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Hey Humility! It's Me, Ivor!

This Is Fine — Sun, 18 Jun 2023 11:16:00 -0400

This is our first time being human and we're just trying our best.

I've found that humility is a peaceful avenue pathed with genuine connections and transformations that adds delight to the community.

If you would like to help, share the episode with someone you think might like it.

Ta-ta,

Ivor

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Friendships Over Seoul Traffic

This Is Fine — Sat, 17 Jun 2023 01:10:00 -0400

In this episode Ivor and Mallory candidly discuss friendships as the mechanical sounds of life in the year 2023 add their two cents.

Mallory and Ivor get a little more introspective than usual.

Here's a quote that struck me.

“Don’t make friends who are comfortable to be with. Make friends who will force you to lever yourself up.” — Thomas J. Watson

What kind of friend will you be?

Thanks so much for listening

Ivor

Pleasure

This Is Fine — Mon, 12 Jun 2023 01:10:00 -0400

Ivor and Mallory take the podcast somewhere a little different and definitely more lighthearted and casually discuss pleasure.

We often engage in activities or feelings that give us pleasure yet it's not common to analyse and understand what gives us pleasure.

I hope you enjoy the episode!

Ivor

One Goat. Two Horns.

This Is Fine — Sun, 30 Apr 2023 01:10:00 -0400

Oftentimes, I'm so wrapped up in my own perspective that I can really get lost in my viewpoint. I'm lucky enough to have a creative endevour with a beloved that helps me look at things in a different light. I think this relationship speaks to what many of us cherish; a friend who talks with you and not at you.

This week, reach out to a friend and resolve to listen. Deprive yourself of the habit or impulse to react and take a breath to make sure you fully understand. Making someone feel heard is an act of service that could mean the world to them.

From,

Ivor and Mallory

Enough!

This Is Fine — Wed, 25 Jan 2023 01:10:00 -0400

In Enough...

Ivor goes solo for 15 minutes to talk about this idea of "enough'.

Enough is such a powerful, elegant, potent and underused word. It's best served when used on yourself.

Can You Commit?

This Is Fine — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 01:10:00 -0400

In Can You Commit?

Mallory blends her soft nature with Ivor's hard facts in a discussion about commitment that's as complementary as it is polarizing.

Cats x Podcast Boundaries

This Is Fine — Tue, 06 Dec 2022 01:10:00 -0400

In Cats x Podcast Boundaries...

Ivor and Mallory lightheartedly and tangentially discuss...

What boundaries are
Bad Boundaries
Good Boundaries

all while the cats are in heat

Disrupt Comfort with Chaos

This Is Fine — Sat, 22 Oct 2022 20:24:00 -0400

In "Find Comfort in Chaos"

Ivor and Mallory explore their own discomforts as they discuss Ivor's opinion that comfort is not conducive to growth.

They discuss:

Why comfort can hold you back
How to embrace chaos
3 ways to disrupt comfort for the purpose of growth

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Interested in an Intuitive Tarot reading? Book one with Mallory!

Note: Social media pending until Ivor has resolved is courage to brave the beast.

More Said Than Done

This Is Fine — Fri, 23 Sep 2022 01:10:00 -0400

In More Said Than Done...

Ivor & Mallory submerge themselves into the warm, comforting waters of procrastination and uncover some chilly truths.

They discuss:

What it means
What it looks like
How it can affect mental health
Some ways you might conquer over it

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Feeling It Out

This Is Fine — Tue, 23 Aug 2022 01:10:00 -0400

Ivor and Mallory candidly throw around creative energy to explore intention under prompt of the tarot.

Bootycandy by The Collective

This Is Fine — Thu, 12 May 2022 01:10:00 -0400

Bootycandy is the 3rd play by The Collective, a theatre production company that amplifies the voices and experiences of minorities to help us take a seat at the table.

Listen to my conversation with Kim (producer), Ray (Director) and Terris (actor). They represent hard-working people on and off stage, making this a show worth watching.

