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3 Things You Can Do to Conquer Seasonal Depression

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 12 Jan 2024 12:43:07 -0600

When you think of seasonal depression, the holiday decorations may not come to mind. But in today's episode, I talk about my own struggle with holiday clutter and seasonal depression. I offer a few ways to jumpstart clearing that fog - from our minds and from our spaces.

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Transforming Lives: Coaching and Clutter

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 06:27:42 -0600

Coach Kim is Here!!
Becky introduced Kim Arrington, who shared her experience of helping women over 40 transform their lives through coaching and her recently launched program, Half-life Weight Loss. Both emphasized the importance of practical and achievable steps in personal transformation. They discussed experiences with replacing emotional eating with other vices, and the issue of accumulating unnecessary clutter. Kim shared her journey of losing weight and how it led to increased spending and introduced the Dcr method from her course, which encourages self-discovery beyond societal influences. The conversation suggested that excessive shopping could be a sign of needing a new vice. Kim and Becky discussed strategies to overcome procrastination and manage overwhelming thoughts. Kim suggested making small changes, like going for a walk or getting a glass of water, to break up the monotony of larger tasks. Becky admitted that even while engaging in an enjoyable activity like crafting, she was still plagued with thoughts of unfinished tasks. Kim suggested practicing mindfulness, allowing thoughts to pass without getting caught up in them, as a tool to manage this. They concluded the conversation with an emphasis on recognizing the need for personal time and self-care. Kim and Becky discussed the importance of mindfulness and being present, particularly during mundane tasks like washing dishes. They suggested that these moments could be extended and used to cultivate a sense of peace and calm. They also acknowledged the role of shame in avoiding tasks and how this can lead to a cycle of avoidance and further accumulation of clutter. Becky shared her personal struggle with this issue and highlighted how shopping can sometimes be a way of seeking a dopamine hit to counteract feelings of shame. Kim and Becky discussed strategies to overcome their impulses to shop and make other unhelpful habits. Kim shared how she has managed to reduce her Amazon purchases and suggested that creating new habits, such as using items already owned, can provide a similar dopamine hit to shopping. They also talked about the importance of small, daily changes, like putting the remote back in its place, to alter patterns of behavior. They agreed that acceptance and willingness to change are crucial for personal growth. Kim and Becky discussed the importance of small, consistent actions and habits, such as always putting things back in their place.

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Only One Thing is Irreplaceable.

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 25 Aug 2023 11:27:00 -0600

Becky, The Hoss Lady discussed her perspective on the fear of letting go of possessions, emphasizing that everything is replaceable except for oneself and the people around them. She encouraged listeners to evaluate what is truly important and to not hold onto items out of fear. Becky acknowledged that the process might be difficult and cause mental paralysis, but it's crucial to clear clutter, especially things that are not used or loved. She also shared her personal experience with letting go of old belongings when she was pregnant.

Becky shared a personal anecdote about her experience of letting go of her old dance costumes to make space for her new baby. She stated that despite initially regretting the decision, she eventually realized that her daughter and younger daughter were happy with what they had and that the memories she has of them are more important than the costumes she used to have. Becky emphasized the importance of purging possessions for a happier life and encouraged others to not hold onto everything.

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The MUST HAVES for Dorm Room Organization

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 18 Aug 2023 17:29:53 -0600

Becky provided an update on her carpal tunnel surgery, expressing improved healing and movement.

Becky provided an update on her carpal tunnel surgery, mentioning that she's experiencing some improvement in sensation and healing. She also expressed her disdain for August in Alabama, citing it as a difficult month for her. Finally, she ended the meeting by expressing hope for others' well-being.

She advised utilizing wall space and using shower caddies for organized storage. She further discussed the importance of efficient use of horizontal space and shared some space-saving tips, including using small picture frames and a large trash can.

Becky shared her experiences and tips about organizing a dorm room. She emphasized the importance of using command hooks due to the thick walls in most dorms which don't allow nails or tape. Becky also suggested getting a variety of hooks and Velcro for maximum organization options. She further planned to share 10 must-haves and some good tips for maintaining an organized dorm room.

Becky discussed the importance of utilizing wall space in dorm rooms for limited horizontal space. She suggested using command hooks for hanging items, including curtains and laundry bags and recommended a shower caddy for organized storage in shared bathrooms. She also advised on space-saving organizational solutions such as close hanger extensions and shoe organizers for storing towels, underwear, and cleaning supplies. For the bedroom, she suggested a bedside hanging bed organizer, long phone charging cords, a lazy Susan for makeup organization, a small first aid box, and desktop shelves or monitor stands with drawers. Becky shared her top 10 organization tips for college students, including the importance of a hamper with wheels, collapsible ottomans, and clothes hangers.

Becky shared some space-saving tips for small rooms, emphasizing the importance of efficient use of horizontal space, especially near the refrigerator. She suggested using small picture frames and storage solutions on top of the refrigerator. She also advised using a large kitchen-sized trash can to avoid frequent trips downstairs, emphasizing the need to rinse out waste to prevent bad odors. Lastly, she recommended keeping a small plastic tub for dirty dishes until they can be washed in the sink, suggesting a daily or bi-daily routine for this task.

Becky shared her insights on preparing for college as a first-time college parent or student. She stressed the importance of ensuring students have basic necessities and a degree of independence while still offering support and advice. She suggested sending care packages as a way to show support. Becky also mentioned the ongoing challenge of reducing paper clutter at home and encouraged people to sign up for their newsletter. She ended the meeting by reminding listeners to put things away instead of putting them down.

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When to Ask For Help

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 11 Aug 2023 08:22:14 -0600

Sometimes it's hard to ask for help. Sometimes we don't even think we need help. But having someone with you, to just be there or to guide you is a game changer.

So, today I just talk a bit about how asking for help is ok and necessary.

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Are You Strong Enough to Declutter the Heavy Stuff?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 04 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -0600

Y'all... I am not one to get in a gym very easily. I love to dance and move and walk and enjoy nature, but after talking with Ashley Lowe, a fitness and strength coach, I think I am going to start focusing on some muscle building.

After all, what I do is very physical. I pick up and haul around tons of stuff doing decluttering. But I may not always be able to do so. So, why not get really clear on strengthening my body to keep going as long as possible.

I think you'll love Ashley. So smart and so compassionate. Here's a little bit about her. I hope you check her out!

As she approached 40, Ashley embarked on a transformative journey, seeking change in her health, relationships, and overall happiness. Frustrated with body insecurities, she joined a weightloss program, shedding 25 pounds and discovering mindful nutrition. Realizing she was built for more than a smaller pair of pants, she then hired a strength training coach, which led to a complete physique transformation. Now Ashley is the coach she wished she had during her journey. She empowers women with smart, effective training programs to build muscle, embrace their bodies and feel extraordinary.

Ashley has created a Free Guide to Home Gym Essentials for women who want to makeover their catch-all room into a hardworking home gym.

https://ashleyboydenlowe.com/home-gym-checklist/

If you’d like to learn more about Ashley’s online training programs, she offers a free 30-minute Flab to Fab Framework Session. Schedule yours here: https://ashleyboydenlowe.com/contact/

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DISCLAIMER: Ashley Lowe is not a doctor or registered dietitian. The contents of this email and any attached or linked document should not be taken as medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any health problem - nor is it intended to replace the advice of a physician. Always consult your physician or qualified health professional on any matters regarding your health.

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Are You a Secret Squirrel Hider, Too?

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 28 Jul 2023 11:45:48 -0600

It's hard to admit sometimes when we need help. Most of us were raised in a way where it was frowned upon to ask for help... like we weren't strong or smart enough to figure things out. But the issue with that is we HAVE to ask for help because sometimes other people just have better ideas or think differently - which is what we need. We need new perspectives and to see the world and our situations in a new light.

This week, I deep dive with a very special client. This is someone I helped earlier this month. I spent a week getting her main level of her house "move-out" ready. She knew she needed to get it done and was going in circles. So, when I went to help her, I noticed she just simply needed a new system. The house wasn't an issue, but her systems of storing items was not working for her.

And she was so thankful and so glad she asked for my help, she told me I need to do a podcast episode on how and when it's OK to ask for help.

Such a fun guest and such an amazing transformation to her home.

Who is this mystery guest??? Well, you'll just have to listen and find out.

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When You Get to that Second Act of Life - an conversation with Laurie Adams

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 07 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0600

Laurie Adams and I talk today about how women can find their fullest potential even later in life. Laurie is an amazing coach and her support and experience helped me tremendously in the past.

I think the thing I love most about the women she helps is that there is a whole generation of women who just get to a certain age and can't even define who they are. But Laurie helps these women find their full potential and it's such a beautiful thing.

