Speaking of Partnership: Personal Stories of the Power and Payoffs of Partnership

Listen to Reba’s full interview here

Reba Riley

Not Following – This is when Reba decided to go into business with her best friend. Her “yes” was that she needed to tell her friend the truth, but she didn’t do that. Because of this, they ended up losing their friendship for a year.

Find out more by listening to the episode.

Following – With Reba’s book, “Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome”, she was originally with another publisher. She ended up getting an opportunity to meet with another agent. Meeting with this agent was going to take travel and time, but she had a strong sense that she needed to do this. She ended up meeting with the agent and it ended up being one of the best decisions she’s ever made.

Find out what happened next by listening to the interview.

Connect with Reba –

Reba Riley – Are you proud of the partnership that you’re in?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Reba Riley is the author of the Simon & Schuster bestselling memoir “Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome: one woman’s desperate, funny, and healing journey through 30 religions before her 30th birthday”

She has overcome chronic illness, depression, and spiritual injury & now travels nationally speaking on the topics of healing, courage, and radical kindness.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Brave is a verb. Kindness cures. Love is bigger than everything.

When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

One of Reba’s biggest “trip ups” came with her best friend. They had decided that they were going to start a business together and it didn’t go well. This was about ten years ago and they had a great idea.

What they discovered in the process is that they’re fantastic friends but horrible in working together. What tripped her up was that she felt like she couldn’t be honest at times with her friend.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

One of Reba’s proudest moments in partnership came with her editor for her book, ‘Post Traumatic Church Syndrome’. What her editor did was take her raw talent and experience, and taught her how to craft it into a story. In a period of over 18 months, her editor did everything in her power to help her along the way.

Nearing the end, Reba asked her for her honest opinion on what she thought of the book and everything, and she replied with “I’m so happy and proud to have my name involved with this book.”

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Love is bigger than everything.

And a funny marriage one – Separate bank accounts, separate bathrooms.

A Book or Resource That You Recommend

Post Traumatic Church Syndrome – Reba Riley

The 5 Love Languages – Dr. Gary Chapman

Interview Links –

Pablo Rosario – Your partner is not a mind reader

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 07 Aug 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Pablo Rosario is a men’s relationship coach and speaker with over 6 years of experience helping executives, business owners, and CEO’s find more fulfilling relationships. With a background in psychology, and neuro-linguistic programming, he specializes in the topics of relationships, communication, overcoming inner conflict, passion and confidence, and has helped hundreds of men find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships and life.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

It’s you and me versus everyone else. I envision my partner and I being a team.

When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

Pablo reminders a time when he was younger, around 22 years old, and he was in a relationship. He was in the process of trying out something new where he would speak his mind, would be more honest, and wouldn’t hold back. He told the woman he was dating that he thought she was wearing too much makeup. This didn’t go so well.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

What is the Biggest Thing That Men “Trip Up” on with Women?

Pablo explains that the biggest thing men “trip up” on with women is vulnerability. Pablo struggled with this in the past as well. For a lot of men, it makes them really uncomfortable. Men have this idea that they’re not allowed to show it.

Find out more about this topic by listening to the show.

The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Your partner is not a mind reader.

A Book or Resource That You Recommend

Getting the Love You Want – Harville Hendrix

The Truth – Neil Strauss

Interview Links –

Listen to Greg and Antonia’s full interview here

His email

Follow Your “Yes” – Try to quiet the noise

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 31 Jul 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your “Yes?”

Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Greg Lee & Antonia Van Becker

Not Following – From a young age Greg was able to help people relieve themselves from pain; he always knew what to do. So, he studied massage therapy and he also had a huge passion for music. He felt like he was really having trouble making money with it.

Throughout the next 9 years, Greg tried different positions but was never truly in love with any of the positions, and he knew that.

It started to take a toll on him, getting aches and pains, and then ended up getting quite sick. Around the same time he was fired from his position.

Although all of it was a shock, it was a wake up call for him to follow his passions. From there, things started to fall into place.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Following – Back at the end of Antonia’s corporate job in the 90’s, she had a vision in a healing session she had with a healing mentor. She could not get the vision out of her mind so Antonia started writing.

She kept writing and writing, and she pinned pointed the vision was taking place in Ireland. So, she decided to go to Ireland. She wanted to figure out where this book was set.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Connect with them –

Their Website

3 Powerful Ways To Tap Into Your Body’s Wisdom

FB Group – Vibrant Healing Wisdom

Niajae Wallace

Not Following – One of the biggest things Niajae would recommend is really checking in with yourself. What do you want? What are your desires? And hold onto your identity.

Try to quiet the noise. With social media we’re constantly comparing ourselves. We’re constantly looking for someone else to answer your own questions.

Niajae started meditating to balance out her life. Before she started doing this she felt like her life was chaotic.

Find out more by listening to the episode.

Following – Niajae relates back to when she decided to sell her brick and mortar business. She wasn’t able to do all of the things she truly desired with this business so she followed that intuition to sell it.

When this happened she was able to follow her desires.

Listen to Niajae’s full interview here

Connect with Niajae –

Niajae Wallace – You can’t pour from an empty cup

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 24 Jul 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Niajae is a coach and motivational speaker that believes you can have it all. She coaches entrepreneurs to help them step into their power and inspires through her mindset and self-development podcast named Abundance Hack.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

You can’t pour from an empty cup. You have to take care of you first.

When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

Niajae has been single for a good part of her adult life. Niajae does a lot of research and realized that she was neglecting unconditional love and acceptance because of her upbringing. Her biggest “trip up” is getting into relationships before she has dealt with her own personal traumas, many of them relating to her childhood.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

During the time when Niajae was selling her business, there was a moment nearing the end where she started to cry. At that same moment, her teammates were also crying and they had this huge group hug together that was very touching. Although they were all crying, it was a very proud moment knowing that they’ve made a very positive impact.

The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Knowing your partner’s love language and being able it speak it fluently.

A Book or Resource That You Recommend

Attached – Amir Levine

Interview Links –

3 Powerful Ways To Tap Into Your Body’s Wisdom

Greg Lee and Antonia Van Becker – Go to bed loving each other

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 06:01:00 -0500

Antonia Van Becker and Greg Lee are the founders of Self Health Institute, Inc. and their mission is to empower clients by giving them the tools to heal the energetic blocks that are holding them back. They love helping clients get past overwhelm, self-doubt, and chronic health issues so they can be a powerful presence and have the success they’ve dreamed of.

Together since 1979, their 40-year relationship imbues their healing practice with self-love, body/mind consciousness, and emotional/energetic balance and awareness.

They live their dreams in the wilds of West Marin, California.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Greg – “I don’t have to do it all. It doesn’t all have to be perfect. And I think other people know how to do stuff too.” When he’s off in the weeds is when he’s looking at what other people are doing and not what he’s doing.

When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

Antonia & Greg have been together for 40 years, so in that time they’ve had many trip ups in their partnership. One of those more difficult moments came when their kids were teenagers. When you’re together you have so many partnerships. One of those major partnerships is how to parent together.

Greg and Antonia described themselves as “night and day” when it comes to how they think. With that, they both had very different parenting styles. This was a huge challenge for them at points.

Find out more by listening to the show.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

One of their proudest moments came with their daughter. You know your kids pretty well but not everything. This was a time of total compassion and their daughter in a time of finding herself.

Near the end of high school she went to them and expressed that she thought she was gay. They told her that they had an idea that it may have been the case. Their daughter jokingly said “why didn’t you tell me?”.

It was such a proud moment of acceptance, trust, and love.

The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Greg – “Don’t go to bed with a sour taste of yourself or your partner.”

Antonia – “Be here now.”

Interview Links –

Their Website

FB Group – Vibrant Healing Wisdom

Follow Your “Yes” – Are you justifying your relationship?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 10 Jul 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your “Yes?”

Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Anna Kowalska

Not Following – On a second date with a gentleman, Anna’s “Yes” showed up as a very strong NO. Instead of following this guidance she made every excuse to justify the relationship with this person and completely ignored the NO she felt in her body.

The relationship went on for a year and it spun her into a direction that was very self-sabotaging. Eventually he broke up with her in a very unpleasant way.

Not following her “Yes” cost her a year of her life, an unpleasant break up and not taking a different path that was more of a “Yes” for her.

Following – A couple of years ago Anna got very strong guidance to move to Colorado. At the time she lived in New York and had only been to Colorado a couple of times, but this guidance was undeniable.

Within six weeks she resolved her live in New York, packed her clothes and her dog in her car and moved to Colorado to an apartment she rented site unseen to start a new life.

Not once has she questioned her decision to follow her “Yes.”

Listen to Anna’s full interview here

Connect with Anna –

Anna’s website

Listen to Marie-Elizabeth’s full interview here

Marie-Elizabeth Mali

Not Following – Marie-Elizabeth’s example of when she didn’t follow her “yes” was in her marriage. Her body was starting to get sick. Numerous problems started popping up so she started working out in every which way. But, it was a way to avoid feeling.

All the drivenness was to ignore what was happening. Her body was trying to give her signs.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Following – In 2015, Marie-Elizabeth went to a meditation retreat. In the retreat they were being asked what they wanted. She was starting to get guidance on where she wanted to be. The silence and being still was so clear that she couldn’t ignore it.

Within 6 weeks she had sold her place and made the move. She moved to LA, where she wanted to be, and with a community she wanted to be part of.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the episode.

Connect with Marie-Elizabeth –

Free gift – 4 Key Things To Do in a Midlife Crisis

Marie-Elizabeth Mali – Is what I’m doing serving the union?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 03 Jul 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Marie-Elizabeth Mali is a Midlife Transformation Specialist who shows people how to let the love and pleasure they cultivate in their relationships, expand their professional success. She is also a published poet and an underwater photographer who has a thing for sharks.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Is what I’m doing serving the union?

When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

Last Friday, she was in Los Angeles with her partner and it was their last day there. They had made plans to meet up at the Air BnB at 4pm. They went their separate ways and she was there at 4pm. 4:30 came around and she was still waiting so she sent him a text.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Stay open and curious. Your partner is not you.

Interview Links –

Free gift – 4 Key Things To Do in a Midlife Crisis

Anna Kowalska – Your hands are the window to how your heart is wired

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 26 Jun 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Anna Kowalska is an Artist and Scientific Hand Analyst.

She has transformed her life to create freedom for what she truly desires and works with her clients to help them do the same.

Anna uses Scientific Hand Analysis to identify an individual’s Soul Agreement/Purpose and unique and personal road map to living it. She creates individual and group experiences that combine intuition, creative expression and powerful guidance to facilitate creative and spiritual opening. She is the Creator of the “Dance & Paint”, “Heal Your Heart” and “Free Your Wings” experiences.

How did you get started doing this work?

Five years ago Anna was looking for an expression of her and her work in the world that would fully satisfy her. Something that she would never doubt again, because at the time she was doubting everything.

What she learned from the scientific hand analysis she received has set her free to follow her purpose without doubting it.

Scientific Hand Analysis vs. Palm Reading

Scientific Hand Analysis shows you how your brain is wired. The lines in your hands are correlated to the neural pathways in your brain.

Go here to watch the reading:

What does your Heart Line show you?

The Heart Line reflects how you express love and how you receive love. Plus any heart lessons you are experiencing.

My dominant hand reflects how I am in the outer world and my other hand reflects how I am in my inner world and my inner circle or closest loved ones.

The main lines that are in your hand are:

Heart line – how you express and how you love.

Head line – your style of thinking and how you process information.

Life line – your energy level. Your lifestyle.

Fate line – your career path and follow through.

Also your fingerprints indicate your purpose, your lesson and your life school. This is your North Star in your life.

Interview Links –

Anna’s website

Listen to Emilia’s full interview here

Note: Click HERE now to check out Anna’s Sacred Success Salon event where 20 experts give you the inside scoop on how to own your true power, live your unique purpose and claim your prosperity.

Follow Your “Yes” – What’s your path of peace?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 19 Jun 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your “Yes?”

Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Emilia Nagy

Not Following – It isn’t the big things that Emilia has had hard times following, but rather the small things in her daily life. In the moment it doesn’t always have the biggest impact, but overtime it really does.

Some of those “micro yeses” are taking a walk when her body is telling her to or going outside and being in the sun. She often says “no” when she really should be saying “yes”.

Following – There was a time when Emilia signed up to host an exchange student. They ended up receiving a request from a girl who lived in Italy. There was a lot going on at the time when they received this request. Her initial thought was that she wasn’t good enough to host this beautiful girl and her family.

In her heart she wanted to say “yes” but she had all these things going on. Find out what happened next by listening to the interview.

Connect with Emilia –

Sacred Love Activation Meditation

Listen to Michelle’s full interview here

Michelle Marchant Johnson

Not Following – Michelle had been through a painful ending to an off and on relationship she had had for 10 years.

She met a “bad boy” at a party and wanted to numb the pain she was in from the breakup, so even though she knew getting involved with this guy was not a good idea, she did it.

Ultimately, she had to get over the original painful breakup with the “bad boy” break up added on top of it.

These things happen because we are operating from the 3 F’s – fear, fantasy or falsehood.

Following – Michelle was not happy with her corporate job but they were giving her raise and increasing her benefits and she had another option that didn’t pay as much and would be less stressful.

Then she listened to her Yes and chose the path of peace. And it absolutely ended up being the right decision for her at that time.

Connect with Michelle –

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Michelle’s Facebook Page

Michelle Marchant Johnson – The support you receive when you ask

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 01:00:00 -0500

Michelle Marchant Johnson is a relationship coach, speaker and author.

In her business, LoveLifeCoaching.com she specializes in helping women learn how to express their feminine joy, energy and presence and how to invite interaction, attraction, and commitment from a man.

Her articles have been featured on many internet sites and she was recognized by DatingAdvice.com as one of the Top Ten Midlife Relationship Experts.

She is currently writing a book entitled “Meet Him and Keep Him.” She is the host of the Ready for the Right Guy Global Telesummit and co-creator of a proprietary system for single women called How to Meet a Great Guy.

Michelle is also an advanced stage breast cancer survivor who believes life is precious and is meant to be lived with purpose, love, and joy.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

When You Tripped Up

When Michelle became a first-time bride at 43 she realized both she and her husband had been living very individual lives for a long time.

Her trip up was when she let her expectations go unspoken and then got upset at him because he did not pick up on what her expectations were and address them.

“I created my own personal drama.”

What she learned is that her husband is actually very willing to help her in almost every case if she expresses her wants or needs to him in a way that he can respond.

(These are some great stories I am sure you will relate to no matter if you are a man or a woman.)

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Michelle had a “DUH” moment one Christmas day when she went out to shovel snow from the driveway because her husband had not done it yet, even though he said he would.

Her ah-ha was that it is not only what she does in her partnership, but also the intention behind it. And considering how that intention might come across to her partner.

She learned that it is very important be honest with herself about her intentions and to communicate them to her partner.

Proudest moment in partnership

Michelle was diagnosed with Breast Cancer 4 years ago. And she felt like she was loosing all of her femininity.

While she was always a very strong and independent woman, she was in a place where she needed support.

She learned how to be in touch with her needs and desires and how to express and ask for what she wanted in a more powerful way.

Being receptive to this support allowed her develop and deepen friendships like never before.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Seek first to understand and then to be understood.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Art and Practice of Loving: Living a Heartfelt Yes

Payoff of Partnership -

Michelle knew she wanted to start her coaching business and when she got up the courage to tell her husband that she wanted to leave her corporate job he surprised her.

Her husband not only was supportive, but he actually became her most ardent supporter, fan and even a partner.

She wouldn’t have had the courage to make the leap from corporate America without her partnership with her husband.

Interview Links -

Michelle\'s Facebook Page

Note: Click HERE now to check out Michelle’s Man Panel event where over 20 men give you the inside scoop on how men think, what they are looking for in a partner and what has them commit.

Emilia Nagy – Vulnerability is not weak, it is courageous

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 05 Jun 2019 00:00:00 -0500

Emilia Nagy is on a mission: to lead fierce visionaries into unapologetic conscious love, divine service, and global impact (by partnering powerfully with an amazing man - and all men)! Emilia stands for the spiritual, political, social and economic power of all women, supported fully by the men who love them. She is also the founder of Worthy of Love and the Sacred Partnership Love Movement. Emilia is certified by Alison Armstrong and has been a featured speaker in numerous podcasts and summits. She lives in San Diego with her husband, soulmate and twin flame, Emil, their 5 yr old daughter Alessandra and their Rottweiler Bernie. Your Guidance Principle, Quote, Or Mantra in Partnership Real, honest love is so natural and organic. A Time When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership Her trip up happened over a series of relationships, not just one. In her 20’s and early 30’s Emilia just kept dating the same kind of people. It was either men who were emotionally unavailable or feminine men. But, really what it was was Emilia pointing the finger. She never wanted to be vulnerable because she thought that it meant that she would only get hurt. Find out what happened next by listening to the episode. Your Proudest Moment in Partnership Emilia’s proudest moment came with her husband. One day they went for a bike ride, then went to eat and then made their way home for the night. While in the car she realized that she was starting to sabotage the relationship because it was going so well. Find out where this moment changed from bad to great by listening to the podcast. Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Partnerships take vulnerability. You can’t have one without it. Best Partnership Resource Making Sense of Men - Alison Armstrong Interview Links - Sacred Love Activation Meditation Her Website If you\'re someone who is struggling to find happiness in your relationships and feel like you\'re repeating the same mistakes each and every time, then check out THE FOUR STEP GAME PLAN MY CLIENTS USE TO FINALLY HAVE A LASTING RELATIONSHIP WITH A SUPPORTIVE, AFFECTIONATE AND LOYAL PARTNER... Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Follow Your “Yes” – I’m definitely going for it

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 29 May 2019 04:09:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Todd Creager

Not Following - One that comes to mind for Todd is when he was married for about 8-10 years at the time. He was a practicing therapist and was asked by a group of therapists to go consult with them on some couples cases. There was a practice called EMDR that Todd was interested in because he saw this group using it. He ended up pushing it off and almost 15 years after finally used it, and it was wonderful.

Find out why Todd waited so long and didn’t initially follow his “yes” by listening to his interview.

Following - Todd and his wife had a child and then she wanted a second, but Todd wasn’t sure if he wanted a second. Him and his wife talked about it a bit and he then waited for a while and thought about it. What gave him that “yes” is when he thought about his current child by herself without a second, and he felt a dip in energy. Then, he thought about what it would be like with two children, and he felt an increase in energy.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Todd’s interview here

Connect with Todd -

His Website for articles, books, and resources.

Listen to Mark\'s interview here

Mark Rosenfeld

Not Following - Mark remembers one of the first times he was working through his social anxiety, he met this woman and it was probably the first proper date he had been on. They ended up getting along really, really great. It was his first time and he ended up getting very insecure. He started trying to look up how to keep her interested and what to do next, and one of the things said to be distant.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Following - With Mark’s past partner, they were starting to have some difficulties. She was wanting different things and wanted to go in different directions. He was starting to get the feeling that maybe they weren’t right as a couple. They ended up doing this compatibility exercise and a lot of their ideas weren’t matching up.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Mark -

Mark’s Youtube Channel

Mark’s Email

The video Mark mentions in the interview

Mark Rosenfeld – Is this person adding value to my life?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 22 May 2019 05:00:00 -0500

After struggling with severe social anxiety throughout high-school and early years of college, Mark, after several failed attempts, turned things around in 2009 and was soon teaching confidence in life and dating to other shy men.

He began work on Make Him Yours in 2014, sharing his expertise to help women stop the frustrating patterns in their dating lives and start attracting the men they deserve.

Since then, Mark has risen to become Australia’s most popular dating and relationship coach, with over 25 million video views and more than 10 years of Mark’s content now consumed by viewers every month.

Mark has run events around the world and been featured on JJJ, ABC, News.com.au, Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily and The Good Men Project. And as an interesting bit - he is also a former male stripper and veterinarian.

Your Guidance Principle, Quote, Or Mantra in Partnership

Is this person adding value to my life?

And balanced with that is…

Is this problem something I can live with?

A Time When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

There was one partnership that was very short but it taught Mark a lot. It met a woman a long ways away from where he and she are from. They had incredible chemistry at first sight. Passion was racing at 100m/h. They would go back and forth to see each other but what he realized is that they were simply meeting to get high off each other. It was actually the first time in about two years that anxiousness reappeared in Mark’s life.

Find out what happened next by listening to the episode.

Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Find the win-win.

Interview Links -

Mark’s Youtube Channel

Mark’s Email

The video Mark mentions in the interview

The Long, Hot Marriage - Todd Creager

If you\'re someone who is struggling to find happiness in your relationships and feel like you\'re repeating the same mistakes each and every time, then check out THE FOUR STEP GAME PLAN MY CLIENTS USE TO FINALLY HAVE A LASTING RELATIONSHIP WITH A SUPPORTIVE, AFFECTIONATE AND LOYAL PARTNER...

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Todd Creager – Choose to yield but don’t give in

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 15 May 2019 05:00:00 -0500

Todd Creager is a marriage and sex therapist who helps couples create loving and passionate long-term relationships.

He is the author of “The Long, Hot Marriage.,” and “Love, Sex and Karaoke, 52 Ways to Ignite Your Love Life” which is an Amazon Bestselling book for couples. He has an e-book titled “The Little Black Book of Infidelity.” and an entire self-improvement program to help heal from infidelity.

His most recent online program is “Divorce-Proof Your Marriage.” He has a private practice in Huntington Beach, CA and has been helping couples and individuals for 34 years.

Todd has been a guest as on many radio and TV shows and is a professor at USC. Last but not least, he has been married for 34 years to his wife Sherry and has 2 lovely daughters ages 26 and 23.

Your Guidance Principle, Quote, Or Mantra in Partnership

We are all powerful centres of interpersonal influence.

A Time When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership

Todd works a lot with infidelity and people betraying other people. Todd’s happy to say that he has never cheated on his wife but he does remember a time when he was beginning his business he had zero balance on a couple of his credit cards. He was trying to avoid conflict by not telling her.

Find out what happened next by listening to the episode.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

Todd is a therapist and is married, and his wife would tell him how bad of a listener he is. He is in fact a great listener with his clients but she was right about their relationship. Anytime she would have any feedback for him, he would get very defensive about it.

Listen to the podcast to hear a specific story in his marriage where this was happening and how it changed and became one of his proudest moments.

Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Choose to yield but don’t give in.

That Book or Resource You Recommend to Our Listeners

Getting the Love You Want - Harville Hendrix

Interview Links -

His Website for articles, books, and resources.

Listen to Diana’s interview here

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Follow Your “Yes” – Are you just going through the motions?

Ken Bechtel — Thu, 09 May 2019 15:07:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dr. Diana Kirschner

Not Following - She was at a yoga retreat and people were always asking her for guidance with love. She knew it was her calling so she followed that. Later on she kept getting the feeling that she needed to write a book. That book would be pushed off because she thought she didn’t know how to write it. By pushing that off she developed a low line of depression.

Find out what happened next by listening to Diana’s interview.

Following - Some years after she had that vision to write a book, she finally decided that she would take action and follow that guidance. She started practicing and taking classes on writing to help her towards that vision.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Diana -

Facebook - Dating to True Love Mentor

Carin Rockind

Not Following - One that comes to mind is a time in her current marriage. When her and her husband first met, she had just graduated and was on her way to live in New York. She had no interest in staying in Philadelphia, followed that guidance and moved. They did the long distance relationship for a while but knew that something had to happen to be together.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Following - The clearest “yes” Carin has ever had was following her purpose. She started reading a lot about positive psychology. She was terrified to leave the corporate world with benefits, but she knew if she didn’t that she wouldn’t be happy.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Carin\'s interview here and the 2nd Episode here

Connect with Carin -

Carin Rockind – Be you and only you

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 03 May 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Note: This is a two part special featuring Carin Rockind. This is part 2/2. The first episode aired Wednesday, May 1st, 2019.

Carin Rockind is a leading expert on life purpose, women\'s thriving and positive psychology, the science of human flourishing.

She is the creator of PurposeGirl; a movement to empower purpose driven living and the founder of Women’s Global Happiness Day, the first-ever worldwide initiative to eradicate the women’s depression epidemic, which had 98 events in 19 countries on 6 continents in its inaugural year of 2018.

Having overcome armed robbery, domestic abuse and divorce, Carin has a way of connecting with others and showing them how to be the creator of their own lives, overcome challenges, grow from trauma and turn pain into purpose. As the former \"Happiness Guru\" on SiriusXM\'s morning show for women, and a keynote speaker for conferences and companies, she has helped thousands of people live to their fullest potential.

She is currently on faculty at The Flourishing Center in New York and she is the host of the globally ranked self-help show, The PurposeGirl Podcast.

Carin is a runner, writer, and dancer who lives outside of Philadelphia with her husband, Josh and their labradoodle, Charlie.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

When Carin first started doing this work, she was doing it all on her own. She was terrified to trust anyone else and thought everything would be easier doing it on her own. She thinks it may have stemmed from an early relationship when she was 17 where she was physically abused. So, when it came to her business she wasn’t wanting to collaborate with others.

Find out where things turned for the better by listening to the episode.

Best Partnership advice You’ve Ever Received

Be you.

What Book or Resource Would You Recommend?

Positive Psychology - It’s the science of what makes life worth living

Authentic-happiness.com - VIA survey

Interview Links -

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Carin Rockind – Every moment of our life is for purpose

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 01 May 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Note: This is a two part special featuring Carin Rockind. This is part 1/2. Part two of the interview will air as a bonus episode on Friday, May 3rd, 2019.

Carin Rockind is a leading expert on life purpose, women\'s thriving and positive psychology, the science of human flourishing.

She is currently on faculty at The Flourishing Center in New York and she is the host of the globally ranked self-help show, The PurposeGirl Podcast.

Carin is a runner, writer, and dancer who lives outside of Philadelphia with her husband, Josh and their labradoodle, Charlie.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

“If there was a gun put to your head, what would you regret not having done?”

And

“Every moment of our life is for purpose.”

A Time When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Carin mentioned that she was married at a young age. Carin’s parents have been happily together since they were 14 years old. They’ve now been married for 54 years and are so happy. Her grandparents were the same thing; they were happily married for their whole lives, were holocaust survivors, and past away within a couple of weeks of each other. Because of this, Carin had this beautiful image of what two people looked like when they loved each other and were happily married.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Interview Links -

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Dr. Diana Kirschner – Why do we subconsciously shoot ourselves in the foot?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 24 Apr 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner appeared regularly on the Today Show and starred in a PBS Special on finding love, based on her international bestseller, Love in 90 Days. It is the book that Hoda Kotb of The Today Show (who is now in a great relationship) used and praised as a great dating guide.

Love in 90 Days has helped tens of thousands around the world to create high-value self-confidence and lasting soulmate love. Now to celebrate its 10th year Anniversary, Love in 90 Days is out in an expanded edition and it comes with $1000 in bonus gifts.

Who has it harder? Singles who have never been married OR People who have been divorced and out looking for a partner again.

In either case it depends a lot on what has happened. There are many different kinds of wounds and betrayals. Diana says that it’s really hard to tell which situation is tougher. She admires anyone who is able to pick themselves up and move forward.

What is the biggest myth that is holding women and men back from finding success in love?

If it’s meant to happen it will just happen.

What’s one of the biggest changes you’ve noticed in the past 10 years in the dating world?

The biggest change by far has been the use of dating apps. It’s become a fast lane, ghosting, bread crumb type environment. 49% of people who show interest in you on a dating app will disappear on you. It has become very easy to get bummed out and bitter about the whole thing. The upside of apps are that your chances have never been better to find a great partner.

To learn more about this, listen to the episode.

Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

Have the greatest relationship with yourself that you can.

Interview Links -

Facebook - Dating to True Love Mentor

I know you want the kind of love that lights a fire in your heart and touches your soul, the kind that makes you reach for the stars. The kind where you feel at home and taken care of by a soulmate you can trust completely. How do you find that kind of love? There is a special new book that can make it happen for you. Hoda Kotb of The Today Show and Dr. Christiane Northrup used it to find their Beloveds. It has helped 10s of thousands of women find high-value self-confidence and lasting passionate soulmate love. The book is Love in 90 Days by Dr. Diana Kirschner, just out in an expanded 10th Anniversary edition. It is a must-have. And amazingly enough, it comes with $1000 in Bonus gifts from 35 leading beauty and love experts. You can get Love in 90 Days with all the gifts here: https://lovein90days.com/book-bonus-sign-in

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Follow Your “Yes” – Don’t die with your song left unsung

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 17 Apr 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dan Millman

Not Following - Dan actually wrote about this a bit in his second book about not following that guidance. Dan was married at a young age; he was 21 and she was 19. When he got married he felt a depression that night. He felt he had made an error in getting married at that point in his life.

Find out what happened next by listening to Dan’s interview.

Following - When Dan was about 10 years old his parents took him to see Peter Pan. Dan wanted to so badly fly but he wasn’t in tune to know that you can’t just flap your arms and fly. Then he discovered the trampoline when he was 11 and that for him was the closest thing to flying. Turns out that jumping on a trampoline led him to a lot of the successes in his life in gymnastics.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Dan’s interview here

Connect with Dan -

Listen to Duana\'s interview here

Dr. Duana Welch

Not Following - There’s a line that comes to mind for Duana when she thinks of this, and that’s “Don’t die with your song left unsung.” People regret what they haven’t tried at all. She felt the need to share relationship science with everyone 25 years ago, but she only started 10 years ago.

Find out what kept her from sharing her knowledge for so long by listening to the episode.

Following - This was when Duana realized that her current husband wa the man for her. When she first met him in person she knew he was the man she would want to be with. She didn’t immediately go with that because she was hurt in the past. She faced her fears and they ended up being married 4 months later.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Duana -

Facebook and Facebook - Love Factually

Twitter

All things Love Factually, including free content

My Blog + Coaching

Dr. Duana Welch – My life’s my own experiment

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 10 Apr 2019 06:00:00 -0500

Dr. Duana Welch is the original Love Factually author and coach, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues.

She has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas across 20 years, and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts and videos.

Her first book, Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, is now out globally in five languages. The second book in the series Love Factually for Single Parents [& Those Dating Them] is specifically geared for finding the right partner not only for readers, but their families.

Her book series Love Factually Singles (February, 2019) provides science-based dating advice in single-topic titles that fit readers\' desire to save time and money and to read content specific to their needs. All her books rely on science rather than opinion to help men and women find and keep the right partner.

Thanks to science and Vic Hariton, she is happily married.

Do single parents really have it harder dating and finding a partner?

It is truly harder. And it was especially hard for Duana because she has a PHD and a child with special needs. Both of those aspects have a role in making the situation even more difficult. Duana is a strong believer that if she can do it, other people can do it. Most importantly, she wants a message of hope out there. It can be done.

What is the biggest myth that is holding single parents back from finding success in love?

Women and men are exactly the same. It’s believing that the opposite sex has the same mating call as you do.

Best Relationship Advice for Single Parents

If you can find and be someone kind and respectful, your love life will go well.

Best Partnership Resource

Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do - Duana Welch

Love Factually for Single Parents [& Those Dating Them] - Duana Welch

Interview Links -

Facebook and Facebook - Love Factually

Twitter

All things Love Factually, including free content

My Blog + Coaching

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Dan Millman – Human life is a story of partnership

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 03 Apr 2019 16:00:00 -0500

Dan Millman is a former world champion athlete, Stanford University coach, martial arts instructor and Oberlin College professor. He has authored 16 books that have been published in 29 languages, including his classic, Way of the Peaceful Warrior (released as a film with Nick Nolte by Universal in 2007). Dan speaks worldwide, and has influenced people from all walks of life.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

He who has a partner has a master.

When You “Tripped up” in Partnership

Dan mentions the relationship he had when writing a book with someone. There were many glitches along the way. Who’s doing the most work? Who’s bringing the most to the table? It was challenging. It turns out that when was completed, it ended up being a better book than either of them have ever imagined. On the other hand, when it came to teaching, they had two completely different ways of doing it.

Find out what happened next by listening to the interview.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

Dan explains how important partnerships are in the present. He talks about his partnership with Ken and doing the interview. He’s in partnership with our audience through the show. The only moment that exists, the only moment of reality, is right now.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve Ever Received

His dad once said, “You know what I love about tennis? Every shot makes someone happy.”

Best Partnership Resource

Way of the Peaceful Warrior - Dan Millman

Interview Links -

Listen to Stefanos’ interview here

Without having to constantly sacrifice who they are to keep things going!

Follow Your “Yes” – Saying “yes” to no

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 27 Mar 2019 08:03:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Stefanos Sifandos

Not Following - Many of the times that Stef wasn’t being truthful to himself or his partner, he just kept pushing it away, and it was really compromising his well-being and integrity. He felt his guilt and shame overlapping. His coping for that was to be aggressive and be defensive.

Find out what happened next by listening to Stef’s interview.

Following - Stef loves using the example of Christine because it’s so relevant in his life. He’s so connected with her they continue to evolve together. It became so clear that there is something special with them. They didn’t originally have that physical connection because they were living on opposite ends of the world, but rather connected through mind and spirit.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Stefanos -

Listen to Nate\'s interview here

Nate Bagley

Not Following - One of Nate’s biggest struggles is saying yes to “no”. One of the moments that stand out most for Nate is when he ran a company with one of his best friends. It was all amazing coming out of the gate but they didn’t plan for what was to come with logistics. They started to really burn themselves out. Tension was built up between them because of the difficulties in trying to run the business.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - This is a perfect contrast with his last story because this is a time where he did say no and left a business. About a year ago Nate was miserable at his job. Before this, around the time he got married, he said he would be a husband first before anything. He ended up working a 9-5 job so he could have a consistent salary and benefits. His wife noticed that the joy and life in Nate’s eyes were dying because of this job though.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Nate -

The Legendary Love Challenge

His appearance of TEDx

Nate Bagley – Be an action taker, not an insight chaser

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0500

Nate is a relationship researcher, creator of The Loveumentary Podcast, and the Legendary Love Challenge. His mission in life is to rid the world of mediocre love.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

We do hard things.

It’s the little things done often that make the difference.

When You “Tripped up” in Partnership

Nate shared a story that was quite recent. Being a relationship expert, he gets messages from women all the time asking different questions. This particular woman was asking for some advice and she said that her husband was being resentful of Nate and saying that he’ll never be Nate Bagley.

Find out what happened next by listening to the episode.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

Nate did an interview with a couple a while back and they’ve become great friends. Nate wanted to find out what made their relationship so great. Before the interview they insisted on having Nate over for dinner. As they prepared the meal and got everything ready, Nate observed and wondered about the way they interacted. He felt they were a little over the top.

Find out what was going on by listening to the episode.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

It’s always the little things for Nate, like when he’s feeling resentful and stressed, but turns things around and expresses gratitude instead. His mood shifts and then does something nice, like writing a love note to his wife on the bathroom mirror. It makes a difference to her and how he feels towards her.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve Ever Received

Be an action taker, not an insight chaser.

Best Partnership Resource

Passionate Marriage - David Schnarch

The New Rules of Marriage - Terrence Real

Interview Links -

The Legendary Love Challenge

His appearance of TEDx

Stefanos Sifandos – Be willing to support and learn from each other’s truth

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 13 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0500

Stef facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, an integration of spiritual praxis and western psychology to improve, evolve and enhance the quality of your relationships.

Immersed in deep men’s empowerment work and intimate relationships, Stef merges the best of eastern and western methodologies and philosophies to promote balance, clarity and joy in life.

For the last 15 years Stef has been at the forefront of innovating the global Health & Wellness Industry, while being a sought-after innovator in the personal transformation, relationship & leadership space.

Stef’s extensive knowledge has seen him become a well-respected mentor & trainer to some of Australia’s top professional sporting teams, professional individual athletes & professional world champion fighters, Olympians, gold medalists & elite special forces soldiers.

“His mission is to be a VOICE FOR THE VOICELESS; to assist individuals in actualizing the fullness of their potentiality; to relate consciously to each other with authentic love; be a conscious steward of Earth and continue to evolve and expand the entirety of his being – this is his humble gift to humanity and to his own soul”.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Being willing to support and learn from each other’s truth.

If people are willing but don’t know how to bridge the gap, what do they do?

It begins with understanding how to create safety. If the compassion isn’t there and we’re constantly judging ourselves then you’ll be in a constant state of tension. Once you’re able to love yourself first then you can build with another person.

Find out what else Stefanos had to say around this topic by listening to the show.

That “Trip up” in Partnership

In a past relationship, many years ago, Stef was unfaithful in that relationship. It was well beyond sex addiction, but more so about avoidance of self. He was not in a very good state of mind. This all unravelled overtime.

Find out what happened next and where things turned around for him by listening to the episode.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

Stefanos’ proudest moment in partnership was seeing Christine for the first time. It brings back a lot of emotions for him by just thinking about it. He’s gone through some extreme pain and has done so much work on himself, and knows it paid off by finding Christine.

Stef explains the deep emotions he felt spending those first moments with her. Find out what he said by listening to the show.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve Ever Received

Choose to express yourself from a place of empathy, love, compassion, and understanding.

Best Partnership Resource

Keeping The Love You Find - Dr. Harville Hendrix

Interview Links -

Listen to Tiffany’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Feeling so alive

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 06 Mar 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Tiffany Toombs

Not Following - Tiffany was living in Australia at the time, and between her businesses she had around 3-4 business partners. During that time she was coaching on the side as more of a hobby. Whenever possible she would incorporate her coaching into the businesses that she was running. When she was incorporating it, she felt so alive doing it.

Find out what happened next by listening to Tiffany’s interview.

Following - Tiffany moved back to Calgary and she had a lot of people asking about what she was going to do with her mindset work. She knew that Calgary was just starting to come out of a recession but she had to follow her passion. Each time she would try to look at positions through job search websites, she would get this awful feeling and knew it wasn’t what she wanted.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Tiffany -

Emily Pereira

Not Following - In Emily’s early 20’s she got a job in corporate America, and for the first couple of months she was exhausted and couldn’t even get out of bed. She had so many doubts going through her mind, and knew it wasn’t her purpose.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - Emily leads retreats for women and she remembers one day sitting on her surfboard and looking out at the sun and feeling amazing. She said to herself that she would someday leave there. Fast forward 3 months later and she went on a retreat where she met a man.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Emily\'s interview here

Connect with Emily -

Her website

Unstoppable Woman - Emily Pereira (Ebook)

Emily Pereira – Be the beginner

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 27 Feb 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Emily Pereira is an international retreat leader, certified yoga teacher, Gateless trained writing teacher, and life coach specializing in helping women manifest their dream relationship. She\'s also the author of the forthcoming book, The Quest.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

I am personally responsible for creating every single thing in my life.

That “Trip up” in Partnership

Emily was in a relationship in her early 20’s, when she was just out of college. It ended up being a 6 year long relationship. They lived together, their best friends married each other, and they planned their lives together. During that time they were getting into their professional lives. He was actually one of the founders of Myspace. That changed their lives quite a bit.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

Emily’s proudest moment in partnership comes from her current relationship. They come from two very different worlds. One of Emily’s gifts is the ability to see someone else’s gifts, even when they can’t see it for themselves. He’s an amazing chef and started doing the food for the retreats Emily held.

Find out what happens next by listening to the episode.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve Ever Received

Creativity is an energy that is a natural part of being human, but you’re freezing yourself out of that creativity when you attempt to be perfect.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Her website

Stop Being a Selfish B*tch - Tiffany Toombs

Tiffany Toombs – Never send your best left…

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Feb 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Tiffany Toombs is a mindset coach who specializes in helping people rewire their brains to overcome self sabotage and limiting beliefs; allowing them to experience success in every area of life. She is a Master Practitioner and Trainer in Neurolinguistic Programming and Matrix Therapies.

Tiffany worked in the health and fitness industry for 18 years, while exclusively working as a coach for the last five years. She combines her science background and knowledge of the body & mind with her spiritual interests and training to get clients results that are undeniable.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

We’re all here with a purpose.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

Tiffany’s biggest “duh” moment came when she was in Australia. She had been with her ex for 3 years at that time. They talked about marriage and buying property together, and other stuff. Everyone saw them as the perfect couple and there were moments where Tiffany thought that this was the one. She ended up settling in that relationship for quite some time.

Find out what happens next by listening to the episode.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve ever Received

Never send your best self.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Follow Your “Yes” – Surrender isn’t an instant gratification

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 13 Feb 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Christine Hassler

Not Following - Christine had a very recent experience with this. She was at a seminar and one of the other participants had this fancy chiropractic technique. She went into the bathroom and asked herself “Am I better off not doing this?” and the answer was “yes”. She went back in the room and saw everyone else doing it so she did it as well.

Find out what happened next by listening to Christine’s interview.

Following - She moved out of Los Angeles at the beginning of 2017 and then ended up having a dream house on the ocean. For some reason her landlord didn’t want to renew her lease. It was very sudden and not so friendly. She kept getting an intuition to not go searching for another place, so she put her stuff in storage and went travelling.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Christine’s interview here

Connect with Christine -

Her Website

Over It and On With It Podcast - Itunes

Listen to Kate\'s interview here

Text CHRISTINE TO 444999 to receive a free e-book

Kate Eckman

Not Following - Kate feels like she experiences that moment sometimes with eating. Many times she’ll get that internal guidance telling her not to have the extra piece of pizza or that 3rd glass of wine, but then ignores it and has it anyway. She explains that often people come up with excuses trying to justify why they had the extra piece.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - What comes up for Kate is when she was a TV anchor for years. She chose to leave the business and move to Africa. She worked as a wildlife reporter. It wasn’t the “smart choice” but it was what she wanted. She decided to follow her heart knowing it was a one in a lifetime chance.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Kate -

Kate Eckman – Only what you are not giving can be lacking in any situation

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Kate Eckman is a confidence coach, joy-bringer, and personal cheerleader for your spirit. She is the creator of The Full Spirit Workout: A 10-Step System to Shed Your Self-Doubt, Strengthen Your Spiritual Core, and Create a Fun & Fulfilling Life, which is a workout for the spirit that will help you get fit on the inside. It’s a series of daily practices that keep our spirits, minds —and selves— open and available to receive abundance, transformation and enlightenment.

Kate also works as a motivational speaker and is the author of the blog, Love Yourself, Love Your Life, sharing inspirational stories about self-confidence, healthy body image, redefining beauty and success, and creating divine relationships. She is also a certified Reiki master, QVC On-Air Beauty Host and Wilhelmina model.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

You don’t have to be, do, or have anything to be worthy, valuable, or loved, because you already are.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Kate used to be a TV news anchor for a market in Florida and she ended up getting fired from that job. It was really early on in her career and she was very shocked. They got rid of her and her co host because they didn’t feel like they had chemistry. What happened actually ended up getting her out of a really sticky situation.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

Kate had back to back wake up calls. She lost two very dear friends to suicide about a year apart of each other. It completely changed the whole trajectory of her life. It not only brought her to mourn the death of these two beautiful people but it forced her to really look at herself and how she’s living her life.

Find out what happens next by listening to the episode.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

Kate talks about a great friend that she had at her time with the QBC network. A couple years ago her and that friend were chatting on the phone and she asked Kate if she would be interested in working in Europe. Kate said yes right away because she loves to travel and loves Europe. She was then introduced to a women who owned a network there and they immediately hit it off.

Find out what happened to Kate next in her proudest moment, by listening to the podcast.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve ever Received

Only what you are not giving can be lacking in any situation.

Best Partnership Resource

A Return to Love - Marianne Williamson

Interview Links -

Christine Hassler – Be the ideal partner to yourself

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 30 Jan 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Christine Hassler left her successful job as a Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about and is now the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What you Really Want.

For over a decade, as a keynote speaker, retreat facilitator, spiritual psychologist, life coach, and host of the top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It”, she has been teaching and inspiring people around the world. Christine believes once we get out of our own way, we can show up to make the meaningful impact we are here to make.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

My external relationships are always a reflection of what’s going on inside of me.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Her last book, “Expectation Hangover”, was inspired by her divorce that happened when she was 31 years old. She was dumped by her fiancé 6 months before her wedding and then about 6 months after that she met the man who she would end up marrying. She figured everything was where it was supposed to be and that was the reason she was dumped previously, so she could meet this new person who she would marry.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

Her proudest moment in partnership comes in her current relationship. They had a very intense coming together. They had to have a two month relationship over WhatsApp before they met physically and after a while he moved there from Australia. There were so many intense moments where they could have thrown in the towel but the stuck it out.

Find out what happens next by listening to the episode.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve ever Received

Be the ideal partner to yourself.

Best Partnership Resource

Expectation Hangover - Christine Hassler

Intimate Communion - David Deida

Celebrating Partnership with Alison Armstrong

Interview Links -

Her Website

Over It and On With It Podcast - Itunes

Listen to Kyle’s interview here

Text CHRISTINE TO 444999 to receive a free e-book

Follow Your “Yes” – Never think “What if?”

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 23 Jan 2019 09:04:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Kyle Benson

Not Following - There was a time where Kyle was interested in public speaking and did a bunch of training and events for it. After all the training and podcasts, he still had not been part of any public speaking events.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - This is something that Kyle’s is following through with right now. His audience and business coaches have been pushing him to do some type of group program. Kyle’s outlined it and has been wanting to do it for quite a while now.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Kyle -

Here is Kyle’s Ebook

Kyle’s Website

Suzanne Oshima

Not Following - Back when Suzanne was in college she majored in marketing. She did exactly what her parents wanted her to do. When she got out of college she knew this wasn’t what she wanted to do. She didn’t want the corporate job or to work 9-5. It just wasn’t her

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - This is Suzanne’s proudest moment. People normally start to freak out at milestone birthdays like 30, 40, etc. Suzanne actually had that freak out when she turned 31. She was living in San Francisco at the time and she remembers thinking that her life was set.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Suzanne\'s interview here

Connect with Suzanne -

Your Next Amazing Story

Single In Stilettos

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man - Steve Harvey

Suzanne Oshima – Men want to feel needed and women want to feel wanted

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 16 Jan 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Suzanne K. Oshima is a Life & Love Transformational Coach who inspires and empowers smart successful women to realize it\'s never too late to hit reset and find a fresh new path in life & love.

Suzanne has worked with countless single men and women to transform their love lives to create a lasting relationship that led to marriage.

Suzanne has appeared on: The Today Show, Bravo TV, Good Afternoon America, ABC News, Inside Edition, BBC Radio, Men’s Health, Glamour, and many more!

In 2011, Suzanne launched Single in Stilettos to empower women with the secrets about men. To help them better understand how men think & what they want from women, so they could transform and elevate their dating lives to finally meet, attract & keep the right man.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Be yourself. Everybody else is taken.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Suzanne is in her 50’s and grew up in the 60’s, and her mom was all for the women’s live movement. Her mom went back to school in her 40’s and became an ESL teacher. Suzanne remembers during that time, when she was a teenager, her mom said to her, “when you’re old enough to be in a relationship with a man, always have your own cheque book. Never rely on a man for money.” That always stuck in her head as she grew older.

Find out what happened next that made her realize she had to change something by listening to the podcast episode.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

In the past, Suzanne can think of two ex boyfriends that were really, really great. After a while Suzanne realized that you can still be that strong, independent woman but still be in a relationship. She realized that she could still be that important part in a relationship when allowing a man to take care of her needs.

Find out what happens next by listening to the episode.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve ever Received

Men want to feel needed and women want to feel wanted.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Your Next Amazing Story

Single In Stilettos

Free Gift From Suzanne - The Secrets about Men 3 part video series

The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work - John Gottman

Twitter

Kyle Benson – Conflict is inevitable

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 09 Jan 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Kyle Benson is an Intentional Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research-based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgmental style and his capacity to see the root problem.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Speaking to understand before trying to problem solve.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

About 5 months ago, Kyle was working on a very important project for some clients he has. He was working some very long hours so he was pretty stressed out. During the same time, Kyle’s partner went to a concert with some friends but he wasn’t able to make it because of the project. After the concert, he went to pick her up in downtown Seattle, where there’s a lot of traffic. She took a while to come out to the car because she was talking with some people. With everything going on, this anger started to stew in Kyle.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast episode.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

His friend comes to mind, who is having a very tough time with family right now. When Kyle first had his outbreak of psoriasis he had a lot of shame around it and didn’t reach out to many friends. He would frequently meet up with one of his friends at this lake in Seattle, and they would simply just walk and talk. What he loved is that she would make 15-20 minutes to go on these walks a couple of times a week. It meant a lot to Kyle, especially being vulnerable as a guy.

Find out what happens next by listening to the episode.

Current Partnership

The first thing that comes to mind is Kyle’s current romantic relationship. He’s so proud of the relationship they’ve built together. They, like everyone else, have their fights from time to time but everything is great. They always seem to get through everything by working through it. They’re able to talk to each other about their personal lives and support each other.

Best Relationship Advice You’ve ever Received

Conflict is inevitable.

Best Partnership Resource

We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection and Enduring Love - Stan Tatkin

Interview Links -

Here is Kyle’s Ebook

Kyle’s Website

Follow Your “Yes” – What’s the universe telling you?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 02 Jan 2019 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Elana Meta

Not Following - That time for Elana was with Wild Vessel. This vision started fairly recently and developed into having their 1st event only 6 months later. There were a lot of people that wanted to get involved and help with it. Elana felt that she was in desperation of help because of how big it was becoming. She was watching herself get lazy and allowing other people’s ideas to guide the way.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - Elana was in a place of not trusting her no, and allowing other forms to take control. She ended up cutting that chord to her life. She ended her relationship, she moved out of her apartment, she moved out of LA, and stopped both of her businesses. She did all of this so that she could ask herself, “Who am I in my full self expressed ‘yes’?”.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Elana’s interview here

Connect with Elana -

Listen to Marcy\'s interview here

Link to Esalen Workshop

Marcy Neumann

Not Following - During her interview, Marcy explained how she left her marriage and the universe laid itself at her feet. She began to download all these great ideas and developed some physical, hands on products to teach people about the laws of attraction. She had no experience with business or creating products but she kept having these visions and had to bring them to life.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - After Marcy left her marriage and everything started to come together, she kept getting these urges to move out west. Even though everything was going great from her business life to her social life, she kept getting the urge to move. She decided to start exploring some places. She searched around but nothing felt right until she stepped foot into Prescott.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Marcy -

Marcy Neumann – Self love can help change your whole life

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 26 Dec 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Marcy Neumann, is a Rev., a professional Energy Healer, Integrative Intuitive Counselor, Spiritualist Minister, Certified Hypnotherapist and Reiki Master. Marcy is also a published author, a creator of award-winning manifestation and healing products and a public speaker.

For over 45 years Marcy’s professional journey has been guided by her own teachings of energy healing and transformation., and her work is considered among the leading energy healing and shifting processes to create sustained and lasting changes.

Marcy helps people all over the world identify and overcome resistance and blocks. She connects on a deep cellular energetic level to help clear unresolved, unforgiven issues and teaches people how to shift their perceptions and thinking to one always rooted in Self Love.

It\'s Marcy\'s mission to deliver these messages of love and transform lives through energy healing education, teaching empowerment skills and creating tools for personal change

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

All of my relationships and interactions are being created by me, for me. All things are working in my favor.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Marcy brings us back to a time where everything was going quite well. Everything seemed like it was totally coming together. She was celebrating her 25th wedding anniversary, her 4 kids were grown and healthy, and she was getting everything in life that she could possibly want.

She was in Montana for a family wedding. She’s always had this strong relation with the Native American culture because she would have flashbacks from past lives. At this family celebration she was feeling such a warm welcome.

Find out what happened that created her trip up by listening to the podcast.

The Payoff of Being in Partnership

She relates back and explains how the universe laid itself at her feet. She was finally in align to be in partnership with universal law. Everything started to fall into place. She continued to be the greatest expression of herself possible.

Find out what happened next by listening to her story on the podcast.

Best Partnership Resource

Meditation, and developing the practice on a daily basis.

Interview Links -

Elana Meta – What’s reflecting in front of me?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Elana Meta is a community builder, leadership & embodiment coach, and influencer from New York City.

She is the founder of Meta Method, a globally recognized embodiment technique practiced by thousands worldwide. She has taught for and aided the growth of numerous communities including Esalen, Wanderlust, Summit Series, Burning Man Org, & more.

She is an activist, feminine catalyst, professional dancer, and speaker. She holds a bachelor’s degree in dance, a master level certification in Leadership from the Institute of Embodied Wisdom, and an is intimacy, Sex and Empowerment coach from The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality.

Elana is also the Founder & CEO of Wild Vessel, building Experience Spaces around the expanding global Feminine movement and our human potential.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Understanding that the dismantling of a partnership is another form of partnership.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

When Elana was 20 years old she was in an abusive relationship. This man was violent to himself and was violent towards Elana nearing the end of the relationship. He was abusive but she loved him very much. He would want to have sex after he was abusive towards her. She later learned that their was a connection between the sex and violence.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Your Proudest Moment in Partnership

She just recently broke up with her best friend. She’s beyond proud of this because they remained friends, much closer than they were before. They love each other very much and have supported one another through the past 5 months since the breakup. He’s in a new relationship and Elana’s in the start of a new relationship, and during all of it have remained very close and supportive.

Find out what happened next by listening to her story on the podcast.

Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received

The responsibility piece of partnership. If I don’t like what’s being reflected in front of me, that’s an opportunity for me to look in the mirror.

Best Partnership Resource

Disrupt Her: A Manifesto for the Modern Woman - Miki Agrawal

Iron John: A Book About Men - Robert Bly

Interview Links -

Listen to Paula’s interview here

Link to Esalen Workshop

Follow Your “Yes” – Relationships need room to grow

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 12 Dec 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Paula Grooms

Not Following - Paula’s last relationship was the most profound moment where she did not follow her “yes”. She had just turned 50, she had been divorced for a while, and she did have a lot of love for this man. He was a great guy but was only a consumer, not a buyer. She ignored those signs.

Find out what happened next by listening to Paula’s interview.

Following - Paula now feels confident, calm, and cautious when going through the same motions in any relationship moving forward. She tells the person that she is completely ready for a fully committed relationship. She’s ready to go down that road with the person but completely respects them if they aren’t. If they aren’t ready, she has no problem moving from that relationship.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Paula -

CoachPaulaGrooms.com

Guy Finley

Not Following - There was points in Guy’s life where there was no understanding at all that any demand he would place on any other human being, that they should be, do or act as I want them to, ensures that they will not do. He believed that demands were the same as knowing what’s right, but in reality it’s the exact opposite.

Find out what happened next by listening to Guy’s interview.

Following - Now Guy has turned that around. He understands that demands destroy relationships.They don’t nurture them. In understanding that, dare to live the truth of it so that anytime a demand appears, it’s dropped.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Guy\'s interview here

Connect with Guy -

Audiobook version of Relationship Magic, which is read by Guy, as well as the other bonuses part of our book offer (Please keep this link confidential. Thanks)

You can either download a ZIP file which contains all the MP3’s, or you can listen online.

Guy Finley – Love never blames

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Guy Finley is the bestselling author of more than 45 books and audio albums on self-realization, including \"The Secret of Letting Go,\" \"The Essential Laws of Fearless Living,\" and his brand new book \"Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together.\"

He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit Center for Spiritual Discovery located in southern Oregon where he gives talks three times each week. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York, 1440 Multiversity, and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

There’s always one thing that needs to be done before anything else when it comes to relationships. In any relationship at any given moment, I have to attend to my part of the relationship and my responsibility.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Guy remembers vividly a time when he was 21 years old, he had fallen in love and got engaged. Guy has had this journey since he was young about finding out why it is that people have the relationships that they do throughout their life. He remembers going to his fiance and saying that they were in a peak moment in their relationship, and that they love each other and want to be with each other.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Best Partnership Resource

Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together - Guy Finley

Interview Links -

Audiobook version of Relationship Magic, which is read by Guy, as well as the other bonuses part of our book offer (Please keep this link confidential. Thanks)

You can either download a ZIP file which contains all the MP3’s, or you can listen online.

