Stories of Hope in Hard Times

3 Key Principles of Making Positive Progress

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 24 Apr 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Summary

Tamara K. Anderson shared her personal journey of overcoming adversity through faith in God's help, emphasizing the importance of perseverance and seeking support from others. She discussed the role of Satan in causing resistance and doubt, and how God can strengthen and empower individuals to overcome these challenges. Tamara also shared practical principles for finding hope and faith in challenging situations, including praying for miracles and opening one's eyes to see the blessings in everyday life. She launched a new podcast focused on exploring Jesus Christ's teachings and women's stories in the Bible, and encouraged listeners to subscribe and follow her on YouTube for more content.

Outline

If you want to move forward with something positive in your life, expect resistance from the adversary. Things don’t always go you planned, even if you’re inspired by God.
God can strengthen us to do ANYTHING! Importance of learning to level up, bring in more light and get rid of things that drag us down.
God sends angels (both seen and unseen) to help us and support us in difficulties.

Bonus principle:

“Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them. Lord, I pray thee, open his eyes.” —2 Kings 6:16-17

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She emphasizes the importance of God's love and support in difficult times.

Transcript

Tamara Anderson 0:00

Have you ever set a goal to do something and then it's like all hell broke loose to try to stop you from accomplishing that goal? And you wonder, why did I try this to begin with? Why is this so difficult? If you have, you're not alone, I'm going to share with you three key principles of making positive progress, including overcoming the adversary in my personal journey and give you an update of everything that's been going on for the past year as I promised I would stay tuned.

Tamara Anderson 0:37

Welcome to Stories of Hope in Hard Times, the show that explores how people endure and even thrive in difficult times, all with God's help. I'm your host Tamara K Anderson. Join me on a journey to find inspiring stories of hope and wisdom learned in life's hardest moments.

Tamara Anderson 1:03

Hello, and welcome to another episode of Stories of Hope in Hard Times. I'm your host, Tamara K Anderson. And I'm so excited to be with you today. I promised you that as I paused this podcast to launch Women Warriors of Light, the group that God has kind of been nudging me to start for several years now, that I would give you progress updates. And it's been about a year since I've done that. So I apologize that I haven't done that sooner. I have been feverishly working towards this goal. And I am so excited to tell you that we launched that women warriors of light launched on March 28, we had our official launch virtual launch.

Tamara Anderson 1:49

And it was wonderful. And I am so happy that it's finally started. But it's the beginning of the beginning. People are like, aren't you glad it's done? And I'm like, oh, it's the beginning of the beginning. And I have to tell you guys, I started a new podcast. And I'll tell you about that at the end of this episode.

Tamara Anderson 2:09

But first, I want to talk you through some of the struggles that I've experienced over the past year. And I'm sure I'm not the only one who's ever felt that they needed to act on something only to have the adversary just open up the gates of hell, and just try to stop you. That is really what I've gone through this past year, year and a half a lot of fear. He's thrown at me a lot of negativity in my mind. Like you can't do this. It's too big. It's too much. And yes, it it is. It has been very big. And it's been too much for just me, but God has blessed me.

Tamara Anderson 2:53

There have been times that I wondered if I would make it and, and I wasn't sure. Because it was hard. And it was heavy. There were nights when I cried and cried to my husband and just said I don't know if I can It's too hard. I'm struggling with things that I've never struggled with my entire life, you know, and and just the discouragement and the fear factor that Satan throws at you when when you're trying to make positive progress was heavy and oppressive and overwhelming.

Tamara Anderson 3:35

And there were times I really wanted to give up, I'll be honest. And so I guess the first thing that I learned is that anytime you want to make forward progress in your life, Satan, it and his are hosts of devils is gonna want to stop you. You know, it's not any surprise when I pause and think about it that what God wants for us is eternal life. He wants us to come home to him.

Tamara Anderson 4:08

And what Satan wants is he wants to stop our progress. Because that's what being damned means. It means having your progress stopped. If you think about a dam, stopping the progress of water. That's what Satan wants. He doesn't want us to move forward and our progress. And so as I moved forward and it felt sometimes it felt like I had big concrete bricks on my feet. Oh, one little baby step at a time. And sometimes it felt like I would take those step forward and something would pull me back. I learned that when we are making forward progress, whether it's with a goal, or we're moving out of perhaps an addiction or something, anything that moves our life forward in a positive way. Maybe you're going back to school Maybe you're trying to help someone in need that maybe it's a child, maybe it's a friend, maybe it's a parent to expect opposition expect that things aren't just going to open up. And it's going to be easygoing.

Tamara Anderson 5:17

And the reason I've pondered that and said, Why is it so hard and, and things from the scriptures popped into my mind, think of the two gardens that are talked about in the Scriptures, the Garden of Eden the Garden of Gethsemane, Good Things were moving forward. And both of those places, and yet Satan showed up. And they became places where it was tough and tough decisions had to be made. And, and so it shouldn't surprise this since from the very, very beginning of time. It's been hard when we try to make more progress, because we have an enemy here on Earth. But I've also learned, and this is one of the key points to kind of counterbalance that is that God helps us line upon line, precept upon precept, she just told us. There are also growing pains, because where we want to go, isn't who we are yet. And so as we grow to become that newer, better person. It requires a little bit of refining in us.

Tamara Anderson 6:32

So I guess what I learned is that anyone making poor progress, whether it's Adam and Eve, whether it's Jesus Christ is going to experience hard times moving forward, it's not going to be easy, it's not going to be seamless. And I think something in the back of my brain have thought, I am doing God's work, he's calling me to do this. Things will be things will flow, things will be easy. And certainly there have been moments where that happened. But there has been so much resistance. And it just helps me realize that you know, the adversary is alive and well and, and is trying to stop the work of God from going forward as he always has. And he just like he wants to stop God's work from going forward. He wants to stop you from moving forward and me from moving forward and doing good things.

Tamara Anderson 7:33

I loved what one of the gals said at the launch that I had for Women Warriors of Light, she said, Don't doubt in the night, what you learned in the day. And I thought that is so true. That's one of the key things I learned as I tried to push forward was that Satan always tries to make us doubt these impressions that we get these thoughts that pop into our head that are good things that move us forward that allow us to help someone. But and so doubt is one of his biggest tactics, and also discouragement and negative thoughts, those are key things to us. So key principle number one is if you are going to move forward in your life, expect resistance, don't expect that it's going to be smooth sailing. Trust me, it won't.

Tamara Anderson 8:33

But the good news is principle number two, God can strengthen and empower you or me to do anything. I kind of go back to my mantra that I learned years ago, when my kids were diagnosed with autism, that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and I can were there days of weeping. Absolutely. The joy to come in the morning as the scripture promises. Yes. There were times when I was trying to work out complex technology stuff on the back end of our website that we've been building. And I went to my husband and I was crying. And I'm like, This is too hard for me to figure out. I had a website gal that was helping me but you know, it took a labor of love and lots of people working to get this thing off the ground. And I had to help things that were beyond my capacity. I had to learn how to do and there were times that I prayed for technology angels to be with me because oh my goodness, it was hard. It was super, super hard.

Tamara Anderson 9:45

I also learned so another thing that I loved was that God does send angels to be with us. Just like an angel comforted the Savior in the Garden of Gethsemane when he was going through I'll be the hardest thing that has ever been witnessed on this earth, suffering and pain for our sins. An angel went and comforted him. And I know the angels came and comforted with me. And were with me in those times, because I needed help. I couldn't do it by myself. Other times, they were people who showed up in my life and just said, I feel like I'm supposed to be involved in this organization, how can I help you? I just thought, Oh, thank you, because I can't do it on my own.

Tamara Anderson 10:31

So God sends angels, and also sometimes he sends angels within our own family to help and strengthen. I know that my kids were angels at times they came, and they, you know, my husband said, Okay, you guys got to help make dinners because mom is super busy right now. And so they would take turns making dinners on certain nights for the week. Was it consistent? No. But it was less that I had to be thinking about and doing as we got ready and launched women word of white. So sometimes the angels can be people in our own family. Or maybe it's we don't have angels in our own family. Maybe we need help from the outside. And I did have help from the outside, I had some key people stand, step up and say, hey, I want to help with this. And others, I had to ask and say, Hey, can you help with this? And they said, Yes, I would love to help with this.

Tamara Anderson 11:23

So God strengthens us to do anything. But sometimes those strengthening people come in the form of both angels seen and unseen. The third principle that I learned for making positive progress was that if I'm going to do something bigger, then has ever been required of me that I need to level up. And so I had to make forward progress as a person, getting rid of things that were holding me back, especially in that battle, that constant battle with Satan. Over the last couple years, I had to eliminate things that were dragging me down, that perhaps brought darkness in and bring more things into my life that were adding light and positivity. And Heavenly Father, God inspired me to know what those steps were, you know, stop watching that kind of thing: Stop reading that kind of book, you need to be reading the scriptures, you need to be doing things that bring light into your life.

Tamara Anderson 12:39

Also, with all the added stress, I had to start an exercise program that was better for me. And, and I did, I had to walk more I started strength training and stuff like that things that I needed to do physically, but I was leveling up in several areas of my life. And because when when we're stressed, it takes a toll on our bodies. And I'm not saying that I didn't have bowls of chocolate ice cream, sometimes I sure did. But I had to level up in several areas of my life, getting rid of things that drag me down, that brought darkness into my life, and adding things that increased my life or adding them with more frequency.

Tamara Anderson 13:31

I remember one particular day, I was really feeling the weight and the pressure of launching women warriors of light. And I was driving to a place where I could feel God's peace and God's holiness because I needed it more in my life. And as I was driving, I often I will put on uplifting music that will calm and inspire and lift me up when I feel the forces of the adversary attacking with greater frequency. And I had a song pop up that wasn't on my playlist that I had never heard before. And it is an old Christian hymn about standing on the promises of Christ, our Savior, and standing on the promises of God. And that song resonated with me. And it buoyed me up and it was like God kind of peeking into my heavy weight and saying, Hey, remember, you're doing what I asked you to do, and I'm going to fulfill my part. I'm going to fulfill my promise that I will help you with this. And so it was little moments like that, that kept me going.

Tamara Anderson 14:58

Sometimes it was a When talking to a friend and talking to a friend about a dilemma that I was facing, and, and sometimes just bouncing it off of people helped me solve the problems. But what I realized in this third principle about how I needed to level up in all areas of my life is that God helps me as I moved forward just inch by inch, and line by line and precept by precept forward. He blessed me with the people that I needed, he blessed me with an amazing advisory board that are all over the nation who have been awesome. He blessed me with an amazing co founder, Wendi Christiansen who has been super instrumental and I could just name several people who I could not have gone come this far without, we had two amazing teams of interns from a local university that helped us with several key pieces. And so I am thankful, I guess I'm here to tell you that even though it's been hard, it is it has been a good growing experience for me. And I'm not saying that I'm done growing, because the resistance hasn't stopped. So I know that forward, progress still needs to be made.

Tamara Anderson 16:17

But I've learned those three key principles to expect resistance. And that even though we're doing good things, Satan doesn't want us to make progress. But number two key principle is that relying on God and the angels that he sends, we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. And he does send the right people at the right time. And then the third principle is that if we're leveling up, we've got to increase the light coming to us and eliminate things that are dragging us down. Because that's what's required. As we level up and make positive progress in our lives. There's a favorite scripture that I know I've shared with you before that, that I felt.

Tamara Anderson 17:06

We're gonna take a quick break. But when we get back, we'll have more lessons, tips and things you can apply to your life. Stay tuned.

Tamara Anderson 17:14

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Tamara Anderson 18:46

There's a favorite scripture that I know I've shared with you before that that I felt many times and I had to learn to pray for angels and to cast out Satan on a regular basis. Daily surely. But I love this verse in Kings Second Kings for chapter six verses 16 and 17. Is this is when Elijah and his manservant we're looking at the city in this attacking army had completely surrounded them. And sometimes we feel like that in life we feel like we are surrounded by the enemy and his hosts and it's overwhelming and we're like I we're going to die I can't move forward and here's what he likes shoulda told his servant fear not are they that be with us are more than they that be with them. Lord, I pray the open his eyes.

Tamara Anderson 19:45

And so I guess that would be maybe a bonus principle is that when we're feeling down and discouraged and like things aren't not gonna go well, that we pray that God will open our eyes to see you The miracles and the angels around us. There were times when I woke up and I could just feel, I just felt heavy. And I would go and I would write about how I felt. And then I would say a quick prayer and say, God helped me to write things I'm thankful for helped me to see the miracles that are happening, despite all this heaviness. And I would end up journaling, like two or three pages of things that had happened that were miracles.

Tamara Anderson 20:26

And, and so sometimes we need to pray when we're feeling heavy, that God will open our eyes to the angels and to the miracles that are around us. Ah, how's that for three key principles plus the bonus principle of making positive progress in our lives? All right, I promised I'd also give you an update. Well, let me tell you, I have launched another podcast with some amazing people who are connected to women warriors of light. It's called Bible, Women & Bathrobes. And seriously guys, we do record this in our bathrobes at like 6am. It is crazy. But it's a lot of fun. And there's usually two or three of us on there.

Tamara Anderson 21:13

And we are focusing on two things. We're launching two episodes a week, once on Tuesday morning, and once on Thursday morning. The Tuesday mornings we are talking about lessons from the teachings of Jesus Christ. And we started the Sermon on the Mount a couple of weeks ago. And so we've been just taking them just a few verses at a time. And we're pulling from it lessons, we can learn that and apply to ourselves today. So modernizing terms, what does being meek mean, you know, and it's been so much fun. I have some amazing co host, Bonnie Randall. And she has been awesome. And we brought on women from our...

4 Tips to Succeed When Upping Your Game

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 15 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600

In this quick update I share 4 tips that revolve around a Bible verse I have learned by example which have helped me move forward while moving on to my new project: starting Women Warriors of Light. I also share about a giveaway I have going on right now. More details below.

As I have started working on my new project, starting my women’s group called Women Warriors of Light there is a Bible Verse that has come to life as I have experienced setbacks and yet been given the guidance to know how to overcome the obstacles placed in my path.

Bible Verse

Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. ~Hebrews 12:1-2

4 Principles to Succeed when Upping Our Game

Lay aside every weight
Lay aside every sin (including distractions) which so easily beset us
Run with patience the race set before us
Focus on Jesus to help us do all of the above and move forward with faith.

Giveaway

I also share about a giveaway I have going on. You can see more about that here:

https://kingsumo.com/g/mzfa4b/deluxe-christian-womens-package-giveaway

Transcript of today’s episode

Tamara Anderson 0:03

Have you ever felt like you're hitting obstacles when you're trying to hit a big new goal? If so, you're not alone. I'm going to share with you some quick tips today that I have learned over the last couple of months as I have been launching a new company and share with you some personal examples as well as give you an update as well as an opportunity to enter a giveaway where you will win over $450 in items with my new women warriors of light group. Stay tuned.

Tamara Anderson 0:42

Welcome to stories of hope in hard times, the show that explores how people endure and even thrive in difficult times, all with God's help. I'm your host Tamara K Anderson. Join me on a journey to find inspiring stories of hope and wisdom learned in life's hardest moments.

Tamara Anderson 1:07

Hello, and welcome to an update version of the stories of hope in hard times podcast. I'm your host Tamara K Anderson. And oh, my goodness. First of all, thank you to everyone who has reached out since I finished my podcast in January. Thank you for the sweet comments. I feel so blessed to have been able to connect with so many of you on a personal level. Over the last four years as I've been doing this stories of hope in hard times podcast.

Tamara Anderson 1:35

And as I promised you when I did that last episode, I would give you periodic updates. And so today, I wanted to just share with you some quick updates on how I'm doing as well as share with you for tips that I found to help me succeed, as I've kind of been upgrading to a new level, which is starting this women warriors of light company and I am so so excited for it. But I also have to talk to you about some obstacles that I've faced along the way.

Tamara Anderson 2:08

One of the most common questions I've gotten from friends, and from even some of you who I've never met is Tamra, how has it been, you know, stopping the podcast, how's that felt? And there really was some grief involved and just changing from podcasting every week to now focusing on other little goals and trying to get this women warriors of light group started. It has been a more difficult transition than I imagined it would.

Tamara Anderson 2:42

So I've learned a lot about the word patience. And that's really one of the things I wanted to talk to you guys about today. There is a Bible verse that has just kind of been rolling around in my mind that I feel really describes kind of what I've been feeling and some of the things, some of the four things that I've been going through the last little while.

Tamara Anderson 3:12

So let me let me read this Bible verse to you. It is found in Hebrews chapter 12. And it's verses one and two. And I'm going to start halfway through the verse that says, Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily be set us. And let us run with patience, the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him, endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Tamara Anderson 3:53

Now, I'm going to start back where I started at the beginning of that verse one. And one of the first things that were taught is that we're invited to lay aside every weight. And one of the things that I found, as I've tried to kind of upgrade to this new company that I'm starting and everything like that, is that there were some things holding me back.

Tamara Anderson 4:22

And I remember one particular day, when I just felt like there was a weight on my chest and I know I've talked about that feeling before and sometimes it's hard to discern. Okay, what is this? Wait, is it something stopping me? Is it something I need to get rid of? Is it something that maybe from my childhood, a perceived belief or something that I've got in there, that what is it that's holding me back? And as I prayed and kind of journal about that weight, one of the thoughts and impressions that kept coming to my mind was that I needed to go see a friend of mine who's a counselor.

Tamara Anderson 5:00

I will be honest with you guys I've visited with her before and she is absolutely amazing. I love her to pieces. But there was a prideful side of Tamara that's like, Tamara, you can do this on your own. Why is it that we do that? You guys, we think it's like God tells us what we need to do. And we're like, oh, no, God, I'm good. I can do this all by myself. It's like, we're a two year old, telling our parents that, no, I'm good. You know, I know, you told me what I need to do. But I'm really just going to do this all by myself. And I'm sure God kind of rolls his eyes at me sometimes and is like, Well, you asked me what you should do. And I told you now, you need to kind of swallow your pride and do it or ignore me, you know?

Tamara Anderson 5:49

And so finally, after praying about it, I thought, you know, Tamara, God gave you an answer, you need to just go and talk to your friend. And, and so I did, I set up an appointment with her and I went, and we had some really good conversations about some of these weights. And, and we found out that some of the weights that were holding me back were beliefs that I had had since I was a child. And and these things these preconceived notions from when I was so much younger, seven and eight years old, and I watched my parents go through some really hard things. Were holding me back, they were weights. As it talks about here in Hebrews, Let us lay aside every weight, sometimes things that are holding us back are beliefs that we've had in our mind from childhood.

Tamara Anderson 6:37

And I'm not a trained psychologist or counselor, or licensed social worker. And even though I've been able to process a lot of things on my own, I really don't think I could have figured out what these weights were that were holding me back, if I hadn't gone and talked to a friend and had her help me process them and kind of look at my younger self and, and tell my younger self, that's okay, and forgive my younger self, and forgive some of the notions that I believed that weren't true, especially with regards to God and him expecting me to run faster and harder than I was able to work hard every day. And if I didn't do that I didn't have worth.

Tamara Anderson 7:21

And so that was the first thing that I really had to kind of overcome and learn to upgrade, so that I could succeed with women warriors of light, or began succeeding. The second thing that's mentioned in these Bible verses, so we have lay aside every weight and then and the sin which doth so easily be set us.

Tamara Anderson 7:46

Another thing that I've noticed the last couple of months is because I want to start this group that helps women become stronger in their battles against Satan, in these winding up scenes before the second coming, in inspiring them and teaching them to put on their armor of light that guess who doesn't want me to succeed? Satan. And so I feel like he's just throwing everything at me the last couple of months. And so I've noticed that when we try to upgrade and do something new and better, especially things that are going to add more light, not only to our lives, but to others lives, that Satan doesn't want that to happen, and he'll start throwing things at us. And I noticed that some of the tactics he used on me, were maybe even little simple ones, like, trying to get me to forget to pray, or don't read my scriptures.

Tamara Anderson 8:43

I remember there was one day in particular, I just got up later than usual. And I think it was about noon that I went, Wait, did I say my morning prayers and read my scriptures today? And I was shocked, because that's like one of my go to habits like, I just do it like clockwork. And I was like, Oh, I didn't. And it kind of shocked me, I think I was like, Wait, what is this? And he just distracted me by keeping me busy with so many other things that I wasn't doing the things necessary to get my armor up and shielding me and protecting me.

Tamara Anderson 9:17

And so often when we're trying to hit these higher goals that are requiring us to step up, maybe farther and higher than we've ever gone before. We'll find these obstacles, beliefs that are holding us back are other things that are holding us back that we need other people's help to process or maybe Satan's throwing everything but the kitchen sink at us will have struggles that will hit us that maybe we've never dealt with before or children who need help or family members who need help and their distractions. And so those are two of the things that I've noticed these last couple of months that I've been struggling with.

Tamara Anderson 9:59

The Next thing that is mentioned in Hebrews 12 is, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us. And this one, guys, what is it about patience? I don't know, I thought I had patients before I had kids. And I've quickly learned that that's not the case that I've become so much more patient and understanding of a person, ever since my kids were little and every task I seem to get that's helping me move upward and forward. It requires more patience. And I remember when I was a little girl, my dad said, with any like, project that you that I was going to do with regards to building something, or constructing something out of wood or fixing something in the house, he always said, take the time that you think it's going to take in your mind. So if you think, Oh, this project is going to take me two hours. And he said, take that time and multiply it by at least two, maybe three, or four.

Tamara Anderson 11:13

And I found as I've gone through life, that that doesn't just happen with little projects that I'm doing to fix things around my house. It happens with big projects, like starting women's groups and stuff like that, that, like, for example, starting a simple website. I was like, Oh, I'll get on there. It'll take me a couple hours. And I'll be good, I will have just basic homepage, something like that, you know, and then 6, 7, 8 hours later, I've got okay stuff going. And all the sudden, I'm trying to link my domain name, which is www.womenwarriorsoflight.com. Back with the new site, and it's not letting me and it took me like a week to figure out how to solve that problem.

Tamara Anderson 12:04

And so sometimes, I would get impatient with myself that I was setting these goals and say, oh, yeah, I can have that done on Thursday. And then Friday would come and on glitch would come up and Saturday and Sunday and Monday. And it's taking some of these actions that go with starting this new group or just taking me longer than I thought they would. And so I've had to remind myself to be patient. I love how it says and let us run with patients the race that is set before us. Not getting too anxious, not getting down on myself, when things don't go as fast as I thought they would, in my mind, kind of like my dad said, but giving myself the grace that, okay, it's taking longer, I'm just gonna have to be patient and let the people who are working with me know to be patient with me because I'm working as fast as I can. But it's not getting done because there's dominoes that need to fall one before the other. So that's the third principle.

Tamara Anderson 13:06

The fourth principle is in the beginning of chapter 12, verse two. And I love this one it says, Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. And I love this because it takes whatever we're trying to do, and puts our focus right on Jesus Christ as a perfect example of laying aside every weight, because he took upon himself the cross, and the sin which does so easily be set as now. He didn't get into sins like we do. But because he suffered and bore that cross, He gives us the hope that we can be free of our sins, and looking to where he is that the right hand of God knowing that because he is there, we can be there someday to and that he can help us run that race of upgrading our lives and improving our lives and setting aside our sins and the setting aside every weight that seems to come upon us, and and he can help us get where we want to go, which is ultimately back at the right hand of God right beside Jesus Christ. So keeping that focus riveted on him, What would Jesus do? How can Jesus help me do this kind of yoking myself to him?

Tamara Anderson 14:28

And it's been quite a learning process for me these last couple of months as I have transition from podcasting to building this women's group, and it's going slower than I'd like. But I've been blessed with five amazing college interns who've been helping me start up with social media. And I have to tell you guys that these college interns have been absolutely so fun and fantastic to work with.

Tamara Anderson 14:57

And one of the things that they said they said Tamara Uh, let's do a giveaway. And so I was like, Okay, sweet. Let's do a giveaway so that we can get more traction online on Instagram On Facebook. We just got the YouTube channel up and running this past week. And I just wanted to let you guys know that we're doing this giveaway. And as you share, and you follow on Facebook, on Instagram on YouTube, that you will get more entries into this. And so I'm sure you're wondering, well, Tamra, tell me what you're giving away.

Tamara Anderson 15:33

And so I'm here to show you some of the things and this giveaway is going to be running through March 28. So we're running it for two weeks. It actually launched yesterday, on March 14, then it's going to be running through the 28th of March. And we are giving away. This is a beautiful Minky blanket. And for those of you who don't know what that is, that is a super, super soft blanket. It's like a $250 value. And it's a beautiful cream color with a waffle pattern in it. So that is a beautiful gift.

Tamara Anderson 16:09

The next thing I'm giving away is a Stanley Cup. There it is. And this is a tumbler so it has a built in straw that you can kind of fold down I noticed a lot of the Stanley Cups had a big straw poking out. And I liked this one because it collapsed. It's a cream colored cup with a handle on top. And it's just a beautiful cup. And that's probably worth about 50 bucks. It's hard to find a beautiful neutral color.

Tamara Anderson 16:39

The next thing I have is a $75 Lululemon gift card. And I'm super excited about that, because I know a lot of women love Lululemon.

Tamara Anderson 16:51

And so that is another big gift that we that we have going another gift is a copy of my book Normal for Me. And I'm so excited to give that away as part of this giveaway. It's my journey from grief to peace after two of my sons were diagnosed with autism. In fact, if you have any child with a disability, you can order this free on my website, just follow the links in my store and you can get that another gift is five copies of my mother's might booklet This is an awesome gift for Mother's Day coming up. It's an award winning booklet. It's a super short story. And it's awesome. It's it's great for moms who are feeling especially worn out and exhausted or any woman who's feeling worn out and exhausted and like God doesn't see them and isn't answering their prayers. And it's kind of a modern parable of a woman learning those principles that God sees her and knows her and loves her just like he saw the widow giving her last two mites.

Tamara Anderson 17:52

The final thing is it's this beautiful fine art print of a woman wearing the armor of light. And it says on the sides here the sword of the spirit, the helmet of salvation, the shield of faith, feet shod with the preparation of gospel peace. And it's it's it's a beautiful piece of artwork, it's framed, it's ready to go. And I'm so excited to share that with you guys.

Tamara Anderson 18:21

So this awesome giveaway, it's about $450 worth of things. And you can enter by going to my personal profile Tamarakanderson.com, on Facebook, on Instagram, on YouTube. And or just look for women worries of light. And you will find it there. You can also go to the website women warriors of light and enter the giveaway from there. We'll have links to it on the website there that you can find. And I'm just gonna apologize in advance. The website isn't where we want it to be yet, but it's coming and it's getting there. So be patient with this is we're under construction. But follow us because we are doing amazing social media things and have been for the last couple weeks.

Tamara Anderson 19:14

We've got mental health Monday that we're doing. We're doing tips on Tuesday. We've got things on Wednesday, Thursday, fitness Friday, we've got tips on Saturday, and then Sunday is always a Bible verse. And so I will invite you to follow us we've got reels that are going up and YouTube shorts that are going up. And so just general, awesome tips for women. And just what the idea and motivation that we can get through the challenges that we face.

Tamara Anderson 19:49

And I'm also going to be doing a survey coming up where I want to find out what are some of the struggles that you're having because one of the things that we're going to do with this women's group is to bring in experts, and have them teach us and coaches how to handle those challenges that we're facing with a perspective of faith. And so, follow us join the women warriors of light group, I'm so excited to be sharing this content with you. And making it a part of women's daily lives because we need each other life is really, really hard. And as we work together, and inspire and motivate each other, we can overcome the challenges that we face. So that is just a quick update...

What to Do When God Stops Your Progress

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 04 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0600

A few months ago I felt like there was a giant wall in front of me every time I tried to edit a podcast. Here I tell the story of my wrestle with God to try to figure out what He was trying to tell me and teach me.

Episode Discussion Points

I share some journal entries from October 2022 about how I literally felt sick and ill every time I needed to record or edit a podcast.
Brainstorming how to deal with podcasting burnout, including reaching out to fellow podcasting friends.
Reading the story of Balaam in Numbers 22 about his progress being stopped by an angel that his donkey saw.
Balaam said, “All that the Lord speaketh, that I must do.” (Numbers 23:26)
At some points in my life I had felt like my blocks have been my own fears, but I didn’t feel that was true this time. I felt like I, like Jacob of old, had been wrestling with an angel.
I was finally guided to ask the right question, “What is keeping me from progressing?” And God’s answer to me, and how it impacts this podcast.
“Focus on the peace,” when an answer is hard.

Invitation

If you are struggling with your progress being stopped, take it to God. You may need to wrestle with Him a bit for an answer, find some quiet time to read your scriptures, ponder and pray.

Specifically ask God this question, “What is keeping me from progressing?” And then listen.
Ask God to help you see and be able to act on the right answer.
Then move forward with faith and trust in God and the path He points you toward.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #progressstopped #wrestlewithGod #answerstoprayer #prayer #Godguides #trustGod #podcasting

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/what-to-do-when-god-stops-your-progress

3 Tips for Strong Growth in Adversity from Bristlecone Pines

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 28 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Several years ago I went on a hike with my family in Great Basin National Park to see the Bristlecone Pine trees. What I learned about these trees helped me see more clearly how we can all stay strong during times of adversity.

Episode Discussion Points

How we visited in October 2019 in Great Basin National Park, and Nathan wasn’t very happy about hiking in the snow.
As we approached the grove of Bristlecone Pines I was amazed by what I learned reading the placards about these ancient and resilient trees.

Facts About Bristlecone Pines

Some Bristlecone Pines can live nearly 5,000 years and are the oldest living things on our planet.
Most of these pine trees have been alive 3,000 to 5,000 years. Imagine them clinging to rocks when the Romans, Jesus Christ, Cleopatra and the construction of the pyramids.
The species are native to the Rocky Mountains and other ranges of the southwestern United States.
The usually grow at elevations above 5,500 feet and up to 11,200 feet.
We went and saw the Great Basin Bristlecone pines at their high elevationspiral out from seemingly impossible soil of limestone rock
Bristlecone pines in Great Basin National Park grow in isolated groves just below the tree-line. The conditions in which they live are harsh (with temperatures that drop well below freezing), a short growing season, and high winds that twist the trees into almost human-like forms along their limestone ridges. Because of these conditions Bristlecone Pine grow very slowly, and in some years do not even add a ring of growth.
Often they twist into gnarly shapes which makes them very strong and they stay standing for centuries even after the tree dies.
The Bristlecone Pines grow in rugged conditions in the high mountains and in the middle of desert valleys.
They have an unusual ability to adapt to their environments
They can also live in isolation where other species cannot survive

3 Tips for Strong Growth in Adversity

1. Grow Slow, be patient, wait on God

Slow down in times of adversity, so you can process change, make time to absorb God’s goodness into circumstance and be able to grow strong—producing the resin needed to resist the adversary who wants you to decay.

The bristlecone pine is the world's slowest-growing tree
One tree (which was still alive) had a sample of its core removed which dated back to 1126 BC!!!!
Nutrients are scarce, slow-and-steady approach to growth,
Example: Hollow Tree: different tree which is about 2000 years old,
Grew too fast which made its center more subject to decay—and the tree’s center rotted
But the tree is still alive in its outer rings—being more wise and slow as it has aged.

