<![CDATA[Stop Hating Dating and Find Your Person]]>473dafe3-0b8c-56c9-bd51-d07d0b665de1Fri, 23 Feb 2024 09:00:17 +0000Captivate.fmStacy Perryhttps://artwork.captivate.fm/b4e6c766-9d5f-41d3-9d11-bca4f22a9a38/PkQfRGzDSa46OFVID85T5U2B.jpegStop Hating Dating and Find Your PersonStacy PerryStacy Perry"Stop Hating Dating and Find Your Person is your go to resource for learning to confidently show up for yourself and interact in a way that’s authentic to you AND gets you the relationship you want. Each week Certified Life Coach Stacy Perry will share wisdom from her and her client’s dating experiences—along with mind hacks, tools, and techniques from life coaching, neuroscience, and cognitive psychology. If you’re ready to learn the skills and mindsets to make dating and finding your person easier, more fun, and without all the unnecessary drama and BS - this podcast is for you!"https://stop-hating-dating.captivate.fmfalseepisodicnopodcastEP 44 Dating Like a SciFi Movie (End of Season 1 of the Podcast)EP 44 Dating Like a SciFi Movie (End of Season 1 of the Podcast)Today we’re playing with a metaphor for you finding your person. You are the heroine in this SciFi movie and get your guy! I’ll show you the eight ways you’d show up as the heroine for yourself and your future person. And the seven things you don’t need to do. 

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]]>Today we’re playing with a metaphor for you finding your person. You are the heroine in this SciFi movie and get your guy! I’ll show you the eight ways you’d show up as the heroine for yourself and your future person. And the seven things you don’t need to do. 

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]]>21f12e40-8c4c-42c3-9068-2992fe3f49edFri, 23 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -060007:06falsefull4444Stacy PerryEP 43 How to be More SecureEP 43 How to be More SecureHave you ever asked yourself, “Why am I still single?” I know I did. And I asked myself a lot of other messed up questions that my brain went and gave me a zillion answers for that made me feel terrible.

We’re talking about attachment styles and how to move from insecure attachment styles to a more secure attachment style.

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]]>Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I still single?” I know I did. And I asked myself a lot of other messed up questions that my brain went and gave me a zillion answers for that made me feel terrible.

We’re talking about attachment styles and how to move from insecure attachment styles to a more secure attachment style.

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]]>d2576005-01d9-4644-9494-d295f2e82275Fri, 16 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -060019:00falsefull4343Stacy PerryEP 42 Love vs Romantic Love, Feeling Love, & a Little VDay MessageEP 42 Love vs Romantic Love, Feeling Love, & a Little VDay MessageEver really ponder what the heck is the difference between love and romantic love? Why we fall in or and out of love? What makes us feel loved? Well let’s ponder it together today in this episode!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • Where our feelings of love really come from
  • Why it is actually possible to feel love for someone we hardly know
  • What’s key in a long term romantic loving partnership
  • And a few thoughts on Valentine’s Day

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]]>Ever really ponder what the heck is the difference between love and romantic love? Why we fall in or and out of love? What makes us feel loved? Well let’s ponder it together today in this episode!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • Where our feelings of love really come from
  • Why it is actually possible to feel love for someone we hardly know
  • What’s key in a long term romantic loving partnership
  • And a few thoughts on Valentine’s Day

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]]>0ec13e56-d301-4314-a202-9a489f735151Fri, 09 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -060015:57falsefull4242Stacy PerryEP 41 Why am I Still Single?EP 41 Why am I Still Single?Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I still single?” I know I did. And I asked myself a lot of other messed up questions that my brain went and gave me a zillion answers for that made me feel terrible.

In today’s episode you’ll learn to spot these questions and turn them around in a way that will gets you answers that actually help you find your person and make you feel better!

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]]>Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I still single?” I know I did. And I asked myself a lot of other messed up questions that my brain went and gave me a zillion answers for that made me feel terrible.

In today’s episode you’ll learn to spot these questions and turn them around in a way that will gets you answers that actually help you find your person and make you feel better!

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]]>16f028f2-a253-43ea-9c5b-576362b079a0Fri, 02 Feb 2024 03:00:00 -060013:10falsefull4141Stacy PerryEp 40 Lessons in Love from Sundance Film FestivalEp 40 Lessons in Love from Sundance Film FestivalLessons in love, dating and finding our person are all around us!

In today’s episode I’m sharing insights from films at this year’s Sundance Film Festival:

  • No matter how confident, successful, rich, secure, brilliant, or beautiful you are - we all get anxious and nervous sometimes
  • Take the risk to be you - you have to show yourself so your person can find you
  • Part of all of our evolutions is getting comfortable with our truth
  • Your weight is the least interesting thing about you

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]]>Lessons in love, dating and finding our person are all around us!

In today’s episode I’m sharing insights from films at this year’s Sundance Film Festival:

  • No matter how confident, successful, rich, secure, brilliant, or beautiful you are - we all get anxious and nervous sometimes
  • Take the risk to be you - you have to show yourself so your person can find you
  • Part of all of our evolutions is getting comfortable with our truth
  • Your weight is the least interesting thing about you

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]]>6b183eb6-37cc-47ab-95a5-24a8b392722cFri, 26 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -060011:05falsefull4040Stacy PerryEP 39 - Ugh! Help! I hate first dates!EP 39 - Ugh! Help! I hate first dates!Have you ever been getting ready for a first date or on your way to a first date and thought to yourself, “Bet this will be another waste of my time.” Or, “Blech, I’m so not in the mood for this.” Or maybe the opposite, “This better be the one - I can’t take it anymore! Where are they???” Or maybe you’re you think, “I’m probably just going to get let down again.”

No matter what your thoughts and frustration with first dates, I’ve got you in today’s episode. We’re talking about the number one way to have better first dates.

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]]>Have you ever been getting ready for a first date or on your way to a first date and thought to yourself, “Bet this will be another waste of my time.” Or, “Blech, I’m so not in the mood for this.” Or maybe the opposite, “This better be the one - I can’t take it anymore! Where are they???” Or maybe you’re you think, “I’m probably just going to get let down again.”

No matter what your thoughts and frustration with first dates, I’ve got you in today’s episode. We’re talking about the number one way to have better first dates.

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]]>95e130a0-5c53-46de-8ec0-3452ae2f3b2dFri, 19 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -060016:06falsefull3939Stacy PerryEP 38 How to shift back into being the hero and warrior of your story - even if your year is off to a bumpy startEP 38 How to shift back into being the hero and warrior of your story - even if your year is off to a bumpy startYou know how it’s so fun to dream of finding your partner and sharing our life, but then when it comes down to actually doing the things, you can feel unmotivated or scared or doubtful and put it off?

In today’s episode I’m giving you a couple great reminders on how to think about when your resolutions or dating feels off to an imperfect start this year. And an amazing way to look at last year and this year to have you embodying the hero and warrior you are!!!!!