If you are at a point in life where you just need help finding your potential and you're in your 50's or older, consider reaching out to Laurie. I'm sure you'll love our conversation, but working with her is a whole other experience.

www.laurieadamscoaching.com

"This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher”

Yeah, I had a bit of a moment this morning. Wanted to share even though the audio sucks bad.

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 30 Jun 2023 17:00:00 -0600

Guys, I just had a moment and wanted to share. We are all human. We all get in our own way sometimes. And the only thing bad that comes out of this is if we don't pick ourselves up and keep going.

I am sorry for the quality of the audio. I was not about to wait and find a quiet spot to get these thoughts out of my head in order to share.

Corinne Crabtree and The Hoss Lady Talk Organization

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 16 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0600

Corinne Crabtree of the NoBS Weightloss Program joined me today for a fantastic conversation on how having a Home Organizer has helped her and her family, how having an organized kitchen can help in your weight loss journey, and how taking the process in slow, easy steps will ultimately help you BECOME organized and not just organized your clutter over and over again.

Corinne Crabtree is a Master Certified Weight and Life Coach with a mission to help every woman break generational curses in order to improve their personal health and wealth. Corinne lost 100lbs 15 years ago and ever since, she has dedicated her life to teaching women how to do the same.

Corinne Crabtree is one of the leading voices in the weightloss and business industry. She’s the host of the wildly successful podcast, Losing 100lbs with Corinne, which has been downloaded over 50 million times in 160 countries. Over 1 Million women have taken her free weightloss course and Corinne now serves over 14,000 paid members in the No BS Weightloss Program.

After being a featured expert at The Life Coach School and having her business rank #1052 in the Inc. the 5000 Fastest Growing Businesses of 2022, Corinne founded the No BS Business Women’s Membership. The program provides online entrepreneurs with simple frameworks, tools, and focus they need to take action and build the business of their dreams. In addition, Corinne offers advanced weightloss life coach training for coaches, dietitians and medical professionals who want to improve their client's weightloss outcomes.

You can catch Corinne on Facebook and Instagram talking shit about the diet and online marketing industry. Her greatest passion is helping women get rid of their old shitty thoughts by using self-love to never quit on themselves again.

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Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/

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Instagram - @Corinne_Crabtree

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Instagram - @NoBSBusinessWomen

Listen and Subscribe to the Losing 100 Pounds Podcast

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Link to Corinne’s Free Weightloss Course & Website

www.nobsfreecourse.com

Link to Corinne’s Advanced Weightloss Coaching Certification

http://theweightlossuniversity.com/

Link to Corinne’s No BS Business Women Membership

https://www.nobsbusinesswomen.com/

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TRANSCRIPT:

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Hello. Welcome to the Hoss Lady Podcast, where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, everyone. It's Becky, the Hoss lady. I am coming to you from Michigan today as we are doing a summer family tour. We've been to Illinois and Michigan, and next is Kentucky, then Tennessee and back to Alabama. Super fun stuff planned, but that is not what I'm here to talk to you about today. Today, I have a very special guest that I think everyone will thoroughly enjoy. Corinne Crabtree is the owner, founder, and CEO of the Nobs Weight Loss Program, host of the Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne podcast, and owner and founder of the Nobs businesswomen membership. Oh, yeah. And she just bought a restaurant in her hometown where she and her husband will have their date nights, and I don't know how she does it all, but I found Corinne a lot of help.

Corinne Crabtree: Yeah.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: So I found Corinne over four years ago. We both lived in the Nashville area. We both have a son on the spectrum. And then I heard her drop the F bomb, and I knew I had found my people, and I have been in her membership ever since. So I have to say, it has changed my life, and I don't think anyone would argue that she is the most down to earth, no bullshit mentor and life coach that I needed to get my life together. And in her program, I lost over 70 pounds and started my business, two things I never would have believed possible until she taught me how to get out of my way and create the life I wanted. So without further ado, welcome, Corinne. Thank you so very much for being here today. I would love for you to tell my audience a little bit more about yourself and what you love to talk about.

Corinne Crabtree: Well, Lord, I don't know if there's anything left. You pretty much told all the things. I like to go to Vegas a lot. Well, like you said, I lost 100 pounds about 15 years ago, and I really wanted to help other people, especially women, just get out of their own way. For me, it wasn't so much that I didn't need another plan, for sure, and I didn't need somebody telling me what to eat and all that kind of stuff. What I really needed was to learn how to take smaller steps to be there for myself, to figure out the kind of life I really wanted to have and to just not talk like an ******* to myself. I was so mean to myself for so many years about my body and about my weight, and it wasn't until I started learning how to encourage myself, take things slower, just not be so impatient with me, I was just never going to lose my weight. And like you said, I started a business. And then because that business became successful, I started another business. To teach people how to start their own businesses. And then we did buy our own sports bar because my husband and I were terrified they were going to close it. We live in a small town. The only place we could go have a glass of wine and a beer. We were like, we have to buy this. We have to save it.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: But save date night.

Corinne Crabtree: Save our date night because we're committed to living here. We love Nolanville, Tennessee, but we collectively had over 30 years of restaurant experience between the two of us from back in the day. And so when people hear it, they're like, oh, my God, you bought a restaurant. It's like, look, we know what we're doing. We know how to work the back end. People constantly are asking me, how much do you have to work at the restaurant? I didn't buy that restaurant to get a serving job. We hired Good Health, just like I do in both of my companies. I do not work all the time. I plan my day. I follow my plan because I think it's interesting that this is an organization podcast, because one of the things that I learned a long time ago was to value being organized with my time.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yes.

Corinne Crabtree: In order to get everything that I get done in a day. It's not because I do a lot. It's because I'm very organized and very selective about what I will put on my calendar, what I won't put on my calendar. I stay away from bullshit if I catch myself putting things on my calendar because I'm people pleasing stuff. That's something I need to solve for myself. Being organized with my time has helped me be able to just do more. So we spend 2 hours a week at that restaurant for work purposes, and we meet with the key management. We have a kitchen manager, we have a general manager, and we have a bar manager. We meet with them for 2 hours a week. We help them make decisions, give them a list of things to work on for the next week. And we're like, See you next week, because we don't want to be bothered when we're here on date night. Restaurant.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Got to keep that separate. I love that.

Corinne Crabtree: Exactly.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah. So speaking of organization and kitchens and things like that, of course the restaurant has its own little character. But for a weight loss conversation when I'm helping people with their kitchens and you know, how I teach, like a decluttering process is, you know, I recommend clearing out the space as best you can, putting anything back into the pantry without making sure it actually has a plant, that you're going to eat it or whatever. And what are your thoughts on when someone's starting a new diet or starting a new program or something like that? What are your thoughts about doing, like, a major pantry purge at the beginning of that new diet plan.

Corinne Crabtree: I don't think there's anything wrong with doing a pantry purge. It's how we've been taught to do one, is the real problem. And I don't mean like baskets and Bins talking about most people. They do a pantry purge because it's like, here's all the foods I no longer can eat, and if I have them in my house, I'm just going to eat my face off. So I'm getting rid of everything. And then we **** off our family because they're like, hey, where's the M and Ms? Where's my chips? Where's my favorite foods?

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right?

Corinne Crabtree: Or we do it from this restrictive mindset, as if I can't be around these foods. And I get it. A lot of women feel that way, because for years, if you are around certain foods, if you have over eight, it will make sense in your brain that somehow the food is doing it to you. Food is the problem. Food is never the problem. I have yet to meet anyone who said, girl, I was good all day, sitting on my couch and suddenly the Twinkies came running out of the pantry and they just hopped in my mouth. Can I break twinkies legs? It's never the problem. It's always what we miss out on is no one's teaching us that if I'm eating food at night, food is not the problem. If I'm eating food at night, it's probably because I have a problem in my life that I'm not willing to face yet, or that it's going unrecognized. And so when I think about pantry purges, I tell people, I want you to organize your pantry in such a way that's going to make your weight loss life easier for you. So if you go in and it's easier to get a hold of better choices, and you have moved stuff that you use in emotional moments to where it's harder to get to them, it's not that you've solved your problem, it's that you've given yourself some space. That in the moment when it's time to make a decision, when you're stressed out and you're tired and you feel like the demands of the day are on you. If you're having to, say, climb a ladder to get your tips, then you have time as you're climbing the ladder, to think, do I really want to do this right? This do I want to be like, what's really going on for me? Because I teach, we have to address the root causes of why we eat. We can't just keep throwing away Oreos. Oreos aren't doing anything to us.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right?