Related Bible Verses About Slowing Down in Adversity

Isaiah 40:31 “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.
James 5:7-8 “Be patient therefore, brethren, unto the coming of the Lord. Behold, the husbandman waiteth for the precious fruit of the earth, and hath long patience for it, until he receive the early and latter rain. Be ye also patient; stablish your hearts: for the coming of the Lord draweth nigh.”

2. Adapt to Adversity: Stronger in Christ

Freezing, harsh, remote conditions can make you grow strong and stand the test of time.

The environment’s combo of tough conditions—especially freezing temperatures, dry soils, high winds, and short growing seasons—makes them resilient.
This slow growth rate makes the wood dense and heavy, which helps to ward off insects, fungi, rot, and weathering.
Re: Adversity—The Bristlecone Pine’s “ability to stand for centuries after death is directly related to the adversity of its life.”
Remain standing for thousands of years after they die.
They can survive in these harsh environments by storing water in their thick needles and roots.

Bible Verses About Becoming Resilient During Adversity

How do we become resilient in adversity as described in 2 Corinthians 4:8-9, “We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;”
Tip from Paul 2 Corinthians 12:9 – “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

3. Prune back the unnecessary

Sometimes during times of hardship, we need to prune things from our lives and focus on the basics.

Many pines rely on a single tap root and utilize shallow just-below-the-surface roots to chase cracks in soil and sniff out water spots to send nutrients upward. Bristlecones do this, too; they just do it in a hardier way, in far tougher soil.
Even after a lifetime of endurance, they can slowly start to shut off flow to outer limbs and hold on to the most viable living tissue, for centuries upon centuries, which is part of why they erode into the wild shapes they are known for—and can continue to, after they actually die.
Often they will die in portions. As the roots become exposed they will dry out and die. The tree directly connected above those roots will eventually die as well.
The remainder of the tree will continue to live.
Get my Not to Do List to figure out what you can eliminate from your life here.

Bible Verses About Pruning

John 15:2 “Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he taketh away: and every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth it, that it may bring forth more fruit.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven . . . a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

Good Questions to Ask

What are the basics you need to focus on?
What do you need to prune?

Religious leader Dieter F. Uchtdorf said, “It is good advice to slow down a little, steady the course, and focus on the essentials when experiencing adverse conditions.”

Invitation

Go to God and

Ask Him what you need to focus on during adversity?
What do I need to prune?

Then act on the inspiration He gives you.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #adversity #tipsforadversity #JesusChrist #BibleVerses #BristleconePines #Resilience

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/bristlecone-pines-3-tips-for-strong-growth-in-adversity

A Peek at the Anderson Family Christmas Program

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 21 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

May I share with you my favorite Christmas tradition? Listen as I share with you a little about our Nativity program that we act out as a family every year on Christmas Eve. Bonus: You can even get a copy of the program in the show notes.

Christmas Nativity Program

Years ago when I was a little girl we began acting out the nativity each year and have kept the tradition each Christmas Eve with our family.
I share what this looks like and even give you a peek into what our simple program looks like.
Download a copy of my Bible-Based Nativity Christmas Program here.
Remember, acting the Nativity out can be as simple or complex as you want it to be, but it doesn’t have to be perfect.
The purpose is to have fun and to point us to Jesus Christ during the holiday season. He is the reason for the Christmas season after all.
I testify that Jesus Christ lives and loves each of us! Merry Christmas!

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #nativity #christmasprogram #holidaytraditions #christmastraditions #nativity #bible #christmasstory #JesusChrist #BirthofChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/a-peek-at-the-anderson-family-christmas-program

The One-Piece-at-a-Time Nativity Gift

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 14 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

After a move across the country when I was fourteen, Christmas didn't feel quite the same until a knock at our door set in motion a series of events that changed Christmas for the better.

Story

When I was fourteen years old, my family moved across the country from Virginia to Arizona. This was a hard move for me as a teenager and I had a hard time making new friends. As Christmas approached, it was a transition to even see the difference in the weather. It didn’t even feel like Christmas in Arizona.

That all changed when twelve days before Christmas a piece of a nativity showed up on our doorstep along with a note about how this was a holiday 12-days of Christmas gift to our family. Each night after that another piece of the nativity showed up.

On Christmas day evening, a sweet family in our congregation showed up with the final piece of the nativity: Jesus Christ.

This family noticed the new family struggling to fit in and adapt and they loved us with the pure love of God. To this day I am thankful that God blessed and filled us with love because of the gift of another family that holiday season.

Holiday Bible Verse

Isaiah 9:6, “For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.”

Invitation

If you are feeling lonely or discouraged this holiday season, I invite you to give of yourself—for it is in giving that we receive.

Talk to God and ask Him who needs to feel His love this holiday season, and how you can be a part of that. He will inspire you to know what to do.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #christmasstory #holidaystory #christmasgift #giftoflove #giftofhope #lonely #JesusChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/the-one-piece-at-a-time-nativity-gift

Debbie Ihler Rasmussen: Choosing Christmas Joy Amidst Grief

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 07 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Debbie learned from her parents example the importance of choosing to still celebrate Christmas even when a tragedy struck their family during the holiday season.

Episode Discussion Points

Favorite holiday tradition: buying an ornament the different places they went, and getting one for each of her children too (so they could have ornaments when they got married.)
This tradition eventually evolved into Debbie getting each ornament out and telling the story of each ornament.
Debbie shares the Christmas season when she was five years old when her oldest brother died in an accident.
The miracle that even though the entire town shut down and turned Christmas off after it that they were able to celebrate Christmas every year with joy since then.
Debbie says it was almost like her mom tried to celebrate Christmas more joyfully after that—but it was definitely a choice for her to do that.
We always remember those who have passed on when the anniversary of their death occurs, but we can choose whether to celebrate it with sadness or with joy (or maybe a bit of both).
If you are mourning a death right now and even have a small desire to begin to change that to be something positive, it all starts with a small desire. Then ask God to help you begin that process of healing so you can find more joy and less grief in the memory.

Favorite Bible Verse

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy path.”

This is especially applicable when we talk about losing those we love to death.

Connect with Debbie

Website: https://www.authordebbieihlerrasmussen.com/
Listen/Read Debbie’s story—Rediscovering her Self-Worth after Divorce, on my podcast.
Awesome Christmas presents: The Mystic Trilogy: Mystic Angel, Mystic Lake, and Mystic Mansion.
For younger gift recipients: Nessumsar Family - Legend of the Crow, Book 2 is Immanence.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #death #grief #holidaygrief #holidayhope #JesusChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/debbie-ihler-rasmussen-choosing-christmas-joy-amidst-grief

Krista Isaacson: Finding Christmas Joy When You're Missing Loved Ones

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 30 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Krista shares the story of her grandfather spending his first Christmas away from his wife as a soldier in Korea where he spent a humble and joyful Christmas in an orphanage as he shared a simple gift. She also shares how she has found joy during the holidays even after her daughter has passed away.

Episode Discussion Points

Holiday tradition—pick any box of sugared cereal for Christmas Morning breakfast
Krista tells the story of her grandfather leaving his brand new bride to go serve in the Korean War.
Her grandpa said it was hard to see the little children who were orphaned due to the war.
Someone in the village set up a little makeshift orphanage in a bombed out village
He and a buddy would take anything they could and visit the children in the orphanage.
Taking the hard tack candy from his care package and giving it to the children in the orphanage—and their joy since this was their only Christmas present.
The children then danced for them in their bare feet and ragged clothes to say thank you.

Lessons Learned

Be thankful for the blessings we have and never take them for granted because things can so easily be taken away.
Even in the hardest, darkest days there can still be things that bring us hope
Allow others to come into your darkness and bless your life
If you are away from family during the holidays, look for someone to serve
True joy doesn’t come from decorations, family or lights—it comes from serving and giving what you can.

To People Grieving Loved Ones During the Holidays

If you feel stuck—it is okay
Be patient with yourself and allow time and grace as you go through all the emotions
Don’t pretend grief doesn’t exist
Try not to be stuck forever. Allow yourself moments and times to grieve, and then say, “I don’t want to be stuck here.”
Remember the joyful times—Krista wants her angel daughter to know (in heaven) that her death didn’t only bring sadness to her life, that she also remembers the joyful times as well.
Each Christmas Krista and her husband write their angel daughter a letter and stick it in her stocking. In this letter they make a promise to her of something they will do that coming year to better themselves, serve others or add goodness. Because these are the things that will help them become more like her and be prepared to be where she is in heaven.

Favorite Bible Verse about Jesus Christ

Isaiah 12:2, “Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and not be afraid: for the Lord Jehovah is my strength and my song; he also is become my salvation.”
It is a process to truly learn to trust God and have Him become our salvation.

Connect with Krista

Listen to her podcast where she shares the story of losing her young daughter to a brain tumor here: Krista Isaacson: Courageously Trusting God With Heavy Burdens
Buy her book Unbearable Burden on Amazon. This makes a great Christmas Gift—especially to someone struggling with grief.
https://www.kristamisaacson.com/
Facebook: Krista Walker Isaacson
Instagram: @kristamisaacson

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #christmasstory #koreanwar #orphanage #christmascandy #service #grief #loss #peace

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/krista-isaacson-finding-christmas-joy-when-youre-missing-loved-ones

Rhonda Lauritzen: What to Do When Christmas Doesn't Work Out

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 23 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Rhonda joins us to tell the story of Heidi, who was a young girl in Berlin during World War II and a valuable lesson she learned about Christmas and perspective when things don’t go as you expect.

Episode Discussion Points

Holiday tradition of having biscuits and gravy on Christmas morning—which goes back several generations.
Rhonda has been working with Heidi, an 86-year-old who went through WWII in Berlin as a child.
Heidi came out of the war with hope and resilience—never losing her dimpled smile.
Heidi’s Holiday story has its setting in Berlin in 1944—when the situation there was dire with daily bombings and very little food. There were no Christmas presents—no tree.
Heidi and her mother decided their big celebration was they were going to make a cake and they had been saving their sugar.
Unfortunately, Heidi accidentally put salt in the mixture instead of sugar, so when the cake was done is was awful and too salty.
Her mother slumped on the floor and sobbed at this point and Heidi thought she ruined Christmas. And unfortunately that was the theme of Christmas of 1944 in Berlin.
Good interview question for family history: “Tell me about a time when you didn’t think you would make it.” Those are the moments that we learn what we are really made of—those are the stories family wants to hear—how you made it (without sugar coating it), what you learned, and how you leaned on God—and how it made you into the person you are today.
If you need a good Christmas gift idea—give someone you love the gift of recording their story (even on your phone) this holiday season.

Lessons

When we have hard times or are going through grief, depression or financial challenges (even and especially during the holidays) sometimes it helps us have empathy for others in their hard times.
“Sometimes the happy ending is in the bigger story arc. The bright side comes from carrying on and surviving.”
Sometimes we have seasons where we feel we are losing battles—but keep trying.
“Whatever you’re feeling right now is okay.”
Its okay to sob on the floor and then get up the next day and keep living.
Try to keep a broader perspective in hard times and a hope that things will get better.
If you are having a good and happy holiday season, be aware of those who may be struggling. Ask God to help you find and help someone in need.
Be sure to follow God-thoughts to be kind to someone.

Favorite Bible Verse about Christ

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy path.” ~Proverbs 3:5-6

Invitation

Ask someone this question this holiday season:

“Tell me about a time when you didn’t think you would make it.”

Then listen and learn from them and their story (and maybe record it).

Connect with Rhonda

Connect with Rhonda on her website: https://evalogue.life/
Get the FREE Interviewing Tool Kit here: https://evalogue.life/oral-history1/
Looking for a great Christmas gift? Rhonda and her team can help you give the gift of a professional interview with a loved one for Christmas—learn more on her website.
Rhonda is also a writing coach and helped Rob A. Gentile with his #1 Best-Seller, Quarks of Light. (You can find my interview with Rob here: Rob A. Gentile: Lessons of Love from a Near Death Experience).

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #hardtimes #Christmasstory #berlin #WWII #Christmas

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/rhonda-lauritzen-what-to-do-when-christmas-doesnt-work-out

Joan Raymond: God, Where is My Christmas Miracle?

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Joan shares a poignant story from wondering where God was when she was broke at Christmas time to receiving a Christmas miracle. Enjoy her holiday story of hope!

Episode Discussion Points

Making new traditions that fit your family better (like Thanksgiving breakfast)
Holiday story being broke
Praying to God for help
Miracle that happened

Lessons Learned

Always trust that God is listening—orchestrating miracles even years in advance
He knows our needs and will not leave us or forsake us.
Make or keep mementos to remind you of miracles (or journal about it)
Follow thoughts (inspiration) when we are feeling stuck, need guidance or miracles

Bible Verse

Ps. 91:1-2 "Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”

Need a Christmas Gift?

Get Joan’s book, Fly on the Wall (for 8-12 year olds) about a boy who gets what he wants only to find out it wasn't what he really needed. Find it here on Amazon

Connect with Joan

Website: https://joanraymondwriting.com/
Blog: http://aheartforwriting.com

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #holidaystory #christmasmiracle #holidays #miracle

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/joan-raymond-god-where-is-my-christmas-miracle

Jo Ann Glim: How Do You Share the Gift of Tradition?

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 09 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Jo Ann tells the story of a memorable Christmas when she was five-years-old and her Swedish grandmother gave her the gift of tradition. Enjoy this warm and happy holiday memory.

Lessons Learned

It is important to bring out and pass on traditions from the past and pass them on to future generations in our family. And if you don’t have traditions to pass on, start your own traditions.
Gather as families during the holidays and share stories of Christmas past or stories of our ancestors.
Pass down ornaments from grandparents to grandchildren
Traditions are often something that have brought you love or joyful feelings.
If you have a favorite Christmas memory, write it down so it can be passed on to future generations as well. (And this would be a great Christmas gift to give to your family.)

Connect with JoAnn

Listen to my interview with Jo Ann about surviving and recovering from her stroke here.
Visit her website here https://www.joannglim.com/
Buy her award-winning book, Begotten With Love, where she shares this story and more about her grandparents.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #Christmasstory #holidaytraditions #traditions #sharetraditions #humor

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/jo-ann-glim-how-do-you-share-the-gift-of-tradition

Dr. Michael Olpin: 4 Habits to Ensure a More Balanced, Less Stressful Life

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 02 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Did you know there are 4 research-based habits you can incorporate into your life to help you live feeling more balanced and with less stress? Join us today as Dr. Michael Olpin shares what these four habits are and why they are so important to living a more happy and whole life.

Episode Discussion Points

Research has shown if you do at least 4 habits consistently you will get your body and mind in the state of balance.

You don’t change a behavior overnight, but over the course of 9-weeks Dr. Olpin sees these behaviors changing his students. So, in his Mind, Body Wellness class he invites the students to participate in a Behavioral Contract where they promise to incorporate at least the 4 key habits into their lives during that semester. After reporting on in weekly, they find their lives are much more balanced and they are able to handle their stress better.

Getting Your Mind and Body In Balance

1.Exercise: this is one of the best things for us! The physiological effects of exercise are huge! This is the MVP of wellness.

2.Nutrition: there are lots of diets, but Dr. Olpin recommends thinking about what our ancestors ate and focus on that. Eat as natural as possible. Try to stay away from sugars, liquid oils & processed foods.

3.Managing Stress: There are two approaches to managing stress.

First, preventing stress by how we think about things (Example it is near impossible to be stressed and grateful at the same time.) Other examples of positive thoughts to prevent stress are: acceptance, forgiveness, discovery, observing mindfulness, but gratitude or thankfulness are the most powerful.
“Stress doesn’t happen to us like a virus or pathogen. Stress is a result of how we are thinking about our environment.”
Second is turning the stress response off once it starts through meditation, yoga and other things.

4.Get Enough Sleep: Studies show that if you don’t get enough sleep you will start hallucinating (showing the importance of dreaming). Sleep in a place as dark and quiet as possible. Also getting rid of screen time as early as possible before bed can impact sleep.

Spend Time in the Sun Every Day: This is especially important early in the morning. Getting a little sun every day will affect your sleep at night.
If there is any blue light at night, melatonin doesn’t kick in and you have a hard time falling asleep. And melatonin is the hormone which helps us sleep deeply.
Science seems to back Ben Franklin’s adage early to bed early to rise. At least sleep from 11pm-3am—which are the golden hours.

*Bonus: How to Think in Peace-Promoting Ways

Reading uplifting literature
Being kind

Invitation

Incorporate one of these habits into your life today and see if you can add all four in your life over the next month.

Connect with Dr. Olpin

Websites: michaelolpin.com and https://stressmanagementplace.com get his free newsletter or reach out to contact him on either website. You can also invite him to come and speak to your organization.
Textbook: Stress Management for Life: A Research-Based Experiential Approach
Award winning book: “Unwind: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life”
Additional book: “The World is NOT a Stressful Place: Stress Relief for Everyone.”
You can also get his workbooks with his online classes or on his website.

Want To Hear More of Dr. Olpin & His Story?

If you missed Dr. Olpin’s personal story in last week’s episode as well as his meditation you can do anywhere to calm your stress response, be sure to check out last week’s episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/dr-michael-olpin-how-to-easily-decrease-your-stress-today

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/dr-michael-olpin-4-habits-to-ensure-a-more-balanced-less-stressful-life

Dr. Michael Olpin: How to Easily Decrease Your Stress Today

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 26 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Michael didn’t set out to be a college professor, he just wanted to learn to manage his stress, but this quest led him to not only lower his blood pressure but influence tens of thousands to live a more healthy lifestyle.

Episode Discussion Points

Looking younger than you are has pros and cons
The diagnosis and curiosity around “meditation” that led to his becoming a professor of stress management, health and wellness.
Stress plays a part in high blood pressure
Dr. Olpin has learned several tools, including meditation, that help bring out bodies back into balance, and when a body is in balance it can heal.
Everyone has more stress than is useful
What turns on the stress response
Stress makes every health problem worse
As stress levels go up, immune function goes down.
The impact of losing his older brother to suicide had on him and his journey toward acceptance which included forgiving and letting guilt and negative self-talk go.
How God helped him change his thinking so he could work toward peace, and how meditation helped him hear God’s spirit speaking to him and guiding him.
When he meditates before prayer, his prayers and his ability to listen are exponentially more powerful.
How are thoughts are like bees busy buzzing around and meditation calms them and puts them back in the hive. And once they are quiet they can hear inspiration.
Studies show that people who meditate frequently can get into the theta and delta levels in their brain (*which usually appear when people are in deep sleep).
People who meditate are biologically 12 years younger than their age.
Every system in the body breaks down when we are in a stress response (fight or flight)
Meditation helps stop the stress response and bring the body back to normal
Meditate means to focus—whether it be on a mantra, watching the sunset, a campfire, or the ocean waves rolling in.

A Simple Meditation You Can Do Anywhere

Put one hand on your chest and try NOT to make your chest or shoulders move as you breathe.
Put your other hand on your stomach to help you breathe deep and expand.
Breathe in naturally through your nose.
Then exhale as slow and soft as you can.
Don’t worry about how fast or slow you are breathing
Simply focus on your breath, and bring your mind back if it wanders (don’t get mad at yourself if it does wander).
Then move through your body from the top of your head taking each part and relaxing or releasing the muscles with each exhale (ex: inhale, breathe out—relax your eyebrows, inhale, breathe out—relax your cheeks and jaw, inhale, breathe out—release your neck and shoulders, inhale, breathe out—release your arms, then hands, your back…on down to your toes.)
This type of breathing is the exact opposite of fight or flight breathing and will automatically calm you down.
His goal with his mind body wellness is to help people live at their peak levels.
The waves of stress never stop, but we can learn to be peaceful through the waves of life.

Favorite Bible Verse

Proverbs 3:5-6—especially where it says, “Lean not unto thine own understandings.” Don’t get cocky. Lean on God and He will steer you in better direction than you could go on your own.

Every time Dr. Olpin tries God and His promises things work out for the best.

“We can’t out-God God.”

Dr. Olpin likes to apply this verse every time he presents by saying a prayer before he teaches and asking for God’s help to reach His children. And it always goes better.

Connect with Dr. Olpin

Websites: michaelolpin.com and https://stressmanagementplace.com get his free newsletter or reach out to contact him on either website.
Textbook: Stress Management for Life: A Research-Based Experiential Approach
Award winning book: “Unwind: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life”
Additional book: “The World is NOT a Stressful Place: Stress Relief for Everyone.”
You can also get his workbooks with his online classes or on his website.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #healthylifestyle #stress #stressmanagement #meditation #suicide#help #mindset #Godsspirit

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/dr-michael-olpin-how-to-easily-decrease-your-stress-today

4 Tips to Deal with Strong Emotions

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 19 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0600

I’ve been dealing with some major burnout and strong emotions lately, so I thought I’d share a quote from a book I read recently which really resonated about how to deal with and process strong emotions.

Awesome Quote

“Acknowledge your emotions. All of them. Even the ugly and scary ones. Resisting them only lets them build up and makes them harder to deal with. Don’t be ashamed of your strong emotions. Give them a voice. If it’s not safe to express to people, write them out. Vent them on the page. If you don’t have time to express them, take a minute to admit them to yourself. And when you have the time, give them that voice and that time. You owe it to yourself to have every emotion you feel.”

—Full Rigged, by Rebecca Connolly, Sophia Summers, and Heather B. Moore

Tips to Deal with Strong Emotions

Baseline Hack: Acknowledge ALL Emotions—don’t bottle them up inside (it only makes it worse).

Talk it Out to Someone You Trust

friend, family member, accountability group

Vent Them Through Writing

write or journal about the feelings or emotions

Admit Them to Yourself & God

Personal story about me being angry and having to talk to God to get the emotion out.
Jeremiah 33:3 - Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.

Take Time to Process All Emotions

Not always fine
Be patient with yourself as you process all your emotions.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/4-tips-to-deal-with-strong-emotions

Coree Sullivan: Don’t Just Rebound After Divorce! Heal & Thrive!

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 12 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0600

After trying to unsuccessfully rebound after a few divorces, Coree finally figured out the importance of becoming a whole person through healing with God. She shares her passion to help those who have gone through the pain of divorce find the healing journey that puts them in a position to thrive.

Episode Discussion Points

Funny story of a snake while she was helping a woman in Paraguay on a healing journey
What Coree thought life would look like for her when she was in high school
Her first marriage ended in divorce after 10 years and why she shouldn’t have done a quick rebound marriage, and another marriage.
Coree finally realized she needed to do some healing before she moved forward, but she had to hit rock bottom to figure out she needed to heal. She realized the common denominator was her.
AFter reading a book about the Law of Attraction she realized she was attracting what she was putting out there: “Two broken people attract each other.”
In order to attract a whole and healed person, you need to be a whole and healed person.
How once she came back to church and started learning the truth and developing a relationship with God, that God was able to help her heal.
She also found it was important to have a good support group of friends.
Half way through her healing she got a coach to keep her accountable.
God designed us to have relationships with others—because in relationships with others is where we grow.
How Coree likes to make quiet time in the morning to connect with God. This usually includes prayer, praise music, talking to God about what she should do that day and how she wants to do what He wants her to do that day. “Help me to stay out of my agenda and do Your agenda today.”
How she has learned to give God the troubles she is facing and how she asks God to help her with those.
At the end of the day Coree likes to write things she can celebrate from the day or how she has seen God’s hand. She also records the answers she gets.
Because there is always bad happening, recording and looking for good has given her a “different pair of eyes” to see and attract good in her life.
“If you really want change in your life, you’re going to have to be intentional about making it happen.”
Inner peace takes time to achieve, but now Coree is in such a better place and has awesome friends.

Advice to Divorcees

You’re not alone in your journey—even though it may be unique to you, God is with you.
Allow God in to help you heal. Healing is worth it in the end.
Treat your heart like a garden and pull out the hurtful things there: fear, rejection, hatred, anger, shame and guilt so we can let the flowers grow.
Be realistic about where you are and start right there at the crossroads
Be intentional—don’t just wander. Know what you want and where you want to go.
Be real with yourself about where you are in your journey.
Set goals. (Example: Don’t tear down your former spouse because God loves them and it won’t make you any bigger.)
For the really hard days—Set a goal to do one thing for yourself every morning before you leave home (ex: make sure your clothes match or that you get a shower).
Read a declaration for you and your life daily. (Check out the Patricia King’s book she used for her declarations here.)
Replace the Adversary’s Negative thoughts with Positive Affirmations. Write positive affirmations all over to remind you of your worth, for example: on your phone, on your car visor, on you mirror.
Make new happy memories: Once you tackle little things start setting bigger goals to tackle places or things you are avoiding because of memories (like visiting certain restaurants). Hack: To make it easier, take a good friend with you.
Remember the car windshield analogy: the front window is so much bigger and broader that always looking through the little rearview mirror. Move forward to bigger and better things with God’s help.
Build a core group of friends you can be real with on the days that are hard. You can even have them pray with you over the phone or perhaps they will drop everything and come and help. (And return the favor for them too).
Don’t forget the power of prayer—the Holy Spirit can help pull you up.
Work to ensure your self-talk is positive. Don’t say things to yourself that you would never say to anyone else. Give yourself grace. Invite God to teach you what He has to say about who you are and your worth.

Bible Verse

Jeremiah 29:11

Connect with Coree

Website: https://coreesullivan.com/
Check out her 90-Day program to get the clarity and set the goals you need after divorce.
Want a free consultation with Coree? She is offering this as a gift to you, my listeners. Check out her calendar link to schedule a free 30 minute consult https://calendly.com/corees/destiny-after-divorce-consultation
Get her book, Destiny After Divorce.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/coree-sullivan-dont-rebound-after-divorce-heal-thrive

7 Bible Principles to Remember When You’re Weary

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 05 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Exhausted? What can you do when you are beyond weary, and how can God help? Listen as I share 7 Bible principles I have learned from being weary.

7 Bible Principles to Remember When You’re Weary

1. God is With You & Will Help You

Isaiah 41:10

10 Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

Isaiah 43: 2-5

2 When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.

3 For I am the Lord thy God, the Holy One of Israel, thy Saviour: …

4 Since thou wast precious in my sight, thou hast been honourable, and I have loved thee: …

5 Fear not: for I am with thee:

2. Take Time to Rest

Genesis 2:2-3

2 And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made. 3 And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it: because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made.

Remember one of the 10 Commandments—Exodus 20:8

8 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.

Something that pricked me last week in my scripture study—Isaiah 58:13-14

13 If thou turn away thy foot from the sabbath, from doing thy pleasure on my holy day; and call the sabbath a delight, the holy of the Lord, honourable; and shalt honour him, not doing thine own ways, nor finding thine own pleasure, nor speaking thine own words:

14 Then shalt thou delight thyself in the Lord; and I will cause thee to ride upon the high places of the earth, and feed thee with the heritage of Jacob thy father: for the mouth of the Lord hath spoken it.

3. God can Strengthen and Renew

My Bible verse mantra:

Philippians 4:13

13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Key: Take my yoke upon you!

Matthew 11:28-30

28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

4. Submit & Let God guide you

Proverbs 3:5-8

5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil.

8 It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.

5. Be Patient

Isaiah 40:31

31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Psalms 27:14 - Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.

Lamentations 3:25-26 - The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 - To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

6. Take Care of Your Body

3 John 1:2 - Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.

1 Corinthians 3:19, 20

19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

7. Claim the Power of Angels

Psalm 91:11-12

For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

Exodus 23:20

Behold, I send an Angel before thee, to keep thee in the way, and to bring thee into the place which I have prepared.

2 Kings 6:16-18

16 And he answered, Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.

Concluding Verse

1 Peter 5:7

7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Remember you are precious to Him!

Invitation

Pick one of these things and try it if you are exhausted. Then try another one. Lean on God and He will help you.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/7-bible-principles-to-remember-when-youre-weary

Paul Taylor: How is God in the Details of our Lives?

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 28 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Paul was devastated when his son was diagnosed with Down Syndrome, but he came to see not only the power and impact of one life but how God works in the details of our lives.

Episode Discussion Points

How his birth date ended up changing the outcome of his life.
God is in the details of our life—learning to submit to God in all things
The story of Mark (their 5th of 6th child) being born
Hearing the news that Mark had Down Syndrome, which initially devastated him
What helped him literally and figuratively “get up off the closet floor” after the diagnosis
The Down Syndrome support group they joined in the Chicago area which changed their entire perspective on being parents of a child with disabilities and how to be an advocate for your child.
How their advocacy and Mark changed an entire school district’s opinion of special needs children
Sometimes you have to take a step of faith into the darkness, and give yourself grace if you move slower than you think you should—God doesn’t give up on us.
“Life isn’t a summation of good and bad. It is a picture you build over time."
The significance of the Footprints in the Sand story for him personally
Lesson in divine love from being buried in the snow on a Scout Campout with Mark
Choosing how to react toward life’s difficulties with softness or anger
Sometimes prayers bring about miracles, and other times you have to learn to let someone you love go, like his daughter Sarah
We’re here to learn and grow but when it is time to pass on we can take comfort in what Sarah shared with her father, “It's nice over there.”
The importance of remembering times when God has helped you through hard times and reminding yourself that if He did it then, He will do it again.
A father’s perspective on the influence and capacity of his child
The power and impact of one life

Lessons From Mark

It’s not about him, its about Mark and what Mark has taught him and those around him throughout their life
The spiritual impressions he personally learned that every person has great worth
Don’t underestimate the power one person can have to change people and programs with God’s help
Lesson in divine love after being buried in the snow on a Scout Campout with Mark
These special needs souls have a divine gift to influence so many people

Favorite Bible Verse

Psalm 46:10, “Be Still and know that I am God.”

Connect With Paul

Buy His book, “Mark and Me.”
Website: PaulTaylorauthor.com
Facebook and Instagram @PaulTaylorAuthor

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #specialneedschild #downsyndrome #Godinthedetails #peace #thepowerofone #Godslove

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/paul-taylor-how-is-god-in-the-details-of-our-lives

Where is God When I'm Weeping?

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 21 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Have you ever poured out your soul and cried before God? Does He hear and listen? Does He weep with us. Listen as I share a particularly poignant Bible Story which has helped me answer these questions.

Bible Story of Weeping— John chapter 11

Story of Lazarus dying and his sisters Mary and Marht
"Lord if you had been here” moments (verses 21 & 32)
When we are weeping—Jesus feels our sorrow (verse 33). Also see Hebrews 4:15-16
“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”
"He sees the joy of your future but He feels the pain of your present."
Jesus weeps with us because He loves us (verse 36)
Jesus has power to raise one from the dead and also heal one who is weeping
Brokenness may sometimes be a prerequisite to having a breakthrough with God
3 examples from my personal life where I felt so broken but then had an epiphany breakthrough while I was weeping.
Sometimes we don’t get the miracle we are so desperately praying for—but perhaps we learn something even better—that He sees us and hears us and weeps with us in our brokenness.

3 Bible Tips to Remember When Weeping

1. You’’re not alone in your weeping

Mary and Martha wept
Joseph wept
Hannah wept
David wept
Jesus wept

2. When you are weeping God is there with you.

Jesus is there with you in your pain
Jesus weeps with you.

