Stuck Not Broken

You Can't Love Someone Out of Shutdown: the Partner's Guide to Love & Self-Regulation

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0700

When your partner is in shutdown, you're not just watching it happen—you're in it too. This episode is for the partners who feel like they're losing their person, who don't understand what's happening, and who wonder if they're making it worse. In this episode, I break down:

What shutdown actually looks like (and why it's not a choice)
What you CAN'T control (and why that matters)
4 concrete ways to influence the situation without trying to fix them
The myth of co-regulation and what it actually means
How to regulate yourself so you can show up differently
Why healthy boundaries aren't selfish—they're essential
What your real job is as a partner in shutdown

The invisible pain on both sides is real. You're not failing. You're not weak. And you're not alone.

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

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Does EMDR Actually Work? (What the Research Says)

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0700

EMDR is everywhere — but do you know what's actually helpful? Or if it is at all?

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has become one of the most talked-about trauma treatments around. But most people — and, honestly, many therapists — reduce it to one image: a finger waving in someone's face. That shorthand is costing people clarity about what's actually working.

In this episode, Justin Sunseri breaks down what EMDR really is beyond the eye movements, what the research actually says about its effectiveness, and — more importantly — what the science says is doing the heavy lifting when it works.

In this episode:

The 8-phase structure of EMDR (and where bilateral stimulation actually shows up)
What happens when you compare EMDR to other trauma therapies
4 common factors that explain most of therapy's results — across every modality
What dismantling studies reveal about eye movements specifically
The "Toe Curling" thought experiment that puts it all in perspective
Why the research has real weaknesses — and what that means for you
What to actually look for in a therapist or healing approach

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Links to research:

APA and EMDR - https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/ptsd.pdf
WHO and EMDR - https://www.who.int/teams/mental-health-and-substance-use/treatment-care/mental-health-gap-action-programme/evidence-centre/conditions-related-to-stress/posttraumatic-stress-disorder-%28ptsd%29--psychological-interventions---children-and-adolescents
VA on EMDR and limits of study - https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/treat/txessentials/emdr_pro.asp; https://www.healthquality.va.gov/HEALTHQUALITY/guidelines/MH/ptsd/VA-DoD-CPG-PTSD-Full-CPG-Edited-111624-V5-81825.pdf
Meta-analysis of EMDR - https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0022-006X.69.2.305
Ten Things to Remember About Common Factor Theory - https://societyforpsychotherapy.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Laska-and-Wampold-2014-1.pdf
Eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing: part 1 – theory, procedure and use in PTSD - https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/bjpsych-advances/article/eye-movement-desensitisation-and-reprocessing-part-1-theory-procedure-and-use-in-ptsd/025D573300054876F5B2096F42C983D4
A Review of EMDR Literature - https://www.nausstherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/emdr-article.pdf
A meta-analysis of the contribution of eye movements in processing emotional memories - https://emdrmagazine.nl/EM2013-2/A%20meta-analysis%20of%20the%20contribution%20of%20eye%20movements%20in%20processing%20emotional%20memories%20(Lee%20&%20Cuypers,%202013).pdf
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing for mental health problems: a systematic review and meta-analysis - https://www.research.unipd.it/retrieve/ff4c348a-80f5-47b4-9b7c-2e831918ed05/Eye%20movement%20desensitization%20and%20reprocessing%20for%20mental%20health%20problems%20a%20systematic%20review%20and%20meta-analysis.pdf
On EMDR: Measuring the working memory taxation of various types of eye (non-)movement conditions - https://repub.eur.nl/pub/118641/Repub_118641_O-A.pdf

No, the Polyvagal Theory is NOT Dead: Here's What Critics (and Influencers) Aren't Understanding.

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0700

A paper co-authored by 39 scientists called the Polyvagal Theory "untenable" — and now psychology influencers are announcing the Theory is "dead." But is it?

I'm Justin Sunseri, therapist and member of the Polyvagal Institute's Editorial Board. That means I review work for Polyvagal Theory accuracy. So let me actually look at the claims.

In this episode, I break down Paul Grossman's paper "Why the Polyvagal Theory Is Untenable." We need to objectively check whether his criticisms accurately represent what the theory actually says. Because if they don't, the counterarguments are moot.

Links mentioned:

Grossman's paper: https://www.clinicalneuropsychiatry.org/download/why-the-polyvagal-theory-is-untenable-an-international-expert-evaluation-of-the-polyvagal-theory-and-commentary-upon-porges-s-w-2025-polyvagal-theory-current-status-clinical-applications-and/
Porges' "The Vagal Paradox": https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38108034/
Grossman's ResearchGate: https://www.researchgate.net/post/After_30_years_of_polyvagal_hypotheses_is_there_any_direct_evidence_for_the_first_3_premises_that_form_the_foundation_of_the_polyvagal_conjectures
Porges' response(s) to Grossman: https://www.clinicalneuropsychiatry.org/download/when-a-critique-becomes-untenable-a-scholarly-response-to-grossman-et-al-s-evaluation-of-polyvagal-theory/
Google NotebookLM: https://notebooklm.google.com

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Five Common Self-Help Habits That Accidentally Keep Your Nervous System Sensitized and Stuck

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0700

Is your self-help routine actually making things worse?

The self-help industry has one answer for everything: do more. More habits, more discipline, more effort. But for a nervous system that's already overwhelmed — stuck in sympathetic flight/fight, freeze overdrive, or dorsal shutdown — more doing can mean more frustration, more overwhelm, and more defeat.

In this episode, I break down 5 common self-help habits that may be working against you if you don't yet have the nervous system capacity for them.

Capacity Builder Live (live meditation sessions) → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/c/calendar/?topics=182524 Unstucking Academy → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/unstuckingacademy Previous episode on trauma narrative → https://youtu.be/pvJNSJ8q1aM

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Building Emotional Capacity Before Processing Past Traumas

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0700

Stop forcing yourself to relive the most painful moments of your life before your body is ready to handle them.

Traditional therapy often skips the most critical step — building the physiological capacity to actually process what comes up. Justin Sunseri breaks down why flooding your system with past trauma makes things worse, and what to do instead.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Why Meditation May Not Work Well for People in Freeze

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri dives deep into the paradox of meditation and anxiety. If you've ever felt that meditation or breathing exercises make you more anxious, you're not alone—and you're definitely not broken. Justin explains how your nervous system might be signaling for a different approach, especially for those who experience freeze dominance.

🌸 What You'll Learn:

Why freeze types often need movement instead of stillness
The three reasons you might experience anxiety after safety practices
How to work within your capacity and avoid overwhelming your system
Movement-based alternatives to traditional meditation
Understanding the "thawing" process and what to expect

🌸 Resources Mentioned:

Stuck Not Broken: Book 2 (available now) - https://www.stucknotbroken.com/books
Stuck Not Broken: Book 3 (coming mid-2026)
Free Mindful Moments sessions in the Calendar - https://www.stucknotbroken.com/c/calendar/
Unstucking Academy community - https://www.stucknotbroken.com/unstuckingacademy

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Is Your Diagnosis Part of the Problem? Healing the Nervous System vs. Managing a Disorder

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0700

Does a mental health diagnosis explain why you are suffering, or does it just give your suffering a name?

In this episode, I challenge the traditional way we look at mental health labels. While a diagnosis (like depression, anxiety, or ADHD) can be a helpful shorthand for professionals, it often becomes a trap for the person receiving it—convincing them they are "broken" rather than adapting to their life context.

To illustrate this, I share the story of two hypothetical clients: Penny and Milton. Both come to therapy with the exact same heavy symptoms.

Penny receives a diagnosis, is told she has a disorder to manage forever, and leaves feeling defective.
Milton is met with a nervous system perspective, learns his feelings make sense based on his history, and is given the tools to actually heal.

Join me as we explore why your diagnosis is a description, not a life sentence. We’ll discuss how to shift from "fighting a disorder" to building safety in your nervous system, so you can stop merely managing symptoms and start getting unstuck.

In this episode, you will learn:

Why a diagnosis in the DSM describes what is happening but rarely explains why.
The critical difference between the "Disorder Model" vs. the "Nervous System Model."
How to stop rejecting your feelings and start building safety (the "Milton" approach).
Why your symptoms are likely a normal response to an abnormal situation.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Steadying the Waters: How Your Nervous System Affects Your Stoic Practice

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0700

What if I told you that your ability to practice Stoicism isn't just about willpower or mindset—but about the actual physiological state of your nervous system? In this episode, I dive deep into a profound quote from Epictetus that perfectly illustrates how our autonomic nervous system affects our capacity to respond wisely to life's challenges.

Using the metaphor of water, light, and appearances, we'll explore:• Why some days Stoic practices feel effortless while other days feel impossible• How your nervous system state acts as a "filter" for all incoming reality• The real reason willpower alone isn't enough for lasting change• 3 practical daily practices to "steady your internal waters"• How nervous system regulation enhances (rather than replaces) Stoic philosophy

Key Quote: "Such as is a dish of water, such is the soul. Such as is the ray of light, which falls on the water, such are the appearances." - Epictetus

0:00 Introduction

0:40 The Epictetus Quote

1:17 Breaking Down the Metaphor

3:32 The Coffee Example

5:10 Connecting to the Nervous System

8:21 How Reality Filters Through Your State

9:36 Person A vs Person B

13:22 What To Do About This

15:39 The Problem with Traditional Stoic Practice

19:06 Settling the Water

20:26 Practical Steps You Can Take Today

22:54 Closing & Resources

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Sockless Mindfulness: A Parenting Lesson from My 10-Year-Old

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0700

There's more to me than Polyvagal Theory—I'm also a dad. And sometimes the best lessons come from the most unexpected places... like watching my son walk barefoot in sandals through a cold, rainy parking lot.

In this reflective episode, I share a simple family moment that reminded me: mindfulness looks different for everyone. When my son told me he loves feeling "the air flowing between his toes," I realized he'd found his own way to be present—even if it made his parents cringe.

Key Takeaways:

→ Kids often know what they need and can make informed decisions (even about socks)→ Mindfulness doesn't require meditation cushions or apps—it can be as simple as cold air on bare feet→ Wise parents pick their battles; natural consequences teach better than artificial ones→ We all have our own version of "sockless mindfulness"—mine is opening the bathroom window during a hot shower

A Question for You:What's YOUR unconventional mindfulness practice? The thing that grounds you that might seem weird to others?

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

"I Don't Think About It Anymore" — Why That Doesn't Mean You're Over It

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0700

"That was a long time ago. I don't think it affects me anymore."

Have you ever said this about something from your past? In this deeply personal episode, Justin shares his own recent experience of discovering how past trauma still lives in the body—even when we're not thinking about it.

After a major spinal surgery in 1997, Justin thought he'd moved on. But when new back issues required x-rays nearly 30 years later, he felt something unexpected surface: a saddened familiarity, an inward collapse. The past was still there, waiting.

This episode offers a real-time example of what self-regulation can look like during difficult moments—and an invitation to extend more compassion toward yourself and the feelings that surface, even when they're unexpected.

Key takeaways:

Why "I don't think about it" doesn't mean it's resolved
How to permit your feelings while staying anchored in safety
The value of building your Safety Baseline before the unexpected arrives
What it looks like to balance difficult emotions with safety in real time

A different kind of episode. A different kind of connection.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Hit It Back: A Lesson in Playfulness & Seizing the Moment

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0700

A balloon floated down from the hotel ceiling. My son said, "Hit it back."

I was sitting on a bench, quietly processing—reflecting on a loud, joyful Italian family reunion the night before, thinking about my upbringing, the conversations with my brothers, how my wife and I are raising our own kids. I wanted to stay in that quiet space.

But then a wave of irritation hit me. And in that fraction of a second before the balloon touched my head, a thought arrived:

This moment may never happen again.

In this episode, I share a simple story from a family trip to San Jose—and what it taught me about:

Recognizing when we shift out of safety and into fight or flight
The quiet power of playfulness as a pathway back to connection
Why seizing small moments matters more than we think

This isn't about grand gestures or life-changing epiphanies. It's about a balloon, a 10-year-old boy, and the choice to hit it back.

Consider this as me hitting a balloon to you. 🎈

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

What to do When Your Partner Cycles Between Shutdown and Fight

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0700

When your spouse is dysregulated, shut down, or lashing out in anger—what's really happening? And more importantly, what can YOU do about it?

In this episode, I break down:

✓ The biological difference between being technically safe and *feeling* safe

✓ Why your partner may not identify you as a safety cue (even if you're trying)

✓ The "Polyvagal Ladder"—how shutdown → anger → safety actually works

✓ Why fight activation coming out of shutdown is actually a GOOD sign

✓ The painful relationship cycle (and how to break it)

✓ 4 practical tips to shift relationship dynamics

KEY TAKEAWAY: If you want your relationship to change, it falls on YOU to show up differently. You can't control your partner's nervous system, but you can regulate yours—and that's powerful.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Dysregulation in Relationships

0:32 - Listener's Question: Navigating Marital Challenges

2:01 - The Concept of Safety in Relationships

7:31 - The Role of Fight Activation and Safety

11:03 - Breaking the Cycle: Self-Regulation and Boundaries

20:12 - Practical Tips for Changing Relationship Dynamics

26:45 - Conclusion: The Journey to Self-Regulation

👉 Resources from this episode:

"Self-Regulate to Co-regulate" episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1ZflmdCZyE

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

AI Therapists Are Coming in 2026 And I'm Not Sure That's Good

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Two years ago, I said AI couldn't replace therapists. I was wrong—about the technology, anyway. In late 2025, AI can now see you, hear your voice, and remember everything you say. But just because it can doesn't mean it should. In this episode, I'm exploring what's actually possible, who AI might actually help, and the uncomfortable questions we're not asking yet. This one might upset you. Good.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Announcing the Self-Regulation Coach AI App

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0700

Have you ever wished for a daily guide on your nervous system regulation journey? One that offers structure without being overwhelming, and personalized support without the need for intensive coaching?

In this special announcement episode, Justin introduces a project he's been working on for months: the Self-Regulation Coach. Discover the "middle path" to getting unstuck—a tool designed for those who thrive with daily structure, gentle nudges, and expert guidance right in their pocket.

Learn how this AI-powered app creates a personalized, step-by-step roadmap tailored to your nervous system. With bite-sized daily lessons, exclusive micro-mindfulness practices, and instant, compassionate feedback from your AI coach, you can build sustainable change at your own pace.

If you're ready to move from feeling stuck to building a life of calm, confidence, and connection, this episode is your starting point.

Start your personalized journey with the Self-Regulation Coach today: studio.com/justin/self-regulation-coach

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Pendulation: Why Some Regulate Naturally & Some Don't

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Is nervous system regulation a natural skill or a conscious effort? In this episode, we delve into the skill of pendulation—the mindful shift between safety and defense—and explore why it appears effortless for some but feels impossible for others.

Discover the "carnival game" analogy for understanding your nervous system's capacity, learn how natural pendulation occurs in processes like grieving, and understand where you might fall on the spectrum of "stuckness." Justin breaks down how anyone, from those just "getting by" to those feeling deeply stuck, can learn to practice pendulation and transform it from a deliberate exercise into an automatic, embodied skill for living with more calm, confidence, and connection.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Why You Feel Drained After Therapy (and How to Fix it)

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Have you ever left a therapy session feeling completely wiped out, as if you've run a marathon you didn't train for? It's a common experience, but it isn't the goal of effective therapy. That feeling of depletion is a critical signal from your body that you've been pushed beyond your nervous system's capacity.

In this episode, we explore a body-centric, Polyvagal-informed approach to therapy that builds resilience instead of burning you out. You'll learn how to work with your therapist to anchor in your safety state, mindfully "tiptoe" to the edge of discomfort, and safely return—a process that empowers you and grows your capacity over time. This is about building internal resources, not just surviving the session.

If you're ready to change your expectation of therapy from draining to empowering, this episode is for you.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

The Way You Understand & Manage Emotions is WRONG (Here's What To Do Instead)

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri challenges the widely accepted (and often ineffective) ways we understand and manage our emotions. He makes a bold claim: the common wisdom you've been taught about your feelings is likely wrong. Drawing from client conversations and his expertise as a therapist and coach, Justin reveals the two core problems with traditional emotional management and the five common avoidance tactics we all use.

Get ready to discover a "weird but effective" body-based approach that offers a sustainable path to emotional regulation, moving beyond just changing thoughts or behaviors. Learn practical steps to connect with your body's safety state and begin transforming your emotional experience today.

Key Takeaways:

Most conventional approaches to understanding and managing emotions are flawed.
Identify the five common ways you might be avoiding your emotions (resisting, ignoring, behavioral adaptations, intellectualizing, seeking external validation).
Understand why changing thoughts or behaviors alone provides only temporary relief.
Learn that emotions are primarily bodily experiences, not just mental states.
Discover how to change your emotional state by intentionally connecting with your body.
Get two actionable steps to start building your body's safety state right now.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Polyvagal Approach to Shame and Anger & How to Not Use Pendulation

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Unlock a deeper understanding of shame, anger, and the polyvagal theory in this episode! Justin Sunseri answers a listener’s question about navigating difficult emotions, pendulation, and the importance of safety in healing. Whether you’re a therapist, student, or someone seeking personal growth, this conversation offers practical insights and guidance.