Paula Grooms – It’s about you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 28 Nov 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Paula Grooms is a Dating and Relationship Coach and also a Master\'s level Social Worker with nearly 20 years of professional experience. Her new book Why Won\'t He Commit?: How a Man Decides to Make You \"The One,\" helps women in love become \"the one,\" in one year or less, all without sacrificing, struggling, or settling!

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Respect.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Paula thought that men commit from love alone. When she felt that love from a man she put that filter through her own. Women view commitment as an outgrowth of love, whereas men view commitment as a responsibility. Paula was with a man for many years and was making concessions for the actions he was giving her because she felt she understood him.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

The Best Relationship Advice You’ve Ever Received

What a partnership is is you having your garden and your partner having their garden. You appreciate and partake in the garden of the other.

Best Partnership Resource

Why Won’t He Commit?: How a Man Decides to Make You “The One” - Paula Grooms

All The Rules - Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider

Interview Links -

CoachPaulaGrooms.com

Follow Your “Yes” – No convincing necessary

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 21 Nov 2018 09:04:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Samantha Bennett

Not Following - She was doing the “get it done” material about 2 times a year. Later on she was talking to a friend who ask why she wasn’t doing this more often because she loved it and everyone involved loved it. He couldn’t believe she wasn’t doing this full time.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - When she started to teach her “Get it done” class full-time, she realized that this could be a book. She couldn’t figure out how exactly to write the book so she decided to do the 15-minute version of it. Everytime she had an idea for the book she would write it on an index card. After some time she laid all of the index cards out and started clumping the topics together. It allowed her to have the book kind of write itself.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Samantha’s interview here

Connect with Sam -

The 5-min Art Exercise and Freebies

In A Booth At Chasen’s

Listen to Patty’s interview here

Patty Contenta

Not Following - Patty has always considered herself a “yes” type of person. In the first step to any situation she tries to make sure that she doesn’t respond or act urgently because she knows right away that it won’t go well. She tries to allow for time to observe the situation so that she can figure out if it’s an overwhelming yes or a no.

Following - Patty relates to any romantic, family, or business relationship she’s had where she didn’t have any physical disturbance, she knew it meant a “yes” for her. Things happen smoothly when they’re a “yes” and she’s noticed that in many situations over the years.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Patty -

Sensuality Secrets - Self Date

Getting the Love You Want - Harville Hendrix

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Patty Contenta – Live with curiosity

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Nov 2018 09:15:00 -0500

Patty Contenta is a professional dancer, choreographer, judge, Master Examiner and international traveling dance consultant for the world renowned Arthur Murray Dance Studio Franchise.

She’s the founder of Sensuality Secrets, the author of Desirable And Deserving e-book and the creator of the Sexy In Seconds DVD Program that helps women who are struggling with their body image reconnect with their feminine energy and sensuality through the art of body language and dance.

Patty’s mission is to have women release their resistance to expressing their sensuality by providing techniques that will lead them to be more playful, build their self-esteem and exude a natural confidence.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Curiosity.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Patty tells us about a time in a recent professional partnership. This is a part of her life that she felt was fully “under control”. She had a brick and mortar dance studio. They would have bilateral meetings among the other studios. She was very involved in these meetings until ownership started to change. She was then left out of more and more things as time went on. She found herself not as involved as before so she started to panic.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment In Partnership

Patty explains how proud she is to own her situations and what happens to her rather than putting it on someone else. She would own what’s going on even if she doesn’t have an exact answer at that moment. Every time there’s a disturbance of some sort, she tries to ask herself, “what is this trying to teach me?”

Find out how it all comes together by listening to the podcast.

The Best Relationship Advice You’ve Ever Received

Have compassion for whoever stands in front of you.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Sensuality Secrets - Self Date

Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers, and Recovering Perfectionists - Samantha Bennett

Samantha Bennett – Feelings just want to be felt

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 07 Nov 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling, \"Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day\" which Seth Godin called, “An instant classic, essential reading for anyone who wants to make a ruckus.” Her latest bestseller is, \"Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers and Recovering Perfectionists\" (New World Library).

She is also the creator of The Organized Artist Company, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, helping them to focus and move forward on their goals.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

The cure for everything is salt water...sweat, tears or the sea.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Samantha has the habit of being loyal to the point of self neglect. There’s been many relationships, with both people and organizations, that she’s let go on for way too long. She would be very unhappy but allow it to go on for far too long before she would leave.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment In Partnership

About 10 years ago she was talking to her great friend, Phil. He had a wonderful idea for a show. He was wondering if she would write the script for it. She said yes right away. It ended up being a great show. Then they had about 8 years of “development hell”. They would think they had an investor, then it wouldn’t work out. Things kept repeating.

Find out how it all comes together by listening to the podcast.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

The 5-min Art Exercise and Freebies

In A Booth At Chasen’s

Listen to Laurie’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Having your own back

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 31 Oct 2018 08:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Laurie Gerber

Not Following - Laurie relates back to her interview, discussing when her and her husband were on the brinks of divorce. She had many signs from her inner knowing of how she should be with her husband. She remembers always telling herself when she got home from work, “be nice, be nice, be nice”, and it’s almost like the more she told herself, the more she rebelled.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - Laurie describes this moment as the time she was open and he was brave enough to tell her the truth about how he felt. She remembers being taken back at how brave he truly was because she had shut it down for so long. During that moment is when everything else started to come together.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Laurie -

Her Website

Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Laurie Gerber and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz.

Check out our free, time-trusted coaching tool, The Art of Being Honest, and learn how to have difficult conversations with grace and wisdom.

Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Handel Group – 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code PARTNERSHIPS75 for $75 off a subscription at checkout!

Free Consultation at Handel Group

Listen to Jessica\'s interview here

Dr. Jessica Higgins

Not Following - Jessica referred back to the story she shared in her interview of a guy she was with a long time ago before she met her husband. Jessica wasn’t aware of her patterns during that conflict. Jessica constantly felt compelled to rationalize and defend. She felt a little outside of herself. She was trying to change his perception of her.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - Jessica was a clear “yes” to be committed to being connected to herself when entering in relationships. She relates back to when she first met her husband. At first she wasn’t sure if he wanted a relationship or if he was emotionally available. It wasn’t a clear “yes” on him at first but it was a clear “yes” on her. She learned so much from her past relationship that she was able to be vulnerable with him. By her doing that, he began to lean in more and more each time.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Jessica -

Empowered Relationship Podcast

Susan Johnson\'s Therapy - EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)

Relationship Map

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love - Sue Johnson

Dr. Jessica Higgins – Being available for a connection

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 24 Oct 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Dr. Jessica Higgins is a Licensed Psychologist and Relationship Coach. Her ultimate goal is to help people acquire the insight, learning, and practice to navigate the terrain of intimacy more effectively.

Jessica is the founder and creator of Connected Couple, which is a comprehensive, research-based, transformational, relationship program. She is also the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast which inspires, motivates, and guides individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Getting outside of myself to find that deep, inner connection.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Back in the early 2000’s Jessica was in a relationship where they were both very attracted to each other, shared a lot of chemistry, and both thought that they found the one. About 18 months in they started to experience some challenge together. Jessica would always try to negotiate by explaining. She was unpacking her message but it wasn’t coming from a very authentic, vulnerable state of mind. It was more of a justification, rationalization state of mind.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment In Partnership

Two to three years ago Jessica was asked to do a keynote presentation about the developmental stages of relationships. She was trying to provide an experience of being in a relationship and being in the opposition so that people could truly feel the flow. They did an exercise to demonstrate. With this exercise, most people have the automatic fight, flight, or freeze response. When they were doing this it sent Jessica back to remembering when the guy she was in a relationship with was scared during their vicious cycle.

Find out how it all comes together by listening to the podcast.

What’s Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Taking full responsibility.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Empowered Relationship Podcast

Susan Johnson\'s Therapy - EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)

Relationship Map

Maybe It’s You: Cut The Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. - Lauren Handel Zander

Laurie Gerber – Maybe it’s you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 17 Oct 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Laurie Gerber is passionate about personal development and has been coaching individuals and groups for over 15 years. As Head Coach at Handel Group® Life Coaching, Laurie teaches people to tell the truth and pursue their dreams through live events, one-on-one coaching and online coaching courses, as a writer, on radio, and in frequent TV appearances on MTV, A&E, Dr. Phil Show, and the TODAY show.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Maybe it’s me.

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

Laurie talks about her near divorce experience. She was about 10 years into a relationship, 5 years into marriage, 2 kids, living in a small apartment in New York City. She was still getting coaching and was asked what her dream was and what she’s inspired by. In that moment she couldn’t answer. The more she probbed, she realized she did care a lot about intimacy, communication, and feeling connected. But, essentially Laurie had given up on it.

Find out what happened by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment In Partnership

Laurie refers back to the same story of finding her connection with her husband again. That’s the bravest and most comprehensive she has ever been. She wanted to chicken out at so many stages, but she didn’t. She acted in accordance with her highest ideals at every step of the way. It was their true, bright turning point for their relationship.

What’s Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Have a dream and a vision.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Free Consultation at Handel Group

Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Laurie Gerber and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz.

Check out our free, time-trusted coaching tool, The Art of Being Honest, and learn how to have difficult conversations with grace and wisdom.

Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Handel Group - 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code PARTNERSHIPS75 for $75 off a subscription at checkout!

Listen to Danny’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Allow your doors to open

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 10 Oct 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Danny Levin

Not Following - Danny has always been someone who has looked for the truth in everything. He explains that there is a very thin line between the “yes” that comes from source and the “yes” that comes from self. There was a very difficult time many years ago with his wife, when they had their daughter who was developmentally delayed. It was a very difficult thing to process.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - When Danny is kind to himself, he becomes open and vulnerable to his wife. He tells her everything. They have real vulnerable, open conversations, and deeper connections. All of this creates even a stronger mosaic of love for each other

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Danny -

Tara Cousineau

Not Following - Tara talks about a recent experience that was during a business process. Tara had a small research firm where she had a group of psychologists, and they were getting these great government grants. It was to help promote emotional intelligence in kids. She started to burnout after a while because it’s very difficult applying for these grants and being accepted. She knew she was burning herself out being the CEO, CFO, COO, and research scientist. She felt obligated.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - This was when Tara decided to write her book, The Kindness Cure. It was after a traumatic experience where her daughter was beat up and she was asking for kindness. During this time, Tara was feeling very upset and exhausted from the world. She started to see others succeed and it was all about cutting through the fears and stepping into your vulnerability. After that she woke up one morning and knew she was writing a book on kindness.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Tara\'s interview here

Connect with Tara -

Tara Cousineau – Kindness is love in action

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 03 Oct 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Tara Cousineau is the author of a new book, \"The Kindness Cure: How the Science of Compassion Can Heal your Heart and Your World\".

She is also a psychologist and coach in the Boston area, a yogi and a meditation teacher.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

How can I bring kindfulness to this moment?

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

When Tara was in her mid 20’s, in college, she moved to Boston from Germany where she had done a year long program. She felt lonely when she was there so she took up ballroom dancing classes while she was there. When she came back to Boston she didn’t know anyone either. She then took up dancing once again. She had a lot of fun doing it and started to get better. She even ended up becoming an amateur doing it. She ended up doing competitions with her dance instructor. She then ended up dating him and he was significantly older.

Find out what happened by listening to the podcast.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

Tara relates back to that whole ballroom dancing phase. She became friendly with her coworker who was senior to her. She always had a rule that you don’t date people you work with. But she didn’t apply this to ballroom dancing. She was sort of cautious with her now husband. She held back some because he worked with her.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Give Your Clients?

You have to get out of bed and get physically active so you’re not going into the addictive drone of the brain.

What’s Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Don’t take things personally.

Best Partnership Resource

The Kindness Cure: How the Science of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart and Your World - Tara Cousineau

Take the Quiz - Discover Your Kindness Quotient

Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar - Cheryl Strayed

Interview Links -

Danny Levin – The mosaic of your life

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 26 Sep 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Daniel Levin walked away from an opportunity to run a business that was a household name in order to hitchhike around the world to find happiness and inner peace. The people he met along his journey remind him a lot of the characters he spoke of in his book, The Mosaic.

For most of his life, Levin felt different. He saw things others did not see and thought in ways that were unlike the ways of his peers. It made him feel alone and isolated, and though he knew how to play the game and interact with others well, he never felt he was the same as them. This all changed when he started to work with government and corporations seeking innovation. Suddenly, it was his ability to see differently that made him a sought out commodity.

Levin, a connectivity expert and business leader, works with governments organizations, corporations and businesses to improve how people treat themselves and each other. Sharing a message of unification, he is a sought after speaker for groups whose focus is problem solving and conflict resolution.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Connected we’re happy, disconnected we suffer.

When You Lose Connection to Yourself

Danny explains that when you feel connected to your purpose, but you’re hard on yourself and knock yourself down each time, how connected to your purpose can you actually be. People sabotage themselves at every turn. People begin to not trust themselves, thinking good things will never happen.

Find out what else Danny explains by listening to the podcast.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Speak without anger and listen without judgement.

Best Partnership Resource

The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz

The Mosaic - Daniel Levin

Interview Links -

Follow Your “Yes” – Completely listening to your intuition

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 19 Sep 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Rhonda Britten

Not Following - Rhonda feels like she’s had plenty of those in the past. The one that comes top of mind for her is her first partnership with the Fearless Living partner. They were professional trainers. They trainer companies in corporate settings, and designed and developed them. At the time Rhonda was doing workshops from her home, churches, and other areas. In order to scale up, she needed the help and expertise.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - When Rhonda launched her book she was sent on a tour around America, Europe, and Australia. While in the UK she was told that they were looking for people to audition for a reality show. They were looking for a Life Coach so she was asked if she would like to audition. She was very clear from the start that she was a “yes”. She didn’t know what it would entail, but she was a for sure “yes”.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Rhonda’s interview here

Connect with Rhonda -

FREE GIFT from Rhonda Britten

Kristine Carlson

Not Following - Recently, Kristine started working on a project with a partner. It was a partner she was dating at the time. She had the feeling that it was a bad idea to have a business relationship as well and felt the timing was off. It was the right time for him but not for her. She went ahead and did it anyway, but it really hasn’t worked out too well.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - Recently, Kristine launched a program. It was a program she really wanted to do but not solely on her own. She then started working on the program with someone else and it was so enjoyable. Her partner also had the feeling that she wanted to do it with someone and not on her own.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Kristine\'s interview here

Connect with Kristine -

Ted Talk

From Heartbreak to Wholeness

Don’t Sweat

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff In Love - Richard & Kristine Carlson

Kristine Carlson – Don’t sweat it!

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 12 Sep 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Kristine Carlson is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leader in the field of transformation. After collaborating with her late husband Dr. Richard Carlson to create the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series — Kris is emerging as a profound teacher in the areas that matter most to the human heart: how to heal and how to love.

In her forthcoming book, From Heartbreak to Wholeness: The Hero’s Journey to Joy, she offers a process for healing that goes beyond common prescriptions for getting through the pain of heartbreak of all kinds. She takes readers by the hand, giving them a life-altering map for navigating the journey from loss to joy—one that can awaken them to a deep love affair with life.

Kris is known for her authenticity, vulnerability, and humor, leaving her audiences moved, inspired, and optimistic about the future. She has been featured on national radio and television, including The Today Show, Good Morning America, The View, and The Oprah Winfrey Show.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

You have to have a total neutral respect for one another.

How to Recognize and Sweat the Small Stuff

There’s a few things that are very important in order to do this. If you understand something about your own thinking, you understand things about moods, feelings and separate realities. If you live presently and put all these things together, then learn about those, that really helps in sweating the small stuff.

Find out more by listening to the podcast.

Your Experience with the Trap of Personal Development

Every relationship is very unique. No matter the relationship, the respect piece is very important and has to be there. No matter if you’re in the superior role or not, what’s important is that you treat people with a lot of compassion, understanding, and kindness.

For more insight on this, listen to the podcast.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Every person that you meet and every relationship that you have matters. Until you determined that person who has 99-100% of the qualities that you’re looking for, every other person really matters because they helped you decide and determine who you’re looking for.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Ted Talk

From Heartbreak to Wholeness

Don’t Sweat

Fearless Living: Live Without Excuses and Love Without Regret - Rhonda Britten

Rhonda Britten – The power of my own journey

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 05 Sep 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Emmy Award - winner Rhonda Britten is a repeat guest on Oprah, Huffington Post Contributor and Master Coach who has changed lives through over 600 episodes of reality television.

She is the author of four bestsellers including her seminal work “Fearless Living” and is the Founder of the Fearless Living Institute, home of the Fearless Living “Life Coach Certification Program,” considered the Ivy League of Life Coaching Training.

Rhonda was the first Life Coach on television in the world and appeared for three seasons as the head Life Coach on the hit daytime NBC show, “Starting Over.” She has been heralded as “America’s Favorite Life Coach,” and brings the neuroscience of fear down to earth giving you a path out of “not being good enough” using the “Wheels” technology she developed that saved her own life.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Who is the best person right now that I can connect with?

A Time Where You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

With her old Office Manager, Rhonda used to have the mentality that “this is good enough” or “I’ll make do”. After a while she realized that it was costing her and her business. There needed to be a change. Rhonda built up the courage to have the conversation and say “no, it’s not OK with me”.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

Rhonda is so proud each and everyday. Whether it’s with a virtual assistant or any team member, she is in full partnership with them. She actively participates with them every day, every week, every month. Those partnerships help her stay honest and real. There’s not a day goes by that Rhonda isn’t celebrating her partnerships.

For more insight on this, listen to the podcast.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

I never want to do anything alone again, and partnerships make me better.

Best Partnership Resource

Verbally Abusive Relationships - Patricia Evans

Interview Links -

FREE GIFT from Rhonda Britten

Follow Your “Yes” – Listening for the comfort in your soul

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 29 Aug 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Satyen Raja

Not Following - Going back about 20 years, Satyen was formerly a Franchiser Hypnotherapy. He starting selling a few through Canada. He figured he’d bring on an expert who could help him franchise it. There was one couple in particular who had an incredible resume, and Satyen thought if they were on board, he’d be able to slow down on his workload while still growing his business.

Satyen’s wife felt something was off about this couple. Satyen felt it as well but ignored it. Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - In a similar, very recent business situation, he had someone come on as a new teammate. Satyen, along with his wife and teammates, was getting a very strong “yes” to bring this person aboard. It’s ended up being a perfect fit. The level of love, dedication, loyalty, and commitment this person shows is unmatched. All of this happened because they followed their “yes”.

Listen to Satyen’s interview here

Connect with Satyen -

WarriorSage.com

https://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com

satyenraja.com

Listen to Gene\'s interview here

Gene McConnell

Not Following - Gene had about 60 pounds that he felt he needed to lose. He had been an athlete most of his life. He could really feel it and wasn’t healthy. God talked to Gene and he realized that he wanted to be able to leave a legacy for his grandchildren. He didn’t want to just teach them, but to also do everything with them. He knew he had to make a change so he said to himself that he was going to make changes. Things got in the way and he kept pushing it later and later.

Find out what happened next by listening to the show.

Following - In the same situation, Gene finally realized that he needed to put things in to place and get back into shape. He put a time-slot in place where he’d go to the gym each day before work for an hour. He now works hard at it and has long weight because of it.

Connect with Gene -

His website

Article for Faith Wire on Shame

Conferences on Shame

Gene McConnell – We’re meant to be seen, not hidden

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 22 Aug 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Gene McConnell is one of America’s foremost experts on shame & its impact on one’s personal perception that affects all other relationships.

His message helps identify and interpret adverse consequences of societal trends that are engulfing our contemporary culture. Gene educates individuals and organizations all over the world about the foundational elements of building and maintaining healthy relationships in marriage, the workplace, and the community.

Gene’s expertise first came on to the national scene with his signature messages about the sexualization of our culture, and the impact it has on individual lives, relationships, and communities. His proprietary program, The Power of PornTM, broke new ground by demonstrating the link between the root causes of shame, broken relationships, and the consumption of sexual images.

When Shame Tripped You Up in Partnership

Gene remembers one day coming home from work and his wife being completely silent. She didn’t talk, he would ask questions, but only get 1 or 2 word responses. With her silence and withdraw, it hurt him big time. He immediately assumed she didn’t care and was mad at him. Gene went for a drive and was furious.

Find out what big news came up, and how he turned the situation around by listening to the podcast.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Learn to live your life authentically.

Best Partnership Resource

Letting Go of Shame: Understanding How Shame it Affects Your Life - Ronald & Patricia Potter- Efron

Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t - John Townsend & Henry Cloud

Interview Links -

His website

Article for Faith Wire on Shame

Conferences on Shame

Satyen Raja – Love, live and die completely without regret

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 15 Aug 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Satyen Raja is known as the private transformational mentor, advisor and confidant to the powerful and influential. A remarkable living synthesis of eastern wisdom and western practicality, Satyen combines the power of the warrior and wisdom of the sage to inspire audiences & leaders worldwide to live their highest impact and personal fulfillment.

Having invested 35 years of rigorous study & practice in both creating enlightened business growth and developing higher consciousness, he is the leading authority on expanding success while serving the greater good without sacrificing the joys of personal life.

Satyen has impacted over 100,000 students from over 50 countries around the world through his global human potential company, WarriorSage. Satyen leads private one-on-one retreats for CEOs, high impact individuals, executive teams and is a corporate cultural advisor and trainer for elite companies.

His fearless and heartfelt style transforms your limitations into strengths and your life into peak existence.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

What must I do today to love, live and die completely without regret?

When You “Tripped Up” in Partnership

About 8 years ago, Satyen was at a retreat he was giving in Hawaii with his wife, and he went swimming in the ocean. Trying to be macho, he went in an area where he shouldn’t have been swimming. He ended up almost drowning.

He somehow made it back to shore and then it all hit him at once. He could feel the hurt that he caused his wife and friends. That really sunk in and he decided to start rebranding his life. He realized he was always on the road and wasn’t able to spend much time with his wife and kids. He didn’t want that to go on any longer.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

He refers back to raising his children. They’re 19 and 21 now. He began raising them with challenge upon challenge, only reprimand, not realizing that was hurting them. He wasn’t giving enough praise and love. He later realized that there was a rich masculine and feminine side to all of us.

Find out how he turned things around and started taking a different approach.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

Satyen refers this back to his wife. They’ve been together for 31 years. Originally meeting in high school and being friends, then developing their relationship into something more. He believes there’s been numerous moments that have made him go “Wow!” with his wife. At times where there’s been complication, what has always amazed him the most is their devotion towards one another’s evolution.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

The recognition that the feminine and the masculine within each of us is very unique, powerful, and beautiful.

Best Partnership Resource

The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida

Infinite Self - Stuart Wilde

Interview Links -

WarriorSage.com

https://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com

satyenraja.com

Listen to Treva’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Replacing fear with joy

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 08 Aug 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Treva Brandon Scharf

Not Following - Treva tells us about a time when she was in a really dysfunctional relationship in her early 40’s. She was really desperate to get married and have kids. She was restricting herself, knowing there was no future with this guy, but was holding on for dear life. She ended up having a wonderful opportunity but didn’t take it because she stayed with this guy.

Find out what amazing opportunity she had, but ended up turning down by listening to the podcast.

Following - When Treva found the courage to end that relationship, she kept thinking about having kids. So, she set on a journey to have her own. She went through treatments to get pregnant and spent a bunch of money. She was unsuccessful, but it was one of the best and boldest experiences she’s had.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Treva -

Listen to Celeste\'s interview here

The Late Blooming Bride

Celeste Headlee

Not Following - In 2009, NPR had a really tough year, during the beginning of the great recession. It ended up that a whole bunch of people ended up losing their positions with NPR, Celeste included. She really wanted to stay in Detroit because it’s her favourite city in the world. She’s not sure why, but she became afraid. During that time it would have been perfect for her to start creating her own thing, but instead she kept applying for jobs.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - She tells us about the time when she did take that leap into her own business. She dropped the corporate world, and began following her own dreams. She went with her gut and is now living everyday to her full potential

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Celeste -

Celeste Headlee – When everyone waves back

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 01 Aug 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Celeste Headlee is a Public Broadcast Radio Show Host, and Author.

She gave a TedxTalk talk in 2015 entitled, “10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation,” which clearly hit home for many people as it has been viewed more than 12 million times. CNBC recognized Celeste as having one of the most watched TED talks in 2016 and Glassdoor named Celeste as having the #1 must-watch TED talk for every recruiter and hiring manager.

Now, Celeste speaks to groups across the globe about the art of conversation and focused listening.

Her first book, Heard Mentality, was released in May 2016. Her second book, We Need To Talk - How To Have Conversations That Matter is a practical guide to the lost art of conversation and was released in September, 2017.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Nobody waves, but everybody waves back.

Why do you think people believe they’re bad communicators?

We think that everyone wants to not be spoken to. This assumption has also become part of our culture. Beyond food, water and shelter, belonging is the most primal need that humans have. By not talking to each other, we are literally not filling a need.

Find out what else Celeste had to say by listening to her interview.

Have you heard of research that shows there’s a difference between genders in communication?

She’s not sure for the reason that most of research that’s been done in the past half a century has been done by mostly men. With that, it can really skew the results. For example, we had research that showed that women were more emotional than men. But it turns out that they weren’t including anger as an emotion.

For more insight on this, listen to the podcast.

A partnership from your life where having powerful communication skills has truly made that partnership better:

Celeste referred to working on a radio show. She started this radio show from scratch, and that’s one of the hardest things you can do. When things would go wrong on the air, Celeste would need to figure out what went wrong without being very critical. She made sure that things didn’t turn into any sort of fight. In the times that she felt more overwhelmed, she would make sure the other person knew she was upset only in the moment. Being authentic in the moment really helps with partnerships.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Don’t put your cellphone down, put it away.

Best Partnership Resource

We Need To Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter - Celeste Headlee

Nicholas Epley - Mind Wise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want

The Knowledge Illusion - Steven Sloman & Philip Fernbach

Interview Links -

Treva Brandon Scharf – There is peace in surrender

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 25 Jul 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Treva Brandon Scharf is a Los Angeles based writer, dating coach, fitness professional, radio host, and first-time bride at 50. With over 35 years in the fitness industry, and many more in the dating world, Treva knows first-hand how to achieve peak performance in both life and love.

Treva writes about surviving singledom and finding love later in life at her blog, “The Late Blooming Bride”. She’s also a contributor at Huffington Post, Hollywood Progressive, Midlife Boulevard, Curves Connect, and BetterAfter50.

Treva currently hosts the internet radio dating show “Done Being Single,” with her husband Robby, on the VoiceAmerica Radio Network.

When she’s not imparting dating wisdom or tough love, Treva volunteers as a Special Olympics coach, and a Fulfillment Fund mentor.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Surrender.

When You Tripped Up

Treva described her entire single life as a bunch of trip-ups and falls. Everything was trial and error. She’d meet a guy, date the guy, and break up with the guy. The worst trip up was with someone she met in her early 40’s. She was hell bent on making it work. The stakes were high and there was a lot riding on it, and her fertility window was closing. But, this happened to be the worst guy possible to try and make things work with.

Listen to the podcast to hear the rest of the story.

Your thoughts around men in their 50’s and why they haven’t been married until now?

When she first started to know her husband, she would always be asking questions about this topic. Things like - Why haven’t you been married before? Why are you single? There has to be something wrong with you? … In her husband’s case, he simply didn’t meet the right one. On the other side of things, she would be asked the same kind of stuff. People always assume something is wrong with the person if they haven’t been married. That’s just simply not the case.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Treva didn’t have any great advice. She felt she had poor role models.

The Payoff of Partnership

Treva is very independent and has always been used to doing things for herself. She was even a single child who never had the older sister or brother pave the way for her. What’s so great about partnership to Treva is having someone take care of her. She’s never had that in her life. Her husband is this great person who’s there for her and supports her.

Best Partnership Resource

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom - Don Miguel Ruiz

Interview Links -

The Late Blooming Bride

Done Being Single

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Listen to Adam’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Seizing the opportunity

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 18 Jul 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your \"Yes?\"

Following your \"Yes\" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Adam Lamb

Not Following - Adam had a second back surgery and was taking pain killers about a year before surgery and about a year and a half after surgery. He was prescribed pills by the doctor but nothing was said on how to come off them, or follow up planning, or anything. He knew that was odd but didn’t follow his guidance and kept refilling his prescriptions.

Find out how he ended up losing the best job he ever had and many other things by not following his “yes”.

Following - During around the same timeframe where Adam hit rock bottom with the pain killers and came out of it, he made the decision to live. He received a recording from a friend about spirituality. He really enjoyed it and followed the information on it to go to the website and sign up for her newsletter. He realized that he had met this woman about two years prior. They talked back and forth for a couple of months for business purposes. After a while it was growing to something more.

Connect with Adam -

‘The Morning MANifesto’

‘MANifesto Radio’

www.aninitiatedman.com

Amy Schuber

Not Following - When Amy was looking to change her career and looking to change her life, she was living in San Francisco at the time. During that time she had an opportunity to move back to Southern California and into this beautiful beach bungalow in Balboa Island. She ended up saying no. She knew she should have said yes but she didn’t. Even other people were telling her to move, because she was just getting out of a relationship and out of the corporate world. It was an opportunity for change. She said no and knew it should have been a yes. She ended up moving there two years later.

Following - Once she did move to Southern California and was exploring career paths, she took an entrepreneurial women’s group. After the 4 -week process, the woman running it asked her if she would like to run it in Orange County. It would be facilitating workshops, monthly meetings, and memberships. She didn’t know much about it when she was asked but she instantly said “yes”.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Amy\'s interview here

Connect with Amy -

Amy’s Website

Inspired Conversations

Amy Schuber – You are the one you’ve been waiting for

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 11 Jul 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Amy Schuber has been working as a Life & Business Coach with women leaders, entrepreneurs and individuals for the past decade. She loves guiding women back to themselves with her strategic mind, savvy spirituality, curated resources and straight up smarts.

Amy has an innate ability to see client’s true potential and strategies needed to unlock the possibilities. She is also the host of the Inspired Conversations Podcast bringing insight from today’s thought leaders to help all of us live into life and business in the most conscious and mindful way!

Amy truly believes, ‘You are the one you’ve been waiting for’.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

You are the one you’ve been waiting for.

When You Tripped Up

Most recently, Amy’s “trip up” was in a personal relationship where she wasn’t listening to herself. In the relationship, this guy and her were not on the same page. He was going through a bit of a rough patch and she thought by her being there that she was helping him. Things were not working out, Amy wasn’t trusting herself, and she wasn’t getting out of it what she wanted.

Listen to the podcast to hear the rest of the story.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

Amy referred back to that recent relationship. She talks about having that “duh” moment and realizing that you can’t make someone do something that they do not want to do. They broke things off and then started back up again. That was the “duh” moment. It was a relationship that was dragging on even though she knew they didn’t want the same things.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

In a business relationship that Amy had, she was able to follow her intuition and allow that partnership to bloom. It was right after Amy left the corporate world and was beginning to explore her options. She ended up taking an entrepreneur class and the instructor asked her if she would like an opportunity in Orange County. Amy said “Yes” before even knowing exactly what that opportunity was, but it was a chance to grow their partnership. She knew right away that this was going to be a great partnership and experience in her life.

Find out what happened next in this amazing story by listening to the podcast.

What is the Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received?

Listen to your intuition.

Best Partnership Resource

The Surrender Experiment - Michael Singer

Hopi Poem

Interview Links -

Amy’s Website

Inspired Conversations

Adam Lamb – What do you stand for?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Adam Lamb is a speaker, author and relationship guide for men of all ages; assisting them to reconnect to their authentic masculine power through individual and group coaching programs as well as immersive retreats.

He hosts a weekly live video show, ‘The Morning MANifesto’ on YouTube and Facebook, as well as a monthly podcast, ‘MANifesto Radio’, available on iTunes, Google Play & Stitcher.

Adam’s published works include: “Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable”, “Profanity & Its Proper Use” and “An Initiated Man, Finally”. His newest work, ‘Circle Jerk: Lessons of Manhood My Father Never Taught Me’ is due out summer 2019.

Adam’s vision reads as follows: I stand for a world where men can incorporate all the best attributes of masculinity and femininity in harmony in order to discover the best version of themselves.

How did you get started doing the work you do?

Adam has been a chef for a long time and in the past allowed drugs and alcohol to get the best of him because of the high stress and lifestyle of being in that industry. After being in the industry for upwards of 35 years, he’s watched young people come up through the industry and struggle with the same problems. These young individuals would have loads of talent and really excel at their positions, but struggled with using drugs and alcohol. He saw himself in them and began modelling and guiding their lifestyles.

Find out more by listening to the podcast.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

What do you stand for?

And

If I’m going to ask someone to be transparent and vulnerable, then I have to be able to do that first.

When You Tripped Up

Adam takes us back to a time when he received his first Executive Chef position. Within the same company there was a Food and Beverage Director who was thought of being an old school individual who looked at younger people as being sort of punks. Turns out, they ended up having a great relationship and was actually asked to mentor the director’s son, who had plans to become a chef.

Find out where this story took a turn by listening to the podcast.

Why do you think so many men are so far off the path?

Adam described it as being a number of things, from your upbringing, social media, television, society, and more. We’re constantly bombarded with messaging that you’re not good enough and that you need to be a certain way, that it’s hard to follow any path.

What Adam shared next was a huge eye opener. Listen to the podcast to find out.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Let Love Win!

Best Partnership Resource

The Way Of The Superior Man - David Deida

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus - Dr. John Gray

Interview Links -

‘The Morning MANifesto’

‘MANifesto Radio’

www.aninitiatedman.com

Follow Your “Yes” – Shedding your identity

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 27 Jun 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson

Not Following - Very recently, Jamie was getting ready to book a ticket to Europe for a conference where she would be speaking, but she kept feeling like she should wait to book. Logically, she was thinking that she should book it right away because the plane ticket would rise. She chose to book it right away, even though she felt she should have waited. Turns out, she ended up getting a really great opportunity for something else but she is stuck with the Europe ticket already booked. She would then have to pay a difference to have her ticket changed.

Following - Jamie has always considered herself a straight woman. She’s been with men most of her life, had some experiences with women, but has always considered herself straight. She ended up having an experience with another woman where she felt more than just a fun time. She felt a true, strong connection that was very different from the past. She was a little afraid of what would happen because of her identity, but she felt such a strong “yes” to explore this relationship. She ended up having a wonderful relationship with this woman for 2 years.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Listen to Jamie’s interview here

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Listen to Kristen's interview here

Kristen Darcy

Not Following - Kristen was getting a strong feeling to write a book. She was kicking around the idea of doing a proposal. So, she talked to her literary agent to get things started. Her literary agent thought it was a great idea but she started to second guess it. She kept thinking of all the work that it would entail. Everything was telling her to do this but she didn’t follow her gut feeling on it. Turns out, someone else wrote a very similar book and it was doing great. She couldn’t help but think why she passed up on it.

Following - Kristen referred back to when she was finding out about her fertility challenges. She had already had a son through the process. Every time she would go for a fertility cycle she would feel that it was OK and it wasn’t the time yet. She knew she had everything against her, being older and having fertility complications, but she felt it was right. She felt like this was her “yes”. She stayed with it and ended up having a beautiful baby girl.

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Kristen Darcy – All is well

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Kristen Darcy offers coaching services to individuals challenged with infertility and facing a divorce. She is the author of Girlfriend To Girlfriend: A Fertility Companion AND Love & Infertility: Survival Strategies for Balancing Infertility, Marriage and Life which received RESOLVE'S 2009 Hope Award for Best Book. Kristen has also been highlighted in national media including The Today Show, Woman’s World magazine, PBS’ Health Week and The Boston Globe.

And her latest support offering is Making Dads: Everything a Man Needs to Know when Dealing with Male Infertility.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

All is well right now.

When You Tripped Up

Kristen brought us back to a time when things weren’t all that well. She owned a daycare when she was twenty two years old. She had this amazing family therapist who worked in her school. He did all of this great training for the staff. He was a friend and a really great guy. When she got the bad news about being infertile, she called him to explain what was happening. She was waiting for him to say everything would be ok and all is still well, but she didn’t get that. He told her that he didn’t even recognize her anymore and that she’s in a state of scarcity.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

Kristen works with women and men going through infertility. There was one couple in particular that she was working with where the husband was so thoughtful, so nice, and so plugged in. He was taking care of his wife, working full-time, going to school full-time, trying to start a family, and taking care of his friend who had cancer. His friend ended up passing away and he found out that the fertility cycle didn’t work. He broke down. He was perceived as being the rock of their family and he just lost it.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

What is the best partnership/relationship advice you have ever received?

To be able to say I understand.

Best Partnership Resource

Live Calm with Cancer (And Beyond…) - Tamara green & David Dachinger

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Jamie Elizabeth Thompson – Empowered desire approach

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 13 Jun 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Jamie has had a career helping individual and couples become fully self-expressed, empowered, and deeply met in sex and intimacy for 11 years. She specializes in helping impact-driven couples get outside the box they are currently in and explore new desires safely, let go of sexual shame, and quickly move through conflict about intimacy.

She is the creator of 'Turn On Your Erotic Wiring™' which teaches couples and individuals how to

Have the best sex of their lives
Break through plateaus inside AND outside the bedroom

through expanding their 'Erotic Menu™’.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

The empowered desire approach - Responsibility, curiosity, and vulnerability.

When You Tripped Up

There was a tendency that Jamie played out in several relationships that she described as her trip up. Her tendency was to want to control her partner and manage their experience. She’s always been very intense so it was showing up in her relationships by trying to control everything. When she wasn’t able to control she would begin to be resentful towards her partner and the situation.

Where she figured out how to work with her actions was by giving herself her own playground where she could be at her full self. That place was the bedroom. She could exercise her full potential. She set up a container where she could be a lot and not limit herself. What she found by creating this was this deep bodied surrender.

Why was the bedroom your chosen safe playground?

There was a simple seed of desire that made me want to play with this in the bedroom. She wanted to go to a new space where she felt control and where she could lose control. It felt like the best place to explore that.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

There was a moment where her partner was really upset. Jamie would normally go into a defensive reaction or a care-taking reaction. What she’s been working on is to be able to take their reaction but not take things personally or take away from their experience. She’s been so used to showing up as a coach rather than a partner in the relationship. During that moment there was four words that came from her that can truly change someone’s life - Thank you for sharing. In that moment she felt her heart open.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Your partner is always reflecting.

AND

Every trigger begins and ends internally with us.

Best Partnership Resource

Mating In Captivity - Esther Perel

Interview Links -

Listen to Kongit’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Coming through loud and clear

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 06 Jun 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Kongit Farrell

Not Following - Even after Kongit had all the training and knowledge on how to have a healthy relationship, she still had one other trip up where she didn’t follow her “Yes”. She was in a relationship with someone who had a completely opposite vision than she did. She was so attracted to this person that she pushed her internal guidance aside. She was hoping to help change his ways with her wit but it was hopeless. She didn’t follow her “Yes” and was in a dead end relationship because of it.

Following - Kongit’s easiest “Yes” was when she said yes to marrying her husband. Everything felt right, they both had the same vision, and they fit so well together. Everything felt so natural for her when she was around him and she didn’t have to think about it. She simply followed her heart and married the greatest man.

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Tamara Green & David Dachinger

Not Following - Tamara tells us about a time 4 years after they got married, they weren’t communicating very well and were almost every night upset with one another. Each of them were listening to someone else on what they should do. Each time she listened to this person, she would feel it was further and further away from what she’d believe. After some time when they were on the brinks of divorce, she told herself to listen to her own gut, and that’s where things started to turn around for the better.

Listen to the interview to hear of a time when David didn’t follow his “Yes”.

Following - David tells us of a time when he was a volunteer firefighter. He had come to realize that he was able to jump over one state and pursue a career in firefighting and simultaneously hold down his other career being a composer. He was getting a strong “Yes” when thinking about pursuing this. He ultimately did, tested for it and got the job. He was able to do what he loved being both a firefighter and composer.

Listen to the interview to find out a time when Tamara followed her “Yes”.

Listen to Tamara & David's interview here

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David Dachinger & Tamara Green – Experiencing every moment

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 30 May 2018 06:00:00 -0500

This is an amazing couple. Not only are David Dachinger and Tamara Green married, they also are the co-founders of Loving Meditations and authors of the international bestseller, Live Calm With Cancer (and Beyond…).

David is a Grammy® nominated composer, fire lieutenant and stage-4 cancer survivor.

Tamara is a psychotherapist, dating & relationship coach, and meditation facilitator, who Elle Magazine dubbed “the soul-centered relationship and meditation expert.”

Their cancer journey transformed and inspired them to pay their experiences forward to the cancer community. Together they create mindful wellness stress-reduction tools that dynamically assist those living with cancer and other major life challenges.

Loving Meditations offers the only app specifically designed to help cancer patients, survivors and caregivers cope with their physical and emotional symptoms.

When Did You Need to Work On This From A Mindfulness Standpoint?

Tamara has had a mindfulness practice for quite some time, even before David’s diagnosis. Tamara had about two weeks of real worry and overwhelm after they received the news on his stage 4 cancer and their son’s lyme disease. One night she was thinking to herself on what advice she would give someone if they were going through the same feelings and emotions. She would recommend a spiritual practice, and mindful and meditation centre. She began to follow her own advice and she began to feel much better.

Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra

Make light of dark situations.

AND

I am here now, I am experiencing this in every moment.

The Impact Meditation Has on Us

Meditation can have a huge impact on healing someone. They not only cover meditation for the caregiver and patient, but started covering impact areas like Creating Calm, Personal Power and Vital Recharge for Caregivers. They’ve created support that not only helps someone in the moment, but supports them for years to come.

Your Experience as the Patient

It seemed even more impactful for David because he was a professional healthcare provider. He went from being the caregiver to the patient. He had to really get into the mainframe of receiving help from not only doctors and treatment, but also Tamara, friends and family. He really had to learn how to embrace the gifts that people were giving him through companionship and support.

When You Tripped Up

Tamara’s biggest trip up was during those first two weeks after they found out about the diagnosis. She felt like she wasn’t even in her own body. She didn’t feel helpful towards herself or for her guys; she was just going through the motions.

There was one evening down the road in particular that she felt completely helpless. She needed a sign that everything was going to be alright. Find out this incredible story by listening to the interview.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

She describes her proudest moment being her entire courtship with her husband. She had put so much work into understanding her patterns and finding her vision, and now everything had paid off. When her and her husband first started to know each other, she felt great going into it, felt confident with everything, and it resulted in her finding her person.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Relationships are sacred.

AND

Make sure that you laugh and dance.

Best Partnership Resource

Access Consciousness Website

Recommended YouTube channels - Matt Kahn, Sharon Salzberg, & Diana Cooper

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Kongit Farrell – What’s your vision?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 23 May 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Kongit Farrell, is a licensed marriage family and sex therapist. She works with couples to repair and transform their marriages after painful infidelity, lack of sexual intimacy and turmoil from family problems sabotaging their relationships.

Kongit also helps single men and women who are struggling with dating and finding compatible partners. She’s been known to do some successful matchmaking and has been approached by production companies to work her magic!

She’s the founder of The Inspired Journey Counseling Center, that is dedicated to helping people achieve healthy lives, loving relationships and achieving the satisfying sex they deserve.

Kongit has been happily married for ten years and she and her husband are expecting the arrival of their first baby soon.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Active listening.

A Time When You Tripped Up

Kongit has always had that therapist vibe. Even when she was very young, people would ask for her advice. She knew she had that gift but wasn’t sure about what field to pursue.

She came from a broken family, divorced parents, and a single mom. In her teens to early twenties, she was having unhealthy relationships with anyone who she dated. She couldn’t figure out why that was happening. she had come to realize that she has never had a proper relationship template. She didn’t know how to communicate, she didn’t know how to plan for a healthy relationship, and didn’t know how to make the proper selections.

Find out how Kongit turned this around by listening to her interview.

That “Duh” Moment in Partnership

Kongit goes back to that time where she was really struggling with her misaligned visions and goals. She remembers one relationship in particular where her partner had really different views on relationships. He didn’t want to be in a committed relationship and he wan’t to see other people. She kept approaching the situation like “Why do you want to see other people? Why am I not good enough for you? Why do you not want to be in a relationship with me?”. After some time she realized that it wasn’t at all about her. It could have been any woman in the world. He just didn’t want to be in a relationship.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Be intentional.

Best Partnership Resource

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus -Dr. John Gray

She's Worth The Chase! - Kongit Farrell

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Follow Your “Yes” – Living your life like you want to

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 16 May 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Robert Kandell

Not Following - Robert was in love with a women, and part of an organization and community that was very intense. The strong social leader of this organization advised him to split up with her. She told him that his partner was holding him back and told his partner that he was holding her back. Even though he didn’t believe her and agree with her request, he did it anyway. That was over 10 years ago and Robert still has an ache around not listening to his internal guidance. It ended up really messing up his love for quite some time afterwards.

Following - In the same group that he dedicated about 12 years of his life to, about a year before leaving, he was being moved around from different centres of the organization all around the world. After being moved for a third time in less than a year, he was by himself one night and decided that he didn’t want to be moved around like this for the rest of his life. He wanted more control and to live his life they way he wanted to.

Listen to Robert’s interview here

Connect with Robert -

Robert's website

Listen to Bex's interview here

Bex Burton

Not Following - In the several months leading up to meeting her husband, she was auditioning a team of performers for a group performance. She read through the invitation for what the role called for and she felt like it was a stretch for her to perform and it was out of her comfort zone. It was calling for someone to wear lingerie and play the role of a dominatrix. She really ended up giving it her all for the auditions and rehearsals because at that time she thought she wanted to be a full-time performer.

Find out the rest of her story by listening to her interview.

Following - Bex tells us of how things came about with her relationship with her husband. She had just been let go of the performance group, and she was feeling terrible. After a bit of time she was finally able to shift that feeling and knew that it wasn’t her true, authentic ‘yes’. She started thinking about what was really in alignment with her vision and her art. She was gifted this vision of creating this large scale hole hoop performance, which ultimately led her to her husband. She ended up writing the love story performance that ended up coming true for her.

This was a truly lovely story that Bex shared. Listen to hear the rest of the story.

Connect with Bex -

Bex's website

If the Buddha Dated - Charlotte Kasl

Bex Burton – We are on the same side

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 09 May 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Bex Burton is a Certified DreamBuilder and Love Coach. She supports smart, successful, single women in becoming radiant and magnetic to LOVE, so they can attract lasting, loving, soulmate relationships with amazing men.

After failing painfully at love for well over a decade, Bex set out to “get to the bottom” of what wasn’t working. Along the way, she discovered her own personal Majesty, “accidentally” wrote her own true love story, brought it to life through hula hoop performance art, and attracted an extraordinary man, who is now her husband.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

We’re a team, we’re on the same side, and nobody is at fault.

When You Tripped Up

One thing that Bex tripped up on consistently for 10+ years was when she was dating quality men, she would have a “dumpster fire fight” and end everything and walk away. She would always put the blame on her partner. Years later she would realize that she was only looking to blame the other person and take none of it herself.

That “Duh” Moment

Bex goes back to that trip up moment where she would exit out of relationships so unskilfully when the person was a great person. Bex would finally wake up from that and realize that it was her and not him. She began to look back on all of her relationships with quality men and it occurred to her that she was the common denominator.

Find out the rest of her story and how she turned things around, by listening to her interview.

Proudest Moment in Partnership

Bex is a strong believer that you can’t get rid of your past or your childhood programming. She does believe that you develop your skills, that you learn from your experiences, and grow overtime so that you partner with others better and better. What she has noticed in herself, her husband, friends, and clients, is that there are those fear centres within. Even in her current relationship with her husband, she has felt herself shapeshifting and exiling the greatest parts of herself. She would soon clue in and realize this is what happens when you’re in a relationship. What she’s so proud of is now being able to work with these relationship situations and having the tools available to know what to do.

Best Partnership Advice You Have Ever Received

Learn how to communicate.

And

Hold yourself accountable.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Bex's website

Getting The Love You Want - Harville Hendrix

Robert Kandell – Being responsible with your communication

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 02 May 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Hailed as “part football coach, part loving Dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant” Robert Kandell has spent the last sixteen years helping people re-energize their lives and build better relationships through more honest and authentic connection.

After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded OneTaste in 2004 with Nicole Daedone. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market, Robert built the company from scratch to a high seven-figure international corporation.

He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own Consulting firm helping small businesses become marketable and profitable. Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer. He brings his enthusiasm and acumen to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love, on subjects around relationships, intimacy, communication and gender dynamics.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Don’t withhold. Tell the truth and be deliberate.

And

Being responsible with your communication.

What’s behind sexual shame for men?

Robert explains that everyone has shame, at least a little of it. And shame is when someone doesn’t feel 100% fine with talking about something. Society puts really strong boxes around what is “appropriate” - what you can talk about, what you can think about, what you can fantasize about. Most people who are outside those boxes find it hard to express their feelings and thoughts. It’s even harder for men because men “aren’t supposed to express their feelings”.

Find out the rest of what Robert had to say by listening to the podcast.

What can women do to support the men in their lives who are feeling sexual shame?

Robert explains that the main thing you can do is to practice approval. Think of a computer with a virus. You don’t throw out the computer, you instead work to isolate and eliminate the virus. It’s the same situation when it comes to people. Making sure that you’re on your partner’s side, that you approve of them as a human being, and you will work with them to explore and better the situation, will help alleviate any sexual shame.

What have you noticed from the “swipe right” society that has developed in recent years?

Robert believes that it’s been a mess but there is hope. The first thing he notices is the balance of masculine and feminine dynamics. There’s also been a big change in terms of male and female roles. In just one generation, we’ve seen the gender pay gap shrink. It’s gone from 64 cents i the 80’s to currently, 94 cents per dollar. This has enabled women to make their own choices, rather than rely on a man financially. Because of this, you’ll see a portion of men quit on things and look towards video games and porn, rather than the dating scene.

This topic was so interesting and Robert had so many amazing things to say. To hear the rest of what he had to say, listen to the podcast.

What’s your outtake on “ghosting” and the impact from it?

Ghosting is defined as basically not completing a communication cycle. What’s happened with social media and today’s digital world, we assume communication is done once we send a text, comment, or email. We’ve learned to be very lazy communicators.

Robert believes that there are two types of ghosting. One would be because people believe there is an endless amount of other, easier ways of getting the same result, and two, some people believe that it’s nicer to just stop all communication, rather than saying that you’re not interested. In reality, this is not true.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

You can’t see all of who you are without an outside approving look.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Robert's website

Listen to Kim’s interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Unpacking all of the programming

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 25 Apr 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Kim Sarasin

Not Following - The first thing that comes to Kim’s mind is when she made the decision to move to another city. She was living in this beautiful place in Vancouver in her ideal neighbourhood. It had everything she wanted but after some time she felt a sense of decay when she was in it. This went on for quite some time and she let her ego make the decisions of staying there. She started to notice that other aspects of her life were falling off track because of this.

Following - Kim referred to a situation that was quite recent. She had decided to rebrand and put together a whole new website after it’s been thought about for a little while. Once she put it in motion, things started to move along greatly and at lightning speed. The perfect designer showed up, the perfect stylist, the perfect photographer, and everything was just falling into place nicely.

Connect with Kim -

Kim's Website

Listen to Andrea's interview here

Dr. Andrea Pennington

Not Following - When Andrea was working on a book proposal, after she had already published several books, she wanted to share a very special message because of the growth she had the past several years. She went to her New York book publisher and she felt really confident in bringing this new and fresh message to the world. When she was partnered up with a media editor, this individual changed a lot of the direction and voice of the message. She wanted to part ways but ended up not following her “yes”, and later wished she had.

Following - Andrea visited the south of France back in 2005, and she remembers thinking “Wow, I could really live here”. She let that sit on the sidelines until she returned once again in 2010 and felt the exact same feeling. This was where she wanted to be. She then talked to a mentor and they also encouraged her to go. Soon after she decided to go.

Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast.

Connect with Andrea -

AndreaPennington.com

MakeYourMarkGlobal.com

The Great Work of Your Life - Stephen Cope

Dr. Andrea Pennington – We’re all in this together

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 18 Apr 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Dr. Andrea Pennington is an integrative physician, acupuncturist, meditation teacher and conscious communication specialist. She is also a #1 international bestselling author, highly acclaimed 2x international TEDx speaker, invited professor at the University of Monaco, and mentor for the Global Institute for Extraordinary Women.

As shared in her inspiring TEDx talk entitled 'Become Who You Really Are', she explains that recovering from a long history of depression and anxiety came when she learned to love and express her authentic self.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

We’re all in this together.

When You Tripped Up

Andrea referred to a time when she was building her first company. She had just finished her medical training and started working for a discovery health channel. She was on TV working as the Medical Director and hosting shows. During the same time she decided she would open her own medical clinic so that she could work in her own space, rather than only someone else’s. Her company ended up being very successful and was even shooting clips for the Oprah Winfrey show.

Find out where things tripped up by listening to her interview.

How does being who you really are relate to partnership?

Andrea explains that if you’re going to be in a relationship like a marriage, a business, or community engagement that’s going to have to work for a long period of time, then we need to rely on our partner(s) to be who they say they are. They need to show up and fulfill the dignity and the promises. When people are really in touch with who they are and they can articulate it, it fits into a bigger picture.

Proudest moment in partnership

Most recently, it was the publishing of a new book for Dr. Andrea. She was able to work with 29 different authors, from 12 different countries around the world to public ha book called “Time to Rise”. Each author described a time of struggle where they were able to rise up above it all. From everyone involved in the project, it all came together so beautifully.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Understand what your deal breakers are.

Best Partnership Resource

I Love You, Me! - Dr. Andrea Pennington

Time to Rise - Dr. Andrea Pennington

Interview Links -

AndreaPennington.com

MakeYourMarkGlobal.com

The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle

Kim Sarasin – Knowing how to be a queen

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 11 Apr 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Kim Sarasin – The Queen of Hearts - is one of North America’s most sought-after relationship experts. With over 50,000 fans & followers and a 97% success rate for connecting women with their soulmate, Kim has a long list of happy clients, and a wealth of tips and tools to help you attract your King.

She is a regular guest expert on CTV, CBC, Global TV and a featured writer for National print and online magazines.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

In order to attract a king you must know how to be a queen.

When You Tripped Up

20 years ago, Kim felt like she was constantly tripping up. What ultimately drove her down to California in seek of help was being stuck in a continuous cycle of attracting men that were no good for her. She would stay in these relationships way past their expiry and then finally end up dumping them. She would then go and find a nice guy but would soon after get bored and didn’t know how to receive his kindness. She’d soon after lose all interest, steamroll over him, and go out and find a new bad boy. That cycle would go on for years and years until she finally made a change.

That “Duh” moment in partnership

Kim was doing all this research on how to attract the right guy and maintain those relationships. She wanted to end her cycle and wanted to know how to ask for what she wants from men. From successful relationships that she observed, she quickly noticed that the women were so great at asking for what they wanted from their men. After further research on the topic it all started to make total sense.

What helps a women shift from being “the best man in the room”?

Kim explains that women have become production junkies. She shares that this is obviously amazing that women are where they are and moving in the right direction, but we need to find a balance between our feminine and masculine. It’s not about compressing the masculine, but rather simply bringing out the feminine. You need to allow the man to do things for you, otherwise they’ll feel like they’re not needed.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Adopt the habit of appreciating men.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Kim's Website

Listen to Steve’s full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Owning your self worth

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 04 Apr 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Steve Olsher

Not Following - Steve has been an entrepreneur for a long time. And during that time he did a lot of work in real estate development. Most of his work in real estate went well but he did get caught up in that time during 2007-09 where things weren’t that great. There was one project in particular where they weren’t able to refinance the building for what had been owed. It ended up going into receivership because they were unable to pay off the loan. Steve had left it to his council to negotiate with the bank. They had been supposedly negotiating for a year or so.

Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast.

Following - One of his proudest moments is being able to say yes to doing the New Media Summit. The summit was one of those things where he knew there was a space for it, but he didn’t know if it was going to fly or not. It took a lot of focus, work and resources but it ended up being very successful and is now something that they host twice a year.

Connect with Steve -

Summit

Listen to Alexis’ full interview here

Alexis Meads

Not Following - When Alexis just graduated from Harvard and moved back to Portland, she started her job hunt. On paper Alison always looked incredible but she had always struggled with her self worth. With her job hunt, she ended up setting the bar so low that she ended up working for a guy who wanted to pay her less than minimum wage. Because she struggled with her self worth, she figured she had to prove herself and work her way up to a better wage. The company was made up of mostly men who on a daily basis tried to belittle her. Rather than owning her worth she bent over backwards trying to please them. She knew in her gut that it wasn’t right but she stayed there for much longer than she should have.

Following - Alexis was in a relationship with a guy who checked all the boxes. During this time she was torn because she had planned on moving for an opportunity in Hawaii but the guy that checked all the boxes was really into her. He was head over heels into her and actually talked about marrying her at some point. Something deep down was telling her to let this guy go and pursue the opportunity in Hawaii. She felt something wasn’t completely right in her relationship so she chose to move on and follow her heart and original plan.

Connect with Alexis -

For my free training

The Queen's Code - Alison Armstrong

Alexis Meads – If it’s not a fit, that’s O.K.

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 28 Mar 2018 06:00:00 -0500

Alexis Meads is a Harvard educated Dating Coach and Dating Expert who founded AlexisMeads.com and the Crazy Wild Love Academy.

She has devoted her life to helping women all over the world love themselves and create extraordinary relationships.

Alexis is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, Maria Shriver, Thought Catalog, and featured on many others.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

I don’t strong-arm and I don’t bend over backwards. If it’s not a fit, that’s o.k.

When You Tripped Up

Alexis shared a story of her first love experience. She met him when she was nineteen and they dated on and off for about 4 years. She was madly in love with him but felt like the timing was off and ultimately was using the relationship to fill a deep gap in her self-esteem. She used it as a way to fill a void. She realized after a while that it would cause a trip-up. That time would come when they both found themselves being unfaithful and continuously looking for something else.

That “Duh” moment in partnership

Leading up to getting married, Alexis had a lot of fear. So many of the ‘what if’ questions came to mind. Before their wedding, they married in a courthouse and she remembers having knots in her stomach, being so nervous, and doubting herself. Once it happened and they were leaving the courthouse, she felt this wave of peace pass over her. She felt so great, like this huge weight was lifted off her shoulders. She then realized that it was her intuition being clouded over by her fears. It was never him that made her fear the situation, but instead it was past programming that did.

Proudest moment in partnership

She referred back to the start of her relationship with her husband. She described it as being a real pattern breaker. Before her husband, she found herself dating the same type of guy over and over again and repeating that pattern. When she met her husband, she didn’t even look at him as a potential partner. They started out as friends and she really enjoyed spending time with him. As they spent more time together, she realized how at peace she felt with him and how kind and thoughtful he was. She realized that it’s not the instant fireworks that she’s been chasing her whole life that makes a great relationship. She then knew that this is what she wanted.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

If you know you want to be with someone and see yourself with them for years to come, and know you’ll be great partners together, then maybe that’s all you can know.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

For Alexa's free training

You Can Heal Your Life - Louise Hay

Steve Olsher – Being the best version of you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 21 Mar 2018 08:00:00 -0500

Steve Olsher is known as the world’s foremost reinvention expert. Famous for helping individuals and corporations become exceptionally clear on their WHAT – that is, the ONE thing they were created to do – his practical, no-holds-barred approach to life and business propels his clients towards achieving massive profitability while also cultivating a life of purpose, conviction, and contribution.

An entrepreneur for more than 25 years, Steve is the Chairman & Founder of Liquor.com, online pioneer who launched on CompuServe’s Electronic Mall in 1993, New York Times bestselling author of What Is Your WHAT? Discover The ONE Amazing Thing You Were Born To Do, and author of the Business Technology Book of the Year, Internet Prophets: The World’s Leading.

Experts Reveal How to Profit Online, host of the #1 rated radio show/podcast Reinvention Radio, international keynote speaker, and an in-demand media guest who has appeared on CNN, The Huffington Post, Entrepreneur on Fire and countless other media outlets.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Don’t give up on whatever it is you want to do. Sometimes you just have to take a time out.

When You Tripped Up

Back when Steve was 19 years old he wanted to open up a bar. He didn’t have the funds so he drew up a business plan and went on a search for potential investors. He ended up finding someone to invest in the entire project. They had a good first couple of years with the business but soon after had a falling out. Steve ended up being sued by his partner for what he owed. There was some debate, but Steve being a man of principle, paid back every dollar that his partner invested.

Find out what else Steve mentioned about an even bigger trip up by listening to the podcast.

Proudest moment in partnership

Over the past while, Steve has been doing live events where he’s experienced great partnerships. With these events he brings in the top 40 podcast/influencers within their market to pitch their ideas and views to the audience. Without those top influencers, the events wouldn’t be nearly as successful as they are. Steve really considers them to be a wonderful partnership. It ends up being a win-win-win for the audience, Steve’s team, and the top 40 individuals.

How does “The What” play into partnership?

Steve describes “the what” as understanding how your naturally wired to excel. To be a great partner in business and in life, you have to have clarity around what “your what” is. Otherwise, you’re just kind of going down a path that you really think you should take, but you’re probably not truly compelled to take it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

“If I hold on to that pain or suffering, ultimately I’m the one who’s in pain and I’m the one who’s suffering. It’s best to just smile and walk away.”

Best Partnership Resource

What is Your What? Discover The ONE Amazing Thing You Were Born To Do - Steve Olsher

Interview Links -

Steve's Website

Steve's Summit

Listen to Jessica’s full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Shifting into a wild joy

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Mar 2018 08:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Jessica Valor

Not Following - Jessica was in a relationship that was intertwined. She was the VP of the company and in a relationship that took her much longer to get out of compared to what it should have. But she has no regrets because she was able to take experiences and lessons out of it. She believes that’s the most important thing you can do is learn from similar situations.

Following - She was able to follow her “Yes” when she did finally quit her job, leave everything behind, and end the relationship. Before this, she told herself she would deal with it and manage for one more year. But then these angels saved her by hugging her and not letting her turn around to go back to that. She left everything but was so relieved by doing so.

Connect with Jessica-

Jessica Valor's website

Listen to Emyrald’s full interview here

Emyrald Sinclaire

Not Following - Emyrald describes a time of when she was just beginning her love coaching business. She used to spend a lot of money on various coaching programs. She figured the more money she spent, the better and more successful she would become. This entire time her intuition was telling her no, but she chose to ignore it. She was following everyone else’s “yes”. Only when she started to follow her own guidance and intuition is when her business started to flourish.

Following - This was during a similar time in Emyrald’s life where she was just beginning to dip her toe into doing and going on retreats. She had a chance to go on a retreat to costa Rica but she knew it was expensive and she thought about the problems she had with money when she wasn’t following her “yes”. For some reason though, her gut was telling her that she had to go. It ended up being very rewarding for her. She was able to see the other women on this retreat succeed, and she ended up connecting with so many individuals and getting clients. Through the clients she made, she was able to not only pay off the cost of the trip but make a profit as well.

Connect with Emyrald-

Emyrald Sinclaire – Doing your own personal growth work

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 07 Mar 2018 09:00:00 -0500

As an international speaker, author and love coach, Emyrald works with successful and spiritual business women who are tired of being alone, haven't had time for a relationship and are absolutely ready (RIGHT NOW!) to learn the proven steps to attracting Mr. Right.

She also coaches couples in relationships so that they can clearly communicate their needs and desires in order to feel heard and experience feeling love, safety and happiness in their relationship.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You can only be your best self in partnership if you’re doing your own personal growth work.

Emyrald practices meditation each and every day to work on her personal growth.

When You Tripped Up

An example that comes to mind for Emyrald is when her and her partner first moved in together. There was a lot going on during that time. She just finished closing a business, moving to New Mexico, he was trying to sell his house, and everything else in between. What she thought should have been this great experience of moving in together, ended up being a time of a lot of bickering, stress, and falling into an unhealthy partnership.

Listen to find our what Emyrald did to turn things around in an instant.

Proudest moment in partnership

Emyrald is very proud of so many of her partnerships. She talks about her business partnerships where she collaborated with other love, relationship and spiritual coaches and teachers. They were able to combine their energies and create a really transformational experience. She gives credit to the high level of communication she had with them and really being able to make those conscious decisions.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

There’s a lot of laughs, but the reason for it is that it’s always been that you give more than you take. To truly be in a partnership, it’s because you want to be in it.

Best Partnership Resource

Nonviolent Communication - Dr. Marshall Rosenberg

Interview Links -

Jessica Valor – Where you invest your love, you invest your life

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 28 Feb 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Jessica Valor is an Intuitive Mentor and Healer for the Busy Leaders of the World who want to feel supported and connected Personally and Professionally, and who want to Turn On and Use their intuition in life and in business.

Jessica believes we all have a deep knowing of who we are and what we want-with a little guidance and awakening from the divine energy, we are empowered to thrive.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Where you invest your love, you invest your life.

When You Tripped Up

Through a series of Jessica’s relationships, she would find herself stuck. She would tell herself that she loved him but it was ultimately the fear of not feeling safe. She’d feel like she was losing her time, resources, and investments. She wasn’t trusting herself, her life, or the universe. It took Jessica many years and many relationships to learn how to let go.

The “DUH” moment

For Jessica, her “duh” moment is more of a stubbornness. It was the point where she’d reach the end of the rope. She would exhaust herself until there was only the option of walking away. She would stay in things for so long that she would be left with no other choice.

Proudest moment in partnership

Jessica feels that all of her relationships have been so important. She really learned self love, her wholeness, her worth and her value. Through each relationship she was taught how to mirror and heal.

Listen to find out what else Jessica learned through her proudest relationships.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

A relationship is a sacred union. Treat it that way.

Best Partnership Resource

Love Warrior: A Memoir - Glennon Doyle Melton

Interview Links -

Jessica Valor's website

Listen to Lorna’s full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – The clues are always there

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 21 Feb 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Lorna Poole

Not Following - Before she changed her life, she met one too many bad boys and she hit rock bottom. She wasn’t listening to her inner guidance. She was getting red flags every which way. She ended up getting very sick, she stopped eating, and became depressed.

Following - The day after she hit rock bottom, she decided that she was going to change her life. She didn’t want to be with anyone else who treated her poorly. She ended up wanting to be a coach, so she packed her bags and went to Chicago to get her certification.

Connect with Lorna-

15 Fun & Flirty Conversation Starters That Get The Hot Guy To Notice You.

Listen to Robert & Melanie’s full interview here

Robert & Melanie Novak

Not Following - Melanie explains that she was married before and she knew it wasn’t a good thing. She didn’t listen to her guidance and intuition. She kept telling herself that she was just getting jitters and kept pushing her feelings aside. If she had listened to herself at that time, she would have saved herself a lot of time and heartache.

Listen to find out what Robert had to say about a time when he didn’t follow his “Yes”.

Following - Robert offered up some information that you have to follow your guidance. If something cost a few thousand dollars, or something is holding you back and you’re having second thoughts; if your gut is telling you yes, then go with it and do it.

Listen to find out what Melanie says about a time when she did follow her “Yes”.

Connect with Robert & Melanie-

Share the magic of the proposal

www.bewillingtobeamazed.com

Robert & Melanie Novak – Following your divine guidance

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Today, we will be sharing an inspiring story of love and wonder with a couple live on their honeymoon from Vail, Colorado. Robert and Melanie Novak newly joined in union less than 48 hours ago. They will be sharing the divine orchestration of them meeting just 4 months ago and the confirmations of knowing that this is "my person" and that they are supposed to be together. Along with the decisions they made as the catalyst for these events to be orchestrated as they were.

Did you go to the body, mind, and spiritual expo looking for a partner?

Robert shared that they met at a body, mind and spiritual expo. They had not planned on meeting anyone at the expo. Robert was doing readings there and at one point he stepped out for a little break, and that’s where he saw Melanie.

Listen to find out what happened next.

How did this evolve as you went forward?

Robert gave Melanie his email and other information on a professional level. They ended up emailing back and forth for a while and got to know one another. When he reached out for her to talk to someone about divine guidance, she was very excited. Then, Robert asked her if she wanted to meet up and exchange information before he left for his trip to Egypt. From that moment, their connection grew immensely.

What does “my person” mean to you?

Melanie explains that it’s the more deep emotional connection that you share with someone. Up until her relationship with Robert, she hadn’t felt that before.

Everybody wants the fairytale…

Robert tells us that right from the get-go there was a connection. They found communicating with one another was so easy and felt so right. Everything flowed right away and there was all these little bread crumbs confirming it. They trusted the insight and guidance they were getting right from the start.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Melanie - Know yourself. Once you know yourself, it’s much easier to connect and find the person you’re supposed to be with.

Robert - Don’t get caught up on the image. Ask yourself, do you really like the person?

Interview Links -

Share the magic of the proposal

www.bewillingtobeamazed.com

Lorna Poole – Believing it’s possible for you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Lorna Poole is a dating coach who helps smart, savvy successful women who are single find love with a great guy by showing you how to master the dating phase from getting asked out to I do.

She founded Magnet For Love Coaching after her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.

Lorna Poole is the host of the Magnet For Love Podcast and a professional speaker who is passionate about empowering women to move beyond the fear, pain, and regret that has held them back from attracting the partner they truly want and deserve.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Show up in the relationship as you want it to be. If I want a kind and loving relationship, am I showing up that way?

When You Tripped Up

The biggest trip-up that Lorna experienced is what she accepted. She used to go out with men who weren’t ready for relationships. She would stay with them even when they admittedly said that they weren’t over their ex. She changed that completely and now knows what to accept and what she’s worth.

Proudest moment in partnership

Lorna explains that her proudest moment was when she got the inner strength to communicate her needs. She was once one of those people who would avoid big topics, anything emotional, and anything vulnerable. She learned overtime to communicate those needs and be very skillful with it. She helps people in her trainings deal with those same issues that she once had.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Go after what you want. You have to believe it’s possible for you.

Best Partnership Resource

Why He Disappeared? - Evan Marc Katz

The Payoff of Partnership

Lorna explains how she was always miss independent for so long. When she ended up being with a great guy, she felt so good after a while and realized that they are in this together. No matter what they had to go through, they would be in it together and support one another no matter the situation.

Interview Links -

Lorna's Website: 15 Fun & Flirty Conversation Starters That Get The Hot Guy To Notice You.

Listen to John’s interview here: Part 1

Follow Your “Yes” – Follow your “Yes” even when other’s are saying no

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 31 Jan 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dr. John Gray

Not Following -

Before his wife Bonnie, there was a woman named Barbara who was pursuing him. Barbara would say yes to everything making it difficult to push her away. He ultimately wanted to marry Bonnie but Barbara kept staying around. He ended up marrying Barbara for two years even though his heart was telling him otherwise.

Hear the full story in the podcast.

Following -

Before his big seller, 'Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus', he had a couple of other books. He was having a hard time getting a distributor for one of those books. He ended finding one and the book ended up being a success. He was then offered by another distributor for New York to blow it out of the water. He remembered the company that helped him out, and he felt a connection with his younger brother through them so he decided to stay. He followed his "Yes" even though everyone around him was telling him otherwise.

Listen to John’s interview here: Part 2

Connect with John-

Dr. John Gray's website

Listen to Allana’s full interview here

Allana Pratt

Not Following -

She married a man who was tall, dark, and handsome. He was a multi-millionaire who gave her the big ring and elaborate wedding. She knew from the start that something wasn’t right but she ignored it and married him anyway. They ended in divorce 6 years later.

Following -

She didn’t want to be a pharmacist like her dad or a teacher like her mom, so she went to school for business. After she received a D grade in one of her subjects she realized that wasn’t for her. She always wanted to be a dancer since she was a little girl, so she followed her “Yes” and took that path. She started in LA and then Japan for 4 years, making great money and doing what she loved.

Connect with Allana-

Allana's website for women - complimentary training

Allana’s complimentary training for men

Youtube

How to Be and Stay Sexy - 3rd Edition: Attracting the Love and Attention You Deserve Being Exactly Who You Are. - Allana Pratt

Allana Pratt – Vulnerability is the new sexy

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 24 Jan 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt inspires open hearted living, with delicious sass.

Featured on CBS, TLC & FOX, this cum laude graduate of Columbia is the Author of 4 books, Coach to celebrities and Host of the sexy empowering show “Intimate Conversations LIVE”.

Allana helps thousands who struggle with the fear of rejection. She teaches women that their vulnerability is what makes them sexy and shows men how to cure their ‘nice guy’ and become a noble badass.

Allana’s devotion to help her clients create hot, healthy intimate relationships is rooted in her own journey. She endured a brutal custody battle yet emerged more courageous, radiant and loving than ever.

Allana’s joy for life is contagious. She savors motherhood and pole dances for pleasure. She inspires her clients to be unapologetically true to themselves, successfully date and find lasting soul-shaking love.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Vulnerability is the new sexy.

AND

The internal always creates the external.

When You Tripped Up

She remembers talking to a boyfriend in the living room after her mom had just died, she had a two year old, and a recent divorce. Her boyfriend told her that he was planning on moving out. She began to emasculate him, but then he stopped her and said “throw shots at me, but above the belt.” From there she learned to have respectful fights rather than fighting dirty.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

When Allana was 20 years old in Japan, just moved from Canada, she ended up getting a dancer’s contract as her first job. When she arrived she realized that the contract said that the attire was topless. She felt uncomfortable because she grew up in North America where that was frowned upon. All the other girls felt comfortable because they were from other parts of the world where it’s normal and you love your body rather than be ashamed.

Find out what happened next. This was one of the most relatable and best stories we’ve had on the show.

Proudest moment in partnership

Allana talks about her current relationship with herself. She was in a lengthy custody battle for her son and she had a lot of rough times along the way. Her and her son had a great relationship and then he decided he wanted to live full-time with his dad. She first felt betrayed, but then decided to get a place up in the mountains where she could heal from the pain. She now practices healing with different spiritual coaches and no longer feels like she’s defined by her son choosing to live with his father.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

My ex husband is me. He’s a projected part of my unloved self.

Best Partnership Resource

A Journey to Oneness: a Chronicle to Spiritual Emergence - Rashaw

The Payoff of Partnership

The experience of being at her sanctuary up in the mountains all alone, but not alone at all. The work that she’s been doing to come into partnership with the divine has been her ultimate payoff.

Interview Links -

Allana's website for women - complimentary training

Allana’s complimentary training for men

Youtube

Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication & Getting What You Want in Your relationships - Dr. John Gray

Dr. John Gray – We need to find our own happiness

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 17 Jan 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Note: This is a two part special featuring Dr. John Gray. This is part 2/2. The first episode aired last week on Jan 10th, 2018.

Dr. John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. And was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.

John lives in Northern California with his wife, Bonnie. They have been happily married for over 30 years and have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.

Women’s Hormonal Cycle - Relationships

This is very important for the men and women listening.

Dr. Gray explains the two categories of a woman’s hormonal cycle, Premenopausal and Postmenopausal. He tells us how it changes the shape of a relationship during each timeframe and tips on how to react.

He also touches base on how good anticipation of an event (a date night for example) produces more hormones than the actual event.

Best Partnership Resource

Why Men Are the Way They Are - Warren Farrell

Also: Meditation, Yoga, and likeminded activities are extremely helpful in balancing our hormones.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

From his wife: How to properly hug and hold hands. A good 3 to 6 second hug helps release a surge of oxytocin. This helps in lowering the testosterone levels in a woman’s body and increases their estrogen levels. A recommended 4 hugs a day is very helpful and soothing for a relationship.

Interview Links -

Dr. John Gray's website

Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication & Getting What You Want in Your relationships - Dr. John Gray

Dr. John Gray – Men’s happiness comes in pleasing a woman

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 10 Jan 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Note: This is a two part special featuring Dr. John Gray. This is part 1/2. Part two of the interview will air next week on Jan 17th, 2018.

How did it all start?

Dr. Gray tells us about meditation becoming big in the 60’s, which led him to being a monk for 9 years. He learned to be happy without relying or being in a relationship with another person.

He explains to us the chemical differences between men and women, and how to react accordingly. His studies into relationships is ultimately what led to his #1 best selling book of the 90’s, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.

How do we communicate?

Dr. grey explains to us that women and men both communicate differently. The estrogen and testosterone levels play a huge role in how we communicate. He tells us the reasoning on why women prefer to talk about things and men sometimes don’t.

Listen to hear the fully outlined breakdown of how this works and what we can do to react accordingly.

What inspired you to write another book after 25 years?

He tells us about how there’s been a huge global shift in gender roles - women taking on many of the male dominant positions. This is a wonderful thing, but it creates several different chemical reactions. He explains to us how a woman and a man own this to ultimately grow their relationships.

How do you start getting back in balance?

Often a woman is attracted to a man who isn’t available. He explains why it’s important for a woman to switch gears and pursue a man who is pursuing her, and is available. He is pursuing her more than she is pursuing him because she’s not attracted to his availability. But this is ultimately a healthy relationship to go after.

Dr. Gray explains why this is the case.

Best Partnership Resource

Why Men Are the Way They Are - Warren Farrell

Also: Meditation, Yoga, and likeminded activities are extremely helpful in balancing our hormones.

Interview Links -

Dr. John Gray's website

Listen to Lori's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Learning to follow your heart

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 03 Jan 2018 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Lori Davis

Not Following -

During the time of her last marriage where she was no longer feeling good about the relationship, her and her husband were moving out of a place and looking for a new house. She realized this was the perfect chance to end the marriage but she instead went against her gut. She was afraid and decided to give it one more try, even though she knew it was doomed. If she would have simply listened to her intuition, she could have ended the relationship and avoided all of the stress and unhappiness that went with it. It didn’t serve her or her husband any good to drag things along.

Following -

When she finally decided to move out, end her long marriage, and move in to a perfect little house and neighborhood, and simply be happy, was when everything seemed to fall in place. She had a great support group of friends and neighbors, she met her new and current husband, and her and her ex husband started getting along great.

Connect with Lori -

Lori Ann’s Website

Listen to Kelley's full interview here

Radical Dating

Kelley Kosow

Not Following -

Kelley speaks of being at her wedding day and knowing that it was a mistake. She chose to follow her mind rather than her heart. She kept telling herself that it made sense but she knew it was totally off and wrong. She was trying to get through her checklist of life - go to school, become a lawyer, have kids, get married, and so forth. She kept stepping over all the warning signs that it wasn’t right.

Check out the podcast - where she gives us a business example as well when she did not follow her yes.

Following -

She relates it back to her book, where she followed herself in writing it, not others. She focused on what she thought and what she felt. She didn’t rely on someone else’s opinion based off of who they were, their reputation, or anything like that. She simply followed herself. The content of her book was her true “Yes” moment.

Connect with Kelley -

Kelley Kosow's Website

Kelley Kosow – Integrity is a lifestyle

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 27 Dec 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Kelley Kosow is the author of The Integrity Advantage, a motivational speaker, and the Chief Executive Officer of the highly acclaimed Ford Institute.

She continues the legacy of the New York Times bestselling author and thought leader, the late Debbie Ford, and leads the development and teachings of The Ford Institute’s transformational programs to thousands of people across the globe.

Known as a “kick-ass coach” to high-level executives, change makers, and celebrities committed to personal transformation, Kelley blends her quick wit, laser sharp insight, and relentless compassion to help people upgrade their lives on a cellular level.

Throughout her impressive career as a successful lawyer turned personal growth super star, she has been featured in Oprah Magazine as someone who could “Dream it, Do it.” You also may have seen her in People, InStyle, Working Mother, Latina, the NY Times, Conde Nast Traveler, the LA Times or on one of her many television appearances.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“There’s nobody out there, because I truly believe that in a room full of people the only one who can’t see yourself is you. We learn through situations, we learn through relationships, and we learn through our body.”

When You Tripped Up

Kelley was in a marriage that ended up in divorce. At that time, she was a perfectionist who needed her makeup, outfit, career, and everything in between to be perfect. Her husband at the time was having some problems with his business and she didn’t want to be associated with his failures. That was her biggest turning point when it coincided with the work she started doing with Ford Institute. She learned that if you’re pointing one finger at someone else, three are pointing back at you.

How do you own all your projections?

She explains that first you have to have your projections unconcealed. You find out whether it’s a disowned quality. Once you see it, you have to find out how you’ve been like that. Then you have to find the gift of that quality. After that, you’re able to be straight with people and dispel the story of negative projections.

Check this out.

Proudest moment in partnership

Kelley’s so proud of all her partnerships. She’s in such a great place and has surrounded herself with amazing people in all parts of her life. She specifically mentioned the man she’s been dating for the past year. He’s so kind, supportive, and giving. She described it as being such a healthy relationship.

Find out more in the interview.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

There’s no one out there. Always look at yourself. How are you co-creating what you are experiencing?

Best Partnership Resource

Debbie Ford: Spiritual Divorce : Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life (Paperback); 2006 Edition

The Integrity Advantage: Step into Your Truth, Love Your Life, and Claim Your Magnificence

Payoff of partnership

She described the payoff of partnership so well by simply putting it, “A life I love”. She feels like she’s on a magical carpet ride.

Interview Links -

Kelley Kosow's Website

Lori Davis – Take responsibility for your own happiness

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Lori Davis is a Certified Relationship Specialist – Speaker- Author

Her mission is to provide you with the skills you need to have the unstoppable relationship you deserve.

Lori has over 28 years’ experience empowering individuals and couples to live richer, happier lives. She provides relationship coaching to people throughout the world. Her practice spans the spectrum from dating and singles to working through divorce to renewing long-term marriages.

She is the author of Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.

She is also one of the coaches on the new Radical Dating Show, www.Radical-dating.com

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Get out of your head and quiet yourself down, and listen to that inner voice.

When You Tripped Up

She became single after being married for 28 years. At a certain point her life wanted her to go in a different direction but she ignored it for a period of time. The guilt grew worse before she finally stopped ignoring it and moved forward.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

The moment she woke up and stopped being in fear. She was a therapist during that time so her marriage was “not supposed to fall apart”. For some time she figured she was supposed to fix it. It’s the moment that she woke up and realized that she can’t do that, that’s not going to happen. That’s when things changed. She surrendered to her true path.

Proudest moment in partnership

When she found her current husband through online dating. She became very open to finding her partner. She never pictured herself with someone like him but she was open to the chance of it. He’s so different from anyone she ever thought she would end up with. She realizes more and more how perfect he is for her.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

“Take responsibility for your own happiness. To not ask your partner to be responsible for making you happy. They can contribute but it really comes down to you”.

Best Partnership Resource/book

Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life & the Life That You Love

Radical Marriage: Your Relationship as Your Greatest Adventure

Interview Links -

Listen to Candice's full interview here

Radical Dating Site

Follow Your “Yes” – When you follow your “Yes” there’s nothing to think about

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 13 Dec 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Candice Oneida

Not Following -

Candice was in a relationship with a man who she had broken up with and then got back together with. Then she proposed to go into business with him, even though she knew this was not a good idea because of how he was with her.

The relationship tanked. He took her business from her and all of her assets and she was left completely bankrupt and alone at the end of it.

Following -

Sixteen years ago Candice’s spiritual teacher spoke with her about moving to America and starting a spiritual school.

This was a dramatic change in her life and it was crystal clear this was the thing to do. Looking back, she wouldn’t have changed it for the world.

Connect with Candice -

Candice's website

PowerfullyFem.com

Listen to Tracy's full interview here

Tracy Crossley

Not Following -

For decades Tracy never spoke her “Yes” because she didn’t know what it was.

She ran around saying “No” all the time but wanting s0me one to show up with supernatural powers and be everything she needed them to be.

Connect with Tracy -

Tracy Crossley – The art of surrender is the best thing ever

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 06 Dec 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Tracy Crossley is a Master Intuitive Coach and Mentor whose work centers on emotional connection.

She helps people get out of their head to uncover the belief system that drives their behavior, then guides them through emotionally-driven actions to break the patterns that keep them stuck.

As someone who struggled with insecure attachment issues for most of her life, Tracy shares her experiences with equal parts empathy and humor. She’s been there, and knows how much is available to those who refuse to settle. The work she does leads to self-acceptance and a more authentic life.

Tracy, take a minute and let us know if there is anything we missed in that intro & give us a glimpse into how you started doing the amazing work you do.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Transparent communication is key so nothing gets stuck under the rug.

When You Tripped Up

Tracy spent many years not taking responsibility for her role in her relationship.

Then one day she was walking down the street and it slapped her upside the head and said “Hey, you’re the problem. Until you get this emotionally figured out, you’re not going anywhere.”

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

When Tracy started speaking her truth it changed a lot.

She gave herself license to express herself no matter what he said or did.

She didn’t say things to get a specific outcome, which is how most people speak. She was speaking because she knew that if she didn’t express these things she was letting herself down. This is one of the way she developed value.

Proudest moment in partnership

Recently Tracy’s partner said to her “You know I unconditionally love myself.” And because we are mirrors for each other she realized that says a lot about where she’s at too.

What are emotionally driven actions?

This is being vulnerable where it’s not safe. You have to have safety within yourself to do this.

So fascinating. Check this out.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Stay open hearted.

Best Partnership Resource

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

Interview Links -

Candice Oneida – Is this person relationshipable?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 29 Nov 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Candice Oneida is an international speaker, founder of the Powerfully Feminine Intensives and is Australia's #1 Feminine Success Mentor.

Her background in corporate Australia for 12 years and then starting up five successful companies with up to $1 million in annual earnings, led her to the realization that feminine principles were sadly lacking in the business world.

Candice is passionate about instilling feminine values, skills and practices into her own businesses as well as teaching others how to do the same in their work and life.

With 20 years of deep training in meditation, transformation studies and research, Candice brings depth, knowledge and personal experience to her speaking, programs and private mentoring sessions.

Candice has personally taught over 120 workshops and worked with over 2,000 women from all over the world on the topics of self development, meditation, sexuality and feminine power.

How can a woman reconnect with her feminine

Candice said there is something called the false feminine and the true feminine and most of the things women fear about being in the feminine are related to the false feminine and they don’t serve anyone.

This is fascinating.

When You Tripped Up

Until Candice realized her lack of connection to her own feminine, her biggest trip up was she was so in her masculine that she would unwittingly emasculate the men. She would end up in this unconscious competition with them.

She didn’t allow space and receptivity for the man’s masculine to emerge. And/or she was attracting the wrong kind of man who didn’t match her power. This is her inner power not a power over someone.

Then she learned how to lead through her feminine. This created a space of invitation for the man to show up in his true masculine. Which is actually what women want.

Proudest moment in partnership

Insisting that she held the feminine polarity when she went out and dated. Letting herself feel vulnerable. Letting herself receive the man. Letting herself be real with what was or wasn’t happening in the dating dynamics.

This has resulted in her being in a great relationship with a very masculine polarity man. And the more he goes into his masculine, the more she felt confident to go into her feminine.

This has created a virtuous circle instead of a vicious one.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Let the masculine lead the direction of the relationship and let the feminine lead the depth.

Best Partnership Resource

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Interview Links -

Candice's website

PowerfullyFem.com

Listen to Troy's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” – Follow your gut instead of your pride

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 22 Nov 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Troy Spry

Not Following -

Troy and his wife were at a concert in New Orleans and he was getting tired and wanted to go back to their hotel, but she really wanted to see the final act who didn’t come on until after midnight.

His gut said, “Let her have this moment” but his pride said “I’m not gonna let her tell me what to do.”

It led to a big argument.

Following -

Troy likes his weekends to do nothing and relax. And there was a big conference on marriage that he did not want to go to at all. But his gut told him they needed to invest in their marriage and get some new perspectives.

As a “expert” he can think that he knows it all, but his gut said they needed to go.

After that conference they went from bickering to next level love.

Connect with Troy -

Instagram: @xklusive5

Snapchat: @xklusive5

Scott Stabile

Not Following -

Years ago Scott got a job at a branding company that he thought was really cool.

Life was being ridiculously clear with the messaging not to take this job and his gut was telling him not to take the job. But he paid no attention and took the job.

He only lasted there 3 months and every point along the way was a reminder that he ignored his “Yes.”

Following -

Scott’s book is a great example. There were many signs he needed to write it and the driving force inside to share his life experiences was such a powerful strong “Yes” that he finally did it.

His intuitive “Yes” made him sit down in front of his computer and do it.

Listen to Scott's full interview here

Connect with Scott -

Scott Stabile – Love is always serving everyone involved

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 15 Nov 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Scott Stabile’s inspirational posts and videos have attracted a huge and devoted social media following.

His previous works include Just Love, Iris, and the Li’l Pet Hospital series.

A passionate speaker and love advocate, Scott runs daylong empowerment workshops nationally and internationally.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

What does love invite me to do in this moment?

How is love inviting me to respond in this moment?

When You Tripped Up

When Scott is tripping up the most it is always around communication. It is always around an unwillingness to sit in front of one another and be honest with what’s going on.

This includes being willing and present to his partner’s truth. Showing up to a conversation without the need to be right.

It is important to consider timing. If we enter into communication with our partners when there’s really no good possibility of anything positive happening, we’re setting ourselves up for failure.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

No one can read your mind.

Scott used to get so frustrated and angry that his partner should know what he’s thinking and responding in accordance to what is going on in his mind.

This expectation always leads to disappointment.

A Payoff of Partnership

When Scott came into partnership with himself and love as the guiding force in his life, and was finally able to heal from the tragic loss of his parents when he was a child.

Once he partnered with love all the relationships in his life shifted. And his life changed for the better, over and over and over again.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Listen

Best Partnership Resource

Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

TheRumpus.net

Interview Links -

Troy Spry – Love is represented by action

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 08 Nov 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Troy Spry is a speaker, author, and certified life and relationship coach and “Reality Expert”.

Troy’s blogging has taken him to new levels as he has released two books “Teach Me How To Love: Why What You Don’t Know Will Hurt You” and his first E-Book entitled “Teach Me How To Love: A Man’s Journey Toward and Through Marriage.”

Troy’s mission is simple: to inspire individuals to first become better people so that they can become better mates, create better relationships and ultimately help to build better communities. He is a firm believer in the fact that you must live life intentionally and on purpose!

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Lust will get you there, but only love will keep you there. Because love is represented by action.

When You Tripped Up

When Troy’s mother was dying, he lived a couple hours away and his twin sister was providing the majority of the care for their mother.

He tripped up when he made light of all that his sister was doing to care for their mother. And until he stepped into her shoes and provided the care himself, he didn’t truly understand.

As a result of this trip up he now goes the extra mile to understand his partner’s perspective on things.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

When Troy and his wife were expecting their daughter they got in a big fight because Troy had not put together the baby crib yet.

Their daughter was not due for a few months so he didn’t know what the hurry was. Turns out it was because of what putting the crib together meant to his wife.

This is a great story…check it out.

What women need to know about men…

Men are different. We think differently. We behave differently. So ladies seek to understand from his perspective first before condemning him.

Embrace those differences instead of fighting them.

What most men don’t know about women…

A lot of women see a man being vulnerable as strength. But men don’t know that, so we think we have to be hard and tough and seem so strong all the time.

What’s really sexy to a lot of women is when a man can be more vulnerable, because she sees security in that.

To a woman vulnerability is not weakness, it’s intimacy.

Proudest moment in partnership

Troy values his partnership with his wife the most. Everything she touches with him is gold. Her support for him is priceless.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

What you invest in, is what will grow.

Best Partnership Resource

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Don't You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! The Book of Questions for Couples

Payoff of Partnership

Troy was always good at writing content, but he was not so good at grammar. His wife stepped in and started editing his blogs.

Once she did this, Troy’s writing started getting picked up by major publications like Jet Magazine and Black and Married with Kids and Digital Romance.

And they have become a lot closer as a couple because she got to know his inner thoughts and know him at a higher level. These were two big payoffs.

Interview Links -

Instagram: @xklusive5

Snapchat: @xklusive5

Follow Your “Yes” – Follow your “Yes” even when it scares you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 01 Nov 2017 08:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Riana Milne

Not Following -

When Riana found out that her ex-husband downloaded her will to see what assets she had, she “forgave” it and turned a blind eye. Then some other things showed up.

She knows now that she should have walked away, but you live in hope that everything will be OK.

No relationship is perfect so she justified things because she was in love.

As you heard during Riana’s interview that was a big mistake that led to lots of pain for her and her family.

Following -

Riana wanted to get her message about childhood trauma to a larger audience.

She went to an event and received an offer to work with a coach at a very high price and she felt it was the right thing to do. She had no fear around it and knew it was her “Yes.” And she has created huge success from following this “Yes” including the new school she is launching now.

Listen to Riana's full interview here

Connect with Riana -

Helena Hart

Not Following -

Helena applied for a Phd program to be a clinical psychologist and didn’t think she’d get in, because they are hard to get into.

A big part of her was kind of hoping she wouldn’t get in. Then she could say she tried and she could go do what she really wanted to do.

When she got in, she had to move someplace she couldn’t stand and everything in her was saying “this isn’t your path” but she still kept going.

A year an a half later she dropped out of the program. And she wishes she had listened to herself, but back then she was always looking outside herself for someone to help her make the big decisions.

Helena was afraid that everyone would be disappointed in her or not understand when she finally dropped out, but they just wanted her to be happy.

Following -

Helena knew for about a year she wanted to be a relationship coach. And then one day she received an email from her mentor Rory Rate about the first time she was offering a coaching training program.

Helena got on the phone with her and even though she tends to be quite cautious when spending large sums of money, everything in her was a “Yes” and she enrolled on the spot.

It was THE best decision she ever made and her life is completely different now as a result. She is living the life of her dreams because of that one decision.

Listen to Helena's full interview here

Connect with Helena -

Helena's website

Helena Hart – Love and money tend to go hand in hand

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 25 Oct 2017 07:00:00 -0500

As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, author and Master Coach Teacher, Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives - and she can get results for you quickly.

Whether you're recently single or you've been single for years - or you're in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere - Helena can help you quickly and permanently turn your love life around. You'll be amazed at how easy and FUN it can be to attract more love and the right man for you, without having to work so hard!

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

All I ever have to do is be myself and I effortlessly attract love and abundance.

Things are always working out for me.

Since things are always working out for me, there must be value in this. (a rough time)

I’m at the right place. In the right time. Doing the right thing.

When You Tripped Up

In Helena’s partnership with her own desires she was seeking fulfillment outside of herself.

Then she started seeing her patterns via trial and error. She was notorious for breaking up and getting back together.

The shift was when she started only dating men whose energy was coming towards her. This shifted everything.

Proudest moment in partnership

Helena is a self proclaimed perfectionist and tends to do everything on her own.

In the past couple of years she has opened up and been able to help many more women by partnering with other coaches.

By trusting herself enough to partner it paid off huge, both for herself and for the women who they were able to help through this partnership.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

When you look at your man, you have a choice in that moment. You can either think about something that you like about him. Something he does that has you feel cherished and adored. Or you can think about whatever it is that’s irritating you or bothering you about him.

That choice is yours.

Best Partnership Resource

By - Rory Raye

Interview Links -

Helena's website

LOVE Beyond Your Dreams: Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve (Beyond Your Dreams Relationships Book 2)

Riana Milne – It all begins with understanding

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 18 Oct 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Riana Milne is a Certified, global Life, Dating & Relationship Coach, a Life & Dating Coach for the new Docu-Series - Radical Dating – Finding Lasting Love Over 40; Host of her former TV show: Lessons in Life & Love, an educational speaker, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Certified Trauma & Addictions Professional and has been doing this work for over 18 years

Her best selling, 5 star-rated books, LOVE Beyond Your Dreams – Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve - and - LIVE Beyond Your Dreams – from Fear and Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose, and Success, address life transitions, personal transformation, and relationships with yourself and others.

She lives in Delray Beach, Florida. And offers online virtual Coaching Courses for Singles & Couples.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You can’t change what you don’t understand.

Help yourself by helping others.

How Riana Got Started Working With Childhood Trauma

Riana was working in the school system with kids and childhood trauma when her husband came home one day saying he lost his job as a school superintendent because he was caught having an affair with a teacher.

This blindsided her and she started to research why she did not see this coming.

She started looking at the relationships she had been in and all of the men had some form of childhood trauma. There are ten traumas.

After an amazing James Bond-like story, that you are going to love, she learned that chemistry is very dangerous and led her to being blindsided by her husband’s infidelity.

The Internet May Be Feeding Your Trauma

Close to 90% of people struggle in life and love. You may be adopting other people’s traumas as your own.

Why relationships turn toxic

Children of trauma have incredibly big hearts and want love in the worst way.

So when you meet them they seem amazing.

Then after 4 - 9 months the triggers and insecurities and anxieties start to come out.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Don’t wait to get help.

Trauma does not resolve itself.

Best Partnership Resource

The Sociopath Next Door

Live Beyond Your Dreams: From Fear and Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose and Success (Volume 1)

Interview Links -

Follow Your “Yes” – You don’t find your “Yes” on paper

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 11 Oct 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Hunt Ethridge

Not Following -

Hunt met a woman many years ago via the MySpace website. She pursued him and she was beautiful and talented and he did nothing to get her. Truth was he did not have any strong feelings for her.

His “Yes” was that she was not a match, but he was thinking with the wrong part of his body and entered into a relationship with her.

She was everything he wanted on paper, but the feelings weren’t there. He was just wasting time.

A couple of months down the line she wanted to get more serious, but Hunt still did not have those kind of feelings for her. Ultimately she was mad at him and felt like he had misled her. And he felt bad that he had wasted her time.

Following -

Hunt lived in Hoboken, New Jersey which was a very social place to live.

He had a roommate he met on Craigslist and a few years later his roommate was starting a company and invited Hunt to be the face of the company.

At this point Hunt had yet to go to business school and was unsure if he had what was needed, but he trusted his gut that he could be what they needed and said yes.

This company ended up being successful and it was a great yes for Hunt.

Listen to Hunt's full interview here

Connect with Hunt -

Hunt's website

Listen to Mike's full interview here

Mike Goldstein

Not Following -

Mike was living in New Jersey and planning to move to San Diego and get out of the cold. This was his “Yes.”

Shortly before the move, he met a woman named Kelly and this changed the equation and his “Yes.”

Following -

Mike spent a year going on 121 meetings to land a new client for the company he worked for in his past life in the corporate world.

After all that time and effort and energy, the payoff wasn’t what he thought it would be. Plus he had built all this for someone else and when he moved on from this company everything he built would be left behind.

He realized that he wanted to build something of his own, help people and do something that he loves.

So he started his company and in his first year he made just seven thousand dollars. Not enough to live on but it didn’t matter. He stayed true to his “yes” and now he has a successful business, helps people and has his life back.

Connect with Mike -

Mike's website

FREE GIFT - How To Text Men During The Day: What Not To Do and What To Do

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

Mike Goldstein – Listen and Succeed

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 04 Oct 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Mike Goldstein is a 1-on-1 dating coach, founder of EZ Dating Coach, who helps men and women make dating and relationships SIMPLE.

He has been featured on the Today Show, The Star Ledger, Reader’s Digest, and Shape Magazine.

83% of Mike’s clients enter relationships during coaching.

He is also an Online Dating Expert who uses data from multiple major online dating sites to ensure his clients typically only need to meet 6-8 people to find someone to consider exclusivity with.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Decide what are the two to three most important things in your life and move towards them every day.

When You Tripped Up

It took a while for Mike to realize this, but his biggest trip up was that he was more interested in providing solutions to his partner instead of listening to her.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Mike was at a point in his life that he was in relationship mode. He was single, but very interested in being in a relationship and settling down.

He met a woman and pursued her hard. And it was really hard to pin her down.

His “DUH” moment was recognizing that she was not in relationship mode. She was in career building mode.

Finally, Mike realized that she was not available to focus on a relationship and moved on.

Proudest moment in partnership

Mike met his girlfriend Kelly while he was in “go have fun” mode and had plans to move to San Diego in a month and a half.

Her boundaries and her openness about what made her happy that had Mike change all his plans to move and stay in New Jersey. And he couldn’t be happier about that decision.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Listen to your woman. Don’t solve her problem.

Boundaries give your partner a roadmap to your heart.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Mike's website

FREE GIFT - How To Text Men During The Day: What Not To Do and What To Do

Listen to Tarnie's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” speaks to the emptiness inside of you

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 22 Sep 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Tarnie Fulloon

Not Following -

Tarnie didn’t follow her yes regarding having children.

Her gut was telling her that she wanted to have 3 kids and she has had none. And this is because she let outside influences override her internal guidance.

Following -

Tarnie had a very successful business in Sydney and she got this gut feeling that there was something missing in her life.

She followed this “Yes” and packed it all up, sold everything and moved to the United States to do her masters in spiritual psychology. As challenging as this was, she knew in her soul that this was the right thing.

So from the outside it looked like she was giving up everything most people aspire to, but the emptiness inside told her there was more.

Connect with Tarnie -

Tarnie's website

Listen to Spryte's full interview here

Spryte Loriano

Not Following -

With one of Spryte’s companies things were not going the way she had planned.

This was a partnership where she recognized that she needed to step down. Everything in her body was saying “this is not your path.”

When she made this announcement, she was asked by the board and others to stay so she did. She ended up staying and going against her intuition.

What ended up happening was that she ended up taking over the company. And the cost was her health for the next two years.

Connect with Sprite -

Spryte's website

Change Makers website

Spryte Loriano – Honesty and Ownership

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Sep 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Spryte Loriano is an award-winning entrepreneur and is trained as an Emotional Trauma and Personal Empowerment Therapist.

Following her "purpose of service" she launched an internet fundraising campaign in 2006, called FEED333 which fed 1.2million children in the US. The following year she partnered with Feed the Children, Salvation Army and the NBA Players Assn to launch the three largest multi-city food distributions in US history.

Spryte went on to co-founding a multi-million dollar direct sales company which brought together over 6000 social entrepreneurs and provided over $1.8 million in humanitarian aid in several countries.

For nearly a decade, as an International Speaker and Transformational Leader, she's been crafting a unique form of “Contribution-Travel” that over 1200 participants have experienced in ten countries, and that has uplifted hundreds of thousands of families and educators with clean water, education and empowerment.

Her current project is Change Maker, a WebTv series that follows over 100 social entrepreneurs across five countries as they stretch the boundaries of human potential to positively transform the world.

Spryte now resides in Ecuador.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

What keeps Spryte on track is her relationship to her angels. This pulls her back when she’s feeling lost.

When You Tripped Up

When Spryte was 31 she lost her company virtually overnight when her partner went bankrupt.

She had been in party mode, letting her child mode run her life and being out of integrity. This failure made her really afraid to get in partnership again.

What Spryte learned was she needed to take responsibility for herself in partnerships. She needs to personally pay attention and not just expect someone else to do it for her.

It has taken her multiple experiences of this lesson to really get it, and gratefully she has.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Honesty and ownership. Having a safe place for us to be human.

Best Partnership Resource

Creating time and space for your own personal connection to your own inner divine guru.

Interview Links -

Spryte's website

Change Makers website

Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship

Tarnie Fulloon – To heal you must feel

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 06 Sep 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Tarnie Fulloon is a somatic therapist and embodiment coach. She has been a Tedx Presenter and is a previous Sports Medicine Physiotherapist (Olympics Australia 2000)

Tarnie’s expertise is in is partnering with those who have recurring pain, anxiety and body symptoms.

Using her signature BodyFreedom™ Process she guides her clients through body centered practices to discover the root cause of their pain. Tarnie mentors clients to find the freedom from their pain and transform their life to live with confidence and calmness.

The relationship between physical pain and emotional pain

Tarnie believes there’s an emotional component to every pain. This has been studied and there is clear evidence of this connection.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

To heal you must feel.

As Eckhart Tolle says “transformation happens through the body.”

To move through something you must turn towards yourself, feel it, bring it to consciousness and then you can heal.

Also Hal Stone says - “we must remember that our mind is just one of our cells.”

When You Tripped Up

Years ago when Tarnie was new to Los Angeles, she had a birthday party and a friend of her did not show up and it made her furious. She took it really personally. She thought it meant there was something wrong with her or she had done something wrong.

Instead of being mad at this friend Tarnie realized she needed to improve her boundaries and not take everything so personal.

Proudest moment in partnership

Marrying her present husband is definitely one of those moments. Throughout their courtship Tarnie gave herself permission to the right to say no if it was not working. And this goes for him too.

This creates such a positive partnership with her husband.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

When you say “yes” or “no” and make a definitive decision, then you have choice. You can always change your answer. You are never stuck with it.

Best Partnership Resource

The Payoff of Partnership

In her relationship with her husband, Tarnie has learned how to surrender to the relationship and learn to receive.

Receiving not only his live, but his financial support. Building the abundant life that they have took her being willing to deeply receive and that then allowed her to expand.

This is being in true partnership.

Interview Links -

Tarnie's website

Listen to Anna's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Pay attention on your second date…

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 01 Sep 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Anna Kowalska

Not Following -

On a second date with a gentleman, Anna’s “Yes” showed up as a very strong NO. Instead of following this guidance she made every excuse to justify the relationship with this person and completely ignored the NO she felt in her body.

The relationship went on for a year and it spun her into a direction that was very self-sabotaging. Eventually he broke up with her in a very unpleasant way.

Not following her “Yes” cost her a year of her life, an unpleasant break up and not taking a different path that was more of a “Yes” for her.

Following -

A couple of years ago Anna got very strong guidance to move to Colorado. At the time she lived in New York and had only been to Colorado a couple of times, but this guidance was undeniable.

Within six weeks she resolved her live in New York, packed her clothes and her dog in her car and moved to Colorado to an apartment she rented site unseen to start a new life.

Not once has she questioned her decision to follow her “Yes.”

Connect with Anna -

Anna's website

Listen to Joe's full interview here

Joe Amoia

Not Following -

Joe was in a relationship with his ex-fiancee and everything was great until they got engaged.

He was working really hard to make the relationship work. His internal guidance was telling him he shouldn’t have to work this hard at this relationship.

They were in counseling and the counselor told him that relationships in the “real world” are hard, so since she was the “expert” he didn’t listen to his gut, he listened to her.

Four weeks away from getting married he asked her “will we ever be happy?” Because she was saying they would be happy once they were married.

This time she was honest and said NO.

What he learned from that is no matter what anyone else is telling him, his gut is always going to be the thing he listens to. This was one of the most valuable lessons of his life.

Following -

When Joe walked away from a 17 year chiropractic practice that was his identity, that was definitely following his “Yes.”

Everyone, except his wife, was telling him he was crazy.

Right after he committed to this, he was contacted by the producers of Jerseylicious and in just a few days he was on a TV show.

Connect with Joe -

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

Joe Amoia – Just because everybody else jumps off a bridge…

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 30 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Joe Amoia, is a Love Life Transformation Specialist. He is author of the popular blog, GPSForLove.com, which teaches women how to navigate the complex world of men, dating, and relationships and his YouTube channel has been seen by almost 3 million viewers worldwide.

He has been an on-going contributor to The Huffington Post, Huffington Post Live, DigitalRomanceTV.com and YourTango.com and he has been featured as a relationship expert on several episodes of the Style Networks, #1 TV series, Jerseylicious

Joe has a passion for helping others identify, resolve, and overcome the real obstacles which are preventing them from creating the results they are looking for in their love life.

After a 17 year career as a successful Chiropractor, Joe closed his practice in 2010 to dedicate his life to helping others find love, REAL Love, the kind that lasts!

He is happily married to his wife of 15 years, Natalie, and they have three sons.

Are you a member of a BMC - Bitch and Moan Club?

Do you get together with your friends and focus on the bad experiences you have had in dating and relationships.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Be honest with yourself and then speaking your truth as lovingly as possible to your partner.

Respect your partner by taking responsibility for your words and actions.

Give yourself permission to be human.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

There was a time in Joe’s chiropractic career that the business was struggling. He was feeling stressed and he feels stressed he tends to get nit-picky around the house.

Fortunately a coach of Joe’s pointed out how hurtful this was to his wife. This was a lightbulb moment. It had never occurred to him that his behavior was hurting his wife.

He went home and sat down with his wife and apologized and she burst into tears.

This has been an ongoing process for Joe and he still works on it today.

A great way to be able to call each other on your stuff

Joe and his wife have worked out signals that allow them to safely call each other out when they are acting out. This is a great technique for resolving disconnects in your relationship.

Proudest moment in partnership

Joe was very close with his father and they did everything together. His father passed away when he was 15 and this created a huge void in his life.

Recently Joe was coaching his son’s baseball team when they won the championship. Just being on the field and seeing the joy as the kids jumped up and down brought him back to being a boy with his Dad.

Being able to experience this from the other side was surreal. Watching his son succeed in life was 100 times greater than when he won the championship as a child.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Don’t take shit from anyone.

If you’’re in a relationship where you’re taking crap from somebody because you feel that you need to. You don’t feel you’re worthy or you don’t think you can have a relationship if you don’t take crap. Then you need to take a good look in the mirror and ask if this is the life you want to live.

Just because everybody else jumps off a bridge doesn’t mean you have to.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Anna Kowalska – Your hands are the window to how your heart is wired

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 23 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Anna Kowalska is an Artist and Scientific Hand Analyst.

She has transformed her life to create freedom for what she truly desires and works with her clients to help them do the same.

Anna uses Scientific Hand Analysis to identify an individual’s Soul Agreement/Purpose and unique and personal road map to living it. She creates individual and group experiences that combine intuition, creative expression and powerful guidance to facilitate creative and spiritual opening. She is the Creator of the "Dance & Paint", "Heal Your Heart" and "Free Your Wings" experiences.

How did you get started doing this work?

What she learned from the scientific hand analysis she received has set her free to follow her purpose without doubting it.

Scientific Hand Analysis vs. Palm Reading

Scientific Hand Analysis shows you how your brain is wired. The lines in your hands are correlated to the neural pathways in your brain.

What does your Heart Line show you?

The Heart Line reflects how you express love and how you receive love. Plus any heart lessons you are experiencing.

My dominant hand reflects how I am in the outer world and my other hand reflects how I am in my inner world and my inner circle or closest loved ones.

Hear Anna read my Heart Line live and unfiltered on this show…

You’ll hear Anna nail an episode of betrayal that happened when I was in the 6th grade from looking at my hands.

Plus what a bubble on my Heart Line means, and where I’m bending backwards.

The main lines that are in your hand are:

Heart line - how you express and how you love.

Head line - your style of thinking and how you process information.

Life line - your energy level. Your lifestyle.

Fate line - your career path and follow through.

Also your fingerprints indicate your purpose, your lesson and your life school. This is your North Star in your life.

Interview Links -

Anna's website

Listen to Azita's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yeses” really are no brainers

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 18 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dr. Azita Nahai

Not Following -

Azita’s big “Yes” was in an abusive relationship. She had a big “Yes” that showed up as a “don’t go this way” message when she met this person, but she paid no attention.

Where she didn’t follow her “Yes” was when she chose to be in this relationship and then staying in it even when she had opportunities to get out.

Even when people offered to help she was so afraid that she stayed. She was so disconnected from her body that she did not follow the guidance it offered.