3. Trust in God’s timing

Trust that in time your weeping and sorrow will turn to joy (Psalm 30:5).
Trust that though God weeps with you, He sees the joy coming for you and can and will heal you.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtime #crying #weeping #BibleStory #healing #JesusChrist #MaryandMartha #Lazarus

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/where-is-god-when-im-weeping

Sharon Leino: Adapting to Challenges with Flexibility & Faith

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 14 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Sharon cried when her husband was told he was going to go blind, but she learned to adapt to caregiving with imagination and flexibility as she faced each challenge with faith, hope and God.

Episode Discussion Points

How she became an amateur silversmith
When her husband was building homes for Habitat for Humanity during his retirement, she began writing
When her husband started having vision problems it took them a while to get a final diagnosis that he would eventually go blind.
How they got medical help for his condition, but were also proactive in trying to get him trained so that when he did go blind it wouldn’t be such a tragic shock
The importance of taking care of yourself when you are a caregiver so you don’t get worn out
When she was anxious--The process of learning to lay your problems at Jesus feet (at the cross) and leave them there—not to go back and “chew on them.”
Part of truly giving our burdens to God is learning to trust Him—and so it is a process of learning to work at it a bit at a time with God’s help.
Part of abounding in hope is remembering that sometimes we don’t get the miracles we want, but watch for the miracles God sends. Will wanted a miracle of the healing of his sight, but got a miracle of peace and the understanding that he would see again in heaven.
Having a “knowing hope” of things we know will happen in heaven eventually
Even when you have hard things enter your life you can still find things that bring your joy, so be creative and find things you enjoy by trying different activities.
How we need each other and weren’t meant to do it alone.
If you are feeling alone, serve others!
After her husband died, she wondered what her purpose was, and she figured out that she could help and serve others. Now she serves the church and the poor in her community.
“You don’t ever have to be lonely if you reach out and help others.”
The story behind her book “Scaredy.”
The doors that have opened to help her publish her book
Scaredy is about a 10-year-old boy facing his bullies. He and his friend end up in a fantasy world which teaches him self-confidence to help him conquer their bullies.
Using imagination and fantasy can help children learn to problem solve, which is a skill we all need to use in life.

Advice for Caregivers

Be good to yourself
Take time to read and pray daily
Go on outings by yourself or with a friend
Forgive yourself for making mistake. You are only human.
Take time to be alone
Do things that renew you and your spirit
Be flexible and modify your caregiving needs to meet the constraints of your family (ie: if you like shopping maybe you can also learn to shop online).
Stay connected to God because he can help you to manage the emotions of the changes in your life. (This takes practice, so be patient with yourself when you feel like you have failed).
Plan fun activities you can still do
Set up weekly time for you to get away and get a break by building a network of friends to help you.
It is okay to take overnight getaways without them and leave them with someone you trust.

Favorite Bible Verses

Romans 15:13, “May the God of hope fill you with joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.”
Philippians 4:6-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your request to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your heart and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Connect with Sharon

Website: https://www.sharonleinoauthor.com/
Buy a copy of Scaredy here.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #blind #maculardegeneration #losingvision #caregiving #facingfears #writing #creativeproblemsolving

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/sharon-leino-adapting-to-challenges-with-flexibility-faith

Connecting to God Through Music

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 07 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Music is such a powerful tool to connect us to God and has been throughout the ages. King David wrote the Psalm section as songs of praise unto God—and you can tell his mood in the different Psalms.

—from psalms of thanksgiving, praise, lament, courage, sorrow, anger, mourning, adoration, meditation.

1. Listen to

song about loss and almost crying—broken my heart
story—Let us all press on in the work of the Lord, “in the fight for right, let us wield the sword, the mighty sword of truth.” “Fear not. Though the enemy deride. Courage for the Lord is on our side.”

2. Sing or play

Happy journal entry from May 11, 2003—Played the piano “if you’re happy and you know it” Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes” for my kids.
Journal entry just a few days later where we were having a hard day and the music I sang in an octet expressed my understanding of grief and sorrow.

3. Dance

Psalms 149:3 - Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp.
Fun times dancing
Walking out of a concert—community college

How to Decide what Music is Uplifting

I use this scripture as a great deciding guide:

Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Need increased connection with God?

Look at what you are listening to and choose music which will bring you closer to God.

Idea

Make a music favorites playlist

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #ConnectiontoGod #dance #upliftingmusic #happymusic #music#musicplaylist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/connecting-to-god-through-music

Richie Norton: Hacks to Living a Meaningful Life

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Richie Norton’s life hasn’t been easy, but he has figured out how to ask the right questions and find he values most and live life to achieve what matters most. (And you can too!)

Episode Discussion Points

The interesting thing his dad told him when he wanted to get a job as a teenager
You can be creative and earn money as an entrepreneur
Don’t lose meaning in your life. Spend time doing the things that matter most
The passing of his brother-in-law Gavin & what he learned about not putting off your dreams
The passing of their little son Gavin and wondering how they would ever handle that
Gavin’s Law: Live to Start, Start to Live—meaning start living the ideas that are pressing on your mind.
Don’t let fear hold you back from living life to its fullest in the present, without regret
It is important in hard times to make like “airy & available” so you can navigate hard times.
With grief—a little bit of pain can fill your whole body
"Grief is a tunnel, not a cave.”
Goals are usually means to an end—so you need to ask yourself what your end goal? So, start with the end goal in mind.
Anti-time management means you control your time and live according to your values. Don’t work on your values last!
Time-management was made to control people
Example of rapper ________ (Sirah?)
When we decide “I am….” therefore, I will do and act like that right now.
Get over the self-imposed hurdles and be who you know you can be
How people aren’t afraid of failure, they’re afraid of slow growth or looking bad.
When he wondered, “Does God hate me?” And what he decided to do.
Don’t tie your faith to an outcome.
“And the greatest miracle of faith is having faith when there is no miracle.”
Do what you can with what you’ve got, where you are.
Assign positive meaning to even hard things and choose how you will look at it.
If you want a better outcome you should ask a better question.
What, “Begin with the end in mind,” means to him.
Ask yourself where you want to be in 2 years and bake in the real outcome from the start.
Live from your values and you’ll live without regret

Connect with Richie

Website: RichieNorton.com
Buy his new book Anti-Time Management on Amazon here

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #deathofchild #dreams #values #lifeofmeaning #whatmattersmost #grief #faith

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/richie-norton-life-hacks-to-living-a-meaningful-life

4 Ways to Connect to God More Deeply at Church

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0600

There are times when going to church is hard. So why do we do it? Listen as I share 4 reasons I feel a deeper connection to God when I attend church.

Going to Church Bible Verse

In Ephesians 4:12 we learn a great reason to go to church, “For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ.”

4 Reasons I Feel a Deeper Connection with God at Church

Go to Worship God

Christ is the head of the church. In Ephesians 5: 23 we learn,
“Christ is the head of the church and he is the Savior of the body."
increase connection by renewing our promises to God at church by taking communion or the Sacrament—this shows God you are willing to be His disciple.
Perhaps you will feel God teaching you how you can become more “perfected” by repenting or acting differently.
Psalm 150: 1, “Praise ye the LORD. Praise Good in his sanctuary.”

2. Listen with your heart

Tell God you are going to Church and hope to hear what He needs you to hear/learn
watch for the fruits of the Holy Spirit as taught in Galatians, “love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness and faith."
Pay attention to how you feel
Listen to the music, sermons, thoughts you have and notice how God speaks to you.
Often when I go to church I feel strengthened and empowered as I hear the testimonies of others

3. Take Notes and Take Action

When you get thoughts, write them down.
Write it on your phone, email yourself, write it in your journal
Then act when you get home. Make sure you put the thoughts on your “to do” list.

4. Ask Who Needs Help

Matthew 18:20 “Where 2 or 3 are gather in my name, there i am with them.”
Maybe you feel like "I don’t know anyone/no one talked to me/offended"
Maybe you feel like need a friend—so go and chat with people before or after the meetings
Be brave and follow impressions to meet someone new.

If you physically can’t go to church right now, remember God knows you and the desires of your heart and will help you.

Invitation

Go to church this week with a listening heart.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #church #JesusChrist #WorshipingGod #minister #listen #Act #helpothers #ConnecttoGod #Bibleverses

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/4-ways-to-connect-to-god-more-deeply-at-church

Haley H. Freeman: Choosing Life After Anorexia Killed Me

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 17 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Haley used to pray she would die because she was so depressed, but chose life when she had a near death experience. Listen to her share her story of hope and healing.

Episode Discussion Points

Why they call Anorexia “the 10-Headed Monster.” For her, some of her monsters were low self-esteem, depression, negative self-talk, believing you need diet, being a perfectionist, people commenting on her weight loss (that she looked good), feeling guilty for eating (it isn’t “fat-free or guilt-free”).
Even when her brother and parents tried to help her, she lied, acted very confrontational and ran away to hide—because this was her coping mechanism.
She even refused to go to the doctor—because she wasn’t ready to give up Anorexia yet.
Anorexia is a mind game.
Some of the physical symptoms of anorexia
The day where she felt like her heart was going to give up, and how she prayed she wouldn’t die.
Getting help at a treatment facility and a hospital
How her mom had to go to bat for her and spoon feed her at the hospital because she was so incoherent and so weak that she couldn’t do it herself
Glimpsing the other side and being with her sister and grandmother who had passed away.
How she felt the Savior’s love and the love of her family in that place
How she was given a choice—she wasn’t done with her earth’s mission yet and how she was meant to write her book and have a family and help others.
Never doubt God’s love and that you have such a unique mission to fulfill
Choosing to live even when she had been praying that she would die. Knowing she had a purpose helped her choose to live.
Her sister told her to learn sign language—and it replaced her obsession with anorexia.
If you are trying to heal from an eating disorder—find a passion—something that makes you excited to replace the disorder.
Her prognosis was she would have brain damage, and how she miraculously healed without deficits.
How important it is to get therapy specific for eating disorders.
There is hope and healing available from eating disorders, but you need help from others (specifically therapists) and from God.
There are self-esteem building exercises in the back of her children’s books which will help parents teach their children about self-love.
She wrote her children’s books because parents asked her how they can help their children have good self-esteem.
The key to being comfortable in your own skin is to catch the negative self-talk and stop it. Remind yourself that you have worth and it is important you tell yourself good and positive things not only for your good, but for your children’s good because they will follow your example.
Think about all the things you can be thankful for with your body—how your arms and eyes work.
It’s not to late to stop a negative pattern in your family. Start today!
The story behind the illustrations on her new book.

Favorite Quote

Haley’s favorite quote by Naomi Wolf, “A mother who radiates self-love and acceptance actually vaccinates her daughter against low self-esteem.”

Advice for Parents

Never give up on your child
What your child want you to know: the disorder destroys your body and your soul and changes your personality. Please know—the real them is still in there. They don’t want to act that way. They need help and want help.
Once your child gets treatment, the real them will return.
Don’t diet!!!! This is like exposing your child to their addiction while they are recovering. Be on their side! Give them a clean environment to recover in.

Favorite Bible Verse

John 14:18, “I will not leave you comfortless. I will come to you."

Connect with Haley

Website: HaleyHFreeman.com
Buy her books on Amazon
Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #anorexia #eatingdisorders #neardeathexperience #depression #mentalhealth #dontgiveup

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/haley-freeman-choosing-life-after-anorexia-killed-me

Connecting to Christ For Healing

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 10 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Last year I was pondering about healing and God taught me some powerful concepts that I want to share with you today.

Important Teaching About Healing I Learned Through Revelation

The power of Jesus Christ can heal and help remove or release any trauma we experience in this physical fallen world.

There are no limits on the healing of the soul or Spirit.
There are limits with regards to God’s will on physical healing, but those are only temporary because someday we will all have a glorious, perfect resurrected body.

The Effects of Trauma on our Bodies

Brain—neural pathways, neurotransmitters, brain waves
Hormones
Nervous System
Immune Systems
How Cells reproduce

Episode Discussion Points

So although there are limits to physical healing, when we heal the soul and Spirit through the power of Jesus Christ, it impacts our physical body as well.
Sometimes we pray for a specific physical healing, but God grants peace. So we don’t always get to pick what kind of healing God shares.
All healing happens “in the name of Jesus Christ.” Ex: "Then Peter said, Silver and gold have I none; but such as I have give I thee: IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST of Nazareth rise up and walk." Acts 3:6
If you don’t get the physical healing you want, watch for a compensatory healing from God.
The promise of a physical resurrection with perfect bodies for all of us. Ex: Job 19:25-27, “For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth: And though after my skin worms destroy this body, yet in my flesh shall I see God: Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold.”
He can help heal any unkind thing done to you or that you have done.
Jesus has paid the price for all sins and traumas
Sometimes traumas have layers and they take a long time to completely heal. You can even get help from a counselor to aid you in this process—just be sure to invite Christ to go to each appointment with you—because He is the ultimate healer.
He can help with repentance and forgiveness
He can also take the burdens we absorb when talking to others (because we are not their Savior).

When You Need Healing

Connect with God and ask what you need to do to heal
Listen for any thoughts or ideas
Say “I choose to heal.”
Lay the burden at His feet and ask His help not to take it up again
Remember that repentance and forgiveness are part of that healing of your soul

God’s Healing Promise

Malachi 4:2, “But unto you that fear my name shall the Sun of righteousness arise with healing in his wings.”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #healing #JesusChrist #ThePowerofChrist #HealinChrist #trauma #repentance #change

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/connecting-to-christ-for-healing

Traci Rhoades: Abiding in Christ, Even on Shaky Ground

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 03 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Tracy Rhoades is an outspoken Christian woman who encourages unity among all Christian sects. We talk about the importance of loving and ministering to each other as we abide in Jesus Christ.

Episode Discussion Points

As a Christian neighbor sometimes you have no idea how to help others (like when their cows get out) but you go and help anyway.
How Traci grew up in a small town attending church and participating with friends in other churches & kept meeting different people from many religions which broadened her perspective of the body of Christ.
The importance of having a spiritual toolbox of habits and practices for following Jesus at all times—but especially when life gets a little shaky
A personal story of looking for a home for six years with a lot of “why God” moments and finally standing on what would soon be her property in rural Michigan and hearing a quiet voice in her soul whisper, “You’ll heal here.”
How prayer, scripture and silence played a part in her healing
Healing has layers
No one likes to have the bottom drop out of life, but we always seem to appreciate the lessons learned through and after hard times happen
Having "rhythms of spiritual practices" helps not only us but helps us know how to minister to other in their moments of need.
Sometimes the best ministry for those who are struggling is simply the ministry of your presence—just be there
Good prayers/phrases to say in shaky ground moments, “Oh Lord have mercy,” or “Oh Lord draw near.”
What it means to “abide” with Jesus and how we do it on a daily basis
What makes hard situations easier? "As we abide with Christ, He abides with us. And then you don’t ever go through shaky times alone.”
Levels of relationships we can have with Jesus—and how Tracy wants ALL of Jesus she can receive in abundance.
You can share all your emotions with God—and there is usually a Psalm that corresponds to the emotions you are feeling
It is okay to write about the hard things you are experiencing and the emotions you feel
The importance of unity among Christians
“Christ is big enough for all of us."

Favorite Bible Verse

Proverbs 3:5-6—There are so many life truths packed in these two verses.

Trust in the Lord—most of the anxiety and fear in the world come from a lack of trust in God (and in His timing)

Ministering Ideas

if someone loses a loved one—mark the date in your calendar a year out and be sure to pray for, call, text or visit on that day
Turn people to Jesus (not to you or the latest self-help book). We need His presence in those times more than anything else
Be sensitive to how a grieving person is feeling “today” because grief ebbs and flows
Be there to hug them—sometimes no other words are needed

Connect with Tracy

Buy her new book, Shaky Ground, at any of the major bookstores or online or at bookshop.org (they give a proceed of the book to a local bookstore)
Website: tracesoffaith.com
check out her section on “All the Churches”
She is also on Facebook, Instagram and her favorite—Twitter

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #shakyground #christian #jesuschrist #abideinChrist #unity #ministering

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/traci-rhoades-abiding-in-christ-even-on-shaky-ground

6 Ways to Connect to God Through Writing

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 27 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0600

There are several different ways you can feel closer to God and heal through writing. Listen as I share them and see which one you feel you can incorporate better into your own life.

6 Different Ways to Write & Connect with God

1. Journaling

You can journal about hopes, dreams, expectations, sorrows and gratitudes
The health benefits to journaling

2. Being Grateful

I’ve been journaling 3-5 things I am thankful for on an almost daily basis for a couple of years. It is a powerful practice.
Harvard Health did a study where they showed people who journaled about gratitude came to realize that the source of blessings lay in part outside of themselves (with God) and helps them connect with something larger than they are.
Helps you notice the hand of God in your life
Studies show you’re happier when you write about things you are thankful for daily.

3. Write to Heal

Write a letter to God about grief, sorrow, hard things in your life
Read it out loud to God and then just sit there & feel His answer.
Read/Listen to what happened to my friend Shanna Johnson when she followed her therapist’s advice to try this.
Write a letter to you from God.

4. Write Down a Prayer

Sometimes I get distracted while praying and so it helps if I can write down bullet points of things I want to talk to God about
I also have a list of people I need to pray for
Remember King David’s Psalms in the Old Testament are powerful written prayers and use those examples to write your own prayer to God.

5. Write Affirmations

I share 6 Bible Based Affirmations you can write or say daily to help you connect more powerfully with God
You can get the download of these here (or you can write your own)

6. Speech to Text

If you don’t feel you are very good at writing, you can use one of the cool speak to text features so you can still get the powerful benefits of connecting to God through (speaking/writing)

There are several different ways you can feel closer to God and heal through writing. Listen as I share them and see which one you feel you can incorporate better into your own life.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #journaling #gratitude #writing #prayer #BibleBased #Affirmations

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/6-ways-to-connect-to-god-through-writing

Ganel-Lyn Condie: Mental Health Struggles? Try This!

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 20 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Ganel-Lyn had a mom and sister who struggled with mental health challenges, and her sister finally chose suicide. She shares key tips and ideas for both family members and those who struggle.

Episode Discussion Points

We all need connection with others.
Getting ready for empty-nesting and entering a new phase is challenging (and she is kind of mourning that change).
Wishes she knew more about parenting adult children
How when she was a young mom it was so hard and so slow, and now that her kids are grown she feels like it sped by in the blink of an eye.
She is blessed to have a very busy life outside of mothering that will keep her busy now.
She has given herself permission to go back to therapy and not have everything planned and sorted out (which is new for her).
The blocks analogy of life through this life transition.
How she is a perfectionist “in recovery” who used to think if she was perfect she could fix those around her and protect them from their challenges.
She grew up with a desire to put things in order.

Dealing with Mental Health & Suicide

She has a mom who deals with severe mental health issues, and a sister died by suicide.
Suicide grief is difficult and complex to deal with, and helped her realize the importance of accepting the parts of her that are broken.
Jesus is the only one who can save. “I am not responsible for saving someone else.”
“Everyone on the planet either struggles with mental health or loves someone who does.”
“Every day I wake up and I check in with my mental health.”
“Suicide is really bad exhaustion of the soul,” where they think the world would be better off without them, and wanting the pain of the soul to stop.
“Hope is doing the next plan B.” You have been through hard things before and you will get through this hard thing now.
For those struggling with pain, find the tool that will work that day.
Choose to stay in your body. “Suicide changes your other choices.”
“I love Therapy! It is education for your mind and your relationships.”

How to Help Loved Ones with Mental Health Challenges

Ask a middle age man how he is doing (and do show you with emojis).
“The opposite of addiction is connection.” So watch for loved ones who isolate.
Have a list of 5 “SOS friends” you can call when you are in crisis. These are people you love and trust, and you have planned that you can call/text when you are in need. These are people who have gone through hard times.
Ask friends in need, “What does support look like for you?”
Often people just need to be heard--go on a walk or drive with them and just listen.
What do they need? Drop of dry cleaning? Go to a movie?
You only need 1-2 really good support people.
If you feel you don’t have anyone, go to God and ask Him who needs you? “There is a resiliency skill in service.”

The Stewardship Principle

Her new book The Stewardship Principle—everything we own or experience—God is asking us to watch over it, not own it.
Stewardship vs. Ownership principles and what it looks like.
Don’t compare—we each have different stewardships!
Gratitude for “hard times” which now she gives back as “offerings.”
Often the people you show up for, show up for you.
“if we are to receive all that [God] has, our capacity has to increase.”

Mental Health Checkup Ideas

Therapy: If you haven’t found a good therapist, post on social media and find one that works for you. This can include talk therapy, EMDR (helps with trauma), massage therapy (which she does regularly), Light Therapy,
Physical Movement/Exercise
Rest
Drinking Water
Don’t over-schedule yourself when you are coming into busy times when you need to process change.
Journaling—sometimes she can’t say the words, so she writes. And sometimes she writes prayers to God. (And you can have a journal where you tear out or burn the pages afterwards.)
Meditation

Favorite Bible Verse

Psalm 91:4 “He will cover you with His feathers and under His wings you will find refuge.” Gayna-Lyn loves the idea of a loving God softly gathering us in and shielding us in the hard times.

So, snuggle up into God through meditation, through prayer, through music, through good friends, through journaling,

Connect with Ganel-Lyn

www.ganellyn.com
Her social media platforms are linked on her website.
Get her new book “The Stewardship Principle.”
Award-winning author—best of state “Let God Prevail.”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #mentalhealth #suicide #depression #gethelp #stewardship #suicideprevention #tips #howtohelp

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/ganel-lyn-condie-mental-health-struggles-try-this

Connecting to The Creator While Creating

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 13 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Can you connect to God while doing creative things? Here are some ideas of how you can unplug from stress and connect with God and your inner creative self.

Episode Discussion Points

Connecting with God can help us when we are feeling drained by life’s challenges.
Comparison to plugging a phone in when you need to recharge.
God the Father is the ultimate Creator, and we each have this seed of divine creativity within us.
“As we tap into our own creativity, we are connecting to God.”
When we are feeling worn out and exhausted, often doing something creative energizes us.
Ex: doodling on a page, creative cooking, sculpture/play-dough, music, science, cooking, building, dancing, decorating, digital creation etc.
God is the Master-Creator, and we are his crowning creation
He helps sculpt our lives to reach our biggest and best potential
Don’t compare your creative abilities to another’s.
There are gifts and talents that only you can bring into the world.
As we tap into our creativity, we tap into our potential, and we can connect with God, our Father and Creator.
How I feel when I connect to God as an author and feel the words flowing from Him through me onto the page.
Set a goal and reaching it is an act of creation.

Creativity Categories

Visual Arts—paint, sculpt, draw
Musical Abilities—composing, playing instruments, singing
Science—Learning about chemical reactions, cooking
Physical Creation—Build things, sew, dance, decorate home,
Digital Creation—Coding, audio, video

“The true work of art is but a shadow of the divine perfection.” ~Michelangelo

Invitation

Make time today or a day this week to create or do one of your hobbies—and watch to see if that helps you feel happier and have increased connection with God.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #creativity #visual arts #musicalarts #physicalcreation #cooking #writing

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/connecting-to-the-creator-while-creating

Annie McDaniel: I Can Do Hard Things

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0600

When Annie’s husband suffered a massive cerebellar stroke, her world changed. Through a series of small miracles, she found two mantras to live by through his very long recovery: “Stronger Every Day” & “I Can Do Hard Things.”

Episode Discussion Points

Why reading the "Drama in Real Life" from the Reader’s Digest helped prepare her for her own challenges.
The story of how her husband suffered a massive cerebellar stroke, but since it is so uncommon and the symptoms don’t match a regular stroke, it often goes misdiagnosed.
Being misdiagnosed because the CT scan couldn’t see the cerebellar stroke, and he was diagnosed with vertigo
Being misdiagnosed again with Viral Ear Infection
Her prayer of pleading to God to help her know what to do
Ended up being diagnosed with the Cerebellar Stroke and Hydrocephalus (and he was hours away from death unless they did surgery to relieve the pressure).
Make time to ugly cry and grieve because of the change.
She felt a tremendous peace and she felt like Darryl’s mother was there, “I am very aware of everything going on and I will be with Daryl."
How she remembered a talk called “I Can Do Hard Things” and she took 3 pieces of paper and wrote, "I can do hard things,” which became her mantra.
Daryl’s grim and not very promising prognosis
Feeling guilty that her husband was alive when so many others in the stroke unit were dying. But getting a warm reassurance from God that just like He was there with her in her story, He was with the others and knew the details of their story too and He was in control.
She was not responsible for anyone else or their story. God has that figured out.
He stayed at the hospital for a long time, and then went to a rehab center.
As a caregiver, Annie learned how important it was for her to take care of herself—get herself a Coke and a Snicker’s Bar and hang out at the chapel and it brought her peace. It is okay to take some time off as a caregiver.
The nurse whispered in her ear, “Stronger every day,” which she also added to her mantras.
The rehab and how hard it was when he couldn’t even brush his teeth.
Be willing to look for miracles every day—and speaking them out loud.
The beautiful visual image of taking your burdens and pinning them to Jesus’ cross, because He has already bourne them.
Annie knew faith was important, and love/charity was important, but she always wondered about hope. Hope became so critical while Daryl recovered—and how even though he had hopes and dreams about his recovery, “only the Lord knows” and Christ became the focus of his hope.
Physically and emotionally turning the outcome over to God
Turning ashes into a something beautiful.
How her sharing her story online and always ending with “Stronger every day,” and “I can do hard things,” has helped so many people.
Remember to have grace for other people when you see them around you.
We have angels all around us (family members who have passed on), but we have to “see” His hand through them.
Ask God to help you see the little miracles.

Things that bring Annie Peace

Listening to talks or sermons first
Exercising
Keeping things clean and simple in her home, so she can feel peace there
Listening to peaceful or fun music
Prayer: Talk to God all day long, and thank Him out-loud (gratitude)

Cerebellar Stroke Symptoms

Eyeballs flicking back and forth in head
Dizziness
Vomiting
Headache
Hard to speak
Hard to walk, poor coordination (often leaning to the side they had the stroke on).
Can’t remember

Cerebellar stroke comprise only 10% of strokes. Victims are often misdiagnosed, and although the stroke doesn’t kill them, the hydrocephalus (swelling in their brain) does, unless it is diagnosed correctly quickly.

Bible Verse

Phillipians 4 :13 - I can do all (hard) things through Christ who strengthens me.
John 14: 26-27- Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Resources

"Hope Heals” and “Suffer Strong” by Katherine & Jay Wolf
“The Power of Positive Thinking” Norman Vincent Peale
Music by Lauren Daigle

Connect With Annie

annie@missannie.com
www.missannie.com
www.missannieshomeandkitchen.com
Facebook- Miss Annie’s Home + Kitchen
Instagram- Miss Annie’s Home + Kitchen
YouTube- Miss Annie’s Home + Kitchen

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #cerebellarstroke #stroke #symptomsofcerebellarstroke #missannie #peace #prayer

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/annie-mcdaniel-i-can-do-hard-things

3 Ways to Connect with God in Nature

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0600

How do you connect with God in nature? Today we will talk about three ideas on how you can do this and incorporate a little more peace into your life. This is the second in our series of connecting to God.

Episode Discussion Points

Story of my husband kayaking out on a lake in the early morning and feeling a peace and such a release of stress.

3 Ideas for Connecting with God Through Nature

1. Stand Barefoot

An article in the Washington Post a few years ago showed research on how standing barefoot in the grass can “improve sleep, reduce pain, decrease muscle tension and lower stress.”
How I have felt such peace when I have stood on the beach.
A college health professor has encouraged his students to go and stand barefoot when they are feeling stressed (and it actually works).

2. Slow Down & Commune

Examples in the scriptures: Jesus going out into the wilderness to pray and commune with His Father, Moses going up into a mountain to talk to God
“Consider the lilies of the field.” Luke 12:27—take time to slow down and look at the details of the world around you.
See and notice God in the world around you.

3. Use All Your Senses & Give Thanks

Disconnect from the busyness of the world and think about what you are seeing, feeling, hearing and experiencing in nature around you.
Give thanks to God for what you see, touch, smell, hear
Story of me enjoying a peaceful moment giving thanks to God as I sat under a tree at Bryce Canyon.
“There is beauty to be found in every part of God’s creations.”

Call to Action

Say a prayer in nature sometime this week, be thankful and feel of God’s love and peace.

Download the 7 Ways to Connect with God infographic https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/j1t4k6

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #nature #connecttoGod #peace #prayer #barefoot #senses #gratitude

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-ways-to-connect-with-god-in-nature

Liz Kazandzhy: 3 Ways the Holy Ghost Helps In Trials

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Liz joins us today to share 3 personal stories of how God’s Spirit helped her move forward , feel peace and helps us amidst life’s challenges.

Episode Discussion Points

Training guide dogs
When God says, “no.” Being totally involved in music and wanting to major in it, to all of the sudden losing her passion for music and wondering what she was supposed to do with her life.
God led her toward Human Development
Journaling helped her process the change.
When she felt disappointment coming from other people, but she knew God knew what she needed to do.
Choosing an internship—and how God guided her to pick an internship which led her to go to Romania to a hospital and an orphanage.
Being able to listen when the Holy Ghost gives you direction
The Holy Ghost can help you discover your “Why!" God can lead to to find the best path which will bring you the most joy and learning.
Follow impressions to help and serve others (in big and little things).
When she experienced postpartum depression and felt like something was broken in her brain
When she finally opened up to her sisters about it, she found out several of them had experience it as well.
Her decision to begin taking medication
Learning to deal with anxiety after she got her depression under control
The Holy Ghost—can speak truth to you
A lot of the problems with depression and anxiety are thoughts entering your mind that aren’t true
The Spirit can teach you what inner voices aren’t truth and what is truth
The first step to recognize negative self-talk and then replace it with the positive and the truth
You can also ask God to help you to recognize it and pull out of it (because in the moment it is often very hard)
Prayer is powerful—both asking for God’s help and asking others to pray for you as well.
A sweet story of one of her little daughters praying for her.
How God wants us to turn to each other for help and comfort and how we aren’t meant to do it alone
The story of being able to marry her fiancé Vlad, from the Ukraine, and how hard it was to be able to married and get a fiancé visa.
How after pouring her heart out to God, she felt God’s love and empathy.

Favorite Bible Verses

When you are weeping: “Jesus wept,” when He was comforting Mary & Martha after Lazarus died (even though He was going to bring him back to life). Remember Jesus waited to bring Lazarus back, and sometimes we have to be patient and wait for the miracle.
For comfort: John 14:16

Connect with Liz

Website: LizKazandzhy.com
LDS Book Nook—her podcast
Buy her book: The Holy Ghost from A to Z

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/liz-kazandzhy-3-ways-the-holy-ghost-helps-in-trials

4 Devotional Ideas to Connect to God Daily

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 15 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0600

I am going to be doing a series on connection over the next few Tamara’s Takeaway episodes, and we are first going to talk about how we can connect to God through a daily devotional.

Episode Discussion Points

It is important to connect to God because the closer we feel to Him, the stronger and more courageous we feel.
Religious leader Jeffrey Holland said about our connection with God that it is the “most important connection of all.” He continued, “As you forge a bond your Father in Heaven, He will forge a bond with you.” (Deseret News, March 6, 2021 page 24.)
James 4:8, “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.”
John 15:5, “I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.”

