Everything else you need is here. The Book, The School, Private Mentorship. https://www.msstarmonroe.com/

You already know what makes you feel most alive, the rhythms, the spaces, the choices that open you. You also know what pulls you away, the pace that drains you, the yes that should have been a no.

The Unhurried Woman doesn’t chase more information. She lives her knowing. She trusts her body the first time. She moves with her own seasons, creates her own pace, and builds a life that feels like medicine every single day.

This is the work, closing the gap between what you know and how you live. And when you do, you stop doubting yourself, stop overriding your instincts, and start creating from the deepest part of who you are.

Everything else you need is here. The Book, The School, Private Mentorship. https://www.msstarmonroe.com/

You can feel it, the life that’s been calling you closer.

Mornings that start without rush. Decisions made from a deep knowing. Days that move with a rhythm that feels like yours. Conversations where you’re fully there, not half in your head.

You’ve done the work. You know the language. You’ve gathered the tools. What you’re craving now isn’t more information, it’s the embodiment. The integration. The moment it stops being something you “practice” and starts being the way you live.

This is where your life refines itself into something quieter, richer, more elegant. Where your body leads, your wisdom is your default, and your ambition sharpens into its truest form.

This is the mark of The Unhurried Woman. She doesn’t rush. She moves with certainty. She leads from within.

You’ve seen her in flashes. In the way you’ve held your ground in a conversation. In the way you’ve walked into a room and owned your energy without needing to say a word. In the way you’ve chosen what matters over what’s easy. That’s not a future version of you. That’s the part of you that’s already here, fully formed, waiting to be lived.

She’s not waiting for the world to choose her. She is created through devotion. Through the steady, unglamorous choices to rise without applause, to let go of roles that no longer fit, to move from a place of certainty and reverence for herself.

This is the moment you stop looking for her and start embodying her.

You’ve built the life. You can hold it all. You know how to deliver, how to create results, how to keep the plates spinning. But somewhere between the back-to-back decisions and the constant mental noise, you’ve stopped feeling your life.

The coffee tastes the same every morning. Showers disappear from memory before you’ve even dried off. Conversations feel half-lived because your mind is already on the next thing. You’re not overthinking, you’re underfeeling.

Sensual living changes that. Not the glossy, staged version, but the grounded, present, deeply human version. It’s the art of coming home to your senses, slowing down enough to taste your own life, and leading yourself from the truth of the moment instead of the demands of your mind.

In this episode, I share what sensual living really looks like, and how it has transformed everything from the way I start my mornings, to how I hold space for the people I love, to how I lead The School of Devotional Living. You’ll hear the moment I chose presence over reaction with my son, and how that one choice reflects an entire shift in the way I live, love, and lead.

If you’re ready to stop running life from the neck up and start inhabiting it with all of you, this conversation is your invitation.

There’s a space between vice and virtue where life feels richer, fuller, more alive. This is where The Unhurried Woman lives, not forcing herself forward through rules and willpower, not abandoning herself to impulse, but moving with the kind of grounded certainty that only comes from devotion.

In this episode, I’m inviting you to step out of the exhausting loop of discipline and rebellion, and into the deeper, more sustainable way of leading yourself. You’ll hear why willpower alone always cracks under pressure, how devotion changes the way you make choices, and why the balance between softness and strength is where your magnetism lives.

This isn’t about “trying harder.” It’s about trusting yourself enough to choose without force. It’s about moving at your own pace because your integrity holds you steady. And once you learn to live here, in that rare balance between desire and discipline, your standards rise naturally, your relationships deepen, and every part of your life begins to reflect who you truly are.

If you’ve been feeling the pull toward a more elegant, embodied way of living, this is your invitation to stop pushing and start leading yourself from within.

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You already know you’re moving too fast. You’ve tried to slow down, taken the long walk, cleared your calendar, carved out a little space. But the stillness feels off. Uncomfortable. Awkward. So you snap back into motion, not because you want to, but because it’s what you know.

In this episode, I go beneath that discomfort. Because slowing down isn’t just a scheduling choice. It’s a nervous system recalibration. It brings you face to face with what you’ve been avoiding, and asks you to meet yourself in a new way, without the rush, without the override, without the performance.

You’ll learn why urgency has felt like safety for so long, why stillness feels edgy, and how to stay with yourself long enough to finally live differently. We’ll also explore The Unhurried Woman, the identity shift required to not just try slowing down, but actually build a life that holds you.

My Wild Love Affair by Star Monroe is available on Amazon.

You say you want depth. A slower, richer, more emotionally connected life. One that isn’t just curated but actually feels like yours.

But here’s the truth no one’s told you:

The nervous system you’re operating with was built for survival - not intimacy, not safety, not presence.

In this episode, I name the real reason why all your healing, growth, and habits haven’t landed the way you hoped.

• Why you still feel disconnected.
• Why you keep abandoning yourself in moments that matter.
• Why you’re addicted to doing - even when you know it’s costing you everything.
• This is the turning point. If you’re ready to live differently, you’ll need to create a new rhythm, one your body can trust.

Because the life you want cannot be built at the pace you’ve been living.

And it sure as hell can’t be built from a nervous system still wired to survive.

Inside this episode, I walk you through:

• The myths about alignment you’ve been sold (and why they keep you on the surface)
• Why “vision,” “vibration,” and better habits won’t save you if they’re built on the wrong wiring
• The truth about real alignment: what it feels like, what it asks of you, and why most people avoid it
• How I rebuilt my inner foundation through micro-choices, not grand gestures
• What devotion really looks like behind the scenes, when no one’s clapping and no one’s watching

This is for the woman who’s done with surface-level living. Who’s ready to live the life she already built, but from a place of truth, not survival.

The Book. My Wild Love Affair. Available on Amazon.

The School of Devotional Living. We start in September. Join the waitlist https://www.msstarmonroe.com/theschool

Private Mentorship. Apply here - https://www.msstarmonroe.com/private-mentorship

Maybe you start posting more confidently. Wearing the red lipstick. Saying no on dates. Repeating affirmations in the mirror. Declaring your standards in your journal. All good things. But if you haven’t done the deeper work, the nervous system regulation, the identity rewiring, the real-time integration - you’ll keep slipping back.

Because it’s one thing to look like the woman who knows her worth.

It’s another to live like her when your heart is breaking.

When the money doesn’t come.

When the man ghosts.

When you son doesn't talk to you.

When your old survival patterns flare up and beg you to settle.

Yes, you can make the big decision. The declaration. The dramatic pivot. But unless you rewire yourself from the inside out, you will return to the same habits, the same choices, the same people. The decision is the beginning. Not the end.

Inside this episode, we go deep into...

• Why transformation isn’t sustainable without nervous system recalibration and embodiment

• The real difference between awareness and observation

• What embodiment actually looks like in daily life

• Why rushing to reinvent yourself always backfires

• What devotion to your evolution looks like in real time

Listen now. And when you're ready to move beyond surface-level change and into a life that actually reflects who you are becoming, you know where to find me.

My Wild Love Affair. Available on Amazon.

The School of Devotional Living. We start in September. Join the waitlist https://www.msstarmonroe.com/theschool

Private Mentorship. Apply here https://www.msstarmonroe.com/private-mentorship

Join the waitlist for The School of Devotional Living. https://www.msstarmonroe.com/theschool

Apply for Private Mentorship if you’re ready to walk this path intimately. https://www.msstarmonroe.com/private-mentorship

Today we continue The Wild Love Affair, a 12-part series of intimate conversations on coming home to yourself through embodiment, devotional living, and deeper intimacy.

You’ve done the work. You’ve built the life. So why does it still feel like something’s missing? In this episode, Star explores the second portal of The Star Monroe Method: Recognition. Recognition isn’t about spotting another pattern to analyse. It’s about finally telling the truth about the patterns you’ve been tolerating, the ones that keep you quietly abandoning yourself while maintaining the appearance of having it all together.

Key Takeaways...

• Intellect will get you far, but it won’t get you free. You can’t think your way into the woman you’re becoming. At some point, you have to live your truth, not just understand it.
• Recognition is where change begins. It’s the moment you stop bypassing what’s right in front of you and admit the quiet ways you abandon yourself for approval, connection, and success.
• Your patterns are not your identity. Seeing them clearly, without shame or bypassing, is how you begin to shift from living a life that looks good to a life that feels like yours.
• Embodiment over intellectualising. The path to deeper connection and intimacy in your life and relationships begins when you are willing to see what’s true and live from that truth.

Today we continue The Wild Love Affair, a 12-part series of intimate conversations on coming home to yourself through embodiment, devotional living, and deeper intimacy.

This is a return to the woman you’ve always been beneath the roles, the resilience, and the relentless drive to hold it all together. This series coincides with the release of my new book, My Wild Love Affair.

And today, we begin where every true return begins...

With rupture. The quiet, private reckoning, the moment you stop lying to yourself, the moment you admit the beautiful life you’ve built no longer fits.

Inside this episode, we explore...

• The real meaning of rupture (and why it’s sacred)
• How the body knows the truth before the mind is ready
• The 3am ache that signals something must change
• Why habits that once felt nourishing can start to feel wrong
• The first portal inside The Star Monroe Method

If you’re ready to take this deeper, begin with my book - My Wild Love Affair (available now on Amazon)

Join the waitlist for The School of Devotional Living.

https://www.msstarmonroe.com/theschool

Apply for Private Mentorship if you’re ready to walk this path intimately.

https://www.msstarmonroe.com/private-mentorship

Today marks the beginning of The Wild Love Affair, a new 12-part series of intimate conversations on coming home to yourself, through embodiment, devotional living, and deeper intimacy.

This is a return to the woman you’ve always been beneath the roles, the resilience, and the relentless drive to hold it all together. This series coincides with the release of my new book, My Wild Love Affair.

And we begin where every honest return begins...

The truth about self-abandonment.

Not the dramatic kind that ends in collapse, but the quiet, high-functioning kind that builds silently inside marriages, businesses, routines, and lives that look beautiful on the outside.

Inside this episdoe we explore...

– What self-abandonment really looks like for high-achieving women

– Why it begins in childhood, especially for the oldest daughters

– The slow cost to your body, your intimacy, your joy

– How performing has kept you safe - but disconnected

– And what it means to stop abandoning yourself and come home

The Wild Love Affair is what happens when you stop living the life you were taught to want and start telling the truth about the one you actually crave.

If this conversation stirs something in you, stay with it. Don’t rush to fix it. Just don’t abandon it.

Begin with the book: My Wild Love Affair (available now on Amazon)

Join the waitlist for The School of Devotional Living

Apply for Private Mentorship if you’re ready to be deeply met

This is your return. Welcome home.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my fabulous self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Over my 30 years of working with women, I've found that true transformation begins when you're ready to question everything, leave your comfort zone, and dive into the unknown. Real change requires you to confront uncomfortable truths, face your emotions, and rewrite old stories that no longer serve you.

I went from addiction and self-destruction to becoming an empowered woman by taking radical responsibility for my choices and patterns. It meant seeing my life through a new lens and stepping into my highest self—the Inner Muse. This transformation wasn’t easy, but it awakened my potential and made me realize—who is vibrant, whole, and ready to lead the way.

Through this journey, I discovered the Red Thread—the moments that awaken your true self—feeling alive, connected, and at peace. The High Standards Woman chooses herself every day, knowing her worth is non-negotiable and her desires are meant for her. If you’re ready to meet her, to become the woman who always gets what she wants, join me. Let’s peel back the layers and ignite the power within you.

Your values are the pillars of your fabulous life. If you don't define them, the world will impose its own version—and we can't have that. In this episode, I share how defining deeper values like self-respect, self-trust, and self-love transformed my life. We'll explore how aligning with your true values elevates your standards and brings fulfillment. Grab your journal, dive in, and start defining what truly matters to you.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life that makes sense to you. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life that makes sense to you. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Ready to stop playing small and start getting everything you want? In this episode, we dive into how to leave behind the sidelines and become the woman who gets it all. No more holding back, settling, or saying "maybe later"—it's time to step fully into the life you desire. Join me as we explore what it takes to go from a supporting role to the star of your own show.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life that makes sense to you. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Desperella, as we’ve uncovered, is the villain who quietly sabotages your progress. She convinces you that settling is safer than demanding more, that over-giving will finally earn you the validation you seek, and that your dreams are out of reach. But what if Desperella is more than just an enemy? What if she also holds the key to your transformation?

In every woman, Desperella represents the shadow—the part of you that thrives on fear, insecurity, and doubt. But shadows aren’t meant to be banished. They are meant to be integrated and understood. Desperella, while destructive, offers a mirror. She shows you where you need to heal, where you’ve been playing small, and where you’ve handed over your power. And this is where the true transformation begins.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants.

Raising your standards isn’t just about expecting more from others. It’s about elevating how you treat yourself, the boundaries you set, and the choices you make daily. It’s about declaring that mediocrity has no place in your life and that you are worthy of everything you desire.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

It all starts with choice. Once you recognize Desperella’s influence, you must choose to act differently. What would the High Standards Woman do in these moments? She would demand what she deserves, set clear boundaries, and prioritize herself—not out of selfishness, but out of self-respect.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Desperella is the shadow side of every woman—the part of you that whispers, “You’re not enough.” She convinces you to seek validation from others, to over-give in relationships, to chase approval, and to settle for crumbs when you deserve the whole feast. She isn’t just a fleeting thought or a passing emotion. Desperella shows up in the small, seemingly insignificant decisions you make every day.

But here’s the truth: Desperella only has power as long as you allow her to.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, hosted by my exceptional self, Star Monroe; Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This podcast is for ambitious, driven women who demand more, who are ready to align with their highest self, embody their inherent worth, and magnetize everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants.

People don’t hear your words—they hear your tone and energy. You could say all the right things, but if your energy doesn’t match, the message won’t land. It’s your energy that people truly connect with, and as a High Standards Woman, this is where your power lies. When your tone, energy, and actions align, you become magnetic, drawing in the right people and opportunities effortlessly.

One of the most powerful ways to activate this magnetism is through the practice of leaning back. Too often, we get caught up in chasing and pushing, which comes from fear or neediness. But when you lean back, you shift from chasing to attracting, creating space for what you want to come to you. This is where the Siren Effect comes into play—an effortless allure that draws people in without you having to try.

In dating, career, or even social settings, the Siren Effect allows you to become magnetic by owning your space. Men, opportunities, and experiences are naturally drawn to you because your energy speaks louder than any words could. And when you’re aligned—when your energy matches your words and actions—you radiate the kind of confidence and presence that others can’t resist.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, with your host, Star Monroe—Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This is for ambitious women ready to live aligned with their Highest Selves, embody their inherent worth, and attract everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, with your host, Star Monroe—Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This is for ambitious women ready to step into their divine sovereignty, own their worth, and attract everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants.

