The Fearless Identity Podcast

The Day Fear Took Over - and How God Took It Back

Thu, 21 May 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Have you ever been ready to walk into a room and before you did, just known someone was there — not because you saw them, but because your stomach dropped and dread hit you? Even without seeing them? There was a season of my life that this happened quite regularly to me, but it wasn’t God showing me things. It was a spirit of fear that was controlling me.

Today I’m sharing a middle school story of betrayal that happened to me and that ‘radar’ feeling it created. The radar wasn’t some special gift; it was a signal that there was a wound that God wanted to heal and turn into strength.

Painful moments don’t have to define us negatively — they can become tools that deepen our trust in God and build real confidence in our identity in Christ.

I was being controlled by fear and pain, but God was waiting for me to let him come to my pain. He was waiting to bring healing, truth, and restoration.

Steps I had to take for healing:

I had to acknowledge the pain.
I had to receive truth from Holy Spirit. (Psalm 147:3; Psalm 34:18; 2 Tim. 1:7)
I had to choose to forgive. (Col. 3:13)
I had to renounce fear and break its power.
I had to ask for Holy Spirit’s guidance instead of the fear-based radar. (John 16:13)
God had to become my Protector, my High Tower, the one I went to when I was afraid. (Psalm 27:1-6)
I had to walk in a new belief. (Eph. 2:10; 2 Cor. 5:17; John 15:16; Psalm 139)

Painful moments can become positive defining moments and tools in God's hands.

Are there places in your heart where you are carrying the pain of something that happened to you? Do you feel shame or condemnation? God does not intend for you to carry the weight of that. He wants you to be healed. He wants to restore to you, too, everything that fear, pain, and disappointment want to steal from you.

Jeremiah 30:17: "For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord."

Heavenly Father,

Thank You that You see every hidden wound and every moment I’ve tried to protect myself. Today I bring my middle school pain straight to You.

Lord, I acknowledge the hurt. I was betrayed. People spoke against me. I felt the dread, the gut-wrenching knowing, and the fear that followed me into hallways, classrooms, and other places. I confess that this pain taught me to live in self-protection instead of trusting You as my Protector.

Right now, I choose to forgive. I forgive the person who warned others about me. I forgive everyone who gossiped, excluded, or hurt me. I release them into Your hands. I will not carry this bitterness or resentment anymore. As an act of my will, I forgive them completely, in Jesus’ name.

Father, Your Word says You have not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. So I renounce the spirit of fear that attached itself to that wound. I rebuke the dread, the hyper-alertness, and the anxiety that rise up in me. Fear, you have no more right to rule my emotions or my body. I command you to leave in Jesus’ name.

Holy Spirit, come and heal the places in my heart that were wounded. Replace every traumatic memory with Your peace. Where I feel unsafe, make me secure in You. Where I feel rejected, remind me that I am accepted in the Beloved.

From this day forward, I ask for Your godly discernment. Teach me to walk by the leading of Your Spirit instead of by old fear. Let me sense Your peace more than I sense danger. Help me to enter rooms and relationships with confidence because my identity is rooted in You, not in what people say or think about me.

I declare today: I am a new creation in Christ. The old things have passed away. I am no longer defined by betrayal — I am defined by Your love. I am strong, confident, and free. No weapon formed against me will prosper, and perfect love casts out all fear.

Thank You, Lord, for turning my painful story into a testimony of healing and growth. I trust You deeply. I walk in freedom. I walk in confidence.

In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Most of us are looking for a breakthrough somewhere in our life. Remember this - you probably don’t need a big change; you just need a small revelation that can shift everything. So don’t overlook the small stuff!

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Comfort Is Killing Our Calling

Thu, 14 May 2026 04:00:00 -0400

A couple weeks ago, I went to a women’s retreat that was so good and challenging and refreshing - all the things at once, and what I've been going back to the most since then is what I heard on wrestling from Lindsey Tedder. I'm sharing with you what I've been processing since then.

“Wrestling is the moment of tension when God exposes how what I’ve been depending on is no longer going to work.”

When there is a disruption, we either start wrestling with what the disruption exposed or numb the pain somehow then start drifting back to our comfort zone.

"Choosing comfort will always cause us to leave the path God has for us - ALWAYS!"
"The greatest threat to our calling is our desire to be comfortable."
“Wrestling is the collision between having faith in God and my need to control.”
"We wrestle when we don’t have clarity, but God is asking us to move anyway."

Wrapping it up -

What current disruptions do you need to wrestle with?
What do you do to numb or find false comfort rather than wrestling?
Where have you settled back into a comfort zone that is keeping you in tension?
How might your life look different in the future if you engage and wrestle with it?

