What started as a reaction to what’s happening in our country quickly became a deeper reckoning with how often we swallow our anger, soften our voices, and abandon ourselves in the name of safety and belonging.

Perimenopause isn’t random. It’s often the moment the body stops being willing to carry decades of suppressed truth. When we stay silent about what matters, the body doesn’t experience that as peace—it experiences it as stress. Over time, that chronic stress can show up as inflammation, anxiety, sleep issues, exhaustion, and a body that feels like it’s no longer cooperating.

This episode is an invitation to listen to what your body has been telling you—and to stop paying the cost of your silence.

In this episode, we explore:

1. Why staying quiet feels safer—but isn’t
2. How women are conditioned to prioritize peace over truth
3. The connection between silence, stress, and the nervous system
4. Why perimenopause often becomes a breaking point
5. A powerful question to ask yourself: Where am I silencing myself to keep the peace?

If something feels heavy in your body… if staying quiet is costing you your health or your sense of self—this episode is for you.

IG: @starlynhaneman

Website: Wholesome Rebel Wellness

Email: starlyn@wholesomerebelwellness.com

Self-care and self-love give me the ick.

Not because women don’t deserve care.

Not because we shouldn’t take care of ourselves.

But because the way self-care is framed often ignores how deeply women have been conditioned to be selfless, not self-honoring.

In this episode, we get into why self-care feels selfish for so many women — and why that reaction isn’t a personal failure, but a result of long-standing societal programming.

Women are taught to:

1. Put everyone else first
2. Be the caregivers, organizers, and emotional managers
3. Earn rest instead of expecting it
4. Take care of themselves last — if there’s any energy left

So when we’re told to “just practice self-care” or “love yourself more,” our nervous system often responds with guilt, resistance, or shutdown.

In this episode, we explore:

1. Why the terms self-care and self-love trigger discomfort for so many women
2. How women are conditioned — at home, at work, and in society — to prioritize others over themselves
3. Why taking care of yourself can feel selfish, even when you know you need it
4. The invisible emotional labor women carry in families, workplaces, and relationships
5. How motherhood and caregiving reinforce patterns of self-abandonment
6. Why mainstream self-care advice feels fluffy, unrealistic, or disconnected from real life
7. A powerful reframe: self-care as self-preservation
8. Why modeling self-care and self-respect matters for the next generation of women

I also dive into New Year’s resolutions — why most of them fail, and how goals rooted in self-loathing instead of self-respect rarely lead to sustainable change. You can’t hate yourself into a healthier body, a better life, or a more regulated nervous system.

Real change happens when goals come from:

1. Self-trust
2. Self-respect
3. And the belief that you’re already worthy of care

This episode is a reminder that:

1. You don’t need to earn rest
2. You don’t need permission to take care of yourself
3. And you don’t need to wait until everyone else is okay to matter

Because when women stop abandoning themselves, everything changes.

🎧 Listen now, and]]>Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast — your no-BS guide to living a badass life as a woman in your 40s. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today we’re talking about something that might feel uncomfortable… but deeply true:

Self-care and self-love give me the ick.

Not because women don’t deserve care.

Not because we shouldn’t take care of ourselves.

But because the way self-care is framed often ignores how deeply women have been conditioned to be selfless, not self-honoring.

In this episode, we get into why self-care feels selfish for so many women — and why that reaction isn’t a personal failure, but a result of long-standing societal programming.

Women are taught to:

1. Put everyone else first
2. Be the caregivers, organizers, and emotional managers
3. Earn rest instead of expecting it
4. Take care of themselves last — if there’s any energy left

So when we’re told to “just practice self-care” or “love yourself more,” our nervous system often responds with guilt, resistance, or shutdown.