Ultimately Azita had to hit rock bottom and feel so much pain to finally ask for help. But you don’t have to go that far if you connect with your body and pay attention to the guidance it is providing.

Following -

Our “Yeses” really are no brainers. Meaning they are meant to come from the body. We are meant to feel it.

Azita was approached by the people she worked for at a yoga studio about a recovery program she had taken because the creators of the program wanted to come present it at their studio.

Without a thought, she said “Oh never mind that program. You guys need my program.”

The truth was she had not created her Trauma to Dharma program yet. But they agreed to have her teach it in 3 months. And she sold a program she hadn’t fully created yet.

Plus this program is now the basis of all her work.

Connect with Azita -

Camille Virginia

Not Following -

Camille was in a relationship with a man, and after the honeymoon period wore off, he started to relax and show more of who he was and she found he wasn’t such a good person.

He was rude to other people and talked about people behind their backs. This made Camille feel uncomfortable but she rationalized it by thinking “he doesn’t do that to me.”

Turns out this rudeness he was showing to others eventually was shown to her too.

Though she knew in her gut his behavior was not acceptable, she made excuses for him and convinced herself that they would get back to the honeymoon period but it never happened and the relationship ended.

If she had paid attention to and followed her “Yes” she could have saved herself from much of the pain she went through.

Following -

Camille met her best friend via 3 “random” meetings over 3 - 4 years.

After the third time she realized that clearly the Universe was pushing them to hang out together.

Listen to Camille's full interview here

Connect with Camille -

Camille's website

FREE offline dating challenge

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love

Camille Virginia – Social skills are like muscles…use ’em or loose ‘em

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 16 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Camille Virginia is the founder of Master Offline Dating.

Through private coaching, workshops, and online courses she helps single women who are burned out with online dating and apps get the skills and confidence to tap into everyday opportunities to meet quality men in the real world - as they simply go about their day!

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Talk to everyone the same way you talk to your friends from high school. Be warm and consistent.

When You Tripped Up

Camille’s first love of her life came back into her life 10 years after they first met.

This second time around she missed the red flags that were still there and were why they broke up the first time. She saw what she wanted to see and didn’t ask for what she needed.

She didn’t want to appear needy and it got worse and worse and worse until they finally broke up and it was actually a huge relief.

Proudest moment in partnership

In 2012 Camille took a meditation course and met a woman in the class. Then 3 years later in at a business Meetup event she ran into the same woman. And a year later the same woman sits down next to her on a city bus, and it turns out this woman lives three blocks away.

Clearly the Universe wanted them to hang out together. And now they are best friends.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Let other people screen themselves out by you being authentic.

Best Partnership Resource

Interview Links -

Camille's website

FREE offline dating challenge

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition

Dr. Azita Nahai – Don’t waste a good trigger

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Azita Nahai is a Kundalini Yogi, speaker and therapist. She is the founder of Trauma to Dharma™ ~an experiential method that integrates a holistic mind-body-spirit approach to healing trauma and transforming one’s pain into purpose. As a domestic abuse survivor turned thriver Dr. Nahai experienced a piece missing in her own recovery, and so, she created it. Her decades of research support the use of Kundalini yoga and meditation as a valuable therapeutic modality in post-traumatic growth.

As a trauma specialist, she is fueled by her passion to awaken and empower others to become conscious and active participants in their own healing. Dr. Nahai’s anticipated Trauma to Dharma™ book launches in Winter 2017.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Don’t waste a good trigger.

Your partnerships are mine fields of triggers and they are their for a reason.

When You Tripped Up

Azita lost herself in an abusive relationship for six years in her early 20’s. She was looking for anything and anyone to fill an emptiness that she felt inside.

She was struggling with her own pain from childhood and found a bigger pain to focus on in this abusive relationship.

Azita started to lose herself in order to accommodate someone else. She would do anything to seek approval even if it meant she went completely unseen.

She needed to lose herself in order to find herself.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Azita’s ‘DUH” moment happened when she was going through her immigration interview to become a U.S. citizen.

The immigration officer called her out on a period of her life where she essentially went missing. This was the time that Azita was away at treatment and completely off the map and in hiding.

Her defenses started to come up and she wanted to armor up. But instead she took a breath and told the officer the truth. And the woman said “me too.”

This moment has informed Azita’s life. The realization that we’re not meant to go through this life alone was a huge breakthrough for her.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Whenever we come to a place of disagreement, go on a silent meditative walk with your partner. Don’t speak. Go outside. No talking, just walking.

This will help you to move the energy/emotions.

Best Partnership Resource

The Payoff of Partnership

With her husband, Ricardo, Azita is learning how to master the highest form of yoga - marriage. Having to hold a hard pose and continuing to hold it and knowing you can do it.

Being able to have the soulful partner that Ricardo is, required her to accept and receive what she actually knew she deserved. And by accepting this, she ended up getting a whole lot more.

She actually got a twofer, because he is not only her life partner, but also her business partner.

Interview Links -

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Not following your “Yes” is self-betrayal

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 04 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Victoria Allen

Not Following -

Victoria calls not following her “Yes” self betrayal.

She went into a marriage where some part of her registered that it was not the right thing to do, but she got married anyway. She believes she was healing an unconscious wound in doing this.

Victoria feels like she married this man with her wound rather than because they had similar priorities and lifestyle.

This created a real confusion for her that didn’t support either one of them

Following -

With her current husband her mind was saying “no this is not a smart relationship” but everything in her being said “Yes” commit to this man. They have been together for 15 years.

Listen to Victoria's full interview here

Connect with Victoria -

Victoria's website

Email - victoria@raiseyourstate.com

Listen to Laura's full interview here

Laura Doyle

Not Following -

When Laura wrote her first book she put her email address in the book in case anyone wanted to reach out to her for help. The book was such a huge success that she was overwhelmed and got so overwhelmed that she actually walked away from this work completely.

This was not comfortable, because this work is her mission.

A couple of years later she came back and started coaching trainers to help the women who reach out to them.

Her calling had overwhelmed her and she ran away from it.

Following -

Laura had a vision to have her own TV show. She shared this with her team on a Friday, and that weekend she hosted her Cherished For Life weekend.

Turns out an Emmy nominated producer was in the audience and approached her about having a TV show. Within a matter of just a few months she had her show Empowered Wives.

Even though this scared her, there was really nothing to do but keep going forward.

Connect with Laura -

Laura's website

Get Cherished Challenge

The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace

Laura Doyle – Make yourself ridiculously happy!

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 02 Aug 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Laura Doyle is a New York Times bestselling author and relationship expert whose latest book, “The Empowered Wife” is now an Amazon TV series Empowered Wives. Over 15,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships, but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored.

She is also the founder of Laura Doyle Connect, an international relationship coaching company that teaches women the Intimacy Skills they need to have passionate, peaceful relationships.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Respect is like oxygen to men so learn how to say “I’m sorry I disrespected you when…”

Laura shares a great story of how she applied this with her husband recently.

Let there be respect in your marriage and let it begin with you.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

When Laura was dating the man who is now her husband he took her to Hawaii.

She didn’t know how to say what she wanted and she blew up at him.

Her “Duh” moment was when she realized that it doesn’t work to just suck it up and do what her partner wants. She needed to honor her desires more than ever before so he would know what would make her happy.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

“I hear you.”

And that’s it. You are just bearing witness.

Best Partnership Resource

The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband’s Time, Attention, and Affection

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

Interview Links -

Laura's website

Get Cherished Challenge

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book

Victoria Allen – Courageous Loving

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Victoria Allen, is a marriage and family therapist, retreat leader, spiritual mentor and founder of Raise Your State.

For over 3 decades she has empowered women around the globe to extinguish menacing fears and shed limiting beliefs, so they are able to bring forth their deepest love into relationships.

She believes that women carry the transforming power to introduce fierce self-love into their lives, make loving choices, and courageously cultivate fulfilling and intimate relationships.

With decades of experience and study with some of the world's greatest spiritual masters and healers - including Don Miguel Ruiz (Best-selling author of The Four Agreements®) - she brings a wealth of expertise and experience to help women access the Courageous Love that is already inside of them.

How can women reconnect with their feminine side

Victoria recommends getting in touch with what nurtures them and give them pleasure and take care of themselves body, mind, spirit.

She has found that men just want the women in their lives to be happy. So recognize what supports their men in being successful with them and be their hero. When you do this, men just really step up.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Hold radical respect in relationship.

This is a heart based respect. Hold each others heart as you would your own heart.

When You Tripped Up

Victoria had become very good friends with a woman and they supported each other through very intense times and bonded through wounding.

Over time, Victoria began to shift and did not want a friendship built on wounding. And she began to move away and her friend could feel it.

How she tripped up was not being direct and clear with her friend. She didn’t want to have a confrontation or hurt her, but her pulling away created a lot of pain.

Eventually, her friend had the courage to talk to Victoria.

Proudest moment in partnership

For Victoria this is her commitment to her current husband of 15 years.

They had known each other for many years as friends. Then things aligned and they both knew it was right for them.

She has a deep knowing about him and what he’s here to do and she wants to support that. And he came in with the intention to hold her heart and take care of her heart.

Even after all these years they continue to grow and expand and deepen.

How do you keep a relationship growing and expanding?

We go through all seasons in a relationship and it is not always going to be Spring and growing. Sometimes it will be Fall when we shed things and release them.

When a relationship can hold a big enough container to hold the ebbs and flows that we both go through individually and together and include it all in the relationship then you can enjoy the fluidity of a relationship.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

We are love. We are here to remember we are love. And we’re here to live our happiness.

Best Partnership Book

Interview Links -

Victoria's website

Email - victoria@raiseyourstate.com

Listen to Barry's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” is not always your want

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Barry Selby

Not Following -

About twelve years ago Barry was in a relationship and he ignored all the very loud warning flags that showed up by not owning his space in the relationship. This happened because there was titillation and great sex.

But he was misaligned and not taking charge. He was not in the right relationship, but he said yes out of a desire to make her happy.

When he looks back he’s grateful for the lesson, but at the time it wasn’t fun.

Following -

When Barry wrote his book, he asked what to do with a list of principles he had written down.

The little voice that was his guidance said “write a book.” And he spent two weeks arguing with it.

When he did follow his “Yes” everything he needed to do it laid out in front of him. It ended up being an effortless process because he was in alignment with spirit and his purpose.

Connect with Barry -

Barry's website

Listen to JP's full interview here

JP Sears

Not Following -

About 4 years ago JP got into a relationship. Now his internal guidance was giving him the No sign. But he ignored it.

Even though he knew in his heart this relationship wasn’t going to work, he wanted it to work so he was fighting his guidance.

The relationship lasted 2 1/2 years, but there was a lot of suffering including lessons he had already learned in other relationships. Apparently he needed to experience them again to teach him the consequences of avoiding his internal yeses and nos.

Following -

Over the past 15 years JP has build up a very thriving, successful one-on-one client practice.

And recently he got a very clear “Yes” to let go of his client practice. This was very scary because it had supported him financially and he had learned so much from it.

It’s sometimes very easy to let go of a crappy thing, but to let go of a great thing did not make sense. But his internal guidance was calling him to let it go.

When he took this step he felt like he was stepping off a very high cliff, but he honored the “Yes” and it has been very freeing for him and allowed other new things to come into his life.

Connect with JP -

JP Sears – The Sequel

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 19 Jul 2017 07:00:00 -0500

JP Sears is a curious student of life.

He has a 15 year background providing emotional healing work. His work empowers people to live more meaningful lives.

JP is the proud author of “How To Be Ultra Spiritual.”

He is a very active YouTuber where he encourages healing and growth through his humorous and entertainingly informative videos, including his hit Ultra Spiritual comedy series, which has accumulated over 100 million views.

And last but not least (at least according to JP) he’s a handsome redhead with majestic blue eyes.

You can learn more about JP and his work at AwakenWithJP.com.

On writing a book

Writing this book was a win before it got into anybody’s hands. It was a whole hero’s journey into himself writing the book.

And the fact that it is getting great reviews and selling well is just the cherry on top.

How to stay ultra spiritual when you become a global sensation

You have to cut all the little people out of your life.

He’s done being Ultra Spiritual

The Ultra Spiritual character was a great place of freedom for JP.

Now he’s finding that when he tries to keep himself just as that character it is constricting and a loss of freedom.

Who JP is, is bigger than that character. The real JP is many characters.

To allow the whole landscape of self to be fair game feels expansive.

A deep moment with JP

What benefits us the most isn’t when we see something we already know about ourselves, but when we discover our undiscovered selves.

Especially when we see something about ourselves at a feeling level.

Amazing partnerships JP is experiencing right now

JP was of the mindset that he didn’t want a relationship. That it would take time away from his art and his work for about a year.

Then he met a woman and felt feelings for her that he didn’t know existed. And his heart was saying prioritize this relationship. Making this partnership a priority enhances everything.

This relationship is based on deep connection instead of shallow companionship and that makes all the difference.

This is the first time in his live that he has ever prioritized his partnership with his significant other.

What is a connection based relationship?

This is a relationship where we want to honor, discover and receive who our partner is.

And we give who we really are to our partner. Allowing ourselves to be discovered.

This is about surrender and deep intimacy.

What is a companionship based relationship?

This is a relationship where you are less interested in receiving who your partner is into your life and more interested in making you who I want you to be.

And I’m more interested in being who I think you want me to be in order to get your approval and earn your love rather than sharing who I truly am.

This is a very control based experience.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Be willing to experience discomfort in a relationship. Both your feeling and your partner”s feelings. If you try to avoid either, it means you’re disconnecting from yourself and/or disconnecting from your partner.

So do the things and say the things that you think will scare your partner away.

Be willing to risk being authentic. This is unapologetically honoring yourself.

JP's Book

How to Be Ultra Spiritual: 12 1/2 Steps to Spiritual Superiority

Interview Links -

Barry Selby – Unconscious programming limits the possibilities in relationships

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 05 Jul 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Barry Selby is a passionate champion for the divine feminine.

He helps strong successful committed women heal their hearts, own their self-love and magnificence, embracing their feminine majesty, so they become a powerful positive force in the world, and attract their true divine masculine partnership in relationship.

With over 30 years of study of personal development, interpersonal relationships and embodied understanding of the polarity dance of masculine and feminine, he helps women break the cycle of failed relationships and heart-break, so they can attract their true divine partnership.

His #1 best-selling book, 50 Ways To Love Your Lover, helps both singles and couples create rich and rewarding relationships.

He brings deep compassion, masculine presence, and wise guidance to assist his clients in their journey to true love.

After experiencing her work you will never look at love the same way again.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Be living your purpose in the world before doing anything else.

When You Tripped Up

In Barry’s early dating live, teens and twenties, things would go well until there was a discord or an argument. Then he’d quit and he’d leave.

Like everyone, he learned from his parents how to be in relationships. Barry never remembers his parents arguing. So his programming was: Love means no arguments.

This unconscious programming limited the possibility of relationships for him. It is our unconscious programming that we need to unpack to change where we go in the future.

Proudest moment in partnership

Barry has been a spiritual practitioner since 2000. And part of that is being on pulpit once every 3 - 4 years to lead part of the service on Sundays.

His first time on the pulpit was September 16th, 2001. The first Sunday following the 9/11 attacks. And twice as many people showed up for service as normally do.

By his doing this and providing a sense of normalcy, it provided the attendees with a sense of calm.

This opened his heart even more to being of service. And as a result of standing in front of over 2000 people his fear of public speaking basically evaporated.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

We are all individually whole and complete. We always can serve somebody else.

Best Partnership Book

50 Ways To Love Your Lover: Powerful Principles for Passionate & Richly Rewarding Relationships filled with Deeply Fulfilling and Juicy Romance!

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

Interview Links -

Barry's website

Listen to Lisa's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” may seem unfamiliar…do it anyway

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 30 Jun 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Lisa Shield

Not Following -

When Lisa was dating the man who would become her ex-husband she was not happy. She moved out and after a year without him she went back to him for another 7 years. All the same reasons they split the second time were the same ones that caused the first breakup. But since she didn’t stay true to her “Yes” she lost seven more years of her life in an unhappy relationship.

Following -

When Lisa was starting to date again at about 40, she felt like her life was amazing and it was the best years of her life and she wanted to be sharing them with her guy.

No one she knew was online, but she followed her guidance and did it anyway. The pictures were not the best and her profile was kind of irreverent, but she followed her “Yes” and did it anyway.

She went on about 100 first dates and ultimately met the love of her life.

Connect with Lisa -

Lisa's website

Dating Without Drama Facebook Group

Listen to Mirabai's full interview here

Mirabai Starr

Not Following -

From age 15 - 31 Mirabai was basically imprisoned in a relationship with a much older man, as she talked about in our interview this week.

When she broke free of that she began to experiment with different kinds of relationships.

One man in particular was very edgy and unconventional and after feeling so constrained for so long she felt that very alluring. The only catch was he was polyamorous and as much as she tried to fit herself into this situation she just couldn’t.

Everything in her was saying ouch, this doesn’t feel right, but she wasn't listening because she had this notion that she needed to be more open minded and treat intimacy more casually.

She ended the relationship and they have been able to be great friends. And ending it was such a relief.

Following -

Mirabai’s husband Jeff was not always present and available.

They were both single parents trying to navigate how to bring their families together and there was a period where he backed off and she didn’t understand why. And he was very inept at explaining what was going on for him internally. So she just let him go, even though it broke her heart.

Then a therapist recommended that she fight for him because he was the best thing that had ever happened to her.

This advice went against everything Mirabai thought was the appropriate behavior for a woman, especially if she wanted to keep her self-respect.

But she listened to her heart and drove from New Mexico to Wyoming where he was working and let him know she was not letting him go and she was going to fight for what they had. And it broke everything open. No one had ever fought for him before.

This was the exact right move and has led to their amazing 20 year marriage together.

Connect with Mirabai -

Mirabai's website

Mirabai Starr – Look in the unexpected places…

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 28 Jun 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Mirabai Starr writes creative non-fiction and contemporary translations of sacred literature.

She taught Philosophy and World Religions at the University of New Mexico-Taos for 20 years and now teaches and speaks internationally on contemplative practice and inter-spiritual dialog.

As a certified bereavement counselor, Mirabai helps mourners harness the transformational power of loss. She has received critical acclaim for her revolutionary new translations of the mystics. She is author of the award-winning book, GOD OF LOVE: A Guide to the Heart of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. And her newest book, CARAVAN OF NO DESPAIR: A Memoir of Loss and Transformation, received the Spirituality & Practice “Best Books of 2015” award.

Mirabai lives with her extended family in the mountains of northern New Mexico.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“There are love dogs, no one knows the names of. Give your life to be one of them.” - Rumi

When You Tripped Up

When Mirabai was 15 she left home and moved to an ashram and connected with a teacher who was 40.

He decided she was a divine being that had come to earth to bless the world. And it was his particular path to awaken her to her spiritual purpose. Her job was to obey everything he told her to do to be able to live out her purpose.

She so much wanted to fulfill her purpose that she did this. This led to a secret affair with him and eventually he left his wife and married her.

After 10 years she was able to extricate herself from the relationship and she learned a great deal from this trip up.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

For many years Mirabai went around feeling kind of special because she had experienced so much loss and suffering in her life, including the death of her daughter in a car accident.

It was very tempting for her to see herself as a rarified being who had been through all this.

One day she was struggling with her daughter being very difficult and she wondered why she had such a difficult life.

In the same breath, a voice came to her and said “Guess what Mirabai, this is the human experienced. And it is nothing special. It is just your version of it.”

This realization made her feel safe and connected.

Proudest moment in partnership

Mirabai is in a very happy, healthy marriage that is going on 20 years.

There was a huge opening that happened when she met her current husband, Jeff. He was none of the things that she had always looked for in relationships.

She was always drawn to the bad boy on a bike. And they had to be no older than her.

Jeff was 12 years older than her, so she rejected him right away. And he was way too nice. He embodied all the qualities I was overlooking.

It turned out he was anything but boring, which was what she equated these qualities to.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Make sure that your partner’s spiritual orientation is aligned with yours.

Best Partnership Book

Mystical poetry - Rumi, Hafiz, Lala, Mirabai, Song of Songs, Mary Oliver and Rilke

It’s an aphrodisiac, a guide book, affirmation and provocative.

Interview Links -

Mirabai's website

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Series)

Lisa Shield – Nobody’s gonna do it for you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 21 Jun 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Sixteen years ago, when no one would admit to dating online, Lisa Shield posted her first profile. Two years and 100 first dates later she met and married the love of her life.

Her success led her to become one of the first dating and relationship coaches in the country. She is a sought-after relationship expert and has been featured on Bravo’s The Millionaire Matchmaker, ABC news, and quoted in places like Cosmo Magazine and the Los Angeles Times. Her studies include a Master's in Spiritual Psychology, certification in Life and Relationship coaching from The Coaches Training Institute, and intensive training with Don Miguel Ruiz, author of “The Four Agreements.”

Her forthcoming book, Naked Dating®, shows singles how to use their emotional nakedness to attract and keep a life partner.

Lisa lives in Los Angeles, CA with her husband and best friend, Benjamin, and their two dogs, Milo and Owen. She coaches clients all over the country, both in person or by phone.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Out beyond right doing and wrong doing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” - Rumi

Be in relationship and let go of the need to be right. This creates a huge playground where you can play and be yourself because you don’t hold onto things.

When You Tripped Up

Lisa married a man who turned out to be a pathological liar.

Where she tripped up is for a long time she just saw what she wanted to see and heard what she wanted to hear.

She was so afraid for the relationship to end that she stayed in it for 13 years and made excuses for things that were not right.

Lisa learned was that if someone is pathological they aren’t dealing from a healthy paradigm.

His issues distracted her from dealing with her own issues so this disfunction served a purpose.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

During Lisa’s first marriage she was doing a great deal of introspection because things were getting so bad.

They were having an intense discussion about money. And she realized it was the same conversation they had been having for the past 13 years.

She stopped mid sentence and said “I can’t do this anymore. You need to figure this out, and I can’t do this for you. And I’m leaving.”

The next day she packed her bags and flew back to the States.

Current partnership that has you excited

Lisa adores her husband. He is a truly extraordinary human being and she feels lucky to share her life with him.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

You should never have to justify or explain yourself to a soul. People will either get you or they won’t. - Don Miguel Ruiz

Best Partnership Book

Handbook for the Heart: Original Writings on Love

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love

Interview Links -

Lisa's website

Dating Without Drama Facebook Group

Listen to Dr. Erica's full interview here

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” will change your life

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dr. Erica Goodstone

Not Following -

Dr. Erica was sorry she did not follow her “Yes” when she took the advice of a colleague in business instead of following her gut.

Following -

Dr. Erica followed her “Yes” when she started offering virtual summits. She made great connections and all it took was a little support from one person.

She knew it was something she had to do, but didn’t do much with it. Then when she followed her guidance and got more people involved everything worked.

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Dr. Joe Kort

Not Following -

Joe realized early on in his adulthood that maintaining a relationship with he family of origin was to his detriment.

Instead of saying no to them and setting boundaries, he said yes and became more injured by his mid 30s than he would have been if he had been stronger and said no earlier on.

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In his late 30s Joe confronted his family about how they treated him.

He set clear boundaries and they continued to mistreat him. So he broke off his contact with them.

It was one of the most painful things he has ever done in his whole life and it is one of the most liberating, life-changing thing he has ever done for himself. And he has never regretted it.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

Listen to Joe's full interview here

Connect with Joe -

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition

Joe Kort – The turtle and the hail storm

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Jun 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Kort is a leading expert on sex and relationships.

He specializes in Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors (OCSB)/“sex addiction”, Relationship Problems & Marital Conflict, Sex Therapy, Sexual Identity Concerns, Depression, Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

He has authored 4 books and his latest book is, "Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi: A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

With the small boy that you once were, look up to the man you’ve become.

When You Tripped Up

It is the story of the turtle and the hail storm.

You’re going to love this analogy.

How did you find balance in your partnership so you were not loosing you?

Joe had to learn how to talk with his husband differently. And it took a lot of work and it is ongoing work.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Joe’s DUH moment was the day he realized that his husband has high-functioning Asperger’s Syndrome. He was watching a movie called Adam about an adult male with Asperger’s and then the Big Bang Theory came out and the character Sheldon clearly has Asperger’s and it became clear to him.

He realized that probably 50% of their fights were because their brains work differently.

Once he realize how hard Mike tries to be in a relationship, Joe was able to calm down about things that used to frustrate him. And it has been a very different marriage since then. Way better!

Proudest moment in partnership

Being two gay men who got married before it was even talked about and that Mike was equally invested in having a legal kinship with Joe and being out and proud of their relationship together is definitely that moment.

This was not a political statement. It was a humanistic statement.

Current partnership that has you excited

That he and Mike now resolve arguments instead of just getting past it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Do unto your partner as they want to be done unto them.

Best Partnership Book

The Payoff of Partnership

Joe’s husband really taught him how to be flexible. And how much Joe can be relational and have a relationship. And not just leaving when things got hard.

Mike’s ability to stay calm when Joe is not, allowed him to ride out a lot of storms. Mike taught him that it was safe to stay.

Interview Links -

The Science of Getting Rich (A Thrifty Book)

Dr. Erica Goodstone – What works is sharing

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 31 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Erica Goodstone, Love Mentor and Relationship Healer, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Licensed Marriage Therapist, Licensed Massage Therapist practicing body psychotherapy, Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Rubenfeld Synergist, Polarity Therapist, Board Certified Personal/Life and Health/Wellness Coach.

She is a former Professor of Health and Physical Education for over two decades, where she taught about yoga, meditation, wellness, the mind-body- spirit connection, human sexuality and holistic health, decades before health awareness became more mainstream.

Dr. Erica helps her clients create and reawaken their love, healing capacity, sexual passion, and intimate connection. Feeling accepted, appreciated, and acknowledged for their own unique and special gifts, her clients become ready to finally make wise love and healing choices. For those already in a committed relationship, Dr. Erica helps them turn to their partners with a renewed ability to love, serve and be loved.

After experiencing her work you will never look at love the same way again.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Where there is love there is a way.

A way to forgive, to honor yourself and so much more.

When You Tripped Up

Dr. Erica was looking for a partner to offer trainings with, and she wanted this so much that she did not check them out first and several of them did not follow through.

Then she was working on a book deal in partnership with another colleague and they ended up sabotaging the deal with the publisher.

Where she tripped up was by not being careful about who she got in partnership with.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Dr. Erica had an online radio show and one day was wondering what was the point of doing it since she did not make money from it.

Then she had a light bulb go off. She realized that being interviewing experts on summits would still allow her to speak with interesting people and have a greater impact and build connections.

Proudest moment in partnership

Dr. Erica was putting on a conference and was partnered with a guy who was very meticulous. This was the opposite of how she normally works, but he made it easy.

She kept following the steps her partner gave her and it was a huge success.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

“You can get anything you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.”

- Zig Ziglar

Best Partnership Book

The Payoff of Partnership

When Dr. Erica was first thinking of holding a summit where she would interview Sexologists she told a colleague about it and they said “I’m in.”

Just the fact that she had that first one it inspired her to ask others. Without that partnership she might have never started her summits and given a platform for amazing messages to reach the world.

Interview Links -

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – The price of compromising your truth

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 26 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Caroline Muir

Not Following -

Caroline was asked to be part of an online production and she was told all the fame and money that would come to her by being part of this enterprise. And she let her mind get captivated by the promise of all these benefits.

Everything about this opportunity was in alignment except for the leader of it. She kept leaving her intuition about this woman and going into her mind about all the promises that were being made. She didn’t even stop to get contracts or anything like that. Caroline just let her mind override her instincts and believed this woman because she wanted all the promises to be true.

Slowly but surely it became clear that this wasn't a match.

When this project eventually fell in on itself, Caroline had to get lawyers involved and ended up in therapy.

The mistake was that she didn’t take a deeper breath and check in for her “Yes.”

Following -

When Caroline met her current partner she felt the “Yes” go off inside of her.

Not a “Yes” of love at first sight. This was a “Yes” that said, this is a quality person, give him a chance. Don’t just reject him because you’re not ready. Maybe he could help you get ready.

She followed this “Yes” through a long distance relationship for a couple of years. And all the other things that kept her safe. And is now in an amazing relationship with this man.

Listen to Caroline's full interview here

Connect with Caroline -

Caroline's website

Living a Turned On Life

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David Wygant

Not Following -

David was with a woman and he was not happy. He grew up care taking his Mom and so he tends to like women with broken wings so he can nurse them back to health. But he was getting sick of it.

He met a woman and fell in love with the idea of them. Because if he was really listening, they wouldn’t have made it past the first date.

It was clear on that first date that she was not in alignment with who he was, but he so wanted the story of her that he moved forward.

One night they were in the a circular fight at 1 in the morning and David went for a walk on the beach to clear his head. He screamed at the top of his lungs, “I can’t be with her.” And went back in the house and said he was breaking up.

But they didn’t break up. And to this day he has to deal with this woman because they share a daughter.

This was a life altering choice. And it taught him how to stay in his truth because he learned the the price of compromising that truth.

Following -

In 2006 David had been coaching men and women all over the world how to be the most amazing version of themselves when it came to attracting the opposite sex.

He loved what he was doing but felt in his gut he should be making more doing it.

Then a friend asked him what he was willing to do to get what he wanted. David thought about it and reformulated a few things in his business and the next year made 5 times what he did the previous year.

He stopped holding back and stopped playing it safe and started playing like him.

By following his “Yes” and being true to himself it made his coaching 10x more powerful too.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

Listen to David's full interview here

Connect with David -

David's website

The 10 Minute Daily Reality Check Podcast

The 10 Minute Daily Reality Check Podcast

David Wygant – Stay out of “the Looper”

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 24 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

David Wygant is a Social Strategist, Dating & Relationship Coach and Life Changer.

1.7 million men & women come to David every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, he’s discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health & wellness, and life.

He’s helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. Plus he’s also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and an unapologetic man.

Some say he’s nuts, others say he’s changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: he’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. He never sugar coats anything. And believes “nice” is so overrated. He prefers a brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any day of the week.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Wow! Another day to live this amazing gift called life. Be present. Don’t over analyze.

How do you let go of things and not over analyze them?

There’s a thing in your brain David calls “The Looper.” And he loops like anyone else does because he is human. But what he does that’s different is he knows that a loop is not a permanent thing.

So if he has a moment that drives him into looping story mode and he gets triggered he will ask himself “how am I being triggered right now?” He takes a deep breath and does not react to the person or situation.

And then David does a little exercise that he shares with us that allows him to have blind faith and live an authentic life.

When you are the most authentic person you can be, the truth will naturally come out.

When You Tripped Up

David was an investor in his friend’s business which his friend lost. Then some legal issues showed up.

He looked at the man behind the mess and chose to stay with him through this crisis and stay in partnership with him. To this day they are great friends.

How do you know if you’re being authentic?

Authenticity is a feeling. It is being in your true vulnerable self. Take authenticity inventory at the end of the day. Listen in to learn how to do this…

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

When David had his heart broke for the third time by the same girl, his mother told him that as much as it hurts right now, there is someone out there who will love you more. And due to this advice, he is very good at moving on.

For every opportunity that does not work out, instead of thinking about why it didn’t work, he immediately focuses on the better opportunity that is awaiting him.

Embrace the gifts and know that more gifts are coming your way.

Interview Links -

David's website

A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

Caroline Muir – The Tools to Create a Lasting Partnership

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 17 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Caroline Muir is the Author of Tantra Goddess, A Memoir of Sexual Awakening - as well as co-author of Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving.

She founded the Divine Feminine Awakening in 2004 and has led many workshops and seminars pertaining to the Goddess Awakening in all Women.

Caroline is co-leading a weeklong Sacred Feminine Mystery School workshop in Costa Rica in November, 2017. Go to www.divine-feminine.com for all the details.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Early in life her mantra was “follow your heart.” Now it has evolved to “follow all of your chakras.”

When You Tripped Up

When Caroline was moving towards the end of her 3rd marriage, it was hard to accept that it was ending again. But she was realizing that she really didn’t have the tools to create a lasting partnership.

She went into her 4th marriage with her teacher of Tantra and it was a training ground for what it takes to keep a partnership and a relationship really alive.

Caroline learned that to succeed requires telling the truth at all times without blame or judgement.

Proudest moment in partnership

Caroline was in a partnership where here partner valued connection more than even she did. He would instigate connection even when she didn’t think they needed any and thought they were just fine. This made the relationship stronger and stronger every day.

It added up the power of love each and every day through connection.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Talk about everything. Everyday have valuable communication with your partner.

Best Partnership Book

Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving

The Payoff of Partnership

Her current partnership and the one prior have been a launchpad to expand into more of the greatness that was inherent within her that she didn’t know what there. Seeing her bigger than she could see herself.

She now has the confidence that she can do whatever she can imagine with her life. And at 73 years old she thinks it is just beginning.

Interview Links -

Caroline's website

Living a Turned On Life

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FYYF – This is not me

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 12 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Clayton Olson

Not Following -

Several years ago in a previous relationship Clayton was in a relationship with a woman and about 3 years into it, he knew they were not compatible anymore. They were just growing different directions.

There was a large part of Clayton that did not trust breaking up with her at the time. Doubting if what he was feeling was real.

As a result he prolonged the relationship for another 9 months to a year.

The writing was on the wall, but he was too afraid of making a mistake and looking back and regretting it. Ultimately they could have saved each other a lot of time if they had just sat down and been honest with each other.

Following -

A few years ago Clayton was working in corporate America, making good money, working with friends, had a boss he respected and everything seemed perfect, but he was not fulfilled.

It took some difficult evenings of realizing that what he was doing was not where he wanted to go.

There was a gut feeling or a “knowing” that said, “this is not me.” He could not identify with the vision he saw of himself in the future if he stayed on this path.

Although he had family and friends who thought he was crazy to start a coaching business, he didn’t listen to anybody except himself.

Ultimately, it has been one of the best decisions he has ever made. It hasn’t been easy and he has questioned it at times, but he has no regrets.

Listen to Clayton's full interview here

Connect with Clayton -

Clayton's website

Jayson Gaddis

Not Following -

Jayson was in a college fraternity and there was a lot of hazing going on.

He had a gut feeling it was not cool, but he was overriding this sensitivity to try and fit in. So he didn’t speak up and say anything. And he participated in the hazing.

Following -

Eventually Jayson caught on and as president of that fraternity he started setting some boundaries.

But it wasn't until he heard a talk on hazing that his inner voice was validated. Jayson knew in his heart that something was out of integrity. As he sat there, all this shame and guilt came up and he knew it was time to act.

Jayson sent back to the fraternity as an alumni and put an end to it.

He was hated by a lot of people, but he felt great about the decision to act. It was super empowering and something he is proud of to this day.

Listen to Jayson's full interview here

Connect with Jayson -

Jayson's website

Relationship School

The Smart Couple Podcast

Jayson Gaddis – Have a growth mindset

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 10 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Jayson Gaddis is a relationship student & teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–”How to do intimate relationships.”

That’s why he founded The Relationship School™. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s married to his amazing wife of 8 years and has two beautiful kids. And when he doesn’t live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.

Jayson will teach you how to use conflict to create a more fulfilling and sustainable relationship. He teaches you that hidden within any and all “relationship pain” are the seeds of you getting more empowered in your life and more connected to yourself.

He teaches virtual relationship empowerment classes to students around the globe. And even though many of his school teachers said he sucked at writing, he writes anyway for The Good Men Project & Elephant Journal, The Jungle Of Life, Primer Magazine, Integral Life, and Recovering Yogi.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Relationships are about growth, not happiness.

When you have a growth mindset, then when your partner pisses you off or upsets you or does things that hurt your feelings, it’s not a problem.

When You Tripped Up

Early on in Jayson’s relationship with the woman who is now his wife he was studying psychotherapy and thought he really knew how to listen.

When he tried to apply the techniques he had learned with his then girlfriend, they didn’t really work. And he kept trying them for years.

Through her loving feedback, which was challenging at times, Jayson learned how to listen in a way that worked for her. And he realized he was mostly listening in a way that worked for him.

Jayson’s rule of thumb that he learned from this experience is that he doesn’t understand his wife until she feels understood and she says so.

Proudest moment in partnership

Jayson was recently backpacking with his wife and kids and he essentially set up the trip for everyone.

As they watched the Sun set one evening, he looked over at the smiles on his family’s faces and was so proud and happy to have a family and partnership that he can do these types of things with.

Current Partnerships

Jayson and his wife make it a point to carve out time for a date night every week. They are both crazy busy and they make it a priority.

This commitment to connecting and supporting each other and challenging each other about their lives is huge for them.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Partnerships and relationships are about growth. And they can be a path to becoming more of yourself.

Best Partnership Book

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

The Payoff of Partnership

Having kids.

For Jayson this is the biggest payoff. He knows he is a better person because he is a father and a husband.

None of this would have been possible if he didn’t partner with someone.

Jayson’s life is enhanced 10x because he is married to an amazing woman and they have a an awesome partnership.

More is possible in his life, in his business and everywhere else, when he’s plugged into her and their vibe is good and their on. He can tackle the world.

There is something exceptionally powerful about having a woman in his life who has his back.

Interview Links -

Jayson's website

Relationship School

The Smart Couple Podcast

Clayton Olson – The value of risk in partnership

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 03 May 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Clayton Olson has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. A Certified Coach and Master NLP Practitioner, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients finding their soul mates.

Clayton's content has been seen on Fox News magazine, Huffington Post, The Goodmen Project and his work has been featured on The View.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

The relationships we create outside of us are a deeper reflection of what we create inside of us.

When You Tripped Up

When Clayton was a teenager he had his first relationship and he was in love.

But he had no back bone in the relationship. He became a chameleon and tried to be whatever she wanted him to be so she would love him the way that he loved her.

As you might imagine, it ended horribly. And it was so painful that he created a contract with himself to never let this happen again. Never again be that open and vulnerable.

Clayton spent the next 7 - 10 years moving through life being extremely protective. And him having needs from his partner was acceptable.

This led to superficial relationships.

Proudest moment in partnership

Clayton and his recent partner went through a tough time recently. And they ended their relationship for about 6 weeks.

During this time apart it was so difficult, and they both grew tremendously. He sat with the pain and actually felt it and allowed the pain to carve him up.

Through this separation and being in a place of uncertainty led to both of them getting powerful perspective on themselves. Because of this they were able to come back together and reunite.

Now the relationship has a completely new flavor to it. They did not get back together out of a fear of being alone. They came in with their eyes wide open and reunited from a place of love and choice.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

To be in love and to love someone is to continually risk. And to trust that no matter what happens, you’re strong enough to get through it. And if you do get hurt, it is better than not having loved.

Best Partnership Book

The Structure of Magic, Vol. 1: A Book About Language and Therapy

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)

Interview Links -

Clayton's website

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – The fastest path to your goals

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 28 Apr 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Judith Costa

Not Following -

There was a moment in Judith’s life where nothing was working. From outside it appeared she had a perfect life. But the reality was that she was miserable.

She knew she needed to make changes, but did not know where to go or how to start or what to do.

So though her intuition was giving her guidance, she was doing just the opposite.

Following -

Judith met her husband at a party, but because he travelled a lot their relationship truly started via Skype. When they actually had a first date, they were talking in future tense.

She could see that something special was happening there and that there was a connection.

Very quickly they moved in together and started planning to have a family. And she simply followed her “Yes” and did not doubt it.

Her mother was concerned that they really did not know each other. And the relationship is not perfect. They are quite different, but that is what makes it interesting.

Listen to Judith's full interview here

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Denise Joy Hart

Not Following -

In 2002 Denise was renting a house in Washington D.C. and always wanted to own a home. She started to get mail indicating the house was going into foreclosure. And it scared her.

The owner offered it to her to purchase, and she thought it was a scam.

During her meditation she received guidance to purchase the place, but she went against it. So she moved out, thinking she one upped the scam guy.

The notion that she should have purchased the place would not leave her. So she started to educate herself, and soon she realized she had made a mistake.

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Having done her homework and getting educated on real estate she decided to purchase a home a short while later. And she planned to use the equity in her home to pay off over $80,000 in student loans she had.

While watching the news one night, she received guidance to sell her home she had only recently purchased.

Denise followed this “Yes” and even though it seemed crazy, she followed her guidance.

By going with her guidance she literally had a buyer offering double what she paid for the place just a couple of years earlier within 2 hours and did pay off her student loans with the proceeds of the sale.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

For Denise her “Yes” guidance has more weight than just her mind. And she feels it in her body. It is like an outside Source saying “this is for you.”

Listen to Denise's full interview here

Connect with Denise -

Denise Hart – Listen. Obey. Prosper.

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 26 Apr 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Denise Joy Hart is an entrepreneur, speaker, author and actress who brings you a message of the power of a Don’t Quit attitude!

Denise delivers her message centered on truth, love and unlimited possibility in her signature style filled with humor and kick-in-the-pants honesty!

From graduating from college at the age of 32, to becoming a tenured college professor and owner of a brand and soul message that strives to help millions of people around the world live a better life than they could have imagined, Denise’s life is a testament to her optimistic Don’t Quit attitude!

She has studied the principles of the Law of Attraction and the teachings of thought leaders such as Lisa Nichols, Marianne Williams, Deepak Chopra, Louise Hay and many others.

One of the greatest impacts on her life was having breast cancer. From this experience she learned two simple but valuable lessons: (1) that it’s survivable – she survived; and (2) that it’s not – her mother passed away one year into Denise’s recovery from breast cancer.

This revelation, taught her the one thing that really matters: Life is a gift and we get to choose what we do with it. Over the years she’s learned that between the living of life and the ending of life the greatest power you have is right now.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Constantly give yourself permission to be unapologetically DOPE. DOPE means being Determined and Obsessed with being Profitable and Exceptional.

When You Tripped Up

Denise had a long term partnership with someone well known in the industry. And fairly recently it dawned on her that she was no longer in alignment with her own values.

When she listened to the voice that had been speaking to her for several months, she realized she needed to transition this partnership. This was a challenging choice to make. To many it appeared she had the dream job.

Where Denise tripped up is by denying the true weight of the guidance she was receiving, and this made the decision much more difficult than it needed to be.

Ultimately, even though she didn’t want to disappoint anyone, Denise spoke her truth and was able to retain the friendship that had developed within this partnership.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

For 10 years Denise ran a non-profit with a partner that served youth through the performing arts.

There was an imbalance in the partnership that was basically putting this other person before herself. Because they were good friends, Denise was reluctant to speak up. She knew she could keep plowing through, and did for two more years before addressing things.

Ultimately they split and Denise was scared to pieces to do this by herself, but she did and started all over.

Proudest moment in partnership

Her relationship with her Dad is definitely a proud one for her. They did not have much of any relationship until after her mother passed away.

Now no one would guess that they have ever been anything other than two peas in a pod.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

In business, remember that money is the lifeblood of doing business, but a business partnership has to have a higher purpose to survive and thrive.

Best Partnership Book

Visionary Business: An Entrepreneur's Guide to Success

Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationships at Midlife and Beyond

Brainstorm: Harnessing the Power of Productive Obsessions

Interview Links -

Judith Costa – Tapping into the flow of life

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 19 Apr 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Judith Costa is a certified Unconditional Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker, with a Master in Psychology and Psychotherapy and an MBA.

She works with groups and individuals, both online and in person, to help them overcome their blocks to Love, and to know themselves better. She uses different techniques such as Coaching, Past Life Regression Therapy, The Akashic Records, Astrology and Dream Interpretation.

Judith’s work involves teachings about how to improve Self-Love and how to manifest the kind of relationship all of us want and deserve.

She offers one day workshops and retreats around the world.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

A soul-mate partnership is not about what you get, it is about what you are giving. This love is a flow of giving and receiving. Giving from a place of something you already have to create something new.

Sometimes the complaints you have in a relationship are the things that you don’t bring to the table. And then we tend to blame our partner for it.

When You Tripped Up

The biggest trip up for Judith was when she abandoned herself in her first marriage.

She didn’t know how to love herself, and the partnership was not working.

Judith learned that you cannot sacrifice yourself in a relationship. You have to “be” there.

She was too worried looking at the past and too anxious looking at the future to be present and in the flow.

You have to be there for you and be your best friend no matter what. Then you can establish relationships that have less drama and less need for control.

What is past-life regression and how can it impact our partnerships?

Past-life regression is a guided meditation that takes you experiences you had in past-lives so you can learn from them.

This can be very important when are in a relationship that’s not working. When you have an instant reaction of attraction or dislike to someone, it is often because you have some unfinished business from past lives.

The goal of this work is to heal the energy that keeps you stuck in a past moment in time.

Proudest moment in partnership

Judith used to have a studio of interior design with her mother. And she learned a lot from her.

There was a moment where she could put her ego aside and recognize how valuable everything was that she was receiving from this partnership.

Even though they were very different and did not agree on lots of things, this relationship taught Judith how to run her own business now.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Bring to the table everything you have. Be 100% engaged with all your attention and passion and energy.

The only thing you have to DO to make a partnership work is be authentically you.

Many times we have a persona or mask or role that we use to go through life. This happens when we don’t accept ourselves first and secondly we are afraid of being rejected.

Best Partnership Book

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

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Follow Your “Yes” Friday – The key to success

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 14 Apr 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Devi Ward

Not Following -

For Devi her “Yes” was about honoring a No, and saying Yes to walking away.

Part of Devi’s work is training people to be Authentic Tantra Practitioners. With one particular student there were a lot of “nos.” They were not receiving and understanding the teachings, they were having difficulty with interference on Skype and a lot of other obstacles.

Looking back, she realized that this was her higher self saying to let this one go.

It was really hard because Devi was attached to this student getting the results she had hoped for her. This was such an obvious No, but she was so attached and committed to seeing it through that she made it a lot more difficult for herself than she needed to. And in the end it ended up being a painful situation.

Following -

Devi was really wanting to call in her soul mate and was living in a small town where there were not many opportunities, and she was considering moving to Seattle to be around more people and more options. And she was telling all her friends, that this was a go.

While all this was happening, she got a very clear message to stay put and not move. And she followed this “Yes” and just a little while later she met her future husband. They just got married in November.

Listen to Devi's full interview here

Connect with Devi -

Devi's website - get your weekly Tantra Tip here.

Listen to Jim's full interview here

Youtube - Sex As Medicine TV

Jim Palmer

Not Following -

Jim was a sun worshiper and always wanted to be tan. His wife would say “you oughta put some lotion on.” And he never would.

Turns out Jim got skin cancer and chances are being a sun worshiper for 40 years probably played a role. And even with the stories in the media about too much sun being a key contributor to skin cancer he still did not do anything to protect himself.

As a result of not paying attention to his “Yes” Jim had to deal with a major health issue.

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Highly successful people in all areas of life all are good at making a good decision of yes or no because they trust their instinct or their gut. The first decision you make is almost always the right one.

When Jim started leading his own live events, he did it because he felt in his gut it was the right thing to do. It was still scary, but he knew in his gut it was the right thing to do and he followed it.

Most people don’t say “Yes” more often because they don’t have all the steps figured out.

Don’t be afraid to say “Yes” and get in action even if you don’t know what’s around the next corner.

Connect with Jim -

Jim Palmer – You’ve gotta do the research

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Jim Palmer is an in-demand business and marketing coach and founder of Dream Biz Academy.

He has authored six incredible books and is a marketing whiz who loves to help business people grow to the next level and teaches the value of outstanding customer service skills.

Before Jim started his business 14 years ago, he was faced with long term unemployment and cancer (at the same time) while supporting a family of six. Today, Jim runs multiple 6 figure businesses and thrives at helping others do the same.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Know the value of your time and be clear about your priorities.

Jim’s are God, family and then business.

When You Tripped Up

Jim had success with several businesses in a row and got to feeling like everything he did succeeded. And he decided to go into a retail business with his friend Bobby as 50/50 partners.

The trip-up was they didn’t do enough research before going into the partnership. And in about a year they closed the business.

Jim firmly believes that the partnership could have been successful if they had just done more research before they jumped in.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

In 2009 Jim had many business going well and he joined a mastermind group to support him the further growing his businesses.

This group revealed to Jim so many things that he should have been doing, but wasn’t because he found them uncomfortable.

One day the leader of this mastermind group took him aside and asked him this: “How is it that you want to have a successful and profitable coaching business like some of the people here, yet you don’t seem to be willing to do some of the things they have done and continue to do to build their businesses? How is it that you feel you’re entitled to the same level of success without doing the work that is necessary?”

This was a the “DUH” moment. (Jim has a more colorful term for it) And this was a pivotal moment that inspired Jim to do the work he needed to do to get over his fears and limiting beliefs.

As a result of a couple of years of focusing on moving past those fears his work has grown like a rocket ship ever since.

What is a current partnership you’re excited about?

Jim and his wife of 36 years are going on their “big adventure” and going to live on a boat.

They sold their family home of 28 years and are casting off in late April. And they are going to document it on a blog at www.ourfloatinghome.com and will document the adventure there.

There is some nervousness, but way more excitement.

They have always both been very conservative and safe in their lifestyle so this is quite a departure for them.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Always put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Things will look different in the morning.

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Devi Ward – Feelings and Needs

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 05 Apr 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Devi is an internationally recognized Tantra Expert, Certified Tantric Healer, Certified Reiki Practitioner, Certified Meditation Instructor, practicing Tibetan Buddhist and one of the first Westerners qualified to teach the Tibetan Five Element Tantric practices as part of a sexual healing modality.

She has been featured as a Tantra and Female Sexuality Expert in countless articles and over 30 different radio and television networks world-wide including Playboy Radio, Men’s Health Magazine, CBS, NBC and Rogers TV.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

The only thing that’s ever going on are feelings and needs. If we can understand what the need is that is how we connect with the Divinity and the humanity in all of us.

When You Tripped Up

Devi had a student in one of her classes who was blatantly racist. And as a woman of color, she was really struggling with it. And in a moment of pain she said something quite crass and this student was devastated.

This experience has helped Devi be mindful of what she says, especially in moments of pain.

Ultimately it ended up being a beautiful healing moment.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

There was a woman in Devi’s world that just rubbed her the wrong way.

This woman reflected to Devi the areas she still needed to love and embrace and accept about herself, because she had a story that this woman was better than her in some way. So this woman triggered the part in Devi that didn't feel good enough. And she wanted to make it about this woman.

Her “DUH” moment was when she realized that she had a need for self worth, self acknowledgement and self-celebration.

This ended up being an opportunity to do the work of healing her own wound as opposed to blaming somebody else for simply showing it to her.

How is Tantra medicine to heal?

The Five Elements Tantric practices are ancient practices. The five elements are - earth, water, fire, air and space. And this is what makes up our physical reality.

These elements are considered the antidote to the root poisons of anger, attachment, pride, jealousy and ignorance. These emotions literally are toxic and create disease in the body.

Bringing the elements into balance are essential to the health of the energy body. And all physical maladies manifest first in the energy body before showing up in the physical body.

These practices literally heal the energy and physical bodies.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

You cannot give empathy if you need empathy. If you are in an argument and both parties are in pain, you cannot hear each other.

Best Partnership Book

The Center for Nonviolent Communication

Meet Me In Hard-to-Love Places: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success

A Payoff of Partnership

Devi’s current business partnership has been the most healthy, inspirational, creative and constructive birthing process she has ever been in.

The ease and the flow and the dance and the beauty and the joy of what they are creating together has been orgasmic.

This process has been a huge celebration. Which is unlike her past business partnerships.

Interview Links -

Devi's website - get your weekly Tantra Tip here.

Listen to Carol's full interview here

Youtube - Sex As Medicine TV

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – You’ll Be Surprised How Far Your “Yes” Will Take You

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 31 Mar 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Carol Allen

Not Following -

Years ago, Carol was really motivated to find her romantic partner and she would often fall for the “he’s so cute” partners.

Like many people, she would go on a date and know in the first 30 minutes if there was anything there, but the “he’s so cute” voice spoke up and that voice would win out.

One guy in particular was soooo cute and even though Carol could tell he drank too much, she ended up dating a drunk guy who hated his mother and ultimately hated women.

Following -

When Carol bumped into her first mentor online he was a total stranger to her and she instantly knew he was who she needed to work with.

She had a lot of near misses over the years, but since they never felt so right they never got off the ground. They were missing the certainty and clarity and the power that was required.

Connect with Carol -

Carol's website

Carol’s Facebook

FREE E-Book

Larry Michel

Not Following -

This story has both emotional and physical ramifications.

Larry was in a relationship that was not going well and he was holding it all inside. And on a very cold night he went out and sat at the water’s edge to think. His body was telling him not to do it but he was emotionally so out of it that he did not listen.

He ended up getting walking pneumonia and ending up in the hospital.

In hindsight Larry realized he was not listening to his body or his emotions even though there were constant signs that he needed to take care of himself physically and emotionally.

The result was it impacted his business and almost killed him because he wasn’t listening to his “Yes.”

Following -

Anytime Larry has gotten a clear “Yes” and he has followed it, he is always surprised by how far beyond his expectations or his imagination he gets taken.

When he allows himself to go in the direction that his body and his emotions and especially his heart is taking him he is always blown away by what comes to be. This can be little things as well as big ones.

Listen to Larry's full interview here

Connect with Larry -

Larry's website

The Personal Energetic Profile - FREE Report

Larry’s Facebook

Larry Michel – Being Courageously Intimate

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 29 Mar 2017 07:00:00 -0500

Larry Michel - also known as “The Love Shepherd” is the founder of the School of Genetic Energetics, a Master ERP™ and host of The Larry Love Show.

He’s a breakthrough relationship coach, author, trainer, speaker and producer.

Larry came to southern California as a former partner of Tony Robbins, having designed and developed Robbin’s corporate training programs. As an operating partner, he also helped launch John Assaraf in his initial teachings toward Brain Entrapment and Nueroplasticity.

As the Founder and voice of TheFourAnswers.com he’s brought to the world the only scientifically proven online compatibility system that unlocks the mysteries and reveals the true motivations behind our actions, from devastating emotional upsets to our most joyous and blissful experiences.

Larry dedicates his life to creating possibility for all of us to live in courageous intimacy, in deep connectivity and in our full loving expression.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Relationships are not hard work. Great relationships flow.

The hard work is our ability to be honest and vulnerable and authentic and tapped into who we really are.

When You Tripped Up

Larry’s biggest trip up in relationships has been around Rational-lies. Describing or discussing something and making it OK.

He would try and solve difficulties by keeping them inside so no one else had to know. But they still knew.

His belief system that he had to work out things on his own all the time is what did the damage to his relationships. Until Larry stepped into courageous intimacy, he was always undermining the connection in his relationships.

Proudest moment in partnership

The woman in Larry’s life right now is the most exciting relationship he has ever had.

What makes it so special is that a lot of the things he needed to learn, he fully embraces now. Courageous Intimacy is a big part of it.

And the fact that they both are inspiring and inspired by each other creates magic in their life on a regular basis.

How can we be Courageously Intimate without being needy?

Neediness is relying on other people to assist us with our challenges and our issues. Almost like we are constantly taking from them to feed ourselves. This is not good balance.

When Larry is being Courageously Intimate he first asks himself if it is his issue or something else?

If something has it’s emotional grip on him, he asks “What do I have to believe to feel this way right now?” Then ask, “Is that my belief?”

If it is your belief ask “Why do I believe it?” Because we hang onto beliefs because we are getting some benefit from it. Then ask, “What is that benefit?”

Being curious will free you from being stuck.

We all do the best we can with the resources we have. If someone views you as needy it may be that they don’t have the resources right now to help you, and they have some work to do on themselves.

This does not make either person wrong. It is an observation of what is going on in the moment.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Look inward and go inquire about what you have to believe and are holding onto that is in the way of being able to show up fully for your partner.

Be excited and do your own inner work first.

