The Self Love Revolution

Living glamorously with Julia Clancey & Juju Waters

Global — Mon, 27 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +0100

I cannot believe it's the last episode of season two! I've had so many incredibly inspiring conversations this series - please do listen back if you've missed any. We've done episodes on motherhood, self-sabotage, toxicity and perfectionism.

I'm leaving you with a whole damn episode on how to add more glamour to your life. Joining me is the amazing designer Julia Clancey and entertainer Juju Waters.

Find Julia here: https://www.instagram.com/juliaclancey/?hl=en

Find Juju here: https://www.instagram.com/dearjuju/?hl=en

How to have better sex with Reed Amber! We also talk fetishes, kinks, open relationships, sex work + selling your feet on OnlyFans!

Global — Mon, 20 Jan 2025 04:00:00 +0100

SPICY EPISDE ALERT! Warning: Do not listen to this episode with children around.

This episode is all about how to ever have better sex. I'm talking to the incredible sex educator and co-host of the podcast Come Curious, Reed Amber. We talk about communication, love languages, jealousy and trying something new. I also ask Reed about her incredible journey into sex work, ethical porn, fetishes and kinks - PLUS how she makes money selling her feet on Only Fans!

Find Reed here: https://www.instagram.com/reedamberx

It’s never too late: Finding fitness in mid-life with Kate Rowe-Ham & Cordelia Esson

Global — Mon, 13 Jan 2025 04:00:00 +0100

This episode is for you if you need to get your ass moving!

I wasn't always fit. I dabbled in fitness in my twenties, but only to get skinny. It wasn't until mid-life when I wanted to get stronger, did things change for me. But don't get me wrong, getting started can feel overwhelming! But if there's one gift you can give yourself, it's the time to move your body. To find our how the heck we can get motivated and find the right movement for you, I'm joined by the amazing menopause fitness coach and founder of Owning Your Menopause, Kate Rowe-Ham, and fitness instructor Cordelia Esson.

Find Kate here: https://www.instagram.com/katerh_fitness/?hl=en

Find Cords here: https://www.instagram.com/fitbycords/?hl=en

How to be enough with Sophie Tea & Melanie Rickey

Global — Mon, 06 Jan 2025 04:00:00 +0100

Am I enough?

Am I doing enough? Am I wifeing enough? Am I parenting enough? Am I working enough?

Being a human is exhausting. We're always measuring ourselves against an impossible measuring stick. But who decides what's enough? Today's episode was inspired by the incredible Melanie Rickey, a journalist and podcaster who is on a mission to reframe enoughness. Also joining us is the extraordinary artist Sophie Tea, who's work is about celebrating the female form and encouraging women everyone to feel just a little bit nicer about themselves.

Find Sophie here: https://www.instagram.com/sophieteaart/?hl=en

Find Melanie here: https://www.instagram.com/melaniejrickey/?hl=en

Is this normal!? Mental health debunked with Claire Goodwin-Fee

Global — Mon, 23 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0100

While it's amazing there are lot more conversations about mental health going on, self-diagnosis on social media is rife. It can feel all very overwhelming. Life is complicated, but what is normal? At what stage does my worry become an anxiety disorder, or low moods depression? Where do we ask for help? How does therapy work? To answer all these questions is my good friend Claire Goodwin-Fee, who just so happens to be an incredible psychotherapist and founder and CEO of Frontline19, an organisation that provides free psychological support to NHS.

Find Claire here: https://www.instagram.com/clairegoodwinfee/

Finding yourself after the motherhood wilderness with Mama Still Got It, Louise Boyce

Global — Mon, 16 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0100

Motherhood has been the wildest ride of my life (pardon the pun), but how do you navigate this time without losing your identity? In this episode I'm joined by the amazing Mama Still Got It, Louise Boyce, as we share our most isolating, heartbreaking, embarrassing and hilarious moments of motherhood - and our advice on how to find yourself after the motherhood wilderness.

Find Louise here: https://www.instagram.com/mamastillgotit_/?hl=en

Living with loss with Donna Ashworth & Lalitaa Suglani

Global — Mon, 09 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0100

Grief isn't just about the loss of a loved one. It's a deep feeling of sorrow, and we grieve many things in life: the end of a relationship, chapters of our life that have passed, friendships that have come and gone, our children as they leave home. Does time heal all wounds? How do you move on when grief is taking you down? I'm joined by the incredible poet Donna Ashworth and psychologist Dr Lalitaa Suglani for some beautiful words of wisdom.

Find Lalitta here: https://www.instagram.com/dr.lalitaa/?hl=en

Find Donna here: https://www.instagram.com/donnaashworthwords/

Breaking free from toxicity with Josh Connelly

Global — Mon, 02 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0100

TW: This episode discusses suicide.