⏰ CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction and Question from Katie

04:10 Therapists' Perspective vs Client Reality

08:27 Understanding Anger, Shame and Pendulation

12:29 Safety First Approach

16:40 The Unstucking Pathway and Academy

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Safety First: Why Prescribed "Trauma Exercises" Can Backfire

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0700

A viewer asked about TRE exercises that seemed to help with anxiety but left them feeling numb and disconnected. In this episode, I break down what might have gone wrong and why I take a fundamentally different approach to nervous system healing.

🔑 Key Topics Covered:

• Why prescribed movement exercises can backfire

• The difference between fight-or-flight, freeze, and shutdown states

• Why safety must come before any trauma work

• How to work WITH your nervous system instead of against it

• The problem with "hacks" and shortcuts in healing

🎯 My Approach:

Instead of prescribed movements, I focus on:

Building a strong safety foundation first
Mindfully connecting with your current state
Allowing natural self-regulation to unfold
Following your body's wisdom, not external protocols

📚 Want to Learn More?

Join the Unstucking Academy - a small, intimate community (limited to 150 members) where we practice these principles together. Features the Unstucking Pathway: bite-sized lessons under 10 minutes each, taking you from Polyvagal basics to mastering skills like pendulation and balancing.

👉 Learn more: StuckNotBroken.com/UnstuckingAcademy

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction and Disclaimer

00:28 - Viewer Question About TRE Exercises

01:24 - Perspective on TRE and Trauma Recovery

04:01 - Understanding Fight/Flight and Shutdown States

08:01 - Additional Context About Freeze State

10:32 - Importance of Safety and Mindful Movement

12:18 - Addressing the Original Question

15:01 - Information About the Unstucking Academy

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Self-Regulation & Mindful Breathing: What if it Was Easier?

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Feeling overwhelmed by complex breathing techniques and counting methods? In this episode, I share why your body already knows how to breathe—and why trusting that natural process might be more effective than any prescribed breathing "hack."

🎯 What You'll Learn:

• Why I don't recommend counting breaths during self-regulation

• How to use ONE intentional breath as a re-anchoring tool

• The difference between coping skills and true self-regulation

• How to connect with your body's natural breathing rhythm

• When prescribed breathing might actually be helpful (and when it's not)

This approach is part of what we teach in The Unstucking Academy - simple, natural processes without the psychobabble or woo-woo.

⏰ TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - Introduction and Viewer Question

01:19 - Breath and Self-Regulation

03:06 - Intentional Breathing Techniques

04:49 - Mindfulness and Breath Awareness

06:34 - Unstucking Academy Overview

07:59 - Conclusion and Invitation

🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Unstucking Academy: https://StuckNotBroken.com/unstuckingacademy

(Limited to 150 people - simple, step-by-step pathway without the overwhelm)

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

3 Strategies to Reduce Overhwhelm and Get Stuff Done

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list? I share three practical strategies to reduce overwhelm and finally get things done. Learn how to find safety, soften your defensive state, and take small, almost effortless steps forward. This episode is a replay of a free webinar from the Unstucking Academy. Discover actionable tips to improve your daily life and reach your goals without feeling stressed. Tune in and take a step towards living more calmly, confidently, and connected.

00:00 3 Strategies to reduce overwhelm and get stuff done (262)

01:26 intro, about, and goal

01:53 You have things to do

03:34 3 options to get stuff done

04:19 Feel safety and then get stuff done

05:14 Passive safety cues

07:29 Mindfully connect with a passive cue

09:08 Safety cues are everywhere

10:00 Jenny finds safety first

11:30 Soften defense, then get stuff done

12:30 Imagine defensive activation ahead of time

13:21 Mindfully permit defense

14:36 Recovering from overwhelm

15:51 Jenny softens defense

18:55 Bypass overwhelm to get more stuff done

20:53 Kaizen Steps Should be Very Small

22:21 How to make small Kaizen steps

22:54 Kaizen Examples

25:47 Kaizen example: Tatiana

27:15 Kaizen example: James

28:40 Kaizen example: Heather

31:37 Kaizen ecample: you

39:57 Emotional objection to Kaizen

43:43 Softening defense of work overwhelm

47:40 Amanda overwhelm at grocery store

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

the Polyvagal Guide to Boundaries: Why You Need Both Safety AND Fight Activation

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Learn how the Polyvagal Theory helps explain healthy boundaries through a combination of safety and sympathetic activation.

Episode Introduction and Context — 0:00

Understanding Ventral Vagal Safety State — 0:34

Balancing Safety and Sympathetic Activation — 1:16

Proactive Practice for Boundary Setting — 3:29

Compassionate Boundary Enforcement — 5:16

Realistic Expectations and Self-Connection — 7:20

Conclusion and Invitation to Unstucking Academy — 10:14

Resources:

⬇️ Download the Polyvagal One-Pagers - https://stucknauts.circle.so/c/public_resources/polyvagal-checklist-download-8a9597

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

What Everyone Gets Wrong About Fawn vs Appease (even the Polyvagal Theory)

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0700

What’s the real difference between “fawn” and “appease”? Therapist Justice Sunseri breaks down these trauma responses, how they relate to Polyvagal Theory, and what it means for recovery. Download the free Polyvagal One Pagers in the description for more resources!

00:00 – Episode intro

00:51 – Understanding Fawn and Appeasement

02:11 – Behavioral Adaptations in Severe Situations

03:23 – Appeasement and Social Activation

07:53 – Dissociation and Survival Mechanisms

11:50 – Recovery and Self-Regulation out of Severe Dissociation

15:07 – Episode outro and final thoughts

Resources:

⬇️ Download the Polyvagal One-Pagers - https://stucknauts.circle.so/c/public_resources/polyvagal-checklist-download-8a9597

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Stop Trying to Change Your Polyvagal State. Do This Instead for True Self Regulation...

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Discover why trying to force a change in your polyvagal state might be holding you back from true self-regulation. In this episode, therapist and coach Justin Sunseri challenges the common advice around prescriptive breathing techniques and invites you to connect with your body’s natural rhythms instead. Through insights from a live Q&A, learn how mindful awareness and listening to your body can lead to genuine calm, balance, and lasting change—without counting breaths or forcing a state shift.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction to Inner Balance

0:39 – The Power of Natural Breathing

2:02 – Critique of Prescriptive Breathing

3:53 – Connecting with Your Body’s Needs

5:03 – The Body’s Natural Self-Regulation

11:05 – Creating Optimal Conditions for Self-Regulation

15:02 – Final Thoughts and Invitation

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Finding Safety: Janie's Journey from Freeze to Connection

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Feeling stuck in old patterns or chronic anxiety? In this episode, you'll hear Janie's inspiring story of moving from a lifelong freeze state to genuine connection and safety. Discover how she overcame emotional numbness, built meaningful relationships, and found practical ways to feel more at ease in her own body. You'll learn:

⌲ Real-life strategies for getting "unstuck" and building safety in your nervous system

⌲ The power of co-regulation and supportive community

⌲ How small, consistent steps can lead to big changes in your sense of calm and confidence

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Rebuilding After a Breakup: Facing Anxiety and Finding Safety

Fri, 23 May 2025 05:00:00 -0700

A listener shares his struggles with anxiety and attachment issues following a recent breakup. At age 17, Chuck's relationship triggered intense anxiety due to his anxious attachment style, leading to a highly stressful experience. After the relationship ended, Chuck faces persistent anxiety symptoms, fatigue, dizziness, extreme overthinking, and more. Justin discusses the possible states of defense and freeze, the role of safety activation, and offers practical general thoughts for those dealing with similar issues, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness, connecting with friends, and building safety activation as pathways to feeling unstuck.

00:00 Introduction and Listener's Story

00:30 Recognizing and Addressing Anxiety

02:12 Understanding Freeze and Panic Responses

05:56 Living in Survival Mode

08:39 The Importance of Safety Activation

10:17 Practicing Mindfulness and Connection

13:38 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Breaking Free: How Small Changes Transformed Eva's Shutdown into Connection

Tue, 13 May 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Eva shares her powerful recovery from a Polyvagal shutdown state. She discusses her experiences, valuable insights, and practical tips that have helped her rebuild her sense of safety and connection. Focusing on the polyvagal theory, this episode highlights the importance of small, actionable steps and community support in the path to healing. Join us to discover how Eva went from feeling numb and disconnected to living a more vibrant and engaged life.

00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory and Defensive States

00:22 Eva's Journey: From Shutdown to Recovery

08:22 Understanding and Naming the Defensive State

09:26 Practical Steps and Tools for Building Safety

12:01 The Role of Community and Additional Supports

16:08 Tracking Progress and Maintaining Consistency

21:17 Self-Reflection and Body Awareness

22:31 Mindful Reactions and Social Connections

23:55 Rediscovering Joy in Everyday Activities

26:22 Professional Breakthroughs and Emotional Resilience

29:52 Daily Practices for Sustained Progress

30:51 Practical Advice for Getting Unstuck

38:23 Embracing Emotions with Compassion

41:33 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Easily Notice Neuroceptions: Polyvagal Theory for Daily Life tip 4

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0700

What is neuroception, and what do you do with it? This fourth installment in a five-part series focuses on comprehending and applying neuroception in daily life. Discover practical tips for recognizing the body's subconscious detection of safety, danger, or life-threatening situations before you're consciously aware. Discover the significance of proactive sensory inputs and cultivate nonjudgmental self-awareness. These insights are essential for progressing towards a calmer, more connected life.

00:00 Intro to episode 252

07:00 Neuroception Example: Sarah's First Team Meeting

11:18 How to Easily Start Noticing Neuroception

14:15 Using Your Senses to Identify Neuroception

15:44 Why Noticing Neuroception Helps

18:31 Outro to Stuck Not Broken episode 252

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Safe and Sound Book Review: Should You Buy It?

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri reviews 'Safe and Sound' by Steven Porges and Karen Onderko. The book delves into the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), offering 13 real-life case studies and insights from Porges, the creator of Polyvagal Theory. Justin breaks down who the book is for, its content, and his thoughts on its genuine attempt to provide hope and comprehensive information about SSP. If you're curious about SSP and familiar with Polyvagal Theory, this review will help you decide whether this book can be a valuable addition to your collection.

Watch the interview with the authors on YouTube (or listen to the previous episode on your podcast player) - https://youtu.be/KAPPQwk5LYI

00:00 Safe and Sound Book Review: Should you Buy it?

00:29 About the Safe and Sound book

01:50 What is the point of the Safe and Sound book?

03:47 Who is the Safe and Sound book for?

05:28 Overall thoughts on the Safe and Sound book

08:24 Do I recommend buying the Safe and Sound book?

09:15 Outro to Stuck Not Broken episode 255

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

254. From Sound to Safety: Understanding the Safe & Sound Protocol with Dr. Porges and Karen Onderko

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0700

💟 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.stucknotbroken.com/unstuckingacademy

Justin Sunseri delves into the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) with Dr. Stephen Porges, the originator of the Polyvagal Theory, and Karen Onderko, co-author of the new book "Safe and Sound." Discover how SSP, a unique therapy using specifically filtered music, can help alleviate anxiety, depression, and sensory sensitivities by enhancing the nervous system's ability to experience safety. The discussion covers the science behind SSP, its clinical evidence, and its benefits for various conditions from autism to trauma. An insightful conversation that explores the potential of SSP as a neural exercise to aid in healing and resilience.

Buy the book now - https://amzn.to/4cJ7f9I (Purchasing through this link will give me a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you)

00:00 Intro to Stuck Not Broken

01:52 What is the Safe and Sound Protocol?

04:29 What is the evidence for SSP?

08:31 What is the music of SSP?

17:10 SSP and neuroplasticity

19:22 Neural exercises, building safety, and SSP

26:50 Trauma narratives and SSP

28:50 Safety can lead to defense

31:35 Who is SSP for?

33:07 Autism and SSP

39:39 SSP and co-regulation

41:38 Skepticism of SSP

47:07 Why not Safe and Sight or Safe and Smell?

52:18 Is SSP a cure-all?

57:44 Final thoughts and kindness

59:12 SSP on the community level

01:01:41 Department of Defense research grant

01:04:05 Outro to Stuck Not Broken

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Validate and Normalize Yourself: Polyvagal Theory for Everyday Life Tip 3 (251)

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0700

In this episode of 'Stuck Not Broken,' therapist and coach Justin Sunseri provides practical guidance on applying Polyvagal Theory to everyday life through validation and normalization techniques. Learn to bring compassion to your stuck defensive states through acknowledging and understanding your emotions and thoughts. Justin walks you through simple practices to help you live more calmly and connected. This episode includes skills practice and insights from the Unstucking Academy, making it an essential listen for anyone looking to improve their emotional resilience. Join us as we delve deeper into self-compassion and understanding through Polyvagal Theory.

00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory Application

01:32 Understanding Validation

06:52 Validation Practice

09:30 Introduction to Normalization

15:49 Normalization Practice

21:06 Conclusion and Next Steps

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

250. Easily Increase Safety through Passive Cues: Polyvagal Theory for Everyday Life Tip 2

Sat, 29 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Justin dives into the second tip of understanding your polyvagal state - increasing passive safety cues via your environment. Learn how to better understand and implement passive safety cues in your home to enhance your sense of safety and relaxation. Discover practical, easy steps to create a Passive Safety Environment, focusing on scent, lighting, and physical space.

00:00 Intro to episode 250

01:05 Safety and the Brainstem

07:49 Lighting in the Passive Safety Environment

09:37 Physical Space in the Passive Safety Environment

10:54 Take one step today.

12:31 Foundations Subscription Offer & outro

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

249. Easily Identify Your Autonomic State: Polyvagal Theory for Everyday Life (tip 1 of 5)

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Understand and identify your polyvagal primary and mixed states. This episode covers connection, escape, aggression, collapse, play, motivation, stillness, intimacy, freeze, and appeasement and fawn states. Start identifying your states today.

00:00 Intro: Apply your Polyvagal Knowledge

02:27 Do you feel like connecting?

04:30 Do you feel like escaping or aggressing?

05:56 Do you feel like collapsing?

07:35 Do you feel ready to have with someone else?

08:41 Do you feel motivated?

10:24 Do you feel reflective and mindful?

11:51 Do you want to connect with someone else?

13:51 Do you feel out of control or overwhelmed?

15:28 Do you placate or appease others?

17:05 stuck not broken outro

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Stuck in Shutdown A Guide to Recognizing and Helping Loved Ones

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri explains the concept of dorsal vagal shutdown, a state of immobilization and resource conservation in the face of life threats. He outlines how this shutdown affects emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and connections with others, making it difficult for individuals to function normally. Justin provides insights on recognizing shutdown in loved ones, emphasizing the importance of compassion, validation, and meaningful connection. He offers practical steps for supporting someone in shutdown, including validating their experience, normalizing their response, and connecting with them without adding pressure. The episode concludes with a parenting example illustrating effective ways to help a loved one move out of shutdown.

00:00 Stuck in Shutdown: A Guide to Recognizing and Helping Loved Ones (SNB 248)

01:17 What is Dorsal Vagal Shutdown?

03:14 Shutdown and Isolation

04:54 Demeanor and Body Posture of Shutdown

07:47 Vocal Changes in Shutdown

09:08 Thinking and Shutdown

11:05 Emotions and Shutdown

12:06 Shutdown and Masking

13:07 Validating Your Loved One's Shutdown

14:23 Normalize Your Loved One's Shutdown

15:29 Let your Loved One be in Shutdown

16:37 Connect With Your Loved One in Shutdown

17:55 Example of Parents Helping Their Adult Child in Shutdown

22:29 Outro and Reflections for You

23:32 Learn More About Shutdown With this Playlist

🔸 Shutdown Experiences Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0wCusCOxhNUTWUAnJke_hpmNEEQ0atZZ

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How Shutdown can Become Freeze & What to do About it

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri discusses transitioning from a prolonged state of shutdown to experiencing freeze. He explains the differences between shutdown and freeze through the lens of polyvagal theory, and provides insights into the healing process. Justin discusses the importance of building a safety state and how to mindfully connect with different states of defense. He also introduces his new course 'Stillness to Sympathetic,' designed to help individuals harness emerging sympathetic activation for meaningful goals. Viewer questions and feedback are encouraged.

00:00 Introduction and Viewer Question

01:02 Understanding Shutdown and Freeze

03:11 The Process of Coming Out of Shutdown

10:42 Mindfulness of Safety State

12:15 Mindfulness of Defensive State

15:34 Got a question?

