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Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

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episode 063 - misbehave with integrity

Thu, 14 May 2026 08:00:00 +0100

In this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel explores what it means for women to “misbehave with integrity,” inspired by Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ The Late Bloomer.

This episode is about good girl conditioning, people-pleasing, self-trust, over-functioning, emotional labour, and the quiet resentment that builds when women keep choosing propriety over honesty.

Shantel unpacks the difference between being proper and being ethical, why women often delay decisions they’ve already made, and why acting without cruelty, manipulation, or deliberate harm may be the permission you’ve been waiting for.

Topics include: Good girl conditioning, People-pleasing and resentment

Self-trust and decision-making, Emotional labour in relationships

Over-functioning in friendships, family, work, and dating

Why “I should” keeps women stuck, Becoming less likeable but more honest

Referenced in this episode:

The Late Bloomer by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Episode 012: Big Energy, No Apology

Episode 027: The Rules Are Made Up

Episode 038: The Rebrand Era

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episode 062 - how to choose your core values and actually live by them

Thu, 07 May 2026 08:00:00 +0100

In this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel breaks down how to choose your core values and actually live by them, drawing on the values clarification work used in therapy and coaching. You'll learn the difference between values, goals, preferences, and aesthetics, why your real values are revealed by your trade-offs, and how to use a six-to-eight value framework as a practical filter for decisions in friendship, dating, work, money, and creativity. If you've ever felt the gap between who you say you are and what your choices keep revealing, this is the episode that helps you name what matters and build from there.

LIST OF VALUES 1 - https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

LIST OF VALUES 2 (also some great exercises in this one!) - https://taproot.com/live-your-core-values-exercise-to-increase-your-success/

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episode 061 - belle burden, emma grede and the one thing nobody is talking about

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +0100

Three episodes. Three completely different topics. And the whole time I kept thinking: why does this all feel like the same conversation?

Belle Burden knew before she signed that prenup. Most of us know long before we end a friendship. And Emma Grede? She's getting dragged online for simply trusting herself out loud. Today I'm naming the one thing that connects all three, and why it matters more than any of us want to admit.

We're talking about what happens in the gap between knowing something and actually trusting it. Why that gap is costing women more than they realise. And why a woman who has closed that gap completely, like Emma, makes so many people deeply uncomfortable.

If you've been listening all month, this is where it all lands. If you're new here, welcome. You found a good one.

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episode 060 - emma grede, start with yourself and the disclaimer economy

Thu, 23 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +0100

The internet has had a lot to say about Emma Greed's new book Start With Yourself this week, and most of it is from people who haven't read it. In this episode, Shantel breaks down what the discourse is actually about, why it keeps happening, and what we're all missing when we rush to poke holes instead of engage.

Shantel introduces the concept of the disclaimer economy — what happens when women are expected to pre-account for every possible objection before anyone will engage with their actual idea — and maps it across three areas where it shows up most loudly: motherhood, careers, and major life decisions.

This episode covers the three-hour mom discourse, the work from home debate, what the contrast between Emma Greed and Belle Burden's Strangers actually tells us about how women approach partnership, and why clarity is not a hostile act.

If you've been online this week, you've seen the takes. This is the longer, more honest conversation.

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episode 059 - the sisterhood chronicles, pt. 6: how to end a friendship with grace

Thu, 16 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +0100

We've been building toward this one, sages!

The Sisterhood Chronicles started with a question: why do female friendships matter so much? We've audited them, we've talked about making new ones, we've named the fatigue of showing up for people who don't show up back. And now we're here, the conversation that somehow nobody gives us language for: how do you actually end a friendship? And how do you do it without losing yourself, burning everything down, or carrying the guilt of it for years afterward?

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In part six of the Sisterhood Chronicles, Shantel breaks down the three distinct ways friendships tend to end (the natural drift, the incident that changed everything, and the friendship that has simply run its course) and why each one requires something different of you. She also gets into why we spend so long looping through the "am I being too much / not enough?" checklist before we let anything go, and what it actually means to close something cleanly, with your dignity and theirs intact.

This episode also touches on Who Needs Friends by Andrew McCarthy and what a chance encounter in a diner said about how differently men and women are socialised to understand the weight of friendship from the very beginning.

This is a heavy one, in the best way. If you've ever been on either side of a friendship ending, this one is for you.

In this episode: The three types of friendship endings and how to handle each one. Why we don't have cultural language for friendship breakups the way we do for romantic ones. The difference between giving grace and using it as a stall. When a conversation is warranted and when it isn't. How to speak from the scar, not from the wound, and why that changes everything.

Referenced in this episode: episode 006, 025 + 044 + TSS's substack (linked here)

If this episode resonated, the best thing you can do is share it with someone who needs it. Screenshot it, send it in a DM, drop it in a WhatsApp thread.

Podcasts don't have an algorithm the way social media does, so word of mouth is genuinely how the show grows. And if you haven't already, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or a comment on Spotify goes a very long way (!!)

episode 058 - strangers by belle burden: what everyone is missing

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +0100

episode 058 - strangers by belle burden: what everyone is missing

We are back. And for the first episode of the new season, I'm doing something a little different, a full opinion piece on one of the most talked-about books of 2026.

Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage by Belle Burden is an instant New York Times bestseller, and with the Netflix adaptation just announced (Gwyneth Paltrow is set to play Belle), this book is about to get a whole second wave of attention. I listened to it on Audible, then bought the hardcover, and I have a lot of thoughts, including some that I haven't heard anyone else say yet.

This is not a recap. This is my take.

In this episode I get into why this book is being misread as a heartbreak memoir when it's actually a book about financial abuse and wilful self-erasure, why "James" deserves far more scrutiny than he's getting, what the prenup scene should teach every woman regardless of her relationship status, and why his family cutting Belle off after 20 years (!!!!) is one of the most important things in the entire book that nobody is talking about.

I also get into the hot take I've been sitting on for years: a lot of women do not want to think for themselves, and this book is one of the clearest examples of what that costs.

Strangers by Belle Burden is available on Audible, and in hardcover wherever books are sold. Highly recommend, especially if you're engaged, partnered, or thinking about either.

Find me at @thesagesorority @shantelrousseau on Instagram and TikTok, and subscribe to The Sage Sorority on Substack for essays and exclusive content.

The Gathering Vol. 2 is coming. Stay close.

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episode 019: you’re not lost – you’re just not living on purpose yet (revisit)

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +0100

while we’re on a short production break, i’m revisiting an episode that speaks to a very specific feeling... when your life looks fine on paper, but something internally feels slightly off.

this is a conversation about that in between space and what it actually means to live with intention rather than just momentum.

if you’ve been feeling disconnected, or like you’re drifting without fully understanding why, this episode will likely resonate. If this episode resonates and you’re drawn to navigating life a bit more deeply these days, I offer 1:1 coaching, https://squ.re/45jq3ue

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episode 005 - 30 lessons i’ve learned in my 30s (so far) (revisit)

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0100

while we’re on a short production break, i’m revisiting one of the more personal episodes from the archive.

this is a reflection on the lessons that have actually shaped how i think, move, and make decisions in my 30s... not the polished version, but the real ones that come from experience.

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Turning 30 is a milestone but it’s also a mirror. In this episode, I share 30 of the most important lessons I’ve learned since stepping into this decade. Some are personal, some are practical, and all of them are rooted in lived experience. Whether you’re 25 or 45, I hope these reflections give you something to carry into your own life.

