Because vanity is NOT a dirty word. And pretending it doesn't affect your relationships, your intimacy, and how you feel about yourself is where things get messy.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, gets honest about her own relationship with vanity as she navigates turning 40. No judgment, no agenda. Just a really uncomfortable and necessary conversation about ageing, attraction, and what it actually means to make conscious choices about how you show up.

Most of us are more influenced by vanity than we realise. That's not a bad thing. Until it becomes an unconscious one.

You'll hear about

• Why feeling attractive to yourself isn’t shallow, it's biological
• How your appearance affects the way strangers treat you whether you like it or not
• The difference between a conscious beauty choice and a fear-based one
• How to hack your own vanity to actually improve your relationships and your health
• The questions worth asking yourself before any beauty decision

There's no right answer here, but there is a really important question. Am I doing this from a place of freedom, or am I doing this to fit in?

Resources & Links

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love, Lauren x

What if the crash you've been trying to avoid is actually the thing that gets you there.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, gets into what's really happening beneath the surface when motherhood collides with a driven life. Not the scheduling fixes or the productivity hacks, but the hormonal, emotional, and identity shifts that no one really prepares you for.

Because the push-through mentality that got you here? It's not broken. It's just not designed for this season. And there's something on the other side of that realisation that most high-achieving women never get to, because they're too busy trying to bypass it.

You'll hear about

• Why relationship satisfaction drops so sharply after a baby
• What's actually happening hormonally for both men and women post-kids
• Why the skillset that got you here stops working after kids
• The identity shift that feels like failure but isn't
• How to work with your biology instead of against it

This one isn't about doing more or trying harder. It's about understanding what your body is actually asking for in this season, and what becomes possible when you finally stop fighting it.

Resources & Links

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love, Lauren x

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores what our friendships reveal about our deepest relationship patterns, and how untangling them can be one of the most powerful things we do for our closest connections.

Rather than asking who's the good friend and who's the bad friend, this conversation is an invitation to get curious about what's really underneath. Because the patterns showing up in your friendships and your marriage are rarely a coincidence.

You'll hear about

• Why your friendship patterns and marriage patterns are rarely a coincidence
• What enmeshment actually is and how it shows up in every relationship
• The difference between performance-based connection and real safety
• How to rebuild when your identity has been built on others' approval
• Three places to start if you're ready to do the work

If you've been going through a season of questioning your friendships, feeling that familiar pull to fix or rescue or hold everything together, this episode will help you understand what's really underneath it. The question of who's a good friend and who's a bad friend quietly falls away when you find your way back to yourself. That's where clarity and ease live.

Resources & Links

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

It's a question that sits heavy for so many parents in the messy middle. Whether you're still in the marriage or already on the other side of it, the dynamics have a way of following you until something shifts from the inside.

In this episode, Lauren Dry sits down with Lieve De Lint, IFS therapist, somatic coach, and one of the expert coaches inside Rise into Regulation™, for a raw and grounding conversation about co-parenting in chaos, what keeps us stuck, and what it actually takes to find peace.

You'll hear about

• Why separation doesn't always end the conflict and what actually breaks the cycle
• The role of shame in co-parenting and why it's the most corrosive force in any relationship
• What the Grey Rock method really means and why nervous system regulation makes it possible
• How to stop trying to control the other parent and come back to what's yours to hold
• What to do when you're in the messy middle and hope feels completely out of reach

Chaos doesn't have to be the constant. This conversation is a gentle, honest place to begin finding your way back to clarity and ease.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Follow Lieve on Instagram @lieve.de.lint

Previous Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode 30 - Surviving the Holiday Season: Nervous System Support for Family Conflict
• Episode 39 - “Woo Woo”, Religion or Science: What is the Future of Regulation in Relationships?

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

It's a question that shows up in business, on social media, and in our most intimate relationships. And it's one most of us are still figuring out.

In this episode, Lauren sits down with Amy Guo, co-visionary of Her Seat and co-owner of Millon Wines, for an honest, unguarded conversation about visibility, what it costs, what it opens up, and how to do it without losing yourself.

You'll hear about:

1. The moment visibility felt more like exposure than opportunity
2. Why going public again was scarier than starting from scratch
3. The difference between being seen and being validated
4. How a room full of women changed everything
5. Turning self-doubt into curiosity

Visibility isn't a destination. It's a practice, and this conversation is a beautiful place to begin.

Resources & Links:

1. Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.
2. Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
3. Follow Amy on Instagram @amzguo_
4. Follow Her Seat on Instagram @her.seat

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

If you're honest with yourself, you already know the answer. The headaches you've normalised. The sleep that never quite restores you. The morning where getting out of bed felt impossible, even though your life looks great on paper.

In this episode Lauren Dry is joined by Serena Tran, co-founder of Her Seat, a community creating genuine connection for ambitious women. Serena opens up about growing up with inherited drive, the moment everything caught up with her, and what it actually looks like to build something meaningful without leaving your body behind in the process.

You'll hear about:

1. Why the qualities that got you here are the same ones making it hardest to slow down
2. How your body signals burnout long before your mind catches up
3. Why regulation isn't calm. It's feeling your emotions fully so they stop running the show
4. The hidden cost of bringing hypervigilance home from work
5. Simple first steps for tuning into your body's signals before they become a crisis

If you've been telling yourself one more month for longer than you can remember, this conversation is going to land.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

📱 Follow Serena on Instagram @connectedbyserena

📱 Follow Her Seat on Instagram @her.seat

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love, Lauren x

And underneath it all is that quiet ache. I should be handling this better.

If sibling conflict leaves you activated, ashamed, or desperate to shut it down fast, this conversation will help you approach it differently.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks how to navigate sibling conflict through the lens of nervous system regulation, conscious discipline, and modeling. Instead of focusing only on what to say in the heat of the moment, Lauren walks you through what to build before conflict, how to respond during it, and how to repair afterwards so your family culture is grounded in clarity and safety.

