one we just pointed to that too you know it's whether it's your family or whether it's in your organization but mostly you're a leader of yourself. So you need to be able to show up as honestly as you can self awareness is number one it's one of the things I write about in my book the fearless factor of work. It's really important as a leader, as an individual that you really understand your strengths, your weaknesses your blind spots, be willing to take the deep dive into that in order to figure out what that means for you. Now, there's lots of assessments out there there's lots of tools and apps and so forth, they can help you start to identify that, but well as the leader once you start to identify those areas. Then you put something to work on. You've got a framework. So I think that's a big piece for me on being a fearless leader fearlessly look at yourself first. Yeah before you're out there trying to tell somebody else what to do. Take a good look at yourself and people will mirror back to you, quite easily. You know, when you're off the rails, shall we say, where your you know your bullshit is showing up.

Jacqueline Wales 20:09

Are you willing to take that step back and admit that you don't know everything. That's a big piece for a lot of leaders, they want to presume that they know everything and therefore they're out there, giving instructions and there's so much bad leadership out there, frankly, we saw it in our government.

Dan Riordan 20:29

Every, almost we're seeing that.

Jacqueline Wales 20:33

But, you know, that's the extreme end of it, but the point being is that you as an individual have to take control the ownership, the authority over your own life. First and foremost, before you even begin to take authority over someone else's. Yeah. And that I think is a big piece about being a fearless leader.

Dan Riordan 20:55

Yeah, you know, I'm in the last startup I was in the ownership thing became all too real for me at one stage when we were scaling and we were probably at that point but my, my performance was letting down the whole company because I was taking sometimes two or three days...

Jonathan Tucker ON THE 5 SIMPLE STEPS TO THE PURPOSE CYCLE

Dan Riordan — Wed, 03 Feb 2021 07:30:00 -0700

Jonathan Tucker Jonathan Tucker ON THE 5 SIMPLE STEPS TO THE PURPOSE CYCLE

Hello SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals on how to maintain positive change. With me is Jonathon Tucker, the founder of The Purpose Cycle. A great quote from Jonathan in the Episode: “Everyone expects to change overnight. And it doesn't happen overnight”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Jonathan

1) Kindness…Nobody is born to hate another

2) After Searching for true belonging for years, I always felt like I missed a sense of purpose

3) Simple ways you can maintain positive changes to your life in 2021

The One Thing: You can, design your future you! I like to call in the creation phase, three simple steps to research, strategize and act.

The Cauliflower Moment:. Had to overcome my belief (the self fulfilling prophecy) that it is was just our families luck that kept things from going our way! Listen to the show for the story!

NOTES FROM SHOW

Welcome back to The switched on podcast today we have Jonathan Tucker. He's the founder of the purpose cycle. He's an author, podcast host, teacher, and and more. Welcome, Jonathan. We're excited to have in the show, and I'd love to have you give a little bit more background about yourself.

Jonathan Tucker 0:55

Hello, everyone. First of all, thanks, Dan, for having me on this. It's a huge honor to be on. And yeah, like I said, I'm a school teacher. In terms of the day job. I teach a year six in England, so that'd be fifth or sixth grade in America. And somebody who has always loved radio always, ever since I was little, I used to listen to the radio all the time, and pretty early adopter of podcasts in terms of listening. And when I was at university, I used to listen, all the science podcasts are always

Jonathan Tucker 1:24

delivering messages through voice and yeah, the at the age of 23. Upon probably leaving University and staying spot farm away, I was really struggling with a lack of belonging, and purpose and finding myself and I had a really hard hitting moment in which I lost one of my best friends to a heart condition called the giant cell, Maya carditis. A week before his 25th birthday, one of the fittest healthiest menu you would have ever met. And it was a huge shock. And one of his quotes was, if you're not making somebody that somebody else's life better, then you're wasting your time. And it just stuck with me. And I'd always coached soccer for a long time, I have a bit of a talent and in delivering a message. So I sort of wanted to give something back. I felt like actually this is I want to deliver meaningful impacts. And I've always been a huge fan of watching people such as Tom, Bill, you, Gary Vee, Tony Robbins for years and seeing all of these sort of motivational guys. And I was searching for such a long time to be like, right, I'm going to write and motivational speech. But the problem is, if you don't have life experience, and you look for an idea, you search too much, you're not going to find it. So I had to wait for it to find me. And it came during the UK lockdown last year, in around June time. And schools are still open in the UK and I was writing a speech for my my class because they will move on to the next level of school. And there will be one on secondary school, I'm assuming is Middle School. In America.

Dan Riordan 3:12

that's really neat. It's I've actually never heard of that condition before. But at 24 that's, that's a wake up call for all of us.

Jonathan Tucker 3:30

basically, slowly begins to die. And the explanation of an underlying condition behind suddenly dropped dead. Yeah, all these people who didn't know that they had something wrong with the heart. And that's why what it was essentially so yeah, it's just such a tragedy. But you know, from his furnace is where we found this quote, it wasn't anything he preached, he just typed it in himself is something that it takes up. And he was a school teacher himself. So maybe similar.

Dan Riordan 3:59

Wow, really neat. The something we talked about in the pre show that I thought was really neat. And I'm gonna dive into the purpose cycle as well. But this idea on that you spread in your classroom and your school about kindness really struck me because in the world today, I know even just in our little city, you just feel the tension and people are driving cutting each other off, there isn't a lot of kindness out there and teaching people on just simple things on how we can all spread that I was really drawn to by what you did. So maybe you can share a little of that first and then we'll dive into the purpose cycle.

Jonathan Tucker 4:43

So basically, we came to obviously June, July last year, and the children had a couple of months of school. They're all pretty worried because there were they were thinking, right, well, we're starting our next school journey in a matter of months and we've missed all this education and the message that deliver them what you've missed passing your education. And, you know, people might judge you on standardized scores of how clever you are. But the only thing that truly matters is that you learn to be kind. And actually, to be fair, they don't need to learn to be kind because nobody's born hating other people. Everybody's born kind, and is wrong cost of nurturer and trauma that may bring somebody to be unkind. But there was, there's also low level kindness that can happen like say driving, putting each other off and swearing at each other in the shops and all these little things that I just thought were shielded from that in school environment, there was a couple of maybe unkind words said between children, but there always seem to be throwaway comments, and they never sell, they never understand how much their words can carry. So I wanted to show them by basically asking the children's to take a sheet of a4 paper, lined paper on an each line write something to, to to a person in the class, and it had the person's name on the bottom. So they knew. And even if they didn't get that person, they understood the qualities that that person had. And it would fold it, and they would leave that anonymous as well. Because kindness shouldn't be rewarded. And it will reward you and pay dividends in time and belief itself. And so they would fold up the line that they've read, pass it to the next person. And it was just great. Because I said to everybody, take this with you. If you ever feel down, you ever doubt yourself if you ever feel unconfident. Open this up, and just realize how nice how great you are. And it seems to carry a lot of weight. Think they understood that actually, you know, kindness cost them nothing? and How good does it feel to be kind somebody like it is. So it's a feeling that is completely unrivaled if you can do something nice for somebody else. Wow. It's just incredible. Like you said about people being unkind. I think it was obviously around the same time that there was a lot of news in America. And related to George Floyd, there was a lot of hate in the world. But despite that, despite that there is, you know, the youth, who are our future, have so much positivity and kindness to get.

Dan Riordan 7:07

we got taught an amazing lesson on this by individual I don't know who he was, he was in a kind of a health food grocery store. And he came in and he had a, just a simple white, like sheet type robe on. And he came into the store. And all he did was spread simple words of kindness to anybody that he interacted with. He never, he never introduced himself. unbeknownst to me, we were both watching this person. And he like, he lit everybody up by just how are you today, while you're doing such a nice job at checking me out just simple words. And he made such an impression on the entire store by just that simplicity that he interacted with everybody with was, I think about it all the time. It was truly impactful. Just love and kindness.

Jonathan Tucker 8:09

I've tried to implement that my language as well with emailing a colleague. Have a wonderful day. And then even that's short sentence, which will bring someone up slightly. And we also spoke a fair about what I did more recently with my new class. And I wanted to expand it out because we, you know, there's a lot of tension around at the minute with, you know, with COVID, and everything, and the parents are on edge and the children as well. And I decided to keep my class out five minutes when everybody went in at the beginning of the day and gave them all a piece of chalk. And I said, right, go and write something on the playground. That's nice, kind, no, that will make somebody smile. And every time a different class came out for recess, they were just like, we were looking out the window. And I was like, How good does that feel? Does that cost you anything? You know, and it was just such a powerful message. It just makes you feel great. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 9:05

no, that's brilliant. I love it. Well, maybe you can give us a bit more insight on the purpose cycle. And you know, how you use it, how you implement it, how does it work and help us?

Jonathan Tucker 9:17

Yeah, I will take you on a quick whistlestop tour essentially. So there's five stages to what I call the path of cycling, and quite a lot of time people set that tend to sort of kick back and forth between the first two stages, because in life, we can, you know, be figured out some period of time and, and that's absolutely fine. But the next three stages are so powerful that they would then kick start the new cycle, which is the element obviously, it's a continuous journey in life and you never from A to B and done. And the first stage is aspiration and it's the the external or even the internal triggers that make you want to do something. So for example, I would see if I relate back to what I said earlier, the pilots here Tom bill you speaking to large groups of people providing inspiration, I think, Well, I'd love to do what he's doing. And that would be an external trigger, something that I've seen, that makes me want to do it and you feel the the inner effects, you feel that almost like the, the dopamine hit in a way, or maybe you know, something slightly different. And that that feeling of, well, this is really good at what it already feels like to be successful. And then you have a realization, and that that could be that of the task. So while this is difficult, I need to learn how to perform this task. Alternatively, it could be like, I hate this, I don't like doing this. So I need to kick back to aspiration, find a new one. And we know people change careers all the time. And also the environmental realization. So like, you know, I've got three kids and a wife, and I can't just quit my nine to five and to write, I'm going to be a public speaker, everybody, because you've got to put food on the table and bills to pay. So you've got environmental factors to think of as well. And then also the realization of others and really assessing your circle and think, right, you're the average of supposedly, the average of the five people you spend the most time with. So are these five people lifting me up? Are they? Are they fountains? Are they giving? Are they friends? Are they are they taken away? And And finally, which is the most difficult one, the realization of yourself? So you know, do you want to put in the reps Do you want to wake up every morning and, and be relentless in pursuing what you truly want to achieve. And if you can do that, move forward to the third stage. And the third stage is the initiation. And I tell everybody who asked me about it, it doesn't matter how good or how bad it is, you start, you initiate you begin, my first podcast came out today. And you know what, I'm gonna listen to it in five years and think, Well, that was horrible. And that's the main thing, right, you just got to start producing what you want to do. And that takes you through to the creation stage. And that's the flow state. That's the day to day creation of what you want to achieve. And, you know, it might be given out, you know, the parent on podcasts, doing some writing, and speaking to people, and that that eventually brings you to the fruition stage. And that is bearing fruit of what you've sown in the creation and initiation phases. And once you've acted regularly and consistently, over time, you'll begin to see the results of what you put in it. And hopefully, that kick starts a brand new aspiration and a brand new.

Dan Riordan 12:27

the once you get started, then, you know, it really is true. And I know from my own podcasting journey, it's there's more to do and to think about and to master than you almost couldn't imagine. And I know, looking back already, I I just keep getting better. Each episode, I keep refining the format, I keep constantly getting better, but I would have never got there if I want to get started. So you know, it is such a good point.

Jonathan Tucker 13:11

It doesn't really stop you constantly realize about yourself about your environment. So it is a continuous journey. And it is.

Dan Riordan 13:20

I think one of the side benefits of podcasting that I didn't even really come to grips with is you're meeting fantastic people, and they're people you just would never ever have come across like you and I never would have met ever. And yet we meet where our alignment is strong or mission are strong. And that just powers you even more. So it really is a neat side benefit on just the people you get to connect with. Yeah,

Jonathan Tucker 13:52

definitely. about energy. And even, you know, before we even hit the card, I just fell 10 feet tall, fall out, you know, damn, she has a lot of values with me. And I just have that, you know, you benefit off the energy of others, and I just absolutely love it. And it's something that was actually quite unexpected. I thought, I'm going to get all of these guests on to bring impactful practices to my listeners, but it's provided a whole lot benefit to myself as well. And it's just a great feeling my fiance's Sarah, she often comments about how I skip out of the room, finished podcasting and come and go back downstairs. Wow, I feel great. And

Dan Riordan 14:32

I feel the same thing. And I I'm seeing more and more every day the the synergies, the simple signals that are coming in the connectivity. It's almost like I feel In fact, I said this over the weekend, was it the name is wrong. It's not podcasting. You know, this is really The likes to social network the way it should be, which is we're actually getting to know people, you know, you're not just like, putting some random perfect picture out that everyone, you know, says, Oh my god, you look so amazing in that picture. It's, it's completely different

Jonathan Tucker 15:18

is Yeah, and also the gratification that you get, because you get a whole lot of focus on instant gratification in social media and getting those likes and comments, which don't really carry much weight. And with podcasting, you get a lot of instant gratification of Wow, this, you know, the instant feelings, but you get that delayed onset as well, later on, because you're putting into place what people are telling you and what you pick up. You know, you pick up small things I'm, you know, I've already picked up about signals and energy from yourself. And that will hit me in like, a couple of weeks time I'll walk around be like, wow, yeah, done made such a good point. So it does stay with you for a lot longer. I just think it's so much more beneficial in terms of your learning process. Yeah. And just, you know, slowing down your mind by scrolling and listening

Unknown Speaker 16:10

to what you're doing. Yeah. Oh,

Dan Riordan 16:12

God, you're 100%. Right. One other thing that I had seen you write about or comment on was, I think it might have been in one of your blog posts, but it said, ways you can maintain positive change in your life in 2021. In, can you highlight a couple of things that people can do to maintain it? Because I think that's the thing we all struggle with is that we set them and then we, you know, a month later, we're struggling to maintain it. Yeah,

Jonathan Tucker 16:43

absolutely. And I think one of the main problems is that a lot of people tend to make huge changes. For example, they they've never been to the gym before, for example, and they may buy, you know, $200 worth of gym clothing, they pay for a membership, they pay for a PT, and they you know, subscribe to an app and all these things. Yeah, they might buy a brand new shiny peloton, it cost a couple of 1000 bucks. And then you're like, Well, okay, well, you're doing all of these changes. But that's not in, you're a sensitive person. So I recently read a book called atomic habits by James clear, and this really did explain it really well, and how you make votes for your identity and, and small micro changes over time. So much more sustainable, because, for example, I'm somebody who is this year focusing on sleep. And I would be like staying up late gaming all the time, just, you know, when my friends should be on the PlayStation or whatever, because it helped me switch off. And that was, that was me, since I was about 13 years old. Just switch on the video game, and just switch off from the outside world. But then I'd wake up feeling terrible The next day, because I've got a focus for work, which I couldn't do, because I didn't sleep well enough. didn't help me all of a sudden, just go right? I'm gonna quit video games forever, I'm gonna go to sleep at 8pm. I was like, right, I need to think about video game night on a Friday night. And I need to build to that all week, you know, I don't reward myself. And you're casting votes for the person that you want to become. And I'm going to talk a little bit later on about designing the life and the identity of the person that he wants to become. I think that's a huge point thinking, right? This is successful me really look like this. Am I really sat down doing nothing? Or could I be working on

Kezia Luckett ON STEPPING INTO A NEW WAY OF BEING

Dan Riordan — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around living in the moment. With me is Kezia Luckett she is a positive psychologist, 3x International Best Selling author with the pay it forward series, and more. A great quote from Kezia in the Episode: “There's not really any beliefs that you can't dismantle over a period of time”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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4 Great Signals From Kezia

1) Shifting limiting beliefs, fears and barriers

2) Unlocking your natural energy codes

3) Only 5% of your conscious thought is available to shift your limitations

4) Leave a positive impactful footprint on the world

The One Thing: Every year take time to reflect on what's worked, what hasn't worked, and shift and change ruthlessly cut out the bits that you don't like. They're all just experiences leading us

The Cauliflower Moment:. When people give a gift of an opinion or their words or their experiences, we have an opportunity to leave that gift with them, rather than taking as ours….I was bullied badly in school..it took me years to understand this…you decide what it is that you want to incorporate as your truth

NOTES FROM SHOW

Hello everybody, today we have Kezia Luckett with us. She is a positive psychologist a three times international best selling author, with the Payette forward series, and more. Welcome Kezia excited to have you with us today, and I'd love for you to give a bit more background about yourself.

Well, let's just give us, give us a quick synopsis of the whole thing.

kezia luckett 1:31

Three years ago. My background is science I worked in pharmaceuticals for many years. Female based concierge company, which I grew very successfully. Completely walking away from the business, but my life, kind of changed. Four years ago I suppose it is now, to come into media, and on Boxing Day, which is the day after Christmas. And I got up early, probably a little worse for wear a glass of wine. And on that. I received a vision, and it sounds a bit spiritual. But literally, these questions were running around in my

kezia luckett 2:21

head, and I was seeing things, and I literally went back and sat in front of the computer started typing away. And at the end of an hour, written down, the idea of a book, which would appear forward, but also a worldwide movement where every single woman out there would understand that just by being themselves. They were contribution enough. And from that point onwards, I can only say that my life has just been one opportunity after opportunity after another that has just been perfectly in alignment with what it is that I'm doing. So now I'm fortunate I'm a positive psychologist working with highly successful people have scale. So whatever that looks like, whether it's, some of my clients refer to me as Wendy rose from billions in their backsides in order to get them to the next level, or whether it's clearing the limiting beliefs fears, and, you know, experiences that are keeping them

Dan Riordan 3:24

Wow, that's fantastic. I know that we all we all need both that kick occasionally, and then the clearing. Certainly when you talk about the clearing of the limiting beliefs fears and barriers. It was one of the areas I wanted to have you dive into a little bit more with everybody because I know I've been amazed. In my own journey that I have these things that I don't even realize are there. And, and then they surface in you're like, wait a minute, where did that even, you know, come from or, you know, didn't even realize I was harboring it so

kezia luckett 4:13

of research and put together my thesis for my master's around memories and how they influence. But there's two things really influencing our limiting beliefs or experiences, one is something that I refer to as heritage. Those experiences that get passed down the generations and epigenetics have now shown up to 14 generations worth of stuff not just DNA, like the fears the beliefs the experiences can be passed down. So sometimes the repeating patterns that we have in our lives that are keeping us stuck. Sometimes I won't even ask anyway. And then the other side of that are the memories, the way that we have an experience in life. And the way that we store it in our brain and the story that we tell ourselves around that experience can influence, so much of our limitations and our fears and our beliefs. And when you start to unpick them and this is the work that I do quite often on a one to one basis with my clients when you start to unpick those beliefs, and you discover that there is normally one trigger memory when they were younger, that they have created this whole belief system around the start. There's not really any beliefs that you can't dismantle over a period of time.

Dan Riordan 5:33

So a couple things that I hadn't heard before there one is this 14 generations of heritage that is, I guess, you know, contained. That's really amazing.

kezia luckett 6:01

Sometimes we have fears that come into our lives that throw us off track for what we shouldn't be doing. When the bloody hell did that come.

kezia luckett 6:19

This relationship right. Just talk me through what's happening further up the line with your heritage. And we'll find the same pattern repeating time and time and time again. The same with money. You know those people that have no problem with creating a huge amount of wealth, but in the next minute they lose it in an instance. Again, if we look back, we will find some sort of repeating pattern coming in. The people that get to a level in their success, and they just can't break through. again we might find that this is a limitation of belief or fear or experience that's come down through heritage stuff, so being able to unpick that, and it normally comes out time and time again that's how we know it's a heritage pattern. When I start digging into the backgrounds of people it's like being a detective start seeing these patterns playing out and it's like, Okay. And then if they've got children you can quite often see the patterns playing out in the children. Yeah 14 generations.

Dan Riordan 7:24

Amazing I did the 23andme test where they you know they test your, your genome if you will or your DNA. And I was amazed when I got the report back how they told me that lots of things about myself that actually were really real like they were in a report it said hey you'd like to run short distances, not long distances your body and your machine comes from, you know, this DNA of this small island that no longer exists off Ireland and your you know your your history goes back to you actually hunted reindeer. And that's why you like to sprint. and you know you read this and you're like, wow, but it was really true I've always not like you know long distances I like sprinting I like the shorter things and there was a whole bunch of that and you read it and you're like, Wow, there is a lot more history contained than you ever imagined.

kezia luckett 8:25

Think about like people that I work with in Europe, you know, some of them might have been affected by the world wars, and they might be in concentration camps I mean like absolutely everything. And to see that playing out in people's lives or, you know, I've got clients who are African American

kezia luckett 8:44

in America and, you know, that would have been probably the slave trade and that you know that restriction on the following their dreams because their dreams going around and so when you start to unpack all of those things you can start to see why these patterns.

Dan Riordan 9:02

Yeah. It's so neat. The next thing I wanted to dive into was about kind of the, I guess the way I wrote it down in the pre show discussion was unlocking your natural energy codes. And I know that is a big part of your practice and I'm actually excited to hear you talk a little bit about that myself.

kezia luckett 9:37

code out to men as well. And as you know having the children that you have and being married to a beautiful wife, you know, women have certain cycles that we go through each and every month. And therefore we have natural peaks and troughs in our cycle each and every month. We have some days where we want to leap out of bed and we're really excited to go go go, and other days where we just want to pull the covers over. And historically, as women and I'll talk about it from women's perspective as well they start as women. We think taught how to treat ourselves and how to treat our bodies and how to treat our natural peaks and troughs from learning from our parents, learning probably from our mothers or grandmothers and historically for most women it's about ignore everything because you've got too much work to do. You've got a list that needs to go through. It doesn't matter if you're tired or a multitasking genius.

Dan Riordan 10:38

Oh my gosh it's so true.

kezia luckett 10:49

They, they literally reach this point of no return and. And when we ignore our body, regardless of whether you are male or female when you ignore the natural warning signs for your body. The universe God Buddha Allah whatever you wish to call it will get a bigger two by four that it can smack you around the head with and that will show up as, you know, being sick I mean for me. I ignored it long enough, until my husband came home one day to have the children run down and say mommy's upstairs and she can't breathe, and I was rushed to hospital with pneumonia. Wow, because I didn't have time. I didn't have time to stop I was running a business. I was working a 90 Hour Work Week. I had 35 members of staff I was a control freak, so I just had to keep going. And so when we first start working with our energy code regardless of whether you're male or female. You weren't before different energy spaces and I've listed them as natural ways to create shine and to a feminine being energy, ie just being present in the moment, being yourself, you know, satiating the needs that you have and then to our masculine energies which are real, creativity, action orientated. When you hit the first one which is called nurture which sounds absolutely delicious It sounds like you're going to get yourself and lots of self care. It's a survival so if you hit nurture, the only thing you need to know is to stop, like literally just stop. And most people when they hit that energy space. The way that they stop is burnout overwhelm illness, high blood pressure, car accident, something major happening that stops them in their, in their tracks. Once you've learned how to harness the nurture energy space, and release it and let it go. You'll only need three energy spaces and those are whisper, which is where you're in the business of your head and you come out and reconnect back into your body and when your body says you know what you need to swim down. You go, Okay, what do I need right now, I fancy a fancy beer and nature, I fancy going out on my bike, you just slow down, reconnect back to your body and take time out. And when you do that I talked about the energy bucket you have a bucket and your bucket is either filling up for is depleting. When you stop in the whisper energy space, and you listen to what your body needs you start to top up your bucket. And when your pockets start to be topped up, and you've got enough energy and it's starting to flow. Now you have the energy to move into create shine and create it's all about right action with the right people at the right time. And in business I work a lot with business people, you know we can't be in Korea, all the time you burn yourself out. If you're constantly go go go push push push you need to pull back in order to push forward you need to pull back in order to have the expansion. So create is is about the right action at the right time and then shine is about being fully in alignment with absolutely everything. This is where you're in your zone of genius, where life just feels phenomenal I mean, For me, I haven't been shy being on stage talking to 1000s of people or I can be in shy and walking the dog and just looking at nature around me and just feeling totally at peace with. Absolutely. And once you know how to navigate these spaces. You'll never make the same mistakes again you'll never play Fallout in your business and wonder why you burn out, there is a time to play Fallout there is a time to retract. And when you harness, those natural patterns. Then you can get so much more stuff done in half the time and you can have the balance and harmony back into life.

Dan Riordan 14:43

Wow, like it. It's a you know a lot of it resonates in so many ways, as I just listened to the, the definitions of those just had an experience yesterday where we've been playing a lot of tennis, and we took about a month off because it's cold and holidays and everything and we went back out yesterday. And it was amazing at how much better we both were after stepping back for four weeks. And it was surreal because all of a sudden it felt like, wow, everything's just in flow and I'm, I'm way ahead of it and everything was so much easier. And it's exactly what you were describing there, but in a really you know simple thing is playing a sport but it totally felt it yesterday,

kezia luckett 15:37

say to me, you know, I've had the best, best launch straight after Christmas and I go, Well, what were you doing over Christmas. Well I was chilling I was relaxing I was disconnected from the things you know, when people have problems in their business or in life, they try and figure out what their brain, do you know what I say in front of the computer and I'll stay here until I figure it out and I'm going to work longer and harder. Take a step away, literally go do something else. as a client is like a multimillionaire she runs five different country companies and she said, I'm just exhausted, but I have really important things going on this week so we used to do strategy so first thing in the morning, she got her stuff done because she was. She'd been resting over the night and in the afternoon, she would relax and sit by the pool and do the things that she wanted to do and at the end of the week she said, I just signed a $6 million deal. And I went, of course you have, because your energetics and what you're putting out there your electromagnetic field is vibrating while peace and harmony of course people want to do business with you in that space in every aspect, whether it's relationship success.

Dan Riordan 17:01

You know you said a word that I laugh about often electric magnetic field. I, my undergrad in electronic engineering I had multiple courses and electromagnetic field theory and going through those courses. I mean I was literally lost, you know half of the time and these deep equations of Gaussian principles and. And now, understanding the magnetic field in the energy and the energy body and some of that. I'm just amazed at how this whole thing is circled back to this very deep dark period of multiple courses of magnetic field theory. So, really, really interesting, fun,

kezia luckett 17:51

your heart and your brain pharmaceuticals I was in cardiology so I know about the brain has their own electromagnetic field, just like breathing in a certain way, we can connect.

Unknown Speaker 18:06

Yeah.

kezia luckett 18:09

We attract peace, harmony relaxed. You know split energy that's all over the place, then it's hardly surprising that your, your life resembles that.

Dan Riordan 18:28

Yeah, no great point. Another topic I wanted to have you touch on was this only 5% of your conscious thought is available to shift your limitations and wanted to have you talk a little bit about that because it's not a perspective, I've heard before and I want to understand it better.

kezia luckett 18:55

subconscious mind is playing out the same patterns behaviors beliefs and experience. So by the time we hit 35 95% of what we do in life, tends to be lifted from one year from one day, dropped into the neck so we literally have 5% of our conscious brain to shift and change things. And so when I work with people online conditioning therapy is about understanding some of that programming, that's already there. And really, it's about working on that programming in lots of different ways. Firstly we have to work on it from the logical perspective so the brain you know the mind and you know you have an experience you tag a meaning, and a story to it so you have a logical understanding of that. The next bit is, you have natural reflexes so when you're triggered, you naturally fall into the same patterns because the way that our brain works is he goes, Oh, you've experienced something similar to this. Similar emotions similar experience. I know what I did last time. Let's do that. And the reason that our brain does that is is kind of one of those prehistoric things that is leftover back in the olden days, you know, our brain needed to act really quickly because if you saw a saber toothed tiger, your muscles needed to be fired you know firing up ready to run away. So, I'll bring two and two together and often comes up with 156. So what I did tend to do is look at the patterns that are playing out that 95% or subconscious patterns that are playing out, and then start looking at not only what's going on. But how our

kezia luckett 20:46

body will respond in exactly the same way. And if you've ever seen anybody having a conversation with somebody and it's suddenly heightened into an argument, before you know this stuff spilling out bring it back. Right. That's the stuff that I'm talking about the patterns that you just naturally fall into. And what I tried to say to the clients is like working the muscle it takes time. But awareness is the key once you're aware of what's playing out. Each time you practice you'll be able to catch yourself quicker and quicker to the point actually you shift that and you went out. And that's when you've got that 5% that you're harnessing, and you'll be able to control some of that...

Barbara Daoust ON INSPIRING PEOPLE TO TAP INTO THEIR GREATNESS

Dan Riordan — Wed, 27 Jan 2021 07:30:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around inspiring people to tap into their greatness. With me is Barbara Daoust an Author, Coach and more. A great quote from Barbara in the Episode: “we go into autopilot….. that's when we are burying our potential.”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Barbara

1) inspiring people to tap into their greatness Time to wake up

2) I help people breakup with patterns, paradigms, and limiting beliefs

3) Grow your self-worth to grow your net-worth

The One Thing: You Will never outperform your own self image

The Cauliflower Moment:. I could live my life by design

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:09

Hello everybody, today we have Barbara Daoust with us, Barbara is an acclaimed success coach, author and inspirational speaker. Welcome Barbara I'm excited to have you on the show and looking forward to diving in and having you give us a little bit more about your background to start. Great. So,

Can you tell us a bit more about your background?

Barbara Daoust 1:22

if you want me to share I got a long history.

Dan Riordan 1:26

Okay, well give, give us a synopsis of that. Yeah.

Barbara Daoust 1:36

You know, essentially, as a you know a success coach and author and speaker now. My, the last 10 years has been, you know, focused on that part but I did spend 30 years in the entertainment industry. So I was a director I have my masters in directing, as well as I was an acting coach had an acting Academy. And I also work with a lot of celebrity children on set some TV sets.

Barbara Daoust 2:05

two months before my 25th wedding anniversary, that I lost my husband to fourth stage cancer and he was gone in three weeks. Wow. And it was so devastating to me because we had been done, we had a theatre company that we worked together in San Francisco. He was, you know, building steps to here in Los Angeles, where, you know, I now live. And it was a total surprise just, you know, totally unexpected. And, you know, I'll talk more about it today but there are two ways that we change. And one of the ways is through a traumatic event. And it's a change that I wasn't expecting, and a change that capsized my world as I knew it. And as a result of that I really went on a journey to find out why it was so complicated to change. And it was that journey that led me to where I am today. And the other way that we change is through constant Spaced Repetition of a new idea that we establish in bed and plant, you know, and just repeat imprint on the subconscious mind over and over and over again until it becomes a part of our mechanism until it becomes our part of our electromagnetic field on a deeper emotional level. And then we finally accept it as the truth, which then creates a new belief, which then starts to create new behavior, which then starts to create a new view. So, I've studied neuroscience for about eight years now. I work with a cardiologist on brainwave entrainment, as well, because I could not just accept spiritual laws, which is what I teach, right, and business concepts, without understanding the science, so I'm that person who has to know, you know how unanue and works in order for us to create, but, you know, our results are in life.

Barbara Daoust 4:08

I've you know really been on that journey of asking that question what happened to me Why did it happen to me and why is changed so complicated. And I also after the loss of my husband. Within a year, I found my, my mother in law dead. My father died, my best friend died and my brother in law died jumping out of a plane and his parachute didn't open. Goodness. upside. There was something I wasn't.

Barbara Daoust 4:38

And it took quite some time to process that grief and loss and change of others. You know that I ended up in spiritual psychology program was a master's program here in Los Angeles, and I had no intention of coaching I just wanted to heal. And then I certified in a lava traction funding Success Program and again that wasn't to become to heal myself. And then I wrote a book called True love true salvage journey to self love. And, again, no intention of coaching, it says that in order to certify I have started working with people. And when I started using and teaching, what I needed to know and start practicing for myself with, you know, I was teaching others. I was really good in my past at helping a whole lot of people have success, but I wasn't doing it for myself. Yeah. And then once I started to learn, you know how to walk my talk. Right then and seeing the results that other people were having and knowing that you know I could do it for myself as well. That's when I met Bob Proctor in 2013, and really put the pieces together about combining business mindset and spirituality and the three planes are personality which I'll talk more about. And as a result of working with him and the program called thinking into results, which is what I do for many of my clients I doubled my practice and tripled my income in less than a year. So I took a quantum leap. And now I show people how to quantum leap, their businesses so it's not 1% 3% growth, but we're talking 150 to 500% and more, you know once you start to tap into the unlimited

Unknown Speaker 6:31

mindset.