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Anxiety: Do you need to know the cause?

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri tackles a common belief among his clients—the necessity of identifying the root cause of anxiety, anger, or depression to address these feelings. Justin reads and responds to a community member's query about 'safety anchors' and their effectiveness when the source of anxiety is unknown. He explains that while knowing the trigger can be helpful, it is not essential for alleviating anxiety. By permitting emotions and listening to what the body needs, individuals can reduce the intensity of their feelings. Justin emphasizes reframing the idea of 'fixing' emotions to 'unsticking' them and validates the importance of feeling and acknowledging emotions in the present moment. The episode wraps up with an invitation to join the 'Stuck Not Broken: Total Access Membership' for further support and resources.

00:00 Introduction to Common Problems in Therapy

00:41 Responding to a Community Question

02:42 Understanding Anxiety Triggers

08:31 The Concept of Being Stuck, Not Broken

11:12 Reframing and Validating Emotions

15:23 Conclusion and Membership Invitation

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Optimize Productivity and Creativity with the Nervous System: Connect, Mobilize, Restore

Wed, 01 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700

In this episode of Stuck Not Broken, therapist and coach Justin Sunseri explores how understanding and embracing the different states of your nervous system can dramatically enhance your productivity, creativity, and overall well-being. Justin delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining the primary and mixed states of safety, mobility, and shutdown, and offers practical tips for accessing and utilizing these states to achieve greater focus and efficiency in your daily life. Learn how to create a more mindful and balanced approach to work, creativity, and personal growth.

00:00 Introduction: Unlocking Your Productivity

00:17 Understanding the Nervous System

01:08 Polyvagal Theory and the Three States of the Nervous System

03:27 The Safety State: Connection and Creativity

05:23 Activating Your Safety State

10:45 Sympathetic Activation: Harnessing Mobility

20:30 Shutdown State: Embracing Rest and Recovery

28:24 Practical Tips for Daily Life

33:44 Conclusion and Resources

35:00 Disclaimer

Resources:

🔸 SSIEC sheet free download - https://assets.circle.so/4kqd4hwqn8q2g5s1uiggtx8iqyt2

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Wisdom & Encouragement to Help Your Shutdown: Real People Share

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0700

This episode provides a platform for survey participants to offer encouragement, personal insights, and advice to those also experiencing shutdown. The shared experiences discuss common themes such as shame, isolation, the body's autonomic responses, and ways to work compassionately through shutdown states. The episode also highlights the importance of small steps, self-compassion, and human connection in the journey towards safety and self-regulation.

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00:00 Intro to episode 244

01:02 the Shutdown Experiences Survey

02:32 Wisdom & Encouragement from Real People in Shutdown

39:24 the Goals of the Survey

41:59 Thanks for the kindness

43:18 Book 2 and upcoming cohort

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Crying and the Polyvagal Theory: Release, Panic, and Rage

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Therapist and Coach Justin Sunseri explores how crying fits into the Polyvagal Theory. He shares insights from a private community meetup about crying as a self-regulatory process, emphasizing that it's not a Polyvagal state but a behavior to help climb the Polyvagal ladder. Justin discusses the different flavors of freeze, such as rage and panic, and provides practical advice on practicing safety and mindful releases to manage defensive activation states like anxiety and anger. The episode encourages building a foundation of safety and understanding one's defensive activations to handle intense emotional states better.

00:00 Introduction

00:39 Understanding Crying in Polyvagal Terms

02:06 Exploring Freeze, Rage, and Panic

05:54 Practical Tips for Self-Regulation

07:55 Foundational Practices for Safety and Regulation

12:57 Conclusion and Polyvagal Ladder resource

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

4 Mental Wellness Options: Self Care, Coping, Building Safety, and Getting Unstuck

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0700

You're likely trying many things to feel mentally and emotionally better, but are they all effective? Learn to put your efforts into 4 different buckets to understand what is effective and what isn't.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

00:00 Introduction to Trauma Recovery

00:39 Understanding Your Goals

01:19 Pathway 1: Establishing a Baseline

02:56 Pathway 2: Coping Mechanisms

05:55 Pathway 3: Practicing Safety

09:00 Pathway 4: Relieving Stuck Defensive States

12:44 Incorporating Micro Moments of Safety

15:34 Conclusion and Homework

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Beneath Your Emotions: the Polyvagal Theory & the Body's Experiences

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Let's examine two unasked questions: “What do I feel?” and “How do I know I feel that way?” These questions lie at the heart of understanding our Polyvagal states and how they influence our emotions and physical sensations. By exploring the connection between mind and body, you can learn how to tune into your inner experiences with mindfulness and self-compassion.

Chapters:

02:00 Identifying Your Emotional State

03:47 Practical Exercise: Recognizing Your State

05:19 Deepening Your Emotional Awareness

08:44 Concluding Thoughts and Resources

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

A Real Story of Self-Regulating out of Dorsal Vagal Shutdown: Macy's "Dancing"

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri shares an inspiring story from Macy to demonstrate effective self-regulation out of the Polyvagal state of shutdown. He explores Macy's experiences of navigating through states of immobilization—shutdown, freeze, and stillness—using music and movement to manage sympathetic activation. Justin also discusses why unexpected memories may pop into consciousness when practicing self-regulation.

00:00 Introduction to Self-Regulation Story

00:42 Macy's Experience with Shutdown and Freeze

01:11 Understanding Different States of Immobility

02:52 The Role of Safety in Self-Regulation

06:36 Macy's Journey to Mobilization

07:18 Welcoming Sympathetic Activation

08:41 Macy's Memory and Co-Regulation

09:11 Macy's Roundabout Memory

10:25 Understanding Self-Regulation

12:04 Present Moment Focus

14:52 Handling Sympathetic Activation

15:29 Upcoming Courses and Community

16:53 Invitation to Stucknaut Collective

18:05 Disclaimer

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Frustrated with Dorsal Vagal Shutdown? Here's Why and What to Do.

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Are you transitioning from a shutdown state to sympathetic mobilization? I address the common emotions of frustration, irritation, and anger as positive indicators of moving up the Polyvagal ladder.

01:32 Teagan's Journey: From Shutdown to Stillness

02:03 The Importance of Permitting Defensive States

03:29 Imagery and Irritation: Teagan's Experience

04:39 The Role of Fight Activation in Self-Regulation

07:41 Movement and Sympathetic Activation

09:31 Validating and Normalizing Fight Activation

11:00 Embracing Self-Compassion

11:20 Understanding Defensive States

12:27 Navigating Shutdown and Activation

13:57 The Role of Stillness in Self-Regulation

15:11 Managing Frustration and Anxiety

16:29 Sustaining Energy and Mobility

19:16 Harnessing Frustration for Growth

20:46 Invitation to the Stucknaut Collective

21:58 Disclaimer and Final Thoughts

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Real People Share Their Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Support Sources (SNB 238)

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0700

What supports do real people in shutdown find the most helpful? And how many supports do they try? This is part 4 of the Shutdown Experiences Survey results.

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00:00 Introduction: You're Not Alone in Shutdown

00:34 Survey Insights: Most Helpful Resources

01:04 Exploring Support Options: What Works Best?

04:29 Challenges in Overcoming Shutdown

07:24 The Role of Co-Regulation and Support

10:14 Non-Professional vs. Professional Support

18:22 From Shutdown to Stillness

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Can YOU validate her Polyvagal state, emotions, sensations, impulses, and cognitions?

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Let's practice validating! Can you validate the sensations, emotions, impulses, cognitions, and Polyvagal state in this story?

00:00 Introduction to Validation

00:07 Understanding Validation

01:01 Domains of Validation

01:45 Introducing the SSIEC Tool

03:18 Story of Maria

04:23 Analyzing Emotions and Cognitions

06:31 Exploring Sensations and Impulses

09:27 Polyvagal State Analysis

15:20 Conclusion and Resources

🔸Download the SSIEC sheet - https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Understanding and Validating Dorsal Vagal Shutdown

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Join therapist and coach Justin Sunseri as he delves into emotional validation and its role in self-regulation. Learn the first lesson from his course, Shutdown to Stillness, which focuses on compassionately validating and acknowledging your emotions as a critical step towards inner peace and self-regulation. Validation can lead to normalization and even permitting your emotions to be.

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Invalidation

01:27 Understanding Shutdown and Stillness

01:47 The Autonomic Nervous System Overview

04:35 Experiences of Shutdown

05:21 The Importance of Stillness

06:04 Combining Safety and Shutdown

07:50 Validating Shutdown

13:44 Self-Reflection

15:31 Conclusion and Course Information

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Polyvagal Freeze, Obsessions, Scattered Thinking, & Other Cognitions

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Why do you get obsessive, ruminating, or scattered thinking? Justin Sunseri answers this question through the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. He explains freeze and then describes how that results in cognitive shifts.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Breaking the Cycle: How to Access Safety When You're Always in Defense (SNB 234)

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Therapist and coach Justin Sunseri addresses a YouTube comment regarding persistent hyperarousal and difficulty accessing a state of ventral vagal safety. Justin discusses various perspectives and advice from members of his private community, highlighting the importance of small steps, connections with others, and mindful practices. The episode emphasizes the necessity of both internal and external sources of safety, including co-regulation with others and individual sensory experiences. Justin also mentions approaches like validating emotions, normalizing experiences, and incremental exposure to safety cues as critical components to overcoming emotional dysregulation.

00:00 Introduction and Overview

00:16 Reading a YouTube Comment

03:15 Community Insights: Karen's Advice

12:36 Community Insights: Flo's Journey

17:08 Community Insights: Love Day's Experience

19:20 Community Insights: Mandy's Perspective

23:37 Understanding Co-Regulation

24:20 Professional vs. Friendly Co-Regulation

25:17 Using Co-Regulation Mindfully

26:19 Alternative Ways to Co-Regulate

27:35 Reconnecting with Others

29:10 Community Insights on Co-Regulation

30:21 Addressing Defensive State Activation

34:43 Personalizing Your Approach

43:13 Next Steps and Resources

45:53 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Thaw the Freeze Trauma Response: a Polyvagal-Informed Approach

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Learn what the Freeze trauma response is, the dangers of addressing it head-on, and how to start coming out of it.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

No, Allowing Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Doesn't Reinforce It (Unless...)

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Join therapist and coach Justin Sunseri as he addresses a key question from his private community about transitioning from dorsal vagal shutdown to sympathetic flight fight activation. In this episode of 'Stuck Not Broken,' Justin delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining how to safely navigate these states without reinforcing a shutdown pattern. He also provides insights into his upcoming book and exclusive cohort 'Shutdown to Stillness.' Learn how to live with more calm, confidence, and connection while enhancing your self-regulation skills.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:57 Understanding Shutdown and Sympathetic Activation

03:12 The Role of Safety in Navigating Shutdown

07:50 Practical Steps to Move from Shutdown to Mobilization

10:42 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions

15:42 Updates on the Book and Future Plans

20:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Can ANYBODY self-regulate and recover from trauma?

Wed, 26 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri addresses whether everyone can recover from trauma by accessing their Polyvagal safety state. He explains the nuances, emphasizing the importance of context, co-regulation, and healthy attachments.

0:00 Can Anybody Self-Regulate and Recover from Trauma?

01:43 Introduction to Safety Anchors and UDS

02:08 Exploring the Concept of Safety Anchors

03:53 The Role of Co-Regulation in Safety

04:33 Challenges of Practicing Alone

05:01 Building a Supportive Environment

06:46 Barriers to Achieving Safety

07:54 Impact of Personal Growth on Relationships

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Self-Regulation: Should you challenge your safety state?

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0700

I answer questions about self-regulation and our safety state - should we challenge the capacity of our distress tolerance? Will this help strengthen our vagal brake?

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Daily Life: Real People Share Real Experiences

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri continues his exploration of the Shutdown Experiences Survey, this time discussing the results of how dorsal vagal shutdown affects people on a daily basis. How effective do people feel they are coping? How do they alter their daily lives?

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Finding Polyvagal Safety When "Neurodiverse"

Tue, 21 May 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Justin Sunseri addresses a question about neurodivergence, safety, and connection. What does safety look like for someone who is "neurodivergent"?

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00:00 Introduction: Meet Justin Sunseri

00:13 Taking a Break: Life Updates and Future Plans

00:38 Addressing Neurodivergence: Safety, Connection, and Community Q&A

01:19 Exploring Safety and Connection in Neurodivergence

02:57 Personalizing Safety: Beyond Social Norms

05:20 Embracing the Present: Safety, Connection, and Personal Growth

07:41 Conclusion and Invitation to Engage

08:36 Disclaimer and Resources

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How Long Does Shutdown last Real People Answer (SNB 227)

Tue, 07 May 2024 05:00:00 -0700

I share the second round of results from my Shutdown Experiences Survey, including how far away safety feels and how long people live in shutdown. Gain new language for your experiences, plus lots of validation and normalization.

00:00 Introduction to episode 227

01:32 How far away does safety feel?

06:56 How long have you been in shutdown?

10:16 How long do acute shutdown experiences last?

13:10 Personal Shutdown Stories: Voices from the Survey

20:13 Support and Resources for Navigating Shutdown

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Real People Share Real Shutdown Experiences

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Justin shares the felt experience results of his "Shutdown Experiences Survey." Real people in dorsal vagal shutdown share about their emotions, thoughts, and more. You will get more validation and normalization from this episode. Learn language for your shutdown experiences and ideas on what to do about it.

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0:00 Real People Share Real Experiences of Dorsal Vagal Shutdown (SNB 227)

01:00 the Shutdown Experiences Survey

02:43 Emotions of Shutdown

08:09 Thinking from Shutdown

11:30 Sensations of Shutdown

14:34 Impulses of Shutdown

18:06 What is it like to be in shutdown?

20:09 What's the Solution to Shutdown?

23:14 Outro

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Bad Therapy: Poor Boundaries, Exorcism, and Dinner

Tue, 16 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Justin and Mercedes discuss a Bad Therapy story of poor boundaries and where it leads. If you have your own Bad Therapy story, send it to justinlmft@gmail.com

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Polyvagal Freeze State: Cognitions and Release

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Learn experiences of the Polyvagal freeze state, like changes in cognitions and underlying impulses.

00:00 Introduction

00:50 Understanding Freeze State: Insights and Analogies

04:23 Cognitive Effects of the Freeze State: Analysis and Examples

08:22 Addressing Shame and Cognitive Adaptations in Freeze State

10:09 Therapeutic Approaches: Top-Down and Bottom-Up Strategies

11:29 Closing Thoughts and Resources

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Slowly Stop Negative Coping Skills

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Explore practical strategies for understanding and gradually replacing negative coping skills eventually and slowly with healthier alternatives, employing the principles of the Polyvagal Theory. Host Justin Sunseri shares insights from a discussion with his private community, offering techniques to recognize and modify behaviors such as binge eating by creating a mindful space between impulse and action. The episode navigates the challenges of self-regulation and provides a compassionate framework for individuals seeking to address their coping strategies without judgment or shame.

00:00 Introduction

01:17 Strategies for Managing Negative Coping Skills

05:22 The Journey Towards Mindfulness and Self-Regulation

07:13 Preparation Stage of Change

08:41 Join the Stuck Not Broken Community

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Stage Fright and Polyvagal Theory: how to Anchor in Safety and Overcome it

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0700

The Polyvagal Theory is not a solution, but a scientific understanding of our biological reactions. So, how does the PVT apply to stage fright? What Polyvagal states are occurring and what can you do about it?

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:46 Understanding Performance Anxiety and Polyvagal Theory

02:39 The Science Behind Stage Fright

04:45 Exploring the Freeze Reaction

06:14 Factors Contributing to Performance Anxiety

10:22 Strategies to Overcome Performance Anxiety

15:50 Closing Thoughts and Contact Information

16:25 Disclaimer and Additional Resources

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Polyvagal Safety Cues & Loved Ones: Why You Don't Feel Connected (maybe)

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Learn why you might have difficulty accepting safety cues, even from your loved ones. Your Polyvagal state acts as a filter and changes your perception of your interactions with others.

00:00 Introduction and Viewer's Question

00:52 Understanding Safety States

01:39 The Role of Interpersonal Relationships in Safety States

03:45 The Impact of Defensive States on Perception

05:48 Building Strength in Your Safety State

07:28 Alternative Avenues for Anchoring Safety

08:20 Conclusion and Invitation to Join Trauma Recovery Courses

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Dealing with Sadness through Self-Compassion (sadness and Polyvagal Theory)

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Emotions, including sadness, are not random but are responses to our body's state. Use this three-step process to begin feeling your sadness with self-compassion.