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, with your host, Star Monroe—Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This is for ambitious women ready to step into their divine sovereignty, own their worth, and attract everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, with your host, Star Monroe—Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This is for ambitious women ready to step into their divine sovereignty, own their worth, and attract everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, with your host, Star Monroe—Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman. This is for ambitious women ready to step into their divine sovereignty, own their worth, and attract everything they desire.

Join me each week for transformational conversations, insights and strategies to help you rise up, embrace unapologetic confidence, and live a life of excellence. It’s time to become the woman who always gets what she wants

In this episode, I’m diving into my recent dreams of guinea pigs and haircuts gone wrong, and how they’re reflecting my growth away from external validation. I also talk about how my body’s been running hotter than normal, like it's burning off old energy (Tummo monk-style!), as I step into this next phase of my life. Plus, I’m sharing the pressure I’ve been feeling to have it all figured out—and how I’m navigating that with humor, self-awareness, and a bit of sarcastic fun. Join me for some playful, real talk on what it means to grow and expand!

Step into Your High Standards Woman Era with Star Monroe. Star Monroe, sought-after Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman, invites you to rise up and embrace a life of excellence. For women who demand more, this is your moment to become unapologetically confident, fully own your worth, and effortlessly attract everything you desire.

Have you ever felt like you’re not enough? Like there’s something inherently wrong with you that needs fixing? Perhaps you’ve found yourself believing that there isn’t enough money, time, energy, opportunities, or love to go around. So, you settle for crumbs. This is the essence of a lack mindset, and it’s not how a High Standards Woman moves through the world.

The High Standards Woman knows better. She recognizes these limiting beliefs for what they are and replaces them with an abundant mindset. She understands her worth and treats herself like the most valued woman on the planet. She is deeply connected to her divinity, trusting herself, and holding herself to the highest standards in every aspect of her life—wealth, health, business, career, creativity, pleasure, and intimacy. She knows there is more than enough love, wealth, happiness, energy, time, connections, and opportunities for everyone.

This mindset shift allows her to move through the world in the highest frequency—the frequency of authenticity. She knows who she is, what she wants, and she knows she will always get it.

I understand this journey intimately. Growing up, I was raised by parents who lived with a lack mentality. Teaching myself to live in abundance was a transformative experience, and now, I guide women (just like you) on this same journey. If you want to shift from lack to abundance, learn from someone who has walked that path and figured it out firsthand. I know the steps you need to take and how to navigate any obstacles because I've been there.

The time has come to make a powerful decision: to live differently. Imagine the transformation that awaits you when you release the scarcity mindset and embrace the abundant life you deserve. Picture yourself, moving through the world with an unshakeable confidence, elegance, and a deep sense of self-worth.

Star Monroe, on demand Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman, invites you to step into your High Standards Woman Era. Embrace your transformation into an unapologetically confident woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

To join my VIP Inner Circle and purchase my latest programs click here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

You’ve been taught all your life that wanting more is selfish or greedy, leading you to suppress your true desires and settle for less—in your life, relationships, and even in how you see yourself. But deep down, you know this isn’t who you are. That yearning inside you isn’t wrong; it’s a call to break free from these limiting beliefs and step into the abundant, fulfilling life of a High Standards Woman. You’re not here to settle—you’re here to demand more, live boldly, and make your dreams a reality. And I’m here to guide you on that journey, helping you reclaim your power and fully embrace your identity as a High Standards Woman.

Star Monroe, on demand Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman, invites you to step into your High Standards Woman Era. Embrace your transformation into an unapologetically confident woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

This journey is about profound transformation at your core. As you embrace sovereignty and self-mastery, demand more from yourself, and elevate your emotional energy, you'll witness dramatic changes across all aspects of your life. Envision commanding attention and respect in every room you enter, your presence vibrant and full of life, attracting opportunities as if by magic. This transformation isn't merely about financial improvement; it's about elevating your entire lifestyle where success in health, relationships, and personal fulfillment are natural outcomes.

The ethos of The High Standards Woman goes beyond surface-level changes; it involves a deep, transformative shift in how you see yourself and interact with the world. This transformation paves the way for a life filled with joy, growth, and genuine self-assurance.

I’m Star Monroe, your guide on this journey. I evolved from Main Character Energy to The High Standards Woman because I realized life had more in store than merely surviving. Having embraced my true worth and overcome personal challenges in my 40s, I'm now dedicated to helping you and others flourish.

Are you ready to discover how fulfilling your life can truly become? Join me as we step into the realm of high standards, where your dreams are not just dreams but reflections of your new reality. Stay tuned. This is just the beginning. I can’t wait to embark on this transformative journey with you.

Star Monroe, on demand Psychotherapist, Master Life Coach, and Founder of The High Standards Woman, invites you to step into your High Standards Woman Era. Embrace your transformation into an unapologetically confident woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful women over 50 who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance they need to uncover insights they can’t see on their own and transform into unapologetically confident women who know their worth and always get what they want.

Tell her, her words and stories are heard and, that she is welcome here in your world. Invite her to have a seat at your table (with all the other parts of your psyche).

Massage her shoulders, give her a kiss on her forehead. Tell her you love her and THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART remind her that YOU ARE IN CHARGE here.

Yes, she can share her opinion, yes she will always be heard and yes (you tell her firmly with pure unadulterated love) you will always challenge her words and stories, because you both know that underneath everything she says, lies her fears.

And her (your) fears are welcome into your world.

Because you know that you have the strength, courage and resilience to STRUT through your fears, that your fears are teachers in their own right and you WELCOME them into your world.

Because ultimately you know YOU ARE AN EMPRESS OF THE HIGHEST ORDER with Angels, Guardian Spirits and Divine Intelligence on your side and nothing/no one (especially yourself) can get in the way of your BRILLIANCE.

Carry on EMPRESS!

Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful women over 50 who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance they need to uncover insights they can’t see on their own and transform into unapologetically confident women who know their worth and always get what they want.

What does this mean?

⭐️Keep your focus firmly on yourself.

⭐️Become your main obsession. Channel your energy into your own growth, not fixing or saving others.

⭐️Consistently make yourself a priority.

⭐️Develop the skills to declutter your emotional house.

⭐️Amplify your self-care and wellness rituals. (We are all getting older, and NEED to take better care of ourselves, so get to it)

⭐️Take yourself off the sidelines and stand proudly in the spotlight.

Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful women over 50 who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance they need to uncover insights they can’t see on their own and transform into unapologetically confident women who know their worth and always get what they want.

Download my ebook &/or mini program here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

If you're serious about levelling up your life it's time to drop those sneaky habits and patterns that have held you back. What got you here won’t get you there. You must be willing to look at yourself through a magnifying glass and face the truth.

Last year, I noticed some recurring patterns. After my divorce, I decided to start dating again. But I quickly fell into old habits: meeting men, sleeping with them instantly, and wondering why nothing progressed. I had to confront myself and realize I was seeking external validation because I felt unfulfilled.

The first step was to decenter men and focus on my own soul. I decided to be consciously single and validate myself. It’s the small things that count. For example, while on the treadmill at the gym, I caught myself wondering if a guy was looking at me. I stopped and thought, “Bitch, you need to look at yourself.” That moment was a domino effect leading me to appreciate and pour energy into myself.

This shift transformed my business and my life. I'm no longer seeking external validation, and I converse with men confidently without needing anything from them. I’m more self-assured and fulfilled, knowing that what I want will come to me when I’m ready. This transformation wouldn't have happened if I hadn’t been willing to examine myself deeply and change those ingrained patterns.

Another significant change was cutting out alcohol. I realized I was drinking more than I wanted to, so I stopped. Now, I feel liberated, full of energy, and healthier than ever at 53.

Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful women over 50 who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance they need to uncover insights they can’t see on their own and transform into unapologetically confident women who know their worth and always get what they want.

Women are not here to please others. Stop sacrificing your needs, desires, and dreams to cater to everyone else. You’re not a doormat, and your worth isn’t tied to how agreeable or accommodating you are. It’s time to reclaim your power. Set boundaries that protect your energy and prioritize your own desires unapologetically. You deserve respect, not because you’re nice, but because you are fierce, capable, and unapologetically you. Live boldly, demand more, and never settle for less. You are not here to please—you’re here to conquer. Embrace your strength, speak your truth, and let the world adjust to your presence. Stand tall, take up space, and own every room you walk into. You are a force to be reckoned with, and it’s time everyone knows it.

Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful 50+ women who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance they need to uncover insights they can’t see on their own and transform into unapologetically confident women who know their worth and always get what they want.

Today, let's talk about raising our standards for ourselves and shame. From my journey and the work I do with my clients, I’ve learned that these two things can’t coexist in a healthy way. If you demand more from life, you must demand more from yourself, which means navigating your shame differently. Allow me to unpack this with you.

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Currently, I’m in Kalkan, a town about 60 minutes from where I live in Turkey. I traveled here by car and booked a house through Airbnb, nestled on top of a mountain with breathtaking views. One thing I crave is new experiences, so I chose this house purposefully.

As with many properties in Turkey, the address wasn’t straightforward. When I finally reached the top of the mountain, I couldn’t find the house. I admired the sea and mountains, then turned around and saw the house perched even higher up, with a nearly vertical road leading to it. I took a deep breath and thought, “How am I going to do this?”

The guy meeting me was waving, confirming I was in the right place. I maneuvered my car, began the steep ascent, but halfway up, my car started skidding. Panic set in. I braked, put the car in park, and felt my heart racing. Tears welled up, a sign from childhood that I’m overwhelmed. But as an adult, I understand I’ve overloaded my bandwidth.

In that moment of overwhelm, the man ran down to help. I felt defensive and scared, projecting my fear onto him. But then I paused and recognized my old patterns—defensiveness as a form of protection. I took a deep breath and said, “I need to do this myself as I need to be able to come and go from this house.”

He respected my wish. I felt scared and vulnerable, but I honored my feelings. This honesty with myself marked a pivotal shift. Instead of shaming myself, I acknowledged my fear and took control. With his guidance, I reversed down the steep road, took another deep breath, and tried again. This time, I made it to the top, feeling victorious.

Standing at the top of that mountain, I realized something profound. High standards aren’t just about the big goals; they’re about how you handle the small moments, how you communicate with yourself, and how you respond to challenges. Demanding more from life means demanding more from yourself—seeing and hearing yourself deeper.

Shame and high standards can’t coexist in a healthy way because shame drags you down, keeping you stuck in old patterns and beliefs. Yet, you can use shame as a springboard to do things differently. Recognize when shame creeps in, and instead of letting it paralyze you, let it propel you. Acknowledge it, understand it, and choose a different path.

Remember, defensiveness is a form of protection. Recognize it, pause, and choose a different response. This is the essence of high standards. It’s not about perfection but about showing up for yourself in every moment, validating and recognizing your own worth.

So, if you want more from life, you must be willing to navigate shame differently. It’s about rewiring your responses, embracing your worth, and consistently choosing to elevate yourself. As you do, you’ll create a lifestyle that supports your highest aspirations.

Until next time, stay fabulous and know your worth.

Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful women over 50 who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance they need to uncover insights they can’t see on their own and transform into unapologetically confident women who know their worth and always get what they want.

If you want to elevate your very existence and stride through life in your Main Character Energy, embrace the mantra: nothing is inconsequential. Everything matters.

How you do anything is how you do everything. On this journey of expansion and growth, every small action builds your life. From making your bed in the morning to greeting yourself, brushing your teeth, making coffee, and journaling—every act matters.

Remember, you are the observer of your mind and thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Your job is to choose the ones that support your growth and let go of those that hold you back. Life isn’t about reaching a final destination; it’s about the journey. Embrace patience, discipline, and the willingness to delve deeper into yourself.

Nothing is inconsequential. Every word and thought shapes your reality. Practice these shifts:

- Instead of saying "I don’t know," say "Let me find out."

- Instead of "I don’t care," say "It doesn’t matter to me."

- Instead of "Tell me," say "I’m listening."

- Instead of "I’m lost," say "I’m exploring."

- Instead of "I’m tired," say "I need to rest."

- Instead of "I think," say "I’m certain."

- Instead of "I’m trying," say "I’m learning."

Nothing is inconsequential. Your thoughts and words matter.

Star Monroe is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding highly successful, ambitious 50+ women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Become an iconic woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

Are you constantly finding yourself on the clearance rack, despite knowing you're destined to be a high-value woman? Listen up. High-value women respect their time, energy, and emotional landscapes. This not only safeguards their energy but also naturally repels toxic influences—without lifting a finger. It’s all about the energy you emit.

So, why haven't you embraced this mindset? If you've grown up in an environment where your experiences were dismissed—like those endless "Stop crying" or "Get over it" comments—you've likely learned to ignore your needs. This isn't just about you; I'm a living example. I dragged this toxic baggage into adulthood, stumbling through codependency, poor financial choices, and not one, but three mental breakdowns.

It took me far too long to wake up to the reality that these patterns were not my identity—they were my conditioning. If you haven't worked through these issues in therapy yet, you've got work to do. It's crucial to pay attention to your emotional needs and fulfill them yourself. You're the only one who should dictate your life's quality—no one else.

Why Midlife? Why Now?

Midlife presents a pivotal moment to do this crucial work. It’s a time when many women reassess what they want from the next chapters of their lives. Doing this work now is essential to shed past limitations and attract more of what you truly desire—be it fulfilling relationships, career growth, or personal peace. Midlife is not just a time to look back; it’s a significant opportunity to design your future with intention and clarity.

How do you start changing this? Acknowledge the heavy conditioning you've carried. Understand that seeking external validation is a trap. Turn inwards. Listen to your body, your intuition, your emotions. It's tough, sure, but living in denial is far worse. Choose your hard.

I'll give you a personal example. Recently, I told my mother I was upset, and she dismissed my feelings. Instead of spiraling into self-doubt, I stepped back to recalibrate. I recognized this as an old pattern of dismissing my own feelings, and instead, chose to honor my emotional response.

By acknowledging and respecting my own boundaries, I strengthen my relationship with myself. This isn't a one-time fix; it’s a continuous practice of honoring yourself and refusing to numb or deny your reality. To attract respect, opportunity, and genuine connections, it starts with respecting yourself and viewing your life through a lens of high value.

Every day you wake up with yourself; every night you go to bed with yourself.

👉🏻Make sure it's someone worth waking up and going to bed with.

Be unapologetically you, honor your emotions, and watch how your world changes. Midlife is your chance to reset, recalibrate, and radiate the energy that attracts the life you deserve. Let this be your time to shine.

If you are an ambitious, successful woman over 50 who is ready to raise the roof on her standards and self-worth, because darling, when you know how valuable you are, you always get what you want—then it's time to take action. Hire me as your private coach and therapist. Right now, you can book a 1-hour consultancy session or choose the deeper path with my 3-month Rebirth package. Everything you need is right here.