4 Daily Devotion Ideas

There are 7 categories I am going to be talking about over the next few weeks, but we will only discuss 1 today: Connecting to God through daily devotionals and what that can look like.

Prayer

Kneeling (formal) or informal—mid-day, while driving, conversations, pleas for help, evening prayer, in moments of crisis, help to know how to handle a situation, to deal with strong emotions, etc.
Colossians 4:2, “Continue in prayer, and watch in the same with Thanksgiving.”
Examples of Jesus praying through the Lord’s prayer

Scripture Study

Reading the word of God chapter by chapter
Following a daily devotion prepared by someone else coupled with quotes/insights
Memorizing Bible Verses
Posting Bible verses around home, car, on phone
Listening to scripture
Open to a random verse/chapter and read

Meditation

Meditation can be prayer
It can be repeating a word over and over like peace, heaven, God, connect, hope, love etc.
If you lose focus, just come back and keep going (everyone tends to get distracted while meditating—especially when they are first starting).
Meditation can also be saying Bible phrases while breathing deeply like, “Be still and know that I am God,” or “Peace be still.”
Story of Elijah and how after all the distractions he found connection with God through the “still, small voice.” (1 Kings 19:12)
If you need help meditating, check out this podcast episode:

Gospel Talks/Speeches

I love either reading or listening to people talk about the gospel
This often helps bring be closer to God.

Call to Action

Incorporate a daily devotional in your life starting today! If you already do one, did God inspire to to add something or tweak your routine a little bit. Listen to and follow those promptings.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/devotional-ideas-to-connect-to-god-daily

Jeff & Sheldon: How to Make Habits that Actually Stick

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 08 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Jeff Corrigan and Sheldon Mills of the Idea Gym podcast are no strangers to setting and reaching goals. Today we talk about some of the key ingredients to making good habits stick which will change your life for the better.

Episode Discussion Points

The great white tiger Mohini’s story and how that applies to limiting beliefs that seem to hold us captive and stuck.
Jeff shares a story in his life where life got really hard and very busy, and he had to evaluate what habits were most important to keep him going.
power in habits in keeping your momentum moving forward when we’re trying to push passed limiting beliefs
Jeff’s daily habits included: daily scripture study, journaling, listening to personal development books,
Jeff noticed the things being taught in the scriptures were the same things being taught in personal development books and he started wondering how he could apply these things in his life.
Jeff’s & his wife pushed forward searching for answers to her health challenges until wife was finally diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease.
In order to help his wife manage her health, they have had a complete lifestyle change, especially with diet. These changes happened a little at a time, but their overall impact has helped them both become healthier.
How God helps us work through life line upon line, one baby step at a time.
If not seeing progress, remember to be patient, then identify the end result/identity shift you are trying to make (instead of saying you want to lose 30 pounds realize the real goal is you want to live a healthier lifestyle).
“if you want to change your life, you have to change something you do daily.”—Sheldon
The power of having an accountability partner
We know we can get stuck in bad habits, now let’s shift that and get stuck in good habits.
One of the core fundamentals to developing a habit is a concept called
Decide who you want to be and prove it to yourself by small daily wins.
Don’t quit when you miss a day. Just keep going.
Core Fundamental Upper and Lower Limits.
This means establishing a maximum and a minimum you are going to do for a goal each day/week—not an all or nothing (because we inevitably don’t fulfill those).
Ex: Lower limit writing one sentence in my journal; Upper Limit—writing a 1-2 pages (but don’t overdo it—set a max).
"It’s not about getting there tomorrow, it is about progress each day.”—Jeff
The best routine is something you will actually do.
If you want to change the shape of your hour, change 10 minutes of that hour. If you want to change the shape of your day, change what you do this hour.

Favorite Bible Verse and Quotes

“Ships turned about with a very small helm.”—from James chapter 3

“The minutes and hours well-spent are the building blocks of a good life.” —Sheldon

Check out the Habit Master’s Course

Help you identify and clarify the person you want to become
Identify a very clear daily action step to get you there
6 Fundamentals checklist to help you build successful habits

Then you become a habit master, because you can repeat what you have learned over and over and reach your full potential.

Cost: $98, but that is for 2 people. You have to do it with a buddy/accountability partner—

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/jeff-and-sheldon-how-to-make-habits-that-actually-stick

Navigating Seasons of Change with Hope

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0600

My youngest child just graduated from high school. How do we navigate seasons of change successfully? I share 3 tips which will help us get through with God's help.

Episode Discussion Points

My daughter just graduated from high school and she is the youngest. So, I am experiencing a range of emotions.
An artistic Bible Verse a friend gave me as a senior in high school that applies to our situation today.
Story of lesson I learned from a friend who recently had back surgery.
A story of a friend whose husband suddenly passed away, and what I would tell her.

Three Tips to Help Navigate Change with Hope

Remember God and trust Him.
Slow Down & Notice Simple Joys
Remember Life Has Season and be patient

Bible Verses Shared

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own undestanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He will direct thy paths.” —Proverbs 3:5-6

Ecclesiastes 3

1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

3 A time to break down, and a time to build up;

4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

7 A time to arend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

8 A time to love.

Invitations

Talk to God during your time of change and share with Him all of your emotions.
Slow down and be patient.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/navigating-seasons-of-change-with-hope

Jen Geigle Johnson: What to do When God is Silent

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 25 May 2022 02:00:00 -0600

After being hospitalized for COVID Jen found she had a hard time thinking clearly and even discerning God’s presence. She pressed forward in faith despite difficult challenges and found a powerful answer.

Episode Discussion Points

How she spent a few summers kayaking along the Thames.
How her author job and keeping up with her six children keeps her busy.
How her really bad case of COVID changed her body and triggered an abnormally high cortisol/high stress response in her body.
An experience in the hospital while she had the fuzzy brain COVID stuff and she felt alone and far from God.
“it takes mental concentration to receive revelation that’s like truth or thought.”
She couldn’t pray long prayers when she was brain fuzzy at the hospital, so she leaned on her husband (via text) to help her pray and discern what she should be doing.
Even when she couldn’t feel God at that point, she knew He was there.
How she had people praying for her during her daughter’s weddings to have a “bubble of the Spirit” around her when she wasn’t functioning 100%
Her answer from God—“Just focus on the Joy”
Sometimes God places you in situations where you can’t do it on your own, so He will reach you in the way you need to be reached. God keep trying.
"When you’re perfectly healthy, you can handle a lot, but when your not, you need to become more aware of how these things are effecting your whole body makeup.”
She has now experienced social anxiety and has a lot more empathy
How sometimes prayer, scriptures study don’t work the way we want—we need to tack on “keep going even when you don’t feel the help or answers” with the hope that God will answer/help eventually.
“God will reach you but it may be in the way you aren’t expecting.
Look for the joy and see the miracles that might not be super-obvious.
Look for the little whisper of inspiration from God which may change your perspective when things aren’t getting fixed.
You can’t really measure the value of someone’s love…empathy…hard times.”
We accumulate knowledge and experiences which help us become more.
How Jesus Christ has perfect empathy for each of us. “Christ’s empathy is emboldened because He knows all of our stories.”
Take time to hear people and their stories.
We all want to know we are making a difference—even when you can’t feel Him.

Tips for Reducing Stress

Support network--Ask for help—people to be your “pray-ers”
Talk to you family and friends about the emotions you are processing so that they can help how they can.
Name emotions and process them with God’s help
Positive Mantras--Focus on the Joy
Be okay slowing down during crisis
Meditation/Prayer/Scripture Study—way to receive revelation (because you are quieting distractions).
Calm body, focus on breathing
Watch what thoughts enter a quiet mind—push out the pointless worries and instead focus on positive things.
“Nope. I’m only thinking about breathing right now.”
“Think about a joyful time.”—these are often the things that mean the most too us—the personal interactions (children, friends)

Favorite Bible Verse

Genesis 39 “And the Lord was with Joseph.” (even though Joseph was sold into slavery, and plus in prison.)
God is with us in the details of our lives—throughout the hard times.
Sometimes God’s purposes can’t be seen for a long time.

Connect with Jen

JenGeigleJohnson.com
Buy physical copies of her books at Deseret Book or Seagull Book
Social Media @JenGeigleJohnson

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/jen-geigle-johnson-what-to-do-when-god-is-silent

Faith Not to Be Healed?

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 18 May 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Do you have true faith--meaning you are okay if you or your loved ones aren't healed? If not, listen as I share a personal story of how I worked toward that ideal.

Episode Discussion Points

The question of “Do I have the faith not to be healed?”
A story in my life where I realized that I didn’t have that kind of faith yet when Nathan was diagnosed with autism.
How I realized I needed to change and have more true faith in God.
The “But if Not” clause & story
My very trial led me to my knees over and over again because I didn’t have the ability to get through such a heavy trial on my own. I needed God.

How to Develop Faith “Not to Be Healed”

Recognize you need better, truer faith
Work to gain that kind of faith

By talking to the Lord openly and honestly in prayer (that you aren’t there yet)
Following the example of the Savior to submit your will to His
Ask God to teach you what this process of gaining true faith looks like for you
Listen
Keep going one day at a time
Fortify yourself by reading God’s word—especially the life of Jesus Christ.

Remember to keep hope in the ultimate goal of eternal life with God with perfect, whole and resurrected bodies for us and our loved ones.

Bible Verse Shared

Matthew 26: 39 “And he went a little farther, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.”

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/faith-not-to-be-healed

Becca Goeckeritz: Tuning Bitterness Out and Bringing Hope In

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 11 May 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Becca didn’t let her paralysis keep her from living her life fully, but kidney disease tested her faith and led her to have a deeper connection with Christ she never had experienced before.

Episode Discussion Points

Winning a contest that took her to New York
Being paralyzed from the waist down since she was a baby
Having and ignoring the thought she needed to prepare for something hard in her life.
Her story of being diagnosed with kidney disease and sinking into depression.
Crying herself to sleep when she felt like every dream she ever had was being taken from her after diagnosed with kidney disease.
One of her biggest griefs was when her doctors said she and her husband not have children, when all she had ever wanted was to be a mother.
Wondering where her miracle turnaround was that seemed to happen for other people—but seemed to be eluding her.
A heartfelt desire she had in a hospital room while reading the scriptures
The inspiration she received when she asked God for help to remove the bitterness from her heart.
Key: Place your hope in God, not in man
Feeling shame sometimes that she didn’t have enough faith to overcome her fear.
“When you put your hope completely in Christ, everything becomes better.”
Becca loves being able to perform on her violin with the Tabernacle Choir, and has several favorite songs that have helped her in her dark moments to keep faith going.
Her biggest miracle—planting Jesus Christ’s grace into her heart
What keeping her heart tuned to the Savior looks like compared to tuning her violin—the Savior is all about the fine tuning (in our lives).
Inviting God to help you tune yourself to Him—and asking God the specific questions—how do I change? How do I move out of this place?
God will give each person the right answers for them and their unique situation.

Tips to Keep Focus Riveted on the Savior

Prayer
Word of God
Uplifting Music

Becca’s Go-To Powerful Music Resources

Be Still My Soul; view the performance by the Tabernacle Choir here on YouTube
Jesu The Very Thought is Sweet; view the performance by the Tabernacle Choir here on YouTube
How Can I Keep from Singing; view the performance by the Tabernacle Choir here on YouTube

Connect with Becca

Facebook: Becca Bierwolf Goeckeritz
YouTube search Becca Goeckeritz

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/becca-goeckeritz-tuning-bitterness-out-and-bringing-hope-in

Kenneth Earl: How a Naval Cryptologist's Mom Changed the World

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 04 May 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Kenneth Earl may not have had the best start in life, but like the sun he learned the foundational principles he needed to rise—all due to his angel mother.

Episode Discussion Points

We discussed what being a naval cryptologist means
How his mother influenced His life with a lot of love—even though she was a single mom
What inspired him to write his book—he realized he owed his mother—and he wanted to honor his mother.
No matter where you come from in life, if you partner with God you can achieve and become your best self—overcoming all obstacles in your way.

Kenneth's mom was a great example of strength, courage and integrity

Treat people like they want to be treated
Prayed all the time and loved the Psalms
Because she worked so hard Kenneth didn’t know how poor they were
She made a way out of no way
She inspired each of her children to succeed
She taught her children to pray—which came in handy when he was stranded on a roof and in trouble.
His mother helped lay the foundation which helped him be successful

Here are some of the Life Lessons he “cracked”

A mother’s wisdom is indisputable.
Character and integrity is worth something.
Mistakes and failures should be options for growth— And the story of him praying for an angel after being stranded on the roof. Lesson—when you fall, learn and get up.
You can’t buy peace of mind
Overcoming and defeating yourself is freedom—meaning you have try to be the best version of yourself.
No matter what you do in life, no one can beat you at being you. “Be who you are, or who God made you to be.”
Unhappiness and frustration are unproductive

Favorite Bible Verse

Philippians 4:13 “ I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Connect with Kenneth

Website: Illegitimate-sun.com

Buy his book, Illegitimate Sun: How a Naval Cryptologist Cracked the Code of Life Lessons

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #change #become #mother #tribute #lessonslearned #navalcryptologist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/kenneth-earl-how-a-naval-cryptologists-mom-changed-the-world

Chani Barlow: If You Feel You’re Not Enough, Start Here!

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 27 Apr 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Chani has had many experiences in her life where she has felt completely worthless and like she isn’t enough. She shares several amazing tips to help combat our inner critic.

Episode Discussion Points

A story when Chani felt like she didn’t measure up and wasn’t enough
“I’m a nobody,” feelings
6 Tips on how to combat those feelings
Hack—at the top of Chani’s “To Do” List every day she physically writes out the quote, “Do what you can do, in the best way you know and the Lord will accept of your effort.” —Gordon B. Hinckley
How we are not perfect, but God can help and heal and inspire hope.

Steps to Battle “I’m Not Enough”

Feel the Feelings and sit with them for a minute. It is important to name them and acknowledge them, cry over it, but work through the feelings.
Get it out of your system. Journal either on a computer (on an "Icky Page") or a journal. Some people talk it out. Some people pound it out with boxing gloves at the gym or exercise.
Connection with Friends, Family or others. You can connect in person (this is best) or talk on the phone. Be real and authentic. It takes a village to healthily get through life. You don’t have to do it alone.
Connect with God. God loves us and wants us to do better. Be real and authentic with God too—tell Him the good, the bad a nd the ugly. “He doesn’t need formalities, He just wants to hear from you.”
Take the 50 foot perspective. Sometimes you have to step back and get out of your head for just a minute and ask yourself these questions: Is it true? Would everyone else around you agree with that? Are you giving yourself credit or grace for what you have donet? (Don’t just think about what you didn’t do.) Am I measuring myself up against someone else (comparing yourself to a Pinterest picture of someone else.) Compare yourself to yourself, and give yourself grace for your shortcomings.
If you feel you need to talk to a professional, then do it! Chani was able to get a lot of emotions out instead of keeping it bottled up. “They help you unravel the mess inside of you."

Get Chani’s FREE “10 Practical Habits to Tame Your Inner Critic,,” pdf download on Chani’s website: chanibarlow.com

Bible Verse

Story of father bringing a son with a dumb spirit to the Savior begging for help. Jesus tells the man that “all things are possible to him that believeth.” Then the man says, “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.” (Mark 9:23-24)
I might not have perfect belief, but God can help and heal.

Connect

Website: chanibarlow.com
Get Chani’s book, Seeking Solace: Finding Hidden Miracles and Peace
Join Chani and I as we speak at the Enough Already Conference for Christian Women on May 13th in Las Vegas. For more information check it out here.

#worth #enough #impostersyndrome #innercritic #negativeselftalk #connection #journal #vent #prayer #grace #counseling #tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/chani-barlow-if-you-feel-youre-not-enough-start-here

3 Prayerful Steps to Turn Anxiety to Peace

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 02:00:00 -0600

I share the story of an experience I had when I was completely overwhelmed thinking about the super-busy schedule I had the next day and how God taught me the exact steps to take to replace anxiety with peace.

Episode Discussion Points

Story of me feeling anxious when I looked at my busy, packed schedule.
3 steps I took during prayer which completely changed my anxiety to peace

3 Steps to Move Anxiety to Peace

Pray & Share how you are feeling, and ask God to help you change

“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts.” —Psalm 139:23

Ask God to help you see it through the lens of gratitude

“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”—1 Thessalonians 5:18

Invite angels to be with you

“For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.”—Psalm 91:11

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-prayerful-steps-to-turn-anxiety-to-peace

Daniel Tezeno: Moving From Lack to God's Abundance

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Daniel shares an epiphany which led him on a path to discover and experience God's abundance, which we can all tap into.

Episode Discussion Points

Sometimes God puts us in an environment where we are a bit uncomfortable and we can rely on Him as we enter new and different things.
How he was raised and what his father taught him about seeing all people as God sees them—equally.
How his parents divorce changed his perspective and made him want to figure out how life and finances worked.
Being young, fearful and insecure—feeling he wasn’t accepted by God, which made him hunger after God.
The spiritual manifestation he had of light, love and acceptance of “God touching him” which banished doubt and fear.
How God guided him into sales (even though he didn’t want to be there).
God immediately answers, but we may not always understand or recognize his miracles for what they are.
What shifting into an abundance mentality looks like and why people have a hard time understanding God’s love and abundance.
We all can tap into God and His power inside of us.
As a believer Daniel wants to live the life that testifies that God can work miracles with abundance—not only for him but for others as well.
Making belief statements personal, “God is good…to me, “ “God has abundance … for me.”
A story of immense faith of him applying the principle of give, and pray over what you give with a specific request and God will return it to you with abundance.
God wants our our presence—so turn to Him.
Fall in love with God all over again!

Financial Principles of Abundance

Honoring God in our finances
The Law of Reciprocity—Give and He will give back to you; and he shares how this works.
“When you give, speak over it, and release it in faith,” expecting God will give back to you. But be sure to be specific with what you want.
You will have joy as you give in your heart. You will have no doubt in your heart (although your mind may doubt).
Follow the inspiration God sends you.
Remember you are royalty, and royalty summons.
Remember we have an enemy and he wants us to live under the curse versus under abundance.
If when trying these principles you find it doesn’t work, ask God, “What did I do wrong? Guide me. I know I missed it.”
Tithe
Pray and ask God, “Lord, give me better than the solution I am asking for.”

Favorite Quotes

“That little void in all of us is how God draws us to him."

“Heaven does not have a recession."

“Faith is the open door to all of heaven’s abundance.”

“Heaven has a currency. It is called faith.”

“God uses tough times to draw us close to Him. . . because more than anything God wants our company. He wants our presence. And in His presence is everything you could ever ask for.”

“God is either moving something for us or moving us to it. Or He is developing you or developing the something for us.”

Connect with Daniel and Buy His Book

Website: https://danieltezeno.com/
Book: The way of the profit" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Way of the Profit: Building Material Wealth Through Your Spiritual Self

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/daniel-tezeno-moving-from-lack-to-gods-abundance

How to Apply The Rocking Chair Principle

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 02:00:00 -0600

I share a story from my childhood where playing in a rocking chair taught me an important lesson we can all apply today.

Episode Discussion Points

Story of my sisters and I giving each other “roller-coaster” rides on a rocking chair.
It was all fun and games until someone (me) got hurt.
Parallels to our day and our life with not trusting the arm of flesh, but trusting God to guide, but we get to choose who we want with us on our crazy rocking journey.
I share a personal experience of one of my children recently being diagnosed with a new diagnosis, and how it impacted them and me.
How I gave my burden to Jesus and He carried it and gave me peace.
I share a journal entry where I remembered this story and God guided me to once again let go and let Him take control.
Invitation to ask God “what am I holding onto that I need to let go of?”

Bible Verses Shared

Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm. —Jeremiah 17:5

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. —Jeremiah 29:11

Choose you this day whom ye will serve. —Joshua 24:15

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #childhoodstory #funnystory #trustGod #control #faith #letgoletGod #bibleverse

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/how-to-apply-the-rocking-chair-principle

Andre Norman: From Prisoner to Unlimited Success

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 30 Mar 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Andre Norman thought he'd spend the rest of his life in prison until God gave him an epiphany which changed everything!

Episode Discussion Points

He learned how important it was to follow instructions (the recipe) when he did a culinary class in prison, and since he has been released from prison he applies that same principle to life.
The path that led him to choose material things over integrity and character
He ended up in jail and wanted to be the boss of the gang
The epiphany he had when God told him to not go down that life path.
He decided he didn’t want to be free (because every prisoner who got out came back. He wanted to be successful.
He decided he wanted to go to Harvard University.
So for the next 8 years he did everything he could to move toward that goal.
When he got out the next steps he took that opened doors for him to get into Boston College.
How he learned why it is important to have blind faith in God but not in man.
The power of being taught that he was a golden eagle—not the golden goose.
Don’t live with other people’s limitations. Let God help you live in abundance.
“They stopped the job, but I maintained the mindset.”
The two books he keeps on his nightstand and his favorite Bible Psalm.
“So get close to God, which is get close to nature and just study. Just be one with nature. Just go lay in the grass. It's the best feeling ever.”

Favorite Quotes

"I didn't have to audition. I just had to be authentic."
“He said you're a golden eagle. So you don't have to sit there and let somebody else benefit off of you. You're allowed to fly and spread your wings.”
“It doesn't get much better than this I thought. How could it be much better than this? It can always be greater if you let go and let God.”
People's limits shouldn't have to be yours.”
Speaking of his scriptures, “These are my guideposts and you will never find a house that I live in that these won't be two feet from my bed.”
There is nothing that can't be done if God is with you. And if you put limits on yourself, then you put limits on yourself.”
The Word of God is great. Study God. And it'll lead.

Recommended Resources

Who Not How by Ben Hardy & Dan Sullivan
Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss
Giftology By John Ruhlin
The 90-minute Book by Dean Jackson
Ambassador of Hope by Andre Norman—purchase it HERE

Connect with Andre Norman

Email: admin@andrenorman.com
Website: www.AndreNorman.com
Instagram: @AndreNorman
Facebook: @AndreNorman21
Twitter: @AndreNorman
YouTube: Andre Norman

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/andre-norman-from-prisoner-to-unlimited-success

3 Bible-Based Tips to Prioritizing Your Health

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Are you feeling worn out—like you can’t go on? There are three principles in the Bible which teach us how to best solve this problem—and it revolves around learning to take care of ourselves.

Episode Discussion Points

I tell the story of Putt-Putt the car which I drove when I went to college when I was younger. I didn’t keep up on the maintenance as well as I should have, and something unfortunate happened.
This taught me the importance of doing little things to maintain not only cars but ourselves.

3 Bible-Based Tips to Prioritizing Your Health

Take Care of Your Spirit

In Mark 1:35, we are told this about how Jesus prioritized his soul and the connection He had with God:
“And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out, and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed.”
We too can ask God how we can best do this in our own lives—whether it is waking up early or doing it during a lunch break or at bedtime. God will inspire us to find the right solution for us.

Take Care of Our Physical Bodies

Paul taught the Corinthians that their bodies were temples because they housed their divine souls or spirits:
“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?
If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is bholy, which temple ye are.” (1 Corinthians 3:16-17)
The story of how I had to learn to do this in my life when I was physically exhausted from taking care of kiddos on the autism spectrum.

Don’t Do Everything Alone

Story of Jethro telling Moses that he was doing too much and that he needed to learn to delegate:
“Thou wilt surely wear away, both thou, and this people that is with thee: for this thing is too heavy for thee; thou art not able to perform it thyself alone.” (Exodus 18:18)
In the book, Who Not How, Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy also talk about how usually when we are worn out and trying to change we need to learn to ask “who can help me with this,” NOT “how can I do it.”
The principle of learning to delegate is a godly principle.

So, if you are feeling stressed out and like you can’t keep going like that, maybe you can talk to God and begin to prioritize your own health and well being in baby steps. He will bless you to do it right in your life.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #physicalhealth #spiritualhealth #notalone #Bibleverses #selfcare #story #priorities #maintenance

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-bible-based-tips-to-prioritizing-your-health

Liz Kazandzhy: Finding Peace When Worried About Ukranian Family

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 16 Mar 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Liz Kazandzhy has been so worried about her family in the Ukraine. She shares some of God’s powerful lessons to her since the war began and how she’s been able to find moments of peace.

Episode Discussion Points

A funny story about making brownies
Her personal connection to the Ukraine, serving a volunteer mission there
How she ended up marrying a man from the Ukraine and how his family still lives there
The feeling of shock when the invasion first happened
How dealing with anxiety and the stressors of war have been a challenge for her
Experiencing grief, sorrow, anger, as well as peace and hope
Encouraging their family in Ukraine to get out of Kiev
How she and her husband attend church with a Russian speaking congregation with people from the Ukraine and what their pastor said that has helped their congregation focus on unity.
What Russians and Ukrainians together in a church congregation taught her about being strong.
How the Holy Ghost can bring peace even in times of strife
Anxiety tip—imagining the worst case scenario and then finding God in it (ex: those who have died have gone to God and they are home).
God understands each person’s worries, fears and what is going on in their lives.
It brings her peace to know God is with them.
How Liz has tried to put God and her family as a priority even when she constantly wants to be checking the news and checking on her family in the Ukraine.
The blessings of putting God first
The importance of learning to live in the moment because you never know how long you will have with people here on earth.
Don’t let other things distract you from things that matter most.
When she couldn’t focus because she was so preoccupied with the war.
The ah-ha she had when she was reading that the Russians were “occupying” the Ukraine.
How the Ukranians defending their lands and freedom has become symbolic to her for the battle going on in her mind—battling back despair and depression with faith, hope, light and love.
Battling fear with faith

Favorite Bible Verse

Isaiah 41:10, “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”

Connect with Liz

www.LizKazandzhy.com
www.ldsbooknook.com
You can preorder Liz’ book, The Holy Ghost from A to Z, on Amazon, Target, Walmart etc.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #war #UkraineWar #Family #battles #peace #comfort #holyghost #Spirit #prayer #mentalbattles #depression#anxiety

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here:

https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/liz-kazandzhy-finding-peace-when-worried-about-ukranian-family

3 Keys to Remember in Times of War

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 09 Mar 2022 02:00:00 -0600

With the war starting between Russia and the Ukraine I have been pondering war and what we can do to help ourselves when we are faced with physical and spiritual battles.

3 Keys to Remember in Times of War

God is Omniscient

This means God knows everything and this war is not a surprise to Him
We can find evidence of this when we read in Matthew 24 where Jesus tells us the signs of the times before His Second Coming and tells us
“And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass.” (Matthew 24: 6)
So, don’t be troubled by these wars you see happening, it is all part of the winding up scenes before Christ comes.

We are ALL at War

We learn this in Ephesians 6: 12
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
Satan is attacking because he knows this is his last opportunity before Jesus Christ comes again.
So, what do we do? This leads us to step #3

Act—Put On God’s Armor & Help Spread His Word

In Ephesians 6:10-18 we read what we can do to put on God’s armor every day—because the battle for our souls is fierce!
In Matthew 24:14, Christ also explains that one of the things that needs to happen before He comes again is:
“And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come.”

We know how this war will end—with Jesus Christ coming in the clouds of glory. It will be an incredible day for the righteous. Until, put your armor on and stand with God. He will help you be God strong and ready when He comes again.

Call to Action

I have felt called to start a women’s group based on these same ideas I have been talking about today called Women Warriors of Light. Please follow my new social media channels for more information about how you can connect to Jesus Christ, put on His armor, and band together with a group of warrior preparing for His Second Coming.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #war #physicalbattles #spiritualbattles #armoroflight #armorofGod #Bibleverses #SecondComingofChrist #JesusChrist #SignsoftheTimes

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-keys-to-remember-in-times-of-war

Jodi Reynosa: Finding My Hero's Journey When Detours Derail

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 02 Mar 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Jodi Reynosa's life didn't go as planned. She experienced multiple detours and struggles in her life—including finding a tumor in her brain.

Episode Discussion Points

Jodi compares her life to being in a car, ready to go and then then feeling like she is driving with the brakes on. Then, when she finally figures out how to go full speed a roadblock is thrown up in her path and she wonders “why?”
Jodi had a lot of “firsts” in her family
How she made the varsity basketball team as a sophomore, which got derailed by her eating disorder—and what that looked like—from negative mental thoughts to eating challenges.
When she was cut from the team she felt like she lost her identity, and after counseling and getting some help God helped her to pivot and turned toward the arts.
How she found joy along her new path.
How challenges can be blessings
How losing her academic scholarship steered her in a different direction AGAIN!
Don’t ask disempowering questions—that doesn’t help us, figure out which direction God wants you to go.
Her decision to serve a church mission to help people.
“Loving God allows you to see the divinity within yourself, and He helps you to love yourself. And then you can see the divinity in other people.”
As you love God, yourself and others, love can flow through you and to you like the infinity sign.
The chicken soup syndrome Jodi learned from her mom which applies to life.
How a professor tried to warn her about how hard it was to juggle family and a media career.
You can do everything you want to do in life at the right season and the right time.
What her early career in media looked like—life happens and we learn from it.
The diagnosis of a tumor in her brain which led to another life detour.
This shifted her to working on her YouTube show Guided.
God sees the whole picture and we don’t. We see the little threads, so we need to trust Him.
Sometimes you need to pause and “reset” and “be still.”
Often it takes time for us to process a new idea, or a change. Our knee jerk-reaction is to say “no.” But once an idea of change has been planted it takes a while for us to realize it wasn’t a bad suggestion after all. So approach change with a creative mind, and be willing to welcome new ideas.
Figuring life out is a process we experience day to day.

Empowering Questions

The concept of empowering questions was originally introduced to Jodi by Michael Bernard Beckwith, founder of the Agape Center.

Ask God what is trying to emerge from me right now that can help me serve my fellow man?
How can I be of service where I am right now?
If I had to be in this situation for a long time, what qualities would I need? (Example: I would need strength and empathy and trust in God). Then pray those traits down from heaven to help you as you pass through hard times.

Jodi’s Favorite Bible Verse

Isaiah 40:31

“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”

Matthew 6:28

“And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin.”

Resources Jodi Recommends

The scriptures
Jodi’s show, “Guided” features guests from around the world, exploring topics on consciousness, healing, disclosure, ufology, spiritual alchemy, divine counterparts, and quantum healing hypnosis therapy. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLp_skMgULzY00wH9QLm9lkq3KjNWZLElT
Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead--by Brene Brown
Dare Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead-- by Brene Brown
The Obstacle Is the Way, by Ryan Holliday

Connect with Jodi

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodireynosa/
Listen to her show/podcast Guided: https://www.spreaker.com/cms/shows/5244225/dashboard?filter=NETWORK&network=15594185

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #eatingdisorder #lifedetour #empoweringquestions #challenges #blessings #love #trustGod #tumor

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/jodi-reynosa-finding-my-heros-journey-when-detours-derail

2 Life Lessons From a Muddy Hike

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Why do we sometimes walk through muddy patches in life? It slows us down and it's no fun. Here are 2 lessons I learned after a muddy hike which apply so well to life.