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]]>You know how it’s so fun to dream of finding your partner and sharing our life, but then when it comes down to actually doing the things, you can feel unmotivated or scared or doubtful and put it off?

In today’s episode I’m giving you a couple great reminders on how to think about when your resolutions or dating feels off to an imperfect start this year. And an amazing way to look at last year and this year to have you embodying the hero and warrior you are!!!!!

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]]>304866da-1aa7-4073-9df8-f93fe3a95d34Fri, 12 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -060011:58falsefull3838Stacy PerryEP 37 What I Like About YouEP 37 What I Like About YouHappy New Year! No matter if you have new years resolutions or not - this episode is for you to get crystal clear about what you like, want you want, and why you do!

If you want more of what you want and like in the New Year - start listening now! :)

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]]>Happy New Year! No matter if you have new years resolutions or not - this episode is for you to get crystal clear about what you like, want you want, and why you do!

If you want more of what you want and like in the New Year - start listening now! :)

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]]>d7e70a73-1b80-49e1-849f-6b4f070e403dFri, 05 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -060020:56falsefull3737Stacy PerryEP 36 Determined to Find LoveEP 36 Determined to Find LoveWhat if your motto for dating and finding love in the New Year was DETERMINED?

Well, determined is my word for 2024 and in today’s podcast we’re talking about why you might want rock some determination this year when it comes to finding your person!

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]]>What if your motto for dating and finding love in the New Year was DETERMINED?

Well, determined is my word for 2024 and in today’s podcast we’re talking about why you might want rock some determination this year when it comes to finding your person!

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]]>c4c8ea0b-0ca0-4d15-a2bb-b8edda3d8012Fri, 29 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -060010:03falsefull3636Stacy PerryEP 35 The four keys to navigate the holidays, dating life, & future relationship too 🔑 🔑 🔑 🔑EP 35 The four keys to navigate the holidays, dating life, & future relationship too 🔑 🔑 🔑 🔑Just like dating, the holidays can bring up ALL kinds of feelings for us!

No matter if the holidays have you feeling all merry and bright, or frightful, or anxious, or sad, or guilty…or some uncomfortable swirl of these emotions…this episode is my gift to you! 😘🎁

The same keys to navigating the holidays, will also serve you dating, and in your future relationship.

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]]>Just like dating, the holidays can bring up ALL kinds of feelings for us!

No matter if the holidays have you feeling all merry and bright, or frightful, or anxious, or sad, or guilty…or some uncomfortable swirl of these emotions…this episode is my gift to you! 😘🎁

The same keys to navigating the holidays, will also serve you dating, and in your future relationship.

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]]>cbf55df4-3366-454c-9cda-ac14a27c6f0bFri, 22 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -060027:19falsefull3535Stacy PerryEP 34 Red Flags 🚩🚩🚩EP 34 Red Flags 🚩🚩🚩We get so much messaging on social media about red flags! Focusing on red flags can make dating feel very scary for some of us and cause us to second guess ourselves!

So today we’re going to talk about how red flags are personal to you - they're about what you want and don’t want in your relationship. And the top skills to focus on instead. :)

LINKS TO EPISODES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

EP 1 The High Five Relationship - Skill: Getting clear on what you want and don’t want in your relationship 

EP 14 Who’s Got Your Back? - Skill: Not beating yourself up for missing signs and red flags

EP 16 Skill: The Gift of Boundaries - Skill: Boundaries

EP 24 Skill: People Pleasing

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]]>We get so much messaging on social media about red flags! Focusing on red flags can make dating feel very scary for some of us and cause us to second guess ourselves!

So today we’re going to talk about how red flags are personal to you - they're about what you want and don’t want in your relationship. And the top skills to focus on instead. :)

LINKS TO EPISODES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

EP 1 The High Five Relationship - Skill: Getting clear on what you want and don’t want in your relationship 

EP 14 Who’s Got Your Back? - Skill: Not beating yourself up for missing signs and red flags

EP 16 Skill: The Gift of Boundaries - Skill: Boundaries

EP 24 Skill: People Pleasing

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]]>a7d1d5c6-7829-418f-9b94-add4c3a46239Fri, 15 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -060013:13falsefull3434Stacy PerryEP 33 Ugh - Dating Shouldn't Be this Hard!EP 33 Ugh - Dating Shouldn't Be this Hard!Does your brain tell you it shouldn’t be this hard and is taking too long? And the fact that it is this hard, must mean there is something terribly wrong with the state of dating and/or you.

Yah, that was me too.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • Why it makes sense that we think dating is too hard and takes too long
  • How the experience of dating can actually catapult us into who we want to be.
  • Ways of thinking about dating that build you up rather than take you down.

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]]>Does your brain tell you it shouldn’t be this hard and is taking too long? And the fact that it is this hard, must mean there is something terribly wrong with the state of dating and/or you.

Yah, that was me too.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • Why it makes sense that we think dating is too hard and takes too long
  • How the experience of dating can actually catapult us into who we want to be.
  • Ways of thinking about dating that build you up rather than take you down.

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]]>017a3660-b736-41be-bfdf-bccf52c5b2e3Fri, 08 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -060014:45falsefull3333Stacy PerryEP 32 I Just Feel Too Fat to Date Right NowEP 32 I Just Feel Too Fat to Date Right NowDo you just not feel your best right now and are “weighting” until you drop a couple pounds before you put yourself out there and date?

Wanting to wait until you feel fitter is one of the top reasons woman aren’t dating even though they really want a great partner to share life with.

In today’s episode we’re going to explore why so many of us feel this way, including past me, and how to think differently to remove this block to us finding love.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • Why it makes sense that we have negative thoughts and feelings about our bodies and our attractiveness.
  • How we think having the “perfect” body will protect us from being hurt.
  • How appearance is just a tiny piece of relationships and what pieces really make up a thriving relationship
  • New ways to think and feel about your relationship with your body and dating.

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]]>Do you just not feel your best right now and are “weighting” until you drop a couple pounds before you put yourself out there and date?

Wanting to wait until you feel fitter is one of the top reasons woman aren’t dating even though they really want a great partner to share life with.

In today’s episode we’re going to explore why so many of us feel this way, including past me, and how to think differently to remove this block to us finding love.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • Why it makes sense that we have negative thoughts and feelings about our bodies and our attractiveness.
  • How we think having the “perfect” body will protect us from being hurt.
  • How appearance is just a tiny piece of relationships and what pieces really make up a thriving relationship
  • New ways to think and feel about your relationship with your body and dating.