Book tickets at www.discoverthecollective.com

No really...snap out of it.

This Is Fine — Fri, 06 May 2022 01:10:00 -0400

I was visited by a memory recently and it compelled me back in front of the microphone. Look at a problem in a different light and you can turn it into a blessing.

"When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change" - Max Planck.

These words can be transposed to imbue meaning and foster sustainable habits of a peaceful way of life.

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twitter: @ivordun

Coloureds Discuss Representation (w/Kim Schroeder)

This Is Fine — Thu, 10 Feb 2022 01:10:00 -0400

In Coloured Discuss Representation...

Ivor and Kim dive into some of the issues of being too much of one thing but at the same time not enough of the other. Kick back and listen to friends getting comfortable, a little heated and very silly.

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A Rigorous Two Minutes

This Is Fine — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 01:10:00 -0400

In A Rigorous Two Minutes

Most people are faintly aware of their potential. But the business of living life in the trenches beneath the upper class leaves us exhausted at days end wasting our potential. Ivor takes extracts inspiration from Seneca and James Clear to help illuminate the a path to potential.

“Hold fast, then, to this sound and wholesome rule of life - that

you indulge the body only so far as is needful for good health. The body

should be treated more rigorously, that it may not be disobedient to

the mind.”―

Seneca, Letters from a Stoic

Am I The Asshole? (w/Kim Schroeder)

This Is Fine — Mon, 10 Jan 2022 01:10:00 -0400

In 'Am I The Asshole?'...

Ivor & Kim have some lighthearted but aggressively opinionated commentary on some stories from the subreddit AITA. As people our perspectives can get so warped that we need another pair of eyes. Luckily, the internet is full of eyes and ears and Kim and I add our two cents.

Enjoy!

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Hello Confidence. It's me, Ivor.

This Is Fine — Mon, 27 Dec 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Hello Confidence. It's me, Ivor...

Ivor revisits his discovery of confidence. Listen to his formula for confidence and perhaps you can apply it to your life where it is needed.

Drink your water. Keep your peace of mind.

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Is Your Mental Health Toxic? (w/ Gabrielle Dawn)

This Is Fine — Mon, 29 Nov 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Toxic Positivity....

Ivor is joined by a friend from Tennessee, a woman who exudes excellence in the way she moves through the world. They dive into the relationship between self-care and how the trend of mental health can have connections with toxic positivity.

Share your thoughts with us on twitter.

Tweet Ms. Gabby at @gabrielledawn__ and tweet Ivor at ThisIsFinePodcast

Everything is Aiming

This Is Fine — Mon, 01 Nov 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Everything is Aiming...

By way of a Japanese martial arts philosophy, Ivor finds a new way of reinvigorating commitments, goals, realizations, and the elusive sense of living in the present moment.

The best lessons are learned through shared wisdom. If you have a story in which you have overcome a struggle, or tips on how to manage mental health, shoot me an email. I'd love to read it on the show (anonymously of course) to help people going through the same struggles.

email: fineisthis@gmail.com

Stay safe and stay hydrated.

Ivor

The Effort of Motivation

This Is Fine — Mon, 18 Oct 2021 01:10:00 -0400

The Effort of Motivation...

Where does your motivation come from? Is it something you're born with? Is it something you can own?

Ivor digs into some James Clear knowledge to unearth a well of motivation.

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Body Thoughts

This Is Fine — Mon, 11 Oct 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Body Thoughts...

Ivor explores the idea of his own wrongness, vanity and hypersensitivity to transmute it all into a healthier outcome.

Share your feedback or stories and email me at...

fineisthis@gmail.com

Anxious Testicles

This Is Fine — Mon, 04 Oct 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Anxious Testicles...

Anxiety colours our lives with either excitement or depersonalization. Ivor's personal experience finally helps him understand how anxiety can be out of your control.

Wounds and Wisdom

This Is Fine — Mon, 27 Sep 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Wounds and Wisdom...

