We focused on awareness, sensing the body, and resisting the urge to rush straight into fixing or forcing change.

This week, we take the next step.

In this episode, we introduce Step Two of the Shift and a core concept that explains why so many well-intended changes fail:

In this episode, we explore:

1. The difference between a want and a should (and why shoulds never work)
2. The three levels of caring—and how to tell which one you’re in
3. Why pain can create awareness but still isn’t enough to drive lasting change
4. How your body is always participating in your decisions (whether you acknowledge it or not)
5. Real-life examples from relationships, health, work, caffeine use, sleep, movement, and motivation
6. How to identify the emotion you’re actually seeking—and recreate it in new contexts
7. What it means to stop forcing change and start aligning with yourself

This episode builds directly on our recent health episode (episode 43 and 44!) and shows why sustainable health (and growth in any area) can’t come from guilt, pressure, or discipline alone.

The goal this week isn’t to force yourself to want something.

It’s to discover what you already want, find the emotional drivers behind it, and let your body come along for the ride.

📄 Free Worksheets

We reference several worksheets throughout this episode to help you do the Want Match work step-by-step.

If you’d like free access to these worksheets, just reach out to us and we’ll send them your way—no cost, no catch.

🔗 Links & Resources:

📩 Want the worksheets mentioned in these episodes?

Email us → team@theshift5.com

🔥 Join the dojo and apply this work in real life → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

📸 Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

If you haven’t listened to Ep 43 “Unmedicated Freedom: Applying the Shift 5 to Health, Awareness, and Radical Self-Ownership” yet, start there first—this conversation is meant to deepen and clarify that work.

In this minisode, Chase and Carly open the floor to real voices inside the community as people process the health challenge out loud—asking honest questions, naming concerns, and discovering just how much awareness changes everything.

You’ll hear how caffeine, supplements, sleep, food, exercise, and medication sneak into the “I’m not on anything” category—and why this phase isn’t about fixing or quitting, but seeing clearly without judgment.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

1. Why “I’m not on meds” often isn’t the full picture
2. How caffeine, supplements, and sleep habits fit into the awareness phase
3. Real-time coaching around autoimmune medications and chronic illness
4. Why the first step is never “get off”—it’s get honest
5. The danger of choosing too many health goals at once
6. Why choosing one thing creates more change than trying to fix everything
7. How awareness reduces guilt instead of increasing it
8. Parenting, picky kids, and food—without pressure or power struggles
9. Why kids eat what you love, not what you lecture
10. Sleep as a foundational health lever (and why nothing changes yet)
11. The four quadrants of knowledge—and why this week focuses on what you don’t know you don’t know
12. Running, nutrition, caffeine, and the surprising role belief plays in physical performance
13. The question that defines the next phase of the work:
14. “What if you believed your body could do it?”

🔗 Links & Resources:

📩 Want the worksheets mentioned in these episodes?

Email us → team@theshift5.com

🔥 Join the dojo and apply this work in real life → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

📸 Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

In this episode, Chase and Carly move from theory into application, kicking off the first real-world Shift 5 challenge: health.

You’ll learn how to take the Shift 5 framework out of the classroom and into your daily life—through tangible challenges designed to increase awareness, reclaim agency, and create real freedom. This episode introduces the Unmedicated Challenge and three distinct health tracks, all rooted in compassion, curiosity, and radical self-ownership.

This isn’t about judgment or perfection. It’s about learning where you are—so change becomes possible.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

1. Why awareness always comes before change
2. The difference between learning theory and living the work
3. Why health is the foundation for freedom in every other area of life
4. The Unmedicated Challenge and what it actually means (and doesn’t mean)
5. How medications and supplements replace natural body functions—and why understanding that matters
6. Why shame shuts down growth and curiosity opens it up
7. How breathwork and cold exposure become tools for clarity, insight, and revelation
8. The daily “Sense Your Body” practice and reflection prompts
9. How small health shifts create more time, freedom, and flexibility in life
10. A powerful cold-shower realization that reshaped how Chase and Carly think about time, money, and lifestyle design
11. Why inverted living and radical self-ownership unlock long-term freedom

🧠 Important Note on Worksheets:

Several worksheets and reflection prompts are referenced throughout this episode.

If you’d like access to the worksheets mentioned, email us and we’ll help you get connected.

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions, worksheet access, or support → team@theshift5.com

From the outside, life looked perfect: a successful career, a young family, financial stability, and physical strength. But internally, Chase’s body was shutting down. After being diagnosed with severe Crohn’s disease, becoming bedridden, dependent on IV nutrition, and nearly dying from sepsis, he was faced with a stark reality:

No one was coming to save him.