Main Character Energy in process. Join me as I embrace an embarrassing moment and, transform it into an opportunity for my personal growth and elevation.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding ambitious midlife women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Flaunt your journey as an Iconic Older Woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

Join me as I share a fabulously enlightening story about self-worth that centers around one of my favorite activities—shopping! Imagine this: walking into a high-end store and feeling like it might be out of your league. That was me, 18 months ago. But not anymore. Through inner work and shifting beliefs, I transformed that feeling of unease into one of ownership and confidence.

In this tale, I'll take you to a charming town in Turkey, a place where fashion and finesse meet, and where I learned to strut unapologetically through a world that once intimidated me. From uneasy first visits to becoming a queen of the fitting room, my journey is a testament to the power of self-belief. With every espresso and pastry at the adjacent patisserie, I soaked in the ambiance and prepared myself for transformation.

This isn't just about clothes—it's about how we see ourselves in the mirrors of our lives. How shifting from a mindset of lack to one of abundance can change not just how you shop, but how you live. Discover how I went from questioning my worth to knowing deep in my fabulous heart that nothing, absolutely nothing, is out of my league. Because, darling, I am the league.

Tune in and transform how you approach every shop, every opportunity, and every reflection. It’s time to claim your place as the main character in your life story—high value, high worth, and highly fabulous!

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding ambitious midlife women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Flaunt your journey as an Iconic Older Woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

• The Queen's Path: Step into your power and embrace a life you adore.
• Bad Bitch Money School: Kick financial stress to the curb and unlock the abundance you deserve.
• Midlife Dating Detox: Navigate the dating world with newfound clarity and confidence.
• The Love Affair: It’s time to start the most important love affair—the one with yourself.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding ambitious, successful midlife women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Flaunt your journey as an Iconic High-Value Woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

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You're not here to fade into the background or drown in self-pity. You're here to own your space as an iconic older woman and embrace your body with fierce, unapologetic confidence.

You've got one body in this life. It's high time to end the internal war and sync up with yourself. Your body isn't your enemy; she's your wise and loyal ally, your partner in crime. She's screaming for your recognition, for you to see her, to care for her. Each day, you're one step closer to the end. So, what's it gonna be? Whining, bitching, and pointing fingers? Or will you rise and see yourself as the damn goddess you are?

Your body is your tool for self-expression, self-care, movement, energy, and inspiration. She's begging you to stop guzzling the toxic kool-aid of self-doubt and self-hate. She's not broken; she's your vessel for Main Character Energy. Your mission is to forge a deeper connection with her—her emotions, her sensations, her skin, her texture. She's desperate to be seen and embraced by you.

If the thought of self-love seems like a mountain, start with neutrality. Quit wasting your time hating yourself and feeding the beast of societal norms. Your body is sacred, a goddess in her own right. She wants to be moved, adorned in the best, and showered with love. She'll always communicate when she's exhausted, starving, pissed off, or ecstatic. Your job? Listen and act.

Feeling ignored or dismissed? Time to look in the mirror. Where are you neglecting your own needs? Building a trust bond with your body is crucial. Honour her, respect her. Believe me, battling with your body gets you nowhere. I've been down that road of self-destruction—addiction, alcoholism, eating disorders, mental breakdowns. It's a dead end.

Your body is constantly speaking to you, waiting for you to drench her in love, adoration, and respect. This is the ultimate relationship you'll ever have—the one with yourself, starting with your body. You're not a bystander. Step up as an iconic older woman. Cherish your body, raise your standards, and stop the negative self-talk. You're either building yourself up or tearing yourself down.

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Welcome to The Star Monroe Show, where we dive deep into Main Character Energy. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive. Today, I have a powerful reminder just for you: You are the prize. That's right, you're not the consolation prize or the runner-up, but the grand, spectacular, show-stopping prize.

Have you been putting yourself at the bottom of your to-do list, sacrificing your needs, desires, and dreams for everyone else? If so, it's time for a change. It's time to break free from the martyr archetype that's been passed down through generations and claim your rightful place at the top of your list.

I want to share with you how to embrace the belief that you are the prize in your day-to-day routine. Start each morning by looking in the mirror and affirming, "I am the prize." Let this be your mantra, your truth. It's about taking pride in your appearance and showing the world that you're not here to play small but to strut through life with confidence and grace.

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Are you tired of struggling to wind down at night and get a good night's sleep? Look no further! I have some simple steps to help you create your superstar evening routine.

1. No phone 1 hour before bedtime
2. Shower routine
3. Red Light Therapy + 10 mins meditation/visioning
4. Evening journalling. A love note to myself
5. Light reading
6. Sleep!

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

I wanted to share something with you that has changed my life. Last year I was struggling with feeling overwhelmed and lost, but I found something that has really helped me.

Have you ever felt like that? Like you're just going through the motions and not really living your life to the fullest? If so, I know you'll love this.

I started a morning practice that has made all the difference. It's simple, but powerful. I wake up slowly and greet myself kindly, I don't touch my phone for the first hour of the day, and I write morning pages as recommended in the book Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. Then, I consult the IChing for guidance and read just two pages from a book that expands my mind. It's amazing how much this has helped me feel more focused, centred, and confident. And I know it can do the same for you.

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Over the years, I've experimented with various morning rituals, and the results have been nothing short of transformative. Committing to these rituals has brought me clarity, focus, and a surge of self-assurance.

Here's the secret sauce to my morning routine:

Greeting Myself: The moment I wake up, I take a breath and greet myself with a simple "Hello, how are you?" This small act of self-recognition is crucial for building a deeper relationship with myself, the driving force behind my life.

Morning Pages: Fuelled by coffee and a fresh mindset, I dive into my morning pages, a concept inspired by Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way." This involves writing three pages of unfiltered thoughts, a practice that's essential for navigating life with more clarity.

Weeding Out Doubts: As I write, I unearth the 'weeds' of doubts and fears lurking beneath the surface. I also consult the I Ching, my personal oracle, to address any simmering self-doubt. Remember, embracing the first doubt is like the first sip for an alcoholic – it's a slippery slope.

Crafting the Day: After this stream of consciousness exercise, I map out my day, focusing on how I want to feel and setting affirmations. I seek support, protection, and guidance from my angels, sages, ancestors, and my version of God.

Gratitude and Love Ritual: I wrap up my morning ritual with a gratitude practice, expressing thanks to the greater intelligence for its support and reaffirming my commitment to self-love and serving my needs.

Here's your invitation: Reflect on how you start your day. If it's with your phone, it's time for a change (and fast!). Start by greeting yourself in bed and commit to this practice for 21 days. Patience and commitment are the hallmarks of a high-value woman – it's all about devotion to oneself. Are you ready to elevate your morning routine and embrace your high-value self?

Stay fucking fabulous!

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If you've been stuck in the good girl or mother energy trap, it's time for a wake-up call. Ambitious midlife women with big dreams can't afford to play small or sacrifice their well-being for others. It's time to kick the good girl and mother energy to the curb and reclaim your power.

Good girls are trained to maintain the status quo, putting everyone else's needs before their own, leading to a life of unfulfilled potential and simmering resentment. Mother energy, while nurturing, can become a drain on your resources when it's all about fixing and saving everyone else but yourself. As iconic older women, we know that our energy is precious, and we must be selective about where we invest it.

Feeling guilty about prioritizing yourself? It's time to challenge that notion. Guilt is often based on outdated societal expectations that don't serve you. It's a mask for deeper emotions like shame and fear. Men don't hesitate to pursue their ambitions, and neither should you. It's time to redefine how you see yourself, shedding the good girl and mother energy and embracing your right to be fabulously selfish.

The journey to realizing your dreams starts with a shift in self-perception. You need to stop seeing yourself as the good girl or the martyr and start embracing your Main Character Energy. You're the star of your show, the A-lister of your life. You need to become obsessed with yourself and recognize that you are indeed the prize.

When you embrace this new identity, you'll notice a shift in how the world responds to you. You'll start to respect your time and energy, and others will follow suit. You'll attract better-caliber friends and partners, command attention without seeking it, and turn heads wherever you go. You'll no longer need external validation because you'll know, deep in your bones, that you are valuable.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

Welcome to Main Character Energy Season 2024, a transformative journey designed to help you become the extraordinary main character of your own life. This program focuses on aligning your energy with your desires and upgrading your inner world, including your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and energy. It emphasizes daily intentional actions and guides you through a 12-month roadmap with six key tenets: self-identity, upgraded mindset, empress of emotions, magnetic energy, attitude of a high-value woman, and 5-star luxe living.

The first three months are dedicated to setting a strong foundation, followed by three months of stepping out of your comfort zone, and then three months of embodying the traits of a high-value woman. The final stage deepens your connection to your inner wisdom and power.

You'll have access to live masterclasses, coaching calls, a private Facebook group, monthly playbooks, affirmations, and exclusive content. The program also includes three bonus programs: The Art of Discipline, Decentering Men, and High-Value Relationships, as well as four coaching soirées for additional support.

With a satisfaction guarantee and a focus on taking action, Main Character Energy is designed to support and guide you every step of the way, ensuring a transformative journey towards becoming the woman who gets what she wants, always.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive. Get the book: Main Character Energy. Upgrade Your Midlife &/or the mini-course: Amplify Your Confidence here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

Skyrocket your life with standards that soar higher than the Burj Khalifa in this electrifying podcast episode. Embrace the unshakable confidence of a midlife woman who knows her worth and effortlessly commands her desires. Learn to establish boundaries as formidable as the towering Burj Khalifa, ensuring that every facet of your life reflects your true value. Say farewell to settling for less and welcome a life brimming with respect, appreciation, and undeniable luxury. Join me in redefining your standards and crafting a life that's nothing short of exceptional. Unleash your main character energy and live the life you know you've always meant to live.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive. Get the book: Main Character Energy. Upgrade Your Midlife &/or the mini-course: Amplify Your Confidence here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

In this fiery episode, I'm here to shake you out of the "good girl" trap and ignite your inner warrioress. It's time to stop playing it safe and start living a life that's bold and unapologetically fabulous. I'll guide you through ditching the victim mentality, embracing assertiveness, and advocating for yourself like never before. Get ready to stand your ground, command respect, and become the confident, unbothered midlife woman you were always meant to be. It's your time to shine, so let's set the world on fire with your Main Character Energy!

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive. Get the book: Main Character Energy. Upgrade Your Midlife &/or the mini-course: Amplify Your Confidence here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

In this spectacular episode, I dive into the concept of embracing the version of you that has already made it happen. I explore the power of leading with your future self, who is unbothered by mistakes and self-doubt because they've already arrived. Learn to listen to this version of you, understand how they would act, and start embodying those qualities now. I discuss why it's crucial to let this future self guide your decisions and how adopting a "Be it before you see it" mindset can transform your life. This episode is all about stepping into your Main Character Energy, believing in yourself right now, and navigating through the inevitable obstacles with grace. Get ready to flaunt yourself unapologetically and become obsessed with the most important relationship in your life: the one with yourself.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive. Get the book: Main Character Energy. Upgrade Your Midlife &/or the mini-course: Amplify Your Confidence here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

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In this episode, I take you on a wild ride through my life's rollercoaster – from the depths of self-destruction to the heights of main character energy. Buckle up as I spill the tea on my past filled with addiction, toxic relationships, and a relentless pursuit of fixing myself. But plot twist! In my 40s, I ditched the damsel-in-distress script and became the heroine of my own story. I transformed into a licensed psychotherapist, master life coach, and, yes, even a dominatrix. I'm here to tell you that showing up for yourself and taking intentional action every day is the secret sauce to living your most fabulous life. So, darling, get ready to embrace your authenticity, strut into your main character era, and remember – you're not just a character in your story, you're the whole damn show!

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Confident midlife women who know how valuable they are ALWAYS get what they want.

In today's episode I talk more about the things I changed to radically upgrade my life in my 50's

1. Stop wondering if men are looking at me and started looking at myself
2. Decentered men and centered myself
3. Stop dating
4. Invested all my time and energy into living in my genius
5. Created a life which supports me thriving. My life is self-care!

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

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Confident midlife women who know how valuable they are ALWAYS get what they want and they do NONE of the following...

1. Blaming menopause for how you feel
2. Always being so nice 
3. Victim mentality 
4. Always apologising
5. Dragging your past around with you 
6. Wishing you were younger 
7. Shitty wellness regimes 
8. Numbing out 
9. Fixing yourself 

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Listen up, because yesterday's call with one of my one-on-one clients was an absolute game-changer. She had what I'd call a 'come to Jesus' moment. It might sound dramatic, but it's spot on. She was stuck in a loop, repeating the same old habits and expecting miracles. So, I did what I do best – I called her out on her BS with some seriously potent questions, questions you can ask yourself right now. Here they are:

1. Do you really want to change?
2. What are you prepared to do differently?
3. Are you actually ready to do something about your situation right now?

I can't help but giggle because that session took a wild turn. I handed her back her power and control. She took her sweet time answering these questions, and that's exactly what I suggest you do as well. If you find yourself running in circles, doing the same thing and expecting different outcomes, sit down with these questions. Give yourself the space to truly answer them. Drop into your body and let the real answers bubble up.

And hey, if you're a midlife woman caught in the cycle of repeat and rinse, and you're ready to stop messing around and start living an intentional, fabulous life as a high-value woman, then swing by my profile. Let's explore how we can work together and make magic happen.

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Let’s dive into the evening edition of romancing the heck out of your life.

Firstly, in your house, I bet there are things you’re saving for ‘best’. Well, guess what? Best is now. That cutlery, dress, china, those fancy tablecloths, the plush duvet covers – use them now. When I embraced this in my life, everything changed. A side note: since moving from the UK to Turkey last year, everything in my home is the best, and I use it every single day. It makes me feel like an empress, a queen. You should do it too.

Secondly, you don’t have to splurge a fortune, unless you want to. Light those candles, especially that fancy one your aunt gave you years ago. Let its aroma – or ‘throw’ as they call it – envelop your room.

And here's a good one: every meal you prepare for yourself, do it with love and intention. Pour your heart into your cooking because it infuses the food with energy, which then nourishes your body. By treating yourself like an empress, like a queen, you take ownership of your life in the most empowering way.

So, give it a go and let me know how it works out for you. I'm here to support you in romancing the life out of your life because I know, once you do, everything shifts in your favour.

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We both know no one is coming to save you/rescue you/hand you all the answers on a silver platter.

Right!?

So, if you're feeling unfulfilled, anxious, and riddled with self-doubt in midlife, it's up to you to make the necessary changes.

And guess what...

Today's your lucky day because I'm about to reveal one of my go-to midlife elixirs that will amplify your confidence, happiness and Main Character Energy Vibes.

So, let's do this...

You need to romance the shit out of your life.

That’s right, you – not some mythical knight in shining armour or some mystical romantic unicorn.

It's all up to you.

It's time to seriously romance your life.

So, let’s dive into how you can do this by upgrading and elevating your mornings....

🌅Every morning, as you step out of bed, plant your feet firmly on the ground. Stand tall, take a deep breath, and greet yourself. Acknowledge the day – each day has its unique vibe (go on, Google it!). Then, turn around and make your bed. Fluff those pillows, straighten the duvet, and make it look exquisite, fit for the Empress you are (your surroundings matter!)