Highlights include:

The truth about love, money, and friendship
Why saying no is as powerful as saying yes
The underrated art of self-respect

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Audio Disclaimer

00:24 30 Lessons in My 30s: An Overview

01:48 Health and Fitness Lessons

02:40 Lesson 1: Your Body is Your Only Home

04:32 Lesson 2: Enjoyable Workouts

05:44 Lesson 3: Intuitive Eating

07:22 Lesson 4: Strength Over Thinness

09:07 Lesson 5: Daily Movement

09:53 Lesson 6: Health is Wealth

10:13 Lesson 7: Daily Laughter

11:38 Lessons on People and Relationships

11:49 Lesson 8: Politics vs. Morals

12:57 Lesson 9: Reject Scarcity Mindset

15:00 Lesson 10: Friends Grow Differently

16:07 Lesson 11: Let People Leave

16:25 Lesson 12: Delivery Matters

17:25 Lesson 13: Misery Loves Company

18:15 Lesson 14: Read More

19:55 Lesson 15: Avoid 'Should' Traps

21:23 Lesson 16: Reevaluate Beliefs

21:48 Lesson 17: Life's Unfairness

22:38 Career and Money Lessons

22:43 Lesson 18: Earning Potential

23:06 Women Excel in Sales and Investing

23:40 Earning Potential and Self-Worth

24:05 Taking Risks and Entrepreneurship

24:54 The Importance of Appearance

25:42 Quiet Confidence Over Loud Boasting

26:43 Regret of Inaction

27:31 Indecision is Still a Decision

28:28 Standing Alone for What's Right

29:15 Value of Vintage

30:43 Rising from Rock Bottom

31:21 Building Momentum in Life

33:56 Done is Better Than Perfect

35:33 Pushing Through the Dip

37:31 Do You Like Him or the Idea of Him?

38:41 Men as Followers

41:10 Final Thoughts and Reflections

episode 006: the sisterhood chronicles pt.1 – a deep dive on female friendships (revisit)

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0100

While we’re on a short production break, I’m revisiting one of the most important conversations we’ve had on The Sage Sorority.

If you’re new here, this is the episode I’d tell you to start with. And if you’ve been listening for a while, it’s one that tends to land differently depending on where you are in your life. If this episode resonates and you’re navigating friendship dynamics more deeply, I offer 1:1 coaching, https://squ.re/45jq3ue

The Sisterhood Chronicles (Pt.1): Why Female Friendships Are So Complex (and Beautiful)

Welcome back, ladies! Friendship is one of the most defining relationships in a woman’s life, yet we rarely talk about it with honesty. In this first instalment of The Sisterhood Chronicles, I take a deep dive into the beauty, the mess, and the unspoken truths of adult female friendships. From loyalty and love to boundaries and shifting seasons, we’ll explore what makes these connections so powerful and sometimes, so difficult.

Mentioned in this episode:

Signs of friendship red flags and green flags

Why friendship breakups can hit harder than romantic ones

How female friendship evolves in your 30s

If you enjoyed this episode, you’ll also love [Episode 023: Making New Friends] and [Episode 025: The Friendship Audit] for more real talk on the complexities of sisterhood.

Share your thoughts with me on Instagram @theSageSorority and let's keep the conversation going! Have a beautiful week, ladies xx!

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:33 The Complexity of Female Friendships

02:34 The Importance of Female Friendships

04:16 The Science Behind Female Friendships

05:26 Authenticity in Female Friendships

08:11 The Reciprocity in Friendships

09:11 The Radical Significance of Female Friendships

18:08 The Unrealistic Expectations of Romantic Partners

25:55 Conclusion and Next Steps

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episode 057 - new here? start here, pt. 2: where The Sage Sorority found its voice

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0100

57 episodes. Identity, love, friendship, philosophy, grief, reinvention, quitting, starting over, loneliness, ambition — and everything in between. This week we're picking up right where we left off.

Consider this your orientation to The Sage Sorority, part two. We're covering episodes 26 through 55 — the second chapter of the show, where things got sharper, deeper, and a little more daring. Whether you're brand new here and need a map, or you've been listening since the beginning and need a reminder of everything you already know, this one is for you.

We cover identity and self-concept, dating and love, friendship and sisterhood, philosophy and mindset — and close with a full TSS prescription so you know exactly where to go based on what you're navigating right now.

episodes mentioned:

Ep. 032 — How to Be More Interesting, Pt. 1

Ep. 033 — The Art of Charm: Storytelling, Niche Interests and Presence

Ep. 034 — Autumn Energy: The Great Lock-In (Pt. 1)

Ep. 035 — Autumn Energy Pt. 2: The Social Season

Ep. 036 — Autumn Energy Pt. 3: Harvest What You Planted

Ep. 037 — Autumn Energy Pt. 4: The Woman You're Becoming

Ep. 038 — Autumn Energy Pt. 5: The Rebrand Era

Ep. 040 — Why Philosophy Still Matters (Especially for Women)

Ep. 041 — Attraction vs Compatibility vs Capacity

Ep. 042 — 7 Years in London

Ep. 044 — The Sisterhood Chronicles Pt. 4: Why Adult Friendships (Can) Feel Draining

Ep. 045 — 3 Patterns I'm Noticing in Women's Dating and Friendships Right Now

Ep. 048 — It's Quitter's Day, So Here's Your Permission Slip

Ep. 049 — The Only Dating Advice You Need

Ep. 051 — Why "Putting Yourself Out There" Isn't Working (And What to Do Instead)

Ep. 054 — Stop Waiting. You're Already Her

Ep. 055 — How to Be More Interesting, Pt. 2

books + people mentioned:

Matthew Dicks — Storyworthy (homework for life practice)

Esther Perel — on anxiety vs attraction, and the pull of the familiar

Seth Godin — The Dip (strategic quitting vs giving up)

Maya Angelou — on knowing where you've been before you know where you're going

James Baldwin — "not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced"

Dr. Shelley Taylor (UCLA) — tend and befriend research on female friendship

Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow — Big Friendship

Katherine May — Wintering

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We're taking a three-week production break after this episode.

Episode 058 drops Thursday, April 9th.

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episode 056 - start here: the best episodes on dating, friendship and identity for women in their 30s

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0100

If someone just sent you this episode, welcome. You landed in exactly the right place. This is The Sage Sorority - the podcast that feels less like advice from above and more like the group chat with your most thoughtful friend. Sharp, warm, honest, and always talking to your intelligence, never over it.

In this episode, Shantel takes you back through the first 25 episodes of the show (!!!) Not as a sentimental look back, but as a practical roadmap. Whether you're brand new and don't know where to start, or you've been here since episode one and could use a reminder of how much ground you've already covered, this episode is your guide.

We revisit the identity episodes that hit differently (episodes 5, 11, 12, and 19), the dating episodes that cut through the noise without handing you a rulebook (episodes 3, 7, and 17), and the friendship episodes that consistently generate the most DMs — because friendship grief, friendship confusion, and friendship loneliness are real, and women deserve more language for all of it (episodes 6, 10, 23, and 25).

Shantel also shares exactly which episodes to go to depending on what you're navigating right now! Whether that's rebuilding after a hard season, questioning a relationship, feeling lonely in a way you can't quite explain, or just sensing that the version of you everyone expects has quietly become a bad fit.

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episode 055 - how to be more interesting, pt.2

Thu, 26 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0100

Looking for the foundations? Start with episode 33, How to Be More Interesting Part 1. BTW, consider this the definitive version of episode 033 (!!!) also, I kept saying episode 054, lol sorry! This is episode 055!

Most of us are living interesting lives and telling them in the most boring way possible. Part two of one of The Sage Sorority's most popular episodes ever is finally here, and this one is about expression. How do you take everything you've built internally and actually let it land in conversation, on a date, in a work meeting, at a dinner party?

In this episode, Shantel breaks down the art of storytelling, what genuine curiosity actually looks like in practice, and the specific habits that make a woman truly magnetic in any room.