What followed was a deep, personal journey into understanding the autonomic nervous system, chronic stress, inflammation, trauma, and the body’s innate ability to heal—when the right conditions are created.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why chronic stress leads to chronic inflammation and autoimmune disease
2. How the autonomic nervous system governs healing, digestion, hormones, immunity, and mental health
3. The difference between fight-or-flight and rest-and-digest, and why so many of us are stuck in survival mode
4. How trauma and subconscious “bookmarks” keep us reliving the past in our bodies
5. Why your nervous system may sabotage change—even when you want it
6. How breathwork and cold exposure retrain safety, resilience, and homeostasis
7. Why cortisol isn’t the enemy—and how learning to release it properly changed everything
8. The science behind why anxiety, depression, autoimmune disease, and relational conflict share a common root

If you’ve ever felt stuck in anxiety, illness, burnout, scarcity, or reactivity—and wondered why willpower isn’t enough—this episode lays the foundation for a completely different way forward.

Healing isn’t about forcing change.

It’s about teaching your body that it’s safe to heal.

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
3. Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

and it feels like nothing is coming back?

In this When Shift Hits the Fan episode, we step into a raw, honest coaching conversation about money, faith, consecration, and scarcity—what happens when abundance used to feel real, but now feels completely out of reach.

Our guest shares the lived experience of:

1. Receiving resources with a deep sense of stewardship and consecration
2. Watching those resources disappear in service, community, and responsibility
3. Hitting a season where money feels tight, fear feels loud, and hope feels fragile

And then asking the question so many of us quietly carry:

“What if abundance was real before… but isn’t anymore?”

Inside this episode, we explore:

1. Why scarcity is often an invitation to contract—but also an invitation to expand
2. The difference between forcing gratitude and honoring fear without letting it lead
3. How abundance begins in the body, not the bank account
4. Why “nothing has gone wrong” can be the most stabilizing thought in moments of collapse
5. How to identify your next right step when the future feels overwhelming
6. Why small, grounded actions (cleaning, planting, tending) can be powerful acts of trust
7. How holding a feeling for just 17 seconds can begin shifting momentum

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
3. Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

Rather than changing circumstances to escape discomfort, we explore how to first feel the way we want to feel, then allow aligned action to emerge naturally. This conversation reframes decision-making around money, work, relationships, and life direction by putting emotion, belief, and agency back in the correct order.

Key Concepts Covered

1. Why emotion should come before circumstance
2. How the Shift inverts the traditional “circumstances → feelings” model
3. The biological cost of stress, scarcity, and dirty pain
4. The difference between shiny-object syndrome and true alignment
5. Levels of creation (to me / by me / for me / through me / as me)
6. Why invitations to contract pull us backward in agency
7. How fear narrows choice—and expansion multiplies it

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
3. Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

We break down the subtle thoughts and patterns that create contempt, why they feel justified in the moment, and how they slowly erode intimacy, safety, and trust.

This conversation applies to romantic partnerships, parenting, family dynamics, friendships, and even your relationship with yourself.

What We’ll Discuss

1. Invitations to Contract (ITCs) in relationships
2. Emotional responsibility vs. emotional presence
3. Why keeping score kills intimacy
4. The difference between preference, control, and unconditional love
5. How inside work changes relationships without forcing outcomes

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
3. Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

This conversation explores why anxiety isn’t a thinking problem—it’s a body-based experience, often rooted in inherited patterns and reinforced over time. And more importantly, how awareness and embodiment create a real pathway forward.

What We Explore in This Episode

• Anxiety defined clearly

• Brain vs. body

• Inherited anxiety and legacy

• Step 1 of the Shift 5: Sense your body

• Why describing sensations matters

• Presence as regulation

• Anxiety as a “reminder,” not a failure

• Remembering what you want

• Expansion vs. contraction

• Trimming the sails

• Cold exposure as a reset tool

• Practicing ahead of time

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

It’s what our bodies, nervous systems, and beliefs silently pass on—generation after generation.

In this episode, we explore legacy through a biological and relational lens, uncovering how trauma, safety, regulation, and connection shape what gets carried forward—and how awareness gives us the power to change it.

This is an invitation to become the cycle-breaker in your family line.

What We Cover in This Episode

• Legacy beyond genetics

• Epigenetics explained

• Autonomic legacy.

• Attachment and safety

• Trauma redefined

• Why some experiences become trauma and others don’t

• Compassion for what you inherited

• Becoming the transformational character

• Rewiring the nervous system

• The neurology of change

• Dissociation vs. presence

• Using discomfort as a teacher

• Fear as information

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
3. Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

How do you love someone unconditionally without losing yourself?

This conversation isn’t about labels, politics, or being “right.”

It’s about agency, boundaries, nervous system regulation, and staying rooted in love—especially when preferences, values, or requests feel emotionally charged.

What We Cover in This Episode

• Preference vs. love

• Agency goes both ways

• Unconditional love ≠ self-abandonment

• Boundaries as a form of health

• Giving from love vs. obligation

• Staying out of fight-or-flight

• “I see you. I feel me.”