🌅Next up, the night before, you would have laid out your supplements, your morning drink (coffee or tea), and your clothes for the day. There is nothing worse than faffing about in the morning thinking about what to wear (what a complete waste of your precious energy).

Everything is set out for you because you're romancing the shit out of life. You just go to the kitchen, take your supplements, and enjoy your coffee without rushing around. Ah.. can you feel the peace and calm.

🌅Lastly, play some elegant music in the background. Sure, I love a good rock tune in the gym to lift me up, but what about the mornings? I've found that elegant music like classical, or opera tunes bring me to a grounded, peaceful state. It soothes my mind and gives me the sense of more space, and space is what you need so that think more clearly and with more clarity.

So, without further ado. Get going with romancing the shit out of your day. Weave these easy steps into your mornings for the next 21 days and see how they transform your day. Let me know how you get on!

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

Welcome to 2024, the year you fully embrace your Main Character Energy. This is the moment you step into your power, unapologetically confident, unbothered, and exclusive. Picture this: You effortlessly manifest your desires, commanding your dreams into reality with the click of your beautifully manicured fingertips.

Main Character Energy is about recognizing your immense power. You're not just a character in your life's story; you're the director, producer, and screenwriter. You have the authority to shape your narrative, make decisions aligned with your values, and steer your life in any direction you choose.

2024 is the year you fully embrace your Main Character Energy, stepping into the spotlight and owning your narrative. It's time to radiate confidence, be unbothered by judgment, and claim your exclusivity. Get ready to manifest abundance, prosperity, and the life you've always dreamed of. You've got the power; now, it's time to command it.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

Here's something you've got to remember: You and I are inherently worthy. We've got worth oozing from every cell and bone in our bodies.

But here's the kicker: throughout life, we're going to make a ton of mistakes. I'm no exception. Life's all about evolving and sometimes, we don't learn from these mistakes right away. So, we keep repeating them, in slightly different ways.

Over time, this starts eroding and corroding your self-worth, which is intertwined with your self-belief, esteem, confidence, and self-assurance.

So, what's an ambitious, driven midlife woman like you got to do?

You've got to shift your identity. Step into that main character energy, and embody the traits of a High-Value Woman.

How?

By changing how you show up for yourself in this glorious life.

Take my experience in Bali back in 2018: I did a yoga training, hated yoga, but I took away something priceless – the deeper meaning of the word karma...

I'm gonna break it down...

Part one:

"I show up every single day and keep the promises I make to myself."

Imagine if you did that every single day. I guarantee you're going to cultivate self-trust and belief.

Part two:

"Every night, go to bed knowing I've done my best"

By doing this you are recognising and validating your efforts big AND small. By doing this nightly builds your self-esteem, self-worth, and helps you see your value.

Part three:

"I release all expectations of what the future may bring."

This means cultivating a relationship with your highest self and the divine intelligence around you, showing up for yourself in high regard so that you can...

Part four:

"I trust that the right people, circumstances, and events will come to you when the time is right."

Yes, this is simple (human beings love to complicate life!) Yet, it's not easy. Yet, I guarantee if you take this mantra on board and weave into your life, you keep the promises to yourself, you daily validate your efforts, create a connect to your higher self, and release ego-driven expectations of success, you'll see your brilliance, you'll respect yourself and your efforts.

And that's how you build your self-worth.

If you a looking for support and guidance as you step into your Main Character Energy in midlife and you are ready to UPGRADE and take full responsibility for your part in your MIDLIFE GLOW UP, I'd love to work with you. Everything you need is right here: https://stan.store/starmonroe

Star Monroe is a Midife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

The Wellness Edition

I've spent over 30 years in the health and wellness industry, and I've gathered some invaluable insights, especially about embodying main character energy and being a high-value woman who prioritizes health and wellness. Here are my top 10 takeaways:

1. Posture is Everything: Owning a Pilates studio for 25 years taught me the transformative power of posture. When you improve how you hold your body, everything else changes too.
2. Muscle Building: As muscle mass naturally decreases with age, it’s crucial to build it. Hit the gym and focus on strength training.
3. Move Daily: Whether it’s walking, stretching, swimming, or yoga, make movement a daily habit.
4. Aches and Pains: They’re normal but get worse if you don’t move. Stay active to manage discomfort.
5. Hydration: Aim for two liters of water a day. Staying hydrated is key for overall health.
6. Post-Workout Wind Down: After a gym session, spend at least 10 minutes cooling down to help balance the chemicals and hormones in your body.
7. Just Do It: Like brushing your teeth or doing the dishes, exercise might not always be enjoyable, but it’s necessary. The stronger your muscles and joints, the better your body will age.
8. Foot Care: Your feet carry you every day and have 26 bones each. Keep them active with stretches, flexes, and circles.
9. Strong muscles: Equals strong joints, perfect to keep your body moving as you age.
10. Consistent Exercise for Energy Flow: Regular exercise helps to move energy through your body, essential for feeling unstuck and vibrant.

Star Monroe is a Midife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

Getting older is sexy AF....

And it reveals itself in how you.......

Handle your financial affairs

How you take care of your health and wellness

How you manage your time

How you make yourself a priority

How you focus on the long game (and not short term gratification)

It's about how you communicate your needs (without shouting, stamping your foot, or shutting down completely)

It's about how you keep the promises you make to yourself

It's about how you take responsibility for your part in this co-creation of your life

It's about owning that fact that YOU AND ONLY YOU can shift and change your life (pssst stop handing things the universe, it doesn't give a shit about you)

It's about how you navigate the pitfalls, the failures, the breakdowns. Oh, and the breakthroughs and ecstatic moments too!

It's about how you go to therapy and heal the wounded parts of your psyche

It's about how you can laugh at yourself and life

It's how you finally understand that your triggers are your teachers

It's about the discipline to stay on course (when everything wants to pulls you off it)

It's about the deep understanding that there are no rules and there is no one path

It's about the connection you have with your body

It's about the connection you have with your wisest self

It's about YOU welcoming all parts of you back home to yourself.

This is what maturity looks like.

MATURITY IS SEXY AF.

Star Monroe is a Midife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident. Unbothered. Exclusive.

Hey there, it's Star Monroe from the Star Monroe Show, and I've got a juicy story to share with you about a revelation I had at the gym this morning. It's all about stepping into that main character energy, being confident, unbothered, and exclusive. So let's dive in.

This morning's gym session was a real eye-opener. You see, I've been spicing up my workouts with a hefty dose of stretching and mobility exercises lately. It's absolutely vital, especially after a heavy session of cardio and weights. Why? Because it helps rebalance those ramped-up hormones and brings back a sense of calm and groundedness – something we all need, especially in the whirlwind of midlife.

But today threw me a curveball. Having skipped the gym for five days, my body felt like a stiff board. I faced a crossroads: succumb to frustration or power through. I chose to power through, and slowly but surely, my body began to ease back into its familiar rhythm and flexibility. It was a stark reminder of how important consistency is, not just in the gym, but in life too.

That moment got me thinking about how we approach life, especially in midlife. You see, the key to success in any area – be it fitness, career, or personal growth – is consistent effort and establishing habits that align with the new identity you're forging. Life's a rollercoaster with its ups and downs, but it's how we respond to those dips that define us.

Here's where it gets really interesting. Success, whether you're lifting weights or navigating life's complexities, isn't about viewing setbacks as failures. It's about understanding why things veered off track, adjusting your approach, and then continuing on with renewed vigor and wisdom. Just like my gym routine, life demands adaptability, resilience, and a refusal to give up.

And this brings me to the most crucial point: attitude. It's all about shifting from a mindset of "I can't" to one of "I'm curious." How can you show up as your best self today? This shift in perspective is transformative. It's about taking charge of your narrative, managing your emotions, and being acutely aware of the script you're writing for your own life.

Remember, you're the main character in your story. You hold the pen. You decide the direction and the characters that play a part in it. As we close off 2023 and move into 2024, ask yourself: are you ready to embrace change? Are you prepared to be that woman who radiates confidence, remains unbothered by outside opinions, and lives an exclusive, fulfilling life?

So here's the moral of the story: everything shifts when you change your attitude. Embrace that change, and watch as your life transforms into the story you've always wanted to live.

Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist & confidence catalyst guiding you into your main character era. Confident, unbothered, exclusive.

Gently yet firmly whip your inner critic into submission by whispering sweet nothings into her ear.

Tell her, her words and stories are heard and, that she is welcome here in your world. Invite her to have a seat at your table (with all the other parts of your psyche).

Massage her shoulders, kiss her on her forehead. Tell her you love her and THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART remind her that YOU ARE IN CHARGE here.

Yes, she can share her opinion, yes she will always be heard and yes (you tell her firmly with pure unadulterated love) you will always challenge her words and stories because you both know that underneath everything she says, lies her fears.

And her (your) fears are welcome into your world.

Because YOU, MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY YOU know (DEEP DOWN) that you have the strength, courage and resilience to STRUT through your fears, that your fears are teachers in their own right and you WELCOME them into your world.

Ultimately you know YOU ARE AN EMPRESS OF THE HIGHEST ORDER with Angels, Guardian Spirits and Divine Intelligence on your side and nothing/no one (especially yourself) can get in the way of your BRILLIANCE.

Carry the fuck on EMPRESS.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered, Exclusive.

If you've ever wondered why sticking to healthy habits or steering clear of that narcissistic ex seems impossible, let me tell you, it's not that there's something wrong with you. It's all about how you think about yourself. Changing how you show up in midlife, building healthier relationships, managing your finances, taking care of your body and wellness, it all starts and ends with your self-perception and your daily self-talk.

If you're constantly telling yourself, "I can't help it, this is who I am, I always mess up," then that's exactly what you'll keep getting in life. But hey, Star Monroe here, and I've got just the antidote for you. It's about becoming the main character of your life. Yes, you heard that right. You are the superstar of your life, and you get to call the shots – your life, your rules.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: Life is a game. If you don't know how to play it, life will play you. It all begins and ends with you stepping into that main character energy – confident, unbothered, and totally exclusive.

So, how do you do this? Stop dwelling on your faults and past mistakes. Start focusing on who you want to become. Don't get hung up on the 'I don't know how' – I'm handing it to you on a plate. You're stepping into the role of the main character of your life.

It's time to become acutely aware of your inner dialogue and start talking to yourself as if you are that main character, that top-billed superstar. Focus on what you want and how you want to navigate the world. Here are a couple of tips to integrate this into your life:

One mantra I repeat daily is "I am the prize." At first, it might feel superficial, but with patience and consistency, it'll sink in. Say to yourself, "I am my most valuable asset. I am a woman who takes good care of herself. I am a woman who doesn't text toxic people. I am a woman with standards higher than the Burj Khalifa. I am strong, independent, and I know what's best for me."

Here's a game-changer: there's already a part of you that knows what's best for you – your higher self, God, Source Energy, whatever you call it. This voice is guiding you. It's telling you to stop engaging in harmful behaviours. You become this woman by talking her into existence every single day. Focus on what you want, not what went wrong.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist & Confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive.

Who exactly embodies a high-value woman? If you've been tuning into my insights, you'll know I frequently discuss the evolution into a high-value woman, particularly poignant as you journey through midlife. This transformation hinges on how you perceive yourself – your identity shapes your reality. If you're ensnared in beliefs of failure, people-pleasing, or a life of perpetual struggle, then that's the narrative you'll keep spinning. I've navigated this path myself and, through years of guiding women, I've realized the power of a North Star – a definitive direction in life.

This year, as I further embraced my role as a main character and a high-value woman, I recognized the necessity of elevating my daily practices. Morning journaling, inspired by Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way," has become non-negotiable. It's a ritual where I confront my fears, nurture my inner child, and articulate the woman I'm stepping into, effectively scripting her into reality.

Let's break down what being a high-value woman entails:

⭐️Confidence (Inner Self-Assuredne exactly embodies a high-value woman? If you've been tuning into my insights, you'll know I frequently discuss the evolution into a high-value woman, particularly poignant as you journey through midlife. This transformation hinges on how you perceive yourself – your identity shapes your reality. If you're ensnared in beliefs of failure, people-pleasing, or a life of perpetual struggle, then that's the narrative you'll keep spinning. I've navigated this path myself and, through years of guiding women, I've realized the power of a North Star – a definitive direction in life.

⭐️Unbothered: Immune to external judgments, she manages triggers with poise and grace. Her response to conflict or disagreement is measured and thoughtful, preserving her mental and emotional well-being.

⭐️Exclusivity: Far removed from drama and gossip, she chooses her company wisely, aligning with those who are progressive and solution-focused.

A high-value woman navigates life from a place of authenticity and soulfulness. She's grounded in the knowledge that her existence is part of a grander scheme, seeking connections that foster mutual growth and celebration.

By embodying main character energy and high-value traits, you initiate a profound shift in self-perception. Thoughts, words (remember, words are potent spells), choices, and actions gradually sculpt this new, empowered version of yourself. Each of us harbours innate greatness, and unlocking it starts with a transformative view of self.

In midlife, you're not just surviving; you're equipped with a rich tapestry of skills and experiences. It's time to harness, celebrate, and build upon these assets. The high-value woman doesn't chase external validation; she understands her power comes from within.

So, to all aspiring to step into this high-value paradigm: it's entirely attainable. It begins and ends with how you engage with and talk to yourself, the decisions you make, and the steps you take.

Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and confidence Catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive.

Scroll back 5 years (2018). I had completely lost my identity. I used to sit at home, snuggled deeply into my armchair watching endless boxsets. Because I was scared.

What was I scared of?

Scared that my dreams and desires were never to be realised.

Scared that I had lost who I was.

Scared that inspiration, motivation was never to find me ever again.

Scared that I was stuck in an unhappy marriage with my husband dictating where our life was going.

Scared to even get in my car and drive down the road.

And you know what this did to me?

I shrunk myself smaller and smaller.

I hid away from the world.

Isolated myself from my friends and family.

Feeling this deep sense of shame.

And I let it fester inside me until it ran through my bloodstream and I believed I was no longer worthy of anything.

UNTIL...

UNTIL that day. I remember it clearly.

My (then) husband and I had just had another humongous row. We were in my kitchen. And I stomped off and sat at my computer.

I said to myself..... THIS CAN'T BE IT.

This CAN NOT BE MY LIFE.

And you know what I did?

I booked an extended trip to Bali. So I could a) train to be a yoga instructor b) get my travel on (cos I've always wanted to travel more.

When I told my husband he stared incredulously at me and said these words...

"How the hell are you going to make this happen, you have no money"

And I replied....

"I WILL FIND A WAY"

And I did.

I worked my ass off that year (and to be honest I haven't stopped working my ass off since 2018).

I became DEVOTED to myself and my dreams.

I stopped worrying about the HOW and started focusing on what I needed to do each and every single way.

