Stuff You Should Know About Therapy

Are We What's Wrong With The Relationship?

Matthew Montano — Sun, 25 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700

If you want to learn to have a successful relationship, you need to start taking responsibility for everything. You can only control what you do, not what anyone else does — not even your romantic partner. Support this podcast

7 Habits of Successful Relationships

Matthew Montano — Wed, 21 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Remember: good relationships don’t fall out of the sky. Good relationships require growth, work, and change. Here are just 7 habits of a successful relationship. Support this podcast

3 Rules For Long Term Dating

Matthew Montano — Sun, 18 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700

We need to reward hard discussions, not punish them; we need to value our honesty over our partner’s comfort; and we need to remind ourselves that “easy” is not the goal. The goal is depth. Support this podcast

Trust & Vulnerability

Matthew Montano — Wed, 14 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700

A trusting relationship is not something you find fully formed in a perfect Tinder profile just a few more swipes away. Trust is something you build with a person who is roughly in the same spot on their journey in life as you are. Support this podcast

Never Stop Trying

Matthew Montano — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700

In order to find someone to partner with us, we have to do the work to make ourselves whole, on our own. Only then can we partake in a healthy, lasting relationship. Support this podcast

Why Dating Apps Don't Make Finding Love Easier

Matthew Montano — Wed, 07 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700

There are hundreds of apps for every sort of person. You can even filter for all the qualities you are looking for, down to the color of someone’s hair. More and more individuals are using these apps, and they are more advanced than ever. We should all be happily dating, right? Support this podcast

Letting Go Of Shame

Matthew Montano — Wed, 30 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Many times in life, the shame that we carry with us isn’t even our own. It is the shame of others projected onto us. In order to let go of this, we have to recognize what is ours and what isn’t Support this podcast

Vulnerability Is Not A Weakness

Matthew Montano — Sun, 27 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Vulnerability is one of the paradoxical aspects of life, values, and character. By showing our weakness, we prove ourselves strong. Only a strong person would show weakness, right? That’s why vulnerability is so powerful. Support this podcast

Knock Out Shame

Matthew Montano — Wed, 23 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Shame is an indicator that we are out of alignment with our deeply held values, whether we realize it or not. This may sound like a simple fix, but it can take months, years, and is really the work of a lifetime. Support this podcast

Help Reduce Shame

Matthew Montano — Sun, 20 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

In order to really open up to someone about shame, we have to feel 2 things: 1) Feel like we are being heard 2) Feel like we are not being judged. Support this podcast

The Source of Shame

Matthew Montano — Wed, 16 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Often the source of shame is deeply buried in our past. Long ago, when we were dependent children or teens, something hit us emotionally and left us feeling afraid, inferior, or feeling like we are not enough. Support this podcast

Shame & Gratitude

Matthew Montano — Sun, 06 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Shame and gratitude can’t be held in your mind at the same time. If you don’t believe me, try it! If you feel like you can’t feel grateful right now, I would say that gratitude is one of the emotions that you can train yourself to feel. Support this podcast

Dealing With Shame

Matthew Montano — Wed, 02 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Shame can be a central problem in our lives without us even knowing it. Are you having trouble at work, or do you struggle in a relationship, or are you cycling wildly between self-love and self-hatred? That could all be unaddressed shame. Let’s look at how we can tell and what we can do if we think that is what we are dealing with. Support this podcast

Dreams & Goals

Matthew Montano — Sun, 30 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Get your sexual fears behind you! And I don’t mean forget about them, I mean stop letting them get in the way of the life you want to live. How do we do that? By writing down and verbalizing our fears and goals. Support this podcast

Falling In Love Too Quickly

Matthew Montano — Wed, 26 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700

For some of us, love can be like a drug. Unlike other drugs, we can’t live without love. Abstinence is not an option, then. How do we live with love in a sober way? Support this podcast

Using Tinder In A Healthy Way

Matthew Montano — Sun, 23 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700

While tinder can be a place of really unhealthy dating habits, with the right outlook, it can be done very well and can lead you to healthy, lasting love. Let’s look at the common pitfalls, how to avoid them, and at the things to do instead. Support this podcast

Loving Feelings

Matthew Montano — Wed, 19 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Love is not always a sexual feeling, and sexual feelings are not always about love. Support this podcast

Unwanted Thoughts

Matthew Montano — Sun, 16 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Do you have thoughts that you are not proud of? Guess what? You’re human and that’s completely normal. The issue arises when we decide we have a problem with ourselves. We think we are somehow a bad person because we had an unwanted thought. Support this podcast