Corinne Crabtree: But we do have to throw away unrealistic standards, not setting boundaries. We have to throw away people pleasing. Like, if we're going to purge something, we got to purge that **** out of our life so that at night, if we want to have an Oreo or two, we can like a normal person, we're not eating them to cope with our life.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yes, you're eating it on purpose?

Corinne Crabtree: Yes, with enjoyment. No one eats Oreos, a sleeve of Oreos after a bad day because they're ****** at their boss and their kids and will tell me, those Oreos were so delicious. Usually they hoover them down. They don't remember the taste. And when they're done, they feel like **** about themselves. And what they've done is they were like, well, I don't want to think horrible things about my children, so I'll eat a bunch of Oreos, so now I can just think horrible things about me.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Oh, wow.

Corinne Crabtree: Yeah, we substitute that. We don't even understand how sometimes our eating is so much more deep. I can't tell you how many times when Logan was little, when he was like under a year old, I will be honest, he was on the spectrum. I did not know it, but he was a difficult baby. He cried all the ******* time. There was like, God helped me if the siren went off because he was like lit for an hour, screaming, crying. And I hated my life. Yeah, I thought I had ruined my life having a child. And that is so hard to deal with. Not so much that I felt bad, that I felt bad about my life. I thought something was wrong with me because I wasn't loving every minute of it. I thought something was wrong with me because I didn't like my child. And I would eat at night so that I could not like me because that felt normal. Not liking your child felt like I was going to hell.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah.

Corinne Crabtree: We have to think about when it comes to pantry purges. Every diet is going to tell you to clean out your pantry. I would even tell you, I would love for you to organize your pantry. I would love for you to make space for healthier foods. I would love for you to walk in and it feel like a respite and not just like a junk drawer. I want all that for you, but not at the expense of you doing it because you tear through your closet thinking, I'm so lazy, I'm so bad, I can't have these foods around me. Because from there, pantry purges are never going to work.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: I think that you really touched on a point of you're so down on yourself and you're calling yourself lazy and you're calling yourself whatever. And when I see women who come home and their house is just piles of paper and piles of laundry and piles of this and that and this and that and they don't have that structure like you were saying, the time, organization and making sure they put a plan down of what they're going to do, when they're going to do it. And they just try and go things like willy nilly. And they sit down at the end of the day and they're looking around at all their stuff and they just want to avoid it. They want to avoid life, so they do go to things like food to buffer and get out of their own mind and to have a kitchen or a pantry, having a plan in place for all of these things in your life. You're taking out so much of that exhaustion and so much of those issues that you're no longer tempted, I guess, to go straight to the pantry and grab the first thing you see, which is usually the oreos. Right.

Corinne Crabtree: I was just going to say one of the things I think is important, and this is just me, because we are very organized here at my house, but we haven't always been that way. And truth be told, if I didn't pay you to come do it for me, there's no way in hell we'd be this organized.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah.

Corinne Crabtree: Unless I was putting it on like I was making time and space to do it. And I'm a big believer in a little bit at a time, even when you came. Like, I want all of you to think about this. If I was going to have to do it all myself, I would do it just like I tackled 100 pounds of weight loss a small change at a time.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yes.

Corinne Crabtree: This week the goal is these three drawers, and next week it's like this half of my closet. Or just the shoes.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right.

Corinne Crabtree: I love the idea of breaking it down small. Because when you're tired and you're exhausted and your house is all crapped up, it's not because something's wrong with you. You are overextended. When you're tired, the last thing you want to do is come home and organize ****.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right.

Corinne Crabtree: I mean, unless you're Becky, who loves organizing. But most of us, we love the after. We don't love the process.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right.

Corinne Crabtree: We have to plug it in in small amounts.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah.

Corinne Crabtree: So I think it's just important that people realize that it's like, figure out these small places. Because I really do think when it comes to overeating in particular, your environment can trigger you.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Absolutely.

Corinne Crabtree: That's why it's important, like with your closets, to be making sure you don't keep clothes in there that trigger you to feel bad. Anything that you can do in your environment that helps you be at peace, I would say start planning to get it done in small chunks.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah. And one of the things that I teach, like in June, for example, starting today, June 1, we're doing a monthly challenge where every single day you take 15 to 30 minutes. You don't get to go over that. And I give you a task and it doesn't matter what room you're going to do it in, but you go do that little task. Because tidy people do tiny things all day long. It's not a one and done situation. It's kind of like losing weight. You're not going to sustain a 40 pound weight loss if you did it drinking cucumber water for a week, you're going to need to make it a lifestyle. So I try and incorporate. If you do these little 1530 minutes things every day, you're not going to hate the process. And I feel like that ties into what you've taught us in no BS and the weight loss program. Because if you don't love the process, you're never going to continue and you're never going to sustain and maintain your weight loss. So I feel like so many people get the idea of a purge, either a pantry purge or a garage or anything, that it's going to be this hellacious, exhausting experience. And they feel like it has to be done in one day, and they

Merging Households Pt 2

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 09 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0600

A continuation from last week of the Merging Households...

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Transcript:

Becky: Hello. Welcome to the Haas Lady podcast, where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, everyone. It's Becky, the Haas Lady, and I am coming to you today from a cedar closet in the downstairs of a creepy old haunted mansion in somewhere in Kentucky. No, I'm not joking. I am literally in a cedar closet, the bottom floor of this crazy huge house that was built in, like, 1911, I think. And it's an airbnb, and we're surrounded by cows and fields of corn and beautiful scenery, and it's amazing, but the house is a little bit creepy. I'm not going to lie. Like, it's old, makes a lot of noises, but, man, are we having a great time. So, anyway, I am here today to bring all the tips and tricks you need when merging households, and you just have a **** ton of ****. And so, like last week, I gave you the most important step when it comes to merging households, and that, of course, was communication. So this week, I want to talk about how to make those decisions together. But first, again, I am Becky, a home organization professional, living a life of passion to help people get their homes organized. All the people, particularly the women, who struggle with just keeping up with the day to day tasks, much less trying to declutter and all that jazz. So if you found me here, welcome. And if this is your first listen, maybe run back to last week's episode to get caught up. It's not required, but you'll still get plenty out of this one. All right, so I do want to go back and highlight the things from last week. So if you are about to merge households, the most common mistake is to assume things about what other people want or what other people will be okay with. Sometimes we just jump in and start doing things the way we want to do it and give so little thought to speaking with the other humans involved. One of my biggest obstacles in my own way of doing things is to just jump in and start a project, because it is like a now or never mindset. And that all stems from my ADHD. But when I do this, I have become so aware of it now that I really see myself doing it, it's like an out of body experience, and I think, okay, whoa, this is what we've always done in the past, so let's slow down. Like, really slow down. And I see this mostly when I'm working with clients in person. So I'll get an idea, and I just want to jump in and do it immediately. But I have to take a step back. And remember, I am not the only person involved here. Other humans live here, and they need to be given a choice. Again, this is where communication is that biggest factor. So just taking out the expectations that I have for a space and getting input from the client is how those decisions are made. But what if it's a small human or a child? And again, this doesn't have to be like a newly married and blended family situation because it could also be, hey, grandma's moving in because she can't live alone anymore. And then suddenly that child is forced to give up their bedroom because grandmother needs to be on the lowest level of the house or maybe closest to the bathroom or whatever. So anytime you have a child involved, you really need to make them part of the process. And this is new to them and you need to make sure that they are on board with the changes even if you aren't able to give them a choice. But if it is a new blended family situation, you for sure want to make sure that the family is part of all the decision making. Just sit down, dinner table, ask everybody what they want, what would they like to see happen, what are their expectations, and just work through these one by one. And please don't just assume something about what a family member wants or what they might be okay with. Guys. Yes, I know I am still hammering the communication, but I can't emphasize how important it is when younger humans are involved. It's easy just to do it your way because you think you know best. You're the parent, right? You know how it's supposed to be and that's the end of it. But they are humans too, so include them. Don't assume. You always know what is right for them. Okay, rant over. Now let's get into the actual decision making process. All right, so you guys know that we have the three steps, right? We clear out a space, we commit to one function for that space and then we reset it. And just like those three steps, we're going to clear out the spaces in our home when we are actually merging households, okay? And that's basically just planning things out ahead of time, like assigning each room and space a new function. And that will help you determine how much stuff you actually need and how much stuff you don't need because it doesn't fit, right? And also it creates some ease with that transition. Very similar to how we decide if things in our closet should stay or go. We basically want to just ask ourselves a few questions, right? Number one, will I get by without owning this? And I say that and I want to share my own experience here. So I packed up a lot of my kitchen stuff from the apartment with the intention moving it to Joe's house. And I don't remember what happened, but I put it out in the garage and then I left it there. And now I didn't forget about them. I knew they were there. I missed them, I needed them, but I didn't have them but what I also didn't do is make an effort to go outside to the garage and put them in my car and carry them 2 hours away. So you could argue that I definitely could get by without owning these things, since I did get by without owning them for several months. However, when I finally did get that box of kitchen stuff moved to the house and unpacked, I had this new sense of connection with the kitchen. Because up until now, I had been using only Joe's Gadgets and things. And while they work and they're perfect and fine, I don't think I realized how much I wanted my own things that I was used to in order to cook meals. And I've actually been more inspired to cook now that my things are in the kitchen. Now, I didn't get rid of Joe's things. I merged my things with his. And so my point is this when you're merging households and something new enters the house or you're trying to decide what to keep and what you really don't need, just ask yourself if you could live without it. And if the answer is a truthful, yes, go ahead and get rid of it. So do we need two of these things? Do we need this thing? Do we not need this thing? Truthfully. That's how you answer these questions, right? Another question to ask is, do we already have one? And if the answer is yes, you just need to decide why you need more than one. Or you need to decide, do you even have room for more than one? A great example of this is a vacuum. For some reason, people get really weird about their vacuums. I mean, I get it. It's an expense and usually not a cheap one. You have gotten very intimate with this appliance. You have gotten in there with the scissors and the knife and clean out the hair from the brushes at the bottom. Don't tell me you've not done this, because I know you have. If you haven't, you probably need to look at the bottom of your vacuum. Anyway. You've had it. You've used it 100 times. You love this vacuum. So your kid comes home from college and they bring home their vacuum. Or maybe your parents had a vacuum. That super bougie. You have your own vacuum. Your husband has his vacuum. You have one. Maybe your roommate has one. So you have all these vacuums. What are you going to do now? You could keep one downstairs and one upstairs, which we have done before because who hates lugging that thing all the way up the stairs if you don't have room for it? Like in that upstairs downstairs situation, you just need to get rid of one. Sell it, donate it, whatever. And the best way to pick that is to pick the one that sucks the most. Like in a vacuum kind of suck, right? Sorry, bad joke. Moving on another question to ask. If I keep this, will the house feel cluttered? Is it just too much? Now, that is one thing that you can use to determine what stays and what needs to go very easily. You wouldn't keep two living room sets in one living room, right? So it's probably safe to say you don't need two blenders or two lawn mowers. Sometimes people get super anxious about letting go of their things because we can keep it in case the other one breaks. And that's fine if you have the storage for everything. And by storage, I mean like a ginormous garage on your property, not renting a unit down the road for $100 a month. Because after a year of storing your lawn mower in this storage unit, you could have used that money to buy a new mower when the one you keep breaks. So it's not a valid excuse, right? And speaking of storage, how much room do you have in your house? How many people will you have to accommodate and will rooms have to change? What are the needs of all the family members? Do you plan on moving to another location where all family members will have their own space, or will people have to share? These are all things to consider. And seriously, unless the people in your home are too young or too old to make any of these decisions, they really need to be included. Also, when you are merging households, you're going to need to agree on the vibe of the new combined spaces, right? This will help you decide what to keep and what to purge. In other words, if you have a super frilly flowery bedroom suit and your new husband is the least flowery frilly person in the world, maybe you can change the vibe to something you both agree on. It's funny, I was actually asking all my family members what were their thoughts and things about the merging of households this past month. And I asked my daughter, because she moved into her own apartment, right? I asked her what she would do if she was dating someone and they moved in with her into her apartment where she lives on her own. Now, what would she do if the dude was adamant about changing vibes from her super bright and colorful decor to something more manly and she says, make him pay more. Thought that was hilarious. But anyway, another thing about merging households is the moving parts. Now, last week I gave you guys the scoop on all the ways we had moving parts. We moved people from all over the place into new places, combined things, needed new things, and the whole bit. And if you want to go back and listen to all that, that would be great, but I'm not going to repeat it, all right? Now, I, up to this point, have talked about all the big things like the furniture and the lawn mowers and stuff. But what about some of the little things that you don't think about? Like the bathroom drawers, maybe your closet spaces? More than likely these areas that you are going to have to start sharing now. Right? So like my stepdaughter has had the hall bathroom all to herself for years and now she is sharing with her new stepsister, my daughter, right? So we asked if she would be willing to give up one of her bathroom drawers so that my daughter could have one. Y'all, not only did she clear out the drawer, but she also cleared out an entire cabinet to give to my daughter so that she could have her own space below the sink as well, which I loved about that. And it's like the closet situation with me and my Joe like I've talked about this before I think, but he has all his stuff on the top bar because I could literally never reach anything on the top bar unless I had a ladder. So obviously I took the bottom bar and we made that work. But what do you do with all of this stuff during this moving process? Right, so see like the bathroom example and the closet example, we cleared out space, we assigned that space a new function and we reset the space. Did Joe have to get rid of some clothes in order to make room for my clothes? Yeah, a few, but he was happy to because he knew he had too much stuff to begin with. Did I have to downsize my wardrobe in order for it to fit in this new closet? Yes. Did the girls have to make decisions about how to store their bathroom things? Yes. And during all of this we were able to do a lot of serious decluttering. We got rid of our own duplicates, we got rid of decorations that no longer fit the new vibe, we picked the best vacuum, we donated some extra towels, we sold the extra furniture and TVs, we created a space in our garage for our yard sale stuff. And as a new family we are going to hold a massive yard sale because whatever money we get from this yard sale will also be used for our family beach vacation this summer. So there's some incentive there for everyone to get rid of some of their things. And I know things will continue to come up for us, like holiday decorations and y'all know me and my love for holiday decorations. But now we have two families worth of decorations and a lot of that stuff can be super sentimental, so we need to make it as cohesive as possible. Like one thing I know is going to come up is that my kids were given a new ornament every year from their grandmother until she passed away and then I took over that role and I've been giving them a new ornament each year and it usually ties in with something that they're interested in from that year. But I know that my new stepdaughters do not have that tradition, but they will now. And I am sure things will not be used, and I will donate other things as we go along. But I will cross that bridge when the weather changes and I finally get to get out my happy stuff, and it will be a constant work in progress. Now, I want to go back real quick and say that if you are working through a process of merging households where family members no longer able to communicate their wishes, remember, you do not have to keep everything or even anything. You can work through things with your own needs in mind. Like when mom passed away and we had all of her things to go through, if it wasn't something we needed or would use, we sold it. Because remember, the person who passed away bought the things in their home with their own use in mind. They didn't buy these things thinking that one day you would take them on and use them. So to recap, just communicate. Talk things out. Get all the input. Treat all family members with value and respect. Keep your spaces in mind when deciding how much to keep your vibe in mind when deciding what to keep. Don't keep stuff just because it costs money. Don't keep duplicates just in case things don't work out. Don't keep more stuff than your house will hold. Be honest. Be willing to compromise. Be intentional. And again, I cannot say it enough. Communicate. All right, so that's it for now, guys. We are doing something really neat in the month of June. It's a 30 day challenge where you get to reset any room in your house. We are taking things super duper slow because I want us to build the muscle of a daily task that takes less than 30 minutes and sometimes as little as three minutes. Because this will teach us a new habit of doing a daily tidy task so that we can learn that being tidy does not have to take a lot of time out of our day. So join me on Facebook in my group. It's called Clutterfree and 23 with the Haas lady. You can follow me. I am Becky. B Hyman H-E-I-M-A-N thehaslady or. Follow me on Instagram at TheLady visit my website@www.thehouslady.com. And if you want to join our monthly challenge newsletter, it's www.thehouslady.com. Get started, sign up for my newsletter, and then by the end of the month, after we've done our 30 day challenge, you're going to have a functional and clutter free room again. And I have some big news to share. The next two episodes are a couple of interviews I have done with some amazing people in my life. Next week will be Corinne Crabtree, owner and founder and CEO of the no BS weight Loss Program and host of the losing 100 pounds with Corinne podcast, we'll be talking to me. I have been doing her home and I have been her home organizer for several months now, working with her one on one and her family and have really, really enjoyed the process. And the next week after that will be an interview I did with one of my life coaches, lori Adams, podcast host of The Fire, up at 55 with Lori podcast. Guys, if you are in that time of your life where you are about to become an empty nester or maybe you are entering a new chapter of your life, laurie brings all the fire by helping women live up to their fullest potential during their midlife years. So who said life was over when the kids leave home? Anyway, guys, that's it for today. Don't forget, tidy people do tiny things all day long. So until next time, let's get to it. Hey, guys. Thank you so much for listening to my Haas Lady podcast. My name is Becky, and I cannot wait to share more ideas with you to help you get your environment and your mind to a more organized space. If you are interested in working with me one on one, visit my website@thehostlady.com. If you enjoyed the podcast, leave me a review and share with your friends. Until next time, let's get to it.