Because discipline was never meant to be punishment. It was meant to be mentorship.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why most of the real work happens outside the argument
2. The true meaning of discipline, and how mentorship shifts your tone
3. How creating shared family values gives you something solid to refer back to
4. What to say in the middle of a fight, including the powerful “Do you trust me?” question
5. How to help your kids name feelings, express needs, and practise repair

This episode isn’t about creating perfect kids or perfectly calm parents. It’s about modeling regulation in real time. It’s about showing your children that conflict doesn’t mean rejection, and that repair is always possible. You’re not failing because they argue. You’re building the skills they’ll carry into every future relationship.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

Or maybe even worse, that it means staying calm while someone crosses your boundaries? This episode gently untangles that misunderstanding.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores what non-attachment actually means through the lens of attachment theory and nervous system regulation. She unpacks why perceived relationship threat, even something as subtle as tone or body language, can spike your reactivity at home, and why clarity disappears the moment your nervous system feels unsafe.

Rather than asking you to suppress your feelings or be peaceful no matter what, this conversation is about accessing regulation in a way that gives you certainty. Certainty in your values. Certainty in your boundaries. Certainty in how you communicate.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why relationship threat increases reactivity, especially for high-achievers
2. What regulation really is, clarity in your body, not forced calm
3. The “gray rock” visualisation and how it protects you in complicated dynamics
4. Why over-explaining your boundaries invites negotiation instead of respect
5. What secure attachment and healthy non-attachment actually look like in real life

If you’re tired of rescuing, then resenting, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening underneath it. Non-attachment isn’t about distance. It’s about staying rooted in your values while allowing other people to have their own feelings. Clarity and ease don’t come from convincing or controlling. They come from regulation, and from knowing you can hold your ground without hardening your heart.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

Listen to Connected Boundaries episode here

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

This episode is a personal one.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, shares her journey from proud skeptic to curious explorer of spirituality, religion and science, and how opening that door changed the way her nervous system experiences stress, support and safety.

Rather than telling you what to believe, this is an invitation to get curious. To hold space for different perspectives. And to consider what happens in your body when you allow yourself to feel supported by something beyond your own effort.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why high achievers often feel like everything rests on their shoulders
2. The nervous system science behind co-regulation and feeling supported
3. The “third man syndrome” phenomenon and what it reveals about human resilience
4. How exploring faith and spirituality can sit alongside psychology, not against it
5. How faith, prayer or curiosity can create measurable calm in your body

If you’re in a season of stress, parenting pressure, identity shifts or big transitions, and you’re tired of feeling like it’s all on you, this is your reminder, you don’t need every answer to feel steadier. Sometimes safety starts with curiosity.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by psychologist, therapist, and author Katarzyna (Kasia) Dodd, creator of the Inner Parent Theory and the INHERENCE® process. Together, they explore covert narcissism through a grounded, nervous-system-informed lens, unpacking how it differs from trauma patterns or relationship dysfunction, and why capable, empathetic people often stay far longer than they meant to.

This is a hopeful, clarifying conversation for anyone trying to work out whether the work is about repair, or about learning to stop carrying what was never yours to fix.

You’ll hear us explore:

1. The difference between covert narcissism and trauma-based relationship patterns
2. Why emotionally intelligent, high-achieving people are especially vulnerable to trauma bonds
3. How intensity, love bombing, and mirroring can bypass discernment
4. What your nervous system can tell you when something isn’t workable
5. How boundaries, self-trust, and inner work create clarity and emotional ease

Resources & Links:

1. 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.
2. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

Connect with Katarzyna Dodd:

1. Website: https://katarzynadodd.com/
2. Book: The Chameleon’s Game – https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FZYTZMSM

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

You’re functioning. You’re handling the logistics. You’re a success everywhere else. But inside your marriage, it feels like the air has gone heavy and you’re back to feeling like the "common denominator" who just can't get it right.

If you’ve ever felt like you're failing at the one thing that should be simple, wondering why you can’t just find that same ease at home, this episode will land. It’s about understanding the "mask" that happens when your nervous system starts protecting you before your heart even has a chance to connect.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why high-achieving individuals so often feel more secure in their community than in their own living room. She explores how the very skills that make you successful in business can quietly work against your intimacy, and what it actually takes to trade that armour for a connection that feels like a soft landing.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why you feel like a "great friend" to the world but "not okay" in your marriage.
2. How being "highly capable" is often just a survival habit in a fancy suit.
3. Why your body screams when you try to take off your armour and put down your sword.
4. The difference between who you truly are and the patterns you’ve used to survive.
5. Small, tender shifts to help closeness start to feel safe again.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

You’re not trying to be dramatic. You’re not trying to pick a fight. But suddenly, the air feels heavy, someone is quiet, and you’ve both retreated into your corners without even knowing how you got there.

If you’ve ever thought, Why does everything always spiral like this?, this episode is for you. It’s about understanding the "dance" that happens when your nervous systems start arguing before your brains can even catch up.

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks the defensive resentment loop that high-achieving couples fall into. She explores why your partner’s defensiveness is rarely about your tone, and why your resentment is usually about the emotional baggage of carrying the load alone.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why normal conversations can suddenly feel like a personal attack on your identity.
2. The "spiral of doom" that happens when one person feels abandoned and the other feels like a failure.
3. How old childhood patterns make your body brace for impact and pull connection away when you make a mistake.
4. The difference between fighting about a topic and your nervous systems simply reacting to each other.
5. Three micro-tools to interrupt the cycle today so that connection starts to feel easier and less like "stepping on Lego."

Resources & Links:

1. 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.
2. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

You’re functioning. You’re handling the logistics. You’re a solid team. On the outside, it looks like things are working.

But inside, it can feel like the relationship part has gone quiet. Like you’ve become really good at running a life together, and you’re not sure how to find your way back to closeness, ease, and intimacy.

