Together, they unpack the importance of preparation, integration, and the often-overlooked nuances of psychedelic experiences. Manuela shares her personal journey growing up between cultures, the role of somatics in healing trauma, and why true transformation requires more than just taking a substance—it demands a relationship with it.

From understanding "set and setting" to the dangers of chasing peak experiences, this episode dives deep into how we can navigate the psychedelic space responsibly. Scott and Manuela also discuss how practices like Continuum Movement, somatic awareness, and radical self-inquiry provide alternative pathways to healing and wholeness.

Topics We Break Down:

• The difference between recreational drug use and psychedelic-assisted therapy
• How psychedelics can dismantle trauma patterns—and why integration is key
• The power of "set and setting" and how cultural context influences healing
• Why chasing "peak experiences" can become another form of bypassing
• How somatic practices like Continuum Movement can support psychedelic integration
• The dangers of mistaking activation for truth in trauma healing
• The importance of staying in inquiry and dismantling expert mindsets

This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about the deeper layers of psychedelics, somatics, and the journey of self-discovery.

Jeff shares his remarkable journey from being a "chubby kid" constantly relocating (11-12 times before age seven) to becoming what Scott calls "the fascia of community" - a super connector who brings people together. His childhood struggles to fit in across different countries and languages eventually became his superpower, leading him to create spaces where others could belong. Through his personal health transformation and spiritual awakening, Jeff discovered that chronic dis-ease is often the result of chronic ease - and that leaning into discomfort might be exactly what we need.

From cold plunges and fasting to facilitating difficult conversations between Israeli and Palestinian students, Jeff reveals how embracing "good stress" can transform not just our physical health but our relationships and spiritual lives. As he beautifully puts it: "The true wonderful ease that we're looking for requires a degree of inconvenience."

Topics We Break Down:

• How chronic ease leads to chronic disease
• The concept of "good stress" and hormetic stressors (cold, heat, fasting)
• Jeff's protocol that helped him lose 65 pounds and reverse diabetes
• Building a "psychological immune system" through difficult conversations
• The spiritual dimensions of practices like fasting and cold exposure
• Finding the space between stimulus and response as the key to personal freedom
• Why true ease comes from meaningful connection, not comfort

In today’s episode, Dr. Scott sits down with therapist, facilitator, and coach, Dené Logan as they explore the rich terrain of relationships. With her nuanced approach blending depth psychology and a profound understanding of human connection, Dené illuminates the journey of self-nurturing and building genuine bonds. As we embark on the quest of understanding the three pillars of peak connection, she shares her insights on the true essence of couples therapy, the keystones of a flourishing relationship, and the difficult but rewarding work of reparenting ourselves.

From the power of embracing your true self and spotting your tribe to the art of balancing in relationships, join us as we journey deep into the relational landscape. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Nurturing through strength-based approaches.
• Constructing thriving relationships.
• Graceful relational transitions.
• Avoiding romantic reparenting.
• Navigating breadcrumbing in dating.
• Unpacking harmful pedestal placement.
• Exploring evolving definitions of love.

-Scott’s ex-therapist

While there’s no denying that mindfulness can be a powerful tool, is it the answer to all of our problems, or is it really just a game of playing hide-and-seek from ourselves?  In this episode Dr. Scott and Dr. Sará hilariously break down the complexity of mindfulness- differentiating toxic positivity and splashy bypassing from a path of profound connection to oneself and the full spectrum of human experiences.  

Dr. Scott and Dr. Sará lead by example, demonstrating how play can help you break free from the bondage of trauma as they approach this episode and life with full-on childhood curiosity and a willingness to let life unfold, providing you with the magic sauce of empowerment and deep healing. 

If you’re looking for the kind of mindfulness that cultivates the resilience needed to be in the dance of life and feel a deep sense of belonging to the world while at the same time making you laugh so hard you pee (and question whether mindfulness and bladder control are related)  - this episode of The Gently Used Human is for you.

Topics we break down:

• Trauma bonding.
• The importance of play.
• Healing intergenerational trauma.
• Interdependence. 
• Harmful narratives of the wellness industry.
• The shadow side of mindfulness.

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Dr. Sará King is a Mother, neuroscientist, political and learning scientist, education philosopher, social-entrepreneur, public speaker, and certified yoga and mindfulness meditation instructor.  She is also the co-director of Mobius, a home for the development of Liberatory Technology, and the founder of MindHeart Collective, a contemplative tech company that she founded to develop AI-integrated platforms, applications, and courses grounded in neuroscience, “The Science of Social Justice” framework and the “Systems Based Awareness Map” (SBAM) which she developed to explore our capacity to heal intergenerational trauma and promote the well-being of "collective nervous systems" by promoting and mapping loving-awareness. In 2021, she was named “One-To-Watch” by Mindful Magazine, as well as she made the November cover of Yoga Journal Magazine as a “Game Changer” for her work bridging neuroscience, social justice and contemplative practices. In 2022, she was also named one of the "10 Most Powerful Women in Mindfulness" by Mindful Magazine.

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An Emmy-winning journalist, author, and advocate for midlife reinvention, Tamsen has built a career on telling powerful stories—and now, she’s telling her own. From walking away from a decades-long journalism career to becoming a voice for midlife women, she’s proving that there is no expiration date on reinvention.

Together, Tamsen and Dr. Scott dive into: why milestones don’t define us, the radical shift that happens when we stop asking ‘why me?’ and start saying ‘what’s next?’—and how menopause, career changes, and unexpected pivots are all part of the bigger picture.

Topics We Break Down:

• Midlife Myths & Why We’re Doing This All Wrong – Forget ‘aging gracefully’—let’s talk about thriving on our own terms.
• The ‘Now What?’ Moment – Why so many of us hit a point where we question everything—and how to navigate it.
• Reinvention is a Muscle – Why starting over isn’t a setback—it’s a superpower.
• The Unspoken Power of Menopause – Breaking the silence around midlife health and why it’s finally getting the attention it deserves.
• The ‘I Get To’ Mindset – Shifting from obligation to opportunity in work, health, and relationships.

✨ This episode is a love letter to second (and third, and fourth) chances. Tune in and get inspired!

Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with Dr. Rae Johnson, a leading researcher, professor, and author exploring the intersections of somatics, social justice, and identity. Rae’s work challenges us to reconnect with our bodies, question the systems that shape us, and embrace our full, unfiltered selves.

Together, Scott and Rae explore why we brace ourselves against misunderstanding, how validation changes our nervous system, and what it really means to be witnessed. Plus, they unpack how a simple shift in perspective—or the right words from a total stranger—can change everything.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why we over-explain & brace for misunderstanding – The social conditioning that keeps us apologizing for who we are.
• The ‘Validation Reflex’ – How being truly seen creates a physical release in the body.
• Why strangers can sometimes know us better than our friends – The science behind why an outside perspective can feel so powerful.
• The cost of authenticity – What we sacrifice to be fully ourselves—and why it’s worth it.
• Witnessing & being witnessed – How deep presence can transform our relationships and sense of self.

✨ This is a conversation about freedom, embodiment, and breaking free from outdated stories—don’t miss it!

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with neuroscientist Nicole Vignola to unpack the science of breakups, love addiction, and how to rewire your brain for healing. Together, they explore why we can’t stop thinking about certain people, the dopamine loops that keep us stuck, and the fastest ways to break free from the past.

Plus, they get real about their own breakups, the neuroscience-backed hacks that actually help, and why blocking your ex might just be the most scientifically sound decision you’ll ever make.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why Breakups Feel Like an Actual Addiction – The neuroscience behind heartbreak withdrawal.
• Checking Your Ex’s Social Media? Here’s Why You Can’t Stop – How dopamine fuels obsessive behaviors post-breakup.
• The Power of ‘Cold Turkey’ – Why cutting off contact is the fastest way to rewire your brain.
• Re-Scaffolding Your Life – How to rebuild your identity after a relationship ends.
• Why You Keep Dating the Same Type – Breaking free from unconscious relationship patterns.

✨ Whether you’re freshly single, healing from an old breakup, or just fascinated by the brain’s wild ways—this episode is packed with insights to help you move forward.

Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with Niyc Pidgeon, an award-winning positive psychologist, best-selling author, and high-performance business mentor, to explore the psychology behind resilience, joy, and confidence. Author of Now Is Your Chance and Unstoppable Success, Niyc has helped thousands of people rewire their thinking and create their best lives.

Together, Scott and Niyc unpack what it really means to be happy—not in a ‘toxic positivity’ way, but in a real, grounded, and science-backed way. If you've ever felt stuck, exhausted, or like you're tolerating way too much in life, this conversation will help you break free.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why positivity isn’t about ignoring the hard stuff – The difference between real happiness and toxic positivity.
• Over-explaining & self-abandonment – Why we do it and how to stop apologizing for simply existing.
• The ripple effect of awe – How small moments of joy can transform your energy (and impact 135 people around you!).
• What’s your Organizing Principle? – The hidden force guiding your choices, and how to harness it for success.
• The power of curiosity – How asking better questions can lead to deeper connections and greater clarity.

✨ This episode is packed with insights, humor, and some seriously life-changing mindset shifts. Tune in now and get ready to step into your most unstoppable self!

In this thought-provoking episode, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with Elise Loehnen, a writer, editor, and cultural critic known for her sharp insights on power, patriarchy, and personal growth. As the former Chief Content Officer at Goop, Elise helped shape the modern wellness landscape before turning her focus to deconstructing the subconscious rules that shape our lives. She is also the New York Times bestselling author of On Our Best Behavior, which explores how deeply ingrained cultural norms—particularly the Seven Deadly Sins—still dictate women’s behavior today.

Together, Scott and Elise dive into the hidden forces that govern us, how to unlearn restrictive narratives, and why recognizing our own internalized biases is the key to true liberation. If you've ever felt stuck in a system that doesn’t quite serve you, this episode will give you the perspective shift you need.

Topics We Break Down:

• The Cultural Programming We Can’t See – How we internalize and reinforce social norms without even realizing it.
• The Patriarchy Isn’t Just ‘Men’ – Understanding how women also uphold and police patriarchal structures.
• Envy as a Compass – Why the things (and people) that trigger us the most might be showing us what we truly want.
• How We Keep Ourselves Small – The self-imposed rules that hold us back, and how to rewrite them.
• Moving from ‘Against’ to ‘For’ – Shifting from resistance to creation, and learning how to build the world we actually want.

Tune in for an honest, mind-expanding conversation that just might change the way you see yourself—and the world around you.

If you’re nodding along, then this episode is for you.

This week, we’re getting deep, real, and hilarious with bestselling author and keynote speaker Laura Gassner Otting (LGO)—a woman who has done it all, from working in the White House to writing books that change lives. But here’s the twist: even she has struggled with self-worth, impostor syndrome, and figuring out what success actually means.

What if success isn’t about more money, more titles, or even more standing ovations?

What if success is about feeling aligned with your values and choices—no matter what anyone else thinks?

That’s the conversation we’re diving into today. It’s a mix of wisdom, humor, and real talk (plus a detour into drag queens, rage rooms, and why Malala might just be the best at avoiding awkward small talk).

Topics We’re Breaking Down

• Success: Who Defines It? – Laura turns the traditional definition of success on its head. Spoiler alert: It’s not about a corner office, a million-dollar paycheck, or someone else’s approval.
• Why We Suck at Receiving Compliments – Laura’s personal struggle with praise, her therapist’s game-changing advice, and how you can actually accept a compliment without feeling weird.
• The Different Versions of Ourselves – Ever feel like you have a work-self, a home-self, and a totally different karaoke-self? Laura shares how she balances “LGO the speaker” with just being Laura, the introvert who loves bad reality TV.
• Success Does Not Equal Happiness – If money and power automatically made people happy, billionaires wouldn’t get divorced and celebrities wouldn’t have meltdowns. We get real about why external success is often a trap.
• The Everest Analogy – What climbing a mountain taught Laura about life, ambition, and why getting to the top isn’t actually the goal.

Oof, It's wild out there in the complex realm of relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves more interested in the chase than the embrace or confusing intensity for intimacy- all the while declaring that we want and need love. If red flags feel like home and you find yourself or people you know in the merry-go-round of relationship pains, welcome to the world of trauma tingles... Let's talk about it.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo about red flags in dating and why trauma tingles feel irresistible. If an ordinary life feels risky and red flags cause a buzz of excitement, don't worry—this is a normal part of being human and an adaptive response to trauma. Through witnessing patterns unfolding and learning how to form safer boundaries for ourselves and others, we can heal to the point that those trauma tingles become boring and unsexy- red flag couture no more!

Topics we break down:

• How trauma tingles relate to your attachment style.
• Why dating apps can be dehumanizing.
• Communicating your needs.
• Reconfiguring relationships.
• Maintaining boundaries.
• Choosing yourself.

Kai Cheng's work focuses on the intersection of social justice, pleasure activism, and transformative approaches to healing conflict.

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Oof, It's wild out there in the complex realm of relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves more interested in the chase than the embrace or confusing intensity for intimacy- all the while declaring that we want and need love. If red flags feel like home and you find yourself or people you know in the merry-go-round of relationship pains, welcome to the world of trauma tingles... Let's talk about it.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo about red flags in dating and why trauma tingles feel irresistible. If an ordinary life feels risky and red flags cause a buzz of excitement, don't worry—this is a normal part of being human and an adaptive response to trauma. Through witnessing patterns unfolding and learning how to form safer boundaries for ourselves and others, we can heal to the point that those trauma tingles become boring and unsexy- red flag couture no more!

Topics we break down:

• How trauma tingles relate to your attachment style.
• Why dating apps can be dehumanizing.
• Communicating your needs.
• Reconfiguring relationships.
• Maintaining boundaries.
• Choosing yourself.

Kai Cheng's work focuses on the intersection of social justice, pleasure activism, and transformative approaches to healing conflict.

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In this episode of The Gently Used Human, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with Maha Abouelenein, a global expert in communications, branding, and self-reliance, to explore the mindset shifts that turn hesitation into action, connections into opportunities, and self-doubt into unshakable confidence.

Maha’s career spans decades as a trusted advisor to Fortune 500 companies, CEOs, and some of the world’s most influential brands. She understands what it takes to build influence, create lasting relationships, and step fully into your strengths. In this conversation, she shares the strategies she’s used to navigate her own journey—from overcoming personal challenges to becoming one of the most sought-after voices in branding and communication.

Together, Maha and Scott break down how to reframe self-doubt, develop confidence through action, and build a personal brand that reflects who you truly are. They explore why networking doesn’t have to feel transactional, how the simple shift from have to to get to can change your entire outlook, and why true success comes from showing up, creating value, and taking bold steps forward.

This episode is filled with practical insights on how to stop waiting, start owning your story, and build the kind of influence that opens doors.

Topics We Break Down:

• Reframing self-doubt – Why waiting for confidence is a trap
• Building your network – How to connect with people authentically
• The power of gratitude – Why shifting from have to → get to changes everything
• Personal branding – Why your reputation matters more than ever
• Taking the first step – How to break free from hesitation and just start

This is a conversation about power, presence, and the freedom that comes from stepping into who you truly are. Listen now on The Gently Used Human.