Dan Riordan 6:33

Yeah. You know you said so many things in the intro there that were the reasons why I was really excited to meet you and spend some time with you because the journey that I've gone through myself is so similar in many ways, and one of the things that you said there that was, I learned for me was getting to the essence of energy and really diving into the energy side of it. I've continued to be able to find kind of like a baseline there that allows me to experience more spiritually, as I understand the connections in the energy dynamics and so it's really fun to hear you talk from that angle because it's one that I've really connected some of those dots as well. When.

Barbara Doust 7:31

Energy and everything around us is energy and energy can't be created or destroyed energy it, you know, and we've been a model of Newtonian physics for such a long time, but with Newtonian physics it's all about the material world, it's all about seeing, you know the habits. In our five senses, versus, you know what we're looking at now in quantum mechanics, and epigenetics is the concept of energy and energy is invisible.

Barbara Daoust 8:02

they haven't put that into the equation since the 1600s. So, yes, they've looked at the body as a machine, you know, in terms of mechanics, but we change machines don't change they deteriorate with age. Yeah, but you know as human beings as an energy field and our electromagnetic energy field has more power in it than a computer or a radio tower. So, you know, the energy that's moving and coursing through our bodies have we haven't been taught that the invisible side of success. You know is where the magic is,

Dan Riordan 8:39

yeah. The man wow you're getting into things that I absolutely love to talk about and don't typically you know get that much opportunity because one of the courses I went and leaned on from my undergrad was course. I loved which is thermodynamics and thermodynamics is you know the net energy in the universe is constant, just as you said, the energy is the energy and the second laws thermo is every time you convert energy from one form to another there's disorder or entropy created. And when I started re crafting my food and my nourishment of my body. I literally went to thermodynamics and I said, Okay, I can create positive potential energy law one, or I can create entropy and disorder law too. And by putting something into my machine. If it's not good stuff. it creates disorder an entropy which leads to disease, eventually, or I can put in, stuff that creates positive potential just as love does and other things, and really relied on that base level of energy dynamics the thermo equation and guided me, and I continue to use it today and virtually everything I evaluate but really, really fun to do your you talk about that.

Barbara Daoust 10:06

That disease is really only caused by 1% of our DNA.

Barbara Daoust 10:11

so the question is what's the rest of the cause by right so we know that stress creates about 75% of chronic disease, and it's all about signals, and it's in our inputs, what are the signals that we're inputting. So in the study of epigenetics it's really about what are the thoughts you're thinking, and are you putting in toxic thoughts,

you know, are you putting in nutrients, you know,helpful positive thoughts are you hanging out with people who are negative, like negative Nelly David downers and are you in an environment that's costing toxic. And are you also eating foods that are again toxic foods, right. So when you put all of those signals together. It's the inputs that are really creating the dis ease, or the disintegration

Dan Riordan 11:05

Yeah, no. Fantastic. Well one of the things that we had talked about in the pre show that I really liked that you had brought up which was inspiring people to tap into their greatness Time to wake up and really want to hear you articulate a little bit about that statement.

Barbara Daoust 11:26

Well thank you for that question because I was talking to somebody who said can you elaborate on wakeup because most people don't even know what that means, you know, some people will call it a midlife crisis. But what I perceived and have come to understand is that, you know, the majority of our lives until we really wake up to our true sense, or our true essence our true self. And in my book I call it a journey to self love, you know I didn't even know that I didn't know how to love myself until I lost my husband. It was kind of like my lost the love of my life to find a way to know how to love myself because I was so codependent on him, you know, giving me my value. And so the very first part of our lives. I believe that we're living a core identity. And that core identity is really seeking approval outside of ourselves because we formed our belief systems from our birth to around the age of seven we're already programmed, or already patterned, and those beliefs are somebody else's

Barbara Daoust 12:32

Because, once I started to really understand the function of the mind and understanding that 95% of neuroscience is showing this today that 95% of our behavior is controlled by the subconscious mind. And so, the other 5% is our conscious mind our logical mind, and most people think that their logical mind is really where they get to make decisions but then they end up doing things and say, you know, that's not what I wanted to do, why did I do that. Why and I did it again. Why did I do that why did I do that, and that's part of the autopilot mechanism in our, in our bodies and our brains, and it's really important to understand the difference between the brain

Barbara Daoust 13:20

right and the different mechanisms that are controlling our behavior. Adopted we come into this world looking like our, you know, grandparents in generations before so we're already programmed, our DNA. The way they look. And then even, you know why first generation welfare become second generation welfare becomes third generation welfare. It's all a part of the so called paradigm. And the paradigm is where we get stuck fixed ideas and beliefs, and they're, you know, we're just little sponges you know between the age of seven, we don't have the ability to to rationalize, so we're just accepting everything and especially anything that's repeated over and over and over again to us, for example, you can't, you won't be successful unless you go to college. You'll never amount to anything unless you have a you know a college degree from somebody, unless you're a PhD. And so if you hear that over and over and over again, every decision you make in life is going to be based on moving toward that PhD. And so it's always seeking approval outside of yourself without really, you know, having focus on what is it that you really want. And one day you know let's say midlife you wake up and go. Is this my life. This is who I am. Is this what I really want. Yeah, all there is, you know, and the good news is, is that that's the beginning. And you can have that kind of wake up call it doesn't have to be mid life, you can have that sooner too you know I know of 25, year olds who wake up one day out of an alcoholic stupor and say, Is this my life, you know, and when you start probing and asking those questions, it becomes well what else is there.

And the good news is, is that, you know, we're never. The best is always the anti common, we're never too old to stop dreaming..

Barbara Daoust 15:18

Most people stop breathing. So it's become my passion to help people continue living into the spirit of life living into the spirit of growth living into the spirit of, you know, being expressed, and then I call that as the core identity that starts to emerge, right where you're, you stop looking at, you know, seeking approval outside of yourself. And as you've shared with me, you start to go within and start to love yourself. And from that place, you can start serving, not only yourself but others and a much more expansive conscious, compassionate

Dan Riordan 15:59

I just wrote down a quote you said there but living into the spirit of growth is one of these amazing, you know, eye openers I had and this goes back to when I graduated my undergrad. I'll never forget, you know, a statement I said to my parents, which was not a good statement but I told them, oh my god I'm so glad I'm done learning. I'm just tired, I want to get out and make money I'm tired of studying, I'm just done with this whole thing, and I look back on it now and I'm like, oh my god you know my learning hadn't even started. And here I was in this mindset that I was done. And, you know, so I think living into this spirit of growth is, if I would put one thing for myself over the last seven years is the greatest adventure I'm on now is, every signal that I get I question it and I go on a growth adventure with it. And it's become like this, it's so much fun to follow the bouncing ball of the trail of some of these things materialized and it really is leading to the spirit of growth so I love that quote I'm probably gonna use that as the title of the episode.

Barbara Daoust 17:24

The spirit of growth is essential, as well, you know, because if we're not growing we're disintegrating. Yeah, we're either moving, you know towards something or we're moving away from stuff, right, you know, and so the more that we don't get expressed, and we start that suppressing the spirit of growth, you know, and where I look at it as the spirit of Mike into just like every single moment. Are you writing a letter to somebody or an email to somebody within the spirit of life. Yeah, so that it's, it's opening up potential. And an example for me when I really got that idea. I went on a vacation and I came home and a neighborhood planted a morning glory and I don't know if you know the morning glories of plant. They're like weeds and trees and they kill everything along the way they're so powerful, and my gardener said Watch out that plant is just going to take over your trees and, and I came back and I went into it was just a week and I went into my restaurant. And I opened up one of my little cupboards connected to the floor of the base, and I'll pop this morning glory. And it was a lime green all the colors were like not, you know, normal so called, and I discovered that this morning glory had gone underneath my house I have like a, you know as a three foot wrapped itself around all the electrical wires and found a crack in the cupboard in my bathroom and found the light. Wow, so that when I opened up my cupboard. It was like this plant that jumped out. And I was like, No, that's the spirit of. constantly seeking and constantly moving toward the light.

Barbara Daoust 19:31

Know. And so when we go into autopilot. You know, that's when we are burying our potential.

Dan Riordan 19:41

I lived far too many years on autopilot. As I look, you know, backwards and it's stunning to me how it kind of happens, you know, it wasn't intentional. But as the, the chaos of life, swarms you use I think, you know, you just feels that you start shutting down all those things because you're just trying to survive in amongst the chaos but yeah that's really interesting about the plant and seeking the light, because the latest

Barbara Daoust 20:20

distinguish the difference between the mind and the brain path to least resistance. So because of the neurons, you know, and we want to learn and we want to grow and we want to be comfortable, that's what we're always seeking we're always seeking comfort.

Barbara Daoust 20:38

And so, what happens is that autopilot is essential because the brain wants the path of least resistance. So we don't want to have to think about our hands moving and the blood veins, moving through the veins and our muscles to open up our front door. We want to be able to just know that we can walk through our open up the door. We want to be able to know that we can ride a car drive it you know without having to think about the fingers...

Chris Rush ON STEPPING INTO A NEW WAY OF BEING

Dan Riordan — Tue, 26 Jan 2021 07:30:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around being forward focused. With me is Chris Rush host of the maximized podcast. A great quote from Chris in the Episode: “Negativity isn’t supposed to hold us back”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show

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3 Great Signals From Chris

Help people get the most out of life
Pain is a signal to signify change is needed…at least to stary listening
How to pivot and stay resilient

The One Thing: Just start by listening..not to reply, but to understand

The Cauliflower Moment: my cauliflower moment, the pain that was controlling me, I thought I understood it..and then I finally went to an expert and it was completely different than I thought. It took me, understanding it from an expert perspective…Going and asking for help to get me to a place where I was actually able to feel more in control.

NOTES FROM SHOW

Hello everybody today we have Chris Rush with us, Chris is the host of the maximized podcast. Welcome Chris I'm excited to have you on the show today and I'd love if you can give everybody a bit more detail on your background.

Chris Rush

Thanks Dan I would love to do that so yeah like Dan said my name is Chris rush from Lexington, Kentucky, it's where I currently reside I grew up here, went to college here graduated from the University of Kentucky with a degree in marketing manager in nutrition. And then, you know, at the ripe age of 24, I started exploring what I wanted for my life. And over the past four years I've learned that I want to be a self improvement advocate that I really value, understanding and navigating the world of mental health and mindset and. And I'm all I'm all about trying to turn negatives into positives with Ford Focus thinking and being able to really understand where you are so that you know where you need to go.

Dan Riordan

Yeah, that's great. There's a few things in our pre show and getting to know you that you had highlighted that I want to make sure we spend a little bit time on one of them was, you know, helping people get the most out of life, and I think it's you know it's a easy statement to say but it's a really cool thing to help everybody you know experience this life in a more abundant fashion so what's your thoughts and guidance around that.

Chris Rush

So, you know, getting what you want out of life can be very subjective. It really depends on what you the person wants. But to know what you want, you have to understand a couple of things you have to understand how it applies to where you are and how it applies to where you want to go. And if it's something that you want, if it's a passion and desire or maybe it's a simple goal. You have to be able to navigate a pathway to get there. And that's, that's the part that really shows where the rubber meets the road. Dan and I were talking before the podcast I have an episode on a podcast called think how you drive it's about Ford Focus thinking. And that's, that's part of what makes up my approach to getting more on a life getting what you want out of life, because if you're not focused on where you're going, you're not going to have a plan to end up where you want to be. And and I'm sure we'll get into that analogy as this episode goes on but that's kind of the start, you know, getting what you want out of life, whether it's nutrition, fitness, whether it's mindset positivity mental health. It can be a multitude of things. But you got to understand the answer and you've got to understand the pathway that you're going down so that you can make the choices that will ultimately lead you to the outcome that you desire.

Dan Riordan

Yeah, the concept around, you know how to pivot and stay resilient that you, you talk about, and the car analogy, really go hand in hand so maybe spending a few minutes there talking about that car analogy because I've always had a pretty simple color car analogy myself which really was just related to was related to the rearview mirror. Just rip it off, and I've even experimented when I drive my own car, If I turn that rearview mirror up, and I don't look at what's going on behind me so much anxiety disappears, it's crazy if you have somebody tailing you or you got you know chaos going on behind you and if you flip that mirror so you're not looking anymore. All of a sudden you can just feel yourself go. Okay, doesn't matter what they're doing. It matters what's what's happening you know in front of me not not that there so I think yours is got some really cool details and nuances to it besides that that was kind of my own rudimentary one.

Chris Rush

Sure, so we'll get into what I think about a rearview mirror. But let's break it down so you're on a road, you're driving your car, you have a destination you're trying to reach your eyes are obviously on the road in front of you because that's where you're headed. If you spent too much time looking to the left. If you spent too much time looking to the right, you're not going to be focused on what's in front, the things that you need to get around the things that you need to choose whether it's a wind switch, whether it's a road merger anything like that you're not gonna be able to make those choices to be able to really stay on the path that you're trying to get well. You have some tools in your, in your wheelhouse to be able to keep your eyes forward and to be able to make the decisions you need to make. The first one is your blinker, what's your blinker it's how you communicate with other people really your blinker and your horn, and so let them know you're going left you're going right. Hey, you're in the way hey look out there's something going on. Hey, your headlights gone. You know, those are the three main tools you have to communicate with the outside world. You have your steering wheel. That one's self explanatory. That helps you direct yourself, it helps you choose where you want to go. And your steering wheel is kind of like your brain, it's your decision making, it's it's your ability to really direct your body and your mind, your words or actions everything to lead you to the intended place to get that intended outcome goal, whatever. Now there's a couple other things. So, you have to think about your environment. It's cold outside, you have your AC on. Now you have your heat on why because you need to make sure that you're in an optimal climate to be able to continue moving forward without adding distract distractions. And then conversely if it's if, if it's hot outside then you absolutely do have your AC on. Now, the radio, what's the radio the radio can be a couple different things the radio can be a way for you to receive messages incoming whether you're listening to the news or if there's some sort of weather update or road update. Or if you're someone who really focuses better like I do when there's music on in the car then you'll have some music playing to get to work and obviously not too loudly. You don't want to turn the radio off so much that you can hear other outside noises that you might need to hear, whether it's an oncoming car and ambulance. You know, there's so many things that could be. And then you have that rearview mirror that rear view mirror is not something that you're really supposed to focus on it's not your focal point, the focal point is still on the road ahead through your front windshield. And to get where you're going, you have your brake and you have your accelerator to change your velocity, so that as things are in your way you can slow down as things are out of your way you can speed up, but then also this is where the rearview mirror comes in, if there's something coming up behind you, that you need to be aware of so that you can make an appropriate decision to stay on the path that you want to be on. You got to see it coming, your rear view and your sideview mirror has really helped you see those, those. I'll call them threats, those threats to your chosen path. Now you could flip up your mirror and not look at it like Dan said, and that does completely eradicate any anxiety from that rearview mirror, but you also lose an opportunity by doing that, and the opportunity is to pivot. The opportunity is to see what's coming. That rearview mirror is your past that rearview mirror is, is things that might come back to haunt you or things that might come back and reward you things that might encourage you and keep you moving forward if you don't see them you're not going to know. But you don't focus on them. You don't dwell on them, just in a car if you spend all of your time looking at your rearview mirror you're going to run into the person in front of you. Well, in life, you don't sit there and dwell on your past because if you do that, you're going to miss the opportunities that are here in your present while you're alive and well.

that kind of gets me to where I want to talk about negativity versus positivity. Oftentimes, where the anxiety comes with focusing on that rearview mirror is some sort of negativity from our past is boiling up, it's affecting our present and it's threatening our future. And we tend to react to it. So oftentimes we'll put that mirror up we'll try to get rid of it, we'll try to ignore it, but it's still there, it still exists. So that doesn't work, and we already know that if we focalize on it too much, it's going to be a distraction or a threat to our for progress so what do we do with it. Well we use it as a signal. We use it as a as a lesson if you will. We, we use it to influence. What we're going to do next, not as a reaction. But as part of the plan.

Chris Rush

there's a quote, the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry. What that means is that what your plan is what you think is your concrete path forward isn't going to be your concrete path before why you can't see the future. You can see where you're going, but you can't see past the horizon, and the future would be that horizon what's out of your visual range was out of your mental range. You're not going to be able to know or encounter until it's upon you. So, as your past, and your present me, and affect your, your directional pathway towards your future. You've got to be able to pivot you've got to be able to make quick decisions. If someone's coming up on you. In the left lane on the highway. And if that person is going on and you're going 75, you go get in the left lane if you're in the right lane no you stay on the right lane why because you're going to let them pass you otherwise they're a threat to your safety. Well, what if you're in the left lane going 75. And what if they're still going 90, you have a couple of different options. You could throw your blinker on and signal that you're going to move to the right lane before they get to you, if there's space. But if there's not space, you're gonna have to let them come sit behind you. And they're gonna stay there until you have the opportunity to move out of their way unless they have an opportunity to get around you, but it gives you time to see what they're going to do, it gives you time to pivot to plan. And if you're using your blinker properly and if the space becomes available you can sit there and have your blinker on for 510 seconds before you move to give them time to understand what it is you're about to do. Yeah, if you panic. If you stress out because they're going super fast maybe they're laying on their horn now maybe they're, you know, flipping you the bird as they go around you. If that causes you anxiety and stress that if it affects how you're operating your vehicle. Well let's take it back to the, to the real world. Let's take you back to your life if this, this person going to use some sort of occurrence some sort of instance that that threatened you or that caused you pain in the past and now it's affecting your present your future.That,

Chris Rush 35:27

that's, that's where you have to make sure you know what lane you're in and how it's potentially going to affect you in your past. And you have options you have choices, but you have to know what's coming. You can't dwell on it because if you dwell on it, it will cause panic, it will induce anxiety. But if you just know that it's there you accept that it's presence and you say, Okay, what can I do with this. Then you'll, you might not completely erode anxiety, you might not completely get rid of any discomfort, but you will at least know what you can do with it.

Dan Riordan

it's a great set of analogies around it. And it's funny because I had a moment with my own driving years ago as I started to kind of transform the way I am in the world, where I was one of those drivers that used to drive fast and weave in and out of traffic and I look back on it and I'm like What was I thinking, but I finally got to the point where I questioned it and I saw I had a 35 minute drive. And I timed it driving, you know, 80 plus weave in and out of traffic, causing all sorts of stress for everybody, myself included. Time to drive in that way 15 days and then I drove 15 days the speed limit never changing lanes just sailing you know sailing to work my maximum differential was four minutes max on a day to day basis, most of the days was within one minute that I would arrive. And I would. It was shocking, when you, when you looked at it and I was really amazed at wow, you know, this is such a better way to go, you know, just go the speed limit, no stress, you know get there safely don't cause anybody else a burden. But there's so much around the set of metaphors on driving it's really cool. When you in the pre show when we were talking around. Obviously we've come out of a year that has had a lot of negativity and also just a lot of chaos. And when you transition to that and you say okay. The, as you said in the pre show the pain signal, the negativity coming out, you know, we treat those things in different ways and maybe you could share a minute on your, your thought process around this negative pain signaling, and how we process it.

Chris Rush

Sure. So oftentimes, most of the time really, we're taught to look at negativity as bad. Bad evil dangerous uncomfortable painful, what have you, it's it's you know it's not a, a feeling of something that we want to experience, that's fine.

But there's another side to negativity and that's what it means for our ability to get to a place of positivity. Now, something Dan and I talked about is what pain is what pain signals in the human body. You know you're you're a kid you're growing up your knees hurt you're like Oh Why did my knees hurt your parents who you just have growing pains, it'll go away as you get older, those pants are natural, but that's your only. That's your body's only way of communicating to you that hey, something is changing. The same thing goes of life, negativity paint is covered they're not always bad things, but they usually signal some sort of change. Whether the change is desired or not. They signal change. So what do you do with that. Well, it's just like your rearview mirror you got to look at it, you've got to accept that it's there. But the next thing you do is pivotal and that's accepting it, and then working with it, working through it, not finding it. If you're feeling mental pain so I'm someone who suffers from anxiety. And if I'm having a panic attack, or if I am experiencing something that's triggering to me that induces some of my anxiety symptoms. If I try to fight those thoughts if I try to argue with myself or battle myself with those those thoughts or especially for having a panic attack. It gets worse. Cortisol goes up your stress levels go up and it doesn't help get you through it, get out of it or help get things better. But let's say a trigger is causing me to have some really poor self talk which is inducing my anxiety. The first thing I have to do is recognize that's what's happening. Oh, I'm belittling myself I'm beating myself up but this is some really negative self talk or this is some limiting self talk that isn't really helping me see the potential. First thing I have to do is not fight it argue with myself to counter it. Just go. Well it could be that. Or it could be, this over here here's an example. Let's say you run out of the door. You got your keys you got your wallet. You got your cell phone. But let's say that you needed your gym bag you went to the gym and you get to the first slide from your house and you go, oh no I forgot my gym bag. Ah, how stupid. How does that help you get to the gym any better, right, you have to go back and get the bag. You know, you're gonna have to turn around, or just work out in the closer and if you're in the right clothes it's fine but if you're like me, you're coming from work or you're coming from something else you're going to want to change. So, you have to sit there and instead of going oh that's stupid. If you say that you go,

Chris Rush

yeah oh man that's a really good question. I would say. So I grew up a competitive swimmer. I swam competitively for 12 years, I played. After I stopped swimming I played two seasons of water polo as a goalkeeper. So I was I was an aquatic athlete. And, as I got older, training and then being able to perform the way that I knew I could. I'm a tall guy. Wow, the way that I thought I could. It got harder and I started telling. I couldn't figure out why what was going on why can I get any faster. Why can't I train hard remember the last year that I was competing. Our best butterfly or our best female waterfire was also a distance swimmer and she was, she was laughing me. What is wrong with me. Why can't you I mean this is causing mental breakdowns I'm freaking out. This is what I've known for 12 years and it's about to be gone. Well, you know, I stopped swimming, I move on with the rest of my life, and. And I guess it was in the winter of 2019. I noticed that I always had this shoulder issue and I thought well it's probably just from overuse from reading a distance or chronic shoulder tension and shoulder pain, pop in my neck all the time. And so I finally go to an orthopedic doctor had nothing to do with my shoulder. Turns out that my second and third vertebrae in my neck, never separated, one giant vertebrae were to should be that's sitting on my nerves, causing pain and discomfort elsewhere in my body,...

Travis Bell ON USING THE BUCKET LIST AS A TANGIBLE LIFE PLAN

Dan Riordan — Thu, 21 Jan 2021 07:45:00 -0700

Today we have Trav Bell with us. Founder of the BucketList Coach and #1 Bucket List Expert. He is on a mission to help 10m Bucketlisters! I love the goal.

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ahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GImTk0BzBhM&t=8s

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3 Great Signals From Trav:

1) A bucket List is a tangible life plan

2) Have an Adventurous Mind

3) Living by default, not be design

The One Thing: Separate your bucket list from your daily to do list and write it down.

The Cauliflower Moment: Your Story matters. Be courageous and tell it.

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:06

Welcome everybody. Today we have Travis Bell with us. He's the number one bucket list expert and founder of the bucket list coach, and he's also the author of the bucket list blueprint. He's on a mission to help 10 million bucket listers. I love the goal. Welcome travel I'm excited to have you on the show today and I'd love for you to give us a bit more background than the intro.

Trav Bell 4:40

Thanks so much everyone who's watching and listening to this podcast

Trav Bell 4:52

been running around the world as the bucket this guy, after someone pulled me to the back of the sky about 10 years ago. And so, primarily as a speaker certified speaking professional and as a coach. And now an author, which is kind of kind of weird. After I put it off for certain many years but it has been taken off my bucket list, and also your founder and founder and CEO of bucket lists coaches and certified coaches in what 22 countries around the world, teaching this stuff, you know, it's really what this stuff is is primarily positive psychology, you know, helping people, the happier. You know, the positive psychology is essentially you know the science of the psychology of happiness so we've just, you know, sort of put put back at least, is a brand over the top of it to make it more tangible. And essentially, it's about helping people and people really freaking need this right now yeah I think people experience more meaning or purpose and more fulfillment more gratitude in your life and that's what it's all about. So instead of doing this for 10 years and I think right now it's a perfect time for this, this message to get out there and help people kind of recalibrate on what that is for them for them to define what that is for them to stop living by this default leave by design stop just existing and start living there is light at the end of this COVID tunnel. Yeah, I hope.

Trav Bell 6:33

you know it's really, it's really has helped a lot of people recalibrate on what that is for them so it runs out there sort of defining what it is for them and their family right now.

Dan Riordan 6:44

I do hope that we get on the other side of this very soon myself It's a strange, strange time to be fighting our way through It's amazing. Yeah, as I was getting familiar with your message and in the platform you speak from one of the things that I liked was this reframing of bucket list in my mind when you said bucket list is a tangible life plan, and I'd love to kind of talk us all through a little bit about that reframing because I hadn't thought of bucket lists that way, just based on the movies I watched or the you know the inputs,

Trav Bell 7:28

which is, as you've watched by a matrix L. And in that are introduced an unpacked concept called the mind behind this blueprint which is what the book is all about. And I, I say a bucket list is a tangible life plan where a career plan or a business plan should fit into our life plan and not be the other way around so really what we're doing here is bringing home that work to live in principle, you know, I don't call it work life balance I call it work life blend and that's what everyone's trying to also define for themselves right now what is my ideal work life blend, I think, you know, it's helped so many people over the last 10 years, and I've built this, I kind of built this whole philosophy I guess to help perform in May I went through a bout of depression but mild compared to what i've you know what I've heard since, Ron was always in a pretty dark place myself. And so, wanting more freedom, wanting to, you know, have more happiness fulfillment meaning purpose in my life. I kind of built this whole back up this philosophy. And lo and behold, it was to help initially but then lo and behold, it's helped a lot of other people in the process as well. And really, I want to wake people up before they get given to us by Dave, the movie The fact that this movie is shit because it's about and I've posted a whole career. Shift because it's about two blocks that get given a cancer diagnosis and men they ride. their bucket list used by date so it's just done. And unfortunately, a lot of people have to be you know like the movie, they have to wait for that something traumatic with remake. It happened to them or a loved one for them to wake up and actually start experiencing their life was so busy on their daily to do this that we forget about our bucket list until something goes wrong.

Dan Riordan 9:19

Yeah, yeah. Oh, that's

Trav Bell 9:25

we all we all do it, we have to wait for that level of pain to really kick in for us to reprioritize we're so busy on our to do list that again, you know it's not this green badge of honor that we carry around with us, you know, the thing is we're so busy on our to do list but forget about our bucket list. And my whole thing is to help people, not turn their world upside down. In, not like quit their day job and quit their business and go and travel around the world and be a digital nomad. But it's a real, it's a it's around choosing happiness around choosing things that that helping you put your own oxygen mask on first and help others be a leader in your family to choose the things that that that bring meaning purpose and fulfillment in your life and why is because look at the stats, right, depression, anxiety, suicide youth suicides. But even though this thing, gang called the loneliness epidemic now it's a real thing, Google, we know what a pandemic is we truly know what pandemic is and that's pretty freakin serious, but an epidemic is poised on this field. It's called the loneliness epidemic it's the adverse effect of social media. 89% of people are, what they call disengaged in America as well so that's it not at work, so there's only 9% of people who go to work every day and not enjoy what they're doing. Right. So there's a lot of mental health issues going on right now and this is our way to help, you know, maybe change the narrative, change the conversation around those statistics because I know something's broken. Right. And, and those mental health stats that has a massive effect on families, as a massive effect on kids, and you throw COVID in on top of that, and lockdowns and quarantines and shit like this is I. Yeah, we're in a bad boy. Yeah. So, this bucket this philosophy is, is my way, and now our coaches, our way. Tap to give people really to give people a framework, typical tools to see the light at the end of this tunnel to maybe change this, you know, then being a statistic, because over the last 10 years of speaking this stuff from stage of seeing the lights go on for so many people we've had people come off suicide watch. We've come. We've had people that just, you know, one of the things that I'm quoted on the most is people are dying at 40 and being buried in ice. Right. People are dying at 40 and being buried in it we know so many people have this midlife crisis like this to be a midlife awakening but it's just existing not living they've been by this default not going in and the lights have just gone out but but the more abusive that the kids in life. Right. Yeah, that is that stats Don't lie. Yeah you, your podcast is called switched on and that's exactly what we're trying to do is switch people on that life is really, you know, life is really short. And we ain't got time, there is no perfect time there is no Sunday that a day of the week. So that's the time to start living, you know, living your budget is really limitless writing it down and leaving your bucket lists truly choosing happiness. On behalf of the kids, either kind of parents be the kind of partner, be the boss or later a friend, but just do it for yourself and be the kind of person that is in our takes ownership code that a lot of responsibility accountability is done a victim to everything. Yeah, blaming the world using excuses or in denial. So, this has helped so many people over the last few years, over the last 10 years and it's really cool to see scaling out now threat coaches to.

Dan Riordan 13:31

Yeah, it's, it's neat I know in the YouTube when on on your TEDx talk when you put up on the screen the ad boxes. And you basically said, you know, half of those boxes for you are already gone, and I know, yeah, yeah. I love the just the, the subtleness of that exercise sends a really good message.

Trav Bell 14:10

know, you might only get bullied a TED talk it's only a terrifying minute. I did that TED talk in front of 2000 people. I mean it's four cameras on me, getting film, and on a three by three red.if you've ever seen me do a keynote presentation, I run around like an idiot. So me being on three bytes. A page monkey. But if you look closely, you'll note about four minutes I started to do that it was on my bucket list ticked it off in front of 2000 people which is really cool. The point being is, you know, this when you're speaker, you get a little bit more time. Normally, if I go to a conference it's 45 minutes maybe to an hour and a half. And I gonna change someone's life in, in an hour. Probably not, you know, but you've got to use things like this and we call the life grid. You got to use things like this to wake people the fuck up yeah like straight up man like you got to go to a shop, and I'm not trying to be a motivational speaker, because that isn't motivational that's depressing. Yeah, like, this is about reality. Even worse, and just for context to if you're listening to this guy's we're holding on holding our by a shader in our page in my book it's called the life grid is 80 squares a 10 by eight grid. And it's basically represents 80 years on earth which is the average age of death is 79 for us guys and 83 for for girls right let's go with it. I get people to cross off as I didn't attend to cross off the ones that been alive so if you're 40. After those squares on a screen where they've gone that a year, they don't ask three questions so it's already depressing when you look at squares and often we're going to go nah shit. We're gonna leave out an exciting but yeah. The matter is you don't know when you're done or when. No. So, to make matters worse, and just in that TED talk to. I asked three very important questions one, I asked the audience mentioned sitting up on stage and asking 2000 people if I've done it more than 2000 people. I asked him, all right. Does anyone know anyone in this audience know anyone who has been diagnosed who have died from cancer. And you got like 2000 people. And then I asked him. Okay. How many people do you know being diagnosed or die from cancer show fingers, you know, and you got tours from younger people in the audience up to, up to 10s in the hour. And so to those people and then I have a run look around. I've looked at the audience everyone's gone. This is, this is full on. And so okay all of those people. How many of them made their own squares. The writing is. And then you'll see sort of zeros and ones to maybe come up. And I've done that all around the world for the last 10 years, and I know in that moment, I've got their attention. Now I'm not doing it. I'm not doing it as a show or, I'm doing it to do anything else than getting people to actually wake up and it gets switched on right right then and there, just to go. Alright guys, this is reality. But when is a good time to start living his bucket list, you know, let's start creating a list use the my bucket list, blueprint framework, and then start having a crack at this thing, because you don't you just don't know when your time is up.