I know toxic is a word that's often batted about on social media, but in this episode we're looking at what toxicity really means and how you can tell whether you have a toxic relationship in your life: romantic, parental or friendship. I'm joined by the incredible Josh Connolly, a resilience coach who raises awareness around addiction recovery and dysfunctional family environments.

Find Josh here: https://www.instagram.com/josh_ffw/?hl=en

Find Josh's book, It's Them Not You, here: https://www.joshconnolly.co.uk/its-them-not-you

Getting out the midlife funk: How to get your mojo back with Nina Ambrose from Rants and Big Pants

Global — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 04:00:00 +0100

From time to time, we all lose our mojo. There are times you just can't see the sunshine. But as women, we're used to spinning and changing and this episode is all about helping you get out of that funk. I'm joined by the incredible Nina Ambrose, one half of rants and big bants, to share how she picks herself back up from rolling in the deep.

Find Nina here: https://www.instagram.com/rantsandbigpants/

Stop self-sabotage with Naz El-Mariesh & Sara Jane Maxwell

Global — Mon, 18 Nov 2024 04:00:00 +0100

Why do so many women talk to ourselves like sh*t? Why do we repeat self-destructive behaviour? I've been lucky enough to meet hundreds of women over the last few years and one thing we all have in common: we get in our own way. We find it hard to say no. We fear failure and insist on comparing ourselves to others. Today I am finding out how we can all stop c*ckblocking ourselves and finally stop the self-sabotage. I'm joined by Naz El-Mariesh, a women's empowerment coach and Sara Jane Maxwell, a wealth coach, who will talk you through how to identify which type of self-saboteur you are, and how you can overcome it.

Find Naz here: https://womenarethemedicine.net

https://www.nasreenel-mariesh.com/

Find Sara Jane here: https://www.wealth-coach.co.uk

Dismantling perfect with Anna Mathur

Global — Mon, 11 Nov 2024 04:00:00 +0100

For most of my life, I've tried to be perfect. The perfect wife. The perfect mother. The perfect friend. I wondered for years: where did these high standards come from? I have since realised that trying to be perfect will make for a very long, disappointing life. The Self Love Revolution is all about dispelling that myth and letting it go. This week I'm joined by bestselling author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur.

Find Anna Mathur here: https://www.instagram.com/annamathur/

Find Anna's latest book here: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/462727/the-uncomfortable-truth-by-mathur-anna/9780241707197

Join the zero f**ks club! Quit caring what others think with Cheryl the Queen & Jay Beech

Global — Mon, 04 Nov 2024 04:00:00 +0100

Hello and welcome back to the Self Love Revolution, baby! I'm beyond excited to bring you season two, and we're starting with a bang. As one of the founding members of the zero f**ks club, I've been on a journey of learning how to care less what people think. This fear can rule our lives and hold us back from being brave and living big. So for this episode, I'm joined by two of the most confident people I know, Cheryl the Queen and content creator Jay Beech, to share their secrets for living life out loud.

Cheryl the Queen: https://www.instagram.com/cheryldragqueen/?hl=en

Jay Beech: https://www.instagram.com/jayybeech/?hl=en

I give myself permission to... Pick up guys and not feel guilty about a girly trip

Global — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 00:15:00 +0100

These permission slips absolutely spoke to me! This week we're chatting about banishing the shame and stigma of being able to pick up guys and have lots of sex, and why we as women still feel guilty about leaving our partners and kids to spend time with our girlfriends. I'm joined by my good friend Jodie Cariss, who always leaves me with incredible nuggets of wisdom. She's a therapist and co-founder of Self-Space.

Why a walk could change your life

Global — Mon, 01 Jul 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Hiking really did change my life. When I moved to Portland, I had no job and no friends. I decided to go on a hike and posted it online. The next thing I knew, I had a whole gaggle of mums join me and so Hike Squad was born. We hiked all over America. These women held me up as I processed so much of life's trauma and grief on these walks. Now, not every walk can be life-changing, but with the help of adventurist Gail Muller and comedian and podcaster Helen Thorn, I hope this episode inspires you to get outside, even if for just 20 minutes.

I give myself permission to... Live my gay life after living in the closet and stop having imposter syndrome

Global — Fri, 28 Jun 2024 00:15:00 +0100

I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.