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• How can I help? 
• What brought you to this event? 
• What do you enjoy most about your work?
• What projects are you excited about working on next?
• How did you first get started in [industry]? 
• What do you find most challenging/rewarding about your job? 
• What inspired you to pursue a career in [specific field]? 
• Are there any industry trends or developments that particularly interest you right now? 
• How do you see your industry evolving in the next few years? 
• What advice would you give to someone just starting out in [industry/profession] 
• What are your thoughts on [current industry news/topic] 
• Have you attended any interesting conferences or workshops lately? 
• Are there any skills or knowledge areas you're currently looking to develop?

In this powerful and deeply insightful episode, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with the world-renowned brain coach, memory expert, and author Jim Kwik. Jim has dedicated his life to helping people break through mental barriers and unlock their full cognitive potential. From overcoming his own childhood struggles with learning difficulties to becoming the go-to brain coach for top performers, Jim shares his transformative journey and the essential tools to supercharge memory, focus, and productivity.

Throughout this conversation, Jim and Scott dive into the impact of digital distractions, the hidden costs of our reliance on technology, and how to reclaim mental strength in a world that often works against us. Jim offers practical, neuroscience-backed strategies that listeners can start using immediately to improve concentration, beat burnout, and optimize brain health.

By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to take charge of your mental fitness and equipped with actionable techniques to sharpen your mind, cultivate resilience, and create a more fulfilling life.

Topics We Break Down:

• The modern digital habits that are eroding focus, memory, and decision-making

• How the brain rewires itself and how you can train it for peak performance

• How outsourcing our memory to devices is making us mentally weaker

• Daily techniques to rebuild attention span and mental clarity

• What your brain needs to stay sharp and resilient

• The self-imposed beliefs that hold us back and how to overcome them

• How challenges and adversity can be transformed into personal superpowers

• Simple, effective exercises to remember names, learn faster, and stay present

This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to reclaim their cognitive power, improve learning skills, and develop unshakable mental resilience.

Where to Find Jim Kwik:

📖 Read his book: Limitless

📱 Follow him on Instagram: @jimkwik

🎧 Listen to his podcast: Kwik Brain

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Welcome to The Best of January—a powerful compilation of the most insightful, transformative, and inspiring moments from our recent episodes. Whether you're a longtime listener or just tuning in, this episode brings together wisdom from thought leaders, wellness experts, and real-life stories of resilience.

If you’re looking for motivation, a fresh perspective, or simply a reminder that healing is possible, this episode is for you. You’ll hear deep, honest conversations about overcoming adversity, shifting your mindset, and reclaiming your sense of self. These moments will not only inspire you but also offer insights to help you navigate stress, relationships, and personal growth.

📖 What You'll Learn

🔹 Lindsay Roth – The power of presence in parenting, why you don’t need to have all the answers, and how shifting your perspective can transform relationships.

🔹 Elaine Glass – Breaking free from toxic relationships, rediscovering your identity, and learning to trust your intuition in the healing process.

🔹 Gabor Maté – A fresh perspective on ADHD, medication, and mental health, along with how stress and trauma shape our experiences.

🔹 Josselyne Herman Saccio – Why mindset alone isn’t enough, how to turn insight into action, and the power of keeping your word to create real transformation.

💡 Key Takeaways

✨ Small Shifts Matter – You don’t have to solve everything at once; focusing on the present moment can be life-changing.

✨ Stress Isn’t the Enemy – It’s how we perceive and adapt to stress that shapes our experience.

✨ Healing Starts with Truth – Ignoring problems won’t make them disappear; acknowledging them is the first step toward change.

✨ You're Never Alone – There is always a way forward, and sometimes, it starts with getting quiet enough to listen to yourself.

✨ Action Creates Transformation – Insight is valuable, but true change happens when we take steps—no matter how small.

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If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs a little inspiration today! And don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and continue your journey of healing and self-discovery.

In this episode of The Gently Used Human, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with the powerhouse of transformation, Josselyne Herman-Saccio, founder of Be Unmessablewith. With over 30 years of experience helping people break through overwhelm and burnout to create lives filled with purpose, Josselyne shares her unique approach to turning vision into action and dreams into reality.

Together, Dr. Scott and Josselyne explore what it means to take control of your life by shifting from reaction to creation. They discuss practical strategies for honoring your word, building resilience, and finding fulfillment—not by working harder but by designing smarter. Josselyne’s wisdom will inspire you to embrace the chaos of life, harness your inner power, and finally say “yes” to the life you’ve always wanted to create.

Whether you're a high performer looking for your next breakthrough or someone ready to overcome the pull of procrastination, this episode will leave you empowered to take action, no matter where you are in your journey.

Topics We Break Down

• Why overwhelm happens—and how to shift back into creation mode
• The power of vision: How to create it, live it, and keep it alive
• Breaking free from the myth of “motivation” and leaning into action
• The secret to working less while achieving more: Delegation and design
• How to honor your word, even when things don’t go as planned
• Practical tools to transition from reacting to creating in every moment
• How to use promises as a tool for transformation and empowerment

Together, Scott and Gabor explore the hidden costs of disconnection, the survival mechanisms we develop in response to early trauma, and how those patterns shape everything from our identities to our health. Listeners will learn about the dynamic nature of the brain, the powerful role of curiosity and compassion in healing, and practical ways to notice where we’re not being true to ourselves. This episode is an invitation to uncover the unity of mind and body and discover what it means to come home to oneself.

Topics We Break Down:

• The profound impact of disconnection on our mental and physical health
• Understanding trauma as a loss of connection with oneself
• The survival mechanisms we adopt to protect ourselves—and how they shape our identities
• How addiction, ADHD, and chronic illness are rooted in early life experiences
• The dynamic nature of the brain and its capacity for healing and change
• The healing power of curiosity, compassion, and connection
• How societal norms and the medical system overlook the unity of mind and body
• Practical steps to notice where we’re not being ourselves and move toward wholeness

In this episode of The Gently Used Human, Dr. Scott Lyons welcomes Elaine Glass to explore the transformative power of intentional silence. After escaping a 13-year toxic marriage that left her health deteriorating, Elaine found healing and purpose through the ancient practice of labyrinth walking. She shares how this sacred tool inspired her to create The Get Quiet Way, a powerful method for creating space, reconnecting with the soul, and reclaiming inner peace.

Elaine's journey from chaos to clarity provides listeners with practical insights into nurturing the body, clearing the mind, and cultivating a healthier relationship with oneself. Her reflections and actionable strategies invite us to pause, listen deeply, and move forward with intention.

Topics We Break Down:

• The transformative journey from survival mode to soul alignment
• The power of intentional silence and meditative walking
• Understanding the three ways we spend our time (in-person, digital, and with ourselves)
• The seven energy paths to reconnecting with your authentic self
• The importance of creating a healthy state of being to co-create with our purpose
• The ancient wisdom of labyrinth walking as a tool for spiritual growth

The conversation tackles the practicalities and challenges of everyday life to the more significant, profound questions. Dr Scott and Lindsay explore the power of setting boundaries and reframing life’s challenges as opportunities for growth. Lindsay shares her personal journey of balancing career, motherhood, and self-awareness, offering practical advice on maintaining a positive mindset amidst life’s chaos. Together, she and Dr. Scott unpack how asking the right questions—whether about relationships, work, or self—can foster deeper understanding and alignment with what truly matters.

This episode is filled with wisdom, humor, and actionable insights, making it a must-listen for anyone seeking clarity, connection, and empowerment in their lives.

If you’ve ever struggled to communicate your needs, felt stuck in life’s challenges, or questioned how to align with your authentic self, this episode will inspire and guide you. Lindsay and Dr. Scott’s candid, compassionate conversation offers both relatable stories and practical wisdom to help you navigate life with curiosity and courage. You’ll laugh, reflect, and walk away feeling empowered to embrace your journey as a “gently used human.”

Topics We Break Down:

• How intentional questions can foster deeper connection and self-awareness.
• Viewing stress as a resource for growth and adaptability.
• Redefining boundaries as self-driven actions rather than requests from others.
• Lessons from challenges, the importance of relational “reps,” and reframing the idea of “failure.”
• Strategies for finding gratitude, staying present, and discovering what truly matters.

Instead of focusing on what needs fixing, this episode celebrates your limitless capacity for renewal. Join us for a heartfelt journey through laughter, wisdom, and empowering truths that prepare you to embrace 2025 with intention and grace.

What You’ll Learn:

• The Beauty of Imperfection: Discover why you’re already enough and how embracing imperfection can be a superpower for growth.
• Crafting Sustainable Shifts: Learn small, meaningful steps to bring clarity and momentum into the new year without burnout.
• Reflections on Joy and Balance: Learn to navigate the thin line between passion and overwhelm and uncover tools for recalibration when needed.
• Breaking Cycles: Explore practical ways to step off the hamster wheel of self-criticism and create cycles of self-compassion instead.

Key Takeaways:

1. Celebrate Your "Now": Before chasing transformation, honor where you are in this moment—imperfections included.
2. Start Small, Stay Consistent: Sustainable change is built on small, regular acts of self-awareness and care.
3. Turn Criticism into Curiosity: Approach challenges and emotions with openness instead of judgment.
4. Boundaries Protect Joy: Craft boundaries that honor your energy and foster healthy relationships.
5. Pause for Possibility: Savor the stillness and rediscover your creativity and vibrancy through presence.

Featuring Clips From:

• Tara Schuster on transforming self-care into a powerful survival strategy
• Thomas Curran on balancing perfectionism with self-acceptance
• Nicole Walters on embracing boldness, courage, and comfort
• Nicole Sachs on decoding and reshaping our relationship with pain
• Rachael Kaplan on the liberating power of emotional release and connection
• Brian Moller on cultivating gratitude as a daily practice
• Amy Morin on strengthening mental resilience and fortitude
• Justin Michael Williams on fostering empowerment and building community
• Eliza VanCourt on nurturing and soothing your inner fears
• Marie Forleo on developing habits that align with intuition and meaning
• Britt Frank on how small, consistent steps lead to big changes
• Michael Galyon on practicing presence and self-care
• Max Lugavere on prioritizing physical well-being today for a healthier tomorrow

If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, share it with your fellow Gently Used Humans, and leave us a review! Your support helps us reach more listeners on their path toward growth and self-discovery. Here’s to a new year that celebrates the amazing person you already are.

From the complexities of love and partnership to the foundational influence of early experiences, we explore tools for navigating challenges with clarity and intention. Mark Groves and Dr. Stan Tatkin discuss the intricacies of relationships, focusing on the balance of connection and independence that helps them thrive. Dr. Judy Ho explains attachment styles and how our childhood patterns continue to shape our adult behaviors. Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo expand on emotional resilience, sharing strategies for navigating conflict and fostering greater compassion for ourselves and others.

We also explore the transformative process of healing. Jessica Fern demystifies ethical non-monogamy, offering practical approaches to reframing love. Dr. Peter Levine delves into the impact of trauma on the nervous system, providing pathways for release and growth. Mastin Kipp and Dr. Nicole LePera share tools for understanding and managing emotional triggers, while Mia Magik reconnects us with ancient practices to strengthen our inner foundations.

Themes of community care and mutual support emerge as Vannessa Bennett and Dené Logan reflect on the importance of fostering connection in mental health. Laura Clery reminds us of the power of humor to lighten life’s burdens, while Michael Galyon encourages us to embrace the present moment with gratitude and openness.

Featured Guests

Mark Groves, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Sabrina Zohar, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Judy Ho, Jessica Fern, Vannessa Bennett and Dené Logan, Dr. Nicole LePera, Mastin Kipp, Dr. Peter Levine, Laura Clery, Mia Magik, Michael Galyon, Kai Cheng Thom, and Nkem Ndefo.

If you feel one of your favorite guests has been missed, don’t worry! Many more of our favorite guests will appear in next week’s specially curated New Year’s episode, where we’ll share transformative tools to help you heal, grow, and graciously embrace 2025.

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Mia Magik https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-alchemy-of-rage

Michael Galyon https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/finding-calm-in-chaos

Sabrina Zohar https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/breaking-the-cycle-of-toxic-relationships

Mastin Kipp https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/nourishing-your-nervous-system

Dr Arielle Shwartz https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-nonlinear-journey-of-healing

Mark Groves https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/liberated-love

Dr Stan Tatkin https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-architecture-of-relationships

Jessica Fern https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/erotic-blueprints-and-the-map-to-intimacy

Dr Peter Levine https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-birth-of-somatic-trauma-healing

Dr Nicole LePera https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/healing-trauma-and-an-addiction-to-drama

Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/dating-your-trauma-tingles

Vennessa Bennett and Dené Logan https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/tap-dancing-for-belonging

Jillian Turecki https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-safety-of-turbulance

If you've ever felt like rage and anger are forbidden emotions—villains in your emotional spectrum—this one's for you. In a world where feelings are labeled “too much” or “not enough,” it’s no wonder we suppress, deny, and numb. But what if we stopped? What if we gave our sacred rage a place to breathe and heal?

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons talks with the dynamic and magical Mia Magik, a healer and guide who has become a voice for emotional release—particularly the misunderstood powers of rage. From volcanic eruptions of suppressed feelings to transformational rituals held in castles (yes, castles!), Mia shares how embracing our emotions can create the paradise we all long for.

If you’ve been bottling up your feelings or shamed into toxic positivity, listen up. This is your invitation to feel—fully, fiercely, and safely.

If you’re ready to let go, transform, and reclaim your emotions—this episode will light the fire.

Listen in, Gently Used Humans, and remember—your emotions are not too much. They're magic waiting to be felt.

Topics we Break Down:

• Why rage and anger are sacred—and essential.
• The difference between feeling anger and projecting it outward.
• How suppressed emotions contribute to dis-ease in the body.
• Creating containers for safe emotional expression.
• Toxic positivity and the pitfalls of bypassing real feelings.
• How rage can transform into pleasure, peace, and even paradise.
• Why healing yourself heals the world.

Sophie’s candidness about her own struggles and triumphs creates an inspiring, deeply human conversation. Together, she and Scott explore how cultivating self-awareness and emotional resilience can help us show up more authentically in our lives, for ourselves and for others.

This episode will leave you reflecting on your relationship with pain, your patterns of connection, and the steps you can take toward a more empowered and joyful life. Whether you're curious about healing, curious about self-discovery, or just looking for some soulful motivation, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.

Topics We Break Down:

• The power of transforming pain into connection and advocacy
• Emotional literacy: what it is and why it matters in our personal and collective lives
• Tools for regulating the nervous system and finding calm amidst chaos
• Breaking free from cycles of self-criticism and addiction
• The importance of play and joy in rehumanizing ourselves and others
• Why personal healing is a critical piece of global transformation

Are you curious about how movement can be a catalyst for change in your life? Erica invites us to look beyond structured exercise and tune into our bodies’ natural rhythms and movements – like the way we sit, walk, or even breathe. She reminds us that movement starts with the smallest, simplest gestures, and that even when we feel trapped in old patterns, moving our bodies can unlock a path to emotional freedom.