Merging Households Pt 1

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 02 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0600

The Month of May was all about transitioning from houses to apartments to houses... lots and lots of moving parts. So, I got to learn a LOT about the importance of communication and how to talk out issues when it comes to merging households.

Also, join me in the Month of June for a daily challenge where we take one room and work on it a few minutes every day. I give you the task, and you do it. It's going to show you that we can do these things consistently and build the muscle of being a super tidy person!!

Transcript:

Becky, The Hoss Lady: You. Hello. Welcome to the Haas Lady podcast, where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, everyone. It's Becky, the Haas Lady Hoss Home organization. Simplifications specialist. I hope everyone had an amazing month of May. I took a little month off from podcasting so that I could do some crazy stuff. And I will admit my month of May was a bit chaotic. And I'll explain, because it does tie in perfectly with our topic today. But real quick, for those who are just now joining us, let me introduce myself. I am Becky, a newlywed no longer single mom of three amazing people, and now a new step mom to two more amazing people. So I quit my nine to five career in order to help people everywhere get organized and have a better quality of life. I consult with individuals and groups online. I do in person decluttering and organization services. So I have made it my goal to help people, particularly busy women, professionals, moms, empty nesters to declutter their lives by letting go of things and organizing their homes, by making intentional plans and create long lasting habits. In a nutshell, I want to help you. So I'm happy you're here today, listening, and I hope you can take from this episode at least one thing that will get you started on the path to living your best life. So welcome. So why was my month of light, why was my month of May totally chaotic? Well, it has become a major transitional period for me, my three children, my two stepchildren, my ex husband, my new husband, and everyone in between. See, I got married in March. And for those of you who haven't really followed my story, I was dating my now husband for a couple of years long distance. And by long distance, I mean a super beautiful two hour drive down a winding country road. And so, in order to get our lives less separate, we married, and I moved to a new state, and there was a lot of dispersing that needed to happen. Where would the kids go? What will we do with my apartment? What furniture will we take? How are we going to turn a three bedroom house into a four bedroom house? Whose dishes will we use? What do we do with two vacuums? All those questions, and so you have waited for this episode, and I'm glad I waited to make it, because let me tell you, I learned so much in this process, and I am so happy to share that with you today. So, without further ado, how to Merge Households, part one, because, yes, there is enough to do two whole episodes. Do you live in the Nashville, Tennessee, or Huntsville, Alabama area and would really love to have someone come in and help you get your house organized. Declutter those closets. Clean out those garages and attics. Guys, I am so excited to say that I, Becky the host Lady Am, now offering in person and virtual decluttering sessions. And you can find all the information on my website www.thehouslady.com or forward slash. Not sure which. You know what I mean, declutter. Check it out. Hope to see you soon. Okay, so real quick to clarify this merging of households does not have to mean getting married with children, that kind of scenario. This could be for empty nesters maybe whose children move back in for adult children who may have lost a parent and now they have inherited all the things. Maybe it's friends who take on a roommate or maybe even taking in a parent who now needs to be living with other people so they move in with you. And basically what it all comes down to is communication, plain and simple. You got to talk. You got to ask questions. You got to be honest. And you have to compromise. You have to be willing to bend and support other people's wishes because change is hard. It's hard for everybody. But it will be even harder if you bottle up how you truly feel and let things fester. Okay? So for some context, our situation was like this. I lived in my apartment half the time with my basically adult children half the time, and then I would live with my Joe the other half of the time while my basically adult children lived on their own or stayed with their father. So I would drive back and forth multiple times a week on that glorious two hour country road trip. And I did that for two years. It was killing me financially and mentally, but I was doing it because I knew that my son needed me to do it. My apartment was zoned for a completely different school from where his dad lived. And as long as I kept my apartment, my son could go to the school he really wanted to. And my Joe lived in a house that was in the school zone that his daughter needed to go to. And he was basically a full time dad, so he didn't have the luxury of coming back and forth and back and forth. And that was the sacrifice I was willing to make so that my kids could go to the schools they wanted to, that his daughter could go to the schools she wanted to. Anyway, we got married and my husband lived 2 hours away, right? So I could not keep up that commute and the expenses of that apartment and everything else. So I had to make the decision about leaving that apartment and what I was going to do. So it came time to do the most important thing, communicate the most important thing and the hardest thing. So I sat down with my ex husband and my son, who is 15, and we told him straightforward that he got to choose. He could choose any option he wanted and there would be no hard feelings or anger, and that there was not a wrong decision. The right decision was whatever he wanted. So we gave him three choices. He could move in with his dad, go to a completely different high school across town. He could move with me to Alabama and go to a completely different high school in a whole new town in a whole new state. Or he could stay with his dad, and his dad would look for a house in the school zone he wanted, and he could stay at the school he liked. So obviously, he chose number three. No brainer. I mean, did it hurt? Well, **** yeah. It was kind of a gut punch. I had been the sole caregiver of that young man for his whole life. But I also knew the past year was tough. And having a bedroom at his dad's, having a bedroom at the apartment, and having a bedroom at Joe's, it was the opposite of stability. And was it an easy option for his dad? No. His dad had to put the house up for sale and then deal with all the drama that came with that. So what about my apartment and my two adult daughters and my roommate who lived there? Well, the roommate had already voiced her option to move up north after she lost her job. So my daughters, well, they were ready for a change as well. But again, we had to sit down and have that conversation in person, like real people. What do you want to do? What can you afford? What do you want to take with you? What can we sell and donate? And all the details were starting to sort themselves out as my oldest decided to move into her own apartment so she could finish college. And my middle daughter decided to move with me to Alabama and move in with me and Joe for a fresh start. So let's do some math. One apartment equals my junk, my two daughter's junk, my roommate's junk, and some of my son's junk. Right? One house that I used to live in, all of my ex husband's junk, some of which was still things I was hoping to get after the divorce but couldn't take with me to my apartment, but whatever. And some of the kids drunk and some of his roommates junk. Yes, there's another person in this equation. One new house in Alabama equals all of my Joe's stuff, some of his ex wife stuff, because he bought the house from his ex wife. And most of my stuff that I had been slowly moving in to merge with his stuff over the past few months. One new apartment that my oldest daughter got to live in when we leave the apartment. One new house my ex is buying for his stuff, my son's stuff and his roommate stuff. One house up north that my roommate is moving into whilst my niece is moving out of and into her own house with her mom. Oh, my God. Guys, I don't math. That's what I do. What I do. But all of this was happening in the month of May, so you can see why I've been kind of out of sorts all this to say, the number of moving parts in this life transition is enough to make even the most even killed person a little bonkers. So communication was the most essential role in this whole thing. I constantly asked questions about what everybody wanted, what they liked about the situation, what they didn't like about the situation, what were they comfortable with, what were they not comfortable with, and so forth. And since I was moving into Joe's home, which used to be his ex wives, at first I felt weird about changing anything because I didn't want to insert myself like that. After all, this was the home that Joe's daughter grew up in. But then we just had to have those conversations. So when I'm sitting up the kitchen, I asked them what changes I could make and what changes were off limits. And they were kind enough to point out the few things that they wanted to remain the same, and then the rest was kind of fair game. And Joe already had all his furniture already, so I didn't have to move much or bring much with me. So I did ask about bringing a couple of pieces that I knew I wanted to keep, like my mom's dresser, my grandmother's rocking chair and sewing table and things like that. And he was cool with it. So I asked him about his knife set. I was like, do you want to keep your knife set? Like, do you love your knife set? And he was basically, I don't really have an opinion about my knife set, so I took that as, hey, I can bring my knife set instead of use his. However, when I brought mine in, I realized I actually liked his better. So I'm putting mine in the yard sale. And that's just kind of how it was. I was a little anxious to ask him about things because I didn't want to remove his items and replace them with mine. I wanted to make sure that he was still represented in his house and that the things that he bought that were important to him were still there. And in my mind, he was going to go crazy angry over the knives or get offended that I wanted to ask him about the knives. Obviously, he doesn't get angry about stuff like this. So I was, in my mind, creating a really stupid story. And then when I asked him, and he's like, I don't have an opinion about the knives, it was like, okay, so I'm going to use my knives. But then his were better. Blah, blah, blah. You get the idea. So when I first moved in, joe had a lot of nerdy decorations around the house. So I asked him if we could make one room in the house, the nerd room, and move everything into that office. And I think at first he was hesitant, but once he saw how I had everything displayed, he really liked it. Plus, as a compromise, I bought him a set of Star Wars paintings that actually looked like a mountain scene until you look closely and see that there's ships and stuff in the background, which is hilarious. And those I put in the living room because they're the perfect balance between the artsy that I like and the nerdy that he likes. That was our compromise. So those are two examples of don't be scared to ask because you're imagining they're going to react completely different than they will. And two, it's okay to compromise. My point is this talk about it. You may be super attached to an appliance or gadget or decoration and so is the person you're talking about to merging households with. If you have room to keep both, keep both. If not, make the decision to talk it out. What stuff are we going to use? What are we going to do with the others? What are we going to do with the duplicates? You're not going to be able to assume anything. If you're willing to take the chance to assume someone is okay with you throwing out their coffee table so that you can bring in your coffee table, then you should also be willing to let them throw out something of yours without being asked as well. So a few things to really consider when sitting down to have these conversations. You're going to be scared. You're going to feel anxious or worried about hurting their feelings or you're worried and scared that they will not like your ideas or not like your stuff and only want to keep theirs. Remember, these are stories in your head. None of this is true because it hasn't happened. You're creating this scenario in your mind, so just talk about it. You won't know if you hurt their feelings or if they get upset until you talk about it. And I guarantee you most of the time it's not even a problem or issue and you're going to have to make compromises. Listen to the other person. Put yourself in their shoes. If you can't compromise and get rid of your Twilight painting of team Jacob and team Edward with you in the middle that's hanging over the couch, then do not get upset when they hang their Bud Light neon sign right beside it. It's going to be a crazy vibe. But you know what? If you can't compromise, you got to live with those choices. But really, if you can't compromise, this is when you really need to dig deep into what's going on in the actual situation. Are you being stubborn? Are you being petty? Do you feel like you need to keep things just because you paid good money for it. Do you feel like you might be afraid of getting rid of something? Because what if this living situation doesn't work out and you have to start over and you have no belongings to your name anymore? These are all very good questions and the best way to answer them is to just answer them on paper. I love to journal, I love to get things out of my head and onto paper. So this is the best time that you can literally just sit down and communicate with your own inner voice? Why are you having a hard time sharing space in the kitchen with your roommate? Why are you worried about the future and your belongings? What's the worst thing that could happen? And how do you really see yourself coming out of it? Because if you're worried that this situation won't last and you won't have all of your stuff that you once had because you gave it up in order to move in and merge households, you have to remind yourself that there was actually a time when you didn't even own these things and somehow you did manage to acquire them anyway, right? So, yeah, I didn't even get to the good stuff about how to actually decide what to keep and what to store and what to do and all the duplicate things you're going to have to do when you merge households because that is what's going to happen next week. And I just wanted to make sure you understood that the most important thing you have to do before you make any decisions is to talk things through. Talk with the people involved. Journal about your own hangups and your own concerns. Talk to your inner voice, write about what could be the worst possible solution and then give yourself room to create better solutions because nothing is as bad as we make it out sometimes. And don't be afraid to talk to those that are involved. If you don't speak up because you have issues, you get to either get over it and think nothing more about it or you can talk about it and come up with a better solution. Remember, no one can read minds, not even Team Edward on that painting in your living room. No, seriously, don't ever assume an answer. Just ask and work it out. The more you ask questions about those trivial things that you're getting yourself all worked up about, like, which vacuum are we going to use? The easier it will be to talk about the big issues in your life. This is just the practice, guys. This is the little stuff. Don't make it into a big stuff kind of ordeal. So that's it for now. Next week, come back and let's talk about the actual how to make those decisions together. Because now that you've talked it out, now we can start taking action. So have a great week and don't forget, we don't put things down. We put things away. So let's get to it. Hey, guys. Thank you so much for listening to my Host Lady podcast. My name is Becky, and I cannot wait to share more ideas with you to help you get your environment and your mind to a more organized space. If you are interested in working with me one on one, visit my website@thehostlady.com. If you enjoyed the podcast, leave me a review and share with your friends. Until next time, let's get to it.