Best Partnership Book

Psycho-Cybernetics: Updated and Expanded

Siddhartha

Interview Links -

Larry's website

The Personal Energetic Profile - FREE Report

Larry’s Facebook

Carol Allen – Love is in the Stars

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 22 Mar 2017 08:00:00 -0500

Carol Allen is a happily married Vedic astrologer and relationship coach whose mission is to empower women to enjoy truly “out of this world” love lives.

Carol’s been featured on E!, Bridezillas, EXTRA, Dr. Drew’s Lifechangers, in Chicken Soup For The Soul, Woman’s World, and Daily Candy, plus she is the author of Love Is In The Stars – The Wise Woman’s Astrological Guide To Men.

Her methods are a unique marriage of East and West, combining her training in the astrology of India with cutting-edge, real-world relationship research.

Whether you’re looking for a soulmate, want to deepen an existing relationship, or heal lifelong love patterns, the answers are literally written in the stars… and almost anything can be made much better with your own right-actions, once you know the truth and what to do about it.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

God loves me and everything is alright.

When You Tripped Up

When Carol and her husband met they were more about trying to make their lives happen as opposed to co-create their lives. It came from this desire to feel control because they were scared.

For her this showed up as being controlling. She found herself trying to change him.

Carol had to let go of a lot of superficial ideas of what her relationship was supposed to look like. She loved that he was being true to himself and if she succeeded in changing him that would be lost.

It took her breaking up with him to figure out what she had.

To have a fulfilling relationship we need to check in with our head, heart and groin.

So often we pick someone who works for two of these areas and wonder why we aren’t happy.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Carol and her husband cared for her husband’s mother as she was dying is a time she is really proud of.

In their relationship they tend to be happier when they are serving something greater than themselves.

Carol and her husband were easily able to set aside their own needs and do what they had to for his mother. And there was no arguing over who did what.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Give the other person what they want when they want it. No more. No less.

It sounds so simple, but it is hard to do. Often we want to say no just to say no, but if it is not compromising your core needs then what’s the big deal.

If one person leads the way the other tends to follow so do it even if they aren’t doing it yet. Then you get to be a great partner in spite of your partner.

And if giving them what they want when they want it is not right for you or comfortable for you, then that is one of the ways you find out if they are the right person for you.

Best Partnership Book

The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Payoff of Partnership

Carol never would have brought her work to the internet without the guidance of a mentor who had the know how to help her navigate that path. She calls him the King.

The King then brought her to who she refers to as the Emperor. The Emperor introduced her to 80 people who started promoting her work.

She knew with every fiber of her being that what they were up to was what she wanted and she knew to trust them. And this led to her committing as never before and work and up her game in every way, but it was so worth it.

This showed her the power of coming out from behind her little desk and computer and safety net and looking for opportunities through and with other people.

Interview Links -

Carol's website

Carol’s Facebook

FREE E-Book

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Intuition and risk often go hand in hand

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Elizabeth Lesser

Not Following -

Elizabeth spent all of her 20’s, 30’s and much of her 40’s not following her “Yes” especially at work.

She would be in meetings and know at her core that she had something to contribute that would be a huge benefit and she either said nothing or presented it with a preface of an apology for even bringing it up.

Elizabeth spent many years unable to represent herself with dignity and clarity. As a result she was perpetually disempowered, kind of miserable, pissed off and feeling like a victim.

Eventually she figured out how to sort out her moments of “Yes” from moments of fear or ego brittleness and stand in her “Yes” with conviction. It was a long process but it was worth it.

Following -

There came a moment in Elizabeth’s work life where she knew that if she followed her “Yes” she was going to risk something really big. Potentially her job.

Listening to your intuition can take you into the fire.

She had been saying no to her “Yes” for quite a while and then she turned and faced it and said “OK, I’m with you all the way.” Even though it created some conflict, she stayed with it, and on the other side was a better situation for everyone.

Listen to Elizabeth's full interview here

Connect with Elizabeth -

Elizabeth's website

Elizabeth’s Facebook

Omega website

Cary Valentine

Not Following -

Years ago Cary was afraid of confrontation and did not have the tools to say things that were potentially a negative.

He was afraid to follow his “Yes” if it appeared to be not so positive. This caused a lot of pain. It stopped the forward momentum in his life and in his relationship with his wife, Wendy.

Cary was haunted with all kinds of doubts. These doubts limited the level of intimacy he could have with his wife.

Following -

Right now in Cary’s life he has a woman in his life with whom he has a tremendous soul connection.

In this relationship he has what he calls “naked moments” where a feeling comes up for him that he’s scared to say. And even when he is worried that saying what he is feeling could freak her out and ruin things, he still says it.

When Cary follows this “yes” and says what he feels, it consistently brings their connection deeper.

This isn’t necessarily comfortable, but it is always worth it. He knows now that when he gets these feelings it is a sign that something deeper is about to happen.

If he doesn’t follow his “yes” he is basically allowing himself to die a little bit and the relationship to die too.

Listen to Cary's full interview here

Connect with Cary -

Cary's website

Cary’s Facebook

Cary Valentine – Turn your doubts inside out

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 15 Mar 2017 08:00:00 -0500

For over a decade Cary Valentine has been assisting couples and singles, throughout the world to transform their lives out of the emotional pain of relationship and dating challenges to creating joyous, juicy, sustaining relationships of their dreams through his In Love Forever personal development system.

Cary has a unique ability to understand and empathize with people’s pain and challenges as he was haunted most of his life with tremendous fear, doubt and lack of confidence. He’s transformed his life out of depression and being on the brink of divorce to living a juicy life.

He is certified relationship coach, speaks internationally about living with more passion and success and is the best-selling author of “In Love Forever: 7 Secrets to a Joyous, Juicy Relationship”, which he co-wrote and lived out with his late wife, Wendy.

Cary’s proven, patent pending, Turn Your Doubts Inside Out System – quickly helps to transform fears, doubts and worries permanently, creating more confidence, success, pleasure and joy.

Cary also narrated the newly released Complete Works of Florence Scovel Shinn audio book series and is an award-winning graduate of the Berklee College of Music; having performed with luminaries such as Dizzy Gillespie and members of Paul McCartney, Kenny Chesney, Stevie Wonder, Chris Botti, REO Speedwagon & Lionel Richie's bands.

He enjoys coming home from world travels to the sight of colorful roaming chickens and the enchanting tropical aromas of the Hawaiian island of Kaua’i.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Turn the doubts inside out. Rearrange the letters in the word doubt and you come up with “to bud.” Which is to grow and to blossom. So the doubts and insecurities are not what they appear to be.

The guiding point is that the doubt is our friend and not our enemy. It’s trying to help us actualize our potential, our gifts, our passion and our desires.

The doubt is our inner trainer testing our resolve to see how strong we really believe in what we want to do.

When You Tripped Up

Cary was married to Wendy for 24 years before she passed away.

For the first 13 years it was profoundly nourishing for both of them. Then at the 13 year mark, he had become so disconnected from his heart and he did not feel a connection to her anymore. All the things that used to work, were not working anymore.

They were honest enough acknowledge that they had lost their connection and that they really cared about each other and wanted to find out what was going on.

They found out they had a collection of fears, doubts and insecurities that were undermining their relationship.

Once they learned to accept themselves and finally have the courage to be honest that was when their amazing relationship started.

Proudest moment in partnership

Many years ago Cary had the opportunity to play drums with his friend, Tony Osanah, who he used to perform with in Brazil. And they had not performed or rehearsed or anything in several years.

As Cary is walking on the stage he hears in his head “Boy, are you gonna blow it tonight!” This is while he is walking to the drum set.

Because of his work turning his doubts inside out, he was able to catch it and turn it around.

In Cary’s head he was telling himself that he was going to create magic with Tony. And the music started that they killed it.

This was an opportunity for Cary to fail big time, but because of the tools he had been developing he was able to excel beyond his wildest imagination.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Have no secrets regardless of how vulnerable it may be to share it.

Best Partnership Book

In Love Forever: 7 Secrets to a Joyous, Juicy Relationship

Movies -

Guess Who's Coming To Dinner

Rodgers & Hammerstein's Cinderella (1957 Television Production)

Interview Links -

Cary's website

Schedule a FREE Discovery Session with Cary

Cary’s Facebook

Elizabeth Lesser – Strength to Strength

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 08 Mar 2017 09:00:00 -0500

ELIZABETH LESSER is the author of The Seekers Guide, Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow, and the recently released Marrow: A Love Story.

She is the cofounder of Omega Institute, recognized internationally for its workshops and conferences in health, wellness, spirituality, creativity, and social change. Founded in 1977, the institute welcomes more than 30,000 participants each year to its campus in Rhinebeck, New York.

Prior to her work at Omega, she was a midwife and childbirth educator. She attended Barnard College and San Francisco State University, and lives in New York’s Hudson Valley with her family.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Elizabeth was the bone marrow transplant match for her sister, Maggie. And even though they were a perfect bone marrow match, they were not a perfect “soul marrow” match. They had some things to clean up in their partnership.

In this process she came up with a mantra Strength to Strength. Give from your strength to their strength.

This mantra has changed all her partnerships.

When You Tripped Up

Elizabeth and her sister Maggie are the middle two of four girls and they had a relationship that was loving but not all that intimate. She had been tripping up in this relationship pretty much her whole life.

These trip ups had calcified over time into the definition of their relationship. And she found she was trapped in a bunch of unexamined stories about her relationship with her sister.

They were aware that during the bone marrow transplant Elizabeth’s cells could attack their new home and there was a chance that her body might reject her cells. Either of those things could kill her.

She realized that they had a long history of attacking and rejecting each other.

When they did the work they had to do to put down their old stories and picked up the truth of their unconditional love for each other and this led to an amazing year following the transplant.

This whole episode taught Elizabeth to be braver in stopping stories from building.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Elizabeth used humor to get her sister Maggie to go to therapy prior to her bone marrow transplant operation.

She sent a cartoon that showed two women talking to each other and one says to the other: “I’ve never forgiven him for that thing I made up in my head.”

Since then, Elizabeth has had so many “DUH” moments by interrupting her default of making up stories in her head about what is going on. It’s risky to interrupt story telling, but the payoff is huge.

She calls this being a first responder. This is the person who is willing to take the emotional risk and going a little deeper for vulnerability and intimacy.

Proudest moment in partnership

Elizabeth had her entire family including grandkids at her house for Christmas recently and as she says, is usually a recipe for family joy or family catastrophe or both.

By day 2 she realized she was already going into “crazy mother self.” And she was doing all the cooking and all the cleaning etc. Quickly becoming a stressed out mess.

What she realized was that she was making up all these stories in her head about what was going to happen with everyone.

Then her son invited her to stop being the mother hen and let everyone enjoy each other and she did. This came back to her engaging with them from strength to strength.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

You don’t have to be perfect to be my perfect match. We can be perfect for each other without being perfect.

This removes a huge burden off of yourself and your partner.

Best Partnership Book

Marrow: A Love Story

He: Understanding Masculine Psychology

She: Understanding Feminine Psychology

Interview Links -

Elizabeth's website

Elizabeth’s Facebook

Omega website

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Owning Your “Yes” With Certainty Creates Respect

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 03 Mar 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Christy Whitman

Not Following -

Christy had a vision of speaking in colleges to empower young girls and her business coach talked her out of it even though every inch of her body was telling her that speaking to girls about empowerment and universal laws was her calling.

She listened to him because he was the “expert” and wrote two books on suicide prevention as he suggested. This did get her foot in the door with colleges, but it wasn’t what she had envisioned.

Within just a few weeks of Christy owning the fact that speaking on suicide prevention was not her path, the inspiration came through her to create the Quantum Success Coaching Academy to certify law of attraction coaches. And this is her passion and purpose.

Following -

Christy received a text from her husband asking if she wanted to FaceTime with his Dad and Aunt for their birthdays. This was after a long day of taking care of their two boys, who are 6 and 7, and she was tired.

She checked in with her guidance to reply and her “Yes” was a big NO. Her husband respected this and she was able to honor herself.

Owning her “Yes” with certainty is received with respect.

Listen to Christy's full interview here

Connect with Christy -

Christy's website - sign up for FREE abundance webinar here

Christy’s Facebook

Christy’s Twitter

Shelley Whitehead

Not Following -

One of Shelley’s friends told her she had to meet her architect because she though they would really hit it off.

And when they got together he definitely lined up with what she was looking for. Then she started thinking too much.

On the second date things went well and she could tell he liked her, but she started coming up with all these reasons it was not a good time. Shelley wasn’t listening to her “Yes”, she was listening to her head. And she kind of ended it. She almost missed out on the best relationship of her life.

Luckily for her, he was persistent and he didn’t give up on her. And because of his persistence, she is in the best relationship of her life.

Following -

In 2010 Shelley had a business meeting about a course and she just knew she had to do the course even though it was a very expensive program.

It turned out to be one of the very best things she ever did in terms of defining the work she does. And it was not a decision she made with her head.

She completely followed her gut and it has added a richness, direction and purpose to her life and the work that she does.

Listen to Shelley's full interview here

Connect with Shelley -

Shelley's website

Shelley’s Facebook

Shelley’s Twitter

Shelley Whitehead – There Aren’t Any Shortcuts

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 01 Mar 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Shelley J Whitehead is a Relationship, Dating, Bereavement Expert.

She works with Bereaved, Dumped and Divorced Men and Women and is known for helping Heal Broken Hearts - reconnecting them to a life they love.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Stop being defensive. It is not one of the easiest things to do, but it is certainly one of the most effective things to do.

The way to stop being defensive is to start listening with your heart. If it is kind it’s love. And if it is love it’s real.

When You Tripped Up

In Shelley’s second marriage she abandoned herself in the marriage. This happened because she was working from a foundation of fear that was rooted in childhood wounds.

As is common with children, she took responsibility for what was going wrong with her parents relationship.

As a result, in her second marriage, Shelley was focusing on doing everything “right” so her husband would love her. And since she abandoned herself to do this, it didn’t work.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

For Shelley, her DUH moment was her epiphany moment.

This was after her second husband had left her and was processing all the feelings that came along with this.

Then her perspective shifted. She realized that all the toxicity that was in her life had left her life. She was surrounded by so much love and so much support.

More than anything else, she had learned that because she had done her work and transitioned the incredible pain, and she could go out and date again.

She started operating from a foundation of appreciation and gratitude. And from that moment, she was able to go back into the dating world and use what she had learned to date smarter.

There has to be the 4 C’s for a relationship to work.

She dated very authentically. Not from fear. And with an open heart.

Proudest moment in partnership

Shelley is doing some rebranding and has a team of people working on it, and this team is supportive, collaborative and fun.

When she works like this it takes her into the 3 - E’s: Expanding, Enhancing and Engaging.

This very supportive partnership works for everyone.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Go slowly.

And when you’re in conflict go even slower

The Power of Connection - Hedy Schleifer - TEDxTelAviv

Best Partnership Book

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love

The Heart of Love: How to Go Beyond Fantasy to Find True Relationship Fulfillment

Why Women Talk and Men Walk: How to Improve Your Relationship Without Discussing It

Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved

Interview Links -

Shelley's website

Shelley’s Facebook

Shelley’s Twitter

Christy Whitman – Your Relationships are Inside of You

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 22 Feb 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, abundance coach and the New York Times bestselling author of The Art of Having It All.

She has appeared on The Today Show and The Morning Show and her work has been featured in People Magazine, Seventeen, Woman’s Day, Hollywood Life, and Teen Vogue, among others.

Christy is the CEO and founder of the Quantum Success Learning Academy & Quantum Success Coaching Academy. She has helped thousands of people worldwide to achieve their goals through her empowerment seminars, speeches, and coaching sessions and products.

Christy’s life-changing message reaches over 200,000 people a month and her work has been promoted by and featured with esteemed authors and luminaries such as Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marci Shimoff, Brian Tracy, Neale Donald Walsch, Abraham-Hicks, and Louise Hay.

She currently lives in Montreal with her husband, Frederic, and their two boys, Alexander and Maxim.

How She Got Started Doing This Work

Christy came across the law of attraction and Universal laws about 20 years ago, when nothing in her life was working.

She was in debt, her relationships were not working, she had gained 30 pounds and her connection spiritually was missing.

Christy started paying attention to her thoughts and changing them from lack to abundance and very quickly started to see her life shift right before her eyes. Within a year and a half of her paying attention to her thoughts everything turned around. Great relationship, out of debt, lost the weight and had a job that she liked.

Five years into her practice her first book “Perfect Pictures” came through her and getting it published started her on speaking and this led her to the coaching that she does today.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Having a mentor or coach that she can turn to when Christy is off or stuck is what helps her get back on course as quickly as possible.

When You Tripped Up

Most of us come into partnerships with the patterns that we have learned. Christy considers herself a recovering rescuer.

In her partnerships this set up one person to be the rescuer and the other to be the victim.

So the rescuer thinks they are offering great help and the victim is like “I don’t want your help” which leads to resentment. It is often called the conflict or drama triangle.

What she learned is there is a difference between helping and rescuing.

When Christy made a commitment to no longer play the victim or the rescuer, she became free in her relationships. It completely transformed her relationship with her husband.

Fortunately, she was paying attention to her thoughts.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Several years ago Christy came to her husband and said “You will never win.”

What she had realized is that she had been so trained by the women in her family that men will never be enough. She was operating from the belief that no matter what he would never do enough, say enough, be enough, earn enough to fulfill her. And this was completely contrary to the abundance mindset that she teaches.

Christy noticed she was in a nitpicking, critical coming from lack, never satisfied, never enough thought process.

Then her husband realized that this is what the women in his family believed as well. So he had grown up witnessing his father never being enough.

In that moment they agreed to shift this and it completely changed their relationship.

Proudest moment in partnership

Christy is proud of how some relationships she had were released in 2016.

In a couple of business partnerships things were not working as well as they used to and did not feel right anymore. Instead of keeping this inside and making it turn sour in order to leave the partnership, she owned her experience and brought it forward.

Being real and honest with how she felt while honoring the other person allowed both of them to walk away still feeling good about the 10 years they were in partnership and the work they did do together.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Relationships never end. It is an energetic exchange that will never go away even if you are no longer together physically.

Clearing our past is very important because it will effect the power of your now.

And all our relationships are inside of us. So how you think of them and what you believe about them is what will manifest in our reality in the physical sense.

Best Partnership Book

Perfect Pictures

The Art of Having It All: A Woman's Guide To Unlimited Abundance

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

Why Do People Resist the Law of Attraction So Much?

Christy’s experience is that people want someone or something to come rescue them. They also what someone or something to blame.

The thing with Universal Law is you have to take responsibility for yourself and some people aren’t willing to do that. So they say things like “It doesn’t work for me.”

Also the freedom that comes from realizing that you create your own reality can be scary. So it is easier to dismiss it than embrace it.

Interview Links -

Christy's website - sign up for FREE abundance webinar here

Christy’s Facebook

Christy’s Twitter

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Say No to Almost Everything

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 17 Feb 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Susan Bratton

Not Following -

It is hard for Susan to find a time when she didn’t follow her “Yes.” She tries to live her life in every way that supports her higher good and those around her.

She checks in to see if something will exhaust her or add value.

Susan checks in against the three main goals she has at any given time (one personal and two business). This leads her to say no to almost everything because she is on her own agenda.

You can tell how good a decision maker you are by the state your life is in.

Once your a “Yes” to something, how can you make it better?

Following -

When Susan and her husband, Tim, started their business together it started as a podcast network with 40 different podcasts. This was not financially viable so they needed a new direction.

They were doing a bit of everything, but in their hearts they knew that what people wanted from them was the sexuality content they were creating. But they didn’t want to be “people in the sex business” because most people immediately think of porn.

Susan got clear that she created online courses in heart connected, conscious love making techniques.

And as many people as there are who try and shame her for her work, she knows that what she does is the antidote to the porn industry that most people think of when she says she is in the “sex business.”

Not everybody is going to like her no matter what she does.

Her “Yes” was when they decided the “sex business” was what they were doing. They could not be all things to all people and they were not going to do it half way.

As hard as that was, Susan and Tim went for it and they now help millions of people have happier, healthier sex lives.

Listen to Susan's full interview here

Connect with Susan -

RELATIONSHIP MAGIC:

FREE GIFTS:

Expand Her Orgasm Tonight

Orgasm Gap

Liesel Rigsby

Not Following -

When Liesel was 30 she quit her job, cashed out her retirement and went traveling. She did not want to leave on her trip without having an anchor to home.

She had a boyfriend at home who she was clear was not the right partner for her, but she was afraid of being single.

As soon as she started traveling she didn’t want to come home, but she had made plans to come home to attend a wedding with her boyfriend.

Liesel wanted to keep traveling and it was so clear that she needed to say “yes” to the camp on a river in Nepal. And instead she did not listen to her “Yes” and felt an obligation and fear driving her decision to go back and rekindle this relationship.

So she went back with the intention to go traveling again, but never did. And she moved to a town she didn’t really want to be in and getting a job that she didn’t want to be in a relationship that she really didn’t want to be in.

This led to a downward spiral that landed her to the worst place in her life.

Following -

Liesel was at a Jane’s Addiction concert with an old boyfriend and he was friends with her now husband Craig. And found out Craig had had a crush on her as she did on him.

A couple weeks later she saw Craig was playing at a restaurant and it was a clear “Yes” that she needed to go and see him.

Numerous things conspired to stop her from going, but she was so adamant that she needed to go, so she did.

This literally led to her relationship starting a few days later when they went on a hike/date and has been going strong ever since.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

For Liesel her intuitive “Yes” is very clear and calm. There’s no anxiety or worry in it. Her mind is actually kind of turned off. And her body feels settled and still.

When her mind is trying to convince her, she has more of a buzz in her body. And over excitement or over worry, or over anxious.

Listen to Liesel's full interview here

Connect with Liesel -

Liesel's website

Clear Your Blocks to Love

Liesel’s Facebook

Liesel’s Twitter

Liesel Rigsby – Know Yourself

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 15 Feb 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Liesel holds a Master’s in Education and a B.A. in psychology from the University of California Santa Barbara.

After a seven year tenure as a college professor she realized that her true gift was in the healing arts.

She holds certifications in multiple healing modalities including Reiki and Pranic Healing.

And since 2001, she has been guiding women on their spiritual and healing journeys and helping them find their greatest joy.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

What is it you are feeling vulnerable about?

When You Tripped Up

For Liesel it was a series of trip-ups that she kept doing over and over again in every relationship.

She would start to date someone and then morph into who she thought he wanted her to be. From becoming a sports fanatic, to a surfer girl, to a grunge rocker etc.

All of this time she never really knew who she was. Even the music she was into and the clothes she wore were dictated by who she was dating.

It wasn't until she had a really challenging, bottom out relationship that she got real about figuring out who she was and why she continued to be in dysfunctional relationships that things changed.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Liesel had this story she was sure she had proven time and time again that when she put on some weight her husband was less attracted to her and when she lost weight he was more attracted to her.

This caused her to be super careful about her diet and fitness and put tons of energy into this.

When she said this to her husband, he was like, what are you talking about? He had no awareness of this 10 - 12 pound weight range she was obsessed about.

He said, “I’m always more attracted to you when you feel radiant and confident and I’m less attracted to you when you’re insecure and needy.”

She came to the realization that it was not her weight but her perception of herself and how she was carrying herself and how she felt about herself that impacted her attraction to her.

This was a massive shift for her.

Proudest moment in partnership

The opening to the vulnerability of marrying her husband. She knew he was not going to let her hide or be less than her fullest self.

It has led to a vast wonderland of adventure. And it’s hard. And it’s scary. And it hurts. And it’s beautiful and has led her to levels of herself that she couldn’t access by herself.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

The best gift that you can give your children is a happy marriage.

If your marriage loses the priority then the family is going to fall apart. And that’s the biggest suffering for the child.

Best Partnership Book

The Queen's Code

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition)

The Payoff of Partnership

As a little girl, Liesel used to listen to love songs and dream that they were written for her.

Then on her third date with her husband Craig, he wrote her a song. And he encouraged her to connect with her own love of music. Now she writes her own songs, sings and performs with him.

This would never have happened without his encouragement and drawing out of the musician and songwriter that was inside of her.

Interview Links -

Liesel's website

Clear Your Blocks to Love

Liesel’s Facebook

Liesel’s Twitter

Susan Bratton – The Platinum Rule

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 08 Feb 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for every man and woman who dreams of a passionate relationship.

As CEO of Personal Life Media, Susan has authored 20 books and programs including Relationship Magic, The Passion Patch, 30 Romance Tricks That Work Like Magic, Revive Her Drive and curated the Steamy Sex Ed™ Video Collection.

Millions have been touched by her articles and books, many of which she gives away free of charge through her Insider’s Club newsletter and website at personallifemedia.com.

Susan is known for her compassion and fearlessness in teaching the fundamental techniques and communication skills that make for crazy-good sex and deeply connected relationships. And who doesn’t want a little more of that?

She distills these basics into simple practices that millions of her fans and followers use to get on an upward pleasure spiral that lasts a lifetime.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Susan gives us the Platinum Rule. This is a step up from the Golden Rule.

She even provides a real life example of the Platinum Rule in action.

When You Tripped Up

Well into her 40’s, Susan had not had an orgasm from intercourse.

What changed this and had her finally feel like a whole sexual being. Plus having her feel her creativity and her life force surging in her like never before, was an expanded orgasm practice.

She even learned to love her imperfect body from this practice, and connected with her husband at a much deeper level than ever before. It was like night and day for both of them.

Listen now to hear Susan explain what an expanded orgasm practice is.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Honesty.

Once she and her husband started telling the truth to each other, their relationship became so much more interesting.

Best Partnership Book

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

The Future of Men: Masculinity in the Twenty-First Century

Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Winston, Sheri (2010) Paperback

Payoff of Partnership

Agreements help people have hotter, sexier relationships.

Everyday a woman is in a different hormonal balance. Women are run by their hormones.

Most women are afraid to give their man sexual feedback because they don't want to hurt his ego. The way to let this go is to report in from your animal about what is giving you pleasure today.

You don’t have to know what you want, but you commit to speaking up when something isn’t it. And you speak up so your partner can adjust. This is the agreement.

Tell them what your body is telling you. It has nothing to do with your partner.

When you tell him this, you don't use your manners. When you use your manners you go from your animal to your rational brain and you can no longer be orgasmic in that way.

He will be thankful for this information. There is no failure. There is only feedback.

Interview Links -

RELATIONSHIP MAGIC:

FREE GIFTS:

Expand Her Orgasm Tonight

Orgasm Gap

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – “When you force it, it is not a “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 27 Jan 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Emily Rose

Not Following -

Emily found herself getting into a relationship with someone who she really didn’t want to get into a relationship with.

There were a bunch of “yeses” showing up in the form of “nos” and then there came a really big one.

She had a very clear “get out now”message and yet she didn’t. Emily got swept up in it anyway.

Not surprisingly, the relationship ended and it is one of the few times she has not stayed friends after the breakup.

Following -

A friend of Emily’s who is a crew manager for Tony Robbins offered her tickets to shortly after she had watched the documentary “I am Not Your Guru” about Tony and she was a full on “Yes.”

Then after she had already said Yes, she had to check on her schedule and plane tickets etc.

And as a result of following this “Yes” every element of her life has changed.

Magic happened that included her getting to sit in the front row of a 10,000 seat stadium for the event toe to toe with Tony.

And people she met at this event in California have introduced her to amazing people in Texas where she lives.

Listen to Emily's full interview here

Connect with Emily -

Emily's website

Emily’s Facebook

Antia & Brody Boyd

Not Following -

Brody -

Brody was in a relationship for about 2 1/2 years and his “Yes” was to leave the relationship, but he didn’t listen.

Instead he stayed even though he was aware he was not emotionally available in the way that she needed.

Eventually she ended up leaving him, and he felt even worse for the pain he had caused her.

Antia -

Antia was invited to a man’s home that was about 30 - 40 miles away.

Her “Yes” was not to go. But she didn't listen to it and on her way there it started storming and hailing so hard people were pulling over. And she still kept going.

She was forcing the situation and when she returned home was aware how much power she had given away.

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Brody -

Brody was a poor college student and really did not know how to connect with women. He was about to hire his first dating coach and did not really have the money.

On top of that, he was in a depression after his first girlfriend has dumped him.

Brody listened to his “Yes” and signed up anyway.

Just a few months later he met his wife, Antia, and it is the result of his following his “Yes.’

Antia -

Antia followed her “Yes” the day she met Brody.

She was on the beach in Hawaii and got this guidance to go to a MeetUp. Though it did not make sense to her as she was having a great day at the beach when she received this guidance.

Turns out the MeetUp she decided to attend is where she met her husband, Brody.

Listen to Antia & Brody's full interview here

Connect with Antia & Brody -

Antia's website - FREE Strategy Session for women

Brody's website - FREE Strategy Session for men

Antia & Brody Boyd – Attraction Isn’t a Choice

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 09:00:00 -0500

For over 10+ years Antia Boyd, who is originally from Germany, has been helping single women all over the world to find the right man for them without loneliness, sadness or wasting any more time.

She studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, and has led many soulmate support groups, where most of the women there have attracted the right man for them!

Brody Boyd has been helping single men all over the world to find the right woman for them to share their life with without fear, anxiety or rejection for over 12+ years.

He has a degree in communications and interpersonal relationships and for over a decade has studied everything that he could get his hands on about women, dating and building great confidence and social skills without fear.

This power couple has spoken on stages and radio shows all over the country.

And they recently moved to beautiful San Diego, California.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You attract who you are being.

Brody - Partnership helps you grow even faster.

When You Tripped Up

Brody - Brody used to struggle a lot in connecting with women. When his first girlfriend dumped him after 2 1/2 years he was devastated and went into a deep depression.

He was so afraid of rejection that he was stuck.

When he learned from his mentors to move towards the fear and dance with the fear and make love to the fear everything changed. This transformed the thing he was afraid of into something that could benefit his life.

Antia - Antia was in the habit of punishing men for any mishap at all.

What wasn’t authentic about this was she was closing her heart to do this. She did not allow them to be human, and set them up for failure.

She was resentful and unforgiving, which let to her being emotionally unavailable.

Antia entered relationships looking for where the men were not following through. They really didn’t have a chance.

The “DUH” moment

Antia - Antia was communicating with this guy who was texting her but never asking her out.

One morning she woke up and realized that she was waiting for this guy to change like she had always been waiting for her Dad to change.

All at once, she realized that she could free herself. She turned on Taylor Swift and broke up with her old self. She got it on a visceral level.

Brody - When Brody started his personal development and dating studies journey it was reading a book about how to seduce women with NLP and hypnosis. And he was aware this was pretty strange, but it got him started.

He read more and more and the problem it created was it put him in his head a lot. Constantly trying to figure out logically what does he have to do to be loved, and it wasn’t working.

His “DUH” moment was when he realized was the key to reaching his goal of partnership was taking action based on what his heart is telling him and open up emotionally.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Antia - Lean in and you will break open into something softer.

Brody - Ask for help and be vulnerable enough to receive support. And communicate from a feeling level instead of an intellectual level.

Best Partnership Book

Antia -

Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough

Brody -

How To Find The Right Woman: Dating Tips, Attracting Women & Dating Advice For Men

The Way of the Superior Man : A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida (1997) Hardcover

Interview Links -

Antia's website - FREE Strategy Session for women

Brody's website - FREE Strategy Session for men

Emily Rose – Break Up With Distractions

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 18 Jan 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Emily Rose is a bestselling author and breakup coach. Her deepest desire is to help people hone in on their passion, remove distraction from their mission, and grab life by the horns.

Hopelessly romantic yet fiercely independent, she's developed her coaching practice to helping you have your cake and eat it, too.

She will help you to thrive in your personal freedom while still honoring your desire for meaningful partnership.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

I let him/her show me who he/she is.

This mantra honors the person you are with to be their own individual self and it gives you the space to be who you are as well.

When You Tripped Up

Emily had been with someone for about 5 years off and on he had gotten very sick. But he was afraid it was something he would not be able to do anything about so he avoided going to the doctor.

It went on for months and he was literally wasting away as a result of his illness.

Emily was at the point where she was practically betting him to see a doctor, but he wouldn’t. Finally she felt like she was watching him die and she called a doctor for him.

The moment she hung up the phone she knew she had done both of them a huge disservice. Something shifted in their relationship and she took on a caretaker role. This was her trip up.

Looking back she is aware that what would have served her better would have been to leave the relationship even though she loved him.

Proudest moment in partnership

Early on in a recent relationship something was off, but Emily didn’t know what it was.

After a while she sat down with him and asked him about it he denied anything. Even though she got no clear answer she still knew something was off and she followed the guidance she was getting and left.

They talked later and she found out her instinct had been correct and was grateful she followed her intuition and took care of herself.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Emily is bringing on an operations manager for her company who is also her best friend from high school.

They have worked together in the past as coach and client and now her friend is getting to help her in return.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Emily’s grandfather told her to never go to bed angry in your romantic relationship.

Set a weekly, sacred conversation time to discuss with your partner what is working and what is not working in the relationship. Any trivial things from the week will have likely gone away and if it was big it will still be there to address.

Best Partnership Book

Break Your Bad Love Habits: 5 Steps to Free Yourself From Heartbreak and Transform Your Relationships Forever

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

Interview Links -

Emily's website

Emily’s Facebook

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” Never Lies

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 13 Jan 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dr. Gary Salyer

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Towards the end of Dr. Gary’s first marriage he went into a therapist and knew he needed to deal with some issues about his mother because she was borderline. And there was a part of him that was nervous to face that he might be like her.

Even though his gut was telling him he needed to bring all this to light and deal with it, he told his therapist that he would never go there. And he didn’t do it.

After he saw the same dynamics play out is his second marriage and divorce, he realized then he should have followed his “Yes” and addressed it 20 years ago when he had a chance to.

When Dr. Gary went into therapy after his second divorce he told the therapist that he wanted to look this time.

If he had followed his gut in therapy the first time he would have been spared a second divorce.

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Dr. Gary wanted to speak on a national level and he knew he needed help to get there. So even though it was much more than he thought he could afford, he invested in coaches to get him to that level.

He was in the midst of writing a book and knew what he wanted to include, but by speaking all across the country he found out what the nation really was asking for. He learned what was important to his audience and what wasn’t.

The process of following his “Yes” has allowed him to write the book he wanted to and he has become a better man in the process.

Listen to Dr. Gary's full interview here

Connect with Dr. Gary -

Leslie Ziemba

Not Following -

When Leslie was just starting her journey of personal development, she was about 4 - 5 months into a relationship and they had a fight.

She woke up the next morning and had a clear voice in her mind that said “you’re done.”

Leslie proceeded to argue with this guidance all day. And she stayed in the relationship for over a year.

Following -

Then she had another intuition regarding a not good feeling she had about a woman her partner was friends with on Facebook. She just felt like something wasn’t right.

This time she ended the relationship on a Monday. And on Thursday she asked this woman about it and her intuition was confirmed.

Listen to Leslie's full interview here

Connect with Leslie -

Leslie Ziemba – What is my part?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 11 Jan 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Leslie Ziemba is a Love Coach, Author and Time Line Therapy® Specialist who assists men and women to overcome challenges related to dating in mid-life and guiding them to having a thriving life and love!

Her personal story, work and book reflect pure vulnerability, authenticity and the “Big Sister – Real Talk” we often need to help us get out of our own way.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Why am I attracting this situation to me?

What is my part in this? What did I do to cause this?

Leslie steps outside of herself to check in with her perspective and with the other party’s perspective to see where might be able to come to a compromise.

You do have a part in what is happening. It is not all about what someone did to you.

When You Tripped Up

Leslie had a business partner who is also a good friend and he sent her a text that pissed her off. And she spouted off to him via text.

When he called to address the issue, she was aware that she was not in a position or frame of mind to have a talk with him, so she sent it to voicemail.

When she was in a better place she got ready to text him back and recognized this is not how she conducts her life and she needed to speak with him.

Even though she does this work every day, we all fall short at times. Fortunately, she caught herself just before she tripped and made a better choice to call him instead of text him.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Leslie was in a relationship at the very beginning of her personal growth journey. And he was her holy assignment. She was determined to learn whatever she could from this relationship.

They had been together for about a year and got into a very big argument, with many unkind things said on both parts.

When this happened, Leslie called a girlfriend and told her what he did to her. And that girlfriend supported her in her victim mindset and added to it.

Ultimately the relationship did end.

When Leslie reviewed what happened she realized that this friend had pushed all of her fear and drama buttons. And Leslie distanced herself from this friend as well.

Now Leslie is very mindful about who she surrounds herself with and shares her personal life with.

Proudest moment in partnership

Early in Leslie’s business she reached out to a colleague to partner with to build her business. And she contacted a woman who was very big and successful in her field even though she figured nothing would come of it.

As it turned out, this person was completely on board to help her.

This would never have happened if she had not asked. And it turned out to be such a good friendship and partnership.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Before you start another relationship work on healing the past relationship and shift your mindset.

Best Partnership Book

Fearless Love: Growing Through Divorce, Dating and Divine Purpose to Heal, Thrive and Attract The Love You Desire

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Interview Links -

Dr. Gary D. Salyer – Love Is Your Operating System

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 04 Jan 2017 09:00:00 -0500

Dr. Gary D. Salyer is a master transformational relationship coach who helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains. This allows amazing shifts to happen in a very short period of time so that people can have the extraordinary relationship they want and deserve.

Dr. Salyer speaks to a national audience as a featured expert for The Great Love Debate and also various celebrity TV and radio shows. His life purpose is to change ‘a generation’s fate with love.’

He is also the author of the forthcoming book, Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Attract Your Soul Mate.

Dr. Gary offers a unique blend of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Bert Hellinger's "Family Systems" approach and Attachment Theory, to the science of relationships.

As one client said, “he re-sets your system for love in a science-based, heart delivered manner.”

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Take no B.S and give no B.S. This is what a secure person does.

When You Tripped Up

When Dr. Gary was 22 and in college one of his professors told him he had a 90% chance, based on his background, of getting a divorce.

This so scared him that he went back to school for another year to turn a minor into a major in Marriage and Family studies.

Twelve years later, when Dr. Gary had his first divorce he was confused. He thought he had done everything.

Then his second marriage ended in divorce too. And this scared him.

Dr. Gary started to either pick partners who were distant or he would do the distancing himself. And he realize he was scared of love.

One part of him wanted a loving relationship, but another part was scared. This was the moment he realize he did not know how to stop this. He was out of control.

Safety was running him, not him running safety. And this realization was the defining moment in his life.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Dr. Gary’s “DUH” moment was when he asked himself “Who have I become?”

He found that asking how does he not have love is not as important as asking how does my brain create this experience.

So Dr. Gary started asking “what am I doing?” How was he creating this experience?

He learned how the brain creates love.

Now Dr. Gary focuses on “How can he create love?” And he does not care much about the ‘why’ anymore.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Dr. Gary got divorced for the second time, he told his son, who was heading off to college, that his biggest regret was that he never got to show him what a really good marriage looked like.

His son replied, “but you’ve always shown me what commitment looks like.”

After his son graduated, Dr. Gary told his son that he didn’t have to honor him by having the same relationship experience. He was allowed to have it better.

He knows now that he does not have to worry about his son’s relationship because he knows that the anxious and avoidant love style has not been passed on to his son the way it was given to him.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Dr. Gary’s relationship with his partner, Diane, is great. Even when they are not doing things together it is really great knowing that he is loved and that they have each other’s back.

He is also excited about the people who are coming out of seemingly nowhere to support him in writing and promoting his book.

Dr. Gary is beginning to realize that if we are living in a loving space and give as much love to others as we can, an amazing web of relationships and support will come from it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

If you want to create love in your life, you have to be that love in your life.

You have to be the love you want to attract.

Best Partnership Book

Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation

Payoff of Partnership

Knowing he is loved and in a secure relationship has allowed Dr. Gary to write and take risks in his business, expand and grow.

Interview Links -

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Following your “Yes” is often finding your No

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 30 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Scot and Emily McKay

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Scot - At a young age Scot started asking what happens when you have done your best work at something?

Two separate times he stuck around for a couple of extra years even thought his heart was telling him he was done.

First was when he was working with at-risk teens. And as he got to his late 20’s he was not relating as well to teens anymore, but he stuck it out a couple of years longer than he should have. And it was because he didn’t have anything else in mind to go to.

Finally he was forced to go somewhere else.

The second time he was a top performer in the IT world. He got laid off went looking for another job in that field.

Then he realized all he was doing was helping big businesses make a bunch of money. And he kept doing it a couple of years longer than would have been best, because what he really wanted was to get back to his roots of helping people.

Emily - She has found herself feeling guilty for doing what is right by her.

It could be as simple as going to a restaurant and not having a good feeling about it, but she sat down and ordered anyway. This also applies to toxic people.

Following their “Yes” is especially important for both Scot and Emily since they are optimistic and generous people and tend to want to give people the benefit of the doubt. So for them following their “Yes” is often finding their No.

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Scot - He started his career as a dating coach at the same time that the movie “Hitch” came out. And nobody thought it was a good idea for him to head that direction with his career.

Scot knew he needed a career change and did not want to work for someone else anymore.

He wanted to get back to helping people and then Emily came along and really believed in him.

Scot was so passionate about this work, that he trusted that passion and now 11 years later they are doing great on a global scale.

Even though it looked crazy at the time, because of the passion it worked.

Emily - She gave birth to their child at home even thought her OB/GYN fired her for it. It turned out to be a great idea. It was her “Yes.”

Listen to Scot & Emily's full interview here

Connect with Scot & Emily -

Scot & Emily's website

Travel + Adventure = Freedom site

Scot & Emily’s Facebook Link

Scot’s Twitter Link

Phillipe Drolet

Not Following -

Phillipe was feeling overwhelmed and knew he needed to talk with his girlfriend about it.

He knew he was too tired to have the conversation in the moment. However, when he mentioned to her before going to bed that he wanted to talk about it tomorrow, but now was not the right time since they were both tired.

Then they started talking about it and before he knew it, they were going way deeper into the subject than felt right.

And not honoring his “Yes” led to a bad decision by them, but he didn’t listen to his guidance.

Following -

Not following his “Yes” led Phillipe and his girlfriend to the wrong conclusion.

The next morning he could tell something was off for both of them.

Phillipe’s guidance was to hit pause on his work day, sit down with her and talk about things.

This was not easy to do because there was a lot of momentum moving towards carrying out the bad decision they had made the night before.

They talked it out and 15 minutes later they had come to a much better decision than they had made the night before.

Even if you miss the metaphorical exit on the highway, there is another exit just down the road where you can circle back. You don’t need to just keep on the highway because you missed the first exit.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

If the guidance is coming from his body it is usually his intuition, but if it is running around in his head then it is his ego or his mind.

Listen to Phillipe's full interview here

Connect with Phillipe -

Phillipe's website

Phillipe Drolet – We are a Team

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 28 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Philippe Drolet is a Peak Performance Coach and former National Team swimmer who has studied with spiritual masters around the world including (Shamans in Peru, Healers in California, Tantric Masters in Bali).

He now combines the best of Peak Performance psychology and Eastern Wisdom to help men achieve world-class performance while experiencing greater peace, balance and harmony.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

We are a team. Always coming at things from a “we” place.

There is no separation of “it’s your fault.”

When You Tripped Up

Phillipe has been with his girlfriend for just a few months so they are very much new at writing this story.

Last week, Julie, his girlfriend has just recently moved in with him and things are very much in flux.

About a week ago, Phillipe was feeling very overwhelmed. He just launched a new business, getting used to having Julie and her dog in the house and Julie’s Mom was visiting as well.

He did what men often do, which is pull back from it all.

Phillipe brought up his overwhelm to Julie and next thing he knows they have decided she is going to spend some days back at her place.

As she was packing up, he knew it did not feel good for him and could tell it did not for her either. Phillipe realized that there was a lot of separation happening and it was time for them to come back together as a team.

They sat down, centered and figured out what they wanted and the rest of the week was amazing.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Phillipe was basically single for seven years before he met Julie.

In hindsight, there were some things within himself that were preventing him from having a relationship.

For a long time he decided he would focus on what was working and hope that the relationship will resolve itself magically. And it didn’t.

Then Phillipe realized that anything that is not working must be addressed directly.

So he went to Bali for four months and worked with a tantric master to do a lot of deep healing and within a week of returning he met his girlfriend and everything has been amazing every since.

Proudest moment in partnership

Phillipe and a client of his have been doing really great work for the past two years and there was also a feeling that there was a greater depth they could go into.

It was a classic example of two men who love and respect each other, but there is a level of soul intimacy that they are either not willing or unable to go to.

Then a few weeks ago, while he was meeting in person with this client they could both feel things shift.

It was a milestone moment in a professional relationships that will forever allow their connection to be deeper and richer and more powerful.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Take sacred time to connect with your partner both in the morning and at night.

Best Partnership Book

Tantra: Discover the Path from Sex to Spirit (Hay House Basics)

Payoff of Partnership

A year ago if you met Phillipe you would have seen someone who was focused and driven, but there was a juice in him that was missing.

Now in his new partnership, he is overflowing with love. Now his desire to serve and contribute and create is tenfold what it used to be.

As a result of his relationship with his girlfriend, he is full, he is happy and in love. Phillipe feels safe in the love of his woman and this makes him ready to do much bigger things in the world.

Interview Links -

Phillipe's website

Scot & Emily McKay – Deserve What You Want

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 21 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Scot and Emily McKay are professional dating and relationship coaches, authors and podcast hosts.

Together they founded X & Y Communications in San Antonio, TX, which focuses on equipping and empowering men and women to go from good to great in their relationships.

They reach over 300,000 people all over the world through their newsletters, podcasts and social media. And are the authors of ten books between them and have been featured by over 400 media outlets worldwide.

Scot is also a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author and the host of the top-ten ranked podcast on iTunes, “The Chick Whisperer”.

They are both Traveler’s Century Club members, having traveled the world extensively, often with their four children. They even have a travel blog and podcast.

And at the end of the show we will make sure you know where you can subscribe to their popular newsletter and podcasts…all for free.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Deserve what you want.

In order to attract the partner you want, you first have to be the kind of partner that will be attractive to them.

They apply this in their business too. In order to build partnerships with their peers they needed to give before they thought about getting.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

In terms of his and Emily’s relationship it has been world travel.

Even though they worked for themselves and are location independent, after they got married and had a child they thought they were now home bound.

They finally realized they could take “junior” with them. And since 2009 they travel about 3 months out of every year and world school their kids.

This gives them the opportunity to see the world through the eyes of their children as well.

Proudest moment in partnership

Scot - When he was a kid, all Scot wanted to do was be a BMX racer. His dream was to ride for a factory BMX team.

In 1999 he found out the biggest class of BMX racing was guys his age on bigger bikes.

Scot decided to start a team just for guys over the age of 28, and it was a HUGE success.

The day his team was elevated to a factory team, was the day he fulfilled this bucket list item.

The proudest part of this was Scot did not wait for someone to invite him to join a team, he started the team.

Emily - She quit her job to work with Scot and X & Y Communications and raise the kids.

And Emily realized she needed some girl friends and adult conversation. So she started a group for moms.

She partnered with restaurants and businesses to provide discounts for the families that were in her group. And the kids made friends they still have now, years later.

She became the queen of stay at home mom’s for San Antonio, Texas.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Scot - Always get into relationships where you both look forward to and expect the best from each other.

Emily - Be a good communicator so when you step on your partner’s toes you can talk about it.

Best Partnership Book

Scot -

David Livingstone: Africa's Trailblazer (Christian Heroes: Then & Now)

He was a connector and was incredible in building partnerships and alliances between very culturally different groups.

Emily -

Rick Steves Travel as a Political Act

Interview Links -

Scot & Emily's website

Travel + Adventure = Freedom site

Scot & Emily’s Facebook Link

Scot’s Twitter Link

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – When You’re In Your Heart You’re Smart

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 16 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Jo Emerson

Not Following -

Jo’s middle daughter, Eva, went through a stage where she was very angry and Jo was quite concerned.

Her internal guidance was to be robust and still and to not punish when an outburst occurred.

However, Jo’s other daughters were coming to her saying where is the consequence for her actions. And in her house she runs a tight ship. There are consequences for action and this is what makes her children feel safe.

So Jo ignored her internal wisdom and Eva would be punished for her actions but the problem was not going away. They were getting worse.

She spoke with her mentor and they decided to no longer react to these outbursts.

Next time Eva got angry, Jo followed her internal guidance and was firm but fair. She simply told her that if she wanted to act out she needed to go to her room and do it. And not come back until she felt better.

And Eva replied, “I feel better right now.”

Jo’s daughter did not need punishing, she needed containing. And when Jo showed she was in charge, the outbursts all went away.

Following -

Jo was coaching a client and he was talking around lots of stuff, but they were not getting to the bottom of what was going on for him.

She is a very instinctive coach and she knew there was more. And she took a risk with him and she asked him about a specific friendship and the dam broke.

They were then able to make clearer plans based on the truth. Once this client had the truth he had a full canvas upon which to paint the picture he wanted to paint of the rest of his life.

Listen to Jo's full interview here

Connect with Jo -

Jo's website - Advice column

Jo’s Facebook Link

Jo’s Twitter Link

Jo’s Instagram

Lisa Lieberman-Wang

Not Following -

Lisa has always known she had a “Yes” and this was one time that she didn’t follow it.

She was standing at an altar with a man that was very nice and made her laugh, but she wasn’t in love with.

She knew when the Justice of the Peace said, “Do you take this man…” that the answer was “no” but she did it anyway.

Lisa stayed in this marriage for 6 years even though she knew it wasn’t the right thing for her.

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When Lisa’s grandmother, who was the light of her life, passed away she begged her then husband to stay home with her and he chose to go bowling.

And that night she decided it was time to follow her “Yes” and she waited until he came home and told him she was leaving.

That was the beginning of the end.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something?

Lisa has an expression: “When you’re in your head you’re dead. When you’re in your heart you’re smart.”

Anytime she is too much reasoning and thinking about a decision, she takes three deep breaths to ground herself, puts her hand on her heart and asks what is good for her. And it always reveals the right answer.

Listen to Lisa's full interview here

Connect with Lisa -

Lisa's website - Advice column

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Lisa Lieberman-Wang – What’s Good About This?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Lisa Lieberman-Wang is the CEO and Founder of FINE to FAB

She is the author of the #1 Best Selling book FINE to FAB, 7 Secrets of A Successful Woman’s Journey Away from Depression, Disordered Eating & Self-Sabotage.

She is often featured on all the major TV networks as their relationship and emotional health breakthrough expert because of her practical, inspiring, and authentic approach to changing the way you feel about yourself.

Over the past 20 years, Lisa has helped thousands of people overcome lifelong emotional challenges stemming from relationships with themselves and others that lead to depression, anxiety, stress, self-sabotage, emotional eating, shopping and sexual abuse with her proven 7 Secrets to FAB.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

What’s good about this?

We can choose to focus on the good or the bad. And whatever we focus on get’s bigger.

Lisa went through all sorts of experiences most would view as negative and when she turned it around and focused on what was right about these experiences things changed.

When You Tripped Up

In Lisa’s early years of her corporate career she was so focused on being the best that she literally caused herself physical harm because she didn’t know how to deal with the pressure.

She made her business relationship all about her and because of it she ended up in the hospital.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

In her career Lisa never took vacations because she wanted to be a high performer.

The only time she was willing to take off was if she was sick. She had a story in her head that when she was sick people were nice to you.

After several hospitalizations in a row almost every year, she realized there had to be a better way to take a vacation without ending up in a hospital.

Her “DUH” moment was that she could actually take “well” days (vacation) instead of sick days.

What does FINE mean to you?

FINE = F’d up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional

For many people FINE is comfortably miserable.

A lot of people have the hardest time taking care of themselves. And they need an excuse to be nice to themselves.

Lisa stopped being FINE 23 years ago and decided she would rather be FAB, which is Fabulous, Awesome and Beautiful.

Proudest moment in partnership

One of Lisa’s proudest moments was changing her career to what she is doing today.

This was never on her radar. She had been working with Tony Robbins for 15 years and one of her colleagues told her she was playing small. And Lisa resisted this.

One year later she got up one morning and walked downstairs and told her husband “I’m supposed to save lives. I don’t know what it looks like, but that’s what I’m supposed to do.”

And there has been no looking back since.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Sometimes the situations around you dictate what you believe to be true about somebody.

Best Partnership Book

fine to fab: 7 Secrets of a Successful Woman's Journey Away from Depression, Disordered Eating & Self Sabotage

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

Think And Grow Rich

Payoff of Partnership

Her book, Find to Fab, happened because her husband supported her from the very beginning.

And God put in her path a number of incredible people who became part of her company.

An arsenal of resources appeared that made her work not just a business, but a mission. To help people live an authentic life. Happy, healthy and free without years of shame, blame and therapy.

What she is doing today would not have exist without the support she has received.

Interview Links -

Lisa's website - Advice column

Free Consultation (Value $500)

Fine to Fab Foundation

Lisa’s Facebook Link #1

Lisa’s Facebook Link #2

Lisa’s Twitter Link

1-844-FINEtoFAB

Jo Emerson – Be Yourself!

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 07 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Jo Emerson is a leading confidence coach and human behavior expert, plugging people back into their authentic selves so they can reach their full potential at home and at work.

She's also the author of Flying for Beginners (a Proven System for Lasting Self Confidence) and the popular online course, 5 Steps to Lasting Confidence.

Her most important job, however, is being mum to her three daughters Beth, Eva and Nancy. You can find her at www.jo-emerson.com

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Are the thoughts you are believing rooted in fear or rooted in love?

Typically if you are feeling “off” your thoughts are rooted in abject fear.

Ask “what would love or wisdom say to me? This will immediately help you calm down so you can get on and do the next right thing and the next right thing after that.

What are you listening to? Fear or love. Fear or wisdom. Fear or truth.

This will bring you back into the “now” where you can step into gratitude.

How does confidence relate to shyness?

All of us are quite naturally shy in some situation or another. So you can be confident in most every situation, except for one or a few.

Even the most confident people can have moments of being really shy.

If you can be shy and have the confidence to own your shyness can be quite attractive.

Confidence is a deeper thing. Shyness is often momentary.

When You Tripped Up

Jo got divorced 5 years ago and going through the pain of ending that relationship taught her a lot about partnership.

The agony of separating from something she thought would be forever was huge. However, in terms of partnership, perhaps being apart has made them better partners.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Jo’s was pregnant with her second daughter, Eva, she was sick the entire time. So she was kind of looking forward to giving birth to her so the sickness would be over.

And unlike the birth of her first daughter, when she was terrified, Jo decided she was not going to be afraid this time.

She asked her midwife how to get over the pain. And the midwife told her “You use the pain, to push.”

When the next contraction came, Jo dug underneath the pain and found some strength. The pain lifted and she was able to push. And just 40 minutes later her daughter was born.

This midwife got onboard with Jo’s determination and gave her the courage and the self belief that she could have a different experience. And she did.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

The title for Jo’s first book “Flying for Beginners” came to her while she was washing up in the kitchen on day. Almost like an angel dropped it into her head.

Two years later the book poured out of her in just 4 months.

All the publishers liked the book but they wanted it to be four times longer because 80,000 word books apparently sell well and 20,000 word books not so well.

Jo knew the book did not need to be longer. And she decided to self publish it with the assistance of her marketing gal, Becca, they self published.

Jo is not technical, and Becca jumped in and learned how to self-publish and code a website and everything that was needed to make it happen technically.

Without her partnership with Becca this book would never have happened.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Be yourself!

So often when we are seeking relationship or love or wanting to attract someone, it is so tempting to become who we think people want us to be. And it just doesn’t work.

If you are the one doing the pretending, you end up feeling compromised.