In this episode:

Why most women are living interesting lives but narrating them in an uninteresting way, and how to fix it
The anatomy of a good story: the "so what" test, the power of specificity, and the difference between recounting something and actually telling it
Matthew Dicks, record Moth StorySLAM champion and author of Storyworthy, and his philosophy of the five-second moment
Brené Brown on why specificity and imperfection are what make stories land, not polish
Curiosity as a competitive edge: why breadth beats performance and how to find your genuine pocket of depth
The science of presence: why full, unhurried attention is one of the most magnetic things a woman can offer in 2026
What interesting women don't do: overexplaining, one-upping, performing curiosity, shrinking opinions to seem agreeable
Why mystery is criminally underrated in the era of "spend the day with me" content

ICYMI: EPISODE 032 - how to be more interesting, pt.1 (https://open.spotify.com/episode/3IETywtviU47Hx0TfIi0t6?si=8X3KEMldT4Wae50UM_p5Uw)

Storyworthy: Engage, Teach, Persuade, and Change Your Life through the Power of Storytelling - https://go.shopmy.us/p-44654010

Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People - https://go.shopmy.us/p-44654099

The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown - https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o?si=2qzjpZVrF4dekH_F

Vanessa Van Edwards (Science of People) | TED - https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ted/

Julian Treasure (How to speak so that people want to listen) | TED - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIho2S0ZahI

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episode 054 - stop waiting. you're already her!

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 09:00:00 +0100

A few weeks ago I was at a workshop and someone gave me the most annoyingly simple piece of advice I'd ever heard. I asked a published author and paid speaker how to become a published author and paid speaker. She said: speak and write. That's it.

I laughed, because I knew she was right. And because I'd been doing both for ten years and still waiting for someone to make it official.

This episode is about the version of yourself you keep putting off. The woman you're waiting to become when you're thinner, more ready, more settled, more certain. She's not coming to rescue you, because you're already her. You just have to decide to be.

We get into the difference between performance and embodiment, why fake it till you make it gets a much worse reputation than it deserves, how the words we speak to ourselves become the house we live in, and four practical ways to actually stop waiting and start claiming. Oh, and it's the Year of the Fire Horse. This is the year to run.

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episode 053 - high standards or self-sabotage? what women get wrong about dating expectations

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0100

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One year of The Sage Sorority (!!!) 🤍 In this episode, we're unpacking the "high standards" discourse - when your standards are protecting you, and when they might actually be fear in disguise. We're talking attraction, compatibility, capacity, and the questions you need to ask yourself before you write someone off.

In this episode:

The difference between protecting your peace and controlling outcomes
Why attachment styles can masquerade as "standards"
5 questions to ask yourself when evaluating someone (or your own patterns)
The one question that changes everything

Mentioned:

The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel
Attached by Amir Levine
Episode 041: Attraction vs Compatibility vs Capacity

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episode 052 - envy vs jealousy

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0100

We use "jealousy" as a catch-all for anything that feels gross and competitive. But envy and jealousy are actually two completely different experiences. One is giving you useful information about what you want. The other? That's fear wearing a really convincing disguise. Today we're unpacking both, how they show up in friendships (the part nobody talks about), and what to actually do when you feel them.

In This Episode:

→ The actual difference between envy and jealousy (and why language matters)

→ Envy is information. Jealousy is protection.

→ How both show up in friendships: promotions, new friends, weddings, glow ups

→ The Cool Girl monologue and friendship performance

→ Amadeus, Othello, Gone Girl

→ What social media has done to both emotions

→ What to do when you feel either one

Referenced Episodes:

Episode 49: The Only Dating Advice You Need Episode 45: 3 Patterns I'm Noticing in Women's Dating & Friendships Right Now Episode 25: The Friendship Audit

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envy vs jealousy, difference between envy and jealousy, friendship jealousy, jealousy in friendships, green eyed monster, cool girl monologue, gone girl, female friendships, women in their 30s, modern womanhood, social media comparison

episode 051 - why 'putting yourself out there' isn't working (and what to do instead)

Thu, 29 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0100

You've been doing everything right—the apps, the events, saying yes to every invite—and you're exhausted. What if the advice to "put yourself out there" is actually making things worse?

This week we're talking about the difference between being available and being magnetic, why effort and outcome aren't always correlated in relationships, and when strategic retreat might be the smarter move for your dating life and your friendships.

We're also covering: when you actually should be putting yourself out there, how to know if you're strategically retreating or just avoiding, and what it looks like to let yourself be found instead of constantly seeking.

In this episode:

Why "putting yourself out there" has become a moral imperative (and why that's a problem)
The difference between depletion disguised as action and genuine effort
How to know when you're performing availability instead of cultivating magnetism
A permission slip to pause the apps, the coffee dates, and the networking events
What it means to exist fully in your actual life

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episode 050 - ask a sage: love or money? + how to tell if you're private or closed off

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0100

Welcome back to The Sage Sorority. Episode 050 (WOW!) is an Ask a Sage: an AMA-style episode where I answer your anonymous questions (link down below for submission).

The questions that came through this time weren't really asking what to do. They were asking how to know. How to read people. How to tell if what you're seeing is the real thing.

In this episode, we're covering:

→ How do you tell the difference between being private and being emotionally closed off?

→ Love or money and why it's a false binary

→ When you haven't spoken to someone in a while, do you delete the chat history?

If you've ever wondered whether you're being perceptive or paranoid, this one's for you.

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episode 049 - the only dating advice you need

Thu, 15 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0100

Episode 049: The Only Dating Advice You Need

January is the busiest month for dating apps and also the peak month for breakups. So before you swipe, I want to give you the one piece of advice I think actually matters.

My theory? The only dating advice a woman really needs is knowing when to walk away. That's it. Everything else stems from that.

In this episode, I'm talking about why women are conditioned to stay, analyse, and build cases for men who aren't showing up and what it costs us when we do. We get into what walking away actually looks like (it's not dramatic), why we fall for potential instead of reality, and how discernment is the real flex in dating.

This one's for the girls in their dating era and honestly, for the ones in relationships too.

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. And don't forget to rate the podcast on Apple or Spotify; it really helps the show grow. Love you lots xx

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episode 048 - it's quitter's day, so here's your permission slip

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0100

Tomorrow is Quitter's Day y'all! The second Friday of January when 80% of people abandon their New Year's resolutions (crazy!) ...and while the internet is gearing up to tell you to push through, I'm offering a different perspective. What if those resolutions were never yours to begin with? What if the most aligned thing you can do this year is quit the goals that don't actually belong to you?

Today we're unpacking where your resolutions are really coming from (you or Instagram?), the difference between hard and wrong, the art of the strategic quit, and why I'm swapping resolutions for intentions in 2026. Plus, I'm sharing the real story of how I walked away from my Pilates instructor training, money on the line and all and why that quit was one of the best decisions I've made.

If you're a woman in your 30s or 40s already feeling drained by your goals and it's only week two, this one's for you.

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episode 047 - roses + thorns (what 2025 actually taught me)

Thu, 01 Jan 2026 09:00:00 +0100

Happy New Year, and welcome to 2026. In this episode, Shantel shares an honest New Year’s Day reflection using a “Roses & Thorns” review of 2025, inspired by Tinx and her recent Roses & Thorns episode. The format is simple: a rose is what worked, grew, or surprised you, and a thorn is what hurt, stalled, disappointed you, or stayed unresolved. Shantel walks through her own Roses & Thorns across the categories of Work, Self, Travel/Fun, Health, Home, Love, and Friends, then gives a practical guide so you can do your own version in a way that feels grounding, not performative.

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episode 046 - spending Christmas alone (or feeling alone): a gentle holiday reflection 🎄

Thu, 25 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Christmas Day can bring up more than we expect sometimes... joy, sadness, nostalgia, loneliness, relief and reflection, sometimes all at once (!!!)

In this Christmas Day episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel shares a quiet, honest reflection for women who may be spending Christmas alone or feeling alone, even while surrounded by people. This is not an episode about fixing, reframing or necessarily forcing gratitude. It’s about companionship, permission and staying with yourself through a tender, emotionally layered day.