"The greatest threat to our calling is our desire to be comfortable."

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We Can Thrive In Any Season - Here's Why

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0400

"I will thrive no matter what happens." -quote by Steve Backlund that I've come back to for many years

Thriving is the opposite of surviving.

The apostle Paul is a great example of thriving in any situation.

Phil. 4:11-13 “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”

4 things to believe about God that allows us to thrive in anything

He is constant/never changes, faithful.

“I the Lord do not change.” Malachi 3:6

We can depend on him; he never leaves.

“I will never leave you or forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

He is always working in our lives for our good.

"So we are convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together for good, for we are his lovers who have been called to fulfill his designed purpose." Romans 8:28

He is and brings peace.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Phil. 4:7
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” Isaiah 26:3

“I will thrive [flourish, prosper, grow and develop] no matter what happens, because I know God never changes, he never leaves me, he is always good, and he brings me peace.”

Key takeaway -

Both thriving and survival are mindsets before they become our lived reality.

Truth to remember -

I will thrive no matter what happens!

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Prom Made Me Ask: Am I Ready?

Thu, 23 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0400

It's Prom Week! Lots of dreaming, planning, and shopping has been happening the last weeks, and all of it made me think of the celebration God is planning for us.

Am I as intentional in prepping for that celebration as we are for prom?

Matt. 25:1-13 2 mindsets - Intention & Apathy

Pro. 29:18 “where there is no vision, people perish”
Hosea 4:6 “my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge”
Matt. 5:6 “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they will be filled.”
James 1:17 “Every good and perfect gift is from above and comes down from the father of lights.”

Our mindset sets the stage for our habits, and our habits set the stage for our future.

Intention and apathy are mindsets, but they become a way of living life.

Apathy and doing just enough to get by will not lead to living with purpose and satisfaction. We will miss deadlines, opportunities, and will produce low-quality work.

Intention and pursuing excellence will not only point others to God but will lead to purpose, fulfillment, and bigger opportunities.

And ultimately, living with intention will keep us prepared for when it our turn to meet our Bridegroom, Jesus, at the end of our life!

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He's Working In Us

Thu, 16 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Today I was encouraged by Phil. 2:13, “It is God who is working in you.” Anyone else ever wonder if he really is making any headway on what he's doing in you?

“God will continually revitalize you, implanting within you the passion to do what pleases him.” TPT
“...live in responsive obedience…Be energetic in your life of salvation, reverent and sensitive before God. That energy is God’s energy, an energy deep within you, God himself willing and working at what will give him the most pleasure.” TheMessage

Stepping outside our comfort zones to where God is calling us, and how this podcast is that.

Ezra 1:5 "everyone whose heart God had moved"

How has God moved your heart? What arouses your spirit? What is he prodding in you?

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Who Do You Want To Be?

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0400

We're wrapping up the personal responsibility series today by asking the question "Who do you want to be?"

My personal story with this question and why it's become so important to me

James 1:6,8 - “The one who doubts is like the surging sea, driven and tossed by the wind…double-minded and unstable in all his ways.”
Matt. 7:24-27 - Jesus' teaching on the 2 foundations, sand vs. rock.
2 Cor. 10:5 “…and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
Taking responsibility over our thoughts is to our mind what lifting weights is to our body - it increases our weight-bearing capacity.

Daniel's life

Daniel 1:8 - “Daniel determined/made up his mind not to defile himself"
Daniel made a decision about who he wanted to be - he wanted to be pure before God, and his life reflected that. Regardless of what was going on around him, he lived from his relationship with God and was strong in who he was.

Who do YOU want to be?

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The One Where I Host My First Guest

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Welcome to my favorite episode yet! I got to have a guest, one of my favorite people, on the show with me this week. She's awesome and tells us the story of her life over the last 2 years and how God has showed up BIG in her life.

We talk about how faithful God is, how he has THE BEST ideas, and how he's proven to be so worthy of our trust.

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Your Circumstances Don't Decide Your Future, But Here's What Does

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Most times when we hear the phrase ‘personal responsibility,’ we think of guilt, blame, or pressure. But what if personal responsibility is actually one of the most freeing truths we could embrace?

Joseph — Responsibility in Unfair Circumstances (Gen. 37-41)

Joseph had every reason to become a victim.
He worked with excellence, stayed faithful, and didn't grow bitter.
Joseph recognized that his choices and character were his responsibility.
Joseph didn’t control the pit, the prison, or the palace—but he controlled who he was in each place. He lived the same way in the prison when no one was watching as he did in the palace.
His life demonstrates how our character and our choices —not our situation—shape our future.