• Wounded dynamics

• Love as the center

🔗 Links & Resources:

1. Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
2. Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

We explore the three foundational relationship states:

dependence, independence, and interdependence, and why so many relationships struggle when codependence gets mistaken for closeness, unity, or unconditional love.

What We Cover in This Episode

• The relationship ladder

• Why children must be dependent—and adults must grow out of it

• The critical role of boundaries

• Why many health issues mirror relationship issues

• The relationship you can’t skip: you and your body

• Masculine & feminine energy (sacred polarity)

• Roles vs. enmeshment

• The uncomfortable truth that frees relationships

• Why fixing kills connection

• Wounded masculine & wounded feminine patterns

• Unconditional love with boundaries

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

Why discomfort can make you question your spirituality, your connection, and even your identity — and why that’s completely normal.

A community member asks a powerful question:

“Growth is so uncomfortable-- is my spirituality slipping, or is this what it's supposed to feel like?”

Together, we walk through:

💠 Time Dilation & the Chasm

💠 Emotional “Reawakening”

💠 Spirituality in Discomfort

💠 Capacity vs. Potential

💠 The Shift 5 in This Moment

💠 Fatigue, Cold Exposure & Listening to Your Limits

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

Instead of staying mostly in principles and paradigm shifts, we’re pulling back the curtain on the actual financial HOWs behind our lifestyle: real estate, creative financing, and negotiation — with real numbers, real deals, and real discomfort.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Okay, but how are you actually doing this?”

…this is the episode where we show you.

Chase walks through several properties they’ve purchased, how they structured the deals, how the rent and equity have changed over time, and why want match + surrender matter just as much as the spreadsheets.

Important note: These are our hows, not prescriptions. Your hows and your miracles will look different. The point is to expand your sense of what’s possible, not to copy-paste our exact path.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Hear About:

• Why want match matters more than “good ideas”
• Without a true want match, the discomfort required for growth is usually unsustainable — especially in finances.

• Three real properties and what they’ve actually done financially:

• Entity structure & tax advantages (high-level):

• Creative finance tools you may have never considered:

• The Costa Rica biological preserve negotiation story:

• Location vs. property type specialization

⚠️ Quick Disclaimer

Nothing in this episode is financial, tax, or legal advice. It’s a peek into our story and our hows. Always consult your own professionals and your own relationship with God as you choose your path.

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

But as always, the real question isn’t about the camper van at all. It’s about want, guilt, sacrifice, and the courage to surrender the how.

This conversation goes deep into the heart of lifestyle design — identifying what you actually want, naming the emotions under the surface, and deciding whether the “expense” of a dream is aligned with the life you’re building.

📍 In This Episode, We Explore:

• The real reason certain experiences call to us
• (hint: you’re chasing a feeling long before you’re chasing an object)
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• How guilt shapes our desires
• Especially when we want something that affects a spouse or family dynamic.
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• Why life is always “expensive”… but in different currencies
• Money, energy, time, identity, and courage.
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• How to identify a true want match
• And why that matters more than figuring out “the right choice.”
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• The role of surrender in lifestyle design
• Miracles don’t feel good in the moment — and that’s normal.
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• How to make aligned sacrifices
• And why intentional sacrifices feel different than forced ones.
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• The power of specificity when asking for what you want
• (Carly’s beautiful reminder: define the wants clearly and let yourself be surprised.)

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

This week, Chase and Carly share one of their most-requested topics:

How do you actually travel as a family, stay connected, keep schooling and work flowing, and structure your life so that it feels free rather than chaotic?

And yes… we talk Starlink, taxes, home design, residency hacks, and how to expand instead of contract when everything goes “wrong.”

📍 In This Episode

You’ll learn:

• Why travel is one of the best laboratories for practicing surrender
• (especially when flights are delayed and plans crumble)

• The Starlink miracle story — how a broken dish became a better dish and how expansion leads to unexpected solutions

• Our real travel HOWs:

~BYOI (Bring Your Own Internet)

~Sleep first, always

~Slow immersion vs. rushed vacations

~Building community wherever you land

~Living an inverted lifestyle to avoid crowds + save money

~Stacking rewards instead of increasing spending

• Nomad-friendly healthcare & why self-insurance works in parts of the world

• The connection between desire, agency, and designing a life that works for YOUR family. (Not ours. Not the world’s. Yours.)

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

In this Tionatam episode, Chase uses the holidays as a real-life “lab” for seeing your rules, your neurology, and your triggers around food, money, and family roles. From holiday treats and autoimmune healing to last-minute road trips and unplanned expenses, we walk through how to use the Shift 5 process to find your next aligned step—without needing to control the “how.”