This episode explores the difference between being alone and feeling alone, why holidays can amplify unspoken emotions and how Christmas often brings past versions of ourselves, unfinished endings and cultural expectations into sharp focus.

Shantel speaks to women who may be navigating family dynamics, single-hood, emotional disconnection or quiet grief during the holidays... offering presence rather than advice and steadiness rather than solutions.

This episode may resonate if you are:

spending Christmas alone
feeling emotionally alone while surrounded by others
navigating complicated family dynamics during the holidays
reflecting on a year that didn’t unfold as planned
craving a calm, thoughtful Christmas podcast without pressure or advice

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episode 045 - 3 patterns i'm noticing in women's dating & friendships right now

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0100

I've been noticing three specific patterns showing up in conversations with women in their 30s and 40s! Patterns around dating, friendships, and how we're actually approaching connection right now. This episode connects some dots you might not have put together yet.

Pattern 1: Why meeting new people suddenly feels... different. It's not that we're antisocial. Something else is happening here, and it's worth naming.

Pattern 2: What we're actually missing when we say we miss someone. Spoiler: it's rarely about the actual person. There's something deeper going on that explains a lot about how we move through relationships.

Pattern 3: The hidden cost of optimisation. We've gotten really good at protecting ourselves in dating and life. But we might be filtering out the exact things we're actually craving.

If you've been feeling like your social life is shrinking, or dating feels more exhausting than exciting, this episode might give you some language for what's actually going on.

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episode 044 - the sisterhood chronicles (pt. 4): Why adult friendships (can) feel draining

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0100

This week on The Sisterhood Chronicles, we’re talking about friendship fatigue and friendship compatibility, why so many adult friendships feel draining, confusing or slightly “off”, especially in your 30s and 40s.

If you’ve ever felt like the reliable one, the planner, the deep listener, or the “strong friend” in your group and you’re quietly exhausted by it, this episode is for you! I’m breaking down what friendship fatigue actually feels like in real life, and how compatibility explains a lot of the tension in modern adult friendships: one-sided effort, mismatched energy, and friendships that only move when you move them.

We get honest about the emotional reality of adult friendship, when you’re always showing up, but the reciprocity, consistency, or depth just doesn’t match and I walk you through four types of friendship compatibility that can help you see your relationships more clearly and calmly.

In this episode, we explore:

What friendship fatigue really is and how it shows up in adult friendships
Why you feel like the one who always checks in, plans, and holds space
Four types of friendship compatibility: emotional, lifestyle, intimacy, and effort
Real-life examples of incompatibility in friendships in your 30s and 40s
Signs your friendship is quietly out of balance (without any big fallouts)
What it means to be the “high-capacity friend” – and why that can feel lonely
How to stop over-functioning in friendships and see the real dynamic
Simple ways to recalibrate a friendship without drama or a big breakup talk
The grief of shifting a friendship out of “inner circle” status – and how to process it
How to focus on reciprocal, emotionally safe friendships going into a new year

This episode will help if you’ve been asking yourself:

“Why do my friendships feel one-sided or draining lately?”
“Am I expecting too much, or is this actually unbalanced?”
“How do I step back without causing a blow-up?”
“What does a compatible, nourishing friendship even look like at this age?”

If this conversation hits home and you want support untangling your own patterns in friendship, dating, or self-concept, I have limited 1:1 coaching spots open, you can book a single session or a bundle of three. https://squ.re/45jq3ue

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episode 043 - soft girl december

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Welcome to the first episode of December and the final month of 2025 (!!!)

Today we’re talking about Soft Girl December: the grounded, grown woman version of softness that helps you move through a loud month with clarity, calm, and intention.

December can feel emotionally and socially overwhelming. Plans pile up, money moves fast, expectations rise, and the pressure to “end the year well” can feel like a lot. This episode is your antidote; a practical guide to protecting your peace, regulating your energy, and keeping December a vibe instead of a sprint.

Inside this episode, we cover:

✨ Soft Structure

How to manage your calendar without burning out. Why one or two meaningful plans per week is enough. How to add breathing room, buffer time, and emotional bandwidth back into your month.

✨ Soft Communication

Warm, clear, respectful boundaries during a chaotic season. How to decline plans without guilt. Why empathy and clarity go further than over-explaining.

✨ Soft Glam

Festive beauty and fragrance rituals that make you feel good in your body. Warm, sensual winter scents. Glowy skin, sexy lashes, red lipstick, and easy polished outfits for the cold months.

✨ Soft Self-Concept

How to reflect on your year with grace instead of panic. Why self-worth isn’t tied to December productivity. Staying grounded in who you're becoming not what you think you “should’ve” achieved.

✨ Soft Expectations (Friendships + Relationships)

Navigating holiday pressure, emotional tenderness, and birthday feelings. Noticing who shows up for you and who doesn’t. Letting December reveal what’s real, without letting it define your worth.

✨ Soft Pleasure + Micro-Joy

Seasonal indulgence rooted in the senses. Festive coffees, candles at 4pm, cozy cashmere, body care, winter florals, and long walks in the cold. Grounding rituals that make December feel present, not blurry.

Soft Girl December is about showing up calmly and clearly even when the month gets loud.

You don’t need to rush, push, or perform. Stay connected to yourself and enjoy the sparkly ride.

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See you next Thursday.

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episode 42 - 7 years in london (!!!) what london has taught me about womanhood, love, reinvention and myself

Thu, 27 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0100

In today’s episode, I’m sharing the full, unfiltered story of my seven years in London — the quiet beginning, the heartbreak spring, the career resets, the immigration marathon, and the unexpected ways this city has shaped who I’m becoming.

If you’re in a season of starting over, moving abroad, rebuilding your life, or simply trying to trust yourself again, this one’s for you.

We explore:

• The raw truth of moving abroad solo

• Why my first six months were nothing like the movies

• The heartbreak that changed how I saw myself

• The reality of dating in London vs Toronto

• How London humbled me professionally

• Immigration stress and the emotional toll no one talks about

• What this city awakened in me

• What I’d tell the version of myself packing her bags

• What London represents to me today

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episode 041 - attraction vs compatibility vs capacity

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0100

In this episode of The Sage Sorority, we unpack one of the most important frameworks for modern dating and adult relationships: Attraction vs Compatibility vs Capacity. If you’re a woman in your 30s or 40s navigating dating, partnership, or long-term relationship decisions, this episode is for you.

We discuss...

• why attraction matters and what it does not tell you

• how lifestyle compatibility shapes long-term relationship success

• the real meaning of “relationship capacity”

• the difference between boyfriend energy, husband energy and fatherhood readiness

• how to spot emotional bandwidth vs emotional potential

• how to stop dating a projection and see what’s actually in front of you

• dating for potential... the honest risks, timelines and self-checks

• why clarity (not performance, not perfection) is the real power in dating

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episode 040 - why philosophy still matters (esp for women)

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0100

What does philosophy look like when women lead the conversation?

In this episode, Shantel opens up a new Sage Sorority series exploring philosophy through a female lens. Unpacking what it really means to “love wisdom” and why so much of traditional philosophy (and self-development) was never built with women in mind.

From Aristotle to Audre Lorde, this episode traces how philosophy has evolved and how women are reclaiming it as a tool for self-inquiry, clarity, and empowerment.

No BS Spirituality YT Channel

We discuss:

The five main branches of philosophy, explained simply and beautifully
Why classical philosophy often excluded women and how that shaped modern thinking
The difference between ego death and self-return (and why women’s enlightenment looks different)
A few easy ways to start “thinking like a philosopher” in daily life

Whether you’re new to philosophy or already on your self-awareness journey, this conversation is an invitation to think deeply, question boldly, and reclaim your wisdom.

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episode 039 - ask a sage, aka, ask me anything

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0100

sorry, a bit echo-y at some points, no idea what happened there, lol! A lighter, girl-chat-coded AMA with quick-fire Qs up front and meatier reflections at the end. We talk seasons, height, “inactivity” on socials, top 10 products, skincare that actually works, steady happiness and much more!