In this episode, we explore:

1. Why the terms self-care and self-love trigger discomfort for so many women
2. How women are conditioned — at home, at work, and in society — to prioritize others over themselves
3. Why taking care of yourself can feel selfish, even when you know you need it
4. The invisible emotional labor women carry in families, workplaces, and relationships
5. How motherhood and caregiving reinforce patterns of self-abandonment
6. Why mainstream self-care advice feels fluffy, unrealistic, or disconnected from real life
7. A powerful reframe: self-care as self-preservation
8. Why modeling self-care and self-respect matters for the next generation of women

I also dive into New Year’s resolutions — why most of them fail, and how goals rooted in self-loathing instead of self-respect rarely lead to sustainable change. You can’t hate yourself into a healthier body, a better life, or a more regulated nervous system.

Real change happens when goals come from:

1. Self-trust
2. Self-respect
3. And the belief that you’re already worthy of care

This episode is a reminder that:

1. You don’t need to earn rest
2. You don’t need permission to take care of yourself
3. And you don’t need to wait until everyone else is okay to matter

Because when women stop abandoning themselves, everything changes.

🎧 Listen now, and if this episode resonated, please follow the podcast, leave a review, or drop a comment on Spotify — I read every single one, and your support helps grow this show more than you know.

You can connect with me at wholesomerebelwellness.com or on Instagram @starlynhaneman.

Until next time — keep choosing yourself, and keep living The Rebel’s Way.

Welcome to the no-fucks era.

This episode is a real-time reflection on perimenopause, menopause, and the wild, humbling, sometimes rage-filled transition that so many women are navigating—often without support, education, or honest conversation. If you’ve ever felt like you were falling apart, losing patience, questioning your sanity, or wondering what the hell is happening to your body, this episode is for you.

I’m sharing personal updates from my own perimenopause journey, including hormone therapy, unexpected plot twists (hello, surprise period), and the deep realization that this phase of life isn’t here to break us—it’s here to strip away what no longer fits.

In this episode, we explore:

1. Why perimenopause and menopause feel so disruptive—and why it’s not your fault
2. How hormonal changes can impact mood, sleep, anxiety, rage, and self-trust
3. The truth about control (spoiler: we don’t have much of it)
4. Why this transition is a powerful deconditioning from people-pleasing and patriarchy
5. How losing estrogen often comes with losing the ability to tolerate BS
6. Why this phase of life can become the most authentic, liberated era yet
7. The importance of grace, self-care, and meeting your body where it is
8. How perimenopause can be the gateway to your most unapologetic self

This episode is an invitation to stop seeing perimenopause as something that’s “wrong” with you—and start recognizing it as a biological and spiritual initiation into deeper truth, boundaries, and freedom.

Challenge for You:

Instead of fighting this transition, try getting curious.

Ask yourself:

1. What am I no longer willing to tolerate?
2. What feels heavy, forced, or out of alignment?
3. What might my body be asking me to release?

You don’t need to have answers. You just need honesty—and a little grace.

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Because this phase of life?

It’s not the beginning of the end.

It’s the beginning of freedom.

The secret to processing big feelings: movement.

After celebrating six years alcohol-free, I shared three practices that helped me transform my life. But there was a fourth one—the one that held everything together—and it deserved its own spotlight. This episode is all about intentional movement, not as exercise or a fitness goal, but as a way to process emotions instead of swallowing them, numbing them, or reacting to them.

In this episode, we explore:

Why movement and exercise are not the same thing—and why intention matters

How moving your body helps emotions pass through you in seconds instead of sticking inside you

Why numbing feels good in the moment but keeps you stuck long-term

The difference between reacting to your feelings and processing them

How walking became my emotional anchor when I stopped drinking

My go-to practices when I’m overwhelmed, irritated, hormonal, or just DONE

Why being “comfortable being uncomfortable” is the real growth edge

How movement keeps me from reacting to my kids, spouse, and the chaos of real life

This episode is your reminder that emotions aren’t dangerous, discomfort won’t kill you, and your body knows exactly what to do when you give it the chance to move what you’re holding.