Episode Discussion Points

The story of hiking the Canyon Overlook trail in Kolob Canyon (part of Zion National Park) with my family 5 years ago.
We happened to do this hike in January and so the trail (which is usually dry, red dirt, was covered in ice and snow and we got really messy and dirty and muddy.
We had our son with low-functioning autism hold onto the back of either my jacket or my husband’s jacket to help him, and we tried to point out the easiest way to go, but he wanted the hike over and just trudged straight through the mud.
Life is often like this, where we feel like we are slogging through the mud, and it isn’t very fun.
We may wonder why in the world God has us here on this path!
I share the story of a broken engagement I had back in my college years and how God even helped good come from that.

Lessons From Hiking in the Mud

Pause, stop looking at your feet, and look up and around you to see the miracles, and trust that God has a grand vista He has in store for you (or something grand He is making you into).
You are not on the path alone. Jesus is there beside you and often prompts you what you can do to get through it more easily, but we always have the choice whether or not we listen to Him. So, don’t be afraid! God can make even mucky, muddy paths turn out for your good (Romans 8: 28).

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #muddypatches #JesusChrist #Godiswithus #Wearenotalone #Godhelpsus #changeperspective #pause#pray #help

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/2-life-lessons-from-a-muddy-hike

Leisa Watkins: What to Do When It Rains and Pours Problems

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 16 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Within a period of a few days Leisa’s husband was diagnosed with cancer, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and their daughter went to the hospital. In today’s episode she shares tips on how you get through heavy times with your sanity and even with joy.

Episode Discussion Points

Leisa has had many points in her life where it has both rained and poured problems and complications.
A couple of things she learned during the hard times were the power of positive self talk:
“Leisa, you can make it through the next minute.”
“Leisa, you can make it through the five minutes.”
“Leisa, you can make it through the fifteen minutes.”
Another thing that helped was looking at the big picture—we got through this situation and that situation previously, and we can surely get through this new situation as well.
There is wisdom that comes only by going through tough times.
Focus on the things you can control—like maybe you can’t control when your husband gets hit by a drunk driver, but you can begin to take back control of your life by cleaning out a drawer or some other little thing to create order.
Going through hard times helped her become resilient, and for her resilience is tied to hope.
Change is constant and the sooner you can adapt to it, the easier it is.
We also have to learn to control and change our expectations—because life isn’t going to turn out the way we thought or hoped.
For Leisa acceptance means, “This happened. So now what, what can I do about it? And the only thing you can do is control how you react to it.”
When Leisa was raped as a young woman, she went to a therapist who helped her process all of her emotions and helped her learn it is okay to be angry. So, Leisa learned to process all of her angry emotions out on paper by writing it out in a journal. Then she’d burn the angry words and her anger would dissipate. For Leisa burning the pages is more effective than shredding the pages.
You have to be willing to do the work. Often people feel stuck when they stop working on themselves.
Take baby steps when you don’t know what is the next thing you can do.
If you don’t know the next right step you can ask your brain, if we were pretending we knew what the next right thing was, your brain will fill in ideas.
Sometimes when you are heading for burn out because you are doing too much, you have to pause and take time to breathe and do self-care. You will be better at doing all your other roles if you stop and take a day off now and then.
Choosing to do things “happily or unhappily.”
When you have a negative thought, dismiss it and then counter it with the truth or a positive thought.
Asking the right questions is important when we encounter a difficult situation. If we ask, Why did this happen to me? Then your brain will find answer to it. So be careful to ask more productive questions like:
How do I want to look at this?
How do I want to approach it?
What can I control?
What can't I control?
What can I do?
What can I do about this?
What good things can come out of this?
Another idea is to take photo per day of something you’re thankful for that day.

Tips to Get You Out of a Dark Spot

Ease up on the self-judgment
Give yourself credit for the little steps forward you make.
Take focus off yourself by helping others.
Do self-care. (Leisa’s favorite is to turn on music and dance in the bathroom). Moving physically can actually help you get unstuck mentally.
Do positive self-talk.
Let go and let God be in control. Talk to God if you are struggling to move forward, picture handing your problems over to Christ.
Ask God to help you figure out how to take the next right step for you—especially if you are stuck.

Connect with Leisa

Leisa blogs on her website cultivatinghealthandhappiness.com
There you will find resources, tips and more of her family’s experiences getting through hard times with happiness and joy.
You can also download her Overcoming Obstacles Checklist

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #multiplesclerosis #tips #babysteps #choice #choosetobehappy #outlook #cancer #rape #recover #journaling #heal #selfcare

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/leisa-watkins-what-to-do-when-it-rains-and-pours-problems

Michael Richards: Want to Change Your Family? Try This!

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 09 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Have you ever thought, “Something needs to change around here,” when looking at your family? I invited my friend Mike Richards on to share a insightful poem and we chat about how changing something in our families starts with one big step.

Episode Discussion Points

When Mike shared this poem at an author retreat a couple of years ago, it really impacted me, and I wanted him to share it with my listeners.
Mike has learned that sometimes when he gets inspiration, he has got to act on it, and that is where this poem came from—he wrote it in 30 minutes.
The poem conveys a yearning for better work/family life balance and a desire to make an impact by making little daily changes in yourself.
“If I wanted to change my family, I would…..”
If you do want to change your family, you begin by leveling up yourself
Reaching out to God in daily prayer at the beginning and end of each day
If you put God first, He will bless you to know how to help your family.
Asking Him to help you parent His/your children in a better way—and following those promptings.
As parents we are often our own harshest critic.
Teaching repentance and forgiveness by example.
“If I want to see this ripple effect of change in my children, then I need to model it myself.”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #family #faith #change #changeyourselfchangetheworld #changestartshere #JesusChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/michael-richards-want-to-change-your-family-try-this

Dr. LaTarsha Holden: From Homeless to PhD with God's Help

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 02 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0600

As a homeless mother of six children, LaTarsha Holden began having dreams that she was speaking to people all over the world. On today’s episode she shares her journey from homeless to PhD and motivational speaker.

Episode Discussion Points

How she went from being homeless and being squatters living in an abandoned house to getting her PhD.
What a pastor told her (that made her mad) and was the catalyst for her journey.
What to do when your struggles outlast your strength.
How she got help when she felt like she was drowning by going to the hospital
Sometimes you can’t give your children all the fancy things they want—but you can give them love and teach them to serve and give back.
Even when you don’t have anything, you can serve.
Lead by example because children are watching you.
aTips to young people and mothers: Lead well and leave a legacy
God gives each of us gifts—be the best you that you can be. You have the power to change your gifts. Your gifts are your legacy.
Teach your children your emotions and talk through hard times with them. Help them see how you struggle and keep going.
“You are the generational curse breakers.”
“Its not about who gets to the finish line faster. . . There is no competition when you are authentically you!”
If you are wondering what your gifts are, ask: What really makes you happy (if money weren’t an issue) and pursue those things. “Just be who you are. It doesn’t have to be something grand.”
God would tell you, “Use what I gave you.”
“If you are faithful to God, God will take you places man cannot.” But don’t give up because its not overnight.
Fulfill your vows to God.
Will you serve when people don’t know you? Can you serve with the little that you have?
Sometimes you can be delivered from homelessness or other challenges, but the residue, the doubt is still there.
When she asked God why He allowed to her struggle so much and so alone she learned two things:
He didn’t want others to take credit for her success when it was God helping her.
She realized she needed her wilderness experience to build up her muscles and not give up as easily, to prove to herself she was strong.
Sometimes when you are in the purging process, you feel like God is trying to kill you. But the purging process is there to purify and strengthen you and make you a warrior.
Best advice to kids: Get to know God for yourself. Learn how to cry out to Him. Ask God for wisdom and guidance because He is the only one who knows about tomorrow.
Focus on what God thinks about you—not what the world thinks about you.
You walk and talk different when you know God has been with you and gotten you out of a struggle. There is an inner confidence.

Favorite Bible Verse

“Jesus wept.” Jesus had a human side and it is okay to cry and have human emotions. He is Lord of Lords but he cried. He isn’t so above us that He can know what we go through.

Dr. Holden Resources

Her book, “No Longer Lost.”
“Leadership Principles” book
Parenting Guide, “Nurture Me So I Can Grow.”
All of her books are on Amazon or on her website: https://www.drlatarshaholden.info/
She is also an excellent speaker and can be booked on her website.
She is also a coach if you need personal coach.

Connect with Dr. Holden

Email: latarshaholden@yahoo.com
Website: https://www.drlatarshaholden.info/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #homeless #singlemother #Godshelp #NothingisImpossible #success #dontcompare #reachingyourdreams #workhard #change

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/dr-latarsha-holden-from-homeless-to-phd-with-gods-help

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife: Can I Learn to Trust Myself After Abuse?

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 26 Jan 2022 02:00:00 -0600

A few weeks ago I had a listener reach out with a question about how she can learn to trust herself after being abused. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins us again to answer this question.

Question From a Listener

"I was sitting here, going thru some rather rough moments the past few days with this journey of healing from abuse that I'm on, and came upon a question that is really difficult for me.

The question that has come to me is how do I learn to trust myself again after abuse has happened? Really trust myself, and not keep falling back into the traps of feeling the abuse was somehow caused by me, or whatnot? Where is trust in Me that lasts? Because it seems that I need to trust Me before I can really truly trust others, including the Savior. At least that's what I've read.”

Episode Discussion Points

How the brain begins to change how it views others after being abused
Why abused children seem to feel they are the problem causing the abuse—that they are unlovable and deficient.
One of the first steps is creating an accurate notion of God loving us unconditionally (instead of projecting our view of our imperfect parents on Him). This takes real faith and courage.
“Faith is reaching in the dark for something better than where you are.”
Once you know this, people who have struggled with abuse often need a trauma counselor to help them begin to look at life with the lens of truth.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy or trauma therapy helps abuse victims learn to understand the truth and put themselves in the mind of the abuser (sometimes) to see they were not at fault.
Sometimes it is hard for people to learn to lean on the Savior if they have been abused—because it is an act of faith.
Sometimes you feel you “don’t get it,” or don’t understand how God sees and loves you—but yet still act as though it is true.

4 Steps to Build Trust After Abuse

Faith/Belief in another possibility
Work with a good therapist, who can walk through “hell” with you and come back out into the light.
This therapist will help you reprocess the meaning and see the truth of what really happened.
Self-love is more something you do vs. something you feel.

”Do something hard as an investment in you.”
“Your behavior is a step ahead of your feelings.”
“The clarity of who you are comes after the behavior.”

Connect with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Listen to her story on my podcast —Jennifer Finlayson-Fife: Why You Really Need Self-Compassion
Check out her website here.
She also has courses, workshops, and a podcast you can listen to on her website.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #abuse #trauma #therapy #counselor #trust #help #healing #love #selflove #JenniferFinlaysonFife

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/can-i-learn-to-trust-myself-after-abuse

Julie L. Spencer: Learning to Live with Bipolar Disorder

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 19 Jan 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Can a person with a bipolar disorder live a normal life? Julie didn’t know she had a mental health issue until she was in her late twenties, and once she got help learned to thrive.

Episode Discussion Points

Changing the World One Story at a Time
As a teen she started exhibiting symptoms of Bipolar disorder, but didn’t get diagnosed until her twenties
So, Julie got into alcohol, and that is why what she writes tries to teach teens to stay away from it because she knows what it did to her.
Julie describes bipolar disorder as like bugs crawling under your skin and no matter how much you scratch, you can get rid of the itch. So, that is why a lot of people with symptoms end up turning to drugs, alcohol or promiscuity to try to “self-medicate” and escape.
Julie ended up getting pregnant in high school, but she feels getting pregnant saved her because she stopped drinking for the baby.
After marrying her high school boyfriend who was an alcoholic, but she and her daughter were abused by him, until her mom helped her escape.
If you or someone you love is in an abusive situation they need to escape you can call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-799-7233.
She went back to college, married her forever husband and figured out during a Chemistry class that the lithium she was taking often helped people with bipolar disorder.
A psychiatrist was able to finally diagnose her and get her on medication.
A story where the stress of a job almost killed her because she became so depressed.
Coping mechanisms she has used: finding a safe place to retreat and decompress or getting a hug from her husband really help.

Connect With Julie

authorjuliespencer.com
You can also connect with her on Facebook as Julie L. Spencer
You can also purchase any of her books on Amazon.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #bipolar #bipolardisorder #mentalhealth #suicide #help #healing #coping #abuse #alcoholism

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/julie-l-spencer-learning-to-live-with-bipolar-disorder

Stuck in Life? Try This!

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 12 Jan 2022 02:00:00 -0600

The story of my son getting stuck on a boulder has some amazing life lessons and parallels we can draw from it about leaning on God and trusting Him to help us get unstuck.

Episode Discussion Points

The story of my son Jacob getting stuck on top of a boulder outside of Yosemite National Park.
How I saw him and sent my husband to help him down.
What my husband did to help him off the ledge
How this story parallels God watching out for us and how he sends the Savior who:
Invites us to come unto Him
To trust Him
To lean on Him as he bears our weight and helps us down
How He will help each of us in to solve situations that are unique and different for each of us in a unique way

Bible Verse Shared

Matthew 7: 7-11

7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.

9 Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?

10 Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?

11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?

Here we learn God wants us to ask, seek and knock. We also learn that if earthly parents can give imperfect help to their children, we need to trust God even more to provide the right solution when we are stuck.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/stuck-in-life-try-this

Sara Visser: Parenting--Learning to Let Go and Let God

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 05 Jan 2022 02:00:00 -0600

There was a day when the lights seemed to go out in Sara’s daughter, and the struggle for her life began as she battled depression and suicide. She shares the hard lessons learned as she struggled to find God in her extremity.

Episode Discussion Points

Why she loves to read more than watch movies
Why life not turning out the way we expect can be a good thing (but maybe we don’t see it right away)
The story of her teenage daughter coming into depression and wanting to do self-harm, having suicidal ideations
How she felt so helpless and hopeless as a mother trying to help her daughter go through this.
Her story is her story—perfectly designed by a loving God for her family. Everyone’s story is going to be unique for them.
Depression can try your faith in God—because you often can’t feel Him there.
As a parent she struggled comparing her daughter to other kids her age and what she thought she would be doing.
Her daughter’s addiction to self-harm
How she felt when she wasn’t getting the answer to prayers she wanted.
The rough counsel she got one day, “You need to grow up in your prayers,” which helped her realize she had the answer to her prayers all along (but just didn’t realize it).
As a parent you need to trust your gut
Children do reach a point where they are ready to take responsibility for their own health and decisions
How she felt reading her daughter’s suicide note in her journal, and the chronic worry that ensued
How she chose to begin repeating the mantra, “I’m choosing faith!” when the fear felt so all-consuming.
She reached a point that night where she realized she couldn’t save her daughter and that she had to be okay with whatever God’s plan was for her.
From this point on she began to make choices based on faith instead of fear.
The great advice she learned from a friends that she applied, “You can leave the church but you can’t leave our family.”
Talk through what the situation of a child leaving the faith will look like with your spouse and family—and how you choose to love them.
The negative thoughts she had after helping her daughter move in with her boyfriend as she left for college—leaving behind all she had taught her.
The inspiration she had walking and grieving: As earthly parents we are supposed to be imperfect parents, but what was her intention 100%? If yes, then she did her best—it was enough.
Move through the grief without the shame and guilt. We never grow from shame or guilt.
Praying with gratitude for good and the bad in our lives and the lives of our loved ones—because ultimately it will lead them back to God.
Why it’s important to write down what you believe at your deepest core.
Example: “I believe my Heavenly Father is all-knowing, and He is always working out in front of me to make everything happen for my good and the good of those I love.”
If you believe this then you can trust God will help life work out for your good—and you will have hope.
Often when you are dealing with trauma you may not feel God is a part of your story. At those times, pray and ask God to show you how He IS a part of your story.
It is not just you fighting the battle for your child—there are also loved ones—angels, who are there fighting with you. The example of Sara’s mom helping her daughter one dark night when she wanted to commit suicide.
How she has gained so much love and compassion for those for whom suicide is a part of their journey.
How God is with each person on their journey—even if that includes suicide.
For those left—seek for peace until the understanding comes.
“Pain is part of life,” Sara explained, “but suffering is optional.”
For parents—don’t forget to fill your own cup because then you have so much more to give.
A creative way to teach children the concept of why the focus of parents sometimes goes to another child who is in trauma.
It’s a sacred privilege to be someone’s safe place.

Things to Try With a Loved-One Struggling with Depression

First, know there is no quick fix
Lean on God heavily
Prayer
Fasting
Talking to family/loved ones
Working with a counselor
Find coping mechanisms—for her daughter it was driving and talking
Be open to taking medication, but it has to be their choice

Lessons

We are always being guided by the Spirit if we are living right and it will help lead us on the right path and to find the correct conclusions.
Love your children fiercely no matter what. They are part of your family.
God is the perfect parent, so we don’t have to be. He is the Master fixer and healer and will help each of His children as we come to Him.
Sometimes you’ve done enough and God commands you to “be still” and “let go and let God.”
Agency—the ability to choose—is as sacred to God as Christ’s atonement.

Favorite Bible Verse

Joshua 1:9, "Have I not commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee withersoever thou goest."

Need Additional Help? Check out These Resources

Sara is a life coach who specializes in dealing with parents whose kids are in crisis. Website: FindHopeCoaching.com or you can email Sara at findshopecoaching@gmail.com
Audio lecture, “How to Hug a Teenage Porcupine,” by Dr. John Lund.
Michael McLean faith crisis story. Watch a quick 5 minute version of his story on YouTube here.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/sara-visser-parenting-learning-to-let-go-and-let-god

My Gift to You: A Broken Down Holiday

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Merry Christmas! As my gift to you this holiday season, I wanted to share with you the story of my newest story, A Broken Down Holiday: One Mother's Journey to Finding Christmas Again.

Enjoy listening and have a joyful season.

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Transcription

You can find a partial transcription of today's episode here.

https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/my-gift-to-you-a-broken-down-holiday

Wendy Wilson Spooner: How Do I Solve My Family Mysteries?

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 22 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

What do you do when you have a family mystery in your family history? Is there any hope of resolving unsolvable adoptions? Listen to Wendy share the story behind how she became a genetic genealogist.

Episode Discussion Points

What she does as Vice Chair for the Daughters of the American Revolution, Art/Heritage contest each year.
What got her into genetic and forensic genealogy
The fascinating story in her own family tree where she helped find her husbands biological family (since his dad had been adopted).
How genetic genealogy ties into her new historical fiction book, Celtic Winter
Should every adopted person find their biological family? “The truth shall set you free.”
Every family is broken and we each get to choose which characteristics we emulate or which destructive cycles we stop.
Self-care ideas: art therapy, exercise, cake decorating, OR family history. We’ve never discussed picking up family history as a hobby or as self-care on my podcast, but it is fun and addictive.
As Wendy sayd, “I have not yet found an adventure that is more exciting than my family tree.”
We are all family!

Ideas for Family Discussions this Christmas

Ask an older family member to tell you about their parents, or an uncle or a story from when they were younger or about their parents, their family home, favorite memory etc.
Be sure to record them telling this story on your phone so you can have that piece of family history and share it.
Family History presents: You can also ask for pictures and photo albums, letters journals and any original documents and get copies of those. There is usually a family “keeper” who has the copies of the family history. Go to FamilySearch.org and locate a center near you to be able to go and scan family documents for free, and then upload them onto your family tree on familysearch.org so that your entire family can have access to these documents.

Favorite Bible Verse

Malachi 4:5-6, “Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: and he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers.”

For Wendy this Bible verse is all about family history and we are seeing hearts turning in our days as people look for and find out about their own families.

Connect with Wendy

knowmyroots.com
wendywilsonspooner.com
Buy Wendy’s books: Once Upon an Irish Summer or Celtic Winter on Amazon or Barnes and Noble

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/wendy-wilson-spooner-how-do-i-solve-my-family-mysteries

5 Lessons from Mary Mother of Jesus

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 15 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

What lessons can we learn from Mary the Mother of Jesus? I have found several which we can apply to our lives today.

5 Lessons from Mary Mother of Jesus

These lessons are taken from the Bible in Luke 1:28-44

When we feel troubled, continue trusting in the Lord.
God calls ordinary men and women to do extraordinary things.
It's okay to talk to God and ask questions.
Submit to the Lord with faith.
If you feel alone after the prompting, watch for God to send a second witness.

Invitation

At this holiday season, I invite you to remember our Savior Jesus Christ, and the miracle of his birth and the faith of the women and the men around him. I also invite you to share this with those who may need some inspiration during this holiday season.

I add my witness to that of Mary and Elizabeth and the angel that Jesus is the Son of God.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/5-lessons-from-mary-mother-of-jesus

Jeffrey A. Morse: Finding Forward After Paralysis

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 08 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

An aneurysm left Jeff paralyzed, but with miraculous perseverance he pushed himself daily to not only walk, but live life to its fullest.

Episode Discussion Points

As a 5-year-old the aviation bug bit him as he watched planes take off and land
You don’t get do-overs in life, so spend time with family and loved ones while you can.
Live with no regret.
The death of her father and sudden death of his cousin
Lessons with friends who committed suicide
Be kind to all
Don’t always assume things are okay
Tell them you’re there for them unconditionally, always.
Also realize you won’t always be there
If you are grieving
First, go into the bathroom and smile again
Remember God is always there
There are also family members and friends who are there and can be with you—even grieving groups
Get outside, look around
Keep moving forward every day
You are your own advocate—concentrate your energy on find something good or that will make you happy.
When people are depressed, they project the same sorrow into the future.
Remind them they don’t know the future.
Focus on getting through today.
The aneurysm that paralyzed him
He took life one breath at a time—”live your life in every breath.”
Be thankful for the grace God gives to give you each moment and breath
The advice he gave to a diabetic in the hospital who lost part of his leg—coming from a man paralyzed from the neck down
Always look to give something back—even in your worst moment you can give something
Super-power of laughter: Jeff’s goal was to help people laugh when they came to visit him in the hospital. He realized he still had a lot to offer.
When Jeff woke up paralyzed he wondered where the instruction book was for this. Then he said, “When there is no instruction book for your life, write it yourself!”
He determined even though he was paralyzed that he was going to walk out of that hospital
Doing PT he couldn’t feel his body. He had to learn to think differently and take a leap of faith and try.
Focus on what you can do and use your energy in a positive manner
He had to motivate the PT to have him work. He gave 100% and he demanded 100% of them.
Set goals—ridiculous as they might me, and work for them.
How he walked without feeling his feet
What paralysis felt like starting from zero all over again—no matter where you are you can figure out miniscule steps to move forward.
His new job became working on overcoming paralysis
The funny story he had climbing the Notra Dame Cathedral stairs 6 months later
There are always two components to trauma and recovery—the physical component and the psychological. You have to work on both.
Remember while you are working hard that life is going on around you—pause and be thankful for the world around you. You can still breathe, smell, see a sunrise, feel the rain, etc. This ties into Jeff’s favorite Bible verse, Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know.”
Thank God for your journey—the good and the bad
It took time for him to allow patience and mindfulness back into his life.
Pilates and neuromuscular massage therapy are some of the treatments that helped him the most.
Don’t put a limit on the progress you can make. “Don’t let ‘I can’t’ into my vocabulary.”
“Do things because you want to, not because you have to.”

Connect with Jeffrey

Buy Jeffrey’s Book, Finding Forward
Website: https://www.jeffreyamorse.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeffrey.a.morse.1
Instagram: @finding_forward
Twitter: @Finding_Forward

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/jeffrey-a-morse-finding-forward-after-paralysis

God Can Still Work Miracles

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 01 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Some of the amazing miracles that happened as I felt God guiding me to start a new project--writing a holiday booklet, A Broken Down Holiday.

Episode Discussion Points

The phone call and invitation to participate in a book signing with Richard Paul Evans which started the process.
The idea that popped into my head at the airport of the story I should write.
The strict timeline which seemed impossible to meet.
The miracles and people who helped made the booklet possible
When we trust in God, He will open the right doors for us
Miracles really do happen today

A Little About the Booklet

The booklet, A Broken Down Holiday: One Mother’s Journey to Finding Christmas Again, is based on the true story of my mother-in-law trying to get home for the holidays after she was widowed with a young son (my husband). She was left stranded to spend Christmas Eve in a bathroom stall, where she experienced some true miracles of Christmas.

I interviewed my mother-in-law, Judy Cromar about her story losing her husband Dennis when their son was only 9 months old on my podcast. You can listen to her story here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/judy-cromar-asking-god-the-right-questions

Order A Broken Down Holiday

Learn more about the booklet and order it here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/broken-down
They make great gifts for family, friends and neighbors for under $5 each
Use the discount code HOPE10 for a 10% discount through December 15, 2021

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/god-can-still-work-miracles

Karin Ford: Seeking Gratitude and Happiness After 2 Plane Crash Losses

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 24 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Episode Discussion Points

She was born during WWII in Czechoslovakia, and her family escaped to Denmark
She immigrated to the United States alone as a 19-year-old
A year after she came to California she married her husband and began to mother his two children.
They eventually had 4 more children.
The day that changed everything when her husband’s airplane went down and he died along with her two little children.
As she felt like she was going to fall apart she chose to hold it together for her son, and felt enveloped in a cocoon of love by God
The night she felt like the Savior was holding her heart in His hands, and often dragging her along when she didn’t feel she could go any further.
A second tragedy occurred five years ago when her son and grandson died in another plane crash.
The hardest part of this loss was the empathetic grief she had for her daughter-in-law and grandchildren who were left.
Karin changed her perspective from thinking of her son and grandson lying on the ocean floor to thinking about them in heaven.
You have to process the past and then choose to move forward
Karin did marry again 4 1/2 years after her husband passed, and they have made a new life together.

Lessons from Grief

It comes in waves—its not constant, but when the waves hit you are completely inundated and pummeled in the surf.
Hang on tight to God through prayer and scripture study through the rough times—and cling to faith, because sometimes it is all you have left.
If you aren’t going to see a counselor, have at least 5 good friends who will listen to you without judgment as you go through grief.
You can also process grief by writing it out, like Karin did when she wrote her book, Be Still.
The day she chose to stay in bed and wallow in her misery she found it was so much worse, and she had to get up.
Focus on what you still have and count your blessings
How she considered suicide, but couldn’t leave her two other kids—so she stayed for them.
Try to find and do things that make you feel happy again. For her this was taking her boys water skiing, had friends over, visited family etc.
When you feel like you are in the dark tunnel of grief, just keep walking toward the pinprick of light in the distance. You will get through to the other side and find a new and different but good life there.
In her darkest moments she remembered she hadn’t suffered like Christ and He understood and carried her.
As she read books on grief she learned she could control her thoughts. If a negative thought came onto the stage in her mind she could dismiss it and replace it with a positive thought.
Happiness will come again eventually if you want it and let it.
“You don’t get over it. You get through it.”
Loss is like a giant shadow that hovers around you for a long time—let the Savior help you and carry that heaviness.

Resources for Those Who are Grieving

“Living with Death and Dying” or “On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss” by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
“A Grief Observed,” by C.S. Lewis
“Tragedy or Destiny” by Spencer W. Kimball, or you can listen to the talk here.
Karin’s book, “Be Still.”

Connect with Karin

On Facebook as Karin L Ford

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/karin-ford-seeking-gratitude-and-happiness-after-2-plane-crash-losses

How Do I Battle Temptation Effectively?

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 17 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Tired of being tempted and not knowing what to do? Today we look at a pattern Jesus used to battle temptation with the truth and see how we can apply it today.

Episode Discussion Points

Tired of all of the adversary’s increasing temptations
Go through the story in Matthew 4:1-11 where Jesus is tempted
How Satan says “if” to make us doubt
Jesus knew who He was and I’m sure he affirmed it in his mind.
Then he battled Satan with a bible verse
Then he told him to go away.
Remember to invite Jesus to be your battle buddy. You’re never alone in your temptations.

Jesus’ Pattern to Battle Temptation

Affirm truth, (ex: I am a child of God).
Quote scripture
Tell Satan, to “Get thee hence.”

Invitation

Think of what Satan tempts you with. Then think of a truth or an affirmation beginning with “I am or I can.”

Next Google a Bible verse you can memorize to combat that temptation. You can put this on your phone either as audio or text to help you memorize it.

Tell Satan to go away, in the name of Jesus Christ.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/how-do-i-battle-temptation-effectively

Sheldon Mills: Stop Comparing Your Bloopers to Others Highlight Reel

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 10 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Sheldon has battled depression, impulsivity and negative thoughts for many years, and in this episode he teaches tips and tactics to overcome these challenges and replace them with positivity.

Episode Discussion Points

Some of the fun things he has built with his kids
Mythbusting the perfect person/family
“Everybody is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”
Satan is attacking more frequently
Comparing our blooper reel to everyone else’s highlight reel on social media isn’t accurate or helpful.
It is okay to talk about and reach out when we need help. There are so many people out there who struggle with the same thing.
We should be real on Social Media—don’t compare yourself to perfection.
Dan Sullivan and Ben Hardy’s new book, The Gap and the Gain, has made him realize that he has been unhappy with his progress because he is always measuring where he wants to be instead of considering everything he had already accomplished.
Quote from a talk he read recently called, Worthiness is Not Flawlessness, “Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf has said: “God does not need people who are flawless. He seeks those who will offer their ‘heart and a willing mind,’ and He will make them ‘perfect in Christ.”
Then Brad Wilcox continues, “So many have been hurt by broken and strained relationships that it is difficult for them to believe in God’s compassion and long-suffering. They struggle to see God as He is—a loving Father who meets us in our need and knows how to “give good things to them that ask him.” His grace is not just a prize for the worthy. It is the “divine assistance” He gives that helps us become worthy. It is not just a reward for the righteous. It is the “endowment of strength” He gives that helps us become righteous. We are not just walking toward God and Christ. We are walking with Them.”
Satan wants us to focus on our shortcoming and sins while Christ wants us to focus on HIm and how He can help us.
The story of how worthless he felt once when struggling with a compulsive behavior and he wondered if he was lacking in faith or if he was too weak for God to help him overcome. And although he didn’t get an immediate answer, God helped him figure out the next step with the feeling of hope.
How to discern between thoughts coming from God and those coming from a bad spirit—especially when you are reliving the same thought or conversation or worry over and over.
How Sheldon breaks the negative thought cycle by listening to audiobooks, General Conference talks, and being persistent (because it usually takes a while to break the negative cycle).
How if Sheldon can control his thoughts, and break the negative cycle, the positive feelings will follow.
First step is to recognize the negative thought pattern and realize you need to change.
Second, doing something to stop the negative cycle
Then feeling better should naturally happen.
Note: If you struggle with major mental health issues you may need to see a professional for help and medication.
Then, don’t feel guilty for having negative thoughts—everyone has bad and hard times.
How changing your perspective and looking at it differently—especially about those we interact with, can change everything. Sometimes we put thoughts and ideas other’s heads.
To change our perspective we need to get closer to the one being who has the best and clearest perspective—and that is God. He knows the truth.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you are struggling. Sometimes you may need professional help, and other times you may just need to cry on the shoulder of a friend.
Watch for earthly angels to come in answer to your prayer (and don’t tell them you are “just fine” if God is sending them to help you.)
In James Allen’s book, As a Man Thinketh, he gives the analogy of our mind being like a garden.
There are weeds in our garden, maybe rocks, and sometimes we need professional help to get rid of a particular weed.
You also learn to plant and nurture good seeds.
Sometimes the crap we go through actually helps us grow a better garden.
Because Sheldon has struggled with so many challenges throughout his life he finally asked God why he was so weak. The answer didn’t come until recently when he has been able to help and counsel a lot of youth. And he finally realized that because he had struggled with so many things he was a very empathetic listener and was able to help people genuinely. He finally became grateful for all those challenges from his youth.
“Practicing is part of the process.”
Focus on where we are headed and God will help us get there.