Informal Discussion

Matthew Montano — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

On this special episode, we take a detour of the normal format and have an informal discussion with myself and with Taylor Foreman, head writer for the podcast! Support this podcast

Self Confidence In Our Sexuality

Matthew Montano — Sun, 26 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

If our goal is to stay with our current partner, be it marriage or just a commitment to each other, then we need to work on our self-image. This is not a trivial matter, either. We need to get brutally honest about whether all of us; I mean everything that makes us, us; is in it for the long-run. Support this podcast

Sex & Communication

Matthew Montano — Wed, 22 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

What are our values? Because some people don’t know, and if we aren’t clear about them, they can easily slip to something like “power” or “control.” Support this podcast

Getting On The Same Page About Sex

Matthew Montano — Sun, 19 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Talking about how the sex isn’t good doesn’t mean you’re not meant to be. It just means you need to work on the sex life! Everything that is mentionable is manageable. Mention it. Manage it. Support this podcast

Sex Without Love

Matthew Montano — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Sex and love are different things, obviously. However, we all have a notion in our heads that they should be together. Or maybe we rebelled from that idea and think that sex is perfectly fine without love. I’m not here to make a moral claim either way, but let’s talk about why we have the inclination that they should be linked together. Is there any validity to that? Support this podcast

Positive Effects Of Sex

Matthew Montano — Sun, 12 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Sex and love are tied together as one is the expression of the other. Yes, you can have sex without love, but it is like dancing without music--weird, awkward, and no one enjoys it. Support this podcast

Sexpectations

Matthew Montano — Wed, 08 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Sex isn’t meant to be a performance. There are no grades. In fact, the more honest we can be to ourselves, the more sex will feel like real and intimate connection! Support this podcast

Sex and Shame

Matthew Montano — Sun, 05 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

When we come from a place of security and joy, not out of obligation or resentment, we want to make our partner feel good, and vice versa. Support this podcast

Why we need to talk about sex

Matthew Montano — Wed, 01 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700

We have to know what our desires really are before we can find healthy ways to express them, and in order to do that, we have to look closely at the shame that keeps our desires hidden from us. Support this podcast

Embrace Self Care

Matthew Montano — Sun, 28 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

This self care journey never ends. It isn’t a game that we can win and stop playing. It is a river that goes on and on, some wins, some losses. We should embrace the journey of self-care as truly never-ending, and stop waiting for the day we will be “fixed.” Support this podcast

Self Care Rituals

Matthew Montano — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

If you are lost in the darkness now, I want to say that it can get better. And sometimes it looks like big epiphanies and breakthroughs, but mostly it looks like doing just a tiny bit better every day. If you couldn’t get out of bed yesterday, and today you got up and made yourself coffee, you are a winner in my book. You only have yourself to make proud, and I hope you do. I hope we can all stop comparing ourselves to others so much, because we should never compare someone’s highlight reel to our bloopers. Support this podcast

Self Care Can Benefit Others

Matthew Montano — Sun, 21 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Giving ourselves time for self-care, benefits not only our friends and family, but every single person we come in contact with, and every person they come in contact with. When we do it, know we are performing a radical good! Support this podcast

Plan Self Care

Matthew Montano — Wed, 17 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I should rest when I feel like resting! Doing things out of obligation is only going to breed resentment and low self-esteem. When we deny the signals in our bodies to some outside force, our subconscious mind internalizes it. It tells us that other people’s wants and goals are more important than me and what I want. Support this podcast

Being Your Own Top Priority

Matthew Montano — Sun, 14 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

We can't draw from an empty well. A lot of people see their wells as empty and, in a panic, try to drink from everyone else’s well. It can be an act of compassion to give these people water, it is an even greater act of compassion to show these people that their own well can always be refilled. Support this podcast

Prioritizing Self Care

Matthew Montano — Wed, 10 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

If we always prioritize what is urgent over what is important, then we will create a life that is a never ending rat race. If we always accept being rushed, then people will feel emboldened to rush us even more and rush us next time. Set a boundary! Kids love boundaries, and so do adults. When people know where our boundaries are, they respect us even more, and we will feel our lives filling up with what is important, and not what is urgent. Support this podcast