Challenge for You:

The next time frustration, sadness, irritation, or overwhelm hits, don’t swallow it or numb it.

Instead, take 60 seconds to step outside and move—walk a block, breathe, shake it out, dance in your kitchen. Let your body do what it’s built to do.

Movement is the doorway to emotional freedom.

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Connect with Me:

Follow me on Instagram @starlynhaneman for doses of authentic living, women’s empowerment, nervous system regulation, and the beautifully messy midlife journey—because freedom never comes from staying comfortable.

Two weeks ago, I was deep in the messy goo of perimenopause and exhaustion. Today? I finally feel like myself again. Whether it’s the hormones, the early morning sunlight, or just an energetic shift, something finally fucking clicked—and it brought me into some seriously deep reflection about my six-year alcohol-free anniversary and the freedom it created in my life.

In this episode, we dive into:

• What six years alcohol-free has really taught me about clarity, peace, and self-trust
• Why quitting alcohol didn’t feel hard—and what made it possible
• The three simple, free practices that supported my transformation: gratitude, meditation, and grace
• How numbing keeps us stuck and why discomfort is the doorway to freedom
• The worthiness wound behind never resting and always doing
• Whether I miss drinking—and why I still don’t want to go back

This episode is your reminder that you don’t need a complicated plan or a huge life overhaul to change your life. You need honesty, support, and small, consistent actions that reconnect you with who you actually want to be.

Challenge for You:

What area of your life is calling you toward freedom?

This week, notice where you’re numbing out—food, wine, scrolling, busyness—and give yourself one moment of honest pause instead. That’s where the door to freedom starts to crack open.

Book Mentioned:

👉 This Naked Mind by Annie Grace — the book that made quitting drinking feel effortless and life-changing.

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Connect with Me:

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and building a life that actually feels like yours. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today’s episode is a little different.

Because life right now? It’s not shiny or inspiring or tied up with a bow. It’s gooey. Messy. Uncertain.

And honestly, I didn’t even want to record this one.

In “The Messy Goo,” I’m pulling back the curtain on what it really feels like to be in the middle of a transformation when everything seems to crumble—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. From navigating the exhaustion and mood swings of perimenopause to questioning who I am and learning to receive help instead of doing it all myself, this episode is an invitation to breathe through your own breakdown and see it as part of your becoming.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The emotional rollercoaster of midlife transformation and identity loss
• The raw truth about perimenopause, hormones, and mental health
• Why doing it all yourself isn’t strength—it’s self-protection
• How to let support in without abandoning yourself
• Why the messy middle (“the goo”) is the birthplace of rebirth

This episode is your reminder that you’re not broken—you’re in process. The goo is the sacred space between who you were and who you’re becoming. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s where the real magic happens.

Challenge for You:

Ask yourself: What part of your own messy goo are you resisting?

This week, instead of hiding it, acknowledge it. Journal on what’s falling away—and what new version of you might be forming beneath the surface.

Rate and Review:

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Connect with Me:

Follow me on Instagram @starlynhaneman for more rebel wisdom and unfiltered conversations that remind you there’s no freedom inside your comfort zone.

Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and building a life that actually feels like yours. Today we’re burning down two things that keep women stuck: the endless good-girl apology and the tired “put your oxygen mask on first” advice.

Inspired by a long summer, a pastry in the river, and a realization about how women are conditioned to only care for themselves in crisis—I’m talking about what it looks like to stop waiting for the emergency and start breathing now.

In this episode, we dive into:

The problem with the oxygen-mask cliché (and why it pisses me off)

The difference between proactive vs. reactive self-care

How to tell if something’s truly fueling you—or just numbing you

Why you don’t need permission to breathe—you just need to choose it

This episode is your reminder that you don’t need a crisis plan for self-care. You don’t have to wait until you’re gasping for air to finally put yourself first. You can just breathe—every damn day.