I stepped into the identity of a woman who was going places, who believed in herself (however shaky that was at the time) and I MADE SHIT HAPPEN.

I saved more than enough money for this trip.

And I got on a plane in November 2018 and flew to Bali.

Now, between you and I, I hated the yoga training and knew somewhere deep inside me that being a yoga instructor was not for me. YET, during this trip I DISCOVERED WHO I WAS AGAIN.

I met some wonderful, happy people and I found myself laughing, and having fun. MORE than that, my imagination woke up and I started to welcome my dreams and desires back into my world.

I do believe one of the most poignant moments of that yoga training was when I woke up from a meditation and realised I had to divorce my husband. (Psst..It took another couple of years for me to action this download. Hey, it takes as long as it takes).

When I returned from this trip I MADE MYSELF A PROMISE.

And that PROMISE was to get out of my comfort zone each and every single day in 2019.

Boy! Was that challenging. It really pushed me out of my comfort zone again and again.

And in the process of getting out of my comfort zone and developing my DEVOTION to myself and my dreams I opened up my membership for midlife women. I started to work privately with many women and I cultivated a solid presence online as one of the GO-TO experts in the midlife arena guiding women back home to themselves and their power.

Fast-forward to today. I have fully taken the reins to my life. I have continued to grow and expand (our true nature is evolution, we are not meant to stay the same), I have moved countries, become more savvy with money, and continue to ask myself the question "how can I best serve others in this one and glorious life of mine?"

And that leads me to where I am today. On the cusp of another deep evolution of myself and the work I'm here to do.

After working with 1000's upon 1000's of women over the years I have come to the realisation that what gets in women's way of their GREATNESS, their BRILLIANCE is...

THE WAY THEY SEE THEMSELVES.

THEIR SELF-IDENTITY.

Everything and I mean everything stems from your current identity. From the thoughts that bounce around in your brain, the words you speak (you do that words are spells don't you?) the choices you make and the habits you do over and over again.

When a woman is OPEN-MINDED and OPEN-HEARTED and is more than willing to STOP being so stubborn that the way she is currently living her life is the only way.....

HUGE SHIFTS will happen.

She will finally GET OUT OF HER OWN WAY and align herself with her inherent worth and brilliance.

This is why I do what I do.

I'm here to LEAD and GUIDE midlife women into their MAIN CHARACTER ERA. And embody the traits of a HIGH-VALUE WOMAN. Confident, unbothered & exclusive.

This is the identity that will open doors to opportunities, possibilities, change how you show up with yourself, your body, your mind, relationships, money, business/career and how you view yourself as an older woman.

It is the secret key to YOU living the life you've always dreamt about but never had the mammaries to do so before now.

As always I am here leading a revolution of spirited, intelligent and determined women who no longer want to settle for scraps in life but are ready to RAINED DOWN ON WITH BLESSINGS AND PROSPERITY in all areas of their lives.

If this speaks to you, then I would love to have you join me.

Right now there are three ways we can work together.

1. Rebirth. Elite 3/6 month coaching & therapy packages for the midlife woman who is ready for her radical self-reinvention.
2. Your Instant Confidence Boost. A one-off 90 minute consultation that will give you the potent tools and skills to take action NOW and move through any limiting beliefs and challenges (so you can get on LIVING your flamboyant life).
3. Download my mini program - Midlife Reset. A 7-day program teaching you how to establish mini daily practices (a hallmark of my methodology) that will amplify your confidence, clarity and energy.

And, as we sashay into 2024, prepare to witness the unveiling of YOUR ULTIMATE MIDLIFE GLOW UP – a transformative experience like no other. Drawing from my 34 years of expertise as a psychotherapist, life coach, showgirl, and a master of personal reinvention, I have crafted an extraordinary 12-month journey. This program is meticulously designed to mentor, guide, and shape you into the epitome of a woman who embodies confidence, remains unbothered by external influences, and exudes exclusivity. Get ready to embark on this epic adventure and emerge as the High-Value Woman you are destined to be.

As one of my private clients said to me the other day "Trust Star, and go for it. This is one of the best therapy/coaching programs I have ever done (and I've done a lot). Star is to the point, she helps you take intentional action over and over again. She is so authentic and open to work with, I could not help but radically reinvent myself (from lost & alone to powerfully believing in myself & my abilities) " Silvia Alongi.

Star Monroe is a midlife psychotherapist & confidence catalyst guiding you into your Main Character Era. Confident, Unbothered & Exclusive.

Welcome to part four of Reclaim Your Sexy At Midlife, where I dive headfirst into the realm of libido and midlife from a distinctly female perspective. If you've missed out on the earlier episodes, no worries, you can always catch up later. In those episodes, I've been exploring how your libido can be a superpower, what might be hindering your journey to reclaim your sexual vitality in midlife, and how to break free from the constraints of the male gaze.

I'm Star Monroe, and this is the Star Monroe Show. Each week, we venture into the world of reinvention, confidence, relationships, and the fascinating topic of sex in midlife. Today, we're delving into what it means to be a formidable woman who fully embraces her sexuality during midlife. Plus, I'll be sharing some tips and tricks on how you can start cultivating this power right away. Stick around because I've got an exclusive invitation coming up for you to join me on a journey of rediscovering your libido and reigniting your midlife passion.

So, who exactly is this dangerous woman in midlife? Well, she's a woman who has nothing left to prove to anyone. How does she reach this level of self-assuredness? By committing herself to knowing who she is and why she does what she does. She's determined to align her choices with her higher self and to communicate consciously with others. She's aware of her desires and unapologetically claims them. There's something profoundly empowering about an older woman who embraces her desires, especially when society suggests that it's time to fade into the background. But let me remind you, you are not invisible, and it's your duty to take up space, reconnect with your deepest desires, and follow your soul's yearnings.

In real life, a dangerous woman is one who takes control of her own joy and pleasure. She prioritizes herself and understands that life isn't about mere survival; it's about thriving. She doesn't wait for permission or validation; she grants those to herself through her daily choices and actions. This isn't just a sporadic practice; it's a lifestyle, a way of celebrating your core essence.

Embracing your desires is a potent act, especially as an older woman. It defies societal norms and liberates you. This kind of freedom allows you to pursue what truly lights you up, take up space, and refuse to become invisible.

But there's more to it. A dangerous woman is authentic. She continually works on herself, which is what makes her so iconic. She shines like a supernova, catching the eye of anyone lucky enough to witness her presence. Don't you want to be that woman?

In life, a dangerous woman isn't afraid to ask for what she wants, whether in business, life, or the bedroom. This self-assuredness makes her magnetic. But here's the kicker: she owns herself in every aspect of life, taking risks, pursuing her dreams, and continuously working on her self-worth.

To become this iconic, self-assured woman, you must start by embracing awakened awareness. Dedicate yourself to knowing who you are and why you make the choices you do. Dive deep into your core wounds and be prepared to course-correct when needed. Self-worth isn't just about affirmations; it's about aligning your actions with your belief in your inherent worth.

Cultivate discipline as a daily practice. Remember, self-worth is an action. Step into your unique rhythm, which will require you to slow down and mindfully find your own path. When you move to the beat of your rhythm, you start choosing your responses to life instead of reacting.

As you connect with your body and find your rhythm, you deepen your relationship with yourself. Your body holds immense wisdom and intuition. It's crucial to create a safe space within your body to express yourself fully. You do this through various embodiment techniques like self-massage, breathwork, movement, and mindful self-care. Remember, these aren't tasks to check off a list but a lifestyle that celebrates who you are.

When you connect with your body, you connect with your primal instincts, wisdom centers, and intuition. It's not about sex through the male gaze; it's about reconnecting with your sensuality and sexuality through a distinctly female perspective.

Stop seeing your body as a problem; she's the solution. Learn to move through life with ease, letting your body express herself in wild and wonderful ways. Give yourself permission to embrace your desires, adorn your body, prioritize wellness, and rest when needed.

Understand that sexy isn't about conforming to the male gaze; it's about fully inhabiting your body, adorning it, and taking care of it. It's about cultivating a connection with your body's wisdom and learning to use sexual energy as fuel for your life.

Your body is your GPS, your guide to embracing your unique journey. When you connect with her, you stop seeking validation and permission from external sources. You trust your wisdom to navigate your path.

This is an invitation to shift your perspective, to see yourself, your body, your libido, and your sexuality through a different lens. It's time to let go of society's standards and embrace your own wisdom.

If these words resonate with you, if they awaken something in your soul, then I have a special invitation for you. Join me on "The Love Affair," starting on the ninth of September. It's a 30-day journey where you'll explore self-love, prioritize your pleasure, and deepen your connection with your body and your sexuality.

Don't let this opportunity slip away. Embrace the power within you, and let's embark on this journey together.

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Amidst a society that rarely addresses midlife sexuality, I'm here to bring you an honest, down-to-earth perspective. If you've missed the earlier episodes, I've already delved into themes like the male and female gaze, as well as the factors that might hinder your midlife journey towards feeling sexy and confident. Today, let's talk about the captivating realm of sex and libido.

Shake up your preconceptions about sex and ditch those old scripts imposed by the patriarchy and male-centric views. Sex is far more than a goal-oriented endeavour, a race to the finish line. It's not just about syncopated climaxes. Instead, we're reimagining libido as a potent hidden superpower.

What we're exploring here isn't just about sex; it's a voyage of self-reconnection. It's an expedition into personal growth and evolution. As I embrace my 50s, I've realized that knowing oneself, embracing desires, and taking ownership of joy and happiness diminishes the need for external validation. This newfound freedom allows you to navigate life as your authentic self, magnetizing fresh opportunities, adventures, and prosperity.

By embracing your libido, you're actually undergoing a metamorphosis from within. You can't genuinely rekindle your connection to your libido without addressing your desires, your yearnings, your dreams—those aspects that may have been suppressed or shelved for years. The lid you've placed on your aspirations can be lifted, and this transformational journey is about honoring and pursuing them.

Perhaps society, self-doubt, or life's setbacks have led you to abandon your dreams. Trust me, I've been there too. After tumultuous experiences, I relinquished my aspirations. But then, I chose a different path, one that's about lighting up what truly excites me. Rumi's quote, "Follow what lights you up. It will not lead you astray," became my guiding principle.

Remember, life isn't just a destination—it's an ongoing journey. Embrace what ignites your passion, move towards it, and when you arrive, be open to new dreams and desires that unveil themselves. This is the essence of living radiantly.

Now, let's delve into some powerful truths. Reclaiming your libido isn't just about reigniting bedroom fireworks, although that's certainly part of it. It's about radiating confidence, infusing your life with joy, and amplifying your self-worth. Your libido, often overlooked and hidden, is an incredible source of energy and radiance.

As you embark on this journey, you're challenging societal norms that define you by age or gender. You're declaring that your dreams and desires are valid, regardless of external judgments. It's about being the curator of your own pleasure, a powerful mistress of your satisfaction.

By embracing your libido, you're not just revolutionizing your relationship with sexuality; you're igniting transformation across all facets of your life. Relationships evolve, confidence skyrockets, and drama dissipates. This isn't about quick fixes or superficial beauty; it's about crafting a lifestyle that nurtures your inner glow.

So, why not let your libido roar? Allow it to illuminate your entire world. This journey isn't just about sexual intimacy, but about reclaiming your personal power and authenticity.

If these words resonate, if you're seeking to thrive in midlife and reshape your relationship with your body, if you're ready to challenge norms and discover your hidden superpower, then consider joining "The Love Affair," my transformative 30-day intensive. Together, we'll cultivate a lifestyle where joy, pleasure, and radiance are non-negotiable. Say yes to igniting your midlife radiance and rewriting your narrative.

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Welcome to another episode of "The Star Monroe Show," where we dive deep into all things relationships, confidence, reinvention, and of course, sex in midlife. In today's episode, we're going to explore the obstacles that may hinder you from reclaiming your sexy at midlife. And let's get one thing straight from the start – it's not just about blaming menopause or aging. Feeling sexy at midlife is a more nuanced journey.

Join me as we explore six archetypal energies that might be getting in the way of your midlife sexy. But before we delve into them, let's paint a big picture. A woman embracing her sexy at midlife, in touch with her libido, knows how to turn herself on, and feels empowered, connected to her body, and attuned to her desires. On the other hand, the antithesis of sexy at midlife is a woman who feels disempowered, disconnected from her body and desires. She struggles with self-doubt, lacks confidence, and may suppress her sexual needs and desires. She may even rely on external validation for pleasure and feel dependent on others to ignite her passion.

So, let's address these archetypal energies that can stand in your way:

1. **The Good Girl**: Programmed to play it safe and hide her desires, the good girl struggles to prioritize her own joy, seeking approval and validation from others.

2. **The People Pleaser**: Always looking for validation, the people pleaser masks her true desires to fit in, often at the expense of her own needs.

3. **The Mother**: The ultimate nurturer, the mother puts her needs on the back burner and tends to fix everyone's problems, leading to a sense of martyrdom.

4. **The Wounded Inner Child**: Yearning for someone to fix and save her, the wounded inner child seeks external validation and often lacks self-empowerment.

5. **The Performer**: In search of approval, the performer adopts a façade and may even perform in bed, seeking external validation and struggling with intimacy.

6. **The Independent Woman**: Having learned to do it all herself, the independent woman can be hesitant to ask for help and may have built a protective wall around her heart.

Reclaiming your sexy at midlife requires awareness and a willingness to confront these archetypal energies. Remember, you are not these energies; they are parts of your psyche that have been conditioned by experiences throughout your life. The journey to reclamation is about reconnecting to your true essence and shedding societal constraints.

As you integrate all parts of yourself, embrace your shadow and light, and dance with your soul, you'll rise untamed and free, owning your libido like wildfire, unapologetic and raw. Your path to midlife passion is ever-evolving, not linear, and will require perseverance. But as you reclaim your true essence and activate your midlife libido, you'll command your destiny with strength and conviction.

If this wisdom resonates with you, consider joining the next round of "The Love Affair," starting on September 9th. This 30-day intensive is all about making yourself a priority, dating yourself, and exploring your sensuality and sexuality through the female gaze and you can save £100 if you join before 13 August.

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So, let's get real here. If you want to reclaim your sexy at midlife, you need to be aware of the brainwashing that has infiltrated your system. It's time to disrupt and agitate it, break free, and choose how you claim your sexy in midlife. What does sexy mean to me? Freedom, embodiment, emotional awareness, and conscious communication. Taking care of my body, embracing my age, and living life on my terms.

The male gaze has conditioned us to see sex as a goal-oriented, fast, and loud act focused on penetration and orgasm. But as we age, this approach may not work anymore. It's time to reject the male gaze and embrace the female gaze. The female gaze is about slowing down, embracing softness, and connecting with our bodies. It's all about the internal sensations, not just the external appearance.