What is one area of your life where you’ve been waiting for things to change instead of taking responsibility? What step can you take now to own your choices and character?

**Key takeaways -

Personal responsibility is the bridge between where I am and where I want to be. I can always own my character and my choices, and that will shape my future.

**Truth to remember -

The one who faithfully manages the little he has been given will be promoted and trusted with greater responsibilities. Luke 16:10

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The Mirror We Avoid Is the Change We Need

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Most of us want change in our lives. We want more peace, more growth, more breakthroughs. But there’s one thing that often stands between us and those things—and it’s the thing we most resist- looking into the mirror.

Adam & Eve — Deflecting Responsibility & Blaming Instead

Blame looks backward. Responsibility looks forward.

King David — Owning His Sin

Our breakthroughs often start where our excuses end.

Where in my life have I been spending more time explaining my situation, deflecting responsibility, and blaming others or my circumstances rather than taking responsibility for my next step?

What will my next step be to take responsibility and move forward?

**Key takeaways -

Blame looks backward, but responsibility looks forward.
Our breakthroughs often start where our excuses end.

**Truths to Remember

“Each one of us should carry our own load.” Gal. 6:5
“God will never be mocked! For what you plant will always be the very thing you harvest." Gal. 6:7

Small Catalysts, Big Breakthroughs

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Why the small step you’re overlooking might be the key to your breakthrough

In this episode, we take a look at stories in the Bible of how God takes small things and creates big results from them.

Marching around Jericho to bring down the walls - Joshua 6
Small cloud brought great rain to end a drought - I Kings 18
The widos's small amount of oil - 2 Kings 4
The small stone David used in his sling - 1 Samuel 17
Israelites’ worship as they went into battle - 2 Chronicles 20
The small lunch the boy gave Jesus - Matthew 14
The sick woman's small brush against Jesus’ robe - Matthew 9
“Jesus wept.” - John 11
Naaman, the foreign army captain, that had leprosy - 2 Kings 5

"We underestimate the power of little things and overestimate the power of big things.” Amy Cate

What is your current biggest frustration? Where do you feel the most defeated? What small habit could you change or begin that might be a catalyst for breakthrough?

**Key takeaway -

God specializes in using small things to create big results!

**Truth to Remember -

"One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much..." Luke 16:10

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Praying From Promise, Not Lack

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we unpack how our identity impacts our prayers, and I may float the possibility that we pray immature prayer at times!

2 Peter 1:3 states: "His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence.”

We have everything we need to be victorious in our lives. He said he’s made everything available, but we don’t always pray or live as though that is true. Sometimes we expect these things to hit us in the face with no intention on our part.

Jeremiah 29:13 “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

When I’m asking him for something that he’s already promised me, I think I’m in a posture of unbelief. I think this is a big part of why believers don’t live victoriously and from a position of confidence. We act like we are needy victims that are constantly in need, but if we’ve exchanged our old lives for a new life with Christ, if he is living inside of us, we are NOT needy victims!

Instead of asking for his presence, his strength, his peace - things that he has specifically promised us - THANK HIM for them in the middle of feeling alone, weak, confused and in turmoil.

“Open my eyes to see and my mind to understand how to access the peace/strength that you have available for me.”

**Key takeaway -

“He has given me everything I need for living a godly life.” - taken from 2 Peter 1:3
Say this over yourself when you feel defeated, alone, overwhelmed, weak, etc…say it until you believe it. Write it on sticky notes to put around your house or dorm; get the truth of it into your soul.
Determine what it is that you need. Do you need clarity? Strength? Peace? Courage? Find a promise regarding it, thank God for it, then move toward accessing the promise.
He’s not hiding what you need; he’s inviting you to seek it, go after it, like you would go after treasure like Proverbs talks about.

**Truths to remember -

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Jer. 29:13
“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Phil. 4:19

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Peace in the Middle of It

Thu, 26 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0400

Early 2025 was a difficult and challenging season for me. I process what all was happening in my life, how I felt about it, and what God taught me in it.

*Key takeaway

Seasons of intensity and pressure are hard, but it's important to stay present and in peace through them.

*Truths to remember

Esther 4:14 "Who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”
Romans 8:28 "We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him."
Isaiah 40:11 "He will care for you as a shepherd tends his flock, gathering the weak lambs and taking them in his arms. He carries them close to his heart and gently leads those that have young."

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Anxiety or Trust? We Can't Live in Both

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we're talking about being yoked with Christ, what that means, and how it will impact our lives.

"My yoke is easy." - Jesus in Matt. 11:30

Anxiety is the opposite of trusting God.