Dan Riordan 17:52

No, that's great. I know it definitely has me dying jump in and fill out the rest of my blueprints I love the concept of it. Another thing you'd mentioned that I that I really liked the concept of was having a inventors mind and coupling that with your blueprint, I'm interested to hear you speak a minute on that.

Trav Bell 18:22

It's to explain a little bit further to go deeper. Like this isn't just about taking a whole bunch of cool stuff off it's not just about travel, travel is only one category A lot of people think that this is all their travel country Picchu in Australia

Unknown Speaker 18:37

and all that,

Trav Bell 18:38

that she that she requires a lot of money and time. Right. A lot of money and time that that's why a lot of people don't even write back at this little goals because they think that bucket list is all about travel and expense, and that's it. And resources to make a lot of these things happen so that's why I created the blueprint is to help people kind of go north, south, east, west in their own brain and help them extract that articulated personally meaningful and holistic list a lot more holistic than just travel. It's a 12 letter acronym my bucket list. And what it does allow people to do is identify other things outside travel that they could put on their bucket list. Right, so you get really low hanging fruit things that are really easy to do, and some that I'm doing five things that I'm not right now but I'm doing five things at the moment. And so, that cumulative effect that compounding kind of effect. Starting with the small ones that are easy to cross off keeps you that momentum and motivation, especially the bigger ones, but that's what people need they need a moat. they need to get over the initial inertia, to gain some momentum and that gives them, you know, hope that gives them the motivation to smash through the bigger ones. So that's the cool thing about how it's helped a lot of people, it gives people that early you know early wins. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 20:06

yeah, like you're good.

Trav Bell 20:08

Yeah, this whole concept is not just about taking a whole bunch of cool stuff off, it's really about how each person reverse engineers, every aspect of life in order to make this stuff come to fruition. It's really about the growth, the growth of you on the journey towards the self imposed destinations. But more importantly, Adventurous Life adventurous mind, it's really about the person that exists on the other person and exists on the other side of your bucket list. and that's the person that we don't know yet. Yeah, yeah. That's, that's called out potential. And, you know, I wouldn't be a coach, if I didn't, if I wasn't passionate about, you know, the same maintenance while you're doing this podcast is, you wouldn't be, You know we all we all want people to step in and get curious and get it, you know, choose adventure, get passionate get obsessed about seeing what you really might have before you before Your time's up, you know, experience for your own potential because when you know positive psychology teaches is when you experience more of your own potential because part of our innate human behavior is growth. A lot of people stop growing. They stop being curious, they stop seeking their potential more and more they go in and they get to midlife crisis and they are here. And then they become a statistic. Yeah, and because what it does, it puts fire in your belly, it, it, it puts a smile on your face the Dalai Lama said happiness is the meaning of life, you know, so this is what, that's the whole reason behind it is to help people get curious about how they can have a more adventurous life and to seek it choose this, you know, deliberately live it live intentionally.

Unknown Speaker 22:14

That's what it's all about.

Dan Riordan 22:16

Yeah, you know it's exciting to hear you talk about it and we did last year, towards the end of the year we actually sat down and intentionally designed. We were like, we were looking at it we're going okay, we want to do a couple sports that we can do together, and we can also do for a long time. And so we picked up frisbee disc golf, and we and we picked up tennis. And it's been great, neither one of them, cost much money. Totally accessible, and we're learning to new sports, and we're having a blast doing it, and it was a intentionally designs I love when I hear you say that because I feel the power of it myself.

Trav Bell 23:07

Yeah, choosing the things that bring deliberately choosing the things around you. That's the great thing about this book. And when people get a copy. It's designed for you to absolutely abuse. I want to say absolutely by doggy tone upon notes all through it is designed as a workbook. And what I'm doing is getting people to actually document the impact of this. Take a photo of it. And then from an accountability point of view, send it to me. So Dan you're going to be doing that you're going to be sending me your bucket list as well. And yeah and that's how I that's how I turn, that's, that's how I kick everyone's ass

Unknown Speaker 23:49

from afar.

Dan Riordan 23:50

Yeah, I know I love that and absolutely will do it. You know, another concept that

I can only imagine

Trav Bell 24:14

no judgment, no judgment zone. Really has gone.

Dan Riordan 24:30

You touched on a little bit but you had a great statement in the TED talk around living by default, versus living by design. And so much of what you've been talking about is, is really living into that live by design mentality, but I really do. We see it everywhere you know as I know you're aware this living by default it's everything from I remember graduating college and I just jumped on the...

Jennifer Brunacini ON CREATING AND LIVING THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS

Dan Riordan — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 09:45:00 -0700

Today we have Jennifer Brunacini with us.

Welcome Jennifer, I am excited to have you on the show today. Jennifer is a social media influencer, business owner, motivational speaker, and mindset transformation coach that empowers others to make powerful, conscious choices towards living a life of passion and purpose.

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3 Great Signals From Jennifer

1) A great reminder that the everyday life moments that I sometimes took for granted are now those that I cherish and long for the most.

2) Embrace the change, bend and grow

3) You're always one decision away from a totally different life.

The One Thing: mindset and manifestation..If you can get these two things really aligned, mindset aligned manifestation will fall into place

The Cauliflower Moment: That you can live a life of your designs for your dreams vs. just living a life based on the outline of your education and career versus what I was designed to do.

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Welcome everybody. Today we have Jennifer with us and Jennifer is a social media influencer business owner, motivational speaker and mindset transformation coach. She empowers others to make powerful conscious choices towards living a life of passion and purpose, really excited to dive into this with Jennifer today. Jennifer welcome and can you give everybody a little bit more background about yourself.

Jennifer Brunacini 2:13

Absolutely. And thank you, Dan for having me today I'm super grateful to be here as well as Jen mentioned Jennifer. Born and raised from Albuquerque, New Mexico, moved to Southern California. Back in 2007 I lived in Southern California for eight years and then you know followed my dreams and moved to Paris France in 2014 lived in Paris for, you know, the last six years and up until this last March and here I am now kind of navigating my way you know through that time I've learned a lot I've grown a lot. Been in marketing and advertising my entire career, up until last year, and also lived to my dreams of traveling and seeing the world. And that's something I really kind of want to touch on today because if you would have told me 10 years ago that I would have lived in Paris and travel the world I would have been like, Yeah, right. That's crazy. But I did and I'm standing here today to tell everybody, the story of how that happens and how anybody can really accomplish their dreams.

Dan Riordan 3:26

Okay. Very nice. Yeah, I've traveled there, and I'm sure I would slaughter the name of the place that we stayed but it was like the Ile de St Louis or something like that right. Yeah, there you go you say it much better than I do.

Jennifer Brunacini 3:47

It's a super charming little it's an island actually there's two islands Yeah, but it's a cute little charming Island how fun and how long ago was that,

Dan Riordan 3:56

oh that was a fair bit ago but I've been there a couple of different times, but that was my favorite spot, it was, it was a beautiful location. It was really cool. Yeah, there was a really great, you know there's 1000s of but there was a really great, like, you know, pastry shop right right next to the place and it was just fantastic to go and sit there and just kind of watch life go by.

Unknown Speaker 4:21

That is the best.

Dan Riordan 4:21

As we dive into this. One of the areas that I like to talk to people about and make sure I have you shared about is when you started redesigning, and when you said hey I'm gonna go take on this new, new lifestyle. What are the some of the things you went through that helped you, you know, kind of dive into this and take on that, that possibility.

Jennifer Brunacini 4:49

So, that's a great question. So, like I mentioned, I've been in sales and marketing and advertising my entire life I have lived and breathed it it's what I know how to do like my first job literally was like marketing and up until like now, that is what I've done in sales and so, but there's always been this deep yearning this like knowing this intuition within me of something bigger. You're made for something bigger. You can be really good at something but it doesn't necessarily mean that your purpose. And, you know, it was really this moment of sitting in my corner office in Southern California, you know I had become the top salesperson I was making great money, but I just didn't feel fulfilled and that they felt like empty. Like I achieved everything I owned my own home I was successful I was in my little comfortable bubble. And while that can be a good place. It's not where I was growing and I knew that. And so, you know, I had made a decision like in 2014 like I want to go see more of the world, I want to go see more culture I want to feel well rounded I want to see you know what the world is really about and really experience it. And, you know, it was at that point it was just travel, I just want to go travel and see things like go eat new food, things like that.

Jennifer Brunacini 6:06

But my girlfriends and I said let's let's plan a trip to Paris, and this is the first time I've been to Paris, France, I've been to Europe once with my mom and sister in Rome but Paris, France, first time it was a girls trip this is May of 2014. And, you know, while I'm there. It's just anybody who's been to Paris it's just wow, you know, if you've been to Europe it's a completely different world it's like walking in a museum everywhere you go. It's like a museum everything is just history and culture and just amazingness and yeah so my girlfriend's decided to go on a like a champagne tour, one of the last days and I don't drink, so I was like you know what guys, you go ahead and go. I'm gonna stay back and just explore the city. And so I was like this is perfect I can go I like to go running in city so that I travel to it just without a map just go running and wonder and I'll like run for like two hours and just discover new things which is super cool for me. But I wanted to go running so I ended up going running and ended up at the Notre DOM. And it's funny that you mentioned, St. Louis because it's right across that bridge. Yeah. In that park that park right there across the bridge from where you were saying, you know it was there by myself, I'm sitting on the swing, and the sun is hitting my face and I was just like,

Jennifer Brunacini 7:35

I could live here. I could live here. Like, this is it this is this is that piece that I've just been calling to me. And, you know, and then my head was like oh my gosh that's so crazy what would I do and all the logical part comes in like am I gonna find it What am I gonna do Am I gonna live all those things of course. But I got back to California after that. And it was still there, that feeling that knowing and sitting in my office still feeling like this is it, this, this can't be it there has to be more and I know what that is now and I have to follow it. And you know I get goosebumps just thinking of that exact moment where I was like, I'm going to do it. And, yeah, and to in December of 2014 only like what after May of 2014 to December 2014. I moved to Paris Ferriss. Wow,

Dan Riordan 8:27

wow, that'you know in the in the way I looked at those things there was a strong signal is, is the way I always try to define these but the amazing thing is you actually listened to it, and you followed that signal and, and then it obviously led to some pretty big transformation across your whole life. So it's, it's amazing and fun when you watch people follow their signals and you hear about the stories of it, it's, it's powerful.

Jennifer Brunacini 8:58

life changing.

Dan Riordan 8:59

You know in the pre show we talked a little bit about, there was a few things I had noticed in your comments that you had been making and one of them was you talked about, you know, that it's a great reminder that everyday life moments that you sometimes took for granted are now those that you cherish and longed for the most. And I think it's such an important point for all of us in today's world in particular but that's a powerful statement and I want to have you speak for a minute about that.

Jennifer Brunacini 9:30

Yeah, you know, it's so funny. That is so true on so many levels and it could be something as simple as like, you know, your husband or wife's silly laugh, you know that you're like oh it's every day but if it's not there you miss it, because you're like, Oh, those are the things that give us meaning in our life and for me, you know, thinking about living in Europe I got used to it and so it was a part of my life and walking around the streets and hearing the buzz of people at the fresh markets and, you know, being able to walk to the Eiffel Tower anytime I wanted, you know, it's those everyday things that I was able to do, and living there sometimes in anywhere you get a little numb to it, like you get numb to the, the exhilaration of that to the spark of that. And going back to that now I'd like to know what I would give to be able to walk to the Eiffel Tower right now. Like, I just want to go see it. This Iron Lady that will sparkle. Every hour on the hour for five minutes, you know, those things and even just like the simple things of, you know, walking and grabbing a croissant in the morning, a fresh croissant is just something simple.

Dan Riordan 10:39

I think the, you know, the present moment, is something all of us, you know, tend to blow by too easily and really just being in that present moment, awareness of whatever it is you're doing you know yesterday, played frisbee golf and, you know, it was so fun and you're just out in the trees and you feel the energy and, you know, just trying to be in the pocket of that moment and not wishing you are doing something else or being somewhere else but relishing that you can do that and I hear that, you know, with you and listening to that you missing it and the longing for those moments it. It really is powerful when you're in those moments to just be present.

Jennifer Brunacini 11:25

Even just thinking about how I love to go running, like if I were to hurt my ankle and I couldn't go run to just go for that run because to me it's a moving meditation. And it's a normal thing it's everything is something I do regularly, but you can often take it for granted because I'm just gonna go for a run, no big deal but like it would be so sacred if I weren't able to do that.

Dan Riordan 11:47

Yeah. The. Another point we talked about the pre show which resonated with me so much, which is, you're always one decision away from a totally different life or a total life transformation type of thought process and it certainly sounds like you know you experienced that in this process but maybe share with everybody a little bit more around that thought process.

Jennifer Brunacini 12:15

Yeah, one decision away I mean if you think about it, people are making decisions on a constant basis, constant, constant decisions whether an outward decision or an inward decision I think for me, there's been so many pivotal decisions that if I would have gone a different way my life completely different. One is the obvious you know the decision to move to Paris. I mean, if I hadn't done that I don't know what would happen I do know for sure that I would feel the emptiness on so much of a deeper level, and I wouldn't have been able to travel and see the world, and really like experience something that is timeless and invaluable to my heart and soul that probably one of the biggest and best decisions of my life was to do that. And if I hadn't done that. I think the thing for me is that I know it would have been based in fear. And that knowing that I would have made the decision in the other way based on fear I would have like crushed my soul in some way, you know, I think that is like, that's the beauty of. When you make those decisions that change to elevate you and move you forward, you know that you did it is more of like a you know a hope and a faith and a trust that everything is going to be fine as you just keep moving forward and follow your dreams.

Dan Riordan 13:33

Yeah, there's, um, see if this resonates with you but there's this interesting distinction I've been playing with which is, I've noticed the pattern for me of when I try to use force like when I try to force something to happen. And, and then I wind up, I can make it happen you know but it really wasn't what I should have been making happen. So in this case I think of you and I go like well you could have forced yourself to stay in your office, and stay at that desk and stay in that job. If, but you know that, you know, like you said, Who knows where that would have led, but you could have done it but instead you, you pulled back a little bit and you didn't use force and you let intuition guide you and you let other things, you know guide that decision and I think it's um, I've been noticing more and more that every time I think of these things and I realized that forces involved like I'm really forcing it. Then I wind up with unintended consequences that I didn't want. Does that resonate and what do you what are your thoughts on that.

Jennifer Brunacini 14:40

Absolutely. Like when I think of when I'm trying to force something I'm hitting a brick wall, and a brick wall and a brick wall and if I keep hitting that brick wall, what, what am I meant to learn right now.

Jennifer Brunacini 14:51

What am I meant to learn, mostly about myself, what am I trying to force and if it's not working. Either that's what's not meant to be or find another way, find a different path, because this one is obviously not the one you're meant to be on right yeah so there's obviously perseverance comes into that perseverance, but if it doesn't energetically feel aligned and you know that's that signal that intuition. Okay. Something is trying to tell me something that this is not the path. Yeah.

Dan Riordan 15:22

The, the perseverance one is an interesting one too you know it's there really is. We talked about this a little bit but you know I've just noticed the more I'm in the pocket of of kind of letting intuition guide me things really are materializing and things really are manifesting, and the more you can trust that the funner this gets, and I don't know if there's even a word but anyway, it's. It definitely. It does, it does work. It does happen. So another question want to ask is, what are some of the daily rituals that you can share that keep the momentum even when things are getting hard. What do you do to keep yourself, you know, in the flow of this

Jennifer Brunacini 16:18

is something I do every morning, first coffee first. But second, I go and I sit on my little balcony deck and are Wherever I am, you know at that particular time in my life, and I will write a gratitude list. What this does for me is it just sets me in this headspace of being thankful and grateful and I could get writing like I'm grateful for the sunshine I'm grateful for the birds outside, just those small things that actually means so much to me, being able to see those things grateful for my sight, grateful for my life that I'm that I'm safe and healthy. You know all of these different things and then it takes me out of a place of longing for more and appreciating for what I already have. And it also puts me in kind of a joy state of while I'm really blessed you know even if they're just really small things it's actually the small things that make such a big difference. Anyways, and the gratitude list just cultivates that joy for me to carry throughout my day, so feeding my mind is a part of that I also like to consume some some type of inspirational educational mind expansion type of content every day whether that's listening to a podcast, you know, different things that would go wow like, Ooh, that's a good thought or I could try that or like that's a new perspective. Just something to expand my mind and get out of the conformity of the belief systems that I can set myself into, you know, or society or anything just expansion. And then feeding my body, you know i think that that's a big one, which includes doing some type of workout and that could be just going for a long walk outside. That's nurturing my body it's doing aerobics it's going for my run, and for me that's like a moving meditation. So it's really kind of a mind and body but really, like, you know, talking about taking care of your body and your health. It's definitely a mind body connection. And I try to make sure and see both of those to the best of my ability. Every day, so that I just feel good.

Dan Riordan 18:22

Yeah, yeah that's neat, the gratitude list is, you know, it's one I've heard about and I've heard a lot of people talk about it. I, I do a morning kind of what I'm joyful and thankful for. But I could extend it even further so that's good I made a note and I gotta keep you know I always try to keep learning. Another thing on the exercise I just watched this amazing video by. You ever heard of Dr Greger. I have yeah so nutrition facts but he had a video where he just did a study on walking and motion. And basically, and if you do 400 minutes a week, you basically extend your life by 14 years. And, you know, you start to look at that and you go, that is significant. Right. I mean, especially yeah I'm getting older so 14 years is really important. But yeah, it was an amazing data point and the motion the activity whatever it is like you said the walking the running the playing frisbee golf whatever you do to get out and get moving. It all counts, and at all it really does make a big difference.

Jennifer Brunacini 19:43

Absolutely, and doing those two things on a regular basis, just helps me find balance, and serenity and myself so no matter what life might throw at me it's kind of like my own way...

Robert Mackenzie ON RESPECT IS EVERYTHING

Dan Riordan — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 07:30:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around using your energy for good. With me is Robert Mackenzie Owner of Macka’s black angus in Australia. A great quote from Robert in the Episode: “ try and help more people make the world a better place” Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Robert

1) I think respect is key to success

2) Give back as much as you can

3) Maybe the cows have no judgement

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Dan Riordan 0:27

Oh yeah, I will definitely do that more after today. Okay, I've got the recording started, and let's start this okay here we go. Hello everybody Today I want to welcome Robert McKenzie to the show. I'm excited to have him on Robert is the owner of cars Australian black angus beef company, and he has some really interesting approaches to what he does with his animals his land, and other things, and I'm excited to have him with us. And I'm going to ask Robert to give him a little bit more background about himself and then we'll dive in. Welcome Robert

Robert Mackenzie 1:15

it thanks for having me Dan and and welcome all of your followers and all of the listeners. My name's Robert McKenzie, I'm the fourth generation. Beef producer in our family, very proud of that. The business or the, the stems back from 1884, where my, my grandfather's Arnie's raised my grandfather on the east coast of Australia. A couple of hours north of Sydney. in the Hunter Valley, and an ad for they like they had some Catalan is just slowly grind from there. And it's really good aspires to be able to say that we're on the fourth generation but he's producer of an amazing family operation and I'm glad that I'm in the business. We export around the world, and not much into the US but maybe after today we might be on the menu.

Dan Riordan 2:18

Yeah, it looks like you guys have a pretty big export business to a lot of the Asian countries from what I could gather is that your biggest market.

Robert Mackenzie 2:28

You look at biggest market took a taken a hit, it's taken a big hit. So we had to diversify relatively fast and open up some other opportunities, so we're moving product into the middle east into Palestine, Singapore, all those Asian countries now it's going really good for us and yeah it was a mistake to have all our eggs in one basket. Look, I still value our relationships with some great people in China, and we just hope that we're back in there in the strength we were in 2021. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 3:11

well that's great, in, in getting to know you a little bit and know your operations. The one thing that I found really amazing was, I was looking at your beautiful farms and I was, I was commenting to Sarah I said, you know, if I have to come back as a cow I really want to come back on one of their properties because they're the most beautiful looking places I've seen you have some beautiful pieces of land.

Robert Mackenzie 3:39

Thank you very much with. We've grown a lot in the last 12 years and we strategically bought property in key locations along that east coast of Australia, where you know the waters that abundant, producers, great grasses, great, great cattle, it's funny to say that I'm on a LinkedIn post and I use LinkedIn a lot, and I love it. And on a LinkedIn post. I had a ball, and a cow, and a cast there, and they're always scratching himself with, with built some of these cow scratches and the ball was scratched himself on this scratcher and the cow was scratched and so for that calf walked over and. And I think the comment was well mum and dad thanks for leaving he and. And that's, that's actually what I want the cows to think are one of the things This is a great place to live, because I think it's a great place to live and I want them to think this is

Dan Riordan 4:45

definitely has a lot of natural beauty to it so the wanted to explore a little bit with you about that relationship with the land and your animals. It sounds like you have a pretty unique philosophy and approach to that. Can you share a little bit about your thought process there.

Robert Mackenzie 5:05

Yeah, I think. I think it's who I am. I think respect is key to success, and whether that's respecting. You know your customers or whether it's respecting your neighbor that in your, in your comment there it's respecting the animals, look, I think we have to respect the animals, and we do, we do respect the animals, they upkeep their well being, their happiness, their health is paramount to our success. And it's actually easy to do. It's easy to give them what they need to see with I was here one on one, and then just give them, give them the sign.

Dan Riordan 5:52

Yeah, I just recently watched a movie called heard, and it was it's about a lady that has a large herd of horses in Colorado area but she's turned it into a large scale healing retreat for people from all over the world. And, yeah, they come in they bond with the horses and the horses heal them. And in, in the movie there's actually one individual that came there and bonded with one of her cows versus the horses and, you know, she ended up having an amazing healing experience just from the energy transfer from from the cow it's really if you haven't seen the movie it's, it's quite enjoyable one to watch.

Robert Mackenzie 6:39

Well definitely be watching that and I'm glad you said that because we just donated. It was, it was funny it was, it was, we just donated a cow and a calf, and also the cows pregnant, to a school, so they could develop an agricultural, I suppose, a section in their school. But what really solid, is they a join a retirement home with a lot of old people. And can I say can I enjoy the animal at the same time and they said they can because the fences right there near their garden so I'm hoping that the elderly in this retirement home can get a suppose the same experience as what you just said that lady got from that from that horse. Who cows can be friendly and they call it. You know when you say a baby calf Can you imagine being in a retirement home and going out and seeing this calf grow and a cow and coming over to eat a piece of bread so I'm hoping that that cow gives this retirement village some, some love and some joy to so let's I'll definitely be watching that.

Dan Riordan 7:53

Yeah, yeah, it's pretty powerful. Show and. And the lady that wound up having the relationship with the cow on the show. It was, it was stunning you know she was laying in the pen you know laying with their head on the chest of the cow and, you know, she, she wound away wound up after a week being, you know, incredibly impacted by the, the love and the compassion that was transferred between them so it definitely reframed for me even more, the impact that the relationship can have.

Robert Mackenzie 8:31

Maybe the cow doesn't judge.

Dan Riordan 8:33

I think that's a great point right, it's just no judgment and just acceptance and unconditional love. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 8:45

for sure. Yeah, I'll be watching that.

Dan Riordan 8:46

Yeah, good. That one's a fun one you'll have to pick me after you watch it let me know what you thought. You know when you look at this, you know, kind of the whole process of developing your business and developing your philosophy. As I was telling you in the pre ship pre show. One of the things that struck me was a statement you made about how you were approaching to, to build the the well being of Australia as a tremendous you know market and a tremendous place, and in there you are going to thrive because the whole thrived. And I just think that lens, as you and I talked about it's so impactful for today's world to think that way and you had some brilliant things to say about that. I'd love for you to share a couple thoughts around that.

Robert Mackenzie 9:40

It will come as a sign you earlier on, I think it's I think it's so much easier for me to promote our country. And what we deliver. Now, the same as your, your great country and I've been there and, and I love it and are respected and I respect the people that obviously way you leave you think so best. Right. And, and, in some in some ways I think that, as, as is the best. It will be very diplomatic a look, it's so easy for us to promote a green and clean environment. It's, there's no doubt, with 1.3% of the world population, you know, with 26 million people. We've got a massive country. Lots. You know, you can even drive a long long way and not see it not see any people, and its pristine, and the waterways are pristine. The air is pristine, and the grass is crispy and it's easy to promote that throughout Asia when that's what they want. They want the fresh green clean products and and where the food but all of Asia. And we're close. And it's easy to get the product there by air by sea. And if we can all work together as a collective, and let's promote that good news story. And it just flows on from there, that you know where is where a seller of Australian beef, like many people. But I don't care whether you buy my beef. As long as you buy Australian beef throughout those Asian Asian countries and there's enough room for Australian beef and there's enough room for American police, there's enough room for South American beef, and we all have different. I suppose different thought process how to promote that as just the we promote as growing clean product. And we have great support from industry, the government to help promote that so why not promote that and promote it as a whole. We do that well.

Dan Riordan 12:08

I was, years ago I was really struck that I had never really thought about just how big the landmass of Australia, actually was. And when I, when I got more educated about it I was actually surprised at just how big the area is. And like you were saying for the amount of people and the amount of landmass it's. There's a lot of pristine areas still, still untouched or very little touch.

Robert Mackenzie 12:40

It will drive right around the outside one, one year, it was 26,000 kilometers so it's a long one.

Dan Riordan 12:49

That is that is quite a trip. Oh my gosh. The. Another thing that we talked about that I wanted to spend a little bit time talking about was this approach you've had to kind of build in the family legacy and continuing on by branching out your business to give opportunity for the next generation. And I see a lot that I've seen a lot of it in business, you know here where that thought process hasn't really been thought about, and as a result the next generation down it just doesn't carry on because there isn't lanes for everybody to be in and I think when I read that it really struck me that that was a neat thought process that you've gone through so love for you to share a little bit on that.

Robert Mackenzie 13:41

It's very important to the family business to remember that there's a next generation. And you're gonna remember if you grow up in a family, you grow up in a family and every day and mom and dad's talking about this business and as a part of your life and you spend your weekends or your afternoons or your mornings, or your holidays working in their business. I think it's naturally occurring that you expect that you want to be in that business, but as you get older, you might resent it a little bit. But how do you make it exciting for your kids how do you make it that they want to be a part of it. And this is, this is funny because it's always the only child. And I haven't. I haven't experienced it or haven't understood how it would happen if I had siblings, but I looked at it very early on that in my kids, and I love them so much and they're just mean the you know the world tonight. And I've always been that really hands on father. And I wanted to make it that they still wanted to be involved in the business because how good is it to still have your kids want to spend time with you and I'm lucky at the moment. And they, you know, 2826 24, they still want to you know be with me, which is good. But, I've got to make it exciting, just because I'm doing this doesn't mean that they have to be a part of the business that's entirely up to them. But I just hope one day that if in the moment they are. They look back and say, Well, I'm glad I was able to take this path. And I was glad I was able to take this path and make something great because I have opened up a couple of different arms of the business where it could sustain a family. And it could sustain their family if they wanted to. Now if they choose not to take that that's okay. It's just a part of our whole umbrella that will be run as a whole. But I just wanted to make a couple of changes. And I think that they're exciting changes. When, when, when they jump in on it, especially beef or in travel. You may meet amazing people like you and Sarah And look, I've met so many people around the world from this, and it's been amazing. So, that's what I've done I've tried to do it different, and open up different arms of businesses so consistently and family members, if they choose to.

Dan Riordan 16:29

Yeah, that's good. I mean it's great foresight and thinking ahead and doing some planning there that I think is obviously it's paying off already for you. The other thing that we had talked about and just exploring a little bit is the, this concept of respect, and you had mentioned it and you know the respect is the key to success is the quote I'd written down. And that is a you know just a powerful statement and a powerful concept and I'd love to get you to talk a bit more about your operating principles around that.

Robert Mackenzie 17:13

And I'm happy to talk about that because it's I'm passionate about that, and I believe it's believed it's true. So let's just take through my whole life it was rammed into me to respect people. And I've always seen my mother and my father, do as much as I can for other people. And, and that's what I do I now in a, in a pandemic I donated beef jerky to the New South Wales ambulance service. We gave food to a charity in Sydney that fed homeless people. I actually got on and did some social media right at the start and think first responders, I suppose the first responders came from what I saw in the US, I actually reached out to CNN, they never rang me back and said can I, you know, can I give my thanks to what's going on over there. We do like donating that cow to the school and the retirement time. That's all respect for other people, and give back as much as you can. And as I said before, it might be only giving, just a little bit but that little bit is a massive amount for one person, or for a charity. But we have in Australia UI k day. And it's just so suppose for mental health and authority in 2020, mental health is pretty well up there, so I put myself and my team me in the phones and spread the word if you've got you want to have a chat, just give us a call, and let's have a chat about anything. So, respect is, is everything. So we go into into business, our respective competitors, our respective customers. For instance, I've been to China. 15 time 14 times in the last five years, and I respect their culture, our respect their values and I respect you know how they how they do business. And I've developed some amazing relationships in China because I go there with an open mind and an open heart. And It's a tough place to do business, don't get me wrong. Um, but, you know, you get knocked down you get back up again but, you know, no matter where you do business, you might have some, some issues but there's a lot of, there's a lot of good. There's a lot more good business results and Bad's together bad one is don't blame that on your next customer respect them and just get into it but the most respect the land. Respect the cattle, respect the people that work for you. Respect the government, respect all that. I think if we all respect that makes the world a better place, otherwise have to COVID. More and more people would respect and value loss. And, and care about other people and I hope that that's what we get out of COVID. I've been 2021, we look back on 2020 and see how tough it was so many people and put our hand out and try and help more people make the world a better place, you know obviously this few issues out there at the moment and let's hope that that gets resolved.

Dan Riordan 20:54

Yeah. You know, we, we definitely are in a time that some of what's going on I never expected to be seeing it you know in my lifetime. Some of the, you know, some of these things that are manifesting but I do think the, the hope that you have that, you know, we all look at this and that as we move forward we can operate with kind of more respect in all ways. And, you know, the probably the biggest thing I've been learning over the last seven plus years was really, you know, I had, I had gone the corporate route and so I had gotten pretty far away from nature in my day to day life, but I always nature was always so profound on me whenever I went and spent real time in it from the ocean to the mountains to wherever I was. And I found that the more I respect my interactions in my time with nature in really get calm in nature that the better I become as a human in the way I operate so you have a real gift of, you know, what you operate is you guys are operating in some wonderful nature but it is I think it's important for all of us to not lose that connection.

Robert Mackenzie 22:15

No, I agree. I think it also helps respect yourself too doesn't it.

Dan Riordan 22:19

Yeah, it definitely does.

Dan Riordan 22:23

So another question I ask everybody is around. If people could walk away with today, you know, with one thing and one thing to take away one idea one comment one thought, what would you want people to walk away with,

Robert Mackenzie 22:44

with respect more people, let's respect their family respect their friends, respect their neighbors. Respect other countries. Respect other cultures. And that goes for those cultures, vice versa. I think respect can go a long way, and in a time where we need that...

Sarah Andrews on how to truly be you

Dan Riordan — Wed, 13 Jan 2021 07:45:00 -0700

Today we have Sarah Andrews with us.

Sarah is the director of Inspire PR Media. As a publicist, she is the bridge between the audience and the media. She is also well travelled and has an insatiable curiosity for new places and experiences.

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1) Take 1 hour to truly be you each day

2) So much noise, how to gain clarity

3) Your past experiences aren’t a wrongness, they are a strongness

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Hello everybody today we have Sarah Andrews with us, Sarah is the Director of Inspire PR media, and as a publicist Sarah contributes to the bridge between the audience and the media. She's also well traveled and has an insatiable curiosity for new places and experience. I believe that's going to come out in today's podcasts, I can't wait to get into this welcome Sarah I'm excited to have you on the show. Can you give everybody a bit more info about your background

sarah andrews 1:08

When I started working from a very young age of 13, but I've been a youth worker I've worked in the mining industry. I've worked in the farming industry. I have worked in the wellness, nursing, all these different. And I would say that I'm as seeker of the universe in the world. And I am very, add so I just love so many different things. At one time, and exploring things. And I think now is after I have the wellness centers in the yoga studio. We will always in like the media in the paper, and you know if there was a time that I started like well you know what else could I really do to really, you know, contribute and assist the universe but says to the world too. And so, the international public relation company came out of that, because it's quite easy for me to get into the media. So I went, Okay, let's do it for other people, and other people that actually really game changes and make and making a difference on the planet, and in the world too. So, and here I am, and I'm in Spain, with the pandemic Australian. So when I do live in Australia. I'm in Brisbane. But right now, I'm not far from Malaga. And in the south of Spain, and it's winter, but it's sunny weather over here.