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]]>e0535536-e0eb-4d97-8a56-5965da5fec54Fri, 01 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -060019:09falsefull3232Stacy PerryEp 31 Becoming an Emotional Intelligence Rockstar! 🎸Ep 31 Becoming an Emotional Intelligence Rockstar! 🎸Want to be able to better handle the challenges of dating, feel more connected to yourself, be able to self regulate and show up authentically with your future partner? This episode is for you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • 8 reasons why you want to be an emotions rockstar!
  • How rocking all our emotions is a key to living our best lives and meeting your person
  • How all emotions, even the “bad” ones, are the key to a full amazing love life.

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]]>Want to be able to better handle the challenges of dating, feel more connected to yourself, be able to self regulate and show up authentically with your future partner? This episode is for you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • 8 reasons why you want to be an emotions rockstar!
  • How rocking all our emotions is a key to living our best lives and meeting your person
  • How all emotions, even the “bad” ones, are the key to a full amazing love life.

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]]>5ab07deb-ca4c-49a2-b809-0aa8a7e554fcFri, 24 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -060016:55falsefull3131Stacy PerryEp 30 How to keep your past relationships, or lack of, from blocking you from meeting your personEp 30 How to keep your past relationships, or lack of, from blocking you from meeting your personDo you have thoughts about your old relationships pop into your head all the time and think you’re doomed to repeat the past? Do you think because you’ve never had a thriving amazing relationship, or any relationships, that means you never will? Me too, I had lots of these thoughts.

Today I’m going to show you a way to start shifting your thinking so it doesn’t block you from meeting your person.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • How it’s totally normal to think about our relationship history and make it mean we won’t get the relationship we want
  • How to neutralize them so they don’t get in your way of finding your person
  • A specific four step process to start to shift your thinking so you can get the meet your guy.

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]]>Do you have thoughts about your old relationships pop into your head all the time and think you’re doomed to repeat the past? Do you think because you’ve never had a thriving amazing relationship, or any relationships, that means you never will? Me too, I had lots of these thoughts.

Today I’m going to show you a way to start shifting your thinking so it doesn’t block you from meeting your person.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • How it’s totally normal to think about our relationship history and make it mean we won’t get the relationship we want
  • How to neutralize them so they don’t get in your way of finding your person
  • A specific four step process to start to shift your thinking so you can get the meet your guy.

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]]>960a7830-10df-427f-8b44-fa266fafb532Fri, 17 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -060016:13falsefull3030Stacy PerryEP 29 How to Build Your ConfidenceEP 29 How to Build Your ConfidenceWho doesn’t want more confidence?

In todays episode we are talking about how to think about and how to dial it up!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • The three key parts of you and how they can work together to build your self confidence
  • Why its important to celebrate your wins
  • Four specific areas to focus on to ramp up your confidence

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]]>Who doesn’t want more confidence?

In todays episode we are talking about how to think about and how to dial it up!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:

  • The three key parts of you and how they can work together to build your self confidence
  • Why its important to celebrate your wins
  • Four specific areas to focus on to ramp up your confidence

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]]>39de1df9-98c2-45f7-a523-11fd7ae50b7aThu, 09 Nov 2023 09:00:00 -060015:10falsefull2929Stacy PerryEp 28 Want a Guy 6' or Taller? Listen to this!Ep 28 Want a Guy 6' or Taller? Listen to this!Do you have your height preferences set at six feet or taller? If you do, you gotta listen to this episode and learn about how keeping your dating parameters at six feet or taller impacts your dating pool. The stats will definitely surprise you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Different thoughts that may be influencing your height preferences
  • Ways society can affect our height preferences
  • Lots of interesting and eye opening stats on single men over six feet tall
  • How dating only guys over six feet tall greatly reduces your dating options - wait until you hear by how much!!!!

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]]>Do you have your height preferences set at six feet or taller? If you do, you gotta listen to this episode and learn about how keeping your dating parameters at six feet or taller impacts your dating pool. The stats will definitely surprise you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Different thoughts that may be influencing your height preferences
  • Ways society can affect our height preferences
  • Lots of interesting and eye opening stats on single men over six feet tall
  • How dating only guys over six feet tall greatly reduces your dating options - wait until you hear by how much!!!!

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]]>0be3f03f-7f08-479d-b79a-32a3be0affacFri, 03 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -060017:53falsefull2828Stacy PerryEP27. Ugh, Ask Me Out Already, Dammit! How to Get Out of App Messaging Hell and on to Your First DateEP27. Ugh, Ask Me Out Already, Dammit! How to Get Out of App Messaging Hell and on to Your First DateI used to get frustrated with the back and forth messaging on the apps that seemed to never end. So today, we’re tackling how to get more first dates from the apps by moving from messaging to real life faster and easier.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • 20 fun playful messages to send to move off the apps on onto your first date!
  • How to set your intentions and beliefs around the apps and finding your person
  • How and why to let go of anyone not interesting getting off the apps and meeting in person

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]]>I used to get frustrated with the back and forth messaging on the apps that seemed to never end. So today, we’re tackling how to get more first dates from the apps by moving from messaging to real life faster and easier.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • 20 fun playful messages to send to move off the apps on onto your first date!
  • How to set your intentions and beliefs around the apps and finding your person
  • How and why to let go of anyone not interesting getting off the apps and meeting in person

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]]>848b378c-2bc4-45d1-9922-a8936acf3befFri, 27 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -060016:27falsefull2727Stacy PerryEP 26 - The Problem with Dating Rules & DietsEP 26 - The Problem with Dating Rules & DietsThere is no one size fits all when it comes to dating, diets, or life in general. You know yourself and what feels good to you more than anyone else. In today’s episode we’re taking a playful look at what dating and diets have in common.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • How creating your own dating rules/protocol can build self trust
  • How some dating rules may have a negative effect on your self image
  • Getting clear on what you’re not willing to do to find your person.
  • How the hard part of dating isn’t the plan, it’s executing the plan when you don’t feel like it.

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]]>There is no one size fits all when it comes to dating, diets, or life in general. You know yourself and what feels good to you more than anyone else. In today’s episode we’re taking a playful look at what dating and diets have in common.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • How creating your own dating rules/protocol can build self trust
  • How some dating rules may have a negative effect on your self image
  • Getting clear on what you’re not willing to do to find your person.
  • How the hard part of dating isn’t the plan, it’s executing the plan when you don’t feel like it.