Together with Dr. Scott Lyons, Erica shares how our earliest movements – crawling, rolling, and even rocking – shape the way we interact with the world and how we can return to these roots to shift stuck energy. They talk about how reconnecting with play and spontaneity can help us break free of rigid thinking and foster more flexibility in body and mind.

Erica offers practical ways to get started: maybe it’s leaning against a wall and letting go for a moment, exploring playful twirling, or simply noticing how our bodies react when we’re tense. She also introduces her Movement Therapy Deck, a tool designed to make reconnecting with movement accessible and engaging for everyone. Whether through mindful practices, body awareness, or gentle movement prompts, the deck offers guidance for tuning into and transforming your physical experience.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m not a dancer,” Erica reassures you: movement is for everyone. Healing through movement isn’t about choreography; it’s about reconnecting with yourself, one step at a time.

So, whether you’re someone who struggles with anxiety, feels stuck in their daily routine, or just wants to reconnect with their playful side, this episode holds something for you. Let’s get moving!

Topics We Break Down:

• What is dance and movement therapy, really?
• The disconnect between movement and traditional exercise.
• How movement can heal trauma and reconnect us with our bodies.
• The role of play and spontaneity in finding emotional freedom.
• Practical tools to integrate movement into your daily life.
• Using movement to explore and shift anxiety and tension.
• Rediscovering joy and flow through the body.

Whether you’re seeking clarity, healing through movement, or learning to savor the fleeting beauty of life, this episode is packed with actionable wisdom and powerful reflections to guide you on your journey.

What You’ll Learn

• Rainier Wylde shares profound insights on embracing impermanence, challenging us to savor life’s transience and recognize the magic in the moments that melt away.
• Michelle Boulé explores the transformative power of movement, revealing how creative expression and physical freedom can reconnect us with choice, agency, and vitality.
• Nicole Sachs unpacks the protective nature of pain, explaining how it serves as a signal from our nervous system and how we can shift from a state of fear to one of empowerment.
• Michael Galyon inspires us to live fully in the “now,” recounting personal stories that illustrate how to embrace life’s fleeting nature and cultivate joy through presence.

Key Takeaways

Savoring Impermanence: Life’s beauty lies in its fleeting nature. Embrace the urgency of now and cherish each moment for what it is.

Freedom in Movement: Rediscover your sense of choice and creativity through intentional movement, whether through dance, small daily gestures, or a mindful connection with your body.

Reframing Pain: Understand pain as a protective mechanism and explore ways to meet it with curiosity, compassion, and actionable strategies for relief and healing.

Living in the Present: Find inspiration in life’s impermanence by connecting deeply to the present moment and focusing on what truly matters.

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In this conversation, Michael shares his personal journey to mindfulness and how he has transformed moments of chaos into opportunities for growth. He explains what it truly means to find calm amid life’s turbulence and how this transformation can impact our everyday lives. Michael guides listeners in exploring how vulnerability, when embraced, can lead to greater resilience and emotional clarity. He offers practical mindfulness tools and self-compassion practices that can help reduce anxiety, enhance resilience, and bring a sense of balance to our daily routines.

Listeners will gain insights on how to foster deeper connections with themselves and others, even in overwhelming circumstances, and learn strategies to shift from merely surviving to genuinely thriving. Michael emphasizes the importance of nurturing meaningful relationships through empathy and authenticity, providing actionable ways to deepen those bonds.

Topics We Break Down:

• How to foster resilience and emotional clarity in challenging times.
• The transformative power of vulnerability and courage in personal growth.
• Using mindfulness and self-compassion to manage anxiety and find balance.
• Practical techniques to cultivate calm and resilience in daily life.
• Navigating relationships with empathy, authenticity, and deeper connection.

Nicole shares her personal journey with chronic back pain, which began in college and led her down a path of medical consultations, surgeries, and prescriptions. However, it wasn’t until she discovered the work of Dr. John Sarno that she began to understand how emotional repression and nervous system dysregulation were contributing to her pain. Nicole’s own healing experience inspired her to create the JournalSpeak method, and she has since guided thousands of people worldwide in using this powerful tool to find lasting relief.

Throughout the conversation, Scott and Nicole explore how pain is often a signal from the body, protecting us from perceived emotional threats rather than just a physical condition. Nicole offers profound insights on how we can begin to change our relationship with pain by embracing curiosity instead of fear and turning toward the emotions we’ve been suppressing.

She introduces the concept of JournalSpeak as a way to safely release emotional energy, and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and patience on the healing journey. By addressing the emotional roots of pain, Nicole has helped people reclaim their lives from conditions like fibromyalgia, migraines, back pain, and more.

Topics We Break Down:

• How the nervous system creates pain to protect us from perceived emotional threats
• The JournalSpeak method: A powerful tool for releasing suppressed emotions and healing pain
• The mind-body connection and how emotional stimuli can manifest as physical pain
• How pain is often a sign of emotional repression, trauma, or nervous system dysregulation
• The importance of validating pain and recognizing its emotional origins
• Building self-compassion and patience in the process of healing
• Inner child work and its role in uncovering deep emotional wounds
• How curiosity and wonder can help shift fear and open new possibilities for healing
• Real-life success stories from people who have healed chronic pain using JournalSpeak

Their conversation delves into Michelle’s personal story, highlighting how significant injuries during her dance career led her to explore somatic healing and energy work, helping her break free from physical and emotional limitations. She shares how these pivotal moments opened new pathways not only in her dance practice but in her coaching work, guiding others toward healing through the body. Michelle and Scott explore the themes of creativity, vulnerability, and resilience—how embracing challenges, whether through physical injury or personal trauma, can lead to profound transformation and greater self-awareness.

The dialogue flows through the broader topics of creativity and purpose, emphasizing the importance of remaining present and curious in the face of life’s uncertainties. They discuss the role of community and support systems in moments of vulnerability, and how letting go of control can open doors to deeper healing and connection. Michelle’s philosophy that “life is our greatest creation” resonates throughout the conversation, encouraging listeners to tap into their own potential for change, no matter the obstacles.

Topics We Break Down:

• The transformative power of creativity and how it fosters presence and awe
• How trauma and obstacles can serve as doorways to growth, fostering resilience and a renewed sense of purpose
• The importance of improvisation in dance and life, allowing for flexibility in navigating uncertainty
• The role of permission in allowing ourselves to fully express and embody our experiences
• Surrendering control and finding freedom through yielding, both in physical movement and emotional processes
• Building emotional capacity through mindful practices and how that leads to more harmony and flow in life
• The importance of community, support systems, and the vulnerability required to truly be held by others

Rainier’s approach blends wisdom from ancient traditions with a modern understanding of life’s impermanence, challenging us to confront our fears, embrace discomfort, and cultivate the strength to be fully present. Together, he and Dr. Scott unpack what it means to embrace life in all its fleeting beauty, exploring topics like the connection between joy and grief, the need for community, and how we can reclaim the central role in our own lives. This conversation is an invitation to dive deep into the journey of self-discovery, to live with intention, and to find the courage to show up for the life we truly want.

So, find a quiet space, tune in, and let this conversation inspire you to live more fully, bravely, and joyfully.

Topics We Break Down:

• Awakening from “sleepwalking” and learning to live fully
• The importance of facing mortality to enhance presence
• Savoring life’s impermanent moments as a path to joy
• Finding solace and strength through grief and personal loss
• Becoming the main character in our own lives
• Understanding joy versus fleeting happiness
• Using artistry and creativity as tools for healing and transformation

What You’ll Learn:

• Mastin Kipp shares his experience with the deep-rooted patterns formed in early life, discussing how childhood programming can shape our adult lives and what it takes to rewire limiting beliefs.
• Sabrina Zohar reveals her journey through relational dynamics and how she’s learned to balance independence with vulnerability, embracing the complexities of dating and attachment.
• Rachel Kaplan explores emotional literacy, explaining the importance of ‘emotional potty training’ and how we can reconnect with our emotional bodies for a more fulfilling life.
• Ann Weiser Cornell delves into the transformative process of self-connection, discussing how awareness of bodily sensations can guide us to uncover deeper truths and navigate our inner experiences.
• Britt Frank offers tools for overcoming stuckness, highlighting the value of embracing discomfort and asking empowering questions to break free from repetitive patterns.

Key Takeaways:

• Practical techniques to understand and reframe early childhood beliefs that may be holding you back.
• Insights into balancing autonomy and intimacy in relationships and embracing vulnerability.
• How to recognize, feel, and express emotions as essential steps in healing and self-discovery.
• The role of body awareness in uncovering subconscious patterns and finding greater alignment.
• Empowering ways to address stuckness and make room for growth and change.

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In this conversation, Britt not only explores why we get stuck but also shares actionable skills to move away from procrastination and self-sabotage. She introduces powerful strategies like using "micro-yeses" to overcome inertia, practical tools for grounding yourself, and methods for cultivating self-compassion to stay present in moments of challenge. Whether you're feeling stuck in personal growth, relationships, or habits, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom and tools to help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

Tune in to learn how to shift from being "insightfully stuck" to living with more clarity, choice, and peace!

Topics We Break Down:

• Why we get stuck and the hidden benefits of staying in unhealthy patterns
• How to break free from the cycle of self-sabotage using "micro-yeses"
• The neuroscience of stuckness and why motivation alone isn’t enough
• Practical, actionable tools to overcome procrastination and create momentum
• How to cultivate self-compassion and stop self-abandoning in moments of pain
• The role of trauma in keeping us stuck and how to gently move through it
• Why we need to address both the positives and negatives in our lives for true emotional wellness
• Practical tools for creating an internal sense of "home" and stability within yourself

In this conversation, Ann shares her wisdom on how we can become better listeners—not only to those around us but to ourselves. With simple, yet profoundly impactful techniques, Ann helps us understand the importance of presence, clarity, and listening as tools for emotional healing and connection. Whether you’re seeking to improve your relationships or find a deeper sense of self-compassion, this episode provides tangible tools to take with you. 

Tune in to this episode for a compassionate, insightful conversation that invites you to take a moment for yourself and explore the transformative power of listening!

Topics We Break Down:

• The transformative power of deep listening and how it can heal relationships and ourselves.
• How to cultivate a “clear pool” within, so we can listen to others from a place of calm and openness.
• Focusing: The practice of listening to ourselves and how it helps untangle stuck emotions.
• Practical steps for becoming a better listener—both externally and internally.
• The role of language in facilitating meaningful, open dialogue.
• How to create a compassionate relationship with yourself by welcoming all parts of your experience, even those that feel shameful or uncomfortable.

Rachel dives into the idea that just as we learned to manage our physical needs as children, we need to "train" ourselves to process emotions in a healthy way. With humor and a relatable perspective, she explains how most of us were taught to repress our emotions early on, leading to what she calls "emotional constipation." This buildup of unprocessed pain and feelings can manifest in our lives as stress, numbness, or even physical illness.

Dr. Lyons shares his own experiences of struggling to fully feel emotions, resonating deeply with Rachel’s insights on how avoiding feelings leads to greater suffering. Together, they discuss practical tools for releasing emotions, including how to "schedule" emotional release and why it’s essential to be with our emotions, rather than intellectualizing or bypassing them.

This conversation is filled with humor, wisdom, and practical guidance for anyone who feels emotionally stuck, numb, or overwhelmed. It’s about learning to move toward discomfort, release emotional baggage, and cultivate a deeper, more compassionate relationship with ourselves.

This episode is perfect for anyone seeking more emotional balance and resilience, and it will leave you inspired to reconnect with the parts of yourself you may have hidden away for too long.

Topics We Break Down

• How decades of unprocessed emotions affect our physical and mental health, and how to begin releasing them.
• The importance of reintegrating the parts of ourselves that we’ve hidden away and learning to let them express their pain.
• Dr. Lyons and Rachel explore why repressing emotions leads to greater suffering, and how facing them head-on can lead to lasting relief.
• How to schedule emotional release sessions, and techniques to allow emotions to move through the body naturally.
• Why healing isn’t just about trauma recovery, but about creating a sustainable relationship with your emotions so you can face life’s challenges with strength.

The episode explores some of the most pressing questions surrounding dating and relationships: How can we navigate the complexities of modern dating without losing ourselves? How do we stop seeking validation from others and instead cultivate security within? And most importantly, how can we truly show up authentically in our relationships?

Sabrina’s approach is both relatable and practical. Her vulnerability in sharing her personal hardships, including how hitting rock bottom became a catalyst for her growth, offers hope and actionable insights for anyone struggling with relationships. From setting healthy boundaries to understanding attachment dynamics, this episode is filled with tools that listeners can apply to their own lives.

On a more personal note, this conversation prompted Dr. Lyons to reflect on his own journey, particularly the question: How do I want to show up in a relationship? Sabrina’s ability to navigate the complexities of connection while staying true to herself inspired him to reconsider how he shows up as a partner, friend, and human. The hope is that this discussion will encourage listeners to explore these same questions in their own lives.

A quick note before we dive in: Sabrina speaks openly about her experiences with violence in her childhood. If this is a sensitive topic for you, please take care while listening or skip ahead as needed. Your well-being is always the priority.

Topics We Break Down

• How childhood experiences influence adult relationship patterns.
• The difference between attachment and connection.
• Setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
• How to navigate modern dating with clarity and self-respect.
• The role of vulnerability and authenticity in creating healthy, lasting relationships.

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by Mastin Kipp, a number one best-selling author, speaker, and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™. Recognized as a "thought leader for the next generation" by Oprah Winfrey, Mastin has dedicated his life to helping people create rapid change, connect to their true selves, and live with passion and purpose.

Mastin's journey is a testament to the power of resilience and the ability to transform one's life, even in the face of adversity. From his early experiences in the music industry to his battles with addiction and his eventual transition into personal development, Mastin's path has been one of constant evolution and self-discovery.

In this conversation, they’ll delve into the profound impact of prenatal experiences on our beliefs and behaviors, and how understanding the intricacies of trauma and the nervous system can be a catalyst for personal growth and healing. Mastin will share his insights on the importance of honesty, self-discovery, and the unconventional paths that often lead to the most significant breakthroughs. From the power of hyperbaric oxygen therapy to the importance of a balanced diet, Mastin will share his tried-and-true strategies for supporting healing and growth.

Topics We Break Down

• The importance of being honest about your credentials and how you can serve people.
• The biological mechanisms that are at play when it comes to trauma and the nervous system.
• Why safety is imperative in order for change to be cultivated in any transformational process.
• Some examples of therapeutic practices and processes that are working for people.
• Why trauma isn’t just about what happened but also about what happened after the trauma.
• Trauma responses and lived experiences as unconscious reflexes.
• Nervous system nutrition and how to nourish it to make better decisions under stress.