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01:11 Understanding Sadness and Emotions

01:40 The Polyvagal Theory and Emotions

03:37 Recognizing and Validating Sadness

04:10 The Three-Step Process: Validate, Normalize, Give Permission

06:24 Anchoring in Safety and Dealing with Sadness

10:11 Different Flavors of Sadness

11:09 Polyvagal Trauma Relief System and Conclusion

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Feel Polyvagal Safety Even if You Struggle to

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Learn how to feel ventral vagal safety even when it feels out of reach through 3 different options: imagination, co-regulation, and mindful sensory experiences. These 3 options may be the most approachable for identifying and eventually building safety within.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
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National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

From Safety to Shutdown: Courtney's Journey through Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Therapist and Coach Justin Sunseri lists all 9 official Polyvagal Theory autonomic states and shares the story of Courtney. The episode demystifies different autonomic states like Safety, Flight/Fight, and Shutdown, and their mixed states such as Freeze, Play, and Stillness. Justin dives into the nuances of these states, explores how to identify them in Courtney's relatable, emotional journey, and guides you to recognize and understand these states within your own experiences.

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Appease and Fawn podcast episode - https://youtu.be/4vTXTEF47pQ

Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Growth Mindset is Not the Solution and Fixed Mindset is Not the Problem

Tue, 23 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Your mindset might not be the main problem when it comes to making lasting change in your life. Instead, your underlying Polyvagal state matters more. The state of one's body influences emotions, behaviors, and even one's mindset. The concepts of the "growth mindset" and "fixed mindset" were popularized by Carol Dweck. But maybe it's not as simple as choosing a growth mindset. Learn about the Polyvagal Theory, which suggests we have three basic states: safety, flight/fight, and shutdown. Ultimately, how readily one can access the 'safety' state is crucial to cultivating a growth mindset.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
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LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Binge Eating as a Behavioral Adaptation: A Polyvagal Analysis

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Discover how the Polyvagal Theory sheds light on binge eating as a behavioral adaptation. This episode post delves into the complex interplay of defensive autonomic states and eating disorders, offering insights for those seeking a deeper understanding of their eating behaviors and paths to healthier coping mechanisms.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Crying in Trauma Recovery: is it Necessary?

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Discover the intersection of emotional regulation and the Polyvagal Theory in trauma recovery, discussing the balance between 'allowing' and 'doing' in emotional regulation. Addressing whether one needs to experience overwhelming sadness to heal, he emphasizes individualized approaches to trauma recovery. Justin also delves into his unique method, highlighting the role of bodily sensations and impulses in understanding and processing emotions. This engaging talk is a journey through the layers of sadness, exploring the importance of safety, mindfulness, and compassion in healing from trauma.

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Polyvagal Intro - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Deb Dana's Essential Polyvagal Theory Contributions: Bridging Science and Trauma Recovery

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700

Deb Dana takes the difficult Polyvagal Theory academia and translates it into everyday language. This episode identifies and explains her most valuable contributions to the Polyvagal Theory: glimmers, Story Follows State, Home Away from Home, and the Polyvagal Ladder.

(book links will take you to Amazon. If you purchase, I will get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you.)

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Justin’s Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Justin’s Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Relationship Repair or Move On? A Closer Look at Healing and Co-Regulation

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Explore the complexities of repairing relationships with insights on co-regulation, trust, and vulnerability. Learn how self-regulation and empathy can help heal and mend bonds. Understand the dynamics of misattunement and ruptures, and discover practical strategies for rebuilding trust and healthy connections.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How Nervous System Co-Regulation Can Help in Trauma Recovery

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Have you ever felt calmer and more secure just by being around a specific person? You feel more safe with that person because of co-regulation. I'll explore how this deep-rooted biological process plays a vital role in shaping your emotional and physiological states. From the calming effects of a loved one's presence to the subtle cues of safety we exchange with those around us, co-regulation is an essential part of being human - and healing from trauma.

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Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Polyvagal Intro - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Panic Attacks: How to Reduce Their Intensity & Frequency

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0700

If you’ve been through a panic attack, you know they are no joke. You may actually go through panic attacks repeatedly. You may even have a panic attack the same time each day, like at nighttime. That’s how this discussion starts off, with one of my Stucknaut Collective community members asking during one of our Meetups. This short conversation touches upon how to reduce the intensity of panic attacks through both passive and active means, focusing on the Polyvagal safety state.

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Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Polyvagal 101-109 - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Ventral Vagal Safety Spectrum: Dysregulation to Connection

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0700

The ventral vagal safety state of the Polyvagal Theory may not be easily accessible, especially if you exist in a traumatized state. And it’s maybe even more difficult to deeply settle into and experience for extended periods of time. I’ll discuss what the safety state is, the spectrum of how the safety state can be used, and when to do so. This will give you a framework for where you’re at, what you can handle, and next steps.

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😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Can AI Replace Your Therapist? (No, not yet!)

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0700

With the incredible emergence and rapid upgrading of artificial intelligence models, one has to wonder if it can act as your therapist in late October 2023. As of right now, the answer is a clear no. But that may not be for long. Join me as I discuss the current limitations of AI and what I think the future holds.

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😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Why You are Still Stuck in Shutdown (and what to do)

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0700

You're depressed. You're learning about and applying the Polyvagal Theory with little change to your shutdown state. In this episode, I will share a few things you are doing to keep yourself stuck (unintentionally) and also a couple things you can do about it.

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Learn about the Polyvagal Theory in this playlist - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Ultimate Guide to Healing Dorsal Vagal Shutdown of the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0700

It's possible to live with more connection, energy, and hope in life. Yes, living without being in a dominant Polyvagal shutdown is possible. Life without depression is possible. I pull from my years of working as a therapist and my Polyvagal Theory knowledge to give you the major bullet points of recovering from a chronic shutdown.

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Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Validation - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eG9Opx2QTpw

Normalization - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnvH4REHF08

Give permission - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TW0xlROhQsQ

Polyvagal 101 podcast episodes - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

the Stimulus Response Behavior Model is Missing Something: a Polyvagal Solution?

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0700

The traditional model of behavior as a result of a stimulus is missing a middle component. There is some algorithm that takes place in between the stimulus and the response. The Polyvagal Theory may provide some insight.

Read the Vagal Paradox - https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2666497623000346#:~:text=Convergent%20patterns%20of%20both%20positive,regulation%20of%20the%20heart%20and

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Would you take a ventral vagal magic pill?

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0700

If there was a ventral vagal magic pill, would you take it? In this episode, I explore the ideas of objective measures and shortcuts and what they might mean for you in your trauma recovery journey.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

What is Vagal Efficiency? (and how to get more of it)

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0700

If you've never heard of "vagal efficiency" in your Polyvagal Theory readings, you're not alone. In this episode, I'll discuss vagal efficiency and how it relates to the safety state and the vagal brake, plus what this may mean for the future.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Intimacy: Another Polyvagal Mixed State?

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Intimacy, fawn, and appeasement were added to the Polyvagal Theory as mixed states. But are they? Should we take the context more into account before calling intimacy a mixed state? What happens to the states when they involve being alone or being with someone?

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😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Is "Our Polyvagal World" Worth Buying? - a Book Review

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Our Polyvagal World is overall worth owning, especially at $14 from Amazon.

Buy the book here (portion of sale goes to me at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/3rr9YBa

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (99147).

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Fawn and Appeasement: Actual Mixed States or Something Else?

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Are the new Polyvagal Theory mixed states of fawn and appeasement better understood as mixed states or behavioral adaptations?

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Comply to Survive: Fawn and the Polyvagal Theory

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Fawn has officially been added to the growing list of Polyvagal Theory mixed states. I’ll explain fawning and how the theory interprets it to deepen your understanding of the Polyvagal Theory.

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Order Dr Porges’ NEW book - Our Polyvagal World - through this Amazon affiliate link. I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you - https://amzn.to/47UIxjV

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😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Connect to Survive: Appeasement Replaces Stockholm Syndrome via Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Appeasement has replaced the outdated understanding of "Stockholm Syndrome," as described by the Polyvagal Theory. Learn what appeasement is and how it acts as a survival mechanism when one is under life threat.

Order Dr Porges’ NEW book - Our Polyvagal World - through this Amazon affiliate link. I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you - https://amzn.to/47UIxjV

Appeasement: Replacing Stockholm Syndrome - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9858395/

When Agreement is Not Consent - https://medium.com/rae-x-nkem/when-agreement-is-not-consent-118e8d2f279e

SNB: Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Become a free site member - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

Polyvagal Insitute on Criticisms: The Vagal Paradox: a Polyvagal Solution - https://authors.elsevier.com/sd/article/S2666-4976(23)00034-6

Cleveland Clinic - https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22387-stockholm-syndrome

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Dr Stephen Porges: Polyvagal Theory Updates & Critiques (2023)

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Dr. Stephen Porges addresses critiques of the Polyvagal Theory, new mixed states (fawn, appease, intimacy), and "stimulating the vagus nerve." He also discusses his new book, Our Polyvagal World, and his newest academic paper, the Vagal Paradox: a Polyvagal Solution.

Order Dr Porges’ NEW book - Our Polyvagal World - through this Amazon affiliate link. I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you - https://amzn.to/47UIxjV

SNB: Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

The Vagal Paradox: a Polyvagal Solution - https://authors.elsevier.com/sd/article/S2666-4976(23)00034-6

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

200. Time: the Uncomfortable Truth

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Today will end. In this episode, I cover a heavy topic - time. I want to add a bit of urgency to your self-improvement or trauma recovery process. Don't listen if this is too heavy a topic for you.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

BANGING on our window at night!? a Polyvagal Neuroception Story.

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Someone BANGED on our window in the middle of the night with their fists! I'll teach you how this connects to the Polyvagal concept of neuroception.

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Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Silence: an Essential Mindfulness Ingredient

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Learn how incorporating small moments of silence into your daily routine can enhance essential mindfulness, reduce stress, and help you feel more connected to your surroundings.

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Are They Really a "Friend"? Healthy Boundaries & Levels of Friendship

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Do you have "friends" in your life that drain you? In this episode, I discuss the different levels of friendship to help you prioritize where you're putting your energy.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Can't Sleep? The Stress and Insomnia Connection

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Are you tossing and turning at night, plagued by worries and anxieties? You're not alone. Stress-induced insomnia is a common sleep disorder that affects many people. But what's the connection between stress and insomnia? I'll delve into this relationship with insights from neurophysiology. Why? Because I want you to be able to sleep better! I want you to be well-rested and more able to self-regulate.

Slepopolis article - https://sleepopolis.com/news/vagus-nerve-icing-tiktok-trend-insomnia/

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Polyvagal 101 podcast episodes - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How Feeling Stuck Trauma May Actually Help...

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 08:30:00 -0700

Our bodies are naturally compelled to self-regulate and release trauma. But are you worried about what might happen if you touch upon it? In this episode, I discuss how touching upon your stuck defensive state might be helpful. But also how to approach it.

Join the Stucknaut Collective through the Total Access Membership - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Navigating 3 Stages of Trauma Healing: a Polyvagal Perspective

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 07:30:00 -0700

Explore the transformative journey of trauma healing through the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. This episode guides you through the three key stages: learning accurate information, building the safety state, and mindfully experiencing your stuck defensive state. Empower your healing journey with clear insights and practical strategies.

SNB: Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Trauma and the Polyvagal Paradigm ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

You don’t need psychobabble playlist - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/261614ba-be06-4426-b193-f7235b6e1d80

Polyvagal Theory deep dive playlist - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Personal Growth: Allowed, Necessary and No Permission Needed!

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 07:30:00 -0700

Discover the keys to personal growth and enhance your mental health with these practical steps. Learn how to take responsibility for your own development, set clear goals, and embark on a continuous journey of self-improvement. Find out why surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people is crucial for your personal growth. Explore the importance of accessing your body's safety state and discover a supportive online community for trauma recovery.

SNB: Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Nifty Gifty eBook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Losing Access to Personal Boundaries and How to Strengthen Them

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 07:30:00 -0700

Ever regret how you reacted to situations that felt unsafe? Learn what happened and how to strengthen personal boundaries.

SSIEC Sheet - https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

What is a Polyvagal Therapist and how can they help you?

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 07:30:00 -0700

Learn about Polyvagal therapy, how to find a Polyvagal-informed licensed therapist, explore coaching options, or delve into Polyvagal-informed courses for self-guided growth. Get unstuck, enhance your well-being, and unlock your inner resilience starting today.

SNB: Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Nifty Gifty - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Understanding Dorsal Vagal Shutdown: Numbness and Trauma

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 07:45:00 -0700

Learn about dorsal vagal shutdown and how it affects your daily life. Learn how to recognize, manage, and begin to overcome this common physiological response to stress and trauma. Dive deep into the connection between trauma and shutdown, and gain valuable insights into recovery strategies. Take the first step towards improving your mental health today!

SNB: Total Access - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Nifty Gifty - https://www.justinlmft.com/3daypolyvagal

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Mastering Panic Attacks: Coping vs Safety Grounding

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0700

Discover practical techniques to improve your mental health and overcome panic attacks. Explore the Polyvagal Theory, learn self-regulation strategies, and find ways to access your body's safety state. Strengthen your distress tolerance and reduce the frequency and intensity of panic attacks.

3 Day Polyvagal States Challenge - https://www.justinlmft.com/3daypolyvagal

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Trauma Recovery: Trusting in Your Power to Self-Regulate

Tue, 30 May 2023 08:30:00 -0700

Discover the secrets of trauma recovery and unleash your body's natural healing power. But the question is, do you trust your body's natural ability and need to self-regulate? Learn what you can do starting today.

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

SSIEC: sign up for my email list to download SSIEC and begin to build a vocabulary for all of your domains - https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

5 Emotional Impacts of Trauma

Tue, 23 May 2023 07:00:00 -0700

Join me as I delve into the emotional impacts of trauma. I'll explore the neuroscience of trauma, its profound effects on emotions like anxiety, depression, anger, fear, guilt, and shame, and the role of the autonomic nervous system as per the Polyvagal Theory. This is a must-watch for anyone affected by trauma or interested in understanding its deep-seated effects.

Polyvagal Checklist - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Research:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4769114/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9527673/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2018/07/abuse-neglect-blame#2

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4384185/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4677006/

https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/trauma

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm," when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

7 Easy Anxiety Management Skills to Use Today

Fri, 19 May 2023 00:00:00 -0700

I have seven simple yet effective anxiety management skills that you can use TODAY. Yes, for free too! From deep breathing exercises and mindful movement breaks to calming music and journaling, discover practical techniques to reduce anxiety and promote relaxation. Whether you're looking for immediate relief or long-term strategies, this episode offers valuable insights to help you manage anxiety and improve your well-being.

The entire list of 21 anxiety management skills ranked by difficulty is here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/anxiety-management-skills

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Easy Beginning Meditation Tips for Busy People

Tue, 09 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700

Discover the benefits of meditation and how it can improve your mental health, even if you're busy with little time to spare. Learn simple beginner techniques and practical tips for incorporating mindfulness into your daily life. Reduce stress, increase productivity, and find peace.

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/ptrs

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Blog version - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/meditation-tips-for-busy-people

Chill hop I listen to - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfKfPfyJRdk

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Feel Your Feelings to Improve Emotional Processing

Tue, 02 May 2023 08:00:00 -0700

Learn how to feel your feelings and improve emotional processing through mindfulness. Discover the relationship between mindfulness and emotional processing, the benefits of practicing mindfulness, and strategies for feeling your feelings. Learn practical techniques to practice mindfulness and encourage emotional processing.

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

5 tips for journaling blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/5-tips-for-journaling

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Give Yourself Permission to Feel Your Feelings

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0700

The third step in my Top-Down Self-Regulation Openers is giving yourself permission to feel your feelings. Learn to build on validation, normalization, and how to allow yourself to experience your emotions fully.

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm," when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Emotional Normalization and How it Helps in Trauma Recovery

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 07:30:00 -0700

Emotional normalization is the process of making sense of your emotions based on your life context, which can help alleviate emotional dysregulation. I also discuss the importance of validation as the first step in the top-down self-regulation process, followed by normalization. Emotions are inherently the result of a biological process, which can be more deeply understood through the neuroscience of the Polyvagal Theory.

SSIEC: https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Polyvagal Trauma Recovery System: https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

What Validation is and How it Connects to Trauma Recovery

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 08:15:00 -0700

I teach you what validation is, how to validate yourself and how it connects to trauma in this video. I also discuss why validation might be difficult for many people. This is a segment from a book I am currently writing. I will let you know more when I know more!

Download my free SSIEC sheet: https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Porges and the upside down triangle to learn more about brain to body and body to brain regulation: https://www.justinlmft.com/post/the-polyvagal-theory-understanding-the-3-neural-circuits-that-shape-our-behavior

Blog for this episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/what-validation-is

Trauma recovery System of courses and community - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Free ebook, "Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm" when you sign up for my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

5 Practical Tips for Managing Anxiety in Your Daily Life

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 00:30:00 -0700

Struggling with anxiety? You're not alone! Join me as I reveal the 5 best FREE tips to combat anxiety and enjoy a stress-free life. From understanding what anxiety is to practical tips to manage it, this video covers it all. Don't let anxiety control your life any longer, click now to start your journey towards a happier and healthier you! (Stuck Not Broken episode 183)

SSIEC Nifty Gifty - https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How Positive Affirmations Might be Making Things WORSE

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0700

You might be using positive affirmations in your self-development, and that's great. Buuuut it also might be making this worse! I talk about this with my course students in this clip from one of our bi-monthly meetups. We also talk about "story follows state" from Deb Dana and also how state follows story.