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]]>535f2170-6db1-4777-bc0f-6e34017fdfe4Fri, 20 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -060018:02falsefull2626Stacy PerryEP 25 - Help, I Like Someone Who’s Not Available!EP 25 - Help, I Like Someone Who’s Not Available!Are you feeling preoccupied and fixated crushing on someone who’s not available? Or a friend you’re scared to tell you have feelings for them? Or someone you went on a couple dates with but still fantasize about? Today’s episode is for you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • How your feelings can help you get crystal clear about what you relationship
  • How this crush can help you see what you don’t want in a relationship
  • The many different ways it may be showing up in your dating life
  • Exploring if you want to share your feelings with them
  • How you’re creating your feelings about them
  • How we sometimes attach what’s possible for us to another person and how that’s not true

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]]>Are you feeling preoccupied and fixated crushing on someone who’s not available? Or a friend you’re scared to tell you have feelings for them? Or someone you went on a couple dates with but still fantasize about? Today’s episode is for you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • How your feelings can help you get crystal clear about what you relationship
  • How this crush can help you see what you don’t want in a relationship
  • The many different ways it may be showing up in your dating life
  • Exploring if you want to share your feelings with them
  • How you’re creating your feelings about them
  • How we sometimes attach what’s possible for us to another person and how that’s not true

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]]>b3c67299-6780-4a96-b4e7-aacafb0cb7f6Fri, 13 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -060017:51falsefull2525Stacy PerryEP 24 How We Protect Ourselves by People Pleasing and How it Backfires When We’re DatingEP 24 How We Protect Ourselves by People Pleasing and How it Backfires When We’re DatingIn today’s episode we are diving into people pleasing and the subtle, and not so subtle, it shows up in your dating life.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • What is people people pleasing
  • Why we do it
  • The many different ways it may be showing up in your dating life
  • How can get in the way of finding your person
  • Actionable tools and exercises to dial down, or even kick, your habit of people pleasing

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]]>In today’s episode we are diving into people pleasing and the subtle, and not so subtle, it shows up in your dating life.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • What is people people pleasing
  • Why we do it
  • The many different ways it may be showing up in your dating life
  • How can get in the way of finding your person
  • Actionable tools and exercises to dial down, or even kick, your habit of people pleasing

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]]>09c0a955-7bf3-44fb-a6fd-7e47e8247a7dFri, 06 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -060015:50falsefull2424Stacy PerryEP 23 Why Guys LieEP 23 Why Guys LieIt can feel really discouraging when you’re on a date, they ask you out for another date, just to never hear from them again. Or they text you after to apologize and cancel the date.

Or to find out someone lied on their profile and they’re actually have four kids and are in the middle of a heated divorce. And they are far from being ready to be in a relationship

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Why people lie
  • What you can do about it
  • What to focus on instead

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]]>It can feel really discouraging when you’re on a date, they ask you out for another date, just to never hear from them again. Or they text you after to apologize and cancel the date.

Or to find out someone lied on their profile and they’re actually have four kids and are in the middle of a heated divorce. And they are far from being ready to be in a relationship

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Why people lie
  • What you can do about it
  • What to focus on instead

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]]>c818c5e9-0cc0-4e10-91c7-a342a22ff8e9Fri, 29 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -060011:03falsefull2323Stacy PerryEP 22 How To Start Believing Your Person Is Out There Looking For You Too.EP 22 How To Start Believing Your Person Is Out There Looking For You Too.When I was dating, I had SO MANY unuseful thoughts about me, my body, my city, and the unlikely chance of me being able to find my person.

I bet you do too.

One of the most important skills for dating and finding your person is learning to stop believing e v e r y t h o u g h t you have and start deciding on purpose what you want to believe.

Believe it or not ;), learning to believe new things is a skill you can build! And I’m gonna show you how in this episode!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • The three main beliefs to practice to get you the relationship you want
  • Four tools to shift your thinking to beliefs that serve you in finding your person
  • 10 ways to practice your new beliefs
  • How to get a free deep dive workbook into believing new things so you can find your person

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]]>When I was dating, I had SO MANY unuseful thoughts about me, my body, my city, and the unlikely chance of me being able to find my person.

I bet you do too.

One of the most important skills for dating and finding your person is learning to stop believing e v e r y t h o u g h t you have and start deciding on purpose what you want to believe.

Believe it or not ;), learning to believe new things is a skill you can build! And I’m gonna show you how in this episode!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • The three main beliefs to practice to get you the relationship you want
  • Four tools to shift your thinking to beliefs that serve you in finding your person
  • 10 ways to practice your new beliefs
  • How to get a free deep dive workbook into believing new things so you can find your person

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]]>93f5bce4-a218-4171-ba41-7da7888fe26bFri, 22 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -060016:39falsefull2222Stacy PerryEp 21: Stop Making Out with Self-DoubtEp 21: Stop Making Out with Self-DoubtYou’re excited to find your person, but those sneaky “what ifs” are always popping up in your head. What if I never find my person. What if it doesn’t happen for me. What if I am too much or not enough.

If you’re dating, you’ve had some of these thoughts. So today we’re diving into self doubt, why it comes up for us while we’re dating, how to master it, and how to minimize its hold you!

WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE:

  • How doubt is a sign you’re growing and evolving, NOT a sign you’re doing it wrong and should quit.
  • Why your primal brain wants you to feel doubt and quit.
  • How getting good at managing your doubt increases your confidence.
  • 8 ways to minimize your self doubt

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]]>You’re excited to find your person, but those sneaky “what ifs” are always popping up in your head. What if I never find my person. What if it doesn’t happen for me. What if I am too much or not enough.

If you’re dating, you’ve had some of these thoughts. So today we’re diving into self doubt, why it comes up for us while we’re dating, how to master it, and how to minimize its hold you!

WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE:

  • How doubt is a sign you’re growing and evolving, NOT a sign you’re doing it wrong and should quit.
  • Why your primal brain wants you to feel doubt and quit.
  • How getting good at managing your doubt increases your confidence.
  • 8 ways to minimize your self doubt

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]]>520b2b2e-bac0-490c-8eed-845f51b13924Fri, 15 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -060022:42falsefull2121Stacy PerryEp 20 Friends with BenefitsEp 20 Friends with BenefitsIf you’re considering exploring a friends with benefits relationship while you look for your forever person, or if you’re already in one, this episode is for you!

WHAT YOU”LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Six questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around if having a friends with benefits will serve your dating experience.
  • A client example of how to intentionally create a friends with benefits agreement.
  • My experience and what I would do differently next time.
  • What I think are the two most important qualities of a friend with benefits

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]]>If you’re considering exploring a friends with benefits relationship while you look for your forever person, or if you’re already in one, this episode is for you!

WHAT YOU”LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Six questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around if having a friends with benefits will serve your dating experience.
  • A client example of how to intentionally create a friends with benefits agreement.
  • My experience and what I would do differently next time.
  • What I think are the two most important qualities of a friend with benefits

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]]>98af6c1c-7442-4545-86c7-200a8153ecf2Fri, 08 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -060009:52falsefull2020Stacy PerryEP 19 - LonelinessEP 19 - LonelinessFeeling lonely feels crappy. And a lot of us have feelings of loneliness come up for us, especially when we’re dating and wanting to find our person. I sure did! In this episode we’re talking about why we feel lonely and how we can feel less lonely as we are looking to find our person to share life with.