You’ll hear the “This Is Water” metaphor, an honest coaching moment about the cost of a Christmas road trip, and a breakdown of why learning to say no (and being willing to disappoint people) is often the doorway to better health, calmer holidays, and more authentic relationships.

This episode is a practical guide to staying present in your body, clear on what you want, and open to miracles in the middle of holiday chaos.

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

This coaching session walks through how to untangle shoulds, uncover what you actually want, and discern the aligned next step without collapsing into people-pleasing or resistance.

You’ll hear a live coaching moment around the stress of trips with in-laws, why preparing and recovering can feel overwhelming, and how to shift your experience by separating three key elements:

~What you genuinely want

~What you think you should want

~What you’re afraid others will feel

We explore the role of nervous-system responses, subconscious rulebooks, and the difference between pressure we feel and pressure anyone is actually placing on us. You’ll learn how to try on thoughts, bring your body into the conversation, and find the version of “vacation” (frequency, energy, boundaries) that aligns with your home, your rhythms, and your values.

This minisode is a masterclass in choosing aligned action over reactive people-pleasing—especially in family dynamics where expectations, routines, and emotional history run deep.

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

Chase and Carly unpack the “rule books” you inherited about how a home should look, feel, and function (hello, flat sheets, lighting battles, and antlers on the wall), and connect it to your body: why your circumstances don’t actually create your feelings, and how your interpretation does.

You’ll hear how Carly’s research on home and motherhood revealed that square footage and clutter don’t directly create stress—our perception does. From there, we introduce the “Beam Me Up” Principle: the way matter (bodies, houses, stuff) and energy (feelings, beliefs, nervous system states) constantly beam back and forth to shape your health, home, and relationships.

This is a conversation about putting things back in their proper place—so your home and body become aligned with the life you actually want to create.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why we start with health and the body before talking about home and travel
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• How “home” is actually three things: a physical place, a web of relationships, and a felt experience
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• Funny + real examples of inherited “home manuals” (bed-making, lights, décor, hunting trophies, and more)
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• Carly’s master’s research on clutter, square footage, and why perception mediates how moms feel in their homes
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• The difference between house as matter and home as feeling—and how your brain bridges the two
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• How your nervous system (especially the vagus nerve) responds to the energy of a home and to the people inside it
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• Why we say: your things are a reflection of your inner world, not the cause of it
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• The “Beam Me Up” Principle: using symbolism to move between physical reality and emotional experience
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• The “dishes” example: how redefining what a sink full of dishes means can shift you from shame to connection or delight
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• How the same symbolism applies to the body: symptoms as invitations to connect, not punishments
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How the Shift 5 method applies to it all!

When we try to control how a miracle arrives, we close ourselves off from infinite possibilities. But when we release the “how,” trust our body’s signals, and take the next aligned step, life expands in ways we couldn’t have imagined.

You’ll hear a real coaching moment about money, fear, and faith—and how learning to create space (literally, through the breath) invites miracles in every area of life.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why surrender isn’t passive—it’s the most active form of trust
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• How “dictating the miracle” blocks flow and creativity
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• The link between contraction, fear, and shallow breathing
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• How to find your next right step with peace and alignment
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• Why it’s never really about the money (or anything else)—it’s about who you’re becoming

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

💡 What You’ll Hear

• Why “I want to be here for my family” isn’t enough—and how to name a you-centered health want that your body can act on
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• The placebo effect in plain language (including sham surgeries) and why provider and participant beliefs both matter
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• A fresh frame: belief as energy that shapes physiology (not woo—watch what your nervous system does)
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• The “Magnificent Matrix” (4 quadrants: know/ don’t know × conscious/ subconscious) and how to surface hidden drivers
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• Tacit skills vs. head knowledge: why reading about change ≠ changing (and the practice that rewires neurology)
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• Fight/flight/freeze, vagal nerve basics (ventral vs. dorsal), and the reset you can access today
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• The breath pattern for in-the-moment regulation (two inhales, one long exhale)
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• How clear wants + daily reps leverage placebo toward health, money, relationships—without the zero-sum trap
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• Where this plugs into the Shift 5: Sense Your Body → Honor What You Want → Intentionally Surrender → Fearlessly Expand → Trim the Sails
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🔗 Links & Resources

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

Through this session, we explore how shame hides beneath anger, how childhood patterns of responsibility for others’ emotions form, and what it means to listen to your body instead of solving it.

