Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

Why You Can Get Hard to Porn But Not Your Partner — And How to Fix It | Ep. 164

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm addressing one of the most common — and least talked-about — causes of erectile dysfunction in midlife men: porn-related ED. If you or someone you love has noticed that things work just fine alone but shut down with a real partner, this isn't about age, hormones, or anything being wrong with you. It's about your brain — and how repeated exposure to high-stimulation content has recalibrated your arousal system. I break down exactly what's happening neurologically, why midlife men are particularly vulnerable, and walk through three clear steps to stop the cycle, rewire your brain, and rebuild real-world intimacy. This is not about shame. It's about understanding a pattern — and changing it.

IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Introduction — The Problem No One Talks About

00:25 Podcast Intro

00:58 What Porn-Related ED Actually Is

01:38 What's Happening in Your Brain

02:35 Why Midlife Men Are Especially Vulnerable

03:10 Step 1: Stop Desensitizing Your Brain

04:00 Step 2: Rewire Your Brain

04:48 Step 3: Resensitize Your Brain to Real Pleasure

05:42 You're Not Broken — Patterns Can Change

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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The Husband's Guide to Surviving Perimenopause with Comedian Matt Hyams | Ep. 163

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm joined by comedian, writer, and viral content creator Matt Hyams, whose hilariously honest videos about life with a perimenopausal wife have racked up millions of views. What started as a way to process his own reality quickly became a platform that has resonated with husbands and wives everywhere.

Matt opens up about the moment he realized his marriage wasn't falling apart — it was hormones. He shares how IVF gave him a surprising frame of reference for perimenopause rage, why he walks a delicate line between validating his wife and not setting a precedent he'll regret, and what it's actually like to work from home with the woman who is also your boss.

We talk about role reversals, the mental load, hormone therapy, keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship, and the surprising ways humor can — and can't — save you in the bedroom. Matt also shares the practical advice he now gives other men who message him completely lost. Spoiler: it starts with boiling eggs before you're asked.

This is the conversation every couple navigating perimenopause together needs to hear.

In this episode:

00:00 The Smell Test: A Perimenopause Comedy Intro

01:30 Meet Matt Hyams: The Husband Who Went Viral

02:50 How's the Marriage Actually Holding Up?

05:00 IVF, Rage, and That Familiar Feeling

06:45 Do Men Even Talk to Each Other About This?

08:15 How the Word Perimenopause Entered His House

10:15 The Holiday Blowup That Changed Everything

13:15 She Said She Was Done — Then Forgot She Said It

15:45 Hormone Therapy: She's on the Patch

17:30 How Men vs. Women React to His Content

18:45 Role Reversal: She's the Breadwinner

21:45 Working with Your Wife and Disappointing Her Twice

23:30 Did Going Viral Actually Make Things Better?

25:00 Humor in the Bedroom: Where It Helps and Where It Doesn't

27:15 Keeping It Spicy After 13 Years

28:45 The Advice Every Man Needs When Perimenopause Hits

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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About The Guest:

Matt is a comedian, comedy writer, and husband to a perimenopausal wife.He's the winner of Stage32's 4th Annual TV Comedy ScreenwritingCompetition; he's performed in stand up festivals around the country; and his satire writing has appeared in McSweeney's (and some sites you've never heard of).

Connect with Matt Hyam:

Website: https://www.matthyams.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthyams

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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5 Secrets to Reignite Your Sex Life (That Most Couples Never Try) | Ep. 162

Fri, 27 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm breaking down five practical secrets that can completely transform your sex life in a long-term relationship. If your sex life has gone quiet, predictable, or nonexistent, you're not alone — and you're definitely not broken. I walk through how to start having real conversations about sex, why desire doesn't start in the bedroom, the power of novelty and curiosity, how to expand your pleasure toolkit in simple ways, and a mindset shift around what sex even means that takes the pressure off and brings desire back. This one is equal parts practical, playful, and honest — and Secret #5 might change how you think about sex entirely.

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction — the one goal nobody puts on their list

01:14 Secret #1: Upgrade how you talk about sex

02:46 The sex menu tool — appetizers, mains & desserts

03:35 Secret #2: Desire doesn't start in the bedroom

04:52 Touch without an agenda — why it changes everything

05:40 Secret #3: Interrupt the routine

06:28 Secret #4: Expand your pleasure toolkit

07:56 Praise kink & the types of orgasms nobody taught you

08:43 Secret #5: Redefine what counts as sex

09:41 The 5 shifts summarized + Hotter, Wiser, Wilder course

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Why You Want the Wrong Person Sexually ith Coral Osborne | Ep. 160 (Part 2)

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In part two, we go deeper into what actually drives mismatched desire and why so many couples get stuck in toxic patterns.

I sit down again with Coral Osborne to unpack the psychology behind attraction, fantasy, and connection. We break down why you can feel intense chemistry with the wrong partner and disconnect with the right one. It comes down to understanding your erotic blueprint and the meaning behind your desires.

We talk about fantasy analysis, why shame distorts sexuality, and how to start rebuilding intimacy in a real, practical way. If you have ever felt confused by your own desires or your partner’s, this episode gives you the language and tools to understand what is really going on.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro: Going Deeper Into Desire

00:45 Why We Misunderstand Attraction

02:10 Toxic Chemistry vs Real Connection

04:05 Why Men Outsource Desire

05:40 The Language Gap Around Sex

07:05 Fantasy Analysis Explained

09:10 What Your Fantasies Actually Mean

11:00 Why Sex Without Meaning Feels Empty

12:30 Simple Tools to Rebuild Intimacy

14:10 Why Fantasy Disclosure Builds Connection

15:30 The Truth About “Vanilla” Sex

16:50 Common Sexual Issues Men Face

18:05 Why We Suppress Parts of Ourselves

19:30 Sex as Expression and Identity

20:50 Why Sex Matters More Than You Think

21:40 What Men Really Need in Relationships

22:40 Why Attraction Patterns Keep Repeating

23:30 Outro and Where to Find Coral

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

About the Guest:

Coral Osborne is a certified Intimacy & Identity Coach for men. She works with high-performing men who’ve built success everywhere except in their relationships, helping them reconnect with their authentic desires, emotional depth, and confidence in connection. Before becoming a coach, She spent years immersed in environments where men felt free to drop their guard and speak truthfully about what they were struggling with, performance anxiety, disconnection, loneliness, and the unspoken pressure to always have it together.

Connect with Coral Osborne:

Website: https://www.coralosborne.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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The One Conversation That Will Change Your Sex Life | Ep. 161

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

If you want a better sex life, you need to learn how to talk about sex. In this episode, I break down why most couples avoid these conversations and how that silence creates distance, resentment, and confusion. I walk you through exactly when to bring it up, what to say, and how to say it in a way that builds connection instead of triggering defensiveness. You will learn how to lead with curiosity, ask better questions, and express your needs without blame. I also explain the real reasons desire shifts in midlife, from stress to hormones to body image, so you stop taking it personally. This is about turning sex from a source of pressure into a shared experience that brings you closer.

Download my free communication tips for midlife couples below to get the exact language to open this conversation without making it awkward. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/communication-tips-for-midlife-couples

In This Episode:

00:00 Why Communication Matters More Than Technique

00:32 Why Talking About Sex Feels So Hard

01:10 The Biggest Mistake Men Make

01:45 When To Bring Up Sex The Right Way

02:20 What To Say To Start The Conversation

03:00 Questions That Open Her Up

03:45 How To Express Your Needs Without Blame

04:30 What Affects Her Desire In Midlife

05:20 Shift To A Team Mindset

05:50 Why Ongoing Check Ins Matter

06:05 One Sentence That Changes Everything

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Relationships with Coral Osborne | Ep. 160 (Part 1)

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Low libido and mismatched desire are not just about hormones. In this episode, I sit down with Coral Osborne, former escort turned intimacy coach for high-performing men, to break down what is really driving disconnection in relationships.

We get into what men are not saying, why performance anxiety is rising, and how shame shapes desire. Coral shares what she learned from working with men in both sex work and coaching. The patterns are the same. Men feel pressure to perform, hide their needs, and avoid vulnerability.

We talk about why sex is rarely just about sex. It reflects how you communicate, how you handle rejection, and how safe you feel expressing your truth. If you or your partner are dealing with mismatched desire, this episode gives you a deeper lens and practical starting points.

In This Episode:

00:00 Intro

00:42 Why Low Libido Is Misunderstood

02:10 Coral’s Story From Sex Work to Coaching

05:20 What Men Really Wanted Behind Closed Doors

08:10 Why Sex Is Rarely About Sex

10:05 The Shame Driving Male Desire

12:00 Performance Anxiety Explained

14:10 Porn, Pressure, and Unreal Expectations

16:05 Why Men Struggle With Vulnerability

18:00 Erectile Issues and the Nervous System

20:10 The “Nice Guy” Trap in Relationships

22:10 How to Start Fixing Mismatched Desire

23:50 What to Expect in Part Two

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Connect with Coral Osborne:

Website: https://www.coralosborne.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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8 Things I Wish Every Man Knew About Menopause | Ep. 159

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

If you love a woman and lately you feel like you are walking on eggshells around her, I made this episode for you.

Many men were never taught what menopause really does to a woman’s body, brain, and sexuality. When these changes show up in a relationship, couples often feel confused, rejected, or disconnected.

In this episode, I break down eight things every man should understand about menopause. I explain why menopause is a full body neurological and hormonal transition, why emotional reactions may feel sharper, and why libido often shifts from spontaneous desire to responsive desire in midlife.

I also talk about vaginal dryness, painful sex, and why dismissing those symptoms can damage intimacy. When sex becomes uncomfortable, avoidance is not rejection. It is the body protecting itself.

I also remind men of something important. Midlife is happening to both partners. Men experience hormonal shifts, changes in erections, and stress responses too. When couples acknowledge these changes together, intimacy becomes collaborative instead of defensive.

Menopause is not the end of intimacy. With the right understanding, it can become the beginning of a deeper connection and a better sex life than you had before.

In this Episode:

00:00 Why You Feel Like You’re Walking On Eggshells

00:27 Why I Made This Episode For Men

00:49 Menopause Is More Than Hot Flashes

01:28 How Hormones Affect Her Brain

02:02 Why Libido Changes During Menopause

02:48 Vaginal Dryness And Pain During Sex

03:38 Why Men Are Changing Too

04:12 Confidence And Body Changes In Midlife

04:43 Sleep Disruption During Menopause

05:14 Treatment Options And Hormone Therapy

06:03 Why Menopause Is A Couple’s Transition

06:30 Men Meet Menopause Course

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Why Couples Get Bored In Bed And How To Fix It | Ep. 157 (Part 2)

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

What do you do when the relationship is good, but the sex is boring?

In part two of my conversation with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacey Friedman, we talk about what really happens to sexual relationships over time. We move beyond the idea of “dead bedrooms” and dive into boredom, communication, novelty, and the evolving nature of intimacy in midlife.

We explore how to talk to a partner about disappointing sex without damaging their ego. Dr. Stacey Friedman explains why many couples lose desire simply because their sex life becomes predictable. And she shares practical ways to bring novelty back into the bedroom without pressure or shame.

The conversation also explores topics many couples are curious about but rarely discuss openly. Alternative relationship structures, sexual exploration later in life, and how to redefine sex as connection rather than performance.

If part one opened the door to rebuilding intimacy, part two shows how curiosity, communication, and creativity keep desire alive long term.

In this episode:

00:00 Welcome Back And Part Two Overview

00:35 Karen’s Story About The “Lazy Lover”

02:05 How To Talk About Bad Sex Without Hurting Ego

03:30 Curiosity Instead Of Criticism

04:40 Why So Many Couples Are Bored In Bed

05:45 The Importance Of Novelty In Long Term Sex

06:55 The Roller Coaster Analogy For Predictable Sex

08:00 Simple Ways To Add Variety And Playfulness

09:05 When Couples Consider Opening Their Relationship

10:30 Why Alternative Relationships Sometimes Work

11:55 Ad Break. Lem By Hello Nancy

12:55 A Real Example Of A Couple Who Opened Their Relationship

13:45 Navigating Midlife Changes In Sex And Desire

14:40 The Daily Question That Strengthens Relationships

15:25 Dr. Stacey’s Definition Of Sex

15:55 Best Orgasm And Sexual Exploration

16:15 Final Advice. Curiosity Keeps Desire Alive

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified intimacy coach, and the unapologetically fierce voice behind The Purple Passion Project podcast. With decades in medicine and sexuality work, she helps people awaken desire, reclaim pleasure, and ignite passion through coaching, curated pleasure essentials, and provocative e-books. Known for making sex talk feel like your most daring friend, she turns taboo into tantalizing—zero shame, all heat. Dr.Stacy's motto: My passion is to help you create yours.

Connect with Dr. Stacy Friedman:

Website: https://drstacyfriedman.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstacyfriedman

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-purple-passion-project/id1825458840

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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My Experience Taking Testosterone As A Woman | Ep. 158

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I share a personal story I have never told in detail before. It begins in my early 50s after separating from my husband of 25 years and rediscovering sex in a new relationship. My libido was strong, my excitement was back, but something unexpected started happening. I suddenly could not orgasm.

That experience sent me down a path that completely changed how I understand hormones, sexual health, and midlife sexuality. I talk about the appointment at a sexual medicine clinic that opened my eyes to the role of clitoral stimulation, vibrators, and something most women never hear about. Testosterone.

I explain how low testosterone affected my ability to orgasm, how doctors evaluate hormone therapy for women, and why testosterone treatment must be carefully monitored. I also share the surprising moment in a doctor’s office that changed my relationship with pleasure forever.

If your desire is still there but your body does not respond the way it used to, this episode explains why that can happen and what options exist.

In this episode:

00:00 Why I decided to share my testosterone story

01:02 Separating from my husband and rediscovering sex

02:12 When orgasms suddenly became difficult

03:15 The doctor visit that changed everything

04:28 What I learned about clitoral stimulation

05:20 Why women also have testosterone

06:23 How doctors test hormone levels

07:30 The vibrator moment that shocked me

08:36 How testosterone therapy works for women

09:33 Why some doctors avoid testosterone pellets

10:31 How I take testosterone today

11:25 The risks of taking too much testosterone

12:27 Why testosterone has been a game changer for me

13:00 My advice if you are struggling with sexual changes

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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We Love Each Other But We Are Not Having Sex. Now What? (Part 1)

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Are you ever going to have sex again?

It is the question so many couples in midlife are quietly asking. Sex has become obligatory. Or it has disappeared. Hormones have shifted. Resentment has built. Communication has broken down.

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacy Friedman to talk about how couples move from duty sex or no sex back to real desire. We break down spontaneous versus responsive desire. We explain why sex starts to feel like a chore. We talk about what happens after the lust phase fades and oxytocin replaces testosterone.

We also cover:

Why many women need arousal before desire
How long term relationships shift biologically and emotionally
What to do if you have not had sex in months or years
How removing the expectation of intercourse can rebuild intimacy
How to handle mismatched libidos without resentment
Why collaboration works better than compromise

If you feel stuck in the friend zone with your own partner, this conversation will give you a practical roadmap back to connection.

And if you are a man trying to understand what menopause is doing to your relationship, my NEW course Men Meet Menopause is built for you! To celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause

Timestamps:

00:00 Men Meet Menopause Course For Men

01:05 Welcome And The Question No One Wants To Ask

02:10 When Sex Becomes An Obligation

03:30 Responsive Vs Spontaneous Desire

05:15 Why “Once We Start It’s Good” Happens

06:45 The Lips Nips Below The Hips Problem

08:05 From Lust To Dead Bedroom

09:30 The Biology Of Testosterone And Oxytocin

10:40 Sex Snacks And Daily Micro Connection

11:45 Rebuilding After Years Without Sex

13:05 Baby Steps Back To Intimacy

14:20 Removing The Expectation Of Intercourse

15:40 Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration

16:30 Mismatched Libido And Collaboration

17:30 Why Anger And Pressure Kill Desire

18:00 Part Two Preview And Call To Action

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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About the Guest:

Connect with Dr. Stacy Friedman:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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Before The Heart Attack. The Erectile Dysfunction Warning Sign | Ep. 156

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Half of men over 40 will experience erectile dysfunction.

In this episode, I explain why ED is rarely only about sex. I walk you through what erections actually reveal about cardiovascular health, metabolic function, hormones, pelvic floor tension, and fertility.

I break down why urologists call the penis a barometer of heart health. The blood vessels that support erections are smaller than the ones that support your heart and brain. That means they often show damage earlier. In many cases, ED appears years before a heart attack or stroke.

I also talk about diabetes, high cholesterol, nitric oxide, testosterone shifts, excess body fat, and sperm quality after 40. We cover pelvic floor tension in men and why many men struggle with tight muscles, not weak ones.

I share evidence informed tools some men use while they work on underlying health. These are not cures. They are supports.

Most importantly, I reframe ED as information. Not shame. Not failure. A signal.

In This Episode:

00:00 MaxPR From FirmTech And 15 Percent Off

00:45 Why Erections Are About More Than Sex

01:30 ED As An Early Health Signal

02:20 Erections, Blood Flow, And Heart Risk

03:15 Diabetes, Cholesterol, And Nitric Oxide

04:00 Tracking Erections And Using Objective Data

04:45 Wearable Devices And Pelvic Floor Support

05:40 Pelvic Floor Tension In Men

06:20 Medical Grade Pumps And Penile Health

07:00 Fertility, Testosterone, And Lifestyle Factors

07:40 The Real Risk Is Avoidance And Silence

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Dating After 50? Ask These 10 Questions First | Ep. 155

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Dating after divorce in your 50s can feel exciting, terrifying, and exhausting all at once. In this episode, I share 10 powerful questions you need to ask yourself before you get emotionally invested.

These questions help you stop chasing chemistry and start choosing peace. We talk about nervous system safety, emotional consistency, authentic self expression, and why you should never date someone’s potential. I also break down the difference between chaos and connection, and why midlife is the time to stop auditioning and start being chosen.

If you are tired of walking on eggshells, second guessing every text, or shrinking to keep the peace, this episode will help you recalibrate. At this stage of life, love should steady you. Not stress you.

In This Episode:

00:00 Intro. Dating After Divorce in Your 50s

00:32 Question 1. Does This Relationship Make My Life Easier or Harder

01:00 Question 2. Do I Feel Calm or On Edge

01:30 Question 3. Am I Chosen or Still Auditioning

02:00 Question 4. Can I Be Fully Myself

02:30 Question 5. Do I Feel Safe Speaking Up

03:00 Sponsor Break

03:40 Question 6. Do Their Actions Match Their Words

04:05 Question 7. Am I Growing or Shrinking

04:30 Question 8. Would I Choose Them If Nothing Changed

04:55 Question 9. Does This Feel Steady

05:20 Question 10. Am I Truly At Peace

05:50 Chemistry Versus Peace in Midlife Love

06:10 Final Takeaway and Call to Action

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Is Your Sex Life Over After Menopause? | Ep. 154

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Hot flashes. Vaginal dryness. Sleepless nights.

If menopause has made you feel disconnected from your body or from sex, you are not alone. In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down what really happens to your sexual health during perimenopause and menopause and why your sex life is not over.

I share my own experience, including the reality of hot flashes interrupting intimacy, and explain how hormonal shifts in estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone impact desire, arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction.

You will learn why pain during sex is common but treatable, why lubricant is essential, how vibrators support vaginal health, and what the research from the Kinsey Institute reveals about pleasure after 50.

Menopause changes the conversation around sex. It does not end it. This episode is your invitation to approach pleasure differently and reclaim it on your terms.

In This Episode:

00:00 Hot Flashes And Lost Desire

00:42 Why Menopause Changes Sex

01:28 What Happens To Hormones

02:15 Vaginal Dryness And Painful Sex

03:05 Why Sex Still Matters For Your Health

03:55 What The Kinsey Institute Found

04:45 Solo Pleasure As Symptom Support

05:35 Tools That Help. Lube And Vibrators

06:20 Reclaiming Pleasure On Your Terms

07:08 Closing

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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Sex Magic, Anal Play, and Orgasmic Power with Venus O'Hara | Ep. 152 (Part 2)

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In part two of my conversation with Venus O’Hara, we go beyond toys and into power. Venus shares the beginner anal toy she designed for absolute first-timers and the triple-motor toy created for layered external pleasure without pressure to penetrate. We talk about new tech in sex toys, from thrusting and tapping to air stimulation, and what actually feels different versus what is hype.

Then we shift into something deeper. Venus explains orgasmic manifestation and how she used sexual energy to transform her life. We unpack sex magic, intention setting, affirmations during arousal, and why sexuality is powerful rather than shameful. We close with my signature questions, including her definition of sex, her most impactful orgasm, and the fantasy she still wants to experience.

This episode is about agency, curiosity, and using your pleasure as power.

Timestamps:

0:00 Why we had to go deeper

1:05 Beginner anal design and safety basics

3:15 The triple-motor toy and layered stimulation

5:40 New tech beyond vibration

7:30 AI and the future of sex tech

9:05 The three levels of sexuality

11:20 Discovering sex transmutation

13:30 How orgasmic manifestation works

16:00 Intention setting and affirmations during arousal

18:20 Definition of sex and sacred energy exchange

19:45 Her most impactful orgasm

21:00 Fantasy still to be explored

22:10 Where to find Venus and final thoughts

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About Venus O'Hara:

Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast.

Connect with Venus O’Hara:

Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-ohara

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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5 Ways to Support Your Partner During Menopause This Valentine’s Day

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

If you love her but feel like you are one wrong sentence away from a blow up, this episode is for you.

In this Valentine’s Day special, I speak directly to men who want to support their partner through menopause without making things worse. Mood swings. Withdrawal. Irritability. Low libido. Exhaustion. These are not signs your relationship is failing. They are signs her hormones and nervous system are under pressure.

I break down five practical tips that help you show up steady, calm, and supportive. You will learn how to regulate instead of fix, how to stop taking it personally, how to bring back touch without pressure, how to ask better questions, and how to reframe Valentine’s Day around relief instead of performance.

I also share thoughtful gift ideas that say “I see you” without implying sex is expected. Cooling tools. Nervous system support. Body safe lubricants. Comfort focused intimacy.

Menopause does not ruin relationships. Misunderstanding does. When you show up informed and grounded, she feels safe. And safety is the foundation of desire.

In this episode:

00:00 One Wrong Sentence Away From a Blow Up

00:26 Show Intro and What This Episode Covers

00:55 Substack Community Announcement

01:28 What Menopause Is Really Doing Behind the Scenes

02:05 Tip 1 Stop Fixing and Start Regulating

02:50 Cooling Tools and Smart Valentine’s Gift Ideas

03:20 Tip 2 Don’t Take It Personally

04:05 FirmTech Sponsor Message

04:45 Tip 3 Bring Back Touch Without Pressure

05:32 Tip 4 Ask Better Questions

06:05 Lubricants and Comfort Focused Intimacy

06:20 Tip 5 Make Valentine’s Day About Relief

06:45 Men and Menopause Course and Closing

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DISCLAIMER: This episode may include discussion of products, including affiliate links. That means I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. All opinions are my own. Please consult your healthcare provider before using any product discussed, especially if you have medical concerns, pain, or are using prescription medications.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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What Makes a Good Sex Toy? A Professional Sex Toy Tester Tells All | Ep. 152 (Part 1)

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Venus O'Hara, one of the most trusted voices in pleasure education, to talk about sex toys for midlife bodies. We break down what makes a toy worth your time, how to spot safe materials, and why novelty alone does not equal pleasure. Venus shares how her standards changed after reviewing over a thousand products and what consistently delivers real orgasms in midlife. We also talk about boundaries, nervous system safety, and why confidence matters more than hype. This is a grounded, practical conversation for anyone who wants better sex without embarrassment or guesswork.

In this episode:

0:00 Why I listen to professional sex toy testers

0:36 What this show is really about

1:15 Substack announcement and community invite

2:00 Welcome to Taboo To Truth

2:42 Introducing Venus O’Hara

3:55 What makes a sex toy worth reviewing

5:30 Why Venus avoids realistic toys

6:55 The rabbit vibrator and external use

9:10 Why penetration is not always the goal

10:45 Toys as tools for couples and connection

12:10 Erotic manifestation and fantasy

14:00 Testing toys alone vs with partners

15:20 Vibrators, insecurity, and partner dynamics

16:55 Panty vibes, humor, and playful teasing

18:30 Toys for menopause, dryness, and ED

19:55 Wands, massage, and slowing things down

20:50 Part two teaser and closing remarks

Part 2 drops next Tuesday!

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Connect with Venus O’Hara:

Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-ohara

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/

Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F53LZ6BY

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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Anal Sex 101: Everything You’re Curious About And Too Afraid To Ask

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I break down anal sex without hype, fear, or pressure. I explain why curiosity shows up in midlife and why it has nothing to do with identity or performance. You learn how pleasure works anatomically, what safety really looks like, and why pain is never the goal. I cover common myths, real risks, emotional blocks, and how to talk about curiosity without turning it into pressure. This episode gives you information so you decide from choice, not shame or fear.

In This Episode:

0:00 Anal feels less scary than you think

0:30 Podcast intro and what this episode is really about

1:10 Curiosity, fear, and why anal feels taboo

2:05 Why curiosity shows up in midlife

2:55 Why anal pleasure exists anatomically

3:55 Clearing identity myths and penetration misconceptions

4:45 Safety, condoms, and basic preparation

5:45 Mess anxiety, prep myths, and expectations

6:35 Pain myths, lube, and pacing

7:20 Psychological blocks, shame, and consent

8:20 Choice, communication, and closing message

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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HRT Didn’t Fix Your Libido? Here’s Why | Ep. 150

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Hormone therapy helps. But it does not fix everything.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller to break down why libido often fades again after the initial HRT boost.