Dan Riordan 2:58

sounds fabulous. I have not spent much time in Spain myself I was through there one time for a business meeting but that that was really it but it was a beautiful place.

Dan Riordan 3:11

Well great well as we as we dive in some of the things we talked about in our pre show and getting to know each other really fascinating so I want to make sure we cover a few of those topics. One of the areas is you know you posed a really interesting question around. You know what got you to wake up from creating against yourself. And I think those words are really interesting creating against yourself because it's, it's something I think subtly we all do but we just don't realize we're doing it so I want to hear you talk a bit about that.

sarah andrews 3:48

it's a great question, because a lot of times were unaware that we're actually creating against ourselves and against what's going to create a greatest future. And I know what my real wake up call is, I've always been a seeker. I've always been very curious about things and explore things. I would say it was in 2013. And I remember coming back from Bali and I had just done a yoga retreat. And I was about to buy a property, and then start another yoga studio up in the north of Bali. And I actually said I, I sent down in my way. There has to be more than this has to be more than spiritual enlightenment and all this like, you know, universe like show me like, you know. And so then, not long after that, I started really waking up, and then my journey has really grown and really has explored even more. and what really started shot like showing up for me is where I was creating against me, and against the world against in a against a future that I always knew possible and I think that's the one thing where being a like a seeker an explorer. I knew, I've known things have been possible. Anything's possible right. And a lot of people would say No, that's not true, but for me I just knew that things weren't showing up and things weren't going the way that I really truly knew is possible. And so when I started exploring more, you know like, the limiting beliefs that I had about myself, limiting beliefs that I had about money and living and limiting beliefs that I had about the universe and other people and like that. And I mean I'm still x, you know, that's 2013 and however in 2020. And, you know, I'm still exploring it every day is a new journey and a new beginning. Every single day, and. And when I explore it more. And I think we talked about it yesterday. It's really about learning as always learning, but it was on learning, and you know, where, you know, I will do things that I was quite unaware, and really creating this force of trying to make things happen. And so when I started going well, you know, I can create against me on create for me. And that actually creates when I create for me, it creates for everyone around me too. And so when I'm truly happy in myself, but truly then ripples out to everyone else. And I think that was when you know I started like seeing the more that I create for me that there is such a more ease than trying to force things. And, and doing things that you know that can really harm you and I'm you know some of the things I've done, I've been very unconscious and then I've gone all but the key for me was, even when I've done these things is like don't touch yourself Sarah, please. Okay you chose that that you know and one of my favorite question is, you know, if I choose that. So if I choose anger. What is that kind of create, and I've been, you know, very recent IV railing like looking at this, we're looking at emotions and feelings and all like that. And you know, like if I choose this like what is that going to create and, you know, anger, upset and drama. You know what is that going to create for my future people around me and myself. And then when I was hunter realizing was not creating what I truly knows possible. And I can choose something else and that creates that space.

Dan Riordan 8:18

No, that's the brings up so many memories and thoughts for me just listening to that because I've thought of it in terms of not necessarily, you know, working against myself but I've more thought of it in terms of realizing that, wow, there's so many cases in my life where I've tried to use force, physical force domineering force whatever you want to say to make something happen, even though I was it wasn't supposed to happen but I felt like I can make it happen. And those, those cases have always not worked out well. And in fact you know a lot of bad things over time, and there's a fun example of it where I used to be a really bad driver, you know just somebody that drove 80 miles an hour weaving in traffic, just crazy. And I had this moment of realization so I drove that way for 15 days, 30 minute drive back and forth from work. And then the next 15 days I drove the speed limit, never changed the lane. And I checked my time differential and the maximum differential was five minutes, but in fact you know the bulk of the days I was within one minute of, of, of it in the crazy person driving way was so much more stressful, so much more stressful on other people, you know, on myself just forcing my way, but really not getting anywhere any faster. It was really like one of those moments where you're just like what am I doing.

sarah andrews 9:55

I, it's catching yourself so even when I say like you know if I get angry, or a feeling or emotion comes up. You know I recognize Oh, what is this is this even mine but I you know I recognize that. And in that split second, then I have a choice to go. I can keep creating this, or I can choose something different. Or I can just, you know, remove myself, and I think I do that in business I do that with clients. I do that in my everyday life, and I think that has really changed like waking up that is really like that creating with me now. And for me, not against me. And, you know, when we go into a negative mindset and we get stressed and we you know we could even contract and everything. Again, you know, a great question like what is creativity, and you know to me, my, my body is my best friend. And I'm really on you know this journey in this pathway with my body to and really like asking questions like, you know right now my body and I are having so much fun with exercising and doing weight training. I'm relearning how to skate again. And you know I'm going out in nature, you know the hiking when I can have my body, you know, my body's eating a lot of protein but again you know it's not what I think I know or like that I really have like this relationship with my body that is like my best friend, because you know if my body goes. And I, you know, I like, maybe, but it definitely. It's really about the, the kindness and the caring and sometimes like with kindness. Sometimes you, you've got to stand up for yourself that is true kindness for yourself. And then other times is that real nurturing, and so that's something I've really started, you know, really getting to be that more for my body, and for myself and recognizing when I do have my days. Then, you know, I still have choice. I have choice to go down that path. I call the rabbit hole or choose something different.

Dan Riordan 12:32

we watched a fun documentary last night and the man in the documentary he kept saying over and over again, be kind and sweet to yourself, and give yourself self the space to just be sweet to you. And it was really good because it just, you know, remind you to give yourself the space to just be and let your body just be and not be, you know, angry or critical or all the other things that we, but I loved his be sweet you know just be sweet to you know it was really good.

sarah andrews 13:10

And when we don't have space, when we contract is where we don't when the stress comes, and even like you know when stress calm, is really like creating that space and that's from like 2013. I really started unlearning and learning that I am space My body is space and the molecules and the cells are all space. And so I know when I contract, you know, again, you talk about signals. So, you know when my body contract. That's the signal for me is that my body and myself like, hey, hang on. What space can I be here. And so, you know, sometimes even because I'm quite aware of other people's contractions and not not having this space in their lives. So for me is like okay let's, let's you know all hi is actually my contraction, and if it is my contraction, then I'm brutally honest with myself okay so what space can I be here. And sometimes it is just being quiet. Yeah, I know this is where they

Unknown Speaker 14:27

stop talking.

sarah andrews 14:31

Quiet. And that's when the whispers of my knowing of the universe will start tapping on tapping on my phase. And that's when I can go okay start following the energies.

Dan Riordan 14:47

Great, great insight. So as we look in the world of PR thing I like to explore with everybody's focuses. What do you think are three or four misunderstood things about the world of PR publicity, when you, when you talk to a new client, you know, they come in thinking one thing but you you live the life and you know things are very different. What were what are a few of those things you'd like to highlight or tell people about.

sarah andrews 15:19

And so I would say a lot of people don't really know what PR public relations is, and then a lot of people mix advertising, marketing, and public relations together. So public relations is public relations, and it is about you know having people so when a client comes in. Some people don't have understanding at all, or they have a fixed point of view is this is what I want. And this is how we're gonna get that. And so there's two ways we can explore that, you know, and there's other clients will say, this is what I would like, what would you suggest, and where can we go from there you know where can we go from where I would like to go, or the company can go and what can we do with PR. A lot of time with PR is it's flying it out into the world by using any sorts of manias so there's different campaigns, there's you know the reporters there's print this social media. But like I you know in my bio is like that bridge. I love to, you know, bring people's missing. You know, people's missing and and what they really would like, what, what they are actually being and doing in the world right and then bring that out into the media, where audience, and people can actually see or what clients are doing. And so like a lot of my clients are real game changers that really know there is what they are actually doing. And being is making a difference in the world. And so, a part of what I do is really getting it out in the media with that exchange and engagement starts to occur.

Dan Riordan 17:30

I think the this world we live in, with so many channels to getting to people in so many different ways of exposing you know and getting that inside out. It does make it really overwhelming for all of us because even myself I've been kind of in this through my whole career in various ways but I'm finding now there's just so many lanes and everybody's talking about Tick Tock right now and say oh my god you got to do this, you got to do this and fine, I find myself just overwhelmed at times was saying, wow you know what is the right couple of pieces of strategy to take it and, and not just the most current thing but still, you know, get the message out so it's I know we're all overwhelmed, in some ways with it.

sarah andrews 18:27

And if there's so much noise so I have a client. Call Angela and she talks about you know there is so much noise out there. So, again, where there is so much noise, you know, in the media and the media is giving what their perception is right. So the one thing that part thing a publicist and a PR firm is really getting the message out the way that the pilot would really like to have the make it to be clear, and have clarity to go out, because there is so much noise out there with, you know, you know with what's been going on. You know what people know is that true or untrue, you know I do believe it or not to believe and we've talked about belief systems and the like that. But in with PR when you've caught this message. And you've got people that are truly making a difference. Then, you know, the question like me is having the questions, where they can truly where the client can really answer, and then have a discussion of where they are going. with what they are doing in the world, if that makes sense, hope that makes

Dan Riordan 19:52

to kind of tag on to this part of the conversation there was another comment question that you had brought up which is, you know, creating with other people in the earth and animals is, you know, a passion of yours and is a focus but you know that meshes so amazing with this PR track but I want to hear a little bit more about your view of the creating with the universe and with animals and with people.

sarah andrews 20:23

I mean, a lot of times, especially, I was and still probably am, and was an animal communicator. So, a lot of owners would actually come to me and we would do yoga, we do massage, you know, we would really like talk to the animals through like energy and, and even communicate with the animals, and then with the earth, I mean you know nature. Doesn't have Harada wrong, it doesn't have points of use. it just lives, it just be a tree just be. And so, you know, for me, the Earth is one of the graders creation that I can be when I know when I do get stress, I can just go to the sea or go to the earth and just really know that the earth and the universe has got my back no matter what's going on. It truly has my back. And I think you know when you're when you're creating with, You know the universe and the universe includes everything right. A lot of people don't realize that includes the good and bad. You know, nature doesn't see right and wrong doesn't you know a bird does and I've heard this so many quoted so many times, a bird doesn't have a bad hairdo like a bad day and things like that. So, it's only ours that has all these limiting points of use so for me is like really creating with the earth, really has no barriers, and no walls and animals can be the same too. And so that's what you know nature is a great teacher. To me, and I really learned so much of you know when things that you think may not be happening or you, you know, it's not showing up the way you would like it or something that you really do want in your life and it didn't work out the nature just shows you just to be present and keep moving forward. And that's like we're talking about the shark. The shark that was never stopped still. And so for me I never stopped still keep moving forward. You know not looking at the past but just moving forward. And so the earth just shows me live every day.

Dan Riordan 23:08

Yeah, no it does and being more in tune with nature with the energy with what's you know really available to us all there has been one of my great joys over the last number of years is really getting really in touch with that so i love it and the communication with the animals and with, you know, all the, all the beings. It really is something that I've come to realize and to experience in some levels myself and so it's exciting there was a great movie we watch called herd, where the lady has a horse ranch and she brings people there for healing. And it was, it was really spectacular experience watching the transformation that these people get from interacting with the energies of those amazing creatures so it's really cool to hear you talk about it and experience that the time always flies fast in these but a couple things I love to ask is, number one is if you were to...

Leroy Mealancon Jr. on getting through the hard season’s in life and enjoying the good.

Dan Riordan — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Hello Everybody

Today we have Leroy Mealancon Jr. with us. Author of a Self help book called Timing of Life: Achieve all your blessings and goals” about getting through the hard seasons in life and enjoying the good.

Welcome Leroy, I am excited to have you on the show.

Can you tell us a bit more about your background beyond my intro?

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3 Great Signals From Leroy

1) When One thing is ending..new Moments are coming

2) My passion and love for helping others is what motivates me.

3) Make sure you're living in the moment you're not so caught in your plans in the future. That you don't see an open door but in front of you, you become so tunnel vision.

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Hello everybody today we have Leroy Mealancon Jr. with us. He's an author of a self help book called timing of life. It's about getting through the hard seasons in life and enjoying the good welcome Leroy I'm excited to have you on the show today. And can you give us a bit more info about your background beyond my intro.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 0:52

My name is Leroy Mealancon Jr.. A little bit about myself as I play football at Cal Poly slo got my bachelor's degree in sociology. Then I went and went to Capella University and got my MBA, I said why would I stop there. I wanted to keep going and pursuing more in my life, and achieving my moments.

Dan Riordan 1:24

That's cool. I like the keep going and achieving my moments in life it's a, That's a great way to think about it, is it a pursuing it to achieve all those moments that are possible for you. That's really cool. Thank you, and Leroy and I have the Cal Poly Mustangs in our both in our background so we have a bonding they're both going to the same alma mater, it's very cool.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 1:49

Those things yeah go Stang's I I miss it down there and San Louis. It's a beautiful place to be able to go to college is very beautiful.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 2:15

Well, what is firing me up to write my book is helping others. I really want to help others. My passion and love for helping others is what motivates me. So writing this book because I've been through tough moments in life. And if I would have had these tools, I would have seized more moments in my life. And so, I took my hardships that I had to go through to learn and share with others so that they can take advantage and achieve their blessings and goals in their lives. Also, so they don't have to go through the hardship they can skip that part and see what they want. Yeah.

Dan Riordan 2:57

Yeah, I know that. The more we can help each other, fast forward through some of those dead ends that we went down or some of those hard moments, the better.

Dan Riordan 3:10

I certainly look back on, on my life and wish that there would have been a lot more awareness on my own part to just have a bit more guidance and a bit more access to information. Yeah, yeah. As you you know as you look at the signals that came up in your life you talked about in the pre show about you know significant transformation decisions in your life you had a couple of them. And the way I look at it from my lens was their signals coming in for all of us all the time and sometimes we pay attention to them, and they end up having pretty big impact. A lot of times we just blow by a lot of the signals. But in that it sounded like you listen to a couple signals that came up for you that had a pretty big impact love for you to share kind of what that was about.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 4:00

Well, one of the big impacts that I went through was realizing that football was coming to an end and stopping persona because I had to let go of it. It was time to let go and move on to something new. That wasn't aware of. That's when I went and got my MBA. I wasn't aware of the fact that it was time to move football and if I would have kept holding on to that I would never got my MBA so I had to seize the moment and take advantage of that opportunity and realize what situation and timing I was in in life. In order to in order to achieve that blessing that came to me. The. That's what I tend to realize more with these signals is, I have to pay attention to what timing I'm in in life, because my own self, our own selfish desires can hold us back sometimes from achieving those blessings because we want something else. Yeah, we, we may say that I want this, but this door is open for you right here, and you're not taking it. And we look back a year from now we're like I wish I would have took it it was right there in my head.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 5:21

That's what inspired me to share this time end of life.

Dan Riordan 5:27

That's really neat. Um, it's something I've realized as I've done more of the podcasting and talking to people. What's really come out for my own self, it comes out just now as you're talking is I realized that I used like force a lot to just make things happen, even though they weren't supposed to be the thing I was gonna do. I had this mindset that oh I can just make that happen. versus if I would have been paying attention as you said to the kind of the season of life and to letting life come more to me, I would have had very different experiences than always trying to bold those things. And that that's been a really interesting revelation for me and it sounds like you've gone through similar kind of awakening around that. Yeah, I'm sure. Letting go the football dream is not an easy one. You made it to a high level plan, playing at a college level so that's always a big transition.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 6:32

was definitely a big transition.

Dan Riordan 6:34

Yeah. When you think of kind of this seasons of life and you know in your, in my notes about the heart scenes of the life and enjoying the good. What do you think are like the three or four most misunderstood things around you know the hard seasons of life and being able to enjoy the good.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 6:54

Well, one of the big miscommunication that we all miss is, we tend to separate the hard times in life and the good times. When we should take moments out during the hard times to do something that we enjoy. Do something that we love, so that we can get a break from these hard times. Because when you get consumed by the hard times you become blinded to opportunities, that's at your doorstep. These. That is what that's one of the big things that I tend to realize that happened with me a lot, and others in the book that also talked about this where I've used quotes from Steve Jobs and use quotes from Oprah Winfrey, talking about seizing the time timing that comes into your life.

Dan Riordan 7:50

Yeah, the. I just wrote a note on a quote you just said right there but you know take a break from the, from the hard times. And I that resonated a lot with me because back to that kind of force equation. When I'm in that I'm gonna bulldoze this thing mode. I don't take a break I just kind of like you know I'll just try to keep pushing and keep pushing and that all of that wells up and you don't end up really experiencing life at all because you're just so headstrong about you're going to make this happen no matter what. So I like that quote of you know taking a break.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 8:33

Right. Thank you.

Dan Riordan 8:34

Yeah. Are there other, other things from a misunderstood basis do you think around. You know the hard seasons of life that.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 8:47

Well one of the big things also is. There's a section in the book that talks about dealing with the hard times of life if it's meditating, working out, taking care of our health. That can be a true beneficial factor of helping you through the hard times, and able to see through the moment in life that you're in. For example, my coach was offering me an opportunity in life, to be able to become a coach at Cal Poly, but I was so flustered and so depressed on the fact that I didn't make it to the NFL, that I couldn't see the blessing right before me. And I ended, ended up turning it down. I turned it down because I was filled with depression and negative emotions that I missed opportunity and I look back at it now and I'm, and I'm like I wish, I wish, I took that opportunity I wish I did that.

Dan Riordan 9:48

I guess, you know, when I think through that statement the thing that jumps out at me is I think we, we get so full of what our desire or dream is, you know, for it to manifest that it is really hard to see these blessings that are showing up and manifesting for us, and it's a, that's a that's a big one for many people because I know a lot of people myself who all say, and think those similar thoughts.

Dan Riordan 10:30

If you were talking about enjoying the good in your statement. How would you say, like, I heard you say like take a break and do some exercising and that kind of thing but what's been the one thing for you in enjoying the good that's had the most. Goodness. Back to you that really kind of fueled you and giving you the energy.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 10:58

One of the things that fueled me is, for an example, I was really going through a lot and I was stressed. And I went with my friends to Malibu beach for a beautiful hiking California went to the beach saw the waterfall amazing place. I once I did that, I was just so in the moment that I was having fun like all my worries left. I, I forgot all about all about the bad that was going on. Yeah. And after that, I came back to reality come back home and realize that. Why was I stressing out over those problems, those problems, don't even exist anymore, once was a mountain and now it's a it's an Hill.

Dan Riordan 11:50

Wow, you know it. A key for me is always been getting near the ocean. I don't know exactly all the dynamics of play there I mean I understand the energy and I understand a lot of that but man, every time at Cal Poly. I used to head to Morro Bay, or down to cocoas or down to Pismo Beach, always, always to the ocean. Whenever I was stressed out or worried about a final coming up or just whatever I needed to do and I find throughout my whole life the patterns been the same whenever I get near that energy, it just like calms me down.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 12:34

The beach is very special. That's why I tend to go to Malibu beach for the high again did little water also is something about something about getting away to that water sometimes,

Dan Riordan 12:46

Last weekend we went to, there's a beach in Northern California called Stinson beach which is very near kind of marine area, but you have this beautiful hiking in the Marine what redwoods, and the beach, all kind of combined together, and it's just, it's like my happy place. Love, love hanging out and doing beach hikes and, and just enjoying that when you think back about, um, your, your book experience and in the writing of the book. I always like to ask, authors, you know, how did you do it did you did you power it out in like 130 day session was it a every early morning for a period ritual, did you get into a zone on it. How was the book experience for you.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 13:43

The book experience was a long process, the buggy spirits actually took me two years, I would just talk about it. When my dad and I would get inspired I will start writing every time I'll get inspired I will start writing keep going. I wouldn't write what I wasn't inspired, because I wanted to the book to be passionate about things that I went through so that I could help others. So I wanted to make sure I get the best material possible in the book. So, that is, um, that's what I did. Mostly,

Dan Riordan 14:19

Neat right when you're inspired that that's a good, that's a good one. Yeah, I know for me that writing thing was a little bit. For some reason the super early morning times are when my mind is just uncluttered with the chaos so I always found that writing super early in the morning was like my, my magic time but it's, uh, I always find it interesting to talk to people about how they did it and what their process was the other thing I laugh about is, you know, for me at Cal Poly I took one English class my entire degree was about math and science and engineering courses and I never imagined that I'd wind up writing a book you know it was like that just wasn't part of my DNA in the early days but it's kind of neat how it comes out as you start to awaken. Yeah, yeah. When I'm when people walk away from this discussion getting 2030 minutes getting annoyed, no you. I always like to have them walk away with one thing you know one take away from this, this time that they can put into purpose for their life, or help others with what would your one thing be that you'd want people to take away.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 15:41

Before I could just say that one thing I want to say that this book is about living in the moment. And the seizing the timing of life that you're living currently. If you're so caught up in the past, you're gonna have a lot of regrets. And you're so worried about the future, you're gonna have too much worry and anxiety. So this book is about living in the moment, so that you can seize every goal and blessing in your life. And every opportunity that you want to achieve, because sometimes the door is right before us and it's open. But we miss it, because we're not living in the moment.

Dan Riordan 16:27

Yeah. Yeah, that one is another one that, for me, myself, it's been a cool awakening over the last several years where I've realized that the, if I if I removed judgment of things if I just stopped judging the past or judging the potential future and just said, Forget about judgment just experience what you're experiencing and be thankful for it. That kind of brought everything down to a much funner experience for me, which then allowed me to be a lot more present than it used to be.

Dan Riordan 17:10

The. So for you the kind of the real one thing point is the present moment awareness, just being being in the pocket of that.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 17:21

Exactly. And I'm not saying don't plan for the future, have plans who is supporting as important on the roads as assess. But make sure you're living in the moment you're not so caught in your plans in the future. That you don't see an open door but in front of you, you become so tunnel vision.

Dan Riordan 17:41

Yeah. Now that's great. The other thing in your, your bio and we talked a little bit about it but you talked about having a selfless spirit, and I really appreciate that because I think in today's world we all fight with this kind of you know the Instagram selfie phase of man it's all about me and you know trying to how do you be selfless in amongst this this world we live in, where it's really difficult. So how have you really you know manifested that selfless spirit.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 18:21

How I manifested that selfless spirit. I manifested that selfless spirit by taking a break from social media I didn't know even in social media a little bit just, just for a little bit, but I come back to it. You know, it's fun to watch. I, because I will notice that I will get caught up so much and everybody else's life and get so down about my own life, that I wouldn't live in the moment. But when I started living in the moment more I realize how much I can help others. Yeah, like when people come to, like for example, it could be a small little gesture as somebody that's homeless asking for $5 on the side of the road. Yeah. And you have left our dollars air pocket and just given it to him. That right there is helping others and giving them a mil, you know, and because I believe that we're all blessed and blessings are continue to flow in our life, but we should be able to help others. On our way to being blessed and trusting that we're going to continue to be blessed that we can help others.

Dan Riordan 19:34

Yeah. Yeah, it's that that's a great message and certainly in today's world that we're all living in the more we all can have that kind of selfless, it's going to help us all thrive. The. The last question I like to ask everybody is around this call flam Roman idea but it's a moment where you had a belief or a system about something and then it wound up, not really being the experiences that you'd hoped for or given the the outcomes that you desired in this is really all around kind of having that nature of helping others with Hey man, here's one that that didn't work out for me and maybe it'll help you avoid it, you know, this pothole in the road. What jumps out at you and I want to bring that up.

Leroy Mealancon Jr. 20:26

What jumps out to me is all through college, I was in a five year relationship, all through college, I thought that was going to be the relationship for me. I thought that this was going to that was going to be the one and it turned out not to be when I graduated from college, but after that moment is when I started seizing so much more opportunities in my life and sees so much more blessings in my life that you may think something is for you. At a current time. But it might just be a season of life. Yeah. And we all go we all go through heartbreaks we all go through disappointment. But that disappointment may be the fire that you need in the future to achieve your Pinnacle.

Dan Riordan 21:20

Yeah. Yeah, it's the that fire in that ability to be in the present moment there again you know it's that same moment of saying, Man, if I can just not be all wound up about this and I can let the let the energy come to me good things are coming and, and then you can enjoy it, and it really helps you help others, a lot more when you're when you're in that that lane so that's cool thanks...

Mike Wilson on helping people become 100% who they were meant to be

Dan Riordan — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around finding your authentic self. With me is Mike Wilson and author, coach and producer of the Speak Audibly 100% Me Podcast | and more. A great quote from Mike in the Episode: “who needs negativity in their lives”

3 Great Signals From Mike

1) What is your relationship with failure?

2) Every person has a super power

3) Are my truths factual?

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NOTES FROM SHOW

Hello everybody today we have Mike Wilson with us. Mike is the managing partner of speak audibly,and is the author of 100% me book series. Welcome Mike excited to have him on the show, and I'd love for you to give a little bit more background beyond my brief intro.

mike wilson 2:55

Thank you so much for the opportunity again Dan. I understood this podcast to be really about the truth seekers as I was like, I got to try to get on this guy's podcast so thank you so much for having me. Yes. So a little bit about myself, I actually have three sons. they are six two and six months old, so it's always interesting over here at the Wilson household. I see I have three sons and one wife, and that is my beautiful wife crystal, who is, of course, I want my partner in life with my partner and, you know, multiple businesses that we do have and speak audibly has really been kind of a baby that's been kind of in the womb for a long time and I saw this last three years of speak audibly his existence. We've been able to truly be able to serve individuals as well as business owners and it's just been an amazing opportunity that God really has kind of put on our heart, and we've been able to kind of run with these last few years.

Dan Riordan 3:52

That's neat, man. I always like to ask people about Okay, what was the signal that came in that triggered you to go down this path, you know there's, and I speak in terms of signals because I just think in terms of Hey, we're all getting this information but we don't pay attention to a lot of them but I find that, especially the people that I interview you know there's been a signal that's come up where you said, Oh man, I'm gonna go tear into this. What, what, what was it for you

mike wilson 4:23

know for me it was really the moment in my life where I said I have to really understand what my truths are you know if my truths are factual like those that difference in truth, in fact, really just kind of stood on me around July of, 2017, you know, it just sat on my shoulders. Truth versus fact, and I really started thinking through my truths, the things that I grew up around those signals that have been sent to me all my life like yes we were my truth, they were my reality but were they factual because I seem to have tried to, you know, level up in my own life and begin to hang around and rub shoulders with individuals that I admired. It seemed that my truth is no longer a truth, and my truth is no longer factual, because these truths that I'm staying with these individuals who are doing the things that I want to do. They look completely different. They sound completely different these insecurities weren't something I had to hold on to these, these questions, actually had answers, and I didn't have to settle for what you know for what I felt and so that 2017 was a big year for me. And I really kind of went under investigation of my own my own truths, because it kind of launched out, you have a voice Mike Let it be heard. You don't have to sit silent and let these things kind of, you know, bounce around in your own mind, you know, I tend to think that, you know, back in, back in 2016 in previous years, that distance equal from Florida forgiveness, that if I just distance myself from the problems, they'll go away and people understand oh my god over it, you know. Time heals all wounds and these different things that were always said to me, but then as soon as I stepped in the room with someone who either offended me hurt me or someone who resembled someone who hurt me in the past, boom, those walls came up boom that hurt came right back so I realized Okay, I'm in Texas now I'm from Illinois originally my wife met in middle school started dating in high school and building other ever since. And, you know, she's a big reason that a lot of these perspective shifts, really took place.

Dan Riordan 6:21

And so, yeah, that's really neat I like your distinction there between truthful versus factual. And I think all of us don't realize the amount of things we've formed as truths with absolutely zero facts behind them and so it's a it's a really cool distinction and you said something else there that really triggered for me is, is the what I feel thing, you know it's like a lot of times we just have this feeling that it's right but we really don't question where that's coming from and what's driving that so those are two really good points,

mike wilson 6:58

when you when you say signals I mean that's a two way thing a lot of people don't understand that a signal came from somewhere right we didn't just receive this thing out of thin air it. What did it. Initiate from, because there are a lot of individuals who need harm. You know who needs negativity in our lives. And when a signal comes from them, we choose whether we receive that or not. We don't understand because we're not choosing intentionally. We don't we kind of just have to let it be one of those hurts in our lives where most signals that was kind of how this got here one of these beliefs. That was what I call an accidental belief, where this came from but no someone says that something is said that, yeah, we accepted it, why did we accept it. Yeah retreat see great.

Dan Riordan 7:43

Yeah, no, that's really good well that leads me into a thing we talked about the pre show which is your statement of the, what is the cycle of belief. So I want you to talk a little bit about you know your vision of the cycle belief and. And how do you perceive that

mike wilson 8:01

we're failing definitely so the first book that I wrote was called 100% me mentally. So mentally was the first one in the 100% me book series, and actually on the front cover actually have a copy here on the front cover of it is what I call the cycle of belief. So it starts with the world goes over to the mind goes down to the heart, then over to the megaphone and back into the world. And really what that means to me is that the world is constantly sending us information. If anyone's studied, you know, NLP neuro linguistic programming on any level, you understand that there's so many bits of information that we're constantly kind of going into our minds or have come in front of us and we're seeing it. And a lot of people think like well It can't be that much, but when you really think about, you're looking at a computer screen right now or you're listening to this on your phone. What else do you see I mean I see the lights on the outside of here I see my, my kids clothes on the floor I see books. I feel the air my pants on my leg like there's so many feelings and senses and different things are happening, but mine is actually sifting through all of this information. And if something were to hurt me, it would cause my attention to drop to it. And so, the world is constantly sending us this information, social media, the news, any sort of media really newspapers, and we get to decide, then what lands in our minds, what do we actually kind of juggle around what do we kind of balancing out right, because what we do is we take what the world gives us we base it toward our truths. So we send it toward our experiences do I agree with that. Do I not agree with that if I don't agree with it a lot of times it just kind of goes back out, it falls out, but there are some things that begin to take a route, we begin to really think or there'll be a question, depending on where it came from. If he has to sit with us a little bit. And after we think on it for a long enough period of time, it generally takes root and becomes a belief in our heart. So it goes from that mind to our heart, and what I know is that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks so what we fill our hearts with is what comes back out of our mouth, which of course then goes back into the world, therefore impacting and affecting someone else's cycle of belief. And so that's it. It was a concept that I seen the image before understood, kind of the context in it. And so that the world send me stuff because it goes both directions. Whether negative or positive. And I can actually meet a person. I'm a conversationalist so I love to have these conversations with people meet a person and understand just simply from what's coming out of their mouth, what's in their heart.

Unknown Speaker 10:27

Yeah,

mike wilson 10:28

if I can know what's in your heart then I know what you're thinking about all day long. Yeah, which means I know what your surroundings are I know just surrounding yourself with you're either watching TV too much you're sitting in the wrong clubs with the wrong people you probably don't really like they really liked you back. And so, you bring in this negativity think on the negativity into their heart you start speaking negatively, everything it rains it pours negative. But, the opposite is true as well. Those people who are incredibly positive, you know what's in their heart You know what they're thinking, you know, and you know what surroundings they're in, they're around people who are motivated, who are pushing them right those people who are saying, you know what, no. The glass is half full, it's not happening to be, keep pushing. And that's what comes out of their mouth and they put that back into the world so that's where I truly believe in when it comes to the cycle of belief. It has to be something so intentional, so it all starts with my world. What do I surround myself with who's in my world who do I allow into my world, because, ultimately, it's going to fill my heart and come out of my mouth.