This conversation beautifully illustrates the Tionatam principle that trauma isn’t what happens to us—it’s what happens inside us.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• How conflicting beliefs create emotional dissonance in daily life
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• The role of anger as a protector for exiled parts of self
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• How childhood “shoulds” become subconscious rules that drive adult reactions
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• Recognizing the moment when shame first took root
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• Using sensory awareness to locate emotion in the body
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• The difference between thinking about healing and feeling it
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• Understanding the dorsal vagal “collapse” response and why your body uses it to survive
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• A reframe for healing: listening to the emotion instead of fixing it
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🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

💡 What You’ll Hear

• A “crazy week” story: CPR, language barriers, and the surprising calm of true surrender
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• Health as a continuum: why the work applies to both illness and ambitious goals
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• ITCs (Invitations to Contract): common thoughts that shrink your capacity (and how to spot yours)
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• The myth of the “perfect healing environment” and how to create one inside yourself
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• Step 1 (Feel) → Step 2 (Redirect) → Step 1 (Feel again): the cyclone that actually changes you
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• Partnering with your body: why it sometimes says “no” and how to build trust with it
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• “Stop looking at the rocks”: choosing what to place your attention on—now
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Relationships & health: honoring your needs so you can show up for your people

When we stop trying to fix circumstances—and start uncovering the emotions we’re chasing—everything changes. Whether it’s travel plans, finances, or the dream of a new home, this conversation shows how identifying a shared want match leads to freedom, connection, and creative solutions that actually feel good.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why financial conflict is often really about safety vs. freedom
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• How to create a “want match” with your spouse (and why it’s magic)
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• Using emotional awareness to transform resentment into connection
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• Why “pain unto awareness” leads to growth—but “pain unto suffering” doesn’t
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• How surrender opens space for miracles and peace
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• Real-life coaching moments on budgeting, dreaming, and learning to stay in want energy
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🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

You’ll learn how to create a personalized phrase + two adjectives that instantly generate the feeling you want to create from—and why affirmations only work when you can feel them. Then we use your custom “sifter” to plan trips with less conflict by naming whether you’re vacationing, traveling, or visiting (they’re not the same!).

💡 What You’ll Hear

• Why your default rules come from family, culture, and “how we’ve always done it”—and how to spot them as shoulds
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• The Shift Sifter: a 3-part exercise to tune into true wants
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• Affirmations that work: why felt emotion (not repetition) generates results
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• Travel planner reframe: define the activity, frequency, and a fun prop to clarify what you actually want on a trip
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• The crucial difference between vacation, travel, and visiting—and how mixing them creates conflict
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• Real-life examples
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• How to “braid” your life with a chosen energy so execution matches intention

🔗 Links & Resources

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

You’ll hear what it looks like to move from future worry into present peace, using the sensations of the body as the compass toward alignment.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• The difference between thinking your way forward vs feeling your way forward
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• How anxiety is created when the brain tries to control the unknown
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• A step-by-step process to regulate your body in real time
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• Why “the next right step” always becomes clear when you return to connection
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• How growth often disguises itself as retreat
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🌀 This episode is a masterclass in embodiment — learning to stay present, surrender control, and let the next step reveal itself.

Join us inside Tionatam to practice this work and expand in every area of your life

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

This is a practical roadmap for aligning your money with your pure wants and building a sustainable portfolio that feels like living “retired now.”

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• The Five Gears of Creation (Victim → Control → Awareness → Alignment → Co-Creation) and why presence & flow increase at each level
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• How to spot an invitation to contract—and expand anyway so miracles can land
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• Inherited money beliefs vs. pure wants: and the feelings you actually desire
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• A gentle reframe on trauma, nervous system safety, and why your body must lead the shift (breath & cold as memory reset)
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• Examples of these Principles at play in real life!

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join Tionatam (dojo) and practice this work together → free trial available inside the community
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• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
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• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

Through gentle questioning and guided awareness, they help a guest move from confusion to calm clarity—anchored in the body, emotion, and trust.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• How to sense your body to find what you actually want
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• Why your desires aren’t competing—they’re just asking to “play nice”
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• How surrendering the how creates space for miracles
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• A powerful affirmation for aligning your wants with grace and harmony
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• What it means to live in “flow” instead of force
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This isn’t about choosing one dream over another.

It’s about learning to hold your desires with open hands and let them work together in perfect harmony.

🎧 Listen now and remember: your body knows what you want—it’s just waiting for you to listen.



🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

If you’ve ever wondered why the smallest things trigger big emotions...

If you feel like you’re constantly managing how others feel...

If you’re ready to experience connection without losing yourself—

this episode will hit home.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why “rules” like how to roll toothpaste can quietly sabotage relationships
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• The 3 foundational principles that bring freedom back into connection
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• How your nervous system shapes the way you love and react
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• What “interdependence” really means (and why enmeshment feels like love—but isn’t)
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• How to build relationships where both people stay whole
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• Why curiosity is biologically incompatible with fight or flight
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• The surprising power of “want matching” and emotional ownership
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This isn’t just about communication—it’s about the deep biology and belief that make love last.

🎧 Listen and learn how to reclaim ownership of your emotions, your wants, and your relationships—without needing anyone else to change first.

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Fear of being wrong.

Fear of trying again.

Fear of what healing might actually ask of us.