You learn why desire is multi-layered, why lab work often misses real problems, and how blood flow, thyroid health, nervous system overload, pelvic floor function, and relationship dynamics all shape your sex drive.

We also talk about erotic repair, redefining sex, rebuilding safety, and why pleasure is a health practice, not a luxury.

If you feel frustrated, broken, or confused about why hormones did not solve your libido, this episode gives you clarity and next steps.

Timestamps:

0:00 Celebrating 150 episodes and why none of us are broken

1:22 What Taboo To Truth is really about

2:30 Why HRT feels great. Then libido disappears

5:05 Chronic problems need more than one fix

8:10 Why standard labs miss real issues

11:05 Thyroid testing mistakes and energy loss

13:30 Blood flow inflammation and nervous system disruption

16:10 Pelvic floor myths women and men get wrong

18:40 Blood sugar and numbness in arousal

20:20 Desire mismatch and getting back on the same team

22:55 Erotic repair and redefining what sex means

25:40 Presence pleasure and why women dissociate

28:10 Orgasms stress regulation and vibrators

30:30 Libido as a health warning and where to start

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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About the Guest:

Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, Board-Certified Sexologist (American Board of Sexology), is your go-to libido expert who’s been through the trenches herself. With dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, she founded MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast to help women rediscover their pleasure and feel alive again.

Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller:

Website: https://mylibidodoc.com

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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6 Masturbation Myths Debunked | Ep. 149

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

You were probably taught to fear masturbation. I see this every day in my work with men and women. The problem is not self pleasure. The problem is guilt, misinformation, and nervous system disconnection. In this episode, I break down the biggest masturbation myths and explain what actually supports sexual health, erections, confidence, and pleasure after 50. I talk about porn use, erectile dysfunction, testosterone fears, technique, frequency, and shame. I also explain why orgasms act like pelvic floor training and why mindful self pleasure strengthens partner sex instead of replacing it. This is a no shame conversation about choice, awareness, and reclaiming pleasure as part of wellness.

In this episode:

0:00 You were lied to about masturbation

0:28 What masturbation is really linked to

1:10 Why people feel guilt and anxiety around self pleasure

1:55 Orgasms and pelvic floor health

2:35 Why masturbation supports sexual function

3:05 Myth one porn is the problem

3:55 Myth two masturbation causes erectile dysfunction

4:40 Myth three guilt is harmless

5:15 Myth four technique does not matter

5:55 Myth five masturbating too much

6:25 Testosterone fears and final reframing of pleasure

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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The Truth About Multi Orgasmic Pleasure | Ep. 148

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Jim Benson to break down what multi orgasmic pleasure really means for men and why most men never learn it. Jim explains the difference between ejaculation and orgasm, why pleasure does not need to end with climax, and how presence, relaxation, breath, and body awareness change everything. They explore how men learn these skills over time, why partners play a powerful role in success, and how aging does not signal the end of sexual growth. This episode reframes male pleasure as something expansive, learnable, and deeply connected to emotional safety and presence.

In This Episode:

00:00 Why men believe orgasm equals ejaculation

02:10 What multi orgasmic pleasure really means

04:05 Why relaxation creates more sensation

06:20 Breath and body awareness explained

08:30 Orgasms without erection or ejaculation

10:40 How partners support the learning process

13:00 Practicing alone versus with a partner

15:10 How long it takes to feel real change

17:25 Aging, presence, and deeper pleasure

19:40 Why sexual growth does not end with age

21:10 Final thoughts and resources

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Jim Benson has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully.

For the past 20 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” His Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.

Connect with Jim Benson:

Website: https://awakenedmasculine.com/

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Real Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction After Midlife | Ep. 147

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I talk honestly about erectile changes in midlife and beyond. I explain why ED happens, why it often starts with blood flow and heart health, and why silence and shame delay real solutions.

I cover what most men are never told.

Why Viagra and Cialis stop working for some men

Why guessing and self adjusting doses backfires

How lifestyle shifts protect erections instead of punishing you

What actually works when pills fail

The truth about pumps, rings, shockwave therapy, hormones, injections, Botox, fillers, and implants

Erectile dysfunction is not a moral failing. It’s a health signal. And there is no stage where options disappear.

In This Episode:

0:00 Erectile changes are normal and treatable

0:58 Why erections change with age

2:05 Blood flow, heart health, and ED

3:10 Why pills stop working

4:05 Pumps and rings explained

5:00 Shockwave therapy and hormones

6:05 Injections, Botox, fillers, implants

7:30 The real takeaway and next steps

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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When Menopause Meets Andropause with Dr. Maria Sophocles | Ep. 146

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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If you think menopause is tough. Wait until it collides with andropause. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk about what she calls “The Bedroom Gap”. I wanted this conversation because I see how often couples drift apart in midlife, not from lack of love, but from lack of understanding and communication. We talk about what really changes in women’s bodies during menopause and in men’s bodies during andropause. We dig into pain, erectile changes, loss of desire, and why avoiding sex often creates more damage than addressing it directly. We focus on how couples can stay connected by redefining sex, learning together, and talking honestly.

In This Episode:

00:00 Menopause Meets Andropause

02:10 Introducing the Bedroom Gap

05:40 How Midlife Body Changes Affect Sex

09:15 Why Couples Stop Talking About Intimacy

13:00 Pain, Erectile Changes, and Sexual Avoidance

17:10 Redefining Sex Beyond Intercourse

20:45 Pleasure, Health, and Longevity

24:20 How to Start Hard Conversations About Sex

28:10 What Supportive Partners Do Differently

31:40 Overlooked Menopause and Andropause Symptoms

34:30 Final Takeaways and Book Mention

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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About the Guest:

Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women’s Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women’s Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women’s health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics.

Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:

Website: https://mariasophoclesmd.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd

Book: https://mariasophoclesmd.com/book

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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What Kind Of Woman Likes Cuckolding? | Ep. 145

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 07:00:00 -0400

Today I’m talking about a topic people whisper about or judge from the outside. Cuckolding. And no, it’s not what you’ve been told. In this episode, I break down what cuckolding actually is, how it differs from hotwife and stag vixen dynamics, and why the women drawn to it are not insecure or desperate. I explain the psychology behind it, the role of power and consent, and why this dynamic only works inside emotionally healthy relationships. This is a conversation about sexual autonomy, confidence, and telling the truth about desire.

In This Episode:

00:00 Why this topic makes people uncomfortable

00:40 What cuckolding actually means

01:25 Cuckolding vs hotwife and stag vixen

02:10 The stereotype versus the research

03:05 The traits women in this dynamic share

04:05 Sexual autonomy and power

05:00 The question we should be asking

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Why Most Men Are Bad in Bed | Ep. 144

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

You think you know how to please a woman. Most men miss the basics.

I sit down with Certified Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner & Somatic Intimacy Guide and & Virgin Island TV Expert Andre Lazarus to talk about what men misunderstand about sex, connection, and their own bodies. We cover emotional vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and why performance pressure kills pleasure. Andre shares what actually helps men reconnect with sensation, desire, and confidence in bed. This conversation goes deeper than technique. It starts with presence.

In this episode:

00:00 Why most men miss the basics of intimacy

01:10 Welcome to Taboo To Truth

02:05 Introducing Andre Lazarus

03:40 From U.S. Marine to intimacy work

05:15 The biggest misconception men have about intimacy

07:40 Why vulnerability feels dangerous for men

10:10 Midlife dating and emotionally unavailable men

12:45 Masculinity, culture, and emotional shutdown

15:20 The little boy behind the tough exterior

17:40 Masculine and feminine energy in relationships

20:30 Who seeks this work and why

22:45 What surrogate partner therapy really involves

25:10 Attachment, endings, and rejection

27:30 Sexual challenges men bring into sessions

29:40 Practical tools to reconnect with the body

31:45 Rapid fire questions and closing thoughts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Connect with Andre Lazarus:

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/comingcloserwithandre

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre

Andre Lazarus is a somatic intimacy guide and trusted voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. A former U.S. Marine, he brings a grounded perspective to vulnerability and desire. He is known for his work as a professional surrogate partner on the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped participants navigate intimacy with safety and presence. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre works with individuals and couples to move beyond performance and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and each other.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Dating and Sex With Herpes. The Truth No One Told You | Ep. 143

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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A herpes diagnosis does not end your sex life. I break down what herpes really is, how it spreads, and why shame has no place in the conversation. I explain HSV-1 and HSV-2 in plain language, talk through real transmission risks, and share how antiviral medication and honest communication protect both partners. We tackle the biggest myths head-on and redefine what fulfilling sex looks like after a diagnosis. This is about facts, agency, and staying connected without fear.

In this episode:

00:00 Welcome and the lie about herpes

00:28 What Taboo To Truth is about

00:55 The initial fear after diagnosis

01:25 Herpes is a virus, not a moral issue

01:55 What herpes actually is. HSV-1 and HSV-2

02:40 Asymptomatic shedding and why many people do not know

03:15 Outbreaks, triggers, and how common symptom-free cases are

03:45 Antiviral medication and risk reduction

04:20 The big dating truth about herpes

04:55 Why herpes scares people so much

05:20 Common misconceptions explained

06:05 Antiviral treatment options and daily suppressive therapy

06:55 Testing, sharing the episode, and closing message

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Everything You Were Taught About the Clitoris Is Wrong | Ep. 142

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode, I sit down with Ana Ornelas to dismantle everything we were taught about pleasure. We talk clitoracy, real anatomy, and why penetration alone leaves most women disconnected from orgasm. We break down the clitoris as a full internal organ, explain why arousal time matters, and expose the myth of the vaginal orgasm. This conversation closes the pleasure gap with facts, empathy, and practical guidance you can use immediately.

In This Episode:

00:00 Welcome and why clitoracy matters

02:45 What clitoracy really means

06:10 The clitoris versus the penis anatomy truth

10:05 Why position changes pleasure

14:20 Clitoral erections and arousal timing

18:30 The vaginal orgasm myth explained

22:40 Real orgasm statistics women never hear

26:55 Context, stress, and desire

30:40 How to learn what turns you on

34:20 Communicating pleasure with a partner

37:20 Closing the pleasure gap and final takeaways

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Ana Ornelas, known as Pimenta Cítrica, is a Brazilian erotic writer, s//x educator, and pleasure activist based in Berlin. She wrote her first erotic story at twelve and never stopped. Growing up queer in Brazil, she absorbed deep s//xual shame. That experience shaped her mission. She chose to become the voice she needed earlier in life.

Since relocating to Berlin in 2016, she has created s//x positive content across different formats, including scripts, audio and video for different brands, workshops, live experiences and public speaking.

She co created I Am The Clitoris, a project dedicated to clitoral anatomy, pleasure, and education. Her work now extends into advocacy, where she challenges censorship and pushes s//xual wellness into the public conversation.

Connect with Ana Ornelas :

Website: https://pimentacitrica.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pimentacitrica

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

How Women Over 50 Flirt Without Saying a Word | Ep. 141

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Flirting after 50 is not subtle. It is intentional. It is confident. It is clear.

In this episode, I break down how women over 50 signal interest without spelling it out. Flirting after 50 looks different. It is clearer. It is more confident. I walk through real world cues men miss every day. Eye contact. Touch. Humor. Questions that are not random. I also share subtle lines women use to open the door without chasing. If you are dating in midlife, this helps you read the room and respond with confidence.

Timestamps:

0:00 How Women Over 50 Signal Interest

0:35 Why Flirting After 50 Is Clearer

1:05 Eye Contact That Is Intentional

1:40 Playful Teasing and Real Listening

2:15 Touch and Body Language Cues

3:00 The Hint Dropping Men Miss

3:40 Fishing Questions About Your Status

4:10 Flirty Lines That Open the Door

5:15 Texting Signals and Compliments

5:55 The Truth About Midlife Flirting

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The 10 Conversations That CHANGED Us In 2025 - Best of 2025 | Ep. 140

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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This episode is the best of 2025 and pulls together the moments that defined Taboo To Truth this past year. Let’s revisit the conversations that sparked the most reactions, the questions listeners were afraid to ask, and the truths that changed how people think about sex, desire, and relationships in midlife. This year we discussed why intimacy breaks down, why communication matters more than technique, and why owning your pleasure changes everything. This is a fast paced reset for anyone who wants better connection and more honest conversations about sex.

Thank you for being with me and for being part of Taboo to Truth this year. These conversations work because you show up ready to learn, ready to question, and ready to talk about the things everybody else avoids. If one of these moments today stood out for you. Share it with someone who needs it.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why these moments mattered

01:25 Desire versus obligation

03:10 The orgasm gap explained

05:05 Why communication fails

06:55 When intimacy starts to fade

08:40 Pleasure changes with age

10:20 The advice listeners needed most

12:00 What to take forward from 2025

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable Partners | Ep. 139

Fri, 26 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Do you fall fast and then feel abandoned when they pull away? You are not broken. In this episode I explain the anxious and avoidant attachment cycle and why it feels so intense. I walk you through what is happening in your nervous system and how early patterns replay in adult relationships. You learn how to soothe yourself, set real boundaries, and redefine attraction so secure love stops feeling boring and starts feeling safe. This episode is for anyone tired of chasing connection and ready to choose consistency.

Timestamps:

0:00 The relationship pattern that keeps repeating

1:45 Anxious and avoidant attachment explained

3:30 Why avoidants pull away when things get real

5:10 What anxious attachment feels like in the body

6:55 Familiar pain and childhood wiring

8:30 Why answers from them never bring relief

10:00 How to calm your nervous system before reacting

11:45 Redefining attraction and chemistry

13:20 What secure love actually feels like

14:20 Closing reflection on choosing safety

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Why Sex Starts Feeling Like Work for Women | Ep. 138

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Sex feels like work for many women. Desire fades. Resentment builds. In this episode, Annette Benedetti explains why this happens and how intimacy breaks down over time. She unpacks the orgasm gap, the damage of performance driven sex, and why penetration centered intimacy leaves women disconnected. You hear why foreplay throughout the day matters, why aftercare changes desire, and how owning your own pleasure transforms relationships. This episode gives men clarity and gives women permission to stop performing and start feeling.

In this episode:

00:00 Why sex starts to feel like work

03:40 The orgasm gap and why it matters

07:50 How sex becomes performative for women

12:30 Why desire fades in long term relationships

16:45 Foreplay happens all day

21:30 Why penetration centered sex fails women

26:10 Aftercare and emotional safety

30:40 What men want and why they feel unwanted

35:20 How to talk about sex without blame

39:10 Owning your own pleasure and reconnecting

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Annette Benedetti is an intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette, the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment.

From k*nk to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expertise, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure.

Connect with ___:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannette

Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Why I Deleted the Dating Apps | Ep. 137

Fri, 19 Dec 2025 07:00:00 -0400

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Dating apps promise connection, but for many midlife daters they deliver frustration, confusion, and burnout. In this solo episode, I share why I stepped away from dating apps, what repeated dead-end conversations taught me, and how honesty, boundaries, and self-awareness matter more than chasing matches. We talk about pursuit, ghosting, who should ask first, who should pay, and why rejection is information. If dating feels exhausting, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro and why dating apps felt different this time

1:05 Frustration, negative energy, and attracting the wrong matches

2:20 Why app conversations stall and go nowhere

3:35 Moving from texting to phone calls and what silence signals

5:00 Who should pursue, ask first, and pay

6:35 Politics, dealbreakers, and dodging bullets early

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Dating, Sex, and Kink After 50 with Suzanne Noble | Ep. 136

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Suzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK’s kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.

Timestamps:

In this episode:

00:00 Holiday masterclass offer

00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup

01:18 Are Brits more open about sex

02:22 The UK’s kink history and boarding school culture

03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics

05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene

06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse

07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans

08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast

09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations

10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex

11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths

12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America

13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women

14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity

16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries

16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 50

18:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles

19:22 When a profile is too good to be true

20:15 Shifting into body image and aging

21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age

21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness

22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK

23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want

23:42 Early experiences with kink

24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink

25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces

25:35 Closing thoughts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup School for Seniors, co-host of Sex Advice for Seniors, and jazz & blues pro singer.

Connect with Suzanne Noble:

Website: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Curious About Threesomes? 5 Positions That Actually Work | Ep. 135

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Many people fantasize about exploring intimacy with three people, but very few know how to talk about it or where to begin. In this episode, I walk through communication steps, boundary-setting, and five setups that help people feel grounded instead of overwhelmed.

In this episode, I break down what people over 50 are most curious about when it comes to trying a threesome. You get clear guidance on communication, consent, emotional grounding, and five practical positions that make a threesome feel exciting instead of overwhelming. This episode gives you structure, safety, and real world tips you can use to talk with your partner before anything happens.

Timestamps:

In this episode:

00:00 Intro. Why group intimacy is a top fantasy

00:20 What makes a three person experience different

00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth

01:05 The reality of trying a threesome in midlife

01:32 The question no one asks. What do you do with three bodies

01:55 Five setups to make things feel comfortable

02:05 The disclaimer on dynamics

02:18 Why talking before touching matters

02:52 Boundaries, desires, and clear agreements

03:18 Position 1. Lounge chair

03:45 Position 2. Tandem touch

04:15 Position 3. Side by side connection

04:42 Position 4. Double rider

05:15 Position 5. The bridge

05:55 Essentials. Consent, protection, and sharing the spotlight

06:25 Laughing off the awkward parts

06:48 Final thoughts on curiosity and exploration

07:00 Closing

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Surrogate Partner Therapy: Sex, Healing, And Boundaries | Ep. 134

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with surrogate partner and intimacy coach Brian Gibney to talk about what happens when touch, sex, and therapy meet. We walk through the origins of surrogate partner therapy, how it supports traditional talk therapy, and why it sits inside the world of sex work while still holding clear ethical boundaries. Brianan explains who seeks out this work, what sessions look like in real life, how attachment and feelings show up, and why sex itself often turns out to be a symptom rather than the real issue. We also talk about non-monogamy, money, how to vet an ethical surrogate partner, and Brian’s very expansive definition of sex.

Timestamps:

In This Episode:

00:00 - What if sex was part of your therapy

01:08 - What surrogate partner therapy is and why talk therapy hits a limit

03:42 - Masters and Johnson and the birth of surrogate partners

06:05 - Sex work, the “whorarchy”, and where surrogates sit in it

09:18 - How surrogate partner therapy differs from full service intimacy work

11:52 - The therapeutic triad: client, therapist, surrogate

13:40 - Who seeks this work: trauma, pain, cancer, disability, shame

17:05 - First sessions, nerves, and why the work starts with “hello”

19:40 - When clients expect something more and run the “checklist” for access

22:15 - Entitlement, hard conversations, and repeating old patterns

24:05 - Attachment, feelings, and why the “box” stays small

26:10 - Brian’s non monogamy and protecting his own relationships

28:30 - Boundaries to this work

30:35 - How to vet a legitimate surrogate partner and red flags

32:10 - Brian’s expansive definition of sex and why PIV is not the gold standard

34:00 - Final thoughts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Over the course of his life, Brian has worn many hats: research scientist (BA, Molecular biology; Masters, Microbiology), teacher, professional artist, performer, and parent. The common thread that has run through all of those vocations has been his joy in learning, discovery, and improvement. In parallel with his professional life, He has also been keenly interested in interpersonal interactions, intimacy, and authenticity. These two facets have merged in his practice as a Surrogate Partner. He received his training in surrogate partner therapy from IPSA (the International Professional Surrogates Association) in 2016 and co-founded the Surrogate Partner Collective and Chair of AASECT’s Somatic S//xuality Professionals Special Interest Group.

Connect with Brian Gibney:

Website: https://www.briangibney.org

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_gibney_intimacy

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The New Rules of Posting Your Relationship | Ep. 133

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I react to a provocative cultural shift highlighted in Vogue’s viral piece “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?”. Straight women are hiding their partners online. Faces are blurred. Fiancés are cropped out. Entire relationships are reduced to a hand on a steering wheel. The fear is that posting a boyfriend makes a woman look less independent and less culturally relevant. I compare this to myr own experience as a boomer who grew up with the belief that partnership was an achievement. I explore how this shift affects men, why younger women feel pressure to appear single, and what it says about the evolving politics of heterosexual relationships. The episode asks listeners to rethink why sharing a romantic partner feels risky now and whether avoiding visibility is about independence, superstition, image, or something deeper.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:22 The purpose of breaking taboos

00:45 Why women hesitate to like or share sex content

01:15 Introducing the episode and today’s question

01:33 The Vogue article and the rise of “boyfriend embarrassment”

02:05 How age and upbringing shape views on partnership

02:40 The clash between independence and being partnered

03:15 How shifting gender roles impact men

03:45 Why posting a partner feels risky for some women

04:20 The 70 year old who feels odd saying “my boyfriend”

04:48 Why Karen sees partnership as joyful, not submissive

05:15 The fear of judgment and the pressure to appear independent

05:48 Why some women reject men after negative experiences

06:20 Karen’s final questions about posting your partner

06:45 Closing message and sex positive reminder

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About The Host

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Menopause Can Ruin Your Sex Life: Why It Hurts And How To Fix It with Dr. Streicher | Ep. 132

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Menopause does not wait until you feel “old,” and it does not only live in your hot flashes. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Streicher, one of the leading experts in menopause and sexual medicine, to talk about sexless relationships, painful penetration, and why so many women suffer in silence when solutions exist.

We break down what really happens to your hormones, blood flow, muscles, nerves, and brain during perimenopause and postmenopause and how all of that shows up in your sex life. Dr. Streicher explains why painful sex is never something you should push through, why lubricants on their own rarely fix the problem, and why local vaginal estrogen is one of the safest and most misunderstood treatments in midlife.

We also talk about access to care. Who helps you when your doctor shrugs, you live outside a big city, you are on Medicare, or you survived cancer and nobody ever mentioned sex in your follow up. Dr. Streicher shares what a real sexual medicine consult looks like, why pelvic floor physical therapy often changes both back pain and bedroom pain, and why there is no expiration date on your vagina, even after years of a dry spell.

If you are in a sexless relationship, scared of hormones, or confused about where to start, this episode will give you language, options, and hope, plus a roadmap to Dr. Streicher’s new deep dive audio course, “Come Again,” for women and professionals who want real data, not fear.

In This Episode:

00:00 – Welcome and show intro.

00:32 – Why sexless relationships link to menopause.

02:10 – Menopause is not an “old woman’s” issue.

04:20 – Sexual problems that start before menopause.

06:30 – What a normal sexual response needs.

09:25 – How estrogen loss affects sex and desire.

12:40 – What happens in a sexual medicine consult.

15:20 – Why doctors rarely refer to sexual medicine clinics.

18:05 – Telehealth for menopause and its limits.

21:30 – Why menopause never fully “ends.”

25:05 – Painful sex and the need for accurate diagnosis.

29:10 – Vaginal estrogen use, placement, and safety.

33:15 – Partners, pain, and the “use it or lose it” myth.

36:40 – Pelvic floor pain, SSRIs, and low libido.

38:40 – Wrap up and closing message.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, a certified menopause practitioner of The Menopause Society, and the founding Medical Director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is a Senior Research Fellow of the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University.

In addition to her academic appointment at the Feinberg School of Medicine, Dr. Streicher is on the faculty of Northwestern University’s Graduate Program in Reproductive Science and Medicine for students pursuing a Master of Science degree in medical research.She is also the Faculty Advisor for The Medical Student Forum on Female Sexual Dysfunction, an organization to facilitate Chicago area medical students to collaborate, learn, and educate their academic peers about female sexual medicine. Dr. Streicher serves on many advisory boards including The Kinsey Institute, Let’s Talk Menopause, Let’s All Talk Menopause, Tell, LUWI, and Midi Health. Read more: https://www.drstreicher.com/about

Connect with Dr. Streicher:

Website: https://www.drstreicher.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstreich

Substack: https://drstreicher.substack.com/

Podcast:: https://www.drstreicher.com/podcast

Limited Podcast ‘Come Again’: https://www.drstreicher.com/comeagain

About the host:

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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How Couples Can Strengthen Their Connection with Dr. Tara | Ep. 131 (Part 2)

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Part 2 of my interview with Dr. Tara goes deeper into erotic solutions for long term relationships, techniques that rebuild desire and the practices couples use to reconnect without penetration. Dr. Tara breaks down yab yum, sexual meditation, mutual masturbation and the role lube plays in midlife pleasure. You learn why women respond differently to pressure, why adoration matters more than appreciation and why most couples never speak honestly about kink. Dr. Tara also explains sex parties, sex cruises, female ejaculation, squirting technique, cuckolding, hot wifing and how non monogamous couples build trust. This episode gives you practical tools to increase intimacy, try new experiences and communicate without fear.