Dan Riordan 11:21

Yeah, Yeah, the boy one of the key snippets I just grabbed as you were talking was, it has to be so intentional, and it's probably, if I look back at my own journey, it's probably the biggest mistake I made over and over again was not really being intentional on all of those things you were mentioning, you know, you tend to just kind of float along and let stuff come into your life or let things happen. And until you finally realize no no I need to be hyper intentional. And so I really jump when I hear that because it's something that I've had to learn the hard way.

mike wilson 12:05

I love that, I love that because I mean there's so much intentionality and unintentionally those are great teachers. Yeah, because we don't understand what we've learned, until we either fall on our face, or we accomplish the very thing we set out to accomplish. Yeah. Oh, because I was intentional I did it because I wasn't intentional.

Unknown Speaker 12:21

I'm nowhere near that goal.

Unknown Speaker 12:24

Great lesson.

Dan Riordan 12:26

Yeah. A good example I'll share with you for me is, on, on food. You know, we started this quest of questioning our food, six years seven years ago, and never in my wildest imagination that I wind up thinking I'd wind up being a plant based vegan. But as I started questioning each thing. There was this moment in it where I my backgrounds in electronic engineering so I always kind of go back to that technical base. But I started to realize, wait a minute. Okay, this whole game is about amino acids in the body people think it's about protein but proteins amino acids. And then I went, I read this thing and watch the movie and they're like, Look, the cow eats grass all day long. What's the cow doing he's eating grass which is full of amino acids, those amino acids go into the cow, get put into his meat but then you eat the meat you break it back down to get the amino acids back out. And I was like, What am I doing Why am I not just eating the grass. Why am I having to go through all this post processing but it was this realization of saying, boy, I just never really intentionally question like I never really intentionally said, What is the very best thing I can put into my body. And the very simplest way to get it, and then having the intention ality then rippled through but there's so many things like that in our life every, every facet can be shaped in question and position that way so I love that, that, that mindset. Um, another thing in the pre show that you mentioned was embracing your superpowers, and I just love the statement of that so excited for you to share some thoughts around that with everybody.

mike wilson 14:18

Go for it. Right after my cycle of belief. This is one of my most favorite topics, right, because I truly believe that every person has a superpower. Every one of us. And it makes me begin to think of all my favorite. I'm a Marvel freak like I love Marvel Universe. And the reason I think a lot of people either really love it or really hated currently no any middle ground individuals when it comes to superhero stories is either you really love superheroes or you don't like them, is simply because a lot of us don't actually take into consideration what our superpower is, we, we come out and we come into this society, right that says, hey, you should have a degree, which I got that, hey, in order to have a degrees, have a great degree sounded just any degree now you have to have a good degree in order to get a really good job because that degree, lets everyone know how valuable you are. And so you have individuals who I don't like using the word passion but they're intensely interested in a certain thing, but they go toward whatever that big degree is because that's what tells the world that I'm valuable. And they then, they, they leave absent that superpower. And that is like man I really want to do this so I have a friend who the dude he can just draw me like nobody's business, all through school and they remember in seventh grade watching them all through, you know, we're here to graduate, it's like, dude, you've been drawing consistently. And now he's an adult and he's, he's a publisher for another publishing company as well and and you know watching him do these illustrations, and it's just like wow like you tapped into your superpower early on. And because the individuals that he surrounded himself with everybody always talked about it kept fueling that it fueled in his like mid. And so he was one of those very unique individuals who has been kind of on that same path since childhood, and now his superpower is now able to genuinely bring joy and imagination to all sorts of audiences also the crowds, and I can see him. He's so fulfilled. That's the thing. If your superpower brings fulfillment you're onto something so many individuals think that their superpower is something that they learned in their undergrad, or in post grad right and it's like yeah, now I'm an attorney, but are you fulfilled. No, you make a lot of money you've achieved a lot. Where's the fulfillment. And they're not. It's okay. You're not functioning in your superpower right now is getting sorry about myself because I did that same thing and it all comes down to third grade at a third grade teacher, I'll call her Miss p i will say her whole name mess for me alive I think they have good genes. But Mrs P, and she asked the entire class. Everyone, I want everyone to stand up, and we're gonna talk about what you want to be when you get older, and everyone you know the normal stuff you know when a firefighter or an astronaut, or a doctor, you know one kid's dad would like some sort of architect you know civil engineer or something and boom, great. I stood up and I say, I want to be a roboticist, you see in the reason that my little third read self went there is because I would sit at my grandparents house and my biological Father's house and I seen every other weekend right. And I would make these robots and it'd be made out of, you know, Kleenex boxes and toilet paper rolls and, and I was just love this kind of mess with these things and then I got an erector set right and I'm like, oh, and so I just loved these, these robots I love building with my hands. And so when it got to me and I said that I can still remember the feeling I got what she said. What did you say, I said, Yeah, I want to be a roboticist. And she starts cracking up laughing like oh wow like good Buster does, you know, and all the kids are kind of laughing, and I remember sitting there with this feeling that if I if I think hard enough on it. I can feel that same feeling just thinking about it. And at that moment I knew, first and foremost, I'm never gonna tell anyone about this whole roboticist thing and. And secondly, I'm just going to be an architect From now on, and what I go to school for. I was a CAD designer at rather high school, you know, throughout college, I did CAD design on fire life safety company so I was designing sprinkler systems in schools and churches and such. And I never went back to that whole roboticist thing until I became a youth pastor. I was a youth pastor, and one of the biggest churches here in America and you know it was a great experience but they did what they call anthem movies, right and so whenever they did the series, they would literally outfit the entire front of the church as the movie whatever the theme was. And we did. My favorite transformers.

And those individuals who who never get that opportunity but that lets us know our superpower is so much more because her superpower genuinely wants to teach, she was great at it. But in that quick moment in a moment of just a few seconds of laughter. Her superpower, she became a super villain in my mom. Yeah, she went from my superhero to a super villain. Yeah, you see. And again, it was thrown into jail she was a sweetest lady that is, but that unintentional right so much on the plate for me and yeah we all

Dan Riordan 22:29

we all have that it's funny I just we just rewatched, one of the Star Wars movies last night, and every

once in a while like to go back and rewatch these things but we were watching one of them and it was when the little the you know...

Natsune Oki on helping people through the journey of self-discovery and lasting success

Dan Riordan — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around The Game of Self Domination by Natsune Oki. A great quote from Natsune in the Episode: “We place a lot of conditions in the name of ambition” Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

3 Great Signals From Natsune

1) If you try to dominate someone else, you take away there free will

2) Everything is Your Fault

3) How To Create Unbreakable Self Love

Resources

http://LifeupeducationTV.com https://www.lifeupeducationtv.com/english-book, http://foreignconnect.org

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NOTES FROM SHOW

'm excited to have you on the show today.

Can you give us a bit more background about yourself.

Natsune Oki 0:41

Yeah, thank you very much for having me today I'm really excited. My name is Natsune Oki, and as you introduce the host of LifeUpEduction TV, and within the same domain, I have a book called the game of self domination, so they go on to describe what the book is like. So the book talks about how someone can create mental transformation in three different phases. The first phase exactly talks about creating momentum in life, and then building up momentum is all about emotion. So, it has nothing to do with your logical thinking, it has to do more with like building up the emotion that Enough is enough. You have to like make a change, right. So we'll talk about that and how you can make that moment. and then the second case, we start talking about now, perseverance, which is harder face than the first face because once you commit to a goal, you have to keep pursuing beer, to the goal right. And then, hard things happen. So, this is a phase A lot of people fail. the specific it because they need a lot of distractions they need, negative self doubts negative self talk like things like this. So we'll talk about how you can overcome that. And then the third phase Finally, we start talking about the definition of success and happiness because up until now, this point, we've been talking a lot about listening define the definition of failure, but we didn't look closer into what is success means and what is happiness means and it has not necessarily has to do all with some monetary motivation. So in the third phase we really talk about what why are we here for and it gets a little bit philosophical. But I think that's why it kind of as a deeper layer than all the other self help that that's out there, because we really dig deep into it. So that's, that's the overall summary of the game of sales domination. And I'm also the managing director at the company called foreign Connect which is Tokyo company I help Japanese companies to launch and expand businesses in America.

Dan Riordan 2:55

Wow, that's great. You sound like you have a really full plate. Yeah. When I was reading in the you know your profile and some of the information before. One of the things that struck me was, how to create the unbreakable self love.

Dan Riordan 3:13

you talk about that and I definitely, want to explore that a little bit within your view on that because in you and I talked a little bit in the pre show but, you know, seven years ago when I started to transform my food equation. I actually had to dig deeper and realize that the very root of everything was a lack of self love, I just didn't really love myself and I was hyper critical of everything about me. So I actually had to dig really deep at a recreation of that before I could get to some of the other stuff so would love to hear a little bit of your of your insight on how to develop an unbreakable.

Natsune Oki 3:56

And I touched about this in a very first first when I spoke about how to build up the momentum in life because you do need this variation, so to speak, as you said, This variation of like, like this is enough I have to make a change, right, but you also have to have an inspiration, because both are the two factors that basically motivates to like psychos great, and I guess I have to take a little bit into your upcoming question, actually, which was going to be. We spoke about what it is so I know, but I think this is one of the thing people get it wrong, go I don't know it's wrong is wrong. It's one of the thing people I just misunderstand like what self love should be where a lot of people tend to have this condition of as to say like, I would only love myself if I'm this or that like the place condition like for example. I think this is also a generational trend, especially for millennials. Like, when, so I found this social media post where basically this a woman. I think she's a Miss Universe or whatever I don't know, but she's presented herself like that. And she was saying like, you are beautiful You're brilliant, you're smart you're rubber bra. And this is a wonderful thing to say, but my following question two that was what if I'm not. What if I'm not beautiful What if I'm ugly What if I'm fat What if I'm not great yet what if I'm not smart right then, what does that mean, does that mean that I cannot love myself What is that mean is that mean that I can't I am a failure, like what what does that mean right. And I feel like people are sending a wrong message as to educate people. You are these things, and then otherwise you can't come up yourself like that. That became their default sinking into like what if I'm not meeting these criteria, what does that mean, and no one's actually talking about However, in the attitude, not everybody is brilliant. Not everybody is beautiful, not everybody is all these things right. So I think there's a broken formula they're sending the wrong message in because impracticality like everybody cannot be something that they wish they are right. But what is that gonna leave us to sort of to be the courage to love those of the BBs. And then when they have the courage to love themselves, regardless of their time is this regardless of the package that they have from the positive artists or whatever, food they are, like, that's your stand like first line, that's your starting point, because you're not coming, no longer coming from scarcity, but you're coming from abundance. So your, your start line is already abundance, where you say, look, I mean, I want to better myself, I want to be dissonant, but along along this journey. I know that I'm going to face different difficulties and challenges, but I'm going to always be there for me, because even if I'm scarred and if I'm done is, I'm, this is my damage. This is my scar. And I'm not going to get anyone to tell me that this is unlovable. I love myself right so that's how I kind of described what love should be unconditional love should be and I think when you start when you start writing is starting from that mindset. Your journey is much more fulfilling your journey is much more. And most importantly, you can be more more resilient into fixing yourself.

Dan Riordan 7:49

Yes, it's a great point you're making and I know that so many of all of us have struggle and are struggling with that, especially in today's show we culture where everything is, you know, presented in a certain way but the wonderful thing is, we all have our souls purpose, and everybody's purpose is uniquely yours, and if you don't get hung up in that then you can actually really fulfill it. And, and have abundance in the way you're intended to have it so I love that you know distinction you're making

Dan Riordan 8:30

Another question I like to ask is, I think in terms of signals we all get signals coming into our lives all the time and some sometimes we listen and sometimes we don't. And I find that, you know a lot of us start down our journey because we listen to a particular signal. And I'm curious with you on your writing and on your pursuit and kind of this whole path. Was there a one particular signal that came in that said, Okay, I'm going to go down this path.

Natsune Oki 9:03

I wouldn't call it, one signal I think it's just a accumulation of different things. I think my absolute fundamental core motivation of why I started everything that I did was my ambition to want to create contribution to society, or contribution to the humanity. And I guess in US speaking I guess I. There was a critical time in my life. Yes, I guess, going back to your point, I guess yeah that was a signal. But basically, what made me who I am today has to do a lot with this time of my life where I decided to work in this like startup tech startup environment and wants to be more specific, and I got to meet a lot of gradients, like tech entrepreneurs like you know small to mid sizes, starting up face of the companies were, you know, that it was fear of these companies are like everything is possible and they were believing in the vision of technology like taking the impact of economies in humanity like right so these leaders are looking at technology as something really powerful and then they were really seeing themselves, making contribution to the society or to the humanity the capability of humanity, using the power of technology and that really thinking inference to me in terms of how I looked at my success. Because up until that point like, I, I think it was a lot more blur for me what the definition should have been and I was just kind of following what the society teaches me with just like monetary success right, but really at that critical time made me realize like I care about people, like I care about people more than money. And so I wanted to find out what that means for me to make contribution to the humanity in the way I can make and in the way I'm good at making and then that made me to make up his vision theory.

Dan Riordan 11:10

Oh that's neat. That's great. The sounds like you're blessed to be in a good situation there to get a good exposure to a lot of neat inputs so the. So, in the you alluded to our pre show discussion a little bit but I like to talk around in our there three or four key things that yeah you think people, you know, have a misunderstanding around the game. The game that you write about so maybe you can take us through a few of those.

Natsune Oki 11:42

Right, so I think the first one that comes in my mind is the one that I just spoke about right where you know self love should be unconditional, because that is you're in abundance state. And I think extension of that is, like, less ego, more empathy is another one that comes to my mind, because you know, mainly because success once again like my definition was broken before like I told you, but I think a lot of today's definitions feel pretty good on that on like Eagle, and the opposite of ego. I would say, well, being high on the ego, I would say is suffering because suffering is you obsessing over you. Right, like suffering doesn't exist if you are not obsess over you, because you understand that you're part of the bigger thing and then you understand that there are people outside of you, who's not suffering from your pain. You're paying kind of . But, anyway, so, you know, so when we speak about the definition of happiness and success like a lot of our success then be shown them success pretty good on Eagle egoistic multi, multi where you know me misunderstand what love is love is unconditional love for example, is not about dominating. It's not about making something of yours. But if you love something you should instead appreciate and appreciate the beauty of the subject you're loving. And so you don't have to dominate it right, but I feel like a lot of people get it wrong, like when they love something they want to dominate it, they want to make it yours. But that's not that's not healthy it's very a waste take approach, but is there what you should do is like organize the beauty of it, appreciate it, respect it. Right. And I think it also comes from the fact that I'm from Japan and I have this like it's in sort of way of upbringing. But I think that that's really like healthier and better way to do God, what love should be less egoistic more about just appreciation being present right. And I think that's very important when you are, you have to jump on the journey of chaos, where you know your ambitious journey, puts you through in different hard situations, and then by you, having this opposition over your ego over yourself. Makes you could have made you vulnerable, but another if you have that, you know, right, healthy amount of distance to who you are, your happiness versus like your ambition. It actually helps you to navigate through this journey in a more healthy way, sort of thing. Let's see. I think self awareness comes to my mind, I guess. Lastly, um, and self awareness like it's, it's something that you have to consciously Do you know like you have to consciously, ask yourself who you really are. And I think

a lot of people I guess, have the romance. And then there's a practicality. When I say don't notice versus practicing di D. There's a difference I think a lot of people have romanticize what is should it be in their life like your brick broken so to speak like they have this image of what they needed to be. But true self awareness is not what they need to be, like, there shouldn't be a force, like there's also practicality. So you really knowing, like breaking that romance of like what is true to be versus like what you actually want to be like it's critical. If you really want to be happy, like you shouldn't romanticize what it should be. And then feel guilty, almost, so to speak, of not achieving it versus like you really like organizing with a practicality, what you feel actually happy about, like, it doesn't have to do with any pressure of like why what you should be, but versus like you really knowing what you want and how much of what you want, and I think a lot of people miss that how much part. A lot of people have a broader idea of like what they want, but they don't actually understand the quantification of it. They what does that mean right and then I think when you can even quantify how much of what you want, actually, like, there's a gap into love your romance and practicality, because enormous without the quantification you just kind of throw random like, you know, Dream out there of like, you know, it's going to be somewhat vague Right, right. But then when you actually break it down quantify of what you really want, like really align with your, what you are comfortable, of what you think is it artistic everything like that things, all of a sudden, seems a lot more achievable, and also have a more tangible confidence of you being able to achieve it. So I think people kind of stop at the first phase of what they want, but they forget to actually looking at it from practical perspective of what they actually want. If that doesn't make sense, it does. I think that's something I talk about.

Dan Riordan 17:27

Yeah. No, and I actually wrote a couple of quotes down in there I liked your quote on the, the journey, the journey of the road to chaos. And, you know, it's really,

Dan Riordan 17:38

it's really an interesting thought because we do kind of get on that conveyor belt of just one thing after another and then you start looking around and you're just immersed in chaos and you can't be very self aware you can't really forget who you are, you get in, in that chaos I really like that reference. The other thing that you mentioned that really struck home for me was on my own journey. I had to, you know, another podcast guests had a great line they said it's from competition to cooperation mindset. And I had never quite thought of it that way but I had a really competitive mindset for way too many years, and it was everywhere it was the way I drove it was the way I ate it was the way I worked it was the way I, you know, athletics, everything was this competition mindset and when I shifted to a cooperation mindset and be knowing that I really didn't define it that way until I heard one of my guests define it and I'm like, Oh, that's it. But that cooperation makes it really helped settle me down to then drive to the self awareness that you're that you're referencing So, really, really brought brought home a good point for me.

Natsune Oki 19:06

Awesome. Yeah, I was the same way to like I think as a Japanese person also especially that I have always been very like out there. I mean, to be. You're gonna understand like the culture is so different to, like, American versus Japanese and I think a lot of people saw me as like extreme person because I needed like super high stimuli for me to feel some sort of way right. So I was always like 120% on everything I was on like I'm always like 120% in. And I think at some point in my journey also I recognize, or I guess I gather different insights and, yeah, that the only kind of like shifted from me. Always being hungry for stimulation, like extreme stimulation to understanding and appreciating things as they are. And I'm not enough thirsty for gross, like, super ambitious. Well I am ambitious but super ambitious like states all the time 100% all the time, right like that that was me years ago, but I think over time I kind of changed.

Dan Riordan 20:26

Yeah, no, that's neat. I've been really, really similar progression myself. Yeah. You know one another YouTube I have listened to, which I was so thankful for people putting information out there which is why I'm doing it now because I feel like I gotta, I really want to give back, but she had given me a good mindset on driving because that was really a place where I just always wanted to go faster and never settle down and she's like, you know, think of the person that's just cut you off or that's weaving in and out of traffic think that they have a family emergency or somebody in their cars having a baby, that they have to get where they're going, so don't get angry at them. Let them, let them do whatever they're doing they're not doing it to you. They're doing it for their reason. And that subtle shift helped me a lot, all of a sudden I was like, oh man that person was be having a baby and I'd let them speed by and I wouldn't get angry, but it was a fun shift in the process. If, if you were to give people one thing to walk away from today that you know, as they go about the rest of their week, and they think back on why I spent this, this 30 minutes and I took away one thing. What would you say.

Natsune Oki 21:48

Um, I think. I want to promote two things. It's very hard for me to choose which of the...

Krishna Bhatta on giving your brain 10 minutes rest and learning about the mysteries of your intermittent silence

Dan Riordan — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 07:30:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around Intermittent Silence. With me is Dr. Krishna Bhatta. A great quote from Krishna in the Episode: “You go inside if you go to the source and there you find the force is with you”. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

Krishna Bhatta is Urologist, Author, Inventor. Currently chief of urology at eastern Maine Medical Center and recently published book Journey from life to life. He is also the founder of the Relaxx app to help you manage your energy body.

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3 Great Signals From Krishna

1) Over minding is our normal nature. So giving your brain 10 minutes break or rest is a great thing for you.

2) Cultures have totally different ways of thinking but people are the same. We still have emotions, we still have the vibrations.

3) We do great planning for little things. But the most major thing in our life. We don't plan it…

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Welcome to the switched on podcast today we have Krishna Bhatta with us. Krishna is a urologist author and inventor currently chief of Urology at Eastern Maine Medical Center, and he also recently published a book journey from life to life. He is also the founder of the relax app to help you manage your energy body. Welcome Dr Bhatta I'm excited to have you on the show today. Can you give everybody a little bit more about your background beyond my intro,

Krishna Bhatta 1:31

It's a journey that started a long time ago, I went to medical school, but I also, at the same time, had a journey towards meditation as well.

Meditation. I think the person who I am, I think I was not paid for that.

I was hardwired to go both. And I don't regret that I enjoy that part it does take a little longer. In the mainstream as well. But that's, that's what I want others to say that yes, just being material doesn't mean that you can't be spiritual.

The journey had an interest in it. I've enjoyed it from India, where I went to medical school as it grew up, I came to England. Totally different culture a totally different thinking but people are the same. We still have emotions, we still have the vibrations, then spend a couple of years in Saudi Arabia, back to England and then to USA and be very happy that I came to Boston had some training, understanding at Mass General in Harvard. They're settled in Maine. Ever since my wife we both enjoy.

Dan Riordan 3:20

Yeah, the, the, I read in your profile that you also It sounded like you guys traveled to spiritual sites, quite often. Is that something you.

Krishna Bhatta 3:42

We've been to places like Kyoto and the next on our list of course is China I don't know what.

Yeah, spend hours just feeling the vibrations.

Dan Riordan 4:08

We journey up just in the mountains about an hour from where we live, and there's a special place with a stream and the forest and just going into the trees and meditating in that scene has just got so much vibration and energy. It's a special spot.

Krishna Bhatta 4:34

Yeah. There's so much great infrastructure in the USA. I mean I go hiking at the end of the hike I will meditate. My interventions. It's fun. Yeah, great location, all around you is beautiful especially man has a lot of mountains and hikes.

Dan Riordan 5:08

Yeah. On your meditation and energy journey. When did you start really exploring meditation and in the process in the, in the benefits of it.

Krishna Bhatta 5:26

I say that both journeys start at about the same time. My father was a spiritual at that time, we used to have a lot of physicians in all spiritual leaders and other leaders, as well as social workers to our house that didn't excite me at that time. Probably I was, it was sinking in but apparently outside I was not that. I said, why, in all these people why do we have to feed all this. My father was one of the old fashioned. Dr. I'm sure it did affect me somewhere inside.

Dan Riordan 6:09

Yeah, yeah. That's neat. The, um, what do you think is the top three or four things that our most misunderstood about meditation and the journey of the experience.

Krishna Bhatta 6:39

It helps you reduce your stress, people have done research to prove that. But what is that one state I mean, do we always get to the same state i think that's a misconception because meditation is very fast phenomena and, as I said, you know, it's like saying to someone that I'm going to Himalayas, doesn't mean it because you go to a place, and you can go to different places. Each time yeah so meditation. Although there are 1000s of meditations distilled people think they all go to the same place but there is no such place that each experience can be different. Each peak can be different. So that's, that's at least number one I would say, Okay, number two is meditation you do to get the stress relief is, I don't mind taking an anxiety pill. Feeling better compared to doing one year of meditation to get there. So for me, meditation is worth much more than just finding a little bit of anxiety, really stressful. So, it should be seen as a bigger perspective. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 8:08

I know that there are times for myself when, if I'm, you know, in a really good state, I have this really deep experience and then if I'm frantic and frenzied. I seem to not access the depth or the experience and really noticed such a difference.

Krishna Bhatta 8:43

Meditate on that because it will be hard to meditate, because you're focused in body, mind, everything will be going to your knees. So the same way if you are unsettled and uncomfortable. And you think that meditation is going to help you I mean it may have been but it won't be an easy thing because you won't be able to measure, energy and focus is somewhere else. So it is harder. If you are starting from that but if you are already in or in a happy main mode of happy place in a normal situation. It's definitely the journeys easier.

Dan Riordan 9:24

Yeah, I think you must also be a bit of a seer because of all things I actually twisted my knee a little bit yesterday. And I did it in the afternoon when I used to play tennis. Yesterday we went and played frisbee golf, and I like stepped in a hole and twisted it a bit so I couldn't believe that you just brought up knee pain.

Dan Riordan 10:01

Yeah it is. Been icing it and actually last night when I went to sleep I was doing my connection with the universe and, you know, bringing in the healing forces. So, I think, I think it definitely helped.

Dan Riordan 10:33

No, I've never tried it either, but on a certain level it makes sense because all energy is connected. So, yeah, yeah, yeah, just has to get to you. So, yeah, Yeah. Okay. Did you have another

Krishna Bhatta 10:50

physical therapy or whatever needs to be done because I added. I did that, I overused My knee once and it swelled up and as a failure. And I think, physical therapy or, you know.

Dan Riordan 11:05

Yeah, yeah, good. Did you have another point on the meditation, kind of misunderstood.

Krishna Bhatta 11:14

Yeah. Somebody has to give you one mantra, as a guru like you must have a guru. And these two misconceptions, as to me. These are misconceptions mentor is the role of Guru there is importance of that, but I'm not sure there are so many gurus, you know, if you keep finding gurus. Guru after guru. You don't know which one is authentic guru and which one is not. It just becomes a mess. So my thing is that start doing meditation let guru find you. And somebody will find you.

Krishna Bhatta 12:10

Yeah. There's no way to prove that. But if you get into this kind of path and help is on the way and somehow the universe aligns with you. And I mean it's not that you won't have any.

Dan Riordan 12:32

Yeah, I like the. I like that concept of let the guru find you, because I do, I do kind of believe in subscribe to the same methodology or insight, which is, you know, get your, get, get your information your thoughts into the energy field, and the energy will connect with you and the Guru's will show up in in some form,

Krishna Bhatta 13:13

meditation, or Vipassana is a great meditation. But when you attach to some one, you know, like, a school of thinking. And you're not making any progress. You just get into a point where, you know, you're so attached to that one person or one institution that you are not looking anywhere else.

Krishna Bhatta 13:37

I mean there is pros and cons of both but I would rather be the freelancer.

Dan Riordan 13:42

Yeah, yeah, that's that's a good way to put it. I like the freelancer approach, connecting point it's a good one. The Taka share a little bit about your book. I love the title, because it, it definitely makes you stop and think so, what are a couple of the key concepts. You know in the book and

Krishna Bhatta 14:17

we do a lot of planning in our life. podcast with you. We have to have the infrastructure set. And then we do, we do great planning for little things. But the most major thing in our life. We don't plan it, we just say either led me to believe, or shy away from thinking about it. Or say God will take care of it. Right. And that, I think that this book tries to base that myth, saying that, whatever you believe or not believe. I think of sports. And can we do something. So, this goes into that. But if you're living good happy, successful life. You are more likely to have a good exit. Once your body is not suitable for the astral body or for this world to continue the whole journey becomes easier. So it's not like I had, it's so, so interesting adaptation to a seven year old, he went to library, read the book. Most hours. Then he made the appointment with to see me. All he had was all these questions and one of his questions was in live in Christian, does this thing apply to me.

And yes, my answer was yes. If you really truly believe in Jesus to be your savior or something he has been convinced, yes, this does apply and let it go. Then this bridge is the one that you will connect to. So, yes, there are so many bridges built by Buddha or Jesus or Krishna. And they many different speeches and different pathways and people may have different experiences reported after they die, but they are not different because they are totally different because there is some infrastructure, he will be on. When we die. And the book does get it.

Dan Riordan 16:49

Wow, really neat. Yeah, I look forward to reading it as well I've been through the write up on it but I haven't got the book yet but I'm excited to get it. Yeah, yeah, I'm looking forward to the journey of it the. I have a pretty ever growing pretty big library and I always have about six books in the queue that I can't wait to read so I'm always backlogged quite a bit on, on my reading

Krishna Bhatta 17:25

all can enjoy.

Dan Riordan 17:29

Yeah, one I think I shared this in one of our pre show discussions, but one of my favorite books was a book written by Yogananda and really had a big impact and it's one I read every year I pull it back out and go through it because it's constantly.

Dan Riordan 17:50

Yeah. The in it, it just it amazes me every year I get something very different out of it. As my journey continues It's a neat thing so that's become one of my

Krishna Bhatta 18:11

mysteries. Huh,

Dan Riordan 18:13

who's that one. Oh, okay.

Krishna Bhatta 18:20

Because that's points that you know boggles your mind. Wow. It is so much. We think that this world that we live in is so fast and huge and galaxies and all that. The world that we don't. The Unseen World is probably bigger.

Dan Riordan 18:41

yeah. There was a couple years ago, I, I paint also kind of, you know, as another one of my outlets and I painted. I paint a lot of universe and galaxies stuff and I had read about this system called Trappist one which is a very much a similar system to the system that our Earth is a part of same number of planets with a big sun, very similar dynamics. But, you know, it's, I forget the exact numbers but it's like 30 million years away traveling at the speed of light. You know, it's so fast and so far away that it's just stunning. When you just even look at the material side of it, let alone the inner side.

Krishna Bhatta 19:51

One of the description of astral body which comes into is, is a one way thing. But we can't see or communicate with them. Yeah, it can be interested,

Dan Riordan 20:09

definitely can. The. Yeah, I often. I'm often stunned that you know your doctor, my undergrad was in electronic engineering and I had never really taken the principles that I had learned in engineering school and really thought about them as they applied to my body and the universe. And as I've explored all of all of these deeper, thoughts, going back to that training and teaching, and really amazed at, you know what, this whole energy body that we're a part of is really all about and the complexity and the really neat makeup of it so yeah it's pretty, pretty fun.

Krishna Bhatta 21:01

Consciousness is pure energy.

Dan Riordan 21:04

So if people that are listening. I always like to kind of give them one thing. They were to walk away from this brief introduction to you and all the great things that you're doing to help everybody. What would be the one thing you'd want them to walk away from this

Krishna Bhatta 21:37

of intermittent silence practice, it's sometimes called the rest. Silence. We're used to guided meditation or some music. I was talking to somebody in Maine state is the CEO of a company and he loved the idea so he tried to practice it. And he was saying that he didn't know this many sounds existed in his house. He said it was a couple of minutes but then he started hearing this or that sound or something else but it has four components that one is close your mouth so when you close your mouth. Basically, giving us to the brain that is involved in communication expression words speech, because that entire phenomena that we do outside now is internalized. When you close your eyes when you close your eyes. It's not just the visual effects your observation, instead of going out is now observing inside. And then silent listening, listening, any sound that stare at you. If you are in nature is beautiful because you can hear a splashing of waves or rustling of leaves. Just without judgment, without processing. And the fourth one is watching your thoughts. And so this is the basic element of this intermittent silence. When you want your thoughts sometimes your thought some of your thoughts can hijack you but when you realize that they will come back to watch. Yeah, nothing is a distraction, the bandwidth. Just minutes of quiet time. Silence. But another way to look at this is when you have money you overspent for the overeat. So overspending overeating and over minding is our normal nature. So give your brain. 10 minutes break or rest is a great thing for you, at least, 10 minutes a day. And if you practice, same time, same days just potentiates the whole thing.

Dan Riordan 24:19

hadn't really connected to a firm practice of silence until we started talking. A couple weeks back and I've been really bringing it in I realized that I kind of always did it whenever we went to the mountains or the ocean. I naturally gravitated towards just sitting on a rock and just being silent, but it was never an intentional, day to day. Practice Yeah, but I've been

Krishna Bhatta 24:56

in the women avoid courts and they said the same thing that you are saying, I go, peaceful, that's my, my time with me. And yes what you're saying if we can structure it that on the go ice fishing and a little on the lake. Yeah. As you said, many things we already do like. One of the things about intermittent silence if you practice for 10 minutes, then you can use the whole power of inside, in a different way. So, just think about. You go inside if you go to the source. And then you find the force is what the force be with you.

Krishna Bhatta 25:47

And that energy. You can use it like the when you do the journal expression, if you internalize. And they rehearse, anything you want you can create images. There, that's called positive imaging. And that was tape thinking, you can practice, everything that's there before you go and express it outside. And you've already rehearsed it's 90% of the time. Right 90% of things will act out as you plan. Right. And you can do it the way you want, because it's something you're control so you can just make it positive and negative things happen. At least when you are controlling. Right. But then there is another aspect when we're watching the thought we said, that's like inner conversation. So you know, once you find that quiet time with this, you can tap into any conversation that arises from inside you. And most of the creativity like yours that you've made those things come from inside. You can just get them earlier than normal.