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episode 038 - autumn energy, pt.5 - the rebrand era

Thu, 30 Oct 2025 14:15:00 +0100

🎙 EPISODE 038 — The Rebrand Era

Once you’ve done the inner work, the next step is letting your outer world reflect it. This episode closes out the Autumn Energy series with something tangible... your rebrand era.

Not a trend, not a performance but a clear alignment between who you are now and how you move, speak, and show up.

We’ll talk about the subtle signals that shape how you’re read in the world, how to close your own identity lag, and how to upgrade your energy through language, appearance, environment, digital presence, and community!

You don’t need a new personality... just cleaner signals.

In this episode:

The concept of identity lag and how to close it gracefully
Five areas to focus your rebrand: language, appearance, environment, digital presence, and social circles
the confidence playlist on TikTok
How to pay down reputation debt and let people meet the woman you’ve become
Real-life examples, mindset shifts, and small habits that make your confidence visible

If this episode resonates:

Share it to your Instagram Stories and tag @ShantelRousseau and @TheSageSorority, I love seeing where you’re listening from.

And if you haven’t yet, please take a second to rate The Sage Sorority on Apple Podcasts, it really helps more women find the show.

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The Autumn Energy Series (Episodes 034–038):

The Great Lock-In
The Social Season
Harvest What You Planted
The Woman You’re Becoming
The Rebrand Era

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episode 037 - autumn energy pt.4; the woman you're becoming

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0100

This week is about getting your actions to match who you actually are now. Not changing everything per se, just making sure your habits reflect the person you've already become. We're covering standards, rhythm, and signals. Basically the small ways you can see growth showing up; in how you talk, what you choose, how you spend your Tuesday.

Think of it as a quick check-in before we get into the rebrand stuff next week.

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episode 036 - autumn energy pt. 3; harvest what you planted

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Autumn’s the season that tells the absolute truth! EG., What’s been growing, what’s faded, what still needs love.

This episode is about noticing the results of your effort and also giving yourself permission to start again if you haven’t planted much this year.

For me, that’s looked like being more intentional about how I show up on LinkedIn and in real-life networks, and it’s been nice to see that consistency quietly pay off.

If you’re feeling behind, this one’s for you. It’s a reminder that it’s never too late to plant something new.

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episode 035 - autumn energy, pt.2: the social season

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Following last week's Autumn Reset, this episode is about conscious re-entry. Shantel breaks down how to navigate autumn's social season without losing yourself in the chaos (!!!) from avoiding the over scheduling trap to building a social rhythm that actually fills you up.

we discuss...

Why autumn triggers different social cravings than summer (and the science behind it)
The difference between momentum vs. motion in your social life
The Ritual, Stretch, Revival framework for curating meaningful connections
How to identify what kind of social energy you actually need right now
Hosting tips: the coffee drop-in concept for low-lift gatherings
Seasonal updates: wine, style, and small shifts that make autumn feel intentional

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episode 034 - autumn energy: the great lock-in (pt. 1) Fall = the real new year

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Autumn isn’t cozy-only. It’s strategy season. In this episode, we kick off The Great Lock-In: the window where city life sharpens, events ramp up, and your best moves (professionally, creatively, socially) actually land. We talk real-world ways to deepen friendships, get visible at work or with your art, and use October/November to plant seeds before December chaos hits.

Anchors we hit:

Culture says “cozy,” but fall is strategy: fashion month, prestige TV drops, Q4 planning.
Social reset: fewer faces, deeper dinners, gallery nights, after-work walks.
Networking season: Eventbrite, Luma, Airbnb Experiences — low-stakes rooms with high-calibre people.
Visibility challenge (corp + creative): speak up, pitch, post, launch.
Time wisdom from Four Thousand Weeks (Oliver Burkeman): edit your energy; neglect the right things.

Book mentioned:

Four Thousand Weeks — Oliver Burkeman (time, meaning, and choosing what actually matters)

Try this week:

Book one IRL thing (talk, supper club, gallery) via Eventbrite/Luma/Airbnb Experiences.
Send one pitch (work or creative).
Do a 20-minute “Autumn Edit”: people, money, calendar → what gets trimmed, what gets your best?

Question for you: What are you locking in on before year-end? Tell me on IG Stories and tag me so I can share.

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episode 033 - the art of charm: storytelling, niche interests and presence

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Part two of this conversation goes deeper into how we actually express our inner worlds. If part one was about cultivating curiosity, part two is about transmission... storytelling, presence, and the subtle art of charm. It’s about the polish people feel when they walk away thinking, she was magnetic.

If you’ve ever wondered how to show up with more spark without performing, this one’s for you!

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episode 032 - how to be more interesting, pt.1

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0100

In Part 1, Shantel reframes what it really means to be “interesting.” It’s not about being loud, busy, or hyper-online! It’s about curiosity, attention, and cultivating a rich interior life. We cover breaking your algorithmic bubble, adding “micro-adventures” to your week, reconnecting with who you are beyond roles (work/partner/parent), and asking better questions so conversations actually go somewhere.

List of core values - https://jamesclear.com/core-values

What you’ll learn

A better definition of “interesting” (hint: quiet confidence + soft power)
How to feed your mind on purpose (diverse inputs, real retention)
Micro-adventures: small switches that add texture to your life
Why presence > performance (and how to practise it daily)
Identity beyond labels: a quick audit to find your axis again
The art of asking better questions (for dating, friends, work… everyone)

how to be more interesting, how to be interesting woman, curiosity and confidence, micro adventures, break the algorithm, soft power, conversation skills, ask better questions, identity beyond roles, London lifestyle podcast, women’s personal growth podcast

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episode 031 - safety vs chemistry, what matters?

Thu, 11 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0100

(also… sorry this one’s late today 😅 London strikes + sideways rain = chaotic.)

We’re taught to chase sparks; I’m arguing for scanning for safety first... in dating, friendship, and work! So, the chemistry you do have can actually go the distance.

Sources / further reading:

Emotional safety as the foundation of lasting connection — Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety/
Why strong relationships improve health & longevity — Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health: https://hsph.harvard.edu/news/the-importance-of-connections-ways-to-live-a-longer-healthier-life/

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episode 030 - monthly r.e.p.o.r.t (+ technical difficulties!)

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0100

This week’s episode is a little different — and a little experimental. If you’re listening on audio, you’ll hear me mention video, cameras, and behind-the-scenes things because this is my first ever filmed podcast episode. 🎥

The video version had some growing pains (hello tech glitches + internal mic!) but it’s all part of trying new things. I’ve been flirting with video for ages, and I finally decided to test it out with this episode.

For August, I’m sharing my monthly R.E.P.O.R.T — a more playful take on the monthly favourites...

Stick with me through the learning curve (!!!!) it’s raw, unpolished, and very real. If you want the video version of this episode, head to YouTube.

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episode 029 - the anti-rot reset: small shifts for september

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 08:00:00 +0100

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Sorry, the sound is slightly tweaked in this episode! This week I discuss practical strategies to declutter and reset your life as summer comes to a close. The focus is on not just productivity, but trimming the fat from all areas: digital, social, internal, and home rot. Get tangible tips and methodically decluttering your living space. Perfect for the ambitious woman in her 30s and 40s looking to end the year strong and focused.

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episode 028 - 5 self-worth lessons, I wish I knew sooner

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0100

What if the way you think about self-worth is backwards? In this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel shares powerful lessons on boundaries, safety, and choosing yourself that will change the way you see relationships, confidence, and personal growth. Expect research, real talk, and a reminder to raise the bar on what you accept.

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episode 027 - the rules are made up

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 07:30:00 +0100

In this episode of The Sage Sorority podcast, Shantel unpacks why so many of life’s “rules” are made up.. and how to navigate them without losing yourself. Recorded on location in Bodrum, she blends cultural commentary, personal stories, and practical advice for women on dating, career moves, money, and self-worth.