Timestamps:

00:00 Part 2 intro

00:18 Why couples need more than toys

00:40 Erotic solutions for sexless marriages

01:05 Yab yum explained

02:02 How yab yum builds intimacy

02:45 Breathwork and skin-on-skin connection

03:20 Removing pressure and responsive desire

04:05 Why midlife women shut down sexually

04:42 The role of lube in midlife pleasure

05:20 How to give a yoni massage

06:10 Slip and slide technique with lube

06:45 Why receiving is hard for many women

07:20 Why hand jobs are powerful for connection

08:02 Using a vibrator while giving a hand job

08:40 Why giving can boost intimacy

09:20 Appreciation vs adoration

10:15 Why women need adoration to feel sexy

11:00 Emotional safety and sexual openness

11:32 How to ask for kink without scaring your partner

12:10 Using the media mention method for kink

12:52 Dr. Tara’s sexual profile

13:33 What “kinky” means for different people

14:10 What erotic parties are really like

15:02 Why sex parties are safer than nightclubs

15:45 The age differences at sex parties

16:12 Female led sex parties and sex cruises

17:05 Dr. Tara’s first sex party experience

17:40 Understanding squirting and female ejaculation

18:15 The technique that triggers squirting

19:02 Can you make yourself squirt

19:40 Cuckolding and hot wifing explained

20:10 How open couples build trust and connection

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

About the Guest:

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.

Connect with Dr Tara:

Website: https://www.luvbites.co

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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How to Restart Your Dormant Sex Life at Any Age with Dr. Tara | Ep. 131 (Part 1)

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In part 1 of this episode, Dr. Tara joins me for a conversation about sexual repression, sexual expression, mindful masturbation and why communication shapes every satisfying relationship. You learn how cultural conditioning shapes your sex life. You learn why exposure therapy helps you rebuild confidence with sexual pleasure. You learn how to restart sexual conversations in long relationships without shame or pressure. You also learn why non penetration activities often bring couples in midlife back to desire. This episode delivers practical tools you can use tonight. And be sure to come back for part 2 on Friday!

In this episode:

00:00 Intro

00:26 Why orgasms trigger emotional release

02:15 Dr. Tara’s background and early sexual repression

04:55 Culture shock and body confidence in Finland

06:45 Moving to the US and studying relationships

08:24 The moment she shifted into sexuality research

09:32 Divorce, shame and rebuilding sexual identity

11:05 Ethical non monogamy and communication skills

12:14 How exposure therapy builds sexual comfort

13:28 Mindful masturbation and sexual meditation

14:42 How to restart sexual conversations with your partner

15:51 Erotic solutions for sexless or low desire marriages

17:10 Part two coming soon!

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

About the guest:

Connect with Dr Tara:

Website: https://www.luvbites.co

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co

Book: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) - https://a.co/d/1XloTnj

About The Host:

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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4 Intimacy Techniques That Will Make Her Beg For It | Ep. 130

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down the four techniques I teach men who want to turn their partner on with confidence. I explain why old moves fail with a new partner. I show you why bragging about your skills shuts a woman down. I walk you through the steps most women respond to. You learn why slow kissing matters, why touch needs intention, how oral sex shifts with hormones, and why toys increase pleasure for women at every age. This episode gives you a simple plan to become a more attentive and more satisfying lover.

Timestamps:

00:00 When old moves stop working

00:32 Why bragging about your skills backfires

01:06 Why slower sex increases arousal

01:50 The four techniques women respond to

02:10 Deep, slow kissing

03:00 Touch that builds tension

04:03 Oral sex based on her cues

05:12 Why toys boost pleasure

06:30 Why penetration rarely leads to orgasm

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Mindful Masturbation For Men: Last Longer, Feel More, Perform Better with Kevin Anthony | Ep. 129

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom.

We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men

05:12 How habits train performance in bed

06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap

08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization

12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation

15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks

17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency

21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation

24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing

28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish

29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt

32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings

34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more

36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy

38:10 Wrap-up.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology, a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives!

He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel “Kevin Anthony & Céline Remy“, and the co-creator of the online course series “Power and Mastery”; which is a complete Men’s S//xual Mastery Training to develop a man’s stamina, boost confidence, and enhance his s//xual abilities.

Connect with Kevin Anthony:

Website: https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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From "Hey" to Hooked: The Art of Text Flirting in 2025 | Ep. 128

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Most people are texting wrong. In this episode I break down why the “Hi. How are you?” cycle kills attraction and how to turn texting into a tool for real connection. Learn how to craft messages that show curiosity, spark chemistry, and move things off the screen and into real life. If your conversations keep dying in the chat, this episode will change the way you text forever.

Timestamps:

00:00 – You’re Texting Wrong: Why Conversations Die Fast

00:45 – The “Hi. How Are You?” Trap

01:32 – Lazy Texting and the Emoji Problem

02:40 – Crafting Better Questions that Build Connection

03:28 – The Secret to Flirty, Fun Banter

04:20 – How to Use Curiosity to Spark Chemistry

05:00 – Move From Text to Real Connection

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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From “Not in the Mood” to Yes! Yes! Yes!: Small Offers, Big Results with Susan Bratton | Ep. 127

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why performance culture kills connection

02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms

04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex

07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest

10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch

12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift

15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes

18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm

21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control

23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire

26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe

28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack

31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training

33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes

35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasy

Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! https://youtu.be/WGPTHeP-eP0

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy.

She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company.

She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.

Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, Sex with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good Moms Bad Choices, Heal Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show.

Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their sexual joy.

Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection.

Connect with Susan Bratton:

Website: https://susanbratton.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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5 Secrets to Mind-Blowing Sex (That Actually Work) | Ep. 126

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 08:45:00 -0400

Good sex doesn’t happen by accident—it takes curiosity, communication, and intention. In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I’m breaking down five simple but powerful ways to go from “meh” to mind-blowing in the bedroom. From making foreplay last all day to using your words with confidence, these are the practical, pleasure-focused habits that transform intimacy at any age.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: What Great Sex Really Takes

00:25 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth with Karen Bigman

01:00 – Why “Good Sex” Isn’t Enough

01:35 – Tip #1: Get Curious

02:10 – Tip #2: Slow It Down

02:45 – Tip #3: Talk Dirty (or Honestly)

03:20 – Tip #4: Play With Power

03:55 – Tip #5: Prioritize Pleasure, Not Performance

04:40 – Final Thoughts: Take the Pressure Off and Enjoy

05:00 – Outro: Redefining Life and Sex After 50

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O

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Men, Sex & Aging: How to Ditch Performance and Find Real Intimacy | Ep. 125

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Men, sex, and aging without the macho script. I sit down with Dr. Chris Donaghue—clinical sexologist, therapist, and host of Loveline—to unpack masculinity, libido, and connection in midlife. We dig into why “being a man” often blocks intimacy, how to get out of performance mode, and what it takes to be a better partner after 50.

We talk practical dating resets, equity vs. equality on first dates, why vibrators shouldn’t threaten anyone, and how to build a personal “relational mission statement.” If you’re newly single or just ready to evolve, this episode gives you a clear path back into your body, your values, and real intimacy.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro: Men, sex, and aging without the script

01:12 Meet Dr. Chris Donaghue & why masculinity needs a reset

03:08 “Disidentifying” from gender roles to become a better partner

05:02 Getting back into your body vs. performing intimacy

06:45 Values, ethics, and your relational mission statement

08:36 America’s performance culture and its impact on love

10:10 Dating mindset: “The person you date is in your care”

12:04 Childhood socialization: boys vs. girls and empathy gaps

14:06 Rewriting the “strong man” expectation with softness

15:32 Who pays? Equality vs. equity on first dates

17:34 The confusion men feel: strong vs. vulnerable on demand

19:02 Emotional literacy: what men are “allowed” to feel

20:05 Sex talk: scripts, vibrators, and de-centering orgasm

22:11 How to date Karen: knowledge gaps, boundaries, and media

23:40 Public work ≠ no boundaries: consent and respect

25:02 “What are you working on?”—owning your growth

26:36 Therapy vs. “I coached myself”: why guidance matters

28:05 Practical first steps for newly single men

29:40 Libido as life energy: bringing passion back

31:02 Best sex isn’t performance—it’s connection

31:55 Wrap up + where to find Dr. Donaghue

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Chris Donaghue is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and sex therapy, with a private practice in addition to his work as a lecturer and educator. He serves as the Director of Clinical Education for The Sexual Health Alliance and is the Dean of Education and lead faculty for The Institute at The Sexual Health Alliance’s doctoral program. He also chairs the organization’s Annual Sexological Conference.

Dr. Donaghue is the author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture, and has contributed chapters to several books, including The Sex Issue by the editors of Goop.

Connect with Dr. Chris Donaghue:

Website: https://www.drchrisdonaghue.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdonaghue

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Why People Pay to Be Dominated (and How It Heals Them) | Ep. 124 (Part 1)

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered why someone pays to be dominated? In this electrifying episode, I sit down with Miss May, a professional dominatrix, dungeon owner, and kink educator based in London and Berlin. We unpack what it really means to be a dominatrix — from understanding BDSM and power exchange to why humiliation and taboo fantasies can actually be healing. Ms. May shares what her clients request most, how kink can create emotional release, and what it’s like to separate her professional “Mistress” persona from her personal life.

This is not your typical sex conversation — it’s raw, fascinating, and deeply human.

👉 Watch Part 2 on Substack for the full unfiltered visual version (YouTube gets a little sensitive).

Head to Substack here: https://karenbigman.substack.com/p/why-people-pay-to-be-dominated-and

Timestamps:

00:00 – Show intro: mission + midlife sexuality

00:35 – Why people pay to be dominated

01:05 – Guest intro: Ms. May, dominatrix & dungeon owner

01:45 – Path to pro: from private submissive to domme

03:00 – Learning the dungeon “pro” side

03:40 – Berlin studio years (Fetish Institute)

04:20 – BDSM 101: terms, roles, “vanilla” clarified

05:30 – Who hires a domme: client diversity

06:10 – Common requests: latex, bondage sacks, hoods, sensory play

07:05 – Subspace and meditative states explained

07:45 – Taboo play and humiliation: why it appeals

08:40 – Power release for high-status clients

09:15 – Can kink heal? Shame, consent, reclamation

10:05 – Re-writing past scripts and saying “no”

10:45 – Is kink always sexual? What “sex” means here

11:35 – Outcomes: orgasm vs experience, cages, spanking, observation

12:25 – Boundaries and emotional detachment as a pro

13:05 – Dating while a sex worker: stigma and challenges

13:55 – Visual segment setup: toy wall preview

14:15 – Collars, leashes, gags, cuffs: use cases

15:05 – Latex bondage jacket: full restraint demo

15:55 – Session length: 2–6 hours or longer with breaks

16:25 – Safety checks: breath, numbness, positioning

16:55 – Pre-scene negotiation: activities, health, tools, marks

17:45 – Consent frameworks: traffic-light safe words

18:25 – Mid-scene check-ins and non-verbal protocols

18:55 – Aftercare: down-ramp, tea, biscuits, grounding

19:30 – How to hire a pro: research, screening, deposits

20:20 – Red flags and scams: who contacts whom

20:55 – Pricing in London: typical hourly range

21:20 – Legal landscape: UK partial legality

21:55 – Germany model: registration and limits

22:30 – Why decriminalization is preferred

23:00 – UK vs Germany studio culture and isolation

23:35 – Personal switch: being submissive privately

24:00 – Lightning round: definition of sex

24:25 – Lightning round: best orgasm

24:45 – Lightning round: untried fantasy

25:05 – Key takeaways

25:35 – Substack CTA: full video and sensitive visuals

26:10 – Like, follow, review, share

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Miss May is a professional Dominatrix and dungeon owner. In the last years she has been working internationally being based in London and Berlin. In 2023 she opened her own dungeon called E1DARKROOM in London where she hosts professional sessions as well as events. Apart from spending time in the dungeon, Miss May hosts workshops, creates femdom content and does performances at different events all around the UK and Europe.

Connect with Miss May:

Instagram: @mismayberlin

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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He’s So Into You—Or Is It Love Bombing? | Ep. 123

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Is it real love or manipulation in disguise? In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I unpack the difference between genuine affection and love bombing, how to spot the red flags early, what behaviors cross the line from caring to controlling, and why those of us with anxious attachment styles can be especially vulnerable. Learn how to trust your instincts, slow down the pace, and protect yourself from emotional manipulation disguised as romance.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: When Love Feels Too Intense

00:45 – What Love Bombing Really Is

01:45 – Signs You’re Being Love Bombed

02:50 – The Psychology Behind the Behavior

03:40 – Overly Affectionate vs. Manipulative

04:30 – How to Protect Yourself: Boundaries & Red Flags

05:30 – Final Thoughts: Trusting Your Instincts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Sex, Consent & Connection: How Non-Monogamy Really Works | Ep. 122 (Part 2)

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this follow-up to Part 1, I continue my candid conversation with licensed professional counselor and AASECT-certified sex therapist Kelvin Pace, diving even deeper into what consensual non-monogamy really looks like in practice. From swinging to polyamory to kink, we unpack the myths, labels, and lived realities behind open relationships. Kelvin explains why communication and consent—not structure—define success, and why non-monogamous relationships can often be just as loving and committed as traditional ones. We also explore the overlap between kink and CNM, how the military became part of swinging lore, and the importance of sex-positive therapy that challenges bias instead of pathologizing pleasure.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome back & why you should listen to Part 1 first

00:58 – Do open marriages usually end?

02:03 – Swinging vs. polyamory: orientation or play?

04:25 – The many forms of consensual non-monogamy

06:10 – How kink overlaps (and doesn’t) with CNM

08:02 – The biggest myths about non-monogamy

10:10 – Therapy, bias, and the importance of consent

12:05 – Parenting and openness about sexuality

14:00 – Did swinging really start in the military?

15:22 – Kelvin’s quick-fire questions: definition, orgasm, fantasy

17:00 – Where to find Kelvin

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Kelvin Pace graduated with a master’s in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.

He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy.

Connect with Kelvin Pace:

Website: kpacecounseling.net

Instagram: @kpace37

Facebook: @kpacecounselingLLC

Phone: 907-519-2989

Email: kpacecounseling@gmail.com

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Open Relationships: Can They Save or Ruin Your Marriage? | Ep. 122

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Open relationships sound exciting to some — and absolutely terrifying to others. But what really happens when you open up your marriage? Can it save your relationship… or destroy it?

In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Pace, a licensed professional counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and former Army medic turned intimacy expert. Kelvin brings courage, compassion, and clinical insight to one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships — consensual non-monogamy.

We talk about what it means to open a marriage consciously and ethically, how to navigate jealousy without shame, and why community and communication matter more than ever. Kelvin also shares how mindfulness and sensate focus can help couples reconnect with pleasure — without the pressure of performance.

If you’ve ever wondered whether open relationships can actually work — or what it takes to make them work — this conversation will challenge your assumptions and maybe even your boundaries.

Timestamps:

00:00 – What really happens when you open your marriage?

00:43 – Meet Kelvin Pace

02:06 – Sex surrogates and sensate focus explained

04:11 – How mindfulness changes sex

06:56 – Defining open relationships and polyamory

08:46 – The myth of compersion and toxic non-monogamy

10:31 – Managing jealousy and emotional regulation

12:46 – Stay tuned for part 2!

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Connect with Kelvin Pace:

Website: kpacecounseling.net

Instagram: @kpace37

Facebook: @kpacecounselingLLC

Phone: 907-519-2989

Email: kpacecounseling@gmail.com

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

3 Boundaries To Seriously Consider Before You Start Dating Again | Ep. 121

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this solo episode, I’m diving into my own experience with dating, setting boundaries, and figuring out what really matters when it comes to love and relationships at this stage of life. From financial security to sexual health, and even politics, I share what I’ve learned about myself — and why holding firm to your non-negotiables isn’t being picky, it’s being honest.

Timestamps:

00:00 – 00:48 Why I Actually Love Dating Apps

00:49 – 02:05 Finding the Balance Between Boundaries and Flexibility

02:06 – 03:04 Why Financial Security Matters to Me

03:05 – 04:00 Dating Younger Partners and Managing Family Differences

04:01 – 05:07 Politics, Rigidity, and Emotional Maturity

05:08 – 06:39 STIs, Safe Sex, and Setting Clear Health Boundaries

06:40 – 07:35 Being Open-Minded Without Losing Myself

07:36 – 08:24 Final Thoughts: Boundaries as Acts of Self-Love

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Top 3 Female Fantasies—And What They Really Mean | Ep. 120

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode I’m pulling back the covers—literally—on the top three sexual fantasies most women have but rarely confess. From the thrill of novelty and adventure, to the ego-boosting allure of multi-partner desire, and the power dynamics of dominance and submission, let’s explore what these fantasies really mean and how they connect to women’s need for freedom, safety, and pleasure.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro & welcome

00:20 – Why fantasies matter

00:46 – #3: Novelty & adventure

01:51 – #2: Multi-partner fantasies

02:51 – #1: Power play

03:51 – Final thoughts & free guide

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Inside Open Relationships: Respect, Boundaries & Emotional Growth | Ep. 119 (Part 2)

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In Part 2 of my conversation with Ally Iseman, (ICF certified relationship coach and erotic event producer) we dive deeper into the real work behind healthy, ethical nonmonogamy. Alley shares personal stories that reveal the emotional intelligence, honesty, and respect it takes to navigate multiple relationships — from processing breakups to setting boundaries and supporting each other through vulnerability.

We also bust common myths about open relationships, explaining how communication and consent are key whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in between. Then, we take you inside the world of kink and play parties, exploring what really happens, how to approach these spaces safely, and why curiosity (not pressure) is the foundation of all exploration.

This episode is as much about self-awareness and personal growth as it is about relationships — proving that being “open” starts with how we communicate, not who we sleep with.

If you haven't listened to Part 1, go back and start there, because you will want the full story!

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Beyond the Myths of Open Relationships

02:10 – Communication, Boundaries & Mutual Respect

05:20 – Processing Emotions and Breakups in Open Relationships

08:00 – Monogamy vs. Ownership: Redefining Partnership

10:40 – Kink, Curiosity & What Really Happens at Play Parties

13:50 – Finding Community and Safer Spaces

16:30 – How to Start Exploring (Responsibly)

18:50 – Final Thoughts: Openness Starts With Conversation

19:51 – Final words

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the guest:

Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after podcast guest, Ally is also a featured subject matter expert for publications like The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Romper, PureWow, and Yahoo! among others, and is a contributing writer and educator for the leading industry publication Sexual Health Magazine as well as brands like Arya and Afterglow. As a certified consent and communication specialist, she uses inclusive relationship design to teach busy couples around the world the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve.

Connect with Ally Iseman:

Substack https://allyiseman.substack.com/

ENM 101 https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080202/xuzLqM2k

The Jealousy Toolkit https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080203/xuzLqM2k

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

How to Open Your Relationship (On Purpose): Tools, Terms & Truth | Ep. 119 (Part 1)

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with ICF certified relationship coach, erotic event producer and founder of Passport to Pleasure Ally Iseman to explore what consensual non-monogamy can look like in real life—beyond headlines and hot takes. Ally shares her evolution from serial monogamist to multi-partner relationships, she defines compersion and erotic jealousy (zelophilia), and explains how clarity, agreements, and tolerating discomfort are the real “muscles” of any sustainable relationship—monogamous or not. You’ll hear practical frameworks for opening up, the difference between romantic and sexual needs, and how multiple relationships can highlight different authentic versions of yourself.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: sex & midlife reset

0:35 – Meet Ally Iseman: the Non-Monogamy Nerd

1:18 – From serial monogamy to self-study: changing the variables

3:05 – The first “green light” story—and an unexpected reaction

5:12 – Compersion vs jealousy vs erotic jealousy (zelophilia)

7:08 – When “we thought we were okay” meets reality

8:23 – Agreements, definitions, and why discomfort is data

10:15 – Cheating vs ENM: clarity beats assumptions

11:36 – Romantic needs vs sexual needs: orientation or lifestyle?

13:10 – Multiple partners, multiple selves: time, priority, authenticity

15:05 – Karen’s reflections: bi-coastal love & new relationship energy

16:32 – Making it work: communication, calendars, and compassion

17:26 – What’s next + Part 2 coming next

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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About the guest:

Connect with Ally Iseman:

Substack https://allyiseman.substack.com/

ENM 101 https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080202/xuzLqM2k

The Jealousy Toolkit https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080203/xuzLqM2k

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

How deep is her vagina? 5 Facts that’ll change how you do it!

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I break down one of the biggest misconceptions in sexual health: that size matters most. From understanding real female anatomy to addressing midlife changes, we explore why pleasure, comfort, and communication matter far more than length or depth. With candid examples and practical advice, I challenge outdated ideas, tackle the myths created by porn, and encourage curiosity, consent, and conversation as the true keys to sexual connection — especially for women over 50.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters

0:22 – The truth about vaginal depth

0:55 – Why bigger isn’t always better

1:32 – Pain vs. pleasure in midlife

2:05 – What really drives female pleasure (clitoris & more)

2:44 – Porn myths vs. reality

3:05 – Communication, curiosity & consent

3:20 – Outro + Pleasure Playbook invite

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Redefining Sex Work: Laura Desiree on Art, Intimacy, and Empowerment | Ep. 117

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with journalist, performer, and intimacy coordinator Laura Desiree to break down misconceptions around sex work, intimacy on stage and screen, and the importance of authentic storytelling. Laura shares her journey from burlesque to content creation, discusses the realities and stigmas sex workers face, and explains how intimacy coordination is reshaping the entertainment industry. From personal safety to sexual healing, this conversation explores the courage, creativity, and empowerment found under the “red umbrella” of sex work—and why listening to sex workers is essential for modern sex education.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: Karen introduces the show and today’s guest, Laura Desiree.

02:30 – Defining Sex Work Today: What sex work means in modern society and the many professions under the “red umbrella.”

06:45 – Laura’s Journey into Sex Work: From burlesque beginnings to content creation and erotic performance.

11:25 – Breaking Misconceptions: Does sex work come from trauma? Debunking stereotypes and addressing stigma.

16:10 – Love, Safety & Relationships: How sex workers navigate intimacy, clients, and personal relationships.

20:40 – Intimacy Coordination Explained: Laura’s work creating safe environments for actors and performers on stage and screen.

26:15 – Eros Unbound: Erotic Storytelling: Laura’s live show blending confession, creativity, and sexual empowerment.

30:00 – Final 3 Questions: Laura shares her definition of sex, her best orgasm story, and her unfulfilled fantasy.

31:30 – Where to Find Laura Desiree: Resources, upcoming shows, and closing thoughts.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Laura Desiree is a dominant figure in erotic entertainment, celebrated for her work as a live-sex Intimacy Coordinator, journalist, adult industry consultant, and sought-after podcast commentator. She spent seven years as the host and producer of the groundbreaking web series Naked News, and now helms Eros Unbound, a confessional erotic reading event spotlighting sensual storytelling and creative expression. With over a decade of experience across broadcasting, adult media, and live performance, Laura is a trusted voice shaping the future of sex, art, and culture.

Connect with Laura Desiree :

Website: https://thelauradesiree.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraxdesiree

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

7 Truths About Female Orgasm Every Couple Needs to Know | Ep. 116

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Why do so many women struggle to orgasm — and what can couples do about it? In this episode, I break down seven real, practical, and sex-positive truths about female pleasure. From communication to clitoral focus, safety to novelty, and why toys are tools. I share how orgasm is less about performance and more about connection and collaboration. If you want to upgrade intimacy and remove shame from the bedroom, this one’s for you.

👉 Download my free guide: 10 Things Every Man Needs to Know for more insights.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Why female orgasm is misunderstood

00:45 – Truth #1: Communication is foreplay

01:40 – Truth #2: Arousal takes 20–40 minutes

02:20 – Truth #3: It’s all about the clitoris

03:00 – Truth #4: The importance of safety

03:45 – Truth #5: Embrace novelty in the bedroom

04:25 – Truth #6: Toys are tools, not threats

05:05 – Truth #7: Let go of the goal

06:00 – Key takeaway: Orgasm is collaboration, not performance

06:30 – Outro + Free guide invitation

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Dating Apps, Red Flags, and Second Chances at Love | Ep. 115

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Dating after divorce can feel intimidating, overwhelming, and even hopeless — but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I sit down with Andrea McGinty, America’s top midlife dating expert and author of Second Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50. From founding It’s Just Lunch Matchmaking to facilitating over 33,000 dates and 10,000 marriages, Andrea has seen it all. She shares no-nonsense strategies for navigating the modern dating world, choosing the right apps, spotting red flags, and building a game plan for your love life. Whether you’re newly single or simply curious about what’s possible, this episode proves it’s never too late for a second act in love.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Show Intro

00:35 – Today’s Topic & Guest Setup “Is online dating after divorce a nightmare…?"

02:35 – Why Dating After Divorce Feels Harder

04:45 – The Ocean, Not a Pool: Why Apps Matter

08:05 – Right App for Your City & Stage of Life

09:30 – Biggest Mistake: Quitting After Two Weeks

11:40 – Build a Dating “Business Plan”

13:45 – Values, Communication & Chemistry (The 3 C’s)

16:00 – First Relationship Post-Divorce: Are You Ready?

18:20 – Red Flags on Profiles

20:40 – Stop Texting Forever: Set the Date

23:00 – The Sex-on-First-Date Question

24:50 – Matchmakers vs Apps (Costs & Reality)

28:50 – Paid vs Free App Features

31:30 – Hope, Resilience & Process

35:10 – Phone Call or Not? Expectations & Boundaries

38:00 – First-Date Formats

39:30 – Who Pays? Regional Norms & Chivalry

40:20 – Where to Find Andrea + Outro

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

As seen on Oprah, WSJ, People, and CNN, Andrea McGinty is a professional dating coach, author, and entrepreneur with more than 25 years of experience. Having set up over 33,000 successful dates, she is the founder of two dating companies--It's Just Lunch and 33k Dates--as well as several other ventures, including BabyDagny and Pilatesworks.