What You'll Learn:

• Marie Forleo teaches us how to break free from excuses and start turning dreams into reality, even when time and resources feel scarce.
• Mark Groves dives deep into the complexities of love, revealing why relationships are often so challenging and how we can learn the skills needed to love better.
• Arielle Schwartz shares her personal journey through the non-linear process of healing, reminding us that true healing is about unconditional self-acceptance and returning home to ourselves.
• Damona Hoffman debunks the fairy tale myths about love and relationships, empowering us to redefine what love looks like on our own terms and take charge of our romantic lives.

Key Takeaways:

• Practical steps to live an excuse-free life and make progress toward your dreams.
• How to build deeper, more meaningful relationships by confronting your fears and learning the art of love.
• Insights into the healing process, and how to approach it with self-compassion and patience.
• Why it’s essential to let go of societal myths about love and rewrite your own love story.

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Thankfully, in this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the brilliant Damona Hoffman, dating expert and author, who knows how to make sense of the complexities of human connection. Damona is here to dispel the myths of dating, like the trap of looking for a soulmate or waiting for the right chemistry, offering us tools to help navigate the search for aligned values and lasting intimacy.

In this conversation, they’ll explore the power of vulnerability and self-discovery in creating meaningful bonds, the importance of curiosity in building trust and what it really means for us to each build our own unique love story. They’ll dive into the four biggest dating myths that keep us stuck and learn how to flip the script, prioritizing goals, values, communication, and trust over fairytale fantasies.

So, if you’re ready, let's swipe left on outdated dating myths and swipe right on genuine connection and self-discovery.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Debunking four harmful myths about dating and relationships, and exploring their antidotes. 
• The paradox of choice - how choice impacts the way we interact and communicate.
• How to identify your values, and how to see if they align with your partner's.
• Why repair language (conflict resolution) is just as important as love language.
• Helpful strategies for building trust.
• Diving deeper into the myth of soulmates. 

Today, Dr Scott is joined by Dr. Arielle Schwartz , a clinical psychologist, yoga instructor, and pioneer in the field of resilience-informed therapy. With a deep understanding of trauma recovery, EMDR therapy, and somatic psychology, Dr. Schwartz has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate the nonlinear path of healing, one that honors both the wounds and the innate resilience within us all.

In this conversation, they’ll delve into the intricacies of the healing journey, exploring how trauma becomes encoded in our bodies and how attending to these experiences with mindfulness and self-compassion can lead to profound transformation. Together, Dr Scott and Arielle discuss the importance of creating a safe and accepting inner space, where all parts of ourselves are welcome, and how this radical self-acceptance is key to integrating the fragmented aspects of our being.

But this isn't just about personal healing; it's about reclaiming our power, our agency, and our inherent wholeness. Dr. Schwartz will guide us through the process of taking self-responsibility for our lives, of owning our stories and our potential for growth and the emergence of new possibilities. They'll also explore the evolution of somatic psychology, the power of embodiment practices like yoga, and the importance of integrating science and spirituality in our understanding of the human experience. 

Tune in, as we remind ourselves about the extraordinary capacity for healing that lies within us all.

Topics We Break Down:

• Differentiating between the concept of wholeness and the felt experience of homecoming.
• Cultivating unconditional self-acceptance as you show up for yourself.
• Defining the experiences that form the heart of trauma. 
• How a resilience-informed approach enables you to see the bigger picture. 
• The evolution of somatic therapy from catharsis to mindful attention and presence.
• Experiencing the spectrum of emotion that embodiment facilitates.
• Forging an embodied spiritual path. 
• Healing by bringing buried parts into the present moment.

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the inimitable Marie Forleo, an entrepreneur, writer, philanthropist and unshakable optimist. From her early days bartending in New York to building a multimillion-dollar socially-conscious empire, Marie has defied convention and forged her own unique path by tuning into her inner voice.

In this delightful conversation, Marie shares her hard-won wisdom on overcoming limiting beliefs, cultivating unshakable faith in ourselves, and finding the courage to pursue our dreams against all odds. She also reveals the transformative power of her mantra (and book title), Everything is Figureoutable, which has changed her life and empowered countless others.

Together, Dr Scott and Marie dive into the importance of embracing our multi-passionate nature, giving ourselves permission to experiment and evolve, and trusting the journey even when the path ahead is uncertain. Marie will challenge us to question the excuses we make, to confront our deepest fears, and to take bold action in service of our highest potential.

This episode is a loving kick in the pants and a compassionate embrace all in one. So grab a notebook, get ready to laugh, and let's get ready to figure it all out.

Topics We Break Down:

• Forging a unique path by turning to your inner voice for wisdom.
• The power of movement to help you cultivate self-confidence.
• Tools of creation that you can rely on to access higher intelligence.
• Practical techniques to help you learn the language of your intuition.
• 3 simple rules to help you apply the Figureoutable Philosophy and become unstoppable.
• Why you already have everything you need to achieve anything you desire.
• Advice from Mother Nature for when it feels like you’ve hit a plateau.
• How to use “fuck you fuel” to fire yourself up for success!

Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist and founder of Create the Love, joins Dr Scott to explore the complexities of connection – from the dizzying heights of passion to the depths of rupture and repair.

Together, they dive into the paradigm of "liberated love" – a conscious and intentional approach to using our relationships as catalysts for personal growth and expanded freedom. They’ll examine how childhood experiences shape adult relational dynamics, the influence of societal narratives, and the transformative power of taking responsibility for our own evolution.

With candor and vulnerability, Mark shares his own triumphs and struggles in navigating intimacy, offering a window into the art of active constructive responding, the significance of clear relational agreements, and the profound impact of unconditional love – a love that holds space for pain, loss, and the inevitable rifts that accompany any deep bond.

Topics We Break Down:

• The paradox and art of loving and the fierce dedication to truth that defines liberated love.
• Distinguishing performative and authentic behavior by understanding the science of your body.
• Different ways to create space for a third, truer reality between you and a partner or friend.
• Understanding how responsive and spontaneous desire influence our relationships. 
• Recognizing that everyone in a relationship is playing out their wounds. 
• The possibility of loving someone and realizing your paths are not aligned.
• Delineating between compromise and self-abandonment. 
• The role of intention in creating codependence. 

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by Dr. Stan Tatkin, a pioneer in the field of couples therapy and the developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). With a deep understanding of attachment theory, neuroscience, and interpersonal neurobiology, Dr. Tatkin has dedicated his career to helping couples build secure, resilient relationships that withstand the test of time.

Together, they delve into the intricate dance between our brains and our bonds, exploring how our early experiences shape our attachment styles and how those styles manifest in our adult relationships. They will uncover the neuroscientific underpinnings of secure functioning, discussing the importance of honesty, fairness, and mutual support in creating a strong partnership.

But it's not just about theory; Dr. Tatkin will share practical strategies for finding an ideal partner, navigating differences, and tolerating the inevitable pain and discomfort that come with any long-term commitment. They will discuss the role of transparency, setting up guardrails, and creating a shared vision for the future – all essential elements in building a relationship that not only survives but thrives.

Whether you're in a committed partnership, navigating the dating world, or simply seeking to understand the complexities of human connection, this episode promises to be a transformative exploration of the neuroscience behind secure relationships. 

Topics We Break Down: 

• How couples are the only democratic union to come together without a shared vision.
• Why it's vital to build relationships on the same foundation, and how to go about it.
• Helpful tips for setting up guardrails in relationships. 
• How to identify your ideal partner. 
• The impermanence of attraction, and the difference between love and compatibility.
• Dissecting the roles of society and basic human nature in problematic relationships.
• How it's always possible to work through deficits and gain new relationship skills. 

In this episode Dr Scott is exploring the transformative power of reclaiming our space and amplifying our authentic selves with Eliza VanCort. Eliza is a multifaceted force – an author, facilitator, speaker, podcaster, and survivor. With a background in both performing arts and political science, she has become a renowned communication strategist and trainer, empowering others to stand tall in an often unnerving world. Her bestselling book, "A Woman's Guide to Claiming Space: Stand Tall. Raise Your Voice. Be Heard," is a transformative and intersectional tome that inspires women while enlightening men.

Listen in, as Dr Scott and Eliza delve into the art of effective communication, the role of intuition and connection, and the profound impact of body language and vocal control. Eliza shares her personal journey of overcoming a devastating brain injury that compromised her ability to communicate, and how that experience fueled her passion for helping others find their voice.

Together they explore the power of reclaiming suppressed parts of ourselves, the significance of accountability and repair in relationships, and the transformative nature of acting as a means to understand human behavior. Get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery, embracing the courage to live life unapologetically, reclaim our souls, and expand our understanding of what it truly means to be human.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Key personality traits that contribute to effective communication.
• The role of body language and vocal control in communication.
• Barriers to communication and practical strategies to overcome them. 
• Explore techniques to reclaim your communication power and space. 
• Why you should never try to be someone else for the sake of others.
• Accountability as a pathway to repairing a fractured relationship.
• Learn how to prepare your emotions to be intentional in situations. 

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Frank Anderson, a world-renowned trauma expert, psychiatrist, and author of the memoir, "To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation." Frank's journey from enduring childhood trauma to becoming a leading voice in trauma healing is nothing short of inspiring.

In this conversation, they’ll explore how slowing down and being present with our emotions can lead to genuine healing and how the next generation of trauma recovery will need to move beyond traditional therapy to include a collaborative and holistic approach. They discuss the repetitive patterns in relationships that stem from unresolved relational wounds and the critical inner work required to break free from these cycles, shedding light on how releasing anger and resentment can lead to self-compassion and personal growth.

Listen in as they delve into the transformative power of understanding our inner selves and the journey towards true healing. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Bridging the worlds of humanity and academia 
• Finding the elixir of eternal youth through the power of inner healing work. 
• Listening to and appreciating the protective parts of ourselves to understand how they are trying to help us.
• What it might look like to heal trauma in connection with the person who created the harm.
• Finding self-forgiveness through the path of forgiving others. 
• Breaking free of the habit of demonizing others 
• Unpacking the idea of healing your inner child through self-awareness and self-connection.

Jessica's expertise lies in guiding individuals, couples, and those in multiple-partner relationships to transcend the limitations of reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas. Through her work, she invites us to explore new possibilities in life and love, challenging the conventional norms that have long governed our understanding of relationships.

Dr Scott and Jessica unpack the definition of polyamory and its place within the broader umbrella of consensual non-monogamy. They’ll confront the misconceptions and taboos surrounding this lifestyle, such as the belief that it is rooted in promiscuity or an inability to commit. Together they delve into the concept of erotic blueprints, a framework for understanding our unique desires and needs within the realm of intimacy. Jessica will guide us through the different styles of erotic blueprints, from energetic to kinky, and how understanding our own blueprint can enhance our connections and sexual satisfaction.

Listen in as they embark on this thought-provoking journey, challenging societal norms and embracing the diversity of human connection. Whether you're curious about polyamory, seeking to deepen your understanding of intimacy, or simply open to exploring new perspectives, this episode promises to be an enlightening and transformative experience.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Understanding Polyamory and Ethical Nonmonogamy: Definitions and different styles of consensual nonmonogamy.
• Evolution of polyamory terminology and common misconceptions surrounding ethical nonmonogamy.
• Guidelines for setting up rules and agreements in polyamorous relationships, and recommendations for couples considering polyamory.
• Differentiating between romantic, emotional, and intimacy needs, and understanding how emotional needs drive relational needs.
• Signs of healthy monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, including the significance of self-care.
• Recognizing the difference between avoidance and attachment in relationships, and the concept of an erotic blueprint.
• Navigating parenting within polyamorous relationships and why relationship success should not be defined by longevity.

Trauma is a universal experience that touches all of our lives in one way or another. Whether it's the shattering impact of violence or loss, the insidious effects of systemic oppression, or the lingering echoes of childhood adversity, trauma has the power to shape our lives in profound and often invisible ways. But what if the key to healing trauma lies not just in our minds, but in our bodies? What if the path to recovery is rooted in the very essence of our embodied existence?

In this episode, Dr Scott is honored to be joined by Dr. Peter Levine, the pioneer of Somatic Experiencing® and the developer of a revolutionary approach to healing trauma. Known as the father of trauma therapy, Dr. Levine has dedicated his life's work to understanding the intricate dance between our minds, bodies, and the traumatic experiences that can become lodged within us.

In this conversation, they’ll explore the evolution of our understanding of trauma over the past four decades, challenging the notion that it is merely a brain disorder. Dr. Levine will shed light on how trauma becomes encoded in the very fibers of our being, and how addressing it at a somatic level is crucial for true healing and resolution.

Together they will delve into the power of embodiment, the importance of feeling safe in our bodies, and the gradual process of reconnecting with traumatic sensations. Dr. Levine will share his personal journey of healing, emphasizing the significance of being seen and held in relationships, and the transformative act of sharing one's trauma narrative.

Listen in as Dr Scott and Dr Levine venture into the depths of the human experience, uncovering the profound wisdom of our bodies and the resilience that lies within us all. Whether you're a survivor seeking healing, a practitioner in the field, or simply someone who wishes to deepen their understanding of trauma, this conversation promises to be a powerful and enlightening exploration of the path to wholeness.

To avoid Dr. Levine’s account of sexual assault, please skip the audio between [28:23] and [29:30].

Topics We Break Down: 

• Dr. Peter Levine defines trauma and explains how it’s evolved in the past three decades. 
• How somatic trauma healing didn’t exist before Dr. Levine’s research. 
• The way trauma is held in the body and distinguishing trauma from stress.
• Understanding the value of an empathetic presence in your life after a traumatic event. 
• Semantics: the struggles of bringing a new medical solution into the mainstream. 
• Exploring the concept of being and doing enough and why this is always possible. 

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by Nicole Walters, a force to be reckoned with in the world of entrepreneurship and personal empowerment. Nicole's journey is a testament to the power of resilience and the ability to rewrite one's story. From growing up in poverty to building a multi-million dollar business empire, she has defied the odds and shattered the glass ceilings that once seemed impenetrable. Nicole shares her inspiring tale, shedding light on the trauma of poverty and the messages it can send about self-worth.

But this conversation goes beyond just her personal triumphs. Together they will delve into the lies we tell ourselves to compensate for negative beliefs, the impact of childhood experiences, and the pressure of the hustle culture. Nicole will share her unique perspective on finding peace, defining success on her own terms, and the importance of taking bold action and reframing negative thoughts.

Get ready to be inspired, challenged, and empowered as we explore the depths of self-belief, the power of calculated risks, and the art of setting boundaries. Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur, a seasoned professional, or simply someone seeking to unleash their full potential, this episode promises to be a transformative journey into the heart of what it means to own your power.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why collapse can be a totally valid stress response.
• Finding peace beyond the harm of narcissistic abuse. 
• What it takes to maintain the image of success and intelligence in the world.
• Applying statistics and math to create confidence.
• Three bold moves in one power hour.
• Why failure to grow is just as dangerous as failure to launch.
• The incredible value of knowing your strengths.
• Embodying freedom and understanding that it is your birthright.