Action Item: Sheldon’s Special Weapon—A Hope Playlist

When Sheldon is feeling down, he has a series of different talks, motivational speakers, TED talks, music that he listens to which help him move toward positivity.
Having a set playlist or resources that is ready to go helps him be able to use it at a moment’s notice.
Assignment: Begin making your Hope Playlist

Contact Sheldon

Website: ideagym.info
Email: sheldon@ideagym.info

Special Free Offer

If you’d like a FREE Kindle copy of Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan’s new book, The Gap and the Gain, go to Sheldon’s website and sign up for them to send you a free copy at https://www.ideagym.info/

Favorite Bible Verse

John 8:32, “Ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free
Truth is truth and truth resonates.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/sheldon-mills-stop-comparing-your-bloopers-to-others-highlight-reel

Has God Forsaken Me?

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Just what do baby chick hatching, a little boy under a blanket and feeling like God is forsaking us have in common? On today’s episode we talk about all three of these and how they teach of a merciful God who wants what is best for us.

Episode Discussion Points

Story of my son’s Kindergarten teacher having baby chicks hatch in her classroom
How my son mimicked what he saw by grabbing his blanket and hatching out of it while I hugged him and was so happy to see him when he “hatched.
Why it is important to allow baby chicks to hatch on their own
How chicks have all they need to break out of their shell—nutrients, an air sack and even a special tooth to help crack the egg.
How God plays into this image of a chick pushing its way out of it’s shell—how He is there waiting and encouraging us to gain the strength necessary to move forward.
My personal experiences feeling alone, forgotten and forsaken.
How my perspective has changed as I think about God looking at us like a mother hen looks at her baby hatching.
Bible verses that talk about:
He sustains us
Fear not
Have courage
God hasn’t forsaken us
He sees the sparrows
He has graven us on the palms of His hands
He is preparing the way for us
Someday He will be there to greet us as we finally break free of our shell and welcome us home.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #babychickshatching #babychicks #hatching #growth #development #strength #Godisthere #Goddoesntforsakeus #Love #bibleverse

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/has-god-forsaken-me

Jessica Smith: Creating a New Normal with Tourette's & Grief

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 27 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Jessica wasn’t sure why she started having hiccups when she was a teen, but was finally diagnosed with Tourette Syndrome. She shares positive lessons learned from her diagnosis and how she grieved the loss of her brother.

Episode Discussion Points

The new book she is writing about a French Countess in the 1800s who had Tourette Syndrome which will be called “Madamn”
This is important to Jessica because she was diagnosed with Tourette Syndrome in her later teens/early twenties.
What her childhood and adulthood looked like as Tourette’s gradually came on with her starting to make noises.
“Stop trying to fix me. I’m not broken.”
What Tourette Syndrome tics look like and the range—between the echolalia, the swearing, flipping people off or eye blinking. Each person with Tourette’s is unique and different.
What it feels like to tic and how sometimes they pop out and other times they build up.
The process she went through from being a shy child to being very vocal about Tourette Syndrome.
First, recognizing ticking was just a normal bodily function
Learn all you can about your diagnosis, and figure out how you can share your uniqueness in our culture—and create new rules for how we deal with different situations (like Tourette’s).
The ability to create a new story for herself and how people deal with her with Tourette’s was so empowering.
All an awkward situation is, “When we don’t know what the rules are.”
“We are beings of creation just like [God] is. And we are also able to create. . . in the world around us.”
Jessica has also dealt with the death of several close family members and friends, and has had to learn how to grieve.
When Jessica’s brother was murdered in 2019 it was the hardest thing she had ever experienced. She wasn’t handling it very well—and then COVID hit and she had the time she needed to process her grief.
She learned to evaluate—is this grief and bitterness serving me? If not, how am I going to change it?
Different people are going to go through the grief and healing process differently. But just because they do it differently, doesn’t mean it is right for you.
The beauty of being unique is we can each tap into God and ask Him to help us process grief the way that is right for us.
Things which helped Jessica heal from grief:
journaling
prayer: talk to God and ask, “This is my new situation. How do I move forward?” God often then gives or helps us find baby steps to build upon.
going to church or other holy places
Sometimes God opens doors to healing which you might not traditionally think of but which will help you heal. Be open to those.
restorative yoga
tapping
She started to see God in a lot of metaphysical practices which aren’t traditionally Christian.
“This grief thing did open up new pathways and I found God there too.”
Be willing to prayerfully keep trying different healing techniques God may guide you to until you feel whole.
Each time you try a new technique it like putting different tools in your toolbox which you can then access and use to help you now or later.
Be real. Don’t try to paste on a happy face if you’re not feeling that way. Sometimes we get embarrassed by our emotions, but it is good to be real.
It is okay to feel grief. It isn’t going to go away magically. You will reach a point where you finish a crying session, and take a breath. Then, the key is to “move forward,” and take baby steps towards your new normal.
The idea that destruction is actually part of creation. When something or someone is taken from us, it leaves a space to build, design, grow or create something new—A new normal in who we are becoming.
“God sees the potential of who we can become.”
Those who pass on are still with us in spirit

Tips for Helping Friends Who Are Grieving

Bring in meals, and perhaps ask if there is anything they need specifically
Some of the best meals were pre-frozen so they could use it whenever they needed it
You don’t have to “say” anything. Just go and cry with them.
Show love!

Resources

The Book About Nothing, by Mike Bender

Connect with Jessica Smith (aka Paula Jean Ferri)

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #tourettesyndrome #grief #loss #tips #creation #bibleverse

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/jessica-smith-creating-a-new-normal-with-tourettes-grief

Justin Anderson: Choosing the Best Battle Buddy in Life

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 20 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Justin Anderson shares the story of why choosing a good battle buddy was important while doing “killer push ups” during basic training and how this relates to God and life.

Episode Discussion Points

Justin shares how during Army Basic Training he had to do “Killer Push Ups” and what that looked like.
At first he chose a friend (who was smaller than him) to spot him during Killer push ups, but why he quickly switched to find someone big and strong
How Justin was able to use this experience to realize it is so important to choose Jesus as our battle buddy in life because He will never let us down or let us fall flat on our face. He is strong enough to lift us when we are weak and worn out.
How Justin was able to use this battle buddy analogy of having Jesus help him during a time when he was sick, in work and at home.
Sometimes we don’t realize Jesus was there carrying us during a particular situation until after it is over. Then we need to remember to thank Him for His help and mercy.
How to yoke yourself to Jesus so you can rely on Him as a Battle Buddy through the basics of daily prayer, and scripture study and going to church weekly.

Justin’s Favorite Bible Verse

Isaiah 12:2, “Behold God is my salvation; I will trust, and not be afraid: for the Lord Jehovah is my strength and my song; he also is become my salvation.”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #battlebuddy #killerpushups #JesusChrist #BibleVerse #Tips #Lessons #army

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/choosing-the-best-battle-buddy-in-life

Lynn Taylor: How I Believe God Sees Us

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 13 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Lynn Taylor tells about his recovery from a car accident (which nearly derailed him from becoming a fighter pilot) and a heartfelt experience God had with him as he helped one of his sons.

Episode Discussion Points

The incredible story of how he became a screenwriter and how his story is going to become a movie.
The car accident that derailed his dream
The miracle that happened for him to be released from the hospital so he and his fiance could still get married (in a full leg cast and in a wheelchair).
How he was confident he would get back in shape, but if not it wasn’t going to be because he gave up.
Lessons of patience when plans get delayed
You need a team to support you in your life to help you achieve your dreams
How he almost gave up on his dream during fighter pilot training due to sheer exhaustion, and the talk with his wife that kept him going.
He believes life isn’t a test—it is more like a school. We are here to learn and grow.
What Aristotle’s “golden mean” means to him
How God looks at us as His children and His goals for us as His sons and daughters
The transformative spiritual experience he had talking to his son one day when God taught him how he views all His children: with peace, compassion and love.
Here is what he told his son, “I love you. Everything is going to be okay. Just don’t quit.”
“You decide what goes on in your head and in your heart.”
Let negative emotions flow through you and if you are stuck in an emotion like anger, you can ask God to help you get rid of it. He is always willing to take it.
If you know you need to let something go, but are having a hard time, pray for the desire to let that feeling or emotion go as a baby step forward.
In the midst of a POW training how he found a little bright spot and was able to pass a message of hope throughout his company by acting on it.
“If you ever feel alone it is usually because you are looking inward, not outward.” Serve others, or allow them to serve you as needed.
Serving and being served perpetuates love. God didn’t mean for us to live life alone.
When life is like a hurricane, remember to “Be still and know that I am God.”
God isn’t going to set you up to fail.

Some of my Favorite Quotes

“The rough memories fall into shadow.”
“As long as there was any chance at all, I was going to pursue it with every chance that I had.”
“Life is like a gym. It is a mental, emotional, spiritual gym.”
Your attitude may not influence your destination, but it definitely influences your journey.”

Connect with Lynn

Website: https://lynnsense.com/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #caraccident #recovery #fighterpilot #goals #dreams #resilience #children #love

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here:

https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/lynn-taylor-how-i-believe-god-sees-us

9 Actions to Take While Waiting

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 06 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Do you hate waiting? Today we talk about 9 action steps based in Bible stories that you can take while you wait for God to open a door.

9 Biblical Actions to Take While Waiting

Keep Working
Pray
Be Patient in Suffering
Keep the Faith
Repent
Trust in God’s Timetable
Remember Vengeance is the Lord’s
Love and Kindness
Work on obtaining the characteristics like hope, diligence, peace and purity

Psalms 37:7 “Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him.”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #wait #waiting #Biblestories #work #pray #love #kindness #development #repent #patience #trust #vengeance #faith #characteristics

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/9-actions-to-take-while-waiting

Reverend Christopher T. Scuderi: Love and Raise Each Other Up

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Reverend Christopher grew up being bullied which morphed into defending and loving all those who are bullied in life—no matter their race, religion or sexual orientation. He is on a mission to raise the love and kindness meter in the world today.

Episode Discussion Points

How he sees and photographs hearts everywhere in nature.
Moving so many times as a kid he experienced bullying and became a defender of the bullied.
God used “2x4’s” to help him find his purpose in the ministry.
The best advice for people dealing with challenges is to keep moving.
There are “blessons” (blessings in the lessons) of life.
He and his wife are advocates for loving and serving the LGBTQ+ community.
We are all one people and our purpose is to love each other.
There is light at the end of the tunnel if we are willing to look for it.

Favorite Takeaway

I loved how Christopher encouraged us to do the things that feed our souls—be it prayer, meditation, or dancing in the kitchen. Take care of yourselves and then be kind to others.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #love #ministry #weddings #lessons #lifelessons #detour #bullied #LGBTQ+ #kindness

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/reverend-christopher-t-scuderi-love-and-raise-each-other-up

Connect with Rev. Christopher

Website: https://universalheartministry.com/

How to Cling to Hope with Long-Lasting Trials

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0600

How to Cling to Hope with Long-Lasting Trials

Have you ever felt discouraged…like you wanted to give up? That whatever trial you have been facing has been long and hard and seems to never end? That you’ve been trying—so very hard to find the solution to your problem…but you can’t seem to figure it out?

What can you do to keep going?

Today I am going to share with you a great story from the Bible that we can apply today—it is known as the story of the woman with the issue of blood in the New Testament, Mark 5:25-34

3 Lessons from the Woman with the Issue of Blood

Research for Solutions with Faith

Research and ask God to guide you
Talk to Experts
Keep your ears open she had “heard of Jesus”

According to William Barclay’s commentary, the Talmud gave at least eleven possible cures for her ailment.

She was also desperate, which can be a very good thing. Desperation keeps complacency and self-pity away.

“When she heard people speak of the power of Christ, she believed and began to hope again for an ultimate cure. If she could just get to him. She had been in hiding so long that she felt she couldn’t just go up to him and talk to him. She was embarrassed and needed as private a cure as she could get. She devised a plan. If she could just touch his clothing for a second. She pushed her way through the crowd. A crowd that could turn on her if they realized that she was that woman, the one with the issue of blood. But she pushed through anyway. She was desperate. She got to touch his garment AND instantly the blood stopped, and she felt perfectly well. But she couldn’t remain anonymous as she wanted. Her feeling of triumph gave way to fear and trembling. What would he do to her? She fell down at his feet and humbly explained what she had done. And his response wasn’t anger. It was delight at her extreme faith."

2. Act on Ideas, Thoughts and Impressions

God often answers line upon line…an idea here and there
Take one step at a time—don’t be overwhelmed by 20 things all at once.
Don’t give up when the first few things don’t work—keep trying. Keep hoping. (the woman tried different things for 12 years).

When you face obstacles, keep moving through them.

3. Trust the Savior Can Heal in His own Time and Way

Be patient as you wait on His timeline
Ask Him to tell you if there is anything you can or should be doing while you are waiting
Remember to pray asking for baby steps of miracles—while always adding, “thy will be done.”
Sometimes God heals different things than we are praying for
Praying for physical healing and he blesses you with emotional resilience
Praying for mental health help—resources (medication/support) to cope
you may be seeing physical health and he heals you spiritually
The healing will happen through Christ eventually—maybe even in the next life (which lasts forever btw)

My Personal Experience Dealing With Long-Lasting Illness

· When Nathan was first diagnosed with autism I prayed God would heal him. He didn’t.

· But, God did teach me little baby steps of healing for helping him with sound sensitivity and learning to sleep through the night.

· It was still hard, but we moved forward with faith, the help of experts

· We acted on the things we learned—bought medication, learned to make social stories, etc.

· We leaned on God to help us with all the rest.

· Don’t discount the baby steps of miracles along the way when you are praying for a big miracle.

Conclusion

The woman with the issue of blood researched solutions to her problem, acted on thoughts and impressions, and trusted that God would heal in His own time and way. From her story, we learned that it’s sometimes it takes time, patience, persistence and a lot of faith to carry on daily, weekly, monthly and yearly as we struggle through long-lasting challenges. We also learn that healing comes in different ways, and to trust that God will heal us and those we love eventually.

Religious leader Dennis B. Neuenschwander spoke about how the woman in this account acted in faith to come to the Savior:

“Among the crowd was a woman. … Outwardly, there was little to distinguish her from any other person in the crowd. No one tried to stop her from moving toward Jesus. Certainly, the Apostles neither noticed her nor made any attempt to stop her. But there was something that set her apart from all others in the crowd that day. Though buried among the thronging mass, she resolutely and quietly pressed forward with a single purpose in mind: to come to the Savior, having faith that He had the power to heal her, that He cared about her and would respond to her need. In this one thing she set herself apart from the crowd. The crowd came to see, but the woman came to be healed. …

“ … All of us are among the crowds of this world. Almost all of us are like the woman who, despite the crowd, comes to the Savior. We all have faith that just a touch will bring healing to our aching souls and relief to our innermost needs.

“ … In all of life’s circumstances let us quietly and resolutely press forward to the Savior, having faith that He cares about us and has the power to heal and save us” (“One among the Crowd,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2008, 101–3).

Invitation

So, going back to my initial question:

Have you ever felt discouraged…like you wanted to give up?

Remember the lessons from the story of the woman with the issue of blood and take action on one of the following items:

Research for Solutions with Faith
Act on Ideas, Thoughts and Impressions
Trust the Savior Can Heal in His own Time and Way

I know Jesus Christ loves us, sees us through the crowd and will help, heal and comfort us through any and all long-lasting trials in our lives.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #trials #challenges #longlastingchallenges #longlastingillness #faith #Bible #Biblestory#Womanwiththeissueofblood #JesusChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/how-to-cling-to-hope-with-long-lasting-trials

Teinamarrie Scuderi: A More Loving World Starts with Me

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Teinamarrie dreamed about competing in a Miss America pageant and making a difference in the world. She did both, and teaches us how to love all people—including those who have AIDS and are LGBTQ+. But love must always start within ourselves.

Episode Discussion Points

Her experience with the Miss America Program
How she learned to be elegant (for a tom girl)
Why she kept going even when she didn’t win
The question she asked the judges about wearing swimsuits and their answer
The amazing lessons learned doing Miss America Personal Development Seminars
Competing with yourself, and do better than you did before
Walking and presenting yourself elegantly and with confidence
Core values like integrity, family, truthfulness, loyalty
Confidence comes from setting and reaching little goals
The power of setting goals
Interview skills
Importance of being punctual
The cool thing about learning skills is they stay with you the rest of your life, whereas wearing a crown is one and done.
How her work in college with the Utah AIDS foundation led her to learn to love people unconditionally
Why it is important to learn to love without conditions
You can love people and not like them or agree with them.
"The opposite of love is fear.”
Why she and her husband started Transgender Education Advocates of Utah back in 2003
Her journey to love people as they are and not judge.
To overcome a fear of people you need to first learn about them, and second interact with them and not have them be a faceless person.
Keys to loving people—especially those who have hurt you
Love yourself
Forgive yourself and others
Don’t judge or assume--Remembering you don’t know others situation
Put yourself in their shoes
Be brave to shine and be your best self. "Don’t dim your sparkle."

Favorite Quotes

“It wasn’t about that crown. It wasn’t about the title, it wasn’t about the scholarship money. It was about helping us become the absolute possible woman we could be.”
One of Teinamarrie’s coaches taught her, “We are not in competition with everybody else. We are in competition with ourselves.”
“There is only one me. No one can compete with me.”
“Shift out of road rage and shift into love”
"If I want a more loving, welcoming, compassionate world, it starts with me.

Resources Teinamarrie Recommends

Any book or seminar by Tony Robbins
'The Game of Life and How to Play It' by Florence Scovel Shinn
'Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts'

Connect with Teinamarrie

Website:Teinamarrie’s Treasures https://www.teinamarrie.com/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #love #selflove #loveothers #AIDS #HIV #LGBTQ #transgender

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/teinamarrie-scuderi-a-more-loving-world-starts-with-me

Vinney Tolman: Why You're Never Alone or Beyond God's Love

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 08 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Have you ever wondered if you always have angels with you? Vinney shares what he has learned about angels, love and agency since his near death experience.

Episode Discussion Points

Where our spirit guides are beside us, and why we have more than one.
Ancestra/Family guide (usually stands on your right)
Spirit guides part of your spirit family (stands on your left)
Also have guardians and higher guides
All these guides work together to help you connect with God and get answers that are right for you and those you love.
Who angels are and why they sometimes show up with wings
Angels share God’s love for you purely
God loves ALL His children all over the world. Therefore He has planted truth all over the world in different cultures. God wants all of His children to progress, grow at their own pace and come home to Him.
“Through the grace of God we are going to go further than we think we deserve to go.”
Because we are each unique God helps each of us build our own divine path which helps us achieve who we want to become.
Why Vinney believes the writers of the US Constitution “divined” it’s principles so God could share His light with the world. There is an awakening happening right now to shine God’s light bigger and brighter.
Why agency or freedom is so very important, and why you should guide people with love, not authority, as you exercise your agency.

Bible Verses Shared

Psalm 91:11-12, 14 God’s angels are always with us and around us to help us because of His tremendous love for us, His children.

For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. They shall bear thee up in their hands. . . because he hath set his love upon me.

Genesis 2:16-17 God gave us agency or the ability to choose from the very beginning.

“Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat; But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat.”

Galatians 5:1, 13, 14 God made us free from sin, and we should share this love with the world.

“Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

“Ye have been called unto liberty…by love serve one another.”

“For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even this; Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”

Invitation

Pray for God’s love to help you as you love others through their good and bad choices. Remember He loves you through your choices and is committed to helping you grow at your own pace. God will also be with your loved ones and help them grow and progress and make choices at their own pace with their own angel guides.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #angels #guaridanangels #Godslove #agency #choices #love #BibleVerses

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/why-youre-never-alone-or-beyond-gods-love

Vinney Tolman: What I Learned About Love After I Died

Tamara K. Anderson — Wed, 01 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0600

When Vinney had an incredible near-death experience, he learned just how much God loves him, and how much he should love himself. Listen as he shares his incredible journey to heaven and back again.

Episode Discussion Points

How Vinney died and what he saw.
The miracle that saved him physically (even though he was dead)
The smothering fear he felt when he realized the body he was watching was his body and the immense feeling of love he felt that saved him from this darkness.
How God’s immense love in that moment was enough to save him from a lifetime of pain
The guide who came and took him on a journey
How Vinney’s guide asked him about/taught him some Important principles before they could progress
Being authentic: which means being the same you no matter who you are with because, “until we can be authentic with ourselves we can’t grow.”
Authentically love ourselves—“You can never truly love anyone outside you until you love inside you first.”
Time isn’t measured in heaven, and Vinney saw people of different cultures, faiths and time there in heaven.
Heaven looked like a ginormous star as he approached, but it was a planet a million times bigger than earth that shone.
The interesting “pearly gates” that surround heaven as a decompression spot to get rid of their negative energy so they then keep progressing
The concept that we each progress only as quickly as we allow ourselves to progress
How you don’t have to communicate verbally in heaven—you just think it and it is easier to understand.
Heaven is so bright and energetic that our normal human eye couldn’t abide it.
Vinney explains how there are a hundred million colors in heaven and mountains, rivers, flowers and trees.
When Vinney’s feet “touched down” in heaven he felt like he plugged into God’s love
The beautiful opalescent buildings in heaven were built out of “loving consciousness.” God asked the building to exist and it formed itself out of that love.
The place of learning Vinney visited where people learn pure knowledge.
Since he “came back” Vinney has become more aware of the light and patterns all around here on earth.
We have quite a bit of growing to do to return to live with God at His level in His dimension
Vinney explains what frequency is by using the story of Jacob’s ladder in the Bible. Every choice we make can move us up or down the scale.
“If you want to learn to raise your frequency, come from the perspective of love.”
If you lash out in anger at a fellow human being, you are only hurting yourself because “we’re all different fingers on one hand.”
Feeling anger and that you can’t forgive someone is “like drinking poison and hoping someone else gets sick.”
As Vinney coaches people with marital challenges, he finds a lot of people who say, “He doesn’t make me happy.” To which Vinney replies, “The only person who can make you happy is you.”
What coming back to his body was like and why he felt claustrophobic.
The humorous situation at the hospital with the staff after he came back.
How at first he didn’t remember his near death experience and how talking to his sister a day later brought it back to his mind.
Why he felt suicidal after he came back.
The changes he made once he came to terms with being back on earth
We all have spirit guides here on earth
There is no reason to fear death
If you are missing a loved one, remember that this life is the pit stop on the road of eternity—be patient, allow yourself time to heal, and remember you can be with them forever.
If you think positively and with love about loved ones who have passed on, you can get your own signs that they are okay.
How we can connect and tune into the divine and into our higher frequency.

Some of my Favorite Quotes from the Episode

”We are kings and queens of the most high God, and we don’t act like it.”
“You can never truly love anyone outside you until you love inside you first.”
“The whole reason we are here is to learn to make choices.”
“We all play our sacred, diving part—every single one of us—even if you feel you aren’t making a difference. If you are broadcasting that love frequency, you are changing the world.”

Favorite Bible Verses

Colossians 3:14 “Over all these virtues, put on love.”
1 John 4:16 “We have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love, dwelleth in God, and God in him.”

Connect with Vinney

Website: https://www.livinggodslight.com/
Vinney will be publishing a book about his experiences in the afterlife within the next 6 months. Check out his website for more information because we just barely scratched the surface of everything he experienced there.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #neardeathexperience #godslove #angels #connection #faith #hope #love #death

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/vinney-todd-what-i-learned-about-love-after-i-died

Got Darkness? Get Light!

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 25 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0600

What do you do when you feel you or someone you love is in a dark place? How do you turn up the light?

Episode Discussion Points

Story of my husband and I visiting Natural Bridge Caverns near San Antonio, Texas
How dark and isolating true darkness feels
We all pass through dark times
Bible verse John 8:12, "I am the light of the world. He that followeth me, shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life." And why that was symbolic during the Feast of the Tabernacles.
Times when I felt dark
Things we can do to connect to the Savior when we feel like we are in dark times.
How God helped me learn to teach my kids a really cool object lesson about turning up the light inside of ourselves.
How we are each connected to God by a kind of spiritual umbilical cord and things we can do to turn our brightness up and then shine light to the world.
Why it is important to learn to avoid things that bring us down or increase the darkness within us.
The song, “The Lord is my Light” and what those words mean to us today.
Invitation to increase your light so that darkness will depart.

A Favorite Quote

“No matter how dark the night is, morning always comes. And don't you think God is teaching us something by that pattern every single day? Maybe it's a dark and cloudy day, and a dark and cloudy night. But the sun rises the next day.”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #darkness #light #help #cave #tips #story #Bibleverse #JesusChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/got-darkness-get-light

Stephanie Sheafer: Battling My Inner Lies with the Truth

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 18 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Stephanie has battled bulimia, depression and the loss of loved ones in her life. Listen as she shares how leaning on God and family have helped her pull through with faith.

Episode Discussion Points

Stephanie’s struggle with bulimia as a teen which followed her into adulthood.
How she finally talked to her husband about her struggle with bulimia and his response which helped her change—”Let’s do this together.”
How even 17 years after stopping binging and purging she still feels tempted to go throw up.
How Stephanie battles her inner voice with the truth: Purging doesn’t make her feel better.
How she has chosen to be open and honest with her husband and children about her struggle and has tried to teach by example that you can lose weight healthily. (She lost 80 pounds by exercising and lifting weights 4 times per week).
Stephanie’s 1-2-3 punch to start her day powerfully with God on her side: studying God’s word, talking to God in prayer and listening to praise music to combat her negative thoughts.
When her husband was not around to help her and she felt unworthy or unloved, Stephanie leaned on God to speak the truth to her through the scriptures:
“I’m fearfully and wonderfully made.” God does not make mistakes. He made you beautiful and perfect for you.
“There is no condemnation in Christ Jesus.”
Surround yourself with people who love you and will help you. Stephanie found one of the keys to overcoming bulimia was being completely honest with her husband and with God. If she made a mistake, she would tell her husband. He would pray with her and then she would pray and talk to God about it as well. We were not meant to live life alone.
How to combat the negative voices in her head when she made a mistake—constantly falling on her knees at the feet of Jesus to beg for help, strength, forgiveness, and begging for Him to walk with her.
Post favorite motivating scripture verses all over your house to remind you God is there and loves you.
What depression has looked like for her all of her life—feeling so alone
The advice a therapist gave her about journaling and writing that helped her immensely
God is with her in her dark, lonely places as she invites Him in through studying his word and prayer. He doesn’t always make it better, but He stays there with her.
The tragedy of losing her sister to cancer during 2020 and learning to grieve and mourn and heal when they were locked down. She also lost her uncle to COVID.
How she vented and cried to God and how He lovingly consoled her and reassured her He hadn’t taken the wrong child (her).
Why it is important to be real to God with all the emotions you are experiencing (even and especially anger.)
She can still talk to her sister in heaven.
Reminding herself she will see her sister again.
The concept that we are and can be victorious, “beauty from ashes,” and God can turn our weaknesses into strengths. Be patient.
Our struggles allow us to help us empathize and then help others who have similar struggles.
Stephanie started writing years ago—so she started writing fantasy because she wanted to live in another world.
Stephanie’s Zelina trilogy can be found here: https://www.authorstephaniefaye.com/

Ways to Help People Struggling With Depression

Give them a hug
Say/text “I love you. I’m thinking of you.”
Pray with them
Take them to lunch
Don’t say, “Snap out of it. Choose to be happy.” (They would if they could).
Say, call me when you need help. Then listen with love and without judgment.

Connect with Stephanie

Website: https://www.authorstephaniefaye.com/
Instagram: @stephaniefaye_books
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/s.faye.books

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #bulimia #depression #connection #scripturestudy #prayer #music #battle #negativity #worth #grief #death #truth #JesusChrist

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/stephanie-sheafer-battling-my-inner-lies-with-the-truth

When God Says No: 4 Lessons from Job's Story

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 11 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0600

The other day people were sharing stories of miracles at church and I wanted to stand up and say, "And sometimes God says no." Sometimes the miracle doesn't happen. What then?

When God Says No: 4 Lessons From the Book of Job

1. Hard Things Happen to Good People

The very beginning of the book of Job opens with this verse:

“There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright and one that feared God and eschewed evil.” (Job 1:1)

Then Job's life derailed and fell apart. NOTE: Job’s suffering didn’t come because he was bad, but because he was so faithful to God. (Job 1:8)

2. Friends May Fail Us, But God Never Does

Job’s three friends call him a wicked man and a hypocrite. Finally Job confronts them by saying:

“Miserable comforters are you all!”

“My friends scorn me; but mine eye poureth out tears unto God.” (Job 16:2, 20)

Even his wife tells him to “Curse God, and die.” (Job 2:9)

But he answers her wisely:

“Shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil?” (Job 2:10)

Three of my favorite statements from Job are these:

“Though he slay me, I will hope in him.” (Job 13:15)

“For I know that my Redeemer lives, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth.And though after my skin worms destroy this body, yet in my flesh I shall see God: Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another.” (Job 19:25-27)

3. Trials Can Be for Our Good

“But he knows the way that I take; when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.” (Job 23:10)

4. Hope on--Blessings Come Eventually

In the last chapter of Job, he again humbles himself before God with an increased perspective that he should pray for his friends (even though they were unkind to him). Repentance, humility and forgiveness were a great stepping stone for Job. Job’s prayer then released blessings and opened the windows of heaven!

“The Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.. . . So the Lord blessed the latter end of Job more than his beginning.” (Job 42:10, 12)

Conclusion

What do you do when God says “no” and you don’t get the miracle you are looking for?

When my two sons were diagnosed with autism no matter how hard I begged, pleaded and prayed the answer was no. I learned these same lessons as Job. 1). No matter how good I was, this challenge was part of my life. 2). That God never failed me--in fact because I was so overwhelmed and weak day in and day out I had to lean heavily on Him to survive. 3). This trial and challenge of autism in my family has been for my good. I have learned so much and am a better person because of it. 4). Blessings have come into my life because of this challenge and I feel blessed and honored to have had God bless me with children who struggle.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/when-god-says-no-4-lessons-from-jobs-story

Heather Avis: How I Became One of the Lucky Few

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0600

As the mother of 3 adopted children (two with Down syndrome), Heather Avis has a passion to shout the God-Given worth of every person! She loves celebrating inclusivity and how we are each different and unique.

Enter to win a FREE copy of Heather’s New York Times Bestselling Children’s book, Different - A Great Thing To Be! The contest ends August 11th 2021 at midnight.