In this “When Shift Hits the Fan” session, Chase and Carly walk through a powerful real-time coaching moment with a woman who feels trapped in her health journey. Beneath her frustration lies something deeply human: a nervous system that’s trying to keep her safe by staying in the familiar.

💡 In this episode:

• How your body “protects” you by repeating old pain patterns
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• Why fear often feels safer than disappointment
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• What it means to stop “looking at the rocks” in your healing journey
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• The moment your body starts to shift—when you choose to feel instead of fight
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• How to move from what if I’m wrong to what if I’m ready

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

You’ll also learn how nutrition influences autoimmune disease, why food is more than fuel, and how to build a holistic relationship with what you eat that supports both body and spirit.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• The science behind breath work and why “the shift” matters
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• How cold exposure activates healing through the vagus nerve
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• Why fight-or-flight isn’t the enemy—it’s about timing
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• The “platter model” of stress and how nutrition fits into it
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• Practical swaps for sugar and gluten that make a difference
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• Why meals are regulating, relational, and even spiritual
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• How to start small and avoid overwhelm on your nutrition journey
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🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

In this “When Shift Hits the Fan” minisode, we dive into one of the most common but least-talked-about triggers in family life: what happens inside of us when we get sick or our partner does—and everything suddenly feels heavier.

You’ll hear a real-time coaching conversation about:

• 🌿 Shifting from shame to self-compassion when you’re unwell
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• 🌀 The “loop” of Step 1 & 2 in The Shift 5 Framework—feeling what’s present and then redirecting your thoughts
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• 🧠 Why your “logical brain” isn’t actually logical when it’s fueled by dirty pain (shame, guilt, resentment)
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• 💛 How to sit with big sensations in your body (instead of white-knuckling through them) so they can transform—like the “monster under the bed” shrinking once you look at it
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• 🪢 Untangling the thread of “I can’t do this alone” and replacing it with liberating, believable thoughts like “I’m allowed to ask for help”

This episode is a gentle but powerful walk-through of nervous-system regulation, thought-redirection, and self-compassion in action. You’ll also hear practical tools like body-doubling, duality practice, and naming sensations—so you can try them while you listen.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking “I don’t have time to be sick” or resenting your partner for resting while you keep going, this minisode is for you. It’s short, real, and packed with tools you can use right away to create healing environments inside yourself—even when circumstances don’t change.

 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5

✨ Inside this episode:

• Why finances, health, home, and relationships can’t be separated
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• How subconscious family rules around money drive our emotions and choices
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• The ARM Method (breath, cold, awareness) as a training ground for resilience
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• The “dance floor” analogy: how your environment silently shapes your limits
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• The difference between grinding for results and surrendering to miracles
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• Why fear often is the sacrifice required for growth
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🔑 Key Takeaway: Financial freedom isn’t about following the perfect budget—it’s about breaking free from inherited rules, listening to your body, and surrendering the how to God. That’s where miracles happen.

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

This is the tug-of-war so many of us face: Do I cut my dreams down to size so they feel acceptable? Or do I expand into the very things that scare me—homesteads, travel, beauty, adventure—because they’re what make me come alive?

💡 Inside this conversation:

• Why “responsibility” often means living inside someone else’s comfort zone
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• How inherited beliefs around money, cars, parenting, or even chickens (!) can quietly shrink your vision
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• The moment fear whispers “contract” and how to expand anyway
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• The life-giving power of choosing thoughts that generate inspiration, beauty, and joy

👉 If you’ve ever second-guessed a dream because it seemed too big, too different, or too “irresponsible,” this episode will remind you: you don’t have to know how to get there—you just have to remember why you love it.

✨ Links & Resources:

• Learn more about The Shift 5 Framework → https://www.theshift5.com
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• Join the Tionatam community → https://www.tionatam.com
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• Follow us on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/theshift5_

Welcome back to Tionatam! Today we’re unpacking the “why” behind autoimmune flare-ups through the lens of the autonomic nervous system—and how reconnection (to body, breath, and people) can change the trajectory. We’ll explore what pushes us into chronic fight-or-flight, why “adrenal fatigue” sets the stage for inflammatory cascades, and how practices like breathwork and cold exposure help rebuild your buffer. This isn’t just about health—these same triggers show up in relationships, finances, and everyday decision-making.