After losing his on-air radio job during the COVID-19 pandemic, Brian embarked on a new path, producing comedic sketches and sharing them online. His work quickly gained traction, being featured in publications like The Boston Globe, Funny or Die, and US Weekly, among others. But Brian's journey is about more than just entertainment; it's about connection, healing, and the transformative power of laughter.

In this episode, Dr Scott will delve into Brian's approach to observational comedy, exploring how he incorporates generational differences and real-life experiences into his sketches. They’ll discuss the varying reactions and perspectives that different generations may have on the same subject matter, and how Brian navigates these nuances with humor and insight.

But their conversation goes beyond the realm of comedy. They’ll explore the responsibilities and challenges that come with being an online personality, and how Brian creates a supportive and positive community for his followers. They’ll discuss the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining a healthy online presence, and using open communication and support to navigate negative comments and heal.

Join in for laugh upon laugh, who doesn't need a laugh? Whether you're a fan of Brian's work or simply someone who appreciates a roaring chuckle, this episode promises to be a delightful and insightful exploration into the world of an artist who refuses to let life's challenges dim his light.

Topics We Break Down:

• The characteristics that define each generation.
• An influencer’s burden of responsibility.
• How the comments section and other negative feedback influence content.
• The way to navigate aggressive online attacks.
• A journey through the creative process.
• An interlude on the modern truncation of language.

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Tara Schuster, a best-selling author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive whose journey of self-discovery and healing is as inspiring as it is relatable. Tara's story is one of resilience, of confronting childhood neglect and abuse, and of taking responsibility for her own life through the powerful acts of reparenting and self-care. In this conversation, they’ll delve into the importance of accepting and allowing suffering, and the transformative power of taking accountability for one's own narrative.

But this isn't just a story of pain; it's a story of understanding, forgiveness, and of seeing the underlying pain behind abusive behavior. Tara will share her insights on the process of understanding and forgiving her parents, and the profound impact it had on her own healing journey.

Together, Dr Scott and Tara also explore the practical aspects of self-care, the importance of structure and routine in making life easier, and the need to find one's own point of view, unshackled by limiting beliefs. Tara will encourage us to question our beliefs, to prioritize our values, and to live in alignment with the authentic selves we've uncovered.

Listen in as they embark on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and the reclamation of our stories. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Getting to the root of your trauma and accepting the things that happened in your suffering.
• How acceptance, accountability, and responsibility are not the same as assigning blame. 
• What we can learn from identifying and understanding personal values. 
• Making time for self-care 
• How there is no hack to healing, only discipline and hard work. 
• Trusting the process, introspection, and allowing yourself to make mistakes.
• Living in alignment.

In this episode, Joel delves into the complexities of maintaining authenticity while meeting audience expectations. They explore how his stand-up persona has evolved over the years and the challenging balance between personal truth and public performance. Joel also shares his insights on the shifting landscape of comedy, particularly the nuanced discussions around identity and representation in an industry often resistant to change. Dr. Scott and Joel take a look at the concept of "punching up" versus "punching down” and what it teaches us about the ethics of comedy, before discussing the exhaustion of constantly deconstructing one's identity and the desire for creative freedom.

This conversation isn't just about comedy; it's about the human experience, the complexities of public perception, and the pursuit of authentic self-expression. Listen in, as they dive into the nuances of representation, diversity, insecurities, and forging a life in the public eye. 

Topics We Break Down

• Life as a public figure and the unique challenges that accompany it.
• The strengths of punching up versus punching down in comedy.
• Resistance to defining the rules of stand-up comedy and what is off-limits.
• The concept of clapter and how it differs for left-leaning versus more conservative comedians.
• Unpacking the age of identity comedy and how it is shifting.
• The demands and complexities of representation.
• Dealing with the scrutiny you receive as a public figure and how people perceive you.

With a following that spans platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook, Manon has mastered the art of connecting with her audience through her comedic sketches, observational humor, and sage wisdom. Together, Dr. Scott and Manon will delve into the role of empathy in comedy, exploring how comedians have the power to reflect and mirror the experiences of their audience, creating a sense of validation and understanding. They’ll discuss the challenges of receiving validation, particularly from parents, and how authenticity can be a powerful tool for self-expression and connection.

This thoughtful conversation will also touch on the impact of generational differences, the importance of taking risks, and the significance of self-expression through mediums like dance and movement. Manon will share insights into her creative process, the influence of repetition on audience expectations, and the motivation behind creating content that resonates. Listen as they celebrate the healing power of laughter and the transformative possibilities of comedy. 

Topics We Break Down

• Impressions as a love language.
• The challenge of being an empathic comedian. 
• What differentiates reaction from response: the power of pausing. 
• How parallel play can help to generate trust. 
• What we can learn from the Validation Reflex.
• Debunking the myth that the post-birth experience is bliss.
• How to bring in the witness in your everyday life.

From his grassroots work in orphanages, homeless shelters and rehab centers across the world to his critically acclaimed somatic-activated healing method, Sah’s expertise is rooted in a deep understanding of the mind-body connection and the power of kinesthetic learning. Offering us a glimpse into his book, Spiritually, We: The Art of Relating and Connecting From the Heart, Sah challenges us to shift our mindset, embrace compassion, and selflessness, and understand the power of conflict in deepening intimacy in our relationships.

Dr. Scott and Sah consider what it means to cultivate the superpower of authenticity and what that means for genuine connections, and the magnetization of friendships. Sah shares his insights on the impact of code-switching, the fragmentation of self, and the journey to embracing one’s true identity. Together, they will delve into the paradox of freedom, the illusion of manifesting reality, and the true values that bring meaning to our lives. Tune in as they embrace the messiness, beauty and transformative power of living authenticity. 

Topics We Break Down

• Finding the freest version of your life by embracing authenticity.
• Find a healthy balance between your individual needs and your role in the community.
• Understand freedom as it relates to both yourself and your interactions with others.
• Recognize and appreciate people as complete beings to combat loneliness.
• Addressing Inner Experiences Restoratively: Deal with your inner feelings without blame, and focus on healing rather than punishment.
• Learn to handle conflicts and repairs in relationships to make them stronger and deeper.
• Mastering the art of mirroring and naming your needs to truly meet yourself and others. 

In this conversation, Dr. Scott welcomes Dr. Michael Lennox, a distinguished psychologist whose insights into the nocturnal mind are as enlightening as they are fascinating. A renowned dream expert, Dr. Lennox works to unravel the enigma of dreams and their significance in our lives. He is known for his work in dream analysis, spirituality, and personal development and has also authored several books on dream interpretation and personal growth. 

Together, they will decode the functionality of dreams, venture into the realm of the collective unconscious, and reveal how our dreams can be a powerful tool for personal growth, healing, and creativity. From the eeriness of precognitive dreams to the empowerment of lucid dreaming, they’re unpacking the mysteries of what happens when we close our eyes at night.

This episode is your invitation to discover the transformative power of your dreams and how they can illuminate the darkest and most mysterious parts of your inner world. Discover the profound intersections of science, psychology, and the spirituality of dreams and investigate the intricacies of the subconscious mind.

 Topics We Break Down

• The physiological function of sleep and transformative power of dreams.
• Learn how dreams connect us to the collective subconscious.
• Find out how to use dreams as a tool for personal development.
• Common dream interpretation pitfalls and the symbolism of dreams.
• Steps to unlocking the somatic healing potential of dreams.
• Insights into whether dreams can also predict the future.
• Taking control of and amplifying your lucid dreams.
• Explore the erotic and sensual side of dreams.
• Daily practices to improve the relationship with your dreams.

Together, Amy and Dr. Scott discuss individual mental resilience and the mental strength and dynamics for success within couples. Amy helps us unravel the significance of facing problems head-on, the value of transparency, and the necessity of setting healthy boundaries. In a relationship, communication is key, but it's the respect and understanding behind that communication that truly cements a partnership.

Join us as Amy Morin guides us through the principles that can fortify our minds and our connections, making us all the more resilient, empathetic, and mentally strong.

Topics We Break Down:

• Understanding the difference between developing resilience and ignoring genuine feelings.
• Key Behaviors of Mentally Strong People: Highlighting important habits like avoiding self-pity and embracing accountability.
• Learning to release past attachments, even those involving loved ones, to move forward.
• Creating personal success criteria and choosing to learn from others instead of competing.
• Determining which conflicts are solvable and worth your time and energy.
• How secrecy can undermine trust and closeness in partnerships.

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the incomparable Peppermint, an actress, singer, songwriter, drag queen, activist, and trailblazing icon. From the stages of New York City nightclubs to the bright lights of Broadway and the fierce competition of RuPaul's Drag Race, Peppermint has not only entertained millions but also been instrumental in paving the way for open conversations about the transgender experience and activism within the LGBTQ+ community. More than a performer, Peppermint embodies courage and authenticity, using her platform to challenge misconceptions, advocate for equality, and inspire a generation.

Join us as we delve into the intersections of art and activism, exploring how Peppermint's work in the entertainment industry serves as a vehicle for change. They’ll  discuss the evolution of nightlife and its role in shaping LGBTQ+ culture, the mainstream acceptance of drag and its implications, and the concerning rise of anti-drag legislation. But it's not just about the challenges; it's about the triumphs, the joy of self-acceptance, and the power of community.

Prepare to be inspired by Peppermint’s story of transformation, resistance, and the art of turning personal trials into powerful messages of acceptance and change. It's going to be a powerful, enlightening, and undeniably fabulous episode that you won't want to miss.

Topics We Break Down:

• Drag’s changing role in mainstream culture across different administrations.
• The conservative playbook for targeting trans people and other minorities.
• Systems of propaganda and discrimination across cultures.
• Dehumanization, reactionary politics, and coming to terms with the non-linear nature of progress.
• The current state of trans rights and trans justice.
• Media, misinformation, and the overwhelming amount of content that people have to navigate today.
• Rehumanization; why it’s crucial for people to have experiences with groups that are being discriminated against.
• Art as activism; how Peppermint is using her voice and her platform to educate others and advocate for change.

Joining Dr Scott to discuss all things funny is Laura Clery, an actress, influencer, and comedian celebrated for her distinct style and ability to connect with millions across social media platforms. She is also the author of Idiot: Life Stories from the Creator of Help Helen Smash and Idiots: Marriage, Motherhood, Milk & Mistakes.

Together, they reflect on Laura’s journey and why laughter truly is the best medicine (in more ways than one). Laura opens up about her rise in comedy, from discovering her knack for making people laugh at a young age to mastering the art of online content creation. She delves into how comedy serves as her medicine, helping process challenging experiences and navigate the intricacies of dating and relationships.

Prepare to be entertained and enlightened as they deconstruct the power of humor in creating joy and connection, the role of social media in reaching a global audience, and the importance of self-awareness in personal and romantic relationships. Laura also shares insights into maintaining privacy as a public figure and the transformative journey of understanding one's own protective strategies and insecurities.

Join us for a conversation filled with thoughtful insights and plenty of good laughs. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Systemic inequities in show business and how creating your own content can be used to reclaim power and agency.
• The role of fear in overthinking and the creativity that can stem from underthinking.
• Appreciating different types of humor and the art of making people laugh.
• The therapeutic effects of laughter: stimulating the vagal nervous system and its calming impact on the body.
• The duality of impulsivity: a source of both humor and creativity, yet also a double-edged sword.
• Navigating public divorce, finding humor in adversity, and exploring the triggers within romantic relationships.
• Deconstructing comedy's components: incongruity, timing, relief theory, status shifts, sarcasm, irony, and exaggeration.

To help answer these questions, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Emily Morse, the bestselling author of Hot Sex and Smart Sex and host of the number one sexuality podcast, Sex with Emily. Emily has dedicated her career to demystifying the world of sex and pleasure, advocating for honest and open communication as the cornerstone for a vibrant sexual relationship. 

Together, they explore the reasons behind our collective hesitation to talk about sex, the benefits of expanding our understanding of what sex can do, and the practical steps we can take to enhance intimacy and pleasure in our lives. They tackle how to address pleasure thieves like stress, trauma, and shame and discuss the power of mindfulness in creating a safe space for those important conversations. Whether you're curious about navigating your desires, exploring fantasies, or simply looking to enrich the sexual aspects of your relationship, you're in the right place. 

Let's get it on.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Boundaries that keep us from talking about sex in a safe, shame-free environment. 
• What it looks like to define sex for ourselves instead of following the scripts handed to us. 
• Communication is lubrication: why learning to talk about sex is the best thing for our sex lives.
• Reframing sex as an opportunity to expand the experiential horizons of your relationship.
• Transformative tools to break down common barriers preventing us from having fulfilling sexual experiences.
• How mindful masturbation can revolutionize your solo and partnered encounters. 
• What it might look like to overcome the humor and awkwardness of role play. 

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Greg Hammer, a Professor at Stanford University School of Medicine, Paediatric Intensive Care Physician, Paediatric Anaesthesiologist, and Mindfulness Expert. Together, they navigate the essentials of physical wellness, including the rejuvenating power of sleep, the vitality found in movement, and the nourishment provided by mindful eating. Dr. Hammer invites us to explore the spiritual scaffolding supporting our well-being built on the pillars of gratitude, acceptance, intention, and non-judgment. 

This conversation is brimming with insights that promise to illuminate the path to wellness through the changing seasons and beyond with the wise and wonderful Dr Greg Hammer as our guide. 

Topics We Break Down: 

• How the components of spiritual and physical health intertwine to support holistic wellness.
• Neutralizing negativity bias by prioritizing physical and spiritual well-being.
• Foundations of nutrition to support our defense against low-grade stress.
• A simple definition of burnout and how to develop a plan to mitigate the stressors contributing to it.
• Discerning between elements that fall within our control and outside of it and how to embrace mindfulness to stay in the present moment.
• Embracing a practice of accepting and embracing pain in order to reduce suffering.
• How embracing non-judgment supports self-acceptance and kindness towards others.

In this insightful episode, Dr. Scott sits down with Dr. Shefali, a renowned clinical psychologist and author known for her groundbreaking work in conscious parenting and family dynamics. Together, they discuss the impact of societal expectations and social comparisons on parenting and the significance of focusing on your child’s self-worth instead of their achievements. They unpack the daily practice of challenging your own expectations, the importance of fostering a sense of self-worth for both parent and child, the value of allowing your children the space to explore their own destiny, the outcomes of fear-based parenting, and much more.

Are you ready for the joy and ease that comes when we let go of control and accept our children for who they truly are? Then this episode is for you.

Topics We Break Down

• Explore the nuances between conscious and unconscious parenting.
• The hidden expectations intertwined with unconscious parenting approaches.
• Why parents need to surrender to their authentic selves.
• Strategies to guide children in aligning with their inherent nature and essence.
• Removing toxic patterns and replacing them with authentic connections.
• Understand the influence and repercussions of the parental ego on children.
• The characteristics of a spiritual warrior in parenting and beyond.
• Allowing your children the space to be disruptive and discover themselves.
• Signs of a healthy parent-child dynamic and the value of conflict.
• Learn the path to gentle feedback between parent and child.