Challenge for You:

This week, notice the moments you’re tempted to apologize or wait until you “deserve” care. Instead, choose one thing that feels good—just because you love it. Do it without guilt, apology, or explanation.

Rate and Review:

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Inspired by a solo mountain getaway (that wasn’t quite as solo as planned) and my ongoing battle with mom guilt, we’re talking boundaries, expectations, and why silent resentment isn’t the vibe.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why unspoken expectations will wreck your peace every damn time

The real reason people aren’t meeting your needs (hint: they don’t know them)

How mom guilt keeps us stuck in default mode

My not-so-glamorous lesson in screen time, FaceTime, and setting boundaries

The uncomfortable magic of actually sticking to your boundaries

This episode is your reminder that no one’s a mind reader—and if you want space, peace, or support, you’ve got to say it. The badass life you’re building? It starts with clear expectations and owning your own damn needs.

Challenge for You:

What do you need that you haven’t said out loud? Your mission this week: tell one person exactly what you need—without guilt, apology, or hoping they’ll just guess.

Rate and Review:

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Recorded mid-drive to the mountains (because inspired chaos is kinda my brand), this one’s for anyone staring down a long-ass goal wondering if it’s ever going to come together. Spoiler alert: It will. But not on your timeline—and that’s okay.

In this episode, we dive into:

🛣️ The myth of “should be further along by now”

💥 What HGTV won’t tell you about real transformation

⚡ How to keep going when the finish line disappears

💡 The invisible progress that’s just as important as the flashy wins

🎯 The radical pride of doing hard shit yourself—slowly

This episode is your reminder that you're not behind—you're building something that actually matters. And that kind of work? It takes time. It takes guts. And it makes you a total badass.

Challenge for You:

Make a list of all the hard shit you’ve done that no one claps for (especially YOU). The inner work. The learning curves. The almost-gave-up moments. Then look at it and say, “Damn, I did that.”

Rate and Review:

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This episode is a truth-teller, a wake-up call, and a gut-check—because if you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly deferring, defaulting, or disappearing in your own life… you’re not alone. And no, you’re not “just easygoing”—you’ve been taught to abandon yourself.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why “I’m fine with whatever” is actually a red flag

How people-pleasing is the most socially acceptable form of self-abandonment

What it really means to use your voice—and why it’s so hard to do

A simple experiment to start breaking the habit today

Why speaking up for your needs is the boldest rebellion of all

This episode is your reminder that your voice matters, your wants are valid, and you’re not here to play the supporting role in someone else’s story. You get to be the main character. Period.

Challenge for You:

Today, when someone asks you what you want—pause. Check in with yourself. Then say it out loud. No apologizing. No over-explaining. Just the truth. Try it. Let it feel awkward. Let it feel powerful.

Rate and Review:

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Connect with Me:

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Inspired by tax season (ugh), home reno chaos, and the sheer magic of micro moves, this episode is a love letter to every rebel who’s been frozen by overwhelm and sick of the productivity pressure.

In this episode, we dive into:

🧠 Why your nervous system freaks the hell out when you stare down big goals

👣 The power of micro actions (a.k.a. tricking yourself into doing the thing)

🔥 Why “motivation” is a scam—and what actually gets things moving

💪 How to reclaim your power by making your own rules

🏡 The real-life story of how I slayed taxes and installed a kitchen floor like a damn queen

This episode is your permission slip to stop waiting for perfect energy, perfect timing, or perfect plans. You don’t need to bulldoze your way to the finish line—you just need one rebellious little step at a time.

Challenge for You:

What’s that one thing you’ve been putting off? Don’t tackle the whole mountain—just take one tiny action that feels doable right now. Even if it’s just opening a damn tab.

Rate and Review:

If this episode called you out (in the best way), leave a quick review! It helps more wild women find this space and stop spiraling in hustle shame.

Connect with Me:

Come hang out on Instagram @starlynhaneman for more rebel pep talks, life rules for women that know they are meant to kick some serious ass, and behind-the-scenes real life chaos.