From rewatching Scandal to questioning the unspoken social scripts that shape our choices, Shantel shares how to use discernment, protect your self-respect, and set personal standards that actually serve your growth. Perfect for listeners seeking empowering conversations about female empowerment, boundaries, and living on your own terms.

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episode 026 - july favourites

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0100

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This one's a lighter, chatty catch-up—think of it as an audio journal entry. You’ll hear about the songs, snacks, beauty finds, books, and little life moments I loved in July. From weekend trips and networking events to long walks and film camera nostalgia, it's a mix of musings and must-trys. I also share a few reminders about commitment, whimsy, and letting go of what’s not meant for you, xx!

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episode 025 - the sisterhood chronicles: the friendship audit

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0100

EPISODE TWENTY-FIVE (!!!!)

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a major milestone, woo!! Whether you've been here since episode one or just joined us, thank you for tuning in. This week, we're continuing The Sisterhood Chronicles, pt 3 with a practical, thought-provoking episode on the friendships that shape our lives… and the ones that quietly drain them.

In this episode, I share how to audit your current friendships with honesty and intention. This isn’t about cutting people off, but it is about getting real with how you feel, what you’re noticing and how your relationships are actually functioning.

We cover:

✨ The difference between toxic vs. unreciprocated

✨ What to do when you’re always the one reaching out

✨ Passive friendship vs. performative friendship

✨ Signs of emotional safety, subtle competition or scarcity

✨ The myth of effortless adult connection

✨ Friendship breaks, downgrades, and what “a five-star friend” looks like

This is your reminder to notice patterns, not incidents and to be the friend you want to receive. Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Some need boundaries. Some need softness. Some just need to shift.

Book Rec...

Platonic: How Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Help You Make and Keep Friends by Marisa G. Franco

episode 024 - the therapy episode

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 07:30:00 +0100

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Not every therapist will be your person. Not every session will feel like a breakthrough. But when it’s right? It shifts everything.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the different types of therapy (mainstream + niche), how to actually get started without spending a fortune, why therapy sometimes doesn’t work, and a few personal stories from my own journey in and out of it since I was 18.

This one’s honest, practical, and hopefully helpful, so whether you’re brand new to therapy or deep in the work, enjoy xx!

Books mentioned:

• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone – Lori Gottlieb

• The State of Affairs – Esther Perel

• Attached – Amir Levine

• The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk

• It Didn’t Start With You – Mark Wolynn

• What Happened to You? – Oprah & Bruce Perry

• The Drama of the Gifted Child – Alice Miller

DM me your thoughts, or share this with a friend who needs it 💌

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episode 023 - the sisterhood chronicles: making new friends

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 09:45:00 +0100

Making new friends in your 30s isn’t easy, but it’s possible. In this episode, we get into real strategies for expanding your circle, from WhatsApp groups to Bumble BFF to simply learning how to follow up better. If you’ve been craving deeper connection or just feeling a little stuck socially, this one’s for you babes xx!

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episode 022 - a slow and sexy summer

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Not every summer has to be your 'outside era.' In this episode, Shantel explores how to reclaim the softer side of summer and use this sacred season as a time for emotional integration and spiritual reset. From debunking the myth of the productive summer to practical rituals for slow living, this is your permission slip to choose presence over performance.

"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you." - Anne Lamott

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EPISODE 021 - New Month, New Mood (Between The Pages)

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0100

In this slower, more honest episode, I share what’s been on my mind since getting back from Athens and Mykonos. The realisations, the beauty faves I’m obsessed with and the soft reminders I’m carrying into this new month and new quarter.

We talk summer shifts, invisible weight, the scam of being palatable, and why I’m committed to growing gently, even when the world feels noisy.

Oh, and a word to the people who never quite saw me clearly: I haven’t folded, I’ve just evolved.

If you’ve been feeling a little tired, a little unsure, or a little tender in your becoming… this one’s for you!

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EPISODE 020: The Solo Trip - A Woman's Spiritual Rite of Passage

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0100

Exploring solo travel is not just an adventure; it's a spiritual rite of passage that every woman should experience. In this episode, I passionately advocate for the importance of taking solo trips before settling down or starting a family, emphasising that joy shouldn't be postponed for a partner. We dive deep into the reasons why solo travel is empowering, from rediscovering your own identity to embracing spontaneity. I also share some of my own travel mishaps, including a memorable stint of food poisoning in Lisbon that only added to my adventure. By the end, I hope to inspire you to seize your own opportunities for exploration, reminding you that the world is yours to discover, on your terms.

TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau/video/7519640911895137558

TRAVEL APP SUGGESTIONS...

ViaTour

CityMapper (not all cities, but fab in London - great for transit directions)

Google Maps (car directions and walking)

Waze for accurate traffic updates

maps.me for offline downloadable maps

XE for currency conversion (sometimes you just can’t do the mental math, lol)

Rome2Rio for combining multiple options (ie., train, car, ferry etc.,)

Bumble BFF

Airalo (e-sim, very easy and often so much cheaper!)

Translate (I prefer this to google translate!)

VPN app (I like Express VPN, because you can use it on your desktop and phone, and it stays connected)

Flush (nearest bathroom, I think it’s mostly US based, but I could be wrong?)

LINKS WITH MORE APP IDEAS…

https://traveloffscript.com/my-top-6-free-travel-apps-as-a-solo-traveller/

https://www.girlabouttheglobe.com/best-travel-apps-for-solos/

EPISODE 019 - You’re Not Lost - You’re Just Not Living on Purpose Yet

Thu, 19 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0100

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” or like you’re drifting through life, this one’s for you. In this episode, I unpack the difference between being busy and living with intention. We’ll talk about what it really means to find a life mission, why so many of us fall into autopilot, and how to reconnect with your own inner voice.

Inside this episode:

Why drifting feels comfortable and dangerous
Practical steps to start living on purpose
How to recognise when you’re outsourcing your choices to culture, family or fear

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*TIME STAMPS*

00:30 Inspired by a TikTok: Life Missions and Living on Purpose

01:02 The Drift: Existing in a Liminal Space

02:20 Living on Purpose vs. Being Busy

05:44 The Danger of Waiting for the Right Moment

06:14 Disengagement: A Cultural Epidemic

07:22 Lessons from 'Sex and the City'

15:25 The Importance of Women's Intuition

17:09 Finding Your Life Mission

20:18 Trusting Your Intuition and Embracing Change

21:48 The Formative Years: Kids Are Watching

23:42 Finding Your True Mission

24:25 Practical Steps to Discover Your Purpose

25:47 The Power of Journaling and Tracking Desires

28:03 Auditing Your Input for Clarity

31:43 Embracing the Journey and Starting Over

34:18 Crafting Your Life Mission

37:00 Final Thoughts and Journal Prompts

EPISODE 018 - Ask A Sage, AMA vol 1: Flaky Friends? Work is boring?! Help, I have Anxiety!

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0100

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Good morning and happy Thursday! In this episode, I share my excitement about attending Beyonce's Cowboy Carter concert in London, discuss my strategies for dealing with flaky friends, dive into handling anxiety, and offer career advice for those feeling unfulfilled at work. Plus, I introduce a new segment—'Ask A Sage'—where I answer your burning questions. Tune in for thoughtful insights and actionable tips to navigate life's challenges. Don't forget to subscribe and reach out with your questions!

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Beyonce Concert Excitement

05:36 Ask A Sage: Introduction to the Segment

06:30 Dealing with Flaky and Inconsistent Friends

14:56 Managing Anxiety: Tips and Insights

22:00 Finding Motivation in an Unfulfilling Job

31:53 Conclusion and Upcoming Events

EPISODE 017 - When Loving Him Meant Losing Herself

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Happy Thursday! Triggered by an eye-opening TikTok, I discuss the often overlooked self-neglect women experience, unpack how societal and cultural conditioning contribute to these behaviours, and explore the detrimental effects of over-functioning in relationships. We’ll also touch on the importance of self-advocacy, understanding attachment wounds, and discerning true love from a mere illusion. We're also on YouTube, link below and make sure to subscribe, xx!