How to navigate the mid-life dating wilderness

Global — Mon, 24 Jun 2024 00:15:00 +0100

After 25 years of marriage, I've taken a lover. Dating beyond divorce is scary, but I'm loving the adventure. In this episode we're unpacking how to know when you're ready to date, dating red flags and how to uncover your values to find the perfect partner. I'm joined by two incredible guests this week, Mel Schilling, dating and relationship coach and expert on Married At First Sight and Stacey Duguid, journalist and author of Pursuit of Happiness, who chronicled her dating life post-divorce in a Telegraph column.

I give myself permission to… Tell my friends I'm a swinger and do a stand up comedy show

Global — Fri, 21 Jun 2024 00:15:00 +0100

I absolutely love this two permission slips. This week we're talking about banishing the shame around telling your friends that you go to sex parties and how to build the confidence to do a stand up gig. This week I'm joined by the amazing Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space.

How to be alone

Global — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 10:30:00 +0100

There's a big difference between being lonely and choosing to be alone. Two years ago, I left my husband, packed up my belongings and travelled around the US on a bright pink bus. I met hundreds of women who felt lonely - even in their relationships. Spending that time alone gave me so much strength, so I wanted to dedicate an episode on embracing the space of being alone and navigating loneliness. This week I'm joined by Donna Easton, a joyologist, Yasmine Camille, is a business strategist and single mum.

I give myself permission to... Be openly and unapologetically sexy and tell people to f*ck off

Global — Fri, 14 Jun 2024 00:15:00 +0100

How difficult is it for you to be unapologetically sexy? And why do women find this such a challenge? In this week's episode I'm joined by Libby DeLana - a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking - to talk about your permission slips. We're also discussing how to communicate to those who have done you wrong.

How to learn to love your body

Global — Mon, 10 Jun 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Content warning: This episode contains discussions around eating disorders.

Feeling beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like. That's easier said than done, mind you. Motherhood saw me put on three stone, and divorce saw me look gaunt with weight loss from stress. If you're struggling with learning how to love your body, you need to listen to this episode. I'm joined by Nyome Nicholas-Williams - known as Curvy Nyome online - she's a model and activist, and Cas Shaw - Dance Yer Tits Off online - a fitness instructor and breast cancer survivor.

I give myself permission to... See my fat tummy in a crop top and say yes more often

Global — Fri, 07 Jun 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Naz El Mariesh, a women’s empowerment coach and all round magical human.

Ageing disgracefully

Global — Mon, 03 Jun 2024 10:35:00 +0100

I refuse to become invisible as I age. Getting older is challenging, but I have found a power and strength in ageing; I didn't anticipate my 50s being my bad bitch era. This episode is going to show you that you ain't dead yet and the best is still to come. Lynne Franks is a legendary PR and founder of the SEED Women’s Empowerment - she's also the woman who inspired the hit sitcom Absolutely Fabulous - and Rose Rouse, co-founder of Advantages of Age, a social enterprise that challenges the media narrative around ageing.

I give myself permission to… Remain angry at the b*stards that didn’t support me through my divorce and holiday by myself

Global — Fri, 31 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space, the UK's first on-demand mental health service on the high street.

You can sit with us: How to make friends

Global — Mon, 27 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Friendships are some of the most important relationships you’ll ever have in your life. As life ebbs and flows, so do friendships. A true friend for me holds you up, holds you accountable, shows up to bury the body and is your biggest cheerleader. This episode is all about navigating friendships: the toxic ones, celebrating the amazing ones and how the heck you make new ones. Joining me today is Laura Mears-Reynolds who hosts the podcast ADHD AF and Amy Polly, mindfulness coach.

I give myself permission to... Take control of the TV remote and let my light shine

Global — Fri, 24 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.

The power of forgiveness

Global — Mon, 20 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

What does forgiveness mean to you? You probably jump to a time where someone has done you wrong. There's no magical button that can make that hurt or anger vanish, but instead this episode is going to teach you how to forgive and move on. It's simple, but it's not easy. I'm joined by two incredible people: my dad, Frank Hillebrand and women's empowerment coach, Naz El-Mariesh.

I give myself permission to... Sunbathe topless and to give zero f*cks what others think

Global — Fri, 17 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. I’m joined again by Libby DeLana, a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking.

The F Word: A guide to busting finance shame

Global — Mon, 13 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

It's not the F word I like to use - bloody finances. I've been in debt for nearly my whole adult life. I have also battled a decades-long shopping addiction: choosing trainers over the rent and ruining relationships as I go. Money shame has clouded my life and after I confessed to stealing money from work to fund my habit, I knew something had to change. Today I have two amazing finance experts joining me - they're going to teach us how to get our financial shit together. Peter Komolafe and Sara-Jane Maxwell, who is known the Wealth Coach online.