If you’ve ever had the thought, Is this it now?, while also feeling guilty for even thinking it, this episode will land.

In this episode Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why high-achieving couples so often slip into teammate mode. She explores how the skills that help you build a life together can quietly work against intimacy, and what actually helps connection come back without forcing it or blowing everything up.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why marriage can start to feel transactional, even when the love is still there
2. How compromise and compartmentalising keep things running, but disconnect you emotionally
3. The fear of wanting more, and why that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you
4. How attention, energy, and daily habits quietly shape intimacy
5. Small, realistic shifts that help closeness come back online

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

You’re not trying to be dramatic, you’re not trying to nitpick, but suddenly everything feels irritating, flat, or strangely off.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I getting the ick?” or “Where did the romance go?”, this episode is a deep exhale. It’s not about blaming your partner or making you feel broken. It’s about understanding what your nervous system is doing underneath it all.

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks how resentment, nervous system overload, and feeling emotionally unsafe can quietly switch off desire and connection in modern relationships.

This is a conversation about what “the ick” can actually be pointing to, and how to start rebuilding safety and closeness without forcing romance or pretending things are fine.

You’ll hear us explore:

1. Why “the ick” can be a nervous system response, not a sign your relationship is doomed
2. How resentment builds when you’re carrying too much, or not saying what’s true
3. What happens when your body stops feeling safe, even if your mind still wants connection
4. The difference between a relationship problem and a dysregulation problem
5. Small, realistic ways to bring safety, softness, and romance back online over time

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

This episode is for the moments after disconnection, when your nervous system is still activated and repair feels out of reach, even though connection matters deeply to you.

This is the second episode in a holiday series where Lauren revisits some of the most listened to and most returned to conversations from The Connection Podcast, to support you through busy, emotionally loaded seasons.

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why apologising can feel so threatening when you’re dysregulated, what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to approach repair in a way that doesn’t require self abandonment.

Lauren shares honest reflections, nervous system context, and practical ways to begin repairing without forcing yourself to bypass your body’s signals.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why saying sorry can feel physically unsafe when your nervous system is activated
2. How shame and self protection block repair, even when you want to reconnect
3. The difference between forced apologies and regulated repair
4. Why repair starts with safety in your body, not the perfect words
5. Small, honest ways to move back towards connection after a hard moment

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

You know the tools. You understand the nervous system. You care deeply about your people. But in those moments when you’re exhausted or overstimulated, it can feel like something else takes over and you’re left replaying it all, wondering why you couldn’t just pause.

This episode opens a holiday series where Lauren revisits some of the most listened to and most returned to conversations from The Connection Podcast to support you through busy, emotionally loaded seasons.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, shares a real parenting moment where she was at her limit, what was happening in her body, and the simple exercise that helped her move out of shame and back into connection.

You’ll hear what’s actually going on in your nervous system when you’re maxed out, why your inner critic gets louder under pressure, and how to reset after hard moments instead of staying stuck in the spiral.

You’ll hear about:

1. How shame shows up in your body after you lose it, and what to notice next
2. The “harsh inner coach” voice, and what it’s trying to protect
3. A short guided exercise you can use to reset after a tough moment with your kids or partner
4. How small, honest repair moments rebuild trust more than getting it “right” every time
5. What changes when you repair with yourself before you repair with your kids or partner

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

There’s a kind of confusion that can live inside a relationship, especially when everything looks “fine” on the outside. You’re functioning, achieving, holding it all together… but inside, something feels tight, uneasy, or off.

In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by Cat Dunn, an award-winning Online Business Manager, mentor, speaker, and founder of Life After I Left podcast and speaker events. Cat shares her lived experience of domestic violence, including emotional, financial, and digital control, and why it’s so easy to minimise what’s happening when there’s no obvious moment you can point to and say, this is abuse.

This is an honest, grounded conversation about self-trust, nervous system wisdom, and the slow work of naming what’s real, so clarity and ease become possible again.

You’ll hear us explore:

1. How domestic violence can show up without physical harm (emotional, financial, and digital control)
2. Why “it’s not that bad” and “at least…” thinking can keep you stuck
3. Intuition vs hypervigilance, and how your body tells the truth
4. Compromise vs coercion, and what repeated shutdown can signal
5. How safe support and community help you rebuild self-trust, one step at a time

Resources & Links:

🛜 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

Connect with Cat Dunn:

1. Website: catlouisedunn.com
2. Instagram: @catlouisedunn
3. Life After I Left: IG @lifeafterileftpodcast Podcast: Life After I Left

If something in this episode opened something up for you, share it with someone who might need it, leave a review, or send me a message on Instagram. You don’t have to hold this alone.

Big love,

Lauren X

You might already know which relative will push your buttons, or which topic will set things off. Maybe you leave family gatherings wired, flat, or annoyed at yourself for snapping, overexplaining or going quiet. If your body feels tense before you have even walked through the door, you’re not imagining it.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, talks through what is actually happening in your nervous system during the holiday season. She unpacks how old roles, enmeshment and different communication styles stir things up, then shares simple, body-based tools and language you can lean on in real family moments.

This is a honest chat about protecting your peace, staying connected where it feels safe, and letting your nervous system guide you instead of old survival patterns.

You’ll hear about:

• Why your body can mix up anxiety and excitement around Christmas and holidays
• Simple nervous system tools to use when you feel flooded, restless or on edge
• How enmeshment can show up in everyday family moments and old roles
• How Lauren’s Connected Boundaries Bible can guide your choices
• How educate, redirect and release can support you when conversations get tense

Connected Boundaries Bible: quick reference

Three layers of connection:

• Communication: how you want to speak and be spoken to, tone, timing, space to pause and repair
• Lifestyle: how you want day to day life and holidays to feel, time, routines, drinking, parenting load, where and how you spend events
• Core values: your non negotiables, safety, how you raise your kids, what you are and are not willing to live with long term

Three doorways for boundaries:

• Educate: name what happened, share how it lands in your body, and gently say what you need instead
• Redirect: change the topic, timing or setting so the conversation is shorter, safer or more workable
• Release: step away or opt out, with a simple bridge like, “I am not available for this right now, let’s talk about it another time.”