So many women have been brainwashed into believing that sex is all about pleasing men and conforming to unrealistic beauty standards. It's time to reclaim our bodies and desires. Let's stop seeking external validation and focus on pleasing ourselves. Our bodies are beautiful, and there's nothing wrong with them. We need to celebrate and cherish ourselves.

Reclaiming your sexy at midlife is a revolutionary act of empowerment and self-liberation. It's time to break free from age-related stereotypes and demand the freedom to embrace our desires and sexual expression on our own terms. No more conforming to outdated expectations.

The female gaze invites us to tease our senses and prioritize our pleasure. Slow down and connect with your body. Cultivate gourmet sensual experiences with yourself. This journey may challenge you, but there are no rules. Each woman's path is unique. Embrace the female gaze and liberate yourself from the male gaze.

Your libido is your force, your radiance, and magnetism. It's not something that creams or Botox can enhance. Cultivating your libido through the female gaze means embracing your body, accepting and celebrating yourself, and connecting with your desires. This is your birthright, not something to seek external approval for.

It's time to stop living by the old rulebook and embrace your power. Reject the male gaze and celebrate yourself. The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself. Be your own aphrodisiac, be racy, stimulating, and suggestive with yourself. You don't need anyone else to bring pleasure and joy into your life.

You live in a world that trivializes and dismisses the sexuality of mature women. But it's time to break free from age-related stereotypes and claim your sexy. You are not defined by your youth or appearance. Celebrate your body, your desires, and your power. Reclaim your sexy at midlife, and it's a bold declaration of self-liberation and empowerment.

So let's flip the script and embrace the female gaze. Slow down, connect with your body, and prioritize your pleasure. You don't need to please others or fit into unrealistic standards. This is your journey, your sensuality, and your sexuality. Embrace it and celebrate yourself every step of the way.

If you're intrigued and want to take the next step in your journey, I invite you to join me on my 30-day program. THE LOVE AFFAIR. Let's have a love affair with ourselves and explore our desires. It's time to make some noise and break free from the male gaze.

Reclaim your sexy, my friend, and liberate yourself from the suffocating embrace of societal norms. You deserve to embrace your desires and celebrate yourself fully. Join me on this journey, and together, we'll ignite a wildfire of empowerment and self-liberation. It's time to step into your power and reclaim your sexy at midlife!

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I am committed to myself, let's say I am having a love affair with me and part of this commitment is receiving weekly massages.

Today in my massage.....

Oh, today in my massage...

I experienced a cracking open of yet another deep memory that was lodged inside my body (from sooooo many years ago).

As my masseuse's hands glided over my body...

Memories of me as a little child surfaced.

Memories of my father surfaced.

Memories of broken dreams surfaced.

And a voice.

A voice from my inner child whispering to me......

"You are making all our dreams come true".

I sobbed.

And I sobbed.

The feelings and emotions moved through me, ready to be felt, ready to be dispersed into the ethers.

Healing happens when we are able to fully feel.

When the massage was over, I walked slowly down the steps.

Pausing every now and then.

Checking in.

Breathing.

Soothing myself.

Recognising what just happened.

And this voice appeared again.

My inner child.

She told me "don't leave, you are leaving me, everyone leaves me" (she was falling down a black hole as she was saying this to me)

And as I got on my bicycle and peddled back home I whispered back....

"I'm never leaving you"

And I reached out and grabbed her and held her to me.

She wasn't too sure about that and tried to wriggle away.

I told her "it's me and you kid"

She tutted but stayed with me.

I love my inner child.

I love me.

This is what healing looks like.

The willingness to go deep.

The willingness to bypass your pesky ego mind.

The willingness to take care of yourself.

The willingness to stop trying to figure it all out and JUST be a grounded, safe place to FEEL.

And here’s the thing. If you are constantly living in your head (disconnected from your body), always busy, always over-committing yourself. You will try to analyse the fuck out of everything that bubbles up inside you. You will try to attach meaning onto every emotion you feel (that’s if you are currently capable of feeling right now and not hooked on numbing yourself all the way out of your life)

And what that does is HALT your body’s natural process of feeling and healing.

Sometimes we don’t know why we feel x, y, z.

And that’s ok.

When you learn how to give your body the space to process LIFE, it will find it’s own rhythm.

Your quest. Is to NOT get in the way.

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It's both a balm for my soul and terribly, terribly painful to endure.

So, rather than fight it (and I can feel parts of me really wanting to fight it).....

I drop into it.

A

L

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N

E

N

E

S

S

Being alone.

Being on my own.

No one around.

No one to turn to.

No one to banter with.

No one to share my secret jokes with.

No one to judge others with (come on ;) we all judge others)

No one to hold me.

No one to tell me it's ok.

No one to pick up the pieces.

No one to cheer me on.

No one to celebrate me.

NO ONE.

Yet.....

I am here.

Right by my side.

Giving myself everything I desire another to give me.

Life is a tricky mofo.

You never know what's around the corner.

And, here we are.

As we are.

Doing the best we can.

With the resources we have at our disposal.

And when we look within.

It's outstanding to see how much "juice for life" we have bubbling up inside ourselves.

Life is not one way or another way.

Life is presenting itself to you as it is right now.

You can baulk at what you see.

Or you can frolic in the magic, possibilities and opportunities that life is gifting you.

Aloneness it's both a gift and a lesson.

I'm here for it all.

Yours alone <3

Star xxx

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One of the things I talk about A LOT is the fact that our culture has brainwashed us into believing we have to approach all our problems from our thinking minds.

But what if I told you there was another way?

Yes, we can solve a lot of our problems from thinking BUT we have so much untapped wisdom in our bodies.

When I studied to be a Body Psychotherapist I was both astounded and in absolute awe of the wisdom, our bodies hold.

You see there are seven wisdom centres of the body. Here are four of them....

Head - rational, logical (where most of you reside)

Heart - emotional

Gut - feeling, intuition

Pelvis - instinctive

I like to think of these wisdom centres as the board directors of my life. Each one (when we tune in them) will give us information that we can use.

So when I feel confused or stuck with something in my life I know I don't have to rely just on my logical brain but can pull in what my heart, gut and pelvis think about a particular issue.

This gives me SO much more information and wisdom and stops me feeling stuck and spinning my wheels.

How cool is that!

And if you want to try it out yourself all you need to do is be willing to listen to what these wisdom centres have to say to you.

Yes, I understand it will be a bit weird to start off with, but stay with it. If you want to stop the endless cycle of self-doubt, frustration and overwhelm it's essential you strengthen the connection between your mind and body (pssst this is what we do in my world).

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You see I had checked in the night before because I had run out of alcohol and I knew I could carry on drinking if I checked into a hotel.

I was in a mess.

And I was sniffing at least one gram of cocaine every single day and had been for the past 5 years.

I had tried to kick this habit to the kerb so many times before, I'd delete my dealers' phone number, I would immerse myself into something else.

But something would always happen.

And I didn't have the coping skills to deal with it.

So I returned to numbing myself out.

And I used.

And I used.

And I used.

UNTIL that day 15 years ago where I found myself on the hotel floor.

Something inside me said 'enough, you can't keep going on like this'.

So I made a decision to quit.

And on the 1st July 2008 I stopped using cocaine.

Life has been full of challenges since that date but giving up the cocaine has given me the gift of getting to know and managing myself.

And there is NOTHING more important and valuable than

a) getting to know and loving the fuck out of who you are

b) cultivating the skills to manage yourself through life's ups and downs.

So, my fabulous friend, TODAY IS A FABULOUS DAY.

I'm proud of my journey, I'm proud of myself. Onwards and upwards.

Love Star ❤

In today's episode I unpack how you can stop being the eternal 'people pleaser'. Dive on in and come find me on the socials.

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And for the majority of human beings, this is the greatest terror of all (people hate the unknown and detest feeling uncomfortable so will do anything and everything to avoid/detract/numb from diving into the depths of their fears).

BUT....

Everything you want is on the other side of your fears.

And here's the paradox.

When you get there, another fear will reveal itself to you.

Alchemy (aka deep transmutation) is the natural destiny of all human beings who live their life totally, embracing everything and holding nothing back.

And it is gnarly, scary, intense, deeply joyful, delicious, fucking challenging, potent and it will push you to your edge again and again and again.

This is what it means to BE ALIVE.

Fuck all that love and light, glittery unicorns, just think happy thoughts, law of attraction and manifest your dream life bullshit..... those silly instagram influencers/boss babes talk about all the time.

Life is about meeting all parts of yourself head on with both fierceness and gentleness.

Now that's what I'm here for.

What about you?

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Be that woman.

Make your own choices and be damned what anyone else says.

Go grey/dye your hair.

Use HRT/dont use HRT.

Flaunt those wrinkles/get plastic surgery.

Cover up/wear that sequinned bikini.

Have more seggsy/become celibate.

Wear shit loads of make-up/go bare-faced.

Leave your partner/commit to your relationship.

NO ONE knows you better than yourself.

Stop listening to the outside noise.

And start listening in.

DO YOU!!!

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In today's episode, I talk about the 4 stages of womanhood and how instrumental the passage from Princess to Queen is for YOUR midlife journey into becoming the woman you have always wanted to be.

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These are both rites of passage. It’s meant to be challenging. It’s asking you to mature/grow up. So you can move into your crone years. To know and manage yourself with kindness, compassion and firmness. To take deeper responsibility for who you are and what you want. This time of your life is asking you to do things differently.

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Have you created your identity or was it given to you?

If you want to create a life that lights you fuck up, if you want to stop the war with yourself and your body, you want deeper relationship with the people around you, if you want to stop self-sabotaging your efforts, if you want to calm your mind and soothe your inner critic then you MUST figure out who you are and create a deeper relationship with yourself.

And to do that you need to:

Disrupt and agitate your inherent conditioning.

Heal your past wounding

Cultivate the confidence and boldness to go out there and create a midlife on your own terms.

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Yes, I bought them and put them on my ring finger.

Tune into today's episode to find out what happened next.....

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Oy-ve! I've had a chequered past with booze. In 2015 I taught myself how not to be an alcoholic because I never believed that I was powerless over booze. So, fast forward to today I have a way healthier and conscious relationship with booze. I drink every now and then and occasionally I get super drunk (maybe one day I will stop doing this).

But there are consequences to drinking: my skin looks shit, my bags under my eyes are darker, my body bloats, my anxiety ramps up.

So, I know that drinking all the time doesn't serve my health and wellness.

And my number 1 life elixir is sleep, I have to get 8 - 10 hours of sleep every night. I love to sleep and I have (over the years) created a whole bundle of evening and morning rituals and practices that really support me in my sleep quest AND make me feel much more grounded and calmer during the day.

Dive on in to find out what they are.

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The UNIVERSE IS INSIDE YOU!!!!!!

You and only YOU can transform your life.

Sometimes in life, you won’t get what you want. Not because there is something better around the corner. Just because life is a tricky mojo and nothing is guaranteed.

Play with this for a moment….

Everything does NOT always happen for a reason

Sometimes life is a shit show for no reason

Life is chaotic, people are unpredictable

Sometimes life is wildly beautiful for no reason

The deeper meaning of Karma

"I show up every day keeping the promises I made to myself

I go to bed at night knowing I've done the best job I can

I release all expectations of what the future may bring (or get better at your relationship with your expectations)

I trust the best people, circumstances and events will come into my life when the time is right."

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How many times has someone said this sentence to you and instead of making you feel better, it has left you feeling unheard and a little upset?

In the best-selling book The 4 Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz tells us 'not to take anything personally' and tells us when we follow his advice freedom is waiting as no one can hurt us anymore.

I had to read this book on my yoga training many years ago, we were told to absorb all his teachings in this book and live our lives following his advice.

But something just didn't sit right for me. I couldn't imagine in my role as a psychotherapist telling clients of mine "don't take it personally." For in uttering these words I'm a) not meeting them where they are at and b) I'm totally dismissing their feelings.

So let's take this to a real life experience.

I was talking to a friend the other day and mentioned I was feeling hurt about something that had happened between us the previous week.

This friend told me "the problem with you is that you always take things so personally".

I really didn't take kindly to this as in that instant my feelings were dismissed and it felt like my friend was taking zero responsibility for their part in this situation, which then made it impossible to find common ground where we could both be heard, understood and move on.

Good communication is a skill we need to learn if we are to find ways of coming together rather than falling apart. We have no idea what is going on with other people, but invariably most of us have triggers and boo boos that can be activated by other people's actions/words.

If we are to forge better relationships with each other we need to know if we are harming others with our actions and speech and take responsibility. We need to be aware and sensitive to the times we miss the mark.

So if someone says to you "you take things too personally" please know there is nothing wrong with you. It takes two to tango and all parties need to see each other's perspective with kindness for these sticky episodes to dissolve.

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Then you need to get super savvy with your sleep routine.

I've learned over the last 15-17 years to cultivate better sleep habits.

Many moons again (when I was a raging cocaine addict) I was hooked on sleeping tablets.

Baby, I've come a l-o-n-g way.

Nowadays, I'm in bed (most days) by 9 pm and have accumulated a whole host of funky, strange sleeping habits so I can get the best night's sleep of my life (every single night of my life!)

Dive on into today's podcast episode. I talk about:

• The importance of tracking ourselves, our mood, emotional state, sleep habits, libido and energy
• My strange night-time routine
• How to get your subconscious mind to work for you whilst you sleep
• Why daydreaming and silence is so important first thing in the morning
• Why finding out your own rhythm is a midlife life essential
• Problems are never the problems (you gotta go deeper)

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Join me on this episode of The Star Monroe Show as I reveal how I cultivated the courage and bravery to end my 2nd marriage.

This time last year I was in Paris CELEBRATING my divorce papers coming through.

NOTHING stops me from living and feeling ALIVE.

You and ONLY you get to determine how your life events affect you.

You ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE.

Look for the lesson. Learn from it, so you can let it go and GROW.

OR bury your head in the sand, keep repeating the same mistakes, abdicate responsibility and carry this heavy weight around with you (like a noose around your neck).

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Midlife & menopause are NOT problems to be fixed, they are rites of passage asking you to shed all that no longer serves you so you can finally become the woman you have always wanted to be.

Yet, for you to do this you HAVE TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY. You have to stop over-committing yourself, you have to stop being busy for busy sake and you have to stop putting your needs and desires on the backburner.

Your body is changing, your brain is rewiring and requires SPACE, a slower pace of life and your full presence.

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Throughout my journey back home to me I have played around A LOT with my external appearance.

You see, years ago (when my internal programming of self-hate was running the show) I had many surgeries to change how I looked. These include:

🪞Nose job

🪞Eye surgery

🪞Lip filler

🪞Botox

🪞Boob job, 2 enlargements, first ones were 300 cc, then 600 cc!

🪞Then boob uplift and smaller implants.

🪞Liposuction on my tummy area.

Did any of this make me happy?

YES, for a small brief period. Then, after the initial excitement disappeared, I wanted more.

I was having twice weekly blow-outs (cos I hated my curly hair), fake nails, and eyelash extensions.