Connect with Andrea McGinty:

Website: https://www.33000dates.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/33000dates

Book: https://www.33000dates.com/book

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

How to Please Her: Oral Sex Secrets Men Need to Know | Ep. 114

Sat, 20 Sep 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I unpacks the truths about oral sex that most men have never been taught. From understanding the female body to slowing down, asking the right questions, and focusing on connection instead of performance, this episode reveals how to move from being a good partner to a great one. Men who listen and apply this will transform not just their partner’s experience, but their entire relationship dynamic.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Stop Guessing, Start Connecting

00:42 – Why Penetration Alone Isn’t Enough

01:15 – Understanding Her Anatomy (Clitoris & Vulva)

02:00 – The #1 Mistake Men Make

03:05 – How to Communicate About Intimacy

04:00 – Worship vs. Performance in Connection

05:00 – Final Tips: Why Presence Beats Perfection

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Does Size Really Matter? Breaking the Silence on Male Enhancement | Ep. 113

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I dive into the world of male enhancement with William Moore, founder of PhalloFILL. We discuss the cultural silence around penis size, why girth is often more important for pleasure than length, and how fillers are changing the game. William explains the science behind hyaluronic acid injections, how long results last, and why more men are secretly seeking these treatments. We also address risks, myths, and the emotional weight tied to masculinity and size. By bringing this hidden conversation to light, the episode encourages openness, education, and self-confidence for men everywhere.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction & Breaking the Taboo

1:12 – Meet William Moore & PhalloFILL

2:45 – Does Size Really Matter? (Girth vs Length)

5:10 – Why Men Stay Silent About Enhancement

7:05 – How the PhalloFILL Procedure Works

9:00 – Risks, Safety, and Real Results

11:20 – Erectile Function, Confidence & Performance

13:15 – Stigma, Masculinity & The Future of Enhancement

14:30 – Closing Thoughts & Extended Cut Info

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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About the Guest:

William Moore is the founder of PhalloFILL, a leading protocol for non-surgical penile girth enhancement using hyaluronic acid. He helped expand the procedure across North America and developed the PhalloSleeve®, a patented post-care device.

Connect with William Moore:

Website: https://phallofill.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phallofill/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PhalloFILL/

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Why Midlife Women Stop Having Sex (and How to Fix It) | Ep. 112

Sat, 13 Sep 2025 06:30:00 -0400

Midlife women aren’t avoiding sex—they’re avoiding pain, boredom, and frustration. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons intimacy fades during midlife and what couples can do to reconnect. From hormone shifts and low libido to communication struggles and painful sex, Karen provides practical solutions and compassionate insights to help couples reignite intimacy.

If you’ve ever wondered why your partner seems to avoid the bedroom, this episode gives you the tools to start the right conversation and explore solutions—from medical options like hormone therapy to introducing new ways of creating pleasure.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Why midlife women avoid sex

00:35 – Hormones, menopause & low libido

01:25 – Emotional struggles & stress

02:05 – Boring or painful sex: the silent killers

03:15 – The power of communication

04:10 – Possible solutions: hormones, therapy & vibrators

05:05 – Final advice: reconnecting with love

Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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The New Face of Menopause: Hormones, Supplements & GLP-1 Therapy with Jackie Giannelli | Ep. 111

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Menopause is no longer a silent struggle. From “millennipause” to cutting-edge treatments like GLP-1s, today’s conversation with Jackie Giannelli, a board-certified family nurse practitioner specializing in women's health with extensive expertise in hormonal health, menopause, women's sexual health, and urogynecology, dives into the evolving landscape of perimenopause and menopause care.

We explore the shifting attitudes around hormone replacement therapy, the rise of millennials entering perimenopause, and why lifestyle, supplements, and community matter just as much as medical interventions. Jackie also breaks down how GLP-1 medications may become a new arm of menopause treatment — while highlighting their potential impact on sexual health.

Whether you’re curious about natural options, considering hormone therapy, or just beginning your perimenopause journey, this episode offers clarity, science-backed insights, and compassion for women navigating this complex phase of life.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Jackie Giannelli

1:15 – What is “Millennipause”?

4:12 – How millennials are approaching perimenopause differently

6:45 – Hormone hesitancy is fading: why women want bioidenticals now

9:50 – Non-hormonal treatments: supplements that actually work

13:30 – Lifestyle shifts that make a difference in perimenopause

16:45 – GLP-1 medications and their surprising potential in menopause care

21:05 – The hidden side effects of GLP-1s on sexual health

23:18 – The power of community and women supporting women

25:10 – Jackie’s definition of sex & closing thoughts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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About the Guest:

Jackie Giannelli is a board-certified family nurse practitioner specializing in women's health with extensive expertise in hormonal health, menopause, women's sexual health, and urogynecology. Jackie is a Menopause Society-certified practitioner, and an active member of the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She trained and honed her expertise in this niche field at the largest freestanding women’s sexual health clinic in the country, Maze Women’s Health.

Previously, Jackie has served as the founding nurse practitioner and Director of Clinical Practice at Elektra Health, a digital women’s health company on a mission to smash the menopause taboo. She also spent time as an Operator-in-Residence at 25m Health, a health-tech venture platform incubating new companies and investing in breakout startups. She advises and consults regularly in the digital health and startup space, and often mentors clinicians who are looking to pivot from the bedside into a non-traditional clinical role. She also continues to practice bedside medicine and is taking new patients as the Director of Women’s Sexual Health at Anna Barbieri, MD in NYC.

Jackie is passionate about women’s health literacy and using technology to expand access to care, as well innovation in clinical strategy and private practice enablement. Jackie aims to democratize access to evidence-based midlife wellness education using her social media platform, through her newsletter In the Saddle, her digital clinical frameworks and as the co-host of the WellKept podcast.

Jackie earned her nursing degrees at New York University and San Francisco State University and a B.A. in Health Studies from Georgetown University. Her work has been featured in Well+Good, PopSugar, and Everyday Health. She is a sought-after national speaker and educator in the field of women’s health. She lives in CT with her husband and two tween children but will never tire of trips to NYC for theater, culture, shopping and endless inspiration.

Connect with Jackie Giannelli:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jackie_giannellifnp/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqueline-giannelli-rn-msn-fnp-bc-ncmp/

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6eQRSsPNEE9R39Ah5182Yk?si=dfc033ca2bd6488d

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

How I Knew I Was Entering Menopause: The 5 Emotional Stages | Ep. 110

Sat, 06 Sep 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I share what I’ve learned after coaching women through menopause and living it myself. Through my own journey and countless conversations, I’ve identified what I call the five emotional stages of menopause: What the F**, Confusion, I Need Help, Acceptance,* and Empowerment. I walk you through each stage, the struggles and frustrations, and the hope that comes when you realize you’re not alone. Menopause isn’t a disease—it’s a natural phase of life that can actually lead you to strength, freedom, and empowerment.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: My Menopause Journey

00:35 – Stage 1: WTF?! The Strange Symptoms I Didn’t Recognize

01:50 – Stage 2: Confusion – When I Thought Something Was Seriously Wrong

02:50 – Stage 3: I Need Help – Admitting I Couldn’t Do It Alone

03:50 – Stage 4: Acceptance – Finally Understanding Menopause

04:40 – Stage 5: Empowerment – How I Found Strength and Freedom

05:50 – Final Thoughts: Why Menopause Wasn’t the End for Me

06:20 – Outro

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

From Grief to Healing: The Science of Cuddle Therapy with Keeley Shoup | Ep. 109

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with Keeley Shoup — co-owner of CuddleList, director of CuddleXPro, and a certified Wheel of Consent facilitator — to explore the groundbreaking world of professional cuddle therapy. Keeley explains how platonic touch, rooted in boundaries and consent, can promote healing, reduce anxiety, ease grief, and improve relationships. Together, we break down the science behind oxytocin, discuss how intimacy isn’t always sexual, and share powerful stories of transformation through touch. Whether you’ve never heard of cuddle therapy or are curious about its impact, this conversation will shift how you think about connection, healing, and intimacy.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction

Introducing Keeley Shoup and sets the stage for today’s taboo topic.

1:15 – What Is Cuddle Therapy?

Keeley explains the origins, purpose, and misconceptions about cuddle therapy.

3:40 – The Science of Touch

How oxytocin, nervous system regulation, and platonic connection improve mental health.

6:05 – Virtual Cuddle Therapy

How sessions adapted during COVID and what “online cuddling” really looks like.

7:40 – Intimacy Beyond Sex

Redefining intimacy: emotional, romantic, platonic

10:00 – Cuddle Therapy in Practice

Keeley shares stories of healing, from grief support to boundary setting.

12:50 – Couples, Polyamory & Touch

How cuddle therapy applies to couples, throuples, and polyamorous groups.

14:20 – A Powerful Client Breakthrough

The story of emotional release leading to unexpected physical healing.

16:00 – Closing & Extended Cut Info

Final thoughts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Keeley has practiced as a full time Cuddle Therapist since 2015, supporting clients in both individual and group settings. She is a certified Cuddle Party facilitator and has taken every training program that exists for professional cuddlers. She continues her education in IFS, EFT, somatic experiencing, embodiment practices, the wheel of consent, and racial equity. In 2017, she became the Director of CuddleXpo, the first ever professional cuddlers convention. The 3 day educational event hosted over 100 professionals and participants from all across the world. Keeley has been a fierce advocate; reaching international audiences as she works to destigmatize mental health, promote education on boundaries and consent, and increase access to the groundbreaking therapeutic modality of cuddle therapy.

Keeley is fostering an interdisciplinary community within the field of mental health professionals. She is the founder of Talk & Touch Pros; a networking resource group for collaboration between talk and somatic therapies. As co-owner and CEO of Cuddlist, Keeley works to increase the company’s visibility, further the high standard of quality within Cuddlists’ community of practitioners, increase practitioner’s accessibility to supportive resources, and champion the Cuddlist mission across the globe.

Connect with Keeley:

Website: https://www.keeleyshoup.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourcuddletherapist

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

What If Everything You Knew About Porn Was Wrong? | Ep. 108

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 00:01:00 -0400

What if everything you thought about porn was wrong?

In this episode let’s dive into the world of ethical porn—porn made with consent, transparency, fair pay, and respect for all performers. Unlike mainstream porn, ethical porn focuses on real people, real pleasure, and real connection.

👉 What you’ll learn in this episode:

What ethical porn is and how it’s made
Why mainstream porn sets dangerous, unrealistic expectations
The importance of consent, safety, and fair pay in adult content
How to find ethical platforms you can feel good supporting
Why ethical porn can help reframe intimacy in healthy, realistic ways

💡 If you’ve ever searched for “real porn” or “ethical porn” and weren’t sure where to start, this episode is for you.

Links

https://makelovenotporn.tv/videos

https://watch.erikalust.com

https://www.bellesa.co

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: What if everything you knew about porn was wrong?

00:25 – What is ethical porn? Consent, communication & fair pay

01:25 – How mainstream porn exploits performers and misleads viewers

02:15 – Why ethical porn shows real connection, real pleasure

03:10 – How to find ethical platforms & support creators

03:45 – Final thoughts: Pleasure, consent, and respect matter

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Vor, Foot Fetishes & Cultural Shifts in Desire—A Conversation on Fetishes with Nikki Davis Feinblum

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom), a non-monogamy pleasure and fetish coach, to explore the world of fetishes, kinks, and how our culture shapes desire. Nikki shares her research from hundreds of interviews with people who hold “uncommon” desires, and breaks down the difference between kinks and fetishes, the origins of certain turn-ons, and how to talk about these vulnerable topics with a partner. From the neuroscience of foot fetishes to the playful roleplay of vor (the desire to be “swallowed”), this conversation is packed with insights, humor, and permission to embrace who you truly are in the bedroom.

Whether you’re curious about your own desires, wanting to spark intimacy with a long-term partner, or simply fascinated by human sexuality, this episode will leave you with tools to open conversations and normalize what society often stigmatizes.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Miss Bloom

01:05 – What is a fetish? Defining desires beyond the norm

03:10 – Fetish vs. kink: How they differ and overlap

05:05 – How culture shapes our desires (the quicksand example)

07:00 – Shame, secrecy, and impact on relationships

09:05 – Coaching example: Roleplay for vor fetish

11:10 – The neuroscience of foot fetishes

13:00 – Tips for sharing fetishes with a partner

14:20 – Consent, communication & closing thoughts

✨ If you’ve ever felt “different” in your desires, this episode is here to remind you: You are not alone.

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About the Guest:

Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer, researcher, and coach. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations. After studying Sex Therapy at Guelph University, she has also built up her coaching practice, specializing in working with kinks & fetishes, ethical non-monogamy, and most importantly, pleasure. Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.

Connect with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom):

Website: https://www.nikidavisf.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missbloomsexeducator

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Protect Your Love AND Your Wallet: Relationship Money Red Flags | Ep. 106

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Cheating isn’t the biggest relationship killer—money is. I reveal the hidden financial red flags that can quietly destroy trust and security, and how to protect yourself before it’s too late.

I share my own experience of ignoring the warning signs and what it cost me, plus the subtle clues you might be missing: lavish spending on a modest income, secretive money habits, repeated requests for “loans,” inconsistent stories about debt, and more.

You’ll learn:

How to spot financial instability early
Why joint expenses should never mean giving up control
How to protect yourself with solid planning and prenups
Why honest money talks are as vital as conversations about intimacy

Whether you’re dating, remarried, or in a long-term relationship—especially in midlife—this conversation will help you protect both your heart and your wallet.

Because healthy money habits aren’t just smart… They're sexy.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Why financial red flags matter more than you think

00:25 – Money & sex: the two hardest conversations

00:55 – My personal story of ignoring the signs

01:35 – Lavish spending vs. real income

02:05 – Secretive behavior & repeated requests for money

02:40 – Why you should talk about credit scores

03:05 – Inconsistent debt stories & hidden bankruptcies

03:35 – The danger of “my money, your money” control

04:00 – Protect yourself with planning & prenups

04:40 – The importance of professional financial advice

05:05 – “Open books, open hearts”: building transparency

05:40 – Keep money talks going for a healthier relationship

06:10 – Final takeaway: healthy money habits are sexy

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Follow Karen Bigman:

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Raising Kids & Loving Freely: Life After Monogamy | Ep. 105

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Ariela Salinas Fiora. She’s an actor, writer, director, sex educator, and fierce advocate for fat, queer, and Latinx representation. But what really struck me was her deeply personal journey into ethical non-monogamy—especially within a decades-long marriage, while raising kids, and embracing her full identity as a woman over 50.

We talked about everything: how she and her husband first explored the “seven-year itch,” how their kids found out about their open marriage, what it means to be oriented toward multiple partners, and how she’s dealt with jealousy (hint: it’s not what you’d expect).

Ariela shares what it’s like to be affectionate, honest, and deeply committed in more than one relationship—and why she had to “come out” about it dramatically… onstage.

This episode is about expanding our definitions of love, sex, parenting, and what it means to live authentically in our relationships—at any size, at any age, and on our own terms.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome + Meet Ariela Salinas Fiora

01:12 – How we met: SAR and sexual attitude reassessment

02:00 – Marrying young & the start of non-monogamy

03:28 – The “Seven-Year Itch” conversation in the car

05:05 – When kissing isn’t just kissing

06:32 – Realizing she’s always been non-monogamous

07:55 – Fat, queer, and rewriting representation

09:20 – Telling the kids about their open marriage

10:47 – Bringing partners home: How it works in real life

12:10 – Polycules, partners, and blended connections

13:40 – Boundaries, intimacy, and making it work

15:00 – Jealousy, priorities, and staying grounded

16:25 – Final thoughts on love, honesty, and self-trust

17:55 – Outro + Where to listen for more

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Ariella Salinas Fiore is an actress, creator, director, death doula, and intimacy professional from Los Angeles. She was lucky enough to be born into a family of fierce and talented female artists who supported her by putting her on stage at every opportunity. A first generation Nicaraguan/Panamanian American , she is passionate about increasing inclusivity for both Latinx and plus sized folks in entertainment. Her first solo show, The Fat Girl's Guide To Life, Sex, and Everything In Between, premiered in 2024 at the Hollywood Fringe Festival and has since been welcomed in multiple venues around Los Angeles.

Connect with Ariella:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AriellasFanPage

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariellasalinasfiore

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Porn Addiction vs. Entertainment: How to Tell the Difference | Ep. 104

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Porn: educational tool or relationship wrecker? This week, I’m breaking down the truth behind adult content—how it impacts solo and partnered intimacy, when it becomes problematic, and how it can actually support a healthier relationship and better sex. We will also explore the world of ethical porn, real-life arousal, and how fantasy on-screen isn't always what it seems in real life.

If you’ve ever wondered whether porn is hurting or helping your connection, this episode is a must-listen.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Is Porn Really Bad for You?

01:42 – When Porn Becomes a Problem

03:20 – Solo vs. Partnered Play: The Role of Porn

04:55 – Fantasy vs. Reality in Adult Content

06:40 – What is Ethical Porn? (+ Sites to Know)

09:35 – Real People, Real Pleasure: Homemade Porn Explained

11:20 – Porn and ED: A Surprising Use Case

13:10 – Relationship Conflict Over Porn

15:05 – When to Seek a Sex Therapist

17:00 – Using Porn to Reignite Intimacy

18:25 – Porn as Entertainment, Not Education

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Bedroom Mistakes Men Don’t Know They’re Making — with Caitlin V | Ep. 103

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this unfiltered conversation, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship coach Caitlin V. to explore the truths about male performance anxiety, orgasms, slowing down intimacy, and why men might be misunderstanding their own desires — and women’s. We discuss how societal pressures create performance myths, the importance of pacing and communication in the bedroom, why curiosity beats confidence, and the misconceptions around anal play, identity, and masculinity. Plus, Caitlin shares her wildest orgasm story and the fantasy she hasn’t tried… yet.

👉 This episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules of connection, pleasure, and redefining masculinity — with humor, honesty, and heart.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction

02:20 – Meet Caitlin V.: Sex Coach & Performance Expert

04:10 – Why Men Burn Out in Bed (And How to Fix It)

07:45 – The Art of Titration & Variation in Intimacy

11:30 – Slowing Down & Setting Playful Boundaries

16:00 – How to Regulate Your Nervous System Together

19:45 – The Biggest Mistakes Men Make with Women

25:30 – Delayed Ejaculation & Overstimulation Explained

33:50 – Porn, Edging & Why It Can Backfire

38:40 – Anal Play, Masculinity & The Butt Taboo

47:00 – Caitlin’s Definition of Sex

49:20 – The Best Orgasm Story (Yes, It’s That Good)

54:00 – The Fantasy She Still Wants to Try

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Caitlin V is a renowned sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and premature ejaculation. A former sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she skyrocketed to internet fame after a viral video on female pleasure. Today, she works with clients worldwide to resolve mismatched libidos, enhance sexual confidence, and create more satisfying intimate experiences. Blending personal experience with evidence-based science, Caitlin is on a mission to foster a sex-positive world where pleasure is prioritized. With millions of views on YouTube and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her expertise is now reaching an even wider audience with her upcoming TV show, Good Sex, premiering on Discovery+ and Max.

Come As You Want online course:

https://caitlinvneal.com/come-when-you-want-2/

Connect with Caitlin V:

Website: https://caitlinvneal.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlinvictoriousx

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaitlinV

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Can’t Stay Hard? Here’s What Really Matters | Ep. 102

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this honest and empowering episode, I break down the stigma around erectile issues and the myth that a hard penis is the only key to great intimacy. Whether you or your partner struggles with maintaining an erection, this episode offers a fresh perspective on redefining intimacy, practical tips to keep the connection hot, and how to explore pleasure beyond penetration. From medical insights to creative intimacy tips, Karen shares how couples can stay connected — soft or hard.

Ready to feel Hotter, Wiser, and Wilder?

Join my brand-new Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass — real talk, real tools, and real strategies to help you feel empowered in midlife intimacy.

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💖 Don’t wait — your pleasure and confidence are worth it.

Timestamps:

00:00 – The Truth About Erectile Challenges in Midlife

02:15 – Why Soft Doesn’t Mean the End of Your Intimate Life

04:45 – Medical Causes: When to See a Doctor

07:10 – The Testosterone Factor + Heart Health Connection

09:40 – How Performance Anxiety Can Make It Worse

12:00 – Redefining Intimacy: It’s Not All About Penetration

14:20 – Erotic Massage, Touch, and Non-Penetrative Play Ideas

17:30 – Using Toys, Hands, and Connection to Stay Close

19:50 – How the Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass Helps Couples Reignite Desire

22:00 – Final Thoughts: Expand Your Menu of Pleasure

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Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Is Painful Sex Normal? The Bedroom Gap Explained by Dr. Maria Sophocles | Ep. 101

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles to break the silence around painful sex, vaginal atrophy, menopause, and the damaging scripts of ‘duty sex’. Dr. Sophocles shares:

Why so many women endure painful sex silently
The difference between vaginal atrophy, vulvodynia, and other causes of pain
How treatments like vaginal estrogen, lubricants, and dilators can help
Why sexual pain should never define your worth as a partner
The importance of communication with doctors and partners
Her upcoming documentary HOT! exploring midlife women’s sexuality
Her personal definition of sex: joy, curiosity, and humor

This episode is a must-listen for any woman wanting to understand her body, break free from shame, and embrace a sex life defined by her own needs and desires.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro & Guest Welcome

02:10 – The Reality of Painful Sex Globally

05:50 – Dr. Maria Sophocles’ Work & TED Talk Impact

09:20 – Mercy Sex, Duty Sex, and The Bedroom Gap

14:00 – Why Women Feel Obliged to Endure Pain

17:50 – Common Causes of Painful Sex in Midlife

21:40 – Treatments: Vaginal Estrogen, Lubricants, Dilators

26:10 – How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex

31:30 – Communicating With Your Partner About Pain & Pleasure

38:00 – The Importance of Sexual Check-Ins

43:20 – Dr. Sophocles’ Upcoming Documentary HOT!

47:10 – Her Personal Definition of Sex

49:00 – Closing Thoughts & Next Steps

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:

Website: https://mariasophoclesmd.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

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Top Ten Moments Of Taboo To Truth | Ep. 100

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this milestone 100th episode, I’m celebrating by launching my Hotter, Wiser, Wilder adult sex ed masterclass and revisiting the 10 most unforgettable moments from Taboo to Truth.

Inside this episode:

Why younger men pursue older women
The 5 secrets of desire: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, attunement
Testosterone myths & benefits for women
Why fantasy is essential for getting turned on
Reframing foreplay to coreplay
Sexual snacking to reignite connection
The anatomy and purpose of the clitoris
The truth about midlife dating insecurities
Why communication is the foundation of great sex
How to keep sex creative and fun in long-term relationships

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Celebrating 100 Episodes

01:12 – Launching Hotter, Wiser, Wilder: Adult Sex Ed Masterclass

02:47 – Cougar Dating: Younger Men Want Older Women

05:14 – The 5 Secrets of Desire Revealed

08:36 – Do You Even Like The Sex You’re Having?

11:02 – Testosterone: Myths, Benefits & Libido for Women

15:55 – Why Fantasy is Essential for Women’s Turn-On

19:27 – Midlife Dating Insecurities vs Male Perception

23:44 – Sexual Snacking: Reigniting Connection in Daily Life

28:19 – Rethinking Foreplay: Why Coreplay Matters

33:12 – The Glorious Clitoris: Pleasure, Anatomy & Purpose

38:05 – Communication, Creativity, & Keeping Sex Exciting

41:20 – Closing: Pleasure Does Not Have an Expiration Date

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Inside Babeland: A No-Shame Tour of Sex Toys | Ep. 99

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this special on-location episode, I visited Babeland, the iconic sex shop in Brooklyn, NY, for an educational and eye-opening walkthrough of the latest in adult toys and accessories. Joined by certified sex educator Lisa Finn, we explore a wide range of products—from vibrators and anal plugs to BDSM gear and positioning pillows.

Whether you're new to sex toys or looking to expand your toolkit, this episode delivers a shame-free, inclusive, and curiosity-driven look at what pleasure can truly be.

👀 This is a highly visual episode—watch the full tour on YouTube for the complete experience:

👉 YouTube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

💸 BONUS: Get 10% off your purchase at babeland.com with code TABOO10 at checkout.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth

0:30 – Filming at Babeland in Brooklyn

1:00 – Watch the full tour on YouTube

1:20 – Get 10% off at Babeland.com

1:45 – Big Announcement: New Masterclass!

2:40 – What You’ll Learn in the Course

3:30 – Sign Up Now for 50% Off

4:00 – Wrap-Up & Final Thoughts

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Truth About Orgasms, Vibrators & Vaginas – with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 2

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate), we unpack some of the biggest myths around women's intimacy, including the idea that satisfaction should come from one kind of experience alone.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Missed Part 1? Go Back!

0:45 – Why Vibrators Are Game-Changers

2:30 – Debunking the Biggest Myths About Toys

4:30 – How Vibration Supports Pleasure and Healing

6:15 – Do Vibrators Replace Partners? Let’s Be Real.

8:00 – Rethinking ‘Foreplay’: The Four Plays That Work

10:16 - Announcing My New Masterclass - Hotter, Wiser, Wilder!

10:30 – Sexual Guilt & The Orgasm Gap

12:10 – Attachment, Casual Sex & Cultural Myths

14:00 – BDSM, Boudoir & Owning Your Curiosity

16:00 – What Is Sex? Dr. Laurie’s Definition

17:40 – Advice for Women Struggling With Orgasm

19:20 – Final Thoughts + Join Dr. Laurie’s Live Coaching

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

‪@drlauriemintz‬ is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators.