WHAT YOUR LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Five tools/mindsets/exercises to help you reduce the volume and frequency of the thoughts causing you to feel lonely.
  • The biggest culprit of our loneliness
  • Misconceptions about loneliness
  • Why looking outside of ourselves to cure our loneliness doesn’t always work

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]]>Feeling lonely feels crappy. And a lot of us have feelings of loneliness come up for us, especially when we’re dating and wanting to find our person. I sure did! In this episode we’re talking about why we feel lonely and how we can feel less lonely as we are looking to find our person to share life with.

WHAT YOUR LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Five tools/mindsets/exercises to help you reduce the volume and frequency of the thoughts causing you to feel lonely.
  • The biggest culprit of our loneliness
  • Misconceptions about loneliness
  • Why looking outside of ourselves to cure our loneliness doesn’t always work

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]]>67a05c93-b9ac-4d77-985a-2f384db5eb3bFri, 01 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -060026:43falsefull1919Stacy PerryEP 18 - Tools to Dial Down Your PerfectionismEP 18 - Tools to Dial Down Your PerfectionismReady to learn proven strategies for dialing down the perfectionist voice in your head?

This episode is for you!

We’re going over four tools you can implement immediately to tame and manage that perfectionist voice that blocks you from finding your person!

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:


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]]>Ready to learn proven strategies for dialing down the perfectionist voice in your head?

This episode is for you!

We’re going over four tools you can implement immediately to tame and manage that perfectionist voice that blocks you from finding your person!

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:


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]]>dabc0415-1f6b-4d7a-9f37-f3c0ca0478e9Fri, 25 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -060018:05falsefull1818Stacy PerryEP 17 - Perfectionism - The Biggest CockblockerEP 17 - Perfectionism - The Biggest CockblockerWe’re looking at ALL the ways perfectionism is talking to you in your head, and blocking you from dating and finding your person.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

  • How perfectionism has you totally dissatisfied with the current state of dating
  • How it gets you in the compare and despair loop
  • How it has you putting off dating or taking breaks from dating
  • How perfectionism convinces you not to try things you don’t already feel good at
  • How it persuades you to put dating off until tomorrow, Monday or next year
  • How it coaxes you into giving up at the first sign things feeling hard
  • All this and a bunch more ways perfectionism attempts to block and hamper your efforts at finding your person!

 

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]]>We’re looking at ALL the ways perfectionism is talking to you in your head, and blocking you from dating and finding your person.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

  • How perfectionism has you totally dissatisfied with the current state of dating
  • How it gets you in the compare and despair loop
  • How it has you putting off dating or taking breaks from dating
  • How perfectionism convinces you not to try things you don’t already feel good at
  • How it persuades you to put dating off until tomorrow, Monday or next year
  • How it coaxes you into giving up at the first sign things feeling hard
  • All this and a bunch more ways perfectionism attempts to block and hamper your efforts at finding your person!

 

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]]>03a16b36-ad89-4d7f-a97a-411c64e66fb1Fri, 18 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -060017:11falsefull1717Stacy PerryEp 16- Stop leaving it up to them to be taken care of - the gift of boundariesEp 16- Stop leaving it up to them to be taken care of - the gift of boundariesDid you know you can create boundaries simply because you want to have as much as possible of what you want in your life? Comfort. Peace. Serenity. Safety. Closeness. Calmness.

You can make sure you are taken care of instead of leaving it up to other people in your life.

You can have boundaries to create whatever you prefer for yourself simply because you prefer it!

Learning to set and uphold your boundaries are a gift to yourself!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

  • What boundaries are and what they are not
  • The 12 things you need to know about boundaries
  • A bunch of examples of possible boundaries in dating
  • What to expect when you set a boundary

 

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]]>Did you know you can create boundaries simply because you want to have as much as possible of what you want in your life? Comfort. Peace. Serenity. Safety. Closeness. Calmness.

You can make sure you are taken care of instead of leaving it up to other people in your life.

You can have boundaries to create whatever you prefer for yourself simply because you prefer it!

Learning to set and uphold your boundaries are a gift to yourself!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

  • What boundaries are and what they are not
  • The 12 things you need to know about boundaries
  • A bunch of examples of possible boundaries in dating
  • What to expect when you set a boundary

 

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]]>eab9d8b6-0afc-48e7-8d57-1ba45eabf783Fri, 11 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -060017:11falsefull1616Stacy PerryMy Top 10 Dating AdviceMy Top 10 Dating AdviceIn this fun quick episode I’m giving you my top 10 pieces of dating advice.

These 10 things are what 99% most of my clients are shifting and evolving for themselves.

Curious which ones you can focus on shifting and evolving of yourself? Have a listen and let me know! :)

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • The eight things you need to start doing to find your person
  • The two things you need to stop doing
  • How your mindset is the key to getting the relationship you want

 

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]]>In this fun quick episode I’m giving you my top 10 pieces of dating advice.

These 10 things are what 99% most of my clients are shifting and evolving for themselves.

Curious which ones you can focus on shifting and evolving of yourself? Have a listen and let me know! :)

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • The eight things you need to start doing to find your person
  • The two things you need to stop doing
  • How your mindset is the key to getting the relationship you want

 

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]]>ca9d09bb-06e5-4926-9ad9-9bfa08fb0189Sat, 05 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -060007:06falsefull1515Stacy PerryWho’s Got Your Back?Who’s Got Your Back?What if you trusted YOURSELF to treat YOURSELF like a best friend even when you messed up or did something embarrassing?

When you did something cringe worthy, instead of beating yourself up in our head and tearing yourself down - you were kind and loving to yourself like you’d be to a kid?

I bet you’d take a lot more risks dating and have a better time!

This week’s episode is all about having our own backs while we’re out there finding love and risking getting hurt.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • What it means to have your own back and why its so important
  • Three ways to practice having your own back that you can implement immediately
  • How having your own back builds trust with yourself and allows you to take bigger risks

 

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]]>What if you trusted YOURSELF to treat YOURSELF like a best friend even when you messed up or did something embarrassing?

When you did something cringe worthy, instead of beating yourself up in our head and tearing yourself down - you were kind and loving to yourself like you’d be to a kid?

I bet you’d take a lot more risks dating and have a better time!

This week’s episode is all about having our own backs while we’re out there finding love and risking getting hurt.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • What it means to have your own back and why its so important
  • Three ways to practice having your own back that you can implement immediately
  • How having your own back builds trust with yourself and allows you to take bigger risks

 

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]]>9bbd37e2-3805-4387-b55c-5c76c8480ac7Fri, 28 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -060015:21falsefull1414Stacy PerryYour Future Self Wants You to Know ThisYour Future Self Wants You to Know ThisYour future self is where you want to be - sharing your fabulous life with YOUR person.

And guess what - she’s got SO much she wants to tell you.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • How to tap into the wisdom of your future self
  • Specific questions to ask her
  • How building your relationship with your future self can improve your relationship with yourself now
  • How connecting with her gets you focused on what’s possible, versus stuck defining yourself from your past
  • I share what I would want to tell my past dating self


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]]>Your future self is where you want to be - sharing your fabulous life with YOUR person.