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TIME STAMPS

00:32 Weather Woes and Podcast Inspiration

01:50 The Challenges of Podcasting

02:30 Subscribe and Stay Connected

05:13 TikTok Inspiration and Desperation

08:37 Exploring Desperation in Relationships

16:33 Self-Abandonment and Red Flags

25:40 The Importance of Self-Advocacy

31:08 The Danger of Self-Sacrifice

31:37 Cultural Patterns and Gender Roles

32:21 Divorce Statistics and Gender Dynamics

34:53 Emotional and Domestic Labor Disparities

36:16 Health and Financial Impacts of Marriage

37:45 Men's Healing Journey and Relationship Dynamics

39:57 The Reality of Relationship Expectations

54:18 The Importance of Self-Respect and Discernment

57:07 Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks

EPISODE 016 - LET THEM (see you win, see you try)

Thu, 29 May 2025 08:00:00 +0100

EPISODE 016 - LET THEM (see you win, see you try)

Visibility is powerful, but let’s not pretend it’s always *easy*. In this episode, we explore the real, messy emotional work behind letting yourself be seen, whether that’s online, in real life, or in the in-between. From the pressure of starting over with new platforms, to the vulnerability of sharing evolving parts of yourself, we talk through what it really means to show up in your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. Especially when it’s uncomfortable.

Because showing up is not about performance, it’s about presence! And you’re not showing off. You’re showing up.

In this episode:

Why visibility still feels vulnerable, even when you’re confident
The emotional gap between liking a picture vs. posting it
How pivoting content or career paths can feel like starting from scratch
Navigating new platforms and public stages with courage (not perfection)
Why your evolution might confuse people — and that’s okay
How consistency and self-permission change everything

Whether you’re launching something new, shifting your identity, or just trying to post a photo without spiralling — this one’s for you.

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EPISODE 015 - The Courage to Evolve

Thu, 22 May 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Hey loves! I’m back, woooo! Coming at you this Thursday morning directly from london! In this episode, I dive into the inspiring topic of reinvention. Triggered by a TikTok video of a woman who transformed her life, I share my thoughts on stepping into new paths with courage and grace. We discuss the real cost of change, the importance of self-honouring decisions, and how to embrace discomfort as part of growth. Plus, I'm opening up one-to-one coaching spots this summer for those who need a listening ear and a push towards change. All the details are down below, xx!!

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 Welcome and Personal Update

01:01 Coaching Announcement

01:35 Inspiration from TikTok

04:35 The Power of Reinvention

09:03 The Real Cost of Reinvention

15:04 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

Episode 014 - The Dubai Debrief

Thu, 15 May 2025 17:00:00 +0100

EPISODE 014 - The Dubai Debrief

Hiiiiii ladies, today it's pure vibes and a necessary debrief, in this between-the-pages episode of my whirlwind month of travel. From three solo weeks in Dubai to a brief stint in London, then to Toronto, and now on my way back to London! It's been a spring filled with motion, reflection, growth, and gratitude. I dive deep into my three-week Dubai trip and my surprising idea that gave me a taste of life in the Gulf. For anyone contemplating a move or just looking for insights on living abroad, this episode has got you covered. Grab a coffee, settle in, and let's discuss!

TIME STAMPS...

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:31 Travel Adventures: Dubai, London, and Toronto

02:00 House Swap Idea

03:50 Living in Dubai: A Personal Reflection

05:53 Comparing Dubai and London

15:48 Community and Friendships

23:47 Final Thoughts and Conclusion

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EPISODE 013 - Mothering Ourselves

Fri, 09 May 2025 13:30:00 +0100

Happy Friday (I know, weird)! On this week's episode of The Sage Sorority, we're talking about 'Mothering Ourselves.' We dive into what it means to give ourselves the love and care we might have missed out on, and how complex our relationships with our moms can be. I share insights from Bethany Webster's book 'Discovering the Inner Mother' and give practical tips for self-care, even if you're a mom yourself. This episode is all about holding space for all your feelings this Mother's Day. Whether you're feeling gratitude, grief, or a mix of both, this one's for you. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and share this episode with a friend who might need it , xxo!

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TIME STAMPS...

01:01 Intro!

01:38 Mother's Day Reflections

03:03 Understanding Self-Mothering

04:12 Healing the Mother Wound

05:34 Navigating Complex Mother-Child Relationships

16:07 Practical Self-Mothering Tips

24:46 Honouring Mothers and Final Thoughts

EPISODE 012 - 5 tips on Confidence - Big Energy, No Apologies!

Thu, 01 May 2025 16:00:00 +0100

EPISODE 012 - 5 tips on Confidence - Big Energy, No Apologies!

Hiiiii, sorry I'm late - I was in traffic, LOL! In today's episode, we dive deep into the essence of true confidence. As we welcome (it's gonna be) May, let's explore five practical and grounded shifts to boost your confidence from within. It's more than just Instagram captions or a stunning outfit - it's about embodying confidence that lives in your bones. Today, we uncover how to project confidence in every aspect of life. Tune in and learn how to become the most confident version of yourself!!!!

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:39 Subscribe and Support

01:13 Understanding True Confidence

02:27 Confidence Tip 1

05:18 Confidence Tip 2

07:20 Confidence Tip 3

10:34 Confidence Tip 4

14:10 Confidence Tip 5

18:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

EPISODE 011 - Unlearning the Lies: What Women in Their 30s + 40s Know Now

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0100

EPISODE 011 - Unlearning the Lies: What Women in Their 30s + 40s Know Now

Happy Thursday, friends! Welcome back to The Sage Sorority. Sending this to you from sunny Dubai, I'm diving into a TikTok-inspired conversation about unlearning deep-seated beliefs that no longer serve us, especially for women in their 30s + 40s (my fave group, obvi).

We’ll explore profound realisations on reclaiming ourselves, redefining power and boundaries, and spiritual awakenings. Don't forget to subscribe on all platforms and share with friends who could use a dose of wisdom today. Let's grow this pod, one conversation (+ share) at a time. See you next week and have an amazing weekend!!!!

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TIME STAMPS...

00:00 Introduction and Host's Update

00:33 Unlearning Lies: TikTok Inspiration

02:50 Reclaiming the Self

15:45 Redefining Power and Boundaries

26:22 Spiritual and Energetic Realisations

39:32 Final Thoughts and Reflection

EPISODE 010 - Do Men Do Friendship Better? Breakups, Banter + BFFs!

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0100

EPISODE 010 - Do Men Do Friendship Better? Breakups, Banter + BFFs!

Hiiiiii from Dubai! In this episode, we discuss what women can learn from men's friendship styles. Inspired by an article from The Guardian, I explores the differences between male and female friendships, emphasising the value of emotional vulnerability, reciprocity, and the importance of physical affection. I also touch on how women can improve their friendships by adopting some elements from men's relational dynamics, aiming to strike a balance between openness, love, grace, and ease. TLDR: Can we all be a bit better?

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THE GUARDIAN ARTICLE:

TIME STAMPS…

00:00 Welcome to Dubai: A Personal Introduction

01:37 The Sisterhood Chronicles: Exploring Female Friendships

02:38 Learning from Male Friendships

06:45 The Fragility of Female Friendships

08:49 Reciprocity in Friendships

17:29 The Dynamics of Group Friendships

25:14 Understanding Different Social Contexts

26:37 Evaluating Friendships: The Bigger Picture

29:32 The Importance of Effort in Friendships

37:46 Graceful Exits and Conflict Resolution

43:15 Physical Affection and Friendship Dynamics

46:51 Final Thoughts on Friendship

Episode 009 - 5 Podcasts that have changed my life (+ will change yours too!)