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becomin...

Instagram: / drlauriemintz

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

To celebrate the 100th episode of the Taboo to Truth podcast, I’m launching something BIG:

🎉 Hotter, Wiser, Wilder — a s/x-ed masterclass for adults

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📹 Bite-sized videos & guided exercises

🎯 Real tools for solo & partnered pleasure

You’ll learn:

✔️ The truth about your anatomy (yes, yours!)

✔️ How to navigate aging & s/xual dysfunction

✔️ Communication that actually works

✔️ Games, fantasies, toys & more—because fun is part of the homework 💃

🚨 Sign up now at https://www.taboototruth.com to get 50% off if you join before July 1

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: / taboototruth

YouTube: / @taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Why Women Fake It: The Orgasm Gap & What To Do with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 1

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex—to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mintz

01:26 - The #1 Lie Women Are Told About Pleasure

03:44 - Why Penetration Alone Doesn’t Cut It

06:10 - Busting the Wetness Myth: Lube is Your Friend

09:18 - The Orgasm Gap Explained

13:12 - Hookups vs. Relationships: The Numbers Don’t Lie

16:33 - What Lesbian & Solo Sex Teach Us About Female Pleasure

18:57 - Vulva vs. Vagina: Why Language Matters

22:19 - Anatomy of the Clitoris (and Why You’ve Never Been Taught This)

26:07 - Where Female Pleasure Really Lives

29:32 - The G-Spot Debate: Magic Spot or Misdirection?

33:11 - Why Guys Need to Ask, Not Assume

35:49 - Karen’s First Vibrator: A Game-Changing Moment

38:41 - Vibrators Are Not Replacements, They’re Tools

42:14 - Wrap Up & What’s Coming in Part 2

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators.

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Supercharge Your Orgasm with Tanya Griffin | Ep. 97

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode I welcome Tanya Griffin, founder of “oOYes,” an ecstatic intimacy and cannabis lifestyle brand. Together, we dive deep into how cannabis can elevate female pleasure, the science behind multi-orgasmic experiences, and how to use both systemic and topical products to enhance your sensual life—especially in midlife and beyond. From THC-infused lube to breaking down barriers around oral, nothing is off the table. You’ll laugh, learn, and leave feeling liberated.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome + Meet Tanya from Oh Yes

01:15 - From Cannabis to Climax: Tanya’s Entrepreneurial Journey

04:28 - Cannabis & Female Pleasure: How They Work Together

08:40 - Karen’s Wild Weed Story (And Accidental O!)

12:10 - Why Women Think Too Fast for Good 🍑

15:02 - Dosing THC for Newbies: Start Low, Go Slow

18:50 - Practicing Pleasure: Why Self-Love is Essential

21:34 - Topical vs. Systemic Cannabis: What to Know

26:55 - What is Edible Sex Play?

29:10 - How Hormones Affect Cannabis & Climax

33:48 - Cannabis for Oral Anxiety & Better Blood Flow

38:22 - Daily O’s, Mastery & Why Practice is 🔑

42:14 - What to Do If You Get Too High

45:18 - Creating Ritual: Turning Pleasure Into a Lifestyle

49:30 - Introducing the “Oh Yes Sex Quiz” for You + Your Partner

52:40 - Tanya’s Definition of Sex

54:35 - Final Thoughts + Upcoming Collaborations

About The Guest

From colostrum to cannabis to cum, Tanya Griffin has spent over three decades building businesses focused on women’s health, plant medicine, and sexual wellness. A lactation consultant turned cannabis pioneer, she founded and scaled multiple health and cannabis ventures, including the first national cannabis franchise and a REGTech/FINTech platform for cannabis payments. Now the founder of oOYes and Uh Huh Honey, Tanya combines her passion for ecstatic sex, education, and harm reduction into luscious, cannabinoid-infused products and experiences. She’s on a mission to help people have more and better sex—consciously, joyfully, and fully present.

Yes to Sex newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7166601342721982464

20% off OoYes products use code TABOO20: https://www.ooyes.love

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Delayed Ejaculation: What’s Causing It—And How to Fix It | Ep. 96

Tue, 27 May 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I dive deep into the often-overlooked world of delayed ejaculation—a condition that affects up to 10% of men and becomes more common with age. I break down the physical and psychological causes, including hormone shifts, nerve damage, porn habits, and emotional trauma. With candid reflections from my own experience with orgasmia, I offer a compassionate and practical guide for men (and their partners) to reclaim pleasure, confidence, and connection.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: Why This Topic Matters
01:20 – My Personal Journey with Orgasmia
03:00 – What Is Delayed Ejaculation?
04:15 – Defining “Normal” Timing vs. Clinical Diagnosis
05:30 – How Common Is It? (Stats + Aging Impact)
06:30 – Physical Causes: Surgery, Alcohol, Nerve Damage, Testosterone
09:15 – Psychological Causes: Shame, Anxiety, Trauma, Porn Habits
12:45 – The Impact on Relationships + Emotional Disconnect
14:10 – Key Questions to Ask Yourself About the Pattern
16:00 – How to Start Treating Delayed Ejaculation
18:30 – Adjusting M@sterbati*n, Increasing Sensitivity, Using Lube
20:00 – When to Seek Therapy or Medical Help
21:30 – Final Words: You’re Not Broken—You Can Heal

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Reverse Erectile Dysfunction & Save Your Sex Life with Dr. Elliot Justin | Ep. 95

Tue, 20 May 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this candid episode, I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin—emergency physician turned sex tech innovator—to talk erectile fitness, aging erections, and why the humble c*ck ring might just be the unsung hero of midlife pleasure. From horse accidents and centaur metaphors to revolutionary wearable tech, this episode explores the real (and often overlooked) science behind erections and the emotional toll of performance anxiety. If you're ready to shift shame, embrace better tools, and reignite connection with your partner—this one's for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction
01:40 – Meet Dr. Elliot Justin & his journey from ER to sex tech
04:00 – The horseback accident that changed everything
06:15 – What erectile dysfunction really means (and doesn’t)
08:20 – Why most cck rings don’t work — and how FirmTech changed that
11:00 – The confidence-erection connection no one talks about
13:30 – Why your partner’s erection is a health signal
15:50 – Can data actually improve erections? (Yep.)
18:00 – RingMate: The pleasure product designed for her
20:10 – Redefining what counts as sx
22:00 – Final thoughts on pleasure, performance & partnership

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Elliot Justin, MD, FACEP, is the CEO and Founder of FirmTech, the first sex tech company dedicated to improving men’s erectile fitness. He has a background in Emergency Medicine and healthcare technology consulting. Dr. Justin is also a serial healthcare entrepreneur, having founded and sold Pegasus Emergency Group and Swift MD. He has provided guidance to various services, telemedicine, and tech startups. Dr. Justin pursued Slavic Studies at Harvard University and studied medicine at Boston University. Happily married for 35 years, and father of three children, Elliot and Ann live in Montana with three energetic mares and a flock of chickens.

Connect with Elliot Justin, MD:

Instagram: @doctorelliotjustin @myfirmtech

Website: https://myfirmtech.com

Enjoy 15% off with code TABOO15 using this link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigman

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

5 Myths that are Ruining your Sex Life | Ep. 94

Tue, 13 May 2025 00:01:00 -0400

We’ve all heard them—the whispered “rules” about how sex should be. Be spontaneous. Always want it. Orgasms are everything. Sound familiar? But what if I told you these so-called truths are actually myths… and they’re killing our sex lives behind closed doors? These myths sneak into the sheets with us.

In this episode, I’m breaking down five myths that could be ruining your sex life—and offering a fresh, honest look at how to bring the pleasure back. One of them might even surprise you (myth #4 is a game changer).

Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) - Introduction

(00:01:11) - Myth #1: "Sex drive should be constant"

(00:02:05) - Myth #2: "No desire means a bad relationship"

(00:03:27) - Myth #3: "Real sex requires penetration"

(00:04:05) - Myth #4: "Orgasms are the goal" (this one will shock you)

(00:04:30) - Myth #5: "Relationship sex is always better"

(00:05:50) - Upcoming adult sex education masterclass

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

The Surprising Truth About BDSM with Sir Leezus | Ep. 93, Part 2

Tue, 06 May 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?

In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter.

We explore why so many people—especially in midlife—start to unlock new layers of desire after years of silence or shame. And how things like spanking, submission, and even humiliation can become powerful tools for rediscovering connection, pleasure, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or like your desires don’t fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let’s get into it.

In This Episode:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:40) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant."

(01:13) - What is a sensual sadist dominant?

(02:20) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism

(04:00) - Can kink be healing from past trauma?

(07:20) - Does BDSM always involve sex?

(09:06) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism

(11:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up)

(15:25) - Safety, vetting, and how to trust a partner in kink

(19:16) - Definitions: Dom vs. Top, Sub vs. Bottom, Switches

(21:46) - What’s a Stag and Vixen dynamic?

(22:54) - Hotwifing vs. Cuckolding

(24:50) - Penis humiliation? Understanding the mental side of masochism

(25:58) Relationship between certain kinks and past trauma

(26:06) - Reclaiming trauma through consensual non-consent

(27:35) - Sir Leezus defines sex in his own words

(28:18) - Where to find and work with Sir Leezus

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he’s on a mission to break down shame and open up new paths to pleasure.

Connect with Sir Leezus:

Website: https://sirleezus.com/

Instagram: @sirr.leezus

Available for sessions, performances, and kink consultations.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

The Surprising Truth About BDSM with Sir Leezus | Ep. 93, Part 1

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?

In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter.

If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or like your desires don’t fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let’s get into it.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:47) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant."

(01:18) - What is a sensual sadist dominant?

(02:23) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism

(03:53) - Can kink be healing from past trauma?

(07:18) - Does kink always involve sex?

(08:37) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism

(10:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up)

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he’s on a mission to break down shame and open up new paths to pleasure.

Connect with Sir Leezus:

Website: https://sirleezus.com/

Instagram: https://instagram.com/sirr.leezus

Available for sessions, performances, and kink consultations.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

13 Spots Men NEVER Touch (But Women Beg For) | Ep 92

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0400

Think you know what turns you on? Think again. We tend to treat pleasure like it lives in a few familiar places—the usual G-spots, the go-to zones we all default to. But the truth? Your entire skin is wired for sensation. Your body is a playground of possibility… and chances are, you’re only exploring a fraction of it.

In this episode, I’m taking you beyond the basics—past the genitals, breasts, and all the usual G-spots—to uncover the overlooked 13 erogenous zones that can completely transform your experience of desire. No penetration required. Just curiosity, presence, and a willingness to explore what’s been hiding in plain sight.

From the power of the brain (yes, it’s your sexiest organ) to the often-ignored backs of your knees (seriously!), I’m showing you how to awaken your body in unexpected ways—ways that build anticipation, deepen connection, and redefine pleasure entirely.

If your sex life feels a little too routine—or you’re just ready to feel more alive in your own skin—this episode is a must listen! Let’s unlock the pleasure you didn’t know you were missing.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction
(01:32) Brain as the biggest sex organ (Did you know you can orgasm without any touch?)
(01:58) The skin: Your body’s largest erogenous zone
(02:30) Lips & tongue: Beyond kissing—creative ways to tease and tantalize
(03:22) The neck, clavicle, and ears: Slow, sensual exploration
(04:20) Fingers: How to use them everywhere (plus combining touch with lips)
(05:05) Armpits and inner arms: Surprising zones for some, turn-offs for others—how to navigate
(05:34) The sides of the torso and thighs: The art of the tease
(06:04) Behind the knees: My personal favorite
(06:16) Feet: Beyond fetishes—how gentle touch can ignite full-body arousal
(06:45) Outercourse: Why pleasure doesn’t need to lead to intercourse
(07:18) Mindfulness: How being present amplifies sensation (per Peggy Kleinplatz’s Magnificent Sex)
(07:57) Cannabis and sex: Can it heighten pleasure?
(08:41) Final takeaway: Pleasure is limitless

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Boost Your Confidence In The Bedroom with Orisha Re’ Lampkin | Ep 91

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 00:01:00 -0400

What if the biggest obstacle to pleasure in the bedroom… isn’t your partner, but the stories you tell yourself about your own body?

What if confidence, connection, and mind-blowing pleasure weren’t things you had to chase—but things you could unlock from within?

In this episode, I sit down with Orisha Re’ Lampkin—movement alchemist, pleasure revolutionary, and founder of Fearless Revolution—to dismantle the myths keeping women from fully owning their sensuality. We dive deep into how cultural conditioning, body shame, and self-doubt smother our sexual spark… and how movement, mindset, and yes—even moaning—can reignite it.

From Lip Service Mastery (70+ ways to delight with hands and mouth) to Dirty Talk for the Shy Girl, and how to turn washing dishes into foreplay—this conversation is your permission slip to feel powerful, present, and unapologetically turned on—exactly as you are.

Some of what Orisha shares will surprise you. Some might make you squirm. But all of it will bring you closer to your most radiant, turned-on, fully alive self.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction
(00:29) Meet Orisha – movement expert, sensuality coach & fearless feminine leader
(02:05) “Seduce Your Sexy” – Orisha’s transformational movement class
(04:39) The power of movement in boosting self-love and intimacy
(05:43) “Floating arms” – a deceptively simple exercise that changes everything
(07:42) How the MINDBODY connection amplifies pleasure
(09:02) The sexiest move? The flowing figure eight—perfected while doing dishes
(11:16) Dirty Talk 101 – why your tone matters more than the words
(12:35) Vocalizations as the first step into sexy self-expression
(14:22) How to sext like a pro
(15:08) Lip Service Mastery – 70+ hand and mouth moves that actually work
(19:06) The “Hitchhiker” – a game-changing warmup technique
(20:07) The 4-second rule: slow it down and build anticipation
(22:24) “Lover’s Moves” – blindfolds, earbuds, and an unforgettable partner experience
(24:48) In-person & virtual classes in Midtown East (and how to join)
(25:22) Orisha’s empowering definition of sex

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest

Orisha Re’ Lampkin is a health and wellness coach, movement expert, and the founder of Fearless Revolution, a transformational journey designed to help women reclaim their sensuality and power. With 30+ years of experience in fitness, corrective exercise, and NLP, she blends playfulness with profound healing to help women embody their erotic truth and fully own their pleasure.

Connect with Orisha here:

Fearless Revolution Website https://www.fearless-revolution.com/
TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@fearlessrevolution?lang=en
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fearlessrevolutionfitness/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Fearless-ReVolution-101671732021027
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC58a6A3vNb82HUkwJ7zKmcA
LinkedIn http://www.linkedin.com/in/orisha-re-lampkin-bb2b79215

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

10 Realistic Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life | Ep 90

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Ever feel like your sex life is on autopilot? We’ve all been there – the same routine, the same positions, the same predictable outcome. What if I told you your sex life could be playful, adventurous, and deeply satisfying again? Routine can be the death of passion—but it doesn’t have to be.

In this episode, I delve into 10 ways to have better sex and break free from "wallpaper sex" (you know, the same old routine). Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or exploring solo pleasure, these tips will help you reconnect with pleasure, curiosity, and fun. Some of these tips will surprise you. Some might even make you blush. But one thing’s for sure—you’ll never look at pleasure the same way again!

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction
(00:15) The problem with "wallpaper sex"
(00:34) Naked dates
(00:58) Clothed sex with no genitals involved
(01:11) Mutual masturbation – why watching is half the fun
(01:30) Shower sex (safety first)
(01:50) Sexy card games to unlock fantasies you’ve been too shy to share
(02:16) Watching ethical porn sites like MakeLoveNotPorn
(03:05) Sexting like a pro (steamy examples included)
(03:28) "Sex snacking" – tiny touches that keep the spark alive
(03:52) Surprise your partner – the fur coat reveal (my signature move)
(04:12) Change location – break free from the bedroom

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Cougar Confessions with Cindy Gallop | Ep 89

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Who says turning 65 means giving up amazing sex and settling for solitude? Just because you don’t have a husband or kids doesn’t mean life has to be dull—if anything, it means you’re free to live exactly how you want.

In this episode, I sit down with Cindy Gallop, a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, to challenge outdated beliefs about aging, sex, and relationships. Cindy’s fearless approach to life proves that getting older isn’t about slowing down—it’s about embracing what you truly want.

We dive into why she chooses to date younger men, why marriage and kids were never part of her plan, and how we can all redefine intimacy, confidence, and pleasure as we age. Plus, Cindy shares how MakeLoveNotPorn is changing the conversation around real-world sex and helping people feel seen, accepted, and empowered. She also dives deep into how MakeLoveNotPorn differs from OnlyFans, the unique challenges they face—especially the uphill battle of advertising bans on social media.

It’s time to step into a world where sex is shame-free, open, and truly fulfilling. Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction to Cindy Gallop
(01:09) No husband, no kids: Ultimate self-care routine
(02:27) Dating younger men—casually, unapologetically, and on her own terms
(02:32) The problem with society’s lack of role models for aging women
(03:07) Body image, menopause, and post-menopausal pride
(03:52) Why she proudly shouts her age (65!) and the power of #SayYourAge
(04:19) MakeLoveNotPorn: The platform changing how we talk about real-world sex
(05:27) The lube: Why there’s no such thing as “too much”
(06:36) Cindy on finding the confidence to date younger men
(07:14) The glaring double standard: Older men vs. older women in dating
(08:47) Cindy’s revelation: Being every young guy’s fantasy
(09:25) The rise of niche dating sites—and how to find the right one for you
(13:29) What MakeLoveNotPorn celebrates
(14:39) How MakeLoveNotPorn stands apart from ethical porn
(16:56) The Social Sex Revolution: Why we need to talk about real sex
(19:40) OnlyFans vs. MakeLoveNotPorn: The key differences
(21:15) Challenges in Promoting MakeLoveNotPorn: Censorship, stigma, and funding struggles
(23:30) What makes someone sexy?
(24:40) Join and subscribe to MakeLoveNotPorn and Wefunder campaign
(25:52) Cindy’s definition of sex

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Cindy Gallop is a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn—the "real-world sex" platform challenging porn’s unrealistic narratives. A vocal advocate for aging, sexuality, and gender equality, Cindy’s work has been featured in TED Talks, The New York Times, and beyond.

You can find Cindy Gallop here:

MakeLoveNotPorn Website: https://makelovenotporn.tv/

Wefunder Equity Crowdfunding Campaign: https://wefunder.com/makelovenotporn

Watch Cindy’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc

Website: https://cindygallop.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cindygallop/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindygallop/?hl=en

X: https://x.com/cindygallop

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Surprising Truth About Testosterone Therapy | Ep 88

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I dive into the benefits of testosterone for women. I share my own experience with testosterone therapy and how it helps me with everything from libido and orgasms to brain fog and muscle mass.

It’s not just about sex drive—testosterone also helps with bone strength, hot flashes, and even Alzheimer’s prevention. I break down how it’s prescribed, why proper dosing is so important, and why you should never borrow your husband’s testosterone (trust me, I’ve got a wild story about that).

Whether you’re curious about testosterone, considering hormone therapy, or just want to feel your best during menopause, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it!

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction
(01:03) Testosterone’s role in women’s health.
(02:24) Benefits: libido, orgasms, brain fog, muscle mass, bone strength, Alzheimer’s prevention.
(03:27) How testosterone is prescribed and why baseline testing matters.
(04:31) Risks of misuse and why women need lower doses than men.
(05:33) Off-label use and delivery methods (gels, creams, pellets).
(06:26) Exercise and protein’s role in maximizing testosterone’s benefits.
(07:18) Recap: Testosterone with estrogen & progesterone.
(08:20) Closing remarks

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Estrogen: The Controversial Menopause Fix with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi | Ep 87

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Estrogen plays a role in your brain, bones, skin, and even your heart. When menopause hits and estrogen levels drop, the ripple effects can be dramatic—affecting everything from your mood and energy to your libido and long-term health.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, a board-certified OB-GYN, menopause expert, sex coach, and host of The Muslim Sex Podcast to talk about everything from the forgotten sex-positive history of Islam to painful sex during perimenopause that is so common but rarely discussed, and the ongoing debate over estrogen hormone therapy. If you’re in perimenopause (or just wondering what’s ahead), this episode will change the way you see your body—and give you the tools to take charge of your health. Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction to Dr. Sadaf Lodhi
(02:08) Islam and erotology: The surprising sex-positive history
(03:58) How colonization erased a sex-positive culture and changed everything
(06:30) Religion, sex, and clients: How Dr. Sadaf approaches coaching
(07:21) Vaginismus and painful penetration
(10:23) Why pain with sex accelerates during perimenopause and menopause
(11:19) The role of vaginal estrogen in reducing painful sex
(12:03) Why the urethra gets bigger during menopause—and the risk of bladder infections
(12:36) Contraindications for vaginal estrogen use
(13:05) Why you should use vaginal estrogen even in perimenopause
(14:07) Why doctors should start the menopause conversation at 35 (including ovarian insufficiency)
(16:03) The hormone therapy debate: What you need to know
(17:15) Should women take testosterone?
(23:47) The ideal time for estrogen therapy: When to start and why
(26:11) Dr. Sadaf’s upcoming retreat: Love, Nourish, and Thrive

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Sadaf Lodhi is a board-certified OB GYN with over 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual and menopausal health. She is the founder of Femme Vie Health, a concierge gynecology practice in New York, and provides telehealth services in Michigan. A certified sexual health specialist and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she is dedicated to empowering women through education and advocacy.

Dr. Lodhi hosts The Muslim Sex Podcast, making sexual and menopausal health accessible globally. She delivered a TEDx talk on sexual education for physicians and was honored as the 2024 Alumni of the Year by the University of Michigan - Dearborn. She is also a contributing author in Thriving After Burnout.

Connect with Dr. Sadaf:

Website

Instagram

Podcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Prescription Drugs & Hormone Therapy for Low Libido | Ep 86

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Low libido, or hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), can be a tough challenge for many women, particularly during midlife.

In this episode, I take a closer look at the various medical treatments available for low libido, covering everything from prescription medications to hormone therapy and beyond. Whether you're dealing with hormonal shifts, relationship challenges, or simply feeling drained, this episode offers practical advice and solutions to help you regain your sexual vitality and feel more like yourself again.

If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to subscribe, share with someone who might benefit, and leave a review! Let’s continue the conversation and break the stigma around libido and midlife—together.

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) - Introduction
(00:01:12) - What causes low libido?
(00:02:08) - Factors contributing to low libido
(00:03:19) - Overview of prescription drugs
(00:04:22) - How Addyi works
(00:05:33) - Vyleesi overview
(00:06:34) - Viagra and Cialis for women
(00:07:35) - Testosterone and hormone therapy
(00:08:35) - Wellbutrin and libido
(00:08:35) - Cannabis and libido

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Truth about Hormone Replacement Therapy and Breast Cancer | Ep 85

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Menopause isn’t a disease. So why does the world treat it like one? The whispers start early. Get ready—your body is about to betray you. The fear. The shame. The idea that once you hit a certain age, you’re less vibrant, less desirable, less… you. But what if that’s all a lie?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a renowned OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and author of Menopause Bootcamp, to break down the myths, misconceptions, and truths about menopause. From the science behind hormonal changes to the emotional and societal impacts, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating—or preparing for—this life stage.

We explore why menopause isn’t a disease, how hormone therapy can be a game-changer, and why the fear of breast cancer shouldn’t overshadow the benefits of treatment. Plus, we tackle the buzzwords like “natural” and “bioidentical,” and discuss the role of lifestyle, diet, and community in thriving through menopause.

This isn’t just a conversation about hormones—it’s about reclaiming power, understanding our bodies, and embracing the wisdom that comes with age. Are you ready to redefine menopause? Let’s dive in!

About the Guest:

Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is a board-certified OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and advocate for integrative medicine. She is the author of Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Yourself, and Flourish as You Age and a frequent media contributor, including as the Chief Medical Correspondent for The Drew Barrymore Show. Dr. Suzanne is passionate about empowering women to take control of their health and embrace menopause as a transformative life stage.

You can find Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz here:

Website

Instagram

Book

Timestamps:

(00:47) Introduction to Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz
(01:46) What is perimenopause and menopause?
(05:13) The wide-ranging symptoms of perimenopause
(08:02) The rise of antidepressants during menopause
(09:41) The truth about hormone therapy
(20:23) When to start hormone therapy
(25:33) Busting the biggest myths about breast cancer risk
(27:59) Hormone therapy and osteoporosis
(29:07) The overlooked cancer risks you should know about
(32:52) Natural vs. Bioidentical Hormones: What’s the real difference?
(39:42) Can lifestyle choices make menopause easier?
(43:03) Menopause Boot Camp & what’s next on the journey

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Squirting and Midlife Sex: What’s Real, What’s Hype, and How to Explore It | Ep 84

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Is squirting the ultimate out-of-body orgasmic experience, or just another overhyped sex myth? Some women swear it’s euphoric, others feel indifferent, and some want nothing to do with it. But what is squirting, really? Is it just pee? Is it something every woman can do? And how can you (or your partner) experience it?

In this episode, I break down the science and psychology behind squirting, from the anatomy of the female body to techniques that can lead to female ejaculation. Plus, we talk about the mental blocks that might be holding you back—and why preparation (hello, waterproof sheets!) is key.