Episode Discussion Points

Fun had yard saling in Southern California
How she felt life was so unfair when she and her husband couldn’t get pregnant
How she was angry and vented to God like a tantruming child, and how He loved her through it all.
What her most frustrating moment with God looked like when she was going through the adoption process.
Sometimes God gives us gifts that we unwrap and the present isn’t what we were hoping for. At those moments we need a shift in perspective, and realize God is the giver of good gifts.
How they adopted their daughter with Down Syndrome, heart and lung conditions and were able to have front seats to miracles.
When you are blessed with a child with special needs, your life changes, and there is a grieving period for your expectations, but it also opens you up to “the other side of things” where you get to glimpse divinity.
When asked, “How do you do that?” Heather answered, “You do the thing you have to do for your kid,” whether it be open heart surgery or whatever else they are dealing with.
The stories of adopting her three children, two with Down Syndrome and congenital heart defects, and one typical child.
How her perspective on adoption has changed (For more details see separate section below).
We need to shift the narrative from adoptive parents being the heroes to they are just a part of the triad along with birth families (where possible) and the child being adopted.
Starting her group, “The Lucky Few” as a voice for parents of Down Syndrome children.
Writing her books, “The Lucky Few,” and “Scoot Over and Make Some Room.”
Her dream of writing a children’s book, and how that came to be her New York Times Bestselling book, “Different - A Great Thing to Be!”
We also had a great discussion on how we promote inclusivity from the time people are young.
Heather’s favorite Bible verse is: 1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18, “Rejoice always. Pray continually. Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” For Heather this means she can rejoice and pray always. God is God—period! She can trust in Him and His plan no matter what.

Heather’s Perspective on Adoption

Heather’s perspective on adoption has changed from her getting a baby to having different goals when a child is born. This is how she thinks people should look at adoption:

Keeping families intact by giving birth families support;
Look at kinship adoption
Look at adoption within their same race.
Interracial adoption

ALL with the idea of what is best for the child and that there will always be a birth family who is important to the child who are not a threat.

Book Trailer

Check out the fun book trailer for Different - A Great Thing to Be!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_Q5QzKEV14

Favorite Quotes by Heather Avis

“Hard is not bad. Hard is just hard.”
“Motherhood is the hardest gig—raising another human.”
“God’s holiness doesn’t hinge on me getting pregnant or not.”
“When you are hurting and broken, God is hurting and broken with us.”

Connect with Heather

Instagram @theluckyfewofficial
Website: https://www.heatheravis.com/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #adoption #downsyndrome #inclusivity #different #worth #unique

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/how-i-became-one-of-the-lucky-few

The Secret to Sanity When Life is Crazy

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 28 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0600

How do we battle a World full of crazy commotion? What do you do when you need answers, peace or stillness? This one secret will help.

What is the secret? How do people do it?

The Story of Elijah

Well, I’m going to take us back to a story in the Old Testament about the prophet Elijah and see if we can learn an important principle.

Do you remember Elijah? He is the one who had the competition with the prophets of Baal to see whose God was the true God by asking them to have their God bring down fire from heaven to consume the sacrifice. And Elijah’s God did. He burned the sacrifice and the people fell on their knees. But wicked queen Jezebel was mad that Elijah killed the prophets of Baal and sought his life.

So, he fled to the wilderness, and begged God to die—Talk about commotion and probably what felt like the whole world coming after you.

God strengthened him by an angel and then invited him to come to a mountain to talk to Him.

Elijah did. He went to the mountain and hung out in a cave where he told the Lord everything going on in his life and how he felt:

—I have done what I was supposed to

—I am alone

—they are trying to kill me

Then God tells him to go stand on the mountain before God and this is what happened:

1 Kings 19: 10-11

And he said, Go forth, and stand upon the mount before the Lord. And, behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind rent the mountains, and brake in pieces the rocks before the Lord; but the Lord was not in the wind: and after the wind an earthquake; but the Lord was not in the earthquake:

And after the earthquake a fire; but the Lord was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice.

When Elijah heard the still, small voice of God communicating with Him, God told him exactly what he needed to do to solve his problems. And He did.

When Life is in Commotion

1. Find a Quiet Place where we can Be Still

2. Expect Commotion will find you--Don’t be discouraged if when you are trying to be quiet you are interrupted—wind, earthquake or fire

3. Persist in trying to be still and inviting God to be with you and He will answer you like he Did Elijah

How We Apply the Secret of Stillness

Remember the story of Julianne, when the world fell apart for her—she found a quiet place in the cupboard under her stairs which she called her “Harry Potter Room.” There she communed with God. There He taught her of her worth and what she should do to solve the myriad of problems she was dealing with.

I too have felt like hit the accelerator. and I too have found places of stillness—but it hasn’t been the same place. Sometimes my place of stillness is in my car. Other times my car is way too noisy with kids

Lately one of my still places is walking. I used to walk with my headphones on listening to audiobooks or talks. But lately, I have craved more stillness and I left the headphones at home and spend my walks talking to God.

I have also found stillness waking up before everyone else and sitting on my back lawn or in my office.

My point is—you can find stillness in many places—from the cupboard under your stairs, to mountains, to offices. God will meet you in your stillness and commune with you as you invite Him to be a part of your life.

Just this week I was wondering how I could help my daughter with a challenge. I had talked to God about it and kept pondering what was the right solution. Then this morning, while I was walking—a solution just popped into my head. To me, that is God speaking. But would that solution have come if I had earbuds in and was listening to something else? Probably not.

I believe God is trying to communicate with us often, the question is, are we still enough to listen?

As He invites in Psalm 46:10, “Be still, and know that I am God.”

Invitation

So my invitation to you today is to invite stillness into your life? Will you do it? How will you do it? Will you be brave enough to unplug on a walk? Will you pause and not scroll mindlessly through social media? Will you pray more? Read your scriptures more?

What changes do you need to make to invite stillness into your life? Whatever it is. Ask God to help you. He wants that connection with you.

“Commotion in the world will continue to increase. . . in order to hear [God’s] still voice, you too must be still! . . . We can use our time to hear the voice of the Lord whispering His guidance, comfort, and peace. Quiet time is sacred time—time that will facilitate personal revelation and instill peace.” —Russell M. Nelson

So, if you are looking for peace amid life’s crazy commotion, find and MAKE places where you can BE STILL.

I promise God will meet, comfort and strengthen you in your stillness.

Hope on!

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #commotion #crazylife #answers #stillness #secret #feelpeace #peace #Biblestory #JulianneDonaldson

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/the-secret-to-sanity-when-life-is-crazy

Julianne Donaldson: How I Turned My Throw-Away Soul into My True Self

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 21 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Julianne Donaldson never thought she would struggle with depression or go through a divorce. But, she clung to God to help her find her true self amidst her darkest moments and wrote a beautiful new book, "Come Sweet Day: Holding On to Hope in Dark Times.”

Episode Discussion Points

Favorite place she has ever lived was Germany and she has a huge bucket list of places she wants to still visit and things she wants to do.
Going from normal busy young family to looking to get a divorce in the matter of a year or so.
Confronting the idea that you “never put kids through a divorce” and the hard question, “At what point is staying worse than leaving?”
When the decision became divorce or suicide because she felt like the fate of the family was resting on her shoulders
The answer Julianne received from God when she felt so burdened
How she moved from feeling worthless to loved
How trusting God helped deliver her, and how God walked that road with her.
How both staying in her marriage and leaving her marriage she did “for the sake of her kids” and she let her love for them and hope for them pull her forward.
She had to be unshakable in her conviction to divorce because so many people tried to dissuade her. But she knew what God told her to do.
Why it is so important to support people in their choices and decisions when they are making them with God’s help.
The amazing book of heartfelt poetry Julianne wrote called, “Come, Sweet Day: Holding on to Hope in Dark Times.”
In her Harry Potter room under the stairs, she had an epiphany as she read a scripture that told her to stand up and take her chains off and get up out of the dirt.
Why noticing small and large details in nature helped Julianne feel God’s love when she was feeling lonely.
What Julianne did when she felt like the devil had grabbed her by the ankles
Taking time to talk to God about everything
Being patient and courageous during the long waiting period while you are healing
Struggling with depression, hope and optimism don’t come naturally to Julianne, but she discovered that both hope and optimism are a choice. They are also like a muscle that you can work on every day.
How sometimes she just had to hold still and let the world wash by because it was all she could do to hold her spot.
Why it is important to remember spiritual experiences when you are feeling down.
Use all the tools in your toolbox to keep you from sinking into depression: therapy, medication, exercise, journaling, meditation, praying, connecting with God or someone she loves, etc.
How Julianne starts each day: Listing 3 things in her journal she is grateful for and 3 things she is excited for. This helps her start her day off in a positive way.
15-second hug time!

My Favorite Julianne Quotes from the Podcast Episode

“There is no life plan that is one size fits all.”
“God loves us enough to rearrange heaven and earth for us to show us His love.”
“I can practice hope so my hope becomes more and more buoyant.”

Tips to Rebuilding Worth

Find a good therapist who can help sort through the lies and find the truth.
Connect with God in a quiet place (Julianne had her Harry Potter room under the stairs).
Unpacking a lot of pain to figure out why she had lost her self and allowing healing into her life.
Making a list of her “True Self” characteristics like “I’m joyous” and reminding herself of them frequently.

Connect with Julianne Donaldson

Website: https://www.juliannedonaldson.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorJulianne
Instagram: @writerJulianne
Buy Julianne’s new book, “Come, Sweet Day: Holding on to Hope in Dark Times” on Amazon or at your favorite book store.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #depression #selfworth #divorce #connection #optimism #therapy #newbook #juliannedonaldson #author #comesweetday

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/julianne-donaldson-how-i-turned-my-throw-away-soul-into-my-true-self

4 Simple Steps to a Achieve a Scary Goal

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Have you ever had an impression to do something that scares you? Today I share the ICAN steps to help you overcome fear and reach your goal. (Plus you get a sneak preview of my new song, Don't Give Up.)

What do you do when an intriguing but scary idea pops into your head, and you're pretty sure God wants you to take some action?

4 Simple Steps to a Achieve a Scary Goal

Let me introduce the acronym ICAN to help you remember 4 simple steps.

Impression/Inspiration
Communicate with God
Act on baby steps
Navigate continuously until you reach your goal

The Project I've Been Working for 1 and 1/2 years

To show you how I have used the ICAN method, I am giving my podcasting audience the first peek at a new song I have felt God prompting me to share for the past couple of years. This project scares me and excites me all at the same time.

The problem: I knew absolutely NOTHING about producing a song professionally even though I have been writing music since I was a teenager.

My New Song: Don't Give Up

I was so inspired by Nina's story of sharing her very personal music this past week. After the podcast recording was over, she and I sat and chatted about I, like her, felt God nudging me to share my music as well.

I was very candid and had some open conversations with God--like, what the heck? One more thing to learn? Wasn't podcasting and writing a book enough?

But, with a LOT of help from some amazing people, I have navigated this scary new arena with success and am please to share my new song, Don't Give Up.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #newsong #sneakpeek #musicpreview #goals #keepgoing #dontgiveup #moveforward #progress #fear #overcome

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/4-simple-steps-to-a-achieve-a-scary-goal

Nina Angela Lee: Courageous Gratitude Amidst Grief

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 07 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Nina’s life was altered the day her teenage son came home from school with yellow eyes. She learned to courageously choose God and gratitude along her detoured path.

Episode Discussion Points

What growing up in her home looked like
The car accident that changed everything
Why she climbed out the window to escape her father
How the things her mother taught her came back to her memory
What she used to sing when her parents were fighting downstairs and how it brought her peace
The day life changed for her son
The tips Nina used to keep her strong through the 17 year battle for her son’s life
How asking the question “What can I be grateful for in this moment?” helped her keep going
How she felt when the doctors said they had done all they could do
How a woman in an elevator became Nina’s angel
The things she was grateful for when her son passed away
Why the saying, “This too shall pass,” meant to her—especially when it lasts for a long time
How Nina learned that every breath is a gift, and how it motivated Nina and her family to begin living without regrets and experience life in its fullness.
Don’t let fear hold you back from reaching your full potential and how NIna finally was courageous enough to share her music and talents.
How Nina’s love for others overrides her fear of being onstage and sharing her music.
How Nina got involved with Women of Worth and the amazing organization it is.

One of My Favorite Takeaways

I loved how Nina talked about having gratitude even when her son died. At first I thought she was crazy to try to think of things to be grateful for at that point, but as she began listing them, I realized God taught Nina so much through her journey—and although it was awfully heart-breaking, she could still find joy amidst as she was thankful.

Resources

Music has always been a great resource for Nina—soft classical or meditation on Pandora.
Caregiver support groups—there are support groups for everything. Ask and find them. They can become your tribe.
Chicken Soup for the Soul books.
“On the Path Home,” by Henry B. Eyring
“Consider the Blessings,” by Thomas S. Monson
You can also listen to Nina’s music and imagine getting a hug from her here: https://www.ninaangelalee.com/music or on Spotify or YouTube.

Connect with Nina

Website: https://www.ninaangelalee.com/
Facebook as Nina Angela Lee
Nina’s email: nina@ninaangelalee.com
Women of Worth Website: wowutah.org

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #gratitude #grief #autoimmunedisease #death #lessons #angels #supportgroups #womenofworth #WOWutah

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/nina-angela-lee-courageous-gratitude-amidst-grief

Need a Proven Stress Reliever? Try Kirtan Kriya

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Did you know that some meditations are proven to reduce stress? Today Christian Yoga Instructor, Katy Willis, teaches us the Kirtan Kriya.

If you would prefer to watch today’s episode as see the techniques Katy teaches, watch the YouTube version here:

Episode Discussion Points

Katy tells us how she got into Yoga and Meditation and how it helps her
Katy teaches us the interactive and proven method of the Kirtan Kriya meditation
How the chants in this particular meditation relate to Jesus Christ and Christianity
How our mind is uniquely wired and our Savior can help us as we learn to process things in our unique way.
Why it is important to find stress relieving techniques that work for us so we can build our mental reserves for the challenges we face.

If you would like to hear Katy's story, you can listen to it here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/katy-willis-how-to-be-still-amidst-trauma

If you would like to hear Katy’s intro to breathing techniques, you can listen to it here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/stressed-try-these-3-breathing-exercises

Resources

Meditation write up: https://mindworks.org/blog/different-types-meditation-technique/
Katy’s free 11 minute Kirtan Kriya recording: https://soundcloud.com/user-820416336/11-minute-kirtan-kriya Be sure to click on the picture to find the links to the studies that have been done on this meditation as well as
Amazing proven benefits of the Kirtan Kriya: https://kripalu.org/resources/incredible-power-kirtan-kriya-conversation-brain-health-and-longevity-dr-chris-walling
The written instructions for the Kirtan Kriya: https://www.3ho.org/kirtan-kriya
Katy’s "Rooted" yoga therapy course I mentioned during the interview where we address the mind from both the "top down" and the "bottom up:" https://be-still.teachable.com/p/http-be-still-teachable-com-p-roots
Instructions to other Kundalini yoga meditations: https://www.3ho.org/kundalini-yoga/meditation/featured-meditations
Katy’s favorite mantra translation site: http://www.spiritvoyage.com/mantra
Katy’s other top three recommendations for beginners (Kirtan Kriya is #1)
#2 is Sat Kriya: https://www.3ho.org/articles/everything-kriya-sat-kriya and
#3 is Long Ek Ong Kars: https://www.3ho.org/kundalini-yoga/sadhana/aquarian-sadhana/long-ek-ong-kars;
Other great meditations
#1 The Meditation for Healing Addictions: https://www.3ho.org/3ho-lifestyle/health-and-healing/meditation-healing-addictions-0
#2 Meditation for Release of Cold Depression: https://www.3ho.org/3ho-lifestyle/healthy-happy-holy-lifestyle/happy/meditation-release-cold-depression

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #meditation #kirtankriya #stressrelief

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/need-a-proven-stress-reliever-try-kirtan-kriya

Krista Isaacson: Courageously Trusting God With Heavy Burdens

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 23 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Krista Isaacson had 30 hours from the time her two-year-old daughter was diagnosed with a brain tumor until she passed away. She shares her incredible journey of faith and learning to lean on God through this unbearable burden.

Discussion Points

The crazy shenanigans Krista’s daughter Elora got into as a young girl
The day everything changed
The blessing of having family close by to help, support and love.
Battling between extreme fear and faith
Her thoughts while pacing the floor waiting for diagnosis
Juggling grief upon diagnosis while watching her daughter battle for life
How God helped and sustained her through two sleepless nights
How she felt angels with her
An agonizing decision when she didn’t want to pray to know the answer
Courageously submitting to God’s will
The sacred moment of death
The downward spiral Krista went through and what pulled her out
Be patient with yourself on your journey

Lessons Learned

God can see what's coming on our path, and He puts things in place ahead of time to soften the blow, to help us endure the hardship, and so that we can see his hand and know he's with us.
How Krista thought God was asking something horribly cruel of her when Krista had to choose to take her daughter off of life-support. But this decision opened the door to one of the most sacred experiences of Krista's life.
WE DO NOT have to carry burdens alone. Christ has enough strength and love to help us all. And if I let him pull the heaviness alongside me, I find rest and my burdens become light. He will walk beside me and you always if we ask him to.
Heaven is real, and we WILL see our loved ones again someday.

Comforting Bible Verses

John 14: 18-- "I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you."
Psalm 55:22-- "Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee."
Matthew 11: 28-30-- "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest until your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

Resources for Those Struggling with Grief

Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Chuck DeKlyen and Pat Schwiebert
I love this picture book. A beautiful, simple parable accessible for all ages, educating readers about the grief process, and granting permission for each person to grieve individually, uniquely.
The Gateway We Call Death by Russell M. Nelson
President Nelson, a world renowned surgeon and special witness of Christ, provides a better understanding of death from both medical and theological points of view. An excellent source for questions about death and the after-life.
The Continuous Atonement by Brad Wilcox
If ever we need reassurance of Christ's love and power to heal, it's when we are grieving. With love and a touch of humor, Brother Wilcox reminds us that the Savior can and will do all he has promised and that he'll be with us continually.
"How Firm a Foundation," Hymns #85, particularly verses 3, 4, 5, & 7
This is Krista's favorite hymn for strength during trials
"A Gaelic Blessing," by John Rutter, performed by the Tabernacle Choir at Temple Square
https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=njzAEaJFzrY
When I need peace, I often listen to this beautiful song.
We Can Live With God Again, YouTube Video
Krista and her husband were blessed to participate in this church video about our belief that life continues after we die, and that we will be reunited with our loved ones.

Connect with Krista

https://www.kristamisaacson.com/
Facebook: Krista Walker Isaacson
Instagram: @kristamisaacson

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #braintumor #death #deathofchild #faith #angels #courage #prayer

Transcription

You can access the complete show notes and the transcript for today's podcast here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/krista-isaacson-courageously-trusting-god-with-heavy-burdens

6 Tips to Navigate Change with Success

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 16 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Has change ever paralyzed you with anxiety? Today I share the story of my son with low-functioning autism aging out of public education and the 6 steps which helped me (and can help you) successfully navigate change.

6 Tips to Navigate Change with Success

Turn to God
Focus on Today
Use Healthy Distractions
Talk or Journal about it
Be Kind to Yourself and Don't Compare
Take Baby Steps Toward Your Plan

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #autism #autismawareness #autismmom #publiceducation #agingout #change #success #anxiety #specialneeds #healthydistractions

Transcription

You can access the transcript of today's episode at:

https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/6-tips-to-navigate-change-with-success

Danice Hope: Finding Peace & Hope with Chronic Illness

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 01:00:00 -0600

Danice wondered if God was punishing her when her health began to fail as a teen. Follow her journey to a correct diagnosis with SAD and ME/CFS with God’s help.

Discussion Points

How Danice had undiagnosed exhaustion as a teenager, and why it took 6 years to be properly diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD
How she finally found someone who figured out what was wrong with her.
How Danice learned to bring joy and beauty into her life not only during her healthy summers, but during the winter as well.
What Danice did as she turned to God to help her endure when her illness got worse and going to 24 different doctors couldn’t help her get a diagnosis.
What Myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) is and what it looks like
How Danice learned to trust God— and that He will lead us to those who can help us.
How her trials helped her become closer to Jesus
The answer to, “Is God punishing me?”
The trait Danice values most in people
The critical decision “I can learn from this” which changed her perspective.

Tips for when you are feeling alone or discouraged

turn off TV
read scriptures
listen to uplifting music
read uplifting books
seek peace

Favorite Takeaway

Danice said one of the greatest lessons she learned was that, “My life is of worth as it is.” This worth was there despite all of the health challenges and the unfulfilled expectations. I think it is a good reminder that our lives have such tremendous value just as we are.

Resources

Book: The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff
the principle of “working with the waterfall”
“Instead of fighting against this superior force, I’ve learned to work with what I’ve got.”
Book: Winter Blues by Norm Rosenthal—recommended book for those who have SAD
Danice’s Blog: https://danicehope.com/

Transcription

You can access the transcription of today’s episode here:

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/danice-hope-finding-peace-amp-hope-with-chronic-illness

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #SeasonalAffectiveDisorder #SAD #ME/CFS #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #Faith #Hope #Peace #Bible #Endurance

1 Word Changed my Perspective on Death

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Tamara shares how she decided to dive deep on the the meaning of one word: repentance. This changed her entire perspective on death.

Episode Discussion Points

I have two words I have never liked: repentance and death. They have a negative connotation in my brain. But all of this changed one day when I deep dived into what the original Hebrew and Greek words for Repentance meant (surprise: they don't have a negative connotation at all).
Both the Hebrew (שׁוּב or shub) and the Greek (μετάνοια or metánoia) both really mean to turn or return to God.
It is the Latin root word for repentance where the negativity comes into play. Poenitere: This word is related to the words punish, penance, penitent, and repentance. But this root word means hurting, punishing, whipping, cutting, mutilating, disfiguring, starving, or even torturing! Yikes! No wonder I don't like this word very much!
As I studied this idea of returning my epiphany came. God sent His son, Jesus Christ, so we could give Him our sins and return to Him. Repentance is simply the process of removing anything that would keep us from returning--pure, clean and whole.
No unclean or unholy thing can dwell with God, so that means we also have to give up our current physical and imperfect bodies for a perfect one at the resurrection. I had never thought of my body, as wonderful but flawed as it is, as something keeping me from the presence of God. But because it is imperfect, I need a resurrected body before I can return to God. Death is a step in getting me closer to God.
How the seasons, universe, water cycle etc. all show us this process of returning or repeating over and over.
Bible verses that go along with this concept

Transcription

You can read the entire transcript of today's episode here:

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/1-word-changed-my-perspective-on-death

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #death #repentance #jesuschrist #bible

Shawn Rapier: Adoption & How I Learned Love is Unconditional

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 26 May 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Shawn Rapier: Adoption & How I Learned Love is Unconditional

Shawn never dreamed as a kid struggling with ADD that someday he would adopt 6 children. He humorously shares the struggles, joys and perspective he's learned from parenthood.

Episode Discussion

What it was like Living with ADD in the 1970’s and 1980’s and how he wasn’t doing well in school.
How using technology has helped Shawn with his ADD (reminders, alarms, emails, EverNote, etc)
Why it is important to not use challenges as a crutch.
Why his home is “dysfunction junction.”
The amazing story of adopting six children and having two biological children
How his parenting perspective has changed, and how God has an eternal perspective.
To change perspectives and “let go” of expectations he had to break and realize he really has no control of his kids.
When Shawn “broke” and went through a super-rough period, he realize the answer was focusing more on Christ to help and heal.
The “he is mine” answer which changed Shawn’s perspective.
How two principles can exist at the same time: God is all knowing and things are out of control.
Why learning to respect agency is so important.
Love is the antidote to hate and anger and cannot be used as a weapon or tool.
Never say something you can’t take back.
Good question to ask: Did I make peace in my home?

My Favorite Shawn Quotes About Love

“All we can do is show an increase of love and trust God to do the rest.”
“Love is not a temporary thing.”
“Love is to be given freely.”
“Forgiveness breeds love.”
“Decide to love and don’t give up.”
“If you want love, give it and give it unconditionally.”
“They can’t outrun our love!”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #adoption #love #challenges #peace #keepgoing #children #family #humor

Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's podcast here:

www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/shawn-rapier-adoption-how-i-learned-love-is-unconditional

Picture This & Pull Through Your Darkest Moments

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 19 May 2021 03:00:00 -0600

A story Caroline Rose shared morphed into an powerful image in my mind which gives me hope in my darkest moments.

Episode Talking Points

Caroline's story of saying "no" to chemo and then changing her mind when nurse Jan told her what to focus on.
What did Jesus focus on when he suffered in Gethsemane and on Golgotha?
Did He look down through the ages to see you and me?
Did His love for us pull Him forward?
Bible Verses which teach and confirm God's love and understanding
3 lessons I can take from this and remember in my darkest times.

Picturing Jesus lovingly thinking of me or you in His moment of greatest trial helps me realize that I can focus back on Him and lean on Him in my personal Gethsemane.

Transcription

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/picture-this-pull-through-your-darkest-moments

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #darktimes #focus #JesusChrist #Golgotha #Gethsemane #Bibleverse #love #understanding

Caroline Rose: Why I Chose Hope and Kept Fighting

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 12 May 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Caroline Rose went from running marathons to being a cancer patient with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. She shares her journey of faith, endurance and how a dog she rescued, saved her in return.

Episode Discussion Points

How she reacted to the news of her sudden life detour of non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.
How her type A personality was able to learn (eventually) that she really doesn’t control anything. God is in control and we can trust Him.
The wise advice her doctor uncle gave her which gave her the courage to fight.
How rescuing a dog then helped her through subsequent treatments
Why she and her husband froze embryos after she went into remission.
How her son was a medical miracle
Sometimes we have to wait for miracles to happen
The angel who came to help Caroline when she relapsed a third time.
The four types of prayers: “help,” “thank you,” “whatever” and “oh well.”
There is an emotional component to healing, fighting and surviving.
The reason why Caroline kept fighting when she wanted to give up and quit chemo.
The shifting of hope that takes place after someone you love dies.
Hope isn’t always getting the outcome we want. It is getting to the point where we can accept the situation, be okay, and keep going.
Listen to your “God-voice” or intuition.
Everyone’s journey is unique.
How she emerged from the struggle with cancer different than she was before. This also affected her loved ones around her.

Favorite Quote

One of my favorite things Caroline said is, “We can’t fully live unless we hope.” So, if you are struggling, keep your flicker of hope alive. Believe in God and that with His help you can get through anything. You then will live, and live fully.

Resources

Brenee Brown

Jen Hatmaker

Kris Carr

Connect with Caroline

https://dearrileyrose.com/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #cancer #nonhodgkinslymphoma #lymphoma #cancerbattle

Transcription

You can access the transcription of today's show here:

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/caroline-rose-why-i-chose-hope-and-kept-fighting

The Mother's Mite

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 05 May 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Today I share The Mother's MIte, the story of a modern woman blended with the Bible story of the Widow's Mite. Jesus can and will help in our darkest hour.

The Mother's Mite

The Mother’s Mite tells the short story of Sarah, a modern-day mother juggling a teething baby, sick children, laundry, dishes, work, and finances. Sarah feels spent, drained, alone, and empty.

One night her exhaustion turns to desperate pleas heavenward.

God's answer came to her in a dream where she met a man who saw into her heart and taught her a soul-stirring lesson as an old widow gave her last two mites.

Transcription

You can find the transcript of today's story here:

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/the-mothers-mite

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #biblestory #themothersmite #mothersday #gift #story #exhausted #wornout #lonely #worth #loved #understood

Chani Barlow: My Life Didn't Turn Out How I Thought

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 28 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Chani had several life detours including an accident and being unable to have children. She learned to trust God through adoption, foster care, and life.

Episode Discussion Points

How being hit by a car at 15 changed her life dreams of being an Olympic athlete
How a photo of Jesus and a simple saying helped her to keep going
How one phone call from a doctor shattered her dreams for having children
The questions she asked God after finding out she wouldn’t have biological children
How Chantelle grieved for the children she would never have, and how it is totally normal to grieve lost expectations.
What adoption looks like, and the roller-coaster of emotions it brings.
Why waiting in limbo is really hard and the piece of advice that kept her going when they didn’t get picked for adoption.
What it felt like when her son was placed in her arms.
Can adoptive moms have baby blues after adopting a baby?
The things she did to pull out of the blues.
Why it is important to be open and honest when we are struggling.
The dream of having a baby girl that kept recurring, and the different emotions that went with that.
What it is like to be a foster parent.
Find and enjoy the season you are in right now and find the everyday miracles.

Lessons Learned Through Her Trials

Patience--learning to wait for God's timing.
God is there. He cares—even about the little foster care kids she has in her home.
There are miracles everywhere—little messages from God if we can see them.
Let go of the “control” of your life and let God guide you. His path is better. Trust Him.
Remembering and looking back on times in the past when God has helped you through tough situations helps us be okay to trust Him with the issues we are facing today.
Self-care isn’t a luxury it is a necessity to keep us going in a more balanced manner. Some of the things Chani does for self-care are:
A daily devotional where she can connect with God.
Time to meditate and be still and listen. Chani uses the Ten Percent Happier app to help her meditate. https://www.tenpercent.com/
Exercise, moving and getting outside.
Take a break when you need a breather because life is “too much.”
Writing can help you get your thoughts and feelings out—both the positives and the negatives. Writing also helped her see the patterns in her life. Chani used a program https://calliopewritingcoach.com/ to help her write her story into a book.

My Favorite Takeaways

I loved two quotes Chani said that work really well paired together: “Heavenly Father seems to know I grow the most when I’m asked to wait.” She also added to this by saying, "The best way to get there is His way, not mine.” It takes a lot of trust in God to let Him help us navigate the detours in our lives, but it all works out...eventually.

Favorite Bible Verse

Matthew 11:28-30

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Chani loves this verse which the Savior speaks because, “it is an invitation to share that burden together.” And “He can help better than I can do it myself.”

Connect with Chani

https://www.chanibarlow.com/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #adoption #fostercare #lifedetour #challenges

Transcription

You can find the complete transcription of this episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/chani-barlow-my-life-didnt-turn-out-how-i-thought

Lisa Goich: Learning to Process Grief with Humor and Grace

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 21 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Lisa Goich shares the story of being able to spend 14 days with her mother before she passed away and how she learned to process grief.

Episode Discussion Points

Loved ones and others come as death draws near to usher loved ones to the other side.
Why it is important to keep talking about loved ones after they pass—especially their funny stories.
Processing death (especially when it is unexpected) takes time.
Live life and tell people how much you love them!
You never know how many lives you touch.
How using a journal (whether it be Lisa’s guided grief journal or a blank spiral notebook) can be a place to write down your thoughts or what you want to tell your loved one who has passed. Or you can talk to them as if they are in the room.
Everyone goes through grief differently.
Don’t carry around guilt or “I should’ve called, visited, etc.” That won’t help you. Put yourself in their shoes and choose to live life happily—because that is what they would want for you.
Why it’s okay to feel okay again after a loved one passes.
Embrace wherever you are today in your grief journey. Grief is often like the game Chutes and Ladders.
Have a list of friends names and phone numbers to call when you are struggling.
You are not the only one grieving. Find a support group in person or online. You can also join Lisa’s group: @guidedgriefjournal

One of My Favorite Takeaways

Lisa said, “We all grieve differently. We all heal differently." I love this thought. Too often we compare where we are vs. where someone else is, and that is such an unfair comparison because we are each unique and process things differently.