In this episode, we cover:

• ✨ Autonomic 101: Sympathetic (fight/flight) vs. parasympathetic (rest/digest) and how your body allocates resources.
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• 🧯 From Stress to Flare: How repeated adrenaline/cortisol dumps deplete reserves and prime the immune “warriors” (cytokines) that can lead to friendly fire.
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• 🧠 Bookmarks in the Nervous System: Why past experiences leave “triggers” that are mistimed or misplaced—and how connection prevents stress from becoming trauma.
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• 🧊 Breath & Cold as Reconnection: Using engineered stress (breath holds, cold exposure) to re-link brain and body, increase adaptability, and restore homeostasis.
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• 🧭 Criticality: The point where the system can’t adapt anymore—and why early awareness matters.
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• 💬 Emotions as Messages: Sensations → emotions → communication; when your body is heard, it wisely powers down the alarm.
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• 🧩 Internal Family Systems (IFS) Framework: Meet your Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles—and learn who’s driving the bus in charged moments.
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• 🫶 Radical Self-Compassion: Accessing a Higher Self perspective so growth doesn’t slide into shame or self-pity.
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• 🧪 Practical Next Steps: Start the breath-and-cold protocol in your course portal, track “when/where” triggers show up, and build your buffer before the next spike.

If you’re navigating an autoimmune diagnosis—or noticing “blockers” in other areas of life—this conversation gives you a map: understand the trigger, reconnect to sensation, choose your response, and reclaim your resources.

Links & Next Steps

🔗 Join the Shift 5 Dojo: theshift5.com/dojo

🔗 Follow on Instagram: instagram.com/theshift5

🔗 Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

This episode is educational and not medical advice. Always consult your licensed healthcare provider for personal care.

Through guided body awareness and honest reflection, we uncover how guilt often acts as a protective shield—covering deeper beliefs like “I’m responsible for how other people feel” or “good people don’t have nice things.”

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• How to sense your body and locate where emotions live (and what they look and feel like)
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• Why guilt often masks deeper, inherited rules about worthiness and responsibility
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• The “rulebook problem”: how unspoken expectations about being “good” create cycles of shame
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• A practical reframing exercise that helps you separate your feelings from other people’s reactions
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👉 Whether it’s in your family, friendships, or work, this short conversation will help you recognize guilt for what it is: not a moral compass, but a signal pointing toward the beliefs you can choose to rewrite.

✨ Links & Resources:

Learn more about The Shift 5 Framework → https://www.theshift5.com

Join the Tionatam community → https://www.tionatam.com

Follow us on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/theshift5_

💡 What You’ll Hear

• Why “trust” often disguises control—and how to redefine it as a chosen emotion
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• Radical self-ownership in relationships: “I feel my feelings; you feel yours”
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• The difference between predicting someone and trying to control them
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• How “earn my trust” can become a manipulation loop (and how to step out)
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• Healthy boundaries vs. emotional enmeshment—what changes in practice
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• Interdependence as stewardship: “who holds the cards” and why it matters
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• The “trash example”: reallocating roles without resentment or score-keeping
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• Reframing forgiveness when you can’t “be sinned against” emotionally
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• Creating space so loved ones (and kids) can step into responsibility
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• The power of the choice point: acting from the emotion you want to feel, not from contraction
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How these principles apply to marriage, friendships, community—and even your relationship with your body

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

It’s a classic moment where expectations and “rulebooks” don’t match, and the question becomes: How do you stay centered in love when someone else’s choices don’t align with yours?

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why our “rulebooks” (the way we think things should be) often create more stress than the circumstance itself
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• How your thoughts and feelings influence your experience—but never directly control someone else’s
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• The difference between stewardship and control, and how to lead with grace without being jerked around by others’ actions
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• A simple “ladder thought” practice to generate genuine love, even in moments of frustration
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👉 This episode is short, real, and packed with practical insight you can use in any leadership role—whether you’re guiding a team, serving in your community, or parenting at home.

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

📍 In this episode, Chase and Carly open up a conversation about travel, home, and the “optional” desires we often push to the side. Using real stories (like red-eye flights and dream vacations) as a springboard, they reveal how these discretionary desires are actually invitations into expansion—not indulgence.

You’ll learn how to recognize when your focus has slipped into lack, why the same words can carry completely different energy, and how to shift from contraction into flow. Whether your dream is a ski pass, a trip abroad, or simply more space at home, this episode will help you step into the joy of pure want without the weight of “I can’t.”

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why “optional” desires like travel and home design matter more than you think
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• The spectrum from deficit → baseline → expansion, and how to move toward growth
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• How the same sentence can point either left (lack) or right (expansion)
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• Practical ways to notice the energetic shift when you talk about what you want
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• The subtle invitations to contract—and how to reframe them as invitations to expand
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🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

This is more than affirmations—it’s about generating real emotion, rewiring old defaults, and fearlessly expanding into miracles by aligning with your authentic desires.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why “shoulds” reveal inherited programming, not true desires
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• How to identify your past “hows” that keep shaping your choices
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• The Shift Sifter process to clarify what really matters to you
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• Why words and phrases that light you up are more powerful than generic affirmations
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• Practical examples of creating your own custom words and emotional anchors
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• How this process applies to your home, travel, and lifestyle design
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• The role of Step 4—Fearlessly Expand—in accessing more miracles
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• An invitation to try the Shift Sifter and start creating your personal vocabulary of expansion