And I was hooked on clean eating (dieting) and beasting my body in the gym (even when I was exhausted).

I was chasing perfection.

And perfection is something we will never achieve.

It is always just out of our reach.

Tempting and teasing us to JUST TRY one more thing to get there.

It’s exhausting and left me feeling despondent.

As I car-crashed into my 40’s (after 2 mental breakdowns) I realised what I was doing to myself DID NOT WORK.

There are many layers to my story of transformation and I will not be able to do them justice in this short piece of writing, yet I wanted to share some of the insights I have discovered about my relationship with my body.

Over the last 12 years, I have explored how I can create a softer, more harmonious relationship with this body I have hated for most of my life.

♥️I stopped wearing make-up. Then started wearing it again, yet I’m happy with or without make-up now.

♥️I stopped having blow-outs and embraced my natural curls. I must admit; I adore my curly red hair.

♥️I stopped dying my hair and allowed the greys to come through. Then decided I preferred my hair red, so continue to colour my hair.

♥️I stopped having my nails and eyelashes done and I prefer myself without them.

♥️I considered getting more liposuction and even went to a couple of doctors to talk about the procedure. When a top London plastic surgeon told me I needed a tummy tuck instead, I decided no, that’s not the route I wanted to go.

♥️In the last 12 years my weight has gone up, down, up, down then up, up, up and then down, down, down. At ALL times I have been committed to loving the fuck out of my body as she is. Because I understand that weight is a by-product of my current life circumstances.

At my heaviest I was going through a divorce, working really hard, drinking booze, stressed the fuck out and wasn’t exercising regularly. At my lowest I had completely transformed my life (moved to Turkey), eliminated most of my external stressors, went back to the gym, started weight training again, stopped drinking booze, ate frugally, and slept a lot.

WEIGHT IS NEVER AS SIMPLE AS CALORIES IN/CALORIES OUT. ESPECIALLY IN PERIMENOPAUSE.

👉🏻We live in funny world where we are told (as women) we need to:

‼️ACCEPT OUR BODIES

‼️ALLOW OUR BODIES TO AGE GRACEFULLY

‼️CHANGE OUR BODIES

‼️DO ANYTHING WE CAN TO STOP THE AGEING PROCESS

‼️STOP PUTTING OUR VALUE ON OUR EXTERNAL APPEARANCE

‼️OUR VALUE IS BASED UPON OUR EXTERNAL APPEARANCE

‼️CHANGE OUR APPEARANCE TO BE DESIRABLE AND SEXY

‼️STOP FOCUSING ON OUR APPEARANCE

‼️BE A DIFFERENT SIZE/SHAPE THAN WE ARE

‼️EMBRACE OUR SIZE/SHAPE AS WE ARE

‼️DON’T HAVE PLASTIC SURGERY

‼️HAVE PLASTIC SURGERY

Can you see how confusing this all is?

And can you see that ALL of these are outside influences that (unless you bring awareness to them) weave their insidious way inside your mind and torment you with their mixed messages?

LIFE IS A PARADOX.

YOU ARE A PARADOX.

I AM A PARADOX.

I will openly admit to being still affected by societal conditioning, yet rather than beat myself up I remain curious about how I WANT TO SHOW UP IN THE WORLD WITH MY BODY.

We have so many more options available to us than ever before, especially around how we age as midlife women.

If we have the resources, we can do anything and everything to our bodies.

And I’ve learned over the years that if I choose to do something to my body because I hate her, the feel-good results are never long-lasting.

So, now at the age of 52 I am taking back my body autonomy and choosing what is RIGHT FOR ME.

MY BODY: MY RULES.

What I do with my body has nothing to with anyone but me.

And, if you are wondering it looks like this:

💎I have regular botox. Because it makes my face look fresher and softer (see below for caveats on this)

💎I have regular lip filler. Because I love my lips looking plump.

💎I wear make-up cos it makes me feel sassy and sexy.

💎I take a regular collagen supplement cos I believe this makes my skin feel more plump (plus it helps to keep my connective tissue lubricated) <---- you know we have 32-33 layers of connective tissue that wraps around everything in our bodies and it’s essential to keep this stuff moving and juicy (if you want to move with ease as you get older).

💎I dye my hair because I prefer it red (and not grey).

💎I sunbathe because I prefer my skin with a tan to being pale as a ghost.

💎I regularly workout in the gym with heavy-ass weights and consistent cardio because I love being strong and fit.

💎I ride my bike everywhere because I love the feeling of being fit, and energetic.

💎I sleep A LOT because it doesn’t matter how much botox I have, if I don’t get my sleep in I look like shit.

💎I minimise my alcohol intake because when I drink my body has weird aches and pains, I get cramps, my bags under my eyes go really dark and my skin shrivels up like a prune.

💎I drink shit-loads of water EVERY SINGLE DAY. Cos, hydration is key to my body looking and feeling fabulous.

💎My skin on my legs and arms has this kinda crepey texture to it, nothing I can do about that, so I embrace the fuck out of it.

💎I have lumpy skin on my tummy, I would say it’s cellulite (but you do know that cellulite is a made up term don’t you!) and this lumpy skin is now mixed with skin that isn’t so firm (cos you know; ageing). A tan makes it look better. I’m gonna choose to embrace this!

💎My vagaga ain’t as strong and firm as it used to be. I may even have a mini prolapse going on down there. I’m tending to my vagaga with love and compassion. I’m going to embrace this too.

What I CHOOSE to do is a mixture of embracing what I have, tweaking the things I choose to tweak and taking 100% responsibility for my own health and wellness. IT IS NOT ONE THING OR ANOTHER.

How I look is IMPORTANT TO ME.

I care about my appearance, YET MY APPEARANCE IS NOT THE CURRENCY I DEAL IN.

I DEEPLY CARE ABOUT MY HEALTH & WELLNESS.

I am not doing this for anyone else BUT ME.

Yet, most people can’t wrap their heads around this.

And you know why?

Because they are wrapped up in black-and-white thinking.

They don’t understand the concept of PARADOX.

They have no respect for autonomy so they meddle in everyone else’s business.

LIFE IS NOT BLACK AND WHITE.

LIFE IS NOT THIS WAY OR THAT WAY.

LIFE IS A CORNUCOPIA OF MANY DIFFERENT IDEAS, BELIEFS, CONCEPTS, FEELINGS, THOUGHTS & LIFESTYLES.

And what works for one, will not work for another.

So, for the ones who believe I am a hypocrite, I am a fraud when I share videos on embracing our bodies (yet I still have botox and lip filler) I want to say…

I hear you, and I invite you to frolic in the paradox of changing & embracing.

Oh, and I’m going to carry on doing me, living my life, MY WAY.

Because IT’S MY BODY: MY RULES.

And I’m here to make myself happy. And, invite you to do the same.

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But you’re not doing what you would really love to do because of….

FEAR

Fear is a sneaky fucker and always walking alongside fear is it’s good friend. Self-doubt.

When these two energies get together….

WOAH. Watch out.

They will brainwash you into believing your dreams are impossible, you are stuck and that nothing gets to work for you.

Yet, you always have a choice.

Stay and let your fears, excuses and lethargy pull you down with them.

OR….

Choose to break out of this sticky mess and make the courageous move to drop deep into your own fears.

And, if you want to live a life that lights you fuck up, then you have to challenge your excuse of “I don’t have enough time”.

You are not a victim of “time”. You have become a victim of your “mind”.

Time itself is fluid and can be bent, shortened, twisted, lengthened and even stopped.

The moment you take a stand and begin to follow your dreams, time becomes your ally rather than your enemy, automatically adapting itself to fit your needs.

Make no mistake, your dreams will NEVER become your reality unless you do something to make them happen.

It is not enough to daydream and plan how you might change yourself, and your world.

You HAVE TO BEGIN THE WORK.

Ah, I can hear you say “but I’m not ready”

Again, this excuse is based upon a false nothing of time.

The truth is YOU are ALWAYS ready.

You are ready right now.

If you keep postponing your dreams, they will always remain your dreams.

When you courageously step onto the path of your destiny, you will learn as you go along, the next step will always reveal itself to you…

The enthusiasm and passion you are seeking/hoping to fall into your lap ONLY appears when you say YES to yourself and your dreams.

If you are ready to choose yourself, ready to say YES to your dreams and desires…

And you would like someone (me) to support your journey, who believes in you, who sees your true potential and who will help you navigate your way through your fears/excuses, self-doubt.

So you can get out of your own darn way and create something truly beautiful with your life….

Then there are two ways we can work together.

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I truly believe you can feel confident in the skin you are in and it all starts with the decision that you are going to do things differently. You have to commit to walking a different path, and agitating the inherent conditioning that has brainwashed you into believing your worth and value comes from your external appearance.

You need to surround yourself with women who know more than you and learn from them. You see, most women are still wrapped up in losing those last 10lbs and hanging onto their youth at all costs. Yet, a High-Value Queen (check out episode 38) knows it's fruitless to spend time hating on what she has because she has better things to do with her time and energy.

Be prepared to dig in for the long haul, this is not something that happens overnight yet it does happen. I have seen it with myself and my clients. Ultimately it's up to you to choose a different path, to heal the parts of you that feel unloveable and have the boldness and audacity to go out into the world as YOU right now (not a future version of you).

If you are ready to create a deeper relationship with your body then come join us for the next round of The Love Affair. We start in July.

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• How do you know when a relationship is breaking down?
• How do you come together when the going gets tough?

These two questions may seem like they require separate answers yet the are both pointing to the same answer.

And it's all about communication.

A healthy, conscious relationship is only ever going to happen when the two of you are able to communicate and really listen and accept each other's point of view.

There are many reasons why you are not communicating in healthy ways with your partner and I unpack these in depth on today's episode.

So, whether you are thinking about leaving or trying to figure out how to move forward you need to talk and find out if you are on the same page with your values, morals, ethics and where you are going in life. Think about each conversation as a playful negotiation. You'll need time, space, and to approach all conversations from your adult ego state.

If you want better relationships, then you have to know who you are, what you want and the ability to communicate this in a way you are heard. Come join us in Midlife Dating School. We start 12 May.

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There is a natural rite of passage for all women in midlife. You can continue on doing what you have been doing (and that's great if that's working for you). Still, if you have struggled in your past relationships (and this doesn't just have to be your intimate relationships): you find it hard to ask for what you want, if conflict floors your, if you keep attracting the same types, if you tend to put your needs and desires on the backburner then it's time to take a deeper look at yourself and step into your rightful place as High-Value Queen.

In this episode of The Star Monroe Show I will share more about the rite of passage from Princess to Queen, and share with you what life looks like when you embody your inner Queen, and of course, I'll share some tips and tricks on how you can start doing that today so you can start to change how you show up in life for yourself and in all your relationships.

If you want to dive deeper into the work of the High-Value Queen so you know who you are and what you want and become a magnet for partners who align with your values, beliefs and intentions, then join us in MIDLIFE DATING SCHOOL. We start on 12 May. 

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You should be more in your feminine,

Never chase,

How you speak to a guy, what tone to use etc etc.

But all of these are missing the point. Because if you aren't willing to know who you are on a deeper level (especially if like me, you have a chequered past with relationships) then you will continue to attract the same type over and over again.

Midlife dating and relationships are the ultimate journey in knowing who you are (when you take the time to reflect and contemplate your actions). And knowing who you are is the touchstone you need to attract healthy, conscious love into your world.

Get ready to date with Dating Detox here.

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All those links....

7 year cycles

https://tommonte.com/the-7-year-cycles-of-life/

Attachment style quiz

https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/

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Watch the "Be a lady they said" video here.

Download my Disrupt this shit essays here.

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“What do you do when you can't get a man out of your head?”I want to message him so much but I know long term he's no good for me....how do you cope with that? What can I do to move past this horrible feeling that I'm never gonna meet anyone else? Sorry if this is not allowed I just feel so fucked up right now …

Hey, I had a great question and it's about dating, and I've got a feeling it's gonna resonate with some of you.

So the question is; What do you do when you can't get a man out of your head? I want to message him so much, but I know long term he's no good for me. How do you cope with that? How can I move past this horrible feeling that I'm never going to meet anyone else? So let's unpack this together.

Hey, my name is Star Monroe psychotherapist, turned your midlife dating bestie and I talk about reinvention, relationships, dating and sex in midlife.

So let's start at the beginning. And if you are to have better relationships, then you have to learn how to date differently. You have to plug back into yourself over and over and again and get clear on what is working for you and what isn't working for you. I call it becoming your very own dating detective. You want to create your very own dating dossier on what's tripping you up in the dating and relationship field. So if I was to look at the foundations you need to date successfully, to attract healthy, conscious love, you have to have a really good sense of who you are and what you want. You've got to know your dating intentions. And you've got to have a real deep understanding of what is the energy that you are dating with what is the energy that's coming out from your pores as you go out into the dating world and it doesn't matter if you're online dating or you're meeting people in real life, your energy speaks louder than you ever will.

So something that I've noticed and there's no shame because I noticed this with myself in the past and I see it with my clients is that a lot of people date because they want to fill a void in themselves. Maybe that void is that they don't feel good, the void is that they feel lonely. Loneliness is a big one. Maybe it's because they're living in this narrative that I'm never going to meet anybody and I've got to grab whoever's coming my way now. Or it could be - and I resonate with this one - the first person that was ever nice to me. I was like, that's great. And it was always like they picked me, they chose me, I never chose them. And this all comes back down to our self-identity, how we look at ourselves.

The journey around dating and relationships is the ultimate journey in self-love. It's the ultimate journey in really understanding and getting to know yourself at a deep level. And also it's going to be a big healing journey for a lot of you as well.

So if I go back to the question, what do you do when you can't get a man out of your head? I want to message him so much but I know long term he's no good for me. So what I want to pull out from this is that this lovely woman knows she knows that this guy is no good for her. And that's the first thing that I want to send her into is because women know you know what is right and what is wrong. You have such a powerful, instinctual capacity within you and yet the way that we live in a society, our patriarchal society, pulls us away from the wisdom of our body. And your job is to plug back into this wisdom over and over again. You are powerful and capable. You have just got to disrupt and agitate the conditioning and the identities and the stories that keep you second-guessing yourself as you choose to do things differently on this dating journey.

You are learning to choose yourself over and over again. The most important relationship you are ever going to have is the one with yourself, not with another it's always going to be with yourself. And that is going to be challenging. I'm not going to mollycoddle you and say that when you've ended something with a guy and you want to reach out to him, it's going to be easy. It's going to push you over your edge and you have to remember that in every single moment, you have a choice. You have a choice to choose yourself or choose patterns that do not serve you.

I have a tattoo on my arm and my background is years of self-destruction. And it says; make choices that liberate you. I remember when I had that tattooed on my left forearm, at the time I was still making choices that did not liberate me. That was the window, the door that I was walking through. I was cultivating the habit of making choices that liberate me more and more often. So in every single moment, please remember you have a choice to choose yourself or to choose external validation.