And guess what - she’s got SO much she wants to tell you.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • How to tap into the wisdom of your future self
  • Specific questions to ask her
  • How building your relationship with your future self can improve your relationship with yourself now
  • How connecting with her gets you focused on what’s possible, versus stuck defining yourself from your past
  • I share what I would want to tell my past dating self


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]]>bb608903-bef8-4c8d-84fa-5495bace40ecFri, 21 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -060007:33falsefull1313Stacy PerryEpisode 12: Why You Hate Dating - Part 1 - Ewwwwww, Feelings….Episode 12: Why You Hate Dating - Part 1 - Ewwwwww, Feelings….If you’re not dating, taking a break from dating, or hating dating because all those terrible crappy uncomfortable feelings dating brings up in us - this episode is for you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • How avoiding, resisting and reacting to our feelings causes us more problems than the feelings themselves
  • The oh-so common ways we avoid, resist, and react to our feelings
  • What to do instead & how to do it
  • How you’ll benefits from doing it differently

 

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]]>If you’re not dating, taking a break from dating, or hating dating because all those terrible crappy uncomfortable feelings dating brings up in us - this episode is for you!

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • How avoiding, resisting and reacting to our feelings causes us more problems than the feelings themselves
  • The oh-so common ways we avoid, resist, and react to our feelings
  • What to do instead & how to do it
  • How you’ll benefits from doing it differently

 

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]]>2b58e4eb-9b51-4275-8392-d3ca2cca0abaFri, 14 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -060020:54falsefull1212Stacy PerryHow to Get ClosureHow to Get ClosureAre you feeling like you can fully heal until you make sense of what happened and get closure?

You are not alone - this episode is for you.

We are talking all things CLOSURE today!

Whether you still looking for closure form a ex from years ago, a recent ghoster, a short term or long term relationship - this episode is for you!

WHATE YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Why you want closure
  • What closure means to you
  • Why they haven’t given closure to you
  • What’s blocking you from getting closure
  • HOW TO GET CLOSURE!
  • How to move on and create your most fabulous life with the love you want!


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]]>Are you feeling like you can fully heal until you make sense of what happened and get closure?

You are not alone - this episode is for you.

We are talking all things CLOSURE today!

Whether you still looking for closure form a ex from years ago, a recent ghoster, a short term or long term relationship - this episode is for you!

WHATE YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Why you want closure
  • What closure means to you
  • Why they haven’t given closure to you
  • What’s blocking you from getting closure
  • HOW TO GET CLOSURE!
  • How to move on and create your most fabulous life with the love you want!


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]]>7bde58a3-8280-42e9-91d8-1ead7598500aFri, 07 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -060019:39falsefull1111Stacy PerryYour Rules - Your ManualsYour Rules - Your ManualsIf you’re like a lot of my clients, you have grumbled many times about people your messaging with, people on the apps, flakey dates - “The common decent thing to do would be {insert what you think they should be doing instead of what they are currently doing here!”

If they’d just ask you out already…

If the’d just confirm the date…

If they just tell you what they want…

All frustrating parts of dating. And part of the reason you shake your head at all these people is because you know how they SHOULD be behaving. You have a whole manual written in your head about how people should show up on the apps and in person.

We all have these manual and rulebooks for how people should be more like we think they should be. And in this episode we’re going to explore them.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN

  • What are manuals
  • How they get in your way of finding your person
  • What is the difference between knowing what you want in a partner and your manual
  • The difference between manuals, boundaries, requests, and preferences
  • How manuals block the very thing we are looking for - connection!
  • How manuals cause you pain and suffering
  • Why to consider dropping your manuals

 

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]]>If you’re like a lot of my clients, you have grumbled many times about people your messaging with, people on the apps, flakey dates - “The common decent thing to do would be {insert what you think they should be doing instead of what they are currently doing here!”

If they’d just ask you out already…

If the’d just confirm the date…

If they just tell you what they want…

All frustrating parts of dating. And part of the reason you shake your head at all these people is because you know how they SHOULD be behaving. You have a whole manual written in your head about how people should show up on the apps and in person.

We all have these manual and rulebooks for how people should be more like we think they should be. And in this episode we’re going to explore them.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN

  • What are manuals
  • How they get in your way of finding your person
  • What is the difference between knowing what you want in a partner and your manual
  • The difference between manuals, boundaries, requests, and preferences
  • How manuals block the very thing we are looking for - connection!
  • How manuals cause you pain and suffering
  • Why to consider dropping your manuals

 

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]]>53ff1a48-b18c-4d0d-ba94-dc9e1cd1018aFri, 30 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -060024:55falsefull1010Stacy PerryAre we a want match?Are we a want match?In this episode we discuss how a big piece of the dating games is figuring out if your “wants” and their wants are a match.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • The importance of allowing people to be who they are, and want what they want.
  • Knowing they are free to be them, you are free to be you, and you curiously have fun figuring out if your want matches are a long term match.
  • We can ask for what we want. We can make requests. And then be open to their truth.
  • How we can make requests while staying open to their truths.
  • How we can get in tripped up when we attach meaning to our partners or friends not wanting to meet our wants.
  • How no one person, not even yourself, can meet all your wants.
  • How to explore all your wants for your most fulfilled life and how to explore all the ways you can fulfill them.
  • You don’t have to defend or justify what you want.

 

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]]>In this episode we discuss how a big piece of the dating games is figuring out if your “wants” and their wants are a match.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • The importance of allowing people to be who they are, and want what they want.
  • Knowing they are free to be them, you are free to be you, and you curiously have fun figuring out if your want matches are a long term match.
  • We can ask for what we want. We can make requests. And then be open to their truth.
  • How we can make requests while staying open to their truths.
  • How we can get in tripped up when we attach meaning to our partners or friends not wanting to meet our wants.
  • How no one person, not even yourself, can meet all your wants.
  • How to explore all your wants for your most fulfilled life and how to explore all the ways you can fulfill them.
  • You don’t have to defend or justify what you want.

 

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]]>d9a693c5-3b4f-418a-acf1-e2bbbd2a8428Fri, 23 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -060014:38falsefull99Stacy PerryRelationships - they’re all in your head!Relationships - they’re all in your head!We think liking someone, feeling chemistry with them, and being attracted to them is an involuntary response to what they look like, what they do, and/or what they say.

But in this episode you’re going to learn all about how it’s actually your thoughts about how they look, what they do and what they say that is actually causing your feelings.

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • The four ways of thinking that make up your relationships
  • How it is impossible for someone to make you feel love without you having loving thoughts about them.
  • How our feelings of love can change so quickly to not-so-loving feelings.
  • What’s actually happening when we “fall out” of love.
  • How to look at and improve your “relationship” with dating

Relationships really are all in your head!