Krishna Bhatta 27:06

So that's one way or the other way if you want to brainstorm on something beautiful place to be. Next time you're quiet try any project that you have, whether it is it a business. Somehow that is as if you're there, just being sealed that the way I say, like, each minute, we have a word 40 to 60% our brains. And people say that tours are powerful, or evil, you out of your car to write.

The example I always say that, not only as read why wires, they had to cut. They can only afford to cut one wire in surgery, it's a series of one on one court decisions that we make, because we are cutting we're dying, each decision has to be the best decision you see what I'm saying, Yes,

I think so simple. Applications can be really, really helpful. Fascinating.

Dan Riordan 28:30

Yeah. Yeah. No, it's been fascinating for me over the last week and a half as I've been starting to bring that into my daily practice, it's, it's definitely, like you said, the one CEO, you get fascinated by all the different noises you're hearing you also get really fascinated by just random thoughts that come out of nowhere, and you're at, you

Sherianna Boyle on your emotions matter, processing them matters more!

Dan Riordan — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 08:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around emotional detox and processing your emotions. With me is Sherianna Boyle.

Sherianna is the author of Emotional Detox for Anxiety and eight other books. She's the founder of www.cleanselife.com and a top five radio show host on www.healthylife.net

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3 Great Signals From Sherianna

1) Be More Curious, Don’t Just Accept What Is In Front Of You

2) Quest For Truth

3) How We Can Holistically Help Ourselves And Create The Balance That We're All Looking For

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Welcome to the switched on podcast. Today we have Sherianna Boyle with us, Sherianna is the author of emotional detox for anxiety and eight other books. She's the founder of cleanse life, calm and a top five radio show host on healthy lifestyle dotnet welcome Sherry, I'm excited to have you on the show today, and I'd love to have you tell us a bit more about your background, beyond the intro just gave

Sherianna Boyle 2:01

thanks for having me Dan I appreciate your platform and sharing all that you do. So as far as my background I, I now call myself an emotional detox coach since I wrote emotional detox core book, I call that. And what that means is I help people to learn how to process their emotions and understand them on a, on a deeper level, and then a mission to being a coach I also teach Psychology at a local college. And I've been doing this in this field of mental health and psychology and self awareness over 20 years now. And the majority of it has been spent in really looking at how we can holistically, help ourselves and create that balance that we're all looking for.

Dan Riordan 2:59

That's great. In the pre show and then in, in your background and bio you had said something that really struck me which was, you know you had felt like you were on the outside looking in, and I'd love to explore that a little bit more with you to kind of get the context of that.

Sherianna Boyle 3:24

Yeah. So, as far as the outside looking

think a lot of people, at least I was doing and even when I was studying psychology or teaching it just always felt like I was striving to get somewhere or get improved myself or get to a level where I could, where I could begin to do the things that I desired to do and have the things that I desired and what I realized that, really, it's kind of cliche but it really is inside of us. And the way that I discovered it was through the processing of our emotions. And I think what gets in the way of that is we've just been so trained to look at emotions from the outside. We've been trying to label them first of all give them names. And then, to identify them. And now with social media and technology. I don't even know if that's if that's working out so much anymore. It's difficult to get a read on anyone needs to look at body language and things like that and say oh you look like you're upset and. And now, since I've written so many books on anxiety and I've researched it and the way the, the numbers are so escalated right now,

Sherianna Boyle 4:50

For obvious reasons. I think that it's really affecting how we read each other. And the thing is you don't what I've learned through emotional processing is you don't actually, I used the term read, someone interpret what they might be feeling. By looking at them, the more effective way is to tune into yourself first. And to process what you're feeling. Because what happens is we jump the gun. And we make assumptions, or would you mind reads, when in fact, we could be just having our own emotional reaction, meaning the person is might be eliciting something in us. That is unresolved and likely it's an emotion or a set of emotions that we never allowed ourselves to fully process. When we were younger. So how can I possibly have a relationship with other people and make decisions about my future without processing

Sherianna Boyle 5:58

my emotions first, because otherwise I could be operating on what I call a trigger and triggers are basically there to let us know I know your shows all about signals to let us know that hey wait a minute, you've got something here that is looking to be what I would I call seen, heard and validated.

Dan Riordan 6:28

Yeah, it is. Triggers is another great you know perspective on it, and you know the signals, it's so fascinating because they're big there's big and small and they're there, they're happening all the time and one that I like to give as a reference is, you know what, started this whole journey for me was a simple signal that I got from the doctor who said hey your blood pressure's up. And he said, Hey, the next time you're in if it's not down we're going to be putting you on medication. And it was at that moment and I still don't exactly 100% know what triggered me to dive in deeper but that signal stirred something in me and I said, Wait a minute. Something I'm doing is not right, and it caused me to then question it which has led me to this amazing seven year journey of questioning everything and unpacking. A lot of baggage and a lot of things I had no idea existed, you know, within, but it really is amazing the triggers and the signals that that kind of enter

Sherianna Boyle 7:49

of people wouldn't see it that way they would listen to their doctor, or one and they would say, Okay, I guess I better get my act together or else. And it sounds like you really just got curious about that statement, more than just accepted it as, as what would happen as your as your fate, it almost seemed like a fork in the road. And you chose to be more curious and I love that because that that's partially what happens when you begin to process your emotions as well as you do become more curious, you, you learn to not just accept what's in front of you, as truth, and instead you start to have a quest for truth. Well, that's your truth as a, as a physician that's what you know based on your experience based on your schooling and your, what you've learned, but that might not necessarily be my truth. Right. I love the way you were willing to challenge them in some ways.

Dan Riordan 9:00

Yeah, it's the curiosity. What was stunning for me was, you know, here I was a person that had gone through an undergrad undergraduate degree in electronic engineering yet. I'd spent my whole career, looking at software and computer systems and analyzing those with that knowledge, I had never once stopped to think of my own body my own system using those same principles, and that was what that moment shook me and said, Wait a minute. I got to look at and analyze my machine just like I do a computer system or software, and all of a sudden it awoken inside of me, a really fun process of having that curiosity, but it was amazing how close I was to it, up until that moment.

Sherianna Boyle 10:03

I think everybody is there, I think, individuals who feel like they're falling apart very often it's those moments of, oh boy yeah I'm, I'm a little worse off than I thought I was. Or maybe if you feel like you're about to. You're just holding it all together and all it's gonna take is one more thing to just let everything. Those are often signs of breakers yeah emergent you're on the verge of a breakthrough. You don't know that right now you will at some point beyond the other side of it. And that was similar to my journey through an emotional detox I didn't just write about an emotional detox I was also on an emotional detox simultaneously while I was writing it, and very, very similar was really fascinating to look at the things that I had overlooked and ignored and I call it denial and is a pretty big thing. Deanna. Amazing. How you can. It's such a steep, it's such a foggy state. And I don't believe anybody's completely in denial I think everybody has just like maybe a small thing inside of them that says, I know, I know there could be something here.

But it's really a choice. I'm not going to look at this, I'm not going to let this come up in my life and I think that can happen. Just to be in line with your show, at least for me, because I do believe I can handle it.

Dan Riordan 11:40

Yeah. Yeah, I, I really agree with that and I always I always say, I was blissfully unaware, you know, I was like, just, you know, blissfully in my, my happy little bubble around eating whatever I wanted to eat and doing whatever I wanted to do, thinking that, all the while I was exercising and keeping myself fit so in my mind, I was like, I'm probably keeping this thing in balance. So okay, I can just be blissfully unaware. Little did I realize just what was really going on in the background. The. Well cool that's fun, that the next, the next thing I'd like to explore a little bit is, you know, if you were to pick three or four things that are you think the most misunderstood things in this area of processing emotions and denial of them, etc. What were the, what are the few things you would highlight

Sherianna Boyle 12:44

misinformation is what I wrote about emotional detox books is this idea of coping. I think that we went a little overboard with the coping. And here's why coping is means I have to deal with something I have to manage it, and coping with it. And I'm all, I'm a fan of coping skills we all need them to be able to to get through stressful situations that at some point, you have to process your emotions, around now. And I find that the majority have many coping skills. It's not that they're bad or wrong. It's just the way that we're using them could be actually suppressing our emotions. So if I cope with something by. For example, a lot of people keep busy. You might relate to that. Yeah, they, they have a lot on their plate. And so they cope by working extra hours or spending, staying up later. And that's all well and good but there's emotions there. So I always say, in my book emotional detox for anxiety. I always say you, you cannot have a symptom of anxiety, without an emotion. You can't. And, and you have a choice. You can either focus on the symptoms like what you're saying in your situation you can look at what's going on with the, the levels in the body and what and the anxiety or the fatigue or however it's showing up the sleeplessness, or you can focus on the emotions. And I'm encouraging people to focus on their emotions because very often when you do, and you start processing them. The symptoms dissipate on their own.

Dan Riordan 14:45

Yeah, really, that distinctions are a really good one, the coping by being busy is all too familiar. And, you know, it actually gives me a little chill when I even hear you say it because it's probably one of the stronger things I've hidden over my life in the symptoms side of it is I always just, you know, ultra busy always prided myself on being able to multiplexer a lot of different things and that being busy was always just a cover for just not wanting to deal with the things that were deeper, so that one really, really resonates strongly, and I found that even in the last company I was part of growing. What, what I saw was is that, you know, in a corporate situation. We just we're all so busy that you just blow by the the signals or the triggers that the organization is sending off, just as we do in the personal lives and as I started to have that curiosity to look at signals I got really fascinated with man the signals are being thrown off in the organization, I was a COO, and I was just every day I was having a steady stream of people, or meetings that we're just highlighting, all of the, really, the deeper issues that were going on inside of the health of the organization but the things that we were ignoring just simply because we were too busy. And it really is a real big problem in today's society. Yeah,

Sherianna Boyle 16:35

I think the reason people ignore them is they must have. They may have a belief that they simply can't handle it, that it would, or that it would just be too big for them to handle, or that it would somehow lead to the collapse of what it is that they were trying to accomplish or achieve in that company. And so, yes I mean they do their it's like alarms. Yeah. I think it's signals I think there's alarms fair and I think it's in many organizations, I think it's happening in our schools I, I, that was my roots I worked in the schools as a school psychologist for years.

Sherianna Boyle 17:18

I think there's a lot of alarms going on, off there and, as well as corporations and the coronavirus certainly has, has sort of unplugged some of that people really looking at Wow, taking a step back and watching it and, and there's something's happening that you're just like, I can't believe this is happening. Yeah, supposed to be helping each other out here and there's some real cutthroat things going on that are I think sometimes when the stress levels just get so high, the reactivity gets super high. And as a result, people lose trust and creates fear, really. And, and so hopefully some, some organizations are starting to wake up to that, how do we have realizing that you can go on like that. Sure I mean you could, and you might even do fine, you might do well. Or you can take some time and really uncover it and some people are taking advantage of the fact that a lot of things are removed right now for us like we don't have to commute, like we did before. We don't have to spend you know some areas, don't have the spending because there's office buildings that are closed and so you can concentrate in on different things. Yeah, my hope is some at least some corporations are doing that.

Dan Riordan 18:50

Yeah, no, it's really good. The arm around I was excited as I got to, you know, look at your background and get to know you a little bit I was excited to experience some of your meditation practice side, and out of curiosity, I'd love to just have you kind of give your thoughts around what do you think's most misunderstood around meditation practice and what do you feel like is the best first step for people, you know to experience, meditation.

Sherianna Boyle 19:27

Well, so emotional detox has a system called cleanse it's a seven step system. It starts with the C it's in the acronym of cleanse so people remember it. And that first step is C called clear reactivity. And I think that's important. In regards to meditation, because you want to center yourself. That's the first thing and that's what that clear reactivity is about it's about simple things that you can do to get centered in your body. And it's basically, I always say when I do that first. clear reactivity with myself or with clients that say it's just take a moment to sort of get out of everyone else's field of energy, because that's what we do, we're so it's kind of like boundaries you know we're so old, in everybody else's business, Whether, maybe we're not asking them, but we're thinking about them, maybe it's our children, maybe it's our spouse maybe it's our boss. Maybe it's our maybe we're feeling guilty about something, who knows but we're leaning in another direction so that first step clear reactivity. So all about. Okay, let's just take a moment get centered. And let's, let's focus on you. Your feelings, what's coming up in you know what's coming up in your daughter, or your son or your aunt or your parent, or your teacher, what's coming up in you. And so that's the very first step, getting centered and focusing on yourself, knowing that when we do that we're all connected. So it's just it's not that you're going to ignore other

Unknown Speaker 21:11

people.

Sherianna Boyle 21:13

It's that you're going about it in a different way.

Dan Riordan 21:19

Yeah, that's great. It's, um, meditation is definitely a practice that I have been, you know, trying to get more and more into, and it's probably the one that is challenging challenge me the most is just, just really to get, you know, the quietness, in, in my mind, in amongst all the chaos that that we're all living in, and the clearing yourself moments when you experience them it's just wonderful. But it's probably the one of the more challenging things I've had to explore.

Sherianna Boyle 22:05

For sure, when you meditate you want to be one big thing is just finding a comfortable area or C or make, you know, take care of yourself before you sit down and in meditation if you're cold put a blanket on you if you're if you're needed drink a water, have a drink of water for us it's really about making yourself comfortable. And then sit down and quiet your mind a little bit and that's that first step of in

Unknown Speaker 22:33

the cleanse again is about that centering piece. And then we go into sort of diving into what's coming. I always say what's coming up to be cleansed. And that's my view, that's my version of what emotions are showing up that maybe I'm not acknowledging maybe I'm not realizing how much of an impact. They're having on my, my viewpoint my

Sherianna Boyle 23:00

ability to connect with others. And that's that. That second step after you center, you, you go into that process. And then, and then the third step is very meditative because you introduce vibration into the body. And so sometimes that's like a little bit of humming with your voice. Sometimes it's a breath And so you can see how it's very similar to what quote unquote meditation. I just, I do better when I'm sort of gently guided into the process. Yeah, just kind of hop down and okay I'm gonna meditate now.

Dan Riordan 23:39

Yeah, no, I really agree with that too I need, I need that gentle transitioning. Because I the abrupt changes not something that that I seem to be able to navigate. So, on your on your journey of becoming the author and doing all the great things you've done. Was there a particular signal or trigger that started all this for you.

Sherianna Boyle 24:14

Well, the first book I ever wrote was when I left the schools, and similar to yourself. The signal was. I was on a leave of absence because I was pregnant with my first daughter. And after I had her. I really had no idea how much I have been on a hamster wheel. Because now, as you know when you have a baby, your life comes to a whole screeching...

Robin Claire on the desire to become your authentic self

Dan Riordan — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around The world needs to experience your creative potential just as much as you need to express it by becoming your authentic self. With me is Robin Claire a best selling Amazon spiritual author, coach and more. A great quote from Robin in the Episode: “every moment is a synchronistic moment. We just have to open up to, to receive it”….. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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1) Journey from self loathing to self love

2) Be open to what your gifts are

3) We are all sparks of the same divine

Dr. Ger Graus on creating confident learners

Dan Riordan — Wed, 23 Dec 2020 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around Creating Confident Learners. With me is Ger Graus the global Director of Education for KidZania. A great quote from Ger in the Episode: “confident people perform better so the idea that we enable our children and girls in particular, to become more confident learners, has to be a good thing.”….. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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1) Schools Teach Creativity out of children

2) Every Child is Everyone’s Responsibility

3) You let them find the reason why learning is important

NOTES FROM SHOW

Ger Graus: Enabling Children to be more confident learners….

Welcome to the switched on podcast. Today we have Ger Graus with us. Ger is a global Director of Education for KidZania, and he's a champion of true learning and making a positive impact on kids and others. I'm excited to have Ger on the show. Welcome Ger, please if you can give people a bit more background beyond what I've just done in the intro and then we'll dive into some of the discussion.

Ger Graus 0:55

I am from London via all sorts of places I was born in the Netherlands. In the Netherlands Italia Maastricht, and I went to school there went to uni there. There weren't many teaching jobs in Holland in those days, so I decided to move to England for a year and get some experience and then I was going to move back. So 37 years later, I still haven't moved back. Because I moved to England to a place called Norwich I liked it very much like children are taught. And that kind of life, plays with you if she got a promotion to expand and move Norwich to to hold in the north of England, and more promotion with to Manchester. And in my journeys I kind of moved from teaching in a very small school in orange, which was which was reasonably affluent to them starting to work quite deliberately on some of the very deprived council estates, that are dotted around our city so I moved from old Manchester from Manchester to neighboring Salford, and then eventually left teaching because I can't have enough love of teaching, but for being taught or being told what to teach. And, and government policy and testing and are moved into the learning of school. As started a Patreon coaching University. For Kidzania, and before that I was advisor, specter a teacher, and you name it so. So that's where I am and that's where I've ended up doing now. And my role is global which until February of 20 tracking brilliant travel everywhere.

Dan Riordan 2:55

Yeah, well that's a that's a quite a journey and a great string of different perspectives of the learning, and how you've pushed into expanding that so I love the love it when you, when you look at the you know about your message and about your distinction on the learning and the knowledge and how we all gather that knowledge, one of the things that you said in the pre show in the in our discussion was children can only aspire to what they know exists, or some version, like that is what you'd said, I'd love for you to explore that a little bit and give me a little bit more insight on your thoughts there.

Ger Graus 3:52

When I moved to Norwich all those years ago I was a language teacher I was taught German. And there were many arguments made that, why should people in the United Kingdom learn the language because the world speaks English so why bother. And so what I did. and remember this is pre emails or pre FaceTime. I passed all the children I taught with another school in Germany, and we connected those kids in those days via letters or faxes, and they visited our homes and they did work experience of what you did is you Why did it arise. And actually you let them find the reason why learning the other language was. You didn't tell them you put them in a situation where they could find out for themselves, because India. What we all pray with us is our own menu of experiences. So when I was 14 years old. I've never been to the opera before. And when I went to my first opera I was, I was excited that nervous because I didn't know quite how to behave in those circumstances, but excited because it was a brilliant experience. And that's very similar to what our children go through on a daily basis. And it's the under kind of that you read you reach a boat in many ways came about 20 years ago I think I was in charge of searching schools in South Manchester adjacent to Manchester Airport. And it was one of the most disadvantaged areas. In the United Kingdom, much that was actively engaging with those schools because of a larger agenda, called visionary companies on the long term project they've wanted to recruit its workforce locally and enhance, thereby the life chances, and life opportunities of the children and yeah. So I started talking to lots and lots of children in the area where perhaps 678 years old, and I asked them a question, tell me two jobs you could do here. And the answers are got the same secret see which amounted to about 45% of the jobs and 55% of the jobs, couldn't see the didn't see, and therefore they could misfire too so. So, just because 55% of the opportunities, did not exist. And then, remember the background of some of those youngsters and their context. Then I asked him the question look, you can fly planes. And the answer I got from six and seven euros was for people from here don't fly planes. So the realization of that was the children don't lack aspirations we do that photo comes from somewhere. And then you package that and at some point. These kids cannot use by the noses, and they don't know. And we can't teach the planes who we have to show them by looking out the window. Unless you let them experience what's really out there and that's where it came from. And that's kind of stuck with with me. Also our working life.

Dan Riordan 7:12

Wow, you actually really just connected the dots for me with that insight. It's really interesting because I look back on my college, and when I was choosing the university to go to there was two universities for electronic engineering, that I studied. And I had the choice. One of them was very theoretical and one of them had a theory but it also had a lab, coupled with it. So experiential, and I chose that university because I knew the way I learned was man if I can get my hands on it. I knew I would learn it or understand it better than just sitting in a room studying formulas. But I didn't really connect the dots all the way until just now and you made that distinction about what they see versus what they don't see in there 45% of them. Only chose the things that they could actually see boy that's actually unknowingly that's actually how I made my choice for university was wow I got to be able to see it. And I got to be able to experience it and I got to be able to expose the things that I can't see. So really cool

Ger Graus 8:37

jobs from flying simulators to a hospital transplants or being a television presenter to clean windows, whatever it is. And in essence the importance, what we've done is we've demanded you walk through the door. Adults are there to be seen and not heard, they can not interfere. And everything is to children's choices on whether they like something or dislike something is their choice whether something is difficult or not is their choice. And they walk away with tangible so you produce the front page of a newspaper for example so you should be proud of something. And it's all about purpose and answering the why question, but the realization that came out of that almost like a part of the apple experience many years ago was that once you provide that opportunity to those youngsters who have not had many experiences like that in their lives who come from socioeconomically disadvantaged context, they often lack the confidence to immediately go and fly the plane or perform the deliver transfer, just like me when I went to the opera

for the first time.

You have to just sit and watch for a little bit, and that's okay, as to how to behave in those circumstances. So knows you're certainly more than one shot at it. And, again, that realization that what we need to do, we need to build the education of our children, not on the preconceived ideas and the preconceived curriculum we've got that we need to build it around the aptitudes and capabilities of our children, and growth in life. And that's in a sense is what it is. So we do global research, and we reached a number of conclusions from that research on a massive scale 600,000 children, and we analyze what their first choice is when they come to Catania. And then we look at who those children are there 414, and then always girls are richer and the conclusions of the poll stereotype just after the age of four. So you walk in there and do you see the pilot activity and 95% boards, when you see the cabin crew activity, and that is 95% girls and nobody's told to do that statute, when they're very. There's almost no change between four and 14, and then kind of as far as two to go it's quite disturbing. Almost all governments globally regardless of their background, almost all girls globally choose activities. Below day trade. Hmm, nine year old girl to seven year olds nine year old boys. 10 year old. So the issue there is a lack of confidence that many girls have. And then the other thing is children can only aspire to what they know exists if you come from a disadvantaged background. You will never ever choose the pilot activity as your first jobs that will come on your second or your third visit. And that's okay, as long as there is a second show we capture that information. And we give that information to educators we give it to teachers we give it to OECD, we give it to governments and say, You should know that if you are serious about educating children, rather than talking about grades all the time. Then you should know this information, because you can build your provision around how well you know the children.

Dan Riordan 12:21

Yeah, wow really good. I love the insight that the confidence in age difference in the boys and girls, is really stunning. I haven't seen that study but really, really interesting insight. The.

Ger Graus 12:58

and confident people perform better so the idea that we enable our children or girls in particular to become more confident learners has to be a good thing. It has to be a good prerequisite for good academic and other performance.

Dan Riordan 13:15

Yeah. So if you were to sum up, me you've highlighted some of the but if you were to sum up what you think are like the top three biggest misunderstandings about the education of children or the experience of children. What would you sum those up to be

Ger Graus 13:47

outside school is the place where children learn and learn from experience. Don't get me wrong in schools. Many children are taught brilliantly by many teachers. But if we look at what the school is the school is a place. So, Very simply,The government decides what the children in school should be taught. That's called the national curriculum. The schools and the teachers are charged with doing that. Then the schools that are inspected and the children are tested, one could very easily argue to quality issue how well the scores are delivered. And you can have a home hours conversation about schooling, without mentioning the word child shots. When it comes to learning in museums and parks sports games farms wherever. To do child. Lunch fulfills curiosity and quite often binding sounds connects that what's been learned. With that, what's been taught we don't, we don't need to tell them that English, or that work. And I'm starting. That for me is actually a really key point. And then I think you're the thing is what that means. We and our systems are not very good at this. We, we need to trust the children, as much as they trust us because when I go into schooling. We have rules and rules and rules. And when you walk around the school, you quite often come away with a knowledge of everything the child is not allowed to do, but you know very little about what they are allowed to do you know that they're not allowed to talk you know that they're not allowed to run, you know, get to have to walk on the left corner right. All those rules, but if you actually don't walk away. What is it, they can do. Then you have to scratch it out and say nothing. We just have to trust. I was in a school not that long ago many children had to ask permission to go to the bathroom. I've never known anything quite as ridiculous, like, why can't we just have children whereby they can just go and we have to trust them that they're not going to use that.

Ger Graus 16:18

and at the same time, remember that their kids because there's all children but it seems to me that only very few.

Unknown Speaker 16:32

And then we need to believe that absolute unlimited potential, socially, emotionally and intellectually of our children.

Dan Riordan 16:44

Yeah, wow that's a powerful statement. Because it is unlimited and all we do is try to throttle it down and get it to conform. Yeah.

Ger Graus 17:05

Teach creativity outwardly to the point of going to school children are immensely creative curious, playful, as they start going to school to rules, and the rules, prevent curiosity prevented creativity and prevent playfulness. Yeah. On top of those rules overzealous obsession with health and safety and you stroke on that in a pot and you have a straight jacket. Yeah. Straight jackets are not.

Dan Riordan 17:45

Yeah, it's uh you know it's fun talking to you because you definitely trigger even back again for me. I remember in elementary school, second or third grade teacher I can't remember exactly but I was always a really fast reader, and I had good comprehension. But when I was finished reading I would then fidget at my desk and I would get in a lot of trouble because I was, you know, I was up to distracting other kids and I wasn't really paying attention. But I had this one teacher who. At first she was man you can't be reading this fast then she would test me for my comprehension and say wow you actually did it. So then she gave me the entire bookmobile and said, Go, Go read those. And she, kind of was the one that embraced me to encourage me to just push myself, and it was wonderful, but for the most part I was always getting in trouble for being fidgety and not sitting still and distracting class so it really is important. What you're highlighting here.

Ger Graus 18:55

You and the teacher, work with you my experience is quite similar and it was it wasn't a job, my teacher came up to me and gave me a book and said you're not good, you should read, but at the same time so I. Yeah, but at the same time I never I hated math so I hate the sciences. And when I look back and when you have conversations with your friends over dinner with friends over dinner. Ask them those questions which are the school subjects you didn't. Why didn't you like. The answer is because you didn't understand why you have to do. Boy,

Unknown Speaker 19:46

but if somebody exemplifies makes things real estate photos songs in chocolate bars, I would have been much more interested. So, I think I think it's super connected with the real world. If you see something as a purpose, you're going to try better and harder.

Dan Riordan 20:05

Yeah. Yeah, no. Yep, the purpose connection, I've personally said a lot about certain things I had to study and I just didn't care. And I remember clearly just being not connected at all to the purpose to it so it felt like just it was a labor of torture. So, yeah, the, well that that's really fun. When you look at the progress you've made on Kidzania. Are you guys seeing how this experiential interactive, you know, kind of environment is improving kids or is there is there certain measurables there that you're, you're looking at.

Ger Graus 21:04

In the outcomes in master schools. But our measurements are like in the areas of what some people call soft measurements, I'm not sure that that's the right term, but they are in those areas of confidence, there are in those areas of. Can you test measure that children's understanding of the world on what's possible is bad so we work with market research companies, but at the same time we work with, Oxford University we work with the national research university in Moscow we work with. Emirates at Stanford University. What we do is we hold off a 20 year period. There are upset contenders globally another 20 in the making. We hold the data, anonymized from 90 million children.

Ger Graus 21:59

We want to work with, with researchers who could use that information to make the world, an education, better. So I'm not interested in the in the doctrine study whereby a dozen is a fine book produced for the bookshop, something has to happen. And that's what we do and what we have a problem with we are the first ones globally to do that, to actually say there is an entertainment industry, where the kids come and have a good time and learn that that entertainment industry is working with some very serious research universities, and other researchers market researchers. To conclude, to a number of findings that can help people who are educating the children in schools and elsewhere. And that's quite an interesting position because continue it did start as pure entertainment. Then came the realization that it's actually more than, and kept the realization that well. If it's more than that, what difference can we make. So, So we're still on the journey. We are, we are still on the journey we move a lot when our pretty big, important organizations to make that difference, but not enough people have heard of us not enough people have been, we need to create an online version of this, because not everybody can go. We need to make it more affordable for children from more deprived contexts. So there's a big job to be done. But,

Dan Riordan 23:35

yeah, it's really interesting and I have enjoyed getting to know and learn about it myself by getting to know and learn about so it really opened my eyes. As we got ahead to the conclusion of the discussion there's two things to kind of head into it. One is, I love for people to kind of, you know, ask you the question around. If you were to have one take away from this show for people that you really want them to take away what would that be

Ger Graus 24:19

that every child is everybody's responsibility. We have to stop compartmentalizing the education of our children, parents are...

Martina Geromin on the lifelong process of going beyond limitations

Dan Riordan — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around Going Beyond Our Limitations. With me is Martina Geromin the Co-Founder of the school beyond limitations, and more. A great quote from Martina in the Episode: “You will never finish knowing”….. Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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1) It is not about competition, it is about cooperation

2) The more we read, the more we realize

3) Give space to the Flourishing uniqueness of each individual

NOTES FROM SHOW

Welcome to the switch on podcast today, we have Martina Geromin with us, Martina is an expert in education. Knowledge Management and Leadership she's a co founder of the School of Beyond Limitations, a school that sees students as a whole human being, and a school that would go beyond their limitations. I want to say welcome Martina I'm excited to having the show is a really fun concept and. Can you tell us a bit more about your background beyond my intro.

Martina Geromin 1:07

Beyond limitations with education, this is this has been my baby ever since I can remember, that you may not believe it, but already at the age of five, I knew that I would do something in education, and I knew that I would become a teacher, and I knew that I would actually, at the end of the day, create my own school. Wow. And interestingly enough, of course I went through formal education, I did a number of academic titles and I started teaching, Italian, there I did research a lot and then I ended up, you know, moving from country to country as well and I went, working in different educational systems and in each system. I realized there was something there was always something that I was doing differently. I always had this perception that I needed to bring some, some, you know, flexibility into the system by seeing the students first and interestingly enough, I always had a very strong bonding with my students and many when they were in my lessons they just enjoyed my lessons and then I ended up working in the international context, I realized also there that when I was working with students, I integrated lots of different modalities so that they really got inspired again you know sometimes they lost their interest, especially when they were older they just keep their learning for the sake of learning or studying because they had to undertake examinations, or whatsoever. And I always felt this is not enough, then I became a principal Head of School in international schools I also work at university level, you know, I went through the entire system from, from kindergarten up to university and other, education, and you know also moving from one country myself to another, I realized that I almost always had this pain in myself to be back. You know my setting and students and staff, and. And that, and then I met the co founder my partner of school, and she was the one that told me but I would it be possible also to create an online school. And then I said, Wow, that's an interesting idea but I would like to have an online school that is really a holistic online school and online school that's not, you know, just based on, you know, preparing for examinations and studying certain subjects, I want it to be holistic. I want the student to be seen in his tight team you know in his entire being. And yeah and so as a concept. Because it was meant to actually give a possibility of continuity with regards to education for digital nomads families who want the school to come along with them for families who are looking for an alternative to this standardized education system because they want their children to, let's say, to see the world from different perspectives and know by going through conditioning, you know conditioning learning that may take them away from their purpose, and may take away from their interest, taken away from their, you know, also talents and. And so that was also you know what target groups of people. And then, of course, you know, also the effect of giving the intrapreneur aspect, much more important as well. So I really strongly. Although I have a number of different, you know, and I don't want to go into detail with regards to that because of course, I love learning, I still love learning, and I understood by going through the learning process that learning is a never ending story, and it's not necessarily, you know,

geared towards finishing a degree it's more geared towards, you know, bringing something into this reality into the world and making sense of our reality. And, and, and that's why, you know, we created this because we want our students to see that their ideas are taken seriously. That their ideas can, so to say, transformed into something. The child only an experiment, he can also transform into a real company. So what I wanted to say before, I don't think that college is redundant, don't get me wrong. And I think it's not necessary anymore. In today's time to wait until all the degrees are completed before you start your own business. So if you mean feel driven by getting the degree, you know, then go for that degree but that doesn't say out you that you can already start alongside something where you can generate either some money, and it's not only money driven it's also purpose in the first place purpose driven, right, because you know in our conversation before we we started to get into this conversation you want to tell me about this. Maybe you want to share the story yourself about this, this young boy who talked about the

loss, driving the tractor Would you like to share that.