Now, this is something which you and every other woman have been brainwashed to believe she has to seek from the outside. And it is Princess archetypal energies and if you're moving through midlife, your rightful place is to step into and sit on your throne as a high-value Queen. And this is maturity, this is what an adult looks like. It looks like you are serving your own needs by meeting your own needs first and poor mostly it's you honouring how you feel and not dismissing them.

I want to dive into this question some more because it's always worth unpacking every tiny piece of it. She says I can't get this man out of my head. And then I reply, is this true? Or is this a story you're telling yourself? And I invite you to put aside the script for one second and allow yourself to feel what you're feeling without the story because when you're in the story, you're going to keep going round and round and you won't get out of your head and your job is to recognise you are in a story and move underneath it and ask; how am I feeling right now? How am I feeling? And without spending time with the woman who's asked this question? I've got no idea how she's feeling yet. I can take a calculated guess she's probably feeling sad. She's probably feeling very alone right now. And fear is running the show. And I would say that fear is running the show because she goes on in her question to say how do I move past this horrible feeling that I'm never going to meet anyone ever again? And your quest is to acknowledge how you're feeling and then really allow yourself to be with these feelings and that takes time.

It's a skill that you need to build up, as you feel these feelings and welcome them into your world because these feelings want to be acknowledged. They're parts of you that are going hey, I'm feeling like this right now. Can you please acknowledge me? Can you please just tell me you see me? And isn't that what you want? You want people to see you. You want people to acknowledge you. You want people to validate you and if you want that you have to learn to see and validate yourself. You have to learn to accept all these parts of you. And then as you drop into that, you ask the question, what do I need right now? And I get it like if you're in this swirl of I need to reach out to him you'll kick back we actually will be I need to reach out to that man. But this is your reaction to the pain you are feeling. Let me say that one more time because this is so important. This is your reaction to the pain you are feeling. It's like he has become a drug you need you think you need to absolve your pain. And yes, yes, yes, yes, it will numb your pain for a little while. But this is a quick fix to a long-term problem. But in the long term, it won't solve or change anything for you.

I would return to the facts from this question. He's no good for me. You are learning how to be good for yourself. Let me say that again. You are learning how to be good for yourself. You are learning how to sit with your emotions and take care of your needs. There is nothing more powerful than that. You don't just have to feel sad, alone and fearful. You can feel sad and you can feel joy, you can feel fearful and you can feel expansive, you can feel scared and you can feel happiness. So I would breathe, breathe or it's always a good idea to breathe. Breathe a little deeper. Drop back into your body. Get yourself out of your head. Dance if that feels good for you, or go for a walk. There is wisdom in your legs. Did you know that? Did you know that your legs are a wisdom centre? And so as you move there's this rhythmic to and fro that soothes your nervous system. Distract yourself with a good movie. Share your process with either a therapist or good friends that will hold the space for you and not try to fix you because this is the thing there's nothing to fix. You're learning to be in the process with yourself.

I'll use this quote: Rome wasn't built in a day but it was built with patience and intention. And this is how you are building yourself, you're cultivating your identity as a high-value queen in midlife, you're building your identity as an adult, a mature adult and it's not gonna come easy. There are obstacles that are going to come your way, things are going to want to pull you down the path of all patenting and that's all part and parcel of it. It's an invitation for you to observe yourself. With kind eyes to slow your roll.

There's another part in the question, and she says I'm never going to meet anyone else ever again. I want to remind you that there are 3.97 billion men on the planet. There are plenty of men out there there are plenty of future beaus, lovers, dates, partners. There are billions of men out there.

Remember, keep coming back to this you are learning to choose yourself you are learning to elevate your standards for what you will and when you won't accept now when you learn to elevate your standards, what you have to get used to is feeling fucking uncomfortable with the new standards that...]]>Question

“What do you do when you can't get a man out of your head?”I want to message him so much but I know long term he's no good for me....how do you cope with that? What can I do to move past this horrible feeling that I'm never gonna meet anyone else? Sorry if this is not allowed I just feel so fucked up right now …

Hey, I had a great question and it's about dating, and I've got a feeling it's gonna resonate with some of you.

So the question is; What do you do when you can't get a man out of your head? I want to message him so much, but I know long term he's no good for me. How do you cope with that? How can I move past this horrible feeling that I'm never going to meet anyone else? So let's unpack this together.

Hey, my name is Star Monroe psychotherapist, turned your midlife dating bestie and I talk about reinvention, relationships, dating and sex in midlife.

So let's start at the beginning. And if you are to have better relationships, then you have to learn how to date differently. You have to plug back into yourself over and over and again and get clear on what is working for you and what isn't working for you. I call it becoming your very own dating detective. You want to create your very own dating dossier on what's tripping you up in the dating and relationship field. So if I was to look at the foundations you need to date successfully, to attract healthy, conscious love, you have to have a really good sense of who you are and what you want. You've got to know your dating intentions. And you've got to have a real deep understanding of what is the energy that you are dating with what is the energy that's coming out from your pores as you go out into the dating world and it doesn't matter if you're online dating or you're meeting people in real life, your energy speaks louder than you ever will.

So something that I've noticed and there's no shame because I noticed this with myself in the past and I see it with my clients is that a lot of people date because they want to fill a void in themselves. Maybe that void is that they don't feel good, the void is that they feel lonely. Loneliness is a big one. Maybe it's because they're living in this narrative that I'm never going to meet anybody and I've got to grab whoever's coming my way now. Or it could be - and I resonate with this one - the first person that was ever nice to me. I was like, that's great. And it was always like they picked me, they chose me, I never chose them. And this all comes back down to our self-identity, how we look at ourselves.

The journey around dating and relationships is the ultimate journey in self-love. It's the ultimate journey in really understanding and getting to know yourself at a deep level. And also it's going to be a big healing journey for a lot of you as well.

So if I go back to the question, what do you do when you can't get a man out of your head? I want to message him so much but I know long term he's no good for me. So what I want to pull out from this is that this lovely woman knows she knows that this guy is no good for her. And that's the first thing that I want to send her into is because women know you know what is right and what is wrong. You have such a powerful, instinctual capacity within you and yet the way that we live in a society, our patriarchal society, pulls us away from the wisdom of our body. And your job is to plug back into this wisdom over and over again. You are powerful and capable. You have just got to disrupt and agitate the conditioning and the identities and the stories that keep you second-guessing yourself as you choose to do things differently on this dating journey.

You are learning to choose yourself over and over again. The most important relationship you are ever going to have is the one with yourself, not with another it's always going to be with yourself. And that is going to be challenging. I'm not going to mollycoddle you and say that when you've ended something with a guy and you want to reach out to him, it's going to be easy. It's going to push you over your edge and you have to remember that in every single moment, you have a choice. You have a choice to choose yourself or choose patterns that do not serve you.

I have a tattoo on my arm and my background is years of self-destruction. And it says; make choices that liberate you. I remember when I had that tattooed on my left forearm, at the time I was still making choices that did not liberate me. That was the window, the door that I was walking through. I was cultivating the habit of making choices that liberate me more and more often. So in every single moment, please remember you have a choice to choose yourself or to choose external validation.

Now, this is something which you and every other woman have been brainwashed to believe she has to seek from the outside. And it is Princess archetypal energies and if you're moving through midlife, your rightful place is to step into and sit on your throne as a high-value Queen. And this is maturity, this is what an adult looks like. It looks like you are serving your own needs by meeting your own needs first and poor mostly it's you honouring how you feel and not dismissing them.

I want to dive into this question some more because it's always worth unpacking every tiny piece of it. She says I can't get this man out of my head. And then I reply, is this true? Or is this a story you're telling yourself? And I invite you to put aside the script for one second and allow yourself to feel what you're feeling without the story because when you're in the story, you're going to keep going round and round and you won't get out of your head and your job is to recognise you are in a story and move underneath it and ask; how am I feeling right now? How am I feeling? And without spending time with the woman who's asked this question? I've got no idea how she's feeling yet. I can take a calculated guess she's probably feeling sad. She's probably feeling very alone right now. And fear is running the show. And I would say that fear is running the show because she goes on in her question to say how do I move past this horrible feeling that I'm never going to meet anyone ever again? And your quest is to acknowledge how you're feeling and then really allow yourself to be with these feelings and that takes time.

It's a skill that you need to build up, as you feel these feelings and welcome them into your world because these feelings want to be acknowledged. They're parts of you that are going hey, I'm feeling like this right now. Can you please acknowledge me? Can you please just tell me you see me? And isn't that what you want? You want people to see you. You want people to acknowledge you. You want people to validate you and if you want that you have to learn to see and validate yourself. You have to learn to accept all these parts of you. And then as you drop into that, you ask the question, what do I need right now? And I get it like if you're in this swirl of I need to reach out to him you'll kick back we actually will be I need to reach out to that man. But this is your reaction to the pain you are feeling. Let me say that one more time because this is so important. This is your reaction to the pain you are feeling. It's like he has become a drug you need you think you need to absolve your pain. And yes, yes, yes, yes, it will numb your pain for a little while. But this is a quick fix to a long-term problem. But in the long term, it won't solve or change anything for you.

I would return to the facts from this question. He's no good for me. You are learning how to be good for yourself. Let me say that again. You are learning how to be good for yourself. You are learning how to sit with your emotions and take care of your needs. There is nothing more powerful than that. You don't just have to feel sad, alone and fearful. You can feel sad and you can feel joy, you can feel fearful and you can feel expansive, you can feel scared and you can feel happiness. So I would breathe, breathe or it's always a good idea to breathe. Breathe a little deeper. Drop back into your body. Get yourself out of your head. Dance if that feels good for you, or go for a walk. There is wisdom in your legs. Did you know that? Did you know that your legs are a wisdom centre? And so as you move there's this rhythmic to and fro that soothes your nervous system. Distract yourself with a good movie. Share your process with either a therapist or good friends that will hold the space for you and not try to fix you because this is the thing there's nothing to fix. You're learning to be in the process with yourself.

I'll use this quote: Rome wasn't built in a day but it was built with patience and intention. And this is how you are building yourself, you're cultivating your identity as a high-value queen in midlife, you're building your identity as an adult, a mature adult and it's not gonna come easy. There are obstacles that are going to come your way, things are going to want to pull you down the path of all patenting and that's all part and parcel of it. It's an invitation for you to observe yourself. With kind eyes to slow your roll.

There's another part in the question, and she says I'm never going to meet anyone else ever again. I want to remind you that there are 3.97 billion men on the planet. There are plenty of men out there there are plenty of future beaus, lovers, dates, partners. There are billions of men out there.

Remember, keep coming back to this you are learning to choose yourself you are learning to elevate your standards for what you will and when you won't accept now when you learn to elevate your standards, what you have to get used to is feeling fucking uncomfortable with the new standards that you set yourself. It's going to feel unusual to your inner world, your subconscious, and your body. And yet, a reminder is to say softly to yourself, I'm safe here. I'm okay. I'm safe. I'm choosing myself. I'm choosing a new path. I don't yet know all the answers and yet I will find the answers. This journey of self-growth of elevating yourself in the dating relationship and sex world is not easy yet it is so worth it. Especially if you are a woman who wants so much more for herself. And her personal journey is important to her, her personal growth is important to her. You have to learn how to manage your nervous system and become more aware of when you are in your head. Like you're going over and over the stories and you're wanting to react. Trust that you are in flight, fawn and freeze.

And your job is to acknowledge that and drop back into your parasympathetic nervous system. And again, I've already given you clues on that. And acknowledge, breathe, dance, go for a walk, distract yourself with a good movie, and take a time out. I always say to myself when I'm reacting to life when I'm reacting to people I know I am in my fight and flight response and I have to come back into my world. I have to minimize my contact with people. And there's a great author. Her name is Clarissa Pinkola-Estes and she says women have to learn how to take a timeout and lick their own wounds. It's really important.

And remember, you have to cultivate the courage and tenacity to stick with your emotions. This is not going to happen overnight yet it will happen. The more you choose yourself over and over again. If I go back and complete this, if I see this question again; she says at the end of the question 'What can I do to move past this horrible feeling that I'm never going to meet anybody else? I feel so fucked up right now."

So let me just unpack the last part of the question. This is another story that does not serve you. I feel so fucked up right now. I bet my bottom dollar that this is evoking a sense of failure, and despondency. Failure is normal. Life is messy. You're messy. I'm messy. And yet we've got to choose the stories. You've got to choose stories that build you up and instil a sense of courage, bravery and confidence inside you. So, tell the truth. It's not that you're feeling fucked up right now.

It's your feeling. I'm feeling sad and feeling alone. I'm scared of being alone. And yet maybe my lesson here is to learn how to be with myself. Wow, like could be a real lesson, a door opening up for you to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself. I feel scared right now. And I am probably guessing that your inner child is kicking up and your inner child we all have to learn how to repair our inner child. And I feel so fucked up right now. I am probably guessing I want to run away from my pain. I want to numb my pain out and guess what you want to get back in contact with a man because he is your elixir to take away to numb the pain. And yet, the truth is I know I have to sit with these feelings. I know I'm not okay right now, but I will be okay. I know I am learning a new way of moving through life and a new way of relationship with myself, which will then have ripple effects on how I relate with everyone else in my world.

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The short answer is NO.

Yet if you want to better relationships, deeper connection, intimacy and gorgeous sex then you've got to DATE DIFFERENTLY.

And it all starts and ends with you. You have to create a deeper relationship with yourself. I wonder what work you have done on yourself to find out who you are and what you want. How much digging have you done on your past experiences to glean information and wisdom on how you have shown up for yourself in past relationships so you have a road-map for what to do and what not to do in the present?

Questions to ask yourself.

Have you defined who you are or have you let past experiences and relationships define you?

How are you moving through life? Are you moving through life with intention, or are you bumbling through life &/or carrying your past baggage with you?

If you want more for yourself, if you desire better relationships then you have to plug back into yourself. You have to do the work to get to know yourself and what you want and cultivate the courage and tenacity (through your actions) to reemerge as the woman you've always wanted to be.

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Personally, I love feeling pangs of envy because it is teaching me more about myself.

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For years I was totally addicted to all the drama and allllllll the chaos.

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And this way of living is seeped in simplicity. And boy, is it challenging.

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You talk a lot about power, fierceness and boldness.

But where’s the kindness, the softness in all of this?

I replied…

I am always kind to myself. I am fierce because I am soft because I honour and bow down in reverence to my vulnerability.

I have learned through SO many life lessons that when I am fierce but not soft. I am brittle, my defences lead the way, I exhaust myself, I disconnect from my body, I compare myself to other women, I ignore my feelings.

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It has taken a long time for me to be the woman I am. I am always learning, I am always evolving. And I am in a place in my life where I no longer hide from my power.

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I show up every day, keeping the promises I make to myself

I go to bed at night knowing I have done the best I can

I release all expectations of what the future my hold

and I trust the right people/circumstances and events will come into my life when the time is right.

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