Are we too caught up in the mechanics of it all? Or is squirting just another way to explore pleasure without shame? Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00) What people really think about squirting
(00:58) What is squirting? Breaking down the myths
(02:47) Female anatomy: Understanding the Skene’s glands
(03:47) The technique: How squirting happens (and how to try it)
(04:41) The psychological side: Overcoming mental blocks and shame
(05:37) Final thoughts: Is squirting worth the hype?

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Reclaiming Power: Sex Work, Justice & Norma Buster’s Fight Against Online Abuse | Ep 83

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 00:01:00 -0400

What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared?

At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn’t back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change.

In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why do abusers get more protection than victims? How do tech platforms keep enabling harm? And what can we do about it?

We’ll also explore the blurred lines between online sex work and exploitation, the problem with calling it “revenge porn,” and how Norma found power in the unlikeliest of places—including OnlyFans.

This isn’t just a story. It’s a wake up call. Are you ready? Let’s get into it!

Timestamps:

(00:39) Introduction to Norma Buster
(01:50) Norma’s story: Surviving stalking and image-based abuse from ex-boyfriend
(04:48) The legal fight: How laws fail victims of revenge porn
(09:04) Tech-facilitated abuse: When the internet becomes a weapon
(11:03) Why sex workers need legal protection/Sex Work and Decriminalization
(14:44) Is OnlyFans legal?
(15:00) The difference between legalization and decriminalization
(16:36) Norma's journey to OnlyFans
(20:12)The therapeutic aspect of sex work
(24:07) How her advocacy impacts dating and relationships
(27:01) Norma's definition of sex

About the Guest:

Norma Buster is a sex-positive victim’s rights advocate and the Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg, a law firm specializing in tech-facilitated abuse. Once a victim of image-based sexual abuse, she now fights for others in similar situations, advocating for stronger legal protections and digital safety. She’s also the creator and host of Oral Arguments, a podcast that explores the intersections of sex, tech, and the law.

You can find Norma here:

Website

Instagram

CA Goldberg Law Firm

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Midlife Dating: Red Flags to Run From, Green Flags to Stay For | Ep 82

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 00:01:00 -0400

You spot a red flag, and what do you do? Run. Someone’s still obsessed with their ex? Gone. Talks only about themselves? No thanks. Financially unstable in their 50s? Hard pass.

We’ve trained ourselves to scan for every possible warning sign before we even give someone a real chance. But here’s a thought—when was the last time you actively looked for green flags? The little signs that someone might actually be worth your time?

In this episode, I flip the script on dating and relationships. Sure, avoiding red flags is important, but what about spotting the signs that someone is actually worth your time? From emotional stability to simple acts of kindness (like holding the door or sending a thoughtful text), we’re diving into what makes a partner a keeper.

Are we so focused on running that we forget to notice when we should stay? Let’s talk about it.

Timestamps:

(01:07) The biggest red flags in dating after 50
(02:16) Why dating someone who’s “almost divorced” is a risky move
(02:16) The self-absorbed dater: how to spot them fast
(04:01) Why financial security matters more than ever
(05:01) The top green flags to look for in a potential partner
(06:03) How small gestures (like opening a door) say a lot
(07:05) Why a good relationship with an ex isn’t a bad thing

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The App That’s Saving Relationships (and Spicing Up Bedrooms) | Ep 81

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Let’s cut to the chase: relationships are hard. And let’s be honest, keeping the spark alive? Even harder. Between work, life, and the endless to-do list, intimacy often takes a backseat. But what if there was a way to flip the script? A way to not just save your relationship but make it hotter, deeper, and more exciting than ever?

In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, head of research at Couples Wellness for the app Arya.fyi and a PhD student at the University of Washington. We dive into the world of Arya.fyi, this incredible couples' wellness platform that’s all about helping partners explore and deepen their connection. Nicholas shares how Arya.fyi combines entertainment with education, offering everything from playful quizzes and customizable erotica to expert-led videos on topics like sensory play and even the history of kink. We also talk about how the app uses a mix of AI and human experts to guide users through personalized experiences. Ever felt nervous about bringing up a new idea with your partner? Or maybe you’ve struggled to find the right words to talk about what you want? Arya.fyi’s got your back, making those conversations easier and way less awkward.

So, why is this app the talk of the town? And could it be the missing piece your relationship has been waiting for? Let’s just say, your bedroom might thank you later. Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) Introduction to Nicholas Velotta
(00:01:22) What is the Arya.fyi app?
(00:02:55) How couples find Arya.fyi
(00:06:18) The AI and human concierge
(00:07:34) Fun and educational activities on Arya.fyi
(00:10:57) 80% of users seek relationship advice
(00:12:47) Can technology enhance intimacy?
(00:14:36) The future of intimacy and technology
(00:17:42) Sensory play is the #1 request
(00:20:43) Sexual confidence and exploration
(00:21:49) The importance of safety in relationships
(00:23:31) AI in relationships: friend or foe?
(00:25:22) What is sex, really?
(00:26:34) The future of AI and human interaction

About the Guest:

Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist whose work examines the intersection of technology and IRL intimate relationships. As the Head of Relationship Research at one of the world's first "relationship wellness" apps, Arya, Nicholas develops psychological profiles of our intimate and erotic selves using a vast archive of user data. In addition to investigating the nuances of intimate relationships using never-before-available data, he crafts AI-enhanced algorithms to curate digital content and physical goodies that increase relationship satisfaction. Nicholas is also a Ph.D. student at the University of Washington who, somehow, finds time to post explainer videos on social media...as well as the occasional meme. :)

You can find Nicholas here:

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Orgasm Equation: Science, Pleasure, and Everything In Between | Ep 80

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 00:01:00 -0400

We all know orgasms feel incredible, but how often do we actually stop and explore what they really mean?

In this episode, I walk you through the science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm—the heart-racing, muscle-contracting, hormone-releasing magic that feels so good. We also take an honest look at how men and women experience orgasms differently: why women often need more time to get in the mood, and how men can experience orgasms without ejaculation.

But this isn’t just about anatomy or science; it’s about YOU. I share personal stories, including one about a friend who experiences orgasms from exercise (yes, you read that right!), and how communication, curiosity, and a little playfulness can transform your intimate experiences. Plus, we explore why orgasms aren’t just about pleasure—they’re great for your health, too. Better sleep, lower stress, and even a stronger immune system? Yes, please.

Whether you’re looking to deepen your connection with a partner, understand your own body more intimately, or simply enjoy life’s pleasures to the fullest, this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

(00:00) Introduction
(00:50) What is an orgasm, really?
(01:24) The science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm
(03:35) The different types of orgasms
(06:57) How male orgasms differ from female orgasms
(08:22) Why men tend to get aroused more quickly than women
(09:03) The health benefits of orgasms
(09:45) Some unexpected areas of the body that can enhance orgasm
(10:04) The brain is your biggest sex organ

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

The Power of Somatic Practices: Transforming Relationships and Intimacy with Kiana Reeves | Ep 79

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 00:01:00 -0400

How do emotional and sexual wellness intertwine to redefine intimacy in midlife?

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves for a deep dive into the evolving dynamics of relationships and sexual intimacy, particularly during midlife. We talk about the vital connection between emotional and sexual well-being, exploring how authentic communication and intentional practices can transform both personal and partnered experiences.

Kiana shares her expertise on somatic approaches to intimacy, offering insights into how cultivating love, safety, and embodiment can lead to a richer, more fulfilling sexual life. We also discuss the power of redefining conventional expectations, embracing vulnerability, and fostering deeper connection as key components of a vibrant midlife journey.

Whether you’re navigating changes in your relationships, seeking tools to enhance intimacy, or simply curious about the intersection of emotional and physical wellness, this episode provides thoughtful reflections and actionable tips to help you feel more connected, confident, and alive.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction
(01:34) The empowering world of somatics
(04:29) Exploring different somatic practices
(06:09) Why it’s important to clearly communicate your desires and needs
(10:14) The emotional complexity of casual encounters
(17:08) How to reignite connection as a long-term couple
(24:53) Breaking the tug-of-war of needs in partnerships
(27:00) Kiana’s inspiring journey of motherhood and self-discovery

Kiana Reeves

Website: https://www.kianareeves.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kiana.reeves/

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Lessons from Babygirl: Power, Kink, and Midlife Intimacy | Ep 78

Sat, 18 Jan 2025 00:01:00 -0400

What’s the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?

In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.

From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society’s evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships.

Whether you’re curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction
(01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink?
(06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression
(07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner
(08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partners

Mentioned:

Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/
Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Is Your Definition of Monogamy Killing Your Relationship? | Ep 77

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Monogamy might seem simple on the surface, but is it really? In this episode, I dive into the often-overlooked complexities of what it means to be monogamous, especially in midlife relationships. From historical roots to modern interpretations, I explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape our definitions of fidelity.

I also share personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and tips to help you clarify expectations and strengthen communication with your partner. Whether you’re starting a new relationship or redefining an existing one, this episode is all about creating clarity and connection.

Timestamps:

(01:10) Different perspectives on monogamy
(02:23) A little history about monogamy
(03:34) Why it’s important to clearly define monogamy
(04:38) Why personal boundaries matter—and how to define them
(06:40) What “cheating” means to different people (and why it’s not always clear).
(07:32) Is a "work spouse" considered cheating?
(07:38) Nesting after divorce for the kids’ sake
(07:45) Is attending a sex party without participating a form of cheating?
(09:28) Why monogamy is based on religious models
(09:47) How our upbringing shapes our views on monogamy

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Shame, Morality, and Sex Addiction: Is It Time for a Change? | Ep 76

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Heather McPherson, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, to explore the complexities of sex addiction and its societal perceptions. Why are we so quick to label and judge? Heather dives into the origins of the sex addiction diagnosis and critiques its impact, advocating for a harm-reduction and education-focused approach instead. We also take a deep dive into sexual health, consent in non-traditional relationships like kink, polyamory, and open relationships—are therapists equipped to understand these dynamics? Heather explains why proper training is essential. Plus, she expands on how we define sex itself, pushing for a broader, pleasure-centered perspective. Curious about the future of sexual health education and community? This conversation is sure to make you rethink everything! Let's dive in!

About the Guest:

Heather McPherson is a licensed marriage and family therapist, entrepreneur, and the CEO and founder of Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a leading provider of education and certification for sexuality professionals. She is also the founder of the ReSpark Group, a national brand offering group therapy and a non-profit organization. Licensed in Colorado, Washington, and Texas, Heather specializes in sexual health and relationships. An AASECT-certified sex therapist, she's been featured in Playboy, CNN, and Rolling Stone. Heather’s passion lies in providing high-quality, evidence-based training for professionals in the field.

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Timestamps:

(00:00:01) Introduction to Heather
(00:02:09) What exactly is “sex addiction”?
(00:06:11) Sex addiction vs porn addiction
(00:14:07) The six guiding principles of sexual health
(00:18:19) Integrating religion and sexuality
(00:22:35) Gender differences in sex addiction
(00:25:53) Evolution of sex therapy
(00:28:54) Curriculum development for sexual health
(00:31:19) How to become a certified sex therapist
(00:35:49) Community importance in sexual health

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Introducing Season 4: The Greatest Secrets to Revitalizing your Sex Life in Midlife

Wed, 01 Jan 2025 00:01:00 -0400

Hey there, and welcome to Season 4 of the Taboo to Truth podcast! I’m your host, Karen Bigman, and I’m thrilled to have you with me for another season of unapologetic conversations about sexuality in midlife. Whether you're navigating a dwindling libido, struggling with sexual health changes, or just trying to understand what's happening to your body during menopause, I’m here to talk about it all. This podcast is all about breaking the silence around these topics and creating a safe, supportive space where no question is too awkward or taboo.

This season, I’m on a mission to help you rewire your desire and spice things up after 50. I’m bringing in a wide range of experts—from sex addiction specialists to sex technology gurus—and I’ll be teaching you techniques to make your sex life even better. I want you to feel empowered to explore what works best for you, so get ready to dive in and learn something new!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

5 Secrets to Turning Up the Heat in 2025: Better Sex Starts Here! | Ep 75

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 00:01:00 -0400

As we countdown to the new year, it’s time to leave behind the dull sex life of 2024 and step into something hotter and more exciting. Want to know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom or even at your next sex party? In this episode,I’m sharing five tips for better sex in 2025.

What’s the secret? Well, let’s just say communication is key (but I’m not talking about just words), making time for sex is a must (yes, even if it means scheduling it), and being creative will totally change the game. Oh, and did I mention why not all sex is about the orgasm? Trust me, you’ll want to hear why.

Hit play, and let’s make 2025 the year of hotter, more thrilling sex. You won’t want to miss what’s coming next.

Timestamps:

(00:00:01) Introduction
(00:01:09) Tip 1: Communicate
(00:02:08) Tip 2: Make time for sex / Schedule your sex time
(00:02:28) Tip 3: Lubricate and make everything slippery
(00:03:12) Tip 4: Be creative / Try new things
(00:03:43) Tip 5: Don’t focus on the outcome / Orgasm
(00:04:31) Closing remarks

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

5 Must-Read Books That'll Ignite Your Passion This Holiday Season! | Ep 74

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 00:01:00 -0400

The holidays are here, and with 2025 knocking on the door, how are you preparing to step into the new year? Sure, a cozy holiday read is great, but what if you could unwrap something truly transformative this season?

In this episode, I’m sharing my top five midlife must-reads—books that dive into health, relationships, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of midlife. These picks are designed to help you embrace your journey, understand your body, and redefine your purpose.

Midlife isn’t just a season of life; it’s a chance to thrive in new ways. So, why not lean into the conversations we sometimes avoid? Let’s grow, feel empowered, and take on 2025 with clarity and confidence. Ready to dive in? Let’s go!

Links to Books:

Timestamps:

(00:00:01) Introduction to the Episode
(00:00:23) Book Recommendations for the Holidays
(00:01:23) Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz
(00:02:37) The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver
(00:02:37) Love Life by Matthew Hussey
(00:03:33) Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein
(00:03:33) Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue
(00:04:47) Closing Remarks

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

When Men Talk About Sex: The Power of Vulnerability in Relationships | Ep 73

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I’m getting real about something that can completely transform your relationship: vulnerability. We often think of vulnerability as something women do, but here’s the truth—men can be just as willing to open up, and when they do, it’s absolutely amazing.

Here’s the thing: men and women aren’t as different as we think. The fears women have about aging, like changes to our bodies or confidence, are so similar to what men go through. For men, things like erectile dysfunction can feel like their whole identity is being questioned. But just like we’re learning to embrace the changes in ourselves, they can too—and we can help each other through it.

If this sounds like something you and your partner need, hit that play button and let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:06) Event recap: Embracing Midlife Sexuality

(00:02:13) Importance of men being given space for vulnerability

(00:03:16) Normalizing conversations about aging and sexuality

(00:04:20) Encouraging playful and creative approaches to intimacy

(00:05:24) Upcoming event: Hot Flashes and Hot Nights

(00:06:20) Redefining sex and aging

(00:07:24) Adding humor and playfulness to sex

(00:08:14) Importance of discussing sex openly with partners

(00:09:20) Communication and vulnerability in relationships

(00:10:10) Conclusion and call to action

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Sex, Hormones & Menopause with Dr. Irwin & Sue Goldstein | Ep 72

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein to tackle the taboo around menopause and women’s sexual health. Why is it that we still don’t talk about what’s really happening in our bodies during menopause? It’s not just about hot flashes—there’s so much more going on beneath the surface that impacts everything from our physical health to our sexuality. Sue cuts through the noise about bioidentical hormones, while Dr. Irwin introduces us to a groundbreaking technique—a game-changer for understanding your own body. We’re breaking down the myths around hormone therapy, talking about why patient education and personalized care matter, and challenging the shame that keeps these conversations in the dark.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:05) Meet Dr. Irwin and Dr. Sue

(04:36) Secrets to a long marriage

(07:25) Menopause vs. male counterparts

(10:06) Recognizing menopause symptoms

(12:54) Hormonal support options

(18:08) Navigating perimenopause symptoms

(22:12) Vulvacoscopy

(30:45) Hormonal environment and tissue health

(35:00) Importance of hormonal monitoring

(40:15) Taboo surrounding female anatomy

(42:46) Consequences of untreated menopause

(44:48) Research and misconceptions about hormone therapy

Dr. Irwin Goldstein and Sue Goldstein are trailblazers in the field of sexual medicine. Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a renowned physician and researcher, has authored over 360 publications, making groundbreaking contributions that have shaped the modern understanding of sexual health. Sue Goldstein is a pioneering researcher and educator who has been instrumental in advancing knowledge of female sexual dysfunction. Together, they co-founded the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) in 2000, setting a global standard for research, education, and advocacy in women’s sexual health.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Breaking Sexual Shame in Midlife with Kaamna Bhojwani | Ep 71

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 00:01:00 -0400

On today's show, I caught up with Kamna Bhojwani at the Sexual Health Alliance conference, where her raw honesty about sexual shame instantly grabbed my attention. With three psychology degrees and a master's from Columbia specifically focused on sexual shame, Kamna cuts through the bullshit to address what's really holding us back in midlife. We get real about everything - from awkward doctor visits to dating app disasters, from hormone changes to orgasm responsibilities. Whether you're divorced, dating, or just trying to figure out your changing body, this conversation tackles the shame that keeps us quiet and offers a fresh perspective on sexuality at any age.

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction

(01:02) Meet Kamna

(02:28) "Sexuality isn't just about sex"

(05:10) Divorced & Dating: The New Rules

(08:04) "Why won't doctors talk about lube?"

(10:31) Men need help too

(12:21) Dating apps: Tool or Terror?

(14:34) "I got this, watch me"

(17:43) Finding your sexual power at 60+

(21:02) What even is sex, anyway?

Kaamna Bhojwani is a Certified Sexologist, sexuality researcher, educator and thought leader. Kaamna specializes in sexual shame which she studied most recently at Columbia University and is currently building the world’s first cross-cultural data set to understand its origins, nature and consequences.

Find Kaamna here.

Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Glorious Clitoris | Ep 70

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 01:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered why the clitoris is often misunderstood, despite being the ultimate pleasure powerhouse? Did you know it has over 10,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body?

In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of the clitoris, an organ uniquely designed for pleasure. I break down its anatomy, both external and internal, and explain why it’s so vital for sexual satisfaction. I also tackle misconceptions, explore how menopause impacts sensitivity, and share actionable tips for self-exploration and partner education. My goal is to empower you to understand your body better, embrace your pleasure, and enhance intimacy. Let’s celebrate the glorious clitoris and what it means for your sexual wellness.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:17) The unique purpose of the clitoris

(02:24) Anatomy of the clitoris

(04:20) Misconceptions about the clitoris

(05:28) The G-spot explained

(06:37) Model demonstration of vulva anatomy

(07:40) Nerve endings and sensitivity

(08:43) Menopause and sensitivity changes

(09:46) Encouragement for women to explore their bodies

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Hot Flashes & Hot Nights, Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Art of Receiving with Shauna Stewart | Ep 69

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing expectations, and creating space for genuine connection in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:41) - The Importance of Receiving Pleasure

(02:13) - Cultural Pressures on Women and Self-Care

(04:54) - Learning to Accept Help

(05:44) - Exploring Intimacy and Communication

(07:00) - Understanding Personal Preferences in Pleasure

(12:38) - The Role of Stress in Intimacy

(16:03) - Using the Erotic Blueprints for Exploration

(21:01) - Final Thoughts and Resources

Listen to the Life Turned On Podcast

Visit the Linger Boutique

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Is Marriage the Problem with Your Sex Life? | Ep 68

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:39) - Origins as a Financial Contract

(01:04) - Today's Marriage Success Rates

(01:37) - Chemistry: From Sparks to Comfort

(02:00) - Marriage's Unspoken Expectations

(02:29) - Trading Intimacy for Chores

(03:43) - Signs of Lasting Love

(04:17) - Breaking the Silence

(05:19) - Small Steps to Reconnection

(06:28) - Creating Playful Surprises

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Your Best Solo Sex Experience | Ep. 67

Sun, 10 Nov 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:46) - Schedule change announcement

(01:15) - Creating the perfect environment

(02:30) - Exploring toys and pleasure tools

(03:15) - Mindful body awareness techniques

(04:00) - Using audio and visual resources

(05:16) - Closing thoughts and next episode

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The Science of Better Sex with Dr. Emily Jamea | Ep. 66

Sun, 03 Nov 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives about midlife sexuality, offering hope and practical guidance for couples at any life stage.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:05) - Meet Dr. Emily Jamea

(03:06) - Moving Beyond "Dysfunction" Language

(07:04) - Gender and Desire in Midlife

(15:54) - The Five Secrets Framework Revealed

(20:32) - Understanding the Phases of Sexual Connection

(24:21) - Single Life and Relationship Readiness

(27:35) - Lifelong Sexuality

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Find Dr. Emily Jamea here:

https://emilyjamea.com/

https://emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast/

Instagram: @dremilyjamea

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea/

FB https://www.facebook.com/dremilyjamea

Pre-order book: https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/

Finding My Purpose: Menopause, Sex , and Self-Discovery | Ep 65

Sun, 27 Oct 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth. As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body

(00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach

(04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expect

(06:45) – You’re Not Alone: Encouragement for Navigating Menopause

(08:00) – The Importance of Sexual Health for Overall Well-Being

(09:30) – Exploring New Sexual Experiences and Breaking the Vanilla Routine

(11:15) – Personal Reflections: Dating Apps, Relationships, and Lessons Learned

(13:20) – What’s Next: Upcoming Guests and Topics to Look Forward To

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Core Play vs Foreplay: Redefining Sex in Midlife with Dr. Rachel Zar | Ep 64

Sun, 20 Oct 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren’t equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly connected with our bodies. This episode is all about breaking the silence, reclaiming our sexual well-being, and moving toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Desire Discrepancy

(00:17) - Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:04) - Meet Dr. Rachel Zar

(02:05) - What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

(03:17) - Understanding Sexual Therapy Training

(05:14) - Common Issues in Sex Therapy

(10:30) - Navigating Painful Sex and Low Libido

(15:01) - The Importance of Education and Awareness

(22:37) - Understanding Foreplay vs Core Play

(30:52) - The Role of Exercise in Enhancing Sex

(31:36) - Kink Affirmative Therapy Explained

(40:43) - The Definition of Sex and Its Spectrum

(41:18) - Conclusion and Resources for Listeners

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Connect with Dr. Rachel Zar:

Website: https://www.rachelzartherapy.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-zar-phd-lmft-cst-107a9610/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelzartherapy/

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Real Talk about Herpes: Reducing Risk and Breaking Shame | Ep 63

Sun, 13 Oct 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I tackle the often stigmatized topic of herpes and STIs in midlife. Dating can be complicated enough without the added stress of navigating STIs, particularly herpes. I share my personal experiences and insights, aiming to break the silence and dispel common myths surrounding this condition. Herpes is not life-threatening, and many people live with it without significant issues. By focusing on open communication and honesty, I emphasize the importance of talking about sexual health with partners. My goal is to create a supportive environment for candid discussions about herpes and other STIs. Together, we’ll explore how to manage these realities while still enjoying a healthy and fulfilling sex life.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction to STIs and Herpes

(01:12) – Stigma Surrounding Herpes

(02:11) – Personal Experience with a Partner

(04:00) – Understanding Herpes Transmission

(10:41) – The Importance of Disclosure

(15:19) – Navigating Relationships with Herpes

(17:32) – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Healing through Kink with Sexologist Lilith Foxx | Ep 62

Sun, 06 Oct 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with Lilith Foxx, a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous marketing professional turned board-certified sexologist. Lilith, an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, professional speaker, coach, and diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging consultant, shares her journey from tech marketing to becoming a prominent figure in the world of BDSM and sexual education. I delve into her personal experiences with BDSM, how it has empowered her, and her professional insights on navigating kink safely and consensually. Whether you're curious about BDSM, looking to explore your own desires, or seeking to understand the intersectionality of marginalized identities within alternative sexualities, this episode offers valuable perspectives and practical advice.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:32) – Meet Lilith Foxx: BIPOC, Queer, Neurodivergent, Kinky, and Polyamorous Sexologist

(01:54) – Lilith’s Journey: From Tech Marketing to Sexuality Education

(03:42) – Empowering Through Sexuality: Overcoming Assault and Embracing Kink

(04:41) – Kink is Not Therapy: The Importance of Mental Health Treatment

(06:09) – Reenacting Trauma: Psychological Risks and Rewards

(09:16) – Navigating Consent and Communication in BDSM

(12:45) – Understanding Kink and BDSM: Definitions and Misconceptions

(15:12) – Negotiating Boundaries and Consent in Kink

(16:03) – Starting Your BDSM Journey: Tips for Beginners

(19:05) – The Appeal of Pain and Masochism in BDSM

(22:40) – BDSM and Empowerment: Building Confidence and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

(23:32) – Inclusivity in Kink: Navigating Disabilities and Marginalized Identities

(25:30) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Where to Find Lilith Foxx:

Website: https://lilithfoxx.com/

Instagram, @TheLilithFoxx https://www.instagram.com/thelilithfoxx/

Twitter (X): https://twitter.com/thelilithfoxx

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelilithfoxx

Sex Shouldn't Hurt: Solutions for Pain-free Sex | Ep 61

Sun, 29 Sep 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, I revisit the topic of painful sex, specifically for women. I delve into the medical term for painful sex, dyspareunia, and explores various causes and solutions. I provide valuable insights into how women can redefine sex to include many other pleasurable activities that do not involve pain. I also discusses the importance of addressing painful sex and offers practical advice on treatments and therapies available to overcome this issue.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:25) – Revisiting the Topic of Painful Sex

(01:18) – Hormonal Changes and Painful Sex

(02:13) – Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause

(03:43) – Understanding Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

(05:03) – The Role of Lubricants in Reducing Pain

(06:08) – Tools and Products to Help with Painful Sex

(07:43) – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

(09:03) – Addressing Infections and Other Medical Issues

(10:28) – The Importance of Sex Therapy

(11:50) – Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration

(12:18) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Mentioned in the Episode:

https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-rings

https://hellobonafide.com/products/revaree

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Navigating Intimacy and Consent with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. | Ep 60

Sun, 22 Sep 2024 00:01:00 -0400

In this episode, we sit down with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, to discuss how men can improve their sex lives through emotional regulation, removing sexual entitlement, and enhancing consent and negotiation skills. Eric, an award-winning author, shares his personal journey and professional insights on creating healthier, more enjoyable sexual relationships. I also delve into his approach to addressing issues related to patriarchal norms, empathetic communication, and the importance of consent. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or exploring non-monogamy, this conversation offers valuable guidance on fostering deeper and more respectful connections.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:25) – Meet Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D.: Expert in Relationship and Sexual Issues

(01:37) – Eric's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Insights

(03:01) – Navigating Consent and Desire

(04:55) – Challenges Men Face in Modern Dating

(06:10) – The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships

(09:18) – Understanding Men's Emotional and Sexual Health

(19:54) – Addressing Common Misconceptions About Gender and Attachment

(23:14) – Practical Tips for Better Sexual Communication

(38:26) – Eric's Personal Experience with Polyamory

(44:05) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Where to find Eric:

Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/

Book: The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex

Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drericfitz/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drericfitz

Testosterone's vital role in Women's Health | Ep 59

Sun, 15 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis?