Resources & Links:

🛜 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by her husband and co-coach, Morgan Dry, Men’s Relationship and Leadership Mentor. Together they unpack what’s really happening inside men when things feel overwhelming, why shutdown happens even when they care deeply, and how tiny shifts in safety, tone and communication can change everything.

It’s a honest and grounding conversation that helps couples translate each other’s emotional language and reconnect in ways that feel safer, clearer and more mutual.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why men often care deeply but struggle to understand emotional language
• What avoidant shutdown feels like inside a man’s body
• How tone impacts connection more than most women realise
• Why appreciation and safety create deeper intimacy than pressure or resentment
• Simple communication shifts that reduce defensiveness and help both partners feel heard

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication and nervous system safety in modern marriage → Rise into Regulation™
• Follow Lauren on Instagram → @lauren_dry

If this episode opened something up for you, please share it with someone who needs it, leave a review, or send me a message on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by Emma Gibbens, a speaker, author and mentor who helps people talk about the things they usually avoid. Together, they unpack why loneliness shows up for high-functioning adults, how dissociation can sneak in without noticing, and why connection can feel risky even when you want it.

This conversation is about clarity, honesty and learning to stay with yourself long enough to reconnect in a way that feels real and mutual again.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why loneliness appears even when your life looks full and functioning
• The difference between healthy space and emotionally checking out
• How fear and survival patterns shape your reactions and assumptions
• Why friction and discomfort are part of real intimacy
• Small ways to make hard conversations feel safer for everyone involved

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage → Rise into Regulation™
• Follow Lauren on Instagram → @lauren_dry

Connect with Emma Gibbens:

• Website: www.emmagibbens.com
• Instagram: @emmagibbens
• LinkedIn: Emma Gibbens
• TikTok: @convoclinic
• Buy Anatomy of Conversation
• Book a clarity call with Emma

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In a world where ChatGPT feels like a friend, it’s never been more important to stay human.

AI is making life easier, faster, and more efficient, but it’s also changing how we relate to ourselves and each other. Beneath the convenience, something deeper is happening to our nervous systems and our sense of connection.

In this episode, Lauren Dry sits down with Milana Sarenac, a former corporate lawyer turned entrepreneur, sales mentor, and founder of The School of Sales & Influence™. Together, they unpack how AI is reshaping human behaviour, relationships, and communication and how we can protect the parts of us that make connection real.

It’s an honest, grounding conversation about nervous system awareness, healthy discomfort, and the subtle ways validation and automation can pull us away from authenticity.

You’ll hear us explore:

• How AI is quietly shaping our emotions, relationships, and sense of reality
• Why constant validation, from tech or people, can disconnect us from our inner truth
• The difference between performing connection and actually feeling it in your body
• How to use healthy discomfort to build stronger self-trust and resilience
• Simple ways to stay grounded, human, and heart-led in a high-tech world

🔍 If you’re using ChatGPT for business or personal reflection, try Milana’s favourite objectivity prompt: “Respond like a world-class strategist. Be direct. Be neutral. Be honest.Don’t tell me what I want to hear. Evaluate my idea like an outsider with no emotional investment. Give me pros, cons, risks, blind spots, opportunities, and strategic alternatives. Highlight anything I’m missing or underestimating. Challenge my assumptions. Your job is not to hype me up.”

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage → Rise into Regulation™
• Follow Lauren on Instagram → @lauren_dry
• Follow Milana on Instagram → @milanasarenac

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

Yep, we’re going there. If you’ve been doing the mindset work, the therapy, the breathwork, but your energy still crashes by 3pm and every little thing feels too much, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Lauren is joined by Hope Pedraza, Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, Human Design Guide and Clinical Therapist, to unpack the missing links between your physical health, your emotional patterns, and the nervous system safety you’re craving in your relationships.

We talk burnout, minerals, Human Design, and what it actually takes to feel good in your body again.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why emotional dysregulation might be a mineral issue, not a mindset one
• The overlooked connection between magnesium and nervous system safety
• How burnout can show up as disconnection even in people who “look fine”
• Human Design as a tool for honouring your energy, not pushing through
• The truth about healing: it starts in the body, not just in the brain

If you’ve been wondering why your nervous system work isn’t “sticking,” or why your emotions feel bigger than your tools can handle this conversation might connect the dots in a whole new way.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage → Rise into Regulation™
• Follow Lauren on Instagram → @lauren_dry
• Follow Hope on Instagram → @thehopepedraza
• Explore Hope’s work → hopefulandwholesome.com
• Listen to Hopeful and Wholesome → Hope’s Podcast

If this episode opened something up for you, please share it with someone who needs it, leave a review, or send me a message on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

Maybe you’re in a hard season. Something broke. Maybe it was infidelity, years of resentment, or just that slow, quiet drift that happens when no one’s really saying the truth out loud. You still care, but you feel distant. Maybe numb. Maybe done. And underneath all of it, the question you keep coming back to is, Can the love come back?

In this episode, Lauren gently holds this question in this episode, offering a grounded look at what it really takes to rebuild after rupture, not with pressure to fix things fast, but with nervous system safety, emotional clarity, and self-responsibility at the centre.

The goal isn’t to push or pretend. It’s to create the kind of grounded safety where love can begin to return in its own time, and in its own way.

You’ll hear about:

• What it actually means when the love feels like it’s gone, and why it’s not always a sign to walk away
• What the “relationship death” stage is and how it can make space for something more honest
• How we try to control outcomes when we feel scared or disconnected
• Why sitting in discomfort, instead of fixing or fleeing, can change everything
• What it looks like to rebuild from self-trust and shared values

If you’re in that in-between space where you’re not sure what’s next, this episode will help you take a breath, feel your feet on the ground, and come back to yourself before making the next decision.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode landed for you, I’d love to hear about it. Share it with a friend, leave a review, or come say hi on Instagram. It means the world to know what resonates.