Connect with Lisa

GuidedGriefJournal.com
AGirlOnTheGo.com
You can order her new Guided Grief Journal here: https://www.amazon.com/I-Wonder-Guided-Grief-Journal/dp/1642936421

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #hardtimes #grief #griefjournal #lisagoich #death #healing

Transcription

You can find a transcription of today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/lisa-goich-learning-to-process-grief-with-humor-and-grace

Sharla Goettl: How Sharing Stories Helps Youth Build Resilience

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 14 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Sharla shares the story of her grandfather going from mobster to faithful follower of Christ and how telling true stories can help youth learn resilience.

Lessons from Grandfather

You don’t have to be perfect to fulfill your life mission and to follow God.
When you know God loves you, you can follow Him with complete trust and faith.

Episode Talking Points

One prime example she uses in her newly released book, Spiritual Resilience: Leading Our Youth to Go and Do, is that of Nephi, a young man in the first chapters of the Book of Mormon, who left Jerusalem about 600 BC. Sharla explains that unlike Esther, Mary or Daniel, where we don’t have much of the backstory for why they chose to be faithful to God, that with Nephi we have many chapters.
Sharla tells the story of walking away from a promising job in New York City because she kept feeling it wasn’t right—and how years later it all made sense.
It’s important to teach youth the good stories and the stories where we have struggled in our lives.
Youth need life-size examples of people trying to do what is right.
The lessons learned from hiking into a cave with a group of young women that was pitch black.
The Holy Ghost is part of our life on a daily basis—so follow the small promptings to send a text, talk to a friend, comfort someone who is sad.

How to teach youth to follow God’s Guidance

Go and Do, take action
Help them figure out their deepest why—what motivates them the most.
Articulate why they want to follow Christ and believe that He will helps them fulfill their deepest desires in life.
Teach youth that “our doubts and our testimonies can live along side each other.”

One of My Favorite Takeaways

I loved when Sharla shared that Christ loves us so much that He wants to interact in the details of our lives—big and small. It is a good reminder that our daily interactions matter to God and we can invite Him to be a part of all that we do.

Connect with Sharla

https://sharlagoettl.com/
You can also find her on social media
Order Sharla’s new book here: https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Resilience-Leading-Our-Youth/dp/1736349600/

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #resilience #stories #familystories #teachingyouth #youth

Transcription

You can find the transcript for today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/sharla-goettl-how-sharing-stories-helps-youth-build-resilience

Why Hitting Rock Bottom Might Be Good For You

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 07 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Have you ever wondered why we hit rock bottom? Could good ever come from it? I share 4 questions which help rebound stronger after hitting rock bottom.

My Most Recent Story of Hitting Rock Bottom

In September I hit rock bottom. The combination of dealing with COVID restrictions, trying to help my children stay focused for online school after a LONG and exhausting summer caring for my son with low-functioning autism. I was exhausted and broken. . . again!

Here are 4 questions I learned and used as I was rebounding from my rock bottom. I hope they help you as well.

Ask These 4 Questions to Rebound Stronger After Hitting Rock Bottom

1. God, Will You Help me?

First, ask God to help! He is uniquely situated to help you in your specific situation. Talk to Him and ask Him for help and guidance as you desire to do better and be better.

Isaiah 57:15, "For thus saith the high and lofty One that inhabiteth eternity, whose name is Holy; I dwell in the high and holy place, with him also that is of a contrite and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of the contrite ones."

2. Why did I burn out and hit rock bottom?

The first question to ask yourself is why. If we don’t know why we can change and solve it.

"Hitting rock bottom doesn't mean you have to stay there."

— Michelle Parsons

Story of leper colony and the purpose in pain.

3. What do I want to change?

"Never be afraid to fall apart. It represents an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wished you'd been all along."

— Rae Smith

When we hit rock bottom it is probably because some of our foundations stones in life have cracked and need to be repaired. We can only build a taller, stronger and better us when our foundation is solid.

4. How do I commit to change it?

"Strength and growth only come from continuous effort and struggle."

— Napoleon Hill

Now that you know why and what you want to change, make a plan HOW you will change.

Invitation

Want to avoid rock bottom in the first place? Take 30 min or more to evaluate your life and see if you are out of balance. Need help? Download and use my ‘Not-To-Do-List.’

Promise

Isaiah 40: 28-31

Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.

He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. . .

But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

God is never weary nor faint. He can and will renew and increase your strength as you move forward with His help from rock bottom. Rock bottom can be good after all because you can use it as a powerful tool to change yourself to be better, stronger and more capable.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #rockbottom #rebound #selfevaluation #change #help

Transcript

You can read the entire transcript of this episode here:

https://tamarakanderson.com/episode/why-hitting-rock-bottom-might-be-good-for-you

Kristen Jenson: How God and Angels Helped Me When I Couldn't Go On

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Kristen Jenson’s life changed one day when her 18 month old son almost died. As a full-time caregiver of a child with a disability, she leaned on God and angels to help her survive and then she was able bless others.

Discussion Points

Kristen enjoys baking. It is one of her creative outlets which brings her joy. She and her husband eat a mostly plant-based diet.
The near-drowning of her son, and his comatose state afterwards.
How to deal with feeling overwhelmed, and the idea that you just have to get through that day—don’t take on the whole future.
The brick wall analogy.
“Lord give me enough to get through this one day.”
The angels who came into her life to help her.
Be thankful. It could always be worse.
God doesn’t always give us what we want, but He does give us what we need.
How her prayers changed.
How God prepared her for her son’s death.
The prompting to help God protect young minds from pornography, and starting the company Protect Young Minds.
How writing her book “Good Pictures, Bad Pictures” was a group effort.
What physical exhaustion and burnout felt like.
The importance of finding joyful hobbies or recreation.
Jesus will help us through every step of the way—even you may not feel like He’s there.

Caregiver Tips

Get help! You can’t do it alone.
Find something you enjoy doing to keep you sane.
Walk or exercise with friends.
Work on projects or goals.
Find time to get respite or get a break. “You can handle anything if you get a break!”

ProtectYoungMinds.org

Kristen is now the driving force for helping parents protect their children from pornography.
Has many FREE resources to each parents how to protect their children, and keep them up to date with the latest threats and give them tools to combat pornography.
Parenting advice on how to help raise their kids to be emotionally resilient.
They have a new video based curriculum available.

My Favorite Takeaway

“God doesn’t give you the whole picture, but He does give you hope—hope to carry on.” --Kristen Jenson

When Kristen said this, it totally resonated with me. I often wish I could see the whole picture that God sees, but often He blesses me with peace. Feeling peace fills me with hope that God is aware of me and my situation and will help me carry on. It is a beautiful pattern.

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #caregiver #specialneeds #disability #pornography #help #angels #gethelp #cargivertips

Transcript

You can access the transcript of today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/kristen-jenson-how-god-and-angels-helped-me-when-i-couldnt-go-on

Kim Rippon, LCSW: How to Help Loved Ones Struggling with Depression

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 24 Mar 2021 03:00:00 -0600

After a conversation with a friend dealing with a spouse who was diagnosed with depression, I decided to bring on Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Kim Rippon to give tips on how to help loved ones who are struggling.

Episode Discussion Points

Talk to your loved one (ideally one on one). Some ideal phrases that help people open up are:
How are you doing?
We are pretty good friends and I’ve noticed you just don’t seem yourself lately.
You know, I’ve had a pretty terrible week. What about you?
If your loved one has noticed have noticed they aren’t sleeping as well, eating habits have changed, or feel more down or discouraged have them go talk to their doctor about it and have an evaluation done.
Why service and exercise doesn’t cure mental illness
Is our brain like a light switch?
Why it is important to begin a toolbox of coping skills to help manage your situation.
NAMI.org (National Alliance on Mental Illness) is a fantastic resource for both people who are struggling and their loved ones. They even have support groups for loved ones! Don’t do this on your own. Get help for both you and your loved one!
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255—is for both those who are struggling but also caregivers and friends of those who are struggling.
What to do about burnout as a caregiver or friend.
Why 30 minutes of self-care is so important for caregivers and why it is okay to have “good selfishness,”
For people who think there is shame or weakness in seeing a counselor, Kim explains, “It’s the weak people who don’t go and get help. It’s the weak people that keep it a secret. It’s the strong people that say, ‘Hey, I cannot do this on my own, and I need help. Please give me some tools!’”

Recommendations to Help Struggling Children and Teens

So many more teens and children are struggling with anxiety and depression symptoms due to COVID restrictions.

If your child is struggling with anxiety or depression (and you have a diagnosis or are seeing a counselor), be sure you get a 504 or an IEP for them so they get accommodations at school.
Be sure to ask for and IEP or 504 in writing, because then it starts a clock for the school to respond within 60 days.

My Favorite Takeaway

I had no idea that associations like NAMI.or and the Suicide Hotline can also help people who are calling for advice on how to help a friend or loved one. So, if you don’t know where to start, you can make a call or use the resources on the NAMI website.

Resources for Caregivers or Friends of Those Struggling with Depression

Video on Empathy by Brene Brown on YouTube

Self-Nurturing Activities (for Teens and Adults)

Suggestions for Adult “Feel Goods”

#tamarakanderson #storiesofhopeinhardtimes #podcast #hope #God #hardtimes #depression #anxiety #caregiver #helpforlovedones #selfcare

You can find the complete transcription of today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/kim-rippon-lcsw-how-to-help-loved-ones-struggling-with-depression

Dr. Bill Bach: How Divorce, Cancer and God Changed my Perspective

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 17 Mar 2021 03:00:00 -0600

Bill Bach never expected to face divorce or lymphoma in his life, but he found he could navigate any challenge with God’s help and by changing his perspective.

Discussion Points

The place he’d recommend visiting after traveling and living all over the world
Navigating the shock of divorce and it’s ensuing grief with God’s help
How asking God “What lack I yet?” and “What wouldst thou have me do? helped him grow
Why he made the decision to not let himself stay stuck being depressed and alone
How sick he got before getting a Lymphoma diagnosis
Why he didn’t want to do chemotherapy, but why he’s glad he did it
What it means when you’re not getting an answer to prayers
Why it is important to keep asking and knocking with different questions to God
Our trials can give us an opportunity to change our perspective
The story of a young boy on top of a mountain in Pakistan that changed his perspective
The story of a terminally ill young boy who asked “Why not me” in his challenge

Tips for Those Struggling

You’re not alone
Others have experienced what you are going through right now
The Savior has experienced all sorrows and suffering and can help you. Reach out to Him and He can help you overcome any struggle.
There is something to learn, or a silver lining in the clouds of every storm.
Be courageous with God’s help to walk your path.
When you think you are humble enough, you may still have a ways to go.

My Favorite Quote

Bill said, “From adversity and trials great growth comes.” I think this is one of the hardest things about the challenges we face—the growing pains.

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Transcript

You can access the complete transcript of this episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/dr-bill-bach-how-divorce-cancer-and-god-changed-my-perspective

3 Truths Learned from Lost Gloves

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 10 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0600

We all get lost sometimes, the question is: are we worth finding? I share what I learned losing a pair of gloves.

Story Summary

Today I share the story of losing a very needed and appreciated pair of gloves at hardware store. I was devastated and enlisted the help of store associates to help me find the gloves. I searched all over for about 10 minutes.

3 Truths About Lost Souls

At the time of the lost gloves, I was preparing to teach a Sunday School lesson on Luke 15 which includes the parable of the Lost Sheep, the Lost Coin and the Prodigal son.

As I walked out to my car that day a distinct impression came into my head: “You just spent 10 minutes looking for a $15 pair of gloves. Will you spend 10 minutes helping my lost sheep?”

1. We Each Have Tremendous Worth!

We are worth more than gloves or sheep! We are worth loving and searching for.
Isaiah 53:6, “All we like sheep have gone astray.”

Religious leader M. Russell Ballard said, “Every soul is very precious to our Heavenly Father. We must never forget that through the atonement, the Lord Jesus Christ paid a great price for the redemption of each one of us. His suffering must not be in vain.”

2. God loves us Perfectly!

I believe the parable of the prodigal son teaches us so much about God’s infinite love and mercy. We learn from this parable that:
God doesn’t want to control us or keep us from making foolish mistakes. He loves us and our agency, and so He watches.
When we take the slightest turn to come back, he runs to us!

Religious leader Jeffrey R. Holland said, “The tender image of this boy’s anxious, faithful father running to meet him and showing him with kisses is one of the most moving and compassionate scenes in all holy writ. It tells every child of God, wayward or otherwise, how much God wants us back in the protection of His arms.”

3. We Can All Rejoice Together!

At the end of each parable, there is a great rejoicing which takes place—a celebration.

Going back to my story of the lost glove. After searching with the store associates for 10 minutes, we found the gloves. I was so happy!

Conclusion of Story

It was on the way out to the car (with my gloves on my hand) that God began teaching me those 3 critical lessons:

1. We each have tremendous worth—more that gloves, sheep, or coins. We are each worth looking for and finding.

2. Now, I loved my gloves because they kept my hands warm in the cold. But God loves each of us perfectly and wants us to come home. He loves us when we are lost, and He loves us when we are found.

3. And when we find lost gloves, sheep, coins or prodigals, We can all Rejoice Together! Any time a soul repents, it is worth celebrating. I celebrated with the store associates when my gloves were found—and they were only worth $15. The worth of souls is worth celebrating eternally.

Invitation

My invitation to you today is to spend 10 minutes loving someone who needs a little love. Maybe that someone is you. Maybe that someone is a friend or a family member. God will inspire you to know who needs a little love. You can do this through a text, a phone call or maybe by dropping cookies on their doorstep.

Promise

I promise that whoever is lost is loved and noticed by God. And in His own time and way, not only will gloves, sheep and coins be found, but so will souls be wrapped in His eternal embrace.

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You can find the full transcription of today's episode on my website: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-truths-learned-from-lost-gloves

Lark Galley: Learning to Breathe After Suicide

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0600

After experiencing the death of her son and father to suicide, Lark Galley had to learn to heal herself and her family. Listen as she shares her story, wit and wisdom and learns to breathe again.

Lark and I had some very frank and open conversations about mental health and how to help ourselves and others since the added stress of COVID has hit us.

Episode Discussion Points

Shifting priorities to what matters most
Ideas of self-care in a stressful situation
How to connect with teens and young adults in your family
How writing helps us process life
Why Lark went into a deep depression after publishing her book and how her mentor Richard Paul Evans helped shift her perspective to look at the completion of the goal differently.
Why sharing the vulnerable parts of our lives helps others connect with us.
Everyone has a message to share—even as imperfect as we each are.
What gave Lark the courage to be vulnerable, open and willing to share her story completely even when she was so scared to do it.
How finding a bigger purpose sometimes helps us move through grief.
Key message to those struggling with suicidal ideations:
You are not a burden!
You matter! The message you have inside you matters! You can change the world by changing one person’s life. So hang in there!
There are so many lives you would impact traumatically if you choose to end your life early! “The impact you have is so big!”
Get help! Find someone to talk to about your emotions and feelings.
Find a reason to keep living.

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Resources for Those Struggling with Suicide or Caregivers

On Lark’s website she had a great interview with Dr. Paul Jenkins with some key information. https://larkdeangalley.com/larks-resources/
Lark’s Book, “Learning to Breathe Again: Choosing to Heal after Losing a Loved One to Suicide”
What’s the state of your mental wellness? Take a quick 5 minute test here.
http://33374.amarecontent.com
SafeUT app https://healthcare.utah.edu/uni/safe-ut/
Hope Squad https://hopesquad.com/
Golden Gate Movement: https://goldengatemovement.org/
NAMI: https://nami.org
Or Google “free suicide resources in [my state]”

Favorite Bible Verse

Revelation 21:4, “And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain.”

My Favorite Quote which Lark Shared

“Relationships are the spice that give flavor to our lives.”

You can read the entire transcript of this podcast here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/lark-galley-learning-to-breathe-after-suicide

4 Surefire Steps to Solve Life's Problems

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Tamara K. Anderson tells a story in her life about a time when she felt completely overwhelmed, the answer she received, and the 4 steps to problem solve any situation with God's help.

My Story of Feeling Overwhelmed

In this episode I take you to a time in my life as a young mother when life was very overwhelming. I had 4 children ages: 7 years, 6 years, 2 1/2 years and 6 months. The challenge: only one of my children could communicate with me verbally. That is because my 6 year old Nathan and my 2 1/2 year old Jacob were on the autism spectrum. Nathan was challenging and wouldn't stay dressed, tantrumed because he couldn't communicate, and smeared his poop into the carpet every few days.

Jacob was so smart and capable at escaping our home and running straight toward danger because he had no fear. Once we found him climbing the ladder onto a neighbors roof, running into the street or once he almost jumped into a neighbor's pool.

My days were long and my nights were even longer since kiddos on the spectrum have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep (plus I had a sleeping baby).

Exhausted as I was, I was devastated when a much anticipated family walk ended in disaster. It was the straw which broke the camel's back and I fell to my knees in prayer where I poured out my grief to God.

I promise I will now share with you a solution and then the resolution of the story.

4 Steps to Solve Life's Problems

Connect & Ask. This means to find a place to talk to God openly and honestly about our situations and challenges and then ask for help.
Listen & Record. This means take time to listen for ideas, inspiration and answers you will get and record them so you will remember to act on them.
Plan & Act. Sometimes we need to brainstorm or plan how we will break down how we will act on our impression. Then we can act on it.
Repeat. When we take action we will either find success or have a failure/learning lesson. If we succeed, we can repeat the process and ask God to teach us the next baby step in our life. If we fail, we go back and ask God to help us figure out the solution.

Promise

Answers come. They came for me. That night as I prayed to God he answered, "Tamara, this is normal for you." This changed my perspective to realize He knew me personally. He knew my name. He knew my situation and He would help me figure out how to solve problems in my own "normal for me" way.

Seven years later our family decided to hike Delicate Arch in Arches National Park in Utah. This was a huge undertaking! My husband and I prayed and asked God for help. We listened and recorded our ideas and thoughts. Then we made a plan: We would write on a piece of paper what we were doing to communicate with Nathan and then give him an iPod and headphones to distract him. We then began the hike.

My sweet family who couldn't even walk around the block together before then did the 3 mile, uphill hike to Delicate Arch. We did it together. It was a miracle.

We have since repeated this process and had many more successful hikes.

Invitation

Will you use these steps to problem solve in your life? I promise God is anxiously awaiting to connect and help you find your "normal for me" solution. He knows you. He knows your problem and He knows the solution if you will ask.

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You can read the transcript to todays episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/4-surefire-steps-to-solve-lifes-problems

Christine Jacobson-Ware: God's Love Can Get You Through Anything!

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 17 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0600

After several surgeries and losing part of her skull, Christine Jacobson-Ware shares how feeling God's love helped her through the darkest part of her life.

We also discuss:

Why hugging is important
How she moved from "I don't want to die," to feeling peace and thinking, "I'm not afraid.
The reality of miracles
How God can carry us and be with us in our most intense suffering.
Why it is important to not get too busy to connect with God.
Remember God is in control.

One of my favorite things that Christine does is she has a little bag full of inspirational books she takes with her when she goes and visits those who are struggling or in the hospital. Then, she can read to them and help them feel God's love.

Some of the books Christine keeps in her bag are:

Jesus Calling by Sarah Young
Hope for Each Day by Billy Graham
Max Lucado's books
The Bible

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You can read the entire transcript of Christine's episode here:

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/christine-jacobsen-gods-love-can-get-you-through-anything

I Should Have Died 20 Years Ago: The Gift of Time & Life's Lessons

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 10 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Tamara K. Anderson shares 7 lessons learned on the 20 year anniversary of what should have been a fatal car accident.

On February 11, 2001, my husband and I were in what should have been a fatal car accident. I am so thankful I survived and have been blessed with 20 more years of life.

Life Lessons From the Past 20 Years

The Cycle of Love and Service
Humility and Saying "Thy Will Be Done"/Trust God Completely
Life Continues on After Death
There is Power in Prayer
Don't fear the future--Trust God wants you to Grow!
Cherish Each Day as a gift!
Count Your Blessings and Praise God.

I also weave in several favorite verses from Psalm 118.

5 I called upon the Lord in distress: the Lord answered me.

6 The Lord is on my side; I will not fear.

24 This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.

28 Thou art my God, and I will praise thee: thou art my God, I will exalt thee.

29 O give thanks unto the Lord; for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever.

Transcript of today's episode

https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/i-should-have-died-20-years-ago

Other Episodes About the Car Accident

https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/podcast-intro-and-my-story-of-hope

https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/gratitude-after-a-car-accident

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Sue Lamoree: My Key to Success When My Body Fell Apart

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 03 Feb 2021 01:00:00 -0600

Sue Lamoree didn’t know why she was having a hard time walking until she was diagnosed with Transverse Myelitis. She shares how she learned to navigate life with hope and faith from a wheelchair.

On this episode Sue shares:

The importance of "remembering"
How God opens doors to our dreams in ways we didn't expect
The benefits of Equine Therapy
Get past the bitter and learn to be gracious
God never abandons us--EVER!
You can find joy in your adventurous journey

One of my favorite stories Sue shared was after her diagnosis when she was trying to sleep, but she couldn't. As she lay in bed she began to picture Jesus holding her through the night as she lay there grieving and felt peace. At that moment she knew everything was going to be okay. So, she kept going.

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You can find the complete show notes to today's episode and the transcript here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/sue-lamoree-my-key-to-success-when-my-body-fell-apart

How I Endured Feeling Overwhelmed in One Easy Lesson

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 27 Jan 2021 01:00:00 -0600

I share a story and journal entry about how I felt shortly after my son was diagnosed with autism, and what one thing got me through.

Updates on the Podcast

But first, big news: On January 23, 2021, we hit the beginning of the third year of my podcast, Stories of Hope in Hard Times. Thank you for supporting me in this. Cool statistics about my podcast:

Most of my listeners are in the United States
India just passed Canada for the #2 in listeners to my podcast.
It has been listened to in 57 countries including China, Nigeria, Bangladesh, and New Zealand.
I have launched 82 episodes
I’ve had a 300% increase in listeners during 2020. Thank you for making this possible!

New change for this year of podcasting: I will be posting videos of each episode on YouTube!

Feeling Overwhelmed?

Hard times? I know how you feel. In May 2003 I wrote a journal entry which tells the story of how broken and worn out I felt shortly after Nathan was diagnosed with autism.

I was singing in an octet on a Sunday at church and felt some of the words resonate through my exhausted soul:

Lord, I Would Follow Thee by Susan Evans McCloud

In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can’t see…

To the wounded and the weary, I would show a gentle heart….

Find in thee my strength, my beacon...

When I felt exhausted I knew I could turn to Jesus Christ to lift me and help me.

Tad R. Callister wrote in his book, The Infinite Atonement, about Jesus Christ’s amazing power to help us when we feel broken and need healing. I love this quote because it draws from powerful Bible verses to speak of Christ’s ability understand and succor us when we feel overwhelmed.

“One of the blessings of the Atonement is that we can receive of the Savior’s succoring powers. Isaiah spoke repeatedly of the Lord’s healing, calming influence. He testified that the Savior was ‘a strength to the needy in his distress, a refuge from the storm, a shadow from the heat’ (Isaiah 25:4). As to those who sorrow, Isaiah declared that the Savior possessed the power to ‘comfort all that mourn’ (Isaiah 61:2), and ‘wipe away tears from off all faces’ (Isaiah 25:8; see also Revelation 7:17); ‘revive the spirit of the humble’ (Isaiah 57:15); and ‘bind up the brokenhearted’ (Isaiah 61:1; see also Luke 4:18; Psalm 147:3). So expansive was his succoring power that he could exchange ‘beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness’ (Isaiah 61:3).

“Oh, what hope soars in those promises! … His spirit heals; it refines; it comforts; it breathes new life into hopeless hearts. It has the power to transform all that is ugly and vicious and worthless in life to something of supreme and glorious splendor. He has the power to convert the ashes of mortality to the beauties of eternity.”

You can find the complete transcript of today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/how-i-endured-feeling-overwhelmed-in-one-easy-lesson

You can watch the video of this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/S6qvR0ITowI

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Dr. Mike Frazier: 3 Principles to Build a Better Marriage

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 01:00:00 -0600

Mike Frazier was shocked when his wife told him she'd been a victim of sex trafficking. With God's help he found 3 tips to help his and others marriages.

Dr. Mike's Story

In this podcast Dr. Mike shares his story of coming to know God better when he felt so overwhelmed and broken. He shares:

How God helps us with mercy when times get too hard for us to proceed alone.
How God puts other people in our lives to help and support us.
How hard things can help us build our strength, faith and compassion.
How we take turns giving and receiving service, and that is okay.

Tips Shared for Building a Happy Marriage

Dr. Mike also talks about several things he has learned about marriage:

He busts the "happy wife, happy life" myth
He talks about the proper role of intimacy in marriage
How important it is for you to realize that you have value as a person, and that you are as valuable as your spouse and worth choosing as a partner.
What to do if you want to change but your spouse doesn't.

The 3 Principles of a Strong Marriage

Get strong. This means to get strong spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and sexually.
Get attractive. This means developing interpersonal skills, learning to communicate, and turn conflict into connection.
Get an incredibly intimate marriage. This means learning to know each other at a deeper level.

One of my favorite quotes by Dr. Mike is this, "Marriage is a place where we practice the second great commandment to love our neighbor as ourselves."

Recommendations

You are Special by Max Lucado
Dr. Mike's podcast, "Strong Men, Strong Marriages"
https://mikefraziermd.com/

You can find the transcript for this podcast episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/dr-mike-frazier-3-principles-to-build-a-better-marriage

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3 Ways to Overcome Obstacles to Goals

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 13 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0600

How often to we set an exciting goal only to be stopped by an insurmountable obstacle? On today’s podcast, Tamara K. Anderson shares 3 ways we can overcome these obstacles that prevent us from reaching our goals.

3 Ways to Overcome Obstacles

Brainstorm about your biggest obstacles and visualize how you can overcome them successfully.
Pray for help to overcome your obstacle. Sometimes you need to change what you are asking, and maybe ask God to help you find people to help you reach your goal.
Overcome Fear through journaling about your WHY?

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You can find the transcript to today's podcast here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-ways-to-overcome-obstacles-to-goals

Daren Falter: Failing My Way to Success

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0600

Daren Falter is no stranger to failure, and talks about setting goals and priorities in the right order. He shows us how to succeed despite the challenges of dealing with Parkinson’s disease.

In this episode, Daren talks about:

An event early in his marriage which changed his perspective and goals
Prioritizing the most important things in life and doing those first
How God sometimes uses failure to move us forward
Financial hardships
Physical challenges
Climbing Mount Rainier with Parkinson’s disease
The importance of Visualization in achieving goals

You can connect with Daren Falter on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or you can go to his website, Darenfalter.com

You can find the transcript of today’s episode on my website: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/daren-falter-failing-my-way-to-success

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Not More Than We Can Handle?

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Tamara K. Anderson shares an audio chapter from her book, Normal for Me, which addresses the question: Does God give us more than we can handle?

In today's episode Tamara shares:

How she felt God has given her more than she could handle and how that phrase should be changed.
What it felt like to be a "Zombie Mom"
A powerful lesson about angels
An humorous example of what 2 hours of my life looked like during my "survival mode"
Several journal entries
Stories of our escape artist, Jacob

If you like what you hear today, you can order a copy of Tamara's book, Normal for Me, on Amazon or on her website. You can also listen to her audiobook on audible or wherever audiobooks can be found.

You can read the entire transcript of today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/not-more-than-we-can-handle

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Mark Willis: Finding Hope and Healing in Christ

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 23 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Mark Willis struggled through anxiety, depression, job loss and a pornography addiction before finding hope and healing in Jesus Christ.

I had the opportunity to interview Mark’s wife Katy about her side of the story on my podcast earlier this year. You can listen to her episode here.

In this episode we talk about:

The importance of reaching out for help if you are suicidal
How God often answers our prayer through others
The importance of self-compassion
Pride and humility
Emotions are messages for myself and I can “NAME” them to give better context for what my emotions are looking to teach me: Notice, Acknowledge, Make Space, Expand Awareness
The importance of self-care and connecting with Christ to fill your own bucket daily
Christ can heal all broken people (and we are all broken)

You can find the resources shared and the transcript here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/mark-willis-finding-hope-and-healing-in-christ

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Of COVID and Christmas Miracles

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 16 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Tamara K. Anderson shares her experience being quarantined for COVID and three things which helped her, along with the story of a Christmas miracle from WWI.

Today I share three things which have helped me get through the COVID quarantine sanely:

Gratitude
Goals
God

I also tell the story of a the Christmas miracle of the truce which took place in 1914 during the first World War. Truly Christmas has always been a time of miracles--from the very first gift of Christmas--a Father giving the gift of His Divine Son, to my own experience with COVID this holiday season. God lives and loves us.

Invitation: Set aside your differences and let this Christmas be a time of love and miracles in your life.

You can find the full transcription of this week's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/of-covid-and-christmas-miracles

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Teri Benson: Finding Joy in my Life's Second Chance

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 09 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Teri Benson died for 26 minutes during the surgery for her aortic dissection. Listen as she shares the secrets to finding joy in life.

In Teri’s podcast we discuss:

How to deal with hard times
Why it is important to have a purpose to pull you forward
The reality of angels—both the heavenly kind and the earthly kind
What heaven is like
How God and prayer can help us
You can choose to find joy in life’s little victories
Sometimes you have to allow others to serve you—and that is okay
Gratitude equals positivity and joy

You can access the transcript of Teri’s podcast here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/teri-benson-finding-joy-in-my-lifes-second-chance

3 Reasons We Need Each Other

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 02 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

On today’s episode Tamara tells about the gift of a friend in high school, sings the chorus of a song she wrote over 20 years ago, explains 3 reasons we need each other.

Here are the 3 Reasons We Need Each other

We need deep friendships which help us feel seen and heard.
We have strengths and weaknesses to complement each other to make us “whole” as a team.
We are God’s ministering angels on earth to help and serve one another.

The invitation at the end of the podcast is to perform an act of friendship in the next week.

You can find the complete transcription of today's podcast on Tamara's website: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/3-reasons-we-need-each-other

Abby Stephens: Walking After Paralysis

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 25 Nov 2020 01:00:00 -0600

Abby Stephen's life changed when she was paralyzed in a car accident. But she beat the odds and is now a walking quadriplegic.

Listen as she shares her wit and wisdom through her amazing journey of faith. Some of the topics we discuss are:

Why she believes in miracles
The importance of finding humor in hard situations
Growing into a feeling of gratitude vs. just listing things to be grateful for
Happiness is a choice
Don't ask "Why" ask "What"
Why we need people

You can find Abby on Instagram @abspeaks, Facebook, YouTube and on her website.

You can see the transcript and videos mentioned in this podcast on my website: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/episodes/abby-stephens-walking-after-paralysis

Gratitude After a Car Accident

Stories of Hope in Hard Times — Wed, 18 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Tamara K. Anderson shares a personal story of a car accident and the lesson of gratitude she learned from reading her journal almost 20 years later.

I also share 3 lessons we can apply during this time of year and a family tradition.