Nifty Gifty PVT Primary Books List - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalprimarybooks

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

AI answered my questions about trauma recovery and shocked me.

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0700

This is a full-on AI episode! I chat with Chat GPT, an AI program, about the polyvagal theory and trauma recovery. Surprisingly, the AI accurately described the theory and its implications for mental health treatment. It emphasizes the importance of establishing a sense of safety and security before processing traumatic experiences and recommend seeking therapy with a trained professional. It was a fun and interesting experience, and I hope you enjoy it too. (this description was also written by AI with minor editing)

YouTube video for this episode with AI art - https://youtu.be/0-gzipYp1Ck

Site - https://www.justinlmft.com

My Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://wwww.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

Polyvagal Checklist - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Me: wow thank you. Where did you learn all of this information? What sources do you use?

AI: As an AI language model, my knowledge is based on a vast corpus of text data. I was trained on a diverse range of sources, including books, articles, research papers, and other materials on a wide variety of topics. The information I provided on the Polyvagal Theory and trauma recovery is based on my training data and my ability to analyze and synthesize information from multiple sources.

Some of the sources that I used to provide information on the Polyvagal Theory and trauma recovery include research papers from reputable journals, books written by experts in the field of trauma psychology, and online resources from organizations dedicated to promoting mental health and wellbeing.

I should also note that while I strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, my responses are not intended to substitute for professional advice or treatment. If you or someone you know is experiencing trauma or mental health difficulties, it's essential to seek the guidance of a trained therapist or healthcare provider who can provide personalized advice and support.

Me: What specific sources do you recommend for learning more about the Polyvagal Theory?

There are many resources available for learning more about the Polyvagal Theory. Here are a few specific sources that may be helpful:

"The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation" by Stephen Porges: This book provides a comprehensive overview of the Polyvagal Theory, including its origins, underlying principles, and implications for understanding human behavior and emotion.
"Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices" by Deb Dana: This book provides a practical guide for applying the Polyvagal Theory in clinical practice, with a focus on promoting safety and connection through specific exercises and interventions.
"The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe" by Stephen Porges and Sue Carter: This concise guide provides an overview of the Polyvagal Theory and its implications for health and wellbeing, with a focus on practical strategies for promoting safety and regulation.
The Polyvagal Institute: This online resource provides a wealth of information on the Polyvagal Theory, including research articles, training programs, and online resources for clinicians and individuals interested in learning more about the theory.

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How your thoughts are preventing your trauma recovery

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0700

What is under your thoughts? Your Polyvagal state, emotions, sensations and impulses are more significant than your thoughts. I make the case in this snippet from a meetup for course students.

The Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

3 Tips to Reduce Fear During Trauma Work

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 00:15:00 -0700

I have three tips for you to reduce your fear of working on your stuck defensive state. Fear might be a significant obstacle for you, something that comes up during therapy or meditation and derails your efforts. In this episode, I share a story about a cop who said he does not feel fear, how this connects to you and what you can do about it.

PLEASE Email me with a clip of your voice asking a general question - justinlmft@gmail.com

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

I was desperate & agreed to spend $9k

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 00:15:00 -0700

My family was in a financial upheaval and I got so desperate I agreed to spend $9,000, which I soon after deeply regretted. Desperation can bring us to some scary places.

Download my free ebook by joining my email list at the top of blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/blog

Email me - justinlmft@gmail.com

Schedule a NO-sales pressure chat with me - https://www.justinlmft.com/service-page/ptrs-call

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Reduce your shame, blame and judgment with the Polyvagal Theory

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700

If you're struggling with shame, blame or judgment, this is a good place to start. It might be too early to feel your feelings or to "sit with it". Instead, use the Polyvagal Theory to build a top-down new narrative.

Free ebook in the top banner - https://www.justinlmft.com/blog

Polyvagal Checklist freebie - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Original blog article - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/how-to-reduce-your-shame-blame-judgment

Polyvagal 101 course - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/traumarelief

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How Polyvagal Safety is different than coping with dysregulation

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 08:00:00 -0700

There is a difference between activating and anchoring in your Polyvagal safety state and coping with dysregulation. Both have their uses and they can be built on each other. I share a clip from one of my Stucknaut Meetups, where my course members can get together with me to ask questions and get get answers on my courses.

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/ptrs

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

175. I'm a Therapist and I was Wrong About Trauma Recovery

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700

I’m a therapist and I was wrong about trauma recovery! When I first learned the PVT and began understanding the somatic pieces of trauma work, I got something very wrong. I thought recovering from trauma was sort of done all at once. I’ll explain to you where I got things wrong and what I ended up learning in this episode.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/buildsafety

Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/im-a-therapist-and-i-was-wrong-about-trauma-recovery

Polyvagal Checklist Nifty Gifty - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

What to do AFTER learning the Polyvagal Theory and Why

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700

You know the Polyvagal Theory. NOW WHAT? (And why?)

I have a nifty gifty for you when you sign up for my email list experience.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalprimarybooks

Polyvagal 101 podcast series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/buildsafety

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Happiness & the Polyvagal Theory: Sorry, there is NO magic key

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700

What is happiness and is there a key to unlocking it? I answer this question from the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. I actually think we have things backwards...

Nifty Gifty - Polyvagal Checklist - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/buildsafety

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Relieve Your Polyvagal Fight State

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700

What is the best way to relieve a stuck Polyvagal fight state? I address what the fight state is, how it got stuck and ways to get unstuck.

Unstucking Defensive States - https://www.justinlmft.com/uds

Nifty Gifty 3 Day Polyvagal Challenge - https://www.justinlmft.com/3daypolyvagal

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Release Trauma to Relax OR Relax to Release Trauma? (edit)

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700

Are you supposed to release trauma to relax or do you relax to release trauma? I delve in depth into this question from a Fellow Stucknaut.

SSIEC Nifty Gifty - https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/polyvagal-safety-how-to-use-it

BSA - https://www.justinlmft.com/buildsafety

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Why You Have Resistance to Polyvagal Ladder Climbing

Tue, 27 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700

Why do you have resistance to climbing your Polyvagal ladder and accessing your safety state? Why is it that being in a defensive state seems like it’s what your body wants? I answer a message I got from one of your Fellow Stucknauts.

Polyvagal Checklist - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

PTRS Course Bundle - https://www.justinlmft.com/ptrs

UDS Course - https://www.justinlmft.com/uds

BSA Course - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Polyvagal Freeze, Self-Harm, Panic & Rage

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700

How does crying fit with the Polyvagal mixed state of freeze? What about rage, panic and self-harm?

3 Day Challenge -https://www.justinlmft.com/3daypolyvagal

My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Acting on Impulses and Trauma Releasing

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700

What is unstucking? What do pendulation and titration have to do with self-regulation? And what about acting on impulses and relieving trauma? I answer a listener's question and discuss each of these points in Stuck Not Broken podcast episode 168.

SSIEC - https://www.justinlmft.com/ssiec

Polyvagal Trauma Relief System - https://www.justinlmft.com/ptrs

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Grief and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0700

How does grief fit into the Polyvagal Theory? I explain that it's kind of all over the Polyvagal ladder!

3 Day Polyvagal States Challenge - https://www.justinlmft.com/3daypolyvagal

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Deal With Anger & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 22:00:00 -0700

How to reduce angry thoughts and angry emotions from the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. It's not easy, but it's possible. Reducing aggression requires a bit of mindfulness and allowance of your fight state.

Polyvagal Checklist - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Dealing With Anger Blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/dealing-with-anger

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

How to Self Regulate Through Triggering Events?

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0700

How do you self-regulate through situations that you know will be triggering? Self-regulation is built on practicing, just like anything else. Best not to wait until the moment of the circumstance and to do some self-regulation beforehand. And have some anchoring options ready for when you are in the situation.

3 Day Polyvagal Challenge -https://www.justinlmft.com/3daypolyvagal

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Polyvagal Safety and How to Use It

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 20:00:00 -0700

What is the Polyvagal safety state? Find out in this episode! And once you find out, what do you do with that information? Also find that out in this episode!

Polyvagal Checklist -https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

Original Blog, Polyvagal Safety and How to Use It - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/polyvagal-safety-how-to-use-it

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Polyvagal Theory for Total Beginners

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 06:22:00 -0700

I believe these are three essential starting points for the person that is brand new to the Polyvagal Theory. At least, it's what I found to be the most beneficial in understanding this paradigm.

I made a Polyvagal Checklist for you to use as you learn the Theory for yourself. You can download it here - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalchecklist

PVT For Total Beginners Blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/polyvagal-theory-for-total-beginners

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Is It Possible to Come Out of Polyvagal Shutdown

Tue, 18 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0700

A brief summary of this episode

Pendulation in Grieving and Imagination as a Safety Anchor

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 07:00:57 -0700

A brief summary of this episode

Gently Allowing Emotion and Sensation

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 15:21:58 -0700

My thoughts on a listener's question about gently allowing sensations to exist without being sent back into shutdown.

Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Coming Out of Flight/Fight

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 07:00:49 -0700

I answer a listener's question about coming out of shutdown into fight and then flight.

This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. More resources are available in the description of this episode and in the footer of justinlmft.com.

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

My Current Therapist is Not as Good

Tue, 09 Aug 2022 07:00:06 -0700

A brief summary of this episode

Bad Therapy - Non-Kink & Minimizing Suicidal Ideation

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 07:00:07 -0700

Mercedes joins me for another Bad Therapy episode!

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

How does trauma connect to the Polyvagal Theory? / PVT101

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 07:00:27 -0700

A clip from a live Polyvagal 101 Webinar Experience. Register your spot for my next live webinar experience!

Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Fawning and Distress Tolerance PVT101 Q&A

Tue, 12 Jul 2022 07:00:08 -0700

Register your spot for the next Polyvagal 101 Live Webinar Experience! This short episode is Q&A from one of my webinars around fawning and distress tolerance.

Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

SSIEC: State Sensation Impulse Emotion Cognition Resource

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 07:00:17 -0700

Download SSIEC: https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Free Will, Accountability & Parenting Consultation

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 07:00:32 -0700

Professional Consultations - https://www.justinlmft.com/consultation

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

It's Just You & You Are Enough (p4)

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 17:17:56 -0700

One more installment in the "It's Just You" series. I'm really glad I did this and I hope it brought a new wrinkle or two to your brain.

Stucknaut series begins with - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/301fdb9e/the-beliefs-of-a-stucknaut

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

It's Just You - Rebuttals (p3)

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 07:00:17 -0700

Listen to episode 149 (and 150) before you listen to this one!

IFS Model - https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/internal-family-systems-model-outline

IFS Study - https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10926771.2021.2013375?scroll=top&needAccess=true

Sue Carter - https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2019.00914/full

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

150. It's Just You - Supportive Responses (p2)

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0700

In episode 150 (!), I share some listener responses to last week's episode of the supportive variety. I'd love to hear from you, gimme an email at justinlmft@gmail.com.

SNB 149 - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode149

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

149. It's Just You - No Ego, No Shadow, No Parts, No...

Tue, 31 May 2022 07:00:00 -0700

I share my thoughts on the idea that there is no ego, no shadow, no parts and more. I also create my own psychological concept!

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Active & Passive Cues Compile and Context of Cues

Tue, 24 May 2022 07:00:21 -0700

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Is Building Safety Anchors right for you?

Sat, 21 May 2022 05:38:57 -0700

I recently finished overhauling BSA and it's ready to buy on my site! Link below. Starting June 1, it will double in price from $250 to $500.

Find out more - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Email me if you have a question - justinlmft@gmail.com

Polyvagal Safety Cues and Swiss Design

Tue, 17 May 2022 07:00:18 -0700

Safety cues: what they are and what they have to do with my newfound love of Swiss design!

Polyvagal One-Pagers - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Polyvagal Theory for Teens - Rehearsal Presentation

Tue, 19 Apr 2022 07:00:41 -0700

I recorded a dry run of a presentation I did for some high schoolers. I edited out the exercises I did with them as it wouldn't make sense in an audio only. You can watch the slides on YouTube and see the videos/music that I used. YouTube version - https://youtu.be/KhVRbPW5_6E

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Shame, Time-Outs, Will Smith, Evolution & More - Open Office Hour

Tue, 12 Apr 2022 07:00:59 -0700

A discussion with a few of my BSA students that attend the monthly Open Office Hour. Take one of my courses to join the monthly Q&A and discussion.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Why is a Trauma Survivor's Vagal Brake Compromised?

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 07:00:49 -0700

An answer to someone's question from my Building Safety Anchors discussion group.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Factors in Why We Get Addicted to One Thing vs Another

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 07:00:52 -0700

Why do we get addicted to one thing vs another? An answer to a listener's question.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Being Pulled in Different Directions

Tue, 22 Mar 2022 07:00:21 -0700

Answer to a listener's question.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Acting Out vs Acting In

Tue, 15 Mar 2022 07:00:36 -0700

What is the difference between acting out and acting in? An answer to a listener's question.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

3 Years of SNB & My Next Steps

Fri, 11 Feb 2022 08:00:14 -0700

A brief summary of this episode

I've Tried Everything & I am Still Numb!

Tue, 08 Feb 2022 08:00:33 -0700

This episode is for the person that has "tried everything" and is still stuck in a defensive state. This episode specifically goes into the Polyvagal shutdown state and numbness.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

You're Thinking, Not Feeling

Tue, 25 Jan 2022 08:00:22 -0700

Something that is keeping you stuck is thinking and not feeling.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Doubt is a Normal Part of Change

Tue, 18 Jan 2022 08:00:39 -0700

Not only is it normal, but can be used to your advantage...

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

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National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Polyvagal Safety - Book Review

Mon, 17 Jan 2022 08:00:23 -0700

Do I think you should buy the newest book from Dr Porges, the creator of the Polyvagal Theory? It's called "Polyvagal Safety" - yeah and nah.

Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3FbVXbu Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Neurocardiology Through the Lens of the Polyvagal Theory - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c1d025fb27e390a78569537/t/5cb67958eef1a19d9940fb5d/1555462489535/Neurocardiology+final+Porges+Kolacz.pdf

Polyvagal Theory: A Biobehavioral Journey to Sociality - https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2666497621000436

Play as a Neural Exercise - https://olivebranchsa.com/portfolio-view/play-as-a-neural-exercise-insights-from-the-polyvagal-theory/

Vagal Pathways: Portals to Compassion - https://integratedlistening.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/porges_compassion-final-7.2016.pdf

Yoga Therapy and Polyvagal Theory - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5835127/

Mindfulness-Based Movement - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5482784/

Brain-Body Connection May Ease Autistic People’s Social Problems - https://www.spectrumnews.org/opinion/viewpoint/brain-body-connection-may-ease-autistic-peoples-social-problems/

Reducing Auditory Hypersensitivities in Autistic Spectrum Disorder - https://www.researchgate.net/publication/264902145_Reducing_Auditory_Hypersensitivities_in_Autistic_Spectrum_Disorder_Preliminary_Findings_Evaluating_the_Listening_Project_Protocol

The COVID-19 Pandemic is a Paradoxical Challenge - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8629069/

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High Stress Jobs & the Vagal Brake

Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:00:30 -0700

If you work in a high-stress, high-mobility job, you need to hav your safety pathways active.

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
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Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Safety Cue Dependency?

Tue, 04 Jan 2022 08:00:30 -0700

Can we get dependent on safety cues? I don't think it works that way...

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Why Therapy Has Ignored the Body

Tue, 28 Dec 2021 08:00:55 -0700

Therapy lags when it comes to the body because it means the profession is not as special. Everyone owns and applies the Polyvagal Theory.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/BSA

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Why You Should Focus on Behavior, Not Toxicity

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 08:00:22 -0700

A brief summary of this episode

Intimacy After Childhood Sexual Abuse History

Tue, 14 Dec 2021 08:00:52 -0700

An answer to a Stucknaut's question about childhood sexual trauma and its impact on intimacy.

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCduAkQrvmvWq2oy8aJSNcEQ

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Isolation Keeps You Stuck

Tue, 07 Dec 2021 08:00:16 -0700

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Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Parenting Without Models of Good Enough Parents

Tue, 30 Nov 2021 20:00:29 -0700

My thoughts on a fellow Stucknaut's question about parenting without having gotten good enough parenting as a kid.

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

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Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Your Stories Keep You Stuck

Mon, 29 Nov 2021 08:00:46 -0700

Changing your thoughts is often the focus of mental health, but it's not the core problem. The problem is the autonomic state that your thoughts are stemming from.