Big love,

Lauren X

These phrases sound empowered. But more often than not, they’re not clarity, they’re protection. A brilliant nervous system strategy that once kept you safe, but might now be keeping you stuck.

In this episode, Lauren Dry looks at how protective patterns show up in communication, how they quietly create distance in our most important relationships, and how to tell when your “truth” is actually a trauma response.

You’ll hear about:

• What your nervous system might be trying to protect you from when you feel reactive
• The difference between speaking from identity versus from a wound
• Why body language and tone often tell a different story than your words
• How to use somatic awareness to shift from contraction to connection
• A powerful practice for self-repair that lets you rewrite old moments with compassion

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or frustrated that your efforts to connect only seem to push people away, this episode offers insight, relief, and a new way forward.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

Big love,

Lauren X.

Have you ever told yourself, “I’m just too tired” or “I don’t have the bandwidth right now” and it felt honest, but also a little off?

Maybe it was a hard conversation you avoided. A class you skipped. A next step you kept pushing down the to-do list. If you’re a high-capacity, high-achieving human who still finds yourself stuck in old patterns, I want to gently ask: What if the tiredness isn’t just physical? What if it’s protective?

In this episode, Lauren Dry shares a powerful and personal story about the moment she realized “I’m tired” had become her go-to escape clause. With the support of a trusted mentor, she uncovered what was really underneath that phrase and how it was quietly shaping her relationship with growth, rest, and regulation.

Because sometimes what we call exhaustion is really the nervous system saying, This feels too vulnerable. And when we can name that, we begin to shift out of self-abandonment and into something much more nourishing.

You’ll hear about:

• The hidden cost of saying “I’m too tired” and how it might be quietly stalling your goals
• How the nervous system disguises freeze or fawn responses as busyness or burnout
• The difference between true exhaustion and subtle dissociation
• “Escape clause” phrases that sound responsible but actually block your healing
• How to stretch safely without slipping into self-abandonment

Resources & Links:

• Rise into Regulation™ — The skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Connect with Lauren on Instagram — @lauren_dry

If this episode stirred something in you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or come chat with me on Instagram. I’d love to hear what landed for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

If you’ve ever found yourself exhausted from holding it all together, this episode is a lifeline and a mirror. It's about what happens when the helpers need help, and how we find our way back to ourselves.

This episode is a powerful invitation to anyone who has ever been the strong one, the helper, the leader, the one others count on, and then hit a wall of pain, exhaustion, or identity loss. Natalie Newgent, a retired firefighter and founder of Rekindled Retreats, shares her raw and redemptive story of injury, PTSD, and the soul-deep process of rebuilding safety, identity, and connection from the inside out.

In this episode, I sit down with Natalie to explore how identity, trauma, and the pressure to be the strong one can quietly erode our well-being, and how nervous system repair, somatic tools, and honest community can help us rise again.

You’ll hear us explore:

• How helper identities are often shaped by early survival patterns
• What PTSD and moral injury can look like in high-functioning professionals
• The hidden cost of hyper-vigilance and the importance of rest
• Why being seen with compassion can change everything
• Small, accessible body-based practices for nervous system reset (including dancing it out)

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage Rise into Regulation™
• Follow Lauren on Instagram: @lauren_dry
• Follow Natalie on Instagram: @rekindledretreats
• Explore Natalie’s work at rekindledretreats.com
• Follow Natalie on TikTok: @rekindled.retreat

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

It's also where our nervous systems get stretched, our identities get questioned, and our old coping strategies stop working. For many high-achieving parents, especially those navigating modern relationships, parenting becomes the pressure point that reveals what still needs healing.

In this powerful and insightful episode, I sit down with Pat Barber, founder of The Father’s Guild, a community of dads committed to being “harder to kill and easier to love.” Pat is a father of four, a coach with over 20 years of experience helping people build resilience both physically and mentally. But it’s fatherhood that cracked him open to deeper emotional awareness, presence, and the kind of strength that doesn't come from muscle alone.

Together we explore the messy, meaningful, and sometimes maddening journey of parenting and modern fatherhood, and how our children can become the most honest mirrors we’ll ever have.

You'll hear us explore:

• Why most models of masculinity fall flat, and the power of the middle ground
• How kids reflect our unresolved patterns and why that matters
• The hidden cost of unprocessed trauma and the role of recovery
• Anti-fragility and how stress plus rest builds emotional resilience
• Small wins, journaling, and the daily reps of cycle-breaking

Whether you're a parent, parenting alongside someone, or healing from your own childhood patterns, this conversation is a powerful reminder that change is possible and connection is a skill we can all learn.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Connect with Pat Barber and The Father’s Guild on Instagram @thefathersguild
• Visit The Fathers Guild website thefathersguild.com
• Watch Pat’s videos on YouTube @thefathersguild

If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Leave a review, tag us on socials, or message us to let us know what landed.

Big love,

Lauren X

You’ve read the books. You’ve gone to therapy. You know your attachment style. And yet... the same patterns keep showing up in your relationship.

In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by relationship coach Jack Bohannan, who brings both lived experience and expert insight to the conversation around love, nervous system healing, and emotional safety. Together, they delve into the intricacies of attachment theory, focusing on how these patterns show up in modern relationships especially for high-achieving women partnered with emotionally avoidant men.

They explore the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment, how they often look different in men and women, and why doing all the emotional labor in a relationship doesn’t create connection, it erodes it. Jack shares his own journey of relational breakdown and healing, and offers practical, somatic tools to help you come back to yourself and create a secure bond that doesn’t cost your identity.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why therapy and insight don’t always create lasting change
• How anxious and avoidant patterns show up in real-time and what’s underneath them
• The hidden cost of “doing all the work” in a relationship
• Why letting your partner struggle might be the most loving thing you do
• Somatic tools to regulate your nervous system and reconnect with yourself

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Follow Jack on Instagram @jack.unscripted
• Visit Jack’s website www.jackbohannan.com
• Access Jack’s free webinar Get Back Your Power in Love

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

The Connection Catalyst

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, Why didn’t I say that better? or Why do I always freeze or fawn when it matters most? Then this episode is for you.