One Tiny Habit that Led to Success

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 28 Apr 2023 03:00:00 -0600

Becky: You. Hello. Welcome to the Hoss Lady podcast, where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hey friends. It's Becky, the Hoss lady. How is everybody doing today? I am sitting in my office with my puppy in my lap who is snoring extremely loud. Hopefully, you can't hear it. If you can, I apologize. Or maybe it'll give you a good laugh, I don't know. So I wanted to talk today about a very, very simple thing, and it's actually what we're going to be focusing on in the month of May for our monthly challenge. Now, if you do not get my monthly challenge newsletters, you need to go out to www.thehosslady.com getstarted , and you will get on my email list, where you will get a monthly email newsletter talking about our monthly challenges. And this month of May, we are going to be doing the bedroom. So I don't know, and I think I've shared this, but I was diagnosed with ADHD about two years ago, and I have taught myself over the years, way before I was diagnosed, that having a good system in place is what's going to get me into productivity and perform at a higher level, right? So one of the systems that I started a few years ago is the bedroom. And I know a lot of people don't make their bed. And just hear me out for a second. I just decided one day that I was somebody who would make the bed every morning. And again, this might seem a little pointless, but guys, it changed my whole life because I used to be somebody who would snooze the alarm like 13 times before rolling out of bed, like, throwing on whatever outfit was clean. I would run a brush through my hair. If I was lucky, I'd have time to get together a lunch. And if I was even more lucky, I'd have actually time to sit down and have a cup of coffee. Very rarely, though. So I was either like, flying into the parking lot of work on two wheels, or I was beating myself up halfway down the road because I actually left on time but forgot something. And that happened a lot. But I started to realize that all of these things were choices. I was making these choices. I was doing this to myself. It wasn't the world against me. It wasn't that I had too much to do. It was that I was choosing to make my life complicated. And so I didn't really see the benefit of having a morning routine back then. I just didn't see it. And I just chose not to create one. But then I started listening to a lot of, like, self help, self development, future self work, and almost everybody, all the mentors out there talk about their morning routine and how important it is. So I was like, okay, let me give it a little bit of a try. Maybe I will create a good morning routine. So I thought, okay, if they can get up at 05:00 in the morning and have all this time to do everything they need to do and have a productive and amazing day, let's try it. So, hey, I set my alarm for 05:00 A.m. Next morning. I was like, what the ****? I hit snooze. The rest was history. So, okay, first time didn't go. So maybe second time. So I tried it again. Let's just try it again. Becky again. Next morning, 05:00 comes. I'm like, this is bull ****. So I hit snooze and then just repeat, repeat, over and over. And then I realized it's not me, it's my system. I have been so used to just reaching my arm across onto my nightstand and slapping this news button on my phone that I was not giving myself a chance to break that habit. I needed a pattern interrupt. Okay, so I needed a new system. So I had an idea. All right, I am going to put my phone on the other side of the room for when the alarm goes off. I will be forced to get out of bed to turn it off. Okay? So I did that. The first day I heard that alarm, I woke up, I was kind of like, Where's my phone? In a frantic search. And I jump out of bed. I was like, oh, yeah, it's across the room. I go over to the other side of the room, I turn off the alarm, I turn around, and I look back at my bed. And for a half a second I thought, I'm going to get back in. It's so warm. It's so cozy. But then I thought, no, I'm up. I'm going to make the bed right now. All it took was that one tiny moment of standing up and looking at that bed to completely change my trajectory for the rest of my life. I said no. Not anymore. I walked over to the bed, I made that bed, and it took less than 90 seconds to just pull the covers back, straighten the pillows, and my bed was clean. And the thought of getting back into it seemed destructive, not just to the beautifully made bed, but to my goals of being a productive person. So this month in May, I want to challenge you to make your bedroom your focus. And I'm not saying you have to wake up at 05:00 a.m. Or you have to have a morning routine. Nothing like that. What I want you to do is find a new habit somehow related to your bedroom, be it pick up your laundry off the floor every day, hang up your clothes every day, make your bed every day, hang up your jacket and your bags, clean out one drawer a night, whatever it is. Let's find one little thing that we can create a habit for in the entire month of May. Other suggestions? Are you could put a box in the corner. And every day this month, pull out one thing from your bedroom that you want to donate. I think a lot of people put off their bedroom till last. Like, if you're doing a home remodel or if you've moved into a new home, you go and you set up everybody else's rooms first or you decorate everyone else's rooms first and you leave your bedroom for last, because that's like the room nobody goes in. That's your room. Nobody goes in there. But just because your room is private, that's no reason to leave it off the list of spaces that you need to take care of. In fact, I would argue the bedroom is the one space in your whole house that you should be concerned above all. Because remember, guys, our bedrooms are the first thing we see every morning and the last thing we see every night. Do you want to wake up in chaos or do you want to wake up to productivity? Calm a clean slate, a let's do it attitude. These are the things that we need to talk about. So focus on one little bitty thing that you can do for the entire month of May. Share your journey with us on Facebook, clutter-free in 23 with the Hoss Lady is the name of the group if you want to get on my newsletter. Again. It's thehouslady.com get started. And that's it, guys. I will leave this short and sweet for today, especially because I'm very sure you can still hear my dog Snoring and bless him. All right, you guys have an amazing, amazing day. I will be back next week. We will be talking about how we are merging households. What? Yes. All right, guys, don't forget, we don't put things down, we put things away. So let's get to it. Hey, guys, thank you so much for listening to my Host Lady podcast. My name is Becky, and I cannot wait to share more ideas with you to help you get your environment and your mind to a more organized space. If you are interested in working with me one on one, visit my website@thehostlady.com. If you enjoyed the podcast, leave me a review and share with your friends. Until next time, let's get to it.