Polyvagal 101 Webinar - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/BSA Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Website - https://www.justinlmft.com National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, webinars, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Bad Therapy - "Get Over It" and Absolutely Awful Advice

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 08:00:42 -0700

Heidi Rogers join Justin Sunseri to discuss more Bad Therapy examples. Listen to the prior episode for the entire 2 parter.

Our episode on her podcast - https://www.heidirogers.com.au/blog/justin-sunseri-polyvagal-theory/ Heidi's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/heidirogers_/ Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101 Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Bad Therapy: "I Really Needed Help!", Client Quote Book & more!

Tue, 16 Nov 2021 08:00:33 -0700

Part 1 of 2, talking with Heidi Rogers about some bad therapy!

Our episode on her podcast - https://www.heidirogers.com.au/blog/justin-sunseri-polyvagal-theory/

Heidi's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/heidirogers_/

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/PVT101

Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

A Husband's Defensive State or Autism?

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 19:00:08 -0700

I tackle a question from a listener about her husband and his defensive state... or is it autism? Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Porges article - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c1d025fb27e390a78569537/t/5ccdfed0652deaddf2de9c8d/1557003986618/Vagus-autism-Bauman-Kemper.pdf

Link referenced - https://www.autismspeaks.org/what-are-symptoms-autism

Can I Co-Regulate With Someone That Traumatized Me?

Tue, 19 Oct 2021 07:00:55 -0700

This is originally an answer to a Patron on my Patreon.

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

What It's Like to be a Therapist in Government Jobs

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 16:10:19 -0700

It's a unique experience...

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Polyvagal 101 Webinar - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar

Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Definition

Tue, 05 Oct 2021 07:00:11 -0700

The "Grammer Trilogy" wraps up with an episode on the importance of having accurate definitions and shared vocabulary in the process of getting unstuck.

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

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Call 911 for emergency

Behavior vs Biology / Polyvagal Misconceptions 3of3

Fri, 01 Oct 2021 07:00:41 -0700

I have a Polyvagal101 course coming up! Sign up here - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar

If you like what I'm doing here on the podcast, I think you'll really enjoy the webinar.

Simile

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 07:00:15 -0700

The role of similes in getting unstuck, noticing what's happening within you and communicating it to the self or someone else. (I recommend you listen to last week's episode before listening to this one.)

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Co-Regulation is not Just Support / Polyvagal Misconceptions 2of3

Fri, 24 Sep 2021 07:00:52 -0700

I have a Polyvagal101 course coming up! Sign up here - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar

If you like what I'm doing here on the podcast, I think you'll really enjoy the webinar.

Metaphor

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 07:00:38 -0700

Metaphors absolutely have a place in therapy, but they can also be a hinderance.

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Polyvagal 101 Webinar - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Freeze & Shutdown are Not the Same Thing / Polyvagal Misconceptions 1of3

Fri, 17 Sep 2021 07:00:39 -0700

I have a Polyvagal101 course coming up! Sign up here - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar

If you like what I'm doing here on the podcast, I think you'll really enjoy the webinar.

Fierce Compassion from Parents

Tue, 14 Sep 2021 06:55:21 -0700

My thoughts on a Patron's/listener's question about their adult grandchild living in the home.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/BSA

Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

MaleSurvivor.org Webinar

Tue, 07 Sep 2021 06:21:48 -0700

https://malesurvivor.org/

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/BSA

Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Don't Get Lost in the Biology

Tue, 31 Aug 2021 07:00:05 -0700

A segment from a long, long chat I did with Kola Adetu. Don't get lost in the biology! Learning this stuff is fun, but you're a real person with a real present moment experience. You're not just a meat robot.

Full interview with Kola Adetu - https://www.instagram.com/tv/CS_S7uoqqoK/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/BSA

Become a $5 Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCduAkQrvmvWq2oy8aJSNcEQ

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

the Equipment of a Stucknaut

Tue, 24 Aug 2021 22:58:47 -0700

Part 3 of 3 of my Stucknaut series. Listen to the first two to catch up!

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

the Adventures & the Treasure of a Stucknaut

Tue, 17 Aug 2021 07:00:55 -0700

Building on last week's episode - what are the adventures and the treasure of a Stucknaut?

"Trauma and Memory" book - https://amzn.to/3jGI64h (link takes you to Amazon where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you)

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

the Beliefs of a Stucknaut

Tue, 10 Aug 2021 07:00:41 -0700

Welcome fellow Stucknaut! Listen to find out what the heck that is and what some core beliefs are of a Stucknaut.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

A Moment That Changed Me as a Therapist

Tue, 03 Aug 2021 07:00:08 -0700

Originally from my Patreon exclusive podcast - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

I discuss a time when I learned a valuable lesson about having healthy boundaries and positive expectations for therapy clients.

Bad Therapy - Vulgar Comment, Diabetes and Mentorship Offering

Tue, 27 Jul 2021 07:00:12 -0700

Mercedes Corona joins me to break down three short bad therapy stories. One dealing with a vulgar piece of advice from a therapist, one dealing with maybe too much focus on diabetes and one dealing with an offering of mentorship.

Interested in working with Justin as your therapist? Find out more information here - https://www.justinlmft.com/therapy

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - "Mindfulness & the Polyvagal Theory" - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This podcast is not theray, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Unfocused Rambling & Dismissing Trauma - Feedback Friday

Fri, 23 Jul 2021 07:00:02 -0700

A handful of entries for this FF. I'd love to get your feedback on the podcast - what's going well and what needs work? Email justinlmft@gmail.com or send me an audio message through Instagram.

website & BSA course - www.justinlmft.com

Instagram - www.instagram.com/justinlmft

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

"Butter" by BTS / Pop Culture Polyvagal

Tue, 20 Jul 2021 07:00:02 -0700

Mercedes joins me in discussing the #1 song on the Billboard top 100 currently - "Butter" by BTS.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

"Trauma Through a Child's Eyes" Book Review

Fri, 16 Jul 2021 07:00:45 -0700

Is it worth buying? Absolutely. This is a great reference book to own physically. Lots of large ideas and specific interventions for parents, therapists, school personnel and more.

Amazon links (I will get a portion of this sale through Amazon at no extra cost to you) -

Trauma Through a Child's Eyes - https://amzn.to/3r3Fa51

In An Unspoken Voice - https://amzn.to/3etroDw

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

Why is Coming Out of Shutdown So Difficult?

Tue, 13 Jul 2021 07:00:30 -0700

Justin answers a questions from a Patron about the difficulties in coming out of shutdown, including some pieces that might be helpful.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Step-Parenting & Parenting - Control, Expectations, Connection

Tue, 06 Jul 2021 07:00:28 -0700

Originally from a Patreon video, answering questions from a Patron about step-parenting, but I think this is applicable to any parent.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Emotion, Feeling and Sensation

Tue, 29 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0700

I discuss the difference among emotion, feeling and sensation and how they relate to each other.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Self-Regulation & Co-Regulation

Tue, 22 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0700

The final part of the Polyvagal 101 series! I hope you've benefited from this series and gotten all your Polyvagal curiosities fulfilled. The only missing piece is self-regulation and co-regulation.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Can I Co-Regulate With Someone Who Traumatized Me? - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Trauma and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 15 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0700

I put together all of the pieces of the Polyvagal Theory so far from the Polyvagal 101 series. How do all of these pieces relate to trauma?

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Empathy & Compassion - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

PTSD & Freeze episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/3a4ba2ff/ptsd-and-the-polyvagal-theory

CPTSD & Shutdown episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/1ff7370b/complex-ptsd-and-the-polyvagal-theory

Polyvagal Ladder episode and blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/the-polyvagal-ladder

5 Ways Humans Keep Themselves Stuck - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/1fd9965e/5-things-humans-do-to-keep-themselves-stuck

5 Ways Humans Keep Each Other Stuck - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/1fba397c/5-things-humans-do-to-keep-each-other-stuck

Deb Dana and other books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Deb Dana interview 1 - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

Deb Dana interview 2 - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview2

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Stillness

Tue, 01 Jun 2021 14:05:00 -0700

Welcome to part 7 of the Polyvagal 101 series - stillness, the mixed state of shutdown and safety. I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal Theory!

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

PVT Books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

This week’s Patreon episode - Stimulating and Hacking Your Vagus Nerve is Not the Point - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Who My Listeners Are and Might Be - Feedback Friday

Fri, 28 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700

I read a handful of messages I got recently from listeners to the podcast. One of them makes the astute observation that something is off with the host.

Become a Patron - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Dalai Momma Podcast interview - https://player.fm/series/dalai-momma/interview-with-justin-sunseri-lmft-from-the-stuck-not-broken-podcast

Mindful Movement podcast interview - https://themindfulmovement.com/polyvagal-theory/

Play

Tue, 25 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to part 6 of the Polyvagal 101 series. I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. This one goes into the mixed state of Play. You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal Theory!

Music clip #1 is by Metallica - Damage, Inc.; clip #2 is by the Ramones - Rockaway Beach

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

PVT Books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

This week’s Patreon episode - Mixed State Refresher - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

105. Freeze

Tue, 18 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to part 5 of the Polyvagal 101 series. I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. This episode looks at the mixed state of Freeze. You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal Theory!

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

Shutdown vs Freeze blog article - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/shutdownvsfreeze

PVT Books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

This week’s Patreon episode - Stimulating and Hacking Your Vagus Nerve is Not the Point - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Swearing & Not Knowing My Audience - Feedback Friday

Fri, 14 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700

I give my thoughts on a couple pieces of feedback I got recently re: censorship of swearing on the podcast and discussing whether or not I know my audience.

I'd love to get your feedback as well. Email justinlmft@gmail.com, DM me through Instagram/Facebook or send me an audio message through these avenues. I love audio messages!

https://www.justinlmft.com

104. Shutdown

Tue, 11 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to part 4 of the Polyvagal 101 series. This episode is all about the dorsal vagal conservation state of shutdown. I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal Theory!

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

PVT Books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Polyvagal 101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagal101

File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

This week’s Patreon episode - Stimulating and Hacking Your Vagus Nerve is Not the Point - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

103. Flight & Fight

Tue, 04 May 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to part 3 of the Polyvagal 101 series. I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal Theory! This episode delves into the sympathetic flight/fight state.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

PVT Books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

This week’s Patreon episode - What Should Go on Your Menu of Options - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

102. Safety & Social Engagement

Tue, 27 Apr 2021 14:06:00 -0700

Welcome to part 2 of the Polyvagal 101 series. This episode is all about the ventral vagal state of safety and social engagement.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

PVT Books - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

This week’s Patreon episode - Stimulating and Hacking Your Vagus Nerve is Not the Point - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

101. Polyvagal 101 - Neuroception, Autonomic Nervous System, Story Follows State

Tue, 20 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to part 1 of the Polyvagal 101 series. I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal Theory!

🌸 Feeling overwhelmed and confused about what to do next? Start here: https://bit.ly/3JdkCUS

✅ Get your Polyvagal Checklist and step-by-step guide

✅ No more wondering "Where do I start?"

✅ Free resources → deeper learning → real application

Stephen Porges interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode15

Deb Dana interview - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

10 Ways You Can Support the Podcast

Fri, 09 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700

This episode is for you if you want to know how you can support the work that I have been putting into the podcast. I've got 10 ways, 7 of them free free free and extremely helpful.

10 ways you can support the podcast:

1. Subscribe/follow to the podcast

2. Just share the podcast

3. Leave a review

4. Share a social media post

5. Send me a message! - justinlmft@gmail.com

6. Join my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/signup

7. Use and share the resources in the file share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

8. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

9. Open Letters album - https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters

10. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

100. What I Really Want You to Know From the First 100 Episodes

Tue, 06 Apr 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - We Are Gears in the Family System Machinery - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Boundaries, Support and Co-regulation in Relationships

Tue, 30 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

My thoughts on a listener's question about relationships and supporting someone who is stuck in a severe defensive state.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - The Importance of Having a New Narrative - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Bad Therapy - Mentor Mother Therapist

Tue, 23 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

Mercedes graces our ears once again to discuss another "Bad Therapy" story. This one goes into role clarification and is a good example of how power can be manipulated.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode -

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing in this should be construed as specific advice for therapists or clients in therapy, it is simply the initial thoughts of the hosts. The hosts do not guarantee the complete accuracy or comprehensiveness of what is discussed.

Justin Sunseri and Mercedes Corona are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists in the State of California (Justin #99147 and Mercedes #47786)

Simplifying to Reduce Self-Care Resistance

Tue, 16 Mar 2021 07:00:00 -0700

I answer a listener question about using multitasking as a way to cope with being overwhelmed with wellness demands.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Do We Have Free Will? https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

A Mom Reviews Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/a-mom-reviews-building-safety-anchors

Overwhelmed With Wellness - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/274e28eb/overwhelmed-with-wellness

Freeze vs Shutdown - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/shutdownvsfreeze

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Overwhelmed with Wellness - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/274e28eb/overwhelmed-with-wellness

Unstucking Through Creativity

Tue, 09 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -0700

If you're a creative person, you've got a great opportunity to get unstuck. And imo, everyone is a creative person.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - When is Your S*** Together? https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

Healing in the Traumatizing Environment Listener Question

Tue, 02 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -0700

I answer a listener question - "How to heal as an adult in the same environment and relationship that you became broken in?" I honestly don't think you can, but it's worth discussing further...

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode: Bad Therapy - Abortion Count https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

My Self-Regulation Through Anchoring Example

Tue, 23 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0700

I share a personal example of when I was dysregulated for an entire week and how I was able to re-regulate myself using some safety anchors. This is a good example of what climbing your polyvagal ladder might look like. It's also a good illustration of how might course might be of benefit to you if you're interested in purchasing.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - You're Not Failing / Open Letter 10 https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

5 Things Humans do to Keep Each Other Stuck

Tue, 16 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Were Your Parents Capable of Doing Better? - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/didtheirbest

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode -

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

5 Things Humans do to Keep Themselves Stuck

Tue, 09 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0700

This is a short list of how we keep ourselves stuck.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - One New Stress on Top of the Others https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Traumatized Without a Traumatizing Event?

Tue, 02 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0700

Is it possible to be in a traumatic state without there being a traumatizing event?

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Bad Therapy - Teen Advising Therapist on Parenting - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/traumatized-without-a-traumatizing-event

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

5 Tips for Journaling

Tue, 26 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0700

alternate your speed
journal from your feelings
alternate among mindful experiences
process over outcome
don't use a journal

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Trust / Open Letter 9 - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

original blog article - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/5-tips-for-journaling

Process > Result

Thu, 21 Jan 2021 16:29:36 -0700

We focus on the end result of what we think life is going to be like once we make the change we want to. And that's important. But we miss out on the process of change, which I think is where the value is.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

5 Tips to Improve Your Mindfulness Practice

Tue, 19 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0700

5 thoughts on how you might be able to improve your mindfulness practice.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Self-Harm and Strength https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Pixar's Soul and How We Connect

Tue, 12 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0700

One of the opening scenes of "Soul" from Pixar has a lot of polyvagal implications to it: self-regulation, co-regulation, energy discharge and using music as an anchor. Lots of stuff in this one!

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Build the Vagal Brake for Freeze Energy

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Bad Therapy - Summer Friends

Tue, 05 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0700

This is an in-depth reaction and discussion about a real life Bad Therapy story from two licensed psychotherapists. Mercedes Corona and Justin Sunseri are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists in the state of California.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Bad Therapy - Scientific Study Interruptions

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

This is shared for the purposes of education, information and entertainment. This is not intended to be advice. The reality of the situation is ultimately unknown and the story is treated as a narrative.

Pets as Co-Regulators

Tue, 29 Dec 2020 17:36:45 -0700

Pets can make fantastic co-regulators. But before you go and adopt 20 of them, give this episode a listen!

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Your True Self / Open Letter 8

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Why Your Vagal Brake Strength is Important

Tue, 22 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

The vagal brake is a little more difficult of a concept from the Polyvagal Theory. I describe what it is and why it's important.

Based on this blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/why-your-vagal-brake-strength-is-important

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Managing Under the Baseline

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Autonomic Responses vs Behavioral Adaptations

Tue, 15 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

A return to some polyvagal fundamentals in this episode, discussing the difference between autonomic responses and behavioral adaptations.

My course, Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Safety Bank Account (and lots more actually)

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Finding Purpose in a Career

Tue, 08 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Taking on a larger theme of stuckness in this one as well. Still pertains to the individual, but more on the level of a career and "purpose." I discuss what purpose is on a much larger level, then drill down to the individual.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Self Harm and Strength - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Echo Chambers and Belief

Tue, 01 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Something different, delving into a mechanism that keeps us stuck on a more social level - echo chambers. Specifically, the function of belief within an echo chamber and the impact on the individual.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - You Have the Power to Choose Differently / Open Letter 7 - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

"Mood" by 24kGoldn - Polyvagal Pop Culture

Tue, 24 Nov 2020 08:00:58 -0700

What polyvagal, mental health and relationship themes are there in "Mood" by 24kGoldn? Mercedes joins me to discuss!