Whether you’re navigating hot-button issues, navigating grief, or just trying to be heard in your own home, this conversation will help you show up with more clarity, more steadiness, and more influence.

You don’t have to yell to be powerful. You don’t have to agree to stay connected. And you don’t have to lose your voice to keep the peace.

In this episode, Lauren Dry breaks down how to move through big, uncomfortable conversations with your nervous system intact and your power in place.

You’ll hear about:

• How your brain and body react in conflict and what to do about it
• What shuts people down (hint: it’s not your opinion, it’s how it’s delivered)
• Six ways to stay curious and strong when things get tense
• How to create space for nuance, without giving up your values
• Why slowing down is the key to being truly heard

Resources Mentioned:

• Rise into Regulation™ – The skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Connect with Lauren on Instagram - @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

It might look like being the fixer, the over-functioner, the one who’s “fine” until they’re not.

In this deeply affirming episode, Lauren Dry sits down with Relationship and Anxiety Therapist Valerie Rubin to explore the roots and realities of anxious attachment style, and why so many high-achieving, emotionally intelligent people miss the signs in themselves.

Whether you’re the one holding it all together or the one feeling like you’re too much, too sensitive, or somehow not enough, this conversation will help you connect the dots between your past experiences and your present patterns. You’ll also get practical insight into how to shift toward secure connection and emotional safety.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why anxious attachment often hides behind confidence, competence, and control
• How early experiences (even ones that seemed “fine”) shape our adult relationship dynamics
• The role of hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and codependency in attachment patterns
• What it really means to self-soothe, and why nervous system regulation is essential for clarity and connection
• How to stop outsourcing your safety and start building secure, grounded relationships

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor in your relationship, if fear of abandonment keeps showing up in subtle or intense ways, or if you’re simply ready to feel calmer, clearer, and more connected, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Follow Valerie on Instagram @healwithval
• Listen to Valerie’s podcast: The Anxiety Recovery Podcast

If something in this episode hit home, please share it with someone you love, leave a review, or reach out on Instagram. I’d love to hear what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this powerful and tender episode, Lauren sits down with Kristina Robertson, coach, speaker, and host of Intimacy After Infidelity, to explore the complexity of healing after you have crossed a line you never thought you would.

Together, they unpack the shame that keeps so many women silent, the surprising ways infidelity shows up, and the deeper stories beneath our choices.

Whether you have been impacted by infidelity, are navigating grief or rupture in your relationship, or simply want to understand what real repair looks like, this conversation will meet you with honesty, gentleness, and a whole lot of hope.

You will hear us explore:

• The hidden ways grief and disconnection can lead us into choices we never imagined
• How infidelity often becomes a symptom of deeper emotional needs not being met
• What it takes to hold space without judgment and why that changes everything
• How shame isolates and community heals
• The challenges of healing on parallel timelines within a marriage

This is not a conversation about blame. It is a conversation about brave ownership, soul-deep healing, and the slow, sacred work of becoming someone you trust again.

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Connect with Kristina on Instagram @kristinajoycoaching
• Explore Kristina’s work at kristinajoycoaching.com
• Listen to Kristina’s podcast Intimacy After Infidelity

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this episode, Lauren Dry speaks with Conscious Parenting Coach and Sleep Specialist Donna Moala about how to move from reactivity to regulation. Drawing on her training and her lived experience as a mum of three, Donna shares how healing yourself first becomes the most powerful parenting tool you’ll ever use.

Together, they explore how unconscious patterns show up in parenting, what “doing the work” really looks like, and how to raise emotionally safe kids without losing yourself in the process.

You’ll hear us explore:

• How generational patterns shape the way we parent, even when we “know better”
• Why emotional safety matters more than behaviour management
• What conscious parenting really looks like in moments of stress and rupture
• How to set loving boundaries without shame or control
• Why regulating yourself is the most effective way to raise resilient kids

Whether you're raising young children or parenting teens, this conversation offers both insight and compassion for the moments that matter most.

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Connect with Donna on Instagram @parentingcollective.au
• Explore Donna’s work or book a free call: Book here

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this episode, Lauren Dry speaks with performance coach and brand strategist Jenni Rae Oates about what it really takes to lead, love, and live without hiding. They unpack the impact of early attachment conditioning, emotional shutdown, and the unspoken fear that being fully seen will cost you something.

Jenni Rae shares her own story as a former Division I athlete and self described “perform-a-holic,” and how she rewired her relationship to success, visibility, and safety from the inside out.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why vulnerability feels unsafe for high performers
• The link between childhood conditioning and emotional shutdown
• How performance patterns affect leadership, parenting, and relationships
• The hidden cost of hustle culture and what it takes to build a new way forward
• How nervous system safety can transform your relationship with success

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Connect with Jenni Rae on Instagram @jenniraeoates
• Explore Jenni Rae’s work at www.jennirae.com
• Download Jenni Rae’s free resource $500K Her Way Playbook
• Download Jenni Rae’s free resource The Crazy Cycle Blueprint

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this episode, Lauren Dry talks with NeuroBalance Clinic founder Lauren Rogers about the science behind nervous system regulation and the role of neurotechnology in healing.

Lauren Rogers shares clinical insights alongside her own personal story of burnout and health collapse, including how brain-based tools supported her and her son through periods of high stress and sensory overload.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Why mindset work and talk therapy don’t always shift deep patterns
• How neurofeedback, brain mapping, and light therapy support regulation
• What these tools offer kids struggling with anxiety or sensory challenges
• Why safety and physiological support are key to lasting change
• The value of data in tracking healing and building hope

Whether you’re recovering from chronic stress or supporting a child through dysregulation, this episode offers a clear, compassionate look at how healing the brain supports the whole system.