Do you have a purpose? Should you have a purpose?

Listen to how a young boy takes a lesson from his struggling mother on kindness and how he transforms the lesson into wisdom.

If you have any stories, advice or wisdom to share we'd love to hear it.

email: fineisthis@gmail.com

Sources: Stop Chasing Purpose and Focus on Wellness instead.

Feeling Success & Feeling Failure

This Is Fine — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Feeling Success & Feeling Failure...

Ivor returns with more insights and lessons after 5 weeks of radio silence to talk more fervently about mindset, mental health and direction.

If you would like to contact me to share a story or ask a question email me!

email: fineisthis@gmail.com

sources:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1sbXE7vdH4c

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FT2Ie2UZQig

Pocket Gays (w/Alameen)

This Is Fine — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Pocket Gays...

Ivor is joined by Alameen and they tangent through changes, gratitude, anxiety and being gay as BIPOC men.

We'd like to hear form you! Do you have a question you'd like me to answer on the show or a story you'd like to share that may help someone?

Shoot as an email: fineisthis@gmail.com

Sweaty Self Control

This Is Fine — Mon, 26 Jul 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Sweaty Self Control...

Ivor journey's from the middle of his bedroom floor to the front of the mic and share the realizations along the way.

Mental Fortitude

This Is Fine — Mon, 19 Jul 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Mental Fortitude

Ivor explores the mental blocks and habits we all share that contribute to a precarious mental state. Mental Fortitude is something that you build now so that your future self is better equipped to deal with the inevitable trials of life.

Got a story, advice or a question you'd like to share on the show? Email me at fineisthis@gmail.com

Self-Mastery: Looking at Restless Skeptical Doubt

This Is Fine — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Restless Skeptical Doubt...

Let's explore the last two hinderances to mastery of self; Restlessness and Skeptical Doubt and wrap up with four tools you can use to increase the odds of you getting up that mountain.

It is my sincere wish that what I choose to share helps you in some way.

Please share this episode with a friends because it helps me get the message out!

Self-Mastery: Looking at the Dull Heavy Leather Couch

This Is Fine — Mon, 05 Jul 2021 01:10:00 -0400

Mastery of self is a tricky thing that requires constant vigilance. I believe that each of us are on a quest, realized or not, to become the best version of ourselves. This is best achieved through mastery of self. Ivor explores the idea of aligning your body and to gain clarity on your journey.

Self Mastery: Looking at Ill Will and Aversion

This Is Fine — Mon, 28 Jun 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Self Mastery: Looking at Ill Will and Aversion...

Ivor explores how he has encountered Ill Will and Aversion and re-thinks a lesson he thought he'd learnt. Then he gets a little deeper with the I want and the I should story we tell the world.

Self Mastery: Looking at Sensual Desires

This Is Fine — Mon, 21 Jun 2021 01:00:00 -0400

In Looking at Sensual Desires...

Ivor embarks on defining self-mastery through the lens the Shaolin Philosophy and uncovers a hazy cortisone memory.

Limiting The Lone Wolf

This Is Fine — Mon, 14 Jun 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Limiting the Lone Wolf...

Ivor jumps down the rabbit hole on a recurring insecurity, recalls a mountainside memory and toys with the concepts of limiting belief and limiting identity.

Re-think Shitty Karma

This Is Fine — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 00:45:00 -0400

In Re-think Shitty Karma...

Ivor shares a shitty story and how he's starting to see his limiting beliefs.

Would I Lie to You? Yes. (w/Jessica Swartz)

This Is Fine — Mon, 31 May 2021 01:00:00 -0400

In Would I Lie to You? Yes.

"The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” - Fyodor Dostoevsky.

Ivor is joined by the beautiful Jessica Swartz who summarizes herself as Black, No Sugar and No Cream. With that same conviction and all of her black girl magic she drops gems of all sorts; insight, vocals, laughter and noteworthy questions.

Is It Silly To Be Sad?