Magnifying Self Care

Matthew Montano — Sun, 07 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Self-care, or lack thereof, is either a virtuous cycle, or a vicious one. It’s hard to state how important self-care is, and how valuable compounding effort is and how devastating downward spirals can be. Support this podcast

Self Care

Matthew Montano — Wed, 03 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700

The unglamorous truth about self-care is that it is a whole lot like brushing your teeth. While often not the most exciting thing, it can become something done automatically if we set ourselves up properly. Unlike brushing our teeth, self-care is going to look a little different for everyone. Support this podcast

Personal Values

Matthew Montano — Sun, 31 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

BONUS EPISODE: What are your personal values? Support this podcast

Healing Grief

Matthew Montano — Wed, 27 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I want to talk about expectations of healing and how they can make a whole new set of problems. If you scar a tree, the scar never goes away or even gets smaller, the tree just gets bigger. That’s what we have to do--grow, and get bigger than our scars. Support this podcast

Making Meaning Out Of Grief

Matthew Montano — Sun, 24 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I want to talk about making meaning out of grief. As we begin to talk about normal life, or getting used to what might be a new normal, we naturally want to begin to place these events into a place in our minds. Where we place it is the meaning we give it. While we can’t control what happens to us, we can--at least partially--control how we take meaning from the events of our lives. Support this podcast

The Positive Side Of Grief

Matthew Montano — Wed, 20 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Joy will come back to all of us in ways that we can’t currently imagine. It might be hard to believe, but one day we will look back on this time and be grateful for it, because we will know that it will have shaped how we will have turned out. When we experience loss, we are making room for the next thing to enter our world. The only way that it won’t come into our life, is if we won’t let go of what used to be. Support this podcast

Sharing Grief With Others

Matthew Montano — Sun, 17 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Sharing what hurts us with people we trust is often the very best way to grow. There is strength in vulnerability, as difficult as that is to see at times. It actually takes more strength to sit quietly with someone without trying to fix them. The way we share our grief, and deal with it when it is shared with us, are some of the most important moments in our lives. Support this podcast

Our New Normal

Matthew Montano — Wed, 13 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

The world is slowly beginning to open again, and some of us will be returning to old patterns in bits and pieces. Change is always hard, even if it is the change that you were hoping for. Some of us are beginning to face the realities of our new situations, economic or otherwise, and I want to remind everyone to process and feel. Don’t brush past your emotions, because they always find a way out. Support this podcast

Short Term & Long Term Coping

Matthew Montano — Sun, 10 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Today we are going to dive into coping skills, and how they help us in the short term and in the long term. Both methods have their place in our lives, and the key to overcoming grief is knowing how and when to use each of them. Ultimately, as we will see, having a long-term mindset when it comes to grief, along with almost anything in life, is the fastest way to recovery. Support this podcast

5 Stages of Grief

Matthew Montano — Wed, 06 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I want to do a more practical overview of the 5 stages of grief, as they are commonly understood, so that we can have a better grasp of what to expect as grief unfolds. While not all stages will always manifest (sometimes quickly or subconsciously), it can be a good tool and guide to understanding how you or your loved ones are unfolding in their reactions to trauma. Support this podcast

What Is Grief?

Matthew Montano — Sun, 03 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Grief is the experience of loss. A lot of times when we think of grief, we think of the loss of a loved one. While that is common, and a lot of us might be dealing with that very thing, it can also be the loss of a job, a role in life, a time in our lives (like college) or anything that comes to an end. Since everything in life comes to an end, grief is an inescapable part of life. Support this podcast

Coping Skills

Matthew Montano — Wed, 29 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Our focus for today, which is coping. As fear and panic melt into monotony and new routines, it is important that we set ourselves up to deal with more subtle versions of stress; such as household tension, boredom, loneliness, guilt, and even being triggered into depression, or having our depression worsen. There are tested and proven ways to help us avoid the worst of these more negative feelings, and I want to talk about some of them and how to most easily incorporate them into our lives. Support this podcast

Living With Trauma

Matthew Montano — Sun, 26 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

A lot of the country has been asked to stay indoors and to practice social distancing and there is a lot of uncertainty. I hope this podcast can service as a voice in the dark or just comforting sense of normalcy during all of this. Today we're going to be talking about collective trauma. It's a unique time, a historic time, in which we're all experiencing the same disruption. I want to talk about how every tragedy is an opportunity for beauty and strength. Collective trauma gives us an especially clear opportunity to handle the trauma, not only for our own sake, but for the sake those we love and everyone we associate with. We can choose to focus on things we can control, we can see this as a reminder of the inherent uncertainty of life, and we can see it as an opportunity to step up and be strong for those who may be struggling. Support this podcast