Unknown Speaker 7:23

Yeah, I love that story,

Dan Riordan 7:25

ya know, it's a great insight in that little boy, you know kindergartner was coming in and saying, hey, um, I want to be a tractor driver. And, you know, really, you know, just all he wanted to do. And then interact with the boy and he says well I can't do that because I have to go to college. And you quickly were like no you can tell your souls purpose is to drive a tractor. And the funny thought was around, wow you know we want kids to go to college, then we spend $200,000 to put them into a college. You could have spent $50,000 and buy the kid attractors set him up in his own business, and he would be doing his soul's purpose and wonderfully happy and having the freedom for all of us to know that that's not only is it okay but it's really what we should be doing in is turning that line on so

martina geromin 8:37

we actually came up with the idea of creating a fashion company right. And he was so inspired by that, that he actually just talk to me. And now we created the space for him, and others to create their own company and now they're in the process of creating their own company, and they are coached through that process, but by myself, but also by my co founder and other intrapreneurs so that they get really all the insights of how to do also the nitty gritty stuff, and how to put ideas into real into reality. Yeah so extremely inspired all of them. Right. They can't stop learning. They need to be connected between the different countries, because they're sitting in different countries, they make it happen and we also make it happen. We also have a 15 years old, who has already, you know, generated the money folding tiles for the school to trading. And we have another one please work stables, because he loves animals, and has realized that he can do that and earn some money and he has understood with at the age of 12 that he can buy his own laptop by themselves. By doing that, so his parents, you can imagine, completely happy because they say, you know, he's an independent, and they actually learn to navigate reality as it really is, you know, because we don't make this categorization and this distinction here is that when you go to school. Right. This kind of intersection and interaction between life and school and learning and learning and learning and learning. And out of that so many possibilities are created right and this is what we are continuously doing with our students. First of all, we try to understand where are they coming from by using lots of tools, lots of tools. And when we understand them. We actually, first of all we you know we look at them, as, as beings who already know because we all have this this tacit knowledge, inside us already. So, it's not that we think that we are, we are, we, we deal with students that don't know anything and they that they have to be filled with information. We see them as no one gains, right so it's actually we help them extract what is already within them. And then we help them to make sense of that, by, by reaching out to what is outside of their reach. Right. But first of all, Yes, and what you already know about this. What is the question that comes to mind what would you like to find out about this, what would be the next question that would take you into the next step with, with the idea of creating, whatever, you know,

so it's always based and what kind of new possibility will

give you, which kind of energy, do you feel when you go in that direction. So it's always seeing the tire being because it's not, it's not just at the mental level, it's more than that. Right. It makes sense so we try to also understand how do they, as I said before, what's their authority. Are they more based on you know on on their own emotions as it has to be related to their own emotions, or is it more. They need to process it through their minds first because that's interesting once we know that we can help them, you know, because what we think what the teacher actually is, is a coach is a guide at the student side. So it's not a teacher feeling and saying, you know, it's more facilitating. And of course, sometimes they need some direct guidance because they have so many ideas in their mind that they can, you know, they can't get any sense of that because it's too

martina geromin 13:08

The teachers actually tasked to bring a little bit of order into their many ideas, but not by dismissing the other ideas, or just by giving them the sense of completion sometimes for something right because also the sense of completion of a project. You were talking before about experience to them and he also states about experience similar

martina geromin 13:52

You don't have to become it anymore because you're just that person. And naturally, you, you are so to say, driven by the cording that is within you.

Dan Riordan 14:05

Yeah no, that's, you said a few things there that I took some notes on that. You know that this this concept of, you know, knowing beings. And one of the things that I've really been surprised that is, you know, moving up into the adults of all of us. You know, I've seen it so often that something happens as we turn into adults for that feeling that we're a knowing being seems to just close down, and we're not really questioning some of your great questions that you pose there. We're not really being real experiential anymore, so, so much of what you're saying is pertinent to all of us. I love it.

martina geromin 15:02

From the perspective of not being judgmental. Yeah, things first you know and and trying to sense is this, just an opinion, or is this really, you know, is this reality, because we can look at anything, and we will find out you know that there are so many different scientific researches thesis theses out there that may even contradict, you know, between one another on the same topic. And this is what we also try to have the students to just be open to open his face to be non judgmental and to not just make a judgement on everyone. Everyone wants to be. And that's why, for instance, we don't apply grading we don't grade our students. We never grade our students. Although we prepare them of course if they are ready and want to be prepared for final examinations of course we monitor them also towards universities, they are ready and if they want to go in that direction, we do that. And then of course grading world being out of their lives right, but they look at it from a different angle they do well. And that's interesting as well because we then see that this model actually works so well because they don't do it, because there's pressure. They do it because it's, it's, it's been extracted from within them they want to do it.

martina geromin 16:40

So it's, again, you know, looking at things looking at a presentation by another student or eye to one on one's own you know project from a step up from a dispensary of. Yeah, asking questions have I done really haven't given all my best, have I looked at all the different aspects, have I considered this and that. Right, yeah. That helps them also become open minded and global citizens because they will not, you know, of course, it may take a while for those students who come from a traditional system but children who come all the way through. With such a model, they don't unlearn that because a child. You know that, right at the age of three four and a half. You may be at four right it starts if they are, you know, not terminated by by something else I thought that this, the younger they are, they would just look at everything with Walker, you know. Yeah. You know, they don't say I don't like you know they may of course have some reactions, or they wonder. And that's why I always say, it's very important to expose children to make a variety because what I often see now that children already from a very early stage are just exposed very often to only you know, I use of electronic devices and TV. And that's just one channel, and that can, you know, that actually doesn't allow them to experience Wi Fi.

Dan Riordan 18:33

Yeah. Yeah. I love it, you, you could have written parts of my book better than I wrote them after listening to what you just said just so many similarities around. I use a question set in, in meetings and in in life where I always say, okay, is this something that I know, or is this something that I think I know, and in meetings I would ask presenters, you know, Hey, is this something you know or is this something you think you know, and then I would ask another question which is, what more do I need to know to feel like I know you know to just put myself through a little bit and then you can go get more information to try to say okay for me to make a decision on is a product line profitable or not what what more do I need, and let me go investigate that but a lot of really interesting applications for kind of that process that you're identifying there and I've used, I use it every day, in all of my choices. So, really, really love it.

Unknown Speaker 19:46

Yeah.

martina geromin 19:49

business right you always

end up monster by adding new questions right at the end of the day you realize I mean you will never finish No. That's right.

extremely interesting on the market, it may, it may change you know we have lots of examples I mean fashion changes all the time. Well it's, you know, why does it change but even with technology with cars, faces Right,

Dan Riordan 20:24

yeah. Well I think I just got the, the name for this podcast episode is what you just said I'm gonna name it. You will never finish knowing. I actually, I actually really like that, that quote. You know, if you were to highlight maybe two things that you feel is most misunderstood about the way education is working in the way kids learn or. The best way to develop kids what what do you think, what would you highlight as the couple that you think,

martina geromin 21:01

considering the student education system that I think it's really the misunderstanding here is that this is beneficial for students looking more of notions, the better. And I think that's completely wrong, because you know you will never be able to know all the information that is out there, the more we read, the more we realize, you know what we said before, the more we may know, we start understanding that there is never an end to this all right. And that's why I think we need to get away from feeling the part, it's more. It's more about facilitating. And another thing, I think, is which is also where I also have my reservations on with the traditional system is seeing the student, as, as categorized into age groups into you know subject areas and so forth. Right. So categorizing seeing them as part of you are now 12, and at the age of 12, you have to be this way. And at the age of 13 there has to be this way. And I think that's wrong because we are all so different, you know, and unique. And we all have different needs, but if we create an education system and school, communications, also aims to do that, to personalize, as much as we can. And that doesn't mean to give space for selfishness, it means to give space to flourishing uniqueness of a person. In order for that person to contribute to the, to the bigger good out to the larger good.

martina geromin 22:59

There is no. You know, when you start seeing things from that you realize that day. The other person your peers, is not a competitor. We have learned through this grading.

Unknown Speaker 23:17

Yeah.

martina geromin 23:26

into reality. And the other one is that in the intersection there, create something, something that's very valuable. Right. And then, and that takes me to this tacit knowledge sharing right because I firmly believe that we hold much more knowledge in ourselves. That is not written down in books you have written your book as much.

Unknown Speaker 23:54

Yeah. Yeah.

martina geromin 24:00

But still, there is a treasure. Much of deep and treasure within yourself. Yep, that, that, I think we need to create a space where this treasure that is within us.

martina geromin 24:23

sees that and appreciates that each person then they start to appreciate themselves. And then we start, not questioning ourselves anymore because we start seeing the uniqueness of ourselves. And the beauty that each person brings into, into the field, instead of saying you have to be like this because if you don't reach that great and more, or you can't pursue this way, you know, and why it's wrong. Because, I mean like cancers, of course you have to also walk the talk. Right, right. Maybe there may be a phase where they are just motivated. They are usually motivated because they don't have the you know they don't have any guidance there or because they are just filled in with notions that don't make any sense to them. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 25:21

Yeah.

martina...

Rick Heyland on how to honor your progress, not just the goal

Dan Riordan — Thu, 17 Dec 2020 07:15:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around how to practice continuous improvement. With me is Rick from CI4Life, a Podcaster, author, and more. A great quote from Rick in the Episode: “the idea was work smart and work hard and I was working hard, I couldn't work harder…..” Come Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From Rick

1) Let’s Improve in all areas

2) Weekly planning is a super power

3) What is the (MVP) most valuable or profitable thing you can do today

NOTES FROM SHOW

Welcome to the Switched On podcast today we have Rick Heyland with us. Rick is president of ci for life,and is the author of live your purpose. Welcome Rick, I'm excited to have you on the show today. Can you tell us a bit more about your background and beyond the intro. And yeah, I'll

Rick Heyland 1:14

give a little bit of background before we dive in, I'm in Salt Lake City, Utah. My wife and I share I'll have six kids and 15 grandkids Well, actually, the 15th is due tomorrow. So, I'm already counting. And originally born in Lethbridge Alberta, Canada. I did my education my undergrad there and my MBA there and then we moved to the US about 20 to 23, years ago, I was president and CEO of us operations, America operations for a consulting company called RLG International for 31 years, a year and a half ago I retired started a, as you said a continuous improvement for life ci for life, personal coaching productivity improvement

Rick Heyland 2:00

I've been having a blast traveling a lot less love less stress. And, as you mentioned just sort of work so it's been a lot of fun.

Dan Riordan 2:09

Well that's great the retirement is active so far.

Yeah, yeah, it's very true and it's really fantastic to be meeting so many amazing people through these podcasts I'm really joined and myself. So, you know, maybe give us a little background on the why of CI4Life life. You know, why did you create it. And what's the desired outcome for people as they as they dive in with you. In that

Rick Heyland 3:01

spirit of living and practicing continuous improvement. That was doing it, traveling a lot and I was doing it with large organizations. And I wanted to do it, maybe more one on one, and touch more people with it so that's kind of the reason for writing the book and that's the reason for jumping into continuous improvement for life is wanting to touch individuals, and a lot more of.

Dan Riordan 3:27

Yeah, that's great. It's, um, I've done the airplane time and the traveling all over the globe, myself and, you know there's a there's a lot of time spent there that you aren't really, all the way on purpose because you're just using the time to get from one place to another. So I really agree with you that it's nice to not be traveling as much. At this stage,

Rick Heyland 3:55

along with the why on that is really, you know, to try to help people use the processes and tools of continuous improvement to accomplish their personal and work goals, and when I'm saying personal goals,

Unknown Speaker 4:10

physical, spiritual,

Rick Heyland 4:12

mental work. Relationships financial. So that's kind of the spirit that I'm trying to do is teach the tools, the mindset and the skill set to help accomplish the goal.

Dan Riordan 4:26

That's great. What do you think are the top few three to five things that are most misunderstood by people in this continuous mindset pursuit. Where do you think we all get tripped up care

Rick Heyland 4:50

for companies if I had to get one root cause, or maybe two in your change initiatives or continuous improvement.

Rick Heyland 5:01

What is the clear outcome that you're trying to achieve what is the results outcome, tie your engagement initiative your continuous improvement issue. Clear performance outcomes. Many people think that it takes five years to get bottom line results out of your continuous improvement progress program that's just not true. If you attach it to clear results outcomes. The second on is still on the corporate side I would say is the engagement. You're gonna ask me for a colleague or moments here at the end and I know you're gonna explain what that is. It ties into this idea and my really naivete coming out of MBA program on the importance of engagement solid sleep that story till the end. And then down on the personal continuous improvement side. My passion is you know you see the statistics out there, fact I just looked at one statistic that 18% of people accomplish their new year's resolutions we're about to enter 2021, and only 18% of those goals are achieved. And that's just a crying shame. And so my passion is to how do I teach principles. In order to really drive continuous improvement in people's lives and that's why I wrote the book and I'll go into some of the different elements in there but it includes not just the goal setting system itself and also the inputs before that, what are your purpose and values, because if you clearly articulate that then accomplishing your goals doesn't seem like such hard work. And then of course the outputs as well and then meaning. What are you, what's your weekly planning daily planning how do you respond to setbacks so I see goal setting and goal accomplishment more appropriately. As a process or system and I know you're a system and process guy. And starting with the inputs, making sure you have a really good goal setting system. And I can elaborate on that, and then making sure you've got a way to then act on and deliver weekly, daily and stay focused on the number one priorities in your life as articulated in purpose values and your goals that you've said so that's kind of my passion and another reason why I'm doing this.

Dan Riordan 7:14

That's great, you set a couple of things in there that really triggered and align with things that I've been focused on but I actually articulate them a little different ways I just want to explore that a little bit because when you talk about the you know the clear outcomes you want. Um, I think in the, in, in our first meeting we had talked a little bit about this but I had in business settings. I've always worked on, you know the problem statement definition. So, very similar kind of statement to you're really making sure you have clear outcomes identified, and I always, you know, Andy Grove had a great quote on it but his quote was, the better your definition of the problem, you know, then you're not trying to fix things right before they're finished, and it's 10 times more expensive to fix things late in the game, versus early in the game with a great definition. And I really, resonate with your clear outcomes statement, kind of aligning with that thought process.

Rick Heyland 8:29

process for Lean Six Sigma starts with the D is for define and define the problem to find the outcome. If you can do that with clarity and specificity, both on a corporate level or a personal level, whatever the listeners are trying to apply this to. That is the absolute critical fourth step, you know, we often talk about smart goals Specific, Measurable, Attainable reliable trackable or timely. And if you cannot measure your goals, it's very difficult to improve on, you know, on a manufacturing setting and must be, you know, might be something as specific as waste or productivity or production, or at a personal level it's, you know, number of pounds lost number of number of dollars saved, etc but in very specific terms and if you can do that. That's, the start of a goal success system.

Dan Riordan 9:28

Yeah that's really good. The second point I was gonna resonate with was you were talking about, you know, the 18% of success on on New Year's goals and then in that discussion you drop down to saying you know getting it all the way down to kind of the one thing you're gonna get, you know, accomplish today or, you know, in your next your next block and boy I, I really learned that one. In the last startup growth company that I was in, where as we really started to scale. I was heading into days with just massive lists of of action items and I was finding that I was really failing. The company because I was taking two and three days to respond to things which then had a horrific ripple effect down onto the teams because then they're sitting around waiting for answers, and you know my impact was starting to be way, way bigger than I ever intended it so I literally had to reshape my entire way of working and I went into, you know this mode where I was like okay every day I'm gonna have one thing that for sure I'm going to get done. And then I'll have the next things on the list but I'm not leaving until that that thing is really done. And then I also set real clear parameters with every bit that said look if you get me an action item, by the end of today by tomorrow morning, you know, nine o'clock, you will have your answer. And I really tried to you know get much clearer on how I was responding and interacting.

Rick Heyland 11:13

Chapter nine and 10 of my book. It's called weekly planning it's chapter nine as a superpower, and daily planning the most important habit. And inside of that is exactly what you're talking about the importance of prioritizing rather than be just busy or driven by the reactive. How many times of work are we just, I mean you could just stay busy with fighting emails calls meetings, without really getting to the most important things and those are the real winners the real successful people prioritize. I heard someone it's not my saying but I really like it. MVP. Most Valuable or profitable thing for me to do today.

What is the most valuable or profitable thing, and I like what you're saying. In fact, I'm looking at my book right now in my daily planner the 25 things. And I've got starred the three most valuable, or profitable, which one of them is this podcast. Is that a great idea, most valuable and profitable that builds on your prioritization.

Dan Riordan 12:17

Yeah that is good you know it's funny.. As soon as you said MVP I triggered on an MVP that in the tech world was minimum viable product. And it's you know it's that mantra of saying look, it doesn't have to be perfect, get, get the MVP out, and then let people start using it and then you can enhance and, you know, make it more robust but I actually like this MVP, you know, version, really a lot too because I actually, I guess I was thinking about that way but I hadn't tied it that with that much specificity to really focusing on the you know, the most profitable or the best use, I guess.

Rick Heyland 13:13

Time is to spend with your clients it's shocking how busy you can be in a service industry. Just taking care of emails or phone calls sitting in meetings, without really engaging and listening and solving the actual clients problem and I know that applies to retail in many other sectors so the whole I think we're really stuck in this business trap. And we forget what's most important to deliver to our business or to our life.

Dan Riordan 13:45

Yeah, boy. Yeah, that's a fantastic Call out because I know we're all struggling with just the inundation of everything shows up and it feels like everything's urgent and important and getting that prioritization, and having some discipline around it is. It takes real work. So, when you know I look at things from, you know, as you said that analytical perspective and thinking through signals, you know what, what got you on either you know your path, initially into the consulting space or your path now But was there a certain signal was there a certain thing that came through that you stopped and said, Ah, okay I see what I, I want to go pursue

Rick Heyland 14:43

subtitle on your podcast I love it, dan. So, now how do I tie this up This is really my life's work in a short story but when I was in MBA school, I was struggling to keep up with the workload so I went to, You know how do I do this, I can't read every case I can't. I've got a family I just can't physically do all the work. And he taught me a principle there that just stuck with me and that drove my career and like I think part of my success. And the idea was work smart and work hard and I was working hard, I couldn't work harder. And so this idea of working smart has so many layers.

Unknown Speaker 15:26

In fact, you know,

Rick Heyland 15:27

it was two weeks later after that kind of aha moment that I got my first c minus on an economics class just about sent by just moved my family across the country it was my first test back and I just had a heart attack wondering if I'm doing the right thing. And then this idea of work smart came into my mind and I remember reading about. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and then the other books about you should have a purpose statement or a mission statement. And so it was under that experience of work smart work hard and that that little failure if you will, that I started to draft, you know, 30, plus years ago, that purpose statement. And, in a fact short story is that's how I find my job a real quick story on that Dan that may be interesting. I. This after I'd written my purpose statements on fast forwarding a year and a half and now we're recruiting or maybe just over a year now we're trying to look for jobs and nothing looks interesting nothing looks kind of what articulate my purpose statement and consulting company showed up, called rlg International and it was beyond consulting and it was action orientation, it was taking your clients problems from just the report to actually making it work and implementation. And I thought somebody have read my purpose statements. And I saw I I put my name on that list, the list came back there was 10 people on it I wasn't on the list. So I phoned up the recruiter, who actually was one of the partners at the time, small consulting time and I said, they say I said, Hey, I think you made a mistake. I'm not on the list. And they said, Oh, really well. Well your experience you're a little younger and blah blah blah. Oh, what the heck Go ahead, put your name on it you can be the interviewer. Any off bottom line I was the only one about the job, but it was all driven from that signal moment of, how do I work smart. What does work smart really mean Well, part of that is articulating my purpose and values so that when I see something. I know what to say yes to and what to say no to and as you can tell by the story when I identified the Yes, and then saw it. There was nothing that could stop me so that's really what the book is about the first four chapters are about why purpose is important chapter three a list of benefits, including health benefits mental benefits of developing and articulating your purpose in chapter four of the book. I actually articulate the process I use but I've refined it over the last 30 years. I call it the triple seven process and I think that's what makes this book, unique Dan is that I spend a lot of time talking about how my whole consulting career was implementation and how not just. Most consultants come in and tell them what we worked and made our grew our company on how working with the people to develop the house so in chapter four of the book I go in detail about the triple seven stands for the seven days seven hours and seven questions, it takes to develop your purpose so anyhow that's a long answer but that was the signal moment that got me on worksmart and got me on purpose.

Dan Riordan 18:47

Yeah, no that's. There's a lot of interesting things to unpack in that statement the. I love your distinction there on the consulting side with the what and the how because certainly in my career. I had interactions with consultants and actually had a lot of frustration with the pointing out of the what, but not really getting us to the, to really you know how to go implement and win. And so, I feel this really interesting tied to what you're saying there around the weapon the how and the what

Rick Heyland 19:32

to large groups and teams, but you know it's one thing to train people on the ideas or to have them read the report or even have a fancy presentation. And it's another thing to put on the coveralls or roll up your sleeves and coach the leaders team leaders, middle management, on how to deliver engagement and focus, so that you can get bottom line results and the same principles applies personally you know even the great golfers the great athletes have coaches. So, what is it they're learning on how to be the best in the world or to accomplish their personal goals so big on coaching I have been for a long time and now I get to try to help individuals accomplish their goals rather than big companies.

Dan Riordan 20:18

Yeah you know in our pre discussion I actually wrote down two things that you said that I've actually kind of already incorporated into my thought process and the two statements you said what value do I bring to you and what value do I bring to your life. And I really, it's a great, great kind of gut check for yourself to really make sure that you're bringing value. Yeah, I like those the. So when we think about how to utilize this on a day to day basis. And it sounds like in your book, you have some tool sets to help people with their kind of daily planning out through their annual planning, maybe share a little bit more about, you know, how do you really use the thought processes and the thinking that you're defining

Rick Heyland 21:23

to truly embrace and get the kind of results you want as an individual and your company, Chuck in your job. It's a mindset skill set toolset so I've tried to address all three things in the book, through their stories and exercises. At the end of each chapter, it's actually when I asked you two or three questions on how to apply. And so I've had a lot of people say well they read it once quickly and then go back to, you know, do the workbook section but maybe I'll jump in the middle and go and go look deeper into what I call the weekly planning is a superpower. And what I'm talking about is the whole idea of break down where you get the 18% idea or stat that I see very often. Another one was 9% by the way, and this whole idea okay I've got my big goals or I've got my purpose. How do I actually execute, I get so busy I get so wrapped up. You know the old story of the individual that set some goals writes it down on a piece of paper puts it in the top drawer of the desk. It's August, they're ruffling through some old...

Daisy Papp on SelfRecoding®, the secret recipe for healing the past

Dan Riordan — Wed, 16 Dec 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to switched on crew. Dan here with today's signals around how to uncondition yourself. With me is Daisy from self recoding a podcaster author and more a great quote from Daisy in the episode “potential is worthless, unless you do something with it”. Join us and enjoy the show.

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3 Great Signals From Daisy:

1) How can I start living on a level of integrity that I always wanted and wished for to be treated with?

2) We can clean out these subconscious programs that are running our life….

3) When we uncondition ourselves, then we can start questioning so where did it come from? Why am I doing what I do?

NOTES FROM SHOW

Welcome to the switched on podcasts. Today, we have Daisy Paap with us, Daisy is an author of Self Recode excellent coach podcaster and more really excited for this conversation we're going to have a daisy today, I'm going to welcome Daisy and have Daisy give you a little bit more information beyond the intro

Daisy Papp 0:49

Appreciate your time. The person who is known as the author or the founder of self recoding or the excellence coach I'm a human being as well.

Dan Riordan 1:02

Yeah, no, I love that and you're a wonderful human so I can't wait for everybody to get to know you. Is there a little bit more that you'd like to share about, you know, your background and maybe give everybody a little bit of flavor for your journey up till now.

Daisy Papp 1:23

Germany. My mother was German My father was Hungarian, and I'm the fruit of love. And I was very fortunate to grow up in a wonderful very harmonious beautiful family. Up until I was eight years old, because my father was about to drive my grandparents his parents back to their hometown, and I was allowed to go with them. And I was all excited I packed my little favorite doll as the matching shoes and so everything was kind of neatly packed. And my mom was going to leave with them as well and I was all excited and last minute my father turns towards me and says, Daisy, you know, I think you better stay home with your brother. And I was kind of really disappointed in sad, of course, as an eight year old would be, but I was happy that my brother was with me and then they left and a few hours later, they had an accident with a car. And my mother was the only survivor. And there was kind of shocking because it is like my, my wonderful world just popped into just collapsed, and nothing would ever be as it was before. And it took my mom, like 32 surgeries, until she was able to kind of function. Relatively. In the beginning they thought she could never walk but she had a very strong mind and she, she used many of these tools that I was not aware of being existent at that time. Like mind coding and focusing wherever your focus goes everything grows and such. So, my family life changed drastically and when I was 10 and a half I was sent to boarding school, which was quite exciting because it wasn't a castle in South, Germany, and, you know, who doesn't want to live.

Dan Riordan 3:12

It sounds pretty nice.

Daisy Papp 3:15

I just upgraded to being a princess. Really as fairy tale, as people might look at it from the outside. And then after school I went to study, to hungry, because I wanted to learn my father's which kind of language, where he came from the tradition, the culture. And it was really wonderful was wonderful time and I truly admire the people and I love the language I'm fluent in that language. Since and I very much, understand, part of myself, that is genetically within me that Hungarian side of mine, and just before the holidays my mother gave me a call while I was in Hungary and she said Daisy I'd like you to sit on a plane and attend to the, to the company celebration tonight. And I said, Well, how am I going to do that she said very easy you go and get another ticket, and you just sit on a plane so I intend to celebration with positivity. That evening, and the next morning we were about to fly out to Geneva. In Switzerland. And it was my brother, my godfather and my mom, and last minute my mother turns towards me and she says you know Daisy. It's so stressful, why don't you stay at home we see you in two days. So it was a Saturday morning and I was kind of, I would love to walk in Geneva and see the lake and it is wonderful in the winter. And so I was stuck at home, and two days later I received a phone call that the plane crashed just shortly after. In Jamaica. And I was 17 at that time and I was orphan. It was quite a challenge because I had no idea of business, my mother left a big business, my, my brother was very successful self employed, my godfather had his first baby. It was just born 44 days prior to the accident so it was a very tragic. And, of course, what I would try to do I wanted to find family because that's all I was longing for, and I wanted to belong somewhere, and to belong to someone. At that time I didn't know that when I have me I've never known it but it was outside to be found. And so I got married and I have a wonderful son. He's also fruit of love he's 30 years old today. And then after I was married, I realized, well some things I just like functioning well within me so my body got very ill. Nobody really was able to find out what was wrong with me I lost a lot of weight I was like about 90, pounds, lightweight skin and bones and I couldn't eat nothing would stay with me, and the doctors in Switzerland, Austria, Germany and how great nobody could find what's really wrong with me because physically I was actually okay but all the symptoms were just not feeling good at all. And that happened. I had to believe that. How old was I maybe 23 at the time. And a girlfriend of mine she mentioned to me this one doctor she heard off and that she's really good and maybe she could help me. So she picked me up my girlfriend and drove me to the doctor because at that time I was not driving. I was too weak. And so I'm crawling up the stairs to the doctor's office, And I'm sitting there and this woman does something with me I had no idea at the time which it was, but an hour later I for the first time since the plane crash. I felt that weight was lifted off my shoulders, and I felt that there might be hope to, to have a life that's convenient or that's at least peaceful inside of me without all that burden and the tragedy and also the survivor's guilt. Because in both accidents I suppose to be it. Right. And so, I asked the doctors what is it that you just did to me and she said, Oh, just a little NLP and a piece of linguistic programming, and I turned towards her and I said, I don't know what it is, and I will find out and I'm going to study just that. So a couple weeks later I found myself in class and two years later I was a master practitioner in NLP, which I very much enjoyed and I realized, wow, it's really amazing how quickly you can achieve changes within myself and helping others. Nevertheless, at times, I was looking for results and they just did not happen as I thought they work. So I continued to learn other modalities. Later on I went into the tapping modalities which I found really, really exciting that was in 1998. Then I went over to family constellation therapy.

I cannot even think of all these modalities I freely need to open my own website and read what's all in, and EMDR data on and hypnosis. So, not to confuse anyone I'm not a psychologist I'm not a psychotherapist I'm not a hypnotist and not a hypnotherapist nevertheless I studied with some of the famous people in that industry, or in these fields, and I created my own lecture online in 2008, that is when I found itself the coding, and the name self recoding came from one big idea and vision, Because who am I to quote you, or who am I to tell you how to adjust parts and pieces within you, I do believe that in your subconscious mind. There is a healer, kind of something.

And when I help you find that and you can do it all by yourself and so that is what self recoding is all about. I help people to get the best results possible. From all five continents I do that, since over 10 years over video calls and phone calls, so I do remote sessions. Early on, and I made some workshops and seminars and then I started publishing books. So the first one was the formula for finding true love which is groundbreaking and can change society within one generation, if applied. And I've worked working now on getting teachers closer to the formula for finding true love, and the island model that's another book that I published. So hopefully we get we can start teaching that to children. Because then, there are a lot of misleading concepts, will just not how would I say that, and be part of these youngsters. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 10:05

yeah. When you look at the self recoding and you say, you know, I always tend to break things down analytically and I say, Okay, what are the three, like most misunderstood things that self recoding helps people, you know come to a new realization about

Daisy Papp 10:31

analytical. So, what sells what makes self recoding different is that it is achieving results in a very short amount of time. Now, that sounds almost too good to be true but how is it doing it. It is very directly, working with the subconscious mind. Therefore it is not that you need to tell me the story over and over again. Therefore re traumatizing yourself. Why don't you tell me the horrible story over and again what happened to you and the tragic involve, but we go in there and we just unlink the emotional charge from the memory therefore, we can look at the memory, without feeling this emotional shock that our body was so accustomed to feel whenever we think of it. That's number one. The second is that we clean out these subconscious programs that are running our life, the show. I can give you an example, for example, when you start driving the car, and then you learn how to put the key into the, you know, into the car and that they told you okay so you need to turn the key but don't turn it too long, too hard right because then you're gonna burn it. But if you did not turn the key enough then don't start the engine. And today you sit in a car and unless you have that little push button where it starts the engine. So now you just turn the key and you start the engine, you don't even think about it anymore so it became a program, so it's very natural for you don't even think about it anymore, same happens with thinking patterns and thought patterns that we have that we don't really take an inventory of them. Now when we think these specific thoughts, often enough then we develop beliefs, and many of them are not very helpful today so I help people to take an inventory of the beliefs that are within them nowadays that they are holding on to, and we keep those. I'm not telling them what to keep or what not to keep there's a very simple principle that we can see is it still supportive, or not. And they come to their own conclusion. Okay, so maybe it's time for a software update that then is the third book of mine software updates for your mind, which is just, it's a collection of simple, very quick tools that can help you to get back on track. And then the third part of self recording what makes it so different and very powerful and successful is that we are once, having this empty space. When we freed ourselves from the lease that are no longer supporting us. And then we put some really powerful life management skills. I know it sounds almost rigid and technical, but nevertheless coping skills management skills, how do I handle specific situations. How can I start living on a level of integrity that I always wanted and wished for to be treated with. And once we become that. So, with this empty space within ourselves we put all these really valuable powerful tools and skills in there, and then life can change almost overnight. Yeah. And that is, I do believe the recipe. In short, and they're probably I would need to write another book.

Dan Riordan 14:03

I think there's sounds like there's five more books at least and there's so much. It's amazing the. You said something that has really fascinated me through my personal journey which is you know belief change, I've noticed this. It is so interesting how people get their beliefs formed, and how they never really stopped and questioned it, and they don't even realize they did it, but then they stand so firm in that belief. And it really has. It's probably been the most fascinating part of my own journey is both learning that about myself, but then in talking to others. I've seen it manifest in a work environment in companies and the way they operate in humans operating in every facet. The belief change mechanism is so fascinating so it's fantastic that you're helping people kind of journey through that quickly.

Daisy Papp 15:01

Believe it is very important because we are all conditioned to degree. And when, so I do sessions over zoom but in the past I only use Skype and then there are other platforms I'm using as well but on my Skype profile, it says, as self coding uncondition yourself, because that's really the key. When we uncondition ourselves, then we can start questioning so where did it come from Why am I doing what I do while I'm doing what I'm doing. And not even questioning why and how and where it came from. So I think that is a very important step in self development.