It is always worth it to wait for someone who thinks this person who laughs really loudly and doesn’t stop talking is perfect for me. Instead of shaving off parts of yourself in order to fit some mold and feeling miserable.

This goes for business and parenting and friendships as well.

Being yourself is different from compromising. Compromise on the color you paint a room or which movie to go to on Saturday night, but do not compromise on who you are as a person.

Best Partnership Book

Flying For Beginners: A Proven System for Lasting Self Confidence

Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships

Interview Links -

Jo's website - Advice column

Jo’s Facebook Link

Jo’s Twitter Link

Jo’s Instagram

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” Always Knows Where It’s Going

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 02 Dec 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Susan Campbell

Not Following -

When Susan was 21 years old she was having guidance to do more than just marry her high school sweetheart. And she had this impulse to follow these impulsed, but all of her friends were getting married.

She was also getting guidance not to marry her fiancee. And when she spoke to her parents about it they said whatever she wanted they were fine with.

And her girlfriends told her it was just cold feet. And she listened to her girlfriends and went ahead and got married.

Ultimately it ended up in divorce 5 years later.

Following -

Susan was one of the only women on the faculty at the University of Massachusetts and all of her female colleagues envied her this incredible job.

She found a book in a garbage can that was a guide book for visiting San Francisco. So she visited San Francisco on her next school holiday and fell in love with the city and decided California was the place for her.

Susan quit her job and moved to California with no job and people thought she was crazy.

But she has never looked back and has been so happy with her decision from day one.

Listen to Susan's full interview here

Connect with Susan -

Susan's website

Susan’s Facebook Link

Kelsey Grant

Not Following -

Recently Kelsey and her partner had to move and they found their dream apartment, but her intuition was saying “there is something not right here.”

But is was such a huge space and so beautiful that she disregarded her “Yes.”

About a month after they moved in, they got an infestation of Pantry Moths and they had to throw everything out.

Thirty days after that, their apartment flooded. And for six months they lived in a construction zone while this was repaired. Not at all the space they fell in love with.

None of this was good for their relationship or their health and wellbeing.

In hind sight Kelsey knows that if she had listened to her “Yes” it would have been a much better choice.

Following -

In 2008 Kelsey got an intuitive hit that she needed to move out of the city she lived in.

She had always been drawn to Vancouver. Even though she did not know anyone in Vancouver and there was no logical reason to move there, she picked a date and committed to making this move.

Once she arrived, she met a group of people who became essential building blocks for her life as she knows it now. They turned out to be her family and the community she had always been looking for.

And a few months later she started her career as a Love and Relationship Educator. All because she followed her “Yes.”

Listen to Kelsey's full interview here

Connect with Kelsey -

Kelsey's website

Kelsey’s Facebook Link

Kelsey’s Twitter Link

Kelsey’s Instagram

Kelsey Grant – What Would Love Do?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 30 Nov 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Kelsey Grant is passionate about living in a world where people feel inspired, fulfilled, balanced and happy within the expansiveness of their intimate relationships.

As a Love and Relationship Educator rooted in Radical Self Love Methodology, she writes, speaks and teaches coaches, thought leaders and game changers how to access greater alignment with love for their leadership and relationships to thrive.

Her commitment to love runs deep as she is also the founder and facilitator of a local sisterhood circle that creates safe space for women to open their hearts and share what is really going on behind the scenes of their lives.

Currently, she is teaching the essential tools we "don't know we don't know" about love and partnership that are key foundations to creating and maintaining relationships that really work.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

What would love do?

Whenever she is down in the dumps or spinning into a darker place, she comes back to this question:

What would love do?

What would love say?

How would love handle this?

This helps ground Kelsey back into her heart.

It creates a little bit of space between the thought and the action. Which gives her time to make a better choice.

When You Tripped Up

Early on in a recent relationship Kelsey had, she got tripped up on her jealousy and insecurity.

One woman in particular had come into their lives and she felt incredibly threatened by.

Here old mechanisms of handling jealously started to rise up instead of asking “what would love do?” she operated on auto pilot and got reactive. This left no space for the truth to emerge.

This approach eventually led to the relationships coming to an end temporarily.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

One of Kelsey’s big DUH moments was when she realized that she was depending on her partner to give her pieces of her self esteem back. And looking to him for approval and validation.

She started asking herself, who was it she needed recognition from? The first answer she got was herself.

As uncomfortable as this was, Kelsey gave herself a 30 day challenge of owning every day what she did that was self loving and how she had cared for herself that day. And she did it on Facebook to hold herself accountable by making it public.

This helped her move past the resistance she had to being seen and being recognized.

The second place she was seeking recognition was from her father. So Kelsey called up her Dad and said “I really need to know that you’re proud of me.” This is the first time she had been courageous enough to ask him.

Once she asked for what she needed, he was able to provide it. And this was so nourishing to her.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Kelsey and her partner have authentic and really heart opening conversations she always feels proud.

The acceptance of who he is fully creates the space for him to do the same for her.

Being seen and accepted deeply are some of the proudest moments of her partnership.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Approach your relationship as a path and not a destination.

This allows you to meet whatever arrises on your journey with curiosity and love and compassion. Then you can use your partnership as a vessel for personal development both independently and as a couple.

If you see it as a path that is ever evolving and ever expanding this creates a lot of space for acceptance.

Best Partnership Book

Journey of the Heart: The Path of Conscious Love

Payoff of Partnership -

For Kelsey, the evolution of her business is an example of the payoff of partnership.

Her partner’s observation of her talents and her strong suits led to her creating her Curriculum for Love program. Without his insights it wouldn’t have happened.

This led to a new degree of fulfillment and service in her business that wouldn’t have happened without that partnership.

Interview Links -

Kelsey's website

Kelsey’s Facebook Link

Kelsey’s Twitter Link

Kelsey’s Instagram

Susan Campbell – Know Your Triggers

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 23 Nov 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Psychologist Susan Campbell has worked as a relationship coach for 45 years.

A former professor at the University of Massachusetts, she is author of 10 books on relationships and communication.

Her work has been featured in many popular magazines including, New Woman, Cosmopolitan, Self, Men's Health, Brides, Seventeen, Yoga Journal and New Age.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

We are here in this school of life to learn lessons and relationships are the advanced course.

Susan teaches relationships as a practice like yoga or meditation. And she helps people self observe there resistance to the present moment.

To her relationships are a spiritual practice to help us evolve beyond the egocentric view of what’s going on.

When You Tripped Up

Susan and her partner had just returned from a fabulous romantic vacation and she was sleeping in.

Unbeknownst to her, her partner was awake and wanting to make love but she is still sleeping.

A couple of hours later he wakes her up and says he is going home and starts saying that he never gets what he wants in the relationship etc. Clearly he is triggered.

Susan, feeling blindsided by all of this is now triggered too. Her ego and pride comes up and she says to herself “If he can’t see what a great girlfriend she is, then she doesn’t want him.”

Ultimately they ended up breaking up over this fight.

The lesson from this trip up: Don’t ever break up with your partner when you are triggered because you are never in your right mind when that is going on.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

When she was in her 20’s Susan became an instant step mom to her husband’s young brother and sister.

She took it on with enthusiasm but there was always something going on with her and the 9 year old boy. And it became very tense between her and the boy.

A few years later, her husband and her divorce. And then the boy told her ex-husband that he had felt like he lost his big brother.

Susan’s DUH moment was that as a psychologist, she missed all of the ripples that her entering this family would create.

The lesson is to know what kind of a personality you have and apply what you know from other areas in your life to your relationships.

Proudest moment in partnership

Susan was at an outdoor music festival with her boyfriend and they got into a disagreement.

Her boyfriend says “This is not going to work,” and Susan took this to mean he was going to break up with her.

And what she is proud of is that instead of letting this trigger her she asked “what just happened there? Can you tell me more about why you’re saying that?”

She was not pleased, but she held space for him and let him talk it out. By the time they had finished talking they were close again.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Know that you have triggers. Emotional hot buttons that are based on fears like fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear that you’re not important or accepted.

And learn the early warning signs of the triggers so you have more power over the whole triggering process.

Best Partnership Book

Five-Minute Relationship Repair: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

Interview Links -

Susan's website

Susan’s Facebook Link

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Which do you trust more, your “Yes” or your doubt?

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 18 Nov 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Sile Walsh

Not Following -

Sile was in Atlanta, Georgia for 3 months and 90% considering staying on.

She spoke with a person who she had been in a relationship before back in Ireland and they said Sile should come home and they could get married.

Now Sile knew one, that it was not a good idea to marry this person and two, that this person had no intention of getting married. But her mind kicked in and told her this was safer than staying in Atlanta and since she had invested so much in this relationship she should go. So she went back to Ireland.

Upon returning to Ireland she jumped back into an even more co-dependent relationship than it was when she left.

She never didn’t know this was a bad idea, but there was a lack of trust in herself. She didn’t trust herself to say yes to the new opportunities in front of her and so she followed her doubt which felt safer.

Following -

Sile was doing an apprenticeship as a chef and ahead of the rest of her peers and yet something was telling her to go to India.

She gave herself 8 weeks and every part of her was saying “do what it takes.” And she went.

This ended up being the first of 5 trips to India over the next 2 years.

It turned out to be an extraordinary part of her life because she went from doing everything that was safe, to following her inner guidance and trying. This allowed her to step into her power and the kind of future that she wanted.

If she hadn’t gone on these trips, Sile feels she would still be the same person she was then. Instead, by following her “Yes” she has matured as a person and it led to the work she is doing today.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

For Sile when she gets a “Yes” she doesn’t know the outcome. It is about trusting herself and the process.

When it’s her mind, she is trying to control something or remedy something with her actions.

When Sile feels moved to do something without a plan or what it is going to mean, that’s when it is her “Yes” and when it serves her best.

Listen to Sile's full interview here

Connect with Sile -

Sile's Website

Sile's Instagram Link

Sile’s YouTube Link

Sile’s Twitter Link

Amy Baglan

Not Following -

Amy had a time when she met a man and had such intense chemistry that she was buzzing all over and it was exciting and could not stop thinking about him and felt ungrounded.

She used to think this is what the beginning of any great relationship looked like. And it always got her in trouble.

Within a couple of months it would go poof. It was like the chemistry blinded the red flag radar.

She has learned not to follow this chemistry anymore because she always got hurt.

Following -

With her partner, Joe, she felt the electricity, but was able to stay very grounded.

The difference was what she experienced with him was an additive part instead of something that was taking over her life. And she always felt grounded when she was with him.

This was a huge “Yes” for her. It felt safe. Unlike the crazy chemistry that did not feel safe.

Listen to Amy's full interview here

Connect with Amy -

MeetMindful.com

Amy's Facebook Link

Amy’s Twitter Link

Amy Baglan – What is Mindfulness?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 16 Nov 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Amy is a passionate, cause-driven entrepreneur on a mission to evolve the dating industry.

Five years ago, Amy left a thriving life in New York City to explore the world. She studied with masters of yoga, meditation, Buddhism and more and noticed that there was one common thread connecting the people she met: mindfulness.

Amy moved to Denver, Colorado inspired to create something that brings those people together in an intentional, authentic way.

Guided by her deep-rooted belief that authentic relationships and connections are the fastest way to personal growth, she founded MeetMindful.com for the millions of people who desire deep, meaningful relationships with a like-minded partner.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

If you and / or your partner are in a triggered state, nothing is going to go well. When you can find compassion for where your partner is, good or bad, then everything will fall into place.

It is not easy.

When you can ask what to do next from your heart instead of from the triggered ego / head state makes a huge difference.

When You Tripped Up

Amy did not know how to be in partnership until recently.

She was trying to be the best person she could be, but that is different from being the best partner she can be.

In the past Amy cared more about letting her partner know that she felt injured or that whatever they did wasn’t right and how badly that felt, than about remedying the situation.

She felt compelled to walk them through what they did that made her feel so bad, because if they just understood, then maybe they wouldn’t do it again.

This got her in trouble a lot.

Proudest moment in partnership

Amy’s relationship with her boyfriend, Joe, is definitely it for her.

What she has experienced in her own personal growth is largely a result of their partnership.

The appreciation they each show the other for all the daily stuff that has to happen in life is inspiring. And instead of taking it for granted, making sure they know how much they appreciate it.

The more she appreciates Joe for what he does, the more those things happen.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Amy was talking with Arielle Ford asking where are all the conscious men?

Arielle said, “guys are spiritual and conscious and mindful in their own ways and it is not always going to be what you do as a woman.”

Best Partnership Resource

Alison Armstrong's programs at Understandmen.com

Interview Links -

MeetMindful.com

Amy's Facebook Link

Amy’s Twitter Link

Sile Walsh – Be Brave Enough to Ask the Question…

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 09 Nov 2016 09:00:00 -0500

Sheila is a qualified in (Hdip coaching psychology) and an experienced transformation coach specializing in authenticity and personal development.

Sheila assists you in breaking free of limiting beliefs and habits, while helping you get clear about who you are and what you want from life, business and relationships!

She does this through focusing on developing authentic confidence, mental fitness, personal resilience, emotional intelligence, healthy relationships, improved communication skills and self-awareness.

Using a combination of Positive Psychology, Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, Solution Focused Coaching and a person centered approach, Sheila addresses areas such as stress, clarity, happiness, relationships, life direction, anxiety management, interpersonal skills, conflict resolution and authentic success.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Whatever is happening in relation to other people, there is something in it for you to learn from. Just ask “what am I responsible for here?” and the learning will be revealed.

When Sile takes responsibility for her role, then she is better able to trust other people because she can now trust that she will take responsibility for what she needs.

As long as she takes responsibility for her intentions, actions and feelings then she can trust that other people cannot take advantage of her or manipulate her or misuse the trust she gives them.

When You Tripped Up

Sile was in a relationship for 10 years and she did not realize how much responsibility she was giving the other person for her happiness.

Her focus was on, if he was just different then she’d be OK. So she spent her time trying to change him. Trying to create the safest version of a person she could create.

And she realized that she had spent a lifetime waiting for someone else to come along and improve her life. And when they did come along, she would give them all the responsibility for her happiness.

The more she gave this responsibility to someone else, the less she was happy.

Sile came to the understanding that her happiness and her fulfillment can’t be done through a relationship. She can have fulfillment and be in a relationship, but it is really not her partner’s purpose in the relationship to fulfill her.

Learning this lesson had given her the most freedom of anything because she doesn’t need people to be different for her to be OK.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Sile had a day of arguing with this man and they could not come meet on the same ground. And he eventually said to her, “Who do you want me to be?”

This woke her up to understand that her behavior was telling him that everything that he is, isn’t OK.

That statement made Sile realize that although she had these theories about how to be in partnership, her behavior wasn’t in alignment with the theories.

Proudest moment in partnership

Sile reconnected with a cousin she had not been in contact with since she was a child.

They found they were sharing the same struggle and the same growth at the same time.

At this meeting they shared so much deeply honest and vulnerable information about themselves that Sile said “Now I know how I am going to build relationships.”

They created a connection in such an honest way that she realized if she was able to do this with her, then she could do it with other people as well.

It told her how much choice she had in the kind of relationships she creates. And that she had the ability to build them, because she had already done it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

It is all about you.

If it’s your emotions, it’s about you. If you think it, it’s about you.

Best Partnership Book

Self Care: An Authentic Journey

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

Payoff of Partnership

Sile believes that if you really want to experience yourself and understand yourself, then you have to look at yourself within partnerships with others.

When you are in any kind of partnership it highlights where you are with ourself even more clearly.

This is the gift of seeing ourselves clearer than we can outside of partnership.

It may be harder, but it is more rewarding than trying to do it all on your own.

Interview Links -

Sile's Website

Sile's Instagram Link

Sile’s YouTube Link

Sile’s Twitter Link

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – The Golden Rule for Recognizing Your “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 04 Nov 2016 08:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Jenna Ward

Not Following -

When Jenna was a Clinical Hospital Pharmacist she also lectured at a university.

Once she moved on to become an entrepreneur as an embodiment mentor, she was doing very well but some part of her was choosing out of fear to not let go of her one day a week university job.

Some part of her was always resisting going to that job, but she still renewed her contract with them going entirely against her “Yes”.

Once she finally got the courage to follow her “Yes” and leave this position, she realized that by ignoring her “Yes” for so long, now there were all these people in her life who had made plans around her and she would now have to disappoint.

By following her “Yes” she felt instant liberation.

Following -

Jenna had avery successful practice in Brisbane, Australia doing energy medicine with her clients in person and at the same time she was feeling this strong guidance to move to Bali.

She could not rationalize this guidance because she knew no one there, but something told her she was meant to go there. So she decided to follow this “Yes” and make it happen.

On her fifth day in Bali she met an amazing man who fell into her lap and they had an amazing adventure together.

This only happened because she trusted that intangible knowing that was such a strong yes in her heart that she could not ignore it.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

Jenna’s golden rule for recognizing your “Yes” is that our heart has no justification. It just is truth. Unapologetically.

As opposed to our head which has a big story of why we should, why we shouldn’t, why it’s good enough, why this will never work etc. Your head will always have a big long story about “why.”

Listen to Jenna's full interview here

Connect with Jenna -

Jenna's Website

Jenna's Facebook Link

Embodied Women Facebook Group

Jenna's Instagram Link

Jessica Winterstern

Not Following -

There was a time in Jessica’s life when she was in a relationship where there was such beautiful communication and connection and still her gut was saying “this isn’t right.”

In the past she would give her power away and follow someone else’s truth instead of her own internal knowing. And she allowed herself to be swayed because she loved him and respected him and was afraid to honor her truth for fear of disrespecting or hurting this man.

Ultimately, this choice caused her to turn on herself. Her heart was screaming “No this isn’t right!”

Once she got to the place of saying yes to him and no to herself, she felt like she had betrayed herself.

Following -

Jessica has a pattern of drawing men into her life who are amazing and convinced they are meant to be with her.

She has learned how to stand in her knowing and her truth and not be afraid to own it.

Recently Jessica found herself in a relationship with a beautiful man who was convinced they were meant to be together and she got to see clearly her pattern that wants to appease others at the expense of herself.

This time she was able to say “I love you. And the answer is no.” This was the first time in her life she had honored her inner knowing despite the fear of hurting him.

It took recognizing that her “Yes” to herself was actually a “Yes” to him too.

How do you recognize your “Yes” from just your mind trying to convince you of something.

For Jessica her “Yes” voice is kind and it is loving. Her “Yes” voice is gentle and honoring and supportive.

When the guidance is coming from her mind or her ego it is demanding and fear driven.

Listen to Jessica's full interview here

Connect with Jessica -

Jessica's Website

Jessica's Facebook Link

Jessica's Instagram Link

To All The Men Out There

I Love You AND The Answer is NO!

Jessica Winterstern – Every moment in partnership is a choice

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 02 Nov 2016 08:00:00 -0500

Jessica Winterstern got her bachelors in applied psychology from NYU, her masters in Human development and psychology from Harvard and is about to graduate with a second masters in Spiritual psychology from university of Santa Monica.

She is an author who writes for Huffington post, House of Citrine The Good Men Project and several other publications and is currently writing two books.

Jessica is a transformational coach and a motivational speaker. Vulnerability is her greatest strength and she recognizes her heart as her ultimate superpower.

What inspired you to write your article - “To all the men out there”?

Jessica recognized that all her life she had been projecting her pain and insecurities and discomfort on others and especially men.

She realized it often feels easier to point blame rather than take responsibility. And she was ready to clear herself of this and started writing and this article came out.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

All love comes from self love.

When it comes to loving and going into partnership, it is so important to be connected to one’s value and worth. Otherwise we are setting ourselves up for failure when we are disconnected from ourselves.

When You Tripped Up

At the time of Jessica’s first serious relationship she had a great deal of self hatred and lack of self worth coursing through her body. And she created a partnership with a man who mirrored back to her all of these things.

She stayed in this relationship for 4 years, which was probably 4 years too long, even though everyone in her life was advocating for her to get out of it.

Jessica continually turned a blind eye to things that she wouldn’t stand for today.

Looking back she knows that this man was being her mirror and treating her exactly as she felt that she deserved to be treated.

She was tripping up over and over again because she was so dependent on the idea of the partnership and so terrified of being alone that she ended up sacrificing herself to maintain something that wasn’t real.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Jessica’s “Duh” moment was when she realized that even the man who was the love of her life so far, could not fix the emptiness she felt inside no matter how much he tried to make her happy.

Waking up to the fact that she needed to do the work it was going to take to become whole so she could come into a relationship as someone who is complete.

On the outside everything looked perfect. But inside she was completely disconnected from herself and she was looking for her value from external variables.

She needed to do the work within so she could be fueled by her own self love in a relationship versus her own self loathing.

Proudest moment in partnership

The relationships Jessica has built with the women in her life right now are some of her proudest.

They are a mirror and reflection of what powerful self-love is able to do.

These partnerships light each other up and don’t feel the need to dim themselves down.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Every moment is a choice. You can only choose your partner when you choose yourself first.

Best Partnership Book

I Love You AND The Answer is NO!

Payoff of Partnership

Jessica values the experiences of heartbreak and grief that come from some of the most tumultuous times in the relationships of her life.

At the time she felt like her world was over, but when she leaned into the pain and have her heart feel like it was being cracked wide open, it was the catalyst for her growth.

These heartbreaks led to Jessica having a more open heart today.

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To All The Men Out There

Jenna Ward – Attention Is Needed Within

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 26 Oct 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Jenna Ward is an Embodiment + Energy Medicine Mentor, guiding women to get out of their head and into their hearts.

Jenna teaches women how to awaken their magnetic and sensual souls, embodying their deep potential to create authentic businesses and rich relationships that turn them on through her signature program, The Embodied Woman.

This is a 12 week online journey into more passion, purpose and freedom by connecting and embodying your authentic self into every cell of your being.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Your partnership is a barometer of how you are being within yourself.

When there is discord or struggle or strife within a partnership, often that is reflecting something that is uncomfortable, unresolved, unhealed or unsettled that is going on within yourself.

So when stuff is coming up in a partnership, that is a big indicator that is saying “Attention is needed within.”

When You Tripped Up

Jenna was looking for her partnership to be her salvation. The thing that kept her afloat when everything else was not really going as she desired.

This brought about a big feeling of confusion and disconnect.

Her partner was not stepping up to be all the things she wanted him to be.

She realized she was projecting all of her desires onto her partner to be the thing that saved her and carried her forward.

Jenna realized that the control she was exerting in the partnership was a surrogate for the big lack of control she was feeling in the rest of her life.

Her epiphany was that no good partnership is based on control or obligation. The only type of meaningful partnership is based on mutual respect which is founded in love.

Proudest moment in partnership

Jenna is very proud of a partnership she has formed with a woman who is her biggest competition in business.

She learned to never hesitate to reach out someone you admire.even if you think there is no logical reason they would partner with you.

And there is really no place for competition in the business place anymore. There is abundance for everyone.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Everybody benefits from spending time being with their body. Touching their body and enjoying their body.

This allows you to value you.

Best Partnership Book

Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

Payoff of Partnership

The big partnership Jenna is playing with right now is herself and her business. This being of her business has chosen her and she is exploring it by living and working all around the world.

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Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Your “Yes” is Inspiration

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 21 Oct 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Debbi Dachinger

Not Following -

Debbi was in a relationship years ago where she and her partner, Kent, had to move. And as they were looking for new places to live, her gut was telling her “Get out. Get out. Get out now! You’re done.”

Debbi did not listen to her better self, her “Yes,” that was telling her the relationship was done.

They moved into a beautiful place and immediately things started unraveling. By the end she was sleeping on the sofa. She found another place to live and getting out of their lease was a financial mess.

Debbi learned to trust the doubt that is going on as it is usually something very important to pay attention to.

Following -

Debbi had a corporate job that many people would kill for. But it wasn’t what she was built for, so she left it.

She stepped out and followed her “Yes” and it did not take too long before she was making a sustainable living.

Here CPA was very worried for her, but every year when Debbi brought in her financials her CPA understood.

Our “Yes” is inspiration and often all these voices of logic or upbringing or society start demanding that you demonstrate that your “Yes” is going to work out. These are the “what ifs.”

Your “Yes” is that strong guidance about what your next step is. Even if you can’t see to the end of the line, you are very clear what your next right move is.

Listen to Debbi's full interview here

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mybestsellerbook.com

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Camille Sheppard-Parrish

Not Following -

When Camille was an undergrad she started majoring in journalism because she wanted to be a TV talk show host. She also was studying psychology.

But she didn’t go down those paths because the paths seems so long. So she went a different direction with her career. She went into Information Technology because it was “quick money.” But it did not bring her the joy and happiness that she was craving.

Now she is right back in the same place she was as an undergrad. Working in journalism, TV, psychology etc. But she wasted many years not following her “Yes” and missing out on the joy that she now gets from the work she is doing now.

Following -

When Camille started diving into the self-help world she was challenged by what was her “why.” What was she so compelled to do that she would do it for free?

Though it was challenging she followed it. And realized this was the dream she had way back when she was in college.

Following through on this dream now brings her so much joy and happiness.

Listen to Camille's full interview here

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Camille Sheppard-Parrish – Push Love Forward

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Camille Sheppard-Parrish is a healthy love coach, relationship and dating expert and author of Successful Women Date Differently: Secrets to Attracting the Love You Deserve.

She helps women overcome difficult emotional challenges that hold them back from attracting relationship-ready men.

Camille’s mission is to provide a one-of-a-kind holistic coaching experience that will provide the necessary guidance to identity crippling blocks, unconscious behaviors, remove limiting beliefs, boost your self-esteem, own your happiness and shift your love vibration causing you to stop attracting and dating the wrong type of men.

She provides women with the tools, strategies and techniques to attract and sustain the happy and healthy relationship that you deserve… with Mr. Right!

Camille has earned her MBA and is currently conducting research for her dissertation in Organization and Management, Leadership for her PhD.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

We become what we believe that we are.

It is so important to follow your purpose so you can serve in whatever capacity honors your true self.

We have to write our future ourselves, and not depend on other people to push us into their story.

When You Tripped Up

Camille used to come into her romantic relationships with a wall that sometimes felt like a fort around her to protect herself. This caused her to put out a lot of masculine energy and not understand how to just be as a woman and embrace her femininity.

She would show up trying to be better men than the men she was in relationship with.

Here biggest trip up was not trusting and giving a man the opportunity to show up and be himself.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

One of Camille’s “Duh” moments was that she was recreating the events of her childhood over and over again in her relationships with men.

She tried to understand and rationalize this pattern by seeing if there was a common denominator with these men. Did they come from the same city or have the same zodiac sign?

What she found out was it was really her. She was unconsciously attracting the same type of men over and over again by not paying attention to her unconscious behaviors.

Once she realized she was the common denominator. And that was tough for her to own as a successful and educated woman.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Camille is able to truly help someone it is when she is proudest. This can be teaching or providing the means for a person to get a meal or a bus fare or a kind word.

This form of giving helps her really feel grateful about what she has and what she has to offer. Even if it is not that much more than the person she is helping.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Be yourself in all relationships. And to be comfortable with the other person being them self. This allows a true, authentic friendship and relationship to grow.

When you are just being yourself, being kind, being loving, being true and honest, this is what builds relationships and allows the partnership to grow and flourish.

Best Partnership Book

The Holy Scriptures.

This is the root of what everyone is teaching regarding how to love and live and be peaceful to everyone.

No matter who’s book you read, it ultimately comes from scripture.

Payoff of Partnership

Being herself and standing in a place of kindness and always being grateful has brought Camille the most benefits in all her relationships.

Because Camille does this, when she is in need, she has others looking to support her and lift her up.

Also, when she is going through something challenging she has the resilience to keep moving forward as a result of how she lives.

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Debbi Dachinger – Share What You Love

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Debbi Dachinger is a Media Personality. Her cutting-edge talk radio show about success, “DARE TO DREAM” is syndicated (on 66 stations) and a multi-award winning program.

Debbi is a top-notch radio personality, a successful motivational speaker, was an award-winning actress and singer, and a professional voice over artist.

In addition to her ongoing radio program, Debbi runs the Bestseller Launch Program - taking authors to international bestselling book status. She also runs Radio Mastery Training for entrepreneurs, speakers and authors ready to accelerate their skills on the radio

Debbi is the author of two books: “WISDOM TO SUCCESS: The Surefire Secrets To Accomplish All Your Dreams” and the bestseller “DARE TO DREAM: This Life Counts!”

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Debbi is deeply sensitive, deeply intuitive, deeply in touch and at the same time she is super strong.

So that means that when she is not in her ultimate place of compassion or kindness or fun, that there are moments when she says and does things she regrets.

And when that happens for her she apologizes, because it is very important for her to take responsibility and to be the best partner she can.

In Debbi’s partnerships it is important for her to show up as a teammate with her partner. And that they are playing on the same team and she wants that team to succeed.

She treats people in a way that she feels she should and wants to be treated.

When You Tripped Up

Debbi’s biggest trip up was a past marriage that ended over 10 years ago.

She was so beside herself knowing this was a bad marriage because she was terrified to speak the words and take the action.

For her it was about everybody else. The money her family had spent on her wedding, all the guests, all the gifts and she felt shame.

Shame that she had failed. That her “picker” was off. That she should have known better. And for all the investments of time, money and energy that everybody had put into it.

She also felt shame because she had a certain identity and to change that would paint a different picture for everyone of her. She was afraid people would talk about herself.

And she wondered “What if this is as good as it gets?”

All this kept her stuck for years.

She set up benchmarks that once she reached them, then she could leave the marriage. Like once she weighed a specific weight then she could leave, because then she would be so amazingly attractive that it would make the fear that this may be her last relationship go away.

Proudest moment in partnership

Debbi has a best friend who lives out East and a proud moment for Debbi is telling her real feelings to this friend.

There are a few times Debbi has been hurt by this friend and being brave enough to risk loosing this friend by telling her that she had hurt her was huge.

But the biggest pride is that Debbi opened her heart and let her friend know what she was experiencing. And it has always made their friendship stronger.

At every crossroads they choose each other.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Grow your tolerance and remember the good stuff.

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Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Sometimes your “Yes” is a Stapler

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 07 Oct 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Susan Ortolano

Not Following -

After two months of dating her first husband it was clear to Susan that they were a NO.

Everything inside of her was asking “This is my soul mate? It can’t be.” But she didn’t listen to her “Yes. ”

She listened to someone else who she loved and trusted. And she tried to force it to work.

Following -

Susan’s clear Yes defied logic.

She was breaking up from a relationship and instead of taking some time, she dove straight into her relationship with Rick, the man that is now her husband.

Susan knew so clearly that it was a “Yes” to marry him that they eloped without even telling her family.

Two weeks after they eloped, everyone in her family met Rick at a birthday party and they all adored him.

Listen to Susan's full interview here

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Marni Battista

Marni had been dating her husband for about 4 - 5 months and he was everything she wanted. And she told him she was really at a place in her life where she was looking to get married again.

He said he really wanted to be in a relationship with her, but was not sure if he should because he had only been divorced for 6 or 7 months and his therapist has told him he shouldn’t get in a relationship.

And she was all about the rules at that time and decided she if he wasn’t ready to commit to a relationship she would set her boundary and that would be that.

Marni’s intuition told her she needed to not be in control and let things unfold. But she was so worried about protecting herself that she didn’t follow her gut.

Then she decided that everything feels right and if calling what she and Jeremy had a relationship was not working, what if they called it a stapler.

Marni invited him to be in a stapler with her and he said “yes.”

Listen to Marni's full interview here

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Marni Battista – How to Find a High-Quality Guy

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 05 Oct 2016 07:00:00 -0500

As the founder of Dating with Dignity and with more than 25 years of personal relationship and dating experience, Marni Battista has dated, was married for 17 years, divorced, and then successfully dated again (and married!) in the 21st century.

She has undergone professional training in dating and relationship coaching as well as training in the Core Energy Coaching Process from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC). Marni also has extensive training as a Facilitator with the Hoffman Institute, one of the worlds foremost organizations in personal development.

She was a guest co-host on Dr. Drew Pinskys Loveline show, and Marni was called LAs best dating coach after her appearance on On Air with Ryan Seacrest.

More importantly, as a divorcee for more than five years, Marni truly understands what it feels like to be lonely and sick of wasting time on dates with men that go nowhere.

A woman who is not your mother, best friend, or therapist, Marni is the professional relationship and dating expert who will stand behind you to provide love, compassion, support and honest guidance as you embark on one of the most important, fulfilling adventures in your life.

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Why does Marni do the work she does?

There was a moment when Marni was married to her first husband where she was down on her knees in their driveway begging him not to leave her. Pleading with him to love and accept her. This was one of the lowest points in her life.

Marni now does the work she does because she never wants another woman to go through something like this or if they have before, that they never have to go through it again.

No one should have to be on their knees begging someone for acceptance and this is why she does what she does.

Are you trying to reduce dating with your new book “How to Find a High-Quality Guy without Going on 200 Dates?”

Yes. Marni was hearing from women that they can’t find quality men anywhere and they hate dating, so she decided to address this issue.

She wants to help women solve this problem, and help them understand that this is a symptom of a deeper problem.

Marni has found in her life and the lives of her clients, who are successful in really being loved and loving themselves and loving their lives, there are two things that need to happen.

So in her book, Marni asks you if you are willing to do these two things, and if you are she gives you a formula for finding a high-quality guy without going on 200 dates.

Once you complete the formula Marni provides you with 38 “gold mines” of places to meet quality men.

When you are a high-quality woman, you don’t have to go on 200 dates.

What does “high-quality guy” mean?

Marni has summed up what a “high-quality guy” is into four words: Words and Actions Match.

He has integrity, is loyal, honest and can communicate. He is ready for a relationship. He knows what he wants. He is a man who is on the upward spiral and wants to find a partner to do that with him.

To attract a man in an upward spiral, you need to be a woman in an upward spiral. You need to be the person you want to attract.

This does not mean you need to be perfect. It means there needs to be space for both of you to be human and make mistakes. Room for both of you to be on the journey.

If you ask your man to meet standards you are not living to in your own life, you will leave really amazing people behind.

What are the biggest limiting beliefs and what do we need to do to get past them?

Limiting beliefs are beliefs you have about yourself, dating, men, the world at large that you believe is the truth.

Marni wants you to know there is a difference between what’s true and what is the Truth.

We take what has been true for us in our lives and assign it the title of “The Truth.” Marni gives us a great example of this.

In the spirit of taking responsibility and having courage you need to take a step back and ask - “How true is that really?”

Listen to what the next level question is that will help you see why you are holding on to your limiting beliefs.

How do you fine tune your “Man Picker”?

Play with the following question to enhance your picking ability: How can you redefine dangerous or edgy or interesting or chemistry?

This will get you over the idea that a guy is just “too nice.”

If you are not clear on what you are looking for, it is hard to identify it when you see it.

It is all about the power of what Marni calls data dating.

What was the first step Marni took to find her amazing husband?

First, she took personal responsibility.

After her first marriage ended she was quite into drama. And then the ex-wife of one of her boyfriends invited her to stop blaming this guy and take a look at herself.

All of the sudden this switched things for her. Marni recognized there was possibility beyond what she was experiencing and the only way out was to stop blaming and scheming.

And it was all about taking personal responsibility for the life she wanted to have.

The truth about the 38 places to find quality men.

If you don’t do the work on yourself before you head off to these 38 places to find quality men, you will simply be adding one more thing to the list of what didn’t work for you.

The truth is you have to do the work to become a high-quality woman and when you do finding a high-quality man will be easy.

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Susan Ortolano – Take Ownership For Every Thought, Feeling and Experience You Have

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 28 Sep 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Susan Ortolano was once a little girl dreaming about love, weddings, white picket fences, and a handsome guy on the white horse. After years of bad, painful relationships and a failed marriage, she discovered the real reason she hadn’t yet found true love. Through much personal growth work, she's now a happily remarried lady!

Her personal experiences along with a devastating illness inspired her to transition from award winning School Teacher to Intuitive Relationship Coach and Educator.

Susan skillfully combines her finely tuned clairvoyant skills with her coaching to teach people to master the art of successful relationships.

She is also the author of the recently released book- Remarrying Right How to create everlasting love with your true soul mate.

Personally, Susan admits to being a a hopeless romantic. She loves humor, helping others, studying spirituality and astrology.

She & her husband Rick live north of Los Angeles.

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Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Your outer reflection is a direct result of your inner reality.

So whatever stories, whatever programs, whatever thoughts and feelings that we carry with us, get projected outwards towards us.

When You Tripped Up

Susan’s early romantic life was not pretty. She felt like she was stuck in pattern after pattern.

Her first marriage was her trip up moment. She really learned how her outward reality was a direct reflection of her inner reality.

She married a man that did everything she was afraid a man would do to her.

Susan did not love or value herself enough and she didn’t hold good boundaries. And ended up marrying a man who cheated and lied and took money and came and went as he pleased.

This brought up so much anguish and pain for her.

She left that marriage with the realization that she had done that to herself.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

After Susan’s first marriage ended, she met another guy who said “You are the greatest gal I’ve ever met, but I really don’t think I’m in love with you.”

But she convinced him to stay in the relationship. She even convinced him to propose to her.

Susan’s “Duh” moment was when she was in grad school doing a visioning exercise where they were instructed to envision their relationship with no one specific in mind. Instead just envision what she wanted.

When she created her vision of her ideal relationship she realized it did not include the guy she was with.

It was like “Duh, I created the same pattern as I had with my first husband. Just with a nicer guy.”

In that moment she decided she would rather be single the rest of her life than ever settle again. And she meant it!

This commitment opened up the world to her, and within a month she got together with her current husband. And they have been married over 15 years now.

Proudest moment in partnership

Marrying her husband is one of Susan’s proudest moments. Because it came from such a deep knowingness.

She has never felt more loved, more cherished, more cared for or more accepted in her life.

To see his eyes light up when she walks into the room is beyond words. It is the energetics that happen between the two of them.

There is what she calls an “is-ness” between them.

Rick is what she had dreamed of in a relationship. It is as good as it looks, even better.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Take ownership for every thought, feeling and experience you have.

Everything that you experience comes from something that lives within you. And you are the only one who can clear, release or heal it.

When you take ownership of your thoughts, feelings, point of view, your history, your story about a partner or about yourself you can actually heal yourself and make partnership amazing.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Remarrying Right: Creating Everlasting Love With Your True Soul Mate

Listen to Linda & Charlie's full interview here

Payoff of Partnership -

The experience of feeling love coming towards her inspired her to develop that inside herself as well.

There is something about partnership that is all about growth and healing and evolution.

When we use the opportunity of partnership to further develop ourselves we grow and evolve.

This is the most powerful piece of being in partnership along with learning more about love itself and love of other.

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Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Embrace the Courage to go for Your “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 23 Sep 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Linda & Charlie Bloom

Not Following -

When Linda and Charlie’s children were small and both had their own careers, their relationship got the leftover scraps of time and attention.

Linda did not take time to check in with herself to see what was going on with her. And they did not take nearly enough time with each other to report out and check in with each other to keep the bond and connection strong.

This went on for such a long time they came really close to adding their relationship to the divorce statistics.

They learned from this downfall and now take time on a daily basis to check in with themselves and check in with each other to make sure they don’t have a pile of incompletions that’s waiting for their attention or it will come down on them like an avalanche.

Following -

Linda is really clear that she thrives when she is connected strongly to Charlie.

When she hears from her inner self that she is securely bonded with Charlie and follows that impulse to feel her connection with him, the other parts of her life flow very easily.

This connection is the hub of the wheel of her life and everything else emanates from that.

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Devon Kerns

Not Following -

There was this woman that Devon just knew in his gut that he had a special connection with.

He had 30 seconds to connect with her in a way that overwhelmed his brain. This was in a Starbucks like some scene from a sappy movie.

His brain was screaming at him “Go tell her how you feel!” And he didn’t do it.

Devon ended up running back into this woman at a party and she recognized him and approached him and says she really wanted to talk to him in that Starbucks. And his heart starts to pound all over again and he is thinking how amazing this is.

Then a guy walks up and gives her a kiss and essentially made it clear she was not alone.

Turns out the two of them met later the same day Devon saw her at Starbucks.

This guy had followed his “Yes” and was now dating this woman while Devon had gone for his No and allowed fear of rejection to stop him.

Following -

Devon was working in the art world selling limited edition artwork and had an appointment with a gentleman who was going to buy $5000 in artwork.

He was walking past a beautiful brand new building and he got this strong intuitive feeling to go into this building and check it out. And though he knew if he followed his gut he would miss his appointment to make a $5000 sale.

But he did it.

He called his client and says he can’t make it and the client is relieved because he is stuck in traffic and thanked Devon for rescheduling.

So he enters the towers and approaches the front desk and let’s the woman there know he would like to see the building.

Turns out this woman is the builder and developer of the building. A very stunning and powerful woman.

She asked what he does and he says something he has never said before and just follows his instinct. And it led to a $60,000 sale that day.

Listen to Devon's full interview here

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Devon Kerns – Know Thy Self

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 21 Sep 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Many people refer to Devon as the RockStar of Dating. Devon has made it his mission to empower one million single professionals by the end of 2016 and help them cut through the usual pitfalls of dating and finally find the crazy and passionate love that they have dreamed of!

With more than ten years of coaching one thousand single professionals around the country on relationships, emotional intelligence, and lifestyle management, Devon has devoted himself to helping men and women master the art of knowing themselves well enough to get what they really want out of dating, relationships, business and love.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Know thy self.

In a world where so many people are so frustrated in relating and dating, we have quantitative communication in relationships, but not quality communication.

Truly understanding your personality and what your personality needs in a partner, in order to create a conducive and loving environment with that partner, is the most important thing you need to have.

When You Tripped Up

Devon has found that men are all in at all times when it comes to something we are truly passionate about.

When it comes to women, this can cause us to do some dumb things.

So one of the things Devon does at times is not allow a gap for distance to create desire. So when he has found a woman he was interested in, he just wanted to see her all the time and connect with her all the time.

This behavior has caused him to blow several relationships because he overwhelmed them too soon with too much.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

What Devon lacked in the past is the power of No as a man. Particularly when sex happened too soon.

Typically we expect the woman to be the one saying No and the man is in full pursuit mode.

What he has learned that he did not do in the past, that leads to a stronger connection is the power of No.

This is not a tactic to manipulate a woman. By saying No first, you create a safe environment for her.

Proudest moment in partnership

Devon was engaged to a woman who had her entire world come crashing down and she literally disappeared. This all happened in November and he did not hear from her until February.

He went on a search for her and ended up on a major roller coaster emotionally himself.

What made this a proud moment for him is he had done so much work on himself that he truly believed that good and bad are characteristics that we place on moment. And if he wants the things around me to change he has to change the way he is looking at those things.

In this pain, instead of running from it and blocking it off, he stepped into it. And this validated that all the work he did on himself was paying off.

Devon was able to stand true to himself through the ups and downs of this relationship.

This allowed him to love her through all this pain and still own what his needs were.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Desire is created by distance.

And so many people are looking for their best friend instead of truly understanding what it means to have a romantic and loving and deep and intimate partnership with someone.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Interview Links -

Devon's Website

Devon's Facebook Link

Devon’s Twitter Link

Linda & Charlie Bloom – Remember to Ask “How Can I Best Love You?”

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 14 Sep 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Married since 1972, Linda and Charlie Bloom have been working with groups, individuals, couples and organizations to enhance the quality of their relationships and communication skills since 1975.

They both have Master’s degrees in Clinical Social Work and have lectured, led seminars and provided consultation at universities and learning institutes throughout the United States as well as internationally.

Linda and Charlie have written and published three books, Happily Ever After…and 39 Other Myths about Love: Breaking Through to the Relationship of Your Dreams, Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Stories from Real Couples about Lasting Love AND Their best-selling book, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last has been translated into several languages and has sold over 100,000 copies worldwide.

Their organization, Bloomwork is dedicated to promoting healthy, fulfilling, and successful relationships for individuals, couples and organizations.

They have served as psychotherapists, marriage counselors, consultants and seminar leaders since 1975. In addition to their academic and professional training, the Blooms’ expertise in the field of relationships stems from experience in the crucible of their own committed partnership of over 45 years.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Charlie - “This too shall pass.” Which is both the good news and the bad news.

Whatever difficulty you are dealing with will pass, and the relationship you are in is also temporary so instead of missing a minute of the precious connection you have, just be open and honest and considerate and vulnerable with your partner.

Remembering this will help to keep things in perspective.

When You Tripped Up

Linda - At one point Charlie had a corporate job that kept him away from home quite a bit when their children were small and she was pretty upset about it.

Charlie loved the job and was learning so much and had a great opportunity to be in service that it was his dream job. But it was really having an impact on the family.

At the time they were both caught in this myth that you have to get it off your chest and express yourself. And as a result they had some humdinger fights during this time.

It was already a difficult time, but not having good conflict management skills made it more so.

They learned that there is a way to tell the truth about what you’re feeling and what you're needing and leave out all the manipulations and blame and judgement that leads to so much trouble.

Proudest moment in partnership

Linda - When Charlie resigned from his corporate job and they were healing their relationship that had been on starvation rations for a long time, they went to the beach.

They were in a co-creative mode as they were brainstorming a course right there at the edge of the water.

She gets a smile on her face when she thinks about how in sync they were, how respectful they were of each other’s ideas and kept building on each other’s ideas.

And this co-creative flow is still a frequent part of their relationship today.

Charlie - When he left his corporate job it was because of the very clear the toll it was taking on their marriage, on the family and on his own soul.

He was also aware he was leaving an environment that had been very pleasurable and he was grieving the sense of purpose he had in this work. This led to a depression that lasted several months.

Like many men, he had tied in a lot of his worth to what he could provide to his family and other people. And for the first time in his adult life he was totally unproductive. He felt like he was a burden to the whole family and to Linda.

One day he talked with Linda about all this and said how sorry he was and that he felt totally useless in that moment. And he really had no idea when or if this would ever end.

And Linda looked in his eyes and said “I’m not going anywhere. I’m never going anywhere. I’m in this with you for the duration and I know you’re going to come out of this. And I’m not worried…”

Her comments were like water to a man who was dying of thirst in the desert.

It relieved him of the anxiety he had and the pressure and judgements he was putting on himself for not being more productive.

This was the turning point for them as a couple.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Linda - Loosen up your attachment to what you think your marriage has to look like.

Forgive your partner for not living up to your expectations and forgive yourself that you are failing at being the perfect partner.

Charlie - If you choose the path of partnership it requires the ability to give your complete support to your partner’s wellbeing and their happiness, but not to neglect yourself. To hold your own wellbeing and truth and sense of purpose as high as you do your commitment to them.

It is not a matter of choosing one or the other.

A happy and healthy relationship requires being skilled and capable of doing both of these things.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Interview Links -

Linda & Charlie's Website

Linda & Charlie's Facebook Link

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Are You Running Away From Your “Yes”?

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 09 Sep 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Shasta Townsend

Not Following -

There was a time in Shasta’s marriage when she was saying yes to everything but her marriage. And not saying yes to the part of her the deeply desired connection, intimacy and vulnerability.

It got to the point where her husband said “I feel like I’m your roommate.”

When she realized she was actually running away from her “Yes” she turned it around and now she always says yes to her deepest heart’s desire.

Following -

Shasta wrote a book a couple of years ago and it was a total download. As soon as she said yes to her guidance to write a book about her experiences.

Once she committed to following this “Yes” the book flowed out of her in a very short time and it went on to be a best seller.

Simply pause, listen to the guidance you are being given and then trust and act on it.

Listen to Shasta's full interview here

Connect with Shasta -

Shasta's Website

Shasta's Facebook Link

Bobbi Palmer

Not Following -

Bobbi dated a man name Ed who she met online. And they “dated” for about 3 months.

But after just two weeks she knew it was wrong.

It was uncomfortable. It was unpleasant. She was feeling this isn’t right, but her head was saying “What if he’s the only one.” and “You’re finally dating someone for a while.”

Her fear and scarcity was overriding her gut feelings.

Ultimately he broke up with her to get back with his old girlfriend.

Bobbi recalls crying her eyes out after he hung up, even though this was not a good relationship.

After about 10 minutes of crying she realized she was not crying for him.

And she is thankful for him ending it. If he had not broken up with her, who knows how long she would have stuck around because she was not following her “Yes” at all.

Following -

Bobbi’s very clear “Yes” was choosing to go all in with her husband.

She had done the work on herself. She knew what she wanted and what she didn’t want. She knew how she needed to feel in order to be happy. And she felt it with him right away.

They started planning their wedding after knowing each other for 6 weeks, got married after 6 months and have been married for over 10 years.

Even though people around her thought she was crazy, Bobbi just knew it was right.

It is the proudest thing she has done in her life.

Listen to Bobbi's full interview here

Connect with Bobbi -

FREE GIFT - Four Devastating Mistakes Women Over 40 Make In Their Search for Love

Bobbi's Website

Take Bobbi’s FREE Man-O-Meter Test and find out if you are Dating (and Mating) like a GROWNUP

Bobbi's Facebook Link

Bobbi’s Twitter Link

Bobbi Palmer – Date Like a Grown Up

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 07 Sep 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Bobbi Palmer is The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date Like a Grownup.

With her expert guidance; smart, independent woman from all over the world are now sharing the intimacy, passion and partnership of a grownup relationship with their special man.

Fed up with being single, and determined to succeed in her romantic life (like she had in the rest of her life), Bobbi finally figured out ‘the man thing’ and became a first-time bride at age 47. Now joyfully married, she walks her talk every day as she helps women around the world do what she did: find fantastic, forever love after 40.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength. While loving someone deeply gives you courage.” - Lao Tzu

Bobbi lacked courage for so long. The courage to love and be loved. And this is what she lives by in her marriage.

When You Tripped Up

When Bobbi was 35 she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and at the time it knocked her on her butt and gave her a wonderful gift.

She was working night and day to have control over her life, putting it into her job and her career. This gave her a sense of control, but this diagnosis reminder her she really didn’t have the control she thought she did.

Bobbi decided to get serious and look for love. She met a guy named Steve and they were together about 3 1/2 years.

On their second date he told her he was never getting married again and he would never marry her.

The tripping up part was it took her 3 1/2 years to believe him.

There were so many signs that he meant what he said.

They had a great relationship, but they wanted different things.

But she didn’t want to see the signs and was convinced he would fall in love with her and change his mind.

What Bobbi learned from this very painful experience is: take care of yourself, believe what men say and set boundaries for yourself. Really know what you want and if you aren’t getting it, ask for it.

Proudest moment in partnership

Bobbi’s proudest moment is jumping in with her husband, and being in her partnership with him for 10 years. It is the best thing she has ever done.

It’s hard. It’s a long road and she is proud to have navigated it.

When she was 45 she was so sick of being single and not knowing why.

So she got help figuring out what it was that she didn’t know that other people seemed to know.

For her to open herself up and acknowledge that she did not know how to do this was a really big deal.

Putting her walls down was a huge deal. And her husband Larry and her met and married in six months.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Men are not hairy women. Bobbi learned this from Alison Armstrong.

Respect your partner and work hard to understand them with compassion and empathy.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Confessions of the World's Worst Dater: Her 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love After 40

Making Sense of Men: A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men

Interview Links -

FREE GIFT - Four Devastating Mistakes Women Over 40 Make In Their Search for Love

Bobbi's Website

Take Bobbi’s FREE Man-O-Meter Test and find out if you are Dating (and Mating) like a GROWNUP

Bobbi's Facebook Link

Bobbi’s Twitter Link

Shasta Townsend – It All Starts With You

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 31 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Shasta Townsend is a best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl.

She is your "marriage mechanic" who helps you manifest your relationship dream by teaching you how to apply Universal Laws to create a rich and satisfying relationship, no matter what!

Shasta is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of marriage, love and intimacy.

Her many student’s “Love Stories” speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing "miracles". She is here as the helping hand you've been seeking.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“It all starts with me.” We are literally creating our reality.

So I am never the victim unless I choose to be.

This is the most empowered way of being that you can choose.

When You Tripped Up

When Shasta was diving deep into learning the tools of personal expansion, things like compassion, forgiveness, power, communication and grace, she found she noticed when these things weren’t happening. And this was her trip up.

She was going through a drive through at Tim Horton’s with her husband and he totally lost it because they messed up his coffee order.

She said to him, “You’re such an a__hole! You can’t go around loosing your crap on people.”

And her husband said “Just like you are on me.”

It was a moment of realization that she had been judging him on things she felt did not align with her spiritual principles. And her friends were supporting her by saying thinks like “He’s such a jerk. You don’t have to put up with this.” And this was feeding this judgmental energy.

Shasta woke up to the fact that unless she shifted her internal views so her husband showed up differently, she was heading for divorce. And this was the love of her life.

Once she asked herself how can she stand in a place of love instead of fear, things shifted.

It is so easy to blame someone else for why we aren’t happy, but once you take ownership of your reality and recognize it all starts with you, you will have taken your power back.

Proudest moment in partnership

Shasta recently celebrated an anniversary of her studio and when she looked out at all of her team she was so grateful that she is in a relationship with all of them. And that standing in the truth of what she wanted to create called them forward to stand in their place of service.

Looking at all the people she has partnered with to bring her hearts message to the world is certainly one of her proudest moments in partnership.

Another one is in the business she and her husband have started flipping houses.

When she shifted her story about her husband, he shows up in a different way. And really opens his heart.

They recently had an over billing situation with one of their contractors and Shasta was so proud of the way her husband, Ian, responded.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Shasta has been an entrepreneur for 15 years and typically took the DIY approach to getting things done.

So sitting down with her husband and deciding if they were going to start their business together was an opportunity to combine their individual expertise in business and in their marriage.

They have stepped into a new level in their relationships.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Stand in the place of love. Do not give in to any of the voices of fear or judgement or victimhood.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

The Intention Experiment: Using Your Thoughts to Change Your Life and the World

Interview Links -

Shasta's Website

Shasta's Facebook Link

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Don’t fear your “Yes!”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Mali Apple & Joe Dunn

Not Following -

Mali has been playing with and practicing following her intuition for more than 40 years, but that doesn’t mean she is perfect at it.

Recently she had a pretty intense gut feeling about something going on in Joe’s business, and she mentioned it to him, but somewhat mildly. She didn’t really own it, and Joe wasn’t worried so they did not pursue it.

Turns out Mali was right and Joe had a little crisis happen in his business. As Joe traced it back he realized Mali had spotted it and waved a flag and he had ignored it.

Joe was so struck by this experience that he invite Mali to not only wave the flag in the future, but to hit him over the head with it if need be.

Their agreement is now if either of them have a feeling about something that has to do with the other they totally want to hear it. Even if they push back a little bit. They still want to hear it.

They don’t have to follow their partner’s advice, but they want to hear it.

Following -

Mali and Joe have a daughter who is 18 and going to college.

Their daughter took going to college very seriously and spent 4 years researching schools and then applied to her top 12.

After she had sent off all her applications and essays, Mali had a hit and asked her to apply to Yale even though her daughter did not think she would get in and it wasn’t in her top 12. But she agreed to do it and applied.

After she applied, Mali felt very strongly that she was going to get in.

And their daughter is going to Yale.

Mali and her daughter opened the email that came in response to application together and it will long be remembered as this incredible mother - daughter experience.

Listen to Mali & Joe’s full interview here

Connect with Mali & Joe -

Mali & Joe's Website

The Soulmate Experience

Mali & Joe's Facebook Link

Mali & Joe on Twitter

Mali & Joe on YouTube

Richard & Namaste Moore

Not Following -

Richard - Richard had an idea and said to Namaste that he really wanted them to leave their corporate jobs and start their own business.

Namaste was totally on board.

Almost as soon as they made this decision Richard had the opportunity to take a buyout to leave his job. But he got fearful and passed on this opportunity.