This Is Fine — Mon, 24 May 2021 01:10:00 -0400

In Silly Sadness

When you reach the upper reaches of the atmosphere you come undone.

Tolerate It

This Is Fine — Mon, 10 May 2021 01:00:00 -0400

What do you tolerate?

Stir Your Stagnant Waters

This Is Fine — Sun, 02 May 2021 09:42:00 -0400

In Stir Your Stagnant Waters...

Ivor dives deeper into the connection between consistency, specificity, and courage.

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Angy Virgo Laffy Taffy (w/Quandra)

This Is Fine — Sun, 25 Apr 2021 00:10:00 -0400

In Angry Virgo Laffy Taffy...

A woman whose presence demands attention like all the great virgos who have taken the stage joins Ivor in an episode filled with tangents. Quandra and Ivor chat about their different ways of dealing with anger amidst many funny tangents.

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Take care.

Trauma In Your Genes (w/Que Gardere)

This Is Fine — Sun, 18 Apr 2021 00:15:00 -0400

In Trauma in Your Genes...

Ivor and cheese burger lover Que Gardere explore Generational Trauma against the backdrop of their intersectional identities. Generational Trauma embeds itself in your gene code. It alters the development of your limbic system, which is the part of the brain that regulates emotions and forms memories. This all happens before you're even born.

Perhaps you suffer from trauma that's lurking in your genetic code and being aware of it is a step in your journey to find peace. Finding your peace is a sure way to take charge of your mental health.

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." (James Baldwin)

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Accountability & Sex Intermissions

This Is Fine — Sun, 11 Apr 2021 19:13:00 -0400

In Accountability & Sex Intermissions...

Being accountable for your actions without blame on external factors is a sign that you're on the path to mental fortitude. Listen to DJ's farewell episode as we talk accountability and some other tangents.

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Authentic Tangents (w/Wynsum Foreman)

This Is Fine — Sun, 04 Apr 2021 19:04:00 -0400

In Authentic Tangents...

Ivor is joined by his good friend and fellow Lucile Bluthe fan Wynsum Foreman. They discuss the idea of authenticity and ways in which they have battled with internal in-authenticity themselves.

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When People Show You...

This Is Fine — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0400

When do people show you who they are?

Ivor explores some learnt wisdom from Dr. Maya Angelou that he's applied to his life in an effort to more successfully navigate mental health.

Track: Ambulo - Sun Dog (w/Squeeda)

Meet at My Intersection

This Is Fine — Sun, 21 Mar 2021 23:00:00 -0400

Ivor and DJ delve into the recent issues faced by Asian poeple right on the back of Meghan Markle's experience of racism and the British media erasing that experience living in a household designed to suppress her identity.

Everyday brings with it more news of hate crimes that span across the spectrum of being a human. Those who have the least amount of color to their identity experience the most privilege. Those of us who meet at the intersection of multiple facets to our identity live a more arduous life.

Trauma Stays

This Is Fine — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 23:00:00 -0400

In Trauma Stays...

We talk Super Straight, a racist Arkansas elementary school teacher, and a personal story deals with the types of trauma and how it can affect your interpersonal relationships. Because trauma is a sticky thing...

They say, "It was a long time ago." In reality, it's still happening.

When we listen to someone else's trauma, we might discover we start a process of healing our own.

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Lube Your Expectations

This Is Fine — Mon, 08 Mar 2021 01:00:00 -0400

In Lube Your Expectations...

We talk about dreaded expectations how to circumvent the disappointment that so often accompanies expectations.

Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments. - Niel Strauss.

You might be interested in the Indian Yogi, author and low-key comedian Sadghuru's take on expectations.

Who Run The Day? (YOU)

This Is Fine — Mon, 01 Mar 2021 00:10:00 -0400

In Who Run The World (YOU)...

We stumble about time management. Do you spend your time or do you use your time? Time management strategies are plentiful on the internet. Yet, we still find ourselves mismanaging our time. DJ and Ivor explore time management and how it ties into distractions.