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode -

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Letting Go

Tue, 17 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Washing Machine of Life - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Musical Map with the Dombra from @Kunzyl

Tue, 10 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Big thank you to @Kunzyl from Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/junzyl

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Why Your Feelings are Gone

Thu, 05 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0700

When we shift up and down the polyvagal ladder, we lose or gain access to different feelings...

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Therapy With Unmotivated Kids

https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Anger.

Tue, 27 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Anger isn't just something we feel. There's a psychophysiology to it.

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - It's Okay to Feel What You Feel - Open Letter 5 - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

The Anger blog entry - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/anger

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Pop Culture Polyvagal - the Weeknd Blinding Lights

Thu, 22 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Mercedes joins me to discuss the number 2 song at the time we recorded this episode - "Blinding Lights" by the Weeknd. We look for some polyvagal and mental health stuff.

Check out my course, Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

Substance Use as a Behavioral Adaptation

Tue, 20 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Therapist Modality Influence on Session https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Behavior Adaptations

Tue, 13 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Porges' concept of "behavioral adaptations" and what they have to do with the polyvagal theory

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - Okay and Then Falling Apart https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Mind Body Connection and Trauma Recovery

Tue, 06 Oct 2020 16:37:43 -0700

Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/the-mind-body-connection-and-trauma

Building Safety Anchors course - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - "Nightmares Years After What Happened" - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Treat Yourself Like a New Friend

Tue, 29 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

This week’s Patreon episode - Open Letter 4 - You Are Not Who You Think You Are - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenges

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Single Parenting and Grief Podcast Interview

Tue, 22 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

An interview that Mercedes and I did on a short-lived podcast called "Single Parenting - Staying Sane" from Carla-Jo Geraghty. She was kind enough to donate this audio to us.

This week's Patreon episode - I Am Allowed to Have Boundaries - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Building Safety Anchors course - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenges

Learning is the First Step

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Learning is great, but we have to put it into practice also!

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenges

New this week on Patreon - I Am Allowed to Have Boundaries - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Building Safety Anchors lesson 1

Tue, 15 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

I have a new course called "Building Safety Anchors" and this is the first lesson. The course is 30 days of learning and practicing about your personal safety anchors - things that keep you anchored in the present moment.

Buy the course here - www.justinlmft.com/challenges

Bad Therapy - Honey

Thu, 10 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

A response to a Bad Therapy story from a listener. Yeah, this is a bad one.

Become a $5 Patreon member - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

When Parents Are Not Supportive

Tue, 08 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Natasha asks how to work with kids when their parents are not supportive. This is a huge question and I contribute my initial thoughts. I work with kids from pretty extreme situations where "not supportive" can be drastic.

This week’s Patreon episode - Caring About What Others Think of Me - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Big T Little T Labels Do Not Matter

Tue, 01 Sep 2020 07:00:00 -0700

A response to an email which is in response to this episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/27030d9c/big-t-vs-little-t-trauma

This week’s Patreon episode - Panic Attacks and Not Thinking Clearly (17min)

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Freeze Improv Game - PMP from Katherine

Thu, 27 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Does Therapy Need to Have a Goal?

Tue, 25 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700

In blog form - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/do-you-need-to-have-a-goal-in-therapy

This week’s Patreon episode - You Want More (Open Letter 3)

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Essence of Everything, Happiness and Pain

Tue, 18 Aug 2020 14:41:19 -0700

Way off of our normal path here, but I wanted to try a new direction. Hope you don't mind something very different for this week's episode.

Lots more stuff on my Patreon - www.patreon.com/justinlmft

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Race Stories

Tue, 11 Aug 2020 07:01:40 -0700

Podcast friends Karena Heyward and Mercedes Corona return to do an exercise on our stories around race. And a lot more. A lot.

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Karena - https://karenajheyward.com/bio

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Compassion Message from Bethany

Thu, 06 Aug 2020 07:00:00 -0700

I put out an invitation for messages of compassion to the people that disagree with you. Bethany took me up on the offer.

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Overwhelmed With Wellness

Tue, 04 Aug 2020 17:26:00 -0700

A response to a listener question about possible mixed messages in the wellness arena of ideas.

Polyvagal Patrons is now the "Stuck Not Broken: Total Access Membership" - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Download my free ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Bad Therapy - Pearls of Wisdom

Fri, 31 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Not as egregious as the other bad therapy examples, but worth going into. More Bad Therapy on my Patreon podcast!

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft

Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Are We Expecting Too Much re: Listening to Each Other

Thu, 30 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

My response to a listener question, delving deeper into whether or not we can listen to one another.

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Introversion vs Shutdown Revisited

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Mercedes and I return to an old topic - introversion vs shutdown.

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Stuck in Rumination... as a Man

Thu, 23 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

An old IG Livestream where Mercedes and I discuss rumination in general, but also through the lens of being a man. I keep coming up with Mercedes episodes! It's like she never left the podcast!

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Use Your Eyes - Present Moment Present 1

Tue, 21 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

My Present Moment Present to you, a guided open-eyed meditation for you to ground yourself in the present moment. Big thanks to my Patrons for giving me feedback as I worked to refine and improve this Present Moment Present.

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Does Restraining a Child Cause Trauma

Tue, 14 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

A reply to a Listener voice message. This is my opinion on the question based on my understandings and experience. I've got a companion episode to this on my Patreon where I discuss a recent dental visit for my son, co-regulation and the Peter Levine concept of "molding."

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Shyla Cash - An Imperfect Discussion on Race

Tue, 07 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0700

A discussion that was originally constrained to Rage vs Anger and quickly became something else. We go into many things around race.

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Podcast Name Change - Stuck Not Broken

Fri, 26 Jun 2020 20:38:35 -0700

There's nothing you need to do differently. If you're subscribed to the podcast, it'll update automatically and the next episode should download as seamlessly as before. If you're not subscribed, make sure to do so!

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Why Would I Listen When Someone...?

Thu, 25 Jun 2020 17:16:15 -0700

2 responses to listener questions. This episode is challenging. I highly recommend you be in a state of being able to hold two conflicting viewpoints at the same time. At the end there is an invitation if you're willing to take me up on int.

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We Do Not Have Leaders

Tue, 23 Jun 2020 15:51:10 -0700

We choose who to give our attention to.

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Listening When You Don't Agree

Tue, 16 Jun 2020 19:35:00 -0700

We don't do a very good job of listening to each other. This episode applies to a wide range of situations, including very divisive issues such as race.

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Our Dividing Line / an Open Letter to You

Mon, 08 Jun 2020 07:00:00 -0700

An Open Letter and an invitation to you. Please do not hesitate to share your thoughts with me. I would like to share the thoughts of my listeners anonymously in a future episode. You can email me here - justinlmft@gmail.com

Eating Disorders p2 / Rachel Lewis-Marlow and Dr Laura Oyer

Thu, 28 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700

I'm joined by Dr Laura Oyer and Rachel Lewis-Marlow to discuss eating disorders and the PVT plus a lot of somatic stuff around ED. Must listen.

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Eating Disorders p1 / Rachel Lewis-Marlow and Dr Laura Oyer

Tue, 26 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700

I'm joined by Dr Laura Oyer and Rachel Lewis-Marlow to discuss eating disorders and the PVT plus a lot of somatic stuff around ED. Must listen.

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What Makes a Good Therapy Client?

Tue, 19 May 2020 07:00:00 -0700

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Why Do We Try To Change Other People?

Thu, 14 May 2020 15:32:04 -0700

Another episode I found with Mercedes! I swear I'm running out of these, though there's a lot more of her and I on Patreon. She and I look into why we try to change other people instead of ourselves based on a listener question.

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PVT in Online Psych Class and Therapy / Karena Heyward

Tue, 05 May 2020 06:39:53 -0700

Karena Heyward is a therapist and teacher, both using online platforms and integrating the Polyvagal Theory.

Karena Heyward, PhD., LPC, ACS, NCC

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Is Telling the Trauma Story Necessary for Treatment / TCE1

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Read the original blog entry here, with links to sources cited - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/traumanarrative

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How to Feel Your Feelings

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

I asked my followers what they're stuck on and this is one of the responses - "How do I feel my feelings?"

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Deb Dana - Book 2 and COVID-19

Mon, 20 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

(some links will take you to Amazon where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you)

The Polyvagal Wonder Woman (see interview 1) comes back to the Polyvagal Podcast to discuss her second book and our nervous systems during COVID-19. She's just the best.

For in-depth show notes, times and quotes, go here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview2

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Were Your Parents Capable of Doing Better?

Thu, 16 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Content/trigger warning - this is a heavy episode. Do not listen if you don't want this question answered. I appreciate you being a listener and want to give you the opportunity to not listen.

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First Anniversary Reflections

Tue, 14 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Mercedes comes back for episode 53! She was such a big part of the podcast for so long, it just wouldn't be an anniversary episode without her. She and I get a little more personal for this episode, sharing our disappointments, surprises, hopes and more.

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Complex PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

My thoughts on the intersection of PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory. There's a lot of polyvagal implications with this one.

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Tune Up Fitness Interview for Jill Miller's Epic Vagus Nerve Blog

Thu, 02 Apr 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Honored to have been asked to provide my input into Jill Miller's incredible blog article, written by Suzanne Krowiak. They allowed me to record and publish the conversation Suzanne and I had; I think it goes some really interesting places and is worth the listen. Enjoy.

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the PVT

Tue, 31 Mar 2020 13:43:53 -0700

The most requested DSM diagnosis! Please, when you listen, come from curiosity and learning, not from attempting to diagnose yourself or another.

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Mayo Clinic article - https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/personality-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20354463

Personality Functioning Criteria - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/pmh.1434

Definition of “pathology” from APA - https://dictionary.apa.org/pathology

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Bad Therapy 4

Thu, 26 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700

3 examples of Bad Therapy from listeners/followers.

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Borderline Personality Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 24 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Is the mixed Freeze state underlying the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder? There are polyvagal implications aplenty in this one!

Articles:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3494330/

https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.ajp.160.11.2018

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700

I think that OCD has an underlying high flight energy or freeze energy to it. I go in depth into how the polyvagal theory might apply to the diagnosis of OCD from the DSM-5.

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OCD - https://beyondocd.org/information-for-individuals/clinical-definition-of-ocd

Depression co-morbidity with OCD - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3243905/

OCD examples - https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-when-unwanted-thoughts-take-over/index.shtml

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Coronavirus, Panic and Grounding Yourself

Mon, 16 Mar 2020 07:55:31 -0700

Some polyvagal thoughts about the coronavirus panic that we've all seen probably. I'm hoping this helps you to ground yourself. I highly recommend taking a conscious break from the updates and set aside a moment to do something that brings you a sense of safety.

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Change Sucks and Mercedes' Final Episode

Tue, 10 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Join Mercedes and I in our final episode together. Her path of self growth is simply taking her in a different direction.

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Helping a Psychology Student With a Class Assignment About MFTs

Thu, 05 Mar 2020 08:00:00 -0700

I chat with a psychology undergrad from Dixie State University about what got me into being a therapist, the polyvagal theory paradigm shift and more.

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ADHD and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 03 Mar 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Looking at AD/HD in comparison to the Polyvagal Theory.

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✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
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AD/HD Criteria from the CDC - https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/diagnosis.html

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Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 25 Feb 2020 08:00:00 -0700

A solo episode from Justin. He examines the DSM5 diagnostic criteria for PTSD in comparison to the polyvagal theory.

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DSM Criteria - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/box/part1_ch3.box16/

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Dreams and the Polyvagal Theory / Wonderings

Tue, 18 Feb 2020 08:00:00 -0700

No definitive statements being made here. These are things that Justin is wondering about, putting some potential puzzle pieces together. And some insight into the way he works with clients around dreams.

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Bipolar Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory

Wed, 12 Feb 2020 05:30:23 -0700

Compared to the anxiety and depression diagnoses, bipolar disorder was more difficult to break down into polyvagal terms. Seems like the issue is that there could be a few polyvagal paths to the behaviors of the disorder.

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APA Bipolar Disorders - https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/bipolar-disorders/what-are-bipolar-disorders

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Traumas After the Trauma(s)

Tue, 04 Feb 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Definitely a content warning on this one. Don't listen if you're not ready. No specific details of traumatic events, but definitely an emotionally triggering episode.

Often a client will tell me that the moment their life changed is not when the original traumatic event occurred, but instead, from the stuff that follows. Mercedes and I discuss some of the traumas that take place after the initial trauma(s).

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Generalized Anxiety Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 28 Jan 2020 17:32:56 -0700

Mercedes and I share our thoughts on GAD, discussing each criteria of the DSM diagnosis. This episode is not meant to diagnose! We aren't your therapist and we aren't diagnosing you. We're comparing the PVT to the DSM.

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Interruptions and Tension Between Mercedes and Justin?

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 08:00:00 -0700

Mercedes and Justin address a topic that has been brought up a few times: Justin's tendency to interrupt and the "tension" between the two. This is a segment from an Instagram Live.

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Depression as Shutdown of the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 14 Jan 2020 08:00:00 -0700

A solo episode from Justin looking at the criteria to diagnose Major Depressive Disorder and comparing it to the shutdown autonomic state of the polyvagal theory. Finally!

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Sources:

That's Not Strength / Open Letter 06

Tue, 07 Jan 2020 08:00:00 -0700

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Big T vs Little t Trauma

Tue, 31 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Phrasing we use a lot, but what does it mean exactly? This is originally from an Instagram Livestream.

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How to Know if You Have Released a Trauma

Fri, 20 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

It will feel different day to day, including more capacity to handle your typical triggers. And it might be a noticeable discharge of energy.

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The Pressure on Parents / No Consequences at All?

Thu, 19 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

This topic has me genuinely upset and concerned about my fellow parents. There is an incredible amount of pressure on parents to basically be perfect co-regulators and never ever use consequences, including time-outs. Mercedes and I talk about this, share our own experiences professionally and personally. BTW, done correctly, time-outs aren't harmful.

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Leaning Into Our Shutdown

Wed, 18 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

A brief summary of this episode

Gratitude vs Praise

Tue, 17 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Full show notes at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode42

Greater Good Magazine - https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/gratitude/definition#what-is-gratitude

What is Gratitude and Why Is It So Important? By Courtney Ackerman - https://positivepsychology.com/gratitude-appreciation/

An Experiment in Gratitude - The Science of Happiness; SoulPancake - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHv6vTKD6lg

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Co-Regulating Our Partners

Mon, 16 Dec 2019 08:12:10 -0700

We answer a listener question on how to better co-regulate a partner.

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Happy Holidays Week from Justin & Mercedes

Mon, 16 Dec 2019 08:05:57 -0700

Our week-long gift as a thank you to you. You and your fellow #traumanerds have been instrumental in the success of this podcast. And as a result, in helping thousands of people get unstuck or help others to get unstuck.

Happy Holidays from Mercedes and Justin! Please enjoy a week of episodes :)

Is That Self Care?

Thu, 05 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Prompted by a question about parenting from a listener. Turned into an interesting question about self care - what it is and what it isn't. Does it have to be alone? Does it have to be without your kids present?

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Safety vs Protection

Tue, 03 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Protection is something we settle for. Safety is something we deserve. And more!

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Empathy vs Compassion

Tue, 26 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0700

In episode 15, Dr Porges himself differentiated between empathy and compassion. We've mentioned this numerous times since then. We examine the difference between the two in this episode.

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats What is Empathy? - Greater Good Magazine - https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/empathy/definition Importance and Benefits of Empathy, Kendra Cherry - https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-empathy-2795562 NPR Article - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/04/26/717272708/does-taking-time-for-compassion-make-doctors-better-at-their-jobs

Polyvagal Ladder Audio Guide

Thu, 21 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0700

An audio clip originally from an Instagram Live we did. Join us every Sunday at 915pm PST on Instagram Live!

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Curiosity vs Evaluation

Tue, 19 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0700

We've mentioned the difference between curiosity and evaluation a few times on the podcast before. In this episode, we drill down further than ever in search of a deeper understanding. Mercedes opens with curiosity and Justin closed with evaluation.

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Articles about curiosity:

Six Surprising Benefits of Curiosity - Emily Campbell

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_surprising_benefits_of_curiosity

7 Reasons To Be Extremely Curious - Francisco Saez

https://facilethings.com/blog/en/curiosity-and-productivity

Using Curiosity To Find Your Best Self - Farrah Campbell

https://www.stackery.io/blog/using-curiosity/

The Power of Curiosity - Todd Kashdan

https://experiencelife.com/article/the-power-of-curiosity/

Dave Jackson & the School of Podcasting - http://schoolofpodcasting.com/

Irene Lyon Interview p2

Tue, 12 Nov 2019 08:16:04 -0700

Part 2 of my chat with Irene Lyon!