Even though in his gut Richard knew he should have taken the buyout, he came up with all sorts of reasons to stay.

As a result of staying a lot longer than he should, the company ended up asking him to leave.

Namaste - In her first marriage she and her husband separated after about two years and she felt at that point they should have ended it. But she was so focused on “Save this at all costs.”

They stayed together for 8 more years of arguing before they finally ended things.

Following -

Namaste - Her clear “Yes” was Richard. They had so many connections she did not think anyone would get. It was some powerful internal guidance.

Once she decided to follow her “Yes” she did it with all of her. No holding back.

And they have lived happily ever after.

Richard - Within their marriage Richard said “Yes” to and continues to say “Yes” to is the need for touch.

People notice that they are touching a lot.

For a lot of men the only touch we get on a daily basis is a handshake, and we are touch starved.

For some reason men have convinced themselves that we don’t need that.

Touch makes you feel that you are safe in the world. It is how we feel that we’re loved.

Listen to Richard & Namaste's full interview here

Connect with Richard & Namaste -

Richard & Namaste's Website

Richard & Namaste's Facebook Link

Richard & Namaste on Twitter

Richard & Namaste on Periscope

Richard & Namaste Moore – “Where’s the Love?”

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 24 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Richard and Namaste are known as the Infinite Couple - they are life and relationship Alchemists who facilitate the transformation of the mundane into the Precious.

Teachers, Public Speakers, Spiritual Conduits and Transmitters they work together, are parents of 8 children in their blended family, and can be found broadcasting live multiple times a week via their periscope channel @richardnamaste.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You always have to choose between love and fear.

Always choose love. Ask yourself “Where’s the love?”

Is the feeling you are feeling in any moment based on love or based on fear?

Is the decision I am making advocating for love or advocating for fear?

These questions will remind you that you have a choice and whatever feeling you are having does not make that feeling you.

This can provide you more space between how you are feeling in any moment versus where you want to create action from.

You always have a choice and you aren’t how you feel.

When You Tripped Up

Richard - With his ex-wife Richard he tripped up. He is pretty easy going and his ex-wife was somewhat more volatile.

People have different ways of feeling like they are loved or heard or appreciated. And she felt appreciated if their intensity level match. So if she was yelling at him she felt appreciated if Richard was yelling back. But Richard had kind of committed himself to not doing that.

But there was one time he chose to match her in the yelling.

Richard looked in the rear view mirror of the car and could see this was not him. And he didn’t feel good about himself in that moment.

Ultimately they decided to end the relationship.

Namaste - Her trip up was in how she resolved conflict with a former partner. She was the more volatile and would find herself yelling to be heard because that is what she found she needed to do to feel like she got through to her partner.

She too looked at herself in the mirror during one of these conflicts and did not like what she saw.

Instantly she was aware this was not how she wanted to resolve conflict, and asked herself “how did I get here?”

She wondered why she was continuing to put herself in that situation.

Namaste wanted to be in a relationship where they bring out the best in each other, and this was not it.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Namaste - One time Namaste told Richard how he reminded her of her former partner.

And Richard said, “What does that have to do with me?” And she thought, “What do you mean, what does this have to do with you? I’m crying. I’m upset…”

Richard then shared with her a story that changed her life forever. You’ve got to hear this.

It was her “DUH” moment.

Richard - After Richard’s previous marriage ended, he resolved to never get married again.

He realized he had a huge monument to his previous relationship that was sitting square in the middle of his current relationship. It was a monument that was all about Richard and his pain and his need to guard against future pain by maintaining past pain.

And this was tying him to his ex-wife for the rest of his life.

His “DUH” was when he realized he could dismantle it because it had nothing to do with Namaste.

And every day since Richard dismantled this monument has been beautiful.

Proudest moment in partnership

One of the proudest moments in partnership for Richard & Namaste was when they both left their corporate jobs and started their business together.

Every time they think about it, is like Christmas morning.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

H.A.L.T Don’t have a serious discussion when you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired.

And it shows up differently for everyone.

You are not at the optimum state when you are any of these four things.

Most people want to have serious discussions when they are in one of these states, but don’t do it!

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

Interview Links -

Richard & Namaste's Website

Richard & Namaste's Facebook Link

Richard & Namaste on Twitter

Richard & Namaste on Periscope

Mali Apple & Joe Dunn – Acceptance is the Answer

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are authors, relationship coaches, lovers, and best friends.

Their bestselling books "The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships" and "The Soulmate Lover: A Guide to Passionate and Lasting Love, Sex, and Intimacy" have helped thousands of people around the world create and sustain relationships that are deeply connected on all levels emotionally, intellectually, sexually, and spiritually.

From connecting with your sexual energy to using sexual healing to transform intimacy issues into heart-opening erotic pleasure, Mali and Joe share truly revolutionary ideas for creating relationships that are deeply loving, intensely passionate, and profoundly sexually connected.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Acceptance. Acceptance of not only themselves but also of their partner. And whoever they are at that moment.

When they get off track they ask themselves “Can I accept this person exactly as who they are?” And the answer is always Yes.

And “Can I accept whatever is coming up between us in this moment?”

These two questions make living so much easier.

Accepting that something is an issue for your partner when it wouldn’t be for you, opens the space for them to hear what you say without feeling like you need them to take your advice.

When You Tripped Up

Mali never told this story before -

In her previous marriage Mali and her Was-band had an agreement that they could flirt with people and they were both cool with it.

One day Mali was flirting with a person and she got the feeling her then husband would not be cool with it so she didn’t tell him.

From that moment and from that day forward her relationship changed inalterably because she held something back. And the fact that she didn’t share this with him made it much bigger than it really was.

The distance it caused was palpable to her husband even though he didn’t know what it was about.

It really was the beginning of the end of their marriage.

Joe -

Joe’s first long term relationship was with a woman who was not a happy person. And Joe’s big trip up was thinking he could change his partner.

He is a happy and optimistic guy and all he had to do was be around her and some of that would rub off. But that wasn’t the case.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Joe - It took Joe nearly 20 years to realize he can’t change his partner. And this turned into acceptance of who his partner was.

This created space for Joe to see her for who she was.

So all of the energy he had spent resisting who his partner was, was now gone. And this gave him the space in which he could meet Mali.

Mali - In her first marriage she realized the relationship had run its course. And trying to hold on to it and trying to make her partner change was futile.

Her “DUH” moment was when she realized that her Was-band was not interested in going the way she wanted to go in life, and she had been dragging him along for years.

When she realized this and had a heart to heart talk with him they realized this was true and that their relationship had run its course and they were ready to move on.

It was time to change their involvement and continue to support each other in their next steps.

Proudest moment in partnership

Mali and Joe agree that their relationship is their proudest moment. Both with each other and with their kids.

It is exciting because they never know what is next. They are always moving into the realm that is a little bit uncomfortable.

They call it playing leap frog. This way they support each other in growing both individually and together.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Their daughter just got accepted to Yale.

When they visited the campus Mali could tell this is where their daughter is meant to be.

As challenging as it is to have their daughter be all the way across the country, Mali has never felt so excited for someone else as she does for her daughter now.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Mali - Ken Keys wrote a book called the Handbook to Higher Consciousness in the 70’s. The piece of advice that has stuck with Mali is not to let your negative emotions direct your words or actions.

This sounds simple but it is one of the most difficult things to master. But it is so worth it to practice.

Joe - Expectations can be damaging to a relationship.

He realized that he had a huge expectation with his son Ben that when Joe spoke to him, Ben was supposed to answer.

When Joe let Ben know he no longer had this expectation that he had to answer him it changed their relationship in the most amazing way.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Handbook to Higher Consciousness

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

Payoff of Partnership -

The books they have written would not have happened without each other. They had to find their “couple’s voice.” Mali wouldn’t want to write without Joe because he is the human and humor side.

Their exploration of relationship makes their relationship so much better.

Interview Links -

Mali & Joe's Website

The Soulmate Experience

Mali & Joe's Facebook Link

Mali & Joe on Twitter

Mali & Joe on YouTube

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Do not resist your “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 12 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Rodolfo Young

Not Following -

A partner Rodolfo was with had a miscarriage. When it happened they were in different countries. He was planning to go be with her for her 3 month check up and she said “No, don’t come.”

But something told Rodolfo he needed to be there. And as strong as this “Yes” was he let the excuse of her saying don’t come and his own fears and emotions make him ignore what his “Yes” was. He knew the right thing for him was to be there, but he did not go.

It took them both years to heal what happened.

They never got together to heal it in partnership since it was created in partnership. Instead they approached it as individuals.

Following -

Rodolfo was in the U.S Army Special Operations force for 6 years, and his contract was for 8 years. He had just returned from the Middle East and had the option to go into a status called Individual Ready Reserve or IRR.

His “Yes” was saying to go IRR because he wanted to start his own personal life and come out of the military mentality at that time.

Everyone he knew was telling him that was a bad idea because, having just come back from deployment, he was basically protected from being deployed for another year and if he went IRR it was almost guaranteed he would be deployed again in just a few weeks.

But within him was a deep intuition that said “you need to get out now.” And he did it and went IRR.

As it turns out the rules changed and in about a month the unit he was in before got redeployed.

And Rodolfo never got the call. Instead he got to finish out his college education and start into the spiritual path he is on all because he listened to his intuition.

Listen to Rodolfo’s full interview here

Connect with Rodolfo-

Rodolfo's Website - www.RodolfoYoung.com & www.Inspire1Millionhearts.com

Rodolfo's Facebook Link

Rodolfo on Instagram

Jeffrey Allen

Not Following -

When Jeffrey met his wife, Hisami, she spoke very little english.

As Jeffrey really tunes in today and asks what is the #1 most important thing he could do for his relationship, the answer is always learn Japanese.

Even though he knows how amazing it will be to be able to communicate with her in her native tongue where she can fully express herself, he keeps taking small steps.

The consequence of not doing whatever it takes to learn Japanese is a loss of opportunity.

His relationship would be less stressful and deeper and easier if he learned to speak Japanese.

Sometimes he is just doing enough to be able to check the bad and say he followed his “Yes”, but truth is he did not fully commit to following his “Yes.”

So Jeffrey suggests you be really clear on what your “Yes” is. For him is it “I’m studying Japanese” or “I’m speaking Japanese fluently with my wife?”

Following -

Jeffrey’s “Yes” was extremely clear that he was supposed to move to Sedona, AZ.

His guidance comes in phase. It is not always a momentary awareness.

If Jeffrey follows his guidance, he does not know why he’s following or where it’s going until he says yes a few times. Only then might he understand what is going on.

He got a “Yes” to list his house in Denver. And he resisted it because he had just renovated the place and it was perfect. So he listed it really high.

A little while later he ends up in Sedona for the first time ever and gets another clear “Yes” that he is moving there. And it becomes clear why he had to list his house.

After a couple days of sitting with the fears of moving since his home and job and everything is in Denver, Jeffrey settled in and fully said yes to his “Yes” to move to Sedona.

Within an hour of the time he said yes he received a full price offer on his house in Denver.

Listen to Jeffrey's full interview here

Connect with Jeffrey -

Jeffrey's Website

Free offer - Energy Starter Kit

Jeffrey's Facebook Link

Jeffrey on Twitter

Jeffrey Allen – The Biggest Resource is You

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Jeffrey Allen is a spiritual teacher, energy healer, and author of Duality on Mindvalley Academy.

An engineer by trade and energy healer at heart, Jeffrey has helped thousands of professionals combine their intellect and intuition to boost confidence, improve relationships, find meaning and purpose, and manifest the life of their dreams.

Based in Tokyo, Japan, Jeffrey is known as “The Healers’ Healer” and has travelled globally — teaching energy work, intuition, and healing on four continents.

Through a deep understanding of energy, Jeffrey helps you break through your hidden blocks and create a powerful intuitive awareness, giving you a unique edge in your personal and professional growth.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Understanding what’s his and what’s not his. Usually people’s emotions are about themselves, but it can be easy to take them on, especially with someone you care about.

This can be doubly challenging if you are empathic as Jeffrey is.

When You Tripped Up

Jeffrey tripped up by being the unconscious bad guy for someone else.

Not only is it bad for his partner, but he tends to get angry at them for calling him out for being the unconscious bad guy.

Then afterwards it turns to sadness because he hurt the person cares about. Leaving him with a confused feeling emotionally.

The trip up is he looses track of who he is. And this is a pattern that happened over and over and over.

Jeffrey shares an interesting question that has helped him resolve this.

Proudest moment in partnership

At the end of each year Jeffrey looks back at where he was a year ago. And if he’s a little bit embarrassed by who he was a year ago, that’s about right because it means he’s growing.

Jeffrey has learned from his wife to catch himself when he is starting to not be himself with her instead of needing her to notice it for him.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Don’t pay attention to all the advice that’s out there. Throw away the list. Your higher power has your back and will present it to you. You can let it happen instead of making it happen.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Jeffrey’s resource is always up. Getting quiet long enough to start ignoring what your brain is saying and ask a question and wait, often the answer is right there.

But if you pose a question and think about what the answer would be, then often you can’t hear it.

The biggest resource is you. Use your guidance or use your intuition.

FYI - listening to your intuition is the easy part. Having the guts to follow through is the hard part.

Be brave and step in and try following your guidance.

Interview Links -

Jeffrey's Website

Free offer - Energy Starter Kit

Jeffrey's Facebook Link

Jeffrey on Twitter

Rodolfo Young – Love is Not a Possession

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 03 Aug 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Rodolfo is an author, speaker, and heart coach on a mission to Inspire 1 Million Hearts.

He has already touched the lives of thousands of people from all around the world.

Rodolfo has shared the stage with some of the world’s greatest leaders in transformational consciousness and is featured alongside people like Eckhart Tolle, Lisa Nichols, John Assaraf, Ken Wilbur, and T. Harv Ecker.

His books on love, life, beauty, relationship, and self-discovery are read by people all around the world.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Love is not a possession to be exchanged. It is a resonance to be recognized.

We often think of love as something that is given and received, but that makes it an object and a possession. Which means it is something that can be lost.

The recognition of the resonance of love is a recognition of what you are feeling inside. It has nothing to do with the other person.

Love is something that is always there, but sometimes we forget and don’t recognize it.

When You Tripped Up

One of Rodolfo’s more recent relationships was long distance. And his partner ended up cheating on him, and he knew it was coming. And he was preparing himself as he waited for her to tell him.

When she finally came out and told him, he was able to forgive her very easily because he had already done his own work around it.

The trip-up was that the forgave but he didn’t express his process or his own pain. And that gave her the message that she could walk all over him because it doesn’t effect him. When really that wasn’t the case.

So when you go through things that cause us pain or hurt or there is some challenge, forgive, let go, surrender, move on but express. Because what you don’t express you suppress and anything suppressed comes back up to haunt you.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Rodolfo’s “DUH” moment has to do with him not embodying the concept that he is only responsible for himself.

In a past partnership there was a moment when he realized he had absolutely no control over how she felt about a situation. He cannot be responsible for her.

Responsibility is the ability to respond. And there are times when we just don’t have the power to respond to something.

In the past when he would take on responsibility for his partner’s feelings when he really did not have the power to, it made him feel helpless. And that helplessness caused other issues in his relationships.

And realizing that he is not responsibly for her history was the biggest “DUH.”

Often at the beginning of relationships, as soon as we feel safe enough to be vulnerable with our partner, the first things that are going to come up are the wounds of the past.

And the mistake that’s made is people thing that its the partnership they are in right now creating those wounds or that trigger. When really their current partnership is creating the space for the wounds to come up to be healed.

Proudest moment in partnership

Moments of presence and surrender with a partner. He is excited and happy that he was able to let go with this person.

In a partnership whatever you can mentalize or theorize or coach is never going to be enough until you give them you and be vulnerable with them.

One of Rodolfo’s proudest moments is anytime he can put all his guards down and say “here I am.” and trust he is in safe hands.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Rodolfo’s partnership with himself is where his focus is now. He is in a year practice of silence and this is giving himself space to observe himself and letting himself receive.

He is typically a giver in relationships. And as much as his partner gives to him, he is not typically receiving what he is being given.

The practice he has started is thinking, what little gift can he give himself so he can practice receiving. So every week he gives himself a gift that he recognizes as a gift.

If we can’t receive in our relationships we then rob our partner of their ability to give

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Express your truth and invite your partner into it.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Who Are You? - A Guide to Self Discovery in 9 Simple Steps (Integrated Potential Publications Book 1)

Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other

The Payoff of Partnership

Rodolfo was in an argument with his girlfriend and had jumped in the swimming pool to cool off. His girlfriend was in the bedroom and she became aware that he was in turmoil and she saw that he was suffering and she wanted to support him.

This support allowed him to break through the anger he was feeling to, what is normally below it, grief and fear. And he burst into tears.

It was incredibly cathartic for him to know he was being held in safety even in his most intense emotion.

Interview Links -

Rodolfo's Website - www.RodolfoYoung.com & www.Inspire1Millionhearts.com

Rodolfo's Facebook Link

Rodolfo on Instagram

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – “Yes” is Deeper Than What You “Should” Do

Ken Bechtel — Thu, 28 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Daniel Eisenman

Not Following -

Daniel use to use the word “shoulda” a lot. And when he heard himself doing this he was aware he was kind of looking to soak in the power of patheticness/regret/blaming circumstances.

Anytime he used the work “shoulda” was a time he let go of following his intuition. It was like his check engine light.

Following -

Daniel followed his “Yes” by not going to medical school. He put so much into the MCATs and studying pre-med. And all his friends were going to medical school.

By following his “Yes” Daniel was able to follow something that was deeper than what he “should” do.

Not going to medical school was a little scarier and felt more freeing and sparked the most joy for him.

His life has been much more improved and successful by not going to medical school.

Listen to Daniel’s full interview here

Connect with Daniel-

Daniel's Website

Daniel's Facebook Link

BreakingNormal Podcast on iTunes

Daniel on Twitter

Daniel on Instagram

Orna & Matthew Walters

Not Following -

When Matthew was single in his mid-30s there was a woman he had known who had made it clear that she was interested in him.

They ended up going to dinner and sleeping together.

The next day, in the guise of Matthew being honest with her, he told her he did not see this going anywhere. And she said “Oh I do. I’ll prove it to you.”

Everything inside him was saying “I don’t think I’m gonna change my mind. I don’t think my feelings are going to change about you.”

But instead of holding true to his “Yes” they proceeded to have a crazy relationship, where he thought he was getting company and intimacy whenever he wanted it and she was falling deeper and deeper for him.

Matthew finally realized he was out of integrity and was doing nothing but harm to her and himself by staying in the relationship.

Following -

Matthew and Orna met through a business networking group. They had been in this group for about a year and never spoken to each other.

One morning Orna sat at Matthew’s table and something told him he needed to talk to her. It was a curiosity.

Instead of asking her on a date, he asked her on a one-on-one business networking meeting. And that meeting went on for about 3 hours and they really haven’t been apart since.

Listen to Orna & Matthew's full interview here

Connect with Orna & Matthew -

Orna & Matthew's Website - Creating Love on Purpose

Orna & Matthew's Facebook Link

Orna & Matthew on Twitter

Orna & Matthew Walters – Find the Gold Nugget

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 27 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Orna and Matthew Walters are Soulmate Coaches for professional single women, and the founders of the Love On Purpose Revolution® a global online event dedicated to busting the myth that love is supposed to happen by accident.

Orna and Matthew work with clients all over the globe utilizing the tools of transformation. They are dedicated to spreading the message that having love is an inside job and that it’s never too late to find the love of your life.

Through Creating Love On Purpose®, Orna and Matthew have inspired and guided thousands of Singles through the journey of self-love to bringing in their Beloved.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Orna - The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. (from the song Nature Boy)

They have the agreement to never withhold love from each other and they choose each other.

In conflict it is not about who is right and who is wrong. It’s really about being able to speak your truth to your partner and share how you feel.

This is how we can have what our soul desires, which is emotional connection.

Matthew - His guiding principle comes from an aboriginal greeting which goes like this: The first person says “I see you.” and the other person says “It’s good to be seen.”

This is what we are really looking for in intimate relationships.

When we are truly seen by our partner the argument itself goes away. It doesn’t matter anymore.

When You Tripped Up

Orna - They have a practice of finding the golden nugget whenever a relationship didn’t work out.

They would ask “Why this person?” What was it they needed to learn from that relationship to lead them to their next relationship?

In 2000, Orna was in a relationship with a guy named Steve. Their relationship ended and she just could not find the golden nugget.

Then it came to her. Steve’s family loved each other respectfully which was not familiar to her from her family of origin.

In her family of origin love did not mean respect, it meant I can do anything to you.

The gold nugget was that respectful love has a boundary, and she saw this in practice with Steve’s family.

Matthew - In the Spring before he met Orna he was dating a woman who externally was everything he thought he wanted.

She was living a life that he thought reflected a lot of his own values and he got really attached early on and thought she was the one.

Their dynamic was not good at all and he convinced her to stay in relationship with him even though there was lots of drama.

When he finally realized that she was showing up for him so he could learn how to love and respect himself.

He would work on whatever she said she didn’t like about him, but there was always something else. And there would always be something else, because it was a reflection of his own lack of self love.

Then he got it when he recognized that he had to love the parts of him that he didn’t like.

If someone tells you you need to change, there is always a level of resistance to it. But if someone says you don’t need to change, now there is room to change.

Proudest moment in partnership

Matthew - This was a moment he stepped up for himself and that gives him pride.

Early on in his relationship with Orna, they were having a late night argument.

In the middle of the argument he realized that in the past, this was when he would normally leave. And he said, “I’m not leaving. I’m not going anywhere. I’m hear for you.”

Before, he had always left.

This time, he realized she was too important for him. And in that moment he knew they were going to be together.

Orna - A month after she and Matthew started dating, her mother had 4 heart attacks and lived to tell the tale.

Matthew basically met her entire family in the ICU unit at Tarzana Hospital.

One night while they were visiting her Mom, there was a man calling for help and the nurse dismissed it saying “He says that all the time.”

When they were leaving, Matthew grabbed her hand and said, “Promise me that will never be me.”

And in that moment she knew she would spend the rest of her life with him.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

E-book - The Soulmate Shortcut

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth

Interview Links -

Orna & Matthew's Website - Creating Love on Purpose

Orna & Matthew's Facebook Link

Orna & Matthew on Twitter

Daniel Eisenman – Start With a Foundation of Confession

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Daniel graduated Pre-Med from Emory University with a BS (Key Acronym) in Biology & even took the MCAT about 10 years ago. Before applying to medical school to stay on the path of "NORMAL" as people advised me, I decided to "take a year off." That year off has now turned into a decade of BREAKING NORMAL.

Daniel had a dream to get paid to do the things that he would pay to do, and today that is his reality.

He travels the world as a keynote speaker and facilitator of radical retreats and workshops based on the principles of raw honesty and emotional freedom.

After traveling the world for the last decade while getting to interview and interact with many modern-day-superheroes, Daniel is now encouraging others to pursue their own passion and showing that it is actually more beneficial to the world than the old and outdated paradigm of a wage-slave culture.

Daniel reflects this realization through a process of self-acceptance through self-expression by showing people how to lose their minds in order to connect to their hearts while truly living inside-out within one’s “funcomfort” zone.

When he’s not galavanting the globe with his princess/wife, he loves immersing himself deep in nature including surfing, polar plunging, hot springing, and surrounding himself with the most epic friends in the world to remind him that the Creators finger print is in everything and everyone.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

For Daniel, one of the best foundations for authentic communication is to check himself to make sure he doesn’t have any secrets with his partner.

Letting go of playing any roles or acting in a certain way that is different than you feel. It is almost like a continuous confession.

When we play roles we are leaking our creative energy.

When You Tripped Up

Daniel thinks of tripping up as running into more resistance or growth opportunities than usual.

He recently did a mastermind group called 10 All In. A lot of the 10 people in this group were dropping off rather quickly.

Daniel has the believe that the best plans are unplanned and if he lets things work out they will work out really well.

However, this approach did not work for many in the group and many of these partnerships ended. Only 2 out of 1o of the partnerships continue today.

Proudest moment in partnership

Daniel had the idea that instead of going on typical dates, he would go on road trips with potential partners. And he went to Peru with a woman he was seeing and found he was in love with her.

He decided he wanted to marry her and the next day they got engaged and the day after that they got married. That was 3 1/2 years ago. And it has been the best 3 1/2 years of his life.

He was very proud of walking by faith.

And in business when Daniel and his friend launched the first International Tribe Design event in under a month and had nearly 100 people show up, including a hero of his, it still makes him smile to think about it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

The foundation of confession is a key component to his most enriching relationships.

The idea of being fully known and starting with a clean slate in the beginning of a partnership with an agreement of confidentiality creates a strong foundation.

To make the agreement to stay with each other to enrich the relationship when you are in this vulnerable state is powerful.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success

Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth

Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue, Book 1

Payoff of Partnership -

Everything Daniel has done is the result of partnership. The degree that to which we can celebrate other’s success is the degree to which we can celebrate success.

Anything he has ever done is always in partnership and we are always on the same team whether we know it or not.

Interview Links -

Daniel's Website

Daniel's Facebook Link

BreakingNormal Podcast on iTunes

Daniel on Twitter

Daniel on Instagram

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Sometimes Your “Yes” Just Won’t Shut Up

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 15 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Geoff Laughton

Not Following -

Geoff knew from a young age that he had a gift for accessing his intuition.

He was drawn to therapy, and talked himself out of going to grad school. Instead he took a detour and took a corporate job he told himself would only be for a year.

It turned into 16 years and a turn down a bad road that nearly killed him literally and figuratively.

Following -

In 1982 Geoff met a woman who by ever measure was the total opposite of who made sense to be with. Because of age differences, career differences and she had a child from an earlier marriage.

Geoff was 24 and was introduced to this woman by his mother.

His mother was so against the two of them getting together. Contributing lots of “this will never works” but Geoff knew there was something amazing about this woman.

His heart was a “Yes.” His mind was fighting it. But his “Yes” just would not shut up.

And 34 years later they are still together.

Listen to Geoff’s full interview here

Connect with Geoff -

Geoff's Website

FREE Relationship Design Review

Geoff’s Facebook Link

Mark Groves

Not Following -

Mark was on a work trip and a palm reader told him that he would not be with the woman he was with and would not marry her. And Mark knew she was right.

But 3 years later when he got engaged to this woman and then that engagement ended he looked back on that moment and recognized he knew intuitively then, but did not act on it.

When Mark ended his engagement it was one of the first times he felt in full alignment. Meaning your truth and your life is an expression of your soul.

The cost of not following this “Yes” was he was out of congruence for 3 years. And he took someone else down that path with him.

Mark was afraid to hurt his girlfriend by having a challenging conversation, but indirectly he was hurting her.

The very fear we have when we are holding on to a partnership is the fear of hurting people or abandoning people or being abandoned.

The very thing we fear, we do because we abandon ourselves when we don’t follow our “Yes.”

Following -

Mark’s career was in sales in a hospital and he had a great quality of life, but it did not feel right.

He knew his purpose was to help people connect with themselves and in turn with others.

He started his website 2 1/2 years ago and the first article he shared after his website launched went viral.

So he had been wondering how would he make a living at this, but he just started.

When we are pursuing dreams we always think of all the things we’re going to lose, because they are measurable.

But you don’t see all the possibilities and what we’re going to gain.

Listen to Mark's full interview here

Connect with Mark -

Mark's Website

Email - connect@markgroves.tv

Create the love on Instagram

Mark's Facebook Link

Mark Groves – It is Ultimately About Choice

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 13 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Mark Groves has a specialized interest in the area of Human Connection.

He’s an author, speaker and sales consultant. He’s in love with science, psychology, and uncovering the mysteries of what makes great relationships work.

Speaking of that, he’s certain there are no “secrets” when it comes to great relationships. Rather, he believes that all relationships are by design and we are all the architects of what we want.

Mark has a Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology and has written for Plenty of Fish, Thought Catalog, The Good Men Project and is the Relationship Columnist for 24 Hours Newspaper.

When he’s not working with clients you’ll find him traveling the globe, playing in the mountains and ocean, or pretty much anything that gets his heart beating in the paradise that is Vancouver, BC.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

He loved her, of course, but better than that he chose her. Day after day, choice that was the thing.

Partnership is ultimately about choice.

Remember that with everything you speak you are responsible for what’s about to happen.

When You Tripped Up

Mark got engaged when he was 27 after dating his girlfriend for 5 years.

They were moving into a new house and got engaged that day. And he recalls standing in the kitchen looking at her and thinking “I think I should be more excited than this.”

Mark had been resistant to taking their relationship to the next level of commitment and getting engaged. In that moment he woke up that this wasn’t where he was supposed to be.

He had heard so many things saying that men a just afraid of commitment and he had bought into it.

When they broke up 3 months later and looked at how he had arrived at this moment where he was so disconnected with himself and his emotions. And to have taken another person down this path with him.

He asked himself how do I never get to this space again.

Mark made a rule for himself in that moment that he would have every conversation that he didn’t want to have because those are the ones that matter.

Proudest moment in partnership

This may sound counter intuitive because Mark ended up breaking up with this girl, but it is still a proud moment and you’ll see why.

He was having a conversation with the woman he was dating and they were talking about whether they were going to stay together. And he felt his worth being threatened and rejected.

In that moment, Mark decided to stay and communicated how he was feeling. They talked about everything and he acknowledged a feeling he was having and communicated it.

That relationship ended peacefully.

Mark is proud of this success because he considers success growing and expanding himself.

The dissolution of this relationship put him on the path he was supposed to be on.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Mark is in a partnership with a woman who is everything he writes about and teaches. It is challenging but also beautiful.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Mark’s father once said to him, “A relationship is a separate organism. It involves two people who are whole in and of themselves. And they contribute to something that is separate and grows on it’s own.”

This reminds Mark that his relationship has it’s own dreams, goals and beliefs just like the people who make up the relationship do.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition

Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing

Payoff of Partnership -

Mark’s work about human connection is transformed by his partnerships.

He can only observe so much of himself. Partnership provides the mirror that invites him to see more of himself and grow.

Interview Links -

Mark's Website

Email - connect@markgroves.tv

Create the love on Instagram

Mark's Facebook Link

Geoff Laughton – Apologizing to your partner can save your life

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 06 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Geoff Laughton, known as Your Relationship Architect, is an internationally best-selling author, speaker, men's retreat leader, and sought after relationship coach.

For more than 20 years, he’s been teaching couples and individuals how to build the relationship and life they truly desire.

In a world where far too many people settle for what they believe they can get, Geoff is devoted to teaching how to have love relationships that expand connection, healing, and create harmony with those dreams that people have simply neglected and/or forgotten.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Geoff’s guiding principle is that relationship is cutting edge spiritual practice.

When things get tough this reminds him that his relationship with his wife Sarah is a way they connect with spirit.

“The truth will set you free, but first it may piss you off!”

Telling the truth almost always creates breathing room that feels like freedom.

When You Tripped Up

Take a trip back to 1999 when Geoff and his wife had just moved to Colorado.

His consulting contract suddenly disappeared. And this caused a great deal of anxiety, fear and upset.

He was experiencing his worst fear. He kept all the emotional stuff to himself and did not talk to his wife and family about it.

Geoff was trying to look like he had it handled.

He got to the point where on Christmas day 1999, he decided it was time to go. The notes were written and he was ready to take himself out because to Geoff he was failing at what a good man was.

As he was getting ready to do it while his wife and son were still asleep, something told him that if he does this, he fails the test. The test of faith.

He called one of the two people he knew in this town and they told him to get his family up and get over to her house now!

They spent about 5 hours together on Christmas day working this out.

Apologizing to his wife for how he had failed her changed everything.

Proudest moment in partnership

Geoff’s awareness of what he has in his marriage is one of his proudest moments.

When she looks in his eyes and their love never has dissipated in all their years together.

One day Sarah looked him in the eye when he told her he was terrified to make the career leap into coaching and with 100% authenticity said…

“Why can’t you get that I would rather live under a freeway in a refrigerator box and have you, than live in a nice house with plenty of money and have you be miserable.”

Geoff let this in and gave him the courage he needed to go after his dreams.

This mature love he received from Sarah helped to mature Geoff.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

When the shit hits the fan and you’re playing victim and blaming your partner, it is never about them.

If you love your partner, that love won’t fix everything. But if its there, you might as well find the pathway to work it out. Because if you don’t work it out and you end the relationship, you are virtually guaranteed to repeat the same pattern in your next relationships.

You are 100% responsible for your experience and how you are rolling with it or not.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Built To Last:: Designing & Maintaining a Passionate, Loving and Lasting Relationship

Interview Links -

Geoff's Website

FREE Relationship Design Review

Geoff’s Facebook Link

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Honoring Yourself has Huge Payoffs

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 01 Jul 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Lisa Copeland

Lisa woke up one morning and realized she wanted to speak and start a business helping women over 50 find a quality man.

She found herself surrounded by all these Debbie Doubters. Saying things like, “How are you go to make money doing this?, “How are you going to do this?, “What are you going to do?”

It would have been so easy for her to say “you’re right” and not proceeded, but she didn’t.

Now, five years later, she has a successful business, a book on Amazon and she has helped women in 30 countries.

The Debbie Doubters are now saying “I was so encouraging to you when you started.”

It can be easy to have a dream and let other people squash it for you. When you do that you’re squashing a piece of yourself.

Follow your inner guidance. It’s always there and it has a path for you.

Listen to Lisa’s full interview here

Connect with Lisa -

Dr. Tammi Baliszewski

Not Following -

When Tammi was in her relationship with her ex-fiancee, she found herself being ushered way off path.

It happened incrementally in little chips, but 3 years into the relationship she found herself very sick.

She was contorting herself for the comfort of another instead of asking what she needed.

It wasn’t an abusive relationship because she gave herself away by not listening to her intuition and honoring herself.

Following -

Years ago, when Tammi was modeling, her agent wanted her to do a show for $300/day when Tammi’s day rate was $1000.

Typically she would just say “yes” without checking in, push through things and then have resentment for doing so.

This time Tammi checked in with herself and asked “Will this honor me?” and the answer she got was yes.

So she did the trade show and as it turns out she met her husband at the trade show.

Tammi suggests that before you say “yes” to anything, take a moment, take a breath and check in with yourself and ask “What honors me here?”

This way before you say “yes” to someone else, you say “yes” to yourself.

This simple practice has put Tammi at the top of her Love List where she didn’t use to be on the list at all.

Listen to Dr. Tammi's full interview here

Connect with Dr. Tammi -

www.tammibphd.com - to download Tammi’s free E-book and manifesting program

Tammi’s Facebook Link

Dr. Tammi Baliszewski – Being Whole Makes for Powerful Partnership

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 29 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Tammi Baliszewski is a double Ph.D. and has written 2 books; the best selling "Manifesting Prosperity From the Inside Out" and "Manifesting Love From the Inside Out."

Tammi thought she manifested the life of her dreams when she got engaged to a high profile celebrity in the early 90's, but after a couple of years of award shows, private jets and her jet setting life, her dream became a nightmare.

This put her on a VERY different path. A path of healing, learning to love herself, authentic power and TRUE love.

Today Tammi has been married to her divinely sanctified husband, for 12 years and is Holistic Life counselor, artist, sacred art facilitator and the radio host of Journey to Center on Empower Radio.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Be really whole and all things will come to you.” - Lao Tzu

Really take care of yourself. Don’t look to someone else. Don’t look outside of yourself to complete something that’s missing inside of you.

When You Tripped Up

Tammi wanted to go to a see the movie Bewitched and she was excited, but her husband didn’t want to see it.

She was really upset. Tammi decided she was not going to speak to him. She was going to punish him. Her way in past relationships was to be passive aggressive so she leaned on that again.

Meanwhile, her husband is not feeling tortured at all.

Then she checked in with her inner child she realized she had everything she needed to take care of her inner child herself. So she took her inner child on a date and was as happy as she had ever been.

This helped her get out of her pattern of being passive aggressive.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Tammi asked God a question: “God, how do I manifest a man who will love, adore and cherish me? ”

And the answer she received was: “Love, adore and cherish yourself.”

Tammi thought to herself, that sounds so awful. She would do anything but that.

But since she was clear that she was done playing games in her life, she decided to commit to her.

Tammi was a people pleaser and instead of always saying “yes” to her partner, took time to find out what saying “yes” to herself meant.

She knew in the moment she needed to become whole so she could attract another whole human being.

Proudest moment in partnership

Tammi’s husband was very mad at her for a seemingly minor thing and instead of going into the blame game and doing the tit for tat thing, she stepped back checked in with herself and her inner child.

She was able to console her inner child and then show up as an adult.

Because she did not get into the blaming game, they got into the truth behind the issue to the root cause of his displeasure.

And he thanked her for it.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Be “The One” instead of trying to find “The One.”

A mentor of Tammi’s once told her: “In healthy relationships we make God first, ourselves second and our partner third.”

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

Power vs. Force

Manifesting Love From the Inside Out

Interview Links -

www.tammibphd.com - to download Tammi’s free E-book and manifesting program

Tammi’s Facebook Link

Lisa Copeland – Letting a Man Be Your Hero

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating.

She's the Amazon Best-Selling Author of “The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50” and a regular Huffington Post contributor.

Her passion is showing women around the world how to find love again with a good man after 50.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You can’t work out everything. Also, let the relationship be fun and playful.

When You Tripped Up

Lisa made the same trip-up in both her first and second marriage.

She would ignore the red flags until they got to be “serious.”

As a woman she had this tendency to settle thinking someone will change over time. But it doesn’t work that way.

Then in her second marriage they met and had unbelievable chemistry. And she thought it was the coolest thing.

What happened was they fell in lust not love. They had a heart connection and a sexual connection, but the friendship was missing.

Without the friendship component they could not deal with anything that came up, and it is why the marriage only lasted two years.

When the rose colored glasses came off, she could see the problems were there before they got married and they never had any business getting married.

They were having some issues before the wedding and her fiancee’ said “Do you think we should hold off on this?” But she was so caught up in having the wedding of her dreams and was not about to stop it.

This was a mistake.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Lisa “DUH” moment was when two different partners said as the relationship was ending, “Lisa, you don't know how to let a man be a man.”

She learned that men have much stronger emotions than most women give them credit for.

Lisa came from the generation of women liberation which was amazing for getting jobs, but really messed with the male and female roles and how to work them out.

Then she learned how much men want to make her happy and be her hero.

She learned how to let a man be her hero and how to receive, and now she doesn’t have to do it by herself anymore.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Lisa was sitting at a conference with her male friend, John, and she asked him to take a picture for her.

And John said, “Lisa I love it when a woman asks me for my help.’

In that moment she recognized what power that was. Because in the past she felt like she had to push to get her needs met.

This moment showed her the magic of relationships.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Allowing a man to be a man and as a woman receiving what a man is giving in the way he is giving it.

You’re power as a woman comes from letting a man be your hero versus ordering or demanding or controlling him to be what you want him to be.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

"Allison Armstrong helps women see who men are and who women are as well."

Making Sense of Men: A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men

The Queen's Code

Keys to the Kingdom

Payoff of Partnership

By respecting her partner, Lisa’s partner feels more empowered. And in turn he cherishes her and adores her.

Which makes her cherish and adore him.

Which make him respect her.

This makes the relationship so much lighter and more fun.

Interview Links -

Website: www.findaqualityman.com

Twitter: twitter.com/Over50DateCoach

Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/lisaacopeland

Google Plus: plus.google.com/+Findaqualityman

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/copelandlisa

Facebook: www.facebook.com/lisacopelanddatingcoach

Instagram: www.instagram.com/over50datecoach

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Sometimes the Universe tests your “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 24 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Heide Banks

Not Following -

In her late 20’s Heide was totally focused on getting married. She was so in her head.

She was dating a guy at a time when she needed a shoulder and they were together about 9 months when he called her and said, “I want to come over and talk to you about something really important.”

And Heide thought “Oh my god, he’s going to pop the question!”

But inside she was unsure.

Turns out he told her the entire time he had been dating Heide he was involved with another woman who was married and she was leaving her husband and they were getting married.

During their relationship this guy was never available on the weekends. And she always knew there was something wrong there, but she didn’t want to look because she was all in her head about getting married.

This was a pretty devastating time, but it shifted her focus and caused her to ask: What is it that is so wanting to be married more than to be happy?

Following -

When Heide met her husband they were living on different coasts. He was coming out of a relationship and he wasn’t quite out of it.

He kept inviting her to come to New York where he lived.

Heide’s instincts said, “let him clean up his live before you enter it.” And she followed this guidance.

It literally took him 6 months to get out of this relationship he had been in for 8 years.

She made a vow to herself not to fly to New York that entire time to see him. And it wasn’t easy.

As a result of following this guidance, when they got together it was very clean and there was nothing pulling on either of them.

Listen to Heide’s full interview here

Connect with Heide -

HeideBanks.com

Email Heide at HeideBanks@gmail.com

Heide’s Facebook Page

Alexi Panos

Not Following -

When Alexi was 25 years old she had a deep intuitive hit to get into the personal development space.

She signed up for a coaching course and started reading books, and at the same time she was doing pretty well in the entertainment industry, TV and modeling etc.

About 2 weeks into her coaching course the Universe came in and tested her “Yes.” It gave her a massive opportunity to host a television show and she took it because she didn’t trust her “Yes.”

She focused on succeeding in her entertainment career and did incredibly well, but she felt so empty on the inside.

Her entertainment career distracted her from her vision and her truth of being in the personal development world.

Alexi learned that when you follow your “Yes” your inner truth feels heard, seen and acknowledged and you feel a sense of completeness and wholeness.

Following -

Alexi finally recognizes that the entertainment industry is not for her.

And she started to get all these amazing offers to continue on the entertainment path.

Her intuitive hit was to say No and she did. Her intuitive “Yes” was to say No.

The minute she said No to multiple six-figure offers she freaked out a bit. But she stayed strong and followed her next “Yes” to move away from New York and moved to California with no idea of where she would start.

She tapped into her background in entertainment and started making videos to share what she was learning.

One thing after the other started happening as if the Universe saw her commit to her “Yes” and take action and it said “You are ready for what has been here all along because I see that you are committed to it.”

And everything she has now, though it took effort, it just flowed in.

Listen to Alexi's full interview here

Connect with Alexi -

WEB: www.alexipanos.com

BOOK: www.50waystoyay.com

EPIC: www.epicthemovement.org

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/alexipanos

INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/alexipanos/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/alexi.panos

Alexi Panos – Look for the spark within you

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 22 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Alexi Panos is a leader in the Emergent Wisdom movement.

She is on a mission to make personal development mainstream by synthesizing big ideas into fun, bite sized nuggets of goodness that spread throughout the world and create a ripple effect of positivity and love.

She is an transformational vlogger, speaker and writer who has been named as one of ORIGIN Magazine’s TOP 100 CREATIVES CHANGING THE WORLD, winner of Elixir Magazine's Millennial Mentor Award, one of 15 WOMEN THAT WOW by Creativ Magazine, and one of the stars of the breakout documentary THE ABUNDANCE FACTOR.

Alexi is truly shaking things up with her passionate and energetic delivery, making a unique mark on the world.

Her forthcoming book, 50 WAYS TO YAY, published by Simon & Schuster, will be out June 2016.

Whether she’s speaking and facilitating workshops around the world with her transformational Bridge Method, drilling clean water wells through her non profit E.P.I.C, dishing insights from her own personal quest for truth in her books and blogs, or inspiring two million plus viewers as host of her compelling and inspirational YouTube Series, she’s completely OBSESSED with creating experiences that matter, move and inspire people into their greatness and authentic selves.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Remind yourself of who and what you are…you are Divinity. And anything in your world is a reflection of you.

When you get triggered, ask yourself how is this a reflection of you? How are you the space for this to show up?

Look for the spark within you.

People on the outside are like the lighter fluid to the sparks that are already within you.

If there is no spark it won’t light up, but if there is a spark around whatever issue: abandonment, fear, scarcity etc., that thing is going to light up.

When You Tripped Up

Alexi had the expectation with her business and life partner, Preston Smiles, that he would show up the way she showed up.

When they first got together both personally and professionally, she was trying to force him into her box, into her way of doing things.

This expectation created so much suffering within herself, and created so much dissonance in the relationship. She resented that he did not do things the way she did.

When they truly got it. That they were different and it wasn’t likely to change. It allowed all the magic to show up. It allowed her to see all the gifts that he brings to their relationship.

It created new possibilities for herself.

She found the recipe for a thriving relationship - check it out.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Alexi’s has a non-profit called EPIC. For the first 6 years she had no idea how to communicate with her partner, Tennille.

At one point she was so frustrated by not being able to get her points across.

Alexi’s “DUH” moment was when she realized Tennille speaks from love not logic.

When she shifted her communication and they recommitted to wanting to live their higher purpose, EPIC has exploded.

They focused on the love and integrity and relationship that was their foundation, and that’s what has set them apart as a non-profit.

Proudest moment in partnership

Alexi was recently in Tulum, Mexico for her “bachelorette party” and her long-time friend Jackie was there.

They hadn’t seen each other for years and it was a little awkward. Finally they named the gorilla that was in the room and talked about what was awkward for each of them.

They didn’t make each other wrong. They allowed each other to be really heard and honored each other’s feelings.

When we don’t take things personally and make them about us, it is safe to express ourselves.

Now they have the deepest connection they have ever had in their 14 years of friendship.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Take your time.

Conditionally we want to react, but if you take your time, breath and remind yourself why you are in this relationship and then respond from a place of clarity and love it changes everything.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other

This book has completely changed the way Alexi:

views partnership
views love
views freedom
views human interaction

Interview Links -

WEB: www.alexipanos.com

BOOK: www.50waystoyay.com

EPIC: www.epicthemovement.org

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/alexipanos

INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/alexipanos/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/alexi.panos

Heide Banks – The relationship game isn’t easy, but it’s beautiful

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Heide Banks is a nationally recognized relationship coach who has been featured on Oprah!. 20/20, the Early Show, and Good Morning America to name a few.

She holds an MA from the a university of Santa Monica and is known for her deep intuition and wisdom having done this work for 25 years.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Get off the right/wrong track, and move to what is this relationship showing me?

Get out of the fantasy of what you should be experiencing. And look at what’s really happening here. And how has this been brought to you for your growth.

When You Tripped Up

Heidi was taught to lead with her sexuality and her looks.

As a child she was not very attractive. She had weight issues and was not very popular. Around college that shifted. And she let sexuality and looks lead her around.

Then she recognized she wasn’t getting what she wanted out of relationships. And she realized she wasn’t really showing up as herself. She was showing up as arm candy. Which was contrary to who she is.

A guy she was dating said “You lied to me about who you are.”

Heidi realized that she had presented herself as a carefree and shallow person in the beginning of the relationship.

When she felt safe enough for her to come out in a deeper way and he wasn’t interested.

That’s when she decided she was not going to do that again. She was going to show up as who she is, the whole package, not just a part of her.

Proudest moment in partnership

Heidi’s proudest moment was her divorce.

She was married for close to 11 years and then they realized that what they each wanted for the next phase of their lives did not include them being together.

There was no period of animosity or regret. And they are great friends now.

He says to her, “I’m not your ex-husband. I’m your friend.” And that brings joy.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Forgiveness.

Move to a place that let’s you and your partner off the hook so you aren’t carrying it forward.

And never criticize your partner in public.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Spiritual Bypassing: When Spirituality Disconnects Us from What Really Matters

The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction

The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life's Perfection

David Whyte poetry

Interview Links -

HeideBanks.com

Email Heide at HeideBanks@gmail.com

Heide’s Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Not following your “Yes” will cost you

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 17 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Barb Wade

Not Following -

Barb hired a mentor that was much more of a clear No than a Yes.

She was too afraid to do that because in her mind this mentor had everything she wanted.

Inside she had a knowing that this mentor was not the right fit. Barb was in scarcity. Afraid she would miss something if she didn’t hire her.

She built a business that was a not aligned with her purpose and burned her out.

Following -

Barb had a 7 figure business and all the metrics you are supposed to hit, but her truth was she missed the transformational work she used to do.

So she walked away from this business and her Yes let her know that she would be so much happier.

From the outside it looked like she was nuts to walk away from what she had built, but things are unfolding beautifully.

It was a course correction.

Listen to Barb’s full interview here

Connect with Barb -

www.barbwade.com

www.barbwade.com/love - Access to e-book called Love vs. Fear - How to make spirit led choices for a prosperous life.

Barb's Facebook Page

Connor Beaton

Not Following -

Connor had an opportunity to invest to invest quite a bit of money into Tesla when the stock was at $40 and he didn’t.

Every part of his intuition was saying “Yes do it!” You will support a company that you absolutely love probably make quite a bit of money.

Six months later the stock had quadrupled in value. And he missed that opportunity to make enough money to buy a house.

And in his current relationship with Kelsey, she was a Yes for him and he ignored it by getting distracted by other people.

Unfortunately it took them a while to rebuild the relationship because he was scared of his Yes.

Following -

When Connor got the idea to start ManTalks, a personal growth company for men.

At first he had a clear Yes, but there was a lot of fears of what people would think about him and how they would judge him. And he was worried about what people would think about the guys that participated.

But his Yes was so clear and resounding that he decided to push through those fears and be unattached to the outcomes.

As a result of following the clear Yes and setting the fears aside, ManTalks has impacted the lives of thousands of people in a positive way.

Listen to Connor's full interview here

Connect with Connor -

ManTalks.com

ManTalk's Facebook Page

Connor’s Facebook Page

Connor Beaton – Get out of your own way

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks.

He is also a Speaker, a Business Coach and a lifestyle entrepreneur.

Before founding ManTalks, Connor pursued his passion as an Opera singer which allowed him to sing in Europe, China and North America.

He then went on to work with the largest company in the world, Apple Computers, leading high performance sales and operations teams. From Music to Business, Connor has had a unique opportunity to work closely with some of the best, brightest and most talented in multiple industries.

Connor currently runs ManTalks which supports men who are looking to achieve greatness in their life by connecting them with like minded individuals and giving them the tools to grow in their desired area of life.

ManTalks offers monthly events, mastermind groups. They also have a fast growing online presence with their podcast and blog where you will find world class men from ex Navy Seal's to spiritual teachers like Dan Millman.

ManTalks is expanding to Toronto and Los Angeles.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You can either be right or you can be happy. This applies to all personal and professional partnerships.

Connor has been a very stubborn and accomplishment driven person in much of his life.

He used to come into relationships from a space of, if he was going to be a successful partner he needed to be right. And this often times led to arguments.

This desire to be right implied that the other person was wrong.

When You Tripped Up

Connor had a 2+ year long relationship with his high school sweetheart and then he caught her cheating on him. And at the age of 17 that was heartbreaking.

So he put on the armor to protect himself from getting hurt again and went out into the world trying to have successful relationships.

As soon as a relationship would start to get serious he would sabotage it by cheating in an effort to not get hurt again.

In his current relationship he found himself wanting to run away from the relationship and actually did break it off to pursue someone else. And she was devastated.

Ultimately they decided to try and get back together and his partner, Kelsey, said something that changed him. She said, “Only hurt people, hurt people.”

This reality check helped him get free of the guilt and shame and forgive himself.

Proudest moment in partnership

For Connor being able to use his innate gifts and the things that really fulfill him to help his partner.

His partner, Kelsey’s, business had plateaued and she wanted to take it to the next level, but wasn’t sure how to do it.

Instead of taking his standard approach of coming in like a wrecking ball and saying “you should do this and you should do that” he simply asked if she would mind if he offered some suggestions.

She was very receptive and Connor realized this happened because he asked permission.

And being unattached to her response allowed him to ask from a neutral space.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Learn how to hold the bucket for the female partners in your life.

When a man can just be present and hold the space for her to get out whatever she needs to get out it is a huge gift. It lets them know they are being heard.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love

The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety

Interview Links -

ManTalks.com

ManTalk's Facebook Page

Connor’s Facebook Page

Barb Wade – Through partnership with others I get to know myself

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 13 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Barb Wade is a Speaker, an Author, and Coach who has been on the leading edge of Transformational Coaching for over 15 years.

Barb works with high-achievers who, despite external accomplishments, are finding themselves yearning for more freedom, joy, and meaning in their lives. Barb herself knows that "hole" of quiet desperation that can exist even though achievement is high.

Her clients, though an exploration of their truly authentic priorities, values, and dreams, release those relationships and circumstances that are draining and depleting them, and instead build lives that are vibrant and purpose-driven.

Barb completed an MA in Spiritual Psychology as well as Coaching Training in 2000. She speaks frequently at conferences and on industry panels, has been featured on ABC, NBC, CBS News, and FOX, and was the official on-air Life Coach for the FineLiving Channel for 8 years.

She lives in Northern Colorado with her husband and two spirited daughters.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Only in relationship can you know yourself, not in abstraction and certainly not in isolation.

Through relationship with others I get to know myself.

When You Tripped Up

Barb hired a mentor to help her grow her business. Where she tripped up is she forgot it was partnership and she started to give up her authority to this mentor.

She caught herself giving her power away. She had put this person on a pedestal and started to second guess what she knew to be true for her.

Barb fell prey to guilt and a strong personality. And for a year she was not as present with her little girls as she wanted to be.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Barb was collapsing two concepts together.

She was collapsing into “If he loves me, he will pick up the dry cleaning.” And if he didn’t do it she would be hurt thinking he didn’t love her.

These conclusions were unfounded and when she looked for all the ways he shows he loves her, there were lots of ways he showed he loves her.

When she separated the two everything changed.

She learned that they really need to communicate instead of thinking they can read each other’s minds.

This led them to a deep discussion of “how do you feel the most loved?”

Proudest moment in partnership

Barb and her husband, Tim, have gotten really good at swooping in when the other one is going to lose it with the kids.

It is an amazing way they support each other in their shared commitment to their girls.

They have agreed that they each have permission to step in and suggest the other takes a little break.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

In real partnership, if you truly are committed in love to the other person, then that is a commitment to their highest good no matter what challenge that brings you.

Create a living vision for what you want the partnership to look like, up front. It will save you so many misinterpretations in the long run.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

Payoff of Partnership -

What Barb weathered in her 20’s and 30’s with her husband have led her to the work she does today.

Interview Links -

www.barbwade.com

www.barbwade.com/love - Access to e-book called Love vs. Fear - How to make spirit led choices for a prosperous life.

Barb's Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – The greatest gift you can give yourself is to follow your “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 10 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Kate Bull

Not Following -

When Kate went to university she knew she wanted to help people in her career.

She ended up choosing to study Law and it did not feel good but she thought she had to do it.

She developed severe anxiety and failed her exams and became depressed and ended up leaving university.

All because once she made the decision to study Law she felt like she couldn’t turn back.

Following -

When Kate started her coaching business it was the time in her life when she felt the strongest “Yes” of her life.

She had been let go from her job and she was so excited.

She followed her “Yes” despite all the people around her saying she was too young, didn’t have the experience, should wait until later in life to start her coaching business etc.

There was a part of her that believed it as well, but her “Yes” was stronger.

The more she connected into her “Yes” and took action on it, more and more amazing things showed up.

Listen to Kate’s full interview here

Connect with Kate -

Bold Self Love TV

www.katebull.com

www.katebull.com/free - Free training series

Kate's Facebook Page

JP Sears

Not Following -

JP used to teach programs for a holistic health institute. After about 5 years his inner yes was saying “Yes it’s time to leave.”

And he said No. This feels too safe and secure. It’s too scary to leave. So he chose “safety” over his intuitive call to whatever is next for the next two years.

He felt more and more confined and claustrophobic in his own skin.

Following -

Finally after two years of self imposed confinement he said “Yes” to this guidance and it was one of the greatest gifts he could have ever given himself.

So much has unfolded for him professionally since he left the safety and security of the familiar for the bigger world that awaited him.