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 13:30:00 +0100

Hiiii guys! Today, I'm thrilled to share with you the five podcasts that have genuinely transformed my life. As an avid podcast listener since 2014? 2013?, I've gained so much insight, self-development, and knowledge from this amazing medium.

In this episode, I'll be counting down my top five life-changing podcasts from number five to my absolute favourite, sharing why they matter to me and some must-listen episodes.

Plus, I've got some honourable mentions worth checking out too! If any podcast episodes have impacted your life, share them with me on Instagram. Let's expand our podcast subscriptions together, yay (!!!!)

TIME STAMPS..

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:09 The Impact of Podcasting on My Life

02:05 Podcast #5

05:02 Podcast #4

09:20 Podcast #3

14:06 Podcast #2

21:21 Podcast #1

26:45 Honorable Mentions

37:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Episode 008 - March Favourites (+ a call to action!)

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0100

March Favourites and a call to action!

SHOW NOTES...

Shantel shares her March favourites, ranging from skincare to beauty treatments, while also discussing the importance of voting strategically in the upcoming Canadian federal election on April 28th, 2025.

Shantel emphasises harm reduction and collective thinking in these politically complicated times. She also delves into her personal experiences with skincare, hair care, and reading, offering insights and recommendations that listeners will love.

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Skin Laundry - https://www.skinlaundry.com/treatments/signature-laser

TIME STAMPS...

00:00 Introduction and Election Talk

00:22 Canadian Federal Election Insights

00:32 Strategic Voting and Harm Reduction

01:23 Voting Logistics and Requirements

02:38 Political Landscape in Canada

05:47 Call to Action: Vote Liberal

06:27 March Favourites: Beauty and Lifestyle

06:31 Springtime Vibes and Personal Updates

07:22 Lent Sacrifices and Eating Habits

09:35 Beauty Favourites: Skincare and Lip Care

12:02 Sephora Shopping Experience

14:23 Lip Care Recommendations

16:42 Sephora Collection Glossed Lip Gloss

17:49 Non-Black Hair Products for Black Hair

19:06 Hyper-Specific Hair Care with Kerastase

20:21 Moisture vs. Oil: Hair Care Insights

22:23 Book Recommendation: 45 Things to Do Before You Turn 45 by Julia Tuffs

27:05 Affordable Laser Facials

32:32 Lazy Pasta Recipe by Justine Cooks

34:06 March Favourites Recap

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EPISODE 007 - Dating in your 30s: Asking the (right) questions!

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0100

EPISODE 007 - Dating in your 30s: Asking the (right) questions!

Happy Thursday and welcome back to the podcast! In this episode, I'm diving into the insane world of dating.

I'll be sharing my personal dating journey, including my social experiment of going on 50 first dates in 12 months. I'll also discuss the importance of asking high-quality questions during dates to truly get to know someone. From understanding emotional intelligence to unearthing their family patterns, I cover 15 essential questions—and a bonus one!—that you should weave naturally into your conversations.

This episode is geared towards helping babes in their thirties navigate dating with intention and curiosity. LMK what you think and share this with a friend who's in her dating era, xx!

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TIME STAMPS...

00:00 Welcome and Gratitude

01:03 Introduction to Dating Topic

01:40 Navigating Small Talk in Dating

03:00 High-Quality Dating Questions

06:17 Question 1: What Are You Excited About?

07:35 Question 2: What's the Most Recent Book You've Read?

09:37 Question 3: What Has Been Your Proudest Moment?

10:35 Emotional Intelligence and Accountability

15:45 Family Patterns and Self-Awareness

18:26 Understanding Family Dynamics

19:45 Exploring Relationship Patterns

19:50 Lighthearted Questions for Deeper Insights

21:59 Romantic Gestures and Their Significance

25:10 Resilience and Gratitude

26:41 Revealing Deep Connections

28:00 Discussing Past Relationships

30:40 Social Media and Modern Dating

32:39 Final Thoughts and Dating Advice

Episode 006 - The Sisterhood Chronicles (Pt.1): Why Female Friendships Are So Complex (and Beautiful)

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0100

The Sisterhood Chronicles (Pt.1): Why Female Friendships Are So Complex (and Beautiful)

Mentioned in this episode:

Signs of friendship red flags and green flags

Why friendship breakups can hit harder than romantic ones

How female friendship evolves in your 30s

If you enjoyed this episode, you’ll also love [Episode 023: Making New Friends] and [Episode 025: The Friendship Audit] for more real talk on the complexities of sisterhood.

Share your thoughts with me on Instagram @theSageSorority and let's keep the conversation going! Have a beautiful week, ladies xx!

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:33 The Complexity of Female Friendships

02:34 The Importance of Female Friendships

04:16 The Science Behind Female Friendships

05:26 Authenticity in Female Friendships

08:11 The Reciprocity in Friendships

09:11 The Radical Significance of Female Friendships

18:08 The Unrealistic Expectations of Romantic Partners

25:55 Conclusion and Next Steps

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Episode 005 - 30 Lessons I’ve Learned in My 30s (So Far)

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Highlights include:

The truth about love, money, and friendship
Why saying no is as powerful as saying yes
The underrated art of self-respect

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Audio Disclaimer

00:24 30 Lessons in My 30s: An Overview

01:48 Health and Fitness Lessons

02:40 Lesson 1: Your Body is Your Only Home

04:32 Lesson 2: Enjoyable Workouts

05:44 Lesson 3: Intuitive Eating

07:22 Lesson 4: Strength Over Thinness

09:07 Lesson 5: Daily Movement

09:53 Lesson 6: Health is Wealth

10:13 Lesson 7: Daily Laughter

11:38 Lessons on People and Relationships

11:49 Lesson 8: Politics vs. Morals

12:57 Lesson 9: Reject Scarcity Mindset

15:00 Lesson 10: Friends Grow Differently

16:07 Lesson 11: Let People Leave

16:25 Lesson 12: Delivery Matters

17:25 Lesson 13: Misery Loves Company

18:15 Lesson 14: Read More

19:55 Lesson 15: Avoid 'Should' Traps

21:23 Lesson 16: Reevaluate Beliefs

21:48 Lesson 17: Life's Unfairness

22:38 Career and Money Lessons

22:43 Lesson 18: Earning Potential

23:06 Women Excel in Sales and Investing

23:40 Earning Potential and Self-Worth

24:05 Taking Risks and Entrepreneurship

24:54 The Importance of Appearance

25:42 Quiet Confidence Over Loud Boasting

26:43 Regret of Inaction

27:31 Indecision is Still a Decision

28:28 Standing Alone for What's Right

29:15 Value of Vintage

30:43 Rising from Rock Bottom

31:21 Building Momentum in Life

33:56 Done is Better Than Perfect

35:33 Pushing Through the Dip

37:31 Do You Like Him or the Idea of Him?

38:41 Men as Followers

41:10 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Episode 004 - Between The Pages, Love Is Blind

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0100

Hey loves! Welcome to the inaugural episode of Sage Sorority: Between the Pages. Today, I’m real casual and a bit unhinged with my thoughts on the latest season of Love Is Blind. Listen to my thoughts on all of the drama, the couples, and obvi the (major) red flags.

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TIMESTAMPS...

00:00 Introduction to Sage Sorority Between the Pages

00:51 Inaugural Episode: Love is Blind

00:59 Reality TV Musings and Love is Blind Overview

01:52 Detailed Thoughts on Love is Blind

05:25 Family Dynamics and Reality TV

18:05 Couple Predictions and Analysis

19:19 The Trainwreck Couple: Lauren and David

27:22 The Cute Couple: Daniel and Taylor

29:37 Final Notes and Singlets

38:34 Conclusion and Wrap-Up

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