Universal Stress

Matthew Montano — Wed, 22 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I want to dive more into stress and how we all have stress in our lives. Stress isn’t something to get rid of or be angry at; in fact, that will only tighten its hold on your life. The purpose of stress for all of us is to keep us away from danger and make sure that we are safe. It comes out differently for everyone, and learning to recognize the way it manifests in you can be the different between suffering from too much stress, or letting an occasional bout of stress inform you. Let’s talk about the difference. Support this podcast

Empathy In Healing Trauma

Matthew Montano — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I want to talk about how to deal with trauma when it comes to sharing it with other people. I will discuss what the differences between empathy and sympathy are, what it takes to share with others--trust and courage--and how that relates to understanding, but not necessarily agreeing. It’s not about fixing people, or having others try to fix us, rather it’s about having someone be there and be present as we work through these things on our own. Some of the greatest healing can happen almost on its own in the calm presence of a good listener. Support this podcast

Managing Stress & Anxiety

Matthew Montano — Wed, 15 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Today I want to talk about things that can trigger our stress and what we can do to recognize it, and how to deal with it. Often our stress triggers go totally unnoticed, and being mindful of them is the first and biggest step in making sure that stress does not dominate our days and lives. Support this podcast

Healthy Ways To Work Through Trauma

Matthew Montano — Sun, 12 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

I'd like to talk this week about healthy ways to cope with and work through our trauma. As I mentioned last week everyone experiences trauma differently, so naturally, everyone heals differently. Because of this, there is no one right way to heal from and overcome trauma. Rather, what is important is that we do heal. Support this podcast

Good V. Bad Stress

Matthew Montano — Wed, 08 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Welcome back! Thank you for joining me again. With everything going on, I want to talk about stress. A lot of us are under stress in various amounts and for various times through the last few weeks and months. Our feelings, especially our negative ones, don’t just go away because we want them to. There is always a reason for our stress. Our job is to understand and give awareness to the stress we feel. I want to talk about when stress makes sense and when it doesn’t and what we can do when it isn’t helping us or those around us. Support this podcast

We All Have Trauma

Matthew Montano — Sun, 05 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700

This week I will be defining what trauma is, how to identify it in our own lives, how to recognize when it is time to seek professional help, and as contrary as it sounds, how to have a positive outlook on the trauma that we have faced. Our trauma will always be a part of us, but that does not mean that is has to define us. Support this podcast

Technology in Communication

Matthew Montano — Sun, 29 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700

Today on SYSKAT, we talk about how we might use technology to communicate during a world-wide pandemic in healthy and unhealthy ways, and tips on how to improve our mental health. Support this podcast

Honesty In Communication

Matthew Montano — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700

In continuing this month's focus on communication, I want to talk today about having honesty in our conversations. While trust and honest go hand-in-hand I believe that they are very different. Trust shows that those communicating with us have a level on vulnerable to let us in to certain aspects of their situation. Honesty, as the other side of the same coin, shows that those communing to us respect our opinion enough to ask for it, regardless of what we may say. Honesty is just as vulnerable and as scary as trust is. When both are combined, wonderful, open, and very intimate conversations can take place! Support this podcast

Respect in Communication

Matthew Montano — Sun, 15 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700

In continuing this month's focus on communication, I want to talk today about having respect in our conversations. Not only giving respect, but also standing up for ourselves in making sure that we are also receive respect back from others. Without respect, healthy and open conversations will not go far nor will they last long. Respect, mutual respect, makes it so all those involved in conversations are on equal ground. As I mentioned previously, respect helps eliminate the Horsemen of Contempt. Mutual Respect lets us know that what not only what we have to say is valued, but that our time in being the listener is also import. Respect shows that we matter enough to those who are wanting to engage with us, as well as letting those around us know that they matter to us as well. Support this podcast

Trust in Communication

Matthew Montano — Sun, 08 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700

In continuing this month's focus on communication, I want to talk today about having trust in our conversations; trust that what is being said is honest and truthful. Giving someone our trust is a very vulnerable activity wether we realize it or not. It not only strengthens the relationship between those communicating, it also strengthens us internally because we are allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and receiving a positive outcome from that vulnerability. Giving our trust to others is truly empowering! https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