Have it YOUR Way

Becky, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 21 Apr 2023 07:25:41 -0600

If you want it done, but want it done YOUR way... you need to listen to this one.

The website to order the Total Home Reset Audio Course mentioned in this episode is www.thehosslady.com/declutter

Here is the transcript for today's episode:

Becky: It. Hello. Welcome to the Haas Lady podcast where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, my amazing Haas listeners. It's Becky, the Haas lady. I am so happy today. It's a beautiful spring day and you're probably going to hear some nature sounds as I am sitting here with my door open with the frogs and the ducks and the birds and the pond and the beautiful spring day. I am living a life that I always wanted. I have the freedom to go places and do things on my own schedule and helping people every single day. It's just a great day and I just wanted to share that with you. So if you're new to the podcast, let me introduce myself. I am Becky, the Haas lady, which is home organization simplification specialist. And really to simplify that even more, I'm basically just saying that I am a Home Organization specialist. So it's my passion to help women get their environment cleaned up so that they can create systems of organization that are sustainable. So here we are. Thank you for being here. I would love for you to leave a review and share this podcast with your friends and family. I know even the most productive people in life that still need a little help with organization. So this is for everyone. Okay, so today I wanted to talk about something that came up in a text exchange with one of my clients. She's an avid listener and a dear friend. She recently ordered my audio course called The Total Home Reset and has been listening to the first module about decluttering and organizing the kitchen. So this message was during the kitchen lessons and she sends me a picture of her husband who is not helping her. And now to disclose, she loves this man dearly and she was obviously teasing when she sent this, but it was a picture of him sitting in a chair and it said something like, this is how he helps me in the kitchen. Obviously not helping her in the kitchen. Now, to be fair, they are moving in the next few weeks and there is a lot that needs to be done. And sometimes she feels like most of it falls on her. So what was my response? Well, I could have consoled her and said things like, oh, girlfriend, let's rise up against the man, let's take him down or whatever. But no, I simply said, well good, now you get to do it your way. She laughed and was like, well, good point. I do like my way better. So here's the deal, guys. You can either have help and be content with the way they help, or you can have it done your way, but you can't have both. How many times have you asked for help? Then the person helping does it wrong. So you complain and you fuss. Now, how is that person supposed to ever want to help you again. And I have heard and do not completely disagree with the concept that sometimes people purposefully help out with minimal effort in order to not be asked again. But we are not here to deep dive into why people do this. Because if I had the answer to that, I'd probably be making millions of dollars a day coaching struggling couples. But as it is, I don't know that answer. But what I do know is that it doesn't matter because you can't control what other people do or think or how they behave. So to put your energy into trying to figure it all out, it's not only a waste of time, but it's such a waste of mind power. The day I realized this was the day I found a completely new level of peace. And from that day forward, I could have chosen to be constantly disappointed in the person I loved. Not helping me because I assumed they didn't love me. Or I could have chosen to complete the task I wanted done in a way that I wanted and done it because I loved myself. I know, I know that when I'm surrounded by clutter and junk and trash and mess, my mental health struggles.

Micro-Organizing

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 07 Apr 2023 20:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we're diving into micro-organizing, one of the key modules in the Total Home Reset Audio Course. Micro-organizing is all about taking organization to the next level by focusing on the details. It's not just about putting things in their place, it's about creating a system that makes sense for your daily life. One of the key principles of micro-organizing is to think about how you use your space and to create a system that makes it easy to find what you need when you need it.

What you are going to hear is a snippet from the actual course itself. It's just a few minutes of information that I pulled from the recording to share with you so you can hear what the audio course is like.

If you like this and want hours more, you can get the Total Home Reset Audio Course here . Don't forget the price increases once pre-ordering is over on April 10th.

Total Home Reset Q&A

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 31 Mar 2023 09:15:00 -0600

In this episode, I am live on Facebook doing a little Q&A for the peeps who are still on the fence about ordering The Total Home Reset Audio Guide.

So, if you aren't sure what this is... This is where I teach YOU to become your own Home Organizer and learn from the expert. I provide my method and walk you through all the rooms in your home.

This is everything you will get with The Total Home Reset Audio Guide with The Hoss Lady:

Complete Privacy - you get to get your home decluttered without having anyone standing over your shoulder. You don't have to share your situation with anyone unless you want to. You get to be completely in control of everything that you own without any discussion with an outside person.

Complete Freedom - you get to do the audio guide as many times as you want... for as long as you want... in whatever space you want... with whomever you want... With this audio guide, you are in complete control and there is no worry about having to reschedule or do something on a day when you aren't feeling you best.

Complete Process and Method - you will be taught by an actual home organization expert how to become your own home organizer. I share my steps, my thought processes, my methods, all my tips and tricks, and even give you direct access to me when you need help.

Complete Exclusivity - you will be invited to join an exclusive Facebook group including only people who are working through the Total Home Reset Guide. We share stories, help each other out, and celebrate the wins and encourage those who need help... you are not alone and you should not have to do this alone unless you really want to.

Remember, after April 10th, the price of The Total Home Reset will increase to $250 so pre-order now!!

Mindful Organization

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 24 Mar 2023 08:30:00 -0600

Certified Life and Mindset Coach, Michelle Bourque interviews me, The Hoss lady, on how creating simple habits and systems of organization... clutter in the home can cause feelings of overwhelm and anxiety, leading to increased stress levels. Our conversation emphasized the importance of taking a mindful approach to decluttering, starting with small steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

StoryTime - Powerwashing

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 17 Mar 2023 17:15:00 -0600

Just a little story time about me and my power washer. lots of gold nuggets in here. (Also made this episode from my car☺️)

The Younger Generation is Watching

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 10 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0600

Today I am talking with Melissa Rohlfs, a Holistic and Health Coach. We really took a turn in our conversation but for such a great reason. We began discussing some of the most important impacts we can have on the younger generation. I admire her work so much because she is working with young women and empowering them to see their worth to live their best life. Man, this one was powerful.

You can find her website here. And check out her podcast "Monday's with Melissa"

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Know Your Numbers - A Money Talk

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 03 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0600

Today I sat down with Profit and Business Coach and my friend, Carla Moats. We talk about the retention of documents, how to handle the financial affairs of loved ones, and so much more.

If you loved this and want to hear more about what Carla does, you can find her at carlamoats.com

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In The Kitchen with The Sugar Free M.D.

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 24 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0600

Today I sit down and chat with Stacy Heimburger M.D. and we talk about how she was successful in losing 80 pounds and now wants to share that process with the world. Very good interview and if you are interested in looking Stacy up, you can find her here

We also talk about my upcoming Total Home Reset Audio Guide and how to get in on a very special offer for that. To find out more, be sure to get on my email list at www.thehosslady.com/getstarted

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Organization in the Classroom Part 2

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 17 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0600

Join me as I sit down and talk with Ashley Wolfe, a Teaching Mindset Expert. What a blast and I know you'll enjoy - especially those teachers out there.

If you love what you hear in this episode and want to learn more about Ashley, you can find her here. www.teachermindsetcoach.com

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Organization in the Classroom Part 1

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 10 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0600

Join me as I sit down and talk with Ashley Wolfe, a Teaching Mindset Expert. What a blast and I know you'll enjoy - especially those teachers out there.

If you love what you hear in this episode and want to learn more about Ashley, you can find her here. www.teachermindsetcoach.com

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It's Time to Look in the Make-Up Drawer

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 03 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0600

What a hoot it was to sit down and talk with Skincare Expert, Li Huo. We talk about how investing in your skincare can actually help eliminate a lot of clutter in the make-up drawer because we get good quality products that last. I also got schooled on my own make-up drawer.