Dan Riordan 15:40

Yeah. Yeah, very neat the question I always ask myself in there in my own questioning process is. Where did my belief come from like when I noticed that I have a belief about it I immediately say where did it come from and then I say, What more do I need to know to actually reaffirm or to change that belief and I try to really trigger some simple things. And it's everything like from food to. I often tell a fun story that one time I, I used to not be a very good driver, and I'm always, you know, I'm really not proud of one battery to say but you know as to drive really fast weaving in and out of traffic, and I and I believed it was getting me there faster. And then one day I sat down I said okay I'm gonna drive it 15 days. My 30 minute drive the crazy man way. And then I'm going to drive my drive 15 days. Speed Limit never changing lanes, my maximum differential was three minutes. Crazy. You know I'm like driving, I'm putting my own self in harm I'm making other people's life so uncomfortable. All for this belief, and then when I tested it, it was dead wrong, but it really was amazing.

Daisy Papp 17:03

It helps me to see measurable. Yeah, your listeners out here. They can relate to that because they're either upset about those reckless drivers stigma, or they are one of them.

Daisy Papp 17:22

Actually, a very important part of self recording is also slow down. Yeah. Because oftentimes, even not in traffic, but how often are we reckless drivers in our bikes, without being a motorist.

Dan Riordan 17:37

Yeah. And we think

Daisy Papp 17:39

oh yeah now I'm going to eat, faster, Yes, I'm going to reach my goal faster. No you don't believe, and that also is I truly believe related to the fear. The fear of not getting there on time, the fear of not being able to get there at all, and therefore we want to reach it too quickly. time takes time and used to say. He's such a wise young man, years old saying, mom. Time takes time. I think oh thanks for the reminder, because it just seemed to really slow down. And notice harm. You're truly doing on yourself and your environment.

Daisy Papp 18:28

I'm not talking about the environment. Now the palm trees and nature and the oceans and mountains, and so forth. I do believe that direct or indirect environment. The people in our environment. Yeah, we are these reckless drivers in life, and it is a very good idea to slow down, because sometimes I used to say to my clients in the one on one sessions I said, Are you a horse dog. No, of course not. But you asked me this. I said, Well, this is not a horse race and it's not a dog race.

Dan Riordan 19:04

That's, really good.

Daisy Papp 19:08

also find humor in discovering hidden programs. And once they come to the awareness. Photo this word is so overused. But when they come to the conclusion. Oh, so I have programs running with me that I'm not even aware of and because they kick in, automatically without me knowing I'm on automatic pilot. Therefore, who is who is determining the outcome. Right, taking the power back, and then they can start thinking for themselves again. And then they see the freedom and therefore they stop copying the past. Being afraid of that exactly copy of the past is right here right now therefore pasting it in the future and doing it over and over and over again, and it's like the hamster wheel you think you move forward, but you're not you think the same spot. And once they come to the conclusion okay so right here right that was the only time I really have. That's fact is we can philosophize about it, or discuss the past was true at some time, and the future will be true, hopefully, at one time. But all I really have and I can really take actions right here right now. And when I take all my power back, allow myself to really take an inventory of my beliefs, whether it is towards my driving style or if it is my relationship style or my style, how I do my work or how I complete work how I exercise how I eat. And then really question and then I can freely choose once I conditioned myself then I could choose. Okay, I understand my parents or my grandparents, my ancestors my community, my colleagues, my family, my spouse, always did it this way. But I questioned it, and I found another way now for me that works best for me, and I still love you and I still respect you, holding on to this, and I care for you I'm not going anywhere, but I choose what I choose for myself to do differently. I wonder if you can respect them to see if it comes in the communication skills. That's a whole different aspect of self recoding because there's so many modalities that help us heal those wounds, but they don't teach us how to speak, they don't teach us communication skills that are very powerful and respectful.

Dan Riordan 21:42

Yeah, well I love it, it is just listening to you. I wish I would have met you, many years ago.

Daisy Papp 21:55

today. And I'm so glad that our paths cross. Yeah. Because there's a lot of things that we can still discuss and so many things we can do and spread into this world. Yeah, others discover their power so that they can realize unconditional...

Brenden Kumarasamy on working together to master your talk

Dan Riordan — Tue, 15 Dec 2020 07:45:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around how to master your public speaking. With me today is Brenden from Mastertalk . He is the producer of the fast growing Youtube channel Mastertalk. A Great Quote from Brenden in the Episode: “Communication is every single interaction you have in your life”.

Join us and Enjoy the show!

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3 Great Signals From the Episode:

1) Ask Hard Questions of yourself so you can carve out a unique path in life.

2) The energy you bring to an environment has a lot more impact than you think.

3) The best question to ask yourself: Which emotions will you bring to a situation? Positivity or Negativity?

NOTES FROM SHOW

Dan Riordan 0:11

Hello, welcome. This is Dan from the switched on podcast. And I'm excited to bring my guests Brendon from the master talk YouTube channel today to talk to you guys about Mastering the Art of public speaking. So Brendan, why don't you go ahead and introduce yourself to the audience.

Brenden Kumarasamy 0:35

Of course, Dan, thanks for having me. So my name is Brenda, I'm the founder of master talk, which is a YouTube channel I started to help the world master the art of communication. And how I got started was when I was in university, I used to do these things called case competitions. So think of it like professional sports, but for nerds. So while other guys my age, were playing sports, like basketball, or baseball or soccer, I never really understood any of those things. What I did instead, is I applied the same competitive spirit, but to presentations. So for three years, I presented hundreds of times coached dozens of people on their communication skills. So when I graduated from university, and I started working in the corporate world, I just asked myself a question, which was how do I add more value to society? How do I contribute more to the people around me, that's what the idea for the YouTube channel came to be. Because I noticed that a lot of communication content out there, especially for my time in venture capitals, noticing, especially a lot of technical founders, people who had amazing ideas, weren't able to communicate their ideas, and also couldn't afford a speech coach like me. So I started making videos, my mother's basement, one thing led to another

Dan Riordan 1:50

The Great story, you know, in there, I want to retrace a little and have you reference, something that I like to term as a signal, when we get a signal that comes in and we question a belief about something we had believed all along? And then we found out that man, I've actually learned something I'm going to charge off in a new direction. Was there one particular moment or instance, where you said, Hey, the sports thing isn't for me, but I'm going to, I'm going to charge down this other path. was there a particular thing that triggered that inquiry?

Brenden Kumarasamy 2:27

Yeah, absolutely. I would say one thing that's been consistent throughout my life, Tony Robbins puts the best, I'll just summarize and explain from my point of view, what he means is his idea that the quality of your life is solely determined by the quality of the questions that you ask yourself. And what he means by this is that the people who are successful is how I see it anyways, the only difference is that they're willing to ask themselves hard questions about life very early on in life. So if you take me as an example, and that's the habit I recommend people take so that they make the decision to you know, pursue presentations, or anything that they care about, rather than what conventional wisdom wants them to do, is to wake up and ask yourself, one hard question about life, every single day. Questions like, what are you pretending not to know? If you are God? What would you do first? And why do you die tomorrow? What would your funeral speech say about you? And of course, Peter TEALS question, what is the truth that you believe in that most people disagree with you on? All of these questions are free, that are available, but most people don't want to answer them. It's by answering these questions, I was able to carve out a unique path for what I'm doing in life.

Dan Riordan 3:43

That's beautiful. I am a huge proponent of deeply questioning everything. And I've turned my way of thinking is the signals coming in and the signals come in to your life and everything from Hey, if you're not sleeping? Well, why is that question if there's a reason why, what did you eat or drink the last night before you went to bed? or What did you didn't you do around getting the right light into your life? The depth of questioning that can go on has never stopped to amaze me once you start getting in the rhythm of it. Another simple question I do every morning is I used to believe in multitasking. And then I really found out and experience that that's really a myth. What I really came to do is I have a lot of things on my list. But I question every morning, what is the one thing I'm getting done today, bar none. I will not stop my day until that thing is done. Then I can go to number two or number three if I've got the bandwidth to do it. But that methodology has really helped me be much more successful at keeping a smooth rhythm to life.

Brenden Kumarasamy 4:59

I love that idea. Do the same thing with my life. For me the one thing, and I still miss a couple of days, but I get for most of the time is right one YouTube video every day, I cannot go to bed. If I don't get this one thing done. That's how I've been able to write my content so well in advance.

Dan Riordan 5:14

Oh, that's fantastic. Yep. Perfect. So, you know, going down this vein is, when you look at the helping people master talk, in our pre discussion you had mentioned, you know, Dale Carnegie, as somebody you look up to, and that you're patterning things after. And one of the things that I loved about some of the Dale Carnegie things I've been through was, there was a statement or a quote where it's, you know, it's possible to change others behavior by changing one's behavior towards them. And I look at master and talk, as you're changing the way you are towards other people. And as a result, you're going to change their behavior in the interaction, I want you to talk to me a little bit about from your master talk and your expertise that you're helping people with. Talk to me about what you've noticed in the ability to change people's behavior by the way you are.

Brenden Kumarasamy 6:18

Yeah, absolutely. I think a good way of describing it in my words, is this idea that the energy that you bring to an environment a setting a place has a lot more impact than you then you think and the example I give is mirroring. So imagine the following scenario did you wake up in the morning, you're getting ready for tennis for breakfast, or work, whatever it is you want to do, and you look in the mirror, and do both. So two things happen. You'll either show up in two different ways. The first way this applies to everyone not just do is you'll say, Wow, today's such an amazing day, I get to play tennis with my family, I get to get breaded on for a show and a podcast shares knowledge life is amazing. But the opposite is also true. This day sucks. I got to talk to this Brendan guy to have a podcast. Why am I even talking to him anyways? Then I'll drive to family time with tennis. Oh, what do I have to keep hitting balls, I don't understand the point of this. So same rule applies the energy, whether it was the good and the bad gets projected onto everyone else around you. If it's good, then amazing energy you pass down to your colleagues, your friends, your family, and more importantly, your audience. But the opposite is also true. If you don't show up with the right energy, you'll also cause that negative behavior to be protected to everyone else around you. So what's the punch line here dead the punch line is the following. The mirror that you look at in the morning, isn't just an object, it is the very thing that you are because as speakers as people as content creators, as people who seek to make a difference, we are because we reflect our own emotions, onto the people that we speak to. So once we understand that the only question left to ask is which emotions will we choose to project? Will we choose to project negativity, sadness, and negative? Negative thoughts are what we choose to project positivity, reassurance and love. And that choice is entirely ours.

Dan Riordan 8:27

Yeah, that's really great. And well said, when you talk about the mirror is really interesting. Several years ago, I went through a process of really realizing that I fundamentally didn't love myself completely. And I'd watched a amazing YouTube video by a lady named Nadia and she had, you know, recommended this strategy of waking up every morning, spending a couple minutes in the mirror, naked of all things. But pick things about yourself that you would say you loved. So look at your nose, and say God, I love my nose, and look at your ears and go through this process of really just fundamentally loving yourself to the point that you no longer looked at the physical that you are deeper and look at your soul. And I found that by doing that, that helped me really get in touch with others in a much deeper way as well.

Brenden Kumarasamy 9:31

I love that. Thanks for sharing. Yeah,

Dan Riordan 9:33

it's fun. It's so interesting. I loved your reference to the mirror. It's what triggered the thought. You know, a lot of people think of mastering talk in the way of a business presentation or as you said, tech founders but it's in it's in all walks of everyday life. Maybe share a few ways to use this in everyday life to help us perform better and all that Is

Brenden Kumarasamy 10:01

the absolutely the the way that I see it as simple communication has very little to do with presentations, but rather everything. Communication is the tough conversation that you have with your family communication is the way that you have long dinners with people you haven't seen in many years communication is every single interaction you have in your life. And once you realize how to communicate more effectively, not only will your presentations at work will get better, but your entire life will get better. You know, that feeling when you travel to a foreign country that you don't know the language, but for some reason you feel like the other person understands you. Why is that? It is the idea of how you communicate not just your energy, but everything that you are. So the idea is, once you understand what that incentive is, why is it that you want to master communication, that's when those things will start to show up in your life. I'll give you an easy example that I like to use. Let's say you're in a relationship, whether that relationship is with your significant other, whether that relationship is with your kids or somebody close to you. And you realize that 70% of the time, you're always arguing, but you're realizing that the arguments have nothing to do with one person being right or one person being wrong, but rather an under a misunderstanding on both sides. So if you just got really good at communication, and clearly articulating your thoughts, you would have 70% less arguments. So life seems a lot better. That way that analogy can be applied to anybody that you're currently butting heads with. That's an example you can think about.

Dan Riordan 11:31

Yeah, no, really, really true. And it is, it is in all those moments that you can have an impact and impact on a lot of ways. When you look at the benefits, and you look at the hopes and dreams you have with your YouTube channel, and with what you're developing us as your platform, what do you what are you hoping people get as they come in and experience your content? And you know, looking for making an impact for those people. Talk to me about what you're wanting to really do and how you'd like to see that manifest?

Brenden Kumarasamy 12:12

Yeah, absolutely. For me, the goal is so that every single individual has an idea worth sharing, has access to the free tools on how to communicate those ideas and make them spread. So that could be an executive at a company who wants to share the product or service that they really think will make a difference in the world, all the way down to a six year old girl who sells lemonade to raise a bit of money for charity. All of these people, I believe, have great ideas. And it's about giving them access to those tools readily and availably. So they can use those tools to to make a tremendous change. I think the thing that excites me the most about master talk is the next Ilan musk that nobody knows about. You know, if I if I want if you know if they pull off what I what I'm seeking to pull off in my life, my ultimate vision is in 40 years when I'm an old guy, you know, the next Ilan Musk, whether it's a man or a woman, regardless of where they live, will come up to me and said, Hey, you know what I was 20 years old, I was watching your YouTube videos, thanks for giving me the courage to, to speak up and share my truth. So that's probably the most exciting part about my vision, what I do every day.

Dan Riordan 13:18

Yeah, no, that's, that's a neat vision. Because you never know, what's the one thing that's gonna kind of unlock that hidden power in everybody. And if you can impact one person like that, or thousands, it's it's truly a gift. And so that's a wonderful aspiration and way to think about it. I love it.

Dan Riordan 13:44

when I think about the ways that you are going to interact with people in YouTube is certainly one of them. Do you have other ways? And Other thoughts? Are you looking at developing applications? Are you looking at developing other tools for people?

Brenden Kumarasamy 14:01

Yeah, I'll probably start entering different mediums like podcasting, like having my own, or, you know, getting more serious on other social media platforms like Tick Tock and LinkedIn. But for now, I'll probably venture into the app space later when I when I see an interesting use case. I'd say for now, I think what most people need the most is just a boost of confidence to say that they can be great speakers, but I'm definitely excited to see what's going to be down the line.

Dan Riordan 14:25

Yeah, cool. The in our pre call, you had mentioned that one of your passions is to surround yourself with the best and wanted to do so have you share a little bit around your mindset around? What does that mean? How do you do that? And how does that help, you know manifest in a new or different way?

Brenden Kumarasamy 14:51

Yeah, for sure. So the way that they think about surrounding yourself great people is the following. A lot of people also ask me things like how do I build relations do I find those people? How do I get everyone to like me the truth of the matter, then we can just play this out for the sake of it. And I promise it'll be the only math lesson I'll teach today. Let's just assume that we live for 50 more years, I'm pretty sure you'll live a lot longer than that den bushes 250 the sake of it every year. And every day of that year, you get to meet one new person, which is very optimistic. So let's say in a given year, you know, you meet 300 people. So once again, don't want to make this a math class. But if you do a quick math on that 50 years times 300 people a year is 15,000. So the question you always need to ask yourself, when you're trying to build relationships with people, depending on what your goals and dreams and aspirations are, it's not about saying, How do I get everyone to like me? How do I give my business card to everyone around me, but rather say, who do I want those 15,000 people to be? out of the billions of people out there, I only get to interact with at the most 15 does probably less. So choosing those people wisely, will determine your future. And if you pick correctly, you'll get where you want to be. And if you don't pick correctly, you will not get where you want to be. That's why, you know, I think a lot of people don't talk about this is this idea of what is the cost of success. And the unfortunate reality of success is that as you become more successful, you actually have to leave behind most people, because most people don't want to join you on the next stage of your life. So you need to be willing to give up those people and to make new relationships that get you to the next stage of life.

Dan Riordan 16:36

Yeah, no, really good. The when you talk about lifespan, it's really interesting, because one of my personal mantras is that the place where we error a lot both in businesses and in personal is we don't define our problem good enough. And by bad problem statement, we end up getting not the result that we desired. So you know, personally, I set a very interesting problem statement around longevity. I said, I want to live to 110 with full mind capabilities and full vitality. And then I started solving for that definition and saying, Okay, what does that mean, I need to eat? What does that mean? I need to drink? What does it mean I need to, on and on and goes. But as a result, I'm giving my best chance at getting that, you know, result I want as my problem define. So another funny sidelight. But when you said that it kind of turned me on my problem definition, thought process.

Brenden Kumarasamy 17:45

I love that I think I think very much the same way as we're pretty much operating from first principles, right? Elon Musk talks about this a lot. But the idea to keep it simple for the audience, is instead of asking yourself, or instead of saying this is true, you need to start asking yourself what is actually true, and why is it true? Right? And when you start going from A to B, and you start asking yourself these questions, going back to that deep thought, you start to optimize for to actually want Yeah, there is a YouTube channel, whether it's 110 years old, of living with a full body, full mind and body. It's all about picking what those priorities are for you and optimizing against them.

Dan Riordan 18:22

Yeah, yeah. And it, it is a truly exciting ride when you do it. Because never in my wildest imagination, did I imagine that I would be a fully vegan plant based person, you know, at the stage of my life. But as I went through that questioning and problem solving for that problem statement, it led me to machining out you know, everything. And I was down to a plant based diet and I was...

Dallen Reber On Searching for What Ignites You From Within.

Dan Riordan — Tue, 01 Dec 2020 07:48:00 -0700

Welcome SwitchedON! Crew. Dan here with today’s Signals around how to go from "unhappily going through the motions" to "relentlessly pursuing your dreams".

With me today is Dallen the CEO and founder of Realizations and the self mastery journal.

A Quote from today’s episode: I knew that something wasn't fulfilling me…..

How many of us have this feeling deep inside?

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3 Great Signals From Dallen:

1 Enjoy each season you are in and learn from it. Each season is providing you with a realization and the goal is to be aware of that realization in the present moment.

2 Why am I doing what I'm doing right now is it because I truly love it or is it just cool to talk about like telling my aunt about it when I go to our family reunion

3 To build Self awareness you ultimately have to be completely transparent and truthful with yourself.

SHOW NOTES:

Welcome to the switched on podcast. Today we have a great guest in Dallen Reber in Dallas, is the CEO and founder of a company named Realizations. He currently has a product on Amazon, called the self mastery journal, and really excited to have down on Dallens going to share with you, his journey from high level athletics achievements, down to this realization that he really wasn't fulfilling his purpose, and as a result he dove in and really has been creating a whole new attack for his life. So with that, Dallen I want to welcome you on board and get the introduction going.

Dallen Reber 0:55

Awesome Dan I appreciate it. Thanks for that little intro I'm excited. You know to be here with you on this podcast.

Dan Riordan 1:01

Perfect. Well, Dallen, maybe we can start off and have you share a little bit about kind of the the why of what you're up to how this developed for you. And in the terms of the way I like to talk about what everybody's what signal Did you get that kind of was the amplifying thing that said hey, you're not going after your purpose, and then we'll talk about how you dove in and change that.

Dallen Reber 1:30

Yeah, awesome I'll do my best to keep my stories as brief as I can but basically, as you mentioned, I was able to play collegiate baseball at the division one level I played for university Kentucky and Brigham Young University. And once I finished up with that, you know, it was time to figure out what I was going to do with life, and having been involved in athletics my entire life up into that point, I decided to stay in athletics and pursue a graduate graduate degree in exercise physiology, with an emphasis in Sport Science, so I was really intrigued by you know the new science that was coming out for performance purposes, and I got my master's at University of Kentucky. And long story short was able to get a pretty awesome research gig down in Tampa Florida at a facility that does both the training of high level athletes as well as research. And, you know, across the whole spectrum of performance and health and all that and I was more so on the research side. So, and as you mentioned, um, I landed this job and shortly after, you know, although I liked this job at the time it, I knew that something wasn't fulfilling me it wasn't something that I necessarily woke up excited about and I continued to, you know, question what I was going to do in the future, which was kind of an odd predicament right I'm in this job that I love the people I work with a lot of great mentors, but at the same time I'm still searching for something. So this led down a series of events where I'm, you know I like to call them introspective events where I was engaging in personal development practices such as, you know, reading, even listening to podcasts meditation, spending time with myself with my thoughts and journaling and journaling being a big one for me that that and through this process you know I was able to just kind of learn more about myself, and what is it that actually kind of ignites me from within is how I like to say so, that's, that's my quick without getting into too much detail that's my quick little story you know I was down in Florida with my family, ended up having our second kid which is another piece of the puzzle but, um, but yeah that's kind of my, my journey from going from career to questioning you know where I was at and where I wanted to be.

Dan Riordan 4:02

Yeah, that's great you know in our pre call discussion, you said a couple things that I had written down one was you had said this lens of what society felt was important, versus what individually. You were feeling was important was it was very different, and I think it's a great, you know, point to emphasize because a lot of us get trapped in that, you know, the society vision kind of pulls you along and gets you on the conveyor belt. And it's really not what you're wanting to be up to, but you kind of get sucked into the vortex of that pole.

Dallen Reber 4:40

Yeah, absolutely. I think you know looking back it's kind of funny because at the age of, like, you know, 17 when somebody just begins thinking about going to college. They're already bombarded with questions of what they're going to study and what they're going to do for the rest of their lives and speaking for myself, you know when you're in this scenario, I think naturally you just kind of evolve, or you, you kind of head down a path that you think is impressive to speak about. So when I was going through my journey of introspective introspection and learning more about myself I had to question. You know why am I doing what I'm doing right now is it because I truly love it and it and it is my purpose, or is it because you know I like telling my aunt about it when I go to our family reunion, it sounds cool. And through questioning myself in this way, I kind of came to the conclusion that you know this is, it sounds cool it's glamorous it's got a lot of cool you know perks to it, but it's not it's not what I want to do it's, it's more so something that, frankly, I pursued because I thought that it sounded impressive. And it was, it was a cool career right but I think there's a difference between, you know doing something that you think is cool and that is impressive to others and finding what actually fulfills you from within that and drives you daily.

Dan Riordan 6:08

Yeah. Great, great way to look at it and another note I had made in our discussion was you had made a statement that struck me of just living in acting. Full of purpose and it really does get down to that so love that love that view and lens.

Dallen Reber 6:29

So yeah, for sure that's, yeah that's a big, a big piece of my story is I think once you identify your personal vision and you get detailed on it then your action becomes purpose driven right you're not acting because you know you're trying to be busy or that's what you should be doing. Moreover, you're acting because that it's fueled from within right it's there's a purpose behind that there's a lie behind it and now when you have that purpose driven action. You don't only know what needs to be done but you know why it needs to be done because you understand the vision that you're heading towards.

Dan Riordan 7:06

Yeah, perfect. So, you know, as we dive into this company realizations and your self mastery journal. Give us a little bit of flavor about you know what's special and unique about this. And how do we utilize this you know in our everyday living.

Dallen Reber 7:30

Yeah, so I'll give you a little background on the name realization that comes there, it's kind of twofold. One, I think that anybody at any time you know at this moment we are at point A, and our goal is to go to point B, whatever that point b is. And I like to refer that is you know where we have aspirations and our goal is to make those aspirations realizations so realizations one side of it is you know taking you from aspirations to realizations, and the other side is. When reflecting upon myself my journey. I started to realize that, you know, throughout different stages of life, each stage brought a different realization something else that I could learn from it and it goes back to something that my dad taught me he always, he always told me to enjoy the season you're in, and obviously he's not speaking about, you know, summer, fall, winter, spring, but he's referring to the season of life that you're in enjoy it and learn from it so one of the things that I came to realize was that each season is is providing you with a realization and the goal is to be aware of that realization as soon or as in the moment as possible because a lot of times when we're not present we're and we're, when we're not in that moment, we might get the that realization from this specific season, years down the road, and that's great but it could be better, right, if we could have come to that conclusion. Now, and that comes through self awareness right so practices that bring self awareness, such as journaling and being more mindful of your day to day action and things that you can improve upon and your strengths and weaknesses and this allows you to recognize the the season of life that you're in, and the realizations that it's providing you.

Dan Riordan 9:24

Yeah, that's great. I just wrote down that quote of enjoying the season you're in it's something that I kind of recite as a personal mantra is just enjoy every, every moment, and you can't judge whether the moment is good or bad it's there for a reason, and really trying to pour into just being present and enjoying those present moments whatever they are, is such a blessing, but also something that has really been something I've had to really discipline myself to do so. I just, I love that enjoy the season you're in quote and I even take it to one more level which is enjoying every moment you're in.

Dallen Reber 10:11

Absolutely. That's great.

Dan Riordan 10:12

Yeah. The, um, so when you talk about using the journal, give us a little flavor of how this product, you know, how do you use it, how do you have some great, you know, outcomes with it.

Dallen Reber 10:27

Yeah, so as you mentioned, it's the self mastery journal, and you know you can look at self mastery from many different perspectives, but what it boils down to is being able to learn from your past, and apply that to your future while, just like you said while thriving in the moment. So, the journal is broken down into a simple morning routine an evening routine in the morning, you know you have your today's top goals. Today's affirmation, and I'm grateful for so there's, there's areas you know your goals are obviously, to help progress moving forward while gratitude journaling is great for understanding the present moment and, and cultivating that attribute of being more present, and then the evening routine is just broken down into two questions what went well today. And what can I do, what can I do, improve. What can I improve upon moving forward. So this allows you to reflect and become self aware on not only where you're crushing it, but what might need some adjustments tomorrow. So with, you know, it's a very simple design simple layout, because I wanted it to be something that's something that people can do in two to three minutes it's not, you know, it's not something that needs to where you need to dedicate 30 minutes or an hour to. But you still are able to get those benefits where you are understanding your past, and your experiences and you're dissecting them and able to apply that not only to your future but to today to right now because the goal is, you know, it's not to be the best version of yourself 20 years from now, it to be the best version of yourself today.

Dan Riordan 12:13

Yeah, that's great. It's, um, it's an interesting thing where I'm going to relate it to something we talked about in the pre call discussion as well. You had talked about how you're very first at bat at the collegiate level you did a home run. And, you know, the home run to me is it's a cool metaphor for life in the way that it's the ultimate in truth, you did it, there is no ambiguity around. Well, you know, was it really a home run or did you cheat to get the home run or did it go foul or, you know, there's all sorts of things but no it The truth is you. It was a home run. And I find in life that a lot of us struggle with really you know telling the truth and I was crushed personally in baseball by a moment that happened years ago but there was a big World Series game and one of my favorite players was Derek Jeter at the time and, you know, Jeter you know he managed to get on base by by telling a lie, which was that the the pitch had hit him the home plate based on, you know, said, you know, you get first base, but it didn't hit him, and I felt that moment was just such a metaphor for what's wrong in society where it's like no actually Derek you're an amazing hitter tell the truth, get up there and tell him No it didn't hit me I want to hit. And that moment of untruthfulness. I find in a journaling kind of way is really reflecting each day on moments where you might have bent the truth or you didn't tell it like it was our valuable reflection so I look forward to looking at your, your product and using it myself and helping me, you know, kind of stay on track on moments like that where I'm really trying to live in the, in the present and live in the truth.

Dallen Reber 14:09

Yeah, that's awesome. That's a great metaphor awesome story, but you're exactly right. In order to build this self awareness you know you ultimately you have to be completely transparent and truthful with yourself. And that's one of the things that journaling really brings out you know you can't you can't lie to yourself, you can't lie to these to these prompts and these questions that you're asking yourself and, and it really exposes where you need to focus on in order to make those improvements and ultimately be more truthful to yourself and others.

Dan Riordan 14:45

Yeah, really cool. Well, I'm appreciate that quick journey into your product and I'm really excited that you had the compassion and the excitement to bring something like this out to help others. A final question I like to ask everybody is, I have this thing I call it call flower moment, and it's quite simply what it is it's a moment where you questioned a belief that you really thought was true and you found out some deeper truths about it. And the reason why it's termed cauliflower moment is. I myself started down a health journey and I had this really really deep hatred of cauliflower. And it came from my youth my mom cooked it stuck the house up, it was soggy. I had to choke it down every time. And then I come to find out, it's one of the most powerful brain foods and nutrient packed things you could eat and now it's my favorite thing, have mashed potatoes, all the time. In fact two nights ago had it again in all sorts of cauliflower is in my life now and I just laugh I laugh all the time. Like, how did I hate something by never questioning it, and wind up, you know, not having this in my life for 30 years, and now it's the favorite thing I look forward to the most consumed blows me away how we form these beliefs so right. I love to have people share. Talk to me about a moment where you you you stopped and questioned a belief and wound up realizing wow I had that wrong.

Dallen Reber 16:22

That's awesome. I love you know I love this notion of cauliflower moment, um, yeah my cauliflower moment is definitely goes back to, when I was working the job that, you know, didn't completely fulfill me or give me that purpose and, and I've been tinkering around with the idea of creating this journal but hadn't really taken it seriously. Yet, and in this process. You know my wife and I, we had a discussion we had a little girl at the time and we discussed that we were going to wait until she gets a little bit older to try again. And you know, you know that story goes where. Usually after that discussion about two weeks later, everything's reversed. So, two weeks later after that discussion we found out we were expecting our second kid. And this this ultimately just caused me to look at things from a different light right because, looking at it from a perspective as a parent, you know I'm, I have a vision for the life that I'm building for my family and not only that but the the lessons that I want to be able to teach my family and looking forward 20 years from now, you know I want to be able to to teach my kids and tell them, and that you know that they can ultimately accomplish the dreams that they set out to accomplish if they display the courage that it requires and you know if they're able to come, confront challenges that present themselves so when I looked at it from this light, it caused me to look at my own store what story, am I building How am I going to be able to, to tell my kids that 20 years from now, if I wasn't able to display that courage myself. So this was kind of this was a catalyst that propelled me to really take this journey seriously and and ultimately, you know, it wasn't but four or five months later, where I was able to step away from my job and dive into this full time and kind of just bootstrap it from the ground up, but that that's definitely my cauliflower moment where it really it you know it woke me up and it made me. It made me question myself my story and, because ultimately I want my kids to be able to look at me as an example, and be able to say you know see the risks that I took. And, and not knowing all the steps that needed to be done in order to make it happen but making it happen. Anyways, so I think that, you know, that's something that's a constant reminder to me when things are challenging when challenges come up is, how do I confront those, and how is this going to play into my story that can help inspire my kids in the future.

Dan Riordan 19:07

Yeah, that's great, you know, Dallen, it's a, it's something that you should be proud of that you had the fortitude to take it on and really stick with it’s a great learning lesson for all of us. So I really appreciate you being on today and sharing that with everybody. So to wrap up, let everybody know how they can reach out to you, how they can find your, your journal, and what other ways you can interact with people, as they're going down their self mastery journey.

Dallen Reber 19:43

Yeah, so you can just simply search down reverend.com it's www.dallenreber.com. And there I have a link to them, the product on Amazon. I also have a free download. You

Intro to Podcast

Dan Riordan — Thu, 05 Nov 2020 10:13:00 -0700

Welcome to the SwitchedON! Podcast. Weekly we will be explaining signals that can help you get to deeper truths around Life, Love and Liberty.

My hope is by interviewing other truth seekers and identifying what I have learned along the the way, it will help you bring forth the unlimited possibilities with you. We are of limitless power and I want to help you on your journey.

Each week I will interview a guest to discuss what they have discovered in truth seeking and I will a highlight a topic I call a Cauliflower Moment, A moment where I stopped to question a topic deeper and discovered new truths.