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

You’ll hear how common phrases like “What if nothing I do works?” or “It’s up to me to keep my family healthy” actually drain your body’s energy and lower your vibration. We explore why your perfect “healing environment” isn’t really about circumstances, but about the beliefs you bring into them—and how learning to recognize and reframe these contracts is the key to true surrender, peace, and expansion.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• What “Invitations to Contract” (ITCs) are and why they matter
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• How health is a continuum—from disease to adaptability and capability
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• Common ITCs like “What if it won’t work for me?” and “I have to do this for my family”
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• The heavy burden caregivers carry with thoughts like “It’s up to me to keep them alive”
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• How guilt sneaks in when we realize we may have more control than we thought
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• Why “healing environments” are universal, and why they don’t depend on circumstances
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• The real power behind healing: what you choose to believe about your situation
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🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

From childhood codependence to adult burnout, Chase and Carly unpack how nervous system regulation, healthy separation, and spiritual responsibility shape everything from autoimmune disease to marriage, parenting, and purpose.

If your body keeps breaking down…

If your marriage feels tangled…

If your “no” only comes when it’s too late…

This episode is a Shift.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• The difference between dependence, independence, interdependence, and codependence
• Why autoimmune issues are often boundary diseases
• How your nervous system learns its safety from your caregivers
• What it actually means to “say no” (and why your body will do it for you if you don’t)
• A breakdown of communication diseases, like diabetes
• The truth about sacred polarity and why masculine/feminine dynamics matter in healing
• The spiritual invitation of sensing your body—as your closest relationship

“You don’t just have a body. You’re in relationship with it. And it’s trying to tell you something.”

But we’re not talking communication tips and date night tricks. We’re talking about the unspoken thoughts that slowly drain your energy, tighten your chest, and make you wonder why the people you love most are the ones you fight with hardest.

We call them “invitations to contract.”

And once you start spotting them, everything shifts.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• The secret thoughts that make you feel powerless (and why they feel true)
• Why codependence masquerades as love—but feels awful in your body
• The difference between expansive helping and contracted fixing
• How resentment and score-keeping create contempt (and destroy connection)
• What your affect reveals about your nervous system and your relationships
• A gut-punch list of everyday thoughts that keep us stuck (get ready to feel seen)

“We’ve used our agency of thinking to feel bad—and convinced ourselves it’s just reality.”

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

You don’t get rid of pain.

You just learn to choose the pain that aligns with what you actually want.

Through real stories—from resigning a CEO role due to Crohn’s disease, to receiving a home they didn’t pay for, to facing a lifelong fear of dogs—this episode invites you into the spiritual mechanics of aligned creation. Because when you know what you want and surrender the how, miracles happen.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why expansion always comes with a test
• How to keep breathing when your plan falls through
• The miracle that followed a $0 property deal collapse
• What it really means to “sacrifice everything else”
• Why running toward discomfort is the next right step
• How to tell the difference between real danger and a nervous system flare-up

“The goalpost is peace. Not comfort. Not certainty. But alignment.”

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

You’ll learn how the body’s survival instinct can sabotage growth, how trauma creates default programming, and how healing starts by creating space for miracles.

This is the roadmap to reclaiming your health, your joy, and your family’s future.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why willpower alone never creates lasting change
• How your nervous system decides what’s “safe”—and why that matters
• Why your autoimmune symptoms, money blocks, and marriage patterns are all connected
• The full breakdown of The Shift 5:
• Sense Your Body
• Honor What You Want
• Intentionally Surrender
• Fearlessly Expand
• Trim the Sails
• The story of The Miracle of the Hat—and how it can happen for you
• An invitation to join the dojo and put this into practice, together

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5
• Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

In this raw and foundational episode, host Chase Thornock shares the real story behind The Shift 5 and Tionatam—how a life-threatening autoimmune disease, a crumbling marriage, and the realization that no one was coming to save him cracked everything open and began the process of deep healing.

If you’ve ever felt like your body is the problem…

If you’ve been told to wait it out, medicate it away, or just “push through”...

If your dreams are quietly dying while you hold everything together for everyone else…

This is your episode.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• The moment Chase realized he was preparing to die
• What God told him in the silence
• How the medical system unintentionally kept him sick
• The misunderstood role of cortisol in stress and autoimmune disease
• The hidden reason so many families live in constant low-grade fight or flight
• How trauma gets inherited—and silently shapes our lives
• The birth of The Shift 5 and the Tionatam dojo

This isn’t a story about willpower.

It’s about a spiritual, biological, and practical framework that changes everything.

🎧 Start here. Then listen to Episode 2 to learn the 5 steps that make up The Shift 5.

🔗 Links & Resources:

• Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH
• Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → the.shift.5
• Questions? Reach out → team@theshift5.com