IRENE

Website - https://irenelyon.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/irenelyon/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA

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Irene Lyon Interview p1

Tue, 05 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Show notes are available at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/irenelyon

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The Story of Ryan - https://youtu.be/3WI3aUfsNxM

The Story of Teddy - https://youtu.be/dNts7T8_Vig

IRENE

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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA

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Are You an Introvert... or in Shutdown?

Thu, 31 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Another excellent question from a fellow Trauma Nerd - are shutdown and introversion the same thing? We don't have a crystal clear answer on that, but we've got an interesting discussion on it. We'd love to hear what you think - send an audio message via email or Instagram DM!

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Jealousy vs Insecurity - Same Thing?

Tue, 29 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We look at jealousy and insecurity - how are they connected? Are they actually the same thing? And how do they tie into the Polyvagal Theory? Our response to a listener question.

If you're new to the Polyvagal Theory, definitely listen to at least episodes 1-4 of this podcast.

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Stuck in Shutdown - Stop Fighting It!

Thu, 24 Oct 2019 05:40:58 -0700

If you're stuck in shutdown, you're definitely not alone. Getting out of shut down and back up the polyvagal ladder might require less fighting than you think.

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Workplace Environment, Culture & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 22 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We already know that the environments we spend time in are filled with cues of danger and safety. The workplace is no different. But what about how our coworkers, the work culture and work hierarchies? Justin & Mercedes take a look at a couple new aspects to the workplace that might be affecting your place on the polyvagal ladder.

Your homework assignment - Go out of your way to greet someone new at work.

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Take Ownership Over Your State

Thu, 17 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0700

The work isn't done FOR us or TO us. It's on us though.

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Jill Miller: Yoga & the Polyvagal Theory part 2

Tue, 15 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0700

More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/jillmiller

Check out the Coregous Ball for yourself here - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VRXJ9BB/?cv_ct_id=amzn1.idea.3EFKO87WPMGD9&cv_ct_pg=storefront&cv_ct_wn=aip-storefront&ref=exp_cov_justinlmft_dp_vv_d

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The koshas/gunas article she referenced - Yoga Therapy & the Polyvagal Theory: the Convergence of Traditional Wisdom and Contemporary Neuroscience for Self-Regulation and Resilience - https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2018.00067/full

The Matthew Remski book she mentioned - Practice and All is Coming: Abuse, Cult Dynamics, And Healing In Yoga And Beyond (links to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/2QapcqO

Jill’s book - The Roll Model: A Step-by-Step Guide to Erase Pain, Improve Mobility, and Live Better in Your Body (links to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/32MbyMf

Vagus Voyage video from Jill - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag3SQBFHKes&t=

Breath and Bliss Immersion November 8-10 Los Angeles - https://www.tuneupfitness.com/classes/breath-and-bliss-immersion-9

Roll Model Practitioner Training December 4, 5 London, UK - https://ytu.io/2LishB2

International Association of Yoga Therapists - https://www.iayt.org/

Jill Miller: Yoga & the Polyvagal Theory part 1

Tue, 08 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0700

More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/jillmiller

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Vagus Voyage video from Jill - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag3SQBFHKes&t=

Breath and Bliss Immersion November 8-10 Los Angeles - https://www.tuneupfitness.com/classes/breath-and-bliss-immersion-9

Roll Model Practitioner Training December 4, 5 London, UK - https://ytu.io/2LishB2

International Association of Yoga Therapists - https://www.iayt.org/

Stop Asking "Why?" & What Your Eyebrows Are Saying

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 08:28:40 -0700

We talk in depth about why it's not necessarily helpful to ask "why" to someone you're listening to. We also talk about eyes and eyebrows when it comes to communication and what you may be signaling. PLUS we talk about the fact that you don't need to listen to someone if you aren't ready. Maybe it's best to wait until you're in your safe/social state!

Great episode for friends, family and therapists.

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Trauma Bonding & the Polyvagal Theory

Thu, 26 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0700

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9 Ways You ARE Listening

Tue, 24 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0700

You really try to understand me, even if I’m not making much sense.
You grasp my point of view, even when it’s against your own sincere convictions.
You realize the hour I took from you has left you a bit tired and a bit drained.
You allow me the dignity of making my own decisions, even though you think they may be wrong.
You do not take my problem from me but allow me to deal with it in my own way.
You hold back the desire to give me good advice.
You do not offer me religious solace when I am not ready for it.
You give me enough room to discover for myself what is really going on.
You accept my gratitude by telling me how good it makes you feel to know that you have been helpful.

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The 4 Parenting Love Tips Apply to Teens Too

Thu, 19 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We look back on the 4 ways to express love that your child will experience as love and apply it to teens. Yes, they need your love too!

the 4 Ways to Express Love episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode27

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7 Ways You Are NOT Listening

Tue, 17 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0700

7 ways that you are not listening:

You say you understand.
You say you have an answer before you've heard the problem.
You cut someone off before they finish speaking.
You finish someone's sentences.
You're dying to tell me something while I am talking.
You share your experiences instead.
You refuse my thanks.

Your homework assignments -

Notice when you are not listening.
Accept gratitude.

Connect with Harry Poliak, Life Coach - http://www.connectedconsciously.com/

Parents by Choice presentation is available to watch here - https://www.justinlmft.com/parentsbychoice

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"Safe & Social" Song by Miles Irving & Forager, Ltd.

Thu, 05 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Watch the “Safe & Social” music video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql2TGMRDh7k&feature=youtu.be Miles Irving Website - https://www.milesirving.com/ Forager - https://www.forager.org.uk/wild-food-blog/19-ideas-philosophy/140-worldwild-podcast More Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members' Area - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Consequence Fundamentals for Parents

Tue, 03 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0700

All about consequences in this episode:

Why they are important
When they mean nothing
Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe
Natural consequences

Your homework assignment - Plan out your consequence structure and discuss with everyone that needs to be a part of it.

More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode28

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Deb Dana Interview: Story Follows State, Climbing the Ladder and Diagnosing

Tue, 27 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity. Deb Dana is called "the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory," and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up. She does the stuff I do, but better and first. I gotta be honest. We talk in depth about:

"Story follows State"
Climbing the Polyvagal Ladder
Diagnosing

DEB DANA - http://www.debdanalcsw.com/

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You Are Not Your Diagnosis

Thu, 22 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

You're not you're diagnosis. It's a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect "symptoms" that typically occur together. It makes communication among therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists easier. And that's the point of diagnoses. And insurance building.

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4 Ways to Express Love That Your Kids will Experience as Love

Tue, 20 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love. It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it. And express it in ways they will be able to get.

1. Say it out loud

2. Write it down

3. Physical affection

4. Play

DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode27

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Parental Anxiety About Kids' Trauma and Kids' Anxiety About School

Thu, 15 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners. We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST.

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Applying Parental Co-Regulation

Tue, 13 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode:

Kids neurocepting danger cues
your state vs your empathy
your empathy vs your compassion
face to face interaction
self-regulation (for you, parent)

DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode26

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Avoiding Creating a Trauma in Your Kids & Approaching a Parent who is Stuck

Fri, 09 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We answer two more questions from our Dear Listeners about parenting -

1. "How can parents avoid creating a trauma with their kids?"

2."How do you approach a parent who is stuck?"

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Understanding Parental Co-Regulation Before Kids' Self-Regulation

Tue, 06 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Self-regulation is built upon co-regulation. Kids aren't born able to self-regulate, but they are born ready to receive a parent's co-regulation.

DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode25

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Parental and Toddler Polyvagal State Shifts

Fri, 02 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We answer two questions submitted by two of our amazing listeners:

1. How to best overcome a parental state shift?

2. Do toddlers experience defensive states more often than adults?

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We Don't Control Our Kids and How to Strengthen Their Vagal Brake

Tue, 30 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Two big ideas discussed in this episode: 1. Strengthening the vagal brake as a fundamental purpose of parenting and why. 2. You don't control your kids. And you can't. And neither do we. No one does. DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode24 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

The Role of Narratives in Surviving a Sexual Assault

Mon, 29 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Taken from an Instagram Live on July 21, 2019. we discuss the function of "Stories" or "Narratives" that a survivor of sexual assault may be living with.

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Therapy and the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 16 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We apply the polyvagal theory to the process of psychotherapy.

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Placebo

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6003660/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032706000395

https://psychiatrypodcast.com/psychiatry-psychotherapy-podcast/2018/11/19/understanding-placebo

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Bad Therapy 3

Tue, 09 Jul 2019 08:58:00 -0700

Mercedes and I break down some real life examples of #badtherapy for the final time! Plus we share our own bad therapy and a couple of good therapy examples too. more detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode22 TREATMENT ABANDONMENT - https://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/09/ethics https://www.aamft.org/Legal_Ethics/Code_of_Ethics.aspx JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT us at justinlmft.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Bad Therapy 2

Tue, 02 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We look at more listener submissions of their #badtherapy experiences. And believe it or not, there's many more we haven't gotten to. More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode21 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum JUSTIN Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Email - justinlmft@gmail.com MERCEDES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mercedeslmft/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - mercedeslmft@gmail.com Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Bad Therapy 1

Tue, 25 Jun 2019 06:34:40 -0700

We continue the Bad Therapy series, this time with real examples submitted to us by listeners and Instagram followers. We dissect the therapeutic issues at play here, discuss what is and isn't therapy and share our own thoughts based on how we practice therapy.

More in-depth show notes are available here - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode20

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Basic Therapy

Tue, 18 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Welcome to the first installment of the Bad Therapy series. We need to first understand some basics of what therapy is and how it works. Clients are walking into sessions with a combination of hope and desperation - this is easily taken advantage of by a "therapist" that isn't up to snuff. We want you to be able to enter your sessions with some clarity on what YOU want out of your time/money as well as some clarity on what is SUPPOSED to be happening.

JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum

LICENSING BOARD RESOURCES:

https://www.aamft.org/Directories/MFT_Licensing_Boards.aspx

THERAPEUTIC ALLIANCE AS a PREDICTOR of SUCCESS:

http://cleostudies.lecture.ub.ac.id/files/2015/03/Goldfried-2014-What-to-expect-from-psychotherapy.pdf

https://societyforpsychotherapy.org/evidence-based-therapy-relationships/

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2002-01390-002

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/28936692

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-30467-001

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/figure/10.1080/10503307.2010.518635?scroll=top&needAccess=true\

JUSTIN

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MERCEDES

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Top-Down Thoughts to Climb the Polyvagal Ladder

Tue, 11 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We tackle the issue directly - you're normal, you survived, your body is awesome and is probably working fine. Plus a whole lot more.

More detailed show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode18

You can also join the discussion on the Trauma Nerds forum here - https://www.justinlmft.com/forum/episode-discussion/18-top-down-thoughts-to-change-your-state

JUSTIN

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MERCEDES

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Bottom-Up & Outside-In Ways to Change Your Polyvagal State

Tue, 04 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Mercedes & I discuss how we personally use different bottom-up techniques to climb the polyvagal ladder and reach a more safe & social state - music, dance, play, breathing and more. We also discuss what it means to "allow" the process to happen in simple day to day application.

JUSTIN

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MERCEDES

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Email - mercedeslmft@gmail.com

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Climbing the Ladder with Listener Submissions!

Tue, 28 May 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Full show notes are available on https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode16

We got some Listener submissions for how they use the polyvagal theory to climb their ladders! Thanks to Carla-Jo, Theresa and Emily!

JUSTIN

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MERCEDES

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Email - mercedeslmft@gmail.com

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15. Dr Stephen Porges Interview: Mental Disorders, Substance Use, Psychiatry & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 21 May 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Full show notes are available on justinLMFT.com/post/episode15

I had the distinct pleasure of being able to talk in-depth with Dr Porges about the Polyvagal Theory and how it applies to various things, such as clinical disorders, the role of psychiatry, empathy vs compassion and much more. It's a jam-packed 50 minutes. Thanks to all my listeners that submitted questions for Dr Porges.

DR PORGES

Website - https://www.stephenporges.com/

Books - https://www.stephenporges.com/books

JUSTIN

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😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Teacher Self-Care & Being Ready to Teach

Tue, 14 May 2019 12:52:00 -0700

This is part 5 of 5 of the Polyvagal Schools series. Full show notes are on justinlmft.com/blog. We hear about students being "ready to learn," but what about teachers being "ready to teach"? Mercedes and Justin look in depth at danger cues for teachers, specifically how to recognize what's happening internally on a cognitive, emotional, behavioral and physical level. JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Email - justinlmft@gmail.com MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - mercedeslmft@gmail.com TED Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare Sounds from soundbible.com Intro music “Aspire” by Scott Holmes. (Podcoin) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Relationships Over Academics

Tue, 07 May 2019 07:00:00 -0700

This is the Polyvagal Schools series, part 4 of 5 - A slew of trauma-informed ways for educators to improve relationships with their students. After the relationship is improved, with safety being the priority, things like motivation and behavior will improve.

JUSTIN

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MERCEDES

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Email - mercedeslmft@gmail.com

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Classroom Structure - Consequences, Fidgets & Flexibility

Tue, 30 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Polyvagal Schools episode part 3 of 5 - The Polyvagal Theory applied to the classroom structure. We look at suspensions, fidgets, quiet zones in the classroom, suspensions, consequences and a lot more. Also, learn how my hands turned orange during a meeting at work!

JUSTIN

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Classroom Danger Cues & What to Do About Them

Tue, 23 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Part 2 of 5 of the Polyvagal School series - Danger cues in the classroom: the environment, the teacher and peers! And we give you some unique ways to problem-solve around these.

JUSTIN

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10. Path of Transition & Cues of Danger in School

Tue, 16 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Mercedes Corona, LMFT joins me to talk in depth about what the Path of Transition is and how it applies to the school environment. Part 1 of our Polyvagal School Series!

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233

LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673

Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741

Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

9. Attachment, Generational Trauma & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 09 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Attachment is integral to the mechanics of how generational trauma is actually passed on. I take a look at this through the lens of the amazing polyvagal theory (but you probably know that by now).

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

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http://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/all_statistics_20150619.pdf

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-freedom-change/201502/the-keys-rewarding-relationships-secure-attachment

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

8. Mixed States & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 02 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

I cover the other Fs that I've been seeing, like "flop," "friend" and "fawn." Plus an in depth look into why I don't think these are primary autonomic responses to danger or life threat. And more, much more.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

More Fs / https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-4690778/Researchers-reveal-SIX-responses-stress.html

"Cash me ousside" Dr Phil / https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8l2Ga3_wvU

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

7. Play, Stillness & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 26 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We've covered the primary states (Safe, Flight, Fight & Freeze), now let's look at a couple of state combos: play & stillness.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

6. Vagal Brake, Co-Regulation & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 19 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0700

A look at the vagus, the vagal brake, the window of tolerance AND co-regulation.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

5. Trauma, Shame & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 12 Mar 2019 06:38:00 -0700

A way way in-depth look into how trauma works plus what shame and disgust have to do with it. From Justin Sunseri, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist 99147.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

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Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

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Email - justinlmft@gmail.com

Bret Lyon and shame - https://healingshame.com/articles/2017/8/21/shame-and-trauma

TI SHARK - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NErt6zP2MBI

TI Rats - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/1687864

TI Lizards - https://paperity.org/p/59862983/tonic-immobility-as-a-fear-response-in-lizards-anolis-carolinensis

Polar Bear - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmJDkzDMllc

Shame & Trauma - https://healingshame.com/articles/2017/8/21/shame-and-trauma

Peter Levine on Shame - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2CN5nhmfxk&vl=en

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

4. Freeze & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 05 Mar 2019 14:00:00 -0700

I got this wrong. I ended up speaking with Dr Porges (episode 15) and got some clarity on the use of the words "freeze" and "shutdown". There's a big difference. Listen to the "Shutdown" episode in episode 104 for more. I'm leaving this here because I think it's still valuable, just like all of 101-109; also for posterity, I suppose. But this information has been updated.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

3. Flight, Fight & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 26 Feb 2019 08:00:00 -0700

I dive into the sympathetic autonomic nervous system and how flight/fight arousal can become chronic and affect our day to day lives.

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

2. Safety, Social Engagement & the Polyvagal Theory

Tue, 19 Feb 2019 08:00:00 -0700

We start at the top of the Polyvagal Ladder with the Safety & Social Engagement autonomic nervous system, the face to heart connection!

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

1. What is the Polyvagal Theory?

Sat, 09 Feb 2019 07:50:00 -0700

Welcome to the Stuck Not Broken podcast! This is technically the start of the podcast, especially the first 9 episodes. BUT this entire first 9 stretch was redone starting in episode 101 and I actually recommend you start there.

This is an intro to the Polyvagal Theory from Dr Stephen Porges. Autonomic state shifts, creating narratives, neuroception and more!

https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarity

Website - https://www.justinlmft.com

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).