I give myself permission to... Quit and admit defeat and to fall in love again

Global — Fri, 10 May 2024 07:35:00 +0100

Stop getting in your own way! A guide to stepping out of your comfort zone, chasing the fear and being brave

Global — Mon, 06 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

I've learned more when I'm shit scared: it's where the magic happens. It's better to try and fail, than to play it safe. Comfort is a bloody slow death. So if you need a guidebook on how to get out of your own way, this episode is for you. This week I'm joined by Ilana Gambrill, founder of DanceBox aimed at empowering women through and movement, and Laura Belbin, the comedian known as Knee Deep in Life online.

I give myself permission to... Wank in front of my husband and fully own my past without shame

Global — Fri, 03 May 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.

The Big D, divorce: How to know when it's time to leave

Global — Mon, 29 Apr 2024 00:15:00 +0100

On Valentine's Day, my divorce was finalised. I'd been married for nearly twenty years and separating has been one of the most brutal, soul-shifting but liberating chapters of my life. In this episode, I'm joined by two incredible guests: Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space and Julia Margo, co-founder of the sex toy company Hot Octopuss. We explore what makes us stay, when is it time to leave, how to tell the kids, where to go for financial help and is there life after divorce?

I give myself permission to… Take a day off and love without consequences

Global — Fri, 26 Apr 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Libby DeLana, a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking.

How to get through the sh*t life throws your way

Global — Mon, 22 Apr 2024 00:15:00 +0100

It's inevitable: bad things happen in life. We've all been through something. This episode won't change your circumstances or your past, but what I hope it does is inspire you to just keep going and figure out some different ways to show up for your shit. Joining me in this episode is the presenter Claira Hermet and Anna Kilpatrick, who is Not Needing New online.

I give myself permission to... Not be perfect and let go of control

Global — Fri, 19 Apr 2024 00:15:00 +0100

How to say no, set boundaries and have uncomfortable conversations

Global — Mon, 15 Apr 2024 00:15:00 +0100

I was going to call this episode 'How to say f**k off better', because I thought that's what boundaries were all about. But what I learned in this episode has been an absolute GAMECHANGER for me. Joining me this week is Dr Sophie Mort, a clinical psychologist and bestselling author and Jill Lavender, founder of the London and New York meditation centres.

Is this too much? How to find the confidence to wear what the f**k you want

Global — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 00:17:00 +0100

If you see me in the street you'd you probably do a double take. I'm a lover of bright clothes, animal print, feathers, sequins - and that's just going to the supermarket. But it's come at a cost. After realising I had a shopping addiction, I started a Non Shopping Project, where I didn't buy anything new for a year. This gave me a whole new confidence after learning to style what I already had. So if you've lost your confidence in life, your style is a great place to start. In this episode I'm joined by Siobhan Murphy, stylist and interior designer at Interior Curve and Jackie Thompson-Brown from PlanetJQ to share our top tips in how to gain the confidence to embrace your style.

Generation Menopause: Hot flush hell or the liberation chapter?

Global — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 00:16:00 +0100

Hot flushes and dry vaginas, weight gain and vanishing libido; the menopause gets a bad rap. But I'll let you in on a secret: it can also be the liberation years. In this episode, I'm busting menopause myths with Davina McCall and Karen Arthur, founder of Menopause Whilst Black, and we're on a mission to reclaim midlife.

Don’t die without having an orgasm

Global — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 00:15:00 +0100

Self love isn't all about masturbation, but I couldn't resist my very first episode being about the big O. When I separated from my husband of 20 years, I moved into the spare room, bought myself a vibrator and found a whole new confidence in my body. And I couldn't believe that it took me so long to get there (pun unintended)! So this episode is your go-to guide of how to have a fan-fucking-tastic orgasm before you die. I'm joined by Nat Lee, better known as Style Me Sunday online and author of Feeling Myself: How I shed my shame to find sexual freedom and you can too and Emma Boynton, host of Sex Talks.

Get ready for The Self Love Revolution - launching Monday 8th April!

Global — Thu, 04 Apr 2024 14:45:00 +0100

Oh hi, I'm Lu. I'm a 53-year-old ray of sunshine and I’m on a mission to teach you how love your god-damn self. For most of my life I was told to simmer down and that I was too much. I spent years trying to shrink myself into everybody's expectations of me and wallowed in shame. But then in mid-life, something shifted in me and I started to feel confident for the first time in my life. This podcast is your guide to loving your god-damn self and each week I’ll introduce you to some of the best bad-ass humans I’ve met along my journey so far. Monday 8th April we're launching our first three episodes: orgasms, menopause and style. Follow the feed so you don't miss an episode and welcome to the Self Love Revolution, baby!