Check out this episode where we discuss:

The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido.
How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being.
Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:58) - A Rant on Testosterone Inequality

(02:01) - Understanding Testosterone in Women

(02:50) - Symptoms of Low Testosterone

(05:16) - Personal Experience with Testosterone

(08:29) - Forms of Testosterone Therapy

(10:48) - Benefits and Side Effects of Testosterone

(12:31) - Final Thoughts and Recommendations

(13:31) - Closing Remarks and Call to Action

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Sex Tech for Beginners with Ola Miedzynska | Ep 58

Sat, 07 Sep 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Breaking Barriers

In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska.

Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers.

Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy.

Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech

(00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology

(01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech

(02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry

(05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech

(08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech

(18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech

(20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform

(31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond

(34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education

(36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective

(37:40) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Register for the SxTech 2025 here

Check out Ola’s socials:

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Menopause to Prostate Health: Vibrators Are Not Just for Pleasure with Dr. Soum Rakshit | Ep 57

Sat, 31 Aug 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative Solutions

In this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness.

Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more.

He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues

(00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe

(01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices

(03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe

(05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain

(08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use

(09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health

(12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms

(20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices

(41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness

(43:28) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Soum Rakshit, FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way.

Check out Mystery Vibe

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Finding Love in Midlife - Stop Settling and Start Living | Ep 56

Sun, 25 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach.

Women often worry about whether he’ll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here’s what we explore in this episode:

The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partner
Navigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractions
How clear communication—both emotional and sexual—can build a stronger relationship

The key takeaway is to focus on what you truly value and deserve. Open up those lines of communication, both in your daily interactions and in bed. Let's break the cycle of settling and find connections that truly matter.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Navigating Menopause - Your Hormone Therapy Questions Answered | Ep 55

Sun, 18 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I explain the differences between bioidentical, synthetic, and natural hormones and various hormone delivery methods. I highlight the benefits of hormone therapy for managing menopausal symptoms and long-term health. The episode aims to provide women with the knowledge needed to navigate hormone therapy and improve their quality of life during menopause.

(01:49) Understanding Hormone Therapy

(05:03) Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones

(06:41) Compounded Hormones: Risks and Considerations

(10:32) The Importance of Proper Hormone Therapy

(12:19) Topical Estrogen

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

24 Sexuality Professionals Define Sex | Ep 54

Sun, 11 Aug 2024 07:05:00 -0400

Have you ever wondered what sex really means? This spring, I attended the Association of Sex Educators, Coaches, Counselors, and Therapists conference in St. Louis. I met remarkable professionals dedicated to fostering a more sex-positive world. Curious, I asked 24 of these experts—from sex therapists to professional cuddlers—what their definition of sex is.

Interestingly, "sex" means something different to everyone. From a sacred energy exchange vital to life to wonder, creativity, and lust all bundled in one. One interviewee emphasizes that sex transcends the physical—it's about identity, intimacy, and respectful connection, always with consent.

Join me as we dive deep into what "sex" means through a rich tapestry of perspectives.

Check out this episode where we discuss:

- The expanded definitions of sex beyond the physical act

- The importance of consent and respect in sexual encounters

- How pleasure, creativity, and curiosity define sex for different individuals

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Finding Love in Perimenopause How Alyssa Dineen Transformed Her Dating Life Post-Divorce | Ep 53

Sun, 04 Aug 2024 07:05:00 -0400

Jump into a riveting conversation that breaks down misconceptions and tackles the universal challenges of dating and sex in midlife. In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Dineen, a renowned dating coach, stylist, and author, as she shares her journey of rediscovery post-divorce. From navigating the intimidating world of online dating to revealing personal stories of "losing her second virginity," Alyssa’s candid dialogue is both inspiring and downright hilarious.

Check out this episode where we discuss:

Navigating the hurdles of online dating post-divorce
Dealing with sexual insecurities and STDs
Embracing intimacy and redefining personal boundaries in midlife

Join us as we dig deep into these crucial talks. Alyssa’s experiences highlight how courage, honesty, and a bit of humor can make rediscovering oneself a transformative journey. We’ll strip away the taboos and bring open-hearted discussions to the forefront.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Exploring Non-Monogamy Is It Right for Your Relationship | Ep 52

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 15:00:00 -0400

This episode is a replay of one of our most popular episodes since launching last September.

In this episode, I delve into non-monogamy, a topic stirring a lot of curiosity, especially among those in long-term relationships. I discuss what non-monogamy is, various forms it can take, like swinging and polyamory, and how it might either revitalize or challenge your relationship. This isn't an endorsement of any lifestyle but rather an exploration of different relationship paradigms. If you’re curious and have questions, head over to my website and use the form to ask me anonymously.

Our discussion also ventures into the historical context of monogamy, the evolving roles within relationships, and the importance of trust and communication when considering non-monogamy. It’s crucial to ensure both partners are secure and comfortable with this choice. Whether you're in a long-term commitment looking to spice things up or simply exploring options, join me with your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s break the silence together. Remember, it’s okay to ask and discuss these topics openly.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

From Self-Discovery to Deeper Intimacy My Midlife Sexual Journey | Ep 51

Sun, 21 Jul 2024 07:05:00 -0400

Embarking on my journey back into dating and relationships after my marriage ended taught me hard but valuable lessons about intimacy and self-worth. From the initial thrill of sexual liberation to the heart-wrenching lows of rejection, I learned the importance of knowing myself and my emotional needs.

Whether you’re navigating menopause, exploring new relationships, or just trying to understand your body better, it’s crucial to communicate openly and find what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. Join me in breaking the silence and embracing the beauty of midlife sexuality—grab your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s dive in.

(00:00) Introduction to The Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:47) Karen's Personal Journey

(02:43) Navigating New Relationships

(03:58) Understanding Sexual Needs and Communication

(08:04) Emotional Impact of Intimacy

(11:06) Learning from Heartbreak

(12:55) Self-Discovery and Growth

(19:01) Final Thoughts and Encouragement

(20:56) Closing Remarks

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

50 Unapologetic Conversations (and many more to come) | Ep 50

Sun, 14 Jul 2024 07:05:00 -0400

Reflecting on my journey, I've covered an array of topics—from orgasms, UTIs, and hormone therapy to interviewing incredible experts like Dr. Alyssa Dweck and Dr. Mohit Khera about sexual dysfunction and menopause. I've tackled tough subjects like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, and sexual health at different life stages. Your interest and trust drive me, whether I'm in a bar hearing someone's personal story or answering your questions anonymously on the show.

As I take a short break to prepare for season three, please keep sending your questions and reviews. This milestone and every episode is dedicated to opening up crucial conversations, helping us all feel less alone and more empowered in our sexual health and identities.

(00:00) Welcome to the 50th Episode Celebration!

(00:11) Reflecting on the Journey

(01:18) Season Highlights and Personal Growth

(02:32) The Importance of S3x Positivity

(03:14) Addressing Menopause and S3xual Health

(04:11) Support for Men's S3xual Health

(04:40) Breaking the Taboo: Talking About S3x

(05:35) Exciting Plans for Season Three

(06:13) Engage with the Community

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Embracing Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist & Sex Educator Jennifer Rahner | Ep49

Sun, 07 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Rahner, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator who is transforming the conversation around sexuality with her authentic and vulnerable approach. We delved into her journey from a 25-year career in IT to becoming a sex educator inspired by listening to Dr. Ruth as a teenager.

Jennifer shared how she rediscovered her passion for sexuality at 45 and her transformative experiences with workshops led by Betty Dodson, a renowned sexuality educator focused on masturbation and pleasure. Jennifer candidly talked about how she teaches classes such as "Anatomy of Pleasure" to offer the sex education many didn’t receive, especially emphasizing the importance of understanding vulva anatomy.

We also discussed how she manages to balance her polyamorous lifestyle with her family life, the importance of open communication in relationships, and the societal pressures around monogamy. Through her work, Jennifer helps people feel less alone in their sexual experiences, encouraging open dialogue and self-exploration to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age.

(01:15) Meet Jennifer Rainer: A Journey into Sexuality

(02:11) Discovering a New Path

(04:27)The Influence of Betty Dodson

(05:38) Understanding Body Sex Workshops

(08:13) The Anatomy of Pleasure

(09:20) Exploring Squirting and Female Ejaculation

(20:29) The Importance of Sexual Communication

(23:48) Navigating Communication in Relationships

(25:03) Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships

(28:53) Introducing Non-Monogamy to Family

(34:36) Challenges and Misconceptions of Polyamory

(39:33) Embracing Sexuality in Midlife

(42:29) Defining Sex and Finding Pleasure

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

How Dirty Talk Deepens Connection and Enhances Pleasure | Ep48

Sun, 30 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience.

The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds differently through dirty talk.

It doesn't have to be offensive or crass; it can be sweet and subtle, starting with something as simple as sexting to build anticipation for your next intimate moment together.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Unlocking the Secrets to Lifelong Passion with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus | Ep 47

Sun, 23 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence.

Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life, especially as we age and navigate the inevitable changes that come with long-term relationships. Batsheva emphasized the importance of debunking myths around sex, advocating for a proactive approach to addressing sexual issues, rather than succumbing to the hopelessness that can arise when sex and intimacy issues remain unaddressed.

We discussed how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sex, highlighting the need for communication and effort in rekindling intimacy. Addressing sexual challenges requires acknowledging that sex and relationship dynamics can evolve, emphasizing that solutions are often within reach with the right guidance and willingness to explore. Through our discussion, it became clear that addressing sexual health is not just about enhancing personal relationships but also about fostering a deeper sense of self-awareness and satisfaction.

(00:00) Introduction: Embracing the Awkwardness in Sex

(00:29) Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:30) Meet Batsheva Marcus: Expert in Women's Sexual Health

(03:33) The Dynamic Nature of Sex Life

(06:30) Addressing Sexual Issues in Long-Term Relationships

(17:03) The Importance of Scheduling Sex

(26:22) Prepping for Great Sex

(27:10) The Role of Fantasy in Sexual Arousal

(28:26) Understanding Neuroplasticity and Sexual Desire

(29:05) The Importance of Hormones in Libido

(32:00) Navigating Non-Monogamy in Relationships

(35:28) Exploring Kink in Long-Term Relationships

(41:11) Addressing Sexual Shame and Openness

(46:21) Defining Sex and Its Boundaries

Learn more about Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus here

Follow Bat Sheva on Instagram

Follow Bat Sheva on Tik Tok

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Boardroom to Bedroom - Kate Pozenik interviews me! | Ep 46

Sun, 16 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interviewed me - Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause.

My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age.

We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way.

Find Kate here.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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A Sex Therapist's Guide to Exploring Love Beyond the Norms | Ep 45

Sun, 09 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me.

This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion.

Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these.

You can find Alycia here.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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We Need to Talk About Our Own Sexual Health Now! | Ep 44

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort.

It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being.

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A Journey of Self-Discovery and Sexual Awakening | Ep 43

Sun, 02 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend CJ. CJ opened up about her journey from being in long-term monogamous relationships, including a ten-year marriage that ended due to intimacy mismatches, to exploring an open relationship with her husband. She shared the challenges and discoveries she faced while venturing into online dating, embracing her bis$xual identity, and ultimately finding fulfillment in an open, kink-friendly relationship.

CJ's story is a testament to the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of exploring one's desires and needs without shame. We delved into the complexities of navigating non-monogamous relationships, the significance of communication and boundaries, and how these experiences have enriched her life and marriage.

Now a certified life and sex coach, CJ, emphasizes the importance of destigmatizing sexual exploration and encourages others, especially women over 40, to embrace their desires boldly and without shame. Her journey is not just about the pursuit of sexual fulfillment but a deeper understanding of self-love, partnership, and the myriad ways in which we can connect with others. Her insights and experiences are a valuable resource for anyone curious about or actively exploring non-monogamy, kink, and personal growth.

You can find CJ here.

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Polyamory 101 | Ep 42

Thu, 30 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, I'm diving into polyamory, a lifestyle choice centered around engaging in consensual relationships with multiple partners. Polyamory, a blend of 'poly' meaning many and 'amor' for love, manifests in various forms, including hierarchical polyamory, where a primary relationship takes precedence over others, and non-hierarchical relationships, where all partners are considered equal.

The essence of polyamory lies in the mutual consent and agreement on the terms of the relationship, which distinguishes it from infidelity. It’s a path that requires open communication and a clear understanding of the guidelines everyone involved agrees to follow. Navigating polyamorous relationships can be complex, involving not just sexual connections but emotional ones that demand a high level of understanding and constant communication to manage potential jealousy and ensure the relationship's health.

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A Deep Dive into the World of Kink with Todd "Max" Carey | Ep 41

Sun, 26 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Todd "Max" Carey, a director and filmmaker who has delved into the intriguing world of kink and BDSM through his latest documentary. Todd shared his insights on the complexity and fluidity of human sexuality, emphasizing kink as an umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of practices and preferences, many of which are becoming increasingly mainstream.

In our conversation, Todd challenged conventional labels, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of our desires and the roles we play in our intimate encounters. Todd's journey into the kink community revealed a profound sense of community and communication, underscoring the importance of consent and mutual respect in all forms of sexual expression. We also touched upon the transformative power of kink for individuals, including those working through trauma, and the potential for creativity and innovation in personal relationships.

Todd "Max" Carey is an award-winning film producer and director making documentary films that explore the hidden and fascinating aspects of human nature. Learn more about "touch Kink" the documentary here.

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Bonus Episode: The Bumble Backash: The Future of Love in the Digital Age

Thu, 23 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Recently, Bumble faced backlash for their ad campaign, with slogans that seemed to undervalue personal choices about dating and celibacy, sparking questions about the role of dating apps in modern society. As someone deeply engaged with Bumble and Hinge, I've noticed a shift. It used to be easier to transition from matching to meeting in person, but now it feels like connections are less serious. This change has led me to ponder if the effectiveness or appeal of dating apps is diminishing.

In this episode I peel back the layers on:

The shifting dynamics of dating apps like Bumble and Hinge.
The quest for genuine connections amidst AI's rise.
Innovations we crave for deeper, real-life engagements.

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Demystifying the World of Professional Help in the Field of Sexology with Sex Counselor Heather Howard, PhD, MPH | Ep 40

Sun, 19 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I explore the multifaceted world of sexology and the importance of finding the right professional to address sexual health and intimacy issues with Sex Counselor, Heather Howard, PhD, MPH. We delved into the differences between sex therapists, counselors, sexological bodyworkers, and surrogate partners, highlighting the significance of their roles in helping individuals and couples navigate sexual challenges.

This was an eye-opening conversation. We talked about the diverse approaches and ethical considerations within this field, underscoring the importance of a nonjudgmental, informed, and supportive environment for addressing sexual concerns.

Navigating the world of sexual health and intimacy can sometimes feel daunting, especially when trying to find the right support. The insights from our discussion serve as a reminder that it's okay to shop around for a provider who makes you feel understood and respected. Whether you're dealing with the aftermath of a divorce, exploring new aspects of your sexuality, or facing sexual health challenges, the key takeaway is that you're not alone, and there's professional help available.

(01:20) What is Sexology?

(07:01) Sexuality Counselor vs. a Sex Therapist

(17:46) What happens in your session?

(19:52) Treating painful sex in your sessions-an action plan

(27:16) What is you're single and have issues with sex?

(32:20) Touch vs. Hands-off sex therapy

(42:23) What qualifications should you look for in a sexology professional?

(48:09) When should you see a sexology professional?

(51:40) The key to finding the right professional

Find Heather Howard

Instagram @drheatherhoward

@ergoerotics

https://heatherhoward.com/

Ergoerotics: https://ergoerotics.com/product/video-strategies-for-comfortable-pleasure/

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Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

From Vanilla to Varied - A Beginner's Guide to Exploring Kink | Ep 39

Sun, 12 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, I'm diving into the world of kink, a term that captures a broad spectrum of activities beyond the conventional or "vanilla" intimate practices. Kink isn't just about the extreme of dungeons and dramatic scenarios; it's fundamentally about venturing into desires that stray from one's usual experiences, which could be as straightforward as altering the ambiance with different lighting.

Within this realm, BDSM stands out as a notable subset, encompassing bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. Many people find kink a playful and explorative outlet, a healthy way to relieve stress, and an avenue for fostering deep trust and communication with their partners.

This journey into understanding kink and BDSM invites us to broaden our perspective on the diversity of human pleasure and the ways in which adults can engage in consensual, informed, and joyful exploration.

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Beyond the High-Medical Cannabis & It's Impact on Women's Health with Dr. Staci Gruber, PART 2 | Ep 38

Sun, 05 May 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In part 2 of my interview with Dr Staci Gruber, we delved into the complexities of cannabis use, including its potential for addiction, known formally as Cannabis Use Disorder (CUD). We also touched upon the evolution of cannabis potency over the years, with today's products containing much higher THC levels than those from decades ago, raising the stakes in the risk-benefit analysis of cannabis consumption.

The conversation further explored the medical applications of cannabis, highlighting its utility in managing pain, sleep disorders, and other health issues. The conversation also ventured into the areas of women's health, underscoring the lack of research and the growing interest in cannabis for managing conditions like endometriosis and menopause symptoms. It was a reminder of the importance of being an informed consumer, understanding the goal of your cannabis use, and ensuring the safety and efficacy of the products you choose.

Our dialogue underscored the evolving landscape of cannabis use and research, highlighting the need for more education and open conversations between consumers and healthcare providers to navigate the complexities of cannabis as both a medicinal and recreational substance.

Watch the full episode here. About Dr. Gruber Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions. Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Beyond the High - Medical Cannabis & Its Impact on Women's Health with Dr. Staci Gruber PART 1 | Ep 37

Sun, 28 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, part 1 of 2, I had the pleasure of welcoming Dr. Stacey Gruber, a renowned expert in the field of cannabis research and its implications on mental health and substance abuse.

One of the most compelling parts of our conversation revolved around personal experiences with cannabis, including my own. Dr. Gruber eloquently addressed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding cannabis use for medical purposes, emphasizing the importance of finding the right product and dosage to suit individual needs and conditions. She also touched on the potential benefits of cannabis in enhancing sexual health and wellbeing, a topic that resonates with many yet often goes unexplored.

Dr. Gruber's work is not just about cannabis; it's about opening doors to new forms of treatment that could revolutionize how we approach mental health and wellness. Her dedication to advancing our understanding of cannabis and its potential benefits is truly inspiring, leaving me eager to learn more about how this plant could impact our lives in positive ways. *watch the full episode here

About Dr. Gruber

Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions.

Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

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Society's Rainbow - Embracing the Diversity of Human Identity | Ep 36

Sun, 21 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I delve into the complex world of gender and sexuality, acknowledging the vast array of terminology that exists today compared to the simpler times of my youth. I explore the distinctions between identity, expression, gender, and sexual orientation, emphasizing that these aspects of ourselves are not always aligned.

I introduce concepts such as the Genderbread Person to illustrate the differences between sex, gender expression, sexual attraction, and identity. I also share insights on how societal norms have evolved to recognize not only the binary of male and female but also the spectrum that includes intersex, transgender, and non-binary identities, highlighting the importance of understanding and respecting each individual's unique experience.

I hope to open minds and foster a deeper understanding of the fluidity and diversity within human sexuality and gender identity. I acknowledge that this episode merely scratches the surface of a vast topic and that language and labels continue to evolve. I aim to promote empathy and inclusivity, inviting listeners to embrace the complexity of human identity with an open heart and mind.

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Empowering Women’s Welless-Navigating Menopause & Sexual Health with Dr. Alyssa Dweck | Ep 34

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Alyssa Dweck, a seasoned gynecologist and chief medical officer of Bonafide Health, whose expertise in female sexual health and menopause offers invaluable insights.

Dr. Dweck shared with us the common sexual health challenges women face, especially during menopause, such as sexual pain, diminished libido, and the impact of medical issues on sexual function. She emphasized the importance of open communication with healthcare providers and highlighted non-hormonal treatments like vaginal moisturizers and lubricants as game-changers for women experiencing vaginal dryness.

Dr. Dweck's approach to addressing these sensitive issues with compassion and evidence-based solutions truly resonated with me, reinforcing the message that women do not have to navigate these challenges alone. We also delved into the realm of hormone therapy and its misconceptions, particularly the nuanced conversation around vaginal estrogen and systemic hormone therapy.

**Please note that this podcast episode is not intended to give medical advice. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

About Dr. Dweck: Dr. Alyssa Dweck, MS, MD, FACOG is the Chief Medical Officer at Bonafide Health, LLC. She is a practicing gynecologist in Westchester County, New York, provides care to women of all ages and has delivered thousands of babies. A graduate of Barnard College, she has a Masters Degree in Human Nutrition from Columbia University and her Medical Degree from Hahnemann University School of Medicine in Philadelphia, now named Drexel University. Dr. Dweck trained at Lankenau Medical Center Wynnewood, Pennsylvania, where she was Chief Resident in 1994. For more information visit: https://hellobonafide.com/blogs/authors/alyssa-dweck https://hellobonafide.com/

Email: doctordweck@gmail.com

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Love at First Swipe? The Reality of Dating in Midlife | Ep 34

Sun, 07 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0400

Online dating is the way for people of all ages to meet today, though it comes with its own set of challenges and rewards. The variety of dating apps available allows you to find one that aligns with your values and lifestyle, whether that's based on religion, interests, or relationship goals.

It's crucial to approach these platforms with a sense of authenticity and honesty, both in how you present yourself and in what you expect from others. In this episode I discuss my experience navigating the apps, the first dates and the next ones, communicating on dates, and boundries and red flags to consider.

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Disclaimer: Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

From Erections to Intimacy - A Whole New Take on Urology | Ep 33

Sun, 31 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode I had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Rachel Rubin, a highly respected urologist and sexual medicine specialist known for her comprehensive approach to sexual health across all genders.

Dr. Rubin enlightened us on the vital connection between urology and sexual function, emphasizing the importance of understanding our bodies' anatomy and physiology to address sexual health issues effectively.

She shared her passion for educating both the public and healthcare professionals on the complexities of sexual medicine, underscoring the need for better sexual education and the removal of stigma from conversations about sexual health. It was an eye-opening discussion that challenged many preconceived notions about sexual wellness and the critical role of specialized care in improving quality of life.

I was particularly moved by Dr. Rubin's insights into the challenges faced by individuals seeking help for sexual dysfunction, highlighting the gaps in knowledge among general practitioners and the importance of advocating for one's sexual health. Her stories of empowering patients to communicate their needs and desires resonated deeply with me, reminding us all of the power of education and open dialogue.

Dr. Rubin's work not only offers hope to those struggling with sexual health issues but also calls for a broader societal shift towards embracing sexual health as an integral part of overall well-being. Her dedication to advancing sexual medicine and her advocacy for comprehensive sexual education are truly inspiring, making her one of my sheroes in the field.

Full video episode available: https://youtu.be/abpTfFYQAmc

Where to find Dr. Rubin: https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/ Instagram: @drrachelrubin Recommended reading: Vagina Obscura by Rachel E. Gross Estrogen Matters by Avrum Bluming & Carol Travis

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Unveiling Desire - Navigating Mismatched Libidos in Relationships | Ep 32

Sun, 24 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm opening up about a topic that's often whispered about but rarely spoken out loud: mismatched libidos. I'll share with you my thoughts and experiences on the lack of sexual desire—whether it's something that can be revived or an intrinsic part of someone's being.

I talk abut strategies for finding what gets you in the mood, and how to communicate these needs to your partner. Whether it's setting a romantic scene or experimenting with new forms of foreplay, finding the key to your desire can be a rewarding journey. Let's get comfortable and start the conversation on making our sex lives as fulfilling as they can be.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Communicate to Elevate-The Art of Exceptional Sex | Ep 31

Sun, 17 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Embark on a journey to redefine what it means to have truly mind-blowing sex in this eye-opening episode. In this episode I confront the traditional script of sexual encounters and propose a more expansive and satisfying approach.