Offering a revolutionary understanding and approach to overcoming anxiety, Dr. Kennedy shares insights from his personal journey, revealing the counterphobic tool of comedy and how this intersects with his medical practice. Together, they challenge the conventional view of anxiety, redefining it as a physical state of alarm that often stems from unresolved trauma. 

Dr. Kennedy guides us through techniques to connect with our inner self and find a sense of safety in the present moment, and together, we explore the essential difference between everyday discomfort and lingering trauma and how focusing on the body’s alarm signals can pave the way to healing. 

Topics We Break Down

• How applying a new understanding to anxiety can facilitate a deeper treatment of its root causes.
• What it might look like to replace dissociative responses with meaningful attention.
• Reframing anxiety as both a mind-body separation and an adult self-child self separation. 
• The complex relationship between cognitive and somatic work.
• How technology facilitates disconnection and results in an inability to metabolize difficult emotions.
• The journey of influencing your internal perception of the external world through expressing emotion. 
• Prioritizing self-connection and witnessing the traumatized child as a roadmap to healing anxiety. 
• Why the cost of never addressing the pain of your formative years is too high to bear.

In this episode, Desiree Nielsen joins Dr. Scott in conversation to share a wealth of wisdom from her experiences as a registered dietician. Desiree is an expert in the world of plant-based nutrition and an author of several best-selling cookbooks, including the newly published Plant Magic. Together, they’ll discuss the impact of social media on diet trends, the importance of tailoring nutrition to the individual, and the need for a critical eye toward the wellness narratives that dominate our culture. 

Desiree offers her insights into the complex layers of nutrition, debunking myths, and teaching us how to sift through the noise to find evidence-based advice that truly benefits our health. This episode serves up insight and laughter, proving that the best meals are not just about what’s on the plate, but also about the conversations that happen around the table. Let’s dig in!

Topics We Break Down: 

• How food can act as the metronome of life before diet culture infiltrates our thinking. 
• The opportunity that mealtimes present to inject happiness and pleasure into an otherwise stressful life.
• What it might look like to strip food of its moral value and embrace flexibility.
• Why a ‘one problem, one solution’ approach to nutrition is fundamentally problematic.
• What it truly means to have a holistic perspective that is in step with evidence-based thinking.
• Redefining healthy eating in a way that focuses on our actions. 
• The radical idea that sometimes wellness makes us feel worse.
• Sifting through the plethora of conflicting health advice online to find what works for you. 

Today, Dr. Scott sits down with Dr. Sasha Hamdani, a board-certified psychiatrist, best-selling author, and entrepreneur. Dr. Hamdani brings a wealth of knowledge and personal insight into the complexities of attention and its nuances. From the evolution of ADHD diagnosis to the pioneering creation of the Focus Genie app, we explore the multifaceted nature of attention, including its various types and the challenges it presents in our daily lives.

Join us as they discuss the critical aspects of attention: its definition, the ability to focus, regulate, and transition between topics, and the intriguing relationship between ADHD, generational stress, and trauma. Dr. Hamdani shares her expertise on the capacity for attention, how it varies among individuals, and the potential impacts of overdiagnosis and underdiagnosis in ADHD.

This conversation promises to enlighten and challenge your understanding of attention, providing a deeper appreciation of our brain's complexity and the many shades of normal when it comes to attention-related challenges. Whether you're grappling with focus issues yourself, know someone who does, or are simply curious about the inner workings of the human mind, this episode is not to be missed.

Topics We Break Down

• How a deep understanding of what it means to pay and tend to attention can influence our relationship with it.
• The intricate science of the brain and what makes it unique among the body’s other organs. 
• Appreciating the value of both inclusivity and diagnosis in the context of neurodivergence.
• How behavioral and lifestyle changes can support focus and brain function.
• Overdiagnosis, underdiagnosis, and access to care.
• The influence of traumatic experiences on the brain.
• What self-care, tracking, and problem-solving might look like for people with ADHD.
• How differentiating between four kinds of attention can help us identify our strengths and weaknesses. 

Welcome to the Trauma Olympics.

Joining Dr. Scott to unpack this intricate subject are Kai Cheng Thom, MSW, MSc, a certified Somatic Sex Educator and acclaimed author, and Nkem Ndefo, MSN, the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. Together, they explore the different forms of Trauma Olympics, including the troubling trends of one-upping and minimizing others' experiences, and the underlying causes such as capitalism, scarcity mentality, and the quest for validation.

They’ll discuss the negative effects of this phenomenon, such as how it splinters social movements and fosters a culture of constant competition over trauma and they’ll delve into the complex politics of trauma disclosure, examining the pressure to share personal experiences for validation and the crucial right to low disclosure.

This conversation is not just an exploration but also a critical examination of our societal and individual approaches to trauma. Whether you've experienced this phenomenon personally or are seeking to understand it better, this episode offers insights, personal stories, and thoughtful analysis on navigating the challenging landscape of the Trauma Olympics.

Get ready for a profound discussion that sheds light on the complexities and dangers of comparing traumas and the importance of respecting individual boundaries and experiences in the journey of healing and resilience.

Topics we break down

• Deep-seated reasons that people choose to engage in Trauma Olympics and comparative victimhood.
• Ways in which capitalism and the scarcity mentality support the zero-sum game of comparison.
• What it might look like to extract trauma from self-identity and how this relates to healing.
• How competitive trauma is incentivized and the dehumanizing effect of hierarchy.
• The difference between trauma acting as a social glue and trauma becoming a social disruptor.
• Cultivating the capacity to relate to people beyond the sensationalist quality of their story.
• Retiring ourselves from the sport of Trauma Olympics by meeting the underlying need.
• How power dynamics influence competitive trauma and create a barrier to reconciliation.
• What might change if we could communicate in a context where everyone wasn’t stretched so thin.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons welcomes Dr. Judy Ho, a distinguished Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, tenured professor, and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment'. Dr. Judy, with her profound understanding of neuropsychology, sheds light on how insecure attachments carve anxious, avoidant, and disorganized trails through our lives. Together, they explore the transformative power of self-awareness, self-regulation, and the sacred act of reparenting. This conversation goes beyond discussing the bonds we form with others; it's an exploration of how to reforge the bonds within ourselves, to heal the attachment wounds that hold us back, and to step into a future of secure attachment and limitless growth.

Are you ready to uncover the mysteries of attachment and discover how to navigate the path towards secure connections? Listen in for a profound dive into the heart of human connection and growth.

Topics We Break Down

• The intricate weave of forensic neuropsychology and attachment theory.
• Navigating the emergence of insecure attachment patterns from childhood.
• Understanding the impact of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles on adult relationships and self-identity.
• The transformative power of self-awareness in recognizing and addressing attachment wounds.
• Practical approaches to self-regulation and reparenting for healing attachment issues.
• Expanding the concept of attachment beyond romantic relationships to include friendships and career dynamics.
• The role of emotional bonds in developing a secure sense of self and fostering personal growth.
• Techniques for cultivating secure attachments and enhancing emotional connections.

In this insightful episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher, and writer, known for her compassionate and direct approach to transforming relationships. Under the mentorship of Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Jillian has dedicated 20 years to teaching others how to revolutionize their relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves.

Together, they explore the crucial elements of respect, trust, and safety in relationships, and the evolving nature of our preferences and priorities as we grow. Jillian shares her wisdom on the art of effective communication, the importance of setting boundaries, and the skill of active listening. They also dive into the often-overlooked potential of breakups as catalysts for personal growth and even touch on the nuances of meeting a partner's parents for the first time.

Listen in to uncover the work and growth necessary for healthy relationships and the vital role of feeling seen and understood by our partners. Whether you're navigating the complexities of a current relationship, healing from a breakup, or simply seeking to deepen your understanding of relational dynamics, this conversation is a treasure trove of insights.

Topics We Break Down

• Trust, safety, and respect as the foundations of a healthy relationship.
• How our relationship priorities shift as we evolve and grow.
• Why boundaries are an essential part of any relationship.
• The consistent awareness and communication that relationships require.
• Discerning between tension, texture, turbulence, and trouble in your relationship.
• Growing together versus growing apart.
• Why you should never fall in love with potential.
• Tenets of thriving relationships: tips for communicating better.
• How even a catastrophic breakup can be an opportunity for transformation.
• Listener Q&A: advice for redefining the spark, meeting the parents, and more!
• What might really be going on when it feels like you can’t get over your ex.

Today, Dr. Scott welcomes Grammy-nominated artist, best-selling author, and visionary speaker, Justin Michael Williams for a fascinating conversation about how we, as a community, can harness the emotional impact of music and mindfulness to not just envision, but actively create a world brimming with possibility and devoid of division.

Together, they explore the intricate dance between individual change and collective evolution, shedding light on the role of community and the unifying power of music in the journey towards transformation. Justin challenges us to question the permanence of racism and introduces the concept of "othering" alongside the eight pillars of possibility, offering a fresh perspective on diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts that have fallen short.

Listen in as we tune into the music of transformation, community, and the endless possibilities that await when we dare to listen deeply and act boldly.

Topics We Break Down

• Harnessing Music as a Catalyst for Healing and Growth.
• The Crucial Role of Community in Personal and Societal Transformation.
• Personal Journeys of Transformation Through Melody and Rhythm.
• The Deep Emotional Resonance of Music and Its Healing Power.
• Amplifying Change Through Collective Musical Experiences.
• Envisioning and Working Towards a World Free of Racism.
• Reimagining Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Efforts for Genuine Change.
• Advancing Change by Calling People Forward, Not Out.
• Unpacking the Practice and Benefits of Mindfulness in Transformation.
• Integrating Mindfulness into Everyday Life for Balance and Fulfillment.

Today, Dr. Scott is joined by the inspiring Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned expert in the fields of relationships, self-worth, and emotional resilience. Dr. Berman shares her personal and professional insights into the transformative power of self-love and the pivotal role it plays in shaping our connections with others. Together, they explore the delicate interplay between pain and pleasure, and the unique concept of quantum sex, where energy and emotion intertwine.

Listen in to uncover the profound impact of self-love not only in our personal lives but in the way we relate to the world around us.

Topics We Break Down

• How to love (and be loved) better by learning to love yourself first.
• Gifts and shadows: why we’re attracted to people who trigger us.
• Fundamental differences between self-esteem and self-worth.
• What it means to give energy through us, not from us.
• Why we have to be fully in our bodies to release pain and experience true joy.
• Grief as a “powerful, impossibly beautiful portal of transformation.”
• Defining quantum sex and our relentless pursuit of intensity.
• Why intertwining energy and emotions is so hot!

Dr. Scott’s guest on the podcast today is Elissa Goodman, a true warrior in the world of holistic health and nutrition. Diagnosed with cancer at 32, and having endured the loss of her husband to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, Elissa's journey is not just one of survival, but of profound transformation.

Together, they’ll explore Elissa's passionate advocacy for cleansing diets and the power of plant-based nutrition. Elissa’s belief in the mind's capacity to foster healing underscores the conversation, emphasizing the critical role of trauma and emotional well-being in overall health. Elissa's insights on the importance of listening to our body's instincts and finding personalized pathways to wellness promise to be both enlightening and empowering.

Join us as we unravel Elissa's insights into the healing journey, from facing life's toughest battles to discovering the power of self-love and the role of nutrition in holistic healing. 

Topics We Break Down

• Navigating the superfood crazes and trends.
• Honoring who you are and practicing self-love.
• Talk therapy versus plant-based nutrition.
• The connection between touch and our immune systems.
• Accessibility hurdles of superfoods.
• Demystifying the concept of cleansing. 
• Discovering the synergy between well-being and food.
• Leveraging mindset as a part of the healing process.

In this episode, Dr. Scott explores these questions with John Miles, author of Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. John brings unique insights from his experiences in the Navy and Fortune 50 companies, highlighting the power of long-term vision and the importance of being adaptable. Together, they’ll explore the power of mattering, the impact of loneliness, and the influence of relationships and environments on our sense of self.

Tune in as they connect the dots between passion, purpose, and play to discover how we can all be a little more “passion struck”. 

Topics We Break Down

• How different experiences and exposure enrich our perspective. 
• What play can teach us about ourselves and others in our adult life. 
• How tapping into different sides of your true self supports honing your craft.
• The power of passion combined with perseverance. 
• Allowing your uniqueness to make its impact on the world. 
• Discerning between misalignment and a lack of resilience. 
• The true equation behind the path to happiness. 
• What it might look like to embody other people with the sense that they matter. 
• Finding self-compassion along the journey.

In this episode, Dr. Scott dives into the heart of the intricate maze of adult bonding with two extraordinary guides; Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan. Vanessa is a licensed holistic psychologist and bestselling author, using her expertise and depth in Buddhist and yoga psychology to pave the path toward authentic connections. Dené Logan is a marriage and relationship therapist, yoga instructor, and author of the upcoming book, Sovereign Love, where she offers her psychologically informed perspective on reclaiming our true selves in relationships. 

Together, they’ll explore the polyamorous nature of friendships, things that make the cake of friendship so rich, and the importance of emotional intimacy. They’ll navigate the nuances of building community in post-COVID times, the art of making and nurturing friendships in new cities, and the pivotal role of shared experiences and memory keepers in solidifying bonds. We'll challenge societal norms that often overshadow friendships, highlighting the gendered nature of close relationships and the empowering concept of Relationship Anarchy.

If you’re ready to redefine friendship and explore its transformative power in your own life - it’s time to make friends with this week’s guests. 

Topics We Break Down: 

• Building a community in a pandemic of loneliness.
• Adopting a polyamorous approach to friendship. 
• Defining reciprocity and intimacy in the context of friendship. 
• Creating relationship anarchy and deconstructing the heart of what you want and need.
• Reframing trauma-bonding and drama-bonding.
• Generational ideas of resilience and emotional processing.
• Social penetration theory in action through a game of intrusive questions.

Today, Dr. Scott welcomes Karine Bell, speaker, somatic educator and co-dreamer at The Rooted Global Village, clown-in-training, and somatic abolitionist to transform how we relate to trauma and oppression. With a foundation in community, liberation, indigenous, and eco-psychologies, she takes a decolonial approach to life ― meeting each moment with curiosity, wonder, and a trust in laughter for healing. Together, they explore the importance of embracing healthy shame as a tool for reflection, the impact of toxic shame and the power of embracing our quirky sides for profound personal and collective shifts.   

For a deep dive into the world of clowning, shame, and learning to laugh at ourselves, be sure to tune in for this expansive and compassionate conversation to find out if the serious can be seriously fun!

Topics We Break Down: 

• Learning to embrace the weirdness of being human.
• Accepting the irrationality inherent to the healing process.
• Cultivating spaces where we can truly show up as we are.
• Recognizing shame as a physiological human experience.
• Understanding the key differences between toxic and healthy shame.
• How modern society fails to create conditions for children and parents to thrive.
• The terror of letting go of beliefs about ourselves and expectations for our lives.
• Finding moments of levity and laughter to help us meet difficult challenges.