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Connect with Lauren Rogers on Instagram @neurobalance.clinic
• Explore Lauren Rogers’ work at NeuroBalance Clinic

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren x

Functional nutrition expert and Registered Dietitian Alex Long joins Lauren Dry to explore the hidden connection between stress, gut health, and your relationship with movement.

Together they examine how trauma, emotional overwhelm, and chronic stress disrupt our ability to feel safe in our bodies and how that disconnection shows up in both our fitness habits and our closest relationships.

You’ll hear us explore:

• The nervous system’s role in exercise avoidance or addiction and why both are trauma responses
• How gut health and hormone balance impact emotional regulation, energy, and your capacity for connection
• The surprising ways somatic healing and intuitive movement can repair a dysregulated nervous system
• Why burnout might be your body’s breakthrough and how rest can restore your sense of self
• How to rebuild safety through small, embodied practices that reconnect you to joy, not just discipline

Whether you’re feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, struggling with exercise guilt, or trying to heal your relationship with your body after years of disconnection, this episode will meet you where you are.

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
• Connect with Alex on Instagram @alex.undefined
• Watch Alex’s free masterclass on gut and hormone health

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry peels back the layers of what’s really happening when high-achieving, emotionally intelligent people show up in conflict with all the “right words” but still feel painfully disconnected.

She shares the raw truth about trauma adapted communication, emotional numbness, and the protective patterns that keep us from the connection we crave.

You’ll hear Lauren explore:

• Why emotionally intelligent communication can still leave you feeling unseen
• How trauma teaches us to speak with polish instead of vulnerability
• What emotional numbness is really telling you and why it doesn’t mean you’re falling out of love
• How to date again after divorce (without falling into old patterns)
• Why regulating your nervous system is more powerful than perfecting your words

This episode is a tender, practical, and deeply validating listen for anyone feeling stuck between knowing what to say and feeling safe enough to say the real thing.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.

Big love,

Lauren X

We’re diving deep into:

• Why the “ick” often hits women harder in long-term relationships
• The biology of safety, and how it drives attraction more than we realize
• What resentment and emotional load do to your sense of desire
• Why your Nervous System might be confusing “safe” with “boring”
• And why so many of us chase chaos or emotionally unavailable partners—even when we know better

Whether you’ve ever felt shut down, disconnected, or even confused about your own intimacy triggers, this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on under the surface—and how to start resetting your connection at the root.

This is the one to send to your partner. Or maybe even listen to with them.

Inside the episode, we explore:

• What your body is actually asking before intimacy
• The role of unconscious patterns and familiar dysfunction
• Why emotional safety is the true foundation of physical desire
• How to begin shifting out of resentment, even when life feels overwhelming

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about RISE Into Regulation™ – the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

Enjoyed this episode?

Share it with a friend, leave a review, or tag Lauren with your thoughts and breakthroughs. You never know who might need to hear this today.

If you need any support and to chat further, come and hang out with me in instagram at @the.connection.catalyst

Sharing with you my BIGGEST love

Lauren x

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Come and walk with me today as we walk through a beautiful, supportive and wonderfully vivid visualisation that will help you get to the root of your protective patterns, and come back into compassion and curiosity again at the root.

Here are the steps:

- Take a break, give yourself grace, and have a moment to get curious about your internal environment

- Write down the language of your Protective Patterns from the example that recently caused you stress. This language may sound like "I can't get anything right" "No-one will help me" "I'm completely alone" or any other negative challenge

- Visualise *clearly* what the part of you that is saying these things looks like (a 'protective' part of you). What is this part of you wearing? How old are they? What is their body language like? Get super clear. The more detail the better.

- Ask this part: How do you feel?

- Ask this part: What do you need?

- Somatically (using your body) meet the need. For example, if the need is CARE, the somatic gesture may be a gentle self hug, or rocking

- Ask this version of yourself to take a break, have a rest, maybe sit down and relax for a period

- Ask this version of yourself if it's okay now to talk to the 'inner child' that the protector part is shielding

- Repeat the exercise while visualising the 'inner child' self

After this whole visualisation is complete, revisit what happened earlier that caused you stress, with new eyes and a more compassionate and clear perspective

If you need any support and to chat further, come and hang out with me in instagram at @the.connection.catalyst

Sharing with you my BIGGEST love

Lauren x

Find Me:

https://www.instagram.com/the.connection.catalyst/

Work With Me:

https://tr.ee/ZZ8e0CUUH3

Free Training:

https://tr.ee/f6HdNyp23Q

In marriage we say for richer and poorer - but what happens when money really does come in the middle?

What is the effect of your own - and your partners own - limiting beliefs around money, abundance, scarcity and the practicalities of where your spending styles meet? And clash.

We're going to dig into the statistics around how heavily this can effect our marriage - and what to do about it!

Diana Todd is the business accountant who cures tax anxiety and ensures her clients feel seen, heard, understood, and in control of their business money. 

Diana’s award-winning online accounting firm, Balance Tax Accountants, delivers stress-free tax services to the Australian small business community. Diana’s Higher Money coaching programs support purpose-led entrepreneurs in building wealthy, sustainable and profitable businesses.

Lauren Dry is The Connection Catalyst, helping Modern Marriages Reset at the Root by sharing with you the Missing links in between Modern and Traditional Therapies for Connection. Using the #1 Reset Skillset that's found in the RISE Rewiring System - claim back grounded and playful connection in a way that fits in with your busy life and works to support you to get back to enjoying what you've built.