It's a candid talk about the nuances of desire, the rhythm of sexual compatibility, and the profound role of intellectual connection in physical intimacy. Discover the transformative power of slowing down, the art of anticipation, and the joy of exploring your partner's body and mind in ways that defy convention.

If you're ready to turn the page on your sex life and embark on a path to pleasure that’s as mentally engaging as it is physical, this is the discussion you need to hear.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Crafting the Conversation: Discussing Non-Monogamy with Your Partner | Ep 30

Sun, 10 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0400

Diving into the depths of communication within the context of consensual non-monogamy, this episode revisits the essential conversations that can either make or break the dynamic of a long-term relationship.

I discuss the complexities CNM it entails, especially when considering introducing such a concept into a relationship. The episode provides listeners with the tools to initiate a dialogue with their partner, highlighting the successful journey of couples like Britta and Gary (Episode 28) who navigated these waters before, the art of communication, advising against starting with negatives and instead, fostering a supportive and loving atmosphere. In the end, the message is clear: broaching the subject of spicing up one's intimacy should be done with care and should never be confined to the bedroom.

Love is the starting point, and from there, the possibilities for growth and excitement in the relationship are endless.

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From Taboo to Treatment - Changing the Conversation on Male Sexual Dysfunction with Dr. Mohit Khera | Ep 29

Sun, 03 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

I'm honored to host Dr. Mohit Khera, a world-renowned expert on male sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera brings his vast experience to the table, discussing the sensitive issue of sexual health with compassion and understanding. We take a deep dive into how modern medicine is transforming the way we approach and treat conditions such as erectile dysfunction, discussing both traditional and cutting-edge treatments that are giving new hope to many.

The episode also explores the often-overlooked emotional and psychological dimensions of sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera gives his expert advice on the importance of a supportive partnership and the benefits of a comprehensive treatment plan that includes both medical and lifestyle interventions.

For anyone affected by or interested in male sexual health, this episode is an invaluable resource, offering hope, enlightenment, and practical guidance from one of the leading voices in the field.

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Sex Outside the Box-A Guide to Opening Your Marriage | Ep 28

Sun, 25 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I bring you an intimate conversation with Britta and Gary, a couple whose decision to open up their marriage invites us all to rethink what commitment looks like. They offer a candid look into the decision-making process behind adopting a lifestyle of ethical non-monogamy and the profound dialogues that supported their transition.

Britta and Gary pull back the curtain on the complexities they faced, such as handling jealousy, maintaining open lines of communication, and the enriched sexual connection that followed. Their story is one of bravery, love, and the continuous evolution of a relationship that refuses to be boxed in by societal standards. This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about or considering an open marriage, as it challenges preconceived notions about love, sex, and partnership.

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Can Non-Monogamy Save Your Marriage? | Ep 27

Sun, 18 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I explore the concept of consensual non-monogamy, contemplating its role as an alternative relationship paradigm. I examine the failure rates of traditional marriages and question the sustainability of monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model.

Historical perspectives are considered, highlighting the evolution of women's societal roles and the contractual origins of marriage, which reveal a very different picture compared to modern romantic ideals. I also share insights into the gradual shift towards non-monogamous relationships, particularly among the younger demographic, and reflect on the reasons behind this shift.

This episode is not an endorsement but rather an exploration of the various forms non-monogamy can take, from swinging to polyamory, and the potential benefits and challenges each presents. It's a candid discussion about the possibility of redefining relationships to fit the complexities of modern life and individual needs.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Beyond Divorce-The Secret to Reigniting Intimacy in Long-Term Marriages | Ep 26

Sun, 11 Feb 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with the renowned mediator and family attorney Susan Guthrie, who brings over three decades of experience in the intricacies of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.

Susan's unique approach to marital issues through mediation has breathed new life into long-term relationships that seemed to be at a crossroads. She shares her wisdom on how couples can legally redefine their relationships, open up dialogues on intimacy, and why a "marital mediation" could be the saving grace your relationship needs. We dive into an in-depth discussion about the unspoken challenges many couples face after years of marriage.

Susan provides us with real-world examples of how changing the dynamics of a relationship, with the help of legal contracts, can lead to a more fulfilling partnership. If you're considering a change in your marital life or simply looking for ways to spark new life into your relationship, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge, practical advice, and the possibility that love, indeed, can evolve with time.

About Susan Guthrie, Esq. Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law Attorneys and Mediators in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for more than 30 years. Susan provides online divorce and legal coaching services to select clients around the world.

As a leading dispute resolution professional, Susan is honored to serve on the Executive Council of the American Bar Association’s (ABA) Section of Dispute Resolution as the Budget Officer and to be a Co-Chair of the Advanced Mediation Institute.

https://www.instagram.com/susanguthrieesq/

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Slippery When Wet-The Ultimate Guide to Finding the Right Lube | Ep 25

Sun, 04 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, I'm sliding into an in-depth conversation about why lube is the unsung hero of sexual health. Whether you're facing the dry spells of menopause or just looking to add some extra glide to your intimate times, I'm here to demystify lubricants. It's a candid discussion about the body's needs and the simple ways lube can address them. Get ready to lubricate your knowledge with my comprehensive guide to choosing the right lube for your body.

I'll explain why common household oils are a definite 'don't' and discuss how the wrong products can disrupt your body's delicate balance. From the science behind water-based lubricants to the long-lasting benefits of silicone-based options, I'm sure you'll be equipped with the information you need to make informed decisions.

Tune in as we share pro tips on maintaining your body's health while maximizing pleasure. Let's make friction a fiction and find your perfect match in the world of lubricants.

Second Acts in Sex & Dating: Alyssa Dineen's Stylish Approach | Ep 24

Sun, 28 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I delve into the complexities of sex in midlife and navigating the waters of getting intimate and the often unspoken trials of dating during menopause. I am thrilled to have Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, join us.

Alyssa shares her journey through divorce at 41 and the rediscovery of self as she ventured into the world of online dating. We get candid about the realities of dating post-divorce, the hilarity of trying to find a sexual partner, and the intricacies of managing expectations and self-perception when it comes to menopause and sexual health. Alyssa’s approach to styling not only changes profiles but also changes lives by fostering confidence in the dating scene.

From discussing the importance of protection and STD conversations to embracing sexuality at any age, Alyssa's insights are as refreshing as they are invaluable. If you're navigating the dating world in midlife or just looking for a relatable conversation on modern love, this episode is not to be missed.

As a fashion editor turned stylist and art director, she brings a unique perspective to the table, transforming the online dating experience by empowering individuals to take charge of their dating profiles. With her expertise, Alyssa has garnered attention from The New York Times, The Today Show, and Oprah Daily, among others, and has recently published a book titled "The Art of Online Dating."

Find Alyssa on her website, stylemyprofilenyc.com, or follow her journey on Instagram @AlyssaDineen and @StyleMyProfileNYC.

The Hair Down There | Ep 23

Sun, 21 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm getting personal about pubic hair—yes, the unsung hero of our nether regions. It's more than just hair; it's a natural barrier that keeps moisture and microscopic debris at bay. Remember the episode on the glorious clitoris, exclusively devoted to pleasure?

Well, pubic hair also plays its part in the sensory experience, with each tug awakening those delicate touch receptors. I discovered that even in ancient Egypt, pubic hair was not only represented artistically but also groomed for reasons beyond aesthetics, like preventing lice.

Fast forward to today, and the practice of hair removal has evolved into a statement of beauty and status. From chafing to increasing STI chances, it's a delicate balance. So, I'm here to share my candid experiences and to remind you that whether you wax, shave, or go au naturel, do it safely and for yourself.

Your body, your rules!

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Divorced & Dating: Unveiling My Messy Journey to Midlife Romance | Ep 22

Sun, 14 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I delve deep into a personal narrative that is both vulnerable and relatable—my journey through relationships, dating after divorce, and the tribulations of midlife dating and menopause. I lay bare the emotional rollercoaster I've experienced over the last two and a half years, candidly sharing the highs and lows, and the temptation to succumb to negativity.

This isn't just a story of struggle; it's a chronicle of the hard-earned crossroads of hope that I've reached. I want to highlight the importance of not playing the victim or falling into despair, but instead, recognizing that every challenge faced is a step toward a better tomorrow.

As I recount the pattern of my past relationships, I emphasize the lessons learned, particularly the need for authenticity and clarity in communicating one's needs. It's a tale of repeated patterns—forming attachments too quickly after the illusion of intimacy and trying to mold incompatible relationships into something they're not. But it's also a story of growth and the realization that it's crucial to hold out for what truly satisfies one's needs, without compromise.

From setting arbitrary dating rules to understanding the importance of communication, I explore the interdependence that forms the foundation of a healthy relationship and the self-reflection necessary to find joy and fulfillment on one's own terms. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on personal growth, the quest for genuine partnership, and the courage to demand the love and life one truly deserves.

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Midlife Intimacy-Sexual Self-Discovery Post-Divorce | Ep 21

Sun, 07 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode I open up about my own journey back into the dating world after a long pause. I've learned the hard way that before diving headfirst into the dating pool, it’s crucial to take a deep look inward. I'll share with you the steps I took to understand my desires and the type of relationship that resonates with the person I've become.

I also discuss the significance of moving at a pace that respects both your emotional state and physical health, emphasizing the vital practice of safe sex, and the nuances of intimacy during menopause, the importance of communication, even when it means having those tough conversations about sexual health, and I'll share the lessons I've learned about safeguarding not just my physical health but my heart as well.

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Sex Redefined-Midlife Women's Take on the Meaning of Sex | Ep 20

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 17:15:00 -0400

In the premiere episode of Season 2, Karen dives into the intricate tapestry of human sexuality and intimacy. Starting with a foundational question: "What is sex?" To explore this, we've gathered candid excerpts from a compelling discussion with a group of middle-aged women, each bringing their unique life experiences to the table. Episode Highlights:

Defining Sex: The conversation begins with an exploration of what sex means to different individuals, challenging the traditional notion that it's solely about penetration.
The Spectrum of Intimacy: We hear powerful stories illustrating that sex can be a varied experience, from a deeply personal act of self-pleasure to a shared, intimate connection without the goal of orgasm.
Beyond the Physical: The discussion shifts to consider sex as a state of being that fosters intimacy, not just with others, but also with oneself.
Vulnerability and Desire: The concept of vulnerability surfaces as a common thread, with the emphasis on the freedom to pursue one's desires in a safe and comfortable environment, irrespective of the form it takes.
Inclusivity in Pleasure: The episode touches upon diverse sexual expressions, including S&M, and emphasizes the importance of inclusivity and openness in discussions about sex.
Sex and Regret: Reflecting on experiences of regrettable sex, our guests confront the reality that not all sexual experiences are positive, acknowledging the complexity of sexual encounters and the impact of choice.

I invite you to join the conversation. What is your definition of sex? Share your thoughts, and we may feature them in upcoming episodes as we continue to unravel the mysteries and joys of sexual connection. Note to Listeners: This episode is a safe space for open dialogue.

Our goal is to dismantle taboos and encourage healthy, honest discussions about sex, fostering a community where we can all learn and grow together.

Send your thoughts on "What is Sex?" to: TabootoTruth@gmail.com We hope you find this episode both enlightening and thought-provoking. Remember, sex is as diverse as we are, and every perspective adds depth to our collective understanding. Tune in, share your story, and let's talk about sex.

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BONUS: The episode for him-5 Ways to Keep Her Happy

Sat, 30 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0400

5 heartfelt ways to keep the spark alive and make your female partner feel truly cherished. The first tip is all about acknowledgment; when she enters the room, make it a point to appreciate her presence fully. Whether it's a compliment about her appearance or a simple expression of missing her throughout the day, it's crucial to show that her presence matters. Even if you're caught up in the climax of a football game, invite her to sit with you for a moment – it's a gesture that speaks volumes. I emphasize the power of touch, not the over-the-top public displays, but the subtle, tender gestures that convey affection. The third piece of advice is about thoughtful gifting; it doesn't have to be extravagant, just something to show you've been thinking of her. Next, never assume she knows how much she's appreciated – tell her often. Lastly, invest in quality time together. A date need not be traditional; it could be anything from rock climbing to a simple bike ride. The essence lies in being present and making memories together. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Season 1 Reviewed, Season 2 Previewed: Truths About Midlife Sexuality

Sun, 24 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0400

As Season 1 of Taboo to Truth comes to a close, I want to start by saying a heartfelt thank you. You've been fantastic, tuning in as we explored the depths of sexual wellness and communication. I'm thrilled to have shared this journey with you. Now, get ready for Season Two! We're kicking off in January with a focus on navigating the realms of dating and intimacy after a long-term relationship or divorce. I've got some incredible guest experts on board – think dating profile whizzes and insightful life coaches. And here's a little secret – I'm in the midst of my sex educator certification to make our next season even more enriching. I'm all ears for your questions and topic suggestions, so please reach out on Instagram or LinkedIn. Let's make Season Two even more engaging and insightful. Thanks for being part of this journey, and let's continue to break barriers and turn taboos into truths!
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Naughty & Nice: Tops Picks in the World of Adult Toys | Ep 18

Sun, 17 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0400

Today, I'm peeling back the curtain on the world of adult toys. We’re starting off by busting some common myths. Have you ever heard that adult toys are a 'last resort' or that they could numb your senses? Well, it's time to separate fact from fiction with some real talk and expert-backed information.

Plus, I’m taking you on a tour through the exciting variety of adult toys out there. From the classic vibrators to the more adventurous BDSM gear, I'll be explaining how each type caters to different preferences and how they can enrich your personal experiences. Moving on, let’s talk about something super important: using these toys safely and with the right knowledge. I’ll be diving into why choosing the right materials like silicone or stainless steel matters and how the right lubricant can make all the difference. And if you’re wondering about keeping things clean and hygienic, I’ve got some pro tips for you. This episode is for anyone who's curious, looking to learn, or just wants to hear an honest conversation about adult toys. Remember, exploring your sexuality is perfectly normal, and doing so safely and respectfully is what it's all about.

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Beyond Vanilla: Spice Up Your Sex Life | Ep 17

Sun, 10 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0400

In this candid episode, I dive into the world of unconventional sexual experiences and the importance of open-mindedness when it comes to intimate exploration. From the common fantasy of threesomes, particularly heterosexual men's desire for a threesome with two women.

I share stories, like my ex-boyfriend's experience with a threesome, which highlight that the reality often differs from the fantasy portrayed in adult entertainment. This isn't just about the act of a threesome; it's about encouraging non-judgmental conversations surrounding diverse forms of sexual expression. We explore ways to spice up your sex life, from introducing ethical porn and literature to discussing kinks and fantasies.

It's all about embracing your desires and finding what works for you and your partner, whether that involves using toys, experimenting with role play, or even considering swinging or other forms of open relationships. There's no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual pleasure. Let's break free from societal norms and spice up your sex life!

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Let's Close the Orgasm Gap! | Ep 16

Sun, 03 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I address howwe can bridge it to ensure women's sexual satisfaction. In heterosexual sex, understanding and education play crucial roles in addressing this issue. Men often don't realize that clitoral stimulation is essential for women to orgasm.

Women may not be aware of their own needs, leading to frustration during penetrative sex. Factors like stress and distractions can affect arousal, but it doesn't mean women want sex any less than men. Sex is often portrayed as a quick, performance-driven act in media.

The narrative around sex must change to bridge the orgasm gap. Women are sexual beings, and embracing their changing needs can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences.

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Sexercise - It's more than just Kegels with Mahri Rellin | Ep 15

Sun, 19 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we welcome the incredible Mahri Relin, founder of Body Conceptions. Mahri shares her passion for supporting women's fitness and body positivity, which led her to create a unique and empowering workout method that doesn't just challenge but also uplifts women without body-shaming.

Mahri reveals how her fitness philosophy expanded to address the specific needs of women during various life transitions, including fertility and perimenopause. She sheds light on the delicate balance between hormones and fitness and how understanding this balance is crucial for optimal well-being and shares her insights into managing stress, understanding the pelvic floor, and nurturing a positive relationship with our changing bodies.

This episode is a profound exploration of finding empowerment, meaning, and embracing change as we journey through midlife, all while prioritizing our health, both physical and emotional. Don't miss out on Mahri Relin's valuable insights and actionable tips for a healthier, more fulfilling life during and after midlife.

Meet Mahri

As a former professional dancer, Mahri Relin spent 12 years dancing around the world. It was through dancing that Mahri discovered her passion for fitness. Mahri spent her early years in the fitness industry working as a trainer for the Tracy Anderson Studio and went on to become the Creative Director for FlyBarre at Flywheel Sports. After extensive experience, Mahri realized that there were big gaps in fitness solutions for women going through their most significant life events and changes. She refined her own dance-inspired method through extensive research in and out of the studio and devoted her life to providing women with the most intelligent, personalized, and joyful fitness experience possible. As a NASM Certified Personal Trainer, Corrective Exercise Specialist, AFPA Pre and Postnatal Exercise Specialist, Certified Wellness and Nutrition Consultant, and fitness enthusiast, Mahri is on a mission to help you tap into your unique strengths and flourish as the best version of YOU!"

The Method

Body Conceptions is designed to create a lean and sculpted body of a dancer, but you don’t have to be a dancer to do it! Throughout each session, every part of your body is targeted – from your arms and abs to your thighs, glutes and heart. Both the cardio and body-sculpting components of the method use integrated movements that involve multiple muscles and require engagement of and connection to your core. Every session will test your limits – but the current, exciting music combined with the energy and joy infused into the workout will make you almost forget you are working so hard. Deemed one of the two "Best Body-Sculpting Workouts" in New York City by Vogue, Body Conceptions has been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Shape, Harper’s Bazaar, Redbook, DuJour, The New York Daily News, The New Pork Post, Well + Good, Prevention and Dance Spirit Magazine. Mahri has also created specialized content for Fitness Magazine, SELF, health.com, Elizabeth Street, Well-Rounded and FITiST. For more information, visit: http://www.bodyconceptions.com.

Mahri Relin MS, CPT, Owner and Founder Pre/Postnatal Exercise Specialist Corrective Exercise Specialist

Body Conceptions Visit us at www.bodyconceptions.com Instagram: @bodyconceptions

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Bedroom Bliss Unleashed: The Pelvic Floor Connection | Ep 14

Sun, 12 Nov 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Get ready for some jaw-dropping insights, because they reveal that anyone with a pelvic floor can turn up the heat with pelvic floor physical therapy! These remarkable muscles aren't just for show; they're the secret sauce behind your bowel, bladder, sexual prowess, and more!

Discover how pelvic floor therapy can set your bedroom ablaze. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, or muscle tension, this episode has the sensual secrets to reignite the spark in your love life. From lubes that'll make your head spin to tantalizing vibratory tools, they've got the inside scoop on maximizing pleasure. Listen to this terrific episode to get the "ins" and "outs" of your pelvic floor.

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Allea Francis PT, DPT Pelvic Floor Specialist Daybreak Physical Therapy and Pelvic Wellness, Inc. ⁠949-312-1784⁠ ⁠Daybreakpt.com⁠

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Recommended Lubricants: Good Clean Love, Uberlube, Slippery Stuff

Pleasure Map: A pleasure map in pelvic floor physical therapy is a personalized guide that helps individuals explore and understand their own sexual anatomy and sensations. It includes illustrations and information about erogenous zones, nerve pathways, and muscular structures involved in sexual response. This tool empowers individuals to communicate effectively about their sexual health and preferences with healthcare providers and partners.

Sensate focus: guided by a pelvic floor physical therapist, is a structured approach to rebuilding intimacy for those facing pelvic floor concerns. It emphasizes non-sexual touch and communication, creating a safe space for partners to reconnect and regain comfort with intimacy. This gradual progression helps reduce anxiety and allows for a more enjoyable and confident sexual experience.

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Unlocking Pleasure: Conquering Painful Sex | Ep 13

Sun, 05 Nov 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Pain with penetrative sex is all too common. It causes many vulva owners to bolt from the bedroom and give up on sex. During perimenopause and after menopause our bodies change hormonally and physically. Now add the stress that comes with life challenges, why would you want to have sex? In this episode, I'll offer some explanations as to why you may be having pain with sex and what you can do so that you can enjoy sex again.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certifie Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: This episode is not intended to provide medical advice. If you have any questions about your particular situation, please visit a qualified healthcare provider.

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Sex and Back Pain | Ep 12

Sun, 29 Oct 2023 18:34:00 -0400

Sex used to be fun and pleasurable but now every time you try to get into it, you throw out your hip. You're not alone, menopause and the normal effects of aging can wreak havoc on your sex life. This week I'll give you some ideas on how to change it up so you can get rejigger your intimacy and make it pleasurable again.

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Your Glorious Clitoris | Ep 11

Sun, 22 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0400

It may surprise you to learn that your clitoris is one of the most magnificent organs in the female (vulva owners) body. It has only one function. It's a lot more intricate than you think and knowing it well can lead you to much greater sexual pleasure.

Most women cannot have an orgasm strictly from penetrative sex. The clitoris plays a big role in your orgasms. During perimenopause and post-menopause, changes to your vulva and more specifically your clitoris can affect your enjoyment. Extremely dry tissue can even cause your clitoris and labia to disappear! This doesn't mean the end of your sex life. Get to know this very valuable organ and up your enjoyment exponentially!

*A more detailed video explanation of this episode is available here: https://youtu.be/hnntXRueHg4?si=NCJvSKqvNRwg2LbF

Communication is THE KEY to Good Sex | Ep 10

Sun, 15 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0400

If you can't tell your partner what you want, how can you possibly have good sex? Learning to talk about sex is much harder than just doing it. It takes work, but I promise you, great sex is worth it!

As women become perimenopausal and post-menopause, the way we enjoy sex changes. You may become more sensitive or sex may become more painful. Communicating this to your partner is critical.

Starting a conversation about how you enjoy sex with a long-term partner or a new partner can be very anxiety-producing. Don't let this stop you! Your pleasure is paramount.

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Dust to Lust: Save your Vulva (and your sex life)! | Ep 9

Sun, 08 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0400

You may be lucky enough not to experience any major symptoms of menopause. Chances are though, you will have a dry vagina at some point in your peri and post-menopause life (and possibly even postpartum).

Dry vaginas are not only uncomfortable, they can lead to many other symptoms that can ultimately be life-threatening. In this episode, I'll explain why you may be experiencing a dessert-like vulva and what you can do to make it better.

From Searing Pain to Multiple Os | Ep 8

Sun, 01 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

After a long hiatus from sex, Tracy decided it was time to jump back into bed. Unfortunately, her body rejected the idea outright. She wasn't ready to lay back and take it. Tracy found an innovative new treatment that not only fixed the problem, it enhanced her sex life considerably. In this episode, you'll hear her story, the treatment she chose and her views on sex after 60.

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Spilling the Hormonal Beans on Hormone Therapy | Ep 7

Sun, 24 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In 1996 the Women's Health Initiative ran a study to determine whether or not Hormone Replacement Therapy (Menopause Hormone Therapy) was beneficial for preventing cancer, cardiovascular disease and osteoporosis. 5 years later, the study was abruptly stopped after concluding that there was an increased breast cancer and cardiovascular event risk. In this episode, I explain the findings, why there no longer valid and what you can do to help relieve your menopause symptoms.

North American Menopause Society (NAMS)

Women's Health Initiative

Estrogen Matters with Avrum Bluming, MD & Carol Tavris, PhD

From Hot Dates to Cold Facts: UTIs & STIs | Ep 6

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Ready to spice up your sex life? The good news? You won't get pregnant. The bad news? Your dry vagina may make you prone to UTIs and more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections. Here are some facts and precautions you can take to have a healthy, enjoyable sex life.

The Trouble with Orgasms | Ep 5

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Have you ever experienced an orgasm? Have you been enjoying them all your life and now they've changed or disappeared altogether?

Here's a conversation about what some of the causes may be and some ways you can get your groove back.

This is how I do it! | Ep 4

Wed, 13 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

After a long marriage, I was feeling liberated and ready to reignite my sex life. I soon realized that, for me, getting intimate was more than just sex. In this episode, you'll hear a little about my story. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/taboototruth/message

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I Found your Virginity! | Ep 3

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Why do we have shame about talking about our bodies and sex? What does "losing your virginity really mean?"

I'm just not feeling it | Ep 2

Wed, 06 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

What can you do when you're never in the mood? In this episode, I explain some of the reasons you might not want sex and what you can do about it because sex is good for your health!!

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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Let's Talk About Sex | Ep 1

Wed, 06 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

I'm opening the conversation about sex in midlife. Sharing my story made me realize how little we discuss the challenges so many of us face. Allow me to start! From missing Os to the shame of telling my partners, I'll tell you the truth. No topic is taboo here. Bring it on!

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Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Sex and Aging — Two Words Most Don’t Want to Hear Together. Society paints a picture of men and women losing their edge, their drive, their performance. But that doesn’t have to be your story. Too many struggle in silence with low libido, performance anxiety, or a sexless marriage — feeling like they’re “past their prime.” The truth? You’re not done. Far from it.

This is the time to take back your confidence, reignite your passion, and embrace your sexuality in a whole new way. With the right tools, mindset, and support, you can perform better, feel stronger, and connect deeper than ever before.

Don’t settle for less. Own your desire. Own your power. Own your sex life.

Aging isn’t the end — it’s your opportunity. ENJOY IT!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. She explores the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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