Inspired by a road trip and my love for a good metaphor, we’re talking about what it really means to build a life (and hit your goals) your way. Because spoiler alert: someone else’s plan isn’t your path.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why following someone else’s roadmap will only lead to burnout and disappointment

The hidden danger of doing things just because “that’s how it’s done”

How to know if you’re abandoning your joy for someone else’s version of success

The mindset shift that makes goal-chasing sustainable and satisfying

Why trusting your own body, energy, and intuition is the ultimate rebellion

This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to suffer your way to success. You can slow down, take detours, enjoy the views, and still get exactly where you’re meant to go.

Challenge for You:

Look at one goal you’re working toward right now. Are you following someone else’s plan because you think you should? What would it look like to pursue that goal in a way that actually feels good to you? Make one tiny shift toward your own path today.

Rate and Review:

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We live in a world designed to keep us comfortable. We have instant access to entertainment, food, distractions—anything to keep us from sitting in a moment of challenge or unease. But here’s the truth: when you avoid discomfort, you avoid growth.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why our modern world has made us weaker when it comes to handling discomfort

The difference between numbing yourself and truly living

How cold plunging, strength training, and silent walks have transformed my resilience

Why embracing discomfort is the key to confidence, fulfillment, and badassery

The challenge that will push you to reclaim your power

This episode is your reminder that if you want to live an extraordinary life, you have to stop running from hard things. Growth doesn’t happen in comfort. The life you want? It’s on the other side of discomfort.

Challenge for You:

This week, do one thing that makes you uncomfortable.

Take a cold shower.

Sit in silence with your thoughts for 10 minutes.

Push yourself harder in a workout—or finally start moving your body if you’ve been avoiding it.

Stand in a checkout line without pulling out your phone.

Whatever it is, embrace the discomfort and notice how it shifts your mindset. Because once you realize discomfort won’t kill you, you become unstoppable.

Rate and Review:

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It all started when my 11-year-old daughter hit me with a question over breakfast: Mom, what’s your favorite word? That one little question sent me spiraling in the best way. Because words carry weight. They shape how we move through the world. And the ones we love? They define us. The ones we hate? They tell us what we refuse to accept.

So, what’s your favorite word? And what’s the one that makes you cringe? Your answers might just be the key to living a life that actually fits.

In this episode, we break down:

Why my daughter’s least favorite word is perfect—and why that’s genius

Why freedom is my favorite word—and control can go straight to hell

How words reveal your deepest values (without all the self-help fluff)

The sneaky ways we live out of alignment without even realizing it

How to use this trick to call out your own bullshit and course-correct fast

Your Challenge:

Think about your favorite word. Now think about the one that makes your skin crawl. What do they tell you about how you really want to live? And are you actually living that way? Be brutally honest with yourself.

No More Playing Small:

If this episode hit home, do me a favor—rate and review the show. It helps bring more rebels into the fold.

Come Hang With Me:

Find me on Instagram @starlynhaneman for more raw truths, rebellious wisdom, and reminders to live on your own damn terms.

When was the last time you said yes to something that you knew wasn’t right for you? Maybe it was a job, a relationship, an opportunity that looked good on paper but felt off deep in your gut. That happened to me recently, and in this episode, I’m sharing how I got sucked into the trap of doing what I thought I should do instead of what actually aligned with me.

In this episode, we dive into:

The sneaky ways we convince ourselves to stay in situations that aren’t right

Why I took (and quickly quit) a job that went against everything I want

The truth about money and why earning it the wrong way isn’t worth it

How to recognize when you're settling—and what to do about it

Why people-pleasing and guilt cannot dictate your decisions anymore

This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to accept what’s handed to you—you get to choose what aligns with your values, your energy, and your purpose. If something feels off, trust that feeling. You are not here to play small, to settle, or to squeeze yourself into spaces that aren’t meant for you.