Come and find Diana on Instagram at @itsdianatodd

Lauren is waiting here @Lauren_Dry

And if you're ready to get stuck into your RISE free training guide, join us here https://riseintoregulation.mykajabi.com/4-keys-video-training-sign-up

Big love,

Lauren X

Big Welcome to our first guest on the Connection Podcast: Becky Aste! Becky Aste is a Trauma-Informed Somatic Marriage coach and the host of “Your Breakthrough Blueprint”, a top 5% globally ranked podcast. She is the CEO and creator of the company“I Do Breakthrough” and wants ambitious wives to be empowered with the knowledge that Whether it’s betrayal, addiction, abandonment, abuse, neglect, grief or something else we’ve survived - our body keeps the score. Becky works with Somatics to get to work to clear those blocks OUT and move trauma out of the body

Becky and I connected deeply over:

1. Our knowledge and love of Somatics
2. The unique personal experiences we both shared around how and why Somatics dramatically and powerfully reset and rewired our own marriages, essentially raising them from the dust
3. And A shared passion to spread this unique tool & knowledge with the world to show others who were struggling like we were, how to simply, effectively and permanently heal their marriages, family, home and most importantly - their relationship with themselves

We're going to answer together some of the most common questions that we're asked around Somatic therapy, which include:

• What exactly are "Somatics"?
• How does Somatic Work differ from Traditional Talk Therapy and is it as Effective?
• Can Somatic Techniques help with Physical Pain or Ailments?
• What are some common Somatic Practices or Exercises?
• How long does it take to see results from Somatic Therapy?
• Is Somatic Therapy suitable for everyone?

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There's a tonne of information out there about what to do with the house, the finances, the car, the schools... but what about the Nervous System?

What about how to trust your own intuition again?

What about if when your heart and mind are tearing you in different directions?

How do you come home to SELF, and have the ability to make grounded (not reactive) and supportive decisions from here on out.

Now. It may seem unusual as primarily a marriage coach to discuss what to do in the event of a separation. But as we say at the start of every episode - the purpose of this work is not simply to keep you glued to another person irrelevant of whether that’s the right decision or not. The purpose of this work is to rewire your old and new patterns for safe and successful connection, even after years of chaos and even of only one person is doing the work. 

We're going to Cover here:

1) What the term "Splitting" is in relation to the Nervous System, and how to avoid it

2) The 3 steps here that are going to help you to differentiate between Survival vs Grounded decision making behaviours

3) The 2 Tools that you’re going to use moving forward, so that no matter what happens from here, you can begin again in a new way, that let’s you Reconnect in deeply with yourself FIRST, and Repair those old Ruptures in the Relationship with Self that allowed toxic relationship patterns to flourish and be tolerated either in your own or the other persons patterns at all.

We're going to cover:

- My own past and personal experience with Betrayal and how (unknowingly) it had altered the course of all my relationships

- How any involvement with betrayal can neurologically alter the wiring of our Nervous System

- How to differentiate between just 'ticking the boxes' when trying to repair, vs full body reconnection with others and (most importantly) your self

- How not to drop into self betrayal when exploring possibilities for repair inside and outside of a relationship where Betrayal has taken place

- How walking through the true steps you need to fully integrate and heal from any Betrayal experience can ultimately set you up for much deeper, more authentic and fulfilling experiences in relationships than had been possible before

Big love

Lauren x

Come and hang out over on Instagram at @Lauren_Dry

Who Do you think was in the Right/ Wrong?

Let's break it down,

In order to communicate clearly, we need to know what our Values at 3 specific levels (found inside the RISE signature container), here's a condensed version:

1) Write down what you Value in any kind of COMMUNICATION (Kindness, Calm Communication, Swearing)

2) Write down what you Value in any kind of LIFESTYLE situation (so for Parenting - do you Value Gentle Parenting? For work do you Value Flexibility?)

3) Write down what you Value deep in your CORE (Authenticity, Connection, etc)

Once you've done this, ask your partner to do it too. Find out where you're the same? And where you have some work to do to find curiosity and kindness and empathy toward Values that may just be slightly different to your own. And then make a plan to accomodate both!

Need some support? (The CORE Values section can be especially tricky without a guide versed in Unconscious Mind patterns, but it's also the most useful!) Come and hang out over at @Lauren_Dry on instagram where you can book your free call as an individual or together as a couple

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Let's Cover WHY this happens, and also the Tools you need to Rewire to be able to know when and how to Connect and Repair, Safely.

How do you teach your Nervous System not to freak out and burn down the house (figuratively) when your logical MIND wants to begin seeing small moments of rupture as opportunities for Reconnection, but your BODY sees every transgression or mistake - that’s made by ourselves or others - as a signal to release all the exact same chemicals that a Tiger is chasing you?

1. We start to get familiar with our Patterns. You can being to start doing this by Journaling about the last mistake you may have made where you wished to repair and apologise, but find that you couldn’t. Ask yourself these questions:

• What does this moment remind me of?
• Does my body match this with an experience from my childhood?
• What had I learnt from this moment about repair that makes repair so difficult now as an adult?
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2. We start practicing Somatic exercises to find Safety within our body during stressful moments. This means Taming the "Nervous System Tiger".

3. Start Small. Find a moment where perhaps you may have been able to do better: maybe you were running late, perhaps were a little careless with a close connections feelings or circumstances, and choose - instead of brushing it off - to practice a small opportunity for repair. This can sound something like “Hey, Thanks so much for your patience, I really appreciate it. AND Sorry for not being here on time when we needed to be, I know it’s important to you. (Then use a bridging statement like) can I grab you a cuppa, I love you", or whatever feels reparative.

If apologies can often lead to more intensity and tension and an "opening of the floodgates" - ask these question during quiet moments:

• What am I not regularly sharing with my partner?
• How can I ask my partner what they need from me?
• How much time are we putting aside each week to invest in the emotional health of our relationship, if at all?

We all know how investing out time or finances in different opportunities can set ourselves or our businesses up for success.

How much time are you taking to invest in the health of your relationship, the same as you would in any other business or goal or plan? 

We hope you enjoyed this episode!

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