Either run the day or the day runs you - Jim Rohn

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Are You Coping in a Panda Express?

This Is Fine — Mon, 22 Feb 2021 03:00:00 -0400

In Are you Coping in a Panda Express?...

Ivor and DJ unintentionally discover their coping mechanisms. Do you know what your coping mechanisms are? Are you aware of them? Do they actually help you? Did you adjust them amidst the world wide panda express?

Coping looks different for everyone because well...psychology. Hopefully we shed some light onto some healthy or detrimental coping habits you may be entangled with.

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What's Love Got To Do With Dick?

This Is Fine — Sun, 14 Feb 2021 00:15:00 -0400

In What's Love Got To Do With Dick...

Toxic and healthy relationships exist on a near endless specturm. But there are certain red flags like when he pulls out a ruler to measure you.

DJ and Ivor recall some toxic relationships and try to contrast them with the unicorn relationships.

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Disney FOMO

This Is Fine — Mon, 08 Feb 2021 03:44:00 -0400

In Disney FOMO....

Ivor pops off about problematic representations of people in media. DJ is in the background holding his hoops and waving his weave screaming "Yaaas kween!" and managing to get him to talk about managing FOMO in covid-19.

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We're looking into reading listener letters (anonymously of course), so if you have any questions for us, or experiences with what we discussed then email us at fineisthis@gmail.com

Goals Gone Wild

This Is Fine — Mon, 01 Feb 2021 03:00:00 -0400

In Goals Gone Wild...

Ivor and DJ talk about the experience of setting goals amidst a pandemic and some advice on how you could do better for yourself. It's fine to generate a sense of achievement, what's not fine and what takes a toll on your mental health is setting unrealistic goals.

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We're looking into reading listener letters (anonymously of course), so if you have any questions for us, or experiences with what we discussed then email us at fineisthis@gmail.com

Pretty Does Hurt

This Is Fine — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In 'Pretty Does Hurt'...

DJ and Ivor touch on some of their experiences with Eurocentric / Westernized beauty standards especially how they are shaped by the idolization of whiteness. Beauty standards affect us whether or not we're aware of them.

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Tidy Space. Tidy Emotions. Tidy Nipples?

This Is Fine — Mon, 18 Jan 2021 06:08:00 -0400

In 'Tidy Space, Tidy Emotions, Tidy Nipples?'...

Ivor and DJ semi-erratically explore the connection between a tidy space and tidy emotions. Please don't twist someone's nipples without permission.

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Listening To No

This Is Fine — Mon, 11 Jan 2021 10:29:00 -0400

Learning to say 'no' is important. Learning to listen to 'no' is just as important.

We would like to start a listener letter segment. If you have any questions, advice or comments please contact us:

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Body Talk

This Is Fine — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 03:59:00 -0400

Your opinion about someone else's body is not fine. Ivor and DJ discuss body image issues, where they come from and things of that nature.

We would like to start a listener letter segment. If you have any questions, advice or comments please

Hello Failure My Old Friend

This Is Fine — Mon, 28 Dec 2020 09:57:00 -0400

2020 was kind of a big failure for a lot of us. Let's unpack failure and maybe you can find an opportunity to turn your wounds into wisdom.

We would like to start a listener letter segment. If you have any questions, advice or comments

You're Kind Of A Liar

This Is Fine — Mon, 21 Dec 2020 11:18:00 -0400

Ivor and DJ unpack lies and time management. We know you're lying when you tell your friends you're 5 minutes away. Why are we this way?

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WAP (Bulge Divulge)

This Is Fine — Mon, 14 Dec 2020 08:43:00 -0400

You scream. I scream. We all scream for attention. Ivor and DeeJay unpack the love/hate relationship we all have with attention. Listen and laugh along. Do you have something to say, or ask or share? Email us at thisisfine@gmail.com We're looking into reading your thoughts or questions and we might just read them on the show.