Challenge for You:

Take a moment today to ask yourself: Where am I settling? Is it in your job? Your relationships? Your daily routine? Once you identify it, make a small shift toward something better.

Rate and Review:

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We’re taught to put on a strong face, keep it together, and push through—but real strength? That comes from being seen in your raw, messy, and unfiltered truth.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why vulnerability is the ultimate rebellion in a world that wants you to hide

My personal struggle with depression and why I finally asked for help

Learning that not everything can be fixed—and why that’s okay

The mindset shift from “I have to do this alone” to “I don’t have to carry this by myself”

How sharing your struggles can create more compassion and connection

This episode is an invitation to drop the mask, speak your truth, and trust that the right people will hold space for you. If you’ve ever felt like you had to keep it together for everyone else, let this be your reminder that you don’t have to carry it alone.

Challenge for You:

Think of one thing you’ve been struggling with but keeping to yourself. Who’s one person you can open up to this week? Even if it’s just a simple “Hey, I’ve been feeling off lately.” You don’t have to have the answers—just let yourself be seen.

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In this episode, we dive into:

• My wild success (and obsession) with reading more books
• How setting screen time limits made me realize I do have time for things I love
• Why your goals should come from a place of growth—not guilt
• My latest challenge: jumping into an ice-cold lake just for fun (WTF am I thinking?!)
• How to rethink your intentions so they actually feel good

Plus, I have a little permission slip for you: You don’t have to do things the way everyone says you should. Want to start fresh in February instead of January? Do it. Want to toss out goals that feel gross? Toss ‘em. Your life, your rules.

Challenge for You:

Take a look at your daily habits and ask yourself: Am I doing this because I love it, or because I feel like I should? Then, make one small shift toward something that actually lights you up.

Rate and Review:

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🎧 Listen now and DM me on Instagram —I want to hear how you’re making life more you!

In this episode, we dive into:

• What it means to live a badass life—boldness, confidence, and prioritizing you.
• How to embrace being a rebel woman—defying societal expectations and showing up as your most authentic self.
• Why reflection is your first step toward freedom—getting real about what’s not working and defining what you do want.
• Creating an identity you love—building habits and choices that align with your personal values (without falling into the “shoulds” of society).
• Breaking free from conditioning—understanding why we’re wired to fit in and why it’s time to let that survival instinct go.

This episode is a wake-up call to stop living for other people’s expectations and start showing up for yourself. I’m here to remind you that you’re not here to play it safe—you’re here to live boldly, take up space, and be the rebel woman you were always meant to be.

Challenge for You:

Take 5 minutes today to reflect on where you’re watering yourself down to meet someone else’s expectations. Then ask yourself—what would it look like to live for you instead?

Rate and Review:

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What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• The moment in 2019 when a panic attack on my kitchen floor changed everything.
• How I coped with anxiety through alcohol—and why it wasn’t working anymore.
• The cringeworthy (and hilarious) story of how I sharted my pants on my way to a job interview (yep, I went there!).
• Why anxiety meds weren’t the right solution for me—and how I decided to take matters into my own hands.
• The life-changing power of “woo-woo” practices like meditation and gratitude—and how they helped me break free from societal expectations.
• My personal journey to quitting alcohol and how it transformed my life.
• Why so many women feel trapped by the pressure to be perfect—and how this podcast aims to help you break free.

Key Takeaways:

• It’s OK to Feel Stuck: You’re not alone in struggling with anxiety, perfectionism, or the societal pressures of womanhood and motherhood.
• Small Changes Lead to Big Results: Simple practices like guided meditation and gratitude journaling can shift your mindset and reduce overwhelm.
• Perfection Is a Lie: Let’s stop striving for “perfect” and start embracing the messy, beautiful truth of who we really are.
• You’re Not Alone: Sharing your story—even the embarrassing parts—creates connection and can inspire others to take action in their own lives.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Naked Mind by Annie Grace – The book that helped me quit drinking and reclaim my mental health.

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