Listen to JP's full interview here

Connect with JP -

www.awakenwithJP.com

JP’s YouTube Channel

JP's Facebook Page

JP Sears – Feelings are the path to intimacy

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 08 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

JP Sears is an emotional healing coach, international teacher, speaker at events, world traveler, and curious student of life.

His work empowers people to live more meaningful lives. JP presents classes, workshops, online seminars, and leads retreats at numerous locations around the world on inner healing and growth.

He is also very active on his YouTube channel, AwakenWithJP, where he encourages healing and growth through his entertainingly informative and inspiring videos including his hit Ultra Spiritual comedy series.

You can learn more about JP and his work at www.AwakenWithJP.com and www.YouTube.com/AwakenWithJP.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

The North Star question for JP is: What wants to live through me?

Be curious about the answer rather than pretending to be certain about the answer.

The Story Behind JP’s YouTube Videos

JP’s YouTube videos are a result of asking himself his North Star question.

The first year and a half his videos were predominantly serious.

He found he was resistant to his natural sense of humor and some of his natural perspectives in life.

Luckily the creative spirits kept knocking at his door and eventually the door opened. He is curious how far the door has yet to open.

Everything he does a parody video on is something he has been immersed in personally.

His videos are a therapeutic exercise of JP helping him not take himself too seriously.

When You Tripped Up

JP’s relationship with a woman he had been with for 2 1/2 years recently ended.

What he is learning from this is to accept his beloved for who she is and not who he wants her to be. And to do his best to present himself in a relationship, not who he thinks his partner wants him to be.

Proudest moment in partnership

When JP was asked by a friend what she should do, he said, “ I have no idea. What does your heart tell you?”

After she replied he said, “You better respect your heart then.” And this meant the world to her.

She told him this provided a level of support for her that was amazing, instead of him trying to jump in and “fix” it for her.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Feel your own feelings that come up through our experience of our partner. And acknowledge our partner’s feelings.

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Also, own your own projections. If you don’t your partner will likely resent the hell out of you.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue, Book 1

Payoff of Partnership -

Interview Links -

www.awakenwithJP.com

JP’s YouTube Channel

JP's Facebook Page

Kate Bull – Partnership connects you to the deeper truth within you

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 06 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Kate Bull is a Bold Self Love Coach and Creator of Bold Self Love TV

She helps people to deeply love all of who they are and courageously shift their internal conditioning and blocks so they can create a space to step into living a full and epic life, in the way they truly want.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Nobody can give me what I can’t give to myself.

You are you’re own guru.

When You Tripped Up

Kate was in a relationship for about 6 months and for the first time she was thinking that she could see a future with this guy.

She was thinking that she could either have the relationship or her business and she was leaning toward the relationship.

Then she received a call from a women she did not know who said she was also in a relationship with the man Kate was. Her world was turned upside down.

What she learned is people come and go in life, and if you don’t have a strong relationship with yourself then these departures will rock your world.

Proudest moment in partnership

Kate met up with Henare O’Brien (speakingofpartnership.com/35) when he was creating a community program called Connecting Kids.

At the time she was feeling really lost and alone in her life. Henare saw within her the potential to be a leader and asked her to co-lead on the project with him.

Kate stepped into the role and he helped her see that she had the same qualities she saw in him.

All of the sudden she stepped into doing things she never thought she could do.

Now Kate helps people see their own potential through partnering with someone who they look up to or are inspired by. And help them recognize that the reason they are inspired is because that is the qualities they have within themselves.

Partnering with a leader to bring out the leader in her was definitely one of her proudest moments.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Love yourself first.

This allows her to be with people and feel like it’s a growth experience rather than using someone else to fill her tank.

If looking for a mentor partnership, look for people who direct you back to you.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

Interview Links -

Bold Self Love TV

www.katebull.com

www.katebull.com/free - Free training series

Kate's Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – There’s no such thing as a small Yes

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Dr. Bernie Siegel

Not Following -

Bernie almost became a veterinarian, until a veterinarian brought him back to his “Yes.”

Following -

Bernie tells a story of one of his first AIDS patients and how sometimes your “Yes” won’t let you not follow it.

Listen to Bernie’s full interview here

Connect with Bernie -

www.berniesiegelmd.com

Bernie's Facebook Page

Dr. Laura Ciel and Bill Poett

Not Following -

Bill - In his earlier years he would make a commitment and then the commitment would mean more to him than his intuition or his “Yes.” So he lived for years in a “less than” relationship.

Laura - It was an accumulation of small moments where she wasn’t listening to her “Yes.” This is especially true regarding taking care of herself.

Train yourself to listen to your “Yes” as soon as possible. If something doesn’t feel quite right, stop and check in before you take action.

Following -

Bill - He had been interviewed by Laura on her radio show a couple of years earlier and she kept popping up in his awareness, on Facebook or where ever.

So on a Wednesday he ended the relationship he was in, quite amicably and then that weekend he called Laura and they spoke for 7 hours.

His life was irrevocably changed for the better because there was something calling him to her and he listened.

Laura - She was at a point where she was not sure there was a person who could show up and be in a romantic partnership the way she envisioned.

She told herself that if something felt right she was going to say “Yes” even if her brain was trying to talk her out of it. This led to her to doing a lot of fun things she normally would not have done because her mind would have over ridden it.

When Bill reached out to her she thought “what is this guy doing? I interviewed him a long time ago and I really don’t know him.” But something told her to talk with him.

This one “Yes” led to an incredible personal and professional relationship that has benefited thousands of people around the world.

Listen to Laura & Bill's full interview here

Connect with Laura & Bill -

www.lifeadvancenow.com

Laura and Bill's Facebook Page

Dr. Laura Ciel and Bill Poett – A shared vision for love and support

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Welcome to our 50th episode!

Dr Laura Ciel inspires transformation not only through her rigorous background and training in clinical and medical psychology, but also through her open heart, clarity, honesty and intense passion for anyone to have the opportunity to live life FULL OUT.

Bill Poett is first and foremost a Warrior Heart. He believes that love is the most powerful force on earth and service the highest calling.

He is a nationally acclaimed transformational guide, author, corporate facilitator and radio personality.

Dr. Laura and Bill joined forces to co-create the world's first fully integrated personal and professional development training programs at Life Advance International.

At Life Advance International, they specialize in improving your personal and team performance allowing you to maximize the results you experience in your professional and personal life by applying the concepts, principles and universal laws that the world's happiest, healthiest and most successful people use to get and stay that way!

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Bill - They teach a model called the True North Compass for both personal and professional partnerships.

It’s a 6 step process to reconnect to the core of who they are and the vision that they share.

Laura - Have a clear vision of where you are going with your health, romantic relationship, professional life etc.

If you don’t have a shared vision you can work as hard as you want and you’re not going to get there.

When You Tripped Up

Laura - Dr. Laura got married young the first time and was married for 20 years.

Looking back, she was operating from the belief that it was more important for her to have her marriage look a certain way than it was to honor who she was at the core.

When she walked away from her marriage, everyone thought she was crazy to leave it. From the outside it looked perfect, but had she stayed there she would have been dying daily in one way or another.

Bill - In his previous marriage, he and his wife had gone through some real struggles at the beginning of their time together. And he believed that having survived those challenges, they were bomb proof.

Then his wife left without any interest in doing much counseling to see if they could reconcile he was shattered.

Now with Laura he wakes up everyday knowing it doesn’t matter how well he loved her yesterday. What matters is his capacity to love her today and be very present in their relationship.

Proudest moment in partnership

Bill - They recently worked with a high performing team who was in profound distress.

The transformation and flow and lack of friction in the team that they witnessed at their executive meeting after working with them for just a few weeks felt so good.

It confirmed that they are doing what they are born to do.

Laura - She and Bill have a large family. And they hold a very clear vision of what they hope and want and intend for their family.

When they have struggles with the kids, she can look at Bill’s eyes and even if he doesn’t say anything she knows he is holding that vision.

She never had a partner she could really count on personally or professionally in this way.

Knowing she can lean on Bill and he will hold their vision even at times when it is tough for her is Laura’s proudest moment in partnership.

Bill gives us a great description of what it means to “have your partner’s back.”

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Laura - It starts with you. Look around at whatever partnership you are in and if something does not feel right, look to you first and make the shift in you.

Talk to your partner about your shared vision. Where are you going? What is the point of this?

Bill - You are inherently worthy. And your capacity, on an energetic level, to own that will determine the scope, the beauty, the impact of everything you will do.

If you are incapable of owning your inherent worth, then you will settle for everything in life that is “less than.” You’ll settle for “less than” relationships and “less than” health and “less than” abundance.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Free training video and a 15 minute creative visualization tool on their website. Designed so your decisions are in alignment with what you want in life.

Interview Links -

www.lifeadvancenow.com

Laura and Bill's Facebook Page

Dr. Bernie Siegel – Become a love warrior

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 30 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Siegel, who prefers to be called Bernie, was born in Brooklyn, NY.

For many, Bernie needs no introduction. He has touched many lives all over our planet.

In 1978 he originated Exceptional Cancer Patients, a specific form of individual and group therapy utilizing patients’ drawings, dreams, images and feelings. ECaP is based on “carefrontation,” a safe, loving therapeutic confrontation, which facilitates personal lifestyle changes, personal empowerment and healing of the individual’s life. The physical, spiritual and psychological benefits which followed led to his desire to make everyone aware of his or her healing potential. He realized exceptional behavior is what we are all capable of.

In 1986 his first book, Love. Medicine & Miracles was published. This event redirected his life.

Bernie’s realization that we all need help dealing with the difficulties of life, not just the physical ones, led to Bernie writing his fourth book in 1998 Prescriptions for Living.

Bernie has been named one of the top 20 Spiritually Influential Living People on the Planet by the Watkins Review.

For more details go to www.BernieSiegelMD.com.

Bernie, and his wife and coworker Bobbie, live in a suburb of New Haven, Connecticut. They have five children and eight grandchildren. Bernie and Bobbie have co-authored their children, books and articles. Their home with its many children, pets and interests resembled a cross between a family art gallery, museum, zoo and automobile repair shop. It still resembles these things, although the children are trying to improve its appearance in order to avoid embarrassment.

Before I even got to ask Bernie my first question, we received all of these gems:

Bernie encourages you to embarrass your children regularly.

In marriage you are not giving to the other person, you are giving to the relationship. It is 1 + 1 = 3. The third entity is the relationship.

You won’t believe what happened when Bernie asked a class of medical students to draw themselves as a doctor.

We all need to be trained to enjoy people.

One of Bernie’s sons owned a Subway franchise and Bernie asked to work for him because he loved people. Imagine being asked “How would you introduce yourself to God?” by the guy making your sandwich at Subway.

Become a Love Warrior.

If you want to improve your partnerships and relationships, say “I love you” to your partner everyday for 3 months. At the end of 3 months skip a day and see what you hear from the other person.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Focus on being grateful for what you have and what you can do with it.

The Ice Bucket Experiment

Put your hand in a bucket of ice and time how long you can keep it there.
Then refill the bucket. Gather your family and pets around you and put your hand back in the ice.
Watch how much longer you can keep it there. Why?
Because you are surrounded by people who love and care for you. And it changes you and what you are capable of achieving.
It literally changes your chemistry.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Love, Medicine and Miracles: Lessons Learned about Self-Healing from a Surgeon's Experience with Exceptional Patients

The Science of Mind: The Complete Edition

Interview Links -

www.berniesiegelmd.com

Bernie's Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday- Following your “Yes” can save your life

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 27 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Nijole Sparkis

Not Following -

She met the man who would become her husband, Fritz, and they both hit it off. He was a big “Yes” for her.

Then the next morning she woke up and got scared and she told him to give her some space and do not call her.

She was afraid of leaving her comfort zone.

Following -

If something is truly yours, all the resistance in the world cannot block it from you.

Nijole had been putting so much energy into both a trip to Egypt and a soulmate for a year and you won’t believe how this played out.

It was a HUGE Yes!

Ultimately it showed her that you cannot resist your good.

Listen to Nijole’s full interview here

Connect with Nijole -

www.nijolesparkis.com

Nijole's Facebook Page

Preston Smiles

Preston tells a powerful story of a night that changed his life.

He could have just done what he did every night, but something told him to pass. To say “No.”

This was his first understanding of intuition and it saved his life.

This has led him down a path where he can teach others about tapping into intuition.

Listen to Preston's full interview here

Connect with Preston -

www.prestonsmiles.com

Preston’s YouTube Channel

Preston's Facebook Page

Preston Smiles – Are you having fun?

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 25 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Preston Smiles is like nobody in the speaking or personal development world.

Breaking all rules and carving his own path he's an emerging Next Generation Thought Leader, recently winning the Millennial Mentor Award by Elixir Magazine.

Preston’s forthcoming book, LOVE LOUDER, is being published by Simon and Schuster and will hit the shelves on June 7th, 2016.

Generating millions of views with his message of LOVE, AUTHENTICITY and CREATIVITY, Preston Smiles is making a huge impact with his loyal social media tribe, and unique gift to make the complex simple.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

One of the traps of working with your romantic partner, as Preston and his fiancee’ Alexi do, is you can get so caught up in the work that you forget the magic of the relationship.

Their guiding principle is “Are they having fun?”

When You Tripped Up

During a relationship Preston was in about 10 years ago, he would try and fix it anytime his partner, Olivia, would cry or be upset etc.

What he learned is that it is not his job to fix anyone or anything. And sometimes his partner just needs to share and get it out.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Preston is a recovering people pleaser.

The “DUH” moment for him was that he works better when he returns to nature. But he wasn’t making the association that when he’s playing and in nature it creates a calmness and a space for him when he returns.

So when he takes time for himself and aligns with his true soul signature, which is nature and play, it affects his partnerships in a positive way.

Proudest moment in partnership

Preston and Alexi went to Burning Man last year and they did something they had never done before.

They walked onto the playa and came across all these magical things that happened in the moment because they had no agenda at all.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

The partnership Preston is experiencing with his publisher Simon & Schuster.

Great story of how Preston got connected with Simon & Schuster.

There is so much happening and it is amazing to know they have a team that is supporting them in their mission.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

You’re going to screw up anyway, so you may as well have fun. No one is getting a 10 out of 10.

Also, everyone has masculine and feminine energy and it’s always balancing itself out.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Love Louder: 33 Ways to Amplify Your Life

50 Ways to Yay!: Transformative Tools for a Whole Lot of Happy

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue, Book 1

Payoff of Partnership -

Preston is living in the payoff of partnership right now.

In his relationship with Alexi there is no where to hide. If he is not living what he is teaching she holds that mirror up to him.

And she is his biggest trigger for opportunities for him to grow.

Interview Links -

www.prestonsmiles.com

Preston’s YouTube Channel

Preston's Facebook Page

Nijole Sparkis – Have compassion for yourself

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 23 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Nijole Sparkis is a licensed Spiritual Practitioner and Relationship Coach who helps her clients heal their relationships to create the love they desire.

Coming from a background where her parents fought constantly and ultimately divorced, then moving into adulthood with her own dysfunctional relationships, Nijole eventually learned to turn it all around using spiritual principles.

As a result, she miraculously attracted her true soulmate, whom she has been married to for over 19 years.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

When You Tripped Up

Nijole was constantly creating relationships with guys that did not honor her because she did not know how to honor herself.

Proudest moment in partnership

Nijole was able to turn all of these painful relationships around when she got honest with herself about what she wanted in her life and in her relationships. She used to label it and reject it.

As soon as she opened up to the possibility of having what she wanted she met her soulmate, Fritz.

She was able to see in Fritz what she had never seen before over the 4 1/2 years she had known him.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Nijole’s partnership with her higher self is so exciting for her.

She is constantly nurturing this relationship.

And it takes practice.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Face whatever is inside of yourself that you don’t want to see and feel the feelings that you want to avoid.

Have compassion for yourself.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

You Can Heal Your Life

Interview Links -

www.nijolesparkis.com

Nijole's Facebook Page

Nijole Sparkis – Have compassion for yourself

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 23 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Nijole Sparkis is a licensed Spiritual Practitioner and Relationship Coach who helps her clients heal their relationships to create the love they desire.

As a result, she miraculously attracted her true soulmate, whom she has been married to for over 19 years.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

When You Tripped Up

Nijole was constantly creating relationships with guys that did not honor her because she did not know how to honor herself.

Proudest moment in partnership

Nijole was able to turn all of these painful relationships around when she got honest with herself about what she wanted in her life and in her relationships. She used to label it and reject it.

As soon as she opened up to the possibility of having what she wanted she met her soulmate, Fritz.

She was able to see in Fritz what she had never seen before over the 4 1/2 years she had known him.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Nijole’s partnership with her higher self is so exciting for her.

She is constantly nurturing this relationship.

And it takes practice.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Face whatever is inside of yourself that you don’t want to see and feel the feelings that you want to avoid.

Have compassion for yourself.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

You Can Heal Your Life

Interview Links -

www.nijolesparkis.com

Nijole's Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – the payoff of one powerful “Yes”

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 20 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Do you follow your "Yes?"

Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Dr. Dorothy A. Martin-Nevile

Not Following -

When Dr. Dorothy was in private practice she would have people on her waiting list ask her to teach different topics. Even though she was certified in 9 different modalities of integrative healthcare, she still thought she had nothing to teach.

She knew in her heart she it would be an incredible experience to teach, but she kept fighting it with her mental justifications. And this made her smaller and smaller.

Following -

When she finally said she will teach what she knows, brought her the most amazing men and women into her life. Taught her things she never ever would have learned.

Her life was absolutely transformed from a small private practitioner to being a pioneer in integrative healthcare.

By taking the risk of following her Yes it changed her entire world, her self image and where her life was going to go.

Listen to Dr. Dorothy’s full interview here

Connect with Dr. Dorothy -

www.askdrdorothy.com

Email Dr. Dorothy at dorothy@askdrdorothy.com

Dr. Dorothy's Facebook Page

Michelle Marchant Johnson

Not Following -

Michelle had been through a painful ending to an off and on relationship she had had for 10 years.

She met a “bad boy” at a party and wanted to numb the pain she was in from the breakup, so even though she knew getting involved with this guy was not a good idea, she did it.

Ultimately, she had to get over the original painful breakup with the “bad boy” break up added on top of it.

These things happen because we are operating from the 3 F’s - fear, fantasy or falsehood.

Following -

Michelle was not happy with her corporate job but they were giving her raise and increasing her benefits and she had another option that didn’t pay as much and would be less stressful.

Then she listened to her Yes and chose the path of peace. And it absolutely ended up being the right decision for her at that time.

Listen to Michelle's full interview here

Connect with Michelle -

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Michelle's Facebook Page

Michelle Marchant Johnson – the support you receive when you ask

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 18 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Michelle Marchant Johnson is a relationship coach, speaker and author.

Her articles have been featured on many internet sites and she was recognized by DatingAdvice.com as one of the Top Ten Midlife Relationship Experts.

Michelle is also an advanced stage breast cancer survivor who believes life is precious and is meant to be lived with purpose, love, and joy.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

When You Tripped Up

When Michelle became a first-time bride at 43 she realized both she and her husband had been living very individual lives for a long time.

Her trip up was when she let her expectations go unspoken and then got upset at him because he did not pick up on what her expectations were and address them.

“I created my own personal drama.”

What she learned is that her husband is actually very willing to help her in almost every case if she expresses her wants or needs to him in a way that he can respond.

(These are some great stories I am sure you will relate to no matter if you are a man or a woman.)

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Michelle had a “DUH” moment one Christmas day when she went out to shovel snow from the driveway because her husband had not done it yet, even though he said he would.

Her ah-ha was that it is not only what she does in her partnership, but also the intention behind it. And considering how that intention might come across to her partner.

She learned that it is very important be honest with herself about her intentions and to communicate them to her partner.

Proudest moment in partnership

Michelle was diagnosed with Breast Cancer 4 years ago. And she felt like she was loosing all of her femininity.

While she was always a very strong and independent woman, she was in a place where she needed support.

She learned how to be in touch with her needs and desires and how to express and ask for what she wanted in a more powerful way.

Being receptive to this support allowed her develop and deepen friendships like never before.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Seek first to understand and then to be understood.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Art and Practice of Loving: Living a Heartfelt Yes

Payoff of Partnership -

Michelle knew she wanted to start her coaching business and when she got up the courage to tell her husband that she wanted to leave her corporate job he surprised her.

Her husband not only was supportive, but he actually became her most ardent supporter, fan and even a partner.

She wouldn’t have had the courage to make the leap from corporate America without her partnership with her husband.

Interview Links -

Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing

Michelle's Facebook Page

Dr. Dorothy Martin-Neville – Permission to be human

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 16 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Dorothy A. Martin-Neville, PhD, is an internationally known keynote speaker, an author, a mentor, and frequent radio and television guest. She has been featured on Oprah’s OWN Network as well as in numerous magazines and newspapers including the New York Times, and the Huffington Post.

Dr. Dorothy, is a licensed psychotherapist, in practice for over 25 year.

Her fascinating life includes: living in an orphanage, being adopted and raised in the housing projects of South Boston in a violent alcoholic home. She later became a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess and so much more

Dr. Dorothy has learned professionally and personally what she speaks about in her frequently requested talk 5 Steps To Claiming Your Dreams.

Ultimately, because of her own inspiring life journey and that of so many others, she came to see that those who passionately and positively live this journey - rather than merely survive it - knowing Anything Is Possible - are the folks who achieve real success and/or health.

She now specializes in mentoring leaders who are ready for the next step in their leadership development allowing them to recognize there is no limit other than the ones they set themselves.

Dr. Dorothy calls all to whom she speaks, with humor, and profound spiritual insight, to live their life fully becoming who they are meant to be, passionately and vibrantly to support their Spiritual Growth, Emotional Intelligence, and Physical Health.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

We are all in this together.

We are all embodied souls.

When You Tripped Up

During her marriage of 15 years, Dr. Dorothy ended up disappearing in her relationship. She was invested in the longevity but not necessarily in the quality.

You have to truly show up to be able to make any relationship all it can be.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Dr. Dorothy’s “DUH” moment was when she realized that when something wasn’t satisfying to her in a relationship it was because her partner had no clue what she wanted.

She was doing new things and adventures just because she could without asking if it was good for her to be doing them.

When she took time to be alone and catch up with herself the more she realized she didn’t have to be busy. Her relationship with herself is the most imperative

When you develop a solid connection to self you are far more prepared to have a happy, connected relationship with somebody else. It provides you with far more to share with your partner.

Proudest moment in partnership

Dr. Dorothy founded and ran a school on energy medicine for 19 years. She had such a close and connected team. They had such joy and excitement assisting people in their transformations.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Dr. Dorothy’s partnerships with her adult children as well as some women she has business partnerships with are the most exciting right now.

It is very exciting to have partnerships with others who have similar dreams.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

No matter who you are in relationship with, you need to give them permission to be human. Permission to fail.

There is a big difference between someone who has a pattern of letting you down or disappointing you and somebody who simply is human.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Dreams Are Only the Beginning: Becoming who you were meant to be

Your Soul Sings Your Body Dances: Listening to Their Conversation

Payoff of Partnership -

When Dr. Dorothy’s youngest child went off to college she moved to the island of Anguilla in the British West Indies.

She made a good girlfriend there and she started dating a guy. These two people showed her a world she never would have seen through her eyes alone.

It taught her there is never a wrong way, there are just so many different ways.

Interview Links -

www.askdrdorothy.com

email Dr. Dorothy at dorothy@askdrdorothy.com

Dr. Dorothy's Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – “Yes” leads to great things

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 13 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Follow Your “Yes” Friday is about you.

It is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Laurie Davis Edwards

Not Following -

Laurie moved from Boston to Colorado with a past boyfriend, but did it for all the wrong reasons. It wasn’t for the relationship.

And once there were in Colorado she just knew it wasn’t going to work out.

Following -

When Laurie started her business it was the biggest Yes she ever had. But to a lot of people in her life it was a big No.

This Yes led her to seeing an application of her professional skills in a whole new way.

And she took action immediately.

She started her business that night in her pajamas and two days later, with $50 and a Twitter account, she took her company live.

Listen to Laurie’s full interview here

Connect with Laurie -

www.eflirtexpert.com

Laurie's Facebook Page

Cherry Norris

Not Following -

When Cherry and her husband were house hunting in Los Angeles, they found a place and made an offer.

Then she woke up at night with her insides screaming “This house is a money pit.” And she thought we’ll deal with it.

Turns out they have done an 8 1/2 year renovation.

Following -

Part 1 -

Right now she is in it. Cherry has no idea where her Yes will take her.

And it’s exhilarating and liberating and completely terrifying at the same time.

Part 2 -

On Cherry’s wedding day she went into her relationship coaches group therapy group and said “I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing.”

She went into her marriage knowing she would stay as long as the love lasted.

And she knew she would survive it if it didn’t work out.

Listen to Cherry's full interview here

Connect with Cherry -

www.howtomeetandmarryyourman.com - for single women looking for love

www.cherrynorris.com

Cherry's Facebook Page

Cherry Norris – Regaining the deeper parts of ourselves

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 11 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Since 2002, Cherry Norris has been giving fun, fail-proof tips and life changing strategies to help women STAR in their own love stories. Whether it’s how to meet a man, keep him romantically interested or know if/when it’s time to leave. She empowers women to feel their best in love without losing themselves in the process.

Her free weekly videos are viewed in over 100 countries around the world.

Cherry wrote, directed and produced the internationally acclaimed feature film, DUTY DATING, a romantic comedy about a woman who on the advice of a love doctor must learn how to meet and marry her man. The premise is based on the best selling book, “Getting To ‘I Do’,” by Dr. Patricia Allen.

Everything you need to know about men and relationships is in this film.

Cherry is here to help you STAR in your own love story and find lasting love without losing yourself.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Feel good to do good.

As a woman when you continue to lean into the joy, lean into the relief, lean into the peace, lean into the love, lean into the feel good it is a great guidepost.

When You Tripped Up

Cherry was tripped up on the premiss that she needs to work hard to get a man’s attention so he will pick her.

She thought the more accomplished she was and showed how independent she was the better catch she would be.

Then she learned that all she needed to do was relax and provide a space for the man to step up and show her what he’s got to make her life better.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Cherry’s “DUH” moment was when Dr. Pat Allen said to her, “You’re a big man and he’s a chicken.”

Proudest moment in partnership

The day she realized it was OK to say yes to the guy who wanted her. Instead of her normal approach of only wanting the man who doesn’t want her.

And the guy she said yes to became her husband.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

The partnership within her body.

She is going to a deeper space of listening and letting go of what she thought her life should look like and allowing her inner GPS to guide the way.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

In a romance you need one primarily masculine energy and one primarily feminine energy and the combination of those two equals love and romance.

When it’s equal it is either a friendship or a business deal.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Duty Dating - the movie

Payoff of Partnership -

Before Cherry and her husband separated they spent the last 4 days being their best.

One night at dinner they told each other the gifts they had received from their 14 1/2 years together.

And they saw each other’s star. She saw herself in a way she never had before.

Together they were able to magnify qualities in each other that they weren’t able to see on their own.

Interview Links -

www.howtomeetandmarryyourman.com - for single women looking for love

www.cherrynorris.com

Cherry's Facebook Page

Laurie Davis Edwards – Never stop connecting

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 09 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Laurie Davis Edwards is the Founder and CEO of eFlirt, an online dating Concierge service.

Her company has helped thousands of singles meet meaningful matches digitally, and her advice has been featured in more than 500 international media outlets, including the New York Times, Good Morning America, The Steve Harvey Show, Forbes, Elle, Mens Health, and the Wall Street Journal.

She has been nominated Best Dating Coach two years in a row at the iDate Awards.

And Laurie wrote the best-selling book, Love @ First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating.

She is married to her tweetheart, who she eFlirted with in 140 characters on Twitter.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

When you stop dating the relationship ends.

This guiding principle is important to both her and her husband.

They try to make it feel like they are still dating all the time. It makes sure that they are connecting.

Laurie and her husband actually play 20 questions with each other to keep things fresh.

When You Tripped Up

Laurie and her husband, Thomas, started their relationship long distance, and then right after they got engaged they lived long distance again.

But they failed to treat the second go round of long distance dating in the mindful way they did the first time.

Then they realized that just because they had been together several years when the second round of a long distance relationship showed up, it was still just as important to use their skills at mindfully being in a long distance relationship.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Early on in Laurie’s dating life she definitely had a “type.”

Her “DUH” moment was that she was dating the same guy type over and over and none of them were working out.

Turns out her husband is nothing like the “type” she thought was perfect for her.

Proudest moment in partnership

Laurie’s proudest moment in partnership is right now as she and her husband move to Los Angeles.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

No relationship is perfect. It is actually perfect in the imperfections.

And you are never wasting time because you are learning about love.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Payoff of Partnership -

Laurie knows she is so much stronger because of her relationship with her husband. She would not be where she is in her life and her career at this point without the power of their partnership.

Interview Links -

www.eflirtexpert.com

Laurie's Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Defending your Yes

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 06 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Follow Your “Yes” Friday is for you.

It is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Roy Biancalana

Not Following -

Roy tells a great story of when he broke up with a woman and got back together with her for the wrong reason and the very powerful example of what happens when you don’t follow your “Yes”.

Following -

He followed his “Yes” with his wife and it was scary. But he knew it was his “Yes” even though he was terrified of how his wife would respond.

Ultimately, it brought them closer.

Listen to Roy’s full interview here

Connect with Roy -

www.coachingwithroy.com

A Drink with Legs: From Being Hooked to Being Happy--A Spiritual Path to Relationship Bliss

Email Roy at roy@coachingwithroy.com and he will send you an electronic version of his book “A Drink With Legs” for FREE

Roy’s Facebook Page

Marni Battista

Not Following -

Marni has a series of emails where she was saying it wasn’t a good idea, but the person she was emailing told her it was just a limiting belief and she caved. She did not defend her “Yes” and it ended up being an “epic disaster.”

But when it came to following her “Yes” regarding her team she trusted her “Yes” and fought for it because it was on the behalf of someone else. Big lesson.

Following -

Marni was hiring some folks and this woman was so nice and trying so hard, but they were not a match and she knew it in her gut. So she let this person go and she has never regretted it.

Listen to Marni's full interview here

Connect with Marni -

www.datingwithdignity.com

- FREE e-book

Becoming Irresistible: How to Effortlessly Have Men Pursue You, Treat You Like a Goddess, and Commit to You for Life

Marni’s Facebook Page

Marni Battista – Beyond wishing and wanting

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 04 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

She was a guest co-host on Dr. Drew Pinskys Loveline show, and Marni was called LAs best dating coach after her appearance on On Air with Ryan Seacrest.

More importantly, as a divorcee for more than five years, Marni truly understands what it feels like to be lonely and sick of wasting time on dates with men that go nowhere.

Get your FREE BOOK - How to Find a High-Quality Guy without Going on 200 Dates

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Don’t let fear get in the way of your biggest dream, even if your biggest dream is your biggest fear.

She recognized she needed to do something beyond wishing and wanting.

When You Tripped Up

Marni was a nursery school teacher before she started her business. And she made her professional relationships very personal with employees and vendors alike.

She avoided being a leader in her business by trying to be their best friend.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Marni was dating the man who is now her husband when he called her and said he couldn’t marry her.

Her “DUH” moment was when she realized that leaning into her feminine was the best way to handle this situation.

Proudest moment in partnership

Marni started exploring what “unconditional love” really means.

She tells us a story she has never told anyone before about what it would take to inspire her husband to be who she wanted him to be.

They took a major step into partnership by leaping into not knowing and being committed to trying to figure it out.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Just because you don’t pay what you want, doesn’t mean that they are right.

Looking at the energetic expense will reveal the true cost.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“a brilliant book about vulnerability, shame, resilience &emotional intelligence”

When She Makes More: The Truth About Navigating Love and Life for a New Generation of Women

Payoff of Partnership -

Marni partnered with an organization called Just Like My Child Foundation and the Girl Power Project in Uganda, Africa.

Because she partnered with something that she really cared about, it opened a whole treasure chest of payoffs for her and her entire family and it is making an impact globally.

Interview Links -

www.datingwithdignity.com

- FREE e-book

Becoming Irresistible: How to Effortlessly Have Men Pursue You, Treat You Like a Goddess, and Commit to You for Life

Marni’s Facebook Page

Roy Biancalana – Your relationship results are up to you

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 02 May 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Roy Biancalana is a certified relationship coach, a TV personality in Orlando, Florida.

He is the author of two books, including the #1 best-seller, Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers that Keep You Single.

For the past 10 years, Roy’s mission has been supporting single people in the art of attracting and creating conscious, lasting relationships.

You can learn more about him by visiting, www.coachingwithroy.com.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Life partners make lousy life sources.

This is pretty much the opposite of the famous “You complete me” quote from the movie Jerry McGuire.

When You Tripped Up

Roy bravely tells of when he was living a double life. He was a professional golfer and had a wife and family in Florida and a mistress and neither knew about the other until one day…

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

The day Roy realize he was addicted to relationships was his “DUH” moment. He had been in a relationship every single day since he was 16 and he was now in his 40’s.

He was basically held prisoner by this addiction.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Roy married his current wife he knew he was finally in a relationship based on the desire to be together, but he did not need her to complete him.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Shift from a blame consciousness to a responsibility consciousness.

Take full responsibility for your relationship results.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

- A great spiritual growth book

The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

- A great relationship book

Intimate Communion: Awakening Your Sexual Essence

Payoff of Partnership -

Relationships are mirrors. So the payoff of an honest partnership is your partner can mirror to you your blind spots better than anyone.

Interview Links -

www.coachingwithroy.com

Email Roy at roy@coachingwithroy.com and he will send you an electronic version of his book “A Drink With Legs” for FREE

Roy’s Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Stay on point with your Yes

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 29 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Follow Your “Yes” Friday is about you.

It is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Duana Welch

Not Following -

Before she was married, Duana was dating a guy who was great and she was falling in love with. They went away on a romantic weekend trip and he proposed. She said Yes and her gut immediately said No!

And she felt like she couldn’t take it back.

Her mind convinced her that because of past experiences she was just scared.

But then she started having panic attacks and she had never had them before…

Following -

… Next, she had a dream where she was told not to marry this man, and she finally paid attention to her Yes.

She broke off the engagement, her panic attacks went away and she felt liberated.

Listen to Duana’s full interview here

Connect with Duana -

www.lovefactually.co

www.lovesciencemedia.com

Duana’s Facebook Page

Dr. Diana Kirschner

Not Following -

Dr. Diana felt an intuitive hit to write a book. She had given a writing sample of her book, Love In 90 Days, to a literary agent who came back to her and said “you don’t have a writing bone in your body.” Really it was an example of a negative partnership.

She stopped working on the book as a result of this feedback.

Following -

Dr. Diana followed her Yes and was on the Joan Hamburg radio show in New York City. Another literary agent heard her on the show and offered to help her publish her book, Love In 90 Days.

This agent gave her a great deal of mentoring and it resulted in her book being a best seller. This was the right partnership and required Diana stay on point with her Yes to get the results she did.

Listen to Dr. Diana's full interview here

Connect with Dr. Diana -

www.lovein90days.com

www.lovein90days.com/dating-coach - fill out the form and be sure to put “Ken sent me” at the bottom of the form so Dr. Diana can make sure you get your FREE session.

Dr. Diana’s Facebook Page

Dr. Elsbeth Meuth & Freddy Zental Weaver

Not Following -

When Freddy Zental whispered to Elsbeth not to go on in the direction she was teaching a student. There was a voice in her head saying not to proceed and she did not listen to it or to Freddy Zental.

Looking back it was rather obvious to her. She came away with a reminder to listen to that inner voice no matter how small or quiet it is.

Following -

Freddy Zental had the story he operated from since he was young that he couldn’t sing.

Then he had the idea to present some of their teachings in a show. An edutainment event if you will.

He got a voice coach and now he loves singing and gets paid to sing. (he actually sings for us)

Listen to Elsbeth & Freddy Zental’s full interview here

Connect with Elsbeth & Freddy Zental -

www.tantranova.com

Elsbeth and Freddy Zental’s Facebook Page

Henare O’Brien

Not Following -

Henare was playing basketball professionally and he had everything he ever dreamed of.

But inside of him was a No and outside of him was a Yes. The No inside of him grew so much that he knew he was not on course and he needed to go to his deeper Yes.

When he stopped going for the external accolades of what he thought he needed, he found his internal Yes and what he was here to create while he is here on Earth.

Following -

When the Yes came, it was a “No” cognitively because he was aware of the things he would have to go through to reach his inner Yes. And it did not look like fun.

We need to find the hurt and frightened parts of us that are pretending, that are avoiding and bring them back home to us. So that we become a whole person and not a half person.

Listen to Henare’s full interview here

Connect with Henare -

The Success Principles(TM) - 10th Anniversary Edition: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

www.KateMareeOBrien.com

Henare’s Facebook Page

Henare O’Brien – Eliminating loneliness and sadness

Ken Bechtel — Thu, 28 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Henare O'Brien’s commitment in this world is to guide people to knowing themselves deeply through both spiritual and personal development.

He is committed to this in himself and was led along this path after many years of being disconnected from his truth.

Henare studies and applies every technology available including NLP, Ontology, Landmark Education, Spiritual Teachings and various Success Principles.

He is driven to know and experience the depths of love.

He asks himself, if a man on a cross died while saying “father forgive them for they know not what they do” then could he experience this level of love in himself and share it with others?

He operates from the perspective that only through his own inner growth that he can powerfully support people on their journey.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Never to assume that I know.

We are so conditioned to predict what is going to happen based on our past experiences that we never let ourselves into the uncertainty of what is new.

When You Tripped Up

Henare’s wife, Kate, is stepping into her grand feminine power. This is creating a paradigm shift.

Though it is a “fish out of water” scenario, he is clear that he is learning how to be a co-creator, a co-facilitator, a co-lover and co-husband with the woman he has been with for 11 years.

Proudest moment in partnership

When Henare was able to be fully present with both his wife, Kate, and his sone at the birth of his son.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Henare has created triads outside of his family to support emerging futures that aren’t designed in the past.

They are exploring how to un-conseal a new future that is already there.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

When you are at a point of transformation where you’ve gotta let go, you’ve gotta let go of everything that you’ve learned.

So nothing you have learned will work in that moment of growth.

We get stuck in our personal development because we think we need to hold on to those things.

At some stage you’ve got to let it all go just to go to the next stage. That’s what transformation is.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Inside the person is the goal of the advice they are looking for.

Every question we ask is a deep internal question that needs to be answered by the person asking it.

Best Partnership Book

I Come as a Brother

Payoff of Partnership -

When you give up that you need to present something to the relationship it opens up a space of true connection.

Interview Links -

The Power of Partnership: Seven Relationships that Will Change Your Life

www.KateMareeOBrien.com

Henare’s Facebook Page

Dr. Elsbeth Meuth & Freddy Zental Weaver – Focus on the Belly Breath

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 27 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver have assisted more than ten thousand couples and singles in expanding their love and relationship and rekindling their creative spark over the past two decades.

They are bestselling authors of 'Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy.'

Founders of the TantraNova® Institute in Chicago, they are internationally renowned workshop leaders, relationship and intimacy coaches, as well as, certified Tantra Yoga teachers.

Elsbeth and Freddy Zental lead couples’ retreats for the Young Presidents Organization (YPO) and at Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health in Western Massachusetts.

They were featured on Showtime’s documentary series 'Sexual Healing' and the Emmy Award-winning NBC show Starting Over.

Elsbeth and Freddy Zental are beloveds—life and business partners—and they reside in Chicago.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

They focus on the Belly Breath. Also known as parasympathetic breathing.

When You Tripped Up

A few years ago, Elsbeth and Freddy Zental agreed to explore a more sexually open relationship. Then some rifts started to appear and they were no longer tolerable for Elsbeth.

So she asked that they shift their agreement and totally focus on each other.

They realized that their relationship together took priority over anything else.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

One time, when they were teaching together, Freddy Zental encouraged her not to go where she was going with a student, but she really wanted the student to have a breakthrough so she proceeded. And it did not go so well.

Afterwards, she was aware that she had the sense to listen to Freddy Zental, but disregarded it.

She learned to follow her guy as they have the best of intentions for each other.

Proudest moment in partnership

Doing the work that they do together after 15 years. It is relevant to peace on Earth.

Also, being themselves as models of what is possible in partnership.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Open your heart and be curious. Pose questions as an invitation and explore together.

If you love somebody be curious that the other is an individual too. See the relationship as an opportunity to learn about ourselves.

Best Partnership Book

Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love, and Intimacy

Payoff of Partnership -

Elsbeth has been able to accelerate her life and her work with much greater power than she ever could have by herself.

Freddy Zental - their partnership has enabled him to create what he has that is far beyond what it would have looked like alone.

It is like 1 + 1 = infinity

Interview Links -

www.tantranova.com

Elsbeth and Freddy Zental’s Facebook Page

Dr. Diana Kirschner – Love is available to everyone

Ken Bechtel — Tue, 26 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner starred in the PBS TV Special - Finding Your Own True Love based on her book Love in 90 Days.

She has helped tens of thousands all over the world to create greater self-esteem and more loving relationships through her global Love Mentoring® Program.

Dr. Diana’s latest book is "The Diamond Self Secret: Say Goodbye to Your Inner Critic & Hello to Self-Acceptance, Serenity, & Lasting Love."

Dr. Diana’s website, http://www.Lovein90Days.com is a leading source of dating and relationship advice.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

You can’t just do it all by yourself. Mentorship is the key to success. Both receiving it and giving it away to others.

When You Tripped Up

When she met her husband in a Phd program and it was “compete at first sight.” She almost drove him away by being competitive and argumentative.

And Dr. Diana’s definition of a Soul Mate. It is very different from extreme chemistry.

Proudest moment in partnership

Creating a Soul Mate relationship with her husband with the help of a love mentor. And getting to do her PBS special on finding true love.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

She and her husband are each other’s secret weapon. And her partnership with the team of expert love mentors she has available through her website.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Diana was the fifth of five girls born into a family that really wanted boys. She used to cry as a child about being a disappointment.

Getting beyond the wounds and pains of her childhood was her “DUH” moment. Recognizing that just because she was not born into love doesn’t mean it is not available to you.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Go to someone who is living the dream you want to live and ask them to help you.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

For a limited time get a FREE 40 minute consult with one of Dr. Diana’s love mentor coaches.

Go to www.lovein90days.com/dating-coach, and fill out the form.

Be sure to put “Ken sent me” at the bottom of the form so Dr. Diana can make sure you get your FREE session.

Payoff of Partnership -

Because of the partnership she had with her love mentor and her husband, she has been able to help tens of thousands of people all over the world find and develop self love and create lasting passionate love with a partner.

These partnerships have supported her in sending love around the world.

Interview Links -

www.lovein90days.com

Dr. Diana’s Facebook Page

Duana Welch – Get your “picker” fixed

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 25 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Duana (DWAY-nah) Welch is known for applying social science to people's real-life relationship issues.

She is the author of Love Factually, the first book that uses science rather than opinion to take men and women from before they meet until they decide whether to commit.

She has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas, and she writes for publications at Psychology Today, eHarmony, and others. She also coaches men and women who want more love in their lives, via Skype and at her office in downtown Eugene, Oregon.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

If you can find and be someone kind and respectful your love life will go great. And if you can’t it won’t.

Before you make a commitment to a partnership it is about how similar you are.

After you make the commitment it is about how kind and respectful you are.

When You Tripped Up

Her picker was broken.

Dr. Duana would get stars in her eyes even when there was a deal breaker from the onset. But she didn’t want to look too closely at that.

And she would get pretty deeply involved and then figure it out. By that time it absolutely ripped her heart apart to have to leave.

This story we can all relate to.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Duana found in her research on relationship science that what she was doing in her relationships, was the exact thing that tells men not to take her seriously.

Her “DUH” moment was realizing that she can value herself and be valued. And that can extend all the way to the bedroom.

Proudest moment in partnership

When her husband suggested they move to a state where she could teach again.

This was a huge sacrifice for him, and it showed the level of commitment he had to being a partnership.

He is her hero.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

No surprise here, it is her partnership with her husband. Both what she has been able to do in her life and what he has been able to do is exciting.

Diana’s partnership with her husband has allowed her to stop focussing her feelings of security or insecurity. Instead she is able to work from a bedrock or secure relating so she can live the best life she can live.

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What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Turn towards your partner rather than away. It’s what happens in the small moments of partnership that create the overall feeling.

Best Partnership Book

- If you have not picked a partner yet

Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do

- If you are already in a committed relationship.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Payoff of Partnership -

Duana was able to create her blog and her book and return to teaching. Then being able to leave that career and build a new life all because of the partnership she is in with her husband. Knowing they support each other’s dreams.

Interview Links -

www.lovefactually.co

www.lovesciencemedia.com

Duana’s Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – Make life a Yes to Yes experience

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 22 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Follow Your “Yes” Friday is about you...

...taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.

Enjoy!

Courtney Walsh

Not Following -

Courtney had a friend/roommate/business partner who admitted that she didn’t want to live together, she wanted to work together. And Courtney admitted that she didn’t want to work together, she wanted to be roommates and friends.

Owning this was very beautiful for two people pleasers to admit

Following -

She follows her “Yes” daily in her everyday activities, so it is hard to pull one out.

The biggest one is continuing to follow her “Yes” that she is a writer and author and speaker and that is who she is.

Her life is a Yes to Yes experience.

Listen to Courtney’s full interview here

Connect with Courtney -

www.squeezingthestars.com

www.dear-human.com

Courtney’s Facebook Page

Arielle Ford

Not Following -

Arielle always follows her intuition - always, but there was one time when her husband…

Following -

She literally follows her “Yes” or intuition every day.

For example, Arielle had a proposal to write for someone and did not want to do it. So she came up with an excuse and then another. Finally, she wrote to the woman to apologize for not doing it yet and heard back that the proposal was no longer needed.

Listen to Arielle's full interview here

Connect with Arielle -

www.soulmatesecret.com - Download the first 3 chapters of her new book for FREE

www.thelovesummit.com

Arielle’s Facebook Page

Kate O’Brien

Not Following -

She was offered a government contract several years ago that would pay very well but she was not excited about the process it required. She delivered the contract, but did not look forward to delivering any of the sessions. It felt heavy…like this was not where she wanted to be.

Following -

The first time she traveled to Bali she got an overwhelming sensation in her body to move to Bali from New Zealand.

Fortunately she paid attention to this door opening and took action before her old patterns pulled the door closed.

Listen to both parts of Kate’s interview here -

Part 1

Part 2

Connect with Kate -

Spiritual Partnership: The Journey to Authentic Power

www.GameChanger-women.com - get your FREE 30-day video program here

Kate’s Facebook Page

Kate O’Brien – Choose the learning and growth – Part two

Ken Bechtel — Thu, 21 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Just a few years ago, Kate O’Brien let go of a thriving career in healthcare, to pursue her life calling of empowering billions globally by combining heart and strategy.

She founded GameChangerLive, her 2-day highly acclaimed transformational workshop which is run through Australasia & South East Asia, and her three month advanced breakthrough program, GameChanger High Performance.

Alongside her husband Henare, she co-founded the GameChanger Global Summit, an annual event connecting the top thought leaders of our generation. On her stage, she attracts luminary greats such as Jack Canfield, John Gray, Brendon Burchard, Marci Shimoff and many, many more.

Kate navigates her roles of mother, wife, spiritual partner, coach, speaker and author with a huge amount of commitment and love.

She commits each day to stepping up further & further into her highest potential and use the gifts she was given to make a difference on the planet.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Have an agreement for why you are together.

We put so much conscious thought into a business partnership, but rarely do this for our romantic partnerships.

Best Partnership Book

Payoff of Partnership -

She and her husband would never have been able to get to the level they are now without being in partnership in their business.

Interview Links -

www.GameChanger-women.com - get your FREE 30-day video program here

Kate’s Facebook Page

Kate O’Brien – Choose the learning and growth – Part one

Ken Bechtel — Wed, 20 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Just a few years ago, Kate O’Brien let go of a thriving career in healthcare, to pursue her life calling of empowering billions globally by combining heart and strategy.

Kate navigates her roles of mother, wife, spiritual partner, coach, speaker and author with a huge amount of commitment and love.

She commits each day to stepping up further & further into her highest potential and use the gifts she was given to make a difference on the planet.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

Everything that is showing up for Kate in the moment, is there for her growth. And she is actively choosing this moment to moment. Choosing the learning and the growth that is present.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

After dating her husband for roughly a year they very consciously had to choose if they were going to continue in their relationship knowing full well that they triggered each other very deeply at times, and raise up their relationship and heal the very deepest parts of themselves.

Or do they separate and go and find an easier relationship. Knowing they are also taking with them their parts that have been unhealed.

Proudest moment in partnership

This is a selfishly proud moment. One day she looked at her husband, Henare, and what she saw was her best friend. And knew she wanted to support his dreams. Support for each other’s dreams has become the platform for their relationship together.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

For the first time, she and her husband are owning their unique voices in the work they do in the world.

And this triggers fears around holding space for who they are in this new expression. So as exciting as this new level of partnership is, it still has its challenges that Kate and Henare have conversations around on a daily basis.

This is all part of being in a relationship that is committed to expansion.

Interview Links -

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

www.GameChanger-women.com - get your FREE 30-day video program here

Kate’s Facebook Page

Arielle Ford – Have a conversation with your toothpaste

Ken Bechtel — Tue, 19 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Arielle Ford is a love and relationship expert and a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement.

For the past 25 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media.

She is a speaker, a blogger for the Huffington Post and the producer and host of Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love series.

Arielle is a gifted writer and the author of ten books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction.

And her latest book is Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.

She has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love.”

She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

It’s a both/and world. It is both the way you say it is AND the way I say it is.

How many irreconcilable differences to you think married couples have? Arielle shares with us what research has found about this.

When You Tripped Up

As a first time bride at 44 years of age, Arielle realized she had no partnership skills. What she was really good at was being the boss and telling people what to do.

She had no idea that a masculine operating man was not interested in being told what to do. This is a great story.

What she learned is that marriage really is a place to heal all your childhood wounds.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Arielle believed that the proper way to squeeze a tube of toothpaste is from the bottom up. Her husband is very different.

Several times a day she would have negative, judgmental thoughts about her husband because of this.

So she had a conversation with the tube of toothpaste and it changed everything. Listen to this…

Proudest moment in partnership

When shortly after her husband, Brian, had attended one of her talks, he applied what she taught at the event.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Her annual free Art of Love Series where she interviews the world’s top love experts.

This year is focused on Single Successful Women Looking for a Conscious Man

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Be kind. Be kind, compassionate and considerate.

Your partner did not wake up thinking how could I make my partner miserable today? What could I do to ruin their day?

[spp-tweet tweet="Shift your perception from annoyed to enjoyed."]

Best Partnership Book

Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide to Happily Ever After

Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships

Payoff of Partnership -

The last 18 years of her life, since she and her husband got together, have been amazing in ways that were totally unpredictable.

This includes having doubled her income without having to work any harder.

Interview Links -

www.soulmatesecret.com - Download the first 3 chapters of her new book for FREE

www.thelovesummit.com

Arielle’s Facebook Page

Courtney Walsh – have your own back

Ken Bechtel — Mon, 18 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Courtney Walsh has been called a social media rockstar.

She is an author of metaphysical humor, an internationally renowned speaker and the writer of the “Dear Human” viral media meme that has now been shared with over 20 million people including on Deepak Chopra’s and Elizabeth Gilbert’s pages as well as retweeted by Khloe Kardashian and radio personality Delilah.

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

It is a partnership of energies. And it’s a partnership of frequencies. A partnership of our patterns of pain and our desires. And how those things all dance and show up together.

When You Tripped Up

When Courtney was younger she would bottle her emotions up in her relationships and then just walk away. She was not asking for what she wanted or needed because she didn’t think she could have it.

The trip up was not being true to herself.

She is excited to have now recognized this pattern so she can shift out of it.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

Courtney’s “DUH” was recognizing the healing power of speaking her mind even thought it can be incredibly awkward sometimes.

When she partners with herself and has her own back and is clear about her needs everything works better.

Proudest moment in partnership

Courtney’s shares with us about her relationship with her Mom.

She now has the Mom she always wanted as a child and as a teen and as a young woman, but it took 40 years to get there.

The proudest moment was a reunion luncheon the two of them had where they realized they were no longer at odds with each other. Now they are each other’s cheerleaders and supporters.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Courtney’s partnership between her and her writing is very exciting. It never lets her down.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

It’s OK to walk away from a scenario that isn’t feeling good more than it’s feeling bad.

Spirit has to be front and center in the relationship.

Best Partnership Book

Dear Human: A Manifesto of Love, Invitation and Invocation to Humanity

Payoff of Partnership -

The incredible journey of Dear Human from a meme to a book over many years and countless partnerships.

Interview Links -

www.squeezingthestars.com

www.dear-human.com

Courtney’s Facebook Page

Follow Your “Yes” Friday – The full body YES and much more…

Ken Bechtel — Fri, 15 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Follow Your “Yes” Friday is about you...

...taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week.

On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided Dr. , not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week.

Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy!

Joanna Kennedy

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Joanna had some very clear hits that things weren’t right with her relationship prior to her marriage. He was Prince Charming, and that made it even harder to listen to her “Yes.” Ultimately two really good people are divorced just 4 years after they were married because they weren’t paying attention.

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In her current love relationship she found her mind was questioning it, but when she checked in with her body and spirit has continually said yes. And it has been a profound opportunity to experience partnership in its truest form.

Listen to Joanna’s full interview here

Connect with Joanna -

www.thepathofintimacy.com

Joanna’s Facebook Page

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Not Following -

As a young mother with a couple of kids she had a very clear “Yes” that she needed to write. She went to a woman she knew who had a very successful career and told her, and this woman made fun of her and Rhoberta shut down and she didn’t write for years.

Following -

As her youngest child was finishing school she got a “Yes” that she could do anything she wanted. All the things she did on weekends could become her life. Was it a risk, yes. But she followed that “Yes” and quit her job.

And very shortly was living in San Diego living that dream.

Listen to Rhoberta's full interview here

Connect with Rhoberta -

www.hijackals.com

www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

Rhoberta’s Facebook Page

Gay Hendricks

Not Following -

Gay was considering a business proposition and when he tuned into it he got a Yes, but he also got a niggle about one of the partners. His mind was saying Yes, but something in his body was not liking it.

Gay overlooked the niggle and it ended up costing him a lot of hassles and time in meetings he would rather not attend and ultimately the whole thing tanked.

Following -

Now he looks for a full body Yes.

In 1980 when he met Katie, he had just gotten out of a relationship. And when he met her he said to her, “I only want relationships where both people are committed to telling the truth and…

It worked so well, they have been together now for 36 years and counting.

Listen to Alison’s full interview here

Connect with Gay -

www.hendricks.com

Gay’s Facebook Page

Gay Hendricks – Your zone of genius impacts partnership – Part two

Ken Bechtel — Thu, 14 Apr 2016 07:00:00 -0500

Part 2 of episode #24...

Proudest moment in partnership

Gay had the idea for the Spiritual Cinema Circle in a meditation. He immediately acted on it and because it came from a place of pure consciousness, the putting it together was so easy.

And it benefited so many people over the years. This story will amaze you.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

His partnership with his wife, Katie, is the most exciting partnership he has. Listen to the beautiful thing he told her this morning.

Also his business partnership with SuperMindApps.com creating transformational apps.

And his partnership with his personal trainer, Patrick Lee, which is a partnership with Gay’s health.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

“The best deals you ever do are the ones you don’t do.” - Jerry Jones

Often times it is the things you say no to that are responsible for your success more than the things you say yes to.

Best Partnership Book

The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level