Strengthening Communication

Matthew Montano — Sun, 01 Mar 2020 07:00:00 -0700

This week we're going to be talking about and focusing on strengthening communication using the cures of the Four Horsemen that John Gottman talks about about. I'm going to be discussing what I feel are three of the most valuable parts of communication; they are: curing the four horsemen, trust, respect, and honesty. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

What To Do When Boundaries Fail

Matthew Montano — Sun, 23 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0700

This week we discuss what happens when boundaries fail and how to reestablish them in a guilt and shame free way, and showing confidence in doing so. Once we realize that our boundaries have failed, we should not just 'let it go' but rather we need to do everything in our power to re-establish those boundaries and improve our awareness, that way we have a better game plan in case we find ourselves in a similar situation again. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

Maintaining Healthy And Appropriate Boundaries

Matthew Montano — Sun, 16 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Many times when we set boundaries, we have every intention on keeping maintaining those boundaries and often do for many weeks or months, but slowly over time we begin to let those boundaries fade. Many times this is due to pressure from others for keeping the boundary for so long. “Just this once” or “you can slide a little bit” are often things people will say to try and convince us that letting our boundaries slide is the exception and not the rule; but in actuality many people view this as the opening they need to make sure that our boundaries crumble. This week we discuss how to maintain those boundaries so we stay out of resentment. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

Healthy And Appropriate Boundaries In Committed Relationships

Matthew Montano — Sun, 09 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0700

This episode is the second part of last weeks conversation. So, continuing this months theme on boundaries and following up on last weeks discussion, we’ll be talking about healthy and appropriate boundaries inside of committed relationships. While many of last weeks tips apply to committed relationships, there are other avenues that are specific to committed relationships. We will be discussing I-statements, sex, me time, and we time. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

Establishing Healthy And Appropriate Boundaries

Matthew Montano — Sun, 02 Feb 2020 07:00:00 -0700

This month I want to discuss boundaries. This episode is the first 2 part episode we’ve done on the podcast. This weeks episode we’ll be discussing healthy & appropriate boundaries for ourselves and next week we’ll be discussing healthy & appropriate boundaries in committed relationships!Many times when we think of boundaries we think of very rigid individuals and people who have no fun. The surprising thing is that it’s the exact opposite! https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

What Does Progress In Therapy Look Like?

Matthew Montano — Sun, 26 Jan 2020 18:00:00 -0700

I want to talk about what progress looks like in therapy. Keep in mind that your personal progress can look completely different than what your progress looks like for your therapist. For me, progress simply means not staying stagnant. Regardless if that mens we’ve improved by leaps and bounds or we’ve moved slowly and sluggishly. All movement is after all, still movement. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

How Long Should You Go To Therapy?

Matthew Montano — Sun, 19 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0700

Continuing this month’s theme I want to talk about the length of time therapy takes. Therapy is a process, an active process between you and your therapist. It is not a quick fix or a cure all. As everyone and every situation is different, determining the length of therapy is a tough question, there is no one right answer. The therapeutic journey depends on several factors including the reasons that brought you to therapy, the type of therapy the therapist is using, and your willingness to actively work with your therapist in achieving your therapeutic goal among other factors. All of these need to be considered and talked about during the initial session. If nothing else, that first session usually ends with some type of game plan laid out for you with a rough draft of what the process will look like. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

7 Tips On Finding The Perfect Therapist

Matthew Montano — Sun, 12 Jan 2020 07:00:00 -0700

This month I want to focus on therapeutic expectations and how to set realistic goals. That all starts with finding the perfect therapist for you. Don’t be afraid to shop around for the perfect fit. A therapist is completely different than any other health provider you will see. You may see a doctor or dentist for routine checkups and not really care if you don’t see them again on your next visit. But a therapist is different. This is someone who you are going to be vulnerable with and share intimate details about yourself that you may not have ever shared before. It is important to be comfortable and confident with your therapist. I want to share with you seven tips on choosing the perfect therapist for you. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast

SMART Goals

Matthew Montano — Sun, 05 Jan 2020 20:00:00 -0700

As it is the start of a new year & a new decade many individuals, myself included, set New Years resolutions or goals that we hope to achieve in the new year. While we all certainly have the intention for seeing these goals to fulfillment we often loose focus on our goals and before we know we it abandon them all together. So today I want to talk about “smart” goals. https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy (Support the show) (https://www.patreon.com/StuffYouShouldKnowAboutTherapy) Support this podcast