In today’s episode, Dr. Scott welcomes Dr. Thomas Curran, a world-leading expert on perfectionism, author of The Perfectionism Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough, and associate professor of Psychological and Behavioural Science at the London School of Economics. Dr. Thomas has spent many years studying the cloak of perfectionism and how it negatively impacts our lives. In this episode, he breaks it all down for us, including how to understand the relationship of perfectionism to mental health, the social component of perfectionism, and the paradoxical way it blocks our path to genuine success and joy.

So, whether you've been caught in the snare of self-loathing for not meeting those sky-high goals or you’re simply seeking permission to embrace your beautifully imperfect self, this conversation is for you.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why perfectionism is and what it isn’t.
• The cost of perfectionism and why it isn’t worth it. 
• Why the perfectionist is also the procrastinator. 
• How to find joy in things you don’t do well.
• Vulnerability and how it brings us closer. 

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Neeta Bhushan, a former cosmetic dentist turned resilience expert and advocate for human connection. Author of the critically acclaimed book, That Sucked, Now What? and Founder of the Global Grit Institute and the Dharma Coaching Institute. Her work has received international recognition, being featured in Forbes, LA Weekly and more, inspiring countless individuals to turn their struggles into opportunities for growth. 

Prepare to be inspired, challenged, and transformed as we unravel the art of turning life’s most sucky moments into stepping stones for growth and self-realization. 

Topics We Break Down:

• What the fuck resilience actually is. 
• What it truly means to be able to sit in discomfort and ‘the stuck’. 
• Navigating over-achievement and resilience.
• Why it’s so dangerous to carry unprocessed emotions and how they manifest in our health. 
• What is behind the tendency to attract people who trigger what we refuse to face. 
• Returning to your own divinity through spiritual and somatic therapies.
• Learning to ask for support and finding value beyond caretaking and hyperfunction. 

This episode’s guest isn’t just a comedian; she’s a force of nature in the world of entertainment and advocacy. In today’s episode, Dr. Scott sits down with Margaret Cho, a  five-time Emmy nominee and a trailblazer for underrepresented groups who is reshaping the landscape of American comedy.

Together, they explore the curious, subversive edges of Margaret’s comedy, where she addresses the absurdity of culture, life during the pandemic, her love for TikTok and reality shows, and even her fascination with pimple popping. They’ll also dive into how she navigates Asian hate through her humor, her journey of healing from addiction, and the transformative power of choice and finding agency on the road to belonging. 

Are you ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even squirm a little? Join us for a rollercoaster ride of insight and revelations with the incomparable Margaret Cho!

Topics We Break Down:

• The role of humor in healing. 
• Navigating social boundaries in comedic storytelling.
• Approaching life as an evolving work of art.
• How subversive humor develops from the realm of curiosity.
• Using storytelling as a tool to process personal and generational trauma.
• Overcoming addiction through medication, physical activity, and animals.
• Finding agency on the road to belonging.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons is joined by Debra Silverman, Astrologer and Physiotherapist, to unpack the cosmic influences in our daily lives. Debra, author of The Missing Element and the host of The I Don't Believe In Astrology Podcast, views astrology not as a fortune-telling gimmick but as a compass for self-discovery, a playful guide, and a pathway to healing.

In our conversation, we explore the unexpected corridors of astrology and its profound insights into understanding the human condition. We unpack the symbiosis of astrology and psychology, the intricacies of our internal "complaining machine,” the limitations of the human operating system, activating the observer within us, the healing power of dance, and much more. 

Topics We Break Down:

• The intersection between astrology and psychology.
• Examples that demonstrate the value of astrology.
• Patterns of the human operating system.
• Turning on the observer within us.
• Insights into the healing concept of “embodiment.”
• Reconnecting with nature to overcome depression.

Enter Max Lugavere, a dynamo in the realms of health and science journalism. With bestsellers like "Genius Foods'' under his belt and the potent voice of The Genius Life podcast, Max doesn't just preach health; he bridges the gaps between diet, brain longevity, and delectable culinary choices. Through his lens, the connection between the foods we devour and the vitality of our minds isn't just a notion—it's a symphony, a dance, a harmonious interplay.

In this episode, Dr. Scott speaks with Max about health in the modern age, delving into evidence-based fitness strategies, the controversy surrounding carbs, and the golden triad of being “Happy, Healthy, Horny” to discover what truly propels us towards a state of well-being.

Join us as we disentangle the confusing webs of health advice, champion evidence over anecdotes and prioritize authenticity over trends. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Defining ‘health’ in all its facets and what it truly means to be healthy. 
• Developing resilience through fitness and health.
• The interconnected nature of metabolic, heart, and neurological health.
• What is behind overconsumption, underconsumption, and food quality.
• Returning to our own bodies for information about our health.

In this episode, Dr. Scott sits down with TikTok sensation Rod Thill to delve into the fascinating and untold stories behind social media fame, where the lines between online personas and real-life emotions blur. As you'll discover, Rod isn't your average content creator; he is a bold storyteller who blends millennial pop culture, humor, and raw honesty to talk about mental health and the realities of corporate life. 

From the intricate challenges of curating content for a diverse audience to forecasting the trends we hope to witness, we delve into Rod's experiences as a social media influencer. Tune in to reveal layers of fame, creativity, and the unspoken realities of navigating the digital limelight with Rod Thill.

Topics We Break Down:

• The essential act of setting boundaries for our well-being.
• Tackling social discourse as a content creator.
• Protecting your peace through self-prioritization
• Navigating the public’s expectations as an influencer
• How millennials are navigating the challenges of being the lost generation.

In this episode, Dr. Scott dives into these questions with Rachel Lindsay – an author, attorney, and a trailblazer in the realm of media. Known for breaking new ground as the first Black lead on 'The Bachelorette,' Rachel's journey extends far beyond the television screen. Her story is one of navigating fame, forging a path of self-discovery, and using her platform to inspire and lead with purpose.

Together, they’ll explore the challenges of living life in the public eye, the pressures and joys of being a role model, and Rachel’s evolution from reality TV star to a powerful voice in literature and advocacy. Prepare for a heartfelt and revealing discussion, as we celebrate the strength it takes to be a 'gently used human' in a world captivated by celebrity.

Topics We Break Down:

• Keeping up with the pressure of fame
• The power of purposefulness.
• Letting go of caution. 
• Reality TV and the psychological impact of living a performative life. 
• How being on a public platform impacts mental and emotional health. 

In this episode, Dr. Scott welcomes Vincent Genna, a celebrated Psychic Therapist and Spiritual Teacher, renowned for his unique approach in connecting the spiritual with the everyday. Author of "The Secret That’s Holding You Back," Vincent doesn't just use his psychic gifts to explore the unseen; he also addresses the real-life obstacles that keep us trapped in unfulfilling patterns.

Join us as we navigate the fascinating realms of intuition, examining the interplay of vibrations and the balance between earthly desires and spiritual insights. We'll delve into the art of deep listening and learn to honor our inner voice amid the hustle and bustle of our daily lives.

Are you ready to embark on this journey of discovery and enlightenment? Tune in, as we uncover the mysteries of intuition and its powerful role in our lives.

Topics We Break Down:

• The science of intuition
• The brain vs the mind and why we need both
• Moving beyond self-protection mechanisms
• Trusting ourselves
• Discerning the difference between human ambition and intuitive response.

Today on the podcast, Dr. Scott sits down with Amy Chan, an expert in healing from heartbreak and a leader in combining scientific and spiritual approaches for healthy dating. Amy, the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of "Breakup Bootcamp - The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," dives into the messy yet enlightening world of relationships and breakups.

Together, Dr. Scott and Amy unpack the complexities of romantic connections, discussing why we're drawn to certain people, the realness of vulnerability, and how to turn the end of a relationship into a new beginning. They explore how early life patterns affect our love lives and share tips for bouncing back stronger after a breakup.

Tune in for an engaging talk with Amy Chan, where you'll find insights on navigating through heartbreak, embracing the dating scene again, and rewiring your heart for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Topics We Break Down:

• The value of a kind breakup.
• Key tenants of good communication.
• The complexity of chemistry and attraction.
• Attachment theory and repatterning your attachment stance.
• How we heal within relationships.
• The dangers of putting people on a pedestal.
• Strategies for better dating.
• The power of authentic vulnerability.

On the podcast today, Dr. Scott welcomes Grace Harry (The Joy Strategist) for a fascinating conversation about rediscovering and fostering joy in our lives. Beyond simply enjoying happiness when it arrives, Grace advocates for infusing joy into the very essence of our daily lives, recognizing its potential to drive profound, systemic change.

In their conversation, Dr. Scott and Grace delve into the art of self-kindness, often reserved for others and the significance of being the architects of our own joy. They explore the deep impact of staying present in our happiness quest and offer insights into shifting from being 'triggered' to living in a state of contentment. This uplifting episode promises to guide listeners through the nuances of maintaining joyfulness, staying present, and fostering authentic connections in life. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Your heart’s job as the joy strategist of your own life.
• How we can take the development of personal joy into creating change in our world. 
• What it truly means to be “triggered” and where the responsibility lies.
• Dangers of losing yourself in order to make others happy instead of prioritizing personal joy. 
• Creating containers of intimacy to facilitate joy. 
• Recognizing over-performance in our own lives. 

Today, Dr. Scott welcomes Carrie Barber, a visionary in the beauty world who has reshaped beauty standards with her transformative approach. From art director for leading brands to trailblazer with MAKE Beauty, her career is a mosaic of innovation and a conscious beauty ethos. This chat delves into planet-friendly beauty, the evolving landscape of clean cosmetics, and the innovative integration of lab-engineered natural ingredients.

Together, they’ll explore the dynamic world of digital-age trends and the deep connections between beauty, mental health, and self-acceptance. Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration into beauty's powerful potential, uncovering how it can be a catalyst for positive change, enriching not only our personal lives but also making a broader impact on the world.

Topics We Break Down:

• How biotechnology is changing the beauty industry
• Qualities of a successful entrepreneur
• The intersection between mental health and beauty
• How growth mindset helps with business (and life) challenges
• Why trust and sustainability are essential for cosmetics brands

Today's guest is Dr. Sara Kuburic, also known as The Millennial Therapist, an existential psychotherapist whose life narrative is as compelling and intricate as the topics she explores. Dr. Sara brings to the table not just her extensive professional expertise, including her new book, "It's on Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life," but also a rich tapestry of personal experiences. Having lived through wars and navigated complex relationships, she offers a unique perspective on the existential threads that weave through our lives.

In this thought-provoking conversation, Dr. Scott and Dr. Sara delve into the tension between living life authentically and merely performing it. They discuss the balancing act of taking responsibility while finding freedom and examine the interplay of truth, resistance, and the enigma of self-discovery. This episode invites listeners to reflect on authenticity: What does it truly mean? Whose authenticity are we considering? Is it a process of peeling back layers of self-preservation, or is it an unrestrained, bold revelation through the streets of existence?

If you've ever pondered the nature of authenticity and how to embrace it, this episode promises to offer insightful perspectives and guide you on your path to self-understanding.

Topics We Break Down:

• The cost of working against yourself. 
• What authenticity is not. 
• Grasping the suffering that accompanies being human.
• People’s difficult relationship with the truth. 
• Why safety is required for truth and turning inward.

In today's enlightening episode, Dr. Scott delves into these questions with Dan Buettner, the National Geographic Fellow and New York Times bestselling author who uncovered the world's Blue Zones—regions where people live extraordinarily long and healthful lives. With the zest of an explorer and the insight of a researcher, Dan pulls back the curtain on how environment, lifestyle, and community weave together to create the widespread vitality found in these remarkable areas.

Together, they'll decode the lifestyle of super-agers and share the surprising ingredients for longevity that exist, not in some magic supplement, but in the collective recipes of purpose, faith, and connectivity. Dan will share his experiences and learnings from the Blue Zones and illuminate how we can cultivate these principles within our own neighborhoods, transforming them into our very own hubs of health and happiness. Whether you're seeking to add more candles to your birthday cake or simply aiming to enhance the quality of your days, this episode is an essential listen.

Topics We Break Down:

• The role of the environment in willpower.
• How happiness affects longevity. 
• The power of an intentional social circle. 
• Simple changes that make a huge difference in wellbeing. 
• Why purpose matters.

Vanessa is the author of the best-selling relationship book It's Not Me, It's You, which offers readers profound insights into the essential elements of enduring and healthy relationships. Vanessa is renowned for her holistic approach which incorporates her years of experience and a deep understanding of Buddhist and psychological principles. She is also the co-host of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, which explores the depths of human experience, combining psychology of the soul, yogic psychology, and mindfulness to help others live authentically and connect with their inner selves. 

Throughout their conversation, Vanessa skillfully peels back the narratives we write to protect ourselves, revealing those glistening “golden shadows” - the strengths and virtues we often overlook. Together, they navigate the intricate landscape of codependency, those delicate relationship dynamics that can leave us feeling adrift. They unearth the reasons behind our relentless quest for acceptance in others, the ebb, and flow of relationships, the hurdles that often obstruct genuine opportunities for validation, and much more. If you are seeking embodiment and the path to self-acceptance, then this episode is for you.

Topics We Break Down:

• Societal values and how they influence self-acceptance.
• Weaponizing positive attributes.
• Consequences of seeking outside validation.
• Codependence and interdependence in relationships.
• Friction as a path to well-being and self-acceptance.
• Therapeutic role-playing techniques.

In this delicious episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Jenna Werner — a registered dietitian, nutritionist, and owner Happy, Strong, Healthy. Explore the age-old love affair with the perfect body, how it's changed over time, and its influence on our meal choices. From the pull of trending diets to the empowering message of anti-diet culture, from the secrets of the "blue zones" where folks live the longest to the exciting world of intuitive eating — this episode promises a tasty journey for both your mind and soul.

Together, they tap into the whispers of our digital age — the double-edged sword of social media, where hyper-connectivity often masks isolation and where extremes scream loudest in the echo chambers. Unearth the magic (and mystery) buried in nutrition; you’ll find your own delectable 'foodgasm.' Whether you're seeking a sprinkle of wisdom, a dash of laughter, or a full course of introspection, this episode is a feast not to be missed.

Topics We Break Down

• Weight stigma, skinny privilege, and the nuances of external validation.
• The indispensable role of community in a holistic healthy lifestyle.
• Empowering personal expertise in understanding our own bodies.
• The fluctuating landscape of nutrition: from diet fads to food pyramids.
• Balancing physical health with mental well-being.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons invites you to a hilarious, insightful, and playful fireside chat with astrologer Colin Bedell. Together, they navigate the connections between astrology and psychological archetypes, unraveling the kaleidoscope of human nature. With his infectious charm, Colin paints a vibrant picture of how the cosmos might serve as a guide without dictating our path. But they also navigate the trickier waters, asking: At what point might we risk giving up our power, letting stars or spiritual guides dictate our identity and decisions? And when might these very forces help us rediscover our authentic selves?