]]>We think liking someone, feeling chemistry with them, and being attracted to them is an involuntary response to what they look like, what they do, and/or what they say.

But in this episode you’re going to learn all about how it’s actually your thoughts about how they look, what they do and what they say that is actually causing your feelings.

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • The four ways of thinking that make up your relationships
  • How it is impossible for someone to make you feel love without you having loving thoughts about them.
  • How our feelings of love can change so quickly to not-so-loving feelings.
  • What’s actually happening when we “fall out” of love.
  • How to look at and improve your “relationship” with dating

Relationships really are all in your head!

]]>783094d7-c259-416b-a94a-45fe551da168Fri, 16 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -060016:55falsefull88Stacy PerryOuch, my heart hurts :(Ouch, my heart hurts :(On today’s episode we are jumping into heartache.

And I am here to tell you, it is NOT a time and materials equation.

For me and my clients, sometimes the short relationships can hurt worse because the person is still “perfect” in your story.

We can feel heartbroken after just a few dates or the ending of a short situationship.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN

  • How and why your brain tries to get you to reconnect with them.
  • How seeking them out can be a stress response just like fight and flight.
  • How and why your brain tries to get you to do the impossible - go back in into the past and change things.
  • Why you may NOT want to feel okay and “just get over them”.
  • That resentment is not necessary in order to prove what they did is not “okay”. And that it is okay to be okay EVEN though what happened was “wrong”.
  • The case for no contact.
  • How heartache can bring up a lot of anxiety in us, what’s happening and ways to deal with it.
  • How when the breakup was loving and respectful - it can feel even harder than if they were mean and awful.

Come join me this week on the episode to get more clarity around what’s happening with your hurting heart!

]]>On today’s episode we are jumping into heartache.

And I am here to tell you, it is NOT a time and materials equation.

For me and my clients, sometimes the short relationships can hurt worse because the person is still “perfect” in your story.

We can feel heartbroken after just a few dates or the ending of a short situationship.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN

  • How and why your brain tries to get you to reconnect with them.
  • How seeking them out can be a stress response just like fight and flight.
  • How and why your brain tries to get you to do the impossible - go back in into the past and change things.
  • Why you may NOT want to feel okay and “just get over them”.
  • That resentment is not necessary in order to prove what they did is not “okay”. And that it is okay to be okay EVEN though what happened was “wrong”.
  • The case for no contact.
  • How heartache can bring up a lot of anxiety in us, what’s happening and ways to deal with it.
  • How when the breakup was loving and respectful - it can feel even harder than if they were mean and awful.

Come join me this week on the episode to get more clarity around what’s happening with your hurting heart!

]]>02096ab4-7fdc-4636-bacc-3fed968f8d3fFri, 09 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -060018:33falsefull77Stacy PerryA Dozen Insights Gained from 475 DatesA Dozen Insights Gained from 475 DatesToday I’m sharing a dozen insights I gained from my 475 dates!

An entertaining grab bag of of tips from my experience on the road to finding my person:

  • My fav flirting tip when you on a date
  • A trick I used to help my anxiety when I was waiting for the guy to text me and ask me out already!
  • One of the best mindsets to adopt about dating and finding your person
  • My ran through my head when I was informed by Bumble that I ran out of people to swipe on!
  • A snippet of my worst date stories
  • And some more insights from my days in the dating trenches!

I’m sure there will be a couple of nuggets in this episode that work for you too!

 

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]]>Today I’m sharing a dozen insights I gained from my 475 dates!

An entertaining grab bag of of tips from my experience on the road to finding my person:

  • My fav flirting tip when you on a date
  • A trick I used to help my anxiety when I was waiting for the guy to text me and ask me out already!
  • One of the best mindsets to adopt about dating and finding your person
  • My ran through my head when I was informed by Bumble that I ran out of people to swipe on!
  • A snippet of my worst date stories
  • And some more insights from my days in the dating trenches!

I’m sure there will be a couple of nuggets in this episode that work for you too!

 

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]]>1c1ff01d-1cd4-4346-bfb4-5b437985217aFri, 02 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -060014:28falsefull66Stacy PerryBVE - BIG VALUES ENERGYBVE - BIG VALUES ENERGYLet’s bring on, and bring out, your BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY!

For some of my clients, the dating concept of being a high value woman messes with their head.

And it messed with my head too when I was dating too - I’ll explain how.

I’m offering we focus on getting aligned with our values and bring out our BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY!

In this episode we’ll discuss:

  • How the concept of being a high value woman can send you down into a comparison rabbit hole.
  • How to get aligned with and grounded in the core values you want in your relationship.
  • How to really get clear about how you want core values/BIG VALUE ENERGY to look and feel like in your life and relationship.
  • Your core values, how you define them, and how you embody them are personal and unique to you - let them shine bright! Let them be a beacon for your person

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]]>Let’s bring on, and bring out, your BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY!

For some of my clients, the dating concept of being a high value woman messes with their head.

And it messed with my head too when I was dating too - I’ll explain how.

I’m offering we focus on getting aligned with our values and bring out our BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY!

In this episode we’ll discuss:

  • How the concept of being a high value woman can send you down into a comparison rabbit hole.
  • How to get aligned with and grounded in the core values you want in your relationship.
  • How to really get clear about how you want core values/BIG VALUE ENERGY to look and feel like in your life and relationship.
  • Your core values, how you define them, and how you embody them are personal and unique to you - let them shine bright! Let them be a beacon for your person

Loved the podcast and want more?


]]>3441586d-04d5-461c-9b7a-7f53b0536d31Fri, 26 May 2023 03:00:00 -060011:48falsefull55Stacy PerryWhere the f*ck is he already?????Where the f*ck is he already?????Do you feel a rushed sense of urgency to find your person?

Do you have a sinking feeling that something must have gone wrong - because you should have met them by now?

Where is he, dammit?

You are not alone - this week’s episode is for you :)

We are going to explore what creates this hurried feeling in us.

  • How wanting from scarcity feels terrible and how to shift your thinking
  • How your brain thinks THERE is better than HERE How your brain seeks outside validation to feel better
  • How there are always going to be parts you love and parts you want to change - it’s the human experience.
  • How we get messed up messaging that our value and worth is dependent on us being “picked” for a romantic relationship. So no wonder we are eager to get it.
  • You and your future partner are both worth the effort and the wait.
  • What if this moment, this season in your life, could be lived like you chose it purposefully for yourself? :)

Loved podcast and want more?


]]>Do you feel a rushed sense of urgency to find your person?

Do you have a sinking feeling that something must have gone wrong - because you should have met them by now?

Where is he, dammit?

You are not alone - this week’s episode is for you :)

We are going to explore what creates this hurried feeling in us.