If you want to learn more about Li and check out her video on "The 3 Things You Should Be Putting on Your Face"

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Communication is Key

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 27 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0600

An incredible treat for you today! I am sitting down to talk to Communications and Relationships Coach, Kari Lynn Morgan. We talk about how communication is so important when you live with other people. Sometimes we think that we are saying what we need, but is it being received? A lot of the time, No. And that is what Kari helps us with. How do we ask for what we need in a way that is received and heard?

You can find her website here !

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Better Late Then Never

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Sun, 01 Jan 2023 05:00:00 -0600

Hey guys!! A little late in dropping the January Challenge Pod, but there is a very good reason...

Join me for this monthly challenge to get your house decluttered!! Sign Up Here

Why Do We Quit / The November Challenge

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Sun, 30 Oct 2022 03:00:00 -0600

This month we are focusing on reducing the stress of the KITCHEN. And just in time for the upcoming Holidays. Join me for the challenge. Also, I added a little motivational nugget for you! Hope you like it!

The Monthly Challenges are BACK

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Sun, 02 Oct 2022 12:37:00 -0600

Season Two starts with a whole new format!!

Very excited to bring you a monthly podcast episode full of tips and tricks that line up with our monthly challenges.

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Today I talk about our October Challenge - CLOTHES! We are goingto tackle the clothes this month. And just in time, too. The cold weather is creeping in or maybe it slammed into you overnight... whichever it is... let's do our challenge together! Join me on the Facebook page - 52 Weeks to a Clutter Free Life!

You Need This in Your Life

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Mon, 05 Sep 2022 03:30:00 -0600

Just a quick little fun episode while I'm on vacation!

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Routine is Relaxing

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Mon, 29 Aug 2022 12:22:58 -0600

Cleaning seems like a chore. Maintaining a clean space seems even more daunting. But what if those things... the every day tidying up process... what if it was something that could bring you peace?

Back to School

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 09:12:46 -0600

When we have our structure and our routines, we can relax and enjoy the things we love without any underlying current of "I have other things to do." Structure is necessary for students to thrive. Teachers expect a certain level of organization from their student and so why should that stop at home?

Why No One Helps You

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 12 Aug 2022 15:44:00 -0600

Do you feel like you are always doing EVERYTHING alone? There is a house full of people and not one person pulls their weight, but you?

Yeah, I get it.

I ask you to listen to this with an open heart. www.thehosslady.com/getstarted

Why Do We Accumulate So Much Stuff?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 05 Aug 2022 19:52:00 -0600

Just a rhetorical question that of course, I had to answer. We have too much stuff because we are really good at accumulating and horrible at getting rid of things.

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I was Stuck

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 29 Jul 2022 11:50:24 -0600

My easy tiny steps were simply still too hard.

Getting Back into a Routine

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 17 Jun 2022 13:00:13 -0600

I took a couple of weeks off to RESET my soul. Just like decluttering your home... if you want something to be sustainable, you have to focus on doing things in a way that doesn't feel like WORK.

Hug Your Babies

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 27 May 2022 12:12:49 -0600

Taking another week to focus on self care so this week is short and to the point. Focus on what you can control, and hug your loved ones.

What Do We Do?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 20 May 2022 13:19:21 -0600

This week is a refresher on the three rules and three steps... it never hurts to go back and listen to things a couple of times... you will hear something you missed last time.

Organize Your Life and Propel Weightloss

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 13 May 2022 15:23:25 -0600

I wish I had an hour to talk about this… after all, getting my mindset in alignment with my goals is what helped me lose 70 pounds, start a podcast, and become The Hoss Lady! It is the same with anything in life... the more stress you have around it, the harder you are making it on yourself. What if you were super organized and could manage your kitchen in a way that reduces stress. Are you working towards that summer body… are you constantly battling your brain at meal times… do you mindlessly reach for snacks just because you open the pantry door?? Well, this week I bring a collision of lifestyle changes that can help propel weightloss and keep your kitchen clutter-free.

Clutter Free Gifts for Mom

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 06 May 2022 02:56:00 -0600

This week in honor of Mother’s Day, I am offering up 10 simple gift ideas to give Mom on her special day… ideas that won’t clutter up her home!!

The Value of Decluttering

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 29 Apr 2022 09:30:11 -0600

Have you ever argued with yourself about getting rid of things that you know you spent a lot of money on? You need to check out today's episode. I talk about how the money we spend on all the STUFF we own affects our mindset around decluttering.

The Coaches' Cup Interview

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 22 Apr 2022 09:40:02 -0600

This week I sat down with Sonya Green from The Coaches' Cup podcast to just chat about how my three-step process for decluttering your home can also apply to decluttering your mind.

Retail Therapy

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 09:56:38 -0600

Is Retail Therapy really a good thing?

Yard Sale Do's and Don'ts

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 21:30:00 -0600

This week, I want to just share all my tips and tricks for a successful yard sale to help you make some money on your decluttering efforts. The best part about a yard sale?? People pay YOU to come haul your junk away!!!

I Just Have to Say This...

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 31 Mar 2022 22:00:00 -0600

Sometimes you just have to do what is right for you... no matter what the expectations are from other people.

The Truth About Time

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 24 Mar 2022 09:00:00 -0600

Today I talk about how time is usually the biggest reason we don't get things done... and how that is the biggest lie we tell ourselves.

Spring Cleaning

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 17 Mar 2022 14:00:00 -0600

Just a little talk about the outdoors and some Spring Cleaning!

You ARE Worth It

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 10 Mar 2022 12:15:00 -0600

Just a quick hit of my take on being worthy!!!

Different Types of Declutterers

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 03 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0600

There is no right or wrong way to declutter your home. But there are different types of declutteres... which one are you?

The Little Things

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 24 Feb 2022 14:00:00 -0600

Even the smallest items can be clutter... from the coins in the bottom of our purse to the make-up we never wear...

When You Get Stuck

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 17 Feb 2022 13:30:00 -0600

One of the biggest problems we face is getting stuck in the decluttering process. What can you do when you freeze?

Do You Identify as a Tidy Person?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 10 Feb 2022 03:00:00 -0600

Being a tidy person does not happen overnight... but it is for sure something you can create for yourself right now.

Why is Paper Clutter Still a Thing?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 03 Feb 2022 07:52:22 -0600

In a world that is constantly moving towards paperless, it is very interesting how decluttering paper is the most requested topic I get.

You Decluttered... Now What?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 27 Jan 2022 17:37:20 -0600

When we are done with the declaring and clearing... how do we create the habit of resetting? I will tell you...

When It's Hard to Let Go of Lost Loved One's Belongings

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 20 Jan 2022 03:00:00 -0600

This week I give you my insight on how you can let go of things after you lose a loved one.

Perfection is a Judgment

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 13 Jan 2022 03:00:00 -0600

Expecting perfection can not only backfire, it can lead to a whole lot of judgment and slow us down.

I Do What I Say I Will Do

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 06 Jan 2022 12:11:30 -0600

Not even COVID is going to stop me from hitting my goal of one podcast every Thursday... so, here you go.

Deep Dive into Steps Two and Three

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 30 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0600

This week we take a closer look at the clearing and resetting steps. I talk about how we pull everything out and decide what goes back in... and where to put the stuff that doesn't belong in that space. You're going to make messes when you organize... so breathe and it will all work out! I promise.

Deep Dive into Step One

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 04:00:00 -0600

Let's talk about a way to decide where things go in your home... we are diving deep into DECLARE!

Do I Keep it or Do I Purge?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 16 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0600

Super short episode today... in the aftermath of the recent tornadoes, I talk today about how purging can help others.

Three Ways to Get Motivated to Clean

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 07:39:08 -0600

Just three ways to get started...

Clutter Free Gift Ideas

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0600

This week I give some tips, tricks, and advice on gift giving that does not create more clutter in your home and in those you are gifting to. I also give you a couple of methods on how to get the playroom and toys ready for the newest additions!

My Story

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 25 Nov 2021 03:00:00 -0600

This week, I just give a little glimpse into my childhood and the foundations that help me create The Hoss Lady.

Nine Easy Tasks to Prepare for the Holidays

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Thu, 18 Nov 2021 06:43:11 -0600

This week we are preparing for the Holidays by doing a few simple tasks to reduce some stress this holiday season!

Now for the Three Steps

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Wed, 10 Nov 2021 19:50:07 -0600

We learned the Three Rules... now let's talk about the three STEPS!!

Why Hoss Lady?

Becky Blackburn, The Hoss Lady — Fri, 05 Nov 2021 14:14:48 -0600

I get some weird looks when I tell people I am the Hoss Lady... let me explain... And I give you a high-level look at my three rules for getting your life organized.

Where Do I Start?

The Hoss Lady — Thu, 04 Nov 2021 15:57:24 -0600

It's easy to get overwhelmed when you don't know where to start... I get that way, too.