This isn't just any chat about the cosmos; it's a lively dance between skepticism and belief, science and wonder. So whether you're in the mood for some hearty laughter or a starlit introspection, this episode promises a delightful, flirtatious romp through the universe.

Topics We Cover

• Moving beyond single truths and prophecies.
• The role of archetypes in decoding human behavior patterns.
• The intersections of astrology and psychology
• Universal truths, confirmation bias, and the Barnum effect.
• The healing potential of astrology in relationships

In this special episode, we're unlocking the vault to share a previously recorded conversation from our archives that's going to shed some light on why many of us might feel trapped in a loop of drama. In it, Dr. Scott delves into his transformative book, Addicted to Drama, joined by the insightful Dr. Nicole LePera. Together, they get to the heart of why some of us might feel drawn to chaotic situations, highlighting the role of past experiences and hidden emotional triggers.

It isn't just about identifying the problem; it's about finding ways out. They'll discuss the habits that keep us stuck in drama and offer insights on breaking free. If you've ever felt like you or someone you know is always at the center of some emotional storm, don't miss this enlightening discussion. It might just be the guide you need to find calm amidst the chaos.

Topics We Break Down

• Recognizing drama addiction.
• Drama's impact on intimacy.
• Phases in healing and the role of forgiveness.
• Stress in the attention economy.
• The phenomenon of stress contagion.
• Supporting drama-addicted loved ones.

Have you ever caught yourself blushing while watching nature documentaries, questioning if you should be this intrigued by the risqué rhythms of the wild? Us too -you're in good company!

Are you ready to uncover the saucy secrets of the animal kingdom? Well, saddle up because in this episode, Dr. Scott joins forces with Perrin Ireland, an enthralling animal storyteller, to navigate the intoxicating spectrum of beastly bedroom behaviors. Dive deep into post-coital cuddles that overstay their welcome, and the jaw-dropping phenomenon of lovers turning into... well, lunch. This isn't just about critter kinks; it's a journey replete with scientific revelations and the challenge of reframing age-old paradigms. Peek behind the natural curtains as Perrin explores the dynamic dance of animal communication through their... intimate escapades. Prepare for a rollercoaster ride that uncovers the acrobatics of animal amour, the provocative peculiarity of nature, and, let's just say, some boundary-pushing behaviors. Heads up, brave listeners: we touch upon some intense themes, like non-consensual engagements in the animal world, which might ruffle some feathers. Dive in for a riveting exploration with nature's spicy storyteller, Perrin Ireland!

Topics We Break Down:

• Animal hierarchy and communication.
• The media's influence on scientific narratives.
• Unmasking biases within science.
• The spectrum of animal intimacy: foreplay to aerial feats.
• Challenging traditional Darwinian views.
• Drama queens of the animal kingdom.

So, have you ever outsourced your own inner drive to motivational speakers, self help books, podcasts? Do their lofty promises and electrifying speeches still leave you stuck in the same rut, idling in place? Could it be that we're missing something vital about motivation?

In this episode, Dr. Scott hosts the remarkable Craig Harper, a respected educator, coach, TV presenter, author, and business owner. Prepare to explore the intriguing topics of meta-cognition, motivation, transcending mediocrity, and learning to waltz with failure and setbacks. Along the way, Craig shares deeply personal stories of transformation, the silver lining of crises, and why solitude deserves a seat at the head of the table.

If you’re ready to rethink the motivational mantras you’ve been chanting, question the value of some of the thought leaders you’ve been following and nudge yourself out of your comfort zone to create your own motivation, this episode is for you.  

Topics we break down:

• The power of mediocracy
• The link between embodiment and confidence
• The dangers of externalizing self-worth
• Controversial cliches of motivational speaking
• How to hear your own voice

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Shirley Impellizzeri, an acclaimed clinical psychologist, and the brain behind 'Why Can't I Change?' and 'Scared Speechless’ to uncover the relationship between neuroscience, attachment theory, and primal emotional regulation. Using her own life as a case study, Shirley unflinchingly explores how childhood ghosts whisper into the ears of our adult selves, influencing our stress responses, attachment styles, and even body functions.

Topics we break down:

• Physical manifestations of neglect
• Primal instincts, survival skills and compartmentalization
• The power of facial expressions
• Rewiring the brain to unwind ‘resting bitch face’
• Allowing space for emotions in challenging times

Expect a roller-coaster of reminiscing as Nikki nudges Scott to spill the beans on personal and often blush-inducing stories. Told with the unfettered candor only siblings can muster, this special birthday episode offers a sneak peek into the world of our favorite host.

This episode unravels the fascinating rhythm of regulation, busts the myth of 'one size fits all' safety, and offers alternative perspectives for those who find the term 'safety' unsettling. Be ready to meet the 'Godmother of Glimmers' as we venture through danger, safety cues, and the influence of negativity bias on our ability to discern safety. With Deb's guidance, prepare to untangle the knots of hypervigilance and regulation, and comprehend why safety is often mistaken for familiarity. 

Topics We Break Down:

• The language of the nervous system.
• Qualifying safety.
• Overcoming negativity bias by recognizing safety cues.
• Regulation vs. hypervigilance
• Why safety and survival can’t coexist.

On this week’s episode, Dr. Scott tackles the complex topic of authenticity with herbalist, writer, entrepreneur and podcast host, Olivia Amitrano (better known to her followers as Organic Olivia) to distinguish between the real deal and the polished-for-show version that Olivia calls 'authenticity porn.' Together, they'll tackle the tough questions like, is it even feasible to share our 'real selves' in a space where our sense of self is influenced by others' views? And how does our deep-rooted need to be seen and acknowledged turn into us becoming our social media persona? Scott and Olivia will also unpack how trauma impacts who you are in the world, how you present yourself to the world and how the world, in turn, gives you feedback about who you should be.  

Join us for this week’s candid episode as we navigate the tricky path of authenticity in a world where filters are the norm, not the exception.

Topics we break down:

• Deciphering our gut-brain connections
• Impact of stress and trauma on gut health
• The role of community in healing
• Understanding our social avatars or “cardboard cutouts”
• Social camouflage and self-curation
• Adam Grant versus Brené Brown: what even is authenticity?!

Connect with Olivia

Olivia Amitrano, or as most of us know her, Organic Olivia, has a massive fan base of over half a million followers for good reason. She is an herbalist, writer, entrepreneur, and podcast host with a mission to bridge the gap between Western medicine's gifts and traditional herbalism's wisdom. Her journey began when she experienced various debilitating health issues that no Western medical doctor could alleviate. As a young child, she knew that something was not quite right, but she couldn't put her finger on it - she sensed that her symptoms were interconnected at their root. For example, her anxiety and skin would flare up at the same time as her gastrointestinal pain. She decided to explore Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and consulted an herbalist. Her life transformed from that day forward.

Olivia's life's goal is to provide education, insights, and herbal blends that support individuals in achieving optimal health. She develops tinctures, elixirs, capsules, and teas that allow people worldwide to access medicinal herbs that enhance everything from sleep and digestion to energy and mood. Organic Olivia's mission is to genuinely change people's lives through plant remedies.

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In this uplifting episode, Colleen and Jason introduce us to a refreshing perspective on wellness - one that celebrates joy and discards the austere regimes that have become social media’s darlings. As they walk us through the eight pillars of joyous well-being from their groundbreaking new book, prepare for a wellness revolution that urges us to relish in real food, move our bodies in harmony with our joy, and foster soul-nourishing connections. Get ready to discover a dynamic, adaptable, and gentle approach to ‘longevity for the 99%.’

Topics we break down:

• Urgency culture
• The importance of individual, good-enough wellness.
• The eight pillars of joyful well-being.
• Social media and the attention economy.
• Cultivating meaningful connections.

Connect with Colleen & Jason 

Jason Wachob is the founder and co-CEO of MindBodyGreen, the leading independent media brand dedicated to well-being with 15 million monthly unique visitors. He is also the host of the popular mindbodygreen podcast and the bestselling author of Wellth: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Resume. He has been featured in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company, Business Insider, BoF, and Vogue, and has a BA in history from Columbia University, where he played varsity basketball for four years. He lives with his wife, co-founder, and co-ceo, Colleen, in Miami with their daughters, Ellie and Grace. In his spare time he loves walking to get hot black coffee. You can find him on Instagram at @jasonwachob.

Colleen Wachob is the co-founder and co-CEO at MindBodyGreen, the leading independent media brand dedicated to well-being with 15 million monthly unique visitors. She lives in Miami, Florida, with her husband, mindbodygreen founder and co-CEO Jason Wachob and their two girls, Ellie and Grace. She graduated from Stanford University with degrees in international relations and Spanish. She spent ten years working at Fortune 500 companies including Gap, Walmart, and Amazon before devoting her life’s work to mindbodygreen. Colleen has been a speaker at Fortune 500 companies and numerous trade conferences on well-being trends. Her new passion that brings her joy is pickleball. You can find her on Instagram at @colleenwachob

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Website | Facebook | Instagram | TikTok | Youtube | Have you ever wondered if there’s more to wellness than shivery ice baths, grueling exercise schedules, or the savory crunch of air-fried kale? Have you ever questioned whether a strong sense of community and deep connections might be more crucial to longevity than a diet or workout regimen? In this week’s lively discussion, Dr. Scott Lyons is joined by Colleen and Jason Wachob, the visionary co-founders of MindBodyGreen as they answer important questions such as: is wellness a cult, and what is the price of admission?  Together, they’ll redefine the concept of well-being - untangling it from the shackles of intensity and restriction and imbuing it with delight, purpose, and ease.

In this uplifting episode, Colleen and Jason introduce us to a refreshing perspective on wellness - one that celebrates joy and discards the austere regimes that have become social media’s darlings. As they walk us through the eight pillars of joyous well-being from their groundbreaking new book, prepare for a wellness revolution that urges us to relish in real food, move our bodies in harmony with our joy, and foster soul-nourishing connections. Get ready to discover a dynamic, adaptable, and gentle approach to ‘longevity for the 99%.’

Topics we break down:

• Urgency culture
• The importance of individual, good-enough wellness.
• The eight pillars of joyful well-being.
• Social media and the attention economy.
• Cultivating meaningful connections.

Jason Wachob is the founder and co-CEO of MindBodyGreen, the leading independent media brand dedicated to well-being with 15 million monthly unique visitors. He is also the host of the popular mindbodygreen podcast and the bestselling author of Wellth: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Resume. He has been featured in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company, Business Insider, BoF, and Vogue, and has a BA in history from Columbia University, where he played varsity basketball for four years. He lives with his wife, co-founder, and co-ceo, Colleen, in Miami with their daughters, Ellie and Grace. In his spare time he loves walking to get hot black coffee. You can find him on Instagram at @jasonwachob.

Colleen Wachob is the co-founder and co-CEO at MindBodyGreen, the leading independent media brand dedicated to well-being with 15 million monthly unique visitors. She lives in Miami, Florida, with her husband, mindbodygreen founder and co-CEO Jason Wachob and their two girls, Ellie and Grace. She graduated from Stanford University with degrees in international relations and Spanish. She spent ten years working at Fortune 500 companies including Gap, Walmart, and Amazon before devoting her life’s work to mindbodygreen. Colleen has been a speaker at Fortune 500 companies and numerous trade conferences on well-being trends. Her new passion that brings her joy is pickleball. You can find her on Instagram at @colleenwachob

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Resources

The Joy of Well-Being: A Practical Guide to a Happy, Healthy, and Long Life by Colleen and Jason Wachob

‘How a Sudden Pulmonary Embolism Forced Me to Reckon with My Health’

‘What Makes Online Content Viral?’

‘Association Between Ultraprocessed Food Consumption and Risk of Mortality Among Middle-Aged Adults in France’

Drawdown: The Most Comprehensive Plan Ever Proposed to Reverse Global Warming by Paul Hawken

BYU Study on Loneliness as a Risk Factor for Mortality

Growing Young: How Friendship, Optimism, and Kindness Can Help You Live to 100 by Marta Zaraska

‘The Roseto Effect: A 50-Year Comparison of Mortality Rates’

Dr. Lisa Miller

 Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others by Dr. Scott Lyons

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Oof, It's wild out there in the complex realm of relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves more interested in the chase than the embrace or confusing intensity for intimacy- all the while declaring that we want and need love. If red flags feel like home and you find yourself or people you know in the merry-go-round of relationship pains, welcome to the world of trauma tingles... Let's talk about it.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo about red flags in dating and why trauma tingles feel irresistible. If an ordinary life feels risky and red flags cause a buzz of excitement, don't worry—this is a normal part of being human and an adaptive response to trauma. Through witnessing patterns unfolding and learning how to form safer boundaries for ourselves and others, we can heal to the point that those trauma tingles become boring and unsexy- red flag couture no more!

Topics we break down:

• How trauma tingles relate to your attachment style.
• Why dating apps can be dehumanizing.
• Communicating your needs.
• Reconfiguring relationships.
• Maintaining boundaries.
• Choosing yourself.

Kai Cheng's work focuses on the intersection of social justice, pleasure activism, and transformative approaches to healing conflict.

Connect with Kai Cheng

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Nkem is the founder of Lumos Transforms and the creator of the Resilience Toolkit.

Connect with Nkem

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The Resilience Toolkit

Connect with Dr. Scott

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Addicted to Drama

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Save 10% on The Embody Lab with offer code]]>What are trauma tingles, you ask? Oh, you know them. They're those wild, exciting, tantalizing, and misdirecting feelings that magnetize you into the same shitty relational dynamics you've been dealing with your whole life.

Oof, It's wild out there in the complex realm of relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves more interested in the chase than the embrace or confusing intensity for intimacy- all the while declaring that we want and need love. If red flags feel like home and you find yourself or people you know in the merry-go-round of relationship pains, welcome to the world of trauma tingles... Let's talk about it.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo about red flags in dating and why trauma tingles feel irresistible. If an ordinary life feels risky and red flags cause a buzz of excitement, don't worry—this is a normal part of being human and an adaptive response to trauma. Through witnessing patterns unfolding and learning how to form safer boundaries for ourselves and others, we can heal to the point that those trauma tingles become boring and unsexy- red flag couture no more!

Topics we break down:

• How trauma tingles relate to your attachment style.
• Why dating apps can be dehumanizing.
• Communicating your needs.
• Reconfiguring relationships.
• Maintaining boundaries.
• Choosing yourself.

Kai Cheng's work focuses on the intersection of social justice, pleasure activism, and transformative approaches to healing conflict.

Connect with Kai Cheng

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Nkem is the founder of Lumos Transforms and the creator of the Resilience Toolkit.

Connect with Nkem

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

The Resilience Toolkit

Connect with Dr. Scott

Website | Instagram | TikTok

Addicted to Drama

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From passion to pain, glory to defeat, comedy to drama to trauma, we’ve all been through it. This show unpacks what you need to keep you thriving on the roller coaster of being human.

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