  • How wanting from scarcity feels terrible and how to shift your thinking
  • How your brain thinks THERE is better than HERE How your brain seeks outside validation to feel better
  • How there are always going to be parts you love and parts you want to change - it’s the human experience.
  • How we get messed up messaging that our value and worth is dependent on us being “picked” for a romantic relationship. So no wonder we are eager to get it.
  • You and your future partner are both worth the effort and the wait.
  • What if this moment, this season in your life, could be lived like you chose it purposefully for yourself? :)

Loved podcast and want more?


]]>702fe308-3a76-43dd-934b-03386cc25d74Fri, 19 May 2023 03:00:00 -060013:17falsefull44Stacy PerryGet Your Control Freak On!Get Your Control Freak On!Does dating sometimes leave you feeling bummed out, discouraged, and/or frustrated?

You’re not alone.

There is a way to avoid getting stuck in those feelings.

In this week’s episode you’ll learn how focusing your time, energy, and attention on the parts of dating within your control is your SUPER POWER!

You’ll learn how to quickly spot when you’re stuck and how to get faster at shifting your focus back on the people and situations that will get you the result you want - to be done with dating and on to sharing your life with your person!

 

Loved the podcast and want more?  


]]>Does dating sometimes leave you feeling bummed out, discouraged, and/or frustrated?

You’re not alone.

There is a way to avoid getting stuck in those feelings.

In this week’s episode you’ll learn how focusing your time, energy, and attention on the parts of dating within your control is your SUPER POWER!

You’ll learn how to quickly spot when you’re stuck and how to get faster at shifting your focus back on the people and situations that will get you the result you want - to be done with dating and on to sharing your life with your person!

 

Loved the podcast and want more?  


]]>326cc350-3006-48d8-8d00-3c7a972e77eeFri, 12 May 2023 03:00:00 -060016:13falsefull33Stacy PerryRejection Part 1 - PROOF IT'S NOT PERSONALRejection Part 1 - PROOF IT'S NOT PERSONALIn this episode I’m going to give you a new way to think about rejection and prove how it really isn’t about you!

When it comes to dating, one of our biggest fears is rejection.

Rejection stops many of us from even dating in the first place.

Rejection makes some of us want to take loooonnnng breaks from dating.

The fear of rejection makes many of us hide parts of ourselves.

And I want to put a stop that!

Good news - you’ve got it wrong when it comes to rejection and I’ll show you how in this episode.

Loved podcast and want more?


]]>In this episode I’m going to give you a new way to think about rejection and prove how it really isn’t about you!

When it comes to dating, one of our biggest fears is rejection.

Rejection stops many of us from even dating in the first place.

Rejection makes some of us want to take loooonnnng breaks from dating.

The fear of rejection makes many of us hide parts of ourselves.

And I want to put a stop that!

Good news - you’ve got it wrong when it comes to rejection and I’ll show you how in this episode.

Loved podcast and want more?


]]>660586bb-8668-4a77-a43c-07f742b4a287Fri, 05 May 2023 03:00:00 -060009:29falsefull22Stacy PerryThe High Five RelationshipThe High Five RelationshipYou know when you feel “confused” about someone you’re dating or getting to know?

You sense something is “off”, but you can’t quite pinpoint why?

This episode is for you - with the The High Five Relationship Tool - you’ll figure out what is going on, what’s missing, and if it’s worth continuing to invest in the relationship.

Or maybe you think you have a “broken picker” - use this tool to become confident you can create the relationship of your dreams.

Or is your brain beating yourself up over past relationships? Use this tool to stop the mind chatter, and instead, gain insight on what you want and don’t want in your future relationship.

It will also shine the light on where you personally want to grow and evolve your relationship skills.

Loved podcast and want more?


]]>You know when you feel “confused” about someone you’re dating or getting to know?

You sense something is “off”, but you can’t quite pinpoint why?

This episode is for you - with the The High Five Relationship Tool - you’ll figure out what is going on, what’s missing, and if it’s worth continuing to invest in the relationship.

Or maybe you think you have a “broken picker” - use this tool to become confident you can create the relationship of your dreams.

Or is your brain beating yourself up over past relationships? Use this tool to stop the mind chatter, and instead, gain insight on what you want and don’t want in your future relationship.

It will also shine the light on where you personally want to grow and evolve your relationship skills.

Loved podcast and want more?


]]>ad6fe64b-fefc-4092-9f4b-ba08e59c808dFri, 28 Apr 2023 10:00:00 -060012:48falsefull11Stacy PerryWelcome to Stop Hating Dating and Find Your PersonWelcome to Stop Hating Dating and Find Your PersonWelcome to the stop hating dating and find your person podcast. If you’re looking for coach who has has swiped enough times to have mastered the online dating game and made their dream partner a reality - I’m your coach.  I found mine - now let’s find yours!

With four years and 475 online dates under my belt, plus becoming a certified life coach, and starting my dating coach business, There is nothing you can throw at me that my clients or I haven’t been through. I’ve coached 26 year olds, 76 year olds, and everything in between. If you’ve never dated, never had a relationship, been divorced three time, your a single mom, whatever - bring it! I’ve you got you!

I’m all about us stopping believing that voice in our head that tells us we’re un lovable because of our body, our age, we’re not confident enough, not worthy enough, too all kinds of messy broken, we're bad at relationships…. Whatever your greatest hits list of crappy thoughts bring it.

Each week we are going to learn to not believe that voice in our head that say anything it can to keep us from dating.

We are going to fill your dating toolbox with all Actionable practical tips/tools/mindset shifts so you can be done with dating and on to sharing your life with your person.

This podcast will get you rocking dating by showing up as are real fabulous authentic imperfect self that your person is going to be crazy about

You ready! Let’s go get’m

]]>Welcome to the stop hating dating and find your person podcast. If you’re looking for coach who has has swiped enough times to have mastered the online dating game and made their dream partner a reality - I’m your coach.  I found mine - now let’s find yours!

With four years and 475 online dates under my belt, plus becoming a certified life coach, and starting my dating coach business, There is nothing you can throw at me that my clients or I haven’t been through. I’ve coached 26 year olds, 76 year olds, and everything in between. If you’ve never dated, never had a relationship, been divorced three time, your a single mom, whatever - bring it! I’ve you got you!

I’m all about us stopping believing that voice in our head that tells us we’re un lovable because of our body, our age, we’re not confident enough, not worthy enough, too all kinds of messy broken, we're bad at relationships…. Whatever your greatest hits list of crappy thoughts bring it.

Each week we are going to learn to not believe that voice in our head that say anything it can to keep us from dating.

We are going to fill your dating toolbox with all Actionable practical tips/tools/mindset shifts so you can be done with dating and on to sharing your life with your person.

This podcast will get you rocking dating by showing up as are real fabulous authentic imperfect self that your person is going to be crazy about

You ready! Let’s go get’m

]]>10a26712-c86c-47e7-8298-0baa0865bf3cThu, 27 Apr 2023 09:00:00 -060001:52falsetrailerStacy Perry