Anxiety comes when we don't know who we are in Christ or who he is for us.

What does it take to shake my confidence, my trust, in God? How quickly do I lose my focus and try to take control?

"My people are destroyed because they do not know who I am." - God in Hosea 4:6

"Oh, I already know that."

Questions to take away and process with Holy Spirit -

Where am I being anxious instead of trusting God?
What lie am I believing that is causing this anxiety, and what is the truth that I need to know that will keep me in peace in spite of this challenge?
Is my heart open and receptive to truth, or am I too distracted for truth to take root in me?

Truth to remember -

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matt. 11:28-30

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Miracles Aren't the Finish Line

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I look at two stories, one from the Bible and one from my own life, that show how important it is to live with our minds anchored in God's promises, then I draw a few parallels that show some surprising details about miracles.

As you passionately seek his kingdom, above all else, he will supply your needs. So don’t ever be afraid, dearest friends! Your loving Father joyously gives you his kingdom with all its promises! Luke 12: 31,32

If you, imperfect as you are, know how to lovingly take care of your children and give them what’s best, how much more ready is your heavenly Father to give wonderful gifts to those who ask him? Matt. 7:11

Key Takeaway - Believing God’s promises and walking in obedience are the only ways to live with sustained victory.

Truths to Remember -

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17
...being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6
A thief has only one thing in mind—he wants to steal, slaughter, and destroy. But I have come to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect—life in its fullness until you overflow! John 10:10

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Love > Fear: The Motivation That Changes Everything

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we’re going to look at a quote I heard years ago and what I’ve learned from it over the years. I'll tell you a story from my own life of how I implemented what I've learned from it.

Key Takeaway - Every decision we make is rooted in either love or fear. Our focus determines which one it will be.

Truths to remember this week -

"The Lord is my Shepherd; I lack nothing." Psalm 23
"I am convinced that my God will fully satisfy every need you have, for I have seen the abundant riches of glory revealed to me through Jesus Christ!" Philippians 4:19

Remember - you probably don’t need a big change; you just need a small revelation that can shift everything. So don’t overlook the small stuff!

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Taking Action in the Face of Fear

Thu, 29 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode I tell you a story of how I learned to face my fear and take action in spite of it. I had literally run away from this fear in the past but was in a position with no great options; so I faced my fear and did what needed to be done afraid. I also tell you what I saw in my life as a direct result of not running from my fear.

Key Takeaways:

What we focus on grows.
Taking action will disarm our fear.

Truths to remember this week:

"Keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on the very glorious work of God, praising him always." Phil. 4:8
"And if anyone longs to be wise, ask God for wisdom, and he will give it! He won't see your lack of wisdom as an opportunity to scold you over your failures, but he will overwhelm your failures with his generous grace." James 1:5

Remember - you probably don't need a big change: you just need a small revelation that can shift everything.

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**Bonus episode

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0400

I answer questions that I received from some of you -

What was the process of starting a podcast? Was it a new idea or something you've been thinking about for a while?
What made "the summer of hell" the summer of hell?

I also tell you several things I learned from both of these experiences that I hope might help and encourage you if you are experiencing similar questions and circumstances.

The Breaking Point That Brought Breakthrough

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode I tell you about myself, how my relationship with God developed, and the Summer of Hell and how it pushed me into a much deeper, more personal revelation of God. I tell you about how knowing truth in my head was very different from experiencing truth in my heart and how my thoughts and beliefs changed drastically because of it.

Key takeaways -

True change starts in our beliefs. Knowing truth with our mind does nothing at all until we allow truth to change our beliefs.
Living from God's approval is much better than trying to live for others' approval.

Truth to remember this week -

"...be inwardly transformed by the Holy Spirit through a total reformation of how you think..." Romans 12:2
"Fill your thoughts with my words until they penetrate deep into your spirit. Then, as you unwrap my words, they will impart true life and radiant health into the very core of your being." Proverbs 4:21,22
"The fear of mankind is a snare, but the one who trusts in the Lord is protected." Proverbs 19:25

Remember this – you probably don’t need a big change; you just need a small revelation that can shift everything. So don’t overlook the small stuff!

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The Fearless Identity Podcast Trailer

Sat, 27 Dec 2025 12:15:00 -0400

Introduction to the podcast and meeting the host!

This podcast is your place for clear truth, practical wisdom, and Holy Spirit-led direction. Each episode will stir your hunger for God, deepen your confidence in who you are in Christ, and help you stand rooted and steady no matter what life brings. Come ready to grow, hear His voice, and walk in the peace and strength Jesus has already made yours.

Launch date is Thursday, Jan. 22!

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